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I work in the middle of a 90s beer commercial, or at least that's what it sounds like from over the cubicle partition. I'm looking for articles or other resources that might help encourage a more inclusive (and maybe quieter) work environment.
comment posted at 3:57 PM on Jan-17-19

If one wanted to do a little under-the-radar skidding around, does anyone know of a large parking lot/paved area that's unused/unmonitored at certain hours or just abandoned (but not to the point of endangering tires with road hazards)? Asking for a friend who is about to replace their tires and wants to have a little fun with the old ones. ;) In San Francisco (ha), Peninsula, East Bay, North Bay (ha).... ?
comment posted at 4:47 PM on Jan-16-19

After my kid's preschool holiday show included a drag performance mocking the idea of a man in a dress, I would like resources to give to the school about why this is a problem.
comment posted at 6:33 PM on Dec-25-18

I'm a cis woman in my 30s, I started taking an antidepressant (Trintellix--similar to an SSRI) a month ago, and it's working but also giving me the same anorgasmia I've gotten from SSRIs in the past. The inability to release built-up tension via an orgasm--I guess the equivalent of blue balls--is hard to bear.
comment posted at 5:28 PM on Dec-20-18

Over the past year I paid down significant debt and have more savings than I've ever had in my life. Out of nowhere I have a sudden, irresistible urge to buy a house. There are reasons why this is not a good idea, at least not immediately. Talk me down. First time home buyer horror stories solicited.
comment posted at 5:40 PM on Dec-16-18

I am a Hungarian/Romanian who married an American from the South. Why do the harmonies in bluegrass and country music sound so beautiful and so different from anything else I have known? What is it about the way they are structured and sung that makes them unlike other music?
comment posted at 8:56 PM on Dec-2-18
comment posted at 8:58 PM on Dec-2-18

Not sure what to do here. I received a card in the mail letting me know that a couple I am friendly with, and also have a business relationship with one of them (my financial person), donated to a charity in my name for the holidays.
comment posted at 7:14 PM on Dec-2-18

So this guy (30) and I (25F) had known each other at work at Uni (he's staff and I was postgrad student) for over a year but never really properly talked to each other, until at some event at Uni ( I don't work there anymore as I finished a year ago) we were talking for quite a bit. And I could tell there was a mutual attraction between us. A few days later I friended him on FB and we started texting daily. The texting was a bit intense with him sending all the lengthy messages and asking all the questions, and I mirrored him doing the same. He even bought me 16 big blocks of chocolates after I joked about it...
comment posted at 6:46 PM on Nov-22-18

I'm a 48-year-old woman who's been single for eight years.
comment posted at 8:46 PM on Oct-28-18

My 10 year old daughter loves to sing and has taken voice lessons in the past. For Christmas, I am considering buying her time in a recording studio. I know nothing about the process or the people and want to be respectful of the studio as well as create a terrific experience for my daughter. So what do I need to consider?
comment posted at 8:50 AM on Oct-26-18

My remote and its big boombox are wonky
comment posted at 11:26 AM on Oct-24-18

Who is qualified to conduct clinical trials? What are clinical trials?
comment posted at 4:19 PM on Oct-14-18

Can someone identify the song this guy is playing? Going nuts, it is so familiar!
comment posted at 8:54 PM on Oct-9-18

I've got a group of friends that is almost entirely composed of former coworkers, all a bit younger than me who, at our previous job, were part of a big clot of young players at that company of that legendary strategy boardgame, Risk. I was not in that clot and, in fact, I've never played the game. I want to remedy this.
comment posted at 9:18 PM on Oct-2-18

I attempted to send a letter to a friend who was attending Burning Man this year. It did not get delivered and came back with a "Return to Sender / Insufficient Address" label. Is there any way to tell from this label how far it went? Did it go all the way to Gerlach, NV? Did it even make it out of San Francisco? Not important for any concrete reason, I'm just interested to know.
comment posted at 5:04 PM on Sep-30-18

(1) Each cut is a straight line across an entire piece of cake, but not necessarily across the entire pan. (2) Cake is wasted only at the edges of the pan. (3) All the resulting petit fours come out the same shape and size (except for the wasted bits at the edges). Equilateral triangles work, as do isosceles triangles. Rectangles work, either in a grid or staggered like brickwork. Hexagons do not work. I think I'm looking for tilings of the plane by one convex polygon, but not necessarily a regular, edge-to-edge, or even periodic tiling. Help?
comment posted at 9:31 AM on Sep-30-18

Is there anything like a hotel with 24hr child care, or child care services that can temporarily accommodate overnight stays? I think I need help sifting through the search results I'm finding relative to some specific details I'll provide below the fold, and perhaps suggestions from parents who have used this sort of service or child care workers who have provided it.
comment posted at 10:23 PM on Sep-25-18

I am middle-aged and was recently officially diagnosed with (high-functioning) autism, what would previously probably have been called aspergers. Our kids are teens. What/how/how much do we tell them about autism and my diagnosis?
comment posted at 3:58 PM on Sep-23-18

Can someone help w/ a copycat-of-TV streamcast or YouTube channel?
comment posted at 1:30 PM on Aug-17-18

I have several questions, and I'd particularly like to hear from medical professionals.
comment posted at 9:12 AM on Jul-15-18

My partner (male) is unable to reach orgasm during sex (including fellatio). Other than general “don’t make a big deal out of it”, any suggestions for what I can do to help him know this isn’t a huge deal for me and that I think he is awesome. I'd also love any suggestions for me to make sure I am giving him the absolute most I can during our "interludes".
comment posted at 6:14 PM on Jul-10-18

Who decided babies are supposed to smell like that?
comment posted at 12:29 PM on Jun-28-18

I am deeply in love with a woman, but she refuses to acknowledge or believe it. She has an intense need to be loved, but she also seems to be consumed with self-hate, and she is incapable of accepting love. Instead, she express distrust, doubt, guilt, and self-loathing. She is convinced all my expressions of love are utterly disingenuous and phony, and she beats herself up over every little perceived shortcoming. I find this incredible painful and frustrating. How do I get past this obstacle?
comment posted at 7:55 AM on Jun-28-18

Next week, I'll be driving from Boston to coastal Maine. I've heard of at least three border control checkpoints going up on my intended route (some combination of Routes 93, 95, and 1, traveling through MA, NH, and ME) in the past week, and I want to have a strategy to deal with one in the best way possible if I encounter one while en route.
comment posted at 11:15 AM on Jun-25-18

I have a collapsing bed. It's a wood frame with slats, and the slats keep popping out of their rests, because the central metal rail/support has distorted. I think it's a basic design flaw, as the single vertical supporting rod gets skewed if the bed moves at all, and then the weight of self+partner just pushes things skew. So, what to do?
comment posted at 10:06 AM on Jun-3-18

We're looking at moving to the pacific northwest in the next few years. We'd love to find a neighborhood of Portland or Vancouver that's walkable for groceries, library and restaurants. We'll be bringing our jobs with us, so that's one concern taken care of. We'll be taking a trip out there to investigate on our own, but are there any recommendations from the hivemind? I did see this question, but we're not bound to WA, and didn't know if things had changed in a year.
comment posted at 2:37 PM on May-21-18

I'm a man married to a woman, and we have two toddlers. We love each other, and for the most part we have a good relationship. Lately, though, I've come to feel that my wife's behavior is sometimes abusive, and I don't know what to do about it.
comment posted at 8:22 AM on May-21-18

Which mass noun has the largest individual units? Some mass nouns signify non-physical concepts (e.g. peace), others something that can be made up of different kinds of things (e.g. trash), while some refer to liquids (e.g. gasoline). But some refer to a substance that's made up of individual units of the same thing (e.g. wheat, spaghetti, rice). I'm interested in that last category. Which mass noun in that category has the largest individual units? The biggest I've thought of is "bacon".
comment posted at 11:58 AM on May-21-18
comment posted at 6:08 PM on May-23-18

Ok, here goes: I have Xfinity gigabit ethernet. I have pretty good coverage over all of my house, but with more smart home devices being added each year (some outside) and 4k streaming, torrenting, etc. being part of my weekly usage, I'd like to utilize my fire hose as well as I possibly can.
comment posted at 9:17 AM on May-17-18

Next week I'll be in Carmel-by-the-Sea for a day with my six-month-old baby but without a car. What should we do?
comment posted at 11:29 AM on May-18-18

I'm doing an experiment with a rental car to see if having a car makes my life easier. I would like to get an app that will let me track how much I'm spending on gas per mile. What's the best iOS app for that? There seems to be a lot of options and I'd rather not have to do a bunch of trial and error.
comment posted at 8:43 AM on May-13-18

I'll try to keep this shortish and to the point. My sister is 25 and she's dating a guy who is 27. We have a daughter (3) and my sister and this guy she's dating have routinely looked after my daughter once a week. They've mainly done trips into the city, been to the park. Once or twice they've been swimming or to a play barn.
comment posted at 3:17 PM on May-11-18

My department (about 12 people), plus a few others, are all going on a group vacation abroad. I have deliberately been excluded, which makes me feel awful, and I don’t know what resolution I could get from the whole situation.
comment posted at 12:20 PM on May-6-18

Thinking about the last season of Twin Peaks, I was wondering what the distinctive font is that is used for street addresses, like the 3 and the 6 here. There are street numbers in a similar style on houses in California and other places, and I wonder where this started.
comment posted at 10:22 AM on Apr-30-18
comment posted at 8:54 AM on May-1-18

I am a tenured professor at a large, R1 state flagship university, a huge place with many multi-million dollar renovations and innovations constantly going on. This is one of the major state universities in the nation. We faculty do not get a summer salary. (Staff does, not faculty.)
comment posted at 9:12 AM on Apr-26-18

It's overly loud, less than studio quality, usually crowded. You have to sit through the bad songs. Most musicians are only barely performance artists. I just don't get the appeal.
comment posted at 11:23 AM on Apr-23-18

Last Sunday I sexted with this guy from Tinder. It's the first time I've done this. Now he starts texting me in the middle of the day with screenshots of sexual things I said. It really freaks me out like he's trying to control me or something. What should I do? Is this actually dangerous or am I freaking out over nothing?
comment posted at 1:22 PM on Apr-20-18

Bedroom music producers/singers: Are you comfortable writing and practicing original music in your home when others are around, knowing they can might hear what you're doing? How do you get comfortable with this?
comment posted at 7:57 AM on Apr-20-18

Easy, under the radar methods of sending myself non-work documents-in-progress to and from an increasingly monitored work account?
comment posted at 8:34 AM on Apr-19-18

What breed is my cat? He might be mixed, but I would like to have an idea what he might be mixed with if he is. Photo Gallery
comment posted at 9:03 AM on Apr-9-18

I was lucky enough to get firstlastname.com but the domain company (Hover) does not do website hosting. I looked at Squarespace and similar but I don't want a fancy template, I want a completely clean slate that I can just FTP stuff that I create, and I don't want to buy a domain name from the hosting company. I am fine with paying $5/month or whatever. Can I get an account at Squarespace and just delete all their crap? Or what's a better site?
comment posted at 9:40 AM on Apr-2-18

What kind of influence should my husband’s conservative religious family have in our household and traditions?
comment posted at 12:41 PM on Apr-1-18

I don't think this is a job for a "handyman," but I don't know of another kind of person who would be the right person to call for this kind of thing. I have a TV, and I have a sound-bar-and-bass-thing, and I want them to go. I hooked them up with a digital audio cable and then rage-quit. Where can I get someone to do this one thing, in Chicago, without it costing me a lot of money? I searched TaskRabbit with some keywords, but nothing comes up.
comment posted at 6:42 PM on Mar-31-18

I (36 F) and Mr. Millipede (40 M) are trying to conceive, via fertility treatments, after a 6-month break from doing so. Last time, it was increasingly emotionally hard each cycle. This time, it is already emotionally hard. I seek your strategies for mental and emotional stability during this time.
comment posted at 8:52 AM on Mar-26-18

We are an overseas couple who are considering eloping to a US city. As we will be on holiday, time will be limited, so we want somewhere which is basically first come, first served. Any suggestions?
comment posted at 9:15 AM on Mar-25-18

Why, if there's a universal translator in Star Trek, do some words and phrases in alien languages go untranslated?
comment posted at 2:57 PM on Mar-16-18

A few friends and I have formed a practice club to work on our nosework skills with our dogs. We are trying to come up with a name but none of us are very creative.
comment posted at 8:48 AM on Mar-16-18

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