August 2022 Archives
August 31
First post-COVID travel from US from Canada. Hand-holding requested.
A friend has booked a flight from Ontario to the US in 10 days. They're fully vaxed (AstraZeneca and 2x Moderna). They have the Ontario COVID-19 Proof of Vaccination downloaded to their phone as a pdf and also a printed copy. Is there anything else COVID related they need to have before heading to the airport?
posted by brachiopod at 11:03 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by brachiopod at 11:03 PM PST - 11 comments
How to give a crap when I have no craps to give right now?
I nearly lost one of my closest friends in a freak accident. And now I can't bring myself to care about work when I really need to be focused on it, and should be putting in a lot more hours. All I want to do is spend time with my loved ones. But work is piling up in the meantime - how to force myself to get stuff done? [more inside]
Advice on researching senior communities?
I am starting research to help my dad, for whenever he wants or needs one. Do you have advice or helpful information? [more inside]
posted by NotLost at 10:26 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by NotLost at 10:26 PM PST - 16 comments
looking for European travel guidance for this fall
Hi! We (2 of us in our 50s) are beginning to plan a trip for early November for a week or 10 days. Our budget is greater than shoestring but certainly not high-end luxury. We're pretty open, generally, about where to go, which is making it difficult to make a decision. So we need some help narrowing down our options and some inspiration. That's where you come in! [more inside]
Help me buy these Nano Vista glasses frames online
I would like two glasses frames for my son. The Nano Vista Replay CF in blue and Nano Vista Replay QSB in Navy/Orange. Both size 44. I am having trouble finding them. Is there anywhere I can order them online. Delivery to Canada preferred but not essential. [more inside]
Should I go to the ER?
YANMD. I just sprained my ankle, or did I break it? What should I be thinking about as I decide whether or not to escalate this to ER/urgent care?
posted by BlahLaLa at 6:20 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 6:20 PM PST - 16 comments
weird flavor in jarred eggplant stuff
What's this weird (to me) taste in many eggplant-based imported jarred products? [more inside]
Book recommendations
If I like Kim Stanley Robinson, Arundhati Roy, and Octavia Butler, I might also like....
I want K9 to count down my mornings
K9, for the youth, was Dr. Who's weird robot dog in the 1970s / Tom Baker years. He occasionally counted things down for Dr. Who's girlfriend companion by saying, "Twenty minutes and counting Mistress! Ten minutes and counting, Mistress!" and so on. I want a timer that says this to me in K9's voice at one or two minute intervals. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 4:11 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by mygothlaundry at 4:11 PM PST - 7 comments
Prague for single oldster
I am planning a trip to Prague. When I went to Barcelona, I stayed in a dorm at a hostel for a night and it was fine. I am old and I am traveling alone. I will have three nights. I do not have a lot of money, but a single room would be nice. Where should I stay, where should I go, what should I eat? [more inside]
Tracking down a scifi show from the early days of crowdfunding
The plot as I recall revolves around a satellite/probe crashing into a modern-day (early 2000s) remote area (in Canada?). Turns out there are Russian people inside, and the only way that could be the case is if the USSR somehow had a secret base on the Moon for at least a generation. There was a self-run (i.e. before Kickstarter &c even existed) crowdfund campaign for it.
My brain refuses to give me any title for it other than "Capricorn One", which is definitely not correct. [more inside]
posted by LeDiva at 3:29 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by LeDiva at 3:29 PM PST - 3 comments
Somewhere to violin for about an hour close to the montreal airport?
I'm trying to spend an entire year practicing my instrument every day (I have to play at least a little bit every 24 hours). Between December 11th (10pm) and 12th (8pm) I'll have a layover in the Montreal airport. I've never been to Montreal. Does anyone have suggestions for where I might be able to go to violin for an hour or two that's close enough that I'll not miss my flight?
posted by wurl1tzer_c0 at 2:27 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by wurl1tzer_c0 at 2:27 PM PST - 8 comments
Resources for non-traditional parents?
Hi, I am looking for online communities, books, and other resources targeted toward parents like me who are 1) old; 2) adopting; and 3) trans-racial parents. And also general helpful parenting resources to the extent not covered by other Asks. [more inside]
posted by *s at 1:55 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by *s at 1:55 PM PST - 9 comments
Books about South Korea
Looking for travel writing, readable history or sociology books about South Korea, or novels set there and available in English. [more inside]
Dealing with an old mean dog?
I have a 12 year old dog that's turned mean over the years. I just took him back from the vet and he's completely healthy. However, he's impossible to deal with, to the point where if I walk past him sometimes he'll bite and break the skin. What's the best way to deal with this and make him comfortable as well as me? [more inside]
What does the science say on fluoride at the dentist for adults?
What does the actual scientific research say about whether I need regular fluoride treatments at the dentist? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 12:51 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by capricorn at 12:51 PM PST - 7 comments
Paint matching help
I'm trying to match a certain paint color with an off-white and maybe a few other colors. My goal is to eventually paint all or almost all of the interior walls in my house this off-white, but I'd like to do it bit by bit and have it look deliberate during the process, so I think they need to match well. Do you have paint color suggestions or a good (cheap, fast) way to get hooked up with a matching palette? [more inside]
renting a car with a temporary renewal license
I renewed my driver's license a few weeks ago. The state of New Hampshire sends you the new license by mail, but it takes up to 60 days, and so you don't drive around with an expired license while you wait, they give you a printed-out piece of paper with the new license information. I'm travelling tomorrow, and I realized today that this might arouse some suspicion at the rental car counter. [more inside]
Berkshires in September
I'll be in the Berkshires the third week of September. Any and all recommendations will be appreciated - hikes, museums, historical sites, restaurants, music, art, etc. I'm staying in Lenox and visiting friends who live in Dalton. [more inside]
posted by ShooBoo at 11:00 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by ShooBoo at 11:00 AM PST - 7 comments
Competing Doc Appointments. What to do?
Hope me navigate whether to keep two possibly conflicting (in a med specialist sense) doctor appointments. [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 10:12 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Thorzdad at 10:12 AM PST - 10 comments
The hunters have become the hunted
I know someone who got robbed in a big way by one of these "Best buy/Geek squad" scammers. She got an email that looked legit, she called the number, and wound up losing a lot of money. So naturally I hate these fuckers. Then I got the Best Buy/Geek Squad email. Should I follow up? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 9:44 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by bleep at 9:44 AM PST - 23 comments
Name this tune: Voodoo/Cajun/Southern Gothic edition
I've spent the last few weeks trying to remember a song I was into a few years ago and don't think I have much to go on. I've searched my YouTube watch history with no luck so I probably wasn't logged in when I originally found it. [more inside]
posted by jabes at 9:19 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by jabes at 9:19 AM PST - 3 comments
Do you have a plate wall? How best to hang them?
Because I am extremely on-trend and because I have a lot of misc vintage ceramics, I want to make a plate wall. But I don't want my precious, precious vintage plates to fall and shatter. How best to hold them on the wall? [more inside]
Thomas Hardy translator
Attention English majors: I am reading Return of the Native, which is mostly going well. But I have a question about a story. [more inside]
posted by theredpen at 8:23 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by theredpen at 8:23 AM PST - 19 comments
Forum for DIY house projects
Please recommend an online forum for DIY house projects, particularly for the untrained and uneducated. [more inside]
Are there toxic drupulet berries? (berries with bumps like rapsberries)
I remember reading once that all berries with the little bumps like raspberries (drupulets) are edible. In other words, there exist no berries in this form that are toxic. I came upon some raspberries (I'm pretty sure) in the woods recently and would have eaten them, except a half-remembered fact is not really a good basis for eating something in the woods. Please confirm half-remembered fact so next time I can eat the raspberries.
What's new in NYC?
I'm going to be in NYC for 24 hours for the first time since I moved (after 5.5 years there) last November. I'm 95% going to be going to my old faves and meeting with friends, but I would like to set aside a quick detour to either walk by or go to new spots. Unless the bar or food is extremely cheap andd quick, I'm looking for cool new buildings, shops, public art districts south of Central Park in Manhattan and in Brownstone Brooklyn or Williamsburg that have been completed or opened since November 2021. Thoughts?
posted by sandmanwv at 7:07 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by sandmanwv at 7:07 AM PST - 9 comments
Urgently need to have 75 glass jars etched in nyc
What type of business (or which business specifically) do I need to have 75 3 ounce glass jars laser etched in NYC any borough at all with extreme urgency? (these jars need to be filled with something and handed off to someone else by sept 20) [more inside]
Soundproof curtains or scam?
Thanks to previous posts, I know truly soundproof curtains don't exist. But will these Quiet Curtains do an okay job of reducing high frequency noises and allowing me to sleep near the kitchen? And is this company legit? [more inside]
posted by crookedneighbor at 6:30 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by crookedneighbor at 6:30 AM PST - 9 comments
iPad live mixing video to HDMI?
I'd like an app that would allow me to live mix video (transitions and effects optional) using an iPad mini 5/6 with a HDMI adapter to a 1080p projector. I don't want to mirror the iPad screen – just feed the HDMI as a seperate output. Is this doable? [more inside]
Concerned about a friend - refugee marriage
How do I help a married refugee friend who may be being abused? [more inside]
Forgot a 1099-B on 2020 taxes. Now have IRS CP3219a notice. What to do?
USA Taxfilter! Back in 2020 I accidentally omitted one 1099-B from my taxes. Now I have a CP3219A notice from IRS. The back taxes + penalty is about $15k. The latest IRS CP3219A notice says I have 90 days to “file a petition with the US Tax Court”. The 90 days run out in mid-October. I’m trying to figure out what to do. [more inside]
August 30
how to turn iPhone xs off forever when the screen is black
My iPhone xs has a completely dead, black screen. It is, however, holding on to life because the alarm is going off. I can snooze it by pressing the side button, but then it just comes back in ten minutes. [more inside]
posted by cilantro at 11:42 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by cilantro at 11:42 PM PST - 7 comments
All the Pizzazz without the Zzzz's -- Ultra Whimsical Pajama Recs
I once saw someone wearing a fabulous knife print dress. Ever since then, I've been wanting to find a whimsical (potentially with a touch of edgy/morbid) pajama set along similar lines for my sister for an upcoming gift. (The pajamas are the priority, but if someone has seen the knife dress, I'd be thrilled. It also had pockets. A real win-win.) I'm thinking less kawaii, more "metal"...unless it's absurd animal prints with example art linked below. Outside-the-box animal stuff always wins the day... [more inside]
posted by pdxhiker at 11:40 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by pdxhiker at 11:40 PM PST - 8 comments
Follow up read to The Promise
I am enjoying reading The Promise by Damon Galgut, and would like to do some more reading about South Africa. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 11:35 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by jojobobo at 11:35 PM PST - 6 comments
Working in a small workplace
I am starting a new job next week. There are only 10 people working there. How will this be different for me than the bigger workplaces I am used to? [more inside]
What is the best women's robe?
I am looking for the softest and coziest women's robe. Light but not sheer, warm but not wintery. I'm not looking for a bath robe (too plush, not lounge-y enough,) anything with waffle texture unless it's extraordinary, or a silk robe, of which I have many. I've gone down the internet rabbit hole looking for it myself and thought I'd ask here to see if anyone had any personal recommendations. What is the perfect daily wear robe?
Stark & Dark Concerts?
Stop Making Sense had a kind of stark & dark look in terms of lighting and maybe even stage furnishings. What are some other concerts or live performances like that? [more inside]
posted by circular at 8:04 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by circular at 8:04 PM PST - 10 comments
Looking for good books told as a correspondence between two people?
Currently reading How To Lose The Time War and I really like it, and want more books in this format. [more inside]
Need a dupe for Kiehl's Silk Groom serum!
What the title says. I don't fuss much with my hair, but I often use this serum either on damp hair before brushing it out or to tame frizzy flyaways when it's dry without going too heavy on the product. It is discontinued, I don't like the SG cream, I am bereft. Suggestions?
posted by praemunire at 6:47 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by praemunire at 6:47 PM PST - 4 comments
Help me understand my arthritis
I've been having issues with many of the joints in my fingers for the last year or so. I've seen three doctors and a hand therapist, all of whom have said osteoarthritis, but explanations for the idiosyncrasies of what's going on are decidedly lacking - as is any guidance on what I should be doing. [more inside]
Vegetable-heavy, healthy-looking main courses that aren't salads?
My wife is extremely pregnant, and she's desperate for something healthy to eat—more than just healthy, healthy-looking. What recipes do you have that are vegetable-heavy, colorful, and light-ish that aren't salads? [more inside]
Postscript question for the incorrigible perfectionist (MacOS printing)
I have a 310x115mm card, and I would like to make signatures (bi-fold booklets) that fit in the card, stapled to the spine when the card is folded in half, to make a 155x115mm landscape book. I have a duplex printer that can handle US legal paper, and a copy of Pages for MacOS. [more inside]
posted by spacewrench at 4:21 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by spacewrench at 4:21 PM PST - 4 comments
Maranta has folded itself in half
My maranta is doing something new that makes me worry for it. The leaves are folded down so dramatically that they are almost vertical. (The opposite of how they are supposed to fold up at night.) There is little circadian movement at all. [more inside]
Animal Kingdom Eye Durability
This might seem like a bizarre question but...which animal has the toughest eyes? Meaning, the least vulnerable to being injured?
posted by tiny frying pan at 3:57 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by tiny frying pan at 3:57 PM PST - 7 comments
Which iMac to buy in 2022?
I’m shopping for a desktop computer for work. Ideally, I would have done this several months ago and spent the minimum amount of time on this task, but 1) spending money and 2) choosing from among many similar options both give me a hard time, so I’m asking for help here so I can pull the trigger and move on. [more inside]
posted by mustard seeds at 3:53 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by mustard seeds at 3:53 PM PST - 13 comments
Do you know people w/medical probelms because of flip flops/no shoes?
"What are the negatives of flat feet?" That is the heading for the list of issues caused by flat feet. [more inside]
Source of this statistic about aircraft carbon emissions ?
I was told recently of a statistic which suggested that carbon emissions by passenger aircraft (grams per passenger/km) will fall by 2% every year for the next decade due to advances in technology. This seemed unlikely to me and I'm interested to know where this statistic might have come from. [more inside]
Narcolepsy Type 2: Your Experience and Treatment
Next month I'll be doing my first sleep study after a decade of worsening sleep issues. Right now there's a tentative diagnosis of Narcolepsy Type 2 on the table. Type 2 is characterized by an absence of cataplexy, the sudden loss of muscle tone typically associated with the disorder. Do you have Type 2? What's your life like? YANMD.
Help with email to employer about taking a break
I've decided I need to take some kind of break from work in order to deal with health issues. I have come up with a proposal as to different types of work with limitations. I work for a small law firm that has already indicated they are flexible in this regard, and I trust will be supportive. I'm hoping for input on the email. [more inside]
Suggestions for amplification of train and platform recordings
I am looking for suggestions on equipment to amplify train and platform recordings from a heritage train station to the street. [more inside]
posted by elkevelvet at 1:58 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by elkevelvet at 1:58 PM PST - 9 comments
Work anxiety about doing work
I get anxious when I have work to do at work. Which means I’m anxious about work all the time. Help me shift my mindset around this. [more inside]
I would like to listen to music
I would like to learn more about labor history in the US (and any other hopeful history). Can you recommend some folk songs? [more inside]
Cue the Woody Guthrie medley
I would like to learn more about labor history in the US. Can you recommend some books? [more inside]
Toronto Art
We are celebrating our 20th anniversary in October and as much as we want to go to London, England, we just renovated our kitchen, and might have to tear out a leaky bathroom (gah)
So we are thinking a weekend in Toronto, going to the AGO, and then art galleries. We are looking to add pieces. [more inside]
Looking for a bike rack recommendation
My wife and I recently bought Aventon Pace 500 bikes. We want to get a bike rack to accommodate both bikes as well as our son's bike. My son is 6 and has a normal bike. I feel completely lost when it comes to bike racks. We drive a 2019 Mazda CX-5 and a 2020 Honda Odyssey. Can anyone recommend a bike rack that would suit our needs? [more inside]
Good low-key date ideas where you can dress up nice? (Toronto)
I’m going on a date with someone I’ve gone out with a couple of times. Both of us really like getting dressed up (think- suit for me, of course. Nice dress etc for her).
Anyone have suggestions for things we can do, places we can go, that feel like “an excuse to get dressed up” but that don’t involve doing some big elaborate thing? [more inside]
What's the deal with AirBnB's?
I'm familiar with them but in my neighborhood my 1920s shotgun home I rented 5 years ago, 900 sqft and not renovated was $850. I went to go rent it again and it went for $4k! Renovated with appliances but that's not the same. Two others I looked at were the same price and the sellers were not motivated to rent to a regular renter. Is there a tax loophole involved or something I'm missing? I assumed AirBnBs were the equivalent of hotels. What's going on? [more inside]
CDC’s COVID-19 Community Level vs. Transmission Indicators
I’m currently in an area where the CDC’s Transmission Indicators for COVID-19 are extremely high, but the “community level” is low. While I’ve found some definitions for the community levels, I haven’t found a comparison of the two systems that says which one I should fall back on or why. This is a bit nerve-wracking - can you please point me to a comparison between the two, why there would be such a discrepancy in values, and how I should understand it?
posted by Going To Maine at 11:01 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Going To Maine at 11:01 AM PST - 8 comments
Other driver's insurance dragging their feet on paying for damage
My parked car was sideswiped, causing damage to the fender. I got the other car's insurance info and filed a claim with their insurance company but almost 3 weeks later haven't heard anything back, other than that they are still waiting to hear from their insured (the driver of the other car) and they can't move forward until that happens. What's the easiest/best way for me to handle this? [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 10:53 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by splitpeasoup at 10:53 AM PST - 13 comments
Technical term for disingenuous legislation?
What is it called when an organization creates a policy that proclaims to do "A, B, & C" but also quietly and without discussion also includes "D, E, & F;" where the unspoken purposes of D, E, & F are more significant and substantial than A, B, & C, which are mostly a smokescreen? [more inside]
posted by Verg at 10:25 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Verg at 10:25 AM PST - 14 comments
Mail order from Sépaq gift shops?
Is it possible to buy things online from the visitor center gift shop of the Jacques Cartier national park? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 9:54 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by wenestvedt at 9:54 AM PST - 4 comments
Daily Mass Then Throw a Pass
Why are so many of the best high school football teams Catholic schools? [more inside]
What car should I buy, while electric vehicles are scarce?
The time has (probably) come to own my own car, and I'd planned to buy an EV. But it seems like buying one could take months in the current market, or I'd need to buy a used car at an inflated price. Help me think through this decision. [more inside]
posted by serathen at 9:18 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by serathen at 9:18 AM PST - 15 comments
How can I create and gift one NFT (with minimal environmental impact)?
I would like to turn a piece of my artwork into an NFT as an ironic gift to a friend for a special occasion. What is the simplest/most affordable/least environmentally damaging way to do such a thing? [more inside]
Yes, I am already on it. Now leave me alone.
How do I professionally and politely ask a co-worker to stop forwarding me requests to do things that I already know are part of my duties? [more inside]
Will being the rent middleperson complicate my taxes?
You are not my tax professional. But maybe you can share some knowledge! My taxes are generally dead simple. I have one job. I pay taxes on that income. Boom, done. However this year might be messier. [more inside]
posted by prewar lemonade at 7:48 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by prewar lemonade at 7:48 AM PST - 10 comments
What's going to happen with misinformation & civil war enthusiasts?
Even if we did get rid of the out and out fascists in American politics, what happens to all of the regular citizens who were primed to go right along with them? [more inside]
posted by knownassociate at 7:32 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by knownassociate at 7:32 AM PST - 7 comments
Star Wars junkies: can you give me the Cliff's Notes on the Sith?
I'm in bed with Covid, mildly symptomatic and killing time on YouTube, Disney+, NF, AmPrime, etc.
I just finished watching the Star Wars films featuring the epic badass Darth Maul. A brief bit of looking into the character's back story has proven anything but brief: the vast amount of online lore and myth-making about the Sith, Maul, Vader etc is far more than I really want to spend the time getting into, so perhaps some mefites could weigh in the essentials?
Thanks. May the force be with you
What happens if you fail out of US Navy SEAL training?
Does one enlist in the Navy with the sole goal of becoming a Navy SEAL? And if they drop out of training, what becomes of their Navy career? [more inside]
posted by honey badger at 7:12 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by honey badger at 7:12 AM PST - 14 comments
Seeking FREE Garden Planning Tool
I'm starting to plan things out for my community garden plot next year; I'm looking for a free tool to plan things out; it can be as basic as a spreadsheet that calculates dates for me. Any recommendations? (I already know about the GrowVeg app, and I've run out the free trial period.) [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:58 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:58 AM PST - 8 comments
Make a gift certificate for a place that doesn't do gift certificates?
I want to give someone a gift certificate for a specific restaurant. The restaurant doesn't issue gift certificates. Is there a way to give my friend a generic gift card, but in a way that makes it more like a gift certificate for the restaurant? Or some other solution? I'm in Canada if that affects things.
Air fryers/nonstick and oil sprays
I've read that it's not good to use typical nonstick cooking sprays with nonstick cookware, including air fryer baskets or food going into them, because the additives (lecithin and propellants) lead to buildup and can destroy the surface or at least make it not nonstick. I just got an air fryer so I'm looking for recommendations for misters *that work well* to make my own oil spray and/or experiences using pre-packaged sprays (like this) that say they don't have additives with an air fryer basket/food that will go into one.
August 29
Medical approaches to non-diabetic extreme hunger / polyphagia
Ever since I was young, I've experienced continual, fairly extreme hunger, and have had difficulties controlling my weight because of it. I'm hungry right now! I have been successful in losing and maintaining weight, but my life is a continual, depressing, distracting struggle against deep and serious hunger.
I've had frequent interactions with both PCPs and bariatric physicians since I was young and have had many, many tests done over the years, but those tests have never indicated that I am diabetic, have a thyroid disorder, nor, despite being obese much of my life, any problematic metabolic issues detectable by standard testing. I'm not looking for weight loss solutions - I can lose and maintain weight - I'm wondering if there's another route of testing I can take that might reveal the source of the hunger. [more inside]
Being human with cancer
I'm 26 this year, and the cancer has returned. How do I be alive? [more inside]
Am I being too petty?
Okay, so I'm upset about this to the point of almost spitting blood. A construction crew installing new gas-lines in my neighbourhood *literally* parked a digger smack dab in front of our driveway overnight despite there being plenty of other places to leave it. I believe this was in response to a complaint I made to their project manager about them blocking our driveway last week. I'm emailing a complaint and my concerns to the project manager with photos. Is it too petty if I cc the higher-ups in this email? [more inside]
Bright or patterned running clothing brands?
Which high quality brands should I shop for brightly colored and/or patterned womens running clothes? [more inside]
Cheap low-maintenance flooring to replace carpet for clueless DIYers?
We just bought an old townhouse with terrible carpet that we need to replace. We don’t have the money to pay other people to do it so it’s going to be a DIY job. I was thinking some kind of click-in-place wood-imitation vinyl? I have no idea what brands are good, affordable and easy for clueless people like us! We also have carpeted stairs and I don’t know how to handle that either. Please help!
How to keep only certain photos off iCloud
Is there a way to keep only, um, certain photos off iCloud but have the rest of them continue to back up? It's not really what you're thinking but requires the same level of privacy. All the online advice is about how to turn iCloud backups off, which is not what I want to do.
How to get smells out of my comforter?
Someone threw up on my comforter. All the gross stuff is gone. I just need to get rid of the smell. Help! [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 3:09 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by silverstatue at 3:09 PM PST - 13 comments
Best online retailers for graphic t-shirts
Where are all the cool kids buying screen-printed tees these days? [more inside]
Satire moderated as misinformation - solutions?
A colleague recently started a new satirical website akin to The Onion. Time and again they have attempted to utilize Facebook, Google and Twitter to advertise and share articles, but moderators consistently flag content for policy violations, even though all content is satire and labeled as such on the website. Because the client is not allowed to monetize or advertise with major tech companies there is little web traffic and almost zero revenue. [more inside]
Medical masks without cotton material?
Hi. I am wondering if there are medical masks that are not made out of cotton material? This is due to a rare allergy. I have to wear a medical mask at my university this fall, but they require medical masks - it doesn't look like they will accept polyester made masks that are not medical.
Now that DSLRs are dead what do hobbyist photographers use?
If you had a DSLR camera and are just a hobbyist (ie not taking photos for money) what did you move to? [more inside]
Fumigation tips (with toddler!)
So after an inspection by a termite company, they have confirmed we have an active infestation and need to tent ASAP. As far as I understand, we need to take out all food from the house, including everything inside the fridge and freezer, but canned food is fine to leave. Beyond that, is there anything else we should remove, just to be safe, especially since we have a toddler? [more inside]
What routine bloodwork/exams/vaccines handy does your doctor do, and and reliable reference or references.
This question is about routine bloodwork/exams/vaccines. Basically, what are they? [more inside]
Medicare Part A and Employer insurance
YANML. Am I liable for forgetting to declare Part A coverage to our employer insurance company? [more inside]
How to find school vaccination laws for Philadelphia in the early 1980s?
I want to make sure I've been vaccinated against polio. Sadly, I don't have access to any of my childhood vaccination records. However, my dad says I had "all my shots" before I started school. I'm aware a lot of places have laws requiring children to be vaccinated before they can start school. Is there a way I could find out what vaccination laws would have applied to me, as a child starting school in early 1980s Philadelphia? [more inside]
Scandinavians and American Country Music
How and why did American country music catch on in Scandinavian countries, especially classic country? Most articles I've found about Doug Seegers, and I'm looking for more. I know and love this song ("Emmylou" by First Aid Kit) A friend in Muscle Shoals says Scandinavian tourists come frequently. I'm looking for info that can explain more about how and when Scandinavians--and is it jut a certain demographic?--got into American country music enough to visit Alabama studios.
posted by mermaidcafe at 11:53 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 11:53 AM PST - 8 comments
What's a good free Excel Template for Simple Bookkeeping?
I'm the treasurer of a small non-profit arts organization. We have a simple financial profile. We charge students for courses and we have expenses for teachers, insurance, office supplies etc.
I'm looking for an easy, short learning-curve way to keep track and generate a P/L at year end. I'm guessing Excel, and if that's right, what's a good free template I can use? (Is there something better than Excel?) [more inside]
Dental x-rays for anxious kids: required?
My 7-year-old son has significant doctor and dentist anxiety. He especially struggles with dental x-rays (gagging) and has yet to complete a full set of bitewings, although he did get a panormic x-ray this year. Our pediatric dentist says if Kid can't get x-rays done by his next visit, he can't continue on as a patient. The panoramic x-ray is not sufficient, it has to be the bitewings. Is this a thing?
(This is not a question about x-ray safety) [more inside]
posted by castlebravo at 10:46 AM PST - 26 comments
posted by castlebravo at 10:46 AM PST - 26 comments
Help me find a cabin to rent!
I am thinking about living for a month or two somewhere in nature within a day's hike + public transit of NYC. Does a suitable location exist? How do I find it? Details inside. [more inside]
Clothing moths or something else?
I pulled out a couple of cashmere sweaters yesterday and discovered that the halo is missing on a couple of small, irregularly-shaped spots on the torso on both of them, the yarn appears to be okay. I didn't see any other evidence of moths or other insects. What caused this damage? How do I fix these sweaters and protect my other wool sweaters? [more inside]
posted by momus_window at 10:06 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by momus_window at 10:06 AM PST - 5 comments
Stomach issues……could it be be IBS or what?
My son’s has been having stomach issues for few months now.We saw a gastroenterologist.He did some blood work and didn’t diagnose anything but suggested elimination diet to find the trigger foods that causes pain. [more inside]
Free Budgeting Software
I'm looking for simple PC desktop (not mobile app) software to manage credit card expenses. I would just like it to import a statement and separate it into categories each month so I can track expenses. I would be ok with a one time fee, but not a monthly subscription. Does such a thing exist or should I just do it by hand in Excel?
Annotated bibliography
As a volunteer in a historical research group, I've been tasked with putting together an annotated bibliography for a prolific nineteenth-century novelist. Looking for guidance or examples. [more inside]
Was pulled over, got a warning but it’s a bit unclear, double checking.
My friend and I were on vacation, heading back home. I was driving his car. In a small local town, I got pulled over for speeding. My friend and I are both Deaf, but he can hear and read lips a bit). When the police officer gathered my ID and his registration, after a few minutes, according to my friend (he was the one communicating for me), the officer said “slow down, have a nice day” then handed our items back and left. [more inside]
tea history!
The Kitchen Cabinet podcast recently had a segment where they were talking about tea blending and mentioned that Earl Grey most likely ended up with the flavor it has because the water in that area tasted bad. I'd love to hear/read more about this type of thing: how tea was/is made, interesting stories of the history of the tea industry, (basic) chemistry behind tea blends. Please share your favorite recs! (I did find this from 2014 and will take a look at those too)
Random word in email before you open it?
I receive tons of junk email. Lots gets filtered out, but still a lot gets through.
When I preview my email on my iPhone before opening it, instead of the first few lines of the email, I get random words. [more inside]
iPad seems to have a mind of it's own
When I am on Facebook and scrolling within a link, before I get to the end a white page pops up with a nonsense URL. [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 7:59 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by shaarog at 7:59 AM PST - 4 comments
Can I learn to love a white car?
I'm currently shopping for a used car. I've noticed that for the make, model, and features I want, there are a lot more white cars available in my price range than any other color. Unfortunately, I've never really liked white as a color for cars. [more inside]
posted by mekily at 6:56 AM PST - 41 comments
posted by mekily at 6:56 AM PST - 41 comments
Tactic for finding movies w/o exposing self to any spoilers?
I happened to randomly watch this old Japanese movie and found that one aspect I enjoyed was not having seen any previews or read any reviews beforehand. (These days, I find both give out too much of the plot.)
For contemporary movies, I've tried to find critics I generally agree with and just look to see if the title of their reviews are positive or negative, but that only goes so far. Does anyone have any other clever strategies?
How to use a silver sugar bowl?
A relative has kindly bestowed a silver sugar bowl on me, the kind shaped like a tiny ornamented treasure chest on little paws. Going by markings it's solid sterling-ish silver, and the ornamentation is kind of pressed from the inside, creating multiple nooks and crannies. The brown sugar inside was in very good nick except in those nooks at the bottom, where there were small quantities of black grains, as if they tarnished along with the silver. How can I prevent it in the future? [more inside]
posted by I claim sanctuary at 2:47 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by I claim sanctuary at 2:47 AM PST - 14 comments
Hope me! Stories of older moms conceiving after a bit of difficulty?
Trying to lift myself out of despair by reading stories of people (especially older women like me) who had a bit of trouble conceiving and then succeeded. [more inside]
August 28
Sales training for non-salespeople?
A few members of my team are looking to do some sales training for their professional development, but we're having trouble finding any good programs that feel right. Do any exist? [more inside]
Mi propria biblioteca
Help me find FICTION books I will love - written in Spanish! Quirks inside. [more inside]
How can I maintain a strong sense of self while dating?
I’m a nonbinary person with little dating experience, which I’m very self conscious about. Because dating is often so gendered and because I struggle with shame over my lack of experience, I’m finding it hard to show up on dates authentically and honestly. What are some tactics or resources (books are great!) that I can use to strengthen my ability to stay true to my own goals and desires? [more inside]
Help me, obi-wan techie, you're my only hope! (To pick the right tablet)
Help this dyslexic buy the right tablet! I'm overwhelmed and flummoxed because there are so many letter and number combinations in the titles, I just can't parse. I can't. Requirements within.. [more inside]
posted by crayon at 10:17 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by crayon at 10:17 PM PST - 9 comments
Can you give some examples of subdomains of English?
I'm not quite sure what to call what I'm asking about, which is part of my question. I'm thinking of specialized subsets of English, that have their own constraints and grammar and vocabulary and quirks. Are these subdomains? They aren't dialects or variants per se; I don't know what linguists would call them. Some examples inside. [more inside]
Content Warning: sexual abuse
most luxurious-yet-sensible underwear
what are the most luxurious womens underwear that are still machine-washable and not a hundred dollars? [more inside]
Spiritual/Existential Issues, Modern Society, and Jung
I am writing a paper on the spiritual/existential issues of modern society from a Jungian/neo-Jungian perspective.
I want build the paper around a dream I had soon after Trump was elected in 2016. (see below)
It's there I freeze. My interpretation of the dream in the past is that I see the individual (Trump, assistants, doctor and crowd) as themselves. I haven't looked it through as each one being aspects of me. [more inside]
birthdays summon ghosts of the past
My ex unexpectedly sent me several thoughtful birthday gifts. I have handled the situation well, but I’m struggling to emotionally process it. [more inside]
posted by cruel summer at 5:56 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by cruel summer at 5:56 PM PST - 7 comments
Should I stay or should I go?
I've been living in a new city for six months now. While there are so many things I love about it down here, I also find myself constantly aching to go back home. How do you know if something just is not right for you? [more inside]
Cozy stories set in the pacific northwest
I've always felt drawn to the pacific northwest. I particularly found the video game gone home comforting, both because of its PNW setting but also because of the 90s references. Can you recommend stories in any media that fulfill that 'cozy PNW' vibe? I'm open to books, stories, games, movies, anything.
How to escalate a problem at Charles Schwab beyond the phone rep?
I have two accounts with Charles Schwab: an investor checking account and a designated beneficiary account [which is used for trading, which I don't do].
When trying to transfer funds online from the checking account to the trading account, which I use as a savings account, it says I cannot do so because my checking account is restricted. More inside. [more inside]
Quiche me, you fools
I like buying quiche at the local coop (bacon, onion, cheddar: quiche Lorraine).
How can I fancy it up? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 4:34 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by A Terrible Llama at 4:34 PM PST - 13 comments
Missing hearing aids…again. Help!
My 86 year old mother has profound hearing loss and wears hearing aids, which help. She also has fairly advanced dementia and lives in a facility on a special dementia care floor. The staff are very caring, however, we have a problem. She keeps losing her hearing aids and we need a strategy. [more inside]
posted by antiquated at 3:22 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by antiquated at 3:22 PM PST - 16 comments
Help us replace Google Sheets
My volunteer group uses Google Sheets. I hate the way we have this set up. Please help me find something the leaders will go along with for a replacement. [more inside]
posted by NotLost at 2:26 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by NotLost at 2:26 PM PST - 13 comments
PM 2.5/Ozone
Why does our air filter (Huawei mi air 3C) report high PM 2.5 concentrations (>300 microgram/m3) when running in parallel to an Ozone generator? The usual reading in that room is 1. [more inside]
posted by mathiu at 1:34 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by mathiu at 1:34 PM PST - 2 comments
Better takeout dosa?
I want to take a dosa (either plain or masala) to someone who is stuck at home. The restaurant is about 10 minutes away from their house- will it get soggy if I deliver it? Is there any way to crisp it up again? Or, do Indian restaurants sell dosa batter to fry at home? This person is in the South Bay (SF Bay Area), where Indian restaurants and grocery stores abound.
posted by pinochiette at 1:09 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by pinochiette at 1:09 PM PST - 8 comments
Form-based, self-changing github HTML page: is it possible?
I've been setting up simple, fast Jekyll pages on github pages for a while, but I'm tired of editing them for people. Is it possible to host some sort of app on the repo itself, such that they can create a github account, login, and edit specific string or image variables via form? [more inside]
posted by Jack Karaoke at 12:12 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Jack Karaoke at 12:12 PM PST - 7 comments
Modern Greek classes in southern Westchester?
Are there any in-person beginning modern Greek classes this fall for adults in southern Westchester county or the Bronx? [more inside]
Unusual or weird hotels and BNBs in the PA/NY/NJ area?
I would like to plan a weekend getaway from Philadelphia, but we have limited vacation time so our destination needs to be no more than a few hours away by car. I think I like the idea of getting a hotel or bed and breakfast someplace outside of the city, but it needs to be pet-friendly (we have a small dog) and preferably it would be a little strange. A bit goth, ideally, but we're broad-minded. Trip advisor hasn't been too helpful, or at least its concept of unusual doesn't line up with mine. Do you have any suggestions? Thanks in advance!
Can you help me find a sub for tomato paste on this recipe?
I am currently OBSESSED with this "confit tandoori chick peas" from Yotam Ottolenghi and Noor Murad. On rice, quinoa, or as an app (or alone!) it is AMAZING. My folks are coming to visit and my mom loves all of these flavors, but is not supposed to eat an excess of tomatoes because of GERD. [more inside]
Dynamics365/React front end as being lucrative?
I've worked a variety of ecommerce platforms over the years and I've been told that Dynamics 365 and the frontend framework they use is React and is the next big ecommerce platform. I've worked for D365 but not in a consulting fashion, as in someone sets it up and I an do what I want, I've extensive experience in React. Any thoughts on this? This is more commercial and no as custom software dev as I'm used to but I found heavy commercial products are always good to have knowledge on. Any thoughts on this? Also how does one get into this product lineup?
We are groot
I am looking for examples from pop culture of sentient plants, and carnivorous plants. Or even better, examples of sentient, carnivorous plants! [more inside]
posted by keeo at 8:24 AM PST - 50 comments
posted by keeo at 8:24 AM PST - 50 comments
Best air fryer recipes
I join the 21st century and was gifted an air fryer. Give me your favorite recipes! No restrictions.
Help me identify the knots used in this video
I found this great method of driving stakes in to the ground that ought to work great for long, flexible stakes that can't easily be driven from the top. What knots should I learn to replicate this? Short, potato-quality YouTube video
posted by gray17 at 8:17 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by gray17 at 8:17 AM PST - 5 comments
Atypical options for home delivery in newsprint?
What periodicals, aside from the typical local or national news sources, deliver in newsprint (newspaper paper)? Daily, weekly, monthly all good.
posted by 10ch at 4:55 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by 10ch at 4:55 AM PST - 14 comments
What is in the U.S. climate bill for me, a renter?
Setting aside all my further-left political hopes and dreams, I'm happy about the passage of the Inflation Reduction Act. But I don't actually understand how it will help me, a renter, join the aspirational future of energy policy. [more inside]
What's this fashion style called and where can I get more of it?`
Pinterest served up this image to me while I was looking for solar punk character designs, and I love it. What's this vibe called and where can I find more of it for less than $50 per item? The store this outfit came from is rather pricy.
August 27
Lab testing dietary supplement for contaminants?
If you think you were poisoned by a dietary supplement, how can you confirm it? Is there a lab that can check if it was contaminated with something, even if you don't know what you're looking for? And how do you find a lab that can do this reliably? [more inside]
curtains and/or rugs that go with Benjamin Moore Fort Pierce Green?
I just painted my bedroom this color. It's lovely! But the my beautiful curtains and adequate rug look terrible with it. Help me decide what I want to replace them with? [more inside]
Handling the logistics of swimming
Are you a seasoned swimmer? Can you please share any and all tips for handling the logistics of going swimming, so that I can make it a smooth experience while wrangling a toddler. [more inside]
Best Video About X is Y
For any particular topic, what video (or video channel, etc.) is the best at that topic?
How to sell PAPER tickets for TMBG 8/31 in NJ
So, two friends flaked on me and I have extra tickets to see They Might Be Giants this Wednesday, August 31st, at Asbury Lanes in New Jersey. How do I unload paper tickets? [more inside]
Videos comparing real and counterfeit items
I saw this video today comparing genuine and counterfeit Mitutoyo calipers, and I thought it was sort of interesting. I'd like to see more videos of people comparing differences between real and counterfeit items side by side. I'd be particularly interested in niche or unusual items. Any recommendations?
What to expect from an ACDF (anterior cervical discectomy and fusion)?
Really, I’m after anecdotes from anyone who has had this surgical procedure, or anyone who has avoided having this procedure. [more inside]
posted by Salamander at 7:20 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Salamander at 7:20 PM PST - 9 comments
Help laying out buildings on a large piece of land
We're considering buying a piece of land where we would like to eventually build a house and several other structures. There are many considerations involved in figuring out the best location for the buildings. Some of them are obvious, but others are less obvious, and we're feeling nervous about making the decision ourselves for such a large investment. What is the right kind of professional to advise about this, and are there other resources (books, websites) to look at? [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 6:32 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by primethyme at 6:32 PM PST - 11 comments
Cleaning your cleaning supplies
There's endless advice on the internet on how to keep a home clean. There's significantly less advice on how to keep the supplies used clean and sanitary. Following all the advice that does exist leads to some absurd conclusions. Help me figure out how to strike a balance between cleanliness, environmental friendliness, and sanity. [more inside]
Hopeful for healthcare solidarity forever
Is there a relatively quick way to find out if other programs like mine in other states or cities are unionized? If so, what would my search look like? More details about the specifics of my work inside. [more inside]
Help me figure out what ails me
YANMD, but I want to know whether these symptoms seem familiar to you, or whether you’ve had something similar and can share how you recovered from it. [more inside]
Is it bad if I take another day off from work due to colonoscopy?
I took Thursday-Friday off last week for a colonoscopy on Friday. Today (Saturday), I still feel terrible. If I still feel awful tomorrow, is it wrong to take Monday off too? [more inside]
iPAD videos -- where to look to make videos with me looking at YOU?
I'm making videos of mysef with my iPad. But the lens of the camera is in a weird place. I have to figure out where to look to make the videos come out with me looking right at the viewer. How can I do this? Just look up where the lens is for the front-facing camera and look right at it? That's logical but feels weird. Am I insane? (maybe a different question, not sure)
Help me help my kid play Minecraft
My kid loves Minecraft, and I would rather that he play Minecraft than watch YouTube videos of other people shouting about Minecraft, which is what he usually does. Please help me figure out what we need to do this. [more inside]
posted by number9dream at 12:34 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by number9dream at 12:34 PM PST - 15 comments
Dog with corneal ulcer. Need advice for cone and eye drops.
I thought my Shi Tzu had a mild eye infection, but it is a corneal ulcer. He now has to wear a cone and I have to do eye drops every 2-3 hours all day and night. Surely some of you have had a similar experience. Any tips? [more inside]
Where to dine in the Calgary airport?
I have a long, midday layover in the Calgary airport, and I would like to spend some of that time having a quiet, leisurely lunch. Any suggestions?
(Also, if you have a suggestion that has exceptionally good food and is not so quiet or leisurely, I would still like to hear about it).
Exporting Google Maps list with latitude and longitude
I have a list of places on Google Maps — it's a custom list in the standard "Lists" feature (not a custom map, and not the default "Starred" or "Want to go" lists). I would like to export it into a format that has, at a minimum, name, latitude, and longitude for each location (CSV, JSON, KML, etc are all fine). Google will only give me a CSV with the Google Maps URL, which doesn't contain the lat/lon, as far as I can tell. Is there a easy solution? [more inside]
What is this reaching plant?
My partner noticed a vine-like plant reaching through the fence toward our house in a vaguely inappropriate way, pictured here. What is it? Other plants that have grown over from that side of the fence include highly invasive Japanese knotweed plants, so we are on high alert.
posted by ignignokt at 10:30 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by ignignokt at 10:30 AM PST - 3 comments
Decyphering frozen samosa cooking instructions
This is one of those things that trips me up. My box of frozen samosas has a list of cooking directions which states (defrost first. ) I'm about 90% sure that this means that the samosas should be defrosted before beginning the listed steps, but I also have nagging doubts that the "Defrost first" instruction is an explanation for the first step- 75 sec in the microwave.
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 10:06 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 10:06 AM PST - 10 comments
Friend or weed?
These plants have taken over my garden. Are they weed or good plants? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 9:44 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by inevitability at 9:44 AM PST - 14 comments
9 More Boston Location-Based Riddles!!
I'm still in a competitive scavenger hunt that takes me across Boston, to be the first to find a small token. They are placed in the last few days and just released. It's fun, but I'm in a competition where we are supposed to "use all of our resources". Askmi is a resource, right? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 9:31 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by bbqturtle at 9:31 AM PST - 3 comments
Boiling water without setting the woods on fire
Mr. Structure and I would like to be able to pull into a roadside park and make a fresh cup of tea. Can you recommend a battery-operated tea kettle? Open flame of any kind is an absolute deal-breaker.
What does this picture mean?
Trying to identify or understand this image. [more inside]
posted by headspace at 8:30 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by headspace at 8:30 AM PST - 6 comments
Seeking a really good blood pressure monitor + app
Hello! My friend is recovering from a stroke she had two weeks ago. She takes her blood pressure multiple times per day and wants to set up a system that will automatically record it in a way that's accessible to / shared with family and friends. I imagine this would a combination of some kind of smart device plus an app. The users would be both Android and Apple people. Bonus points for a system that autogenerates charts and can generate alerts. [more inside]
I Moved to Japan for Language School: I'm Bombing and Need Advice
I've put why I'm bombing in the details, but what concerns me most is the volume/ rate of new information is beyond my capacity, so I'm not retaining it, which is demoralizing and bad for my grades. I've paid for school through the end of the year, but I think I should leave then (vs my official end date in April 24) - but now I don't have an apartment or car, although I can work for my former employer remotely as a consultant, and I have US and UK citizenship, should that make a difference. [more inside]
Pacemaker in elderly person with dementia
My dad was given a pacemaker, unfortunately he has dementia so doesn’t understand what’s happened. Any advice on helping him through recovery? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 2:52 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by cotton dress sock at 2:52 AM PST - 7 comments
August 26
Young man says he "feels like Elliot Rodger"; how to respond?
A family friend has told me he feels like an incel and has "dangerous thoughts" (unspecified to me so far), but doesn't want his family members to know. He has reached out for counseling from his school, but hasn't heard back yet. I'm not sure whether to reach out to his family or what else to do. [more inside]
toes are gross
One of my pinky toes started hurting, and when I got home and took off my sock, I saw it was covered in blood, mainly around the nail. But I can't find a scratch on it or on the toe next to it. This isn't the first time this has happened but I don't understand it. Has this happened to you? [more inside]
Never want to see you again
I had a bad experience with my partner’s parents and frankly, I don’t want to visit them. Having a hard time parsing my own feelings, which are wrapped up in guilt, feelings of doom, etc. [more inside]
December destination suggestions
Looking for destination ideas outside of the US, Covid permitting, for the first week or so of December. Looking for good food, few tourists, climate something warmer than New England winter (but doesn’t need to be tropical.) Currently looking at France or Spain or Greece but haven’t gotten any more specific, and am open to anywhere. What do you suggest? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 9:58 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Grandysaur at 9:58 PM PST - 9 comments
What to buy: MacBook Air M2 or MacBook M1 Pro?
I am trying to decide whether to replace my previously asked about 2017 iMac with a maxed out MBA M2 or a 14" MBP M1 with similar specs. Which of the following options would you go with? More inside. [more inside]
posted by The Adventure Begins at 6:42 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by The Adventure Begins at 6:42 PM PST - 14 comments
Is this weird?
I'm wondering if it's weird to ask a former colleague of my father's to grab a coffee or something (not dating related, don't worry). I don't think it's weird, but in the back of my head I think it might be weird. Details inside. [more inside]
Should I get a new laptop?
I have a 2018 MacBook Air that I bought in 2019. It's 3.5 years old. The battery has been dead for about a year, so I have to plug it in, which is a drag. Now there are other things going wrong. [more inside]
Google Nest is the best? Or perhaps something else is?
I need some help choosing a remote-monitoring system for a house that will be unoccupied for weeks at a time. Do I want some of the components of the Google Nest system, or something else? [more inside]
Communication Skills Training?
I'm an in-house lawyer looking for some communication skills trainings. [more inside]
Where do I go from here?
I am planning on bicycling around Manhattan Island on Sunday. According to this the NE corner of Manhattan is pretty much inaccessible. I know I can ride through most of Inwood Park. Is there an alternative route that would get me to Harlem River Drive without going through the middle of Inwood/Dyckman St.? Also, are there other current detours off the bike trails that I should be aware of?
posted by Xurando at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Xurando at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments
The most boring sentence
What's the most stultifying sentence you can think of in your area of expertise? [more inside]
posted by babelfish at 12:30 PM PST - 44 comments
posted by babelfish at 12:30 PM PST - 44 comments
How to find the source of a 10+-year-old image
I've used this cartoon of Isaac Newton as an avatar online, off and on, for many years now. Does anyone know where it's originally from, or have any ideas on how to track it down? I have tried Google Image search and TinEye, but they only go back so far and all I can find are other people who have copied & pasted it from somewhere else. [more inside]
posted by Johnny Assay at 11:55 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Johnny Assay at 11:55 AM PST - 4 comments
Make the awful smell go away from dyson vacuum cleaner
I have had this Dyson Vacuum Cleaner for more than a decade and it works perfectly fine.But recently, my husband must have used it to clean something(I don’t know), now it smells awful every time he uses it.He removed and cleaned all the filters with dish soap.But the smell is still there.
Is there a way to get rid of the smell?
Am Burned Out, Will Travel
I have 3ish weeks (~September 5 - September 24), a flexible budget (but hoping to stay around the $5-6k mark) and a valid passport. Where should I go? [more inside]
Ubiquiti configuration help, or replace with something else?
About ten years ago, I asked a question about internet connection sharing between houses, and got great advice. Now, a lightning induced equipment failure means I need additional help. [more inside]
Outdoor dining in downtown Seattle
Looking for recommendations for outdoor group dining in downtown Seattle in early November. [more inside]
Can you translate these signs I found in the woods?
I found these signs tacked onto some trees, overlooking a creek. I think the writing might be Japanese, but I'm not sure. Can anyone ID the language and translate for me? What do they say?
Condo kitchen flood. Now what?
First-time condo owner of 1.5 years. My kitchen flooded while I was away due to a main stack back-up. I have insurance, including water damage insurance, but they're saying that since the biggest damage is to items belonging to the standard unit definition, the building should pay. Now what? [more inside]
Basement water proofing. Is some amount of water every ok?
There's evidence (pictures) of water in my basement. Not a lot. Mold is involved. Is it the drainage system around the house? Gaps in the brickwork? (Some are apparent.) Could I have some tuckpointing done, have someone rip into the moldy wall, clean things up and patch the wall? A thousand dollars-ish? Or, a basement water company could come. They'll tell me to fix the drainage, which will entail ripping up my driveway and who knows what else. Tens of thousands of dollars? Can't someone shove a camera somewhere or do any kind of definitive testing? [more inside]
What is the name given to the study of public signage?
I'm totally fascinated how, across the world, some road networks, streetscapes and public buildings have very different levels of signage... [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 9:26 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by jacobean at 9:26 AM PST - 12 comments
Reverse engineering toenail brace strips
My mother has been using these toenail braces to correct ingrown toenails. The replacement strips are pricey, and if knew what kind of plastic they are using, I could buy a sheet and cut it myself. The plastic is very thin and stiff but bendable. The strips are available in different tensile strengths, from 0.007 to 0.180, but I don't know what the units are. Any guesses as to what these are made out of?
Identify a car
Can you identify the make and model of the car in this low res image? Thanks!
posted by maleficent at 8:41 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by maleficent at 8:41 AM PST - 5 comments
How perfect does a 5 year old need his tumbled rocks?
So Step 1 of rock tumbling with our camping rocks is done. I know from various online articles and youtube videos that you're supposed to inspect them for rough spots and pitting and put them back to step 1 if they have any. They have some. But this is for a 5 year old, not a geologist jeweller. How much will some pitting matter for purposes of impressing a 5 year old? [more inside]
Risk of driving with small amount of edibles in KY
I am flying domestically from a city and state where weed is totally legal for recreational use to a city in a state where it is a class A misdemeanor for the amount in question (Louisville, KY). I am not worried about flying with the edibles, I am however mildly worried about driving with them along the interstate for two hours and then on rural east KY roads for one hour from the airport to my final destination.
I am not asking for legal advice, just your thoughts about the risk involved and if you, personally, would take the risk in my circumstance. [more inside]
I am looking for the best and easiest online tutorial for Instagram.
I don’t want it to promote a business. I am having a hard time teaching myself the app by following some tutorials so really looking for something basic. I am somewhat savvy so not sure why this is giving me a hard time. I feel all over the place. I just want to occasionally post and follow some people and friends.
Barcelona and the Pyrenees in late September--Advice; Recommendations?
The trip will be divided into two phases: a week of leisurely sightseeing in Barcelona, followed by a second week of driving around the Besalú region of the Pyrenees. [more inside]
Reducing Screentime in a Family Setting
When I am solo parenting, I rely a lot on screen time to get through 14 hours days. How can we transition away from this? [more inside]
Best! Vegan! Lentil! Recipes!
My wife and I are strangely lentil-resistant! We cook great vegan meals with other legumes all the time: black beans, chickpeas, kidney beans... but somehow, when we look in the pantry and see the lentil jars, our first reaction is "ugh lentils." Do you have recipes that can help us turn the corner from lentil loathing to lentil love?
posted by Shepherd at 4:35 AM PST - 38 comments
posted by Shepherd at 4:35 AM PST - 38 comments
What do you mean when you say beans and rice
Growing up, my family never ever cooked anything resembling this magical "beans and rice" concept I hear so much about on the internets. However I've never really understood what it ACTUALLY is. I'm vegetarian, so it sounds like it would be a dinner winner... Please tell me your favourite beans and rice recipes! [more inside]
Dry-thru bag for a bathing suit?
I’m looking for a waterproof bag that will allow my bathing suit to dry to some degree while inside. I know the technology exists because Matador has a waterproof soap bar bag that works fantastically. [more inside]
posted by octaviabutlerfan at 3:43 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by octaviabutlerfan at 3:43 AM PST - 8 comments
Laptop mouse pointer keeps jumping around
Recently my laptop's mouse cursor has started jumping around - usually just as I click on something. It's happened before when I've had a graphics tablet plugged in - I assumed I was leaning on it or my magnetic watch strap was the problem but it didn't happen when I wasn't using the tablet so I didn't bother too much about it but now its happening all the time. [more inside]
Field-specific terms for "We don't know".
Diseases can be idiopathic. Archaeological artefacts can be for ritual purposes*. What are some other technical-sounding terms from other fields that means "we're really not sure"? [more inside]
posted by Lorc at 12:42 AM PST - 62 comments
posted by Lorc at 12:42 AM PST - 62 comments
August 25
dude, get out of my head.
Broke up with my ex of 1yr over 6 months ago, and I have done a lot of work to separate myself from him on an emotional level too. I’m doing good with really focusing on myself. HOWEVER, he’s still in my dreams, especially dreams of a more sexual nature, and I think it might be hindering my healing. [more inside]
posted by cruel summer at 6:42 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by cruel summer at 6:42 PM PST - 18 comments
2022: how to research new cell phone plans?
For years we've had an AT&T cell phone family plan, deeply discounted because of Mr. Blah's job. That discount ended, and we're currently spending around $175/month for 3 phones + 24GB of data. I feel like we can do better, but looking at phone plans and the associated advertisements is breaking my brain. Help? [more inside]
Help solidify a trash can for use as a stereo shelf
I have a fast food style trash receptacle (big, black, coated particle board with a door that says “THANK YOU” - if you live in the US you’ve seen a million of them) that has my stereo receiver and turntable on it. My home is old and when you walk heavily near it the floor bounces and, if there is a record playing, it skips. [more inside]
Where to eat before the opera?
I’ll be celebrating my birthday with a trip to New York for the Metropolitan Opera. It’s a Friday night performance in early December- ample time to make reservations somewhere nice, I’d think. Where should we eat? Should we eat on site at Grand Tier? Our hotel is 1/2 mile from Lincoln Center, so I wouldn’t want to venture too far and have to come all the way back. Looking for something with a fancy vibe and delicious, not just expensive for no good reason. We have no dietary restrictions and are reasonably adventurous.
Best and safest site to advertise a thing I'm giving away
I want to give away the cover to my 6-person inflatable Intex spa (hot tub), [more inside]
Great looking digital piano -- Roland Kiyola?
I am in the market for a digital piano that will also look nice (important) and is somewhat compact. My top pick now is the Roland Kiyola but hoping to find something cheaper. [more inside]
Multiple "small" cabins for rent within a few hours of Boston?
I'm looking for 5+ "small" cabins (similar to the artist cabins you see on Rt 6 on the way out to Ptown) that are also near a body of water--for a men's retreat. [more inside]
Delicious OTC Flammatory
Sometimes when I'm worn out, it can really help to take an anti-inflammatory like ibuprofen or acetaminophen. It can also really help to eat a favorite snack, like fruit or even a candy bar. But people say that sugar is inflammatory. So what's the functional intersection between these two interventions, if that's true? Or is it true?
posted by circular at 1:43 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by circular at 1:43 PM PST - 10 comments
Locke & Key Party Ideas
So, my son is turning 14, and he's told us he wants his birthday party to be "Locke & Key" themed.
The problem is that the show/comics don't really have any branded party accessories available.
I've ordered a big box of antique-looking keys, and will decorate some with those, but was hoping you guys might have other ideas for decorations. Other than the keys, I'm kind of at a loss, so any help is GREATLY appreciated!
Seeking ideas for a great legal presentation topic/format
I am an in-house lawyer and have 45 minutes to present on any topic that I want to a group of 30 or so procurement people. It can be as deep-in-the-weeds legal or as barely-on-the-surface legal as I want. All of the "required" trainings have been taken care of for this year, so it's an opportunity to blow their minds or make them laugh or maybe even teach them something useful. So lawyers (and professionals who had to listen to lawyers) of Metafilter: have you given or received a great presentation? Do you have any ideas for one?
posted by AgentRocket at 12:49 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by AgentRocket at 12:49 PM PST - 13 comments
Less than $10 to spend in the Google Play Store
I have $9.88 to spend in the Google App store and it expires on Saturday. What should I buy? I mostly use my tablet and phone to check email (K9), browse the web (Firefox Focus), listen to music (Deezer), read books and listen to podcasts (Antenna). When on an airplane I do occasionally watch movies. Are there any paid utilities that have made your Android life easier? All suggestions welcome.
posted by donpardo at 11:39 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by donpardo at 11:39 AM PST - 9 comments
What to ask for negotiating a raise as a data analyst in Vancouver, BC?
I work as a data analyst for a medium-size IT consulting company in Vancouver, BC. This is my first job in tech. My one-year anniversary was last week and I want to negotiate a raise, but am not sure how much to ask for. [more inside]
Best ingredients for stovetop mac-and-cheese?
I have lately been into making smallish portions of Smitten Kitchen's quick, essential stovetop mac-and-cheese. I find it satisfies a craving, I usually have the basic ingredients, and it's good for accompanying or mixing in leftover bits and bobs. What is the best cheese for this if I want to add more intensive flavor but am not interested in super decadent richness? [more inside]
Does anyone sell streaming short fiction?
I'm looking for a streaming service for short stories. Details below, but tl;dr: I used to have a subscription to something (Audible? Kindle Unlimited?) that let me pick a genre and then it would just read random short stories (not full novels!) to me, and I loved it. Does that exist anywhere these days? [more inside]
posted by Zudz at 10:30 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by Zudz at 10:30 AM PST - 5 comments
How to navigate a friendship minefield?
I have a friend I really like, someone whom I care about, but who is also terrible at her job. I've worked with her three times over the past several years and vowed never to do it again. Well, now that I've bypassed her, she's going to find out I worked with someone else, and she's going to be hurt. How do I manage this without upsetting her too much? [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 10:06 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by yellowcandy at 10:06 AM PST - 20 comments
AV
Finding funds for public hearings in hybrid format [more inside]
Good outside thermometer
I want a decent outside thermometer that I don’t have to go outside to read. What to buy and where to install it? [more inside]
Looking for anti-classism resources
I’ve realized that I have a lot of deeply embedded prejudiced ideas about social class. Can you point me to some resources to help me unlearn them and be a better anti-classist ally? [more inside]
Awkward convo with anxious person
How do I have an awkward conversation about hygiene and cleanliness with someone who is very anxious and self-conscious (housemate edition)? [more inside]
ebook discovery, library edition
We're immoderate readers and we love owning books, and we've decided we can save a couple hundred dollars a month by leaning heavily into our public library. But I'm having a hard time going from "If its for sale I can read it" to "Only if the library has it." How do I find things I want to read that my library actually has? [more inside]
posted by Ookseer at 7:24 AM PST - 28 comments
posted by Ookseer at 7:24 AM PST - 28 comments
Parlez-vous High School?
My US-based child would like to spend the equivalent of 9th grade and/or 10th grade taking high school in Europe. Does anyone have direct experience actually DOING this, either as a family adventure or through a structured study-abroad program? Tell me your ways! [more inside]
Help with noise mitigation and the MTA
New Yorkers, we need your advice about noise and city politics! The MTA renovated the elevator of the subway station next to us and installed an industrial fan that is insanely loud and keeps us up at night. Would love advice on city politics but more importantly on how we can mitigate the noise, for example through white noise machines or double-paned windows. Any non-expensive sound-proofing advice would be much appreciated. [more inside]
Children, what do they like? Halloween Edition
I'm going to try to do Halloween right this year. I know trick or treat has been pretty screwed up by covid, and I'm bringing it back. People who actually have kids or hang out regularly with kids: What's hot right now for toys and treats? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 6:21 AM PST - 36 comments
posted by phunniemee at 6:21 AM PST - 36 comments
How to relax quickly during short breaks?
I’ve started a schedule where I work 7 days a week in emotionally challenging roles. I’m trying to find specific methods of relaxing quickly in the tiny pockets of quiet I get (often only 5-10 min.) I’ve had surprising success with ‘EFT Tapping’ but would be very grateful some specific types of meditation or similar that I can do that aren't apparent to others and that don’t require listening to anything. [more inside]
How can I make sure jewelry contains NO nickel?
My skin reacts strongly to nickel. While in my hometown recently, I bought a gold vermeil chain necklace from a boutique. Since vermeil is gold over sterling silver, I didn’t think to ask if the necklace contained any nickel. After a few wears I’ve developed a big rash, which I assume is from nickel in the gold plating. Ugh. [more inside]
posted by third word on a random page at 3:52 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by third word on a random page at 3:52 AM PST - 6 comments
Who do you hire to help you when you have focus issues at work?
I like my work-from-home desk job, but I seem to want to do anything except my work during the day. Many years of therapy have helped, and a couple years ago my doctor put me on an antidepressant, which helped too, but it's not enough. [more inside]
August 24
Autist's guide to social rules for adult couple friendships
I am having an anxiety attack based on fear of missing an unspoken social expectation in a friendship. We met a couple with a child close to our child's age that I actually feel comfortable around and have been gathering about once a month. Specific scenario inside. [more inside]
Recipes that use herbs as vegetables?
I like the strong flavors of herbs, and I can get bunches of them cheap at my local farmers' market. What dishes can I make that use herbs in large quantities? [more inside]
posted by aws17576 at 10:22 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by aws17576 at 10:22 PM PST - 22 comments
Best natural areas to visit on Virginia/Delaware coast?
I have 2.5 days to drive from NC to Baltimore, detouring along the Virginia and Delaware coasts. The map shows a ton of nature preserves, reserves, refuges, beaches and such, and I could use some help sorting through the various options. Which spots are best for birding in Sept? For dolphins? Shells and marine life on the beach? Unusually beautiful sights? Neat science-y stuff? [more inside]
posted by mediareport at 8:45 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by mediareport at 8:45 PM PST - 13 comments
How can I learn to meditate or pray meditatively?
I want to learn to meditate or pray in a meditative way, but I'm not sure how to get started. What should I do to get in the habit of meditating, and what are the best tips for entering a meditative state of mind? [more inside]
Unexpected Labor Day weekend in Los Angeles - what's to do?
I usually plan my vacations further in advance than this, but an opportunity came up to stay with family out in California -- flight arrives in California on 9/1 and departs 9/6. What should I do with my limited holiday weekend time there? [more inside]
posted by The Pluto Gangsta at 6:51 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by The Pluto Gangsta at 6:51 PM PST - 7 comments
Why did Game of Thrones end when it did?
Regarding the ending of the Game of Thrones, it was clear that HBO and GRR Martin would have preferred more seasons or at least full, 10 episode seasons of the final two seasons. So it was never clear to me why the show ended when it did. Did the show's creators, David Benioff and D.B. Weiss, have it in their contract that only they could determine when the show ended and how? Could HBO have said "Ok, bye" and then hired new showrunners to take over? If so, why didn't they?
More than a pair of pears
This year we had a bumper crop of pears and I'm looking for recipes to use up all of these pears. [more inside]
How do I educate this child about nutrition?
Have you read any articles that are well researched and accessible to a 13yo that talk about why your body needs fiber and protein and how binging on sugar impacts your brain and body? I'm also interested in articles that explain satiation and hunger.
I'm trying to break out of the "good" and "bad" food dichotomy, but I want him to have access to more information about why we want to help him choose healthier foods. [more inside]
Walking-around towns not far from Chicago
The Mr and I are wanting to do a day trip, not more than about a 90 minute drive from Chicago (and not in Chicago.) Where do we want to go? [more inside]
What should I make with one small eggplant?
I have an eggplant that's a little less than half a pound. What's a good side/appetizer I can make with it that calls for only this much eggplant?
ISO my perfect unicorn headphones
I need a new pair of headphones for work that are on- or over-the-ear, not noise-cancelling, Bluetooth (but ideally with a wired connection option), have a mic (but not a boom mic), and have a physical mute button on the headphones themselves. And great sound quality for meetings and music, of course. What are the best headphones today that meet that criteria?
Help me be the best mountain goat I can be
I've just started bouldering and I've developed a weird strain/injury(?) in my right arm. What should I be doing so it stops happening? [more inside]
Wider tires, same wheels?
My car currently has 17" rims and 215/50 ZR17 tires. The tires are getting worn and it's time to get new ones, and this time around I'm considering getting slightly wider 235/45 ZR17 tires, but I'm inexperienced and can't figure out if I can do that without also changing the wheels too. [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie at 2:52 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by StrawberryPie at 2:52 PM PST - 5 comments
Where can I travel this fall without eating indoors?
I have an aging relative who is eager to travel and is willing to take some risks. I also have a preschooler and a desire to avoid getting COVID. Is there anywhere we could all travel from the East Coast of the U.S. this November that might meet our needs? [more inside]
Trying to remember a radio program & host (i used to listen to)
Trying to figure out a radio program that I used to listen to back in 2005-2008ish on Sirus Satellite Radio. [more inside]
posted by konaStFr at 1:24 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by konaStFr at 1:24 PM PST - 3 comments
Tipping etiquette if price is based on stylist level and hair length?
I'd like to know tipping etiquette in a salon that has prices based on both stylist level and hair length, where a tip is accepted in cash only. [more inside]
posted by narcissus_and_ambrosia at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by narcissus_and_ambrosia at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments
Which ebike for me?
If I've got a 22 mile commute with about 400 feet climb on it (all in the middle third) on gravel roads, what ebike could you recommend to me? [more inside]
posted by J0 at 1:19 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by J0 at 1:19 PM PST - 12 comments
birthday dinner in Seaport?
hello!
My birthday is this Friday and my family wants to celebrate together tomorrow evening. We’re planning on going to Seaport because my parents love the waterfront. We are ovo-lacto-vegetarian, and I’ve been struggling to find birthday-worthy restaurants (ie not sweetgreen) that have more than one app and entree option. [more inside]
Medications not recommended during pregnancy: what's the deal when TTC?
YANMD, but hopefully YAAD or even if I'm lucky an obstetrician: what's the deal with medicines and herbs that are considered potentially harmful in pregnancy but not so harmful they come with big warning labels that say DO NOT TAKE IF YOU ARE PREGNANT OR TRYING TO BECOME PREGNANT? [more inside]
posted by cabbage raccoon at 12:51 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by cabbage raccoon at 12:51 PM PST - 7 comments
annus horribilis
How am I supposed to make sense of this terrible year? Have any of you ever had a series of bad things happen one after the other? How did you keep going? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser at 12:28 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by unicorn chaser at 12:28 PM PST - 23 comments
Automate Photoshop Cropping with photos of differing aspect ratios.
I need to take the bottom 25 pixels or so off of thousands of photos, BOTH landscape and portrait. Can I automate this in Photoshop (22.5.1)? [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 11:57 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by sandra_s at 11:57 AM PST - 6 comments
Reserving hotel rooms in London
An American relative wants to plan their European trip now for next summer. It starts in London and I have volunteered to help. Is it crazy pants to make reservations for next July now? [more inside]
The Ideal Book Client
I am a hands-on book editor with many years of book publishing experience. Any ideas about how I can find previously published mid-careerish non-fiction writers who might be looking for a private editor en route to publication? And any thoughts on what kind of higher end rates a NYC book editor might charge as a total project fee? [more inside]
posted by Puppetry for Privacy at 11:31 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Puppetry for Privacy at 11:31 AM PST - 3 comments
How can I fix my uneven wood floors?
My salvaged wooden floors are very uneven. What can I do to fix them? [more inside]
Why are obvious fake emails signing up for our institutional newsletter?
Where I work, we run a fairly dry institutional newsletter of very little interest to the general public. Recently, I've seen a run of obviously fake email/name pairings coming into our "sign up for our newsletter" form. What's in it for a spammer/hacker/whoever to sign up for newsletters via a garbage account? [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 8:42 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by Shepherd at 8:42 AM PST - 9 comments
Help me refine a Google Form summer camp survey for parents/caregivers
We sent a Google Forms feedback survey to our parents last year and really appreciated getting details on what was working and what we could improve on in the future. I'm refining the survey for this summer and am struggling to figure how to build it to do what I need - basically, moving to a subset of questions when a checkbox (on a long list of checkboxes) is clicked and then going back to the original list of checkboxes so you can repeat the process until done. [more inside]
Time Reading Program Alumni
If a series like the Time Reading Program was offered today what titles would you nominate to be included?
Running the AC to offset cooking?
It takes about 1000 BTU to boil a gallon of water. I have a 1000 BTU air conditioner. How much energy am I consuming to make tea? [more inside]
Do I have to pay a red light photo ticket from illinois?
I got a ticket in the mail from rosemont Illinois, photo enforcement program. My friend told me you no longer have to pay red light tickets, because they are unconstitutional or something, so if I don't pay it, nothing happens. Is that true?
Can I just not pay this without reprecussion?
Thanks
No show socks, grips, stay on your feet ,
I am looking for the pair of no show socks I bought years ago but I can’t remember the name. They are amazing. They do not come too high or low, which is just covering the toes or almost to the ankles which defeats the purpose. They don’t slip off and they have grips at the bottom. They came in a pack of 5 colours. The grip in the back has a big dot in the middle and smaller dots all around. The piece that comes over the instep is square cut and as I said does not come too high. It’s a nylon.
Sophisticated Phishing attempt or Coincidence?
I got an email that looked like it was from Amazon, saying that a pair of wireless earbuds had been dispatched to me. Cost of the item $99.99. Then it said that if I "hadn't authorized the transaction", I should click on a link. Like a fool, I clicked on it because I had recently ordered some things from Amazon, and, this is the weird thing, I had browsed some wireless earbuds.
Happily Chrome caught the phishing attempt. So, it's weird the phisher could access my Amazon browsing history right? What's going on? Do I have some kind of malicious tracker on on my PC? Or is it just coincidence?
Excuse me, [term of respect], you dropped your umbrella!
In a professional context, I interact with nonbinary people sometimes whose name I may not know despite knowing their gender. (It's a rare situation, but it happens.) A colleague and I were realizing that we didn't know how to approach a particular situation in this context: when for male or female presenting persons one would use sir or ma'am, what word can one use for a nonbinary person?
Reliable, intuitive, durable washing machine?
I'm struggling to wade through the conflicting reviews online to find a new washer, and hoping the hivemind can help. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 5:42 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by ryanshepard at 5:42 AM PST - 12 comments
Non-gag leaving gifts
The head of my team is quitting for a better job elsewhere, and the team are discussing getting him a small gift but all the suggestions are stupid and jokey ones. Can you think of any good ideas (or methods of generating ideas) to get something nice? [more inside]
Videos where you can somehow get the gist without speaking the language
I'm looking for short video clips where someone is speaking in any language other than English, there's no translation, but the viewer can still weirdly clearly pick up the gist of what's going on regardless through the speaker's gesture, body language, visible emotion, etc. [more inside]
posted by hotcoroner at 3:31 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by hotcoroner at 3:31 AM PST - 6 comments
Insertables narrower than a bullet vibrator?
Most insertable 'narrow' vibrators for women are the 'standard' 17mm (5/8") diameter vibrators, which are slightly too wide for the fixed-width vaginal pocket created by my vulvoplasty. Do any insertable vibrators exist at 13mm (1/2") diameter? [more inside]
August 23
Human composting (vs. cremation or burial): legality & experiences
California may legalize human composting (cached LA Times article) as an alternative to cremation & burial, so I have two questions: [more inside]
posted by judypjhsu at 10:34 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by judypjhsu at 10:34 PM PST - 7 comments
Pareidolia Machine
I’m looking for an AI image generator that takes a source image (i.e. photo of a cloud) and a text prompt (“bunny”) to output a modified image in which the described thing is not inserted but… reinforced? I don’t want it to create an image of a cloud that looks like a bunny, but to take this specific image of a cloud, find the “bunny” and reinforce it to bring it out more visibly. [more inside]
posted by luftmensch at 8:58 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by luftmensch at 8:58 PM PST - 2 comments
Are "kids these days" really more prudish about media? If so, why?
As a millennial, I try to maintain a healthy skepticism of articles that try to paint a generation in a certain way. That said, in my interaction with people in the sort of 18-25 range, I have anecdotally noticed a pretty strong aversion to sex in media, and some pretty cursed discourses around it. Of course, that's just anecdotal, but I am curious...is there a marked increase prudishness? If so, why? If not, then what has led to this particular narrative taking root? Am interested in any good longform articles on the subject, but also open to people's particular experiences and opinions. [more inside]
Best way to manage text group
We are setting up a group text for people interested in getting or sending occasional alerts on a specific subject. Several members of the group are SMS capable but not interested in other software options like What's App, etc. What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
posted by macfly at 8:12 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by macfly at 8:12 PM PST - 6 comments
How to get phone call records from Cricket Wireless
My auto insurance company (in the US) is asking me to provide my phone call records (a list of all phone calls made, their dates, times, and phone numbers) for the last month as part of an insurance claim. My cell phone carrier is Cricket. They seem to have no idea how to do this or whether it can even be done. There’s a lot of money riding on this. Halp? [more inside]
Indoor Rowing 101: online, one-to-one class focused on technique
Looking for a service or personal recommendations for beginner rowing classes/coaches, online, with one-to-one contact with a trainer so they can directly and instantly help with my technique and form. I'm also in Canada. [more inside]
Regaining trust in a relationship
My partner and I are trying to navigate some difficult discussions about our shared future. In the past, he has made promises to me that he was eventually unable/unwilling to keep, dealing a huge blow to my trust in him. He recently admitted that he was terrified of losing our relationship, to the point that, in the moment, he would say or do nearly anything to make me stay. He knows this is an issue he has to deal with himself and he is already seeing a counsellor, but in the meantime... where do I go from here? [more inside]
easy but dramatic birthday cake ideas?
I've made colorful and over-the-top cakes for a few (adult) people's birthdays, but I have one coming up Sunday and am out of ideas. Previously did rainbow layers cake, pinata cake, completely-covered-in-sprinkles cake. This cake will be served to drunk people outside in the dark, so can't be subtle or too labor intensive. [more inside]
Clinging to Euphoria
I just got some good news from my doctor, and feel like I dodged a bullet, almost-euphoric, and that life is filled with endless possibility. How can I hold onto this feeling, other than becoming completely bipolar or using cocaine, but more seriously how can I take advantage of this moment, retain it somehow, as a tool for making needed changes in my life? [more inside]
Why Did It Take So Long For The Recovery Email To Arrive After FB Hack?
My elderly parents had their FB hacked yesterday and that gave the hackers access to their email account as well (like a lot of non-tech savvy people, they unfortunately used the same password for both accounts.) [more inside]
Collecting VA small claims judgment in NY
I was recently awarded a $25,000 default judgment against a NY-based defendant. My lawyer here was clear that he'd help me get that judgment but I needed to have a NY lawyer help me domesticate and collect it. I'm Googling in circles and hope someone here has more direct info. You are not my lawyer and I will not take answers as legal advice. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:02 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:02 PM PST - 5 comments
What language is this and what does it mean?
"Peunk Chuckeye Glavey" - Google is not helpful, and I don't know the magic phrases to figure it out. Context inside. [more inside]
Tomato growing oddity
I have been growing Roma and San Marzano style tomatoes in my garden this year and last and both years, some of the tomatoes have an odd shape to them that looks sort of like the tomato has a skinny little waist with a belt. These tomatoes ripen up and taste fine (except for the one in the photo, which I accidentally knocked off of the vine way too early), but I was wondering if anyone knows what causes this growth pattern. Here is a photo of one such tomato.
1. Financial power of attorney 2. ??? 3. Managing Mom's bills
My 85-year-old mother appears to be on a slide toward Alzheimer's. We both agree that I need to be able to access her money in order to pay her bills for her. Her financial advisor says I need to get financial power of attorney. But what are the steps between doing that and my being able to get her a new debit card, pay her bills, etc.? [more inside]
posted by kutsushita nyanko at 3:31 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by kutsushita nyanko at 3:31 PM PST - 14 comments
My computer can only connect to a couple websites
My computer will not let me connect to certain/most websites (metafilter is one that is not an issue--doesn't seem to be an https issue) when I am connected to my home wifi. If I connect to other networks (i.e my cell hotspot) this is not an issue. When I connect other computers to the home wifi, it is not an issue. I've tried resetting network, winsock flushes, etc. Anything that has worked for you?
posted by sandmanwv at 1:39 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by sandmanwv at 1:39 PM PST - 13 comments
Worth paying for the certificate when course is available for free?
I’m brushing up on some tech and data skills (SQL, Excel w/ Power Query, etc) in the hopes of re-entering the job market soon after a multi year absence due to child rearing. In this context, are the paid versions of Coursera etc. worth it? [more inside]
Facebook Business Suite Shenanigans?
I have an old "business" art page on FB I haven't updated in years. Two days ago I got two notifications from someone named Marie Cooper. The first one says, "Can you tell me a little more about yourself," and the second notification (sent the same day) says, "Marie Cooper is waiting for a reply." [more inside]
Gluten free sandwiches on Bainbridge Island or Pt Townsend
My partner has requested that we get sandwiches for lunch on Bainbridge Island and/or Port Townsend (WA) for his birthday. He’s gluten intolerant. Anyone know of options? [more inside]
Does the brain make up stories to explain anxiety to itself?
I recently came across the idea that we sometimes get cause and effect backward when it comes to anxiety.
Instead of experiencing an anxiety-inducing situation that causes a neurochemical imbalance in the brain and produces the sensation of anxiety, occasionally there happens to be a neurochemical imbalance in the brain that causes the sensation of anxiety, and we then look for some event or interaction to explain why we feel anxious.
Can you help me find more information/further reading about this idea? [more inside]
How to help immigrant friend in domestic abuse relationship?
I have a friend living in the US from another country. She married in 2018 and the guy ended up being a textbook abuser, and she is now seeking a divorce. I have been asked to write an affidavit support letter for her I-751, and I have a few questions about what information I should include (or exclude) in the letter of support. [more inside]
Rock tumbler pulling to one side
So you know I had a little mishap with a rock tumbler. All cleaned up and set it to run again (in a bin this time), and I notice that the barrel keeps slowly migrating to one side of the tumbler (the belt side, if it matters). Is this normal? Is it ok? Is it the effect of the mishap or the possible cause of it? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 10:38 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 10:38 AM PST - 7 comments
My heels won't stop itching. Help!
For several months, my heels have itched terribly and deep inside my skin. The skin looks perfectly normal. [more inside]
What should I be looking for in a new laptop?
My previous laptop, which was only a couple of years old, just went poof. Or rather, it went 'click' and now it won't restart. So what am I looking for in terms of laptops these days? [more inside]
How to add stars to Chinese take out
So I have been trying to make my Chinese take out curry chicken for a while. Chinese Five Spice was totally part of it.
But, I can order this from zero stars of heat, to five stars of heat.
What are they using to jack up the stars? I don’t see any pepper seeds, nor actual peppers. Which pepper spice are they using? I am so close, but can’t figure out what they are doing to add heat. Feels weird to go with Cayenne in an Asian dish…
Need help finding reference to documentary about a financial scammer
My Google-fu is failing me badly. About a week ago, I read a description of a docuseries (or maybe it was a documentary movie). Now I can't find the website I was reading. I've checked my browser history, and I've done repeated Google searches. I got nothing. [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 10:00 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by alex1965 at 10:00 AM PST - 8 comments
How to clean rock tumbler slurry (lots) from hardwood floor
I bought my son a rock tumbler. It just leaked everything all over my hardwood floor. How do I clean this without destroying my floor, my plumbing, or my lungs? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 9:32 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 9:32 AM PST - 4 comments
Waterside houses in Spain?
I would like to take my mother to Spain for a week and rent a (small) house or apartment on the ocean or sea, we don't care which side of Spain but it would be nice to be able to get there relatively easily on public transportation from Madrid. This is surprisingly hard to answer! Any recommendations for towns?
Home Ownership Structure for Unmarried Couple
If my partner and I want to buy a house but one person is contributing significantly more to the down payment, can that person's greater investment be protected in some way in the event of I guess a relationship dissolution, or at least future home sale? US based. [more inside]
What are the best resources and life hacks for adults with ADHD?
Resources like books and podcasts, as well as specific strategies that make life work well, would be appreciated!
posted by mortaddams at 5:21 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by mortaddams at 5:21 AM PST - 12 comments
Looking for a university-taught intro Russian language class online
I'm looking to learn Russian and I do best with the sorts of courses you would take at a university. Any recommendations for courses that I can take online that are taught to English speakers and that have a good reputation for rigor/effectiveness? [more inside]
Replace an ageing desktop on a budget, UK version
No gaming, just web browsing and light photo editing. He has monitor, keyboard and mouse, need a replacement Windows 11 (or 10 to upgrade) tower to transfer stuff over to and start using, hopefully for another 10-15 years. [more inside]
posted by humph at 1:40 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by humph at 1:40 AM PST - 7 comments
August 22
Can someone explain Soka Gakkai to me?
I have the need to do some business with a buddhist movement, if that is the right phrase, called Soka Gakkai. I am an American with very little knowledge of buddhism except what I've seen in film and television. The Wikipedia article on them is long and dense in Japanese culture. I got a somewhat cult vibe and I see that is also addressed on the Wikipedia page. Can someone explain it to me? [more inside]
UK travelfilter: How to plan options for a long-distance journey?
I’ll be heading from Derbyshire England to Carmarthenshire Wales at some point in September. I’m open to all travel options including car, coach, rail, flight or more. How do I find out how to get there cheaply and quickly? [more inside]
Is there such a thing as a good walking shoe with support but no laces?
A few years ago I made (half seriously) the commitment that as satan is my witness, I'll never waste my time tying a shoe again. I...seem to have a complex about it. It gave me great glee to get slip-on shoes and wearing them exclusively and not tie something that was inevitably going to come untied because I'm not learning that thing from the Get Your War On guy. I'm just not. Anyway it also gave me a lot of arch pain and occasional I think shin splints. [more inside]
How do you sand old stain off lathe-turned table legs?
Woodworkers of MetaFilter, help! A neighbor gave me the solid wood kitchen table her family used for 35 years. I decided to try refinishing it. Once I got the aging stain off, I found lovely pine! Yay! But how do I get the stain off the lathe-turned legs? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 8:45 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by centrifugal at 8:45 PM PST - 15 comments
Learning to sew in Manhattan
I am an adult in New York City who wants/needs to learn to sew garments for myself with a sewing machine that is not in my apartment/I do not own and natural fabrics that I will purchase. [more inside]
Drive time/distance radius map?
I've been trying to find an easy-to-use (and free) site or app that will let me input my location and give me a radius map of how far I can drive in x amount of hours. I've googled but haven't found much luck. I know this can vary wildly based on traffic; a tool based on time would be fine too.
posted by cozenedindigo at 6:35 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by cozenedindigo at 6:35 PM PST - 3 comments
need a ride
I am tentatively scheduled for a minor procedure next week. I don't have a way to get a ride. [more inside]
Crossing the border (land) to Canada this weekend, need some assistance.
I'm feeling very nervous about crossing the border to Canada this weekend. This is triggered by trauma from the raid at my old roommate's house (police/cops/authority figures), being Deaf and potentially being cut off from communication, and the overload of information I'm seeing online. I'll be with a friend (passenger in his car). We'll be crossing after visiting Niagara Falls (the American side). I'm definitely probably overthinking this but want to make sure our bases are 100% covered, and would like help walking through everything. [more inside]
WP template for a web comic?
I’m helping a friend to set up a website for their web comic. Help us find a WordPress template. [more inside]
How to keep track of medical history?
I don't have a lot at this stage but I would like to record blood tests, scans, vaccinations, dr visits, minor illnesses and medications etc, all in one place.
Do you have a binder of printed results? Reports saved as PDFs on your laptop? A list on the notes app on your phone? My country has an (optional) digital health record but I don't feel it's suitable for capturing an overall picture of my health over time (also: privacy concerns).
Skunk spray questions
My dog got skunked last week. I have given him numerous peroxide/baking soda/Dawn baths but he still smells moderately bad. I was keeping him either crated or gated in the kitchen but he was so starved for affection that I gave him run of the house again, but I just realized that he is leaving a faint trace of skunk everywhere, like on the wool blankets on my bed where he was lying next to me just now. Can I expect that smell to fade with time or am I ruining everything I own?
Denim military jacket from a few years ago
Does anyone know the brand and style name of this denim military jacket, worn by the character Janet on Kim's Convenience a few years ago?
The Brady Bunch, but with pets
I've been dating a wonderful guy for a year, and would like to think about moving in together sometime in the upcoming year. The problem? We have 6 pets between us and I have a very small house. How do we even begin to think about making this work? [more inside]
walk me through VPN as if I were five
What it says in the title.
Today, IT at my job were shocked, shocked I tell you, to learn that I don't use VPN always for all tasks. [more inside]
posted by mumimor at 2:13 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by mumimor at 2:13 PM PST - 14 comments
Is this what landscape architects do? Got any in Seattle?
My backyard needs love. We want someone to plan a patio (deck?) for us with a roof, and a trellis, and a fire pit, and more plants. We know nothing about designing roofs etc. Is this a job for a landscape architect? If not, who? And can you recommend one in the Seattle area?
Should I learn JavaScript or Python for this project?
I'm working on a project that is (I think) going to use MediaPipe to do pose detection and motion capture (basically real-time digital puppetry). It looks like for what I'm doing there are equally viable JavaScript and Python solutions. Either way I will have to level up my coding skills - so which language makes more sense? [more inside]
Deodorant/antiperspirant for the sweaty, picky person in a sticky summer
It is really hot at my work, and I sweat a lot for reasons related to heat, nerves, and moving around a lot. I need a better antiperspirant/deodorant situation. [more inside]
posted by mai at 1:09 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by mai at 1:09 PM PST - 13 comments
Working vacations
I am planning some travel next year (maybe Greece?) and I'm thinking it might be fun to go for a whole month - take a week or two off for a real vacation, then rent an apartment somewhere and work remotely for the rest of the time, perhaps with long weekends for some side trips. My job has West Coast hours but I could probably get away with East Coast hours, basically working in the evenings. I'm curious if others have traveled like this before. Is it enjoyable/worth it? Any potential problems that I'm not thinking of?
Normal reaction after cortisone shot?
I had a shoulder injury that was getting worse, not better, so my doctor prescribed a cortisone shot. I had the injection last Thursday. It seemed like things were improving, or at the very least not getting worse, and then last night around 4am my entire arm started throbbing. It still hurts today. Is this a normal setback? The earliest appointment I could get at Kaiser is a phone appointment this Thursday. I'm wondering if I need to go to the ER instead. [more inside]
What English language US films and TV shows don't actually use English?
I've been watching Only Murders in the Building and just got through episode 7, "The Boy from 6B", which has a fair amount of ASL but no spoken dialogue. I'm wondering what other US / ostensible English language media similarly doesn't actually use spoken English. [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 12:07 PM PST - 28 comments
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 12:07 PM PST - 28 comments
Find the *narrow lapel/collar* moto/biker jacket of my dreams?
I owned a moto/biker jacket with an unusual collar (narrow and vertical like a buttondown shirt collar, NOT wide and spread flat against the collarbone) and lapels (narrow, NOT spread flat across half the chest, doesn't snap onto chest). It is *not* a cafe racer/bomber/collarless style. I LOVE how this looked on me, and dislike how the typical moto/biker looks. Annotated photos showing the difference between what I'm looking for, and the average biker/moto jacket: https://imgur.com/a/t3iu8nY [more inside]
posted by rollcredits at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by rollcredits at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments
Good resources for setting goals?
I'm looking for some good resources for setting goals. I feel kind of driftless in my life. I work, I help take care of my kids, and at the end of the day I have a little bit of energy to watch TV with my wife before we go to bed. I don't feel like I'm really working towards anything, and that's resulted in me feeling a void in my life. Are there any good resources you can think of to facilitate identifying what a person's goals in life could/should be?
Tips for daycare drop off in the age of COVID?
My kid (2.5 years old) started full time daycare about a month ago and is still adjusting. Sometimes I feel like the drop off rules (at the door of her classroom) make this more difficult, I'd appreciate any thoughts from other parents in this era. [more inside]
You Spend Less than 50% of Your Day at a Computer, What Is Your Job?
Pretty much what it says on the tin. I am thinking about a career shift and I'd like to consider pursuing something where my primary activity is not computer work and/or Zoom calls. [more inside]
Panzanella: how stale is too stale?
Thinking about making panzanella for the first time, and wondering what level of 'staleness' is correct or optimal for this recipe. I tend to have some sourdough slices that I don't get to by their date but are still perfectly good to eat... how long should I let them sit before using them?
posted by isauteikisa at 10:15 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by isauteikisa at 10:15 AM PST - 4 comments
Bank account for a student organization
I'm asking on behalf of a friend who wants to open a bank account for a student organization. (I opened an account for this organization when I myself was a med student several years ago, but it was closed due to inactivity.) [more inside]
Resources to help me understand white supremacy in "professionalism"
Can anyone point me to resources that will help me understand how to help undo white supremacy that is baked into U.S. culture of "professionalism"? [more inside]
posted by archimago at 8:38 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by archimago at 8:38 AM PST - 18 comments
Help adding flavor variety to a tofu rice bowl recipe?
My partner and I have been making a tofu rice bowl recipe from Julia Turshen's "Simply Julia" cookbook that we love. How can we add some flavor variations so it doesn't get old? [more inside]
I love my girlfriend but I dont feel I should marry her
I (M29) have been with my girlfriend (F28) for a 10 months, with 5 of those living together.
We have been a short time together, but we have had an amazing relationship for the past months. She is a wonderful girl who I really love, but I don't feel excited about getting married with her, which breaks my heart and makes me feel like shit.
I think I should break with her ASAP so I don't waste her time :( [more inside]
posted by WhiteSatin at 8:03 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by WhiteSatin at 8:03 AM PST - 29 comments
Screen door + kid = arghhhhhh
We have a storm door on our front door. We have a six year old who keeps destroying the screen by ripping or popping the screen material out of its frame. Help us come up with a solution that allows airflow but does not allow for continual destruction.
There are relevant details inside so please don't answer this without reading them. [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 7:51 AM PST - 29 comments
posted by sciencegeek at 7:51 AM PST - 29 comments
Green garnish alternatives that aren't an allium?
Also not parsley or coriander or mint. Am I doomed to beige food forever? [more inside]
posted by Adifferentbear at 7:27 AM PST - 34 comments
posted by Adifferentbear at 7:27 AM PST - 34 comments
Big gift for a teenage dog owner
My 13 year old niece just had a big celebration which requires a big present and, unrelated to this, recently got a bichon frise puppy - her first dog ever. I'm thinking about getting her a present related to the puppy. Any suggestions? Looking to spend as much as $500 US/Canadian. She's located in Toronto, Canada.
Fast Passport Renewal NYC
Hi all, I looked in the archives and I think I need up to date Pandemic times advice. I had let my passport expire but it is still in the window of time to renew it rather than re-apply. I have a potential international trip coming up in mid September that is important to me and I would love to make it happen. [more inside]
posted by catrae at 7:01 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by catrae at 7:01 AM PST - 8 comments
Watching The Red Carpet
For the purposes of filling out my bucket list a little - what are some of the top international film festivals that an ordinary film fan can conceivably attend? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:45 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:45 AM PST - 21 comments
Air Force wives in 1971 South Korea?
Here's a very specific question that I am failing to answer by Googling: If a married Staff Sergeant in the US Air Force were transferred to Osan Air Base in South Korea in 1971, would his wife be able to accompany him? From what I can tell, children weren't permitted, but I can't find a clear answer about spouses.
posted by Pater Aletheias at 6:21 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by Pater Aletheias at 6:21 AM PST - 3 comments
How should I heat our household water?
Our instantaneous gas hot water system has a thermostat that goes to 55oC (131oF). All of our taps are mixers. If I want, say, a 43oC shower, which will use less energy: leaving the thermostat at 55oC and mixing in cold to get to 43oC, or setting the thermostat to 43oC? [more inside]
Gift voucher gone missing or red herring?
I've had a strange experience with a company and am looking for advice on what steps to take next. [more inside]
Quote about what makes a film a success
I'm looking for a quote — I think by Roger Ebert — about what makes a film a success. It is paraphrased something like: “It sets out to do something and it does that thing well.” Anybody know the quote?
Recommend an online image batch resizer?
I see a lot of options for sites that will batch resize images. Wondering if anyone here has experience with any and can make a recommendation. I'm working with jpegs of comic art. Thank you!
posted by moonmoth at 2:58 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by moonmoth at 2:58 AM PST - 7 comments
August 21
Help me Find the Pizza Man’s Pants!
How can I find the pants in this video? I have never needed an article of clothing as much as I need these pants. [more inside]
posted by Bottlecap at 11:58 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Bottlecap at 11:58 PM PST - 5 comments
Steam controller for MacOS?
tl;dr: Have Mac. Have Steam. Want Joystick. Brain hurts when I play Steam with keyboard and magic mouse. Cannot find on the webs a MAC+STEAM joystick! Arrrrg help [more inside]
posted by not_on_display at 11:23 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by not_on_display at 11:23 PM PST - 11 comments
Being anonymous online. Is that important to you?
I'm in a constant back and forth with myself about how much I should protect myself online by hiding my identity.
I'm not asking so much about about protecting myself from trackers and big companies harvesting my data. I'm asking about protecting myself from other people. [more inside]
posted by Zumbador at 10:41 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by Zumbador at 10:41 PM PST - 24 comments
How soon can a respiratory issue be diagnosed? How accurately?
Concerned about exposing someone and want to know what to ask for. What to expect? [more inside]
Can calorie reduction (without being thin) cause missed period?
I am significantly overweight. I've recently made changes to my diet that were not intended to cut calorie consumption, but have reduced my calorie consumption. I've been eating maybe 1000-1200 calories per day for maybe half the days over the past 2 months. I've lost weight, but not fast and not such that I am no longer significantly overweight. I've lost about 15 lbs in 3 months. My period has not come. Could the reduced calories explain this? I am not pregnant. I have contacted my doctor, so no need to advise this.
About yard design and dimensions
Please help me determine how far my shade sail should be from my block-wall fence. [more inside]
What's the smallest decent waterpik for travel?
The only way I've consistently flossed is with a waterpik. But since I live on the road, the packing and unpacking has taken a toll on multiple waterpiks. I think I need something tough and compact. Any ideas?
Presto-Chango
I wrote a play, based on my book, "PLEDGE: The Public Radio Fund Drive," that ended up being 139 pages or a little over 2 1/2 hours with intermission. But I thought it would work better as a musical. So a composer and I found each other and for the last 16 months, we've been collaborating on songs. I've read there are plays, plays with music and musicals. I'd thought I might create the play with music. But it hasn't worked out like that and I need help. [more inside]
Charging battery in camper from car auxiliary battery
We want to charge the 12v battery in our camper trailer from the car while driving. The car (2018 Nissan Navara - I think it's called the Frontier in some countries) has a 'smart alternator' and already has a 98 Ah AGM auxiliary battery fitted in the rear of the car that charges from the main battery via a DC-DC charger. [more inside]
posted by dg at 3:30 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by dg at 3:30 PM PST - 12 comments
Online sources for high quality dried whole chiles
Are there any online sites that sell really good quality dried whole chiles (ancho, guajillo, pasilla, etc.) for Mexican-style dishes? I find that the ones in the grocery storse here seem to have been sitting so long that they've turned to sawdust and we don't have any good Mexican grocery stores convenient. I am at this point fine paying a stupid amount for shipping if the product is good. I'd be shipping to the US.
posted by primethyme at 3:17 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by primethyme at 3:17 PM PST - 12 comments
What rocks you these days? 🤘
Please recommend good current (Δ<=5y) heavy metal / hard rock. [more inside]
Group tours that attract a diverse group of adults?
I've been on a few group travel tours, and I like the camaraderie. Recently I went on a group tour and discovered everyone else was 25-30 years older than me and was white (I'm not). My favorite tour attracted a wide range of travelers. How do I find more tours like that? [more inside]
posted by cheesecake at 2:30 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by cheesecake at 2:30 PM PST - 8 comments
Which design of umbrella is flawless, functionality -wise?
This is not about beach umbrellas.
https://threadcurve.com/types-of-umbrellas/ I don't know this website, but anyway there are some of them. Which are the best designed and why? Could you rate them (best, second best etc., all the way down to the worst? Which features should be a must in any umbrella?
Day Trips From Bar Harbor Maine
My wife and I will be camping for 5 nights in Bar Harbor in mid-September - planning to spend most of our time exploring Acadia, but open to a fun day trip if anybody has suggestions. I'd probably want to limit the driving part of the day trip to no more than 2 hours each way if we are going to a specific place.
How to enjoy hosting overnight guests?
My partner and I like to live in cool places, and we greatly enjoy hosting friends/family for daytime activities. But we both find that we struggle with how to handle guests in the evenings. In general, our guests wouldn't be able to afford a hotel easily or live far away, so offering our place to stay overnight is the difference between them coming or not. Can you offer any tips on how we might soothe some of the stress of having people stay with us in the evenings and overnight? More details below. [more inside]
What are the pros and cons of wood windows, can I even get them?
We’re looking at replacing the windows in our 1980’s home in North Carolina. The current windows are wood, and the windows and indoor trim are stained wood which we’d like to keep. It seems like all windows are vinyl these days. Do we give up and just go with the vinyl? [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 at 12:44 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by raccoon409 at 12:44 PM PST - 18 comments
Chart and data manipulation help
I have been logging the times and days that an incident has been occurring. I'd like to be able to take that data and map it in a chart so that I can easily see trends and patterns of occurrence. Sort of like this. What is this kind of chart called? Is there a way I could automatically create it from the data I've collected? I guess I'll need to know how to format that data. I'd also like to be able to manipulate the chart so I only see one specific day of the week, or only yellow squares, etc. Links to tutorials very welcome. I used to have beginner-intermediate Excel skills but they are now extremely rusty from lack of use. I can follow instructions, though!
Why can one kid get out of the car and the other can’t?
I have a 2020 Subaru Forrester. Lately, one kid in the back seat is locked in, but the other one isn’t. So we have to let kid #1 out by opening the door from the outside. Any idea why? [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 11:39 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Ollie at 11:39 AM PST - 7 comments
Ground loop for crop cooler?
I can't find much online about using heat pumps with ground loops for crop coolers / harvest coolers / walk-in coolers for agricultural harvest. Is it a bad idea so nobody does it? Is it so obvious that the huge commercial ones all do it this way but don't say so? Is there a scale at which it does/doesn't make sense? [more inside]
We backed up Samsung Galaxy A21 phone -- so where's my stuff?
My husband switched from Verizon to Ting and then stopped being able to do Voicemail. Ting "helpfully" told him to put his phone back into a factory reset. He did (and it didn't work, but something else did, but that's irrelevant now), supposedly saving everything to -- WHERE? --- and now he can't find what he backed up. Of particular heartbreak are his audiobooks.
Any thoughts as to where he might look for these "backed up" audiobooks? Would this be a Google thing?
Should I sign up to volunteer for a local congressional candidate?
So it turns out I happen to live in one of the most competitive House districts in the US this year (NC 13th) and I was thinking of getting more involved in politics than normal given... everything. I already donated to the Democratic candidate and will do my own advocating near the election, but I was trying to decide if I should officially sign up with them. There are older questions about this, but does anyone have recent experience with signing up to volunteer using sites Mobilize? [more inside]
How to get table finish darker
I am refinishing just the top of my dining table. I sanded it down and used two coats of Minwax oil-based stain and it’s not dark enough. I don’t think it will really absorb much more because the second coat didn’t get it that much darker. I’m thinking I could either top with a coat of gel stain or use a stain and poly combination product (Poly Shades). Any advice?
Podcast episodes about a cross-cultural interaction?
I am putting together a final project for my students, in which they will listen to one of a list of podcast episodes and then present the lessons learned from the episode. Please suggest EPISODES of podcasts that deal with a cross-cultural interaction of some kind. [more inside]
Excessive late fees
I accidentally made a car rental booking for a day short of what I had planned. The rental car company policy says I have to pay a huge late fee. This is in the USA (North Carolina). I am about to return the car 24 hours late. Any ideas for how to avoid the fee ?
posted by rouleur at 7:39 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by rouleur at 7:39 AM PST - 8 comments
Buspirone - Brain zaps?
YANMD, but while I'm waiting for a response from her, I'm curious: has anyone else experienced brain zaps after increasing their dose of (or starting) buspirone/buspar? Or: is what I'm experiencing actually brain zaps? [more inside]
Please give me creative ideas for our patio!
We have a patio that is about 14 feet by 14 feet which we never use because we always hang out on our screened porch. We are getting rid of our patio furniture but would like to replace it with something -- what should that something be? [more inside]
Hot water options for a worn-out house + renovator
We are trying to get a battered 1922 house back online + fully functional. We're now living in it, and it's clear that the c. 1990 hot water heater has some issues, and likely needs to be replaced. What are the best, most energy efficient options that I should be thinking about right now? [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 7:04 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by ryanshepard at 7:04 AM PST - 18 comments
How do you save for multiple goals
... without everything in a big pool of undifferentiated money? The goals often on-going like general home repair and redecoration. [more inside]
How to handle an employee who shuts down when I give negative feedback
I have only 5 or so employees. My latest hire has been here only a few months and overall she's doing great, picking up complex processes quite fast. However, anytime I have to give negative feedback, she completely shuts down and will sulk for the rest of the day. How do you advise I improve the situation? [more inside]
August 20
Philosophy for Dummies
For no real reason other than simple curiosity, I'm wanting to learn more about philosophy. Well, not philosophy ~*~in general~*~ but I want to get a better handle on different philosophers. There are always certain philosophers that when mentioned, I have no idea what they argued, stated, etc. What's a good "general" introduction to different philosophers and their ideas? [more inside]
Need help editing down a video.
For a grant proiposal, I need to edit and submit a video, like one on You Tube, into maybe a ten to twenty second piece. Feel free to talk to me as if I am 5. I have 0 percent experience in editing videos.
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 8:26 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 8:26 PM PST - 9 comments
Can you ID this little doll?
Wife bought a little doll at an auction and is fascinated by it. It is about two inches tall and the tag says "Princess Elizabeth," but we can't make out the rest of the writing. Can any of you provide any information about this doll - maker, date, tag, etc? Thanks for any help!
posted by davidmsc at 6:11 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by davidmsc at 6:11 PM PST - 8 comments
Which PC video game did this unintentionally hilarious quote come from?
My sis and I were reminiscing about PC video games we played back in the 90s. We remembered one quote that was hilariously delivered in a pompous voice. It was "AND I THE SAME". That's all we got. We don't remember the context or who the character was. All we know is we broke up laughing when we first heard it. Any ideas?
posted by storybored at 5:14 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by storybored at 5:14 PM PST - 4 comments
Tell me, Clarice...
Can you share pop culture parodies and references to The Silence of the Lambs? [more inside]
Can't find "Sign into Google" notification tab on my phone (& need one!)
I got a message from google that somebody has access to your password, so make up a new password for your Google account. [more inside]
Autism friendly bathroom tips?
It's time to refurbish my bathroom! One of the people using the bathroom is autistic and has sensory sensitivities that make showering miserable. Are you an autistic person who loves their bathroom? Give me all your tips! What do you love or hate about your bathroom? [more inside]
Net carbs
Is net carbs — total carbs minus sugar alcohol & fiber — a useful metric? The goal is to reduce carbs in my diet in order to better manage blood glucose levels. It seems logical enough but I’ve seen it questioned. YANM doc, nutritionist, etc.
Esim provider in Turkey and Greece
Anyone have a recommendation for the best esim provider for both countries? Holafly keeps popping up, but I suspect they spend the most on marketing. I've never used an esim, just learned of their existence yesterday. I have always bought a physical card from a local provider. Seems like a pretty good option.
Take roommate's car to Canada for a weekend?
Our old car is getting increasingly unreliable. We are heading to Vancouver, BC next weekend - a six hour drive for us in Oregon - and our roommate has offered her newer car for us to borrow. Will that present any problems on either border crossing? [more inside]
posted by MonsieurBon at 10:33 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by MonsieurBon at 10:33 AM PST - 23 comments
Help me find a skirt – back to the office edition!
I’m being forced to return to the office after teleworking since the start of the pandemic. That means I need to dress in something besides sweatpants. Comfy skirts are what I need, skirts with pockets and elastic waists. Challenges inside. [more inside]
posted by furtheryet at 9:04 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by furtheryet at 9:04 AM PST - 9 comments
Water, water everywhere, but ... I'd rather have coffee or a diet soda
Low-stakes question because I'm already trying to change the behavior, but...how bad for me is this, according to our best knowledge in the year of our lord 2022? [more inside]
August 19
Non-CBT Depressed Teen Book Recommendations
I have a 17 year old son who is quite similar to me in his mental health struggles at 17, but quite different in his disposition to them. Hoping to get some book recommendations for him. [more inside]
Decorating a Baroque palace
I want to read or watch something about decorating a Baroque palace. Like, once the building is done being built, and they set about decorating and furnishing it. I'm sure this must exist, and I'm sure one of you knows about it! [more inside]
Measuring cups that won't fade?
We use liquid measuring cups all the time in this household. We have stacks of the traditional Pyrex ones, bought new, and the measuring lines are worn off on all of them. There must be something better! [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 6:07 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by The corpse in the library at 6:07 PM PST - 21 comments
Forgotten Apple ID Password
My mother has forgotten her Apple ID password, but knows the email address associated with it. However, Apple is trying to send her recovery code to a phone number she no longer has access to (and was a landline). This page says you can change the phone number associated with the account... but you have to be logged into the account to do it. Any way to force Apple to send the recovery code to the email address and not the phone number? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 5:52 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by dobbs at 5:52 PM PST - 12 comments
What's a good source for a free pre-save on streaming?
I recently set up a Spotify distribution with CD Baby, but Show.co, the company they have a partnership with for promotions like pre-saves, keeps getting flagged on social media because it looks like a phishing site. I would like to put together a pre-save page for free, and every pre-save company I find only offers paid pre-save campaign pages. Are there any good sites that offer pre-saves? [more inside]
Which computer programming language is this? (1970s documents)
I was going through some old documents which belonged to my late father and came across this printout of a computer program. I'm just curious what language it is? I'm guessing Cobol or Fortran just due to the era. I think this was part of his post-grad work, so it might have been about 1974 or so?
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 3:55 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 3:55 PM PST - 15 comments
Talk me through my sourdough starter
Seriously, though, I'm a competent cook and baker. Why can't I do this? [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 1:05 PM PST - 29 comments
posted by atomicstone at 1:05 PM PST - 29 comments
Help me locate a website of photos of "found" typography!
Hello, Hive Mind - way back in the way-back of hand-coding HTML, I ran across a weblog that was a collection of photographs of hand-lettered signs, mostly from Eastern Europe, if I remember correctly. It was gorgeous, and human, and inspiring.
Perhaps one of you fellow typography-nerds have it bookmarked somewhere?? I would also gladly welcome any other website that collects images of hand-lettered signs - the older, the better.
posted by Silvery Fish at 12:08 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by Silvery Fish at 12:08 PM PST - 6 comments
Animations of hip implants please
I just had my second hip replacement, and I am interested in seeing animated videos or gifs showing where the different parts of the implant are located when the body does basic movements like walking, sitting, climbing stairs. [more inside]
How do you decide between two cities/houses?
I had to move when my landlords sold the little house I was renting, and decided to move far away since I work remotely and am currently stuck in a very expensive area. I've been housesitting and desperately looking for a cheap house, and now I'm torn between two possibilities. Details below. [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 11:12 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by pinochiette at 11:12 AM PST - 23 comments
Program to make my Google AIY Vision watch my bird feeder?
Can anyone recommend software to run on the Raspberry Pi Zero W in my Google AIY Vision Kit v1.1 that will watch my bird feeder and save a photo when a bird lands on it? [more inside]
YANAE, YANME
An electrical outlet works for a moment before quitting. Replacing it did not help. So....now what? [more inside]
posted by Diskeater at 10:39 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by Diskeater at 10:39 AM PST - 20 comments
Family members who are funny about food
I'm temporarily living with my family, and their attitude to food makes me feel uncomfortable and triggered. TW for eating disorders. [more inside]
Travel insurance options under current COVID conditions
Best options for travel insurance for a trip to Europe in September? [more inside]
How can I get into an old gmail account?
I have an old gmail account from 2010 - I know the password but not the security question answer, and google won't let me login. Any tips for accessing it? [more inside]
Good options for ten days of short term health insurance in Maryland
The implied otter family was thinking about other things and has ended up with a spouse losing grad program insurance on 8/20 (because she defended successfully!) and starting on work insurance 9/1. We're in Maryland, and were wondering if anyone could recommend a least-bad option to cover that ten day gap.
How to keep going, because that's the only option
One of my elderly parents have been recently diagnosed with a terminal illness. Fortunately they are not in pain, in decent spirits, and the palliative care they're receiving seems to be
helping. As to how much time they have, it's probably a year. Maybe less. There is a lot going on and trying to keep it together has been hard. Seeking some inputs on how to cope. [more inside]
Pick-Me-Up Gifts?
What should I send friends as pick-me-up gifts? What would you like to receive as a pick-me-up gift? [more inside]
Learning SQL, Python, R
Please recommend resources for learning SQL, Python or R. I would be using them for data science. [more inside]
YANMD/YANAD: Weird nerve pulsing/tingling in foot. Where to go next?
I have this really odd issue with nerve tingling/pulsing in my foot. Please hope me better focus my efforts in getting it addressed. [more inside]
How to clean and prep an unfinished concrete floor?
My kitchen has a bare concrete floor underneath ancient linoleum (which was never stuck down) and I want to ditch the lino, clean and paint the floor. There are a million how-to's on the internet but I can't seem to find one for my specific situation. What would you suggest for cleaning and prepping a dirty, stained indoor kitchen floor? [more inside]
When you narrow it all down to one factor, what is the mechanism?
IKYNMD - I've had heart issues, specifically of the electrical type (AV Node) for a number of years, diagnosed with diastolic dysfunction grade 1 - there is thickening of leaflets as well. The cause - actual cause, root - no one has ever told me. This week my HR went from 44 to 110 just doing normal things like walking and resting. It took me up to 45 minutes for HR to go down after walking. Echos show DD but nobody is really telling me the mechanism and I need to know in order to at least slow the progression if at all possible. [more inside]
Dimensions of Settlers of Catan pieces
I need to get the dimensions of some specific parts of the Settlers of Catan game with the Cities and Knights extension. [more inside]
August 18
how to successfully mail bananagrams in its own banana
Please give me tips and tricks for successfully mailing Bananagrams as-is. I figure this is already in a package, so it should be within regulations. But I still have to get it past a human who will judge it as acceptable-to-mail or put-it-in-a-disposable-envelope. [more inside]
Automated Complicated Schedule APP
At my new school, we use a rotating schedule so the classes aren't consistent each day of the week. An additional complication is that one day a week has a compressed schedule, so the timing for the classes on that weekday are different.
Is there an APP for iPhone that can manage both of those?
Ideally, it would also allow me to schedule other meetings and events that happen only once or on a weekly basis. I'm definitely willing to pay for this!
posted by Trifling at 10:27 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by Trifling at 10:27 PM PST - 6 comments
You can lead a horse to water but you can't make them ask for a glass
So I have a terrible awkwardness when it comes to people leaving room for me to ask what I see as personal follow up questions. For example if a friend says, "I cannot take that (covid) risk. I have a bunch of comorbidities" I will say, That's totally understandable, not, Do you want to talk about it? Or, What comorbidities? I figure they would have told me if they wanted me to know and it might be rude to pry. But then, maybe this was their way of inviting me to ask? [more inside]
posted by jello at 7:45 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by jello at 7:45 PM PST - 27 comments
Teamster Pension Question
Sorry to post obscure labor question here, but having a devil of a time getting an answer... [more inside]
Please help me get a painting made from a photo
I want to get a photo of a very close friend made into a painting. I need it within a few weeks and I'm looking for artist recommendations. Have you had this done? Are you an artist who does it? My budget is $100 - $150. Is that a reasonable amount for a custom painting? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you!
Covid in August - risk of reinfection in September?
I had Covid earlier this month - probably BA.5, since that's the dominant variant here in Vancouver BC. I'm thinking about making a cross-border trip to Seattle and Portland in early September. I would like to avoid getting Covid again while I'm away. Do I need to worry about reinfection? Will it be safe for me to eat in restaurants? [more inside]
Why do I get so tired when I arrive at home?
I had a great day at work, felt fine, and immediately as soon as I got home I feel bone-tired and my face feels flushed. This happens 2-3 days a week. Tried to nap, can’t fall asleep. I stopped drinking recently, if that might be related. Does anyone have this or know why it might be happening or how to fix it? It’s killing my house-chores productivity. Thanks in advance!
posted by ftm at 2:35 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by ftm at 2:35 PM PST - 20 comments
Any problem with application forms, etc., asking for "telephone number"?
Whether it's in person or on forms I see/hear "What is your cell number?" Is it most of the time when that happens? Is it done on purpose?
What is the down side of asking for "telephone" number?
If an applicant or a customer gives the landline number, would the company, etc. consider it a lie?
By the way, the category I wanted to put it under would have been Employment or Labor relations or something like that. Also I would have put this paragraph in whisper.
posted by nfub at 2:18 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by nfub at 2:18 PM PST - 12 comments
Suggestions for sturdy salads?
I'm looking for suggestions for sturdy salads that I can make a few days ahead and keep in the fridge, add some lean protein to, and have it for lunch. What are your favourite recipes? (I'm good for mason jar salads!) [more inside]
Visiting Vancouver Island...in November!
So, it looks like Mrs. Gefilte and I will be heading to Vancouver in November for a conference. We'll be in the area for a week before the event and would like to visit Victoria and possibly Tofino as I've never been to either. Keeping in mind that the weather is likely going to be sub-optimal, what are some things worth doing? Are there other places on the island that would be better-suited for November weather?
posted by greatgefilte at 1:21 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by greatgefilte at 1:21 PM PST - 7 comments
Book recommendations for fifth grader
Looking for recommendations for shorter novels, or fictional book series etc. for a 5th grade autistic student with a significant interest in animals, wildlife, and the outdoors. [more inside]
When will be the least awful dates to fly NYC-SFO?
I'd like to fly roundtrip from NYC to San Francisco for a week or two, some time before the end of the year. I've heard that air travel is more than usually unpleasant this year. My timing is flexible - is there any time period that is predictably likely to be less awful? Or is it just unknowable?
Local school that's not a fit, or great school far away?
I am struggling mightily with where to send my first grader after a recent relocation. Difficulty level: liberal snowflake in a deep red county. [more inside]
posted by TrixieRamble at 1:04 PM PST - 34 comments
posted by TrixieRamble at 1:04 PM PST - 34 comments
Can I have my sweet beverage and drink it too?
So I just had my annual checkup, and it turns out I am prediabetic (5.9% A1C). I am under orders to cut down on sugar and carbs. I don’t feel like I actually consume an excessive amount of carbs since it’s not something I crave; it’s sugar I love. [more inside]
Finding (but not raking) ALL the pretty leaves
If someone wanted to hit a bunch of different fall foliage hotspots, where (and when) would they go? For instance, Colorado at altitude can peak in mid-September, while other places are weeks later. If you could hop all over the U.S. for trees, where would you head, and when? Thanks!
Best time of year to visit DC?
Pretty much as the title asks - my specific questions inside. [more inside]
What is going one here 1?
During the late 1940s and early 50s some classified ads in magazines that I read had entries for "remailing services" where you could use a mailing address other than your own where letters would be forwarded to your correct address. My elderly memory says they cost about 20 cents a letter for the service. What was going on here? The magazines in question were Mechanix Illustrated and Popular Science and others like them.
What guitar-related thing should I treat myself to?
I recently sold my first 2 pro-level SF&F stories (yay!) To commemorate this, I want to get myself something guitar-related, so I can look at it twenty years from now and remember this feeling. [more inside]
Anxious attachment thinking vs healthy striving for interdependency
Hi, I'm back and this time I would like to find resources on the anxious attachment pattern in adults - specifically, the difference between anxious-attached cognitive distortions and reasonable expectations associated with a secure style/interdependency that are being thwarted due to the other person being avoidantly attached. And how I can reframe some of these experiences so that I am more respectful of my needs, the realities of my partner's limits, and my valuable and valid drive to heal myself so I can express healthy interdependency. [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 9:16 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by What a Joke at 9:16 AM PST - 19 comments
Heart too funky to measure on CT?
How can I minimize “ectopy”/fluctuating heart rate before a gated contrast CT-angio scan? Beta blockers didn’t work…. [more inside]
How to get to LAX at an awkward time?
(LA Filter) Angelenos: I'm gonna need to get from the Valley to LAX at around 2:30am on a weekday. What's my best option? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 8:34 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 8:34 AM PST - 20 comments
Help us shop for a new kitchen faucet!
Help us shop for a new kitchen faucet! [more inside]
Do I care about this?
Parents of Metafilter, help me figure out if I should care about this childcare situation or not. [more inside]
Finding an agent in Japan for a translated English-to-Japanese book
I am the author of an English-language nonfiction book on a topic that has become a hot topic in Japan. I'm interested in finding an agent who could help me explore getting my book translated into Japanese and released there. How would I go about searching for an agent who does this (for a very unknown author)? [more inside]
how to accept partner's apology and move on
My partner got upset with me because he was angry about something that wasn't really my fault. He has since apologised, and I want to accept this and move forward, but I don't feel okay. What can I do for myself to feel better and put this behind me? [more inside]
posted by quadrant seasons at 4:11 AM PST - 33 comments
posted by quadrant seasons at 4:11 AM PST - 33 comments
August 17
What is this weird thing I found in the pond?
My 6yo and I found this thing on the edge of Jamaica Pond in Boston, MA. I'm about 80% sure it's organic, but couldn't even guess what kingdom we're talking. [more inside]
Take my survey about surveys
I just accidentally did a search for "survey" in the iPhone App Store & saw there's a bunch of apps that say they pay you for taking surveys. I would not mind tapping my phone in exchange for any amount of money instead of tapping my phone for no money. But there's 100s of these apps! Are there any you would recommend? [more inside]
Can you name this comedy quote?
An announcer's voice: "Yes, there was a God. He died. He was very small. Mystery solved!"
That was the whole bit, IIRC. Where was it from? Google won't come up with it. [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 6:15 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Countess Elena at 6:15 PM PST - 2 comments
Hotel or Bed and Breakfast in London
Overwhelmed with hotel options in London. Where should we stay? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 5:38 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by kittensofthenight at 5:38 PM PST - 10 comments
Strength Training for the Perpetually Clumsy
I might as well be a brain in a jar— I have terrible proprioception and I'm hypermobile! What are good strength training resources for learning to target specific muscles while not overextending my range of motion? [more inside]
Find this comic strip - I still have a body
The Mr and I saw a comic strip a number of years ago (5-10) that we quote to each other a lot, and I would like to find it. Possibly a web-only comic but it was in a format that could have been in an alt-weekly paper. The joke was something like, “all my friends have portable phones but I still have a landline!” “All my friends have smartphones and I still have a flip phone!” “All my friends are pure energy beings and I still have a body!”
posted by matildaben at 4:12 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by matildaben at 4:12 PM PST - 2 comments
How do I fix my email account?
A friend I'm doing some freelance work for told me that my email never arrived and she'd found it in spam, and gmail helpfully supplied that "email from [my domain] is frequently spam." I also had another client get in touch with me after thinking I hadn't responded to her, and then finding my mail in spam. Clearly something's wrong, but I have no idea how to determine what and fix it. [more inside]
posted by kitten kaboodle at 4:12 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by kitten kaboodle at 4:12 PM PST - 11 comments
Directional? Dynamic?
I am looking for microphones that will work (e.g. no feedback) with the following setup: [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 3:36 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by falsedmitri at 3:36 PM PST - 8 comments
Save me from the ACH avalanche
Calling all finance gurus on MeFi! I'm looking for a company or service that can take a csv file of ACH withdrawals and run the individual transactions. The piece I'm not finding is that all the services I've found will run them, but will deposit one lump sum into our bank account, which then can't be matched to the individual invoices that are being paid. I need the transactions to show up individually on the bank statement to comply with GAAP and not irritate our auditors. Hope me? (details inside) [more inside]
posted by ananci at 2:35 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by ananci at 2:35 PM PST - 4 comments
New eyeglasses len edges came in seemingly polished, can I fix?
My new eyeglasses came in with the len edges polished, despite the technician at the local eyeglasses shop (MyEyeDr) saying it was unpolished. I had the lab specifically be instructed to have the edges unpolished, because I'm super sensitive to glare. The manager of the store even confirmed they were unpolished, and when I asked/showed the comparison between my current eyeglasses and the new ones, kind of stuttered "well, it's new". [more inside]
How to speak 50s/60s American English
I am looking for any helpful guides to instruct improv actors on how to speak like they're living in 50s and 60s, United States (specifically, Southern California). Slang, inflection, all of it. While I could encourage them to watch several films, I need to boil this down a to a guide that will be a couple pages, so any concise tips preferred!
Keeping Uncapped Art Markers
We have many art markers where the caps are lost.
Any suggestions on temporary or replacement caps? All sizes from pencil thin to kindergarten pencil size.
Some are double tipped.
I’ve seen some DYI solutions for keeping caps attached but we have a bunch that are already topless. [more inside]
posted by calgirl at 12:23 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by calgirl at 12:23 PM PST - 5 comments
Gallbladders of the young
A young adult in my life (age 19, nonbinary, assigned male at birth) has a referral from a primary care doctor to a surgeon for discussion about their gallbladder. Beyond what I can Google (and I am decent at the internets!), what can you tell me about gallbladder removal, particularly in a teenager or young adult? And is there anything they can try to avoid surgery? Did you manage to improve your gallbladder problems without surgery? [more inside]
posted by bluedaisy at 12:19 PM PST - 29 comments
posted by bluedaisy at 12:19 PM PST - 29 comments
Forget dry shampoo—how do I HYDRATE my hair between washes?
How do I prevent my dry hair from drying out more in between washes? My hair doesn’t get greasy between washes—it actually gets drier and drier. My colourist strongly recommended I go as long as possible between washes. The most I’ve been able to do is 2 days between washes, and by Day 3 it’s a horrible dry tangled texture and my Type 2b waves go straight. The colouring has made it drier, yes, but it had already been quite dry for some time. (Thanks, perimenopause!) [more inside]
Covid, Part 2 (Federal Version)
I got an artist in residence, yay. But I don't know about the vaccination rules, boo. [more inside]
Pokemon, pokemon, poke-me-in-the-eye.
My kid has gotten into Pokemon cards. Two related questions: [more inside]
Unusual expos and shows in Chicago
I only found out about the The World's Number One Dollhouse Miniatures Show this year and loved attending. It made me think, what other strange and unusual expos and conventions might I be missing when they roll through local hotel ballrooms and the like? Caveat: I'm primarily interested in Chicago area specific shows, although I will drive a few hours if it's really cool - all categories are welcome - let me at 'em!
posted by tiny frying pan at 11:09 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by tiny frying pan at 11:09 AM PST - 11 comments
Advice on financial affairs related to a parent's death.
My father is in hospice and is in his last, I dunno, days or hours of his life. What do I need to do with respect to his finances and/or "estate?" Do I have to legally establish an "estate?" [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 10:50 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by kensington314 at 10:50 AM PST - 13 comments
What's a good credit card?
What's a good credit card to get? I had a Fidelity Investments account one that I think you need an investment account to use, but I don't have one (my now ex husband has one). So I need a new credit card. I don't want one with airline points, as I am not a frequent traveler. I use Bank of America for my checking account.
Architectural(?) help for the young and broke
I have plans for a cabin that I intend to DIY in the coming months. I'm looking for structural advice and possibly for someone to modify the plans to fit my space better. Who can I get this help from for a reasonable price? [more inside]
Rower vs. Rower
Now that we have Askme's approval to get a rowing machine, which rowing machine should we get? Please share recs, pros, cons, experiences, whatever could be relevant to choosing a great rower. [more inside]
Capsule collections or categories?
We all know about capsule wardrobes, and a very awesome previous question featured capsule kitchen ideas. It got me thinking, what else have you refined down to capsule form? Or, what would you like to see in capsule form? [more inside]
Your favorite regional vegetarian cookbooks plz
What are your favorite cookbooks from historically-vegetarian regions? My family is trying to move towards a weekday-vegetarian diet, and I find the most inspiration from pretty cookbooks and regional cuisines. [more inside]
posted by justalisteningman at 9:12 AM PST - 21 comments
posted by justalisteningman at 9:12 AM PST - 21 comments
Help a Four-Eyes Out?
Recommendations for a Toronto-area optician and general advice on ways to buy eyewear for less? [more inside]
Canada Filter: Buying furniture online
Where should I shop for my new furniture? Online, delivery to Vancouver, BC suburbs in Canada. [more inside]
Tell me about some good Turkish music
I’d like to share it with an older friend who lived in Turkey when she was a child, and wants to hear some music from her best years. [more inside]
Parking in NYC (ideally Midtown)?
I'm unfortunately going to be in midtown Manhattan (near Bryant Park) for 48 hours with a car. Help? [more inside]
August 16
I do not have bugs, I have mental Illness
I very often have a sensation of bugs crawling on me. I do not have bugs crawling on me, and would like some guidance about how to cope. [more inside]
Mens Dress Shirt
Can you recommend a place to buy mens dress shirts for a reasonable price for a slightly odd size, somewhat like Charles Tyrwhitt quality shirts? [more inside]
Curry: Difficulty Level Vegetarian, No Coconut
I love curry! I have lost my ability to tolerate coconut milk, which was my base. I have curry spices I like, and would really like to make some nice easy creamy curries again. How? Recipes appreciated! Typically I would make curry with red curry sauce, a can of coconut milk, spices, tofu and veggies. This was super easy, and I would like something similarly low maintenance.
Seeking video of a giant cuckoo chick being fed by tiny adoptive parent
A few days ago I saw a video of a ginormous cuckoo chick being fed by the tiny adult bird that had been tricked into raising it. It was horrifying. The chick is so much larger than the parent that the parent's head often disappears completely down the chick's throat, and all the time the chick wants more, more, more. I want to show the video to someone, but I can't find it anywhere. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 7:51 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by Winnie the Proust at 7:51 PM PST - 6 comments
LibreOffice Calc Learning Tools?
I dual-boot Linux and Windows 10 on my computer, pretty much Linux these days. The main thing I go back to Windows for is Excel, where I am pretty proficient, because I am stymied by lots of what LibreOffice Calc wants me to do to achieve the same results. I am perfectly fine with the rest of LibreOffice, but just haven't found the great tutorial for moving from Excel to Calc. Can you help me out?
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How do I set up my shop?
I'm getting ready to launch an online store for an existing web site, and I need help getting my head around where I need to configure everything. [more inside]
posted by emelenjr at 6:13 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by emelenjr at 6:13 PM PST - 5 comments
Business Travel Etiquette: GIFTS / India
I will be traveling to India soon for work. My boss (who works in India) recently came out to the US and brought a bunch of gifts for everyone. I’d like to bring gifts for everyone I will see and work with while there, which will be about 7-8 people. Almost all are above me in job level except 2 who are one equal and one below. What should I bring? [more inside]
Las Vegas for a nerd
I’m going to Vegas for the first time this fall! I’m a solo 40ish lady and not planning to have a car. I’d like advice on inexpensive places to stay (hostels are on the table), eat, other things to do, and what to pack/wear. I’m in a bit of a rut since 2020 and want to see new things for a bit. My only must-do right now is the Meow Wolf Omega Mart. [more inside]
posted by momus_window at 3:23 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by momus_window at 3:23 PM PST - 27 comments
Do I need a permit to replace deck floor boards on the rooftop?
My 2 story single-family house in Chicago has always had a roof deck since I bought it in 2012 and since it was built in 2003. It is about 1,200 square feet. Recently, the deck boards start to wear out. I am thinking to replace them with newer deck boards. I am planning to replace the natural wood boards with composite boards. There is no other changes to the deck otherwise. I wonder if I would need a permit for this.
Thanks in advance!
How to get better email filtering (without running my own server)
I'd like to be able to filter out mail to multiple recipients from a non-contact to it's own folder. Perhaps I'd like to filter even further. I use gmail but I'm open to alternatives. [more inside]
Why is the WWE changing their financial statements because of Vince?
As folks probably know, it recently came out that Vince McMahon has been paying hush money for a bunch of sexual harassment cases over the last fifteen years. As a result of this, WWE is revising its financial statements since 2019 due to "improper accounting". However, it seems to be that Vince paid the money personally - this isn't a case of use of company funds. So why are they revising their statements? [more inside]
posted by inkyz at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by inkyz at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments
What is the best water filtration system?
We’d like to install a water filtration system in our new kitchen sink, but are having trouble knowing where to begin. Our family drinks a lot of water, so taste and quality are important factors for us. Thank you!
posted by WaspEnterprises at 12:17 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by WaspEnterprises at 12:17 PM PST - 12 comments
Interior for Rental Home
Some questions on remodeling a house we're going to rent out. [more inside]
Loser in the game of life... now what?
How do people live alone and work alone without constantly going over all the reasons in their head that they deserve to be alone forever? TW: pathetic! [more inside]
Favorite dishes using Reshampatti and Kashmiri chili powder
What are your favorite recipes that use Reshampatti and/or Kashmiri chili powder? I now have a lot of both spices, but I don't know how to best use them. [more inside]
Time Ranges for Biochemical Processes
I am trying to get a rough order-of-magnitude understanding of the time needed for human mitosis, in order to understand the progression of an "aggressive" cancer. [more inside]
posted by spacewrench at 8:52 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by spacewrench at 8:52 AM PST - 5 comments
How to stop drinking from firehose?
This question is both meta about metafilter and also kind of embarrassing but here we go… I think I have to finally admit to myself that I am a hoarder of information. Like, with metafilter, I will sacrifice sleep and my free time to make sure I read every last question every day and then bookmark the interesting ones that I want to get back to later, that I KNOW I will never read because I don’t have the time, but that are still always on my mind and I feel anxious about not reading. The same goes with reddit. Does anyone else do this? How do I stop? I just always have a feeling like if I keep reading, I might happen upon some useful nugget of information that I don’t want to miss, but the time it takes to do that is taking away time from me reading stuff I actually want to read, like books!
How can I best support my grieving partner
We're both in our mid-30s. My partner (cis-man) just lost his dad to suicide. They were very close and had lots of future projects to do together. We're devastated.
How do I (cis-woman) best support him? [more inside]
Can I have this HR-related question with my boss?
I work at a small non-profit organization and I strongly believe that one member of our leadership team should be fired or converted to a consultant, based primarily on a variety of fairness and equity concerns. Can I raise this with my Executive Director, and if so how should I? [more inside]
On-going trauma, depression, and a period of recovery - what is it?
I'm struggling to figure out what I experienced recently. After a prolonged period of stress (multiple years), I got into a much better situation where I wasn't feeling constantly under threat to my well being and at risk of homelessness. I slumped into a depression, or so I thought, but now I'm not so sure. [more inside]
Freelance Editor Seeking Resources
I recently transitioned careers and now work as a freelance editor. So far, I've been successful, but need and want to avoid complacency. It's important that I develop my editorial skill set, AND understand how to manage my finances as a freelancer. I am seeking resources and advice that can help me on both fronts. [more inside]
Looking for (non-romantic) songs about shame, grief and betrayal
Asking for a friend who's having a really tough time at work. If you know about institutional betrayal, that's what she's going through. She is seeking music to help her through this. Songs from artists with marginalized identities (women, racialized people, 2SLGBTQIA+) would be especially welcome. [more inside]
What act of kindness/anything that made you smile instantly?
I woke up after a bad dream and saw this post on Reddit.
It immediately changed my mood.
What act of kindness or anything that you have seen/heard/or experienced that made you smile instantly?
Seeking ADHD career coach for a transgender tradesperson
I have adhd and it leads me to perform unreliably at work. I’m not happy with my job anyways, and would like to transition in the next few years to working for myself, but I feel I have a lot to learn and organize before I’m ready for that. I’m ready to get started! [more inside]
I have one week to decide who to have a baby with – please help!
I have to make the most important decision of my life and I am so confused. I have to decide in the next WEEK whether to have a baby with the man I love – or to have one alone, which would mean my child has no father and I lose my boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by Ella_Bella at 12:43 AM PST - 50 comments
posted by Ella_Bella at 12:43 AM PST - 50 comments
August 15
Experiences of cervical radiculopathy with C7 nerve compression
I posted a question 4 weeks ago about severe neck pain. An MRI showed a bulging disc at C6-C7. Things have escalated and I’m seeking anecdotes about what’s worked for others. [more inside]
posted by Salamander at 11:50 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Salamander at 11:50 PM PST - 8 comments
Using my US-based credit card or US cash in Canada? (Toronto)
I plan to travel to Canada from Niagara Falls and stay two nights at Toronto with a friend (both of us are from the USA). My bank account is 100% USA-based (Bank of America, with an accompanying BOA credit card). I'm confused about how to use the card/cash in Canada, help would be appreciated! [more inside]
Turn a frown upside down?
How can I stop scowling all the time? It appears to be my natural state and people often comment about how miserable I look. Mrs. i_count_crows says that I even scowl while sleeping. I've tried forehead exercises and tried to smile but it doesn't look normal to me. My head does feel like its tense around the brow area, as though I'm holding back a waterfall. I want to be seen as pleasant, but without feeling like a robot. What do you recommend? I'll appreciate any and all advice.
Is there a reason for my boss's Slack behavior?
My boss uses Slack in a way that seems kind of odd to me, and I'm wondering if there's any explanation for it. [more inside]
Driving from LA to Santa Barbara over Labor Day
I have committed to a dog/house sitting gig in Santa Barbara from Friday 9/2 to Monday 9/5 (Labor Day). I figured there would be holiday traffic, but people are telling me it could take 7 hours! For people who have done this trip, how can I best beat traffic? [more inside]
posted by parkerposey at 5:35 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by parkerposey at 5:35 PM PST - 11 comments
Is there a home for old (60s-70s) slides of factories?
I seem to have inherited a box of 35mm color slides from a former engineer.
The slides are from site surveys at different factories or mining operations, there are a dozen or so from each project. They're from things like "E. Paterson Forklift Operation" December 1971-January 1973. [more inside]
posted by typetive at 5:06 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by typetive at 5:06 PM PST - 7 comments
Should we...NOT row our boat?
Thanks to a work bonus, we've been considering getting a nice water rower for our home office/workout room. Today one of our primary care docs said that was a bad idea because "it's bad for your elbows" if you don't maintain the right posture. [more inside]
posted by invincible summer at 4:14 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by invincible summer at 4:14 PM PST - 13 comments
Autism and Bipolar
I was diagnosed with bipolar disorder around 12 years ago, and now I'm wondering if I might be autistic too. [more inside]
posted by Chenko at 4:03 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by Chenko at 4:03 PM PST - 4 comments
Spin Me Right Round
I am looking for a bit of advice about buying a spin bike. [more inside]
What are you doing for your menstrual migraines?
How do you cope with debilitating pain several days a month when the usual solutions don't work? [more inside]
Peter Kreeft encounters Andrew Sullivan?
Hi MeFi,
Help me find something I recently read:
I was reading something by Peter Kreeft where he describes encountering Andrew Sullivan at some kind of conference. Sullivan is gay and Catholic, and challenged Kreeft on the Church's "hate the sin but love the sinner" teaching, as it applies to homosexuals. [more inside]
posted by takenRoad at 1:34 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by takenRoad at 1:34 PM PST - 4 comments
Documentary on the tenor change of the GOP?
I came across a clip from the Reagan/Bush presidential debates and it was staggering how much they sounded like “centrist” Democrats. That’s the Republicanism of my youth (Gen-X). Has anyone put together a sequence of how the messaging has evolved (especially with the impact of Fox News’ arrival) and the extremely tenor shift of GOP messaging and tactics? Happy for anything that collates similar material relative to the Democrats.
Is this just phishing?
Hello. Please explain these two spam-like emails I received, which did not get routed into my spam folder. Usually I ignore such stuff, but I know next to nothing about this sort of thing. Please explain it like I'm a toddler. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 10:51 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 10:51 AM PST - 10 comments
Vote for the Metafilter Steering Committee!
🗳Just a quick note!🗳
Voting has begun for the inaugural Steering Committee (SC) for Metafilter! Come on over to MeTaTalk for a list of candidates and explanation of the voting process and help determine the future of the site!
Understanding civil/criminal court cases
I know plaintiffs and defendants (and by extension, their attorneys) are discouraged from discussing pending court cases publicly (for reasons I don't fully understand). But what about after a case is decided or settled? Where are the victors bragging about justice served, or the angry losers railing against an unjust legal system? I'm interested in both civil and criminal cases. [more inside]
Steady state heat transfer - calculating delta T
I need to know how to calculate the delta t between "inside" and "outside" given a u factor of either .0555 or .0333. Inside of the cooler is to be at 1 degree Celsius, ambient outside the cooler is 23.5 degrees Celsius.
I used to know how to do this, but I cannot remember
posted by rudd135 at 7:45 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by rudd135 at 7:45 AM PST - 8 comments
Are thick men's dress socks a thing?
I work in an office environment where classic, business casual is the dress code. I have noticed over the years in buying classic dress socks that all men's dress socks are thin. What gives? [more inside]
Copyright - use part of a painting for company logo
I want to use a part of a painting for a logo. It is a painting from Picasso, let's say this one:
https://www.amazon.com/Horse-Pablo-Picasso-Sketch-Print/dp/B06WRQLCR6
and I want to incorporate the head of the horse into my logo. What rules do apply here? Picasso died 1972 so his paintings are still copyrighted, so I can't reproduce them without auithorization. Is my case special? Is it relevant that I only use a small part? [more inside]
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 5:45 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 5:45 AM PST - 4 comments
Taking care of yourself when the chips are down
When things are going well, I'm good at taking care of myself, but I neglect my physical and emotional health badly when things are tough. How do I change this? [more inside]
Have I been out of the relationship game too long?
I haven't had a relationship or really a date since before Covid. I'm a male in my 30s, and I've been talking to a woman in her late 20s but I've been getting very confusing signals and the nature of the relationship has changed. Should I ignore her or pursue it? Details within. [more inside]
What is your favorite song covered by another band?
I'm creating a new exercise playlist, after getting burned out on the ones I have. I came across the song Ring of Fire, originally by Johnny Cash, covered by Social Distortion. I was blown away by how good it is! What is your favorite song that was covered by another band? Thanks!
transmasc pregnancy
I need resources on how transmasculine people deal with pregnancy - deciding whether to do it in the first place, keeping dysphoria at bay during and after, etc. [more inside]
Relationship used to be abusive but not anymore?
The past was scary. If I knew what I know now, I would've broken up a long time ago, back when the worst happened. It's never okay for a partner to call you in the middle of the night for days just to tell you to fuck off. But now we've both grown. We're happy. Do I still leave? [more inside]
August 14
Learning about gender online: Is it possible to avoid drama/trolls?
Do you have any advice for avoiding overly heated responses when attempting to learn about gender identity online? Is it just part of the package I have to learn to deal with? [more inside]
What's The Easiest Way to Manage Photos Across Devices?
I take a lot of photos. I like to edit those photos on various different devices. I am looking for an easy/streamlined way to store my photos in a way that I can access them from whatever device I want to use, in a way that doesn't lose file quality. More details about devices, current cloud storage situation, etc, inside! [more inside]
Perfect hotel for a writing retreat, if the writer in question is weird
Toying with the idea of using some vacation time on a solo or pair writing retreat later this year. I could go to a standard cute B&B but if I'm going someplace specifically to stay in my room/in the building, I'd rather stay somewhere that was at least a little strange. [more inside]
posted by babelfish at 8:32 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by babelfish at 8:32 PM PST - 10 comments
Outdoor Work clothing for the South East USA
Got a great job working for a local farm, where I'll be delivering their produce. Any recommendations for outdoor clothing? [more inside]
sometimes you have to dig deeper, but sometimes you have to let go
i am genderfluid presenting as male due to work and society pressures but i prefer to present as female when possible. last night i uploaded several pics of both gender presentations to Bumble in the process of creating an account, and they keep deleting my cutest female picture with a generic non-explanation saying it's breaking their photo guidelines. [more inside]
posted by glonous keming at 6:31 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by glonous keming at 6:31 PM PST - 9 comments
What's the easiest way to sort a huge list of words by part of speech?
I have a Mac and a Raspberry Pi. I have a text file with a list of a few thousand words. I want the list split into separate lists of all nouns, verbs, adjectives, etc. If a word can be used as multiple parts of speech, it should end up in multiple lists. This is just for a silly project and it only needs to be done once, so the way it gets done can be sloppy or hacky. I'd rather not do it manually since it would take way too long.
posted by 2oh1 at 5:59 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by 2oh1 at 5:59 PM PST - 5 comments
Best sheets and towels, non-linen, non-Turkish towel edition
I need to replace some towels and should probably get a set of sheets. I would like to shell out for sort of the best in a middle-class-boring sense. What should I buy? [more inside]
Help me not get a brain-eating amoeba
Can I do neti-pot / nasal rinse with bottled water, if it's not labeled "distilled"? [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 5:01 PM PST - 18 comments
posted by cnidaria at 5:01 PM PST - 18 comments
Fun, safe sites for tweens
With Mini McGee entering high school, we have entered the Brave New World of children with phones. What are some interesting sites we could add to his browser's "allowed" list? [more inside]
Renter's Insurance that Covers Pet Damage
My landlord says I can have a cat but only if I provide proof that I have renter's insurance that covers pet damage. [more inside]
Non-Asshole Running Shoe Forum or Subreddit?
Is there a forum or subreddit where a guy can ask a question about running shoes and not get flamed/piled-on/etc. by divas and assholes? [more inside]
Grocery shopping list app/template
How to build a grocery shopping list by selecting from a list of items that I have previously…listed [more inside]
How, besides roasting, can I turn pumpkin seeds into food?
I have grown pumpkins! They are delicious! They are super full of big fat pulp-covered seeds that also look delicious! I want to eat the seeds somehow, but I do not have the manual dexterity/endurance to de-pulp, wash, and dry the seeds so that they can be roasted. There's gotta be some other way I can turn them into food, right? ..... Right? [more inside]
posted by cabbage raccoon at 12:43 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by cabbage raccoon at 12:43 PM PST - 8 comments
Fine dining w/Potomac River view?
Seeking recommendations for fine dining restaurant with Potomac River view. Located between Old Town Alexandria to the south and Georgetown to the north. Bonus points for rooftop dining.
posted by John Borrowman at 12:15 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by John Borrowman at 12:15 PM PST - 5 comments
Most current protocol for covid test? (YANM Epidemiologist..or whoever..
I'm getting conflicting information on the latest covid test. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 10:59 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 10:59 AM PST - 9 comments
Cooling off instead of sweating all day
I do cardio in the morning but to prevent excessive sweating all day I take significant steps (cold water, cold shower, air-dry in cold air, ice packs in key spots) to bring my core temperature to the point where I'm only lightly sweaty. But now I'm wondering how much of the benefit of raising my heart rate and forcing my body to cool itself I'm losing, particularly in terms of calories burned. Anyone know?
Securing My Stuff At Coney Island
Yes, it's an NYC-filter, and an NYC-beach-filter to boot. But I'm having a devil of a time finding this out - are there lockers I can use as a solo visitor to Coney Island to secure my stuff while I'm swimming? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 9:49 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 9:49 AM PST - 6 comments
Leaving Google Mail and ecosystem in 2022
I have been meaning to migrate my personal email and calendars from Google for a while...but I keep being intimidated by figuring out the logistics. I'm hoping the hive mind can help! [more inside]
Examples of real speakeasies with rotating rooms?
A common theme in film and television are speakeasies that turn into a reputable establishment with a flip of a switch. Is this a reference to a specific movie or were there actual speakeasies that had some sort of mechanical means of changing their appearance? I'm not talking about speakeasies that require a code to get in, but physically turning into something they're not. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 6:43 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by geoff. at 6:43 AM PST - 8 comments
Are mug warmers safe?
I want to buy mug warmers to keep on my bedside table and desk to keep my drinks warm but I am worried about safety, given that I am super forgetful (hence cold tea) and have a lot of cats around. How hot do these get? If a pillow fell on top of one, would it catch fire? Would the cat??
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 3:24 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 3:24 AM PST - 14 comments
How best to renew a leaky cement-lined pond?
We have a cement-lined pond that hasn’t held water for a long, long time. We’ve removed the dry plants and earth from it and would like to make it watertight. What would be the easiest and/or best way to do that? [more inside]
August 13
Can you plant trees next to retaining walls?
We have a wooden fence in our backyard with a small garden bed next to it which is held up with a ~25 cm thick stone brick and mortar retaining wall. The garden bed is about 1 m measured from the retaining wall to the fence. We want to plant a couple of trees in the garden bed to hopefully provide some privacy, as neighbors are currently able to see over the fence into our backyard. But we want to make sure that the trees don't damage the retaining wall. [more inside]
Help settle a disagreement about masking and covid
My wife wants to give up masking for covid. I think we should continue. [more inside]
posted by NotLost at 8:28 PM PST - 59 comments
posted by NotLost at 8:28 PM PST - 59 comments
Tell me about your experiences with group travel for "solo travellers"
I've been seeing ads for Flash Pack, Intrepid travel and other group travel packages for what they call "solo travellers", what are these actually like? [more inside]
posted by Ensign at 8:13 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by Ensign at 8:13 PM PST - 9 comments
Has this film technique found in The French Dispatch been used elsewhere
In The French Dispatch, there's a moment (18m30s) where a transition happens and I'm wondering if it has been used previously in any other films (to avoid spoilers, I'll detail it below) [more inside]
What is it like to work in IT support?
Pretty much what it says on the tin. Context below the fold ... [more inside]
Hanging out in Eugene, OR
I'm taking a workshop in Eugene OR for a few days at the end of August and am taking the whole week there to get out of the house. What are your recommendations for low key amusements and food? (difficulty level: vegan) [more inside]
It's my birthday and good things are coming, eventually
I’m turning 30 next week! But I’m in a weird transitional phase of life where I’ve just made a bunch of changes that will improve my life in the long term, but currently have me feeling weird and a bit sad. I’d like to do something for myself to mark the occasion and maybe cheer myself up a little, too. Do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
Can you make macOS Finder show image titles & captions in gallery view?
For reasons, I'd like to make it possible for someone to view a collection of photos in ordinary folders on macOS. The ideal solution would be if the gallery view in macOS Finder would show titles and captions. But I haven't found a way to make it do that. Is there? [more inside]
What to do with extraneous wiring in bathroom fixtures?
I am swapping out old bathroom vanity lights that have an attached 3-prong grounded electrical outlet, but the new fixtures do not have the outlet. I have questions about what to do with extraneous wiring. [more inside]
posted by terrapin at 12:22 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by terrapin at 12:22 PM PST - 4 comments
Keep the mouse out of the house!
A mouse has been visiting our apartment this summer. In my experience, the only way to really deal with mice in an apartment is to seal up the cracks and keep them out — but an exterminator has done this twice already and the mouse has chewed through the steel wool and plaster within a week! How can I keep these little shits (pun intended) out? [more inside]
Best Antique and Vintage Shops Between Mendocino and Eureka
Next week (8/15-8/19) I will be traveling along the northern California coast, and I am looking for two things, between Mendocino and Eureka:
1. The best antique shop, specifically for someone who is in the process of remodeling their Victorian home.
2. The best vintage shop, specifically for someone (11yo girl) who is obsessed with "old timey" clothes.
Yelp reviews are all over the place, so I would appreciate personal suggestions. Thanks!
What does REALLY wanting kids feel like?
I often hear the advice that people should only have children because they really, truly want them, not because our society says it's a necessary milestone in life. This seems very sensible to me, but got me wondering - what does really, truly wanting kids feel like? Is it one of those "if you have to ask, it's not for you" situations, or is there room for ambivalence? Particularly looking for perspectives from folks who are (or would be) the child-bearing partner in a family.
What was this Brian Eno t-shirt in 2009?
On this day in 2009, I attended a concert and had a brief encounter with a Brian Eno-related t-shirt. Now I'm trying to find that shirt. What could it have been? [more inside]
posted by knile at 11:00 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by knile at 11:00 AM PST - 5 comments
List of Los Angeles animal rescues?
A couple weeks ago I found a web page with a long list of shelters/rescues in the Los Angeles area--but the key thing was the number of pets at each shelter was listed. Please help me find it again! It wasn't fancy, but I think had check boxes to choose which shelters to search. Mainly I want to see which locations have the most animals to go look for a new dog.
Finding good movies on Netflix and Amazon Prime etc.
This is such an obvious question, but I couldn't find any answers.
How Do I Get a List of all the Movies on Netflix and Amazon Prime with an IMDB Rating of 7+?
With the heavy competition for streaming subscribers, you would think they would make it easy to find the good stuff!
posted by storybored at 8:59 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by storybored at 8:59 AM PST - 14 comments
10 More Boston Location-Based Riddles!!
I'm still in a competitive scavenger hunt that takes me across Boston, to be the first to find a small token. They are placed in the last few days and just released. It's fun, but I'm in a competition where we are supposed to "use all of our resources". Askmi is a resource, right? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 8:46 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by bbqturtle at 8:46 AM PST - 16 comments
Please give my TV watching some structure.
I like challenges like the Seattle Public Library's summer book bingo, or re-reading all the Discworld books in a logical order. What's something I could do along those lines, but for TV? Not necessarily "Watch every episode of (this particular series)" but something more complex? [more inside]
Relational database of the DSMs?
I would like to see a Venn diagram of symptoms and diagnoses in the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders. Has anyone created something like that? [more inside]
posted by ponibrown at 8:13 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by ponibrown at 8:13 AM PST - 3 comments
Tell me about your version of "steak and eggs"
It seems like whenever I order a steak at a restaurant and take leftovers home, someone says "steak and eggs tomorrow morning!" Which sounds great, but I've never found a preparation of leftover steak + eggs that is really satisfying. Do you have a great version that works well with leftover steak? Tell me about it!
I don't understand DALL-E ... can someone explain?
I feel like this might be such a dumb question that I'm going to get mocked, but please bear with me. I just tried this "DALL-E" image thing ... is it searching the universe for pictures that fit my description, or is it literally making them up from scratch? I asked for a picture of a bowl of oranges against a blue backdrop -- are these somebody's real oranges, or is this completely new and made up only after I asked for it?
posted by mccxxiii at 7:08 AM PST - 15 comments
posted by mccxxiii at 7:08 AM PST - 15 comments
I’m glad that you’re sorry now
I’m looking for songs sung from the perspective of someone who got dumped for someone else, and now the person who dumped them got dumped or hurt by the person they left them for. [more inside]
Thor (plot) point
I have a question about potentially triggering material in the most recent Thor movie, Love and Thunder. Inevitable spoiler alert so there's [more inside]
posted by Chairboy at 5:43 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by Chairboy at 5:43 AM PST - 11 comments
How do I become better at UX/web design?
I've worked with some top talent at design agencies that produced amazing web apps and website design. As in some projects I've been on have been nominated at Cannes and other big industry events. I've always been on the development side and was spoiled as I would always take these great designs and make them actually work. I often have projects I want to do on my own but I'm paralyzed by not being able to design anything myself. How do I get better at it? What tools do I use? [more inside]
August 12
$200k for retirement - but already 65
I’m helping a relative figure out how to best invest around $200,000 which is going to be their retirement fund. The thing is, they are already 65 - not retired yet but not far off. Is it as simple as putting as much cash as possible into the 401k? [more inside]
What’s wrong with my bladder?
I had a UTI two months ago that got better after treatment, but now I have the same symptoms and tested negative (including culture). WTF do I do now? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Anxious episode months ago has left me jittery and shaky
About two months ago, I had a reasonably severe anxious episode. This has now mostly passed, so why do I still feel shaky and jittery, and find myself with a tremor (unless I work to suppress it)? [more inside]
Google Assistant not working on lockscreen
I want to be able to pause and restart music and podcast playback on my phone using Google Assistant vocal commands. I've got it working, but it stops working when my phone is locked / screen goes dark. How can I fix this? [more inside]
Reviving and using vintage china
I have a quantity of good quality vintage bone china (Wedgewood, Shelley, Spode etc). It's all from the 1950s-70s. It's never been used and has no cracks or crazing. What's the best way to ease it into use without it shattering? [more inside]
posted by tavegyl at 9:55 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by tavegyl at 9:55 PM PST - 10 comments
Can you identify this film?
I have only seen the cover of this film [more inside]
A Maybe Bollywood Dance Scene (as seen on MeFi) search
So a few years ago (pre-COVID I'm pretty sure) I am absolutely sure that I saw a Bollywood-esque music video on the blue. It featured a prominent and famous (Indian, I'm pretty sure again) actress and actor, and they were amazing in their dancing. And now I can't find it. Help! [more inside]
Do I need allergy testing?
I think I had an allergic reaction to the paint my contractor left here during a kitchen renovation. Is this a latex allergy? [more inside]
How to Move Out
What person or combination of people do I need to be speaking to to help me make a robust, long-term plan to live on my own? [more inside]
Installing Slatwall Panels in Garage
My garage walls have plywood sheathing between the studs and the drywall. I'm planning to install some slatwall panels. With the sheathing there, how worried to I need to be about making sure I'm screwing into studs? I'll try to hit them, but even with stud finders, I'm super bad and finding them consistently.
posted by willnot at 5:41 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by willnot at 5:41 PM PST - 6 comments
Spotify queue
How does the Spotify Queue function work? [more inside]
Bucket list ideas, for when you're idea-challenged?
I'm getting old, and I feel like I should spend less time working and more time on a "bucket list". Problem: I have trouble coming up with a bucket list. [more inside]
What are the pros and cons of being tattooed?
What is on the plus side and what is on the negative side?
posted by nfub at 5:02 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by nfub at 5:02 PM PST - 27 comments
Brand New Lenovo Carbon X1 Running Hot Hot Hot
I just received my new Lenovo Carbon X1 and while it seems like a great laptop it runs unbelievably hot. I mean, hot enough that it is uncomfortable to have in my lap, which reduces its usefulness by rather a lot. Online chatter suggests this is perhaps the new normal for thin performance laptops--can that be right? As I google for solutions I get mostly recommendations to blow the dust out of my machine, but again it is brand new. Is there anything in settings I can do to cool it down? Or, is there some kind of cooling pad I can use? I hate to just send it back, it is my work computer and it took my employer about six months to get it ordered.
DSLR Camera Lens losing focus slowly
I'm using a manual lens with my DSLR camera. The problem is that the lens slowly changes focus when I'm photographing something with the lens facing down. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by dhruva at 3:26 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by dhruva at 3:26 PM PST - 6 comments
How concerned should I be about possible damage to tire sidewall?
Hi everybody. Being especially inept at parallel parking – especially when doing so on a steep hill – I scraped my front passenger-side tire, which now has scuffmarks on it. (Link to images attached.) [more inside]
Is it common to be charged rent when house-sitting?
As the title asks - I am about to house-sit for a friend’s parents for a month and they are charging me (well below market rate for a house, but still non-trivial) rent. I’ve previously house-sat for others for free, with the understanding that looking after the house, taking mail, feeding pets etc was “payment” in exchange. Is this unusual? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 2:06 PM PST - 24 comments
posted by btfreek at 2:06 PM PST - 24 comments
Do you have a term for this midwestern dinner party behavior?
Scene: a group of friends are over for dinner and you've ordered pizza. There is one slice left. It sits there uneaten for at least 15 minutes, probably more like thirty. Finally someone reaches out and...cuts that slice in half and eats the half-slice. Now there is half a slice of pizza left, and it sits there for a bit longer until someone cuts THAT piece in half. And it goes on from there, because it would be impossibly rude to take the last piece of anything, but it is also impossible to waste food, and so you must be maximally ridiculous in your attempts to solve both of those problems at once. [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 1:24 PM PST - 40 comments
posted by goodbyewaffles at 1:24 PM PST - 40 comments
Thank You Very Mvnch
I want to learn more about Edward Munch. I want to learn more than the Wikipedia page and less than a 300-paoe biography. I'm especially interested in anything about his (literal) vision and have already found some scholarly articles on it. I also appreciate books/articles/documentaries/podcasts that include peculiar stories about him (accidentally shooting off his finger) or find new ways to consider his work. I've already read a lot on The Scream, but the rest is fair game.
posted by mermaidcafe at 12:51 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 12:51 PM PST - 6 comments
How to Become a Coastal Grandma for Dummies
I've been helping an aging relative to get better control of his health and life in general (which feels like a Sisyphean task) and this is really making me think hard about how I want to age and what I should be doing/not doing to get there. What are some habits/routines I need to adopt so I can remain relatively healthy (physically and mentally) and happy? [more inside]
posted by Sparkling Natural Mineral Water at 11:57 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by Sparkling Natural Mineral Water at 11:57 AM PST - 23 comments
Royal Scotsman train advice
My partner and I are planning to head to Scotland for our honeymoon at some point and we love the idea of riding the Royal Scotsman. I'm curious if anyone has anything to share or advise on this, be it which tour to take, timing, or setting expectations. To be clear at the outset we know it is expensive! [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 11:47 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 11:47 AM PST - 5 comments
Does This Place Exist?
I want the cliche Hallmark movie town but do these towns actually exist? [more inside]
How to determine room rent
Friend's young niece recently inherited a small house from grandma. Niece will share house with her partner. How much rent should she charge partner? [more inside]
Using Annual Leave After Giving Notice - Federal edition
I will be giving my notice at the federal agency I work at. I have enough annual leave to take a week's worth of vacation. I want to take this time during my two week notice period. I've heard rumors that I might not be able to do this. Please help me figure out how to do this!
Cataracts and the elderly
You are not my relative's doctor nor her ophthalmologist, this will not constitute medical advice. But I could use your help thinking this through. [more inside]
How to cope with scar tissue discomfort?
TW: pretty depressing question [more inside]
Can I Eat This? Colonoscopy Prep Edition
Would a simple peanut sauce on plain pasta be ok in the run-up to my colonoscopy? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 7:03 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Thorzdad at 7:03 AM PST - 7 comments
Responding to roommate listings in NYC
I recently moved to NYC and am looking for permanent housing. I've sent several inquiries in response to roommate wanted ads but have not gotten a single response. I know the NYC housing market is absolutely f'ed right now, but since I'm not even getting initial responses, I'm wondering if the problem lies in my inquiry. [more inside]
Microwaved an enamel tin mug for 30 seconds - am I going to die?
Curly Hair at Summer Camp in Asheville, NC -- help!
My 9 year old daughter is leaving for summer camp for a week in a couple of days. I have not given enough thought to her hair. Help! [more inside]
Book recs on trauma for someone who has never experienced trauma?
A friend asked - are there any good books out there that explain what trauma is, and its sometimes long-reaching affects, geared toward people who have not experienced trauma? I thought of “Trauma and Recovery “ by Judith Herman. Any other thoughts?
August 11
Seeking a witch-hunt quote
I'm unable to find and source a quote which I think dates to the Clinton era and was about someone in politics (perhaps President Clinton). It's something very much like, "It is possible to condemn the witch hunt without vouching for the integrity of the witch." Is this familiar to you?
Help planning 2/3 days in London
Please help if you can, I am so overwhelmed. I am mentally and physically exhausted (stress, chronic migraine etc.) and am taking my 7 year old son to London for about 2.5 days to see my wonderful best friend before we head up to Lincolnshire. Is there a family club or health club that offers day or week passes where we can relax for part of the day? Other ideas of nice things to do? Anywhere in central London is probably okay. [more inside]
HomeKit water leak sensors
We've owned a house for about a decade, and in that time we have had several water-leaks, which have ranged from "no big deal" to "what a catastrophe".
Are technical solutions the right way to go? [more inside]
Help me apply nail polish to my soap dispensers.
I have a few of these Umbra soap dispensers and the finish on the pump is peeling off the tops. I'm hoping to colour match a nail polish so I can do an easy fix. (I thought about model kit paint but nail polish just seems simpler and is easier to buy in individual bottles.) [more inside]
posted by paperback version at 5:42 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by paperback version at 5:42 PM PST - 9 comments
Best way to build a website for my own writing?
What's the best platform + hosting solution for posting short-form work (essays, poems, songs)? I've used Wordpress for corporate stuff before but thought there may be a better solution for my own personal things. [more inside]
posted by miltthetank at 5:16 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by miltthetank at 5:16 PM PST - 12 comments
Colombia vacation February 2023
We're thinking about going to Colombia next February. Probably Bogotá and some other, smaller city, and another beach.
What do you recommend in terms of: interesting cities, chill beaches and safety? [more inside]
What toilet (or toilet + bidet) should I buy?
We're redoing our home's three bathrooms. I'm totally overwhelmed by toilet choices! What specific make and model of toilets should we buy? Should we go for the fanciest of toilets with bidets built in? Should we go for a medium-range toilet with a separate bidet washlet? There are too many variables and I would love to hear personal experiences with specific toilet models. I'm open to expensive models but also don't want to do something stupid. Resources for basic toilet-selection education also very welcome. Criteria inside. [more inside]
It's getting hot in here... as I remineralize my teeth
NovaMin toothpaste: does it make your teeth feel warm, too?! Interested in personal sensory experiences, scientific speculation (or authority!), and any other advice you've got for addressing thinning enamel. [more inside]
Genuine eyeglass frames on Amazon? < 50% what retailers charge? Legit?
Uggggh this is probably a counterfeit, but I want it to be real. Now is your chance to talk me out of buying these suspiciously inexpensive eyeglass frames on Amazon. [more inside]
Your old cloth masks
What are you doing with your cloths masks right now? Are you still hanging onto them? [more inside]
I can't get my windows to open easily
How should I lubricate double-hung windows? [more inside]
Where to start to try to save a patch of wetland
There's an area of wetland--about 125 acres--that's set to be paved over for warehouses near where I live in the western part of Washington State. [more inside]
Non-Mystical Explanation for Past Life Memory?
I meditate frequently, and sometimes with friends. A few weeks ago two of us had a startling experience that a woo person might call a "shared past life regression."
What are some explanations for this that don't rely on religious ideas?
posted by lloquat at 11:30 AM PST - 28 comments
posted by lloquat at 11:30 AM PST - 28 comments
Selling a car in 2022
I am considering selling my car soon; but it's been a LOOONG time since I've sold a car, and this car has more value than any I've sold in the past (about $15k). What do I need to know? I'm in Milwaukee, Wisconsin, if that helps and I am a woman. [more inside]
how do i deal with not having a best friend, or even close friends?
recently graduated from college, moved to a new city, and in a generally lonely and friend-lacking period of my life. while I do have some friends from college, and I am making new friends, I don’t have a best friend, or even close friends, and that feels very painful for me. how do I cope with this feeling and fulfill the need? [more inside]
posted by cruel summer at 10:19 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by cruel summer at 10:19 AM PST - 25 comments
Event Planning Website
I'm organizing a simple reunion (not wedding) type event for about 50-100 people. What is the best FREE event planning website nowadays? Mostly I'm looking for a central place to share information and receive responses or inquiries, not much more than that. It would be nice if it had an easy to remember/personalized website address/or domain, but I know that usually requires a fee which I'm trying to avoid.
Mundane flashbacks for mundane trauma
What exactly is this memory-based experience? [more inside]
Beet brownies that dont taste like beets or sadness
I need the best, most chocolatey, least beety recipe for beet brownies! [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 7:28 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by silverstatue at 7:28 AM PST - 11 comments
How often is topical cocaine used in medical settings in the US?
I was having a debate with a friend who is a surgeon who swears that topical cocaine use as a local anesthetic is incredibly rare and simply not used anymore. I was under the impression it was used for some ENT procedures and some dental procedures. I would normally concede to someone who is a surgeon but he has a tendency to stick to his point even if he is wrong. Do emergency rooms carry it? Is it something that's used, even if not that often? Or is really just something that is simply not used anymore?
me & my stupid little life
There is a popular image of a frog riding a snail, captioned "me" and "my stupid little life". Where does the image come from? [more inside]
posted by wesleyac at 7:02 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by wesleyac at 7:02 AM PST - 3 comments
Slack data export for slackers
From September, Slack will only show messages from the last 90 days, not up to 10K messages per board anymore, for the free plan. I'm an admin of several Slacks that I'd like to archive for myself before that. How can I do this most conveniently and cheaply? [more inside]
Mac OS 12.5 scrolling bug in photos
Any idea on how to fix this display bug in the Photos app on Mac OS 12.5?
After opening the Photos application and scrolling through the library, the machine freezes for a few seconds and then starts flicking with a magenta/pinkish color, while no longer scrolling.
The computer itself is new, one of the models released in the last year and the OS is up to date. The library around 32K images.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 5:55 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 5:55 AM PST - 4 comments
I'd like to know where to find copies of old math exams from 100+ years
I'd like to know where to find copies of old math exams from 100+ years ago. [more inside]
Buying Many of Only One Thing
I’ve recently tossed all of my random Pyrex and Tupperware containers and switched to 10 of the same plastic Rubbermaid containers. It’s such a game changer. I’m thinking what are other things where you routinely have multiple types of but you should just get identical versions?
Covid in Japan: where to get Paxlovid, and food delivery?
How can my elderly relative get Paxlovid in Osaka, Japan? Is there a way I can order food delivery for them? [more inside]
posted by aielen at 4:30 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by aielen at 4:30 AM PST - 4 comments
Historical Heists: True Crime, minus the Truly Horrible People
Videos like this one about the recurring thefts of the Ghent Altarpiece seem to scratch the same itch that true crime stories do but without the negative side effects. Seeing as I just ruined my ability to sleep for the next 48 hours by binging some especially violent true crime stuff on YouTube, please share your favorite videos about historical heists so I can redirect my brain towards less traumatizing mysteries than the ones I learned about today!
August 10
European town for October vacation
My partner and I want to spend a few weeks in October relaxing in one or more small towns or villages in Europe, with a few special requirements. [more inside]
Have R Will Travel
Where to find part time / gig work with basic R skills? [more inside]
My endoscopy today failed — became agitated. How do I fix this?
Everything worked out with the "ride" and ASL interpreter for the endoscopy today (yay!). However, they had to stop the endoscopy halfway through because according to the doctor's notes, I became agitated and repeatedly pulled out the endoscope, so they had to stop. How do I fix this situation? [more inside]
Seattle evenings by myself this week
I’m in Seattle for work and have evenings free and then all afternoon Saturday until my flight late Sunday morning. I’m by myself, no car, staying downtown. Best use of my time? [more inside]
posted by skewed at 3:28 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by skewed at 3:28 PM PST - 16 comments
Tucson in Monsoon Season
Inspired by this question, I'm going to Tucson to try to experience monsoon season, plus good food and nature. Looking for tips on finding rain (is that a thing?) and other Tucson recommendations. [more inside]
Help me identify this bedroom odor and what to do about it?
I'm renting a room in a residential home, and there's an odor I can't figure out. Is it maybe toxic? [more inside]
Kobo for library ebooks?
I’m considering getting a Kobo mostly for use with library ebooks. I have questions! [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 2:33 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 2:33 PM PST - 20 comments
A question of weight and feelings
My family has generally been on the heavier side, and my mom has a... not good relationship with regards to her body and dieting and I have complicated feelings about all of the above. I was thin as a teen, but as I have aged, I have slowly gained weight despite exercising, eating fairly healthy, etc. Today, at 31, I got my first lecture from my doctor about needing to lose a little bit of weight for my health. I really don't want to do what my mom did and diet indefinitely (and harshly) with no real results and increasingly bad body image. How can I healthily approach this? [more inside]
posted by bridgebury at 1:28 PM PST - 32 comments
posted by bridgebury at 1:28 PM PST - 32 comments
How to tie a weight plate rope handle?
I have a 25 lb. weight plate and some paracord. I want to make a simple rope handle through the hole in the plate, for doing various kettlebell-type exercises. Possible? Which knot would one use? [more inside]
posted by circular at 12:33 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by circular at 12:33 PM PST - 6 comments
Cross Cut Mitre Saw
I just bought a power cross cut mitre saw. What should I use it for? I have never owned any type of electric saw but have wanted one for ages. I eagerly and happily use my drill set. Heavy hand tools are mostly impossible for me to use because of decades-old arm and wrist problems (repetitive strain injuries). [more inside]
Does your cat do this?
I just watched from across the room as the cat that I'm catsitting jumped up on the table, walked over to the cup I had been drinking from, and stuck his fluffy paw deep into the water. Then he licked his paw and did it again. I've seen cats tap their own water bowls (and try to put their heads in glasses), but hadn't witnessed this before. [more inside]
is there a way to get fallen leaves/flowers off of wood mulch?
I installed a lovely, drought-ready, attractive landscaping that involves a lot of wood mulch over most of its surface. Is there a way of getting even SOME of the oleander drop off of it? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 11:54 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by fingersandtoes at 11:54 AM PST - 13 comments
Low-Calorie Lunches
I need to do a better job of watching my daily calorie intake, and lunch seems to be the meal where things can spin slightly out of control for me. I'm looking for recipes or ideas that are verifiably under 300 calories. Bonus points for recipes that are NOT salads and can be made in bulk over the weekend and portioned out into containers for the week days. [more inside]
What is the best low-cost, prepaid debit card?
The search provided older results for a rapidly changing industry. I am looking for a free/low monthly fee, ATM access, easily reloadable prepaid debit card. [more inside]
posted by maxg94 at 10:12 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by maxg94 at 10:12 AM PST - 10 comments
Work Surface Design Feasibiliy
I would like to build a simple work surface for a small space to use for an arts and crafts station. The area would be 20"x48". The top would be hardboard on OSB, top apron a box made of 4 butt-jointed/pocket screwed 1x4s with pieces spanning the width to support the top, 3 1x4 stretchers at the bottom (Open at front for feet) and legs would be 3/4x3/4 1/16" thick aluminum angles bolted to the apron box and stringers.It would not be subject to a particularly heavy load, but I'm wondering how stable/sturdy/not prone to wracking this would be, if it would be too top heavy/tippy considering how narrow it is. [more inside]
Keeping web page perfectly in sync
Is there a way to have the exact same web page open on multiple devices, and if I move to the next page on one device my other devices also go to the new page automatically? [more inside]
My best friend stalked his roommate not sure if I should be his friend?
My best guy friend who is in his late thirties has been stalking his twenty-something year old female roommate who he was friends with. I am not sure if I should continue being friends with him as his mental health is very bad right now. [more inside]
Epinette des Vosges
How to approach potential land sale?
Our neighbors our selling some land by owner. They only list a phone number as a contact (God help me). What do I ask? [more inside]
Tips for writers with ADHD
Writers with ADHD: what are some tips and tricks that you employ to write finished pieces, once in a while? [more inside]
Simplest possible “traffic light” circuit?
Would like to make an led lamp with one each of red, orange and green. Pressing one of three buttons would switch to that light and turn off the other two. I could do this easily enough in code with an arduino, but it feels it should be simple enough to do with just a raw circuit. How please? [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 7:12 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by Iteki at 7:12 AM PST - 20 comments
Long-term yoga practice = failed epidural?
An anesthesiologist who had trouble placing an epidural (and ultimately failed) asked me if I had been practicing yoga a long time. Why would that present a challenge? [more inside]
Please explain "printed rugs"
I am shopping for a rug online and half of them now seem to be "printed rugs" like this. I don't understand. It seems to be more like a floor cloth. What does it feel like? Won't it look dirty right away? Can you, despite the instructions, use a carpet cleaner on it? Why are the reviews all so positive (not just this one but all over the internet) when it seems to be a shoddy facsimile of a real rug? Maybe in real life it feels like a very thin, worn vintage rug?
Tips for growing indoor potted plants from seed in most satisfying way
I know it's really finicky to grow plants from seed, but for reasons I am going to. I'd love to know if there are any varieties that may be better/quicker for a beginner seed-grower. I would also love any general tips for growing from seed (in a tiny NYC apt.) [more inside]
Four days in Copenhagen with toddlers
We'll (3 adults, 3.5 year old, 1.5 year old) be in Copenhagen later this month for a short trip. What are fun, manageable things to do with young kids? [more inside]
posted by stripesandplaid at 4:58 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by stripesandplaid at 4:58 AM PST - 5 comments
August 9
1970's climate fiction book with a solidified sea on the cover
I saw a book cover in a southern UK bookshop in 1979 that had what looked like a very polluted sea that had set or solidified - the surface was rolling or undulating and there was possibly debris scattered around. At least one person was walking toward the viewer.
The cover may have been in the style of Bruce Sterling's Heavy Weatherr [cover image on my ingur].
I've looked on here, and widely on the web, found nothing, does anyone here recall such a book?
posted by unearthed at 11:51 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by unearthed at 11:51 PM PST - 4 comments
Collage adjacent activities?
I am looking for a new hobby/pastime and have been partial in the past to activities that feel similar to creating collages, but seem to have exhausted the options that I could think of. [more inside]
18th and 19th century emigration restricted due to knowledge and skills?
I am trying to hunt down the truth of a vague memory I have that, as part of keeping a competitive edge, European countries in the 18th and 19th centuries would not allow people with particular expertises to emigrate. For example, a person who had designed a particularly efficient mill would not be permitted to emigrate and presumably share the secret with a new country. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
How does Tom Clancy rate an Executive Producer credit on Jack Ryan?
On Amazon’s Jack Ryan series, Tom Clancy is listed as an executive producer. The “based on characters created by” credit, okay, sure, but how does he qualify as an executive producer, having been dead for coming up on 10 years now?
Do I butt in on this work incident? (academia, dysfunctional)
I am a technical staff member in a research lab office. Another newer staff member did something that made a newest staff member uncomfortable. I think the victim is getting screwed and it all is being handled in a very upsetting way, but I heard this secondhand and can’t decide whether to butt in and try to sway the outcome although I think I have to do it in soon if so. [more inside]
What’s that font II: NYRB Classics
What font does the NYRB Classics use for the titles and author names on their covers?
Indie jewelry shop recommendations, please
I'm looking to commemorate a life event with a special ring for myself and overwhelmed by the options (and cruft) on Etsy. Can you point me to US-accessible shops there or elsewhere online? [more inside]
Can you identify this backpack
Can you identify the brand of backpack from this poor quality screen grab?
The photos are at CloudUp at https://cloudup.com/caNn2yuIjpw [more inside]
Please help me figure out how to eat breakfast everyday
I hate breakfast and didn't grow up with it, but it's ruining my life that I don't have a regular breakfast eating habit. Help me out with helping form one? [more inside]
posted by yueliang at 4:34 PM PST - 65 comments
posted by yueliang at 4:34 PM PST - 65 comments
Affadavit for collection of personal property pursuant to small estate..
An aunt who resided in South Carolina passed away in Hong Kong with assets remaining in South Carolina. We need to complete a Form 420ES (?) but it needs to be notarized.
Any recommendations to find a notary in SC that can do this remotely? I am in Canada, other relatives are in HK. [more inside]
posted by porpoise at 3:52 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by porpoise at 3:52 PM PST - 4 comments
Where should we park our money?
My husband and I have had an online savings account with DiscoverBank for many years, but now have to change to a different bank. I've been looking at Bankrate and the like, and have simply gotten confused. Can you help navigate us to an online bank which will meet our needs and pay a (relatively) great rate of interest on either a savings account or a money market account? (For comparison purposes, DiscoverBank is currently paying 1.5%.) [more inside]
Film with emotionally resilient male character?
Just saw an extremely engaging film about a 16 yr. old girl living through trying times in 1980's Ethiopia ("Fig Tree" by an Ethiopian-Israeli writer/director) and, though I'm not young or female, felt I got a lot of insight and inspiration from the depiction of the main character.
Would appreciate any recommendations for similar films, perhaps with a male main character.
does leaving a hinged door open create additional pressure on the hinge?
This is a low stakes question about... hinges, I guess, and/or doors. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:34 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:34 PM PST - 12 comments
Please find me the dress/romper/jumpsuit thing
I think I'm a good internet searcher, but I've googled and google lensed, etc and followed every link in this reddit thread, but OMG, I just want to own 17 versions of this dress/romper/jumpsuit with pockets. [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 1:27 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by atomicstone at 1:27 PM PST - 11 comments
IUD or IUDon't?
Thinking about getting an IUD and I have some friends who have had them for years who said their periods stopped at some point and haven’t come back. They are pretty happy with that and honestly I would be too except for the fact that it doesn’t seem “natural” for me for a woman not to have her period. [more inside]
How do I de-Trump my phone?
So apparently a few years ago, someone named Lynn accidentally used my phone number to sign up for / donate money to the Trump campaign (this is just guesswork; I don't know anyone named Lynn and don't have a receipt). So for the last 2 years or so I've been getting spammed with text messages from various pro-Trump organizations asking for money. How do I make them stop? [more inside]
posted by Mchelly at 1:09 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Mchelly at 1:09 PM PST - 8 comments
Always Planning Trips
I have a friend who is always planning trips. Some are doable, but frankly with family and other commitments, it's just too much. How would you address this? [more inside]
Any Open Mic Nights for Poetry In Los Angeles????
Feeling brave enough to put some of work out into the world?
Any good spots???
How do I RDP into an Azure VM?
I have Owner access to an Azure subscription. None of the developers who were previously part of the project are there and there is no one that knows how to get into the VMs. I've been told that the VMs are domain joined (I believe RBAC is the correct term now?), but when I try to RDP with my credentials it won't take. I have full access to the Azure web portal, what's my next step to get access to these machines? [more inside]
Best condolence gift for the loss of a beloved pet?
One of our good friends had to say an unexpected goodbye to her pup yesterday; we'd like to do something nice for her. Deets inside. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 10:57 AM PST - 14 comments
posted by Kitteh at 10:57 AM PST - 14 comments
Using personal PC as my work computer & privacy issues
My work computer is out of commission. In the meantime I have to use my personal laptop to access a remote desktop via VPN. I work with sensitive information that needs extra privacy restrictions, so I am basically useless outside the VPN as nothing sensitive is accessible otherwise. Can you please explain like I'm 5 how the use of my PC as my remote desktop machine impacts end user privacy? [more inside]
Something is Lurking on My Desktop.
Windows 10.
There is an open app that shows itself very briefly on my screen during shutdown. Nothing out of the ordinary shows on Task Manager. Nothing showed up on a Microsoft Defender scan. Tried MalwareBytes. Both were to no effect.
How can I unmask this intruder?
Pest damage or rot to an older maple - what's going on?
A mature maple in our yard is showing signs of either pest damage or decay (photos: 1, 2). Can any ID what is going on here? [more inside]
How can I feel less negatively towards my upcoming job interview?
I suppose, before I applied for this position I really didn't realize how bad my self-esteem was with regards to jobs and interviewing. How can I develop a better attitude in the next 48 hours? [more inside]
Live like a local in Ottawa
Will likely relocate to Ottawa at the end of the year. Give me the low down. What are fun year round activities for a family of two adults two kids 3&7. Food, outdoor, indoor, and schools. How would you spend a low key weekend when you’re not a tourist? [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 10:00 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by St. Peepsburg at 10:00 AM PST - 5 comments
Retrieving photos from my phone with a broken screen?
Is there a way to get my files/photos off my Pixel 3 phone with a recently-broken screen and a very iffy USB-C port? The screen responds to touch to answer calls, and the phone is functional (will vibrate and receive calls), but has no display at all. Luckily I do have my photos auto-uploading to Google Photos already but only in storage saver quality - is there a way to pull the original quality versions off my phone through Google Photos, or some other way? [more inside]
posted by randomnity at 9:17 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by randomnity at 9:17 AM PST - 6 comments
30 relaxing hours in Chicago
In October, we are flying into Midway, arriving about 3pm on a Sunday, and flying out of O'Hare at 10pm the next day. We will be finishing up a potentially hectic and stressful three weeks in the states before our long flight back to the UK so would like to have a fun and relaxing time to wind down. [more inside]
posted by cilantro at 9:01 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by cilantro at 9:01 AM PST - 6 comments
remedy for stretch marks on chest?
My friend (39F) gained some weight, then lost some weight, and is pretty bummed out about some stretch marks on her breasts. Does anyone have direct experience with a product that works to lessen these, or can anyone speak to the efficacy of the laser treatments that are offered or anything else? Thanks in advance!
Tesla battery pack capacity confusion
I'm confused about the Tesla battery pack specifications. My understanding is that when you add cells in series their overall capacity stays the same - it's only when you add them in parallel that you add the capacities. But the spec seems to be as if the modules that make up the pack are both in series and in parallel! Maths below the fold. [more inside]
posted by dowcrag at 8:16 AM PST - 3 comments
posted by dowcrag at 8:16 AM PST - 3 comments
French classes
My university is offering intensive languages courses and I have finally decided to take the plunge to learn French properly. What level should I sign up for? I am in the UK so the levels here are based on the CEFR scale - A1, A2 (Beginner) B1, B2 (Intermediate) C1, C2 (Advanced). I can read contemporary French novels comfortably and understand about 50-90% of films/tv shows but my speaking skills are limited (I can't think in French) and my writing skills are nonexistent. Does it make sense to sign up for an A1 beginners class? [more inside]
posted by bigyellowtaxi at 7:27 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by bigyellowtaxi at 7:27 AM PST - 13 comments
What makes a great employer?
What are some employer practices and policies that you've experienced or know about that are most appreciated and/or sought after by employees? [more inside]
How do I save all these photos and music?
How do I retrieve documents from a dead Mac desktop? I have an external back up of the hard drive, but no clue what to do with that. [more inside]
posted by archimago at 5:30 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by archimago at 5:30 AM PST - 2 comments
Help me stay off my phone during work
I’ve been noticing that after I leave video calls at work, I almost immediately reach for my phone - mostly to get a hit of dopamine. How do I stop doing this? [more inside]
Amend Firebird 'unique ID' by date programmatically rather than manually
I have a Firebird DB that I sometimes need to amend dates/times on.
Basically it's a timeclock system that I've asked about twice before (1) and (2).
The system works brilliantly, with the caveat that if someone forgets to clock out, it can be a real pain to insert a row to tell the system they've clocked out. The unique IDs must be sequential and incrementing in order for the system not to throw a wobbly* [more inside]
UK-EU dual national. Worth getting the EU passport or is ID card enough?
I'm British by birth, but have recently been granted Portuguese nationality. After spending many painful hours in the embassy, I now have a Portuguese identity card. Should I bother getting a passport as well? [more inside]
posted by osmond_nash at 1:32 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by osmond_nash at 1:32 AM PST - 10 comments
August 8
Burn all the things or just some of the things?
I was sitting at my desk at work when I felt this bug bite me on the arm. I'm tentatively IDing it as a body louse, absolutely please please please correct me if I'm wrong. I just spent an hour in the office bathroom checking myself and my clothes and didn't find any of the other signs of lice.
What bit me?? Is it even remotely possible that a single solitary louse somehow just ended up on my arm and didn't bring an army of its friends??? What do I do now???? HALP!!! [more inside]
How do I seriously answer "tell me about yourself?
I'm having an enormously difficult time figuring out how to answer this question for an upcoming interview, in light of my previous job. I just feel like a loser. I don't know where to begin. What am I supposed to say? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 8:55 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by VirginiaPlain at 8:55 PM PST - 20 comments
What's Fun in Edmonton
So I grew up in Edmonton,, and I have friends/family still there. I go about twice a year for about a week. I don't drive (very very excited about the new LRT). I am going next week for about 15 days. I am dreading it. [more inside]
How much is too much when it comes to attaining your life's goals?
So I'm having one of those days in which I start questioning some of the things I've been doing for my own personal goals. Recently, I've been having all sorts about some stuff, and I wonder if at times there will ever be a point in which I think I've done enough with my personal goals. [more inside]
posted by Tarsonis10 at 7:32 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by Tarsonis10 at 7:32 PM PST - 20 comments
Best fine dining / experience dining in Vegas?
What are the best restaurants in Vegas?
Will definitely be eating dinner, but would appreciate special notice of any that serve breakfast / brunch / lunch as well. [more inside]
Any old school one-armed bandits in Las Vegas?
VegasFilter: Is there a retro-casino which has working, mechanical slot machines? Their contemporary video/LED incarnations are bewildering and off-putting.
posted by Rash at 1:27 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by Rash at 1:27 PM PST - 6 comments
I've found the perfect costume - but is this Russian site a scam?
So I finally found the perfect Robin Hood costume - but how will I be able to buy it? A Pinterest user shared the picture, and Google Images shows it hasn't ever appeared anywhere else on the internet except for Pinterest -- and on one other site. This scammy-looking Russian site that's named "Cheap Outlet Deals." Can I trust them with my credit card? Is there any other alternative? [more inside]
posted by destinyland at 12:23 PM PST - 12 comments
posted by destinyland at 12:23 PM PST - 12 comments
Alternate security for switching out of Windows S Mode?
I'm considering opting out of Windows "S Mode", and I'm wondering if I need to install an additional antivirus or other type of security once I'm out, or if the built-in Windows Defender is sufficient on its own. [more inside]
Skin care 101
I'm in my mid forties and I barely use anything on my skin except moisturiser. I feel I need to up my game, particularly as pigmentation is starting to be a thing. No idea where to start, though, and I'm overwhelmed by options. Can you help get me started? What one or two things should I prioritise? [more inside]
Is a hard rain gonna fall?
I am trying to decide whether to drive in certain conditions and would like to know what this rain amount means to visibility. [more inside]
posted by ojocaliente at 11:06 AM PST - 16 comments
posted by ojocaliente at 11:06 AM PST - 16 comments
What does dipp'st mean in John Keats' poem?
In John Keats poem Hadst thou liv’d in days of old there is a line that goes: Thou dipp’st them in the taintless wave. Does anyone know what dipp'st means in this context as I cannot seem to find the meaning on Google.
Sectional to fit into a cut off room corner
We have a square room that has two corners cut off to be 45° rather than 90°. I'd like to find a sectional that has a corner that could fit into that spot so we can take full advantage of the space. [more inside]
Solo mini birthday celebration
A relative is celebrating a milestone birthday (older than 30) in Northern California today. They are a bit sad that they celebrated said event over the weekend with another relative and now there is zero birthday action on the actual day. I am in Sweden, not California. What can I have delivered today that is fun for a solo birthday person? They like movies, crochet, old versions of the SIMs, hate cleaning, hate cooking but like eating. Enjoy iPhone games. I am lost. Any ideas?
posted by Bella Donna at 9:33 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by Bella Donna at 9:33 AM PST - 8 comments
Having an existential crisis and I'm about to make it everyone's problem
I *love* writing to Metafilter in the throes of an existential crisis. This time, it is mostly about being broke and sad. [more inside]
Delicious Library alternatives for media
In the distant past I was a happy user of Delicious Library but it seems the developer has moved Library into maintenance mode and I'd like to find something not tied to macOS if possible. I need something to catalog my extensive collection, snowflakes inside... [more inside]
How to search many podcast episodes across many podcasts.
I want to find podcast episodes of any podcast with a certain topic or a certain guest, how could I quickly search a bunch of podcasts at once even if I have never heard of those podcasts before? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 8:16 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Tehhund at 8:16 AM PST - 7 comments
Addled? Dimbulb? Misguided? A few sandwiches short of a picnic?
I want to write some essays in which I treat of people who support grossly unfit political candidates, are anti-vax, climate crisis deniers etc., because, though they may otherwise be reasonably intelligent and capable people, they lack the capacity for abstract rational thought it takes to develop a genuine grasp of issues that don't (yet) directly affect them. This will require a well-stocked non-ableist vocabulary. I turn to you, MeFites, for apt ways to describe such people. Be they civil or insulting, formal or colloquial, all expressions are welcome as long as they are non-ableist.
What makes a backyard pool physically nice for adults?
I live in the tropics and am putting a small (10x20 foot) sunken pool in the backyard. I’m choosing features for people 50 and over. I’ve got lights below the water line and shallow steps with a rail. What should the basic depth be and do I need a deep end? What else?
NAME. THAT. VACCINE!
I'm trying to figure out what the hell kind of vaccine (TB test? allergy test?) would be administered by scratching a needle on a Canadian kid's back in the late sixties. [more inside]
posted by maudlin at 7:05 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by maudlin at 7:05 AM PST - 10 comments
Exactly this dinner, but not EXACTLY this dinner
I made a meal last week that hit all my requirements: nutritious, easy, tasty, quick, easy, very easy, didn't take any time, easy, and also didn't take any effort. I want to put more versions of this into rotation. What's exactly the same but tastes a bit different? [more inside]
posted by babelfish at 6:47 AM PST - 27 comments
posted by babelfish at 6:47 AM PST - 27 comments
Do I want an art book, an art tutor, an art class, or an art education?
Can you recommend an art learning process that might help? What I think I want is someone to review my (small) body of work, grade me against a rubric of mastery of different skills and techniques, help me decide what my goals are, assign specific exercises, and give me feedback. Does that exist? If not, is there a way I can provide it for myself? [more inside]
PSLF How To website
I'm looking for a website I previously stumbled across via someone's comments on ... Twitter? that was a great guide to the Public Service Loan Forgiveness program and the expanded options available for a short time now. I may not be googling the right thing, but I'm having trouble finding a great guide. The site was a great mix of the basics and comments like "here is where the people who called our help line often seem to have run into trouble." Any ideas appreciated!
Academic site exploring reversal of age-related cognitive impairment
A few years ago (maybe as many as 8?) there was quite a bit of internet chat about a particular academic research group or lab testing supplement and exercise protocols to reverse age-related cognitive impairment. I would really like to find this again and also to see what the researchers are up to. I have, of course, lost the link. Can you help me find it? [more inside]
posted by t0astie at 12:09 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by t0astie at 12:09 AM PST - 9 comments
August 7
Have any ideas for an extra electrical outlet?
I have an electrical outlet that I can't use for normal purposes. Any ideas on gadgets I can plug in directly that will be useful in some way? [more inside]
Treasury Dept wants public comments on Crypto regulation - what to say?
The Treasury Dept has requested public comments on crypto regulation with tomorrow August 8th as the final date for any input. As someone who is strongly anti-crypto due to its rampant environmental impact, funding of black market & illegal drug trade, and unfettered proliferation of scams, I'm discouraged to see all the pro-crypto messages posted. I feel like I'm back in high school with an assignment due, and not enough time to do it right. What are some good rational anti-crypto arguments to post by tomorrow??
posted by hampanda at 9:32 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by hampanda at 9:32 PM PST - 5 comments
Youtube video of Cisco Engineer riding stock options up then down dotcom
My Google-fu is weak. There was a great video I remember seeing on the Youtube years ago about an engineer, (pretty sure working for Cisco,) who rode his stock options from not really even paying attention to generational wealth back to zero. I cannot find it. I thought it was a really good example of how hard it can be to do the rational thing when it comes to finance. Anyone know what I am talking about? I have searched and searched by I cannot find it.
Photo editing etiquette
I recently had a Big Event and hired a professional photographer to take pictures. The photo-shoot was great and fun, but the photographer has only offered to edit/touch up a very small number of photos (10-15). Is this typical? If not, how can I ask for her to edit more? [more inside]
posted by sleepingwithcats at 6:51 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by sleepingwithcats at 6:51 PM PST - 6 comments
In Denver this week, What to do during the day?
Short-Notice-Travel-Filter: I'm going to Denver tomorrow morning, will be there until Thursday afternoon. Staying in a hotel downtown, looking for recommendation on things to do during the day, thanks friendz! [more inside]
How do make my hair look good?
I'm a mid-30s man and I am trying to make my hair look good, mostly for dating photos, but also for the dates themselves. I know nothing about this, I didn't care about my hair at all until recently. I have gone to four barbers charging a range of prices (cheap. medium, and expensive), and they all want me to pick a hair style. I just want someone to pick styles which would look good on me. Ideally they would give me a few options and I could pick. [more inside]
how to organize my inspiration/ideas digitally
i want a way to collect and search through all the artworks and other sources of inspiration i find but i can't seem to find anything that matches all my wants. preferably i'd like to find a website that already has everything i want because i'm lazy. although i wouldn't mind throwing something together myself and it would probably be better in the long term if i held all the files as opposed to relying on some other website. [more inside]
posted by pfeffernusse at 5:13 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by pfeffernusse at 5:13 PM PST - 5 comments
Help on how to recover from CPTSD
After years of trying to figure why I would at times have such a hard time functioning, my therapist has diagnosed me with CPTSD. I'm glad to have a diagnosis but I'm not sure where to start on my healing journey. [more inside]
What is this rack of things from the film Trading Places (1983)?
I saw this stand/rack in the film Trading Places, noted the colors, and wondered what was on it. Any ideas?
posted by circular at 4:02 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by circular at 4:02 PM PST - 8 comments
Remote jobs that don’t require a degree?
I’m trying to help my sister find a full- or part-time remote job that doesn’t require a degree, has health insurance benefits, and isn’t too stressful. So many listings online seem scammy. Where can we find legit remote job listings for people without degrees these days? Links to specific jobs also welcome. [more inside]
Recommendations for disability attorney in Seattle
Hi all, I have a friend who very much needs to get approved for disability and doesn't know the first place to start, as well as having issues that are getting in the way of them even being able to complete the paperwork. I'm looking for recommendations for an attorney in Seattle who can assist with this process for someone with low income. Also, as a bonus, any additional ideas/resources for someone attempting to do this process that have been helpful. Thank you!
Help me help my daughter who's just graduated with a BS in Biology.
The title is pretty much the question. My daughter is 26 (this month), just graduated with a BS in Biology. What now?
Looking for suggestions on what fields might want the degree and also things like making a decent resume with not much to put on it and generally anything that might help someone just getting started in adult life. [more inside]
How Do I Delete The Blank Page at the end of Word Document?
So like a fool, I used a template I wasn't intimately familiar with, and now I've got a blank empty page at the end of the document. I have tried all the "solutions" suggested by MS support including changing the font size of the first para in the blank page to one (?!), reducing the bottom margin to 0.3, and using ctl-g. None work. Halp! I can't believe I've already spent 15 minutes on this. OMG hilarious.
posted by storybored at 8:45 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by storybored at 8:45 AM PST - 13 comments
Stretching wifi to cabin office
Our family just moved into a great new house and one of the advantages is that it has a little out building about 65 feet from the main house that my partner and I are planning to use as our office for remote work. But so far, we can't get our wireless to reach at a strength that makes work possible. We suspect that the only answer is to run additional cable but wanted to query you all first. [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 8:28 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by jeszac at 8:28 AM PST - 18 comments
Best inspirational movies that has a happy ending
I just watched the movie “Thirteen lives” .It’s about the boys soccer team from Thailand who were rescued from the flooded cave after 18 days. [more inside]
Can I eat this crockpot roast edition
I think I know the answer but really don’t want to throw this away. Cooked a pot roast carrots and onions until about 7pm. Waiting for it to cool but forgot about it. Found it at 7am.
Give me your best advice.
Sisters, Weddings, DRAMA
Currently in a sister drama with wedding dates clashing, older sister asks younger to move the date which was refused and younger sister asking me to be the maid of honour, potentially further upsetting other sister who is highly unstable.
Trying to work out how to move forward, and who is in the wrong here. [more inside]
The gift of compounding interest — for babies
My niece is turning one, hurrah. As such, I want to get her a gift(s) or investment that I can keep contributing to — or something that will hold its value over time. I am 0% interested in purchasing an extravagant toy or something that will be discarded in two months — that's what her grandmas are for!
Does anyone know of a saving vehicle I can use in her name/my name for the long term, either in the UK or NZ? Gold stash? Pokemon cards? I'm a bit stumped by this. [more inside]
Best cell phone plan with limited use?
I've found myself not using my cell phone very much, but when I do it is critical such as job related. I might not use my phone for a month or so (but use iMessage), then suddenly I might have a flurry of calls. Same with data, if I am out to dinner or getting an Uber I'd need it, but beyond that I rarely have the need for hotspots. Would be nice to pay $10 or whatever it is if I end up being stuck somewhere and need a hotspot for a day. What plan is best for me? [more inside]
August 6
What to do in Evanston and the surrounding area next week?
My partner and I are staying in a house in Evanston for a week this summer. We'll have access to a car, a couple of so-so bikes, and a good natured dog. We already have plans to ride up to the Botanic Gardens with a possible stop at the Bahai Temple and dinner at Blind Faith. Any other suggestions would be appreciated. Beaches, parks, trails, pools, restaurants, shops and what have you. Dog friendly would be a bonus. North or northwest is better than south since we don't get up this way very often.
Beds for a bad back
I've had chronic back pain for years. Recently we stayed in a rental and the bed was firm, but not hard. It was very comfortable. My chronic back pain went away. Where can I find a bed that is good for my back? [more inside]
How to Table & Swag at a Music Festival
How do you figure out how much swag to lay out each day? [more inside]
posted by feistycakes at 7:32 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by feistycakes at 7:32 PM PST - 2 comments
AC unit arrived oily?
Ordered this AC unit refurbished and on unboxing revealed itself to be...greasy. Gross, but also weird. I've cleaned it but don't know how serious this is. [more inside]
Solar panel installation correction roof damage
Should I ask for a discount on my solar panels after solar company had to correct work due to failed inspection? [more inside]
Walking or Hiking boots that look like dress boots?
Looking for boots I can walk around in all day and then wear to the opera/fancy events. [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 5:29 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by kittensofthenight at 5:29 PM PST - 16 comments
one-time-use credit card number
I want to sign up for an online service, but I don't want to give them my regular credit card number. For one thing, random web site; for another, they want to automatically charge $159 one year from now, and won't let me turn that off without canceling access to the entire service for the rest of the year. Is this Visa gift card service, linked from this visa.com page, a legitimate and safe answer to this conundrum? [more inside]
Help Us Help Our Foster Kid Adult
Our foster child is going to become a legal adult in January and the monthly stipend we currently receive for fostering him will be going directly to him. How can we help start preparing him for that financial transition and teach him to wisely manage that "windfall" he will be receiving monthly? [more inside]
posted by ms_rasclark at 2:16 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by ms_rasclark at 2:16 PM PST - 21 comments
Does the perfect treat for My Girl exist, or is it Just My Imagination?
Is there a chicken-free treat that my cat will like as much as Temptations? [more inside]
Hope me! Sick spouse and relationship edition
TLDR: My spouse has mast cell activation syndrome (MCAS), a chronic illness that's leaving them physically, mentally, and emotionally volatile. We have a toddler. I basically do all the things to take care of everyone and everything. I feel miserable and trapped, and I don't know where things go from here. Hope me!
(more below the fold) [more inside]
posted by J. Wilson at 12:01 PM PST - 51 comments
posted by J. Wilson at 12:01 PM PST - 51 comments
I rear-ended another vehicle, what exactly do *I* have to do now?
As the question states. This is the first time I've hit a vehicle. I was at fault and no one was injured. What do I have to do on my end of the situation? [more inside]
Recovering from compromised Outlook.com email?
My father uses outlook.com (formerly hotmail) for email. Sometime on Thursday, his account was compromised. I don't use Hotmail and I'm not really familiar with how these intrusions tend to run, so seeking some help on how to advise him to recover. [more inside]
Can I turn an old iPhone 5c into a portable travel hotspot?
Explain like I'm 5 here. I have an old, unused iPhone 5c laying around. I'm going to be traveling to Europe soon and also driving cross-country in the US in the near future. Is there any way I can get rig up my old iPhone with a prepaid SIM or sign-up for a monthly plan to turn the old iPhone into a portable hotspot that I can use with my newer iPhone? [more inside]
Why can't I have a washer/dryer...or can I?
I live in a condo building that was originally built to be rentals. That means there are no in-suite washers or dryers allowed. I've heard this is something to do with the plumbing in-units not being suitable for washing machines. What might this mean? And might it not be true anymore? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 8:54 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 8:54 AM PST - 23 comments
Can you help me solve these 10 Boston Location Riddles?
I'm in a competitive scavenger hunt that takes me across boston, to be the first to find a small token. They are placed in the last few days and just released. It's fun, but I'm in a competition where we are supposed to "use all of our resources". Askmi is a resource, right? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 8:44 AM PST - 27 comments
posted by bbqturtle at 8:44 AM PST - 27 comments
Preping non-CYMK risograph prints without Adobe
I'm working on a zine which I intend to get printed on a risograph. I'm not planning on using CYMK colors, and I don't use Adobe products (mostly I've been using Scribus and GIMP thus far).
Does anyone have any suggestions for how to do color separation and previewing? [more inside]
Help me find a knock-off of Jane Russell's earrings
I was recently rewatching "Gentlemen Prefer Blondes" and found myself transfixed AGAIN by Jane Russell's spectacular earrings (apologies that this is the best clip for this). I have spent some time looking for something similar on line (they don't have to be identical, or fancy vintage, or whatever). I'm not made of money, but I love for statement earrings, and I like supporting small designers. Thanks in advance
posted by thivaia at 7:18 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by thivaia at 7:18 AM PST - 11 comments
Name that tune!
I'm wondering what the piano piece played at the four minute mark of DeGaulle (https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y-8x7_mUSVk) (The video is hardly inappropriate despite the warning. It's just an bio pic of the General in the early days of the second war.)
posted by BWA at 7:13 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by BWA at 7:13 AM PST - 2 comments
Best book on AOL?
I'm interested in reading a history about the rise and fall of AOL (America Online). I know Fools Rush In is considered a classic, and I also see Kara Swisher's book with strong reviews...but wasn't sure if both were more focused on only the "fall" rather than the "rise" and covering more of the Time Warner merger debacle. Any insight from people who have read either, or other books to recommend?
Tracking flights and airports to anticipate delays
Where can I track flights in general (in this case from east coast USA to Europe) and from specific airports (Newark: EWR) and specific airlines (United) in the days leading up to travel, in order to get a sense for how things are going, and anticipate delays?
August 5
Where do I find my pregnancy/parenting community?
I'm pregnant! Hooray! Now... where, in these new COVID-y times, can I meet other like-minded people in the same situation? [more inside]
Why do they say your personality changes when you speak other languages?
Like is that true? I speak Spanish, French and English and while I can say that each language has its own distinctive characteristics, I'm not sure that I feel all that different.
I can say though, that each of those languages has particular traits that I associate with them and I guess those traits are part of my personality. However, I've never felt that I couldn't have those traits if I didn't know these languages.
Anyone have any explanations? Would like to hear what people think.
What, if anything, does this cake stand furniture piece say?
I bought one of these three-tier folding copper and wood cake stands at a flea market in Louisiana. Mine is the same piece as in the first two (the eBay listing one has a more ornate wood top but otherwise also looks the same). It looks like it has Arabic script on it to me, though I don't speak/read any languages that use Arabic script so I could be mistaken and maybe it is just a decorative design..? What, if anything, does it say? [more inside]
Recommendations on setting up a small rack for my home network
I am looking at how to organize my networking hardware, NAS, Raspberry Pis, etc. in the closet where they will be located and I’m considering a 6U-9U rack of some sort. This isn’t something I’ve done before so I’d like to get some input before I start buying stuff. [more inside]
Did we do something wrong to make family friends stop speakng to us?
Family friends wanted to keep in touch after mom died, but then stopped speaking to us. Snowflakes inside.... [more inside]
What’s the best thing to do with worn-out jeans?
Every pair of jeans I own eventually rips in the chub-rub/crotch zone. I am a plus-sized woman; at this point I’m resigned to this fate. No method of repair has ever worked. So what do I do with this pile of o’ blue jeans that I can’t wear, can’t mend, can’t donate? [more inside]
Planning a trip to Tempe when you don't like Arizona
I'd like to go see a NHL game in a minor hockey league stadium. Which means going to Tempe, AZ to see an Arizona Coyotes game. What else is there to do there (or the surrounding area)? [more inside]
IAH outdoor hangouts?
I have a several hour layover in Houston (IAH) and would like to go outside and take off my mask. I don't mind going through security again. I'm aware it can be really hot, I don't mind the heat as long as I'm in full shade. Where should I go within reasonable walking distance from the terminals? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 2:21 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by wnissen at 2:21 PM PST - 6 comments
Help! My iPhone keeps hijacking my Bluetooth headphones.
I have a pair of Jabra earbuds that I have paired with both my iPhone and my MacBook Pro. If I'm using them with the MacBook, and the iPhone makes any kind of noise, it "helpfully" cuts off the MacBook audio and switches to the phone. This is frustrating when I'm on a videoconference on the Mac. Can you help me make this stop? [more inside]
Impromptu late August Maine or ?? vacay?
I've just been scheduled for a work trip to Boston (MIT) August 23-24. I've got some vacation time for the month and want to tack on a few days of travel afterward. It occurs to me that I've never been to Maine and this is a good opportunity for some relaxation and light tourism. Advice? Questions and other details below the fold! [more inside]
posted by Preserver at 12:22 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by Preserver at 12:22 PM PST - 15 comments
Seemingly innocuous choices that end up causing expensive home repairs?
Please share lessons you have learned personally or anecdotally regarding homeownership - specifically, I'm seeking examples of innocuous-seeming choices that cause expensive consequences. Forgetting to let the pipes trickle when there's a hard freeze is a pretty well known example. I'm wondering what else exists like this so maybe I can avoid these expensive mistakes that don't appear like they could cause a problem. Personal example after the jump. [more inside]
Getting a seniors’ phone made (maybe in Canada)?
Basically, our family needs a senior’s phone with certain specs. We want one for us but also recognize a potential opportunity (or think we do). What’s the best way to get this made? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 12:05 PM PST - 19 comments
posted by cotton dress sock at 12:05 PM PST - 19 comments
What's the new term for "killer app"?
People don't use the term anymore, what do they use instead?
New house, big anxiety
I just bought a house, and for a variety of reasons, I'm starting to feel like I can't handle moving in right away. Can/should I keep my apartment and rent out the new place for a while until I'm ready? [more inside]
And they couldn't even talk about it
I'm interested in experiences (historical, fictional, your own) where someone was in crisis but couldn't talk about it. I don't mean things like abuse, diagnosis, or non-disclosure agreements. More along the lines of, say, people who were in witness protection and couldn't talk about their "real" lives. People who were passing as white and hearing a lot of racist comments.
posted by mermaidcafe at 10:50 AM PST - 19 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 10:50 AM PST - 19 comments
New phone: Care about camera and storage space. Google or Samsung?
I have a Samsung S20+ 5G. I broke it. What new phone should I get? It looks like the two contenders are the Samsung S22+ or the Google Pixel 6. The things I care more about are having a fantastic camera and having lots of space on board for pics and movies. I do my basic photo editing (and viewing/cataloguing/backing up) in Google Photos if that matters. Also, I care a little about smooth transition between phones. [more inside]
Fix for bad port: two half-working sims with the numbers
How to reconcile an incomplete port that has two different carriers' sims servicing the same phone number? [more inside]
What does the time attached to a full moon date signify?
Astronomers of Metafilter: I'm looking at a calendar of full moons for 2022, and each of them has a time attached to it. What does that time mean? [more inside]
Mallsoft remix tutorial for GarageBand
I have a song I want to remix so it sounds like it's coming from another room. I've heard this genre is called "mallsoft", but when I search "how to make a mallsoft remix in GarageBand" I get a lot of hits for how to make an original mallsoft song in GarageBand or how to use GarageBand in general. How should I make a mallsoft remix in GarageBand?
Between an old rock and a hard place
I quit my previous job a year ago due to burnout/lower pay/dead end and switched to a very different area of my field. I don't know if this is a good fit, so I interviewed for my old position. Not sure what choice to make here. [more inside]
Do Covid Exposure Notifications Cross State Lines?
If I have my state's version of the Covid notification app that's based on Apple and Google's Covid tracking technology, would I get notified if I was exposed to someone from another state? [more inside]
posted by firechicago at 6:18 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by firechicago at 6:18 AM PST - 5 comments
Looking for some more fine grained information on bladder training
I have a tight pelvis (CPPS) as far as I can tell. I'm working on that, but part of the treatment that has been recommended has been retraining my bladder. I've found protocols online, but have questions for those who are more knowledgeable! Also some general bladder questions [more inside]
Giving money to panhandler
I like to give a few bucks here and there to a panhandler I see every day. Should I stop? Should I give him more money? [more inside]
Looking for an 1980s "how to win at video game" book with gory pictures
In the '80s I checked out a book from the public library about video games. The only thing I remember about it is that the illustrations were really violent. (Content warning) [more inside]
August 4
Searching for a body scrub that uses clay
I used to buy Bath and Body Works Seatox clay body polish, but it's been discontinued for years now and is well past a reasonable price. I haven't been able to find anything else that makes my skin as smooth and soft. [more inside]
posted by Eyelash at 8:13 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by Eyelash at 8:13 PM PST - 15 comments
What happened to political lesbianism?
Political lesbianism, as a movement pretty clearly failed and died out around the same time second-wave feminism did, in general. Are there any good retrospectives from people who were involved in political lesbianism (and potentially also lesbian separatism) in 70s and 80s? [more inside]
posted by wesleyac at 7:59 PM PST - 3 comments
posted by wesleyac at 7:59 PM PST - 3 comments
Sources to support campaign for disability-friendly city?
I am talking with my mayor's office about making my city more friendly to disabled people. As part of that, I have sent this article. I have been encouraged to send additional relevant articles. Other than whatever is on the first page of Google hits, do you have suggestions for (1) sources, or (2) actions the city government might take?
posted by NotLost at 6:44 PM PST - 16 comments
posted by NotLost at 6:44 PM PST - 16 comments
Tips for Cutting Out Toxic Parent
I have a toxic, dry alcoholic mother. Since I have recognized my childhood for what it truly was and been working on my codependent nature in therapy, my relationship with my mother has been very tough for me. Therefore, the past few years I have maintained limited contact, and with a few exceptions it was going pretty well. Now she has leukemia. [more inside]
Hiring help for random odd jobs
Say someone has a one-off physical task that requires low-to-minimal skill, mostly brawn, like hand-digging a few post holes or carrying this heavy thing up the stairs. Where does one go to hire that kind of assistance in suburban USA? What are best practices for doing it fairly, safely and efficiently? [more inside]
Helping aunt with hearing disability to use the phone (TTY/TDD)
My aunt is very hard of hearing with a type of impairment that doesn’t respond well to hearing aids (she does have them). We are looking into a TTY/TDD device to help her with phone calls. I managed to figure out how she can access Voice Carry Over service via her phone provider (Telus), but it looks like we would have to buy the actual unit for her. She hates learning new technology (e.g. she didn’t like texting) so the simpler the tech the better. If you have experience with TTY/TDD machines, I’d love your advice! I’m looking for product recommendations/things to avoid, tips on teaching her to use the tech, and info on accessing subsidies. She is 82, on a pension, and lives in British Columbia, Canada.
What is the cheapest way to (legally) dispose of a body?
A person in the United States is planning for their death. Their primary stipulation is that as little money be spent on the disposal of their body as possible. Ideally, their survivors will not have to pay anything at all. Presumably, state or local governments have plans for what to do with the remains of, e.g., a homeless person who is found dead and whose body is never claimed or identified. Can anyone take advantage of these programs on request, or will the survivors be stuck forking over thousands of bucks to somebody?
Cylindrical air filter (for dust) to attach to fan?
I want to use a small circular fan to filter dust, where can I search for a cylindrical filter suitable for the fan's dimensions? (details below) [more inside]
What's the term for this trope in media and where can I find examples?
The trope: when a scene is about to move to an imagined sequence, a character's last phrase will repeat and get quieter, often with a glissando / ascending piano sequence played in the background.
I'm trying to find variations and subversions, as well, but I don't know the term for the trope and can't find it quickly on TVTropes. Would love any help!
posted by LSK at 1:44 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by LSK at 1:44 PM PST - 7 comments
In 2022 how do I want to archive data for the long term, offline?
I currently just keep an old fashioned spinning hard drive (two, if I'm counting) in my safe deposit box, but storage has changed a lot in the last decade. What's the current wisdom for long-term (stable) data storage? [more inside]
posted by Ookseer at 1:36 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by Ookseer at 1:36 PM PST - 8 comments
escape me to the south of France
Rec me books that will take me awaaaaaay. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:16 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:16 PM PST - 20 comments
Do wet floors and baseboards always have to come up?
Water got into a basement room. Is it a given that the baseboards and floor have to come up, or can we prevent that by acting fast? [more inside]
Can I eat these olives?
Ordered some Almond Stuffed Super Colossal Olives and they arrived at an unexpected time. They sat in the mailbox for about 2 hours, under a southern sun that was basking in a cloudless sky. The jar feels very warm, but nothing resembling untouchable. The olives appear fine, suspended in their liquid. Are these safe to eat?
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 1:00 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 1:00 PM PST - 13 comments
Looking for an online chess program for a kid that isn’t Chess Kids
I’ve been asked to find an online chess program or app suitable for kids that lets them play against one another. They have tried Chess Kids and aren’t really happy with it. Does anyone have any suggestions?
What to do when Terro doesn't work?
In the past, I've always been able to make quick work of an ant infestation by putting down one trap, maybe two, they swarm it for a few days and then are never to be seen or heard from again. [more inside]
What my autistic teenager didn't do over her summer vacation.
I'm feeling like a terrible parent, because I wasn't able to help my (mildly) autistic 16-year-old daughter find something to do over the summer. She failed to get a job, and I couldn't find any summer programs for her age that didn't cost multiple thousands of dollars. So my question is twofold: is it just harder for high school kids to find jobs than in my (late Gen X) day? And what can we find for her next summer to avoid a repeat?
More inside. [more inside]
posted by missrachael at 11:56 AM PST - 44 comments
posted by missrachael at 11:56 AM PST - 44 comments
Would this be a dealbreaker for you?
First major conflict with boyfriend, and he's displayed what I would say are pretty toxic conflict behaviours and pulled the rug from under my feet just as I was starting to feel really invested. Would appreciate your views on the situation and what you would do. [more inside]
posted by flimflamflop at 11:51 AM PST - 71 comments
posted by flimflamflop at 11:51 AM PST - 71 comments
Can you recommend a good Windows laptop for law school?
Can you recommend a good Windows laptop for law school? [more inside]
Life skills for high schoolers
At our next planning meeting, I'm going to ask my Girl Scouts what life skills they'd like to work on as a troop. I'm going to bring in suggestions to get the discussion going. What should are some ideas? [more inside]
Selling an Expensive Item on eBay
I have a 2017 iMac that Apple will only give me $250 for if I trade it in. eBay listings for that model + its extras are going for ~$1100. This is tempting me, but I've never sold something so expensive on eBay before, and something tells me it's going to be scary. Should I go with the safe path even though it'll give me a pittance in return, or take a gamble to recoup some of the value? I paid ~$3k for the iMac originally and it's still in beautiful condition.
Help me prepare for an upcoming job interview without losing my mind!
I have a job interview (my first one since leaving my previous job) in exactly a week from now! I'm obviously excited and pleased, but I've been having a difficult time sitting down and preparing for it. To be honest, I've spent the last few days actively avoiding preparing for my job interview... then feeling bad about avoiding preparing for my interview. I haven't had a job interview in over a year and I'm a pretty nervous interviewee on a good day. What would be a good "routine"/"schedule" for me to follow during the next 7 days to ensure I'm solidly prepared for this interview? [more inside]
child may be in danger; what is my responsibility here?
I need help navigating a difficult situation involving the welfare of a child whose parents currently have joint custody. I have anonymized several details here for privacy reasons but the story overall should convey my concerns. [more inside]
Seeking particular niche journal: history as impacted by child abuse
Around 20 years ago, I briefly subscribed to a small journal that had as its thesis that all of history can be viewed through the lens of child abuse. Powerful and dangerous leaders were often victims of abuse, and this generational trauma has greatly negatively impacted *all* of world history. All I can recall is that it was a small size, and I suspect came out no more frequently than quarterly. I am trying to find the name of that journal and a source for looking at it again if possible. [more inside]
posted by thebrokedown at 7:33 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by thebrokedown at 7:33 AM PST - 5 comments
What's a group activity I can do abroad that is fun and not exhausting?
I would love to go to an interesting country and do group activities that are physical but not overly athletic. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 7:26 AM PST - 23 comments
posted by deern the headlice at 7:26 AM PST - 23 comments
Mumford aesthetic 90's/00s
This is actually a fashion/costume question more than a music question. A costume designer colleague is looking for suggestions for bands from the 90s / early 00s with a Mumford & Sons / Edward Sharpe vibe -- this is for visual inspiration for a project.
Ideally an indie-folk-rock / celtic group, but the exact sound doesn't matter as much. Could be USA-sian, Canadian, English, Irish (or elsewhere.) Any suggestions welcome.
posted by profreader at 7:04 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by profreader at 7:04 AM PST - 8 comments
Odd poster on supervisor's door
I'd like some insight as to why this sign would be on a state supervisor and an office manager's door to their shared office. [more inside]
The Puzzle of Diuretics?
My doctor has put me on a low-dose diuretic (hydrochlorothiazide) to treat hypertension. According to my doctor, one of the drawbacks is that you will pee more. But google says that you should not drink more liquids than normal. So, how exactly could that work over time? I noticed the first day or two taking it that I did, in fact, pee more, but now I seem to be back to normal. What am I missing?
Story about husband in a coma, maybe 19th-century?
Name the book: A husband falls into a coma, and his wife must take over the business (farm?) to rescue their failing finances. When husband eventually awakens and wife tells him of the "gift" she has made for him of her work to save the family, he is infuriated and humiliated by her actions. Either the wife eventually leaves the husband or vice versa. [more inside]
posted by obloquy at 6:49 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by obloquy at 6:49 AM PST - 5 comments
Person Has Terrible Idea, Follows Through
I realized after seeing Six Days With a Big Lollipop on MeFi, and remembering one of my favorite things ever, My 14-Hour Search for the End of TGI Friday's Endless Appetizers, that whatever-you-call-it (people having a creeping, terrible idea, and undertaking it), is my favorite internet thing. MeFi also mentioned I Drank the Velveeta Martini, and I've seen and enjoyed, I Ate at Every Rainforest Cafe in the Country, but I need MOAR - please help!
posted by tiny frying pan at 6:38 AM PST - 41 comments
posted by tiny frying pan at 6:38 AM PST - 41 comments
Cheaper way to get generic Adderall?
Getting generic Adderall (dextroamphetamine) is incredibly expensive for me. Are any of the healthcare websites/apps that are thinly veiled Dr. Feelgood sites like Cerebral actually sites where you can get prescriptions? My insurance doesn't cover it so I have a telephone call to the doctor ($300), and then the refill ($150). Anything under $450/mo for a generic drug and a call that's just CYA with the doctor would help.
Superventricular Tachycardia - Has anyone ever figured out why?
What do these signals look like?
Why do they appear out of the blue as SVT?
What happens exactly to trigger this re-entry? Where is the signal coming from exactly? The electric system is pretty vast. I need to know where - has anyone ever done any type of mapping as it's happening and can someone please post a link to this mapping? Thanks.
Stories (and/or mysteries) about extremely small towns?
Can you help recommend stories that take place in very small towns—as in, small enough that every resident winds up in the story somehow? Mysteries within spaces that constrained would be ideal, but I'm just looking to read compelling stories that take place within such a small, relatively-isolated kind of place. [more inside]
August 3
Does mindfulness practice increase academic performance, and if so, how?
I've heard it suggested that mindfulness practice increases academic performance, but I'm having trouble finding relevant info, especially non-anecdotal info. Can anyone either provide me with firsthand expert knowledge or point me in the direction of some good research, books, etc. (either confirming or refuting the hypothesis)? A few specifics inside. [more inside]
your friendly neighborhood spider...spider
I moved into this apartment a few weeks ago. It was freshly cleaned before I moved in; due to schedule bullshit, I have barely unpacked yet. Last week, I went on vacation for a handful of days, and when I returned, my apartment belonged to the spiders. Why? [more inside]
How do I reparent my inner child when I have no material resources?
Background to this. I am poor and have no support so I am unable to give my younger self what she needs to feel "loved and nurtured and safe." [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 9:40 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by whitelotus at 9:40 PM PST - 20 comments
Help me find an article about housing first and emergency-room vists
I think I read this article about 6-12 months ago, somewhere online. It was about some institution, maybe a hospital or insurance company. The institution was using supportive housing to help people who had been homeless. But the homeless people it was helping were those who most used the emergency room. Providing the supportive housing still saved money, compared to those people using the emergency room. This was in the USA. Can you help me find this article again?
posted by NotLost at 8:41 PM PST - 11 comments
posted by NotLost at 8:41 PM PST - 11 comments
What's an appropriate, low key gift for a neighbor?
We just moved to a new place, and a neighbor has been very kind to us, in spite of some moving mishaps on our side that caused her problems. We've chatted, apologized, and just today she gave us tomatoes from her garden. I'd like suggestions for a gift to keep up the goodwill, but we don't have a garden, and we don't want to give something that's "escalatory" or something that makes her think "too much". She's a woman, possibly in her sixties that is from another country but immigrated to the US decades ago.
posted by ignignokt at 8:08 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by ignignokt at 8:08 PM PST - 15 comments
new tech for hair styling
I have bad hair: thin, brittle, grows the wrong way. I also have very little patience for hair styling. Among the new tools that have entered the marketplace in recent years, is there something for me? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 7:07 PM PST - 21 comments
posted by fingersandtoes at 7:07 PM PST - 21 comments
Potential energy of a Prince Rupert’s Drop?
I’d like to replace the powder charge in my 7.62 NATO round with a Prince Rupert’s Drop. Forgetting the mechanics for a second, how big does the drop need to be to release the same amount of energy in the explosion?
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 6:48 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 6:48 PM PST - 7 comments
Burly character actor with beard
I'm trying to identify a particular actor. He was more of a supporting role actor. He would have been active in the 80s and 90s, maybe later. He is a burly guy, beard, wavy thick hair. He has kind of an urbane manner. He would be a good fit for a role of a lawyer, professor, rich playboy. Any ideas on who he is or how to find him?
posted by wurly at 6:39 PM PST - 20 comments
posted by wurly at 6:39 PM PST - 20 comments
Get off the internet
End of day exhaustion, short bursts between tasks, while waiting for an appointment or a call... What books can I read when I have little chunks of time or in the times I usually turn to stupid internet scrolling? I'm thinking of like, lightweight humor, short essays, micro-fiction, poetry, joke books?? I guess anything that you can read in short bursts and that is at some level distracting/engaging. Doesn't have to be highbrow - I just want to read more books instead of staring at my goddamn phone. [more inside]
Physical recovery from crying
I’ve been crying for two days. I know how to handle my emotions, but I don’t know how to help my body recover. My eyes feel fogged and tired and I have keratoconus so focus isn’t easy. And the general fatigue and grossness you feel after a tear marathon.
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:09 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:09 PM PST - 10 comments
Is there a Google Voice-like Android app that meets my needs?
I have US and Canadian sim cards and would like to make it easier for friends to contact me while I'm travelling by just having one phone number direct to the appropriate number. I did try Google Voice but it doesn't do everything I'd like, and I can't connect my Canadian number anyway. There's quite a few similar apps out there and I don't know if any one app will suit my needs or if I'll need multiple. Wishlist follows. [more inside]
Action on student loan forgiveness?
Is there any action I can take to support student loan forgiveness this late in the game? [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 3:01 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by greta simone at 3:01 PM PST - 6 comments
How can I wear glasses without resting them on my ears?
I usually wear contact lenses, but sometimes have to wear glasses (i.e. dry eyes, eye pain, eye infection). I also have TMJD (temporomandibular joint dysfunction, AKA TMD, TMJ) which usually manifests as neck and ear pain. Unfortunately my lens prescription is quite strong so my glasses are very heavy and the weight on my ears can trigger my TMJD pain. Are there any accessories or frames out there that would allow me to wear glasses without them resting on my ears? [more inside]
solo female traveler seeks travel tips
forest fire edition [more inside]
How to keep the house clean, fairly: neurodivergent new parent filter
For the past year since the arrival of our baby, we've really struggled to stay on top of very basic house cleaning. We're constantly fighting about it because both of us feel like we're doing our very best and the other parent could be doing more. What strategies have you used successfully to stay on top of cleaning and have a roughly equal division of labour, when you were a new parent? [more inside]
Survey Design - should I stop a census with survey response-level
I'm a little farther away from survey design than I used to be, but I'm seeing a massive swing on a survey delivered on a regular cadence (not just at delivery) and I vaguely remember a reason why and it had to do with the way the initial population is identified. [more inside]
posted by Nanukthedog at 1:01 PM PST - 2 comments
posted by Nanukthedog at 1:01 PM PST - 2 comments
My pup is probably fine, right?
My sweet potato dog may or may not have ingested some of my prescription amphetamine about an hour ago. Gave activated charcoal about 20 minutes ago. No signs of distress. She would find a vet visit for this pretty triggering so I just want to verify that we are probably fine. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 12:04 PM PST - 8 comments
posted by crunchy potato at 12:04 PM PST - 8 comments
What's a good book or resource to learn math from scratch (for adult)?
As a young child I was never taught real math... that is I was never taught how to solve a problem. It was all memorization. [more inside]
Need help/ideas for finding source of fumes
Since the beginning of June fumes have been entering my apartment and making me feel ill. I can't find the source of the fumes and I'm feeling desperate and defeated. I'm looking for ideas on what the source of the fumes could be, and ways to investigate.
Please skip this question if your instinct is to make a joke about the situation. I'm extremely stressed and many of the people I've gone to for help have belittled me, argued with me, and insinuated I'm mentally ill. [more inside]
Does Medi-Cal reimburse if you move from a facility to in-home care?
I am the person from this post, and I have a very specific question: if you are waiting for Medi-Cal approval, and you move the dying parent from a hospice facility to in-home hospice care, will that jeopardize Medi-Cal's willingness to retroactively pay for the hospice facility? [more inside]
Accessible version of Everything Everywhere All At Once
I really want to watch Everything Everywhere All At Once but I can’t watch things with flashing or strobing effects. Is there an edit or a way to watch the film that cuts or modifies the flashing/flickering/strobing? [more inside]
posted by congen at 8:57 AM PST - 8 comments
posted by congen at 8:57 AM PST - 8 comments
MathFilter! Another lemniscate question
I wanted to draw an infinity symbol programmatically and I came up with something very similar to but subtly different from the lemniscate of Bernoulli. You can see the code here: Link. Press the play button to run it. You should see, in red, a lemniscate of Bernoulli and, in green, what my wife and I jokingly call a lemniscate of Park. But what is that curve, really? I explain what the code does below; hopefully someone will recognize the "real" curve. [more inside]
posted by mpark at 8:55 AM PST - 11 comments
posted by mpark at 8:55 AM PST - 11 comments
Where do I go for small-scale plastic molding of a tiny item?
I have something small and plastic that I want duplicated. Where do I go to do it? [more inside]
Shocks? Struts? Loud bumps in my car.
We have a 2011 Toyota Highlander with about 85k miles. In the last ~4 months, I have noticed that potholes and bumps and things produce a noticeably louder "bump" sound, sort of like a hollow "boomp" noise that is new and annoying. Do I need new shocks/struts? Tires are ok. [more inside]
How to get Amazon Echo to show day and date?
I'd like my Echo to show the day and date on the home screen. Currently only shows time and temperature. [more inside]
wait, so I’m supposed to do ALL of this now?
I’m new to adulting and feeling overwhelmed with how to balance all of the responsibilities I have now, and I would appreciate advice on 1) how to create balance and 2) how to forgive myself when I mess up. [more inside]
posted by cruel summer at 6:47 AM PST - 40 comments
posted by cruel summer at 6:47 AM PST - 40 comments
I live in Toronto. I want to see the Northern Lights tonight. Cheap.
I understand there will be a magnetic storm tonight. I (and my elderly relatives and my 5 year old son) wish to see the northern lights. I understand they will be this far south tonight, but light pollution and...thunderstorms...is there anywhere I can drive within say 3 hours of Toronto check into a motel for one night and see the northern lights and drive home tomorrow? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 5:10 AM PST - 5 comments
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 5:10 AM PST - 5 comments
Opening .exe with a batch file
I'm trying to set up a batch file that will open all the apps I use for work at once.
Most of the apps are opening without a problem (chat program, my browser, spotify, etc) however I'm having a problem with Todoist.
Code and error below the fold. [more inside]
August 2
Indoor insect bites problem
We recently moved into a lovely old Chicago-style apartment building that has vines growing up the outside walls. It's really great. Totally happy here. But it's crawling with bugs: spiders, centipedes, small flying things, large flying things, things that jump and scuttle... I wouldn't mind, but my whole body is covered in itchy bites. My 7 year old is now getting bitten a lot too. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by EllaEm at 10:37 PM PST - 13 comments
posted by EllaEm at 10:37 PM PST - 13 comments
How do I view Truth Social without signing up?
I want to see Donald Trump's "Truths" on my laptop without signing up for Truth Social, is there an archive.is type service that proxies his stuff so I can just view it? Bonus point if there's a way to view Twitter feeds without having to signup and being nagged to sign up after just scrolling a little bit.
posted by geoff. at 10:04 PM PST - 6 comments
posted by geoff. at 10:04 PM PST - 6 comments
Goodies to bring from BC to DC
We're visiting Victoria, BC from the Washington, DC area. We'd like to bring back some yummy Canadian food items that are easy to find here and would be hard to find in DC. What should we get?
posted by amarynth at 8:56 PM PST - 33 comments
posted by amarynth at 8:56 PM PST - 33 comments
Surprising ways animals find sodium
I am collecting a list of surprising, unusual, and beautiful ways that animals get sodium. So far, I have:
posted by wesleyac at 7:29 PM PST - 18 comments
- Butterflies drinking the tears of turtles
- Moose licking salt off of roadways
- Elephants building salt mines
- Goats drinking human urine
posted by wesleyac at 7:29 PM PST - 18 comments
T'choupi à Paris
Where can my friend find a T'choupi plush in Paris? [more inside]
posted by donut_princess at 6:51 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by donut_princess at 6:51 PM PST - 4 comments
Cribbage iOS app that handles longer disconnects?
I've been playing cribbage with a friend with Cribbage Pro for a few years and it's mostly fine, but anytime it loses focus (phone call, text, lock screen, cosmic rays) it drops the game. I want a no-ads app (am fine to pay money for this) that can resume games easily. It doesn't need to hold games indefinitely, but for at least, say, a half hour or so. We manual-count so that's no issue. What app(s) should we be looking at?
Traveling to Italy - How to visit both Venice and Sicily in one week?
I have a trip to Italy coming up, and have a week to visit Venice and Sucily. I’d like any advice on how to do that in an enjoyable way. [more inside]
How to quell my anxiety around leaving my cats for eleven days.
I feel ridiculous, but I’m having a tough time relaxing and enjoying the prospect of travelling at the end of the month, because I’m worried, most likely for no reason, about my beloved cats. My anxiety currently revolves around my shy older cat not eating her food while we’re gone, and subsequently falling ill or dying, but I am pretty sure I’m projecting some imagined worst case, and not reality. How can I put my mind at ease and enjoy my impending trip? [more inside]
posted by but no cigar at 5:37 PM PST - 23 comments
posted by but no cigar at 5:37 PM PST - 23 comments
Picky Crime Podcast Suggestions
I have listened to all 169 episodes of True Crime Conversation. I am struggling to find other crime podcasts in the apparently only format I like: one host, talking to one guest, and the whole crime covered in one episode. [more inside]
Fashion resources for your 13 going on 30 year old
My 13 year old wants to learn how to dress fashionably (or, as she expressed it “in a way that makes sense”) and style her hair. What are some resources I can point her towards? [more inside]
posted by Wavelet at 4:46 PM PST - 5 comments
posted by Wavelet at 4:46 PM PST - 5 comments
MathFilter! Re Lemniscate of Bernoulli
The Cartesian equation of the Lemniscate of Bernoulli given at MacTutor differs from the one at Wolfram MathWorld (eq. 3 has a 2 that's not in MacTutor), but both sites give the same polar equation. How can that be?
posted by mpark at 4:30 PM PST - 10 comments
posted by mpark at 4:30 PM PST - 10 comments
film about siblings who find compromising photo of mother
I watched a movie on Netflix in 2016 about siblings who find a compromising photo of their mother when they're cleaning out her house after her death. Please help me find it! [more inside]
Checklist to help older couple in CA with financial decisions?
I am looking for a checklist or guide to help an older couple (relatives of mine) make basic but crucial financial decisions. [more inside]
posted by BespokePuppet at 1:47 PM PST - 9 comments
posted by BespokePuppet at 1:47 PM PST - 9 comments
Could the Other Grandmother please back off?
I'm going to visit my daughter and one year old granddaughter for the first time in a year! Yay! But my daughter's partner's mother has decided to visit at the same time. Boo. Help me navigate this situation and/or persuade her to change her plans. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 1:44 PM PST - 27 comments
posted by mygothlaundry at 1:44 PM PST - 27 comments
Three perfect days in the Dolomites?
We'll only have three full days -- it'll be early October, and we'd ideally end somewhere near a train station on the Italian side (Belluno?) as we need to get to Venice shortly thereafter. Best place to base ourselves? [more inside]
Give Me That Victorian Artisan Look
We were watching Victorian House of Arts And Crafts and my wife said I'd look good dressed like this - but I have no idea what these styles are called. Screenshot here. [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 11:50 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by AzraelBrown at 11:50 AM PST - 18 comments
Things to do on Staten Island near an express bus stop.
My daughter (3.5) is named Simone and is called Sim. It has come to her attention that there are a bunch of buses that say SIM on them, and she would like to go on one. These are Staten Island/Manhattan express buses, so it looks like we are going to Staten Island. Please help us find something to do there very near one of the express bus stops [more inside]
Talking to My New Manager About Burnout
After 2 years of high stress, long hours, perpetual oncall, no backup and no ability to take time off, I was finally helped at work. They gave me a new manager, assigned me onto a team of peers and gave me a huge raise along with a large tranche of RSUs. I finally took a few weeks of vacation, returned and am so burned out. How do I approach my new manager about this? [more inside]
posted by JaneTheGood at 11:33 AM PST - 12 comments
posted by JaneTheGood at 11:33 AM PST - 12 comments
Old-school donuts in the Valley
What are your favorite old-school donuts in the Valley? Specifically in Sherman Oaks / Van Nuys / NoHo? I'm not looking for cereal-crusted monstrosities I have to eat with a fork, just basic glazed donuts, maple bars, and fritters. Thanks!
posted by uncleozzy at 11:24 AM PST - 13 comments
posted by uncleozzy at 11:24 AM PST - 13 comments
Why do ocean waves sound like this from a distance?
I was staying in an apartment a couple of blocks from the ocean recently and noticed that when the city got quiet late at night I could hear the waves. But instead of the rhythmic sound at the beach, it was a steady roar, like white noise. What makes the sound steady farther away?
posted by pinochiette at 11:08 AM PST - 6 comments
posted by pinochiette at 11:08 AM PST - 6 comments
Optimism comes before a fall
How do you maintain the proper balance between 'optimism' and 'getting your hopes too high'? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser at 10:34 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by unicorn chaser at 10:34 AM PST - 9 comments
Can I eat this? SHOULD I?!
Delicious pork chops left in the air fryer overnight, are they still safe to eat? [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 10:33 AM PST - 17 comments
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 10:33 AM PST - 17 comments
[howto] identify this NAND flash chip?
i am trying to ID this NAND Flash chip on an NVMe M.2 SSD. there is no mfg logo. merely searching for the numbers hasn't given me anything useful. what is this chip, but even better, how can i learn how to id these types of things in the future? [more inside]
What men's hot-weather garment am I looking for?
What's the men's version of a housedress or caftan? It could even be a housedress or caftan, but I'm in search of something that'll fit a 6'1" man with a medium-large frame. It should be: good for hot weather, so of thin or breathable fabric; not have too many constrictions like buttons or elastic; go in the washing machine; orderable online; something you just pull over your head and wear all day.
posted by BlahLaLa at 8:57 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by BlahLaLa at 8:57 AM PST - 25 comments
using up or remaking butter toffee peanuts?
We got a big bag of butter toffee peanuts to snack on but they’re ok at best. I would love ideas on how to use the 2 cups we have left. As simple or fanciful as you like!
Can computer virus be spread through a power bank?
I have a power bank that is used for charging electronics, like cellphones and laptops. I use it because my phone is old and the battery drains fast.
One month ago, I lent it to someone whom I did not know well. Right now, I'm too afraid to use it because I think their phone might have a virus and I don't know how power banks and computer viruses work, so maybe the power bank has the virus and will spread it to my phone if I plug it in.
More specifics below ... [more inside]
posted by Didnt_do_enough at 8:37 AM PST - 18 comments
posted by Didnt_do_enough at 8:37 AM PST - 18 comments
Long time snorer, first time CPAP wearer (mask question)
I got a dx of moderate sleep apnea a few years ago and didn't do anything about it. Decided I'd lose some weight. Instead put on some weight. I finally went in for the CPAP intro and machine-conferring ceremony. Last night's sleep, it was not good. I have questions. [more inside]
posted by less-of-course at 7:52 AM PST - 25 comments
posted by less-of-course at 7:52 AM PST - 25 comments
Squishy physics playground for a middle-schooler?
My nephew has dabbled in Scratch and is intrigued by the idea of computers simulating jello-like physics. Is there a website or app that will let him play around with interesting physics properties of simulated objects bumping into each other and doing funny stuff? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 7:28 AM PST - 4 comments
posted by johngoren at 7:28 AM PST - 4 comments
B Visa to the USA
Hi, my cousin would like to spend four months in the USA while his girlfriend is in the USA for study on an F-1. He doesn't want to work there. He's a national of a Visa Waiver Program country. Questions: (1) Can he apply for a regular B visa (which allows 180 days' stay rather than 90 under the VWP)? (2) Is "accompanying my girlfriend and hanging out" a valid purpose for a B visa?
Clear communication vs manipulation and "therapy speak"?
Some of the answers to this question about how to communicate with cis het white men were really difficult to read, and I'd like to understand why.
Yes! This is yet another "help I'm neurodivergent !" question from me :) [more inside]
posted by Zumbador at 3:35 AM PST - 26 comments
posted by Zumbador at 3:35 AM PST - 26 comments
What does 'Nix Pix Shplix Queen' mean?
There is a throwaway joke in The Naked Gun where there's a Variety newspaper headline that reads Nix Pix Shplix Queen. I understand the joke but at the same time I don't. [more inside]
August 1
Should I tuck a women's button down shirt into pants?
This is a low stakes fashion question, but I'm bad at fashion. Help? [more inside]
posted by Paper rabies at 10:30 PM PST - 14 comments
posted by Paper rabies at 10:30 PM PST - 14 comments
middle/inner ear ailment
I’ve had a middle/inner issue problem for most of my life though it's never been much trouble. I never liked swimming as a kid because it would take days for my ears to clear but that’s about it. It started coming to the fore about 10 years ago and really so in the last 3. (no swimming involved) and it's time to address it ... [more inside]
What to do with money from a will
My grandfather left me $60k US. What should I do with this windfall if I'm based in the state of Georgia in the USA? [more inside]
The lipoma is actually a liposarcoma
I had the lipoma from a previous ask removed from my back. Only it didn't turn out to be a lipoma, but a liposarcoma. If you have insight or experience with liposarcoma, I'd appreciate hearing about it. [more inside]
Solve my sliding bed & mattress problem, please
Prefer solutions that 1) cost little or nothing, 2) won't damage the bed or mattress.
I need ideas. It's hot been hot as H-E-double-hockey-sticks for over a week, I'm really not feeling well, my energy level is really low... and the bed and mattress keep moving! I don't have the bandwidth to deal with this, I just want to lay or sit in my bed without me, my disabled dog, my granddaughter, or any of the pillows, blankets, or stuffed animals falling behind it constantly. [more inside]
Gift advice for kids: 4 of 4
I'm looking for gift advice for my friends' 4 kids, posting four separate questions due to different kid interests. Budget around $50/ea but not a hard limit.
Four of four: 10-year-old, crazy about studying bugs, frogs, and similar critters. Has new-this-year lake front water access.
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 7:45 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 7:45 PM PST - 7 comments
Gift advice for kids: 3 of 4
I'm looking for gift advice for my friends' 4 kids, posting four separate questions due to different kid interests. Budget around $50/ea but not a hard limit.
Three of four: 10-year-old, interested in Fortnite and Legos. I can just give another Lego kit but would love to do something less obvious if possible.
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 7:23 PM PST - 7 comments
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 7:23 PM PST - 7 comments
Gift advice for kids: 2 of 4
I'm looking for gift advice for my friends' 4 kids, posting four separate questions. Budget around $50/ea but not a hard limit.
Two of four: 13-year-old, has previously been a voracious reader of the Tui Sutherland "Wings of Fire" series, now also has an interest in WWII history.
How to respond to/report harassing calls?
Wondering what to do about these harassing phone calls from someone spoofing the sheriff's department. Whom to report them to, whether I should be more concerned, etc. Warning: NSFW information. [more inside]
Gary Cooper's Craneshot.
I'm looking for articles, examples, etc. of the Sun as symbol/ allusion or motif in film. (includes 'tv') [more inside]
posted by clavdivs at 6:18 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by clavdivs at 6:18 PM PST - 4 comments
Finding a 1980's software manual (Wang PACE RDBMS/4GL)
In the 1980's the Wang PACE RDBMS/4GL was pretty close to the cutting edge and I made a decent income programming using it. I would now be interested to find some documents/manuals about it. Interested in good ideas of how to do that. [more inside]
What product do I want to "varnish"/finish a dried fennel stalk?
That's the whole question. What product would I need in order to seal a dried fennel stalk? They are woody but not made of wood as far as I can tell, but are rather durable. I want something to preserve it and make it less likely to fall apart when whacked upon...various things. Thank you for your thoughts!
Gift advice for kids: 1 of 4
I hope this is the right way to go about this! I'm looking for gift advice for my friends' 4 kids, posting four separate questions. Budget around $50/ea but not a hard limit.
One of four: 15-year-old, just got a learner's permit, interested in investing. Obviously I can just give cash but $50 doesn't seem like much.
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 4:57 PM PST - 15 comments
posted by HaveYouTriedRebooting at 4:57 PM PST - 15 comments
Have I been fooled by joining this startup?
I'm trying to understand if this rather stressful pseudo co-founder situation I let myself into is fixable, or if I need to move on. [more inside]
posted by longjump at 4:36 PM PST - 17 comments
posted by longjump at 4:36 PM PST - 17 comments
Same website, same operating system, same browser, different content.
I made some changes to a website I manage. Caches have been cleared.
Computers 1 and 2 are MacBook Pros both running the same version of the OS and fully updated chrome. On computer 1, the changes appear correctly. On computer 2, the updates do not appear.
More weirdness within. [more inside]
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 2:30 PM PST - 4 comments
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 2:30 PM PST - 4 comments
UFO story: "Black Box" Does it exist?
One of my library patrons is looking for a book that was included with what he remembers to be UFO Magazine sometime in the 50s. The book was titled Black Box and was about Men in Black. I'm not sure if it even exists. [more inside]
Google, show me jewels that will make my jaw drop
For a project I want to find pictures of particular kinds of jewellery, but I want completely over the top stunning jewellery. Like the kinds of things that come from the crown jewel collection. Gems smaller than a cherry or less shiny than the sun need not apply. How do I find these images? I've adding to my search terms "crown jewels" "priceless" "stunning" and "breathtaking", but I still get mostly very nice jewellery, but get very nice, but not jaw-dropping jewelery. What's my search term here? Here's an example of something I'd like a more extravagant version of.
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 1:26 PM PST - 22 comments
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 1:26 PM PST - 22 comments
What's the best laser printer for travel?
My life would be better if I had a small hassle-free second printer. Which one? [more inside]
Just the text, please.
I need a Notepad replacement. But before you say "Notepad++!" or "Sublime Text," I'm not looking for software with a busier interface or more features. [more inside]
posted by nosila at 11:53 AM PST - 20 comments
posted by nosila at 11:53 AM PST - 20 comments
Where do I recruit a new member for the Finance Committee?
I am the moderator of a relatively small town of 15kish people, and one of my jobs is to appoint members of the Finance Committee. We are currently lacking on the civic engagement front, and this committee is one with a fair amount of scope and responsibility which would be much better handled by someone with town experience. I live in western Massachusetts. Where do I find these people? [more inside]
posted by Alex Haist at 11:10 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by Alex Haist at 11:10 AM PST - 7 comments
Can you help me find this headboard tutorial?
At some point within the last 18 months, I saw a tutorial about how to make a sorta po-mo headboard out of corrugated plastic roofing sheets. The person also repurposed a dresser (I think? could have been a desk...) that went inside the headboard. The end result was very cute, though the creator admitted to making several missteps along the way, and that was part of the tutorial. [more inside]
posted by Charity Garfein at 10:50 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by Charity Garfein at 10:50 AM PST - 2 comments
why doesn't my toilet flush poop?
My toilet pretty much doesn't flush poop anymore, at least on the first flush. If one of us takes a dump, wipes, then flushes, it's maybe a one-in-four chance that everything goes down the drain. We're to the point where we just assume we're going to have to plunge, and if we don't, it's a celebration. Why? [more inside]
Bruce Springsteen & The Hold Steady
I wondered about this in a recent post on Bruce Springsteen performing a Lorde cover but no one answered, so I guess I'll put it here. Has Springsteen ever covered a song by The Hold Steady, and/or has the reverse ever been documented of Hold Steady covering Bruce? He and Craig Finn seem to strongly share a musical lineage and style, so it seemed likely. Thanks in advance!
posted by The Pluto Gangsta at 10:36 AM PST - 7 comments
posted by The Pluto Gangsta at 10:36 AM PST - 7 comments
Do I just sign up for every crochet designer's newsletter?
I am a pretty advanced crocheter, but a medium ravelry user (I buy patterns, like patterns and store patterns in my library but don't participate in any forums, or use any other features). I'm also a low-to-no social media user. How to I catch designer sales/coupon codes? [more inside]
The Ducks go to Washington
We're taking our first trip to DC! We'll be there for 8 nights in late August/early September. We're looking for recommendations from DC natives or frequent DC visitors for cool things to do that fly under the radar (and conversely popular things we should avoid). [more inside]
What is this tiny hardware item called so I can buy one/some?
We have a wire basket that we want to better fasten to the wooden shelf it sits under and we know roughly what the part to do it looks like, but we don't know what it's called. We have other similar wire baskets that came with a similar part but not quite what we want. [more inside]
posted by jacquilynne at 9:42 AM PST - 10 comments
posted by jacquilynne at 9:42 AM PST - 10 comments
Custom AUTOMATIC tv screensaver
We're building an office with a number of conference room TVs, and we'd like the TVs to automatically show a custom photo (or even better, a rotating screensaver) when they go to sleep.
The trick is that we can't expect the people using the rooms to go back into an app (or even choose a particular input) when they're done with the room, so it has to be the TV's automatic screensaver mode. Suggestions for TV models or third-party solutions much appreciated! [more inside]
Playbook for interacting with cis het white men?
I'm a cis queer white woman, and I have loved ones who are cis het white men. I want to understand their communication style(s) better. I'm looking for explanation resources and especially anything with pointers about how I can interact with them in their style (without trying to change it). [more inside]
Illness memoirs/essays with snowflakes
I loved Molly McCully Brown's Places I've Taken My Body and am looking for similar writing. [more inside]
Dog was mysteriously ill. Do you have ideas?
Our dog was taken mysteriously ill yesterday, and other than some fatigue, seems to be okay today. We took her to the vet, details below the fold. Obviously you are not our vet, but I am looking for people who've had similar experiences to understand better what we may be dealing with. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 7:04 AM PST - 9 comments
posted by Medieval Maven at 7:04 AM PST - 9 comments
How to get to Seattle from Bellevue, and what to do when I get there?
This coming Sunday, I will have exactly one full day to myself to spend in Seattle before my conference starts. I am staying at the Hyatt in Bellevue. I know there is a bus (and Uber), but what do I do in the city when I get over there without transportation? I am also considering renting a bike (perhaps an e-bike). I heard there was a bike-friendly corridor over to the city. But, again, what to do when I get there by bike? [more inside]
Fun suggestions for Niagara Falls vacation weekend?
A friend and I might be going up to Niagara Falls to check out the falls, and spending a long weekend there. Any other fun suggestions while we're in the area? We're thinking about swinging by Rochester and/or Toronto while we're there. Open to breweries, wineries, fun museums, or other fun locations (both indoors and outdoors). Definitely will check out the Canadian side of Niagara Falls, but open to other falls-specific suggestions. Thanks!
I really hope it wasn't THAT pocket.
Continuity-filter: There's some story - I thought Mark Twain, but I'm not finding it - where a boy strips naked, swims somewhere, then inexplicably pulls out his pocket knife.
Planning and regulating renewables in the Manchin-Schumer deal
I read that the Manchin-Schumer deal eases planning-related regulations for renewable energy installations. In some areas, solar has become a double-edged sword, with solar installations taking down large forests. I think that fine-tuning the incentives would help, but in the meantime, local planning and zoning regulations are protecting the woods. Does the Manchin-Schumer deal make it harder for localities to do that? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 4:36 AM PST - 2 comments
posted by daisyace at 4:36 AM PST - 2 comments
How do I effectively set health-related overtime boundaries at work?
General background: the last job that I tried to advocate for myself (in that case, being paid for ALL the time I worked as an hourly employee), I ended up targeted and fired. So - I recognize that I do not understand how to navigate the US corporate work system, and I seriously need guidance in how to - in this case - NOT get railroaded into a lot of needless overtime while I am suffering from a whole bunch of terrifying cognitive and neurological symptoms and in the middle of getting this sorted out with a variety of doctors. Details below. [more inside]
What is my skin doing?
I have a small patch of skin near my ankle that is not itchy or painful. It is darker in color and it has a small cluster of eight ... something. It's probably been there a couple weeks. They look like little pimples that are about to pop, but they don't pop. photo photo photo [more inside]
Can a codependent person be selfish?
Someone I don't know very well mentioned recently that I may be codependent. When I read descriptions of codependence like this I relate to many of the characteristics. But I also feel like other accounts of codependence I see involve the person being very self-sacrificing and self-effacing, whereas I'm pretty selfish and can sometimes be shockingly oblivious to people's feelings despite being obsessed with them. I would like to hear about your experiences with feeling selfish in the context of understanding codependency. [more inside]