August 2015 Archives
When superficial charm is used to describe people with anti-social personality disorder or sociopathy, what is meant? [more inside]
If it's apparent that a guy's interest in being a dom is linked to emotional issues, is that a red flag? [more inside]
I'm expecting to go on what might well be a slew of job interviews in the near future, but I can't button the top button on any dress shirt I own. [more inside]
So I recently met and started dating a guy (let's call him Chris) who makes me feel all warm and fuzzy. Which is good! I could go on about it, but that's not really what the question's about, so...just be assured that we're having fun and he's been nothing but kind to me so far. But I have noticed, I guess enough times to notice, him not speaking positively of other people in his life. I don't know how to respond when he makes negative comments, especially if it has anything to do with his (young adult) kids, for various awkward reasons. [more inside]
I'm trying to find a YouTube video of two African-American boys (brothers, I think) who do a song and dance routine on a TV show from the 60s. [more inside]
Last year I left the SF bay area, leaving behind 98% of my possessions in a storage room in the area. I finally decided to move my things up here to Oregon and asked a friend of mine to meet with the estimator from the moving company to let him into the storage room. She agreed and spent maybe an hour with him. Now that my move date is set I'm driving down to the bay area to supervise my move. [more inside]
I noted that my wisdom tooth on the bottom left of my mouth has been growing two days ago. And the gum around my wisdom tooth started to get swollen and it got worse today. I accidently pressed the gum near my wisdom tooth and there is some yellow liquid with a bit blood coming out from my wisdome tooth. I do not know if the gum near my wisdom tooth is infected or not? I feel it is a little harder to open my mouth than usual. My wisdom tooth does hurt so far. But when i press the area bettween my left jaw and my neck, it hurts a little bit. Here is a picture of my wisdom tooth. Link Can you give me some advice of how to do home treament to my wisdom tooth? Is it an emergency to remove my wisdom tooth? I personally do not want to have it removed. And i have a all-set vacation in two days as well. So if i have to remove it, can I do it two weeks later? and if I can wait for two weeks, what should I do to help my wisdom tooth get better? I really appreciate your time to help me!
How much money should I give to a friend for not going to their wedding? [more inside]
Solutions for on-the-fly video streaming and recording of science conference in academic setting?? [more inside]
If everything goes smoothly over the next week, this awesome dog will be joining our family. Could you help us think of a great name for him? [more inside]
When I was 19 I was raped by my ex boyfriend. For some reason I've messaged him. He's telling me it didn't happen and wants to meet. I don't understand what's happening internally. [more inside]
There are rats in the garbage shed behind my house. My landlord has been contacted and I have no evidence of them being in my house, but I am completely terrified to be there at night now. I know about all of the logical things I can do, but I am filled with terror and don't want to sleep at home knowing they're outside and knowing that they could get in. [more inside]
I'm pretty sure I have some sort of anxiety problem, and it's been getting worse lately. I've never taken meds or been to therapy, though I know that I probably should. However, I'm about to embark on a month-long vacation, so I'll have to wait until I get back to pursue them. What are some self-help strategies that I can use in the meantime? [more inside]
If I were to spend $400 to $500 (bargain basement, I know) on a laptop and printer/scanner, what would you suggest? [more inside]
I just spent a few weeks in Britain where I rented a Toyota Verso, which is an example of a common vehicle style in Europe known as "5+2", meaning it's a five seater with an optional extra two seats in the luggage compartment (they fold away if you need more luggage space). [more inside]
The edges of both cabinets next to the dishwasher have swollen and expanded from steam coming out of the dishwasher. They were only installed a couple of months ago. But who pays for the new cabinets: the contractor who installed the cabinets & dishwasher, or the appliance store who sold us the dishwasher (which leaked the steam that made the cabinets swell)? And who can cut this Gordian Knot of personalities for me? [more inside]
RPG PC Games for pre-teens? RPG adventure PC games can be from Steam, choose your type of character, go adventure, for the roughly 10-13 crowd. Any suggestions? [more inside]
In the late 1990s I attended one of Edward Tufte's day-long seminars. Tufte screened several short films for us, including "Mona Lisa Descending a Staircase", "Powers of Ten", and another short presenting a series of visual proofs of the Pythagorean Theorem. There are a variety of such films out there on the tubes, but can anyone help identify which one Tufte is likely to have chosen? [more inside]
At 3 1/2 months, Allan Armadale (obligatory photo with his sleeping brother Ozias Midwinter) has figured out that if he wants to knead energetically (and does he ever), the human needs to be wearing a very thick bathrobe. At present, the human has a suitable robe that she got from Marks & Spencer, but Allan and his two siblings are on track to doing it in. Previous Asks have, for some reason, prioritized humans instead of felines. Requirements inside. [more inside]
My girlfriend's family is from Shanghai, but her families recipes are informal and there are many common dishes that she'd love a good cookbook on how to make. Any suggestions?
I accidentally deleted an iPhone app (Voice Recorder). Associated with the app were audio files that I didn't have anywhere else, some of which I'd be pretty bummed to lose. There are no phone backups. Is it possible that these files still exist on my phone, and with the right tools, one could recover them? [more inside]
What are some good books and Resources on the politics of Red, Blue and everything in between (in the US)? Inspired by this thread on the blue, I realized I had no idea of what each party really, really wants on the major issues. [more inside]
I'm looking for examples of what a culture or social group has articulated as the basic rights owed to any person or at least any member of the culture/social group. The universality is the point here. Obvious examples include the UN Universal Declaration of Human Rights or the United States' Declaration of Independence and Constitution/Bill of Rights. What other examples can you give me? [more inside]
Suggestions for books and movies that feature houses or other dwellings in a prominent role? [more inside]
Looking for a digital camera recommendation. Something small and compact to take biking and hiking that is able to take action shots. [more inside]
Will LibraryThing allow me to maintain a list of books to read with comments about why I want to read them? Is there another book/media management site that will let me do that? [more inside]
Does anyone know if there's an alternative to Glassdoor website in Ireland where employees/candidates can provide company reviews? Thanks!
It is probably time to replace our current car and we are looking at used, 2011 model year Nissan Leaf cars. Are there risks that we are overlooking? The ones we have noted are below. [more inside]
After a ludicrously protracted search, I've bought a house, and I'm moving soon. Hooray! But the kitchen is long past its prime, and in particular, the built-in oven looks to be pretty awful. Dealing with that is high on the priority list, but other things are higher, and realistically I doubt I'll be able to get to it before next year. And that's rather a shame, because I enjoy baking, and enjoy bringing the results to work for colleagues to devour. So, please help keep me sane by suggesting your favourite non-baked baked goods. [more inside]
I have a business trip to San Francisco coming up soon. I will be more or less booked up with work stuff while I'm there, with the exception of one weekday afternoon. Any recommendations for the best way to spend 4-5 hours on my own? [more inside]
This is a long shot, but I need to renew my state ID (not driver's license) for Ohio and none of the phone numbers are working. I need to know if I need documentation or If I only need my recently expired ID. [more inside]
I'll be driving by myself from DC to Erie, PA in a few weeks. I am terrified of driving through tunnels. Help me choose a non-panic inducing route. [more inside]
I'll be adding some project/programme management responsibilities to my role in the next month or so, and am looking for resources to help me prepare. [more inside]
I would consider refinancing both my mortgage and my HELOC (which is reaching the end of the drawdown period next year). However my income has changed since I originally qualified for the loans, due to a more freelance work situation. If, while exploring my refinancing options, my current lender becomes aware of my less reliable income could that cause me problems with the existing loans? [more inside]
My best friend and I are going to the Kansas City Renaissance Festival on Labor Day weekend. I want to write up a quest/game for us to follow as a specialized gift. This would be basically a two-player LARP/cosplay day. We might accrue additional members to our party, but it would be a base of just the two of us. I need to come up with some quest lines, quest prizes, and achievements for points earned! [more inside]
How would you send a personal note that is more meaningful than an email, but not deep enough to warrant a hand written snail mail? Ecards seemed to fill this niche previously, but feel too dated and archaic for use now, especially for younger people. Are there any other alternatives?
Take me through the logistics of learning the piano for a first-time adult student. Do I take lessons with a private instructor? How do I find this instructor? How much should I expect a lesson to cost? How often will I need to practice? Do I buy or rent a piano? Should I buy a keyboard instead? Headphones for home practice might be ideal in my scenario. Any other advice on logistics appreciated!
We recently moved into a new (to us) house and purchased this sofa. Well the cats immediately thought it was their new scratching post and started to tear up the sides and back. This is my first brand new couch ever and I’d like it to last a while. Plus it wasn’t cheap. [more inside]
If you're on a super-tight budget, would you go with the practical regular ol' car or spring for a (maybe reliable, I dunno) hybrid? [more inside]
I'm getting married this Sunday to a wonderful person. We've been together 5 years and have lived together for two of those years. We are both in our 30s. I'm interested in your "tricks" for a fulfilling and healthy marriage. [more inside]
I wish to suggest other paths to him. Help me be a good aunt to him! [more inside]
Email server running Novell Groupwise... User(s) are able to read write w the iOS client, using "mobilemail.XYZ.edu" as the server. But... When I plug the same info into OS X's account info pane, I'm able to set up the account, but Mail.app can not seem to connect or sync with the mail server; it tries, but times out.
I'm in Rhode Island for a business trip, with some but not all meals provided at the conference. I'm on my own for two dinners and one lunch, and I'd like to make the most of them. Are there any places (that aren't exorbitantly expensive) I shouldn't miss? Please recommend me some deliciousness!
Calling artists of MeFi: in search of suggestions for watercolors (and associated materials). Details within. [more inside]
I want to make my life worth living for its own sake, but I've got some limitations that mean the standard advice on this topic doesn't work for me. Has anyone been in a similar situation, and managed to improve things? [more inside]
Which song has a lyric which sounds like "China, china, chinaaaaa...." I think it's from the 90s. Possibly Britpop or indie. I remember hearing it being sung emphatically in an advert for a compilation album.
I am considering requesting a single hotel room for an upcoming week long conference due to anxiety/insomnia. I’m required by my employer to obtain a doctor's note with information supporting my request if I do. Therefore, I'm trying to understand the pros and cons, professionally and otherwise, so I can evaluate my options. [more inside]
I need to make more money. Not so many snowflakes in this one. How do I get on target earnings in my job? [more inside]
I've been out of school for a few years, and have had trouble finding my career path, due in part to my distractibility and lack of certain skills. Difficulty: Bad at Math [more inside]
Dealing with depression, nothing is working, every day is a waste. [more inside]
Ouch. My iPhone used 5gb of cell data this month. AT&T is throttling me. The culprit is Waze. I live in NYC, drive a lot, and need bleeding-edge traffic data (I don't use it for the maps). Any tips for making Waze use less data? I'd pause it for stretches where there are no route alternatives, but can't think of a convenient way. E.g. does simply turning off (not powering down) iPhone stop data influx to Waze? Any other tips for reducing Waze's data hunger?
The pic of the switch described in this question is here. I have these 16mm diameter switches with these tiny little contacts, with tiny little holes in each. I have to connect wires to all of them, and soldering onto them is really tough because they're so little and so close together. I have a bunch of them to do so I was wondering if there's some sort of ultra-tiny female spade solderless connector that exists, or some other sort of solderless connector that would allow me to skip all that soldering. If so, where could I buy them? [more inside]
House on sale through broker, but it's not moving. Are there alternatives that I should consider? [more inside]
Mefites, Trying to help my sister with her Federal student loan payments which are serviced by a group out of Pennsylvania at myfedloan.org. We have gone through multiple rounds of paperwork and hours on the phone with more than a dozen different customer service representatives and managers. Any ideas? Details inside. [more inside]
What do you do about your fear of intimacy and your lack of potential sutiors when you're a virgin at 25 and universally held to have the sexuality of a potato? [more inside]
I have been swiping mystery candies from a dish where I work. They aren't mine and they aren't there for me to eat. But I find myself alone with the dish sometimes and they get eaten. [more inside]
My mom got sick to the point she was hospitalized for two days, pretty much vomiting up her stomach lining. Now she's home, she's lost her discharge instructions, and has a significant loss of balance so she tottering up and down flights up stairs with extreme risk, almost collapsing in the store when she goes to get groceries. She needs a visiting nurse service, something. [more inside]
I want to try learning shorthand as a way to more quickly transcribe interviews. I'm open to recommendations for typewritten shorthands, but think I might prefer something handwritten, so I can use it even when I'm not on my laptop. Ideally, I'd like to be able to easily read it later, long after taking the notes. [more inside]
A light somewhere on my PC motherboard, my best guess is near the Ethernet connector, has recently begun to flash irregularly even after system shutdown, which is driving me nuts, because I sleep in the same room. I can't easily cover up the light or open my case, and since the PC was built for me by someone I can no longer reach, I need your help to kill that light. [more inside]
I'm currently writing a song and part of that includes recording lots of vocals. I have available --my computer, an apple laptop, with a built-in mike --garage band --my headphones with a voice input/mike Help me make it the best it can be! [more inside]
My beloved stand mixer has stripped its gears, and is in need of repair... but the official repair centers are far out in Brooklyn and Queens, and closed on Sundays -- rendering them inaccessible to me. [more inside]
I'm an attractive, successful, and put-together woman in my late 20s, and find it impossible to meet men I'm interested in. I have zero social circle in my newish city, live and work with older people with families, and have had no luck online. I'm also not naturally outgoing so don't meet people at random places. Not desperate but just want to find a good person to share my life with. What's a girl to do? [more inside]
I'm a guy living with my girlfriend and her elementary school age son. My girlfriend lost her job about three years ago, and has only worked for six total months in the time since. I'm trying to stay positive and encouraging for her because I know unemployment can be soul-crushing, but lately I'm starting to wonder if my "support" isn't just "enabling." Is the future as dark as I fear, and what kind of changes does she need to make in order to restart her career? [more inside]
I am stuck in a constant cycle of deep underemployment. I live a life of sheer financial terror and bitter dissapointment. I can't continue like this. [more inside]
My Search-Fu is utterly failing me. Where did I read the line (paraphrased): "He was like a tennis player who mistakes his best game for his everyday game [or natural level or basic capability]". I want to say it was in a novel by a female author,: Lessing, Christie or Woolf maybe? I might be completely wrong. Fairly sure the narrator's voice was female. Can anyone help?
I'm single (straight male, 32) and starting to date women online again. I tend to have much better relationships with feminist-leaning women than with women that believe in traditional gender roles because they match better with my personal feelings about gender. How do I represent this in either my online dating profile or messages without coming across as awkward? I tend to overthink these kind of things. [more inside]
It's finally time for me to get serious about getting healthy. Walking more is a key part of this. But is there a 'too much more'? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My sister bought a couch several months ago that arrived with a tear. The store sent a replacement which was also in terrible condition and which they refused to accept. Now the store is offering a partial refund, but my sister and her husband just want their money back at this point. Is this realistic? [more inside]
Found a small amount of mouse (chipmunk?) droppings in some otherwise very nice men's leather dress shoes I mistakenly stored in the garage. Can anyone recommend a best course of action for disinfection without damaging the shoes? [more inside]
My boyfriend is looking for an office chair that will be comfortable for his height (6'3") and long torso (34" from hip bone to top of head). What options are available in the UK? [more inside]
I recently bought an Ironman Essential watch by Timex because I thought it would track intervals, but it seems to only have 1 timer. I need something that will track a warm up of 1m/30s for 10 reps, then a workout of 2m/1m for 7 reps, then a cool down walk. [more inside]
My 18 month old nephew LOVES "real things" that are not toys. For older kids in my life, I LOVE buying them things like rock tumblers, microscopes, binoculars, swiss army knives (when they're old enough and with parental permission), digital cameras, or things to support their hobbies (like nice fins for snorkeling). We send them money from foreign countries just for fun (various small bills and lots of coins) and rocks and seashells. I've also had great luck with kids magazines and non-kid magazines (like Science, or National Geographic). I'm also rather good at getting experiences for kids and older teens - museum passes, or concert tickets, or a special fun restaurant where they sing, etc. But I've realized that I'd love to buy the younger set more "real things" because they seem to love them so much more than actual toys! This is roughly for ages 1-5. Would love some additional help of "real things" that toddlers and preschool kids like! [more inside]
CLEAR is dying. What can I get instead for my home internet? [more inside]
Hello; I am seeking software for a simple home budget. I am wanting a budget that will auto adjust,meaning that if I enter and amount for a bill,then change the amount,the rest of the budget will automatically "adjust"the the "total owed". Should be free,or a very low cost-not wanting a program that connects with my bank. Thank you :-)
I was in a PhD program for 4 years, but never actually finished the degree. I'm getting job interview requests and even formal offers that clearly assume I actually have a PhD. Am I doing it wrong? [more inside]
I'm writing an SF story which involves something akin to a space station/industrial complex in orbit around Neptune. I need to know whether Neptune ever goes completely behind the Sun when seen from Earth and if so for how long, or whether the line of sight between Earth and Neptune just grazes the edge of the Sun. [more inside]
Exploring some overgrown woods in London, we discovered several of these thingummies. They were found near what looks like the remains of bomb shelters from WW2. Any ideas what they might be?
Our family (two adults, two kids under 3) is driving between the DC area and Chicago this September. Where should we stop along the way to stay overnight? [more inside]
Novel. Recent (5-10 years max). Female protagonist dealing with brother suffering from a brain injury. A very Oliver Sacks (RIP) character helps her. Possibly "water" or "rain" in the title. Google failed me.
For close to a year I've been searching for a mid-career public library job in the northern half of the US (I'm employed, but I need a higher salary or a cheaper city); I've had a bunch of interviews but no offers yet. I am also seriously considering applying for a MFA in fiction writing. But I don't know how to handle trying to do both. [more inside]
Can you guys tell me how your gallbladder removal surgery went? Is it true that you can go back to work after a full week? I am having surgery on Friday and I am not going back to work until the following monday( a full 9 days at home besides the surgery day). I am completely frightened. I heard about davinci surgeries that are robot assisted. I am next looking into that. I heard some can do even with one single incision.
Can I ship excess baggage to a US address from somewhere in JFK airport on a Sunday afternoon? [more inside]
Help! How would you market a company to corporate groups, bachelor, bachelorette and birthday parties? [more inside]
I want to sell my Nikon D50 on eBay. It works but has developed what I would guess is a processor problem. I would like to swap to a Canon anyway next year so don't want to repair it myself. Should I sell it as a piece or split the body and lense? [more inside]
I posted this question a while ago. What I failed to mention there is that my ex-friend was also a coworker. I've since moved on to a new job that I love, but now I hear that my terrible ex-friend is thinking about applying for a job at my new company. This has sent me into a panic. [more inside]
Hey, I'm going to Costa Rica December 5th to 19th this year. I am in over my head as far as planning where I will go and stay. Can you help me? I'd like to get reservations all set, and I have no idea what I am doing. [more inside]
I'm editing a series of long interview transcriptions that need to stay in their original question-and-answer format. Where would you draw the editing line? [more inside]
I am looking for a party space in NYC with specific requirements: midtown; modern/industrial; one floor (not bi-level); capacity of around 100 people; allowable to bring in own food/caterer. I've been looking but have come up short. Do you have some ideas for me? TIA!
I recently dropped out / failed to complete a 2 year social science Masters program after I was unable to complete my dissertation for a whole variety of reasons I won't go into here. How do I represent this time on my CV in a way that is both honest of what I did and did not achieve, but not off putting to employers or just a big unanswered gap. (I am seeking employment in a field that is not particularly related to the subject of the course)
I moved to the US from Canada during the 2014 tax year on a work visa. My departure date from Canada is considered the day after I sold my home in Canada. The tax people say it is advantageous for me to file as Married Filing Together, forcing me to declare the entire 2014 (not just the part I was in the US). Therefore, they say, I have to pay capital/mortgage foreign exchange gain on the sale of my home in Canada, even though everything about the house occurred before I was in the US. Does this sound accurate? [more inside]
How should I let someone know whom I'm potentially dating that I'm unemployed and going through a transition phase in life? Should I even be dating? Any advice. [more inside]
I have used the Galaxy Note2,3,4, and I loved them. I specifically love the removable battery, and the external sd card slot, along with the huge screen and really long battery life. Help me pick my next smart phone (as the note 5 has no removable battery/ micro sd card) [more inside]
I have a short time to decide on going back to school for a career path and I'm looking for advice on how to make the decision. I have a very mixed work and educational history and am in the middle of a divorce, and I can't answer in any way yet "What job do you want?" Ideas are appreciated, but really I want to know how to figure out this decision. [more inside]
Is cleaning an older toaster oven possible and worth the effort? [more inside]
Considering what I've done with my life, are my career ambitions too high? [more inside]
I'm thinking of getting my genome sequenced by 23andme. However, I am not interested in a responsive, user-friendly experience. I want to get my raw data, upload it to Promethease, and also play around with it myself. I also have some privacy concerns, and am wary of the family/ancestry features. Help me think this through. [more inside]
Many people in a certain place facetiously trade pictures of Pepe the Frog, but have there been other facetious economic phenomena, joke stock bubbles, fake hyperinflation, things of that sort? [more inside]
Where are the comfy, cheapish shift dresses for ladies who are widest at the hips? [more inside]
I've been a digital/interactive project manager since 1997. Now I want to go through an 18 week immersion program in web development and jump the fence to become a developer. But I'm 45 years old. Am I too old to get hired? [more inside]
How do you make friends with other women when you don't really have friends who are women? [more inside]
I was complaining to a friend about decreased ability to metabolize alcohol as I get older. He advised I look into poor MTHFR methylation as a possibility. I have searched and searched and all I can find is woo (causes everything from autism to bad vibes, here buy my book and your problems will be solved!). Was this advice of his purely woo?
I'm struggling to do something in a spreadsheet (I'm using Google Spreadsheets, but could use Mac Excel or Numbers if needed). I want to automatically fill one cell with the name of the calendar quarter (e.g. "Q3-2015") based on a user-entered date in another cell. To make it more complicated, the "quarters" don't begin/end on standard dates. [more inside]
I want to eat seafood by the water in Brooklyn. Where do I go? I'm talking non-fancy messes of crab and fried shrimp. [more inside]
My wife brought home this flower, which looks sort of like a fuzzy ear of corn made out of cotton on some very spiky leaves. Any hints on what it is? I've used online resources to no avail.
I am a Worrier who likes to think things through in advance - so what can I expect in my 30s? [more inside]
I have a relationship that is going phenomenally, 6 months deep. We have the same values, we're excited to support what the other is doing, and we have compatible goals for our future.... but he never got a chance to date as a single person. How to proceed? [more inside]
I'm three weeks post-op from a complete abdominal hysterectomy, perfomed at age 61, so I'm well past menopause. Everything is going very well. Here's my question. Since my ovaries are gone, and this hysto is not an artificially induced menopause, why am still having (extremely mild) hot flashes? [more inside]
I'm proposing to my fiancée this week at Burning Man, and my jeweler (a friend of mine) wasn't able to finish the ring before I left. He's going to have it finished by Sunday night, and suggested that we investigate options for mailing it. Is this doable? We've both done some research, and it seems like there *are* some options... [more inside]
Seeking advice on how a 43-year-old man can change careers. [more inside]
I am in mid 30s and not married with no children. I constantly get this question from random people I meet, co-workers, relatives -you get the picture (all married). It annoys me and quite literally ruins my day. What's the best way to answer it? [more inside]
We are going to an event tonight in the Minnehaha Falls area (Minneapolis, Minnesota). [more inside]
Does anyone remember a western where there is a scene in which a woman is holding a crying baby and they are surrounded by coyotes or wolves? [more inside]
I'm terrible about "setting the mood" for reading. I'd like to develop a ritual or create an environment (at home) that will invite me to ignore all other distractions, curl up with my books and read. So, how do you stage your home reading environment? Do you have pre-reading rituals to get you in the mood? [more inside]
I say "like" too much. When I'm speaking publicly or meeting a new person, I don't, but when someone is in my comfort zone I say "like" constantly. I even realized today that I even say "like" in my thoughts. As in, it is so deeply ingrained into my thought processes that I THINK in like. How can I strip "likes" from my speech? [more inside]
I'm interviewing for a position this week for an organization I'd like to work for, in a position I'd also like, but pays waaaaay too little and I could never ever take. How do I manage this with finesse? [more inside]
I noticed this on a plant in my garden a while ago but didn't have time to look at it properly. At the time it seemed scaley and white. Now its purple and irridescent with a noticeable honeycomb structure. What is it? Picture here [more inside]
I'm a grown up who has never hired movers, and I'm finally in the position to do so. Please help me understand all of the intricacies to it so I don't act like a total doofus. [more inside]
Hi All, The previous qs about SLP careers and career change stuff are very helpful. I have some specific qs. [more inside]
I'm looking for Mefi users opinions on Greenhouse.io as Recruitment software. The good, the bad, the meh. If you have used it as either employer, 'employment broker' or employee, please tell me what you think. (The .io is this) [more inside]
I love vintage/pin-up styles, and 1950s style fashion is what suits my body type. Great. I am going through a stage of convincing myself I want to keep my long hair rather than cutting it all off by trying to style it more and incorporate pin-up and vintage hairstyles to go with the fashion. [more inside]
I live in northern Uganda. I bought a bag at the market that has this phrase on the back: "Fashionadle lie fallow mountaineer wrap sport SPORT". I've seen many of these bags with the same phrase in many different towns. I would like to know whose job it was to decide what gets printed on the bag, and how they ended up with that phrase. [more inside]
Where can I find those cheap dollar store pregnancy tests in NYC *right now*? This shouldn't be that hard, but all the cheap-o dollar stores in my neighborhood don't seem to carry them anymore. Do you know of a store in Brooklyn (preferably off the B/Q) or in Manhattan (south of 34th St, also preferably off the B/Q) that carries those super cheap at-home pregnancy tests? [more inside]
My lawyer is unwilling to email me an appeal they have written for me. They say I can review it in their office, but as policy they do not email 'work product' to clients. This is frustrating to me because I feel I can better understand the documents if I read them at home, rather than being put on the spot in a meeting. Is this normal? [more inside]
I have a lump in my breast and I need to know what to expect when I go to the doctor. [more inside]
I'm working with my former boss to help her find a new, high-level appointment at an international institution or corporation. She has too much experience, and is too well-known in her field, to be making applications through job postings. How do I help her get the attention of a recruiter who will do all the legwork? [more inside]
I can hear water running behind / below my kitchen sink, but nothing is on. Also, nothing is wet. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: he fell off a motorscooter while riding it and fell on his left side. The main injury was "AC separation" [a type of shoulder separation -- damage to the acromioclavicular joint -- which is _not_ the same thing as shoulder _dislocation_], type 3;means that surgery is optional but worth considering. Is there some other choices beside surgery, or doing nothing? [more inside]
I teach college-level courses in a historical humanities field. My research and teaching both swim in a time period where the conceptualization of "consent," as we understand it today, was not in play. So I have to teach a lot of documents, images, novels, poems, and plays that... well, to be honest .... feature rape as a matter of course - often, in fact, as a comedic convention or as an important didactic touchstone. I teach a lot of works that also features graphic violence - again as part of a conventional, generic trope. And I teach a lot of radical political philosophy from [historical humanities field]. Do I need to include a trigger warning on my syllabus? If so, what does that look like? Do the graphic violence and/or radical politics also warrant a similar warning? And if so, what does that look like? [more inside]
What do super successful DJs actually do? How do people like Calvin Harris earn millions of dollars? [more inside]
A developer structurally damaged my house and after lengthy attempts to get him to fix it I contacted my homeowner's insurance company (allstate, if it's relevant) . They are willing to cover it. An engineer and contractor came out with the insurance company adjuster and I recently got the engineer's report and the contractors estimate. Now what? [more inside]
I'm going to be giving a reading for a friend's wedding at a conservative Catholic church in Michigan this fall. I'm an areligious southern woman who never dresses up, but is built for Pinup Girl Clothing. Please help me find something that is classy, not frumpy, to wear. Measurements, etc. inside. [more inside]
What is the best scholarly, annotated, edition of the Koran? I am trying to find something in English similar to the Oxford Annotated Bible. I am not a Muslim, and I have little background to date, so an edition that assumes very little in terms of prior knowledge would be ideal for me.
Just as the title says, the last 3 days I've come home to a new, smelly brown paint job on my wall. No new diet, no new anything, just simply - she's started sharting. I've watched her go in the morning today but still, new paint job after work. What could be causing this? [more inside]
A Republican Facebook friend recently made a post about the dangers of unionization, pointing to the decline of the US auto industry as an example. Is my friend right or wrong in saying that "the unions killed Detroit"? What books, articles, or research should I read on the topic so that the next time the topic comes up, I can make an informed contribution to the conversation?
Waaay back I ran across it and now I can't find it again. Google is failing me. Can you help? It was humorous in nature pointing out all the major flaws and whatnot. Link would be ideal! Thanks!
OK, so we've got another baby in our house. She's six months actually. And my wife is run ragged. We're both scaling back our household ambitions massively to get through the day. We've read lots on the subject and we've actually been through this once before - but it's SO hard. Well, at least it is for us. How was it or is it for you? Please share. [more inside]
I'm looking for any wisdom or caution about navigating individual plans in NYC. [more inside]
My company is looking to create an online training resource for customers and sales reps. It would need to host videos, WebEx-like training sessions, and have a searchable document database. I know there are a number of services that provide each of these individually, but I'm having trouble finding an all-in-one solution. [more inside]
A group of friends is having a talent show tomorrow night. The ostensible purpose is to celebrate the marriage and relocation of a couple in the group, so ideally the acts should somehow relate to marriage and/or California (but if you have a great idea that's not related to either of those things, we can be flexible). Can you help us think of a talent that would require minimal time and effort? [more inside]
In many ways my life is comically bad, and yet it is immeasurably better than the lives of most people in the course of human history. So how can I stop dwelling on the negative, and feel a sense of gratitude? [more inside]
If she gets along well with our current pups, Mr. Fig and I will be adopting a 10-yr old very small chihuahua with no teeth. I'm good with what to feed her, but not so good on treats/extras. Do any Mefites own toothless pups, and/or have advice? [more inside]
Why does the kitty try to murder us on the stairs? [more inside]
I'm looking for a playground (or any public park) that has the equipment necessary to perform pull ups, and less importantly but nice to have parallel bars for dips as well, in (or near) the Rittenhouse Square neighborhood of Philadelphia. [more inside]
Imagine, if you will, that you have a vexing, life-altering, deeply troubling health chronic problem. It's not degenerative, it's not fatal, it's just f*cking up the most important part of your life. You are on a quest to heal, convinced that you cannot have the life you want until you get the problem under control. [more inside]
Is there a particular phrase or word to describe the phenomenon of people who are famous for innocuous reasons being extremely unpleasant human beings? [more inside]
Rant posted on the wrong non-private blog. I deleted the post (which I now know was not good) from the app because my computer was too slow to do it there. I turned off my feed once I was on another computer. How screwed am I that all of the 18 people on my feed got an email about that? [more inside]
Happy Friday MeFi, I was wondering if someone could shine some light onto why my stomach freaks out when I have regular coffee (Dunks, Starbucks, Keurig) but doesn't scream when I have Espresso? I can't quite wrap my heard around it, although I suspect it may have something to do with acidic content from instant-coffee, but whenever I try to have coffee from Dunkin Donuts or from one of those little Keurig cups, my stomach feels like it is being stabbed to death. It usually follows with a very painful stomach-ache for the next 30-45 minutes and then it goes away. However, if I use my work's espresso machine, it doesn't hurt my stomach at all. What gives? This is probably not related, but I have similar issues when I drink beer but no issues when I drink Vodka or Tequilla. Thanks for all your responses.
I like to visit independent toy stores when I travel. I’m looking for stores that sell “natural” toys, wooden toys, Waldorf dolls, etc. Toys made in the U.S. would be great, but not necessary. Can you recommend such a toy store on the East Coast or Midwest?
I want plants in my house. I tend to kill most plants. Also, I have hardwood floors and curtains and cats. Help. [more inside]
A dear friend of mine has just finished their PhD and is immediately starting a post doc. What gift can I give them to help them get off on the right foot dealing with their anxiety, etc.? [more inside]
I'm looking to retrofit a greywater system into my house in the Bay Area, California so that I feel better about watering my trees in a severe drought. Unfortunately, plumbing is not my area of expertise, and I am apprehensive that Something Terrible Will Happen if I mess with it. To that end, I'd like to know what could go wrong with a greywater system. Also, if anyone has experience choosing a good greywater designer and installer and can speak to how to do that, or just flat out recommend a greywater genius, I'd be very happy to hear from you. [more inside]
I'm looking to upgrade my collection of PJs with some really nice tops and bottoms that are worthy of slipping on after a nice long nighttime bath. They must be made of super soft fabric, with pants in a long inseam and top either tank-style or short-sleeve. I don't really like quirky prints, but I do like things that are flowy and sort of elegant. More snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I just received two standard-looking emails from a legit-looking European Web site, one welcoming me to the site and the other asking me to verify the email address. I've received those hack-y "here's the password reset you requested" emails and just ignore those, but the welcome email included the username (the old email address) and password. What's the best way to deal with this? [more inside]
I find myself being recruited for (and sometimes taking) healthcare IT project management jobs, and it turns out I hate them all. Specifically, I hate being held accountable for everything but having zero authority to actually do, fix, or decide anything. How do I break out of this project management career trap? [more inside]
If you only had $5000 for a used vehicle, would you buy a RAV4, CRV, or Lexus RX? [more inside]
I am looking for as many examples of wind energy in movies as possible. No limits in terms of country of origin, language, genre, etc. [more inside]
I freelance full-time as a Web designer and developer in NYC. A new potential agency (which could send me a large amount of work with interesting clients on a regular basis) requires that I obtain commercial general liability insurance. They told me this should run about $400 per year. So far I have gotten three different quotes from insurance brokers and all are over $950 though. [more inside]
So I have a scribd account and been downloading to the Kindle. Don't like the feel and it's way too small to read at leisure. Would much like better to get it ALL on the laptop running Win 7 and be done with it. Downloaded Calibre but haven't been able to synch between scribd and laptop. [more inside]
Hi MeFi, I need to quickly get up to speed with both the basics and the latest trends in marketing brand management. Can you recommend some resources I can dig into over the weekend? My goal is to know and be able to intelligently reference terms, concepts and especially relevant thought leaders in this area. Thank you so much in advance for your suggestions!
I purchased a pack of labels that are compatible with MS Word, but every time I try to print, the first row of labels come out fine and the rest are off by various amounts. I am printing to the massive printer/photocopier in my office. I have tried using the manual feed tray and every one of the cassettes but the same thing happens each time. Help? [more inside]
In Per Petterson's great novel, Out Stealing Horses, there is a moment when baby animals appear outside a home. The English translation that is current calls them "fauns". This disturbs me and I have read and re-read the passage to determine if we are talking about "fawns" which would make sense, or goat-footed children, which would be something different. Although others have noted this translation difficulty, no major critic seems to take notice. So, I want to know: "fauns" or "fawns"? [more inside]
A distant but very dear friend of mine is in need of help. She is currently in the hospital and doesn't have many local friends. I'm in Wisconsin and she's in Louisiana so there are physical limits to what I can do, but I want to do something! Also I don't want to burden her by asking her what I can do to help. Please give me suggestions, ideas, anything I can do to help her. [more inside]
I lost this hoodie many years ago, and have never found the like. Anyone know of something like it/very similar? [more inside]
What was that song from 2008 - 2009? [more inside]
The Wikipedia list of "LGBT people from New York" includes Howard Stern. I don't think the "LGBT" part is accurate, but I don't see any way to edit it. How can I fix this? [more inside]
I've put all my career eggs into a single basket. Can you help me come up with some alternate ideas? Scared chicken inside. [more inside]
The wedding is on Sunday, interstate. My not going is unavoidable as of this morning. A tremendous, epic, work emergency has developed. I got the news at 4.30am this morning. There is no way I can get through it without serious sustained time and effort during the period I’d planned to be travelling and interstate. What do I say to the couple and how do I say it? More over the fold. [more inside]
When I was in a pinch a couple of years ago I sold an annuity from a settlement. It worked out just fine, however, I guess I was put on some list that I had done this because after it was final I started receiving TONS and TONS of junk mail soliciting me to sell other annuities, etc. [more inside]
My partner and I are breaking up after 20 years. Neither of us trusts the other’s judgement and dividing our only asset has become hugely problematic. We purchased our home 18 years ago as a fixer-upper in what has since become a very desirable location, so there’s a large amount of equity in it. I never gave proper thought about how we’d move on from it, meaning this is one of those “explain it to me like I’m five” inquiries. I’d like to have sensible questions to ask at our bank meeting tomorrow. We have a meeting next week with a therapist and have agreed to some kind of professional mediation in the future. The thing is… my partner demands that we extend our joint mortgage-backed line of credit to allow her to purchase (outright) a smaller place in the countryside. For 10 years, she’s only done part-time work for my home business, so she won’t have any income going forward (except for support payments). I doubt she could get bridge financing under her own name. I want to avoid being drawn deeper into debt with her. [more inside]
Tonight, I found out that my parents, both registered Democrats, support Donald Trump. I need to explain to them why this is bad. [more inside]
My coworker chews gum really loudly and it annoys me. Best way to tell him (if at all)? [more inside]
I'm looking for newsy/magaziney/commentary/journalism websites with good, interesting, even inventive, uses of annotation (more interested in notes made by authors/editors than comments by readers, but that is also interesting!) in their articles. Grantland's use of annotation is a good example. Thanks for any tips!
My friend just found out that she has a drug test for her job coming up in a few days. The problem is that she just came home from Colorado and apparently smoked... umm... a lot of marijuana. it's still illegal in her home state and she is freaking out since she doesn't want to lose her job. she was told by her friend that she would pass with synthetic urine no problem and she is planning on using it. Is synthetic urine really the answer? If so what kind? [more inside]
Our son is entering first grade (public school in Minnesota, if that matters). We just got the new class assignments and it looks like literally every other kid in his class is a year or two older, obviously because their parents held them back a year, or more in some cases. How worried should we be? [more inside]
A while back there was a sort of trading site, I know some mefites were on it. It had cute little "stickers" that you could paste on your "wall" and trade. What was this site? [more inside]
I have two "retired" city street signs, but the paint is peeling off. I'd like to slow their decay and prevent the paint from flaking off. [images and detail inside] [more inside]
How do I put my achievements into context as I apply to graduate schools, and not fall prey to impostor syndrome? [more inside]
I miss Glitch. What can I play to scratch the itch? [more inside]
I sing. I also have started lifting moderately heavy weights fairly recently. Will the latter mess up the former? Details inside. [more inside]
Hello gurus out there! I have created a batch of 10 posters that are going to the printers later today (yikes!!!!). I was wasn't 100% sure of the requirements when I started, so my posters were created in the RGB color space. I now find out that the printer needs them to be CMYK. When I use File>Document Color Mode>CMYK Color, I notice that the color shift can be quite large on a few of my posters. [more inside]
I'm hoping to take classes as a non-degree student and looking for options. [more inside]
It... might have so happened that I went to the store more drunk than is wise. I wanted to make pasta, and so I went to get any kind of melty-whatchacallem cheese stuff for it (sorry, I'm not a native speaker). And I bought quite a bit of it, steeply discounted and all! And now I have a lot of mascarpone. [more inside]
So I've invited 30 people for paella, and I don't have a pan. I know this sounds crazy but ... is there a reason I can't cook it on a grill in a brand-new metal garbage can lid? My plan was to completely line the interior of the lid with foil and then oil it. What does the hivemind think? (Also paella tips are most welcome.) Thanks!
My name is A R N I E. However, when typed on a computer it often looks like Arnie and lately a LOT of people are having trouble, thinking it's A M I E I use Gmail primarily and with that comes a limited selection of fonts, but how can I format my name so that it comes through clearly but still be unobtrusive as a signature?
I need to find a medical malpractice lawyer in NYC. How do I find the best one? [more inside]
So I, or rather the good lady, need a new laptop. I'm tech and computer savvy but out of touch with the constant flow of improvements so not sure what I should be looking for. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I like playing video games but as I have gotten older I have less time to spend and less patience when I get stuck somewhere. I have found that my favorite parts of games are just driving around or exploring the world or doing side tasks (like fishing or shooting a bow-and-arrow in Zelda). Are there games these days where you can do just that kind of stuff, without some broader need to solve a puzzle or shoot a guy? [more inside]
Where is the best place (Boots, WH Smith?) to buy a top up simcard for my AT&T Galaxy S5 on arrival at Gatwick Airport?
I'm looking for examples of people who were considered geniuses in science, art, invention and other disciplines, but whose IQ scores were merely respectable, between 100 and 140. Richard Feynman, whose IQ was in the 120s, is a good example. But have there been others?
I'm about to be the only Brit in a US Fantasy Football League. My NFL knowledge isn't bad, and I'm a veteran Premier League FF player, so what should I be reading and listening to both ahead of the draft and throughout the season in order to compete? [more inside]
What are the bars/live music venues in San Francisco and Oakland that have real, acoustic pianos on their stages? [more inside]
I like the taste/mouthfeel of "Fiji" bottled water, but I dislike buying bottled water. Can I recreate what "Fiji" is like, from tap water? Is there something magic in it? (The bottle says "silica", along with the bunch of other stuff?) Or is it a matter of removing stuff? (Fluoride?)
I am looking for images/posters of strong and powerful women to hang in my young daughter's room. So far I have considered "Votes for Women"/Suffragettes and the "We Can Do It" wartime poster. Any more suggestions?
I'm looking for interesting writing on chaos, confusion, losing control, being insecure, complexity of the mind, thriving in chaos. I would love something from writers like Alan Watts and William S. Burroughs or someone along the same vein.
I need help figuring out an idiotproof way to organise my growing ebook collection. Mild snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I'm finally starting my physical transition from female to male and I'd like ideas on how to document changes. Selfies, obviously, but what are best practices for photo-a-day type projects? What kind of dataviz things could I do? [more inside]
My husband is looking for a laptop to replace his desktop. Weight is not an issue but power (lots) and screen size (large) are. Battery life doesn't really matter either. He currently uses the computer to: browse the internet, play lots of Steam games (windows), and do some 3D modeling (SolidWorks). Looking for around $1000 price range. [more inside]
What does "chaotic rasterizer ion of vectors" mean? I found it on a note with no other context.
Noticed when I was looking to see what the low was, and saw a PE ratio reported for SPY and DIA (but not QQQ) on Google finance. For SPY, it's currently reporting 9.52, which is surely not the PE ratio of the S&P 500 as a whole. So what gives? I guess you could count dividends as 'earnings' for an ETF, but you're not getting 10% there so what is Google calling earnings here?
Seeking online dating advice! [more inside]
Driving a U-Haul from Clinton Hill to East Harlem (and back) on Saturday morning -- what route should I take? [more inside]
My cats don't get along. What are good, proven ways to calm them down? [more inside]
My job title at my company is CRM Administrator. I am trying to find out what comparable positions to mine are making salary-wise, but when I search using the job title CRM Administrator I am mostly coming up with job descriptions that are not very similar to mine at all. How do I figure out what I need to search on to find positions comparable to mine, and find the accepted salary range for my position? Bonus question included. [more inside]
Where do you read novellas, novelettes and short stories in science fiction? Whom do you suggest? During the golden age of sf I relied on Analog/Astounding, but after all the recent Hugo drama I have realized that I barely keep up with the new novels. Looking back at the titles that won Hugos and Nebulas, I realized how many of the shorter pieces I truly loved and I feel the need to get to know the youngish writers. Tell me whom I should read and where I'll find that author.
In the movies, you sometimes see people jumping into a pool on a hot day and drinking the water. Where is this possible in the world? [more inside]
I am researching liner notes, and would like to see Johnny Cash's liner notes for his album "Live at Folsom Prison" as well as his liner notes for Bob Dylan's "Nashville Skyline." They don't seem to be anywhere online, even in iTunes. I would order hard copies, but I don't have time for shipping. Does anyone know where I can find them online, or would anyone who has them be willing to take readable photos for me? I'm on a time crunch, of course. Please help!
I live in San Francisco. I have a job offer in New York City. Should I move? It's complicated, of course. [more inside]
Where can I get the best possible banana split in Reno, NV? [more inside]
Here's one photo. Leather black sandals, loose cotton khaki pants, simple cotton apron, white tank top undershirt. All these are straightforward. I need help with... [more inside]
I'm getting bored with my usual rotation and am looking for more or less everyday white wine recommendations, to go with dinner, with a few special snowflake requirements. [more inside]
I used to use Dove roll on but am currently trying out Nivea Dry Comfort. I'm not sure whether I'm particularly sold on it. While my armpits generally smell okay, sometimes the armpit area of my clothes ends up smelly anyway. Can you tell me what's up with that? And/or: Can you recommend some kind of anti-perspirant which also imparts a pleasant smell, not just a neutral one?
Has Axl Rose ever commented on the fact that his stage name is an anagram for "oral sex"? [more inside]
What's the best way to get an adventurous family from the UK to the US that does not involve an airplane? [more inside]
Hello! A while back, I asked this question. The person who rear-ended me intends to appeal the court's decision. Will I need to go to court again? [more inside]
I have become re-obsessed with a song I heard in a skateboard video back in the 1980s. I have searched high and low for a song but it has eluded me. The song is from Gullwing's Molecules in Motion from 1987. All I have found is that it is from a band called Incomplete Monday. I found one album of theirs called "I Am" but the track in question is not on it. Does any one know this song? Bonus 1980s skating included.
I have a couple of Raspberri Pis that I'd like to play around with, but I have a small workspace and no room or desire for a dedicated, desktop-style monitor. What are some reasonably priced, low profile options to look at?
My boyfriend and I just got engaged after being together for four years. Hooray! We're thinking about getting married in June 2017, and we want to do it in or near Toronto, Ontario, with about 95 friends and family members. I've scoured the Internet for venues, asked friends for recommendations, and we've found some decent options but since this is going to cost us a lot of money (though both sets of parents will help out), I want to consider all possible options. We want to find a place where we can do both ceremony and reception (with dinner and dancing), and where the cost of the venue, including food and alcohol (open bar), comes to $13,000 or less. [more inside]
In the movie "Auntie Mame" with Rosalind Russell, there is a line that I have never understood. Can someone please explain it? More details inside... [more inside]
What are some beautiful, uncrowded places to hike within three hour's drive of San Francisco, where one can feel alone in the world? [more inside]
I just got quoted 750$ from my dentist and my insurance doesn't cover night guards at all. Help me figure out my options? [more inside]
What is the best coconut syrup (for making coffee drinks) that money can buy? For reference, I used to like the Starbucks seasonal one but this year apparently it's changed and tastes strange. Assume I have access to any national US chain store and am willing to order online. I saw the previous question about making one's own via simple syrup + coconut extract and will do that if that's the best answer.
Looking for suggestions in NYC: we need some dance instruction for our "first song" at our wedding. [more inside]
Yasmine Hamdan performed an hour set on Korsa Live, a television show on the Moroccan network 2M. Is there an audio album release of this performance that can be found? [more inside]
Can anyone answer the question posed in this blog post? Namely, what is the etymology behind the choice of kanji for the word for Australia?
Does the relative treatment of second and third parties vary by culture? [more inside]
My brother has to go to London on short notice, and his trip promises to be a long and stressful one. I'd like to give him a going-away present, but not clutter or something to haul around. He already has an Oyster card, which was my first thought. What else might be nice to have if you suddenly found yourself in London and in a rush?
In addition to my regular 9-to-5 day job, I do a lot of side freelance work, generally around music teaching & performance. I'm trying to do a better job of tracking my income, mileage, expenses, deductions, etc., and my old Excel spreadsheet isn't really up to the task anymore. [more inside]
My left elbow clicks on the medial side while I'm lowering the barbell during overhead press. It feels like a tendon's out of alignment and is having problems sliding over the bone or something - maybe an early case of golfer's elbow, but I don't know. It happens every rep, and has gotten more pronounced over a few sessions. My right elbow doesn't do this, and my form looks symmetrical. [more inside]
Out of about 20 okra plants from the same purchased seed packet, I have one that's an especially good fruit producer - maybe 50% more than his neighbors. Is it worth my time to make a special effort to plant next years crop only from his seeds, or does this fall within the range of random variation / don't bother?
I noticed that we've been going through kind of insane amounts of the Trader Joe's Greek-style yogurt recently. Since I'm already spending a small fortune on the stuff, I'd like to just try making my own. Any tips, recommendations, absolutely-best-yogurt-making devices EVAR? [more inside]
What type of supplies should I have for a wine and beer service table at a charitable dinner? this is what we will have: White Towels, beer cups, Wine glasses, 2 wine openers, 2 bottle openers, Soda/iced tea, Beer, Wine, Ice, 1 large white ice chest, 2 Aprons, 1 ice scoop, 1 foil cutter, Volunteer shirts, 1 rectangle-8’ table, 1 rectangle tablecloth There will be pitchers of water on the tables so no need for bottled water am I missing anything for a 2 person service?
I want to know how to show small windows of each of my open programs on my screen [more inside]
We want an open relationship. But we haven't talked it through. And now someone has shown up and she wants it to happen. Is that too much to ask? (Sorry but this is long.) [more inside]
I have an app on Google Play. It's sort of a niche app. Someone has contacted me and asked if I could send them the apk file because they plan to use the app on an emulator and thus cannot download it from Google Play. Is there any risk in doing this?I' [more inside]
My wife and I are recently separated and there's some weird dynamics going on. Would appreciate your thoughts. Long details within. [more inside]
I am terrified of butterflies and moths, and have been since I've been a little kid. I do, interestingly, have a vague memory a traumatizing scene I witnessed on TV from when I was between the ages of 3 and 5, which I've attributed my phobia to. I've never been able to figure out the title of the work, so I'm hoping that MeFi might help. [more inside]
I want to take a pre-calculus class, but I’m not prepared. I would find it easier to prepare with some kind of program or system to refresh my math skills and learn some of what I missed in high school. I, like most mammals, am motivated by immediate rewards. Is there an online game where the math gets progressively harder and you earn rewards for completing problem sets? I was more willing to practice typing when I was defeating sharks than when I worked from a book. Does such a gamified system exist for math? [more inside]
Pretty self-explanatory, but I'll go into a bit more detail under the cut. [more inside]
I'm looking for books about outdoor leadership. Bear Grylls in book form, but not his actual books. Suggestions? [more inside]
As part of LGBT History Month in October, I am planning a bulletin board of LGBTQ Musicians (music teacher, public K-8 school in Chicago). I already have a good list going (see below), but I'm looking specifically for more women, people of color, and trans* or gender non-conforming folks. I'm also looking for a diverse range of musical styles (classical, jazz, pop, etc), eras, and musical roles (composer, performer, lyricist, etc). Still, I will take any suggestions you have! [more inside]
I take sweaters apart for their yarn and sometimes the yarn I get is unspun. I want to spin it. What would be a good way to do this? [more inside]
Any recommendations for espionage movies? I somehow let a decade and a half go by relatively movie-less. I do have Netflix, but please don't limit your recommendations if Netflix doesn't have it. Classics are fine, too. Thanks so much!
I am looking for some very specific panty liners that I've bought before--I can't remember who makes them, though. Description is inside. Does this sound familiar? [more inside]
This clock stopped working properly a few months ago. It still ticks but the hands don't move. I know it's not an expensive piece, but it was a present from my niece and goes so well with the decor that I'd like to keep it if possible. How would I go about fixing it?
I've been on OKCupid for a number of months (A-list, paid subscriber), and have answered a lot of questions, about 2,100 of them. Over the past few days, I've noticed that my answered-questions count has been steadily decreasing. What's this about? [more inside]
What does B.M. 507.885 with a little metal cap next to it embossed SPAKE MAG mean? I saw this very carefully (and kind of beautifully) added to some concrete edging near the Southwestern Bell Telephone Building in my neighborhood and I'm wondering what it might mean. Construction symbols? Telecom stuff? A secret code or artwork of some sort?
Advice and suggestions for activities in Santiago, Chile? [more inside]
I love swimming outside. What should I be bringing with me? [more inside]
I'm going to be spending the foreseeable future living in a bare bones lakeside camp in Maine. I won't be working but I will be going to school 3-5 days a week. I will have electricity, but water will be shut off this fall before the pipes freeze. Give me tips for living and not dying under these conditions. [more inside]
What is this? A friend of mine got this in Japan, from one of those machines where you put in a coin and crank the knob, and out pops a little prize. He and I can't read Japanese. [more inside]
This is so hard to google and sort of time sensitive - I read something once about starting the process of finding what you love to do, and it involved going about your work day and noting all the different tasks you do, then marking them with "green flag" or "red flag" etc., according to how much you like or hate that particular aspect of the job. There was more to it, and maybe it was a book? I'd really appreciate it if you know what this was. I might have found it on Metafilter.
Do house geckos eat birdseed? If not, what's it doing? [more inside]
I'm looking for books that capture the feel, culturally, politically, and/or otherwise, of the 1990's in America. Can y'all help me out?
I want someone to come to my apartment, seal any gaps behind the sink, stove, etc. and caulk the entire baseboard. [more inside]
Hi everyone, You've all been so helpful with giving me advice and support through my various anxieties and life stressors. I've reluctantly acknowledged today that I haven't cracked my problems with obsessive thinking. I'd love to try working through a self-help workbook, but need one that doesn't focus on a stereotypical idea of what OCD is. Can you help? [more inside]
My great-aunt gave me this lapis lazuli horse a few years ago and I'm thinking of selling it. Does anyone have any idea what it's worth? [more inside]
I may be moving out of state, how do cell phone plans work when you move? [more inside]
Where in NYC where I can find rugbrød? (a Danish/Scandinavian rye bread, heavily studded with seeds and deliciousities?) [more inside]
Stuck in a rut for several years post-college, unsure about what I'm interested in. All that fun stuff. [more inside]
I bought this thing from an antique dealer's yard sale in Philadelphia about 20 years ago. Around 10 years ago I incorporated it into an art installation, and I dug it out of storage today for a new exhibition, but I still have no idea what it is. Here's a bunch of photos (ignore the electronics and wooden framing I added to the back). [more inside]
I need recommendations for and explanations about everything from domain registration to hosting to site building for an artist's special snowflakey website. [more inside]
My daughter will be starting JK in a couple of weeks. She has been in daycare for the past 3 years so we aren't too worried about her adjustment in general....but daycare provided food. Now we have to pack a lunch for her every day! Please help! [more inside]
I'm working on a presentation, and am trying to find a specific kind of imagery, involving a ship's wheel. I'm thinking of a scene in which one person is trying to change a ship's direction, and is straining against the wheel to desperately try to turn the ship. Steering wheels might also be okay. I'm hoping for a clear, single image that presents the person as struggling against turning the wheel. Think: 'Oh my god! We're about to crash into the iceberg/road/etc! Pull up! Turn left, turn left! etc." Thanks AskMe!
My doctor prescribed a CPAP earlier this year, and my insurance at the time covered a rental for three months, at which the unit would be "mine". The three months ended in May, and I happened to change jobs at that time. [more inside]
What's the best way to approach potential ghostwriting clients? [more inside]
I need mugs with completely flat bottoms, so they don't hold water in the dishwasher. Do you have some that you like? Additional requirements below the fold. [more inside]
How do I marinate tofu so it ends up with a chocolatey flavor? End goal: put the tofu in a soup. [more inside]
My friend is the coach and manager of our amateur sports team - let's call him Jim. Some of the other people who are still on the management team have complained to me in private that they are frustrated with Jim because of how stubborn he is and stuck in his ways. I'm trying to recruit another coach to help Jim, but he's reluctant too. I have a call with Jim tonight. What should I say? More details inside. [more inside]
I have a hard time figuring out which devices will do what we need, so some help would be muchly appreciated. More inside. [more inside]
I am looking for two things: 1) additional expressions and terms -- like "deafening silence, " shunning and crimes of omission -- for talking about exclusion from a group primarily via inaction of the group members and 2) examples of this social dynamic in popular media, like movies. [more inside]
Multi-hour road trip coming up, and we'd like to fill a travel mug with all sorts of getting-to-know-you types of questions. Personal, non-personal, deep, shallow, serious, hilarious... anything goes. What kinds of questions would YOU ask to pass the time, get to know your car-mates, make memories together, etc.? [more inside]
So, I'm taking a course about the geography of economic activities. For a project, we're tasked with picking a "packaged food, a cleaning product, or a personal care product" (per the instructions). We are then tasked with using the label and the manufacturers' customer's hotlines to determine "where that product is manufactured; second, what inputs/components/ingredients are used to make the product; and then, where do those inputs/components/ingredients come from." Lastly we're supposed to creatively visualize our findings, most probably in map form. [more inside]
Is there anything I can do with my shiny, nearly useless 1st gen ipad? As far as I can tell, the hardware is still perfectly functional, but it is woefully out of date on IOS, which means that apps can't be updated. This also means that even things like browsing the internet cause it to crash, and doing anything more complex is out of the question. [more inside]
Should I start showing my rental property before new carpet is installed? It looks terrible right now. [more inside]
I recently discovered that I really enjoy hiking. I live in Maryland, and would like to experience some good hikes in the state. Ideally hikes at a moderate level of intensity that could accommodate a group of five or six. These would be weekend hikes, and the less crowded the better. [more inside]
I'm looking for a "bohemian" style skirt, preferably non-patterned, preferably in a dark or jewel tone, either knee/midi length or longer, in straight sizes. Unfortunately, this came up last minute, so what I'm looking for is any knowledge of stores in Manhattan (or nearby Brooklyn or Queens) that have that sort of style in stock right now. [more inside]
I'm interested in looking at historical soil temperature data for the DC area - I have found lots of forecasts online as to what the soil temperature will look like in the next few days, but I haven't found any as to what the temperature looked like historically. In particular, I would be interested in looking at what the soil temperature was in any given day or week in the past few years. An added bonus would be some sort of general summary similar to weather summaries that say "in January in DC, temperatures average x-y degrees"
Ok, Mefites. You did fab with this question, can you help me with a similar issue but for a different couple? My dear friend (I used to live with her many ages ago) just got married last week in Hawaii to someone amazing for her. She came to our wedding overseas and I'm gutted we were unable to attend theirs. She lives in San Diego. They have been living together for years and are pretty set for house things so something experiential might be nice. Some more relevant details inside if it helps: [more inside]
After years of trouble-free operation, my 4 year old Linksys N750 wifi router has begun having problems, mainly that it drops the internet connection on the 2.4 G band (but not the 5 G band curiously enough). That is to say, the 2.4G Wifi connection isn't itself lost, just that the 2.4G channel loses its internet connectivity. It seems to happen mostly in the evenings. Since my phone and the Wii we watch Netflix through can only use 2.4G, this has become very annoying. [more inside]
I've been helping take care of my two year old niece this summer, but now I'm leaving. How can I help her understand this transition and make it easier on her (and her parents, and me)? [more inside]
We fired our nanny this morning. This is the second nanny we have gone through in five years. Please help me refine how to do my prep work so we can build a long-term relationship with the next person. [more inside]
i'm switching to ebooks exclusively rather than my usual combo of library ebooks/piles of library books. i'm looking into netflix-for-ebooks kind of options. [more inside]
First time home buyer. Totally confused and stressed out! I was pre-approved for a loan that includes a CalHFA down payment assistance loan. (I'm in California, natch, Alameda County). We went into contract last week and now my mortgage broker is asking me to collect a bunch of paperwork and she told me I need to do an educational class for my CalHFA loan. So I start researching these loans a little more closely, and I think I'm over the income limit. Now... What? [more inside]
Purchase of a cheap mask & snorkel has shown me that the surf zone of east coast beaches is an ecosystem chick full of crabs & fish & more- totally amazing! Within 2 feet of shore (in surf, not in tide pools) we recently found tiny puffer fish, pipefish & one mystery fish - what is this fish? pic 1 pic 2 (Found all over beaches of Martha's Vineyard. It's about 3 inches long, has wing-like fins that it uses to scoot along the sandy bottom. Some were all light brown, some had a lot more white. Pics look weird as the fish is inside an old 2 liter soda bottle.)
What are some interesting historical events of relatively swift, coordinated, mass betrayal, such as the Night of the Long Knives, or the Bleiburg Tragedy? Doesn't matter if the betrayers were "good" or "bad".
How can I make beautiful Powerpoint slides like those in this example presentation, titled "Steal this Presentation"? I can't download the presentation as a powerpoint file, only as a pdf. I have no graphic design skills, so I was hoping to find a template or powerpoint file somewhere, so I can just borrow the fonts, layouts, etc. Thank you for any help or example presentations you can link me to!
Need help in reassuring/dealing with a rather jealous boyfriend. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
What form of yoga is best for a man in his early 50's, in OK shape, doesn't currently exercise and just wants to be limber? Routines that take 15-30 minutes. Nothing too strenuous. Something that can be done in the living room and learned from YouTube videos.
I’m really bad at talking about what’s going on in my life with my family, on both the trivial and profound levels. This is really starting to hurt my relationships. Please help me learn how to do it. [more inside]
Is it rude for me to go to a Black hair salon as a white woman to get my hair cut? I have curly hair. [more inside]
I need a bit of advice on the wisdom of buying a shared ownership property at the age of 51 years old. I live in London. [more inside]
Are there any basic online tips for how to approach mobile app design (for print designers who have a formal training)? Resources for how to design for different screen sizes (there are so many of them), latest trends in UI/UX, and most helpful critique/help forums for beginners would be a great help.
I've been subletting a room for the past six months or so, and am about to move out. Recently I've been feeling like I've been bitten by things during the night. Bed bugs? I don't know, but it seems possible. What is the best option here? I want to do right by the people I've been subletting from, but I also don't want to make a big deal out of something that turns out to be just me being paranoid. And I feel nervous about potential financial ramifications. [more inside]
We are an early 30s hetero couple with pets. We are moving to London from the US soon, and will also be seeking to add a third member to our family. Where should we live? One of us will be working near Bloomsbury and would hope to be no more than a 30 minute tube ride away from that area. Other desiderata below the fold. (Adding this question to the database, as the others seem somewhat dated.) [more inside]
In Missouri, I loved US Toy. In Minneapolis, is there something like this? I'm looking for something like Oriental Trading Company: The Store but with teacher supplies, like posters. I couldn't find anything aside from Lakeshore... Please Help!
What are some resources (books preferred, but other resources are good, too) that I can use to help me improve/maintain some old vba models in my workplace. [more inside]
I pulled down the ceiling lamp in the bedroom of my old (1890s-1930s?) rental condo. When I pulled it off of the ceiling, a big circle of gross pink-brown-yellow insulation that had been between the light and the ceiling came falling down in a couple of pieces. It looked like somewhere between regular fiberglass insulation and foam. I threw it away with gloves and vacuumed, and later spent the night in the room. But now I'm being totally paranoid that it was asbestos. Please explain to me why I'm not going to die, and why I can feel okay about sleeping in my bed tonight.
This is us. We've since spoken to a lot of other doctors, and agreement seems to be unanimous that chemotherapy is necessary. Our son is scheduled to begin this week. We are having trouble preparing him for it because all the materials available seem to be centered around fighting cancer - which he doesn't have. Help? [more inside]
On the late, great show NYPD Blue, the detectives regularly attempted to get suspects to write out accounts of their past deeds so as to implicate themselves in their own crimes. This occurred so often that it seemed that it was the standard procedure in that unit. Are there police departments in the real world that try to get suspects to do this on a regular basis?
We recently moved into a house with an oven that has a couple of symbols on the dial that I can't identify. The oven is a Baumatic BA700SS, but it's old enough that all the links to manuals online seem to be broken. Can anyone tell me what the functions at the bottom of the dial and directly left of that one are? Also the first symbol anticlockwise from the top seems to have rubbed off. Any guesses what that would have been?
Came home to suddenly find these bugs all over the south wall over house. They are running along the ground and up the wall at least five feet. I don't even know what type of spray to get to get rid of them. [more inside]
I'd like to get some tips for changing my diet to something that's based around a handful of core healthy ingredients, if possible. [more inside]
I got a last-minute invite to a weekend creative writing workshop. I haven't produced anything except for work related, decidedly non-creative, work in a long time, and am not at all in a daily writing (or idea generating) habit at this point. Prescribe me a workout for the next 4 days so I am as "in shape" as is realistic. [more inside]
Is it worth it to hold onto old stereo speakers? Are they a special luxury I'll never be able to afford again or are they just taking up space and keeping me from getting something way better? [more inside]
On dating sites, when someone in a profile has the little light saying they are "On Line Now," does that mean they are just literally on line anywhere, and the site is detecting their general activity (a la google) -- or does it mean they are at that moment active on the dating website itself?
I am on lexapro and wellbutrin. They have worked out well. Lexapro in making me relaxed and not sweat the small stuff, and wellbutrin gives me a kick of energy and happiness. But...is this real? [more inside]
Anybody got experiences using OSs besides iphone, android? Customising them? Dual config eg of sailfish, ubuntu? Best phones to try this on? Tips? Avoid? [more inside]
I'm going to be singing in front of an audience soon. I'm confident in my voice but am a lousy performer -- awkward, stuff and timid. What can I do to improve my physical presence on stage before Thursday night? [more inside]
Asking for a friend, who read the short story in question in the 80s in Germany (thus in a print format). [more inside]
Hey all, I want to buy an empty lot in Lousiana, but I am away from there until February. I have also never bought land before. I have the full amount needed to purchase. The land is listed through a real estate company. How do I do this?
My wife, currently a preschool teacher, has expressed an interest in getting into the field of curriculum design. If you are experienced in that or a similar field, we'd love to hear from you about degree requirements, job availability, etc. Relevant info and [more inside]
Looking for a hub or docking station that will connect a 2015 MacBook Air to one, or ideally, two external monitors with VGA ports (I can't buy newer monitors), and enough USB ports for my mouse, phone charger, and hard drive. The hub will be stationary on my office desk, and I'd like to be able to get into work everyday and connect it to my laptop with a single connection, either USB or Thunderbolt, without fussing with cables. Would prefer something that's not too bulky. My budget is around $50 for the hub and all necessary adapters, but can go up to $100.
I am all Googled out. I like to get some rubber overshoes and I'd prefer them to not be black, but that's not a strict requirement. I want the kind that go up to the ankle - not the ones that just wrap around the edge of the shoe. I am a woman who walks to work and I'd rather not carry my shoes in my bag and wear rain boots when it's damp outside. [more inside]
Asking for a friend. She is considering a spinal stimulator implant. I have seen this, but it's from 2008. I was hoping there might be more current information from the Mefites. If you have/have had one or know someone who does, has it helped? Pros? Cons? Thank you!
How do you score the Dabrowski Overexcitability Test? Here are two examples of tests/checklists, but I can't find a version of the test with a scoring scale to provide meaning and context.
I love Dolly Parton and really want to go to Dollywood when we're on holiday in the US but I can't drive. How can I get there? My fiance and I need to get from Nashville to Pigeon Forge, 215 miles away. He can't drive either. How do I achieve my Dolly dream? [more inside]
Back in the early 2000s - around 2001-2003 there was an awesome falafel place near the corner of Haight and Fillmore. I'm less interested in the place, but would love to find a similar style of falafel in the East Bay / Oakland. [more inside]
I'm learning to play "Train in Vain" on the ukulele. The chords and strumming in the main part of the song is pretty straightforward, but I'm having trouble figuring out how to play the riff. [more inside]
A small organization registered a domain name several years ago, through Yahoo. They'd like to transfer it to a new registrar. However, the domain name was registered by someone who is no longer with the organization. That former employee registered using an email address which is no longer active, so no one (including former employee) can access the domain account or the email associated with it. Complicating things, the domain name will soon expire. How can the organization hold onto it?
I would like to start planning more fun events for my friends and I, but I'm having trouble with anxiety over decisions and group dynamics. I’d love to hear any hacks or tricks as to how to arrange group outings that would be fun for everyone. (Specifically things like board-game nights, canoe and camping trips, hiking, river tubing etc.) [more inside]
Going with a buddy to NYC next weekend to wander through the Eldridge Street Museum, the MMA Cloisters, and other beautiful things with stained glass, carved stone, and old wood. Where should we eat/drink that is also beautiful, but relatively low-key? (Not that I mind skyscrapers and we both love industrial-beautiful/abandoned places, but we both hate lines/crazy crowds)
I have a late 2013 MacBook Pro Retina which I recently upgraded to Yosemite. Ever since, when I'm trying to attach a file to an email (Gmail), when I try to click on the file in the finder window that opens, I get a spinning ball for about 8 seconds. Then it stops for a second or two, spins another second or two, and stops. I am then able to attach the file. This does not happen every time — sometimes (maybe one out of three tries) the attaching works correctly without hesitation. [more inside]
I finally pulled the plug on my relationship after I realized I had been unhappy for most of it. My boyfriend was surprisingly understanding and respectful about it. I have a flight in a week, but I find myself often wondering if I’ve done the right thing. I’m worried I might back out of leaving and I need help. Our history and wall of text inside. [more inside]
I've been helping my wife produce a podcast. It publishes through a Wordpress site sitting on Dreamhost. We have Google Analytics set up for the site (which existed as a blog before the podcast came along), but unless I'm reading them wrong, they don't appear to show podcast downloads. What's the best way, either through Google Analytics or some other route, to get reliable numbers on downloads? [more inside]
How did people organize tasks, reference materials, records, and projects before the widespread advent of computers? And how did they learn these techniques? [more inside]
I love Rainbow Rowell! Can anyone recommend me books that are similar to hers in genre/content/tone? More details after the jump. [more inside]
Is there a safe Android app that will somehow forward SMS texts to email? [more inside]
I have a battery-powered speaker which will be used at an outdoor event. I need to be able to power an XLR microphone that will then connect to the speaker via minijack. Can anyone recommend a reliable, small pre-amp that would be suitable for amplifying the mic before it goes into the speaker? Battery-powered would be ideal, and portability is desirable.
We're need an expert, but don't know where to look. [more inside]
I know it's early to post this, but I need to find a new dry cleaner in Northern Virginia, preferably Alexandria or Fairfax, who can do a good job cleaning a Santa suit. [more inside]
Help me find a citation for this statistic about gun violence in the United States. [more inside]
After almost 30 years I think I need to get out of IT and corporate cube life. I want to work with my hands. At the end of the day I want to be able to point to something tangible and say “I did that!” I want to… do something. I don’t know what that is. Help me figure out what it is I want to do. Help me brainstorm. [more inside]
I came down with a cold and missed my friend's baby shower. I'd like to get them a nice gift, maybe around $50-100, but their registry only has burp cloths left. I know that they already have a car seat and baby monitor and that they will be using cloth diapers. Parents: what items/services in that price range have you found to be really useful?
How do you control jealousy when someone you love is doing very well and your life is just average? [more inside]
Are there ethics/moral components to selecting a non-fireblight resistant pear tree? [more inside]
I just moved to Denver and I am looking for specific recommendations of a dojo to study martial arts at. [more inside]
San Francisco apartment renting - is this how it really works? I'm looking for a new apartment in way-too-hot rental market of San Francisco. I found a place, and the unit looks great, but dealing with the property management company in a short amount of time has been a hassle (yes, welcome to San Francisco). [more inside]
I've had some pain associated with running, and I'm wondering if it is worth the expense (time and money-wise) to visit a sports medicine clinic to resolve the problem. [more inside]
What foreign or classic film would you like to watch at a drive-in? [more inside]
Should one query publishers individually or simultaneously about short story collections? Does no mention of submission status on publisher websites mean "we're closed to subs at this time?" I've read tons of opinions about novel, short story, or article subs, but little about submitting/querying for collections, other than "you should probably wait until you have a novel." In my niche, many authors publish collections with small or large presses before a novel, if they write novels at all. [more inside]
I'm doing a show and will be projecting images on myself, and to save finding an hour of photos I'd like to find a screensaveresque program that does interesting shifting colour planes. Any thoughts? Ios or android ok, pc best.
My shower door in my new home won't stay closed. It looks like the door catch used a bullet/ball, and it is now permanently depressed - which makes me kind of depressed (hah?). How do I get this sucker out and working again? See inside for picture! [more inside]
What is the etymology of using "believe" as a synonym for "ask" or "pray to"? As in, 'If I Want to Believe God for a $65 Million Plane, You Cannot Stop Me' (and how I found it, naturally). Or if not the etymology, when/where it appeared? It wasn't in Google Ngram. [more inside]
I want to save all emails with a certain label in my gmail account to one big text document. How would you do that? I'm on a Mac (I assume I will need to use an email client app to do this).
My landlord is currently out of the country until the end of the month. I've emailed her, but haven't heard back yet, and am not sure what steps I need to take if I suspect a dead rat is in my walls. There are dozens of flies in my apartment and a bad smell that I can't pinpoint. [more inside]
What hip hop artists are making music about current US racial/political issues? [more inside]
I’m looking to assemble a compilation or reference list for a type of music that I’ve always been drawn to, which is stuff that sounds simultaneously cartoony and loose, maybe a little clangy, almost a bit sinister, like the music has a hold over you and that infects you with this primal energy makes you feel out of control, like you’re going to morph into Animal from the Muppets. [more inside]
I have become ancient, but I am not a mariner. Is there still time to become one? [more inside]
I met this guy on OKcupid who seemed really, really perfect for me on paper. We talked for a couple weeks before he suggested meeting in person. I was nervous - I didn't want to mess it up since we seemed SO compatible. But the date was... awkward. Very awkward. He was clearly nervous and we just couldn't hold out a conversation. Should I give him another chance? [more inside]
How do you live with someone when you're not sure what might set off their temper? (Long term, hopefully you don't. But I mean, in the meantime.) [more inside]
Last night I watched the hour-long, puff documentary The Plant Hunter (trailer) on NHK World. I really liked the dreamy Japanese rock that played under the credits, but have no idea what it is. Has anyone else on Ask seen the film? Do you know what that credits music is or where to find it? Thanks!
I'm trying to figure out whether (and, if so, when) to change our electrical water heater. [more inside]
My fiance and I are having a rehearsal dinner difference of opinion, and we are curious what AskMetafilter thinks. He thinks we should invite all the out-of-towners; I think we should not have them for the dinner but for welcome drinks later that night. All manner of details within. [more inside]
We have several laptops and phones and digital cameras around the house. None of them are broken and everyone's got all the devices they need. What do we do with these things? [more inside]
I was out hiking today and found a dead bat along the trail. I picked it up with a plastic bag (as one would dog poop) and wrapped it up and put it in my pack. Now that I'm home, I want to look at it closely. Can I do this safely? (without getting the plague or rabies) [more inside]
Did your software career survive the first dot-com bubble? What did you learn, what would you do today, and how did you weather the collapse? [more inside]
The post about Smear the Queer made me think about a dodgeball-like game I played growing up called Smurfball. I don't know any other school that played it, and I can't find any information online, so I thought I'd see if a description of it sends anyone else down memory lane. [more inside]
I'm moving to New York in September for a new job and I'm planning to do a one month sublet on Airbnb so that I can find a permanent place once I have arrived in New York. Is there anything that I need to check up on or ask the hosts before I select a place? How do I make a decision when there are multiple options? [more inside]
Can you refer me to blogs, books, or other information on planning one's personal finances for the mid- to long-term that does not assume the traditional route of marriage, children, and supporting a family? [more inside]
I'm looking for a better quality pair of boots to replace these Steve Madden ones I bought a few years ago. I really like the style of these boots, with the little crochet detailing, and they're quite "light," but they're wearing out and it's time for me to find something new. [more inside]
What's the easiest way to affordably turn some of my photos into framed art for my walls? I'm considering getting six of these 12x12 inch frames from Social Print Studio, each with a single 8x8 print. I like the idea of square frames, and 12x12 seems like a perfect size for building a collection over time... but I'm wondering... is $60 each overpriced? Is there's a better way? [more inside]
I'm commuting to Palo Alto and am leaving my bike at the Caltrain station. After someone tried to steal my bike last week I'm thinking about renting a bike locker. Does anyone have any experience with these lockers? I can't find any reviews of them one way or another online. I'm a little worried that if I mail them a check for $58 I'll just never hear from them again. [more inside]
A loved one who lives across the USA is undergoing medical testing to find out what is causing her joint pain. It may be arthritis, but signs also point to an underlying autoimmune disorder or possibly Lyme Disease. In the meantime, she's has to quit a physically demanding job which is causing her financial stress and brought her spirits down. Needless to say, she's stressed out over her health and finds herself in pain much of the day. What can I send her to help her feel better physically and/or emotionally? [more inside]
After returning home from a short trip we find ourselves with a flea infestation and need a chemical free method of putting the little buggers out of our misery. Details within, of course. [more inside]
Your travel tips for first-time visitors to Dallas-Fort Worth, Shreveport & Texarkana. [more inside]
I've recently been practicing escapism by devouring novels about comfortably bourgeois (urban, middle-class or wealthy) people dealing with familial and romantic relationships and the mundane traumas and joys of fortunate lives. Looking for recommendations in this vein! [more inside]
Fixing a computer for a church friend. I'd like to easily create a bootable usb stick from my other computers... windows and mac... but everything I've read makes it seem like a daunting process. Is there a utility out there to easily burn a rescue usb stick ? thanks.
I really need to lose 20 pounds, and I'm psyching myself out before I even start. Help. [more inside]
I asked this question several weeks ago... and I'm back. How do I professionally ask/demand to be paid to do a much bigger job. I'm willing to quit over this, but would really prefer not to. [more inside]
I was just reminded of Smear the Queer, a game in which everybody gangs up to tackle the person with the ball. The name seems really offensive today (probably was then too, but kids didn't know or care). Is that still the name for the game, or has it evolved into something else? Searching turned up some people saying they called it Kill the Guy with the Ball or British Bulldog, but I'm curious about whether any of those alternate names have caught on in general use, or do kids mostly still use the name Smear the Queer?
There was an old-ish block of cheese in the fridge kept in a zip-top bag, and I gave it the sniff test. It did not pass – I'm not here to ask if food that smells like Cthulhu's sneakers is okay to eat. A few seconds after tossing it in the trash, my nose started running, my eyes started to water, and my lungs filled up like I had bronchitis. I coughed deeply and uncontrollably for about 10 minutes. The coughing has mostly passed, but I still feel congested and runny and rather queasy and my eyes are still burning a little. The gym sock smell of the cheese has turned into a flavor that I can't wash out of my mouth. I feel absolutely horrid. What can I do to feel better? Do I need a doctor?
You know that game when you grab someone's forearm with both hands and twist back and forth in opposite directions? In Swedish it's called "tusennålar" - thousand needles. My kid asked me what it's called in English and I hesitated to tell him "Indian burn" which is what I remember. Surely there is something better? Help me out please.
I recently moved into my first apartment (hooray!) and I've inherited a few pieces of furniture I'd like to take care of. First on my list is a kitchen table that needs to be refinished. I only have a small balcony and sometimes it gets dusty outside. Is it possible to refinish this table with such a limited setup? [more inside]
How can I find out if a relative had been awarded a knighthood in Denmark, probably in the 19th century? It was the order of the elephant.
Looking for some recommendations of good retweeters. [more inside]
My friend and I are starting a gaming blog/website. We've been trying to think of a good name. We're both females, and would like to incorporate that in the name somehow, but not super overtly. Do you have any ideas? [more inside]
I'm looking to replace my old busted laptop with a tablet (since all I used the laptop for nowadays was browsing the internet in bed) but I'm out of touch with the vast array of tablets out there and I don't know where to start. More details below the cut. [more inside]
I'm pregnant, and with the hormones, I am in the mood for warm-and-fuzzy books. I can't handle my normal murder mysteries. I'm especially drawn to books about families, people settling in to new communities and coming to feel at home, people creating a home for others, and that sort of thing. Books and audiobooks would be great. [more inside]
I always wanted to be an engineer so I chose computer science because I was in love with it and wanted to know more about data structures; After being accepted into the programs at a school close to home I worked really hard but during my second semester I had a really bad family emergency that put a dent in my education and got me to perform really poorly and soon I was dismissed for 1 full semester upon returning I went to talk to the director of engineering since my advisor recommended I go see them but she wouldn't let me continue in engineering and told me I needed to find a major outside of engineering but I don't like other majors I like engineering upon hearing this it made me loose hope about education but I went to the dean she told me to complete my summer education and upon completing them and getting to the GPA required by the computer science department she's see the next step for. What should I do? [more inside]
I'm an amateur screen printer and I've just moved to NYC. I've just pulled my first print since moving but I can't get the screen reclaimed with just my shower's pressure. Ideas? [more inside]
Hi all - as you may or may not know, there are tons of forest fires in the Pacific Northwest. Today, Portland, OR was inundated with a ton of smoke. As someone with asthma, it's been pretty tough to handle. Where can I drive to be in an area with less smoky conditions? More below the fold. [more inside]
Quick and simple question: How common is the name Janeskie or Janeski as a given or first name for women in the Philippines? [more inside]
I go often to this market, but I hesitate with the produce? [more inside]
I'm fostering a cat, but she's been here since April so this is turning into a long-term project. She wasn't feral, but had had a hard outdoor life for awhile and was somewhat tense, and part of my deal has been to calm her down and make her more adoptable. On the whole it's been working and Sophie is about 95% there. But... [more inside]
Using Word 2013, can I make changes to a template's text automatically affect existing documents already using that template? If so, how? [more inside]
Where should I go in (or near) Quebec for some rural day hikes? Bonus constraint: driving from NYC. [more inside]
I'm working to build my doula business. I'm a labor and postpartum doula. And I need a website, which means I need a name. Help me, Metafilter! [more inside]
The Muji stores in Palo Alto and San Jose (possibly others) have a stamp station where you can stamp their stationary, bags, etc. One of the self-inking stamps is an elephant. I want that stamp because it's awesome. But it is not for sale by Muji, and I was unable to locate their source (their employees didn't know either). Does anyone know if I can purchase these stamps, and if so, where?
I love sewing small burp cloths and baby quilts for friends. But I'm hitting a wall, where friends are having babies faster than I can churn out little quilts. If you have some experience sewing or quilting, can you help me figure out a better method with decent results? These aren't meant to be heirloom pieces, just heartfelt and unique small blankets or quilts to welcome a new baby and brighten their days. [more inside]
Is there a website where you can paste in something spelled in International Phonetic Alphabet script (usually surrounded by forward slashes) and hear the audio pronunciation? [more inside]
I want to host my own large scale Git setup, but without all of the social collaboration tools that solutions like GitHub and Bitbucket bring to the table. All I really want is web based admin tools for a deployment with 100's of repos, and 100's of users. And I want it for like $.50 per user per month. [more inside]
What are my options for more ethical alternatives to Amazon? [more inside]
On a Sunday in September, we have a six hour Amtrak layover (11 am to 5 pm) at Penn Station, with our nine year old son in tow (so, probably 4 and a half usable hours). I know we can get to the top of the Empire State and back pretty easily, is there something else quick and easy we should do during that time?
Can anyone identify this indoor plant, seen at an office in north Texas? Thanks!
My Dad's laptop has windows 8 on it which I set up with Start8 so it acts completely like windows 7 (you never see any of the Metro touchscreen-friendly UI - it's not a touchscreen). It worked fine for nearly a year, then in June(?), it reset or updated to 8.1 and he no longer had the desktop, just the metro tiles. I set it up for a second time, and it's just reset itself again. [more inside]
Are there are any good resources about creating metadata schemas for online documents/content, with examples of partial/complete schema in Excel format or similar? I've tried all kinds of relevant Google searches but, apart from Rachel Lovinger's (very good) slideshare, I only seem to turn up academic-type papers or very library-specific information. [more inside]
Having a hard time finding a dress to wear to a fall wedding. [more inside]
Can anyone recommend a good historical examination of literary and performed works throughout all of human history that stood out from their contemporaries for containing exceptionally violent/disturbing imagery, even for their own time? (more 'recent' examples being Titus Andronicus, the various Penny Dreadfuls, de Sade, Milton, etc) [more inside]
My HR interview went well (w/ help from the green), and now I'm scheduled to speak with the hiring manager ... [more inside]
[Asking for a friend] My building had a fire last night, on the floor below mine. I have middling fire damage at baseboard level in both bedrooms, both of which will be uninhabitable until the damage is ripped out and redone. All my windows are broken and glass is everywhere, but aside from the above stuff and the overwhelming odor of smoke and my broken-down front door, there is no other (water or fire or smoke stain) damage to the apartment. This is in NYC, and I have no renter's insurance. [more inside]
Is there a polite way to say, "Actually, we were hoping it would just be [SO and I] sitting together?" [more inside]
I am CRAZY FOR GYROS. I crave a delicious, warm, foil-wrapped Greek gyros sandwich every single day and I never, ever tire of them. The place near me just closed. There's only shawarma in lavash now. It's not the same thing. As you can imagine, I am pissed. So I have decided to just become a subsistence carver. Can anyone help me build a PERSONAL GYROS RIG, and go beyond bland store-bought frozen slices into the third dimension of flavor? [more inside]
I remember a study of individual investor behavior, where making no trades at all gave the best return. I'm almost certain it was a Vanguard study. But I can't find it. Anyone know what I'm talking about?
The other day I had a new washing machine installed, a completely normal setup. I had paid for installation and new parts as well. Upon delivery, one of the workers looked at the existing completely normal hookup, sighed, and said, "Oh, this is going to be tricky. We're not supposed to install something this complicated. We can try it to save you the cost of a plumber, but this is really something a plumber should be doing. But we'll try." [more inside]
I've only seen it used here. And when it's used, it makes no sense to me whatsoever. :-)
I came across this interesting looking (what I assume to be an) antenna in an otherwise empty lot. I'm curious to know what it might be used for and, as a bonus, why it needs to look like this as opposed to what I think of as more "typical" antenna shapes. [more inside]
I had my head shaved for charity today. It was all good. Then some random young man decided to tell me what he thought of that decision. How best to frame this experience? [more inside]
When my husband and I got married we were both practicing Muslims. We've been married almost 3 years and now I don't think I believe anymore. Can I make this work despite the religious differences? [more inside]
How do I date with a promiscuous/unhealthy past and lots of issues about it? [more inside]
My doctor lost my medical records. How do I proceed? [more inside]
Dear Metafilter members, I would like to ask you if you can share some experiences on how to fit into a new work environment after you have been fired unfairly at your old job and deal with day to day stress of learning a new job and dealing with anxiety of not fitting in, so I don't get fired again for work performance? [more inside]
We're launching a food business/truck/cart/booth that'll serve vegan versions of standard American carnival food (hot dogs, hamburgers, corn dogs, mini doughnuts, malts, etc.). It'll be in the context of other regular (i.e. non-vegan) carnival food vendors, serving a largely omnivorous crowd. But we can't come up with a name. We'd like the name to be relevant to our offerings, but we're finding it difficult to make any reference without it sounding potentially judgmental or self-righteous. Any ideas?
Please recommend somewhere for a woman to go for a massage and hot tub (latter with partner) in Berkeley, CA. [more inside]
Need some suggestions about possible diagnoses for abdominal and back pain symptoms in an elderly woman. [more inside]
Introverts: What does a harmonious social network/community of friends look like to you? How have you gone about identifying and tweaking that balance? [more inside]
My wife has a very clear recollection of the following scene from a movie or TV show, but we can't figure out where it's from. The scene takes place at a 18th- or 19th-century fancy-dress party. A fop approaches a lady at the party and harasses (assaults? molests?) her. In response, the lady stabs the fop in the leg with something; my wife remembers the weapon as a small flag, but admits it might have been something else. [more inside]
We recently purchased a lovely chaise longue and I'm anxiously looking forward to many evenings curled up on it with a book. As such, I would like to do everything possible to keep our cat from destroying it when I'm not looking. Please help me find something to keep it covered and clean! [more inside]
Let's say there are three options for sleep tracking. The first is an expensive sleep study in a lab. Won't sleep anyway, in an unfamiliar bed, electrodes hooked up everywhere. The second is a "home version" of same, where the lab sends you home with a device and electrodes (also expensive). The third is some kind of smartphone-based sleep tracker. What I need to know - when measuring phases of sleep (and what the best time is to wake up, within a "window"), what is the minimum I need? [more inside]
I am going to lead a class for a group of public-school teachers about teaching technology. Specifically, I want to demonstrate how you can better learn to use technology by exploring interfaces and collecting your discoveries, rather than following step-by-step instructions (which is how many teachers teach their students). What are some rewarding interfaces to explore? [more inside]
While driving home from work yesterday afternoon during somewhat-cloudy daylight, I suddenly noticed a bright bluish glow on nearby objects, heard a loud hum that sounded like it had 60/120ish Hz components, and felt a strange tingling/vibrating sensation in my upper body. When I got home, I checked the power company's outage map and saw that there was a ~500-customer outage centered around the area where this happened, which started around the time I drove through the area. The stated cause of the outage was "equipment problem." Because of this, I am guessing there was some kind of fault in the roadside electric distribution system which caused all of this, and I have some questions about what might have happened. [more inside]
What's that novel filter: teen girl in hospital falls for a boy isolated behind glass. [more inside]
I need a grocery app that my husband and I can both add to/sync lists for iOS (web interface nice but not mandatory). We've been using Buy Me a Pie, but it's gotten glitchy for us and won't let me add him to lists. I've seen this post, and will check out the other recs, but it's a year old, which is forever in app development time. Possible complication: spouse beta tests new iOS versions on his phone for work reasons.
Hi All, One of my favorite people is my grandpa. He is in his 80s, living with my aunt and depressed. When i get a job, I will be able to fly and visit him. Until then, anything fun I can do with him over the phone to cheer him up? I am trying to think of a fun "game", something that we can share. He likes golf, so I will goggle Tiger Woods sometimes before we talk to be up on the latest. I am not really sure what I am asking here, but maybe you get it, and might have some fun tips. With others I ask about the highs and lows of the week, but you know he does not have much going on. Maybe I could help him start a project. OK, thanks :)
My mom is struggling with a heart problem. She is not married and none of her children live in the same state. I want to get her signed up for a service that can help out when an incident crops up so she does not have to rely on friends and neighbors in emergencies. I've never dealt with anything like this before and I'm looking for advice about how to help her choose and engage a service. [more inside]
What sorts of advice can you share for dealing with my 3.5 year old's intermittent aggression? It comes in the form of pushing/biting/hitting/scratching peers, and it occurs more during times of unstructured play with them (when one of them reaches for his toy is the biggest problem situation). This has been going on since he's been a little under two, and it's driving me batty. [more inside]
I'm seeking recommendations on how to move my worldly goods (not furniture, but maybe my bike) from Toronto to Vancouver. Specific questions below the fold. [more inside]
My email was in the Ashley Madison leak, and I am married. Should I fess up now? [more inside]
If all goes well, we will shortly have our second child. Both my wife and I agree that we do not want any more children. Is it better for me to get a vasectomy or for my wife to get a tubal ligation? [more inside]
I'm in Washington State with a Premera Blue Cross HSA HDHP. I'm maybe, finally, in a position to start funding an actual health savings account, not just pay my household's premiums (~$400/mo for two people) and treat my insurance as a lame catastrophic plan. I'm having trouble finding a good account provider, though, and would like some recommendations. [more inside]
My father died last year leaving me a tiny bit of money. I'm using it to purchase a condo I will rent out. The realtor says: Well, you don't currently own a home so tell the bank it's your primary residence. [more inside]
Hey everyone! I've got a tough decision in front of me... I am lucky enough to be in a position where I have to choose between two job offers. One of these companies is American Eagle Outfitters and I would be working as a graphic designer in the corporate office in Pittsburgh. The other job is at yet another big PGH company, but for a slightly different position. I know people that work or have worked for the second company, so I've got the scoop on that option... However, I don't have any "inside info" on working for AE. Essentially, my position at AE is being called a "freelance" job, but I'd be working in the office 5 days a week with varying hours (and I'd be a W2 employee). That is a bit confusing to me, as (through personal experience) the words "freelance" and "W2" usually don't go hand-in-hand. ;) Anyway, sorry... rambling! Has anyone here "freelanced" for AE Corporate in the past and can give me some info on how it went/what it was like/etc.? I've got a big decision to make by end of day Monday!
I'm trying to think of hands-on things that both kids and adults might like doing with astronomy apart from stargazing. [more inside]
(I am posting this for my daughter, and am sending the request as I received it from her, below. She is attending a training conference during the dates listed. She's 34, professional, and quite capable of finding her way around, although she will not be driving, so will need to use public transportation. She has never been to Vegas prior to this trip. She likes all kinds of music, art, cool neighborhoods..woman of eclectic tastes. Tell her what you love about the city!) [more inside]
Do you know of a WordPress Instagram plugin that will allow me to show together in a single gallery all images that are tagged as a certain location OR that use a certain hashtag? To restate: it's all the images that are marked with a certain location, and all the images that are marked with a certain hashtag. I'm trying to avoid installing and testing dozens of plugins to see if any do this.
When studying, how do you find a balance between obsessively picking through every little detail to the point of burnout and falling back on a definition of "good enough" that really isn't good enough? I would especially be interested in suggestions for a context where there is a lot of reading thrown at you with little structure, like graduate or medical school. Any suggestions on how to structure such material without wasting time or burning out?
I've been thinking of getting a new desktop computer--one that is adequate for gaming and doing high-res artwork (I'm a comic artist). But also I live in in a place where the weather is hot all summer and autumn. [more inside]
i am looking for a device that i will be carrying when i am not at home so i can provide amazon aws support. it must have a terminal and ssh client that can be configured with multiple keys, a browser/apps that can deal with various sites like slack and pivotal tracker. and lastly, it must be super cheap, so when i eventually lose it or have it stolen, there will be no cares given. [more inside]
I used Armour Etch to repair my scratched eyeglasses, which worked a treat on the existing scratches, but now there are additional scratches that won't come out! What can I do now?
When I use Windows Media Player to bounce around songs in a playlist that basically consists of multiple full-length albums, the volume changes by song because of the audio quality/production of different albums. For example, a song from the '80s will sound fine on one volume setting but a more modern song will sound way too loud at the same volume. Is there a free, or even any such program, that can fix this issue while playing a playlist of different quality songs rather than manually adjusting the volume?
iPhone reception (especially outdoors) in a very low-signal location: physical OR settings-level tricks to improve my chances? [more inside]
Solo mid twenties female traveler living in the south east with a budget of $2000 and 1-2 weeks off of work. I need suggestions for what to do and how to get the most out of my money and time! [more inside]
I recently posted this ask about encountering bed bugs while traveling and being really freaked out. I got a lot of great practical advice from other frequent travelers, but I'm still struggling with intense, totally out of proportion anxiety and hoping for some insight on that side of things. Details below. [more inside]
I was having a play session with my cats and they all seemed to be enjoying it. Afterwards I was giving them treats and when I went to give them to Mamma she just stared at them and looked dazed and out of it. Usually she would gobble them up immediately. It really freaked me out! [more inside]
Freud said “Love and work are the cornerstones of our humanness.” So I want to add variety and depth to my working life, irrespective of financial gain. [more inside]
I have recently (re-)discovered smoothies. I'd never really gotten into them before, but recently my appreciation levels have been cranked up a notch and I've been trying to have at least one a day, usually for breakfast. However, I'm worried my current goto frozen strawberry-peach smoothie (with almond milk and yogurt) will get old quickly, and I need to mix it up. [more inside]
I've joined a club and am learning to sail in a hands on environment. I like to read more about sailing and am looking for good books that have narrative AND instruction.
I know mismatched libidos has been discussed here before, and while that's part of my issue, I'm not really looking for ways to reignite the spark or even how to broach this subject with her. It's been broached. I'm looking for ways to better manage my feelings, especially since some of our relationship details seem to complicate this for me. Those details follow. [more inside]
I have an option to buy a used Canon 60D for about $500 CAN, no lenses included. I also see on BH Photo the option to buy the Canon 70D refurbished for about $800 USD. I want a good quality camera to film sit-down videos and sometimes vlogs. Can I get away with using the 60D and will it be good quality? [more inside]
There is too much advice online. What's the best way to remove a small dent from my car? [more inside]
Is it safe to make dog and cat toys from recycled leather* jackets and bags? Googling is not helping here. I feel like my little buddies would love some leather toys, and I could probably give or sell some to friends/neighbours, but I just want to be on the safe side. [more inside]
Coursera just released their mobile app and I signed up for a course. It's been a long time since I was a student. Any tips?
My spine thinks I am a jerk. The feeling is mutual. I'd like to hear how others are handling similar medical conditions. [more inside]
I'm flummoxed and turning to you for help. This ball has been a fixture at my gym for longer than anyone can remember, and I want one for my very own. It has absolutely no give in it, which makes it perfect for rolling out cramped muscles. I've searched through thousands of images of massage therapy balls with no luck. "Liberating" the one at the gym isn't an option; everyone would know I was the one who took it.
The CSA haul this week was huge (yay!), but my refrigerator space is limited (boo). So I'm wondering, does everything need to go in the refrigerator? Specifically, green bean salad? [more inside]
My SO and I are looking for ideas for an overnight trip from the Hartford area this weekend. We were originally going to go to Providence for Waterfire, but it looks like rain so I'm looking for other suggestions. [more inside]
Recommendations for wedding hair are needed! [more inside]
I have a bit of a situation after trying to pay a friend for a plane ticket using Venmo, and overdrafting my account. [more inside]
Academic-filter. You submit a 10000-word manuscript to a relatively prestigious history journal and several months later you get four (mixed) peer review responses (one very positive, one reject outright, and two "this could be a major contribution to the field, but it needs to be substantially rewritten and reframed to be publishable in X Journal"), accompanied by an invitation from the journal editor to "revise and resubmit." What do you do? [more inside]
I am (probably foolishly) building a set of stairs. I haven't done this before. Could you help me not miss out any bits I need. [more inside]
I need a central taskmaster - Ops Central - which anyone in my team can can add an item to. Ops control will then evaluate and delegate said task out and track it to conclusion so nothing gets missed. [more inside]
Looking for slow-burning games that can be played in an office setting [more inside]
Which personal fundraising sites work best? [more inside]
Many bicycle repair kits contain a short piece of ivory colored soft rubber tubing hose for use on a bicycle valve. How is this used? I've never seen it in or around a valve. [more inside]
I noticed this "news" article on the BBC, which isn't newsworthy, and reads like an advert. It's not even introducing a new category of product. Why is it on there? Is this a paid placement?
I'm looking for an iPhone app that displays whether or not an Internet connexion is on, as can be found on a PC. I use wifi at home & work and my carrier's 3G on the road but sometimes, although the phone connects to the router and the wifi signal is there, there is no internet. Short of looking at the router itself, is there any app that can give you the actual Internet access icon directly on the phone?
I'm going to Romania next summer for a wedding and I want to learn more about the country, it's people and their culture. Since my travel itinerary will be decided for me I'm excluding travel guides (unless one of you insists that they are indispensable). What I'm interested in are good popular histories, novels set there or written by Romanian authors, or any other books you think would help me understand the place better.
I had a couple of very odd experiences with the Facebook mobile browser page (Chrome for iOS on an iPhone 6) that seem beyond coincidence, and it makes me wonder if Facebook is rummaging through my phone, or if iOS is giving some kind of privileged access to some of my information to Facebook. [more inside]
I've got next week off, and have been too busy to plan anything until now. I want to get out of Montreal for the week, but I don't have that much money. So, Camping! I'm carless, so limited to transit + walking. I'd love to feel like I'm out in nature at the campground, but I'll also probably want to eat in a restaurant for dinner most nights and maybe go to attractions in the area if they're also accessible. spot recommendations within a ~6 hour bus or train trip of Montreal?
My 17-year-old daughter started getting a sore throat Tuesday afternoon. Wednesday morning she was pretty miserable--couldn't swallow without extreme pain (like literally crying), sore neck/lymph nodes, lots of sinus congestion. [more inside]
Let's assume I can get training in anything I want and have a supportive boss who will allow me to "practice" any skill I choose in my current position as a director. What skills should I learn to make the next big leap to head boss at a non-profit? [more inside]
I'm trying to use a DS18B20 probe with this super rad Reed Kumosensor inside this upright freezer. Is it safe to just start drilling holes in the side of the freezer, or is there a way to fish the probe in somehow? [more inside]
I'm doing a fundraiser for a friend's medical expenses and we are lucky enough to have an ACES graphic designer working with us. He has multiple designs that I want people to be able to chose from, but every print on demand + also you can donate extra cash type site I'm finding will only let me use one design per campaign. Any suggestions?
While helping care for a friend I've been at home a lot, and it has been a real lifeline to the outside world buying informal tutoring in Spanish from the web site www.italki.com . When my friend has carers all set up I will be moving and will have more free time. I'd like to improve my communication skills by doing some language exchanges with Spanish people. How can I best do my part so that my intercambio partners actually progress with their English? [more inside]
I took violin lessons for about 15 years when I was a kid. After 30 years or so, I've picked up the violin again and am interested in taking lessons and maybe finding a group to play with. I live in mid-city and work in downtown LA, so recommendations in those areas (or in between) would be preferred.
What does "no danger lowr's" mean in the lyrics to Poor Wandering One from Gilbert and Sullivan's Pirates of Penzance? [more inside]
I lost my Wallaroo Sonoma hat. It was the best sun hat I ever had, but it's been discontinued and I can't find one for sale anywhere! Please help me find another one in a similar color (or, failing that, the same kind of hat). [more inside]
Hi - I'm being interviewed for a job and am being given the choice of day, from Mon - Thurs, so was wondering if the research shows whether one day of the week is better than another?
Was interracial marriage ever illegal in New York State? What was the status of the law in 1961? [more inside]
Need help coming up with a badass Halloween costume with some interesting constraints. [more inside]
First the flood control plans, now rezoning. I don't know what to think anymore. [more inside]
I like wearing v-neck tops, but I have to wear a camisole/ modesty-panel if I want to wear them and avoid cleavage. I'm having trouble finding camisoles that meet my needs. Anyone have any that they love? [more inside]
For the time being, I'm living in southwest Virginia. I'm having major problems making and receiving calls. Details within. [more inside]
I'm looking to fill a couple of pinatas, one for a wedding, one for a group of very outdoorsy people. Some candy is fine, but I want the majority of it to be a little more interesting. No alcohol or condoms. What are your thoughts?
I'm going to be receiving my master's degree(hopefully) this coming January. I recently saw a job that I think I would be a great fit for on usajobs.com, but I'm not sure if it is worth it to apply if I won't really be able to start until Jan. Anyone have experience of a similar situation or know how long the hiring process usually takes?
I tend to be a high anxiety perfectionist and for many many years have "organized" my life with elaborate to-do lists and systems for recurring tasks. Recently, I started getting into minimalism and decided at the beginning of this year when I couldn't find a planner I liked to just go cold turkey and try to live my life without a to do list. I instantly felt so much better - like I was actually living my life and paying attention to things and people rather than always being stressed about the checking off the next thing on my list. If I saw something that needed to be done I did it and then effing relaxed. The only problem was, I did sometimes forget things that were important but not right in front of me for whatever reason, like ordering my dog's meds or reserving a car for an upcoming vacation. So, I am wondering: is there a middle way? Something that will help me remember the important things I tend to forget but not tempt me to overplan my life?
You are travelling to a different city, which you may or may not have visited before, on business. You check into your hotel to find that someone from your office has prepared an awesome gift bag for check-in. What's in there?
I do have a bill of sale -- is it as simple as showing proof at the local SOS branch? Located in Michigan. [more inside]
This is a follow up to this question. After My friend did more digging it turns out he was a victim of identity fraud and his bank account was emptied by the culprit making max ATM withdraws everyday over a period of two months. HSBC is not helpful in recovering the funds. Can you please help recommend a lawyer who would be useful in pursuing these stolen funds? Thanks
MeFites, I'm looking for a mattress cover for a twin bed (i.e. something going under the fitted sheet, but above the mattress and memory foam topper). I've spent a couple of hours (!) browsing and they all seem to sound the same, but I don't know which actually work well (especially waterproof-wise). I'd love to hear any of your recommendations from personal experience. Specific requirements for my situation inside. [more inside]
"Help me do my job" filter. I work for a tech company, as a software developer/manager. Our group (a dozen people or so, including the managers/senior developers) has recently merged with another, and between us we now have a lot of "core platform" technology that is duplicated across all the varied products (think - user authorization/authentication, user preference storing, file validation, core business tasks like matching names to identifying numbers). And now we want to consolidate these so there is only 1 piece of software doing the core platform work. How do we do this? [more inside]
So my email address is in the Ashley Madison hack. Not sure what to do, if anything. I am not married and never have been. I wasn't in a relationship when I signed up. In fact, I was just getting out of a relationship and I joined one night when I was feeling sad and lonely and I wanted to see what it was like. I thought AM was more for NSA relationships than specifically for cheaters. I'm a graduate student and I used my .edu address. This was really dumb, but I wasn't thinking straight at the time. So how worried should I be? [more inside]
I have a 27 1/2" x 19 1/2" silkscreen print I would like to have framed. Where should I go in NYC, and how much should I expect to spend? [more inside]
Mrs Maninsuit is hard to reach on her phone. She sometimes turns the volume down and forgets to turn the volume back up. She sometimes has it in her purse or her pocket and doesn't hear/notice its ringing. I want to be able to reach her! And she wants me to be able to reach her (or at least so she says, bless her heart). Are there good solutions? She has a Samsung Galaxy S4. [more inside]
So I am spending next week on a friend's sailboat, mostly in the Canadian San Juan islands. I was menu planning and it occurred to me: The ocean is FULL OF FISH. Couldn't I just drop a line overboard as we cruise and pull it up later with a tasty fish dinner attached? Or when we are anchored off shore overnight? And if so what simple gear would do the trick? I own basic freshwater spinning gear.
I'm strongly considering getting an IUD of the Mirena or Skyla variety. I haven't used hormonal birth control in nearly twenty years. What am I in for? Bonus: did Mirena decrease your sex drive or make you moody? [more inside]
We have a nice small place in a large building. The basement is damp and has had some mold issues and we have no hope that paper (e.g., books) will not be damaged if we put it in normal boxes. But, we also have a growing family and limited space. Some stuff will go to the curb, but we need a waterproof storage solution. Are there waterproof storage solutions that are a step above trashbags in a rubbermaid? Something affordable but decent?
How do you say I want to tell you how much I love you in your non-English language, including specialized non-romanized lettering? Please also specify the English equivalent of the language name ("Japanese"/etc).. It's for a non-school, non-profit art project :-3 [more inside]
How to decide if I should stick it out at my boring, unfulfilling job, or if I should leave? [more inside]
I have proportionally really big arms. Is there any story that sells women's jackets/blazers/button-downs with roomier arms? [more inside]
I am getting cataract surgery (which is fully covered by my insurance) but they also gave me the option to pay out of pocket for "not medically necessary" presbyopia-correcting IOLs which I don't really understand, and it costs about $2,261 per eye. What does this presbyopia-correcting IOL do exactly? And is it worth the money for me? I am very confused. Tanks
I love my Keen Newport sandals. Specifically: the arch support. They're now not only my summer outdoor shoe of choice but what I wear at the gym as well. But winter is coming, and they won't work for an outdoor jog for much longer. Keen makes hiking shoes but not sneakers. Help me find a run-friendly alternative! [more inside]
Can you recommend some clean-lined, fashionable women's shoes or shoe brands for a business casual environment? [more inside]
After hearing Peter Wimsey say, in the TV adaptation of The Unpleasantness at the Bellona Club (he did not say it in the 1928 book), that in mystery novels the butler always did it, it struck me that I have never read a mystery novel where this was true. And I have read a lot of mystery novels. [more inside]
I am a young female engineering professor who was invited to speak to incoming freshman engineering girls at my uni. I am flattered and want to inspire and motivate these young students. I need suggestions on what to focus on. I thought it would be easy because there is so much advice I can give but when I sit down it seems too disconnected and jumbled. more info inside [more inside]
Help me navigate potential oral HSV-1 exposure and my risks of contaminating other people. [more inside]
Inspired by the EL thread and the askme on it after following this moving thread about male socialization, what can I do as a parent (specifically a mother) do to help my sons grow up to be happier and healthier feminist men in a toxic patriarchy? What resources and strategies can I add to my parenting toolbox?
Is there a service or way to find songs with similar metrical lines or lyrical rhythms... specifically, I'm trying to find songs that match the speech/lyric patterns from "We Didn't Start the Fire" by Billy Joel.
How can you find out whether you can afford a vendor, without sitting down for an appointment and telling them your life story and/or feeling guilted into some kind of commitment? Very few vendors, so far, are forthcoming with price lists, and I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
Please help me to reformat a table and make other simple changes to an old, ugly webpage in time for class on Monday. [more inside]
I need to get some jeans hemmed. I don't want them to look home-sewn. I'd like the hems to look like they do when they're bought. Can someone recommend a tailor either in Cypress or near I-10 and Washington?
Please tell me there is something we can do to prevent Daughter from being released from the hospital in her precarious mental state. I am literally afraid for her life. [more inside]
We'll be in San Juan for a few days next month and I'm looking for recommendations for eating out. [more inside]
...or at least capture your attention and potential friendship, in an email. How do I do this? [more inside]
How do (Canadian) taxes work for non-resident citizens, if they work for a short time in Canada? [more inside]
I am looking to purchase the Adobe Creative Suite (Illustrator, Photoshop, and Indesign) for some professional work, but I'm opposed on principle to buying a subscription because I don't need the latest features and don't want my software access held hostage to a monthly payment. Is there an affordable way to purchase the suite (perhaps an older edition) that doesn't require a student ID or a nonprofit status? I am aware of open source alternatives like Inkscape but am hoping there is a way to get the Adobe versions at a reasonable price.
Okay, hiring managers and HR folks of AskMe. Suppose your company has a job opening, and you've interviewed a candidate. Things went pretty well, and you want to make that candidate an offer. You have your recruiter call and ask him for his salary requirements, and he gives you a number. What are some reasons why you might then come back and make an offer that is $10,000 more than what he was asking for?
We got this as a wedding present, with no note or explanation. It might be a gag gift, but it looks like it aught to do...something. [more inside]
I got a quote to remodel part of my house a few days ago. I signed a handwritten contract in my home. I just got a MUCH lower bid on it. Can I back out of the first contract? [more inside]
Do you know of a book or other resource like The Flavor Bible for liquor? I've seen resources on matching wine to food (at least one by the folks behind The Flavor Bible), but I am looking for something similar for liquor and related items (e.g. bitters and mixers). Book, online, or iphone/ipad apps are welcome
I'm going to TTITD, and a friend is offering me use of her very cool RV (for which I've offered to pay a somewhat below fair sum). The problem is, how do I get insurance for a short period of time? [more inside]
I will be delivering a (voluntary) 1-2 hour college readiness workshop for new students at the beginning of the September semester. The purpose is to provide them with skills, resources and info that will help them in their transition to post-secondary education. If you took or wanted to take a workshop like this, what kind of info was/would have been useful? [more inside]
Help me discover some very large independent restaurants or bars with multiple, differently-themed or purposed rooms and a maze-like interior. Examples: the Hollywood Magic Castle, the Safe House in Milwaukee, or Denver's Casa Bonita.
I'm an artist with a terrific day job: it's super flexible, doing admin work for a non-profit that actually has a great mission which it executes effectively, it gives me time to do my art. Pay's decent-not-great, but an excellent trade-off for the quality of life I get. But after four years I have started to hate it. [more inside]
I have a new Pebble Time and an iPhone and I want to make the most of it. What is the best of Pebble? Favorite watch face? Most fun stupid quirky thing? Inspire me!
I recently went back on Wellbutrin, and although it's been helping with my depression I'm getting a lot of side effects. I have muscle tension in my pecs, shoulders, and neck, and am experiencing tingling sensations in my hand. Has anyone dealt with similar side effects? Were the side effects a deal breaker for you? [more inside]
Two questions about Flannery O'Connor's "The River". 1) What's a "paper brick house"? 2) What kind of public transportation are the "cars"? [more inside]
I recently caught the archery bug, and after shooting on some shared equipment in classes/on a range, decided to take the plunge and order my own bow. I feel like this is a piece of equipment deserving of its own name. Metafilter, help me name my bow! [more inside]
I have never traveled outside the U.S. and am terrified about this specific part of the trip. I anticipate being at least a little jet lagged when I arrive, so I want to make sure I have a plan in place. Advice?
Do you know of a "lifetime" subscription or membership or purchase that you recommend or that seems interesting or a good deal? (An opportunity to pay once and reap ongoing benefits/dividends indefinitely.) In this modern era of low job security, I think I'd like knowing I'll always have a few Nice Things (or simply just reliable things) regardless of what financial turbulence the future may bring, so I'm curious what might be out there along those lines. [more inside]
Older imac 250 GB full except 4 GB now. Mostly iphoto and itunes. I have an external terabyte HD for backup. What is the easiest way to free up space? Move photos or music off the hard drive? Which would be better. Have already looked for wasted space, cleaned out various folders etc numerous times. Thanks!
I've never leased before, but am considering giving it a try. Given my driving preferences (inside), is this a good idea? [more inside]
I'm having trouble respecting my boss. [more inside]
I live in New York City and I have a friend coming into town in a few weeks who is going through alcohol recovery. I'm looking for things to do in the city with them that lessen the presence of alcohol in the environment. [more inside]
We are about to have our master bathroom remodeled. I have picked tile and counters and fixtures and everything has gone great, but I am stuck on cabinets. [more inside]
I'm trying to find out how many tweets a particular hashtag has had over the last 90 days. I've been clicking through various Twitter analytics sites and not finding the data I need- either they only show the last 30 days, or they show the tweets but don't give me a total #. Anyone know a tool that can definitely answer this question? Thanks!
I sometimes make iced coffee by placing a glass mason jar filled with ice into my single serve coffee maker and letting it brew / fill with hot coffee. I include a metal spoon inside the jar to act as a kind of heat sink and prevent the glass from breaking due to thermal stress. But should I bother? Does that spoon actually do anything?
Our dog, Buddy, has just recently gotten possessive/jealous of me around my partner. How can we nip this in the bud? [more inside]
I feel an outer ear infection coming on. I have some antibiotic spray left from the last time I had one (May, I think). The bottle says that it shouldn't be used more than a month after the first time it was opened. Can I use it to pre-empt the infection anyway? [more inside]
Is there any good note taking/note management software like nvAlt but with real WYSIWYG and command keys for formatting? [more inside]
I'm looking for suggestions for a nice gift that could be given to clients of a large building company- most of the clients are architects. So architects of Mefi- have you ever received something really cool that was perfect for your tastes and relevant to your trade? [more inside]
For the last ten years I've kept my name off Facebook. I've used my nickname that I go by and an initial. For ten years. A couple days ago, I couldn't log in without confirming my full name by sending in my license information and then they changed my last name. Not only do I have my full last name listed, I'm no longer able to choose what I have as my name. It's sounds silly but I don't feel safe anymore. [more inside]
In just a couple of days I will have 10 days to unwind and recharge. Money is tight so my husband and I (no children) won't be travelling and will be able to only have a couple of restaurant meals. I want to plan the most refreshing staycation possible and am looking for your tips. [more inside]
This is for fiction: generally, what is the protocol when somebody pursuing necessary business at a government office becomes abusive? If they get thrown out/arrested, get bailed out, can they come back the next day? Or could they be barred, even though they have necessary business? [more inside]
Finishing up my first semester in Library and Information Technology. What to choose for courses for next semester? [more inside]
What are your favorite love songs from the last five-ten years? [more inside]
My father is 50 years old, 5'11 (1m82) and weighs 165 pounds (75kg). He used to run 7km everyday in our local park, maintaining a constant heart rate of 135 bpm. For half a year, his right meniscus (not totally sure) makes a friction sound nas he extends his leg. While extended, he can also make the knee cap move a little with his hand. He feels no pain from it. [more inside]
I'm from the first world. I work for a first world company. I receive a first world wage. Like many people on this site. You would probably find me completely average. But I live in a country that is poor, with a lot of inequality. [more inside]
Why can't I make a proper strawberry pie? No matter what I do, they always end up completely runny. Details inside. [more inside]
Where should we go for a special dinner in Amsterdam? [more inside]
what can i do with a buttload of fuji apples? [more inside]
I'm taking shrooms for the first time tomorrow, for purposes both recreational and therapeutic, and I want to make the most of my experience. There's a thread similar to this, but it focuses mainly on music suggestions, whereas I'd like this to be somewhat taste-agnostic. Details pertaining to me are within, but do feel free to leave general tips for future readers. [more inside]
I am going back to work, after a year of maternity leave, as an architectural designer in November and would like to work part time, mostly from home. My boss and office is quite flexible about me deciding my own hours in the future. Trying to figure out how to maximize time spent at work while reducing stress & commute times in order to balance home & work life. I also have questions about holiday pay for part timers. (Alberta Canada). Lots more below. [more inside]
I recently wrote a list of the foods I like and it was liberating. What other topics can I make lists of likes about? Mundane to the metaphysical, all are welcome. [more inside]
Do you know of an awesome kosher southern cookbook? I can Google just fine, but maybe you've actually cooked from one? I am NOT searching for a vegan southern Cookbook. Recommendations?
I will have some college students in a talk that discusses consent , along with some older folks, and I'm out of touch with recent popular music that has even a whiff of healthy consent and is sex-positive/relationship-positive (MJ's Let's Wait a While also fits the criteria, but has been around for a decade) Oh, and for a bonus the brainstormer said - how about a fitness class with these themed songs that I'm drawing a blank on...flailing thoughts below the fold.... [more inside]
I want to go beyond just printing photo stock on my inkjet printer. What are your ideas or experiences for taking a picture off your phone or point-and-shoot and making a really nice art piece for your home? [more inside]
My property's at the end of a PG&E power line and during the winter, fallen trees and mud slides cut the power for a few days at a time. Most utilities (heating, refrigeration, cooking, water heater) have propane or wood-fired back-up but Internet connectivity has not. I would like a power supply for +5 VDC and +12 VDC, capable of about 60 Ah, and rechargeable with solar cells. [more inside]
Help me find this: a novel where they use an octopus to pilot a spaceship because something about how it can navigate in 3d space under the water. Some chapters are told from the point of view of the octopus, I think.
Through circumstances too long and boring to relate here partner and I have come into a $900 credit for Alaska Airlines. Now we just need somewhere to go. Suggestions? [more inside]
Dear academics who use online questionnaires in your research: help me understand how you get those questionnaires online and go about using them. I want to help make them better. [more inside]
I need to replace a window in my house, and I want a window that opens from the top in some manner. Why is this so completely baffling to all of the window professionals that I deal with? Is this really not possible? [more inside]
I'm going to list my home for sale in the next few weeks and I'd like to sell it as quickly as possible. What are home staging tips and tricks that worked for you? [more inside]
My husband's family is trying to plan a family reunion next summer/fall and we're looking for a place to hold it, but we have a number of restrictions. Can you help us find a place? The limitations and specifics are below the fold. [more inside]
At a restaurant called Toritama in Tokyo, I had the most amazing chicken soup ever. It was a really flavourful chicken broth, with shreds of very tender chicken - I would say poached, except that some of the bits had skin still attached and the skin was crisp as if it had been grilled. Also some well-cooked rice. The thing that I particularly remember is that the broth was so rich that it left your lips feeling sticky! It was called something like "Tokyo chicken soup". [more inside]
My dad and I were recently talking about aesthetics of new and popular music. He was telling me his reasons that he believes 4'33" isn't music. I disagree with him wholeheartedly, but it led to an interesting discussion. I think he'd enjoy reading about it more so I'm looking for some book and/or websites that we could both read and then talk about. [more inside]
I've been neglecting my garden. Requesting your recommendations for basic books (or other resources) for learning gardeners. [more inside]
I am a composer with a commission to write a song or song set for solo soprano. I had a text in mind, but it turns out the author won't give me permission to use it. I am now looking for other poems or short stories that would work well set to some rather complex music. [more inside]
Is there a checklist or some kind of organizational tool for moving, getting everything packed, getting everything cleaned, and getting rid of things you don't want to move with you? I'm looking for something that breaks it all down in incredibly small, concrete steps. [more inside]
I read an interesting analogy a few years back about the brain and how decisions are made prior to your consciousness realizing that a decision has been made. It was something along the lines of your consciousness being the queen while something else was doing the real thinking and then convincing the queen it was her idea all along.. Although I think there were three parts at play. Does this ring a bell with anyone?
I recently bought a corset for a friend of mine. She looks killer drop-dead amazing gorgeous in it. We'd like to go out to dinner somewhere in NYC where such attire would be both appreciated and fit in. (She'll probably pair it with pants—nothing fetish-y. I'll do my level best to look sharp, but I can hardly compete.) All suggestions appreciated. Thanks!
What are the coolest experiences (packaged or otherwise) out there? [more inside]
It will come as no surprise to some folks here that I am making such a post; however, many deeply felt frustrations have started to arise since I started college in April. [more inside]
A close family friend recently lost a family member. I'd prefer to send food instead of flowers to try and make this horrible situation a tiny bit easier on everyone. The catch is that I live in New Jersey. Hope me, Mefi friends!! [more inside]
Mini-mogur now has her own basement apartment (yay!) which is a new build with its own air exchanger. Weirdly for a basement apartment, though, it's really hot in her place (boo!). What's the best setting on the air exchanger to use (we have a choice of "Summer", "Mid-range" and "Maximum fan", which I think is mainly used just to get rid of fumes) for this time of year (Canada, summer, hot-by-our-standards)? [more inside]
I have some questions about an online payment company and their ability to sick a collection agency on me. [more inside]
When I was visiting New York twenty years ago as a teenager I stepped on a well-dressed man's flip flop and broke it. He started screaming at me and demanding hundreds of dollars. Thankfully there was a pushy adult around who told him to get lost, that I was a kid and didn't even have hundreds of dollars to give him (which was true). Was this a scam? [more inside]
What are the best songs published before 1923? [more inside]
My wife (age 40) is going back to school to start her PhD in a month. She'll be in a different city for the first year, and I'm putting together a little care package for her, but I could use some gift suggestions. [more inside]
I seem to remember seeing an exhibit of Julia Child's kitchen sometimes in the last 10 years. But it WASN'T at the National Museum of American History (I hadn't even been to Washington D.C. until this past summer). [more inside]
A few years ago I invested in a start up brewery. It finally opened this year, about a year behind schedule. So far, things are going very well. According to the pro forma we (the investors ) saw, it should take 2 to 3 years to make back my money from profit sharing. How do I account for the profit sharing until that time? I would think that monies received up to the amount of my investment would be considered a return of principal and therefore reportable but not taxable. Is my thinking on the right track?
My girlfriend is an event planner, and is interested in push-to-talk/walkie-talkie apps to use during a big convention. I have no experience with such things, and have found only a few older review articles. Any suggestions? I'm unsure about the OS, so give me what you got.
I have a bunch of cacti that I am growing from seeds, and will be leaving for a 10 day vacation. They will be OK on their own, right? [more inside]
I am soon (as in at this moment) moving to Taiwan, from Canada. I would love any suggestions folks have about travel, advice for new arrivals, old memories of visits, last minute travel recommendations and more. [more inside]
One of my friends was recently describing a salacious black velvet painting and I've been trying to find an image of it or something like it with no luck. [more inside]
I'm looking for a new prescribing psychiatrist in New York City. [more inside]
Looking for a short video tinged with the fantastic I saw within the past year. Details within. [more inside]
Where can I find a ceramic plant pot with drainage dish? For some reason, these have been so much harder to find than I ever imagined. I am looking for simple, plain-colored planters with drainage dishes, in the 8"=12" (diameter and height) range. I would love any guidance on where to find these, ideally online. [more inside]
I'm about to finish Always Magic in the Air: The Bomp and Brilliance of the Brill Building Era, which is a history of the songwriters and musicians who invented the classic "Brill Building Sound." What's the best book to read about Motown Records? [more inside]
Hi everyone. I just moved to a lovely new place, but there is a major downside: the bathroom floor has a door on it, leading to a small basement room. Please help me figure out how to best cover it! [more inside]
Reverb. Tremelo. A dusty guitar twanging in the shimmering heat. Somewhere out there, in this endless, lonesome expanse, there's a place for me. Help me find songs and musicians who are searching for the same thing. [more inside]
I think it's finally time for me to talk to my doctor about anxiety. I'm looking for advice on what I should be telling him, and what I should be expecting in terms of treatment options. [more inside]
I am moving from New York to Nashville to start a new job in a few weeks. I need a place to live, and will almost certainly not be able to get down there to see a bunch of apartments in person. Knowing full well that this is not the ideal way to find an apartment, how should I go about finding an apartment? [more inside]
I'm going to need a "business casual" wardrobe for the first time in my life, but I have no idea how to go about that because I am a short overweight woman whose weight is very changing and I have a desire to look stylish and interesting, not boring and frumpy. Is just filling my closet with dresses a thing I can do? How many dresses would I need? [more inside]
At work, we're creating a digital classroom observation tool. There will be short-answer questions resulting in a report. Google Forms and Survey Monkey aren't getting us there. Do you know other general purpose platforms or specific lesson observation tools I should consider? I'm interested in complete tools, or neat features to include if we end up custom-developing our own. [more inside]
I'm arriving at Denver airport just after 11 am on a Saturday, hiring a car at the airport and then planning to stay in Grand Lake for a few days after that. Is it worth spending the Saturday afternoon checking out Denver rather than heading straight for Grand Lake? If so, how should I do this? [more inside]
I need ideas for being productive/organized although I have a scattershot mind. [more inside]
Over the last week, I have developed a really itchy rash on my elbows, upper arms (underside), and back of calves. Any ideas what could be causing it? [more inside]
Please keep in mind that I don't mean random novelty items like the ones in ThinkGeek or any shop in Etsy, but websites that provide quality stuff in any of the following categories: home/decor/kitchen, stationery, clothes, accessories, beauty/skincare. [more inside]
Looking for a good 1-night getaway that involves some hiking. Car camping or staying in a cozy inn would be great. Willing to drive 2-2.5 hours from Seattle. We wanted to do something in the Cascades but I fear the fires. Maybe North peninsula? Looking for ideas. [more inside]
Who are the manufacturers (if there are any) of good quality fitted baseball caps, besides New Era? [more inside]
I would like to get a tattoo of a cave painting. It would go well with my trilobite and archaeopteryx, I reckon. Is this appropriative or uncool in any way that I'm overlooking? [more inside]
I just finished reading American Studies by Mark Merlis. In it, he used an idiom I didn't recognize. The first time I assumed it was a Kindle typo but then he used it a second time. So what in the world is a "blue chin"? The actual quotes are below. [more inside]
My Aunt recently picked this thing up at a thrift store for $1, mostly because neither her nor the seller had any idea what it was for. Any ideas what it might be? http://imgur.com/a/R74hQ [more inside]
We're camping at Crater Lake National Park's Mazama Campground this week. Most of the state of Oregon is on fire right now. How do I find out if campfires within fire rings will be allowed? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I currently live in NYC. We hate it - we're tired of the noise, the garbage, the tiny apartments and the high prices for nearly everything. But we're considering having a baby in the next few years, and both our families are nearby - should we stay for family support or move to a location where we would likely be happier? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: she has a butterfly house gourd in her back yard, suspended from a wrought iron hook standing in her garden. Each evening, it begins to swing of its own accord. Can you solve this mystery? [more inside]
I'm a high school teacher, and I was looking for ideas for building community and comfort in the classroom. I know one of my coworkers likes to play a game called "confessions" for extra credit. He pulls out a confession from a bag--where various students have revealed a little known fact about themselves--and the first person to guess the confession is awarded extra credit. Does anyone have ideas like this to build community in the classroom? I teach 10th graders in a suburban school district.
I love a good, juicy social history with bigger-than-life characters. Which ones are your favorites? [more inside]
My daughter is turning 11 next year and I am writing her a Harry Potter inspired story (fanfic) of her very own. She is the star character in a story about her first year at Hogwarts. Can you help me name some of other characters? [more inside]
This evening, while I was reading a terrible Victorian novel, both my washer (electric) and dryer (also electric) began behaving oddly. The washer made it through the first cycle, then died at rinse. I could restart it, but it would go a couple of minutes and then, again, stop working at rinse. I then discovered that my dryer would make vague "I'm turning on" noises, but not remain on unless the button was held in (and even then, it would make noise but not do anything). [more inside]
You are someone who are not a book/paper person. You look up nearly everything on the internet. But you have a book that beats any piece of reference (how-to, cookbook, etc) that you've found on the internet. Could be because of its beauty, its ease-of-use, its comprehensiveness. What is this book? (and what has changed since this question?)
Do these photos taken on Saturday near Barry's Bay, Ontario show the northern lights? I checked with a compass and they were definitely in the northern part of the sky. To the naked eye, it just looked like vague brightness. Aside from rotation and cropping, these photos are straight from the camera, processed from RAW in Lightroom. [more inside]
The ledge between my sink and the backsplash is forever filling up with water... gross black gunkiness develops if I am not very very diligent about removing all the dish soap/scrubbers/sponges every night and wiping it down. What habits/products/modifications can I use to keep it from getting gross with a minimum of effort?
I was interviewed by two television stations who later broadcast part of the interview. Both sent me a link to the story. The (formally) easy problem I have is to download the linked broadcast to my computer and eventually to a DVD archive. [more inside]
I am in contact with a celebrity who seems willing to write a foreword for my book. His agent has asked about our budget for the foreword...what is customary? [more inside]
My room is SO HOT. Hotter than the rest of the house, probably about ten degrees hotter than outside. What can I do to cool it down? [more inside]
Need help handling growing apart from your partner when chronic illness has eliminated everything you had in common. If the relationship is deteriorating, when and how should you keep it alive? [more inside]
So a friend suggested I read the recent Reza Aslan book "Zealot: The Life and Times of Jesus of Nazareth", but some of the reviews suggest there are much better (more scholarly reliable) books on the same topic. There seems to be so much crank pot literature about it out there. How do I avoid that stuff? [more inside]
We made an offer on a house and it was accepted - yay! We had the home inspector out today to take a look there was a potential red flag that may sink the deal - on one side of the house there are a series of small/moderate foundation cracks. How big of a deal is this really? [more inside]
I’m four and a half months through a six-month (two nights a week, two hours a night) course in electronic music production. Prior to that I did a lot of screwing around in GarageBand, and eventually graduated to screwing around in Ableton. My instructor thinks I should consider doing it for real. But... how? [more inside]
I use Baydin's Email Game (https://emailgame.baydin.com/) to process email. I just got a new job, and my new company is requiring me to use Outlook Express or Apple Mail instead of gmail. Baydin's website only works with gmail or with Google Apps. So I'm looking for some kind of plug-in or add-on for Express or Apple Mail that has similar functionality to the Email Game--especially a timer showing how long I've spent on each email. Does anybody know of anything like this?
Last year I planted some tomatoes in pots. This year I didn't plant anything, but recently noticed there is a tomato plant growing from the soil that the pots were sitting on top of last year. Is it safe to eat these volunteer tomatoes?
Can I eat this, pork brats edition: Fridge (8hrs) to car (overnight) to fridge....throw them out, right? [more inside]
Need your suggestions for a Sept trip to NYC that will appeal to a teenager generally and also to her certain specific interests [more inside]
I'm trying to help some art directors deal with the looming demise of Flash banner development (largely driven by Google having Chrome essentially neuter them this Fall). What are some good resources I can share with them to re-align their thinking toward the possibilities and limitations of HTML5? These are designers, not coders, so I'm thinking less about "use Sizzle or Zepto", though they would need to be mindful about what kinds of compositions have more/less efficient payloads than Flash.
My fiancé and I are planning on having a smallish wedding, and we are organizing it relatively quick (only 7 months in all). We cut our invite list down to 45 guests and found a perfect reception hall that provides catering (cocktails and sit-down dinner) for a maximum of exactly 45 guests. Yay, perfect! Beautiful location, great prices, and no need to find a caterer. Until his father announced that he is inviting 5 guests . . . . [more inside]
I have been given the opportunity to take a ten-day trip to London! I am super excited! I also have way, way less time to plan than I would normally like! So, I turn to MetaFilter to help answer some of my questions, and/or point me toward online resources that can do the same and help me generally just get along there as a visitor. [more inside]
Bringing homemade ice cream to a beach bbq/picnic, limited resources for cooling/storage: am I setting myself up for sad melty disappointment? [more inside]
I think something's possibly going on with my thyroid. I know thyroid issues can be tricky, so I'd like to see someone good. Can you recommend an endocrinologist in NYC? He or she probably won't take my insurance, but I'll worry about that later. For now, just looking for some solid recommendations. Thanks.
I’ve had a ton of health issues that so far have no cause. I’m wondering if birth control is contributing and what to do about it. I’m terrified of going no-birth control. [more inside]
As a kid, I remember visiting a maple farm, and getting maple candy, and it was delicious. If I don't live near any maple farms now, what's the best stuff I can buy online? The stuff I remember was kind of granular and sugar-crystal-y in texture.
There are a lot of olive trees on my university campus. I'd like to harvest some of the olives--do I have to worry about environmental contaminants? [more inside]
I have become increasingly sensitive to sounds and would like your help to make my life easier. [more inside]
I'd like to know the name of an old classic Mac OS shareware/freeware game I played as a kid (probably within a year or two of 1997). It was actually more of a freeware tech demo than a finished game. It had un-textured polygonal 3D graphics that were interlaced. You played as a (yellow?) wedge-shaped spaceship and flew around a semi-urbanized island. The spaceship could shoot, and there were other ships in an area that you could blow up, but there was no point-system or objectives. It may have had no sound, either. I remember being very impressed by the graphics at the time. [more inside]
Recently my 62-year-old mom mom was hospitalized and committed due to—as best I can gather from a vague diagnosis—Wernicke-Korsakoff syndrome (aka "wet brain") as a result of alcoholism, malnutrition and thiamine deficiency (Here's my previous question on this subject). Now she's home, but unable to live on her own—though she can't admit it. Help me convince her she needs in-home care. Details below. [more inside]
I have significant student loans under Discover Loans and have already exhausted the standard deferral and forebearance options offered by Discover. Are there options to reduce my monthly or overall loan burden over the next several months? [more inside]
Many classic movies are famous and important without being very entertaining to contemporary viewers. But others feel surprisingly fresh, in the sense that they still hold up as entertainment: funny qua comedy (rather than funny-for-their-time), or scary qua horror (rather than scary-to-1950s-audiences). I'm looking for recommendations of old films that you think have aged particularly well. Which oldies successfully make you laugh/scream/cry/think on their own terms, without you having to put yourself in the shoes of bygone audiences? [more inside]
I'm halfway through a two-year master's degree in an applied social science field, and would eventually like to work as an evaluator for a non-profit or the government. Should I pursue a PhD on top of the master's? [more inside]
I'm headed to Georgia on vacation in a few weeks. We're thinking of renting a car in Tblisi and traveling around the countryside- to Stepantsminda and Mtskheta. I'd appreciate any advice on driving in Georgia! Do we need to rent a 4 wheel drive? Or are the roads good enough that we can just use a regular economy-sized car? Thank you!
I'm about to receive the proceeds of a sale of inherited US property. I'd appreciate hearing your experiences about how to get the best exchange rate. [more inside]
I want to buy a gift to present to my four-your-old stepson-to-be at our wedding. I am not sure what the gift should be. Special snowflake details inside :) [more inside]
Our DIYbio group in Toronto recently finished all the chapters with review questions from Molecular Biology of the Cell. We're looking for a new biology book (or books) to tackle. Any suggestions?
What does non-disordered eating look like (and think like)? If you consider yourself to have no hangups about eating, and you are a healthy weight, what is your eating decision process like? [more inside]
I'm in the unfortunate situation of having to attend a graduation ceremony in Austin, TX on October 24, right in the middle of Formula 1 weekend. I had originally planned to make this part of a longer vacation to see the city - any way I can still do this without going crazy? [more inside]
Looking for psychological strategies to minimize the dread I feel [more inside]
I've been using WordPress for over 10 years to manage my blog and my site... [more inside]
My friend served jury duty in NY state and was told that he's now exempt from jury duty for 8 years in any state or federal court. I served jury duty less than 8 years ago in NY, moved to CT, and have now been called in CT. Can anyone point me to documentation of this law online so I can get out of serving in CT?
My dad, before his death, came up with a series of Jack Handy-style quips that he wanted to be made into a book to give away to friends and family. He also envisioned some line-art comics to go with some of the pages. How/where do I design this? Where do I get a thing like this printed? [more inside]
In the late 1980s, I remember seeing something on television that featured some kids picking up a signal/broadcast from outer space. The broadcast contained an alien news show. It was a standard type of news show with male and female aliens at a news desk with an inset in the top corner. The aliens were sort of heavy-set, not your generic, skinny bug-eyed aliens. I don't think it was intended to be scary but it kind of freaked me out as a 7-year old and it has stuck with me to this day. [more inside]
We will be spending a few days in Portland, Maine, at the end of August. What should we do? Where should we eat? What shouldn't we miss? [more inside]
I am looking for a pretty/creative way to print/publish/bind a document to give to my friends as a gift. [more inside]
I recently received the Southlands campaign setting from a Kickstarter that I'd previously funded and forgotten about (seriously, Kickstarter is like sending your future self a present). Flipping through it brought back memories of reading Conan comics as a kid and reveling in how different it was from what I was used to, setting-wise. Most of the popular fantasy settings in fiction are all very Euro-centric. Help me find some good table top RPG settings that step outside this mold. More within. [more inside]
I would like to listen to some singer/songwriters who sing in Italian. [more inside]
I don't know much about buying foreclosed homes and don't quite trust the top search results about it. So, I was hoping you could tell me: 1) How do I get started on looking at foreclosed homes that are available to buy? 2) Are home inspections usually good enough to catch major problems in foreclosed homes? 3) What else do you need to do to do this right? [more inside]
I'm writing a best man speech for a good friend and it really could do with a few more jokes to balance it out. I've had a search on the internet but the results are either unfunny, already been used far too many times or both. Have you got any good jokes I can borrow? [more inside]
Hi, I have a long term female friend who stays in a long distance, we used to chat on and off for many years and especially the last few months we had spent hours of chatting almost every day. We were very much supportive each other ,had a lot of fun talks and used to discuss almost everything, shared a nice time and eventually became really close. But gradually she seemed to be a bit less active for almost a month but still managed to chat (some days energetic, some days not) and started doing less initiation of talks from her. Since I felt this is a bit strange as to what we used to, I asked onetime in a quiet way where she just said there is nothing bothering her as the way I thought. But eventually she became in a situation of not feeling to text or talk and told me the same when I asked about it. [more inside]
In the greater NYC area, when having a child baptized in a small private Catholic ceremony, is it normal/accepted/expected to invite the nun and the priest participating to a restaurant lunch after the service? Also in addition to the offering for the baptism, should the parents give an additional, uh, tip? To the priest and nun since they are living off a small stipend.
I want to add feet to my boxspring instead of buying a bed frame - is there any reason I shouldn't just screw pieces of 2"x4" direct to the wood of the boxspring? [more inside]
Is it OK to not want to "date", but still have an OKCupid profile up? How do I go about this? [more inside]
I've read on several sites that "Americans marrying in Greece may be able to use a valid marriage license issued in the United States if the licence does not contain any wording that indicates it is exclusively valid in the issuing jurisdiction." Where can we find such a marriage license? [more inside]
I just read some essays by New York intellectual and feminist writer Katha Politt. Not only is she a fantastic writer, but reading about her NYC literary and intellectual circles gives me a wonderful feeling of being at home. What are some other books that will do this? What are some ways to get more of this experience in my life? [more inside]
When I was very young I slept next to my parents' room. Every night they listened to an album of Gospel music. It was an Englishman with a piano. He would tell the story of an old hymn and then sing it. I seem to remember "It Is Well" and "What a Friend We Have In Jesus." It's possible the singer was someone who traveled between churches in the 1970s?
I am wondering the best way to obtain light box art for my bedroom? [more inside]
Mr. 26.2 and I will be on O'ahu for a bike race in September and we'd like to extend it be a vacation. What can we do and where can we stay on O'ahu that will be incredibly relaxing? [more inside]
My wife has started doing some freelance writing, and her first story will be published in tomorrow's edition of our local newspaper. Yay! Unfortunately, someone in the editorial chain made several errors, including misspelling a simple word in a section they (poorly) rewrote, and misspelling the name of one of the subjects of the story in several of the photo captions. They also rewrote another portion into a bunch of short, choppy sentences that totally ruin the flow of the article. How should she respond? [more inside]
I decided to get the kid a computer for her 13th birthday. Does she need a laptop or can I get away with an iPad with external keyboard? Primary uses: homework (word processing, internet research), games, general internet. [more inside]
A lady-dog, that is. I went to a rescue yesterday, fully anticipating that I would bring back a male dog and name him Suetonius (Sue, for short, making him a boy named Sue). But I fell in love with a striking female. Help! [more inside]
I want to see a graphical representation of the moon and it's phase, elevation and path across the sky for my specific geographical location. You know, watch the moon come up on the right place on the horizon, with the crescent (or whatever) at the right angle, move across the sky at the right elevation, and with time indicators. Want to watch it on my PC. Is there a website, app or whatever (yeah I'm not too computer smart) that will do this?
Hi MeFi, I have a PC I bought in 2012 and it has served me well for past years, however, it skips/lags when it comes to 1080p/4k video. I am looking to upgrade to a better card but unsure what factors I have to consider before upgrading. I mostly do video editing + motion media. The machine is as follows: Windows 7 Home Premium (64 bit) CPU: AMD FX-8150 (Zambezi 32nm Technology) Motherboard: Gigabyte 2AC8 Graphics Card: AMD Radeon HD 7570 2gb RAM: 16gb Is there a site that will let me figure out which GFX card(s) my machine is upgradable to? Thanks in advance!
I have one of these vintage WW2-era bags, and I love it. But it's falling apart. Can the AskMe denizens help me extend its life, or find a longer lasting replacement? [more inside]
So, I'm looking for a thematic playlist, inspired by a few things I got back to back on a random listen: I'm looking for songs with a significant amount of vocals all of whose lyrics are not, and are not intended to be, in any comprehensible language, at least not in a way which makes any sort of sense. [more inside]
I've become bored with my five-year relationship and desperately need change, but am scared to throw it all away. [more inside]
Asking for my folks: tell me arts/ecology/sheep/theatre/rug hooking/banjo/history/alternative building materials stuff to do near Antigonish Nova Scotia in the first week of September this year.
I broke up with my toxic ex roughly 2 weeks ago and I feel real empty and weird. I feel sad and feel like I did something wrong but he mainly to blame for this. More inside [more inside]
I have heard and read that psychedelics like LSD and shrooms act on serotonin receptors and that once those receptors fill up (either with actual serotonin or antagonists) no additional effect will be felt from taking a higher dose. I would really like to find actual academic references about this, but all I'm seeing is casual comments on message boards, backed up with nothing. Unfortunately, my Google Fu is failing me here and it's driving me crazy. [more inside]
I haven't programmed much for years. Now I want to play around with different ways of visualising the Ulam Spiral and I'd like suggestions for the right tools to use. I want to generate or load arrays of (say) 100,000 numbers, depict them on a 2- or 3-d graph, and move the lighting and/or viewing angle to give an impression of depth. Details inside. [more inside]
My partner and I recently downsized from two vehicles to one. What are some suggestions for a single vehicle that can meet our range of uses? [more inside]
I want to introduce my four year old to (origin) myths from around the globe. Looking for a charmingly illustrated book, It doesn't have to be comprehensive (of course) but should have a decent international spread. Does this exist?
The ladyfriend and I would like to decamp to Mexico for a week or two after Christmas. We are definitely not the frat-party/Cancun types. We're more of the "This hut on the beach is $20 a night and has no electricity" types. And this totally an off-the-grid/lay on the beach sitch. [more inside]
I'd like a simple device that allows me, at the push of a physical button, to mark a location or coordinates on a map. [more inside]
I'm looking for (small quantities) of wood veneer strips from wood grown in California. Is such a thing possible? It could be new or reclaimed, but I want to make a ring so any re-used would have to be amenable to that. Additional bonus points for wood from the central coast area. Is having veneer manufactured from locally sourced wood a not insanely expensive option?
I have 2000 Toyota Camry LE, 6 cyl, 5 speed. I want to keep it and repaint it. A body shop told me that to remove the 20 or so dime-sized dents that pepper it, the half dozen eraser sized chipped paint spots and a hand sized dent under the door handle, as well as paint would cost between six and seven thousand dollars. He said he has to take the car apart to do the body work. He also told me European made paint, along with $50/hr labor is a big part of the cost. He said if I was a member of his family, he would tell me it's not worth repainting and I should just drive it until it falls apart. He said repainting would be a bad financial decision. [more inside]
Recently I am noticing websites that I have visited for years just now throwing up a pop-up asking for my acceptance of their cookie. Is there some change in the law or something else going on? Why now and why so many websites? These are not new sites and I have not recently cleaned out my cookies etc. It makes me curious.
We'd like to adopt a dog, but are confused about the possible effect on our homeowner's insurance, and would love some input. When we selected our policy, our insurer let us know that there were certain breeds of dogs that "could change our rates or coverage" but that the details would vary depending on the dog. Obviously, we will talk to our insurer, but we'd like to get a feel for the options and experiences of other people first. [more inside]
I have an alto saxophone that I would no longer like to keep lugging around as I move over and over again. It is worth more than I am willing to deal with myself: I've never sold anything worth more than $200 on ebay/craigslist. I can easily reach anywhere in New York City or environs, so I imagine there are a lot of places that would buy it from me. Is there any place in particular I should go? What should I expect their markup to be? Is this even a good idea? [more inside]
What are some apps that can make better use of my down time? I currently dip into Hay Day, a farming game, if I want to relax for a bit. It would be great if all those spare moments could be used for something useful - think distributed computing projects such as SETI and Folding@home, but for humans. [more inside]
I've got a Mid-2013 MacBook Air (Intel Core i7; 1.7 GHz) with a 500 GB Apple SSD (SM0512F). I stay current on OSes. Should I engage Trim (e.g. via Trim Enabler)? If so, what do I need to know?
I'm staying in Milan until Tuesday evening, and I'd like to pick up something for a close friend's birthday while I'm here. I can't spend a huge amount of money (maybe $100-$150 max), but I'd love to get her something unique from Milan. She's kind of a fashionista, and she tends to have an Anthropologie-esque style. I'd be looking for something like a blouse, dress, unique accessory, or personal product. Where should I go? Any specific suggestions and/or products you can recommend? Thanks!
I'm wondering if there's a service that provides an easy way to collect video messages. I'd imagine it working like this: I send some people a link to www.vidmsg.com/messagesforme and then they click "record" to record from their webcams. Then I can log in and play all the videos. Does something like that exist?
Objective: Career change to technical writing. Obstacles: My current demanding job. Needing to relocate to place that actually has technical writing jobs. **Please help me determine the feasibility of my plan to relocate and change my career. Details inside.** [more inside]
Your tips for a December mini-road trip through North & South Carolina, please! [more inside]
I have a college insurance that pays 60 percent of my gallbladder surgery. How much did you have to pay for such a procedure? I am scared I will owe 20k or so by the end of this. Any thoughts?
I'm moving and will be living out of a suitcase for a while... and I think I packed the suitcase lock key in a moving box *after* locking the suitcase (moving boxes are now on the road and inaccessible). How can I open the suitcase today? [more inside]
I've been writing for an online pop-culture magazine and at this point have hundreds of clips. The company is shifting to a new CMS soon and I'm worried some of my stories might disappear, either deliberately or not. What's the best way to preserve them for my own portfolio? [more inside]
A few weeks ago, I was using Facebook messenger on my desktop, and I clicked on a link that took me to what looked like an app for my browser. It looked completely different from just being logged into Facebook and having clicked on the "See all" in the messages tab. I can't figure out how to get back to that page. Please help.
I am really struggling with developing relationships with nice nonsocially awkward people. Having gone to a few different cbt therapists, I have made major improvements with anxiety/perfectionism/feeling judged. However, when I start chatting with someone who seems not at all socially awkward and appropriately nice, I feel my skin start to crawl and distance myself. How can I fix this? [more inside]
I currently give my time to benefit families of employees of a large international company. I think it's time I was compensated for my work, given the benefits I provide both the company and the families. I'm writing a draft proposal right now. Help me make it awesome! [more inside]
We're trying to buy a house in Florida. House has an inground chlorine pool with a vinyl liner. It looks like it has issues. We've never had a pool, and we have questions. [more inside]
I need help finding a light-duty corset to wear every day under both work and casual clothes with the goal of changing how I feel (I have POTS), rather than how I look. Simple but well made and well fitting is what I’m looking for. More details inside… [more inside]
I am using 100 volt 50/60 amp electrical devices in a 220 volt country. I have a few 100 watt transformers (100 volt to 220 volt) which are used for individual items. This is working well. I have additional questions regarding voltage transforming and surge protectors. Please join me inside: [more inside]
The Wim Hof method utilizes hyperventilation to trigger a state of deep trance. Is this dangerous? [more inside]
Basically an updated version of this question. Looking for shots of Times Square in the movies. Extra points for recent films. Thanks!
I have a date coming up with a man who uses a wheelchair. He is super funny and smart and super hot. I have never dated someone who uses a wheelchair. In fact, I've never even known someone who uses a wheelchair. Help me not screw it up! [more inside]
I have really thick walls and lots of interfering things in the walls (a chimney, for example) between me and my wifi router, so a few years back I got an extender so the signal could reach my bedroom consistently. It's been working great until recently. [more inside]
Got diagnosed with strep on Monday. Developed a terrible earache on Tuesday, which let up when I took some Advil, but then it plugged. It's ringing VERY loudly, clogged, and I can barely hear out of it. Help! What do I do? [more inside]
I am trying to help a friend decide whether the online high school Alta Independent - altaindependent.com - is right for her son. [more inside]
Am planning a solo trip early Sept to Portland then heading up to Washington and renting a car (Seattle?) possibly by Amtrak, with a stop at the Gorges). Have a place to stay in Portland 4-5 days. I am thinking I will need a 2-3 day car rental in Portland, and 4-5 day car rental in Washington. And I should be hitting Washington just before Labor Day weekend- which means I should book accommodations now! [more inside]
Another should-I-buy-a-new-machine question, plus: what laptop would you buy if the main consideration was how long it would last? [more inside]
What are some ways in which I can organize and plan so that I can accomplish my creative goals? [more inside]
I'm planning a trip to Andalusia in April 2017 - my husband, my 9 year old son and me. We want to see WOW ruins and castles (ones that even a slightly disinterested 9 year old might say "WOW" about), avoid huge crowds and look at natural beauty (and whatever else I don't know is awesome over there). [more inside]
I want to add multiple books at once to Aldiko Bookreader on my Samsung Tablet. My current method is I upload books to Dropbox, and then essentially click on them on a time, and tell Aldiko to open them. Is there a way just to drag files somewhere, so they will batch add to Aldiko Bookreader?
Ever since this was released as an Amazon Exclusive, I hear it all the time on my Prime station. I like the song a lot, BUT....the hook of the song sounds very, very similar to another song from maybe the late 80's or early 90's. [more inside]
I've been looking so long that I'm about to consider commissioning a custom-built unit — but before I do, is there a great Blu-ray-specific shelving unit that I've missed? [more inside]
Can a blender reasonably substitute for a food processor? [more inside]
Therapy hasn't been providing the insight or chance to make changes that I seek. How do I find someone who actually uses the practical approach that they claim? [more inside]
Where should I look for toys that I wouldn't find in toy stores outside of such a large, diverse city? I'm also interested in watching the Venice Basketball League championship game tomorrow. What do I need to know about that? [more inside]
I am teaching a new-to-me introductory graphic design class this fall and I would like to have the students create a collage illustration of a uniquely-assigned historical figure. I would appreciate help in generating a list of figures that students could easily find out about, but who are not the usual subjects, especially if said figure can broaden a student's multicultural knowledge. [more inside]
My iPhone 4s was stolen a few weeks ago. Last week my early 2011 MacBook Pro screen went dark and wouldn't come back on. [more inside]
I am guessing there many recorded versions of the traditional nursery rhyme "Rub a dub dub / Three men in a tub" out there in the wild. The question is, are there any older versions that are part of the public domain and could be used in a song without worries of copyright? Even hints about where to start looking would be appreciated! [more inside]
So I have this new t-shirt with a huge white print on the front (it's a Misfits skull), and the print/ink is really thick and rigid. Are there any tricks to soften the print and make it more pliable without ruining the shirt?
I'm looking for a book to read at night while I'm camping tonight that feels like the video game, Alan Wake. Looking for something with a spooky feel, dark, more psychological than horror.
I need to read something from the new or old testament at my grandfather's funeral. I was close with him and he was a very special figure in my life. I'm not Catholic or Christian but I'd love to find something that resonates in some way about his life or has some bigger wisdom. I don't know which texts are proper for Catholic Funeral Service/Mass. I don't even know when to sit, stand or kneel... I would be grateful for suggestions from folks on some meaningful and appropriate choices. [more inside]
What's this creation?
Here's yet another "What should I read next?" for you: My favorite kind of book could be called Women Who Get Shit Done. Female main characters who have a mission and use their brains/cunning/dumb luck to get it done. Bonus points for books with a historical or fantasy bend. [more inside]
I'm rehabbing a 1990 horse trailer and having trouble figuring out which modern tires are safe, manufacturer called for 195/65r14... [more inside]
There's an old political cartoon which I can't find. A cat sits on a pile of cookies. A mouse (possibly with his mouse family behind him) holds a cookie. A second mouse labelled as a union representative holds a crumb or takes a piece from the first mouse. The cat says "are you going to let him take your cookie?" or similar. [more inside]
I just can't understand this. I have two laptops, both size 11.6, one of which (Dell Inspiron 11 3000 series) has larger type and content than the new Lenovo I got (S21e)...yet both are set to the highest resolution, the native 1366 x 768. I try adjusting the "make things larger", but these are Windows 10 and it keeps me at 100%. Things can appear a bit fluffier, larger, a couple of settings down but this can't be he answer, can it? Of course my 15.6 lappys are damn near perfect...
I'm a young, aspiring urban planner, and over the next month my friend and I will be driving from San Francisco to Portland and then to Seattle. What should I see in these cities that will be interesting from a planner's/social justice/sustainability perspective? [more inside]
Some ominous clicking from my current laptop's hard drive, along with a separating bezel that I've taped together for the moment, have convinced me that I should take advantage of back-to-school sales and get a new laptop before this one craps out. I'm looking for advice with the somewhat picky wishlist I've got going for a 15.6" laptop that comes in at less that $800, and is ideally closer to $600. I refuse to get a Dell or a Mac, but would love opinions on other brands, and will definitely purchase online. [more inside]
I'm in my 30's, and I don't orgasm during sex. I still like sex - a lot! - but I find myself compulsively "faking it" in every single relationship, and I'm not sure how to stop or if I should. [more inside]
I am at a very, very demanding point in my career and am struggling with some variant of disordered eating. Complicating factors: underlying medical problem, minority, demanding and erratic job schedule. [more inside]
What are "grain" shoes? What could they possibly be? And how do they relate to having no haircut and being "plain ol' country"? (I'm talking about "Announcement" by Otis Redding.) [more inside]
Ordered a table and two chairs off the Ikea website without doing my research about the apparently well known and possibly intentional mess Ikea calls a home delivery service. Am about to call customer service a second time. What should I ask for? How should I ask for it? [more inside]
You guys are always great at helping me to understand technological possibilities... and I need your help again. I am trying to brainstorm a project that would involve a scannable card that could be custom loaded with admission fees and dollar credits for various places... [more inside]
Kid is interested in training himself to program in order to get a job. Is programming still a good job skill? If so, what programming language should he learn, and how? [more inside]
Help me chose a TV (like a Roku) or similar, that can play netflix, youtube, any webpage, and preferably my girlfriend's ATT U-verse live account (it has a website login). If it matters I'll be buying it used on craigslist or refurbished. [more inside]
So my sister is getting married next week, and I'm the Maid of Honor and have been planning her bachelorette party for months. However, her groom -- for various reasons I won't bore you with -- has found no one on his side is going to be throwing him a bachelor party. I'm thinking I may have to swiftly organize a bachelor party or some kind of event for the groom as well, to keep my sister happy and of course for his own enjoyment. Are there any ideas for what to do? [more inside]
After thinking I had major sinus problems for the past year, I now think I'm allergic to down and/or wool. (Based on intense facial pain, headache and congestion for the entire day after sleeping with those beddiings, and none without- I just did a personal 3 day experiment). However, I did allergy tests this year and they came up negative. Can you get specific testing for these items? Has anyone experienced this? Do allergies really just appear at 'a certain age'? If so, can anyone recommend a good allergist in NYC?
Possible NYC trip by myself with limited cash... [more inside]
The last time I had a bi-fold door, I got so frustrated that I took it down and destroyed it with a hammer. My wife, who is generally an extremely sensible person, wants to replace the regular hinged doors that cover our washer-dryer area with a bi-fold door. I have reacted strongly to this suggestion. I am willing to entertain the idea that I'm wrong. Has the quality of bi-fold doors improved? Do other people dislike them as much as I do (and, therefore, be turned off by them when we eventually sell our place?)
We recently moved from Texas to Michigan and our registration tags are good through April, 2016. Michigan's Secretary of State says "Must register car immediately" but do we have any wiggle room? [more inside]
What are your recommendations for strategy games for the Kindle Tablet?
My life is full of wonderful stressful things, and I can't juggle all of them right now. I need help – I'm just not sure what kind of help I should be looking for, or where to look. [more inside]
I'm looking for a short film I saw about a year ago. It involved the ghost of someone's ex-girlfriend manifesting herself through Facebook (not ever identified by name, I don't think, but that's clearly what it was) and attacking him and his current girlfriend. [more inside]
I live in New York City, and I'm thinking of buying a folding bike. Where can I rent a Dahon folding bicycle so I can try it out? [more inside]
My friend came over the other day wearing these 90s-trend shoes, and I love them, but she says they are not comfortable. Help me find something similar, but in a better-quality shoe. [more inside]
Last night I tried to apply an update to the app "7 Little Words" and something went wrong. Now I don't have the app, and am having issues reinstalling it. [more inside]
My sister (early 50's) is getting married for the second time next year. Last week she sent me a shared doc with early wedding plans that I'm not onboard with because they involve my kids and I being assigned fairly substantial jobs without her ever asking. And the trouble ensues from there. [more inside]
In the U.S., PBS has announced it will show the new (and last) season of Downton Abbey starting January 3, 2016. I've tried searching, but I can't find the date when Downton Abbey season six will debut on ITV in the UK. I know that it will end on December 25, 2015 with a Christmas episode, but when this fall is it starting?
I have a Maxtor BlackArmor 250GB external hard drive. I'd like to plug it into my Apple Airport device that serves our house's WiFi. Ultimately, I want to be able to put Plex Media Server on it so we can watch movies and listen to music. How do I make this happen? [more inside]
It doesn't seem to be candida, mites, fleas, dry skin, or psychosomatic. I've lived in three different states, changing bedding and soaps as I go but it has followed me over the past year. [more inside]
I have an excel file with two columns that I'd like to somehow (in the easiest way possible) turn into a graph (in the graph theory sense - with nodes and edges). [more inside]
The title says it all. This seems to be incredibly difficult to come by these days! [more inside]
I am moving from California to New York for a job that starts on September 15th. Is there a reasonable way to remotely find a studio/1 bedroom or move in with a roommate starting September 1st? Or is it necessary to do a short-term sublet or Airbnb rental and then apartment hunt in person? [more inside]
I ran (and hopefully will run again) a live movie riffing show along the lines of a Mystery Science Theater 3000. The first time I did it, we did a film from the public domain, but I know it would be a lot more popular were we to have a better class of film. I know you're not my lawyer and this is not legal advice, but is this something that could be considered a transformative work and I could sidestep licensing the films? [more inside]
Need help in stopping a toxic behavioral pattern in post-divorce relationships. More details inside. [more inside]
Received an incredibly expensive plumbing bill for two hour's worth of work. Can I negotiate this down? [more inside]
The question has been asked before, but not specific to my location - I'm in London, I'm moving and need to create space, have a whole bunch of computer & programming texts, they are arguably useful to someone, how do I find that person or organization? [more inside]
Me and my three (British) friends are doing an epic journey across from Louisiana up to Tennessee and across to North Carolina in September and need accommodation options for our Knoxville leg. [more inside]
I've FINALLY gotten around to attempting to get the data off of a Dell Inspiron 9300 that died several years ago, but the USB adapter ... converter ... thing ... that I have doesn't connect with it. Can you tell me what I need? [more inside]
This gentleman was outside the Golden Gate Grill on Powell Street, San Francisco. I expect he's super-famous or something, but I know little of this thing you call "baseball". Who is he? [more inside]
I had a keratin treatment on Wednesday to straighten my hair. I am wondering if I can use baking soda as shampoo and vinegar as conditioner, or will it ruin the effect? [more inside]
My parents are interested in traveling to Ecuador. They are in their mid-70s. They are seasoned travelers, but as they have aged, they are less able to get around. I am wondering if a trip to Ecuador is smart for them. Details inside. [more inside]
What life hacks should I consider for studio apartment living with almost-no-commute to work? I have spent most of my adult life living in the burbs, but next month I'm moving into a 515 sq ft studio apartment 10 minutes away from work. I've haven't lived this close to my workplace since my college years. [more inside]
After a long break I'd like to try dating again. i'm recovering from depression and am on medication, which i've heard can be deal-breakers for some people. Should I say I'm on meds in my profile, or should I bring it up while texting/chatting or maybe on the first date? or is it none of their business until we get more intimate? please help me decide!
We live in a small apartment and my kids' toys (Legos, Magnatiles, costumes, many small trucks, trains, and stuffed animals) are slowly driving me insane. Right now, they're in a random selection of plastic bins I've found on Freecycle, but we really need a more compact, attractive solution. [more inside]
2 kids; one senior, one fresh; neither too far away. What would make a nice, practical and non, simple package of things? (besides money!)
My pictures from my iPhone won't show up in the photos app on my computer. [more inside]
I am a Canadian citizen and web developer / eLearning specialist who has been working remotely (in Canada) for several American clients. Some of my clients are interested in having me come down for short periods to work with them. I am not an employee of any American company, and from what I can see, I cannot be sponsored for a TN visa or an H1-B visa. Is there any way at all that a Canadian consultant can legally work in the US for short periods of time without being an employee? [more inside]
We've been through all the applications, and tomorrow, we're getting a pair of 10-week old kittens from a local rescue. However, while I've had adult cats, it's been ~20 years since I had kittens. So, what should I feed them? [more inside]
My favorite video games are those in the SSX series. I loved the feeling of speed, the chance to do tricks, the reasonably graded levels, and most of all, that messing up did not mean death or stop the game. Are there iOS games that are like this? [more inside]
Just got a huge promotion (equivalent of Partner at one of the Big Four Professional Service firms). I want to give an individual surprise gift back to each of the team of computer hackers / security gurus who I lead and who helped me get here. Ideas? [more inside]
I work for a small, but somewhat prominent in its domain, company that has issues. These issues are not entirely apparent from the outside due to the company's excellent PR and HR offices. I don't want to leave the company right now for my own reasons, but I also find it difficult to try to convince people to work for the company without stretching the truth further than I'm comfortable with. How do I handle interviews when I believe that the company will fail? [more inside]
I'm a computer science major in college. I'm not a freakin' genius, but I do well-- get A's in my classes, good with abstraction (e.g. pointers), etc. However, I seem to have missed... my entire high school pre-Calculus math curriculum? I don't know. [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for currency transfer services that are reputable, reliable and won't tack on as many fees as an international bank wire. This is for sending from a personal bank account in the US (from USD) and transferring to a personal bank account in South Korea (to KRW). In case it makes a difference, I'm interested in both of these scenarios: [more inside]
I've signed up with the UK Labour party (via the £3 registered supporter scheme) to support Jeremy Corbyn for Labour leader. I also get to vote for deputy leader, and as I'm London, the Labour London mayoral candidate. Who should I put my nominations towards for these? The key criteria is a commitment to the same leftist beliefs as Corbyn, but also of a concern is who could tactically support him should be become leader. [more inside]
Recently I performed a clean installation of Windows 10 (which, by the way, I very much like despite not-so-subtle bugs creeping up a tad more than I'd like) and would like app and Chrome add-on recommendations. [more inside]
So I've been diagnosed with hypertension, which means (amongst other things) I am looking at reducing my salt intake. But for me, salt is very dear and things taste wrong without it. I am particularly struggling with savoury snacks, which are already pretty rare. There are heaps of sweet ones, but not much I can think of which is savoury and unsalty. Help! [more inside]
My wife, 2 kids (aged 3 and 1) and I are going on a trip to Hong Kong for 3 nights next month. I booked through a travel agent who put us up in a nice hotel at Sha Tin. For a variety of reasons I didn't really check where that hotel was before locking it all in, and I realised afterwards that its about 30 mins from Hong Kong itself. Has anyone stayed in that area and have any advise on whether we should stay there or move to a more central hotel? [more inside]
What resources are useful for adults with an autism spectrum disorder (Asperger Syndrome)? Looking for books and resources oriented toward self-help, with a particular focus on cognitive/linguistic and sensory issues, though resources on social issues are welcome too. [more inside]
Can we still continue talking every once in awhile and be friends sort of? [more inside]
OK, I'm scared. I'm a programmer, and although I have several other skillsets, that's probably my most valuable one. How can I use it to help? What organizations should I contact? Are there scientists or academic institutions that need some kind of support in this way? Are there existing projects that I could contribute to? [more inside]
My SO came home from a fishing trip with a bunch of bonito. Know any good recipes?
It sounds ridiculously simple, but someone videoed a performance of me. She thought she'd send it via e-mail but that would mean breaking it up into several pieces. I thought she could drag and drop it onto my flash drive but she says, no, iPads don't have drag and drop. Go ahead and talk to me at a beginner's level since clearly I am there.
Pretty self-explanatory. I stand for roughly 11 hours each day at my new job and it feels as though somebody has slammed nails into my heels. WhIce insoles has anyone tried that would be beyond adequate for standing jobs? Specific brands and styles preferred. [more inside]
Am I correctly interpreting the implications of a DCFSA "grace period"? [more inside]
Do you mind if co-workers simply drop by your desk to ask you a question or give you info? Do you prefer getting impromptu questions from one of these channels over the others --> in person, phonecall, email, instant message? [more inside]
My friends are moving the family from the US to Germany. They are planning on getting rid of most of the things they own, but would like to keep a number of the children's toys and books, some instruments, clothing, and miscellaneous other items. I'm guessing they're looking to keep around 250lbs of stuff to be shipped in boxes. What is the least expensive way of shipping several 40ish pound boxes from the US to Germany?
Two week old gazpacho. No dairy. Keep or toss? (This is quite contentious in the household.)
My fiancé just got his appendix removed and now we're flying to his sister's wedding. (It's been an exciting week.) We leave tomorrow from JFK on Jet Blue and I'm look for advice on navigating the airport with a wheelchair. Will they just have one at the curb? Will I be able to push him or will they insist on having an employee? Any good tricks? Things I might not have though of? Thanks!
I think I know what reading against the grain means and it seems like a common phrase and practice in academic arenas, but who said it first? [more inside]
Where can I find resources that describe innovative, interesting, and effective approaches to facilitating brief and/or small group workshops? An example (for a larger group) would be fishbowl conversations: an engaging, creative break from the "I talk, you guys discuss" model of conveying information. Bonus points for things that give both facilitator and participants an active role to play. [more inside]
I need to do a presentation of a new website to some serious bigwigs, so I want to make sure that the colors presented are as spot-on as possible. Can anyone offer up advice on how to calibrate my 4000 ANSI Lumens projector so that the colors projected will most closely the original web design?
I'm leading a large group through a retreat next week. Participants will be sitting in mixed-up groups, at 6 tables. I'd like to assign a name to each table, but instead of using numbers (1-6) or colors, I'd like to do something with a little whimsy in it. I thought of using the names of quarks (top, bottom, up, down, strange, charm), but "top" and "bottom" would become the juvenile jokes of the day. What other "sets of 6" might I use for my inspiration? [more inside]
About 20 years ago, I visited a place on the Big Island of Hawaii, near the Mauna Lani Bay Hotel, that I remember as some kind of wooden/rock obstacle course. It was sort of a historical thing, not in use but one could at least walk by it. It may have been called a "proving ground." What was this place? (more inside) [more inside]
I'm starting Yoga Teacher Training in a month or so. My husband, who is a numbers guy, thinks that it would be fun to take do some comparisons of pre-YTT and post-YTT. Here's some ideas that we had, but we'd like more... [more inside]
It seems like lately every single hip-hop song has a particular style of rapping, but I've never seen it acknowledged anywhere, and I don't know if it has a name. I'm no good at music theory, but from my understanding: It's characterized by the rapper constantly doing triplets over a 4/4 bar, and very rarely changing it up. Or another way of looking at it might be a 3/4 verse over a 4/4 beat. Examples inside. [more inside]
I can work remotely pretty much anywhere in Europe, except the UK - where should I move to? [more inside]
Are young adults nostalgic for Barney and Friends? [more inside]
I just got back from a week in a women-only environment and apparently I had no idea how desperately I've always needed to avail myself of a space like that. How do I find other women-only gatherings? Or how can I start one of my own? [more inside]
We are going to Legoland, CA for the day and looking for recommendation on where to sepnd the night and have supper? [more inside]
Where in Washington, DC, can I buy exciting beer? [more inside]
How do we tell our boss (my father) that there are serious problems in our family’s business when he refuses to listen or acknowledge the problems? [more inside]
Do you have any experience with Mosquito-oriented CO2+ vacuums like the SkeeterVac? Does it work? [more inside]
We are visiting Starved Rock state park for the first time next week, and based upon previous comments and reviews we are very excited. Although we're not the most adventuresome hikers, should be in decent enough shape to handle a few 4-6 mile hikes. Only staying there (one of the cabins on-site) for 2 days/1 night and want to make sure we get our money's worth! [more inside]
Looking for a solid, reasonably priced painter in NYC to paint our ~1,000 square foot apt in Brooklyn before we move in. Nothing too complicated, only 1-2 colors. [more inside]
So last night we packed up the car and enacted our yearly late summer ritual of NOT seeing the Perseids, except, breaking with tradition we actually saw something. How big are the objects we saw burning up in the atmosphere? Grain of rice? Tennis ball? VW Beatle? Your Mama?
In the Beach Boys' Shut Down from 1963 they sing "To get the traction I'm riding the clutch." How would that make you go faster? [more inside]
Is there a way for a closed laptop to automatically connect to the internet without someone opening it? [more inside]
My trainer believes that if I diligently ice and use the foam roller, my chronic calf-ankle-foot problems will be resolved. I believe him, but god it hurts so much. I'm a 37 year old woman, breast cancer survivor... [more inside]
I really love The Wombats. In particular, the clever (sometimes morbid) lyrics, and the heavy '80s sound. What else should I be listening to? I am well versed in actual '80s music, so please tell me about recent music (2000 - now) that fits this mold.
Do you know of a documentary on college students' lives? I'm really interested in the transition from adolescence to adulthood as well as what students learn at the college level. [more inside]
Due to a medical examination required for obtaining visa and a small f.up I may need the 3rd breast/upper body x-ray in 2 years (checking for TBC). Should I be concerned about radiation exposure? [more inside]
A month ago I successfully applied and received an offer for an internal role. Initially, everything was good but for the last two weeks neither the new management or director have communicated at all with me. I am supposed to start this upcoming Monday, but with two days to go I haven't heard anything regarding my new project or even where to show up. I have sent several emails to the new manager and still haven’t heard from them. What is your recommended course of action? [more inside]
My partner is recovering from a pregnancy termination. What can I get for her that will help her through the extended cramps and bleeding that may last up to a month? [more inside]
How do the testing centers know you don't have math formulas written all over your underwear for a nice little review during the bathroom break? and other very very very important life questions. [more inside]
Pretty much what it says, but also experience with ozone generators? [more inside]
I'm a new grad of an online coding school, and I'm preparing for job interviews in front-end web development in Portland, OR. My hobbyist web work experience dates back to the mid-1990s, and I'd like to discuss this work in interviews, but the subject matter may be problematic. What should I do? [more inside]
My partner and I have decided to give each other one Saturday off a month from parenting our toddler to pursue a personal project. I’ve always been interested in the vernacular of domestic architecture and would like to move on from my years of walking the streets taking photos of local houses and keeping them on my computer. My curiosity will not be sated - I need to get inside those same houses and take photos and I’d like to share them with a like-minded audience. [more inside]
We are difficult to feed, but we will be in NYC for a few days this month and will need to eat. Please help! [more inside]
Hi everyone! Not looking to copy or plagiarize - but I am just getting ready to launch a YouTube channel and I don't know what software I'm going to use to edit videos or much about how to get going. I really like the type of introductions used by YouTuber Marzia. Do you know what tools she uses to make them? More in post. [more inside]
I've been grinding my teeth for years - but in the past year it has gotten dramatically worse. So much so that I'm now in pain (jaw) and my new dentist tells me that something must be done. Is there an alternative to night mouth guards? Are there any real solutions? More details inside... [more inside]
I have a US passport, tickets to see Hamlet at the Barbican Theatre in London next week, and oh so many questions. Please help me make this happen! [more inside]
My son's first birthday is coming up! I want to throw him a blueberry-themed party. I need help! [more inside]
This is a cycling and fitness question. Three years ago some punk stole my cheap but lightweight yard-sale-bike and I replaced it with a new Trek 7100 hybrid. It's kind of lumbering and heavy but I like it. Last week I started a class on Mondays that's 4.5 miles from where I live. The ride is 99% flat but nearly killed me last week and this week, too. Help! [more inside]
My husband's parents are the only grandparents my child see regularly (we live in his country rather than mine) have decided that they no longer want a relationship with us. They do, however, want to continue their bi-weekly visits to see the baby which I would be "hosting". We don't want to cut them off, but I am not enthused. Reassurance and tips on navigating this requested. I am so confused!! [more inside]
I have a Mac Pro, and I currently have Volume X on a USB 3 drive which I use as a workspace. I'd like to move it to my Thunderbolt drive so I can use the USB 3 drive elsewhere. Can I do this without breaking path references on my SSD? What's the best way?
Family member found a lost kitty at a KOA campground in Colorado. Can Metafilter find her lost humans? Mefites have pulled off wonders before...can we do it again? [more inside]
I've received an offer for an assistant manager position at a fairly upscale restaurant group in the DC area. What kind of salary range should I expect? [more inside]
I have credit cards and banking accounts scattered across a bunch of different institutions. I've just kind of patchwork-accumulated them over the years and I'm now wondering if this will have any actual impact on my credit score or have detrimental effects to my finances. [more inside]
Here is a photograph. We believe it is a musical puzzle because the circled letters (circled in gray naturally, and I've re-circled them in blue where they appear in found words) are all potentially notes, and elsewhere in the ARG the clue "The message hidden within the grid of letters is not comprised of words, but belongs to the spheres" has been given. Does anyone have any insight? Do you recognize the tune? [more inside]
I am extremely prone to RSIs. Looking for resources (books, websites) on preventing injuries, as well as personal approaches taken by other RSI-prone people. Most of what I can find relates to ergonomics around computers; I am more interested in working out how to go about doing daily life things and staying fit/keeping the body in working order without injury. [more inside]
My palm tree seems to be dying. Help! [more inside]
I'm looking for a room in NYC, ideally Queens, which can host 20-30 people for about three hours. More details inside. [more inside]
Where, in Ventura County, is a good place to watch (and hear; keyword there) the NFL pre-season games live on TV and still manage to eat a reasonably priced meal? [more inside]
I do not have a math background, but I have been learning statistics for work and while I understand the concepts, I am having a really hard time reading mathematical notation (proofs, formulas, etc). It feels like I missed the 101 class in reading the language of mathematics. Are there particularly good resources out there on reading Mathematical Notation?
My 7 year old son was recently diagnosed with generalized dystonia. If you've been through having a previously healthy child develop a chronic illness, what advice would you have for someone else who's trying to deal with this? [more inside]
What do I do when my hair is both dry and greasy at the same time? [more inside]
My dad, after breaking his hip earlier this summer just fell and broke his Femur. He's about to go through surgery again. Help me navigate what to expect for him and the minefields with dealing with difficult family members in this tense and upsetting situation. [more inside]
The good news: I've been granted access to a vast wonderland of streaming data that will make all my dreams come true. The bad news: I don't know how to access it. HTTP POST and JSON details inside... [more inside]
Is there a way to disable Facebook telling me what my friends liked and other places they commented? [more inside]
Do you love your alarm clock? Tell me more.. [more inside]
I'm trying to take a break in the evening from a screen, but I'm finding it difficult to put down my iPhone and walk away with just the sheer power of will. Are there any apps I can download that would allow me to block everything BUT the actual phone part? I still want to be able to make or receive phone calls (and texts too, preferably, but that is not mandatory). I have an iPhone 5S.
Hi there! I have inherited from a relative's estate some rings and other jewelry that look (to my completely untrained eye) valuable. Possibly very valuable. [more inside]
It's a month before my wedding, everything is coming along very nicely, but just last night I had this realization that my partner and I are in some kind of limbo, and I need help reconnecting with him. [more inside]
I’m thinking about finally making the switch to a Macbook, but an older version. Is there any reason why this is a bad idea? [more inside]
The Canadian Council on Animal Care, which regulates university research involving animals, provides "acute non-survival studies in which the animals are completely anesthetized and do not regain consciousness" as an example of an experiment "which cause little or no discomfort or stress." What's a "non-survival study"? And, what's a "survival study"? [more inside]
My contractor father-in-law is looking for a tablet or 2-in-1 device that he can use at home or in his truck on job sites. The main uses will be email, internet surfing, maps and tracking employee time. The other must have is the being able to use an ATT data plan directly with the device. He's familiar with Windows so that takes Apple, Chrome and Android OS out of the running. [more inside]
So I'm going to Curacao in a couple weeks and I really need to have a working cell phone while I'm out there. What's the easiest way to do this? I will need calls, txts, and data. [more inside]
I have been doing the mom thing for over 5 years now with two kids and I am honestly at a point I'd never thought I'd be in: out of ideas and at my wit's end since 2.8 yo is apparently on a sleep strike. [more inside]
A close relative has a bad case of shingles. Not a mild case like the ones described in previous asks. Despite taking antiviral drugs immediately after diagnosis, 8 weeks later relative is still in daily excruciating pain. The rash is no longer blistery, but the skin is still pink and tender and not ready for lidocaine patches. Is there any hope? [more inside]
Please recommend me movies that would be the closest fit to the lyrics of Lianne La Havas’ song “Wonderful”. [more inside]
In December, gasoline was 50 cents cheaper per gallon in the Kansas City, Missouri area than where I live in North Carolina. Today, the prices are the same. Why? [more inside]
Depressed, teary and listless since quitting Skyla and starting generic loestrin about two weeks ago. Which of these two changes is more likely to be the culprit? Looking for others' experience with these drugs. [more inside]
My sister is moving from our home country to my city, where I’ve lived for several years. She appears to expect that she can stay on my sofa indefinitely whilst looking for work. I don’t want this and have tried to push back, but it doesn’t seem to be getting through. Want to set boundaries kindly and consciously. [more inside]
I am trying to find resources to help a 10th grader who is bright and creative but with extremely poor executive skills get organized, specifically for the challenges of high school (but, as a side effect, hopefully with carryover to other domains of life...). [more inside]
Sadly, my wife now needs a wheelchair. We are wondering what type of vehicle to get with our very limited budget. A custom-built van is impossible for us financially, so we are thinking for now we'll get a car or SUV that can have a trailer-hitch mounted storage rack for a wheelchar (like this). What makes and models would be best for this? Is there another option? More details below. [more inside]
A close friend of mine committed suicide recently and I'm struggling to process all my feelings about it. Reading about other people's experiences usually helps me, but I've been having trouble finding books that fit what I'm looking for. [more inside]
Can I send a spotify stream through my bluetooth speaker but keep other system sounds (e.g. email arrivals) coming through my computer? [more inside]
Mysterious rash which has been appearing on my arms and hands for the last two weeks. You are not my doctor. You are also not my allergist. But it will be a number of weeks with many referrals before I get to an allergist. In the meantime, I am vain enough that I don't enjoy having people stare at me like I'm going to infect them with cooties on the MTR, so I'm trying to figure out myself what to eliminate. [more inside]
I made an in-person (not online) purchase yesterday from a vendor I had never used before using my personal credit card on a Square. I did not request that an e-mail receipt be sent to me, nor did the vendor. Yet, an e-mail receipt was sent by Square to my work email address. How would Square have this address? Why would they send it to my work email without me requesting it? Are they stalking me? [more inside]
I waste a lot of time in the morning. Since I work from home, sometimes it turns into an all-day do-nothing-fest. Although at my last job, I still needed 2-3 hours to "get ready" before work. I spent most of that time doing nothing or watching the news. Please help me stop wasting so much time! [more inside]
I am researching nonstop flights from the US to Rome, for the purpose of booking a flight for my 18 y/o nephew. Turkish Airlines is coming in the most affordable so far. I have no familiarity with them, and want to know if they are generally well regarded, given that my nephew has limited travel experience and I would prefer that he fly with a reliable airline with good customer service. Anecdotes welcome.
I'm trying to learn how to cook and I'm wondering if there are any good cookbooks that I can buy to follow along with? They might not exist, but are there cookbooks that start out with something so basic as how to boil and egg and end up getting more complex as they go along? If not, what cookbooks would the best for a new cook to check out?
Who translates the blurbs that show up in the Metacritic review summaries? [more inside]
Following a spate of features added to Firefox in recent months which are arguably for the benefit of content-providers, rather than users, are there other otherwise friendly, open-source tools to which similar features have been added? Are there watchdog groups/resources which monitor this? [more inside]
So, I am married to a very pretty guy. We are both mid 30s. His entire relationship history includes women just throwing themselves at him, so he hasn't had to ever make any effort to learn how to be romantic or initiate foreplay. His current method is to just tell me he wants to have sex. When I complained that his method wasn't enough for me, he asked me what I want him to do. It is like I'm dealing with an adolescent boy. What resources could I steer him towards that don't include a sex therapist?
Another (prev.) Facebook privacy/blocking question. An anomaly in FB blocking is that the blockee can see the total # likes and comments on the main page (including people who've blocked you), but the blockers likes/comments are not apparent within the post (so there's an obvious arithmetic disparity if you look closely). [more inside]
I've read some classic literature explaining the libertarian/right side of our US political divide, but I'd like to read the 'Atlas Shrugged' for the left. What classic thinkers/authors come to mind?
I'm researching resources for a manager (M) who mentors with someone (S) who has experienced discrimination and disadvantage throughout their life. M wants to support S practically and with sensitivity. [more inside]
I have a new baby family member -- my first! hooray! -- and I'd like to put some money into savings for him. What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
After two major hospitalizations for clotting disorders, I've been given a diagnosis of myelofibrosis from my hematologist. I'm confused and frightened and worried that I'll start to see every little ache and pain as a symptom of my disease. Full details below the fold. [more inside]
I've got an image burned by a DVD program that was provided to me on a USB drive. There are 3 files: x.gi, x (1_0).gi, and x (1_1).gi. Is there a way to watch these using VLC or to otherwise convert and view them on a Mac?
I am in my late 30s and have always been nearsighted/myopic. My prescription is -7.25 with (I am told a lot of) astigmatism. My vision is starting to change...I can see bifocals on the distant horizon. [more inside]
Migraine sufferers and anyone who has tried the Buchholz 1-2-3 plan, I have a few questions: [more inside]
An old flame who has since moved away has recently reached out to me asking if we can give things another go. I'm amenable to the idea, but I feel rather strongly that we should spend a weekend together in a neutral location before deciding anything further. Planning for this has stalled. My gut is giving me mixed signals, has this reached an end or do I need to be more flexible? [more inside]
At times I have really enjoyed the popcorny thrillers of Douglas Preston and Lincoln Child (e.g., The Relic or Still Life with Crows) but over time, they've gotten so dumb (and formulaic) that I can't really stomach any more. Can you give me some suggestions for similarly tense, page-turning fare, whether natural or supernatural; ideally, high-tension, low gore, and I shouldn't be groaning over plot stupidities every other page.
I'm slowly moving my way back into the corporate world (ugh), and many of the companies have a no-visible-tattoos policy. [more inside]
I would like to observe some active twitter accounts without followers, or with very few followers (let's say, no more than 3). Is there a way to search those particular accounts? Is there a google ninja (or bing, or yandex) that may help me?
My boyfriend of seven months has recently been distant, and lied to me about spending time with another girl, then got defensive when I called his bluff. I have little experience with this. More inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for product recommendations, advice on best practices, and any other info you think would be useful, especially re: leg waxing.
I've read through the previous questions on this. But a ladies daughter with a learners permit hit my partners car while it was parked, and now she just wants to pay cash because she's convinced involving insurance will be a nightmare... [more inside]
A pretty thorough Google search doesn't turn up anything about former cult leaders who put out thoughts about religion of any kind in any way shape or form after they stopped being cult leaders. I am looking for some. [more inside]
Last night I cooked with jalapenos. I washed my hands really well, but some oil seems to have gotten under my thumbnail, down where the nail separates from the bed. (If I look through my nail, I can see a tiny red line of inflammation there, in addition to feeling the burn.) Despite having dulled overnight, this is still extremely distracting and uncomfortable. How can I get down under there and fix this? Extra level of difficulty: because we mostly cook vegan food, I have no dairy products in my kitchen.
I am applying for a librarian job in my town. I would like to submit my resume, cover letter, and references (all requested in the job posting) today so I can stop with the rewrites already. However, I'm not sure how to submit my cover letter. Do I: 1) send it in the body of the email? If so, do I also attached it as a pdf? OR do I 2) send it as an attachment only, and in that case what do I say in the email? Googling gets me nowhere - or rather, it gets me both answers. Thanks AskMeFi!
I've been getting massages from a chain here in TX for about a year, not always with the same therapist, but occasionally I'll get the same one. I sort of enjoy it, but not very much, and I don't leave with that feeling of "aaahhhhhh" that I hear about from other folks. I assume it must be me. Please help me to enjoy this experience! [more inside]
Help me get out of the routine and re-engage with life! [more inside]
There are a bunch of weird little insects in my office. That photo isn't to scale - I'd say they're maybe an eighth of an inch/3 mm long, really tiny, and they like to congregate in little groups underneath various things on my desk. What are they? What do I do about them? [more inside]
I'm curious about the pricing of Chinese restaurant food in various countries. Can you give me a price range for your country or area, for either delivered or in-restaurant dining, either in your country's currency or US dollars? [more inside]
I saw a multi-panel cartoon (not full color) online somewhere and I can't find it again and it's driving me crazy (admittedly a short drive.) A guy is shouting into the forest, "I believe in Bigfoot! Bigfoot can do anything he puts his mind to!" and Bigfoot is hiding behind a tree smiling and shedding a single tear. Please help me find this so I can email it to everyone I love.
I've seen these since I was young and always wondered what they are. Example 1. Example 2 and another angle. The pictures are from Google and aren't the best, but you can see what I mean. [more inside]
As someone who spent a significant portion of her childhood in choral training, I know that some aspects of voice work, like practicing breath control and singing in key, are helpful to have in your arsenal regardless of what kind of music you make-- but I also have heard far too often a certain generic well-practiced classical or jazz or country vocal style (think "American Idol" contestants). How can I develop a stronger, more versatile voice that's nonetheless my own? [more inside]
Friend B wore questionable attire to a wedding reception. Is friend A right to be upset? [more inside]
Both our cars got hit by hail damage this summer. I've filed the claims and just got back from the adjuster's estimate for the newer car. We've never lived in an area with frequent hail damage before, so I'd appreciate advice on how best to proceed. [more inside]
We ran across this thing in a thrift store and we have no idea what it is. The best we can figure is that it's some sort of eprom/memory chip eraser or programmer. No information at all on the bottom, just a sticker that says, "QC Passed". [more inside]
First off, you are not my lawyer. I have a contract with my landlord that states "The landlord agrees to give the tenant an exclusive option to buy this property for the following price and terms: $XXX,XXX. Tenant must be pre qualified on or before April 1, 2016." She calls me yesterday and says the place above me sold for 60K more than mine (and the place above is the same as mine). And that she's sorry but it's been a good run and she'll lookout for me that I don't have to leave right away. She didn't mention our contract once. [more inside]
Been looking to buy a home in a particular neighborhood and within the span of only a couple of months the prices have increased dramatically. [more inside]
I am (F, 32) celebrating my marriage and have a bridal party made up of 5 of my best friends. I am getting them each an individual gift and am also going to get them each a super soaker and a tshirt with their "nickname" on it. The nickname part is where you come in. Think roller derby pun names. [more inside]
I need some help selecting an outfit for an interview which will be in the potential clients apartment. [more inside]
A friend's child passed away this week. They left behind an iPhone, iPad and MacBook, but no passwords. Looking for recommendations on best course of action to access the devices. [more inside]
My 8-year-old son is obsessed with Minecraft, and has announced that he would like to create video games when he grows up. My own IT skills topped out around 1982 when I learned to write programs in Basic that printed my name in an endless goto loop. What technologies/languages/apps can I introduce him to in order to leverage his enthusiasm and channel it to something that teaches him age-appropriate programming skills? Assume second-grade math and logic skills and no programming background whatsoever.
Give me your recommendations for creeping, meandering, dream-like movies! [more inside]
I live in NYC and haven't owned a car for a number of years now. However, I still drive and am pretty risk averse, so I'm wondering if it would be worth it to get non-owner car insurance of some sort. [more inside]
Young professional woman seeking pants that fit. Caveats and such below the fold. [more inside]
I'm looking for a solution for humidity & temperature monitoring for ~20 rooms, and also for refrigerators & freezers. (Can be separate monitoring systems). Text & email alerts are needed when the rooms or equipment fall out of range. Also needed is the ability to pull historical reports for 30 day ranges. Any recommendations from the hive mind?
Where can I find fitted, work-friendly jackets/blazers that are 100% not bulky or stiff? Difficulty: must come in petite sizes and not-just-black colors. [more inside]
I quit Amazon because all my packages ship via USPS, either directly or FedEx SmartPost. Now I'm looking for online retailers who let me choose UPS or FedEx. Are there any? Also want to avoid SmartPost and its UPS equivalent. (Some merchants tell you a shipment will use FedEx/UPS but you find out after commiting the order that USPS handles the last mile. Right now I'm waiting on a SmartPost package turned over to USPS 150 miles from me and it will take 3 days to get it delivered from there.)
What typically happens when you're in a relationship with a recovering alcoholic/addict, and what are some ways of mitigating distastrous consequences for both parties? [more inside]
Am I right to be upset that it's taking my wife so long to buy a new car, given that driving her old car is literally making me sick? [more inside]
I'd like to spend a day on the LES eating all the foods I grew up with (so this means pistrami, bialis. lox, halvah, babkah, etc.). In order to avoid getting sick, I'm going to need to space out my meals/snacks. Could anyone recommend interesting places to visit/things to see while I'm digesting? I have pretty eclectic tastes.
I've been chewing on the Fano plane a lot these last few weeks, and have just noticed something that seems really interesting to me. Notably, that the seven lines of the plane map very nicely to the 7-color hexagonal tiling. [more inside]
My laptop has a smartcard reader (writer?). I'd like to use this but it seems they are the domain of government IT and corporate enterprise solutions - I can't find much info to help a curious hobbiest get started or do anything with it. Is there smartcards-for-dummies info out there? What fun (or security-related) things could I do with a smartcard reader? [more inside]
I need to lose a lot of weight, but I have trouble sticking with tracking my food or an exercise routine without backsliding into depression and frustration with myself. Please help. [more inside]
I am a cyclist in NSW, Australia. At the intersection in this image, I am not sure what I am legally supposed to do (or what my best option is if the legal one is not safe, which I think might be the case). The red line represents off-road cycle paths separate from the pedestrian footpath. I am trying to get from where the first red line (left) ends to where the second one starts (right). Can anyone tell me what I should do? Or who do I contact to find out (or to lobby to improve the intersection for cyclists) - the local council? [more inside]
I know it may be a ridiculous question, but I have to ask. How do smells pass through walls? I recently transferred into a new apartment (same building, different unit), and I'm getting crazy smells coming through the walls from a neighboring unit. Common sense tells me that the walls are insulated at least enough that when a neighbor makes dinner, the smell shouldn't immediately flood into my apartment unless there are gaps somewhere. The smells aren't coming through windows or doors, and the construction in my building is... weird. [more inside]
I'm wrestling between not trying to date this person - who's one of my best friends - and trying to make it work. The problem is the sexuality - either the chemistry is off, or it needs to be adjusted. I just don't know *how* to do that, without hurting his feelings, or if I should at all. [more inside]
I’m trying to wrap up some big stuff these days and could use some media to boast confidence, courage, and focus. Brief prose, poetry, non-fiction, religious texts, and music would be welcome. I'd prefer to avoid longer things in order to save time. Thanks!
I saw someone riding an exercise machine like this down the road. Is this a product for sale or is there an Instructable or anything? [more inside]
In preparation for my wedding, we've been going through some family photos. We've been able to scan some of them, but others are too large or awkward to fit onto our scanner. Can you recommend a service that will scan and digitize these albums for us, while keeping them intact? More inside. [more inside]
My boyfriend lies, has anxiety and is unstable emotionally, should I stick it out to help him get better or leave him behind for good? [more inside]
I need help restoring data from a hard drive I accidentally wiped [more inside]
Is there a good reason to use my own cable modem / router setup instead of the free, Comcast provided wireless gateway? [more inside]
I am looking for a great quality tumbler with a lid + straw. Think iced coffee during commute. Willing to spend $30-$40 (or more?) for quality. Thanks you.
I'm looking to put together a theme camp for a regional Burning Man. The camp is going to be centered around matchmaking; people that attend the burn and are interested can give us information and we will try to pair them with other attendees that submit information. However, I'm having trouble coming up with a good name for our camp. Any help? I've seen this done at a burn before, but I remember the name of the camp being underwhelming and I want to do better. Thanks!
I'm just starting to learn about animation. I want to make some simple "music videos" where a character's mouth moves (because she's "singing"), but here's the problem: [more inside]
Using a new modem/router setup brought on unbearably slow speeds, but which is to blame?? [more inside]
I'm a slim 40-year old guy in Brooklyn and cannot find pants that fit me and are age-appropriate. Help? [more inside]
Frequently being excluded from peer group meetings and discussions at work. How do I tell my executives this is not acceptable? [more inside]
I'm looking for some input on how best to proceed regarding my divorce and whether group therapy or an individual therapist would be best. [more inside]
I am on my way to a Very Important apartment interview right now, and I have the worst gas. I have less than an hour to get this foul flatulence under control. On my way there now; could probably stop by a drugstore. Please. Halp. This is San Francisco and I need this apartment.
I need help identifying a macrame knot so I can make a necklace. [more inside]
The cable in my building is out. At least one of my neighbors is affected by this, and my cable is also out; however, I don't use mine so I don't care. The cable people want to come cut a hole in my wall. This will be very loud, require multiple visits, and take at least 45 minutes. I am seriously ill and for various reasons this will be catastrophically disruptive for me. I said no. Do they have the legal right to force this on me? I wonder, also, if the landlord has to give permission - they want to cut a totally gratuitous hole in a place that can be clearly seen.
Recommendations for a new DVD player? [more inside]
Looking for thoughts and advice on sensory seeking or sensory craving versions of sensory processing disorder in small children. [more inside]
This isn't a question about how to be a tourist in Cuba, but rather about how risky it might be to go there for a professional meeting (a sanctioned reason) and then bend the rules a bit. [more inside]
At what point in the following hypothetical sequence of events would I have committed a crime? (You are not my lawyers) [more inside]
I'm not a photographer, but I have a DSLR and I take a lot of bad photos. Sometimes I want to transfer said photos to a PC. But almost every time, when I put my SD card into a USB adapter, I get a few photos that get imported that look "glitchy" -- as in, half the photo looks like a negative and the colors are inverted or off in some way. How can I prevent this? [more inside]
I'm having trouble finding the answer to a few specific questions about takkyubin services around Japan, re: transit time & how early your luggage needs dropping off. [more inside]
Looking for simple black heels to go with simple black dress. [more inside]
Bumper crop of Hungarian wax peppers this summer, and I would like to can some. Best practices? Favorite recipes for spreads/to-be-stuffed? [more inside]
I am trying to compile any legislation that specifies where and how (geographically speaking) organizations may store data. Where can I find some? What should I search for? [more inside]
My younger sister and I both have fond memories of listening to a recording Of Colin Dann's "Animals of Farthing Wood" on our tape deck in the early 90s. Can you help us find the version we had? [more inside]
I thought of a good line to put on a tee-shirt. I found that a known lecturer has used the same statement publicly and it has been attributed to her on blogs. Is this statement under copyright? If yes, are there any ways around it?
My partner is fascinated by Tokyo in the 1980s, when the economy was in a historic boom and Americans were jittery about Japan's economic and cultural ascendancy. Can you recommend Japanese-made movies (with English subtitles) filmed during that time that were set in Tokyo and focused on the life of a 'salaryman', innovator or other rising professional? He's especially interested in movies that feature Japanese nationalism and favorable comparisons of Japan vs. the rest of the world.
I've designed a logo for a client, but our agreement doesn't cover beer. [more inside]
I've been looking for a winter cape FOREVER and when I saw the Joanna Newsom video this morning I got super excited. Anyone know where I can find it or something similar. Yes, I'm definitely interested in similar items too! [more inside]
There's a particular Tommy Hilfiger t-shirt that I saw the other day IRL but can't find proof of online. [more inside]
I wrote a timely semi-personal essay about abortion and rape culture in response to Katha Pollitt's call for pro-choice women to speak out in the NY Times a couple days ago. I'd like to pitch it to a handful of feminist-friendly websites--think Jezebel, The Atlantic, The Guardian's US Comment is Free, etc, although I'm absolutely punching above my weight with those particular examples, and I'd like some advice on where and how to pitch it. [more inside]
I purchased a Logitech UE mini boom around 2 months ago and am having a bluetooth issue that, while not major, is an annoyance and a possible deal-breaker for me if not fixed. I called support - they told me that my problem had been reported before, is a firmware issue and will hopefully be fixed soon. I was also informed that as there is no problem with the hardware, my issue is not covered under the warranty. Is this worth fighting? [more inside]
My parents have an inground pool that fills a significant part of their back yard. Their pump is dying or dead, and replacing the pump will be a significant investment for them, moreso that neither of them use the pool much. Add the current California drought, and the pool looks like more of an unnecessary expense than a benefit. Any thoughts on what should they do with it? [more inside]
Help me remember where this joke about James Bond came from. [more inside]
We currently use a non-HE washing machine in our household, but will be upgrading to an HE machine very soon. Has anyone tried using the Kirkland Institutional detergent (the one in a white, rectangular pail; has other uses besides laundry) in their HE washer? [more inside]
I know this is a long shot, but maybe someone here knows exactly how Facebook blocking works. Necessary details under the fold. [more inside]
I'm trying to find a short SF story I read over 20 years ago. It's a "last man on Earth" story, but with a couple of very specific elements that I have had no luck digging up: [more inside]
I am interested in the various honorifics that are sometimes incorporated into (or sometimes partially substituted for) Indian names. I run into this from time to time professionally, and I feel terribly ignorant about it. Is there a resource or primer online that could help me get a better understanding of this and related matters of naming? Or can you give me the ten cent tour?
I'm looking for podcasts that have in-depth, first person accounts of pregnancy and childbirth. [more inside]
After years of unsuccessfully trying to start a family, my partner and I have resigned ourselves to the idea of never having children and fully embraced a childfree lifestyle with a busy social life, lots of travelling, sports and fun hobbies. I just found out I am 8 weeks pregnant. [more inside]
I've been making websites since 1997, when I set up my first GeoCities site learning out of the HTML for Dummies Quick Reference. Sadly, my skills plateaued around when I was graduating college in 2008. I've got seven days of free time coming up in a sort of work mini-sabbatical... help me get up to date! [more inside]
How do we catalog & value a large die-cast construction toy collection for eventual sale? [more inside]
I binge-watch Human Planet this weekend, and it was the most fascinating thing I've seen in a long time. It is an 8 episode show about how humans survive in different habitats: ocean, river, mountains, grassland, arctic, desert, jungle etc. But it covers SO much that there isn't much depth to each thing they talk about. I must know more! I have so many questions. Where can I learn more? [more inside]
I'd like a mattress protector for my daughter's double/full bed that's waterproof (no milk, pee or vomit leaking through), silent (doesn't make crinkly noises when rolling around on it) and durable (stays waterproof after many washes). Any suggestions?
This spout is outside the front my house. When it is turned on, water sprays out of the hole and the spout. What is this? What kind of hose should I buy?
I have a LOT of hand-written notebooks. I want to move my note-taking habits into the 21st century as I've written on in the past. Future note-taking devices aside, I would like to ideally have a way of digitizing my existing handwritten notebooks. [more inside]
I have a vegan colleague that is going through a medical situation. I would like to bring his family a meal that would help make their life easier. In traditional circumstances I have made a lasagna or typical pasta dish but in this circumstance I would obviously like to respect their dietary decisions. Any recommendations? I'm also open to the suggestions of pursuing something else to make their life easier.
My fabulous new spouse and I are about to jet off from the UK on our honeymoon in the southern US (GA, AL, MS, TN). I'm in good health and have full travel insurance but tend to get 2-3 urinary tract infections in the course of an average year. I'm a little paranoid about getting one while I'm over there and would rather not end up accessing unduly expensive treatment for this very routine minor ailment and having to claim it on insurance etc. Where do I go for treatment? [more inside]
I am 38 years old. I have to learn how to drive. I am absolutely terrified. [more inside]
I already have a career, but I want to "serve my country" (USA). Should I join the reserves? [more inside]
My aunt's boss has fixed me up with his son. I have confirmed zero interest whatsoever in this fellow. What is the classiest possible way to communicate this? [more inside]
Acquaintances in my creative community have made mutual accusations of emotional and sexual abuse. I do not know what the truth is and am not sure how to deal with their community participation in the future. [more inside]
I have a new role where I will soon have to speak to IT Directors about Information Security. Good general primers out there to get me started on Infosec? [more inside]
Not looking for genre recs, per se, more like-- who do I need to start following in order to catch a similarly powerful and dynamic show? [more inside]
I would like to start a website that has a monthly membership fee. Can someone suggest what service or software would allow me to charge a monthly fee to access my website? I dont plan on charging very much to access the site and will never have more than maybe 50 or 60 members, so this wont be very profitable for me, and I would like to go with the cheapest and most simple option available. I am not planning on having anything besides just a calendar where you can click on a date and see what events are on that specific day. The services I was seeing seemed to have too many options and I didnt want to be paying to have options I wouldnt use. Thanks.
My 7-year-old daughter is intensely into makeup. She went as Cleo De Nile (A mummy queen with gold lame sandals) last Halloween, and as a Vampire Princess the year before. I think she'd like to learn about special effects makeup. I recently saw a young girl's work who had done some amazing things, including a great looking third eye on her forehead. Is there a particular set of books, or kits, or websites you can recommend?
Please help us discretely cover this unnecessary fridge feature rather than getting bullied into hooking it up. [more inside]
We lost our beloved cat 9 days ago. Our remaining cat has been confused and sad, clearly needing a great deal of reassurance and wanting to be with us more of the time.We eventually plan to get him a new buddy. Should we get him a new buddy sooner, like this mont, or later, like 3-4 months from now? [more inside]
You had genital psoriasis. You managed to get rid of it. What did you do? [more inside]
My partner and Ex had a kid. The Ex moved out of the city a number of years ago, living in various other places. Kid has always lived in this city. When he exercises visitation, Ex drives into the city to pick up the kid on Saturdays, drops the kid off on Sundays. Currently, the drive to where Ex lives is 2 hrs, each way. Ex is remarrying and converting religions and as such says he will no longer be able to drive on Saturdays to pick up the kid. Ex wants us to drive the kid to him. We find this nuts, and think the onus is on the Ex to figure out a way to transport the kid. Ex is not interested in exploring alternative visitation plans not involving Saturday driving, he wants the existing schedule to continue. Location – Ontario. You are not my lawyer- I’m not asking for legal advice, but what’s your take?
I share an internet connection with the other tenants in my small apartment building. My neighbors are nice folks, but I'd like a little more technological distance between us. I'd like to keep my computers on a private wireless network and have the router for that network connect to the shared router for internet access. Is this possible? [more inside]
I'm looking for suggestions for re-purposing a Windows laptop into a child-friendly PC (for a 6-year-old), for entertainment and development of computer skills. Suggestions for Windows settings and/or child-friendly shells, parental controls, age-appropriate software, and any other ideas for getting the most out of a young child's first computer. [more inside]
I encountered bed bugs for the first time and it majorly freaked me out. I travel regularly for work and am curious how other frequent travelers deal with this issue without succumbing to constant anxiety. [more inside]
My boyfriend's cat's paw pads are always extremely scaly and cracked, but it doesn't seem to bother him at all. Here's a picture to give you an idea of how bad. Has anyone ever seen this, and if so do you have any advice? Or is this just one of those weird pet things that probably isn't a big deal and you can't do anything about it anyway? [more inside]
I’m a lawyer, and have been working in civil litigation for 10 years. It never felt right, and I’m finally ready to make a change. My undergraduate was in psychology and I’ve always thought that I would feel more fulfilled working in that field. So, I’m scheduled to start graduate school next month to get my masters in Marriage and Family Therapy. I’m not sure that I want to work as a therapist, but it feels like that would be in the right direction. As I get closer to needing to quit my law job, I’m wondering if there is an easier way to get into my ideal career that doesn’t require the time and expense of going back to school. The problem is that I’m not sure exactly what I want to do. I sense it is something related to working on public policy for mental health issues, particularly concerning foster children or in the juvenile courts. Maybe working in the administration of a foster home, at a mental health non-profit, at a government mental health agency, etc.? I would really appreciate any thoughts, ideas of where to search, or if anyone has experience with this type of work. Thanks in advance for your help.
As I was coming home from the grocery store this evening, a kid on my block came up to me and very politely asked if it would be okay for him to wash my car. (He was playing in the street with a bucket of water when I came up the street.) I said okay. How do I thank him? [more inside]
Most especially when writing about himself. A paraphrase at best. My memory says Verlaine or Rimbaud. But my googlefoo fails me.
So, a friend is getting married around Beachwood and Chesterland Ohio, east of Cleveland. A small group of men need to get together to celebrate a friend's impending nuptials at the end of this month. [more inside]
I'm an experienced but largely self-taught programmer. I'd like to earn money teaching other people to code, either on my own or (maybe when I get more documented experience) working for a company. How do I get started? [more inside]
My neighbor has been awesome to us lately, and he and his wife are going to Palm Springs in a couple weeks. We want to do something nice for them while they're there. Snowflake details inside! [more inside]
I'm on a mission to purge unwanted objects and things from my life. A substantial chunk of these things comprise of print magazines, mostly architecture, design, music and technology related. So what do I do with them? [more inside]
I'm an interior painter and want to get an idea of when others have received the most responses from their ads. Are there certain days and/or times that have worked best for you? Thanks!
I'm committed to stay in London another year, but I don't really like London. I'm a homesick Canadian missing the friendly, gentle hippies of home. Help me escape the crowds to find them! [more inside]
Have you ever made - or tried to make - a dramatic career change? Please tell me all about it, including what you did do, didn't do, or wish you'd done differently. [more inside]
I used the oil and bake method here. I let it dry overnight. This morning I pulled it out and there are some areas that are sticky and some that are just dull. Please assume I followed the directions as outlined. What could have gone wrong and how do I redo it? Thank you.
For a month now I have been involved in a Kafkaesque nightmare with a local hospital billing department. I am convinced that they have a thief in their employ but I cannot figure out how to convince them of this or to positively make my case. [more inside]
Are there guidelines for appropriate attic temps by region? [more inside]
Where would you recommend we stay for one night in San Francisco at the end of August? [more inside]
What has been your experience with using Issuu.com for hosting a magazine-style document? [more inside]
For a sculpture I I want to cut a spherical cap in a piece of very hard old oak, with a base radius about three inches and half an inch deep (i.e. a =3 and h = 0.5 in Wolfram's diagram). [more inside]
Probably early nineties. I recall it sounding like a hybrid of Belly and Green Apple Quick Step. [more inside]
I have a small, simple menorah design that I would like to have fabricated: preferably machined, preferably out of steel. Where can I go, online or in real life, to get this done? I'm in New York.
I am an idiot and etched my deck with a power washer. Actually I don't know if "etched" is the right word as I can't feel any physical difference where the light marks are, so maybe I just removed the oxidation. [more inside]
My daughter (mid-20s) is going through a very difficult time and I'm busy with a bazillion related issues. I'm hoping that an affordable one-bedroom apartment, month-to-month lease, available now/very shortly, ideally near Northwestern or within a mile of a CTA/Metra stop will just magically drop in my lap. (If you knew what this month has been like, I bet you all wouldn't think this is too much to ask.) [more inside]
I am trying to find Mens short sleeve shirt made by non slavery / fair labor. [more inside]
I want to spend my evenings/weekends making, rather than consuming. Help me plan to do that. I’m looking for examples of activity that is creative, enjoyable and of some value to others. [more inside]
I like to sit cross-legged or with one leg tucked up under me. This is not doing my knees any favors. How to break the habit? [more inside]
Here's a photo of a sign that's been sun-faded. I'd like to know what number(s) are written on it. I believe there are two seven digit numbers, one above the other. I don't have Photoshop. Is there anything I can do with iPhoto or a web app to make it more legible? Thanks.
Is there an authoritative chronology and list of colonies, viceroyalties, territories and countries of Latin America (and ideally the caribbean) by foundation, declaration of independence, and other changes in territorial status? Printed or online? Ideally with a graphical component as well but not necessary. Hopefully slightly more authoritative than Wikipedia.
I need help managing the food in my pantry, fridge, and freezer. [more inside]
I'm a public school teacher and the school has implemented a new mentoring program. Each teacher has been given a list of about 15 kids to personally mentor. How should I approach this? [more inside]
I'm looking for examples of authors and musicians who lived artistically unremarkable lives for their first four decades, only beginning to express themselves creatively in their 40s, and who subsequently received critical or popular acclaim for the work they produced during that fifth decade. [more inside]
I have watched this YT vid many times and I have followed his directions and experimented with my locally available ingredients but can't get the texture right. Has anyone made Gummi candy and had amazing success? How did you do it? [more inside]
I'm considering getting a PS4. Can you help with some questions about the details of the audio and video connections, and a few other misc questions? [more inside]
Super high libido + extreme difficulty orgasming: how to cope with sexual side effects from antidepressants? [more inside]
I swear my friend had an LP of Rikk Agnew's "All By Myself", the cover of which had him pictured with a bunch of cat corpses. Am I imagining this? (Not to be confused with his photo on the Christian Death album.)
After a minor argument grew into a very stressful situation for both of us today, my boyfriend and I finally figured out a few things that have been contributing to a destructive pattern of behavior (basically, my emotions stress him out, he shuts down, I become more frustrated because he is unavailable to me). At first I felt empowered by our breakthroughs. Now I feel discouraged. Please help. [more inside]
I have a bunch of stuff going on, some of it is anxiety related, but it's manifesting in, to be short about it, me being fat, and as per usual, medical interactions are not positive and I don't even know what sort of doctor to try to find, much less talk to. Predictably, more inside. Predictably, wall of text, also. [more inside]
What are the best vegan restaurants in Brooklyn and Manhattan? Do vegan chicken and waffles exist? [more inside]
I have bought and taken the bovine derived phosphatidylserine before, but now my google skillz are failing me. I cant seem to find a bulk bovie derived phosphatidylserine anywhere. Anyone have any luck finding this?
I've been reading about SC CO2 extraction. CO2 is neutral in charge (as I have come to understand), so I am uncertain how it attracts the stuff (caffeine, cannaboids, antioxidants, et al.) that it draws out in this process. Does the charge change in the fluid state? You don't have to explain it like I'm 5, more like I took Chem 101 a long time ago.
As I'm 33, I'm too old to be an au pair. Are there other types of jobs that would allow me to live in western Europe for a year or so? [more inside]
I've used the offline Tripadvisor City Guides for Tokyo and Paris, they were great. I'm going to Montreal next week and looked for a guide to Montreal but no luck. From googling I found something that said that the generic Tripadvisor App has a way to download City Guides. But after installing that app, I don't see a way to download City Guide content. [more inside]
I want to make a playlist for a loved one that is getting out of a bad relationship. I want to include songs that are upbeat, positive, female friendly/pro-female with messages of it will get better/you can do this/you are strong/he's not worth it/he doesn't deserve you etc. [more inside]
I think the song is about two people who lose each other in a crowd in front of a the church, basilica, or statue of a saint. I think the song is named after that saint. This song is hauntingly beautiful, the rhythm twinkles and meanders throughout, and in the middle, any classical melody or rhythm completely lost for a minute, the parts/layers of the music overlapping out of phase. Then the same parts are played together, locked in phase at the end. [more inside]
Need help finding the right temperature for a Betta fish in a 5 gallon aquarium [more inside]
I'm looking for your best dark sky recommendation near Harwich on the Cape to enjoy the Perseid meteor shower this week! Thanks!
Should I put a 300K cash windfall into buying my first home, or into a Vanguard fund to generate interest? Details inside. [more inside]
What else should we do with a whole bunch of fresh raspberries before inthey mold? [more inside]
I live in a rural area, and there are several large hemp ('ditch weed') plants that are loaded with seeds. I've heard they can be a good source of protein, Omega-6 and Omega-3 fats, fiber, etc. My question is-- can I simply pick the seeds from the plants and consume them (on a salad or mixed with yogurt), or do they need to be processed in any way? (BTW-- they are in an area where there's no danger of pesticides or herbicides; they are about as 'organic' as you can get). Thanks!
A friend and I are cycling the California coast, going south from Crescent City to LA starting today. Based on the amount of time we have, we will need to bus a few sections, maybe 200-250 miles or so. Cyclists who have done this route - which sections are missable? Which ones should we NOT miss? What bus/train options do you recommend? [more inside]
Hi HiveMind- I have seen that people have amazing pictures and have quoteables on them. How do I create this? here is a link, but an example is Oprah, so praying buddha hands image and a great quote, how do I do this in a professional looking way, not a meme type of things. thanks! Link.
I work in a Quality Assurance department for a call center. We have over 50 people and between us we evaluate customer interactions from 10 different departments. Right now we are using Excel to create work assignments. Example: Department 1 has 30 Excel lists each with 1/30 of the associates. This is a nightmare. Help me make it less of a nightmare. [more inside]
In the novel "Wolf Hall" Liz Cromwell is shocked to realize she and Thomas are awake at 3 o'clock in the morning (quote, though no real spoilers inside). How does she know what time it is in 1527? Would a successful lawyer and merchant have a clock in his bedroom? Would a church or town clock tower ring the hours through the night? [more inside]
I recently moved into a new apartment that shares a property with a larger house—essentially a backyard cottage, except that the apartment is in front. The family that lives in the house drives me crazy in small ways. But everything that happens has been so small that I don't know when, or if, I should say anything to them. How can I stop feeling so annoyed by them? [more inside]
What plants could I grow on my Brooklyn balcony that reward lots of attention but won't suffer too badly without it? [more inside]
You know how Myanmar and Thailand share a narrow peninsula? And how Myanmar's territory veers sharply to the east, leaving Thailand with a narrow neck connecting the mainland to its extreme southern provinces? How did that happen? How did Myanmar wind up with such a large share of the land in question? [more inside]
I'm a manual wheelchair user. It's getting more common that I have rotator cuff pain (or what I imagine is from my rotator cuff) and elbow joint pain after long bouts of wheeling. The pain is not life-altering and goes away after a day or so. It doesn't bother me but for the fact that I realize that this is a sign of things to come. Can you help me decide whether to pursue therapy/doctor intervention? [more inside]
I'm a student in NYC. I'm looking to volunteer somewhere where my time will do the most possible good. Think "effective altruism" but with time instead of money, which I don't have. [more inside]
I'm coming into some money. How should I allocate it? Exciting debts inside. [more inside]
If I feel the top side on my intermediate phalage on my middle finger, there is small bulge just below the interphalangeal joint that is painful if pushed on. It's possible to aggravate this by pushing on the under side of that intermediate phalage, presumably that's how I've notice the pain normally. Any idea of what's going on? [more inside]
"When a Mummy and a Daddy love each other very much..." is the default amusing quote for pretending to explain the facts of life to children. It is enough of a meme it must come from somewhere. But where? [more inside]
I am leaving tomorrow on my first short bike tour (thanks to you all!) and was just going to print out some maps before going to bed, and then got caught in a 2 hour rabbit hole of inefficacy. Halp please! [more inside]
I'm trying to get into the game of earning and using travel points see more of the word. I have a question on churning and earning and need any other hints [more inside]
I am a runner and I am trying to get over plantar fasciitis. That means among other things getting better casual shoes. I need some summer sandals and something to wear around the house like a slipper - but with really good arch support. I'm a pronator. Under $100? Help!
I was wondering if anyone knows about old-fashioned watches, particularly about mechanical stopwatches that you wind up, and could help me determine if running with one in my hand is a bad idea. I find it slightly easier to pace myself on the track with one of them than my digital watch, as it's easier to read the time. However, I'm afraid the watch will break due to the constant rough motion.
What do you do to stay entertained on a long road trip? [more inside]
Upgraded to Windows 10, opened OneNote, where everything was in Sakkal Majalla, the default font, is no more -- what to do?
I'm teaching an Intro to Programming course to first year design students. I'd like to show them examples of cool art and design projects with a strong programmy feel: interactive, algorithmic, data driven, mapping, etc., to get them excited about learning to program. [more inside]
I need suggestions for readings about the importance of research ethics, please. [more inside]
I am a late 30s woman with PCOS and my gyn says it's time to go to a clinic since we've been trying for a year. [more inside]
In the last year, I've noticed more people flying American flags from the beds of pickup trucks. I did some travelling earlier this month and also saw this in Arizona and Utah, but not in Washington DC. The reason for that geographic distinction might be obvious; a different demographic lives and works in the DC Metro area than Salt Lake, Tucson or Portland. But it reminds me of the couple of years right after 9-1-1, when people were flying little flags from their driver's windows. [more inside]
What walking friendly routes exist, if any? [more inside]
What is in the re-hydration IV's at the end of ironman triathlons? What is in the rehydration IV they give post alcohol poisoning in the ER? Why does my book say it's better to eat/drink then to take IV? [more inside]
I have a database table with sensitive (read as personal, non-financial) information inside our office locked-down network that I need to expose to users on a website. What's the best way for me to expose this data without exposing us to unnecessary risk? [more inside]
I'm in the market for a used 7 seater vehicle. I'm trying to avoid a minivan because, well, it's a minivan, but worst case scenario i will settle for a minivan. The model i have my eye on is a Mercedes R350. Unfortunately for me they have been discontinued so finding a decent used one with relatively low miles at a decent price point $20k or below is proving quite hard in the Seattle area. As such i'm open to any other recommendations. Please tell me why you like your 7 seater or suggest to me any other options to ferry around 3 kids and an occasional straggler or 2. Thanks
Did I destroy these ants? [more inside]
Were you an unfocused, chronically late, procrastinating, disorganized adult who become someone with diligence, persistence, and the ability to set and succeed at long-term goals? I can form schedules, organizational systems, and have lofty long-term goals, but fail at implementation. I am the kid who eats the marshmallow before the researcher leaves the room. Have you been me, and become someone else? What were your strategies for change? [more inside]
In American English, instead of saying "I don't know", you can just kind of.. mmm out each word. 1) Does that have a specific term, or is it just generalized under nonverbal communication? 2) What other languages have similar phrase > nonverbal things that are commonly used?
places to swim in the bay area? with some caveats. [more inside]
I just finished reading Siddhartha Mukherjee's The Emperor of All Maladies, and I realized I don't really understand, at all, what's involved in writing a book like that. [more inside]
My partner and I (30s, no kids, both geeky/arty introverts) have a couple vacation days coming up. We'd like to take a short, low-hassle overnight trip somewhere, but we've done the Monterey thing multiple times, we don't want to go to San Francisco, and we aren't really into wine tasting. What else can we do that doesn't require a ton of advance planning or more than around 3 hours sitting in the car? [more inside]
I'm 41, recently downsized from a legal publishing job, possibly looking for a career change into something involving news websites. Would a coding bootcamp be helpful? Am I too old? Are these programs worthwhile and reputable? More details inside. [more inside]
I need inspiration and advice for painting canvasses with acrylic paints. I have never painted like this before. I will be doing a 3 x 3 grid of canvases on a very tall white wall, and was thinking something super simple, like solid colors and/or abstract shapes. But I'm afraid of it looking really bad. Can you give advice for getting decent results, and also maybe find examples of something you think a beginner could do? [more inside]
I am in need of a good, versatile, form-making plugin for a Wordpress website I help to manage. I am having difficulty, among the plethora of possibilities, zeroing in on the one that will serve all our needs. [more inside]
I am a 30 year old woman engaged for the fourth time. Sometimes I am sad, sometimes I am happy, but mostly I feel ambivalent. Seeing that this is the 4th time in a decade with no marriage to show...am I with the wrong person, am I a marriage-phobe deep down inside, have unrealistic love expectations, or do I just continually make poor decisions? Basically, I need help and wonder what you think or if you have advice/anecdotes. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
If you're invited to a night out at a bar with a group, is it kosher to invite other people yourself? [more inside]
I am obsessed with Sirius Black's housecoat. I love the peak lapels, warm dark color, and widely spaced stripes. I'm also a university professor where I could wear something like this on a regular basis. I've scoured thrift stores for years, with little luck. Where can I find this garment or similar? [more inside]
My wife and I are going on vacation early in September and would like to focus on fine dining. We live in the bay area and have been up to Sonoma/Napa many times as well as Portland and would like to broaden our horizons. Looking for both locations and restaurant recommendations. [more inside]
its been so long since I had to book spaces for shows in NYC that I have no idea who to even contact for possibly hosting a one man show later this year -- What small venues in NYC should I be talking to about hosting a one man show at somewhat last moment (less than three month notice)? Seating capacity round 60 - think bar with generous back room rather than theatre.
Moving back to the States from the UK and looking for the cheapest way to ship stuff that we won't immediately need to have on our arrival. Since the move is from London to Miami sea freight seems like the best option. We also have some fragile and oddly-shaped art that we'd like to have handled separately (and carefully). I've looked around for quotes from sea cargo specialists, but would appreciate any suggestions for ideas I may have overlooked. [more inside]
Hello! I can't seem to find the answer to this on the internets, so while you are obviously not my doctor, I'd love some advice. Is there any benefit to having the nuchal translucency screening v. the fetal DNA blood test (MaterniT21)? [more inside]
Referring to the title of this article: F*ck Yes or No. I never feel so charmed by someone I meet that I am no-question into them. How do people like me create meaningful romantic relationships? [more inside]
Hi, I've recently started to make bagels at home. For best results, I need high-gluten flour. I'm sick of paying a lot in shipping costs when I buy from vendors on Amazon, but I also don't see that kind of flour in the grocery store. Can anyone recommend a cheaper online vendor they've used or suggest a local source or how I might find one? I live in Minneapolis, Minnesota (historically, the "Mill City," which makes me feel worse about paying to have flour mailed to my house.)
What books can you think of that are essentially fanfic of real-life people? I've read "American Wife" (Laura Bush), "The Royal We" (Prince William & Kate Middleton), and am in the middle of "The First Affair" (Monica Lewinsky & Bill Clinton), and am finding myself really attracted to these types of books. Are there other books out there like that?
My Dad is going to be visiting and wants to get tattooed. He doesn't know what he wants, other than he wants me to come up with it and "it should represent the love i have for you and your siblings." hhooookkkaaayy. SO METIFILTER - what examples of dad tattoos can you think of? [more inside]
Where can I buy a women's lightweight merino wool t-shirt in London this weekend? [more inside]
I've written fiction all my life, but never done anything with it. I've always been content with that. However I am currently finishing up a more ambitious project and for the first time ever, I am wondering whether to seek an agent, self-publish, or release the story online free. Seeking feedback from writers of Metafilter. [more inside]
Looking for some good online tutorials for shooting cityscapes, particularly neon signs and in low light. I work near Piccadilly Circus so will get chance to practice once the nights draw in, but I want to get my head around long exposures etc. first! If relevant, I'll be using a Canon DSLR and possibly a medium format camera too.
I have a friend who I have a naturally intense and potentially flirty dynamic with, even though I'm not interested in them sexually. It's making me a bit uncomfortable and confused. How do I handle this? [more inside]
My cat suddenly thinks I am a great toy - help? Noise makers not allowed - the baby is (finally!) sleeping. [more inside]
In Australia (maybe elsewhere), Channel 7 played a short sequence as an outro to the Olympics coverage before a commercial break. It lasted 15-30 seconds or so. I'm trying to find a recording of this music. [more inside]
Hi! It's been awhile, but I am in need of new music and though MeFi could recommend some songs similar to The Raveonettes' "Black/White". I love the bass in it and am looking for tracks like this. Also open to other garagey/old-yet-modern bands too! Thanks!
My husband of 28 years suddenly and unexpectedly passed away from a massive heart attack at the age of 47. Now, almost 9 years later, I find myself alone and realizing that I will not be able to continue living in Southern California for much longer. Both of my sons and my grandchildren live in this area, so my move means that I will be leaving the only family I have. I'll be honest: I am absolutely terrified. [more inside]
I noticed this globular blump on my eyeball, just to the outside of the iris. When I turn my eye to the side, it glunks up in the corner and oozes out over my lower eyelid. [more inside]
The title says it all. I've been getting bored with the stuff I've been cooking, and I'm just looking for some inspiration. I like recipes that are Asian or Asian-inspired, because I don't have a lot of time on weekdays and love doing quick, flavorful stir-frys, for example. But I'm open to other kinds of food as well, as long as it doesn't take 2 hours to make. So just wondering if anyone's got some recipe sites they love and regularly use. Thanks!
Psychiatrist recommendation in Long Beach, California? And how can a mother help her son with an upsetting episode and general unhappiness? Wall o' text inside. [more inside]
I've got an old "HD-compatible" LCD TV that I want to hook up some kind of gaming console to. The connections I have appear to be component video, composite video, S-video and coax. This TV predates HDMI. [more inside]
I'm being given a budget tablet of my choice, should I choose an android or windows tablet? [more inside]
So, I have been hearing that a glass of red wine after dinner is good for health. Also, I like drinking wine but,till now, I have mostly been limited to a glass or so at restaurants. So, I am a novice about wines and don't know much about good wineries or sources. I looked up review sites, but I am not sure which review sites are trustworthy. What would be a good red wine you recommend? [more inside]
Do you have recipes for how to make soy-sauce flavored corn puffs, or places you've seen making or selling them? [more inside]
After your pursuing a lot of your recommendations from last time, I am looking for animals that are not specific to any kind of "business", rather those that exude luxury and elegance. Also, different cultures (countries, areas, societies) view animals differently, so what kind of animals does your culture associate with these qualities? [more inside]
I have had a dog for about a year and half that I got from a rescue group. I love her like crazy , but she bit a neighbor's pants tonight and I'm freaking out. She's my first dog as an adult, so I'm not sure if I am overreacting, so every conceivable detail is inside. [more inside]
I'm a woman, 49, in NYC, doing the OK Cupid. I've done online dating before, but have been out of it for quite some time, and really don't think I'm up to date. Please advise. [more inside]
Have any teen girl singers taken a hard left turn from bubblegummy pop to more avant garde music, a la Scott Walker or Alex Chilton? [more inside]
Your friendly itinerant field recordist wants to know: do any masjids (mosques) in the greater NYC metro area regularly announce the call to prayer? And if so, do they observe the 5x-daily adhan schedule, or only certain prayer times? Thanks for any info!
If AskMefi had a superpower, this would be it. What is my newly adopted cat named? [more inside]
My brother-in-law who is a guitarist and guitar collector wants to paint a pre-CBS Fender Stratocaster in the original 'Sonic Blue' colour that the company sold in the early 1960s (used by John Lennon amongst others). The trouble is that if you google this you end up with several different versions of the colour that vary in terms of their blue/green balance, saturation etc. So the question is, without getting into the philosophy of colour perception, is there an easy way to obtain the right colour of paint? [more inside]
I have 2 different scenarios I need help with: 1. My sister is getting married and my husband and I have booked a hotel room near the venue. My toddler will likely not be able to stay up past 8, so I will bring her back to the hotel and put her to bed and then return to the wedding. We are hiring someone (college student/friend) to basically just sit in the hotel room with my sleeping toddler once I put her to bed (8-11ish). How much do we pay her to do this? 2. Starting in the fall, my husband and I will both need to leave the house in the morning by 7:15. Daycare does not open until 8. We'll need someone to come to our house in the morning around 7:00, hang out with toddler and then take her to daycare for 8:00 (daycare is about 10 minutes away). This would only be for 3 days a week. The person is potentially one of the ladies who works at the daycare (so she would be staying there, if that matters). How much do we pay this person? By the hour? Week? Accommodate mileage? Thanks!
I just want to draw with no computery-looking business, and the eraser has smoothing applied with no discernible disable option. Am I missing something? [more inside]
I want to hit the Jersey Shore tomorrow with Spanish tourists eager to explore that culture. Where's an extra evocative/photogenic old-timey spot to spend the day walking around, eating, and generally enjoying one single afternoon? Sunbathing/swimming not possible, she's on meds and must avoid. So...just walking (with hat and sunscreen). Extra points for tips on driving (from Manhat) and parking on a summer Friday. [more inside]
I am seeing a therapist for pain management. I called to cancel this morning because I had a migraine and was in no shape to go to my appointment. His scheduler called me back and said that I had violated a no show policy, and she’s going to have to talk to the therapist but I’m probably discharged from their clinic. I was unaware of such policy. I’m pissed, hurt and feel incredibly vulnerable. I’m not sure what to do next and could use some advice. [more inside]
Regional foods; Vegemite; Ribs [more inside]
CanadaFilter: My PR expires next month and since I do not keep it on me at all times, I forgot about it. I've filled out all my paperwork, got my photos, etc., but what will happen to me in the meantime? [more inside]
My husband and I have lived in the northeast our whole lives and are ready to move somewhere south of this area without going too far west. We are quiet musician/tech types in our early 30s. Neither of us has traveled much through the southeastern US and, while I am aware of a couple places that might fit what we're looking for, I'm hoping people here can give more ideas for places we should consider. [more inside]
So some wonderful individual in a parking lot has christened my new car with its first scrape. Photo here. Is it sufficiently serious/deep that I should get it repainted immediately to avoid rusting issues? And if so, is it at all feasible to attempt a patch job myself? The internet at large is inconclusive on both counts.
I remember a live video art installation (or a concept?) about setting up large video screens in public spaces, with cameras, linked to video screens w/cameras in other cities (even international) where the general public would wander by and see the equivalent general public wandering by in the other location. A kind of public park "skype" that's always on & linked to another location. I'm looking for info about such projects, and my google-fu is failing me.
What's the best SF-area beach for dogs that has easy/flat access for my old-man poodle? [more inside]
A friend/client has a project that is about 67% completed. Is there somewhere online (doesn't seem kickstarter appropriate) where people can solicit for an investor? [more inside]
I'm seeking some advice on the best way to stop our basement from flooding. [more inside]
What apps have you purchased for your Android phone that left you delighted while costing $2.50 or less? [more inside]
I can't remember the details of a book from my youth that had an infectious song about donuts in it. Can you? [more inside]
I'm looking for an iPhone app that lets one keep time records (simple in-out-lunch's fine, don't need task/client tracking), but most importantly has a presence on the lock screen. In a perfect world I could get a lunch hour countdown clock too, but I'm not greedy. Any suggestions?
I have in my cupboard about a half a pound each of totally artisanal cocoa powder and whole roasted cacao beans. I'm looking for suggestions of creative ways to cook with them. Baked desserts are pretty much my wheelhouse, I don't need much in that vein. And ideally, what I make needs to be free of gluten, pork, and shellfish, so things that are either natively so or easy to substitute would be best. Savory or sweet, hot or cold, food or beverage, share with me your favorite recipes or ideas!
Previously abusive parent expresses this sentiment to their adult child: people make mistakes; that doesn't make them bad, it makes them human, and they shouldn't have to pay for it the rest of their lives. What is a healthy internal response? What is a healthy response to the parent? [more inside]
When I attempt to sort my Excel spreadsheets, some style information is left behind. It also doesn't sort empty cells. I want to fix this. [more inside]
How can we find proof of our son's vaccination if we forgot which doctor's office we took him to? [more inside]
I need a mantra that basically describes it being okay to suck/be imperfect/do a modestly okay job. [more inside]
So, back in grade 5 (or 5th grade, as we called it in Brooklyn), our teacher had us all write to various sports teams and basically ask for free stuff. I ended up deluged with schedules, stickers, postcards, and a few autographed photos. Somewhere along the way, I also picked up about a hundred autographs (on 3 x 5 index cards, with neatly handwritten descriptions) of baseball players from the 40s-70s. How can I find out if this load of presumed shite is worth anything? [more inside]
Hi MetaFilter, I'm looking for book recommendations for my little brother who is 12 years old. Other questions seem to be about book recommendations for 8-12 year old children who read ABOVE their grade level. My brother doesn't really enjoy reading all that much, and reads, in my opinion, below his grade level. [more inside]
I'd be interested in thoughts or recommendations from anyone who has experience of carbon fiber acoustic guitars (such as CA or Rainsong), especially in smaller body sizes. [more inside]
Can you help me solve the mystery of how my name became associated with my parents' PO Box? [more inside]
I've got continual internet dropouts, and because it's such a common problem, there's not a lot of help I can get from google. Because it's such a common problem, what's your advice on working out how to fix it? [more inside]
I tore my lateral meniscus back in late May. I took hydrocodone/acetaminophen (Norco) in varying doses for the next two months until I had surgery two weeks ago. I'm down to taking two Norcos (5-325) at night to help me sleep and the time has come for me to get off of this stuff. [more inside]
How much conversation time or "together time" should I expect in my marriage? Do I have unrealistic expectations of what a healthy marriage is? [more inside]
I am a music journalist, and I’ve also done a lot of promotional writing (bios, press releases, etc) over the years for musicians, PR firms, and record labels. I’ve mostly written for rock musicians but have done other genres as well. I want to get more clients but don't know the most effective way. More inside. [more inside]
I need new glasses and sunglasses. Are transition lenses better than they used to be? [more inside]
This has happened several times, and I react differently every time, and never feel like my response is correct. My son is 18 months, and at various playgroups/events/playgrounds, he has been hit or pushed over by children that are older and larger than him. In every single instance, the person meant to be watching that child was not, and the only response to the act would be coming from me. [more inside]
The possum is gone now and hopefully won't be coming back. Is it reasonable to think the attic itself as well as the insulation in the attic is covered in urine and feces? If so, is it reasonable to expect the property management company or owner to clean up the attic and replace any/all of the insulation? [more inside]
What is the website that allows you to post jobs and get candidates based only on their portfolio or work data? I cannot for the life of me remember what it is named but this would be for web development kind of positions.
After twenty years of not doing so, I've started writing fiction regularly. I'm really great at keeping up with it so far: after three months of near-daily writing, I have produced several thousand words, comprising a handful of short stories. Now I've reached the point where I need to be both revising the stuff I've already written and also writing new stuff, and I'm not so good at the first part. [more inside]