August 2016 Archives
How do you know you're in love (and willing to spend your life with someone) versus just loving someone? [more inside]
In the early 2000s I read a short erotica story. It was part of an anthology, likely lesbian. The "protagonist" masturbates with a Rolls Royce hood ornament (which is called the Spirit of Ecstasy). What is the name of this story and where can I find it again?
My friend fell about 15 feet while we were bouldering and severely dislocated his elbow. Tendons were, to the surprise of the doctor, not torn; ligaments were pretty bad, broken. They said he had a "terrible trifecta". He currently has his arm in a cast and they're monitoring progress to determine surgery or not. We're likely looking at some 15 weeks he's in some state of immobility for his arm. He is supposed to rotate his shoulder as much as possible and clench his hand. He's an incredibly active and dynamic person and very much wants to recover fully and get back to activity. It's pretty difficult to watch him in the current state , despite the fact that we're so glad that he only injured his elbow. How do we help him have the best recovery possible? 1) Tips for supporting the physical recovery of a dislocated appendage and 2) Does anyone have any tips on how to stay sane during his time out? Everything appreciated. Thanks!
What helped you stop fearing that you're a bad person for putting your needs before others wants, when those people were really suffering? (Context: relatiobships) [more inside]
My friend just had a breakup and wants to know if there is an app to manage Facebook posts to help her wipe the boyfriend material without having to review all of it.
We're upgrading a room in our house, and I'd like to install "tunable white" LED lighting, where you can not only dim it but change it between warm white and bright, sunlight-type white over the course of the day. But we don't want to hook our lights up to the wifi or use our phones to control them! This is more challenging than I'd expected. [more inside]
Within this year got two diagnoses of bipolar and depression while still on my mother's insurance. She recently lost her job. Could it be because of this? Also how will this affect her in looking for another job and insurance? Is there any to hide this or fix it by getting these diagnoses removed?
I'm having my tonsils removed next week and am wondering how long I should wait before giving fellatio will be safe/comfortable again? [more inside]
I want to report discrimination against a potential employee, but how can I do this if I don't know their name? [more inside]
This year I will be co-teaching a class of English Language Learners world history (from roughly 15th century China through the Scientific Revolution, Enlightenment, French Revolution, Imperialism, Industrial Revolution, 20th century etc.) The majority of our class will have some proficiency in English, but we recently learned that a small group will be beginner ELLs with almost no knowledge of English. How can we best help these newcomers learn English and acclimate them to their new home, teach them some world history, and also support the majority of our students with different needs? [more inside]
I want to play Dragon Age: Inquisition and Witcher 3, but my current laptop is not sufficient. What should I buy? I don't need the prettiest graphical experience ever, although, of course, that's nice. It'd be awesome if the laptop were good enough to allow me to play the next Mass Effect, next DA 4, and even the next Elder Scrolls game (maybe this is wistful thinking, given that a release date isn't even out yet...). Should I just go with the Wirecutter's suggested laptop, or is there a better choice for me? [more inside]
We have a one full day stopover in Iceland on our way from Montreal to Spain. We are arriving late on a Monday night and leave again relatively early on a Wednesday morning. [more inside]
I would like to record multiple instances of an event on my iPhone. This event happens several times a day, at more-or-less random times. I would like to be able to do something very simple (like touch an icon on my phone screen) to note that "this happened now" and then to go back over time and see each occasion (with date and time info) when the event happened. [more inside]
"We were told to get out of our seats and sit on the floor." - why? [more inside]
I’m in a tricky situation at work. I secured an administrative assistant to help me in the office, but a coworker of mine is dominating this woman’s time, leaving me to struggle all by myself. How do I fix this without causing animosity in the office? [more inside]
There used to be a website that would encourage you to write a set amount (500 words?) every day. This is meant for stream-of-consicouness, just get it on paper writing. The website would store your writings (but not allow public sharing) and remind you to keep up the habit. Now I can't find it. Is it gone? Any other suggestions for how to get a writing habit going?
Remember the carnival/shitty amusement park ride called The Rotor? For anyone who doesn't, people would stand against the wall of this cylinder that would start spinning. After a little while, the floor would drop and everyone everyone would stick in place to the wall... [more inside]
I have a 10-year old Samsung HDTV (LNT4661F). I run audio out via RCA cables into my 30 year old stereo amp, keeping the TV's volume at zero. Problem is when I hit "mute" on my cable (Verizon Fios) remote control, it doesn't mute (oddly, when I hit the virtual "mute" button on the virtual remote in my FIOS iphone app, the sound DOES mute!) there a way to make the cable remote (one of these mute the volume?
Windows 7 taskbar has a setting on how button combining works - never combine / combine when taskbar is full, always combine. Is it possible, whether natively or with an external program, to make this program-specific? For example, if I wanted to have Outlook windows not-combined, but Firefox sessions combined?
How do artists' unions work? [more inside]
I've been thrown into a project to help find local (SF Bay Area) recruiting agencies that focus on filling marketing positions. I would really appreciate any and all referrals based on successful experience in filling an open marketing position.
I'm moving back to my home country (yay!) but the sheer list of things I have to do is overwhelming. Please help me wrap my head around it. [more inside]
Specifically I'm looking for movies where the main character or characters are normal or normal-ish people who get pulled into a crappy or dangerous situation (often life-threatening). This tends to happen like 20-30 minutes into the movie. Date Night, The Dream Team, Adventures in Babysitting... for some reason all the examples I can think of are old. I'd love some movies that fit this paradigm that were either bigger hits or more recent. Thank you!
My dad wants to move his several-year long collection of photos from his aging/dying Macbook to his pretty new Windows 7 laptop. I haven't used Windows regularly in a long time, and the last time I did I used Picasa for my photo gallery software, but it looks like Google stopped supporting/offering it some time ago. Does anyone have any free (or very cheap) alternatives you could recommend? [more inside]
I'm in a fun/slightly anxiety provoking situation at my work (a small, education non-profit) of getting to pick my own title. I am currently director of programming, but in recognition of the scope of my work and the fact that I functionally co-lead the organization with our ED, I have been offered the title of A) Deputy Director, B) Chief Academic Officer or C) Something Awesome of My Own Invention. What say you, AskMeFi? (Some snowflakes below.) [more inside]
I'm a tall and slender man (not Slender Man) looking to purchase a vest. [more inside]
I dearly love my coffee and enjoy the rituals of brewing at home, which I'm pretty serious about, but in my limited attempts to date I haven't had a lot of success making cold brew that measures up to what I can buy from a good coffee shop. How do you make cold brew, and how happy are you with the results? [more inside]
My friends and I want to take advantage of new flights Cuba opening up in November. You still have to fit into an approved travel category. How do we go about this without travel agency or agent? Is that even possible just yet?
I'm taking a bunch of pain meds right now. [more inside]
I am looking for a Dermatologist in NYC. Male w/ scalp issues.
IKYNMD, how long does the Bence-Jones Protein Urine test take before results can be seen? TIA
Novice Indoor Gardener: What are your best pieces of advice and resources for growing and starting plants indoors, including using artificial light and possibly some sort of water rig? [more inside]
I don't want to give my family any info on where I am, what I'm doing, nothing. How can I do this while also have an online presence to grow in my career? [more inside]
A school thinks I'm one of their students and email replies come to me instead of her despite the fact that they are (apparently?) replying to her email address. [more inside]
I would like to understand the benefits and disadvantages of various basketball backstop material options for use in busy urban parks and gymnasiums. Google hasn't been much help. Durability and ease of repairs is the highest priority, followed by user experience.
Looking for dining recommendations near Orient Heights [more inside]
My 7-year-old loves to draw, and I am, of course, slightly biased, but I think she is pretty good at it. What's the best way to encourage her? If you're an artist, how did your parents help you or encourage you? [more inside]
So, I'm 42 and have never dyed my hair. I have long dark brown hair but am starting to get greys around my temple and several single greys all over. I want to start dying my hair but have absolutely no idea what products to use (there seem to be so many to choose from) or how best to use them. Details inside.....help! [more inside]
We can't teach Holes anymore. What novels do you recommend for Year 8- hopefully with a female protagonist and an Australian setting (or author.) [more inside]
I have a B.A. in Geography with honors but developed a mental illness following graduation. I am 31 years old and live in southern California. I have a therapist and psychiatrist and take medication. Unfortunately, I have not been able to make friends, have a steady significant other, or build a solid career since developing this diagnosis. I work as a janitor for a school district and volunteer at a mental health center. My question is: should I ever expect to have a full, complete, and "normal" life and career like other people? How do I maximize my opportunities in life and develop a rich and fulfilling existence despite the mental diagnosis that I carry around? [more inside]
Oh dear. I bumped another woman's car with my car at a very low speed. I thought she wasn't stopping so I drove on -- then I saw her taking down my plate number but couldn't indicate to her that she should follow me to pull over. Now what will happen? [more inside]
A Romanian friend bought herself the trip as a present to herself for completing breast cancer treatment this year. Any recommendations for medical insurance while abroad? [more inside]
As part of my job I have to work on a hotline dealing with members of the public including distressed, angry and possibly abusive callers. I don't feel I have the social skills to be naturally good at this but we weren't given a choice. What tips and tricks have you got for me? What do you wish you had known before starting a role like this one?
I'm helping to plan a state-wide vegan festival that will feature food samples, non-profits (animal welfare, environmental) and speakers. I have been given the job of coming up with themed names for the hotel rooms we are using that we can use on our guides to the event. [more inside]
Am I deluding myself to think that I can suddenly become a science person? Also, small favor, please tell me what to do with my life. [more inside]
There's this painting of a tree that I know was mass produced because it was at both my grandmother's and my aunt's house and I've seen it at thrift stores. You can see an image here (ignore the closet, it's on the far left). What's the painting/who is it by? And is there a way to find it other than searching through thrift stores?
I stopped working just about 5 years ago due to a medical condition. Much to my surprise, I'm actually starting to physically do better, and I want to go back to work. But I do still have some limitations. I'm not sure how one navigates going back to work in a fast moving field after a prolonged absence. Add difficulty level of not sure how to navigate the disability and physical limitations part of it. Field Web/UX. [more inside]
I'm a senior in college who recently started talking to "Kyle" on Tinder. We scheduled a coffee date for this weekend and, in the ensuing conversation, we established that he is the TA for a music performance elective I just signed up for. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
It's at 1:06 in this video of the Funkdoobiest song "Who Ra Ra." I believe the first part is "My mom said 'Boy you're a _________'" and I can't figure out what the phrase is. It's always driven me nuts, and I have never seen a complete set of lyrics for this song. The video is NSFW, just FYI.
Analog BKNY is a relatively new club in Gowanus. Some DJs I like will be there soon, but I'm having a hard time figuring out if it's the kind of club that a skinny computer nerd like me can just go to or if there's going to be, like, hostile bouncers and weird status judgments. Any Brooklyn MeFites who've been there and can comment on the general vibe?
I want to make some figurative sculptures, roughly life-size. I'd like to have the eyes be displays showing video recordings of actual human eyes looking around and blinking. I'm not sure what to use for this. [more inside]
On a recent trip to Mexico (like, last month), I was watching TV in my hotel room at night (maybe around 10 pm or later) and found a show that seemed to literally just be a puppet sleeping for about three or more hours. I cannot find anything that makes me feel like I'm not crazy for having seen this. [more inside]
Going to Europe and need books to pass time during the long flight there and various train trips between destinations. Strongly prefer nonfiction--more specs within! [more inside]
We'll be driving east on our annual Maine trip starting Saturday the 3rd. For 3 whole weeks this time! Want places in PA, NY, VT & NH to camp, hike, eat, drink & sightsee. [more inside]
I read a wonderful quote not that long ago, an aphorism about relationships, but now, no matter how hard I Google, I can't track the original down. Maybe you can help? The essence of it was: We misjudge the people we love twice: First for the better, and second for the worse. [more inside]
With a dual monitor setup (A and B), is there a way to quickly switching what are being displayed on screens (to B and A). [more inside]
I've always wanted to wear red lipstick. However, as a redhead with very pale, golden tone skin (see profile pic), I have yet to find one that doesn't make me look like a corpse made up by a third-rate mortician. Redheads of MeFi, have you managed to rock a particular shade of red lipstick, and if so, what is it? Someone told me to try Max Factor's Ruby Woo because it's supposed to be universally flattering... does anyone have any other suggestions?
Our office sends a small but notable amount of press releases to hometown media outlets. We *cannot* keep looking up individual email addresses every time we have to send something... but we also have next to no money. Please hope us. [more inside]
So I've enjoyed building computers as a hobby for years now. I enjoy putting the components together, reading comparison tests, looking at spec sheets and comparing prices, all that stuff. The problem is that I can't do it as often as I'd like because its too expensive! I need a hobby that's like building computer but is a lot cheaper. [more inside]
Help me find the perfect bluetooth/wireless headphones for my picky needs. [more inside]
I'm hosting my young toddler's birthday party in a few weeks and looking for some party food suggestions, especially various finger foods. [more inside]
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for about 3 months now. Early on I’ve noticed he’d drink excessively on occasion, and pretty much each time we saw each other he would drink at least some. This became a problem between us, he wants to quit drinking, and I don’t know if it’s more helpful to continue the relationship and try and support him through this, or for us to separate. [more inside]
What are your favorite comedians that punch up not down really well, and are happy to take on heavy content while lifting up those who need it most instead of getting laughs at their expense? [more inside]
I've been considering offering some sort of brochure-website service for small local companies for years. It's all come to a bit of a head with someone actually approaching me and requesting that I do this for them, so I guess the time is now! I have an idea of how I want to do this, but not what I want to charge. Sanity check my idea and help me price it inside. [more inside]
I need to manage my iPhone files, as I recently ran out of space when trying to take some more photos. I have all my photos backed up, but iTunes on my Windows laptop doesn't (appear) to help me, as I can only manage audio, podcasts and video, and deleting photos on my iPhone is time consuming. Bonus points: all-around photo managing/ tagging software that can also manage iPhone photos. [more inside]
I just rented a new apartment and am basically furnishing it from scratch. One big issue that I am having is that I have no experience decorating etc I have a real refined vision of what I want aesthetically and plenty of pictures, but I am having a hard time achieving it. I also don't always know what things "go" together and what things don't etc I also see something that I like and can't find it in stores. Are there any resources that are inexpensive or free that I can take advantage of? Thank you in advance [more inside]
I am considering going back to the programme in Japan that I quit three years ago. They need a certificate from a doctor/therapist assuring them I am fit to go back. Things are complicated. [more inside]
I've been working on a manuscript of poems about Colony Collapse Disorder. I've done a lot of research on theories in mainstream science. However, I know that some people have suggested UFO's were involved, and there are probably other conspiracy theories out there, and I'm trying to find specifics. However, googling CCD-related words in combination with things like "aliens," "Jesuits," and "illuminati" have yielded nothing. Can anybody track down some actual posts/articles/videos that include fringe theories about the die-off?
I'm looking for regular web-based sources of amazing animal photos, stories, and videos. I'm interested in content that shows silly animals, incredibly athletic animals, or (particularly) extraordinary animal intelligence. I'd also like to find material that shows cool interspecies relationships, whether that's cats who love dogs, rhinos who live with turkeys, or people who have unusual pets. I'm even interested in things like dog-training videos! Can you point me to forums, subreddits, YouTube channels, or other corners of the web that regularly publish stuff about amazing animals?
My best friend graduated from massage school, yay! I want to get her some background music for her practice and I am at a loss for what to buy. DIFFICULTY: NO ENYA. NO WHALESONGS. [more inside]
MeFi, you are all so very wicked smaaht in recommending the best things. Can you help me find a laptop that fits my needs? [more inside]
Has anyone here from the USA ordered a garment from Gudrun Sjõdén? How long did your item take to arrive? [more inside]
[UK used car filter] I'm selling a car with some cosmetic but not-cheap-to-fix damage and would like advice on the best way to sell it. [more inside]
Do you have a Master's in Counseling Psychology or similar? (social work, clinical psychology, etc) or do you work in/know about the field? I'd like to know what it's like and whether the degree is worth it. [more inside]
Looking for any good recommendations on Amazon Prime for bed sheets. I just spent my entire lunch break looking and I feel overwhelmed with fake reviews in a hugely oversaturated market. [more inside]
Things to do, places to see, where to eat. We're doing the zoo. What else? [more inside]
I had no cramps immediately following my colposcopy, but they've started 5 days later. Is this normal? [more inside]
Recommended Path And Expectations for Learning to Program iPhone Apps? [more inside]
Word is trying to AutoCorrect to French. Please make it stop! [more inside]
I just got a microphone with a cord that has a three-pronged male plug at the end. This won't fit into my amp, and I can't figure out what kind of plug I'd need. "Mic converter" turns up iPhone accessories and "preamp" looks like another, larger piece of equipment. What do I need to plug my mic into my amp?
Research showing which security measures are best bang for buck? [more inside]
We are heading to a wedding next weekend and taking the scenic route - stopping to see/hike in Harper's Ferry, driving Skyline Drive, and touring Monticello. Where should we eat along the way? [more inside]
I am a Canadian who has seen almost no basketball. I want to trounce my fiance in our yearly March Madness bracket in a few months, or, barring that, have lots of fun intelligently talking about predictions/rankings/upsets/games with him in February and March. What sites or books should I read for good, regular, in-depth college basketball analysis (or the history of NCAA, or whatever), either (a) now or (b) after I learn what basketball jargon means? [more inside]
We're flying into Gatwick on a Friday morning in October and heading out Sunday to visit family in Cardiff. Looking for advice on everything in between. Where to stay? Where to eat? What to do? And how to get around? [more inside]
Looking for suggestions of novels or short stories, in English, that have leisure travel as a central feature (that is holidays not emigration, relocation for study, etc.) - where the travellers are not from either the UK or the USA. No restrictions on time period, but after realism rather than fantasy travel. Any ideas?
Our son in Victoria, BC, is finally ready to talk to a psychiatrist instead of pursuing "alternative" approaches to his mental health. Does anybody know someone in the area who is good with depression, anger and possible bipolar issues?
In California what is the likely penalty for driving a car which has not passed its smog test? [more inside]
John Darnielle often uses a present tense voice in his songs, sometimes first person, sometimes second person. Additionally, the subject is omitted. What's this voice called? Are there other songwriters who use it often? [more inside]
Mefites of Los Angeles, where do you go to try on leather jackets for men in person? Asking for a friend whose tastes lean more toward the Tim Burton end of the spectrum than toward office-wear. Must be a brick-and-mortar establishment. [more inside]
I am looking for some steady, fast, balls to the wallish running music as I'm sick of my current rotation. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations of longer books to read to my 5yo daughter. We recently read The BFG and that was pretty much perfect - obviously I'll try some of Dahl's other books, although they do seem to feature an awful lot of cruel and abusive family situations. So, who's the Roald Dahl of the 21st century? [more inside]
I seem to be allergic to antiperspirants, but regular deodorant isn't strong enough to stop my powerful aura. What do similarly, uh, endowed people with sensitive skin do to be less of a nose-burden on the people around them? [more inside]
I work for a media publisher, and my own small group is 3 other people. I like them enough, but they're a bit younger than me. I've become friendly with them all, but it's the kind of polite "lol" in chat thing, not like "Wanna grab a coffee/beer?" thing. How does someone in their mid-30s navigate an office where almost everyone communicates solely through Slack, even though we all sit feet away from each other. (I'm bad at making the first move in friendships, so I know that it probably first step.)
If it's not a cold and it's not the flu, it's.... what? I plan on seeing my doctor tomorrow, barring a miraculous recovery, but in the meantime, what could this be? What should I ask about? [more inside]
My old laptop died a few months ago—fortunately, with enough warning to allow me to back up my files. However, I lost OneNote 2010 and OneNote 2016 hates me. (It's so mutual.) I have the old machine up and running, but I'm assuming I'm working on borrowed time. I googled the question, of course, and I'm reviewing the most promising returns, but I'm already feeling overwhelmed. I'm hoping someone out there can just tell me what to do. [more inside]
Continuation of previous questions - husband was offered a new job, wants to take it, but is currently in France on a business trip. New job offered prorated signing bonus - if he starts in 2 weeks he gets 7K, if he starts in 4 weeks he gets 5K. He wants to give as close to 2 weeks notice as possible with old job so as to not burn bridges, but 2K difference is a pretty good incentive. So he's thinking of giving notice tomorrow and finishing out the trip, coming back this Thursday, and then finishing out the rest of the notice period at the home office. Is it an incredibly bad idea to give notice while travelling? Could they refuse to reimburse him for travel expenses / cancel his ticket / make life miserable, legally speaking? [more inside]
Counseling student here, in the death throes of my 3-year part-time counseling MA. When I started my practicum, they made us sign up with this website called Time2Track. I want to give Time2Track the boot. Help me find another internship time tracker. [more inside]
There are lots of books, both memoirs and self-help, about coping with an illness or new disability. Are there any about the opposite: how to adapt when you get well after a long illness? [more inside]
Alan Mulally became famous for turning around Ford from the brink of bankruptcy without having to become an ax-man to do it. I am looking for examples of other leaders (CEOs, world leaders, ect.) out there who proved that being successful in business doesn't necessarily mean having to be a jerk. I am going to be doing a research paper on the similarities and differences of each leader's approach.
Hello. Thank you in advance for your help. I have had Kaiser insurance for many years for me and my son. I have been on auto-pay and I guess my auto pay expired and I never re signed up for auto pay so my insurance was canceled. Totally my fault, I get it. I suspect they sent me a million letters but I tend to throw mail away in a haste and probably thought it was junk or just a THIS IS NOT A BILL statement thing. But now what? [more inside]
I found out too late that mirrors of less than 1/4" thickness tend to give distorted reflections after a while. I really wish I knew this before I purchased three of them. [more inside]
House-cleaners in Longmont, CO? [more inside]
Was "Fighting the Nazis/Japanese was a mistake" really a thing in the post-war years? Details inside. [more inside]
Should I bother to follow up with a receptionist at an urgent care about how I was treated today? [more inside]
My partner is employed by the management company that oversees the operations of a (legally operating) medical marijuana facility in a city in CA that allows and regulates it. We have been turned down for a home loan that we would otherwise qualify for easily, because his job is illegal in the eyes of the federal government. Is this a lost cause or might there be some lender who won't care about this?
Thinking about moving from Wisconsin to Chicago this year. The grad program I am in allows me quite a bit of flexibility for location so long as I am back monthly for lab stuff. My interests are in 1) living in a reasonably interesting and pleasant part of the city, accessible to cool stuff, without breaking the bank, and 2) picking up some part time work that will help cover the increased cost of living and also pad my bank account a bit (complication: I need flexibility so that I can, with quite a lot of advance notice, occasionally miss a week or so). Looking at Hyde Park and Lakeview. Would love some advice. [more inside]
My girlfriend and I both really like Halloween and we both really like the Netflix show Stranger Things. So much so that we're throwing a Stranger Things themed Halloween party. Help us do that! (all of the spoilers inside, but if you haven't seen Stranger Things, just go ahead and fix that and come back) [more inside]
What would be a healthy, non-messy snack (homemade or store-bought) to eat on my 6 pm hour-long bus ride, which is followed by a very hilly 30 minute walk home? Ideally something bite-sized. [more inside]
I don't have Comcast service, but I do have an old cable line going into my house. It's broken. How do I get it fixed? [more inside]
How do I decline a job offer, be polite and make a statement in the same breath? [more inside]
Friend is in Saudi Arabia. His car and title is here in Phoenix. He is asking for my help in selling his car. If I find a buyer, how do I transfer title to new buyer without him not being here? I have the title for his car but he has not signed it. He is not scheduled to return anytime soon. What do I do? Ship him the title and have him get a notary there in Saudi Arabia? Is there something else that the MVD in Maricopa county will accept for this sale to proceed? My google-fu is failing me in finding an answer. Thank you!
I am wanting to record the Internet stream of a radio broadcast for a certain dusty event happening now in Nevada. I'm finding it problematic to get a good recording as the stream cuts out frequently. [more inside]
I'm entertaining a big group this weekend and would like to make some bar cookies. I don't have the time or patience to make drop cookies, so I thought I would ask for your best bar cookie recipes.
I am looking for information and/or a recording of a TV show presented by Alice Coltrane. [more inside]
A few questions about an inheritance affecting student loan repayments and disclaiming an inheritance. [more inside]
A spate of burglaries and prowlers on my block has me outraged and concerned about the safety of my family and property. My attorney and my wife have convinced me that booby-trapping the perimeter of the property is not wise. Let's design a security camera setup! [more inside]
I just filled up my $10/month Google Drive 1TB plan. The next step up is $100/month 10TB plan, which I can't afford. Is there a way to get 2TB or maybe 1¢/gb on Google Drive? I really love Google Drive, but maybe there other services that offer 1TB+ for a reasonable amount of money? Dropbox seems to max out at 1TB? [more inside]
I'm interested in how provinces in Canada differ politically as it relates to crime (in particular, youth crime). I'm new to Atlantic Canada and I'm interested in knowing how this region, in particular, Nova Scotia, deals with and perceives crime and youth crime. [more inside]
20ish years ago there was a one-page essay in the (maybe? Last page?) New Yorker that featured many uses of words that had no such root or form. I can't think of any specific words in the essay, but even what the words or practice are called and a list would be nice. Things like "rambunction" for rambunctious, or "consternating" for consternation. Is this mere coinage, or is there a wider practice at work? [more inside]
I mistakenly got the last poster I hung custom framed, which cost way more than the poster did. So what are my best options for hanging a poster nicely? [more inside]
I’d like to get opinions from MeFites, particularly if you work in HR or IT: What do you think is a reasonable policy for personal web-surfing from work computers? [more inside]
Trying to ID a kids' LP from my childhood as neither my mother or I can remember enough detail. It was probably 70s or early 80s in origin and had a fairly psychedelic cover involving cartoon animals. It was either called 'us adibals and fings' (although googling that has not helped) or had a song that included that as a lyric. It definitely had a song/spoken word thing that ended with a line 'a (unknown - possibly kiss?) from a (unknown) in a zoot suit'. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for therapists who have offices in Ballard and see patients outside of 8-6 working hours. [more inside]
A friend and I walked by this sign. I thought it seemed a little fishy, so I asked another friend and he said it's definitely not a National Security Agency sign. So then what is it?
I'm going to be spending my 25th birthday alone. What should I do to celebrate? [more inside]
My supervisor is retiring in a month and seems to be checked out or perhaps just not worried about maintaining relationships. How do I maintain relationships and do good work in this situation? [more inside]
I now identify as gay, and want to learn more about what it means to be gay in a broader, cultural sense. [more inside]
I got my next house insurance bill (due in October.) My Dwelling and Other Structures (house + detached garage) are listed at a Limit of Liability which is 5% less than the house/garage cost four years ago and at least 20% less than it would cost to replace them now (since house building hasn't gotten cheaper and my house has increased 10-15% in value according to real estate comps.) Should I increase the Dwelling and Other Structures coverages to cover what it would really take to rebuild my house?
I've been invited to a friend's Halloween party again this year and am looking for some good homemade costume ideas. [more inside]
My home state is rife with problems, and it's government is corrupt and incompetent. As a public employee, I don't feel safe trusting my retirement pension to a state legislature that consistently relies on stopgap measures to avoid deficit spending and lacks the political will/intelligence to solve the issues that will most certainly arrive when even more Baby Boomers apply for Medicaid benefits (which are partially paid for by the state). I've decided to look for greener pastures. Please help me identify some areas I should investigate for a future relocation. [more inside]
My friend is looking for a glass kettle, not a plastic job from a supermarket, something pretty. I wondered if you had any suggestions?
I am trying to keep ALL my meal planning/grocery lists in Paprika. Is there a way to enter super basic meals or staple items so that in addition to being in my meal plan, it shows up on my grocery list? [more inside]
When I was younger, I had a book that was poetry and stories for children. Poetry included poems and illustrations by Edward Lear; the stories included "The Carp in the Bathtub," a Pecos Pete? story and possibly an excerpt from "Anne of Green Gables." The stories were illustrated. I have Googled this to death, tried looking up books via Library of Congress online, no luck. Any ideas? Thanks.
I'm starting to do preliminary research on spending 1-2 years in China studying Mandarin. I'm looking for any recommendations for schools to look into, or places that would be great to learn Mandarin in. Snowflake details within! [more inside]
I'm trying to remember the name of a movie from the early 1980's, and Googling hasn't helped. The overall plot was that it took place in a small presumably California town and there was an earthquake and as a result, the water and/or the dairy supply became contaminated, and the residents started behaving in ways they wouldn't normally, like they had a loss of inhibitions or something similar. I don't remember how it ended, either. Thanks.
I just bought a house that has been vacant for at least three months. Are the appliances (dishwasher/washing machine) ready to use immediately? [more inside]
Where can I find information and resources for a teenager trying to make first steps toward financial independence from controlling/unstable/abusive parents? Particularly parental identity theft prevention. [more inside]
Can you help me find this piano piece my Mum used to play? [more inside]
I have found myself in the fortunate position of having a somewhat senior role in a small, fast-growing software company. Because of my total lack of software/sales experience, I have this strong gut feeling that my approach is "winging it" and I would like to start understanding more seriously what I need to do. [more inside]
I am currently between jobs and will soon have more free time than I want while my two kids are at kindergarten. I want to learn how to cook in large-ish quantites, healthily and more frugally for our family of four. Please recommend blogs or individual recipes! [more inside]
Last asked in 2012 and with some sites from there now dead, what would you recommend now?
My marriage is falling apart and I am getting very mixed messages from my wife. As she has finally started the road to recovery she also met someone else in AA and they are having quite the affair. I am struggling with the hurt and anger but also with still loving her and wanting her back. Please help me with some new perspectives. [more inside]
I've had really great peperoncini pastas out at restaurants, but have not been able to replicate them at home - my home cooked version(s) lack flavor (sad and bland) and just don't have that oily, savory slickness you get in a great restaurant version. I've been using this and similar recipes, and am a medium-experienced cook. Anyone have tips, tricks, or a recipe you love? [more inside]
Car is a 2009 Toyota Matrix with 67,000 miles. Check Engine light came on two days ago, went off after oil change, came on again. Diagnostic at auto store today said P0354 Ignition Coil D Primary / Secondary Circuit. Light went off again after restarting after diagnostic, but I've only drive 5 miles since. It will difficult to get car to shop this week; might put another 50 miles on the car in the meantime. Is this just a performance issue, or might I damage the engine by driving with this issue? Thanks.
I have a small wood Buddhist wood statue, and I am trying to determine what culture it is from, who the sculpture depicts, what mudra is being shown, and how it would have originally been displayed. [more inside]
I've been an AD/ACD/freelance in Chicago for 15 years and I cannot stand agency world anymore. Plus, I'm 40 something, and seems like new hires are usually very young, and the lack of people over the age of 35 at agencies these days is appalling. Need help figuring a way into client/corporate side. [more inside]
I'm good at drawing, and pretty creative. I'd love to start making my own greeting cards with personalized drawings for my friends. How can I make this look good, instead of just like I didn't want to go to Hallmark? [more inside]
I need some new dress shirts, and I love deep, dark jewel tones. [more inside]
New friend is obsessed with her rare health issue. I need to set some boundaries for discussions around this. Special snowflake details below :) [more inside]
I'm looking for evidence-based information about the health effects of coffee. [more inside]
n00b question coming up. I love everything about the layout of this page for making long lists of topical reading manageable on the eye. I really want to replicate it to keep track of my own reading. But how? [more inside]
I know H&M runs small but I don't own any of their clothes. Do I order the shirt I love 1 or 2 sizes up? (Link inside - Women's edition!) [more inside]
YANMUKL, 15 years ago my partner's children's grandmother gave her £30,000 "from her son's inheritance" to pay off the mortgage on her house. 10 years later, he moves out. I move in a year later. Now he is sending very nasty emails claiming he will sue for the money if she doesn't give it back to him. Should I get a lawyer? [more inside]
I was dating someone I really liked for a few months. He ended things by saying via text we needed to talk, and then ignoring my texts (one in which which I agreed to talk and one in which, after several days had passed, I reiterated that I was available to talk). I know he is alive because I saw him once when I was out (we did not acknowledge or speak to each other, though I'm sure he saw me too). [more inside]
Just got promoted, yay! Except another job that I'm interested in was recently posted ... [more inside]
I'll try to keep this brief. I will likely be moving to Southern-Europe and will need to form new relationships with new doctors. Now, what from what I've been advised - they told me they want everything since I have multiple issues (PTSD from war, Anxiety over loud bangs/sounds, fireworks, Phobia of small places..) had a couple of MRIs after my car being rear-ended as well. So is it as simple (I like in Mass) as emailing/calling them and asking me to send me all my records? I don't even know what records holds. Is it what things they diagnosed me with, blood results, my medication, my MRI results. Stuff like that? Does it cost anything? Any help is extremely appreciated. Thank you all!
I've seen "Stranger Things" and "The Get Down." I love STAND BY ME and GOONIES. I need more kids-in-danger media, particularly where they're smarter/braver/better than the grownups around them. TV or movies of any era. Books and comics are great too. [more inside]
I miss The Toast so, so, so much. What sites are you reading now that it's over that scratch the same itch? [more inside]
After this question, I resolved to do what I could to change my situation. I'm struggling, but managing, to be less aware of my inner monologue and more focused on using new strategies for conversation. But it *is* still very much a conscious process. I feel an almost physical pressure to talk exclusively about myself, and exclusively about struggle. I have to force myself to ask follow-up questions, to laugh even when things are genuinely funny. It's so rare that the volume of my self-talk lowers and I'm able to enjoy interactions for what they are. [more inside]
I periodically wipe Chrome's browsing data (usually when it starts feeling sluggish). The window that pops up shows the 'cached images and files' size. It's almost always at 638 MB and I've never seen it go higher. Why 638? Is it truthful? Is it arbitrary?
I have an Android phone. I would like to be able to type on a normal keyboard with it. I would like this keyboard not to break instantly. I would like to not spend more than say $30-$50 but if that's not reasonable, fine. Your suggestions?
Can anyone tell this Brit of a shop that might stock sweetened condensed milk in Manhattan? I found some Vietnamese coffee today when I was wandering around Chinatown and really fancy some ca phe sua da, but haven't been able to find the condensed milk in any local stores.
Currently I'm not so well off financially and would like ideas for relatively inexpensive, healthy 'emergency foods' that last ages and are good to keep on hand. Think steel cut oats and peanuts, foods that can fill you up over and over before you run out. I want to fill my apartment with such foods.
Just what is says on the tin. Other than iherb.com, what are some replacements for my Amazon and Sephora addictions that will ship (preferably without paying an absurd amount) to Israel?
I subscribe to Stack, a service that sends you a random indie magazine once a month. I like the fact that I get something totally unexpected that I would never think to buy. Are there other services like this, that would send me slightly random things that I might not know I like?
My husband has been getting headaches after playing tennis, and we have not been able to figure out what is causing them or how to prevent them. Advice very much appreciated! Full details "below the fold." [more inside]
Let's say you have a friend who pulled a Walden for all of 2016 so far—went to a house in the woods, no internet, no TV, no phone. This friend is now returning to civilization and ready to see what he missed. What do you show him—videos, headlines, etc—that will help him understand what 2016 has been? [more inside]
I have a beautiful baby girl who I love like crazy but the circumstances surrounding my pregnancy, her birth and the aftermath were more stressful than I anticipated and I feel some residual resentment towards my family for not being more supportive. [more inside]
Between 2001 and 2004, I lived in the SF Bay Area and looked forward to a weekly column in a local paper (don't remember which - probably not SF Chronicle, but maybe a smaller publication?) which featured a profile of an interesting local "everyday folk" along with a pen-and-ink portrait. I especially loved the charming portraits. In particular, I remember one of a guy selling boiled crab at the Pier. Does anyone remember this? What was the name of the column, and who was the artist?
Mr jshort and I are looking for a great place to watch Tampa Bay Buccaneers games in the South Bay Area. This is our first NFL season here and we don't have cable/satellite. Please help! [more inside]
I have some questions about the recent(ish) UK Supreme Court case about private parking fines, Beavis v ParkingEye: [more inside]
I recently found a collection of MP4 video interviews on a specific subject sitting on a university website that appears to be unique (only lives there, so far as I can tell). The content is noteworthy and important enough that I would like to create a brand new collection on the Internet Archive. Ownership/rights info is unclear at this stage but I'm drafting an email to the video/web page creator. This would be my first time actually adding content to IA and I'm looking for a little MeFi guidance. [more inside]
My mother's (much younger) cousin V is a doctor. She moved to the US from Britain this year. When my father was hospitalized, she and another couple of my mother's cousins spent a week with us. I'm grateful for what she did for our family during that time, but V's behavior towards me was sometimes humiliating and condescending. I need help figuring out how to manage my relationship with her going forward because now that I live near my parents again, I'll see her more regularly than I'd like. [more inside]
In grade school, my friend read a children's book about a female allosaurus. "The basic story was that the allosaurus was extremely hungry and had to hunt other animals to feed itself, but she was also too old to catch any prey. So at the end the allosaurus starved to death. That was, literally, the plot. A dinosaur learns that life is cruel and then dies." Ring any bells?
MeFi... help us please! My boyfriend and I cannot figure out the correct term to describe a group of current people whose technology consists of stone tools and not much more. More information in the extended explanation below. [more inside]
I'm planning a week-long road trip for me and my dad for the coming spring. The tentative plan is to drive from St. Louis to the small town of Waverly, TN. That's a trip of only 280 miles if we take the shortest route, and could easily be completed in one afternoon... but that's no fun. The Duffell family likes to take leisurely, meandering road trips. Help us take this thing off the interstate and enjoy the scenery. Don't be afraid to take us out of our way. [more inside]
A couple of literary friends are getting married, and I'd like to indulge their bibliophile tendencies. What are some ideas for gifts that would make practical additions to a home library? [more inside]
I have a couple of 2600mAh power banks that I used with my old phone. They're Duracell units I got from Costco but I can't find a link online, sorry. My new phone uses USB-C to charge which apparently draws 3A; can I still use these old power banks with my fancy new device? [more inside]
Does anyone have a trash compactor? My brother is thinking of getting one to use to compress used clothes that he sends down to Guatemala. None of us have ever had or used one and we are wondering if this is a realistic hope. He said even if it could compact them by 20% it would be useful as the shipping fee is based on volume. Does it just squeeze down things like milk cartons or does it really compact anything?
Interested in hearing from 1) adults who have suffered from mental health issues for most/major part of their lives (depression/schizophrenia in particular) and were persuaded* by family to seek help (aka go to a psychiatrist). 2) family of the adult who was suffering from mental health issues and recognised that something was off/not quite right/blatantly bizarre/had classic symptoms of mental health issues (isolation, hygiene, job loss, distorted thinking and more). Additional twist- the adult in question can't stand immediate family and is convinced they are "toxic". [more inside]
We started a fundraiser to help pay for my kitty's hospitalization, but he died less than a day into the campaign. What do I do? [more inside]
An acquaintance of mine is suddenly homeless and jobless in New Hampshire. What social services are available to assist someone in this situation, or what temp work is available? [more inside]
My dear friend is battling a serious illness in Louisville, KY. She has two very young children. Hopefully she will be recovered in 3 months. I live far away. I would like to temporarily hire Alice from the Brady Bunch to help her and her husband manage their household chores and help them take care of their children. Barring that, looking for ways to support a young mom from a distance. [more inside]
Help me figure out if my dream job is worth the low pay. Snow flurries inside. [more inside]
I am borderline obsessed by the Journeyman's Feast in this D&D-inspired menu, which seems to be a slightly less fancy version of a charcuterie board , and would like some suggestions on other food items I can use to make up my own 1-person board. [more inside]
I'm trying to find a TV ad for the latest Ghostbusters movie, that featured Melissa McCarthy's character referencing the YouTube controversy. My google is failing. [more inside]
About how long, on average, does it take to read a New Yorker magazine entirely? [more inside]
I could always find it until now. Probably Associated Press, 1992-96. Richmond, Virginia.
Can you identify this 1800s (?) Eastern/Central European novel based on the half-remembered description of an unintentionally hilarious sex scene? [more inside]
I've included some specs and such in the body of the message. Basically, the system specs seem comfortably above the minimum reqs for Win10, but I'm not clear on whether I should go 32 or 64 -- her XP is 32, but I don't know if 64bit OSs were a thing at the time. [more inside]
Are there recent rock albums or bands that are of some "universal" or broad interest to a large number of people between the ages of, say, 16 and 24? Or have r&b, rap, and other genres totally replaced rock music? [more inside]
I bought an airport express with the sole purpose of letting me play music from my computer. Unfortunately, whenever I do so, within 0-50 minutes, the music starts skipping, and ultimately I get the warning: "An error occurred while connecting to the AirPlay device “[DEVICE NAME]”. The host cannot be reached." Any way to reliably fix this? [more inside]
I need to resurrect my old Firefox favorites list. I used an online magazine article digest whose name escapes me. The site also has links to online newspapers. All I can remember is the graphics were orange. I had to refresh my OS and forgot to back up my Firefox bookmarks.
I'm asking as I just watched a live drama tv program where a young man's face was almost constantly contorted as if he was in the throes of crying but there were no tears. It reminded me of something I once heard a cop say regarding questioning a suspect who, also, sobbed very much over the death of a loved one but no tears were shed. The policeman said "No tears? Its fake." I know whenever I'm really emotionally over the edge I will cry with tears - I call that experience "crying" - is there another type?
My friend and I have recently been crawling out of some pretty thick mental mud from the past several months, and I was hoping for some suggestions in and around Portland to swing us back into greater health. [more inside]
We're getting married. We both dislike jewelry but have decided to wear simple rings. But the selection is overwhelming. Do you enjoy this sort of thing and want to help us? [more inside]
Just trying to live a peaceful and functional adult life beyond the reach of a controlling, emotionally abusive parent. But I was tracked down by a PI and I'm worried that it's only a matter of time before I have to face this awful person again. What do I say to make clear that I have no intention of reestablishing ties and that I wish to be left alone? [more inside]
I am crowd funding a clothing line and am looking for outside sources to promote the campaign. What options outside of mine and indiegogo social media are available to me. I was thinking of contacting bloggers to do personal interviews, product trade. etc? Any and all suggestions appreciated.
Hi guys, I am building a slow sand filter to purify captured rainwater. I have advertised here and on reddit for an experienced engineer to design a filter for me. Where can I go to get more visibility for my request or what should I do to motivate interest in my project?
What music styles or specific songs do 85-year-old ladies like to dance to? I'm putting together a playlist for some dancing grammas. Certain criteria: Familiar songs (popular in the 1940s-60s); Upbeat (no slow dancing at this crazy ol' party); not loud (no rock please, not even Elvis); bonus for international songs or sung in non-English, especially German! [more inside]
Help me find the right hashtags to connect with resources on twitter relevant to my particular interest in clothes. [more inside]
We have two cats, one of whom is very fastidious. She won't use a box that is not to her standards of clean. She will go next to the litter box if she deems it unclean. I am considering getting two self cleaning litter boxes but am wary of the cash outlay. [more inside]
I may be paranoid, but someone sent me an email with a very suspicious attachment. How can I find out what's in it? [more inside]
I have a newish iMac and three external hard drives of varying age and corresponding capacity (500 GB, 2 TB, 4 TB). I have ca. 2 TB of music divided between the latter two. What is the best way of backing this up? [more inside]
I'm looking for something like Patatap but with a bit more structure (like record, rewind, stop, that kind of thing), so I can just let a tune flow from my soul and then play it back or save it. Creating music without having to think about it too much, maybe just learning the instrument/website as I go along. I don't want to get sucked into learning a DAW; this is just for temporary fun. Is there anything like that? Thanks!
I recently set up a docking station for my laptop on a desk in my room. The only problem is that this seems to have really spotty WiFi coverage. Sometimes it's fine, sometimes it lags to hell when trying to load even something mostly text-based like Metafilter. Streaming is often impossible. I'm considering buying a range extender for my network - what should I keep in mind? [more inside]
i want an office wardrobe I don't have to think about. Please help! [more inside]
What online backup and collaboration solution should a small ad agency use? [more inside]
We're moving to Los Angeles, hooray! We live in Chicago and don't own a car. Do we buy a car here or in CA? Or somewhere else? [more inside]
I enjoy sewing (at a hobby level), but I don't know a lot about selecting "good" fabrics. I'd like to level up from what's available at my big box craft store. Please help. This Ask is specifically about identifying and/or sourcing durable flannel and knits - fabrics that will hold up well to repeated washings, but I welcome information about other fabrics as well. [more inside]
I'm about to start Pristiq, an SNRI antidepressant, as part of my treatment plan for depression/anxiety/ADHD. I've been on antidepressants before, but would like to hear what people's experiences have been with this one. [more inside]
After three years of a stress in our relationship, my husband has lately been open to marriage counseling. He isn't all for it, but is willing. The thing is that I feel like I've been walking on eggshells for so long around him, I'm not sure how to even begin talking about things in this situation. [more inside]
We found cheap tickets to Honolulu right after our wedding! But we have a month to plan it on top of our wedding. Please suggest hotels (with availability still, ahh), hikes, foods, and fun! [more inside]
Through surprisingly painless saving I find that I have £5000. For those not in the UK, the Bank of England has dropped its interest rate yet again so leaving it where it currently lives in a savings account seems like a lost opportunity (I just made £0.99 last month on interest. Woopidy doo.) I googled around for some ideas and found this, which is hilarious because that's me 7 years ago and things have changed since then. So what should I do with £5k now? [more inside]
I just put in a new floor on my front porch. It's (nominal) 4x1 pine tongue and groove with the endgrain on the front edge. The floors on these kinds of porches rot at the edges pretty quickly, but it is the historical style. Can I seal the end grain with silicon caulk after painting? The other ends are against the house and would not be sealed. The porch will be heavily painted (primer x2, floor paint x2).
I haven't used a Windows machine in quite a while, but now need one for a project. 10 is baffling to me, I have no interest in putting in the time to become proficient, and I don't want to deal w/what appears to be its total privacy dumpster fire. What are my best options for getting a new machine w/an older but still reasonably useful Windows OS? [more inside]
My 3+ year-old HTC One has developed a bug where the camera turns everything purple, battery life is so bad I have to plug it in before lunch, and it's developing some weird keyboard entry errors. Thinking of switching to the iPhone 6SE, but have questions! [more inside]
This might be a tough one. I've looked and haven't been able to find what I'm looking for anywhere. All of the residential security camera systems I have found (whose video is viewable on cell phones and pc's) require an internet connection. But I don't need to view my camera while I'm offsite so, for privacy reasons, I'm looking for one that does not require an internet connection (and therefore it doesn't need to send our camera video to some company's server). [more inside]
It's a BMW that was purchased new in the past two years or so. [more inside]
In light of the recently revealed iPhone exploit, how vulnerable is an old iPhone 4? Because it can't be updated past iOS 7, I assume Apple isn't releasing a patch (indeed, I checked the software update and there was nothing available). Does this mean I absolutely have to upgrade my hardware? [more inside]
So I'm about to take my son to London on a father and son trip. We've been once before and loved it. We went on the river bus, to the Natural History Museum (scary animatronic T-rex!), Science Museum and to Grenwich to see the Cutty Sark. We saw the changing of the guard. We had a WHALE of a time. [more inside]
I heard a routine on the radio by a comic (Canadian, perhaps?) in which he talked a length about his hero worship of Mr. T as a child. It had me in stitches. Please tell me this guy's name. [more inside]
The past two major events at my job have triggered serious (what-I-believe-to-be) migraines for me. These are events where I am required to work for long periods of time in extremely loud/stressful conditions. Both times I woke up the next morning with blinding pain, nausea, vertigo, etc. YANMD but 1. could some medical thing prevent this from happening (i.e., should I see my doctor and get a prescription of some kind) and/or 2. is there something else I can do to prevent it from happening? [more inside]
I'm moderating a panel next month featuring researchers on areas related to domestic violence and working with survivors in a health care context. I've been asked to come up with questions for the panelists to prepare to answer. What should I ask them? What would you like to know, or what do you think is the most important problem in this area? [more inside]
My closets develop mold this time of year. How can I stop it? [more inside]
I live in a studio apartment that's a converted garage. The past few days, I've noticed a few crickets inside the apartment. Is this something that can be dealt with easily (say, by buying a few dollars worth of glue traps), or should I go ahead and get my landlord involved and arrange for a visit from an exterminator?
What is the legal, legit way to watch NFL games at my home? Difficulty factor: not tech savy. Details inside. [more inside]
Smaller, lighter animals can fall from further up without being harmed (I believe). Is there a mammal that is so small it could fall from any height and not be hurt? Is my basic premise wrong? Does terminal velocity figure into the explanation?
Pretty great chyrons this election. Who specifically and generally (viz., job title and the folks holding the job titles at CNN and MSNBC) writes them?
I am a production artist at Passion Works Fine Art Studio in Athens, Ohio. We feature the collaborative work of our adult artists with and without disabilities. I've been wanting to include information about the artist who produced the piece with each sale in a Fan/ Baseball Card format. [more inside]
The spells in the Harry Potter books are in a kind of Latin. There is a Latin translation of the first Harry Potter book. What language are the spells in that? (PLEASE SAY GREEK!) What language are the spells in the Greek translation? (PLEASE SAY EGYPTIAN!)
I have a dream: to build a recreation of this giant neon Santa Claus sign, but cheaply, using neon rope light. My building skills are limited to Legos and Ikea. Can someone steer me towards some basics that will help me achieve my dream? [more inside]
Bus, taxi or private shuttle? [more inside]
I want to learn, from the beginning, with no pressure and a drink in hand. Help me come up with a boozy math/science online course curriculum. [more inside]
My husband is on a perpetual hunt for Android games that are complex or challenging enough to keep his interest for more than a day or two. He enjoys RPG and puzzle games, mostly, with the occasional building or strategy game thrown in. By this point we've tried most games on various best-of lists, and he was hoping there might be some hidden gems he's not aware of. [more inside]
Facebook kindly made me aware that people are congratulating one of my closest friends on her engagement with my ex-bf. [more inside]
I am after your proven, delicious crock pot meals where all the prep can be done the night before and stuck in the fridge overnight. In the morning, everything is just dumped in the pot. [more inside]
My baby is turning one next month. To mark her first year of life, I'm mashing together 365 one-second video clips (one for each day of her life). Can you help me find the perfect background song? Some criteria beneath the fold... [more inside]
Looking for a site (ideally non-bank) that 1. offers billpay (physical checks), where they'll also mail along a physical piece of paper (invoice, etc) that the user uploads in PDF, and 2. can also send ACH payments out -- ideally would work similar to Venmo in that pulls from one bank acct and puts in another, but would *not* require the recipient also has the same app/site access. Yes, I'll have the recipients routing/acct #s. I'm ok with paying fees.
I have a video in which I'd like to feature a computer-ish sounding voice. I don't want to spend a bunch of money on software, and anything online that allows you to download an mp3 looks sketchy to me. Anything that people have used? Text to speech is fine, or uploading an audio track to switch would be okay, too.
I'm jealous and resentful of my boyfriend's ex-wife. How to move on? [more inside]
I see a therapist twice weekly following a serious history, but I'm getting frustrated with the way things are going. I've tried talking about it with him, but that hasn't helped. I think it might be time to go, but I don't know the best way to handle things. [more inside]
We had way too much bacon leftover from the fire department pancake breakfast and I came home with a 10 lb brick of frozen bacon. What do I do with this? [more inside]
I'm trying to source the quote "In the end, we only regret the changes we didn't take." The Internet says Lewis Carroll, but there's no citation on any page that attributes it to him, and it's not in Bartlett's Familiar. Can someone tell me if he wrote this, or something similar (and where)? I get the feeling this is another case of the fake quote attribution syndrome that proliferates online, but I'd like to be sure. Thanks.
We adopted a feral kitten with fleas who was treated by the vet. I am still seeing fleas on the floor in the kitten's room after almost a week. What should I do? [more inside]
In the early 90s the US Department of Energy commissioned a study about how to warn people of the far future about a nuclear waste dump. (Previously and previouslier on metafilter). Have there been any artworks - music, theater, fiction, etc. - inspired by this study?
Suggestions, please, for small, cheerful objects to include in a care package for two kids, somewhere around 11 and 16, grieving a sudden loss. [more inside]
I have come to realize that I have issues with assertiveness and am looking into therapy. How would I look into this? Would CBT be a good fit? [more inside]
That's the question, but complicated by a two-week long trip to Asia coming up and Zika. [more inside]
A friend of mine is looking to buy a new car; her top choice right now is a Kia Soul (backup choices are the Honda Fit, Mazda3 and Nissan Juke). The thing is, while she's read every review she can find, is confident she can get a good deal, and has been happy with her test drives (plural), neither of us actually knows anyone with Soul, to ask an actual owner what they think of the car, would they buy another, that sort of thing. [more inside]
I've created a character for a roleplaying game that takes place in a modern urban supernatural setting. She is a crafty, street smart hacker who is not strong but is very dexterous and good with her hands. She specializes in improvised weapons. What are some weapons that would make sense for her? [more inside]
Is it possible to get over anxiety like mine about nursing? I’m not exactly keen to try, but I feel like I’m failing at having a career before I even started. Can I still have a successful career with a nursing degree I never intend to use? [more inside]
"Refrigerate after opening" bacon bits spend 6 hours at 74 degrees: can I put them back in the fridge and continue to use them indefinitely (or over the next few weeks)? [more inside]
I am converting from Sole-Trader to a Private Limited Company (for liability reasons). I am the Director (100% share-holder) and sole person who does "the work". Do I need an accountant or a legal advisor or both? [more inside]
I have read quite a few articles that state that there's no such thing as being bad at math, that often it is just the case that you haven't had a specific subject explained to you in a way that made sense to you, or that you just have to work harder at it. That resonates with me, but clearly there's a limit to that and I wonder what that limit is. [more inside]
I recently visited Seattle in the US and saw quite a number of rainbow flags and rainbows painted on pedestrian crossings in Capitol Hill. WTF? Did I just happen in the midst of LGBT land or is there another significance I missed?
Our six month old gorgeous baby now sleeps with us -- I'd like her to be able to sleep on her own, in a crib, without the Merlin sleep suit, through the night, and gulp, in the same room as our toddler. Hope me? [more inside]
I've scoured the interwebs but can't find this info - who were the comedians who opened for Louis CK this night?
We're considering making an offer on a property in southern California (unincorporated L.A. county) with an unpermitted 30 y/o guest house. If we buy the property, we'd want to rent out the guest house. If we buy the home, can we get insurance for an unpermitted guest house which we want to rent? [more inside]
Help identify this old SF short story about a small group of interstellar colonists (maybe one or two dozen). The colonists (maybe explorers) identities and personal details were kept secret from the people on earth. I'm pretty sure I read it in a paperback anthology but it might have been in a magazine and it would have been at least 20 years ago, more likely 30. The story is probably even older. Gotcha spoiler under the fold. [more inside]
I'm trying to remember the name of a computer game I played as kid. Things I remember: - The main control room/hub was a tree - You could pick where you wanted to go from the main tree - There were several mini games accessible from the tree - maybe through tubes? - All the characters were colorful animal-like creatures Ring a bell?
I have speech software in my own voice that I want to use to help me narrate an audiobook I'm planning. But I don't have a good understanding of how to adjust the controls and adjust my voice so that it sounds less like a Cylon and more like me. [more inside]
Geography-trivia-filter: Are there notable instances of where one must temporarily exit a territory to get to another destination within it? The most notable examples are Alaska (vs. the continental US) and other exclaves, but I'm also interested in instances where one basically cuts a corner of another territory just to get around within it.
I am in training to facilitate DBT Skills Groups. Could anyone with any experience (leading or participating) share anything you found particularly helpful or particularly frustrating? Or share any tips or insight that might help a new leader? [more inside]
Help me find audiobooks I can listen to while playing pokemon. The best "page turners" that aren't too difficult to follow along with while also paying attention to the game. Female protagonists (hopefully). "The Girl on the Train" and "Gone Girl" are serviceable examples of what I am looking for. Not interested so much in stuff related to the military. The main criteria is that it is a page turner. And available as an audiobook. Thanks!
I have bad feet, but an even worst time trying to find a doctor to help me. My last doctor never read my chart before seeing me (~10 times), so he gave me a lot of cortisone shots. The new doctor is shooting lasers at my feet. I don't know how to evaluate anyone. [more inside]
Do you have examples (IRL or otherwise) of masculine-leaning women who are romantically partnered with men? [more inside]
There's a woman at work I've been thinking of asking out. I just saw her profile on a dating site. How to ask her out? [more inside]
The only perk of academia that really panned out for me was the sabbatical. I earned a year without teaching or service and it was largely productive and glorious. It's over now. Not surprisingly, heading back to regular academic life sucks. Lots of things are exactly the same (my office still doesn't have windows and it still does have cockroaches) and some things are worse in terms of working conditions, colleague behavior, and academic bureaucracy. Please tell me what you did to make returning from sabbatical not feel like returning to prison after a glorious parole . [more inside]
I am helping the local community garden with their communications. Are there any mailing list managers that don't get caught by the spam/promotions filter? We aren't marketing, just sending out information about community work days and tomato pests. [more inside]
I don't understand hacking. How is it done? [more inside]
I'm going to be flying a lot over the next year, as much as a few times per week. These will almost all be long flights, both cross-country flights in the US and overseas trips. What are your best tips to feel good and not get sick? [more inside]
Is it possible to maintain a polyamorous relationship where my partner's other partner is someone I despise? I am very much in love with someone who is married to a person I have met, talked with, and entirely hate. Do metamours typically get along? Should they in order for a relationship to be healthy? [more inside]
I'm re-reading the Aubrey and Maturin books, this time on a Kindle. Is there a custom dictionary I can use as my normal Kindle dictionary? [more inside]
I want to sing in the car, both because I won't be overheard and because I'll feel happier driving (an activity that I find inherently tense and unpleasant). But, it's difficult for me to find albums whose songs mostly have a manageable vocal range and lyrics that are either familiar or somewhat accessible. What albums have you enjoyed singing along to while you drive? Thanks in advance for any help.
I am 21 and I have never had a boyfriend. I've gotten to the point where I stare at other couples and start feeling depressed/sad. I do not really like the idea of online dating. I feel like anyone could easily find a significant other using a dating app and plus, you never know if you will get along with the person when you actually meet them. I am really shy ( I do not know if that is part of the reason why I have trouble finding someone to like me) and do not have any guy friends. I currently reside in Richmond, VA. [more inside]
Seeking optimal dining options in Omaha, at $20 or less a plate, within a 20 minute drive of the Old Market. Further parameters follow: [more inside]
I am considering renting a car for good portion of an upcoming two-week trip to Portugal and possibly Spain. I have never rented a car or driven outside North America. I have some questions about this. [more inside]
The best weddings (to me/us) seem to be the ones where the couple's tribe is invited to participate in some way. We'd love ideas for how to make this happen. [more inside]
Our lovely Russian blue has always had diarrhea, but is usually pretty good with going to the potty in the right spot. Now, however, he has started pooping right next to the litter box, onto the carpet. I sleep with him, and don't want to have to lock him up at night so would like to find a way to nip this issue in the bud. Help? [more inside]
My phone keeps spontaneously shutting down even when there's plenty of battery life left. [more inside]
I am visiting New Orleans to see some family with my two year old, so I'm looking for activities or places (touristy or otherwise) that would be good for family outings with my son. I'm open to anything, though parks and museums are probably the best bet. Even places just to spend an hour or two would be great.
I seem to remember seeing versions of the classic canvas- or leather-backed Nantucket ribbon belt that have weird/rude/subversive embroideries, little skulls or dicks instead of whales or boats. Am I imagining this?
I'm interested in the Dell Inspirion 15 5000 Series, but I'm not sure if Dell is worth the time. Chiefly, I need a good laptop for university, photography editing, blogging, writing essays, youtube, reddit, playing chess, downloading pdf files, computer programming, and possibly Minecraft. [more inside]
I am a woman in my late 30s and I have quite a bit of weight to lose. I am ready to really make a commitment to some changes, but as an extremely busy professional and new mother I don't feel like I can do this alone. I am looking for an online health/weight-loss coach who will help me make incremental changes and stick to them over the course of a year to lose about 50 pounds. I'm willing to pay generously for this. Where should I look? How do I find this? [more inside]
Basically what it says on the tin. After a long, hard, stupid year (that isn't even over yet) full of cancer (other peoples') and unemployment (mine) and general global misery, I am no fun anymore. What are some ways you have gotten your fun, your chill, your resilience, or your humor back after hard times? Open to all manner of things but it does have to be relatively inexpensive. [more inside]
If school teams are competing against each other in a league, is it unethical for a coach to be training teams from two schools within the league? Assume that both school managements are aware of the double commitment. There is a real possibility that the two teams will go up against each other head to head. I'm looking for help in thinking through the ethical reasoning, as an organization I'm involved in is trying to develop an official position on this.
I'm trying to help out a friend who recently lost all his books. His personal situation is such that he would benefit from a Kindle or other ebook reader, but there are complications including not having a credit card. [more inside]
I just gave notice at my 9-5 advertising job (yay!) to try out the freelance life, but will soon be forfeiting my awesome Macbook pro to the company store (boo!). Therefore, I am in need of a new laptop, STAT. [more inside]
Presently, I am going through one of the toughest times I have ever experienced: horrible heartbreak, and the loss of what was once my family and life. I am seeking recommendations on self help books possibly in the realm of self love, or learning to cope with loss and not blame yourself, not worrying, or getting out of your own head. What may be of more help is hearing other women (or mens) "survival," or that it DOES get better. [more inside]
I read tons of small to medium blogs, read and listen to many independent news producers from public radio to online editions of mainstream newspapers to indy news sources, and listen to dozens of different podcasts. I have started donating directly to a few of these writers and producers, but frankly, it's impossible for me to donate to all of them. What can I do to support a sustainable economy for these nonprofits/progressive media companies/small ventures/creative projects/etc? [more inside]
If this is frass (insect poop), what kind is it? I'm finding it along the edges of our sunroom and on the floor under the route of one of the beams in the center. I don't see any insects or holes. The sunroom is metal beam construction, attached to the house by studded drywall over masonry. frass one and frass two
We put in an offer to buy a house. We got a text from our buyer's agent saying it was accepted. We signed the purchase agreement, still waiting for seller signature, but he and his listing agent are suddenly non-responsive...what could be the issue here? [more inside]
I'm really interested in making films/videos/etc from still images - think Chris Marker's La Jetée. I know a bit about photography but not very much about filmmaking. I've been fiddling around in iMovie for a small project, but I would really appreciate recommendations and advice regarding both technique and technology. [more inside]
Can I get my FICO or credit score if I have a credit freeze in place with the big 3 credit reporting agencies? Would I need to remove the credit freeze in order to get my credit rating?
I'm a Canadian currently living on Copenhagen, Denmark, and my job is about to end. I want to stay here, but I don't know how best navigate the legal stuff and the logistics. Complications ensue, naturally. [more inside]
I'm in a very tough spot. Trying to figure out where to get an urgent surgery, while figuring out insurance coverage. [more inside]
I’m a tenured academic, and my once-pretty-great job is now… pretty not-great. But lots of factors mean that even in the best case, I’ll be here for a while, maybe a long while. How do I find a new position? How do I deal emotionally with the possibility that I won't, at least not soon? [more inside]
In 2005, one of the world's largest video game developers/publishers published an AAA computer/video game which appears to contain photographs I took and displayed on one of my websites which were copied directly and obviously into the game as textures. I just discovered the situation this year. Would it be likely that a lawyer could do anything about this in terms of securing payment/recognition/??? for this use of my copyrighted photographs? If so, what kind of lawyer or law firm should I be looking for and what are the typical hiring arrangements (e.g. am I likely to have to pay up front, or is this kind of thing typically taken on contingency)? Looking for general information here, not legal advice. [more inside]
I am going to pitch a DIY design TV show- could you help me figure it out? [more inside]
Question title pretty much sums it up. What's the piece? Who's the composer? [more inside]
Some time, probably in the 1970's, my mother read a trilogy of science-fiction novels. They were written by a woman author, and were about a team of space explorers. One thing that stood out about them was that all of the crew received training that divided them into "specialists" or "generalists" in whatever their chosen field was. And that's all we know. She doesn't recall ever seeing anything else by the same author, and remembers that the titles were fairly standard spacey stuff.
I will be driving from Nelson, BC, Canada to Glacier National Park (Apgar, Montana, USA). Which is the best (most scenic/interesting) route to take? [more inside]
I just finished Dragon Age: Inquisition, and I'm bereft. What else is there to play in this vein? [more inside]
I have a good friend who I met at work (same company, different division), and we have known each other a few years. In our last interaction, she behaved in a way which has put me right off and I'm trying to decide if I am being reasonable or not. [more inside]
Shallow daters of the hive ... how do you keep track of this stuff? There really should be an app that holds a screenshot and a few notes. [more inside]
Do you know any examples of the "home plate" image being used as the "home" icon? [more inside]
I like the This Is Actually Happening, Rumble Strip Vermont, Me, You, We and -to a lesser extent- Home of the Brave podcasts because they feature ordinary people talking about their weird/noble/fulfilling/quotidien experiences with a bit of production gloss thrown on top. I’m NOT interested in podcasts like The Moth or RISK!, which feature stories that the speakers have honed to a fine point and deliver as public orations. Can y’all recommend some other podcasts that fit into the first category and avoid the second? Thanks!
I have a Bank of America rewards card. I'm thinking about using the option of a BOA savings account to cash out my rewards for more cash back. Is this a mirage of a deal and will I incur unwanted financial scrutiny because of it? [more inside]
Looking for any advice on why audio is out of sync with my video when using a Samsung soundbar connected to the X1 box via optical audio. [more inside]
You know those connections where you mutually fall for a platonic friend, but you're just never single at the same time? What if it's your new dating partner who has that situation? Would you be comfortable with that? Do people actually get over their old "what if" flames? Are they happy with the people they're with when they get with someone who is not the old flame? [more inside]
Do tattoo artists ever accidentally tattoo themselves? [more inside]
I'll be visiting Scotland this week, and I'll have two days in Glasgow before I head onwards to Islay (and another day back in Glasgow before I leave). What are the condensed must-sees and must-dos? [more inside]
Whenever I want to open MeFi, access my bank accounts, open my mail, etc, I have to reenter my password. How do I fix this please?
how to ace a video interview with a panel of people? [more inside]
I'm trying to remember a book that was a gift from my aunt, a nurse, around 1980-ish. Target audience, probably 8-10 year olds. It was about how the body works, but it was a sort of eclectic bunch of anecdotes, stories, and facts, each one a page or maybe two-page spread. [more inside]
Can anyone tell me what the acceptance rate for New York University's Tisch School of the Arts drama program is? If historical information is available, I'd be looking for it around 1991 -- if not, modern-day is fine. Knowledgeable word-of-mouth or educated guesses are fine if formal stats can't be officially found. I have already found NYU's university-wide acceptance rate, but that data's not useful for me in this case.
Help me throw the best bash ever! [more inside]
Is there anywhere in the Bay Area or Los Angeles where one can get a midwest-style pork tenderloin sandwich? I am thinking of the flat, breaded, fried meat discs on a bun, sometimes with pickles, like you could get in Iowa or Missouri.
My husband and I prefer that alcohol not be brought into our home. How do we politely tell my in-laws this? [more inside]
My American husband's brand new job offers health insurance for the entire family. We (me and our child) are here in the US with him but we are Canadian and our present status is as B2 visitor (we are working on the paperwork for immigration). Are we covered by his plan, can we see a doctor here? More detailed questions inside. [more inside]
I'm hoping that I can get some recommendations for places to get married in either Devon or Somerset in England. Me and my girlfriend are hoping to get married in March-April 2017. We have three main requirements for the venue: 1) We can hire our own caterers or have self catering 2) The cost of the venue hire excluding catering is less than £3000 3) That the ceremony and reception are in the same place 4) For the wedding venue to hold roughly/up to 150 people Also, we're having trouble finding a venue like this... is there any particular terminology for a more inexpensive choice of venue as we only seem to be able to find posh mansion/expensive manor type houses at the moment.
I love dancing to 80s (and 90s) music, but with Culture Club now closed, I'm not sure where to go in New York City. Are there any new dance places that are devoted to 80s/90s music, or that have "80s nights"? Thanks!
Can you help me find CUSHIONED men’s casual shoes or sneakers that don’t run narrow, that go with khakis/chinos and jeans, and are ideally, (significantly) less than $100? [more inside]
How do I not lose my phone? I like to keep my phone out constantly so I can take pictures and the like but I run the risk of losing it. [more inside]
How did you get over recurring UTIs? What has helped you? [more inside]
I recently purged most of my music CD/DVD collection. Now, I want to listen to what's left using an external player. Are any players targeting music playback rather than burning/duplication on the market? Should I be looking for specific attributes/brands? Needs to have a USB 3 connection. Currently have an old Amazon Basic USB 2 unit that's noisy enough to hear with headphones on.
We own a house 1.5 hours from our location, and we're currently renting it. Our tenants are awesome, but they will only be able to stay for a couple of years. What should we do with this property? [more inside]
I'm fascinated by history, all kinds of history. I’d love nothing more than to wake up in a very convincing facsimile of another time—and I just found out about this. Can you help me find more? [more inside]
Am steadily repurchasing most of my favorite books I had growing up. (Gotta contribute to the economy somehow, I guess.) This was a reader, with short stories that included a condensed version of "Flat Stanley." [more inside]
I like typing in landscape but browsing in portrait. Unlocking the orientation means it turns sideways whenever I lie down. I'd really like a landscape-only text editor. Plain as you like. Markdown and Dropbox support a bonus! I have a 6 Plus, iOS 9.
Help me pick a wedding present for our friends who are getting married in the States and moving to Berlin next month! [more inside]
I'm looking for a new building manager for a 30 unit condo in Chicago [more inside]
My brother and his wife are divorcing. While I think that's probably for the best, the way they are going about it is not good. I would like to send my niece (12) and nephews (9 and 6) a letter or small something to let them know that they are loved. But I'm terrible at this sort of thing. What should I send? What should I say? [more inside]
I'm reluctantly coming to the realization that I feel uncomfortable with a longterm friendship. Due to how frequently we spend time together, I don't feel slow-fading is an option (although I'm happy to be proven wrong). How do I approach this? Should I state my reasons for wanting to end the friendship? Is it even reasonable or kind to do so? [more inside]
Husby and I are running the Paris-Versailles on September 25. Where should we go after? Constraints inside. [more inside]
I like to fall asleep listening to podcasts. I also like wearing earplugs so living in a noisy city doesn't wake me in the night. Can I do both with one magical set of headphones? [more inside]
I'll be having major surgery next month. The doctors say I will be on opioid painkillers for 2-4 weeks. I'm worried they will give me digestive problems, as I have a sensitive stomach. My other issue is staying in shape while recovering. It has taken me a year to get to my current fitness level. Doctor says no workouts besides walking and physical therapy for 1-2 months. I'm very concerned I will lose the muscle I have worked hard for, and gain fat. Any advice on either issue?
We want to live together; our budgets are different by 50-100%. Right now I just want to cover the difference and get us into a place we love--but will I regret it later? Snowflake details inside [more inside]
Once upon a time, probably decades ago, I saw a short animated video about conception. The sperms came barreling toward the egg and I believe Laurie Anderson narrated the gripping tale of how would you feel if you were the egg under this attack. I can't find any reference to this little gem on Ms Anderson's wiki and I'm sure I did not dream it. Have you seen it? Did someone else narrate it? Can you find it anywhere? Thanks for your consideration.
Geographic distance from my parents will not be the only factor I'll weigh when deciding where next to live, but it will be one of them. How might distance affect my relationship with my parents? How has it, in your own experience? What changes as I zoom out from living in the same city, to the same metro area, or to merely the same coast? [more inside]
If you'd asked me a few months ago, I would have told you my gig was pretty sweet, but that was before ... THE INCIDENT! [dramatic music cue] Now I need to decide if I want to stick around (blizzard of snowflakes inside). [more inside]
Writing a friend a birthday poem, and looking for funny, punny jokey nicknames and friendly insults for frat boy types - the kind of guy whose interests might include: beer, workouts, televised sports, axe body spray, snack food, protein shakes, bro culture. [more inside]
Planning to be in the Hell's Canyon area next summer and want to do a two or three day rafting trip but the options are overwhelming. We will be flying into Boise and then driving to near Spokane for a personal errand. How can we best work in a rafting trip? [more inside]
How do I get an email address I don't have to spell? [more inside]
I've been named a witness in a sexual discrimination case and am unsure how to respond. [more inside]
Last recipe management question was quite some time ago. What are current suggestions for Recipe Management? [more inside]
I love the stylish psychological thriller/film noir movie genre as exemplified by The Gift, Gone Girl, Vertigo, North by Northwest, and Birthday Girl. What other similarly stylish, thrilling, twisty, and not too gory movies can you suggest?
It's been almost two months since I left a place of employment which had become very bad for me. I still can't get over it. Why am I so stuck on this? [more inside]
I found a thumb drive online claiming to hold 2 terabytes for $16. For no good reason, I bought it. It must be a fraud, and now I'm afraid to even plug it in. [more inside]
So my spouse bought us some Sudafed on Saturday, the real stuff that you have to turn over your driver's license for. Then we forgot it in the car and it spent all day in the glovebox. [more inside]
Bob was banned from all our events by the organization I founded and help run, but then recently showed up at one of our events. When confronted by myself, another org member (Jenny), and the event space host, Bob immediately tried arguing with us and appealing to Jenny because "we're friends" and "I emailed [Jenny] about it." Jenny said she didn't like drama, told him it was a misunderstanding and that he wasn't really banned. How do we as an org handle the fallout from this? Full story inside, names changed to preserve anonymity. [more inside]
I have two cats, 8 and 5 years old (neutered males). They're very sweet, but they are destructive terrors. What can I do? Have you had this problem and fixed it? [more inside]
A friend gave me a big hunk of aged provolone. This morning, I grated a little bit of it into my scrambled egg and it was effing delicious. Next up, melty slices of it on a hot Italian beef sub sandwich. How else can I use this cheese to best effect?
I want to purchase a new beside table, and I'm having a hard time finding something I want - which is basically white, wood, lots of drawers. More details! [more inside]
In the classic Total Recall there's an amazing scene of Sharon Stone receiving virtual tennis instruction. There's an incredible jogging scene in 2001. I am probing the hive to find more depictions of science fictional takes on personal fitness, training and athletics. I am more interested in futuristic and novel forms of exercise rather than the usual dystopian violence of things like "Rollerball". What does the gym of the future look like?
Public health, health informatics, health administration, human computer interaction, educational technology, and user experience design...these are a few of my fa-vor-ite thiiings! I'm a teacher who's considering a career switch. Can you help me think this through? [more inside]
I assume a network admin can tell if someone is torrenting Game of Thrones or actively watching pornography. But if I Slack someone in private "Man, Brian is the fucking worst," is that readable to you guys (I know, I know, none of you would ever care to—but is it possible?). If I send an email from my personal Gmail account over a work network, same deal is that readable? Again, I know most corporate IT folks would rather do almost anything rather than eavesdrop on what the idiots in marketing are emailing each other—just curious if it's possible.
A few years ago I asked a question about my completely destroyed life and the advice on the green was to attend to my physical problems first. Unfortunately that has not gone well. My brain is more broken than ever. I'm not sure what to do next. [more inside]
My friend thinks several of our mutual friends hate her. This is not true, but she is convinced that it is. She has taken to lashing out at me if I spend time with any of these people without her. [more inside]
Trying to DIY an extension to the electrical harness inside my exercise machine. If I can find a match for this 10-pin connector, that'd be ideal. [more inside]
More than one such service exists. Do they work? Are they worth it? Should I sign up? [more inside]
Somebody gets killed in the street, but it's a street with a difficult name, in either Edinburgh or Glasgow. A policeman moves the body around the corner and is asked why, and he says, I can spell the name of this street for my report. Anyone have a reference for this? [more inside]
Do I try to keep this friendship, or do I jump ship? [more inside]
Who made A&P's house brand chicken hot dogs, and where can I buy them today? [more inside]
Microsoft discontinued support for its Microsoft Money software several years ago. I'm still using their Sunset / Deluxe version 17 and I am dreading the day that it will no longer work on future versions of Windows (I barely got it going on Windows 10, so it can't last forever). What are some alternatives to Microsoft Money? [more inside]
I am looking for good books of Sailor Jerry-esque tattoo designs. It doesn't have to be specifically Sailor Jerry's stuff, just anything resembling a classic American traditional style. I am not interested in getting a tattoo, I just want to see lots of pictures of them. [more inside]
Can you help my fiancé remember the name of a singer who had a cable access show in the 1980s, and who sang arias very badly? [more inside]
I'm trying to get a mystery illness diagnosed and need a way to keep all the labs organized so I can show each new doctor. [more inside]
Heading to Manhattan in mid-October to see a friend for a couple of days with my spouse and would like info on the LES v SoHo. [more inside]
I'd like to do something particular with a table in Word 2016. Can you tell me how? [more inside]
The Rio Olympics just concluded, and they were great. I'm an Olympics-lover, so any Olympics are fun, but these seemed better than usual, and there is some support for that. So why were these so good? [more inside]
When I got my iPhone, it came with a Lightning charger cable that went almost a year before I had to hold it at a certain angle in order to keep my iPhone charging. I have bought various replacements on eBay that appeared to be genuine, but got the same problem MUCH quicker with these. Is there anywhere I can get an actual genuine cable that will last, without paying a fortune? [more inside]
My guy and I are going through a time that features us both facing real-life hard times. The struggles are temporary and we'll be okay. Never, though, have we faced so clearly our need for comedy movies that aren't bad to some people. Can you help us with light-hearted stuff that will distract us a bit when we need that? [more inside]
Can you recommend really good, extremely well-padded running shoes that actually absorb impact very well?Due to early onset osteoporosis I have to be mindful of impact on my bones. Yet I love running; it's by far my favorite way to keep fit and I've had a hard time giving it up even though it can potentially cause fractures on weakened bones. [more inside]
I am looking for a good cookbook that emphasizes fresh vegetables and fruits and contains mix and match meal plans with rough caloric amounts for each meal. [more inside]
I'd like to do a standing desk in my extremely narrow home office (a.k.a closet). My space is pretty limited -- I actually think the Oristand I've ordered as a pedestal may be deeper than my actual desk, but I can deal with that. I'll have a keyboard at hand height and laptop at eye height, but I don't have additional room on the pedestal for my lightweight 24" monitor. I'd like to move the monitor up and down -- about a 3 ft. traverse. [more inside]
I have a very ugly, troubled relationship history with "Carol." Recently she quite unexpectedly asked to meet for lunch. I do not know what to do. [more inside]
I sent my novel manuscript to a reputable small press and, to my delight, got an offer! But then I received the proposed contract, and it has a number of provisions that are making me unwilling to sign it as is. What should I do? How do I do it? [more inside]
This might seem like a stupid question, but how do people who have hair that requires blowdrying and have to wake up before their partners manage that? Hair care product and/or relationship tips both welcome! [more inside]
In "Go Fish", is it legal to call for a card one doesn't have?
Just for curiosity's sake is there a list somewhere of the athletes who managed to defend their title at the 2016 Olympics? I haven't been able to find one! [more inside]
My jar of store-bought kimchi has white stuff growing on it. I suspect it's yeast. Can I still eat it if I discard the yeasty parts? [more inside]
Is it safe to say that there is always a rainbow visible in the sky somewhere on Planet Earth? Relatedly, is it possible to estimate the average number of rainbows visible across the planet at a given moment?
While travelling through Wyoming, we saw these fences quite a bit, but we didn't understand what they are for... [more inside]
Wound up with a 2008 Suzuki SX4, FWD, 110k miles due to a long story that isn't relevant. Entered a car nightmare, and I need a plan for what to do next. I am confused, stressed out and too drugged up for this. [more inside]
How do I get Firefox (47.0.1) to stop asking me about Flash? I want to answer "Yes, I want Flash to run here, there, and everywhere, always! Stop nagging me!" [more inside]
I have some home movies from 1965-67 that I would like to have digitized. The film is Kodachrome Color Movie Film, 8mm. I'm pretty nervous about sending it off to be converted but there's no place that can do it locally. Can you recommend a reliable service?
What can I send as a welcome gift to an older couple who are moving from Syria to the United States? [more inside]
About six weeks ago, a friend/ex-fwb wrote a facebook message to me that made me uncomfortable - it sexualized our friendship and didn't respect the boundaries I had set for it. This was after a few times when I had told him he was going too far, and I finally laid into him. 4 weeks later, he committed suicide. I have so many weird feelings about this, and I want advice about processing the death of someone and the guilt I feel about my last interactions with him. [more inside]
Our refrigerator froze, and a bottle of Concerta extended-release pills spent between 12 and 24 hour at a temperature between 1 and 0 degrees C. Are they still okay after only 1 day frozen-ish? Or do we need to toss them and buy a new batch?
I'm not sure how I ended up with a copy of Ear to the Ground, but I find myself listening to it quite frequently these days. Can you recommend similar political protest-y albums or histories? [more inside]
I'm a 23 year old trans woman who lives with my religious parents, deeply closeted. I need to move out as soon as I can, and I think I'm figuring all that stuff out okay... I just don't know how to get myself to actually do it. And I don't know how to approach my parents about any of this. I know I am going to hurt them and I know they've given me no choice, but I'm still feeling a lot of guilt over it. Convince me I'm doing the right thing :/ [more inside]
Why can't I get over my artwork being ignored? [more inside]
I am a born-and-raised meat eater looking to cook up some tasty vegan meals. Difficulty: tofu/tempeh/fake-meats of various varieties freak me out. [more inside]
Along in the late 1970s when I was in grammar school, we watched a film in class that had a catchy tune about "Mecology" -- the idea being that ecology is relevant to you and "me." What was this film? (Could it have had something to do with being on a spaceship, or is my memory playing tricks on me?) [more inside]
The last time this question was asked was back in 2009, so just wanted to see if anyone had any advice or recommendations for getting a super old LJ printed into some sort of keepsake book. [more inside]
I am watching Chef's Table. I love good food and dream to go to Massimo Bottura's restaurant some day... some day. Until then I am hoping to find some place in Boston that has a chef that loves food as much as him! It's for a birthday celebration but doesn't need to be fancy or amazing service or anything - just terrific, inventive food. Do I have to go to New York or is there something here in Massachusetts?
I'm in the midst of a job search. I have an interview with Company A scheduled early the week after next. I have a final phone interview (i.e. the round before an in person interview) with Company B scheduled late next week. (There are also Companies C and D, much earlier in the process.) Do I tell B that they're potentially going to run into a time crunch? What do I say? [more inside]
I have a ginormous Rosemary bush which I need to trim back to manageable amounts (at the moment it covers our path, which is obviously not ideal). I like Rosemary with lamb, but theres limited variations on that. Are there any recipes where Rosemary might not be the obvious thing to use? Does it freeze? Any other non-obvious uses? I've offered it to neighbours but it doesnt seem to be a thing amongst my mainly Asian/Afro-Carribean neighbours, but if there's a way of giving it away I'm all for it!
Women and shoppers-in-women's clothes of Metafilter, I have been gladdened by the appearance this summer of women's denim shorts with actual inseams! But I've only seen them in the wild, and haven't found any in stores. If you've bought some can you tell me where? Criteria inside. [more inside]
I am thinking about replacing and refreshing a lot of things in my home, and I would really like to start my research with an eye towards ease of keeping stuff clean. What kind of product features, materials, etc. do you find make them easier to clean (and keep clean) than other products in the same category? [more inside]
I wasn't honest with my partner for several months about my feelings for her. She told me weeks ago that she wanted to spend the rest of her life with me. I did not feel the same way, and to avoid hurting her feelings I didn't tell her. When I did tell her two days ago, instead of being happy, she felt I betrayed her trust. It really hurt her to learn that I was hiding my feelings. She says she can't be sure I won't continue to hide my feelings from her. How do I rebuild her trust? [more inside]
I'm wondering where department stores get things like the books they use as incidental decorations in e.g. the furniture section. [more inside]
Can you help me be a better trail runner, and train for a hilly San Francisco half? [more inside]
I like plans, but I generally have no idea where things are going from year to year with my son's education (he is now 13). He's bright, and half-way through a degree course. We fumble a new plan each year, but I still don't really know exactly what we would best do next and what distant destination we should be aiming for. We're in New Zealand. [more inside]
Please recommend me some new-ish critical/theoretical/academic writing on new-ish horror. [more inside]
My friend came into possession of a 100-year-old maths textbook, and the front page contains handwritten text, apparently written in shorthand. Neither he nor I can read any form of shorthand, and Googling has proven fruitless, but he would love to get some idea of what it says.
I'm likely moving to California at the start of October. Recently, the location has tentatively changed to San Jose. I don't want this to happen, so please convince me that San Jose is the worst place ever, or give me some reasons for why it's really not that bad. [more inside]
Mrs. Gefilte and I have a ten year old Maytag/Whirlpool top-loading washing machine with a direct-drive motor. It's been working fine for a while, but lately, intermittently, clothes will still end up sopping wet after the spin cycle. It's now constant, and very annoying. [more inside]
Hello all, my mom is disabled and homebound. She just received a retirement check from the people who manage the retirement for her old job, and now she doesn't know how to cash it. The check is around 1800 dollars and made out to my mom. [more inside]
Reform Jew, returning somewhat to the fold; kids are starting Hebrew and Sunday school, and my son and husband will need their own kippot at some point. The world is full of awful yarmulkes! We're Clevelanders, for example, but are not super into a kippah with a hook-nosed ethnic caricature. So, a kouple kippah kwestions: [more inside]
I hand-paint glassware with alcohol inks for sale on Etsy and hopefully in local places. While I had just been doing things like candle holders, I'm now making items that would see more daily use, like mugs and teacups. I'm looking for some ways to make sure the ink will stay intact during normal use. More inside. [more inside]
In search of a short fiction story probably linked off a former AskMefi comment thread). [more inside]
I've crossed a bunch of plants with one another, and now have a bunch of berries on those plants. Each berry can contain way more seeds than I have room to pot up and grow out individually, so I'm trying to find the point of diminishing returns, where potting up additional seedlings stops giving me new and interesting results, but my math background is inadequate. [more inside]
I want to do something like "Airplane mode" only for biking. I want to be able to toggle a group of settings every time I go for a bike ride, without having to check each one individually. The goal would be to press one button at the start of the ride and then undo it all at the end. [more inside]
Looking for botanist/gardener/scout/lumberjane input on whether this reddish and greenish plant is poison ivy. [more inside]
I need your best recipes, techniques, tricks, and ideas for baked goods for a single person. Important note - NO MICROWAVE MUG CAKES. [more inside]
I'm looking for writing that deals with the day-to-day business of being a psychiatrist. Think Do No Harm by Henry Marsh, but by/about a psychiatrist instead of a neurosurgeon. [more inside]
I am interested in looking at art made for the web. Can you provide great examples? [more inside]
My wife and I have talked for a long time about quitting our jobs and traveling the world with our kids for a year or so. Well, I just quit my job, and my wife is consulting without a fixed location, so there's no time like now if it's going to happen. Should we stay or should we go? Lots of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I have a houseguest arriving next week. The house where she's currently catsitting has fleas. My house and cats don't have fleas, and I'd like to keep it that way. Anything we should do? [more inside]
What is the name of the machine that pawnshops use to test precious metals that are tendered for sale? For instance, they can tell which silver rounds are knockoffs and are just silver plated.
I've got several hardcover collections of Shakespeare but what I'm craving is a paperback version that can open/lay flat, with clear and legible text and quality paper -- annotations and footnotes are welcome but introductory essays and extensive commentary aren't required. The Amazon reviews of various editions are unhelpful because, due to some odd algorithm, they don't all correspond to the actual editions on sale. Can anyone recommend an edition that fits my specifications? Thanks in advance!
I am wondering if anyone has taken courses through University of the People. www.uopeople.edu? [more inside]
I'm new to swimming and I really like the Total Immersion approach because it breaks down swimming into steps. I bought the Easy Freestyle Swimming DVD, and I'm finding it's a little too fast for me. There are so many TI books, YouTube videos and DVDs I'm not sure where to start. Unfortunately there are no TI coaches anywhere near me. Which TI DVD should I go with?
Last week I decided to enter a Long Distance Relationship with a person I’ve never met in person. I like him and he likes me… but I also feel he may like me too much for a person he’s never met? Or perhaps I’m misreading him or overthinking, which I am prone to do. How do I handle this? Details within. [more inside]
I stopped wearing earrings for a couple years due to grabby baby hands, and now my ears hate me whenever I try again. I haven't bought earrings since high school, either, so I think I need to level-up from Claire's. What kind of earrings should I buy, and from where? I just want simple studs or hoops, is there some kind of basic earring supply website in 2016 where I wouldn't need to buy in bulk?
I need to know if it's possible to run a slide show of someone else's FB photos during a memorial service....Snowflakes of course... [more inside]
I'm seeking specific recommendations for shoes that make your feet appear/feel less long than they are. [more inside]
My wife and I are planning to travel from Ontario, Canada to Seattle this coming week. My wife is 6 months pregnant and she's heard some things about needing documentation about being insured for pregnancy related health issues and that if she doesn't have such documentation, she could be turned away at the U.S. Customs check. Does anyone know if this is true or not? What kind of documentation does she need to bring with her?
I live in Australia. When I start typing an address or landmark into my android phone on the google maps app, the top suggestions Google gives until my typing is complete are 99% NZ places, mostly from the parts of New Zealand I visit once a year or so. And then I often accidentally click on one instead of the correct address. It's driving me crazy. Has anyone seen this sort of behaviour before? How can I make it stop? [more inside]
Traveling in, out and around the EU Schengen zone on an American passport that includes an EU student visa before finishing the residence permit process? [more inside]
Our realtor said the design or floorplan of our new house is known as "Women's Day," because it was featured in the magazine of the same name back in the early 1970's, and was popular because of that. A Google search is yielding nothing. Perhaps it was a different magazine?? Perhaps it was the late 1960's? [more inside]
I recently finished editing my grandfather's memoir and I'm wondering what institutions may be interested in a copy. He is a German Jew (b. Halberstadt) who left for San Francisco in 1934. Topics: his early childhood (family life, local businesses, Jewish life/education, shifts under Nazi regime), the voyage, a good deal about growing up in San Francisco in the 30s and 40s, some WWII Army engineer anecdotes of France/Belgium, Berkeley in the 50s, the technology industry, MIT in the 60s, and more. [more inside]
I'm moving from the East Coast to Los Angeles in the next few weeks. It is intended to be a permanent move, but I will be staying at an Airbnb for the first couple of months while I apartment-hunt, etc. In studying the California DMV guidelines here I see that I will need to provide a residential address to print on the license (even if I use a PO Box for my mail.) Is there any way around this? [more inside]
My parents are giving me an old buffet table for my new place. But it needs refinishing. But the piece is made up of different kinds of woods, and has some pretty intricate carvings. What's the best way to refinish it? [more inside]
We (a group of theatre/film types) are thinking of doing our own mp3 experiment, in the style of Improv Everywhere. We can handle the logistics: production of the mp3 files, email lists, filming. I have some legal concerns: [more inside]
Came home this evening to a right mess in the kitchen and dining room. My lodger's daughters (11yo and 9yo) had been left unsupervised in his room - they claimed not to know where he was or what time he'd be back. Surprise, surprise, he was in the pub. His response was underwhelming to say the least. Avalanche of rantings... [more inside]
I need a job where I can make $1000 a month after taxes. The catch? I have serious health problems and limited skills. Much more info inside. [more inside]
After several recent experiences being ogled in a very obvious way, I would like to learn how to respond (or how to let it go). [more inside]
Friday night the hard drive my Steam and Origin games were installed on died the death of the dreaded click. All is fixed, except for the Windows 10 uninstall programs menu. [more inside]
I was informed this week during an IUD insertion that I have a small uterus. This was news to me. Looking back at prior ultrasound results, I see that the height of my uterus has shrunk from 6.9 cm in 2011 to 4 cm now. [more inside]
About ten years ago (in grade school), I had an amazing teacher who had a huge, extremely positive impact on my life. I've seen him a few times since then, but never really thanked him for everything he did for me. How do I now say THANK YOU/give a thank you gift without being awkward about it? [more inside]
I've been offered a free used camera. I have a choice of two: (1) a Panasonic Lumix LX7, or (2) a Panasonic Lumix ZS25 (sticker on front: 16x Optical Zoom, 32x Intelligent Zoom, Leica lens). I know nothing about cameras or photography, and I would like a camera that is easy to use. What are the main differences between these two cameras? What is each better for? Which one of these cameras should I chose, and what considerations should I be weighing? I have the two cameras here, so I can clarify anything in a follow-up. Thanks!
I have super wide feet that aren't all that long--a size 7 or 7 ½ women's. But my feet are 4 inches wide at the toes. Help me find masculine or gender neutral shoes, please! [more inside]
Dear Hive Mind, my girlfriend and I recently spent an enjoyable couple of hours at a karaoke bar in Bangkok. In between song selections the karaoke system played some fun Asian pop tunes which I'd love to find again: can you help? I managed to record some short video clips, but playing these back to Shazam hasn't helped, so I've loaded them online. [more inside]
What cities should I be considering for my job search/living in as an LGB tech geek considering my other criteria inside? [more inside]
My 42 year old sister is going to camp. I want to send her a care package appropriate for a kid at camp in the 1980s. [more inside]
I'm a guy starting to get serious about online video, including YouTube. It's well known that pretty much all the big, successful male YouTubers use some makeup to help them look better for the camera. How can I learn to do this? [more inside]
I have a four leaf clover that is very important to me; I pressed it successfully between the pages of a book. How can I preserve it going forward? [more inside]
We are looking for information on orthodontic treatments (appliances, specifically the "Bimler" appliance to correct an underbite) and I am struggling to find the right forum (reddit? other?) to discuss orthodontics from a user's point-of-view. Thanks in advance for any guidance to appropriate forums.
I'm about to enter my senior year of college as a Computer Science major with pretty much the worst profile possible: a just-above-being-kicked-out GPA, no internships or relevant experience, no extracurriculars, no well-developed skills. Is there any way I can make myself employable in the next 10 months? [more inside]
I am in a difficult living situation and I need to receive some documents through the mail without a) the people I'm living with or b) my family knowing about the documents. Is a P.O. box sufficiently secret/private for this? (I'm in the US) [more inside]
What are the best ways not to get myself buying a PC in a hurry? [more inside]
We tried to drill holes to put in a bookshelf, now have two unsightly holes and the wall anchor still doesn't want to go in. Help! We're really new at this stuff. [more inside]
I am about to have my first pure vacation in about 10 years. And I want to do it in Hawaii. Travel-savvy MeFites, please help me make this one good. Difficulty rating: there's a "someone new" involved. [more inside]
I want to read journals and letters by people in their fifties and sixties. It could be anyone, anywhere, any century. I prefer good writing, and some levity. Most of all I'm looking for a sense of personality, text that brings the writer to life. The writer in his/her late middle age has lived several decades. They are settled in themselves, yet they still struggle. They look forward to years ahead, and they ponder mortality. What do they have to say? [more inside]
I'm considering visiting Miami for a few days over Thanksgiving. What do you recommend for a first-time visitor? [more inside]
So I have a thrift store soy milk maker and one thing led to another and now I have a 60 lb. sack of dried soy beans. What can I do, besides soy milk? Tofu is an easy answer, but what else?
my friend needs a way to get her iphone 6 de-linked from an icloud account owned by her abusive soon-to-be ex husband because he is using it to stalk her. [more inside]
How do you set limits and keep from getting too attached to someone you've started dating? [more inside]
[ADHD filter] I want to become a more reliable and dependable person. If you are a former 'unreliable' or 'not dependable' person who is now considered to be very reliable and punctual (at work as well as among friends and family), how did you change? What steps did you take? What lifestyle changes did you make? [more inside]
Leaving my car at EWR while I go play in the Black Rock Desert dust for 2 weeks ... [more inside]
I was involved in a sideswipe accident on the freeway yesterday. It turns out the the other driver and I both have Progressive Insurance. I spoke with the investigator today, and apparently she is also acting as the investigator for the other driver. My Google searches about this have turned up a lot of mentions of 'conflict of interest', and that it probably isn't great for the customer. What should I watch out for? Should I request a second investigator (I feel like that would be rocking the boat quite a bit....)? Is this actually allowed? Any and all info is greatly appreciated - this is my first auto incident. Thanks!
I've had an aloe in a large pot for the last 10+ years and it has grown to be HUGE. We want to re-pot it, and upon taking it out of its container noticed that its root is about 2 feet long. Will the plant live if we lob off half the root and re-pot it? If we were able to do that, we'd be able to keep it in the pot it is in now which takes up less space. Somewhat urgent question as there is aloe and dirt all over the front yard!
My life lately has been pretty awful. I'm trying to fix it, but it's hard to focus on the good a lot of the time. Snowstorm under the fold. [more inside]
1. Any speculation as to whether Peter Thiel would share in (or entirely commandeer) Hulk Hogan's award from the litigation Thiel paid for? If so, how would this have been locked in (given that the check will surely be cut in Hogan's name)? Via private contract at the time Thiel started paying, or via handshake, or...? 2. Will Nick Denton likely make anything at all from the Univision sale? Or would this probably be a total wash for him, personally?
Excel experts and fundraising professionals, ho! I work for a small non-profit and we're currently transitioning from a janky FilemakerPro database to NeonCRM. I have all the data spread across three spreadsheets and my brain is collapsing trying to figure out the best way to deal with it. What's the best/most efficient way to compare data between three separate spreadsheets, and manipulate it into the format I need for this import? All the necessary/boring details lie within! [more inside]
We are three humanities grad students who have been given a budget of $2500 to learn some "technical skills" that will benefit our digital humanities project (in Drupal). What should we spend our dollars on? Details inside. [more inside]
We're growing (yay!) but we need a more regular way for about twenty people to access (mostly hard science) academic peer-reviewed journals. Do you and your org have subscriptions you're really satisfied with? [more inside]
Your tips for organizing a men's closet (mine). I don't have too many clothes, but it seems that after organizing things (folding tshirt, stacking them) everything is a mess within a couple of days. What's going on? How can I improve?
I'd like to be smart about my next pair of sneakers. I'd rather not have different pair of shoes for everything I do athletically since I play sports a couple times a month.. Have any recommendations (male, wear orthotics)? Requirements: - Play tennis monthly - Play basketball monthly (indoor/outdoors) - Be able to go on ~2-3 mile jogs - Be able to throw them on for walks in the neighborhood or long walking day(so no bright garish colors-grey or blue) So far I'm thinking about getting some low-cut basketball shoes. Thoughts?
I am looking for a printer. The kids seem to have subtly destroyed my old Epson Stylus 740. I am now seeking another inkjet which: supports 3rd party cartridges, and will still print B&W if the color is empty. From the research I've done, this looks suspiciously like I'm looking for an old printer. [more inside]
Hubby wants a good pair of binoculars to watch the ships go by on the Hudson. [more inside]
I'm an underemployed librarian up for a job I'm really interested in. I'm very qualified and had a great phone interview... catch is, it includes grant writing and I've never done this. Tell me how to learn to write grants! Do I take a course or is it doable to teach myself? [more inside]
Why did Audacity distort a recording? [more inside]
I will be flying (within the US) in a few days. I also have a yeast infection that I am treating with homemade boric acid capsules. What do? [more inside]
I'm an anxious, ADHD serial procrastinator and I hate it and sh*t is hitting the fan. It's a longstanding pattern. Is there any hope? How can I possibly move past this? [more inside]
How can I get a fresh clean feeling in my mouth without brushing my teeth or chewing gum? [more inside]
My friend and I have had a fantastic 50th birthday vacation in the Galapagos (without luggage, but that's a different story!). We've been staying a boutique hotel. The staff had not only cleaned our room but provided us with breakfast and about half of our dinners. What's the appropriate amount to tip? Searches suggest $1 per day for cleaning staff, but that doesn't seem like enough.
In the last several years, I have gone from a fearless person who would go anywhere to a very careful and cautious driver who only takes back roads and avoids bridges and even small overpasses in town. [more inside]
I started out as Emma. But I've turned into Miss Bates. [more inside]
My kids (six and eight years old) want to see Harry Potter & The Cursed Child, but the recommended age on the website is 10 years old. I'm trying to avoid spoilers, so I'm reluctant to do too much googling on this. And I'd strongly prefer to see the play before I read the text. So, I'm hoping some MeFites have seen the play and can advise. How would you say it compares in scariness and overall intensity to (for example) the Harry Potter movies? [more inside]
I have a few hundred photos on Facebook that I'd like to hide in batches, so only I can see them. Either this is impossible to do (reasonably) quickly, or Facebook's delightful UI is throwing me. [more inside]
How do I find the balance between being Donald Trump and being a charity? I need advice on what might be a reasonable rent increase for a flat that I rent out. [more inside]
Recent bipolar diagnosis and some confusion about what I'm doing and how to manage or even it's at all possible. [more inside]
My identity was stolen last year [more inside]
The other day I noticed that my tree is turning brown. What could the cause be? (linked photos) [more inside]
I've been to Seattle a lot, and am sick of going where Yelp tells me to* I hope you can help me find the awesomest foods (bonus for cocktails/beer) in the city. *except Taylor's Oysters. Love me some Taylor's Oysters.
What are things you can do to make yourself an attractive candidate for an apprenticeship? How do tattoo artists get their start? How do you market yourself? Outside of an apprenticeship what are the sort of things you'd recommend for cultivating skills necessary to become a tattoo artist? Recommended youtube channels, podcasts, learning resources, agility exercises? Any inside knowledge about the industry would be appreciated. [more inside]
I need help putting a name to my gender identity. This feels stupid to me, but I seem to be having some difficulty with this, and would appreciate it if the internet would kindly put me out of my misery. [more inside]
I'm about to be teaching a baby to eat. Is there updated guidance on the best order for introducing solid foods? [more inside]
Ok, so I've gotten myself into the crazy situation of needing to plan an activity for several hundred children related to a Captain Underpants themed interactive display. [more inside]
And maybe give me some historical / religious context here into the mind of a premillennialist man of God. [more inside]
I work for an outdoor adventure company that is expanding into full day enrichment programs in a very low income school system. We are trying to expand our general equipment (hula hoops, bean bags, pinnies, etc) at the lowest cost and I've become extremely frustrated trying to find the best price among so many different websites. Any helpful websites or resources would be greatly appreciated! [more inside]
I know a healthy mid 30s male who wants to try progesterone cream. I know this is stupid, but is it dangerous? [more inside]
Yay, the wife has scored a kayak camping permit for Tomales Bay, California a couple weekends from now. We've paddled in TB a few times (including the highly recommended bioluminescence tour), but never camped overnight. The permit isn't tied to any one site, and apparently they're first come first serve. Can anyone here recommend a beach that they particularly enjoyed camping at?
Is there anywhere I can watch a video of the men's 200m final without having the results spoiled? [more inside]
2016 is the first year that my LLC will elect to be taxed as an S Corp. I'm confused about how this works and my CPA has disappeared, and I'm about to move out of state and want to understand this process more when I hire a new one. Can you give me a better sense about how I should estimate my taxes on distributions so I can save properly? [more inside]
What's the best and most cost-effective way to ship paintings from Vancouver to Massachusetts, preferably without traveling to Vancouver? [more inside]
My eyeliner goes alllll over by 2pm. What is the best liner to stay put? [more inside]
My dad (in the UK) has a list of Vanguard ETF's he would like to buy using his youinvest account. The list includes the symbol for each ETF, but he's sometimes getting multiple returns when he searches his account using the symbol, and so he's confused as to which one to buy. In addition, if he searches using the ETF name, sometimes he gets returns and sometimes not. Please help me help him work this out. [more inside]
I'm applying for a management position. It is within my current job field, and my boss would still be my boss. The two year supervisory/management requirement is a hard rule. HR is just that way. It's a position which I completely qualify for, in terms of skills and experience but not in that perfect way. [more inside]
Pretty basic. Applied for a job in a technical field. It said, degree required so I was surprised I got an email and it looked like a three person interview set up pretty quickly. Then it got weird. [more inside]
What device do I need to stream Netflix etc... to my not-wifi-capable TV? [more inside]
I can't remember the title, artist, or lyrics, so this is a shot in the dark. It was an Americana song, female sung. It was possibly more toward the Iris DeMent/John Prine end of that spectrum than the alt.country end. It was a somewhat comedic story song recounting the lust and excitement of a young couple saving themselves for marriage. [more inside]
Can you give me examples of behaviors "everybody knows" who has grown up in a specific climate, but is never talked about so no one ever thinks to explain this to people new to this climate? I'm especially interested in examples of where this lack of forewarning has caused problems. My example below the cut. [more inside]
I want to learn more murder ballads - specifically American ones (though if you really want to recommend something from another tradition I'm not going to complain). I spend a lot of time singing to myself while doing housework or knitting and so would prefer to learn arrangements that can be easily and satisfyingly sung without accompaniment. Thank you!
Started making a very spicy pasta sauce and ended up going to the movies. Now I have something resembling very hot salsa but with the herbs of pasta sauce. How do I salvage this? [more inside]
What are the weird, pebbled round things washing up in their hundreds on Devon and Cornwall beaches, as reported here? (Daily Mail link, sorry.)
After purchasing the Gawker Media assets, Univision will be shutting Gawker (as in the site) down in the next week. I have enjoyed reading the news, political coverage, and the championing of progressive causes in Gawker's often cutting, but humorous tone. SO! Where to next? [more inside]
I'm looking for books with nerdy protagonists, especially academically inclined nerds. Any genre, though I'm especially interested in fiction about the real life of a nerd. I'm interested in middle grade, YA, and adult. It can be mystery, fantasy, or science fiction. Examples of what I'm looking for: I enjoy Flavia de Luce's interest in chemistry in the series by Alan Bradley. As far as realistic fiction goes, I like the style of the Princess Diaries though Mia's not as nerdy as what I'm looking for. I'm particularly interested in protagonists who like math. Thanks!
I failed the Google. I need sources on "everyday" stuff as it would have been experienced in Lombardy, around 1600. Lots of different household types and social classes. I know this is super niche but I've seen some history buff types on here before so... maybe? [more inside]
Now that I have stopped crying over the closure of Gawker.com, slated to begin next week, I am looking for my happiest times. [more inside]
I'm not a gamer, I don't have a console, I do have a laptop, I've been stress eating because of the US election, and I need something to do for a couple hours at a time here and there to get my mind off of this dumpster fire that isn't "eating my weight in ice cream while weeping." But I know nothing about current games out there. The absolute snowflakiest game recommendation request within. [more inside]
Mr. BlahLaLa, Kid BlahLaLa and I are ready for new iPhones. We currently each have a 4s, and a family plan with AT&T. Figuring this out is mindboggling. Help. [more inside]
We (two humans + our dog master) had loosely planned to take the ferry from Victoria to Port Angeles next week and spend 5 days roadtripping around the Olympic Peninsula, but the park itself isn't very dog friendly. Is it worth going over anyways and checking out other spots? Anyone spent time out there with a dog, recommendations on places to explore? [more inside]
When you think of numbers, do they have some specific, reliable spatial organization in your mind? [more inside]
Help me be as good a (low-level, ESL) literature teacher as I can! [more inside]
You can view the equipment here. I took this photo of some old equipment embedded in the bank of Crane Creek in Crane, Missouri. I'm wondering if it might relate to the numerous tomato canning plants that operated there in the 1920s and 30s. It appears to be possibly a conveyor belt (?) They used those in the factories, I know.
My friend has a poor pup that's allergic to just about every kind of meat. Prepared vegan dog food exists, but it's insanely expensive, so I'm interested in seeing if any of you have some vegan dog food recipes that she can make at home. I would be most interested in large-scale recipes that she can cook, portion out, and then freeze until needed. Thanks!
I get how a digital restoration of an older film might destroy aspects of a 35/70mm film's look (grain and sharpness in particular) but if a film has already gone through a digital intermediate process shouldn't the DCP look just like the source the director/colorists were working with? What is the benefit of printing back to 35mm and projecting that? Ignoring aberrations like scratches, flicker or cigarette burns is there a difference in color, sharpness, anything of that sort which would make projecting on film preferable?
She doesn't need any more Star Wars trivia books. She's gifted, reads at an adult level, is super-knowledgeable about science- especially natural sciences-, but hey, she's just turning 11 and is a bit immature. She doesn't need any graphic sex scenes or horrendous gore. I'd love to find her some books that are really well-written and that will challenge her to think.
I need to make a greeting card play a specific song upon opening; recordable cards available online might not be the answer. [more inside]
Thelma, our lovely, fat, rescue cat is sick. Vets can't diagnose and don't seem to have many concrete ideas. Maybe you've seen something similar? [more inside]
Here's a challenge: I'm writing an article on NYC luxury rentals that are in hotel buildings and provide access to hotel amenities (such as room service, cleaning services, etc). W New York is an example of what I'm looking for. Finding these is tough. They are often really sneaky! Can you find one?
Your fridge dispenses water from its door, and you've had it for at least a few years. Are you happy to have a water-dispensing fridge? Anything you wish you'd known about it earlier? Do you do anything special to clean or maintain the waterworks?
What TV Series (not Movies) are currently streaming on the big services (Netflix, Amazon Prime & others) that fully capture 1980s American popular culture? [more inside]
Has anyone had luck getting a refund from AVG? I paid $199.99 on 6/23 for AVG Go tech support, but they weren't able to fix my aged computer. On 7/14, I got an e-mail saying my refund request had been approved, but the money still hasn't come back into my account. I've called and called. Any other suggestions?
I work in a women's health organization and I was just at a conference were I heard how difficult it is for military familie I would like to propose to my boss that we do some work around supporting military families with breastfeeding support. I would like to find out the following, can you tell me where I can find this information? 1. How many military families are there in the US? 2. How many of these families are breastfeeding- this can be a partner or the similarity personnel 3. What are their health outcomes and rates of breastfeeding Also, some one at the conference said that their are grants to fund this type of work which my organization can apply for. Just trying to make the case for my boss and I have had no luck researching on google. thanks!
I'm going to a wedding in Tahoe City CA next weekend. I'll have some time to kill. What is the absolutely shittiest, diviest, bar in Tahoe City? Is there one? The sketchier the better!!!
Someone made a cool image illustrating some large number (more than 30 but less than 100?) of puns/proverbs/idioms in Chinese (I think Mandarin, but don't remember.) There was a key in English to each of the puns/proverbs/idioms, but the image had no words on it. Naturally, I lost the bookmark and can't find it now that I want to show someone else. Can you help? [more inside]
I had an unexpected emotional reaction to a rape PSA-type video in a meeting today and had to leave a room of about 50 people while trying (and mostly failing) to conceal how upset I was. I’m feeling both drained and embarrassed, and not a little nervous about going in to work tomorrow, and I wanted to get some perspective and advice about what to do next. [more inside]
How do I go about finding a psychedelic-friendly or even a psychedelic-utilizing psychologist or psychiatrist? [more inside]
I'm looking for an app/program/spreadsheet/whatever that stores a grocery inventory with quantities, and a list of recipes (or just named sets of ingredient quantities). It would rank the recipes by % of ingredients on hand. If any part of this makes you think, "you could do that bit in [program] with/by [method]", I appreciate any pointers! Because I'll make it if I can't find it, but I'm not sure where to start. [more inside]
I like marmite. I am irresponsible with bread and butter. What are some ways I can incorporate marmite/vegemite into meal-type food? Note: I don't like cooking. [more inside]
Hey - I've done my best, can't find it, now I'm turning to Ask Metafilter. Does anyone know what is the music in this video. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=stcF2TX-dCc [more inside]
I want to find a dark/middle age kingdom in which to set a mock Shakespeare play. I don't know enough history which is where you come in. Specific parameters inside. TW: Brexit [more inside]
What is the best way to prep my kitchen walls before painting? I am getting conflicting advice from the internet and well-meaning friends. [more inside]
How do committees of adjustment and variance to zoning laws work? I'm particularly interested in Toronto's committee. A developer has submitted a proposal for a property near me with some concerning variance requests. Some neighbours have started a letter-writing campaign, but i have the sense that the committee probably has formal criteria it uses to decide and the developer will know these while my neighbours don't and thus their arguments aren't likely to be effective. Explain to me how this works so that if I choose to join in I can do so more effectively. [more inside]
I have an interview tomorrow at a start-up company as a client operations manager. I have not had this sort of experience but this is actually my second 'interview' with them! The first interview was via email and I basically said everything which is why I am worried now because I don't want to repeat myself. Details inside. [more inside]
Looking for an overall hardware and software package, that also includes barcode scanner app which can be installed on Android or iPhones [more inside]
Asking for a friend. His computer won't turn on, which would (in my mind) point to a power supply issue... except if left alone for a while, it works. Wrinkles inside. [more inside]
What is the typical gap between when a pay period ends and the checks/deposits are sent? I think it has been 3-4 day in most of my jobs. Is that about right? Are there any notable exceptions? Also, why is there often a delay in getting your first paycheck at a new job? Is that because it is hard to add someone in the middle of a pay period, or is it withheld for other reasons?
Or failing that, academic papers or blogs where I can try to figure out his literary references? [more inside]
As the title says, I'm looking for a to-do list/task manager app for windows desktop that syncs with Outlook tasks. I create Outlook tasks from email and OneNote, but would like a standalone app so I can view them all without getting sucked into responding to email. I'd rather not have a web app as I find I get easily distracted once I have a browser open.
I'm looking into going on a trip to Jacksonville in March. I plan on having a child in the next few years so zika is a real concern for me. How worried should I be about this? Any articles on the likelihood of it spreading from Miami or anything to either ease my mind or confirm my concern would be appreciated. I have to book the trip now so I am trying to be as informed as possible.
TL;DR: How do you get rid of a toxic roommate when they literally have nowhere to go, no one else willing to take them in, and no money to find a place of their own? IF it gets ugly, violent, I'll call my friend who lives in the complex and get help with immediate removal... but I don't want to make this guy homeless unless he becomes a real threat. I'm trying to think of clear ways to communicate boundaries and deadlines, such as giving X amount of time to save up deposits for a place of his own now that he has a job again. That's the kind of advice I need please. [more inside]
I’m from the US working at a city government in Japan, and I want to know how local governments in other countries handle providing important information in residents’ native languages. For example, let’s say a city in your country wants to distribute information about where residents should evacuate in the event of a flood. How does that city reach residents who don’t yet speak the local language? [more inside]
Just got back from Meow Wolf's House of Eternal Return, and I am smitten. I would love to know if there is anything else that captures that kind of otherworldly magic. I love an excuse to travel, so location is not a factor.
On the last episode ("Coda") of Series 3 of the ITV show Endeavour, which is set in 1967, a clearly queer-coded character (Jerome Hogg) makes a reference to the famous "snails and oysters" scene from the 1960 movie Spartacus, saying to Morse of a (presumably attractive) young man whom he has just told to run along, "Alas, I fancy, a lover of oysters, for all my blandishments." And I have questions (that are NOT about what that means, no)! [more inside]
Seeking advice on some great mid-priced hotel options in Toronto for mid-September. Goals: safety (hotel and surrounding area), nearness/accessibility to rapid transit stations, appealing neighborhood for morning walks/snacking. [more inside]
I have a foldover skirt that has always been too long for my short stature and required multiple foldings to fit me. Well during a closet cleanout, I realized it almost makes a great dress. Almost, details inside. [more inside]
What mantras or other sources of humour can I use during a period of office turmoil to help me keep in a good frame of mind and handle ridiculous and unfair goings-on as gracefully as possible? Preferably things that are funny and/or absurd? [more inside]
How can I zoom in on images within OverDrive? I enjoy reading books on my iPad. But for the life of me I cannot figure out how to pinch and zoom (enlarge) images within this app. I've checked the help section (and of course Google) but I can't find anything. I find it hard to believe that I am the only one with this problem. Recently I downloaded a graphic novel, and I couldn't even read the text because the images were so small. Please help!
Kinda out of nowhere, over the past few weeks, I've been feeling the onset of depression (extreme negative self talk, crying myself to sleep, the whole shebang). I'm single, and live by myself. I'm going to need the support of my friends while I work my way out of this. To have that support, I have to tell them what's going on, and I need to figure out what kind of support to ask them for. [more inside]
I want to watch the tv series Aquí no hay quien viva in the U.S. with English subtitles. [more inside]
What's the best way to hang this huge old flag in my apartment? [more inside]
Men's "vintage style" cream t-shirt with red/blue pinstripes and contrasting trim around the neck and/or sleeves. [more inside]
A family member who has recently been diagnosed with Primary Progressive MS is interested in Mesenchymal Stem Cell Therapy at a specific clinic in Moscow. Can you advise me about whether this is a good idea? [more inside]
I have a weird relationship with comics: I don't read them very often, but I basically always love them when I do. I have $50 in store credit at my friendly local comic shop, which carries a wide selection. I'd love to hear your recommendations on what I should get with it. [more inside]
Recently we got a call from a law firm about a parent who passed. There was no will and we figured the debt the deceased owed was more than their house that was just sold. So we left it to the banks/whoever/the government to figure out what would happen to the house. The law firm wants us to sign documents and is request 1/3 of the price of the sale of the home. [more inside]
What are the best ways to respond when family members are being mean to each other in the name of love? [more inside]
What intense, immersive training programs are out there that are similar to Hack Reactor or App Academy, but for back-end programming? [more inside]
Husband, let’s call him J, has had a good interview at another company in town that he’d like to work for, and is going in for a second interview. He feels confident that they want to hire him. The concern is how hopping jobs in a short time will affect his resume and future prospects if it’s a clear pattern. Is this too much job hopping? [more inside]
I just purchased a china cabinet and its matching buffet at a tag sale. The owner said they were from the 1920s but she actually bought them in the late 90s. To me this doesn't have the patina of one hundred years, but I'm no expert. What do you think? [more inside]
I've logged in to Instagram after a longish hiatus to find that I'm following 1300 people I have no interest in following. Please help. [more inside]
I have an opportunity to get a super great job, but I have to give them a product demo on their own product TOMORROW. How can I not fuck it up? [more inside]
What should we read/listen to as we hike and bike our way through Utah? [more inside]
I want to replace my single panel, up & over garage door with doors that open to the side. It looks like it will be some trouble to get the kind of doors I want, so will it be worth it? [more inside]
I've been buying house insurance for over a decade. I don't have a work flow or methodology for getting this done really correctly. What work flow, tasks, research, sites and so forth should I use to get a quality result? [more inside]
Who is the single best japanese style tattoo artist in NYC? [more inside]
My tabby cat, Jacqueline, has become obsessed with a nylon cord wand toy I made; please help me. [more inside]
When you talk to yourself, inside or outside of your head, what do you call yourself? Do you use your given name, your family name, a nickname, what?
I was involved in a minor car accident while driving a rental car. What do I need to do now? [more inside]
I've been wanting friends for years... now I have them and I can't stand them. Is it me or them? [more inside]
I am a man with diabetes. I need to have easy access to all of my gear (pens, needles, monitor, strips, pills, etc.). I have a desk job (business attire required), but my weekends and evenings are spent all over the place. I can occasionally use my wife's purse as a holder- but that still means a bunch of loose stuff floating around in the jumble of her purse. What can I use to contain and keep all my stuff with me and still fit in around the office and town?
Hundreds of baby spiders are hanging out in a square foot above my closet door, next to the quarter sized egg sac they hatched out of. They've been there since yesterday with no change. If I disturb them they run around, but otherwise are just hanging out over there. What should I expect/do? [more inside]
In Hubspot, is there a way it can send a notification to an email address completely dynamically? [more inside]
Confusion about using lacto vs. apolactoferrin. Any iron supplementation experts that can tell me more about this/these? [more inside]
Can anyone suggest a good game that runs on a pc and does not require an internet connection for game play? [more inside]
The grandparents are coming and keeping the kids overnight! Yay! We haven't had free time in so long we don't know what the options are for us to do with it! Boo. Halp! [more inside]
Help me diagnose why my laptop won't charge. [more inside]
I'm looking to expand my repertoire of short, fun activities I can do with 5th graders. [more inside]
My dreams keep turning sour just before I wake up. Why? How to fix my brain? [more inside]
Some questions about drinking, from someone without context. [more inside]
We will be in Edinburgh for the weekend, but not specifically for the Fringe. How should we (four adults and three young kids) plan for this? [more inside]
I'm looking for horror recommendations (defined as broadly as you wish). I'd like books with a deeper resonance, the kind you keep thinking about after you finish, but books that make you feel as well. My favorite writers are Shirley Jackson, Peter Straub, Caitlin R. Kiernan; I don't care as much for Lovecraft and the more cosmic stuff. Ideally this would be a book you would describe as being emotionally moving or compassionate as well as creepy. The further off the beaten path, the better.
I got a speeding ticket in Michigan a few days ago (in a Rental Car) on the way to the Airport before heading back home to the UK. The ticket says something about contacting local US court within 10 days and that "a person who fails to answer a citation is guilty of a misdemeanour". So what's the deal as a UK resident (and not American)? Should I just pay it? Or ignore it? Or contact the court by phone/mail and try and get the fine lowered / waived? [more inside]
How do I deal with a friend/roommate, who apparently seems to think the silent treatment is a valid way of communicating? [more inside]
I have a new-to-me resume-writing conundrum: My software dev job of 3+ years is heavily project-based, and I'm not sure how to best represent what I've accomplished clearly and concisely on a resume. [more inside]
I'm going with an active four year old to NZ for 2-3 weeks and will be mostly in Wellington and Auckland. We're coming from Singapore, so I imagine we'll need some additional kit, but what do I really need to (tight budget) buy or borrow? Hats, mittens, boots or just cardigans and warm socks? Do I buy it over here at Uniqlo or hit the secondhand shops when I land in Wellington?
We are limited in our time frame of traveling to Italy and have decided to plan it ourselves. Has anyone used the site Tripmasters to plan independent travel? Any perspective since we have read the online reviews but want also some first hand advice. [more inside]
My vacation plans just disappeared, and I need to put together new ones! This is for one woman over Labor Day weekend on a budget, within the US. Details and goals within. [more inside]
I'm striking out with dating. I'm an overweight gay guy, but I'm a nice combo of handsome and cute. I love chubby guys, skinny guys, muscly guys, etc. The face is the most important aspect to me. Do relationships ever work out if you date someone you are not particularly attracted to? Can they grow on you? [more inside]
Will this website get me a job? [more inside]
I really like my 2000 Jetta, and am in the market for a new car. Should I buy a (gasoline) GTI after VW's diesel malfeasance over the past few years? [more inside]
A bar called Albatross at Ocean Beach in Fire Island has street art preserved from 1982. It's vaguely recognizable, and it sounds like it was preserved because the guy who did it has made a name for himself in the graffiti world. I like it. I am having trouble figuring out who did it. Can you help? Here are some shots I took--couldn't get one of the whole thing.
Lately, I've noticed that I am very passionate about things having to do with sexuality, especially women’s sexuality and health. What careers exist related to this passion? So far I've thought of a nurse practitioner specializing in women's health, a certified nurse midwife, a pelvic physical therapist, an ob/gyn, and an industrial designer specializing in sexuality or women's health (if that job even exists). What are these careers like on a day-to-day basis? What other careers relating to sexuality are out there? Would any of these careers work for me? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I previously posted a question about deciding whether to buy a home. I'm inching further along that path now. What are red flags or pitfalls of which to beware?
Cleanliness and order are pretty critical to my sanity. I live with 3.5 and 5.5 year old who thrive on mess and chaos. I am turning into a grumpy, controlling as*hole of a parent as a result and would like to knock it off and let them be kids without losing my mind. Fellow neat freak parents - tips for negotiating this more successfully? [more inside]
How do you handle moving away from a career that you love which is totally unsustainable, towards work that provides a living but appears fairly (personally) unfulfilling? [more inside]
If you moved away from Chicago after a decade or so (or more), what did you think of your new city? Did you like it better or worse? [more inside]
My grandparents used to rent movies from an independent video store, that mostly carried Christian stuff. I've got a bee in my bonnet about one of these movies, because I can't remember what it was called. [more inside]
I remember looking through books in my parents' basement as a kid, and I think they had a few 60's or 70's era Life yearbooks. There was a fashion shoot that has very much made an impression on me, but I can't find it, or any details about it. [more inside]
Is there a cost-effective way to get a tiny bit of ink removed? [more inside]
Helping a younger toddler transition from an infant daycare to a different, toddler daycare? Difficulty level: Spanish immersion! [more inside]
Looking for a place that sells work vests -- similar to the Wal-Mart style -- with a screenprinting/embroidery option. My first choice for screenprinting, CustomInk, doesn't carry vests like this. Anyone know where I might be able to source such a item?
Where should I take my guitars for this stuff? [more inside]
About 2-3 weeks ago, I saw one or two sentences that read something like this: "[RECENT THING was marketed at [COOL/YOUNG DEMOGRAPHIC] but turned out wildly popular with middle-aged white women instead." [more inside]
Give me your recipes/recommendations for foods that I can eat over a 2-3 day car camping trip that don't require any cooking or heating as well as minimal washing of dishes or utensils. [more inside]
I'm a reporter interested in writing a story about LeTip International, which is a national, for-profit based organization supported by community based, non-profit business groups across the country. [more inside]
Wouldn't you know, therapy has revealed that I am very much a people pleaser and I think it's slightly harming me. Now that I am right in the middle of a confusing dating situation and stressed from school, I'm not sure how to figure what's good for me--not others. [more inside]
What's it like to get Invisalign? I've been considering getting retainers to stop my teeth from shifting (they were straightened when I was a teenager). They've shifted some and I wanted to stop them from shifting more. But then the dentist suggested I get Invisalign to bring them back to straight and then get retainers. Having straighter teeth than they are now does appeal. [more inside]
my sister has a social work degree but worked in the social work field very little after she had her children. She and a friend have been volunteering with women and I am wondering if they can receive grants to support this work. [more inside]
I'm just curious if anyone has experience with giving a fitness tracker to their parents. A brief search says seniors are not the target market for the popular fitness trackers, but I'm just wondering if anyone here has actual experience with this. I suspect all the popular fitness trackers are horrible for people who can't see small fonts or don't want to charge them everyday, but maybe someone in the hivemind has figured out a solution?
I'm starting a demanding, wearing job in a little less than three weeks. What household and personal chores should I do now, to help make adjusting to my duties more manageable? [more inside]
As a follow-up to my previous tattoo question: I've decided I want to get a short line of text from a poem. But now I can't figure out what font it should be — I want it to be pretty, legible, and not ostentatious. Is there such a thing as a scripty font that's neither illegible nor ostentatious? Would a scripty font look tacky?
Both humorous and philosophical.. there's the classic "Laws are like sausages. It is better not to see them being made", but I'm more interested in quotes that are about human's relationship with the law and insights into the complicated process of lawmaking. I'd love to hear some of your favorite quotes. [more inside]
I am in a Spanish "immersion" course in DC for the next 8 months (native English speaker) and looking to take advantage of the opportunities in DC., and can take "field trips" during the day to help with learning the language Latin culture. I'm looking at what the Smithsonian and Spanish Embassy is offering, but seeing if anyone has any insight into what my googel-ing won't offer. Thanks!
I'm about to make a series of small poetry books that I want to share a typeface. Can you help me find the right one? [more inside]
I met with a physician's assistant at a medical practice for a consultation. We had a conversation that lasted less than 15 minutes. They are billing for a one hour consultation. When I inquired they explained "this is what we always do". Sounds fishy to me, but what do I know? I am wondering if this is standard / acceptable practice. [more inside]
Maybe it's a nexus of my middle age with an especially bad year for current events, but I feel what can only be described as horror, on a deep emotional and even physical level, almost every day. Is this a thing that has been happening to people for a long time, or is the world measurably worse now making that feeling stronger, or is it just what happens to people as they age, or is it just me? [more inside]
My sweet, strong, beloved Momma has become a high-functioning alcoholic in the last few years. All the literature I can find on talking to an alcoholic start with "tired of begging, pleading and fighting with your loved one about their drinking?" Well, no, I'm not, because no one has ever even MENTIONED it to my mother. Where do I/we start? I'm scared. [more inside]
Hello! We're buying a house from very nice sellers in San Diego County, California. A requirement of our agreement is that they provide Section 1 termite clearance. Their termite inspection recommended tenting, but the sellers want to go with spot treatment instead because of the risk to plants around the house. I don't think I care as long as Section 1 is cleared, but am I setting myself up to have to tent the house later? The seller indicated that he would be willing to tent if we feel strongly about doing it. [more inside]
I seem to recall looking through a cookbook (probably in a bookstore) that had three versions (or so) of each recipe: one very simple, one a bit more complicated, and one even more complicated. I would like to find this cookbook again, but my google-fu and amazon-fu are failing me. [more inside]
I'll be traveling to Austin for work in a month or so and would love to change my mind about bbq brisket. Help me on my quest for the best barbecue I can find! [more inside]
We are planning to do a 4-week road trip in Western USA, with some stops in the national parks for hiking/camping. More details below the fold. [more inside]
I find myself in SF for an extended period of time, and am at a loss for places I can be alone each day for an hour or two. [more inside]
I'm hoping to identify a good place to stop and get some exercise/fresh air on our drive from Boston to Portland, Maine. [more inside]
I'm looking for the absolute most comfortable closed-back over-the-ear headphones for a small head. ~$100-$150. Sound quality not especially important. [more inside]
I'll be moving to Boston/Cambridge in September for my first job! Help me find a neighborhood in which to search for housing, and feel free to share any tips for a transplant from the west coast (the San Francisco Bay Area). [more inside]
This is a long shot, but since I learned about the Glass planner app here, I thought maybe someone here can answer a question or two about it. It looks like everything I’ve been wanting in a to-do app, except that I can’t get it to play nice with Google Calendar. This is on an iPhone. [more inside]
I'll be in Berlin for 10 days in October [more inside]
Need to buy a handheld (or otherwise small) veggie spiralizer, especially for use with zucchini, but would like to be able to do carrots and beets as well. Small kitchen! Space is at a premium, or I would get a larger tabletop version, but we need to scrimp on size because of storage limitations. Your recommendation? [more inside]
I have roughly 100 narrative language transcripts that I need to code and analyse. So far I've spent a good few weeks getting through all the coding that definitely needs to be done by a human, but now I'm left with all the measures that I know somewhere there must be some software/online analyser to help me figure out other than 100% manually. [more inside]
I'm moving to a nice but rather old apartment complex soon. There are lead and asbestos addenda in my lease (that I haven't signed yet). What, if anything, should I be careful about while living in this apartment? Should I be worried about the piping? If so, what do I do? [more inside]
I live in California. I want to apply for food stamps. I do not want to, and will not, lie to the food stamps people. However, I make about $250/month in cash (in addition to my part-time minimum-wage job for which I get a W-2) that I do not report to IRS because then I will have to pay self-employment tax on it and fill out a bunch of forms for what is really just a friend paying me to help them out for maybe 12 hours a month. If I tell the food stamps people about this monthly cash income, will they share that information with the IRS? So far I have been dealing with this by just not applying for food stamps, and with careful spending I am OK, but as I notice myself obsessing over tiny things in the grocery store this starts to feel ridiculous.
People of MeFi, I need some advice. Recently – the last week or so I've really noticed and started tracking it, but probably longer than that overall – I've noticed that my blood pressure and bpm have been acting a bit crazy. [more inside]
I'm looking for hiking-style shoes (not boots) that meet an ASTM standard of any kind. Ideally these would be waterproof hiking shoes with slip or puncture resistance ASTM classifications, but I'll take anything that is a hiking shoe with any kind of ASTM standard. [more inside]
I am working on making several big changes in my life, including changing jobs and maybe even careers, moving, and embarking on a new relationship. The logistical planning and timing of all of this is overwhelming. [more inside]
Are medical practitioners expected to re-do sessions free of charge if a patient is unsatisfied? What, if any, are the limits of this expectation? [more inside]
Lease with high drive off fee and insanely low monthly payments. Seems like it would be good for me but I feel like I'm missing something. Deepest gratitude in advance for the insight of more experienced car owners. Details within. [more inside]
I need book recommendations (or genres?) that I can find at my public library tomorrow. Not musician biographies. [more inside]
You're cooking dinner for someone, in your tiny kitchen. You're a pretty good cook, and they're not, so you are occasionally asking them to do simple tasks ("Can you put this in the fridge for me?") but you're doing most of the work. What is the nicest, quickest, least irritable way to say "Can you please sit down, because when you hover by the sink or the oven you're in my way?" [more inside]
I just read this article that says July 2016 was Earth's hottest month in recorded history. And the same article notes that: "NASA's five hottest months on record are July 2016, July 2011, July 2015, July 2009 and August 2014. Only July 2015 was during an El Nino. Records go back to 1880." The data relate to the global average temperature, not just the parts that are having summer in July. So why are the global averages being pulled up especially during the northern hemisphere's summer? [more inside]
I'm having no trouble falling asleep. But I can't stay asleep. [more inside]
My dad is 70 and wants to play some super easy casual games on PC, iOS, PS4, and possibly Wii or Wii U. Recommendations? [more inside]
My 3-year-old daughter loves the Nerdy Nummies YouTube channel. It's a baking show with a bubbly host who makes a different pop-culture themed treat every week. I like that she is watching a show about a real person making stuff (instead of yet another cartoon), and it even inspires us to do projects in real life. I am looking for recommendations for similar shows, but for other types of projects she would like, such as papercrafts or painting. [more inside]
Has anyone done the online Vet Tech course from Penn Foster? [more inside]
My in-laws to be don't like me and never have. I would very much like to have cordial relations with them. After 3 years, however, neither my fiancee nor I are sure they will ever accept me. [more inside]
Don't know much about Indian food other than I like it and recently I've been wanting more. Any recommendations for Indian food in Seattle that isn't the standard Lunch Buffet/Table-Service Dinner kind of place? [more inside]
How do I put a crossword puzzle on my Facebook page? [more inside]
I need help in staying true to myself, avoiding self-pity and being naive as I try to conclude my divorce following a long, drawn out separation. Long story below. [more inside]
So we're building a new house. What can we do to creep out the next people that own it? It makes perfect sense really, I saw a gif on reddit where some folks replacing carpet took the liberty of painting "get out!" in red paint on the floor below the carpet for the entertainment of the next people to replace the carpet. I would like to do similar things. [more inside]
A cake was made last Wednesday in a household where someone came down with norovirus that day. Said cake was frozen on the same day, and is set to be eaten today by various family members. I have determined that I personally will not consume any -- is this paranoia or reasonable caution? [more inside]
Please recommend some places for a 4-6 day beach vacation in Central or South America in mid-late February. [more inside]
I've been telecommuting on a full-time basis for almost 5 years. I applied for a new position that would bring me back to the office. I'm excited for this, but I'm looking for some input from people who have come back to the office after working from home, because I'm sad to give it up and I need some upsides! [more inside]
I am looking for advice on how to co-parent effectively with someone, while you are still working on "getting over" them or moving on. What are the best steps you have taken, or you can recommend? It's feels impossible to move forward with your life and from someone you have constant contact with due to a child. [more inside]
I’m looking for books (fiction or non-fiction) by authors of Indian ancestry who were raised in the West. They can be lightweight and funny, or can tackle the complexities of being stretched between two worlds. Preferably Punjabi indian, but not strictly. [more inside]
What are some good methods of keeping track of my ideas? The "carry a notebook" thing is just not working. [more inside]
The choices for home automation seem bewildering complex that seem to stretch from expensive home solutions to buying one off smart light bulbs. There has to be a sensible middle ground, right? Since it seems to matter, we are an Android household as well as owners of an Amazon Echo that I'd like to deploy as the front ends to this system. [more inside]
My dog has been on a hunger strike for a few weeks now (not atypical for him during the hottest part of the summer, but this is getting ridiculous). He expresses interest in treats, people food, bunny poop, and cat food so it's not like he has zero appetite; he just has no desire for his usual dry food. [more inside]
I'm making a reading list for a professor and I am hitting a wall finding good material. I need fiction (long or short) that can be categorized (even very loosely) as horror, and that engages with themes of disability AND environmental sustainability. [more inside]
Our work recycling often contains copious amounts of working equipment. It's ok to bring stuff out. I brought out a number of high-capacity name brand hard-drives. What now? [more inside]
I just put down $100 on a new pot that's 4-quart capacity, and oval-shaped. It seems that before I got it, every single recipe called for an enameled cast iron pot for a braised this and a braised that. (Sometimes even bread!) So, please share with me your absolute favorite recipes that have to be made in a cast iron pot. I'm already eyeing a lamb shank recipe with pomegranate molasses.
I live in a city of roughly half a million people, Glasgow (Scotland). I haven't worked in a long time due to being a caregiver in a relationship that's now ended. I have applied for and been given a place on a one-year Open University course (Certificate in Promoting Public Health). Is there a way to guesstimate the number of Glasgow-based junior health promotion jobs that come up in a year, or a way to describe this task so that I could outsource a couple of hours research to one of those sites where helpful freelancers might be a better job than me for an acceptable cost? It's a pretty important question to me so finding the answer would potentially be pretty valuable to me, before I get fully committed and start the course. [more inside]
I'm a lover of hot sauce and would like to add more bottles of it to my collection. [more inside]
Which career fields or industries are realistically open, or at least, not hostile, to middle-aged people wishing to achieve professional and financial success for the first time, in the current climate? [more inside]
We left the house in better condition than when we arrived - but the landlord is blaming us for preexisting damage. He missed the deadline to return our deposit, so shouldn't be entitled to any of the money. But now what? [more inside]
Someone I know shared this "article" about a "Hillary Clinton rally" without many people in it. I reverse image searched the picture and the only other places it is used are similar posts on Reddit and goofy anti-Hillary blogs. Does anyone know where it was taken and what was really happening? I'm just curious.
Can I buy "natural light" lightbulbs instead of a fancy task lamp for nighttime craftwork? If so, which ones? [more inside]
I have apparently inherited a frozen 2lb block of shredded, cooked chicken, from 2014, that belonged to a previous occupant of my apartment. It is currently thawing in my fridge: what next? [more inside]
I'm moving back east (cross country) and I was able to get a, frankly, unbelievable rate on a one-way 16' truck rental--apparently they really need trucks back east. [more inside]
What do I put in a care package for a Canadian young lady and an American young man? [more inside]
What do I need to know to properly take care of our 2-year-old's uncircumcised penis, and when/how do we start cleaning under the foreskin? [more inside]
In the past year I've gained 50 pounds in my mid-section. I have learned this is a lot from stress aka cortisol. Am I doing the right things to lose it? Tips and help please. [more inside]
A friend recently filmed a very nice 15 minutes of me performing, and I'd like to move it to my webpage as part of my permanent electronic portfolio/resume/cv. Feel free to talk to me as if I'm five when you explain how to do this. It's a wordpress.
I'm planning to buy an Amazon Fire (for mostly reading Kindle e-books) and, in three months, renew my smartphone. Then I saw a lady with a Samsung "phablet" (I guess a Galaxy E7) and the lightbulb turned on! [more inside]
Looking for a bar in Brooklyn with a view of Manhattan for a party of eight that will allow reservations for pre-dinner drinks. Any ideas? Must allow reservations - don't want to turn up and wing it. Indoor also preferred, but outdoor fine too (if it means a view is possible).
Living in a very dangerous apartment complex. Just signed a lease unfortenately. Felt pressured because I had nowhere to live having to move in 2 days' notice from several hours away for a job. Looking for tips to stay safe. [more inside]
I have just moved to San Francisco after living overseas for 4 years. My old US license (Massachusetts) expired two weeks ago. I am required to get a CA license within 10 days, and I need a US license anyway for things like Scoot, which I'll be relying on for commuting. Please reassure me that I will be able to prove residency despite a "soft landing" housing situation meaning I don't have a lot of the traditional documentation. [more inside]
Hola Mefi!, My 55 inch Vizio suddenly stopped turning on recently. The pain in the butt thing is that the only way to get it back on is to unplug it for ~90 minutes. Then it'll work for a few days until it doesn't. Rinse/repeat. I'm having trouble tracking down repair guides besides the standard backlight/flashlight test. Anyone else had this issue? Is there a great TV repair forum I don't know about somewhere?
How can I clean my luggage without ruining it? Recommendations for "nondetergent soap" have not helped me find the right product. [more inside]
Hi, Fitness Mefites! I am looking for exercises classes in NYC to get back into the swing of more intense exercise. Personal recommendations appreciated! Special considerations inside... [more inside]
What can I eat besides oatmeal and bananas while waiting for healing? [more inside]
Does anyone know where to get the EXACT shoes Nate Berkus is wearing in this picture? http://nateberkus.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/01/Untitled-design-36.jpg
I have cable for the first time in my adult life... what should we watch? [more inside]
I love the taste of Starbucks' iced chai, especially in the summer, but I definitely don't love the price. I'm looking for suggestions on how to make my own - preferably some kind of concentrate that I can make on the weekend, take to work and leave in the fridge, then each morning add some concentrate to milk and ice. Google has turned up a lot of suggestions but I figured I'd start with you lovely folks to see if anyone has a recipe they like. Thanks!
This isn't the usual sleep question and I've had a hard time finding answers. Basically I will sleep for a few hours, then wake up for anywhere from 30 min to a hour. Then I go back to sleep. The problem is when this happens later in the morning, so that second "sleepy time" hits at 9 or 10 am. How can I keep that from happening? [more inside]
I teach high school science and I like to keep organisms in the class to make it a dynamic space. Constraints - needs to be hearty, relatively low-maintenance, preferably able to easily withstand periods of non-care (3-day weekends or more). Bonus if it is unusual or has exciting behavior or developmental changes that students can observe. [more inside]
I would like to get started creating music in my spare time. I have a Linux laptop, a mini keyboard, some DAWs, and no idea how to get any of it working together. Please help me! [more inside]
How do I get Facebook to update its location databases to put St Croix down here in the Atlantic where it actually is? I swear it is. I'm looking at it right now. [more inside]
I need more t-shirts, and I like fitted/babydoll ones. I like clever/artsy/goth prints, not just polka dots or stripes. Threadless has been my mainstay, but they only go up to 2x in women's, which shows my stomach. I need something a little bigger and that can accommodate my large bust. I want to order online. I think Torrid might have some, but I hear iffy things about their quality. I'd rather find one place where I can order a few than go to a bunch of sites.
Looking for hotel or AirBnB recommendations walking distance from a beach. Snowflakes: female going by myself (no travel groups/guides, please); seeking a balance of safety+pleasantness between empty (would feel too unsafe to doze, walk at sunrise) and unpleasantly packed; I don't drive so need paid/free conveyance from airport/train station to hotel/beach/groceries. [more inside]
Trying to understand if this is physical or psychological -- why does a hike in the mountains feel much easier than climbing stairs with an equivalent elevation gain? [more inside]
All the available Olympic medals tables are events won not medals awarded. By this I mean if a country wins a Rowing 8 that is 9 medals (8+cox) not 1 as in the available table, if you win cycle team pursuit that is 4 medals not 1 as in the available table, football? rugby 7s? hockey? I think you get my drift. I know I could do it myself with a pen and paper but maybe somebody out there has found it, done it or has a cleverer way to generate it.
I've been curating some playlists and realised that some of my favourite genres are really dude heavy. I love most inheritors of Springsteen, as well as his music. My absolute ideal would capture anything from Brian Fallon (The gaslight anthem, the horrible crows, or his solo work) Please recommend me some female or non-male artists that I might enjoy! (More favourites inside) [more inside]
How do you evaluate your boss that you don't really respect and who is part of determining your own raise percentage? Looking for safe phrases I can write for this person's review. [more inside]
I’m a 30 year old guy who recently broke up with my ex this past April. Since the break-up, I’ve subjugated myself to the gym and playing basketball again after a 2 year hiatus. Exercise has done wonders for me physically and mentally. However, there are also other items that I want to learn: learning how to play the saxophone, how to cook, how to maintain my new car, and etc. [more inside]
What vines/climbing plants are native to the Pacific Northwest? I've found a few in random google searching but feel like I'm missing some. Or are they just not super common to the region? Consider PNW to be Oregon to British Columbia.
I'm a web developer and have received an invite to an upcoming HackerX back-end recruiting event near me. Have you been to one of these? Is it worth my time and energy, and if so what exactly should I expect/how should I prepare? The event is in about two weeks. [more inside]
In a couple weeks, my friends and I are participating in the R.O.C. race, and we need some kind of group costume! Something easy to put together, that we can still run around and get wet and muddy in. Any ideas? We'll be 7 or 8 people, in our 30s if it matters. Running in NYC in September, so it will still probably be a million degrees outside. [more inside]
I'm mainly a knitter and I'd like make my friend's son a child's afghan (35"x60"). I'd like to be done sometime around late fall. Originally I planned on knitting this, and my friend loves the pattern. It is simple (no cables) but I tried knitting it, and it will take F-O-R-E-V-E-R to make. After ripping it out for the second time, I'm wondering if crochet might be a better idea, for time's sake (and my sanity!) My question is: what are the best crochet stitches that mimic knit and purl stitches? Is this even a thing? [more inside]
Let's say I make a $1,000 investment into a mutual fund on Jan 1, 2016. On the 1st of every subsequent month through Dec 1, 2016, I contribute an additional $1,000. By end of year, my total purchase price is now $12,000. In the middle of January 2017, Let's say the market value of the fund is now $15,000 and I want to sell. Can someone help explain how capital gains tax would work in this scenario for the $3,000 gain? Some specific questions below the fold. [more inside]
What are some good resources for getting in the right mental space to have a child? [more inside]
OK, so I have the wedding songs from musicals thing covered. Mr. 317 and I are getting married next summer, and would like to incorporate monologues from plays into our ceremony. Can you think of any great ones? Funny is okay.
Mr. K's salivary glands were damaged during radiation for throat cancer. Result: dry mouth, especially at night. Looking for options for spraying/sipping. [more inside]
If one were an expert in Blogger design options, what could one do with such expertise? Brainstorm me, please. [more inside]
I have made these banana and cardamom buns twice now. How do I accomplish that beautiful-looking crust? [more inside]
We are looking to buy a new oven/stove that is 30" wide, but the spot that it will go is going to be 34" wide, which leaves a 2" gap on each side, in the middle of a longer counter. Is there a way to do this such that it will not look too weird, without redoing all of our counter tops and lower cabinets? It would have to be more cosmetic than structural, as that width is pretty much a given.
So Descartes got a lot of things right (and a lot of things wrong), but, arguably, he had vast impact on all science that came after him. He was successful. And, not a ton, but a little bit, he tries to explicitly communicate the method by which he got his results. So, not just the steps he took to get his results, but the method that generated the steps... [more inside]
I'd like to start making amateur movies. I'd like the end result to look as professional as possible. Please help me gear up! [more inside]
What are the direct effects of elevated levels of carbon dioxide on human health in the long term? [more inside]
I made some cold brew coffee according to a video I saw online. Basically add water and coffee grounds and leave in the fridge overnight. However, I actually forgot about it and left it for a few weeks. Is it still safe to drink? Or should I dump it?
I've had RSI related pain in my right wrist (right side) now for over a year that's showed no sign of improvement. My work is all computer based (admin) and the software we used isn't very shortcut friendly, so I'm using the mouse all day. I've had to give up playing guitar (my favourite hobby) because it causes me too much pain to play. The pain is constant from the moment I wake up (around a 2-3) then gets worse throughout the day (up to about a 5) when I use my wrists. I'd love to take some time off to rest my wrist but I literally use it for everything. [more inside]
In the 2016 BBC adaptation of "War and Peace", there's a scene during Napoleon's invasion where he's in a incredibly colorful, heavily decorated room with vaulted ceilings. Where was that scene shot?
Left a pound of extra sharp cheddar cheese out of the fridge exposed to the air in an 80-degree kitchen for about twenty hours. It's "sweating" oil of some sort. Can I Eat This?
What are your favourite dance scenes from the movies? Stuff that makes your jaw drop when you see it, because of the skill, technical excellence or the cleverness of the choreography. Scenes that give you renewed joy every time you watch them. [more inside]
I have a spreadsheet column with 10,000 rows, and I need to sort it. Is there a way to do this automatically, where certain rows with specific attributes are sent to a new column? [more inside]
Hey MeFites! I'm going to be traveling to Shreveport, LA next month. I've never been there before, I know it's a smaller city, and I'm hoping you can help me find some things. As seen in my previous travel-related asks, I am a special snowflake of a traveler, so I will put more under the cut. [more inside]
My older one is great at math, worried about UK student debt, and wants to have the university experience. Are there distance or residential sub-£18,000 math degrees anywhere that offer a level of student experience akin to the tutorial opportunity and entertainment a student in university might have, or companies or organisations geared to these experiences?
What is the name of this Facebook match-3/match-5 game that's celestial-themed and has the most soothing music ever? [more inside]
I have a huge collection of "high fashion" magazines (think Vogue Italia, Paris, Numero, Pop, etc.) that I bought throughout my early 20s and now I'm ready to let them go. I've looked at past sold listings on ebay and I think I could sell lots of them for pretty decent prices. Now here's the problem: I've never sold anything on ebay before and I'm completely confused about shipping/fees, etc. [more inside]
I need to switch up to a front facing toddler seat for a tiny car. Too many options. Going insane. Help! [more inside]
I will be teaching a web design elective to 6-8th graders. The class will last one semester. What do they need to know? [more inside]
Yay - I'm starting a new job! Boo, I don't want it to turn out like my previous ones! I'm happy about the new position, but there's a definite pattern in my career that I want to avoid this time. Basically, I have a tendency to get stuck with under-resourced projects that sprawl badly out of control until they consume my life and I have to quit to get away from them. Obviously you are not me and can at best guess what might be happening, but has anyone else experienced this pattern? What were the root causes? How did you improve things? [more inside]
I was given a check by a client made out to my uncommon nickname. My credit union refused to allow me to deposit it "because it might be returned". They told me to get a new one written, but for various reasons it was really hard to get this one from the client in the first place. What would happen if I were to deposit the check in an ATM? [more inside]
I manage a small team in an open plan office (a dozen people or so). One of my people is a guy who, on some days, smells pretty bad. This is obviously a problem when other people need to be close to him, and it is also a problem in that if it weren't for that, he is an engaging and useful person who could be interacting closely with clients. We all like him in every way but olfactory. What is the least worst, humane, decent, but effective way to talk to him about the problem? [more inside]
I keep missing the Olympics - women's gymnastics, Simone Manuel, etc. The NBC Olympic site has very few replays and I guess YouTube is on Olympic lockdown. Is there anywhere online to watch replays?
What are your favorite basic but stylish dresses and tops? I’m an actress assembling wardrobe options for auditions. [more inside]
I love my job. I really do. But it involves a constant chaotic frenzy of emails, phone calls, people stopping by my office with questions that are sometimes quick and sometimes involved, meetings (both in and out of the office), presentations, and paperwork. I get overwhelmed with the volume and variety of tasks and feel paralyzed. How do I overcome this? [more inside]
My partner and I are spending Labor Day weekend in Madison, WI with our dog. Help us find all the best things to do. [more inside]
Today my dad had me apply for an absentee ballot for a water conservation district election and it got me wondering: How many of these weird, obscure local elections are held each year and how can I vote in more of them? I live in Cincinnati, Ohio if that makes a difference, but more general advice is welcome.
I am going to a classical music concert tonight at a fancy venue. It's a 2 hour concert indoors with assigned seating and I would absolutely love to bring my knitting with me. I am not sitting anywhere near the front, I will be sitting in the main orchestra level. I would be using bamboo needles, which don't make any sounds and aren't reflective. Is it rude to fellow concertgoers to be knitting openly during the concert?
I'm a young teacher struggling to determine my future career and life path. Is having self doubt in spite of outward success normal? How can I go about being more decisive about my future? Boring details to follow! [more inside]
I'm going to Cambodia. Should I see memorials/monuments/museums dedicated to the genocide? [more inside]
My stepmother recently passed, and my dad has been filling his time watching Fox News for multiple hours because he has nothing better to do. This has...not been good for him. Give me your most addictive series that might work to lure him away. [more inside]
My best friend's birthday is at the end of this month. We are going to see Adele in concert next month in NYC. I wanted to get her either Adele or concert related gift to begin the excitement. She is early 30's and her interests include all things pink, concerts and Broadway shows, 90's music and boybands, makeup. Dislikes include trying new foods, sports, driving.
Corrosion worked its magic and I broke a couple of bolts while working on my car (FoMoCo). I cannot find replacements or even know the trade name of this type of bolt head. The threads are the same as a machine bolt/screw, but the head is narrow and long, flat, thin, and slides into a slot on the bottom of a plastic housing for a fuse/relay panel which then bolts through the fender liner. [more inside]
I need the ceramides to counteract dryness from retinoids but can't take the fatty alcohols ... [more inside]
A milestone birthday is coming up. Would appreciate hive mind advice on celebrating solo. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I've been toying around with the idea of starting a blog for learners of a particular language for which there are few resources. As part of this, I would like to paraphrase/lightly adapt texts from original news sources and then provide my own vocabulary/grammatical notes/translation. Sources would of course be cited. I don't intend on profiting directly from this, aside from perhaps advertisements on the website. As far as copyright is concerned, does this fall under fair use?
It's always bothered me a bit that I have my own last name, and that my husband and kids have their own. Is it too late to change this -- and to what? [more inside]
Historically, how have ladies dealt with armpit hair? [more inside]
How do I get a group of women together once a month for a game night when everyone has varying degrees of responsiveness? [more inside]
I'm looking for a light touch USB keyboard. The Smart Keyboard for my iPad feels perfect, but I need to plug in to a desktop computer, and for added difficulty it also needs to have a ten-key. [more inside]
Yes, this is absolutely rich-American-problems territory, but this crowd seems to Know Things. I've narrowed it down to a couple contenders, but I'd love to hear the wisdom of this particular crowd... [more inside]
I have fallen in love with ordering craft beef jerky online. It's delicious and easy and doesn't require a trip to the store. What are some other tasty, ready-to-eat snacks that I can order online? High in protein and low in carbs is preferable, fattiness is NBD. [more inside]
What awesome things should I do before I move away from Denver. Slight wrinkle, pregnant. [more inside]
How close could you get to the speed of light due to acceleration by falling into or being in a decaying orbit around a large gravity well (black hole?) [more inside]
How do I set up a shared contact folder in Apple iCloud, without sharing all my contacts or other information? [more inside]
Good advice, and widely repeated on the internet. What is not widely repeated is what to do if you failed to take that advice and now have a blocked Eustachian tube for a few days. Thoughts? (For the record, it wasn't me, I have no shame in sneezing even in libraries.)
My periods are ruining my life. What is going on? [more inside]
I have a nephew, just shy of two years old, who has a rare autoimmune disease. It's very complex, and he is going through a battery of experimental treatments. The success of those treatments is far from guaranteed. Life is crushingly hard for him and his family. We are having trouble coming up with ways to help them. [more inside]
As a disabled person, how do you keep your head up when you're dating, and deal with negative self-talk and feelings of inadequacy? Essentially, how do you cope with - or even stop - feeling like, basically, no matter how awesome you might be or how much you accomplish, you're nobody's first choice? [more inside]
I'm trying to think of indisputably iconic movie quotes from the 90s to the present, and finding it surprisingly difficult. One example is "You're a wizard, Harry". Any others?
If you have a sense of "normal" middle-class family dynamics in the the 1980's-mid 90's US, I would appreciate your perspective. I don't think my family was abusive, but probably emotionally neglectful. I'm struggling with depression and anxiety, am in therapy, and I am considering going no-contact with my family. I want to better understand the context of some experiences. Please help me calibrate my dysfunctionometer. [more inside]
I'm flying to my parents house tomorrow to say goodbye to my dad who is in the end stage of dying from complications of dementia--stopped eating/drinking/talking. I'm a nurse so the question is not so much about how to deal with the details of my dad, it's more about how to help myself not fall apart. [more inside]
First off, these are not ingrown. They are very short hairs which protrude, normally, from the skin. They are no longer attached at their base yet they remain in the follicle. Sometimes they cause irritation in the skin around the follicle. The gentlest tug will remove them but they are short and difficult to see or grip. [more inside]
A close friend of mine is taking a new job after a long stretch of searching. It's a great job, but it will require her traveling a lot, commuting by car at a significant distance every week and being apart from her husband/friends/family for many days each week. She's both relieved/excited about the opportunity and dreading the rest. I'm looking for a not-too-elaborate congratulations gift that addresses both sides of the coin. Ideas? [more inside]
The hard drive in my 2011 27" iMac was failing, and has been replaced. It's a 1TB Seagate Barracuda 7200.12 and I was told to try recovering the data myself first. But Googling has only left me more confused. Walk me through this? [more inside]
What do I need to know before taking on a housemate? [more inside]
My pediatrician's office accidentally gave my one year old a partial MMR vaccine and now wants to give her a repeat dose. [more inside]
I'm an anxious beanplater in desperate need of a positive distraction. I want to come up with a long list of activities I can refer to that will help me 'get out of my head' - in other words, the activities are so (manageably, safely) intense or consuming or absorbing that I don't have the time or mental space to waste on unimportant worries and anxieties that would otherwise eat me alive. Effectively helping me to "get out of" my head and stop obsessive thoughts. [more inside]
Mr. EG and I just got engaged after many years, yay! However, we will apparently be entering into one of those rarest of unions--that between a liberal and a conservative. Help us have civil data-driven conversations please, and give me hope for the future. [more inside]
I would like to find more music in the vein of this: Something speedy with no definite rhythm and preferably pretty jazzy. Maybe something Charlie Parker-esque but with a little more clash.
My Lady Friend has a rash on her leg above the top of her foot. Does anyone have any idea what this could be. No pain and no itching either She hasn't been exposed to poison ivy. Thanks in advance for any help
On a recent trip to Uganda, we heard a really interesting bird song (insect song?) that I simply haven't been able to identify. The best way I can describe it is something like the sad trombone sound but with a very electronic sound to it. How can I find out what type of bird made this sound? [more inside]
In the 2012 film Act Of Valor, an extended passage is said to be the words of the Shawnee leader Tecumseh; here in 2016, it's all over web-pages that assume it's a real quote by him. Where did this quote first originate? Was it genuinely spoken/written by Tecumseh, or is it an invention from Act Of Valor screenwriter Kurt Johnstad, or is it an invention by someone else? [more inside]
Google Apps used to be free when you only required a single email account with your own domain, using this App Engine trick. Does it still work?
Is there a device that converts multiple video outputs (DisplayPort, Thunderbolt, mini-DP, VGA, DVI, ect) into a single HDMI cable? [more inside]
What's the deal with these minimalist watches? And where can I find more? [more inside]
My partner is back in the hospital for complications following a major surgery. She's covered by Medi-Cal and in a trauma hospital (the major public hospital in SF CA), and I'm concerned about her care. [more inside]
How much do I need to make in Amsterdam to approximate my salary of $150k in San Francisco, CA. [more inside]
Does anyone else here have gum disease that just keeps getting worse and worse no matter what you try? Has anything stopped it in its tracks? [more inside]
Silly old poem from my childhood. I'd love to find the whole thing and the origin, and my google-fu is not all that strong on the best of days. Does this ring any bells? [more inside]
Any recommendations on the best way to have a Wordpress podcast blog turn its MP3s into movie content that is then uploaded to a YouTube channel? [more inside]
We are looking for an nice, special and simple spot near Beacon, NY for our wedding. Google and there are lots of wedding "venues"; but these are not what we want. A special spot; a beautiful building; a nice garden. We can have it catered locally, but want to avoid the usual rented event/hotel destination spots.
My aging kitty (as seen here) now gets multiple medications daily, most of which I can sprinkle over a bit of tuna slurry, and she's happy to eat. But she has an occasional pill that ruins tuna for her, and it has also ruined pill pockets for her, so now I'm at a loss for how to give it to her without the traditional approach of poking it down her throat. This is horrible for both of us. Please share any tips you might have for other tricks to make this easy and painless!
Hi! We're buying our first home in California this year. I am an educator (adjunct at several colleges, part time at one more college - all are post-secondary) and my spouse is a firefighter and federal employee. I'm the son of a military veteran. Are there any first time homeowner or home buying programs, assistance, mortgages etc. we might be eligible for? [more inside]
I'm doing an impromptu night trip from Seattle to see the Perseids. The internet advice for meteor watchers is aimed at campers and hikers. What can a non-outdoorsperson like myself do for best meteror viewing? [more inside]
Asking for a friend. Her husband just told her he wants a separation/divorce, but refuses to move out of the house because he wants to co-parent. Lots of details about why they are heading for divorce, but she needs an attorney that will fight for her and kids. She has talked to two attorneys and they seem soft. Her husband is very smart, manipulative, and willing to play dirty. She needs a strong advocate. Help!
I'm reconsidering my plan to camp overnight and watch the Perseids on Friday night at the Boston harbor islands, because it will be rainy/cloudy. Where could my friends and I go instead? [more inside]
I'm dealing with near painful dry skin on my face. Will getting a facial at a local spa help me? [more inside]
Can I get some suggestions for workout / cardio songs on Spotify? I have an ok playlist, but I'm not in love with a lot of them (especially the long fade-in / fade-outs). Major qualification is ~120 bpm, although I guess I'd be up for hearing what an alternative would be like. Current playlist is here! [more inside]
Hello. I am interested in bulk ordering wet cans of cat food, and specifically Friskies brand pate flavors, and I am wondering if you all know the cheapest way to accomplish this. [more inside]
Trying to decide how much I'm willing to spend on tickets at a 3000 seat venue here in town. I love Dylan but haven't seen him in 20 years... are his concerts especially entertaining or am I better off investing in CD's and bourbon for home listening? Presale starts at 10am EST - thank you in advance for any input!
I'm trying to put together a shopping list of essentials for a baby's first week. Special snowflake details apply... [more inside]
I'm looking for a specific security/"nanny" camera and so far the list of must-have features is causing me to fail at google and amazon-fu. Specific features needed listed inside. [more inside]
So I started trying to date again. I haven't really done this in half a decade and I'm trying to ground my expectations about how people communicate in a dating context nowadays. Details below. [more inside]
One of my teeth (a lateral incisor) is a fair bit bigger than the corresponding tooth on the other side, which I'm a bit self-conscious about. I've discussed this with my dentist and he recommended bonded composite veneers. Could you please tell me about your experience with veneers (especially the bonded composite variety)? Should I go for it, or should I just try to get over my goofy smile? [more inside]
Hi any help and advice on what I should would be really appreciated. My boyfriend is an aidworker working for a charity and has been posted in Africa for 9 months. He was sent out to a special project about a month ago and I have not heard from him since. What do I do...? [more inside]
Please help me and my sweet, innocent children survive a 2-day road trip. Kids are ages about one and preschool age. We will be staying with family as well, so any advice for navigating a potentially dealing with the usual type of slightly obnoxious in-law difficulties is also welcome. How do you make time for yourself or find time to relax during stressful family visits? Is that even possible? Posting anonymously because spouse sometimes read mefi and I prefer they don't know exactly how much I'm dreading this trip. [more inside]
I'm going to be fired for the first time in my life and I'm completely lost. Messy, rambling details within. [more inside]
I have always had issues with my weight, but I have recently lost a lot and am on target to get to my own personal "ideal" within a few months. I'm happy with this, except I'm currently finding it hard to deal with the constant comments. Advice on how to deflect would be welcome. [more inside]
I'm an AMAB person. I'm not cisgendered and would like to gradually alter my work outfit to look more feminine without being too obtrusive about it. Clearly, I'm out of my depth. [more inside]
I have some low-level mental and behavioral health-esque issues that I'm not sure how to address, including hair pulling, food hoarding, and generally not being good at assessing/meeting my needs. [more inside]
Ideas re pain/soreness in muscle above eye? [more inside]
I saw pictures of a book on tumblr that was filled with suggestions for improvements on common condolences. For example, instead of saying, "Everything happens for a reason," try, "You must be disappointed that it didn't work out." Help me find this book, please! [more inside]
I'm about to spend nearly two weeks in Sebago, Maine (the tiny town, not the lake, though it's near the lake.) What are your recommendations for a delicious and unique food experience within an hour's drive for three adults? [more inside]
So I'm approaching an arbitrary anniversary at my job, and usually at the regular company-wide meetings they announce so & so's milestone, and they get up in front of everybody to receive a small token gift from management, and then the person usually spouts off some kind of anecdote/short story about work. I don't know what to say as I feel kind of 'meh' about my job in general. [more inside]
I'm getting more serious about OKCupid and I'm not sure if my profile is good enough. I'd really appreciate your overall thoughts, and I have a few specific questions: [more inside]
Graduated ages ago (1997) with a BSBA in Business Finance and Banking & Financial Markets (double major). Never went in to the field, but now I'm thinking I want to career change in to it. [more inside]
I saw The Orb perform a few months ago at Moogfest here in Durham, and there was this really wild part of their VJ set towards the end where some glittery heads were jumping up and down on a black background. You can see it at 59:30 here - then there's some muscle flexing, and then you see more glittery headfae. Does anyone recognize these jumpy glittery heads? Where do they come from? Is it a thing?
So, I just got back from a gaming convention and I'm tempted to buy pauldrons (shoulder armor) or a single pauldron on Etsy to incorporate into outfits for social occasions, especially in geeky crowds. I've got little to no experience with wearing unusual clothing - most of my clothes are the male stalwarts of t-shirts, polos, jeans, and khakis. What goes well with a pauldron that reads as "slightly oddball casual" and not "got lost on the way to a LARP?"
What are your tween's recommendations for Essential Pop Music Tracks for Summer 2016? My second-grade daughter is a nerd (apple, tree, hi) but her buddies seem to know all the latest songs. I'd love to build out a mix/playlist for them all to rock out to. But what goes on it? Taylor Swift? Is Adele too grownup? Is One Direction still a thing? Specific tracks recommended by actual kids (or grownups who know these things) would be very appreciated!
I work in public health and have worked on a number of different qualitative and quantitative research projects. I feel like my method of managing and taking notes on background research is sub-optimal and I could dramatically improve my strategy. What do you do? [more inside]
I had a test today in which the end result may or may not be ovarian cancer. But I won't know for a few weeks. How do I keep calm and carry on until then? My maternal grandmother died of ovarian cancer, and she was initially diagnosed when she was about my age, so that doesn't help. Somewhat ironically, I just got a referral for BRCA testing last week, but don't have an appointment yet.
I am due with my first child in mid-January (yay!) and looking for a relaxing, secluded-but-not-isolated weekend retreat in early November. Details inside. [more inside]
I am planning to reach out to some museum executives in hopes of building my network and seeking steady employment in my field areas of Anthropology & Museology. I have not been working in my field for the past couple of years because of a horrible domestic abuse situation and I am out of practice in terms of applying for jobs/networking, etc. How can I reach out to these executives and not appear like an idiot? [more inside]
I've invited 14 people to crash with us for a long weekend this summer. Hooray!! I'm super excited, but also terrified at the prospect of feeding all of these people... [more inside]
I just joined a marketing department for a public library and I have been asked to investigate a better way to handle the editorial calendar. Right now we use a color coded spreadsheet with a tab for ever six months. It was created inhouse. It works but we looking for suggestions for something more efficient.
How do I maintain energy, steam, inspiration, and enthusiasm while undertaking a LONG project-- writing a nonfiction book? I've been at it for 4 months already, and I've got at least another month of proposal writing, and then will have many months of book writing. It's a marathon, and I've never done a marathon. [more inside]
Where in North America are the most secluded (meaning very private rooms or separate cabins) and romantic resorts and hotels, with gorgeous atmosphere? [more inside]
I had an interview for an exciting startup today and got emailed straight away saying they really enjoyed meeting me and would like to invite me to the final round of interviews on Friday. In September I am going to one of my closest friend's weddings in Japan, and will be away for ten days. I am worried they will not be happy about this, what do I say and when? [more inside]
I recently bought a meal plan subscription where once a week you get a grocery list, 5ish recipes to batch cook, and then dinners for each day of the week that come together in about 15ish min or less, based on the food you batch-cooked. This has been a godsend for me. I want the same thing, but for exercise. [more inside]
I've been self-employed for a while now, and have generally moved from contract to contract to make ends meet. Nothing lucrative and as a result of some major health issues, I've accumulated some debt. A few months ago I began to offer a particular service that has garnered steady interest. I've got a solid plan to move it forward but in the meantime, I'm trying to find part-time work to support this effort. (Some triggery events below) [more inside]
In going through my cedar chest, I came upon a cache of new thigh-highs in nude and black. Since the summer bare-leg look is still going strong and seems likely to continue, can I get rid of these damn things? [more inside]
I am sick of the high street stores, they are boring me to tears. I'm not affluent enough to buy designer. So where should I shop online? Examples below the fold of the type of thing I'm looking for but alas, most of them are only based in the US. [more inside]
A friend of mine snapped this picture and was wondering what these symbols were. I have fruitlessly searched Google and TinEye to no avail. Any thoughts? [more inside]
At the office, they put in a Wilson Panel Antenna (looks like this one) for a stronger cell phone signal indoors (for Verizon, Sprint, and T-Mobile I think they said). My question is, can they (the network people at the office) intercept the signal such that they could see employee phone calls, texting, and web traffic?)
My father very much does not approve of my fiancée -- how should I proceed? [more inside]
I will be starting the last year of my CS degree (combined BS/MS) this fall, which means recruiters are already starting to contact me. And I feel extremely not ready. [more inside]
I had never done interviews or hiring until my most recent promotion. In my new position, I've helped make three hires. All three looked between solid and terrific. All three have turned out, to one degree or another, to be disappointments. What kinds of revisions can we make to our interview process to screen out people who interview well but do not deliver? [more inside]
I'm planning on building loft beds for my kids. They have ceiling fans smack in the middle of their ceilings. For obvious reasons, kid hijinks in a loft bed and a ceiling fan spinning at dangerous speeds just inches from their faces is a bad combination. And I hate the ceiling fans anyway. So...I'm trying to crowdsource ideas on what to put in place of the ceiling fans. I can't really just remove them and put one of those flat plates over it, since the ceiling fans are also the main light for the room. I need to replace them with something. I'm looking for style ideas for: 1. A light source 2. That can be installed in the center of the ceiling 3. That doesn't hang down too far. Any ideas?
I'll be traveling with a friend to meet my sister and her husband in Hawaii over Christmas. It's the worst possible set of dates, I know. But it is the only set of dates which works. I'm looking for help in choosing between islands and hotel/hiking recommendations. I'm also looking for recommendations in Honolulu. [more inside]
How are insurance companies going to handle VW diesels? [more inside]
In a serious relationship. Want to do something that symbolizes our commitment to each other. Ideas? [more inside]
I'm trying to get a mortgage and the underwriters want a profit and loss statement for my consulting practice. I do not have one. Moreover, I'm not doing any consulting work in 2016. And in 2015, my consulting amounted to about $3000. But I've been depreciating a laptop since 2013. I'm not asking them to give me a mortgage based on my consulting practice. I also have a full time, salaried job that is totally adequate to the loan I'm applying for. So what do they actually want from me? [more inside]
I have a large, fixed picture window at the front of my apartment; while it has blinds, whenever they are open passerby can see right in, as it is at street level. At night someone close enough can catch a glimpse of what's going on inside even with the blinds closed, as the living room and kitchen are right there! What would keep passerby from looking in, without making the room too dark?
Recently, I had a pap smear that showed severe dysplasia. The doctor did a colposcopy today, and I'm waiting for the results, so of course I'm a nervous wreck after doing research on the internet (I know, I know). I'd like to hear from people who have been through this, and I also have some specific questions. [more inside]
I am considering doing the Everest Base Camp trek this November. I have some experience hiking and backpacking (did the Q-circuit in Torres Del Paine with friends this February), but I will be likely be alone this time and therefore would like to join a guided group for this. I did a search on past questions on this and it seems rather scant. [more inside]
Do you have experience with essential tremor? Do you have any tips or tricks for making it better temporarily? [more inside]
My friend is looking for this story and none of us remember where it is from. A traveler or explorer encountered a house and walked in through the front door. He walked through the house, out the back door and around to the front of the house. He discovered that the front of the house was pinched off and inaccessible. Please help
The TV show Fargo is great. I really enjoy it. But aside from the great storytelling and filmmaking skill, I realized it ticks some boxes that I want more of: 1) crime 2) in flyover country 3) during the winter Can you suggest books, movies, or TV shows that meet these criteria?
In my quest to see more of the USA, I have a vacation in Florida. I will start in the panhandle, and would like to see the Keys. No real schedule, just a week or four driving in Florida. Camping/rv parks ok. What should I see and do? [more inside]
I am overwhelmed with the options and reviews for gym bags and I need some help. [more inside]
I'm a teacher who doesn't want to teach anymore. I have a journalism degree and straight out of college I worked in PR for a few years. I've been trying to get back to PR for a while, but it's not working. Maybe I'm too old or maybe my experience is outdated in the eyes of employees. Is there anything I can do to offset this, or am I doomed to be an unhappy teacher for the rest of my working life? [more inside]
The overhead fluorescent lighting in my office is terrible. I don't have a window. Between task-light desk lamps and floor lamps, what should I ask for to make it not terrible? [more inside]
Just got a memo from my landlord that there is a mandatory inspection of my building tomorrow by his "lender bank" for "tax purposes only." They will be taking pictures inside all our units. Why does a bank need to inspect for tax purposes? Why do they need pictures of the inside of my home? It feels very intrusive. I suspect they're either refinancing or selling the building. The note says failure to comply, within the 2.5 hour timeframe, will be a breech of my lease and grounds for eviction. Is that legal? (I'm in Los Angeles, if that's germane.)
Help me organize my lab's data: make a database that is somewhat robust and very easy in its links to files. [more inside]
My daughter is leaving the daycare where she has spent the last 4.5 years. These people have done so much in raising my daughter, from potty training to developing character and teaching moral values. I want them to know how much I appreciate them and I want to give them the most wonderful gift(s) possible, but without spending beyond my means. There are about 20 workers in total although some have spent more time with her than others. [more inside]
The light switch inside our bedroom corresponds to a wall sconce over our bed. My wife hates the lighting from it and would prefer lamps. What's the best way to get the switch to control plugged-in lamps? [more inside]
Our tenants recently left and we discovered they've badly damaged the engineered wood floors. The only way to restore it would be to replace it completely, which we do not plan to do. What should we charge for damages? [more inside]
Should I repair or replace my 25+ year old GE upright freezer? [more inside]
Need songs for a skydiving themed wedding, help? [more inside]
I put in an application for a 150 sq ft apartment yesterday, and I'd welcome advice / personal stories from people who have lived in similarly small spaces. How you feel about the experience, tips for what to keep and what to shed, super space-efficient everything. [more inside]
I am a fairly high-level university secretary. My job is slowly being deskilled. I need a plan for the future. Problem - I am already 41. Other problem - difficulty in getting out of the secretarial track. What to do? [more inside]
Hi folks, I have a car that I bought in mexico, used, that is in my name and I am planning on driving it from the Yucatan into the USA. I obviously don't want to drive it all the way through mexico only to be turned away at the border with all of my belongings, so any info is greatly appreciated. I am hoping to keep using this car - a 2008 toyota in good condition - while I resettle back into the USA. I know there are some requirements for emissions and other standards, so again - any info you all can give is greatly appreciated. Thanks
As a software engineer at a top tier technology company? I graduated from a liberal arts college with a degree in Computer Science. We didn't cover much software development, but a lot of concepts, like algorithms, data structures, networks, machines, etc. I had always thought I didn't want to be an engineer, so all my internships and job experience is centered around business planning and product development. Now I want to switch to engineering. [more inside]
I'm working on a project where I'm building out 100 texty web pages, all with the same format, but different content within that format. I frequently need to zip through some or all of these pages, to scan for problems, incompleteness, special cases, etc. I'd like a non-clumsy way to do this scanning. [more inside]
My significant other likes taking pictures of her creations in the kitchen, and she'd like to branch out into video.I have a DSLR, but am unsure how to approach the lighting setup. [more inside]
I'd like to tackle a (I think) small coding project - how do I get started, assuming I know basically nothing. I'd like to have some way of batch merging pdf files based on file names. [more inside]
Our attic needs a thorough cleaning and insulation job and we are exploring our options. I think we are deciding between blown-in cellulose (R38) or blown-in fiberglass. The contractor we spoke with did not recommend batts as he said it would not fill all the gaps in the attic. We also do not have recessed lighting so there isn't concern about the loose stuff falling out of there. We'd sure appreciate any thoughts though!
I need a new phone, but I don't want to lose my favorite feature. [more inside]
Who should I look for and where should I look for them in making my house a wifi superstar? [more inside]
I love to be able to multitask on my ipad while I watch videos in 'picture in picture' mode. Is there a way I can emulate this on a PC? I found a Chrome extension that will do it for Youtube but it won't make the video 'always on top' so it goes away when I click on anything else. I'd like to find something that will do it for all video in a browser - whether that's chrome or something else. I'm running Windows 10.
Where can I buy the best-quality, most stylish and most hardwearing brogues for women anywhere in the UK? [more inside]
It's time for me to buy a new casual winter coat. Please help me find a petite, fur-lined, hooded, olive green parka! [more inside]
My wife has been talking about getting her second tattoo ever since I've known her, i.e. for more than a decade. But now she's decided to go ahead with it, and I'm worried that she's making bad/hasty choices. [more inside]
Couple of masters degrees, experience. How to be a teacher/professor now? [more inside]
Please help me find awesome geeky t-shirts in the massive haystack that is Etsy. [more inside]
Good people of MetaFilter, I want to find a gladiator - type women's pump that doesn't squeak. Currently, I own these shoes. I love them, but they squeak so much it sounds like I am walking on dolphins. I have bad knees so I can't do much more thsn about a 2.5 inch heel. I don't mind a platform pump as long as the toe is not too much lower than the heel. I want them in black, and I would prefer leather to man made material. Does anyone have any suggestions? Thank you!
I’ve spent the past two weeks really trying to figure out what I can do with my life after graduating with a bachelors in psychology in a year. Here’s what I know. The enjoyment of my work comes first, but while it comes in second, how much I make is also important. Also, I am an anxious person, so I’m trying to avoid something that is super high stress. [more inside]
In the film The Big Short, the three central characters - (Steve Carell's) Mark Baum, (Christian Bale's) Dr. Michael Burry, (Brad Pitt's) Ben Rickert - are shown as profiting tremendously by betting against the housing crash, yet all are shown as being pissed off about it to greater or lesser degrees. I have a hard time buying into this. If you spend all this energy playing the game and making a massive profit off it, can you really be said to be opposed to the game? [more inside]
I'd like references for books that describe the intellectual history of the past 200-odd years in the West, e.g. modernism, postmodernism, and whatever was before and after. [more inside]
I'm looking to create some way that I can track jobs I have coming up, as well as have them populate into available time slots in my scheduled based on anticipated completion time. Can this be done in an Excel sheet, or is there some sort of program that exists that is better suited for my needs? [more inside]
I'm in a situation where I'd (A) like to keep my personal info and donation amounts from being a matter of public record, and (B) identify good organizations I can keep donating to, even after this election cycle is over. I'm a US citizen. So, putting political candidates' campaigns and PACs aside, what other organizations will help with any of the following? [more inside]
I'm getting married in a month! Thinking of creative ways to invite our guests to share something of themselves with us. Guestbooks are cool and if that's what we end up with, no problem, but wondered if the hive mind has seen something cooler? Recently saw a wedding where the outcome of this was something that could be displayed, and it got me wondering. [more inside]
I'm driving from Portland to the Painted Hills (Mitchell, OR specifically) in a few days and would love to see the sights along the way. What route should I take, and what should I see? [more inside]
I will be traveling for a second time to Maui in November. We did a lot of the basic tourist things on the first trip, so I'm looking for interesting ideas for what to do on this second trip. [more inside]
I'm fast approaching 36 this year and have had a varied career. You could same i'm a jack of all trades but master of none, what with undertaking lots of roles and completing a business degree at 33. For the past couple of years, the job market has been tough. I've undertaken a couple of 6-9 month job contracts as a temp, whilst also experiencing a length period of unemployment. I loved the experience academia brought and I excelled during this journey, developing some great skills. I've just been accepted to do the MBA part time and have been in my current contract 15 months. It is due to come to an end in October but there's a chance of a permanent job coming up that is very well paid. [more inside]
I switched roles to a new location with a different culture and I want to make a good impression without messing up my schedule. My employer offers a great work/life balance and the new location's culture seems less aligned with it. I can't figure out how to navigate this effectively. [more inside]
Can we travel Highway 101 and Highway 1, from Seattle to San Diego, in July of 2017 on new scooters and sell them as slightly used in San Diego? [more inside]
I’m running OS X10.11.6. A week or so ago a new folder showed up on my hard drive, labeled only with a tilde (~). I have no idea where it came from, and can't get rid of it. [more inside]
I'm headed from Boston to Williamstown in mid-September for a short getaway. I'll also be 33 weeks pregnant, so anticipate needing frequent food and rest stops. Where can we stop about halfway for lunch or dinner and a good leg-stretch? Google says Athol is halfway, but I don't know restaurants in the area. We also think we should take route 2 and 2A for the most scenic drive -- is that right? Thanks!
I'm trying to wire up our Burning Man bikes with rechargeable USB batteries as opposed to bulky, wasteful, PITA AA cell batteries. I'm having trouble finding something that will output the right voltage. Halp? [more inside]
A colleague mentioned a college course he took on rigorously proving commonly handwaved aspects of math. Help me find books or a syllabus relating to this! [more inside]
Since my teen years, I've only bought Levi's jeans. I could always find a cut that looked good and they had that famous Levi's durability. However, in recent years they've been wearing out quickly. The fabric feels really thin and the jeans start to fray and wear out early. Can anyone recommend a new brand for me? [more inside]
What are some good food/travel and HGTV-type home and design shows on Hulu? [more inside]
We just got engaged and are now in the research/planning process for our wedding. We are considering many options, from destination wedding (not likely, but in the running), large local wedding, small local wedding, or anything in between. The question that keeps popping up is: Is spending a huge chunk of money on our wedding worth it? [more inside]
I am a 37yo man and have good skin. I don't have acne or spots. For some reason my nose is different. It always seems shiny and the pores are visible. It is almost like my nose doesn't match the rest of the skin on my face. It is like this not matter what. If I wash it well with soap and water or just water and try to not fuss with it too much. Any idea how I can remedy this? Thank you in advance
I am trying to create charts in Excel and then copy them into Powerpoint. If I initially paste the charts with linked data, can I subsequently embed that data for sharing with others? Are there other convenient ways of sharing a Powerpoint file together with a linked Excel file? More tiny/related questions and details within. [more inside]
It is a running joke that I suck at being on vacation. I'm going away this weekend and really want to not suck. Help. [more inside]
What is the best way to counteract the phrase and philosophy of "I'm so tired of political correctness" or "political correctness has gone too far"? [more inside]
After about 12 weeks of working out (mostly dumb bells, cables and bands), I've developed bicep tendinitis (I think) that mostly hurts in my elbow. I'm taking ibuprofen, icing it, and resting it as much as possible but I don't know when I should worry and when I should suck it up. [more inside]
By the time my birthday rolls around in early October, I am going to be well past burned out. I want to go sit alone on a beach and have no one speak to me for three days. I do not want to spend all day on a plane or in airports getting to said beach. For various logistical reasons, I think Tampa is the most practical airport to fly in to. But where to stay? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
I'm getting kind of tired of the bedside lamp I've had since I was like twelve years old and I've decided I'm finally grown up enough to buy a new one. But which one is the best, Metafilter? Which one? [more inside]
How would you spend 2.5 days in and/or around Denver? [more inside]
I’m writing a piece on the digital divide in the field of digital art, approaching the question of how museums and galleries can promote inclusion and diversity in the work they showcase when access to digital technologies is far from universal. I’m looking for research material related to these questions. [more inside]
I'm changing jobs and don't want to pack up/move my current desktop organizer set-up, which is both old and cheap/flimsy. I currently have two organizers I use, a stacked plastic organizer like this, and a wire file holder like this. [more inside]
So my son is now about to be six. I feel like the amazing bond we had/have through shared interests and just sheer delight in each other's company needs (for the first time) thinking about and curating and not just taking for granted. Anyone have any tips on this next step? [more inside]
My old year old is beginning to fight her naps, and wakes up very upset. [more inside]
We were given this Audio Technica AT-LP60 turntable and these JBL Loft 40 speakers. We understand we need a receiver to use them together, but that is about all we understand. [more inside]
My family is looking for a last minute beach or lake house getaway within driving distance of NYC. Any recommendations? [more inside]
I would like to make a large cake that is shaped like the United States, with each state being its own individual slice, like this, but with cake instead of jello. Is there an easier way to do this besides getting a USA-shaped cake pan and carving out each state individually? [more inside]
I know you should usually just know if you should live with your partner, but I think I know, and the context has been really complicated and dramatic so hear me out! Featuring cancer x 2, a car crash, and 267 types of ear plugs. [more inside]
Those of you who have been in the unenviable position of clearing out the house of your late loved one, how did you go about it, and any tips for me? (Both practical and emotional.) [more inside]
As a new artist, it possible to sell your artwork (original paintings, prints or otherwise) too soon? Alternately, what are the cons of selling artwork very early in an artists career? [more inside]
I'm looking for ways to stay on top of current trends in ambient/psybient/atmospheric drum & bass music. [more inside]
Four weeks after giving birth I suddenly became unable to sleep and the problem persists. Heavy medication keeps it in check but makes my life dull and keeps me from enjoying my baby girl to the fullest. What could cause my insomnia? YANMD, of course. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
How can I exchange emails with the police while remaining anonymous? [more inside]
So imagine I have a population of like 100,000 people. And I have goals for them to achieve for which they get money. Now I want to calculate what my budget might be. [more inside]
My husband and I had a really bad fight some time ago. We have our differences politically, and some of it concerned arguing over political things the other person posted on their timeline. In a fit of anger, I unfriended my husband and removed my link to him in the family/relationships section. Anyway, we've long since made up and wish to restore our facebook connection. How do I refriend/restore our facebook relationship without it showing up as "news" for other people's timelines. The last thing I want is a bunch of "likes" at the fact that we are married or friends again, or for our inlaws to see we weren't facebook friends. Help!
I'm a 29 Year old male who is going to be homeless in Los Angeles. How do I start over again and build a new life from scratch. [more inside]
I'm looking for a new job, in Quality Assurance or Scientific Affairs, FDA-regulated industry (food, dietary supplements, cosmetics, pharmaceuticals), in the US. What's your best advice for a mid-career, older person on finding and getting a good job in those fields, specifically? Maybe you'd be willing to critique my resume? More about who I am and what I hope for, inside. [more inside]
I'll be landing at Heathrow on a Monday morning and need to make my way to Farnham in Surrey. Is it reasonable to take a cab there? [more inside]
[Trigger Warning] I have a child with someone I consider my abuser. How do I navigate the situation when having a mediator isn't possible? [more inside]
I have a 1998 Subaru Legacy Outback. I have what I suspect is a significant engine problem. I have data. I have a parts car. I could use some advice. [more inside]
Need new phone as mine is shot. Android is a must. Under $300 total preferably cheaper. Android CDMA network. But most importantly, it needs to have a great camera--not one that you have to manually configure to get good shots-- I just want a point and click. I'm too old and dumb to adjust this and that forever. [more inside]
I'd like to follow around a trained naturalist or scientist and listen to them hold forth on flora, fauna, geology, weather, (and some history) you name it. I have an Absolute Lack of Patience for general tours that lack a suitable density of information. (This is also true of nature documentaries.) I'm less picky about exact topic and more interested in interesting and knowledgeable speakers. Museums are cool, but I far prefer wandering around outside. Any ideas to share?
We'll be visiting Kiev and Chernobyl (here with a guided tour) the next week. Already bought Lonely Planet and will check Atlas Obscura, Tripadvisor. But I'm a bit sceptical with travel advice coming from these sources - I'd rather have a mefite telling me what to do and what to avoid. [more inside]
My dog and I were in Missouri last week and I didn't even think about pest control as we do not need it in Colorado where I am. He became covered in tiny (what I think are) dog ticks and few dear ticks. I was driving back to colorado and didn't know what to do. So I put advantix on him. Now what? [more inside]
I'd like to use my iPhone 6+ in Britain during our two week vacation. Fido offers me a sad $10/20MB/day data plan. I assume I can do better by buying a different SIM in when I get to Heathrow. But what flavour of plan and what sort of provider should I be looking for? [more inside]
Long forgotten series that I read in the 1980's. A maid at a Scottish or English manor ends up starting a perfume or cosmetics empire. The books cover decades of the women's lives. At one point one of the characters meets Picasso in south France. [more inside]
Is there a name for that phenomenon whereby you briefly lose the ability to act naturally? For example: mid-sip of a glass of water you make unexpected eye contact with an attractive stranger, and then you must take manual control of your arm and hand to set the glass back down instead of by muscle memory / reflex / autopilot, during which you feel awkward and look awkward.
I'm a very light sleeper who hates to be awakened. I have a bad cold. I feel like my partner is not respectful enough of my need to stay asleep. I need your advice. [more inside]
YANMD. In fact, I went to my doctor on Friday because I'd been experiencing some shortness of breath with exertion, but no pain. The shortness of breath resolves within five minutes of stopping activity. I'm 57 and obese. Over the past year, I've lost 30 pounds and gotten my blood pressure from high to normal through diet and exercise (this morning: 116/68). I've also been experiencing tremendous emotional stress for about six months. I've had a chronic cough ever since I had a severe upper respiratory infection in January. [more inside]
Original artwork I post daily online is starting to get more and more attention. What do I need to do to protect my work? What steps have you taken to protect your own work? [more inside]
Can I salvage a skillet I left on burner and a skillet I ran through the dishwasher? [more inside]
So, I'm going to be visiting Mr hippybear who has been working in LA for a while. While I'm there we will have about 2 unscheduled days and we might want to explore. Read more inside for details about the advice I'm looking for. [more inside]
My husband and I retired and moved to a resort town and immediately met great friends who are very active athletically and we are constantly being invited to do beautiful hikes and wonderful social things with them. I have actually become very fit and have benefited by all the social activity. (I am an introvert). So my question is how to balance all the social/hiking with my need for down time/alone time/homemaking time. I need more homemaking time but don't want to cut off the hiking invitations. Having my husband around more had given me even less alone time so I am feeling like I need more structure to my weeks. [more inside]
tl;dr - Which platform or language will provide organic SEO and allow me to create modern and beautiful websites? By "organic" I mean, I don't want to do SEO work after the site is built. I want to follow best practices while creating the URLs, tags, product description content, layout, etc. [more inside]
My male cat had a urinary obstruction last year. He's supposed to be eating prescription wet food to prevent future cat crystals, but he has other ideas about this situation. [more inside]
We bought a house and I'm really excited about it. One thing we're not so excited about are these ugly windows that are all along the front of the house and the enclosed porch area. The arches are just kind of dated looking and not my style. How can I improve the look? [more inside]
I have romantic feelings for my long-time male friend. He's gone abroad for a year, he may stay longer, I am resolved to tell him how I feel. Is this selfish? When should I tell him? [more inside]
I need a new phone. Everything I see is too big. So far, only the iPhone SE is on my list. Anything out there comparable to the SE? (U.S. use). Big phones allow doing things I do not do with a phone. I just want the thing to fit comfortably in my jean's pocket.
In a previous question, I mentioned an opportunity that would help me change my life and give me the security to make a decision on the abusive relationship I've been in. That was alternative teacher certification, but I am pretty sure I just failed training and won't be allowed to get a license. What types of jobs or solutions might there be for me now? [more inside]
Is it worth it to pay for an immigration attorney versus doing the paperwork ourselves? [more inside]
The Olympic Games is large: it contains multitudes. From living in the UK and US, I'm aware of how differently it's presented: the BBC is a little bit nationalistic but mostly treats it as a glorious global sporting carnival; NBC makes it a soft-focus rah-rah-USA reality show with lots of commercials. But how does it come across in other countries? [more inside]
Would love any advice on how to deal with this situation: two months into a new S7 and the phone stopped making and receiving call. 2 hours with phone tech support and no luck. "Go into the shop and they will help you" I was told. Upon arrival i was told that it would be $75 dollars to assess or swap phones. After some arguing they agreed to try a hard reset. No luck. They said you can deal directly with Samsung if you dont want to pay us 75$ to do so. [more inside]
I pay for my music to be recorded, marketed, distributed, promoted, and literally everything else to do with making and distributing it. How is this different than me being my own record label? Is there some duty of a record label that I have not included here? If so, what? [more inside]
I eat rather plain food, and I eat the same things over and over again. I've started watching Chef's Table on Netflix, and it's made me super curious. [more inside]
About a year ago I got my first pair of varifocal (or progressive) glasses. It was an improvement on my previous situation, and I'm not unhappy with them. However, I wonder if I made a mistake with the shape of the lens. The frames are rectangular and the lenses are about 6cms across and 3cms down. [more inside]
What is the beneficial version of gentrification? [more inside]
I've decided I'm done carrying heavy purses and doing damage to my shoulders and back. But that means a backpack. However I'm a woman in my 30s who dresses nicely for work (and stylishly otherwise). Women who have found stylish backpacks, what are your recommendations? Price range up to $250ish, leather, tan/light brown. Thank you!!
When I went to Washington D.C. I discovered food carts/trucks that sold enormous, cabbage-y egg rolls. This was about 10 years ago so they weren't the trendy food trucks you see today, but they were bigger than hot dog carts and drivable. I've attempted googling them over the years I'm missing the secret word. Can anyone find a recipe (and any other info) for these? I must get them in my belly!
While I was working on a document on a flash drive, Word told me I couldn't save the file to the location I had opened it from, a USB drive. [more inside]
I recently started a job that ranks between okay and good. I have now been contacted about a job that would be OH MY GOD HOLY SHIT WHOAAAA. How can I possibly interview without revealing what a jerk I am for leaving a job after only a month? [more inside]
We don't have cable or receive OTA signals. We'd like to watch some TV (NetFlix, YouTube, network streaming). We have WiFi, a Samsung SmartTV(450, 2010?), a Toshiba TV, a Wii, an old MacBook w/ dying monitor (6,1 OS X 10.6.8), an old iPod Touch (4th Gen?), and an iPhone 5. Please suggest setups and options using the resources we have or cheap peripherals (<$100) that would make our TVing satisfying. [more inside]
The only car I have ever owned was totaled recently, and I have no idea how to research this, so trying here. [more inside]
Today in my archives I came across three poems on individual papers from the Sleeping Lady Lodge in Leavenworth, dated February 24, 2001. The poems are in my own handwriting, and I was on vacation with three friends at the time. Please help decipher the form so I can write more collaborative poems! [more inside]
I've solidified some tendencies over the last 10 years or so that I wish I could dissolve. It looks like introversion, but that's not a perfect label. It is not coping strategies that I seek, but ideas to really effect change, and any hope you can give me that such change is possible. [more inside]
There was a locally quasi-famous Chicago band that played in the late '90s. It seemed like they were always at street fairs. They sounded a little bit Barenaked Ladies-esque, and had an Asian woman who played the violin. (I don't know how I know this but I swear the violinist had an MFA from Michigan). Who were these guys? They were good.
I am looking at buying a Fuji x100t. It has a lot of things I am looking for in this type of camera (basically an upmarket fixed lens). It has good reviews. But I noticed it does not have image stabilization. Every camera I have owned has had this feature in some way. [more inside]
I'm working on a personal research project (not connected to any school/work) and am looking for resources that expand on these two themes: "an informed citizenry" and "the responsibilities of the citizen in a democracy." [more inside]
I just spent a week getting patch testing done at my local neighborhood Dermatologist. After five days of intense itching, I tested sensitive for cocamidopropyl betaine. It's in everything I use to clean myself. What can I use instead? [more inside]
Dear Mefi, another ‘books with a feel like…’ post. This time I’m after novels set by the sea (or by a lake if we must), but with a fabulist, magical or eerie feel. Not looking for out and out horror, just a feeling of strangeness in the air. Ambiguity a plus, and many bonus points if set in a run-down seaside town. Examples below the line... [more inside]
I received a phone call regarding a resume I submitted. I submitted yesterday and the potential employer called me on Saturday morning (rather early, before 9 AM). I returned the call within twenty minutes and left a voicemail. I would like to follow-up with another call. Normally I would wait until the next business day, but being Sunday, that seems inappropriate. According to the v/m, he is looking to interview on Monday. Would it be OK to call later this afternoon, before 4 PM? Call early Monday morning? Thanks.
Asking for a friend: Single US woman, mid-20s, wants to spend a week or so in Tallinn this autumn. She's heard some pretty sketchy stories about the hostel situation in the city, and is wondering how safe it would be for her to travel and stay there. Other than the usual travel precautions, is there anything in particular for her to be aware of in Tallinn?
Right now I'm connected to 375 people on LinkedIn, and I'd really like to remove 25+ of those people because our relevance to one another has dwindled. Could this have any downsides I'm not thinking about? [more inside]
I'm a girl in my late 20s, and I'm moving to Edinburgh in a few weeks. I'll be looking for work first and foremost, but I really need to develop a friendship network, and I'd love to date. I haven't done much dating so far, though. What are good ways to meet people (especially single men) of around my own age (maybe 26-35) who are awesome and smart? [more inside]
People with long, reasonably rewarding relationships: how do you get through the times your partner is a bummer? [more inside]
I'm an editor with two solid decades of experience and a good reputation in my field. I do a lot of rewriting and restructuring but no real writing I can call my own. I work with mostly long-form content for IT services companies, universities, medical advertising agencies, nonfiction books, annual reports, etc. [more inside]
I have an offer for a position I was initially excited about. But something doesn't feel right, and I'm hesitating. Is that feeling just normal anxiety about change and the unknown, or a gut feeling about the position/place? [more inside]
My lemon tree is under attack. Leave are mysteriously nibbled, and I'm scared. [more inside]
Does okonomiyaki sauce go bad? Or is it something that doesn't really spoil, and they are required to put a date on it? [more inside]
I had a bad depressive episode some years ago, which got me into treatment. In retrospect, I feel that I have been depressed many times before in my life and that this untreated depression explains my low ability to function from, say, the ages of 19-22 and 25-30. I now feel more capable than before, but also overwhelmed by all there is to learn. What should I prioritise, and how to organise my life so that I can learn these things gradually and safely without becoming overwhelmed or attacking myself for not having learned them before? [more inside]
I'm caught between the Maker's bag, the large Cafe Bag and the Swift. Each one has features I like, but none of them exactly fit the bill. I'm looking for other brands that might sell exactly what I'm looking for. Are there other brands out there who sell bags that are utilitarian, have O-rings, LOTS of pockets, and are made to last? I'm a knitter, if it matters. [more inside]
More dessert questions - please point me to your favorite German chocolate cake recipe. [more inside]
I've lived in NYC Metro my entire life. There's less work and more competition than ever. Time to relocate? [more inside]
I'm scheduled to be outfitted with an ambulatory eeg with video monitoring early next week. What should I expect? [more inside]
Did Edmund Muskie change his mind about running for president while in an elevator with his wife? An anecdote in a 1970's political bio suggested that he ran because he didn't want to spend time more with family. Anyone know which book it was and what the story details were?
I'm looking for links to Objectivist discussion sites/articles about how non-parent childcare (for orphans etc.) would work in an Objectivist/Randian society. I have some links; they don't cover this exact topic. [more inside]
I'm looking for suggestions for movie night menus, and activities for at-home date nights. [more inside]
What sites, boards, and/or recruiters have you had a good experience with when looking for a new technical job? [more inside]
My blood tests came back low in iron. I was surprised as I eat a good diet including lots of iron rich foods. My iron supplement (Spatone) info leaflet recommends leaving a 30-45 minute gap between taking the supplement and meals. It says carbonated drinks (phosphates) can interfere with iron absorption. I usually drink about 2 litres of carbonated water a day. Do I need to stop this completely? Could it be preventing me from absorbing iron from my diet? How much carbonated drink is too much carbonated drink in this context?
I currently have a Sonos Play:1 and would like it to be a bit more mobile. I was thinking that utilizing some sort of portable power supply would be the best solution, but wasn't sure what I would need. [more inside]
I have a WP site where several (more than 10) of the posts have the same text in the title. Like this, but not: Sneakers: Nike; Sneakers: Asics; Sneakers: Converse; Sneakers: Saucony. When I search (in the WP search bar) all of the posts come up except for two of them. I can't find anything wrong with the posts...they just don't appear. [more inside]
Someone close to me uses ketamine, and is having agonizing, 10/10, "I would consider killing myself" abdominal pains. They've had ER visits, one in-patient stay, various tests (MRI, CT, endoscopy, blood work). Results of tests include: anemia, high magnesium, low calcium. Pain may be (is likely?) caused by ketamine use causing inflamed bile ducts. [more inside]
I'm familiar with the influence of the French New Wave on American cinema (the New Hollywood being the primary example) and have seen where many of its members took their respective styles but I was hoping someone could help me understand the direction the whole of French cinema took in the decades following the Nouvelle Vague. Perhaps their radicalism shows in the following years, or maybe French cinema just fizzled, maybe the movement had a broader impact than it did here in the US-- looking for some sort of explanation along those lines.
I have an idea for a knowledge product (think: in depth e-book) that I'd like to sell online and am trying to figure out how much technical knowledge I need to acquire in order to distribute it, own the channel of distribution and be able to make tweaks and A/B tests in real time to monitor traffic flows. [more inside]
I've recently started a new job in which I work with a lot of people from Japan. I understand that I am supposed to call them "Surname-san" when I talk to them or write them emails. But I don't really understand why, or how this works in general, and I have some specific questions. [more inside]
The company I work for has a large machine shop. In addition to parts for our regular products for sale, the shop also makes engineering / development prototype parts for our development projects; parts which are charged to the projects, do not go into inventory and are not for sale. [more inside]
I’m seeing a pattern in my life where I get very frustrated when I have to pick up the slack, or am inconvenienced in terms of time or money by people on a repeated basis. These are non-optional relationships (relatives, colleagues etc). Occasional situations involving people who are generally considerate of time/money/effort do not bother me. What I’m talking about is feeling ground down and at times enraged by repeated instances of mistakes/inconveniences, last minute schedule changes that impact me etc. by a select few people . These select few people in my life are categorized in my brain as, for lack of a better phrase ‘low performers’, due to the high number of times I have covered for them or been inconvenienced by them. [more inside]
I'm a home canner with a glut of watermelon, a love of lemonade, and a strong desire to not die of a preventable poisoning. In theory, is it possible to pressure can a watermelon-lemonade/limeade concentrate without creating the perfect environment for botulism? [more inside]
What are the exercises that will help me improve my arms for lifting up the weights for squats without a squat rack? [more inside]
I want to collect as much body data as I can as comfortably and discreetly as possible, what are your recommendations? [more inside]
I am in charge of providing lunch for ~50 volunteers over a weekend. I need some fresh new ideas. [more inside]
My workplace has a basic web application working with a set of databases that is in dire need of reworking and improvements to make it more functional, improve the built-in analytic capabilities, make it easier to manage and update, and maybe make it prettier. Our current contract programmer isn't up to the task, so we're looking to contract this out to a new person or agency. How do I go about finding the right developer/programmer and scoping the project when I know next to nothing about web development? [more inside]
Just spotted a cockroach in our new house. Now what? Rumple: we have a baby. [more inside]
I can think of some examples that are kind of like this - Risky Business, Clueless, Planes Trains and Automobiles... what are some others? Bonus points if the person is the main character of the movie, rather than the foil for the main character (I feel like a lot of these movies are two-handers where the lead, usually male, butts heads with the uptight female lead).
I'm thinking about buying land and getting a general contractor to build me a house in L.A. I know from architect friends that having a good general contractor involved from the beginning is very useful. Anyone have any recommendations? Ideally someone who works in the San Gabriel Valley (Pasadena, Altadena, Monrovia, Sierra Madre) would be best. Also, we're first time home builders so if you've done it before and have advice on the process or what you'd do differently I'm all ears! [more inside]
Due to product-recall and corporate-policy fun, we have the opportunity to replace a 16-year-old basic model Maytag dishwasher with a brand-new equivalent 2016 model at no cost to us. However, a quick Google revealed that Whirlpool bought Maytag in 2006 and promptly shut down the factory, moving manufacturing out of the US. Further Googling reveals mixed feelings / reviews of newer Maytag products, including complaints about their durability. The current one is showing its age a bit (and there's that recall issue) but in other ways is a champ. So.... good or bad idea? [more inside]
A musician friend received a serious cancer diagnosis last week and his network is quickly mobilizing with a bunch of benefit concerts and a GoFundMe for medical expenses that has been doing well. Now that the pool of donations is hitting some real money, the family is trying to prioritize expenses and make sure they're not stepping into a potential tax liability down the road. [more inside]
What is the most effective way for me to 100% non-invasively mount a lightweight yet privacy-ensuring window treatment above my sliding glass door? I can't drill into the wall AT ALL. [more inside]
A while ago I read a blog post about somebody who was offering about 100 free hour-long consulting sessions in the hopes that one of them would lead to a job offer. I can't seem to find that blog post now. Who was this? [more inside]
I bought a (nonrefundable, of course) plane ticket to a wedding thinking the wedding was in the evening. It turns out it is in the afternoon. My flight is supposed to get in at 9 am the day of the wedding. I am in the wedding party. Should I take an overnight bus instead to insure that I am there on time? [more inside]
(1) Are there resources you would recommend that tell you HOW to move from savings accounts and retirement accounts to a more sophisticated approach to personal finance (or can you tell me how you did it), and (2) if the answer is "pay a financial advisor," how much have you or would you pay for an advisor to build you a financial plan to execute yourself (one-time, fee-based)? [more inside]
I was a high achiever during high school and college, but after 10 years of working in the real world, I'm stuck in a mediocre career with few options for advancement. How can an achievement-oriented person such as myself find happiness in mediocrity? [more inside]
I'm a morbidly obese male, 56. I have problem with recurring UTI's, about once every six months. (Way too much detail inside.) [more inside]
I'm flying with my emotional support dog for the first time- any tips? [more inside]
Looking for fun building/construction puzzle games for iPad, for kids age 8 & 5. [more inside]
I'm hoping for help in imagining what my body and my needs will be like when I'm retired, in 30+ years' time, as I look for a home or a piece of property. The lifestyle things are obvious--a garden, proximity to friends/family/community, room for houseguests--but what else about the physical property ought I keep in mind? [more inside]
I'd like to read more on a topic, but don't know what terms to search for. TV tropes calls it the "bumbling dad". But it's also everyone who says to me, "Dad's babysitting both the kids? Super dad!" Not how women are generally the primary caregivers of children, but instead how men are praised for doing the minimum. What should I search?
in OITNB Season Two, Red and Piper are sharing the same space amicably. Why did that happen in the first place? I think it was a mid-season change.
I am looking for a Sweet & Sour Chicken recipe that came out of either a Weight Watchers or a Cooking Light cookbook published sometime before the late 90's/early 2000's. Would you happen to know it? More hazily remembered vague details inside... [more inside]
For complicated / irrelevant reasons a friend has suddenly acquired 18 pounds of Red Leicester cheese. It is good quality. However (again, complicated reasons) the cheese must be moved, used or transformed into something else within the next 72 hours or so. [more inside]
Any suggestions for buying wine online in the US? There was a previous discussion here but from 2009, and I assume/hope there are new options available. [more inside]
I want to be able to "call" people without their phone ringing, instead going straight to their voice mail. I'm aware of slydial. But I can't use it. Details abound. [more inside]
I need to quickly (like tomorrow) put together an online storyboard portfolio. The options are overwhelming me at the moment and the sites that I'd like to emulate all just say ".com", so I'm not sure what I should be looking for. Imagine that I'm web "aware" but not especially conversant. [more inside]
Recent articles featured on MF learned me that not everyone gets goosebumps, and that not everyone has a mind's eye. What are some other things that not everyone can do, either mental or physical? [more inside]
I've been doing Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for about 3 years now for depression and anger issues. It has worked well. My therapist thinks I'm ready for something new. In particular, for Shamanic Journeying. I just read Journeying by Jeanette Gagan, and I agree that I think I would work for me. [more inside]
I have never wanted to cosplay before, nor do I particularly enjoy dressing up. That is, until I saw the new black "Death Trooper" character in the Star Wars: Rogue Squadron trailer. Any advice on how to buy one or make one for myself? [more inside]
I don't like to carry my laptop around everywhere. It's heavy and I don't like worrying about it getting damaged or stolen, especially when I'm travelling or using it outside. I would like to do a workaround where I use a roll-up keyboard, and have some kind of tiny computer that projects the computer screen onto a wall. Then I could have a lightweight, flexible keyboard and screen (maybe a piece of paper that I project my desktop onto?). Mefi, what are my options? [more inside]
I have a pair of mens shoes, now worn out, that I really like. They no longer make them. Can you suggest a replacement? These. [more inside]
Can I improve on the taste of a lobster roll? Is there more than lobster, mayo and bun? I am suspecting that what I love about the lobster that I have to crack out of the shell is the butter that is served with it. Lobster with butter: delicious. Lobster roll with mayo: just ok. Next time I am going to try drooling the roll with butter, but can you suggest another flavor enhancer?
What is the quietest place a day's drive from Chicago? [more inside]
Tell me about ace neurologists, preferably specializing in headache/peripheral nerve issues, in the Bergen/Passaic/Essex County area of NJ. [more inside]
I'm looking for a noise blocking (or canceling), over-ear headset with microphone that would work well in a datacenter. My use case is Google hangouts with teammates while we're in the colo, so it needs to minimize background noise for the wearer, and have some kind of noise canceling for the mic. Over-ear is a must, these will be shared headsets. [more inside]
Have you had any luck with getting apartments to accept dogs? [more inside]
In January of this year, I suffered a really, really severe 3rd degree sprain of my left ankle. I asked this question back in March, and y'all gave me a bunch of great advice. Hopefully you have some more, because I'm struggling to adjust to my new weak-ankled life. [more inside]
I'm looking for the best resources (books preferred but other sources are welcome) on Iranian music and cinema from the 1940s leading up to the revolution. In other words, under the rule of Mohammad-Reza Shah. [more inside]
With the mothballing of the McSweeney's iPad app, does anyone know of any way to read Chris Ware's electronic comic "Touch Sensitive"? Thanks!
My family may have an opportunity to travel to Guadalajara for a few months for my spouse's work. How do we find a place to stay? [more inside]
Hoping for an ID for a low-growing, herbaceous perennial plant. [more inside]
I am the sole support person for one of my parents. They have no contact with any family members or past friends. In general, my parent is friendly and decent; however, they keep fleeing and/or being kicked out of housing due to their paranoid delusions. How can I help? [more inside]
I'm looking for prose fiction that has important scenes set at theaters/performances. [more inside]
I'm confused about what my goal is in being there. [more inside]
My husband met Hillary Clinton in 1992 as FLOAK. He was 24, living with HIV, and she was really kind and considerate of him. He would like to send her a letter, with a few caveats. He does not want it to "go viral", or even public, but he would like to get it into her hands or the hands of someone higher up in the organization. Anyone know where I could send his letter where it might have a chance of being seen? Thanks.
Can you spray paint a tub floor gold and actually keep it looking good? [more inside]
Any advice for taking good photographs of the night sky with an iPhone 6? I want to photos of the Perseids meteor shower, but I'd rather not bring along my "real" camera, tripod, etc. What's the most I can do, with the least amount of additional gear? Apps are good; things that increase weight are bad.
A new friend and I are spending Sunday without our babies in San Francisco. We are excited! But neither of us really know the city, and also we are used to doing child-centered things like going to parks or libraries or whatever, so our brains are mush. What do adults do in San Francisco besides the deYoung museum? Looking for offbeat, fun suggestions that don't totally break the bank. Thank you!
Can anyone identify the storybook Shirley Temple is reading? [more inside]
Some people have commented that they think I have adult ADHD. I'm starting to believe them. What can I do about it if I don't want to take medication? [more inside]
I have been tasked with finding a tailor in or very near to Tribeca in New York City. They ideally are open at 7:00am or open until 7:00pm. And this tailor can take in the waist of a pair of pants without making one of the rear pockets off center to the seam. Chinatown is fine as long as it's west of the Canal street 456/NQR station. Other Manhattan neighborhoods considered if the work is really spectacular and inexpensive. [more inside]
I am in a tight spot. I know the relationship must end and have been honest about that with her, but I’m having a hard time figuring out practically what to do after this, as her reaction to my attempts to break up have been volatile. Ultimately I would like us to split and to live together long enough for her to find somewhere else to live, but from her behaviour so far, I am concerned that she is not stable enough to carry through with that plan. But I am desperate to avoid the alternatives - either escalating things to the point her family or even police are involved, which would obviously traumatise her, or with me just leaving the house with no future contact, which I feel could lead to serious depression as she has deep fears of abandonment. The latter option is also difficult as it is my parent’s home. What’s most frustrating is that, depending on her mood, she herself can see that we are not suited and need to move on. What do I do? [more inside]
I can't get this dance song out of my head, but I can't find it anywhere. I don't recall it being a particular hit. My memory of the chorus is "Come with me, tonight's the night, come with me, tonight's the night, can't you see I can't do it alone, I wanna be with you tonight". My memory of the video clip was that it was in black and white and set in a club, with various people lip-synching the song.
I start a new job in a month leading a medium-sized non-profit! Horray! The issue is that at my new job, we already had to make a hiring decision to replace someone who is retiring after 35 years. The person who is the best fit to take that spot is someone i supervise at my current job. I offered him the position today; he accepted on the spot. I need to figure out the best way to break the news about this to my current employer. [more inside]
Please tell me your coconut milk and/or cardamom-intensive recipes! [more inside]
A couple of weeks ago I had a skin reaction, and now I'm shedding. Help me sort this out. Not too gross. [more inside]
Should I give up my federal government job? Major snow storm inside. [more inside]
My husband is traveling to Senlis (seems like a small town north of Paris) at the end of August for 2 weeks on business. He does a ton of domestic travel in the US but this is his first international trip. He does not speak any French, and his top preference would probably be to exist in an isolation pod stocked with protein bars and free weights during the time he is not at the client site. Any tips for making this trip as bearable as possible for him? [more inside]
Need help researching karmic rebirth in Buddhism [more inside]
I was harassed on the bus today. I don't have a problem speaking out against homophobia if I witnesses it, but how do I do it when I'm the target? [more inside]
A friend posted a picture of herself breastfeeding to a social media account. A coworker told her this was inappropriate "for work" and that her having coworkers as friends means she shouldn't have posted it. Um, what? [more inside]
In the past year, I have been treated for cancer and my husband died unexpectedly. With the exception of 4 weeks of FMLA earlier this summer, I have continued to work at my professional job with only a few days off here and there. I increasingly want to take some time for myself to figure out who I am now and what I want the second half of my life to look like. Is that terribly indulgent? Is this a thing people do? Will it completely torpedo my career? [more inside]
An old friend just died and I want to save the messages we exchanged on Facebook. Can anyone explain how to do that? I want to save them to a file somehow before the fb page is shut down.
Can you recommend a specific shampoo or conditioner that will make my hair smell great? (fwiw, I am a woman in my mid-20s, and I neither work nor live with people who are sensitive to fragrances.)
A friend spent about four hours, plus some travel money, moving me out of my apartment while I was across the country kind of having a nervous breakdown. I was sort of gushy-apologetic-thankful, repeatedly. [more inside]
It's natural to get comfortable with your day to day reality, which includes routines and norms that we take for granted. How can I push those boundaries (without drugs)? [more inside]
I've long been fascinated by Siberia and the Russian Far East. I seek out and consume all media, fiction and non-fiction, voraciously. But I think I may have run out of material. Can you recommend any movies, TV shows, documentaries, books or podcasts about these areas? [more inside]
I have the best weather app, Dark Skies. I am looking for an app that will show me historical weather data by day, or something close to it. My ideal app would show me today, the record temps, and then just historical data for the date. E.g., the temp last year, the year before, in 1964, etc. I'm most interested in temperature data, but other stuff like precipitation would be great too. I feel like some enterprising soul must have made an app like this.
I am in need of a new phone and interested in switching to Google's Project Fi. Would love to hear from anyone currently using the service. Is it reliable? Do you like the Nexus phone? Is the billing as straightforward and simple to understand as they claim? [more inside]
I'm curious about how, in real life, one deals with a situation where someone is molesting or abusing a child. Commonly, the perpetrator is within the family or friend group – a father, an uncle, a sibling or cousin, a friend of the family. In these situations where you have family ties, what kind of response actually makes the situation better? I'm interested in both concrete steps that can be taken as well as what kind of outcomes would be expected. [Trigger Warning] [more inside]
I am mentally ill and dating someone new. When do you disclose mental illness in a new relationship and how do you do it? [more inside]
Is it better for a fitted baseball cap to be a *little* too big or a *little* too small? [more inside]
What does a "change in health" mean from an insurance/legal standpoint? [more inside]
I have to work very closely with someone that seems to be very anxious around me. Is there anything I can do to make this person more comfortable? [more inside]
I am interested in SlingTV as a replacement for my Dish Network service, but I primarily consume TV via DVR. Is this a not-starter? [more inside]
Is it possible to have a single bike that can easily switch between regular and electric operation? [more inside]
With a typical DVD player, after you hit the "Eject" button it takes a few seconds before the eject starts. How can it possibly take this long for such a simple operation? What is the machine doing during those few seconds?
We're looking to replace the hard surfaces on the first floor - basically, the foyer, hallway, half-bath, laundry closet, pantry, kitchen, and breakfast nook. We think we want tile, and even picked out a porcelain tile sample we like. But there are so many choices of materials that we're overwhelmed! Fellow MeFites, what flooring material do you have, what do you like/dislike about it, and what advice do you have to offer us? [more inside]
I have the option of an approximately 23hr layover in Casablanca, Morocco. I would arrive at CMN at 11:00PM, and then depart at 11:00PM the next day -- which would give me the one day to enjoy the city. Has anyone done this before? [more inside]
I want to buy a matching bomber jacket or varsity jacket & cheerleader skirt from a dance/athletic supplier, rather than a fashion retailer. These are pretty standard items, so it shouldn't be too difficult, but I was wondering if any of you had particular experience with any specific vendor! I only want to buy one of each, so no bulk minimums is good. [more inside]
Is it worthwhile for me--a lifelong, but casual racing fan--to make the trip to Saratoga? [more inside]
It's the second half of 2016, and I still can't choose between 1Password, LastPass, and Dashlane. What password manager should I be using? [more inside]
I'm curious to know what it's like being a Flight Attendant. It can be true that delays in airports and delays to flights means that you get lumbered with a flight full of grumpy passengers. What are the best bits and worst bits about being a Flight Attendant? Is it a job you would recommend?
My boyfriend left less than a week ago, and I've been heartbroken ever since. Is this normal? This is my first serious relationship (I'm 25, he's 28). When we're together things are blissful and perfect. He has affirmed his commitment to me in many ways, but I feel our communication needs may be different. I am trying to understand the root of my unhappiness, as I felt so hopeful when we were together in person. I am also trying to understand whether I am cut out for an LDR in this capacity. Please help. [more inside]
We'll be wandering around Nova Scotia for a couple weeks in September. We've got accommodations and some activities figured out. But can you recommend some things we might not have thought of for activities, as well as great places to eat (as in interesting and not touristy)? Our time will concentrate on spending several days in each of these areas: Digby to Wolfville; Halifax to Lunenburg; Cape Breton (Ceilidh trail, Cabot Trail, Louisbourg); Eastern Shore drive; day or two in Maitland area for tidal bore rafting and recovery. Thanks in advance!
Kitty randomly attacks us. Can we train her out of it? [more inside]
Is it appropriate to request to travel across the country for an on-site visit when my position doesn't typically involve travel? [more inside]
My MIL has moderate dementia and is currently in a nursing home in Kansas City. We are considering moving her to the Twin Cities. Does anyone have a positive experience with a Twin Cities nursing home? Hopefully in the southern suburbs. She would be a Medicare only, elopement risk, patient.
In a few weeks, I'll be making a trip from Canada to Ordos, China. It'll be my first time doing such a trip. I've got a few questions and I'm wondering if there's anything else I need to know. [more inside]
Can you identify this (possibly Borges) short story? Years ago I read a story that I'd like to read again, if only I could find it. It went something like this: A detective is pursuing a murderer . . . [more inside]
My brother is generally a caring, generous, talented, and thoughtful guy. He is also almost the definition of "stuck in a rut" - partially due to bad luck (recession), but probably more due to impulsive/emotional behavior - moodiness, impulse buys, little white lies, throwing his smartphone when angry, got a DUI not long ago, etc. It's hard to watch because he works hard (if very disorganized), is at times brilliantly self-aware. But can't seem to find his footing, and still lives with my parents. [more inside]
I thought ferreting out hidden dairy in products was bad. Onions are worse. I know there are whole groups of foods and recipes I can do up sans onions but how can I fix my favorite foods without onions. [more inside]
In other words, can one long for something in a manner that doesn't demonstrate wistfulness? Can one be wistful without longing for something (a person, a missed opportunity, whatever)?
I need to book myself a holiday but, never having travelling abroad, I'm a bit at a loss to figure out where I want to go. Given my list of requirements, can the Hive Mind suggest where I should start looking? [more inside]
A shop clerk told me today that it wasn't safe for food to go from being frozen, to being in the fridge at the grocery store, to being frozen again in the freezer at my home. [more inside]
Looking for public domain shot of a building (multiple buildings okay) in a city exploding as if from a bomb. I just need snippets that are seconds long, so if it's a case of "hit by a space ray but could be trimmed to leave out the space ray," that would also be great. [more inside]
Mr. Atruesock & I are buying a house (yay) in California. My parents are helping us. I need help understanding how to fill out the Vesting Form the escrow company gave us, and I need to move fast. YANMAttorney/CPA/Realtor, but please help me figure out which box to check, or tell me what other people in my situation have done! [more inside]
I've decided I want to explore the use of psychedelics for spiritual growth. I live in a part of the world (SF Bay Area) where finding collaborators for this should be easy, but I don't know how to go about it. [more inside]
I'm looking for an online app that will help me coordinate and schedule my book club meetings. Preferably free (or less than $10/month). My book club started on Meetup.com, which made sense when we were still new and growing. We have a good solid membership now so I was thinking of taking us off Meetup (which charges $10/month). I'd like to still have some type of online meeting management, however. Have you used a book club (or group meeting) app that you liked? [more inside]
I witnessed an attack on someone earlier today and tried to report it afterwards but was told by the police that they wouldn't make any record of the incident since I didn't call as it was happening or when I was on the scene. Just wondering if this is normal protocol and why they wouldn't want to at least make a record. [more inside]
Very last minute trip to Asheville, NC and wondering what to do for four days! Can anyone recommend zip line tours? Hikes are a plus but concerned it might be touristy? Should probably check out the Biltmore? Sorry, just internet overwhelmed and its coming down to the wire. Details are me, partner and three teenage girls that are up for anything. Beers a plus for the adults!
I just moved cross-country to start a new job as assistant professor, and the movers (United Van Lines) I hired (one of three the university allowed me to choose from) are running more than three weeks later than expected. They picked up on July 15th and were supposed to to deliver between July 18th and August 2nd. First the stuff was going to arrive on July 25th, then August 7th. But truckers keep on not bringing it. They now want to containerize my household belongings and deliver them on August 13th, and they said "it could be a long time" before my piano arrives. How can I make them bring it to me faster? [more inside]
I'm AMAB nonbinary (probably) and working towards being open about my gender identity, both online and in real life. It's going about as well as could reasonably be expected, but I'm exhausted by feeling unable to stop thinking about gender. Advice would be appreciated. [more inside]
Planning to buy an unlocked Android phone US / Amazon for regular visits to the US, but also need it to work in several other countries if I just buy a sim on arrival. I do not need roaming or to receive calls to a US number in other countries. There are a gazillion different answers on different websites. Anyone have a pretty good idea if I'm OK with this one? [more inside]
I am bored and unfulfilled in my job. I am not miserable yet, but I know from experience that if I don't do something soon I will become pretty miserable indeed. I've been through this before, and the endgame is not pretty at all. Help! I need a new career path. The problem is, I don't know what path would work for me, or even whether one exists at all. Can you help me brainstorm? Details inside. [more inside]
I've depended on my ear all my life to play music. I learn new pieces by listening, playing back what I've heard, and then slowly correcting my errors in listening by reading the notes in spots I think I'm unclear on. In the past it was a cool party trick, but I want to stop using this approach because it slows down the rate at which I pick up new pieces, it's sloppy, and without a teacher these days, it's difficult to pick up my numerous errors. I am also awful at sight reading. [more inside]
We have a guest room in our apartment and we love having guests! We had been using a really great air mattress for guests, but now we have a guest coming that is of a larger size. We want them to be comfortable. Please- recommend me a guest bed/ futon/sofasleeper/convertible love seat whatever. [more inside]
I'm back in a music phase, and I like to use smart Spotify playlists as a point of discovery. Aquarium Drunkard is an example of a list I listen to regularly, and really enjoy. Can you recommend some others to me? [more inside]
I'm the proud owner of a 2009 VW Golf (petrol not diesel). I'm the second owner, it has low mileage, has been regularly serviced by certified VW mechanics and has never had any mechanical or electrical problems. It's also a great car and I like it a lot. However, it seems like every second day I see a news story about yet another lawsuit against VW over the diesel fuel emissions scandal. [more inside]
Any recommendations for a tai chi DVD for an 87 year old woman? [more inside]
Partner and I (both late twenties females) are looking to spend ~4 weeks of September escaping the UK. Neither of us has spent much time in Southeast Asia and we're hoping to visit Thailand to see temples/countryside/waterfalls/elephants, do a cooking class, spend some time on beaches, eat, drink, meet some people. Where else should we consider other than Thailand, what else might we enjoy? [more inside]
I was just at CVS and a woman asked the pharmacy cashier for a non-prescription product that they keep behind the counter. It was in a red box that looked about 4" on all sides, and the product name was "[something that begins with A] Dream." [more inside]
I'm working on putting together a website that aggregates user-generated reviews and ratings, like Yelp, TripAdvisor, Goodreads, Capterra, etc. What are your favorite review sites and what do you like about them? Conversely, what sites do you hate and what makes them inferior? I welcome your thoughts on review sites of any kind of product (tech, doctors, books, restaurants, hospitality, whatever) -- this is for me to learn about user experience, and how I can improve upon what is already out there. Thanks!
My dishwasher gasket came loose and I stupidly pulled it out. I have tried 30 plus times to put it back in, first with assistance from youtube and then from my relatively handy friend. I feel like I've wasted half the day and am pulling my hair out over a little problem, but I am close to just trying to order a replacement or repair job. Can anyone offer some pointers not mentioned in video that might help? Is a new gasket the answer? [more inside]
I've read a lot of questions and replies here about various medications for anxiety and depression, and I'd like to at least get evaluated and find out if they'd be helpful for me. Who do I go to for this? [more inside]
I vaguely remember reading sometime in the last year or two an anecdote about President Obama's attitudes about military intervention. This was probably in a long form piece from the New Yorker, Atlantic, etc. Obama and advisors were considering intervention in the Middle East (Syria? Libya? Iraq?), and Obama asked his staff for an example of a successful military intervention in that region, and was met by silence. Anyone remember specifically what I'm talking about? I've been googling without success, which makes me think I have one or two of the details wrong.
I booked a rental place in Oceanside, and I'm going to visit Legoland and a few friends in SoCal. But when I mentioned that I was staying in Oceanside, there seemed to be some concern that parts of Oceanside are "sketchy" (with gang-related activity)? Is that a real problem for tourists? How do I avoid the bad parts, so I don't just blindly follow my GPS somewhere....
I've just moved to Salt Lake City, and am an inveterate user of public library wi-fi. However, of the 4 libraries I've visited so far, I've only been able to connect to the wi-fi in 1: in the other 3, I don't get a "Connect to Library Wi-Fi" splash screen when I open my browser - I just go straight to "this site can’t be reached - DNS address could not be found." What gives, SLC libraries? [more inside]
Looking for this song. I don't know the lyrics. Just the tune of the chorus which I've crappily remade. Halp? [more inside]
I have been working in offices for about ten years now and have yet to have a single job in which I did not have copious amounts of free time. Seems like no matter how many tasks get dumped off on me when other people leave the company, I still work so fast and efficiently that I'm sitting around bored for 3/4 of the day. I have an interview tomorrow. If I mention this, would it be a selling point or a red flag? [more inside]
When were chocolate-covered bugs invented? What and where were the first chocolate covered bugs? [more inside]
My debt situation is in the $117,000 range. I'm 25. I make $2,000 a month. I missed payments for the first time last month. Called a financial counselor for possible help. He told me to stop paying my student loan bills. Is that really a good idea? This sounds awful... Also - Any financial advice would be MEGA helpful. [more inside]
I facilitate an LGBTQ+ teen support group that meets weekly, and next week we're renting a space with an auditorium and projector so that we can watch a short film and chat about it afterwards. What do we watch? [more inside]
I'm technically not married, but my boyfriend and I are in a very committed relationship (we bought a house together, adopted two dogs together, and I foresee no separation in our future). Anywho. My boyfriend happens to be a twin. As you can imagine, he and his twin brother are very close. Problem is, I can't say that I share the same affection for the twin as my boyfriend does. In fact, I find it very difficult to be around both him and his wife. They are quite negative people. I feel like if the four of us (me, boyfriend, twin, twin's wife) were all in a difficult situation, twin and wife would be the first to point out everything that was going wrong. As you can imagine, it's pretty emotionally draining to be around them for extended periods of time. [more inside]
I'm hoping to find a product that can either etch glass mugs or possibly print on them. Looking to personalize the mugs with a person's name for a loyalty program. I've seen several products that require a lot of hands on effort, and "talent". I need something idiot proof so I can actually make it work. Can anyone recommend something like this for me?
My parents are emotionally abusive and clueless. Can I cut them out, even if it feels like I can handle it sometimes? [more inside]
I check Bing news every day. I mostly read headlines, but sometimes click through to stories. International news is heavily weighted towards A Really Bad Thing Happened. Where and how can I more reliably find news about economic development and that sort of thing? [more inside]
Are there businesses which exist that will handle all aspects of selling your stuff on eBay for you? What should I Google for to find such a place locally? [more inside]
I'm moving to Lancaster, PA this fall. I have a strong interest in design, science, and the arts. And I need a job. [more inside]
Difficulty level: Canada. [more inside]
I'm moving to Hyde Park and have found an amazing 2-bedroom apartment. Only trouble is I need a roommate and have had no luck so far--are there any resources I haven't tried that you've had luck with? [more inside]
A family member has been visiting the Chicago suburbs for 15 years and just experienced a tornado siren test for the first time. After recovering, the question was asked, what other things do people do, know, accept, etc. it isn't given a second thought by locals, but would be unexpected, unusual, etc. to outsiders? [more inside]
I'm going to be commuting from Cambridgeport to Watertown for three months starting in September. I don't have a car and my current plan is to bike along the river (about 50 minutes), which is fine but I'm not super excited about showing up to work disheveled or having to budget lots of extra time for showering/primping at work. Are there any grape-viney rideshare matching services in the Boston metro area that I've missed in my searches so far? [more inside]
I'm getting brand new hard wood floors shortly, and I want to avoid the horrible chair scratching that plagued my last floor. I've tried simple felt pads and plastic nail-in pads, but neither worked particularly well. Can you suggest some protection for my chairs, or is this is a lost cause?
I took a look on Amazon but didn't exactly find what I'm looking for. Is there a prepared cat food that's like the consistency of a thin milk shake or baby food? Not the packets of broth or the kind with lots of gravy - just one consistency throughout. [more inside]
Can anyone suggest a great thing to do on your birthday in Prague in the middle of next week? My girlfriend and I are about to go to Prague for 4 days, staying near the Old Town (Prague 1). We have the same birthday so I'm trying to find something special for us to do on Wednesday. [more inside]
I am saving up to buy a bike for commuting. My ride to work with be little under 2 miles, and is pretty hilly. How much should I expect to spend? What other characteristics should I ask for? [more inside]
We came back from vacation (had a housesitter) and our cats are peeing on everything. We tried Feliway in the past but it didn't work and is expensive. Is there a DIY solution such as a makeable spray that actually deters cats and does not smell awful? [more inside]
I'd like to update a stale resume. Have you come across any inspiring examples of online teaching statements and philosophies at the university level? Thank you! [more inside]
I used to think everything came from either Reddit, which is nerdy but seems mostly nice, or 4-Chan which just seems like this nasty dark corner for the real weirdos, or maybe The Chive, which seems like Howard Stern type stuff for a little older crowd. But none of these seem like the source of Harambe jokes that the bros in American flag tank tops are into. Is it just corners of Facebook and Instagram?
Our niece (16yo) didn't acknowledge one of our birthdays yesterday, and this seems to be a pattern of being completely inconsiderate. I need to discuss this with her, but thought it might make more sense to explain to her how people are considerate/caring of others, and give her examples. I can give her examples of what I do, but what are ways people are considerate of others/show that they care? [more inside]
In Philadelphia all day tomorrow. Help me figure out where to set up shop (and also maybe buy a cool backpack?) [more inside]
I applied for health insurance within the time allotted for my special enrollment period, but since they did not receive the (online) application until 63 days after my eligible event, they say I am ineligible. What are my next steps? [more inside]
I've decided I want to make better, more purposeful use of my downtime to get myself out of a rut. I'd like to take some ongoing (not one-off) classes in something that is engaging and practically useful. I'm feeling drawn to mechanical-type things, like learning how to do basic electrician stuff or auto repair. Any ideas? North Seattle would be ideal but I can travel.
I bought a bottle of something similar to a white zinfandel for a dinner party guest who cancelled. She's the only person I know who likes super-sweet white wines. We (stupidly) opened it tonight anyway, thinking that we'd give it a try, and no one could drink more than a few sips- it's so horribly, cloyingly sweet! What other drinks can I make with it to make it drinkable? [more inside]
Years ago, I had a glorious weekend with my best friend where we just hung out and did Weffriddles all weekend long. (Also wore togas, but that is not important.) Where can I find more/the best like this so I can do them with people! [more inside]
I'm trying to copy large amounts of files from iTunes to a flash drive. My OS is Windows 10. For some reason it's only letting me copy about 50 at a time. WHY [more inside]
My co-worker/friend's baby was stillborn and it was, of course, very awful and traumatizing for her. She is now pregnant again (about halfway along) and I want to support her in the best way possible without saying inadvertently thoughtless things. [more inside]
So, I have friends who run fitness programs and help many people. I introduced a "friend" who I met through work but distanced myself from her because she's racist. She says pretty shitty things about black people but once she knows what you're into, she panders. I don't trust her and don't feel emotionally safe. [more inside]
I'd like to celebrate my retirement with a month-long personal retreat devoted primarily to moderate exercise and quiet relaxation. I'm a man in my 60's. Given the following criteria, where should I go? [more inside]
(previously, 2005). Looks like a trip to Cuba will in fact go down in September. Cursory research indicates that the cell network there is GSM and that there is no US roaming in place (not a shock). Any pointers, tips, useful links? [more inside]
I just bought an iPad Pro and Apple Pencil. Looking for suggestions for the best apps for (1) lecturing in the classroom and (2) serving as a research notebook. [more inside]
Our AirBnB host publicly complained about the sand we left behind. In a listing titled "Close to Beach!" I believe this review is, frankly, bullshit. So under what circumstances will AirBnB remove a review that, while not technically fabricated, is not legitimate? [more inside]
So.. Half a package of organic, raw almonds broke open in my hiking backpack, spilling its overly expensive contents into the kind-of-gross bottom of the bag. My partner thinks the dirty nuts should be immediately discarded. I'm not so sure. Help us decide whether to toss these nuts in the trash, or grant them a second life. [more inside]
My wife's family has a mountain resort property with no cell service. A consultant has told them that their number one priority needs to be getting a cell tower built. They made it sound like it would just be a necessary expense, with no return on the investment except that more people would stay at the resort. But how does the cell tower business work? [more inside]
How can I forget the powerful romance that I had with someone who has left me... when I see her daily? It was the most passionate relationship in my life and lasted only five months. It was more powerful than my ten plus year marriage. How do I get over this? [more inside]
My 6th grader really enjoys Clash of Clans, and has enjoyed the Advance Wars games on DS, but is not having fun with Clash's enforced waiting. I'd like to find a similar turn-based iOS strategy game where we can just pay for it once rather than get tangled up in freemium marketing. Unfortunately, this isn't my genre and I have no context for weeding through the recommendations Google brings me. Any expert opinions?
I started an outpatient substance abuse program for alcohol today. My first urine test is tomorrow. I had one beer last night. Is that going to show up? And will they know it was only one beer or are alarm bells going to be ringing because any alcohol at all was detected? [more inside]
Hello all, I can't find this answer anywhere (without directly asking my insurance company). My wife has multiple sclerosis, and without insurance her medication costs $6k per month. On our current plan I play $30 for a 3 month supply via the specialty pharmacy home delivery. We are losing this coverage at the end of August, but have a delivery in progress and will receive the next 6 months worth before we lose coverage. Is there some way they can charge me for the medication already received if I lose coverage for the following months? [more inside]
I’m a difficult to match color and slightly picky - what powder foundation (or BB cream if I absolutely must switch) should I look into? I am overwhelmed by options. Neutral (ish) pale shade snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Re-watching Californication I find myself wishing that the fictional God Hates Us All (S1) or even Fucking and Punching (S1 through S3) was a real book. Which book would come close to the mix of love, sex, drugs and rock 'n roll that is the first few seasons of Californ