June 23

Best Way to Approach Former Work Acquaintance Now at 'Menial' Job?

I used to work with this guy who was a 'professional' manager and just saw him working behind the counter at a retail shop where I like to buy specialty items. He didn't look like he was doing too well physically. If in fact he's fallen on hard times personally and professionally, I'm wondering what the most considerate attitude to adopt is if/when I enter the shop? [more inside]
posted by Jon44 to Human Relations at 6:31 AM - 0 answers

How to Format a Self-Hosted Graphic Novel

Seeking advice for formatting a long-form electronic comic / short graphic novella for distribution on the web. Best practices, known pitfalls, presentation tips? (Details below.) [more inside]
posted by Construction Concern to Media & Arts at 6:01 AM - 1 answer

Books, crafts, etc. for a kid obsessed with spinning toys?

My 7 year old has moved from being obsessed with Beyblades to a bigger interest in tops and spinning toys generally - making them, reading about them, and looking at pictures of them. Looking for suggestions of interesting / niche / small-manufacturer / historic reproductions / etc. of cool related toys and books that I might have missed.
posted by ryanshepard to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 5:32 AM - 2 answers

I Already Ate It Don't Worry I'm Fine

I was cleaning some shrimp for dinner tonight and one of them had a whole bunch of clumpy white beige looking stuff all along the vein and down through the tail. Moreso than it seemed like should be inside the space it took up, like it had been under pressure somewhat. What was it?? [more inside]
posted by Mizu to Food & Drink at 1:04 AM - 0 answers

June 22

Pushups - each set to trembling exhaustion or more sets of less reps?

About two months ago I thought to get back into some pushups. Everything has been bicycle and it's time to add in some upper body. I started slowly, now at three sets, sometimes four but usually three sets, taken to exhaustion. To build strength, is it best to do as I am IE take sets to exhaustion or would it serve me better to have more sets of less repetitions? [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 11:58 PM - 5 answers

Boots that don't fit in a variety of ways

I'm cleaning out my closet/wardrobe, and realize I own several pairs of boots that don't fit or are uncomfortable in different ways. I'd like to see what I can do to make them fit better before getting rid of them. Issues include: slightly too big, rubbing at the heels, worn down insoles. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 8:46 PM - 4 answers

👍🏼 or 👎?

I am white. When interacting in public, should I use the emoji skin tone that most closely matches my own, or should I stick with yellow? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The to Writing & Language at 7:46 PM - 20 answers

Advice please on best approach to deal with this failing garden wall

These 3 images: #1, #2 and #3 show the current state of my front garden wall which is about 7 years old. It's not looking good, and so I need some advice. [more inside]
posted by forthright to Home & Garden at 7:13 PM - 6 answers

Is there an service that can print and ship a booklet from Colombia?

I need to send two small booklets to Bogota, Colombia from the United States by next Wednesday. To reasonably expect it to arrive on time I would need to send them tomorrow. Is there a vistaprint like website or service that operates in Colombia that I could send a file to on Monday and have it printed and shipped locally? I assume this would be available in most counties, but I am told by my contact there that this type of thing does not yet exist in Colombia.
posted by Short End Of A Wishbone to Computers & Internet at 7:05 PM - 1 answer

It's going to be a long summer

My summer intern is a nice guy, but his work performance is sorely lacking. I'm seeking advice on how to handle this situation. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 to Work & Money at 6:46 PM - 11 answers

Help me preempt a call to the cops.

Help asap please. A coworker wants to call the cops on a family across the street from her house. I think that is a terrible idea that can only end horribly. [more inside]
posted by Caxton1476 to Human Relations at 6:29 PM - 21 answers

NY24 Democratic Primary - How to vote?

I am asking for advice on how to place my vote in the Democratic primary for New York US Congressional District 24, between Dana Balter and Juanita Perez Williams. If you are familiar with this race and have an argument in favor of one or the other, please let me know. Thanks, all NY24 experts. [more inside]
posted by JimInLoganSquare to Law & Government at 6:13 PM - 4 answers

Is house buying in Maine really all that different?

We sold our home in California. We moved all our stuff into a moving van (with the help of you MeFi) Now we are buying a home in Falmouth, Maine and have some questions? [more inside]
posted by silsurf to Law & Government at 5:46 PM - 9 answers

Is this control or compromise?

Asking for a friend. She’d been with her partner for six months before they moved in together. Prior to that, he’d been a weekend toker. Once they were settled, he wanted to smoke more often. They compromised, agreed on a certain # of days per week. The issue remains contentious and they are now veering towards a breakup. Should they let that happen or continue to try to compromise? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock to Human Relations at 4:28 PM - 37 answers

Turmeric Grinder Recommendations

We have some dried turmeric roots that we would like to grind to a powder. Can anyone suggest a good electric grinder for doing this. Ideally it would be compact and useful for other grinding tasks as well - perhaps crushing almonds to a coarse power or grinding flour from sorghum . This is an appliance that would probably be used a few times per month.
posted by metadave to Home & Garden at 4:01 PM - 3 answers

Old Kombucha

I have 5 bottles commercial kombucha which have been continuously refrigerated since purchase. They have an "Enjoy By 11/12/17" sticker on the cap. Should I drink these? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight to Food & Drink at 4:01 PM - 5 answers

Can You Help Me Weigh These Two Job Offers in Washington?

Advice/input desperately needed, please! I have two job offers in Washington state but the pro’s and con’s of each are tough for me to compare. Now, I’m overthinking and too close to the decision. Details of both offers inside! [more inside]
posted by carlypennylane to Work & Money at 3:34 PM - 20 answers

Will wood furniture placed under air conditioners be damaged?

I am interested in putting a dresser under an air conditioner (a mini-split ductless, what is essentially a window a/c). The a/c is run 8 hours most days and there will be 3-5' of clearance between the a/c and the dresser. Will a wood dresser develop damage over time due to mildew, condensation or something else?
posted by arnicae to Grab Bag at 2:57 PM - 5 answers

Small Printing Press, 1980s

I was just remembering back to the printing shop my junior high school had back in the 1980s, and I can't find links or descriptions of the processes I remember, mostly because "printing," as a subject, has changed a lot in the past thirty years and it's difficult to filter through all the noise with the generic terms I remember -- details inside. [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown to Media & Arts at 2:48 PM - 11 answers

How much money should I ask for at my job?

Three weeks ago I was hired to run a tool program at a large construction and engineering firm in Maine. The stated wage was $15-17/hr, so I asked for $16 and figured I'd try to get another dollar at the 90 day review if they liked me. The thing is, they really like me. Now as they plan to promote me, I wonder what a reasonable wage would be. [more inside]
posted by jwhite1979 to Work & Money at 2:07 PM - 3 answers

Hack my therapy

I've had the same therapist, "Jane," for three years and I love her. Lately, though, something isn't clicking, and I don't know what it is (and therefore don't know how to broach the subject). I'm looking for tips on sorting out what's amiss and how to have a conversation with her if that need be. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe to Health & Fitness at 1:57 PM - 6 answers

Irritated eye, should I see a doctor?

I don't actually care about treating this eye irritation unless it's a sign of something scary. You are not my doctor but can you help me decide if this is worth going to the doctor? [more inside]
posted by capricorn to Health & Fitness at 1:42 PM - 15 answers

How to quickly air out apartment due to hallway smell.

The building I live in sent out an email that they would be cleaning all of the hallways. Whatever they used is so strongly scented and is making me sick. I'm also worried for my pets. Is there anything I can do to at least get the scent out of my apartment quickly? [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws to Health & Fitness at 1:11 PM - 7 answers

How to be a Good Parent to a Trans Teen

Husband and I are feeling like we're not doing enough to support our kid during this time but we also worry that this is also happening too fast? [more inside]
posted by heathrowga to Human Relations at 12:47 PM - 35 answers

Raise Taxes Now

What organizations are working on raising taxes in the state of California? [more inside]
posted by latkes to Law & Government at 12:35 PM - 3 answers


I'm going to start teaching some beginner R workshops for students in the social sciences. My background is in teaching/using Python for data analysis/retrieval/etc. What are some things that would be useful to know, that I may not anticipate coming from Python-land? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish to Computers & Internet at 12:33 PM - 9 answers

Initialisms or acronyms as different parts of speech

Can I use initials to refer both to a noun and to a verb? As in, I define a term -- "gandy dancer (GD)"-- and later, when referring to gandy dancing, I use "GD"? [more inside]
posted by Francolin to Writing & Language at 12:19 PM - 8 answers

Elderly Medical Alert Systems

I set my elderly mother up with Bay Alarm Medical Alert. There's a wristband with a button she can press to talk to someone in an emergency. But, to my surprise, you can't actually communicate via the wrist device, you need to be in the room with the base unit plugged into the phone line. And if she can get to that room in the event of a fall or other problem, she could just as easily call 911. Am I misunderstanding these services, or did I choose the wrong one?
posted by Quisp Lover to Health & Fitness at 9:00 AM - 5 answers

Eating in Europe - celiac filter

I'm going to be traveling through a few Western European cities this summer, need to eat while doing so, and have celiac disease. I'm quite sensitive and a little cross-contamination will ensure that all I see of Amsterdam is a hotel toilet. I'd like to eat at restaurants and also eat pre-purchased food (cheese, crackers, fruit, salami, etc.) in parks and on trains between cities. I'm looking for your celiac-safe restaurant and grocery recommendations. [more inside]
posted by congen to Travel & Transportation at 8:56 AM - 12 answers

I need some individually-packaged camp plastic lanyard-making kits!

Hosting a camp wedding and would LOVE to give my guests a goodie bag of swag, including a lanyard-making kit. But I can't seem to find individually packaged ones, even though I thought it would be easy. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by knownassociate to Sports, Hobbies, & Recreation at 8:35 AM - 2 answers

Isometric exercises!

Where can I find some isometric exercises that help me tone up? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree to Health & Fitness at 8:07 AM - 5 answers

Become comfortable with myself

I am single for the first time in my adult life (6 months in) and living alone for the first time too. While it is okay, I am not entirely comfortable with my own company. I get the feeling I need to get to grips with being alone before I pursue the next thing. [more inside]
posted by teststrip to Human Relations at 7:34 AM - 18 answers

Storage Unit Tetris

Downsizing for a move, so a lot has to go into storage. Wondering what would be the best way to position free standing shelves. [more inside]
posted by Sophont to Grab Bag at 7:06 AM - 4 answers

How to cope with going on a trip you don't want to go on?

Looking for ways to cope with going on a trip I don't feel up for going on. [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit to Travel & Transportation at 6:59 AM - 17 answers

wonky backup camera

I drive a 2015 Sonata. A few weeks ago I noticed a strange problem with the backup camera. When active it now shows part of the fender. The red box gird is now about half gone. It is as if the camera has tilted down. Approximately the bottom 1/5 of the screen shows the fender. The camera has not been bumped or damaged nor has it moved in any way. [more inside]
posted by jtexman to Technology at 6:42 AM - 6 answers

First triathlon, reassure me

Augh! It's coming up on Sunday! While I have learned how to spell "triathlon," I am still feeling a little uneasy about the other bits. Please lend me your triathlon wisdom, keeping in mind the keyword "reassure" in question title. [more inside]
posted by sacchan to Health & Fitness at 4:33 AM - 11 answers

Thinking about adopting a dog

I'm at a point in life where I'm considering adopting a dog. I've always wanted a dog and things may be coalescing to a point where it might be a good time to do so in the near-ish future. But I don't really know where to start with considerations of breed, age, where to find one, etc. [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski to Pets & Animals at 4:09 AM - 13 answers

June 21

Veg restaurants vicinity Penn, MOMA, Central Park? Lunch tomorrow

NYC centric: So my niece who is 20ish just texted (!) and she and 2 friends are arriving in town tomorrow (!!) and I would like to take them to lunch. Vegetarian (consume eggs/cheese). Arriving Penn Station AM, headed to MOMA, Central Park, maybe a Bway show? Search here yielded Penelope's at Lex and 30th. Any other suggestions nearer stated destinations? Bonus: where to meet inside Penn?? Bonus 2: where to stash luggage near Penn for day? Thx!
posted by alwayson_slightlyoff to Food & Drink at 8:12 PM - 8 answers

my mole medical mystery

Please decipher a strange thing that happened to me several years ago. I was having dinner at a friend's house. She made a delicious mole sauce and served it with something vegetarian. If I recall, it wasn't particularly spicy (though quite flavorful), and in any case, I love spicy food. Some way into the meal, though, I felt suddenly exhausted. Maybe I had a little stomachache? Whatever it was, I absolutely had to lie down in a quiet, dark room—the commotion of the dinner party was too much to handle. It was different than normal tiredness, which doesn't make me need to suddenly retreat like that. I felt better about an hour later, but for the next year or so, I couldn't eat any spicy food at all without getting terrible indigestion. What happened??
posted by the_blizz to Health & Fitness at 6:53 PM - 8 answers

Bone in versus boneless short ribs

Difference in cooking [more inside]
posted by leafwoman to Food & Drink at 6:50 PM - 2 answers

How do I give myself closure when I still like him?

I’m packing up and moving town for a new job. And in the process, ending things with this person that I’ve been seeing for all of a couple of weeks. And gosh darn it, am I sad about this. Can you help me get out of this mental loop and see some clarity here? [more inside]
posted by twill to Human Relations at 6:46 PM - 12 answers

Dating 101, 2018 Edition

Parents of Metafilter: when your kids just started dating, did they always go Dutch? (Is there a better term for "go Dutch" nowadays?) I'm talking earliest dating -- where your parents are driving you to the mall, say, to meet someone (who's been driven there by their parents), and you're gonna see a movie and have a froyo or taco or something. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa to Human Relations at 6:30 PM - 11 answers

Will it be Waking Ned Devine, or Children of the Corn?

My wife and I are planning on moving to rural Whidbey Island, WA in the next few years. We think we know what we're doing; what are we not thinking about moving to a (quite) small town? [more inside]
posted by skookumsaurus rex to Travel & Transportation at 6:12 PM - 7 answers

Is this installer of Movie Maker safe?

I really liked Microsoft Movie Maker. But the replacement for Windows 10 is... lacking. I did a little searching, and found something in Microsoft Answers. It links to the Wayback Machine, and clicking on it gave me the installer I think I need (wlsetup-all). How do I know if this is safe to run?
posted by ObscureReferenceMan to Computers & Internet at 6:09 PM - 3 answers

Apps for dyslexic adult with ADD

Can anyone recommend an app for a dyslexic adult who has ADD and is trying to stay organized and on top of a lot of moving parts in different areas of his life?
posted by askmehow to Health & Fitness at 5:22 PM - 3 answers

Language evaluation exams with a view to relocating to Québec or Ontario

Hi. I've been considering relocating to Québec for some time, and was wondering whether or not taking (and passing, obviously) the Test for Evaluating French for Access to Québec (TEFAQ) would likely render such a move a mere formality, or if to the contrary there's still a very real chance I would be denied? [more inside]
posted by DavidfromBA to Work & Money at 4:15 PM - 5 answers

Tips for easing sciatica / back pain at home?

What things actually worked or helped ease sciatica or lower back pain from home? Stretches? Heat? Massages? YANMD [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne to Health & Fitness at 3:47 PM - 16 answers

A Remote Possibility

I sent a package through USPS to a friend. When she opened it, there were additional items I had not put in it and had never seen before. We are both baffled. Help us solve this mystery! [more inside]
posted by Waiting for Pierce Inverarity to Grab Bag at 2:56 PM - 11 answers

What are all the publicly traded companies in the U.S. led by women?

I've been trying to find a list of publicly-traded companies that are led by women, but I can only find women CEOs of the Fortune 500. I'm looking for a list of *all* the publicly traded companies in the U.S. run by women-- even small companies! [more inside]
posted by Mystical Listicle to Work & Money at 2:36 PM - 3 answers

Degree program for working with LGBT health

Help me choose one of two degree programs that will allow me to work in an explicitly LGBT-related field. (I know this is broad, many constrictions inside) [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate to Education at 2:30 PM - 6 answers

Please help me find my Canadian narwhal.

A couple months ago, I saw a link, probably on Metafilter, to a really nifty, Canadian apparel company that made women's clothing. I kinda remember the brand being in the $50-$250 per piece range, and had a whole artsy, granola-y, "made ethically in Canada" kinda vibe. This season's sleeveless blouse had a narwhal print, and I loved it, but now I cannot find the link I saved. Please hope me.
posted by joyceanmachine to Clothing, Beauty, & Fashion at 1:33 PM - 4 answers

You don't win friends with salad!

Every time I eat more than a few bites of salad (containing lettuce and other raw veggies) I have horrible diarrhea within an hour. The obvious short-term solution is to stop eating salad but I'd love to better understand why this is happening and whether I can ever retrain my body to tolerate salad again. I am 99% sure that I am not eating contaminated salad greens every single time and that this is instead something wrong in my body. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway to Health & Fitness at 1:24 PM - 27 answers

Can I drink this?

I bought a Bota Box of pinot grigio. I put it in my trunk with the other groceries. When I got home I couldn't carry it all in one trip and meant to go back and get the wine. I got distracted and forgot. It's been in the car overnight in the garage for two nights and parked in a parking lot in the sun for two full days, average temps outside the car 80 degrees. Does it make any kind of difference that it's vacuum-packed? Did I just throw away $18 worth of wine? Would you drink it?
posted by primate moon to Food & Drink at 1:24 PM - 15 answers

Portable AC experiences?

I have never had a portable AC and I am curious if my experience with mine is the norm. Turning off and on repeatedly over night. [more inside]
posted by Iax to Shopping at 1:03 PM - 10 answers

Favorite micro-orders on Amazon?

I just got an Amazon store card. I'd like to build my credit by buying something small and paying it off every month. For example, I just bought a ball-inflating needle for a tire pump for $1.99, shipping included. What sort of tiny stuff do you like to order? Thank you!
posted by 8603 to Work & Money at 11:24 AM - 12 answers

What I wish the developer before me had written up

Title is the question. If you were a software dev stepping into a new role, what would you want to see and read. Entity relationships diagrams? Data dictionaries? Logic diagrams? Help me build a wishlist, please.
posted by tilde to Computers & Internet at 11:22 AM - 12 answers

Help me get rid of this urinal cake smell!

I liberally doused the floor (wood and tile) with Nature's Miracle after my dog's accident. It was a mistake because the cleaner soon dissipated into a urinal cake smell and is still lingering 6 months later. I tried moping the floor with vinegar and hardwood floor cleaner multiple times, airing out the studio, and allowing time to pass. No luck! I'm going crazy, please help me get rid of this urinal cake smell!
posted by squirtle to Home & Garden at 10:48 AM - 10 answers

Looking for a movie recommendation - lots of specifics inside

I would like to find a third studio quality movie to screen together as a set, in chronological order (of the story), set a decade-ish either before Velvet Goldmine or after 24 Hour Party People. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra to Media & Arts at 10:35 AM - 28 answers

Living is hard

My childhood included abuse, neglect, loneliness, and loss. As a result, I have issues with patience and warmth. I can be sarcastic, detached, and brusque. I actively work to be softer and more patient when dealing with people, and the cumulative effect is exhausting. I’m also an introvert. Basically, just being normal in the world every day feels like work. Does this sound like you? [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock to Human Relations at 10:01 AM - 13 answers

Shared Workspace DOES NOT Mean Sharing All The Printers

I work in a small room that's part of a shared workspace, and we have our own printer inside our room. How can I stop it from showing up as an available printer on OTHER people's computers? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos to Computers & Internet at 9:53 AM - 14 answers