July 2018 Archives

July 31

Between CCleaner and a clean reinstall?

I am helping a friend with his 2010-era Sony VAIO laptop running Windows 7. It's slow. He is unable to do a clean reinstall because he does not have original CDs or product keys for Windows or any of his software. We spent some time with CCleaner disabling startup items, etc., and we uninstalled a bunch of bloatware. It's still slow. What are some intermediate steps, between CCleaner and a clean reinstall, that we can take to speed things up? Thank you!
posted by 8603 at 9:29 PM PST - 12 comments

My heart is playing tricks on me

For the last two weeks, I've often noticed the sensation of my heart skipping beats. I'll be seeing my doctor soon, but in the meantime, how can I relax? [more inside]
posted by sucre at 8:36 PM PST - 27 comments

Looking For Expert On "Operation Yellow Ribbon"

HI am producing a TED-like event themed "Response" later this year. The speakers I find will present examples of successful large scale logistical events during times of crisis. Examples of this include: Dunkirk evacuation, The Fall of Saigon, The Berlin Airlift, And United Airlines Flight 232 (smaller scale) [more inside]
posted by goalyeehah at 8:09 PM PST - 1 comment

what American flag is this (with 40something stars in circles)?

About 3 minutes into this video, behind the speaker, you can see an American flag with perhaps 43 or so stars. What is this flag? [more inside]
posted by metadave at 8:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Which sci-fi book series, ideally with many books, should I read next?

Which sci-fi book series, ideally with many books, should I read next? I've read and liked Asher's Polity books, Banks' Culture books, Reynolds' Revelation Space series, Leckie's Radch trilogy, and Corey's Expanse books. [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 7:05 PM PST - 31 comments

Trying to sort my marriage

I don't know what to expect from mature relationships. I had one five year relationship and one nine month relationship since maturing and I didn't have good relationship models as a child so I'm not sure I am calibrated well. I'm afraid that my marriage is truly terrible, but I'm also afraid that much of the weight of it is fairly universal for hetero male-female marriage. And I just need a reality check. [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 6:15 PM PST - 34 comments

Casual party games for karaoke

I'm having a karaoke party for my birthday. I'm looking for games that are good for a group of 10 ish people (give or take) that serve as some other entertainment besides the singing. I want it to be casual and not forced, like a thing people can do if they're not singing or watching. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 6:09 PM PST - 10 comments

best freight shipping options Toronto to Brooklyn

I got rid of all of my furniture and am now moving to New York from Toronto. I can bring two suitcases. I don't have much stuff. What's my best (i.e. most reliable, punctual, and cheap) freight shipping option? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 5:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Get text messages off my Android phone, to Internet repository

My computer is low on storage, so what is an online option? I want to get abusive texts off my phone, but keep them as potential evidence "just in case" I ever need to bring charges in the future. Is there a cloud-based option? [more inside]
posted by yunhua at 5:39 PM PST - 8 comments

but i like soggy pizza

There's a million answers on the internet (and here) for how to reheat pizza without making the crust soggy. But there's a certain kind of pizza - thin crust with lots of mushrooms - where the moisture from the mushrooms makes the crust all soggy when it's fresh, and it's perfect that way. When I reheat my pizza in the oven or on a skillet, the crust gets nice and crispy - just what I don't want. I don't have a microwave. How do I get my hot soggy pizza??
posted by moonmilk at 5:33 PM PST - 11 comments

Austin, Texas - Planes, Trains a Lunch and Brunch?

Next week I fly into Austin at 1:30 p.m. on Wednesday and catch the Texas Eagle Amtrak south at 6:30 p.m. On Saturday, I get back into Austin at 9:30 a.m. and fly out at 1:30 p.m. Where is a good place between the airport and the Amtrak station to catch a late lunch and wander a bit on Wednesday? Where can I get a quick brunch on Saturday morning? [more inside]
posted by ITravelMontana at 5:15 PM PST - 10 comments

Replacement for iPhone 5s?

My current phone is slowly falling apart so I'm in the market for a new(ish) one. I'll likely go second-hand since I can't afford something super current. What models should I look for? Apple and Android both welcome. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 4:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Cracked Tooth Syndrome in a dead tooth-- pre-vacation edition.

You are not my dentist or endodontist. I have both of those. I have bruxitis and sleep with a night guard, but I don't always use it regularly. I am having a problem with a back left molar which had a root canal many years ago which seems like it might be cracked tooth syndrome. I am leaving on a two week vacation in ten days. How can I best time this with minimal risk? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 4:35 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I use Adobe Stock (or similar) to create a preview presentation?

This sounds stupid but I used to have a huge creative department that'd give us beautiful options for presentations. I'm familiar with InDesign and enough to be dangerous, but it seems I can't find a stock image site that will provide full images (with or without the "stock image" stamp) so I can at least preview before I buy an $80 image for one slide in a 100+ page deck. Am I missing something or do big agencies just purchase the images and don't care about price? To be clear, I just need to make it look good internally and then purchase the images after they get approved. It is hard for me to figure out if a stock image is going to look good if I get a thumbnail from Adobe Stock.
posted by geoff. at 3:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Cleaning years of grease - bottom of microwave edition

This is an embarrassing "I should have cleaned this more often" scenario, but here we go. The microwave in our apartment sits over the range, and the bottom contains some lights and some standard range filters. (A setup like this.) Not knowing that I could slide the filters out, I unscrewed that whole bottom plate and took it off to see what's where. The grease buildup was... bad. I cleaned the filters with Easy-Off oven cleaner and am satisfied with how they came out, but that entire bottom portion of the microwave is still. So. Gross! [more inside]
posted by erratic meatsack at 3:15 PM PST - 7 comments

Coping with loss of faith

I have been a practicing [member of X religion] for most of my life, and now I'm not. It's kinda sad, how do I cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:06 PM PST - 22 comments

ich habe ein Logikpuzzle-Puzzle.

I'm in Vienna, Austria for one more day and want to find a logic puzzle magazine/book in German or English for the plane ride home. Where should I shop? [more inside]
posted by wintersonata9 at 2:54 PM PST - 5 comments

What can you tell me about rent-to-own lease options?

Experiences, wisdom, words of caution all welcome. More inside. [more inside]
posted by Miko at 2:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Choux me your desserts

I've gotten really good at the following techniques: choux, Swiss/ French/ Italian meringues as well as the buttercreams one can make from those, creme patissiere/ mousseline, sugar work, creme brulees, cheesecake, pie crust, genoise sponges. What are your favorite recipes incorporating one or more of these elements? [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 2:05 PM PST - 14 comments

We need to talk about your flair

For the first time in my career, I have a private office, yay! It's in the basement and windowless, though, boo! What can I do to make it less depressing? [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 2:03 PM PST - 20 comments

How do you buy a used cargo bike in New England?

Help me find whatever market there is for used cargo bikes in (ideally lower) New England. [more inside]
posted by gauche at 1:52 PM PST - 6 comments

Yet another search for the perfect bag

Due to shoulder/back problems, I’m no longer supposed to be carrying a messenger bag with a shoulder or cross-body strap. Thus, I am in search of a briefcase—that is, something with handles that opens at the top, rather than a flap-over—meeting a range of specific criteria within. [more inside]
posted by Kat Allison at 1:50 PM PST - 6 comments

Anyone know a good country song about two lovers murdering the husband?

Hi! I’m writing a noir. I guess it’s sort of like The Postman Always Rings Twice. Does anyone know a good country song about a woman and her lover killing the woman’s husband so they can be together? Thanks!
posted by yellowchartreuse at 1:35 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I download Verizon voicemails from my old flip phone as MP3s?

I have some sentimental voicemails from a family member on my old flip phone and I need to get them off so I can cancel the plan. [more inside]
posted by mermily at 1:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Feets, They're Failing Me Now

Please give me your recommendations for the best electric foot bath/spa for at home use. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 1:29 PM PST - 0 comments

Small and mighty role models

Can you help me compile a list of women-identifying people who are short but powerful? I'm in my mid-30s, I'm 5'1," and I'd like to be taken seriously and to feel more capable. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gold bridges at 12:39 PM PST - 57 comments

Help me feed my kids while camping

I'm heading into the wilderness (well, car camping) next week with my 6 & 9 year old. We have camping equipment galore, but I'm stumped on food. We'll be camping for two nights... help me make food that they will eat that isn't just s'mores! What are you favourite low-effort camp recipes that don't require refrigerated ingredients? [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 12:30 PM PST - 24 comments

Video asset management tools?

What is the current state of the art for managing a bunch of video files owned by an organization? What are the main products for a shop with a few editors & maybe half a dozen layout people (call it under 10TB of data for now)? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 12:28 PM PST - 3 comments

Revue parisienne de livres?

I'd like to subscribe to a French-language periodical along the lines of the London / New York Review of Books. Needs to be available in print in the US. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 12:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Advice about radioactive cat.

Cat recently had radioiodine treatment for hyperthyroid, and is now in quarantine at home. I'm seeking advice about what rules can be bent, from people who have been through this, or who know about radioactivity. [more inside]
posted by jessicapierce at 11:46 AM PST - 12 comments

Self-contained communities with >10,000 residents?

What categories of self-contained, private communities or residential developments are there (e.g., gated communities, college campuses, military bases...)? For each category, which are the ones with >10,000 residents, or how can I find out? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 11:41 AM PST - 19 comments

Being detached from work

I'm starting a new job this week, part-time (I'm self-employed the rest of the time), with an employer I have worked for before and had a difficult time at. I'm looking for tips to ensure I stay detached from work and can switch off from it when I'm not there. [more inside]
posted by paduasoy at 11:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Please rec me your fabulous fanfiction

As inspired by this post on the main, please rec me gems of fanfiction. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 11:21 AM PST - 47 comments

"And that's why God gave us two ears and one mouth"

Good listeners out there - teach me your ways!! [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 11:00 AM PST - 8 comments

Should I get a non-digital camera for my 4 year old?

In this fast moving world of digital devices with virtually endless storage, I can't help but wonder if there's something to the idea of getting an actual camera, with actual film, for my kid to be exposed to and see the process of taking pictures that is irreversible, finite, and focused and then getting a taste of the delayed gratification that comes with developing them. Bonus points for specific things to do/not do if your answer is yes. [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 10:59 AM PST - 28 comments

How do I get over crushing post-fun blues?

Coming back from vacation or an extended period of Fun is absolutely crushing. I am angry, sad, mentally unfocused (expected), and despondent. It makes me cry (no, seriously) and sometimes I do ill-advised things (like purchases) to help ease the pain. I am not unhappy in my everyday life, but what I experience post-vacation makes me never want to have fun again. Does anyone else feel this way? How do you cope? I am in Week 2 and feel empty.
posted by tcv at 10:04 AM PST - 13 comments

Stopgap options for getting an antidepressant without waiting a month?

My partner was previously on antidepressants and went off of them (unintentionally) when her insurance changed and her old doctor won't accept the new one. The permanent solution is to find a new PCP and get a new prescription, but she can't get an appointment for at least a month with any of the doctors we've called. Does anyone know of any alternative options to deal with this more quickly? [more inside]
posted by possibilityleft at 10:02 AM PST - 12 comments

Consignment/resale shops in the Chicago area?

What it says on the tin. Looking for recommendations for consignment/resale shops for womens' clothing/accessories, preferably in Chicago proper or the northwest suburbs. [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 8:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Films and Shows Similar to House M.D.

Looking for medical themed films and shows that are dramatic, factual, reality-based without it being reality TV. Preferably films that deal with specifics in detail - procedures, diagnoses, stories behind the story, good dialogue, smart, intelligent and engrossing. What do you recommend?
posted by watercarrier at 8:51 AM PST - 26 comments

Not that kind of surfer music

So I innocently click on a link to watch a surfer ride a wave for 2 minutes (omg) and now I can't get the song that was playing out of my head. I want more! But most of the band's Soundcloud tracks don't really sound like this one. What other bands/DJ mixes/artists sound like this track? [more inside]
posted by gwint at 8:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Fresh Mushrooms in NYC

Help me eat more mushrooms! I'm looking for a wider selection of fresh mushrooms beyond the standard grocery store fare (oyster, shiitake, portobello). What grocery stores / farmers market stands provide this? Manhattan south of 14th st is preferred, though I'd hop on the subway if it's worth the trip. [more inside]
posted by mustardayonnaise at 6:51 AM PST - 12 comments

Finding UK Birth Records

I have a list of about 400 UK citizens with their age, full name (including middle name) and date of their death. How can I find out where they were from? [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 5:55 AM PST - 4 comments

How to record a webpage?

I enjoy listening to http://listen.hatnote.com/ as background music. The page will not play on my work internet, probably because of some background javascript or something. I would like to record this webpage for a long chunk at home (5-8 hours) and upload to youtube. Can you please advise me a simple workflow with a single, free tool to record the screen and audio from Hatnote? I've uploaded youtubes before, but any advice about uploading a multiple-hour video to youtube would also be appreciated.
posted by rebent at 5:45 AM PST - 11 comments

This Woman's Work

I've always wanted to dig into Kate Bush's discography. I think Spotify has her entire musical oeuvre (which I have access to). Where should I start? Any specific albums or tracks? Thanks.
posted by Fizz at 5:45 AM PST - 24 comments

New Year‘s Eve traditions in Latvia

What New Year‘s Eve traditions do Latvians have? I‘m thinking about things like fortune telling via coffee grounds or eating certain foods. Can you help me? Thanks!
posted by Omnomnom at 5:35 AM PST - 3 comments

Shoes for working adults

I am a professional in the K-12 education world and I still don't know what kind of shoes to wear as an adult woman. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:04 AM PST - 26 comments

Help me Medical Leave.

I have to have major thoracic surgery and need to take a 12-week medical leave. Please help me make this a success. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:04 AM PST - 7 comments

What early intervention can I do to develop babies speech?

I'm concerned about my toddler's speech development. I have put her on the wait list for intervention by the state but it can be up to six months before the evaluation. I would like to to do things in the meantime to help. Please point me to resources. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:04 AM PST - 24 comments

Carbonite and APFS

I've been holding up on upgrading to macOS High Sierra, but it's probably past time for me to make the jump. However, I'm currently in the middle of an initial Carbonite upload (some several hundred GB to go). Once I upgrade and get my filesystem converted to APFS, will Carbonite have to re-upload everything? [more inside]
posted by dondiego87 at 12:04 AM PST - 4 comments

July 30

Talk me into/out of this car!

I've become enamored with the idea of buying a used Ford C-Max Energi plug-in hybrid. Tell me why I should/shouldn't! [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 11:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Asking for a Pay Raise

I work in screen printing, and have worked for this company for 3 years. I got my foot in the door by taking a very low paying job, without a degree. In one year they promoted me into the position of scheduling both the press, all of the work for the artists and juggling the responsibilities of running the art dept. without actually calling it management. When I was promoted I was given a raise to twelve dollars an hour. In my area, that's barely making it, and fifteen would be 'average' for this type of work. Since then I have not received any further raises despite one 'stellar' job review. We do not get scheduled reviews, or raises, or even much of a chance to discuss a raise. Besides the easy answer of going elsewhere, what would you do? [more inside]
posted by itsthreeam at 8:51 PM PST - 12 comments

Don't punish the victims

Small, local restaurant chain agreed to pay wage theft penalties in the millions of dollars (unpaid overtime, missed breaks, etc). My husband doesn't want to eat there anymore because of the worker abuse. If every customer does the same, the staff will be abused again without tips, fewer hours and maybe job loss. What's the correct approach?
posted by namret at 8:33 PM PST - 11 comments

The Okcupid Non-response Response

Scenario: You are a 30something man on Okcupid browsing profiles of 30something women. You see someone interesting and send a quick “Hi Soandso, [add one or two line question about interesting tidbit in their profile here]”. Then later you receive a notice that this person ‘Liked’ you. There is no response to the message, ever. When you look at the read notice on the message it says “read”. This is happening at a tremendous rate. A few questions below the fold... [more inside]
posted by incolorinred at 8:27 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I Arles Or Should I Aix? Provence and Paris Vacation

My dad (75ish years old) travels quite a bit for work and has enough miles for both of us to get tickets to Paris in September. He'd like to go to Provence or the south of France. He's been to Paris a few times, but neither of us has been to Provence before. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 8:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Coding buddy

Where can I find someone to help me fix my coding? [more inside]
posted by shockpoppet at 8:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Teach Toddler to Chew Quietly

My kiddo started eating really loud recently. He's been good at eating with his mouth closed until a month back when he stopped and is still incredibly loud when he does close his mouth to chew. I need to find ways to explain proper chewing or I'll lose my mind (please no "kids eat loudly" advice). [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 7:43 PM PST - 17 comments

She's beauty, she's grace, she's about to burn some bridges

I took an academic job after my grad degree, but I'm now very clear I want to be working in tech/doing tech work in some non-higher-ed context. What should I brace for w/r/t potentially leaving an academic job very quickly (4-6 months) AND convincing tech companies that I know my stuff? (A few specific questions within) [more inside]
posted by Sock Meets Body at 7:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Sewing Machine Motor- Janome edition

I can't find info online regarding actual motor strength of particular machines. When comparison shopping, it's a little maddening! Help me understand how to find and interpret this information, so I don't tear my hair out! [more inside]
posted by metasav at 6:36 PM PST - 2 comments

Aftermath of Bipolar Depression

I'm 29/f and have just started taking medication for bipolar depression. Thoughts of the destruction that I've left behind during these ten past unmedicated years are starting to terrorize my consciousness intermittently but consistently. How do you move on from the embarrassment and shame of past actions? [more inside]
posted by iusedhername at 6:30 PM PST - 11 comments

Frozen lo mein yes or no mein

Frozen lo mein was with me in the car as I ran errands after work. Outside temp in the low 90s. The car wasn't off for more than 5 minutes at a time. When I got home to put it in the freezer, I did notice that it felt not quite as cold but not warm, as if it had partially thawed. This is PF Chang's shrimp lo mein kit. So, will it still be good when I cook it?
posted by crunchy potato at 6:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Frozen pizza dough that is raw but pre-rolled out

When I was a college student, my dorm had a yearly special event where the dining hall (Aramark) provided frozen pizza dough so we could bake our own pizzas. The dough came in flat rounds, not a ball or tube, so all you had to do was thaw, put on toppings, and bake, no rolling out required. Also, this dough was not par-baked; it was completely raw once you thawed it out. Does anyone make pizza dough like this that is commercially available?
posted by capricorn at 5:42 PM PST - 19 comments

You can't fire me, I quit!

Today I was informed that I'm now on a performance improvement plan at work. I was planning on leaving this job to move to another state in the next couple of months anyway. What's my best course of action here? [more inside]
posted by Argyle Sock Puppet at 5:16 PM PST - 22 comments

I had to.

There‘s a famous quote to the effect of ‚actions that are done out of free will are actually the ones where you felt like you didn’t have a choice but to do the thing, you just got up and did it.‘ What is the actual quote? [more inside]
posted by The Toad at 4:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Are there any proven benefits of alkaline water?

Alkaline water is a big thing in these parts. Are there any proven benefits? If you drink it, or have tried it, I'd be interested in your personal anecdote, too.
posted by Room 641-A at 3:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Fascism summary about in-groups and out-groups?

I vaguely recall a quote, and would like to know where it's from. Paraphrased, it's "fascism boils down to, there is an in-group and an out-group, everything is permitted for the in-group, nothing is permitted for the out-group." [more inside]
posted by RobotHero at 3:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Name my (medical speech pathology) business

I'm a medical SLP (speech-language pathologist) and will be starting an LLC. I'm usually good at coming up with this kind of stuff for other people but am struggling with creating my own name. Help? [more inside]
posted by duckyputz at 3:01 PM PST - 12 comments

Daily phone spam from a rejected number

Every weekday for the past few weeks I get one or two calls from a number that I have already added to the auto reject list in my Android phone. Each time, my phone rings, I look, and it's that number again. Arrgh! I open the menu to review my options, and "remove from auto reject list" is present, so... What can I do about this? [more inside]
posted by heyho at 2:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Is there a name for this voting method?

In a recent Ask response thefoxgod mentioned they do "a combination of approval voting (check all the things you want to do) and exclusions (check all the things you won't / can't do)". Is there a name for this system of voting? Google is failing me. [more inside]
posted by libraryhead at 2:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Why are my download files suddenly failing?

I am throwing it out there in case anyone has an idea of why this might be happening, google has not provided any solutions and I am getting desperate. [more inside]
posted by nanook at 1:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Where can I get microfilm/microfiche made today?

I recently read that modern microfilm can last 500 years. Where can a private individual get documents transferred to microfilm/microfiche, and approximately how much does it cost? [more inside]
posted by cosmic.osmo at 1:51 PM PST - 4 comments

broken links when I convert docx to pdf

Help! MS Word conversion error, time sensitive! [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 1:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for Music & recordings related to altered states

I'm doing a radio show on the theme of Altered States and am looking for suggestions. Especially obscure stuff, including recordings of rituals or chants or whatnot. Of course I'll include a few drug/insanity songs (eight miles high, manic depression, drone music) and some recordings by Timothy Leary, Stanislof Grof and Terrence McKenna, and the theme to "Altered States" but beyond that, I'm coming up short on Youtube. Any suggestions?
posted by GospelofWesleyWillis at 1:38 PM PST - 35 comments

Help needed for mourning online companion

I am a gal (69) who "met" a great far-away guy online "dating". We shared a 7-month FB messenger and voice companionship: several times weekly, often all day long. Trajectory was fuzzy but we grew a deep warm connection. He just died suddenly. Close friends support me here but I'm flattened. Connection and any potential gone. How do I mourn/grieve a man I never met, whose friends/family don't know me and vice versa? (Other than FB.) Please respond if this resonates.
posted by Mayree at 1:32 PM PST - 8 comments

Fun sci-fi fiction for a proud and nerdy middle school girl?

My daughter is looking for her next book to read! Sci Fi she really likes: Douglas Adams, Dr. Who, Stranger Things and Welcome to Night Vale. We’re looking for more science fiction writing, preferably with a humorous element (dark humor is totally fine), and of course anything with a female protagonist would be a bonus. Series or standalone, novel or short story, as long as it’s a rewarding read! Thanks for your help!
posted by ericbop at 1:31 PM PST - 30 comments

GRE prep fitting particular specifications

Hi, looking for GRE prep that is 100% online, gives me as many practice questions as possible, and provides detailed feedback about my performance. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 1:29 PM PST - 3 comments

What is this large bug?

This one. About 8cm long, found in Lyon area in France.
posted by rom1 at 12:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Oil-to-Gas Conversion with Steam Heat in an Old House in MA

I'm looking for recommendations and experiences for those who have converted from Oil to Natural Gas in an old house with steam-powered radiators in the Northeastern US. [more inside]
posted by Fidel Cashflow at 12:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Best way to resync a folder that hasn't synced in months

I use Microsoft OneDrive to sync folders between my work computer, my home computer, and my laptop. I just noticed that my laptop hasn't been syncing in months. What do I do to fix this, without causing all sorts of headaches? [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 12:20 PM PST - 1 comment

Dealing with a 'team-building event' that involves drinking I don't do.

My department at work is setting up a 'team-building event'. The ones in the past have included a cooking class, a game night, a drink-and-paint, and karaoke. The one they're revving up for now is a booze cruise. The problem? 1) I don't drink alcohol and 2) I have an arthritic knee and am considered lightly disabled. [more inside]
posted by mephron at 11:26 AM PST - 49 comments

What to do in Lyon when it's roasting and everything's closed?

We will be in Lyon for a weekend break this weekend - yay! Unfortunately it's a heatwave, the weather is set to be around 100°F and also many restaurants, shops etc are closed in August - boo. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 11:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Adult ADHD Assessment and Recommendations for Toronto?

I (30F) had a revelation about 6 months ago after reading a post by a redditor who was describing herself and her formal diagnosis with Adult ADHD and the lightbulb moment was totally "Oh snap, that's totally me!". I'd love for some clarity on how to proceed, in particular in the Toronto area (I know there are Torontonian Mefites out there!). I'm totally overthinking this... more behind the cut. [more inside]
posted by vespertinism at 10:33 AM PST - 10 comments

They stopped making my aftershave and now I'm sad, lonely, and confused.

I'm looking for a decent non-stinky aftershave that doesn't make my face a razor burned mess. [more inside]
posted by aspo at 10:16 AM PST - 10 comments

Airbnb reviews

I'm not sure how to review a place that had several problems. Help me sort it out? [more inside]
posted by Dashy at 9:47 AM PST - 21 comments

Human and Parenting Values

What are some short phrases to teach life values? I am making a book for my child containing brief statements like: Do no harm. Look for beauty. You belong here. Animals are family. Each phrase is paired with a family photo. What human values do you follow that can be summed up in a quick phrase?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 9:35 AM PST - 39 comments

HVACfilter: Moving Location of Basement Air Return to Improve Comfort

The basement of our centrally heated/air conditioned house is cold almost all the time. Increased humidity (60%-65%) is also present down there. Will moving the basement's air return from its current ceiling location to a placement closer to the floor help? [more inside]
posted by elkerette at 9:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Question about unsold U.S. food crops

From what I've been able to find, U.S. farmers plow under much of their unsold crops and the government pays subsidies to them in many cases. I know Trump has set aside $12B for subsidies as a result of the tariffs he has imposed. Why can't at least some of that food be distributed to food-insecure people, at least regionally? Is it just because of the expense of moving the food? Is it because most of it is feed-grade? Or are there other reasons? Thank you.
posted by KleenexMakesaVeryGoodHat at 9:21 AM PST - 7 comments

Parenting through dental anxiety (mine)

I have dental anxiety, and usually manage it by picking a well-reviewed office/dentist and then just going along with whatever they say, because left to my own devices I'd object to everything and never come back. In the case of my young child, however, I want to make sure that this is actually the best strategy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:38 AM PST - 4 comments

iOS or Switch games for long plane flight?

I have a couple of long (10+ hour) flights coming up. I can bring a Switch along, or just travel with an iOS device... hence my questions about good travel games: [more inside]
posted by mark7570 at 7:49 AM PST - 23 comments

Long distance information, give me Memphis, Tennessee

DOT, Jr. and I are going on a father-son road trip to Memphis for Labor Day. I'm actually from Memphis but for reasons have not actually been back in 15 years. What's good? What to eat? What to see? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 7:29 AM PST - 12 comments

Amazon page said new, it's refurbished. Is my laptop still a good deal?

I found a deceptively great deal on a new Lenovo laptop on Amazon, but the seller messaged me that the listing was in error and the product is actually "certified refurbished" with a 90-day warranty. Should I keep it or cancel it (or something else)? [more inside]
posted by Rhaomi at 6:42 AM PST - 26 comments

Spiraling into Depression After Rejection Slip

I submitted some work for publication and just got rejected. How do I stop myself from going into a depression spiral? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:23 AM PST - 16 comments

Blast First logo on Johnson & Johnson products

I’ve noticed that the Blast First Records logo shows up on some Johnson & Johnson products. Why is that?
posted by pxe2000 at 5:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Language learning with bare-bones audio

Do you know of any language learning book + audio packages in which the audio tracks are 100% in the foreign language? [more inside]
posted by Vesihiisi at 5:10 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me get over shame of inappropriate hookup

Advice and personal anecdotes of having gotten over a similar situation wanted. I got drunk and made out with someone totally, TOTALLY inappropriate, on the rebound from my extremely recent divorce, and am so filled with embarrassment and disgust. I have never, ever done anything like this before. I 100% came on to him and it ended up being kind of degrading and now there is no way I will be able to avoid seeing this person. He's a big part of my professional and personal life and I will either see or have the potential to see him every single day of my life unless one of us moves away. More within . . . [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:41 AM PST - 25 comments

How can I shut the hell up?

I talk too much and too loud. People throughout my life agree about this and have told me they don't want me somewhere because I am too loud. In some situations, though, I'm inhibited and quiet and this is much better. I want to be that way more of the time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:40 AM PST - 20 comments

Dealing with attraction to a partnered friend

I have romantic feelings for a friend – who is (uncertainly) married. Looking for advice on managing this and keeping the friendship healthy and non-weird. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:40 AM PST - 14 comments

Above and beyond spare tires and oil changes...

Recent automotive misadventure reveals, in full HD technicolor, abject ignorance re all things automotive. Can-do attitude + pathetic compensatory panic to "be a man" has since yielded I-can-handle-this mastery of two essential automotive skills (see question title). Subject now wants to know what other essential, useful, (relatively) easy-to-learn automotive skills to take on next
posted by BadgerDoctor at 1:47 AM PST - 16 comments

July 29

How do I get rid of these brown/black flakes that show up in washer?

The condo that I am renting has a front-loading Maytag Neptune MAH5500BWW washing machine. The first time I used it when I moved it, the washed clothes were covered in these brown/black flakes. Do you have any tips on how to get rid of them properly? It is similar to the last image in this post: https://monoandco.com/2015/10/13/housekeeping-cleaning-the-washing-machine/ [more inside]
posted by eliluong at 10:27 PM PST - 17 comments

Help with a math problem

I'm trying to help a friend study for an exam using example problems from past exams, which were provided by their teacher as a study aid. This is strictly for test prep, provided by the instructor, and is not graded homework. Unfortunately answers were not provided. One question has us stuck though, can you help? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Reverend John at 8:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Moving on from iTunes

I have definitively exceeded the 5-seat iTunes Home Sharing limit. I have umpty jillion rips from CDs and nearly no DLC. It's like 300-400GB, iirc. Ideal scenario: I point an opensource media server at the content directories and my OSX and iOS playblack clients rock out. My LAN iOS devices are the most employed playback devices, followed by the OSX devices. I never even think about using the iOS devices to play back outside the LAN.
posted by mwhybark at 7:47 PM PST - 22 comments

What to do on a spontaneous Switzerland trip starting ASAP?

I'm flying from the US to Zurich tomorrow, solo, on a last-minute ~10 day trip. I'm looking to hike, take in art and architecture, marvel at functional railways, and move around the country a bit. Where should I go? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by theoddball at 7:05 PM PST - 15 comments

How do I know when to replace my rice cooker?

Hi everyone! I recently noticed that the bottom of my rice cooker looks a little more like metal and a little less like teflon. I don't want to eat teflon. Is it time to replace it? [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 4:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Learning how to learn again

Help me learn how to study, practice and actually accomplish new things [more inside]
posted by downtohisturtles at 3:43 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me tighten up my personal style

How do I shape up my personal style? I'm looking for resources (websites, books, specific brands, stores), ideas, advice and your own experiences. [more inside]
posted by jj's.mama at 2:50 PM PST - 17 comments

Question about staff management in a small office

I manage a small office with a dozen full-time staff, six of whom are direct reports. Last week, I sent an all-staff email outlining my expectations for how people should communicate with one another (don't text after hours unless it is an emergency, always communicate respectfully, and if you have an issue with another staff member, go talk to them directly them about it). I concluded the email by telling them that if they had comments or concerns about the email, please come and speak with me directly. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 2:09 PM PST - 18 comments

Mussels in water overnight. Can I eat them?

Accidentally left live mussels in a pot of water in the fridge overnight. Can they be cooked and eaten? Thanks!
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 1:33 PM PST - 11 comments

Best way to tag & filter poems, ideally in/across MS Word or gDocs?

Is there a good way to tag and search/filter MS Word or gDocs docs (in this case, poems) by a few criteria, e.g., author, time period, tone, subject matter? I want to be able to tag and then search for a doc with "carson," "modern," "humorous," and/or "pottery." I'm interested in a tagging/search mechanism, and not in search criteria. Additionally, I'm not searching for one poem I already have in mind but rather I want to serve up all the poems in my collection that are "x" "y" and/or "z." [more inside]
posted by cocoagirl at 12:54 PM PST - 4 comments

Lifetime guarantee question in a world with fewer lifetime guarantees

I've read this question (2011) and this question (2013) and now it's time to ask again. What products or retailers in 2018 actually have lifetime warranties or guarantees? [more inside]
posted by MoonOrb at 11:52 AM PST - 15 comments

Guys I have too many apricots.

What should I do with them all? Things I’ve already done: Fresh apricots for three meals a day, jam, fruit leather, canned in a simple syrup, apricot and brandy bread pudding. But I still have gallons and gallons of apricots. What should I make? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 11:12 AM PST - 26 comments

How to relieve a constipated 6-month-old?

Like it says on the tin. Details inside... [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 11:08 AM PST - 21 comments

Minecraft Server + Kubernetes + GCloud + ... multiple preemptible nodes?

I have questions about running Minecraft on Google Cloud using a Kubernetes cluster with multiple nodes. [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 11:05 AM PST - 2 comments

Is this why people buy that insurance?

I'm due to go to a retreat in northern California in a couple of weeks and the site is evacuated due to wildfires at the moment. I may end up with a plane ticket and no retreat to go to. Help me come up with a contingency plan vacation in/starting from the Bay Area that can be deployed on fairly short notice. [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 11:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Introducing a kitten to an existing cat

Hobbes (F, 10 weeks) came home a week ago and she's mostly getting along with the existing cat Nilly (F, 2 years), but sometimes she gets scared and hisses, and then Nilly gets affronted and and growls and bats. Sometimes Hobbes pees when this happens. I suspect they'll work it out, but any tips on breaking the cycle sooner rather than later? TIA!
posted by ftm at 10:31 AM PST - 5 comments

backpack solutions for wet / dry stuff

What are your recommendations for backpack solutions designed for a mixture of both wet and dry gear? [more inside]
posted by getting_back_on_track at 9:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Feeding my friends without giving them heatstroke

I have a couple of friends coming over for dinner this week. I need something to cook for them that won't overheat the kitchen of my small home, but a lot of traditional summer meal tactics won't work for Reasons. Please help me keep my party from turning into a sauna. [more inside]
posted by halation at 8:49 AM PST - 29 comments

What's a good way to think of one's own emotions?

Sometimes people say you have to "master" your emotions or that you not become a "slave" to them. The master-slave metaphor doesn't seem quite right to me because of its implied violence. What's a healthier way of thinking about emotions? Looking for succintness and clarity.
posted by storybored at 7:05 AM PST - 35 comments

Relocation Vacation?

I'm relocating to Portland, OR from the Charlotte metro area, and will be making the drive out next week. Help me find some rad places to stop on the way so the drive isn't a miserable slog the entire time. [more inside]
posted by daikaisho at 6:34 AM PST - 5 comments

OTC anti-acne regimen for teen boy?

My 17-year-old son has had persistent but relatively mild acne through his teen years, with occasional periods of more active breakouts. What over-the-counter products have you or your teen found to be effective? [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling at 6:09 AM PST - 22 comments

Moving. Is there a resource to update my new address with everyone?

I have maintained the same mailing address for many years. That person is moving very soon. How do I update my mailing address with everyone - magazines, bills, IRS, DMV etc. Do I have to call everyone individually? Is there a resource to do this in "one shot?" I'm sure that I will have to go to the local post office for starters, but what is the easiest way to do this? Thank you in advance [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Children's picture book identification: women and water

Friend needs help tracking down his favourite book from when he was a small child in Canada around 1990. Possibly named "Still Waters Run Deep", involving women in a watery cave. [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 5:48 AM PST - 2 comments

July 28

Raising kids to have a positive relationship with money [inheritance]

My children will be given a large amount of money when they reach adulthood. How can we best prepare them for this event? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:42 PM PST - 35 comments

Ethical/legal question re multiple jobs

Who should I talk to in my workplace or what kind of lawyer should I consult with this employment ethics/law question? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:42 PM PST - 5 comments

Is peridot an ethical gem?

Like it says on the tin: Is peridot an ethical gem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:42 PM PST - 19 comments

seeking stew recipe: easy, hearty, tomato-based, gobs of oil on top

I want to dump a few, mostly shelf-stable ingredients into my Instant Pot and come back to a hearty tomato-based stew, the kind that makes a meal all by itself. I like beans and whole grains, I like cheap cuts of meat cooked until they gelatinize, and I like puddles of oil floating on top. I especially like recipes that let me substitute widely to accommodate whatever's on sale or in my refrigerator already. What have you got for me?
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 9:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there a best season to start a sheet mulching project?

I am planning to do sheet mulching to my lawn and turn it into a dessert style garden. Due to the hot and dry weather, my lawn is basically gone but weeds, and it simply looks wasted. I have been collecting material for the project and am having this concern about when is best time to start, and so I can plan and move on to the next phase of arranging and planting. Let me know if there is a best time to start or it doesn't matter? [more inside]
posted by lanhan at 9:03 PM PST - 1 comment

A trip? Sure, my bag is already packed! But how?

After a long career where travel was mostly known well in advance, opportunities for short-notice fun travel are emerging. I have a fantasy of keeping a carry-on bag packed, ready to grab on the way out the door. But how do I pull that off? [more inside]
posted by dws at 8:15 PM PST - 17 comments

How creeped out should I be by this gadget outside my house?

This sound monitoring station was just installed on an electrical pole immediately outside the front door of my rowhouse. Should I be concerned, and what is it likely being used for? [more inside]
posted by sepviva at 7:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Two friends, 9.5 days, five lakes - road trip edition

My friend and I are planning a road trip! We will be leaving from upstate New York around noon on August 19th, returning sometime in the evening on the 28th. We have one single overarching goal: to swim in all five Great Lakes. [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter at 6:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Jasmine rice brand reccs please!!

It is time for us to buy a bag of jasmine rice. Looking at reviews on Amazon etc., no brand jumps out at me as being obviously superior. Got a favorite? Tell me about it please! [more inside]
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 6:20 PM PST - 7 comments

No More Distractions, Android Phone!

Does such an app or phone setup exist? Want to block everything except for phone, text messages, and email for hours at a time, preferably on a schedule. Maybe very limited web browsing - like no more than 5 minutes at a time. [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 5:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Turning down a job offer due to a long commute

I’m a pharmacist working for an insurance company. My job involves reviewing prior authorization cases, basically deciding whether or not to cover a non-formulary drug. It’s a pretty good position, allowing me to work from home (WFH), but it doesn’t have good job advancement potential. I recently interviewed for a WFH internal position that is the same pay rate but it has great potential for job advancement and looks great on resume. I heard from a reliable source that I’ll most likely be picked for the job. [more inside]
posted by missybitsy at 4:00 PM PST - 21 comments

How to use a TENs unit for stroke recovery?

I can't find information on the Internet about using a TENs unit for stroke recovery. Just pain relief. Can you point me to an Internet resource? Or answer a couple questions? [more inside]
posted by cda at 3:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Which game should I pick up next?

I need to have some fun and am looking to invest in a new PS4 game that I can sink some time into. I'm wondering if there are games I've missed that meet my criteria, or if anyone here can give me feedback on the games I'm considering. My criteria and thoughts on games I've played recently are behind the cut. [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 3:51 PM PST - 14 comments

boston, massachusetts, october 2, 1973

I'm trying to find a poem about René Wagler. The title was definitely "boston, massachusetts, [date]" but I don't remember the exact date; it might have been long after 1973. The poem leans heavily on Wagler's queerness and butchness, and in the last few lines, the speaker identifies with her, saying something like "We are always the ones who are dying." [more inside]
posted by haltingproblemsolved at 3:40 PM PST - 3 comments

How to track non-step fitness?

What's the best way to track my fitness/exercise goals...when my chosen exercise does not involve steps? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Please identify these Japanese ladies for me

I inherited these five bamboo Japanese ladies which were made sometime between WWI and WW2. Any information re their use much appreciated. Link
posted by lungtaworld at 2:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Le'go my LEGO?

We have a lot of LEGO in our family and I am considering whether to sell or give away some of it. I've always been solidly in the "KEEP IT, KEEP IT ALL" camp, so this is a strange turn for me and I'd love to hear the opinions of MeFites. Details about why we are even considering this heresy inside. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by ElizaMain at 2:25 PM PST - 17 comments

How bad is the Tenderloin in SF?

My coworkers have made Tenderloin sound like some sort of war zone, along with the general “we have a lot of homeless, you’ll see needles, etc.” I’ve lived in Harlem, LES and some parts of NYC that visiting friends thing are dangerous but are not. Is SF really that bad or scary to people who haven’t lived in a large city bad? [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 2:13 PM PST - 34 comments

Insulation choices in Victorian era house in NY

What are the pros and cons of adding various forms of insulation to a wood Victorian era house in NY? [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 2:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Fiddleleaf fig assassin: If I fits I pee on it edition

FIVE YEARS into cat detente, this criminal decided to start peeing in the pot of my most beloved plant. She has never peed outside of her litter box, ever, until I brought this plant home. So, 1) WHY? 2) How do I stop her 3) What kind of damage is this doing to the plant and how do I reverse it? [more inside]
posted by this-apoptosis at 1:30 PM PST - 11 comments

I (f) feel weird that my (m) husband lets his (f) friend paint his nails

My (m)husband lives abroad and he and his (f) platonic friend from out of town are hanging out. She is very attractive, a lot younger, and a wonderful person. She recently sent me a few pictures of their time together and including one with his nails painted, and mentioned she painted them. [more inside]
posted by jacobnayar at 1:16 PM PST - 25 comments

Who is the cartoon man that this sticker represents?

Hello! I am in Richmond, Virginia and I saw this sticker near a 7-11. Do you know who this is supposed to be? I've image-searched endlessly and can't find anything remotely like it. To me, it looks like a Futurama-ish version of a possibly real person. Many thanks.
posted by 41swans at 12:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Success stories for socially positive engineering?

It’s really easy to find accounts of engineering projects or companies doing harm to their communities, whether through cluelessness or malice. Where can I find success stories where engineers helped their communities or pushed for social justice using their skills? [more inside]
posted by fencerjimmy at 11:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Help save my habanero pepper plant

I have a container garden on my deck with different peppers. We had crazy rainfall yesterday and I just went outside to find that my habanero pepper plant was in the one container that I failed to punch in drainage holes. Sigh. Plant is covered in blooms but is now droopy/weepy. Leaves are still green, not yellowing. Can I save it? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 11:03 AM PST - 8 comments

Help identifying dystopian, post-nuclear sci-fi book

I read a book a few years back but can't remember enough identifying information to look for it again. I'd like to re-read it and find other books by the author. Basically, the main character starts as a kind of Droog in a dystopic, post-nuclear city, leaves the urban area and remakes himself into a mystical demi-demigod with a mutant, simian friend. I believe it was written in the late 70s to early 80s and the author's last name started with an 'A.' [more inside]
posted by Slothrop at 9:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Wheelchair Reviews, Please

I finally get a wheelchair, and I am so excited! Please help me find a manual wheelchair that will work for me. The durable medical equipment people will order what I want, but that means knowing what I want. I honestly don't know where to start. I'm seeking recommendations for review sites and any guides you may know of for picking, as well as any experience you have. While I am most interested in hearing from users and carers, I am 100% also hoping people with good internet skills will jump in with good resources! [more inside]
posted by stoneweaver at 9:03 AM PST - 8 comments

Accessible, Comprehensive Books for First Pregnancy

My baby sister is having a baby! Yay! She's asked me to help find a book or two to help her understand what her body is going through and what to expect. A little bit of snowflake after the fold. [more inside]
posted by MuChao at 8:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Help us find the endangered compact phone

Mrs Vegetable needs a new phone. We’re people from a simpler phone time and bewildered in the modern marketplace. She has three requirements (small size, continued updates, not super expensive), which seem to be mutually incompatible. Do you know of a unicorn phone we’re missing? [more inside]
posted by a robot made out of meat at 8:53 AM PST - 10 comments

An American with 24 unexpected hours in Munich

I was supposed to be stopping in Munich for a couple of hours on my way to Krakow, but the Munich airport was a disaster today and it turns out I can’t get on a flight to Krakow until 9pm tomorrow. Bummer! But maybe not, because I’m on a work trip, so my annoying expenses are covered. Snowflakes after the jump. [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 8:46 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I know the copper IUD is safe?

I've had my IUD for nearly 5 years and haven't thought much about it. Yesterday I saw the Netflix documentary about botched insertion/removal of (or just generally harmful) medical devices "Bleeding Edge." Many of the women who had been affected negatively by the Essure had been reassured that it was safe before and after it had been inserted. The documentary insists that people within the pharmaceutical industry pushed Essure onto the market despite concerns that it could cause harm. [more inside]
posted by eisforcool at 8:14 AM PST - 13 comments

How to request a long overdue pay raise?

With a scheduled performance review coming up, it has been suggested to ask ahead of time for a rate increase. What is the normal timing for this? The company has had some difficulties and for several years had a freeze on salaries. Currently working at the same rate for the last 3 years, with an excellent record and 12 years with the same company. Is asking for a 10G increase on 80G reasonable? Last increase was 5G.
posted by silvergirlwon at 7:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Advice for baby's first loooong road trip

As part of a move from Toronto to Vancouver, I'll be driving our car alone across the country this August. I've never done a road trip longer than 6 hours before, so I'm a little anxious... [more inside]
posted by Beardman at 6:20 AM PST - 30 comments

Duets w/ singers just having a helluva good time in the recording studio

I really like duets where--in addition to being good and fun songs--it is also clear that the singers were just having shitloads of fun in the studio. Bonus points for laughing and goofing around! Examples within. [more inside]
posted by duffell at 6:16 AM PST - 35 comments

What should I do about my relationships with my parents?

I grew up in a very dysfunctional household. I'm now 24. My parents seem to blame me for my disability and just told me that they're thinking about giving up on me, though my mom is willing to chat online at least one more time, tomorrow. Is it possible to have healthy relationships with them? [more inside]
posted by Psychology Hearts at 12:37 AM PST - 18 comments

July 27

Motivated by Divorce, Asperger’s or Something Else?

We have a romantic history that has played out in nonstop conversation over several decades. Then this past year, we got serious. Most of our relationship takes place over daily email and phone calls since he lives in another country, and I live in the U.S. But we recently met up, and had a fabulous time. The trouble is only a few weeks after I got home, my partner suddenly wrote and said he doesn’t want to provide for me if I relocate to be with him. It turns out, he is counting on a possible inheritance to provide for me instead, and has been giving me advice to help make that happen, all of which he disclosed in his note. My long-distance partner is diagnosed with Aspergers and is currently dividing up his assets as a prelude to divorce. Can you give me your best guess as to how he is reasoning? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:06 PM PST - 32 comments

Strategies for pre-work anxiety

Help me stop wasting a whole whack of my time worrying before every shift? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:06 PM PST - 7 comments

bureaucracy, phone & reasearch skils: helpful for potential voters?

Like many, I'm pissed that getting registered to vote and knowing when/where to vote in the USA is often harder than it should be. Anecdotally, I know some people are frustrated at the processes. I'm really good at beaurocratic stuff. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I park in NYC without crying?

My sob story and my plans are below the fold. Basically I need help knowing where to park on the cheap and easy. [more inside]
posted by turtlefu at 8:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Hole in Flexsteel Kashmira sofa fabric

The local furniture superstore has a Flexsteel couch in Kashmira on crazy clearance. It has a small (one inch?) vertical tear in the back, which doesn't show because the couch will go against a wall.
  1. Will the hole likely spread over time? There won't be any extra impact or load on that spot.
  2. Could we stitch it up with fine thread and a tiny needle? Or would those holes weaken it even more?
Thanks!!
posted by wenestvedt at 7:29 PM PST - 6 comments

No interest in food except thin liquids. Help!

I was sick for the past week with a bad respiratory bug. I lost any interest in eating. It's been two days since the respiratory symptoms have left but I still can't get myself to eat actual food. WTF? How do I cope? [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 6:52 PM PST - 20 comments

Are Business Coaches worth the investment?

Looking for personal experiences, positive or negative, with hiring a business coach for growing and further developing a small, soul proprietor business! [more inside]
posted by bleedfoot at 6:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me replace my motorcycle boots!

I have a hand-me-down pair of Red Wing motorcycle boots, model 969. That style has been discontinued for a while. This pair is starting to reach its last legs - recommend me something similar, please? [more inside]
posted by hanov3r at 2:01 PM PST - 11 comments

name that musical genre

Is there a name for that current musical genre made up of glitchy loops of old jazz and lounge music (particularly piano and female voice), usually accompanied by a mellow electronic beat? And what are some of your favorites?
posted by moonmilk at 2:00 PM PST - 28 comments

What is this thing? Mystery bottle in a box.

Found in an old basement in the northeast USA: A glass bottle very thoroughly enclosed in a wooden box. Not sure how old it is. No writing on the box. photos
posted by evilmomlady at 1:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Batch Sorting Question, Specific to DNA-based Genealogy

I am trying to sort my entire list of DNA matches on GEDmatch in a way that will let me carve out only a set of people related to an ancestor I cannot otherwise identify. [more inside]
posted by jefficator at 1:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Manager says there are rumors, tactics or another issue?

Put in a request for unpaid leave according to some company rules of saved-up hours for that purpose, which I want to use for finishing a degree, not related to my current job, that I am paying for myself. In a meeting with my manager they haven't agreed just yet, but have said there are rumors about me by some coworkers that I don't do enough or not the right tasks, it's not very clear. Although my numbers are fine. This is the second time this has happened in a couple of months. My studies are delayed, which means I'm paying an extra half year tuition cost (if I hurry). Is this for real, a problem of my coworkers with me? Or is this just tactics? Details below. [more inside]
posted by Litehouse at 1:14 PM PST - 16 comments

What's The Best Way For Me To (Binge) Watch The World Cup?

I missed this year's World Cup entirely - how can I watch highlights of all the games, preferably in the order they were played, and without having the results exposed?
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 1:04 PM PST - 3 comments

Is reamping in home recording with it?

I want to record more clean, thorough guitar parts and add efx & manipulations afterward—can anyone tell me whether reamping is the answer? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 12:47 PM PST - 7 comments

Is there a specific term for this type of figure of speech?

Sometimes a central element or character from a story becomes a figure of speech that is used as a shorthand to describe similar things and situations. Examples of this include ugly duckling, Gordian knot, Achilles heel, and Trojan horse. When you use one of these phrases to describe something, they bring along with them the full story that they come from. All the examples I can think of are noun phrases, though there may be some that aren't. What are these called? The closest term I've found is metonym, but is there something more specific? [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 12:06 PM PST - 19 comments

Help me identify this plant growing in my yard?

I'm trying to identify this plant that is currently growing in my (untended for several years) flower bed. Can you help me? Here are some photos. [more inside]
posted by ErWenn at 12:01 PM PST - 10 comments

Colleague is leaving, and I am last standing. Advise me!

My product was acquired by a small company from a larger company, who told us we'd all have jobs if we declined going. That turns out not to be exactly true; they thought we'd all go and were unprepared when a few of us remained. They reorganized us into a very volatile, layoff prone department. Now my counterpart is leaving. [more inside]
posted by OneSmartMonkey at 11:27 AM PST - 6 comments

want to jump into microscopy photography: re: gear, stuffs to shoot

Need to pick microscoping tool of some kind, and a method to photograph what I see, at at least 4000x4000 pixels. What do I want to microscope? More after ze jump. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 11:26 AM PST - 5 comments

How much does 15k get you?

I’m looking at a job promotion of about 15k. There will be some significant life changes (different office and team), so basically starting new. Is it worth it? What’s the impact of 15k a year additional? [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 11:18 AM PST - 15 comments

Why is my Pixel 2 mic so sensitive?

I have a new Pixel 2 (the small size). Using a headset, I've noticed that it picks up a lot of background noise on phone calls. How to search for a solution? [more inside]
posted by JamesBay at 10:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Turning a Galaxy Tab 2 Into a library point

I got gifted a Galaxy Tab 2 recently and it doesn’t fill a need my phone/iPad can’t cover. Ware some alternative uses for the thing? I want to turn it into a dedicated New York Public Library e-book and audio book point of access. What apps or downloads would I need to do that? (We plan to use it as a house and we both have NYPL accounts) What other ways could I make it into a “here’s where you get access to free media” point?
posted by The Whelk at 10:19 AM PST - 2 comments

Do solar shades block all UV rays?

Uva and UVB [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 10:14 AM PST - 3 comments

Your recommendations for a career coach

I've spent the last ten years desperately flailing, career-wise, and need some help. Please give me your recommendations for coaches/career coaches who can get me on track for a productive, fulfilling life. [more inside]
posted by foxy_hedgehog at 9:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Grammar/usage: affect versus effect

This sentence, "Sarah felt good knowing she could ______ positive change." is presented to you on a test. The two possible answers provided are A) affect and B) effect. You chose B and your answer is marked as incorrect. Is this an obvious mistake on the part of the test-preparer or does "affect" work as the better answer? [more inside]
posted by fuse theorem at 9:31 AM PST - 14 comments

Etiquette on hiring a house cleaner

I'm looking to hire a house cleaner and wondering about etiquette. [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 9:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Thought-provoking email newsletters for the inquisitive?

I was hopeful some of you would be able to suggest some good old fashioned email newsletters to feed my curiosity. [more inside]
posted by kmkrebs at 9:04 AM PST - 19 comments

Dog jealous of girlfriend

How do I get a jealous dog to warm up to new girlfriend? [more inside]
posted by kabong the wiser at 8:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Using my own domain with Gmail - definitive edition

What's the definitive way to configure the iOS Mail app to use a Gmail alias? Every option I've seen or tried has a number of compromises and all of them have a distinctly Heath Robinson/Rude Goldberg feel! [more inside]
posted by mr_silver at 7:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Milwaukee/Racine/SE Wisconsin Area - Nice bike ride with kids?

Milwaukee/Racine/SE Wisconsin - Looking for a nice bike ride of about ~10-15 miles suitable for a family with kids. [more inside]
posted by Mid at 7:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Took my car in to get it repaired, but the repair did not fix the issue

So... now what? I have no idea what to do about this situation and I am feeling overwhelmed. My Nissan Altima has been having difficulty starting lately. I took it in to get it repaired, I was quoted $1400 for a new steering lock to correct the problem. The car still wouldn't start for me when I went to pick it up from the dealership. So... I honestly don't know what I paid for or what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Real-life based math problem

On my daily commute back home, I drive past ~15 gas stations. In my country, gas prices change daily and vary a bit from one station to the next. So that got me thinking: What would be the best method to decide whether to fill your tank on the station you're currently in front of or lose the current price forever and take your chances on the remaining stations? Assume each station sets their daily price randomly (but they are all within a $1 range), and we start with the reference of the price we paid last time. Note: I can easily keep track of the lowest price on my way to work and then fill up on the way home, but I am more interested in the math problem than the practical issue.
posted by fjom at 7:10 AM PST - 9 comments

millennial straining to see...the future, yes, but also computer screens

I am 33. My work involves about 10-12 hours a day of reading-- I'd estimate about 80% on a laptop or ipad, these days. My new prescription reading glasses (+0.75 ADD) help sporadically and unpredictably. I'm between insurance plan atm-- help me get sorted! [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 4:26 AM PST - 16 comments

[RecipeFilter] Leftover Milk Chocolate, Summer Edition

I have a lot of leftover plain milk chocolate (stuff like this). I'd like to make something with it, because nobody in this house is going to eat a ton of plain chocolate. Difficulty level: I'd like something summer-y, ie. light and cold and creamy and ... somehow... less chocolate-y, so no brownies, fudges, chocolate chip cookies, etc. Give me recipes, please!
posted by gakiko at 1:59 AM PST - 17 comments

How to avoid one-sided conversations with people I like?

Dear Hivemind, I sometimes get trapped in conversations where after a while I desperately want to get out of the situation but cannot. This happens even with people I like, mostly in confined spaces like cars and trains, but also in other situations where it is not easy to remove oneself from a conversation. [more inside]
posted by Triton at 12:54 AM PST - 20 comments

July 26

How to stop being controlling over boyfriend?

Am I controlling or he is to avoidant? [more inside]
posted by dadaxiang1204 at 10:33 PM PST - 35 comments

Collection of personal statements on gender from trans folks

Is there anything out there like a compendium of trans people's writing about what it means to be a man or woman to them? Looking for a diversity of voices as specific to that question as possible, so not a single person's memoir or a treatise on gender. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:15 PM PST - 13 comments

License Plate of Beans - Bay State Edition

Can anyone explain the algorithm for determining the letters/numbers on a Massachusetts license plate? I was driving across Massachusetts on the Mass Pike today, so had a lot of time to look at license plates. I don’t understand the reasoning behind where the letters and numbers are. [more inside]
posted by Betelgeuse at 8:07 PM PST - 5 comments

I rescued a cat, and I hate her

All she does is bite me and cost me money. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 8:01 PM PST - 68 comments

"My Coloring Book" chords for ukulele

I'm just learning to play the ukulele, and I would like to learn the song "My Coloring Book." It's been recorded/sung by Andy Williams, Barbara Streisand, Aretha Franklin, and many others. I can't seem to find the chords/tabs anywhere though. I'm musically illiterate - how do I find this?
posted by ohsnapdragon at 6:50 PM PST - 2 comments

Physical expressions of affection, pls

I would like to expand my repertoire of ways to physically express affection. What I'm hoping to receive by way of answers are tons of tiny little things like "she puts her hand on the back of my neck while I'm fumbling for the keys to front door" or "he kisses the top of my head while I'm reading the newspaper over breakfast." Go!
posted by HotToddy at 6:07 PM PST - 39 comments

Hi, have we met? Sorry, bad with faces. What did we talk about again?

How do I handle meeting someone that I may or may not have met before? [more inside]
posted by gray17 at 5:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Learning from Others' Mistakes: Baby Edition

What kinds of things did you receive or buy for your baby that you ended up not using, and why? What kinds of things did you not receive or buy that you had to scramble to obtain or wish you'd gotten, and why?
posted by juniperesque at 5:13 PM PST - 45 comments

Does CBT work for seemingly genetic panic & anxiety?

My family doctor suggested CBT therapy as an alternative to SSRI’s for generalized anxiety & panic. I’m considering it, but I’m skeptical. [more inside]
posted by ElisaOS at 5:12 PM PST - 14 comments

Analysis of time between Host / Guest on podcasts

Looking for a way to efficiently log the amount of time interviews are split between the host and the guest. This is for a video podcast between two people. Example: Host is speaking (and camera is on them): 45% of the time. Guest speaks 55% Of course, I could sit with a stopwatch and do it manually. But is there any software available that does this analysis?
posted by queue_strategy at 5:07 PM PST - 2 comments

Online vs Offline Family Trees

I have access to Ancestry.com through my university library so I don't have an individual account with them. I do not wish to spend money on offline software as I'm struggling a bit financially right now but I am concerned about using free web-based family trees. [more inside]
posted by acidnova at 4:49 PM PST - 6 comments

Privacy-conscious nutrition/activity trackers: do they exist?

I am searching for tools to assist in tracking nutrition info and physical activity. The popular options today all appear to require signing up for accounts, mostly linking via facebook. I want something that will track this information locally, rather than shipping all my precious bodily fluids information to The Cloud. [more inside]
posted by jraenar at 3:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Concerned About Anesthesia Reaction. What To Do Next?

I'm worried and frustrated after my last dental procedure. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 3:39 PM PST - 13 comments

I Need These Basket-y Things! Help!

Here they are. Where can I buy them? They are precious and I must have them. [more inside]
posted by orsonet at 3:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Birchbox, but not so make-upy? Lush, but a subscription?

I've done two months of Birchbox and I love the idea, but they don't have much for a cis woman who doesn't wear makeup. Who does? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 3:11 PM PST - 11 comments

understanding ideation

Is it possible to have suicidal ideation without actually being considered suicidal? I'm asking for my mid-1980s junior high self. I never took any action towards self-harm, but I spent a lot of time fantasizing how "they'd miss me if I was gone." (Don't worry, I've had plenty of therapy in the decades since and feel thankful for where I am in life.)
posted by anonymous at 3:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Are indoor smokeless grills worth the money?

My husband and I are in the process of buying a condo, yay! Alas, the tiny, tiny deck out back is really not big enough to safely use a grill -- it's narrow enough that the grill would be right up against the side of the building. My husband loves grilling, and is sad at the idea of not being able to, so I was wondering if one of those indoor smokeless grills might be a good option. Does anyone have one? Recommendations for a good one? And how the heck are they smokeless, anyway? Where does the smoke go??
posted by sarcasticah at 2:46 PM PST - 15 comments

How to extract a .cab file without Winzip?

So, my work computer has windows 10, and doesn't have WinZip. I have a .cab file from which I need to extract the source files in their original folder structure. Help? [more inside]
posted by janell at 2:41 PM PST - 10 comments

decent sources for remanufactured/rebuilt honda engine

hi guys. so. I know this is a controversial topic - are rebuilt engines worth it - but that isn't my question. My question is, does any one know of any suppliers of rebuilt/remanufactured honda engines (including passenger vehicle engines) that come with a decent warranty? Has any one had any good, so-so, or awful experiences with any particular vendors of said item, eg honoring or not honoring a parts/labor warranty, when it came down to it? My bar isn't that high, just thought I might find a way to make this decision a bit less of a jab in the dark. thanks bunches..
posted by elgee at 2:40 PM PST - 3 comments

intermittent internet connection only on laptops, phone OK

I bought a new Windows 10 laptop last week. I've been using it with no problems on home wifi and at a friend's (secured). Today I went to a coffee shop and used public wifi. When I got home all was well at first and then the internet slowed to a crawl. My iPhone had normal speeds the entire time and had also been connected to the coffee shop wifi. Here are things I tried. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 1:18 PM PST - 10 comments

What trashy reality TV should I be watching?

It’s too late now for me to catch up on Love Island. I finished Jersey Shore: Family Vacation already. I loved the original Teen Mom but Teen Mom: OG isn’t doing it for me. What trashy reality TV from 2018 should I be watching? (If reality TV isn’t your thing, just walk on by. All the more for me to watch!)
posted by whitewall at 1:17 PM PST - 23 comments

How safe are Money Orders?

I'll (hopefully) be selling my car this weekend via craigslist, which is a new experience for me. In addition to cash, I'm thinking that I could also offer to accept a money order as there is a Western Union branch located a block away, but are there potential scams I need to look out for? [more inside]
posted by veery at 1:07 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me GMOB (get my own blog)

I would like to have a blog about my garden/gardening adventures/failures/gardening education etc. But what platform is best for my needs? [more inside]
posted by Homo neanderthalensis at 12:38 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a great Portland (ME) Tattoo Artist

I will be getting a tattoo in the Portland area. Can you recommend a great artist? Looking for color, possibly watercolor.
posted by freshwater at 11:34 AM PST - 1 comment

What dog breeds would be most suitable for our family?

We are considering getting a dog (well, the rest of the family thinks it's a forgone conclusion, but I'm a little leery) and I am trying to figure out what breeds might fit us best. I'm finding that to be really hard. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 11:01 AM PST - 72 comments

Best shoes ever - BBBB design on sole?

I have the best shoes ever - the perfect simple black leather ballet flat, except they're sadly degrading and have a hole in the side. It's time to replace them, but I can't figure out what brand they are. They have a design on the sole (pic here:) which is four B's in a square. Any idea what brand they may be? If it helps, they were purchased in Canada from a slightly upscale shoe store which carries a wide variety of shoe styles.
posted by valoius at 10:03 AM PST - 6 comments

Typewriter newbie seeks entrance to the shadowy world of mechanical type

I want to buy a typewriter! Tell me what kind of typewriter I want. [more inside]
posted by DSime at 9:53 AM PST - 14 comments

Recommend a bike for a college campus

What is a good used bike for a college student? Son needs a bike for college campus as dorm is a mile from the educational buildings. Will be buying used off craigslist and budget is $150 - $300. What do you recommend I look for? Right now I see a Trek 820 Antelope 21 speed for $145 which I think would be a good fit .
posted by sweatyone at 9:43 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me help you help me.

I have a mid-year performance review coming up. Please help me voice my performance needs and concerns to my boss. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:07 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I create a collage of image submissions from a large group?

I'm looking for a free, low-effort way to have a bunch of different people send or submit images... somewhere (text message? web interface?). And then to have all the images display automatically on a single page, ideally in a compact collage-like format. Lots of online poll-type tools will do this with text, but is there a way to do it with pictures? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 8:16 AM PST - 1 comment

Online index of monthly major magazine articles

I'm looking for a website that shows contents of current and past issues of major magazines. [more inside]
posted by lometogo at 8:09 AM PST - 7 comments

Donating prescription medication

Is there an organization I can donate sodium diclofenac to? I'll take them to an unwanted drug dropoff if I have to, but I'd really rather someone got to use them. [more inside]
posted by aniola at 7:57 AM PST - 2 comments

Walking in the woods. Should I worry about Lyme disease?

I walk in the woods a lot; in the summer w/ sandals. It is a asphalt path; wide enough for a small truck, and I stick to the middle. I hate the idea that there might be a danger from ticks simply by a walk outdoors, but thats what everyone says.
posted by ebesan at 7:49 AM PST - 17 comments

Best way to mask bass sound from outside (temporarily)

There's a temporary event (a travelling funfair) close to my house. The event has bassy speakers playing EDM non-stop from about 10am to 11pm - the bass is annoying, especially at night when it's otherwise quiet, but not especially loud because the event is about 100 metres away. It's there for the next two weeks. How can I best mask the bass in my house for the duration of the event? [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 7:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Cactus patterned men's button down?

Yesterday I was with a visiting professor who had the coolest shirt. Our relationship is too tenuous for me to reach out to him to find out where he got it, but maybe one of you MeFites can help me snag it for my husband for his birthday? [more inside]
posted by House of Leaves of Grass at 6:34 AM PST - 9 comments

Who are some artists that peaked with their first album?

I'm compiling a playlist of artists whose first albums were their (arguably) best ones in the context of their whole work. Help me! [more inside]
posted by archimago at 4:59 AM PST - 78 comments

Fun coding project!

I've been asked to build a relatively simple and feature-lite inventory management system. I want to do it in Python, and I need a nice GUI also. But I'm a beginner in Python, and I'm not sure how to approach it. Can you tell me what I need to learn to do this? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 12:09 AM PST - 15 comments

July 25

What are some unusual text-based and text-adjacent games?

I'm wondering about unusual computer and video games which are either text-based, or convey a significant portion of their experience in text format. No conventional interactive fiction here, hit me with the strange and unfamiliar. :) [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 10:12 PM PST - 18 comments

Drill team versus cheerleading versus dance team

Every year my neighborhood parade has some drill teams. Many of them are full of young women of color. The parents seem very involved. I want to know more about this and how it differs from other groups. [more inside]
posted by k8t at 8:37 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me ID this Broadway song -- possibly Sondehim?

I'm thinking of a song but can't find it. It's a comedic ode to New York City, sort of like "all these terrible things; god I love this town." I think it's Sondheim, but from a show that failed or otherwise isn't one of his classic hits. It's definitely a musical theater song, sung by one person. Halp!
posted by BlahLaLa at 6:51 PM PST - 10 comments

I used to be into cameras. Where should I start?

I used to love cameras and be good with cameras. That was 15 years ago. I'd like to get a full sensor DSLR, good for beginners, that might be good for someone who would like to take photography seriously. What should I get? Planning to use this for travel photography. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 6:47 PM PST - 29 comments

Pregnant and Put on a PIP at Work

I've been put on a PIP at work and am not certain how to proceed. Normally I'd look for another job, but I'm five months into my pregnancy and it's visible. This PIP is transparently designed to push me out since it has no timeline and I wasn't given any goals to meet. What I do? [more inside]
posted by Yoko Ono's Advice Column at 6:42 PM PST - 36 comments

Volunteering for the hyper-mobile!

I'd like to volunteer for something! However, I'm mobile and transient, don't think I'll be in the same place for more than two years at a time in the near future, and occasionally go for fairly long periods without internet accesss. In an ideal world, I'd love to do something like Big Brothers Big Sisters, but I don't have the ability to commit to something in one place for a lengthy period of time. How can I do some good for the world from wherever I end up, and where I am now? [more inside]
posted by ChuraChura at 5:34 PM PST - 12 comments

Are the lenses truly different between major eyeglass chains?

I'm going to choose between Pearle Vision and LensCrafters because those two chains are the most convenient for me, but I'm curious if their thinnest and "most high-tech" lenses are truly different from each other or just rebranding of the same lens technology and material. Are there any eyeglass industry experts who know? Specifically, Pearle's PEARLETHIN HD versus Lenscrafters' LC-HD ENHANCED VIEW.
posted by oion at 5:26 PM PST - 6 comments

Excel formula to return closest friday 30 days out.

Our accounting department wants us to put our invoice due date as the friday before the actual due date 30 days out and I would like to automate it. Please help [more inside]
posted by Uncle at 5:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Resources to help me sing my songs better.

Are there online resources that teach techniques for approaching the phrasing and interpretation of songs in the most effective way (not so much the technical aspects of singing, but the interpretation of songs)? [more inside]
posted by Grangousier at 5:14 PM PST - 1 comment

Texting for Democratic Candidates

For which Democratic campaigns can I volunteer by texting from home? [more inside]
posted by diamondsky at 4:51 PM PST - 8 comments

What device do I need?

I need to set up my new admin assistant with some kind of device, and I don't even know where to start. Requirements are inside! [more inside]
posted by JubileeRubaloo at 3:14 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me become a better person with inspirational women

I feel like a petty, insecure child stuck in an adult female body. I’m looking for inspirational interviews or pieces about interesting, compassionate and/or unconventional women to inspire me to be a better person. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 13 comments

Is this reasonable, unreasonable, unethical, or illegal?

Insurance apparently refuses to pay part of an old bill, so the dentist is billing me for it--which is fine--but they've added a 90-days-late fee to the charge even though I was in the office on June 6, have a receipt saying "balance due now: $0.00," and the newest bill is dated June 30th. I don't think it's reasonable to charge me this late fee. [more inside]
posted by johnofjack at 2:53 PM PST - 9 comments

What kind of hand saw will help me cut through this?

I need to cut through 1/8" thick plywood, but my hacksaw stops halfway. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 2:21 PM PST - 16 comments

Please tell me everything you've made with lavender.

I have a mind-boggling amount of freshly dried lavender flowers, some dried in bundles and a lot of loose flower buds. Please help me figure out what to do with them! [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 1:43 PM PST - 27 comments

Graphic novel newbie seeks reads

I want to start reading women centered, women authored, graphic novels and need recs. [more inside]
posted by Archipelago at 12:49 PM PST - 40 comments

outlook for mac question regarding inserting date/time stamp in contacts

is there a way to add to the quick access toolbar in outlook, UNDER CONTACTS .... UNDER NOTES.... a date / time stamp button? [more inside]
posted by foodybat at 12:06 PM PST - 3 comments

You're just YARN! How can you take up so much SPACE??

My workplace is full of knitters, stitchers, crocheters, and quilters. At our homes, we have bottomless piles of yarn and fabric that were once beloved but are now a source of anxiety and resentment. Help me plan a swap/destash event that will find loving homes for unwanted yarn and fabric. [more inside]
posted by 2or3things at 11:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Friend's birthday gift: a ticket she already declined due to cost?

I have a great birthday gift idea for my friend - except I can't decide if it will make her feel awkward or uncomfortable... [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 11:39 AM PST - 19 comments

What should we see in Japan in Nov/Dec?

Spouse and I will be in Tokyo while I attend a workshop November 26-30. We're planning to add a second week to our trip and do some sightseeing! Where should we plan to go? And should our extra week be the 3rd week of November or the 1st week of December? [more inside]
posted by heatherlogan at 10:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Best/most scenic route between Chicago and Orlando?

I need to travel from the Chicago area to the Florida coast east of Orlando (near Brevard/Indian River counties). For Reasons this needs to be a road trip, and I'm looking for route recommendations/places to stop to make it as pleasant as possible. [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 10:29 AM PST - 13 comments

South Kaibab Trail to Ooh Aah Point: How Risky Before Dawn?

We're taking our twelve-year-old nieces to the Grand Canyon. I'm trying to gauge the risk of taking the pre-dawn Hikers' Express shuttle to the South Kaibab Trailhead in order to get to Ooh Aah Point before dawn, see the sunrise, and then hike back out. [more inside]
posted by fedward at 10:12 AM PST - 12 comments

Using Uber or Lyft with a young child from Newark Airport

What do you do when traveling with a young child from Newark Airport? A family member needs a ride from the airport tomorrow, and she will not have a car seat. What are her options?
posted by Four-Eyed Girl at 9:35 AM PST - 18 comments

Areas in DC that remind you of Baltimore or Philadelphia

It's looking like I may have to move to DC from my beloved Philadelphia. Are there any areas in/around the city that remind you of Philly or Baltimore (I love Baltimore, too)? Ideally cheaper areas? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 7:59 AM PST - 22 comments

Help me find this half-remembered Golden Age SF story!

Just what the title says. Hazy details within. [more inside]
posted by xenization at 7:25 AM PST - 3 comments

Operation: Transcontinental Kayak Transfer

My wife and I need to figure out how to get a pair of kayaks from central Florida to Minneapolis for the smallest possible amount of money. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 7:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Orphaned by my boss, I am scared

My boss is leaving our company. He says my own job should be secure. Help convince me of that - or brace me for starting the search now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Adult self-harmer seeking help

Adult self-harmer seeking help [trigger warning] [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Consultant meltdown on my committee—can I leave the ball in his court?

The “expert consultant” my committee pays to advise on major issues just had a meltdown in one of our meetings and threatened all of us with a grievance and perhaps a lawsuit when we asked for details about his planned course of action on a particular case. I’m not worried at all about his complaint, as we were well within our rights to hold him accountable as we did (and in fact would be remiss in our duties if we did not). However, I am seeking tactical advice on whether I need to approach him to smooth things over or just leave the ball in his court and see if he has the courage to actually follow through on his threats? What factors should I take into consideration when assessing the situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Am I Typhoid Mary if I don't use wipes?

What is household safe clean and what is put- down- the-lysol you have issues unnecessary? I'm rethinking cleaning routines with a new house, switching to greener cleaning products etc. Other people's cleaning routines involve so much bleach, especially bleach wipes. Outside of hospitals, I have never used these. To me, nothing beats soap, hot water and a good scrub. My children grew up in very unhygenic conditions and so did I despite relative wealth. You bathed when visibly dirty. Everything was boiled and if it tasted funny, you just needed a stronger stomach. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 2:22 AM PST - 39 comments

July 24

Twitter Free Tweet Reading

I'd like to follow a bunch of twitter accounts without myself signing up. What's the best way? [more inside]
posted by mark k at 10:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Give a dog a bone?

My German Shepherd LOVES bones. How do I prepare the bones I purchased so they are safe to leave out for him? [more inside]
posted by ananci at 8:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Is this an okay tattoo? How do I get it?

I am a decidedly White person. I want to get a quote from the Upanishads tattooed on my body. It's something I've wanted for ten years. My question is twofold. More under the cut. [more inside]
posted by dogheart at 8:17 PM PST - 69 comments

How do I HR [Accommodations Edition]?

I manage HR for a small nonprofit. An employee has requested accommodations for a mental health condition. I have no formal training and my employer offers no policies or guidance. Please help me figure out how to figure out what this employee needs and how to provide it. [snowflakes inside] [more inside]
posted by Fish, fish, are you doing your duty? at 7:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Afternoon hangout near OAK

I'm picking up a friend at Oakland Airport in a few days. I'd like to take her to a coffeeshop or somewhere else that we can hang out for 3 hours till we go back to pick up another friend. Can you recommend a place that will be open through 5 PM, is within a 15-20 minute drive (even Alameda), is a comfortable place with wifi and coffee, has parking, and has some character? (She's new to the West Coast and it'd be nice to hang out in something other than a Starbucks if possible.)
posted by wintersweet at 7:39 PM PST - 13 comments

Crafters: Where do you get your hardest-to-find supplies?

I don't care what your craft is (but please, do tell!). I'd like to know what supplies you have had a hard time finding, and where you get said item(s) from now. [more inside]
posted by wwartorff at 6:30 PM PST - 11 comments

British Comedy: Origin of "No" as "Neeeeeewwwwww ... "

In "Hot Fuzz", Martin Freeman's cameo/character says "no" in a particular way here. I get the feeling it's a reference to a particular British comedy bit (Python?). Anyone know the source or what I'm talking about?
posted by WCityMike at 5:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Name that old classical piece?

Help please for identifying this Russian (I think) classical music piece from a 1960s/1970s LP record. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by rolypolyman at 5:16 PM PST - 3 comments

What kind of ship is this?

This was spotted near Naval Base San Diego, and identifying it has been driving us nuts. The profile does not correspond to anything we can find. Help us, AskMe!
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 4:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Instant Pot Filter: Jiu Niang

So you've made jiu niang in the instant pot! I want your recipe/directions! [more inside]
posted by driedmango at 4:29 PM PST - 3 comments

Covering a sliding door for an air conditioner

It’s apparently never going to be pleasant in Seattle again, so I am looking at how difficult it would be to get a portable air conditioner for our apartment. Difficulty level: sliding glass door that we use daily. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 3:43 PM PST - 22 comments

Does the coin toss determine the outcome

Does the winner of the NFL opening coin toss win the games more often? Which team has the highest win percent of the coin toss? Excluding any OT games. [more inside]
posted by brent at 3:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Best website blocker for seniors

I'm looking for recommendations to restrict website use for an Alzheimer's patient. [more inside]
posted by transient at 3:00 PM PST - 6 comments

How do you pronounce poem?

Poem - Verse, piece of poetry. [more inside]
posted by narancia at 2:33 PM PST - 45 comments

What is the best content about the Stonewall Riot?

What is all the best content about the Stonewall Riot and the people involved? I'm looking for documentaries, articles, books, interviews, photos, videos, memes, etc. Anything about Stonewall, the participants, and its impact (marches, new organizations, societal changes, etc.). Thanks for any suggestions!
posted by andoatnp at 1:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Living off the land for the modern age

I'm looking for blogs, podcasts, etc. that cover topics related to "outdoorsmanship." [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 1:53 PM PST - 12 comments

How have you managed in-home care for your ageing parent?

My parents are in their 80’s and managing to remain pretty independent, but will probably need an increased level of support in the near future. They have looked into the possibility of senior/assisted living and are sort of open to it, but not convinced it’s right for them. While it seems like a better option, I want to help lay out all the possibilities. [more inside]
posted by amusebuche at 1:52 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I navigate a new life in Montreal, now with passenger on board?

Three months ago, my husband’s job led us to move from a mining town in Ontario to Montreal. This is the latest in a very long series of moves I have made in my life, and instead of getting better at managing them I seem to be getting worse. Please help me see a way to navigate the latest geographical dislocation in my life successfully, along with the seismic shift caused by the impending arrival of our first child. [more inside]
posted by Diomedea at 1:49 PM PST - 10 comments

Video editing on Windows Laptop for old n00b

My dad, 60-plus, wants to get in to editing family videos that he has taken on a camcorder. Looking for advice on- Minimum spec for a laptop to do handle this (ideally someone saying "buy this laptop for £x and it'll do a decent job"). What software should he use- does windows have a bundled video editing program as standard that would do the job, or would a modest purchase of some bespoke software be so user friendly that it is worth the price? (I'd rather stick with Windows rather than Mac because of price, and because I'll no doubt be the helpdesk for any issues, and I'm more familiar with Windows than Mac.) Topline budget of £500 for laptop (and software if reqd) seem reasonable? [more inside]
posted by Gratishades at 1:41 PM PST - 4 comments

How to select a psychologist from a long list?

I need to line up counseling to improve communication and problem-solving skills between two adults. My insurance provider shows a list of 150 of them who take my insurance, about half of which are child psychologists. If I filter those out, how do I go about narrowing down the other 75 and selecting just 2 or 3 for an initial phone call? Thanks much.
posted by KleenexMakesaVeryGoodHat at 1:37 PM PST - 7 comments

A snake in the hand is worth...

I was doing some research for a logo that I'm working on, and came across this image that intrigued me. [more inside]
posted by ikahime at 1:25 PM PST - 4 comments

Dogs have fleas, does cat need a bath? the vet?

My three monsters are currently flea bitten. We give them a flea bathe once a week, which seems to help. The cat appears to be unaffected (I haven't seen any bugs on him) - we don't have carpet but the cat tends to roughhouse with the dogs. Should give him a flea bath too? [more inside]
posted by Sotha Sil at 12:17 PM PST - 14 comments

How do I decline money from family for a favor?

I dogsat for my brother and his wife. They came back, he said to let him know how to pay me "for my trouble." I did it as a favor and don't like the idea of getting paid for favors in the family. How do I respond and what's the point where I let it go? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 12:09 PM PST - 21 comments

Papers Please

I was supposed to have some Very Important Papers couriered (via Fedex International Priority) to me today. Apparently the delivery person didn't bother trying the buzzer on my building, so they left a door tag telling me I can sign for my package at the nearest Fedex location... tomorrow afternoon. This usually isn't a problem, but in this case it is very much not ideal. Is there anything I can do to try and get these papers sooner?
posted by btfreek at 11:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Seeking women doing pull-ups or chin-ups in movies and television shows

Can you suggest scenes from fiction movies or television shows that depict women doing pull-ups or chin-ups? [more inside]
posted by Hellgirl at 11:40 AM PST - 27 comments

Cast gift ideas for The Pajama Game

I'm doing a production of the Pajama Game this summer. I enjoy giving themed gifts to my cast-mates. I'm drawing a blank! Help! [more inside]
posted by firei at 11:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Did horses navigate on their own?

In a recent comment on HackerNews, someone asserted that the idea of self-driving car would have seemed fairly obvious to those who had used horse drawn carriages, because horses would traverse well-known routes more or less on their own. Is that true?
posted by phrontist at 11:05 AM PST - 26 comments

Mat Pilates drop-in classes in Las Vegas?

Anyone know of drop-in mat Pilates classes in Las Vegas? I'll be staying around the Rio and willing to drive 15-20 minutes. Also, if anyone knows of indoor tracks that are accessible by the public (without a membership, willing to pay) that would be great as well. Thanks!
posted by Automocar at 10:00 AM PST - 1 comment

How do I stop YouTube from resizing videos?

Oh Google and YouTube why do you vex me? Stop giving me what I don't ask for. [more inside]
posted by NoraCharles at 9:41 AM PST - 4 comments

Is there any hope for me to have a social life?

I've dealt with a lot of past trauma from other people. I also have trouble with things like communicating coherently (things like Ask Metafilter is one of the few exceptions). Is there any hope for me to build a social life? [more inside]
posted by Psychology Hearts at 9:30 AM PST - 14 comments

HR: Do you speak it?

I am interviewing for admin assistant work in Washington, DC. Help me understand qualities recruiters say they are looking for. [more inside]
posted by Space Kitty at 9:18 AM PST - 15 comments

In Search of The “Perfect” Reusable Water Bottle

Looking for suggestions for a water bottle for someone with specific requirements! Specifications inside. [more inside]
posted by carlypennylane at 9:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Where to have a 70th birthday dinner for 12 in Toronto

I'm looking for a place to hold a 70th birthday dinner. This would need to be food that my parents/their friends wouldn't consider exotic or unusual, ideally keeping it below $35 per person, and ideally table service. A private dining room would be nice but at that price for that few people, it probably wouldn't happen. Italian? Seafood? or something non-threatening like that would be great. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 8:44 AM PST - 8 comments

What to do in Boston over an August weekend?

I have a weekend trip to Boston coming up! Looking for recommendations for a group of women in their 20s. We love cycling, food (and not afraid of getting spendy with it) and not-crowded activities. [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 8:29 AM PST - 6 comments

When the mama honeymoon comes to an end

Seemingly overnight my little toddler has become a little Boy. Help me process this. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 8:27 AM PST - 19 comments

Waiting for dress. Am I being too impatient? Please advise.

I ordered a dress online from an indie label that ships "at least once a week" two weeks ago. Haven't received email that dress has actually been shipped. Emailed to confirm once, no response. Am a little worried. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 7:49 AM PST - 4 comments

In job limbo hell. Help me make the best of a liminal few weeks?

I recently interviewed for a new job, and after a month of waiting around, I was told that I am the "chosen candidate" and will be offered the job upon an acceptable background check. The background check could take anything from two to four weeks to be completed, and then, assuming everything works out and I take the job, I'll still have to give at least two weeks notice at my current job. How can I make this next month suck as little as possible? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by missrachael at 7:40 AM PST - 8 comments

Why do I see dental floss picks all over town?

Why am I seeing so many dental floss picks on the street? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 7:40 AM PST - 19 comments

Central/Southern European destination for a week in November.

Two sisters on different continents want to meet halfway in Europe for a week in late November. I'm supposed to pick a city, but I'm drawing a blank. Cities, hotels, or itinerary recommendations gratefully received. Specific requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 7:16 AM PST - 15 comments

Cell phone access in South East Asia

Dr. Advicepig and I will be going to Japan, Singapore, Vietnam, Cambodia, and Thailand this summer. What's the best way to get data to our cell phones while we are abroad? Do we need seperate SIM cards for each country? Any better ideas? We have iPhones (on ATT here) and mine is unlocked.
posted by advicepig at 6:58 AM PST - 5 comments

Help Me Plan My Trip to Seattle!

My boyfriend and I are going to Seattle next week Tuesday-Sunday and need ideas for food, activities, and any must-see landmarks. Neither one of us have been there before, we are staying with friends and don't want to rent a car for the whole week (prefer to use Uber/Zipcar/etc if possible). We are both physically fit, love staying active, and love the outdoors. One caveat is that he is not a fan of seafood (I love it), but does eat tuna and has been expanding his palette recently via some adventurous sushi tasting.
posted by robadobdob at 6:48 AM PST - 27 comments

Need to complain, but what am I asking for?

I recently had an automotive issue that turned out to be caused by negligence on the part of the company that last changed my tyres. At the very least, I need to let them know this happened and could have caused a serious accident - but should I be asking for anything else? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 6:29 AM PST - 9 comments

Inspiring reading on Education & Learning

After a 15 year hiatus, it looks likely that I'll be taking up teaching again in 2019. In the interim, I'm looking for a broad spread of reading recs to help rekindle this flame. Textbooks, polemics, biography, fiction, websites... what are your most important sources of inspiration on the power of good teaching and being taught well? [more inside]
posted by protorp at 5:10 AM PST - 3 comments

How to discuss touchy subjects with management

I have a meeting this week where I've been encouraged to "brainstorm ideas" about how to make my organization run better. I have ideas, but I'm not at all sure the Boss is going to like hearing them. Please help me find a nonthreatening way to communicate them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:27 AM PST - 11 comments

July 23

Fear of breaking up

How do I man up and break up with this girl? [more inside]
posted by nurgle at 10:13 PM PST - 14 comments

Feedback on blog/therapy/app business ideas?

Hey everyone! I have several business ideas and not sure how to integrate them all into one high value machine. I currently work full time in mental health. I will have a private therapy practice (I will be fully licensed in a couple of years). I am really passionate about helping people connect with others so I intend to hold monthly activities (I will charge a small fee to cover some expenses and some of my time). [more inside]
posted by livelikegold6 at 9:51 PM PST - 7 comments

practice questions NYC co-op board interview

Mefites who been on either side of an NYC co-op board interview, what questions should we prepare ourselves to answer? Especially interested in unusual phrasings of the standard questions, unusual questions, and illegal questions. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 9:49 PM PST - 3 comments

What're the best resources for re-learning Math starting from Algebra?

Hi ya'll!, I didn't always love math, but I sure do now! As I got more serious with game programming, I started to really get math. But I also ran into a serious issue: I mostly punted on it in high school and I was missing the basics. I managed to patch up my knowledge of games-useful trig, but now I'd like to go back and really dig in. What're my options? [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 9:48 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me get my money back from Big Telecom

Should I take them to small-claims court, keep calling every week, or some other strategy I can’t think of? [more inside]
posted by acridrabbit at 8:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Dooney and Bourke purse--leather began to tear after less than a month?

What would cause the creamy, soft leather of a Dooney and Burke purse to develop small tears after a brief time? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 7:49 PM PST - 8 comments

🐝 🐝 How to remove an insect nest from a grill?

Last summer we found a grill on the side of the road and brought it home, put it in the backyard and forgot about it. We continued using our small grill, but I lifted the cover of that big grill tonight to discover a white/yellow nest of a yellow and black striped stinging insect. The insects are hovering around the grill. I have 0 attachment to the grill. I am fairly seriously allergic to insect stings. How do I remove this nest or the entire grill? Bad photos are here. I'm afraid to get closer.
posted by k8t at 7:12 PM PST - 14 comments

A Very English Affair:Why does not having National Insurance Card Matter

My wife and I were watching "A Very English Affair" and a thread that keeps coming up is that Norman, in times of need, calls Jeremy Thorpe demanding help getting A National Insurance Card. [more inside]
posted by ArthurBarnhouse at 6:40 PM PST - 5 comments

Tire buying for dummies

My 2014 Prius is due for new tires in the coming months. What kind should I buy, modulo snowflakes? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 6:21 PM PST - 16 comments

Which print magazine has a big list of numbers up front?

I vaguely remember The Atlantic or New Yorker Magazine having a list of statistics towards the front of each issue. No graphics, just a big list. Often they worked in a one-two punch, where the first statistic was interesting, but adding it to the second made a statement. I can't seem to find an example of this list anywhere. Any ideas?
posted by jragon at 4:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Little Vacation on the Prairie

I will be going out to the Black Hills this fall, and am thinking about stopping at a few Laura Ingalls Wilder sites. What are they like? Will I, as a serious fan of her writing and serious hater of corny touristy crap, enjoy them? [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 2:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Is my car likely totaled?

Tree fell on my parked car. Have filed insurance claim and am waiting to hear back, but would like to start thinking through what I'll do in various scenarios (declared total loss/needs repairs/etc). [more inside]
posted by pdq at 1:52 PM PST - 9 comments

Support for something rarely done

How do I find support for reentering the world of job searching and reinventing myself to enter a new technical field at the age of 70? [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 12:41 PM PST - 13 comments

Annuitize a sum and build in increases for inflation

I'm trying to figure out what I can budget/spend in retirement. For now, Social Security has regular increases for the cost of living. I want a formula to annuitize my retirement savings with an annual increase. I have a google sheet and have used an increase for interest on the savings, and have a similar adjustment for the amount I can take out needing to increase. Is there a useful formula? I have Excel and am very proficient with it, but I am not a Financial Planner, there are a ton of formula options in Excel. [more inside]
posted by theora55 at 12:31 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for a relaxing place to stay

Looking for a relaxing place to stay within ~2 hour drive of Boston, MA. [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 12:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me solve my MP3 thru stereo / output situation...

I have a PS Audio Sprout100 (photo of inputs under "design tab" on this link). I own two Android phones (Oreo and Nougat) and an iPad 3. I want to buy a new 4TB drive, load it with music, and somehow hook it up to the amp and control it with one of those devices, preferably the phone. Possible? How? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 11:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Unusual bra size

I need to find a bra that is size 26C. What website sells this size? Or store in the US? [more inside]
posted by The Sockout Bois and the Avocado of breath at 10:48 AM PST - 9 comments

What is this automatic copy happening on the Mac OS Finder level?

I've inherited a MacPro at a new job that was used by a person no longer with the company. Everyday once or twice a day the Finder attempts a copy to... somewhere of... something. It seems to be searching for a location no longer on the network so it just gets hung up on attempting to connect. [more inside]
posted by matt_od at 10:32 AM PST - 14 comments

Actually looking for plates of beans

What is the best cookbook about beans? I'm trying to reduce my meat intake considerably, but am not a huge fan of tofu, tempeh, seitan, etc. No hard and fast requirements, but in particular I would love books that have simple recipes (e.g. not a ton of ingredients, only occasional "recipes which have components that themselves require other recipes") and draw from a wide variety of cultures. Doesn't have to be completely focused on beans, and doesn't need to be totally vegan, but definitely would appreciate such a tome. Thanks!
posted by miltthetank at 10:31 AM PST - 18 comments

The dryer is dead. Long live the dryer.

My clothes dryer is dead. Please help me select a new one. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 10:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Massachusetts pool owners - how do you heat your pools?

If you have an outdoor in-ground pool in Massachusetts and are not independently wealthy, how do you keep it warm enough to swim in? [more inside]
posted by invincible summer at 10:17 AM PST - 17 comments

My first Flask app: authentication

I'm trying my hand at my first-ever bit of modernish web development for a thing at work. I'm a Python guy primarily, so I'm doing it in Flask. (I've also looked at Django, but Flask seems to be a lot faster to get going with.) I can get all the individual pieces to work just fine, but I can't get the bit where I authenticate users to work. Help me, Stack Overflow MetaFilter...you're my only hope. [more inside]
posted by Mr. Bad Example at 10:08 AM PST - 6 comments

Books to read a toddler by a lake in New Hampshire?

My family will be staying in a cabin by a lake in New Hampshire for a week in August and my mom would like to get my daughter (two) some books to read. What are some location-specific picture books she'd enjoy? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 9:58 AM PST - 14 comments

Stereo (and what else) for a wired whole house speaker system?

My house is wired with speakers in every room (five in the ceilings and one outside, each with a volume dial). I can see the speaker wires (multiple strands that get grouped together into one big strand). What gear do I need to make this system play music? [more inside]
posted by acidic at 9:45 AM PST - 8 comments

Can I transfer my years-long journal out of Evernote?

I need to move my large cache of daily journal entries out of Evernote - where and how? [more inside]
posted by TochterAusElysium at 9:43 AM PST - 9 comments

Has anyone used one of these creepy-looking snore guards?

I see some snore-related questions in the past but not this particular thing: I'm asking specifically about the weird little suction dealios that keep your tongue forward in your mouth. [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 9:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Science Books - Readers

What reading level "i" and "j" books do you recommend that are focused on science to help my niece work on her reading this summer without her realizing she is working on her reading? [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 9:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me move

How does moving work? My husband and I have lived in the same apartment complex for 20 years, and it is well past time we moved on. However, I don't really understand how one manages giving notice at the old place, finding a new place, and paying all the associated costs. Am I missing something or is this really going to cost me thousands of dollars? [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 8:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Which service should I use to print a legit book for an audience of ~1?

I have a 34,000-word book that I wish to make less than a dozen copies of. I have long used blurb.com for photo-books and even poetry, so I am looking for something like that, for long-form text. [more inside]
posted by cake vandal at 8:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Symbols of voice, opinion, and/or being heard

I'm looking for tattoo ideas that would serve as a reminder that I have a voice and deserve to be heard. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 8:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Having birthday feelings

I have a complicated relationship with my birthday, and I have feelings about it. [more inside]
posted by elsmith at 8:05 AM PST - 13 comments

What can I consume to improve my skin and hair?

I am interested in food, drinks, vitamins and supplements that will improve my skin and hair. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:58 AM PST - 25 comments

Who are the contrarian(s) in your industry?

I recently read the excellent Marketers are from Mars, Consumers are from Jersey by Bob Hoffman. He stated some unspoken truths of the marketing industry which a lot “insiders” are afraid to talk about. The book was insightful and refreshing to read. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 6:47 AM PST - 13 comments

Will it hurt me to not shake hands at the interview? (Cold filter)

I read this other post about (not) shaking hands and this is a bit different. I am getting over a pretty good cold and have an interview today. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 5:09 AM PST - 17 comments

Synology NAS on a Mac--Making Sure I'm Thinking this Through

I'm thinking of getting the Synology DS418play. It will be my first NAS. I think I understand what I'm getting myself into, but could use a sanity check. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 4:15 AM PST - 5 comments

July 22

Souvenir photography solution for small business

I’m trying to find a user-friendly souvenir photography solution for our event business. I need something where my photographer can wander around taking about 30 photos at a time, then print them out and cut them efficiently so we can stick them in pre-made frames and sell them. Our events have about 300 guests maximum. The only solutions I can find seem to be catered towards massive theme parks.
posted by ZackTM at 6:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Catalogue my books

I'm having trouble keeping track of my books. Choose me a software system to do it for me! [more inside]
posted by golwengaud at 5:15 PM PST - 8 comments

Showering with three sprains

(Not a medical question, it’s an activities of daily living question.) I sprained my knee, ankle and wrist and would like to shower or at least get clean. My bathtub is deep and it’s hard for me to step into it. [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 5:14 PM PST - 10 comments

What Happened to iss.astroviwer.net?

I like to watch the ISS fly over, especially when I can share it with others. (There was a nice flyover of my house last night, in fact.) But my go-to site for spotting it, www.iss.astroviewer.net, disappeared a couple of months ago. Does anyone know what happened to it and if it will return? [more inside]
posted by TedW at 5:06 PM PST - 6 comments

How big will this puppy be?

My partner and I went to an adopt-a-thon yesterday, fell in love, and put in an application on a puppy. After sleeping on it, however, we are a little worried about how big this dog might be. Anyone want to try to size a puppy? (pictures inside) [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 2:55 PM PST - 42 comments

Excel Troubleshooting Help

My formula is returning false instead of true when it's definitely true. "=NOT(ISNA(VLOOKUP(A1,$B:$B,1,FALSE)))" [more inside]
posted by driedmango at 2:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Hera = Juno, Hermes = Mercury, Apollo = ... Apollo?

Of all the Greek gods and heroes co-opted by the Romans, why does Apollo (and I think only Apollo) not have a name change?
posted by ricochet biscuit at 2:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Considering a career change to a healthcare occupation

I'm thinking about doing a career 180 to a healthcare profession. Did you (or someone you know) make a career change from a desk/office job to the healthcare field? How did it work out for you? I’m especially interested in hearing from those who switched to speech pathology or occupational therapy, but welcome advice from other healthcare professionals too. [more inside]
posted by oiseau at 1:22 PM PST - 8 comments

I can haz civil, healthy anger?

I live with my sister (and thank god I am moving out in 3 weeks). Certain aspect of her produces a vast amount of anger in me. My therapist has helped me understand some of why I am angry. I'd like to stop repressing my anger, and instead channel it in healthy and civil ways. Ideas and suggestions please! [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 11:52 AM PST - 18 comments

Child support hearing and potential child custody issues (California)

I've scoured AskMeFi previous questions and Google but have not found exactly what I'm looking for. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by jj's.mama at 10:23 AM PST - 20 comments

Jewelry Repair: Is this necklace fixable? If so, with what?

I have a large, heavy necklace, and a piece broke off, taking the chain the clasp hooks into with it. Fixable? [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 10:11 AM PST - 13 comments

Need suggestions for most popular comedians and their most famous bits.

I'm organizing a party where I want to screen all the most well-known comedians of the last 50 years and screen a "signature" bit that each one of them does. Maybe their most famous bit. I haven't really watched much standup, but I imagined this almost like a university survey course of comedy. A funny anthology. Any suggestions would be welcome! Also Youtube links! Thanks in advance.
posted by Sully at 9:57 AM PST - 54 comments

You win money at an overseas casino: how do you get it back into the US?

A good friend's daughter just won a few hundred thousand dollars (I KNOW) playing slot machines in Australia. Like yesterday. He wants to know what's the best way for her to get the money and get back here to the USA. For legal purposes. For tax purposes. For safety purposes. Open up an account in a US based bank with locations over there? A cashier's check? Wire transfer? And what other things should this young girl - who's always made a very modest salary - know right now?
posted by rileyray3000 at 9:13 AM PST - 18 comments

All of the PCH is open! Best nature focused roadtrip from LA -> SF ?

All of Highway 1 is finally open. In October I'm going on a 5 day road trip up the Pacific Coast Highway from LA to SF. I want to focus mainly on nature(mountains / ocean). I would love to hike and I am open to camping. All tips are appreciated!
posted by rageagainsttherobots at 8:55 AM PST - 13 comments

Learning Linear Algebra for Computer Graphics?

Are there any good intro Linear Algebra books (or other media) that take an applied, computational approach, and specifically one based on graphics, image processing or computational geometry? [more inside]
posted by lordcorvid at 8:45 AM PST - 7 comments

If not a stress fracture, then what?

I have been battling running-related shin pain for 2.5 years and can’t get a clear diagnosis, nor can I seem to make it go away despite extended rest periods. Help? Lots of details inside... [more inside]
posted by obfuscation at 8:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Who is Barnum's "fat lady"?

Help identify this old card game. [more inside]
posted by komara at 8:05 AM PST - 5 comments

Is it wrong to ever ask, "Would you leave me if I gained weight?"

My now-ex said he didn't think I was contributing as much to the relationship for reasons that led me to wonder if he would leave me if I gained weight, so I asked him. Was his response acceptable, and should I have even asked in the first place? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by LovingMyself at 7:06 AM PST - 62 comments

What movie might cause a reasonable person fall in love with England?

Any era, any location, any genre, any production date. Extra points if it would also make you want to travel and explore there.
posted by vizsla at 6:02 AM PST - 38 comments

Tired of replacing cables

I use a lot of micro USB / lightning / USB C splitter cables for charging. I'm hard on cables and need to replace them regularly. It's not a huge deal because they're cheap, but does abyone have recommendations for sturdier splitter cables?
posted by Tehhund at 5:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Spanish surnames

If I've got it right, Spanish kids take on one or more surnames of each parent. Would a child then have the names of step parents added naturally or by preference at all, or does it never change? What about in the case of say, an egg/sperm donor that wants to be in the kid's life? Orphans and foster kids who move through different homes? Kids of poly relationships?
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 4:51 AM PST - 3 comments

On and Off and On and Off...

Does turning the Air Conditioning off during non-business hours save money for office buildings? [more inside]
posted by zinon at 4:46 AM PST - 9 comments

The sweetest songs

What are the sweetest songs you know? The kind you might sing to a newborn while puppies nuzzle your toes underneath fluffy pastel clouds? Sometimes at work, I snuggle newborn babies (including ones who are detoxing and otherwise uncomfortable) and the sort of song I'm thinking of encapsulates the feelings I'd like to give the baby, if that makes sense. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 2:52 AM PST - 66 comments

What do I ask a pain / palliative care specialist to help my Mum?

My elderly mother is at the end of her life, desperately frail, with multiple competing diseases and injuries. She is in absolute agony, treated inadequately. We have an appointment with a palliative care / pain specialist tomorrow, to which I'll escort her. But… what do I say/ask to get the outcome I want - a comfortable end of life for my mother, overseen by the pain specialist or an external palliative care agency, not the nursing home, or her general practitioner. (OK with nursing home implementing, but no faith at all in the GP at this point.) Snowstorm follows. [more inside]
posted by t0astie at 2:49 AM PST - 11 comments

How can I improve this recipe?

My local pub does a sweet potato and spinach curry that's amazing. I'm trying to recreate it at home and I need help. I found this recipe and tried it last night, and the results were...ok. Cooks of Metafilter, can you offer suggestions to amazingify it? [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 2:22 AM PST - 18 comments

July 21

Video art of someone diving into water in slow motion - what was it?

I saw a video art piece in the National Portrait Gallery in DC sometime around 2014 that I'm curious what it was. IIRC, it features a video camera at the bottom of a swimming pool with someone diving at it in slow motion. More details within. [more inside]
posted by Candleman at 9:44 PM PST - 3 comments

Bird-nesting custody in divorce - examples or experiences?

Suddenly facing divorce. One kid, age 14. Spouse suggests bird-nesting custody: kid stays in home, parents move in/out. Looking for experiences & sample agreements. [more inside]
posted by NumberSix at 9:34 PM PST - 24 comments

Help Me Find This Story

NPR reporter Tamara Keith was at a convention in 2016 for Hillary Clinton. She was trying to read the Very Hungry Caterpillar to her son b/c she'd promised him that no matter where in the world she was, she'd call him to read him a story at the same time. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 8:33 PM PST - 2 comments

Ben's gay?

I remember seeing a comedy parody of a commercial in the early 2000s. It seems like it could have been a In Living Color sketch. The product they were parodying was Bengay, and the pun name of it was Ben's Gay. Does this ring a bell to anyone? I was a kid when I saw it so my memories are muddy. But I'm kind of convinced it was a real thing, especially since they did other parodies. Bonus if you can tell me the name of the episode and give me a link.
posted by starlybri at 8:33 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me find this British guy!

Okay, I know I read about this dude on Mefi. He was a British guy who died in the last I think decade? He might have been a socialist. And he kept four rules pinned up on his wall, and one was like if you have power how can you get rid of it. Who is this guy?! It's driving me bonkers!
posted by supercrayon at 8:11 PM PST - 3 comments

The familiar music of "Big Bill Hell"

If you grew up in the eighties, you'll notice a lot of familiar things in the legendary "Big Bill Hell" video. And watching it recently got me thinking about something. [more inside]
posted by AlonzoMosleyFBI at 7:29 PM PST - 1 comment

Staying in the Denver/Boulder loop

I went home to visit my mom in Colorado during the last week and found myself incredibly homesick upon returning back to NYC. I'd love to keep up more on what's going on in the Denver metro area. What are the best websites to keep me in the know? [more inside]
posted by Fuego at 6:09 PM PST - 3 comments

Tub reglazing: does it work? If not, what are my options?

I had our 30 y/o tub reglazed 10 months ago. For a few months it looked great, then we got a little fleabite, then we had lots of fleabites. Now it looks as my husband puts it "like a Motel 6 tub". Our tub is our only shower, so it gets daily use. Is there a way to get it reglazed that is more enduring, or do we need to replace the tub? (If the latter, we just installed new tile surround - is there a way to replace the tub without destroying our beautiful 10 month old tile?)
posted by arnicae at 4:21 PM PST - 3 comments

Indoor sinkhole under by basement tile floor?

My basement bathroom floor has 12” square slate tiles, and for a few in front of the shower stall, I get a disturbingly hollow sound when I tap on them. This bath was put in about 10 years ago, and the area in question is where the plumber dug a hole in the cement foundation to make a new connection to the sewer line. I believe the tile is laid directly on the cement foundation floor. [more inside]
posted by sapere aude at 3:53 PM PST - 1 comment

There are knowns, known unknowns, and unknown unknowns

I want to build a website that displays information based on multiple layers of user input (so it needs a database). I'll have a (future) designer do a pretty front end, but I want to get the back end structure right from the beginning. I don't know what I need to know to build this. I do know SQL, HTML, CSS and a smattering of Python and javascript. I need to know more. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 3:44 PM PST - 6 comments

where to go in continental US in mid-August?

My sister and I planned to go to New Foundland, but her passport just expired. We're looking to leave around Aug 10th, and we don't think she'd get it renewed in time. She maaaay just pay the fee, but we also want to consider other places. We'd like to go north [or west and north] from NYC and stay for a weekish. Any thoughts for cities and/or specific places to stay? [more inside]
posted by the twistinside at 3:40 PM PST - 11 comments

Interviews with journalists about their process

I really loved this interview with Maggie Haberman about her workflow. Is there an interview series that speaks with journalists about how they work? Something like a cross between The Setup and Lifehacker's How I Work, but with an emphasis on journalists and exploring process as well as tools.
posted by puckupdate at 12:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Hair product to help create piecey texture

I have really thick, heavy, coarse hair in a long bob similar to this. What can I use to get it to look a little more piecey (is that the right word?), especially at the ends, without making it more stiff or heavy than it already is? Bonus if it doesn't contain silicone, but not absolutely imperative.
posted by nanook at 12:23 PM PST - 9 comments

“If you say tomato...” Negotiation songs

The rap battle/cabinet meetings in Hamilton and even more so “The Other Side” from The Greatest Showman are songs (from musicals natch) that are negotiations. I feel like there’s a whole sub-subgenre of songs like this, in hip-hop, in musical theater, in pop (maybe duets?). Can you help me identify more? Any genre! [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 12:17 PM PST - 37 comments

Currency Risk When Loaning to a European Friend

I'm American and want to loan money to a European friend with a term circa 10 years. We're worried about currency issues; one of us could get zonked (that's the financial term) if our respective currencies diverge. We're obviously not unique in confronting this predicament. Are there any clever standard solutions to protect us both? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:18 AM PST - 14 comments

ouch

This morning I did a mud run for charity and during one of the obstacles that involved jumping into water I got water in both ears. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 11:06 AM PST - 18 comments

Starter motorcycle advice

I'm wondering if you would suggest a starter motorcycle to look at. I'm a total novice rider, who has a 2-day beginner course under my belt. [more inside]
posted by gillianr at 10:21 AM PST - 11 comments

Most Flags Over Somewhere

Texas has a slogan, "Six Flags over Texas", because parts of Texas have been claimed as territory by six different countries. What place would have the most "flags"? [more inside]
posted by Huffy Puffy at 9:47 AM PST - 21 comments

(Pout) CDs Were Easier.

I know there is a way to import playlists on Windows Media Player to iTunes. What EXACT data does that process actually import? Backstory and "why are you asking that" inside. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 9:44 AM PST - 3 comments

Overthinking a plate of wrens

I'm thinking of changing my middle name, at least professionally, and possibly legally. What should I consider? [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 9:31 AM PST - 12 comments

Fresh ham -> breakfast sausage?

Hi meat people, I have a fresh, uncured ham that I got when I recently bought 1/2 of a pig from a local farmer. I could go cured or uncured/fresh, and I went for the uncured/fresh. Thing is, I'm not really a ham guy, but I do like my breakfast burritos. Would it be feasible to run it through a meat grinder and make breakfast sausage from it? I've made fresh breakfast sausage before and have my seasonings all dialed in. The ham still has its fatty outer lining. I mean, it's just meat, right? Any advice would be lovely.
posted by rachelpapers at 9:07 AM PST - 8 comments

Cream in Greek Yogurt?

The ingredients list on all the full fat Greek Yogurt containers (including Fage) I read at the supermarket yesterday said 1. Cultured non-fat/skim milk 2. Cream. I was shocked. [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 8:36 AM PST - 20 comments

How does webmention avoid username conflicts?

I've been reading about webmention, and there's one peice of it that I can't quite grasp: how does this technology avoid username conflicts? This article at A List Apart describes webmention as "simply an @mention that works from one website to another!" But I see nothing in the W3C spec about how the @ usernames are chosen/registered, etc. [more inside]
posted by eustacescrubb at 8:09 AM PST - 3 comments

Further suggestions in the Berkshires and Western Mass

We're heading to the Berkshires for a week starting tomorrow, staying in a house in Great Barrington. Would love your suggestions for things to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:35 AM PST - 17 comments

How to reanimate an old suede purse?

The bag in question is over a decade old, but I keep wondering if I can't do something to make it presentable again because the shape and number of pockets is perfect. Construction-wise it's held up the best of the bags I own, but after a couple of years of wear it looks... decidedly shabby, and not in a chic way. [more inside]
posted by I claim sanctuary at 6:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Quotation about “making a disgrace”

This is not about a famous quote, but a line in a book I read which popped into my head this week, and I hope someone else remembers it too. [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 6:01 AM PST - 2 comments

Love those humming birds, hate those ants.

I glass ball hummingbird feeder that hangs from filament off a 10 inch hook on the side of my house in front of my library window. Ants quickly figured out the path from the side of the house out the hook down the filament and into the feeder. I have nothing against them sharing, but apparently they're not good around water and within hours it's filled with putrid dead ants. As this old answer suggests, I've put vasaline on the filament to repel the ants, but when temperatures hit the low seventies, like they did last night, the vasoline hardens and boom, ant soup for breakfast. What should I do about keeping the ants out of the hummingbird feeder on cooler summer nights?
posted by Stanczyk at 4:45 AM PST - 11 comments

How do you talk about someone you REALLY don't get along with?

I have a neighbour who I am on bad terms with, in fact even worse than in the previous question because since then she's done some crazy things like bringing a bunch of men and threatening us, etc. Since then we have also learned that her family considers her seriously unwell psychologically, even if it doesn't always show. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 4:42 AM PST - 7 comments

East Coast public beach in the early morning?

Anyone know of a public Atlantic Ocean beach open before sunrise? Do they even have open/close hours? [more inside]
posted by Ducks or monkeys at 3:53 AM PST - 15 comments

July 20

Why can't I find a judge to marry us in a courthouse in New Orleans?

We're planning on eloping, and just want to go to the a courthouse in New Orleans and have a judge marry us, no muss, no fuss. I was informed that you need to make an appointment in advance. I've called around all over the place and keep running into dead ends. Am I missing something? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:18 PM PST - 17 comments

Summer terms at public universities - how do they work?

I am faculty at a U.S. public university and I want to better understand how summer term works as a cash cow for the university. It feels a little scammy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:18 PM PST - 20 comments

roll vs scroll

Is there a difference between cinnamon rolls and cinnamon scrolls? [more inside]
posted by freethefeet at 10:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Can I skip a period I'm expecting to get as early as August 3rd ?

I really want to skip my next period. It's not that I want to have sex so I don't care about breakthrough bleeding. [more inside]
posted by Blitz at 10:25 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I politely decline to say where I work?

When I meet someone, they ask where I work. “I work at a bank,” I say. “Which bank?” They ask. [more inside]
posted by Sterros at 7:09 PM PST - 48 comments

How do I get the DSCC to stop emailing me??

I have used the unsubscribe link at the bottom of the email (multiple times), but they still have not stopped. I even got the "we get it you need to take a break" confirmation. What do I need to do?
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 5:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Dispute a $40 debt sent to collections, or just pay it?

I was hospitalized for pneumonia last September. There were a number of medical bills from multiple hospitals, which I paid off after they filtered through insurance. Thought I was done with all of that. [more inside]
posted by mingodingo at 3:32 PM PST - 3 comments

My brother is 100% dependent on marijuana. How can I help him?

He's been using age 13 and he is 20 now. He will literally break down into full blown hours long anxiety attacks if he doesn't have marijuana. Is his only option rehab? [more inside]
posted by marvelousmellitus at 2:58 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me find a cute butch haircut

Hit me up with pics of cute butch/tomboy haircuts. Specs: am forty+, am a white lady with kinda babyfine dark brown hair that is now shot with a small-medium amount of silver/grey, of similar but slightly coarser texture. I’m a bit overweight and a jeans and t-shirts kinda person. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 2:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Rehome a cat in Palm Desert

I need to rehome an adult cat in Palm Desert by Monday or my mom will be evicted. The Humane Society of the Desert and every other place we can google is full. Our friends can't help. Who do we give this cat to and what do we do? Fighting the landlord is not an option and neither is moving, but driving a couple counties over is.
posted by blnkfrnk at 12:20 PM PST - 3 comments

I want to help Democrats in swing districts on/just before Election Day

This is also motivated by a suspicion that I will very much need to be doing something active if I don’t want to completely lose my mind. [more inside]
posted by schadenfrau at 12:19 PM PST - 12 comments

How to address surprises in my ancestry?

The results of my DNA testing has revealed some shocking information that I don't know what to do with, and I'm not sure what my next steps should be. Advice, please? [more inside]
posted by droplet at 12:17 PM PST - 21 comments

Getting a Wild Boars team jersey in a way that benefits the community

I really want a Thai soccer team Wild Boars jersey modeled off of their media appearance. The question is--how to get one and not be exploitative of anyone involved (or if that's even possible). Preferably how to get in touch with the artist, how to get any money made to the team and their families, or to the family of the Thai diver who gave his life to help, etc., any ethical considerations (please read explanation!) [more inside]
posted by nogoodverybad at 12:01 PM PST - 4 comments

What are the hottest improv shows now in Chicago?

I'm taking the IO Theater's intensive improv summer program right now in Chicago. Awesome fun. Me and my classmates are looking for recommendations on the hottest improv shows. Standup too. I've seen Improv Shakespeare and was blown away. Also Hitch*cock and Matt Damon Improv at Annoyance Theatre.
posted by storybored at 11:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Ants that look like spiders that look like ants?

Is this a carpenter ant? [more inside]
posted by monologish at 11:44 AM PST - 12 comments

Dealing with post-interview nerves?

I've been working with a staffing agency which is trying to fill a position with a large tech company. They reached out to me based on my LinkedIn profile. I just had an interview with the "client," yesterday and was left feeling nervous and a bit anxious. How do I deal and what can I expect going forward? [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 11:16 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me help my team become more organized

I work on a team of four people. Our boss and three others. We work in a large organization on projects that involve multiple departments. There are a lot of aspects to what we do and no clear lines of organization on just our little team. As a result everything is a mess and people are getting pissed off at each other. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 10:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Brother might be depressed, how can a mildly estranged sister help?

My mother is worried about my brother and wants me to call him and try and get him to talk to me. We haven't talked outside of family gatherings since I left home at 6 years ago. What do? [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 9:46 AM PST - 10 comments

Crutching around with baby

I'll be spending several weeks on crutches while leading up to and recovering from knee surgery. On top of the normal problems with crutches, I'm also having a terrible time trying to take care of my 11-month old. I can't pick her up from her crib, carry her anywhere, she's constantly crawling away from me, etc. My husband is doing 99% of the work, but I want to be able to do more. [more inside]
posted by galvanized unicorn at 9:24 AM PST - 11 comments

Financial Advisor or No Financial Advisor

Should I use a financial Advisor or invest and plan on my own? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 9:21 AM PST - 24 comments

Management Filter: How to ask for project and task updates?

I'm trying to consciously build good systems and habits as a manager. My current effort is to think about how to ask for task and project updates without sounding demanding or making people feel defensive. Any favorite strategies or phrasing? [more inside]
posted by mercredi at 9:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Mortgage Professionals - How do you start as an MLO?

So, I am exploring the idea of a career change into the mortgage industry and have looked into taking the MNLS classes and exam to apply for licensing. It looks like I need to be sponsored by a company to get my license (Virginia), but I have no experience (or license) to get hired. All job postings I've found required a couple years of experience in mortgages. [more inside]
posted by funfunfun at 8:23 AM PST - 0 comments

Best practices for LGBTQ phrasing?

I'm cishet, but associate with a big loveable group of fluid and multidimensional LGBTQ friends. I feel good about most inclusive speech things, like using non-gendered language and proper pronouns and such, but am starting to feel weird about the word lesbian. Is it appropriate for me to use? [more inside]
posted by matrixclown at 8:18 AM PST - 33 comments

Tweak Gmail events

I could like Gmail putting events on my calendar but I can't stand the 11:30 pm alerts. Is the only option to uncheck the event in calendar settings? In my perfect world it would come over with no alert set.
posted by notned at 6:57 AM PST - 4 comments

ovine philosophy

More books like Three Bags Full? [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 6:40 AM PST - 8 comments

What's round at the end and hi in the middle?

What to do in Columbus, Ohio after work? [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 6:30 AM PST - 8 comments

EU Retirement/Healthcare

My wife and I carry passports from different EU countries. We are considering eventually retiring in a third EU country (timeframe >20 years). We have never paid into the social security systems in either of the countries we are citizens of, nor in any material way to any EU country. We are for all intents and purposes Americans who happen to be the children of immigrants. How would healthcare work for us? Is it really as simple as registering with the authorities as legal residents? Is there something we should be doing today? Does property ownership matter for us? [more inside]
posted by JPD at 6:16 AM PST - 10 comments

Options for getting a bachelors' degree as an English speaker in Paris

I'm a British citizen, living in the UK, but quite likely moving to Paris at the end of this year for my partner's new job. We have a young child, and we are planning that for the first year of our stay, I would be a stay-at-home parent. Possibly longer than that, though I'm keen to learn French and get a job after that year. I'd like to get suggestions for the best way to study for a bachelor's degree while we are in France. [more inside]
posted by fireinacrowdedtheatre at 5:57 AM PST - 1 comment

Do you remember when cucumbers had spines?

More specifically, do you recall a time when store-bought cucumbers had spikes or spines on them? If you do, do you remember when they went away? [more inside]
posted by mountainherder at 5:48 AM PST - 19 comments

help with obtaining health care for my family.

my existing company is about to go out of business... they're keeping me on for another 2-4 weeks, or i can leave early. My new potential job doesn't offer health insurance, so i think i have to go on the open market to get my own health insurance. Is that right? If so, do i go through ObamaCare (as my wife has epilepsy)? I"m in PA now, but planning on moving to Florida in the next 2-4 weeks. [more inside]
posted by foodybat at 4:23 AM PST - 8 comments

What's the best FPS for somebody new to the genre

I've got around £20 to spend on a new game for PC on Steam and would like to try a single-player FPS - which one? [more inside]
posted by jontyjago at 3:21 AM PST - 23 comments

Am I losing out by receiving payment in Sterling instead of Euros?

I have just sold a house in Spain and am based in the UK. The purchasers are also based in the UK but the house was listed in Euros and a price was agreed with the them in Euros. A week ago, my lawyer came to me to say... [more inside]
posted by rrose selavy at 2:33 AM PST - 6 comments

Bladder prolapse and running

Asking for a family member. She is in her early seventies and a keen runner. She has just had a bladder prolapse and is very concerned that this may mean she has to stop running. She will talk to her GP but may not be able to get an appointment for a day or two. She is a slow runner (11-minute miles) and usually runs 5-7 miles three or four times a week. Is running likely to make the prolapse worse? Any other information about treatments would also be helpful. Thank you.
posted by paduasoy at 2:14 AM PST - 6 comments

July 19

How to line up for room 6A at Comic-Con

Ok. I just realized that the one program I really, really want to go-to tomorrow at Comic Con is in a room I've never lined up for (6A). All I know is that the line is on the Bay side of the center but I don't know where it starts because none of the maps show it. I am prepared to be at the Con before 8am. Where do I need to camp at in order to get in to this room for the first two sessions?
posted by Hermione Granger at 9:22 PM PST - 1 comment

How can I get a South African Braai Grid delivered to CA affordably?

I'm looking to get a good Braai grid. I can find them on South African websites but noone seems to deliver outside of Africa. [more inside]
posted by cman at 8:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Is it lupus?

My laptop's been having a bit of trouble for the last two weeks or so. Things that normally boot up within a second now takes up to ten seconds. E.g. I'd click on an icon (say, firefox) and it would take about five seconds for the hover-over animation to show, then another five for the program to start. More deets below. [more inside]
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 8:12 PM PST - 15 comments

Like, why are you so obsessed with me?

A former colleague is attempting to snoop through my social media accounts. Should I be concerned about this? [more inside]
posted by Stonkle at 6:12 PM PST - 19 comments

Social support for elderly

My mother would benefit from a support group. Do you know any Facebook groups for the elderly or free telephonic support groups that don't involve residency requirements? She needs more than nostalgic exchanges of pop culture references and grandbaby pictures. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 4:41 PM PST - 8 comments

This volunteering policy seems fishy

I work for one of the larger employers in my region, and each year they publish a report to show their philanthropic contributions and community impact. Now they're asking for employees to track and report volunteer time outside of work. This seems fishy to me, but is it actually unethical? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:14 PM PST - 25 comments

Relationship with my mother is strained, not sure how to cope

Recently the relationship between us has become somewhat strained and I'm not sure how to remain kind towards my mother while navigating angry emotions that have resurfaced lately. [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 3:36 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for an oldish book on stopping smoking, maybe you saved it?

Once upon a time, when I was working on quitting smoking by going to lots of Smokers Anonymous meetings, I read a book I really appreciated. It was an ordinary paperback about the pros and cons of smoking. It had a several chapter long section on all the scientific reasons that smoking is pleasurable, the release of dopamine, etc. The second half of the book was about the negatives, though I remember none of that. This was probably in the 1980s and the book had an especially lengthy title. [more inside]
posted by sugarbx19 at 3:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Struggling with internal racism + parenting

Weird title I know! But help me sort out these feelings about race that have come up while choosing a name for our daughter. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:19 PM PST - 22 comments

Android phones for n00bz

Which android phone do I want? Am I going to be as happy as I think I will once Apple is out of my life? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 3:11 PM PST - 23 comments

my giant noggin

ISO headbands for the gym / running / athletic activities that won't slide off my head. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 2:51 PM PST - 7 comments

But, I don’t want your *#&$@% mobile site

Is there any way to get around Facebook’s redirect to the mobile site? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 2:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me read everything on the internet.

I have two situations for which I am looking for solutions. Both involved reading a large number of articles on the internet. I have a Kindle Paperwhite, an iPad and a Pocket account. [more inside]
posted by Brittanie at 2:01 PM PST - 3 comments

How do you search timelines of those recently removed twitter accounts?

So is there anywhere I can go to to search the accounts of the twitter bots that were recently taken down as part of the mass purge? I have a couple of theories about them and I'm hoping there's a shortcut out there.
posted by rileyray3000 at 12:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Can you help us prevent our dog from growing to hate her crate?

We adopted an almost 4-year-old retired greyhound about two months ago. She was not fostered, so she had never lived in a house before - always in kennels on the track or a dog boarding place that our rescue group works with. We've crated her since day one but she's getting more and more stubborn about not wanting to go in the crate when we leave. [more inside]
posted by misskaz at 11:56 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me explain why cats are awesome

My friend and soon-to-be roommate is indifferent to cats. I have every plan to adopt a cat, and while he is fine with that and not objecting, it would be nice if I could get him at least kinda excited about having a cat. Help me open his mind (and heart) to the awesomeness of kitties! [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 11:45 AM PST - 27 comments

New England-filter: Verizon vs AT&T when using GPS/Google Maps

Is Verizon GPS with Google Maps particularly awful around Cape Cod? I just switched to a Verizon pre-paid plan from an AT&T pre-paid plan due to poor AT&T reception in areas I frequent, but I didn't expect it to destroy my GPS-ing! Is it that bad elsewhere? [more inside]
posted by metarkest at 11:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Ball bearings? Weight plates? Antique irons?

Please give me your most creative/unusual/stealthily practical ideas for simple household objects that can serve as bookends. [more inside]
posted by Anita Bath at 11:26 AM PST - 14 comments

Where should we go for a short nature vacation?

Looking for recommendations for a short international vacation (from Los Angeles) that includes some time spent in nature, around Thanksgiving. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by dadaclonefly at 11:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Getting back into Yoga

Hello! I would like to get back into Yoga. I used to go to classes - but I'd prefer a really well done home-video solution. Is there anything that's just like going to classes, but in the on-demand video format? Ideally free. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 10:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Recommend a Weight-Loss Web Site or App

I've gained a tonne of weight since I had a baby. Now I'm ready to do something about that. I don't feel like WW or Noom are right for me. Details inside. Please recommend something. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 9:21 AM PST - 20 comments

Congratulations on your fine gaggle of courgettes

I'm going to need courgette recipes. [more inside]
posted by biffa at 9:01 AM PST - 32 comments

loveseat in boxes

I need to find a comfy loveseat that comes in a bright color and that ships in multiple boxes (like burrow or ikea). I’m looking for: Under $900 Comfortable Not too bulky Available in a brighter color like teal, fuschia, orange Most importantly, it needs to come in boxes. I have two doors and they are small! I like the Burrow couch concept, but the colors are too dark or neutral for me.
posted by retrofitted at 9:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Blue Plate State Relo

My husband and I are giving up on living in the South. We're exhausted being a blue dot in a red state, and with the daily news barrage of 45, we're ready to move some place else. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by heathrowga at 8:09 AM PST - 44 comments

Is there an easy way to clean up or reset in Quickbooks Online?

I am a treasurer for the parent organization at my kids school. The organization uses Quickbooks online and over the years various treasurers have added accounts in such a way that there are now a ton of accounts and sub accounts many of which either overlap or fit with different organization schemes. Is there an easy way (as in will not take more than a few hours) to clean this up to reduce the number of accounts to a streamlined set? Ideally I want to reduce the amount of scrolling and confusion for myself and the next treasurer.
posted by ElizaMain at 7:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Restaurant recommendations in DC?

Looking for a good, cheap restaurant nearish the Kennedy Center in DC. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 7:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Should I get an iPad Pro 12.9" with Apple Pen or a Macbook Pro?

Here are the basic details: I'm starting a 5 year grad program and will be reading an extremely large amount of PDF articles. I have a Macbook Air that I bought 1.5 years ago and is doing just fine. I can use my funding for a device anytime over the next 4 years. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 6:48 AM PST - 14 comments

Searching for the pillow of my dreams

I'm a flail-y sleeper: I usually begin on my back and wake up on my side, though sometimes on my stomach and/or sideways. What's the current best pillow for a sleeper like me. It also needs to help with neck pain and be cooling (or at least not something that will make me sweaty). [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 6:22 AM PST - 15 comments

Coping with ongoing fatigue

Looking for ideas on managing my life while coping with intermittent fatigue. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 6:16 AM PST - 11 comments

How does one friend at work?

Workplace friendships are strange, but either I've become impatient or this is stranger than normal. Wall of text below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Nieshka at 6:15 AM PST - 28 comments

Discussion-based Podcasts

It finally dawned on me that the common thread among podcasts I've enjoyed is that they're people talking to each other and not to the listener. Unfortunately this does not seem to be the direction the medium has taken, so I come looking for recommendations. I'm fairly agnostic as to subject. I would like podcasts that are either regularly recorded or have extensive back catalogues. Examples and non-examples inside. [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 3:58 AM PST - 60 comments

How can I guarantee my evening ritual will happen?

I have a form of PTSD that screws my sleep. If I follow a fairly strict evening routine, it activates my parasympathetic nervous system and makes a good sleep highly likely. The trouble is, I find it hard to be consistent every single night. Does anyone have any tips/books/practices for sticking to some fixed actions regardless of whether or not I feel like it? [more inside]
posted by King_Wang at 12:55 AM PST - 14 comments

July 18

How can I stop feeling so sad/upset about men never hitting on me?

I am 23 and I have never had a boyfriend nor have I ever dated. I am 5'4 and 120 lbs and whenever I go out, I try to wear makeup. I don't really go to bars or clubs but I constantly go out a lot to places such as grocery stores/shopping, restaurants, coffee shops, etc..... I never get hit on by any guy anywhere I go. I have been hit on before in the past but the last time I was hit on was 2 years ago and the guy told me that he thinks I am very beautiful. When I told him I never had a bf before, he said I would find someone. I never thought I was ugly but now I am starting to feel like I am ugly because I never get male attention. [more inside]
posted by ionable at 7:27 PM PST - 42 comments

How can I do a conference trip to Las Vegas?

I signed up for a three-day conference in the Excalibur Hotel in Las Vegas, Friday, Saturday, Sunday. I don't typically do this type of travelling so have no expertise in this. What can I do to make this easy and comfortable to handle? [more inside]
posted by diode at 7:24 PM PST - 14 comments

What to watch at the gym

What should I watch while doing moronic exercise machines at the gym? I am kind of snobby and social justice-y but... potentially open. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 7:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Ballet flats for delicate feet

I'm interested in getting some ballet flats for walking around my office job. The issue is that the skin on my feet is very thin & delicate and most flats just rip it to shreds. Is there such a thing as shoes that WON'T rip giant holes in my feet? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 6:42 PM PST - 19 comments

Coffee Grounds

Is there anything to do with used coffee grounds besides composting and gardening stuff (I don't have a yard)? I've recently started drinking coffee and I always feel a little sad when I throw them away.
posted by Aranquis at 6:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Keto-Paleo-Etc. Success Due to Food Choice or Caloric Restriction?

Is it clear, using only science and not opinion, whether paleo, keto, etc. are successful because of the food choices, or because limiting to those foods ends up being caloric restriction?
posted by WCityMike at 5:53 PM PST - 17 comments

Do I still have rights to content I was hired to create?

I was hired to create content for a guy. We never had a written contract--only verbal agreement. Guy suddenly wants to stop paying before project ends. Can I still retain my rights to the content and finish the project on my own? [more inside]
posted by pockimidget at 5:35 PM PST - 9 comments

Fun times in Irvine

I will be heading to Irvine, CA this weekend and wanted to get some ideas on fun things to do. We are a group of three adults and wouldn't mind driving an hour or so out of Irvine, unless there's something we must absolutely visit that's a little farther out. We're looking more for things like nature-y experiences, festivals, cool museums, etc. rather than shopping or sitting on the beach. I'm not really sure what Irvine has to offer so would appreciate any suggestions at all.
posted by madonna of the unloved at 5:32 PM PST - 13 comments

foster child's civil rights?

You aren't my lawyer, or my social worker, but: does a foster child (removed from a good foster home as part of a sibling pair, where only the much older sibling's interests were considered) have a right - beyond the state's code, ethical code, guidance manual, etc - to visits with the former foster parents, if she wishes? I have done cursory research on this, but it may just be a rumor or wishful thinking. Thanks for any suggestions.
posted by mmiddle at 5:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me help myself

What are some good reading recommendations to help me overcome my abandonment issues? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 4:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Clean a little now, so I don't have to scrape a lot later

What little, relatively easy cleaning jobs can I do on a regular basis that would be A LOT harder to clean if I let them go? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 4:53 PM PST - 14 comments

HDMI splitter that will work automatically?

I have an older (2006-ish?) tv with one HDMI port. I have three things (Roku, DVD player, and cable box) I would like to watch via the tv. I've been using an HDMI splitter that requires manual switching (I have to go click it to transfer between the cables), and it's in the process of active dying. I would love to replace it with something that (a) works and (b) does not require that I get up to click it when I switch from Hulu to cable. I'd love to avoid another remote control as well, but it's not a dealbreaker. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 4:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Bed bugs or not bed bugs?

I can't believe I'm asking one of these, but here we go. Bed bugs or not bed bugs? Pictures: one, two, three. Bugs found in the floor cracks of my wooden floor, about 6-8mm long, kind of look like mini beetles, dark blackish-brown color except for one that apparently got bleached by drying out in the sun. [more inside]
posted by Questolicious at 4:09 PM PST - 14 comments

I am compiling a playlist about lonesome losers. Help me populate it.

I have become semi-obsessed with Danny O' Keefe's early 70s country folk mope "Good Time Charlie's Got the Blues" and want to find more in its vein. [more inside]
posted by Senor Cardgage at 3:59 PM PST - 55 comments

Should I go to Paris solo?

I’ve never been to Europe (or anywhere besides the US and Canada). Will I regret going alone the first time? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 3:17 PM PST - 37 comments

Who holds the copyright on "Annabel Lee" by Edgar Allen Poe?

Is there a copyright holder for "Annabel Lee" by Edgar Allen Poe? Or, is it in the public domain?
posted by John Borrowman at 3:16 PM PST - 3 comments

Is there a way to restrict easy copying of a Google Map?

Made a map of local locations, about 400 of them, with the intent of sharing it with other locals, using Google Maps. But it seems anyone with the public link of a Google Map can easily copy the map and make their own. Is there anyway to restrict this, while still making it public, i.e. not force people give email addresses to see it? [more inside]
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 2:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Twinkle, Twinkle, little BUZZ

Our 140 year old grand piano just started buzzing when you play most keys. What can we do to fix it, or at least to diagnose the problem? [more inside]
posted by vernondalhart at 2:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Pediatric Strabismus Surgery Questions

Mini McGee might have strabismus surgery, and he has a lot of questions, especially about how it feels and the recovery. Step inside and help a 9-year-old out! [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 1:37 PM PST - 11 comments

Can they eat it ver. 687

Hot car + weird bottle + feeding kids makes me wonder if I should be paranoid and just buy a bunch of new ranch? [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 1:27 PM PST - 6 comments

You mean all clothing doesn't block out the sun?

What is the deal with UPF clothing? I expect that when I'm wearing a regular, normal shirt that I won't get sunburned through it. Yet now I'm seeing there's special clothing that says "SPF 50" and stuff on it. What's that mean? Isn't a regular t-shirt just about SPF infinity?
posted by chrchr at 1:14 PM PST - 19 comments

The parable of the prodigal cat: how do I get his brother to accept him?

We have a pair of cats that we had adopted years ago as a bonded pair. They loved each other.....until one got lost for four months and returned. But now his brother hates him! What do we do? It's breaking my heart! [more inside]
posted by Karaage at 1:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Which season of Drag Race should I watch next?

I just finished Season 10 of RuPaul’s Drag Race. I want to buy another season to watch, but since I’m paying for a season individually, I figured I’d ask for mefites’ favorites. Don’t spoil the winners, please!
posted by ocherdraco at 12:58 PM PST - 18 comments

Is there anyplace with no house centipedes?

Is there anyplace in the US, Canada or Central America where house centipedes have never made it or if they have, don't survive or only grow to 1/4 inch long or so? Before you answer this question, please go to Wikipedia and look at a picture of a house centipede. I am not talking about millipedes or any similar creature with many legs. Neither am I talking about a footlong centipede with short legs that looks like a millipede. I am talking specifically and only about house centipedes (which grow to 1.5 inches at most). Please no links to sites with pictures of centipedes. And please no discussions of the wonders of house centipedes because I am a Never Centipeder to the degree of asking a question like this and am completely immune to reason or detached interest on the subject.
posted by anonymous at 12:36 PM PST - 80 comments

The best single-pocket small bag money can buy.

A music festival I attend has really restricted the bags you can bring in this year. Full rules here. What is my best option for dealing with the constrictions of one pocket, 14" x 11" x 5" ? I don't really want to spend money for something that'll be used once a year, but the only thing I have now that fits is a cheapo fanny pack, which isn't going to cut it for what I like to carry with me. Do you have anything that fits these restrictions that you love? Where did you buy it? [more inside]
posted by Fig at 11:36 AM PST - 17 comments

Help identify the artist of this mod mushroom artwork!

This vibrant pink and purple mushroom artwork, that appears to be silkscreen?, was purchased in 2014. A friend of mine got it from a dealer who did not know anything about the artist or origin. She paid $200 for it and the work is signed with the initials R.B. I've spent a little time searching eBay, but have come up empty. Help? I'd love to find and purchase another just like it!
posted by kidushka at 11:20 AM PST - 1 comment

Hope me

Seeking stories of couples counselling success. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:00 AM PST - 5 comments

How do you deal with anti-Semitism at work?

People at work are often weird about me being Jewish, even when I don't disclose it. How do I deal with them in a professional way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:53 AM PST - 29 comments

Pain on the left side of the body

From the time I asked my last question, there have been some changes in the pain location, time etc, so asking a new question. I am having mild pain/burning sensation under different areas of the left side. Need help on deciding which specialist to go to! [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 10:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Roleplaying chaos as a religion

What rules, traditions, and beliefs would a religion that worships a god of chaos follow, and how might one role play this as a player? I have developed a character for a Dungeons & Dragons 5E game, a pirate monk who follows a chaotic god of the sea and storms. I'm having a bit of trouble mentally reconciling what an organized religious order that lives by the tenets of chaos would look like. Clarifying details and back story inside. [more inside]
posted by lieber hair at 10:03 AM PST - 15 comments

dishwasher power wiring

Do the "L" and "N" on this power terminal represent 'live' and 'neutral'?
posted by danep at 9:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Ways of describing 'textbook management' versus 'real-world management'?

I'm working on a business training which includes content on the difference between how things 'should' be versus 'how they really are'. What should I call the two sides? [more inside]
posted by StephenF at 9:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Trader Joe's product discussion

Is there a discussion forum or community about products from Trader Joe's? [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 9:00 AM PST - 12 comments

delinquent credit card: pay or settle?

Followup to an earlier question. I was unemployed for a while, and let one of my credit cards go unpaid too long. It went to collections... I think? Now I may be able to settle for about 40% of the debt, but should I? How do I decide? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:52 AM PST - 4 comments

Multi-purpose pulled pork?

I have a couple of huge, very inexpensive cuts of centre pork loin and want to make a couple of large batches of multi-purpose pulled pork in my Instant Pot to flavour in smaller batches later. Is this a good idea? If so, two questions. [more inside]
posted by mireille at 7:58 AM PST - 14 comments

Landlord holding security deposit against lease terms (NY State)

After moving out of a rented house, the landlord is holding my security deposit because of the condition of landscaping that I'm not responsible for in any signed lease agreement. [more inside]
posted by eusebis_w_adorno at 7:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Public lectures/workshops in London (or EU)

I plan on visiting London in August, September and October. I am looking for public lectures (could be paid, or it could be non-public but tolerant of public infiltrators) on just about any intellectually interesting topic - philosophy, religion, politics, psychotherapy, cryptoeconomics, history, art, music, writing, well-being etc etc etc. Any thoughts and ideas of where to start looking? Cheers.
posted by vizsla at 7:26 AM PST - 18 comments

Two horrible floors - what to do about them?

I live in a crumbling Victorian house which is being rehabbed by me, by hand, at a glacial pace. The basement floor is horrible, Victorian and gross; the kitchen floor is wooden, painted with outdoor paint and has some gaps. Neither will be really fixed in the medium term future - what can be done to stabilize and clean them? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:24 AM PST - 27 comments

What furniture to use to display my audiophile stereo components

I've got a pretty nice selection of stereo components. I'm looking for a won't-break-the-bank solution to display my stuff, but it needs to be built for heavy gear. Help me make this stuff look good. [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 6:42 AM PST - 4 comments

🍺💥

What's the best way to get beer smell out of a suitcase? Not asking for any particular reason.
posted by Tehhund at 5:30 AM PST - 19 comments

What scares a vampire?

Last night, after an iffy stick, the phlebotomist ended up holding the needle steady during my entire blood donation. I made the minimum amount, and we were hanging in there to fill the bag, when suddenly... [more inside]
posted by wellred at 5:28 AM PST - 10 comments

Online language study for dilettante language nerd

I want to do some online foreign language study, basically for fun. Have done some Duolingo but getting increasingly dissatisfied. Recommend me some good sites. Details below. [more inside]
posted by huimangm at 5:24 AM PST - 6 comments

What should I be asking myself when deciding to apply for a job?

I'm being encouraged to apply for a position that I may or may not be interested in. What questions should I be asking myself to help make a decision to apply or not? Sparkly snowflakes to follow... [more inside]
posted by watrlily at 3:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Amster-damn you, Arthritis!

Can you recommend some sitting-intensive activities in Amsterdam and/or Rotterdam for a traveller with limited mobility and limited capacity to stand? [more inside]
posted by chudmonkey at 3:43 AM PST - 11 comments

How to repair tub finish damaged from toilet bowl cleaner

I thought it would be a great idea to use toilet bowl cleaner on the tub. Turns out, not so much. Now my tub finish appears to be etched in the places where the tub cleaner was applied. And the other areas look grosser than ever in comparison. I need help. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 2:48 AM PST - 10 comments

July 17

Best audiobooks for someone who doesn't listen to audiobooks

I really need to cancel my Audible account, but I have 5 credits to use up. Help me out? [more inside]
posted by yueliang at 10:41 PM PST - 38 comments

What's this exercise phenomenon called?

So I walked a marathon last weekend. I'm 50 pounds overweight and no spring chicken, so it was really hard for me. Around mile 16, I really, really wanted to quit. [more inside]
posted by ruemonkey at 8:01 PM PST - 13 comments

What is the difference between a regular cymbal stand and suspended?

What are the differences in sonics and practical uses of a cymbal stand in a rock drum kit vs. a suspended stand with a boom arm like you'd see in symphonic music? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 7:43 PM PST - 13 comments

A man, a plan, a root canal: Your endodontry stories pls?

The bad news: My partner needs a LOT of dental work. The good news: For the first time ever, we have dental insurance (through my employer)! Now I’m reading the Schedule of Benefits, scratching my head. I’m totally new to endodontics. There are SO many choices. We are low income. Please help? I’m looking for suggestions based on your experience or research. [more inside]
posted by shalom at 7:37 PM PST - 20 comments

When to take your eyes off the medical issue and focus on the legal one?

A relative of mine was critically injured in an accident this weekend. My relative was most likely at fault, and an investigation is underway. Other people were also injured. My question is partly legal, partly about etiquette. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 6:35 PM PST - 14 comments

Vegan dessert for a birthday party

My sweet vegan friend is having a milestone birthday and we're surprising her with a party. I've been tasked with bringing dessert for about 20 people. My current idea is to make vegan brownies and have some vegan ice cream and other toppings for a brownie sundae bar type thing. But I'm not vegan and haven't done a lot of vegan baking, so I could use some help! [more inside]
posted by Empidonax at 6:25 PM PST - 27 comments

Physics/math problem - how to get from one position+velocity to another

I've got a problem I've been chewing on, and have it partly figured out, but haven't managed to distill it into a form I could, for example, code into a video game. Basically, if I have a starting position and velocity, and want to have a particular ending position and velocity after a given time, what movement accomplishes that with the smallest peak acceleration? I feel like this is probably a solved problem, but I don't know how to search for the topic effectively. [more inside]
posted by NMcCoy at 5:40 PM PST - 10 comments

How to add a date stamp to a series of video files?

I have a series of home videos that I've recorded on my iphone. The videos are in .mov format. I'd like to burn these videos to a dvd so that my parents can watch them. Before I do this, I'd like to find a program that can take all of the video files and stamp them with the date they were recorded. Can anyone suggest a program that can do this? [more inside]
posted by Proginoskes at 5:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Recipes with large (at least 1/2 C) quantities of nutritional yeast?

I'm cleaning out my pantry and have a bunch of nutritional yeast that I need to use up. Most of the recipes I'm finding online only use 1 or 2 tablespoons -- does anyone have healthy-ish recipes that use at least 1/2 C of the stuff? No dietary restrictions, so open to vegan or non-vegan dishes.
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 4:38 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me with a nostalgic Québécois earworm

I heard a song in a taxi in Montreal this weekend, and I can't get it out of my head or find out what it was! The only lyrics I caught were "Je t'en prie ne me [manque] (I think) pas". It was a male vocalist, upbeat, it had a saxophone solo, and overall a sixties, Lee Hazlewood kinda sound. I believe the singer was Québécois rather than European.
posted by ITheCosmos at 3:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Auto buying asst, scam, frustration and the right thing to do?

I recently singed up for help from a number of auto buying assistants online and one of them is sending me an invoice that seems inappropriate. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 2:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Job my comic book memory?

90's Superman Filter: I remember, I think, when Jimmy Olsen became Plastic Lad he ended up living underground with a group of meta humans who had very small "s" superpowers. I can't find any record of this, anyone? [more inside]
posted by Cosine at 2:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Ireland transit: Dublin to Lismore without a car

What’s a good way to get from Dublin airport to the middle of County Waterford without a car? Ideally keeping costs low. [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 2:45 PM PST - 3 comments

What are your favorite contemporary essay collections?

I have loved recent books by John Jeremiah Sullivan, Cheston Knapp, and Meghan Daum. Who am I missing? [more inside]
posted by sureshot at 2:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Renting an apartment in New York with mixed credit

We are a married couple apartment-hunting in New York. One of us has better credit than the other. Should we apply jointly or to have the partner with better credit apply solo? (Is that even an option?) [more inside]
posted by enn at 1:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Civil Disobedience: Rental Car Key Edition

When you rent a car (at least in the US), it is common to be given two keys or fobs, fastened together on a key ring that cannot be opened non-destructively. This is a major pain. If I were to cut the ring open, would I catch hell? [more inside]
posted by sourcequench at 1:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Struggling to work without headphones

I've been either a student or a freelancer for the past 10 years, and I'm used to listening to music or podcasts while I work. Now I have a full-time job in an office where headphones aren't allowed, and I'm really struggling with working in silence. [more inside]
posted by Chenko at 1:22 PM PST - 10 comments

Old timey medical terms

In some novels and other books I've read, characters suffer from lumbago, catarrh and apoplexy. Today, we would call these lower back pain, postnasal discharge, and a stroke. What are other older, now disused, medical terms? And what do they mean?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 1:05 PM PST - 47 comments

No More Gifts

How to approach this birthday dinner for a close friend with others in attendance? What small gift to bring when you are over giving and receiving gifts for birthdays? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 12:53 PM PST - 21 comments

Books on homelessness in America?

I'm looking to read a non-fiction book about homelessness in America, preferably written within the last 10 years. More requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by drawfrommemory at 12:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Appropriating Eastern European Culture?

Is it possible to appropriate European culture? I realize the short answer is "yes," but hoping for some guidance. [more inside]
posted by toastedcheese at 12:34 PM PST - 13 comments

Low-cost massage in Seattle near the U-District

Due to a few nights sleeping on a terrible mattress followed by too much physical exertion in walking awkwardly to compensate for the pain, means that my back is stiff and sore all over. The mattress issue is resolved but I would very much like to get a massage! [more inside]
posted by acidnova at 12:11 PM PST - 6 comments

custom-printed EVERYTHING

Mr Corpse, if you're reading this: look away. My 20th wedding anniversary is very soon and I've decided to go for quantity, not quality, to celebrate. Our wedding photos were terrible and so I'm going to get one of the worst printed on as many cheap things as I can find. Please recommend things, especially things that can be used outside. [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 11:56 AM PST - 17 comments

My feet hurt, please help

I have weak arches, and the soles of my feet hurt. It feels like they are getting stretched on the inside, which I think is classic plantar fasciitis. I'm underweight and not a runner, but I do walk a fair bit and my shoe heels wear out on the outside edges first. I've tried a few different orthotic inserts in my hiking boots; our local running store sold me walking sneakers and inserts; and an acquaintance suggested the X-brace, which I haven't tried yet. What say you, Metafilter? What should I try for foot pain? [more inside]
posted by RedOrGreen at 11:08 AM PST - 28 comments

Looking for fiction about blues/jug bands/medicine shows

I love the blues, especially early blues (pre 1940), and after having read numerous factual accounts and histories of blues musicians I'm really interested in reading fiction set in that world. I'd be grateful for any recommendations for fiction featuring black musicians in the early part of the 20th century, especially featuring blues/ragtime/jug bands and the like.
posted by itsjustanalias at 10:58 AM PST - 10 comments

Selfie video, selfidio?

I have about a week to make a 30-second video of myself for an application. What are some good practices, tips, etc? [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 at 9:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Removing photos from Pinterest

Asking for a friend. Friend has found some compromising photos of themself posted to Pinterest without their knowledge or consent and is struggling to get the images removed, does anyone know a useful way of getting this done quickly? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 8:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Asking a toxic ex for child maintenance. How and how much?

It's complicated - wall of text below the jump. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 7:53 AM PST - 11 comments

What are these red spots on my cat's stomach?

A few weeks ago, small red dots showed up on my 6 year old, male cat's stomach. He has a tendancy to rub himself around his face and chin and cause rawness/scabbing, so we thought maybe that's what this was. He was at the vet a little over a week ago for a bladder issue but the vet didn't say anything about these spots (and we forgot to ask). They've now gotten bigger and look worse. Any help diagnosing would be great! Pictures inside [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 7:24 AM PST - 16 comments

Hot Cleaning Tips

I haven't cleaned my house for years (to be clear, someone else was doing it - I wasn't living in filth). I recently bought a new house and I'm feeling a pleasant sense of accomplishment in taking care of it myself. For however long this is the case, I'd like to ride it out rather than hiring someone. [more inside]
posted by something something at 6:45 AM PST - 21 comments

Using a fluorescent tube ceiling light after a leak

Several days after a leak that came through a fluorescent tube light fitting, my mother's told me there's no problem with the light as she's turned it on and it was fine. I'm not happy this is safe. [more inside]
posted by SometimeNextMonth at 6:08 AM PST - 4 comments

Computer games to help develop maths fluency?

I'm looking for recommendations for computer games to help students develop fluency and speed in mental arithmetic while still being fun. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:08 AM PST - 7 comments

Performing hiring interviews - best and worst questions to ask?

I've been performing interviews and hiring for a few years at my job now. I'm not very good at it. Essentially, I ask them a few questions about their experience and then go into a long speech about the company, job requirements, hours, dress code, bore fest. How can I make things more interesting and also get a lot of information? [more inside]
posted by Sara_NOT_Sarah at 6:07 AM PST - 20 comments

Design my hidden litter box

I have a cat and a small condo. Right now one entire bathroom is basically unusable because it contains her litter box and therefore is gross. I'm hoping to make some adjustments so that I can start using that bathroom, and I need your help to perfect my plan! [more inside]
posted by Bebo at 5:59 AM PST - 15 comments

Looking for a low profile women's digital watch

I'm looking for a watch that is small, not bulky. I want it to be digital, preferably colorful or with a design. It being waterproof or water resistant is preferred. I would like something like this watch in a bright color or design. I don't care if it's women or men's, although feminine and not super sporty would be nice. I don't want a baby-g. I hate the round face and the super sportyness of it. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 5:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Helping someone overcome class shame

I am looking for an inspiring talk (or something!) by someone who has grown up in what would be considered a "rough"/poor/"low ses" environment with not much opportunity, and through hard work and dedication, made their way into the middle class as a professional, but without disowning or disavowing their past. [more inside]
posted by beccyjoe at 4:49 AM PST - 29 comments

Desperate for housing help for my friend--NYC

A family friend is caught up in NYC public housing bureaucracy and I don't know how to help her--do you? She lives in a housing project on the LES with the abusive father of her child, and she needs to get out. I'm looking for referrals, resources, organizations--anything I can do to help her. More inside. [more inside]
posted by aimeedee at 4:14 AM PST - 3 comments

the best mug

I'm going to buy myself a mug. Just a desk mug but it has to be the best desk mug. Help me find this elusive creature. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 3:48 AM PST - 11 comments

False alarms, faulty alarms? What should I do?

I’ve had two First Alert Smoke/CO alarms fail in 1.5 years, each lasting about nine months, each time in the same spot. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 3:41 AM PST - 4 comments

Rapid breathing at night?

I've noticed that my boyfriend tends to breathe quickly and shallowly when sleeping - is this a medical issue? If so, how worried do I need to be? [more inside]
posted by fight or flight at 3:36 AM PST - 4 comments

WhatsApp usage etiquette for work communication

I have WhatsApp installed on my phone and primarily use it for communicating with friends and family. Recently, a series of business contacts/customers (up to VP levels!) have found me on WhatsApp and seem to think it is appropriate to use this medium to communicate and request information that I feel should only be transmitted via Work Email. This makes me uncomfortable. How can I get them to email me instead?
posted by netsirk at 3:09 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me gift my people who spend the summer in, on, around boats

I'm visiting and staying with my sister and brother-in-law who live by the water and like boats. Lucky me! Help me buy them something fun. [more inside]
posted by Gotanda at 2:21 AM PST - 7 comments

save my phone

Halp! My iphone SE got rained on very heavily ( I had dropped it on the ground). It works ok one day later but seems to have some water behind(?) the screen. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 1:46 AM PST - 9 comments

How difficult is it to redecorate including replacing some tiles?

My bathroom needs some redecorating work and to save money I'd like to try doing it myself. Currently the bathroom has fairly large (about 3" square) tiles on the bottom half of the walls, then green tiled edging and green wallpaper. Most of the tiles are white but some of them have little green frogs on them. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 1:42 AM PST - 6 comments

July 16

Transport / Delivery Bike ID

I saw a Dutch-style transport bike today on the street for which I've already forgotten the brand name. Maybe someone here is familiar with some lesser-known and possibly newish brands and knows what I'm talking about? [more inside]
posted by tenderly at 11:11 PM PST - 13 comments

Word macro to highlight different numerals in different colors?

I'm trying in vain to figure out how to automate, in Word, highlighting all instances of each numeral in a different color (e.g. 1 = yellow, 2 = cyan, etc.) to ensure consistency in translation work. Apparently when recording macros, it doesn't record what you search for, making it much harder for me to figure out how to actually go about this. Any suggestions and/or solutions? For what it's worth, I'm running the newest Word 365 on macOS.
posted by DoctorFedora at 8:15 PM PST - 8 comments

I need a REAL ID

I have an appointment tomorrow to get a REAL ID, as my ID expired earlier this year. I need something with proof of social security number, but cannot retrieve my social security card in time. I also can't find my most recent W2. The only one I've found is from 2012 - is this too old? [more inside]
posted by soif at 7:50 PM PST - 8 comments

Will we? Well, with will and a will, we will.

We need to make a will. We live in Ontario, Canada. What do we need to consider and who do we need to hire? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 6:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Foreign languages for work

I enjoy learning foreign languages as a hobby, and until today I thought I was doing pretty well. Someone at work asked for help translating a passage, and I realized that most of my vocabulary is relating to fun and hobbies, and I can't really discuss professional matters. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 6:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Help My Plan My Mid-Life (Car) Crisis.

I've loved Mustangs for as long as I can remember and have the opportunity to purchase a beauty of a 2013 Mustang GT this week. In order to afford it, however, I will (almost assuredly) have to make it my full-time ride - but the Mustang is a rear wheel drive car and I live in Southern Ontario (where we most definitely get snow every winter). Can I make this work? [more inside]
posted by VioletU at 5:24 PM PST - 19 comments

Paid someone for a job and now no response

How should I deal with someone I paid upfront via PayPal for a consulting session who didn't show up via phone for the session and now they won't return emails or phone calls? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 5:16 PM PST - 7 comments

Toothbrush options for an adult with sensory issues

I just learned that you can get non-standard toothbrushes and they may help ease sensory issues around toothbrushing. Mind blown. I need this. I'm overwhelmed by Amazon links and parents talking about their children when I try to google for more info. Please help me sort out my options. [more inside]
posted by (Over) Thinking at 5:03 PM PST - 2 comments

Fat-Friendly Primary Care Physician in Phoenix, AZ

How can I find a fat-friendly / size-friendly doctor in Phoenix, AZ? [more inside]
posted by meese at 4:54 PM PST - 1 comment

My father has a mean streak, what to do about it, filter.

My father, now a widower, seems to want to transfer the aggression he felt towards my mother upon me, his daughter. My questions are, 1.) What mental health conditions, if any, could be the cause of his behavior and 2.) I need book recommendations on how to deal with this/personal anecdotes and advice. Nobody here is my doctor or his, I will not take this as medical advice, etc. [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 4:18 PM PST - 19 comments

Tell me more about bra-fittings

I'm interested in getting a bra-fitting, but I'm a bit hesitant about actually booking one. How exactly does a bra fitting work? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 4:06 PM PST - 20 comments

Making over Oscar the Grouch

If you were a formerly messy person who is now decent at keeping things organized, how did you do it? [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 3:45 PM PST - 29 comments

What is a rolling stop called where you live?

A rolling stop is when someone approaches a stop sign and slows, but doesn't come to a complete stop before going through the intersection. Like this. In Southern Oregon, where I grew up and learned to drive in the 1980s, this was called a "California stop." I can't imagine that it's called that in California, or in states that don't share a border with California. Hence the question -- what is this kind of stop called in other parts of the US/world?
posted by OrangeDisk at 2:47 PM PST - 99 comments

I need to sync my documents folders across computers & keep them synced

I have the MyDocuments folder at work and MyDocuments\work on my home desktop and my laptop. I need to A) Sync these up so anything not on every computer is copied to the corresponding folder and B) Keep everything synced in real time. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 12:11 PM PST - 15 comments

How to configure new MacBook

I’m buying my first computer in nearly a decade—one of the new MacBook Pros—and could use some guidance on how to configure it to meet my needs. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 11:42 AM PST - 14 comments

Name of this restaurant in Atlanta?

Hello MeFites -- I'm trying to remember the name of a restaurant in Atlanta where, once upon a time, I had a delicious brunch on a lovely back patio. WHAT IS THE NAME OF THIS PLACE? [more inside]
posted by whimsicalnymph at 11:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for design/decor inspiration (with dark wood paneling)

I am moving to a new apartment with and my usual decor searches are failing me. My new place is on the garden (i.e., semi-basement) floor of a classic Brooklyn brownstone. It has gorgeous, original, dark (walnut) wood paneling that extends halfway up the walls in the living room and master bedroom. (I am renting so no, this cannot be painted.) Help me find inspo photos? [more inside]
posted by CiaoMela at 11:31 AM PST - 6 comments

Wanted: cozy mountain hermitage (with glorious fibre internet)

Where in the northeast should we go for a much-needed hermet-esque working holiday/retreat from humidity and distraction? Where would you hole up for two weeks if your wishlist included relative seclusion, gorgeous mountains/coasts/other natural splendor for hiking and adventuring, but also really excellent internet access (since we do, actually, need to be working 95% of the time we're there)? More specific considerations within, but generally just looking for both suggestions of general areas to investigate and/or specific accommodations to check out. [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 11:15 AM PST - 8 comments

2018 version of Paste Magazine / mixtape subscription?

I used to have a subscription to Paste Magazine, when they sent out CDs with a bunch of curated songs, and also had a lot of cool cultural stuff. I'd like to buy a subscription to a similar service for my 14-year-old nephew, but I'm not sure what's available these days. Ideally, it should be a mix of hip, current culture (music, film, literature, etc.), with intelligent commentary. [more inside]
posted by crookedgrin at 9:57 AM PST - 5 comments

how is ralotionshep formed

how girl get boyfrand [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 9:03 AM PST - 41 comments

Get-Stability-Quick Schemes! Help Me Develop Mine?

I moved to NYC in the spring, and transferred within my firm for the sake of having a job ready for my arrival. The job was lost, and now I'm about to lose my place of residence. Please help me prepare; more below the cut. [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 8:40 AM PST - 14 comments

Quirky, Indie Greeting Cards

I hate most greeting cards with a passion. So kitschy! So middlebrow! Suppose I've exhausted all my Rifle Paper Company and David Shrigley options over the years. Where else can I find well-designed cards that are not the usual Hallmark schlock?
posted by dis_integration at 8:26 AM PST - 25 comments

Preparing for life after cataract surgery

I'm having the first of two cataract surgeries tomorrow and the second in three weeks. Should I be buying reading glasses? Can I get them online? And how do I deal with the intermittent three weeks? Increasingly hysterical questions below the fold. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:20 AM PST - 23 comments

Power assist wheelbarrows

Can you recommend a power assist wheelbarrow or cart? [more inside]
posted by zamboni at 8:12 AM PST - 2 comments

Student loan updates or advocacy group

Hello! I'm about a year away from enrolling in the Public Service Loan Forgiveness program. I want to stay abreast of news regarding it and other federal student loan matters. (In case it suddenly vanishes, which seems likely.) Other than Google, are there groups or news sources you recommend for getting updates on these topics? Thank you.
posted by 8603 at 7:52 AM PST - 8 comments

Home radio replacement?

We have a small radio in our kitchen. It is not new (it has an iPod dock!) but it plays radio and has decent sound. My wife would like to have something that plays music in more than just our kitchen. Recommendation? [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 7:43 AM PST - 15 comments

Casting content at the cottage

What's the best (cheapest, easiest) way to cast videos to a TV without an internet connection? [more inside]
posted by sevenyearlurk at 7:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Why no YouTube sequential playlist I can add to?

A matter I've never been able to understand: It seems YouTube has nothing that lets you line up more than one suggested video so you can lie down to listen to them one after the other. After one video you have to go right back to the screen and click the next thing you wanna see/hear. Please tell me I've missed something... I'm only asking for what, e.g., any music app does -- to add to "Now Playing," or whatever Ytb wants to call it. A "current playlist"...
posted by noelpratt2nd at 7:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Advise Me on Advice Columns

I love advice columns. I want more of them to read. Please share your favourites! [more inside]
posted by hepta at 7:00 AM PST - 26 comments

Plant leaves have spots - sick, or dying?

My plant leaves have spots - both blueberry bushes and either a raspberry or blackberry bush. Any idea what it might be? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 5:27 AM PST - 4 comments

Difficult friend situation

One of my friends just married a self-proclaimed Nazi. I'm not sure what to do with the friendship after this - help, please? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 5:24 AM PST - 40 comments

Clothes/shoes shopping for plus sized woman with cognitive difficulties

Sizing systems are weird. [more inside]
posted by Psychology Hearts at 4:01 AM PST - 31 comments

July 15

Starting a Spanish practice group at my job

I emailed my workplace to gauge interest in a lunchtime Spanish language practice group and got 50 enthusiastic replies. Great! Now I need to actually start the thing, and figure out how to make it fun and effective. [more inside]
posted by introcosm at 11:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Kitty won't stop scratching my chair

How do I keep my cat from scratching the back of my office chair? [more inside]
posted by all the light we cannot see at 10:20 PM PST - 10 comments

Resources to help someone detained by ICE in Tacoma detention center

I found out through facebook that an old friend that I no longer know well has just been detained by ICE, apparently currently at Northwest Detention Center, in Tacoma WA. His girlfriend is spearheading the fundraising effort for legal help. They haven't secured a lawyer yet as the current case loads are extremely high. I am trying to brainstorm ideas on how to help him. [more inside]
posted by Pantalaimon at 10:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for Wisconsin politics Twitter/blogs/podcasts/whatever

Wisconsin mefites -- what are your favorite sources for local politics? [more inside]
posted by gerstle at 8:45 PM PST - 9 comments

I need to see a doctor, to get ID. Difficulty: I'm broke

I have to get a social security card, to get a state ID. The nice person at the Social Security office told me that I need only get a piece of paperwork from some medical office showing that I'd had some medical attention- and I had, recently- but nobody at the hospital's medical records office would sign anything, for what sounded like good reasons. [more inside]
posted by hap_hazard at 8:37 PM PST - 27 comments

Painted furniture with images

A style of furniture common to beach Victorian homes is painted with figures (often with an Asian look, as here) or flowers, etc. Is there a name for this style? And where would I learn more about it? Here is an example.
posted by mmf at 8:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Bad things come to those who wait

Stop me if you've heard this one before. Over the past year I've become friends with a woman and somewhere along the way developed feelings for her. I waited too long to make my feelings known, and now she's dating someone else. I've been completely caught off guard by how much this has affected me and don't really know where to go from here. [more inside]
posted by thornhill at 6:36 PM PST - 20 comments

What can you do about substandard care in a nursing home?

What can you do about substandard care in a nursing home? [more inside]
posted by _cave at 6:22 PM PST - 8 comments

What is this thing?

What is this thing? I have had it for about 30 years and have no idea what the heck it is. Pics and story under the fold. [more inside]
posted by fimbulvetr at 6:21 PM PST - 19 comments

Looking for a French music video from the late 2000s.

I'm looking for a music video that was released in the late 2000s, in French, and was in black and white (or some sort of sepia) and was a long shot of graffiti that moved along a wall in which people occasionally walked in an interacted with. It might not have been French (as in from France), but maybe Belgium or Canadian? Very thick accents. Alt-rock, starts off with a guitar riff, includes the lyrics "très bizarre." Help? [more inside]
posted by itchie at 6:18 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I maange "up" at a small company?

I got hired on at a small tech company and one person runs the shows. I was hired to relieve this person of some of their responsibilities so they could focus on growing the business. I feel as if they're playing the "I'm busy and need help but secretly don't want anyone but myself to do things" game. Details within. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 6:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Travel destinations for one

I'm looking for some vacation ideas for a first time solo traveler. Where have you been that might be a good fit? [more inside]
posted by Chicoreus at 5:34 PM PST - 21 comments

Applefilter, Why Can't I use Bootcamp on my MacBook Air?

I have an early 2014 MacBook Air with the latest version of Mac OS High Sierra. I want to bootcamp this machine and install Windows 10, but Bootcamp Assistant is refusing to do so, claiming I need 40 GB free. I have 150+ according to Disk Utility. What gives? [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 4:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Financial guidelines for new group

I am among the leaders of a new statewide political group, and I am interested in your advice to help us develop good financial practices and policies. I am especially interested in guidelines for spending limits (such as position X can make independent spending decisions up to Y amount, and anything over that limit requires approval by Z). [more inside]
posted by maurreen at 4:04 PM PST - 2 comments

Grey hair no longer grey?

I had a shock of grey hair on the top of my head as of a year ago. Maybe 40-50 hairs; enough to be noticeable, not just one or two. I don't pay a huge amount of attention to my appearance, and just noticed --- no more grey hair! How weird is this? Why? Any information would be welcomed.
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 2:56 PM PST - 9 comments

My boyfriend is best friend with his ex

So... yeah, no idea how to deal with this. They are best friends. More inside... [more inside]
posted by Tiffy119 at 2:26 PM PST - 61 comments

How do I deal with on one of the attention from a neighborhood kid?

I am a 41 year old adult woman living alone in the city. Over the past few weeks, a boy in the neighborhood has been Increasingly fascinated with me. I’m assuming a crush, but I don’t know. I don’t know the age of the boy, my guess would be somewhere between nine and 12. It’s starting to creep me out. Please help me deal with this situation. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 2:13 PM PST - 42 comments

Are Public Radio salaries tied to U.S. Civil Service pay tables?

I asked a spokesperson for NPR about a discovery I made regarding CPB oversight of public broadcasting. CPB was required to issue, by November 1979, accounting principles for use by telecommunication entities to account fully for all funds received and expended by such entities. In addition, CPB is required to: [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 1:57 PM PST - 1 comment

Mini schnauzer adapting to urban apartment living? (Photo inside!)

My husband and I will likely move to the Bay Area/San Francisco later this year with our seven year old miniature schnauzer. (Obligatory photo.) What can we do to make this change in our lifestyle easier for him? What should we consider when we make this move? What kinds of things will need adjustment in such an environment? [more inside]
posted by jroybal at 1:42 PM PST - 2 comments

hairs that grow under the surface of the skin—but not ingrowns.

I get... well, not exactly ingrown hairs on my legs, but hairs that don't break through the top layer of skin. It's been a (minor) annoyance my whole adult life. [more inside]
posted by alycoop at 1:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Name that short film about salsa/tango/ballroom dancing!

This is a long shot but... I'm trying to find a short documentary from the 90s (maybe earlier) about how salsa dancing (possibly tango, possibly even just generic ballroom dancing) changed the lives of an oddball group of characters. [more inside]
posted by war wrath of wraith at 1:04 PM PST - 4 comments

How to group text 100 neighbors?

My neighborhood has a Nextdoor group for people who hate to use Facebook and a rival Facebook neighborhood group for people suspicious of Nextdoor. This is not working. I am thinking of creating some kind of group texting like an old-fashioned telephone tree but I don't know how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by cda at 1:01 PM PST - 11 comments

I need lodging recommendations

So I'm flying into Burbank airport in early Dec on a Saturday, going to a show at the Palladium Sat night, and flying out on Sunday. I'll be using Lyft to get around. Given this set of information, anyone have any good lodging recommendations for me? Near airport, near venue, someplace reasonable in-between, I don't care. Just someplace that will work for that kind of in-and-out weekend. Also, I'm not fancy.
posted by hippybear at 12:12 PM PST - 10 comments

Culinary Fundraiser ISO Witty Name

I am currently lacking inspiration. Metafilter excels at naming creatures and things. Please help. My culinary school needs a name for their annual fundraiser. [more inside]
posted by jenquat at 11:15 AM PST - 24 comments

I can has job? (At age 58) Filter: Introvert version

Someone in my real life recently kindly pointed out it was most likely ageism why I wasn't having much success finding a new job. I have noticed in the past that many people ask me questions about posts that were obvious to me, so I have included as much information as I can think of that may save time. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 9:59 AM PST - 22 comments

Promoting a membership campaign for a community movie theater

I’m the owner of an old-fashioned, single-screen movie theater (I'll call it the "Paradise Theatre" here). I’d like to launch a new membership program, and I need marketing advice to maximize purchases. [more inside]
posted by JD Sockinger at 9:35 AM PST - 13 comments

What single word describes this quality?

Here's a made-up scenario as illustration. You work for a hotel where customer reviews are of utmost importance. A customer leaves a 1-star review entirely because of the lack of parking available to guests. However, free parking is available at a garage adjacent to the property, and that information is readily available online and in printed materials. Two employees have very different reactions to this review and I'm looking for the right word for the preferred reaction. [more inside]
posted by ferociouskitty at 8:48 AM PST - 40 comments

Locksmith vs. Dealership: How to get bike u-lock key out of car door?

House sitter needed to move my 2016 Honda CRV. Told her where the key was to do this. Unfortunately, she took the wrong key from the hook - which was the key to my wife's u-lock for her bicycle. Now the key is stuck in the door lock. To locksmith or not to locksmith? [more inside]
posted by Thistledown at 8:28 AM PST - 12 comments

Portable chair recommendations

I'm looking for recommendations for portable chairs (I am actually not entirely sure what the right term for them is--camp chair? lawn chair? Something like this array from L.L. Bean). [more inside]
posted by ferret branca at 8:17 AM PST - 7 comments

Adult person planning on being polite to roommte

After an adulthood of living alone or with partner(s) and family, I'm about to enter a situation where I live with a roommate. I'd like to be politely dressed when I am lounging around. Please give me advice. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 7:33 AM PST - 31 comments

A camera for dark times and dark places

I've had a Panasonic Lumix GF1 since 2010; it's given me some good pictures using the 20mm kit lens and also, recently, a nice 45mm Olympus fixed portrait lens. But I've been given some money and told to buy something memorable, and I'm thinking of buying a new camera - in particular, I'd like something that will work better under lower light conditions, which is where the GF1 and my phone camera both fall down a bit and where I would probably benefit from a larger sensor. What I'm looking for is something that is ideally under £500, although I can go up to £1000 in principle. I'll be mostly photographing people; I like getting candid shots so speedy focusing is pretty vital. I'm perfectly happy to buy a second hand camera. [more inside]
posted by Acheman at 7:17 AM PST - 11 comments

Was I asking my partner to enable my anxiety?

Were the requests I made to my ex from values I should stand behind, or from irrational fears that I should have kept to myself? How can I tell I if a value exists only because of anxiety? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by LovingMyself at 6:51 AM PST - 34 comments

Name that short animation with a grandparent who becomes a space whale

Please help me identify this short animation from far too little information! In it, a child and their frail (grand-)parent are walking together, until the grandparent says goodbye and casts themself into a pit. We follow the grandparent in freefall down the (impossibly deep) pit as some changes happen to them, including being wrapped in bandages like a mummy. At the end of this long metamorphosis sequence the grandparent is reborn as a flying/swimming space-whale type creature who, possibly with a wave from the grandchild, makes its way out into the universe. [more inside]
posted by metaBugs at 3:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Pro-LDR Stories

I am looking for stories about people in successful long-term LDRs who don't necessarily have an 'exit strategy.' [more inside]
posted by Spiderwoman at 2:30 AM PST - 11 comments

Please help me understand my parents' behaviour.

Over the past two years, my relationship with my folks has become rather strained. I would like to understand where they are coming from because I don't want to be resentful and would like a cordial relationship with them. Details follow. [more inside]
posted by satipatthana at 12:08 AM PST - 17 comments

July 14

Where to hang out in Boise for a short stay?

I'm in Boise for a month on a work trip, staying in downtown. I'm not really interested in the "places of interest" stops. I also would love an emergency psychiatrist contact. Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by ahundredjarsofsky at 11:34 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me heal

I had GRS 8 months ago and I'm struggling. I need support and kind words and music to help me get past this and learn how to love my body. [more inside]
posted by nikaspark at 6:15 PM PST - 23 comments

Why am I being profiled as a drug seeker by ER staff?

I have several questions, and I'd particularly like to hear from medical professionals. [more inside]
posted by caryatid at 5:40 PM PST - 34 comments

How do I reel this one in?

Have: spincast fishing reel and rod. New line. Looking to reel the new line on to the reel. CAN NOT. Help. [more inside]
posted by hijinx at 5:38 PM PST - 3 comments

more tingles than Chuck

What are your all-time, best-ever, most effective ASMR videos? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 5:29 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me avoid having to buy a new 'fridge

The evaporator fan in my refrigerator keeps failing. I don't know why. I can't afford to buy a new refrigerator. [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 5:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Camping in November

I've decided that I cannot even with my family this year and I want to take a week to camp at Thanksgiving. [more inside]
posted by fluttering hellfire at 5:12 PM PST - 1 comment

how dumb would it be to sleep outside one night in San Francisco?

I'm planning a trip that involves flying into San Francisco and catching a bus the next day. I've heard that this city has a lot of homeless people. I'm wondering if I could avoid paying for a hotel. How difficult, dangerous, or expensive would it be for a healthy young man with a backpack and some camping experience to unroll a bivy sack under a hedge somewhere for the night? [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 4:28 PM PST - 39 comments

Hit me with some hope

Do you know a woman over 50 who had not been working for a decade or more, was left by her husband of 30 or so years, and came out okay? If so, I sure would like to hear about it. This was me and I'm doing surprisingly well, but am scared as hell about the future. Please don't tell me anything that's not absolutely true; I'm not interested in fairy tales. But if you have an encouraging story, or even a not-dismal story, do tell.
posted by johannsebastianbachpuppet at 3:56 PM PST - 15 comments

Should I look into alternative health insurance to my jobs'?

There's a big gap in my company's health insurance. I don't think I can lobby them to change plans or anything, and I don't want to switch jobs. If I refuse my work's coverage and buy my own on the market to get an expensive surgery, will that work out? [more inside]
posted by ikea_femme at 3:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Charging case for an iPhone 6?

My iPhone 6 is now 3.5 years old, and the battery is not what it used to be. Although I have a decent external power bank, I was curious if anyone here had a charging/battery case that they could recommend. There seem to be a variety on Amazon, but several that I looked at did not seem to pass the fake review test. (I am looking to replace the phone eventually, just not right now.)
posted by cozenedindigo at 1:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Having a bad day when playing pool (or similar): What to do about it?

Most pool players experience this from time to time (and I'm sure it's true for other sports as well): We find themselves inexplicably playing worse than usual; then, this becomes a negative feedback loop, as we lose confidence in our playing and then do even worse. The next day we play all could be well again, but while this is happening it's very hard to shake, and very frustrating. What tips do people have for shaking it, or at least making the most of it?
posted by Mechitar at 12:43 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I open my basement drain?

We have a basement drain that is clogged. We're supposed to be able to unscrew the top of the drain, but it's stuck. Looks like we need a special tool for leverage, but I don't know what it's called or where to get one. Pictures/links under the fold. [more inside]
posted by mattu at 12:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Please help me with this stupid gmail thing

Under the new Gmail update, how can I turn off the little pop-up notifications after I do something -- the ones that say "You just deleted this email -- undo?" and "you've sent a message from a trashed conversation, etc." These things are driving me crazy and I though I know you can X out each one, I just can't figure out how to stop them from appearing at all.
posted by BlahLaLa at 11:10 AM PST - 7 comments

A bucket list of things to learn to do

I want to make a list of things to learn/do. Specifically, skills to learn, with a clear concrete goal/win condition, awesome if that win condition is an actual concrete thing. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 11:08 AM PST - 18 comments

How do I build endurance?

I have been doing muay thai on and off for 8 years now - for mental health and fitness, not to become a fighter - but I have not been progressing in terms of strength/endurance. [more inside]
posted by elsmith at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments

crisis management in Social Services department

Social Services in my small community is in a tailspin of scandal upon scandal, with compounding problems to be solved on the way to functioning acceptably. They have gone through a series of directors, some meant to be temporary, in just a few years, and have lost staff. The place is in meltdown, with kids and parents traumatized unnecessarily. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle at 11:01 AM PST - 3 comments

Custom Script!

I’d like to draw a short sequence of pictures (say, a string of tickets) and then drag, copy and repeat that sequence automatically to write/draw cursive script. Is there a cheap/free software I can use to that end available for Linux?
posted by stinkfoot at 10:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Accepting/rejecting/acceding to familial estrangement, ways fwd?

My family has drifted apart (my parents and siblings) over the span of a decade. The process is intermittent, draining and unsettling. A lot more details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Wally and The Case of the Hundred Percent Bankers

We're going through a cleanup and scan time as a family, and one of the items we're working with is my grandfather's high school yearbook from Dallas, TX in 1944/1945. It's pretty straightforward, except we've noticed that many, many people have an achievement listed next to their clubs and awards that they are "One Hundred Percent Bankers". What does it meannnn? [more inside]
posted by theweasel at 9:08 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I watch HBO ?

I have a 3 week old and I find myself with a lot of time that I’d like to spend watching some HBO. I have a TV with an X box. I don’t have a computer. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 8:08 AM PST - 4 comments

Mental discipline - I want a list of backpocket things to think about

On bad days, I feel like even when I'm busy doing something, about 20% of my brain is engaged in cooking up major anxiety and worse-case scenario stories. I have a propensity to get nervous easily, go down dark thought spirals and go full negativity panic. I realize this is a problem and would like to put together a list of POSITIVE, ENGAGING, somewhat RELAXING things to distract myself / focus on. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 7:59 AM PST - 17 comments

What kind of financial professional do I need?

Our household income recently took a sizeable jump, and we have a new set of questions as a result. Who do I need to be talking to? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:44 AM PST - 12 comments

Confederate Flags in Central Massachusetts - Why are so many?

So, I live in northern Worcester county Massachusetts (Fitchburg, to be specific), and ever since moving to the area..I've noticed a disturbing amount of cars with Confederate flags on them. These are either physical flags, or vanity license plates. Why I'm wondering is why on earth there are so many of these aberrations in Massachusetts? [more inside]
posted by Delia at 7:05 AM PST - 33 comments

Grading papers: please share motivational tips

I've been teaching college for a long time and yet I still struggle with motivating myself to grade papers. [more inside]
posted by Morpeth at 2:59 AM PST - 19 comments

July 13

Marijuana vaping in a hotel room

Since it was legalized in Nevada, I've begun smoking pot recreationally with a vape pen. I don't notice any odor in my apartment. If I take a couple of pulls in a non-smoking casino hotel room at night, will it be noticeable either in the hallway outside my room or to the housekeeping crew that comes through in the morning? In other words, will I get kicked out of the hotel or get hit with a big cleaning fee for smoking (but not cigarettes) in my room?
posted by anonymous at 11:57 PM PST - 20 comments

A different L word...

If I die tomorrow, I want all of my asset to be the posthumous wind under the wings of other young queer Asian women. How do I set this up? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Dealing with excessive sweating while teaching

I'm junior faculty at a university and have really enjoyed teaching the past year. However, I have learned from the experience that I tend to sweat while teaching. An awkward, obviously excessive amount. Flop sweat is probably the right word... I'd like to manage this issue in the future, and am hoping for practical ways to make the sweating less obvious. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:56 PM PST - 11 comments

Unexplained spooky feelings

Have you ever had a “creepy” feeling in a place for no reason and later found out why? Not necessarily a supernatural explanation, it could be eg that later you noticed the floorboards were sloping so no wonder you felt a bit uncertain walking about. [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 11:19 PM PST - 36 comments

"Chinese" proverb source and translation?

I've been tasked with finding the source of "Tension is who you think you should be. Relaxation is who you are." So far I've seen it tagged as a Chinese proverb, but I thought I'd ask if anyone from China had ever heard the phrase. If it is Chinese in origin, does the following capture its essence? (I'm entirely ignorant of Chinese languages, I'm just passing on something I found.) 松懈中的你,是真正的你;你之所以感到压力,是因为你期待改变自己
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 10:58 PM PST - 8 comments

What is the tool I'm looking for?

I'm looking for a project planning tool that it seems like should exist, but I can't seem to come up with the right terms to find it. My goal is something like a Gantt chart, but rather than manually assigning resources to tasks, I want to be able to create a list of tasks and dependencies, the number of hours each should take, and a class of resource (e.g. DBA, SysAdmin, Engineer) that can perform the task. [more inside]
posted by jferg at 7:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Whack these moles

We are in a losing battle with what appears to be a colony of moles in our enormous yard, and I'm out of ideas, please help! [more inside]
posted by possibilityleft at 7:04 PM PST - 16 comments

Firefox Search Engine Default Problem

I prefer Ixquick as my search engine. It doesn't record the searches. So I set this as default in Firefox. But lately my preference is reset to the Firefox default search engine--Yahoo. This happens repeatedly. I don't want to use Yahoo. I want Ixquick. So I go into preferences and choose Ixquick again. Then, repeat the above. What's up with this? Can I permanently set my preferred search engine in Firefox?
posted by partner at 5:08 PM PST - 8 comments

what new laptop will feel the best under my fingers?

my trusty, beloved Lenovo Yoga 2 is slowly giving up the ghost and I'm starting to think about a replacement. I want something exactly like it only newer, and I need your help to find it. [more inside]
posted by Old Kentucky Shark at 3:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Have Google Voice number, can't access account

Our organization has a Google Voice number. It goes nowhere and we don't even know what account to try to log into. [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 3:26 PM PST - 3 comments

What to charge for small business computer help?

Someone on Next Door messaged me about paying me for a couple of IT tasks. They are starting up a property management company and they're too busy to handle the tech end of it. I need any work and income I can get so I definitely want to do this, but I have no idea what to charge. I've posted their request inside. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 2:56 PM PST - 16 comments

Where is all our electricity going?

I just got our half year electricity bill (the first after moving into a new place) and it's higher than we expected. We used 10 kWh/day over the last half year. There is no A/C and centrally provided heating.. Please help me search the culprit.. [more inside]
posted by mathiu at 1:48 PM PST - 14 comments

IDing a MG novel

Trying to remember the title of a middle-grade novel from the 1970s/early 1980s. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 1:33 PM PST - 3 comments

What's the 2018 version of the photo slide show set to music?

So, my father's 80th Bday is around the corner, and I have a pile of digital and digitized photos ready. I know I could do a typical photo/transition/photo slide show with music in any number of ways, but I'd like to get a little more creative, with the help of MeFi. Does anyone know or have seen a show-stopping display in tribute to someone, using still photos as a resource? [more inside]
posted by cameradv at 12:24 PM PST - 11 comments

Your best baby washing stuff that doesn't smell like baby powder

I am a few weeks away from having a baby. I hate the smell of baby powder, like it makes me gag. Do you have favorite baby stuff that works like gangbusters, doesn't cost an arm and a leg, is good for sensitive baby skin and, most importantly, doesn't have that "baby powder" smell?
posted by Foam Pants at 12:19 PM PST - 32 comments

Lousy character logic in movies and/or TV shows

Inspired by this screenshot of a tumblr post, what are some of the most egregious examples of sloppy screenplay work that have resulted in a TV or movie character doing something or drawing conclusions that no actual person would ever do IRL? [more inside]
posted by helloimjennsco at 12:12 PM PST - 38 comments

Best current gen game console for no internet area?

Looking for advice on what gaming console is best for a given set of circumstances and needs. The big one: zero internet access. [more inside]
posted by Sternmeyer at 12:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Which London airport should we fly into from Dublin?

Which airport should we fly into from Dublin? [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me at 11:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Cool Rulers

I need an interesting ruler that has some regular distance markings, but they don't have to be inches or centimeters. I know about triangular architect rulers. Max length is 18 inches and I'd like to stay under $30 including shipping. I have lots of quilting rulers in cool shapes, but I am really looking for a straight edge here that can measure in one dimension.
posted by soelo at 11:04 AM PST - 16 comments

How Can I Prevent This Lint Coating on my Workout Clothes?

We have an LG combination washer/dryer (the kind that sings a song when the cycle is done and your clothes are nice and wrinkled). Whenever I wash my workout clothes (separately, cold, with sport-specific detergent and no drying cycle) they come out with a coating of lint they didn't go in with. How do I make this stop? [more inside]
posted by fedward at 10:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Alleviating sertraline withdrawal dizziness

After 14 months of taking sertraline 50 mgs for generalized anxiety, I'm now tapering off. [more inside]
posted by ElisaOS at 10:46 AM PST - 5 comments

Data, surveillance, or computing excursions in NYC?

I am a professor of information science, and I am teaching a special topic first-year undergraduate seminar this fall called "Data Doubles and Digital Traces." Are there any good museums, plays, movie screenings, or events related to surveillance, privacy, data, computing, and/or the self in New York City or Philadelphia in September through November of 2018 where I can take my students? [more inside]
posted by k8lin at 10:30 AM PST - 5 comments

What else can I clean?

I recently noticed that the grout between my kitchen floor tiles was not actually supposed to be dark (shudder!), but after a good scrub, it's a floor I'm proud to use the five-second rule with. I seem to be nesting and I'm wondering what other hidden yuck I'm missing in my house. Inside and outside chores are welcome--yucky/picky/finicky/forgotten ones especially--but nothing that requires permanently changing the structure of the house, as I rent. Thanks!
posted by stillmoving at 9:53 AM PST - 43 comments

Summer weekday parking at New Haven train station

I've taken the Metro North to NYC from New Haven plenty of times on weekends, but the few times I've done it on weekdays the parking garage and attached lot were full and I've had to park farther than I'd like. Now it's summer and some commuters are probably on vacation... Do I have a much better shot at getting parking right at the station on a weekday morning? If it still typically fills, around what time does that tend to happen?
posted by dayintoday at 8:27 AM PST - 2 comments

Please help me figure out my friend's annoying comments

I went on vacation with a group of friends recently. One friend made numerous annoying comments about her looks and eating habits and I'm trying to figure out the root cause of those comments. [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 6:42 AM PST - 52 comments

Chew solutions for our dog with tooth-wear

Our 2-year-old German Sheppard is a very heavy/powerful chewer. She's wearing her canine teeth down on the bones we give her. Any solutions? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 6:31 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I auto forward all my Android texts to another phone?

My wife and I use android phones. She is on Google Project Fi, I am on US Mobile network. I need to put my phone on snooze (deactivate the service but keep the phone number though paying just a monthly service fee) for some time. [more inside]
posted by luvmywife at 6:15 AM PST - 5 comments

Final exam question about how infotech can help oppressed poor people

Years ago, on the web, I came across a test question that a college professor posed to their students, sort of asking them what information ought to go onto an ebook reader/mobile device that oppressed peasants could use to make their own lives better, but subtextually demonstrating that this problem is very very hard. I can't find it now -- anyone got a link? [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 5:42 AM PST - 0 comments

Toilet recommendations

The old toilet uses a huge amount of water. While we have some other plumbing issues taken care of, we've asked the plumber to replace it. What toilet should we replace it with? [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 4:57 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me design a quiz on unlikely friendships

I am designing a quiz and the picture section is unlikely friendships .... I have a few celebrity ones, but I would like some historic ones or scientific ones - or anything really! Any suggestions?
posted by Nilehorse at 4:19 AM PST - 19 comments

dialogue and when to start a new paragraph

A few grammar questions about writing dialogue. I know you start a new paragraph every time a new character speaks. What do you do with the following sort of sentence: She was standing in line, thinking to herself, when she heard someone say, "Jane, is that you?" [more inside]
posted by colfax at 3:01 AM PST - 10 comments

Let's start from the beginning

I want to learn more about the history of Europe, with a particular focus on Germany. I'm not interested in the 20th century yet, I feel like that's starting at the end of the story. Do you have book, documentary, series recommendations for me? [more inside]
posted by LizBoBiz at 2:06 AM PST - 15 comments

July 12

How long does it take to train to be a lifeguard?

I'm writing a story and I need to know, basically, how long it takes to get a US open water lifeguard certification, if you already have one for closed water. Simple, right? None of the websites I can find will tell me, only how long the certification is good for. Can anyone help this writer out?
posted by HypotheticalWoman at 10:07 PM PST - 6 comments

Should I stay or should I go now? New job-edition.

I started a job that is not what I thought it would be. Should I start looking for a new job even though it's been only six months? [more inside]
posted by joeyjoejoejr at 9:12 PM PST - 12 comments

emergency estradiol refill needed in Houston TX

My trans daughter needs estradiol pills today. Her prescription estrogen refill was automatically denied by her doctor until after her next appointment--which isn't until August 6, twenty-five days in the future. Unfortunately, we did not realize it had been denied after we requested the refill last week, as the pharmacy didn't notify us, and we had a disconnect in which prescriptions needed to be picked up when. She is out of pills as of last night. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:27 PM PST - 14 comments

Therapy interrupted during three consecutive sessions. Stay or go?

I’ve being seeing the same therapist for almost 2 years. They are fairly new to being licensed, but are great, and have helped me through an extremely rocky time in my life including divorce. They have recently moved office, and I'm concerned about privacy in the new space: our sessions have been interrupted three times by people knocking on the door (and in one case walking in.) My therapist is very apologetic each time it's happened, but I'm still pretty shaken by the interruptions. I am torn as to whether I should chalk it up to growing pains due to her new space, or if it's a deal breaker. I'd appreciate any advice or guidance. More details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:25 PM PST - 15 comments

help me plan a solo 8 day UK stay...

I am taking my daughter to London in a few days, and from there she will meet a friend for the rest of her trip. I'll be on my own and would love some interesting ideas for the stay... [more inside]
posted by docpops at 8:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Is it okay to ask new therapist who they voted for?

I'm seeing a new therapist on a referral from someone who thought it would be a good pairing. I kind of get the vibe that this person might have voted for Trump, which would, frankly, be a deal-breaker for me since it would make it hard for me to ever trust them. Is it reasonable to ask them or is that too personal a question?
posted by anonymous at 6:39 PM PST - 38 comments

Good things the Internet has done and does

My S.O. considers the Internet a force of oppression. I don't disagree with her that it functions that way, but I want to show her what else it's capable of. What I'm looking for is non-tech-utopian examples of ways the Internet has [checks notes] "made the world a better place." Bonus points for anything involving inequality or social justice.
posted by nímwunnan at 5:55 PM PST - 54 comments

Is this a bug bite? And if so, should I be concerned?

I just noticed what appears to be a bug bite on my daughter’s back. She’s a toddler. She doesn’t appear to notice it - no scratching, she’s in a great mood. What is this and is it something I should be worried about?
posted by fso at 5:51 PM PST - 14 comments

Gum graft post-op: how long do I *really* have to wear this dang stent?

I am 24 hours out from a minor gum graft surgery (extending the gumline on just one tooth). Recovery has been going great, except that I *hate* the plastic retainer/stent that I'm supposed to wear 24/7 for the next week. How long do I really need to? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 5:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Twizzle me this

I need to bake something that, somehow, incorporates Twizzlers. I don't really like Twizzlers. Neither does anyone I'll be baking for. Just using them for decoration seems like cheating. What are some creative ideas that might actually cause us to change our opinion? (Exact recipe not needed, just looking for inspiration.)
posted by perplexion at 5:13 PM PST - 20 comments

Getting back on track after HFM

Two months ago, I caught hand, foot and mouth from my son. My mouth has not been the same since. Help me get my poor tongue back to normal? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 5:06 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me help my mom find pants?

I'm trying to help my mom find some jeans with particular features. They should be a loose, lightweight cotton with side pockets only. And they should button and zip, not have an elastic waits. This pair is ideal, save for the elastic waist. She wears a size 16. Many thanks!
posted by KleenexMakesaVeryGoodHat at 5:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Spouse doesn't exert parental authority - what are my options?

My spouse doesn't exert any parental authority with my son - as a result he is developing some bad behaviors, he is playing us against each other, and it is slowly killing our marriage. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by bitteroldman at 4:15 PM PST - 20 comments

Records Management Professionals: How to Store Certs of Destruction?

I’m working on some document destruction issues, and I'm having trouble figuring out how to document the destruction of old files (once they've aged out of the system and we've fully destroyed them). Like, I have the certificate, how do I set up and organize their storage? [more inside]
posted by Tentacle of Trust at 3:56 PM PST - 2 comments

Need a pause button in my hand, unseen by webcam

While recording videos on Windows 10 Camera app, I need to be holding something with a pause button in hand away from the webcam so I don't have to be seen on the video reaching in to pause it on the touchpad if/when I need to regroup. Anything like this and what it's called, hopefully for cheap? USB cord or something?
posted by noelpratt2nd at 3:39 PM PST - 18 comments

Camping Conversations & Games

What are your favourite camping games or ways to pass the time when it's just the two of you? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 2:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Am I legally obligated to use my deceased relative's assets in this way?

After ignoring our requests to collect my brother's things for three weeks his roommate/landlord has finally invited us to come over. The county examiner emailed at the same time asking that I go to the bank with Aisha and grant my permission to open my brother's bank account and see who the beneficiaries are so that, if I am one, I may pay these funds to the funeral home Aisha and the examiner are working with. [more inside]
posted by R2WeTwo at 2:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Balancing cat social needs and space needs

How do you balance cat social needs and space needs in a small living area? What are some ways to make a small apartment comfortable for multiple cats (and their human)? [more inside]
posted by 4rtemis at 2:22 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I listen to music while I swim laps

I am getting into swimming for general health, but I find it is so boring to swim lap after lap. I would love to find something under $150 to play music and podcasts while I swim. I am female and could clip something onto a swimsuit strap. I don't currently own an mp3 player, so I would have to start new. Any suggestions? Are there things that I should be aware of when considering earphones, etc? For example, does water get into the ears when wearing earbuds? Any thoughts or suggestions will be so helpful!
posted by LinneaJC at 1:38 PM PST - 10 comments

You didn't hire me but can we connect on LinkedIn?

I had a phone screener set up by a recruiter, had a good conversation with the manager, but feedback was that they while they liked me, I was not what they were looking for. The recruiter also sent me the manager's LinkedIn profile. So: Is it acceptable to connect professionally with the manager that I spoke with? And, if so, any suggestions on how to phrase this? Thank you. [more inside]
posted by life moves pretty fast at 1:27 PM PST - 7 comments

Real estate floor plan photos

Real estate floor plan photos. How do they do that? [more inside]
posted by artdrectr at 1:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Please save me from A/C Hell

Why does my air-conditioner smell bad and how can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by colorblock sock at 12:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Airbncleaning

How much do you (as a guest) clean your airbnb when you leave? [more inside]
posted by nantucket at 11:54 AM PST - 24 comments

Lesser Known Indie/Cult Movies from 1987-1997

What it says on the tin. I've been hankering to scratch a bit of a nostalgia itch. I've recently watched or re-watched some of the movies from this time period 1987 - 1997 and I'm hoping I can find some more suggestions! Looking for more ideas for art house/queer/indie/artsy movies from around this time. Open to all genres, but focus is on artsy/indie movies that wouldn't necessarily be on a regular Top 10 Movies of 1993 type list. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 11:15 AM PST - 90 comments

“Unreserved seating” on the TGV

We’ve booked train tickets on a TGV from Lyon Part Dieu to CDG. Our seat number in the app says “double reservation” and in our receipt email it says “unreserved seating”. What....does that actually mean? Maybe this is a Google failure but I have been at this for hours. [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 10:33 AM PST - 8 comments

How to you hold onto your personal power while falling in love?

When falling in love or developing an infatuation for someone you're dating, how is it possible to maintain your personal power? [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 10:14 AM PST - 18 comments

Worried about my sick father in another state...

I sought out and connected with my birth father about a year ago. We corresponded for a while. At 80 he was living alone in an apartment in San Francisco, and dealing with a few health issues, but in general very alert, active, and independent at that time. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 10:10 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me decide whether to pay a broker's fee

Should my partner and I pay a broker's fee for our intra-NYC move? [more inside]
posted by enn at 9:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Bread Maker Math

We got a little Zojirushi bread maker. It makes one pound loaves, which are a bit smaller than many other bread machines. I need help learning to recognize the intended loaf size of online recipes as well as tips on how to adapt them for the smaller machine. I'm also interested in general principles for tweaking recipes. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 9:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Early-morning World Cup final in Berkeley or Oakland

Hi everybody. The World Cup final game is scheduled for 8 AM Pacific Time this Sunday. Does anyone know of a place that will be opening its doors early to show the game in Berkeley or Oakland?
posted by foxy_hedgehog at 8:31 AM PST - 12 comments

Skittish stray cat is injured. We love him.

A scruffy-looking stray started visiting our backyard daily, starting about 2 weeks ago. Our existing cat loves him. We feed him and named him Jeremy. He didn't show up all day yesterday, and when he came by this morning he had a head wound. I'd like to take him to the vet, but he's skittish and won't let me get within 5 feet of him. Is there a way to do this without losing his trust? We'd love to adopt him. [more inside]
posted by mnemonica at 8:25 AM PST - 24 comments

Bike accident in San Francisco

While biking yesterday, someone opened their car door in front of me, and I hit it. I'm not sure how to proceed, or what my goal should be in following up on this. You are not my lawyer... [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 8:21 AM PST - 19 comments

I gave UPS the wrong address. Now what?

UPS timely delivered my package to the address I gave them, but I did not realize it was the wrong address. There is no forwarding service with UPS the way there is with USPS, apparently. [more inside]
posted by *s at 8:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Healthcare and Citizenship, Italian Style

I'm thinking of moving to Italy. I'll be single. I've already determined that I will have no problem doing this, but have some questions about what comes next. [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 8:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Hot or Not, But For Anything

Is anyone aware of a ready-made generic "hot or not"-type application, or even a code library, that I can throw an arbitrary list of items at (not just selfies of people making duckfaces)? [more inside]
posted by majorsteel at 8:00 AM PST - 2 comments

More like this song

I really like the song in the Tetris Effect trailer (from about 1:27, mostly the strong beats(?) and vocals). Please help me find more songs like that.
posted by Memo at 7:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Family Law Attorney Recommendation - Salt Lake City, UT

A dear friend of mine needs a family law attorney in Salt Lake City, UT to review some documents regarding custody that her ex-husband's attorneys drew up. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 7:27 AM PST - 0 comments

Solo Travel in Mexico City

I'm a woman traveling solo to Mexico next month, and am debating whether I want to stop for ~5 days in Mexico City. Do you think it will be safe and reasonably carefree? Any recommendations on where to stay or where to go (and where not to)? I am an experienced traveler, but I do not speak Spanish and have never been to Mexico before. [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 7:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me find authors from Southeast Asia

You helped me find lots of fantastic Native American authors (all my on wish list / ordered and on their way ahhh). Now help me find Southeast Asian authors from Brunei, Burma (Myanmar), Cambodia, Timor-Leste, Indonesia, Laos, Malaysia, the Philippines, Singapore, Thailand and Vietnam. [more inside]
posted by dostoevskygirl at 6:06 AM PST - 17 comments

Moving to NYC! From Toronto!

I'm moving to NYC (and, specifically, Brooklyn) from Toronto in about a month. Actually, exactly a month to date. I don't have a lot of stuff, I don't have a car, I hate driving enough to be willing to spend some money. Best way to move? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 5:29 AM PST - 12 comments

Our cat sounds sad

Finally done with college apartments, we were able to bring my wife's childhood cat to our home. Her cat has spent the last 8 years in the same house, hiding under the same bed, in her parents bedroom. Her cat had full roam of the house with no closed doors, and every night, my wife's parents would watch TV for 3-5 hours, sitting on the couch, petting the cat with both hands. Now, in the house with closed doors, and less petting, the cat seems to meow sadly at us, at a high frequency. How can we make the cat happy despite this (worse) situation for her? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 5:08 AM PST - 53 comments

Help me micro teach Photoshop!

I'm looking for interesting ideas to teach the basic concepts of Photoshop. [more inside]
posted by brilliantmistake at 4:51 AM PST - 12 comments

Private, one way, iPhone to iPhone video

I’m working on an escape room concept. As part of it, I need a one way video broadcast to another iPhone. Searching for the simplest/best solution. Details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by quantum at 4:23 AM PST - 2 comments

Should I avoid DC traffic tomorrow?

I found this thread from a while ago - while I am not coming from the same area (coming from closer to Ohio through PA, going to South Carolina), I do have a similar question - I know they have build up the DC area roadways a lot since that question was asked and usually we go through the DC area, but at closer to 2am, so what I'm debating is; should I avoid DC/495/95 tomorrow around 8-10am and stay inland, or should I follow Google Maps suggestion, take 495/95 south, and take the HOV express lanes? (and if so, suggestions of where to get on/off to avoid the most traffic?)
posted by GuppieXX at 3:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Which jobs will be safe from artificial intelligence and automation?

I am thinking of pursuing training in something but am concerned that whatever skills I learn will be rendered obsolete in the future by A.I. and automation. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 3:32 AM PST - 17 comments

July 11

An app that tells me if the current time is within specified bounds

If I want to park my car near my house it has to be outside of certain times & days because of parking rules. Is there an iPhone app where I can just input those rules, and then when I open the app it’s just a screen that says OK TO PARK or NOT OK TO PARK? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 11:11 PM PST - 4 comments

Places to go with a car nearish Brno and Prague.

Looking for suggestions on where to go for a week and a half within a few hours drive of Brno and/or Prague. Next week. [more inside]
posted by kjs4 at 9:45 PM PST - 9 comments

Best explanation of the Dunning-Kruger Effect

I want to be able to define, explain, convince, make memorable the Dunning-Kruger effect. I think what I want is a concise but evocative definition, and also one or two really good concise non-statistical examples of it in action. I know about McArthur Wheeler already. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 9:24 PM PST - 23 comments

Booties of Many Nations

Recent dance club bangers not in English? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 8:51 PM PST - 3 comments

Declining work travel

A few weeks ago, I started a new job. Travel was never mentioned and I got the general impression it was limited <5%. Now they want me to work on a different project than we originally discussed with more than 25% travel. I am a single mom to a child with special needs. I can't travel. What to say to boss? [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 8:30 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there any place that provides ice baths in Columbus Ohio?

I have tried setting up my own ice bath but I find it cumbersome and difficult. In many foreign countries I have found cold water immersion in hotels, spas, gym, or health center. Is there any place that has cold water bath in Columbus Ohio? Thanks!
posted by maxexam at 6:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Find this book/person: biography of mathematician who loved early 1800s

I read a book when I was a kid that was a biography of a mathematician who lived during or after the US revolutionary war. Any ideas who that might have been or what the book would be? [more inside]
posted by bq at 4:51 PM PST - 7 comments

How to Finance Maternity Leave

How to finance unpaid maternity leave? [more inside]
posted by CosmicSeeker42 at 4:05 PM PST - 12 comments

First Home Purchase: Home for my aging folks?

My parents and I all live and work in Expensive Area that shows no sign of real estate plateau. My parents are considering relocating to Quieter, Cheaper Area a few hours away once they retire in a few years. It's unlikely they'll have resources to do that without selling their current home. How do I buy them a house there? [more inside]
posted by assenav at 4:02 PM PST - 15 comments

How can I investigate a twitter user's history of being harassed?

If I'm curious about a specific twitter user's history of being harassed, how might I go about finding information? [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 3:53 PM PST - 3 comments

Is it possible to move already-existing Notes from Gmail to iPhone?

I have a bunch of Notes originally created on an iPhone that are no longer linked to an iPhone or iCloud account. Now, the only place they exist is in my Gmail account. Is it possible to move them to my iPhone Notes app? If so, how? [more inside]
posted by tomorrow at 3:41 PM PST - 4 comments

What gift can I give a family with a possibly dying father?

My neighbors are a family of four with young children and the Dad has cancer. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 3:01 PM PST - 16 comments

Let me not neglect that base rate....

Estimating base rates from small sample sizes -- how large a sample do I need to reliably (confidently?) establish the base rate? [more inside]
posted by bumpkin at 2:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Why do my cookies flatten?

I've been trying to make this recipe and every time I make it, the cookies flatten and spread out way too much. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by msbrauer at 1:47 PM PST - 22 comments

Bath mat + cat = don't like that

The cat litter box is in the bathroom, which means the bath mat gets a bit gross. How to deal? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 1:13 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me write the next chapter of my cliched child of immigrant life

I need help figuring out how to thrive in the US as the child of immigrants. I was born here and am educated- so I have the technical stuff figured out. Like getting jobs, understanding how things work, etc. It's the emotional stuff that I just can't seem to get through. Please help me make the next chapter of my child of immigrants story be one of joy, community, and belonging. Please. Thank you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:02 PM PST - 18 comments

How to scrape posts and replies for a Facebook group I belong to?

I'm working on a research project requiring the download of member posts and replies from a closed Facebook group. Preferably, I'd like to do the work myself using some type of software program or script, but I'm not opposed to paying a small reasonable fee to have a group perform the service. I don't need to capture likes or photos, just the text. I found a script that looks like it might accomplish what I need, but it appears to be broken.
posted by Bushmiller at 12:57 PM PST - 2 comments

What the hell is this thing?

Hey Metafilter, can you help me figure out what this mystery object is that's in all our conference rooms? Me and another guy are losing our minds trying to figure it out. It's like this plastic "T" thing that obviously came with a phone or something. Exciting pictures inside! [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 12:01 PM PST - 45 comments

using idevice for pos tethered to an iphone?

Don't want to pay for monthly fee to have a second live idevice on my cell phone account, because I probably will only be using it a little bit here and there. Is using my primary phone as a wifi tether for a second idevice with a pos app like Stripe on it a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 11:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Best deals on photo paper and advice for large format printing?

I finally have time in my life to explore my cherished Epson Artisan 1430 inkjet printer. It prints up to Super B size (13"x19") and is used by a lot of artists for prints and photo printing. Where can I get the good deals on photo paper for it? And what are some great things I can do with this printer? [more inside]
posted by seasparrow at 11:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Comics collections / graphic novels for a 7 year old?

My 7 year old got really into Akissi: Tales of Mischief this week, and I'm looking for field-tested recommendations of other graphic novels and comic collections that he might enjoy.
posted by ryanshepard at 11:36 AM PST - 23 comments

What's the best route from Portland, OR to Spokane, WA?

Specifically, can I just take Washington side SR-14 all the way to the I-82 exit, or should I take Oregon side I-84? Google maps says to take I-84 even though there's still a good chance of a substantial detour onto SR-14 to bypass the wreckage from 2017's Cascade Locks fire. Is SR-14 that much of a slowdown compared to I-84? For its entire length, really? [more inside]
posted by ivan ivanych samovar at 11:11 AM PST - 8 comments

Searching for the ideal balcony loveseat

Help me find the perfect outdoor/patio loveseat for my balcony. Personal recommendations would be wonderful. Or recommendations of brick and mortar stores in Seattle. [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 11:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Men's barber/stylist in the East Bay, CA

I've had long hair for ages, but now I need to get a dang haircut ASAP. I have no idea how it should be styled, especially with recent, er, temporal changes in my hairline. Is there any place I can go in the next day within striking distance of Oakland? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 10:44 AM PST - 7 comments

Will we ever see a re-release of "Let It Be?"

The recent updating and re-release of Yellow Submarine reminds me that Let It Be is the one Beatles movie I would love to see re-released. I don't expect it will be, though, because (aside from the rooftop concert) it captures some contentious moments in the run-up to the eventual breakup, and no one is eager to show those again. Does anyone know?
posted by John Borrowman at 9:34 AM PST - 3 comments

Design my tattoo?

Turning 40. First tattoo. Have an idea but need cool design ideas. Hope me. [more inside]
posted by allkindsoftime at 9:34 AM PST - 13 comments

Healthy foot shoes... for kids?

I'm seeking foot-friendly shoes for girls-- that is, normal street styling, but with light and flexible soles and relatively wide toe boxes. Basically, See Kai Run for the gradeschool set. Where should I be looking? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 8:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Vasectomy reversal specialist recommendations?

Have read extensively about vasectomy reversals so have a general idea of what to expect process-wise. Now looking for specific recommendations for doctors/centers from those who have gone through a reversal or were closely involved in one (such as partners). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:44 AM PST - 2 comments

What was that big headed, faceted, transparent figurine?

A few years ago while walking my dog in the park, I found a little toy animal character figurine that some kid had dropped in the dirt. It was a few inches high with a big head, faceted like a huge gemstone, clear and transparent with a pretty lavenderish tint to it. I left the thing on a wall in the park hoping its owner would find it, but every once in a while I remember it and wonder what it was and whether I could get one to sparkle in the sun on my windowsill. So, what was it?
posted by moonmilk at 8:30 AM PST - 9 comments

PC Wired Controller XBOX ONE button not working in Lego Star Wars?

So my PC Wired XBOX ONE controller is acting funky on the PC Lego Star Wars: Force Awakens game. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 8:20 AM PST - 2 comments

"SCS = Love"

The agency where I work will (if all goes according to plan) be responsible for opening a Supervised Consumption Services (SCS) site. I'm looking for short, catchy slogans that we can use on signs for counter-protests, tiny 1.25" buttons of support, t-shirts, etc. [more inside]
posted by VioletU at 7:36 AM PST - 11 comments

What's the perfect device for reading and marking things up on the go?

I'm often in long commutes and have a lot of PDFs and other files that I need read. What's the best device for reading, highlighting and taking down notes in the margins? A few more requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by wallawallasweet at 7:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Identify these fossils?

A question from a friend who works in landscaping - "I took a series of photos few weeks ago at a customer's house of some landscape blocks that had fossils embedded in them. It looks to be some sort of bird or maybe a group of birds or something. But what intrigues me is these rocks were quarried about 10 miles south of Green Lake, Wisconsin, deep in the Earth. I would love to know what this creature is!" Here's the photo album Anyone know what he might be looking at here? Thanks!
posted by brozek at 7:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Damn, not eligible for Parent Plus student loan

Although I have good credit now (714 FICO), I have adverse history (which makes me ineligible for a ParentPlus loan at a very low interest rate) and my son needs loans for his freshman year at a very elite college this year. What are my best options? [more inside]
posted by sweatyone at 7:16 AM PST - 31 comments

Best Beach Umbrella/Shelter for the Sun-shy

I'm headed to the beach in a few weeks, and my goal is to stay out of the sun as much as I can. Is there a better/easier alternative to a beach umbrella? [more inside]
posted by gladly at 6:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Is there any way to use a 200 watt adapter with a 75 watt plane outlet?

I have a 200 watt laptop adapter. I'm going to be on a plane with a power socket that allows 75 watts out. Is there any way to make this work? What about using an external battery? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 6:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Blog for a dog?

I'm making a short video about Rin Tin Tin that I’m posting on YouTube on 10 September (his centennial). I want to premiere the video with a relevant blog. Who should I pitch this to? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 5:14 AM PST - 4 comments

how to stop fidgeting

I am a fidgeter. I don't think this has any underlying psychiatric cause, it's just how I am. I worry that I'm annoying or distracting to my co-workers. How can I fidget less, or are there ways of fidgeting a little less obviously when I am working? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:45 AM PST - 29 comments

Undies, take 'em or leave 'em. (Underpants refusal and how to manage)

This is a question for a non member friend, who will be reading and can answer questions if necessary. She's in Sydney Australia and is happy to have both specific but also international advice/support. Thank you in advance. My 3.5 year old daughter has recently escalated her refusal to wear underpants (or anything around her bottom) stating that they hurt. Whilst she has always preferred to go without pants (she is allowed to take her pants off when she is home) in the last few weeks this has escalated to the point where we are missing outings and pleasurable activities because she will not put clothes on. Getting dressed is taking up to two hours. NB It is currently winter here so clothing is needed. [more inside]
posted by taff at 1:05 AM PST - 22 comments

How to research cities, sorting by country of origin

It is well known that most large cities have a Chinatown, and that Chicago has a large polish population. Is there a way for dialing in this kind of search across us cities? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 12:13 AM PST - 5 comments

July 10

He needs blood and lots of it.

Will someone be released from hospital if their gastrointestinal bleeding has not been stopped? I know you are not my doctor or my father's doctor but I don't expect medical advice - just your experience on what will happen next. My father has been in hospital for a week. He had only admitted to feeling 'a bit under the weather' for about a week before he collapsed. There will be more inside... [more inside]
posted by tulipwool at 10:38 PM PST - 21 comments

Putting casters on an Ikea Trofast

We have an Ikea Trofast storage box that we've had for a while and just got some casters to attach to the bottom. I tipped it on its side to attach them and realized the bottom is about 2" up from the floor and not really, like, load bearing? So, how should I attach the casters? [more inside]
posted by joshuaconner at 10:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for non-English songs (protest or uplifting) for a picnic

I'm helping to organize a community picnic for my local Indivisible group. I'm building a Spotify playlist of songs that are social/activist/protest-themed or uplifting/summer-themed. I'd like to add more non-English songs. Do you have suggestions for Native/Indigenous, Spanish, Arabic (and other languages from Muslim majority countries), or other non-English language songs that fit the above themes? Right now for non-English songs I have: Soy Yo, Danza Kuduro, Bailando, and Mi Gente -- so there's clearly a gap in my playlist building.
posted by orbit-3 at 9:03 PM PST - 21 comments

Chem Dry stankified my sofa

Today I had Chem Dry clean my sofa. The guy whipped out two aerosol cans of some kind of solvent and sprayed them all over the arms of the sofa before I knew what was happening, and now my entire house reeks of this perfumed solvent shit. The sofa is totally dry already. What can I do? The problem, I think, is that this stuff is now IN my sofa, not just on it. I'm so upset I can't tell you.
posted by HotToddy at 8:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me troubleshoot YouTube and Twitch errors?

I like to listen to/watch YouTube and Twitch while working. I was out of the country for six weeks, so maybe something happened in an update, but ever since I've been back (a couple days) YouTube and Twitch videos have been having problems. Occasionally they'll just play, but mostly they throw up an error screen and won't play the video, and refreshing doesn't help. Waiting like 15 minutes and then refreshing often allows me to play the video, though. Is anyone else having problems? Or do you know how to fix mine? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 8:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Illustrating a children's book pre-publication?

My grandfather has written a short children's novel and has asked me to illustrate it for him before he sends it to the publisher. Is this a good idea? [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 7:15 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a Novel with an African American Female Protagonist

I'm looking for a novel with the following criteria: [more inside]
posted by mpbx at 7:02 PM PST - 26 comments

Defunct Foundations

I'm looking for a list of defunct foundations. I can find gone political, educational or trade organizations. But I want those that gave money to support other organizations, like the Astor Foundation, that went broke around 2003. The Chronicle of Philanthropy, for example, provides articles but not lists. I can't find any defunct charities or philanthropy lists on Guidestar or with the I.R.S. Do any exist?
posted by CollectiveMind at 5:03 PM PST - 2 comments

Where can I buy venison tenderloins in/near Seattle?

Is there anywhere in or near Seattle that someone is reasonably sure I can get a couple of venison tenderloins by this weekend? All the butcher guides I'm finding are old enough that I have doubts. Thank you!
posted by centrifugal at 5:01 PM PST - 7 comments

Turning an informational interview into a date (and then back again...)

I am a 30's woman in STEM and am trying to break into a related sub-field from the one I am in. I recently connected with a man who has a similar background to me and is in the field I am interested in. We discussed meeting up to discuss our backgrounds and the industry in our area. However, from the tone and wording in his subsequent email, he considers this a date. This is a problem for me: I am happily married and I don't want to ruin a networking opportunity. [more inside]
posted by Behemoth, in no. 302-bis, with the Browning at 4:52 PM PST - 27 comments

Transfer of Delaware Inc equity to other people

Tax obligations for transfer of a Delaware Inc shares [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 2:42 PM PST - 1 comment

I might run out of money paying for a divorce lawyer. How to prepare?

A relative is in a marriage that seems to be on its last legs, despite years of effort at repairing the relationship. It's lawyer time and I'll probably be paying one of the lawyer's fees. But I may run out of money in the course of doing so; what should I do in anticipation of that possibility? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:47 PM PST - 15 comments

How to deal with and help in an emotionally charged family situation?

My mother has very little income. My sister and her husband have been helping. Now they want out. And they want us to take over. Only problem is: we don't have the money, and we are in another country. It's getting nasty. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 1:15 PM PST - 52 comments

San Francisco Bar to watch World Cup tomorrow near Market/1st

I'm looking for a bar in San Francisco that is within 15 mins walking distance of Market and 1st to watch the England v Croatia match tomorrow (11am). I don't mind a crowd, but I'd like a reasonable chance of a seat if I turn up 15 minutes before kick-off. I don't care about food. I know there are lots of bars with TVs in that area. I'm more looking for recommendations based on personal experience during this world cup.
posted by caek at 1:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Bright Office Lights

They have installed new LED overhead lights in our office. They are very bright. I'm not the only one complaining but I think I am affected more than most... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 12:26 PM PST - 17 comments

Old Bike

I am getting a new bike. I don't have the space for both. What can I do with old, damaged, missing front wheel bike? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 11:36 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me fix my life and marriage.

Help me fix my life and marriage. Please help me prioritize the interconnected problems in my life so I can go back to being happy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:32 AM PST - 33 comments

How to wind up a project with a contractor

I've been unofficially managing a contractor (I am a contractor myself, hence unofficially) on a project for a couple of months. The project is unexpectedly effectively over, and I am struggling with how to communicate this to them, while also feeling them out for the next project down the line. Suggestions for wording the email? I have zero managerial experience or skills, and no idea what's appropriate. Specifics within! [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 11:15 AM PST - 9 comments

How to take a step back in a relationship (without being a jerk)

I started seeing someone a month ago, felt like we connected pretty well on the first couple dates, but now I'm starting to feel we moved too fast. I enjoy her company but in terms of entering a more committed relationship, I feel like I'm not feeling something I should be feeling. I need to figure out how to talk to her about this without hurting her. [more inside]
posted by EyesDarting at 11:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Recommendations for remote divination

I have a big decision to make, and I'd like to receive some divination (tarot or any other oracle) to help me figure out what I want to do. My head is too jumbled for me to read for myself, so I'm seeking someone who can read for me. Know anybody? This would have to be done remotely (phone or Skype preferred but email okay). I can pay (or not). The more specific, the better. You can email me at soakedtotheskin@hotmail.com .
posted by anonymous at 10:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Outdoor Projector Recommendations

What's the best projector for outdoor use? It'll be used for laptops/tablets/video game systems, just for family use in the evenings.
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 10:33 AM PST - 10 comments

How can I learn to write concisely with more clarity?

I tend to ask questions like the one presented in this ask.me question. I know I can be a bit wordy and unclear at times, and I'd like to change that. How can I learn to write concisely with more clarity? [more inside]
posted by cgg at 10:17 AM PST - 26 comments

How can I finally make some friends?

I'm going to be moving a to a new city soon. Nobody there knows me. I don't have any friends or relatives there so I'll basically be starting fresh. I've been a loner my whole life and I want to know how I can finally make some friends. [more inside]
posted by CurioslySatisfying at 10:15 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I help my wife be happier?

Everyday (or at least it seems that way) my wife is unhappy. It is rare that we can have a conversation that isn’t about how unhappy she is; it seems to permeate everything we do. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 9:56 AM PST - 19 comments

Cohabitation: One Person Owns the House Outright Edition

I will be moving into my partner's house that he owns outright in about a month. What are some things that we should be talking about and planning for? [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet at 9:28 AM PST - 15 comments

Handling uncomfort with grace

I have to occasionally go to social-cultural events with my spouse but I despise it. How can I work through this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:10 AM PST - 20 comments

Adjusting how low a semi-flush ceiling light hangs?

Is it feasible to DIY reduce the amount that a light fixture like this hangs down from the ceiling (to increase clearance below the light)? [more inside]
posted by duoshao at 8:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Did my email send or not??

I sent an email 20 hours ago and the sent window has a message, but not the inbox. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 6:59 AM PST - 4 comments

Drop Off Etiquette

I agreed to drop off a neighbor at least twice a week at the university where I work. The neighbor is not differently abled but has complained about not liking to walk -- I think it is quite an effort. Is it uncouth to not drop her off at the door, but make her walk 800 feet up a long, slightly steep hill? [more inside]
posted by theefixedstars at 6:56 AM PST - 24 comments

How to prepare a tractor for use after a roll over.

Tractor done rolled over. What should I do after tipping it upright and before using it? [more inside]
posted by jmsta at 6:17 AM PST - 9 comments

Tie 'Em Up, Take 'Em Out - Female Sterilization

I'm looking into female sterilization and have an appointment made with my healthcare provider. I'd like to hear from people who have done this - what kind did you do? when did you do it? what were the side effects? how long was your recovery? any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:29 AM PST - 17 comments

No "O" sexy times

My partner (male) is unable to reach orgasm during sex (including fellatio). Other than general “don’t make a big deal out of it”, any suggestions for what I can do to help him know this isn’t a huge deal for me and that I think he is awesome. I'd also love any suggestions for me to make sure I am giving him the absolute most I can during our "interludes". [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Should I get involved in this custody situation?

My son is friends with another boy whose mom is in a messy custody situation. I may be able to help but should I? Please help me figure this out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Most 'traditionally American' brands, experiences, things?

What are the 'most American' brands/experiences/things you can think of? E.g. Ford, Budweiser, John Deere, Colt, going to a rodeo, NASCAR, cowboy hats in Texas, Silicon Valley, Wall Street, Mardi Gras, highschool football... That sort of thing. [more inside]
posted by StephenF at 4:22 AM PST - 68 comments

Help me find more savoury sheet-pan/tray-bake recipes!

I found a savoury tray bake recipe which fits my family's various eating requirements at once. Please help me find more like it. [more inside]
posted by teaspoon at 2:53 AM PST - 8 comments

July 9

Do you know why Nicole Cliffe's Twitter is gone?

I periodically check Nicole Cliffe's Twitter account for good tweets. After a particularly long period of not doing so, I tried to look it up today and found that her account had vanished / been deleted. This was a surprise to me since Twitter seemed like an important part of her personal brand. Does anyone know if she made a public statement about why the account is gone?
posted by Going To Maine at 11:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Self-hosted Streaming Music Server? (Subsonic Alternative)

I've used Subsonic for many years now. I've had a LOT of issues with it being able to stream - so I'm looking for alternatives. Must be self-hosted. [more inside]
posted by symbioid at 11:15 PM PST - 9 comments

a bunch of nice people and a bitch eating crackers

Please give me your strategies for dealing with that one horrible person in a group of otherwise lovely people, especially when they're being horrible to someone else. [more inside]
posted by yomimono at 9:25 PM PST - 11 comments

Instrument I can learn on a budget?

tl;dr: I don't want to spend piano levels of money on an instrument, was told I don't have the right fingers for guitar. snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 9:22 PM PST - 20 comments

What are the most purely evil, yet legal organizations?

What are the most purely evil, yet legal organizations? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 9:00 PM PST - 40 comments

How to dress like a grownup?

I need to dress more professionally, Alaska-style (people go to the opera in jeans...so I’m not looking super formal, but something better than jeans and a t-shirt). Can you help me figure out what that would look like? Constraints: I am female, 5’, 95-100 lbs, and there are not a lot of shopping options near me. [more inside]
posted by leahwrenn at 8:39 PM PST - 15 comments

Where can i get rechargeable A23 12v batteries & recharging device

Like it says on the tin. Where can I get both rechargeable A23 12v batteries, and a device that will actually recharge them. [more inside]
posted by MT at 8:36 PM PST - 5 comments

Conversations about weight gain - help needed

My partner has about 90 pounds over the past 6 years, and is having a difficult time with her current weight. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:05 PM PST - 15 comments

Repair or treat rust spot on car

What would you do to treat this small rust spot on my car? It has been like this for years and not spread. I'm not looking to spend a lot of time and effort to completely fix it, but I don't want it to cause any major problems down the road. Also, because of the car color (gold/tan) it is hard to find regular touch up paint. What would you do? (Also, would a rust neutralizers/converters work in this situation? And what would you use to remove that rust color under it?)
posted by roaring beast at 7:55 PM PST - 4 comments

How to make a beautiful ball & chain?

I want to make one of these things to play this fun game. But I want it to look cool & nice! How? How can I attach the ball to the rope without it looking janky? It does seem like a piece of fabric (larger than what's shown here) is simplest. How do I attach it & prevent it from being all bunchy where it attaches? Would netting be better? And: I want to light it. [more inside]
posted by red_rabbit at 6:18 PM PST - 4 comments

Where do you find new SF/F books?

Looking for review sites, blogs, or wherever you find out about new books you’ll probably dig. Bonus if the sites (?) have distinctive tastes and their recs / reviews are actually fun to read. I feel like this is a thing that used to exist more, before Facebook etc swallowed the web. Hoping it still exists somewhere!
posted by schadenfrau at 5:37 PM PST - 13 comments

mailing small items via USPS intl package - customs form & env size

I need to mail gifts out to international addresses and will need to use a customs form. The item is small and for US addresses I'm mailing in a 4x7 padded env. Given that intl shipping is expensive I want to keep it in the smallest lightest envelopes possible but the customs form will have to fit. [more inside]
posted by oneear at 3:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Teaching: should I train to become a teacher now or wait?

Currently weighing up whether to do my teacher training now, or defer it for a couple of years. Reason being I would like to get on with writing my novel. [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 3:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for used bookstores in the LA area with big romance selection

Every so often I take my friends to a new part of Los Angeles to look at a used bookstore with a good used romance selection. This town has lots of great used bookstores and it's fun using this as a jumping-off point to explore a new part of the city we're not familiar with. [more inside]
posted by suburbanbeatnik at 2:39 PM PST - 5 comments

System to Protect Wool Clothing During Moth Season?

I'm very fond of merino wool, but also seem to live in an area with tons of clothes moths. I went through a process of putting out traps and freezing all my wools and now I'm wondering what to do during the moths when there a lot of moths around and I still want to wear wool. Freeze after each wearing? Keep them in moth-proof bags? Any tips appreciated.
posted by Jon44 at 2:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Please answer the question

Why does this keep happening to me? People don't answer the question that I have asked them. Instead, they've answered some other question or have given a partial answer. Example inside. [more inside]
posted by Cool Papa Bell at 2:24 PM PST - 51 comments

Looking for a poem

Can you identify this poem? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 2:21 PM PST - 3 comments

What shirts should I wear to work??

I hate shopping for clothes, I've been wearing the same three shirts to work for like seven years now, and I hated everything I saw at the mall this weekend. Please help me find something respectable(ish) and durable to wear to work in the summer! [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 2:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Google Analytics - How do I report this (metric X, by day, all pages)?

I use Google Analytics a relatively small amount, but I've taken a couple intro courses and can do some damage. Still, I'm struggling to create this report: - Some metric (eg page views) - columns = specific pages within our site - rows = date (eg June 1 to June 30 by day) [more inside]
posted by Reasonably Everything Happens at 1:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Babymoon in the Seattle Area

We're looking to do a 1-2 night getaway within 2-3 hours of Seattle. Criteria follows! [more inside]
posted by whodatninja at 1:25 PM PST - 4 comments

What are your favorite zucchini recipes?

Our zucchini plants are on overdrive. What are your favorite zucchini recipes? I know how to make zoodles, and of course I’ve got zucchini bread in the freezer. No diet restrictions!
posted by pintapicasso at 1:13 PM PST - 47 comments

Easy, Tasty & Impressive - summer version

What are your favorite beautiful summer dishes? My friends and I are having a ladies weekend this weekend and everyone is assigned a meal. I took our Sat night dinner and am very high on skills but very low on inspiration, so that's where you folks come in. [more inside]
posted by vividvoltage at 1:12 PM PST - 22 comments

Garden/yard help!

We are buying a house! But we are in the waiting phase. So I need something to occupy my mind (other than packing). I would love yard / garden ideas! How do I identify my plants? What do I need to do for a garden regularly? We have a shed - are there neat ways to organize it? [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 1:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Do I need an art studio?

I could use your thoughts on the pros and cons of having a dedicated art studio space in your home. [more inside]
posted by aclevername at 11:54 AM PST - 18 comments

What's your favorite sunblock?

I'm on the hunt for a new sunblock that is a lotion you rub on and not oily or scented. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by msbrauer at 11:51 AM PST - 31 comments

First executive interview

I've applied for a Vice President position at my company and made it past the initial screening. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by boo_radley at 11:45 AM PST - 5 comments

What Should I Do In and Around Portsmouth, Rhode Island for a weekend?

I'm leaving from Manhattan on a Thursday evening to head to wedding on a Friday in Portsmouth, Rhode Island -- and then have nothing planned until we head back Sunday evening! What should we do and where should we stay with all of our time?! [more inside]
posted by knownassociate at 11:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Nailed It! hairband Nicole Byer is wearing

I really like the hairband Nicole Byer is wearing in S02E04 of Nailed It!, Holi-daze. Where can I find this hairband for sale?
posted by jeather at 11:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Name for a sex ed class for 9th-12th graders

Please help me name this sex ed class for 9th-12th graders. [more inside]
posted by 2or3whiskeysodas at 11:14 AM PST - 27 comments

How best to get a picture of something in another country?

I'd like to get a couple of street level pictures of the front door to the place my wife and I stayed when we went to Paris. Streetview has only a bad angle of it. Does anyone have suggestions of how I could go about doing this while being in Canada.
posted by nerhael at 11:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Wordpress: access one of 2 pages depending on password entered

I'm building a Wordpress based wedding website. I want to put password protection on the site but to give main ceremony guest one password and evening reception people another - then branch to show them one of 2 pages depending on the password they entered. No wish to do any form of user registration. It seems like it would be fairly thing to achieve. Any suggestions involving plugins or scripts would be very welcome.
posted by rongorongo at 10:37 AM PST - 4 comments

Investing for the extremely risk-averse

Due to a combination of laziness and anxiety about money, I have what seems to be an excessive amount of money in checking and savings accounts. What should I be doing differently (besides everything)? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 10:36 AM PST - 13 comments

NYC Tourist Itinerary Question

I'm going to NYC for a week and need some help with my itinerary. Geographical advice and can't-miss ideas welcome! Draft plans inside. [more inside]
posted by hepta at 10:25 AM PST - 25 comments

What are some great apps for fun, light reading?

What are some great iPhone apps for fun, light reading or trivia? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 10:20 AM PST - 1 comment

European wedding conundrum... what to wear?

I'm going to a wedding in the Black Forest region of Germany this weekend, what should I wear? The wedding's at a church, reception at an historic brewery. No dress code mentioned anywhere that I can find. Its supposed to be in the low 80s F (29 C) and I'm guessing not air conditioned. I need to wear a maxi dress due to mountain-biking bruises on my legs. I've got this black and white print (pros: cool, cons: too casual? will wrinkle when packed, need special bra) or this printed high neck number (pros: won't wrinkle, regular bra, more formal, cons: hot) Are either of these likely to be appropriate??
posted by genmonster at 9:58 AM PST - 13 comments

Recommendation for office infographic display TV?

We're looking to purchase a 4K TV to place outside our new office suite that will run infographics about the work we're doing. Our plan is that guests who visit will be able to learn about our new facility and that we'll have some talking points to go over on tours. This TV is expected to run continuously for long periods of time and I'm looking for some good options. [more inside]
posted by Aanidaani at 9:40 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommendations for a flattering & comfortable medium impact sports bra?

I'm looking for sports bras for working out and for wearing for active non-running activities (like kayaking, light hiking, etc). [more inside]
posted by mercredi at 9:12 AM PST - 9 comments

Boston restaurant recommendations

I'm looking for recommendations for restaurants in Kenmore Sq that I can bring a baby too, for dinner. [more inside]
posted by john_snow at 8:43 AM PST - 13 comments

Is it this ADD med? Or all ADD meds?

I started taking an ADD med that has helped but also has a troubling side effect. I'd like to hear if this is normal for these types of meds or if I need to switch. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 8:24 AM PST - 13 comments

Best mac and cheese mix-ins?

My son turns 12 at the end of the month and wants a 'mac and cheese bar' for his party. I'm planning a huge batch of mac and cheese for the base and then will let the guests dress it up however they want. I'm thinking barbecue pulled pork, taco meat, sauteed onions and mushrooms but would love some other ideas of what would work well. Will be a mix of meat-eaters and vegetarians. Thanks in advance!
posted by Twicketface at 8:01 AM PST - 64 comments

Western PA/Northern MD/Maybe WV panhandle resorts

I have a non-flexible weekend during which I need to make good on promises of a getaway for myself and my husband. We are dropping our kid off in Shippensburg PA and want to do an overnight somewhere vaguely on the way back to Pittsburgh. I want to make sure I'm not missing a still good but cheaper option before I pull the trigger on the $$$ known quantity option. Details within. [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 7:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Personal Financial Management iOS app that can import Quicken Data?

Can you recommend an iOS personal financial management app? Quicken data import ability would be a major plus. [more inside]
posted by Reverend John at 7:35 AM PST - 1 comment

Looking for one-liners and put-downs in European languages!

I'm writing a flash fiction humor piece. A woman in a bar is going to make fun of the bartender in a foreign language. What one-liners can she use? I'm not too picky about the language in particular. German, Norwegian, Swedish would work. Thanks in advance for any suggestions. [more inside]
posted by storybored at 7:32 AM PST - 5 comments

Does cocamidopropyl betaine deposit on hair because of being amphoteric?

In an FAQ about a laundry detergent (ECOS), I found an assertion that cocamidopropyl betaine deposits on clothing (due to clothing's negative charge). Is this true? I know hair is negatively charged too, so if the above is true, I'm wondering if hair would also retain a residue of surfactant? I'm a little concerned at the idea of residual surfactant on either my hair or my clothes, as I have sensitive skin that probably shouldn't be in contact with surfactant. (See inside for a cut-and-paste of the assertion I found.) [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 6:30 AM PST - 3 comments

My vagabond cat and his new people

My best beloved cat, Malchik, (seen on the left here) was missing for a month. After giving up all hope, I espied him last week at a house just down the street, where he basked in the sun and was completely disinterested in me. Details ahoy! [more inside]
posted by palindromic at 6:04 AM PST - 21 comments

Best financing options for a home rennovation project, approx. 100k?

I bought my home 10 years ago under a home rennovation loan in which I rolled a certain amount into my mortgage for basic home rennovations (it was a foreclosure). I've unfortunatly had some circumstances in which I have had to refinance once, but I am in good standing and it is a very affordable home for me. I believe it is in a great location that if I were keep it, and add some sq footage on and another bathroom I would make more equity and my daughter and I would be able to stay a little longer in that home. I love the area, and I have a yard, and it is very affordable given the high costs in my area. My home is one of the few homes in the neighborhood that hasn't had some sort of rennovation done, and still only has one bathroom. If I were to sell the home as is, with a few updates, I would walk away with a little under 100K to put towards a new home. But, if I can come up with a way to roll 100k into the mortgage for me to add square footage, a bathroom, and much needed exterior/interior repairs, I think I would end up making more and it would help me out in not have to move to a more expensive area. I am just not sure what sort of loan would allow me to do that, or what would be my best options- has anyone had experience with taking out a different loan for a project that could run me 100-125k, and rolling it into mortgage, or using equity?
posted by MamaBee223 at 5:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Calling plant doctors: What's wrong here?

You guys were so helpful with my last post, I was hoping you could help me figure out what's wrong with this one. Some leaves are bleaching. Others are solid green and wrinkly. It looks like the bottom of the plant has died and is dry and woody, but there are sections at the top are green. As a result, the plant is bizarrely shaped -- I should have trimmed it better. [more inside]
posted by Borborygmus at 5:41 AM PST - 12 comments

Therapist in NYC

I urgently need to find a therapist in NYC - someone who understands a first and second-generation immigrant experience, specifically about my relationship with my parents. Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:16 AM PST - 3 comments

Board Game Road Map

Let's say you had a toddler (for argument's sake, a 4 year old). What board games would you play with them. Y'know, actually fun (I mean, maybe you need to start at Snakes and Ladders, but do you really?) AND THEN What would you play with a 5 year old. A 6 Year old. A 7 year old etc. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 3:04 AM PST - 27 comments

July 8

Looking for a literary thriller (or sci-fi)

What are some good books I should read that fall in the thriller / suspense genre, but may be highly regarded as literature (for whatever your definition of that is). [more inside]
posted by raheel at 10:31 PM PST - 24 comments

How to sell a PNO car in California?

Putting my car in PNO status (planned non-operation) "seemed like a good idea at the time" but is making the sale awkward. [more inside]
posted by pantufla_milagrosa at 10:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Need the definitive film on development of the fetus

Documentary, films, animation, series. Color. With as MUCH detail as possible. I mean everything possible. I am doing research and need this to be both exquisite in its beauty but also informative with literally no BS factors or politics. Just the genesis of human biology.
posted by watercarrier at 9:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I still go to western Shikoku in late July?

Western Japan has been exceptionally rainy in the last few days and flooding seems to be affecting infrastructure like railways and roads. I'll be in Japan for about a month starting tomorrow, and my original itinerary included five days driving around Kochi and Ehime prefectures (specifically flying into Kochi on July 25 and driving to Cape Ashizuri, then along the west coast staying in Otsuki, Seiyo and Matsuyama and visiting Ozu, Uchiko and Uwajima), then flying to Fukuoka on July 30. Will this still work? Or should I go elsewhere in Japan? [more inside]
posted by mdonley at 9:45 PM PST - 10 comments

Surgery's in 5 days but unable to pin down insurance estimate. Help!

I (33, F) am getting my tonsils out in 5 days and I'm still trying to get a sense of the financial burden I'll bear afterwards. I have been at this for 1.5 months, with numerous back and forth calls between the ENT, who's based in Washington, DC, and my insurance (Anthem BCBS of Connecticut; I live in CT). I'm getting conflicting information from both, not to mention uncertainty about hospital fees. What do I need to ask/do to wade through this and get as accurate of a financial estimate as possible? This shouldn't be THIS hard. [more inside]
posted by trampoliningisfun at 8:57 PM PST - 7 comments

Something like a möbius strip

I have a kind of inverted advice-for-nearing-end-of-20s question: what advice are you happiest that you didn’t take in your late 20s/early 30s? How did choosing the less wise/more likely disastrous option work out for you? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 8:33 PM PST - 25 comments

What to do between Lisbon and Edinburgh?

I'm in Lisbon until July 31st. I fly back to NA from Edinburgh on August 10th. [more inside]
posted by stray at 8:16 PM PST - 8 comments

Pasteurized shell eggs, or whole liquid eggs-in-a-carton, in Los Angeles

Where can I find pasteurized eggs in the shell, or cartons of whole liquid eggs (not colored and flavored egg whites) in the San Fernando Valley (of LA), hopefully in/around the West Valley/Northridge area? My best leads have come up empty, including the nearest Whole Foods. [more inside]
posted by WasabiFlux at 7:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Will burning this wood kill me?

Two years ago I had a large laurel tree fall over in my yard. I opted not to have the resultant logs hauled away by the tree guys. The internet seems ambivalent about whether or not burning laurel wood lets off poisonous fumes. The logs have seasoned for two years now and are quite dry. I want to either burn them in the fire pit or give them to someone with a closed wood stove. Thoughts?
posted by kneehigh at 7:53 PM PST - 3 comments

Repairing an enamel on a cast iron sink - can I do this with heat?

I have an old cast iron sink with a few chips. What is the plausibility of using an enamel powder normally used in jewelry or ceramics and a gas torch to fill these chips? [more inside]
posted by deadwax at 7:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Builder dried up about wet basement floor

The basement floor of my house (built two years ago) is seeping water probably from the concrete edges. There is a foundation warranty by the builder, but they said that's normal that the floor is porous, and to just get a dehumidifier and fan. How should I proceed? [more inside]
posted by seattlejeff at 7:24 PM PST - 5 comments

All the lounge covers!

We were at a wedding last night, and during the reception there were lounge covers of a number of famous songs playing, I think all covered by the same artist/band. Help me figure out who it was! [more inside]
posted by just_ducky at 7:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Getting California drivers license with recently expired OOS license

My out of state license expired two days ago because I’m dumb. What do I need to do to get a CA drivers license? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 5:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Best practices for getting beer from Wisconsin to Ohio

This week I'm flying from Ohio to Wisconsin and back. I'd like to buy 2-3 cases of beer that is only sold in Wisconsin for personal consumption and somehow get them back to Ohio. I was originally going to throw them in my checked bag but now I realize that's a lot of volume and a lot of weight so it'll probably be expensive. Is there a better way to do this? USPS/FedEx/UPS?
posted by Tehhund at 5:31 PM PST - 13 comments

What is Gulf Island life like?

I'm thinking about moving to a small Gulf Island. What do I need to know? [more inside]
posted by miles1972 at 5:17 PM PST - 14 comments

What are these adorable little…thingies?

What are these? They are about 3-4mm long and were seen in the clear, shallow, fast-moving water on top of Ripley Falls, a 100-foot waterfall in New Hampshire's White Mountains. They seemed to occur in clusters, and made me think of nothing so much as a herd of tiny aquatic cows. I think they're cute! [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 4:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Ear bone's connected to the throat bone?

I've been having nightmarish hayfever and been super stopped up. I cleaned my ears using peroxide and olive oil and ended up with a terrible sore, scratchy, tickly throat and phlegmy cough! What gives? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 4:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Free study materials for the GED test for an educated adult?

I am looking for online and self study materials for taking the GED in Texas, preferably free, or at least very cheap. Workbooks and videos, and lots of practice tests, suitable for quick review and self study, for an adult who is already halfway done with college. [more inside]
posted by ethical_caligula at 4:07 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for therapist recommendations in Montreal

I'll be attending McGill this fall and would like to continue talk therapy in conjunction with meds I take for (my well-managed) General Anxiety here in the US. [more inside]
posted by Ink-stained wretch at 3:16 PM PST - 2 comments

I need to consult a particular kind of expert.

Is there a respected expert on the way women function in the workplace and how they fail to make the same kinds of alliances as men? [more inside]
posted by generic230 at 2:27 PM PST - 21 comments

Creepy movies and tv shows for a 9 year old

My nephew loves creepy movies, especially if they have a fascinating story or mystery behind them. He's too old now for most animated movies, and is very sensitive to watching anything he considers "baby" stuff. What to choose? [more inside]
posted by Stonkle at 2:10 PM PST - 47 comments

Rice noodles as a side dish

Next week we are making bulgogi for a crowd and usually serve white rice and the reduced marinade on the side. I'd like to add warm rice noodles as an option, but should I add anything to them? [more inside]
posted by soelo at 11:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Asexual Community?

I'm curious if there's a active asexual community online/offline? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 11:10 AM PST - 6 comments

Despairing over long-term financial situation

I am feeling despair over my financial situation. I can't see any way to improve it. I have had depression for many decades and this lack of hope is exacerbating my depression. I can't imagine any way to help. [more inside]
posted by primate moon at 10:48 AM PST - 23 comments

How many gated Y valves can I usably add to a single spigot?

We have a spigot with a gated Y valve: one hose is used for front yard watering (#1) and the other is used for drip hose watering (#2). The drip hose side has a length of 25' of rubber hose, followed by the 25' drip hose. I'd like to add another gated Y valve for a 2nd drip hose (#3). Mr. Arnicae believes this will result in the pressure being too low to be functional. I think this will not matter as only one segment of the hose will be utilized at any one time. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 10:46 AM PST - 9 comments

Can you tell me about this engraved scene on this brass tray?

I bought this brass tray at a junk shop this weekend. Can anyone explain the engraved scene or provide insights? [more inside]
posted by slipthought at 10:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Where does the bluish-greenish gunk on my glasses come from?

Glasses-wearer, if your frames are metal, you know that teal-colored residue which appears near your nose, in and around the inner corners of your lenses? Two questions... [more inside]
posted by Rash at 10:12 AM PST - 15 comments

What weighted blanket should I buy?

I'm interested in a weighted blanket, but am having trouble choosing a specific one. I bought this HomeSmart one for my partner and they really liked it, but then found it was leaking its tiny glass beads and so had to return it. What now? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 9:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Summer Patio Sitting: What style chair to get?

With Prime Day approaching, which type of chair should I get for enjoying my garden? Chaise lounge, camp style zero gravity recliner, or La-z-boy-style outdoor recliner? I intend to read, eat, sip a drink, watch the birds at the feeder, or possibly (but probably not) nap. Specifics below. [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 9:12 AM PST - 9 comments

What is this on the drumsticks of my chicken?

I just got home from Whole Foods with a whole chicken. When I went to prep it I noticed these scaley looking things on the ends of the drumsticks. Was my chicken turning into a snake? And, more importantly, can we eat this?
posted by bowmaniac at 8:41 AM PST - 10 comments

GOTV Nov 2018 for boots on the ground ONLY

For Nov 2018 Elections, a follow-up on this question. I want to help people to vote in person. I would like to do this in a defense-needed/swingable house or senate seat near (within 5h drive) of NYC. [more inside]
posted by lalochezia at 8:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Do you run your wall AC unit constantly?

My new apartment in LA has wall AC units, and I'm wondering if they're meant to run all day (even while I'm at work), or if they should only be turned on while I'm at home. All of my previous apartments had central air. [more inside]
posted by aquamvidam at 8:18 AM PST - 15 comments

Can I index two Word files?

I'm going to have two separate files to have printed as two separate volumes of a book, and if it's possible, I'd like to index them both together, so the index would say "Vol 1, page 152" or whatever. Is this possible, or can you think of a slick way of doing something similar that doesn't require a shit-ton of work by hand? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 8:00 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me find more synth music like this specific track

I'm looking for synth music like this piece. No vocals, synth-only, arpeggiated, and evolving. [more inside]
posted by fake at 7:07 AM PST - 19 comments

Problem with Ditto clipboard manager

I've installed Ditto clipboard manager on my new windows 10 computer, but it doesn't store what I copy. [more inside]
posted by Nancy Lebovitz at 6:52 AM PST - 2 comments

Lifelong Anxiety, How Do I Learn To Relax?

I've had lifelong anxiety. I am taking meds and going to therapy. I want to learn how to relax. I've never really "learned." Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:34 AM PST - 24 comments

What was this single-take video of a parade through a town?

Some years ago (five? more?) I watched a video online of what I think was a parade through a town or city in the US. I think it was a single take. It involved lots of people and groups from the town and was really well choreographed and filmed so that it all fitted together. It was really joyful and uplifting and so I'd love to see it again. But I've had no luck finding it based on this little info. Any ideas?
posted by fabius at 5:44 AM PST - 6 comments

renting with awful credit. red state edition.

previous questions have helped with some insight, but i have some special snowflake details. [more inside]
posted by lescour at 5:42 AM PST - 13 comments

Need more help on my non-relationship, please!

So, this was me, three months ago. Unfortunately, the situation is still ongoing, and I'm back for some more MeFi wisdom. Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:35 AM PST - 32 comments

Does the fat-accepting weight loss forum I need exist?

I am a very fat fat-acceptance activist. I also have some very real health issues that would be alleviated with some moderate weight loss, and I've grown weary of quite literally not fitting in to a world that wasn't made for me. I could lose a hundred pounds and still be very fat, still be part of the fat acceptance community that means to much to me and has helped my mental health immeasurably. Inspired by Roxane Gay's recent essay about her weight loss surgery, I'm working on rectifying within myself the desire to continue to be a loud advocate for fat acceptance and critic of the diet industry, with the desire to make my own life a little easier. The problem I'm finding now is that there's no community I can find where it feels like these goals can co-exist. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:35 AM PST - 14 comments

Realistic painting / digital art training/tips

I have an idea for illustrations I'd like to make but I would want them to be in a highly-detailed, realistic style. Can you recommend any resources to help me get better at that style? [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 3:08 AM PST - 7 comments

July 7

Queer male-ish fashion inspiration and resources?

Are there any good male-ish queer fashion (inspiration albums/brands/models/discussion fora/general resources)? [more inside]
posted by sidek at 11:10 PM PST - 1 comment

VBAC/TOLAC for obese mom

I had a c-section in 2015 (thanks breech baby) and really want to do a VBAC this time around. My last doctor visit included a lot of "well, at your size a VBAC may only have a 60% chance of working" and a strong feeling that while this was all up to me, the doctor who was seeing me that day thought c-section was the better path. I'd like moms who are also obese who have either done VBAC or just had vaginal births just fine to give me some info please. [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 9:18 PM PST - 10 comments

Calling Austria from USA in 1984

I am writing a story (which takes place in 1984) in which someone calls from the USA to Austria. I would like to show, in detail, how that call would have taken place. Would you call the local operator first? Then get transferred to an Austrian operator? What about the German/English language barrier? I actually made a few such calls in 1984 but I cannot recall the details at all. I'm hoping someone who has a much better memory than I do can help me out. [more inside]
posted by Ira Weston at 7:49 PM PST - 16 comments

I want to read more Native American authors.

Recently read There There by Tommy Orange and LOVED it. I now want to read more Native American voices - old, contemporary, fiction, poetry, non fiction. Anything. PS: I’m familiar with Louise Erdrich and Sherman Alexie. I have Zitkála-Šá’s American Indian Stories on my kindle waiting to be read.
posted by dostoevskygirl at 4:42 PM PST - 28 comments

Need a Chicago Restaurant Recommendation

I'm taking an acquaintance-friend to lunch soon but haven't lived in Chicago for several years and am out of touch with what's happening. Where can we go? A few criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by Short Attention Sp at 4:37 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I soap?

Looking to dip my toes into soap-making, starting with melt and pour. What soap base is best to use? What molds are best? Where do I get dyes / scents? UK, if it makes any difference. [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 4:07 PM PST - 10 comments

Heart rate watch to pair with chest strap

I would like a running-watch to pair with my chest-strap heart-rate monitor, preferably as cheap as possible. Specifications are inside! [more inside]
posted by Greg Nog at 3:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Montreal (Week)Day Trip Parking Advice

Driving up to Montreal from Vermont for a weekday meetup with friends who will be staying in le Plateau. What is my best parking strategy? [more inside]
posted by baseballpajamas at 3:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Assisted Living - How do we find place & transfer Grandma nearer to us?

My 91-year-old Grandma has been moved into assisted living this past week. She lives across the country, far away from all of us family. If we were to transfer her here, what would that process look like? How do we find a good facility, how do we charter the flight, how do we X Y and Z? Lots of questions! [more inside]
posted by bologna on wry at 3:21 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I give my sensitive cat the space he needs from his siblings?

I have three cats. They are 7 years old, two boys and a girl. All spayed/neutered. Up until recently they all got along fine. Now, one of them is constantly in the middle of fights with the other two. He seems to not want to be around other cats anymore. But he DOES want to be around humans. How can I give my sensitive boy cat the space he needs? [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 3:13 PM PST - 4 comments

Address help!

Hi all - so I worry this will seem stalk-like(ish?). All I am trying to do is identify my childhood lakefront cottage. Would love to see if I can make an offer once the existing owner wants to sell. [more inside]
posted by tdabbott at 1:41 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me be a good art fair vendor!

I'm gonna be one of a couple dozen vendors at an upcoming local arts and crafts fair, and it's my first time doing something like this. I've got my 10 foot by 10 foot spot, a pop up canopy to stick on it, and I'm gonna have a table with stuff on it and a cash box and a credit card reader on my phone. What else should I be thinking about? [more inside]
posted by cortex at 1:21 PM PST - 17 comments

Air Conditioner broken or is it just too hot?

Is there something wrong with my central air conditioner or is it just way too hot? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 12:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for small but mighty dustbuster

I'm looking for something to get kitty litter, people hair, and kitty hair from around baseboards on bare floors, on the couch, and crevices in hardwood floors. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 12:10 PM PST - 10 comments

what are the risks of lead paint in converted barn?

This barn was converted to a house fairly recently. Everything inside looks new. I don't know the extent of the gutting of the old barn but seems pretty substantial. There is no lead certificate. What are the risks of lead paint for infants ?
posted by spacefire at 11:39 AM PST - 7 comments

Hardcoding .SRT to behave like YouTube's captioning?

I used YouTube's auto-generated captioning to get the timings right for subtitles for a video of mine -- with aims, after a long clean up, of burning subtitles into the original .MP4. YouTube positions two lines of captions on the screen. So, the timings might end up being something like segment A 0:02-0:06, segment B 0:04-0:08, segment C from 0:06-0:10, etc. This flows great at YouTube, [more inside]
posted by glibhamdreck at 11:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Stick a rocket up a gas giant's backside?

I am looking for any science articles (or even fiction, if it's mostly real-world-physics based) that deal with an intriguing idea, and I can't recall where I read about it. The idea of using a gas giant planet as both fuel and a colonization vehicle for generation ships leaving the solar system. I had thought this was on the Blue somewhere but I can't seem to find it. (Note: this is NOT about probes using planets as a "refueling station" or a gravity-assisted boost before leaving the solar system.) [more inside]
posted by The Pluto Gangsta at 11:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Birthday present for Mom (80th year edition)

I don't have a clue what to give my mom for her 80th birthday. Every time I think about it I put it to the back of my mind but I can't procrastinate forever! [more inside]
posted by plasticpalacealice at 10:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Suggestion for texting like someone in his early 20s

The novel I'm writing has a character who is a Buffalo-born 21-year old caucasian character. I'd like suggestions for how to make the text message he writes sound germane. There are a lot of them (his text messages). [more inside]
posted by zenpop at 9:42 AM PST - 17 comments

Where to Live in North San Jose / Milpitas?

So, as per my previous question, I'm moving to the south/east San Francisco Bay area (Milpitas/North San Jose). Where should I live, given my goals? Neighborhood recommendations would be great. Specific complex recommendations would be greater. [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 9:19 AM PST - 5 comments

Alternatives to amazon wishlist?

I used to love amazon wishlist for collecting lists of things I was considering buying, from anywhere on the web. It was super, super useful. So of course they got rid of it and replaced it with amazon assistant, which wants permission to stalk me everywhere on the web and probably a bunch of other dodgy things too. No thanks. So what would metafilter recommend instead for collecting potential purchases? My new/current system of just leaving tabs open on the page is getting out of control... (I use chrome, if it matters)
posted by stillnocturnal at 7:47 AM PST - 16 comments

Always late to the game: where to find online challenges on time?

I find it very motivating to work on a challenge or project alongside an online community. Unfortunately, I often only read about these challenges once they are almost over. Good examples are the Apartment Therapy January Cure or the #the100dayproject featured on Instagram. What challenges do you know of that are upcoming? What challenges are reoccurring every year, so I could participate the next time around? Are there any websites that have a great overview of upcoming challenges? [more inside]
posted by Fallbala at 3:19 AM PST - 15 comments

Self-Hosting For Beginners?

I have never done anything like this before but I am interested in some GitHub packages which need a server to be self hosted (Wallabag, RSS Bridge and others). Is there a simple way to get into this stuff? I am pretty tech savvy but in Windows not Linux so it would have to be relatively straightforward What self hosting solutions do any of you use (I am thinking AWS or Linode?) and what do you do with it? Which packages would you recommend?
posted by mrbenn at 2:44 AM PST - 9 comments

Spanish-learning apps for a preschooler who can't read yet?

My kid just started going to a Spanish-immersion preschool and doesn't speak the language yet. What are some apps that could support her language acquisition or that would encourage her interest in Spanish? [more inside]
posted by zerbinetta at 1:20 AM PST - 7 comments

July 6

Medical marijuana prescription, new job drug testing

I use medical marijuana for migraines with support of a doctor. I applied for a new job and they require drug testing. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:28 PM PST - 18 comments

Relationship counselling and dementia

My father has dementia. He lives with his long-term partner but they are planning to separate because his dementia is causing arguments. He's wondering whether relationship counselling might help them. Have you any experience of relationship counselling where one of the couple has dementia? Is there any research about it? Would some forms of counselling be more likely to help than others? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:28 PM PST - 10 comments

Where to recycle this keyboard case in London?

My iPad keyboard case has elected to die an undignified death before my departure from London. If I were in the US, I would know the best place to recycle it. I am not in the US. What would be my best option? I’m starting from Gower Street.
posted by thomas j wise at 10:48 PM PST - 2 comments

You helped me find the best messenger bag. Now help me find a backpack!

Previously you all pitched in and helped me find this awesome messenger bag in black leather and nylon, which has served me well for 3 years and still looks new. Now I'm recovering from a broken ankle and need to retire the heavy messenger bag for a while in favor of a backpack. Know of any awesome bags I should consider? Parameters inside! [more inside]
posted by limeonaire at 9:47 PM PST - 16 comments

Maybe they're born with it, maybe they had a bad childhood...

I've come across a few abnormally cruel or sadistic people, and I just keep wondering why they think and act that way. What motivates them? How did their empathy chip get broken? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 7:34 PM PST - 20 comments

August trip with toddler

Help needed to choose best destination for August vacation with a toddler. [more inside]
posted by kdern at 7:15 PM PST - 7 comments

A day in LA: what art is must-see?

I’m in LA tonight, leaving tomorrow night. I would love to see some of the most exciting contemporary art showing there right now. What do you recommend?
posted by Dragonness at 6:16 PM PST - 7 comments

too pretty to deadhead--coneflower conundrum

Local garden center had a sale on coneflowers and black-eyed susans, which are beautifully flowering this time of year. Do I have to wait until fall and/or deadhead them in order to plant them in the garden now? [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn at 5:52 PM PST - 8 comments

"Robot Music" for a five year-old

My 5 year old nephew has fallen in love with the Beasties’ “Intergalactic," which is great, but… he likes to loop it. Forever. I'd like to give him (and everyone around him) more options. Help me load-up a thumb-drive with an age-appropriate playlist of "robot music" to keep him grooving. [more inside]
posted by mumkin at 5:41 PM PST - 65 comments

What car should my mom buy?

My 68 year-old mother is finally ready to upgrade her car. Yay! But, as always, there are snowflakes... [more inside]
posted by the thought-fox at 5:00 PM PST - 23 comments

Ideas for a Company Contest Prize Drawing

I'm trying to come up with a fun idea for a company contest prize drawing. We'd like it to have a Vegas and/or a Bingo theme. I need a way to randomly select a winner from around 3,000 entries and a way to randomly select a prize from around 6 options. [more inside]
posted by willnot at 4:10 PM PST - 7 comments

Intro to Home Inspection Business

My partner has decided to take the career leap into becoming a home inspector. My question is, for those that have experience in the industry: What are we missing? Is there a way to make sure that she is being set up for success and not missing a crucial step along the way? Also, what would be considered fair wages for a home inspector? If you are a home inspector, what advice would you give someone starting in the industry? How to make sure that she isn't being taken advantage of by the person offering apprenticeship? [more inside]
posted by shesaysgo at 2:10 PM PST - 6 comments

Do I need new shoes or new feet?

I climbed and walked a lot in a city and it made my feet hurt. How can I make walking less painful? [more inside]
posted by the matching mole at 1:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Please help identify this passage about right-wing political discourse

There's a quote from somewhere I've seen a few times now, I think in the political megathreads on Metafilter and elsewhere, that discusses the fundamental difficulty of arguing with certain right-wing groups because you (the hypothetical arguer) are attempting to engage in good faith while they are not. [CW: 2018 politics] [more inside]
posted by Two unicycles and some duct tape at 1:00 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there such thing as a co-op Auto-Shop in Seattle?

Is there such thing as a co-op auto shop/garage in Seattle? I'd love to learn the basics of auto-repair, but the only classes I have found are full degree/certificate programs. Is there something more casual that an auto-ignoramus can access in Seattle? I'm not averse to travelling, but I'd prefer it to be in-city rather than the outlying areas. anybody?
posted by jimmereeno at 12:36 PM PST - 3 comments

I have no idea how to move forward in my career

I currently have a job with great quality-of-life perks, but it's low-pay, I'm bored and it isn't looking like there's much more career growth here. I want to move on, but I am lost every step of the way, including in deciding whether I should leave at all. [more inside]
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 11:55 AM PST - 16 comments

What's up with the Very English Scandal insurance card?

I watched A Very English Scandal on Amazon and have questions about England's National Insurance card. Possible mild spoilers in the question. [more inside]
posted by daikon at 11:49 AM PST - 12 comments

Yet Another Mattress Question

What innerspring mattress should we get? Did you get a Serta? Do you recommend it? [more inside]
posted by mai at 11:14 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I improve my flexibility in 10 min. a day?

I'd like to find an easy program or set of uncomplicated stretches to build into my daily routine. Where should I begin? [more inside]
posted by WaspEnterprises at 11:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Music (and more) to reframe your perspective to

How do you guys maintain positivity and kinda keep yourself in a big-picture headspace? I'm dealing with a confluence of annoyances and as a result, feeling annoyed and frustrated. How do I shift my headspace more? I'm thinking: music and other little reminders? Can you help brainstorm songs and suggest other ideas? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 10:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Brownstone Brooklyn - Looking for help as I contemplate buying an apt

I've worked hard and I've been fortunate. I think I have enough saved to buy an apt in Brooklyn with an easier commute to Manhattan. I'm looking in Brooklyn Heights, Carroll Gardens, Cobble Hill, Boerum Hill. I'd consider downtown BK or Columbia St Waterfront area as well. Have you had a good experience buying a home in that part of BK? Tell me about it. [more inside]
posted by 6thsense at 10:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Lined denim jacket for the small, effete gentleman

I covet and always try on Lee Storm Rider and flannel-lined Wrangler jackets at thrift/vintage stores, but they are cut wide and boxy, and I am a skinny little trans fella. Where can I get a lined jean jacket in the classic workwear style, but with a skinny fit? [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 9:22 AM PST - 14 comments

Training “they” into my brain

I wish to improve fluency with correct pronouns. In particular, I want reinforcement of personal, gender-non-specific, gender-non-conforming, epicene they. Towards that goal, I seek audio source (podcasts, radio, non-fiction, pro- or fanfic) or comic books where characters use “they" pronouns. Rec away and thank you.
posted by Jesse the K at 9:18 AM PST - 13 comments

Post Cyberpunk Stories

There's a famous tweet out there somewhere about how if you were born after 1980 you were never promised flying cars, you were promised a cyberpunk dystopia. I'm interested in stories set after the cyberpunk dystopia, whether books or TV or movies. [more inside]
posted by JDHarper at 9:15 AM PST - 12 comments

Have authoritarian and racist groups coopted the US Steel logo?

I've recently started seeing the US Steel logo on cars with other authoritarian (Blue Lives Matter) or racist (Jefferson) stickers. There is no steel industry remotely near where I live. Has the logo been co-opted with some hidden meaning, are the Steelers hot this year, or am I just experiencing Baader-Meinhof phenomenon?
posted by entropicamericana at 8:19 AM PST - 12 comments

Next Steps for Buying a Used Car

I've narrowed my car choice down to a certified used 2016/7 Honda Fit with mileage <40k costing <$16k. I've test driven it and really like it. I've located dealers in and around the NYC area, where I live. I've emailed them about specific certified cars listed online to ask their best price. All previous Ask threads have been so informative to get me to this point. But I have several simple questions remaining. [more inside]
posted by MCMLXXXIV at 8:15 AM PST - 12 comments

Just want the data, not the insights

I've come to realize over the last couple of months that my favorite part of my job is when I'm just crunching numbers in Excel. I love organizing data and creating formulas and tables. Right now a lot of my position also includes interpreting everything and writing reports and detailing insights, which I find a lot less exciting and would rather just hand off to someone else. What are positions that would entail just the Excel part (or something similar to it)? [more inside]
posted by Fuego at 7:07 AM PST - 10 comments

The Weight, the Loss, the Songs -- Weight Loss Songs!

Our new condo has a really nice gym facility and I'm looking forward to using it. What are you working out to lately? Give me your favourite high energy, high motivation jams.
posted by seanmpuckett at 5:15 AM PST - 21 comments

July 5

Help me cut a hole in a wood & steel table

So I ordered and shipped two wood-topped metal-legged bar tables that look like this according to contractor measurements. Turns out, the window area includes an unmovable floor-to-ceiling pipe at one end that isn't shown on the plans. Now one of my tables is either about 8cm too long OR needs to have a 8-cm diameter circle scooped out of its side. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 9:11 PM PST - 12 comments

Cost of living Essex County NJ (NY Metro) vs Seattle Metro

Hi, My wife and I live in the very nice but pricey area outside of NYC - Essex County NJ. An opportunity has popped up which would take us to Seattle. I am wondering about the differences in cost of living. [more inside]
posted by Shanachie at 7:37 PM PST - 5 comments

Testosterone depletion with retrograde ejaculation?

I'm 58 and have less semen production, which I take as no problem. But do men still lose testosterone even though they produce less or even have dry orgasms (due to Flomax, etc.)? Yes or no? Thanks.
posted by noelpratt2nd at 7:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Kindle SFF magazines

I love SFF, but I'm terrible at keeping up with new releases and authors. Which monthly magazines should I be reading? [more inside]
posted by lesser weasel at 7:12 PM PST - 9 comments

How Best To Make A Voice Recording On MacOS

What is the simplest way to make a short voice recording on a MacBook OS 10.12.6 and send it via email?
posted by partner at 6:46 PM PST - 5 comments

Podcast Player for Private Feeds

If you're listening to Slate Plus podcasts using a podcast app on android, please tell me what app you're using and what process you followed to add the private feeds [more inside]
posted by entropyiswinning at 5:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Car maintenance on a shoestring

My car needs several repairs according to the scheduled maintenance. A family member errs on the opposite side of "replace nothing as a preventative, only when it breaks." As a woman I don't trust a mechanic to be straight with me about prudent but conservative car maintenance. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 5:43 PM PST - 22 comments

Gift card suggestions for a friend in Philly?

A friend is moving to Philadelphia and I want to get her a gift that will help her settle in to her new life there. The thing is, what she mostly needs right now is money (she will be between jobs). I don't want to just give her a bunch of cash, but I also don't want to put a lot of money into a gift when she might rather just have the money. So I'm thinking gift card as a good middle ground. But gift card to where? [more inside]
posted by aka burlap at 5:33 PM PST - 21 comments

Mystery Vintage Sewing Machine!

From the depths of my garage I excavated a vintage Brother sewing machine. I've done some pretty exhaustive research online, but ultimately no evidence of this particular model's existence. Maybe a savvy vintage sewing machine enthusiast Mefite here will know? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 4:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Can I eat this?

The boxed low sodium chicken broth that I added to some chicken thighs in my slow-cooker says to use within 7-10 days of opening. I just realized that it's been 12 days since I opened it. Can I eat the pulled chicken that will emerge from my slow cooker in 4 hours or should I throw it away? [more inside]
posted by cimton at 4:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Can I Drink This? (Too Late Edition)

I just drank a 5 Hour Energy Shot that expired in April. Is this the end for me? [more inside]
posted by Krazor at 3:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Kid Friendly D&D youtube play through's?

Any Dungeons and Dragons play through's that I don't have to yell beep over the whole time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Cheap but attractive flooring solution

We bought a new house - yay! But the floors are hideous - boo. I need help coming up with a cheap, attractive, DIY-friendly flooring solution for the laundry room. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 2:57 PM PST - 14 comments

How can I settle my brother's affairs when his landlord won't let me?

My brother died in a very unhealthy place after he fell while drinking. He rented the top floor of a home that his former landlord/companion (there are differing reports) either rents or owns. Now she won't allow my husband and into their home to gather bills, statements, even a large bin of family photos going back more than a hundred years. [more inside]
posted by R2WeTwo at 2:24 PM PST - 18 comments

Big/Tall Men's Clothes... No. Bigger Than That!

I weigh 450 lbs (down from 470 already). My weight is carried very much in my front gut area. I wear 7X t-shirts, but they also have to be Tall to cover my belly. I have hunted extensively to find online suppliers of clothes this big. You'd think any intermediate Google-fu would turn that up. But the results in such searches SAY they'll carry my size, but they don't. Many have one plain t-shirt for $40, if anything. [more inside]
posted by skypieces at 2:22 PM PST - 13 comments

Solo bass chord songs

I'm trying to develop some fluency with like actual proper chords on bass rather than the dissonant noiserock stuff I actually know how to do - do you have any recommendations for songs that work well for solo bass arrangements that aren't Blackbird by the Beatles? I'm starting to get a bit sick of that one...
posted by Dysk at 1:31 PM PST - 12 comments

Beard+oily skin=ugh

I tend to have oily skin on my cheeks/sides of my face. Trying to grow a beard there seems to make it much worse. Can anything be done about this? [more inside]
posted by DevilsAdvocate at 1:21 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I shut my brain up?

I am preparing for something in my life right now, that, if things go well, will affect me big time—in a really, really good way. The problem is my brain keeps telling me I won't get this/I will be unsuccessful. How do I take myself out of this negative loop? [more inside]
posted by pleasebekind at 12:45 PM PST - 18 comments

Does sale of property in Seattle negate explicit option to renew lease?

Seattle-based lease says that tenant can renew at same rate when lease ends, but property was sold just before. Is the new owner beholden to this agreement? [more inside]
posted by JasonSch at 12:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Where in NYC can I practice Tibetan Buddhism as in Pema Chodron?

I have her books already. I seek community.
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Reaching out to a depressed friend?

I have a friend who's having a severe depression exacerbation. We are close but not best friends and know each other through work. My friend has opened up about their experiences with depression and is engaged in therapy, taking meds, and doing as much as they can to help themselves. I've been especially worried lately, though, as it seems the spark has gone out of their eyes and I'm worried about their well-being. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments

Trumpet flower? Hops? Virginia Creeper?

My covered wooden back porch is old, in mediocre shape, and painted an ugly brown that's wearing off. I'm thinking about covering it with a fast-growing vine in lieu of replacing it for the next 3-5 years. [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 11:25 AM PST - 11 comments

I need help with healthcare.gov

I have not received my 2017 1095a from healthcare.gov. I have called so many times and I still have no answers why we don't have it or when we'll get it. My extension to file taxes is about to run out. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by shmurley at 11:04 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me be kind to my future self!

I really like the concept of "being kind to my future self" to motivate me to do things I don't want to do. (Floss! Finish this memo! Deal with this Big Thing now so your future self doesn't have to!) Now I'm thinking I could use it to tackle small tasks as well. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by heavenknows at 11:03 AM PST - 40 comments

Worksheets for structuring my thoughts around career changes

I want to switch jobs in the next few months, and I'm looking for a structured way to think about the transition. Something like a worksheet where I list all my previous jobs. What I liked about them. What I didn't like about them. What my strengths are. Does the AskMetafilter community have any resources they enjoyed in the past? [more inside]
posted by earlsofsandwich at 11:01 AM PST - 5 comments

Van overheats on idle

Our 2007 Honda Odyssey van overheats on idle ONLY. Can you pinpoint the cause? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 9:37 AM PST - 8 comments

linger on the sidewalk where my neon nails are pretty

Where's all the non-shit neon polish at? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 9:23 AM PST - 14 comments

How can I make apartment hunting less awful?

I'm looking for tips on making the apartment hunting process as painless and non-adversarial as possible. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 9:09 AM PST - 16 comments

It's there a point at which depression needs to be accepted?

You stare into the abyss. One half of you lives, works, loves, creates, volunteers, parents, and plays, but the other half is always staring into the abyss. Quietly. Without a fuss. Staring, always. Do you just learn to live like that? [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 7:36 AM PST - 41 comments

What should I do next week with a few hours in Chicago?

I'll be in Chicago next week for a conference and will have most of the day Tuesday and a small portion of Friday to do what I'd like. I am especially interested in places to photograph (but don't have to limit yourself to that). Any suggestions? I will be staying basically corner of Michigan and Ohio St - not too far from Chicago Riverwalk.
posted by UMDirector at 6:50 AM PST - 17 comments

Can you clean your dishes with "bleach" wipes?

I was listening to a podcast where experienced overlanders share how they live on the road. One of the guests, when asked about how he cleans dishes, said that he uses lysol wipes to get everything clean, to conserve water. Is that a thing? Is it safe?
posted by aeighty at 6:25 AM PST - 11 comments

How precise is our tidal lock to the moon?

This seems a like a simple question to answer, but I can't find anything online. We're tidally locked to the moon, which means the same side is always facing the earth. But it seems unlikely that it's a perfect lock. If it's imperfect, how long will it be until the opposite side is facing us?
posted by sodium lights the horizon at 5:02 AM PST - 8 comments

Who first said "pay now or pay later, but you always have to pay"?

Google comes up with John C. Maxwell for this, but I am sure I read of a much earlier version, possibly from a scientist or literary figure. Similar sentiments or earlier variations of this would be much appreciated!
posted by Calvin and the Duplicators at 12:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Whale cheese

Supposing you could get it, could you make cheese from whale milk? Asking for a kid.
posted by adept256 at 12:09 AM PST - 17 comments

July 4

Can I eat this? leftover seven layer dip

I have individually portioned 7 layer dip in a soft cooler, admittedly without tons of ice packs. [more inside]
posted by wowenthusiast at 10:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Why is Boiler Service a UK thing?

Why do I only find articles and contractors from the UK when I search for annual boiler service? Do only the British need this maintenance? [more inside]
posted by lpctstr; at 10:03 PM PST - 14 comments

How to get people to register to vote

I am new-ish voter registration agent. That means that, in my state, I am qualified to help people register to vote. I am interested in any tips about getting other people to register. [more inside]
posted by maurreen at 2:58 PM PST - 16 comments

When people want you to work for free--lawyer pro bono edition

I am really annoyed by something that happens regularly, since I left my job to start my own law practice about a year ago: Other lawyers trying to refer pro bono cases to me. For reasons, that is not a faux pas for them to do, but it really irritates me and I have not found a good way to respond, or a way to reframe it in my mind so I don't feel so put out and defensive about saying no. [more inside]
posted by Squalor Victoria at 2:53 PM PST - 32 comments

How to encourage kids to think critically about YouTube

I'm a volunteer counselor at a summer camp with a strong emphasis on critical thinking and scientific inquiry, and I'm hoping to put on an hour-long program helping kids (ages 8-17) learn how to discern fact from fiction on YouTube specifically, and the internet in general. I'm concerned about radicalization via the "Up Next" suggestions, and I'd like to do whatever I can to head off that sort of misinformation. [more inside]
posted by tybstar at 2:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Hold my hand and tell me about retina problems

Flashes of light, cobweb and something like ink splatter all over one eye. Waiting in emergency department after talking with nurse line. Tell me what to expect once I'm seen. Hold my hand.
posted by mightshould at 2:32 PM PST - 17 comments

gentle movies and TV

Suggestions for media to consume while I am unwell? [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 2:11 PM PST - 61 comments

How to prepare for a custody evaluation?

In the midst of an increasingly contentious divorce, and we're about to start the process of custody evaluation with an LCSW. I'm wondering how I should prepare for this, and any other advice for best navigating the process. [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 12:52 PM PST - 7 comments

Tweens and chores - talking points needed

The time has come for kids 10 and 13 (boys) to shoulder more of the household chores. Up until now, their responsibility has mostly been helping to take care of pets and cleaning up messes they themselves made (put garbage in the garbage, dishes in dishwasher, books back on shelf). They disagree with this proposed change. Debate ensued. [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 12:45 PM PST - 50 comments

Getting Access to Books which aren't available Digitally

I've been thinking lately about books which aren't available in an electronic/digital format, whether they're older titles, things like RPG/game books for which distribution was print-only, and similar situations. I'd love suggestions for ways to get some of these in an accessible electronic format. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 12:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Fast-turnaround poster printing in Stockholm?

Where can I get a poster printed at relatively short notice (i.e., within 24 hours or so) in Stockholm?
posted by unhappyprofessor at 11:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Wanted to make coney sauce/chili, made sloppy joes instead (???)

I wasn’t following a recipe, but rather an amalgam of several (I know, I know). Now I have a pot of something that smells like sloppy joes. Can anyone suggest how to tweak it back into more of a Midwest hot dog topping? Recipe inside [more inside]
posted by lizjohn at 11:48 AM PST - 9 comments

I know what the title says, but...

I'm trying to find a series of reading textbooks that a teacher friend gave us for me to read in the 1980s. The title of one of them was "Never Give Up!", which got me this image of the cover and a lot of hits for irrelevant inspirational sports books. I don't know the publisher or even the date except that they were probably from the 70's or 80's. Does anyone have more information on these books?
posted by Ralston McTodd at 10:12 AM PST - 2 comments

We all scream for ice cream!

How do I get individual ice cream servings delivered in bulk to work? [more inside]
posted by Wet Hen at 9:36 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me beanplate a wedding gift

I'm a +1 to a wedding this weekend. I know the bride from having meals with her and two mutual friends, I don't think we've ever hung out one on one but I like her. I am planning to give a card with a check in it. How much should the check be? [more inside]
posted by momus_window at 9:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Creative craft project I can do a little at a time

I'm looking for long term projects that I can do a little at a time. I want to end up with something cool, beautiful, and functional. It shouldn't take up a lot of space or require an elaborate set-up. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws at 9:03 AM PST - 22 comments

Really fresh tropical fruits in Chicago?

Where can I buy the very best mangoes and papayas--and others if you have suggestions--in Chicago (north side if possible, but not a deal-breaker)? I love sweet or tangy fruits, but I'm 100% certain I have never had a "good" papaya or mango in my life, let alone a great one. Are they possible to find in Chicago, and if so, how do I choose for ripeness and flavor once I see one? [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 8:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Exotic Travel Pillow by Tonight? (San Francisco)

Are there brick and mortar stores with exotic travel pillows in stock in San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 8:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Help Me Beach On The Cheap

I seek a quiet beach cottage experience for about 5 days or so in September. Difficulty: no car, tight budget. Help. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 7:53 AM PST - 6 comments

To travel agent or not travel agent

My SO and I are moving to Germany in October. Should we use a travel agent rather than trying to book flights ourselves? If a travel agent is the better way to go, anyone have recommendations in Alameda, CA or East Bay? [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 7:13 AM PST - 12 comments

Today we celebrate our independence... from running out of storage space

I have an iPhone SE running iOS 10.3.2. Of its 12.18 GB capacity, 7.61 GB are consumed by iMessages. I have no photos, no music, no podcasts, and only the apps I need to get through the day (many of which don't even work half the time because there isn't enough free storage to run them). Help? [more inside]
posted by telegraph at 7:07 AM PST - 7 comments

Deck repair cost sanity check

I feel like I'm losing my mind. I've collected several bids to repair my deck and the estimates are all over the place. I'd really appreciate some crowdsourced insight into what a reasonable price to pay is. [more inside]
posted by ndg at 6:37 AM PST - 11 comments

Where to watch the 4th of July fireworks in Brooklyn with a kid

I will be at the Brooklyn Museum this afternoon and was thinking I could take my 7 year old to watch the Macy's fireworks this evening. Does anyone have any good viewing spots. My kid is fairly robust but a family place or one where we have a chance to sit would be better than the best possible view.
posted by shothotbot at 5:49 AM PST - 5 comments

Sir Tiger and Queen Ingeborg

In Copenhagen, I found a postcard with pictures of two cats. What's the story here? [more inside]
posted by Gordafarin at 5:37 AM PST - 6 comments

What was on Debbie Ocean's checklist?

In Ocean's 8, Debbie (Sandra Bullock) has a handwritten checklist that she is protective of. It was never on screen long enough for me to decipher it; but all the items wind up crossed off by the end of the film. A friend said it was mnemonic devices; I said, it's a list of all the cons that comprise the entire caper from start to finish. Googling has not been fruitful. What is this list??
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 4:14 AM PST - 8 comments

July 3

Feed my kitten from my fridge

My dog ate all the cat food. I am not able to get to the store tomorrow because I work all day and the grocery store closes early, but I’m sure she’ll be hungry. Potential kitten-friendly foods that I have: rotisserie chicken, eggs, milk, half and half, yogurt, rice. What should I feed her to tide her over until tomorrow? She is about 3 months old.
posted by Grandysaur at 11:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Is there evidence that Postcards to Voters works?

I've looked at the Postcards to Voters website, and its results section only seems to show election results for races they've targeted - and of course correlation isn't causation. How do we know this is a useful way to spend our energy? [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 11:02 PM PST - 16 comments

More Stories like So Much Cooking

So Much Cooking is gentle and kind, about people being good to each other, and I want more stories like it. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 9:48 PM PST - 18 comments

How do people go about starting their own businesses?

Alright, so first off I already have a plan, I have partner, that just like me doesn't want to spend his time working for someone else. We want to make our own money. However, we don't know much and I'm not really sure where you learn this stuff. I am sure though, that the only way to learn is to do it. I'm a software engineer, he's a lawyer, he's got the contacts, I have the leadership skills. Nonetheless, I feel like we need more people, in my opinion we need another engineer besides me, a UI/UX designer and someone who's good with money, logistics and financing so that he or she can keep us from blowing all our money. I'm not sure where I'd find those people. I'm not sure how I will find clients, though me and my lawyer friend had some ideas but we're just making it up as we go along. I'm not sure if that's the best way of doing this. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 8:25 PM PST - 25 comments

Science plaything identification

Asking for a relative: Anyone know what this thing is called or better know where to buy one? Apparently "the water spouts out when it warms up". [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 8:17 PM PST - 4 comments

How worried should I be about my hard drive?

I have a ThinkPad. I regularly run the diagnostic tool from Lenovo to check on the system health of the machine. Today, even though it said it got a 100% pass, the check gave me yellow warning indicators on the Smart Short Self Test and the Smart Drive Self Test. So what does this mean? Is a hard disk failure next? [more inside]
posted by sardonyx at 7:42 PM PST - 13 comments

Touristing in Los Angeles - Do we need a car to get around?

We are having a brief stay in Los Angeles and wondering what our best transportation options are for getting out and about. [more inside]
posted by liquorice at 7:39 PM PST - 18 comments

Gaining confidence after sheltered childhood

I’m seeking resources (books, blogs, articles) and advice for developing confidence after being raised by anxious, over-cautious parents. [more inside]
posted by delight at 6:18 PM PST - 10 comments

how tired is this tire?

I backed out and pinched my tire against a curb. The curb bit back. Is it totally borked? Pic
posted by Dashy at 5:25 PM PST - 14 comments

internet fame for kids

My eight-year-old son desperately wants to be a “youtuber” whereas I, boring mother, would like to see YouTube razed to the ground. What’s our happy medium? [more inside]
posted by logic vs love at 4:32 PM PST - 16 comments

iPhone Photo Restoration After Deletion

Is it possible to restore iPhone photos after they have been deleted and the Recently Deleted folder is cleared? Or can photos that are texted to someone but turned blurry when saved on their iPhone be cleaned up? [more inside]
posted by Parasite Unseen at 3:02 PM PST - 7 comments

SFO to Yountville - How's my driving?

I will be travelling alone to Yountville via SFO (and back again) and I was thinking about renting a car.... tell me this is a good and safe idea? [more inside]
posted by alchemist at 2:14 PM PST - 22 comments

California clear-cut logging missed a spot

Why do loggers in California seem to always leave a few bunches of trees standing? I noticed this common pattern while flying over Northern California where every logged section has 3-4 clumps of trees left standing. In Washington and Oregon, absolutely everything gets cut down within a section.
posted by Diddly at 1:53 PM PST - 6 comments

Legal precedent for corporation being sued for SHARING Facebook video?

Media law question! Is there any precedent for a corporation being sued for SHARING a licensed video on Facebook (not publishing it, it but sharing it from another account that published it?). [more inside]
posted by Jennifer S. at 1:51 PM PST - 2 comments

What happens when my car lease is done?

2.5 years ago I leased an all-electric VW Golf. I had a short commute, a brand new baby, and a partner with a hybrid that would bail me out of a charging emergency. Now my lease ends later this year, I still have a short commute, the baby is a toddler and the same partner has the same hybrid ... what next? [more inside]
posted by vunder at 1:30 PM PST - 5 comments

King Charles Cavalier - TPLO surgery?

My dog is about 8 years old and started limping on her hind leg about 2 months ago. At first the vet thought it was arthritis in her knee, but after a period of time she was re diagnosed as having a torn cranial cruciate ligament. [more inside]
posted by OrangeGloves at 1:23 PM PST - 7 comments

On the road van/work life

My boyfriend and I are looking to buy a van and live on the road for the next 6 months to a year. He sells vintage clothes for a living, and I currently work as an HR Coordinator for a University in Virginia. I’d like to have some sort of stable income, although we will be traveling while he looks for vintage clothing to resell, which will also bring in an income. My question is: What is a way for me to have a part or full time telecommuting job while traveling and living on the road. [more inside]
posted by vintagequeen at 1:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Remote team retreat ideas?

We have an all-remote, all-part-time-intermittent consultant team of about 30, mostly west coast USA. We are brainstorming what a 2-4 day team retreat might look like in some coming fall or spring. Open to any ideas and trying to get a ballpark on costs and considerations. And gather potential destinations, retreat resources, creative feeding ideas, etc. More than anything else, the goal would be team building, bonding and just generally getting to know one another. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 12:51 PM PST - 11 comments

Need a new sweat resistant mp3 player

Unfortunately, the one I've been using and love, the lightweight, simple to use, and cheap 8 gig SanDisk Sansa Clip Zip, has been retired, but more importantly, my 4th one has died, and I'm pretty sure it's always because of sweat gumming up the works while running in the heat. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 11:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Explain moving/relocation like an adult to me, please.

I'm currently in LA. I just received a job offer in San Jose. I haven't moved in five years, and then I did it mostly myself. This time around, I have lots more stuff, and money, but no time. [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 11:29 AM PST - 15 comments

Trouble creating an account on Daily Intelligencer (New York Magazine)

Any people here who have successfully created an online account (for commenting) on New York Magazine's Daily Intelligencer? I'm finding it impossible, and yet there are plenty of other members/commenters there, so there must be something I'm missing? [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 10:55 AM PST - 2 comments

Please recommend me an alternative to Google Maps on Android?

I've been using the Here Maps feature on my Microsoft phone for years and it has proved invaluable. Whether in Central London or a rural back road in Portugal it has always given me an accurate positioning. Brilliant technology. However, the same cannot be said of Google Maps on my Android phone. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 10:10 AM PST - 11 comments

So, uhm, vitiligo I guess?

My dermatologist (PA) just told me I probably have vitiligo around my eye with hyper pigmentation of course perfectly on the high part of my cheekbone. What worked for you to camouflage this type issue? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 9:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Songs with syncopated clapping?

I'm looking for songs in pretty much any genre that include syncopating clapping or a similar sound. [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 9:31 AM PST - 75 comments

Finding a transcript/article of an African American man interviewed

I’m trying to find an article that I’m pretty sure I read in a magazine which was a transcript of a notable African American man who was being interviewed/questioned. More behind the jump. [more inside]
posted by mulkey at 9:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Safest affordable way to move from Toronto to Vancouver?

We're moving our largish 1 bedroom apartment's worth of stuff (furniture, dishes, books, decor) at the end of August. Our first pick would be to hire a moving company. But is there any reputable moving company under the sun? Every company has a slew of horror stories: broken and lost stuff, extortionist price hikes or inflated weight claims, massive delays. Do you know of any affordable company that can be trusted, or a company that's pricier but more reliable? Or, would it be best to just do the packing, driving, and gas-buying ourselves in a UHaul?
posted by Beardman at 8:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Where do I look that up, Visual Studio edition?

In a statement like this: var r = c.EnumerateColumns().Select(v => v.PointwiseMultiply(va)); where is the documentation for a statement in the parens following the Select? [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 8:37 AM PST - 5 comments

More shirts like this one?

I stumbled upon this shirt in a 'hippie store', fell in love with it, and bought the other ones the company offers, but could really use a couple more. What I like: 100% cotton, thin light fabric (it looks like a hoodie or a "baja", yes, but the fabric is a light woven gauze that breathes really well), hood, and BIG POCKET. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 8:24 AM PST - 8 comments

And then I stapled the ADA to their forehead...

How do you manage discrimination? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 8:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Is there any research on young adults and Adults co-sleeping together?

I have heard that when young adults and adults sleep together in the same space, it creates a bonding that is not seen if they only spend waking hours together. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 7:32 AM PST - 20 comments

Can/should I get business internet at my home office?

About to move to a new place. Is there any value to getting "business" internet instead of the regular deal? Is this even possible? I do work at home in a dedicated home office, but it's just me and I do nothing bandwidth-intensive for work, and I don't think I can write this expense off in a valid way. I won't have TV channels, will just watch streaming TV. Would paying more (I assume) for a "business" connection get me anything super valuable?
posted by mccxxiii at 7:31 AM PST - 16 comments

Lipstick Dupe

I really love the color of Revlon 665 super luxurious lipstick creme "choco licious" (amazon Walmart random women from the internet) but not only is it discontinued, it's also a smeary mess that disappears the first time I open and close my mouth, even with primer & liner. So I'm looking for a long-wearing dupe. Not looking to buy the discontinued lipstick itself--looking for the color in a lipstick that wears well. [more inside]
posted by crush at 6:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Did I imagine the ending I remembered for eXistenZ?

I just re-watched David Cronenberg's eXistenZ (1999) and I am having a bit of an existential crisis. The part I remembered most clearly about the movie was the ending, but now I can find no evidence that this ending ever actually existed. Massive spoilers within. [more inside]
posted by the turtle's teeth at 5:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Workplace Bully about to become my boss, help

There's a person in a senior position in my organization who has been moved around for years because he's bully, he harasses women in particular, yells and abused contractors and is overall a nasty person. [more inside]
posted by SanSebastien at 5:39 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I hire hackers for an event?

I've proposed to one of my clients - a financial company - that we hold an event at which a number of hackers will within a short period of time (e.g. a few hours) see how much information they can gather about my client's company. Now I need to see if it's really possible. Specific details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by bassomatic at 5:23 AM PST - 16 comments

With these skills, what am I worth?

I prepare academic texts for publishing. I've done it professionally for 15 years with an International Journal and over 20 textbooks. But am I being paid fairly? [more inside]
posted by b33j at 1:27 AM PST - 6 comments

July 2

Best pregnancy tracking app?

I'm very newly pregnant (5 weeks)! I would like an app to track things and teach me things about each stage of fetal development on my iphone. Can you please tell me which one to use? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Ethics and relationship age differences

I have a strong crush on a 17-year-old who I know through the internet, and I am trying to figure out if it would be okay for me to ask them out when they turn 18 in a few months. (I'm 25.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:08 PM PST - 56 comments

How not to smell like a tire when you do, in fact, smell like a tire

My hair smells like black tar because I just used a new shampoo containing black tar. No matter how much perfume, leave in conditioner, and dry conditioner I try to soak my locks in, the result is the same: all I smell is wet asphalt. On me. All over. What do I need to bathe in to rid myself of this horrible mistake?
posted by Hermione Granger at 10:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Where's our perfect near-NYC hike for 4th of July?

We're looking to take public transportation from NYC to a magical place where we can hike through a forest to a swimming hole on July 4th. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by vecchio at 8:41 PM PST - 3 comments

cities in sci-fi and fantasy novels

Looking for recommendations of science fiction and fantasy books (or short stories) in which the city settings are central or at least important to the story. Utopias, dystopias, segregated or in space, am looking for all kinds of stories.
posted by spamandkimchi at 8:24 PM PST - 50 comments

Help Me Get Some Perspective

Not usually one to burn a question for relationship issues..... however, need some perspective [more inside]
posted by Gyre,Gimble,Wabe, Esq. at 8:18 PM PST - 17 comments

Why do so many Spanish vocabulary lists omit gender?

Lately I’ve been poking around the Internet for speciality Spanish vocabulary lists. I’ve been able to find what I need but in the process I’ve come across any number of lists that do not include genders for the nouns. As someone learning the language, I’m curious why that might be. I know I can make a good guess at the gender based on the ending of a word, but those are just heuristics— isn’t knowing the actual gender fairly important?
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 6:46 PM PST - 5 comments

What consumer credit counseling agency worked for you?

What consumer credit counseling agency worked for you? How did it change your finances or life? [more inside]
posted by mynameisluka at 6:35 PM PST - 4 comments

My Facebook news feed page is down to two posts

For the past two days my FB news feed has displayed only two posts, and the dropdowns in the dark blue bar at the top (Friend requests, Messenger, etc.) don’t work. [more inside]
posted by Dolley at 6:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to stay between LA + Redwood Forest

Planning a trip that includes driving up the coast from LA to Crescent City, CA to visit the Redwood Forest. Where should I stay along the way? [more inside]
posted by nuclear_soup at 5:58 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there an app for easily making a slideshow that meets my criteria?

In general, I want to feed in a number of photos (say 150) and have the slideshow be a specific length of time (say 110 seconds). [more inside]
posted by 1001 questions at 5:34 PM PST - 4 comments

La Fortuna/Arenal Costa Rica – Best Lodging for Us?

My sister and I are going to Costa Rica in mid-February 2019 and plan to stay 4-5 nights in the Arenal Volcano area. I am overwhelmed with trying to choose lodging. [more inside]
posted by ITravelMontana at 4:58 PM PST - 3 comments

Help Your Granny Set Up A Stereo System - Home Electronics

My needs are not fancy, but are kind of specific. I'm trying to figure out what stereo components I need to buy in order to make my mp3 player operate like a home stereo -- the trick is that I really don't want to use the headphone jack to attach it to the sound system. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 4:16 PM PST - 13 comments

Show Me Your Dark Arts: Front Load Washer Edition

What techniques and tricks do you employ to not have your front load washer decide to flee your abode? Heck, what are your superior techniques to washing clothes, in general? What about line drying? [more inside]
posted by jadepearl at 4:04 PM PST - 13 comments

how to take medication when im visiting the usa?

I'm trans and doing the hormone thing. In my non-USA country, I'm prescribed a medication (Decapeptyl) in the form of an intramuscular injection I receive once every three months. The date is coming around and it looks like I will be visiting the USA when my injection is due. Would I be able to carry the Decapeptyl in my bag into the US through security and customs without any problems? In San Francisco, how could I find someone qualified to administer the injection? Is this a service that hospitals offer? How much would it cost me?
posted by the list of suspects is just you at 3:56 PM PST - 10 comments

Give me stories about failure!

My search can be summed up in this tweet thread. [more inside]
posted by hot_monster at 3:47 PM PST - 15 comments

Installing SSD to replace boot drive

I am currently running Win 7 Home on my elderly Dell, on its original hard disk. I installed a second drive, an SSD, which is currently just hanging out, no OS, but recognised by Device Manager as an ATA device. What I want ultimately is that the SSD should be the Windows/boot drive, and the original hard disk to just be secondary storage. A friend has advised me to simply reinstall WIn 7 on the new SSD. [more inside]
posted by mannyfeefees at 3:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Please help me find an ironic internet video

I saw a humorous video on twitter (about 50 seconds long) in the last few weeks in which a gentleman addresses the camera in a New York accent, praises what he deems to be classic New York establishments like Starbucks and CVS, then samples the goods from the establishments and is very satisfied. Are you familiar with this video? My google-fu has failed me. [more inside]
posted by Hume at 3:31 PM PST - 2 comments

More books like High Maintenance by Jennifer Belle?

My friend needs a novel to read that's funny along the lines of Jennifer Belle's High Maintenance. In the past I have suggested Crazy Rich Asians for her, and I just sent her The Good House By Ann Leary because it has a sort of "Wow this is so messed up" feeling on almost every page. But it's not as weirdly funny at Jennifer Belle's stuff. Any fans of Belle have other authors you are similarly fond of? Thanks!
posted by BibiRose at 3:20 PM PST - 3 comments

Is there a car that is Just Right?

We have always had two cars but could condense to one car, if only we could find one that ticks both of our lists. My car all along has been a 1994 Mazda Miata with a manual transmission. It's been a lot of fun to drive, but is really the "second car". Mr. DrGail has had a succession of Asian compact sedans as our primary vehicle, mostly Hondas. His current car is a Mazda3 at the top trim level. Is there a car out there that we would both love? [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 3:10 PM PST - 18 comments

Recommendations for a quiet desktop computer that can run games?

It's become clear that it's time to replace my laptop. I'd prefer a windows desktop that can run a few games, but I'm hoping to find something with a quiet or silent fan. I'm completely out of my depth - are there any recommendations?
posted by korej at 2:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Need help with iPhone swappage

Please help me swap my iPhone 6+ for an iPhone 7+ [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 2:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Moldy pothos

I’ve got some pothos that lives in water. I’ve just returned from ten days away, and I’ve found that it’s covered in mold. I tried wiping off the mold and putting it in fresh water, but a day later the mold is just as prominent. How do I make this pothos happy again?
posted by ocherdraco at 2:32 PM PST - 5 comments

I sneezed and hurt my hip, what to do?

I was packing for a trip yesterday. I was twisting my body while placing a book on my bed and I sneezed violently (Manchester fires, air pollution), which threw my hip out of whack—I felt a pop and my leg went numb. I laid on my back for an hour and then powered through. I’m now in Menorca and things have gotten much worse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:11 PM PST - 11 comments

#dadfail

I ordered a temporary "fast set" above ground pool that is supposed to be here tomorrow. It's 12' in diameter, holds about 1500 gallons and is 24" deep. My kid has been looking forward to it. Thing is, when checking how close I am legally allowed to put it to my house, I found that my particular town requires a building permit and inspection process. (For an inflatable, $59 pool!) Is there another pool I can get in time that will be legal but not be so small as to be obnoxious? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 2:06 PM PST - 8 comments

How do non-disclosure agreements work in the entertainment industry?

How do non-disclosure agreements work in the entertainment industry? Who has to sign them? What are the consequences of breaking them? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 1:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Remastering: is the tape too old?

I have a reel to reel tape from a recording my band made in 2002. We never got the record properly mastered, and this tape was never used. Is it too old to use for remastering? [more inside]
posted by degoao at 1:37 PM PST - 5 comments

Why do my Chromebooks keep losing their OS and what can I do about it?

I've owned three Chromebooks (original Pixel and two Pixel LS). Each has eventually given me this error: "Chrome OS is missing or damaged. Please insert a recovery USB stick or SD card," and a url with instructions. Following the instructions never works and the machine is useless. Why does this keep happening and what can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 12:44 PM PST - 3 comments

What are all the cities that have Occupy ICE protests?

I am curious how many cities have started Occupy ICE protests. Any links to social media are appreciated. [more inside]
posted by davidstandaford at 12:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Wood projects from tree?

I'm having a large liquidamber tree removed, and I was thinking of asking the tree guys to leave me some of the trunk, to make into a little table or something. What else can I do with it? Is this a terrible idea?
posted by lemonade at 12:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Is it quite bad for a divorced dad to prioritize me over his kid + ex?

I’ve been going out with a man for a few weeks. He’s divorced with a child. He was late for a visit with his kid after hanging out with me. It bothered me! Is my reasoning on point? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 11:17 AM PST - 48 comments

Spoilers for the Fifth Season by NK Jemisin

I'd like to know the Kindle location for where a certain very upsetting thing happens in The Fifth Season. Major spoiler inside. [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 10:48 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I get in touch with clients as a life coach?

I have decided to take the plunge (who can tell another what to do) and do it. I.e. become a life coach, that odd profession that is not quite therapy but also not not (no offense to my medical brethren, please). My background is in schools where people all naturally meet each other. Because of this, it isn't so easy - not like just putting up a profile on Psychology Today. Where do people go nowadays? Life coaching forums? Clearly MY strengths lie less in predicting market trends than emotional understanding, training and development and so perhaps YOU metafilter could coach me through it. [more inside]
posted by karmachameleon at 10:02 AM PST - 8 comments

Voyage au centre de la prairie

Where in Chicago can I get my car underground as cheaply as possible? [more inside]
posted by theodolite at 9:46 AM PST - 11 comments

Ongoing home networking saga. Further help on ethernet, routers, WiFi...

House is finally being wired with ethernet cables to multiple rooms. A patch panel and gigabit switch will be installed. Now I need help fully understand the order in which/how things should be connected to other things. Involves, switches, access points, routers, etc. This started with my question from last week here: https://ask.metafilter.com/323673/A-whole-bunch-of-home-networking-questions I have a low-voltage installation scheduled for next Monday. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 9:36 AM PST - 13 comments

Drawers (or other way to sort small stuff) in ikea Expedit/Kallax shelf?

Is there a way to get four or more drawers into a single ikea Expedit shelf cubby? (13.25” W x 13.25” H x 15.25” D) [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 9:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Switch Daily Coffee to Daily Tea

I want to swap my coffee habit for a tea habit, for my teeth, my gut, and my anxiety. I drink an aeropress every morning and a cup or two of drip at the office. I've got instant hot water at my office. I'm looking for recommendations on teas to drink that would be super delightful. I like strong, malty beverages, and also herbal flavors - not a fan of fruit or artificial flavors in my teas. Thanks!
posted by rebent at 9:06 AM PST - 36 comments

When a BPD person has a serious physical illness

My mom, who has unofficially diagnosed but very obvious borderline personality disorder, very likely has breast cancer. How can I stay appropriately detached but empathetic? [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount at 6:44 AM PST - 10 comments

North Carolina Police Dash Cam Footage

Yesterday, I was issued a citation by a police officer in Matthews, NC. He claims he has footage of me running a stop sign. I didn't, but that is besides the point. Does anyone know what it takes for a citizen to view this footage in North Carolina?
posted by zzazazz at 6:42 AM PST - 8 comments

I need a side of beans with my beans

Movie poster suggestions solicited for college advisor office. [more inside]
posted by joycehealy at 6:15 AM PST - 5 comments

How to fatigue

Have made multiple attempts to address fatigue which has lasted over a year. So far nothing is helping. What do I do next? [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 6:06 AM PST - 21 comments

What are the plants that populate NYC Collyer Bros Park?

These are images of the park in question. Anybody know: what kind of trees are those? what kind of bushes that sort of border the fence? what green and yellow plant with big leaves is in the planter next to the bench? Oh ye of botanical knowledge, I crave your wisdom. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 5:22 AM PST - 8 comments

No, the sell-by date is *next* week!

It's really hot here in Britain at present. Food is going off faster than it really should, well within the best-before dates, whether it's in the fridge or not. How do I deal with this and avoid any more wastage? [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 3:43 AM PST - 21 comments

Mansplaining: Friend Edition

When the man is both your closest friend *and* your new colleague. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:20 AM PST - 38 comments

What to expect at a masturbation club?

Please share some pro-tips and expectations for a first-time visit to an all-male masturbation club. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Doing my research before taking the plunge — travel version

What are the chances that traveling to a country now as a tourist will hurt my chances later if I move there permanently? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Sarah Paulsen's hair looks from Ocean's 8

Ocean's 8 has a lot of look I'm dying to recreate, but Tammy (Sarah Paulsen) is my personal #hairgoals out of the eight. I'm looking for tutorials for her updo during the Met Gala, but I don't know how to search for it. Unfortunately I can't find any movie stills that has her look to link to, but if anyone can help, that would so appreciated. Thank you!
posted by cendawanita at 1:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Towering Tarot in Tuscany

I want to go to the Tarot Garden-- il giardino dei Tarrochi -- on a day trip from Rome next week. Difficulty: We will NOT rent a car. [more inside]
posted by nantucket at 12:16 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I fix my living room’s smell?

My living room has had a certain smell since we first bought the house 1 year ago. I feel it’s getting worse (although it could be in my head). It doesn’t smell anywhere else in the house. How do I find out the source of the odor? [more inside]
posted by samthemander at 12:08 AM PST - 24 comments

July 1

Joan Jett as Carnivalesque Magician in WicDiv

I rebooted my Pinterest boards to reflect my updated tastes, especially in fashion. Help me find some places to look for inspiration to add to my board! [more inside]
posted by divabat at 11:40 PM PST - 1 comment

Where do you go to get authentic political discussion?

Where does one go, on the internet or other, to find authentic political discussion? Specifically, philosophical ideological discussion. More principles, power, and morality; and less politicians, party, and policy. [more inside]
posted by schemaphi at 9:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Vehicle game app for a 4 year old, and PC game for a 7 year old

Looking for non-violent , entertaining and at-least-a-little educational electronic games for my kids. An alternative to the approx half hour of shows they watch per day. The 4 year old loves vehicles/police trucks / fire rescue, and doesn’t like things that are explicitly academic, but I thInk could be persuaded to play some kind of matching game (esp if it involves said vehicles). The 7 year old likes simple video games like those found on pbs.org. I like them too because they are innocent, non-gender-oriented and have a variety of options. Anything you recommend? Thanks! Ideally they can be played independently and with minimal adult supervision (so, no commercials or opportunities to spend money). Thanks!!
posted by leslievictoria at 9:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Water condensing on pipes before reaching HVAC evaporator coils?

I just had a new heat pump installed up on the roof of my building and have cold air again! Hooray! However, while changing the filter I notice there is water condensation near the evaporator coil in the ceiling bit inside my apartment... and it doesn't all fall into the drain pain. Is the drain pain simply misaligned somehow? Here are two pics to give an idea of whats going on. I'm sure I'll have someone out to look at the evaporator coil but if anyone has guidance on what to expect, that would be excellent..
posted by Justinian at 8:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Should concerns about the economy stop us from buying a house?

My partner and I think we're ready to purchase a home. Everything's lining up and we feel pretty good about the decision, except for, well...Trump. And trade wars. [more inside]
posted by waffleriot at 8:24 PM PST - 13 comments

Siri, stop disappearing in the middle of helping me

I got a car on Friday with Apple Car Play and I noticed this when I rented a similar car a few weeks ago. When I want to ask Siri to do something like send a text or find me directions to a local business I have to try several times and sometimes it just doesn’t work. For instance, [more inside]
posted by bleep at 7:58 PM PST - 6 comments

Long Way to a Small Angry Planet content?

So my 9-year-old found The Long Way to a Small Angry Planet on his kindle fire b/c I downloaded it to my kindle paperwhite to read this summer but I haven't gotten to it yet and he saw it downloadable on his carousel. How is this content going to be for a 9-year-old? Is this fine, or do I need to delete it and pretend there was a file glitch?
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:35 PM PST - 19 comments

Forgotten book title

I am trying to remember the name of this philosophical short story I once read. If I recall correctly, it starts with a character with zero senses. Eventually he is born into a new world where he has a sense of touch and is piled on top of others just like him and can only feel their bodies. I believe that he slowly advances, gaining hearing and eventually sight. Does this ring a bell at all?
posted by ZackTM at 6:48 PM PST - 2 comments

Is there a reliable list of songs recorded at Motown Hitsville Studio A?

We are visiting Detroit in a few weeks and touring the Motown Museum (yay!) I want to make a playlist of stuff that was recorded on site in Studio A, but Google/Wikipeida fails me with a reliable list. Is there anything more definitive out there? [more inside]
posted by AgentRocket at 6:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Please dress me in "Lite Cocktail"

My cousin got married! Yay! Her wedding reception is requesting a dress code of "lite cocktail". I am completely stumped! [more inside]
posted by theBigRedKittyPurrs at 4:04 PM PST - 23 comments

How do I preserve this documentary film without breaking the law?

I volunteer with a local chapter of a national organization. We have in our possession a short documentary film that was made by one of our volunteers in the 1980s, beautifully documenting a project we worked on on local public lands. The filmmaker, a professional cinematographer, shot and produced this film as a labor of love and a gift to our organization. Until now it's only been shared among a small number of people directly associated with our activity. The person who produced the work passed away in 2010. [more inside]
posted by gin and biscuits at 3:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Further reading on self-organized systems and other ideas

About 10 years ago I had a terrific train of though going, following one book to the next. I'd like to pick up that train again, and need some book recommendations. [more inside]
posted by argybarg at 2:51 PM PST - 12 comments

Is this normal for a physical therapist?

I had my first physical therapy appt. for my knee last week and have some questions about appropriate/inappropriate PT actions. [more inside]
posted by trillian at 2:50 PM PST - 23 comments

When scary things happen, look for the helpers

Feeling discouraged about the state of the world / politics. I need some words of encouragement - books, blogs, personal stories. Help me dust myself off and keep trying to make the world suck less. [more inside]
posted by M. at 1:33 PM PST - 15 comments

Gardening stuff to spark joy

I need a new watering can, and a new thing for winding the garden hose onto. Anything interesting out there? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 1:25 PM PST - 11 comments

making peace with my body in NYC

I'd like to take up a new activity when I move to NYC next month for a new job. I'd like to engage with, become more conscious of, and generally make peace with my body through this activity. I'd like to avoid situations where gender stereotypes are intensified. Ideas, please! [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 1:19 PM PST - 21 comments

Abolish ICE 101

Are there any resources akin to an AbolishICE or immigration reform or undocumented advocacy 101? Ideally just FAQ style point-counterpoint? Do any advocacy orgs or write-ups offer this? [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns at 1:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Internship into interviews

Just recent finished an Internship with a large tech company, with no real position available in the area I was working. Any advises on how to get interview elsewhere in the company? Or other companys? [more inside]
posted by bigbadbehr at 12:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Should I go?

I just found out there is a company meeting tomorrow and I am wondering if I should re-arrange travel to get there. [more inside]
posted by treetop89 at 11:18 AM PST - 24 comments

Weird to invite board members?

I recently moved into a co op and it's, quite frankly, perfect. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 10:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Stress-induced body pain and hypoarousal

I'm in the process of a very difficult change right now. I'm doing very well, but I'm noticing some stress responses I'd like to improve. I'm having lots of pain in my neck/shoulder/back, and I'm also feeling hypo-aroused often (feeling lethargic, zoning out for ages, etc.). Here's what I'm already trying. I know you're not my doctor, therapist, etc. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 10:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Pro-Choice Support In Under Represented Areas

With Kennedy leaving SCOTUS and the threat to Roe v. Wade, I want to financially support the small rural organizations who are in the trenches providing emotional, logistical and financial support in underrepresented areas. ( Midwest, South, etc.) All suggestions will be an ppreciated
posted by goalyeehah at 10:04 AM PST - 12 comments

understanding modem speed

I have a year-old cable modem/router. It has the latest technology and is a dual band. It has 4 wired ports as well. I have about 60Mbps download speed. I am trying to understand if it makes any difference in reaching that limit whether the devices are connected wirelessly (usually only my phone) or wired. The wired devices include the PC, PS4, Roku. These devices are rarely on at the same time.
posted by jtexman1 at 8:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Overcake: how long will 238 pieces of cake last?

Because of severely over-enthusiastic baking by several members of a local village church before an event today, yadda yadda yadda I have 238 pieces of cake in my fridge. It is ferociously hot here in rural England. Here's one of the tupperware containers of cake that currently line my fridge shelves. There is a variety of fruit cakes, ginger cakes, iced cakes, scones etc, all hewn into pieces of similar size. While I figure out what next, how long will they keep, and can I extend their life? I do not have access to a reliable freezer.
posted by Wordshore at 8:42 AM PST - 17 comments

Coworker conflict. Do I try to sort it out, or do I simply leave?

I have a coworker that we’ll call Jane. Jane and I have never really gotten along too well, but somehow we found ourselves romantically interested in one another for a couple months. Now that it’s ended, I feel extremely uncomfortable working with this person and don’t know what to do about our situation. [more inside]
posted by omgkinky at 8:39 AM PST - 11 comments

Curry Paste Recommendations

My local Thai restaurant makes a mean Panang curry, but when I try to make it at home - using Mae Ploy Panang curry paste - it's way off base. I have no idea if it's me or the paste, but either way, please let me know your recommendations for good curry pastes - from any Asian region!
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 7:53 AM PST - 8 comments

What Vivaldi was this?

Within the last few years I heard a report on the radio about a chamber music ensemble that was radically reinterpreting Vivaldi. I think their premise was that he originally intended his compositions to be played with greater latitude in tempos, and with more improvisation. The samples played in the report were almost unrecognizable as Vivaldi. What group was this? [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 7:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Name of Kenyan Classical Orchestra or Choir?

I've been listening to an Italian classical radio station ("Radio Classica") which plays a lot of diverse, interesting music. Unfortunately, they don't publish a playlist (that I could find) and all of the talk is in Italian. They had a choir singing what sounded like a Christian Mass and I'm 90% sure they were from Kenya. Would anyone have an idea of what group it might have been?
posted by Jon44 at 5:02 AM PST - 2 comments

Straw poll: what to with the next few months of my life?

It's been a terrible 4 years and I'm burnt out. On top of a lot of other things (caregiving for people with cancer; dad dying; big breakup; lots of upheaval) I recently abruptly lost my one big client, and I'm having trouble finding new work. I'm considering handing the notice in on my expensive flat and living out of a backpack for 2/3 months, while trying to work remotely. However, I worry this will burn me out even more. I'm already panicked that I have no money coming in. Plus I've started seeing someone. I'd love help on making a decision when my brain feels tired. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 4:14 AM PST - 18 comments

Hills (& other spaces) for contemplation (esp. late-night) in London

I think I need to find spaces in London to sit, exist and contemplate - places that would be free to access and have somewhere to sit. Ideally places slightly removed from the hustle and bustle of humanity, and places I'd be able to access at night as well as during the day. Any ideas? More inside. [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 4:01 AM PST - 8 comments

life planning/personal growth/self exploration exercises?

What are some good exercises that can help me figure that out what I want to do with my life? I could go a lot of directions at this particular juncture in my life and I am finding myself paralyzed with ambivalence that comes from an abundance of choices and some definite depression (getting help with that!). Can you think of any life planning exercises that might help me get on with my thinking and maybe help me excite myself out of this rut?
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 9 comments