September 2015 Archives

September 30

Is pride necessary for self-esteem?

Can a person have healthy self-esteem without feeling proud of their accomplishments? [more inside]
posted by sockomatic at 9:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Songs by self-made rich people? (who didn't get rich from music)

I'm looking for lyrical songs by people who got really rich from something other than music. For example, if, say, some tech company owner or successful investor wrote some songs, that's the kind of thing I'm looking for. I'm NOT looking for music by people who inherited most of their money or who got rich from performing.
posted by sninctown at 9:24 PM PST - 39 comments

Look into the multicolored light!

I'm looking for information on the psychological and physiological effects on humans of exposure to different colored light or an environment lit only by a single light color. There's a plethora of (poorly sourced) information about things like "color therapy" and (unsubstantiated) claims that "red light makes you angry" but virtually nothing that's backed up by any actual research or explanations of how it works.
posted by Socinus at 7:10 PM PST - 7 comments

Enticing Contract Conditions for Key Accounts

As a small software startup, we are getting real interest from very interesting clients, but they are concerned about our long-term survival. How to neutralize these concerns? [more inside]
posted by caudingo at 6:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Name that bird!

Can anyone help me identify a white chested bird that may be an eagle with brownish wings? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 6:33 PM PST - 13 comments

'Tis the Season to be Overqualified

I am about to be interviewed for a part-time seasonal, retail position. This would simply be something to supplement my main income, and very temporary. I have about 15 years of high level retail management experience that I gained prior to the full-time non-retail management position I now have. I heard that the hiring managers sometimes do not want to hire people who are vastly overqualified, so my question is this: Should I reveal how much retail experience I actually have, or should I try to downplay it?
posted by LilithSilver at 6:27 PM PST - 9 comments

A question about iphone, SIM card, and pay-as-you-go options in the USA

Canadian cheapskate seeking travel communication options. Read on for geek details. [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for vintage throwback style web page with lots of animation

It was recent, strange, tons of small animated GIF art? [more inside]
posted by sol at 6:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me ID a fantasy book from the early 80s

I have vague memories of a book that I enjoyed in my misspent youth. It probably came out in the early 80s but maybe late 70s. It was a fantasy novel that featured demons trapped in rings. Memory (vague) says some of the demons may have been friendly-ish and just looked like small flames. Google searches for demon+ring+fantasy have been unhelpful but last time I asked here the first response nailed it. Can you do it again MeFi?
posted by Awfki at 6:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Fetzer Eagle Peak Merlot for the iPhone?

Do you know of an iPhone crossword puzzle app with puzzles by the late lamented Merl Reagle?
posted by ottereroticist at 6:03 PM PST - 1 comment

Vampires are not invited.

There are many, many varieties of garlic available at my local farmers’ market. I decided to throw a garlic-tasting party. The general idea is to pick the best-tasting garlic variety(ies) to plant in my back yard this fall. I need your ideas on what to cook. [more inside]
posted by Dotty at 5:52 PM PST - 18 comments

When did they stop selling black and white television sets in the USA?

We had a black and white tv set when I was a child. We switched over to color at some point in the early '80s and we, along with tens of millions of other American consumers, never looked back. At some point, I suppose they must have stopped selling black and white tv sets [more inside]
posted by jason's_planet at 4:44 PM PST - 16 comments

Gassed Up

To preface: I'm acutely aware that I'm an idiot for not immediately calling the fire department, but I came home to discover that the gas was on. Should I be heading to the hospital? [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 4:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Yep, it's broken..

Any tips and tricks for dealing with a broken arm as an adult? [more inside]
posted by pearlybob at 3:56 PM PST - 20 comments

Go The Fuck To Sleep: I'm My Own Worse Enemy Edition

I cannot get to sleep with any consistency. I have horrible sleep hygiene and I fail to sleep at reasonable times frequently. It's a life long issue, but as I get older, the lack of sleep is becoming more harmful. The problem is, I struggle to just stop and go to bed. There is always just one more thing I have to read or do. I can't seem to take control of this. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 3:41 PM PST - 21 comments

Carpenters, Decorators, All Good People Please help me find a newel

At least I believe it is a newel. It is an ornamental turned piece of wood that decorates the top of a fence railing. One has been severely damaged and needs to be replaced, alas, a replacement cannot be found. It was wood and was painted. Please see photos here:
posted by KneeDeep at 3:20 PM PST - 9 comments

What is the best drawing and painting course for doing portraits?

I'd like to do an online study, proceeding on my own time; I'm mostly interested in portraiture. [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 3:15 PM PST - 4 comments

Conehead dog is miserable

My dog has developed an infection in her tail. The doctor bandaged it up and she got coneheaded to protect her from biting off the bandages. She finally stopped fighting the cone - that took about an hour and a half - but now she Will Not Stop crying. What can I do to make this better? Or how much longer is she likely to cry before collapsing into miserable acceptance? [more inside]
posted by Mchelly at 3:14 PM PST - 13 comments

Recommend accounting/attendance management solution for drop-in group?

My wife has just started a new business venture, which is a weekly drop-in Q&A group for moms. She's looking for some software to support a couple of key functions: simple accounting and tracking the attendees. If it's possible to combine these, then all the better, but I recognize it'll likely have to be two different systems. [more inside]
posted by camcgee at 3:12 PM PST - 1 comment

What is living under my deck (and freaking out my dog)?

Today, my normally backyard-loving dog refused to come out onto the back deck/porch and into the yard. This is very unlike him, and even the tastiest of treats could not persuade him to step more than a few feet out onto the deck. Further investigation revealed a soft high-pitched chirping coming from underneath the deck. I'm assuming something is living under there, and scaring my (wimpy) puppy. What could it be? (Possibly relevant details inside) [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 3:02 PM PST - 14 comments

Why did it feel like I was falling off the roof?

I was on a roof today, getting ready to sweep a chimney. I have been chimney sweeping for over a year and have never felt this sensation until today. I was walking normally up to the chimney and when my left foot came down, I had this feeling like my entire leg got heavy for a split second and then there was a falling sensation and I was definitely alarmed and frightened. [more inside]
posted by jkafka at 2:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Should I have surgery or let fracture heal on its own?

I fell down and broke my foot. Oops. My doctor said it can heal fine without surgery. She said she could also do surgery and it might heal a little faster or prevent problems later, but only maybe. I'm not sure what I should choose. [more inside]
posted by AspirinPill at 1:36 PM PST - 19 comments

How to encourage effort, self-discipline, excellence in children?

My daughter is 5 and starting kindergarten and music lessons. I cannot lie: in these and her future...I dunno, endeavors I guess you would call them, I want her to do well. I want her to put effort in and take pleasure in her efforts. But I don't know how to foster this in her and it's time I started figuring it out. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 1:27 PM PST - 32 comments

Pulling off the Perfect Coif(fure)

How do women get their hair to look so good every day?! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 12:05 PM PST - 34 comments

Crane Climbing Deaths?

I've been watching more of the FAIL/WIN & People Are Awesome videos on YouTube than I should. Many of them contain (by now familiar to everyone) scenes of teenagers hanging one-handed off the top of a gargantuan crane. Are there known deaths from attempts to do that, or something similar? I googled, but couldn't find anything.
posted by OmieWise at 11:29 AM PST - 7 comments

A community of cats and the endless feast

I have one outdoor cat- he hates being in the house due to 3 dogs. They leave him alone but he will jet out the doggie door when I try to bring him in for any reason. He eats twice a day on the porch. (I am at work and cannot post a pic but mine is a fluffy grey ball) [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 11:26 AM PST - 8 comments

Best heart rate monitor/fitness tracker for a beginning runner?

I'm just getting into running and would really like some kind of device to monitor my heart rate. I'm a little overwhelmed by all the different fitness trackers and don't know which one to get. [more inside]
posted by désoeuvrée at 11:25 AM PST - 12 comments

Gym annual fee after cancellation

I cancelled my gym membership effective today, and I have signed proof. However, they claimed that I will owe them an annual fee tomorrow October 1. Can I dispute this with a chargeback? I told them I was not paying it, and they said it had already been arranged. My contract says the annual fee is charged October 1.
posted by OnTheLastCastle at 11:06 AM PST - 6 comments

Project management software for visual people with lots of deadlines?

I need help finding a great project management tool for visual people with too many deadlines. Overly-demanding list of criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by mjm101 at 11:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Am I being creepy?

I picked out a guy from afar that I thought was cute, found out his name, and added him on Instagram. Is it creepy for me to start messaging him? [more inside]
posted by sweetshine at 10:55 AM PST - 41 comments

What's the best writing book for someone with no writing background?

If you were mentoring/working with a technical professional or someone without a strong writing background, what book(s) would you recommend they read to learn about basic concepts/techniques/style/voice, etc.? [more inside]
posted by paulcole at 10:53 AM PST - 12 comments

Confidence: How to fake it when you don't have it

How does someone with medium to low level confidence not come across as such? [more inside]
posted by milque at 10:30 AM PST - 11 comments

What was this "monster" math game from the early 2000s called?

As I was using Picmonic for gross anatomy, I was reminded of a computer game our sixth-grade math class played back in 2002 or 2003. The main characters were "monsters", and to advance in the game, you had to answer math-related questions. I seem to remember the name of the game starting with "Z"? I could have sworn it was "Zoonies", but the only results I get are for a Nintendo DS game. Our computers were Macs.
posted by Seeking Direction at 10:13 AM PST - 5 comments

ISO large frying pan for Mr. Max Power

Looks like our Circulon 30 cm frying pan is fried, so I'm looking for a replacement that will work with high heat. Someone who will go unnamed really likes to crank the heat on most of the stuff he cooks, and it's pretty much bricked our big frying pan, so I'm looking for recommendations for something reliable and high quality to replace it, particularly for British or European available brands (US-only brands will almost definitely be too $$$ w/shipping). [more inside]
posted by taz at 9:51 AM PST - 20 comments

Sharing Google calendar in iOS without sharing email

How can my ex-wife and I share our Google calendars with each other in iOS so they're available on our iPhones, but without having access to each other's email? [more inside]
posted by Arthur Vandelay at 9:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Anniversary gifts for parents?

My parents' anniversary is coming up, and once again I'm stumped. I never know what makes an appropriate, welcome gift to parents from their kids. Outside of big-anniversary gifts like parties, crystal, silver, and super handcrafted scrapbooks and the like, what are some good ideas for anniversary presents in an affordable, say $25-50 range?
posted by Miko at 9:22 AM PST - 15 comments

Coffee Crashed The Plane?

I remember a plane crash that was caused by coffee spilling onto some cracked material inside a plane...was this real? [more inside]
posted by sillysally at 8:59 AM PST - 5 comments

help me remember the name of a deceased, famous journalist

I'm trying to remember the name of a journalist whose life story fascinated me. Here are a few details i remember (some or all could be partially or completely misremembered): I read about him in a memoir of the siege of Sarajevo; he was rumored to carry a gun; he smoked cigarettes; he was the heir of a wealthy family, almost certainly European; he is deceased. thank you.
posted by barbudo at 8:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Examples of literary microphenomenology or deep-point-of-view?

I'm looking for examples of a particular kind of narrative writing style that might be (or overlap with) what I think is sometimes called deep-point-of-view. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 8:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Learning to trust the vasectomy

I'm very pro-coitus but very anti-pregnancy, so my super fantastic husband got a vasectomy (YAY!). Today got his three month post-op all clear. Also yay! So, uh, why am I still scared to go off the pill? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 8:09 AM PST - 28 comments

Help me feel less weird about my name change!

I’m changing my name (for non-marriage reasons) and having a hard time. Looking for advice on how to make this easier and more positive, how to normalize it in conversation with people and deal with rudeness or nosiness, and also on dealing with a sense of loss and finding ways or rites to mark and celebrate this change. [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 8:01 AM PST - 16 comments

LaCie External Drive not appearing anywhere on Mac. Help needed.

My external hard drive won't appear on desktop or disk utility, it's completely inaccessible, Ive tried all the usual tricks.... [more inside]
posted by Liquidwolf at 7:36 AM PST - 14 comments

Potential bed bugs and worried flatmate

My flatmate has woken up with one or two small, red, itching bites on her legs or back each day for the past week or so. She is extremely distressed, having had a traumatic experience with bed bugs several years ago. Please help me figure out what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:07 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find big data and predictive analysis classes in NYC/NJ region

Help me find big data and predictive analysis classes in NYC/NJ region. It can be a weekday or weekend class, anytime of day.
posted by anonymous at 7:07 AM PST - 1 comment

Which power tools should you wear gloves when using?

Which power tools should you wear gloves when using and which should you not?
posted by Infernarl at 6:06 AM PST - 16 comments

GPS trackers exist so I can quickly find my misplaced wallet or phone?

I am forgetfull and keep misplacing my wallet or cell phone and have to waste a lot of time looking for them. Is there some kind of GPS tracker that I can attach to either of these, and then just go to a website to see specifically where it is? Will they be accurate enough to show me where in my house my wallet is? Thanks. p.s. I already know of "find my phone apps".
posted by crawltopslow at 6:06 AM PST - 15 comments

Where to sell my stuff? I'm moving abroad and not returning.

Hi, everyone. I'm interested in selling all of my belongings--two beds, nice chairs, a dresser, a dinner table set, and high chairs--due to an exciting cross-world move. Though I'm currently based in Utah, the bulk of my furniture is disassembled in a storage unit back in Ohio, and I'm expected to leave the US in August 2016. Any tips on what sites to sell things on beyond the typical Craigslist or cosignment shops? I don't anticipate returning stateside anytime soon. Thanks much.
posted by aristotlefangirl at 5:10 AM PST - 4 comments

Musicians of NYC - lend me your open mic nights

Me and my roadie are coming to NYC this weekend and I want to play an open mic night while we're in town if possible. Where are the good uns? [more inside]
posted by greenish at 4:13 AM PST - 4 comments

How to set appropriate boundaries with ex-wife/co-parent

My ex-wife and I have been officially divorced since February of this year, separated since March of 2013. We have two children, ages 5 and 6; we share custody 50-50. She moved out of the marital home and maintains a residence nearby. Both of us are living with new partners. I have tried (on my own) to set healthy boundaries between the two of us, but have not communicated those boundaries to her. I'm looking for some assistance in the most effective and confident way to do that - so that the boundaries do not depend on just me knowing them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:09 AM PST - 55 comments

Confused about giving up my job that I know (almost) inside out.

Been working at the same not-for-profit for 4 years and I feel that I'm 'in with the bricks', get on with my colleagues and am the 'go to person' in the organisation. However, I've ALWAYS been unsure about the ethics of my boss regarding such things as favouritism, making rules up as she goes along, finance etc. I've now been offered another job as an Executive Assistant for local council - more money, better holidays etc BUT I'm scared. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Examples of Interesting Online Archives or Story Collections?

I'm looking for beautiful, creative examples of online archives or collections of stories or multimedia information. Hart Island Project is a good example what I mean. [more inside]
posted by vecchio at 1:59 AM PST - 3 comments

September 29

Palm Trees In My Mind, Not in the Yard

If you have a 60 ft tall Californian palm, and someone off Craigslist wants to buy it, can you sell it? If so, how? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by yueliang at 10:59 PM PST - 10 comments

Supporting boyfriend through mom's (terminal?) illness and the holidays

I've been dating a great guy for a few months now. About a month in he told me that his mom was diagnosed with an inoperable brain tumor 8 months before we met. His mom has done radiation and was seeming to get better in the last few months. He was making plans for me to meet his family for the first time on Thanksgiving. He just found out his mother has taken a turn for the worse (she's having difficulty walking), and I'd like to know: 1) how I can support him and 2) how to navigate meeting his family during this difficult time. [more inside]
posted by lafemma at 9:28 PM PST - 11 comments

I’m picky and verbose; where should a picky and verbose person live?

10 years too late, we’ve come to the realization that the California Bay Area is not a viable place for us to live given our occupations. Where else should we consider, given that we don’t want to wind up with a net loss in quality of life? [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 8:27 PM PST - 59 comments

explaining that you were fired

Does admitting in an interview that you were fired ever turn out to be a job offer in the end? Especially if it involves getting fired from a job 4 years ago or even longer? I do want to tell the truth, but telling the truth does not seem to be practical, since companies are ready to write you off very quickly with such an answer. I once admitted it in an interview and the hiring manager looked shocked all of a sudden, left the room, and said that the next person who was going to interview me was too busy and had a work emergency. I think that admitting being fired is only safe when you have good experience and credentials, so that employers would forgive you for a little blemish in your career.
posted by pieceofcake at 8:12 PM PST - 17 comments

I only just started splitting infinitives

What is a good formal style guide for a writer for the present day? By the present day, I mean just that -- 2015. [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 7:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Does math homework help middle-school kids learn and retain knowledge?

Does giving math homework really help middle-school aged kids (11 to 13 years old) with learning and retention? Is "practice makes perfect" really a thing with pre-teen learners? Are (or were) you a middle school math teacher? If so, do you give homework? If so, how much and what kind? And what were your outcomes? [more inside]
posted by blessedlyndie at 7:19 PM PST - 19 comments

Driving photons up the wall

What is a good cheap option to project an image onto a large wall for a outlining to paint? [more inside]
posted by bookdragoness at 7:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Why is there a garden gnome in my yard?

About a week ago someone left a plastic garden gnome in my yard. I'm sure I read something, somewhere, about this being a thing but I can't remember where I saw it. I vaguely remember that I'm supposed to pass it along but maybe I'm supposed to add something to it first. Does this sound familiar to anyone? I'm in Denver, if that matters.
posted by BoscosMom at 4:59 PM PST - 13 comments

Anyone know where to buy Amazon returns directly from Amazon?

Hello, I am a newer reseller, I am looking to cut out my middle man. I also want to be the first to look at the returns. Right now, I go through a company that I believe goes through stuff before they box it up to resell from Amazon. [more inside]
posted by tricide at 4:43 PM PST - 3 comments

How can I join in with walking group without being sweaty mess?

A local church has a wellbeing side project, which includes amongst other things a walking group which meets outside a local hospital, walks for one hour in park or other local area, then goes back for tea and biscuits in the lunch room at the church. I'd like to join in, because I know for sure I lack self-motivation and would be way more motivated to walk with others. The problem? As a middle-aged and overweight man (45, 240 lbs at 5 feet 11) I get sweaty very easily, not so much my armpits but my forehead and sometimes my neck too. Hope me work out an anti-sweating strategy so I can join in the chat at the end and not be a red-faced sweating puddle in front of them! [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 4:35 PM PST - 27 comments

The Elders of the Internet do not know who we are

The overlords who control the internet in my parents' rural town will not provide service to their house. How do we fix this? [more inside]
posted by St. Hubbins at 3:59 PM PST - 17 comments

School is schooling her...

My beautiful, curious, smart 11-y-o daughter is in her first year of middle school (6th grade). The school is in an high-income, high-expectation area. She regularly has 1-2 hours of homework a night, plus long-term projects. Her grades are okay, but she is a stressball. I want to help her not turn gray by 15! [more inside]
posted by heathrowga at 3:39 PM PST - 14 comments

To eat, or not to eat

I never thought I'd ask one of these. Last night I poached some chicken breasts. I took them out of the water and left them on a plate on the kitchen bench, intending to put them in the fridge later. I forgot. So they've been sitting there for, call it 12 hours. Temperature I reckon between 17-14 C. Should they stay or should they go?
posted by Athanassiel at 3:19 PM PST - 32 comments

Tools of the Trade

After reading this thread on the blue, and thinking of this prior question on the behavior of the non-amateur, I ask: What are the tools that experts in your field use? A preferred brand, the must-have piece of equipment? [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns at 3:18 PM PST - 25 comments

Two-player side-scrolling action: oldschool edition!

Looking for recommendations for retro (think mid-80s to mid-90s) console side-scrollers that have two-player support. [more inside]
posted by GlassHeart at 3:05 PM PST - 10 comments

help me be the person i want to be

i am not acting like the person i want to be. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:00 PM PST - 19 comments

Digitize My Lab Log?

Is there an easy way to track hours, tasks or projected completed, and also be able to add notes in a single app? [more inside]
posted by gumtree at 2:34 PM PST - 1 comment

Fun places to stay in Brooklyn near the Q train?

I'm going to a wedding in New York City next month. I'm hoping to persuade my spouse to come, too; maybe I can even convince him that the city is not wall-to-wall skyscrapers. Is there a neat place in Brooklyn we should stay? The special requirement is that I want to be able to see friends who live pretty far south along the Q line (think Brighton Beach), so a neighborhood like Williamsburg is probably out. [more inside]
posted by yarntheory at 2:31 PM PST - 7 comments

Down to earth, period-correct home renovation resources.

Our house was built in 1959. We're looking for resources for period-correct fixtures, trim, furniture…everything really, and are getting a little lost. We'd prefer resources broken down by construction year. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 2:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Non-competitive archery games?

I'm looking for archery games for a group of girls with varying levels of experience with archery. [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 2:16 PM PST - 3 comments

Name that starfish

I went snorkeling near Cancun a few years ago. The instructor brought a starfish to the surface and let me hold it for a moment, and it was a really cool experience. Since then I've been trying to identify its species, but haven't had any luck. [more inside]
posted by possumbrie at 2:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Why are people still saying 'spicket' instead of 'spigot'?

I've said and written 'spicket' my entire life and only this morning discovered it was non-standard. Some dictionaries give a cursory redirect to 'spigot'; some don't even list the 'ck' variant. The apparent root of 'spigot' [Latin spica] would seem to obviate this discussion, but the change from /k/ to /g/ had taken place at least by 1590 (both forms co-existed for a while). When did 'spicket' become non-standard, and why has that /k/ persisted to the present day? [more inside]
posted by smokysunday at 1:41 PM PST - 6 comments

How to obtain some Olean (Olestra based stuff) in Canada?

I remember the downsides of olestra, of course, so entirely aside from that side. I am getting in to molecular gastronomy, and would like to experiment with it, as a way of exploring. I gather it is still sold and manufactured in some countries? But I have not been able to find any retailers online at all, Ebay, extensive googling etc. is turning up nothing. [more inside]
posted by Nish ton at 1:40 PM PST - 7 comments

How to make next steps in IT marketing/communications

I've been working as a freelance copywriter/white paper writer mainly for IT companies but am looking to make the next step in education or job. [more inside]
posted by mosschief at 1:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Do I really need to bring my car in for scheduled maintenance already?

I received an email from my Kia dealership today saying that it's time for my "next regularly scheduled maintenance visit." It has been three months since I bought the car (a 2015 Soul), and the owner's manual states that the first recommended maintenance visit should be at 6 months or 12,000 km, whichever comes first (and I'm nowhere near that number). There are no signs of anything being wrong with the car, and I've been regularly checking fluid levels, tire pressure, etc. Can I just ignore this email? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 12:12 PM PST - 11 comments

Can one of my brothers force me to sell house we inherited from Mom?

When my mom passed about 6 1/2 years ago, the only thing left was the house we grew up in. She died right before the crash when the value was lowest, and while there was no rush, it took about three years before I tried to do anything with it. [more inside]
posted by TenaciousB at 11:23 AM PST - 21 comments

Where should my family stay in London? Europe?

I've got some paternity leave and my family and I are going to Europe in January, starting in London. Where should we stay in London? Where should we go elsewhere? We'll have a two-month-old and a two-year-old. [more inside]
posted by ugly at 10:00 AM PST - 15 comments

How does the holder of a second get paid in a refinance?

YANML, and YANMBroker. I need a reality check. I tried to google this but I'm not sure what terms I should be searching for. Let's say you've loaned money to a business in exchange for a second mortgage. Now said business wants to refinance both their first and second, and needs you to sign a deed of reconveyance to satisfy the new lienholder. In this circumstance, is it normal to sign off on the deed before you're actually paid off? [more inside]
posted by bricoleur at 9:48 AM PST - 3 comments

Need recommendations for spooky mysteries to give to my Grandmother.

It's October, so I'd like to give my Grandmother some spooky mysteries to read. I've given her quite a few gothics, and those aren't difficult to find, but she now prefers the young adult books I've been getting for her. I know her taste, because we talk a lot about which books she's enjoyed the most, and I know she won't like anything too dark, too serious, or too gross. Lighthearted (but not too silly) mysteries with Halloween themes are what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by Beholder at 9:34 AM PST - 9 comments

What's a nice place to live that's on the coast?

I want to retire and move out of California. I like living near the coast. Where could I go? [more inside]
posted by trevor_case at 9:31 AM PST - 20 comments

Flatlander Problems

What's the best method of extricating yourself from a parallel parking spot when you're pointed downhill? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 9:30 AM PST - 16 comments

Is a pearl engagement ring always a bad idea?

My partner and I are looking at engagement rings for me and I’ve fallen in love with this set. It contains a small pearl. Will I regret this choice? [more inside]
posted by in a dark glassly at 9:05 AM PST - 17 comments

How can I dye half my dark hair white for one day?

Halloween question time! I am going as Cruella De Vil (Once Upon a Time version here). My hair is already basically black -- how can I make half of it white for one day without bleaching it? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 8:59 AM PST - 19 comments

Optician nightmare - warranty replacement. How to best solve?

I'm trying to get replacement eyeglasses under warranty. It's been a nightmare process from start to finish, and I'm not sure how to navigate further. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 8:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Birthmarks and heart defects?

My son's cardiologist seemed very interested in his birthmarks - why? [more inside]
posted by amro at 8:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Giving my 10 cent story project a home

I've been busking with a typewriter for two years now, and recently began collecting the stories and photos of the people asking for stories. I had an article about it published in The Toast and it was also the subject of an FPP a few weeks back, but I'm struggling to give the project a permanent home on the web. I've been putting the stories on twitter, but it's not really a good fit. [more inside]
posted by Archibald Edmund Binns at 8:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Painting a Paper Mache Costume in Bad Weather

I've created a paper mache Darth Vader helmet for my son, and it needs only painting...but the weather's supposed to be rainy for the next few days, and he needs it for Friday. [more inside]
posted by Dr.Enormous at 8:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Seattle-adjacent anniversary "weekend"

We have next Monday and Tuesday free for our anniversary and are looking for a last-minute overnight outing in or near Seattle (less than 1 hour or so away). Ideally the trip includes at least some of the following: great food including a possibly slightly fancy dinner, a swanky or at least interesting place to stay, water views, bookstores, light to moderate outdoorsiness, strange museums or art, low-key adventure. It need not include Hallmark-card-style "romance." It MUST include at least one really kickass sandwich. [more inside]
posted by doift at 7:58 AM PST - 16 comments

US Citizen abroad -- OK to change bank address to foreign address?

Is there any reason I would regret changing my US account addresses to my new foreign address? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 6:23 AM PST - 10 comments

Publishing industry burnout. Where do I go from here?

I have no idea what I want to be when I grow up. Difficulty level: self-employment for the past decade, entrepreneur, 40something female. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:11 AM PST - 10 comments

Your mind is telling me no... and your mind is telling me yes...

The Situation: A guy whom I felt complicatedly "led me on," and with whom I thought I had begun to come to a resolution, has rapidly returned to strong behaviors that led me to fall for him in the first place. This is upsetting and confusing, as I had made clear that these were what led us into the situation in the first place. I'd love some help and advice as to navigating a conversation with him about boundaries, while balancing complicated feelings of deep connection to this gentleman and the need to respect myself and model such self-respect. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:11 AM PST - 22 comments

Appropriate ways of coping

Two years ago, my husband and I separated. A year ago we got divorced. Although he initiated the split, we both agreed it was probably the best thing to do. We had managed to maintain a cordial but distant relationship until a few weeks ago, when he informed me that he is dating an old friend of ours who also happens to live on my street. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:11 AM PST - 23 comments

Cauliflower Recipes

Saw cauliflower for 75¢ a head, bought four heads. Score! Have any good cauliflower recipes? Thanks!!!
posted by readery at 6:09 AM PST - 41 comments

Which taxi/ride-share app for Santiago & Buenos Aires?

Which taxi or ride-share app to use in Santiago and Buenos Aires: Easy Taxi / Safer Taxi / Uber / other / none? [more inside]
posted by DevilsAdvocate at 5:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Why Do We Change As The Day Progresses?

Why do our expectations and ambitions tend to be so different first thing in the morning vs mid-afternoon vs last thing at night - e.g. "I have so much to achieve!" vs "I'm just busy doing some things!" vs "it can wait till tomorrow!" Is it really as simple as energy level, depleting as the day progresses? Why does this change how important things seem to us? Can our outlook at different times of the day be "reprogrammed"? And why do we tend to be delusional to these changes occuring at all (and daily)?
posted by forallmankind at 4:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Vegetarian fine dining in Boston

Am looking for suggestions for a nice restaurant in Boston/Cambridge that is vegetarian friendly. Am looking to get a gift cert for dinner for 4, 2 of whom are vegetarian, so looking for somewhere with more than a token pasta primevera or grilled asparagus on the menu. Budget up to $100 per person including wine. [more inside]
posted by darsh at 3:21 AM PST - 14 comments

September 28

Eliminating ants during pregnancy

Our house is being invaded by serious quantities of ants, probably Argentine ants. Because I'm pregnant, I'm not sure what to do about it. Because we have renters, we can't just manage them and put up with it. [more inside]
posted by slidell at 11:41 PM PST - 32 comments

How do I affordably start a music/art/educational LLC and non-profit?

I am a known financially developmentally delayed idiot. No really. I hate money. And I want to start a music and art festival on a slim budget and start building a framework to be able to raise funds for it and keep it all clean and kosher and separate while keeping my day job and tax bracket. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by loquacious at 11:23 PM PST - 14 comments

I've Got No More Fingernails to Give!

I've been suffering from an abnormal amount of itching for the past two months. Is this something serious or just a seasonal problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:18 PM PST - 12 comments

Books about setting boundaries

I'm looking for books, preferably audio books, about setting boundaries with people and learning when to say no/yes. I want something grounded in psychology, without any religious undertones (although I am open to wisdom from any religion as long as it doesn't get preachy).
posted by omar.a at 9:56 PM PST - 3 comments

refret without regret?

My 40 year old sigma acoustic needs at least a few new frets, but it's not worth spending the money on. Does it make any kind of sense for me as a novice to attempt a fret replacement? [more inside]
posted by roue at 8:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Not Cooking Cute, please

Now that Just Bento is not really updating any longer, what's the best bento blog aimed at adults, not kids, and not at showing off the adorable widgets you manage to buy to make your lunch special, but just a focus on bento staples, fillers and techniques for plotting out lunches in a bento style. A focus on vegetarian is best, but not essential.
posted by crush-onastick at 6:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Excel changing a formula. I want it to not change. Make it stop?

I have a simple spreadsheet for scoring. I have 7 rows of data. In row 8, I have the formula =SUM(G1:G5). I want Excel to give me the sum of the first 5 rows of data, and ignore rows 6 and 7. So I'm filling in data. I enter a number in row 1, 2, 3, 4, 5... so far so good, the sum is correct. Then I enter a number in row 6 and the formula in row 8 changes itself to =SUM(G1:G6). [more inside]
posted by evilmomlady at 6:24 PM PST - 7 comments

How can you be less conscious of college rankings?

How can you be less conscious of college rankings? During college admissions I was accepted to an elite (north american or european) college that had better reputation for undergrad rather than research(but still pretty top-notch for research or graduate school I concur), and another college that was world-class for research but lagged(at the time) a bit in undergrad compared to that former college. Since then the latter school gained so much in undergrad selectivity as to more than rival my alma mater. [more inside]
posted by red_alert_3 at 6:07 PM PST - 23 comments

My library just had bedbugs. Can I keep checking out books?

I like to check out books from my local library branch every week. This weekend, they were closed, with a sign on the door explaining that they were being treated for bedbugs. I'm not sure why kind of treatment they used. How likely is it that the books are now safe to check out? Should I go buy a book at the bookstore instead?
posted by three_red_balloons at 5:45 PM PST - 8 comments

We're running out of dreams! More bedtime guided meditations for kids?

My five-year-old has gotten hooked on guided meditations like this at bedtime. Can you recommend any great sources for more meditations like this? [more inside]
posted by cogitron at 5:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Our Baby Is Not Getting Married

Our kid is turning one-year-old and we're throwing a big party in a couple of weeks at my parent's house in Long Island.  We'd like to hire a photographer to document the day and have been looking around, but we're mainly just finding wedding photographers. We'd like to hire a professional (or, at least, expert) photographer -- we don't want to just give a camera to one of the guests.

Are there professional photographers who aren't on the wedding circuit who'd consider doing this sort of thing?  Would art or MFA students be interested in doing this sort of work (and, if so, how would we find them)?  Are there other non-wedding routes that we haven't thought about but should be exploring?
posted by thursdaystoo at 5:32 PM PST - 14 comments

aughhhhh no no no no no

What the hell is going on with my computer help help help [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 4:34 PM PST - 14 comments

Women's custom clothing maker?

There's a website that I found once but can't for the life of me find again that makes . . . like, custom basics? T-shirts, skirts, dresses, that sort of thing. All solid colors, sort of American Apparel-y. You can choose the fabric they use. One is a bamboo jersey, but there are 3 or 4 others. They MAY have an etsy shop, but what I found was a standalone website. What is it?? Have you seen it??
posted by listen, lady at 3:47 PM PST - 7 comments

SLOE me a good time

Can anyone point me toward a fruiting blackthorn tree, or a place (farmer's market, fruit stand, orchard, oddball fruit enthusiast willing to share, etc.) where I can purchase sloes/blackthorn fruit? I'm in northern Illinois, but willing to travel to northern Indiana, southern Michigan, northeast Ohio or southern Wisconsin. [more inside]
posted by pullayup at 3:21 PM PST - 6 comments

Who sang this children's song?

I remember a children's song from my childhood (late 70's/early 80's) which sounded a bit like Raffi but I'm pretty sure isn't. It had the lyrics: "Oh, the very best people are sitting in a circle, sitting in a circle and..." and every time you went, around you built on this beginning and added a verse to it. [more inside]
posted by egeanin at 3:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Find me free fiction!

I really enjoy posts that solve bookmysteries with links to free, old science fiction. Where's the great and secret library of it? [more inside]
posted by Nyx at 2:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Bonne Année!

I am rewarding myself with my first-ever trip to Paris, the last week of December - which means I'll be there for New Year's Eve. What's the best way for me (and the conditions below the fold) to ring in the New Year? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 2:30 PM PST - 4 comments

My Job is Stressing Me Out. Help Me Survive It.

I work in digital publishing, mostly doing email newsletters, and the pressure and workload keep cranking up. I'm looking for something else, but I need help surviving in the interim. [more inside]
posted by SansPoint at 1:48 PM PST - 19 comments

Name that interactive story

A couple of years ago (maybe more) I played/read a story told in several episodes and in a variety of media. [more inside]
posted by man down under at 1:43 PM PST - 2 comments

Art history podcast suggestions, please.

Another podcast question! Something that will teach me the history of art? [more inside]
posted by moons in june at 1:40 PM PST - 8 comments

What are some tangible items that represent psychology?

I'm part of a psychology department at a very small college. We primarily use a couple of classrooms, which each have one wall filled with built-in cabinets and some shelves. They've remained pretty much empty since they were installed a few years ago. It just looks boring, and I want to put things there. Help? [more inside]
posted by bizzyb at 1:16 PM PST - 34 comments

Is there a version of Steinberg's View From 9th Avenue for Denver?

I've managed over the years to collect a version of Saul Steinberg's View Of The World From 9th Avenue for every city I've ever called home...including some pretty obscure places. For the life of me, though, I cannot find one of Denver, Colorado. [more inside]
posted by jefficator at 12:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Moving from C# to C++ and from Unity to Unreal

Hola hivemind, I'm a longtime Unity user who's making the jump to Unreal for at least the next 6 months. I'd describe myself as a competent programmer, although my role is often as a hack-y designer. I'd like to know what the pitfalls are when moving between Unity and Unreal as well as C# and C++. [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 12:24 PM PST - 6 comments

What's next for a retired smartphone?

We had an "old" smartphone so my husband gave it to my son. He's only 8 but he is going to use it to text my husband since my husband travels a lot. It also has a camera he can use... What other cool things can a you do with a old smartphone? Good apps to download? (This one happens to be a Galaxy nexus)
posted by ReluctantViking at 12:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Name that song / artist

I was listening to CBC Radio 2 or 3 around 5pm or 6pm on Sept 18th and heard a great song that I believe was by a band from Iceland. Knowing my tastes, it would've been a twee little indie rock song. I wrote down what I hoped would be enough of the lyrics to help me to google the band. The words I wrote are: "sweet like honey pie" (possibly from the chorus?), "rodeo" and "songbirds" (probably from the verses?). Google hasn't got me the artist or the song. AskMe, can you name that tune?
posted by monkeymonkey at 12:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Where Should I Stop the Kitchen Backsplash?

We renovated the kitchen last year and the backsplash is the last thing we have left to do. There's one area that I'm not sure how to deal with, however: I don't know where to stop the backsplash at the end of the counter. Pictures inside. [more inside]
posted by chococat at 12:16 PM PST - 27 comments

Will we be able to do stuff and eat? Rural France, Christmas/NY edition.

We're contemplating a short family trip to Brittany between Christmas and New Year, but have no cultural context for how shut down rural and small-town France is likely to be at that time of year. [more inside]
posted by terretu at 12:09 PM PST - 1 comment

Should I stay or should I go now? (Job change advice)

I'm having trouble coming to a final decision on a job-change, and I'm hoping that you all can help with some of your unique perspectives. I recently received a job offer to go work with (well, technically for) a friend at a smaller company nearby. Polling everyone close to me (family, friends, work mentors) has yielded unanimous results: I should accept the offer. Yet, I'm wavering. Here is the situation: [more inside]
posted by theplatypus at 12:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Who are the best fashion / beauty / lifestyle vloggers?

After asking for ideas for the perfect planner, I fell down a YouTube rabbit hole of videos about planners which led me to the whole beauty / lifestyle vlogger genre, so now I'm seeking more. [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 11:57 AM PST - 16 comments

Biking...goggles?

I'm looking for some glasses or goggles for biking. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by mike_bling at 11:44 AM PST - 11 comments

Social Studies? 101?

I'd like names (if they exist) for the following two ideas: [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke at 11:36 AM PST - 8 comments

A pretty Boston Cream bundt cake

My friend has requested a Boston cream pie (cake) for her birthday on 10/3. I have a bundt cake pan shaped like a castle (link) and would like to do a fancy interpretation of Boston Cream Castle cake. Advice on recipes, decor, technique for filling? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 11:35 AM PST - 9 comments

How to keep a first grader engaged in school?

Our soon-to-be 6 year old is a first grader in public school. He is FAR ahead of the rest of his class in reading.* This year he has a great teacher, who took the initiative to get in touch with us after the first week of school to ask: I'd appreciate it if you could convey any particular ways you believe we can all challenge your son and keep him fully engaged and happy (besides making sure he has Level M/N books he enjoys). [more inside]
posted by agent99 at 11:29 AM PST - 15 comments

🎺💀 Call of Dooty: Skull Trumpet Ops III

Ignignokt and I are currently obsessed with the Skull Trumpet meme. In that vein, we're looking for the kind of dooty doot-doot trumpet music that Skull Trumpet might play. [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 11:24 AM PST - 20 comments

Why do Tom Petty songs seem not to go anywhere?

Listening to Tom Petty's songs, I've always gotten the sensation that they don't go anywhere -- almost as if an engine is turned on, but the car isn't put into gear and therefore doesn't move. What is it about the tunes that's causing this sensation? [more inside]
posted by Celsius1414 at 11:06 AM PST - 13 comments

A good executive nap mat?

Google "nap mat" and you get a zillion results, all meant for small humans. Surprisingly, "executive nap mat" (as a phrase) yields zero. There's a niche there that will make someone a lot of money one day, but in the meantime: suggestions for a mat that I can put on the office floor to catch 40 winks? [more inside]
posted by Creosote at 10:56 AM PST - 24 comments

Music with fiddly bits

I like music with fiddly bits. Recommend me more of same. [more inside]
posted by curuinor at 10:49 AM PST - 14 comments

Well great. What do I do now?

I never thought I'd be posting a relationship question, but here we are. I don't want an LDR and I don't like talking on the phone. That's the least of it. [more inside]
posted by Dolley at 10:46 AM PST - 12 comments

Network attached storage? There's way too many options - help!

What network attached storage should I use? This will be used as a central backup for all three computers on the network, it should stream media to my xbox, and it should be easy to setup a secondary backup of the NAS to another external drive or cloud service. [more inside]
posted by Arbac at 10:45 AM PST - 16 comments

Horology filter: watch out, watch in.

I want a new watch. Nothing too special, but how can I get what I want while avoiding the errors of the past. Details within. [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 10:32 AM PST - 8 comments

How long is the Oddball Comedy show?

We have tickets for the Oddball Comedy Fest this weekend. There are nine comedians on the bill. Has anyone been? Any idea what the show schedule will look like? [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 10:27 AM PST - 8 comments

Resources for scooter accessibility in NYC

Someone I know is moving closer to NYC soon and is looking for information about how to best navigate the city. She is confined to a scooter and has extremely limited mobility. What resources can I give her? This would be more for periodic visits, not day-to-day commuting. I already know about the MTA's homepage for accessibility and the Mayor's Office for People with Disabilities. What else is there? [more inside]
posted by Wretch729 at 10:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Unlocking My Previous AT&T Phone

I just bought an unlocked iPhone 6S, and am using it with AT&T (I'm currently off-contract with them entirely). I need to get AT&T to unlock my previous phone (iPhone 5C) so I can sell it to a friend who's on Verizon. Problem is, the 5C shows "no service", because AT&T (correctly) thinks the 6S is the phone for the account. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 10:07 AM PST - 18 comments

Istanbul + ??? in early April

Two adults looking for a somewhat-urban, deliciously-flavoured, culturally-delightful, reasonably-priced weekend getaway from Istanbul on the first weekend of April (31 Mar-3 Apr), ideally no more than a few hours' journey away. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by mdonley at 10:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Does our decision to get an abortion mean that our relationship is bad?

My boyfriend and I have only been together for ten months, but things have moved really quickly. He moved in with me, and we have talked a lot about future plans. I just found out that I am pregnant, and we are leaning toward having an abortion. I can't help but to feel that if neither of us want to have a baby with each other, then our relationship is probably not as strong as I thought. [more inside]
posted by Wizzow at 9:42 AM PST - 41 comments

How do I make my animations look professional?

It feels like I've reached the limits of what I can learn from youtube tutorials. [more inside]
posted by rottenindenmark at 9:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me ninja my ninja

I've been bequeathed a Kitchen Ninja. What do I do with it? [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher at 9:03 AM PST - 3 comments

Massage therapy as a career: learning and experiences!

Having come to something of a 'natural break' in my career (such as it is) at age 30, I've been looking at a number of options for retraining and doing something new. I keep coming back to massage therapy as a potential opportunity for me to break away and do my own thing - but just how viable is it, and what were your experiences of getting into it and doing it day-to-day? I'm looking for course recommendations - but mainly personal experiences. [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 8:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Cozy round seating: ideas, images, sources, experiences sought

I'm looking for chairs like this -- round, compact, cozy. Is there a term for this style? Do you have one that you love? Is there a better small but comfortable and clean-lined option out there? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 8:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a video conferencing system for server-side recording

We're running some automated-video-analysis studies of two people having a conversation over a video conferencing link. For that, we need to record the video from both perspectives on the server. [more inside]
posted by tempythethird at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments

Stress eating and weight gain.

Weight gain has impaired my ability to be confident. Vicious cycle. I want to break it and be healthy. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 7:58 AM PST - 12 comments

What to include in a portfolio of digital design work

Hoping to get input from marketing/ad professionals on including paid (but unpublished) work in a portfolio. [more inside]
posted by jalexei at 7:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Optimizing Amazon Video quality

I purchased a TV show from Amazon Video and paid extra for "HD" but the quality is awful. It looks like a web video circa 2009. Is there anything I can do to improve the quality? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 7:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Where should we live in London: commute-phobic DINKs edition

Mr Fish and I have finally moved to London! I'll be working near Old Street Station, Mr Fish is working in Coventry but only needs to commute once a week or so. Tell us what Rightmove and Zoopla won't. [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 7:31 AM PST - 9 comments

Can my two Google accounts get Google married?

Back in 2012 when I set up my gmail account, I stupidly signed up for a Google account, forgetting that I already had one. Now my gmail and YouTube accounts are registered to one account while my blogs are registered to the other. It drives me crazy to have to be signing in and out several times a day to access whatever service I need. Is there any way I can merge the two accounts or transfer everything to the one account?
posted by orange swan at 7:22 AM PST - 8 comments

Are there ways to automate the tailoring resumes and cover letter?

I’m currently on the job market in Boston and am attempting to find ways to make the process of applying to work a little less tedious. By this I mean, I am looking for ways to be able to include the keywords from job listings in my resume without having to go back and forth and changing them. Additionally, the cover letters also need to be tailored to match with the particular job descriptions and their qualifications. [more inside]
posted by caudal at 7:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Dumb question about soda addiction

If I replace coke with caffeinated tea and sugary sweets, why do I still get withdrawal headaches? Is there something in coke that is more addictive than caffeine or sugar? [more inside]
posted by myselfasme at 7:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Small college town - how do young families socialize?

I'm not really looking for "how to make new friends" advice, but more of how to cultivate and grow a community of friends - fellow young families in particular. Has anyone had success doing this in a similar situation, and how, exactly, specifically? [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor at 6:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Measure for convolutedness of landscape

Is there a measure for the convolutedness of landscape where a grassland would be a low number and someplace like Guilin would be a high number?
posted by strangeguitars at 6:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Good grub in 11th District, Paris

I'll be in the 11th in Paris in a week. I hear there's top shelf yums to be had there. Who's had them? Where should I has them? Bonus for good bars (not too swanky, not crowded, not loud, not smoky).
posted by Joseph Gurl at 3:46 AM PST - 8 comments

Hunting Down an Elusive (Unless Overpriced) Ikea Bath Mat

I love me Ikea's Toftbo bath mat because it's big, bright, colorful, and thin enough that my bathroom door can open and close over it. It's $10 in-person at Ikea and almost twice that much online from Amazon. Unfortunately, I live overseas and can't get to an Ikea store. Ideas on how to get one for the lower price? And, failing that, suggestions for a similar bathmat?
posted by whitewall at 2:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Pregnant finally, but full of shame, guilt, and anxiety

My husband and I finally conceived after months and months of trying, but I made a ton of mistakes before I knew and I am completely beating myself up. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 AM PST - 58 comments

How to get through a meeting with a difficult co-worker

A difficult co-worker has requested a meeting to discuss communication problems with me. It's being mediated by our boss. What strategies can I use to get through it without getting personal or accusatory? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 AM PST - 12 comments

September 27

Can anyone identify a video game from the 90s I vaguely remember?

I believe it was for NES and came out before '97. In the long prologue, a female character ends up trapped on one side of a broken floor in a collapsing building. A male love interest remains with her instead of escaping with the group. Does anyone remember what this is? I've tried Google and it sounds like it might be in the Final Fantasy series, but I'm not at all certain.
posted by Tick Tock Tourmaline at 11:46 PM PST - 3 comments

can't log into wordpress admin dashboard and blog shows no content

I have a professional blog hosted on my own domain. Spry is my domain host and I use Wordpress to publish the content. This evening after some time away I tried to log into my wordpress admin dashboard to add a new post to my blog but am unable to log in - the browser just gets stuck on the url and the page doesn't load and shows as a blank white page. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 10:41 PM PST - 4 comments

My 6-year old with ADHD and SPD touches compulsively

My 6-year old son still grabs for my belly compulsively and has done so since he was maybe 2.5 when I weaned him. It hasn't bothered me all this time, honestly, but my ex- had been down my throat about it even since then. He hated it when we were married (made him queasy, in the same way he disapproved of my breastfeeding more and more as my son got older). [more inside]
posted by phreckles at 10:00 PM PST - 22 comments

Annoying anime for health and fitness

I get a much better daily workout on the stationary bike while watching anime that I kind of hate. I need recommendations for more series to watch that I won't like too much. Important additional details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by ardgedee at 7:56 PM PST - 23 comments

Ugh, hiccups

I was at a benefit for a friend of of mine tonight who had a bad accident. There were good times to be had, but unfortunately I have a serious case of the hiccups on account of too many beers being drunk. I'm drinking water like the dickens, but all that's doing for me is making me want to pee a lot while I hiccup like there's no tomorrow. [more inside]
posted by surazal at 7:35 PM PST - 50 comments

What is the best canister vacuum if you have long hair?

I just moved into an apartment with a long, carpeted staircase. I also have long hair. I need a good canister vacuum that will be: 1) Relatively lightweight for navigating stairs; and 2) Vacuum loose long hairs without getting them stubbornly tangled in the rollers or other parts. Any recommendations? Price is no object.
posted by invisible ink at 7:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Avoiding Cell Phone Hostage Plans?

Currently out of my contract with Verizon Wireless and am reluctant to lock in to another 2-year contract requiring a new phone purchase and expensive monthly fees. [more inside]
posted by funfunfun at 6:59 PM PST - 17 comments

2-prong electrical outlets in my house. What should I do about them?

Our house, built in the 1960s, has a few rooms where the only outlets are the old two-pronged type. One of these rooms is my office, and the only way I could setup my computer and desk was to use a "cheater" plug to adapt a power strip with 3-prongs to the 2 necessary to plug into the wall's outlet. I have several questions regarding the situation: [more inside]
posted by arm426 at 6:04 PM PST - 14 comments

What will it be like having a baby in the NICU for several weeks?

Due to some pregnancy complications, it's looking very likely that our baby will be born by c-section at around 32 weeks, and at least 3 weeks small for gestational age. We're anticipating a NICU stay of many weeks. I have a few questions for those who have been there to help me visualise what this time will be like. [more inside]
posted by peppermintfreddo at 4:58 PM PST - 24 comments

Which Pope Francis Biography Should I Buy for My Aunt?

My aunt mentioned that she would like a biography of Pope Francis. So I naively thought I'd just go online and buy her one. But of course it turns out that there are lots and lots of biographies. Which one should I get? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 3:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Mysterious dog injury/illness

My dog's medical history has our vet stumped. Very low platelet count, lethargy, bad limping on one hind leg - two similar but not identical incidents 6 months apart. Maybe you can help? [more inside]
posted by cloverthistle at 3:40 PM PST - 13 comments

What's interesting in Tokyo these days?

I'm going to be spending a week in Tokyo Oct 23-30, and my plan is mainly to eat delicious food and wander around. I lived there for 2 years 1997-99 so I've pretty much seen all the major tourist stuff. Current locals, what are your favorite things to do or eat? [more inside]
posted by exceptinsects at 3:35 PM PST - 7 comments

How to love the apartment we're in

Hubby and I live in the Bay Area in a rent-controlled apartment. We have come to terms that remaining in this apartment is the best deal we are willing to commit to. We've been in this apartment for almost 4 years and have always treated this as a "temporary" residence given where we are in our careers/lives. With the INSANE housing boom, it is hard to justify moving out to a 2 bedroom apartment or to buy a home here. What are the most impactful ways to begin LOVING our apartment NOW? [more inside]
posted by ellerhodes at 3:25 PM PST - 39 comments

Software to generate a report of my computer usage?

I'd like to see a weekly breakdown of my personal computer usage. Showing total time spent using different applications, and total time spent visiting different websites. Just to monitor my productivity and see where I'm spending/wasting the most time. Can anyone recommend a (preferably free) mac application?
posted by pablocake at 2:58 PM PST - 4 comments

Moorcock's Eternal Champion: 2 brothers (Gods?) freed from captivity

In one of Michael Moorcock's books dealing with some aspect of the Eternal Champion, 2 other-wordly beings - Gods? Demigods? Demons? - are freed from captivity after thousands of years or longer. One of the book's heroes tells them that unless they help the heroes, the next time these beings need help, everyone will know that they have a habit of not showing gratitude to those who have helped them in the past. Which book was this in, around what page, and what was the name of the brothers? [more inside]
posted by mistersix at 2:57 PM PST - 10 comments

How often should I visit my boyfriend's parents?

Fairly self-explanatory, but a few details within. [more inside]
posted by easter queen at 2:55 PM PST - 25 comments

What are the rules on blogging about people that you know?

I have a blog. I write mostly about my work and things that pertain to my work (rather than it being a personal blog). However, since the work that I do is socio-political, my blog does deal with personal issues that use real life examples (but I tend not to focus on my own personal life in the blog). However, there are situations in which examples of things from my life are very pertinent to the issues I write about, and I believe that my writing would benefit from being able to personalize the issue. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 1:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Can I pick which state I live in for income tax purposes?

I do not want to screw the IRS, as that is scary. At the same time I travel a lot. Nominally I have an apartment in NYC that is "home," and I pay high city tax and state tax rates. I have been AirBnB'ing the apartment and basically living with my girlfriend when I'm home. For business I travel a lot, to the point where I have begun renting cheap bachelor pads to not be living in a hotel all the time. Can I claim residency in those states? [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 12:58 PM PST - 16 comments

V complicated, but hopefully interesting question

I'm in love with a guy with cancer. I'm 31 and starting to feel like I want my life to move on soon. Cancer means it can't with him, and he doesn't want to plan a future right now. What to do? [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 12:36 PM PST - 23 comments

Vaguely remembered Coldplay songwriting checklist?

I have this memory of seeing a behind the scenes video of Coldplay working on songs (maybe somewhere around the X&Y era?) In their working space, they had a checklist on the wall of each element of each song they needed to finalize, like rhythm, melody, lyrics, etc. I'd like to see that list again but I have no idea where I saw it and Googling hasn't gotten me anywhere. Ring a bell for anyone?
posted by frenetic at 12:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Clear skies somewhere near Baltimore for eclipse tonight?

I am in Baltimore, MD and I really want to watch the lunar eclipse tonight. Unfortunately the weather is supposed to be cloudy and I am really bummed about it. I have access to a car and would be willing to drive somewhere where my chance of seeing the eclipse would be better -- does anyone know of any reliable "cloud cover" maps or any forecasts that can tell me if it's possible to find clear skies within a reasonable driving distance?
posted by capnsue at 11:25 AM PST - 3 comments

Chosing colors, apparenlty, not my thing.

So we bought a lovely new house, the only issue was the previous owners choice of paint, which should be easy to fix, but I'm stuck on what do to given the terrible color they painted the trim. Can you help me pick a new wall/trim color? [more inside]
posted by katers890 at 11:12 AM PST - 22 comments

Good places to have a cheap, active vacation around New Year's

What would be good non-USA destinations for around December/January that have (1) natural beauty or cultural landmarks, (2) good deals on airfare and/or cheap once you get there, (3) manageable by someone who only speaks English? Ideally reasonably OK for a woman traveling alone. [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 11:04 AM PST - 5 comments

The simplest Couch-to-5K app/podcast/anything

I'd like to start running (again). First thing tomorrow morning. Can you recommend a simple C25K app or podcast or something that I would just load on my (Android) smartphone and press "Start" tomorrow morning? I don't want to use my own music, because everything I have is too slow. Thanks in advance.
posted by gakiko at 10:30 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me reverse-engineer this excellent vegan curry soup

A local Asian restaurant makes a truly outstanding curry noodle soup with tofu. I'd like to figure out how to make the soup myself. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 9:52 AM PST - 15 comments

What would the pitfalls be of pumping sea water inland to refill aquifer

No, not *directly* into aquifers, but onto the ground at a slow rate to let water slowly seep down, using the soil and rock strata to remove impurities, such as (hopefully) saline content. [more inside]
posted by rubah at 9:49 AM PST - 22 comments

Losing a tenure-track position

I am losing my tenure-track job after pre-tenure review. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by AnonProf at 9:42 AM PST - 13 comments

Lino carving technique

I love block prints but my own efforts are pretty disappointing. Please give me advice on tools and technique! [more inside]
posted by carbide at 8:16 AM PST - 14 comments

Staying happy during a transition time?

A lot is in transition in my life right now. How can I stay happy and limit the feelings of being overwhelmed? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 8:09 AM PST - 6 comments

CBT: Feelings _before_ Thoughts?

Have you found that a basic idea around CBT simply doesn't ring true for you? [more inside]
posted by tcv at 8:07 AM PST - 19 comments

Why did my brakes stop working?

I have an automatic Ford Focus ZX3 from 2003. Yesterday, a friend who really knows cars taught me how to change the oil. We also rotated the tires and filled them to spec (34 psi as indicated on the door). When I left, two strange things happened: my right back tail light was out, and more importantly: my brakes were not responsive. [more inside]
posted by k8lin at 7:17 AM PST - 8 comments

How to Globe-Trot with Dog

My (new) husband and I have decided it’s finally time to live the dream by stepping back from our jobs and traveling the world for the indefinite future. We would like to spend at least a month each in cities all around the world. Difficulty level: 14 year old Scottish terrier. Looking for advice of all stripes. [more inside]
posted by fiery.hogue at 6:35 AM PST - 23 comments

Shoes for fall?

I need a new pair of shoes for fall, but I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 6:25 AM PST - 15 comments

How to sell a graphic design gadget?

I have a Swatchmate (now Palette) Cube which I would like to sell - I kickstarted it but it wasn't useful for what I needed. As it's quite specialist, are there any forums/Facebook groups where I can sell something like this? I am in the UK if it matters.
posted by anonymous at 6:05 AM PST - 2 comments

What visual aids should I make to bring to a jury trial, and how?

I am going to have a day in court. There is an amount of relatively simple 2-dimensional data central to my case, that tracks the course two variable quantities over 9 years. I want the jury members to understand this data as easily and as well as can be. I'm guessing a few colored charts with x=time and y=the quantities would be a good way to accomplish this. But what exactly should I prepare to a accomplish this, in terms of size and layout? And what free software tools should I use to do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:05 AM PST - 14 comments

Positive depictions of consent in kids' media

I'm looking for depictions of healthy consent and boundaries in children's movies, TV shows, and other media. The catch is that I want stuff that does NOT refer to sexual activity directly and that is appropriate for kids under 12. [more inside]
posted by thetortoise at 1:10 AM PST - 6 comments

September 26

Is there a Creative Commons for privacy/data stuff?

Maciej Cegłowski recently gave a talk called What Will Happen Next Will Surprise You that was discussed here on the blue. In it, he outlines an idea I'm ready to help push forward: a Creative Commons-inspired way of saying "My company doesn't store personally identifiable data" or "My company has a true delete" and other similar things. We can debate the enforceability of this stuff later - my short term questions for now are "Is anyone doing this?" and if not, "Who's in?"
posted by jragon at 9:26 PM PST - 7 comments

Where to buy fruit mooncakes in SF

The title says it all: I'm going to be in San Francisco tomorrow and would like to buy a box of fruit-flavored mooncakes. I'm aware that this is a non-authentic choice, but since they are available in China proper, surely somewhere in SF should import them as well? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 8:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Did I sell myself short?

I'm currently in the very very early research stages of making a career change and I'm starting to think that I sold myself short in regards to my education. I have a Bachelor of Arts in History and, well, I've really been struggling to find "my place" in the career world for the last 5 years. I'm starting to think I sold myself short by not pursuing more math/science related careers. Is it too late for me to maybe find a career in STEM I would enjoy? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 7:23 PM PST - 19 comments

Low Carb Vegan Meal Ideas

My recent blood work came back with a high fasting blood sugar. I need to cut out as many carbs and sugars as possible. A low GI diet that does not include animal products is the goal. This is a long-term thing, not a temporary diet [more inside]
posted by Avosunspin at 7:10 PM PST - 16 comments

Recovering from a toxic workplace

I'm just finished up my last day at a toxic workplace. Help me come up with some great recovery activities in my time off. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:51 PM PST - 5 comments

My Boyfriend is a Divorcing Dad: What is Appropriate?

I've never dated a dad before -- and now have a boyfriend with two children whose divorce isn't final. They are a very "low boundaries" family and I'm having a hard time dealing with what is said, discussed in front of his children... [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse at 5:16 PM PST - 32 comments

My phone takes me.....

You are wasting five minutes on your phone....where do you go? Assume metafilter has already been surfed. As have PhD comics. Please let me know where you're going. Bonus points for suggestions about what's for dinner, women's fashion, science new, and grad students (ifls and PhD comic like finds). I'm betting you're surfing some great sites metafilter.
posted by Kalmya at 5:15 PM PST - 31 comments

What's happened with my Instagram account?

i have an intentionally small bunch of followers on Instagram, and recently chose to unfollow one of them. Then I got a long list of ridiculous suggestions for new followers, the first few showing up on my homepage, which I x'd to delete. My other followers/followings are still listed as good, but I have not seen any of their posts for these 5 days, and apparently they can't see mine from yesterday. (I clicked on their names to make sure they had made some new posts.). What could be going on?
posted by mmiddle at 4:30 PM PST - 4 comments

Unhappily Forged

I purchased some property a couple of months ago. One of the documents recorded with the county doesn't match the document I have (that I walked out of closing with). I think the Notary forged my signature after the fact. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by shew at 4:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Whom do you trust with your shoes and how? (West L.A. edition)

Time to give my leather boots some TLC. Recommendations for a good cobbler in LA, and tips for navigating the brave new world of shoe repair? Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Goblin Barbarian at 4:18 PM PST - 3 comments

A once great rock band that broke up gets back together

What are some examples of bands that had a long hiatus and then got back together for a significant second incarnation? [more inside]
posted by qhosinyawi at 3:51 PM PST - 35 comments

What's the trick to removing this lock?

I have a piece of furniture with a lock on it. I'd like to replace the lock, but I'm having a very difficult time figuring out how to remove it. Pictures inside. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 3:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Wow, Thank YOU for that thing...that is there...looking at me...

What do you do with terrible art that has been gifted to you? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 3:29 PM PST - 20 comments

how to shoot through a window

I am trying to photograph through a window to show the views outside. The problem for me is getting the correct exposure. [more inside]
posted by jtexman1 at 3:19 PM PST - 9 comments

Lost in translation

Why are texts to an email address being diverted? [more inside]
posted by Red Loop at 2:41 PM PST - 8 comments

rice cooker chaos

My stupid ridiculous rice cooker keeps boiling over, and I've only had it four days! What do I do? [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 2:25 PM PST - 22 comments

Hip, Hip Hooray, for Christmas Vacation

Our family rarely takes vacations, and even then, just to visit family, or at best, to a nearby lake. But big leaps forward in our careers have us thinking it's time to finally treat ourselves. We're thinking of taking the kid to Vegas for Christmas and rolling out, if not all the stops, many more than we've customarily been able/willing to afford. Give us tips for Vegas in general, Vegas for families, Vegas at the holidays, and small and medium things we can do to feel like high rollers. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 1:30 PM PST - 25 comments

Getting closer with a work friend when you have a bit of a crush too...

Can it be done safely, or should I just leave it alone/keep it 100% about work? I have a friend/coworker who has been really good to me since I started at my job a couple years ago, recently helped me through a rough situation at work in a way that made a huge difference, and is a lot of fun to hang out with as well. I'm interested in being better friends and to be someone who has his back to the extent he has had mine, but there's some awkwardness to that, given minor power dynamics and the fact that I have a bit of crush on him (hopefully a secret one). Has anyone successfully navigated anything like this? Any suggestions? Some potentially relevant details below: [more inside]
posted by Squalor Victoria at 1:28 PM PST - 14 comments

suggestions for a solo afternoon in Seattle?

I will be a woman of leisure later this week with a free afternoon in Seattle. I haven't been there in over 5 years - is there anything new that I should see or do, downtown-ish? Bonus points if it gets me near a Top Pot Donut location. I'll be light railing from the airport and need to eventually make it downtown or to Capitol Hill by dinner time.
posted by Maarika at 12:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Dealing with pressure from hair stylists

Help me manage the pressure and judgement from stylists when I go to the salon. [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 12:48 PM PST - 32 comments

What's the most rewarding charity to give to, in a selfish sense?

I'd like to give money to charity regularly, but I'm still a little bit selfish so I'd like to see some kind of direct outcome from my donation, rather than feeling like it's a small drop in a giant pot of money. So, charities like Cancer Research, Oxfam, Save the Children - these are all great things which I support in various ways but I would consider those to be "giant pots of money" for the purpose of this question. [more inside]
posted by hoverboards don't work on water at 12:13 PM PST - 22 comments

Burning bridges by leaving unfinished work at your old job?

I was previously working at a medical supply company last year and left that job due to high turnover, low wage, and being 17-19 miles away from home. The current job that I have now is only 2.3 miles away from home although the pay was only $1 more. I work for a mental health insurance company. I've been there for 9 months now. I was hired as an administrative assistant, and I have found out the hard way after 4-5 months into the job that I'm not the best fit for the position. I also found out that the work environment is toxic along with a high turnover rate similar to my old job. Here is a couple of reasons for the toxic environment. & why I plan to leave. [more inside]
posted by tnar23 at 11:42 AM PST - 15 comments

Favorite Halloween episodes of TV shows available on streaming.

My SO and I love watching Halloween-themed stuff this time of year. What are some awesome Halloween episodes of TV shows that are available on Netflix, HBO Go or Amazon Prime? Assume that we're not looking for movie recommendations (got that covered) and the following series are mainstays/have been seen: [more inside]
posted by Ufez Jones at 11:18 AM PST - 11 comments

Best & Most Fun Halloween (board?) Games for Non-Board-Gamey People

Trying to find a fun, and spooky, board game for several adults to play on Halloween. Not a Ouija board, please. [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn at 10:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Upgrading Google Drive Storage Quandry

Google Drive wants me to upgrade my storage by the beginning of October or I will lose my data. But I have a 1 TB promo that lasts until 2017. Should I buy the extra storage? (screenshots included below) [more inside]
posted by Nevin at 9:09 AM PST - 4 comments

Non-scammy ringtones for iPhone?

I'm sick of my ringtones, and would like a new one. Ideally free, but pay is OK, too. I have an iPhone, and specifically I'd like Olivia Pope's ringtone. Googling this is a big ole mess, and the App store is no better. Every webpage and app look like they are designed specifically to brick the phone. Halp.
posted by Stewriffic at 7:17 AM PST - 8 comments

Ancient podcasts

Hi! I'm looking for good podcasts about extremely ancient history, stretching way back into pre-history! Basically: anything that goes from pre-sapiens hominids to, i don't know, let's use 500 BCE as our arbitrary cutoff date. Stuff about human evolution, early architecture, first farming practices, religions, history of tool use, anything in that nice huge swath that encompasses the shadowy past. I know that's a big-ass series of unrelated eons, but basically: the older the better!
posted by Greg Nog at 7:00 AM PST - 9 comments

Course/Materials: Chem/Biochem meets Sustainability?

Is anyone aware of an upper-division undergraduate or masters level course - or materials for such a course - with the following criteria. The course should describe, holistically, both scientifically rigorous descriptions of chemistry as well as sociological/anthropological implications of this science that illustrate the intersections of chemistry/biochemistry with sustainability. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:11 AM PST - 5 comments

Declining a Work Event

How do I decline attending this fancy work event? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:10 AM PST - 23 comments

How can I support parents supporting a depressed and anxious son?

My teenage brother has been struggling with pretty severe anxiety and depression for the last ~9 months; while my parents are being (in my view) amazing caregivers for him, I think they're both suffering from a lack of self-care, optimism, and support. What resources can I point them to, and what can I do, to help them with this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:10 AM PST - 5 comments

How do you navigate London lettings with an agent?

My partner and I have found a letting we like in London and have put in an offer that was accepted by the landlord. We're new to the UK lettings/agency process. Anything we should look out for, or tips for not getting ripped off? I've read online that many agencies are full of unscrupulous practices, keeping security deposits, hidden fees, etc., and would like to avoid any such troubles. [more inside]
posted by pocksuppetteer at 2:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Suggestions for fun home exercises that are not just exercise routines

Like the title says, what are some fun home exercises that aren’t just workout routines but more in the vein of yoga or bellydancing or even pole-dancing (those are the only three I can think of)? [more inside]
posted by atinna at 1:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Where to live in Sydney?

My partner and I are moving to Sydney toward the end of this year. It's all very exciting and terrifying, but now we have to work out practical issues. We have kids, we work in different locations (UNSW and Sydney uni), we're pretty well-off, and we like public transport. So where should we be looking to live? [more inside]
posted by langtonsant at 12:41 AM PST - 10 comments

September 25

Is offering her oral sex "appropriate" for our first time?

We've agreed to meet at my place to proceed with the make-out session we had in our last date. If things run smoothly and more intimacy is achieved, I would like to suggest giving her oral sex, but should it perhaps be wiser to stick to the more basic stuff this first time and leave oral sex for later encounters? [more inside]
posted by samufer at 11:38 PM PST - 20 comments

Leaving a dream job for a better quality of life

About a year and a half ago, I was offered an absolute dream job opportunity with a company I obsess over. I feel like the things I am doing have the chance to change the world in at least a small way, and I am well respected and valued in my organization. I have direct access to VIPs that others would love the chance to have a single coffee with. But, it's incredibly stressful at times and has a poor work-life balance. Should I leave this job for an almost-as-cool job that might be better for my family? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:00 PM PST - 18 comments

How to Gain Certain Skills in an Odd Workplace

I'm an admin assistant looking for other admin work, and I've realized that my not knowing how to make travel arrangements or schedule things on Outlook is taking me out of the running for a lot of jobs. I'll never be able to learn how to do either at my current job for a variety of reasons. How do I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:00 PM PST - 11 comments

Best fantasy books on Audible.com

Looking for beautifully written, beautifully performed fantasy audiobooks available on Audible.com. A skilled reader is key. If possible, I love when the book is less a reading and more a performance, like the exquisite Listening Library performance of The Golden Compass. But I will settle for a great narrator. The delightful British narrator of Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell, skilled in multiple accents, is my favorite so far. [more inside]
posted by lieber hair at 9:00 PM PST - 16 comments

Help finding a quote about quality workmanship/craftsmanship

I saw a quote about quality craftsmanship a few years ago that I have had difficulty tracking down again. [more inside]
posted by davey_darling at 8:29 PM PST - 1 comment

What do Lays' West Coast Truffle Fries taste like?

More specifically, do they taste like the Creamy Forest Mushroom Lays sold in Eastern Europe? Thanks.
posted by tippy at 4:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Need help with adapter selection - Nikon/Pentax!

My Pentax K10D has finally become all but unusable, and a friend is giving me her Nikon D90 (body only). I have several lenses for my Pentax, and I'm looking for a good adapter. [more inside]
posted by ScarletLark at 3:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Is it safe? Pineapple syrup left out all night

I left some home-made pineapple syrup out all night - is it safe to use? [more inside]
posted by Joh at 2:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Comcast just offered a (good) package that includes security. Should I?

Comcast is offering me a deal that includes security. I can get out of my existing home security for it. It's a very basic ADT - and they're pretty scummy too to deal with. I wanted to hear (hopefully) from the people who have used them or chose not to use them. I'm looking for deal breakers; things they don't do or that they should be doing. [more inside]
posted by filmgeek at 1:54 PM PST - 3 comments

YouAreNotMyPlumberFilter: Replace Disgusting Washing Machine Outlet Box

Our Washing Machine Outlet Box was put in wrong and someone went a little crazy making it "work." I would like to fix it myself, but am coming up empty on instructions and finding an upside down version. Would love any info, including "you need to pay someone." [more inside]
posted by bohdel at 1:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Remembering a sci-fi book

Trying to remember a hard sci-fi book about FTL travel. [more inside]
posted by k5.user at 12:11 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me identify two fonts

I'm feeling sheepish about asking this, but there's an apparent institutional memory problem and a deadline to deal with. So: can you specifically identify the fonts used for the header text and for the logo in this image? [more inside]
posted by RedOrGreen at 10:40 AM PST - 15 comments

One amazing trick that turns liquor into a "drink"!

What are some "single add-ins" to ANY kind of spirit or liquor that makes it an interesting drink? [more inside]
posted by ersatzkat at 10:24 AM PST - 64 comments

Help me get more in touch with music a young American might know.

(Sorry for posting this right on the heels of another music recommendation thread!) This is a music recommendations request with a special snowflakey focus. For whatever reason, but I think mostly due to my weeaboo nature and my social isolation, I like a lot of Japanese music but am largely ignorant of music that a typical young American might be aware of or into. And I mean really ignorant, enough that I specifically made a project of listening to all the Beatles albums last year (and in so doing discovered that one of the songs that I like by one of my favorite Japanese bands was actually a Beatles cover). In short, I'd like Metafilter's help to get me more plugged into music that a young American might know about. [more inside]
posted by J.K. Seazer at 9:50 AM PST - 28 comments

Cool/Interactive/Fun/Artsy Activities for a Professionally-Thrown Party

Have you ever been to an event that had something really fun and cool, that got you to whip out your phone and take a photo, that made you go "wait, this is free?" An example from a party I've been to recently is having screen printers make t-shirts and tote bags for attendees from designs they chose right there in front of them. More examples inside. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:16 AM PST - 24 comments

More podcasts please.

What are some good podcasts about niche/specific interests hosted by comedians/comedy writers/funny people? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 8:49 AM PST - 31 comments

Trying to ID a 1940s-ish film

I’m trying to ID a film I saw, possibly in the mid-80s, but which was set I think in 1940s-ish England. I believe it was black and white. It centers on two male friends, and a woman who is the fianceé of one of the men. One man convinces his friend that in order to know if he can really trust his future wife, he has to test her. [more inside]
posted by cocoagirl at 8:40 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me find a specific comic about leadership

I once took a high school class that explained (what I remember as) Lao Tzu's views on the types of leadership in comic form. It's stuck with me in the 20 years since, but I've never been able to re-find it. Can you help me find the comic I remember? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by There's No I In Meme at 8:30 AM PST - 1 comment

Housing first

I care about affordable housing, eliminating homelessness, raising the standard living for poor people, and maintaining available housing stock for working and middle class people of all ethnic backgrounds. What specific policies should I support? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:14 AM PST - 21 comments

Please recommend more music like some parts of Hamilton?

I don't usually like music with vocals, but it turns out I like large parts of the Hamilton soundtrack. Can the hive mind recommend more like it? I especially liked the first number "Alexander Hamilton", and the Cabinet meetings. I also liked "Ten Duel Commandments," "Satisfied" (Angelica's wedding flashback), and "The Room where it happened" but mostly for the parts with one voice singing a simple melody or speaking rhythmically. (Weirdly, it seems like when there's almost nothing but vocals, I turn out to like vocals.)
posted by d. z. wang at 8:02 AM PST - 12 comments

Brother & Sister-in-law becoming distant from family.

I have a younger half-brother who got married 2-3 years ago with a woman that he met at work. The two of them got married in court, and I had no idea that this even took place up until someone told me about it. It was either a family relative or someone else who told me. The two of them are introverted people who kept to themselves. The sister-in-law is a quiet person who was fully accepted by our family. The two of them eventually bought a house, and had a child at the beginning of this year. Everyone was excited about the new munchkin especially our parents. However, it was brought to my attention that the two couple have been very distant for the following reasons. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:29 AM PST - 52 comments

The toddler and the very tall breakfast bar

We're renting an apartment with a very small open-ish kitchen and a full bar height breakfast bar, with a baby going on toddler who is getting harder to seat at the bar. Are there any good solutions for seating toddlers at a full-height breakfast bar? [more inside]
posted by sputzie at 6:22 AM PST - 12 comments

Longform Magazine Articles Podcast

I'm looking for podcasts where longform magazine articles are read aloud. [more inside]
posted by reenum at 5:54 AM PST - 5 comments

What are some action films (especially 80s movies) with drug dealers?

I know that taking out drug dealers was a common film trope with the "War on Drugs". But I need to think of some and I'm coming up short. The more ridiculous the better, such as over the top 80's films starring Steven Segal, Jean Claude Van Damme, Arnold Schwarzenegger, etc. [more inside]
posted by arniec at 5:43 AM PST - 28 comments

Recommend me some business books

What are the best business books you know of right now? [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 1:37 AM PST - 17 comments

Visiting the City of Angels

I'm looking for suggestions for places to visit in LA (difficulty level: generally getting around, day spas, costumes, barre, crafting and outlet malls). [more inside]
posted by eloeth-starr at 12:23 AM PST - 10 comments

September 24

Should I go out with all 3 guys who happen to know each other?

I'm currently in a weird predicament. I recently started talking to 3 guys off of a dating app (not Tinder) at around the same time. They all asked me out for a first date. Through our exchanges, I notice that all 3 go to the same school together and happen to be in the same group of friends. I even saw a few photos of them together. All 3 have asked me to go on coffee or dinner date with them. I don't know what I should do because I haven't met any in personso I don't know them yet to write anyone off. At the same time, I don't want to be labeled as a serial dater if I agree to go out with all 3 of them. I'm afraid of the awkwardness when they later find out. What do you think I should do? Their ages range from 22-27 by the way.
posted by missybitsy at 9:37 PM PST - 48 comments

My TV won't turn on remotely.

Our Tivo and TV remotes stopped operating our television. I can operate it with the physical buttons on the TV. I have checked the batteries and the connections and tried resetting the remotes to no avail. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by dpx.mfx at 9:32 PM PST - 2 comments

Buying an album that's no longer available on iTunes

I want to buy Sweet Honey in the Rock's In This Land, which used to be available on iTunes but hasn't been for at least the last few months. I want to buy the mp3 version of this album, from a site other than Amazon -- can you find any other legit online store selling it?
posted by kalapierson at 9:25 PM PST - 6 comments

I don't even know where to start

I really enjoy the music on the show Empire, especially when the two brothers team up on a song. I really don't have a clue about who's good in hip hop, though. What albums should I buy if I want to hear more?
posted by blnkfrnk at 9:19 PM PST - 9 comments

Deserving intern - writing a kick-ass letter of recommendation?

A summer intern showed up at my company (Fortune 100) and did a lot of good things - so many that I am tripping over my own feet figuring out how to get him a seriously kick-ass letter of recommendation for grad school, so I turn to you to help me figure out how to structure it. [more inside]
posted by jet_silver at 8:35 PM PST - 6 comments

I might actually be too dumb to graduate

I'm finally doing my last semester of college, but the classes are so absurdly hard that I don't think I have the intellectual capacity to pass them, but I don't have the option to drop them or pare down my credits any futher; like, I just have to finish these classes and finish them this semester. Does anyone have any advice for how to do so? [more inside]
posted by hejrat at 8:26 PM PST - 33 comments

Looking for recommendations on a functional leather crossbody bag

I like bags and purses that have organization details and pockets galore, but I am also prone to carrying unnecessary weight if the bag is too large. To spare my shoulder and back, I've been downsizing to smaller crossbody bags. I've enjoyed using Travelon purses, but the most recent one is wearing out on me and I'm looking at a future replacement. [more inside]
posted by orbit-3 at 8:05 PM PST - 5 comments

LA to San Bernardino (or Riverside) via Public Transit

I'll be in LA next week without a car and I'd like to see my family who live way out in Riverside County. Is it possible to get out there and back in a single afternoon/evening? [more inside]
posted by Copronymus at 7:58 PM PST - 12 comments

Is there a red state MeFi-alike?

So I have an elderly relative who is struggling with profound hearing and speech difficulties, and I'm looking for an online community for him. MetaFilter would strike him as too liberal, too young, and somewhat too outré. He's not ignorant or unsophisticated, but his views are conservative and his interest in modern culture is, well, limited. Can anyone point me toward a U.S.-based site with an active group of thoughtful, high-quality commenters and a generally conservative slant on history, politics, and current events? [more inside]
posted by timeo danaos at 7:47 PM PST - 13 comments

How Do I Find My People (Who Buy Stuff)?

A spiritual follow-up to this question - I have a hobby that is producing stuff that people occasionally buy from my Etsy shop. After an initial flurry in the spring, sales have dried up over the summer. I feel like My People are out there - how do I find them without spending more time shilling than actually making stuff? [more inside]
posted by robocop is bleeding at 7:44 PM PST - 16 comments

Where can I buy this sink?

Where can I buy this sink? My Google-Fu is completely failing me, and at this point, I'm not even sure it exists as a real thing that a person can buy.
posted by schmod at 7:39 PM PST - 10 comments

What book is Hally Berry reading in Swordfish?

What book is Halle Berry reading in the movie Swordfish? [more inside]
posted by matkline at 7:37 PM PST - 1 comment

Did Spalding Gray say this?

In response to Southern California: "When will it get cold so I can put on a sweater and think?" I love this line and have been quoting it for years. But did Gray really say it, and when? [more inside]
posted by miles per flower at 6:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Best Sunrise Alarm Clock Set-Up?

I'd like to set something up to wake up using light. I've research the recent crop of smart light bulbs and my research has been hampered by lack of detailed operating info and reports that products don't often perform as described. Would love to hear a first-hand account... [more inside]
posted by Jon44 at 6:32 PM PST - 14 comments

VFW technical question

The VFW was established in 1913 and had overlap with living Civil War vets. Cursory googling doesn't turn this up, but could Civil War veterans join the VFW?
posted by codacorolla at 6:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Best CHEAP thrift/vintage shops in PDX?

I love thrifting but hate overpriced vintage "boutiques" with carefully curated things with big markups. One afternoon in PDX- where's the best place to go for trash & treasures? Clothes, books, household items, furniture etc.
posted by long haired child at 5:56 PM PST - 13 comments

I don't know how to dress myself.

I need to start dressing more professionally, but I'm terrible at it and the sort of person who would happily wear t-shirts and shorts or jogging pants all the time if it were acceptable. How can I get better at this? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 5:22 PM PST - 18 comments

The best way to pack a suitcase

After six months abroad, I will soon be making my way back home again. Since my old suitcase was starting to fall apart, I decided to get myself a new, bigger suitcase. One that I could fit my winter jacket into, so that I don't ever have to deal with a jacket being stolen from an overhead luggage compartment again. But how can I make the most of the features of my new suitcase? [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 4:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Where can I find people to play Twilight Struggle with in SF?

Exactly as it says on the tin. Where do all the Twilight Struggle players congregate around here? [more inside]
posted by un petit cadeau at 3:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Shoring up a marriage once the kids are a bit bigger

We have two little kids (almost 2 & 5). We love our two little kids. We're finally out of the pregnancy and infant stages, and maybe starting to get a little bit out of everything being in crisis mode all the time. But it's been a hard few years, and although our marriage isn't doing badly it feels like we really need to start working on us again. I'd like to hear from those of you a little further down the line of what you did to rebuild yourselves as a couple once your kids got a tad bigger and you could breathe again. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 3:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Is it worth $640 to get OEM lower control arms over aftermarket?

I have a '92 Geo Tracker with shot front lower control arm bushings and ball joints. My mechanic has recommended replacing the entire control arms rather than using a bushing kit, which I am onboard with. Given that this is a 25 year old car, OEM parts are preposterously overpriced. [more inside]
posted by nathancaswell at 3:05 PM PST - 14 comments

Citi Bike for the Out of Practice

Citi Bike has just come to Jersey City, and I've signed up, mostly because I used to ride my bicycle all the time, and I kinda miss it. Any advice on where might be a good place to start? [more inside]
posted by Shmuel510 at 2:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Photography competition rules

We want to set up a photography competition for our students. Our goal is to stimulate them to take pics of the class (all adults) doing class related activity. What rules do we need to have in place to protect ourselves and to ensure a transparent and fair competition? [more inside]
posted by biffa at 2:19 PM PST - 4 comments

iPhone stuck on iTunes after ios9 upgrade, no computer HELP please

FML. I upgraded my iphone STUPID ME and now it is stuck with a prompt that just says "iTunes." I don't have a computer available, and I have to meet people in a few hours ... phone is our only method of communication. PLEASE HALP
posted by cyndigo at 2:19 PM PST - 13 comments

Why have big cities gotten rich and rural/industrial areas gotten poor?

Everybody knows that New York and London have both seen a big reduction in crimes and an even bigger increase in property values over the past 20 years. Moscow, too. At the same time, formerly prosperous industrial and suburban areas have gotten poorer (and, as evidenced by right-wing populism, angrier). But the one that surprised me was Copenhagen vs. the rest of Denmark, as outlined by mumimor. [more inside]
posted by clawsoon at 2:08 PM PST - 27 comments

I'm in Rochester NY. Where can I get a chip / transponder car key made?

I want to get another spare and don't want to pay dealer prices. Can you tell me where I can get a key made for my Toyota and save some money?
posted by 14580 at 2:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Sodastream phasing out many diet flavors. What are the alternatives?

Sodastream seems to have stopped producing many of their flavors. So far the alternatives for diet flavoring seem to be Crystal light, Prairie Moon, or shaved ice flavoring syrup. Prairie Moon gets bad reviews for their flavorings. What other diet alternatives exist? I am not interested in making my own as a weekend project, I'm looking for point-click-buy convenience.
posted by benzenedream at 1:54 PM PST - 15 comments

Out of bounds to suggest new clothes?

Is there an appropriate way to ask a potential employee to update their wardrobe? [more inside]
posted by horizonseeker at 1:46 PM PST - 31 comments

Sending an anonymous email about inappropriate comments about minors?

I'm in a new school, new social circle. Someone in this circle (let's call him X) was talking about the previous school he worked at and made several inappropriate (sexual) comments about minors (13-16). X seemed sketchy and creepy in general. He went on the reveal that he's interviewing for a job in another school and revealed the name of the school. A quick google search led me to the email address of his new supervisor. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:32 PM PST - 30 comments

Timing for washer/dryer purchase

My wife and I just bought a house. All appliances are included except for laundry. Should we wait a couple weeks for the Columbus Day sales before buying a washer/dryer, or just do it now? [more inside]
posted by Ignatius J. Reilly at 1:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Travel to Sierra Leone this fall-- good or bad idea?

A friend of mine has the opportunity to travel to Sierra Leone for an interesting project later this fall. But he doesn't *have* to go, and all the official sites (CDC, etc.) say that non-essential travel should be avoided due to the Ebola outbreak. Obviously, my friend is concerned, but we've also heard the virus is much more under control now. Anyone with an educated opinion want to weigh in?
posted by airguitar2 at 11:38 AM PST - 4 comments

What sort of creature did these bones belong to?

We found some freaky looking bones in our back garden. We live in North West London, so there's not much in the way of large mammalian traffic around these parts. Any ideas?
posted by Optamystic at 11:37 AM PST - 17 comments

Having fun, but lacking sleep. What can I do to fix this?

Certain things are leaving me WIRED at night, and I’m having trouble sleeping because of them. [more inside]
posted by dean_deen at 11:30 AM PST - 15 comments

Storing Passwords

Is a password-protected Excel document a good way to store passwords for heirs? [more inside]
posted by Elsie at 11:24 AM PST - 19 comments

What makes electrical panel double taps so expensive to fix?

I have a "double tap" in my electrical panel. This seems easy to fix (even the most complicated fix simply involves adding a new breaker to the breaker box). But this task is supposed to only be performed by an electrician. I was quoted $265 for this fix by an electrician (Seattle, USA). Is this charge reasonable, or am I missing something here?
posted by splitpeasoup at 11:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Recommend recipes for a novice cook who finally has it all!

We've moved and now have access to a kitchen larger a postage stamp, a gas range instead of an electric, and super-easy access to an international market that blows my mind every time I enter it. I'm a decent cook and have my food processor and kitchen aid mixer attachments at the ready. Can you give me your best-est recipes, cooking tips, and purchasing pointers that might help us out with this wonderful situation? [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 11:14 AM PST - 14 comments

Phryne Fisher in an RPG? Or CYOA?

Where would you go for an interactive experience in the world of Phryne Fisher, or something like it? The only licensed Phryne Fisher game I know of is the Miss Fisher's Murder Mysteries Cluedo variant, which I haven't sought out, as it's not what I'm thinking of (though I probably will play it one day). [more inside]
posted by cupcakeninja at 11:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find Eternal Sunshine for my not so Spotless Mind

My 8 year relationship just ended and I am trying to figure out how to move on. I know all of the general stuff from other threads and articles, but there are a few specific things that I am having a hard time with. Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 10:50 AM PST - 22 comments

"The great gift of your time" - slapped by writer's block

We're planning to present an inscribed clock to a volunteer who's served faithfully for over three decades. In need of some of wordsmithing to save us ... [more inside]
posted by woodman at 10:49 AM PST - 7 comments

What do people do in chat apps?

By some estimates there are a billion chat messages sent per day worldwide. What are people doing in there? [more inside]
posted by StephenF at 10:39 AM PST - 33 comments

3 hours between International Flights in Dehli Airport.

This would not normally concern me, however as I developed a illness which literally killed me on my last trip to India I have some 'issues'. I am travelling from Italy back to Australia after 6 months, and the only way I could travel on the same day as my husband is by travelling Air India. I am not looking forward to this. It turns out to be a quick option, with only a 3 hour layover in Dehli. I know this is likely to mean around an hour in the airport between disembarking and boarding. Is there anywhere for good coffee? (Most important). Is there some area that is better to hang around in the airport than another? Will Euros or Australian dollars be useless, or will I need to hit an ATM for an espresso hit? Any other hints? TIA
posted by Flashduck at 10:38 AM PST - 7 comments

Does a psychiatrist have the authority to send patient to hospital?

Daughter (here's her backstory) may be on the verge of a psychotic episode - definitely not taking meds as prescribed, e.g., too much of some, not enough of others. Her dad and I would like to see her return to the hospital to stabilize her meds and deal with issues that weren't dealt with during the past 3 (!) hospitalizations, but she does not want to go. [more inside]
posted by zombies puppet at 10:37 AM PST - 7 comments

Calling all Science Fiction Librarians....

I'm trying to track down a particular short science fiction story I read once, roughly 25 years ago, and can not remember the author, title, or anthology it was in. This has been bugging me for years, and any assistance is greatly appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Xyanthilous P. Harrierstick at 10:15 AM PST - 5 comments

Are You My Daddy?

Asking for a friend: "There is some question about who my father is - the man who raised me (Daddy) or his brother (Uncle) The only family DNA I have is from my nephew who is my sister's son, definitely Daddy's grandson. My nephew and I share 1610 cM. Is this enough information to determine who my father is?"
posted by Allee Katze at 10:14 AM PST - 5 comments

Helping my kid invest

My 12 year old is looking to invest money someplace other than in a savings account. The objective is to get the money working harder than in a savings account (and learn about investing). There is about $1000 available to start. I will supplement the investment if a slightly larger startup amount is needed to open an account. This is a long-term investment. [more inside]
posted by GernBlandston at 9:57 AM PST - 16 comments

Should I unlock the bootloader on my phone before selling?

I have a T-Mobile Sony Xperia Z3 that is off-contract and has been unlocked by T-Mobile. I've confirmed the SIM lock is removed, but should I unlock the bootloader as well? [more inside]
posted by sbrollins at 9:32 AM PST - 1 comment

I can't remember the title or author of this short story

It's pretty terrible, full of colonialist tropes. There's a man posted to oversee a village in the jungle. The men of the village aren't very smart. I can't remember what they're working on, but the overseer is supposed to make sure they keep up production. There's a native woman who slowly drives the overseer mad, as she is telepathic. It is revealed that this happens to every overseer and they are replaced on a schedule for this reason. What is this story?
posted by domo at 9:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me buy a new set of winter tires!

What winter tires should I buy this time around? And where is the best place to get them? [more inside]
posted by futureisunwritten at 8:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Be kind, rewind that masking tape

How to get masking tape gunk off of surfaces I need to paint? [more inside]
posted by purple_bird at 8:51 AM PST - 12 comments

Moving on after a scandal in the community.

As I mentioned on the blue, I'm one of the women who was involved with these jerks. My own humiliation and hurt have passed, and now I want to do something productive with my anger. Seeking suggestions. [more inside]
posted by witchen at 8:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Picnic Date- Help me keep the food warm.

I am going on a first date on Friday evening. She suggested we meet up locally after work and that she would bring her dog for a walk. Since the after work time frame is right in the middle of dinnertime, I suggested we make a mini picnic out of it and I'll bring some food that we could have at the park. How do I keep this stuff warm... [more inside]
posted by incolorinred at 8:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Falling in love with my roommate

Looking for advice on how to cope, NOT on how to hit on him [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:16 AM PST - 24 comments

Vintage MBTA rides?

I know the MBTA (or a historical org related to) sometimes hosts rides of their vintage buses and trains. Unfortunately I can't find a schedule online (and most searches for "vintage MBTA" take me to maps and schedules). Any idea how I'd learn more about this?
posted by pxe2000 at 8:12 AM PST - 5 comments

Why can't I sleep and what can I do to sleep?

Starting when I was a teenager I have had trouble sleeping, but this has only become worse as I have become an adult. Now, without the use of medication and even with them, I feel chronically fatigued. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 7:57 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I deal with this cat who hates me?

I'm staying in the same apartment as a cat this week and so far, things have gone terribly. Help me make it not terrible. [more inside]
posted by sucre at 7:35 AM PST - 33 comments

Help watching Australian "All 4 Adventure" show online?!

I'm trying to hunt down the All 4 Adventure show. Their YouTube channel just has short clips and compilations. I'm not currently in a location that they will ship their DVD's to. I've hunted around, but have come up dry. Thanks for helping!
posted by peripatew at 7:16 AM PST - 1 comment

How to explain the word "derive?"

I'm subbing for a class and one of their vocab words this week is "derive." I've given them definitions and sample sentences but they are continuing to use it wrong. How can I explain it more clearly? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 4:20 AM PST - 19 comments

Band of Brothers, "Crossroads"

In the Band of Brothers episode "Crossroads", there's a pivotal scene in which the platoon prepares to assault a German position. Winters instructs his men, "Go on the red smoke," then hurls a canister of red smoke as far as he can, before taking off in the same direction at a sprint. Once the canister begins expelling the smoke, the rest of the platoon take off after him, running through the red smoke. Please break down this scene for me. [more inside]
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 12:53 AM PST - 9 comments

How to not fall asleep for 2 hours after working full time?

Hi I'm a young adult woman im returning to work after health issues I have not worked full time much before it was less than 3 weeks that was about 5 years ago Ive worked more part time but I remember my first day at work I was so cranky at my parents my older brother usually sleeps 1 hour or more after work. Working full time I was a Earlychildhood relief teacher but even though that job can be tiring I would get tired after my lunch break. [more inside]
posted by re at 12:38 AM PST - 15 comments

September 23

Water + MBP. How screwed am I?

Water (a couple spoons, tops) got into my one-month-old MBP. How screwed am I? [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 9:08 PM PST - 13 comments

Travel in the season of grandstanding

My parents, siblings and our families are set to converge on the Grand Canyon from Oct. 8-12 for an annual reunion. The plans and reservations were made late last year, and some are flying or traveling by amtrak, though myself and my family will drive from a few hours away. How worried should we be about a potential government shutdown? If it does happen Oct. 1st, is there any lag time before National Parks and similar agencies would cease operations, or would that be immediate? Should we cancel preemptively? I'm hopeful we don't have to do that, but if so, we all plan to donate the cash we'd have spent there to Planned Parenthood.
posted by M.C. Lo-Carb! at 8:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Book recommendations for my Mom

Since my mum got her Kobo ereader, she's been bingeing on the classics but finding the latest recommendations offered by Kobo and Goodreads don't interest her much. She's 76, hates gratuitous bad language, sex, and overly wordy or convoluted language. I've told her that Metafilter is full of bright and knowledgable people; ready to help. [more inside]
posted by bonobothegreat at 7:48 PM PST - 45 comments

Best platform for developing website for photography business

In your opinion, what's the best platform out there to develop a website for my photography business? I'd like it to be mostly WYSIWYG, and I want to showcase example images so prospective clients can see my work. The images should be the focal point, but I obviously also need to include contact details, social links, etc. Thanks! rs
posted by robadobdob at 7:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Show All Documents From All Kindles In One Place.

I run Kindle app on four devices, using one Amazon account. When I read articles on the web, I usually save interesting PDFs to Kindle. I would like to see all ebooks AND the pdfs in one place. [more inside]
posted by seawallrunner at 7:17 PM PST - 2 comments

6 Hour Layover in Copenhagen?

I have a 6 hour layover in Copenhagen on Friday. Is that enough time to do anything? [more inside]
posted by Flamingo at 6:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Simple sewing patterns for costumes or bags, for boys?

My five-year-old son is interested in sewing (he's interesting in construction and design, in general). I am not much of a sewer, but I could probably cut out something from a simple pattern and stitch it by hand. (No machine). How can I indulge this with him, given that I have limited skills and he's five? [more inside]
posted by pipti at 6:33 PM PST - 23 comments

Vacation to Mayan ruins?

I'm interested in planning a week-or-two trip at the end of the year to see Mayan ruins and other non-Cancun-y things to do in the region. What's good? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 6:07 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me bounce back from a (non-violent) mugging

I was mugged on my way home 2 nights ago. I wasn't hurt, but presumably that's because the attackers were only interested in my iphone and ipod, which they took. I'm relatively new to my neighborhood and have never been the victim of crime before, despite my 20 years in NYC. Have you? What did you do/not do in order to move past the incident and stay safe? [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire at 5:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find this Comedy World Peace PSA from my youth?

Inspired by JHarris's HA! FPP, I had a sudden flashback to a promo that appeared frequently one of those comedy cable channels back in the early nineties. It was a strange promo in that it was advertising not a show but world peace. Middle school-aged me could never figure out whether it was sincere or not. [more inside]
posted by HeroZero at 5:02 PM PST - 2 comments

Why do I get sick of every job after about 6 months?

I've worked in software QA for the past five years. I've gotten sick of the last three jobs I've had, each after about 6 months. It could be a result of significant changes to the work environment each time, but I'm starting to think it's just me. [more inside]
posted by seiryuu at 4:40 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I explain this?

My 7-year-old daughter's favorite books right now are Louise Erdrich's Birchbark House novels about an Ojibwe girl named Omakayas. She wants to dress up like Omakayas for Halloween. Last year, she went as Laura Ingalls Wilder. However, I feel like it isn't okay in this day and age for a white girl to dress live a Native American for Halloween, particularly in a city where so many real Ojibwe live. Am I right? If so, why? What should I tell her? For her, this is just about adoring her favorite character.
posted by Area Man at 3:47 PM PST - 32 comments

Vet care for a cat after fight

My cat just got into a fight with a neighbor's cat. I broke up the fight, but my cat was spooked and wouldn't come to me, so I haven't had a chance to look her over. I am guessing she will need to go to the vet to get any bites/scratches attended to. How long after being scratched/bitten can I wait to go into the vet? It is getting later in the day, my regular vet is closing soon, and I may have to wait until morning to see them. Can I wait (providing it is minor injuries), or should I find an emergency vet?
posted by nanook at 3:02 PM PST - 16 comments

Getting around Ecuador by train and driver?

I grew up and learned to drive in Ecuador. Noooo thank you, not doing that again. However, I've never hired a driver. And I've never taken the new luxury train that seems to exist. Have you? [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform at 1:43 PM PST - 2 comments

Props that suggest Laura Ingalls Wilder?

Going to a cosplay wedding as a character mashup, part of which is Laura Ingalls Wilder. Help me think of things I can carry to represent her! [more inside]
posted by Lucinda at 1:26 PM PST - 27 comments

How is Edible Foodstuff formed?

My sheer level of "doesn't know how to cook" is possibly outside the realm of most people's imaginations. So in front of me I have: a bag of dried green lentils, a can of diced tomatoes, a box of frozen spinach, a bag of Russet potatoes, a bulb of garlic, nutritional yeast, liquid aminos, and a sea salt grinder. I also have a gas stovetop and pots/pans. Assuming NO other ingredients, please tell me very specifically how to turn this into a...dal? soup? something else? [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier at 1:03 PM PST - 19 comments

Is this T-Shirt actually racist or associated with racists?

I saw this T-Shirt on a 10-12 year old boy at a neighborhood parade last week. He was part of the parade, in a unit sponsored by a dive bar. Possibly relevant info: This is not a biker bar specifically but my town's one-percenter outlaw biker gang has had events there. [more inside]
posted by BigLankyBastard at 12:56 PM PST - 23 comments

Any advice on a clean install of Linux from no prior OS?

Hi - I ordered a refurbished Dell laptop which came without a Windows install (thanks Dell), so I think that I would like to try Linux as my OS, installed sans Windows. Can you help me confirm that what I'm planning to do makes sense? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 12:53 PM PST - 16 comments

Ultra cheap bedding in Reykjavík?

We will be car camping in Iceland in a few weeks, we have rented a car already but need to source the cheapest possible (ideally secondhand) duvets, blankets and pillows as we're liable to need lots, and will have to leave them behind. Where can we pick bedding up for the lowest possible price in (midweek) Reykjavík? Alternatively is there anywhere we could get bargain sleeping bags?
posted by tzb at 12:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Depressed and Anxious - Unmotivated unless I take a Tranqulizer

This seems counter-intuitive so I thought I'd search out insight as to why this happens. I have been treated for depression with anxiety for over 20 years and for the most part, my daily medicine helps me function like a normal person. I find that I tire very easily and after having explored and corrected regular medical reasons (Low D) I still feel like coming home after work and doing absolutely nothing. It feels therapeutic to crawl into bed even though my heart and stomach feel full of anxious energy. [more inside]
posted by Snackpants at 12:17 PM PST - 9 comments

Selling my Verizon EDGE phone without opening it

I recently got an iPhone 6s through Verizon as I had the 25$ line access discount for converting to Edge but don't want a new phone. I also got in on the $300 iphone trade in from a friends old 5S. Now, the phone is being delivered Friday. I'm looking to sell it on eBay and would like to sell it "sealed". [more inside]
posted by lattiboy at 10:57 AM PST - 6 comments

Digital bookshelves are harder to browse...

I have many books. Now I have many ebooks. There is some overlap. I am hesitant to get rid of my hardcopies because I want other people (my kids, primarily) to be able to browse through them and find stuff that interests them. I think this is easier to do with physical objects. Please convince me I can get rid of my physical books if I have e-copies; or, tell me why keeping physical books is essential.
posted by OmieWise at 10:38 AM PST - 34 comments

Well She's *Fun* to be around.

How do I become a more positive, optimistic person who is happy with who they are? [more inside]
posted by Lillypad331 at 10:34 AM PST - 14 comments

Making a better hot sauce

I tried making a hot sauce a little while ago. While it was tasty, it felt like the heat and the flavor were 2 different things. I'm hoping to make them come together. [more inside]
posted by Hoopo at 10:34 AM PST - 11 comments

Moving to Portland, Maine. Where should we live?

It looks very likely that my spouse and I will be moving to Portland (the first Portland). We are both really excited about the move but don't know where to live. Help us choose a good neighborhood (and maybe a buyer's agent)! [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 9:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Should I rename my new kitten? If so, help! (Pics included, of course.)

We adopted this darling girl on Sunday from the ASPCA and her shelter name is Gossamer. I'm not sure if that's the name for her - sure, she is delicate and light, but Goss is a weird nickname so I'm considering other possibilities. [more inside]
posted by cristinacristinacristina at 9:36 AM PST - 70 comments

Comic Book Upgrade - Graphic Novels for 14 year old boy

Looking for Graphic Novels for a 14 year old boy. He loves Garfield, slap stick movies (Airplane, Naked gun), and is into Star Wars. Looking for recommendations that are not violent and that you may find at a public library. Thanks!
posted by bleucube at 9:28 AM PST - 14 comments

Looking for cheap but easily upgradeable desktop

I want to spend less than $400 to buy a fully functional new desktop. Regardless of the CPU it would have, I want to be able to put in an i7 later on. I want to be able to add more RAM and a powerful video card without having to get a new case or power supply. HDD should be at least 1TB. It can start with 4GB of RAM, since I plan to upgrade. If it's 4GB i'd prefer it to be on a single stick. I would also prefer Windows 10 to be already installed.
posted by spacefire at 9:05 AM PST - 11 comments

Why do some things that can get very hot cool much faster than others?

It makes sense that things being very hot take a long time to cool off, it makes sense that some materials don't get too hot and others hold heat for a very long time, but how is it possible that some material can both get extremely hot while also cooling off very quickly? [more inside]
posted by basehead at 8:29 AM PST - 9 comments

How do you backup your Tumblr?

How do your backup your Tumblr? I was using revert.io but they just switched to a paid model which is kind of pricey. This tool doesn't work anymore. What are other people doing?
posted by lbotkins at 8:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Honeymoon in January in Central/South America for animal lovers...

Overwhelmed by the options. Please halp! [more inside]
posted by ashtabula to opelika at 8:08 AM PST - 9 comments

Looks like I did it again: Codependency recovery

I have been recovering from codependency personalty disorder and it's going EXTREMELY well, but I think I've fallen into another relationship with a codependent. I am at the point where I am over it and want to focus on myself once and for all. How do I just freaking STOP?! [more inside]
posted by Young Kullervo at 8:06 AM PST - 14 comments

Razors by Mail

So I kind of hate dealing with buying razors at the local CVS, and there are a couple of services that proide razors by mail (Harry's Razors and Dollar Shave Club come to mind; I assume there are others). Can anyone recommend one? [more inside]
posted by GenjiandProust at 7:49 AM PST - 27 comments

Rated R for scenes of Social Justice

What are some difficult movies to watch (with violent, emotional, or otherwise controversial content) that are believed to have high cultural value? [more inside]
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 7:13 AM PST - 62 comments

Udo's oil - odd side effect

I recently started taking the Udo's Oil supplement, to see if it helped with athletic recovery (I am a distance runner). However, within a month of starting, it had another effect: my previously irregular menstrual periods became perfectly regular. Why? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:10 AM PST - 7 comments

Buying a car. Difficulty level: Pacific Northwesterner in Maine

My son has just been stationed in Kittery, Maine for the foreseeable future (three years) and needs a car. He believes he needs a vehicle with a little extra something-something: ground clearance and AWD or 4WD. But I'm here visiting for a week and I'm 110% positive all these folks aren't swapping out their small sedans for big trucks when winter hits. Or, do they? [more inside]
posted by Mysterious Trousers at 6:53 AM PST - 18 comments

Snitch vs Secret

Help me understand how to explain the difference between snitching and healthy discussion in step families. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:52 AM PST - 29 comments

Recommendations for a psychiatrist in Manhattan?

I have wasted years, literally, recovering from recent breakups and life is slipping away. Is there a psychiatrist in Manhattan or Brooklyn who could help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Slang phrases (and where you heard them) for u-turn?

Hi, I'm interested in any slang words or phrases you have heard for making a u-turn. I'll share the two I've heard; I'd love to hear what you have heard. [more inside]
posted by rachelpapers at 6:46 AM PST - 63 comments

Leather ceiling padding.

I have a low headroom ceiling over a staircase which I want to pad with something. I'm thinking foam interior with an outward facing leather for looks. How do I make it look nice? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:45 AM PST - 1 comment

how to clean a down comforter?

I have a very nice silk down comforter, that finally needs cleaning. I have lost the cleaning directions. Anyone recommend a safe way to clean it?
posted by ebesan at 6:16 AM PST - 13 comments

Short, Funny, Educational Videos on Customer Service

Customer service is a big part of the work we do in my office, and I don't think we talk about the value of that piece of our work enough. I want to change that. To start, I'd like to show short, funny YouTube videos on customer service at my regular staff meetings. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 5:48 AM PST - 5 comments

Giving Notice, Want to Get Max $$$

I'm a veteran, no-contract, no-union teacher. I just got a much better job offer and I'd like to be able to leave my current position and get maximum $$$ from them by getting paid out for sick days. How to do this? [more inside]
posted by kinetic at 2:45 AM PST - 15 comments

September 22

Dinner Party for my Book Club? (Difficulty Level: Hong Kong)

It's my turn to prepare dinner for my book club, but my challenge is my apartment is way too small to have all 7 members in my home at once. Instead, I'm planning to use a small common space for parties available on the ground floor of my apartment building. This is fine, but it means I will need to carry whatever I make up and down from my apartment in the elevator. Can you help me brainstorm an easy vegetarian starter, main course, and side dish which can be tasty given these conditions? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 10:33 PM PST - 13 comments

Amazon not loading...

I looked at the previous questions about Amazon.com not loading and have tried everything I can think of to try and get it to work. I have flushed my dns cache, deleted my browsing history and cookies, disabled prefetching, and even restarted my router. I even made sure I was using the most up to date chrome. What gives? I am fairly competent with computers, but might need things spelled out for me. Any help would be very much appreciated! Thanks!!
posted by carnivoregiraffe at 9:07 PM PST - 29 comments

US permanent residency through marriage, difficulty: young relationship

I'm in the US on an F-1 visa, finished my Ph.D. and am currently on the post-degree OPT period which expires next May. My girlfriend and I have decided to get married so that I can stay in the country. We're in a bona fide relationship but have only been dating a couple of months, don't live together, and don't have the kinds of documents that most married couples can show to prove their marriage (e.g. joint lease / bank accounts). We’re getting a lawyer, but are also hoping to get some advice here from people who have been through the green card process. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:01 PM PST - 38 comments

Can you think of names like Dr. Spaceman in 30 Rock?

Can you think of names like Dr. Spaceman in 30 Rock? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 8:09 PM PST - 57 comments

Keyboard Driven Games

Looking for computer games that are exclusively or primarily keyboard driven. Difficulty Level: Mac. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by firechicago at 7:55 PM PST - 17 comments

The white, it burns

Please help me change my Twitter background to anything other than plain, boring, bright white. [more inside]
posted by NoraCharles at 7:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Making BIG life decisions unhaphazardly

How do you make prudent, life-altering decisions (specifically, on to stay or move) with your significant other when you have somewhat differing priorities? Can you describe or point us to a process that could provide you a sound, good-for-the-relationship-and-good-for-the-individual's decision? What has worked for you in making the decision? Maybe more importantly, how have you managed the anxiety around making the "right" decision? [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 6:55 PM PST - 13 comments

Do you remember an urban fantasy book set in San Francisco?

I am trying to remember the title of a book I read within the last couple of years, I'm guessing it was published in the last 15 years, although it could have been published earlier. It was an urban fantasy set in San Francisco. There were gods or other supernatural beings vying for control of the city. [more inside]
posted by SandiBeech at 6:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for shortish bedtime reading.

Recommend me your favorite collections of short stories please. [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 6:32 PM PST - 31 comments

Roller Skating with the Least Chance of Death?

Hi! I've just spent way too much time (about 4 hours) online trying to learn which type of skating will hurt less. All information, including this thread, has only told me preferences regarding style and speed, not what will make me go boom less. I care not about speed, performance or dancing in them, only if they can get me to work (much downhill) without dying. [more inside]
posted by Arachnophile at 6:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Will I wake up dead?

At about 10 this morning, I returned home to my (small, 1 bedroom) apartment and found that the gas on my stove had been on since the previous night (probably around 12 hours). I turned off the gas, opened both windows in the apartment, and left for the day. I would like to go home and go to bed, but I would also like to, you know, not die. Do I have anything to be worried about?
posted by i_am_a_fiesta at 5:28 PM PST - 14 comments

Need to recover stuff left behind at last apartment. Landlord is angry.

My last landlord is angry with me. She's withholding my security deposit. There's some important stuff that got left behind in the apartment. How do I get it back? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:14 PM PST - 14 comments

Excruciating foot pain

Hello, I am sitting here in worlds of pain. My left foot is puffy on the top and has needle like stabbing pains radiating from that spot up to my middle toes. I am seeing the doctor tomorrow but does anybody have an idea of what this might be. There is no change in color. I am icing it and taking Tylenol. Is there anything else I should be doing? Thank you
posted by harrietthespy at 4:56 PM PST - 20 comments

Kid-safe news radio needed

I need to find some past news radio segments that 1) are available online, 2) will play continuously for 45-60 minutes, 3) involve no discussion AT ALL of sexual assault or any bad things happening to children, and 4) preferably would not be perceived by a religious conservative as having a strong liberal bent. I've been skimming through NPR's Morning Edition online archives but with all of the migrant crisis news it's hard to find something that I can be reasonably sure would not discuss bad things happening to children. Any ideas? Maybe a past episode of an NPR show that you know meets these criteria, or a kid-safe news program?
posted by quiet coyote at 4:49 PM PST - 10 comments

How to negotiate cost of a gym membership?

There's a gym near my house that I fully intend to join, but the hard sell and the bullshit fees really just irritate me and make me feel like a sucker. Specifically, I am under the impression that these initiation fees are arbitrary and fake, and they don't really need them. How can I get out of it? More details below. [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 4:41 PM PST - 13 comments

Can anyone ID this (probably Eastern European) writing

Can anyone ID this (probably Eastern European) writing and / or hat. [more inside]
posted by Laura_J at 4:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Resources specifically for sons of narcissistic fathers?

Pretty much what it says: post divorce I'm realizing my family of origin issues aren't as dealt with as I'd like. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:08 PM PST - 4 comments

How to lower the position of a floodlight? Is there an adapter?

The house I have has a motion detection floodlight installed (http://amzn.to/1KyAd5N). Unfortunately, the original installation was a bit too high, so most of this floodlight is shadowed by the roof eave. I would like to lower it by about 6 inches. I don't want to change the original circular mount that's in the wall. Is there such a thing as an adapter/pipe that I can install connect to the original circular mount that I can then reattach the floodlight too? (Kind of like a periscope) I'd welcome other solutions - but I'm not very handy.
posted by bluelava at 3:44 PM PST - 5 comments

Not-Terrible Life Skills Videos

I am an instructor at a school, and one of the classes I teach is Life Skills for the high schoolers. We discuss everything from boundaries in relationships to financial literacy to how to change a tire. On Friday, I will be having my first absence, and I wanted to provide a video that is reasonably engaging and not patronizing but also appropriate for tenth graders. [more inside]
posted by superlibby at 3:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Street shoes for contra dance

I'm going to a contra dance this weekend. The hall has wooden floors. I'd prefer to not buy specialized shoes until I decide if I like it. What is a passable kind of women's street shoe that will work well for this?
posted by 1066 at 3:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Christmas Planning: Awesome Toys for bright 2 year old?

What's your best toy(s) recommendation for a bright 2 to 2.5 year old? [more inside]
posted by crayon at 3:22 PM PST - 22 comments

How to say thanks to a neighbour for putting up with our noisy weekend?

Our flooring installation this weekend was both noisier and took longer than I expected. How can we thank our downstairs neighbour for putting up with us? [more inside]
posted by area.man at 3:00 PM PST - 16 comments

How can I limit the current output of my TENS unit to 25 mA?

I recently purchased an EMS 7500 TENS device. The maximum current output is 80–100 mA. How can I limit the maximum current to approximately 25 mA instead, even if the intensity dial were to be turned all the way up? [more inside]
posted by rbw at 2:17 PM PST - 8 comments

Brushes for my new beloved CREAM contour palette

I have the Anastasia Beverly Hills Cream Contour Palette. What makeup brushes do I use? [more inside]
posted by discopolo at 2:12 PM PST - 7 comments

What, if anything, can I get for my laptop?

I have a 15" non-Retina mid 2012 MBP. What can I get for it, who would buy it, and how should I sell it? Or should I? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 1:56 PM PST - 10 comments

Are there any foods I might be lacking that could help with my sleep?

I am in my mid twenties, eat pretty healthily and exercise regularly, but I wonder if there's any food(s) that I don't include in my diet that could help with my sleep. (There's a bit to write on my diet, so I have written that on the extended page.) [more inside]
posted by sockpim at 1:49 PM PST - 16 comments

Headphone jack dead after upgrade to Ubuntu 14.04

I recently installed Ubuntu 14.04 on a Toshiba laptop and now the headphone jack isn't working. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 1:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me get a modem/router combo compaitble with WOWWAY?

Here is the list of compatible modems for wowway. I want a combo modem/router. How do I know which one to get? Our internet is 110 down, 15 up speed, and we want docsis 3.0. Most of the ones one the list don't seem to be combos?
posted by crawltopslow at 1:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Plimsoll line

I'm thinking of getting a Plimsoll line tattoo. Does this symbol have any other connotations I should know about? [more inside]
posted by roll truck roll at 1:28 PM PST - 6 comments

What is your favorite website for buying posters and/or prints?

I'm looking for some new posters and/or prints to liven up my new apartment. Are there any good sites out there? I'm interested in modern art, maybe something with a vintage feel to it like this. I don't want to spend a ton of money, but for the right decoration, I'm willing to invest some dough. Thanks for your suggestions!
posted by Fister Roboto at 1:23 PM PST - 7 comments

What preparation (for the winter) is required for a gas boiler?

What regular maintenance / preparation for the winter is required for a gas fired boiler (forced air)? Is there a need to call a professional?
posted by r2d2 at 1:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Supportive relationships in fiction

I was inspired by previous threads that asked for illustrations of healthy relationships. I am asking now for illustrations of fruitful mentor/mentee-type relationships (especially among equals, as opposed to parent/child or teacher/student). [more inside]
posted by Don Don at 12:18 PM PST - 13 comments

negotiating a job offer, what should I be making? Nonprofit

Hello Hive Mind- I am asking for advice about negotiating a job offer. This Is my first big girl job, and I have been told that I should try and negotiate my salary, I have never done this before. The position is in the nonprofit field, located in New York City, and is at the senior program manager level. I do not know what I should be asking for. I looked on glassdoor, but the organization is not listed, and this is in the nonprofit field, any advice? [more inside]
posted by TRUELOTUS at 12:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Waterproof shoes for a preschooler

My rapidly-growing preschooler needs new shoes for fall and winter. [more inside]
posted by stowaway at 12:16 PM PST - 22 comments

La Commedia è finita - can the music go on?

So, dealing with the many ins and outs of caring for an ailing grandfather who's on his way out, I've come across one problem that the green might have an answer to. Said grandfather has been an audiophile all of his life and his front room is full of records and cds of opera, symphonies, concertos, cantatas, greatest hits of individual singers, etc. Is there anything we can do now so that his beloved music collection can go somewhere other than the trash when he dies? [more inside]
posted by theweasel at 12:10 PM PST - 7 comments

German Military Industrial Resources During WWII

If Germany didn't expend resources on perpetrating the crimes of the Holocaust would there have been a significant impact on the outcome of WWII in Europe? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 12:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Boyfriend's drinking problem has become uncontrollable. Can't deal.

He now drinks every day without fail --when we first met, he only drank every once in awhile but it was something he did to relax. Now in my perspective, it's gotten out of control because we decided to move into a new place where we both are on the lease. All conversations have ended in a screaming match and him telling me I no longer have any power because we share a lease. I don't know if I can continue on like this, what do I do? [more inside]
posted by camylanded at 11:49 AM PST - 31 comments

Canadian check to US bank. What's the procedure?

I'm a Canadian. I had to pay an Amercian $1000.00 US. A check for approx $1300.00 CAD (the additional $300.00 covered the currency exchange) from our Canadian bank was sent to the American. When over $1700.00 was withdrawn from our account, we discovered that the American had written "US Funds. Not Canadian." on the check before she cashed it, essentially stealing over $400.00. [more inside]
posted by davebush at 11:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Paging the physical scientists ...

As I now know, my TDI is emitting 40x more NOx than the EPA allows. NOx is a major contributor to smog and asthma exacerbation. How much of this stuff hangs around my house? [more inside]
posted by Dashy at 10:52 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I birb?

I am becoming a bird nerd, and am looking for ways to learn more! But there is SO MUCH, please help me find some good resources. [more inside]
posted by bibliogrrl at 9:52 AM PST - 14 comments

Checking a bike on an Amtrak

Has anyone successfully checked a bicycle on a long distance train (the Crescent) at New York Penn? [more inside]
posted by thecaddy at 9:49 AM PST - 9 comments

quick! should I go home and check on my dog?

Today is my new dog's first day home alone. Should I go home and visit during my lunch break? [more inside]
posted by cakelite at 9:27 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I enjoy winter biking in Chicago?

I tried biking through the Chicago winter in the past, and was just miserable. How can I make it enjoyable? [more inside]
posted by Squid Voltaire at 9:11 AM PST - 26 comments

Spotify vs. iTunes vs. Rdio vs. Google Play vs. Tidal vs....

I’m willing to spend $10 / month on ad-free streaming music. My casual searching has yielded few really thorough comparisons of the different services. Have you done an in-depth comparison, are you aware of tools for doing an in-depth comparison (say, by checking specific catalog entries via APIs), or can you connect me to an in-depth comparison of the different platforms, their content, and their pros and cons? Thanks!
posted by Going To Maine at 9:09 AM PST - 11 comments

What is the best email for zipcar for a refund of a taxi fare?

I got a zipcar that I had to abandon 3 km into a trip due to a dangerous issue with the car. When I eventually managed to report it, arrange for it to be picked up, etc, I was told that I could get my taxi fare home refunded if I emailed in my receipt, but what is the right email? [more inside]
posted by lesbiassparrow at 8:18 AM PST - 5 comments

Changing the name of my LLC in New Jersey. Simple Enough?

About 15 years ago, I started an LLC in New Jersey for a few of my business ventures. Over that the last decade and a half, I feel I have outgrown the name as it no longer represents who I am as a person nor how I want my entities to be seen.... [more inside]
posted by TwilightKid at 8:17 AM PST - 4 comments

I am not the customer service process!

How do I tell my customer that we have a customer service process that we stick to and that I am not, cannot and will not be that process no matter how much they want to fight it? [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 8:06 AM PST - 14 comments

Can you recommend a sci-fi book I'll actually enjoy?

I was more in to sci fi as a kid, and now every time I try to get in to a book, I find it unbearable. I'd like some recommendations for books that are more like The Road and less like, say, Wool. Can you recommend books to me? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 7:57 AM PST - 67 comments

Where to get a reputable back/shoulder waxing in Manhattan?

I'm a guy and I want a waxing. Two-part question: (1) Do I have to be careful where I get this done, or can I go to any old place? (2) If I need to go somewhere reliable, any recommendations in Manhattan?
posted by chameleon at 7:50 AM PST - 9 comments

Is air travel safer than it was 5 years ago?

What advancements/improvements, technological or otherwise, have been made over the last 5 years to make commercial air travel safer? [more inside]
posted by alligatorman at 7:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Teaching English with a CELTA as a career?

My job prospects back home (in the US) are not looking good. I taught English in South Korea for three years, and now I'm thinking of heading back to somewhere in Asia to teach English again. This time, however, I'd like to do it for real by getting a CELTA and finding a "real job" as opposed to the dead-end hagwon stuff I did in Korea. How realistic is this plan? [more inside]
posted by EmptyEmpire at 7:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Foodie Restaurant Recommendations in Portland.

My husband and I will be heading to Portland this week. We visited a couple years ago and had some amazing food thanks to some recommendations from Portland MeFites. We'd love some updated recommendations for where to eat over the next couple days! [more inside]
posted by This Guy at 7:04 AM PST - 17 comments

ADHD'ers! Help me get a full night's sleep!

It's a common problem, right? What works to help ADHD'ers get to sleep? It seems like the normal things you see via studies aren't effective for me. [more inside]
posted by MMALR at 6:58 AM PST - 18 comments

The Cats Needs to Move

We are thrilled with our new apartment, but concerned about how to create fun times for our cats. In the old place, where they both "grew up", the cats would race up and down the stairs and play all kinds of games on the banister. Now that we're in a place without stairs, what can we do (or build) that will allow them to enjoy life and expend their frisky energy? [more inside]
posted by Gray Skies at 6:49 AM PST - 10 comments

Are there career counselor that can help me downgrade my job?

Are there career counselors that can help me transition out of a white collar IT job to perhaps a blue-ish collar or non-corporate job? [more inside]
posted by Tubesox at 6:47 AM PST - 2 comments

Stop. Pooping.

Help me with my time-sensitive medical question? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 at 6:16 AM PST - 14 comments

Please advise about this guy I am stuck on

Hello I am a lady in her late 30s and until 3 weeks ago, in a long-term relationship (12 years). We were not married and had no kids, and lived together for a decade. My ex and I shared a deep understanding, laughs and interests, and I thought this was enough until I met a younger guy a few months ago, for whom I immediately felt a crazy infatuation. [more inside]
posted by muppets at 4:53 AM PST - 17 comments

Pregnant and Listeria Anxiety?

You are not my doctor, but perhaps you can help me anyway. I'm 17 weeks pregnant; two weeks ago, I had a low fever, sudden vomiting (in the absence of any previous morning sickness), and some flu-like symptoms. My doctor gave me IV fluids and sent me home. Now I'm worried I had listeria. Help? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 4:01 AM PST - 10 comments

enrolling mid-semester in arty teen NYC workshops?

I am looking for extra-curricular art, creative writing or drama or dance classes for teenagers in New York City that have a rolling admission schedule OR that begin in late October/early November. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 3:34 AM PST - 0 comments

"this is why i'll never be an adult"

I have a problem with going to bed early/on time, because late night is my me-time. I have no other time during the day that I can devote entirely to myself the way I can late at night. But I am regularly going to bed too late and it's lessening the amount I can get out of the next day. Please help me balance these conflicting priorities. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:49 AM PST - 27 comments

How do I cope with being the estranged one?

Today my sibling has decided to cut ties with me. I am devastated and at an utter loss on how to handle some of the finer social details. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:43 AM PST - 19 comments

I know my counselor experienced a recent loss. What to do?

I saw on social media that my therapist's mother died on Saturday. However, she has confirmed our appointment for the day after tomorrow. I am quite sad about her loss. She doesn't know I look at her social media, and it is probably not appropriate to say anything about her personal life at any rate. How do I go to session two days from now and talk about my petty problems, knowing what she is going through? Is it inappropriate for me to be very upset about this loss in my therapist's life, that I'm not supposed to know about?
posted by anonymous at 1:43 AM PST - 14 comments

Eating disorder recovery

What is the line between being health conscious or anxious about body image/food consumption and having an eating disorder? If you are in recovery from an eating disorder, how do you know when you are lapsing? What would be the best way to offer support? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Where to stay during a job in Valencia, Spain?

Can you help my fiancee figure out where (geographically) to look for lodging for a seven-week gig in Valencia? [more inside]
posted by qbject at 1:27 AM PST - 2 comments

September 21

don't you feel like cryin, don't you feel like cryin

I'm going as drunk, pajama-clad Gaby Teller for halloween! But I'm sad that I can't remotely afford her sunglasses, which are House of Holland's Annice. Please help. [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 10:42 PM PST - 4 comments

Great, detailed "how this one thing works" books for kids

My 3.5 year old nephew adores Brian Floca's book Locomotive. I know he enjoys trains, but I'm curious if he might like books on other, non-transportation subjects, but still super detailed about parts, what they're for, and how they work. For example, has anyone made a similarly detailed children's book about how sewing machines work? Or elevators? Or computers?
posted by ocherdraco at 8:41 PM PST - 16 comments

An instant messenger that does it all!

My friends and I are sick of Skype, and need a new instant messenger for our RP group. It needs to be mobile friendly, capable of group voice calls (and preferably video), and it needs to keep an archive of all text messages. Is there something out there we haven't heard of yet? (Complications under the cut.) [more inside]
posted by HypotheticalWoman at 8:36 PM PST - 6 comments

Tomorrow, tomorrow, tomorrow, creeps in this petty Hobbit hole...

Looking for entertaining Shakespeare movies with correct, quotable dialogue. [more inside]
posted by Vaike at 8:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me name a MN theatre information resource project!

I need a name for my project! It will be an information resource helping people find great independent local theatre in the Minneapolis/St. Paul metro based on past experiences they've enjoyed.
posted by kitarra at 8:17 PM PST - 5 comments

UCLA had a data breach - should I sign up wth its solution?

UCLA had a data breach - should I sign up wth its solution? The solution is a thing called idexpertscorp.com. Has anyone else dealt with this concern?
posted by goofyfoot at 7:43 PM PST - 4 comments

Is the fourth episode of Mr. Robot representative?

So we've been catching up with Mr. Robot, and we watched Ep. 1.3 (fourth one) last night. I'm trying to avoid spoilers, but I'm afraid we're in for six more hours of cut-happy tripped-out dream sequences. [more inside]
posted by five toed sloth at 7:39 PM PST - 8 comments

The Case of the Sticky Mezzuzah

I put a ceramic mezzuzah with a peel-off adhesive strip on my daughter's door and discovered, too late, that it had a very strong adhesive. Now I am moving, and would like to remove the mezzuzah without damaging the paint on the door. How best to proceed? The move is next week, so solutions that take time are OK, as long as they don't also take a lot of effort.
posted by ubiquity at 7:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Why am I unwilling to try sex things that would make my boyfriend happy?

My boyfriend and I are in our early twenties. He would like some things out of sex and related things that I do not want to do. Given everything I explain below, I would certainly understand if my boyfriend didn't want to be in a relationship with me anymore. I feel bad for not even wanting to try these things when they would make him happy and when it could mean throwing the relationship away. Why do I feel so unwilling to try these things? [more inside]
posted by SillyEvelina at 7:05 PM PST - 35 comments

Quickbooks Online or Xero?

Help me decide which kind of small business, cloud-based accounting software is best for a free-lancer. [more inside]
posted by zagyzebra at 6:40 PM PST - 5 comments

Read to me classic stories of horror.

This Halloween, I'm going to bake myself a Halloween cake, light some candles, turn the lights off, and listen to recordings of classic horror stories read by masters of the form. Need to beef up the story list! [more inside]
posted by Sheydem-tants at 6:04 PM PST - 16 comments

Removed above ground pool; what to do about the ground?

Just removed a 16x24 foot Doughboy pool. Underneath is 2-3 inches of sand and some very fragile black plastic sheeting. I would like to add some soil and till all that stuff into the ground. May I, internet? I'm in Central Texas and my soils is rocky and poor.
posted by kristymcj at 5:30 PM PST - 4 comments

I wuv you kitty *sniff sniff*

We have adopted two kittens, yay. I've had the sniffles almost the whole time we've had them. Halp. [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome at 5:22 PM PST - 29 comments

What are some expressions in French for nose picking?

Asking for banter purposes.
posted by wensink at 5:19 PM PST - 9 comments

A is for allergies

How can I be (reasonably) sure my child with serious food allergies is safe in daycare? What should I expect of the center staff? [more inside]
posted by imanastasia at 5:12 PM PST - 12 comments

Best Season of Survivor?

I want to start watching Survivor again having quit at Season 16. Which season do you recommend I should watch? [more inside]
posted by Secret Life of Gravy at 4:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Do you do share housework or do it all as a stay-at-home parent?

I'm a full-time mom of two children, one who is in school and one in preschool 2.5 hours a day. I'm trying to keep the house clean by myself, but am wondering- what works for you if you're also a stay-at-home parent? Do you do it all yourself or does your spouse help? What kinds of tasks do you share if you do share the housework? [more inside]
posted by percor at 4:14 PM PST - 23 comments

Ipad video recovery

6 year old deleted an important video from an ipad that had not been backed up. The video is not on icloud and the ipad doesn't have a "recently deleted" album. Free software options couldn't find it. I would pay a lot of money to get this video back. Is there software that's considered better than the rest?
posted by Nickel at 4:07 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me find the ideal black t-shirt dress

I like to have a very straightforward wardrobe with versatile comfortable clothes that can go with a lot of different outfits. To that end I have decided that I want to acquire the perfect black t-shirt dress. But of course there are specific needs (detailed below the fold). [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 4:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Don't tell me what to do

What are some good men's style blogs for someone who hates most men's style blogs? [more inside]
posted by invitapriore at 3:57 PM PST - 8 comments

(do not) be exelon to each other

I have questions about this article which I found after receiving a letter from Exelon, our electric utility, warning of a price hike starting June 2016. What is PJM Interconnection and who controls it? Why are electric bills only rising a few dollars a month if the cost of a megawatt-day will more than double? Have 'ratepayers' been getting a deal until now or are we now overpaying for capacity assurance (is it assured)? Any explanation you can give is appreciated.
posted by michaelh at 3:48 PM PST - 6 comments

What are your favorite quotable lyrics?

"But if you try sometimes well you might find you get what you need..." I need chunks of lyrics that you quote all the time. Or, at least, quotable lyrics. Bonus points if they're easily drawn or visualized. Double bonus points if they're on self-discovery & empowerment with a bit of life is good thrown in for good measure. [more inside]
posted by imbri at 3:21 PM PST - 59 comments

reviews on Amazon in exchange for free/discounted products

Product reviews on Amazon reviews have been very helpful in choosing and researching options for everything from fish oil supplements for dogs to baby swaddles to windshield wiper blades. It's always been fairly easy to tell obviously fake reviews and mentally discount those from the bigger picture, or see the extreme highs and extreme lows offering a certain kind of perspective that may or may not apply to my own decisions. The Vine program was a bit annoying at first, but since the reviewers were generally chosen for writing helpful reports, their reviews were often quite helpful and contained information missing from the product descriptions. But recently it seems like there are SO many reviews by non-Vine folks who include a variation on the line, "I received this product at a discount in exchange for my writing a honest review." It is obvious why the manufacturers or distributors want to get more reviews, but does Amazon condone this kind of review? Why have they suddenly been popping up even more? [more inside]
posted by barnone at 3:04 PM PST - 14 comments

Canadian tax accountant recommendations

Past-aurynn left me in a a situation where I need to file back taxes in Canada, and I'd like professional support in order to get this sorted correctly. Wrinkle: I'm now a Canadian expat living in New Zealand. Does anyone have good recommendations for Alberta-knowledgable tax accountants, who are responsive to email, that could help me out?
posted by aurynn at 2:42 PM PST - 1 comment

How do we make our Senior Center computer room the envy of the world?

I work at a senior center and we received a grant to create a computer room with 7 brand new PCs running Windows with touch screens and internet access. Awesome! The room, computers and internet access are up and running now but we’ve hit a wall with figuring out what software and/or websites we should purchase or make available. [more inside]
posted by victoriab at 2:38 PM PST - 11 comments

GoPro - Cheaper Alternative

Ok...So I want a GoPro but not the gopro price. No im not a extreme sports person nor am I a vlogger. I just want a small camera that I can take to festivals, float the river, out by the pool concerts, etc... and have unique views. I also like the time lapse photo options. What recommendations do you have? Im looking for something that will work with the gopro accessories and the gopro studio. I found one while i was researching what was out there now I cant seem to find it. Another option that would be cool is I know on the gopro is the ability to use an external mic.
posted by flipmiester99 at 1:53 PM PST - 11 comments

What is the word for this kind of violence?

I feel like there is a word for the type of violence in movies and TV that is indeed violence, but isn't all that disturbing. My Google skills haven't come up with much. [more inside]
posted by reshet at 1:45 PM PST - 17 comments

Canadian passport photos in Seattle

I'd like to get my passport photos taken in Seattle. The complication is that they need to meet dimensions required for a Canadian passport. Camera shops are mostly out of business, and FedEx and UPS offices can only take pictures meeting US passport dimensions (they print out to 2" x 2", and are too small). Per instructions, I am not allowed to take them myself. Do I have any other reliable and inexpensive options available in the Seattle area?
posted by a lungful of dragon at 12:39 PM PST - 21 comments

Wireless piano

Experiments with MakeyMakey have led me to dive deep into the Maker World. I'm trying to develop a completely wireless version of a project I developed and I'm not sure if I'm going in the right direction. [more inside]
posted by calcetina at 12:31 PM PST - 2 comments

Are atheists, in fact, responsible for more mass murder than theists?

I'm an atheist trying to take the question of secular morality in society seriously. In debates about whether a secular society is better than a religious one, theists often allude to Stalin, Mao, Pol Pot, etc -- the mass murders of the 20th century who were motivated by secular beliefs. Are theists right that atheists killed more people in the 20th century than religious leaders did? What notable examples of this exist, besides the three mentioned above? [more inside]
posted by everythingyoudoisaballoon at 12:25 PM PST - 27 comments

Residential treatment for bulimia: Did it help you?

A reticent doctor doesn't want to refer me to residential treatment for my bulimia, claiming that bulimic patients are not usually treated this way, and arguing that it's nothing more than expensive housing. Did it help you? [more inside]
posted by mmmleaf at 12:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Mental Health & Law Resources Sacramento California

A friend's 30 year old son has been placed on a 72 hour psychiatric hold in Sacramento California. She is not questioning the validity or necessity of that--his history of mental illness is varied and documented. However, he is insistent she find him a lawyer and she asked me for help. [more inside]
posted by LeeloDallasMultiSocks at 11:39 AM PST - 4 comments

tasty multivitamin please

I was in Australia recently and they had a multivitamin I was actually willing to use daily and it was awesome! I hear they have tablet --> beverage multivitamins in Brazil, too. So I'm looking for a tasty multivitamin. Like Berocca, but available in the USA. [more inside]
posted by aniola at 11:34 AM PST - 15 comments

who out there homeschooled in high school and got into college?

Hello, Have any of you been homeschooled in high school, and then went on to apply for college? I'm looking for details on how you applied for college, that is, did you take the ACT or SAT and how did that go for you? Did you dual enroll, so that the colleges could see some actual grades, or did you just send in a portfolio with lists of books you read, book reports, or essays you wrote? [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 11:12 AM PST - 10 comments

How do I stop living my life around work?

I can't seem to stop working and have a huge insecurity around money. This is destroying my life. I'd like some ideas on how to stop this. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:49 AM PST - 11 comments

How to choose between several internship options in a graduate program

I am currently doing a two-year M.A. program at a European university, and soon I have to choose between three options for a 10-week internship to begin next quarter. I want to choose the internship that will best set me up to be a competitive Ph.D. candidate, but it's hard to make a decision between options that each have their own pros and cons. What criteria should I use or what aspects of the programs should I give the most weight to when making this decision? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:49 AM PST - 1 comment

Smoking cessation

What's the latest and greatest on smoking cessation aids/programs? What, if anything, is known to be the best approach to stopping smoking assuming the person, a chain smoker, wants to do it?
posted by Dragonness at 10:10 AM PST - 34 comments

Will my boyfriend ever love me?

My wonderful boyfriend of 1.5 years cares deeply for me and sees a future for us, but does not love me. Do I wait? [more inside]
posted by byhp at 9:35 AM PST - 73 comments

Is it normal for strangers in the USA (SF) to comment on clothes?

Just trying to understand my experience last week in SF. I received repeated, unsolicited comments while walking around town, related to my clothing. Is this normal? Is it just people being friendly? [more inside]
posted by andrewcooke at 9:32 AM PST - 45 comments

Is it Creepy to Look Up Church Visitors on Facebook?

I am on the membership committee of my church, and once a week we get a report, complete with full names/emails if provided, of visitors who've signed in. Often, this make them easy to find on Facebook. Sometimes they share mutual friends with me or other members on the committee. Lots of other committees get that email also. My question is: would you find it creepy if someone from a church you visited sent you a FB friend request afterwards? [more inside]
posted by emjaybee at 9:16 AM PST - 26 comments

Help me replace my girlfriend's favourite smiley heart t-shirt

Whilst in LA recently my girlfriend bought this t-shirt of a smiley heart face. She loves it, but it got ruined in transit. She is unhappy. Can you help us find it again? [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 8:46 AM PST - 5 comments

Flashcards for ASL

I am looking for a good, large, usable, reliable set of ASL flashcards, and want recommendations from real human learners (or, ideally, fluent signers) rather than from Google. My ideal format would be video, but I'll use pictures if there's a compelling reason to. I know about video dictionaries online, but I would rather not resort to screen-scraping one myself. [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone at 8:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Restaurant Recommendations: Burlington, VT Edition

I'll be in Burlington, VT on Tuesday/Wednesday night for work and need some restaurant recommendations! [more inside]
posted by mayonnaises at 8:17 AM PST - 8 comments

Well..uh…I pack heavy?

I’m on a business trip in a couple of days, and am flying and car pooling with a person who is a proud ‘carry-on only’ type, who openly mocks those who check luggage. I think I’m going to have to check a bag. I think ½ the broader team will check, but I might be the only one in this person’s car that does. I can't switch cars. This individual is high ranking, and while I don’t report to them now, I could in the future. They are generally regarded as a kind person, good boss etc, outside of this issue. Looking for suggestions for "come-backs" or other ways to diffuse any verbal attack that could be coming my way, without making the situation worse. Maybe humor?
posted by walkinginsunshine at 7:52 AM PST - 59 comments

How would you learn a dialect (Shanghainese) w/few learning resources?

So right now I am learning Mandarin, and that is my primary goal. It's coming along fine, and as Mandarin has plenty of foreign learners, there are a lot of really great learning resources (and I have a tutor I work with as well). My learning goals for Mandarin are ambitious, and that isn't going to change. THAT SAID, my girlfriend's family does speak Mandarin, but their first language is definitely shanghainese. While my eventual goals with shanghainese are more modest than with Mandarin -- be able to chat around the house with her family -- it's also a lot less clear to me how to achieve it. [more inside]
posted by wooh at 7:07 AM PST - 14 comments

Looking good. Wait, no. Looking polished.

What "finishing touches" really pull together your look? What do you do (and what resources do you use) when you start to feel bored with your wardrobe, makeup or hair, and just need some inspiration? And what do you do to seal the deal and look "put together" if not "polished"? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 6:54 AM PST - 28 comments

One neat trick to dismiss Kim Davis' asshole bigotry

For some reason my mom decided it would be a great idea to let her married, lesbian daughter know that even though she supports gay marriage, she "sees Kim Davis'" point of view and thinks she should have the right to a religious exemption, or that she should "have the right" to keep her job because "the rules of her job changed". I was shocked in the moment and don't feel like I explained the case well. Now I'm looking for one good, objective resource that will explain this situation better. [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 6:15 AM PST - 18 comments

Cell Phone Options for a trip to South Korea.

In October, I will be taking my first ever trip out of the United States, traveling to Incheon, South Korea. I have an unlocked Google/Motorola Nexus 6 activated on Verizon. What are my best options for keeping in touch with my family back home when I am over there? Can I just buy a SIM when I get there? [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 5:47 AM PST - 1 comment

Tell me about pregnancy in your country.

I'm pregnant, and I've read a range of US-centric books about being pregnant/having a baby. I'm now curious to look at resources about pregnancy in other countries. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 3:50 AM PST - 23 comments

UK Remortgage to remove ex-partner problems question!

I currently have a mortgage and for the last two years since I split with my partner have paid it on my own perfectly well. It is time for us to remove my ex from the mortgage but cant seem to due to a bit of negative equity. Can anyone suggest what to do next? [more inside]
posted by aqueousdan at 2:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Perfect hen's party gift/surprise for a non-traditional bride-to-be

Hen's party which isn't a hen's party because the bride-to-be isn't keen on a hen's party. So we've dubbed it a 'ladies lunch'. There will be much drinking of wine, eating of food, and laughing our butts off. Her work colleagues want to do something special for her. Gift or experience or... something? We're at a loss. [more inside]
posted by malibustacey9999 at 1:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Best free video to iPod converter?

I have video files in various formats and want to put them on my iPod touch. I have upwards of 40 hours on airplanes looming in my near future and those hours will go much faster if I can watch delightful TV shows and engaging movie content. [more inside]
posted by Joseph Gurl at 1:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Yellow residue on plug

I bought a Waterpik about three years ago but never took it out of the box until tonight. There is a recessed port with two brass-colored prongs at the base of the device, for charging. Upon inspection, I discovered that the prongs were covered in weird gunk. [more inside]
posted by delight at 12:21 AM PST - 2 comments

September 20

How do I pants?

I am a mid-30s lady, and I have recently realized that jeans are not comfortable and I don't want to wear them anymore, but I'm not sure what to replace them with. Help me figure out where to shop and what to shop for! [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 8:01 PM PST - 19 comments

Good food to cook together...from afar

What are some kid- and leftover-friendly meal ideas for a group of people across the US to make together, in two or fewer hours, with ingredients that are readily available and high-quality? [more inside]
posted by bloggerwench at 7:43 PM PST - 7 comments

How can I move my life forward?

I feel like my life is in a standstill and I’m going nowhere and I don’t know how to change that. Do I need therapy or a swift kick in the butt? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 5:32 PM PST - 18 comments

Looking for dark pedal steel guitar

I really like a certain (non-distorted) electric guitar sound which makes use of pitch bend (often pedal steel, but sometimes just a tremolo bar) to create a gothic/apocalyptic mood. It's often heavily reverbed, giving the overall impression that the band is playing wasted at the bottom of a cistern. I'd like to find more songs like this. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 5:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Experiences with LipiFlow dry eye procedure?

Would anyone be willing to share experiences, positive or otherwise, with the LipiFlow massage/heat treatment for dry eye? I've found everything I can that's Googleable & would love to know if the Hive has found it useful. It's certainly intriguing. Thanks.
posted by mintcake! at 5:17 PM PST - 1 comment

Internet Only @ Comcast - Strategies to lower price?

I have internet for emailing and streaming Netflix or casting via Chromecast. I don't have a huge TV so picture quality isn't super high on my list. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom at 5:04 PM PST - 17 comments

What are your best quotes/proverbs re: working hard & keeping focused?

Repeating simple mantras help me stay focused, and I need some new quotes to store in my mental arsenal. They should be applicable to office work that requires multi-tasking, thinking through complex ideas, dealing with many people, communicating well, and working quickly and efficiently. What are your best ones?
posted by watrlily at 4:44 PM PST - 25 comments

Wedding gift for disconnected relative

Need a gift for a couple in their 40s that appears thoughtful, though clearly it isn't as I need it this week. [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 4:35 PM PST - 35 comments

Recommendation for car detailing service to deal w/ swirl marks on hood

Recently bought a used 2013 car, black in color. It has a lot of cleaning/swirl marks, especially on the hood (no doubt from repeated sub-par cleaning by the previous owner). Can people recommend a service or shop that knows what to do to remove the micro scratches or at least improve this condition, and can do it well, at a reasonable price, in the Los Angeles area (preferrably either City of Industry, Hacienda Heights, or Pasadena)? [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie at 4:18 PM PST - 1 comment

Want to reactivate Flickr account. Need Yahoo password?

So I want start using my Flickr account again, but have forgotten the password to Yahoo, which is used by Flickr. Even better, my rarely ever used yahoo account goes to an email address that I deleted years ago. Is there any way I can recover this account? I haven't used Yahoo in years. Bonus point: My iPhone still remembers the Yahoo mail account and can use the account just fine. Is there any way I can get the password from the phone?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 4:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Or Should I Dishwash...?

In my still desperate quest for gainful employment, this is an another option I am pondering... Once again, I have absolutely zero experience here. Tell me about the life of a dishwasher! [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer at 3:52 PM PST - 25 comments

How to focus on the things you want to do when your SO is around

I have a couple of good habits I'm working on instilling in myself (exercising and working on my art), but I never seem to have the time or energy when my SO is in town. What strategies do you use to carve out time for yourself? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 3:44 PM PST - 10 comments

Dealing with abusive former collaborator who runs in same social circles

My close professional relationship with a man ended badly because he was abusive towards me and I finally couldn’t take it anymore. He's blown up over tiny things, yelled at me until I cried, made inappropriate sexual advances, etc. He’s done this to at least 5 different women, but nobody wants to talk about it openly. [more inside]
posted by doodletoo at 3:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Checking .doc formatting between OSX/Windows

I'm trying to upload a word document with significant text formatting to a website that will only accept .doc and .docx. The problem is, I'm on a Mac and I know from experience that my formatting is likely to get horribly messed up if viewed in Windows. Is there some way to check how my document will look on a Windows machine without actually having access to Microsoft Word on a Windows machine?
posted by Dante Riordan at 3:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Ouch and ouch.

I'm a woman and I have occasional pain in the area of my lower left back and what might be my left ovary and reproductive areas in general. I haven't gone to my doctor about it because the symptoms seem kind of vague, but darnit, it hurts. What information should I give her? (And do you have any ideas about what's going on?) [more inside]
posted by kutsushita nyanko at 3:13 PM PST - 16 comments

A hot date with a ball of wool?

I enjoy knitting while watching TV. I sometimes enjoy watching TV or a movie with an SO. Sometimes I like doing those things together. Is this going to be a problem in most relationships? How do I find someone who wouldn't be weirded out by that? [more inside]
posted by blerghamot at 2:10 PM PST - 51 comments

Help me find resources to learn about my new home in Washington state.

Two years ago, we moved from Maryland to Seattle, WA, but I still feel like I don't know very much about my new home. Ideally, I'm looking for the "here's what you should have learned in 6th grade" level overview of local history and common knowledge. (I might get into deeper history later, but right now I just want to not feel like such a tourist)
posted by mboszko at 1:35 PM PST - 10 comments

Movies with the best fight scenes

I'm in the mood for a good action film with great fight scenes, if the story is also good, the better but I'll watch it primarily for the violence and choreography. That said, I'm not overly fond of the Jackie Chan-style kind of comedy action or those eastern martial arts films with this peculiar brand of Kung Fu with ropes and flying. And it is essential that you can actually see whats happening, not these insanely fast cuts. [more inside]
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 12:57 PM PST - 47 comments

Please help me compose an email after disappearing on a client

I work as a freelancer, but this summer I experienced a major health issue as well as a major depressive episode. I'm very ashamed of the fact that I couldn't cope and I disappeared on my client. Please help me compose an apology email. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Grad school spring admissions and fear of missing out

Are there significant drawbacks to starting a grad school program in the spring as opposed to the fall? [more inside]
posted by Jess the Mess at 12:15 PM PST - 10 comments

To compare saying "brownie" to saying the n-word IS racist, sorry...

Coworker wouldn't acknowledge that she said the words "brownie" or "nigger" in the first place. That was a few months ago and the tension making those comments created hasn't gotten better. [more inside]
posted by human ecologist at 12:06 PM PST - 8 comments

Ancient Greek Inscription help needed

We are painting a 40-foot mural for a children's swimming pool. It will (sort of inevitably) include Atlantis themes, and we want to include a little joke in the form of an Ancient Greek inscription that says something like "always blow your bubbles" (something the instructors are always telling the little kids as part of their swimming instruction). Can you help translate this into the correct glyphs? Would be nice if it could avoid being translatable as "never stop farting" but one cannot have everything, I know ;)
posted by aesop at 11:48 AM PST - 6 comments

Civil Engineering in Europe

Me: 1 year of experience as a civil engineer in the US. You: have some familiarity with the civil engineering industry in western Europe. Tell me everything you know! [more inside]
posted by moss free at 11:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Seeking "Hyperbrain" Books/Films: Chiang's "Understand", Lucy, Limitless

If I greatly enjoyed Ted Chiang's "Understand", Lucy, Flowers for Algernon and Limitless, what other works along the same "superintelligence", "hyperbrain" or "gifted with superhuman intelligence amongst a world of normal people" theme would I enjoy? [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 11:32 AM PST - 23 comments

Will I regret the iPhone 6s+?

It's phone upgrade time and I'm looking to switch out my 5S for the 6s+. I'm really excited about the larger battery life but am concerned that it's too huge for daily use. Am I better off getting the 6s? [more inside]
posted by touareg at 11:14 AM PST - 19 comments

Tour Guides for Angkor Wat and Kuala Lumpur

We're heading to Cambodia on holiday in 6 weeks or so. We have 3-4 days to spend at Angor Wat and would like recommendations for tour guides. Any additional tips that you may have about Angor Wat, Phnom Penh and KL also welcome.
posted by Jakey at 11:05 AM PST - 4 comments

Should I paint the old lady?

I'm thinking about painting my brick house. Thoughts, opinions and past experiences needed please... [more inside]
posted by pearlybob at 11:04 AM PST - 15 comments

Need Apartment in Blacksburg VA, near Tech - Urgent!

Looking for a small apartment within walking / biking distance of VA Tech campus. No roommates, ground floor preferred. My SO is still undergoing treatment for brain cancer, and needs a quiet spot to resume/continue her studies. [more inside]
posted by PlantGoddess at 10:51 AM PST - 3 comments

How to deal with neck aging?

I'm not really sure what to call this since it's not wrinkles or sagging.... it's just... easier to see the muscles underneath my skin? [more inside]
posted by manderin at 9:52 AM PST - 8 comments

Nuzzle-proof sleeping mask. Difficulty level: tiny head.

I'm pretty light sensitive, so I often sleep with an eye mask if I want to be able to sleep in at all. Unfortunately, I also tend to burrow into my pillow or worm along the bed in my sleep, and my eye mask inevitably falls off in the night, removing the entire purpose of wearing one. Does an eye mask exist that will stick to my eyes even if I roll around in my sleep? [more inside]
posted by sciatrix at 9:22 AM PST - 13 comments

substitute for Evernote?

I have tried and failed to get Evernote working on my iMac or other Apple devices, so I am looking for a substitute. [more inside]
posted by uans at 8:56 AM PST - 15 comments

Ladies work shoes that can pass as business casual

I work in events for a restaurant. Mostly, this involves office work or sit-down client consultations. Our business casual dress code gives me flexibility for what kind of shoes I can wear. I typically wear black leather low-heeled pumps. (Clark's is a brand I favor.) Semi-regularly, though, my work necessitates me being on my feet all day to manage events personally. On these days, I am in and out of the kitchen and I go back and forth from indoors to outdoors. The main thing is that on these days, I may not sit down for ten hours straight. I'm looking to find a pair of shoes I can wear on that will line up with my typical look but will also be both non-slip and kind to my feet when I spend the entire day hustling around. What are some sellers (online or real world) and styles you would recommend?
posted by Comrade Doll at 8:54 AM PST - 8 comments

Anthony Trollope - Which book should I read first?

I'd like to start making my way through Anthony Trollope's work but I have no idea where to start. The man wrote 47 novels. He has series and standalone novels and I don't want to choose a subpar work as my first Trollope. [more inside]
posted by Constance Mirabella at 8:19 AM PST - 16 comments

My kingdom for a beach holiday in February!

Where should we go for a beach holiday from Boston in February? [more inside]
posted by peacheater at 8:05 AM PST - 5 comments

Depression and Anxiety as it prevents you from doing what you want

I hope some of you can speak to a specific area of depression that I see expressed in various examples but don't know exactly what to call it. I am hoping for tips on overcoming this specific aspect while I work on the larger problem. [more inside]
posted by tcv at 7:39 AM PST - 10 comments

Shut The Front Door

Looking for "mom swears." Details after the jump [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 7:15 AM PST - 116 comments

Preventing morning adrenal surges

I've realized that morning adrenaline and cortisol surges are largely responsible for my daily hours of panic and dread. While I know ways of soothing that after the fact, I want to prevent it altogether and am looking for supplements, medication, lifestyle hacks. More inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:23 AM PST - 17 comments

Did Chinese President Xi Jinping refer to "sword of Damocles" in speech?

In the translation I've found of Xi Jinping's speech at the recent military parade, he says: "War is the sword of Damocles that still hangs over mankind." Does he refer to the Damocles myth in the original Chinese or is an equivalent Chinese reference transposed into Western culture? If he does refer to the actual sword of Damocles, is it a common reference in China? And if so, did it enter common Chinese parlance through the writings of Marx?
posted by Kattullus at 3:54 AM PST - 3 comments

How to practise self-compassion when I'm not assertive?

I want to start practicing more self-compassion when I'm not as assertive as I would like to be, how do I do this? [more inside]
posted by twill at 2:12 AM PST - 8 comments

F******n, why not is it not in every 5 gallon bucket of paint already?

I'm a construction professional. I'm not a painter, but I frequently paint my own properties. Here's my question: there is an additive that makes every paint way, way better by eliminating brush or roller marks. I already pay good money for awesome paint because I know how much better it is than anything sold at big box stores. Why isn't paint sold with the miracle additive already in it? All the painters I work with know about it and think it's the best thing ever –– to be fair, only genuinely high-end clientele would notice, but that's my target group. (I won't disclose the name of the product because this is not an advertisement, I genuinely don't understand paint marketing vs. paint chemistry vs. paint marketing.)
posted by halogen at 1:35 AM PST - 20 comments

September 19

Is my apartment's wiring safe? Arc-Fault breaker flips intermittently

My apartment has an Arc-Fault Circuit Breaker in the electrical panel that trips intermittently. While investigating troubleshooting steps, I discovered that I have have two circuits that share a common neutral wire. These two circuits, however, are independently switched at the panel. I have a two-gang light switch that appears to bridge the two circuits. Is this safe? Here's my basic circuit diagram. The "Bed/Bath Closet" light is controlled by the Bedroom breaker, not the bathroom breaker. But I was able to measure 220V across the two Bed/Bath switches that are controlled by independent circuit breakers. [more inside]
posted by reeddavid at 10:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Two accounts were opened using my email address, now what?

Two days apart, while on vacation, I received gmail welcoming me to Instagram, then Uber, both of which I do not have accounts with. Should I assume that my gmail was compromised, and if so, what should I do besides change my gmail password and monitor my credit? [more inside]
posted by oxisos at 10:25 PM PST - 15 comments

Playing the waiting game

I am in the process of being diagnosed with a disease, possibly a very rare disease that will possibly require surgery yet cannot be cured. This is scaring the holy crap out of my and the doctors are giving minimal information about what, exactly, is going on. I'm looking for advice on whether to contact my GP to try and get clarification and also ways to calm down. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 9:21 PM PST - 9 comments

computer / gaming chair for bigger guy

Anyone have recommendations for a computer / gaming chair for a bigger guy? He's about 5ft 7, 315 lbs. We had a generic slightly heavy looking office chair from Costco that just died - the thing that raised and lowered the seat gave out. We're looking for a replacement but don't want to end up with something else that dies quickly. << [more inside]
posted by oneear at 7:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Sealing without sanding

What is going to happen if I don't sand before sealing an old hardwood floor with oil-modified polyurethane? [more inside]
posted by onehundredand80 at 7:20 PM PST - 14 comments

Spanish Language Latin American Cookbooks

My all-time favorite food is Mexican/Latin american food. I'm a pretty accomplished cook and I am semi-fluent in Spanish, as such, I am looking for your best, traditional Spanish Language latin american cookbooks/recipe websites. [more inside]
posted by ThaBombShelterSmith at 7:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Odd designation for U.S. mail box name?

A new person moved into our building and the data he entered for his personal building mailbox is just a short series of alphabetical letters, dashes and numbers. I guess I'm old fashioned but I thought you had to have your mail addressed to a person's name or a business name. What am I missing?
posted by Tullyogallaghan at 6:17 PM PST - 8 comments

Kettle problems

My electric kettle (an older model of this design) usually shuts itself off within 10 seconds of reaching a rolling boil. For the past few weeks, it has remained boiling for much longer (on the order of minutes: long enough for me to notice and shut it off manually if I'm in another room). What are some possible causes for this, and is there any way I can try to fix it?
posted by btfreek at 5:20 PM PST - 5 comments

SUNKILLER

Could you recommend a high-octane Japanese sunscreen for sensitive skin? [more inside]
posted by Lycaste at 4:54 PM PST - 15 comments

Maybe the professor just isn't funny

Do you have any suggestions for books, websites, other to help a new arrival to the US with learn general cultural references? I'm mentoring a Chinese student who is attending a mid-size US university. This is her first time in the US, and her English is fantastic. She asked me if I knew of any resources that could help her understand more US cultural references since sometimes she feels lost. [more inside]
posted by cessair at 4:21 PM PST - 21 comments

Sarcasm in sketch comedy?

I'm half remembering a comedy sketch, or possibly part of a sitcom but can't remember who it is or the final punchline! The set up is that person A is being increasingly sarcastic but person b doesn't recognise it as such and takes what they are saying as a straight answer. Im pretty sure it's British and Google has turned up a Monty Python sketch or the Big Bang theory (neither of which is what I'm remembering) Thanks Metafilter!
posted by threetwentytwo at 1:43 PM PST - 13 comments

Clicking/Grinding while accelerating, 2003 Ford Windstar

I have a 2003 Ford Windstar (FWD, automatic) that after a trip up a switch backed mountain road has started making a clicking/grinding noise. The noise seems to come from front left, and only happens when stepping on the gas pretty good. For example, accelerating up grades, or trying to merge into traffic. In extreme cases, accompanying the clicking is some loss of acceleration, and a little bit of forward/back shuddering. Does not seem tied directly to RPMs, or any specific gear. How can I confirm what's broken? [more inside]
posted by Real.Wolf at 1:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Called off my fourth engagement. Broke up. Now I am terrified.

I wrote in earlier about being engaged 4 times by 30. The advice was amazing and I did end up calling it off and breaking up. However, now I am terrified. Of being alone, maybe not having kiddos one day, and wondering if I will ever get married to a partner. [more inside]
posted by marciainabox at 1:07 PM PST - 26 comments

Another wireless headphones question. This one is different!

I have exhaustively read over previous questions regarding the above, but none of the answers fill my little niche. Price range: $100 or less. [more inside]
posted by BostonTerrier at 12:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Identify my bush and berries?

We have this bush in our yard which is growing these berries, closer view. Can anyone identify it and tell us whether the berries are poisonous to toddlers or dogs? (No toddlers or dogs have eaten these berries yet.)
posted by merocet at 12:22 PM PST - 4 comments

Please explain Uber to me like I'm a farmer

What is Uber? Something involving taxicabs and smart phones (and I rarely use either). It seems the cognoscenti are all over Uber as it makes arranging short-term surface travel easier (tough luck, stinky old medallion cabbie) but there's other aspects I'm missing. [more inside]
posted by Rash at 11:13 AM PST - 20 comments

Giving a specifc iBook?

I want to give a specific iBook (xyz) to a specific person. Please tell me how in the most basid, post- brain-radiation-friendly manner. I am very stupid these days. Thanks.
posted by Danf at 10:10 AM PST - 2 comments

I'd Shoot Film Again If ...

I'd shoot film again if I had a magic box that would swallow a roll and emit a batch of scan files ready for post processing. Does such a thing exist for mere mortals?
posted by justcorbly at 9:52 AM PST - 12 comments

Vegan eats and stuff to do in Milwaukee

I'm going to be in Milwaukee tomorrow until I head out on a late afternoon flight. Anywhere easily accessible by public transit from downtown that is recommended for vegan breakfast/lunch/brunch? Art, bookstores, parks, or other things to do in the immediate vicinity would be a big plus, too. Thanks!
posted by MoonOrb at 9:26 AM PST - 4 comments

American bacon in Tokyo?

My Japanese-American friend who moved back to Japan about ten years ago has been harassing me ever since for certain American-style products. Does anyone know a Japanese source for properly cured pork? Nothing fancy, just standard smoked slices. Alternatively, does anyone have a way to get cheap legal American meat into Japanese hands without too much hassle? Since my friend is behaving a lot like a desperate junky, I will assume he is willing to pay a premium for this service.
posted by Area Control at 9:09 AM PST - 9 comments

First Gen Nexus 7 is unusable and slow since recent Android updates

I've got a first-gen Nexus 7 tablet that I once loved dearly. But for some months now, since one Android update or another, it has become unusably slow. Even between basic functions, it now has the kind of lag time that allows a person to go the kitchen, brew a cup of coffee, come back and settle into their chair and still find the thing dragging. Surely, it's not gone for good. How can I make it usable again? Specific instructions or links greatly appreciated. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 8:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Screaming in my head

Sometimes, when I am tired and depressed, I hear screaming inside my head. What gives? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 AM PST - 14 comments

How to plan a career change? (i.e. I want to make more $$)

I'm working in a field that I moderately enjoy and it's an okay position for now, I don't think it's what I want to do for the rest of my life. I'm giving myself about 3-5 years to form a solid plan to switch careers to something that will (hopefully) pay me a bit better (and maybe enjoy it). I'm trying to figure out where to start? (I'll also take any career suggestions if you have 'em) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 AM PST - 6 comments

Do I have to take the package?

Laid off in yet another tech company reinvention. Got a standard package, COBRA paid if I take the package and I am eligible (married with spouse and insurance so I'm not). Lump sum equiv of three months pay. Resume service help, eligible for rehire, etc. as I'm over forty, I got the little list that shows its not age discrimination. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 AM PST - 4 comments

Humans of... my town

How do I approach moving people on the street to interview them about racial identity and what sorts of questions should I ask to get the most out of them? [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot at 6:04 AM PST - 16 comments

Help me paper a wall with Bazooka Joe comics.

I got it into my head that it would be fun to cover the wall next to the downstairs toilet with this stash of Bazooka Joe comics I recently found, but I'm not sure the best way to go about it. What kind of adhesive should I use? Will the wax paper deter adhesion? The wall is currently painted with a blue flat latex. What should I prime the surface with? I'm figuring I'd apply them one at a time, but is there a more efficient way to do it? [more inside]
posted by Toekneesan at 5:54 AM PST - 11 comments

What is this strange manner of box I see before me?

It is hard rubbish collection day where I live and today I picked up some wooden cubes that some one was throwing out. Picture here. The boxes are sealed cubes, light, with hand holds on either end, apparently intended to be carried, but not opened. My question: what would they have been intended for?
posted by tworedshoes at 4:45 AM PST - 9 comments

What’s Google know about me? How?

I’ve got questions about Google searches and results. [more inside]
posted by Marky at 1:21 AM PST - 8 comments

What's that smell?

I was in a facility that tests a large number of blood samples for a series of diseases and other markers, across multiple testing instruments. I only walked as far into the lab as you can without PPE, but I could instantly smell something... astringent, that feels like it got way up in my sinuses even a few hours later. [more inside]
posted by disillusioned at 12:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Returning American Expat needs health insurance

My husband and I are Americans who have been living in the UK for 15 years. We are thinking of returning to the US. We are self-employed. Where do we even begin to look for health coverage? [more inside]
posted by shibori at 12:01 AM PST - 5 comments

September 18

Why are new TV shows running longer?

Why are new TV shows, such as USA's Mr. Robot and AMC's Fear The Walking Dead, running 65 or 66 minutes? Are we getting more show, more ads, or a little of both? How widespread is this practice and can we expect it to continue? In future syndication, will episodes be cut to fit in one-hour time slots?
posted by IndigoRain at 11:45 PM PST - 14 comments

Putumayo Presents: Yoga track "Bliss" - what is it reminding me of?

I was listening to Putumayo Presents: Yoga, and this track has the same tune as another I've heard, ten or fifteen years ago. Original version was rather shoegaze-y, a midrange man's voice on the vocals.
posted by Guy Smiley at 11:03 PM PST - 2 comments

How to trap a mouse that's in my sights

While I was writing this question, the mouse went away, but I'm leaving my question like this because I want to know what to do if/when this happens again (I've put the old part in italics): [more inside]
posted by John Cohen at 10:32 PM PST - 30 comments

High-Class Horror Costume

I suck at costumes. I've been invited to a Halloween party from a person with whom I really want to be a closer friend, and she loooooves Halloween. I need help with a costume/makeup. [more inside]
posted by jaguar at 9:52 PM PST - 21 comments

How do I make a group of non-singers sound good?

On Monday afternoon I will be recording a group (6-7) of non-singers singing a parody song for an event. The song being parodied is a novelty song and the only instrumental/karaoke versions of the song I've been able to find are rather sparse keyboard or guitar only tracks...which means that the non-singers will need to carry the tune. This isn't a singing competition so while the key priority is everyone has fun, what are the "simple" things I can do to make it sound like we can sing even just a bit. [more inside]
posted by dismitree at 8:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Where to shop for a vintage engagement ring?

Where are the best places to look at vintage engagement rings? Or just vintage rings made with fine materials in general? [more inside]
posted by Avosunspin at 8:19 PM PST - 13 comments

Grain Free Cat Food for Urinary/Bladder Health

A year ago I asked this question about grain free cat food and have been feeding Bunny Cat Blue Buffalo Freedom dry food since then. Now she has bladder crystals and the vet wants me to change her diet. :( Help! [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 7:24 PM PST - 24 comments

What's the secret writing code used by Dorothy Sayers' Peter Wimsey?

I remember reading, in one of Dorothy Sayers' Lord Peter Wimsey detective stories, of a simple but clever secret writing code he devised. Might anyone either know which novel in which the code was described, the code itself, or some place where it's listed? I've googled it, to no avail. Short of tracking down and poring through each of the novels, I thought I'd ask here. Thank you.
posted by holdenjordahl at 6:27 PM PST - 8 comments

Where is this shark tchotchke from?

Where would I find the shark sculpture that appears in the background of this video? [more inside]
posted by JasonSch at 5:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Mysterious guest user (Mac)

I recently noticed that there's a guest user profile on my mac laptop. I got the laptop a few months ago and never enabled the guest user profile. No one else lives in my home or has access to my computer. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 5:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Family law questions, you are not my friend's lawyer

So, my best friend divorced her husband when she discovered that he was a child molester. Subsequent to the divorce, he has been convicted, added to the sex offender database and is forbidden from unsupervised contact with kids. She and he have a young child. Visitation has been at a court mandated facility, for which he bears the cost. Today she called and said her attorney told her to pull together a list of friends who would be willing to supervise the visitation. Wtf? [more inside]
posted by SecretAgentSockpuppet at 5:20 PM PST - 34 comments

I have some more questions about Philadelphia.

For a while now one of my best friends has been talking about living in Philadelphia and for some reason it's only been recently that my interest has been piqued. I read this question about neighborhoods in Philly and it sounds really great, but I still have some questions. [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 4:28 PM PST - 15 comments

Birdseed, dog food and potting soil proximity in retail.

Calling on hardware/homegoods/pet/general store folks! I have heard that it is bad to stock pet food next to bags of WILD birdseed and/or soil due to contamination possibilities. Is it ok to put bagged WILD birdseed next to bagged soil? [more inside]
posted by es_de_bah at 3:09 PM PST - 1 comment

Detergent that doesn't smell like cat pee? (I'm looking at you, Tide)

Over the last year or so, I've noticed my shirts smelling a little funky after the wash. After some experiementing in the lab that is my bathroom/laundromat, I've come to the conclusion it is my Tide HE ActiLift "Original" powder detergent. WARNING: long [more inside]
posted by atinna at 3:02 PM PST - 26 comments

Girlfriend has possibly hereditary depression---education for me?

I'm looking for resources, either literature or conversation, to help me think about getting into a serious relationship with someone who is mentally ill and has enormous family history of mental illness. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:56 PM PST - 33 comments

How difficult is it to register a child as a U.S. Citizen born abroad?

How difficult is the process of registering the birth of a child to a U.S. Citizen mother (born and raised) but living abroad for 10 years? What kind of documentation is needed, or is this simpler than I am expecting? I'm afraid I'll need documents about my residence that I can't find, etc.
posted by catspajammies at 2:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Charger keep charging

Not sure if it is coincidence or concerning, but cell chargers seem to go kaput pretty quickly in our house. Husband has iphone, I have android, both of us are suddenly having a hard time getting our phones to charge. Both of us got new chargers to see if that would fix it and it did for a day or two. Then it didn't again. Is it possible there is something about our house causing this or sheer dumb luck? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 2:01 PM PST - 16 comments

Help with Freelance Audio Production Rates

I have been asked to produce audio for a business. The audio will likely be a :30 second commercial for radio, although the client is also interested in me creating audio content for their website. Is there a freelance scale for audio production rates that either includes the costs of pre-production, production and post-production or breaks out individual charges for consulting, idea development, scriptwriting, narration, adding music and/or SFX and editing?
posted by CollectiveMind at 2:00 PM PST - 2 comments

Best approach to confront sexual comment (thru individual & his work)?

A cook who works the grill at my company's cafeteria walked up behind me today and commented that I "always look good from behind." We know each other by name and otherwise have a good relationship of friendly/funny morning banter as I get my breakfast each morning. I was surprised when he crossed the line from jokey to sexual. I gave him a surprised/grossed out look and mocked that I was vomiting. He protested with something like, "Aww come on!" and I just shook my head and walked away. I want to confront him. [more inside]
posted by red_rabbit at 1:50 PM PST - 35 comments

Where should I go for jewelry repair in DC, and what will it cost?

I have a few pieces of jewelry that need varying types of repairs, accumulated over the years, and I've decided I should finally just take them in and get them fixed. Having never done this before, where should I take them in Washington, DC, and what should I expect in terms of cost? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 12:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Should I move into a building undergoing renovations?

The building in which we want to rent an apartment is undergoing some serious construction. Point work, roof, and total renovation of lobby. How bad can we expect our first few months there to be?Or more accurately, how much will my sons naps suffer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Newest social networking analysis programs?

I need to make a data visualization of interdisciplinary research (who is talking with who and how much). I have read this which is an awesome start, but wondering how much has changed since 2011. I will be teaching myself, so hoping to find one that is somewhat user friendly. I am in academia, so have access to programs, and an evaluator friend has suggested the free program PARTNER Tool Just curious to see if there are other options I should consider. Thanks in advance!
posted by lil' ears at 12:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Scenic and weird things to see in the eastern Sierras?

I forgot we're going on a road trip tomorrow (tentative route) leaving from Berkeley, CA. What should we do? Where should we stay? Where should we stop to see amazing and weird things? [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 12:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Android Tablet for Kids

I'm trying to find an affordable tablet for kids to use...details inside. [more inside]
posted by trivia genius at 11:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Boston to Brattleboro: Scenic routes/suggestions?

We are planning a quick 2-night getaway trip to Brattleboro, leaving from North of Boston. I'd love your help choosing a route that will be scenic to drive, but not too too long, and also your recommendations for interesting, quirky, fun stops between here and there, and/or things to do while based there. We enjoy history, food, drink, farming, music, vintage/flea stuff, Americana, hiking, canoeing, etc. We've never spent time in the town before and will be staying right downtown. Thank you!
posted by Miko at 10:20 AM PST - 15 comments

Are shinkansen seat reservations a good idea during off-peak seasons?

Traveling to Japan for the first time in October! We (party of 2) have JR Passes, which apparently means we can board non-reserved shinkansen cars w/o any interaction with ticket booth staff. The question is, is this wise, or are we still likely to find ourselves standing or split up on some trains? [more inside]
posted by cyrusdogstar at 9:54 AM PST - 17 comments

You spin me right round baby right round like a what?

I need songs with specific lyrics which I can play for my daughter which represent antiquated technology that she has no real understanding of. [more inside]
posted by Nanukthedog at 9:51 AM PST - 120 comments

Is there a great universal garage door opener remote?

I have 4 different garage door opener remotes and half of them are failing. I'd like to replace them with a single universal remote. I think I need a learning remote with 4 different buttons, but I'm open to suggestions. [more inside]
posted by Nelson at 9:34 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommendation for a good cafe in Greenwich Village?

Meeting my brother for breakfast in the Village early Sunday morning. What's open & good?
posted by ZenMasterThis at 9:14 AM PST - 13 comments

How do I get Youtube videos to autoplay on Facebook?

I'm trying to post Youtube videos on Facebook for my nonprofit and rather counterintuitively, they don't autoplay. Any advice on how to activate it? [more inside]
posted by johnasdf at 9:04 AM PST - 8 comments

Online-only CBT (ish) Courses for Bad Esteem, Intrustive Thoughts

Hope me an online-only CBT class for Perfectionism, worthlessness, and other related 'Bad Thoughts'. (Or an alternative plan of treatment.) [more inside]
posted by gregglind at 9:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Questions about NFL Mobile on Verizon

I'm thinking of switching to Verizon specifically so I can watch live football games through the NFL Mobile app. However, I'm finding conflicting info online about whether it will actually suit my needs. Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 8:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Trying to find a book about Germans after WWII

A psychologist I know told me vaguely about a course/book she took where the teacher said something about how many of the descendants of Germans who fled WWII had service or help kind of professions, like therapists, social workers, academics, etc. I don't know if this is true or not, but I would like to find the book she was talking about. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 8:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Client requires that I register as a business

I am a freelancer drafting a contract with a potential client (French university) for a yearlong remote consulting job. When I wrote my own name and my personal bank account info on the contract, the admin from the financial/accounting office told me: "We can’t directly pay on your personal bank account. We have to sign a contract with a company." I'm looking for a simple way to resolve this problem. [more inside]
posted by ElEmigrante at 8:14 AM PST - 17 comments

Medical debt party

Smallish medical bill went to collections-- how to proceed in paying? [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 7:58 AM PST - 6 comments

How to cope with working for a narcissist?

I love my job, but my boss' narcissistic personality is causing me a great deal of personal stress. I don't want to leave my job. Looking for resources to help me cope! [more inside]
posted by youdontknowme at 7:38 AM PST - 18 comments

Help for 2000 Toyota Solara convertible: top goes down, won't go up

2000 Toyota Solara convertible, treated very well, the one previous owner was my mom. And of course the actual day I got this car the automatic top stopped working -- but only one way, putting it back up. (The top can still be pulled up manually but it is very heavy and I am but one small person.) Automatic top still works great putting the top down. I'm looking for resources and my Google-fu is weak. [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake at 7:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Can I Blame This on USPS Being Self-Funded?

I (an American) am trying to visit the Saiho-ji (Koke-dera) temple in Kyoto in November. It only accepts reservations by International Reply Coupon, which the USPS no longer sells as of 2013. What is the fastest and cheapest way for me to send a self-addressed stamped postcard or similar to Japan? Possible solutions, none of which are great: [more inside]
posted by Atrahasis at 7:18 AM PST - 7 comments

Best YouTube Workout Videos

I'm looking for the best YouTube workout videos/channels, in the 20-60 minute range. Specifics for me inside but I'm happy to also have recs for great videos that don't suit me now but may suit my later, or help other people! [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:08 AM PST - 11 comments

Identify this series and this game

A few years ago I watched a Let's Play style Youtube series where a person developed a character in an action RPG without using any of the conventional parts of the game (e.g. magic or quests.) What was the series, and what was the game? [more inside]
posted by Rhomboid at 7:08 AM PST - 9 comments

Manicure tools and products for lounging around

I would like to put together a 'manicure kit' for my wife to use while lounging on the couch. [more inside]
posted by zyxwvut at 7:07 AM PST - 16 comments

Making jewellery with sapphires

Questions for the crafty about making, setting and polishing jewellery with sapphires. [more inside]
posted by Joeruckus at 6:41 AM PST - 1 comment

Know-it-all at my new job.

I have issues with controlling my emotions/frustrations and I need your help keeping my cool. [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 6:27 AM PST - 21 comments

Looking for some inspiration... living and looking healthy.

Hello, MeFi! I was at a class reunion last weekend where some photos were uploaded to Facebook. Urgh. I look horrible. I am not aging gracefully. I am shocked at how much I've changed in just a couple of years and am saddened that I'm now looking "my age" - late 40s. What are some of the things you do to keep yourself looking and feeling great? [more inside]
posted by funfunfun at 6:11 AM PST - 26 comments

How do I manage my flipper / retainer?

I'm wearing a flipper to fill a toothless gap in the front of my mouth. This is my first full day with it. I need tips/tricks/advice on taking it out discretely at meals and not losing it. [more inside]
posted by kimberussell at 4:00 AM PST - 13 comments

How best to extend the battery life of my Galaxy S6

I'm looking for the best product - case or wallet - to boost the battery life of a Samsung Galaxy S6 Edge. My previous Galaxy had a removable battery so this was easy, but the sealed design of the snazzy new models means I need some options. [more inside]
posted by srednivashtar at 1:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Halloween S'Carols 2015 edition: creepy new songs for the annual mix?

Looking for any new creepy sounding tracks for my annual Halloween mix. New, or new to you; original songs; cover songs; or even soundtrack selections work. (If a recommendation has appeared on a previous AskMeta thread for Halloween mix tunes, less candy for you!)
posted by Unsomnambulist at 1:03 AM PST - 11 comments

September 17

Wouldn't it be nice to learn more about Brian Wilson?

I'd like to learn more about Brian Wilson and the Beach Boys. What biographies should I read? [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 10:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Let's overthink my gallbladder!!

I am pretty certain I am having gallbladder attacks and probably need my gallbladder removed. However, my symptoms don't sound like textbook gallbladder disease. Have you had unusual gallbladder or other gastro issues? Can you help me analyze this and tell me if this is all in my head somehow? What's throwing me off is that these "episodes" happen 5 hours after I eat, which seems like too much time has passed for it to be gallbladder. I'm going to the doctor next week, so if you can help me think of questions to ask please do so! [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted at 9:41 PM PST - 10 comments

How long did you have your Mirena IUD in for?

I've been having more spotting and "breakthrough bleeding" recently, and I'm wondering if this has to do with my Mirena getting "older." Are there any signs that it's time to get a new one? [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 9:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Octomber

Each month I host a series of movie nights with a theme. October is going to be OcTomber. Recommend me some movies starring at least TWO people named Tom. [more inside]
posted by doift at 8:56 PM PST - 22 comments

Home insurance

Is Safeco legit? Also, homeowners insurance unsolicited advice welcome. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:29 PM PST - 15 comments

What is that bright, hyper twinkling star-like object in the East now?

I am in mid-coast Maine. In the East, there is what appears to be a very bright star, but it is flashing both blue and red, which I have not known any star to do. However, it has been stationary for many minutes. What is it?
posted by cake vandal at 8:12 PM PST - 22 comments

Warranty claim rejected: this is a commercial product, not for home use

I bought a microwave off Amazon that quit working most of the time after seven months' use. Attempted to make a warranty claim but the manufacturer says "this is a commercial unit and is not covered for home use". How do I approach getting warranty service or was it just a bad idea to buy a commercial micro? [more inside]
posted by jet_silver at 7:45 PM PST - 16 comments

Illustrations of book characters reading & writing

I am looking for illustrations from picture books and chapter books that show characters reading or writing. [more inside]
posted by not that girl at 7:23 PM PST - 15 comments

Overtime pay on hourly status

Does my former employer owe me for overtime pay? I frequently worked more than 40 hours a week for one employer, but he claimed that some hours were from one pocket for one service, and a different pocket for a different service. [more inside]
posted by yesster at 7:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Unified email - iCloud+Gmail+Gmail+more Gmail.

I need help and advice to go from software based email to a Web based (gmail?). Complications, multiple accounts, mobile configurations and the general worry that I need to get it right the first time. [more inside]
posted by filmgeek at 6:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Can't find full videos of massage routines to follow along with

I'm a somewhat new massage therapist, but I'm a bit of a slow learner. I wanted to practice by following along with some Youtube or Vimeo videos, but I cannot seem to find much that run 50 minutes (standard length for the industry). Anyone have advice on where I might find something? I'm stumped that my searches aren't picking up much.
posted by disnchntd at 4:46 PM PST - 3 comments

Best Way to Hold a Paper Bag Open to Receive Paper for Recycling?

I just use paper grocery bags to hold paper or plastics/metal for recycling. I feel like there's got to be some doo-hicky that will hold the bags open to make chucking recyclables into the bag a little easier. [more inside]
posted by Jon44 at 4:24 PM PST - 13 comments

Explain TV Antennas to Me Like I'm Five

I need TV antenna advice tailored to my specific circumstances, and no amount of googling has helped beyond generalities. Yes, this is another cable cutting question. [more inside]
posted by ereshkigal45 at 3:03 PM PST - 15 comments

Can a teen develop temporary pulmonary stenosis?

My teen was just diagnosed with pulmonary stenosis. The cardiologist was checking via echocardiogram for a different heart murmur and says while that heart murmur has resolved, he now finds PS. He says it is a mild case and likely due to a recent growth spurt, as bodies can grow unevenly, and it will probably resolve as Kiddo grows more (and to keep an eye on Kiddo in case s/he becomes short of breath, etc etc). Is this a real Thing? [more inside]
posted by Ink-stained wretch at 2:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Advice for getting a UK fiancé visa in 2015

I'm an American man who just proposed to a British woman and I am wondering what pitfalls to watch out for in applying for a visa to enter the UK to marry. [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 2:39 PM PST - 8 comments

mystery object filter

Someone left a thing with a free sign at work. Let's play! Top view with accessories. Inside. Bottom . [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:26 PM PST - 8 comments

Help us choose an iPhone 6s model

My wife is interested in buying an off-contract new iphone and switching to MVNO service but I have questions about compatibility of the two different models. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by ghharr at 2:23 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me get some sleep.

What do we do as our baby has decided not to sleep? [more inside]
posted by rglass at 2:11 PM PST - 31 comments

Paging Dr. House ...

Minor medical concern is making me more of a hypochondriac than usual. I already made an appointment with a doctor but if you could help me mellow out until then, I'd really appreciate it. [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 1:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Suggestions for making a "Back to the Future"-themed party awesome?

What can I add to a themed Back to the Future party to make it awesome? [more inside]
posted by chudmonkey at 1:55 PM PST - 29 comments

NRA Bloomberg Attack Ads?

So - I've seen some anti-Bloomberg attack ads by the NRA on Youtube. I don't quite understand that the hell is going on? The Googles reveals that these ads are running during the Republican debates, apparently? [more inside]
posted by symbioid at 1:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Help my technophobe mom share individual audio files with her students

I need to set up a dead-simple method for my 75 year old mom to share individual, home-created audio files (tutoring content) with her foreign language students. [more inside]
posted by mosk at 1:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me get my ducts in a row

Great A/C keeps 80% of house comfortable, turns basement into an arctic wind tunnel. [more inside]
posted by GorgeousPorridge at 1:36 PM PST - 6 comments

YA Literature for Young Lesbians?

My niece mentioned/complained to me recently that there is very little YA lit for and about lesbians. I took a look on goodreads and found a couple of lists with what appear to be a nice selection of books. However, on reading further, I'd like to narrow the list down to actually well-written or otherwise reasonably good books. Any thoughts? [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 1:18 PM PST - 25 comments

How to select a place for laser hair removal

Need advice on selecting a place for laser hair removal. [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 12:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find identify this video game based on my misty recollections!

I saw a game on Steam about a week ago that intrigued me. I want to ask my more video game savvy friend about it, but since I have no idea what it's called and now I can't find it, that's proving difficult. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 12:07 PM PST - 2 comments

Name a new kitty!

A new furball showed up (no doubt in response to the sign in our yard, visible only to animals, that says, "Suckers live here. Apply within.") and we need help naming him! [more inside]
posted by tigerjade at 12:04 PM PST - 64 comments

Thought about in a certain way, I just did something incredibly stupid

All things to suggest or remember after quitting your job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:02 PM PST - 18 comments

Give me your favorite and best things to do with roasted hatch chiles!

We're getting our first ever order of hatch chiles this weekend and are really excited. I plan on freezing some of them and making some corn bread, but would love to hear what else we can do with them. [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 11:37 AM PST - 24 comments

Number 2! Number 2!

Where can I find the TV Guide list of the 25 greatest television stars that includes Ted Danson as #2? [more inside]
posted by papayaninja at 11:09 AM PST - 4 comments

Test tube chandelier with insulin vials, other clever reuse ideas

I have lots of empty Lantus insulin vials. I want to make some version of this test tube chandelier. What should I use for the colored water? [more inside]
posted by Beti at 11:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Any advice for helping an injured bird

When we got home from work Mr. Fence found an injured wood pigeon fluttering about. Have put it in a cardboard box for now, but can't get through to any animal rescues at the moment. Any advice for how not to kill it overnight? [more inside]
posted by Fence at 11:01 AM PST - 8 comments

As a young adult should I cut all financial ties with my parents now?

My well-intentioned mother keeps trying to help me financially and it's causing problems. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 10:12 AM PST - 35 comments

Dieting with a Family

I recently started a weight loss research study that will last three months. In addition to regular exercise, it involves eating only pre-packaged meals supplemented with fruits and vegetables. I'm really excited about this opportunity to lose weight and learn healthy habits, but I'm worried my family is going to make it difficult for me. How can I stick to this diet without drastically interrupting my families eating habits and my social life? [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn at 10:01 AM PST - 15 comments

Whinging and Winging for Wings in Ocean City

Where would one find excellent Old Bay Seasoned wings in Ocean City, MD? [more inside]
posted by Thistledown at 9:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Resources for a fluid-bonded, closed triad.

Where can my husband, my girlfriend and myself (female) find polyamory resources specifically for and by FMF closed triads who are fluid bonded? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Why use a sentence instead of "anónimamente"?

On New York City building sites, why does the Spanish signage say "No tiene que dar su nombre" instead of using the Spanish adverb for "anonymously"? [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 8:36 AM PST - 25 comments

Awesome visually impaired guy looking for a job in Toronto/GTA. Help?

Looking for any job hunting resources for the legally blind/visually impaired, on behalf of my husband in Ontario (specifically GTA). [more inside]
posted by heavenstobetsy at 8:33 AM PST - 11 comments

Place to buy mashimaro pens in Hong Kong/Melbourne?

Is there a store in Hong Kong or in Melbourne, Australia where I could buy Mashimaro pens? [more inside]
posted by the agents of KAOS at 8:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Need an ebook in pdf format

Can anyone help me convert a Kindle book to a PDF? [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 8:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Short trip to Guatemala: Tikal or Lake Atitlan? Or both?

Hi! I am traveling to Guatemala City for work and will have three (well, maybe 2.75) days to myself. I definitely want to visit Antigua. I'm worried that cramming in expeditions to Lake Atitlan AND Tikal on the other two days will keep me busier than I'd like to be...but I also don't want to regret not seeing such amazing places. (I have bad travel FOMO.) [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 7:27 AM PST - 11 comments

Photography Classes in Manhattan?

I'd like to pay for a photography class as a gift for a friend in Manhattan. I don't know anything - please help! [more inside]
posted by jcatus at 7:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Jade plant carnage - guilt, soil and repotting

So our big office jade plant - given to ME by a green-thumbed former co-worker and the wonder of the floor - fell over in the night and broke into a million pieces. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 6:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me not be a patronizing liberal

Please help me understand how to better engage with those who are close to me having an irrational fear of Muslims (especially with Syrian refugees who she believes are full of ISIS operatives) . I want to engage because I can't not say anything anymore. [more inside]
posted by sio42 at 6:27 AM PST - 33 comments

What might I do with this insurance denial of coverage issue?

I have a six-year patient-doctor relationship with a psychiatrist who is the best. I'd very much like to continue it. But he is in his late eighties, a sole practitioner, and does not understand the internet. My insurer, Aetna, has messed things up in a mind-blowing way, and to fix it, they want my doctor to communicate via the intertubes--they refuse to address it via mail or phone. This has my doctor at a loss. How can I, the insured, make some righteous noise about this? More inside. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 6:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Are there legitimate credit clinics?

Is there a service that will help me get my credit score straight, when the issue is not money, but a name discrepancy and a $20.00 bill that went to collections and I never found out? [more inside]
posted by Tarumba at 5:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for specific BLS data

Does the U.S. government publish data about economic growth by sector AND by metro area? I am trying to compile some data for the economic outlook of a city/metro area. Essentially I want something like the BLS's job outlook numbers for different career fields, but localized to specific metro areas. Does this exist somewhere? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 5:04 AM PST - 6 comments

True costs?...a specific case, but a general curiosity about pricing

What do things really cost before retail profits are added and has anyplace taken this question on in a comprehensive way? [more inside]
posted by Reasonably Everything Happens at 4:23 AM PST - 8 comments

September 16

Lighting techniques of top cinematographers

Directors of photography like Roger Deakins, Robert Elswit, and Robert Richardson have distinct styles but are nevertheless first class examples of cinematography done right. I am looking for resources that delve into the type of lights they use, lighting plans (specific setups from certain scenes), and examples of intensities of the used lights (in LM). Any of these would be helpful really.
posted by omar.a at 11:04 PM PST - 2 comments

Problem in developing a habit to watch learning videos

I like to watch learning videos but, I find it hard to commit. Need help! [more inside]
posted by liltiger at 10:24 PM PST - 8 comments

I need more books to read to my preschooler!

We read a lot to my son and keep running out of decent books. He likes books about realistic situations with a fair bit of emotional or linguistic complexity. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by forza at 10:12 PM PST - 30 comments

Travel to Iran in November

It looks like I have a chance to travel to Iran for two weeks this November with my son (aged 11). Any tips or hints for someone who has not been there before? [more inside]
posted by Megami at 9:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Dear Hover Click, I Hate You

On a Mac, is there a way to change a filename in Finder *other than* hovering/mousing over the filename and clicking until the name field becomes editable?
posted by nologo at 8:37 PM PST - 8 comments

What is it like to NOT be depressed?

Either versus being depressed, or not (what I'm saying is, I'm fine with answers from never-depressed people but also comparative answers from those who have gone through depressive periods and recovery). [more inside]
posted by hejrat at 7:26 PM PST - 48 comments

Businesses asking for the name of your employer? Why?

Twice this year, I have had the experience of a business I patronize asking me for the name of my employer. The first one was my dentist. The second was a car rental company. What is up with that? Why do they need to know this information? Do they have a legal right to this? Is there some kind of business reason for it? I find this practice rather aggravating and would like to be better informed so that I may do a better job of deflecting these inappropriate inquiries in the future. Many thanks in advance.
posted by jason's_planet at 7:11 PM PST - 19 comments

Eyebone hurts

Trying to ID an unusual pain in a part of my right eye socket. [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 6:20 PM PST - 7 comments

The Best, Bubbliest Bath

Seeking recommendations for the best-smelling AND also the biggest-bubbling bubble bath that ever bubbled. [more inside]
posted by pinkacademic at 5:10 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me choose a mattress topper (and also not freeze to death)

I need help making my bed a sanctuary of warmth and comfort. Help me choose a mattress topper than will promote a delightful and luxurious warmth without making me sweat. More info below the fold. [more inside]
posted by aaxelrod at 4:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Looking for sku/barcode scanner manifest/database creation help.

Hello, I have a very small eBay store. I just purchased 850 units of name brand make up. I don't have a manifest. I would like to create one. I am thinking about hooking up a cheap barcode scanner to my computer to make a manifest in excel. Question 1: Cheapest barcode scanner ideas? Question 2: Besides Excel is there maybe a database out there so that I can scan it and all its information comes up and then print from there?
posted by tricide at 4:28 PM PST - 3 comments

Why does PBS show the same old music shows during fundraisers?

This is a cranky old lady question from a cranky old lady; whenever PBS has a fund drive, they take off the regular shows that I like and instead show old music specials or documentaries by Ken Burns they have already shown hundreds of times. I really do not want to see great hits of the 50s, Andrea Boccelli, or Simon and Garfunkle , and these substitutions make me less likely to contribute to the station, not more. Does showing these things again and again really get people to give money?
posted by mermayd at 4:11 PM PST - 29 comments

Teach me to robot.

I have an Arduino, and I want to make it do things. I gather that what I really want is a Raspberry Pi in addition to my Arduino. The trouble is, I don't know Python and my C and circuitry skills are severely rusty. So do you know of any online courses or physical books that will teach me all of this as a general subject of "making devices" rather than individual Python, C, and electrical engineering courses of study? [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 3:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Cake Cake Cake Cake Cake

My partner's birthday is on Saturday. I am still trying to figure out what cake I should bake for him. HALP. [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 3:06 PM PST - 22 comments

$%&#ing neighbours, parking spot edition

My wife and I are renting an apartment with two parking spots. It is adjacent to another apartment with two spots, but the people there always cram three cars (one of which is always covered with a tarp) into the space, which means that typically one of the cars is halfway onto our spot, which always means the cars are packed tightly together. [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 2:57 PM PST - 20 comments

Help my nonprofit survive the end of Windows XP!

I work for a nonprofit and we have several computers used by our students. They run Windows XP and I know that their decline and fall is probably inevitable. There is a specific old version of a program that we use which is not compatible with newer versions of Windows. Help me make a plan: I need to find a new literacy program that suits our needs, find a way to make this 10+ year old program compatible with newer computers, or at the very least keep these computers semi-functional as long as possible. [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 2:42 PM PST - 12 comments

A Cloud-based system for managing photos of components and case details

Can anyone recommend an app or cloud-based platform for storing photos and inputting case details? [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 2:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Which Android keyboard app do I want?

After switching to Google keyboard I realized I'm missing two little features I saw in an otherwise terrible keyboard. Can I have my cake and eat it? [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 2:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Best way to get from LaGuardia to Upper West Side today?

My flight lands at LGA in a couple of hours, and I want to get to a place near the Natural History Museum as easily/quickly as possible. Willing to spring for a cab or car if it's substantially faster or just easier to deal with (I'm exhausted). I always use JFK and don't know anything about LGA- is there any advantage to taking Uber or Lyft over a cab? Is it possible that it will be as fast just to take the bus/subway if I'm landing at 6pm? If you see this in time to answer, thanks. :)
posted by three_red_balloons at 1:51 PM PST - 11 comments

am I sexist for wanting a lady cleaner?

I have employed a cleaner on and off or the last few years, but am now at a stage where I'm deciding to commit to a fortnightly clean as work responsibilities ramp up. The cleaning agency I use has sent me a male cleaner to be my new regular, the first I've ever encountered. I am having a strange reaction that I'm trying to reconcile myself with and need a little help to differentiate the crazies. Details after the jump... [more inside]
posted by starcrust at 1:46 PM PST - 59 comments

Looking for advice on being more comfortable when put on the spot

Tips/Techniques/Advice on how to reduce avoidant behavior? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:31 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I tell someone who is on the spectrum that he's on the spectrum?

I have a former co-worker who I am convinced is on the autism spectrum. He is middle-aged, and I believe he is completely unaware of the cause of his unusual attitudes and behaviors. He has moved on to another employer but I remain in contact with him. I believe I could potentially do him a life-altering favor by expressing my opinion and suggesting he seek some help. Is it reasonable to do this and expect him to understand what I'm saying? Additional complication: I used to be his manager. Since I am no longer, I don't think there would be any legal or other potential issues, but please speak up if you disagree. Thanks!
posted by anonymous at 1:30 PM PST - 30 comments

Modeling agencies for the older set

I'm looking for agencies that represent models over 35, preferably in the Miami area. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:29 PM PST - 1 comment

SSRIs and sexual dysfunction

Looking for advice and experiences regarding anorgasmia as a side effect of SSRI antidepressants, IKYANMD. [more inside]
posted by mymbleth at 12:55 PM PST - 11 comments

Fill my free afternoon in San Diego

I have one free afternoon and a one-day trolley pass. No car. Have already stuffed myself with food. Where should I go, and what should I see? [more inside]
posted by amelioration at 12:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Seoul in November

Going to Seoul the second week in November. Looking for input on places to stay, places to go, places to avoid, all that. [more inside]
posted by MrMoonPie at 12:40 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I dutch my own cocoa?

I've gone keto, and mix small amounts of cocoa powder and heavy whipping/double cream to satisfy my sweet tooth. I bought natural, unsweetened cocoa powder (both a Whole Foods brand and Hersey's), but find them both too acidic/harsh. Can I "dutch" them myself by adding some sort of base? [more inside]
posted by troytroy at 12:39 PM PST - 12 comments

Amateur Historian Seeking Advice on Interviewing Sources

I'm writing a book about an event in local history and I'm doing a lot of new research using primary sources. As part of this, I've been interviewing descendants of the parties involved. What is the protocol or best practice for sharing your findings with them? [more inside]
posted by entropicamericana at 12:26 PM PST - 2 comments

I'd like to devour this (lamb) heart.

My local grocery had lamb's hearts today! I, being an adventurous and hungry person, bought two. How should I prepare them? [more inside]
posted by byzantienne at 11:38 AM PST - 9 comments

TattooFilter: Conjuring up a design based on something recited.

I'm booked for a consultation with a tattoo artist this weekend to design what I feel is my final tattoo, but the problem is: how do you create a tattoo based on the Shipping Forecast? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 11:37 AM PST - 13 comments

Demolishing a smoking shelter?

This structure
Is taking up far too much room in our garden and has to go. How do I either get rid of it, or morph it into a greenhouse? [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 11:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Good fantasy/D&D/wizard stories for young children?

I'm looking for short fantasy books in a Dungeons and Dragon style (knights, monsters, magic, etc.) that are suitable for young children (2-5 years old). [more inside]
posted by markblasco at 10:14 AM PST - 21 comments

Jewelry made by melting stuff?

My Girl Scout troop has voted to do the "Science Wizardry" and "Jeweler" badges. I'm looking for a way to combine two of the requirements: "melt something into something else," and any of the steps where they make jewelry. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 10:07 AM PST - 24 comments

Can you tell when you are (temporarily) photosensitive?

I'm on a 10-day course of Cipro (ciprofloxacin), which I've never taken before. Photosensitivity is one of its known potential side effects (and the fact that my doctor didn't seem to know this is a bit bothersome...). I'm mostly avoiding the sun while taking it, but during brief forays out into the noontime sun the last couple of days, it has felt like my skin is more sensitive to the intense rays. Any idea whether this is just in my mind (aka nocebo effect), or could this be genuine perception? [more inside]
posted by Creosote at 10:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Sugar, sugar... aw, honey, honey 🎶

Really brief, dumb question about nutrition: How bad is sugar for you if you're not overweight/obese or diabetic? [more inside]
posted by easter queen at 10:05 AM PST - 16 comments

switching from Android to iPhone: how does it work?

I am a Windows PC/Android person to the teeth, have never used any Apple hardware or software other than iTunes in my life, and am now suddenly in the position of having to use an iPhone 4S running iOS 8 as my main phone for the indefinite future. Everything about the iPhone is deeply confusing to me. Is there a way for me to recreate the Android (Lollipop) experience? If not, can you help me learn how to adjust? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 9:51 AM PST - 24 comments

Girl Seeks Perfect Paper Planner.

I can't seem to find the perfect planner for my needs, but I'm convinced it has to be out there somewhere. Help! [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 9:25 AM PST - 23 comments

Companion phrase for "get it, girl" that's not gross/douchey?

I'm hanging a typographic print of the phrase "get it girl" in my bathroom (similar to this) and would like to pair it with a similar-but-dude-oriented print. What phrase should I use that's short, pithy, and has a similar inspirational zing, but doesn't sound sappy or douchey? [more inside]
posted by alleycat01 at 9:17 AM PST - 21 comments

Ruminations on Past Unpleasantry

I've noticed in the past few years that I've been having a lot of unpleasant memories resurfacing in my head, whether randomly or triggered by something I see. I feel overwhelmed by these sometimes and want to be able to move past them and focus more on the present. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 8:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Key and lock: codependent no more?

Howdy MeFites! The lock on my front door is apparently suffering from separation anxiety; it refuses to release the key. The key still functions properly in all other ways but when I attempt to remove it from the lock it stubbornly stays put. While I empathize with their situation, I cannot leave for work without locking my front door and taking the key with me. Any recommendations for fixing besides "call a locksmith"? [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 8:44 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me sound like Linda Belcher

My friend lost a bet and I get to talk to her for an entire morning sounding like Linda Belcher from Bob's Burgers. How can I best sound like Linda? [more inside]
posted by analog at 8:33 AM PST - 7 comments

Retail availability of grain alcohol in New York State

Is high-proof (190 or higher) grain alcohol (Everclear, Gem, Graves, etc.) sold in New York State, and, if so, how difficult is it to find (especially in rural areas)? [more inside]
posted by enn at 8:31 AM PST - 7 comments

Bootcuts:skinnies::skinnies:???

In today's era of chaotic jeans trends, exactly what styles and colors of jeans does a mid-30s US woman wear if she wishes to appear polished, classy, but also not desperately un-hip... ideally, for like the next 2-3 years? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 8:09 AM PST - 19 comments

Where to stay in Detroit?

Pretty much what it says on the tin--heading to Detroit for a weekend in October, wondering where to target our hotel search. Recommendations from Detroiter Mefites and regular visitors? Greektown? Waterfront? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 7:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me watch paint dry.

At work, of late, I have been required to do a lot of what can be best described as a highly technical form of watching paint dry. The catch is that I need to be prepared to intervene immediately if the paint-drying process goes awry. Help me figure out how to stay sane. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 6:56 AM PST - 22 comments

London travel help needed!?!?

My husband is attending a conference the week after next, near charging cross, and myself and our 3 month old son get to join him! Yay! But now we're looking at hotels and having trouble finding something in our price range that has a nice area around it that I can putter around with the baby (about a thousand euros, less if possible, for the 26th- 1st) .. And we have particular needs... Details below the fold [more inside]
posted by pairofshades at 6:51 AM PST - 7 comments

I don't trust my boss.

I work for a small organization and the more I learn about how my boss runs it, the more wary I become that some of what is happening is not just mismanagement (as I first assumed), but possibly unethical and maybe even fraudulent behavior. Can/should I stay working there? If I stay, how can I work effectively when I have such reservations? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Should we get married anyway and figure it out later?

My partner leaves home from May-October every year for work. I can't join him due to the nature of my own work. This might change in the future, but we want to get married and I'm increasingly unsure I (or our marriage) can cope with this kind of situation long-term. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:10 AM PST - 30 comments

Contesting a will

My mother recently died. I acted as her live-in carer, to varying degrees, over the last 11 years (mainly the last few years). Do I have a reasonable case upon which to contest the will's equal apportionment of the estate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:09 AM PST - 24 comments

Housing Market - New Builds - why doesn't the purchase price ever drop?

I live in an expensive housing market. All the older homes in my area are being knocked down and huge new houses are being built on the lots. These homes stay on the market for extensive periods of time (over a year) without any drop in purchase price. How can builders afford to do this? [more inside]
posted by youdontmakefriendswithsalad at 4:06 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for happy and comfortable and maybe oddball clothing

I want to start wearing bright or happy sort of clothes that are comfortable to wear and vegan, so no fabrics like wool. I'd also like them to be affordable and easy to walk or ride my bike in. [more inside]
posted by katinka-katinka at 3:36 AM PST - 6 comments

September 15

Ack, daughter bit by a mouse!

Details inside. Bottom-line question: what to do?? [more inside]
posted by merejane at 10:00 PM PST - 12 comments

Song Identification: About Sneaking a Prostitute Onto a Military Base

A few years ago, I'm not sure how many, I was listening to an episode of Jesse Thorn's "Bullseye" podcast and heard a singer-songwriter perform a song sung from the point of view of someone stationed at a military base in either Afghanistan or Iraq, addressed to the prostitute that he's smuggled onto the base. I cannot recall who the performer was or what the song was called.
posted by Ipsifendus at 9:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Do we do NYE in HK with kids? And where do I stay in Guangzhou?

We're flying home to Sydney from HK on 1st January. Is NYE fun for families in HK? We're also supposed to be seeing family in Guangzhou, can you help me narrow down what area to stay in? [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 8:18 PM PST - 4 comments

Freakish Hands

What's up with these weird red spots on my knuckles and palms? [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me at 7:01 PM PST - 21 comments

Choosing public service over $$$

What to do if you're committed to public service work in a field that is generally corporate/money-driven (law)? How do you hold onto your principles and conviction, not to mention stop hating your classmates? [more inside]
posted by leedly at 7:00 PM PST - 29 comments

Learning woodworking on a small to medium scale

I've always wanted to learn about woodworking, but I know very little about it. I have a workshop in my garage that I primarily use for electronics. I have some room for wood tools, but not a ton. What are some resources to learn how to do woodworking without needing large amounts of space and equipment? [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 6:56 PM PST - 11 comments

Who is responsible for what in a condo water leak situation

My refrigerator has been leaking water for weeks to months now. Water damage to my downstairs neighbor's ceiling. Who is responsible for what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:24 PM PST - 9 comments

iPhone traveling from U.S. to Ireland -- what to do about charges?

My son's traveling from New York to Ireland on Saturday. He'll be there for about 5 days. He has an iPhone -- don't know the model, but I think it's the most recent one. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 5:55 PM PST - 14 comments

What to do after 150,000 miles?

I like following my car's maintenance schedule, as printed in the booklet that came with the car. But now I'm past the mileage covered in the book. What system should I follow now? [more inside]
posted by megancita at 5:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Two-day trips over Thanksgiving

Husband and I are seeking trip ideas for Thanksgiving (U.S.) that would involve leaving on Thanksgiving morning (Thursday) and returning Saturday. The dates are not flexible, so we would like to consider places we can fly to (or drive to) pretty quickly from western Mass. [more inside]
posted by dayintoday at 4:23 PM PST - 10 comments

Getting nothing done at work. Help?

I am having a significant, abnormal amount of difficulty getting anything accomplished at work. This problem has steadily been worsening over the last several months, and I am getting worried. How can I snap out of this? [more inside]
posted by dinnerdance at 3:04 PM PST - 21 comments

Hiding a cheesy plot device in plain sight

[FictionFilter] In the era of doxxing and all that, is it possible for a tech person with a high-profile position to keep his personal info -- and real name and identity -- under wraps? [more inside]
posted by St. Hubbins at 2:59 PM PST - 15 comments

How to get a divorce quickly/easily? (Seattle, WA)

My ex and I have been divorced for years, but apparently the service we paid to file the papers hasn't and I'm just completely confused about all the paperwork and crap that goes with it. The ex is visiting my city in the next couple weeks - can we just walk into a lawyers office and get it knocked out? Anyone have a lawyer recommendation in Seattle, WA that will just take care of it so we don't have to do anything? [more inside]
posted by Craig at 2:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Who played this Henry V in 1929?

Pathe has footage of an actor from 1929 performing the 'Once More into the breach dear friends' speech from William Shakespeare's Henry V. I've had a look around but can't find solid proof of anyone and wondered if any you recognised him? Asking purely because it's been bugging me.
posted by feelinglistless at 2:40 PM PST - 5 comments

Need help gaining muscle.

I'm 33 years old, 5'9, down from 165lb (21% body fat) to 140lb (18%) in 2.5 years. My goal is to reach 10% body fat by the end of this year. [more inside]
posted by samcivic at 2:30 PM PST - 24 comments

How do you create an app?

I have an idea for an app for smart phones, but have no idea on how to develop the idea to a working app. Can anybody walk me through the process?
posted by Coffee Bean at 2:18 PM PST - 8 comments

How do i get my girls on TV?

How can i connect various gizmos/peripherals so my girls can watch themselves perform on TV? [more inside]
posted by ramix at 2:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Learn angular offline

Looking for resources to learn Angular.js offline? [more inside]
posted by echo target at 2:02 PM PST - 5 comments

It was September 15, 1985 and....

What was it like to be alive on September 15, 1985? I was born 30 years ago today. One of my best friends had a (beautiful and healthy) baby yesterday, and I couldn't help but think how much I will have to tell him about the day, the month, the year he was born (Black Lives Matter, Obergefell, Donald Trump's campaign, the continuing Kardashian plot to take over the world, the ISIS beheadings, Pope Francis, the lion-murdering dentist, Kim Davis's last stand, the rise of avocado toast, and on and on and on). My parents don't reminisce about what the day of my birth was like, despite my asking, and I have always wondered: what was like to be around 30 years ago today--from the mundane to the profound, what do you remember about that time?
posted by anonymous at 1:45 PM PST - 137 comments

Help me avoid a LLCP tax mess

I have a complicated situation for 2014, and I'm running out of time to sort it out. Details within. [more inside]
posted by roygbv at 1:43 PM PST - 5 comments

Sales Tax for Online Purchase from Co. with no physical location in VT

I just purchased some home automation items from Belkin and was surprised they charged me sales tax when they have no physical location in the state of Vermont. They won't reimburse me without proof from me that Vermont doesn't charge sales tax for such transactions. [more inside]
posted by terrapin at 1:36 PM PST - 8 comments

How would tide-affected life forms function if transported to space?

What life forms from Earth are specifically affected by the moon and tides, and do we know anything about how these plants, animals or other living creatures would be affected by putting them in outer space? [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak at 1:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Looking for great reading on "2001: A Space Odyssey"

I'm looking for recommendations for great reading material on "2001: A Space Odyssey" (the movie, not the novel or source story). I could go through and read all the reviews, but are there any particularly noteworthy pieces (magazine, Web, newspaper) or books out there that I can't miss? Interesting theories or discussions? Other non-reading media would be of interest as well. Thanks in advance.
posted by jroybal at 1:07 PM PST - 8 comments

Travel Ennui

I am midway through a Round the World trip, which I have had to put on hold for the most unexpected of reasons: I don't care where I travel to next. I have dropped anchor for a while to address this situation, but having done so, I now wake up every day and look inside to find, well, nothing. So do I call it a day and head home, or roll the dice and carry on regardless? [more inside]
posted by The_Partridge_Family at 1:00 PM PST - 28 comments

Is there a name for this type of context in language?

"Après moi, le deluge" is a famous phrase. Literally it means "After me, the deluge." Idiomatically it essentially means "I don't care what happens after I'm gone, even if the world ends." I get all that. But what is missing from the Wikipedia page I linked to is the historical/cultural context; "the deluge" figuratively refers to the biblical flood described in Genesis 6-9. Is there a specific word for this sort of context for a phrase or term of art? [more inside]
posted by Wretch729 at 12:55 PM PST - 18 comments

Like a rave, but for old boring people?

So, at the relatively advanced age of 36, I've realized I really enjoy (several subgenres of) electronic dance music, and that I also really enjoy dancing now that I'm actually bothering to learn. Where can a non-drug-using, generally introverted (but not shy) person go to indulge this newfound enthusiasm? [more inside]
posted by aecorwin at 12:47 PM PST - 11 comments

How to relax/meditate without falling asleep?

I've been told I need to take regular rest breaks during the day, and do relaxation/meditation exercises in them, but not sleep. The problem is that any of these sort of exercises seem to send me to sleep. Does anyone have any ideas how I can stop this happening, so I can relax but still stay awake? [more inside]
posted by robintw at 12:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Setting myself up for the Future

Tips for looking out for my future self [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 12:27 PM PST - 17 comments

I want to do great things but my brain won't let me

How do I develop more "grit" and push harder against life's challenges? Difficulty: OCD. [more inside]
posted by MetaFilter World Peace at 12:07 PM PST - 9 comments

9/11. Oy. Are there any active online support groups for 9/11 survivors?

Are there any active online support groups for 9/11 survivors? I was in midtown when the WTC was attacked in 2001. That brought on several days of stressful situations for myself and others in the city (evacuating due to bomb threats, going near the site only to run for your life because fears of other buildings falling near the site, etc). I coped as everyone else did in the city, and for the past several years I've avoided most if not all 9/11 coverage. This year, the anniversary passed without me realizing it - but then on the 12th I was reading an article about first responders lobbying congress and it sent me down a rabbit hole of watching (for the first time) life news footage of the attacks. [more inside]
posted by zettoo at 11:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Should I ask to start antibiotics preemtively?

Two of my spawn are down with strep throat today. I shared utensils (ick) with one of them on Sunday, and have some business-related travel on Thursday. I have no symptoms, yet. Should I go to my primary care doctor and ask for an antibiotic prescription? [more inside]
posted by QuantumMeruit at 10:50 AM PST - 12 comments

Can anyone tell me what this plant is?

I'm trying to ID a plant in my back yard that recently flowered. Photos of the plant in question. I'm located in southern Illinois. [more inside]
posted by metaphorever at 10:47 AM PST - 8 comments

Pivoting away from academia in the Netherlands

Expat in NL seeking advice about non-academic jobs related to social science/statistics. [more inside]
posted by ubermuffin at 10:32 AM PST - 2 comments

Do You Know What Song I Mean?

I've been trying to identify an elusive cover of Lee Michaels' 1971 song "Do You Know What I Mean" that I remember hearing on the radio over twenty years ago, circa the late eighties/early nineties. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 10:32 AM PST - 3 comments

What's my best option for streaming tomorrow's debate to my Roku?

What's my best option for streaming tomorrow's Republican debate to my Roku? [more inside]
posted by gfrobe at 10:31 AM PST - 4 comments

Choosing high-grade professional mens dress shoes

What style and color of professional high-grade dress shoes should I invest in? [more inside]
posted by GoingToShopping at 10:13 AM PST - 20 comments

Spanish language version of HALT (hungry, angry, lonely, tired)?

I have an English-language health handout that includes the self-care check-yourself acronym HALT (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired - more background on it here). I want to have the handout translated into Spanish. Is there an "official" Spanish-language version of HALT that therapists use? I don't want to make up something new. [more inside]
posted by cadge at 9:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Online restaurant reservations in Italy: what do you use?

I usually use something like Opentable in the U.S. What's the best app or site with similar functionality for restaurants in Rome and Florence? [more inside]
posted by Right On Red at 9:19 AM PST - 3 comments

How to be a great live-in landlord?

My partner and I own a house in a small Ohio city, and want to rent out a couple of the extra bedrooms -- we've already got a potential housemate interested in moving in at the end of the month. How can I make sure this goes smoothly for everyone? [more inside]
posted by Pwoink at 8:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Sample identification - a small good thing

I'm trying to identify a sample from the first few minutes of this album. The sample occurs at 0:27, 0:47, 1:02, and so forth. It's the muted organ/electric piano chords; one chord played 4 times, followed by another played once. I know it sounds kinda generic, but I swear that this is a sample from a jazz or R&B song that I recorded off the radio in the mid-late 80s; in the original that second chord follows the same pattern as the first. This is driving me bonkers. Help!
posted by googly at 8:52 AM PST - 6 comments

Support after laryngectomy

Our friend has just had a laryngectomy for cancer. We have read a self-help book for laryngectomees but there isn't a lot in there for how friends and family can help. If you have had experience with this, we would appreciate any tips and suggestions for how we can best support him. He is a very sociable person and the lack of communication until he learns to speak again is a particular concern.
posted by canoehead at 8:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Sleep scheduling hacks

I need to go to bed and get up (much) earlier, and be moderately functional in between, asap. What are your tips? (Difficulty level: chronic night owl) [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 8:37 AM PST - 25 comments

English language job in Japan that is not teaching

I have been offered the dream position for me - teaching English in Japan. It is with a good school, I have up to two years to take up the offer, and there is a visa attached which will also mean my son and husband can come as dependents. And if we went it would be for a number of years, at least. Only fly in the ointment is what is my husband going to do with himself? [more inside]
posted by thepuppetisasock at 7:55 AM PST - 18 comments

Bam: The History of (modern) Rock and Roll

What are some of your favorite books/documentaries on the scenes and bands that influenced or were major in alternative & indie rock? [more inside]
posted by glaucon at 7:48 AM PST - 20 comments

RSS Reader / sync that supports HTTP authenticated feeds?

I've always just used NetNewsWire, but the new version is out and it's uninspiring, so I'm considering my options. Sync and online options would be nice, but I have some authenticated feeds. Do any of the online RSS readers support HTTP basic auth?
posted by vibratory manner of working at 7:39 AM PST - 4 comments

Metaphor for a Skilled Worker with Solid Experience but Minimal Degree

Can you think of a good metaphor or analogy that puts a positive spin on a person who has a lot of skills and experience in a technical career field and is very good at what they do, but who's education or degree is not as advanced as others who have high degrees in the same field? [more inside]
posted by purefusion at 7:33 AM PST - 19 comments

Nail polish blogs for the dexterously challenged t-rex.

I'm looking for blogs or youtube channels that feature nail designs in the intermediate skill level range. On a scale of 1 to 10 I am looking for 5-6. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 7:20 AM PST - 15 comments

Bug Line Up

Can anyone identify this bug (imgur link, two photos, with tweezers for scale)? Found in a home in suburban Chicago, killed by this handsome fellow.
posted by crush-onastick at 6:58 AM PST - 13 comments

[advertorial filter]Need interview questions for management school dean

Hey hive mind, I'm in desperate need for some last minute help. I'm slated to conduct an 90 minute interview with the dean of a top-tier U.S. west coast based management school (public uni, though the school appears to be independently supported) tomorrow morning, and I'm drawing blanks as to what to ask her. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet at 6:48 AM PST - 6 comments

Video Presentation App With Automatic Pauses

Is there an iOS app that lets you build pauses into a video's playback at specific points? Here's my dream scenario: a video begins playing on the iPad until it hits the first pause point, like at 0:07. The video stays paused there until the user next taps the screen, at which point it plays until the next pause point, and waits there. Is there anything out there like that?
posted by Ian A.T. at 6:47 AM PST - 1 comment

How to fix the broken stove burner grate on an antique Magic Chef stove?

How do we fix a cracked stove burner grate on an antique Magic Chef stove? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 6:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Where do the natural science geeks hang out?

I'm researching examples of great online engagement focused on the natural world. [more inside]
posted by freya_lamb at 5:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Gardasil for boys?

Should we have our 12 year old son immunized against HPV using Gardasil? [more inside]
posted by GhostintheMachine at 3:59 AM PST - 28 comments

September 14

How do I manage people, including my current boss?

I'm likely to be promoted to a position that's higher than I've ever been, and given some struggles I've had in the past with this organization, I need some advice. [more inside]
posted by Night_owl at 10:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Australian movie--ack!--I can't remember the title

Help me find this (I think) Australian movie [more inside]
posted by sugarbx19 at 9:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Ear drum surgery: is it risky?

I'd like to correct a pretty significant hole in my ear drum but am worried that this type of surgery might have a pretty high botch rate. [more inside]
posted by GlassHeart at 9:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Wanna buy a $20,000 car or a $20 lamp?

Which job would be better for someone who would like to keep their sanity: working as a car salesperson or working at a retail chain store? [more inside]
posted by pea_shoot at 7:32 PM PST - 24 comments

Are polyamorous relationships more stable?

I've seen a lot of couples go through serious relationship issues when both members of the couple are under significant stress simultaneously - does it help to have a third (or fourth) "partner" to stabilize the relationship when two of the members of the relationship are losing their minds? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 6:15 PM PST - 32 comments

How would you rent out this area?

It's not exactly an apartment, but it's not just a room either. We thought maybe a Mother-in-law suite? But there's no kitchen... [more inside]
posted by MildredMakenpace at 5:41 PM PST - 35 comments

How should I feel about ocean levels rising when I live in Louisiana?

Given: I think too much. We're fixing up the bathroom and I'm considering putting some cash into fixing the driveway, but then I wonder if the house will be (literally) under water in a few years time... (Sulphur, LA - on the Texas side of Lake Charles). Am I paranoid or is this valid?
posted by ashtabula to opelika at 5:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Where can I watch This Is England '90 in the US?

So the first episode of This Is England '90 just came out, and it's my very favorite show. Problem: how do I watch it in the US? [more inside]
posted by dysh at 4:13 PM PST - 3 comments

From Vampire Red to Hot Pink or in between

I use Manic Panic to color my (short) hair. I'm wondering how it may look going hot pink from red or a mix of the two for a new color. How's your hair look with the hot pink? What's the best transition or mix? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 4:00 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me find ultra-comfortable, padded sole, but stylish footwear

I need various styles of footwear that work for me, which seems to mean extremely padded, soft, pressure absorbing soles, which are very gentle on my feet even when I walk and stand a lot, with my relatively high body weight. [more inside]
posted by Joakim Ziegler at 4:00 PM PST - 12 comments

You are not my barista

Why does the same level of caffeine affect me differently in different beverages? [more inside]
posted by ariadne's threadspinner at 3:50 PM PST - 20 comments

Dealing with anxiety about parenting

I'm good at doing my best and resting easy when I'm alone with my kids, but I get very anxious about them in social situations. My 5 year old son is strong willed, very physical, and likes to make people laugh. It's a rough combination--all three of those traits produce behaviors that have the potential to offend people and/or be against the rules. Any tips for dealing with this kind of anxiety? [more inside]
posted by tk at 3:38 PM PST - 11 comments

Recommendation for a Cake Bakery near Fisherman's Wharf in San Francisco

Mom is turning 80 this weekend and we're celebrating at her favorite restaurant on the Wharf. We'd like to have a cake delivered to the restaurant, but the two bakeries the restaurant recommended either do not deliver (according to their website) or want to balance their budget with the delivery charge. I'd appreciate a recommendation for a place that can do a cake that would serve 10 or so. Many thanks.
posted by DandyRandy at 3:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to find lawyers for our fellowship?

You are a criminal defense lawyer in the English- or French-speaking world looking for fellowship opportunities abroad. Is there a specific website or mailing list where you'd be likely to look? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 2:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a custom tie vendor

I am currently looking for custom tie vendor for a large order. The ties will have a logo on it. The vendors I keep finding have low quality fabric. Know any high-end custom tie vendors?
posted by likeapen at 2:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Denver area Thanksgiving Dinner?

My parents will be coming in to visit us in Denver for Thanksgiving this year. I'm looking for some recommendations for a spot to dine. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 1:55 PM PST - 2 comments

Online video annotation tool, perhaps?

My beloved online video tool Popcorn Maker is being retired by Mozilla. Can anyone recommend a worthy replacement? [more inside]
posted by Ms. Toad at 1:52 PM PST - 1 comment

Seattle specific: Where should we have lunch tomorrow?

We'll be at Virginia Mason, with time for lunch from roughly 11:30 - 2:30. Any recommendations? Any warnings of places to avoid? [more inside]
posted by kestralwing at 1:42 PM PST - 14 comments

Unique background music for driving around adult workshop attendees?

For my new job, I collect attendees at the hotel and bring them to the office, then bring them back at the end of the day. I do this every month for a week - in total, 4-5 hours on the road. So far I've been playing Andy Fink's Corporate Report cd, but I would like some more variety. Please recommend equally particular albums that would go in the background of a jovial van ride. Maybe some instrumental 70s rock, or a really solid dub album?
posted by rebent at 1:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Take it easy on yourself..

Feeling anxiety/paranoid at a new job. Help. [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune at 1:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Shoefilter: flat feet, city walkin' shoes?

I am looking for a pair of durable, nice-looking, women's flats that won't kill my ankle. Basically, if Birkenstock made a ballet flat, I would buy a hundred pairs. Specific wishes inside... [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 1:10 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me find the perfect (woman's) boot

I need to start wearing more supportive shoes, but hate having many pairs and want something durable and versatile. I'm also pretty clueless about shoe style. Help me MeFashionistas! Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by annekate at 1:07 PM PST - 7 comments

House Hunting Episode Set in Victoria, BC

A relative is insisting I watch an episode of a house hunting show he recently caught on HGTV Canada. The episode was set in Victoria, BC, and among the properties featured were a float home and an expensive condo, which was the winning property. He's fairly certain the show was part of the House Hunters franchise, but with the main show having over five hundred episodes, as well as some likely looking spin-offs (International, Million Dollar Homes, Houseboat Hunters, and Tiny House Hunters), I've had no luck finding the episode I'm looking for. Does this ring any bells?
posted by northernish at 1:05 PM PST - 4 comments

QuoteFilter: what did Fleming's Bond think about self-doubt?

I remember it was something about how self-doubt is the deadliest emotion, and most secret agents were young men because old men worry too much. I can't find it via Google and I forget which Bond novel it was from. Anyone remember this? Thanks!
posted by sninctown at 12:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Healthy Expectations for New Dating Situation?

I am six months out of a 3.5 years serious relationship (and very traumatizing break up). I've been dating a new person for two weeks. The dates themselves are great and he shows many signs of wishing to slowly move forward with me. However, I am very anxious between dates. He doesn't text me much between dates and is self-admittedly not a "planner" (e.g. we will have a date but he doesn't confirm day-of; just texts that he is coming over 30 minutes before the agreed-upon time). I can't tell if the anxiety is from (1) normal new relationship feelings; (2) my gut telling me this guy is not into me enough; or (3) my own desperation to feel like I have the stability and constant contact of a LTR again. What are your stories of the first month or two of your own relationships? I have never dated quite like this (we met online) and I want to be more okay with the "dance" and ensuing miscommunications/awkwardness. [more inside]
posted by minoraltercation at 12:42 PM PST - 13 comments

Where did we go last? And do you remember who paid?

What's the best iOS app for a couple to share their restaurant experiences with each other? [more inside]
posted by komara at 12:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Show me your finest advanced search interfaces

I lead the development of an online bibliographic database for a government science agency. As we are planning next year's work, I'm looking for examples of advanced search interfaces that work well for both superusers and casual users. [more inside]
posted by rockindata at 11:50 AM PST - 6 comments

Trying T-Mobile

My contract with AT&T just ended. I've pre-ordered an unlocked iPhone 6s from Apple. I want to try T-Mobile, but keep my AT&T account meanwhile (it's unlimited data). T-Mobile's "Test Drive" program is backordered 6 weeks, so what's the cheapest way to get a T-Mobile SIM to test their voice and data coverage? Pre-paid? Pay-as-you-go? I understand I won't have use of my usual phone number while testing with their SIM.
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Rootology Replacement

Rootology works very well for my debilitating allergies. Unfortunately, it also gives me acne. Do you have any alternatives? [more inside]
posted by nubianinthedesert at 11:21 AM PST - 3 comments

I don't know what or how to teach my 5-year-old about god...

My daughter is starting kindergarten at Catholic school. We are atheists (although raised Catholic). She will be learning about god in school, learning prayers, etc. and I basically just realized that I have NO CLUE how to navigate this. Do I let her believe, or do I tell her it's all just pretend? Is there an in between? Please help. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 11:07 AM PST - 43 comments

Stories about Women who are Fighting Sexual Predators

Hey Brilliant People, happy Monday! I'm looking for film, tv, novel, play, etc. examples of women heros who are fighting against sexual predators especially ones who are doing it in secret? Like super heros! Can anyone think of a character like that? Thanks so much!
posted by sunnyblues48 at 11:02 AM PST - 25 comments

Cleopatra in Context

It seems modern history books are bad about depicting Cleopatra as merely the love interest of Julius Caesar and downplaying her real historical significance. Help me get some context for her role as a person of power, minus the modern sexism. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 10:22 AM PST - 11 comments

Where classical and pop music collide

I've been listening to Ben Fold's new album So There pretty much non-stop for the past couple weeks. Suffice it to say, I absolutely love it, and I'd like to find more artists/albums that have similar qualities to both parts of the album, but I'm stumped as to where I should look for it. [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 10:20 AM PST - 11 comments

Why is my rental property getting no love from prospective tenants?

I'm in a very tight rental market in a Denver suburb. There is a 96% occupancy rate and I'm hearing people are having a tough time finding places to rent. I'm not getting much interest. Why? See my listing after the jump. [more inside]
posted by 4Lnqvv at 8:03 AM PST - 73 comments

Tom Waits-esque Hip Hop

I'm looking for recommendations for hip-hop tracks that have backing instrumentals that sound like Tom Waits tracks or that are straight-up mashups with hip hop tracks. (This doesn’t just mean sampling. “Oodles of O’s” by De La Soul samples Waits, but it doesn’t sound like Waits track.) Thanks!
posted by Going To Maine at 7:05 AM PST - 7 comments

Versitile, intutive, well-supported music player for Linux?

I have a huge pile of digital music in a wide variety of formats (FLAC, WAV, AIFF, MP3, M4A, etc.) and am looking for a Linux music player. I've got some specific - and maybe pipedreamish- requirements: [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 6:46 AM PST - 8 comments

2004 Mini Cooper S Convertible: Do I Want Extended Service Warrantee?

I'm picking up a used 2004 Mini Cooper S convertible later today. CarFax was clean, only one owner, 45,000 miles on it. This is my third Mini (second used one) and in my experience, they've been reliable cars with no major issues. The Mini dealer asked if I want Mini's Motoring Protection Program; cheapest cost is $2k for 2 years. Do I want this? [more inside]
posted by kinetic at 6:30 AM PST - 7 comments

Obscure question about Arches paper watermark

When did Arches start using the watermark "MBM"? [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 6:19 AM PST - 2 comments

A stylish disaster -- Should we avoid Milan during 2015 Fashion Week?

We booked a trip to Milan September 23-27th. After the fact, we learned it is Fashion Week! Should we try to avoid the city and just escape into the countryside? Will museums still be open to the public? Bonus question: Is the Milan Expo worth attending? [more inside]
posted by BusyBusyBusy at 5:54 AM PST - 5 comments

i triple dog dare ya!

Which accomplishments, artistic projects, records, businesses, enrollments, discoveries, inventions, etc came about as a result of a dare?
posted by divabat at 4:36 AM PST - 19 comments

Timeful substitutes?

I love the Timeful app, but it's been sold to Google and is about to shut down. I know that there aren't any time management apps as good as Timeful, but are there any potential substitutes that will get me through? The scheduling capability is what I'm after: I want to be able to give a task and a completion date and have the work scheduled for me. Ideas much appreciated!
posted by rubbish bin night at 2:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Being kind to my cranky knee

I have the beginnings of knee pain and instability that's not doctor-worthy yet. Patellar tendon area. What's going on mechanically and how can I help it recover? [more inside]
posted by lokta at 2:42 AM PST - 18 comments

How do I simplify my iMac photo collection by only using Picasa?

I manage my photos on my iMac with Picasa, but have realized that Apple's Photo app has sort of taken control of the library duties, and the "photos library.photolibrary" file is now in the tens of gigs...in short, that's way too large and I don't know where to start fixing this [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 2:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Universal English

Is there any sort of dictionary or text corpora that outline which of a number of synonyms are the most universally understood by other language speakers or the least colloquial? [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 1:32 AM PST - 6 comments

September 13

My family's growing. Which large SUV should we buy?

We have two big dogs and will be adding a second carseat in the next couple weeks. Our crossover is already not cutting it space-wise. What large SUV should we get? [more inside]
posted by ugly at 11:48 PM PST - 25 comments

Help me ship a package to Saudi Arabia

Have you ever shipped something to Saudi Arabia? Do you know about organic grains? If you answered yes to either, you might be able to help me. [more inside]
posted by CtrlAltD at 10:43 PM PST - 7 comments

How to help students with ADD/ADHD in higher education?

Could you recommend resources (reading materials, interviews, blogs, names of experts in the field) to help me become a better teacher for adult students with ADD/ADHD? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:45 PM PST - 4 comments

The promotion I deserve went to an external candidate. How do I cope?

After a long recruitment process, the promotion I worked so hard for, and was expecting, was offered to someone external to the organization. I didn't expect this, as I had been receiving a lot of feedback that I was doing very well from a lot of people on the interview team. Importantly, the one person I was not receiving that feedback from was the person who ultimately had the final say in the decision (the head of our organization). So, it's pretty clear that I was pretty much given a no confidence vote by the person who makes all the important decisions around here, and in whose hands my professional fate rests. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:45 PM PST - 24 comments

Advice for LED light installation

I am after some good old collective internet wisdom on the best way to go about a LED light installation behind my headboard and bedside tables. Just wondering if anyone had done a similar project and could offer any tips, especially on the correct way that I should go about connecting the strips? [more inside]
posted by Shibui at 9:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Where might I enjoy living?

Having recently graduated college, I’m toying with the idea of moving. While I’m mostly content with living in my current city for now, part of me wonders if there isn’t someplace out there that might be a better fit. So I come to you looking for suggestions! [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 9:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Doctor ... uh ... who?

Which episode of Dr. Who should a total newbie see? [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising at 9:03 PM PST - 37 comments

Why would my doctor prescribe me something I can buy over the counter?

My doctor prescribed me regular ol' Tylenol--couldn't he have just recommended that I take my preferred OTC pain reliever? [more inside]
posted by lovableiago at 8:51 PM PST - 18 comments

Is MIA Terminal D accessible airside from Terminal G?

Flying out of MIA next week from Terminal G (United Domestic), but have a Membership for a lounge in Terminal D. Is it possible to walk between the two Terminals post-security/airside? The MIA website maps are vague and haven't been able to find the answer there. [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 8:31 PM PST - 3 comments

What beer do you drink when watching Arkansas Razorbacks football?

I'm dating someone new, she's originally from southern Arkansas. Next Saturday she's invited me to watch the Razorbacks football game with her and her friends from southern Arkansas. I would like to show up with the appropriate beer but I haven't been able to determine what that might be using the power of google. [more inside]
posted by palegirl at 8:13 PM PST - 19 comments

Shy, inexperienced woman needs help getting things started with shy guy

I'm a woman in my mid-30s with very little dating or relationship experience. Several months ago I met a younger guy (early-mid 20s) and we've become gradually closer. We now exchange texts most days and have recently spent time alone together on a couple of occasions in frustratingly ambiguous contexts. (Is this a date? Search me.) I'm reasonably sure he's interested in me, and I'm positively sure I'm interested in him. But I need help moving things beyond this weird limbo stage. [more inside]
posted by SoLongLivesThis at 7:22 PM PST - 19 comments

Newbie kitchen questions

As my earlier question will show, i am not a fan of cooking. But I have finally decided that I want to learn how to cook and reduce my dependence on seamless. You might have guessed that I am very new to cooking. In fact, i am figuring out my way around kitchen. Sharp knives, hot surfaces, hot oil, food germs etc are kind of anxiety inducing. And I am really anxious about making a mistake and poisoning myself. So, some questions: [more inside]
posted by TheLittlePrince at 6:54 PM PST - 31 comments

Vanillerotica, please

After years of sexual repression, I'm having something of a personal renaissance. I want to read more erotica, but it has been difficult to find any that fits my taste. I seek reasonably well-written, two-party, heterosexual, consensual sexytimes. [more inside]
posted by possumbrie at 6:26 PM PST - 18 comments

Escalators and vertigo and tiling, oh-my!

Do you have strong feelings about escalator design? [more inside]
posted by aloiv2 at 6:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Home Theater With AirPlay

I want to add a home theater surround system, but also want it to be able to play music wirelessly with the rest of the house via AirPlay. [more inside]
posted by cell divide at 6:02 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me ID this song I heard at Burning Man with 'baby elephant' in it?

Heard some song with lines about elephants, now might die if I don't hear it again. Google has failed me. [more inside]
posted by GastrocNemesis at 5:45 PM PST - 9 comments

What does Point Reyes smell like?

There's a particular scent I associate with the coastal SF Bay Area, in particular the Point Reyes area, though I've smelled it as far south as Big Sur. Because of that, I associate it with redwoods, but I'm pretty sure it's not just the redwoods I'm smelling. It's a little floral but also slightly sharp and astringent--oddly, as lovely as it smells, it reminds me a bit of the Clairol hair dye I used as a teenager. What is it?
posted by rhiannonstone at 4:55 PM PST - 21 comments

How many times can an organization require a DBS check?

I volunteer for an educational charity and got a DBS check at their request in 2013. At that time, they didn't have a process in place for checking volunteers so I found my own provider. Last year, the new administrator was collating the DBS checks for all the trustees and the board. In the intervening time, they'd chosen a specific provider for the charity to use going forward and got everyone to bring the requisite documentation in person. I brought in my actual DBS certificate. They were confused, and they said they weren't sure it would be valid if they hadn't done the check themselves. [more inside]
posted by tel3path at 2:33 PM PST - 5 comments

What is this shooty thing?

What is this old artillery-shell-type thing that I bought at a flea market? Side view; underside view. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 2:19 PM PST - 11 comments

Need recommendations for cross-country movers!

My wife and I are moving across the country (PHL -> SEA) and are starting to research moving options. We are looking for recommendations for reliable and easy-to-work-with moving companies who do cross-country moves (or warnings of companies that you would avoid). Other tips and tricks for making this the easiest move possible are also welcome! [more inside]
posted by workingdankoch at 1:12 PM PST - 12 comments

Architectural salvage tourism?

I have a Victorian house in Southern California and am interested in restoring it using period-appropriate house parts. These are in short supply in my area and most architectural salvage places are not so internet-savvy, so I'm wondering if there might be a part of the country within road trip distance where the pickings are better. [more inside]
posted by contraption at 1:01 PM PST - 12 comments

Sago Palm Houseplant Problems

I have a small Sago Palm in the living room that seems perfectly happy sending out new growth and then letting them die. (Photos) I thought the new fronds would mature into new leaves but they uncurl and then just yellow and die. I was told not to cut the yellowing fronds off as the plant self-cannibalizes, but they're not very attractive - how do I either stop the fronds from dying or discourage new growth?
posted by The Whelk at 12:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Ongoing fictional podcasts

After a post on the Blue last week, I started listening to The Black Tapes and am looking for other podcasts that tell an ongoing fictional story. [more inside]
posted by Lyn Never at 10:50 AM PST - 10 comments

What is a good underarm deodorant for 13 yo boy?

Wondering if Speed Stick or whatever is an issue for my 13 yo son. Since he is growing etc etc, are there any potential risks of using regular deodorant from the drug store? I am NOT considering anti-antiperspirant, btw. Any suggestions that don't involve making a trip to a healthfood store or homeopath would be welcomed. [more inside]
posted by Nevin at 10:25 AM PST - 29 comments

Looking for a replacement for the Kathmandu Guest House

I just arrived in Kathmandu and am looking for a cheap room at a safe, cozy-ish guest house. [more inside]
posted by blueberry at 10:14 AM PST - 4 comments

In the movie Friends With Benefits, there's this logo animation...

I'm not sure exactly what to call this. I'm collecting examples of obvious miscommunications in movie production that no one cared enough about to get fixed. I noticed one of them in the movie Friends with Benefits. Can you help me find this clip online? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 9:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Gift for 13-yr old Boy Who Needs Nothing

Please help with your best gift recommendations for a smart, thoughtful 13-yr old boy whose interests have included superheroes, LEGOs, computer games and sports. [more inside]
posted by Glinn at 9:20 AM PST - 28 comments

Medicare Part B Screw Up

A beloved relative of mine neglected to sign up for medicare part b during her enrollment window. Before the window reopened for her to register she fell ill and has had two emergency surgeries in the last two weeks. So what now? She otherwise is uninsured, although does have part a. [more inside]
posted by JPD at 9:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Where's My Gift?

What should I do if a close family member neglected to acknowledge my kid's birthday? [more inside]
posted by Fairchild at 8:49 AM PST - 50 comments

Best pet for a studio apartment

I would love to have a pet, but live in a 40sqm studio apartment. What would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA at 8:39 AM PST - 32 comments

What are some futuristic consumer products you know?

I am looking for futuristic everyday consumer products that are the result of advanced research and development. Like stuff made for space travel, or extreme environments and situations, e.g. the Fisher Space Pen, highly functional workout clothes, Soylent, etc. Basically products that makes you think you're living in the future. Industry doesn't matter.
posted by Foci for Analysis at 8:12 AM PST - 23 comments

Recommendations for enjoyable, easy-to-comprehend short stories

I’m looking for recommendations for conventional short stories that are reasonably easy to read and have some literary merit. When I say “conventional”, I mean stories that have a distinct plot, with recognizable characters, and some kind of clear resolution at the end. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 7:20 AM PST - 18 comments

Visiting Belgium after Senegal: Will I need Yellow Fever Certification?

Soon, I'll be going to Dakar for <48 hours, followed by a few days in Belgium, before returning to the US. I've completely flaked on travel vaccinations, and the trip is getting close. I'm current on the more standard immunizations. I don't think that Belgium requires a yellow fever certificate, but I'm not completely sure. Any suggestions?
posted by armacy at 7:16 AM PST - 2 comments

September 12

DRONTAL for Cats - How soon is too soon?

Hi, My cat has elevated ALT and some anemia. This is being treated with antibiotics and supplements. She has had a flea infestion after being dewormed in April. Vet said it was ok to deworm now. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 10:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Sister's husband filing for divorce. When does she need her own lawyer?

She's got a meeting scheduled with her husband and his lawyer, and she doesn't have a lawyer of her own yet. [more inside]
posted by TheBraveLittleSock at 8:54 PM PST - 50 comments

Should I be skeptical of a doctor prescribing weight loss pills?

My doctor wants to discuss taking weight loss drugs even though I have a normal BMI. Am I right to find this sketchy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:08 PM PST - 27 comments

Why is a networked computer an hour and 4 minutes off in the time?

This is a Windows 7 machine running a specialized HR app that looks like it was developed in house for a local, large retail grocery chain. Because of some new construction, it was shut off for a day or two recently, and now that it has been powered up and rebooted, and the time it reports in a floating message is an hour and 4 min. behind current CA. time. Why is that? [more inside]
posted by pjmoy at 8:05 PM PST - 15 comments

Where can I go to see a command line ninja?

I'm having trouble finding a video clip of someone using a command line / terminal quite fast, ideally using command line shortcuts and hotkeys. Basically, a command line ninja doing his or her thing. [more inside]
posted by tasty at 7:58 PM PST - 15 comments

How can I stop biting the skin on my fintertips?

In addition to fingernail biting, I have a habit of biting off the skin on my fingers (fingertips and first joint, where the layer of dead skin is thickest - it is starting to get calloused). Is there a product that can soften this skin? Or something that could soak into the skin (and nails?) to make it taste awful? Possibly relevant: I work with my hands (think gardening).
posted by gray17 at 7:31 PM PST - 9 comments

Why does my cat only love me when she's in jail?

I have a kitten that was feral until I got her at about four months. In her quarantine pen she gradually came to trust us and became very affectionate. When we let her join the rest of the household cats she fit right in with them but was totally skittish with us. She wouldn't let us pet her or even approach too close. I recently had to put her back in quarantine and she's right back to her old, lovey ways. [more inside]
posted by irisclara at 6:47 PM PST - 15 comments

Shopping near Golden Gate Av / Divisadero St (SF, CA)?

Particularly veggies tomorrow (Sunday farmers market?). But also anything else noteworthy. We've found Trader Joe's, but are somewhat spoiled by local grown veg + fruit in Chile (freshness, variety and price (although tbh price isn't actually a problem, finance wise, it's just, my god how can one tomato cost a dollar...?))
posted by andrewcooke at 6:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Settings GPS Data Logger

I would like to use my Old Wintec WBT-201 GPS Data logger to keep track where we are taking pictures. Given the limited storage space on the device I want to minimize the amount of data points that are collected. No need to record speed, direction etc. Its just when we are hiking to log every minute or so our location. I can charge the battery but cant' download the data for 12 day's. Using the "Time Machine" software to access the settings page but am confused about the settings. Any advice?
posted by Mac-Expert at 6:12 PM PST - 1 comment

analogy/metaphor between a person and a diesel engine?

Looking for a lost quotation that ran along the lines of 's/he was like a diesel engine - reluctant to start, but having once suffered that indignity, unwilling to stop'. [more inside]
posted by you must supply a verb at 5:42 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I make the internet go faster at my house?

Here's the deal: right now we have DSL via Earthlink for which I pay $25/month. We have a...is it a modem? A router? Whatever it is they gave us years ago when we signed up. And we have an Apple Airport Extreme to make it wi-fi. So we have DSL and it's basically fine, but my kid is into gaming and would like things to move faster (like that latest game update that took 4 days to download). What are our options? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 5:06 PM PST - 15 comments

Moving in together: boring, practical, preliminary edition

My girlfriend and I are moving out of our separate apartments and into a new shared apartment next month, and we can't find advice on the smallest, most boring, most preliminary question: whether to schedule two separate moves to haul our stuff or to combine things with a single move that makes three stops. We'll be using either a moving service or gentleman with a gentlevan in Brooklyn. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by scarylarry at 4:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I preemptively tell a new employer about a recent bankruptcy?

I'm hoping to start a new job soon and the company has extended an offer which I have accepted. However the offer is contingent on the results of a background check which I understand is either in progress or will be performed shortly. The problem is that this background check will show that I filed for a Chapter 7 bankruptcy early this year and received a discharge shortly thereafter. So while I wish I could take this moment to celebrate a great new opportunity, I'm afraid that the offer might be rescinded at any moment due to this new information. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:09 PM PST - 13 comments

Stuck in the middle with you

I'm looking for resources/explanations of how to tell if someone is intercepting my SSL traffic. [more inside]
posted by stobor at 3:56 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I become a data scientist?

How can I get an entry-level position as a data scientist? Or at least an interview? How do I get in front of prospective employers? I’m in the West of Scotland. [more inside]
posted by Wrinkled Stumpskin at 3:47 PM PST - 6 comments

I Broke Up with Him and I'm Heartbroken

I broke up with him a week ago. I feel like he is the one who broke up with me. [more inside]
posted by Nicole21 at 3:45 PM PST - 67 comments

Should we get a divorce to help with upcoming bills?

Should my wife and I, who still want to be married, get a divorce to better pay some LARGE bills that will be coming? [more inside]
posted by Leenie at 3:18 PM PST - 21 comments

I think Google Hates Me, or at Least Photos and Music Do

I am using the GM of El Capitan and trying to install the Google Photos uploader and the Google Music Uploader. Neither work. Help. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 3:08 PM PST - 1 comment

Tips/ideas for low-stress long open house & park party to celebrate baby

Hi! Mrs ManInSuit and I are planning a party to mark the arrival of little six-month-old BabyInSuit. The plan is for an all-day causal open house, with a trip to the park. Looking for tips on how to make this fun and nice for the guests, and minimally stressful for us. [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 1:50 PM PST - 14 comments

Roman Holiday: Level Advanced

Going on a trip to Rome with my dad. As a serious history/art history buff, he absolutely loves Rome and has been 5 or 6 times before. Looking for advice for some off-the-beaten-path activities for a two week trip in October. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 1:47 PM PST - 25 comments

Weekend lethargy, grogginess, oversleeping, delayed onset motivation

I used to wake early or at a reasonable hour on Saturday and Sunday, fill my day enjoying all the things I love to do, and feel happy. Now I spend both days struggling to get up before 11am, and I put off doing anything (save, you know, languishing on the couch) until almost 5 or 6 pm, if at all. I don't enjoy living this way, feel unhappy, and would like to make whatever changes are necessary to get me back to a happy weekend state of mind. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 1:22 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me be an adult in a bad work situation

I work at country level in a global organisation. I identified a key regional growth initiative and built an action plan for it. It has had strong support from the country managers and lukewarm support from the dedicated regional team. The project recently came to the attention of the global board in a positive way. As a result, the regional manager (my boss's boss) has publicly stripped me of the leadership role and given it to one of his dedicated regional team. My manager has appealed on my behalf, but to no avail. Besides finding a new job (working on it!) how can I be an adult about this and salvage my reputation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:34 PM PST - 13 comments

Up-to-date travel advice: Germany, Austria, Czech Republic

we're leaving next week for a US to Germany [Munich] to Austria to Czech Republic [Prague]. Our plan was to use train travel--how difficult is this with current events and great numbers of people seeking refuge across Europe? Are there English language websites that would provide us with reliable information? Any other advice for us? Hitch-hiking is not an option. thank you
posted by calgirl at 12:31 PM PST - 10 comments

In the Encyclopedia, e-n-c-y-c-l-o-p-e-d-i-a !

What to do with an outdated, mint condition (aren't they all?) encyclopedia? [more inside]
posted by BillMcMurdo at 12:17 PM PST - 8 comments

Doctor, please cut my toenails!

Looking for a podiatrist in the Washington, DC area (preferably Maryland and NW DC) who can give a male relative a pedicure in a medical setting and without embarrassment. [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 12:07 PM PST - 6 comments

Period tracking app for irregular, long period and cycle lengths

I am looking for an Android app (free or paid) for tracking my menstrual periods. I would like an app that will accept (and show on the calendar) periods lasting over a week, with variable period and cycle lengths. [more inside]
posted by cp311 at 11:11 AM PST - 19 comments

On U.S. businesses that charge in foreign currency.

A friend has recently moved to Nevada and, as I understand it, many businesses he frequents use terminals or POSs that charge his debit/credit card in pesos, which in turn adds a currency conversion fee to each of his transactions. I'm unfamiliar with this as a common practice, and would like to understand more about why this is preferable for businesses, and what protections I or my friend could consider (specifically in the case of businesses who do not forewarn that the transaction will take place in pesos). [more inside]
posted by johnnydummkopf at 11:01 AM PST - 17 comments

What color should I paint my room?

I'm not *great* at colors but I want to paint my room. Photos of current room here: I'd like to coordinate around the color of the turquoise dresser and the color of the chalkboard paint square. What color should I paint my walls? The more specificity the better (aka "match this exact shade" vs "paint it yellow") because I'm really not great at colors, but all suggestions welcome. [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs at 10:54 AM PST - 18 comments

Fiction combining suspense/thrill/plot with humor

I am interested in books that manage to combine a successful plot-driven approach (particularly thrillers or other airport-style reading, like Crichton or Dan Brown) with humor, either in the form of characters, dialogue, or narration. When has it been done successfully? When has it been attempted unsuccessfully? Are they like oil and water, and if so, why? [more inside]
posted by Clyde Mnestra at 10:31 AM PST - 27 comments

What's that tune? (50s instrumental)

Lounge Lizards of MeFi, please ID this track. Easy listening, maybe just non-vocal, kinda South of the Border. Link to unknown cover version plus [more inside]
posted by Rash at 10:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me fill half a grandma box!

One of my kids is visiting family who live in a remote small village. She can't bring much because the trip is by bus and boat and foot to get there, but will bring a box on my behalf to the almost-five year old daughter of someone I briefly foster parented. What can I put in a medium box that's lightweight, durable in tough rural conditions, and wonderful for a little girl to play with? [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 9:07 AM PST - 20 comments

Best four-camera + DVR small business security system?

Small office seeks a four camera + DVR setup for security. Not hidden cameras. Best options, best values? Things to watch out for?
posted by Sticherbeast at 8:29 AM PST - 3 comments

Question about rock climbing etiquette

More details inside, but at what point is it considered gauche to want to top rope the first time you climb a route. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome at 8:07 AM PST - 28 comments

Reporting potential mail fraud, if I was seemingly not the victim?

I received a sealed, empty, business-size envelope in the mail from a non-Googleable entity called "Buy3rzParadise" claiming to be located in the Galleria in Atlanta. It had a USPS First-Class Package sticker deliberately stuck onto it (with a tracking number, which says it was sent from Oakland) that says the "package" weighs 4oz. This seems like Amazon/ebay fraud, but I haven't ordered anything from Amazon/ebay that hasn't arrived. I've also only lived at this mailing address for a few months. [more inside]
posted by unknowncommand at 7:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Minecraft? More like Motion Sickness Craft

Sometimes when playing first/third-person games, I start feeling nauseous and motion-sick. How can I prevent this so I can enjoy Minecraft and other games again? [more inside]
posted by bookdragoness at 7:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Shirts for wearing with cardigans/blazers?

Fall closet turnover has uncovered a bunch of cardigans and blazers I rarely wear because I don't know what to put under them. Can you please show me specific examples of what to pair with them, and (bonus) how to incorporate scarves? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 7:12 AM PST - 16 comments

Maine in September?

I am going to Maine for about 4 days in a couple weeks (Sept 24th) and I have no idea what to wear in Maine in September. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 6:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Just challah if u hear me

I want to make a round challah tomorrow with a kid who has a pretty short attention span. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 6:48 AM PST - 8 comments

MyFitnessPal+Fitbit Flex=?

Help me figure out how to best use a Fitbit Flex and MyFitnessPal together. [more inside]
posted by still bill at 6:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Replace old 110v 60 cycles transformer?

I have this transformer in my basement. It buzzes quite loudly. Is it possible for me to replace it with something from a hardware store? If so, what would I replace it with?
posted by merocet at 6:33 AM PST - 7 comments

Great feats of academia and detection!

I'm looking for stories of clever academic detection. [more inside]
posted by ontheradio at 3:44 AM PST - 14 comments

Moving GPX Waypoints

I'm currently working with a charity in the Caucasus. Yesterday I spent ten hours surveying and hiking in the mountains, recording waypoints using Viewranger on my phone. Today, I see I didn't change a setting (? I think?) and all of my waypoints are about 80km out. Is there an easy, free way to fix this? [more inside]
posted by sarahdal at 1:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Darn it! Need help again.

I am not sure how or where to start but I have spent 12 days thinking about it so I need to find some answers or strategies fast... [more inside]
posted by xm at 1:05 AM PST - 8 comments

September 11

Should freshly-juiced juice be consumed immediately?

If I buy a freshly-juiced juice (i.e. I place my order, watch them extract the juice from the fruit and vegetables, and then receive the juice), is it necessary to consume the juice immediately to gain whatever health benefits are coming my way? If I take the juice back to my office and put it in the fridge for a couple of hours, before retrieving it, giving it a stir, and drinking it, am I missing out on the optimal juice experience?
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 11:26 PM PST - 10 comments

What should I buy for $1.34 at Amazon?

I'm $1.34 away from qualifying for free shipping. What should I add to my cart? [more inside]
posted by mpark at 11:17 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I move to Italy?

I am thinking about moving to Italy from the US for the lifestyle, and need input on whether this is crazy, and whether I can live comfortably on the money I make. If you've done this yourself or are familiar with life on both sides of the pond, I’d love to hear your thoughts. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:21 PM PST - 29 comments

Age of ambition?

At some point in my life, I envisioned myself becoming a leader in the field I was on the path to pursuing. I went from elite overachieving undergrad to elite overachieving graduate program, and now all I want is a life with trees, refreshing sleep, maybe a cat, a cup of tea, and some good books and friends. I can't tell if this shift in goals is because I'm maturing or because I might be in depressed survival-mode from being in my program. [more inside]
posted by fernweh at 9:10 PM PST - 12 comments

getting work as an anthropologist in business settings?

Hi Does anyone know the pathway for getting work as an anthropologist in a business setting, or technology? Is anyone actually working in this area? What's is is like? What at are the prospects for starting a business in this area? What qualifications are recommended? Any info or links much appreciated. Yes Ive heard of Genevieve Bell at (Intel?), that would be my ideal job except Im 60 and nearly finished my undergraduate degree
posted by sparkle55 at 8:52 PM PST - 10 comments

Is prednisone making me crazy?

I have been taking prednisone for several weeks and will be for at least several more (thanks, Crohn's), in doses from 60 mg on down. I am worried I am slowly going crazy without realizing it. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 8:16 PM PST - 25 comments

Exporting Pocket articles to one PDf or EPUB to print or read on Nook

I have quite a bit of articles saved to Pocket. I want to compile them in one "book", preferrably with working links in EPUB but am okay with PDF to print. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom at 7:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Need tips for teenager making pre-move connections in LA area

My son and I are moving to the LA area (specifically Alhambra) from northern Michigan in a few months. He's 14 and I'd like to take whatever steps I can to smooth the transition for him. Toward that end, does anyone in the area (or elsewhere) have any ideas as to how he could start making local/neighborhood connections/friends before we move? I've searched for online clubs, etc., but haven't found much (and those can be questionable anyway). Any advice is appreciated - thank you!
posted by slugg0h at 6:26 PM PST - 7 comments

Need Chicago-area psychiatrist or psychologist with BPD experience

This concerns my 26-yr-old daughter, who was released from the hospital 3 weeks ago Monday (here's that sorry story). She needs a psychiatrist for meds, and she wants to attend family therapy and also therapy for PTSD. The hospital recommended an outpatient program for Borderline Personality Disorder, but she's not interested—doesn't believe the label applies to her. For lack of a better word, I'm hoping to “sneak” in some extra therapy when setting up the sessions (sorta like I used to sneak vegetables into mac and cheese). [more inside]
posted by zombies puppet at 6:20 PM PST - 8 comments

Roku Channel Recommendations

I am looking for recommendations for Roku channels to add. [more inside]
posted by jeribus at 6:06 PM PST - 9 comments

Netgear wifi-extender: I can't get past the second-to-last setup page

I have just bought the Netgear N300 WiFi Range Extender (EX2700), and followed the instructions to the letter. I connect to the extender, tell it which network to extend, put in the router password, and get to "name your extended network." I leave the default name and security and click "continue." NOTHING HAPPENS. Please help. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 5:58 PM PST - 3 comments

"But Wait, There's More!" Pom-Pom Toys Sold on TV

On the Qubo channel (we like "Animal Atlas"), we saw a commercial for sets of little velcro pom-pom things that kids could stick together to build various shapes (bugs, mushrooms, rockets, etc). The schtick was that you could undo them and build something new. They were called something ridiculous of course (Squishoos? Stickums?) and my Google-fu is failing me. Ring a bell with anyone?
posted by nkknkk at 5:57 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I credit?

I'll be paying off my student loans in the next year or so. When that's over, I'll be completely debt-free. I don't really want a credit card, and I'm not planning any big, credit-required purchases for the foreseeable future. I don't want to rule anything out though, and am interested in maintaining my hard-earned good credit score. So what should I do now? [more inside]
posted by saguaro at 5:52 PM PST - 7 comments

How many people do you have to trust to use a piece of software?

I downloaded gmailnotifier from gmailnotifier.com and setting it up, it requested my password. Obviously it needs this information but how can I be sure that it won't abuse it? How do you know what software to trust? [more inside]
posted by Obscure Reference at 5:19 PM PST - 11 comments

specific (g)mail notifications on iPhone?

I'd like to be notified on my iPhone for email from one or two specific email addresses. I have gmail. I have it set up as my mail account on the phone. How can I be notified of only specific mail, not all incoming? [more inside]
posted by cestmoi15 at 5:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Bye bye baby! Travel during third trimester.

My boyfriend and I are planning a babymoon over Thanksgiving or Christmas. For work reasons, Christmas would be more convenient for me, however, I'd be 7 months pregnant (I'm due at the end of February). Is this a foolhardy venture? [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 4:55 PM PST - 33 comments

It's not you, it's me.. or wait, it was depression!?

In the midst of a bad life patch, I tried to spare my girlfriend dealing with my shit and... that was a bad idea. Please help me do the best thing for her. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by OnTheLastCastle at 3:57 PM PST - 20 comments

I've got writer's block at my new job. How to un-clog?

I'm struggling with my new job as a writer for an university's public relations office, because of a number of reasons. More under the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:43 PM PST - 20 comments

Book fuel can't melt steel jets

Help me remember the name of a weird-ass kid's book with an airplane (definitely) that melted (maybe??)? [more inside]
posted by babelfish at 2:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Any world history book reccomendations for the medieval period?

My undergraduate degree was in medieval history, and I still enjoy reading about the period. But I've a very narrow geographic range to what I've read about - mainly western Europe, with some on eastern Europe and the Middle East. I'd like to broaden my range with some good books about what was going on in the rest of the world from about 500CE to 1500CE. [more inside]
posted by Vortisaur at 2:11 PM PST - 18 comments

Do You Need Grease Silicon Molds When Using Marzipan?

I'd like to make marzipan hearts. I know I have to use the flexible silicone heart molds. I've tried the marzipan in some really small flexible molds and it came out ok, but I'm worried that using a larger shape will distort it if I have to stretch or push the mold too much to get it out. Can I grease the mold or dust it with powdered sugar? Would that also work for molds with more detail?
posted by let444 at 1:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Recommend some non-stand-up comedy albums

What are some some good comedy albums that aren't stand-up? I like conversational humor, sketches, and things that play with the audio format. [more inside]
posted by edeezy at 1:18 PM PST - 44 comments

Sample ID: "When I grow up, I wanna be a DJ"

Once upon a time I heard a track which included a clip of a child's voice saying "when I grow up, I wanna be a DJ". The sample popped into my head again last night and I am trying to figure out where it came from. I think maybe Skrillex or somebody like that sampled it recently, but it came from something older. Does this sound familiar? What am I thinking of?
posted by Mars Saxman at 1:14 PM PST - 2 comments

Two questions about my bones

In the past three years I have had two fairly major bone breaks. Neither has healed (bone parts have not fused back together). Is it likely I have some condition which prevents this? What symptoms should I look for? Does this question need to be resolved before I have surgery to plate this last bone back together? [more inside]
posted by Cardinal Fang! at 1:07 PM PST - 13 comments

Live cover of DUNE theme

Who performed that live cover of the opening music and monologue from David Lynch's DUNE? [more inside]
posted by eagle-bear at 12:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Lost and Found Photos

I just bought a digital camera at a second hand store and found about 20 of what look like prom pictures. Is there a lost and found photo site where I can post them since I have no way of knowing who these people are or how to find them, but don't want to delete their pics?
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:53 PM PST - 10 comments

Experience or advice welcome.

I will soon be accompanying a close friend to Dignitas where she will end her life (she has a virulent, newly diagnosed, Stage IV lung cancer). Has anyone here been to Dignitas in a similar role, or knows of anyone who has, and can comment on the experience? Long-time Mefite posting anon as assisted suicide is illegal in our country. Many thanks.
posted by anonymous at 12:17 PM PST - 8 comments

What professions started out female-dominated, were taken over by men?

I'm looking for more examples of professions like programming that started out as "women's jobs" but were later taken over by men, when they realized the work had potential to be prestigious. Mothers cooking for their families vs mostly male pro chefs is another one, though probably harder to place historically. I'm sure there are more examples. Do you know any, with sources if possible?
posted by jklaiho at 11:37 AM PST - 32 comments

Should I take this free bike?

My parents offered me the bike from my teen years that is still sitting in their garage (late 90s Specialized Hard Rock, if I'm remembering correctly). It was minimally used by me and my brother and it's probably been sitting around for about 10 years. What kind of work would it take to get it usable for a bike commute of ~5 miles each way? Would that work be worth it, or should I look into other bikes? [more inside]
posted by Francies at 11:35 AM PST - 17 comments

equitable distribution of bi-annual work requirement

We have eight departments where I work who take turns bi-annually hosting particular events. So, assuming events 1 and 2, it goes like this: [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 11:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Change starting address on Google Maps on iPhone - plea from a stranger

At my business I received an email from a customer who is trying to navigate using their iPhone. Some strange text is in the default starting location in Google Maps, and they are 70 and don't know how to change it to their actual home address. [more inside]
posted by lockedroomguy at 11:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Elegiac Fantasy

I'm looking for fantasy that is at least partially about the fact that the world is leaving some of kind of Golden Age or has lost something vital and everyone is sad about it. [more inside]
posted by darchildre at 9:41 AM PST - 29 comments

Transportation in very, very rural southwest Virginia

Currently, I am living with my mom in Giles County, VA, about 15 minutes outside of Blacksburg (home to Virginia Tech). I'm unable to get a license right now, and there is no public transportation here at all (until Blacksburg). I need to figure out how to get to Blacksburg more often, but that's proving hard to do. Details within. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 9:38 AM PST - 14 comments

Why don't I feel like a grownup?

Why do I feel like I'm not really an adult yet and completely embarrassed by that? What can I do to make myself feel like proper grown up? [more inside]
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet at 6:57 AM PST - 49 comments

Could this be an eating disorder?

Are my husband's "picky eater" behaviors actually an eating disorder? If not, what can cause his chronic lack of appetite? [more inside]
posted by ADent at 6:15 AM PST - 36 comments

Seeking sexually-charged, body-horror / generally-weird passages.

I'm looking to find short scenes in which puberty, or other moments of sexual awakening, are represented through disturbing, surreal elements with a sexual subtext. I'm sure I've encountered this trope a lot, but my mind is coming up completely blank, either of any example or even what it's called! Can anyone help?
posted by piato at 5:47 AM PST - 36 comments

Can anyone share some successful sciatica recovery stories with me?

Did you ever have acute sciatica which stopped you from standing, sitting, sleeping, walking, basically, doing anything? Do you not have that anymore? If so, please TELL ME YOUR STORY. Desperate and enquiring minds want to know how to cut through the BS of a million conflicting opinions. [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 5:27 AM PST - 20 comments

Panicked about nose getting stuffed up

I don't know what's going on with me but in the last couple of months I've been developing a fear of not being able to breathe. Now I'm getting a cold. I am desperate not to get congested and I can't handle extensive googling. Please just tell me what to take or do.
posted by HotToddy at 4:51 AM PST - 25 comments

What keeps your eighteen month old absorbed?

What quiet-ish activity does your toddler love to do? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 4:13 AM PST - 27 comments

Square payments for non-profit - any precautions?

Our PTA wants to get a Square reader for the stuff we sell at fundraisers. Are there any potential pitfalls we should be aware of? [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 3:29 AM PST - 7 comments

September 10

What are some cool interactive websites I've missed out in the past year

I just got a 13" MacBook Pro (one of the lower-end models) after not having a computer for a year. Hooray! [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 11:37 PM PST - 6 comments

"I am poor, but not for long, ok?"

I am dating a young woman with whom I have shared several hours of stimulating conversation. I found her thoughtful and considerate, and apparently there is mutual interest in getting to know each other better. The problem is that if things keep progressing, soon I'll invite her to my place, and I am not proud of where I currently live. Is there anything I can say or do to avoid being negatively judged by my temporarily poor housing conditions? [more inside]
posted by samufer at 10:48 PM PST - 44 comments

I need me some (nugget) ice, ice baby!

Please help me find a not-too-expensive nugget/pellet ice maker (think: Sonic chewable ice) for use in my home. [more inside]
posted by sealee at 10:22 PM PST - 3 comments

G.E.M. Anscombe and Catholicism

Why did G.E.M. Anscombe convert to Catholicism? Did she or any of those close to her ever provide an account of the process? Did she ever write anything apologetic?
posted by phrontist at 9:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Flying out of MSP

Looking for information about flying out of Minneapolis-St. Paul airport in November. I will be flying out on Delta from terminal 1 on a Monday evening. Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by ootsocsid at 8:40 PM PST - 12 comments

What should I know before trying to rehabilitate my desk?

The huge pane of glass that was my desk's main surface broke, and I'd like to replace it. The return (also glass) is still in decent shape and I'd like the main desktop to match it as much as possible in hue and the shape of the edge. How much can I expect to pay for a suitable 7'×3' piece of glass, is there anything non-obvious I should ask about, and does anyone happen to know good glaziers in the Cambridge, MA area, or how to look for one besides flipping through Yelp? [more inside]
posted by vsync at 7:49 PM PST - 7 comments

What sci-fi or fantasy books should I read next?

I recently started reading a bit of sci-fi and fantasy books - these genres are new to me and I'd like to read more. I've especially enjoyed time travel books. The challenging part for me is that I'm an impatient and/or lazy reader. If a book doesn't grab me from the beginning, I just can't bring myself to keep reading. So - what fantasy or sci-fi book (or series) do you think I would enjoy? [more inside]
posted by kdern at 7:28 PM PST - 59 comments

Dead Fish Wedding

I've been performing weddings as a side gig for going on two years now. One of my trademarks is seamlessly working a few things related to the couple's interests into the ceremony. But the next couple? They like fishing and the Grateful Dead. If you know any literary allusions or jokes or stories or what have you that could tie fishing into a wedding, that would be much appreciated. If you know the Dead well enough to recommend romantic or relationship-oriented lyrics from their catalog, also good. If you can somehow do both of those things and find Dead lyrics that invoke love and fishing, YOU ARE A MIRACLE AND I LOVE YOU.
posted by DirtyOldTown at 7:19 PM PST - 19 comments

What building was that I flew over?

How could you find a building when all you know about it is what it looks like from above and roughly where it is (with a large margin of error, giving a triangle with an area of about 1,900 square miles)? Is there any tool/database/search that might help with this, or would finding it be a matter of putting the question to people who live in the area (or, for the less social, strictly a brute-force problem)? [more inside]
posted by johnofjack at 7:14 PM PST - 21 comments

Blown speaker?

I just recently picked up a pair of 1980s-era Celestion 3 bookshelf speakers and they sound great. Well, the right one sounded great until something happened today. I may have been listening to The Cars' "Candy-O" a little too loudly when the speaker started going, "thup-thup-thup" and then lost the woofer. [more inside]
posted by NoMich at 6:57 PM PST - 15 comments

Should I quit my job?

I’ve had my current job for 9 months. At first, I thought it was my dream job, but now I dread going in every day. I just got a new job offer and I need help sorting out my thoughts and deciding what to do. [more inside]
posted by stockpuppet at 6:00 PM PST - 17 comments

How to approach the same old argument in a new way

Seeking suggestions for how to interrupt an unhealthy pattern in a relationship and communicate needs in a way that is generous towards both parties. Plus some depression stuff. Special snowflake details below, of course. [more inside]
posted by adastra at 5:50 PM PST - 23 comments

How much bending can a battery take?

I replaced the screen on my LG G2 and in removing the glued in Li-ion polymer battery pack from the old assembly I bent the battery pretty good, maybe one end bowed up a quarter inch in a gentle arc. How damaged is it likely to be? [more inside]
posted by mzurer at 4:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Coffee cake, literally - surely it exists?

Is there such a thing as a coffee cake like there is carrot cake, chocolate cake, etc, and maybe has a coffee-flavored frosting to boot? I'm not talking about the "good accompaniment to coffee" dessert, but cake where coffee is the main ingredient/flavor. *note - not looking for chocolate cake where coffee is used to boost flavor/add moisture
posted by atinna at 4:55 PM PST - 17 comments

This blasted elusive baby furniture!

We are preparing for a homestudy ahead of being licensed for foster care! Hooray! We need a crib to pass the homestudy! Hooray! This is the most lovely and practical piece for our small space I could ever dream up! [more inside]
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk at 4:44 PM PST - 12 comments

Should I buy a new smartphone? iPhone 6S edition

Should I upgrade my iPhone 5 to the new 6S, or an as-yet-unidentified Android phone? Biggest priority: SMALL size with best specs possible. [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 4:16 PM PST - 15 comments

How do I keep going?

The last year has been filled with brutal loss and now there's more. Please help me cope with lots of death and an emotionally stunted family. [more inside]
posted by stoneweaver at 4:11 PM PST - 11 comments

Did I just do a clean install? or just a regular install

I have an “early 2009” Mac Mini that I am nursing along. It’s not my main computer but I do use it enough to want to keep it running smoothly. Last year, without putting a lot of thought into it, I upgraded to Mavericks from Snow Leopard. I noticed a hit in speed even though the reviews I was reading after the fact said the opposite should happen. Whatever. So this past weekend, I thought it’d try it again with a clean install. [more inside]
posted by TWinbrook8 at 3:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Slice of life on Tumblr

I'm having this kinda voyeuristic desire to read about the everyday experiences of other people's lives. I know that, tumblr, being the most popular form of blogging currently, has to have a bunch of people that just use it as a kind of public journal, but it's hard to sift through the reaction gifs and meme conversations. What are some of your favorite tumblrs that are mostly just people talking about their lives?
posted by fizzzzzzzzzzzy at 2:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me escape Excel hell

I need to build a database that's viewable on the web, but for internal use only, among friends. How to do this painlessly? Google spreadsheet is not exactly making it any easier. [more inside]
posted by pleasebekind at 1:59 PM PST - 9 comments

what to do with ivory

A family friend passed with no will and only one distant heir who really just wants to liquidate assets and go back home. Among the items left behind is a bunch of ivory but no one really knows where it came from or what to do with it. [more inside]
posted by krix at 1:46 PM PST - 8 comments

I have the culprits! Now what?

I ID was stolen two months ago. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 1:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Why do I always get sick before I travel on vacation?

I'm due to fly overseas on vacation next week for the first time in five years. There is a bunch of stress surrounding it: I have to finish a bunch of work before leaving, it's the first time I'm vacationing internationally since my divorce nearly three years ago, etc. And, since yesterday, I've been getting post-nasal drip, sore throat, chills, etc. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:40 PM PST - 6 comments

What to read in Montreal set in or about Montreal?

I'm looking for books about Canada, specifically Montreal, and also books set in Montreal. What would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by garlic at 12:52 PM PST - 22 comments

NameThatSongFilter - Solo Oboe Edition

I've got a snippet of an oboe solo in my head. My wife, the oboe player, recognizes but cannot ID it. Minor key, starts with a held iii, slow trill between iii and II, to I and then... [more inside]
posted by notsnot at 12:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Is it rude to leave a neighbor a note about loud sex?

My neighbors have woken me up by hitting their headboard against the wall during sex. The first night, I thought it would go away but it lasted over an hour and I put ear plugs in. The second night, it startled me because it sounded like someone was breaking into my apartment, so I gave three knocks on the wall and it stopped immediately. I feel like I should explain to them... (more below) [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 12:38 PM PST - 57 comments

Give me your spicy, spiced, seasoned Indian greens recipe!

Every time I make Indians greens (palak, saag, saagwala, etc) at home, the results are Fine but not as flavorful or as heavily spiced as my favorite Indian restaurants' dishes. Please provide me with your tried and true Indian greens recipes! [more inside]
posted by zoomorphic at 12:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Advice on Moving and Starting a New Job After Knee Surgery

I’m recovering from knee surgery and using crutches, and I need to move across the country and start a new job on Saturday. Any tips, tricks, or advice, that might make this process easier? [more inside]
posted by crocodiletsunami at 12:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me frame this difficult question re: what helps

I just learned yesterday that a good acquaintance has stage IV cancer. His wife has started a gofundme to raise enough money for them to pay the travel costs of entering a trial program. I want to support him/them but I'm conflicted and would love to hear from the community some words that I can say to myself to help let go of the conflict. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 12:19 PM PST - 31 comments

Das Orchester Nürnberg

I've been tasked with finding a very specific kind of instrumental orchestral theme. VERY specific. [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 12:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Seemed like a good idea at the time

This morning in trying to get rid of incredibly stubborn glitter nail polish in a hurry I soaked my fingers on one hand in nail polish remover until they were wrinkled. I realized they were wrinkled because they had absorbed a great deal of pure alcohol. "Oh jeez, not very bright," I thought. Now my stomach feels a little acid-y, which is constantly reminding me. So I guess what I'm curious about is exactly how stupid this was, on a scale from 1 (harmlessly stupid) to 10 (Darwin award). [more inside]
posted by bleep at 11:47 AM PST - 11 comments

These shoes were once for walkin'

Why are my once insanely comfortable Dankso shoes now anything but? They are several years old, but I see no signs of excessive wear. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 11:40 AM PST - 5 comments

Is collaboration possible when planning dates for wedding stuff?

This is basically an "am I being reasonable or should I just stfu" question. My sister and I are both getting married within the next 24 months (she wanted a long engagement to plan an elaborate wedding; I'm having a long engagement because she doesn't want me to get married before her) and already we are running into problems re: expectations for travel, spending, and scheduling. [more inside]
posted by witchen at 11:15 AM PST - 37 comments

Need a suit for interview, but I am short, chubby and big on top

I am trying to find a suit for an interview. I usually go to Ann Taylor and Loft. My problem is that I am a petite plus. I have no problem fitting pants or skirts. But, I am large up top and the size 14 blazers will not button, and the sleeves are long. If I get a 16 the sleeves will be even longer. Where else to go? I thought all was solved with Talbots petite plus, but the closest store does not carry the petites. please give advice,. I can't be the only short chubby girl out there trying to get her professional look on :) I also hate buying a suit that I don't love and getting it tailored, especially as I am losing weight.
posted by TRUELOTUS at 11:02 AM PST - 14 comments

Identify 1980s beautifully illustrated children's book called Great Cat

When I worked in the public library in 1983, there was an illustrated book in the children's section which I remember being titled Great Cat, which I would like to find again. I'm assuming it's out of print because I can't find anything on Amazon that looks like it. Vague memories inside. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 11:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Is Encyclopaedia Britannica available as an Android app?

I've got an Android phone. I'd like to get Encyclopaedia Britannica as an Android app. Does it still exist? [more inside]
posted by russilwvong at 10:44 AM PST - 2 comments

Diabetes, Metformin and related issues

Help me decide if I need to revisit the doctor and increase my metformin dosage. YANMD and all disclaimers apply [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 10:29 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I even wedding?

It's been a few years since the 2nd edition of weddings for dummies on the green, so I'm here to ask for the 3rd edition, I guess. [more inside]
posted by rmd1023 at 9:52 AM PST - 28 comments

What big problem has been solved by an intoxicated sophomore?

A professor of mine recently suggested that no significant problem has been solved by a drunk sophomore. Surely given the large number of drunken sophomores throughout history, one of them has accomplished something interesting. Do you know of any instances?
posted by andythebean at 9:26 AM PST - 22 comments

Are there wikipedia elves?

I have wasted my time this morning doing Trump family research instead of my housework. Now I want to correct some errors Fred Trump's Wikipedia page. Figuring out how to edit Wikipedia seems awfully daunting to figure out (and my duties as stay-at-home mom will surely suffer). Is there a place that you submit errors and sources for correction? [more inside]
posted by ReluctantViking at 9:21 AM PST - 12 comments

No More Captain Underpants!

Please help suggest books for my 4th grade son that he will actually read and like. A number of requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 8:56 AM PST - 52 comments

Looking for scary images, ideas, and scenarios.

As an aspiring horror writer, I am constantly in search of inspiration for images and scenarios that terrify. Help me out? [more inside]
posted by Fenriss at 8:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Is it pooping?

I clean house for a friend every other week. Her office chair, with its standard plastic caster wheels, is leaving chunks of black, sticky goo on the floor. It then, of course, gets rolled through the gunk, repeatedly, and I have a huge mess to scrape up with a butter knife. How do I fix it, make it stop, something, without damaging or replacing the chair? (And if those ARE the only options, please recommend some cheap high-backed office chairs.)
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 8:24 AM PST - 9 comments

Florida beach vacation rentals

I need advice on planning a family vacation on the Atlantic coast in mid-north Florida. [more inside]
posted by sulaine at 8:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Know any fun iPad games similar to 90s King Quests?

I'm nostalgic for games I played as a kid, as well as just great iPad games in general. I recently picked up a few games and really enjoyed (Her Story, 80 Days). Help me find great games? [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 8:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Alternative to Outlier's Women's Daily Riding Pants?

My first generation pair of Outlier's Women's Daily Riding Pants are on their last legs. They were pretty close to the perfect pant for me; stretchy, a decent material resistant to staining, good for biking/travel/camping/hiking with clean-enough lines that I could wear them out to dinner with a nice shirt. They've discontinued their women's line so now I'm back to the drawing board. Please help! [more inside]
posted by mlo at 7:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Best inexpensive smartphone/plan these days?

What is the best smartphone/plan combination right now, given a budget of $250 max for the phone and $45/month max per month for the plan? [more inside]
posted by matcha action at 7:27 AM PST - 22 comments

Suggest current female singer/songwriters?

My iPod is packed with artists like Jason Isbell, Corb Lund, Elvis Costello and Gurf Morlix. I'd like to explore similar music that was written and performed by women. I'm pretty much up to speed on the classics (Joni Mitchell, Nina Simone, etc) but welcome suggestions about female artists working now. Who should I be listening to?
posted by workerant at 7:13 AM PST - 49 comments

Best Glue for an Aeron Chair?

The seat for my 13-year-old (out of warranty) Aeron chair has cracked rather dramatically, with stabby bits pointing out. What's this thing made out of, and what's the best glue for it? [more inside]
posted by musofire at 7:05 AM PST - 4 comments

When to fork a linux distro, and general licensing questions...

I'm delivering remote training in various technologies and i've build a VM image based on Bodhi to support this. I'm curious as to whether it's best for me to fork Bodhi at this point, and what license related things I should be considering. [more inside]
posted by jpziller at 6:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Out, damned [dent]! Out, I say!

I just bought a condo, and the owner moved out, leaving dozens of various-sized furniture dents in the carpet. What to do? [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 6:47 AM PST - 11 comments

why is my working ice maker not making ice?

I have an ice maker that presumably works, but no water is even coming to it to start producing ice. What things can I try to get it to start making ice?photo1 photo2 [more inside]
posted by lijiaxiaoniu at 6:40 AM PST - 21 comments

how to pay for college

Asking for a kid I’ve been mentoring: I’m a Senior this year. I’m the first one in my family to apply to college. If you work in college admissions or college counseling, could you explain how financial aid, student loans and scholarships work? [more inside]
posted by colfax at 6:39 AM PST - 31 comments

What phone and plan do I want?

The iPhone (2010-2015, RIP) in my pocket has finally perished and I have to look for a replacement. I am in southern Ontario and have been dealing with Fido mostly problem-free for fifteen years, but I am open to other suggestions. I am all over Canada frequently for work so coverage, it is a thing. Data is less important - my current plan has the lowest possible amount and I think I have exceeded the cap two or three times in five years. [more inside]
posted by ricochet biscuit at 6:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Nail salon in Baltimore

I'm going to be in Baltimore for a wedding this weekend (leaving this afternoon) and I won't have time to get my nails done at my regular place before I go. Can anyone recommend a decent place to get a manicure? I'm staying in Fells Point, so anywhere accessible from there would be good (I know my way around Baltimore, but I won't have access to a car).
posted by gaspode at 6:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Gifts From USA For Korean Family

Help pick out amazing gifts for family members in Korea. [more inside]
posted by Hennimore at 5:25 AM PST - 4 comments

Using a Verizon/CDMA+GSM iPhone on a US GSM network

Verizon have simplified/Europeanized their plans such that you can just buy the phone outright upfront and pay for service month-to-month (I think!). Given that, if I were to buy a new Verizon iPhone next week, I would own a GSM+CDMA phone outright and not have a long-term contract with Verizon. In the future, could I then put a US (not overseas) SIM card in that phone and have it work? Or would I still need to pay a ransom to get the phone unlocked to use it on, e.g. T-mobile or AT&T? [more inside]
posted by caek at 4:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Identify this water creature

Identify mystery water creature. [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 3:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Help identify this song! Female upbeat indie pop. Chorus: "Sunny day!"

I heard a song through a festival sound system recently and am trying to find it! It features a female vocalist; it's upbeat and twee-ish but with a fairly well-produced sound; it sounds like there are melodicas in the mix but effected so they're a bit beefier. The chorus refrain finishes each line with words that sound a lot like she's singing 'Sunny day', with the 'day' stretched over three syllables. Help!
posted by Cantdosleepy at 3:23 AM PST - 3 comments

iphone app no longer available in US itunes

My friend showed me an app on her iphone 4 (I have the same model). I loved it at first sight, and it was free, to boot! Unfortunately, it's no longer in the itunes store. [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 3:18 AM PST - 7 comments

September 9

MRI/Spine finding, now what doctor do I talk to?

I am so utterly confused over what to do with my most recent medical news. I had an MRI about a week and a half ago. The results came back to indicate I had a thoracic disc issue. I need to talk to someone about what this means and don't know who. The doctors and assistants are moving along to get me pain relief, but no one is actually telling me what I should expect with the findings and who I even talk to. I feel really lost in the system. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 11:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Can stress make you reconsider relationships?

I'm pretty stressed out (and maybe depressed?) and it's making me annoyed all the time and unfortunately, surfacing niggling feelings that is making me reconsider my relationship. Now I feel even more stressed and just plain guilty and mean. How do you think clearly through stress/depression/anxiety/etc. about this kind of issue and differentiate the stress-thinking from everything else? [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 9:07 PM PST - 30 comments

Scratchy Tyvek tags - how to eliminate the scratchy?

Garments that have Tyvek instructional (bunch of icons like a lizard with an international NO symbol across them) icons are scratchy. I try cutting them off with varying results. Is there a way to remove these horrid little impediments that doesn't result in different but equally irritating scratchiness? [more inside]
posted by jet_silver at 9:04 PM PST - 7 comments

First freelance project--advice?

Tomorrow I am meeting with a company for my first-ever freelance gig as a Salesforce consultant. What advice do you have? [more inside]
posted by eggman at 8:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Trying to identify a movie.

I'm looking for a movie I saw a while ago. (It's not Enemy Mine.) It was a pretty low budget scifi movie involving a war between aliens and humans. [more inside]
posted by BenevolentActor at 8:32 PM PST - 6 comments

There's a computer behind me in the following picture. What is it?

I've got video of me playing a commodore 64 version of pac-man, I've specifically digitized certain photos because I'm rocking a Ghostbusters Jumpsuit, and yet I can't for the life of me, figure out what computer is behind me in this picture: [more inside]
posted by WeX Majors at 7:59 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me decide between the Canon SX170 and SX510

I want to buy one of these refurbished from cannon today or tomorrow. The price difference is negligible to me. If you have any other alternative suggestions, feel free to make them. Is there something better in that range, (less than 150 USD)? [more inside]
posted by czytm at 7:58 PM PST - 1 comment

When is it legal to discriminate by sex/gender in job postings?

A mailing list I'm in has received a job posting calling for a male journalist. The justification for the gender is that it's a tv channel for financial news, and the reporters will be reading stuff all day, so they want to have a man and a woman alternate reading stories, and they have already hired the woman. [more inside]
posted by kandinski at 7:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Suggestions for UK travel in late October?

My S.O. and I are traveling to England next month for ten days (Oct 16-26). What should we do? [more inside]
posted by myriad gantry at 6:49 PM PST - 15 comments

Can I cook with this? Pomegranate juice edition

Bought a bottle of (refrigerated) pomegranate juice at the grocery store this morning. Forgot about it in the bag on the counter for about 7 hours before I remembered and put it in the fridge. House is air-conditioned. Bottle was cool to the touch but not cold. Can I use it in a recipe that calls for boiling the juice? Or did I kill it?
posted by Mchelly at 6:33 PM PST - 10 comments

And down will come cradle, cradle and ALL??

How did you and your partner survive parenthood? [more inside]
posted by Rocket26 at 6:19 PM PST - 25 comments

Just started new job, but does my superior team member want me gone?

Just started a new job and would like to keep it. Superior team member asked me when my contract ends. He has the power to determine whether I stay on the team or not. Is this cause for alarm? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by koolaidnovel at 5:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Employee Anniversary Gifts for the staff who have everything

I work for an amazing company that is incredibly generous to their employees. 100% paid healthcare premiums, unlimited time off, tons of free swag, free food, endless offsite team building events, travel to conferences, tuition reimbursement, gift baskets full of goodies on your birthday etc. We have distributed employees located in 32 different states as well as about 70 employees in our Portland Headquarters. There are a few employees coming up on their 5 year anniversary and I am completely stuck on what would be a great recognition gift. [more inside]
posted by Pork n Beans at 4:39 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me plan my Under the Skin themed dinner

I'm hosting my bookclub's discussion of Under the Skin and per tradition providing dinner inspired by the food themes of the book. I'm looking for suggestions about what food to use to represent various comestibles mentioned in the text. [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 4:31 PM PST - 4 comments

My eyes are killing me!

I'd like to hear about experience with blue light filtering eyeglass lenses: [more inside]
posted by Pressed Rat at 3:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Why was the Earl of Desmond titled Sugane?

The Earl of Desmond during the Nine Years' War in Ireland was known as the "Sugane Earl". What does this mean and why? [more inside]
posted by Emma May Smith at 3:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Fictional books with Huguenots

Can anyone recommend some fictional books featuring the Hugueonots? I don't need it to be as specific as setting in East London like this question from September and I prefer fiction. I really like The Virgin Blue by Tracey Chevalier so anything like that would be lovely.
posted by like_neon at 2:38 PM PST - 2 comments

Music for the bedroom?

What are some songs I can use to mask the noise of sex so I can be polite to my roommates and allow my girlfriend and me to fully enjoy ourselves? [more inside]
posted by mtphoto at 2:34 PM PST - 28 comments

What area or city has the most bungalow housing?

I assumed it was Southern California but a lot of places that used to have them, don't any longer. I assume due to the rising value of the real estate. So where are the most bungalow houses per capital in terms of areas or cities?
posted by rileyray3000 at 1:48 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for advice on a new Kobo

Hi All, I'm hoping for some advice hopefully from someone with some hands on experience with the current Kobo offerings. I'm looking to update my trusty old Sony T1 ereader, it's still working great but a few scratches on the face and the lack of a light lead me to upgrade. [more inside]
posted by cirhosis at 1:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Earbuds: Which Ones to Get & How to Make Them Last

Looking for earbud recommendations and strategies for care. [more inside]
posted by xenization at 12:51 PM PST - 19 comments

RSS feeds for cybersecurity that wouldn't overwhelm your mom

What are the best sites/blogs/feeds for business-centered, "safe" topics about general corporate cybersecurity? [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 12:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Is it possible to improve public schools with this much lead time?

We have moved into the neighborhood where our (future, hypothetical) child will attend public school. Unfortunately, the elementary school within walking distance has very poor ratings and it seems most of the people in our neighborhood are sending their kids to charters or private schools--which of course is only going to reduce the local school quality. Is there anything I can do in the next 7-ish years to make the public schools better? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 11:04 AM PST - 27 comments

UK job interview etiquette

I'm a US citizen applying for jobs in London. I've excited to have been shortlisted and offered a couple of interviews. What should I expect? What should I wear? More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by pocksuppeteer at 10:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Toronto to Maritimes: Road Trip Routing

Your tips for a road trip from Toronto the East Coast of Canada, please! [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll at 10:31 AM PST - 12 comments

Niggling hope, post breakup edition. How to squelch it?

My long distance boyfriend of 2 years suddenly and coldly broke up with me during my last visit, before I could tell him I wanted to move for him and build a future. We have 4-5 flights for the next three months already booked. I have this niggling, nefarious, wretched shred of hope that he will still get on his flight(s) to come see me. This hope wedges its way into my mind and is destroying me. How do I kill it so it stops stunting my ability to move on? [more inside]
posted by doctordrey at 10:21 AM PST - 25 comments

I keep missing out on seeing the northern lights.

The northern lights were visible over Spokane, WA last night. I missed them. AGAIN. I have slept through seeing them every time they've been visible since I moved here in 2012. This makes me so sad. Does anyone have any suggestions on how I can know when they are in the sky? [more inside]
posted by ilovewinter at 10:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Non-3D printed custom action figures?

Is there any place that sells configurable action figure parts? Like a LEGO set of He-Man parts? [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 8:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Rectifying a twist in a massive tabletop

Woodworking Mefites: I have a massive (40"x4"x8') reclaimed fir tabletop made of timbers that were planed and jointed several months ago, which...may not have been stored in ideal conditions. There's a fair bit of twist to the piece now that the glue is dry and the clamps are off. Fortunately, I have access to a planer that will fit it. Two options below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Kreiger at 8:28 AM PST - 14 comments

How to deal with bullying in the workplace?

My son says he is being bullied in the place that he works. When I talked to him he was very distraught and frustrated. I had a hard time giving him advice, so I came on here to ask you all. Hopefully, you can give me some insight into this situation. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 7:47 AM PST - 19 comments

The Footprint on Crusoe's Island & its use in critical theory

The single appearance of the footprint in Daniel Defoe's 1719 novel, Robinson Crusoe, is perhaps one of the most famous events in all of literature. I am interested in who has referenced it, and for what ends, especially in critical theory. I also wonder whether Michel Foucault's famous closing lines to 'The Order of Things' is a subtle reference to the appearance of that footprint? Can other allusions to 'the figure of man' and marks in the sand be traced back to Defoe's novel?
posted by 0bvious at 7:03 AM PST - 3 comments

Getting mug rings out of lino?

Put a mug of hot tea next to my bed without a coaster (because who uses a coaster on the floor?*) and now I have rings next to my bed. Any suggestions for how to remove or cover up the rings? Moving out in three weeks and have to pass two inspections. [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 6:44 AM PST - 8 comments

I want to create a hot salt, but the ingredients aren't bonding!!

You are not my chef or personal cook. LOL However.... I play around in the kitchen and am looking to create a hot salt. I have the coarse himalayan sea salt and secured some carolina reaper pepper flakes. I got the measurements down. I got my mixing bowl. I'm good to go. the salt and pepper don't wanna stay together! [more inside]
posted by TwilightKid at 6:33 AM PST - 9 comments

iPad deals / sales finder?

For a specific project at work, we will require an iPad in the near future (say, next week or two). We are only interested in new merchandise (NOT refurbished or used). I was tasked with exploring the best prices on iPads. We are not constrained to any specific vendors, but obviously need a reputable one. I thought the prices of Apple products were essentially uniform across retailers -- but are there deals to be had on new iPads? If so, how do I find them? [more inside]
posted by mean square error at 6:31 AM PST - 9 comments

How can I find the most recently-manufactured mascara?

I like Maybelline Full n Soft mascara. It doesn't seem to have fast product turnover in most drugstores, so I bought a tube online, but that too was old. How can I figure out which store (in person or online) would likely have the most turnover for this product, so I am assured of getting a newer tube? For instance, in Chicago, I would have guessed the CVS in Ogilvie train station. Mascara does not have a best by or manufacturing date on it.
posted by Ms Vegetable at 5:29 AM PST - 4 comments

I think I have Worms

Help! I think I've been infested with worms, gross details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:12 AM PST - 12 comments

Can/should I avoid visiting my hometown indefinitely?

About five years ago, shortly after my 21st birthday, I was drugged and sexually assaulted by a prominent, beloved person from the rural community where I grew up. My parents still live in the same town, and desperately want me to visit. Potentially running into my rapist is... not a can of worms I want to open. Neither is explaining the situation to my parents. How should I handle this? (trigger warning -description of sexual assault under the cut) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:11 AM PST - 15 comments

Should I host for the first time when I am out of the country?

I've seen other posts about this but my situation is a little specific. I am going to be out of the country for a month in a few weeks. I just moved in about a month ago to a new-ish studio in a great location in Sydney. I will probably post a listing in a week or so, and I am leaving the country in about three weeks. [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 4:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Peed on shoe rack.

A person - who will remained unidentified - pissed on my shoe rack. Most of the urine was directed INTO suede, lace-up shoes with a squishy, fabric bottom. A second pair of suede shoes (below) was affected by overflow. Otherwise, the urine sprinkled. [more inside]
posted by kiki_s at 4:23 AM PST - 14 comments

I once had MP3s of every song from The Muppet Show...

Many years ago, there was a blog (now long gone) about children's music, and the owner posted MP3s of every single song played on The Muppet Show, obviously ripped from video of the show itself. They were stored on some file storage site that no longer exists, and were available for download in ZIP files, sorted by season. I once had these files, but cruel time and hard drive failures have stolen them from me. Help me restore my collection of Muppet music!
posted by Faint of Butt at 4:21 AM PST - 6 comments

September 8

To call in or not to call in sick

I am not good at knowing when to call in sick. Even if I do it, I often feel guilty. Help a young person new to the working world out, please? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 11:47 PM PST - 35 comments

Is there an independent shop that services Chevy Volts in Los Angeles?

I'm wondering if anybody knows of an independent service shop that is able to service Chevy Volts in Los Angeles? I'm thinking about buying a used Volt, and just hate the idea of having to take it to the dealer for any service it may need. For any repairs, I'd like to be able to take it to a mechanic that has been suitably trained on the Volt. Also, I'd like them to be able to do my pre-purchase inspection when I do find the Volt that I want.
posted by rybreadmed at 11:13 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I Spend My Time in Ireland (Literary/Music/Foodie Edition)

My (almost) 70 year old father and I will be travelling to Dublin for ten days next week on the (unexpectedly!) second anniversary of a father/daughter trip in which he golfs and I occupy myself with books and booze. Help me not miss the best parts [more inside]
posted by thivaia at 9:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Why did I have a weird episode three days after giving blood?

I donated blood and platelets Saturday morning and felt light-headed once or twice Sunday, fine yesterday, and then this morning I suddenly got double vision and had trouble talking/walking/processing things from about 8:30 to noon. After that I felt better, and now I feel mostly fine. What happened? [more inside]
posted by good lorneing at 8:59 PM PST - 10 comments

2001 Subaru Forester -- make an expensive repair, or pack it in?

I found out today that my 2001 Subaru Forester may need a new catalytic converter, which all told is probably going to run me something like $1000. I already did this in 2013. Is it time to sell this car, or do I stick with the wisdom that you just keep repairing until you can't repair anymore? [more inside]
posted by escabeche at 8:28 PM PST - 15 comments

What angle to ace-bandage my elbow at?

I've got some pain in my elbow from atrocious posture using a laptop on the sofa for weeks. If I were to wrap it up in an ace bandage, what angle would I want to do that at?
posted by colin_l at 8:09 PM PST - 3 comments

Why is my new (old) laptop not connecting to the internet?

I've just recently received a secondhand Compaq C700 laptop running Windows Vista. Wireless is disabled but I've got an ethernet cord attached and it's showing that it's connected to my LAN, but I can't access any web pages using Firefox, Chrome or Windows Explorer. [more inside]
posted by h00py at 7:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Upping my femme game

How does a chubby middle-aged lady bring out more of her femme side? [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 7:27 PM PST - 22 comments

Powdery sand, very warm water, something interesting to do, and a baby.

We're looking for a week-long-ish beach-ish vacation, probably in March 2016 (in an off-season between school vacations), with requirements being very very fine powdery sand, very very warm water, and something interesting to do besides sit on a beach and swim. There are two complications. [more inside]
posted by dmd at 7:08 PM PST - 20 comments

Launching EBook on Amazon Kindle. Help Me Cross the I's and Dot the T's

My ebook is being launched next Wednesday. I am also going to piggyback my first book on top of this launch. It will be free through KindleSelect and readers can by 2 for 1 for two days. [more inside]
posted by goalyeehah at 6:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Sports cards and related crap sold to impressionable kids in the '90s

We're moving and I have three large boxes of sports cards that are steadily refusing to make me a millionaire as promised by the assorted authorities who sold them to me when I was 10. Is there a best practice for getting rid of them? EBay? Bonfire? This is almost all from the early '90s. [more inside]
posted by the christopher hundreds at 6:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Free curriculum for the self-taught web developer?

I want to build up my skills as a web developer, and just completed CodeAcademy's Ruby course. What's next? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 6:27 PM PST - 6 comments

I need per-sueding one way or the other here...

Can I wear these? (If ONLY this was simply a white-after-Labor-Day question!) [more inside]
posted by argonauta at 5:56 PM PST - 9 comments

Massive time lapse project assembly on a Mac?

I've been shooting a long series of time lapse images at my job, where we're doing a massive tear down and build. The whole process will be roughly 7 weeks long total, for 8-10 hours a day, 5-7 days a week, one shot per minute for each of two cameras. Up until this point, I've been using iMovie to assemble the initial images in series, spitting video out and then loading it into the GoPro studio app and speeding it up 800-1000% (this will be used in a show and can't be longer than perhaps two minutes). [more inside]
posted by nevercalm at 5:35 PM PST - 11 comments

the pursuit of appiness

I got an android tablet, which is the first mobile smart device I've ever bought. (I'm still in the dumbphone contingent.) What are the few apps that you've found to be the most useful or just plain neat? [more inside]
posted by threeants at 5:32 PM PST - 16 comments

How to approach translating a company's website from English to Spanish

My company is investigating translating a web site we work on into Spanish, and might even be looking into getting messages from website users translated from Spanish into English (and vice versa). We are large enough to have a real budget to do this professionally, but no one has done this before so we’re not sure where to start and what our options are. Talk me through the steps I should take to start investigating this. [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 5:21 PM PST - 13 comments

What is up with my neighbors?

My neighbors like to leave the common door open... and I had something stolen out of the vestibule. Now they won't leave the door closed. Your opinion? [more inside]
posted by Automocar at 4:01 PM PST - 29 comments

Should I Barback?

In my desperate quest for gainful employment, this is an option I am pondering... [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer at 3:28 PM PST - 11 comments

Job-hunting-filter. Should I list every job I had on my resume?

It´s time to look for a job again. I´m updating my resume, and the job experience section is getting too long for my taste, but at the same time I´m a bit wary of letting some stuff out. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 3:21 PM PST - 6 comments

Recommend a book on growing grapes for wine.

Please recommend a book on how to do this. The more textbooky the better. [more inside]
posted by jeffamaphone at 2:51 PM PST - 5 comments

New job is going well, but I want to do better.

I started a new job a few weeks ago. I am back in an office setting after my last job of almost five years entailed working from home. Things are going well, but I could use some extra guidance in re-adjusting to office life and finding my place. Snowflake details below. [more inside]
posted by intheigloo at 2:39 PM PST - 10 comments

Love Taza, NieNie, AptTherapy aka(mommy) lifestyle bloggers en francais?

Hi, I am looking for lifestyle and design mommy(or not)bloggers that speak and write in French. Bonus points if they are vloggers or keep an active YouTube Channel and Instagram. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 1:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Saddlepack that converts to daypack, do you existpack?

I am trying to find a large bicycle saddle pack (6 liters) that converts to a daypack. No luck so far. Can you help me? Details below. [more inside]
posted by J0 at 1:34 PM PST - 9 comments

Spoofed email from domain -- how to stop?

Somehow, someone/thing is spoofing emails from my domain. Such as Xerox.Device8@domain.com. We only have a handful of authentic email accounts on the domain. This appears to be redflagging all of our emails, so many legit emails are being sent to spam folders... how can I deduce what the actual problem is, and how to stop it? [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 1:15 PM PST - 10 comments

Simple cheap device for galvanic skin response only?

There's a bevy of wearables out there which record all sorts of things. I just want galvanic skin response, in a nice wireless bracelet or something. [more inside]
posted by curuinor at 1:01 PM PST - 1 comment

Brushing my teeth is now a special hell - why?

For the two weeks or so I've gagging and coughing (and sometimes vomiting a bit) a lot when I brush my teeth. I don't usually have a sensitive gag reflex at all and I am trying to figure out what's going on. I have a few ideas, but seek your suggestions and anecdata. [more inside]
posted by Lescha at 12:49 PM PST - 31 comments

Would you upgrade to Win10 from XP? Or?

Just a quick poll here: I have an older Windows XP machine that I never installed any Adobe products on, but now my wife wants to use that computer and *needs* to edit pdf files (nothing fancy). Should I upgrade to Windows 10, just so I can get the latest greatest Adobe pdf editor? Or try some sketchy PDF editor that still supports XP? Or..?
posted by mhh5 at 12:37 PM PST - 14 comments

Bonnie & Clyde Costume and Boston props

Help me determine the design elements in these outfits for a few famous Bonnie and Clyde photographs for a costume. Also, ideas on how to find a gun prop for rent or cheap purchase in Boston. More beneath the fold. [more inside]
posted by hillabeans at 12:25 PM PST - 5 comments

How to stop obsessing over health problems?

I have been having health problems lately (mental illness hernia etc.) that i am obsessing over. I am spending too much time looking up how i could cure them, and not living each day to the fullest. How can I stop myself from obsessing over problems that are out of my control or will take a while to cure (if they can be cured)? [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 12:21 PM PST - 8 comments

What is a good video about the founding fathers (of the US)?

I am teaching a college-level introductory government class and need to include content about the Founding Fathers and their views on government. My expertise is in environmental law/policy, which is where most of the class will focus, but I do need to cover the traditional constitution-writing, independence-declaring stuff as well. I already have readings (from Zinn, and also a mainstream textbook) but I would like a compelling video about the founding fathers - and, hopefully, their disparate and conflicting viewpoints - to round out our first week. I was thinking of PBS or something like that, but I'm having a hard time finding anything that is 1) long enough, 2) not too long (>60 minutes), and 3) college level. Any ideas?
posted by Princess Blueberry at 11:49 AM PST - 8 comments

Is there a good English language school w/ home stay in NYC?

I'm looking for my cousin, who would like to come here for 2 months or so and study English. I was hoping to find a program that would put her with a family here (I don't really have the space or lifestyle for it). And of course, I need the program to be reputable and safe :) I imagine this sort of thing HAS to exist. Do you know of one?
posted by wooh at 11:41 AM PST - 3 comments

What are the concrete objections to the "Iran Deal"?

The "Iran Deal" seems so self-evidently a good idea to me that I have not paid sufficient attention to the arguments of the deal's detractors. Could you point me to summaries, or provide one yourself, of why the deal is a bad deal if the alternative is no deal? [more inside]
posted by OmieWise at 11:31 AM PST - 18 comments

How did square know my email?

I used cash to pay for my kids to go through a ropes course. I noticed the person taking payment had an ipad with square. Then 10 minutes later, I received an email from square. The person who accepted payment said that with credit cards, square recognizes email, but didn't know how it worked with cash. [more inside]
posted by DTHEASH1 at 11:14 AM PST - 10 comments

Not the Bees! And Other Entomological Cries

Last night some yellow-jacket-ish creatures started appearing in ones and twos in the bedroom--and they kept coming. Are we doomed? [more inside]
posted by baseballpajamas at 11:02 AM PST - 8 comments

I want to see the connections

Is there anywhere to see legible versions, in their entirety, of Mark Lombardi's work? I can find clear details or blurry whole images, but never full resolution full versions. Ideally online or PDF, but I'll get a book if one of them actually publishes them.
posted by history is a weapon at 10:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Seeking boudoir photographer in the Bay Area

Seeking recommendations for a boudoir photographer in the San Francisco Bay Area. Peninsula preferred but SF fine, too. Thanks!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 10:51 AM PST - 3 comments

Advice for making aliyah to Tel Aviv or Akko/Acre?

I'm giving serious consideration to making aliyah to Israel, specifically to Tel Aviv or Akko/Acre. Does anyone have experience / tips for picking a city and then finding a place to live? [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 9:54 AM PST - 3 comments

An arm and a leg for a foot?

I am looking for a pair of affordable minimalist shoes that are suitable for a business casual environment that won't cost me an arm and a leg. [more inside]
posted by mcarthey at 9:52 AM PST - 15 comments

Dealing with the first white/gray hairs... trichotillomania edition.

Tips for dealing with the first white/gray hairs... hair pulling trigger warning. [more inside]
posted by ArgyleMarionette at 9:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Does my dad need a lawyer to retire early?

Ideally, he needs to get VRS diasbility and SS disability. [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 9:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Please recommend an online jigsaw puzzle store.

Need more jigsaw puzzles for my Grandmother, and all the online jigsaw puzzle stores look the same to me. [more inside]
posted by Beholder at 9:34 AM PST - 9 comments

What should we ask when hiring an architect?

After talking about it for a few years, my husband and I are ready to start the process of renovating and adding a second floor to our house. The next step, we're reasonably sure, is hiring an architect--but I've been dragging my feet because I want to walk into those first meetings with a good idea of what I'm hoping to learn from the conversation, rather than just being wow-ed by their sales pitch. The hitch is: I have no idea of what smart questions might be, since I have only the vaguest idea of how this process works. I'm hoping AskMe can fill in the details of "what does an architect do?" and "what do you wish you had asked your architect before hiring them?" [more inside]
posted by iminurmefi at 9:26 AM PST - 12 comments

What do ethical dog breeders want in puppy parents?

I am shortly to go visit a dog I want (5 month German shepherd) from a super ethical breeder, and I don't want to accidentally flunk out. Please help me know what to say and calm down before this interview so I can be a good and happy dog parent! [more inside]
posted by corb at 9:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Not looking for a six pack but I'd like to drop the spare tire

Reasonably fit lady in her late 30s having trouble looking like I actually work out. How to actually get physical results when I do mostly all the right things? Snowflakes of mild despair inside. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 9:19 AM PST - 19 comments

Things to do in Brooklyn for an afternoon?

I'm going to be in Brooklyn for one night. I'm going to watch Cecil Baldwin read smut in the evening (and I'm staying near there), but my afternoon is free. What should I do?
posted by missrachael at 9:09 AM PST - 8 comments

Play the game (or don't) - everyone is a winner!

What are good gifts to give out at a carnival themed event - details inside [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 8:28 AM PST - 4 comments

How to ease access to outdoor spigot beneath deck?

Just bought a house. The previous owners extended the deck and now the sillcock is really inconvenient to get to. How can I move it so that I can easily hook up and then turn on/off a hose? [more inside]
posted by jermsplan at 8:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Android phone not reconnecting to mobile data

I have a Sony Xperia Z3 Compact running Android 5.1.1 that has developed the annoying habit of not reconnecting to mobile data after going through a dead zone. (So if I go through a tunnel and come out the other end, even though the 4G icon appears next to the signal, the phone will return a "no connection" error.) Switching airplane mode on and off always fixes this, but there's no functional airplane mode widget I can find, so it's a pain. Is there any known fix for this issue?
posted by ndg at 7:56 AM PST - 4 comments

How can a physics postdoc transition to climate science?

Asking for a friend: I am currently a postdoc who researches black holes, but I'm interested in changing fields. In particular, I'd like to do something in climate science. How can I go about this? [more inside]
posted by rubyrudy at 7:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Baby Monitor 2015

Looking for baby monitor suggestions. Specs inside. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 7:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Seeking your recommendations on Supply Chain videos, podcasts and books

What YouTube videos on supply chains have been beneficial for you? I am seeking informative videos, learning modules as well as podcasts - your recommendations are welcomed! [more inside]
posted by glaucon at 7:21 AM PST - 0 comments

What do you call this style of contemporary architecture?

This house was once a very nondescript ranch until it received this facade. I'm asking especially about the style of the "fence": The fence is purely cosmetic, as it is about 3 feet from the house and serves no purpose other than to look cool. I've seen this style that uses these horizontal lines, accent lighting, dark natural woods, oversized windows, and is very clean and geometric, though it is very rare where I live. House in question here.
posted by sourwookie at 6:46 AM PST - 12 comments

When I wake up earlier than normal I get Nauseous, help it stop?

If I wake up earlier than normal I get a queasy, stomach, nauseous, and I feel like crap. This has been happening since my childhood. The earlier I wake up the worse it is. Google thinks it might be acid in my stomach. What is it and how can I fix it? Someone suggested tums. Thanks (I'm 32 y/o male)
posted by crawltopslow at 6:40 AM PST - 21 comments

What should I do with this Money?

I'm the treasurer of a small community organisation which didn't do anything that needed treasuring. Suddenly we have some money. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 6:25 AM PST - 13 comments

UK pram fitting

I have some questions about prams / pushchairs in the UK. I have an old Mothercare MyChoice My3 pram frame and I'd like to buy more bits for it, but Mothercare have discontinued it. [more inside]
posted by richb at 5:59 AM PST - 6 comments

I am neither your lawyer nor your doctor

I see a lot of answers to AskMetafilter questions with some variation of I AM NOT YOUR LAWYER or I AM NOT YOUR DOCTOR, especially when Americans reply. This seems so obvious to me that at first I thought it a bit childish. Then, it got me thinking. Can someone be sued for providing or appearing to provide legal or medical advice on the Internet? Is that what the disclaimer is intended for?
posted by Kwadeng at 5:30 AM PST - 32 comments

Low-cost counseling options for 22-year old in Portland, OR

My daughter is moving to Portland for work in a couple of weeks, and is in need of a low or sliding cost counseling option in the University area of Portland, OR. (Note - she will not be a student.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:23 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me not live in a garbage can.

My apartment is very messy and I need a one time deep cleaning thing. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:23 AM PST - 14 comments

Four hours in LA

I am at a conference in Pasadena this week. It finishes at 3:30pm on Friday. My flight to San Francisco is at 7:20pm from LAX that evening. I have never been to LA (or the US) before. What should I do with this time? [more inside]
posted by litereally at 3:45 AM PST - 14 comments

What novels only intelligible in mid-life?

I've turned 40 this year. In high school I used to go around reading Nabokov because I thought that's what smart people would read. I loved the words but missed about 80% of the thematic elements because I was too young and hadn't lived enough. I just picked him up again and am boggled. What other books should I return to? What authors are only intelligible to readers in mid-life?
posted by hoanthropos at 3:24 AM PST - 35 comments

Which film did everyone go and see post 9/11?

I remember back in that September reading a news story about how people seemed to be going to see a film in the days and weeks following 9/11 to take their mind off the awful things which were happening resulting in the film receiving better than expected box office. For years I've thought it was the Mariah Carey film Glitter but that was considered a failure. Any ideas?
posted by feelinglistless at 2:53 AM PST - 16 comments

September 7

Cranes, cranes everywhere

How is Seattle able to build so much new housing, and so quickly? [more inside]
posted by un petit cadeau at 10:59 PM PST - 12 comments

Re-Key or replace?

Should I attempt to re-key every lock in our new house, or buy new deadbolts and knobs? We're talking about two entry way doors, two external security doors, and one driveway gate with a deadbolt on it. There are a mix of different brands in the existing hardware. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:54 PM PST - 20 comments

Standby jury duty in Chicago

I live in Chicago and received a notice that I was on standby jury duty tomorrow and should call a number after 4:30 on the day before to find out if I needed to show up to the courthouse. When I call the number, though, it tells me that the info is not available and I should call after 4:30. It's 10:30 now. What do I do? How do I find if I need to show up?
posted by LSK at 8:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Halloween D&D session for co-workers, difficulty: Expert (levels 1-3)

Through a bizarre drunken conversation it has been determined that I'm DMing a one-off D&D session for 6-10 co workers at my office most of whom haven't played before. [more inside]
posted by Sebmojo at 7:18 PM PST - 9 comments

What's this unusual clicking noise from my PSU?

Recently there's been this clicking noise coming from the power supply unit of my desktop machine. It sounds like something is hitting the fan, but I've checked the fan and even stopped it from rotating momentarily but its not the source of the noise. Does anybody know what could be causing it? [more inside]
posted by destrius at 7:08 PM PST - 10 comments

Giving a live demo, need to project it—what camera, etc?

I thought this would be a simple thing to ask about and search, and a common need with an obvious solution. But I can't seem to get the lingo right. I'll be giving a presentation with a laptop and a projector for slides, but also want to add live action video of me doing stuff on the table or podium, within about a 13x19" area…using what? An iTouch/iPad in a holder/tripod? A doc camera? A GoPro? Is this what a webcam is/does? All wired, btw, no wifi or internet available. Help? TIA!
posted by dpcoffin at 6:57 PM PST - 14 comments

Is window tinting worth it?

Just moved to LA, and doing lots of street parking for the time being. Would it be worth getting the windows tinted? Definitely more to reduce heat than for appearance sake. I don't want to end up with a bubbly, blue mess on my windows either, and I'm not sure if that happens over time and/or only in the case of sloppy self-installation...?
posted by tremspeed at 6:32 PM PST - 20 comments

Warm-toned LED lights won't interfere with sleep/circadian rhythm?

Does anyone know about whether a warm-toned LED light acts like a regular incandescent light in terms of effects on melatonin/sleep cycle? Thank you ! [more inside]
posted by Perifferol at 6:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Starting an online international business

I'm in BC, Canada, trying to start an online store. Customers are likely in the US. Manufacturers are in China and the US. What's the best way to set up and operate my business? [more inside]
posted by beepbeepboopboop at 5:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Current fashion help: from very business casual to work professional

So my current job, the only real rule is a bit of modesty. Fashion dignity not required. I've litterally seen people in those fuzzy tracksuits in the one color.My new job is completely different. Help! [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 5:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Cost of a new heating system in a 42-flats apartment building

I need a ballpark estimate what a new heating system for an apartment building with 42 flats would cost. It would be heated with gas. [more inside]
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 4:44 PM PST - 3 comments

nook glowlight space issues

Yesterday I went to add a new book onto my nook glowlight, and got the error message that the file "can’t be copied because there isn’t enough free space." I currently only have about a hundred books on there, which seems low to be full already. [more inside]
posted by tan_coul at 4:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Renaissance Paintings with Loads of Symbolism

I need some examples of paintings from the Renaissance with a lot (or some) symbolism. I already have Jan Van Eyck's, The Arnolfini Portrait, can you help me find a couple more?
posted by nanook at 3:31 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me plan a trip to the Whitney!

In less than three weeks I'll be in New York City. I am ridiculously excited. Of the less than stellar times I have free, when is best to visit the Whitney? [more inside]
posted by missmary6 at 3:10 PM PST - 8 comments

Free street parking in Clarendon, VA

Looking for non-permit street parking in Clarendon, VA. Is there any? Friends are visiting and just need a place to leave the car, that won't cost $20 per night or require moving it every few hours.
posted by molla at 2:57 PM PST - 4 comments

I've lost one of my ferrets.

She's lost. So be it. I'm distraught. But that's not what the question is about. My other ferret grew up with her and they're almost a year old, so I'm worried he'll get depressed, and I can't spend hours upon hours with him every day. I'm reluctant to introduce a new ferret to the mix. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Ain at 2:30 PM PST - 9 comments

Quicky things to see in Cleveland

Mrs. D and I will be driving through Cleveland tomorrow on the way east. We don't have a lot of time to stop but both having never been there would like to stop for lunch and have a quick look around. Tell us what's up in Cleveland and where we should head!
posted by duoshao at 2:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Milan & the Italian Lake District in Winter

Is the Italian Lake District still lovely in winter? [more inside]
posted by dame at 2:03 PM PST - 3 comments

A firm orthopedic bed mattress for a bad back?

Can someone recommend me a good firm orthopedic bed mattress please (details inside). [more inside]
posted by sockpim at 1:32 PM PST - 2 comments

What type of art do I want to make?

What type of art do I need to study or get lessons in or look up tutorial of in order to draw in a style similar to Bradon Boyd (of Incubus - I can't link where I am but a quick Google should bring it up) and other - I don't know - "graffiti" style(?) Art? I want to be able to put what's in my brain to paper. Please help!
posted by jitterbug perfume at 1:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Traveling tips for a newly-minted flyer

Just got over a fear of flying and now I want to go everywhere. Can you help with some first-time travel tips? [more inside]
posted by Zosia Blue at 12:32 PM PST - 13 comments

If you had one year in the San Jose area, what would you do?

There are lots of good "what to do if you have one day/one week in San Jose/San Francisco" questions, but what if you have one year? [more inside]
posted by reventlov at 12:10 PM PST - 33 comments

Retreat? We don't know the meaning of the word retreat!

Or more accurately, we don't have an agenda for a retreat. A Woman's Retreat. Have you been to a wonderful one? Have you always you wished you could go to a wonderful one and do ...what? [more inside]
posted by kestralwing at 11:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Changing the order of slides in Canva presentation

I'm using Canva for the first time to create a presentation slide deck. Is there a way to change the order of the slides? Haven't been able to find the answer in the help section.
posted by storybored at 11:30 AM PST - 3 comments

Should I begin a relationship with my ex-girlfriend in a new city?

The woman I dated for the last two years (with unwanted break-ups in between due to circumstances outside of our control [being in different locations]) might now be re-entering my life and my city. We're both considering getting back together, and I'm certain we will be happy for the near-future if we do, but I wonder if doing so will cause me to get stuck. Am I justified in thinking this way? What have your experiences been? [more inside]
posted by lalunamel at 11:24 AM PST - 18 comments

navigating work in non-profits

Looking for advice from people who work in the non profit sector by choice [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 10:53 AM PST - 19 comments

Is this a scam?

Is this apartment in Copenhagen too good to be true? (I know, if you have to ask, the answer is probably yes... but bear with me, details inside.) [more inside]
posted by vernondalhart at 10:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a kind of differential gearbox.

Is there a gearbox design with two motors and two shafts that works like this... [more inside]
posted by StickyCarpet at 10:08 AM PST - 3 comments

Where should we live in the Boston area?

My wife and I live with our 20 month old daughter in Cambridge, MA and we're researching options for moving to the suburbs. We live in Inman Square and love what we have but want to (affordably) have some more living and outdoor space. Which communities in the Boston area should we consider? [more inside]
posted by scottso17 at 9:44 AM PST - 24 comments

Where should I move: Nashville, Raleigh, Charleston, or...?

As a 40-year old New Yorker looking to relocate, which would be best: Nashville, Raleigh, Charleston, Athens, Savannah...? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 9:38 AM PST - 25 comments

Online Photo Album

Our wedding photographer sent us our original full resolution pictures through Dropbox. I want to put together an online album to share with guests. I usually post pictures via Picassa; is there another platform that would be better? Also, I would prefer to keep the album password protected. Relatedly, I want to print thank-you cards and a wedding album. I have looked into Artifact Uprising and MPix but would love recommendations on print services too. Thanks!
posted by allthingsconsidered at 8:59 AM PST - 4 comments

Neighborhood for short stay in Vienna with small child?

Hi, my family is spending a long weekend in vienna visiting a friend, and wondering where to stay. We want to be central, within easy reach of my friend (grosse schiffgasse) and in a walkable area with some restaurants and playgrounds to keep our two year old fed and entertained, and so we can stay out when he is asleep in the stroller. i don't know the city at all. any suggestions? There are place right there where my friend is staying, but it did not seem like the best choice, perhaps i am wrong. thanks [more inside]
posted by melamakarona at 8:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Post-gallbladder surgery pain -- YANMD

I had the laproscopic gallbladder surgery on July 22 (everyone's experiences I read here prior were very helpful). I felt great and was off the prescription pain meds in five days, the OTC in ten. I went back to work--carefully--Aug 2 with the doctor's blessings and an admonition of no lifting over 20 pounds til Sept 2. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 8:41 AM PST - 12 comments

My dog ate some guitar humidifier. Should I take her to the vet?

About half an hour ago I saw my dog lounging in the liner of my guitar case, and I thought, aw, how cute. Then I saw that she had been chewing, and swallowing small amounts of my Herco HE360 guitar humidifier. [more inside]
posted by Luminiferous Ether at 8:33 AM PST - 5 comments

Strange symptoms after longer runs

I love long runs and would love to be able to go for longer ones. However, 8+ mile runs, while I feel great while doing them and immediately afterward, cause some unpleasant physical symptoms several hours after I do them: muscle cramps and aches (all over my body - not just in my legs), a sense of nervous tension, and very shallow sleep. [more inside]
posted by raisindebt at 8:28 AM PST - 11 comments

Am I an Immigrant?

I grew up in the UK, but have been a dual UK-Canadian citizen since birth (both my parents were Canadian citizens). I now live in Canada. Am I an immigrant? [more inside]
posted by Prunesquallor at 8:16 AM PST - 10 comments

Contact APIs

I'm doing some web development for a realtor, and he's asked me to look into some ideas. Is there a service that will let me find all the street addresses within a radius of a given address? (From a block to a half-mile radius, for example.) What about a service that provides contact info (name, at least) for a given address. It'd be even better if I could also research whether the occupant rents or owns, what their estimated income is, etc.
posted by jacob at 8:09 AM PST - 1 comment

I think like half of my AskMe history is identify-this-movie questions.

What movie/TV show am I thinking of? We find out grumpy conservative guy went to Woodstock and hated it. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 7:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Learning how to dog

It seems that we have a dog coming to live with us tonight. She's a rescue and apparently doesn't know how to be a dog. How do we teach her this? [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 7:32 AM PST - 28 comments

Things Might Be Looking Up. Is this Deductible?

For reasons I won't get into, I stopped making my house payment in May, 2013. I never resumed. In June, 2015, I was finally able to sell my home, as the market had suddenly improved, and rapidly. This was a month ahead of the foreclosure auction. I don't know why the lender took so long, because I wasn't working with them at all. [more inside]
posted by flowergate at 4:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Bad Wrists. No Orgasm.

I'm a young woman. Health troubles have led to wrist pain that's rendering many things impossible with my right hand (and I'm right-handed) and possible-but-painful with my left. I'm otherwise able-bodied. As I work through the health concerns personally and professionally, I'm left stumped as to how to have sexual pleasure at this time. More (and throwaway email) inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:38 AM PST - 12 comments

My sheets are a little blue :(

I washed a white cotton beadspread (IKEA Indira) with some sort of stain remover for whites. It turned it a gently glowing bluish white. I would like it to be the original colour, a pleasant creamy white. I have washed it since this happened and it's still glowing with an alien light. [more inside]
posted by Acheman at 3:20 AM PST - 2 comments

What's a good balance board for a standing desk?

I use an adjustable desk at work, and alternate between sitting and standing. After a coworker mentioned the Level, I really want to try using a balance board while standing, but maybe not a $400 one! So what should I look for instead? [more inside]
posted by daisyk at 1:33 AM PST - 1 comment

What game am I thinking of?

There's an old PC (Windows) game that was basically a collection of board games, in the setting of a cabin, of sorts, where there could be different weather and seasons outside. [more inside]
posted by disillusioned at 12:11 AM PST - 4 comments

September 6

Was it altitude sickness or overexertion?

Many years ago I hiked Yosemite Falls roundtrip from the valley floor, and found myself very short of breath not on the trail, but much later, in the middle of the night while camping in the valley. [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 10:27 PM PST - 9 comments

fantastical reverse culture shock

Which stories deal with the aftermath of someone who had spent time in a magical world but is suddenly thrust into mundanity, and instead of being "oh glad I'm back to normal" they wish to return? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 10:14 PM PST - 44 comments

I've maybe depended too much on the kindness of strangers...

How can I become a kinder and more trusting person? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Dealing with overbearing sibling of boyfriend

My boyfriend and I have been together a very ve