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We are having a hard time keeping up with our strong and aggressive two year old at naptime and bedtime. If you had a toddler like this, do you have any strategies or tips?
posted by Kwine at 12:16 PM PST - 14 comments

I remember seeing an alternate music video for ‘Piano Man’ by Billy Joel many years ago that I’ve never been able to find since (possibly decades ago). It was probably black and white. It is not the original 1973 video that’s easily findable on YouTube. The one clear moment I remember is during the line ‘I’m sure that I could be a movie star/If I could get out of this place’ the bartender turns around and looks at himself in the mirror and it was an older man who looked like Ernest Borgnine. Did this exist?
posted by bq at 10:30 AM PST - 2 comments

How do you set mouse traps when you have a pet who might stick a paw or nose in one?
posted by ojocaliente at 8:35 AM PST - 10 comments

Every morning after I get out of bed, I hobble around for a while because my feet are sore and tender. It's still present throughout the day, to a lesser degree. I also feel this in my hands, particularly when subjected to a firm handshake or pick up something heavy. Looking for some possibilities to run by my doctor.
posted by qxntpqbbbqxl at 11:02 PM PST - 23 comments

I recall reading a post on Suzette Haden Elgin’s Livejournal (ozarque) about different ways to ask a neighbour to come get their cows and the hidden meanings behind them, and cultural differences around how one might ask and how one might respond. I can’t seem to find it via any search, though. Does anyone remember it?
posted by wheatlets at 3:42 PM PST - 1 comments

I had emergency abdominal surgery a week ago, and my teeth have been painfully sensitive to things like drinking liquids at any temperature below room temp, chewing, or sucking on hard candies. I'm baffled. The explanations I can think might be causing are are below...
posted by maryellenreads at 2:42 PM PST - 12 comments

How can a young adult clean up a credit record that was damaged by their parent, but without incriminating the parent? A young adult I know has old internet/cable and electricity bills on their credit report that were opened by their parent. Not sure how old, but assume more than five years old. Obvs this is impacting their ability to build and use credit. How can the young adult fix their credit without incriminating their parent?
posted by toodleydoodley at 12:51 PM PST - 20 comments

I’ve been trying to find for a while now a video comedy sketch that I first saw online a few years ago, in which Millennials talking about Seinfeld are made to feel ancient by their new GenZ colleague. In fact, the Millennials’ hair turns gray, they start wearing shawls, and crying out with a punchline, “My hip!” This continues around the office until the Millennials ask a GenXer in the office to intervene, so he starts talking to the GenZer about mortgages and 401(k)s, returning the Millennials to their true age and turning the GenZer into a little kid. Does anyone know where I can find this sketch online? Thanks!
posted by Misciel at 11:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Searching for a computer to replace a decade-old desktop. All tasks are web based (banking, clicking sketchy links from Facebook), but Windows is familiar for this person. Monitor should be at least 24". What's a good enough solution?
posted by Acari at 8:21 AM PST - 4 comments

(nothing but) flowers by the talking heads has a particular electric guitar style that shows up in other albums (Paul Simon's Graceland, for example) whose music gets described as "world beat" or 'world music' by wikipedia. (Vampire Weekend's debut album has this too, I guess? I realize these are not always identical, but I don't have a better aesthetic vocabulary for this). Who are the artists that were influencing these bands and developed that sound earlier? What e.g., Afro-pop artists from the 1980s should I listen to if I really like that sound?
posted by dismas at 7:42 AM PST - 12 comments

It’s the middle of the night and the cat distribution system has finally come to our house in the country. Is there anything I can do tonight that will improve my odds of catching / caring for them tomorrow?
posted by Sweetie Darling at 9:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Back in June I posted a question wherein I was debating on adopting a second cat. I decided then not to, but the cat distribution system has delivered me one anyway. Although I have been reading a lot how to introduce cats properly, I don't know what to realistically expect. Please see inside.
posted by Saucywench at 6:25 PM PST - 9 comments

I'm considering switching to a new primary care physician who is a DO, rather than an MD, but is highly recommended as being responsive, attentive, knowledgeable, etc. Should I skip her? Help me understand "DO" enough to know if I would find it incompatible.
posted by bluesky78987 at 2:42 PM PST - 23 comments

My father in law is recently widowed after my mother law fought a 9 month battle with stroke complications. During the battle, an old family "friend" named Meg entered the picture to help out. Meg had ulterior motives and now has my father in law, and his considerable assets in her sights. What can we do to protect the family estate?
posted by jasondigitized at 6:17 AM PST - 24 comments

We are buying a used car from a dealer in New York state. I'm having trouble working out if it is any faster, in terms of getting permanent plates, registration, insurance, if we transfer the registration and plates from our trade in to the new(er) car, or if we should just get new registration and plates. We are doing the trade-in either way.
posted by lockedroomguy at 5:34 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking to hear from people who may be introverts, chronically ill, and/or neurodivergent, but have demanding jobs that involve interacting with the public for several hours a day. At this time, quitting is not an option.
posted by cboggs at 11:17 PM PST - 12 comments

I have spent very little time in Pennsylvania and I struggle to understand the state's razor-thin swingy-ness. What can you tell me or point me to that would help me better understand, in the context of the 2024 election?
posted by kensington314 at 12:12 PM PST - 11 comments

I am part of a group and for events have become "the cookie guy" and am looking for new/different recipes to try and make. The internet is too full of possibilities so I am looking for a little curation in the form of favorite cookie cookbooks (or websites if it is really their focus not just SEO lists of the to 50 cookie recipes). Thanks!
posted by Captain_Science at 5:18 AM PST - 26 comments

Any ideas for DIY bicycle spares storage system? Especially complete wheels, rims and tyres. I've been asked to help a bicycle empowerment organisation manage storage of their parts donations.
posted by BrStekker at 1:42 AM PST - 5 comments

For a certain occasion, I'm trying to find a middle ground between wearing a dress shirt, tie and dress pants, which feels too dressed up and uncomfortable and just wearing a dress shirt open collar, no tie, and dress pants which feels too casual. I know that wearing a sport coat with no tie seems the obvious answer, but wearing an outer coat feels too heavy to me and uncomfortable. I don't know if such a middle ground exists or makes any sense. Any suggestions?
posted by roaring beast at 7:27 PM PST - 11 comments

I'm looking for a dementia caregiving virtual coach for my mom. Currently she is the primary caregiver for my dad who has Alzheimer's. complications below
posted by Sophont at 4:33 PM PST - 5 comments

At the beginning of last month, I published my first novel through Kindle Direct Publishing (amongst others). And while I have gotten some sales, I don't know how to grow any following. I've been using a Facebook page, but no one's joined it; the same with an Instagram account, a YouTube account, and a TikTok account. I also post about it on my Bluesky and Twitter accounts. I don't have a huge social media following, so I'm not sure what I can do with my budget, which is effectively zero.
posted by mephron at 12:57 PM PST - 25 comments

I need a yoga mat that can fit in my luggage. What's a nice cushioned mat that also folds up really small?
posted by silverstatue at 5:26 PM PST - 15 comments

I have someone in my past who makes up very nasty lies about me and tells them to at least one person I've known for 30+ years. It bothers me that the friend of decades hangs out with this person and I've told them so. (My friend met the liar through me.) Friend thinks it's none of my business and I'm overreacting. After about 10 years of this, with the lies still coming, I recently decided to break off the 30+ year friendship. Am I being unreasonable?
posted by dobbs at 2:57 PM PST - 16 comments

I recently received an email with subject line "Inmate message from ${name}". I do not know this person and am struggling with whether or not to respond, as I think it may be a case of mistaken identity.
posted by number9dream at 1:50 PM PST - 20 comments

Hi, I am enamored of an REI long sleeved shirt that is on sale for $55, today only. Please help me defuse my delusional thinking, which is as follows (continued below)
posted by mecran01 at 12:29 PM PST - 24 comments

I'd like a website source for mostly traditionally flavored gothic art that I can use. Not AI art.
posted by noelpratt2nd at 9:55 AM PST - 3 comments

The dumb toilet that came with my house has crossed me for the last time and I just want to replace it at this point. Help me choose a new one?
posted by centrifugal at 7:45 AM PST - 15 comments

I have several area rugs I've purchased from Wayfair several years ago. These are inexpensive, but they are great rugs, they have held up beautifully. But, they are getting dirty.
posted by james33 at 5:58 AM PST - 10 comments

There once was a blog, back in the early blog years, that I think was called "Photo Junkie". It was one of the first blogs I found that primarily posted images. Does that name sound right? And does anyone know what happened to it?
posted by TimHare at 7:55 PM PST - 1 comments

E.g. what would a brand new model 99 with kneebar attachment have cost in 1927 in the U.S.?
posted by gray17 at 9:05 AM PST - 8 comments

My partner forgot/lost his Mac ID and now cannot access his mac. Touchscreen is enabled but requires the ID. Apple support is not helpful; we've tried everything short of reinstalling OS which seems very drastic for such a simple thing. Is there a simple way that Apple Support doesn't provide? Note this is for the Mac ID not the Apple ID, which I can figure out (and he has that written down so no need to change anyway). Aside: I am so shocked that there isn't a simple "forgot password" functionality.
posted by j810c at 9:05 AM PST - 15 comments

I am thinking about a louvred pergola for the back patio, something like this. Please share with me your experience with these.
posted by falsedmitri at 7:52 AM PST - 11 comments

There's a possibility I'll be adopting an older Yorkie who we believe was abandoned.
posted by Scout405 at 5:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Exactly what paint can I use to cover Danish oil?
posted by aesop at 3:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Today fraudulent charges were made to my debit card in two amounts that almost exactly totalled my whole balance. How is this possible?
posted by matkline at 12:39 AM PST - 7 comments

My workplace does twice yearly team-building workshops that require us to travel internationally (a six-hour flight) and stay in a hotel for approximately one week. I'm supposed to fly out to the next one tomorrow, and yesterday I started feeling some minor cold symptoms. I have done two RATs for COVID that are both negative. However, on Wednesday night I attended an event which has turned out to be something of a COVID super-spreader with at least 4 people I know of testing positive for COVID since then (they were all likely positive at the event and I had close contact with at least one of them).
posted by RubyScarlet at 10:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Does anyone have any good book recommendations for a history of the Berlin Wall? I was watching Atomic Blonde and thought about Steve Rogers’s notebook list of modern things to look into (hence my subject line), and that got me thinking about when it went up.
posted by kitten kaboodle at 3:01 PM PST - 6 comments

I am starting to learn Arabic as a complete beginner. Is there a website, program, or MS Word/Google docs setting that would allow me to have properly formatted Arabic text in one column/text box and corresponding properly formatted English text in another, without having to constantly mess with document settings?
posted by theotherdurassister at 2:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Yeah that's what I' m looking for.
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:40 AM PST - 23 comments