September 2020 Archives

September 30

What is the most engaging way to survey a large audience of friends?

Have you ever taken a survey or poll that was fun / easy / rewarding / delightful? I'm trying to figure out the most engaging way to survey a large group of friends (N=30 to 1000) on an ongoing basis. [more inside]
posted by shrimpetouffee at 10:04 PM PST - 7 comments

How to be a mere mortal without losing your mind

I’m struggling with a tendency I’ve had for at least the last 15 years, which is to basically use the full capacity of the compendious internet to “self-harm” by looking for information and opinions I not only disagree with, but which are heavily cynical or critical toward myself. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 7:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Erie canal houseboat library needed!

My parents are taking a houseboat up (down?) the Erie Canal. This is a perfect nerdy, cosy, quirky vacation for them. Please help me make it more perfect by suggesting things I can get them to read, watch, or listen to that will enhance the experience. May be related to Erie, canals, houseboats, or any combinations thereof!
posted by Ausamor at 6:41 PM PST - 21 comments

Why don't earbuds ever work well for me?

I'm looking for advice on what kind of earbuds to buy so that music will sound good. [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 6:12 PM PST - 17 comments

no way for a free ride

I got into a rambling discussion the other day with a friend. He is all set to get a fully electric car soon, probably a Tesla. He was excited about the prospect of not buying gasoline and paying the taxes. [more inside]
posted by jtexman1 at 6:08 PM PST - 17 comments

Cost of daycare for a toddler in Chicago?

Cost of daycare for a toddler in Chicago? [more inside]
posted by huskerdont at 5:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Is this workspace configuration safe?

Last week, I asked about putting my work iMac on a closet shelf. Things has changed since then—I was able to locate a very nice pine table at a thrift shop for very cheap; about $20. It feels very solid for the most part—a teeny bit wobbly if I exert mild force on it intentionally (before and after the iMac was put on it), but overall feels pretty solid. Would this configuration be safe? I don't want to get a rude awakening later on and find my iMac shattered all over the place. [more inside]
posted by thoughtful_analyst at 5:33 PM PST - 12 comments

A week in Tennessee

My adult son and I are headed to TN (from VA) in a couple of weeks to spend a week exploring civil war battlefields (he is a historian and civil war nerd). We'll be camping in Chattanooga for 2 nights, Shiloh for 2 nights, and Murfreesboro for 1 night. What shouldn't we miss in those areas, outside the obvious battlefields? [more inside]
posted by COD at 5:04 PM PST - 9 comments

Citizens to Emigrants?

Several weeks ago, in anticipation of the expiration of my passport, I went to the local post office to make an appointment for passport photos. While there, I saw a family of five; two parents and three kids, getting passport photos. I asked, "Are you going on a trip?" The wife said, "We're thinking about New Zealand." I said, "Oh, when are you leaving?" And she said, "Depending on what happens, probably, around November 3rd." [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 3:36 PM PST - 43 comments

How to take good notes?

I am taking a class (online) for the first time in 30 years. I have no idea how to take notes. Like, I literally do not know what to write down. Help? [more inside]
posted by dogmom at 3:20 PM PST - 16 comments

Best book about 1848?

Why did authoritarianism win in 1848? Looking for book recommendations that get into the why, not just the who and when.
posted by clawsoon at 3:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Sewing machine auto tension busted after servicing

My 15-year-old sewing machine, a Kenmore 19606 (made by Janome), has automatic tension. I had it serviced because the top tension was off — but I brought it home and now the bottom tension is off. Repair person told me to manually adjust — but why should I need to, if auto tension always worked before? Can I fix it at home? [more inside]
posted by liet at 3:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Identify this art please!

What can you tell me about this poster for a 1962 exhibition at London's Tate Museum? Bonus points if you can explain why someone told me it's not really from the Ecole de Paris.
posted by rouleur at 2:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Nice lightweight V-neck mens undershirts?

Uniqlo discontinued the Supima version that I really liked, so what's the current best choice? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 1:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Escape of Cronies?

Much was made of the people's revolt against Romanian leader Nicholae Ceausescu in 1989. But what happened to the politicians and bureaucrats and advisors who helped get him there and supported his policies against the Romanian people? Were any of them every indicted or arrested or were they able to melt back into the population because the people were focused on the head of the snake?
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Suspicion of inaccurate speeding ticket

I received a speeding ticket that claimed that I was doing 42mph in 30mph zone. But I am pretty sure I wasn't going that fast since when I saw the speed camera flash I glanced at my speedometer and it was 35 or 36. But of course I have no proof of that. I am being fined $170. Is it worth contesting this ticket? [more inside]
posted by Pantalaimon at 12:44 PM PST - 18 comments

What is my best option for managing multiple Gmail accounts?

My main email address is from a personally owned domain (e.g. bove@lastnamefamily.com) hosted by Google, and I use Gmail to run that email address. I use that same account for my work email (using IMAP). I am running out of space on this account. However, in the last year or so my employer started offering Gmail accounts with unlimited Drive space. I am trying to decide if I should make that account my main account. Can I use Gmail to check another Gmail account? I can't tell if it would be better to pay for extra storage space with my personal account, or to switch over to my work hosted Gmail account. I am not even sure how to make the decision.
posted by bove at 12:14 PM PST - 10 comments

It’s been a beach of a year

A friend of mine has been hosting virtual movie nights every day since the stay at home order. In June we had a week of “half Christmas” films, and now I want to help program a “Midwinter Summer” in December. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by itesser at 11:20 AM PST - 19 comments

The cost of giving...

Attn. fellow Canadians: A close family member of mine is in need of a liver transplant. I would like to donate part of my own. However... [more inside]
posted by elected_potato at 10:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Best Splurge Laptop For School

You all helped me get back into college. Now help me get a decent laptop for said school! Details, as ever, abound. [more inside]
posted by corb at 9:43 AM PST - 22 comments

Navigating international air travel in the time of COVID

Due to life circumstances and general loneliness, I'm somewhat considering going to stay with my parents, who I haven't seen in a year, for an extended period around the holidays. (Please assume I'll take all reasonable COVID precautions and quarantine as part of this process.) This would require an international flight. It occurred to me recently that even though the flight I need is available for sale, it may end up getting canceled, making this trip impossible. How can I best investigate my options? [more inside]
posted by mekily at 8:28 AM PST - 14 comments

What information do I need for the law school application process?

I set up a spreadsheet that I'm going to use to decide which law schools to apply to, and then use it to track applications to make sure everything is complete, and then use it to decide which school to go to (if I'm accepted). Is there anything I'm missing? [more inside]
posted by davidstandaford at 7:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Let me join your laundry cult

I have heard rumors of a magical laundry soap that will rejuvenate my laundry, removing years of built-up dryer sheet residue and leave my towels fluffy and like new. It will also brighten my dingy white shirts. I can't recall the name, but it is concentrated, all natural, and difficult to use. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 7:27 AM PST - 24 comments

Therapists for QTPOC?

How can I find an independent, online therapist with some expertise working with QTPOC (queer, trans people of color), or who has some of those lived experiences, and who is licensed to practice in Pennsylvania? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Asking the impossible

I have found myself, at work, advising a small bunch of creative writing students about how to write genre literature. They are at MA level. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:57 AM PST - 20 comments

How does FM work in the real world?

The images of frequency modulation are clear enough for a single signal. But in the real world if you increase or decrease the frequency of your signal, won't you end up interfering with other frequencies? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 3:53 AM PST - 16 comments

Lights, Camera, Any Other Actions?

I'm giving a series of important professional talks online and I need to up my video-conferencing set up accordingly. I'm overwhelmed by listicles and need links to what works, available in the UK: lights, free-standing cameras, whatever else makes you look like a video-conferencing pro. [more inside]
posted by thetarium at 2:09 AM PST - 6 comments

What piece is playing during the outro of the "Speedy Beet" Radiolab

A very familiar trumpet piece plays in the background of the credits / outro of a (great) podcast episode about Beethoven - at around 21:33 . episode link. It's so familiar, I feel like I should be able to recognize it but I am coming up blank. Do you know it? Thanks!
posted by mmc at 12:31 AM PST - 2 comments

Frustration with the media RE: absentee ballots

Why does the media never bring up the positives about absentee ballots or say that they're actually really common? There are numerous situations where they're required and have never been called into question. Am I missing a media tactic or... something? Inside are the facts as I know them. [more inside]
posted by bendy at 12:21 AM PST - 9 comments

September 29

Can I explain to doctors that weaker opiates don't seem to work for me?

I was recently in the hospital for a few days for gallstones. I have very little experience with opiates so I was really surprised/disappointed that I got no pain relief from them except for the really strong ones. But I also felt scared to actually express this since I thought it would sound like drug seeking. Surely there is some variation in how well people respond to opiates, but is there anyway to talk about that? [more inside]
posted by Gravel at 10:24 PM PST - 15 comments

Crofton in the time of the pandemic

Can I buy Crofton cookware without going inside an Aldi or getting price-gouged on eBay? [more inside]
posted by sesquipedalia at 10:01 PM PST - 5 comments

Where did I read about wooden "wheels of fortune" in old churches?

Pretty sure I read an article about this. I mean literal large wooden wheels, in I think medieval churches? Maybe later. Maybe not called wheels of fortune. Definitely don't mean wheel-like rose windows or drawings of wheels, which are the main things that come up when I search for this.
posted by lgyre at 8:22 PM PST - 11 comments

Where does Jeanne Dielman go at night?

I've fallen down a rabbit hole of rewatching the film "Jeanne Dielman, 23, quai du Commerce, 1080 Bruxelles" (such a quarantine movie!). And I'm wondering, has there been any discussion on where Jeanne and Sylvain go at night? [more inside]
posted by theatro at 5:40 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I get rid of MyLife, Spokeo, WhitePages, and the rest?

I'm sick of my personal information showing up on protection racket sites like MyLife and Spokeo. What's the simplest way to get off of them and stay off them? I will throw money at this annoyance if there's a reputable company that will take care of all of them for me, so I don't have to check it myself every few months as new ones pop up. Basically, an update to this AskMe.
posted by The corpse in the library at 4:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I make my glasses stronger?

I wish to superpower my prescription glasses. [more inside]
posted by Evilspork at 4:07 PM PST - 14 comments

How much should I pay my employer for a 2018 macbook pro?

I'm being laid off and one option with the laptop is to buy it from the company. The policy around this isn't very well documented. Yanml or accountant but I've worn the IT person down to where they are asking me what I want to pay for my laptop and the question I'd like to get help on is how much is fair. [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 4:06 PM PST - 23 comments

What is this (protest?) flag?

White flag, two black circles arrayed horizontally across the flag. Each circle with a red slash horizontally through it, just slightly wider then the circle. Photo link inside. [more inside]
posted by tiamat at 2:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I cross the US-Canada border to retrieve my car?

I am in Canada. My car is in the US. I want to rent a car in Canada, return that car in the US, then drive my car back to Canada. My concern is crossing the land border. Is this allowed/essential travel? Is there an official contact to ask? I am a US Citizen and Canadian PR. [more inside]
posted by triscuit at 1:43 PM PST - 10 comments

What was this post apocalyptic educational program in the 1980s?

In elementary school, I was shown an educational series teaching library skills. It is set in a post apocalyptic world and the protagonists of the series are trapped in a library, and use the card catalog to look up information about defeating a robot centaur monster who has laid waste to the earth. [more inside]
posted by chrchr at 1:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me fake a graph (generate random graphs for spirometry)

I want to make a graph that looks like a textbook example of a spirograph. I want to be able to set some key values randomly, but keep the shape similar. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by Acari at 1:24 PM PST - 5 comments

GEMM and the holograms

A while ago, I used to go to GEMM to look for rare and hard-to-find vinyl, but it appears to now be defunct. Is there a go-to, reputable place online for vinyl that is like what GEMM used to be? [more inside]
posted by They sucked his brains out! at 1:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Daily marijuana smoker looking to quit after years

For health and career reasons, I may need to get off weed. I've used it to self medicate at night for years. Details inside [more inside]
posted by Alvin80 at 12:22 PM PST - 8 comments

Can't find the right size furnace filter. What now?

I need help determining the least-bad option for dealing with the furnace filter in my home. [more inside]
posted by Sibrax at 10:55 AM PST - 13 comments

Greenest way to drink sparkling water?

I like to drink sparkling water. I usually have three or four cases of Trader Joe's sparkling water on deck. But I recently read the news coverage about how plastics recycling is a sham, and I want to change my habits to recognize this fact and reduce the amount of garbage I'm producing. What is the greenest way to purchase sparkling water? [more inside]
posted by miltthetank at 10:37 AM PST - 32 comments

Sailing small boats around the world

In the US, in various coastal towns, it's possible to rent a small sailboat for a day -- think a dinghy for 1 or 2 people like a Sunfish or Daysailer. Where are some places around the world where one can rent similar boats? Particularly interested in non-Anglophone and non-European locations. [more inside]
posted by vogon_poet at 10:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Present ideas for a trivia buff?

I'm looking to buy an 'experience gift' or some other present for a trivia player and her daughter. Any suggestions? Details inside... [more inside]
posted by evadery at 10:24 AM PST - 5 comments

Wild Fun

How do I trap a salamander? [more inside]
posted by SLC Mom at 10:13 AM PST - 10 comments

The location, the price, or the wardrobe?

One sad attempt at a Narnia reference later... More questions about apartment decisions below the fold. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 9:57 AM PST - 16 comments

Schroth Method

Does anyone here know about the Schroth Method of physical therapy for scoliosis patients? I've seen the website. I'm wondering if anyone has tried it or knows someone who has.
posted by ydaltak at 9:56 AM PST - 1 comment

Recipe for freezing apples as pie filling

Does anyone have a dependable recipe to process a lot of apples into pie filling, which we then freeze? The spices and sugars might vary from our preference, but the big question is: Do you cook it or not? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 9:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Renetta apple in Italy: Reinette du Canada?

I'm trying to purchase an apple tree for a friend as a housewarming gift. She grew up near Turin, and her favorite apple growing up was the renetta, which is a mottled golden color. [more inside]
posted by katecholamine at 9:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Job search cold contacts: call or email?

While job searching, my priority is to network and to apply to advertised positions. But inevitably a part of it will be sending out resumes to employers that I have no particular connection to and that aren't advertising any openings - a cold contact. In this case I could try to talk to a person in charge of hiring before sending them a resume. Or, just go straight to sending the resume. Which approach is best? [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 7:38 AM PST - 22 comments

Is a Theragun worth it?

I have tight muscles and fascia. Should I get a Theragun - and which model? [more inside]
posted by t0astie at 7:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Keeping a Website Fresh - Alternative to a Twitter Plugin?

I'm looking for an alternative to Twitter plug-in for a website? [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 6:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Propane range can't simmer

We have a propane-fueled gas range that can't go low enough to hold a simmer. I've tried troubleshooting (details inside). I know how to adjust the little screw behind the knob to make the low setting even lower, but if I do, blowing hard on the flame blows it out. That's an unacceptable safety hazard, not a common condition, right? If you turn your gas range to the lowest setting, can you blow it out? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 5:44 AM PST - 20 comments

September 28

Help identifying a logo (?) on a mask

Does anyone know what this logo or design is from?
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 7:09 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for a Book Title

I'm trying to find a book I read some 45 years ago when I was a kid. [more inside]
posted by MarioM at 7:00 PM PST - 0 comments

Help finding an app that will help me make a treasure hunt for my son?

I am trying to construct a treasure hunt for my wife and son to take the place of Hallowe'en and I'm wondering if there is an app that will allow me to mark several gps locations, send them to my wife and then the app will show the distance and direction towards the nearest one? [more inside]
posted by NoneOfTheAbove at 6:24 PM PST - 4 comments

How to convert "I have/who has" game to digital?

Ok nerds, help me out! In the past I've played a very large flashcard game with my classes (in person) regarding rhetorical strategies and definitions and examples. The game plays in that I randomly distribute the 70+ cards to my students, we start with one student reading a definition from a card, and the students have to figure out the word that matches the definition. That card is then read "I have [], who has []?" [more inside]
posted by Snowishberlin at 6:19 PM PST - 6 comments

My kid on Xanax for needle phobia

My 17 year old son needs to get his blood drawn. He has a major needle phobia. The doctor prescribed Xanax, with the directions for him to take one pill 15 minutes before the draw. Can you help me know what to expect and how I can help all this go better? I'm feeling stressed myself now (ugh) and want to work through that so I can be chill for both of us. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:08 PM PST - 33 comments

Trying to place a quote that I know was spoken by Tiffany Haddish...

Quote along lines of: "I couldn't have known. No one could have known. It was impossible to know. It was unknowable" [more inside]
posted by Faintdreams at 3:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Stepping back from a too-friendly property manager?

My property manager has become a little too friendly. I am working from home now and want to dial this back. How can I this with the least repercussions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM PST - 26 comments

Home aquatic therapy?

Does this exist? Before, I used to go to a heated therapy pool and do gentle resistance exercises. That’s gone now. I would like to replicate this experience at home with a hot-tub like thing where the water is shoulder high when I, a 5’ tall person, am standing, and where there’s enough room to stretch my arms out. Doesn’t have to have jets, doesn’t have to have seats, doesn’t need to fit a crowd, just needs to be deep and warm and sanitary. Surely this must exist. What is it called?
posted by HotToddy at 2:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Wondering whether to cut off my foot

Should I get a below-the-knee amputation and a prosthetic limb? [more inside]
posted by Leontine at 2:12 PM PST - 13 comments

stop me from texting "do u like me y/n"

Nursing a long-simmering crush on a friend during quarantine—how to get over it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 15 comments

What program or group helped you to lose weight?

The times that I have been the most successful with weight loss were when I was working with a nutritional coach or personal trainer. How can I replicate that support over a long period of time? [more inside]
posted by WaspEnterprises at 1:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Help interpreting light socket info

Can someone tell me what kind of light bulb I need for a fixture labelled "MAX 100W Type "Q" 120V A3 60 Hz" ? [more inside]
posted by randomnity at 1:18 PM PST - 11 comments

White sheets for someone who doesn't separate laundry?

I've been asked by my mother to purchase new sheets for her guest bedroom (where we'll be staying when we visit). She cannot be relied upon to wash whites separately or do any kind of special laundry routine. Is it a terrible idea to buy white sheets in this case? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 12:36 PM PST - 13 comments

What is the difference between a Data Scientist and a Statistician?

I am curious to know what exactly are the differences between a Data Scientist and a Statistican? Is it possible for someone with a solid statistics background to embark Data Science? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 12:01 PM PST - 12 comments

Has anyone here tried eating insects in earnest?

By in earnest I don't mean swallowing the worm from a tequila bottle, or nibbling the end off a chocolate-covered ant. I mean eating whole insects as an hors d'oeuvre (chili-lime crickets anyone?), or as a garnish or main protein for a dish. I mean using insect flour to make bread and pancakes. I mean, most of all, managing to get over the gag factor... [more inside]
posted by BadgerDoctor at 11:43 AM PST - 27 comments

Low-stakes, two minute competitive games via Zoom

The one unambiguous no-exceptions success I have had with my virtual middle school students is an ongoing Rock Paper Scissors tournament bracket. They cheer each other on in the chat, they have made signs for each other, it is hysterical and a great team-builder. Tragically, we are nearing the end of the bracket and I need more ideas for something like that that's...not that, since we have done that. [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 11:03 AM PST - 9 comments

When should I tell my editor I use a pen name?

After a few months of writing for a friend’s blog, I landed a paid writing opportunity. The publication wants me to fill out tax forms, but my government name doesn’t match my byline. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 10:53 AM PST - 8 comments

a cheap laptop that doesn't need to do much but isn't junk

Pretty much what it says on the tin. I have some job prospects for work as a therapist. As I see it, this will require 1) a computer whose internet connection does not constantly conk out as my Dell laptop's does and 2) some space on the machine itself to keep notes, which I think it might be unethical to keep in the cloud. (I'm still feeling out all these issues.) I would love to spend under $500 on this. I am average Gen X non tech person levels of tech savvy, which is to say I am on the internet all the time but I read specs on a laptop description and don't know what a lot of them mean. Suggestions? Thanks in advance. People who do similar work, feel more than free to chime in with stuff I'm not thinking of.
posted by less of course at 9:47 AM PST - 11 comments

What elliptical machine to buy?

I'm considering buying an elliptical machine. Do you have recommendations? [more inside]
posted by medusa at 9:30 AM PST - 8 comments

There's no quota on your odor, that's right, you smell

How can we get ancient odors out of a quilt? [more inside]
posted by pdb at 9:18 AM PST - 19 comments

An embarrassingly simple Dropbox question

On my work computer, how can I access one Word file that lives on my home computer? [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 8:30 AM PST - 7 comments

Can my American iPhone become compatible with Canada?

I have an American iPhone (11?) and I will be travelling in the next few weeks to Ontario Canada and then to France (and Amsterdam, briefly). I would like to buy a prepaid SIM card that will allow me to have data and a few minutes of talk time for emergencies, GPS, and the occasional important youtube video. (I am happy to buy more than one SIM card if that makes sense.) I called PC mobile in Canada and they tell me my phone won't work with any of their SIM cards because the networks are totally different. Is this true? Please help! [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea at 8:15 AM PST - 8 comments

Facebook Group access without Facebook account? Alternatives?

I'm new to an offline recreational activity (disc golf). All the local clubs and group activities seem to be coordinated through Facebook, but I don't (and won't) have a Facebook account. Do you have any advice for staying connected?
posted by GPF at 8:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Need help making maps through the Census website.

Anyone figured out how to use the new Census website to make maps showing percentage of folks in each racial category? (link to data inside) [more inside]
posted by qldaddy at 6:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Books like Cormoran Strike but without the transphobia

Within the past couple years, I've read and really liked the first few Cormoran Strike books by JK Rowling (aka Robert Galbraith). With JKR's recent transphobic comments, I'm naturally unwilling to keep buying them. What else would you recommend in the same line? [more inside]
posted by littlegreen at 6:17 AM PST - 25 comments

What to do during a winter at home with an infant under quarantine

I had a baby 3 months ago and we're staring down the barrel of a long covid winter. Help me come up with some ideas of things to do so that doesn't seem like a nightmare. [more inside]
posted by quaking fajita at 5:36 AM PST - 16 comments

What is a Windows 10-friendly alternative to Anaconda?

My Windows computers hate Anaconda. They gripe and freeze and crash with it. I've tried re-installing, but the problem persists. I want a package manager like Anaconda that installs things in the correct places and that makes it so I don't have to think too hard. I use it for Python and R. I like coding in Spyder because it color-codes my syntax. Are there alternatives to Anaconda? I've browsed the Internet, and it's frankly overwhelming.
posted by Alex Haist at 4:55 AM PST - 10 comments

September 27

Elimination or suppression (of fungal spores)?

When trying to treat a fungal skin infection, how important is it actually how one does laundry? [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 11:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Trying to understand how hearing aids work...

... particularly those that belong to my octogenarian mom, because they don't appear to make a difference, despite the large price tag, much to the frustration of everyone around her. (It's unclear how much she is aware of the issue.) [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire at 7:42 PM PST - 13 comments

Lithuanian dual citizenship: have you done this?

Are you someone who is descended from people who left Lithuania prior to 1941 who has obtained Lithuanian dual citizenship? If so, tell me more! Did you do the paperwork (in Lithuanian) yourself or did you use a service? How long did it take?
posted by rednikki at 4:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Road scholars

I'm looking for recommendations of philosophers/thinkers whose work could help me ask better questions about the nature and history of specific roads. For example, thinkers whose work would shed light on the contrast between "the history of US 41" as a designation vs. as a physical stretch of road. Or whose work might shed light on the use of roads and road construction in asserting and resisting various forms of hierarchy. Et cetera. [more inside]
posted by Not A Thing at 3:37 PM PST - 18 comments

How do I remind Reminders who I am?

My kid had my old iPhone for a while and their own login. Now things are messed up and the reminders app thinks I am my kid. As far as I can tell I’m signed in as myself everywhere. Has anyone run into this lately? [more inside]
posted by tilde at 2:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Can I disconnect and "abandon in place" hardwired smoke detectors?

I replaced a bunch of old hardwired "dumb" smoke detectors (like, 6 of them) with a gaggle of battery-powered Nest alarms. When I unclipped the dumb ones from the power supply, I just nudged the plastic connector/wires into the wall hole and screwed back on the now-unpowered detector. So the detector is still on the wall but the plug is disconnected behind it. Is it a terrible idea to have the powered clip in the wall behind the unplugged detector, or is it okay if it's not connected to anything? If I need to properly decommission them, do I just pay an electrician to cap them off?
posted by AgentRocket at 2:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Grow lights for general living space

Recommendations for nice (color value, design, lack of buzzing sound) grow lights for general living space? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 2:04 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I set up my 2nd Generation Apple TV without its remote?

I have a 2nd Gen Apple TV. I have the Apple TV remote app on my iPhone. It replaces the Apple TV remote if the Apple TV is on the same WiFi as the Apple TV. However, without the remote, I have no way to connect the Apple TV to the WiFi in the first place. If I connect the Apple TV directly to the modem, I can see its menu on the TV. But I have no way to control it. I gather that if I reset the Apple TV it will try to connect via Bluetooth. But resetting the Apple TV, again, requires the remote. Catch-22. Is there no way to configure an Apple TV directly from a laptop over Ethernet?
posted by musofire at 1:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Individual-sized lift-top upholstered ottomans

I'm looking for an ottoman that has an upholstered top that moves out of the way to reveal a flat tray that comes up out of it - exactly like this one (out of stock) BUT less wide. I've tried emailing the company that manufactures the one I linked and they don't make anything smaller. If no one already makes this, is there somewhere I could get one custom made? I don't know where to look! [more inside]
posted by hansbrough at 12:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me make perfect pizza sauce

I want to impress my daughter with the perfect pizza sauce. She's had pizza all over Europe and the US, and she says good pizza is all about the sauce. I need recipes and tips for amazing pizza sauce for when she's home over the holidays. [more inside]
posted by SamanthaK at 12:50 PM PST - 30 comments

How do we care for this dog's coat?

If all goes well with checking our references, this sweet boy will be coming to live with us soon! We are experienced dog owners so we're set on all things except neither of us have had a dog with a coat like this. How do we care for it? It's quite long! The rescue didn't have much of an idea. [more inside]
posted by ancient star at 12:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Find me the ideal tweezer

My partner has a very old (decades-old) pair of Revlon tweezers. They allow me to tweeze hairs without looking in a mirror, because they have a blunt tip that does not grab or poke my skin. I've tried for years to find these or comparable tweezers, and have had no luck. Searching for "blunt tip" gives me pointy, poky tweezers. eBay might be my best bet if I knew what to look for. I need this magical combination of a great grip but also a relatively wide, blunt tip and am tired of buying substandard tweezers. Help? Images of the tweezers in question.
posted by Threeve at 12:23 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for collared shirts/tops in knit materials, not woven--plus-size

The most flattering style top for me has a collar and preferably is button-down as well. But I want the softness, ease, and comfort of a jersey or knitted fabric, not woven. The collar is a must-have, especially during zoom meeting times. But I'm having a hard time searching for my criteria. It's the knit part that's hardest. All my searches bring up woven shirts or, if they're knit, they're more t-shirt, collarless styles which are too casual and less flattering on me. I wear a 16W or 18 in straight sizes.
posted by primate moon at 11:52 AM PST - 10 comments

Sick relatives, caregiver fraud, & estate planning. Pandemic edition.

About a week ago, our distant cousin called my brother and me to tell us that my father and aunt are in the hospital, and my grandmother has died. We are the next of kin but can't get there for at least another week. On top of everyone's health, I'm worried about caregiver fraud, since the person who was helping my father seems to be sharing false information and posing as family. [more inside]
posted by luckyveronica at 10:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Am I Overreacting To My Boss' Discouraging Comment?

I was recently put on probation at work with no prior warnings. During the probation meeting, my new boss said "I'm giving you some clear steps for improvement, but I don't think you're going to be able to do it." Am I being set up to fail? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:06 AM PST - 29 comments

Help me calculate the odds

I need some MeFi experts to help me calculate the odds of something happening. [more inside]
posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 9:54 AM PST - 21 comments

Now that location doesn't matter, should we rethink buying a house?

We've been saving to buy a new house in DC. But if the "new normal" means working from anywhere, should we even bother? [more inside]
posted by lecorbeau at 8:12 AM PST - 22 comments

Thoughts on veneers after adult invisalign?

Does anyone have any experience with veneers? I am not sure what kind of follow up questions I would need to determine if I ultimately need to also have veneers in addition to the alignment treatment. Is it merely achieving a perfectly cosmetically pleasing result? Is it actually ultimately to help my bite and alignment? [more inside]
posted by proficiency101 at 7:54 AM PST - 7 comments

Are my homemade pickles supposed to fizz like a soda on opening?

A few weeks ago I bought a jar of homemade pickles from a stand on the side of the road. It's been sitting in a dark cupboard since. On opening today, it made a distinct popping sound and bubbles evolved from the pickling liquid for a couple of minutes, similar to CO2 outgassing when opening a bottle of soda. It is clear that some kind of fermentation has been going on since the lid was closed. Is there any kind of pickling process where this is a normal result or is this a clear indication of bad things happening? [more inside]
posted by each day we work at 7:05 AM PST - 16 comments

Bad Kindle rendering on iPad Pro

Why is the Kindle app on my new iPad Pro rendering fonts badly on one side of the screen, and can I expect the problem to resolve itself? [more inside]
posted by dfan at 6:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Discussing/Negating the Idea of Reverse Racism with Parents

I am having a hard time processing something about my parents and their shared attitude about reverse racism. This view comes from their lived experiences, but it is harmful, and racist, and I'm perseverating over it. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by Kitchen Witch at 1:00 AM PST - 9 comments

September 26

How long until you felt "back to normal" following a lap. appendectomy?

About a month ago, I went to the ER for appendicitis. When they took it out, they said it was necrotic and had ruptured at some unknown point earlier. I was in the hospital for 4 days and then they sent me home with ten days of antibiotics. While I'm basically healed now, I still have weird, migrating stomach and abdominal pains, and bloating (2 or 3 on pain scale.) How was it for you? [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 11:10 PM PST - 6 comments

Songs about adulthood

I'm looking for songs about the experience of being an adult / adult life [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 11:06 PM PST - 24 comments

Mitigating risk in coffee shops

One of the hardest things for me since Covid is not being able to go to coffee shops since I used to write there all the time. I am trying to figure out the safest way to make a brief visit to one. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 9:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Both CTRL keys have stopped working - help!

I've got an Asus laptop running Windows 10 that has suddenly stopped recognizing my CTRL keys this week. How can I restore them? [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 7:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Seeking front closure tops

I’m preparing for a recovery period when I won’t be able to lift my arms above my shoulders for a while. I’m looking for front closure tops that meet the criteria below. You would think this would be an easy thing to find but weirdly it is very much not. Can you lend me your google skills? [more inside]
posted by embrangled at 7:38 PM PST - 20 comments

Metalhead or scientist?

Saw this t-shirt recently in Tokyo. What does this mean? Anybody recognize this? I couldn't get a look at the front. Zero results on tineye. Google Image no help (suggested term was "vehicle" lol).
posted by Gotanda at 5:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Songs about Juliet

Hi! I'm looking for songs that mention Juliet. Any genre, though it probably should be in English, unless it's super famous. Thank you!
posted by Jacen at 4:58 PM PST - 37 comments

Need more detail, please!

I'm a writer for an organization whose editor is a real stickler for detail - his comments on my writing are always "Need to beef up here", "This is a little weak", and "Add some things here to make it a bit longer." I know that means adding more detail, but I don't know how to do that. I think I write too fast. What writing exercises can I do to strengthen this lack of detail? ADHD diagnosed, too.
posted by adverb at 4:56 PM PST - 9 comments

still can't put widgets on default lock screen in ios 14?

By 'default' lock screen, I mean, the screen you immediately see first when you unlock/wake up your phone, without swiping, where you might see your wallpaper or ultra recent notifications. I see you can put widgets in the "Today" view to the side of the default lock screen, and now the "Home" screens. But not where I want 'em. True? If not, how do ya do it?
posted by bitterkitten at 4:06 PM PST - 2 comments

Work life needs a reboot

I have been constantly, repetitively, making dumb mistakes at work, ranging from merely silly to potentially serious. Quite often, I am able to catch those mistakes afterwards, but that's useless. I am definitely burned out, but for various reasons exiting current team is not possible right now. These mistakes cannot keep happening. What do I do?! More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Nieshka at 1:15 PM PST - 19 comments

Free Flu Shots: Complications and Five Questions

I went for a free flu shot yesterday. I usually get them through work but, you know. The experience left me with a ton of questions. Unfortunately, there was a line behind me so I couldn't satisfy my curiosity, but I hope you guys can help! [more inside]
posted by Roy Batty at 12:46 PM PST - 22 comments

Disposable Nespresso-compatible capsule reviews by humans?

I'm looking to find sites that feature actual humans evaluating disposable Nespresso capsules. The only ones I can find are SEO content-farm garbage. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:49 AM PST - 7 comments

What kind of maximum heart rate are elite runners hitting?

I am having an argument with a friend. And I claimed that I think elite runners are very capable of going well over 200, or even 210 BPM. I can't find any reliable article to back this up. I found a reddit thread where plenty of people claimed over 210 or even 220. But can someone help me find an article with reliable data? Thanks!!
posted by maxexam at 7:43 AM PST - 15 comments

Recommendations for co-op online games to play during a Zoom session?

During a team meeting of about 10 people where everyone is working remotely, I have 30 minutes to get everyone to play a video game co-operatively. Could be everyone together, or in smaller breakout rooms. Most important: nothing to install, as little setup time as possible. And it has to be fun! [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 5:16 AM PST - 15 comments

Is it possible to de-prickify my wool blanket?

My new pure wool blanket is itchy and prickly. Is it possible to soften it? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 1:43 AM PST - 15 comments

What should I do with my life and newfound freedom?

I went "straight through" from college to med school to residency and the training highway is ending. Phew! I can choose to do whatever I want with my time! What? How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:08 AM PST - 13 comments

September 25

Help me find a use for my HOTAS before Squadrons

Picked up an X-56 in anticipation of Squadrons coming out. It arrived well in advance of the game. Recommend me some games to use it with to fill the gap!
posted by isauteikisa at 8:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Needed: crash course in management

In a quite short amount of time I'm going to be expected to hire and manage humans in an office context. This is not a thing I've ever done, expected to do, or wanted to do. What are some resources I could use to get very quickly up to speed on How To Hire and Manage? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 7:03 PM PST - 11 comments

How to mount Kallax shelving to plaster wall?

Help, I bought a 2x4 Kallax from IKEA thinking that it could be mounted 4' up the wall horizontally, and that's exactly what the adorable pictographs on the instructions say not to do! Is there a way for me to mount this safely to my plaster wall? [more inside]
posted by oxisos at 6:04 PM PST - 16 comments

Books that foster wonderment about the body

I'm thinking of an illustrated book from my childhood that taught me about the human body's organ systems. I was especially drawn to a spread that depicted the cardiovascular system that as a factory with red blood cell workers transporting oxygen in little buckets. [more inside]
posted by charcoals at 5:41 PM PST - 12 comments

Any way to register for the November LSAT?

I just went to register for the November LSAT and it seems the deadline was September 23rd (screenshot). I was under the weather with covid for two weeks and missed this. Any ideas about anything I can do to register for the November test date?
posted by davidstandaford at 1:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Ironic song about being killed by an indie icon

It’s a semi spoken word song from within the last few years about seeing an indie icon - I think Father John Misty - on the subway in Brooklyn and then getting pushed onto the tracks by him. Does this ring any bells?
posted by chappell, ambrose at 11:56 AM PST - 2 comments

What states have medical prescribing reciprocity with New York State?

I have to move to a state that has medical reciprocity with New York State. I cannot find the list and my doctor hasn't been responsive, but. he says there are 30+ states. My doctor needs to be able to see what medications I am getting in his office in New York State, while I move somewhere more affordable. I'm currently in Oregon, but they don't have reciprocity with NYS, but Washington State does. How can I find the list of all the states that share medical information, including prescriptions, with New York State? The doctor says over 30 states are on that list. I need this so I can figure out where I can move.
posted by Kombucha3452 at 11:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Music To Grade To

Please recommend some instrumental, groovy, non-intrusive music so I can focus on grading all these damn papers. [more inside]
posted by Dr. Wu at 10:31 AM PST - 50 comments

Can my computer be saved?

I spilled an entire glass of water with a tiny bit of apple cider vinegar in it (because team #stomachproblems) onto my relatively new laptop. Is it toast? [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 10:03 AM PST - 13 comments

MOving on from Part-time work

Hi, AskMe. I'm just writing in hopes of getting some ideas about where I can go from here. I've been working a part-time job for the past year and change, and am feeling a little restless. More details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 9:46 AM PST - 1 comment

Options for buying pet food online in Canada

Are there any stores in Canada other than Petsmart or Amazon who will ship me dry dog food? Ideally free or reasonably priced shipping, but any options are helpful. [more inside]
posted by randomnity at 9:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Help finding the perfect smart plug

I am looking for recommendations on a smart plug with some fairly specific parameters, mostly importantly that can be controlled both by remote control and via iPhone and Android app. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by pineapplerunner at 9:21 AM PST - 9 comments

What did I watch?

Seeing a Revenant gif has reminded me: I've been trying to identify a film I saw for ages. I believe it was set on the West Coast, sometime from the mid-1700s to the late 1800s. The main character is... ill? injured in some way? and spends most of the film trying to get to the coast, or some other body of water. [more inside]
posted by sagc at 8:52 AM PST - 4 comments

Salem Architecture, 17th c.

Is the "meeting house" in Crucible (Arthur Miller) a civic hall or a church? [more inside]
posted by plant or animal at 8:42 AM PST - 6 comments

It's fall, it's hoodie time

I want to treat myself to a really comfy full zipped hoodie. Give me your best recommends! [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 8:00 AM PST - 25 comments

Converting wedding_invite.swf - none of the standard tools work

About two decades ago, a wedding invite was made using Macromedia Flash creator something. It contains shapes, tweens, and sprites. And a soundtrack. Now, I cannot play or convert it. None of the obvious solutions work - the best I get is an audio file with the soundtrack. [more inside]
posted by weft at 7:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Stories about receiving compensation

I would like to hear from people who have received compensation payouts following traumatic events. What did you feel before, during and after the settlement, and how did you make decisions about how to manage whatever money you received? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:35 AM PST - 10 comments

Music for the Haters

Songs sung by women that are aggressively confident and telling off the haters, competitors, etc? I love all kinds of music -- on my current hater list are Fist City by Loretta Lynn; Shake It Off by T. Swift; and Rebel Girl by Bikini Kill. Prefer that they're not super like...maudlin and sad about how you're losing the battle or lost the battle. We never stop winning over here on this playlist, people!
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 7:25 AM PST - 75 comments

What in the name of your favorite god happened? Car version

My car seems to have lost 30,000 from the odometer reading. Just how? [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 6:25 AM PST - 6 comments

How risky is it to be a poll worker in the age of COVID-19?

I'd like to be a poll worker this November, but I'd also like to understand how much of a risk it might be. Articles? Data? Decision-making models? Anything? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 5:57 AM PST - 10 comments

September 24

Geekbench 6696 not enough for screensharing?

https://imgur.com/gallery/c5ijsnO I can't seem to use Zoom nor OBX for screensharing. DO I really need a more powerful computer? Tuple runs fine but my clients don't all have Macs. Is screensharing normally this demanding? I remember I could do it better than this 15 years ago with VNC....
posted by jago25_98 at 11:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for fiction about learning new skills

I'm looking for recommendations for fiction that includes well-written descriptions about learning new skills. [more inside]
posted by creepygirl at 9:38 PM PST - 22 comments

What is this vertical black bar in Chrome on OS X?

In full-screen, on OS X in Chrome I have this vertical bar. It is not in the DOM, as I have selected hide element on the entire HTML tag. Extensions are not impacting it and shows up in Incognito mode. Sometimes it is on the top as in the screenshot, sometimes it is 3/4 of the way down. What is this?! [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 8:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Place to purchase plus-size panties for people with penises?

I can find plenty of places with cute plus-sized women's underwear. I can find several places with cute women's underwear designed to accommodate a penis. I am having a hard time finding the intersection of the two. Any suggestions for stores or brands? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:06 PM PST - 8 comments

Best social media manager 2020 edition

I'm looking for social media schedulers that will allow me to schedule tweets and Instagram posts WITH TAGGING. Free is great but would pay for the right app. Bonus points for something where authentication for Instagram actually works. Buffer, TweetDeck , and Hootsuite don’t seem to have tagging available in the free versions, and I cannot get Hootsuite to authenticate Instagram and actually post. What say you?
posted by Violet Hour at 7:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Escapist but political fiction

OK, I like reading political books, but I'm trying to feel better in life and my diet of books about apocalypse and plagues and despair are not helping. I want escapist, page-turner fiction, that is a) well written and b) political. Some examples of what I mean inside [yup, another question about page-turners - that's the age we're living through!] [more inside]
posted by latkes at 6:34 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me warm my deck (and not burn it down) this winter!

I have a covered wood deck that's 14' x 14' and I'm trying to figure out the best way to add a way to warm it up when we go outside. There's a 3 foot knee-wall coming up from the floor and screens around the rest of it but is otherwise open to the elements. From what I've read, propane heaters are not a good idea in this situation both for fumes and for potentially setting the wood on fire. The last thread here recommended infrared. I'm looking for specific product or brand recommendations, please and thank you!
posted by softlord at 6:13 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I write this writing assignment for a job application?

I'm trying to finish an application for a job posting, it's basically a writing sample, but I have no idea a) what to say, b) how to format it, and c) it's TANKING my self-esteem (and I feel like shit, now). I'm hoping to get some advice on how I should go about doing this! (or Should I actually even bother applying for this position?) [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 6:01 PM PST - 17 comments

seeking help with Affinity Designer

Is there anyone here who lives in the Salt Lake City area that is experienced with Affinity Designer 1.8? I'm hitting the wall and the help files aren't helpful. I'm not trying to do anything fancy, just import and delete brushes, templates and assets.
posted by ydaltak at 3:19 PM PST - 3 comments

Walk me through using VOIP to keep my US phone number in Canada

I'm moving to Canada from the US. My phone plan (Red Pocket) doesn't work in Canada. I'll get a Canadian plan and phone number, but I also want to keep my US number for receiving calls and texts in Canada. How to do this? I seem to have already packed most of my working brain cells, so I don't understand what the internet is telling me and need MeFi to walk me through the process. [more inside]
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 12:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Oakland E-waste disposal: no-car 2020 edition

I have an iMac G4, a Mac Mini, and 2 Windows laptops in Oakland that I want to dispose of responsibly. I have no car. [more inside]
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey at 12:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Age appropriate music and dancing videos on Youtube?

My mom is a public school teacher who works with young adults (18-21) that are intellectually disabled in different ways. She does a section of instruction that involves movement and dance, and she's looking for videos that have music and dancing in them. She asked one of her students what they would like to listen to, and they said they liked Post Malone, but my mom figured that wouldn't fly in a public school setting (see "Ayy, I've been fuckin' hoes and poppin' pillies / Man, I feel just like a rockstar"). Is there something that would work for this kind of context? Something that's not childish but also not raunchy? [more inside]
posted by vocativecase at 11:43 AM PST - 31 comments

What are the national groups devoted to coronavirus/COVID-19?

What are all of the national level groups focused on coronavirus? This is what I know of: Marked by Covid, Survivor Corps, FacesOfCOVID, While at Home. What other groups are focused on COVID-19?
posted by andoatnp at 11:09 AM PST - 3 comments

Is it better to use a phone app or to tether?

I’ve lost my home broadband temporarily and have to use only what I can get on my cell phone, which can be variable depending on conditions. Need some help figuring out how to make best use of what data capacity that I have. [more inside]
posted by mccxxiii at 10:48 AM PST - 8 comments

Alternative Theories and/or Treatments of simple partial seizures

YANMD. I think both my daughter and I experience simple partial seizures. If not, what do you think they may be? In any case, what steps might you take to reduce our "episodes"? More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by turtlefu at 10:41 AM PST - 16 comments

Organizing Zotero Citations for Fun and Syllabus

I use Zotero to organize academic references and the material I use for my research into.... lets say.... beans. I also teach a class on beans. I'm trying to organize and/or tag these references in a way that makes it easy to find what I'm looking for and also to quickly generate citations that I can past into a syllabus that is divided by weekly readings... [more inside]
posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at 10:32 AM PST - 1 comment

Fire Boy and Water Girl – but not that one

I'm trying to find a two-player co-op browser-based platform game I enjoyed a few years ago. It is not this one, although they have many elements in common. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 9:36 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I go about learning geography?

I've begun doing online trivia with friends, and it has revealed that apparently I know nothing about where most things in the world are located. I tend to learn by reading and am good at retaining facts pretty casually, but when things get Atlas-y I am out of my depths. Wondering if anyone has suggestions around this? Are there...narrative geographies? Are there youtube channels that work like almanacs? Has anyone successfully righted this in adulthood. Thank you in advance!
posted by lieberschnitzel at 9:35 AM PST - 24 comments

The Coldest Cold Lead

What is the best way to handle cold sales emails and LinkedIn requests? [more inside]
posted by amycup at 9:05 AM PST - 15 comments

Where are all the men?

I'm a man who participates in maybe what I'll call "extracurricular activities": going to museums, concerts(when they did them), picnicking in parks, doing zoom classes, book readings, volunteering with organizations, even online political activism. When I do these, nearly always are majority or nearly all women who are participating. Is this confirmation bias, something because I live in NYC, or actually a thing? If it is a thing, what are men doing? Are there any studies or articles that discuss this or talk about this?
posted by sandmanwv at 8:04 AM PST - 40 comments

Need schooling/career advice for son with learning difficulties

My son is struggling with school and I need some help figuring out what his options are going forward. Would really value input from people who have gone through something similar, or their parents, as well as educators and career counsellors. [more inside]
posted by widdershins at 7:21 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I stop the muscles in my neck from being so prominent?

My sternocleidomastoid muscles are very prominent (the one that shows up in red in this illustration) and I don't like how it looks. Are there any stretches I could be doing? Exercises to strengthen some other muscles? How do I get them to relax?
posted by anonymous at 12:47 AM PST - 4 comments

Best armchair travel of 2020

I miss travelling and it seems unlikely I'll get to go anywhere soon. Interested in ways to scratch my travel itch while not leaving home. What can you recommend in the way of armchair travel experiences, or recreating the feel of travel in a time of lockdown? [more inside]
posted by AnnaRat at 12:38 AM PST - 24 comments

September 23

How to get a painful failed relationship off my mind?

I had a tumultuous relationship for several years with someone who was emotionally and verbally abusive, and in which I was dishonest and cheated. It’s over and I’m glad, but I still can’t stop thinking about it. [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 11:50 PM PST - 18 comments

Looking for early biochemistry textbooks online by Abaraham Cantarow

From the 40's to the 60's. Need to be able to view offline. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 10:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Skiing New England: best Season Ticket/Rental prices?

I'm turning toward (alpine) skiing as a viable option for my son and me, as an outdoor recreation option this winter. I'm looking to maximize bang-for-buck—we don't own equipment; and I've never bought a season lift/rental package before. Putting aside my searching website-by-website, can you recommend a good place(s) within three-ish hours of Boston, (i.e. Berkshires, White or Green Mts, and maybe into Maine) in terms of good skiing and great season-ticket price? [more inside]
posted by not_on_display at 10:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Cop job. Job some cops

What side jobs do cops most commonly have? [more inside]
posted by michaelh at 10:12 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I get into contact with editors and reporters for NPR?

I wrote a letter with the intent to send it to NPR - how can I get it in front of the right people? [more inside]
posted by honeybee413 at 8:14 PM PST - 6 comments

One hand will wash the other

Serious question: which hand soap is best? [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 7:26 PM PST - 14 comments

Hiking sandals for enormous ankles

I need some sturdy walking sandals for my size 10 feet. I tried on some Teva Tirra's this morning and they were comfy like a dream. Except I can't do up the ankle strap. I need something like an extra inch and a half in the ankle strap in order for the velcro to work. Everything else fit perfectly. I looked at some men's Teva's and my soul left my body at their hideousness. Two part question as follows... [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 6:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Is it safe to put an iMac on a closet wire shelf?

I may be transitioning to working at home. Don't have a desk, they're expensive and hard to find; however, a currently spare room in my residence has a nice closet with an adjustable shelf. Thinking about putting the work iMac on the pictured shelf (moving it down to body level, of course). Would it be safe or too heavy? [more inside]
posted by thoughtful_analyst at 6:24 PM PST - 11 comments

Washington DC logistics for paying respects to RBG Thursday 9/24

A friend and I will be driving from NYC to DC tomorrow (Thursday, September 24) to pay our respects to RBG at the Supreme Court building. I'm looking for suggestions specific to DC driving/parking/public transportation for how best to navigate once we arrive. [more inside]
posted by Majorita at 5:56 PM PST - 5 comments

I have a few flaky references, and I had to give them.

I'm in the final round for a state government job (holy shit!! insert excitement/panic attack here!). They asked for extensive references from the bulk of my job history. Problem is I've mostly worked for ultra small companies, companies that have been bought out, or for managers that I have just no way of contacting at all (up to and including, dead, deported and heavily into drugs). [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 5:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Why did somebody send me a weird, strangely expensive Japanese earphone?

I accidentally opened a package mailed to my address but in the name of somebody who's never lived here. It's actually the second package to arrive addressed to this person - the first, I left out and it disappeared after a few days. The package contained this inscrutable Japanese "earspeaker system," which I still don't quite understand but which seems to go for $500+ across various online platforms. The weirdness of the product makes this feel like a scam - is this just a (second) misdelivered package or is something else going on here?
posted by exutima at 3:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Help Me Defrizz!

Hi All, I have looked at previous questions, but I still need help with my frizzy hair. [more inside]
posted by bookworm4125 at 2:33 PM PST - 21 comments

I don't work there-- do I need to correct this possible misunderstanding

Job interview question-- Do I need to correct this possible misunderstanding re: my current employer? [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 2:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Rosehip cocktail ideas

Calling all mixologists and cocktail creators: I have a few jars of rosehip jelly that just...didn't set. So it is equal parts rosehips (simmered in water and strained), and sugar. I have plans to fix some of it, pour some of it on top of a pound cake, etc etc, but I was also imagining some killer cocktails using rosehip syrup. What, dear friends, would YOU make?
posted by Grandysaur at 1:46 PM PST - 16 comments

How to find a specific kind of metal hook

I am looking to replace a certain metal hook, that is part of our windows. Where can I find a similar piece? [more inside]
posted by tinymegalo at 1:46 PM PST - 7 comments

I have some questions about buying a student laptop

I would like to have some recommendations for a laptop between $400 and $700. The main thing I am struggling with is choosing between Ryzen 5 based Idealabs and i5 based laptops. Some details inside. [more inside]
posted by justlooking at 1:12 PM PST - 9 comments

Why does it hurt when I pee...

I have Benign Prostatic Hyperplasia. It really is annoying and I would love to know if there is anything I can do short of surgery to help the discomfort? [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 11:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Can you make my Chromebook go?

My Chromebook has gotten really slow over the last few weeks. In particular, Gmail and Google Docs are slow (unbearably slow), but just about everything else works fine. Can you help me figure out how to speed it up? [more inside]
posted by meese at 11:14 AM PST - 14 comments

Google Classroom sucks

I'm trying to help my fifth-grader through online learning. Life right now is just filled with too many bloody applications to manage. How can I stay on top of things in Google Classroom? I'm losing my mind. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 10:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Burnout help

I'm experiencing burnout. What are some strategies which worked for you to combat it? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser at 10:18 AM PST - 18 comments

External monitor/keyboard/mouse for MacBook Air 2017

I need to buy an external monitor, as well as a keyboard and mouse for my 2017 MacBook Air. I'd like to spend under $300 for all three. The keyboard is probably the most important to me in terms of quality - I type a lot for work so would like something that feels solid. What should I buy and what cords do I need? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 10:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Did Ted Bundy say this?

I heard a speaker say that when Ted Bundy was asked how he could kill another human, he replied "there are so many people . . . what does it matter?" Can you help me find this quote, or find who actually said it? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 9:27 AM PST - 3 comments

What should I do with beautiful korean-BBQ style meat

There is a regional Korean-American chain, H-Mart, with beautiful pre-cut meat which looks just like the meat they bring out at Korean BBQ. What should I do with it? I do have access to a gas grill. What marinade should I make? Can I do it on the stove-top? What should I serve with it? They have a bunch of the salads/sides I can get. I look at the meat all the time and really want to make something fun for a party.
posted by shothotbot at 8:46 AM PST - 15 comments

Is there a way of reverting an app update on iOS?

Asking for an artist friend who uses Procreate for her work. She says she just updated Procreate on her iPad and it’s really impacting her ability to continue working on a year-long project with an upcoming deadline. Is there a way of reverting this update somehow? Thank you!!!
posted by vocativecase at 7:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Resources for understanding working in unsafe conditions

I’m looking for books or other resources to help me develop through the experience of being forced back to work in conditions I don’t consider safe (I work frontline in a university library in the uk and now realise my role is mostly being part of an advertising scheme to get money from students and rent for landlords rather than education). I’m interested in books that explore broadly similar topics for instance could be about workers rights, disability studies, or even harm mitigation in domestic violence. [more inside]
posted by mosswinter at 5:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Retreat/Inpatient for PTSD, No Addictions

I have increasingly problematic PTSD symptoms and would like to "get away" for a week once it's safe to do so, to a retreat that is a mix of intensive PTSD treatment and also relaxation away from the chaos of my normal life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Dual citizen: good idea to maintain both passports?

I live in the US, having moved here from Canada 6 years ago. I recently became a naturalized US citizen, and my passport is currently in process. My Canadian passport is still valid for several more years. What would be some benefits of maintaining the Canadian passport? Assume I don't have any plans of moving back anytime soon, but just curious.
posted by cozenedindigo at 4:30 AM PST - 23 comments

September 22

Here we go (all night long)

Have you actually let you toddler stay up all night? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 10:44 PM PST - 17 comments

Fresh golden currants, what now?

What's a good vegetarian recipe using up to a quart of fresh golden currants and is NOT a jam, jelly, or compote? Ideally something that shows them off and doesn't overwhelm the flavor with sugar.
posted by blnkfrnk at 10:30 PM PST - 13 comments

Help my skin is angry

Extended heat and smoke conditions have caused an eczema flare-up. How do I get my skin to calm down? [more inside]
posted by Wavelet at 10:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Best Thrift Stores in Marin, Sonoma and Napa Counties

I've got a couple of favorites in Santa Rosa - would like to branch out and find a few more really good ones - please tell me which are, in your opinion, the absolute best in the three North Bay counties named above and why. Bodacious level of detail greatly appreciated. I am interested in clothing primarily.
posted by flowergrrrl at 9:52 PM PST - 3 comments

How to stop feeling sorry for myself and obsessing about my luck?

Lately I've been having more frequent thoughts about luck, particularly of the bad sort, and feeling like it's been following me around. I know this is not a productive way of thinking. I would like to figure out why it's taken root so deeply in my psyche, and how I can stop seeing everything negative that happens to me through this lens of poor fortune. [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover at 9:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Procedural shows without cops and murder

We like the process of puzzling through a mystery and getting to a solution through brainwork and teamwork. Problem is most TV shows of this format focus exclusively on murder, which we don’t find good fodder for entertainment. Also the cops tend to be lionized, which we also don’t much care for. [more inside]
posted by rikschell at 8:59 PM PST - 46 comments

Secretly, I just want to take a break...

My time at my current job is winding down and I've been having an extremely difficult time forcing myself to apply for jobs. I am just... exhausted. Will I "ruin" my career/life if I just... take a break? Ugh, what should I do? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 8:09 PM PST - 22 comments

Greatest Albums of All Time, Metafilter version

As an antidote to the Rolling Stone list currently featuring on the blue, I propose to ask mefites: what are your picks for the Greatest Albums of All Time? [more inside]
posted by bertran at 8:05 PM PST - 88 comments

Downloads for new job; McAfee says it has a virus

Of course I didn't d/l it and soon after McAfee deleted it. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 7:42 PM PST - 16 comments

Music from Blueprints? Dancing about architecture?

So, what's this album?? Probably between 1998 and 2004?? I think it was either a computer fed blueprints or maybe it had sensors all over a building that fed data from light and from air moments - a relatively new building? - something kind of iconic? A train station or airport terminal or something? I swear I've googled this. [more inside]
posted by J0 at 6:43 PM PST - 6 comments

How safe is a UK black cab?

Roughly how safe is a 15 min journey for one person in a UK black cab, assuming driver screen, that they sanitise between customers, masks worn and contactless payment? [more inside]
posted by Flitcraft at 6:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Yet another "help me find this book" question

I read this book some years ago about what might have been the first "lost colony" established in the North American region by English explorers, somewhere in the Arctic or Northern Canada. For years, I've been searching for it, but I cannot find it. [more inside]
posted by kitten kaboodle at 4:34 PM PST - 4 comments

screenshare alternative - a two-way pdf?

Last night I had a situation where my clients' PC was too basic (way, way out of date) to run even screenleap which is my fallback where I think zoom won't work. What we were doing was discussing the exact position of a proposed 3km long farm fence and using an aerial as a reference underneath with me drawing and dragging sections of line. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 3:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Great Couch Co-op Games for PS4

I'm looking for some great two-player games for PS4. Criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by freshwater at 2:58 PM PST - 14 comments

Book on analog game design?

My 9-year-old is currently obsessed with making board games and card games. Can you recommend a book that would talk about game design principles in an accessible way? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 2:58 PM PST - 5 comments

No youtube notifications any more?

Hi everyone; I used to receive email notifications when a video was released on youtube,the ones I subscribe to. All of a sudden,I don't get those emails any more. Does anybody know why? Is this a new youtube policy? Thanks :-)
posted by LOOKING at 2:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Google Hangouts SMS trouble

My SMS messages are disappearing on Google Hangouts. Help. [more inside]
posted by nayantara at 1:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Why do conference call apps launch a browser to launch the app?

In the wonderful world of COVID we find ourselves in a lot of virtual meetings. Zoom, Webex, Teams, and their ilk. I have meetings in all - and a desktop app installed for all. Every time I click a link to open a meeting, a web browser launches to in turn open the app. It seems like a totally unnecessary step. From a programming standpoint, why is it necessary to do it this way? Why is it better (or necessary) for the web browser to tell the app what to do - shouldn't the calendar invite link be able to send the same info to the app? [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 1:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Recipe Magpie: taggable, sortable, text AND photos

I have some unexpected free time on my hands (thanks Covid!) and thought I might use it to actually clean up my disaster of recipe storage. I'm looking for a service that can convert photos to legible text; save information from a website; display that info as a recipe- simple white background black text at a legible size. I'd like to be able to add notes easily, and I'd like to be able to organize with tags. In a perfect world it would be able to batch import, and copy tags/organization. What have you tried? [more inside]
posted by aint broke at 12:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Home purchasing timeline

I'm considering buying a home while interest rates are low. I have snowflake questions. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 11:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Best tool for party RSVP?

I'm looking for a tool that will let me send my own personal email to guests, then collect RSVPS. I have a few criteria I want to meet, and somehow I can't seem to find a tool that meets all of them: [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 11:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Family Halloween costume ideas needed (two moms and a baby edition)

My wife and I have an adorable 4 month old and want to dress our little family up in a group costume but we’re coming up blank. I’m chubby and femme, my wife is pretty androgynous and would definitely dye her short hair any rainbow colour for the right costume; our baby is a generic cute baby. [more inside]
posted by Sweetchrysanthemum at 9:47 AM PST - 30 comments

Hotels in SF area that are open and have windows that open?

Looking for a hotel in SF area that is open and has windows that open or--even better--terrace space.
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 8:37 AM PST - 7 comments

Pimp my Pad See Ew

Sadly I live in an area without Thai restaurants nearby, so I've been trying to make my favorite dish at home. It hasn't worked yet. [more inside]
posted by Dashy at 8:29 AM PST - 8 comments

Contemporary Short Speculative Fiction by Women

In the mood for some short spec fic collections by women. I’d love to hear your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by xenization at 8:23 AM PST - 18 comments

What to do if Amazon sends the correct item but not enough?

I ordered a box of ten individually wrapped items. Amazon sent the correct item but only one of them. Would you return/exchange it as "wrong item was sent" or "missing or broken parts"? Neither fits exactly. [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 8:16 AM PST - 13 comments

Best slippers for a pandemic?

I wear slippers basically all the time now, and my slippers, while very comfy, are lined with synthetic fabric, so they make my feet sweat, and then my feet are colder than if I wasn't wearing slippers and also gross and smelly. What would be better slippers for me to buy? [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne at 8:15 AM PST - 25 comments

My chickpeas bring all the weird brown spots to the yard

Another "can I eat this": I just put these chickpeas out to soak but there are weird brown spots on 90% of them. Are these edible? (No bugs or weird smells. The bag does say it expires in October 2020. The bag sat in my car for a few weeks.)
posted by goodbyewaffles at 7:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Recommendations for non-European fashion history and textiles?

I am looking for books, videos, illustrations, etc. Lots of pictures are a plus and it does not need to be in English.
posted by heart's ease at 7:47 AM PST - 1 comment

How to manage sadness about being other

Lately, I've been bummed out about experiencing the systematic differences of being a queer woman with a disability in America. It's a new feeling, because up to this point I moved through life swimmingly without experiencing firsthand being passed over for promotion/etc. [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 7:31 AM PST - 7 comments

California proposition 65 and rice cookers

My fancy new Cuckoo rice cooker has a prop 65 warning on the box for DEHP. My other buying option was a Zojirushi cooker, so my question is if anyone has bought a Zojirushi lately and noticed a prop 65 warning. If all current rice cookers carry the warning (and since the operating temps aren’t that high) I'll likely keep it. I'm not asking about the warning itself because I think it would just generate chatter. [more inside]
posted by bonobothegreat at 7:22 AM PST - 11 comments

54 countries, 1 billion people, a lot of ignorance - ISO books on Africa

I know very little about contemporary Africa and looking for books to plug that gap. Specific detail requests below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Megami at 12:34 AM PST - 13 comments

September 21

Need help "moving forward" in life

Feeling isolated, alone, and lost in life; what can I change to move forward? [more inside]
posted by NatalieWood at 11:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Other Mobile Games like "The Room" Series

I really like escape/puzzle games like The Room series for iOS and Android. I'd like to play some more, but I'd prefer to go with titles that aren't as creepy as The Room (which I enjoy but can only play during the day because I get spooked easily.) The games don't need to be nearly as elaborate as TR -- just fun and challenging. What would you recommend? I am on Android.
posted by Kitchen Witch at 9:31 PM PST - 16 comments

How is data transferred over the internet?

Is there a relatively simple but also detailed breakdown of how data is transferred over the internet? It's not just a series of tubes, right? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 5:19 PM PST - 28 comments

I ate it, but should I have? (moldy sweet potato edition)

I made a curry today using two large sweet potatoes that both had little bits of whitish/greyish mold growing at the very tips. I cut off an inch or more of potato past the mold zone and proceeded to cook, because I really wanted those damn sweet potatoes and the grocery store is scary these days. Now I'm googling and seeing all sorts of things about hepatoxicity from the kind of mold that grows on sweet potatoes. [more inside]
posted by some_kind_of_toaster at 3:53 PM PST - 13 comments

Help protecting furniture from incontinence

Over Thanksgiving, my wife and I plan to rent a vacation house. Her 90-year-old mother will join us. Her mother is cognitively sharp but incontinent. She has accidents at least three times a day and does not find that adult diapers always work for her. (We don’t know whether they don’t do the job, or whether she doesn’t wear them.) [more inside]
posted by NotLost at 3:46 PM PST - 20 comments

How to paint a large subject over a subtle background?

Painters, help! I want to paint a large (koi fish) over a background (stars, galaxies). I know how to paint each thing separately, but I am just getting back into painting after a long hiatus and need some tips on executing it properly. [more inside]
posted by chatelaine at 3:34 PM PST - 5 comments

is this the behavior of a guy who actually cares about me?

I'm looking for some insights on how to interpret a recent situation with my boyfriend whereby he's moving in with an ex... [more inside]
posted by thiosux at 3:31 PM PST - 22 comments

DOGS: Industrial wall/hall gate.

Those with particularly strong dogs- please recommend a gate. Not the standard pressure mounted gate (unless seriously specialized) - preferably wall mounted by drill. [more inside]
posted by Wichienmaat at 3:15 PM PST - 5 comments

How can drafts be so wrong (or are they "too" right)?

The CDC has announced that recently released draft guidance of covid-19 mistakenly says the virus is airborne. The president told Bob Woodward that it was. And there have been numerous news stories that six feet may not be a wide enough distance between virus spreaders and potential infectees because particles may stay suspended in the air. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 3:05 PM PST - 16 comments

Celebrate a financial milestone during COVID times

My partner and I just finished paying off a mortgage in six years, and we are soooooooo excited about hitting this milestone! Originally we said we'd take a trip to Aus and NZ to celebrate and visit some friends, but due to COVID, that is off the table for now. Looking for suggestions on how to make it feel like a big deal celebration - because it is a big deal! - even with COVID restrictions. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:49 PM PST - 13 comments

Advice for discovering something unpleasant about a deceased loved one

I had a very good and relatively uncomplicated relationship with a parent who I loved very much and died not long ago. I recently discovered something very unpleasant on their computer and I’m really struggling with reconciling this with the parent I loved so dearly and was so close to. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:57 PM PST - 16 comments

What are the risks of giving birth at 39?

We are considering have a child at age 39 or 40. What are the risks to the mother and child of having a baby at at this age? I'm looking for stats on complexity of the pregnancy and birth defects, or the increased risk of things like autism and down's syndrome. We've had two healthy children, if that matters.
posted by david1230 at 1:49 PM PST - 12 comments

Name this artist for a friend?

Ok, long shot here but the specs are: [more inside]
posted by Twinge at 1:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a polite way to phrase a request, part two.

What is says on the tin, cousin edition. [more inside]
posted by Crystal Fox at 1:16 PM PST - 14 comments

Supporting disabled family

My brother has austism and OCD. The OCD has gotten a lot worse since the beginning of the pandemic. We're not sure if he's still taking his meds. Can you tell us about how you support family that's disabled and lives semi-independently? [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 11:11 AM PST - 3 comments

meals/food cooked entirely from the pantry/freezer

Looking for meals/dishes/recipes, especially vegetable-centric ones, that can be made entirely from shelf-stable or long-lasting ingredients rather than fresh. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 10:55 AM PST - 25 comments

How can I scent laundry without soap or dryer sheets?

I have pretty sensitive skin that doesn't handle scented soaps well, but apparently can handle scents applied in the dryer, or maybe some other way I'm not aware of. I was using essential oils on wool dryer balls, but read that's a fire hazard. What can I do instead to make my laundry smell nice? [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 10:54 AM PST - 15 comments

What was this book? Early European settlement of Midwest

Another edition of What Was This Book I Read: a story of early European settlement of the midwestern United States, possibly/probably in Indiana. The few details that I remember include: [more inside]
posted by spamloaf at 10:12 AM PST - 6 comments

Ack! Lost recipe!

Recently (~ within the last month or two) I saw a recipe I wanted to try that involved marinating halved(? I think?) cherry tomatoes with olive oil, fresh basil leaves, and probably garlic, before serving over vermicelli. It seems like the instructions were to marinate for 2-4 hours, because I remember thinking I'd need to do that early enough to have it ready for supper. Somehow I managed not to save the recipe, and my browser history isn't showing me what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by taz at 10:10 AM PST - 2 comments

Simple, calming puzzle games to play during zoom meetings?

Because of my ADHD tendencies I find it easier to focus in video meetings if I have a very simple online puzzle game to occupy my mind at the same time. The NYTimes Vertex puzzle works perfectly for this -- but they only release one per day and it takes about 5-10 minutes to complete, so I burn through that pretty fast. Can you recommend other similar puzzles? [more inside]
posted by mekily at 8:25 AM PST - 29 comments

US Citizenship/ N400 Early Filing Question

I've had a green card since 2013. In 2015 I left the US for 6 months, returning Dec 1st - so I'll have been in the US continually for 5 years this Dec. I'd like apply for citizenship, and file early, because the application cost is almost doubling on Oct 2nd, but I can't find a field in the N400 form which allows me to specify my file date as Dec 1st 2020. How do I say, "I'm filing now, but I'm not eligible until Dec 1st" - or am I missing something?
posted by my log does not judge at 8:08 AM PST - 7 comments

Digital Literacy Resources

I am looking for digital literacy tools, programs & resources that can be easily accessed and utilized by adults with very limited digital literacy skills [more inside]
posted by chara at 8:03 AM PST - 6 comments

Using essential oils in home crafts — what's your favorite info source?

Where should I go for practical, reliable, low-woo information about how to use essential oils for scenting homemade hair products? I have specific scents in mind and want to create my own recipe using them. Google is turning up mostly SEO-bait-looking sites with wildly contradictory information on basic questions like "How much EO do I use?" I know I should plan on doing some trial and error. But I'd like a starting point, maybe some 101-level instructions and principles. Is there a book or site aimed at practical crafters that I can read?
posted by nebulawindphone at 7:44 AM PST - 3 comments

Please Help Mayhem Eliminate Appropriately

Recent household disruptions have revealed that our kitty Mayhem dislikes sharing a litter box and was/is taking out her feelings on any available bedding, clean clothes and the now-removed forty-year old carpet. Please help us resolve this. The complicating factor is that we spent 10 years with a different cat who had litter box issues which we were never able to successfully resolve. As much as we love Mayhem, we just cannot do another 10-20 years of ruined carpet, floors and bedding. [more inside]
posted by theBigRedKittyPurrs at 5:15 AM PST - 10 comments

How gross is it for a man to get a sex toy for himself?

I, a man, am mostly friends with women, and they've pretty much to a one told me that they use solo sex toys. Even my partner has shown me her sex toys. But is it odd that I'd like one? None of my male friends do (or they keep it to themselves). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:11 AM PST - 36 comments

I want to replace this spoon

I've been using this wooden spoon to stir coffee in my french press. After years of service, it split and broke. While I have glued it back together I would like to find a replacement. [more inside]
posted by jazon at 4:29 AM PST - 8 comments

September 20

Looking for a book from a description

I've tried Goodreads for this with no luck, so I thought I'd ask here. I am trying to find a book my wife described, that was used/mentioned in one of her high school classes, so that means the book was published pre-1968. She does not remember the title, or author, just a description. The book presented the early Christians/apostles as great advertising guys, or PR people, or people like that, and Christianity as this great marketing campaign. If anyone has encountered this book and knows what it is, I'd really appreciate hearing from you!
posted by TimHare at 8:54 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I get better at cutting my husband's hair?

After COVID shut everything down, my husband bought a set of Wahl clippers and I started cutting his hair at home. How do I efficiently improve my clipper skills? [more inside]
posted by dede at 7:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Gift for Wedding Canceled Due to COVID-19?

A friend was supposed to get married this spring, and they had to postpone due to COVID-19. They initially rescheduled for this fall and have since canceled their wedding. I'd still like to send them a gift, but I'm not sure what is the best approach. I know this is an "any option will be appreciated" situation, but how are others approaching this? Buying something off their registry? Sending something else around the date (e.g., gift certificate to a restaurant that does take-out/hobby that they both enjoy, flowers or a plant, etc.)? [more inside]
posted by verity kindle at 7:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Where can I find canning jars in King County?

There is a dearth of canning jars in Seattle and I need help finding them! [more inside]
posted by mollywas at 5:01 PM PST - 16 comments

Any suggestion to make sure you're driving far enough from the curb?

My 15-year-old is learning to drive (in the US). He's having a lot of trouble making sure the car isn't too close to cars or the curb on the right (passenger) side. Every few minutes I have to remind him that he's too close on the right side. Does anyone have a suggestions on what he could do to prevent this? [more inside]
posted by Sock, Sock, Sock, Sock, Sock, Goose! at 4:50 PM PST - 29 comments

How to care for myself while I wait for meds to kick in?

Difficulty rating: pregnant and grieving mom's suicide and other mom's slow death from cancer. [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp at 4:20 PM PST - 10 comments

Roujiamo/Chinese Hamburger in Chicago

Is roujiamo (肉夹馍, "Chinese hamburger") on the menu of any Chinese restaurants in Chicago? If multiple places, are there any that deliver near the Uptown/Andersonville area? (Was entranced by this video).
posted by metabaroque at 2:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Was sepia toning in the 1920s done with negatives as well as prints?

I'm scanning a batch of 116 format negatives from the 1920s (still in the envelope from the lab!) that appear to be sepia toned. I was under the impression toning with silver sulfide would have only been done in printing, whereas negatives would have been only B&W metallic silver. So is the warm tone of these negatives likely a result of aging, or is it possible they were sepia toned in processing somehow?
posted by theory at 2:20 PM PST - 2 comments

Vegetable Void

Imagine, for this question, that all vegetables have ceased to exist. What would be the best way for a human to receive the nutrients, etc we typically need from vegetables? Would it be possible to be a reasonably healthy person without them? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 2:00 PM PST - 22 comments

Asking ex partner to unfriend me?

I’m sure I’m not the first person to go through this... I’m to the point where I need to ask my ex wife to unfriend me so she doesn’t have to be subject to seeing me be happy about a new relationship. Blocking seems shitty. Is there a script for this? Apologies if I worded anything wrong here. I’m trying to be kind.
posted by ftm at 1:34 PM PST - 34 comments

Talking to a kid about getting catcalled, beforehand

Looking for resources to help prepare my tween daughter for the eventuality of getting catcalled. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:18 PM PST - 4 comments

If you were an American leaving for another country, where would you go?

If you were an American seeking to emigrate to another country, which one would be a good combo of quality of life and ease of entry/becoming a citizen? No suggestion or pipedream is too off the wall! [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 12:07 PM PST - 28 comments

What do you say when someone dies? Estranged/bad relationship edition.

I have a few friends who have recently lost family members (e.g., parents) with whom they were not close and, in fact, sometimes had acrimonious relationships with (estrangement, abuse, etc.) How do you respond when someone experiences a death such as this? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 12:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Donating directly to candidates vs. donating to DSCC

I have a small amount of money that I'd like to donate to help Democratic candidates running for the US Senate. What's the most effective way to do this? [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 11:24 AM PST - 12 comments

What is a good online cooking course for beginners?

I'm looking for a good quality online cooking course. My preference is something that covers the basics and builds on that foundation. Bonus if the course is free, but that's not a deal-breaker.
posted by jmmpangaea at 10:17 AM PST - 2 comments

What password manager for a family with privacy on the brain?

A question asked a thousand times before, but, of course, we're snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 AM PST - 7 comments

1 day of nutritionally complete foods - vegetarian

So covid sucks, my parent is dying and I don't have the bandwidth to feed myself. I'm looking for a list of foods to eat over the course of one day that will be pretty healthy. I'm ok with eating the same thing every day for now and with paying for the list. I'll figure out how to get them into my body on my own, because honestly I'm not up to cooking anything more complicated than eggs or roasted veggies. I'm not interested in a meal delivery service. Thanks
posted by ChodenKal at 7:21 AM PST - 24 comments

How do I keep multiple blankets fastened together?

Looking for tried-and-true ideas on how to fasten multiple blankets together on a bed so they don't slip apart. [more inside]
posted by aquamvidam at 3:00 AM PST - 21 comments

How do I support sport with these bones?

How does someone start a three or four day a week workout program who has never been regular in the fitness department? I'm 49 yrs old and I weigh 175. I carry most of the weight in my hips. My workout of choice is roller skating which [more inside]
posted by The_imp_inimpossible at 2:29 AM PST - 12 comments

September 19

Astronauts Who Have Publicly Criticized Missions to Moon and Mars

Could someone provide me with links from NPR interview or Slate Gabfest where someone associated with NASA or ISS talks about how mismanagement there has led them to believe that crewed missions are not a great allocation of resources? [more inside]
posted by ABlanca at 11:13 PM PST - 2 comments

Horror films where the haunting isn't really a haunting?

Asking for recommendations. By nature of this question, there will be spoilers. [more inside]
posted by lesser weasel at 10:14 PM PST - 35 comments

Setting up an intro for a series of educational videos.

I'm recording some educational videos for a local university level math class and I'm looking for help setting up a 5 - 10 second intro clip for my videos. [more inside]
posted by NoneOfTheAbove at 8:39 PM PST - 5 comments

My wife's macbook won't turn on after aborted update.

My wife was updating her Mac, not sure what, and it was stuck saying 'a few minutes' for over an hour, so she shut it down. Now it won't turn on at all. [more inside]
posted by signal at 8:26 PM PST - 4 comments

Westclox bullseye pocket watch won't run

My pocket watch is wound up tight and [more inside]
posted by notned at 7:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Seattle to Vancouver border by car + island ferry + pandemic

Has anyone crossed from Seattle to Vancouver and then on to Vancouver Island lately? Can we travel by ferry or do they make you quarantine in Vancouver? [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 7:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Is plain-text-only email realistic?

HTML email is increasingly loathsome due to phishing, spam, tracking, and bandwidth usage. Wouldn’t it be nice to run my own email server and flatly reject all that? Is that feasible? Can you still get (for example) usage alerts from the utility company, flight updates, grocery coupons, and receipts? Can you keep the good parts of email but get rid of the bad?
posted by Monochrome at 5:08 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I prevent my voter registration info from being published online?

At the expense of doing my civic duty, I am considering not registering to vote this fall after a recent move. My voter record information keeps being published online, and I don’t feel safe having my name and full address available on the internet. Do I have any options here? [more inside]
posted by sunrise kingdom at 4:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Silly preserved lemon problem

The world is falling apart and I am making preserved lemons because, well, making something makes me feel slightly better. I ran into a problem. [more inside]
posted by less of course at 2:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Am I being unreasonable to dump boyfriend because of his job situation?

Well, its not as simple as that. Its kind of connected to his personal qualities and also my own relationship goals I guess. I'm finding myself not as attracted to the guy I'm seeing because of a reasonably superficial fact of his life (not having a job) even though he's solid, caring and has lots of potential. Would be interested to hear how others would feel about this. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 2:40 PM PST - 32 comments

Social Gaming for Kids

My 11 year old would like to have more avenues for social contact, ideally via a video game. I am not video game fluent so am seeking suggestions for games that meet the following criteria: [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 2:31 PM PST - 6 comments

A book about inventions that could have been made sooner?

I think I read somewhere (probably on metafilter and probably in the last year or so) a comment about a book which describes various inventions that could have happened much earlier in history, but didn't for whatever reason. I think the example it mentioned, though I might be wrong about this, was that the Romans would have had the materials/expertise to come up with something like the printing press. I've searched but can't find a reference to this anywhere. Is this a real thing?
posted by AllShoesNoSocks at 2:18 PM PST - 10 comments

What should I watch on Kanopy?

Thanks to this Metatalk post I learned that I have access to Kanopy through my library. What should I watch that is not upsetting/disturbing? [more inside]
posted by medusa at 1:22 PM PST - 13 comments

Loose women's pants for cooler weather

Since work from home started, I have been living in loose cropped linen pants like these or these. Now that the weather is getting cooler, I'd like something similar in a warmer fabric (like sweatpant fabric). [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 1:11 PM PST - 13 comments

Help needed finding sobriety support group with live remote meetings

My spouse needs a new sobriety support group that has been holding live online meetings but doesn't know how to get connected to one or to one where he'll fit. If you have ideas, pointers to the magic directory to search, or specific recs on a potential fit, we'd be so grateful. Snowflake details inside. And please feel free to memail me if you have suggestions you don't want to share in the thread. [more inside]
posted by shelbaroo at 11:39 AM PST - 9 comments

cat I eat it?

New cat owner question. She's the kind of beautiful lithe cat who flies through the air with the greatest of ease. And then lands on things such as my food. [more inside]
posted by ojocaliente at 9:43 AM PST - 16 comments

How to find out more information about this antique Sears chair?

My Google-fu is failing me, I have a Sears chair that I'm guessing is from the late 60s to early 70s, it even has a tag with the original model number "726" and then an additional handwritten model number ( I guess?) of 16977. You can see a number of images of the chair and the tags at this photo gallery. Despite the labels, nothing similar seems to appear in my searches, any help?
posted by jeremias at 9:04 AM PST - 5 comments

NotASchoolPermissionSlipFilter: "hand signed" RBG picture

I have a picture of RBG that I want to frame. I'd like it to be personalized with my name and her name in something that looks like her handwriting, possibly with her "Fight for the things you care about" quote on it. I don't want to sell it, it is fine if the actual artist "signs" it as well to show that it is not authentically RBG's writing. But I can't find anyone who copies handwriting. Who could I pay to do this service and make it look at least 80% like RBG's handwriting? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 8:34 AM PST - 2 comments

Specialist in Adult ADHD: Telehealth & Harvard Pilgrim Edition

What it says on the tin. I am in the US. Looking for a diagnosis and treatment for adult ADHD from someone who takes Harvard Pilgrim insurance. [more inside]
posted by A Brief Smattering Of Socks at 8:01 AM PST - 5 comments

What happens to the medicaid expansion when the ACA goes down?

I have a near relative who is a single working age adult who is functionally disabled but does not qualify for disability and who has several expensive lifelong medical conditions. What is likely to happen to the medicaid expansion when the ACA is shut down?
posted by Frowner at 7:41 AM PST - 2 comments

Short Haircut around Boston during COVID

The last salon I went to for a haircut, which I was happy with early in the pandemic, was not inspiring my confidence in their COVID compliance procedures on my last cut. Can you recommend a well-compliant place to get a haircut in the Boston area? Complication: short hair / male style cut on a female-identifying person. [more inside]
posted by chiefthe at 7:17 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I check my Macbook for malware?

I think someone tried to change my Hotmail account password last night. Hotmail keeps sending me in circles when I look for activity. One thing they do say is to run a scan for malware. I have no idea how to do that, and searching is bringing up lots of advertising. I have a 2017 Macbook pro. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 6:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Wildlife Documentaries

I am looking for wildlife documentaries that would delight a 6 year old and a 9 year old. We have netflix and prime. No US- or UK-TV.
posted by Omnomnom at 5:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Settling in a new cat in a small flat

Asking for a friend who lives alone in a small one-room flat and plans to get a cat. How would you go about settling a new cat in, given that s/he can't give it a room of its own to get acclimatised, as is advised by most rescue shelters? We're in the UK. [more inside]
posted by sockandawe at 5:02 AM PST - 9 comments

How to deal with a critical/negative spouse?

My husband and I are relatively newly married, and are struggling in our dynamic. From the beginning of our acquaintance, I knew that he was an intense perfectionist with discriminating taste and with an Eeyore-like glum/negative streak.  This didn't bother me because he was never negative about me, and he seemed in general to be increasingly more cheerful and happy when we were together (when we were dating/engaged).  He had had a rough time of it before we got together, and so I assumed that the longer we were together, the more he would mellow out as he became more content. Unfortunately, the reverse has happened: since we've been married, his criticism is more often directed at me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:02 AM PST - 87 comments

Freelancer etiquette guidance needed, please.

I'm a freelancer, and I appear to have lost a longtime client. Is there a non-nutty way to ask my client why? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Obscure academic paper on social instability from successive shocks

I read an abstract / short news article about ten years ago on the concept of successive shocks to any social system (marriage, village, church/group, town, the nation-state) leading to collapse of that system. The main context was societal instability arising from several shocks. I've 'searched high and low for and come up with nothing useful. TW: This uncovers some nasty stuff so unless your area is war / conflict proceed with caution as my question goes down the conflict wormhole. I have three links below to military, terrorism and crisis events studies. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 1:15 AM PST - 0 comments

September 18

Memoirs or histories of countries becoming autocratic

I'm looking for books (especially memoirs or personal, intimate histories) about the experience of living through a democratic or republican country becoming an authoritarian or autocratic state. Totally fine if this is very old, I'm just as interested as someone in the Roman Republic as Czeslaw Milosz. Thanks!
posted by peppercorn at 9:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Grenoble-Bastille cable car Tour de France Picture

I saw in the news a couple of days ago variations of this picture, picture (first in the gallery) of riders hanging under the cable cars on their bikes. Why? What is going on here? They don't even seem strapped in. I can't seem to find anything about it, only that they are competing in the race.
posted by Lesium at 8:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me understand my breakup

I just had a really awful breakup and I need help understanding it. I was happy and then we were broken up within an hour. I want to know how I could have done better so that I don’t make the same mistakes again. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:01 PM PST - 22 comments

Martial Arts, but make it virtual

Partner had expressed interest in taking up a martial arts practice before COVID hit. Can you recommend any streaming English language (or subtitled) classes or teachers for a mostly sedentary beginner so that I can make this wish come true? I *think* they mentioned Aikido, but any school of practice, live vs. recorded sessions, etc., all suggestions are welcome. Thank you!
posted by PaulaSchultz at 6:01 PM PST - 8 comments

What is wrong with my iPhone?

I have an iPhone XS. The same issue has persisted for years, including now with iOS 14. The issue is: once a week (maybe - sometimes it will take several weeks to happen, once three times in a day) the following things will happen all at once on my iPhone:
  • WhatsApp will crash within seconds of opening, possibly related to scrolling
  • Twitter will not show videos or animated gifs - instead they’ll be greyed out (the videos often will play, but audio only)
  • GPS stops working (eg Google Maps and Waze will not know where I am)
[more inside]
posted by Hartster at 3:58 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me strategize US political donations

I found Maciej Cegłowski's guide to effective political giving to be persuasive, helpful, and inspiring. I'm planning on following the basic recommendation to donate to state level candidates in swing states as the best way to help GOTV to defeat Trump. The states that make sense to me to donate to are Pennsylvania, Arizona, and Michigan (because the first two seem most likely to be crucial to the election and the last is where I grew up). [more inside]
posted by overglow at 2:43 PM PST - 4 comments

Tax headache not worth the tax "relief"

I am looking for USA tax information re: Covid Pay and also payroll tax stuff. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 2:38 PM PST - 1 comment

What is this Norwegian children's song about waffle irons?

When I was a kid, I knew a Norwegian girl who shared a song her mother sang to her. The only bit I remember is a part about a heart being like a waffle iron. She explained that the Norwegian words for "heart" and "waffle iron" sound similar. Any ideas what this is?
posted by easy, lucky, free at 2:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Rapid test in Santa Fe?

We are flying to NM and staying in Santa Fe in early October and I’d like us to get tested for COVID on our third day there so that we can stay with my mother in law with at least a little confidence that we won’t get her sick. I’ve tried googling this, but it doesn’t seem like rapid tests are available to asymptomatic people at this time. Is this true? [more inside]
posted by cakelite at 1:56 PM PST - 1 comment

Shopping app for not shopping!

I just cleared out the kitchen and discovered multiple multiples of things. We have enough tumeric in this house to start a small cult. See also tissues, zip ties, etc. We don't need to buy any more for a long time. But we obviously have some sort of worry that we might be without so I would like a shopping app into which I can enter what we already have plenty of. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 12:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Are these effects something I could do in Final Cut Pro?

This video uses animated lines and arrows that extend, bend, arc and rotate, etc. It also includes a sighting target that follows the road, and some color masks (not sure if that's the right term). Are the effects in this video achievable with just Final Cut Pro, or do I need a special effects program like Motion or After Effects?
posted by tzikeh at 12:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Paid advisors for a recent widow in the US

A US close friend has recently been widowed. Her spouse took care of all financial matters, and she is looking for a paid financial advisor who doesn't have a financial stake to discuss her overall finances. Looking for someone similar to provide advice on what she should fix if she plans to stay in/sell her house. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 12:23 PM PST - 6 comments

The kind of moralizing I like!

What children’s books have progressive morals, without being too heavy-handed? I’m thinking of books like Ferdinand (just say no to toxic masculinity!), and not so much of “Oh the Places You’ll Go!” which is great but not especially subtle. What other books might be suitable? I’m looking for pre-/early reader level (toddler up to 4 or 5, I guess?) Thanks!
posted by stillmoving at 11:42 AM PST - 30 comments

Florida in the time of COVID?

I'm looking for reports from the Sunshine State on how your area is handling COVID and the general 2020 vibe. [more inside]
posted by RobotVoodooPower at 11:13 AM PST - 8 comments

how to get rid of dark spot

I did something silly with a zit and now I have a dark spot. Help. [more inside]
posted by nayantara at 10:58 AM PST - 14 comments

Chinese language article on the benefits of lentils

A friend of mine has a Chinese-speaking relative who doesn't know about lentils. My friend would like to point her to a reputable Chinese language article on the health benefit of lentils. Help!
posted by storybored at 10:28 AM PST - 3 comments

resetting my brain in Vermont

Thinking about taking a sublet in Burlington, Vermont for October. The best options seem to be on Craigslist, which of course sets off alarm bells. I'm currently in California and will have to secure the sublet before I arrive. Any ideas on how I can make sure these places aren't scams? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 9:47 AM PST - 7 comments

How Can I Make An Audio Recording Of My Musical?

In a few weeks (knock on many substances) I will finish a full-length musical theatre piece. I want to "get it out there" somehow. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 9:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Recommend an intro programming language for 11 year old to make games

What's the language that my son should be learning now that is robust, can be learned by an 11 year old, will grow with him, can be picked up relatively easily and, importantly, that he can make games with, specifically 3D ones? [more inside]
posted by MythMaker at 8:25 AM PST - 23 comments

"Glass apples" which you can see through

Someone in Scandinavia told me in their childhood, they search for "glass apples" in orchards. These were very occasionally underripe apples, translucent in such a way that if you held one up to the sun, you could still see (most of) the sun through it. Hence the name or phrase "glass apple". I can't find any online reference, but that's possibly as no matter how I search I get a million results consisting of glassware shaped like apples. Does such a thing, or concept, exist - and even better are there any online references to more information? Thanks.
posted by Wordshore at 8:07 AM PST - 9 comments

Treatment, care for bald heads?

Besides sunscreen, is there anything to protect, repair or care for a bald pate?
posted by ebesan at 8:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Feedback on artwork

I've been wanting to be an illustrator for most of my life. I'm at the point where I'd like to try to make that a reality. But I don't know if my art is good enough or I'm talented enough. How do I find out? Can I cold contact artists to get their feedback? Would that be creepy? [more inside]
posted by ThreeSocksToTheWind at 7:50 AM PST - 14 comments

Are we right to expect our old CPA to handle this problem?

YANMCPA of course, but how would you handle errors on forms you prepared for someone who is no longer a client? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 AM PST - 8 comments

September 17

Italian Citizenship Services

I believe I qualify for Italian citizenship through ancestry. Several relatives and I would like to pool our money to hire an agent to get the required documents, translate them, and deliver them to our respective consulates in the US. Does anyone have any recommendations for where to start? [more inside]
posted by ldjflut at 11:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Best speeches/ monologues/ rants of all time!

I just saw a Kahl Drogo/ Daenerys Meme and immediately had to think of that insane megalomaniac speech Khal Drogo gave where he promised Daenerys to take over the world for her. What are some of the greatest and grandest (fictional) rants/ speeches/ monologues in history? One I also love, although from the opposite end of the spectrum, would be th No Cape! monologue from the Incredibles.
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 11:25 PM PST - 44 comments

Is this a scam - unordered package

During the summer my husband received a package of underwear from Hollister, which he did not order and which we cannot work out where it came from, and more so, why. [more inside]
posted by bwonder2 at 11:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Work-from-home must haves?

What are your home office and general working-from-home essentials? Looking for recommendations to help me be as comfortable and productive as possible! [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover at 10:40 PM PST - 29 comments

Perks for academics?

Are there special discounts or offers that I should know about as a prof? [more inside]
posted by miles1972 at 9:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Online instructions for basics of Graphic Design

I'm looking for videos and tutorials on graphic design, excluding the use of computer programs. Just the principles and concepts. Something very current, last five years would be great. [more inside]
posted by Dynex at 8:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Famous nonets

Please help me find more examples of famous nonets, groupings of nine people, things, or concepts. [more inside]
posted by mhum at 7:52 PM PST - 39 comments

ISO: picture books where a character takes multiple transportatations

Please tell me about kids picture books where a character goes on some kind of trip and takes multiple forms of transportation as part of that trip (e.g. bus, train, boat, plane, etc.). Whacky transportation forms (rockets, blimps, jetpacks etc. ) also acceptable. They key is that the trip involve switching between transportation methods. Tell me the book and if you know/remember, the premise, the reason for the switching etc. (I can't just get books from the library because pandemic, so the more you can tell me the better).
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 7:04 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I decor?

I recently(ish) moved into a new apartment. It's kind of bare bones right now, and I have no eye for decor. Really, zero. And no idea where to start. Halp. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 6:32 PM PST - 13 comments

Fix my 'phones

The padded headband on my trusty over-ear headphones has (well, had) some sort of leatherette coating that has peeled away, leaving just the interior foam behind, which seems to be quite delicate. Does anyone have any ideas on how I can protect the foam and keep using these otherwise completely functional headphones? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 6:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Does this make sense -- Dental Insurance Claim

I'm confused about my most recent dental insurance claim, did my dentist's office mess up? Or does it actually make sense? (Canada, if it makes a difference) [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 5:35 PM PST - 4 comments

Affordable retail business wireless/IP camera options with remote/cloud?

I'm looking for the current options for fairly affordable IP cameras for a retail business that offer network access and cloud storage options as well as open source DVR or controller options. I'm also interested in use friendly subscription based cloud DVR and dynamic DNS services. I'm also definitely interested in open source, free or cheap DVR controllers that have decent motion detection and alert options to email or SMS.
posted by loquacious at 4:42 PM PST - 3 comments

Father died without a will. What now?

I have been estranged from my father for 18 years. I learned today that he has died. I also learned that he owned a home (not paid for), a vehicle, and has money in the bank. He was not married (my mother divorced him 25 years ago), and had no significant other. I am in NC, if that matters. I’ve been executor of an estate before, but there was a will. What do I do in this case? [more inside]
posted by little mouth at 3:29 PM PST - 11 comments

Reading and Writing Eagles!

I am a middle school librarian. I’m starting a digital literary magazine and need a name! We are named after a deceased female educator from the town, and we informally use her three initials followed by MS to identify the school. We are the LastName Eagles and our mascot is an eagle. Any cute, clever, or informative ideas?
posted by firei at 3:25 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I tell my references I turned down a job offer?

Last week, I turned down a job offer, and 2 of the 3 references I used (both were former colleagues) do not know this. One followed up with me; what should I say? [more inside]
posted by thoughtful_analyst at 2:56 PM PST - 10 comments

International purchase by Western Union

I want to buy something, cost ~US$300 including shipping, from an artisan in Peru who has only a Facebook page online. The Facebook page makes the artisan seem very legit to me, but he only accepts payment by Western Union. Is there anything I should do to, well, reduce the risk of being ripped off or give myself some recourse if I am?
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 2:43 PM PST - 4 comments

Ideas for self-care package for expectant mother

My expectant friend would like a pair of AirPod Pros. I’m getting a set for her, and would like to build a care package around those, preferably things she can also use once the baby arrives. So far, I’ve thought of a soft blanket, compression socks, perhaps something scented? This is a group gift, so the budget is pretty high on it. What things could we add to this gift? The general idea here is comfort and calm.
posted by Everydayville at 2:42 PM PST - 21 comments

Help my husband not hate me this winter.

Now that it’s dark again while I’m getting ready for work, I need to light my bedroom enough to get dressed. My husband sleeps later than I do, and I try not to wake him by turning on the bedside lamp. Help me figure out some infrastructure that works better than the flashlight on my phone. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 2:30 PM PST - 28 comments

Apartment Rejection for No Reason

Apartment complex shutting down communication for asking too many questions? [more inside]
posted by BeatriceB at 12:41 PM PST - 21 comments

Frozen Asian food shipped nationwide?

I'm planning to move to a new city in the next few years which, for all its other virtues, is 3 hours away from a decent Asian grocery store. Are there any online distributors that will ship frozen Asian convenience food like dumplings and dim sum via overnight courier? Or other creative solutions for getting my fix? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 12:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Not quite a retaining wall, not quite edging

We live in a split level home, with a yard that slopes up to a front door between the levels. The sidewalk from the driveway to the door is L-shaped and in steps. We had plants in a kind of slope around the edge of that... until my partner got restless and dug it all out into terraced levels... without actually having a plan for how to support the new dirt walls this leaves us with. Please help. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 11:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Herbal infusions – maximum strength

I want to use enough liquid to extract as much flavor as possible, while using as little liquid as possible. [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 11:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Do you disclose race/sex/disability/veteran status when job searching?

I am in the tech industry and looking for new opportunities. Most employers ask for race/sex/disability/veteran status information and provide an option of "I do not wish to disclose". How do you answer these demographic questions. Does it matter in any way in the process of to getting to an offer?
posted by Abacus Bean at 10:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Do I want to create a website? a blog? Which platform?

What platform do I want to be using that combines the aspects of both a blog and a website? [more inside]
posted by QuakerMel at 10:09 AM PST - 6 comments

PNW shoulder surgeon

My shoulder has failed conservative therapy and it's time to see a surgeon. Looking for recommendations in the PNW--Spokane, Seattle, Portland are all fair game. If it matters, I've got a SLAP tear, torn rotator cuff, and something going on with my bicep tendon.
posted by HotToddy at 8:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Android Weather App with *selective* notifications

I'm looking for an android weather app for my phone -- willing to pay -- that will allow me to pick and choose among NWS severe weather notifications. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 8:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Please help me design an online programming curriculum for myself

The problem is I know almost nothing, not even what I don't know. [more inside]
posted by SmockTheSock at 8:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Oven with gliding racks

I'd like to purchase an oven that has racks that glide in and out like so. Do you have such an oven? If so, do you recommend it (and what's the make/model)? Also, how best can I search for ovens with this feature? It appears that different manufacturers describe it differently. Thank you!
posted by DavidNYC at 7:54 AM PST - 9 comments

Covid safe socializing during winter for kids

I have a kid (middle-school age) desperate for in-person time with their peers. During the summer we were able to have safe meet-ups with other kids outdoors. But I live in the Northeast and winter means potentially endless months of harsh weather. The kids are all on-line and using screens during school hours, so I’m hoping to come up with non-virtual meet-ups. Any thoughts?
posted by Phyllis keeps a tight rein at 5:59 AM PST - 15 comments

How to be sad

How do I cope with sadness without trying to avoid it or push it away? [more inside]
posted by Jinxes at 3:44 AM PST - 26 comments

September 16

Hit me with your best simulacra

I love a specific kind of kitsch: fake versions of other stuff. Think Vegas casinos made to look like Roman ruins under a false sky, or themed hotel rooms where you sleep in a UFO. Help me fantasy-travel by telling me about the faux real in your neck of the woods. [more inside]
posted by babelfish at 10:23 PM PST - 50 comments

Quarantine in a very small studio for 2 weeks - advice?

I have been lucky so far throughout the pandemic - I have lived in a house with several people who are all careful, so I have had lots of social interaction even when our city was very locked down in the spring. However, I will have to do a full quarantine for 14 days soon, in a very small studio apartment in another city where I will be staying for a few months. I have read other threads about quarantine tips, but in my situation, I have to completely quarantine (as in not leave the apartment at all, have groceries delivered, etc.), as the local authorities in the country I will be in are very strict. I will certainly have work to do, but I also want to try and incorporate things to help maintain my sanity, since I will be going from a situation where I eat most meals with other people, interact during work breaks, and also workout outside every day, to being alone in a very small space. [more inside]
posted by unid41 at 10:04 PM PST - 18 comments

Halloween Costume Ideas for Queer White Lady

Queer white AFAB person with brown hair seeks Halloween costume inspiration for COVID-style Zoom party. [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me at 9:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Earliest example of YYXX??

Early video games would sometimes say they were set in "199X" or "20XX" to indicate a general setting without tying it to a specific year. Every now and then I run across other uses of this construction in very non-videogame contexts, and I swear I've seen this in 18th century lit but can't think of any examples off the top of my head. What's the likely earliest example of this variable/unknown date style?
posted by curious nu at 8:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Purchasing music online

I want to buy some music (especially the cast recording to Mean Girls) to play on my phone. I also expect to move countries soon. What do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 7:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Make that hypothetical critical voice stop- Work Filter

At work, I have this continuous feeling that after I do something that isn't super great, or average or whatever, my 'higher ups' are talking crap about my performance. I visualize this in my mind. It makes me nervous, impairs my work and makes me hesitate and slower at work. What's a good way to reduce these thoughts or let it less impact me? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 6:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Replacement for fivethirtyeight.com U.S. House/Senate forecast data?

For the 2018 U.S. midterm elections I used (I think) fivethirtyeight.com as a starting point for research on House/Senate elections to target donations. The site that I used had certain characteristics: it covered House/Senate/Governorships, it was easy to find close races and how close they were / how they leaned, and it was based on a broad bi-partisan aggregation of polling and statistical information rather than coming from a single organization. I thought that it was fivethirtyeight, but I don't see it there this time. Does anyone have a good site that fits these criteria?
posted by madmethods at 6:52 PM PST - 12 comments

Fermented bean curd expiration. Safe to eat?

I bought some fermented bean curd today, brought it home, was excited to try it, had a small piece (half a cube), and then noticed that the expiration date is in 2017 -- three years ago. [more inside]
posted by mr_bovis at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

trying to find movie's name

anyone know what movie this clip of a chorus line of blondes wearing silver outfits is from? https://youtu.be/BV1eKphHFjY?t=120
posted by ydaltak at 5:43 PM PST - 2 comments

Series like 87th Precinct possibly at the length of Tom Clancy

I remember in the late 1980s to early 1990s being in my local, small-ish public library and seeing a series of police procedural novels that fascinated me as a teenager. Seems like they were much longer than Ed McBain's 87th Precinct. [more inside]
posted by Meldanthral at 5:21 PM PST - 3 comments

What is the best bed in 2020?

I'm moving to my own little place and I have a rare opportunity to start 100% fresh with bedroom furniture and bedding. I want to get a really, really good bed that will help winter be as enjoyable as possible. And I need it to all be delivered to me. Do you have a bed situation that you LOVE? Will you describe it, and would you recommend one company over another? [more inside]
posted by witchen at 4:16 PM PST - 30 comments

Copywriting/Editing Jobs

I would love some advice about beginning a career in technical writing, copy writing, editing, or some combination thereof. I am a complete novice and am looking to enter the field. My background is in education and libraries. [more inside]
posted by bookworm4125 at 4:11 PM PST - 11 comments

Quotes/songs/books/movies about couples taking the long road?

It was a complicated journey but we’re finally together. I’m looking for sweet or poignant or inspirational media about people who took a complicated road but ended up happy and permanent. Thanks in advance!
posted by ftm at 3:00 PM PST - 11 comments

Who Is She??

Help us name our new puppy!! [more inside]
posted by JuliaIglesias at 2:04 PM PST - 45 comments

Which game console should we buy?

After not buying a new game console for years (*cough*PS2*cough*), yesterday my husband and I both spontaneously thought "maybe we should get a new game console". But, which one? Snowflake preferences inside.... [more inside]
posted by LadyOscar at 1:11 PM PST - 19 comments

Finding an independent mortgage broker?

I've been reading about mortgage brokers and I was under the impression that the broker, an independent firm, would get quotes from multiple banks to help me find the best options. However, as I actually look for brokers on the internet, they all seem to be associated with a particular lender (not necessarily the large banks, for example I see Guaranteed Rate frequently). Do independent brokers as I have been imagining them exist? How do I find them? [more inside]
posted by findabair at 12:39 PM PST - 8 comments

DIY package tracking

I want to get a text or email delivery notification for a shipping company that only lets me check a tracking number on a website. Is there some way I can automate this? [more inside]
posted by carolr at 12:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Interval appendectomy side effects?

There's nothing quite like having your appendix rupture in the midst of a pandemic! Mine ruptured mid-June, and the docs decided to put me on copious amounts of antibiotics, keep me in the hospital for 3 days to get the infection down, and then remove it at the very end of July. And here I am, mid September, still having various side effects. You're not my doctor, but have any of you had an interval appendectomy? If so, what was your recovery like? More under the fold.... [more inside]
posted by csox at 10:23 AM PST - 11 comments

Book recommendations featuring LGBTQIA characters

My 4th grader, who is trans/non-binary, has expressed a desire to read more books featuring LGBTQIA characters. They are a precocious and voracious reader, so all reading levels are on the table, but I think they would get the most out of books geared to YA audiences. I’d appreciate specific recommendations of titles to look for. Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by fancyoats at 10:22 AM PST - 27 comments

Games that require math skills but don't beat you over the head w/them

I'm looking for video games that require math skills, especially ones where a player could conceivably need to learn a bit of math in order to be more successful at the game, but that are not blatantly "educational" - one litmus test I'm thinking of is whether a kid would just start playing the game if you gave it to them, and they wouldn't roll their eyes and complain that it looks like something their teacher would give them. A few examples inside. [more inside]
posted by rjacobs at 10:15 AM PST - 12 comments

The Lady said, "I Want to be Alone".

I'm curious to know about the body of work (literature and science) concerning those people who try to leave society to live their lives alone but society won't let them. I remember a book from college about a colony of women who migrate to another planet but know eventually, men will come. Also, movies where people go into space to get away from humanity but it either follows them or destroys them because they try. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 9:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Wikipedia pages that are recognizable (but not trivially) from their ToC

I got this idea for a puzzle genre: Given the table of contents of a Wikipedia page, identify the subject. What are some Wikipedia pages for which this is an interesting challenge, neither too easy nor too hard? [more inside]
posted by aws17576 at 9:17 AM PST - 22 comments

"That email address is invalid"

Can an email signup form detect my real address? [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 8:49 AM PST - 17 comments

What Are the Kids Designing These Days?

What are your favorite magazines that have an interesting, well-designed, or "artsy" layout? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 7:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Is it ok (ethical?) to live in China long-term?

It's an authoritarian country engaging in cultural genocide. But on the other hand...I'm an American, so...heh. Trying to parse how much responsibility I have to take these things into account when figuring out what country to live in, because on the small-scale, my wife and I are quite happy here. [more inside]
posted by wooh at 7:08 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me find a durable ID badge holder

I need a durable, rigid badge holder for an ID that is 3 7/8" x 2 5/8" and which can withstand getting pulled on a bit. Can you recommend one? [more inside]
posted by msbrauer at 7:04 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommend new games for me! Difficulty level: no time

I'm looking for new games that I can play for short amounts of time, but almost all my recent games have been games that require a lot of time or focused attention. Recommend new games for me! [more inside]
posted by benbenson at 6:59 AM PST - 16 comments

Deutsche sprache mit kaput ohren lernen

Any tips for learning to speak and understand German when half deaf? [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 6:43 AM PST - 3 comments

Science of not getting COVID when exposed

My partner got COVID. I was definitely exposed. My antibody test is negative. Please help me understand why. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 6:39 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I office chair? How do I sit?

Looking for guidance on how to shop for an office chair. Ideal budget is 500USD, can go higher if necessary. Hard mode: I live in a small city in China (well, by Chinese standards). [more inside]
posted by wooh at 6:30 AM PST - 3 comments

Who can I pay to help a needy relative secure low-income housing in LA?

Hi there. I have a relative with no immediate family who is in dire financial straits, and has some cognitive disability/delays. She got an offer from low-income subsidized housing through the LA government after being on he waitlist for several months and needs some help moving through the extensive vetting process. I'm burned out and far away. She has a complicated past and doesn't doesn't understand her rights on several issues. Who can I pay to help her with this? A lawyer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:47 AM PST - 4 comments

How does babby prenup?

We're planning on getting married in the near future and think we'd like to set up a prenuptial agreement. How much prenup and lawyer do we actually need? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:47 AM PST - 16 comments

Reader, I Left Him — Now What?

Several years ago, I discovered my husband’s infidelity for the first time and received some excellent advice here, which I unfortunately completely disregarded. Many affairs later, I finally came to my senses and left. Now what? [more inside]
posted by sockaroniandcheese at 5:32 AM PST - 16 comments

Memoirs about ordinary people who endure tragedy and make peace with it

Hello! A friend of mine is looking for memoirs about people who endure some tragic incident -- i.e., terrible car accident, spinal cord injury, etc. (does not have to be physical, but life-changing), then thrives and/or finds a way to make peace with what happened/channel their life in a new way. Probably best if one-off tragedy, rather than years of abuse, for example. Any suggestions?
posted by caoimhe at 3:51 AM PST - 21 comments

What's the best tips for an adult learning to drive?

Please be gentle as this is for my daughter who has a deadline on getting her drivers license. She is in her late 20s and we are in Australia. She is using an instructor some of the time, and spending time with her older brother and feels somewhat anxious. What's your best tips (I.e., line up middle of car with outside white line - I don't know, I don't drive, or for non-biological vision, use the placement of electricity poles to turn your indicator on). Thanks xo
posted by b33j at 1:13 AM PST - 26 comments

September 15

Will learning hip hop dance help with K-pop dance?

13yo boy wants to take K-pop dance lessons, but there aren't any nearby. Is it worth it for him to take hip hop in the meantime? [more inside]
posted by alicat at 10:19 PM PST - 10 comments

How fast could my kid learn to speak French?

How long would it take my language-skilled 5.5 year old to learn French in a fully French environment? Is 2 months "enough" in terms of language acquisition? [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea at 8:40 PM PST - 19 comments

What's the best way to play Ocarina of Time in 2020?

What's the best way to play Ocarina of Time in 2020? I seem to gather that at least a couple versions exist (N64/3DS ?), and that it may be possible to play either using some PC emulation software or by buying some old hardware. What are the options/considerations?
posted by Perplexity at 8:27 PM PST - 9 comments

Another escaped song

I heard a song fragment on the radio today ... lyrics were something about going deep and drowning... [more inside]
posted by nantucket at 6:40 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me find the perfect placemats

Looking for durable placements (possible vinyl?) that we can wash like dishes. [more inside]
posted by Xalf at 6:39 PM PST - 11 comments

bike trespassing?

I was waiting for a signal to turn on what was technically the parking lot of private property. Is there any technical case for this to be called trespass? [more inside]
posted by diode at 6:37 PM PST - 9 comments

If not Washington, then where?

I recently posted an ask mefi question about moving to Washington State. After reading through all the responses, and breaking out in a nervous sweat, I'm back with a second question: Any recommendations for locations that are not Washington? [more inside]
posted by quiet_musings at 6:19 PM PST - 17 comments

Sudden Death of Parent...Nobody Know Who the Trustee Is

My Dad died unexpectedly leaving quite a bit of unfinished business. How do I find out if or where his trust or will is so I can pick up and care of his property for the family etc? [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 4:38 PM PST - 11 comments

Webcam, but simple

I'm looking for a plug-and-play USB webcam that does NOT have a mic built-in that I can buy online and ship to Anchorage. My mic setup is great, I don't want to mess with it with yet another competing audio source, I just need video. Under $50 would be ideal.
posted by blnkfrnk at 4:11 PM PST - 8 comments

Is this cat named Sebastian?

Can you help name a black cat who loves to warble like a bird, head-butt, and burrow? [more inside]
posted by tasseomance at 3:48 PM PST - 29 comments

Commercial property insurance for an individual in California

Asking on a friend's behalf: "I'm leasing a <100sq office as an individual, not a business. I need to obtain property insurance for it but have no idea where to start, I've only ever used residential insurance. The office is furnished; total value of my property in it is around $2k (most of that's a laptop)." [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 3:36 PM PST - 6 comments

Verbal Offer - Waiting on Contracts

I received a verbal offer from a firm, and was told the contracts would be emailed. Cue the crickets. Now what do I do? [more inside]
posted by TauLepton at 3:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Caffeine-free substitute for sweet tea?

I really love Pure Leaf Sweet Tea but I would like to find a caffeine-free substitute to drink sometimes. I know they make an herbal hibiscus tea that is caffeine free but I've never tried it and am assuming it has quite a different flavor. Is there a good caffeine-free drink that is close to the flavor of sweet tea?
posted by thelasttango at 3:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Will my stuff survive three months in an outdoor storage cube in BC?

I'm moving to Vancouver, BC, at the end of this month. I'll be moving most of my stuff in a UPack ReloCube, which will be placed in storage until I find long-term housing and get it delivered, which I'm guessing might take something like three months give or take. It turns out the cubes are stored outdoors, not in an indoor climate-controlled facility as I'd assumed. Vancouver is rainy. The cubes are supposedly weatherproof, but what with humidity and temperature changes, I'm worried about my stuff, especially my books. How best to pack to prevent damage? Or is this just a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 3:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Husband has credit card debt, won't talk about it. Help.

I (F, 40s) have been married to my husband for five years. We have a young child and a joint mortgage, but even now I still can’t get him to be open with me about his personal finances; in particular he has a lot of feelings of shame about having credit card debt. I see this as a problem that we need to work through together, but he won’t even tell me how much credit card debt he has, which is worrying me a lot. I need advice on how to have this conversation with him. [more inside]
posted by damsel with a dulcimer at 2:40 PM PST - 32 comments

Uncomfortable Attending and traveling for Wedding during Covid

Should I turn down a wedding invitation to my brother in laws wedding across the country because of Covid? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 1:47 PM PST - 31 comments

What songs should I learn on my baby accordion?

I’ve been messing around with a small piano key accordion- it has about an octave and a half of keys and 8 chords that kind of work. So far I’ve learned the first bit of ‘le vie en rose’ but what other songs are fun and recognizable for this instrument? I can read music as I played violin as a kid but chords are kind of mysterious to me. Any genre of music is fine, although I’m not a huge fan of Celtic/Irish traditional stuff.
posted by genmonster at 1:47 PM PST - 3 comments

Do you buy a house before or after starting a new job?

Buying a house across the country during a global pandemic while job hunting - what's the order of operations here? I have a solid job history and nearly perfect credit and would like to do this right. [more inside]
posted by getawaysticks at 1:42 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I save my marriage OR how do I leave my wife?

Lots of details below, it's long. I'll sum it up here. Been married 3 years to a woman who has struggled with depression her whole life. The depression has gotten about as bad is it can get and she refuses to get help. I've given her the ultimatum: Therapy or Divorce. So far she is opting for divorce. So my question is, what else can I try to save the marriage? And if there is nothing, how do I leave her without abandoning her outright or letting her manipulate my concern into a protracted event? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:19 PM PST - 40 comments

How to extract contextual information from speech?

After watching too much sports talk on cable television, I became convinced the national media is obsessed with only a few storylines. I work in computer vision and AI, so I'm familiar with extracting information out of photos. Is there a similar way of extracting context with natural language processing or something similar the way broadly I would with labeling an image and feeding it into a model? No sports knowledge required, but I'll explain what I mean inside. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 12:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Scarce goods in September (Covid)

In the hopes of getting my hands on stuff before it disappears - what is scarce right now where you are? [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 12:32 PM PST - 52 comments

digitizing a book

I want to digitize an old, rare book (into a text file/epub) without destroying it. I have an iPhone, an ipad, a computer with Windows 10 & Ubuntu, and a lot of time on my hands (so I don't mind physically taking a picture of the text on each page.) I do not want to spend money on this. What's the best combination of programs to use to do OCR on each page and then combine all the OCR'd text into one document that I can then proofread/correct?
posted by needs more cowbell at 12:04 PM PST - 15 comments

Fancy candle samples in Canada? Candle recs also welcome!

I would like to start lightly scenting my living spaces, but I'm fussy as heck and don't want to purchase a candle for $60 only to find out I hate it. Where can I buy small sets of sample candles? I bought one from LOHN and even though I wasn't nuts about any of the scents, the sample package was really convenient and nicely done. I saw Sephora has some Voluspa sets, but I am not a fan of that brand. I live in Canada and would prefer not to pay duty fees. [more inside]
posted by Stoof at 11:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Documentaries needed via YouTube

I've seen quite a few over the years, but are there any A-class documentaries on Ytb as there are movies? Like, you have to pay for a movie these days on YouTube, and I would gladly also pay for a good documentary film. But I can't say I see many available there. Another site would be fine, I just don't know where to go. I see lotsa less professional fare there, and have viewed many. I think I'm caught up on Netflix, Hulu, etc., too. Most PBS doesn't interest me. Maybe a specialty channel somewhere? But YouTube is convenient...
posted by noelpratt2nd at 10:53 AM PST - 22 comments

Buying MS Word for Mac?

Is it possible to purchase Word for use on a Mac without any kind of subscription? I can't believe I'm wasting a question on this but there you have it. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 10:24 AM PST - 9 comments

Posts are made by fools like me, but I need you to choose my tree

We are finally cutting down the overly large, light-blocking, diseased evergreen tree in our front yard! We'd like to replace it with a flowering tree, but aren't sure which one makes the most sense. More inside... [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 10:22 AM PST - 13 comments

Nerd/ nerd adjacent reference materials?

I finally got an e-reader and I'd like to keep some nerdy publications on there that I can drop in and out of for a few minutes at a time without having to follow a plot or characters. I'm looking for free pdf/ epub format files that scratch the same itch as The Dune Encyclopedia, old issues of White Dwarf Magazine, that kind of thing.
posted by Think_Long at 9:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Tell me about baking sandwich bread, also why did this happen?

You bake sandwich bread regularly and are happy with the results. In particular, you bake either a whole wheat or 50/50 white/whole wheat loaf. Tell me about your process and recipe. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 9:03 AM PST - 12 comments

How are vaccines for children tested and approved?

I think I understand the process for approving vaccines for adults - the 3 phases and the purpose of each, and the fact that adults can consent to being in a trial. But it seems testing vaccines to be given to children has both substantial ethical issues (how do we ethically pick someone to go first?) and recruitment issues (can you really find parents willing to have their kids participate?). So how do vaccine researchers navigate this? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 8:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Which iPad should I get?

I will use my AirPad mostly for drawing with Procreate, but I am at a loss with so many options. Help! [more inside]
posted by plant or animal at 8:32 AM PST - 12 comments

How to sell a video online 101

A friend has completed a video that they sell in physical format. They want to add a digital online option. They know zero about this. How can I guide them to the best information, service, help? They have no knowledge as a starting point. [more inside]
posted by MountainDaisy at 7:58 AM PST - 12 comments

Instagram without influencers

This may be impossible, but I live in hope. I like to use Instagram to look at neat places around the world. Unfortunately many/most of these photos are cluttered up with people (usually a woman with freshly blown-out hair artfully posed and facing away from the camera). Is there a way to frame a search or edit results so that I can only see photos without people in them?
posted by orrnyereg at 7:45 AM PST - 10 comments

Solo weekend in Lille - any Covid safe tips?

I'm going to be in Lille, northern France, and totally free of commitments from Friday lunchtime until Sunday lunchtime. How can I amuse myself while social distancing? Also, I'm quite anxious about going to restaurants or hanging out in a bar solo, can anyone set my mind at rest? [more inside]
posted by doornoise at 7:05 AM PST - 7 comments

Trees/plants to mitigate standing water in yard after heavy rain

My area had record-breaking rain last week, with the result that water pooled in various spots around our yard - notably the garage, which ended up with 4 inches or so of water in it. Can we do anything with plantings such as trees or shrubs to reduce this impact in the future? [more inside]
posted by sizeable beetle at 6:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Long weekend around Philadelphia?

I would like to go somewhere for a long weekend that fits these criteria: 1) No more than a 4 hour drive from Philadelphia 2) Cabin or house in the woods where I can't see another house 3) Allows a dog 4) Has a fireplace or wood stove 5) No TV/internet/cell service desirable, but not required 6) $150 per night or less Having trouble! Thanks in advance.
posted by Automocar at 6:38 AM PST - 4 comments

September 14

Names for mother's boyfriend/unmarried "father" in laws..

I'm writing a story featuring a character who is the boyfriend of the mother of my protagonist and am looking for as many terms for this role as I can find. [more inside]
posted by mani at 11:23 PM PST - 32 comments

Location tracking apps that inform when being tracked?

Are there any location tracking apps (similar to Life360, etc.) that are available on both iOS and Android, and explicitly inform the person being tracked whenever their location info is accessed (by a popup, or text message, or something similar)? This would mean that as long as the tracked person doesn't receive a notification that they are being tracked, they can be sure that no-one has accessed their phone's location data.
posted by bakerybob at 9:15 PM PST - 2 comments

Residency requirement for California attorneys

Does the California bar require that an attorney either reside in California or have an office in-state when providing legal advice to California residents? [more inside]
posted by kinoeye at 8:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Making music in a tiny space with another musician around

I can’t write with my boyfriend around. We live in a small condo. We’re around each other most of the time. How can I make space for my own music? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 7:31 PM PST - 10 comments

How to cleanly dispose of dirty litter

What is an efficient, mostly clean way to dispose of quite a few pounds of used cat litter? [more inside]
posted by Kitchen Witch at 7:16 PM PST - 14 comments

Bay Area Semi-Staycation

I desperately need a vacation, and I want to get out of town for a few days. Where can I go within ~3-4 hours distance of San Francisco for some smoke-; fire-; and covid- free R&R? [more inside]
posted by wym at 6:11 PM PST - 17 comments

Automatic Citation Generator or Other Guide for Chicago Manual of Style?

Is there an endnote and bibliographic citation generator online that you've found reliable? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 5:20 PM PST - 9 comments

calculating PayPal fees

How do I calculate PayPal fees? I got a ding for a recipient fee and a currency conversion fee. The client would cover the fees but I need to reliably show what they are for a given sum. Thank you!
posted by The Last Sockpuppet at 4:58 PM PST - 1 comment

"The Story of Zohreh and Manouchehr" in English

I'm trying to find an English (or French) translation of The Story of Zohreh and Manouchehr by Iraj Mirza. Does one exist? [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 3:51 PM PST - 1 comment

Does want: bo ssam. Does have: pit ham

My best friend has requested "something with pork" for an upcoming dinner. Normally I'd make Momofuku's bo ssam, but already have a fully cooked Tender Belly pit ham in the freezer that wants using. I can make the usual sides and sauces, but suggestions for bo ssaming up a ham OR any other killer meal with pit ham are much appreciated, thanks!!!
posted by cyndigo at 3:27 PM PST - 2 comments

Another "What Computer Should I Buy" Question

I need some advice on buying a computer. I am historically a Mac user, but for a variety or reasons I think I would like to get a Desktop PC. I am totally overwhelmed by the options. [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 2:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Best pumpkin spice flavorings

Yes, I love pumpkin spice. And working from home, I'm not going to Starbucks once a week for my pumpkin spice latte or chai. I'm not looking to recreate the Starbucks PSL specifically, but curious about various flavored coffees, teas, creamers, etc. that might be tasty. Difficulty level: no caffeine. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 2:02 PM PST - 15 comments

I want to be a therapist

I want to be a therapist/counsellor, and I've started reading, and planning. If you are a therapist/counsellor can you give me any advice or tips on starting out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 13 comments

Dog shampoo for dogs who love to roll in horrible things

My dogs like to roll in stinky, terrible, horrifying things ranging from elk poop to long dead sea lion. The shampoo we are using is completely inadequate against this kind of stink. Have you found something that works? Must be tea tree oil free as I am allergic. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 1:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Birthday movie for 11 year old-fantasy or medieval edition.

The boy from this question turns 11 on Friday and our plan is to rent a small local theater for him and his two best friends to watch a movie of their choice (it’s a thing in our town right now). We need to decide ASAP what that movie will be and are having a hard time thinking outside of the old standards. He loves medieval movies, sword fighting, some martial arts. He enjoyed A Knight’s Tale and Kung Fu Hustle recently-the LOTR trilogy is his all-time favorite. Doesn’t love Princess Bride which is eternally disappointing for me. We are ok with profanity and some violence (obv) but need to avoid any child death themes. Help!
posted by purenitrous at 12:34 PM PST - 32 comments

Whiter whites without bleach?

I switched to laundry detergent strips from Tru Earth (no plastic packaging yay!) but my white laundry is looking very dingy. I can live with it, but just wondered if there's a environmentally safe way to whiten things in the wash.
posted by Gusaroo at 11:55 AM PST - 12 comments

Firm but polite way to responnd to a price quibblers on ebay.

Here's something that's happened to me a couple of times. I'm selling an item for £60 and I receive a £45 offer. That's too low, but it's been up for a while with no interest, so I counter-offer £55 instead. I refuse their subsequent offers of £50 and £52. Then I get a message saying they'd like to pay the earlier £55 offer. This irritates me. What's a good way to politely but firmly say that that offer is no longer available? And am I a Scrooge for doing so? [more inside]
posted by Lorc at 11:01 AM PST - 29 comments

Athletic/performance clothing that looks like streetwear?

With autumn having arrived, my thoughts have turned towards beefing up my wardrobe, which hasn't been touched in a few years. More below the fold, but in essence, I am looking for performance clothing that doesn't look like it - I want performance clothing that looks like streetwear. [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 9:50 AM PST - 12 comments

Zoom, zoom - look at me

I take a weekly exercise class on Zoom. I would like to be able to see the instructor and myself and no one else at the largest size possible. I'd also like to record just me so I can look at myself afterwards. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by AMyNameIs at 8:39 AM PST - 10 comments

What are you doing to help defeat Trump? Actually looking for ideas

What it says on the tin. Open to any and all ideas as my circumstances are sort of fluid. One thing: I'm in NYC, which is close to Philly, and Philly actually matters.
posted by schadenfrau at 8:26 AM PST - 20 comments

How screwed are we, really?

Since the pandemic, I've taken up a habit of doom scrolling, and it's currently focused on the climate crisis. I'm constantly searching for new media and information about this, but I find it hard to get a good grasp of what is actually going to happen, likely to happen, and what are worst case predictions that may not happen. An example is David Attenborough's recent warning, which comes with a dash of optimism at the end: "Sir Attenborough claims that all of the solutions are “within our grasp” and there are a number of “steps we can take and goals we must achieve to avert the coming catastrophe.” [more inside]
posted by EarnestDeer at 8:22 AM PST - 17 comments

Rejecting a paycut

Can I "refuse" to take a paycut? Help me think through the implications. [more inside]
posted by Anonymouse1618 at 7:58 AM PST - 15 comments

When your manager outsources all the interesting projects

Worrying about my career development [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 6:55 AM PST - 10 comments

In search of movie/TV recommendations given nebulous parameters!

Hi Mefites! I am seeking your recommendations for TV/movies to watch while the pandemic rages on. I am open to anything, really, but my taste is pretty idiosyncratic and since I don't watch a lot of stuff I'm not good at defining it. See more details of what I've liked and disliked inside. [more inside]
posted by ferret branca at 6:46 AM PST - 24 comments

Help me find my first pair of well-made boots (ideally in Canada)

This women's boot is perfection, outside of being (presumably) not built to last. Can you help me find a good quality similar boot? [more inside]
posted by i_mean_come_on_now at 5:05 AM PST - 20 comments

Connect a 2.4ghz printer to a 5ghz Android hotspot?

I tether my spare phone's cellular 5G via 5ghz Wifi. I need 5ghz speed. 2.4ghz is too slow. Android can't run both 2.4ghz and 5ghz WiFi at the same time but my printer only supports 2.4ghz. How can I connect my printer to the network? [more inside]
posted by jago25_98 at 4:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Backwoods cartography

What GPS software and/or hardware can I use to map hiking trails? [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 4:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Book recommendations

I am looking for book recommendations for adolescent readers, fiction or non-fiction, about people who overcome criminal records or drug/alcohol issues and achieve happiness/peace/success. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:11 AM PST - 8 comments

search term for t shirt type & general transmasc clothing advice

I am trying to look for t shirts that have patterns all over, front and back- if I search for "front and back pattern shirt" I get sewing patterns, and if I search "print" instead of pattern it shows me custom t shirt printing places! what word am I looking for? [more inside]
posted by emirenic at 3:54 AM PST - 11 comments

Am I not allergic to cats anymore?

I always thought I was allergic to cats, which is why I've never adopted one, even though I love cats. Recently I spent the weekend with a cat and experienced no allergy symptoms whatsoever. Does this mean I'm not allergic anymore?? How can I be sure? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser at 3:52 AM PST - 20 comments

September 13

How do I get more comfortable speaking to a camera?

I'm planning to record some math tutorial videos for university level math. Whenever I try to record a video, I come across as awkward and unnatural and I don't sound as good as when I'm talking to someone face to face. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can sound more natural when speaking to a camera? [more inside]
posted by NoneOfTheAbove at 10:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Unfucking Ratfucked Florida Voting Disenfranchisement with $$

Anywhere up to 85,000 voters have just been re-disenfranchised by a court-decision in state of Florida. What can be done to help unfuck this? [more inside]
posted by lalochezia at 7:53 PM PST - 20 comments

Interfacing with my child’s school as a teacher parent

I’ve been a teacher for 13 years, but this will be my first September in the school system where I am also a parent of a student. I find I have very mixed feelings about how to navigate this and would love some tips from the been there and done that teacher parents. [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 7:37 PM PST - 2 comments

Conversational podcasts that aren’t interviews?

I’m looking for a conversational podcast which isn’t a new interview each time. I’d like to get to know the hosts and their backstories. This is largely because work from home has left me without any social interaction throughout the day and this helps fill the void. [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 at 7:20 PM PST - 32 comments

Recommend kayaks for 1 and 2 people.

Our venerable inflatable kayak has developed more holes than I care to patch, and I'm tired of inflating it anyway. What kind of hard shell kayaks should I be looking at for casual day paddling on flat water? Needs to fit both 1 *and* 2 people since sometimes I'll be solo and sometimes my kid will be with me, but he's young enough that I'm typically doing all the work anyway so either way it's basically a solo for now. [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 5:36 PM PST - 7 comments

What Grey Sweater Does Kristen Stewart Wear in Personal Shopper?

She wears a light grey sweater in the Fair Isle style that has a yellow and red zig zag design across the chest wrapping around towards the back. Link to article in this question has her picture in it right at the top. Anyone know this EXACT sweater or brand...? I know it's a long shot...
posted by leafmealone at 5:02 PM PST - 2 comments

Unique dinner options in Calgary, AB

Spending two nights in Calgary, Alberta. Looking for unique or special places to go for dinner. Very sad to see ANJU has closed its doors. In the past I have enjoyed Calcutta Cricket Club, Deane House, and Hayden Block Barbecue, but we are looking to try a couple of new places on a Friday and Saturday night. I'm pregnant, so bars are mostly out. Fine dining is fine but not necessary; looking for a date-type ambience or cool immersive experiences. My travel companion and I are both adventurous eaters and like all types of cuisines, but pregnancy seems to have turned me off red meat.
posted by unstrungharp at 3:41 PM PST - 4 comments

What song is this?

What song is playing in this lil fan video?
posted by fleacircus at 2:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Great Face Masks for Glasses

Yet another mask question. What are the the best face masks for people with glasses? Looking for effective and comfortable face masks that can be worn on walks and hikes, etc. (If it matters I am a guy who sweats easily). Looking for specific links or names of products. I just noticed that adhesive nose bridges are a thing from this previous question.
posted by Mr. Papagiorgio at 2:17 PM PST - 19 comments

Help me spice up my (distanced) sex life

I’d like more/better sex in my life. But I’m happy to handle it on my own or at a distance right now. Give me ideas for how to move beyond my standard pattern of solo sex. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:22 PM PST - 7 comments

COVID projections not taking schools etc. opening into consideration?

I'm looking at Covid infection rate projections for New York City, such as this one. As you can see, the line is quite flat until November 1st, which is as far as they are projecting into the future. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 1:02 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I find someone to help with packing?

I had to leave the Bay Area unexpectedly. I was already planning to move in the future, and now that I've been forced to travel, I want to stay in place rather than risk more COVID exposure. I have a tiny apartment in Oakland with minimal belongings, but need to figure out how to deal with them from a distance. Unfortunately, my closest friends in the area have also recently moved. I have family in the area that can't help for health reasons. I don't have a big budget, although as moving jobs go, this is very small. [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 11:52 AM PST - 7 comments

You little sjarmtroll!!!

Norwegian speakers, can you help me? I most definitely know my child was being a sjarmtroll in the playground today- but I can’t actually explain what a sjarmtroll is. Can you? [more inside]
posted by pairofshades at 11:48 AM PST - 6 comments

Oh OBD where aren’t thou?

Bought a thingy for testing my car. [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 11:03 AM PST - 6 comments

How dangerous is Washington State, actually?

Earthquakes and volcanoes and tsunamis, oh my! Also wildfires. My husband and I have absolutely fallen in love with the state of Washington. We are seriously considering moving to the greater Seattle region. However, the more research I do, the more I keep reading about the potential for earthquakes, tsunamis, volcanoes, and wildfires. I'm having difficulty finding resources regarding how serious a threat these things actually are. Please help me understand if these things are serious risks that should legitimately dissuade us from moving to the region! [more inside]
posted by quiet_musings at 10:56 AM PST - 23 comments

Looking for sites listing live online events for kids...

I'm having a hard time finding interesting online events for my kids (8 and 4). Are there any sites with a list of possibilities? Bonus points for factory tours! And things like rocket launches, etc... We can always watch them after the fact on YouTube but it's so much more interesting when we can talk about how they're doing whatever in space RIGHT NOW! [more inside]
posted by WowLookStars at 10:37 AM PST - 1 comment

I want to hold your hand

Dating(?)-filter: Been seeing a dude for a month (I'm a woman), I'm the one always initiating (PG-rated) physical contact, but he never pulls away. I ask him if this is a just-friends type situation, he says no, he's thinking of these as dates. He's never given any indication that he's super religious or ace/demi or not a fan of physical contact in any way. What gives? (Or, for the non-mind readers: how do I talk to him about this? Should I talk to him about it, or just give him some more space, both figuratively and literally?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:13 AM PST - 22 comments

Herbal inspiration

Friday, I decided to buy three big bunches of herbs: cilantro, mint and parsley. My idea was to make a tabouleh salad. Now I've washed them and I'm sitting here listening to The Splendid Table and picking off the leaves and it is a really huge mountain of herbs. So fragrant! So I'm thinking that maybe I should make more dishes from them. [more inside]
posted by mumimor at 9:59 AM PST - 16 comments

Name that book: teenagers in a paranormal amusement park

I'm struggling to remember the title of an English-language mystery/thriller novel I read as a kid. The plot centered on paranormal events; I think it was closer to alternative-realities, astral projection, prophesy, or dream-stuff rather than aliens or ghosts. There was a teenage or college age protagonist and a notable second character who was a peer and perhaps a love interest. An amusement park or carnival played a crucial role in the plot. I'm pretty sure one particular ride - not unlike a Ferris wheel or a carousel - was singled out. Any clues? [more inside]
posted by eotvos at 9:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Photoshop Action / Method for Reducing Colour Pallette?

One thing that distinguishes (many) illustrations from (most) photographs is that illustrations have a consistent/limited colour palette. So if an illustrated book has green in, it will be a particular green (with some minor variations in shade for shadows/highlights etc.). If you look at the illustrations within the same book, they kind of "match" not just in the illustration style, but in the palette. Is there a way I can achieve this in photoshop from a photo or illustration? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 9:43 AM PST - 8 comments

Patio heater (gas, wood, propane?)

What's your best recommendation for a patio/deck heater? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 9:38 AM PST - 3 comments

Favorite weird house aggregators?

Inspired by this recent FPP and because we are all stuck at home this year, I'm looking for recommendations of websites/blogs/instagram accounts/etc. that highlight weird, interesting, or just really neat properties anywhere in the world. Ideally, these would be houses/apartments/buildings that are for sale or rent, but that's not necessary. [more inside]
posted by Dip Flash at 8:55 AM PST - 13 comments

Daily idea

I'm trying to find a 'daily idea' community I used to subscribe to 10 plus years ago. Members would post diverse 'blue sky/out of the box' type ideas for discussion on a daily basis. I don't remember it as being part of a larger community, but rather, an independently run website or forum or list. I might be wrong about this. [more inside]
posted by BrStekker at 7:59 AM PST - 2 comments

Software Recommendation for getting my club in order.

Can you recommend a software (or system) for sorting out my small private club? [more inside]
posted by Tchad at 6:20 AM PST - 2 comments

writing groups

I desperately need one. We live in a pandemic. Help. [more inside]
posted by nayantara at 5:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Put 'em in a salad put 'em in a stew?

My farmer's market was a little over-generous with its tomato "canners' special" this year. What's something I can make for canning to take care of the last couple pounds? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 5:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Generic Methylphenidate for ADHD

I asked my doctor for Concerta because it's helped my ADHD in the past. I've run into some issues with it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:04 AM PST - 9 comments

Help coping with a strong sense of justice (Aspergers related)

I think that having Aspergers is making me feel like I correct perceived injustices I see in the world and I'm finding it mentally taking a toll on me. Can anyone suggest resources to help coping with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:02 AM PST - 7 comments

What’s the COVID risk?

Anonymous for detail. What is our risk of getting COVID on our roof deck in Boston? Details within... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Where can I find this lovely drinking glass?

I am in love with this glass (image from this cocktail recipe, if you're curious) and I want to buy one or more. Reverse image search only brings up the same website I saw it on. Anyone happen to know where I can buy it, or something very, very similar? Most of what I find searching shopping sites is too colorful, and the bold, stark design is what I love.
posted by rhiannonstone at 12:29 AM PST - 3 comments

September 12

How do I best help my elderly, depressed, and alcoholic mother?

My mom just got out of her third alcohol-related hospitalization in the last five years and is currently in respite care while we figure out the best path forward, but we don't know what that looks like yet. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Canada immigration: best pathway for USA to BC?

Help a US citizen with a Canadian/USA dual citizen spouse navigate the permanent residency process. We live and work in Oregon and are trying to determine whether the spousal PR path or a skilled worker program like Express Entry BC is our best bet. Details below: [more inside]
posted by a halcyon day at 5:44 PM PST - 7 comments

Instant pot egg bites

I want to make instant pot egg bites, and I have a couple questions. Recipe recommendations/suggestions also welcome! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 4:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Extended electronic, annotated correspondence

So I have a college friend and we have been writing email to each other for almost 30 years. Just to mix things up, I recently combined two emails he had sent me into a single document, and responded by inserting comments. He then replied to those comments. It was pretty cool, and we were left with an interesting record of our communication. Some problems arose, however: those side conversations taking place in the comments grew increasingly unwieldy. Is there a better technology for this kind of extended, collaborative conversation/shared writing? [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 3:36 PM PST - 7 comments

What came before, GERD or the alcoholism? Vertigo or the weed?

I live with one person (not a partner). They have declared they have GERD and vertigo with bad migraines, and they take prescribed medication for these issues. OTOH they also consume heavy quantities of alcohol (at least 2 beers every day at home, spends 5+ a night at a bar) "socially/to relax/for fun" and smoke weed (100% THC) every night "for their vertigo". IANAD, I know y'all ANDs either: I just need some help to form my own opinion about the situation: How likely it is that this is completely non-problematic behaviour? (behaviour details below) [more inside]
posted by ipsative at 3:22 PM PST - 16 comments

Yet another music storing question

So I've seen this question solutions for music storage and management in a post-Google Play Music world, but the answers don't solve my situation, so here we go again ... [more inside]
posted by chbrooks at 3:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for videos showing either empty or busy locations - US or abroad

I am looking for short video clips (10-15 seconds is enough) that show the difference between public activity during coronavirus in the US and the rest of the world. The focus is on areas in the US that are quiet/empty/closed, and other parts of the world that are open/bustling/crowded/open. [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 2:24 PM PST - 1 comment

Book for 4-year-old: on Gandhi and/or India's freedom movement

I'm looking for an *age-appropriate* book for my Indian-American 4-year-old child on the topic of Gandhi or the Indian independence movement. By age-appropriate, I mean it should have only 1-2 sentences on each page, that he can read himself. [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 1:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Finding a way home to deck the Christmas Cactus

I am planning to drive from Seattle to Tucson for Christmas, to see my family. Please help me plan a route optimized for natural beauty, safer winter driving, and good stopping points to camp each night. [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 12:23 PM PST - 5 comments

Getting Into Thrash Metal and Need Rec's Similar to Power Trip and Fury

I'm discovering that thrash metal is scratching my Trump Anxiety itch quite well and would like recommendations for bands similar to Power Trip and Fury. Meaning vocals that are understandable, extremely pissed off, and don't sound like a whiny suburban kid gargling with nails and ten bottles of Robitussin. [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 11:50 AM PST - 18 comments

Low-stakes documentaries on Hulu or Kanopy

I am looking for documentary recommendations with the lowest of stakes. I basically want the documentaries that Christopher Guest parodies, but in real life. Not a requirement but the streaming services I have available are Kanopy and Hulu. [more inside]
posted by muddgirl at 11:38 AM PST - 29 comments

NAS vs Laptop Server vs External Hard Drives

I'm trying to figure out how to best meet my data storage needs in a cost-effective way. I was previously using a desktop external HDD plugged into my router, and it's time for an upgrade. I'm trying to balance my perpetual lean toward frugality with practicality, and am looking for advice from more seasoned folks. A couple of snowflake-y details within. [more inside]
posted by taltalim at 11:26 AM PST - 9 comments

Plumbing: What kind of water shut off valve is this?

The toilets in our new apartment have this water shut off valve. I don't recognize it, and can't identify it online. (I'm installing a bidet.)
posted by shrimpetouffee at 10:35 AM PST - 13 comments

How Does One Know They're Finished When Using a Bidet?

I just installed a bidet for the first time. Without wanting to get crass...how does a person know they're "finished" when using a bidet? As in, how do you know when you're entirely clean?
posted by Ipsifendus at 10:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Dog Friendly Santa Fe/New Mexico

My elderly dog and I are going stir crazy. We live in Albuquerque N.M. USA. We'd like to take a drive this week, and do something outdoors and socially distant. Special needs after the jump. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 8:31 AM PST - 4 comments

♫ All I need is the air that I breath ... ♫

My family lives in Vancouver. The air quality here is poor at the moment, because of nearby fires. The standard advice appears to be "Stay indoors, to avoid the smoke." This puzzle me: surely the air indoors comes in from the outside through the windows, so if the air outside is hazardous, the air indoors will be hazardous too, right? So we're thinking of buying air filters. But how many do we need? [more inside]
posted by HoraceH at 8:24 AM PST - 12 comments

Need comfy pants

I'm 5'1" 150-something pounds, I have a tummy. I need black leggings or yoga pants. I want them to be durable, decent to wear outside the house and in public, and not to feel like a sausage casing. You are shaped like me and have a pair you bought online that you love. Hope me?
posted by shadygrove at 8:06 AM PST - 11 comments

An obligation to leave the house this winter

What is a low stress but high-motivation thing I can do to get me out of the house on weekends this winter? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 7:38 AM PST - 12 comments

ISO legit uplifting and inspiring tree hugger doccos

Having just watched The Need To Grow on an "uplifting" recommendation via my next door neighbour's Instagram feed, and finding my own uplift factor somewhat soured by the infomercial vibe infusing that experience, she's asked me if I know of any genuinely uplifting and inspiring tree-hugger documentaries. [more inside]
posted by flabdablet at 7:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Resources to learn more about my antique apartment heating system??

Just moved in to a new apartment with an old heating system. I'm curious! I want to learn all about it. I'm also a little anxious, and I'm worried that it's unsafe for my cat. Link to pic (of both heater and cat) below. [more inside]
posted by Guess What at 5:50 AM PST - 12 comments

September 11

Should I take an in-person art class?

Just before Covid "started" I relocated to a new city for work. I was hoping to take an art class or two to meet people and, obviously, I never took those art classes. However, the Arts Center is offering them again and I really want to take one? Should I do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Name of a futuristic nomad story?

Within the last year, I heard a story about a future world in which everyone is a nomad. Because of climate change, people cannot stay in the same place longer than three days, nor can they hang out with the same people more than three days; robots grow the crops, and all this is to prevent nationalism, and to help resources from becoming used up. This scenario keeps popping up in my head, but now I cannot find the original source. Anybody remember this? It might have been a podcast. [more inside]
posted by olopua at 10:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Favorite easy wheat free lunches?

I am very quick to lunge for a sandwich or bagel at lunch but it's seeming like wheat doesn't agree with me these days. I'm going to go off it for a while and see if it's the culprit, but I need some suggestions. [more inside]
posted by less of course at 7:22 PM PST - 32 comments

Apply for management job after 5 months in new role?

Should I stay in my current role or pursue management role after 5 months with the same company? [more inside]
posted by missybitsy at 4:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Which is worse, homeschooling or distanced learning?

Distanced learning is failing our kid who has ADHD; to stem the dent to his education, we are considering disenrolling him, and homeschooling him until this shit ends. Is this a bad idea or a terrible idea (we're well aware neither option is good). [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 3:19 PM PST - 36 comments

What's the latest on clogs?

My standard shoe for a long time was the Dankso Professional Clog. I switched over mostly to the Sanita version, which actually fit a bit better (I switched after folks were saying that Dansko's quality changed when no longer made by Sanita). I've also had open back and Mary Jane styles. It's time for a new pair, and I'm wondering what's the latest on quality and various clog brands. [more inside]
posted by bluedaisy at 1:56 PM PST - 9 comments

Home High Holy Days Traditions

Jews of Metafilter, what home traditions of the High Holy Days do you remember most fondly from your childhood? What traditions did you create for yourself and your family as an adult? [more inside]
posted by carrioncomfort at 1:02 PM PST - 13 comments

Best AI program/site to use for writing fiction?

I have been using AIDungeon to experiment with writing short fiction, and I love how it works-- when it works. It seems like the developer of the program is more interested in forcing it to work like a game, where you are more limited in actions and have to be in conflict with the AI instead of collaboration. Is there another site or way to use GPT-3 for fiction? ,
posted by The otter lady at 1:00 PM PST - 5 comments

Need a new charger my VW E-Golf, difficulty: multiple apocalypses

Okay, so there’s a lot going on. This morning I found out that the charger that came with my 2016 Volkswagen E-Golf was stolen. Trying to figure out how to replace while navigating not having Internet at home or at the friend’s house I’m staying at right now to get a break from the terrible smoke. (I’m in PDX.) Lots [more inside]
posted by overglow at 1:00 PM PST - 8 comments

It's 2007 and I want my pictures.

How can I retrieve pictures from my old myspace account or are they lost forever? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 12:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Dewey number for mid-century modern interior design?

I know there are many librarians on metafilter; they have kindly helped me before. What would be the dewey number for mid-century modern interior design? Thank!
posted by longhaultrucker at 12:18 PM PST - 4 comments

How to get rid of everything prior to a long-distance move

My partner and I are considering a move to another country in 1 - 1.5 years. I have several questions about the concrete logistical details of the "get rid of everything" step. [more inside]
posted by yukonho at 11:56 AM PST - 20 comments

What's the most effective way to make my tiny bathroom stop smelling?

In my 130-year-old house, there's a small bathroom under the stairs in the main entranceway. It's the only downstairs basement, so it gets a fair bit of use. I suspect that someone doing work on the house last year urinated around the toilet. Not sure if it was intentional, but over the past few months, that room has become unbearable. It smells like an outhouse. [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 11:51 AM PST - 13 comments

How to isolate from a housemate?

I've been interested in taking COVID precautions since March, very seldom leaving my house for necessities like Rx and working from home since about April. My S.O. has been working outside of the house in a public facing position with only recently mandated masking, and has recently left for a road trip with 6 other people that I could not talk him out of. What can I do to protect myself without irreparably hurting his feelings? I feel like I should isolate from him for at least 14 days upon his return. [more inside]
posted by Selena777 at 11:33 AM PST - 15 comments

Oil stain removal from a cotton T shirt

Is there a way to remove an oil stain from a cotton T shirt if I've already tried spraying it with stain remover and washing? Is there some kind of next-level stain remover or other trick?
posted by medusa at 10:00 AM PST - 26 comments

Update with the job offer, unsure/feeling pressured.

Two days ago, I got a job offer, which I had to mull over. I asked about it yesterday. Today, I ran into new information relating to the job position, and I'm feeling somewhat uncomfortable. I'm not sure if I'm reading the vibe wrong. [more inside]
posted by thoughtful_analyst at 9:58 AM PST - 27 comments

Seattle Photography walk?

If I was going to go on a walk in the next couple of weeks, in or around Seattle, where should I go to take photos? [more inside]
posted by baptismal at 9:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Reliable recipe for Irish soda bread.

I'm pregnant and craving soda bread. The internet has many, many recipes for soda bread, as you can surely imagine. I am looking for one that someone can vouch for being reliable and very good, or one that is a famous soda bread recipe used by many. If you are some kind of expert on soda bread and can tell me what to look for in a soda bread recipe, that would be particularly fantastic. I'm going to be eating it with butter, if that matters. Definitely not as an accompaniment to any kind of stew.
posted by unstrungharp at 9:36 AM PST - 14 comments

Add an up-down slider to an element in PowerPoint

I've been asked to make a mock-up of a new internal work website in PowerPoint, and one of the needed elements is a table that is too long to fit on one slide. Is there a way that I can add a slider to this element so that the reviewer can get a better idea of how this particular page will look? [more inside]
posted by The Librarian at 9:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me pair wine with food and general, and with this specific meal

Like the title says, this question is a two-parter. I'm hosting a dinner that is a bit challenging to pair with wine, so I could use some wine ideas. And then, for future situations like this, I'd love to know of good online (preferably free) resources for figuring out how to pair wines with specific meals or foods. [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 8:58 AM PST - 7 comments

Is Gary, Indiana a safe city to visit?

If we can go to the US next year, I'd like to check out Gary, Indiana. But the reputation of the city precedes it. Is it as bad as people say? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 8:36 AM PST - 28 comments

Show me visionary art!

Before the current unpleasantness, I was all set for a visit to the American Museum of Visionary Art. Well, that didn't work out. But I would still like to see more visionary art, and to learn about its makers. Please share your favorite pieces, exhibitions, etc. and a little bit about the artists. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 7:37 AM PST - 11 comments

Parents' hoarder home is becoming health issue, how do I respond?

My mother fell and injured herself for the second time this year because her home is too cluttered/messy to safely navigate. Her and my stepfather refuse offers to help them clean. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by allthethings at 6:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Someone is using my phone number to sign up for things

For the past few months, I've been getting text alerts from services that I didn't sign up for. I think someone has repeatedly been using my phone number when they make online accounts. [more inside]
posted by zeptoweasel at 5:49 AM PST - 9 comments

Wisconsin Plant ID—two mystery plants

Hi folks. I have two plant ID requests. The first one grows all over the edges of my driveway and the rest of the yard here and there. It looks a lot like chives and has white flowers. When I hit them with the lawnmower they smell a bit like onions/chives as well. The second one is very tall and I thought it might be some sort of aster, but I don't think so. Flowers must have been really tiny, because I never really saw them, but now it's gone to seed. [more inside]
posted by Slinga at 5:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me decide how to decide whether to take a job

There is a pretty good chance that I'm going to be offered a job soon that would require relocation. Are there decision-making frameworks or processes that can help me think this through? [more inside]
posted by griseus at 5:42 AM PST - 4 comments

September 10

Mechanical keyboard with Android

In a pique of orneriness I've decided to try to use an e-ink tablet with Android (Onyx boox Nova 2) for as much reading and work-related stuff as possible. [more inside]
posted by St. Oops at 11:45 PM PST - 10 comments

I need TV assistance!

We're in the market for a new TV, and I need help knowing what to think about. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 8:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Which pdf annotator has the nicest pen strokes?

I currently use microsoft edge to annotate pdfs and I'm planning for the day the amazing pen tool goes away when it updates to chromium-based edge. The current pen smooths writing to be more legible. Where do I run to now? [more inside]
posted by Acari at 6:38 PM PST - 3 comments

Please help me find this obscure show

My partner wildly adores New Scandinavian Cooking with Andreas Viestad. We can find an odd season or two on various services, but nowhere that's reliable and saveable and available on demand. I'd love to buy him a DVD set of all the seasons for his birthday (fine if we need a multi-region DVD player), but all we can find is this extremely odd Amazon listing. Please help?
posted by you're a kitty! at 6:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Refunding a Refund: eBay edition

I purchased a lego set on eBay in April. It did not arrive 30 days later and the seller was being super sketchy about the tracking number. I asked for and received a full refund. A month later a mysterious package from Singapore arrives and lo and behold, there is my item. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 5:47 PM PST - 8 comments

Teaching with Movies

Looking for movies that double as a teaching tool. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 4:54 PM PST - 22 comments

Safest flu shot in San Diego?

I've been extremely careful with the pandemic and have not interacted in person with any human or been in any building outside my own home since March. My doctor recommends I get a flu shot, though. Is anyone in San Diego doing an outdoor/drive-through flu shot clinic with masks, etc.? If not, where is a good place to get the vaccine that is following excellent safety and distancing procedures? [more inside]
posted by pupstocks at 4:18 PM PST - 13 comments

What’s the deal with pro athlete pre-game luggage?

When a professional athlete arrives at their stadium, arena, or other game location, they are sometimes pulling luggage or carrying a backpack. All of their game equipment is provided by the team, so what are they bringing with them? Why are they carrying it in themselves instead of having it be handled by an equipment manager? Is this something generally done by just the away team, or is it common for the home team as well?
posted by zebra at 4:13 PM PST - 10 comments

Long-term Twitter Deactivation

If I want to deactivate Twitter for more than 30 days, would it work to (1) deactivate my account, (2) reactivate at day 20-something, and (3) immediately deactivate for another 30 days? And just keep doing this over and over again? [more inside]
posted by 10ch at 4:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Back to Basics 101

What are some good classes to take that can improve my basic skills/technique in everyday things? What do I not know I'm doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by exceptinsects at 2:03 PM PST - 13 comments

I'm Getting Married & I Need A Suit For A Day

I'm a male that is getting married and am looking for options for attire. Details inside.... [more inside]
posted by Alvin80 at 12:26 PM PST - 21 comments

Gum grafts - do they work?

My dentist just recommended I should get them. For those who've had them, what's been your experience? Would you say they were effective? How long did the grafts last for? Would you do it again if given the opportunity? Thanks for any information. I've had problems finding random controlled trials on this procedure!
posted by storybored at 12:13 PM PST - 17 comments

fancy emails without an ESP

I need a tool where a designer builds a branded HTML email and then a regular, non-tech-savvy person sends that email from an individual Outlook accounts, that does not require an ESP like Mailchimp / Constant Contact / etc. [more inside]
posted by fifthpocket at 10:49 AM PST - 5 comments

A good keyboard/monitor switch for both a MacBook and an older PC?

I'm going to be using a MacBook for work, and I'm new to the Mac world. I need to find a way to use my regular keyboard, mouse, and monitor with my new MacBook, as well as with my older generic desktop PC. [more inside]
posted by umber vowel at 10:45 AM PST - 4 comments

RSS to Pinboard

Most of my IFTTT applets are sending RSS feeds to Pinboard - making a private bookmark for each rss entry. How would you do this without using IFTTT? [more inside]
posted by soelo at 10:35 AM PST - 2 comments

holiday gifts teen version

Looking for ideas and online shops for boy(13) and Girl (16) more specifics inside [more inside]
posted by ljesse at 9:55 AM PST - 5 comments

How Can I Learn Ancient Greek While Learning Modern Greek?

I want to read Ancient Greek. Not sure exactly which - I don’t need to read Homer, but Plato would be nice. I’m using Rosetta Stone modern Greek to get started. I realize this isn’t necessarily considered a good idea, but I learn SO MUCH more easily from this kind of resource than from a book and I gather that there’s enough similarity that I’m pretty sure it’s a good idea for me. [more inside]
posted by lgyre at 9:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Who's getting COVID now and from where?

It's easy enough to follow overall infection rates in countries e.g. here. But where are these coming from? At one point a big chunk of Quebec's cases were from nursing homes. Is it mostly superspreader events now (e.g. Sturgis)? Are people catching it from trips on airplanes or not? Is it safe to join the people on outdoor restaurant terrasses? Are public bathrooms still lethal? We're no longer washing our vegetables. It would be good to know what we can more or less safely do now, and what remains dangerous.
posted by musofire at 8:48 AM PST - 12 comments

Love songs with people's parents in them?

After listening to Band of Gold and Chain of Fools these last few days, was wondering what other examples there are of love songs that talk about people's parents. I am particularly fascinated with songs where people move out of their parents' place or talk about possibly moving back.
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 8:33 AM PST - 40 comments

Anne with an E, or even Valancy.

I am trying to find a...place where people discuss LM Montgomery's works - obviously the Anne Shirley books, but The Blue Castle/Pat of Silver Bush are also welcome. Surely there exists a virtual book clubby place where I can chat with folks about raspberry cordial, or wonder whatever happened to Roy Gardner, or speculate about Priscilla's life in Japan. No? A place to chat with people would be the best (especially now with real life interactions being at a sad, sad minimum), but failing that I would settle for good fanfiction to immerse myself into. Please help! Thank you.
posted by Nieshka at 7:56 AM PST - 11 comments

Switching industries, got a job offer. Negotiation tactics?

I got a job offer in a new industry, highly specialized. I'm trying to figure out how to negotiate for a better pay rate. Any thoughts would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by thoughtful_analyst at 7:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Creating a family cookbook, seeking advice and recommendations

My sisters and I are putting together a family cookbook and are looking for a website print service where we can upload the recipes and photos to a template. There are a few options, and I'm interested in feedback from anyone who has used the different sites. General family cookbook creation advice welcome too. Also, we are in Canada, should I be taking into consideration potential postal service shipping delays from the US?
posted by haunted_pomegranate at 6:58 AM PST - 4 comments

How to be clear with boss

I need a script to tell my boss I cannot work on certain days. Please help. [more inside]
posted by Crystal Fox at 6:48 AM PST - 16 comments

Resources for people on autism/asperger’s spectrum?

An acquaintance is interested in increasing her productivity, but she is feeling overwhelmed, because on the Autism/Asperger’s spectrum. Are there any community resources online where she can find camaraderie, self-care tips, and guidance? [more inside]
posted by hot_tea at 6:43 AM PST - 3 comments

Gift still to come

Giving a gift for a wedding that is currently out of stock. It will be shipped about a month after the wedding. How can I explain this in a cute way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:37 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I contact bereaved family with photos of their son?

Back in the earlier days of the internet I was close to someone who later committed suicide. I have hundreds of photos of this person their family have never seen, as well as memories. Should I get in touch with them? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:36 AM PST - 33 comments

depersonalizing constructive job application criticism

I am in the process of applying for non-academic jobs (don't tell my supervisor) because lol the academic job market doesn't really exist anymore. My boyfriend is helping me with applications. Every time he critiques or even gently edits my cover letter or resume, it makes me cry. This is enormously frustrating for me. How do I make it stop?? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:36 AM PST - 12 comments

Victor Papanek & Universal Design

Years ago as a Fine Arts student I read Victor Papanek's Design for the Real World. I believe I read an idea which made a lifelong impression on me. Could anyone confirm if the following is from that book or perhaps from another of his? I'm sitting here with my copy sans index and not finding it. The idea: The height of a shelf can't be designed for a standard such as a average male. If you consider women, those with disability, children, aged people with shortening spines, the temporarily injured, and shorter males, they are in the clear majority.
posted by BrStekker at 1:56 AM PST - 3 comments

September 9

Freeze installing Windows 10 on old, old Gateway

I'm trying to install Windows 10 on an old Gateway SX2800 I forgot I had, in an effort to get a basic secondary PC up and running. I can get Ubuntu installed, but every attempt to get Windows 10 to install fails to start the installation process. Details after the fold, if you think you can help. [more inside]
posted by Pacrand at 11:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Organic lube recommendations?

Looking for organic lube recs for PIV sex. We don't use condoms so oils are fine but partner has a history of yeast infections and is a bit skittish. [more inside]
posted by StockingMarionette at 9:19 PM PST - 11 comments

Do humans eat rabbit poo or anything that looks like rabbit poo?

Is there a food ingredient (not a processed food) that looks like rabbit poop? Or is there any context in which humans might eat rabbit poop? Or is there a reason why a person might cook rabbit poop on the stove? Particularly interested in answers where the eaters/cooks in question are Portuguese and possibly from the Azores specifically. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 9:06 PM PST - 24 comments

excersizing in a pandemic

Since COVID-19 lockdown started I have not been getting enough excersize. Please help me remedy this. [more inside]
posted by nayantara at 8:34 PM PST - 8 comments

Am I wrong for going on dates after he dumped me?

Dating casually after being dumped - ex is not happy. [more inside]
posted by antihistameme at 7:35 PM PST - 70 comments

Why are mortgages so complicated part 2

My family owns 50% of a property. We are buying out the other owner. Should we get a mortgage or a home equity loan to get the money? And what happens afterwards when we form a trust? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 6:33 PM PST - 9 comments

What are the best items to use to stop a nosebleed?

I know someone who gets chronic nosebleeds. She usually just stuffs tissue up her nose to stop them. But today I discovered a number of products that are supposed to be more effective. They are listed on Page 6 of this PDF. Do you have experience with these, or anything else more effective than tissues, to stop nosebleeds as they are happening? What do you recommend? This is for an adult in the USA, in case that matters.
posted by NotLost at 6:10 PM PST - 17 comments

What lounge chair is this?

I stayed in an AirBnB long ago and sat in an amazing chair. Luckily, I took pictures of this chair because it was so amazing (you do that, don't you?) But I didn't actually find out what its name was or where to buy it. Can you help me ID it? [more inside]
posted by lalunamel at 5:53 PM PST - 8 comments

What does tax-back rate mean exactly?

I was reading an academic article on the pros and cons of universal basic income, and the term tax-back rate came up, but I cannot seem to find a literal definition of the term. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 5:06 PM PST - 4 comments

Typical day for a junior software dev

I’ve been an entry level dev for a couple years, finally recently promoted (but still junior). What “should” my day look like? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 4:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Packaged Breakfast/Lunch/Snack Food for Kids

We don't eat a lot of packaged/prepared foods but I'm about to have to juggle ALL the things and it's time for my 9 year old to start making her own meals sometimes. We have a few things she can make and she's used the microwave a bit and the toaster oven but I'd love to know what you keep on hand to get the kids to "help themselves." We are going to have a small pod of kids here somewhat regularly and I want to be able to let them do it themselves as much as possible. [more inside]
posted by amanda at 4:26 PM PST - 24 comments

What's the best platform for selling online courses in 2020?

I've done some successful print books / ebooks about technical topics, and I'd like to try expanding them into online courses. What's the right platform? [more inside]
posted by RobotVoodooPower at 3:19 PM PST - 1 comment

Exterior Paint vs Temp Inside

Will painting the exterior of our house with a darker color have a huge affect on the temperature inside the house? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 2:44 PM PST - 8 comments

Simple Exercise (or Stretching) Cartoons

If you like Lazy Monster, you might also like ______ . [more inside]
posted by aniola at 2:09 PM PST - 3 comments

Overnight oatmeal, but during the day?

I love the way oatmeal turns out when I cook it overnight in my slow cooker, but I want to eat oatmeal for lunch. How can I make this work? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 1:29 PM PST - 7 comments

ios Medication Tracking - Not Reminders -

Looking for an iOS app that will allow me to track/record use of medications, as opposed to an app to remind me to take medications on a schedule. [more inside]
posted by tiamat at 1:26 PM PST - 8 comments

The Psychology of Apocalyptic Cults?

I want to learn more about what it's like to be in an apocalyptic cult, either through narrative accounts (autobiographies, memoirs, etc), or academic texts (psychological research, case studies, etc). What can you recommend?
posted by meese at 12:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Black art celebrating family love

Can you suggest any artworks (painting or sculpture), created by a Black artist, and celebrating the love between family or community members? [more inside]
posted by nouvelle-personne at 12:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Vow Renewal? More like vow re-NO-wal

Partner and I reside in Pennsylvania and want a divorce. That's it. Nothing weird. This should be easy, right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:52 AM PST - 2 comments

Canada: how to speed up a specialist referral?

I'm a new Canadian permanent resident, so I'm still figuring things out. I have persistent knee and leg pain, and last month I went to a walk-in clinic and was referred to a rheumatologist. I know that even in the best of times, specialist referrals can take months, but is there anything else I can do to see one sooner? [more inside]
posted by facehugger at 11:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Any history on this vintage clothing brand?

A package just arrived from my parents containing a vintage men's robe. I can't find any info about the manufacturer and I'm curious about it now. [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 11:01 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me photograph California’s orange sky

The sky here looks orange because of the wildfires, but my iPhone camera somehow is having trouble capturing the full feeling of the color. The orange in the pictures looks subtle and doesn’t pop the way it does IRL. Are there different settings I should be using to capture the look?
posted by johngoren at 8:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me keep my hands warm while typing

I'm not normally all that cold except at work/now home and only in my hands really. They get bone cold when I'm typing. Any products/tips welcome. [more inside]
posted by OnTheLastCastle at 8:48 AM PST - 37 comments

Text me, privately.

At my job, people will often say "can you text me that info". We would like to find a way to send requested, one time only texts to people without sending them from our personal phones. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 8:31 AM PST - 11 comments

COVID trend?

I've noticed that I tend to see men more often wearing gaiters or bandanas instead of masks while out and about. These men are overwhelmingly white and usually middle+ aged. Has anybody else noticed this? Why do they prefer other accessories over actual masks? [more inside]
posted by snerson at 8:00 AM PST - 38 comments

Broadband Pricing & Gouging

Insane speed to price ratio for rural broadband. Details below. [more inside]
posted by nothing.especially.clever at 7:32 AM PST - 10 comments

Covid-19 Federal Assistance

This morning, CBS Moneywatch said 9-million people have not gotten the government assistance money set aside for them as a result of covid-19. They weren't talking about business help. CBS Moneywatch said potential recipients have an October 15th 2020 deadline but it also said those people had not filed a 2019 tax return. I have been unemployed and not filed a return for two years but did this year Am I eligible to receive that assistance, and if so, how?
posted by CollectiveMind at 6:35 AM PST - 7 comments

Escaping Academia; or, Job Question #567,890

Without consciously meaning to, I’ve spent the past ten-plus years in academia. I’m eager to get out, but to what? Help me brainstorm some job options. [more inside]
posted by Definitely Not A Robot at 6:19 AM PST - 9 comments

I want to read more-- ebooks edition

I don't like reading ebooks, but I'd like to. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 6:07 AM PST - 33 comments

German expression in English

I need to translate a German idiomatic expression into English. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 6:00 AM PST - 12 comments

App to use with heart rate monitor chest strap?

I bought a heart rate monitor chest strap to monitor my heart rate during the day in general as well as during exercise. I can find iOS apps that are useful for measuring it during exercise, but not constant monitoring (or at least when I'm not working out). I want to keep a track of heart palpitations. Can you help?
posted by nagoya at 5:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Fill my playlist

Heartbroken over professional failure/railroading. Need sad and angry survivor music. [more inside]
posted by J.R. Hartley at 12:23 AM PST - 31 comments

September 8

Transition from Flash-based online training to.....?

Help, I’m in charge of a procurement contract and I don’t know what to procure. My agency uses two legacy Flash-based online courses. The end of Flash is nigh. Can and should the courses be salvaged? Searching for some insight from folks with Flash conversion or LMS experience before I start drafting a request for proposals. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Job and Life Woes

This is kind of long, but essentially I would like advice about my career path (from teaching to library stuff) and life habits in general. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:46 PM PST - 9 comments

Why is my mom so different from other people's moms?

I know you are not my (or my mom's) mental health professionals but there is zero chance of my mother ever visiting a mental health professional and I'm just hoping someone with similar experiences might be able to give some insight into the decades long mystery of why my mom is so different from everyone else I've ever met. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:45 PM PST - 13 comments

Writing kāf in Farsi in final position

Which form should I train myself to use when writing kāf in final position in Farsi? [more inside]
posted by bertran at 9:37 PM PST - 5 comments

Best used car in my price range

Which of these cars should I actually consider getting? [more inside]
posted by tacodave at 8:49 PM PST - 23 comments

So how do you teach a film class, anyway?

I'm teaching a college class on classical antiquity in film. I've never taught a film class before, or even taken one. It's going okay so far, but I'm not really sure what I'm supposed to be doing and could use some advice on how to make the most effective use of class time. [more inside]
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 7:01 PM PST - 6 comments

More "Is this normal?" In apartment hunting

This one is specifically about a lease, and googling hasn't pulled up this specific situation. Any insight is appreciated! [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 6:26 PM PST - 59 comments

Mechanical sequences in stop-motion or 3D animation via indie animators?

I'm looking for clips of animated mechanical processes (think factories or inner workings of a machine or whatnot) which are created using either stop-motion or modeling or 3D-animation. Preferably from indie or student projects - the kinds you see at film or animation festivals. [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 5:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Songs with Chickens

Other than "the chicken dance song", what songs have bucks, mucks, and cockadoos? Best when on spotify. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 5:06 PM PST - 41 comments

External Monitor for MacBook Pro?

I have a 2017 Macbook Pro running High Sierra (10.13.6) with 2 Thunderbolt (USB C 3.0) ports. Can anyone suggest a decent monitor (4K, UHD, 27"+) that will actually connect this to model/OS? I test drove a used one today (HP Z27) and could not get it to work. Research seems to indicate a potential issue with High Sierra. My budget is $400-$600. Thank you!
posted by avrobie at 4:50 PM PST - 11 comments

Move to a larger/nicer but higher rent apartment due to work from home?

My partner and I are working from home for the foreseeable future. We currently live in an apartment we’ve never loved, but it is serviceable and the rent is low for our area. Now that we’re home almost all the time, should we move to an apartment that is larger and nicer, but with higher (yet still in our budget) rent? [more inside]
posted by oiseau at 4:28 PM PST - 31 comments

Masks for the gym

Gyms near me have finally reopened and I'm looking for a mask to wear that offers both protection and comfort while working up a sweat. [more inside]
posted by fox problems at 2:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Weird Western recommendations

Please recommend me some stories in the Weird West genre. Mild specifications below the cut [more inside]
posted by darchildre at 2:49 PM PST - 30 comments

What do I do with all this mock duck?

Thanks to my friend's very enthusiastic mom, I have come into the possession of many frozen packages of mock duck (soy based, fwiw) and also several frozen packages of mock char siu. Help! [more inside]
posted by sparkling at 2:38 PM PST - 9 comments

Just Windows 10 Thinkpad Right-Click Things

My daughter’s laptop runs Windows 10. She was accidentally triggering the contextual menu via the touchpad so I turned it off, and now I can’t turn it back on. Google is flooding me with dumb unhelpful answers. Search in settings is not helping. How do I turn right-click on again on the Thinkpad T440S?
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 2:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Where in NYC can I buy a spiral collar lock for CAP dumbbells?

I have this set of dumbbells. Where can I go in NYC to buy one of the spiral collar locks that it uses?
posted by andoatnp at 1:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Recent pop music that's not in English

I enjoy listening to music in a variety of languages. I'm trying to discover more recent pop music and end up hitting a wall when it comes to stuff from outside of the US or not in English. I'd like some recommendations. What recent pop songs from countries outside of the US, that is not in English, have you liked recently? [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 12:44 PM PST - 22 comments

What can Thanksgiving look like in 2020?

We normally do a short car trip to have Thanksgiving with our family but because of various COVID reasons, it might not make sense in 2020. What else could Thanksgiving look like? What are you planning to do? [more inside]
posted by neematoad at 12:30 PM PST - 18 comments

PC Gaming, what'd I miss?

For my quarantine project I built a new PC for the first time in 10 years. My new machine is more than capable of playing some recent stuff, but where do I start? Difficulty Setting - Linux Only - I'm not planning to install Windows on this machine, so please only games that will run on Linux, either natively or via emulation. [more inside]
posted by Eddie Mars at 12:28 PM PST - 11 comments

Am I being bullied or am I not doing the job well?

I work for the private office of the CEO of my company. I'm a mid-level employee dealing with very high level employees and it seems like a lot of times when things go wrong I end up being the scapegoat. However I'm not sure whether these things are my fault or not. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 12:06 PM PST - 25 comments

What kind of flooring to use for upstairs bedrooms?

I'm having a dormer put in and it's a good opportunity to put in floors upstairs. But I need to keep the budget reasonable. What's a good alternative to carpet that isn't going to kill my wallet? [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 11:56 AM PST - 12 comments

What are the statistics on poverty in Canada?

I am trying to find statistics on poverty levels in Canada, but having difficulty finding the right statistics. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 11:40 AM PST - 4 comments

Uplifting biopics about successful women

I just watched and loved Self Made: Inspired by the life of Madam C.J. Walker and want to watch more dramatizations of successful women's lives. I liked that it was an uplifting and inspiring story, despite the fact that Madam Walker suffered a lot of hardships, and because it was a dramatization, the filmmakers could take liberties with costumes, scenery and dialogue to make it seem larger than life. Do folks have recommendations on more movies/TV shows like this?
posted by rogerroger at 11:40 AM PST - 6 comments

Best way to cook a fully cooked ham

After spending this morning researching how to bake my first ever ham, I was disappointed that my grocery store did not have a bone-in option for me to choose from. How do I cook the one I bought for split pea soup? [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 10:56 AM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a visual reminder about self-compassion

Like so many people, I put a lot of pressure on myself and beat myself up for mistakes. I'm trying to remember things like: failure is human, no flower blooms in all seasons, nobody's perfect, etc. Also, I'm a very visual thinker. At the suggestion of my coach, I would love a piece of art to hang by my mirror to remind me to be kind to myself. It can have words or not. (I have a reminder on my fridge to breathe, it is this print and it's great.) Looking forward to any suggestions!
posted by Threeve at 10:39 AM PST - 11 comments

How best to archive a fanfic (and its comments) before I delete it?

I'm going to be deleting some older fanfic from AO3*** and I'd like to make an archive of not only the fic itself, but also all of the comments. What are the easiest/cleanest ways to do this? [more inside]
posted by Sometimes you need a little space at 9:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Hurry up, movies, or I'll wander away

Is there a way to watch online movies at accelerated speeds? [more inside]
posted by nouvelle-personne at 9:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Children picture book series similar to Berenstain Bears?

My kid, turning 6 in a few months, enjoys having books read to him. Recently he's been really into the Berenstain Bears (First Time Books). I'm... okay with them, but some, especially the newer ones (late 90s and onwards) are not that great. The main reason he likes them is that they revolve around the same characters and every page is illustrated. Are there any other series of good picture books that we could introduce him to? [more inside]
posted by destrius at 8:50 AM PST - 27 comments

I Did Something Dumb, Didn't I?

I am probably going to be okay and may be overthinking this. I recently bought something from a web site that was doing a pretty good job of looking like the Official Web Site for a thing, but a day later I've taken a closer look and it looks like it's a knockoff. Fortunately it wasn't for much - but should I be doing other things to protect myself after the fact? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 8:46 AM PST - 10 comments

Broken glass on sliding patio door

A rock launched by a lawnmower just shattered the glass on our Andersen brand sliding patio door. I think we have the details for the contractor that installed the doors (15+ years ago), and will give them a call to discuss repairs. If you've been through this rite of passage, what happens next? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Am I dealing with a clinger? Or is this my own issue?

I just met someone and it seems to be going well! But! I am wondering if their recent actions are normal and if my discomfort is telling me something about them, or if I need to work on myself. [more inside]
posted by treetop89 at 6:40 AM PST - 28 comments

Gift filter - burnt out millennial edition

Looking for gift ideas for someone who was really into digital animation (competed in FIRST, was offered but could not accept a Disney animation internship) but is now stuck in a job they hate. [more inside]
posted by jessica fletcher did it at 6:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Carpet beetles vs. sweaters

We found carpet beetles in my closet shortly before we moved, about 1.5 years ago. I discarded the most heavily damaged sweaters, but there were others that I hoped to save. To avoid unleashing destruction in our new place, I examined those others closely, then put them in a sealed plastic container. Now, I just unsealed the container outside, re-inspected everything, and found one dead bug. Am I home free, or is it time to choose between treating these sweaters or discarding them? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 5:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Advice needed: Helping a relative get out of a timeshare

My relative, Jim (who is in his 70s), has asked me to help get him out of two timeshares. Looking for advice on how to do this at minimal cost. [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 5:35 AM PST - 9 comments

Allergy Inquiry

The other day I had a severe allergic reaction that required an Epinephrine shot. I have never had such a reaction and still dont have the foggiest idea what could have caused it. Are there any among you with an allergy so rare but symptoms that are common enough to need to carry an Epi-Pen? So far my [more inside]
posted by The_imp_inimpossible at 4:48 AM PST - 13 comments

I want to read about people I can look up to

I'm going through a bit of a rough road mental-health-wise, and would like to read biographies about real people that I can admire. [more inside]
posted by forza at 1:03 AM PST - 14 comments

Can I safely go outside?

I have limited experience with thunderstorms. I am now living in a place with regular thunderstorms. This is also a place with very strict parking rules, and I will get a ticket unless I move my car tonight. I really want to not get a ticket, and I want to go to bed as it is now past 2 AM. However, it is thundering outside and there is sheet lightning. Can I go get my car? [more inside]
posted by desert outpost at 12:20 AM PST - 28 comments

September 7

Best way to approach intervention with relative living in filth

My sister’s home has gone from regular untidy to health hazard hoarding and filthy. My parents are desperately anxious about it, I think it’s a mental health issue, please help me intervene in the most positive way possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:09 PM PST - 22 comments

Home exercise ideas

What kind of at-home exercise are you doing? Please help me find something I will stick with. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:02 PM PST - 27 comments

Wildfire smoke on Amtrak?

I'm considering taking Amtrak on an unavoidable trip. I'd be on the California Zephyr leaving from Emeryville, and I'm worried about the smoke from all of the wildfires, both in California and in Colorado. It's been really bothering me in my apartment. How well do the trains filter outside air? I wanted to avoid flying for a variety of reasons, but will fly if I have to. I was planning to get an individual bedroom on the train. If you haven't been on Amtrak near a fire, can you recommend a train forum where I could post this question?
posted by pinochiette at 8:58 PM PST - 4 comments

FTL travel but only between two specific points. What would happen?

Suppose a large portal opens up in our solar system tomorrow morning. Astronomical observations are consistent with the other end being 1000 light years away and at today's date. Physical objects can pass through the portal and return with no time elapsed in transit, and there seem to be no other effects caused by the portal's presence or travel through it. [more inside]
posted by Joe in Australia at 7:14 PM PST - 12 comments

How to embed fillable PDF and submit electronically to a cloud site

I'm not sure that this is even possible, but I'd like to take a fillable PDF form and embed it in a web page such that a user can go online, fill out the form – and then have the form be submitted electronically to a cloud location (preferrably Google Drive). [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 7:09 PM PST - 6 comments

I want all my iPhone pictures on my Mac, but NOT the other way around.

I have a Mac running High Sierra (10.13) and an iPhone X running the latest iOS. I want the pictures on the iPhone to automatically sync to the Mac's Photos library. The problem is, turning on iCloud Photos will lead to the entire Photos library (which is many, many GB and dates back to 2006) trying to upload itself to iCloud. I don't want that! Is there any way to have the iPhone's photo library sync to iCloud and thus to the Mac automatically without forcing me to upload all of the old pictures on my Mac to iCloud?
posted by Seeking Direction at 6:42 PM PST - 3 comments

What's the equivalent of Odoo for a small business?

It seems like we need ERP software, but everything out there seems like serious overkill (and expensive!) for a small business. [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 5:36 PM PST - 3 comments

Looking for name of WWII film with a woman who develops facial paralysis

I am pretty sure it is a German film. It is about WWII, and the central character is a woman who marries a man whose best friend is a nazi official and late in the film she develops a facial paralysis [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 3:49 PM PST - 5 comments

What's your fool-proof approach to washing white walls?

Whenever I set out to get my walls sparkling clean they never end up that way. I need advice. [more inside]
posted by BadgerDoctor at 3:01 PM PST - 14 comments

The internet knows all, I guess

Why is my ex's name showing up on a people search site with my cell phone number, email address, and current home address, when are names aren't associated literally anywhere else on the internet or on any public records, and we only dated very briefly after I moved to this address? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Building a bridge

How do I reconnect with my neurodivergent mother? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Fear of (medical) abandonment

In the past few months, my primary care doctor, psychiatrist, gynecologist, and cat's vet have left, and now my therapist is heading out as well. I have abandonment issues that come up from time to time, but right now they're very present, especially with physicians. Are there resources that might work well with this particular kind of abandonment? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 1:52 PM PST - 4 comments

SOB! (Save Our Birds)

We live in the mountains at 8500 feet. We have a major change in the weather coming tonight, from a high of 75 today to a high of 25 tomorrow and a low tomorrow night of 18. Oh yeah, and a foot of snow! Obviously, we are worried about some of our newer trees, and the aspens all still have leaves. I will need to go out and knock snow off of the branches and bring all of our potted plants in. However, what can I do for our neighborbood birds? [more inside]
posted by Don_K at 1:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Why am I finding discarded water bottles filled with yellow liquid?

In one location of the London housing estate I live in, someone is regularly dumping 1-liter water bottles, filled with a yellowish liquid. Is there some likely health- or drug-related explanation? [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 12:50 PM PST - 23 comments

Coffee table book of capital letters

Growing up, my school had a coffee table book that was just pictures of capital letters in all kinds of fonts. I found this fascinating then and would love to have a copy of it now. [more inside]
posted by Fuego at 12:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Authoritative dietary oxalate resources?

Anyone have any reliable resources they would look to or a good place to find them? I passed a kidney stone. I have other nuclei up in their and would prefer to not enlarge them any further. Following doctors orders I'm getting rid of as much oxalate content in my diet as I can. Basic things like avoid soy, nuts, seeds, beets, spinach, chocolate, etc are obvious. The challenge: Finding a solid resource that's a good guide to a wider variety of foods. [more inside]
posted by cult_url_bias at 12:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Zoom cooking class recommendations?

I recently attended a Zoom-based cheesemaking class that came with an over-nighted box of refrigerated cheese curds. It was super fun, and I wanted to do more classes of that type (active participation, ideally ingredients supplied in advance)...but it appears that all the other cheese classes are just “here, eat this and we’ll talk about it.” Any recommendations on other places to get something similar? Doesn’t need to be cheese; all cooking is okay as long as it’s kind of neat stuff to eat at the end.
posted by sirion at 11:51 AM PST - 9 comments

Tell me about the best house coat/bathrobe

I'd like to give my wife a really awesome soft/fluffy bathrobe/house coat. Recommendations appreciated! [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 10:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Name That Soft-Rock Tune from Early 90s

Singer was male, a slow drawn-out kind of pace and main chorus was a long drawn-out lyric "No I........*something something* fall in love, No I..........*something something* fall in love" Sorry I can't do better than that. It might have been form the very late 80s or very early 90s.
posted by BeatriceB at 10:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Lefty Printer for political signs & stickers

Yard signs and bumper stickers are of marginal use in persuading voters. But I and my friends want them. I do not want to order from Rightwingers, and it's a minefield. Please recommend Lefty or at least Dem vendors. Aware of JoeBiden.com signs, they're spendy. Happy to support lefty MeFites who print, but do not have enough interest to custom order.
posted by theora55 at 9:55 AM PST - 9 comments

Out of state controlled substance prescription?

I’m visiting Washington state from California and need to have my doctor send over a prescription for Vyvanse, which is a controlled substance. Is this possible? [more inside]
posted by baptismal at 9:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Can someone collect unemployment benefits while on disability?

Someone I know is out of work, their short term disability payments expired, and they have no income. Their job is being held for the next four months. Can/should they file for unemployment?
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 8:07 AM PST - 9 comments

Boiling Away Pots

How do I repair or restore pans/pots that have been damaged by boiling away water for hours? [more inside]
posted by bquarters at 7:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Do you know of any long-lived heavy drinkers

I am looking for examples of people who were known heavy drinkers who also lived long lives, like Winston Churchill.* [more inside]
posted by Megami at 7:39 AM PST - 18 comments

A book reading stand (or ??) that is easy to flip pages?

I want to be able to read in a more ergonomic way without bending my head down, or having to hold the book up with my hands. But all the stands I've found (or tried) are a pain in the ass to flip pages, which seems super strange to me! Looking for...an alternative! [more inside]
posted by wooh at 4:29 AM PST - 9 comments

Wild Doll Chase

My late MIL made a thing that was likely sold as part of a random lot in her husband’s estate auction. What can I do to try to track it down? [more inside]
posted by St. Hubbins at 12:23 AM PST - 2 comments

September 6

Materials question: adaptable gasket

I need some soft rubber or silicone tubing -- think like a bicycle inner tube, but maybe half the diameter. I need to be able to fill it with some kind of gel and then permanently seal it into a torus. It's going to function as a sort of adaptable gasket that conforms to a variety of surface shapes within a set of tolerances. Where can I get tubing like this, what kind of gel should I fill it with, and how do I seal it? Bonus points if it's skin/body-safe. [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 10:56 PM PST - 8 comments

No Empathy Zones

I have just been compelled to ask, why are there people who not only do not believe the tragedies that befall people are real, such as shootings at Sandy Hook, 9-11, etc., but also attack those people who advocate or defend their deceased loved ones? Is there research that explains this? I'm looking for some thread that ties this behavior together. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 8:00 PM PST - 13 comments

THe needs of the Few…

Hi, AskMe. I ran into a particularly frustrating argument today in the context of my game accessibility work and would love to know how folks respond to it. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 7:15 PM PST - 23 comments

How do I take accurate pictures of back and buttock moles with a camera?

Hi there, this is my problem. Since a recent biopsy I've taken to documenting the moles on my body with a phone app, the problem is when it comes to attempting to catalogue moles on my back and ass. I'm shy to have other people take it and this is a quarantine situation anyway. How do you do it? I thought up one way of somehow having my phone control the camera of another phone where it is needed. Is there an application for that or can you recommend another way? Help!
posted by CyborgHag at 6:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Big chicks men big hens or roosters?

We bought 4 baby chicks a few weeks ago: two ameraucana, two Rhode island reds. They were all born the same day. After 4 weeks the ameraucana are twice as big as the reds. Is this normal for these breeds, or do we likely have two roosters?
posted by rouftop at 5:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Do I need to discard a fridge that has had rotted food in it for weeks?

I am helping to administer a grant program at my company for families impacted by a recent fire. One family has asked for a replacement fridge - they stated after removing the rotted meat, etc., which had been in their fridge for multiple weeks it was impossible to clean it and make it usable again. I sympathize, and would like to support this request. Any suggestions on what I can point to in my rationale for approving it? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 5:38 PM PST - 14 comments

HTML: collapsing/hiding text

Both my google-fu and my mefi-search-fu are failing me. I've seen other Mefites do a thing in comments that hides text (eg. part of a comment that contains spoilers) until the reader clicks the little triangle arrow. And I'm sure someone has asked about how to do it here before, or someone has provided a how-to that I've read somewhere on the site, and there was just a simple html tag to use? But I can't seem to find it now. [more inside]
posted by eviemath at 5:10 PM PST - 2 comments

A question about real estate and mortgages in Canada

Can I re-mortgage my house to buy another house? Details below. [more inside]
posted by Joan Rivers of Babylon at 5:06 PM PST - 5 comments

How to believe God is good despite evolution & natural evil?

What scenario makes it okay for God to create a world like ours? I'm looking to hear from people who have found a way to live in this strange world and still maintain hope in a good God (specifically concerned with evolution and the problem of natural evil, earthquakes, disease, predation, etc.) [more inside]
posted by ygmiaa at 4:43 PM PST - 29 comments

ISO paperwork for protection during product research interviews

I'm doing product/market research interviews for an app. Interviews are mostly paid ($40/50) and with strangers from craigslist; some are free and with friends. I realized after two interviews that I don't have paperwork to protect myself from any of the interviewees potentially saying that I illegally took their ideas or IP. [more inside]
posted by Jack Karaoke at 2:43 PM PST - 8 comments

How to write to strangers

I volunteered for my church's card-writing ministry, which seemed like something I can do as an immunocompromised person during COVID. The recipients provided their names, so I'm going to assume they want to hear from strangers, but what in the world do I say? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 1:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Did I imagine this lesbian(?) short story anthology?

Let's see if the 'filter can do that thing we do and identify a story I read a long, long time ago. I have next to no details for you. I think it was a part of an anthology, possibly sci-fi by women, or quite likely, womyn, it had that kinda vibe. I think it was a large format green paperback, but I realise that's neither here nor there. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 1:16 PM PST - 3 comments

zero waste shampoo items for picky hair?

I have been using Kiehl's Sunflower shampoo for color treated hair (paraben free, blah blah) for years. It comes with a really annoying amount of plastic and there are no options for refills. I'd like to switch to another shampoo brand that would allow me to buy low- or zero-waste refills but avoid the "one generic shampoo which works for everyone" that most of my local zero waste places sell (which doesn't usually work for me). [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 12:57 PM PST - 16 comments

Insecure about my romantic/sexual history

I'm feeling down about my somewhat tame romantic and sexual history, compared to all the super impressive and intimidating people I hang out with, and trying to convince myself that maybe I'm not just a loser. I'd love to hear from others in the same boat! [more inside]
posted by myitkyina at 12:08 PM PST - 23 comments

Making the transition from agency social worker to private practice

I know there are some therapists on here and have asked a question or two before. This one is just a practical nuts and bolts question about going from "I work a typical social work job without a huge amount of clinical content" to doing some private practice. More details below. Sorry to post anonymously; this is the content area where I most want to be 100% not googlable. If you indicate you'd like to discuss this more one on one, I'll memail you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:12 AM PST - 6 comments

Smoke detector battery low

I have noticed that some people don't seem to change the batteries in their smoke detector when it starts beeping intermittently to indicate a low battery. My neighbors have had their detector beeping for years since I moved in (I always know when their front door is open, because I can hear the beeping in my house). The people I lived next door to at my last apartment had the same proclivity. I notice it on lots of live streams and of videos that people take in their houses. What gives? [more inside]
posted by k8lin at 8:47 AM PST - 26 comments

How much should I expect to pay an artist to draw me as a cartoon?

I'd like to hire an artist to create a little cartoon version of me that I can use for stuff, mostly for my website. A great example of what I'm looking for can be found on this colleague's website - the little dude to the right of Ben Franklin. [more inside]
posted by lazaruslong at 8:00 AM PST - 15 comments

Where can I get fresh pawpaw fruit near Chicago?

Where can I find/buy/steal a couple of pawpaws in the greater Chicago area this season? Within 20 miles of the loop preferred, but I'm open to traveling farther if need be. [more inside]
posted by eotvos at 7:47 AM PST - 8 comments

Name of left-wing British political podcast

Months ago, I listened to a left-leaning British podcast on Spotify but it's no longer showing up on my listening history and I can't remember the name. Can you help me find this podcast? [more inside]
posted by quadrant seasons at 7:34 AM PST - 13 comments

Correct German Translation of "Ridge" (geographical) in this context?

I need clarification of this translation of geographical ridge into German, please. [more inside]
posted by Tchad at 4:31 AM PST - 8 comments

CarFilter: Should we buy a used plug in hybrid in the UK?

We want a car primarily for city driving, but that can also get us and our two kids from Edinburgh to Mid Wales a couple of times a year. Snowflakes inside, looking for sensible advice and encouragement. (my husband wrote this question, we'll both be reading the answers!) [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 2:35 AM PST - 5 comments

September 5

Three percent items on etsy

There are quite a few three percenter items on Etsy, I thought they were considered a militia group. Do you think they would be considered against their terms of service? I can't ask someone directly there I don't think. SPLC calls them part of the anti-government militia movement. Thanks.
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 11:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Are service doms a thing?

Sexually vanilla person, considering 24/7-ish dom-ing for partner. Is this feasible? Suggestions for resources or other fora? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:39 PM PST - 23 comments

Gift for kid turning 18

Please give me your suggestions for queer nerdy kid turning 18 in quarantine. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:39 PM PST - 9 comments

What do you know about this particular type of battery?

I want to replace the battery on my Panasonic shaver. But it hasn't been easy. [more inside]
posted by ivanthenotsoterrible at 8:33 PM PST - 5 comments

What do I do with all the despair

My life seems to have fallen apart over the last 4 years siNCE Trump was elected. Historically, I’m successful at what I do and in the last 2 years of the Obama admin I was doing great and my business made more into 6 figures than I’d ever gone. And then Trump is elected and the wheels fall off. And then 2 years ago I’m diagnosed with Leukemia. AML which the odds are it’s maybe not curable and the treatment is worse than the disease. I’m not suicidal or anything but depression and anxiety are common daily occurrences. The existential dread and despair just become too much. And Trump does something and the Republicans say no big deal. [more inside]
posted by photoslob at 8:12 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for a NYT article on work "fitness or health tracking"

I'm looking for a NYT article from the past ten years about companies partnering with health insurance and technology companies to track their employees health data and fitness data. A big component of the article was how the data was not truly anonymous. [more inside]
posted by CMcG at 4:30 PM PST - 3 comments

How to remove cigarette smoke smell from books

My dad inherited some books recently from a friend who was a heavy smoker. Some of them my dad intends to keep and others he'd like to add to local Little Free Libraries, but they all need to be de-odorized first. None of the books are valuable or vintage. They're mostly paperbacks and several are big, Robert Caro-style 1200-page volumes. I've seen a few deodorizing techniques online but people report varying levels of success. What's worked for you?
posted by theory at 4:22 PM PST - 9 comments

I cleaned my shower, now it won't drain, what gives?

Before cleaning my shower, the drain was working just fine, no problems at all, and I didn't see any hair in the shower. I used 3 products to clean my shower: Kaboom mold and mildew, comet limescale remover, and scrubbing bubbles mega shower foamer. The cleaning was uneventful, now 4 hours later I took a shower and the shower drain is almost not draining at all. What did I do? How can I fix this??? Thanks!
posted by maxexam at 4:02 PM PST - 15 comments

What makes a costume iconically "Jean Grey"?

Looking for costume advice on how to make someone obviously, iconically "Jean Grey." [more inside]
posted by Navelgazer at 3:49 PM PST - 7 comments

Gift to Hairdresser: Good or Bad Idea?

I would like to give my hairdresser my basically unused Nintendo Switch as a gift. I bought it earlier this year in a fit of terrible FOMO and I know I am not going to use it because I already have a Switch Lite. Is this a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by Kitchen Witch at 3:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Ideas on charging for a very part-time job

A friend just called and said the company she is working for needs a very part-time job. Well I've got three other part-time jobs in the hopper, so yeah... The job would consist of once every month or so driving my car to courthouses in tiny towns that aren't online and picking up or copying deeds. Most are about 2 hours away; but she can add more, further, places if I work out and want them. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 2:45 PM PST - 14 comments

Election protection 501(c)(3)s in swing states

I'm looking for election protection nonprofits that are tax deductible 501(c)(3)s, work in swing states (especially Pennsylvania and Florida), and still need additional funds during this election cycle to increase voter turnout and prevent voter suppression. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by john hadron collider at 1:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Facebook, move all friends to restricted profile

Can I move All of my 2500+ friends on Facebook to restricted without doing it one at a time? - alternatively is there a reputable company I can hire to do this? Triggers make doing it by hand painful. Treatment of triggers is underway but resolving this quickly will be a big quality of life boost
posted by The Last Sockpuppet at 1:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Spinal Injury help

Friend has a herniated disk (maybe?) in his back (and an early childhood back injury), and no one will help him get care. He's been shuffled around many times, and is at a breaking point. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 1:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Resources for neurodivergent parenting

Where can I find resources about/by neurodivergent parents, parenting? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 12:28 PM PST - 6 comments

How to keep air dried clothes mostly wrinkle free?

I prefer to air dry washed clothes on both an indoor and an outdoor clothes line. Not much wind here to flap the outdoor clothes that are drying. [more inside]
posted by luvmywife at 12:18 PM PST - 13 comments

UES bars or pubs?

Hi! I'm staying at 92nd and Lexington and would like to grab a beer and possibly a burger tonight. What's a relaxed place nearby, possibly within walking distance? My favorites on the West Side are Malachy's on 72nd and the sadly defunct Abbey Pub on 105th. Thank you!
posted by 8603 at 11:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Estranged family resisting estrangement

My partner and I are trying to figure out how to respond to an estranged family member. This family member is making persistent attempts to re-establish contact and has ramped things up after a recent death in the family. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:00 AM PST - 30 comments

Words with different endings that isn't a suffix?

BAT and BAG are the same except the last letter. How can I find words that are the same except for the last letter? I know about suffixes but I'm looking for simpler words too. What are they called? Where can I find them?
posted by jago25_98 at 7:56 AM PST - 7 comments

Can anyone tell me more about this drumming technique

So there's this technique for playing the kick drums really fast. And I wanted to know more about it, but I have absolutely no idea how to google it. It basically involves shifting your legs more left-right rather than up and down. You can see what I mean rather clearly for example in this video at around one minute in. There are several other times when they show how he plays the kick drums in the same manner in the video. I tried it, kinda trying to imitate the video, and it somehow does seem to work? But can any of you direct me to better sources, or explain a bit better what's going on? Like, does this technique have a name? Are there tutorials about it? And so on.
posted by Pyrogenesis at 4:56 AM PST - 6 comments

Which front end web frameworks to learn for data vis SPAs?

What is the best [set of] frameworks to learn to make beautiful but relatively simple single serving visualisations on the web? I want to be able to build good looking data visualisations on that tie back into simulation / database logic on the server. All of these are basically toy single page applications that represent a particular idea. For context: I am a data scientist / strategist working in energy and utilities and I want to present some of my ideas / case studies dynamically. I also think it would be fun. [more inside]
posted by atrazine at 3:01 AM PST - 3 comments

Beautiful life tracker app?

I have a weakness for paper life planners, schemes such as "Level 10 Life" which encourage you to set goals in various life areas, and habit tracker apps. Is there an attractive app which will allow me to monitor how my daily habits and activities aggregate and contribute to my goals? [more inside]
posted by limoncello at 2:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Name that 90s alternative/punk song

In the early-mid '90s my local college radio station's late-night punk/alternative/etc. show played a song that has stuck in my head but I've never been able to find. It might have been called "Broadcast Day," and it ended with an old-fashioned "This concludes our broadcast day" sample. A few more details inside. I would love to be able to confirm I am not remembering a song I made up out of whole cloth, and ideally be able to find it and hear it again. [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 1:37 AM PST - 9 comments

Should I buy an Intel Apple or ARM Apple?

As someone who often uses Windows on my iMac, I am a little confused about Apple's impending switch to ARM. I was planning to buy a new iMac next spring, and by then I'm guessing those new machines will have ARM architecture. But will I be able to run Windows on it? [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 12:50 AM PST - 9 comments

Has the older millennial generation been economically stunted?

I had a bunch longer question drawn out, and I believe this is a bit subjective, but as an older millennial I graduated college right in the midst of the 2008-9 financial crisis / recession that seemed to last awhile. We are now supposedly in another worst financial crisis ever. How did this compare to other generations? The 70s were pretty bad when looking at the annualized GDP, but that's perhaps just one metric. More details within. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 12:10 AM PST - 11 comments

September 4

Help me find this elusive Aldi wafer bar of the 2010s

So the family group chat recently turned to nostalgia over the chocolate bars we used to eat. We are searching for a photo of the 'Todomundo' sold in Aldi in the UK circa 2010-2013. Help indulge our nostalgia-fest. [more inside]
posted by iplaytheviol at 11:00 PM PST - 4 comments

What are technically challenging, tasty, Indian or Indian-ish recipes?

I am looking for technically challenging Indian recipes. I'm open to any sort - vegetarian, non-vegetarian, spicy, non-spicy, regional Indian dishes, Indian inspired dishes (ex - British style curries), healthy, non-healthy. I am a fairly competent cook, and I have access to multiple Indian grocery stores. [more inside]
posted by saeculorum at 10:48 PM PST - 11 comments

Cold drinks, hot days

It's supposed to be hot outside this weekend, and I would like to have an iced beverage in the park with a friend. I have two insulated bottles (1 small, 1 large). Does it make a difference whether I pack the ice and liquid separately (ice in the small bottle, liquid in the large), or mix them together before filling both bottles?
posted by btfreek at 9:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Sound effects in Mr. Wizard Intro and Danger Mouse: /The Dream Machine/

There are sound effects shared between the intro of the 1980s Mr. Wizard Intro and the Danger Mouse Episode /The Dream Machine/. Which sound effects library are they a part of, and where can I find samples of them? [more inside]
posted by oonh at 7:29 PM PST - 1 comment

Suggest jobs for me please

I am looking for job suggestions. I have a MA in Communication (rhetorical theory, graduated 2001) and I have done uni teaching, non profit work, and retail management in the past. Been a SAHM for quite some time. Now looking for job change. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by ChristineSings at 6:47 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I paint a dragon?

I would like to paint a dragon as a gift for a friend’s upcoming book release. I’m not a bad watercolor painter, but I am a very literal one. I almost always paint from life or from a photo (that I took myself). I obviously can’t do this with a dragon. I certainly don’t want to copy anyone else’s work. Any suggestions for what I can paint from?
posted by rebeccabeagle at 3:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Quiet videos of other places?

Can anyone recommend longer videos that show off a place with a minimum of jump-cuts, voice-overs, and motion? I want to explore a place with my eyes, not my ears. Helicopter/drone tours, walking tours, mellow views of the pretty things in a given destination. [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 2:22 PM PST - 23 comments

Classical Music and Acoustic Music Wanted!

I am looking for recommendations for beautiful piano/violin/viola/cello music. I like really "gentle" sounding music. More "tinkling" sounds and not abrupt. I know nothing about classical music at all. I am also looking for singer/songwriter and/or acoustic songs with really really beautiful singing.
posted by bookworm4125 at 2:17 PM PST - 21 comments

A question about places to see + stuff to do in upstate NY.

What would you recommend to do in upstate NY, anywhere within a three hour drive of Hunter, NY. Open to anything available during coronavirus, but specific interests include modern/contemporary art, socialism/anarchism/antifascism/leftism, government/civics, (vegetarian) food, animals, factory/food tours (learning about how anything is made), architecture, nature, urban/abandoned exploring.
posted by andoatnp at 1:36 PM PST - 13 comments

Help selecting VOIP for work-at-home job

I'm needling in a haystack for my new position which requires VOIP. There is so much of everything. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 1:16 PM PST - 13 comments

Should I leave my kind, loyal boyfriend that I don't love??

I feel so desperate and I don’t know what to do. I was wondering if anyone here could give me some advice. I am a woman in my mid thirties and I have a boyfriend who I love but I am not in love with… [more inside]
posted by Fromthesouth at 1:10 PM PST - 22 comments

Objects for scale in photos

What objects are used to show scale in photos (like putting a hailstone next to a coin)? I'm interested in examples that are standard for a given field of study -- e.g. in geology, a rock hammer -- and in unusual, extreme, clever or interesting examples.
posted by LobsterMitten at 12:24 PM PST - 23 comments

statins and brain fog

Have you experienced brain fog while taking statins? [more inside]
posted by aunt_winnifred at 12:14 PM PST - 9 comments

Geology filter: How to use an interesting site to my kids' advantage?

My family happens to be staying for a few weeks right near the quarry where Tuckahoe marble came from. I've got a 11- and a 9-year old and would like to take advantage of the surroundings. What should I try to teach/show them? [more inside]
posted by cgs06 at 12:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Best Probiotics to take during aggressive antibiotic regimen, and when??

I just had a laparoscopic appendectomy after a ruptured appendix. Spend 4 nights in the hospital with a serious antibiotic/IV drip. Have just been sent home with Flagyl and Cipro (since I'm allergic to Penicillin) which I have to take orally three times a day for 11 days. So when should I be eating probiotics, and which ones should I buy? [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 11:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Name that book, and a real shot in the dark

This is driving me crazy, but I remember reading a book as a kid, with a character that was some kind of intelligent (orange, I think) slime, who maybe would turn into human form. [more inside]
posted by allen8219 at 11:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Did I Get Scammed (FedEx Edition!)

I'm in the middle of some weird confluence of shipping mysteries and dumbly clicked on a texted, maybe fake FedEx link. What's probably going on here, and do I need to worry about any of it? [more inside]
posted by jameaterblues at 9:50 AM PST - 6 comments

New Mac mini – older OS?

My 2012 Mac Mini is showing its age, but if I replace it with a new Mini, how old an OS can a new machine support [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 9:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Two completely different orthodontist evaluations. How to decide?

Any insight would be appreciated. I am adult who felt that my bottom teeth were becoming crowded and have been thinking of getting braces (i.e. invisalign) for some time. I got two orthodontic consults. Both orthodontists are highly rated or highly reviewed by two different online sources. They had completely different assessments; how do I discern to make sure I am getting good oral health and a cost effective treatment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:06 AM PST - 4 comments

Abnormal amount of mosquitoes showing up in our house

Twice now in the past two years of living in this house, we've had a sudden overnight influx of mosquitoes in one area of the house, like a swarm just hatched somewhere. I feel like something weird is happening and don't know where to look. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 9:05 AM PST - 14 comments

The city plays itself: UK regional novels? Cheerful ones?

Or at least not David Peace novels, no matter how regional they are. So I was recently reading a novel set in Rochester, lots about the cathedral, former roman wall, etc and it was very helpful. I am looking for more regional UK novels, details inside. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 8:06 AM PST - 14 comments

Another "name that book"

I'm looking for the name of a fantasy book, probably written in the past decade, that starts out with a female protagonist searching a prison for someone to help her, led by the quirk that things important to her destiny are often marked by the strong smell of eucalyptus. [more inside]
posted by rollcredits at 7:41 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me turn my job search into a career search

I’ve been unemployed for 12 months, which reminds me a lot of when I was fresh out of college in 2009. I've decided to get out of the Business Psych industry and try to find a career. Can you please tell me (A) what are some specific jobs or careers that you think I could look into? (B) What is a smart way for someone 35 years old with a masters degree in psychology to enter a career track? (C) Is it worth trying to work with a professional to guide my next move? [more inside]
posted by rebent at 7:15 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I get toothpaste out of suede?

I dropped some toothpaste on my suede boots and I can't get it out. I tried cleaning it with vinegar and with Saphir Omni-Daim Suede Cleaner but there's still a light patch. The suede seems to have absorbed the toothpaste. [more inside]
posted by Chenko at 6:38 AM PST - 2 comments

Change Yourself

How do people disguise or misrepresent themselves as another race or identity and get away with it for so long? NOT looking for racial and identity conversations or discussions on cultural misappropriations or psychological reasons. Rather, I'm curious to know how people can get away with obvious lying, without anyone ratting them out. Is it really that easy to change your identity? [more inside]
posted by moiraine at 2:38 AM PST - 37 comments

Resources for Achilles surgery recovery stories

Last time I dealt with serious injury and new health conditions, forums were still a thing and there were always a few trusted ones that most people used for whatever thing they were dealing with. Now that I'm recovering from Achilles tendon repair surgery a decade and a half later, I have no idea where to go to read recovery stories, ask questions, and find resources. I'm a skilled search user but can still only find the same official medical center websites, paywalled journal articles, or the occasional blog post that's half-bitrotted. Where do all the cool recently-injured kids hang out these days? Bonus: If you've got post-Achilles surgery stories to share, I want to hear them!
posted by rhiannonstone at 12:22 AM PST - 7 comments

September 3

Bookshelf backing?

As we rearrange the kids' rooms for distance learning, one will have a desk with an open shelving unit a little way behind the chair (i.e., in zoom view). I'd like to back the open shelves on one side (the side near the desk) so they can have messy shelves without it being on zoom, and then we'll hang posters etc on the backing. What are my cheap, lightweight, easy to attach options for a backing? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 11:59 PM PST - 14 comments

What was this article I read about finding "The One" after therapy?

A few years ago I read an article by a woman, who is also a therapist, about how she dislikes being told she's "so lucky" to have found her "person" and have a very happy relationship, because luck had nothing to do with it [more inside]
posted by Zaire at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments

Podcasts and documentaries about contemporary spiritual frauds

I'm on a kick with podcasts about modern-day spiritual frauds like James Arthur Ray, Teal Swan, and a fake priest who calls himself Father Ryan. I'd love to listen to more or watch similar. I don't want Christian televangelists, any Scientology, or any multilevel marketing figures. Finally, I prefer contemporary ones, so please leave Madame Blavatsky et al in the past.
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:44 PM PST - 10 comments

Seeking substitutions for saltines on soup

I don't eat many processed foods. Crumbling saltines on soup has long been a guilty pleasure of mine. During this quarantine I'm making more (healthy!) soups than I used to, but I'm consuming way too many saltine crackers, too. Do you know a good alternative? I'm open to even the most unorthodox, non-cracker suggestions!
posted by Junker George at 7:46 PM PST - 34 comments

Can I keep my desktop private while tech support remotely controls my PC

My Windows 10 backup software is showing an error and the company that makes it would like to remote in to my computer in order to figure out what is going wrong. Is there any way I can let them do so without them also seeing my desktop/startup items/etc? There's nothing super controversial on there but I would like to keep it private if possible. I thought about creating a new user but am not sure that that would be equivalent in terms of what the backup software is doing which may make it a moot point. I'm not sure what software they will want to use in order to connect.
posted by softlord at 5:57 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me "study" for an adept15 skills assessment test

Posting on behalf of a friend who is taking an adept15 skills assessment and motion challenge test, and asked me to help him "study". It's being given by his employer, who encouraged him to familiarize himself with the principles, to be prepared. But they provide no further information. I tried researching in order to help out, but it's too much for my exhausted brain. If you've administered one of these tests, can you offer some insight about how to prepare? If you've taken one, did you get any feedback that could be helpful? Thanks everyone!
posted by anonymous at 5:10 PM PST - 2 comments

Can I Eat This-Garden Version

We just had a concrete pad poured out in my garden. All my lovely produce growing out there was pretty thickly covered in concrete dust. Its things like tomatos and eggplants and peppers with smooth, firm skins. If I rinse it really well, is it safe to eat? I'm scared concrete dust contains harmful chemicals of some mysterious (to me) nature.
posted by WalkerWestridge at 4:32 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I consolidate info (notes, to-dos, lists...) from multiple apps?

Over the years, I've gathered information (to-dos, notes, links to articles to read, reference material, ideas, lists of movies to see...) in many places, including Trello, Evernote, Google Keep, Todoist, Pinboard, Twitter bookmarks, Facebook saved posts, emails, Google Drive, phone screenshots, and papers/binders (eek). How on earth can I consolidate this (manually)? (And what tool might feel the most like an actual website, with pages, menus, submenus, etc.?)
posted by trillian at 4:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Question about work search records during unemployment

Have you had a Benefits Accuracy Measurement (BAM) audit for unemployment? Or maybe any kind of audit for unemployment? If so, I have a question. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:06 PM PST - 3 comments

How can I limit internet access by time on Linux?

I'd like to turn my wifi off (in Linux) except at specific times of day, and make it at least moderately difficult to turn back on. This is proving surprisingly difficult. [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 3:27 PM PST - 7 comments

Emergency vet or wait until Saturday?

Our 4-year old cat has pawed at his mouth periodically since earlier this year. We rushed him to the vet (post-COVID, so only he could go in), they checked him out, and said they couldn't find anything wrong. Last night he did it again, but for the first time his tongue stayed peeking out of his mouth and he was a little lethargic. Same today. We got the first vet appointment we could - Saturday at 11:30 a.m. - but I'm wondering if we should take him to an emergency vet. His breathing isn't labored and he used the litter pan. He hasn't had much to eat or drink, though, because he's been sleeping. He's drooling because his tongue is out.
posted by Wet Hen at 2:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Skin care for genderqueer person newly taking testosterone

My genderqueer love has recently started taking testosterone as part of a gender affirming therapy plan, and as predicted is starting to experience acne as part of this mid life return to adolescence. [more inside]
posted by spindrifter at 1:36 PM PST - 10 comments

Can I migrate my wordpress site to a new server without mySQL/database?

Actually its slightly more complicated than that. I may have MySQL in a Boldgrid backup I've been running but my knowledge of this stuff doesn't go that deep. [more inside]
posted by Senor Cardgage at 1:13 PM PST - 5 comments

No Politics

What are some very polite responses to avoid discussing politics at work? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 12:39 PM PST - 24 comments

What is this Christmas song?

In the book "Children of Noisy Village" by Astrid Lingren (translated from Swedish), a song is described by the lyrics "Christmas stands before the door, gives a knock and smiles." I've come up short in all of my searches to try to find this song. It must have been common enough when it was written that readers could bring it to mind. I must hear this song.
posted by Brent Parker at 12:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Baby dracaena?

I have what I believe is a lemon-lime dracaena. I've had variations before but this one sent out little flower stalks that then grew mini-plants on the end. For the life of me I can't find the right search term to figure out what they're actually called, and searching for propagation instructions just returns results on how to propagate from stem cuttings. What are they called, how do they work in the wild, and how do I plant them? [more inside]
posted by reader at 12:02 PM PST - 5 comments

Continuing higher math as a hobby

If I find higher math fun but I'm not gonna do a degree in it, how else could I indulge in it as a hobby? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 11:55 AM PST - 25 comments

What industry has the most minority representation in leadership?

I've been reading today about how underrepresented different groups are in the executive arena in general. So which industry is doing it the least wrong? As in which specific sector has the most non-caucasian individuals in leadership roles (C-suite, executive directors, etc)? Cosmetics? Mining? Medicine? Who's doing representation the least wrong?
posted by rileyray3000 at 11:50 AM PST - 9 comments

New-to-Me Fruit

For Rosh Hashana we have the tradition of eating a new fruit. Technically that just means something we haven't had all year, but we like to go farther afield. What are the most unusual fresh fruits that will be available within the next few weeks? [more inside]
posted by Mchelly at 11:34 AM PST - 29 comments

lovely iOS puzzle game rec please

I just finished the Room series of iPhone games, and I loved them, the gorgeous steampunk design, the eerie backstory, and the nature of the puzzles. Previous favorites have included Gorogoa and Monument Valley. What other elegant, beautiful, contemplative, intricate puzzle games for iOS are out there? (Escape-room style or otherwise.)
posted by slappy_pinchbottom at 11:18 AM PST - 13 comments

Shipping Korean/Kyoho Grapes Nationally within US

The devastatingly short Korean grape season is upon us. These grapes are also known as Kyoho grapes (if you've never had them, please do try them!!). These ridiculous delights are a gift in a bleak world. My parents don't have access to a grocer who will sell these locally, and I am frantically trying to find an online supplier who will ship these grapes nationally within the continental US. My searching and asking around has failed me and I turn to the Hive Mind for help. Hope me win the best daughter award!
posted by sums at 11:14 AM PST - 8 comments

What Is the Salary For a Houseman/Caretaker

I have been offered the opportunity to be a live-in houseman/caretaker. The position includes room and board. After the honeymoon period to see how well we we get along, we will talk about salary. [more inside]
posted by goalyeehah at 9:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Does anyone remember this vintage blog about family xmas drinking?

I remember but cannot find a link to an old and entertaining weblog -- and I'm just interested in his yearly holiday photo albums. [more inside]
posted by theredpen at 9:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Google Sites transition

A group I used to volunteer for has a Google Sites website that will be forcibly converted to the new (awful) sites format in November. As the former web guy, they are asking me how to transition from Sites to another CMS. My CMS is a text editor. That's not going to work for them. Suggestions? tl;dr inside. [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 8:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Integrating cats in a non miserable fashion

The cat in this post has been neutered and is now residing in a spare room in our house. He is unhappy and I don't blame him. But we need some plan for integrating him with our other two (male, neutered) cats. Help? [more inside]
posted by cat friend at 7:55 AM PST - 8 comments

Options for a web-browser based tool

My workplace is developing a tool which we would like to put online for the public to use. This tool would be like a survey (a series of questions) that leads to a report of the results and links to information which has been personalized based on those results. But we don't know what sort of options exist to implement the tool. [more inside]
posted by jb at 7:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Communication difficulties with therapist

I'm looking for some perspective on what seem to be regular communication difficulties between my therapist and me. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 7:22 AM PST - 27 comments

Gifts for people you don't know well

My partner's sister (and husband) are difficult to shop for. I don't know them well, and neither does my partner. They have mostly given us things like their old, unused coffee pods (they were getting a new drop coffee maker) as holiday gifts, so I don't want to spend a ton of money. [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 6:39 AM PST - 50 comments

Country Roads!

I'm looking for a movie or episode. The one plot point I remember was that a girl/ woman had to perform one song and a fair deal was made about which song exactly. As this took place in West Virginia, thoughts wandered to Country Roads immediately but it was made clear implicitly, that this would be too obvious/ clicheed. [more inside]
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 1:42 AM PST - 4 comments

September 2

Do we know of people getting COVID-19 from outdoor fitness classes?

Although I have been doing some running outdoors, dance aerobics is a beloved form of exercise for me and I've found out about an outdoor Zumba class in my city that is capped at 10 people and takes place in a park. People stand 6 feet apart, although with different folks' bodily awareness, I can imagine that wouldn't always be guaranteed. I *believe* everyone wears masks but I am doublechecking this before I go. Is this safe? [more inside]
posted by rogerroger at 7:57 PM PST - 15 comments

West to East Coast Roadtrip

A family member is driving from LA to DC. Any advice on the itinerary? Are these cities safe to stop in for a person of color? Any fun sights to see or eat at without adding time? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 7:07 PM PST - 22 comments

What meeting software do I need?

Every few months I have to schedule a set of weekly meetings with a lot of different people. Is there software or an online polling system that will take multiple people’s schedules and schedule multiple meetings with different subsets of people? [more inside]
posted by alligatorpear at 6:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Dress the Little Unladylike Lady (Style-filter: Short, sharp, and curvy)

Short woman asks: Please help me define my style, give it a conceptual name, and find visual inspiration and specific pieces to consider. Everything's terrible, trying things on in stores is a no-go...so please give me your suggestions on clothing and styling so I can collect images and have a mental framework before I turn my closet over for the fall/winter. [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 6:18 PM PST - 10 comments

Found a wart on my mobile eyelid. Help, please.

I found a couple of growths on one of my eye hoods - the part that doesn't move when you blink, and suspected warts. My dermatologist verified that they are warts yesterday and identified two more on my other eye hood. She used liquid nitrogen/cryotherapy on them. Today, I found a wart on my mobile lid - the part that moves when I blink. [more inside]
posted by terrierhead at 5:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Can I eat this pint of locally made Earl Grey tea ice cream?

I bought a pint of locally made Earl Grey tea ice cream a week ago, from a deli (not the maker, just the seller). It was a little melty on arrival and leaking, because NYC delivery in the heat. It was also leaking because there's a hole along one edge of the lid, where the cardboard folds over. It doesn't have a plastic seal under the lid. It's been in my freezer a week, but I don't know how long it might've been like this before that. It looks OK inside. Can I eat it?
posted by limeonaire at 5:37 PM PST - 10 comments

How to identify methanol containing hand sanitizer

Is there an easy way to determine if a given sample of hand sanitizer contains methanol in substantial amounts? For example burning and observing the color of the flame perhaps? [more inside]
posted by nzero at 5:32 PM PST - 9 comments

Contact management software, but not overbuilt

Looking for a simple contact manager that has fewer bells and whistles than CRM software. [more inside]
posted by sonofsnark at 4:54 PM PST - 2 comments

Media (books, magazines, podcasts, etc) about backcountry accidents

I'm looking for media (of any form, but primarily written or podcasts) that cover accidents in the backcountry. I'm primarily interested in less-technical backcountry travel -- particularly backpacking -- vs things like rock or ice climbing, but the more technical sports are interesting too. I'm looking for non-fiction that leans more towards the analytical incident post-mortem style (what happened, contributing causes, lessons learned, etc) rather than fiction or literary non-fiction. [more inside]
posted by jacobian at 4:29 PM PST - 14 comments

Responding to contentious political posts. Especially mis/disinformation

Is it OK to do so? If somebody makes a post on Facebook does that automatically give “friends” an implied right to respond in with civil discussion? My cousin for example, has been posting some rather divisive, often racist and certifiable as propaganda political posts. Often she posts an article or video and poses a questions. Sometimes it’s just, "Look at this video from the Epoch Times or RT! SHENANIGANS! What they (often the MSM) don't want you to know." More inside..... [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 4:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Please, help us identify this movie!

My SO is trying to remember a thriller released sometime between the mid-90s 2010. Involved a house in a forest, a kidnapping. A few more details inside. [more inside]
posted by aquamvidam at 3:36 PM PST - 19 comments

Does my shelf have termites?

Is this termites? We've had them (in CA) in the past, but before it looked like frass and this is a very fine powder like flour. [more inside]
posted by lemonade at 3:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Civil Rights Movement 201

Looking for books about the US mid-century Civil Rights movement that focus on strategy, decision making process and organization building. I'm looking to learn about the arguments, debates, and ultimate decisions made on how to carry out campaigns. Please take me to the rooms where SNCC members decided to refuse bail and where CORE chose to ride interstate buses.
posted by latkes at 3:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Did Edgar Allan Poe write this story?

Tiny crawling / itching sensations while in bed AND sometimes with the lights on have been plaguing me the last two or three nights. No welts (although I don't always react to insect bites). Help needed ASAP. [more inside]
posted by Sheydem-tants at 2:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Gynecologist recommendations in NYC

My much loved gynecologist has unexpectedly shut shop during Covid-19 and can't really be reached for referrals. Is there a gynecologist you love and would recommend in NYC - Brooklyn or Manhattan? I'd prefer someone easy to talk to, (I often have a lot of questions) who is gentle and is good with questions around fertility.
posted by whatdoyouthink? at 1:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Two-person desks

My partner and I are re-doing our home office and we'd like to get one long desk (max of 10 feet in length) we can both sit at. Interested in all your recommendations. Thanks!
posted by DavidNYC at 12:26 PM PST - 14 comments

Creating "style" quizzes.

I would like to create a "What kind of _____ are you?" quiz for a work training. [more inside]
posted by wg at 12:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Coffee without getting out of bed

I've just accepted a job with an earlier start time than I'd like, so it's time to make my dream of having a coffee making device on my nightstand become reality. What should I buy that is the best compromise between simplicity and not-entirely-awful coffee? [more inside]
posted by soleiluna at 11:46 AM PST - 25 comments

Grammar rule for a singular container of plural items

In English we have terms like "pencil case", "shoe box", "tool box", "cocktail bar", where we use the singular even though the contents are assumed to be plural, i.e. more than one pencil, shoe, tool or cocktail is intended to be inside. Is there a name for this rule and is it ungrammatical to break it, e.g. "bookmarks bar".
posted by w0mbat at 11:18 AM PST - 18 comments

Best car phone mount to hang from useless nav screen?

I would like to put my phone over my car's navigation screen. What is the best phone holder for this given that (1) suction cups degrade quickly in the heat; (2) it needs to be secure; (3) the number of options is daunting. [more inside]
posted by *s at 11:16 AM PST - 5 comments

Overwhelmed

I am a freelancer with a capricious work ethic and about 6 jobs on the go, and I find it really hard to manage them all. Advice? [more inside]
posted by nouvelle-personne at 10:32 AM PST - 8 comments

Passive text data- iOS

I’m proposing a research study that would involve getting people’s permission to share passive data from their cell phones (in particular, number of texts, but not the content of texts). In the past I believe you could have people install an app that made this possible, but my collaborator who does this kind of work is saying that iOS has totally pulled this functionality, and Androids might be going the same direction. Is this true? Is there any way that I’m not considering to gather text data from iPhones, other than asking people to self-report?
posted by quiet coyote at 9:55 AM PST - 2 comments

dresses after weight gain/ body proportion change

What is flattering for me now [more inside]
posted by Tim Bucktooth at 9:39 AM PST - 17 comments

"I just don't feel a spark."

As a woman in my late 30's, this is the feedback I most often receive after first dates. I approach the dates with openness, curiosity, and playfulness. I ask questions and am working on sharing more about myself, too. I know that chemistry is important. For me, chemistry is something that builds. I rarely feel a spark on the first date. And there is rarely a second date. How can I do better? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:37 AM PST - 20 comments

How does this scam work?

I idly answered an ad on Facebook looking for product testers for a webcam from an established company. I got a response purporting to be from the company, and although it seems too good to be true, and I'm sure it's a scam, I can't see how the scam works. Help me out. [more inside]
posted by spielzebub at 8:24 AM PST - 15 comments

Looking for a particular Golden Balls episode

Beverly and Jane are splitting a pot of £11,210. Used to be on YouTube but... I won't give spoilers, but if you know where I can find it.... Also, more generally, is there an archive of Golden Ball episodes anywhere?
posted by maddalo at 8:23 AM PST - 0 comments

So you can change the tuning of a harp on the fly?

This is not even like a question. So I was watching this video. It's the legendary Classical Gas. But, starting already from around 1 minute in, and up until the end, she's switching something up on the top of the harp. She's changing the tuning, right? Or what? It's just I've never seen stuff like this and I just want to ask what is she doing? I mean usually instruments don't work like that...
posted by Pyrogenesis at 8:18 AM PST - 7 comments

How long does it take to tell whether stucco installation is good?

We are in negotiations to buy a house in southeast Pennsylvania. The house is about 15 years old and during the inspection, the stucco was found to be damaged with wood rot/water damage behind the stucco. The seller is going to pay to have the stucco remediated. The stucco installation has a 2 year warranty. Is 2 years enough to know whether it’s been done correctly? Would an inspection 18-23 months after installation show deficiencies? Or would the effects of poor installation not become apparent until later? [more inside]
posted by jschu at 8:10 AM PST - 4 comments

Talking with child about choosing bewteen parents

I have a 12 year old, and am separated from the other parent (OP). 50/50 custody. OP has started talking to me about moving out of state, with the child. I disagree, but in the end I'm interested in what is best for the child. I think from comments from the child, that OP has started to discuss this with the child as well. So how should I step into these murky waters - if I should at all? Thank you! [more inside]
posted by life moves pretty fast at 7:59 AM PST - 19 comments

expandable text fields in an online form?

I have a customer who uses Adobe Acrobat to create online fillable PDF's. Her forms, though, don't have expandable text fields, and they need to. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 7:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Wild West: Work negotiations in the time of COVID

How to best negotiate "We are in survival mode. Starting now, we will all have a reduced salary of X% across the board." Recently started a job and this is not what I signed up for (salary reduction plus COVID-related stuff that is beyond their control). This is making me reconsider the job. I would like suggestions/ideas for how to negotiate effectively and not sound like an inconsiderate jerk. [more inside]
posted by wonder twin powers activate form of a sock puppet at 7:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Ordered, paid via paypal, shows delivered to another state, what now?

Ordered a thing on the internet, paid with PayPal. Never got it, filed a dispute, dispute closed because it was later delivered (but to an address in a different state). What next? [more inside]
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints at 6:59 AM PST - 10 comments

My dumb cat ate two raisins

My sweet but stupid cat ate two raisins when I wasn't looking, and they're poisonous to cats like they are to dogs apparently. I rang the vet and they said to keep an eye on her for now and hopefully she'll just throw up. I'm sort of freaking out though - how likely is 2 raisins to be serious in a 10 pound cat? How do I know if a cat that normally sleeps all day is lethargic? What should I be looking out for? When should I rush her to the hospital?
posted by stillnocturnal at 4:31 AM PST - 12 comments

September 1

Creatives with day jobs — how do you run your life?

I have a practical career with a day job that pays the bills and one that is more fulfilling and artistic / creative - common setup, I think, for artistic types. I’m about 7 years into each of them, so in the thick of things and working on challenging, engaging stuff on both sides (with the inevitable annoyances), but I'm finding I’m often at my limit for how much mental bandwidth to work on challenging projects. If you are in the same boat, I'd love to hear your approach to accomplishing your stuff while staying sane! [more inside]
posted by internet of pillows at 9:00 PM PST - 7 comments

How safe does private room/long distance train travel seem these days?

I'm not actually considering traveling any time soon. I've been on the cautious end of the spectrum since March. But I'm wondering if people are edging back into long-distance train travel (or perhaps if people have been doing it more than I imagine) and how safe or unsafe it seems to the hive mind. [more inside]
posted by less of course at 6:55 PM PST - 12 comments

Put foot in mouth at work, now I can’t stop thinking about it. Help!

Accidentally insulted my boss today and I don’t know how to stop anxiously thinking about it. [more inside]
posted by mekily at 6:28 PM PST - 19 comments

Style while lounging/working from home

Stylish womxn of mefi: what are you wearing at home during this pandemic? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 6:26 PM PST - 21 comments

Do I have any shot at Italian citizenship?

I'm pretty sure the answer is no, but I want to put this fantasy to rest. [more inside]
posted by swheatie at 5:54 PM PST - 24 comments

Is there a cheap vacuum that would work on this thick wool rug?

I want to buy this rug. It would be the only rug I have, and some internet research leads me to believe a stick vacuum isn't good for this type of rug. [more inside]
posted by Mavri at 5:06 PM PST - 9 comments

What to watch on the big screen?

What movies are especially visually appealing when seen on a really large screen with decent sound in near-total darkness? [more inside]
posted by true at 2:02 PM PST - 75 comments

Help our magazine not be seen as spam by Facebook

We've been trying to grow our social media presence. Lately (I'd say it's been the past three or four months, but the last six weeks especially), Facebook is actively working against us. How do we get Facebook to allow our content? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:00 PM PST - 8 comments

What was it like at Betty Meyer's Bullwinkle Cafe?

I lived in Rochester, NY for a while. I always meant to visit Betty Meyer's Bullwinkle Cafe and didn't ever get there before they closed. What songs would have regularly been in rotation there? (I'm generally familiar with the concept of the Great American Songbook and that "standards" exist. I'm looking for specifics where possible.) Are there other establishments like this, a cross between a piano bar, a participatory experience, and a time machine?
posted by knile at 1:05 PM PST - 1 comment

Did I buy the wrong grape leaves for fermentation?

Going to be making some fermented giardiniera. I don't have weights to keep the veggies submerged. I'd heard somewhere that putting grape leaves on top can work to keep things in the brine, and may even help keep things crisp (due to tannins in the leaves). But now I'm wondering if I bought the wrong kind? (see inside) [more inside]
posted by dnash at 12:35 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me unf*ck my kitchen floor

How do I make this old grease-stained kitchen floor look better? [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 12:22 PM PST - 20 comments

seeking public domain stories/poems/plays for winter holidays

I'm working on a podcast that is dramatic readings (some plays, longform poetry, short stories, etc.) and we are using things that are in the public domain so that we don't have to worry about copyright or licensing, and can adapt them if needed. For December, we want to do episodes around Christmas, the Winter Solstice, Hanukkah, Kwanzaa, and New Year. Looking for suggestions of stories, poems, plays, or other narratives that are in the public domain, or otherwise available for free or relatively low-price production? [more inside]
posted by firei at 11:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Cooking with SCIENCE

Please recommend texts (books or websites) that explain the physics and chemistry of cooking. [more inside]
posted by signal at 11:31 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me find something positive to read about running short distances

I'm looking for some things to read about running regularly but briefly. I know, intellectually, it's good for my brain (also, I'm guessing, my heart?) to actually get out and do the 20 or 30 minutes of running, and definitely better than not doing it, but it feels small and sad to me sometimes. Help me find some motivational things to read. [more inside]
posted by purpleclover at 11:23 AM PST - 21 comments

Product to fill in between old wood floor planks?

I have an old wide-plank wooden floor which I love. However, there's too much space between the boards. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 9:56 AM PST - 30 comments

Protecting myself from my little covidmonster

I've lost a debate, and my kid will be attending his high school in person two days a week. How can we monitor his health or otherwise keep ourselves safe? [more inside]
posted by troywestfield at 9:34 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me vote absentee (California)

I am not sure if I need to re-register to vote (my current status is inactive) in California in order to vote absentee, or if I can just go ahead and request an absentee ballot. (I have been overseas for 10+ years).
posted by melamakarona at 9:23 AM PST - 12 comments

NYC Parks Filter: Where has cute gathering features?

I am obsessed with the tiny amphitheater and curved benches of Seward Park in Manhattan's Lower East Side. What other parks have features like this that are good for small meetings. Think: poetry reading, storytime, etc. Also interested in knowing about: Any park with covered pavilion space Any NYC public space with good outdoor wifi, perhaps where one could host a computer lab of sorts.
posted by wowenthusiast at 9:23 AM PST - 6 comments

good coil spring mattress - in a box?

I know there's a bajillion mattresses you can buy online now. Can you get any that are magically all spring, no foam? [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 8:30 AM PST - 5 comments

Apartments in the Time of Corona

Moving down to Denver and would appreciate any advice about apartment searching from those who know the area, as well as "is this normal?" for some apartments questions [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 7:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Plant rescue advice

My new next-door neighbors are planning to cut down a few mature plants that we'd like to try to rescue. Realizing it's probably a terrible time of year to transplant anything, how can we make the best of this? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling at 6:53 AM PST - 12 comments

Buy a hybrid?

Does it make sense for me to buy a hybrid if 95 percent of my driving is freeway driving? [more inside]
posted by gt2 at 6:10 AM PST - 26 comments

Where to stop with kids on drive from Liverpool to London?

We are driving from Liverpool to North London on Friday with our two small kids! We'd love to stop once or twice to stretch our legs and get something to eat. Any thoughts? (Bonus: breakfast ideas in Liverpoool?) [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 5:33 AM PST - 6 comments

Detecting electrical cables in a wall when all the detectors seem crappy

We want to put up shelves at home. We have one of these stud/cable detectors, but it doesn't work reliably. Based on user reviews, neither do the much more expensive ones (like this). We really need the extra storage shelves will bring, but right now I'm nervous about drilling anywhere until I can be confident we're not going to hit a wire. How can we drill with confidence? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 3:47 AM PST - 19 comments

Yet another podcast recommendation question

I'm looking for short (max 30min), to-the-point, nonconversational podcasts about productivity, time management, parenting, family life, frugality, minimalism and/or health. [more inside]
posted by gakiko at 2:08 AM PST - 4 comments