help with a wacky, wonderful kid
January 30, 2009 2:24 PM Subscribe
Strategies needed for negotiating with my 6 year old kid's school re: rules, behavior, etc.
posted by anonymous to human relations (26 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
I have an awesome, creative, engaged, bright, and also dreamy, sort of disorganized kid. She's very social, but has little interested in doing things for the sake of getting along with other people. Meaning she's immune to the hazards of peer pressure but also doesn't really care to do anything for the sake of seeming like the other kids. She also has little to no interest in obeying authority. Over the last couple years this has become a major problem for her at school. She basically never does anything unless she wants to do it. She's doing fine academically - at or above the level of her peers. And she likes group activities and projects. But she won't get in line when she's supposed to, she won't end a project she likes doing, and she won't do most writing or math assignments. She also gets really freaked out at times when she's asked to do things and may scream or hit. Other times she just cries. Despite they teachers and my working hard to reinforce the importance of rules at school, my kid ain't following them.
She goes to a small public charter school. The teachers have been pretty flexible to my kids' needs - she is allowed to do her own thing at many points in the day, as long as it isn't disrupting the other kids - but for obvious reasons there is a limit on this. Recently, the teacher, who is getting fed up, suggested that she thought there was something "going on" with my kid psychologically. I have set up an appointment for a medical check-up for my kid as well as an appointment for myself to talk with a child development specialist/therapist for advice, but my honest hit is that I don't think there is something "wrong" with my kid psychologically. I think for whatever reasons, school just doesn't work for her.
This seems solvable: I am interested in homeschooling, I know a little about it from reading and from friends who homeschool or were homeschooled themselves, etc. The problem is, I'm a single parent and full time student and until I finish school, there is no way I can do this. So basically, for the next year and a half, I have to figure out a strategy. I've considered trying to swing a super-alternative private school, but I'm worried about creating chaos in her life by switching schools for such a short time when I know I'm going to pull her out eventually. SO I want some ideas for how to make school work better for her.
Sooo, do you have ideas for tools and strategies to recommend to her teachers, for strategies for me in talking to my kid about this stuff, for books I should read, anything! Basically, I'm hoping to create a more supportive atmosphere at her school without disrupting things there too much more. Thanks so much,