What do do about late wedding thank-yous?
November 11, 2008 9:02 AM Subscribe
Bad wedding etiquette: Got married in May. Haven't sent the thank-yous out yet. Aside from being ashamed of ourselves, what should we do?
posted by bristolcat to Human Relations (39 answers total) 3 users marked this as a favorite
My husband and I were married on May 3rd of this year. It was a lovely wedding and our friends and family were very supportive with their help, time, money and gifts. After we got back from the honeymoon, we bought the thank you cards, but they never got touched. We have a thousand excuses for why we haven't gotten to them yet, but the short of it was that we both work two jobs, have basically opposite schedules and we both felt incredibly burnt out on the wedding thing.
It's not that we aren't grateful. We managed to get the shower thank-yous out in a timely manner and also gave our wedding party and participants thank you cards and gifts during the event weekend. It's all those cousins, great aunts and former co-workers that we picture sitting out there fretting over whether or not we actually care about them enough to send them a thank you.
So, we would like to still send them out. Should we try to explain in the note why the thank you is so late? Should we try to be cute about it or straightforward? Should we send everyone pictures or something to make up for the lateness? I'm at a loss for ideas.
I'd like to say that they just won't sweat it or aren't thinking about it, but I've already gotten comments from relatives and knowing our families, they are taking it personally.