September 2017 Archives
I’m curious if my recent relationship was a classic rebound scenario. Or if we just weren’t compatible. And if it’s salvageable. And how to stop beating myself up. [more inside]
I'm having a hard time concentrating, so I'm following doctor Google's advice and trying to relax my noggin. I'd like to have some short, funny, and fun videos to turn to this weekend. What are your favorites? [more inside]
I am trying to use liquid oils where possible instead of solid fats. I struggle with this a bit when it comes to something to put on bread/toast. First, what would be your best recommendation for a buttery *tasting* oil? (I mean, with no artificial flavours.) Is my best bet flax oil? Hemp? Some particular kinds of olive oil that aren't bitter? Second, is there any way of getting a liquid oil to perform something approaching the same function as a spreadable solid fat - being a barrier between bread and sandwich filling?
I like wit in my music. (I like other things too, but that's for other questions.) Examples of songwriters I do like: Kirsty MacColl, Warren Zevon, Randy Newman, Nellie McKay. Can y'all point me to some more in that vein? [more inside]
I am a mid-20s male, and have been dealing with constipation-predominant IBS for several years. Generally, fiber supplements are enough to keep me regular. However, sometimes I continue to get a very annoying (though painless) tingling, "anxious", nauseous feeling in my intestines even several hours after "going" successfully. What could this be? (See details.) [more inside]
I've just slipped a lumbar disc. If you've experienced this: what can I expect in terms of recovery time and ability level over the next little while? [more inside]
Today my computer quit outputting video. The computer has on-board video. My monitor is connected with a regular monitor cable and it shows "no input" when connected to the computer but works normally when connected to a laptop. My TV is connected to the computer with an HDMI cable and it also shows "no input" when connected to the computer but works fine otherwise. [more inside]
I like to watch TV with closed captions. For some of the channels, the font is rendered extra bold, making it impossible for me to read (examples). Any idea what’s happening? Possibly relevant: the TV is a Telefunken and I am in Germany.
I'm 35, but took birth control pills without placebos for ten years. No periods for ten years! It was amazing! Now what? [more inside]
I've been in a nothing-hits-the-spot fiction rut for a WHILE. Last thing I read that I liked was Matt Ruff's Lovecraft Country, though I never read horror, otherwise. I think I am looking for well-paced tales of triumphant ass-kickery,* which is not, unfortunately, an Amazon category. [more inside]
Where to go and what to do when fresh paint and laminate flooring (in a fresh apartment or rental house) and mold and mustiness (in an older apartment or rental house) are both anathema? I'm seriously in a difficult situation now and not sure how to proceed. The short-term lodging I did find is not great and also slightly allergenic, and will be worse if cold weather forces closed windows. [more inside]
The last 3 years have been a shit show, and all the way through my best friend has been pretty good at being there, despite living on the other side of a large city. Now it's reached the pinnacle, and my dad has died - and she's totally just stepped back and is acting weirdly. Any ideas? [more inside]
I have been put on a low-fiber/low-residue diet and am struggling to come up with meals. Please hope me? [more inside]
I teach adults. One of my female students (Ann) has become uncomfortable with the attentions of a male student (Bob) in and out of class. Difficulty: Ann is a recent survivor of domestic assault/stalking, so she does not want to be the one to approach Bob; however, Bob is living with a traumatic brain injury and does not pick up on social cues--someone is going to have to tell him directly to stop what he's doing. Ann wants me to talk to Bob about it on Monday. How do I handle this? [more inside]
A FB friend noted they were upgrading their website to https because Google is saying that in Chrome v62 pages with forms and all pages visited in Incognito mode will be marked as not secure. That happens on October 1st. I don’t have any data entry fields on my websites (several domains at the same host), so should I be concerned and do something about it? [more inside]
Please help me understand whether this legal bill is fair, and if not what I have a right to expect. [more inside]
Seeking recommendations for a relationship therapist or counselor in Houston, Texas. [more inside]
I'm working on a new room in my boat and noticed a couple of unusual looking dents in the steel. What are the odds of them being bullet dents? [more inside]
This post on Roland Barthes has inspired me to run with a long-running urge I've had to put together a greatest hits reading list of classic (but not classical) philosophy essays. The thing is I'm not, nor have I ever been a philosophy major, so my list probably has some big holes in it. I've put what I've thought of so far below the fold, what would you add? [more inside]
We recently bought this gas fire table for our patio. Now that we've got it unpacked, we see the owner's manual issues dire warnings against leaving the unit exposed, meaning we are supposed to cover it with its cheap vinyl cover whenever not in use. So instead of the pretty little patio addition I was hoping for, we are stuck looking at an ugly beige plastic cube for most of the year. How can I dress this up? [more inside]
I’m looking for resources that will help me recover from a porn addiction that I’ve had for many years but only recently has caused negative consequences in my life. [more inside]
This week, NYPD swarmed the alley behind my building, seemingly looking for one of my neighbors. Three officers crouched behind an NYPD vehicle with guns drawn and pointed toward the end of the alley for at least twenty minutes (I think it was closer to 35). They were later accompanied by an officer with a dog and then at least five more officers in helmets, vests, and a couple of riot shields. [more inside]
We have a clique at work. They are small and powerful. They include our boss and a super capable worker. They're not bad, they just have an exclusive "members only" club. The "club" jockeys and lobbies for training and opportunities and they get them, leaving everyone else in the backwaters and dead ends. How do you deal with that? [more inside]
Please share your favorite recipe(s) for food that is cooked and/or served in a pumpkin or other squash. Restriction: no wild rice. [more inside]
I work in a flat organization - i.e., few managers, less hierarchy - as a software developer on a medium sized team. I'm wondering how hard work is recognized and career advancement happens in this organizational structure. [more inside]
I want to make a directory of niche nonprofits, and I want people to be able to access it through a website. What programs should I use and how do I get them to talk to each other? [more inside]
I was in a car accident and made the (unwise) decision to go through the other driver's insurance for repairs. Now it feels like I'm caught in between a battle between the body shop and the insurance company about things like whether to use OEM parts in the repair and whether the company's adjuster needs to actually visit the shop to approve the supplement (what the shop is demanding). The latest escalation is the insurance company threatening to cancel my rental car in a few days (before the repairs are finished) if the shop doesn't yield to them. What recourse do I have in getting all of this resolved in a fair and timely fashion? I really just want my car to be like it was 5 minutes before the accident. [more inside]
I am a nonprofit board member for an organization likely going under. What is my responsibility here? [more inside]
Please help me find the softest, fuzziest, most cozy pajama pants. [more inside]
I'm wondering what are people thinking about as they fall asleep. Do they play any mental games? Or do they picture themselves painting a wall? This is primarily a question for those who don't have trouble falling asleep. [more inside]
I'm complicit in a friend suffering significant pain and suffering. I want to (anonymously) make it up to him. [more inside]
Looking for outside the box salad ideas. [more inside]
I have ADHD. I am in a clinical psychology graduate program. As part of the program, I have to learn to administer an intelligence test. I just had my first practice assessment and failed miserably, but all of the things I messed up were things I knew, and recognized as errors immediately after. How do I prepare for my next assessment when my problem is executive functioning and attention, not lack of knowledge of the material? [more inside]
I feel like that is the recurring message lately. How can I improve as much as humanely possible? And how do I cultivate a career in journalism at this late stage? [more inside]
I have the standard American liberal arts education. I have come to realize that it is pretty lacking in certain areas. I'd like to read more history, specifically of India. Where do I start?
My husband and I both love to go out for dinner, but we’re spending WAY TOO MUCH MONEY on food. We’ve tried to be better at eating at home, but it seems like it’s either strict austerity or wild spending abandon and no in between. [more inside]
I've just finished watching North and South (the Gaskell adaptation) and I'm after more brooding men and intelligent, fiesty women for my viewing pleasure. [more inside]
I’d like to try food of the world, and I’d like to make it myself. Please give me recipes for the favorite food from your country. Preferably something I can make without having to order ingredients online, or burying a fish for six months; but I’m open to that as well if the dish is worth it. Main courses preferred, but again I am open for anything, and I do not mind several suggestions from the same country. Thanks!
Is there a particular personality test you've used that you learned from? Which one? Why? [more inside]
I'm an mid-20s male that has 5 vacation days to use before the end of the year. I have some spare money, and I'd like to spend it on experience, rather than things. Where do you recommend I visit? Details inside! [more inside]
I will be starting a partial hospitalization program next week Tuesday for depression and anxiety. If you have experience with programs like this, what can I expect? What are the days like? How intense is it likely to be? What else do I need to know?
According to an aside in this article, modern ethics boards frown on useless “sugar pill” placebos in medical studies. Really? Why? Tell me more about this! [more inside]
Oregon coast? Washington? California? I've decided that a short (3–4 days) getaway would be just the thing to clear my head and sort of shrug off some of the past year. I'm thinking about the Pacific NW, specifically the coastline, but know nothing at all about it—except that it's beautiful and doesn't require a passport. That's a pretty good start. In fact, it might be the whole story. [more inside]
My kid (4.5, boy) goes to a Montessori pre-school that is pretty darn positive, but not perfect. He learns a great deal and is happy there. Last year in this same school I was sort of bummed that they didn't really do anything around African American history month or Martin Luther King, Jr. Day so this year I signed up (parents are asked to volunteer to help with a unit they care about or have interest in) to do one, presumably in February, or maybe late January. How can I not do this badly? [more inside]
My Calif. health insurance company just returned a claim saying that they will pay $30 less per visit than they used to based on the "reasonable and customary" charge they think the service should cost. But they used to reimburse at a higher rate, and it doesn't make sense that the "reasonable and customary" rate would decrease. Does anyone have advice on appealing? [more inside]
I need to move from the midwest to the west. The precise location isn't really important for this question. The timeframe doesn't have any hard constraints, but I want to do this within a year. I don't know how to go about looking for a job from out of state. I'll figure out the moving logistics later. [more inside]
We're going to update the small bathroom in our small condo in Portland, Oregon. In Europe, it's common for interior doors, including bathroom doors, to have glass in them. I'd like to replace the current solid door with one that has opaque translucent glass for reason explained below. Even though it won't be possible to see who is on either side of the door, how concerned should I be that potential buyers unfamiliar with this feature will be weirded out by it and look elsewhere? [more inside]
I recently remembered that in elementary school, for a kid's birthday, the teacher would spank him/her over her* lap, and the number of spankings was how old the kid was. We would all sing along and cheer "and one for good luck!" at the end, with accompanying bonus spank. We may have also gone up and each spanked the birthday kid, but my memory on this is hazy. This seemed totally normal then (early 80s, Midwest), but I can't imagine it happening now. What other normal childhood things from way back would be considered really outrageous today? [more inside]
Recommendations for rain barrels? That are nice looking? [more inside]
Someone on Metafilter used the term "repressive desublimation" in a thread I was reading the other day and I want to make sure I understand it. [more inside]
My doctor prescribed an IUD. I bought it. It was hella expensive. Before my insertion appointment I asked a few questions, and doctor and I both realized the IUD is a bad plan. Pharmacy wouldn't let me return. What do I do with this expensive but useless (to me) piece of plastic?! [more inside]
I'm looking to pad out my cookbook shelf with some of the absolute must-haves from all over the world. Which cookbooks should I get? [more inside]
I'm obviously not the first fiction writer to write about a sex-crime trial in New York City, but I might be the most ignorant. Surely someone has written some kind of guide to how the legal process works for fiction writers? [more inside]
Due to a neurological incident, I have great difficulty reading, though I love to read. As a result, shorter novels seem to agree with me more than longer ones--and ones told in first person seem easier to follow. Can you recommend first-person novels under 200 pages? Bonus points if they're on Audible but that's not a deal breaker. Note that I'm not looking for short story collections as stories are usually more oblique and therefore harder for me to follow. Thanks. [more inside]
I'm trying to recall a.. (semi-romantic?) poem that described an imaginary hour/time in which weird/absurd stuff happens. [more inside]
I am a grad student (master's) who will be defending and finishing my degree soon. After finishing, I had been intending to stick around for a couple more months to tie up a few loose ends. Now: my supervisor has died, I'm feeling pretty down on the whole research thing (see previous point) and I've received a job offer with a flexible start date. What now? [more inside]
I am surprised by how frequently I find out that someone has heard something from me that is completely different than what I thought I said. I feel like this happens to me ... 10 times a week? At least? At work, at home, about issues that range from unimportant to important. [more inside]
Please help me have a productive dialogue with my dad about racism in comedies and trans rights in all movies. [more inside]
My brand-new Wordpress site needs some backend love. (Ohhhh yeah.) Wading into the freelance tech/design world is my waking nightmare. How do I find somebody? [more inside]
I sent back $20 wings that were so salty, after the first one I couldn't eat any more. I ordered something else similar in price. Our bill was $55 ($45 after a promo gift card), but the table checkout tablet said the 20% tip was $15. I asked*, and the server said for him personally, he would tip a % on the $55 (i.e. gift card doesn't discount the tip) and he agreed with me that one wouldn't tip on returned food. He seemed genuine and added, "I'm a finance major, and I noticed that amount was wrong as soon as you showed it to me." Then on the ride home, I'm second guessing myself. He did the work to bring the food, was very gracious and apologetic about it not being up to par, and got me a replacement dish post haste. I gave him $11. Did I just stiff him $4? [more inside]
Please recommend software for photo / negative scanning and correction. I have a flatbed scanner (Epson perfection V370 photo). I have a good PC. I need the SOFTWARE - and I'm losing my mind. Piccasa is gone and I need something where I can scan, correct, and save. [more inside]
My father put in an in-ground pool about 10 years ago, but never kept up the maintenance. I want to clean it up for Summer but I need a checklist or something to work through because - oh god - this is an unholy mess and I have no idea where to start. [more inside]
I sent an email to a professor two weeks ago and have not heard back. He is very nice, and I think he just missed my email. How should I politely phrase a follow-up email? Assume I am so oblivious about this sort of thing that I need to be asking this question. [more inside]
Can anyone refer me to a Denver area mental healthcare professional (counselor, therapist, social worker) who has experience working with clients who have long term depression, PTSD from childhood, history of Rx abuse? [more inside]
My autistic fiancée is crappy at emotional labour. I want to link her to the big conversations here on MeFi but a lot of the conversations posit the person who is doing the emotional labour as the woman, and the person who is bad at it as a cis man. I need help talking to her about this, and actually dealing with it! More details inside. [more inside]
Pre-and-post marathon dining destinations sought. [more inside]
it feels complicated. I am going to break up with my long-term partner soon. Luckily, we are not married nor do we have kids. Unluckily, I wasn't sure about this decision until I bought a house and we both moved into it. [more inside]
I'm reading Ilf and Petrov's One-Story America (a.k.a. Little Golden America or American Road Trip), and I was struck by a quote that closely resembles the famous saying, "Socialism never took root in America because the poor see themselves not as an exploited proletariat, but as temporarily embarrassed millionaires." [more inside]
Does your local Mexican/TexMex restaurant serve a "Steven('s) Special"? I'm deliberately not describing the dish because I want to know if it appears on your local menu under that specific name. If so, where are you? [more inside]
My 5th grader's upcoming human reproduction unit has me thinking about how woeful my own public-school sex education was. I'm looking for resources to round out what's presented at school and realized one thing I really, really would have wanted at that age was a book with a bunch of non-sexual, non-medical, nude photographs that I could study serreptitiously and in great detail -(ideally with lots of different body types and people who look comfortable and happy). I managed to fill out a bunch of worksheets labeling vas deferens and ovaries without ever having a clear sense of what actual grown-up genitalia might look like, and I would have really benefited from the ability to just spend some private time demystifying bodies. I'm finding this difficult to google! Any recommendations? Has to be a book, since I'm not going to steer my kid toward looking at nudes on the internet, tasteful or no.
Our 16 month old kid no longer wants to nap. [more inside]
I have been told by many that my current search for career growth and development is limited by my lack of self-awareness about my own goals and desires. Please tell me how a 32-year-old american can improve his practical introspection. [more inside]
I am the only woman on a team of engineers. Recently I got promoted to senior engineer. Previously there was only one senior engineer on the team and he had taken on an unofficial role of team lead. Now that I've been promoted, this "team lead" has gotten really jealous and is trying to get me pushed off the team. He has also said on a couple of occasions that I need to "stroke his ego" more. I don't know whether I should stay and fight or give up and go. [more inside]
I'm looking for best practices for handling how to advance professionally within one's own field. Particularly when that field is quite small, low-paying, and involves enormous politics. [more inside]
I just discovered that hurricanes/tropical storms are named based on six lists of 21 names that are recycled every six years. The name I've chosen for my unborn child is on one of these lists, and starts with one of the middle letters, making it highly likely that my kid will share a name with a destructive storm in her lifetime. Knowing this, would you choose a different name? [more inside]
I have many ebooks or documents I would like to treat as such. This includes, e.g., lots of comics in .cbr format. How are people these days storing their digital data in such a way that they can see what they've got and browse for interesting things. Is there cataloging software that is good for this? (I use Macs and iOS devices.) Basically I would like to recreate as closely as possible the experience of looking through a bookshelf.
Has anyone ever has a misdiagnosed rheumatic or autoimmune disease before? What happened? The rheumatologist says it's nothing, but it's definitely something- feedback from people who have experienced something similar welcome [more inside]
I made a small batch of hard-boiled eggs on Monday for my lunches this week. When I peeled today's egg (photos: 1, 2, 3), it was all pebbly, kind of like a golf ball. The inside seemed normal. It smelled a little sulfur-y, and I did not eat it. The other eggs from this batch have been fine. What happened? (NB- I cooked these eggs the same way I usually do, using the cold start method and then cooking for about 8 mins.)
I'm a bulk-cooker, making batches of meal components in advance, and am going to have a medium-term houseguest who is low-fodmap and I'm looking for inspiration. [more inside]
Our rental house's furnace system includes one of these. We've lived here less than a year. We tried to clean the pre-filter screens before heat season, and they have fur from our fluffy cat tangled inside. Recommended cleaning methods didn't fully work. Help? [more inside]
I have a 4 year old iphone 5. It is slowly dying. I resent that as a consumer I am expected to fork over $100 every two years for a shitty disposable smart phone, and closer to $1000 for a nice one. In the past I have used a very old nokia brick when my smartphone dies but it doesn't support group texts anymore. Is there a phone that will last years and support group texts? Doesn't need to be a smart phone. [more inside]
Does anyone make a small GPS tracker with the ability to use one's own data SIM for location reporting? [more inside]
Hi. I swear a lot. It's fun. I've been swearing since I was a little kid on the bus who dropped f-bombs (like this previous ask). I have a kid now and realize I need to curb that, but most of the obvious substitutions are really corny and cheesy. Help me out! [more inside]
Why would a doctor refuse immediate payment? The one doctor that was recommended to me in a sub-sub-specialty (scuba ENT, if it matters) takes a long list of insurances, but not mine. I called them up and they don't take "self-pay" (aka non-insurance) patients. Why? [more inside]
(YANMMD) I have had sudden onset severe post-partum depression following the birth of my son three months ago. I am in good hands with a great therapist and loving partner. I tried anti-depressants and had a terrible reaction. Lamictal *seems* to have been working but two days ago I broke out in the (benign) Lamictal rash. My psychiatrist would like to try a re-challenge. I am itchy, scared, and sad. Can anyone share their own experiences with a Lamictal re-challenge as well as any tips for dealing with the rash itself? [more inside]
After a prolonged illness, my stepfather passed away last Friday. I need help with so many things involving the death of a parent, as well as helping my mom with the loss of her husband. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
A few years ago I discovered a brilliant article about Americanisms that have stealthily entered British English, including words like influential, reliable, tremendous, talented and lengthy. However, upon researching more deeply I have discovered that the American origin of these words is disputed (I know etymology can be a fuzzy science at best) and in some cases I can find no evidence that they are American other than the original article. [more inside]
If a stranger's walking down the street looking like they're in a hurry that's not the right time to strike up a conversation. If you and someone you know are in a long elevator ride and the other person is not wearing headphones or otherwise obviously distracted it's probably polite to at least say "hi." What about everything in between? [more inside]
I need help writing a letter to an elderly war veteran participating in DC Honor Flight. [more inside]
I'm 32F and otherwise healthy. I have an appointment today to put in a Mirena IUD, which my doctor suggested purely as a hormonal therapy. I've been really ambivalent (details below), and the internet is just full of horror stories. YANMD, I know, but any experiences, stories, and so forth will be tremendously appreciated!! (TMI warning) [more inside]
I booked an Airbnb for my entire family for Christmas vacation. Everything was going fast, so we found a new property but it had no reviews yet. It looked promising! However, now reviews are starting to pop up and they're almost all horrible. [more inside]
I am in the process of starting a book club with some friends and acquaintances. Can you please suggest some books which we absolutely should read? [more inside]
I am interested in a job at IKEA. For the life of me, I can't figure out what this job is. Kind of a bad sign, I know. Anyone who know what this job might entail? I did write the recruiter on LinkedIn but haven't gotten a response. Might want to apply but can't tell if I'm qualified. Journalist/communications/PR/Content person here. [more inside]
My wife and I are giving up on our city for reasons, so we're looking for new cities to which we can move our family. Current list of prospects is pretty long and we're not feeling terribly picky as they all meet our most important criteria. The complication is that I'm a C-Level Exec and I don't know how to find a new job at that level. [more inside]
I manage an employee whose job is becoming less necessary in the eyes of those who determine our library budget. She's in her early sixties, has been at this law firm for sixteen years in the same position, has no degree and no particular interest in learning new skills. Which has been fine! But her job has primarily to do with our print collection, which is being phased out in favor of electronic resources. I need to motivate her to learn skills which may make her less expendable. [more inside]
I'm looking for some interview questions with a practical / common library element. Most of the Leetcode/ HackerR<ank question sets have no practical knowledge component, and focus on abstract data structure algorithms. I do fairly well at these, but in interviews, the questions I get are more practical in nature. Is there a question bank in a book or website I can review? [more inside]
Camila Cabello’s new single, ‘Havana’, has two specific sections that I can’t stop listening to. My non-musician self feels like they have ‘umami’ — these sections possess interesting combinations of notes and rhythms that seem different from the rest of the song. Could a musician check out these two specific parts and tell me what I’m hearing? [more inside]
I was just diagnosed with Ulnar Impaction Syndrome and a perforated TFCC. My doc wants to shorten my ulnar shaft by 3mm. Does anybody have experience with this or other UIS/TFCC surgery? I'm just trying to get an idea of what to expect. Thanks!
I'm looking for a star wars parody in the form of text-logs from a mud / mmo. This initially covered Phantom Menace (which I believe it may have been a response to) but may have eventually covered the newer movies + a new hope. [more inside]
In the first episode of Ken Burns' Vietnam, the narrator says that Ho Chi Minh sent letters to President Truman that were never given to him. I can't find out anything about this on the web so far, any help? More inside. [more inside]
Yesterday, two of my colleagues were given notice as part of a re-org. Unfortunately, there are only three of us in our regional office, and I will be staying on. What's the best way for me to proceed during their wrap-up period? [more inside]
I've been asked by a fairly close friend (though not someone I spend time with regularly; more of an old/longtime friend) to serve on the board of his nonprofit. Help me make the decision. [more inside]
I know an 11 year old girl whose father is a malignant narcissist with a high IQ. Could anyone suggest how this child might 1) recognize all of the signs of narcissistic abuse, and 2) free herself and get away from him on her own (and get back with her mother)? [more inside]
Not quite sure how I ended up in this situation (bought my car used at a very crazy time in my life and may have missed a few things) but I have a 2013 Nissan Cube that I love but has mismatched tires. I took it in to a shop that I like and trust for an oil change and general checkup and got this note: [more inside]
I was watching something recently where one cop said this to the other. I realized I don't think I've ever heard anyone say this in real life! "Take a look at this," "check this out," etc, sure, but "Get a load of this" seems like a stereotypical movie/TV phrase that's ascribed to working class folk or bad guys, especially in the early/mid-20th century. Is this actually something thats's used by real people, today? Are there other similar phrases that are supposed to be standard but aren't really used? [more inside]
A search shows latest response on recommendations for B&Bs in New Orleans was from 2013. Am interested in Garden District or French Quarter (If away from noise/craziness) for 2 adults fro 2 nights in early October. Got any places you'd particularly recommend around the $140 or less range?
That pretty much sums it up. My husband is an opioid addict. He is trying to quit and I'm trying to decide whether to stay in the marriage. Yes, we'll be getting counseling but I would like to process this with others. I don't need or want a 12-step program and it seems like that is all there is. Thanks.
I'm shopping for a 15.6" laptop, but am finding that nowadays most have the keyboard is shifted to the left in order to fit the number pad. Is this something you get used to or will it eventually cause posture and alignment problems? Should I just get a model with a smaller screen and no number pad to avoid that?
A relative who died last year was becoming successful as an artist; her bigger oils were selling for £30,000 and are in museum collections, and books have been written about her. A reasonably well-known dealer wants to take on management of the remaining paintings. How best to optimise this so the paintings are not flogged off to make quick money? [more inside]
Can you add to this list of mythological representations of human traits: For example : --- Pandora: Curiosity gets her into trouble. --- --- Cassandra: Always right yet never believed.--- --- Narcicus: Wastes his life away admiring himself.--- --- Sisyphus: Endures endless repetition of meaningless tasks--- [more inside]
I am having a small dinner party tomorrow evening and have just learned about one guest's severe dietary restrictions. [more inside]
Looking for nice Singapore hotel very close to MRT in a cool nabe. I found One Farrer Hotel for $125 US/night directly above Farrer Park MRT Station. Nice pool, located near little India. Apparently not a great nabe for walking. That's not fatal, but....can I do better? [more inside]
Fun rendezvous happening tomorrow. I've become known for my playlists for occasions. Can you give me song suggestions for various categories? [more inside]
My wife recently bought some tubeless toilet paper, and that reminded me of a conversation at her mother's house a few years ago. Someone said something that I still don't understand, and I'm hoping you might help me figure it out. Details inside. [more inside]
I like true stories, but don't want to read about the murders, politics, traitors, base behaviors and negativity in the world--There's too much of that in life and I don't want more access to it by reading about it. I want instead, the happy, uplifting, positive, cheerful, perhaps funny non fiction narratives out there. Stuff that just makes you glad to be alive and appreciate the goodness in mankind. We need more of that. I want to read about that. Please recommend. [more inside]
I've had Fitbits for a few years and I like them but they have a tendency to get physically destroyed by ordinary wear and tear. Fitbit's warranty service is good but lasts only a year. What is a good fitness tracker that will survive (say) 3 years of 24-hour wear by an active and somewhat clumsy person? [more inside]
I find myself 30 years old, separating from my unfaithful husband, and moving back to my midwest hometown. I want a comforting and uplifting chick lit novel that will show me everything will be okay. [more inside]
I produced and shot a story on a paralympian for Wired.com and I never received the finished edited piece. I'd like to download the piece Wired published but can't find a way to download the high res file for my vimeo page. [more inside]
I'm looking for video series to watch for times that I'm at the gym (elliptical or rower). Something bright, mostly episodic, and will not make me feel uncomfortable if someone else sees what I'm watching. Absolutely no laugh tracks. Something I haven't seen already. [more inside]
I am a PhD student waiting to defend my thesis. My PhD adviser recently moved to another university in another country and they asked me if I want to join them as a postdoc. Is this a good idea for someone who wants to be a teaching professor? [more inside]
I am exhausted. I need to get away (though alas probably not until November). I am a very special heat-and-water-loving snowflake. I'm looking for hotels in Philadelphia and/or DC that are not Kardashian-level expensive, are located in the city centers, and feature really nice wet areas (sauna, steam room, hot tub, indoor pool) that are available to guests without also having to pay for other spa services. (I'd be cool with a small additional fee.) [more inside]
I'm creating a Kickstarter campaign and want to use animated GIFs to demonstrate some product features. I have some short MP4 files—what is the best way to convert them to GIFs that are not distorted or extremely large?
As of yesterday (September 26), while in Excel, using the keyboard shortcut of Ctrl+H brings up the Find box instead of the Replace box and I have to either use the mouse to hit the Replace tab or use the keyboard shortcut of Alt+P to get to Replace. Since this problem began, I have closed and reopened Excel, and I have shut down and restarted my computer. [more inside]
Prompted by Boing Boing's spotlighting of the Text-only CNN today, and my love of MeFi and Pinboard, I'd like to know: What are your favorite text-only / Web 1.0 / pre-c.2004 Web design inspired sites out there?
I was raped over the weekend. I've got a really good support system full of great people, but I'm the kind of person who finds books really helpful, too. I specifically DON'T want memoirs; I just had to live through my own rape and I don't want to read about someone else's. What books can help me process this trauma? [more inside]
When stressed, my co-worker likes to walk around the office and blow bubbles at the rest of us. I really fuckinghate this and find it incredibly presumptuous (I'm not stressed when you are), selfish and distracting. Everyone else in the office seems to be ok with it. It's not an issue that she blows bubbles, just that she leans over our cubicle walls and blows bubbles, which get all in my face and/or computer monitor. She is not a supervisor, but works about in a different department in our open office plan. She definitely seems to view herself as helping office morale or stress. How do I talk to her about ceasing to blow bubbles into my cubicle, while still feeling free to blow them on others, without coming off as the office kill joy?
I'm an American Academic Science Professor, on sabbatical in Europe. My spouse stayed in the USA with my teenage child, my grade-school child is with me here. The time apart (about 6 weeks now) has exposed what appear to be irreconcilable differences in our marriage. Should I stay here for 3.5 more weeks ahead of a previously-planned trip back to the USA, or should I pack up and head home now? [more inside]
As a modern human I am the owner of too many email addresses, some of which are personal, some of which are for work (4 separate work ones at present count). I'm getting tired of being beholden to the work ones 24/7 (much like the French). In the spirit of actually clocking off for part of the day, can you recommend a way to disable the just the work ones after XX:XXpm and re-enable them at XX:XXam? [more inside]
My doctor ordered a CT scan after feeling a hard lump on my stomach during an exam. She called today with the results and I have two large uterine fibroids. I am following up with an OBGYN but in the meantime, anxiety! Do you know about fibroids? Can you be a voice of reason? [more inside]
I've suffered painful injury, and the doctor has prescribed a take-as-needed painkiller in addition to rest, ice, and NSAIDs. The painkiller helps, but makes me almost unbearably nauseous. I live in a state with legal recreational & medical marijuana, but I don't smoke and really the taste & smell. I know edibles are an option, but I'm more curious about tinctures. Questions below the fold. [more inside]
Enough with the excuses [more inside]
My door latch is really loud. It closes on a hollow metal frame. The door itself is not loud per se, and is hung properly. It's the doorknob mechanism. If I don't lock my door it's relatively quiet, but I would rather not leave my door unlocked all day. How can I make this quieter? Two second video with audio [more inside]
I'm looking for more stuff to watch on Netflix as I'm winding down for bed. Should be smart enough that when I can't fall asleep I'm not bored, but mild enough to not stand in the way of falling asleep. [more inside]
Does the MSA mainly make sense for people richer than me? [more inside]
I think I have rather low emotional self-awareness. Can you help me understand what happens when one is (immediately) aware of their own emotions? [more inside]
I had a panic attack at work today and started crying at my desk and I want to quit more than anything else, but I also know the whole "you're more employable when you're still employed." Still, it's making me miserable and my mental and physical health are suffering as a result. I need to make a decision and flesh things out and would greatly appreciate this community's advice. [more inside]
My husband passed away recently and I am trying to coordinate his headstone. Basically question about how you would interpret language or any other ideas for language. [more inside]
Im currently a field engineer in the Healthcare field. Previous to that I was a network engineer for the last 14 years. Im looking to transition into a fixed position in a hospital but im unsure of what transfers the best (Positions wise). For the past for years ive primarily worked in Cath labs supporting the equipment of my company. I dont want to go back to IT (Network admin, engineer, etc.) Ive been told I should look at Analyst positions or Apps. What would you recommend? BTW, I dont have a college degree. Thanks in advance.
The lab where I work wants to buy some sort of molecular model kit. There are MANY options out there -- far more than I anticipated when I agreed to help find one. It's also not totally clear what sets are compatible with what other sets/brands. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I am going to be flying in/out of Midway in a few days. I've flown out of O'Hare several times, never Midway, though. The company I'm doing business with has changed my itinerary, such that my last meeting with them is 3:30-4pm and my flight departs at 5pm. Convince me that this is not a terrible idea. [more inside]
Can you personally recommend an endocrinologist in Singapore? If not, how would you go about researching a good endocrinologist in a foreign country, from afar? (I'm not in Singapore but I'm trying to help a friend.) [more inside]
Don't get me wrong, I love butter. But I'd like an artichoke dipping sauce that isn't based on butter or oil, that doesn't overwhelm the mild flavor of the artichokes. This is for steamed artichokes, not marinated or grilled. There are a couple snowflakes involved. [more inside]
My ideal dress is at or below knee length (I am tall, so nothing that is even slightly above knee length), 3/4 to long sleeve, with a defined waist but otherwise on the looser end of things. [more inside]
Seen not super-long ago on the blue; trying to track down a fairly well-know poem about how your loved ones conspire against you while you sleep. Sadly that's all I can recall, except the first line may have been something like "we wish to inform you" (searching for which yields naught but the Gourevitch book). Ideas?
I wear a women's size 4 and I think I have wide feet. Shoes seem to fit length-wise but still feel small/tight, and my . . . foot knuckles? . . . seem to be pushing the shoes out. Problem is, size 4's barely exist, and size 4 wides basically don't exist at all. I also seem to have plantar fasciitis going on, or something similar. I have some ideas for workarounds and would love your feedback on whether you think they might work. Would also love to hear if you have other tips. [more inside]
Basically what it says on the tin: does having a BRCA1 mutation disqualify a woman from serving as a gestational surrogate/carrier? This would be in the U.S. (Philadelphia suburbs). BRCA1 carrier in question is 36, robustly healthy in every other manner, and has already had one successful pregnancy/birth. Dr. Google and PubMed were both of zero help.
Hoping for some recommendations for new(ish) webcomics. Some previous favorites: Dicebox, O Human Star, Spacetrawler, Bad Machinery, Freefall, (shortlived) Center for Otherworld Science, Digger, etc. Any help is very appreciated!
I'm always in a state of considering new careers but after a week away from a depressing, bureaucratic job, I'm back at my desk, wondering what would kill me less. One thing I've often wondered about in recent years is teaching. [more inside]
Are there any limits for how many times a proposed bill can be brought before Congress? [more inside]
I know such a thing exists, but I'm having a hell of a time finding any I haven't already read. I also have one particular requirement: no love stories. [more inside]
I may be one of the few people who enjoy bid management and fundraising. I am good at documentation management, procurement, recruitment, and development. However, I am looking for ways to be a better manager of campaigns and people where we may only have a few weeks to a month turnaround as well as managing the larger scopes these programs fall under which can last multiple years. Would Agile/Kanban/Scrum master training would be a good way to get these skills? Is there a way to understand discipline differences better for their applications?
We bought a home last week. Yay! Before we move in, we want to change out the range (for an electric oven + gas cooktop taking its place), sink, and countertops. This seems pretty small-potatoes for bringing in a general contractor (we've had trouble getting on peoples' radar for small jobs in our area). We think we can manage everyone ourselves, but we're not sure which people we need to manage. [more inside]
So I loved The Dream Quest of Vellitt Boe - I bought it last month, have read it twice and may well read it again. It had some qualities - enumerated within - that tend to define my very favorite fantasy novels. I am looking for additional recs. [more inside]
I'm looking for books about women without children who have quit their jobs and made a big life move. Bonus points if they live unconventionally (on a boat, tiny house) or in a new country. Love stories optional. [more inside]
Tech support! My Windows desktop and laptop have no problems with my wifi router but my iPhone drops off constantly. [more inside]
Planning a birthday dinner for a special someone and am looking for a restaurant that fits some specific criteria. I'm overwhelmed attempting to research this using the usual vectors (Time Out Chicago, Yelp, Chowhound, Eater Chicago...argh, so many!) so hoping for personal recommendations. [more inside]
Who was the artist of a recent webcomic that had a small, cute anthropomorphic brain being attracted to a sign with “Bad Thoughts” (or similar), and despite being warned away, it flies off with the sign and slides down it? [more inside]
Recommend me some music that celebrates Philadelphia as a city. Any genre. The song doesn't need to specifically call out the city's name, nor does it need to be explicitly an "I love Philly" song. I'm just looking for songs that are unapologetically Phila-centric and recognizable as such to those who know the city. I will say that I am looking for good music. Songs that are popping and have incidentally Philadelphian content are better than mediocre songs that are Philly beginning to end.
About ten years ago you all helped someone transfer from Gatwick to Heathrow within a 4-hour window. I'm going the other direction and my transfer time has one hour less. Please hope me! [more inside]
My 20 month old toddler loves to play in the park, hanging on bars, sliding on slides, and generally running around. But we live in Chicago and it will be cold soon. I have searched for indoor gym ideas - premade (expensive!) and DIY (I have no DIY skills), but most of it seems impractical. I am looking for ideas about what has worked for you, what you've seen, what you do with your active tiny children when it's sleeting and they are at the door saying "Park? Park? Slide?" [more inside]
I can't be the first person to notice that "magic e" often has the effect of replacing the "simple sound" of an English vowel with its "name sound" ...can I? [more inside]
I have a large fluorescent light in my kitchen that is super slow to turn on, only turns on after I flip the switch several times, or won't turn on at all. When the light does turn on, all the lights seem fine. On top of that, the cover is cracked in several places and the person who changed the bulbs for me last time told me that he thought the cover would break for good the next time it was taken off. What to do? [more inside]
How can I discourage my cat from urinating outside his litter tray? [more inside]
I have a 16GB iPhone 6 that's almost full. That's nothing new, but until recently, when it got this full, I've used a trick to free up memory, and now that trick doesn't work. I have a few ideas, but I'm not sure which to do, and how. Can I make the trick work again? Or is there an efficient way to identify and remove unwanted videos from Messages? And maybe to move wanted ones off the phone (but preferably not to iCloud)? [more inside]
I've been spotting in the middle of my cycle and it's freaking me out. I have an appointment with a new gynecologist on Thursday, help me help myself so I can ask the right questions. [more inside]
I’m reading Nuclear War: What’s In It For You?, which is great, but which was published in 1982. What should I read next to catch me from 1982 to the present?
I have a problem when it comes to shopping for clothes. Either I angst over a purchase for days and days, or I panic-purchase clothes I don't need. I have a wardrobe full of clothes I don't really wear. I need a strategy when it comes to buying clothes. Well-dressed Mefites who have a well-curated wardrobe of clothes - please share your secrets with me. Plus-sized female/female-bodied Mefites who have this down, I would be particularly keen to hear from you. [more inside]
I read, I think on here, a poem from the perspective of the parents of a child who was attending a religious nursery / school. The child started talking about religion and accepted everything she (?) was being told about it and the parents didn't know how to handle it. I've been looking for it for ages but I can't find it. Does anyone know what I mean?
What's a good console (and games) for family gaming? [more inside]
It's been a very stressful time recently, with spouse in hospital for months with life-threatening health problems, followed by major life-saving surgery and subsequent recovery; I had to deal with that plus raising pre-schooler largely on my own during this time, plus work. I'm now planning to spend a couple of weeks sorting out our house. Sounds minor, but I'm having trouble framing this as a positive thing. [more inside]
I like making decorative skulls. Here’s a favorite from last year. I’m making more for this Halloween to gift and sell, and I’m looking for some fresh inspiration, tips on merchants for supplies, etc. [more inside]
I have an opportunity to make a lateral move to Europe from the US. I'll most likely land up in a major German city. I am fluent in English and German (German a bit rusty). The work permitting will be handled by my employer but I will most likely have to carry the relocation expenses. I will eventually return to the US after a stay of about 36-48 months. It's a lateral move because I will be performing the same role but the business landscape will be entirely different - more robust and demanding. My wife and I have two sons (12,14) and I do want them to have the experience. However, it's a big move which would require us to uproot our comfortable and easy life in the US. I am partially convinced that getting "out of the comfort zone" is healthy or at least that it was I keep telling myself. Should I stay or should I go?
I'm an adult in my 40s and am generally an easy and undemanding friend, despite high-functioning depression. Lately I am not okay, and I want some support from friends who value me as easy and undemanding. How do I navigate this shift in role? [more inside]
Help. I inadvertently worked for a horrible human being. My name is on their project. Now what? [more inside]
I'm in Vienna for a few more days, and want to ride the best parts of the Semmering railway, hop off the train, hike about 10km back towards Vienna along the Semmering railway hiking route, and then catch a train back to Vienna at a different station. [more inside]
In this case, the language is Mandarin. I've been studying pretty intensely for 2 and a half years (at least an hour of speaking every day), but now I'm in China and am speaking even more. My throat has begun to get sore after I speak... my current theory is that my pitch range is hitting too many low notes and that has strained my vocal cords. That said, I don't really know what to do! Normally, I'd try to find a specialist doctor to take a look, but I'm currently in Guilin, China and don't know how easily I could find a specialist, and beyond that, I don't have great insurance atm (my insurance is more of the "we cover you if you break your leg" variety). That said, if you know of any experts I can talk to, I do have some money I can use to pay for that if it's not too expensive... [more inside]
Should I confess to a mistake at work I discovered that was made a year ago? [more inside]
I'm looking for a folk song I heard once about sailing, possibly named "Farewell to (a place in Newfoundland)". Hope me... [more inside]
How do I find people who would be into letting me photoshop their selfies and then post the results to my Instagram account? People who might be willing to take custom selfies (of their face -- no nudity or anything suggestive)? Or even, my highest dream, a band that would let me make them some free cover art? [more inside]
Short version: I have a mountain of not-ready-for-prime-time buttercream that I need help repurposing. [more inside]
Our fridge is on the fritz. It works 80% of the time but we spend 100% of our time fretting about it. We want to replace it at a reasonable cost. We are frugal folk so we went to the local Scratch and Dent Sears Outlet and found a good-looking fridge. It's the Perfect Unicorn of affordable + freezer on bottom + no water dispenser. We're in love with it but need some guidance. Help us decide if this is the way we want to go. [more inside]
I have ripped my many, many CDs to audio files, and now I almost exclusively listen to my music digitally music. Should I keep the CDs or get rid of them? [more inside]
We’re on a plane to London right now, arriving around 8 AM tomorrow morning. Where, near Covent Garden or Trafalgar Square, can we sit down and have a low-key breakfast around 9:30 or 10, that’s tasty and leisurely? No particular food preference, and no dietary restrictions. I know there are a million places around there, but the “leisurely” is hard to narrow down. ££ or £££ out of ££££.
Yes, I've got yet another Portland, OR question! What neighborhood should my girlfriends and I go to on our trip this year to browse and shop? [more inside]
I'm looking for the anti-Downtown Abbey, does it exist? I feel like I'm looking for a unicorn [more inside]
So I work for a company where I’m asked to use a really old MacBook Pro that is on its last legs. I spend too much time looking at the Rainbow Wheel of Death. After much complaining, my boss finagled a desktop iMac from a department that recently downsized. He said I could quietly use it as long as I didn’t let IT know... [more inside]
The Wicker Man (1973) is one of my favorite horror movies, and I'm interested in further exploring the genre of "folk horror". What movies/books do you recommend?
I'm looking into setting up a Wifi hotspot at a table at the NYCC to take credit card payments over Square. There will be multiple people taking orders, some with UK phones, so we want to use a dedicated device for this purpose. Oh, and it needs to work well in the Javits Center, and be pay as you go... [more inside]
Some Zen monasteries and other meditation centers and will host paying visitors who want to spend time in silent but *independent* retreat (who want to follow the center's general principles but not its schedule or group activities). Do you know one like this that you recommend? [more inside]
Fudge. It sounds like something I should learn to make. I've seen this previously, and will certainly try the Fannie Farmer version, but I'd love to try YOUR family recipe if you're willing to share it. Thanks!
I have an old H-P Deskjet 712C printer, which worked well last time I used it. It was hooked up to a WinXP computer in a room on another floor from where we need to use it. We had to start up the XP computer and send any print jobs through that, then go down and collect the output. All the other computers are Win7, and the printer won't work with them. H-P doesn't support the printer any more, so there are no drivers for it. [more inside]
I have been daydreaming about applying to creative writing MFA programs. Help me figure out if this is a terrible idea. [more inside]
I need to wear compression shorts while running, for medical reasons. These New Balance shorts have served me well (I love them!), but they're literally coming apart at the seams. [more inside]
Howdy. This was me. I have decided that I am going to move to Europe but I've never traveled much in the US. So I am considering taking 6 to 12 months to travel around the US while continuing my modest amount of freelancing. Have you done this? Got any advice? [more inside]
How can I best simplifiy my iPad so my elerly mother can watch videos and see pictures stored on the iPad? [more inside]
Looking for creepy tunes from the last couple years that could be used to add some fresh blood to a rotting Halloween playlist? Nothing that simply has words associated with ghosts or haunted houses, but music with a creepy vibe that are destined to become seasonal classics... stuff normal people don't want to listen to when home alone in the dark... [more inside]
Whenever I've lived in a big city (my experience has been in New York and Chicago), the USPS has refused to pick up stamped letters from the mailbox in my apartment building lobby, so I have to carry them to a blue collection box. Whenever I've lived in a smaller city, the mail carrier has happily picked up my letters. What is up with that? [more inside]
Last week my favorite MMO revealed that my favorite romance companion is going to betray me in the newest round of end game content. (Damn you, Bioware. Damn you!) A few days later I realized that a bunch of my go-to movies and tv shows also involve dissolving romances and/or betrayal. This is leaving me feeling way more devastated than is probably healthy. I need some happy romances that I can pretend I’m a part of. What should I watch, play, read, etc?
The Chicago Architecture Foundation is opening up 200+ locations for free tours during the annual Open House Chicago event. Out of this list of locations, what are the most rare and beautiful sites I can view? [more inside]
Yay, we're getting solar! I have a question about the wifi enabled monitoring system. [more inside]
I would like to explore SBIR funding for a some technology that my small business is developing and hopes to commercialize. I am completely new to this process, and the SBIR websites are very intimidating. Are there online resources that provide a gentler introduction to SBIRs and the application process? [more inside]
I'm looking for good or well-known examples in rock, pop, and indie of songs that tell a story (not just a single scene/moment, but songs where there are multiple elements along a timeline: A happens, then B, then C, etc.). Really, any musical genera is fair game, with the exception of songs from movies/musicals. Thanks! :) Strong examples: One Bourbon, One Scotch, One Beer (George Thorogood); Richard Cory (Simon and Garfunkel); Billy Brown (Mika); He Went to Paris (Jimmy Buffett); My Old School (Steely Dan); Maxwell's Silver Hammer (The Beatles); I am a Can of Tuna (The Chenille Sisters); Major Tom (Peter Schilling); Bullets (Passenger); Sunny Came Home (Shawn Colvin) [more inside]
Expecting our second child; went for 20 week ultrasound today, and emerged with a diagnosis of suspected brain abnormality - corpus callosum agenesis or dysgenesis. Just about managed to hold things together picking up no. 1 from daycare and through bedtime; now sat attempting to deal with the brute force impact stress, angst and helplessness of this. Looking for anything people can tell us about this specific condition, in themselves, as parents or professionals, or more generally about dealing with similar bombshells during pregnancy. [more inside]
On the weekends, there are all these motorcyclists who rev their engines and drive around downtown, moving in a circuit. They aren't actually going anywhere. They just drive and rev and often the noise is quite ear-splitting. I know that you can file a noise complaint about a house party, but what about motorcyclists? [more inside]
I read this book around 1990. It was a first person account by a fictional female Egyptian ruler, from her earliest memories to her death. I recall she married her brother the pharaoh for formality's sake, but the father of her child was an artist she had an affair with. It was set in one of the earliest dynasties. [more inside]
Where do you recommend shopping for additions to a budding collection, ideally recommendations that won’t break the bank? Websites with up to date listings to browse before going would be a real plus. Willing to drive a bit outside the city, if it’s worth the trip. Clothing, metals, equipment - open to most anything.
Salient facts below, followed by questions: We have “up to 500 Mbps” downstream residential cable Internet. Alone in the house, on my brand new phone, Speedtest.net tells me I get 84 Mbps downstream. It’s behaving more slowly than I’d expect for being the only thing on the network. Plus, at a given time we could have any permutation of Roku, iPad micnis, smartphones and laptops connected. Two adults and two school age kids’ worth of screens. [more inside]
Assume normal Earth air and Earth water. "Material" can be an element or a compound or a sheep or whatever.
After years of using old/cheap dishwashers, we finally have a new one. I keep reading that modern dishwashers/dishwasher detergent like to have a bit of "dirt" left on the dishes to work efficiently. I'd like to move away from rinsing all the dishes in the sink before loading the dishwasher, but how dirty can I leave the dishes? [more inside]
I'd like to use two hard drives in my laptop. It only has one HD bay. Please assist. [more inside]
I need to show a lender W2s from years ago ASAP. I fucked up and didn't keep them well filed and can't find them. What is the best way I can get them quickly? [more inside]
I've gone out with this guy a few times, and I cannot make out if my general..bemusement with how he talks about his ex is warranted or not. Details follow. [more inside]
So while I managed to get a pre-built system that I really like, with exactly the # of ports and drive bays I needed and wanted, and it works great - it moronically has no disk activity light. Yup. It's dumb that it has no disk access light. But I digress. More on the need for glowy usefulness inside. [more inside]
This is my first winter owning a house in a snowy climate. I will have to shovel the walk in front of my house every time it snows, per the city. I hate the cold and I'm a small weakling of a woman. What should I buy to make this job as easy as possible?
Nihilism is part of puberty and can be a marker of being "cool." Still, cynicism without hope during this time in history is disconcerting for me. Are there concepts I can discuss with a kiddo who does have some challenges that he would understand and that don't make me seem like a Pollyanna and/or and things we could do or see that might help him, gently, feel agency in his own life? [more inside]
I'm looking for an essay I read a couple of years ago and my google is failing me. The author was a woman who left fundamentalist Christianity (possibly also homeschooled, possible spiritual abuse). She compared her journey to Seven of Nine's path from separated Borg to human, like getting seemingly basic cultural things embarrassingly wrong, obliviously hurting and angering people who had been harmed by the Borg/fundamentalist Christians, etc. [more inside]
How to be empathic about anxiety without giving myself anxiety at the same time? [more inside]
[I'M BROKEN FIX MEEE filter] I'm always worrying that my SOs are holding a torch for an ex - and that I'm a figurative waiting room - what's the best response? [more inside]
A friend has been telling me about an automated restaurant / conference table that changes who your neighbours are and we can't find anything like it online. [more inside]
I have a mug that I am very attached to. It is possibly old enough to be considered vintage? Unfortunately is very faded after years of being run through the dishwasher. I would love to find another one in better condition, and also for the day that clumsy ol' me drops my current one. Are there sites I don't know of that could aid me in my search? Or is there a company, individual artist, etc. who can re-create it? [more inside]
Can you point me to resources for children's book writing? How-tos, what-tos, etc.? I'm thinking about turning this little story into something submittable because a few people have asked me (and my own kids love it), but I haven't the foggiest idea where to begin. [more inside]
What is the quickest and easiest way to keep water from pooling near our house when it rains without using heavy machinery or hauling away huge piles of dirt? Three sides are pretty manageable, but the fourth slopes down from the alley toward the house and looks like this.
I have 20-some tomato plants. I went away on vacation. It was dry and hot. Now it's cooled off and rained heavily. Many ripe tomatoes have cracked. I've harvested lots of cracked and uncracked tomatoes, and I'll give away the uncracked ones. How should I use the ones that have split? [more inside]
6 meetings into a newly formed local history book club, and while we've got good material and smart members, our discussions have been a little rambling, formless, and scattershot. I am looking for suggestions (either full sets of guidelines or just tidbits of practical advice) from seasoned book club members that will get us to more satisfying and comprehensive discussions.
An ex-girlfriend of mine initiated a return to romance I reciprocated. She still seems interested, but seems to have cold feet about committing. I’m happy to do things slowly if that’s what she needs— but how do I tell when ’not ready for a committed relationship right now’ means ‘not ready ever’, and how do I effectively discuss my concerns about this? Extended snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I'm getting a KitchenAid stand mixer as a generous gift, and need to figure out which one I want. I think I'm comfortable with the bowl-lift rather than the head-tilt models (unless I can be convinced otherwise). But should I get the 5 quart or 6 quart model? [more inside]
For the last 8 years I have used Mac; but due to the age of my iMac (2009), it's decreasing performance, etc., and that my wife bought a refurbished PC that is equally as good, if not better, than my Mac for 1/6th the price, I am thinking of getting a PC. [more inside]
I screencapped this photo from a vintage repro website. Now I want to/have money for the dress and I can't find it online. [more inside]
I first saw this one emoticon on Something Awful forums. It is composed of a thinking face emoji (either the normal variant or the thonk, or the goofy one). however, the thinking face is superimposed upon an equally yellow body. That yellow body is a capable facsimile of The Thinker, by Rodin. It's a large image, so not actually an emoticon. Maybe a sticker? Something like that. [more inside]
and I need your help to make a first contact with a dentist, for starters. After a depressive episode during my teens and young adulthood which at my lowest point left me locked up in my room for years, made me neglect my dental health and totally prevented me from doing normal stuff like using the phone to make appointments, I have issues with my teeth and when I say issues, I don't mean that I'm afraid that I might have a cavity, but rather that I have whole missing teeth already half-buried in my gum, blackened stumps, and abscess(es?); this is truly something from the Middle Ages rather than the teeth of an office worker living in a big city in a First World country with socialized medicine and heck, even people from the Middle Ages probably had better teeth because there was no soda back then. I fucked up, I know. But how does one go about fixing it? [more inside]
We used to be invited to another couple's house for Thanksgiving dinner. They live about three hours away so the trip there, dinner, and the trip back is a long day for us. I have pets that need to be boarded if I'm going to be away that long, and for a year or two we could manage it, but this couple would extend their invitation a week or two ahead of time and I started to have a hard time finding room at the boarders. [more inside]
I want to make my old Windows PC, a two-year-old Toshiba laptop, into a media center. What do I do first? [more inside]
Woodworkers and Designers - I'm trying to decide between polyurethane and Danish oil. [more inside]
A family member is having double bypass surgery tomorrow after multiple heart attacks following in-stent restenosis. They are mid-60s and in otherwise good health (no smoking ever, normal weight.) I am terrified. Can anyone tell me your experience and what to expect?
My best friend is clearly stuck in a spiral of poor health and depression that may end up being the death of him, but he lives on the other side of the country and I feel worried and helpless. What, if anything, can I do to help him? [more inside]
Trying to find a recipe that replicates the kind of snickerdoodles only attainable through tubs of fundraiser-related dough! [more inside]
Please take as a given we already have an appointment with our home vet first thing tomorrow. Our (otherwise very healthy) cat has had a small but noticable tic for the last 30 hours. She doesn't have the tic all the time, but when she does both front and rear paws lightly tic. When she has the tic, she still does her normal cat things - lies on her back, eats food and drinks water, etc., runs around the house. What could be going on? [more inside]
For reasons that aren't clear to me and probably don't matter, there's a job opening in my department that is a salary band higher than my current job but in nearly every other regard is the same job I'm doing now. I've been encouraged to apply. How do? [more inside]
Can you help me find the old Onion article which satirizes Farmville-type internet games? The thrust of the article was the silliness or strangeness of games which provide only virtual rewards in the form of virtual, in-game property.
Why would a scan of a private document containing my social security number that I emailed to my wife wind up in the photos section of her Facebook account? Is Facebook scanning incoming emails for photographs and moving them to Facebook accounts without permission? I have contacted Facebook and am waiting for a reply. Which Federal agency would have responsibility for oversight here? I will be doing all my scanning as PDFs from now on.
I'm an early 30's woman, currently living/working in an extremely conservative city abroad. I must cover myself head to toe, have no access to alcohol, must avoid friendships with men, and actually am not even allowed out of the building more than once every 6 weeks, due to major security concerns. BUT, I have vacation coming up!! Help me release my inner heathen. [more inside]
I have had lifelong OCD/Depression/Anxiety. I have tried a bunch of different medications in the past (including SSRIs like Luvox) as well as therapy, homeopathy (B vitamins), meditation and ketamine infusions. I am considering taking another stab at medications, even though I have never had success with them. My current psychiatrist is recommended finding an OCD treatment center because they would be up on the latest treatments. I live in NY. Where do I go from here? Details inside [more inside]
Plus size, high quality, deep colors, elbow length sleeves, does not show my bra straps. Why is this so hard? [more inside]
I would like to buy a female relative a necklace or bracelet. The relative is late-20s in age, and I'm quite a bit older, so I'm not sure what is fashionable with women of her age. [more inside]
Hi all - came across this dial, reputedly off an old Chinese fighter jet. Can anyone help me work out what it used to show? I've picked a pilot's brains and the twin scales don't mean anything to him - can anyone here work it out? Or perhaps just read the Chinese marking! It has an electrical input, not a pressure one, if that helps any.
I'm a US citizen, currently living in Europe but hoping to return to the US within a few years. I have money in a savings account, but the interest rate is very low, so I'm looking for advice on saving or investing the money in a smarter way. [more inside]
Looking for the song that plays at the 29 min mark of episode 104 of Reply All. This is the episode about 1-800 traffic pumping. [more inside]
What the rules of thumb when cooking and baking on cast irons skillets/pans? [more inside]
Two roads diverged in a wood, and I—I am standing there paralyzed with indecision. I am at a crossroads in my life. I have held a (basically) dead-end retail job for the last decade. I want to change. I have three basic choices: stay where I am, finish a college degree in Interdisciplinary Studies, or start a degree in engineering with a focus on material science. [more inside]
My wife has an iPod Touch 3rd Gen 32 GB, but is having trouble finding anything that will run on iOS 5.1.1. What can she do with a late 2009 iPod Touch in late 2017? Music, check. Accessing email, check. Anything else? Bonus points for something to use in the classroom for high school math. Also, no rooting. [more inside]
My boyfriend and I live in the US. He is currently interviewing for a postdoc position in France. It looks like he'll be receiving an offer, likely on a scientific/researcher visa. We're trying to figure out how I can move with him, but we're finding the process confusing and overwhelming! [more inside]
He's 14, a golden doodle, and the love of our family, but he's failing and it's so sad to see. What is the best course of action? [more inside]
Are transcripts from the Ken Burns series "The Vietnam War" available anywhere? I've looked all over but maybe I'm missing something. I find it hard to believe they don't exist.
I have the opportunity to move to the Detroit area (from Chicago) in the coming months. What is living in Detroit like in 2017? [more inside]
After having three major house emergencies (flooding, pest infestation, and now a corroded main sewer line) I have come to the realization that I don't know enough about preventative home maintenance. What are some of the key things I should be doing to avoid another major crisis? Insanity inside. [more inside]
There is a cart that delivers beer to employees in an office. What should this cart be called? Puns appreciated.
Planning a winter trip to Zihuatanejo with my parents, husband and 18 month old. We've been before (my parents go regularly) but noticed that the state department has changed their recommendations for this state in Mexico. I'm not overly concerned about crime in the touristy areas, but want to be sure we're not being naive given that we're traveling with our son. Would you go? If not where would you go instead for a similar warm-weather trip in Feb?
Recommend me books/articles where women are on the only or few of them in a hobby/career/sport. [more inside]
Based on a wonderful drink I had on vacation in Indianapolis, I've decided to take up infusing vodka with various flavors as a hobby. However, my process seems inefficient, and I've screwed up a recent batch badly. Please give me your advice // recipes // ideas! [more inside]
So I got this muesli recipe, and it calls specifically for *uncooked* quinoa and amaranth. They're added to a flaxseed/chia seed mix that you grind up and mix into the muesli. Is this a thing? I thought both quinoa and amaranth had to be rinsed (due to the saponin) and cooked to be edible. Cursory googling suggests that some people do grind quinoa raw and put it in smoothies or similar, and other recipes that involve sprouting it and adding the sprouts to stir fries or whatnot, but this seems... peculiar.
I found a brief news article from 1935 stating that none of the Radcliffe College Class of 1935 had worn makeup at their graduation. The article played this for laughs, but it seems there must have been some larger statement or protest. However, I can't find anything else online describing this event (assuming it was true and not concocted by the reporter as 1930s clickbait). [more inside]
Hi all, I'm having a surgery to remove stage 4 endometriosis in 1.5 weeks and the amount of anxiety I feel is so overpowering. How do I manage it? [more inside]
Is the Rockcrok safe to use? [more inside]
Is there a clearinghouse site for covering Caribbean or other hurricane relief efforts, reports from hurricane-hit areas other than St. John, ways to help that actually do help, ways to hold organizations' feet to the fire if that is called for, how to rebuild in preparation for future 'weather events', etc? [more inside]
Is Stephen Foster out of the question today? [more inside]
I'm a total middleaged instagram newb! please help answer my super snowflakey questions :) [more inside]
It's hot. There's a squirrel that likes to sleep next to our window AC. We're going out of town. Squirrel experts of MeFi, what are the chances this thing is going to invade our apartment and terrorize our cats while we're gone? [more inside]
Help me figure out a costume for a rare night out! [more inside]
Help me craft the best Barb costume ever. Glasses, blouse with ruffles/tie at the neck, red hair and freckles, sure. But what are the extras that will really sell it?
How do I make a simple one page, folding program for a concert in Microsoft word? [more inside]
What do i need to buy and do if the ink flow, not the glass, is broken? [more inside]
It must be a sign of me getting old, but I found my Googling ability faltering a little. [DISCLAIMER: This is going to be one of those SF-related trivia questions.] [more inside]
I'm receiving noise complaints from my upstairs neighbour on a weekly basis and at my wit's end. Even my landlord seems confused. I live by myself and rarely have visitors. I love music but only listen with headphones without exception. The noise complaints have all been due to volume from my TV. Sounds simple? Ugh let me explain inside. [more inside]
Basically, what it says on the tin. At a crossroads in my marriage and not sure what to do, and I'd like to get some perspective on how it looks to other people. [more inside]
Hello! I'm trying to decide whether or not to switch jobs. I've never done this - the job I'm at now is my first - and am soliciting as much advice as possible before I make what feels like a Very Big Decision. I'm a software developer, in my early 20s, and very lucky to make enough money to live the way I want as well as save for my future goals. [more inside]
I had to let someone go at work, but HR and my supervisor wouldn't allow me to say why. Is that normal practice? [more inside]
I just got a plug-in hybrid, but don't have any outdoor outlets at the house. The driveway runs adjacent to the side of the house that already has 240V service for a window A/C on a dedicated circuit. The charger is also supposed to be on a dedicated circuit. I'm thinking of pulling 8ga through that conduit and installing a 40A breaker (Car:16A, A/C:8A). Does having dedicated circuit matter as much if you comfortably oversize the circuit capacity? [more inside]
Looking for examples of movies where a group of different people band together to engage in a court battle against someone, and win (as a group/community/class-action lawsuit, etc.) [more inside]
Difficulty Level: Canadian with no family doctor. For my entire life, I guess, I've really struggled with anxiety (probably depression), excessive worry, low-self esteem, and so on and so forth. I have had a rough year and my situation right now is really not... ideal. I am seeing a therapist, but I am having soo much anxiety. Is it honestly time to see a doctor for some sort of medication? How do I proceed without a family doctor? [more inside]
My partner once ran across an article in which a woman studied families that have several members with schizophrenia. She found that each home had some weirdness. The example she remembers is silverware kept under the sink so it would be extra clean. She doesn't remember the name of the article or the author, and an old psychologist told her about it, so she believes this is rather old research. Can anybody point to this article?
Recently I've had to start taking insulin. I carry a messenger bag for work, and it has my laptop and room for a case of some sort. I have a bunch of stuff to carry including syringes, testing strips, my freedom lite meter, my insulin, and various other accoutrement. [more inside]
If I saw one roach in my new condo, are there definitely more? Do I absolutely need an exterminator or can I wait and see? [more inside]
How do we learn to draw a penis? This has been niggling at the back of my mind for years, and it is finally time I got to the bottom of it. [more inside]
What's the best way to add some water resistance to outdoor clothing? Is there anything out there that's better than good old Kiwi Camp Dry? [more inside]
I read a site that claims that soap doesn't get laundry properly clean, that detergents found in most commercial laundry powders are more effective. Is that true? And are laundry detergents still ecologically damaging? [more inside]
I'm hoping to buy a painting from one of these cities. Where should I look? [more inside]
Need advice on coping with my reflux/gastrointestinal issues which have been going on way too long. I'm getting really frustrated - details below. [more inside]
On certain medical student forums, I'm seeing vague-looking ads saying things like "the medical education system is corrupt", and link to this mysterious site, sponsored by an "advocacy group" called "Concerned Citizens for Medical Education". However, I cannot find any references to "CCME" other than their website and Twitter (which hasn't been updated). No contact information is on their website other than a generic form. A Whois search seems to link to...some kind of proxy service in Panama? Sure smells like astroturfing to me - but who exactly is behind it? [more inside]
I have a 1080p television. Today, I rented a Blu-ray movie for the first time, and it seems like the picture looks better than a standard DVD does (my player plays both formats). However, I am completely open to the possibility that this is all in my head. Are the differences between DVD and Blu-ray perceptible on a tv like mine? [more inside]
Started a relationship over the summer that got really intense, really fast (emotionally, not so much timewise due to competing family and work priorities). I'm poly, which he knew going in - but once intense feelings got involved he developed jealousy issues he isn't willing to deal with. He has proposed we "go back" to being FWB, which I'm not opposed to. Does anyone have any practical advice about how to let go of some of the feelings and cool things back down to a more casual level? (longer details available inside) [more inside]
Shady subletter filter: I sublet my apartment this summer and came home to find the place dirty and some items missing or ruined. Per the signed agreement between us, I cashed the check my subletter had left as a security deposit and emailed him with a detailed list of charges. Today I found out that the check bounced; what, if any, recourse do I have to get this money from him? [more inside]
A friend is trying to put together a seance, and is having a tough time finding a medium to conduct it. Anyone here have any experience or knowledge of such a person in the Bay Area?
I have a cousin who never actually says what she thinks. She has a front she puts up, and she does it to everyone. I see her on a regular basis, for Reasons. More below fold. [more inside]
I try to control my (almost four year old) kid's tv time. She always watches a 15 minute video or so before her bath at night (usually Bearenstain Bears.) A few months ago, she started watching another 15 minute episode in the morning while I braid her hair. I want to cut this out or shorten it -- ideas? [more inside]
Is there an app/web equivalent of the pill timer cap? These caps tell you the last time you opened the bottle (in days or hours or whatever). I want a webpage or app (iOS) version where I can get a list of things, and it will allow me to click to say "I just did this" and then count up and show me how long it's been since I clicked last. [more inside]
I want to make a playlist with a particular sound. I don't know how to describe said sound other than it reminds me of slow dancing at a honky tonk, as perfectly exemplified by this scene in The Leftovers (possible season 2 spoilers). I would prefer modern takes on this genre. [more inside]
I'm researching the donations a particular campaign donor has made in local races across the United States that concern the criminal justice system (e.g., elections for district attorneys and judges). FollowTheMoney.org plus the Federal Election Commission plus OpenSecrets.org give me fairly complete campaign finance data at the federal level, but only partial data at the state, county, and city levels. Where else should I be looking?
I have been a fan of his for some time, but can't seem to find anywhere online mentioning this, including his own site. I figure he would have certainly expounded on it somewhere, which I am curious about. Anyone? Thanks! : )
About a year ago, I filed a claim for cause contra a company (Let's call them Acme School Bells, for convenience) for compensation of injuries acquired in an accident. [more inside]
I've started a new consulting business, and the idea of special stationery fits it well. For example, high-quality journals, colored pens, etc. I am considering a few options but am trying to figure out if I'm setting myself up for a lot of needless work, or if this will contribute to my business. [more inside]
I'm looking for good sources on the practice and process of conducting archaeological digs. My Google-fu is coming up short on good sources because I probably don't know the right questions to ask, and university textbooks are expensive. Can anyone point me to good sources (video, books, websites) showing the process of surveying, extraction, etc? [more inside]
I need recommendations for tools to harvest and analyze tweets. I am curious about a Twitter troll farm or bot army and trying to figure out who is behind it — NOT Russia related! I'd appreciate specific recommendations as well as links to guides that cover the topic.
I am looking for two different types of podcasts: podcasts that focus on therapy and/or mental health aspects of specific people AND podcasts that focus on leftist history. Examples and parameters inside. [more inside]
Does anyone know of any shops in downtown Seattle that carry Camper shoes? I'd like to try on some pairs I found online. I know Sole Food at U Village has some and there's the store in Bellevue, but I'm hoping for a more convenient location.
I'm looking for new CD burning software that will allow me to drag and drop tracks from iTunes into it and then adjust track edits and crossfades. [more inside]
Has the website bolt.cd shutdown?
I work at an American startup. I remotely manage a two person team that is based in London. My boss tells me that it is inappropriate to compare the salaries of the two people, even though the rockstar performer is being paid less - and is a woman. I don't understand why. I could use advice on how to handle this as well as the overall sexist culture. [more inside]
I have to wear business casual everyday (chinos/wool pants, button up shirt). I hate it and it's killing me because I hate button-up shirts. Do you have a button-up shirt you love that's comfortable and well-cut and looks ok? Tell me about it. [more inside]
I am thinking of buying a glass dip pen but I have never seen one irl and have no idea how well they write. I have no experience with dip pens of any kind. [more inside]
I have a LONG document with hundreds of footnotes that currently are numbered sequentially. I'd like to add section breaks to the document and have the footnotes start from the number 1 at each break. I'm not sure that it's even possible. Can anyone offer advice? [more inside]
Work-related blues. Pay is okay, it's a family-run business, but a number of people are causing me to crawl the walls in more ways than I expected. [more inside]
I desperately need some help in working with a parent who not only refuses to acknowledge her teenage daughter's inappropriate learned behavior, but does not see that she is actively encouraging and rewarding the behavior. Worse, the mom sends blistering emails every time teachers try to help the kid. This parent is sucking the life out of me and my team and I need some help. [more inside]
There are SO many choices. I've tested big over-the-earphones and on-ear phones but you can't try the in-ear styles because, you know. I want them for some long (14+hours) flights coming up and also to be able to listen to podcasts and music in the house and outside walking the dog. Appreciate your advice and recommendations! [more inside]
Trying to figure out future pension/financial ramifications if non-US citizen takes job with US company. [more inside]
So, I'm going to Copenhagen next Friday. I've got some plans, but tell me something awesome to do. I have accommodation booked in Norrebro. Special art, design, day trips, and solo dining. I read this previous Ask and will hit many of those spots. [more inside]
Our 23-year-old lives with us. My partner and I are trying to figure out expectations, division of expenses, and how to encourage our child toward adulthood, and I'd love to hear about what other parents do. There are complicated factors having to do with disability, so do read, please. [more inside]
I'm looking for something to fidget with, not a fidget toy or anything made to be fidgeted with. For example, a pocket knife is perfect except that would be inappropriate at meetings and sometimes I am not sober and shouldn't be around sharp objects. [more inside]
Yet another question about selling jewelry. I found a few gold things that I can sell as scrap, but there is one distinctive piece that is worth asking about, a very intricate bracelet. Since I know nothing about jewelry, before I take it somewhere to sell I wanted to check if this looked like the kind of thing that might have additional value over the weight. If so, can any jeweler do the appraisal or should I contact one of the large auction houses? [more inside]
I'm trying to write a funny story about a first-time skydiving experience. I need help on the technique of funny. What are some examples of short (<1000 word) stories or articles about doing something dangerous for the first time?
Hello everyone. In case of an emergency, I bought an Anker Powercore portable charger for my phone. I'm not going to use it for day to day use, just for an emergency. Might anyone know the best way to maintain it? I'm thinking it's not good to keep it always plugged in, right? Should I use it to charge my phone once or week or on some other schedule? Thanks in advance for any advice.
I've had a long and kinda-stressful week at work and it's not quite over. What can I do to feel super-relaxed and calm when I'm in a cube farm? (That is, in addition to the large quantities of herbal tea I already consume.) [more inside]
Is the art of making puns an acquired skill, or innate? I am always so impressed when people come up with some dumb play on words based on their present situation. To be clear, it's the spontaneity that's the impressive part for me - the thought literally never occurs to me. Punners of AskMe, how do you do it? Does the thought just pop into your head, or do you have to actively it through first? Did you grow up in a particularly punny environment? Is there anyone out there who has become proficient in punning in their non-native language (English or otherwise)? Would also welcome references to any pun-related scientific literature.
I feel like suuuuch an awful person for asking this question, but... I don't know how to resolve it. I'm in a grad program and one of my classmates is trying really hard to become friends with me, but in all honestly, I really don't want to be her friend. How do I navigate this gracefully and with kindness? I feel so awful that I don't want to be her friend!!! [more inside]
Partner and I are considering a spontaneous day-trip out to Richmond, VA tomorrow. We have enough basic familiarity with Richmond to have a general idea of what could be fun to do, but are seeking insider tips and unexpected ideas. [more inside]
A female friend of mine works for a large multinational organization. For sake of the argument, she has been called "Sam", short for Samantha, for 5 years at this organization. Recently the organization hired Samuel Smith, then told Samantha that from now on she'd be known as "Samantha" and the new hire would be "Sam" to "avoid confusion." [more inside]
My business frequently handles organisational and personal data. As a business, how do we communicate that we take privacy seriously without making it a huge issue? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a list of the movies that got D's on Cinemascore. But I can't come up with the right Google search terms. The menu options on Cinemascore itself lead nowhere. Anybody know a trick? [more inside]
Apart from working inside an agency to learn its inner-workings, is there a resource where one can learn more about these things? Things like documents (contracts, creative briefs, price points, ...), processes, and strategies? How are these learned when one has limited experience working in another company? [more inside]
I'm seeking the name of an unknown comedian who mocked Madonna. He's British, probably in his 50s, and my wife and I saw him probably on either Youtube or Netflix. He did a very filthy and hilarious routine about sex with Madonna. What's his name?
What is the chunky beige residue that appears sparingly across the length of my bathtub? [more inside]
As a Christmas gift I want to print about 30 copies of a 6000 word short story, with black and white images, book to resemble a slim, early 20th Century bound hardback. All online or friendly, expert, London UK suggestions welcome.
I was doing some reading during downtime at work about Rojava/Northern Syria and was thinking about how I always read about these squats or communes and other places where almost experimental societies are cropping up. [more inside]
I'm looking for the best plus-size women's raincoat or rain jacket that fits my criteria (must be actually attractive and work for PNW downpours.) Wishes: Cute, good color, fits size 22/3XL, prefer a structured/adjustable hood and cuff adjustment. I would like a real coat for the outdoors, not a fashion-y coat. I tried a size 2XL from North Face and it was much too tight, though I could zip it, so NF is out. I'm open to a men's jacket if anyone has one that they think fits well despite being cut differently. I would not like to look like a box. Thank you for any ideas!
Air Berlin cancelled half of the flights on my trip due to liquidation/pilot strike. Customer support is saying I only get a refund for the specific flights cancelled. How do I undo the whole thing and get my money back? [more inside]
What books, audio, video, songs, affirmations, slogans, meditations, or other things have best convinced/re-affirmed you of the belief that "you are enough"? [more inside]
I'm looking for data I could use to populate a library catalog that I'm building. A while ago, I posted this on Projects. Now I'm at the point where I'm working to build my own catalog to test it out. The only problem is that I need some records to fill it with. Ideally they would be between 10,000 and 30,000 and only books. [more inside]
I'm looking for someone to make a website for a cool project I have in mind. In particular, I'm looking for someone who would be able to impart a unique aesthetic consistent with the content. The content consists of many hours of audio recordings of "Over the Edge" radio shows I did with the now-deceased Don Joyce from the noise collective Negativland. Ideally, the designer would be someone familiar with Negativland and/or Over the Edge, but not necessarily. How do I find this person? [more inside]
My nephew has wreaked major havoc on the family. Would a therapeutic boarding school help? How does my family go about evaluating a "good" program. [more inside]
It's an age-old question: you meet someone at a party, you start to enjoyably email each other every day, and after nearly a month of this he says he has a partner and gives you just enough info for you to realise he must be gay. And yet, he keeps emailing... [more inside]
There's a quote by Nabokov that I have been looking for all over the place without success. It's about the transition from Russian to English, and as I remember it, it involved the image of traveling between two brightly lit cities with only a candle/lamp/something to that effect. Am I making this up? [more inside]
I'm a big fan of the "one big barrette at the back of your head" thing. I have startlingly thick, coarse, medium-curly hair, and the few times I've tried to put it in a barrette, some part of the metal back bends and it stops working, or else my hair snags in the metal back and I have to break some strands of it to get the barrette out. ELI5 how to wear these as someone with high-volume hair, or what similar style to wear instead? [more inside]
I love to make my own chai, but can no longer have caffeine. What should I substitute for the tea? [more inside]
I'm a web developer (mostly python). Is there a good reason to update to High Sierra? [more inside]
Best resources for learning physics on a commute? [more inside]
My husband and I bought a house. It is a row house made out of brick. The back wall has asbestos tiling on it that looks a lot like this. We have hired a general contractor to remove the tiles. Should we put some new tiles or siding on that wall once the old tiles are removed? [more inside]
I am a freelancer living in Ontario, Canada, and am happily one month pregnant. How does maternity income work for freelancers? What should I do to maximize my maternity income? [more inside]
I'm looking for quotes that say that having a vision is not enough for a strategy, it also needs a plan for implementation and the allocation and co-ordination of resources. Basically something that sums up that it's not enough to have an idea, there needs to be a practical method for making it happen also. The pithier the quote and the loftier the source the better!
Trying to find an insert (?) for the top of a merchandiser fridge to replace the boring one it came with. Google is failing me, because I don't actually know what these things are called, though I'm sure there's a name for it! [more inside]
I have a copy of the flavor Bible and lo and behold there's no column for hibiscus! [more inside]
Which is the better dry cat food for a male cat (desexed) to prevent UTIs and blockages? [more inside]
I guess there's no way for me to get one ticket to Girl from the North Country at the Old Vic for tonight? I leave London tomorrow but have checked everywhere I can think of and it seems to be completely sold out. Any insider tricks I'm not considering?
Non-responsive keys on laptop; what more can I try? [more inside]
I am shocked at my lack of knowledge about bikes. Someone has a single speed Worksman bike for sale that fits my sudden need of a bike but I really need a 3 speed. Is it something that a bike shop could do for me?
I've been invited to a bad erotica reading. I need ridiculous erotica! [more inside]
You have a book that you are halfway done. It is not what you expected. You hope it gets better but it doesn't. Do you finish the book or call it quits? How long does it take for you to decide that a book isn't worth the effort anymore? What do you do with this book when you are done with it? Donate, Trash, Put on a shelf.
Anyone know if unbreakable hair claws exist anywhere? The ones I can find snap immediately upon contact with my hair. [more inside]
I have a black tie wedding, a used bridesmaid dress, and no idea how to style it so I look like a fancy wedding guest. My dress is a wine-colored version of this. I want to accessorize with some easily accessible, hopefully affordable accessories, but my jewelry collection is minimal. How should I style it? [more inside]
I recently moved to China from the US and made a bit of a blunder. I let my American number lapse thinking that I would just get a number in China... that has been fine, but now I don't know what to do for credit cards and bank accounts! I have a friend letting me use their physical address, but I don't know what to do about the phone number. More details inside! [more inside]
This hurricane season has been brutal. What NGOs are most likely to successfully deliver disaster, public health, and reconstruction relief?
I would ordinarily throw something like this out immediately but I am out of grocery money and this stock was made with a beautiful organic chicken and a pile of local veggies. Both were gifts. After eating the chicken for dinner last night, I slow-cooked the rest of the carcass overnight. This morning, I drained the hot stock into a pot and accidentally left the pot uncovered in the sink while I went to work. Temp outside today was a humid 75 fahrenheit and it's a shady kitchen. Keep or toss?
Asking for a friend: I need some help navigating the prison system. I have a cousin who is in federal prison in West Virginia. He was taken out to have surgery, and we have not heard from him in about a month or so. [more inside]
I've just bought a refurbished laptop to replace the former-job-assigned Mac that was my travel computer. It's adorable. And tiny. I have no idea what half its specs mean, and probably don't need to, but… what can I do with my new widget? [more inside]
I want to DIY a board/card game as a gift for my partner, based on a set of characters and world we have built together. I'm looking for already existing games to model off of or just reskin, rather than making a whole new game. [more inside]
I'm looking for a song women marched to in the 70s. [more inside]
Calling all Human Resources managers! I'm suspicious that my boss is up to something fishy, and I'm not sure if these suspicions are valid or not. He says the reason for the request is employment eligibility verification, however, I already provided these documents when I was hired. More details below. [more inside]
OK. Starting to do some long range planning. My wife and I would like to retire in three to eight years. Probably around five years from now. I would be 60 and she would be 65. Our after tax income will probably be between 2500 and 4000 bucks a month. House paid off. Liquid assets of $150,000 to possibly $400,000. No debt--hopefully. [more inside]
My sundew plant has been putting out lots of buds. Is this OK? I'm concerned because after my Venus flytrap flowered, it died. [more inside]
I'm trying to find a recipe my mother used to make in the '80s. I think she found it on the back of a package of turkey cutlets. [more inside]
I want to send someone a thank you gift for giving me repeat business. But the only mailing address I have available is a PO Box. That means I can't send chocolates (melty) or flowers (wilty). Do you have a suggestion for a small, business-appropriate gift that costs less than $50 and can sit in a PO Box for a few days without being ruined?
My father became (was not born as) an Italian citizen in pre-EU times, but he has been living in the US as an American citizen for roughly 40 years. I was born in the US. How can I parlay this into EU citizenship for myself? [more inside]
I have bipolar disorder and take mood stabilisers which helps with the mood swings, but sometimes out of nowhere my mood will totally plummet. There doesn't need to be any external cause although things like changes in sleep patterns can trigger it. Nothing that I usually enjoy (like cinema or music) makes me happy, the only thing that brings me comfort is overeating with takeaways and lying in bed all day trying to sleep it away, and my personal hygiene and self-care goes out the window. Obviously these are not good coping strategies. Thankfully I don't have issues with self-harm or self-medicating, but these episodes cause me a lot of emotional pain and I think my coping mechanisms make them last longer than they need to. I can't take anti-depressants with my illness because they can trigger a manic episode. What gets you through times like these, if you have this issue? At the moment I just have to ride them out but it gets exhausting.
Someone got promoted and they are earning their keep by creating new requirements that are arbitrary. This will reduce efficiency. Help me cope and consider my options! [more inside]
I'm an independent contractor who is struggling to get a grip on my money. I struggle with coding my bank transactions in a timely way, coding transactions from different sources (PayPal/Amazon/checks), and having to code transactions repeatedly in different applications (Mint/Quickbooks SE/YNAB). [more inside]
In wondering whether my dog enjoys having his paws moved to the beat of a song, I wondered whether one can have a sense of rhythm without a sense of math? Or, can one lack a sense of rhythm completely? I guess another way of saying this is: is there an equivalent of colorblindness for rhythm? Not just a tone-deafness, but a complete inability to perceive it? If so, what causes it? It seems to me like it should be related to the ability to understand math, but maybe it is something else? [more inside]
Is it a good idea to take a home off the market for the winter. [more inside]
I'm curious if the hivemind knows how much people have studied how kids develop mentally. Sure, we know there are intellectual milestones that kids achieve at different rates, etc, etc.. But how much variation is there? Or for a specific example, if a kid seems a bit slower than his/her peers in kindergarten -- how often will that slowness persist through to high school? Do some kids have an epiphany in 6th grade, like a mental growth spurt? [more inside]
What are some great podcasts that talk about things from around the world and not only, or mostly, from any specific country? [more inside]
Mr. Circle and I leave in 3 days for the month-long European vacation of our dreams. I woke up this morning feeling like crap. Congested and exhausted. I blew it off as allergies and took some Flonase, but I'm feeling worse. What is my best defense to keep from getting sick, besides going home and going back to bed? [more inside]
I am looking for recommendations for a fee-based financial planner who is also experienced in student loan debt. I have looked at a few websites but would like to know if there is anyone in the area you would recommend. Sites I have consulted: XY Planning Network, Let's Make a Plan, NAPFA, and Garrett Planning Network.
I'm meeting up with a VERY old friend in Seattle in October. She is visiting from England and has a free day from 11am onwards. I'm driving down from Vancouver so we have all of half a day to spend together before I have to come home and I want to maximize our time. What would you do? [more inside]
I have a 2013 Hyundai Tucson Limited. It has this stock roof rack (side rails and cross bars). There is a sticker that says the weight limit is 220#. Is this a static or dynamic weight limit? [more inside]
My podcast (you can find the link in my profile) is embarking on the 50 States Beer Project. I need your help in finding the best of the best in each US state (except Alabama, as I've already done that one). Difficulty: women who work in the industry. [more inside]
I feel like I need to stop working for a certain freelance client for my own mental health, and I'm not sure what to say to this person. [more inside]
We think it's a kitchen implement. There's a small piece broken off, but it's largely intact. If you recognize it, please ID it for us, and thanks! Pics below the fold. [more inside]
I have subscribed to snacks from Nature Box for quite a while, but have grown increasingly annoyed with their website, pricing model, etc. I realized the only thing they make that I don't know how to replace with grocery store items is their instant oatmeal, specifically the apple-cinnamon variety. It has little dried out cubes of cinnamon-y apple, and when you pour boiling water over, the apple chunks become rehydrated and delicious, but not too sweet. Anyone know if there's a good brand out there that sells something like this so I could do my own instant oatmeal at the office instead? [more inside]
I'm at a conference with quick access to NYC and my colleague, who has never been before, would like to go in for the evening. All of my day trips in the past are predicated on getting back on the train at like 5:30 so I have no clue where to take her. [more inside]
What metal are beer bottle tops made from? [more inside]
What are some books where the protagonist is naive/spoilt/sheltered and goes through a life changing experience that makes them worldly and resilient? [more inside]
I'm doing a "Top Gear £1000 Challenge" with a group of friends next year. So looking for some assistance / advice / recommendations from you guys. Challenge this year is "In a team of 2 people, buy a luxury car for under £1000 and drive some of the best, most iconic driving roads Europe has to offer. " What car should I go for? I know next to nothing about cars so need something that will be reliable.
Lets say I have a friend who walks dogs and I pay him for walking my dog by way of Venmo. Lets say, hypothetically, this dog walker also sells pot to other people (which is illegal in the state I live, and I understand is against venmo's TOS - but I imagine this could happen). If my dog walker accepts money for pot through Venmo and then is arrested, could the authorities look into his Venmo account and see all the people that have paid him money? Could I be under suspicion for buying drugs because I have paid this person for his dog walking services? Is there any legal consequence for using Venmo with people who might not be following the Venmo rules?
I am an advisor to graduate students in a science-based discipline. The university at which I work has a centralized lab facility made available to all students to conduct their research. One of my graduate students needs this lab to complete their thesis. Unfortunately, the lab is currently managed by somebody who makes my student uncomfortable. I am trying to find a solution so that this lab manager's present does not impact my student's education any further. What can, and should, I do? [more inside]
I feel stuck and I don't know what will help right now. What should I do? [more inside]
I have literally never dyed my hair except for getting red semi-permanent lowlights or tints from a salon now and then. Never gotten a full dye (not sure what it's called, but I mean vs. highlights or tints) nor have I ever even used permanent color. [more inside]
This is on behalf of a friend who keeps finding these guys in her apartment. Can anyone identify them and safe ways of removing this unwanted houseguest? [more inside]
My bff is in residential rehab and requested that I send her music in a care package. She has no access to a smartphone or any other technology. How do I send her a digital mixtape or personal music device loaded with tunes for under $50? I have plenty of music on my personal iTunes-- purchased and uploaded from CDs.
Hi. I am wanting to purchase a circular fish eye lens for the Canon Rebel Xsi. My budget range is $350 - $600.
What legal responsibilities or consequences are there for someone in a management position when it's discovered that one employee is sending harassing messages to another? Not sexual harassment, but expletive-laden rants about how terrible the employee is, how stupid, how bad at their job, how they need to quit, etc. [more inside]
I am looking for a specific image... meme? overlay? of a man gesturing at/presenting a photo in the background with outstretched arms (like an angled V, or <). The man is looking at you, the viewer, not the photo, with a slightly defiant expression. It is generally used by people trying to emphasize their point by substituting their own image in the background. I have seen this many times on twitter and tumblr but currently cannot for the life of me find it nor the correct search terms to bring it up. Thank you. [more inside]
Suggestions for recipes or meal plans for high-iron foods please! [more inside]
What speedy 14"-+ reliable laptop do you swear by? [more inside]
The BBC show "Toast of London is full of surreal jokes, so I can't tell if I'm missing something or it's just a filming glitch. [more inside]
I'd like to find movies and television episodes where somebody says "wake up," or something idiomatically similar ("rise and shine," "wakey wakey," "get up," etc.). Ideally with links to clips of that moment in the movie or TV show. This is for an audio project, so "interpretive" wake-ups (silent films with title cards, animals making noises to wake each other up, foreign languages) are delightful but don't serve my purpose: hoping for clear, English-language "wake up" spoken clips.
My 6 year old spayed female Maltese has been exhibiting some worrisome symptoms of what? In July, I took her to the vet after she was throwing up and having diarrhea and walking around kinda hunched up, not acting herself. [more inside]
I have a large (1 acre), steep (30% grade) south-facing back yard, with several very large trees in Zone 6b. Right now it is running amok with weeds and vines because it is just so uncomfortable to be out there. What can I plant that will stop erosion, suppress weeds, and look lovely year-round? [more inside]
Every time one of my kids passes on a cold to me(and that happens multiple times during Autumn/Winter/Spring) I lose my voice. Why? [more inside]
I need some new shoes, but I'm not sure how to describe what I want. And of course my feet are unique snowflakes so of course there's more details inside. [more inside]
I need to buy 300 snacks for my son's kindergarten class. What's the most cost effective way of doing this? [more inside]
If you were starting the day in Rainier and ending up in Portland this Sunday, where would you go for an easy hike? [more inside]
I live in New York (work in Manhattan, live in Brooklyn) and often see people just throw trash on the ground whether it's a cigarette butt or some plastic, even while in close proximity to garbage cans, is there anything productive I can say to them? [more inside]
I've started writing and recording original songs. I'd like to be able to record isolated vocal and ukulele tracks, and to make short videos for them. I can't figure out how to use GarageBand or YouTube for the iPhone S. [more inside]
I woke up in intensive care on January 13, quite delusional. I "remember" quite a few things which, I am told, didn't really happen. The most vivid memory was of watching the weather Channel from my hospital bed and hearing of weather phenomena (severe storms and even forest fires) on earth caused by a conjuction of the planets including Pluto and Jupiter. I can find no reference to this now that I am in my right mind. Did my subconscious make this up, too?
Miko and I are leaving for Ireland (Dublin, Galway, Aran Islands, etc.) in early October, and we're having enormous fun learning Irish. Could use fluent speaker assistance in cutting through the competing information. [more inside]
I've gained 20 pounds over time because of antidepressants I've taken, and that has made me more depressed. As a result, my doctor changed some of my medications to Wellbutrin and Topamax. [more inside]
I have a 24" by 18" paper calendar on my work desk showing me a whole month of stuff, but for some reason, I can't get it to automatically sync with Outlook and Google. [more inside]
I've just started exercising for the first time in my life and I could use some guidance around what kinds of workouts would be best for me as a 40-something fat guy with zero gym experience. I have a Planet Fitness membership, realistic (I think) goals and expectations, and (so far) a strong will to make this work, but I'd like to know what I can and should do to maximize the return on my efforts. [more inside]
I would like a cargo skirt please. Something like this to answer all of my tween-age dreams. (Actually, I had one when I was 12 and I wore it every time I had to wear a skirt and it was great and I'd like to revisit that great skirt.) Please help me find one! [more inside]
It seems like especially small wounds (like a scrape) can drive me bonkers with itching as they heal. I'm curious to know why wounds itch as they heal?
Three Lil Wayne documentaries are available on Netflix: The Last Soldier, Blood Sweat and Tears, and Hoodz. They're all rated 3 or 3 1/2 stars. I want to watch one of them. Which should I choose?
A good friend, who is normally a very active person, is about to get her shoulder operated on and will essentially be one-armed for the next few months. A group of her friends, including me, are getting together to send her a care package to help her make it through this time. [more inside]
My adorable cat Ember has been over-grooming for a couple of months. She's got bald patches on her legs and on her back. I'm not sure if it's stress grooming or a food allergy. When she bites or licks herself, it's sudden, like something is biting her, but we're 99% sure that it's not due to bugs. MeFites with cats that stress groom or have in the past, does sudden biting and licking mirror your experiences, or does it seem more like some sort of allergy? [more inside]
You are a purse-carrying individual who drives a vehicle. Where do you put your purse for the drive? And how does a passenger in the front seat change your answer? [more inside]
I’m actually quite comfortable with the late-90s furnishings of my place, but I want to sell or rent it out soon, and I know updating everything would make it more appealing. Everything I’ve seen on the web says “start looking at design ideas” — but I care more about utility than appearances. I’d like to spend as little as possible to make it up-to-date. Where do I start? Can I just go to a contractor and say “give me your cheapest paint-by-numbers package”? [more inside]
I'm refitting my home and often need to take measurements to figure out what materials I need and what will fit where. I need a simple tool to draw rooms and shapes and figure out what can fit in. But wait! It's not that simple. My house is a boat and EVERYTHING curves in several directions at once. [more inside]
I bought a new slow cooker a few weeks ago, and each time I've use it the coating on the inside of the pot has changed colour, as if heat is damaging it. Can anyone explain what's happening? I'm a bit worried I'm going to be poisoned by it, so I've stopped using it. Here's a photo. [more inside]
I want to own a series of good reference texts for my home that I can browse and with which to edify myself. Right now, I am most interested in learning about geography, but I am open to suggestions on any reference texts that are important to have in a home library. [more inside]
Three friends are traveling to Australia for 9 days (including arrival/departure days). This time will be split between Sydney and the northeastern coast (Great Barrier Reef). They have very different interests, and they sincerely do not wish to ruin each other's trips, but also don't want their own trips ruined, especially because it is unlikely that they will ever have the time/money to return to Australia. [more inside]
Oh well, shopping carts. In San Francisco Bay. What to do? [more inside]
Hi folks! I've been exploring the possibility of buying a piece of vacant land in BC or Ontario to put up a small house in 8-10 years when I'm sick of work. Is it a good idea to find and buy a nice plot of land when it comes up, and just hang on to it till I'm ready to build? I also have a list of questions about living in more rural areas. [more inside]
My partner received an IRS Notice of Levy from their employer... what does this mean? [more inside]
Or, help me kick my own ass. Please. [more inside]
Ada Palmer refers to Lorenzo de Medici as a "perfect humanist prince." What is the best single-volume biography of Lorenzo? Best single volume history of the Medicis? And best single-volume history of Medieval and/or Renaissance Florence?
I canned some green beans about a month ago. Is it a problem if the beans are poking up above the liquid? When we initially canned them the beans were below the liquid and the beans were floating. Now they're not floating, and the liquid level has lowered. The lids are all secure.
I recently got an interview offer for what I think is my dream job at a major university. I know the area and the department as I used to live/work there, and provided the salary and workday is what I expect it is, I plan to take this job. But they just sent me the itinerary and it's a two-day behemoth where I meet/interview with 25 people. Help me not screw this up! [more inside]
My small company is growing and ready to hire an officer manager. I’m lost when it comes to knowing where to post this job. Please help! Location: USA> California> Los Angeles [more inside]
My 1st grader has been invited to 2 birthday parties at the same time on the same day. I already accepted the first invite, how do I handle the 2nd? [more inside]
I live alone. I have newly diagnosed hypertrophic cardiomyopathy. I have no friends that live nearby. I can do light cardiovascular exercise but I am still in the phase of treatment where I am supposed to avoid lifting or moving heavy objects. Unfortunately, because I've lived in my apartment for so long (10+ years), my landlord is demanding that I get all my carpets replaced (on their dime) as part of renewing my lease. How do I do? [more inside]
What can I make with these half a dozen ripe jalapeno peppers? I haven't cooked with them before, and I am OK with pretty spicy food, so what should I make? [more inside]
We are in the market for a new fridge to replace our aging one. What should we look for, and what should we avoid? [more inside]
This sounds like a dumb question I know. Lately I've had more concerns about meat. Is this what it can feel like or how it started for you? I'm not sure how to sort my feelings. [more inside]
I keep seeing links to cool/thoughtful articles about current topics in Teen Vogue (today's example: Why Hollywood’s White Savior Obsession Is an Extension of Colonialism). But, I've never seen the hard copy magazine to get a sense of the overall tone of the print magazine, and whether it is really pitched to older teens (say 16+), or whether it would be ok for a younger teen who can read articles at the level of the one I linked. I'd get a subscription for my daughter if it's the latter. [more inside]
Single issue (I think? Yet it seemed like a full story?) I read in the late 80s. It belonged to my big brother and was kinda over my head. Theme was nuclear holocaust. It was not realist. Art style was simple and uncluttered. Bright colors and clear lines. Not a lot of dialog or words. I remember the image of the sky looking like the old Tide logo. That's all I remember.
What's the best way to remove a sour, smelly foot smell from a couch? [more inside]
I have a 1981 Schwinn LeTour of which I am extremely fond, Susan. I would like to start using my bike again. Is it worth it to pay for an overhaul of a 36 year old bike? [more inside]
Looking for suggestions for current best practices and options for setting up a new shared drive in an enterprise setting that is robust and support enterprise level shared growth over time. [more inside]
I'm trying to understand Michelson & Morley (1887), and as part of this I'm trying to reproduce their figure 6 from the data in the table. I do not understand how they relate. [more inside]
What are the best websites for user generated content and walkthroughs for Sims 4? Any personal gameplay challenges you've dreamed up or fun things to do that you have discovered? [more inside]
The stars have aligned and I have everything I need to make delicious Asian-style vegetarian dumplings at home...except a great filling recipe. Please help! Specifics inside. [more inside]
I'm taking a leadership role in an organization. There's a guy here who I don't feel comfortable or happy to work with. How to proceed? [more inside]
Hi folks! I work with undergrads who do not currently use a clock in/out system but still have to put in their hours at the end of the week. We're looking for a simple clock-in/out system for them that would be usable across our work computers but not accessible online, necessarily. [more inside]
Little REH is a beautiful 5 week old boy. Breastfeeding is going pretty well, but there have been variations...regressions? [more inside]
I live in Denver and the city installed these sidewalk access ramps on the curbs in our neighborhood. Great, right? Except our house right at the end of where a street dead ends, so they put in an in-line ramp right in front of our house, like the place where we park our car. Is it illegal to block this? [more inside]
Flashcard app for the mac OS environment? Looking for something that will do "smart" spaced learning in the same way Anki does (meaning, it adapts to your responses). Need it to work on desktop and iPhone --- no iPad. [more inside]
I'm having trouble keeping up with where I am when I watch several different shows each day and the episode names are unmemorable. [more inside]
We recently bought a used car that we expected to last us about 5 years, with reasonable repairs needed on occasion. But just a few hundred miles into our ownership, it started having engine troubles. We have two mechanics’ differing opinions as to the seriousness of said troubles. We are trying to decide whether or not this car is worth fixing. YANMM, but some additional perspectives would be nice. Saga after the jump. [more inside]
Hi, I have the IMovie app and it works nice to piece together video clips to make a larger video. It does slow motion and has some sound effects, but I want to have more visual effects. I'm looking for fast motion and fun things, like maybe twinkling stars or pretty much anything. Do you know how I can add those to IMovie? Or would I have to get a completely different video app. Hopefully I can just get an app that will allow me to add on to the IMovie app. Thanks in advance!
My family is thinking of getting a cat. I would like my kids to have the experience of a cat birthing a litter and raising its kittens until it's time to give them away. This would be just one litter, and then we'd have the mother cat spayed. What is the best way of accomplishing this? [more inside]
We need to upgrade our guest room amenities, but there is limited space is in basement of our Philadelphia rowhouse. [more inside]
I have some travel coming up, and would appreciate game recommendations for the iPad, particularly point & click puzzlers. [more inside]
I graduated recently. I have some student loans from my master's work 5 years ago, and did exit counseling mandated by the federal government through their site. I noticed that I hadn't received a bill in the mail, so I went to my borrower portal on the lender's site to check on things, and they have me listed as being in deferment for another 4 years. What's the difference between contacting them to set things straight, and just letting them take the time to figure out that they're incorrect? Is a lag like that normal? Is it my responsibility to reach out to them with the proper status? [more inside]
How often do you (or should you) replace sneakers for cross training? [more inside]
So I read the very interesting Irving Harper post and, looking at his papercraft stuff (especially the hanging sculptures) I thought, "I could do simpler, clumsier versions of that stuff and it would still look pretty neat". [more inside]
Are there any great horror coffee table books or a source of truly creepy housewares?(My friends are HUGE horror movie buffs, so I want to get them something appropriately creepy for their wedding.)
My friend died. I am struggling with, I am sure, extremely normal feelings like "what's it all about anyway?" How do I work through this? My heart is telling me to quit my job and run away to the countryside but I'm fairly sure this is temporary craziness brought about by bereavement. [more inside]
I am writing this at 3 in the morning because for the millionth time our cat had diarrhea, stepped in it, and tracked it around the entire apartment. It took half an hour to clean up. What can I do to prevent this living nightmare from ever happening again? [more inside]
Can any mefites help - my parents in law are British citizens currently living in the area of Lot-de-Garonne (close to Marmande) in a beautiful two-bedroom house which they are struggling to sell and I don't know how else to help them. [more inside]
I'm an only child. I'm pregnant in my late 30s with my first child and therefore my dad's first and possibly only grandchild. My dad is about 75. So yeah I guess he could die or get really sick in the near future. We don't have a good relationship, but we're not deliberately estranged nor am I formally disowned. [more inside]
I would like a recommendation for a urologist in the Boston area that: 1) Can do a vasectomy. 2) Can intelligently explain the risks of various complications and what they would do to mitigate them. [more inside]
If you developed a potentially worrisome medical issue, how much do you expect your partner to proactively follow up on it? By follow up, I mean actions such as generating their own questions or doing their own research? [more inside]
I seem to have a type, and it is men who cannot or will not love me back and commit to me. I've read the self-help books, I've talked it out ad nauseum, I've thought it through, now how do I actually detach myself and find myself someone who really loves me and wants to be with me? [more inside]
I like empanadas, hand pies, tamales, burritos, and other food that's encased in something starchy. I shouldn't eat (much) wheat. What else should I try making? [more inside]
I posted this question three years ago and I still haven't figured out to actually become a better artist. Although now I've kind of articulated what I need help with. I've mostly been doing illustration since 2007 in middle school and have been working on and off without much improvement. [more inside]
Trying to decide where to spend some precious vacation time! [more inside]
I haven't been to LAX on my own in about 6 years. Tuesday I fly out of there for a day trip and need to be at the Spirit Airlines gate by 5 am to check in for my 7am flight. Where do I park and how do I get to the right drop off point for Spirit? Is there a shuttle? Do you recommend against or for any other things I may not be thinking about? Thank you!
How do I know that the signature in these books is truly from the author?
Mid-October road trip needs a smidge of formality. This is where you guys come in. Help me find things to do and places to see with a tight schedule. [more inside]
I've watched all of awful squad and I need new streams to watch. [more inside]
What are some good soda + ice cream combinations, as alternatives to root beer floats? [more inside]
My family came to visit for the summer, my nephew needed to do some schoolwork and his iPad was broken. I let him use mine, he did his work, all's well. Except it runs like crap. [more inside]
I need to get up to speed on designing (and to some extent maintaining) indoor plants. [more inside]
I'm trying to find an ilustrated picture book I had sometime around 1990 that showed a day in the life of children and families around the world. [more inside]
I want to read 2-3 books about the current state of the United States health care system. My goal is to have a better working understanding of the current problems, potential solutions, political realities, etc. Bonus points for lively, compelling reads! What should I be looking at?
My Smizmar and I are popping to Innsbruck next week for 4 nights (Sat-Wed), with a day trip to Salzburg. Please give me your tips, especially for a day's walking in the mountains. [more inside]
I just bought a new iMac with Thunderbolt C connections. I’m looking for a great second green for creative work, editing, etc. Something new in the $1000 range. Any suggestions?
Looking for poems about sports and athletes. Any sport. Any time period. If it's not online, it would be great if you could provide the name of a book it's in.
I also wrote this question, and many people rightfully said I just needed to stop overthinking things and have more confidence... the thing is, I don't know how to do that! [more inside]
... I'm pretty sure it's not just me. How do I work on this? [more inside]
She's white, I'm not. It's stressing me out and worrying me. [more inside]
How do I become an optimistic critical thinker? [more inside]
The installer showed up with the new dishwasher (KitchenAid KDTM404EWH). Once he took the old one out, he found that there are pipes in the way. Any ideas about what I can do? [more inside]
Are there any entertaining podcasts that'll help me get familiar with Windows Server or general IT enterprise support? [more inside]
What's the best way to help victims of this flood?
My five year old niece likes to talk to me on the phone, and is finally starting to actually participate in conversations instead of just going silent if she doesn't have an immediate answer to a question. But now that I can ask her questions and get real answers, what should I ask her? And how? [more inside]
I'm a natural layabout who needs to find a (preferably core-strengthening, preferably cheap) exercise I like enough to become a habit. [more inside]
Why do bands record their albums in multiple studios all over the world? [more inside]
Looking to bring another dog into the family and seeing quite a few but not familiar with the breed. [more inside]
A good friend and I hooked up a few times here and there and he didn't try to hide the fact that he doesn't find my body to be that attractive. [more inside]
Dear pen and ink experts: I'm trying to find a refill for a ballpoint pen and am having no luck. All I know is that it's definitely not a D1; the pen is by Sanrio, made in Japan, probably '90s. The refill shaft is smooth with no nubs or anything and looks very generic. It attaches to some kind of base and the entire length of the refill is covered by a spring. Photo attached- about 62mm in length, plastic.
I believe the brand is Tarte, the tube is a light blue. I loved it, I dropped it in a water fountain at the mall, and I want to buy it! The girls at Sephora said it was Tarte Rum Punch but I tried that one and it looks wrong. Can someone check for me please?
I'm looking at getting a cordless electric weedeater, but reviews are pretty mixed on all the ones I've looked at. I'm hoping to keep it around or less than $100, since I wouldn't use one very often even if I liked it. Anyone have any recent experiences, good or bad, or recommendations? [more inside]
I'm a massive 1980s fan. I'm seriously considering getting a unique 1980s themed half sleeve tattoo. I want it to contain loss of 80s images. Pacman, a space invader, Rubics cube. Maybe a wslkman. Any one come up with some other suggestions? Also I want to add a 1980s or 80s in a nice neon type script in it. Any pointers?
D&D 5e tomorrow, last session with these characters, and the DM has said that he's come up with a """"fun""""" and """""really challenging""""" final dungeon. I assume this means he is going to do his level best to murder us all. Help me come up with a legendary-level item to make him work for it. [more inside]
What's the movie I watched a few years ago about an old depressed professor who took steps to bring a bomb to school? I believe he taught film and I recall the students mocking him behind his back. Google isn't helping.
After the current bump in online chatter regarding Natalie Imbruglia's 1997 hit "Torn" actually being a cover of a relatively obscure song by relatively obscure group Ednaswap from 1993, I'm curious just how many of the songs I know and love are actually covers by popular artists of unknown/obscure bands/songs. [more inside]
I'm currently getting by with a 4S, but TMobile has dropped support; I now get 2G speeds at best for data, and cell coverage is spotty now, too. I am not a heavy phone user, so I could limp along and make it work for a little while -- I mostly need text/email/music functions -- but since a refresh seems unlikely to happen until at least Spring 2018, am I frustrating myself needlessly? Obviously, I keep phones forever, so being as futureproof as possible is an important consideration.
This is her first year of middle school in a new district. She's mostly nervous about dancing, so I've been looking for some beginner's tutorials she could be comfortable with, but they look either dated or too advanced. Can you point me to some current, cool, beginner's dance tutorial videos? Bonus: How do kids generally dress for casual dances? Does the dance theme matter for that? Any other tips? [more inside]
Looking to buy a bag as a surprise gift for my wife. It's worn by the character Chris in the Amazon show "I Love Dick." You can see it at the start of episode six. A couple of screen caps here and here. Any leads greatly appreciated!
I got myself into digital photography in 2009, and I did it for a few years. I bought a DSL and two lenses, and used them happily for a few years (about till 2013). I'd like to get back into photography, but I'd like to upgrade to a better quality base camera. More info inside! [more inside]
I have an optometrist appointment today (in about 2 hours) to get a new prescription for my glasses. I was up really late last night working on my computer and didn't get much sleep. My eyes are so tired now they actually feel tired, which hardly ever happens to me. Will my eyes being so tired corrupt or negatively influence the results of the testing? Or maybe it'll make my prescription even more accurate? Or have no effect at all? [more inside]
I'd like to build a budget-range gaming PC capable of Twitch streaming some low-medium fidelity games (more Stardew Valley than PUBG). What's a good target? [more inside]
Hey sci-fi fans: I'm looking for quotes from one of these shows/movies where a character has the realization that something is really off about their reality, that something just feels 'off', that things are somehow not as they are supposed to be. This could be a Twilight Zone episode, the movie Donnie Darko, or a movie made from a Philip K. Dick story. Bonus points if you can tell me the time point of the quote, or where it occurs in the video.
I can't find any way to create a new yahoo contact by capturing an email address from a received email using only my android phone and the yahoo mail android app. Am I missing something or is this functionality missing?
I bought a used car in California before moving to Pennsylvania, and never got the title in the mail. Help! [more inside]
I tutor at a school, and am working with a bright sixteen year old girl who has been out of the habit of reading for pleasure for several years (she says she stopped reading for fun at eleven or so, after switching schools) but is keen to get back to it. I'm looking for books to recommend to her. [more inside]
ClassicFilter: are there any well-known/well-regarded orchestral arrangements of Beethoven's piano sonatas, especially the late ones? [more inside]
Seeking advice to help my partner, and myself, through the sudden and unexpected loss of a pet. [more inside]
Please help me politely navigate a visit to my dad and his wife, where they are asking me to do something I don't want to do. Details follow. [more inside]
I have a new mom returning to work at my office, and I'd like to convert our underused conference room to a nursing/pumping/mom's room. Pinterest is failing me. What should a room like this have (aside from a lock on the door)? [more inside]
Going through a huge amount of stress with family visit over seemingly small issue and am looking for advice [more inside]
I keep seeing floss picks in parking lots. Gas station parking lots, supermarket parking lots, strip-mall parking lots... all the parking lots. Why? I don't understand how floss picks are ending up in so many random parking lots. Do people keep and use and discard them in the car? Are there a coterie of dentists who are confetti-ing local parking lots? What the heck in going on?
Can you help me figure out why my dog isn't housebroken anymore, and what I can do about it? [more inside]
Preferably a mix of chocolate, mint, rum, pistachio, and anything else. Candied fruit optional. Not that crap sold by Dreyer's/Edy's! If necessary I'll take the subway. I would tell you how delicious this is, but I want it all for myself!
I picked up some unworn, vintage boots several years back. By all measures, they appear to fit me well (quite well in fact!) but my lack of knowing how to break in boots like this has prevented me from wearing them on the reg. I have many questions about the care and maintenance of these boots. [more inside]
I, mid-30s, fat, incredibly introverted, and completely not at all cool, have been invited to a concert tonight for a group I'm really excited to see, with some people I know who're a few years younger than me. Problem: I have never before been to a concert at a bar like this, and I'm incredibly nervous about it because I have no idea what to expect. So how do events like this actually work? [more inside]
Please excuse the pun in the title. I'm looking for a way to meaningfully compare two slightly older computers so I can decide which one to bring to work. [more inside]
When I'm finished my day at work, I get so sick thinking about my "real" life. I have felt so profoundly alone and lonely since my father died in March. I've been left to "take care of" my 72 year old (alcoholic, etc.) mother and it's just too much for me to deal with, I'm an only child. I've recently moved out, but I still feel awful. I just feel so alone. How can I make it better? [more inside]
Maybe the hivemind knows a current seller of a wallet in this style? Salient features: bifold, id card slot on one side, 3 credit card slots on other side, invisible card slots behind each side of bifold, leather, black. [more inside]
My husband and I are celebrating a big anniversary this January, and I'm hoping to get his passport renewed and drag him over to Europe for a visit to celebrate. [more inside]
If you were looking to spend a month in a European city, you had kids, and you were an inexperienced American traveler, where would you go? [more inside]
I was recently diagnosed with a urethral stricture. The doctor made it seem like no big deal, but googling (I know, I know) has me a little freaked out. If you have any knowledge about this diagnosis or know of US-based medical centers that have particularly good Urology departments please share! [more inside]
I have to go to a job interview type thing tomorrow and I need to look as professional as possible. Unfortunately I've been super stressed, and I've picked some skin off some of my fingers. Left-hand thumb and index finger are the worst right now, but there is still some evidence (pinkness and scabs) on several other fingers. It doesn't look good, it doesn't look professional. Is there anything I can do? I'm thinking multiple plasters would not look good either.
Our new kitty Wolfgang Pauli arrived from the shelter complete with handsome ear furnishings, fluffy tail, and a tapeworm. The vet just treated it with a large pill. I find myself morbidly and grossly curious: what's going to happen next? Will the tapeworm come out in the litterbox? Will something else horrifying happen? Do they die in segments? Obligatory weird sideways photo.
I just got 8 fresh, fat squash blossoms at the farmers market. [more inside]
Over the last several versions, iTunes has become a cluttered wasteland that pushes features I have no use for while impairing the usability of the stuff I want. I'm looking for alternatives that still work with my Mac and iOS devices. [more inside]
I work in a mixed Apple/Android/PC environment. I use a stylus to take notes on my work iPad with Penultimate and on my personal Galaxy Note 4 with S-Pen. I also make notes on paper or by emailing myself when I'm at my desk. As you can imagine my notes are a mess and I need a way to organize this. Help me come up with a seamless (probably cloud-based) notes workflow. [more inside]
We lost m'ladie's extra-narrow or 4A width golf shoes during a move. Despite hours searching I am no closer to finding any shoe even close (despite the misleading help banners). Is there any business that sells ladies golf shoes in an extra-narrow or (US) 4A width? Who and where are they? I am desperate enough to consider custom made but prior experiences have not been good.
Ever since ING turned in to CapitalOne360 I have been less and less pleased with it. I'm looking for a new online savings account, one that's not with my regular bank (PNC) so it's harder to get at the money. No minimum deposit or account balance.
While I can find all sorts of information about all sorts of piercings on the Internet, I can't find any descriptions of the particular situation I'm considering. Ultimately, I need to know: What is the smallest size tunnel plug that will accommodate regular earring posts? [more inside]
A few years ago I perfected my pizza sauce. Now I am getting a sensation of... Spaghetti. Help me tweak my recipe! [more inside]
I'm part of large group of people (around 300-400), that are interested in pooling our money to do events. We've settled on doing monthly donations and I've accepted responsibility for figuring out how to organize this. Surely there's some software I can use to just give a link to people so they can send in a donation to a new Paypal account, right? [more inside]
Hi. I'm not sure how to Google this one. Let's say that I have three Excel sheets, each one being a dictionary of a different language, each sheet being about 1500 words apiece. [more inside]
My oldest child is 7 years old, very social, and very uncomfortable being alone. He doesn't want to use the bathroom at home by himself because he is afraid, for example. If he gets in trouble or fighting a lot with the other kids he can never be put somewhere else (his room) for a time out or just to chill out -- he will freak it and go through extreme measures to escape. How to get him more comfortable with being alone? [more inside]
Suddenly, running --> intense left calf and foot pain and numbness, and sex --> lower back pain in an otherwise healthy young woman. YANAD, but I've been to the doctor twice already. Do I need to go again? [more inside]
I vaguely remember there being two sizes of Slurpee when I was a child. Also, did it cost more for the plastic specialty cups?
The other day, I noticed that a small crater had mysteriously formed in one of the small tiles in my bathroom floor. It's a little bigger than a quarter and almost as large as the tile. You can see the tile at the bottom of this picture. The bath is a very small room designed as a wet room (fully tiled so the floor and walls doubles as the shower floor and walls, with a drain in the middle of the floor). [more inside]
I can't believe I'm using a question for this, but I've noticed over the past few years that 9 times out of 10, when I try on women's non-jeans pants I have a specific fit error. Could you help me figure out what's going on so I can better pick out pants that will actually fit me? I just started a new job that requires me to dress on the formal end of business casual, and I'm struggling to find work pants! Pictures and more detail inside. [more inside]
Help me buy a computer. I'm looking for a box for video work (After Effects and Premiere.) Which secondhand computer would suit me best? [more inside]
I feel trapped in my left brain and have been since birth, basically. But I’m tired of it. Are there effective ways to achieve better lateralization of my brain hemispheres so that I can unlock some (hopefully latent) creativity? [more inside]
A friend has struggled with her weight for many years and lately had some serious health consequences. A few years ago, she lost ~150 pounds through strict dieting and exercise, and still would have another ~100 before reaching a "normal" BMI. She has since gained that weight back and then some, and enrolled in a long-term, medically supervised program to manage it. She has shared this with me, and I know she is enthusiastic but daunted. I'd like to be supportive, so what can I do to help? What should I not do? [more inside]
I am trying to improvement my DIY electrical skills. I have replaced a few plugs and switches as long as the wires are a obvious match to the new fixture. But to complete my project of updating all the plugs, switches, and added fan timer switches in the house. I need to improve my understanding of wiring. I signed up for a adult continuing education class for electrical but they canceled it due to low enrollment. Youtube videos are helpful but I have some wiring in my house that is not standard due the house being built in 1976. So, I need to learn to use a voltmeters to identify the correct wires in some fixtures. I have some handy co-workers but everyone is too busy to impose on them every time I run into a odd setup. I need recommendations for books, classes, etc... I am even pay someone for one on one instruction.
Three friends going to Madison on a football weekend, for reasons unrelated to football, would like a place to day drink that won't be loud and crowded. Is this possible? [more inside]
My Thai chili pepper plants have done wonderfully, and I'm ready to harvest. I'd like to end up with a shelf-stable paste/thick sauce. Can I ferment these, and then puree and can them BWB-style? [more inside]
Our precious kraken is a fourteen-month-old bundle of energy. How do I cut her nails when she won't stay still? [more inside]
Is there a good tool these days that will let me do a full dump of all my Flickr content, including my non-public pics, at full resolution? What's the best way to do this, and are the new owners likely to change it any time soon? Thanks!
I travel a lot, and sometimes I can fly business class, so I've collected quite a few airline amenity kits. I seldom use the contents. Ideas for what I could do with them, instead of simply junking them? Difficulty level: UK, southern England. [more inside]
I just got a remote programming job. The company is headquartered in Illinois (and IL state taxes are being withdrawn from my paycheck). I live in NYC (which means both NY state tax and NYC resident tax but those are not being withdrawn from my paycheck). Does anyone out there have experience with this situation? Especially the part about living in NY state or even NYC (because NY state has particularly strong ideas about who pays taxes).
I'm looking for delicious and interesting recipes that make 4-8 servings, freeze excellently, and incorporate inexpensive cuts of meat and non-starchy vegetables. Rather than finding a few favorites and rotating them, I get bored. I do like new twists on old classics. In the past I've had good luck with just about anything involving chicken thighs in some kind of flavorful sauce or braise, brisket, goat stew, chilis, etc. [more inside]
I want my next tattoo to be on my wrist and represent the concept of resilience in some way. First because I have had to draw on my own stores of resilience during hard times and also because it's an important concept in my field (social work.) [more inside]
I'm looking for the perfect pants and shoes for work. However, my requirements are a little different than most work-clothing questions around here: abrasion resistance and grip. [more inside]
I work in a medium sized business (let's say around 100 people). This business has a set of random accounts ranging from their Instagram profile to paid online subscriptions that have no clear owner for them and it causes problems. If people leave or on holiday, there's a panic about how to access the account. Passwords are stored on random emails on random people's inboxes. I have volunteered to take ownership of this issue although this does not mean I should be the owner of these accounts either (but I could be if I deem it to be the best approach). How do we approach this in a flexible, secure way? Details and caveats inside: [more inside]
I'm with a group of like-minded folks who are trying to bring a Farmers Market to my city. One of our goals is to "grow our own" vendors from our community. We are going to be holding a panel discussion with community member panelsts that are already Farmers Market Vendors/CSA farmers. The audience will be filled (I hope) with both wanna-be vendors and with people who have a general interest in Farmers Markets. I need to come up with some good, thought-provoking questions for the panel. Help? [more inside]
I have smoked for 30 years. I recently turned 50. It's time to quit. I want to make this as painless as possible. I know about nicotine gum and, well, ick. I'm not interested in medication. I'm also leery of the patch. But from what I gather vaping can be a decent substitute. Can you advise? [more inside]
My boss is allergic to the idea that her staff would follow her instructions simply because she's the boss. Her allergy is rooted in the fact that she's a control freak. Help me avoid the ten-dimensional chess that sometimes ensues. [more inside]
How would you respond to a stranger/acquaintance who makes negative remarks about your partner/family/friend's hobbies (even when they are not present)? Specific examples will be appreciated. I need short effective comebacks which 1) are not overly rude 2) show my 100% support to the person being made fun of 3) make it clear I will not engage in further conversation if they do not stop.
I'm looking for an old country video, from the 80s probably. The main setting of the video is in a restaurant and the singer is on a date. There are plastic ketchup and mustard bottles on the table, and I think a checkered table cloth. Other scenes from the video include classic US Southern trees and covered bridges. I don't know who sings the song but the music is 80s country lite, along the lines of this Ronnie Milsap song. Halp? [more inside]
I once saw a censored version of the Blues Brothers which was particularly notable for the scene where Sister Mary goes after them both for swearing. In the overdub they're just saying "Shoot!" "Gosh!" "Darn!" so it looks like she's just beating them with a yardstick for no reason. Other people have seen this version so I know it wasn't a fever dream, but the best I've found so far are bleeped versions. All I'm really looking for is the nun scene. Can anyone help?
Is there an equivalent of "SUPER XTREME HI-OCTANE DEATH POWER" type foods (like with hot sauce or coffee) or weird intense eating/drinking challenges for tea? [more inside]
My mom is on the other side of the country and has a video on her phone that I need. I'd like to get it in the full resolution, not have the resolution be truncated the way emailing sometimes can. I have a google drive but, my mom is not very experienced with her phone and doesn't know how to do this. And I don't have an Android. What's the easiest way to make this happen? [more inside]
My rooster and I have a fabulous trip to New Zealand on the calendar, but we haven't nailed down the planning part. Will you tell us if the itinerary is crazy or missing something obvious? [more inside]
I worked on a Word 2011 (version 14.7.4) document on my Mac running OS X Yosemite 10.10.5 for several hours and then attempted to hit Command-S to save. Instead, I hit some other key combination and suddenly parts of my document were in Chinese characters. Help! [more inside]
I made fajitas from frozen chicken today and when I bit into one I found a tiny (about the size of a pencil eraser) piece of chicken meat that wasn't all the way cooked. I spit it out and rinsed my mouth thoroughly with mouthwash. What else should I do?
I am in the market for a new to me car. I would like something a little fun and sporty. I think I've narrowed it down to a 2006 Mazda3 with 56,000 miles and one owner, or a 2006 Mazdaspeed 6 with 101,000 miles and two previous owners. I like that the mazdaspeed is AWD. But maybe it would be more expensive to maintain in the long run and I could get by with snow tires on the 3? Help me decide which best fits my needs! [more inside]
How can I input several addresses into a web form, with titles, and get a google map with their locations and perhaps a list below? Does anyone let you do this for free?
I have super fine, super thin, super straight hair. I've been thinking about getting a pixie cut for a long time, but I'm worried that 1) I don't have the right kind of hair for it, and 2) the maintenance will drive me crazy. If you have hair similar to mine, have you rocked a pixie? Would you do it again? [more inside]
Driving from San Fran to Portland - Leaving Wednesday stay the night somewhere in between and wake up Thursday and finish the drive to Portland. Heres my question..... [more inside]
Who has a twirly starburst at the corner of his smile and eyes. I'm thinking of Tony Curtis maybe? [more inside]
I'm a knowledge worker in a large organization. Last year, I took a major promotion into an upper management position. Here I am, 9 months later, getting the urge to chuck it all and start over in a fresh career path. Am I crazy? Has anybody else done this? [more inside]
Partner has lots of post-divorce debt and is a financial ostrich. Partner has recently gotten access to some liquid assets. We are trying to determine how to best proceed. [more inside]
Help me find a way to get out of Boston Logan Airport in a rental car without paying a cashless toll and then activating the rental companies scammy plate pass scheme? [more inside]
Where can I backpack with a dog in Northern California? I'm basically a novice but have done some camping and low stakes bikepacking and backpacking before.
Frozen tofu in sealed supermarket packaging, thawed in fridge for a week or more, safe to eat now? [more inside]
A lot of part-time employers are not interested in people that just work weekends right? Please correct my assumption! What exists out there for part-time weekend work, especially around the holidays? US, college educated.
We're not very happy with our current preschool, but it's not terrible. We're thinking of making a switch for our 2-year old. We just toured a preschool that really blew us away and addressed basically every concern we've ever brought up about preschool, but it costs much more than we currently pay. We could afford this, but it would be a hardship. Is it worth it? [more inside]
I know that YANMD, however, I'm trying to decide if one is really needed. [more inside]
After many years of home ownership we are scaling back our square footage and will be renting for a couple of years, until we decide what we want to do with the rest of our lives. We haven't been renters since the 90s. What do I need to know about leases, management companies, etc., so that we don't get stuck renting a dump from somebody we hate? If it matters, we'll most likely be renting a single family home or townhouse, in Richmond VA.
iPhone 6 was completely soaked (in the rain outside at a concert) - we dried it out, but didn't do the silica, and it was on when the damage happened and left on / used. Now, it randomly powers off, the power button on the right no longer works (so when it powers off, it has to be plugged in to get it back on). Is this fixable, or should we look at another phone? [more inside]
A friend and I have decided to take a long weekend trip somewhere for New Year's Eve/Day this year. We are considering destinations in one of three categories: 1) somewhere tropical, 2) California, or 3) somewhere cold. I'm trying to put together a list of possible things to do and places to stay, but for 'somewhere cold' I haven't even narrowed it down to a region of the country, much less a city. Suggestions on lodges, resorts, places to go or cities/states I should be googling? [more inside]
I am interested in moving into a flat/apartment owned by a landlord who lives in another country and who wants to manage this arrangement via Airbnb. Is this a bad idea? How bad? [more inside]
Ever since Spotify and Google Play became the way to listen to music, I have stopped listening to music because it feels like too much work (aka I don't understand the new way of picking songs and I don't want to spend my whole dinner party scrolling through my phone). Can you help me figure out how to put on some good music without a lot of fuss? I used to listen to music all the time and now it seems too hard. Because I am old? or because it is just complicated now? help! [more inside]
Our electric oven is dying and I'd like to replace it with a gas one; I've used them in the past and loved them but never owned one. This model is currently a great price - but is it good enough? Should I spend more for something better? Usage: Normal every day cooking for a family of 3. I don't bake often, mostly at Christmas. [more inside]
Does any one have any psychiatrist recommendations in the SF bay area for anxiety & depression? [more inside]
Can you help me figure out why a job offer seems to include health insurance that's more expensive and has less coverage than my current individual plan? If so, what might be my negotiating options might be with this? (And if someone can explain how a national retailer has worse insurance than I do, that'd be interesting too!) [more inside]
For my own personal safety, I need to get my old Flickr account shut down. I own the account but I cannot access it and I don't have either a Yahoo account or any recovery email or phone number connected to it. I need to log it in and either turn it private or shut it down. [more inside]
When I was in college, very late, when many people were impaired, I remember some of them started singing what seemed like some sort of old anti-Irish song. I want to know where it came from, if they didn't just make it up. Google doesn't show anything. Half-remembered lyrics inside. [more inside]
My Windows boot hard drive has an intermittent problem and needs to be replaced. If I clone it to a new bigger HD using GNU ddrescue as suggested by flabdablet in 2015 will it boot Windows 10 Pro as before, or do I need to extract my Windows key somehow (how?) and reinstall Windows on the new drive? [more inside]
More specifically, is there a word that means "the person (or thing) that someone thinks about when they are masturbating." [more inside]
My 72-year-old mother and I are trying to sort out what needs to be done after our home took a direct hit from Irma. My dad always handled this stuff, but he passed away in May, and we don't know what we're doing. We're losing our minds -- help! [more inside]
My partner and I are in a debt management program, and I have recently figured out that one of our creditors is reporting the debt as charged off. Does it make sense to keep paying on it? [more inside]
I have some questions *as a gardener* about growing weed. [more inside]
I heard this piece of classical music as the background to a video on Vimeo. It's uncredited. Anyone know what it is?
My feet don't stink, but my wet shoes do. And it seems to be permanent. [more inside]
I am going to a family wedding in Hanover, Germany, this weekend. My flight back to London is on Sunday evening, and most of the rest of my clan are returning to their respective cities earlier in the day. What should I do with my free time before I have to go to the airport? Will everything be closed? [more inside]
I'm curious how other parents share Apple/iPhone setups with their tweens and teenagers. [more inside]
A long time ago I came across an idea, from the now-deceased blogger Seth Roberts, that seeing faces in the morning is beneficial for sleep & mood. I've investigated it enough, on and off, to think there might be something to it. Now I want to properly test it for myself. Help me find some good sources of faces. [more inside]
I think I've called in sick on average once a month since probably February and I feel horrible about it because it's always due to a combination of lack of sleep, anxiety, hating the job and feeling trapped. I think I'm depressed. I am good at my job and get praises for it, but at the same time I don't like it or the environment and feel incredibly guilty and awful about myself when I take days off. [more inside]
The shuttering of Crashplan's consumer business has left me looking for other backup services. I think I've settled on Backblaze for my Mac/Windows needs, but they don't support Linux. What is a good cloud-based backup service that supports Linux? [more inside]
I'm getting married! We're looking for a photographer to do our wedding and some engagement photos. The last time someone asked, three studios were listed. One is still open, but the other two are no longer around. [more inside]
I am trying to understand how Amazon glacier pricing works. I have looked at a million sites and I still don't get it. Can someone explain it to me? [more inside]
I would like to learn french using a free app. I've tried duolingo and it's not for me. I've been using busuu but it has so many locked lessons that it's completely getting in the way of learning the language. I'm looking for recommendations for the best free language app with no lessons locked or at least very few locked lessons.
What are common pre- or suffices for French Domain names? [more inside]
Is this a good idea for getting out of a vehicle purchase that I can barely afford? Explanation inside: [more inside]
School has started again and homework is in full swing, maybe I don't remember my parts of speech or have their functions mixed up but... [more inside]
I need a printer that prints double sided automatically. Primarily for black and white articles, but occasional color for craft projects. I am extremely sick of the Brother printer I have and do not want another one. [more inside]
Hello. I work for a small minimalist photography magazine that focuses on political essays too. I am wondering if anyone could recommend some free (and paid as a last resort) publishing platforms that share photography photos from a minimalist angle? Here's a synposis: "A keen eye for pattern, light, comical essence and allegory are the key ingredients in what we publish." Also, are there any publishing platforms or literary magazines that will promote (or advertise) and publish political essays for better traffic for the minimalist magazine? Thanks again.
I often create Word documents and Powerpoint presentations that include various images, like logos or clipart. They are almost exclusively in .gif or .jpeg formats and may or may not include transparent backgrounds. But many of the images get messed up along the way and I can't figure out HOW or WHY and, more importantly, how can I fix it? [more inside]
I have two working CPAP machines I don't need. (One is my old one, one was a relatives I ended up with somehow.) My spouse swears she caught a news report saying displaced hurricane survivors are suffering without all of their meds, therapies, and yes, CPAP machines. Do you know of anywhere I can send these to help those people out?
I have used this username it many contexts across many years, but am becoming worried it may be a put-down along the lines of "derp". [more inside]
I'm trying to wrap my head around a simple question. If one wanted to retire an receive a yearly income of 50 000, how much money would I have to put away yearly starting today. [more inside]
I have used but now can't find a specific meeting scheduling tool that allowed each responding person to shade blocks of time they're available. This was instead of checking off set meeting times like doodle. As people respond, overlapping times show up darker. It was free and could be sent as a link.
What do I call the sort of organization/fund I'm looking for? I want to give people small sums to pay their bills. [more inside]
My company is working on a new data infrastructure project that needs a great name. It is essentially an automated pipeline for location-based data that has logic for cleaning, de-duping, flagging etc. Would be great it if related in some cute way to the name of the company (Winnie), but we've already used Winnebago for something else. Go!
I need help figuring out what the process will be to resolve damage to my house caused by the neighboring house. [more inside]
I eat the same thing for breakfast every day and it really helps me keep my diet on track. Lunch is a separate beast. I also have obnoxious dietary restrictions including no dairy, eggs, or gluten. What should I eat every single day? [more inside]
I wish to be someone who "knows fashion" and is not "basic". I currently live in a pretty androgynous-feminine space, haven't figured out how to stop wearing skinny jeans and can't be bothered to search for fashion inspiration. I'd like to know what the current silhouettes are (is it really just... very baggy everything?), how to wear them, and use that as a basis going forward. Is there a blogger who does broad-strokes work like that? [more inside]
What do the locals in France use to find good restaurants? Essentially, the equivalent of stuff like yelp, Zagat and so on. I'll be traveling there next week, and would appreciate something that could point me to good places to eat near wherever I happen to be. [more inside]
What's the best way to ship a jewellery item from NYC to Toronto, Canada? [more inside]
Based on some recent labwork, it looks like I have Sjögren's. I'll be seeing a rheumatologist in a couple of weeks and I'm trying to brainstorm some questions to ask at that appointment. (TBH, I'm not really distressed about having Sjögren's - I just don't want to pay my $35 copay for a 5-minute chat that covers things I've already read online.) [more inside]
Who are some individuals who are top-notch artist-researchers and researcher-artists today? And how did they develop their expertise? [more inside]
Suggestions for an treadmill for indoor running? Sweaty snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I have a lazy eye. is it too late to fix it? [more inside]
Help me think of typical UK foods with US ingredients and vice versa. This is for a party, and no idea is too crazy. [more inside]
Is there a concise layperson's guide (i.e. for Dummies) of the advantages and limitations of using a U2F/FIDO/Yubikeys, distills all the jargon (FIDO, U2F) out there, and can recommend which one to use (if any)? [more inside]
There's a neat little Chrome extension that paginates a "readable" version of any website, MagicScroll Web Reader. It does so in a way I find quite pleasing for the reading experience, and I have it installed on all of my desktops. But the extension is long in the tooth by now and doesn't work on (iOS) mobile systems. Are there other vague equivalents out there? I do use Pocket, which has a somewhat similar functionality in its app, but it's not as seamless as using a bookmarklet or the like.
Is whining from young kids cross-cultural? I'm speaking specifically of any sort of wheedling, high pitched speaking designed to express negative emotion and desire at the same time. If it is, what are the theories for why young children do this as opposed to communicate in some other way? For reference, my kids are American English speakers who whine like it's their job.
I would appreciate any suggestions on this letter I intend to send to the 6 bottle shops within a mile (1.5km) of my abode that I frequent much more often than is good for me. Doing this was suggested by the facilitator and encouraged by my group therapy pals. [more inside]
I'm looking for a new bank account and am wondering which bank to try. I live and work in the UK, have no income from abroad and don't make payments overseas, but I do have US citizenship. I'm looking for a standard everyday pounds sterling bank account from a British high street bank to hold jointly with my British non-dual citizen husband. [more inside]
I have precise leggings requirements which, believe it or not, Sainsburys extra-posh version used to take care of extremely well. They've stopped doing these beautiful, many-colour leggings now and I need a replacement source. Where do you get your thick, cotton, awesome-coloured leggings from, UK comrades? [more inside]
At 11:10 p.m. the land line sitting next to my desktop rings. I answer it. Impossibly cheerful voice says, "Wakey, wakey! This is your scheduled wake up call!" I hang up. Phone rings again. Same routine. Third time I engage in brief conversation, then hang up and unplug the phone. What just happened? And should I have responded differently? [more inside]
I am bisexual in a way that kinda doesn't matter and very few people know. Would it be appropriate to make it more widely known? [more inside]
I am the executive director at a large and well-known regional environmental non-profit and am ready to move on. This is my first ED job, and I didn't go through a recruiter to get the position. I think though, that would be best for the next job. How does one find a recruiter? [more inside]
I just finished Smoke Gets In Your Eyes, a book about working in a crematorium, and I am craving more nonfiction books describing what it is like to work in a particular field/profession, or just what it is like to learn or do a particular skill/hobby. Does not have to be sole focus of book, just occupy big chunks of it. [more inside]
Due to frequent moves and the isolation caused by chronic illness, I'm facing my 30th birthday in a place where I only have a couple of acquaintances. Help me make it a good time? [more inside]
Arts-and-crafts-gone-wrong filter: I dyed a pair of boots black using Fielbing's LeatherColors dye and suffered a massive masking tape malfunction on the soles. The result (similar on the other side and other shoe as well). I have tried, separately, baking soda and rubbing alcohol, with little apparent effect. How can I save these boots? [more inside]
I'm looking for a very specific kind of Windows or iOS video game to scratch a particular, weird itch. Help me find a character to level up forever! [more inside]
My parents will be visiting Paris soon celebrating a milestone occasion, and I'm looking for suggestions of something I can arrange online for them. Share your Parisian wisdom and anecdotes with me! [more inside]
My health care provider recently recommended that I try Melatonin to help improve my quality of sleep. If you've tried Melatonin, did it work for you? [more inside]
My little boy asked me to buy him a dress. I did. Now, I have questions. [more inside]
Isn't it standard for an SPCA shelter to test for heartworm before advertising a dog as adoptable? Can any pet shelter call itself "SPCA" without any certification from the ASPCA? [more inside]
I'm in the process of divorcing from an abusive Ex. He's threatened me with a horrible scorched earth divorce. In the meantime, he claims that he still loves me and wants me in his life, but is driving me crazy by telling me about all the dates he is going on. His jerking me around is cruel. Even though I've been involved with someone wonderful, the Ex is driving me crazy and I don't know what to do. [more inside]
Trying to place this story or film. Prisoner finds note leading to passageway. Following passageway leads to more notes "You're on the right track!" and such. Passageway gets narrower and narrower, prisoner is unable to turn back. Eventually passage leads to exit barred by steel bars and skeleton, presumably the author of the previous notes. Ring any bells?
What are the reputable organizations providing relief help to the victims of the Mexico earthquake? Preferably not the Red Cross.
I need to hang a light about 2 feet from where the ceiling fixture is located. The only word I can think of for this is a swag, but that implies a drape, which is not what I want. I would like a modern, straight pipe-like thing that exits the light box, extends 2 feet parallel to the ceiling, turns at a 90 degree angle, and hangs my light. A ceiling hook that supports the weight near the bend is okay. [more inside]
I'm starting to freelance for the first time next week at a large ad agency. I've worked in post-production for a few years but new to the agency world. I need to catch up on lingo. [more inside]
I'm looking for book/article recommendations for a dude about developing a more positive body image and positive masculinity. Bonus points for materials that reference recovery from strict body-negative Christianity. [more inside]
The small company I work for is getting ready to convert from having a physical office to having the few of us who work there work from home instead. But, how do we manage the phone? [more inside]
I am trying to find vegan handbags that avoid the look and feel of leather (so, no fake leather). Specifically, I'm looking for slightly upscale examples that would fit in an office professional setting and look more like, say, a structured doctor-style bag and less like a tote bag (already have plenty of totes). Bonus points for ethical manufacturing practices.
Currently (and for the last 2 months) I am/ have been working a temp job with a definite end in about 4 weeks. [more inside]
I'm brainstorming ideas for a trip within a trip all by my lonesome, and I'm considering being in Paris by myself on NYE. What to do that is fun and/or interesting and relatively safe? [more inside]
American War - The Mandibles - The Plot Against America - Underground Airlines - The Handmaid's Tale [more inside]
Brooklyn food filter: I'm pretty close to Pratt in Clinton Hill, and looking for a place to do my birthday dinner with friends. I'd like it to be walkable, so let's say within a mile. I like pretty much everything - so type isn't a concern - but I'd like for it to be a sit-down restaurant. Preferably not too fancy. 15 to 30 dollars a plate would be the ideal range. I'm new to the neighborhood, so I'm open to all kinds of suggestions - even if I don't use them for this meal, it will be nice to know in the future.
Should I get bangs? Or not? If yes, how do I style them? Pictures inside. [more inside]
Doing some scratch recording for a video game tomorrow. We have a spreadsheet with all our dialog demarcated by role, level name etc. and then an "ID" column that looks like "DIALOGUE_SUPERJOE_WAREHOUSE_299_01". Is there a way to hand Audition a CSV or similar of those ID's and have it auto-create tracks with those names or do I have to manually name each track by hand?
A few years ago, I saw and adored paintings by an artist who used massive globs of paint in their city street scenes - each piece had chunks of paint, visibly protruding from the canvas, to disrupt the observer's vision in the way that snow or rain does. Who was it? [more inside]
I fail the Pinterest. Please help me anyway. Have you tried or heard of fun Harry Potter kid's party games? Are the ones I'm thinking of going to work? [more inside]
I used to do software support, and I really liked it. Now that I'm looking for a new job, I've got a bit of free time, which, in addition to job searching, I'm using to teach myself how to do random stuff. I'm finding that my troubleshooting background is coming in handy for a lot of things (e.g., cooking, figuring out why my kid is crying). I want to know if there's a general guide to troubleshooting that's not specific to a certain product or industry. [more inside]
If you don't normally identify as a science/math/engineering type, how would your interpret the meaning of a tilde symbol in front of a number in a friend's text message? [more inside]
I'm afraid I was remiss when I saw an adult flea on my dog a few weeks ago. I had bathed him, put on Advecta, vaccummed the house, and then assumed the problem was solved. My dog now has worms (on meds as of today) and I saw a few white, maybe baby, fleas fall off him when i was scratching him outside just a few hours ago. Please help me as I'm in spend-all-my-money-on-amazon-prime flea stuff mode. [more inside]
Card games - Is folding pocket rockets UTG on the bubble ever a positive ev play? I mean pushing and getting rivered by some flush is one thing, or folding to fight another hand.. in the money. What would you do?
Ladies: what is your favourite electric trimmer for your private parts? [more inside]
My new basement bedroom has low ceilings AND five fluorescent light fixtures. I will use lamps for illumination and I want to hide these ugly things. Here is pic with obligatory cat (Syd)inserted. Image Fixtures are 4 feet long and there are electrical outlets in the ceiling at one end. Assume that dismantling the fixtures is not currently an option. Handyperson skills are in the high beginner range. [more inside]
My mother died back in 2011, after a period of prolonged illness. My siblings and I have all moved out. But this leaves my father rattling around this big old house by himself. [more inside]
Describing his dawn parting from a lover, the narrator closes with "And the need of a world of men for me." What's he referring to? [more inside]
I own a 2013 Subaru Impreza hatchback that fell under the oil burning class action lawsuit. Long story short, I have been trying to do the free oil consumption test for the last year (two failed attempts with dealer here in Chicago; most recent, was supposed to do it at my last service but the representative forgot to document it). Now my car is due for an oil change, and I've scheduled the oil consumption test for Saturday. But the dealer is telling me I have to pay for the oil change? What's the deal? [more inside]
A buddy of mine has to drain his pool. He asked on Facebook how to actually do that. We've given him a bunch of "helpful" ideas, but I'd like to get more help on this. The more unpractical your idea, the better. Let's science the crap out of this. [more inside]
Dear MeFites, yesterday I arrived to our family condo to find two stains of unknown origin on the wooden floor, probably left by one of the holiday guests. Are there any wood-experts who would know how to remove them? Links to pics inside! [more inside]
Hello - I don't know what my favorite music is called. Help! [more inside]
I have a property that we're not in a lot, so the air inside gets stale -- and this is most noticeable in the basement, which apparently traps humidity. [more inside]
I have a LOT of semiprecious stone beads, and some crystal/glass/metal ones, ranging from big and clunky to seed bead size chips. I have made all the jewelry I can stand. What ELSE can I do with these beads?
She had a great run but due to multiple conflicting health issues, there is nothing our ~17 yr old cat can eat without causing further issues, and she has almost no appetite. We will not be subjecting her to any further extraordinary measures. How will we know when is the kindest time? [more inside]
I've been on a Who's Gonna Fill Their Shoes? kick lately, an elegiac tribute to a past generation's country singers. What are similar songs in other genres? Requirements: As much name-dropping as possible, with implicit or explicit doubt that the current generation will be able to match the old heroes. Any/all genres are good.
I've somewhat unexpectedly been signed off sick from work due to mental health issues. How can I best spend the time to maximise recovery? [more inside]
1) Should I pay them from my LLC bank account or from my personal checking account? 2) I have been paying self-employed taxes electronically for a while now (FFTPS and MA). But now I am doing all my work through my LLC. I don't have an EIN, using the social. I assume I can use the same EFTPS and MA State account to pay my estimated taxes?
I work for a small company, doing all manner of business administration from renewing the PO box to configuring CRM. It’s all over the place. I need your brilliant ideas for when the new contract discussion starts. [more inside]
Please help me find curvy-cut women's cords without a boot cut. [more inside]
I'm worried that my inability to put on weight will negatively affect my health in any future pregnancies [more inside]
It sucks, literally. [more inside]
I'm interested in finding epistemic communities and reading material related to South-South civil society engagement in but not limited to the UN's Social Development Goals (SDGs). More after the fold. [more inside]
I rally hope that's not the case, because my wife and I think horseback riding would be a wonderful hobby for us. Draft horses really big, aren't they?
I made a huge blunder in applying for a mortgage refinance with USAA. I signed the paperwork today. Now after re-reading all the stuff I know I should not have done it. I want to cancel it. Any advice as to how to approach this. I have emailed everyone at USAA that I have dealt with (4 hours after signing). The office is closed and I have not heard back. But I sure do not want this to happen. I am 87 years old and the process is having a horrible effect on me.
An old couch I inherited (and have to deal with until I can afford to buy a replacement) has a footrest that... is permanently extended. It's stuck. No amount of hammering and shoving has worked. I need this broken footrest DOWN and don't care if I have to break it more in the process. Whatever it takes! [more inside]
I'm writing about data governance, data leakage, data compliance (GDPR flavour) and similar stuff. I'm trying to give my client a choice of analogies to make the issues seem less distant and more urgent. When it comes to data leakage, for example, one analogy might be that of a formal event ruined by a bunch of party crashers. Who wants that? Nobody. So privacy nerds, marketing wonks, word wizards: got any suggestions?
Never have I been so glad of the two-questions-a-week option! Is this stuff hemlock? Or some other poisonous plant? [more inside]
Can you recommend a service or person in/around Seattle who can help me write a resume for essentially the first time in 20 years? [more inside]
I did a very stupid thing and basically shorted some pins on a SATA power connector while my desktop PC was on and running. There was a spark and a pop and it hasn't turned on since. [more inside]
My forehead these days feels sticky to the touch. Not so much a greasy look, but a tacky feel, as opposed to the rest of my face. Just curious. [more inside]
So I’m listening to the John McEnroe episode of Desert Island Discs. At about 04:25 he starts telling an anecdote about meeting David Bowie, and he says that he and Bowie were staying at the same place in London: “It wasn’t a hotel but a hotel-like facility.” What is he talking about? What is a "hotel-like facility", if it's not a hotel? Are there secret places where only celebrities and/or the super-rich stay? [more inside]
I do some simple web development as a hobby. I have a couple of projects that I've stalled out on, and I'm willing to pay for a couple hours of tutoring to help me understand the concepts I'm not getting. Are there legitimate websites where I'll get what I'm paying for? [more inside]
Just got a call from my landlord that my boyfriend left the faucet running before going to work, and the two apartments beneath me have flooded. What can I expect? [more inside]
Currently I have 1) a very annoying creaky ikea bed frame with slats and a mattress, and 2) an older mattress I was planning to get rid of. Could I just use the older mattress as a pseudo-box spring instead, and put it directly on the floor? The solution doesn't need to last for longer than say a year or so. [more inside]
I'm looking for well-written books or short stories that do a good job of building sexual tension. I am not looking specifically for sex scenes, but rather stories where the tension simmers and builds and you find yourself asking 'will they or won't they'? Bonus points if the tension is between same-sex characters. Not interested in sci-fi, probably not interested in fantasy.
I'm an aspiring self-taught children's illustrator working in something of a vacuum. I'm wondering how I could get feedback on whether my work is any good/whether it's worth continuing, etc. [more inside]
For my job I have a list of clients. Every client has one or more contacts (name, email). Each client needs to do a small number of things, which I keep track of. I need to export lists of clients who have and have not done those things, then send out reminder emails to the ones who haven't. I've been using a simple excel list and manually emailing, but the number of clients is getting too large to handle this way. What is my alternative? [more inside]
Please help us name our new nonprofit! We are a cooperative (co-op based), community nonprofit incubator redevelopment coalition! Any and all suggestions would be very welcome! [more inside]
Lately my Chrome browser has been doing weird things relating to DNS stuff. I am not a computery guy so please bear with me inside. [more inside]
Recently, our entire hvac system was replaced, but I'm not sure the heating cycle is running correctly. [more inside]
How do I reconcile my desire to be a professional and my desire for ear piercings? [more inside]
I'll turn 50 in about seven weeks, and I've started having hot flashes. But this isn't a question about that. Instead, my problem is that every time I have a hot flash, I'm reminded that I'm going to be dead in 25-30 years, and its starting to really make me upset. [more inside]
So I have a lot of music in iTunes and it's all in the cloud. Is there an easy way that I can download all that music at once to iPhone from my iPhone? Don't have access to the computer for a while so would need to be done from my iPhone, without having to click on the download arrow for each song.
I am still using a "Personal Information Manager" from the 1990's (Ecco Pro), which really has never been matched. I'm looking for something "modern" that primarily offers sophisticated outlining tools. [more inside]
We have started doing a series of food festivals and I'm really struggling to find the best way to manage our contacts; especially vendor contacts. [more inside]
We need a second car. We used to have a Lexus ES 300 we liked and which gave 15 years or so of great service. I think we'll get another, used. Can I get your take on which sedan and model year is right for us, and whether the current Lexus financing is as good as it sounds? [more inside]
For a variety of Reasons I want to avoid the winter holidays altogether this year. If I could afford it I would leave town the day after Halloween, but the best I can do is disappear some time around 12/20-1/3. If I could afford it I would go to Dubai or Tel Aviv or someplace with a *very* low Christmas threshold, but I don't have $1,500+ for a plane ticket. Where can I go affordably that will minimize holiday vibe?
I am always on the lookout for new podcasts to listen to but I find that Overcast, Pocket Casts and Apple Podcasts discovery engines are very limited - Are there any other recommended avenues to explore on this in 2017? [more inside]
Based on the score, is there a "right" way to end the bell part at the end of Shostakovich's 11th Symphony? [more inside]
My 17 year old child has a friend of the same age who is a great kid but has some learning difficulties, including ADHD. He takes Adderall for that, which causes him anxiety and he takes Xanax to counteract the anxiety. He is also on antidepressants. Adderall has bad side effects for him, including persistent anxiety, irritability, insomnia (the boy takes sleeping pills for that), lack of appetite (lost a lot of weight) and does not seem to help the grades at school. [more inside]
My friend is dying, miles away. I am an emotional wreck. I'm meant to return to work tomorrow after taking some time off, and I don't know how to approach this with my boss, or even if I should. Can you recommend some wording for me? A couple more details below the fold. [more inside]
How to create high shoulders/no neck for a Babadook costume? [more inside]
Can you recommend a credit card for travel rewards? or a new car? [more inside]
I have hit a ceiling and know I need to begin pursuing something else, but I have no network outside of my current field, no sense of how my skills might translate elsewhere, and only the foggiest sense of what kinds of jobs even exist outside of the art and academic worlds. Help? [more inside]
I just want a modern console that helps me do fun physical activities when it's 105F+ outside. I liked the Wii well enough but I'd like something newer and more flexible. What do you recommend? And are new consoles just around the corner? [more inside]
I got an IUD back in April. It hurts all the time. I'm going to make an appointment to have it looked at this week. What do I say when I'm there so that they take me seriously/what can I expect them to do to investigate without them just taking it out? It seems to be my best bet for long term birth control given my tolerance for hormones. [more inside]
My first paper for my graduate school program is due in a few days and every time I think about it or start doing research I get anxious. I have never, ever experienced this type of anxiety when it comes to school projects before. How do I get over it? [more inside]
I am pregnant and at my very first OB/GYN appt they gave me what I was told a routine blood test. The blood test was run at an independent QuestDiagnostics lab. I received an invoice from Quest for the correct amount of my co-pay ($20), but I see a list of things they tested for, including a genetic screen for cystic fibrosis! [more inside]
Since the election, I have made an effort to increase my charitable giving. I've given small amounts to lots of different organizations around many issues: funding abortion, fighting climate change, donating reparations to individuals and groups, ACLU, SPLC, local food banks, Donors Choose, and many others. But my budget is relatively modest and I haven't been doing much in the way of volunteering or taking action. I'd like to get more focused about making an impact. Can you help suggest the best way to do that? More details below.... [more inside]
I purchased an entire bushel of delicious freshly roasted Hatch chilis. And then left them overnight on the kitchen table. They're in the frig now ... I'd been planning to freeze them and make chili later. Sigh. How risky is this? I wouldn't serve them to anyone else now. Or do I need to kiss that $25 (and those delicious chilis) goodbye?
What is the book/film that's thriller/horror, has some friends that are, I think, stranded on an island? One of the men gets some kind of infection (in his leg perhaps) and spends a few days dying loudly and unpleasantly alone in a tent while the others increasingly try to ignore him through disgust/guilt....?
I am hoping that even though I have scoured the internet and found nothing, one of you may know if and how I can purchase a print of Truck and Sign. [more inside]
My non-religious partner would like to read for a while to a relative who is passing quietly away at a great old age. As the relative has always read the Bible my partner thought that would be a nice thing to read aloud as we sit company. Can you please suggest some passages that might be suitable? These might be ones that have a comforting message for us or be about "the end of the day" or something, or indeed just interesting parables to read aloud. Ideally not too heavy-handily about death or judgement day or going to live with god etc. My partner is thinking New Testament, but we are open to whatever.
I can't find any information about this candy, apparently called Noiset'Or. Here's a photo of the wrapper. My son, allergic to walnuts, pecans, and hazelnuts, is having a reaction and I would like to know if this is the culprit. It's the last thing he ate. Thanks for any help recognizing or finding info on this.
I have a big box of silver and silver plated stuff that I really need to deal with. I'm not looking for a windfall. What are my options? [more inside]
I have £50 to spend on itunes and I'd like to explore some new musical areas. I have included examples below of what I'm looking for, what I would say they have in common is a dirty funky sound, very danceable, quite old (60s-70s), originating in Africa or South America mostly. [more inside]
My iPhone 5 died recently, so it's time for a new (well, used/refurbished phone). My preference is for an iPhone 6 with 64 GB. Verizon is the only provider here, so it must be Verizon-compatible. I've already had some shopping adventures and am generally overwhelmed by all the options and vendors, plus many of them don't give enough info. More inside. [more inside]
My new downstairs neighbors run their bathroom fan for a total of two or three hours every day. We hardly run ours at all (maybe 20 minutes per day max, just while showering). What is normal bathroom fan usage? [more inside]
So I've been to the place that serves these amazing jackfruit sliders, and I'm excited that they shared the recipe and I can try them at home. But three tablespoons each of cumin and coriander for 16 ounces of jackfruit? That seems a little crazy to me. Can it be right? I have the ingredients ready to go and I can stay at home for the hours of cooking, so I'd really like to make them today, which means I can't contact them and ask.
We have this baby monitor. After 16-ish months, the parent unit has started dropping the link at random times during the night, which means loud, unmutable-unless-you-turn-the-whole-unit-off-and-then-sleep-through-your-kid-wailing-for-an-hour beeping. Suggestions for a durable replacement? [more inside]
I'm living in the Southwest because it's sunny, warm (I have SAD) and the cost of living is lower than where I'm from in Washington and Oregon. I bought a house here for $135K. But problem is I'm worried about global warming (we had the hottest June on record for this area 2017) and I'm a 20 minute drive from just about everything. [more inside]
Who's the best piano technician in or around Athens to service my Yamaha G2 grand piano? [more inside]
What German tv shows and Movies might I like? [more inside]
Where can I find a doctor (otolaryngology, dentist, neck or oral surgeon) who is willing to remove a painful but probably otherwise benign cyst that is in my throat or lower jaw or ear region (not sure exactly where it is located, but somewhere around there). I am a female who has seen countless doctors about the pain and discomfort and they all ignore my complaints and send me away without treating me. I live in Ohio. I want this cyst removed, either by surgery or if it's possible to lance it or dissolve it with drugs... it's driving me crazy and causes me earaches, neck and jaw pain. [more inside]
My wife and I are thinking of buying a functioning but neglected movie theater. We need advice on performing due diligence and negotiating the sale, so that we don't get taken. [more inside]
I'm training for the NYC Marathon. The last two weeks I've been battling gastrocnemius tendinopathy. I'm scheduled to do 15 miles this weekend. Should I do it or is rest gong to be more beneficial? [more inside]
Virtually everyone, even with 20/20 vision, needs reading glasses at some point in their 40s. Or do they? Is there any way to stop or even stall the inevitable? I read about an app called "Glasses Off" that supposedly strengthens eye muscles but the reviews were very mixed. Wondering if anyone knows any strategies for avoiding the dreaded glasses. (Yes, I should ask my eye doctor, but I don't have one.)
I have a legal right to something; I know. But in this situation involving my apartment building manager I also don't want to be an ass. How do I proceed? [more inside]
I had a sudden memory of a medieval / fantasy PC game I played as a kid in the late 80s or early 90s. Trying to identify it? [more inside]
I am looking for a cheap device that will monitor and log the fluctuations in temperature and humidity in our home (bonus for Indoor + Outdoor monitoring system) and from which I can upload to a computer via WiFi or USB or something similar. So that I can then track hourly, see graphs, etc. for the humidity fluctuations etc in the house. We have issues with window condensation in the winter so thought this might be a way of helping with that. [more inside]
I'll buy a used car from a dealer in a week or two. I don't have a checking account, just a brokerage acct. It lets me write checks...but not certified checks. Is my only solution to open a checking account, deposit funds from my brokerage, wait to clear, cut certified check, then close the account? I only need a certified check maybe once per decade. [more inside]
I just ran my second ever 10K today and am sitting here in pain with a pretty bad rash on my sternum from my sports bra. Help me troubleshoot and find a better bra for my needs. [more inside]
This question comes from Mrs. Gefilte. She is wondering if any women out there have tried using oral minoxidil (Loniten) for androgenetic alopecia (female pattern hair loss). Her dermatologist suggested trying it since the topical stuff was causing too much scalp irritation. Apparently some people have had success, but the risk of growing hair in unwanted places is a bit scary. Looking for any further anecdotes about using this stuff and what effect it's had, for better or for worse.
Ticket sales restrictions have changed so much in just the past few years that I'm wondering how people even get their hands on floor tickets for bands like U2. [more inside]
I went to American Apparel as they fit me (skinny guy) and at least in early years were surprisingly high quality. The basics endured years as work clothes. What's the alternative? Bonus points for being in stores, not just online. [more inside]
I'd like referrals to the latest podcasts, blogs, book titles and twitter accounts to follow on thought leaders in the enviromental movements and enviromental justice arenas. I would love general stuff but issue specific is fine. Looking to consume this in a relatively short period of time (the next 3-5 days) to get up to speed on the basics of the movement, what issues are at hand, where it's coming from and where it's headed, policy wise. What am I missing out on? [more inside]
I have some not-great pictures of one a rodent in our garage, cunningly evading a rat trap and eating it's bait without setting it off. But what kind of rodent is it? [more inside]
If I mix 15 mL of solution A consisting of 5 mg/mL of compound A, with 15 mL of solution B consisting of 5 mg/mL of compound B, what will be my final concentrations of compounds A and B in the resulting 30 mL volume? Similarly, what if I mix 15 mL of solution A with 15 mL of solution C consisting of 2.1 mg/mL of compound A and 5 mg/mL of compound B. [more inside]
How did they measure and test typing speed before computers? Also, how would I measure and test typing speed on a computer, but without Internet or software other than Word?
I'm finally starting to take some dancing lessons. The program is at a local ballroom and switches styles every 3 weeks, over the course of several months. The instructors recommend shoes that will slide easily on a wooden floor. I think I'm looking for a smooth leather-soled shoe, but it turns out those are not super common in stores. I don't really love the look of the oxfords I've found; I'd like something less pointy and decorated. What should I be looking for? Links to zappos or similar would be highly appreciated. I don't want to spend a ton on these if possible (with the assumption that I'll probably buy something else in 6 months once I've got some experience and know what I'm looking for)
I have a bad cold. I need some relief but despite many, many attempts have never successfully swallowed pills. What is my best choice of OTC medicine to get? No pharmacist available. Usually I get children's meds but any other choice?
Later this month, we're taking our first long-distance train trip, on the Coast Starlight from Seattle to Los Angeles! We gather that delays can be part of the Amtrak experience. We're considering heading immediately to Anaheim to hit Disneyland first thing the next morning. Is it reasonable to plan to catch a connecting train, or should we make other plans? We don't particularly want to rent a car or be stranded. Schedules/details within. [more inside]
Friend's children are with the other parent in Hillsborough County, Florida, evacuation zone A. Other parent is likely not evacuating, and will not release the children. What options do they have, if any? [more inside]
The Weekend Starboy Tour - how long do individual concerts last? Typically. Understanding that each show is different, but, you know - in general. We're anticipating Boston here, so the follow up is, how difficult to get public transport from TD Arena to South Station for a 9:30 PM train on a weekday night. Frankly, I'm not optimistic but, you know - knowledge is power.
I've never owned a dog nor did I grow up "around" dogs (or even have many opportunities to be around dogs as an adult, now that I think about it). However, I'm about to move in to a house where my roommate has a labradoodle dog and I'm getting more... apprehensive about it. How do I get used to a dog? How do I act around dogs? The number of dog "rules" and "tips" I've read already exhausts me. I don't want to lock myself away in my bedroom away from the dog all day. [more inside]
Washing our bedding every week helps us sleep better. But in the dryer, the bedding gets tangled and lumped and twisted together, which makes it take much longer to dry. Right now, I'm drying for 30 minutes or so at a time, untangling everything, and doing it again. (And then again, and again.) Are there any tricks to making drying bedding in the dryer easier? Some way that I can just throw it all in and it'll all come out dry an hour later? [more inside]
I want to read currently updated blogs about keeping large collections of cacti, succulents, tropicals, ferns, and/or other types of houseplants, please! [more inside]
Please help me teach some sessions outside my discipline, using curriculum and materials I hate. Please. I'm dreading this! [more inside]
The cigarette lighter in my car has detached from its faceplate, and the faceplate itself has detached from the dashboard. Do I glue this? With what? Do I need a clamp? Heat it up and hope it fuses back? Or just duct tape everything?
I collect miniature kitchen items. Some of these are just very well-made dollhouse things, but, my ideal is items that have been made in miniature by an actual kitchen product company. Favourites in my collection include mini Rosti Margrethe bowls, a mini crock made by an old crock company, tiny cast iron pans that are technically useable... I want more, but my search skills are weak. [more inside]
I have a (now dried) blood stain on the back of a beautiful beige leather skirt. The suggestions on Google didn't work. Now what? I love this skirt! [more inside]
My wonderful mother has a birthday soon, and she has, or can get, everything. Help me buy something meaningful! [more inside]
Our countertop is about 34-1/8" above the floor. We want a new dishwasher that will actually clean the dishes, for a change, and that will fit the space, and that won't break too quickly. If you considered these factors or have had your dishwasher ~3 years (so that a similar model is still available but has been tested), would you recommend it? [more inside]
Yes, I set goals. I track and review these goals on a weekly basis for progress. But how do I set more waypoints for my business? At the moment I use my summer holiday in June a and conferences throughout the year as “markers” or waypoints in my calendar. These really help in the setting of goals and giving some structure to my time. [more inside]
I'd like help finding where to buy inexpensive LED night lights with manual on-off switches, like this discontinued Safety 1st night light. Now most night lights are auto-on, light-sensing, which means they tend to flicker in moderate light situations. Bonus points for an LED with warm tone light. [more inside]
I have frozen the 3 major credit bureau reporting services to give out my information several years ago. I need to pay money and supply a pin number to unlock and re-lock each account if I need to. In light of the recent EquiFax leak, is there anything else I can do? [more inside]
I'm looking for a set of headphones that come close to the sound produced by my Skullcandy Aviators: richest in the mids and highs, particularly the highs, ample but not overdone bass. [more inside]
I'm a jobbing/session musician based in the UK, and I'm beginning to get large and frequent enough gigs that I should probably have representation ... but I have no idea how to go about it. How do I find/choose an agent? [more inside]
The new cat has started peeing on the bed. I've gone through a number of old questions - but want to make sure I'm not missing anything. We've recently decided that the little feral cat (cranky cat pic) we've been keeping inside as he dealt with dental issues should be a regular part of the household. [more inside]
When a hospital or clinic is in a natural disaster and can't resupply in a timely manner, what are the key medicines/medical supplies they will be most concerned about depleting? [more inside]
I'm not much of a Tweeter; mostly I read, on my Windows 10 PC. How can I make sure I'm seeing *all* the tweets from the small number of folks I follow, without browsing to their individual pages? [more inside]
I, along with many others, found out today that my PII may have been leaked in the EquiFax hack. Following the suggestions of many people both here on the blue (green?) and elsewhere, I froze my credit through EquiFax, and tried to freeze my credit at TransUnion and Experian. However, I ran into some difficulties and I'm freaking out a little bit. [more inside]
My cat's eye is a little irritated. Her upper and lower eyelids are red on one eye, and she's closing that eye a bit more than the other. Normally, I'd probably just wait and see, and take her to the vet if it got worse or did not improve. But I'm in an area that is about to have to (probably) ride out hurricane Irma. My vet closed today. Is there anything I can buy or do that might help my cat in the short term, from grocery stores or pharmacies? [more inside]
I KNOW IT'S TRUE I JUST CAN'T PROVE IT. I am having the world's dumbest argument with my brother about triangles. He says if you have two triangles, with two pair of proportional, corresponding sides, then the triangles have to be similar. I say no, you totally can have two non-similar triangles with two proportional, corresponding sides. [more inside]
Therapist wants to try Internal Family Systems (IFS) therapy with me. I read what little was available on the internet about it and it and it seems simplistic, overly reductionistic, and kind of corny. I like my therapist and am willing to at least give it a shot, but I feel like I'm going into this with a lot of doubt. Can anybody here who has had experience with this give me a less cheesy lowdown on IFS? Or, just tell me more about what you think made it helpful for you, or what your experience was like? [more inside]
I'm a mid-30s woman who will be travelling alone from Leipzig to Zurich by train next summer. Please suggest places to visit. [more inside]
I've always struggled with getting a word in edgewise, and it gets especially frustrating when multiple subjects come up in conversation. I then feel the need to backtrack and clarify everything, and often my frustration gets in the way and makes it even more confusing. How can I get better at making it clear who/what I am talking about at a given moment? How can I switch subjects more clearly...and without frustration? [more inside]
I'm being laid off in a month. How do I conduct a job search without telling people I'm about to be unemployed? [more inside]
My dear friend is a trauma surgeon in Miami and has been assigned to work this weekend. He was hoping for Ryder, the rock-solid hospital proofed for Cat 5 storms with carefully organized plans & procedures...instead, he's stuck at The Other Hospital, the one that's demonstrated poor organization/staffing/prepping, the one that most certainly does not have their shit together, the one that can't even get their own AC properly regulated. He's bracing for power going out and medicine running out and doing the best he can with what he has. He's showing up with water & food & headlamps and...what else? I should perhaps feel less worried than I am (he's a med team mgr for FEMA search & rescue, so I'm sure will also bust out all his disaster skills as needed!) but I feel helpless and far away. I'm wondering if the hive mind has any words of wisdom to offer or lists of things to pack!
So I waited too long to book catering for a party I'm overseeing for 25 family members in tiny town I've never been to. There is a CostCo in a town we'll be driving through on Friday, but whatever I buy there would have to still be fresh by Saturday night (we'll have a fridge/freezer.) The meal doesn't have to be fancy, but should be a step up from pizza. What can I get at CostCo to feed all these people without having to slave in the kitchen (and that isn't just sandwiches?) [more inside]
YANMD. My doctor prescribed Cipro for a stubborn UTI. I've taken three doses since Wednesday and have experienced stabbing, achy, joint pain and stiffness.... only in my right hand, and not consistently. Mostly when I'm mousing at work. I'm not sure if this is a serious concern. YANMD, but what gives? Is this a thing with Cipro?
I'm having surgery next week and will be laid up and medicated for a few days. I'll additionally be a nervous wreck as we may find out some very good or very bad health news. I expect my attention span will be fly-level and I might feel a bit down, but nothing cheers me up like a funny internet clip! What are your favorites? [more inside]
I've never been to Australia before (ie. I'm grossly ignorant about the country). Friends of mine have invited me to Melbourne but I'm on the other side of the world in Ottawa, Canada. It would take me more than 20 hrs of traveling to get there. So is Melbourne similar to say, Toronto? If it is, then I would likely pass. What is there that is compelling/exciting about Melbourne? What would I see or experience that I would not in other parts of the world?
Some people cope with difficult life events with cat photos but I prefer reading parody, satire, non-fiction/fictional accounts of terrible events written in an entertaining manner. [more inside]
I know there aren't many details on the Equifax hack yet, but I'm wondering about some best practices to move forward with given what we do know. [more inside]
I'm being demoted at work and I don't know what to do. Any advice is appreciated. Much more inside... [more inside]
My 7-year-old daughter suddenly doesn't want to go to school, spending the day crying and telling the teacher that she misses her mom. What could be the underlying reason? [more inside]
My wife's officemate made a mess in their shared office yesterday. How does she get her officemate to clean it up with minimal drama? (Or, is there another solution?) [more inside]
Toddler_in_Rome is 13 months. Me and partner have bought our first car. I have made it very clear to partner that I want Toddler to be rear-facing for as long as possible, ideally until 4. I am a very anxious person and have massive worries about car safety. I've read so much about the benefits of rear-facing but partner won't listen and has bought a forward-facing seat. How can I persuade him we should buy a rear-facing seat instead? [more inside]
ISO sub-$1000 laptop for coding & light graphics, audio and video work. Point me, MeFi... [more inside]
It's looking like there's a very good possibility that I will be transferring to my company's home office in Munich, Germany by the end of the year. We would be there for 3-4 years. I have never been out of the US for more than 1 day. I have a bazillion questions inside! [more inside]
SQLFilter: I've been wracking my brains trying to come up with a query that will work to pull data out of a table where relationships between its records are defined in an external lookup table. More inside. [more inside]
Have you ever seen a household interior decorated in ways that created an optical illusions? Like the equivalent of the old train tunnel painted on a wall in a cartoon, but just in somebody's home. Things that would would cause a guest to do a double take, or possibly deceive them if they weren't paying attention. [more inside]
What are all the causes for a consistent low uric acid count in someone's blood?
I've been married to a Frenchman for six years but the road to citizenship still looks complicated from my initial research. I'm hoping an immigration lawyer could help me out here. [more inside]
I have a semi-urgent need to make a small-to-moderate amount of money quickly, so selling off things seems like a no-brainer. But how do I go about it? What do I probably own that could actually bring in cash? Where is the best place to sell them? Even if you think the answer is super obvious, I am freaking out badly and can't even think, any advice appreciated. [more inside]
I'm using Mail.app on my Mac, and recently it's started thinking that PDFs are movies. They open fine, but they display badly. Pics inside. [more inside]
I'm a small business owner who has been doing all of the management-level tasks solo for the past five years. I've been quite successful, but I'm exhausted and need help as we've grown too large for me to run things alone! Luckily I've found two great candidates for two new management-level roles, and while the base salaries will be modest I'd like to design a profit-sharing plan to sweeten the deal as both roles can have a direct impact on growing sales in their area of the business. [more inside]
What are the best ways to get to working immediately, whether it be at the office or at home? [more inside]
I am interested in seeking help for mental health and life issues that I believe include depression, anxiety, ADHD, and complex PTSD. I am interested in somatic experiencing, but I'm having trouble finding detailed, unbiased information about it. I would also welcome other suggestions for treatment. [more inside]
I need to experience buoyancy in the bay this weekend. I could rent a kayak, but is there something cheaper? [more inside]
I recently moved to LA and have a bunch of my belongings in a 25 sq. foot storage unit in the Bay Area. (Mostly boxes, a few small furniture type items.) I am about to sign a lease on a house and want to figure out the cheapest and/or easiest way to haul my stuff down here, ideally about ten days from now. [more inside]
Long time business PC user now looking at Chromebooks. Pros and cons? [more inside]
I have 5 lbs of green, New Mexico hatch chiles. I've read the responses to this previous AskMe, but since my chiles are still raw (not pre-roasted, like those belonging to the previous asker), I'd love any additional ideas folks might have for making the most of these special chiles - including, but by no means limited to, the best methods and techniques for roasting them. [more inside]
I live alone, and my diet is godawful. How can I improve it? [more inside]
I have a great job with benefits, room for growth, free food, and the option to work from home occasionally. My salary is nothing to complain about and there is potential to make a lot more if I get some certifications. The problem is I’m miserable. [more inside]
I have my own Google account and a shared one with my husband. I have my iOS calendar app set to sync with both Google calendars. I have several events from the shared calendar on my iOS calendar, but there are several missing. Those missing events all show up on my husband's iOS calendar and in my own Google Calendar app. Why won't they show up in my iOS calendar app? [more inside]
My psychiatrist recommended going in for an assessment for possible adult ADHD, as well as talk therapy. At the end of the assessment appointment (no results yet), I asked the testing psychologist if she had any recommendations for talk therapists at their facility. She recommended a colleague, a neuropsychologist, and emphasized that it would be the best fit. I'm not sure what to think, thinking of finding someone else. Any experiences? [more inside]
My neighbours' toddler enjoys throwing those fireworks poppers that make a loud bang when they hit, but hearing them especially when I'm trying to work in my yard gives me anxiety. The bang is very loud! I've asked them to stop, but I feel bad taking this enjoyable thing away from the kid and wanted to give the neighbours a gift as a gesture of thanks for respecting my request. What sort of toy do you think a toddler would enjoy that is similar, but can be done inside the house so that I don't have to hear it?
I live near downtown LA, in Echo Park. My friend is visiting Anaheim. I'd like to meet her for dinner - where should we eat? [more inside]
I will be driving a rental car in Provence and the Côte d'Azur with my family while on vacation. As a US driver, what should I know in particular about driving in France? [more inside]
We're in the cone for Hurricane Irma, and there is no windowless interior room on the first floor of our house. Where should we go during impact? [more inside]
I picked up a painting at Value Village recently. It appears to be acrylic on canvas. It is a hearty winter scene of lumberjacks in the woods -- nothing special, I just like it. There is plenty of snow, and lots of white clouds, all of which is quite brown with nicotine. Now -- how do I clean this painting, and restore it to its original appearance? [more inside]
Through a friend, I got thrown a random freelance assignment to do some competitive analysis for a major enterprise technology company. I'm looking for examples of companies- not just enterprise tech companies, but a few of those would be helpful- that have aligned a variety of products under a conceptual umbrella, a messaging architecture that people seem to just get, even though there are clear conflicts and divides between those product lines when you really get down on it. [more inside]
Going to Singapore, but I'm more interested in leaving again. Where do I go? [more inside]
Not sure why I feel so anxious now. If you are really bored, feel free to read this extra long post and help me out. [more inside]
My family will be in Montreal during American Thanksgiving. Is there a restaurant or other business in the city or suburbs of Montreal where we might be able to get a Thanksgiving dinner on that day? [more inside]
So I'm reading Forest and Crag, Laura and Guy Waterman's excellent history of hiking in the hills and mountains of New England. I'm mostly really liking it, but at the beginning the book makes an assertion that I found unsatisfyingly dismissive: that pre-contact Native Americans did not climb in the mountains of New England. I would like to dig deeper into that and try to figure out how true that claim really is. Can you help me? [more inside]
I recently ended my relationship with a long-term, long-distance boyfriend and am having regrets. Did I do the right thing? [more inside]
I asked my bf where does he see his life at 35 (4 years from now) and he said a millionaire. I asked him, if that's it and he said yes. Is it a sign that I need to move on from him because he is wasting my time? [more inside]
I find myself engaging in black and white thinking, assuming that there's only one way forward, only one solution. That is generally incorrect. What are some examples I can keep in mind when trying to solve a problem? [more inside]
Can someone find this obscure Balkan / Eastern European (?) pop-rock album? All I have to go on is the single track title I remember "Bread and Salt in Your Own Home". The title and song names were in English (translation?) but the lyrics were in
I have a list of values I'd like to use to prune another sheet. If those values are found in the user_id column, then I'd like to delete the entire row where they occur. Filtering would work too. I feel like there should be a relatively easy way to do this, but Googling turns up solutions that don't work for me. [more inside]
When I was younger I read three or four books from a series of romance novels. They were very mild (nothing more than a kiss or two) and all followed the same format. A Girl in Historical Time has to choose between two men; Nice Safe Man who she likes quite a lot and Rugged Dangerous Man who sets her heart racing. [more inside]
I am looking for a frying pan. [more inside]
I need new books to read! These are two separate recommendations I'm looking for (but if you know of a book like both Anne of Green Gables and Jurassic Park, I'll buy it in an instant). [more inside]
YNMD: For the past year or so I've had a recurring dryness/flakiness on my eyelid and around my eyes and a little on my nose (see pic). I've seen two different dermatologists who've diagnosed this as dermatitis Does anyone have any OTC/remedies that have helped here? Or think of a combo optha/dermatologist they might recommend in NYC? [more inside]
I think I do reasonably well at providing emotional support for small problems and ‘bad’ days. However, I think I am below average at supporting people with bigger problems, or in long lasting tough situations (illness, depression, mid-life crisis type stuff) that you talk about in depth or have conversations about many times. [more inside]
In the 1980s / early 1990s I have a memory of watching a kids' TV show in South Africa called 'Good Stuff'. The show was either American or Canadian and started with a presenter talking about *something* and then went into a live-action drama during which some Life Lesson would be imparted. At the end of the show (and possibly intermittently throughout it) the presenter would reappear to comment on what was happening in the drama. [more inside]
A dear friend had to euthanize her elderly pet this week, and will need plenty time to be sorrowful. When she's ready to smile though, I'd love to send her a video or two that would give a guaranteed laugh. [more inside]
It was softcover, not hardcover, but wider/longer than most paperback books are. It had a white cover. It had three stories in it. Each story was a spooky mystery and it had all these different clues for how you could solve them, and then at the end of the story it told you what the solution was. I think one of the three stories involved....a ghost train? Another may have involved an old mansion. I think it was different from the ghost train one but I can't be sure. Also there were lots of illustrations. This would have been read in the 90s. Asking for a friend.
JMW Turner was a masterful painter. He was also a keen, but by all accounts dreadful, poet. One article I read recently described his poems as "totally devoid of any literary merit". What other famous classical artistic figures were masters of one field but terrible in another. Did Shakespeare do sculptures, did Mozart pen any vampire romcom?
I need help determining what my parent is on the hook for, and how to disentangle my private loans. Please hope me. [more inside]
I would like to adopt a rescue greyhound. I have always loved greyhounds and there is a big dog-shaped hole in my life. However, I have two cats and am away from home for 8 hours at a stretch three days a week. [more inside]
I'm writing on behalf of a friend, who has had a bad headache since Thursday. She's in a foreign country and is trying to decide whether she should go to the ER. She is not sure whether the headache is serious or treatable in the ER (and is of course worried about the cost). In her words: [more inside]
I'm a producer who has been working for ad agencies in NY and LA for several years producing and project managing digital marketing campaigns. I manage creative teams [art directors, writers and developers] creating websites, emails, display campaigns, social media content, and video for brands. Last October I had cervical fusion surgery which has had out me out of work for almost a year, and have recently learned that I will need a revision surgery to correct a hardware issue that is preventing my bone graft from healing. My savings is drying up and I need to figure out how to generate income. How do I translate my knowledge/skillset into work that is flexible and doesn't require me to sit/stand at a desk for hours? [more inside]
I am working on a treasure hunt activity. I would like people to travel to a particular location and once there retrieve some text clues on their phone. I'd like to be able to specify the text and location. I am able to travel to the places to do so if needed. It would be particularly cool if it were an augmented reality app and I was able to place the text on some surface for them to see. Can anyone recommend something for me to try? I'd prefer something that works on both Android and iOS.
I have been going through a rough few years, its caused friends to leave or distance themselves from me. Losing my social support, can't find work or a therapist...How can I stop being needy when I am, well...in need of help I can't yet access? [more inside]
I'm interested in possibly moving to Beacon or another Hudson Valley town. I currently live in a large city and I'm wondering if anyone can comment on what it's like to transition to a much smaller town (I particularly like the anonymity of cities; is Beacon small enough that everyone knows you?). I also think I might have seasonal affective disorder, and wonder how the winters are there—does it go weeks without sunny days? [more inside]
So I have a plane ticket to (and a rental car in) Fort Lauderdale, FL. On Friday. Um. [more inside]
Looking for a camera for (ojala!) puppycam. Or is using an old phone really the best bet? [more inside]
My son is a young teen and a gamer, I, alas, am not. We have, however, had a great time playing portal 2 (on xbox 360) together. We like the cooperative aspect of the puzzle solving. What are some similarly awesome games we should play?
A change in my sleeping habits has caused an unexpected side effect: I now have bad dreams almost every morning, shortly before I wake up. [more inside]
I used to carry a tote to work, but for the last year I've carried this mini backpack and fell in love with being hands free. But I need more space! Recommend your favorite specific model of backpack, please! [more inside]
Hey there! So, you may remember I asked about my parents' anniversary a while back - as it turns out, they took that over from me anyway, and so all I needed to do was send out the invitations and report back with RSVPs, throw some money at my brother for booking the venue, and then - showing up and looking cute. That last is the part I'm having the most trouble with. [more inside]
I'm going to be in Boston in mid-February, 2018, for a few days (which days are yet to be determined). What should my family and I do while we're there that requires advance planning? For example: when we went to DC, I got tickets to the African-American History Museum months in advance. I used to live in Boston but I don't know what's going on now. We've got adults, teens, tweens, with a variety of interests.
I'm looking for some photos that I can turn into prints to hang on my apartment walls. I'm assuming that they would have to be .tiffs. Is there a reputable company that is into this kind of thing? I'm mostly interested in photographs, especially random travel or slice of life photographs, but I've got an open mind. I would buy prints myself, but they're expensive!
I will be in Europe for a week for work, and my friend and coworker who's traveling with me wants to spend a few days in Istanbul. Given the political climate right now, I'm wary of this, especially with the warning on the State Dept website. [more inside]
Anyone know how to configure a Samsung Galaxy S8 so as to upload files through ANT+ from a 310xt to Garmin Connect/Strava? [more inside]
I only filed taxes for both 2015 and 2016 a few months ago, as one of the pieces I'm picking up after an extended bout of clinical depression. Now I have a tax bill from 2015 that I cannot pay in full immediately, plus a tax refund from 2016 that has neither been applied to my 2015 bill nor deposited in my bank account. I am trying to figure out how to pay, how to get my refund applied, and how to navigate fees and penalties. Would appreciate any help. [more inside]
I am a web developer setting up a new site for a client who will be taking donations for charity. Need suggestions on the best way to set everything up so that it works together easily and efficiently. [more inside]
My thirteen year old son wants to build himself a computer. He will do this at school as part of his once-a-week maker-space experience. He wants the computer for school work, internet and gaming. Could you help with the build he's put together from Newegg? And can you help with my specific doofus questions? [more inside]
I have lots of reasons to be more frugal, but continue to falter towards instant gratification especially with creature comforts. This is happening because I don't feel the pressure of consequences pushing me to make better choices. Hope me. [more inside]
If we don't sell enough widgets, the manufacturer has to raise the price to compensate for the lack of revenue. But if the manufacturer raises the price, it will be harder to sell the widget.
When I rub the back of my ears, my hand comes away smelling like rhinoceros ass. This happens even an hour or two after a shower. Scrubbing hard with a washcloth and soap seems to help a little, but that causes irritation. What is YOUR outer ear care routine? Thank you! Not rhinoceros-ist
I received some raw garnets as a gift. They have sentimental value. I would like to have something nice made from them as a memory piece, but I have no idea where to start. I am possibly the least crafty and/or creative person alive. Help? [more inside]
As one who is prone to eating ruts, while possessing negative integers of culinary skills in any form (think, 'banned from my Italian grandmother's kitchen, after being deemed "a disgrace to my heritage"- level ineptitude'); I am in need of flavorful ideas from the trusty Hive Mind, please. Rigid preferences inside, because this beggar is choosy as all hell, but for very valid reasons! [more inside]
I'm going to be working in Indonesia (rural Borneo). I know basically nothing about Indonesia! What are your favorite books/podcasts/movies/websites/music/resources/??? from or about Indonesian history, culture, politics? [more inside]
What is the best manual pepper mill to replace a battery-operated pepper mill? [more inside]
External monitor: can I force its brightness to actual zero without powering it off? (That is, without losing its window positions?) [more inside]
What are some good counterarguments in favor of a restored EPA and environmental regulations? [more inside]
What is the 'fallen man' referred to in this throwaway passage from Hilary Mantel's 'Bring Up The Bodies'? I assure you this is not my homework. [more inside]
I've found several piles of material which looks kind of like scat, but has a fibrous texture, on my porch. What is putting it there and why? [more inside]
I just sold my condo, yay! There will be a three-to-six month gap between this sale and buying a new house, and I want to stick the down payment somewhere it will make more money than my piddling savings account. What's the best way to shop for a three-month CD? [more inside]
By the standards of MetaFilter and the rest of the world, my mini drama with my mother may not amount to much. That said, my mom drives me a little nuts and has a LOT of questions. So many questions. Constantly. [more inside]
How do you reward / bribe yourself to go to the dentist for fillings? [more inside]
I live in a city in the middle of a housing bubble (some say). My lease is ending, and I'm considering moving into a new place with someone I've been seeing and like a lot, whose lease is also ending. He loves a particular area. I'm not as thrilled with it - here are my pros and cons: [more inside]
Looking for good quality black undershirts for my spouse to wear under his work uniform. Requirements: crew neck, available in 2XL, neutral to thin weight/breathable (he runs warm), and durable. I'll take any price point. (Purchased some Hanes brand recently and they are now like cardboard, crop top length, and have those weird splotchy discolorations all over them. Gross.) Thanks for your input!
I believe boyfriend was having an emotional affair, he admits it was inappropriate although still insists they are friends only. He thinks he should cut contact, but is this the best solution? [more inside]
I am looking after my neighbour's cat. They have a Masterlock key box (like the kind real estate agents use--the model number is worn off) and when I went over tonight, I entered the code, opened the box, took out the keys, did all the cat stuff. Then when I put the keys back and tried to close the lock box, it WOULD. NOT. CLOSE. It won't latch shut again. I googled and can find lots of stuff on how to break into one of these puppies but nothing on what to do if it won't close. I've just taken the keys home with me for now, but I'd like to make my neighbour's lock box work again if possible. Any ideas?
I have to be super frugal for a few months. I like to stay at home anyway but I'd love some ideas for pleasant, mildly constructive hobbies to do at home. [more inside]
We just have the night and morning there, and want to make the most of it. [more inside]
I'm looking for a way to refer to a subset that has the same name as the set it is included in, but context makes the distinction obvious. It feels very similar to a homonym, but it's more an issue of a difference in antecedent within the same set. [more inside]
What specific recipes are very well-known/iconic/household names? [more inside]
What are your favorite things to do with egg whites? We bought a pack of six cartons of egg whites from Costco this weekend without a clear plan for what to do with them, other than making egg white omelettes. Any good recipes for that or other things? Breakfast things most preferred, but anything else would be great.
There is a song featured in a CBC documentary that I'd like to get for my collection. [more inside]
In three days I'll have all my wisdom teeth removed with IV sedation. I hope to wear headphones during/after the procedure and I'd like recommendations for a playlist while I'm super fucked up. [more inside]
I'm at a point where my mother's mere existence is causing me so much stress. I don't know what to do or how to deal with her for the rest of her life. I wrote these three questions about her. I've taken the advice and encouragement given to me in those posts and I'm in the process of moving out, but what next? I'm at such a loss. I don't know what to do about her. [more inside]
There is a lot of good TV on at the moment. I don't have the time and don't really want to commit to watching the full run of most TV series. Please recommend great stand-alone sci-fi episodes that don't require me to view previous episodes to "get" them. [more inside]
My friend and her partner are uprooting and moving to Amsterdam! I'm super excited for them and want to get them a gift. However, it's very last minute and I need to do it remotely. Help? [more inside]
Hi. I do not have many friends. I have a difficult time socializing with most people because I think and feel differently due to being gifted. Small talk bores me to death. I like original and open minded people; someone that is curious and likes to have deep talks. Where do I find these people? Even online? I live in a small town that's pretty conservative and straight-laced. No idea where to find creative and people that get me for being different. I know being humble is important too. I just feel lonely.
I'm heading to Havana, Cuba for a few days later this month and would love to hire a local guide to show me around a little bit - both the touristy areas and maybe a few things off the beaten path. [more inside]
We booked a flight with an hour long layover in DTW, flying from NYC (LGA) --> DTW --> Tokyo (NRT). The first flight was shifted and now we have a 40-minute layover. Should we change our flight to instead have a 3-hour layover in DTW? [more inside]
I have moved to a foreign military base with my boyfriend of just over one and a half years. He is just getting back to a job where he is gone for long periods of time, he left three weeks ago for 2 months, and this is our first time apart. We have also been having major sex problems. I slept with an old friend of mine who came through town, and it has left me questioning my entire relationship. Do I have to break up with my boyfriend? Can we fix the problem we are having? [more inside]
I'm a 45-year-old guy in the early stages of a divorce, with two young kids involved. I'd love to find other dads who are or have gone through something similar, for perspective and support. But I'm not having much luck finding any, either in person (Portland, OR) or online. [more inside]
I have a significant birthday coming up in a year or so, and am seriously comtemplating spending the actual day at the location of my favorite movie. But I don't (conventionally) drive, and may be totally reliant on public transport. Options appear to be ... zero. No Amtrak lines, and no coach lines (unless I've missed an obscure one). Is it possible at all to get there, in September, without driving? If not, how much - roughly - would a cab/taxi cost from the nearest town or city with a public transport connection?
I saw an awesome black (linen?) dress with sets of crooked white lines. The woman wearing said dress could only remember that she bought it online. Can you help me track it down? [more inside]
I love love love looking at all the pretty eyeshadows at Sephora. So many different colors, textures, glitter/no glitter, etc.! So it occurs to me: has anyone ever tried to make art using makeup instead of paints or pastels? Is there anything inherently unsuitable about makeup that would make this a no-go? For example: a "painting", on a regular canvas, but using the Naked palette instead of oils.
So I noticed little ant hills around the base of each strawberry plant the other day. So cool! The strawberry plants are looking happy, so I'm not too worried about them. The internet says these ants are probably here to farm aphids, and it's fine if that means I never eat a strawberry. But the strawberry plants are right under the huge & beloved amazing rosebush that makes deep red roses all summer long. Is there any way to keep the strawberries (and ants) without ending up with an aphid infestation in the rosebush? [more inside]
New-ish translator here! I am attempting to count the source characters in a Japanese PDF, in order to come up with an estimate for a new job. I have employed a variety of different methods and programs (Word, CountAnything, JCount, MemoQ, etc.) and have even tried converting it into different formats like PPT/Word, yet the count discrepancy is significantly high for some reason. I am assuming that this is due to some rookie mistake of mine - what could I be doing wrong? [more inside]
How effective is exercising on a 'machine' vs 'reality' differ on the various exercise machines available such as a stationary bike, under the desk cycle, treadmill, stairmaster etc? [more inside]
When I am extremely angry, I will usually try to do some deep breathing to dissipate/calm the immediate visceral "anger" response. This works, but lately I have noticed that when I am doing the breathing, I will feel a strange deep-muscle tingle - typically, only in my legs and feet. I do not notice this when deep-breathing for other reasons. What mechanism is at work here? [more inside]
I left behind an item at a restaurant in Bratislava, Slovakia, and they have confirmed they have it there. I need it delivered to Vienna, Austria within a couple of days, and I haven't been able to get the restaurant to agree to ship it, I think partly because of difficulty communicating with them in English. Is there a courier service or anything along those lines that I could hire to pick it up and deliver it, or to pick it up and ship it (either to Vienna or to the US)? I would need to be able to communicate with them in English.
Is there a way to do Paleo that does not involve hours and hours of cooking every week? [more inside]
I'm interested in blogs, websites, news columns, reviews, advice columns, etc. that are written from a fictional POV. [more inside]
I wish my SO would take more pictures of me. But I'm embarrassed to ask, and even more embarrassed to explain to him why it would mean so much to me. Is this my vanity speaking, or is it a reasonable thing to ask? How should I approach this? [more inside]
It feels like almost every joint in my body pops, cracks, or creaks. Why is this, should it worry me, and what can I do about it? [more inside]
What advice can I give for protecting against cybercrime, especially for women? What are generally good precautions, behaviors, apps, settings, etc. and which are even more important for women? In other words, what kinds of are cybercrime are disproportionately targeting or affecting women? How can one, as in classical security, best prevent, detect, respond to, or recover from them? [more inside]
While travelling through Illinois I went through the I-Pass lane by accident.I don't have I-Pass. Apparently you can just pay online at illinoistollway.com with no penalty but I'm having trouble figuring how where I entered/exited & how much I owe, and the customer service rep seemed really hazy on this (she wasn't able to answer with certainty "what is the last toll plaza on 80 before entering Indiana?") so I'm doubtful. [more inside]
My husband and I love watching "Chef's Table" on Netflix. I'd love to go to the restaurants that are featured on the show, but the only one near us (N/Naka in Los Angeles) is booked through the year. Can you recommend other restaurants of "Chef's Table" caliber in Orange County and Los Angeles?
We're remodeling our medium-sized bathroom. We definitely want to add radiant floor heating under the tiles, but we're trying to figure out if we should also ditch our steam radiator. According to the calculator, the room is small enough to be entirely heated by radiant heat (about 7.5'x9'). Looking for first-hand experience - did you replace your bathroom radiator with floor heat, and how do you feel about it?
We need to get a new wireless headset for our PS4 that is adjustable to fit both myself and my husband, who has a larger head. [more inside]
I have desperately fallen in love with this dress Emily V Gordon is wearing. I realize that it may be a bespoke dress, but if anyone happens to know the designer/purveyor of this dress... [more inside]
How can I see a friend during a four-hour layover at O'Hare? [more inside]
I am planning to go to at least one protest that seems like it has a chance of turning violent. I really hope it doesn't, and I am frankly terrified at the possibility, but I want to be prepared if something happens. I absolutely do not plan to use violence myself, but I support people fighting white supremacists, including those using physical force. if people -- bystanders, peaceful protestors, Antifa, whomever -- are hurt by Nazis I want to help them. Where can I learn how to do this? [more inside]
An Australian coworker is over in Portland for the week, and is looking to catch an AFL game this Friday at 11pm or so. Anyone know where he might find a sympathetic bar to watch it in?
We are adopting a new born, due in the next week or so. I will be out of work for 6 weeks with no pay, and I make the most money between my husband and I. I need survival/savings tips! [more inside]
Our website had the problem where if you search for it on Google, the results description on the Google search results page referred to Cialis and Viagra links. Clicking on these results takes you successfully to our website, and no Cialis or Viagra junk is visible on the actual site. The problem was only visible from the Google search results page. Can someone tell me if this explanation of the problem and solution makes any sense. (It seems to me that this description is certainly describing a problem, but I'm not sure it's related to the symptoms above.) [more inside]
My three year old gets screen time occasionally. She loves Mary Poppins, but has a very low tolerance for scary stuff, or really any oppositional behavior. We have some travel planned (including her first air travel) and I'd like to bring some media she will enjoy. [more inside]
You Are Not My/An Accountant (or Lawyer), but can I refuse to accept payment by cheque for my freelance business? [NB: this question refers to Australian business practice and regulation.] [more inside]
How do I deal with a creepy guy who watches me all day while I work? [more inside]
I don't know if I'm capable of making the emotional sacrifices necessary to support my partner's career. Would the most ethical choice be for me to leave? [more inside]
I’m currently living in a smaller city in China (well, by Chinese standards). I’m comfortably conversational in Manadarin — working every day on making it better! — and I plan on being China for the forseeable future; I don’t know if I’ll be in this particular city for more than a couple months more, but my plans are very open ended. I’m a bisexual, thirty-something white-ish male who tends to really overthink romantic social interactions and is trying to make sense of how to think about dating as a foreigner. More details within… [more inside]
I am trying to build a playlist for a fictional teenage girl in 2003. All I listened to in 2003 was Jonatha Brooke and Dar Williams. Help me make her a little more well rounded. [more inside]
I'm looking for a good app to remind me to take regular computer breaks. There are lots out there; what's your favorite? [more inside]
Further to my letter-writing habit I've bought a number of sets of vintage writing paper and envelopes from eBay. Usually it's possible to get some approximate idea of when and where the paper was made, but my latest acquisition has me puzzled. The stationery in question came in a flat white cardboard box adorned only by a symbol incororating the letters HAS. Does anyone recognize this as the logo of a paper-manufacturer or retailer, or a symbol representing some other organisation or individual? Do the component parts of the symbol have a coherent meaning? [more inside]
I am thinking about moving back to the US after a decade in Europe. In the current political and social climate, it feels like contemplating a move into the wolf's den. Help me decide if this is really a good idea or actually a very, very bad one. [more inside]
I'm looking for an animal welfare group which helps reptiles and/or fish, and many of the big names seem less than helpful. [more inside]
I'm making a few evacuation plans based on where Irma may go. One is to Orlando. I'd love to hear from locals on areas to seek or avoid - somewhere safe, not too prone to flooding. I'll need a place that is pet friendly and disabled accessible.
What are some good websites or other resources for keeping up with non-Hollywood-blockbuster movies? Meaning: independent flicks, interesting non-American / non-English-language stuff, or just Hollywood fare that's (1) a bit off-the-radar and (2) isn't a remake, a comic-book movie, or a "property". Bonus points if they have a Facebook page that I can follow for utterly passive consumption! [more inside]
I've had peaks and valleys of depression and contentment (never outright blissful joy, I'm just not made that way). Recently, I've found myself to be in a lot more valleys than peaks and I want to get some perspective on whether this is a thing or A Thing. [more inside]
In The World of Henry Orient from 1964 starring Peter Sellers among others, two teenagers who are infatuated with the eponymous character rove around New York City. Among their various activities is one where they jump over objects like fire hydrants while crying out, "Splities!" Why do they do this crying out? Is it part of some kind of game or is it just a calling out of how they are jumping over the objects they jump over? [more inside]
How do I keep a relationship fresh and fun for a long time? [more inside]
Can you tell me what major American museum has, or had, a mural depicting various ethnic groups showing traditional body modifications? This is a disturbing memory of mine. [more inside]
I'd like to construct a box or perhaps a cake stand sort of thing out of cookies that I can then use to display yet more cookies. Please give me recipes that make cookies suitable for building so: ones that taste good, are strong, hold a shape well etc. And if you've got any cookie construction tips I'll take those too. [more inside]
My partner and I have had the pleasure of fostering six rambunctious kittens and their mom, but our time together is coming to an end. Of course, we're keeping one... And he needs a new name. [more inside]
I'm in the position of needing to mail some socks back to a friend who lent them to me for bowling this weekend. He enjoys silly cards with silly puns, so I'm trying to think up dumb sock puns to accompany the returning socks. (They're plain white athletic ankle socks, in case you're wondering.)
I'm looking for recommendations for a small, lightweight thermos (capacity ~12 oz). I'm a coffee nut and have accumulated a bunch of fancy thermos gear, but I'm really trying to minimize how much I carry around on a daily basis. As a result, I'm currently using a plastic bottle. Surely there must be a better way. Perhaps you know what it is?
Here is a picture of the blue pinstripe tank top in question. The IG model in the picture noted to me only that it was purchased in Medellin, Colombia. I figured googling all the things I put in the tags would yield something, but I found nothing. I am looking for some place to buy it online. Thanks!
Three or four spiders live in or on the old wooden window frame in our kitchen. We like spiders, so we leave them alone. Tomorrow when we're at work, our landlords are letting themselves in to take a look at the window, which leaks. The odds that they also like spiders are not high. We don't want the spiders to get squished, but putting them outside could also kill them. Can we keep them temporarily in a box instead? What should we put in with them? [more inside]
A few days ago, I went car shopping with a friend. They had been through Katrina, and with all of the focus on Harvey, they were thinking hard about Katrina cars; cars that got shipped out of New Orleans to all parts of the country for sale with doctored titles. People all over got stuck with these ruins that had all kinds of problems and never ran right. [more inside]
Not quite sure how to phrase exactly what I'm looking for, but I'll give it a shot. I just read Hue 1968, which focuses on a specific battle in the Vietnam War. However, the book still gives broad color around the war, what led to it, aftermath, etc., despite not trying to be a history book about the entire Vietnam War. In essence, it's a very engaging and interesting way to learn about a topic through a narrow lens that turns out to be not so narrow. What are some other books that focus on a specific subject/event/person, yet effectively give a broader history? [more inside]
I am going to a sleep clinic for an initial out-patient visit and this has to work. How do I get the most out of it? (details below the fold) [more inside]
Cooking NYT has gone paywall. Sad! Are there alternatives that will work as well for me, or should I pony up the $? [more inside]
I'm trying to find the source (who said it where) of the concept that a medium is mature when it is used mainly to discuss other things than the medium itself.
Between 0:11 and 0:12 in this commercial, you can see a very brief shot of a cable-stayed bridge. It looks so familiar, but which one is it? It's not the Zakim in Boston, since the towers are a different shape. It isn't the Sunshine Skyway, either. What about the bridge at the very beginning?
I'm going to Leeds for the first time next week (American, first time in the UK). What should I know/see/do? [more inside]
I've recently gotten interested in vodka, specifically making vodka martinis at home (vodka + vermouth, up with an olive). I've been using Reyka, which I love, but I'd like to try something new. Which one should I try next? [more inside]
I'm a 40 year old female and never been in a committed romantic relationship. Done the FWB thing a few times, dated a guy for a year one time, but starting to feel hopeless about ever finding an actual "Relationship". [more inside]
The cat is exhibiting weird peeing behavior - urinating in small amounts, getting into the litterbox and not peeing. This started this morning. She is eight. Obviously we need a vet visit - do we need to go now to the emergency vet, or first thing tomorrow to the regular vet? [more inside]
For a long time - at least 3 to 5 years - I've regularly experienced very painful cramps in my feet. I feel like I should be able to pin down the cause and do something to prevent them, but so far no luck. Help? [more inside]
I love receiving and reading actual print magazines. I'm looking for 1-2 new ones to try. My likes and dislikes are inside... [more inside]
I'm looking for a book I remember reading in middle school. It was fairly horrific dystopian YA set in the future, about two teens (both boys I think?) who go to... a summer camp, maybe? Of course it turns out to be more of a murder camp... Graphic details below the fold. [more inside]
I need help figuring out how to make it through the next few months without breaking to bits. Your best self-care tips, please. Details below. [more inside]
My work computer is a 15" MacBook Pro, and it has a beefy 87w adapter. I also have the 60w adapter that comes with the smaller MBP. I know using a less powerful adapter will charge the computer more slowly, but besides that, is there any downside to using it? I would just be plugging it in when the computer is not in use.
Hi folks. I have an old electronic panel meter that has Chinese or possibly Japanese writing on it, and I'm curious if anyone here could help translate it for me? Pics of the meter are here. Thank you!
I've been planning to go to Barcelona for years- and now we're going in October. I am a little overwhelmed. Anyone have advice? Specific requests below. [more inside]
High amylase levels on health check 3 years running --> see doctor just in case --> CT scan today, Monday --> results to come Friday. No symptoms to speak of now or earlier (except now my stomach hurts, jeez...), not sure what or how much to worry about. Not in search of medical advice, just ways to not panic over the next 96 hours. [more inside]
I'm considering moving to Tampa or somewhere near it to be closer to my mom, who is moving there this year. Tell me what it's like! [more inside]
I have a bad, bad addiction to the internet. I want to severely limit my time online, but I want to keep up with the news (global and local). A print newspaper seems like a good solution, but most of the subscriptions I'm seeing are very expensive. [more inside]
I feel bad about not having made any friends during grad school, because I was dealing with multiple stressors at the time. [more inside]
I have the opportunity for a new job that I've always wanted. Should I go for it despite a large drawback? [more inside]
In my youth, I saw a cartoon where somebody runs into a room so fast that they end up running right out again. I would have seen it in the 70s or 80s but it could have been from an earlier era. Can you help me find it? [more inside]
Hiya. I'm looking to buy a comfortable headset with mic to use with a MacBook Pro. Ideally these would connect to the headphone output and just work, but I'm confused about requirements. [more inside]
I have a standard sliding gate opener on a drive way. When the temperature hits around 85 or more on a sunny day, the gate opener seem to get over heated and stops working. When the sun goes down, the gate will automatically work again... This seems to happen every spring and summer period. I've put a dozen holes on the plastic cover for venting.. It didn't help. Is there anything I could install to cool the opener? I was thinking some sort of insulation.. or even small computer fan... but I don't know if that is enough.. a small AC unit may do.. but pricing and electric over usage may be problem. Any specific ideas and/or brands would help.. thank you~
I need a new cleaning service. Snowflake-y details inside. [more inside]
Due to a combination of career transition and temporarily high child care costs, i'm going to be poor this year. How can I reframe this in my mind so that I'm not in a miserable deprivation mentality for the next 10 months? [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for good 15-25 minute videos that are not too intense but are kind of varied and work out the whole body. Will pay if necessary, but free is good too. Specifics inside. [more inside]
I spend too much buying cold brew coffee at cafes, but I've not had good luck learning to make it myself with one of the Toddy kits. What's the current state of the art in cold-brew coffee? Bonus points there's an easy way to make a week or two in one go (to be kept refrigerated)! [more inside]
Do the false sound effects for drawing a handgun on a person in a movie or t.v. show drive you nuts, as someone familiar with guns? Which shows/movies get this correct? [more inside]
We have a 2009 Honda Fit. I am far more worried about misplacing the keys for the locking gas cap than I am about people stealing gas from our tiny car. Can I just buy a standard gas cap to replace the locking one, or will that create Check Engine light/gasoline fume issues?
Need to stay 2 nights near Queens College in order to take test there, younger woman will be alone and wondering where a safe place might be....I've been to NYC several times but not familiar with Queens....on a budget also....any ideas? Suggestions? All appreciated...
My car needs to go; what charity should I donate it to in order to maximize the benefit? [more inside]
Where can I find the Revolutionary Girl Utena fansubs I used to love? [more inside]
Hi -- I recently injured my C5 and C6 Cervical Disks. Does anyone have advice on a good OFFICE chair at my job to help? Or which elements of a good chair I should be looking for? (Most everything out there is geared toward Lumbar injuries...)
Hi All. Last month, August 2017, or maybe the end of July, I was listening to NPR and they were interviewing a musician. I think she was interviewed by Terry Gross. She had just released a new album, and had moved to or from NYC, and was a bit disappointed that she was working at a coffee shop. I think her name was something like Francis Jones... Thanks.
I would like FB to show me most/all things my friends post, and most/all things the groups I follow post, in reverse chronological order. I don't much care if they want to also show me ads, but I'd like to see most of the stuff I actually care about. [more inside]
My brain tells me it was Robert Asprin but the internet says it ain't so. The idea was in a sci fi book set in the future and it opened with someone buying a burial but then the salesman adding all these things and finally upgrading the buyer to a super fancy coffin ...
Assuming I can get him a reservation on the Individual CERN tour, I want to provide a 16 year old (American tourist) explicit and concise instructions for a day trip from Zürich to CERN and back. [more inside]
While looking at places the other day, I saw some Nazi-affiliated signage in neighboring houses, and it freaked me out pretty badly. They don't usually advertise, so how can I find and avoid racial enclaves within more diverse cities I am unfamiliar with where this kind of stuff is more likely? [more inside]
It occurred to me that the most useful programming books I've read are about fixing bugs and refactoring fuckups, and that a similar principle might hold in useful cooking books. So I'd like to ask for recommendations of cooking books that are about fixing fuckups.
How can I unpack my emotions about a friend's recent decisions? [more inside]
Not very knowledgable tool person here... I bought a heavy Shopcraft saw at a yard sale, and while testing it, I am seeing a bright motor spark and click whenever I let go of the trigger. Is this normal, and is it safe to use? See this video. Thanks!
I have a 12-month season ticket for my new train commute. It cost a lot of money and I am very, very prone to losing things. How do people keep hold of these? [more inside]
I lost my phone at IKEA yesterday. Find my iPhone says it's been offline since the moment I realized, but the tile app keeps saying it sees it every ~15 minutes. Huh? What could this mean? Is there any hope? [more inside]
I get my pedicure done at a place that seems to be on it, with respect to hygeine, but I notice that when my polish is removed, my nails are solid white underneath. What's that about? [more inside]
My parents attempt to control me through guilt and threats (Mother) and financial power (Father.) This has affected my entire life. Recently I took several steps to distance myself from them. These include not letting my mother blackmail me emotionally, and refusing any further financial assistance from my father. The last time I talked to them on the phone was in April. We have communicated via e-mail ever since . Two days ago, my father left on a ten-day trip, and asked that I "have a heart"and call my elderly and depressed (depressed in my opinion, since she refuses to see a therapist) mother, who is alone while he is away. I am working hard to build and maintain boundaries with them. Do I call her back? [more inside]
My doctor put me on Cymbalta for my fibromyalgia. That, and a few other things have turned me into an agoraphobic. Now, I don't know how to break out of it. [more inside]
Please help me find an accurate and direct book for a toddler on where babies come from. [more inside]
I want to build more intimate and loving relationships [more inside]
Lie any good 90's kid, I grew up playing point and click computer games. For the sake of nostalgia, I'm on the hunt for a new favorite to play. Details inside! [more inside]
My wife is devastated. An iMovie of the first year of our twin boys' lives is ruined due to the way iMovie functions. Help me help my wife who's currently upstairs bawling, somewhat understandably. [more inside]
Can you help me with some advice on finding a sublet in Portland ASAP for a couple of months or so in a good, walkable neighborhood for my retired mom? [more inside]
I LOVE BRITISH ROMCOMS. Please give me more movies and tv shows to inhale. [more inside]
I had an initial interview for my dreamish job this week, and have another interview next week. I would love to take this job, but the timing is pretty crap, as my wife and I are going to be having a baby in about two months, and I'm wondering how to handle it. [more inside]
Pacifica have stopped making their Persian Rose soap. This is a problem. I live in the hinterlands with no access to fancy shops in which I could smell fancy soaps before buying them, so I'm reduced to mail order, and I have special needs. Basically, I hate almost all scented products, except for soap, and I especially hate complex or "perfumey" or artificial-smelling fragrances, anything with patchouli, and pretty much anything with musk. I like a soap that has a fairly simple but strong natural floral or citrus scent. I've identified Claus Porto as a brand of soap that sounds like it might have what I'm looking for, especially the Banho Verbena or some of the rose-based ones. Have you smelled these in real life? Would I like them? What other brands might I like?
Asking for the good lady researcher her indoors: is there any way to bulk undo recent moves or deletions from shared folders on Google Drive? [more inside]
I'm having a party tonight and would like to do karaoke. We have a dj with a full sound system, laptops, and a slow internet connection, so I thought it'd be fun if I could just download something for karaoke. [more inside]
Is there a map online showing exactly where parking in Washington DC is metered, and what the time restrictions are? All I've been able to dig up are general zone maps.
Looking for book recommendations for a bright young lad who sees himself as a rebel and an outsider. He is well versed in comic book culture, music and videogames, but has hardly read anything at this point. [more inside]
I have some vintage/historic computer equipment including an IMSAI 8080. What should I do with it? [more inside]
My parents have evacuated their neighborhood (Bevil Oaks outside of Beaumont) and are staying with family in Bridge City. How will dam releases affect the water level where they are? Should I ask them to evacuate? [more inside]
I regularly make donations of children's books to various organizations, and I'm looking for some new ideas for organizations/groups that can use them. [more inside]
Web development for cats, the perfect AskMe question: An animal adoption org in Durham is trying to move to an easier-to-maintain web system. They are considering one approach (Wordpress, with interest in a couple of significant plug-ins) and have talked to one web development firm so far. Looking for insight on their technical approach and also advice on overall approach or other firms. [more inside]
I feel I need some time each week that isn't burdened by need to schedule or discipline myself in any way. I struggle with avoiding temptations and destructive distractions during time I set aside for this. [more inside]
Bought used, upon delivery noticed a chemical smell. Whenever I sit on it I end up breaking out in hives. What could be causing it and how do I fix it? [more inside]
Shopping filter: Looking for companies that make trousers with a 28" waist and 32" leg, and with normal cut (not skinny or baggy). Gap was previously my go-to, but their current men's trousers all contain stretch. Uniqlo only does a 29" waist. What else is there? Must be available in the UK. Looking for chinos and plain styles, nothing too on-trend or flashy. Thanks in advance!
What are common domain endings (eg. shoes24.com, myshoes.com) in these languages for .COM domains? [more inside]
After a few episodes of sciatica over the last year, I started physical therapy. After 2 months and not much relief or change in pain and frequency, I was sent to get an MRI and to a physiatrist. The MRI showed 2 herniated discs in the lumbar region of my spine. More details inside [more inside]
Hi AskMe, I'd appreciate your thoughts. I’m male, in my late 20s, near Seattle, and totally blind since birth. I have a female friend with potential for more, who is older than I am and also blind, about an hour away. My mom, with whom I live, disapproves of my going to stay the night with her, and has threatened to kick me out of her house. How can I address this with the woman I’m interested in, and deal with my own feelings of anger towards mom? [more inside]
I'm starting a professional course-based grad program this fall and my cohort had the opportunity to meet each other for the first time this week. I can't put my finger on it, but I am already disliking these people. I don't want to spend the next two-years disliking these people, so how can I forget first impressions and meet them "again" for the "first time" when our courses start? [more inside]
I've been managing my team for about 18 months now. At the moment, I have two FTEs and two contractors. Decisions have been made above my head for financial (not performance) reasons to end the two contracts. I have to give them two weeks notice tomorrow. How do I have that conversation? [more inside]
This was what was happening two weeks ago. Things have taken a new turn. My partner and I have been given two months to find a way to pay $2000 in rent and utilities or move out because his mom wants to go to an assisted living facility. We need help coming up with a game plan. [more inside]
My sister owns a rental condo. Her tenant passed away and the tenant's boyfriend, who is not on the contract, has been occupying the place for a month or two without paying rent or responding to my sister. Can you help us plan out some steps to evict this person? We and the property are in California, if that helps. (A bit more inside.) [more inside]
I hate accounting. I always have. It's part of what's made me avoid running my own business. "Sure," you say, "that's what accountants are for." Nevertheless, I want to do as much of it on my own as I can, mainly because given all the cool software tools these days it seems like it ought to be (relatively) easy. More on the insides. [more inside]
My wife is at a conference outside of Portland in Clackamas and I came along. I'd like to have suggestions on what to do all day tomorrow (Saturday) and Sunday on my own, as I explore the city while she is busy. It is my second time in Portland but I am still very unfamiliar with the city. Your suggestions and stories and must dos welcome!! [more inside]
My Mum found this thing in a container of pocket change that belonged to my Dad. He passed away a couple of years ago so we can't ask him what the heck it is. [more inside]
I need to create a small online gallery. I don't want to start from thumbnails; I want a sequence of fully expanded photos, and I don't want the service to trim size/resolution (within reason). Users can click to go to "next" (i.e. not a slideshow). I'll need to add captions. Interface should be uncluttered. It should display well in mobile. Can anyone recommend a web site/service?
Suppose you are visiting San Francisco for a day or two and you want to try a fancy / special cocktail place, with fancy / special cocktails? Is there any place that's particularly unmissable? Or do you have a few top recommendations? [more inside]
I have often begged my husband for time out as a couple. I would be happy with a low-key date night once a month. He is proud of his job and sees that as his main contribution to our household. He has angrily told me "You have a big house and two beautiful children and that's STILL not enough for you?" [more inside]
How can I get better at quickly recalling the titles of books I've read recently? [more inside]
I used to reliably find answers to questions using Google Search, or find articles I faintly remembered reading. That seems to have changed over the past year or so. [more inside]
Thinking of visiting wreck beach this weekend for the first time, but my partner is worried about the 400+ stairs on trail six, as neither of us are in great shape. Is it just one long staircase, or are there flat areas to catch your breath? Is it easy to pull off the stairs mid-walk to rest a bit? Also, is it still true that you can hike away from the main party and find a quite spot to read easily, or is that out of date? [more inside]
1. Preferably inkjet, but I'll consider good value b&w laser printers. 2. Preferably for less than 200 dollars. 3. Preferably sold at Amazon, Best Buy, Walmart, or Newegg. [more inside]
My main social account now is suddenly blocked. Am I screwed completely or just partially?... I went back to add some hashtags to my newest post. Suddenly I was kicked out, and in order to log back into my account, they asked me to input a 6-digit security code. [more inside]
I've been going to baby shows and get ads for things like cord/stem cell banking and life insurance for the baby. Do babies need life insurance?? What are things to steer clear of as new parents? [more inside]
I need an app that will provide silent notifications at a given time. [more inside]
I love the twangy song playing in the background of Ulo's Kickstarter video. Shazam doesn't seem to recognize it, though I wonder if it's a set of clips of a song edited together.
I’m looking for a medical-grade wrist accelerometer to be used in a study in Canada. So far, I have tried: Actigraph, Actiware (Philipps Respironics), and Garmin, but none are suitable (Actigraph cannot ship across the border due to Canadian restrictions; Actiware has discontinued their Actical model; Garmin doesn’t have the accuracy needed in the 3 axes) We need a wearable accelerometer that measures in three planes of movement. Any suggestions?
What's an appropriate way to "break up" with someone after only a few dates, when you don't have a good/specific reason? [more inside]
We are gutting/renovating our small bathroom. We don't have a master bath so the idea is to help this bathroom be the best everyone bathroom it can be. I found a layout I like but I can't picture how it will look in reality and can't find real life photos of this particular layout. [more inside]
I shy away from arguments/conversations, like to change the subject, etc. But it seems like I'm missing out when its between friends who actually really enjoy these conversations. Have you changed how you get better at accepting what I call basically meaningless arguments ? [more inside]
I'd like Irish/Gaelic speakers to tell me, in as much detail as possible, about the correct way to pronounce an uncommon name. [more inside]
The other day I bought a bottle of bleach at the market. Normally for this kind of item I'd look for the cheapest generic version. However, the Clorox brand has a no-splash pour spout that works well, and for that my clumsy butt is willing to pay an extra 70-80¢. We've had questions about worthwhile splurges on the higher end. What are some practical* examples of features that are a relatively cheap upgrade? [more inside]
So school is about to start and I've picked up a part-time gig as a bus aid while training to be a driver. I have a morning run that they're trying to work around Agent K getting on the bus since I can't convince anyone to come feed him breakfast, dress him, and get him on the bus. The problem comes after my afternoon run. I'll be home an hour or two after he is. And thanks to my ex, I'm completely screwed. [more inside]
I've recently got into cooking and baking in a big way. Does a book exist which sort of says: "OK, beginning of Autumn, these sorts of baked goods were traditionally made with this variety of in-season fruit at this time of year" and/or "ok begining of Winter, people began eating preserved red cabbage with their meats and for breakfast would begin eating porridge at this time"? [more inside]
After 6 miserable and fruitless years of online dating men, I would like to try online dating women. I have in the past dated both genders, but not through online dating. What should I know? [more inside]
In the ideal world, nobody should ever fake an orgasm. But sometimes -- because I want sex to stop, because I don't want to explain I'm on SSRIs and can't, because I'm not comfortable yet with the very particular manuevers it takes, because it's just not happening tonight -- it's just easier, nicer, and better to fake it. [more inside]
Pretty much as per the title: I've just learned that my SO's ex will be at a weekend group event with us and is angry I'm attending. As an introverted, semi-anxious person, I'm looking for some tips for how to power through. Details within. [more inside]
Hello; Is anyone aware of a car rental place in Toronto,that will rent a car to a customer for about 1 week with no credit card and accept cash or debit? Thank you :-)
There are reports again on the internet that "P versus NP" has been resolved. I'm not a mathematician, but did this set me wondering, as it is an interesting question, whether the proof of P/NP was in itself a case of a P/NP problem. So: Could we program a computer to attack P/NP? [more inside]
I own one of those sodium acetate-based reusable heating pads that are activated by clicking a metal disc. It worked well when new but now it gives off little heat. Could it be restored? [more inside]
We're driving up from Brooklyn to near New Paltz in the autumn to see the turning colours and let the dog sniffle across the land, finding new smells and meeting cows. We are in no rush to get there. Give me your recommendations, please, on the nicest route from A to B that might take us through pretty towns, provide the best scenery, or give us a flavour of the valley. Bonus points for great bookstores, good coffee shops, green spaces to let the dog explore, and places to get ice cream. [more inside]