May 2018 Archives

May 31

Need help in interpreting the "Check Engine" codes for a Kia Rio

I have a 2008 Kia Rio. It failed inspection because of the "Check Engine" light. My Google-fu is failing me in diagnosing the exact problem. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 8:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Life after micromanagement

I'm having trouble making decisions and having opinions now that someone actually wants me to. This is bad. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 8:22 PM PST - 10 comments

Is job hunting with a PhD -really- that bad?

The time has come. I'm nearing the end of my PhD, am definitely at the end of my funding, and need to look for work. I don't want to stay in academia. I've heard a lot about hiring managers bypassing PhDs but is this actually the case? [more inside]
posted by thebots at 8:01 PM PST - 14 comments

New song with an old refrain, a deep male voice "shoop-a-doop..."

It sounded a lot like "The Book of Love." The lead singer was a male vocalist, much higher, who was doing a very credible Roackbilly, I heard it at the Old Navy when I was buying shoes, and not pretending their canvas sneaks are the most comfy on the planet for old 90's dudes. Nope.
posted by Slap*Happy at 7:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Pun Me Up, Scotty!

I'm participating in a Dad Joke Battle Fundraiser for a school group this weekend. I've been well prepared for the traditional read-a-joke version by my grandfathers, father, many uncles, and most recently even my husband. But, there's a long form portion to the evening for which I will need to tell a dad joke longer than four sentences! What is your best and can you give it to me, Dads of Metafilter?
posted by zizzle at 7:54 PM PST - 20 comments

Back to work - for a while - after birth of a preemie.

My husband and I had our baby at just 28 weeks gestation via emergency c-section on May 21. Now I've been discharged, he's going to be in the NICU for a while, and I'd like to go back to work, on a limited basis, until he's home. How do I set expectations with my co-workers, clients, etc. during my return, knowing that I'll be back on leave in a few months? [more inside]
posted by Coffeemate at 7:43 PM PST - 7 comments

Songs with factual errors in them?

Toto's "Africa" refers to Mount Kilimanjaro rising above the Serengeti, but the mountain isn't actually in that geographic area. Chicago's song "Saturday in the Park" has a line that's supposed to be someone singing in Italian, but it's actually made-up Italian-sounding gibberish. What other songs have factual mistakes and errors in them?
posted by cadge at 7:34 PM PST - 90 comments

Why has my Google Site been suspended and what happens next?

I set up a Google Site about a year ago or so for a small university research project. It was fine yesterday. It is suspended today (of course the day I have to give a short presentation about our work, but I can work around that.) I can't see how we are violating the terms.... [more inside]
posted by Gotanda at 6:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Earliest persistent arcade high score list?

When coin-op arcade games first started featuring high score lists, they didn't have any sort of writable media, and so the high scores were simply kept in volatile memory, to disappear when the machine was turned off. When did this change? What was the first arcade machine to write scores to something more durable than RAM, and when did it become common?
posted by baf at 6:44 PM PST - 10 comments

Swedish death cleaning from a distance

I am helping my parents downsize their possessions after moving. Have you worked with estate liquidators or antiques auctioneers in St. Louis, MO that you recommend? What was the process like? [more inside]
posted by Liesl at 6:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Help make our trip to Europe amazing, Toledo, Spain edition

Our family will be spending two nights in Toledo, Spain in July. We're traveling with kids (10 & 12), so our plan is for a mostly low-key trip filled with lazily exploring the city. But we're also looking for other unique or special experiences we could do as a family that would really make our trip special. [more inside]
posted by quantum at 5:37 PM PST - 1 comment

Chuck, you sly dog...

I've got ~5# of ~1" cubed chuck that I need to eat (or freeze) by dinner tomorrow. What should I make? Serves 4 (w/leftovers). [more inside]
posted by TigerMoth at 5:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Best Carry On Bag?

What is the best carry on bag for air travel? [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 12:49 PM PST - 53 comments

Tomato Bread in Barcelona

We are looking for the best tomato bread in or near El Born. [more inside]
posted by molla at 12:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Easy flower bed recommendations

I recently pulled up some bushes from my front yard and have a blank flower bed about 15 feet by 5 feet. I'm looking for the easiest, low maintenance and cheap plants that will look nice and live. [more inside]
posted by roaring beast at 12:41 PM PST - 13 comments

How does America's Test Kitchen decide how to run taste tests?

America's Test Kitchen's taste tests are awesome, but have they ever explained how they decide to conduct their tests? For instance, in their most recent test of vanilla extract, they say that "vanilla experts" taste it in milk, and they also tasted it in pudding. Seems pretty straightforward. But in an older test, they tasted it in panna cotta. Why panna cotta? That's just one example—curious more generally about their choices, and particularly if Jack Bishop has ever discussed this topic in any detail.
posted by DavidNYC at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments

The lights will flicker on and off...

Whenever I'm really tired (like I've been up all day), my eyesight flickers when I blink. Kind of like when the power acts up and the lights flicker in a room. But with whatever I'm looking at. What the hell is that? Is it my brain being tired, or my eyes being tired? Is there a name for this phenomenon? I'm 23 and have astigmatism treated with glasses. I just find it weird and am curious.
posted by starlybri at 12:38 PM PST - 11 comments

I don't have to give you my name!

Is there ever any advantage to refusing to identify yourself to a police officer? [more inside]
posted by Gnella at 12:37 PM PST - 28 comments

Insurance company runaround in Canada. Advice please.

My mom visited the US in December 2017 and had a fall while there. She was treated at hospital and gave them the insurance info. When she returned to Canada, she sent the claim forms to the insurance company. The claim is still not processed. I would like to know if filing a complaint to the BBB is appropriate, and if not, what else I can do to make sure that the company processes the claim and pays the bill ($4000 USD). It is stressing all of us out, especially my mom. Background info inside. [more inside]
posted by methroach at 12:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Casual English to Japanese translation with quick turnaround?

I'm sending a letter to Japan on Friday around 3PM (EDT). It'll likely be fewer than 250 words of English, and I'd like to get it translated into Japanese. However, I won't be able to finish the letter until later tonight (around 4 to 5 hours after the time of posting). Are there any services/translators out there that can finish a translation within this time frame? At the very latest I'd need to send the letter by noon (EDT) Saturday. [more inside]
posted by brieche at 12:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me get through the next few days, please

My husband told me today that he wants to end our nearly 30-year marriage. The timing and circumstances of this, and the way he did it, couldn't be more devastating. I will lose not only my husband but nearly every other good thing in my life. I feel like I'm having a breakdown. I'm gripped with fear and panic, pacing the floor, can't eat, can't sleep, running to the bathroom. Can you please give me some practical advice and words of wisdom for just making it through this week?
posted by johannsebastianbachpuppet at 12:09 PM PST - 29 comments

My employer eliminated my dept today. What do I do now?

I’ve worked at the same company for 18 years. Today my team of 7, including my direct supervisor, was told that our dept—and our specific positions—are being eliminated. I am in shock and literally have no idea what to do next. [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 12:02 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me remember/attribute a quote about fascism and chess

Sometime in the last couple years, somewhere on the internet (likely on MetaFilter but maybe not) I read something which I'll paraphrase here: "Fascists use the same strategy for 3-dimensional chess as any other game; if their opponent reaches a hand toward the board, they smash it with a truncheon." I don't know if the context I saw it in was as a quote from some other medium or an original observation, and find myself wanting to quote it but not knowing how to attribute it. Does it ring any bells?
posted by contraption at 11:56 AM PST - 0 comments

In search of: Something's Wrong - Violent Femmes album

I'm looking for an album by Violent Femmes called "Something's Wrong" and I can't find it anywhere. [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me at 11:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me find a song with the lyrics "enjoy the ride... the madness".

This is driving me mad for about a week now. I am not even sure anymore whether the song really exists. I can only remember that the lyrics were something like "enjoy the ride... the madness". Google is no help. So this might not be 100% correct. Giving my taste in music, it is very likely some indie tune. I am grateful for any suggestions.
posted by jfricke at 11:08 AM PST - 1 comment

Show me the money

I am applying and interviewing for other positions in my field. My question is pretty straightforward, however the answer (or your answer) could be anything but. How can an applicant for a job suss out what kind of financial situation, good or bad, that the potential employer is in? [more inside]
posted by strelitzia at 10:53 AM PST - 5 comments

Learning to Play Poker - Total Novice Edition!

What are the best apps or other resources for learning how to play poker, and to use for casual practice? [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 10:49 AM PST - 4 comments

What kind of packaging for family DVDs?

I'm burning some DVDs of family movies that will be bundled in sets of 2 discs. Then I'm mailing them to family. Do you think people would prefer to get the cds in those paper CD envelopes, or in plastic cases? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 10:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Online Teaching... how do I get there?

I've been a creative pro for a long time. Now I'd like to get into teaching online (design, marketing, marketing assistant bootcamp etc). Do you have recommendations on how to go about this? Platforms? [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 9:51 AM PST - 5 comments

Hey kid, wanna buy some eggs?

My company has approximately 80,000 eggs that we need to get rid of as quickly as possible. The eggs are in the Seattle area. I am in Sacramento, and I have been tasked with finding a buyer. This is outside of my area of expertise, and I'm not trying to cold call every super market in the area. How do I go about finding a buyer (or buyers)? Is there a Seattle-area eggBay that I'm not aware of? [more inside]
posted by sacrifix at 8:42 AM PST - 26 comments

Doing bodywork remotely

I'm interested in Egoscue bodywork (working with alignment to relieve chronic pain).However, there's not one near me, so I'd have to do either the web option or the less expensive option involving photos. I'm not sure about doing any bodywork this way--have you tried it? Would you recommend it?
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Bookfilter: Smashing the Patriarchy, Gothic Victorian Style

I love both Fingersmith (and all other Sarah Waters novels--assume I have already read them all) and The Crimson Petal and the White. What should I read next? [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 7:43 AM PST - 7 comments

What to expect from ADHD counseling?

I'm seeking help managing my adult ADHD for the the first time. I've never had any kind of counseling or been formally diagnosed. I'd like to have a clear idea of what to expect to get out of counseling and whether a particular therapist is a good fit. [more inside]
posted by a huckleberry at 7:36 AM PST - 4 comments

Save me from reading books with my phone light

There's a small light fitting next to my bed, which has always been empty since I moved in seven years ago. If you can help me work out what bulb I need to buy, you might save my eyes/battery. Location: London. [more inside]
posted by Gin and Broadband at 7:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Commute-friendly meals

I'm starting my new internship tomorrow, and I'm going to have a two hour commute each way until August. I may need to eat breakfast and potentially dinner during my commute sometimes. I'm limited to odorless “snack-type” foods on the bus. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 7:32 AM PST - 18 comments

Group Activities w/ a screen projector

During the pizza nights that I sometimes host, we sometimes play around on the screen. Usually while eating or the sipping afterwards, we navigate Google maps and show countries we're from, potential vacation spots or sometimes Mars. What are some other fun multimedia group ideas with a projector? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 7:21 AM PST - 13 comments

Why am I still getting brute force login attempts on my Wordpress site?

For a bunch of historical reasons, we currently self-host Wordpress for our corporate site. This confuses me, because I thought I’d taken steps that would make this impossible. [more inside]
posted by uberchet at 7:20 AM PST - 12 comments

What should I expect from health insurance and a registered dietician ?

I went to see an registered dietician today because I need to lose some weight, my health insurance covers it and I’ll be leaving my job in two months so I’d like to get out of it what I can. I left feeling confused about if my expectations were in line or not and a bit let down that it might not be as helpful as I thought. What do you expect from your RD and what does insurance cover? [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 at 6:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Fun, visual ways to give students a 1:4 probability

My students will take 4 quizzes. To prepare for each quiz, I will allow them to fill one index card with notes or formulas that they will have a 1 in 4 chance of being able to use during the quiz. Just the act of writing down notes concise enough to fit on a card helps students organize and prepare very well, but they are more motivated to use this method with an incentive. I picked giving them a 1:4 probability of being able to use their notecard during the quiz, making it 'open note,' and am now brainstorming fun ways to carry this out. I could do a double coin flip, where either heads or tails is called, and two coins have to display what was called. Or I thought about filling 4 beakers full of water and adding food coloring to one and then covering them and getting someone to randomly pick one. Any other fun things I could try?
posted by cristalina at 4:12 AM PST - 21 comments

May 30

you say tomato, I say tomahto

Looking for recs of types of couples counseling. I understand some of the different types of individual therapy, but I'm a bit at a loss as to what options are available for couples to do together. [more inside]
posted by snowymorninblues at 10:56 PM PST - 5 comments

So, how do I tell my professor that I was a bitch?

Oh boy, so on Saturday I asked a question about a group project I'm in and how it wasn't going well, etc. Since then, the project has gone from bad to worse. How do I describe what happened in my group to my professor (we have to write a paper about how the assignment went and our group members)? I have no idea what to say. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 9:27 PM PST - 29 comments

Recipe for one serving blueberry crumble?

I'd like to make a dessert with about 1/2 cup blueberries (from frozen) and then crumble a cookie on top and then heat but I am not sure if I should thaw first? use oven or microwave? what temp? [more inside]
posted by cda at 8:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Movies where love conquers all

Can you recommend any movies about couples who have really fraught relationships but persevere and find happiness together? I'm talking about real interpersonal conflict--broken trust, bad arguing styles, etc.
posted by HotToddy at 8:09 PM PST - 22 comments

Has retainer-making technology improved at all?

After my retainer finally broke after several years of use, I had my dentist make me a new one that fit kind of funny, like it wasn't molded to my teeth correctly. I had her adjust it many times but it still doesn't feel right and she seems to have given up on it. I think I'd like to get an orthodontist to do one instead, and I'm wondering if there's better technology out there now than the putty impression, like scanning the mouth or something, that I can ask about.
posted by madonna of the unloved at 7:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Who was here before me?

How can I find out who lived at my address in the late 1970s or early 1980s? [more inside]
posted by Ideefixe at 5:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me understand DNS stuffs for .to TLD ...

I own a bunch of domains on PairNic. I have no trouble altering their DNS info so that their sites (mostly Squarespace) load. However, today, I purchased a .TO domain from only to discover that, though they allow you to alter some DNS stuff, not the DNS stuff I need to point to Squarespace. Help? [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 5:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Why am I so chaos-driven?

I am frustrated with the state of my relationships, both interpersonal and professionally. I feel like I have left a path of burned bridges behind me. Why am I doing this? How do I stop doing this? [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige at 3:51 PM PST - 23 comments

Resignation letter when a contract ends?

I currently work for a university as a post-doc. My contract is up unexpectedly at the end of June (not related to my performance at all, but rather a grant moving to a different institution). For offboarding they've asked me for a resignation letter. This seems odd to me, since I'm not resigning - my contract is ending sooner than I'd like through no input of my own. Is this fishy, and do I give up any rights by putting my name on a statement of resignation?
posted by codacorolla at 2:53 PM PST - 17 comments

Step up my website and photo management workflow

I design and update the website for a major yearly community event. My workflow and tech resources need an upgrade. While most of the year I work from my home iMac desktop, I've been using a Windows 7 laptop during the event weekend itself. But that laptop is dying and needs replacing. Can you help me figure out if an iPad Pro will suit my needs? (specific issues inside...) [more inside]
posted by dnash at 2:14 PM PST - 2 comments

I Can't Believe It's Not Butterbeer is not a thing

I have leftover margarine. What should I do with it? [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 1:51 PM PST - 10 comments

[AU PR filter] Do they really check the residency requirement for a RRV?

Australia expat filter: When applying for a RRV, does the government actually check/enforce the two-year residency rule or are they just happy accepting the fee and granting the RRV, even if you haven't lived in Australia at all in the past five years? [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 1:34 PM PST - 14 comments

Can I have a bit... less... service, please?

I love elaborate, expensive, multi-course meals. I HATE the service that comes with it. Can I ask for something different? [more inside]
posted by cilantro at 1:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Am I going to have to quit my job and grow all my own food?

I'm vegan. I buy my clothes and shoes second hand. I don't have air conditioning. You get the picture. Still, I sometimes feel like I can't get through a day without harming the planet or exploiting people. How do you maintain your ethics in this global capitalist economy? [more inside]
posted by probably not that Karen Blair at 1:03 PM PST - 39 comments

Find my tribe or climb the ladder?

After a deeply frustrating tenure at my current job, today I received offers from two other companies. I'm torn between the workplace where I think I'd fit in best socially, and the one which has the most potential to move me down my chosen career path but whose politics risk being similar to the environment I'm in now. All other things being equal, what should I be prioritising as I move into the next part of my working life? [more inside]
posted by peakes at 1:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Jury duty in NYC and work travel. Should I postpone?

I've been selected for jury duty in NYC on a Friday. I have a work trip (that I cannot reschedule) starting the following Monday. Should I a) show up on the Friday and explain that I cannot serve if they put me on a jury for the following week due to my work travel or b) postpone? (Note: I travel a lot for work, often at short notice, which makes postponing tricky.)
posted by unhappyprofessor at 12:46 PM PST - 17 comments

Metafilter, am I a slob?

I love nice t-shirts. Apparently I also love salads, butter, and I dunno....sunscreen? Help. Every t-shirt I get survives a roughly week-long cycle before it returns, freshly laundered, with a few dark circles of oil stain that make it impossible to wear the shirt for work. I got an adorable t-shirt with a barred owl on it on Saturday and it looks like I loaned it to Fred Flintstone. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 12:01 PM PST - 66 comments

What is a good book for relationships with elderly parents.

Asking for a friend: I am looking for a good book that deals with navigating the waters of adults relating to their elderly parents, especially in regard to ways to have healthy communications between them. I'll take whatever has worked for you or someone you know. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 11:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for On-The-Fly Photo Slideshow software

I'm looking for Windows software that will create an auto-scrolling slideshow of photos from an arbitrary list of images - not just whole folders - does it exist? [more inside]
posted by Nice Guy Mike at 11:56 AM PST - 4 comments


I am absolutely dead sick and tired of my career. I would love to get a job in local or county or state government, but it seems like an impenetrable fortress. Please give me your tips and tricks for getting hired for government work! [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 11:40 AM PST - 14 comments

How do I protect myself, while giving myself a chance at love?

I am in love with a girl, who also has feelings for me, but because of various traumas [TW], she isn't in a position to be in a relationship right now. We are long-distance, and it's not clear that she would want a traditional relationship even if those barriers went away. I spend significant time and energy on her and after our last visit, it's become clear that we need to set emotional boundaries to keep ourselves from getting hurt. How do we do that? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:57 AM PST - 23 comments

O Kite Masters, Why Won't My Octopus Fly?

I'm trying to make a kite (or five)(or ten but whatever, can we start with one) that is/are basically a copy of this , but better looking to our eyes-in-the-sky. My friend, a pretty good costume designer, made a pattern from the store bought one, all the measurements are precise, (as far as we can measure) but the sucker(s) still won't launch. We are totally baffled. What are we overlooking? [more inside]
posted by redpajamas at 10:52 AM PST - 1 comment

Real estate conundrum - what's the best faith action here?

I wrote a question a while back about buying a house, and everything worked out, and we are under contract, with a closing date of this Friday (two days from now). Now everything is falling apart. It's not our fault, but we feel like maybe we should compensate the sellers? [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 10:50 AM PST - 6 comments

Dare to be sickly

Have you seen the current Weird Al Yankovic concert tour? If so, please help me with the timing. [more inside]
posted by Homeboy Trouble at 9:02 AM PST - 10 comments


Please give me all your best recipes that contain lots of milk. [more inside]
posted by Melismata at 8:19 AM PST - 37 comments

Being heard in the bedroom (literally).

I find it near impossible to speak when turned on. I'm not sure of the cause, but I'd prefer to be able to communicate like everyone else. I stutter my way through even the most pedestrian of responses. Having a conversation makes me feel like an idiot. [more inside]
posted by Trifling at 8:18 AM PST - 4 comments

i need to stop bidding for approval

I've developed an annoying habit of trying to elicit approval in my primary relationship and I want to stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:43 AM PST - 10 comments

8 year old niece wants me to give her art lessons.

Yay! But what should I teach her? Constraints: she wants drawing and painting, not watercolor. This will be on vacation, and I'm flying light. Her mom will bring the paints. I don't know what kind, probably acrylic. [more inside]
posted by banjonaut at 5:09 AM PST - 23 comments

Can anyone identify the DC-area Hilton in this video?

Some Reddit edgelord filmed himself cutting the tape that some school chaperones had placed on the hotel room doors of their students. Assuming he's too cowardly to own up himself, they need somebody to tip off the adults and clear their name. Can anyone identify the DC-area Hilton in this video and help save a bunch of kids from being unjustly punished? [more inside]
posted by Rhaomi at 4:24 AM PST - 11 comments

Music library on multiple devices—iTunes? Alternatives?

My partner and I have a somewhat complex setup of many shared devices that I manage, all OSX or iOS. I've set up an Apple account for each of us. We're musicians who play together and have a large common collection of music. Since there's very little music we don't want to share and since I end up doing all the managing anyway, I would love to have just one collection of music that could be synced on all our devices and accessed by both users. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 3:33 AM PST - 14 comments

Devon and Dorset, or anywhere else in England

Girlfriend and I are taking a short trip to England this summer and aren't sure where to go. We're thinking SW, but we need to factor in transit, etc. Any suggestions for Devon and Dorset, or should we be aiming for another part of the country altogether? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 12:10 AM PST - 11 comments

May 29

What was this Japanese train show?

A while ago, I inadvertently signed up for the Channel NewsAsia channel. One of the shows which I serendipitously came across involved a group of people racing (in a sedate manner) across Japan using the train networks. What was this show? [more inside]
posted by antipodes at 11:50 PM PST - 2 comments

Not a baker or a candlestick maker

I would like to hear how one becomes a professional butcher these days. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 11:39 PM PST - 6 comments

WOooow Wouldja look at that!

Seeking movie scenes where character comes to a new town/city and is dazzled at the sights/colors [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 11:00 PM PST - 28 comments

What to eat/do in NYC?

Going to be in NYC again during a week in June (Tuesday - Thursday, no weekends). Looking for suggestions for food and architecture-specific things! [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 9:56 PM PST - 21 comments

MovingFilter: How much is it really worth imagining Worst Case Scenarios

There are a trillion things to consider when you're picking where to move and hopefully settle for goddamn ever. Is it worth factoring in the somewhat unknowable disasters of the future? [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 9:40 PM PST - 25 comments

What are some online art galleries you recommend?

I want to look at art - paintings, photos, other media in person, but I live in a small city. What are some online galleries that would satisfy my thirst?
posted by heliosanthus at 9:28 PM PST - 9 comments

A Little Bigger Than the Brady Bunch

A colleague just gave me the idea of naming the school instruments I check out to kids, and I need help thinking of categories of characters (fictional or non) to name them after and put on their identifying tags. Difficulty: a couple groups of 20-40. [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 7:44 PM PST - 35 comments

Process when you’re suspended on Facebook with spite report

Wondering if I can get some advice. I’ve been suspended on Facebook with a spite report. My violation of community standards was a civil comment on a politicised gesture where the page owner was asking for thoughts. I didn’t even swear! I’ve seen so much egregious racism violence all the phobias and I find it perplexing that this can happen and there’s no way to appeal. I coordinate school music accounts and various social and activism groups and cannot even use the messenger or phone call part. Even though that’s a separate app! How can I undo /appeal/ speak to Facebook?
posted by taff at 7:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Deep freezer failed while on vacation. It's bad.

The raw meat is fully hot now, putrid smell, small maggots forming. What's the safest and least repulsive way to deal with this mess? We will throw out the entire appliance duct taped shut if needed/possible. My spouse vomited several times trying to handle it. I can handle the smell but not the maggots. Help.
posted by crunchy potato at 7:20 PM PST - 25 comments

Is there a connection between the Gipsy Kings and Providence, RI?

I was just in Providence for a vacation. I ate at Los Andes, which has a cocktail called "Bamboléo, Bamboléa" and was also playing the Gipsy Kings' music all night long. Then the next day, someone was using a Gipsy Kings song to test the speakers for WaterFire. Is there some kind of specific local connection or was this just a coincidence? [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 5:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Music videos for my daughter

I'm looking for music videos that are swear-free, appropriate for children, have an interesting through-line, feature girls, and have music you could at least sway to. Also, they should be on Youtube. [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 5:19 PM PST - 43 comments

How to understand dyslexia as a non-dyslexic?

I'm looking for resources to understand dyslexia as a non-dyslexic. I can google but a lot of the information is geared around kids, and I am more interested in issues specifically impacting adults, like difficulty in reading maps. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 3:25 PM PST - 8 comments

WordPress templates that forefront search bar?

Looking for resources to help a non-savvy person create a basic searchable catalog website . [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 2:50 PM PST - 2 comments

How to do the math on self insuring?

How would I work out how much to set aside for self insuring against the loss of an item which depreciates? [more inside]
posted by Hadrian at 2:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Boys to Men - Rites of passage from scratch?

I’ve read a lot of anthropological and historical theory and fieldwork on rites of passage for boys/men, but I’d like to get some real-world, contemporary ideas about the kinds of things you—as a boy/man—did, or were done to you, that... [more inside]
posted by cocoagirl at 1:15 PM PST - 38 comments

Make My New OneNote Fighting Technique Unstoppable

Help me make OneNote my organized outboard brain. I've been using for a few years with a throw-everything-in-and-let-search-find-it method. I need better OneNote fu that doesn't lead to missed assignments or misplaced notes. [more inside]
posted by conscious matter at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Can this Bear be saved?

I found this bear in the trash. I want to rescue him, but am not sure how to deal with the rot. [more inside]
posted by Marky at 12:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Does eating a banana change the taste of coffee?

I ate a banana, then drank a pour-over coffee, and the coffee was super-bitter the first few sips. I don't remember this happening before, and after a few minutes/additional sips, the taste went back to it's normal, mellow-self. I hadn't eaten anything else, and it was a coffee shop that typically does good pour overs. Did eating the banana change my experience of the coffee? [more inside]
posted by Gorgik at 12:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Raising a Family in Eugene Oregon 2018

What are currently the best neighborhoods and specific schools in Eugene Oregon? [more inside]
posted by neanderloid at 11:17 AM PST - 9 comments

GreaterBostonFilter: Flyering in Newton

I’m playing a show in Newton, Mass. on Saturday! Where should I hang flyers? (The show is in Auburndale Village.) Bonus points for T accessibility.
posted by pxe2000 at 11:01 AM PST - 2 comments

'Consent' requirements for recording phone calls

You are not my lawyer, and any answers to this will not be construed as legal advice. My question revolves around definitions of 'consent', and how long that consent can last, when recording phone conversations in a two-party state in the US (specifically, CA). [more inside]
posted by hanov3r at 10:37 AM PST - 4 comments

My dad has a rare cancer. How do I best advocate for him?

Pops has been diagnosed with a rare cancer for which there is very little information available, even in the scientific / medical community. Controversy exists over the best treatment but recent research is shedding a little light on the best path forward. I'm a researcher by trade and want to make this information known and available to his doctors but how do I best do that without seeming confrontational or off-putting? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 10:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Facebook Events - How Does This System Work? Pretend I'm an Idiot ...

I usually am pretty technically insightful, but I feel like I'm missing something obvious. How do people actually use Facebook Events to track stuff from venues they're interested in? [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 9:45 AM PST - 7 comments

An Undetectable Extension Charm carry-on

I'm looking for a *large* carry-on hardside suitcase which still meets major US airline size requirements. Can you recommend one? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 9:44 AM PST - 8 comments

The US-Canadian Border and Plate Techtonics

A long stretch of the US Canadian border is defined by treaty as the 49th parallel. The border between Vermont and Canada is the 45th parallel. The North American plate is moving southwest by 2-3 inches a year. Does this mean the US is slowly getting land from Canada? If so what happens to this added territory — who owns it? Do we have to move the border posts and fences every few decades? [more inside]
posted by interogative mood at 9:10 AM PST - 9 comments

family member died in another state

We live in Ohio. My parents (and uncle & aunt) were driving from there to Texas to see my brother. What angles are my siblings and I not covering here? Are there things we're not doing that we should be? [more inside]
posted by automatic cabinet at 8:40 AM PST - 11 comments

Our cat is pooping on my new flatmate's stuff. Help?

I am looking after my fiancee's cat for about a year while she finishes her studies in another country. In order to cover rent in the 2BR place i was sharing with her, i got a flatmate three weeks ago (I could not afford anything bigger than a studio on my own, which would not be great for the cat). He's a sweet boy, 8 years old, a total lovebug.....but......he only poops in the litterbox about 10% of the time and my flatmate just texted to say he pooped on her throw. How do i get this behaviour to end ASAP? [more inside]
posted by MarianHalcombe at 8:31 AM PST - 12 comments

Luggageless in Ljubljana

Where can a tall, thin female get somewhat professional clothing in downtown Ljubljana right now? Also, how does one motivate an airline to find one's luggage? [more inside]
posted by buxtonbluecat at 8:29 AM PST - 11 comments

Things to do near Zurich, 2018 Edition

Me: Going from Berlin to Zurich to pick up a synthesizer I bought, staying in a place in Zurich for a couple of days. [more inside]
posted by nikaspark at 7:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Delivery room dilemma

My due date is 5 weeks away and my husband and I are at an impasse. I want him in the delivery room with me and he really, really doesn’t want to be there. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 6:44 AM PST - 79 comments

Help me Youtube

I having been trying for about a day to upload a 15 minute Youtube video from the Youtube app (on my Iphone) for a project. [more inside]
posted by Rocket26 at 6:42 AM PST - 2 comments

Looking for a bar in Copenhagen to watch the Iceland-Argentina match.

My wife and I are going to be in Copenhagen on June 16th; can anyone recommend a bar to watch the Iceland-Argentina World Cup match at? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 6:35 AM PST - 4 comments

Minors, US Borders, and Welfare Check Questions

What happens to minors at US borders is all over the news and I want to address my embarrassing lack of knowledge. I'd like to become more informed about what happens to kids in all different situations (legal or illegal entrance) and those accompanied by adults and those without. Specific links to current US policies would be helpful, as well as any history of this. It's difficult to find straightforward, non-biased information about this. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 4:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Fun, cheap birthday gift ideas?

My partner will be a staff member at a summer camp this year, with an hour-long bus ride in both directions each day tending to the kiddies. Help me pick a cheap/fun gift to make the rides or days more enjoyable. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:42 AM PST - 4 comments

Should I freeze my eggs?

I’m 35 (nearly 36) and wondering if I should freeze my eggs. MeFites what are your experiences with this? Was the procedure painful? Did it result in a pregnancy? How old were you? I’m single and not sure if I would like children later on or not but don’t want to rule them out. I’ve been diagnosed with ‘borderline PCOS’ but apart from that am healthy- does the PCOS make a big difference? What do I need to consider? It won’t be cheap financially but I can afford it.
posted by EatMyHat at 3:10 AM PST - 14 comments

May 28

What commercial is this?

Maybe about 5 years ago, there was a funny commercial. I think it was for a car. The premise was a guy was hosting a candy selling fundraiser to school kids. He said something like "whoever sells the most gets... a free trip to wacky water kingdom!" The kids run out and scream in excitement and the man goes "Now get out there and sell that candy!" Anyone remember what commercial this was for, and would you send me a link if you find it? Thanks!!
posted by FireStyle at 10:15 PM PST - 0 comments

Being the safe choice after an exciting one

I am in a wonderful relationship, but I've convinced myself that I am a safe choice after a more intense, exciting relationship of his. I need help overcoming my issue with this. [more inside]
posted by xiasanlan at 9:42 PM PST - 21 comments

women talking in the board room

I remember reading an article that I believe was published in the New York Times sometime between Aug 2016 and Nov 2017 (or so). Can you help me to re-locate it? [more inside]
posted by monkeymonkey at 8:40 PM PST - 2 comments

I am tone deaf and would like to sing in church. How to proceed?

I love music. I have no ability currently to match my voice to notes, though I generally know that I'm not matching. I never learned to read music. I have started attending a UU church and while the congregation is lovely, it is small, and I cringe several times each service when we are supposed to sing and I assume that I am aurally assaulting anyone near me, even when I sing barely above a whisper. I would like to be able to sing competently as a congregational member singing social-justice-y hymns/folk music. Walk me through next steps. [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 7:51 PM PST - 24 comments

Personal year in review

Several years ago, I was linked to website offering a pdf that you could fill out as a personal year-in-review. I remember that the landing page was fairly spartan and had options to print it in different formats (letter, A1). Inside, I remember that one of the questions asked you to look back at your calendar for the year and pick out memorable things that happened. It was meant to be done either solo or with a partner. I lost the bookmark, and can't seem to find the right incantation to throw at google.
posted by chrisamiller at 7:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Best way to capture a 35mm slide with an iPhone X?

I am working with some images on slides that are part of a library collection. I’d like to get a copy of a few of them, at the highest quality possible. I’m not allowed to use a slide scanner and the slides can’t leave the room they’re in. I’m allowed to use a light table and my iPhone. I’m thinking maybe I should get a good lens to add to my phone? Any recommendations appreciated.
posted by brbmaroon at 7:36 PM PST - 9 comments

Two personal tech recommendations, each with a twist

I am looking for Bluetooth earbuds that will pair with a dual link transmitter; and I am looking for a personal voice recorder that I can move audio files *onto* from my Mac. [more inside]
posted by blueshammer at 7:35 PM PST - 2 comments

Strep. Strep. Goose?

I’ve had two bouts of antibiotic treated ‘strep’ in the past three weeks. Three days after finishing a round of augmentin, my throat is daggers again. Tell me if my plan makes sense? [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 6:58 PM PST - 19 comments

¿Donde puedo comprar imanes de nevera con palabras?

I love fridge magnets, and I want to improve my Spanish. Where can I find the combination of these two things? Frigopoesía looks like the product I want, but I can’t seem to find it actually in stock at any reputable online sellers. Oh Great Hivemind, where do you get your pithy fridge joke resources en español?
posted by TheNewWazoo at 5:29 PM PST - 1 comment

What is this wood discoloration?

I can’t tell what is causing these grey streaks and holes in a piece of plywood are, and since it supports our bed I’m hesitant to use it if it’s mold/bugs. Maybe it looks familiar to you and you can tell me what it is? Pics here and here.
posted by stellaluna at 4:39 PM PST - 1 comment

Talking with editor at academic press; what to expect/ask

An editor from a well-respected academic press liked the conference abstract of a paper a colleague and I wrote, and approached us to discuss book possibilities—our topic would make a good companion piece to a successful book that they’ve already published. I’ll be meeting with her tomorrow (my coauthor can’t be there so it’s just me). What should I expect? What should I ask? [more inside]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 4:14 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I make my backyard really great?

Usually the Corpse family spends a lot of summer hiking and camping. That probably won't happen this year as one of us recovers from an injury, and we're sad about it. How can I make my backyard so great that we're happy to be home? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 4:09 PM PST - 25 comments

Physical safety measure you took once you had kids?

I'm a new mother who strongly believes in women exercising agency and taking physical security into their own hands. I'd also like my kid to grow up "free range" or "free roaming," while minimizing risks. What safety measures did you take when you became a parent? I'd like to hear about the whole range of measures, and I am not anti-gun or anti-pepper spray. I particularly want to know if there are good GPS tracking devices that can be embedded in children's clothing or otherwise worn. [more inside]
posted by KatNips at 3:42 PM PST - 43 comments

How to leverage career advice when you're not qualified to give it?

England is all about qualifications. I have found I have niche abilities in providing excellent, mostly spot-on career planning advice through a self-developed review and writing process. I have so far done it unpaid. I want to create a business from this but can't really figure out how to make it work as I am not a qualified career counsellor. Do I need to be? [more inside]
posted by parmanparman at 3:41 PM PST - 2 comments

When to say when?

I am not in love with what my job has become. Should I stick it out or start looking, inside or outside my niche? If I stick it out, how do I find mentorship or guidance as to how to effectively stick it out? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:57 PM PST - 2 comments

UK Child Car Seat in USA

Can I use a UK child car seat in a US car (specifically: forward-facing, seat-belt-connected)? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 2:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Philadelphia Apartment Advice? Part 3

1st time apartment renter here. I signed a lease recently for a place at the western edge of UPenn's campus, but it's above my ideal budget. School funding will cover rent in the fall, but I'll have to work more during school to cover food costs plus saving. Should I stay or seek a cheaper apartment for the fall and spring semesters? It'll be another chunk of money to do an apartment search and move again, but it'd save money and energy for 8 months. [more inside]
posted by dancer4life at 12:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Dog in car: how hot is dangerous?

There's a dog in a car on my street. Windows are partially open and there's a heat reflector in the windshield, so the owners took some precaution. But the weather just got hotter quickly, and I'm concerned it might be dangerous for the dog. How hot is too hot? This is surprisingly difficult to figure out. All of the advice about dogs in cars just says things like "in 20 minutes, the car can reach 100 degrees! Don't do it!" [more inside]
posted by reeddavid at 12:21 PM PST - 17 comments

How can an under-eater get enough protein?

Ever since I remember myself, I never had a big appetite. I don't have an eating disorder or any sort of complexes around food, I love and enjoy food very much but in small quantities. I cannot eat large meals or even too frequent small ones and I feel tremendously uncomfortable if I force myself to eat what general guidelines indicate I should be eating for my weight and height. I am concerned however, that my under eating could mean I'm not getting the macronutrients necessary to be healthy. [more inside]
posted by ariadne_88 at 11:01 AM PST - 16 comments

dorment social security number?

My near-future US employer is asking for my social security number for background check. Totally fair. Problem: I left the US six years ago, and the SSN I had was tied to a student visa. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 10:36 AM PST - 6 comments

How to stop pining for a sexual dynamic that has been lost

I have been working on this with my therapist but I'm still having trouble moving past it and dealing with my feelings of loss and resentment over my partner's change in sexual appetite and behaviors (wall of text inside). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:56 AM PST - 15 comments

Can I get all of my gmail junk mail in one search?

I'm trying to clear up space from my gmail account. So far, I've just been searching for each junk sender (e.g., Indeed Jobs, Amazon Offers, airlines, etc.) and deleting them per search. Is there a way to search for all of the junk mails and then delete them? Alternately, can I filter by generic senders or personal senders and sort of reverse delete all other email (that is, that's not from a personalized email account?) Thanks in advance!
posted by stillmoving at 9:23 AM PST - 10 comments

Cooling down a converted attic bedroom?

We are coming up on summer #4 in our home and I, for one, would like to be able to sleep in our master bedroom without decamping to the guest room during heat waves. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 9:16 AM PST - 13 comments

Afternoon hormone(?) problem

Almost every day at work around 3-4pm I get an odd combination of related symptoms. Can you help diagnose the problem? 1. Increased skin surface temperature 2. Can feel blood pumping intensely by touching skin, especially in jugular veins, but also heartbeat. Possibly increased heart rate 3. Itch across most of the body - it's slight, and there's no physical manifestation (no redness or eczema), but it's enough to drive me slightly mad. 4. Tiredness/sleepiness --More below the fold-- [more inside]
posted by nagoya at 8:19 AM PST - 14 comments

Audibly Upset

I work in an office with lots of quiet, clicking and computers. The silence is often broken by my very audible, un-extractable (?) bowel/tummy gas. What are your strategies for getting rid of (or minimizing the sound of) gas that sounds like a whale-song? The gas does not want to go out... it just wants to move around (it seems). [more inside]
posted by Dressed to Kill at 7:49 AM PST - 18 comments

How to create steps

We have a patio door which includes a ~2' vertical drop to the ground outside. I would like to have stairs, but can't afford anything expensive this year. I was assuming Home Depot would have some sort of readymade product for this but when I asked they tried to give me bathroom stools. Any suggestions metafilter? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 7:48 AM PST - 10 comments

How to clean my floor (linoleum kitchen edition)

I have the most crusty linoleum flooring my kitchen, and I would like to do something about this. Inspired by this post earlier. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 7:24 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I protect my window screens from my lovely cat?

My lovely cat, Phoebe, likes to claw at my window screens, and has already made small tears or holes in a few. I like to keep my windows open when it's warm, but I don't want to continually repair/replace my screens--and I also don't want to worry that she'll tear a hole large enough to get out. [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 6:13 AM PST - 19 comments

May 27

Is this movie real?

When I was little (mid-1980's) I remember my parents telling me that a movie we were watching had two women playing the same role. They said it was one woman for the first half of the movie, and then the director or producer switcher her out for another actress - though it wasn't part of the plot. For some reason I believe Goldie Hawn was the first actress. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 10:48 PM PST - 21 comments

Send automatic reminders to housemates to pay their bills

Is there an easy way I can schedule some sort of reminder to send to my forgetful housemates for bills. [more inside]
posted by kjs4 at 10:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Recommend me a TV Stand

I'm tired of particle board TV stands that don't move well. Does anyone have one they love and can recommend? [more inside]
posted by pwnguin at 10:03 PM PST - 4 comments

A soundtrack for Crone Island (work edition)

Looking for songs that will express my frustration at the patriarchy, but about work, not love. Think the work version of Carly Simon’s ‘You’re So Vain’. [more inside]
posted by andraste at 9:13 PM PST - 41 comments

Quitting because of location?

I begun working at a new job in the Midwest a few months ago. The job is ok but I don’t enjoy the city I am in. I have made friends here but am not happy in the city I moved into. [more inside]
posted by JYuanZ at 9:04 PM PST - 19 comments

How can I live Happily Ever After with a borderline spouse?

The prognosis for having a relationship with someone who has borderline personality disorder is not good; but where do I find the success stories? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Poly partner is not into me sexually... for now or forever?

I'm in an open polyamorous relationship and one of my partners has not been sexually interested in me, yet has hooked up with someone else. Should I resign myself to a less (or nonexistent) sexual relationship with him, or is it too much for me to expect us to always be turned on by each other at the same time? [more inside]
posted by Oneironaut420 at 6:25 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me save Beef Wellington - Phyllo Edition

I have an Important Birthday Dinner where beef Wellington has been requested. Everything is perfect - except I read a recipe wrong and got phyllo sheets instead of puff pastry sheets. I have no puff pastry sheets. I have a big problem and a dinner that must be served in two hours. HALP. [more inside]
posted by corb at 6:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Help with coping with first year of parenthood

I’m a bit at a loss of what to ask because I know I can’t ask people over the internet to diagnose me, but I also know I need some support/ideas: - I’m a first time mom of an 8 month old & I need to know how to distinguish worry from anxiety More inside [more inside]
posted by CMcG at 6:06 PM PST - 19 comments

What do I do to avoid overextening myself while learning new things?

This is mostly a question related to software engineering but I think it really applies to everything. I am also learning things outside of that. However, I would like to hear the opinions of people who studied CS or work in a field related to it, given that this question is mostly about that. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 5:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Timing problems on .vob files copied from a DVD

How can I fix (what I guess is) corrupt timing in videos copied from a DVD? [more inside]
posted by peacay at 4:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Frozen lunch that defrosts by midday

I saw this question but I want more. My partner makes me frozen ham and pickles sandwhichs which defrost so I can eat around 1pm. I don't want to have to use the work microwave (because I keep working) but I'm getting tired of ham sangers. Not a big fan of fruit. I like a bit of protein to keep me going. (You could also think of it as hiking lunches).
posted by b33j at 2:59 PM PST - 14 comments

Where to find laws for tenant rights for storage lockers in Louisiana?

The owners of a local storage rental facility have sold the building and given their several hundred tenants until the end of the month to vacate. Notices sent by certified mail on the 18th to vacate by the 31st, giving most people 10 days notice to leave. This does not seem like it would be legal, but I have not been able to find out any information about tenants rights in this situation, only the lien process for non payment of rent which would not apply here. It would take me a while to find the rental agreement which may cover this. Any ideas where to find this information? [more inside]
posted by Yorrick at 2:31 PM PST - 6 comments

What is the scheduling etiquette for organizers?

A member of the Meetup I just started messaged me saying that the day/time doesn't work for her and asking if there will be Meetups at other days/times. How should I handle this? What do you think of my Meetup's current day/time/frequency? [more inside]
posted by Social Science Nerd at 2:14 PM PST - 21 comments

What language is this?

A family member was driving through Port Angeles, Wash., today and posted a photo of this sign on social media, asking what language it is. We have surmised that it's a First Nations language. If so, does anybody know specifically which tribe?
posted by computech_apolloniajames at 1:31 PM PST - 6 comments

Podcast about Public Radio

A friend thinks I should have a podcast about public radio based on the book I'm writing about public radio pledge drives (in Metafilter Projects). Unlike most podcasts, it would look at the mechanism of public radio itself, not just the content it delivers. Are there any podcasts about public radio (other than that from NPR's Ombudsman, Elizabeth Jensen?)
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Do I pick out a headstone or sign up for state pogo-stick competition?

Saturday the 19th I made on of those poorly thought out decisions that can either end up with a funny story and a forehead slap or ends up in a funeral or paralyzed for life. Apparently the jury's still out on where this will end, although every day I'm still complaining about my husband's poor housekeeping is a net positive. Complex fractures of vertebrae T6-7 were resolved with a titanium rod and screws inserted from T4 to T9.That's good, right? [more inside]
posted by BlueHorse at 11:26 AM PST - 14 comments

Should I see a doctor or a dentist first for this lymph node pain?

YNMDoD. I've had pain in the lymph node on the left side of my throat for a month now, and it hasn't gone away. Should I see my doctor or a dentist to check it out? [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 9:45 AM PST - 10 comments

Range hoods in Philadelphia area

My wife and I are buying a house and one of the things that we want to do before moving in is to replace the recirculating hood with one that vents outside. What stores in the Philadelphia area can I go to actually turn on some hoods to see how loud they are? I'm in center city but willing to drive out to the suburbs if that if there are no closer options.
posted by nolnacs at 9:23 AM PST - 3 comments

Seeking Specific Furniture

A few years ago, Living Spaces sold a line of walnut-and-steel bedroom furniture called Larson (2). I loved the aesthetic, but I never had the money. Now I have the budget, but the furniture's out of production! Are there similar alternatives available, or is that style just out-of-style? What keywords will find me what I'm looking for? [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 8:55 AM PST - 6 comments

How to handle dating (with anxious attachment)?

I have a pattern in dating of getting attached early, and then of getting rejected. Each time, I feel devastated and have less motivation to keep going. My anxious attachment style means that I don't deal with the early ambiguous stages of dating well (when I really like someone). Looking for ideas for folks who have experience on how to not take things so personally when rejection comes. And also, on how to approach dating from the beginning with a looser outlook so not every perceived slight sends me into an anxious tailspin. [more inside]
posted by bearette at 8:25 AM PST - 24 comments

To tip or not to tip

Today I have a family photography session with a professional photographer. It'll probably last about an hour. The photographer is a small business owner who sets her own prices and normally this would cost $125. But - she donated this session as a fundraiser to a charity auction, so she's not receiving payment. Moreover, she doesn't have any direct connection to the charity (I do) and just donated out of pure niceness. Do I tip? I want to be appropriate and I don't want to be insulting.
posted by bq at 8:01 AM PST - 12 comments

What's this plant? Houseplant with dark green textured leaves

Do you know the name of this plant? The leaves are about the size of my hand. It's struggling a bit and i'm looking to identify so i can also look up care tips. Thanks!
posted by PardonMyFrench at 4:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Advice for an apology

14 years ago I kicked my brother out of my apartment in a fit of anxiety, and it predictably damaged our relationship. Tonight I made plans to go to dinner with him to finally apologize, how can I make sure to do it decently, and do it in a way that doesn't ruin the rest of dinner? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 AM PST - 20 comments

Quit, or take a career-change sabbatical?

42 year old career burn-out would like to take some extended time out from my career. I have the option to take a work-sanctioned sabbatical (up to six months). Is this the best option for getting from A-B or should I just quit outright? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 AM PST - 9 comments

How can I help my 4-year old stop wetting the bed?

My four-year old is physically able to stay dry all night, but started wetting the bed when I mentioned no longer using pull-ups. We’re now going on six months of wet pull-ups after six months of dry and I don’t know how to proceed or to reassure her that change is okay. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 AM PST - 15 comments

May 26

I'd like to stay at the Civilized Oasis.

Was there a hotel, or neighborhood of Manhattan, named Civilized Oasis in the 1980s? [more inside]
posted by CommonSense at 11:49 PM PST - 3 comments

looking for dishwasher recommendations, installation experiences please

I'm overwhelmed at the massive amount of dishwasher models out there. And I'm broken-hearted that the independent appliance store where I bought my last dishwasher 18 years ago has sadly gone out of business. So I'm looking for recommendations on what dishwasher to get, whom to buy it from, and your experiences with store installation/installers. [more inside]
posted by LeftMyHeartInSanFrancisco at 11:11 PM PST - 15 comments

seeking swedish wisdom

Hello, Stockholm MeFites, can you help me figure out who I saw playing? We are in Stockholm and yesterday, we wandered by Mosebacke Torg around 4 p.m. There was some sort of event, with very excellent balloons, and a very cool woman performing. She used a trombone and a megaphone and a sound board to record herself, loop, and then sing/play over it. But there were no signs of what it was or who was performing. I would very much like to know who she was or even find a list of people playing there yesterday that I can comb through — and I thought you might know how to find out. [more inside]
posted by dame at 10:48 PM PST - 2 comments

Help us name our second dog maybe?

We pick up our new dog tomorrow, she's a 6 month-ish Corgi-ish mutt. She'll be our second dog. [more inside]
posted by malphigian at 8:41 PM PST - 36 comments

Weary and Wary are different words, right?

The past few years I've been noticing more and more people saying (and writing, but less often) weary when they mean wary. To clarify, folks will say "wEARry" to mean "cautious of" which I thought for sure was pronounced "wAIRry" (Not to say that I think its happening more often, I think I just started noticing it and can't stop noticing it.) Is this a regional pronunciation thing, or just a common word mixup? Or am I wrong?
posted by Grandysaur at 8:37 PM PST - 27 comments

Solve this anagramish puzzle

I have come into possession of some cool metal letters from an outdoor sign. I also have a nice barn wood wall in my garage that you face when you pull in. If you guys can come up with something entertaining to spell, I could put it on my wall. I tried using online anagram thingies but couldn't find one that could deal with this many letters at once. These are the letters (plus ampersand):aaaeeehhiilonnnrstttttwwwyyy&
posted by HotToddy at 7:50 PM PST - 23 comments

I'm pretty sure that I'm the bad group member

I thought I worked well with people, well... at least I work fine with my coworkers at work, but grad school has opened my eyes and made me realize that I might not work well with other people in group project scenarios. I am currently at my wit's end with the group project I'm working on now. How can I be a better person/worker in group projects? Right now I feel like group projects bring out my worst characteristics and I'm so frustrated with myself. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 6:45 PM PST - 32 comments

Balcony planters and flowers in Toronto

We recently moved into a new apartment with a small balcony which is currently looking sad and empty. I would like to buy some planters that hang over the railing and flowers that are good in full sun. I'm new to Toronto, so not sure where is best to buy this stuff that's reasonably priced. I'm at King and Shaw and don't have a car, but am willing to spend up to 45 mins on public transport.
posted by Kris10_b at 5:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Finding someone to sit on the kid...

Due to scheduling changes and other circumstances the folks who have babysat for us to date are no longer available. These were family and friends so we've never had to search for a sitter for our almost 3year old. Looking for general advice on how to find a sitter, red flags etc. Location in profile, so if you happen to know local resources pls share or mail me. [more inside]
posted by MandaSayGrr at 4:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Recipes for not standing over a hot stove

It's hot. Give me your no-cook or minimally cooked recipes so I can eat well but not make my 90 degree apartment any hotter. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 4:11 PM PST - 32 comments

Buffalo in Summertime - what to do?

Going to be in Buffalo for 24 hours midweek the last week in June. Fun things to do? Must-try restaurants and breweries? Driving from Mass. Any interesting stops along the way? Thanks in advance for any awesome insider Buffalo info.
posted by KazamaSmokers at 4:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Recommendations for Countertop Dishwashers

I live in an apartment with a small kitchen and no dishwasher. [more inside]
posted by lkc at 4:05 PM PST - 9 comments

How much studentloandebt could a studentloandebtchuck chuck?

Working on an absurd comedic story about student loan debt; some hypothetical questions: Is there an upper-limit to how much the feds will loan an individual? Assuming otherwise eligible for financial aid, at what point would the government just refuse to loan any more? For example, if someone kept enrolling in additional MA/PhD programs as they completed each one, so they'd just constantly be a student -- how long could they keep taking out loans and deferring payment before the feds would eventually stop loaning them money and/or come after them?
posted by Saxon Kane at 2:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Food, bars, and the like in the UK that ranges from cheap-not so cheap

Thanks to y’all, we’ve pared down our itinerary to the UK. We feel comfortable with it now. However, wanted to get some food, bar, and afternoon tea recommendations from the green for these cities. Specific details inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 2:35 PM PST - 22 comments

I feel like a zombie 24/7; what do you think is wrong?

Hello Metafilter--I need the hive mind again to help me out. I'm 24 and a girl, student, that is about to fail out because I can't function normally. Been trying to fix my medical issues, like weakness and asthma, but have found no relief. I don't even know what's wrong with me and I can't afford to both go in for pulmonary testing or a sleep study (essential because the dentist wants me to do it before correcting my painful crossbite). What could be wrong? Is there anything new I can try? I need new perspectives so I can get to the bottom of this. [more inside]
posted by Wildernessy at 2:05 PM PST - 17 comments

Blue Grass of Vermont (not the music)

I bought a 25 pound bag of grass seed to reseed my lawn. It is specialized grass seed for Vermont conditions. I have previously bought this brand before including earlier this spring. When I opened this bag today, half the seeds are coated with something blue that comes off in my hands. The hardware store doesn't know why. The seed company is closed until Tuesday. Is it safe to use? What is causing the blue color? This weekend is prime yard work time. I don't want to wait until Tuesday to seed. Hive mind?
posted by Xurando at 12:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Reporting to someone with a lower title

I'm a senior scientist at a large corporation in the East Coast. Most of my colleagues, like me, have PhDs, a few are MDs, we even have PhD+MD, PhD+MBA people, etc., you get the idea. I report to a senior/executive director, and we recently had a new Scientific Director position created, and to my surprise, we were invited to apply for it, as opposed to the boss just appointing one of us to that new (higher) title and position. [more inside]
posted by Julissa at 12:31 PM PST - 24 comments

Eat the rich and also those who think they are upper middle class

OK, bear with me here because I know this is very unlikely, but assuming it is remotely possible: by what legal justifications, actions, moves would one city annex another city? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:38 AM PST - 19 comments

Best hiking trails in Los Angeles

Which ones would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 8:57 AM PST - 9 comments

Intra-family interpretation

Preparing to take my husband home to meet my mother. They have almost no language in common. Tips on effective communication? [more inside]
posted by huimangm at 8:25 AM PST - 16 comments

Where to score plus-size, medical-grade compression leggings?

Lucky me gets to wear compression leggings or tights for the next 6 months. I would prefer leggings but cannot find anything in my size. Specs: Opaque Open-toe leggings (not pantyhose) 3x -- 5’8” and 255lbs 10-20mmGH compression Black or gray ”Sports” leggings are ok if compression is graded Thanks for any leads. Google-fu fail!
posted by Kalatraz at 7:44 AM PST - 7 comments

Color theory for dingbats

I'm planning to paint the wood floor of my sun porch, and inspired by this project, I want to stencil a design on the floor. I really love the monochromatic (I think) color scheme of that floor, but I'm not sure I want that particular color scheme. How do I come up with two shades of the same color that will complement each other? [more inside]
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 7:34 AM PST - 9 comments

May 25

How can I stop making mistakes?

My boss recently told me that I would not be getting a promotion I'd expected because I ask too many questions and make too many mistakes. The upshot of this conversation is that I'm petrified of making more mistakes and also trying to reduce the number of questions I ask, which means...way more mistakes. How can I break this cycle? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:38 PM PST - 38 comments

My mom's in an abusive relationship

My mom has been in a on and off relationship with an abusive man for 16+ years. How to cope with it when living in close quarters and to best support her? Throwaway email is [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:38 PM PST - 9 comments

What does feeling embodied feel like?

Bessel van der Kolk's work suggests that trauma can result in lacking a sense of embodiment, of being detached from a sense of vitality, as though there's "no body." Please help me understand what it feels like, subjectively, to be embodied. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:37 PM PST - 12 comments

Did you grow up with chalkboards or whiteboards?

I find this fascinating that my husband and I grew up with different wall writing technology. What has been your experience? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 10:57 PM PST - 55 comments

APK Safety

So I'm wanting to sideload an app on my android device. I realize there is a certain amount of risk that the app could itself be a malware load but I'd at least like to avoid the download containing a regular virus/trojan of some sort. Are there trusted tools I can use to scan for this sort of thing like there are for windows apps? [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 10:34 PM PST - 3 comments

Modern High School Cliques

This Ask was a good starting point, but focused on late 80s - early 90s. What's changed? What are the current cliques you'd find at most high schools these days? [more inside]
posted by isauteikisa at 7:45 PM PST - 10 comments

What is this song??

It plays in the background of this video for a few seconds starting at 0:13 TYIA!
posted by bluelight at 7:04 PM PST - 1 comment

Ontario 2018 election polling / strategic voting information

I'm trying to find riding-level polling or other riding-level information to help me vote strategically in the 2018 Ontario provincial election. Does anyone have pointers? Does this data exist?
posted by ~ at 6:43 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me find an apartment in College Park, MD

I'm moving to College Park for a year-long position at the University of Maryland! Starting sometime in July. I'm excited and there's a bunch of stuff I have to think about, most importantly where to live. I will be looking for a cat-friendly 1BR apartment, hopefully under $1500 but I'd be willing to pay a little more for the perfect place. So here's the type of place I want... [more inside]
posted by mcmile at 5:54 PM PST - 10 comments

Illegitimi non carborundum

I work for the government. I’m a lawyer and working for the government as a public servant is exactly where I want to be. I believe in the law and the work I do. Unfortunately, my boss has been working for the government for much longer than I and he no longer believes in the mission. He has asked me a few times to do something that was unethical, which I let him know, apologetically, I could not do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:35 PM PST - 10 comments

Less-common bagel toppings

I’m doing a bagel bar for a group of 25 that includes adults and little and school age kids. What should I include? [more inside]
posted by vunder at 4:11 PM PST - 60 comments

How to non-permanently annotate images for use in WinExplorer

I'm looking for a way to non-permanently annotate images with text and hopefully shapes. If the annotations were view-able in windows explorer that'd be amazing. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 3:38 PM PST - 16 comments

Contract negotiations with the deceased

Looking for case law on how a contract matter might be interpreted if one of the parties is alive when a motion to vary is filed but dies while waiting for the court date. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:21 PM PST - 3 comments

getting removed as an authorized user from credit

I'm listed as an authorized user on a parent's credit card and have been since I was a teenager. Our relationship has never been great, but lately it is getting worse and I'm trying to cut remaining ties. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Experience Hotel in or around Los Angeles

Need to vacate my place for 5 days for termite fumigation. I could just find some cheapish local place to stay, but I'm thinking why not make an experience of it. Are there any places in or around Los Angeles that provide an experience that is worth the extra spend? [more inside]
posted by willnot at 3:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Is a 12 volt lamp falling in a bathtub dangerous?

Please help settle an argument. Imagine a 12 volt lamp sitting next to a bathtub. The transformer for the lamp is located on the lamp cord where it is plugged into a nearby 120 volt outlet, and thus the transformer cannot get near the water without being unplugged from the outlet. The 120 volt outlet is GFCI protected. I say if the 12 volt lamp falls in the tub while still plugged into the 120 volt outlet it's not dangerous. My adversary says it could cause electrocution.
posted by Jackson at 2:19 PM PST - 18 comments

Where's my medical billing experts at?

I have a very specific medical billing question: Is balance billing legal in California, for ER care, with a PPO, at an in-network facility, for an out-of-network doctor? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:14 PM PST - 16 comments

What are those psychological tests asking for? And how do I deliver?

I've taken two of them, one for a large hotel chain and one for the Post Office, and apparently I fail miserably. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 2:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Antique chair-filter: can you describe this chair?

I recently got a pair of lovely, smaller side chairs that I would describe as Spanish (without having any real basis for it). They have a gentle curve at the front of the wooden frame which I find appealing. Could you describe the curve or the chair better in general for me than "Spanish"? (I'm trying to find more chairs in the same general description, not identical but harmonious)
posted by arnicae at 1:54 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me remember a really groovy disco (maybe) song.

I am looking for a song that (maybe) had Donna Summer on vocals. It had a really twitchy guitar intro and solo and was more on the psycadelic side of Disco. Sparse detail below the fold. [more inside]
posted by cirgue at 12:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Sign language: meaning of raising index finger?

My 4 year old has been bringing home from school bits of sign language ("I love you", "more," that sort of thing). When she likes something, especially food, she shoots her left hand in the air with her index finger raised. She says this means "good" in sign language. It doesn't seem to... [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 12:14 PM PST - 11 comments

What are the potential pitfalls of a long-term car loan?

I have a car I don't currently need. I want to loan it to my sister for the long term, but I'd prefer to retain ownership in case my circumstances change and I need it back at some point in the future. What are the potential downsides of being the legal owner of a car while someone else is the primary driver? [more inside]
posted by fermion at 11:43 AM PST - 12 comments

I need an adult: dryer lint edition

I put a chenille blanket in the dryer. I have a lint problem. [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 11:36 AM PST - 3 comments

Stopping the sock monster

How can I stop losing one sock of sock pairs? Buying all one color helps but sometimes I want fun socks! I don't even know what happens, only 4 pairs magically becomes 4 singles! No kids or spouse or roommates.
posted by Aranquis at 11:24 AM PST - 22 comments

What is the cheapest smartwatch I can get for some basics?

I run a fair amount. I use one of a handful of apps to track my running. I also listen to spotify or podcasts when I run. I would like to get a simple, cheap smartwatch/fitness tracker that can control a couple of apps for my runs. [more inside]
posted by nushustu at 11:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Apple Health help

Will someone please explain to me how to use Apple Health to track my menstrual cycle? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 11:04 AM PST - 6 comments

help me move across the country!

i need to relocate from portland, or to boston for a new job. help me do this in the least painful way possible! [more inside]
posted by violetk at 10:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Health insurance bait and switch--any recourse?

I have health insurance through my spouse's job. There are two choices of PPO-type plan. Plan A has a higher premium and lower copays/deductible. Plan B has a lower premium and higher copays/deductible. Both offer the same level of reimbursement for out-of-network costs, 70%. Or at least that's what the benefits sheets say. This year, we switched from Plan A to Plan B. After doing the math, we figured we'd save some money. Nope. [more inside]
posted by the_blizz at 10:24 AM PST - 10 comments

Keeping Hot Dogs Cool

Our AC is broken! It's going to take a week to fix it! The high temp for each day during the week is about 100 degrees! We have two dogs who hate being wet! What can we do to help them stay cool, during this unpleasant time? [more inside]
posted by meese at 10:08 AM PST - 19 comments

Where should I go for my next solo vacation?

I'm having a ridiculously hard time figuring out where to go on my next trip, and could use some recommendations. My usual travel M.O. involves a schedule packed with visits to sites of historical or cultural value (e.g. UNESCO World Hertiage sites). I dislike the ideas of tours so I generally do all my own planning. [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 at 10:02 AM PST - 15 comments

Is it Worth Going to Shanghai for a Week?

I have a free place to stay in Shanghai and am on a tight budget and wondered if it'd be worth flying from the States (frequent flyer miles) to go visit for a week. I generally am culturally curious and would like something like visiting the "Water Towns", but I'm wondering if there's much else to see and do to fill a week?
posted by Jon44 at 9:17 AM PST - 12 comments

Giving the gift of bourbon

My beloved has a big birthday coming up this summer, and she's a huge bourbon fan, so I'd like to get her a special bottle. Some of her favorites include Woodford Reserve, Buffalo Trace, Blade & Bow, and Rieger's Kansas City Whiskey (a blend). I'd like to spend around $100-$150 and would love something that's presented in a special way, perhaps in a box. Thanks for your ideas!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 9:06 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me find a selfie stand-in

I'm hopefully taking some solo road trips in the near future. I will be taking pictures, obviously. In addition to the pretty landscape shots, normal travellers take selfies. I hate selfies. I hate being in pictures in general. So, I want a stand-in I can put in some shots that will say "cgg was here" without me actually being in the picture! [more inside]
posted by cgg at 8:49 AM PST - 26 comments

I’m gonna eat ice cream outside a used bookstore,

Looking for inspirational songs, quotes, bumper stickers or short stories about ‘dating myself.’ That is— being outside a committed relationship, and committing to yourself. [more inside]
posted by Doc_Sock at 8:12 AM PST - 16 comments

Why is my computer turning off randomly?

Since yesterday my Windows 10 PC just pops up "shutting down" and then either shuts down or reboots but I can't figure out why. I miss BSODs [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 7:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Resources for the Pseudo-Woke

What are your favorite resources to talk about race/inequalities/power dynamics/inclusiveness? Preferably easier and shorter reads. [more inside]
posted by astapasta24 at 7:06 AM PST - 12 comments

Why is the PATH station at World Trade Center so hard to leave?

I was housesitting recently for someone in New Jersey and took PATH to work at the World Trade Center, and walking through the station to reach the exit seemed to take longer than the train ride. (The exit I wanted, on Greenwich, seemed especially hard to reach; I had to double back across the length of the building.) Does anyone know why it's designed this way? Is it just trying to trap people in the mall? Isn't it unsafe in an emergency to have the exits so far from the trains?
posted by pinochiette at 6:54 AM PST - 8 comments

How Do I Professor?

I've been asked to teach a course I have experience in the field of study but no experience teaching. What resources are available for those who know the content but are clueless about teaching it? [more inside]
posted by jmsta at 6:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Traveling internationally with two laptops.

Can (should) I travel abroad with two laptop computers on my person? [more inside]
posted by breakin' the law at 5:33 AM PST - 14 comments

Going to Eleven- Birthday Edition

My amazing niece turns 11 next month. Help me gift her in style! [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 5:25 AM PST - 6 comments

May 24

Is there a way to keep bots from following my tumblr?

Is there a way to stop bots from following my tumblr other than blocking them one by one? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 11:44 PM PST - 1 comment

Ensuring my FERPA rights

A couple of years ago, my mother was able to gain a copy of my college schedule from a professor she was friends with (not a professor of mine, but apparently all professors at the university have this sort of access). She proceeded to email all of my professors, informing them about extremely private issues. She also made an attempt to have me withdrawn from my classes. [more inside]
posted by Sotha Sil at 11:43 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me name an old dude, please!

Tomorrow... Make that later today, I'm picking up a senior Plott Hound (mix?), 'Cody', from the shelter. He's joining my clowder of four cats. [more inside]
posted by LOLAttorney2009 at 11:03 PM PST - 54 comments

How can I prepare myself to get my first tattoo?

So I'm going to get my first tattoo, probably in two weeks. I've been planning this for months now and I have been wanting to have it done for years. I already went to two shops before this last guy I found, they really didn't know what they were doing so I walked out on them. This last artist he seems very serious about the work he does. I met him a week ago, I thought I was going to have to wait until next year to get my tattoo since he was booked for the whole year. Then I told him what it is that I wanted to get, he apparently liked it so much that he decided he wanted to get it done next month. I am guessing most people don't bring creative ideas like mine, and he made it clear he liked that because it means he can improve his art. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 9:45 PM PST - 19 comments

How do I get better at reaching out to people?

I’m terrible at reaching out to people generally or when they’re in need. I want to be better. Help! [more inside]
posted by good day merlock at 9:11 PM PST - 5 comments


I have about 12-18 HUGE spot prawns that were given to me fresh, then frozen, that I want to do justice to when I have my parents over for dinner tomorrow night. I can find about 10000 different ways to cook them on the internet, but I need to determine which is the BEST way. [more inside]
posted by wats at 9:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Choosing personal injury lawyer for out-of-state accident?

Help me figure out to whom we should say YAML. Mom was injured by DUI driver in neighboring state. [more inside]
posted by NumberSix at 8:52 PM PST - 3 comments

What's my next step hair dye-wise?

I stripped my dyed auburn hair last weekend and as expected, it's kinda orangey. Should I do a permanent dye now or a semi-permanent one? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 8:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Is this a thing?

My boyfriend told me that he read somewhere that the huge TMobile store in Times Square is so expensive to rent that they lose money by keeping the store open. But that supposedly, TMobile does this on purpose because the store itself is so visible in such a famous location that it is amazing advertising and is somehow worth taking the loss on. I am super skeptical but he can't remember where he read it so he could be conflating different things. Does this sound familiar to anyone?
posted by Neely O'Hara at 7:19 PM PST - 9 comments

The Devil You Already Know

I’m looking to get in touch with a recruiter who’s already in my LinkedIn connections—she requested to add me earlier this year. My big MetaFilter ask is, How would i continue approaching someone who’s expressed initial interest this way? [more inside]
posted by shelle at 5:08 PM PST - 10 comments

new job woes + extreme social anxiety + not smart enough.

So it's a few days into my new job. Fellow new hires are running rings around me. I feel humiliated and horribly mismatched. But I need to give to this a proper shot and stick this out right? [more inside]
posted by beigeness at 4:18 PM PST - 32 comments

Non-condescending dermatologist or aesthetician

I can't stand dermatologists or medical aestheticians that give you really simplistic explanations for things ("It removes impurities") or treat you like you're five ("How are you doing, honey?") Can you recommend a derm that doesn't do this, anywhere in the US? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 4:04 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you recommend a trauma therapist in Chicago?

I'm looking for a therapist who specifically specializes in developmental trauma. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:30 PM PST - 2 comments

Violent altercation with sister

I had a fight with my sister. I am by no means innocent, I provoked her, and was definitely not good at de-escalating the situation. Nonetheless, she became physically violent, and I need to know if there's better courses of action than I have planned. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:26 PM PST - 33 comments

Great day hikes in South Carolina?

What are some great day hikes that are available within a 2-hour drive from Greenville, South Carolina? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 1:00 PM PST - 12 comments

78 card tarot decks similar in look/feel to the Marseilles tarot?

Looking for English language, 78 card tarot decks that are similar in late medieval look / feel to the classic Marseilles tarot deck. Bonus points for those that are reasonably affordable.
posted by ryanshepard at 11:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Where did I see this humour metaphor?

I'm looking to find a source for something. I remember seeing an extended metaphor on comedy, but searching has provided nothing. It went something like... [more inside]
posted by Wrinkled Stumpskin at 11:44 AM PST - 0 comments

Conspiracy Theory: Petroleum Company Edition, Innovative Technology

A cow-orker claims that automobiles could be getting much better mileage than what's currently available, via better carburetors, fuel injectors, etc., but the big oil companies find these innovative companies, buy them up, and pay the inventors to keep their mouth's shut. I tend to discount such theories... for one, I think there are too many smart people to keep quiet, especially once people know that something's possible. Can you give me some supporting evidence on either side of this?
posted by cyclicker at 11:03 AM PST - 19 comments

Best mini tart shells for fruit tarts

What is the best recipe for MINI tart shells (or tips to help them cook properly and come out of the tins without breaking)? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 10:57 AM PST - 2 comments

What sample is this?

Starting at 1:40 what is the keyboard part playing?
posted by Twinge at 10:38 AM PST - 3 comments

Vinyl Record Expert in a Week

I'm interested in learning more about the physical recorded music industry, especially record collecting and the vinyl industry. Can you recommend some articles, blogs, podcasts, TV shows and documentaries? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 9:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Legacy G Suite with a domain alias = emails considered spam!

A legacy G Suite associated to a dead domain has had a new working domain added as an alias. Although Google sets the "From" as the new domain, how can I stop Google setting the "Envelope-from" as the old domain? [more inside]
posted by mr_silver at 9:49 AM PST - 3 comments

Tech support my Wii/TV combo

My Nintendo Wii displays vertically scrolling static[more inside]
posted by LSK at 9:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Switch from clamshell to detachable keyboard laptop?

I'm considering switching from a clamshell laptop to a convertible type with a detachable keyboard. If you've done this, what led you to switch, what new ways of working did it open up for you, and how do you like it? Come beanplate this decision with me. [more inside]
posted by medusa at 9:14 AM PST - 7 comments

How much should I spend on a custom size cabinet with doors?

I don't want to spend much considering what I want. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 8:52 AM PST - 12 comments

Rent versus buy, rapidly growing city edition

We can’t decide whether to buy a house or to keep renting our (wonderful) apartment. The only reason we have any interest in buying is to avoid being priced out of our hometown in the coming years. Help? [more inside]
posted by cat friend at 8:45 AM PST - 32 comments

Summer 2018 Hammock Tour of NYC

Where in New York City or adjacent areas can I find hammocks or other suspended seating? [more inside]
posted by rabbitbookworm at 7:52 AM PST - 8 comments

Best new cheap tablet?

Hi folks. I do electronics repair, and I'm looking for a tablet that I can use to surf the net and download schematics and such. That's probably all it will be used for--no TV, music, whatever. I'll need the ability to download to it and occasionally type. Should I get the $50 basic Amazon Fire 7, the slightly fancier Fire HD 8, or is there anything that would fit my needs better? Budget is $50-200 but cheaper is better. I have a Windows PC and use an iPhone, so I'm familiar with both.
posted by Slinga at 7:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Secure way to send monetary gift via text, not Amazon/iTunes?

Sending gifts to folks in teens/20's and they are weary of Amazon/iTunes, suggested PlayStation, Visa, other options. The folks in question are not local to me. I tried egifter marketplace but, as many reviews warned, I went thru the entire order transaction only to be told hours later "your order can’t be processed" -- waiting for the $1 refund. CC said: "Transaction would have gone through." I'm thoroughly annoyed. Is there another, more secure and reliable way to text a monetary or specific gift card to someone's phone? Thanks!
posted by alwayson_slightlyoff at 7:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Is my employer required to provide uniforms that fit properly?

My employer provides uniforms. We are being issued some specialized uniforms for a team we have been assigned to. Another small-framed coworker and I simply cannot wear the tops for these uniforms. They are comically large, far past the point of altering to fit. We have been told to suck it up because these are the uniforms. If my employer provides uniforms, are they required to provide ones that fit? [more inside]
posted by hollyholly at 6:50 AM PST - 14 comments

Book recs? Hong Kong livability, urban design, sustainability

A colleague and I are teaching a short-term course on sustainability, livability and urban design in Hong Kong (including a travel component). We have the academic part covered and lots of experience with the travel logistics, but we’re thinking about suggesting a book for participants to read on their own over the summer. These are undergrads, a variety of majors, not necessarily any experience with the topic/place. Any suggestions for light, engaging books on Hong Kong? Non-academic is fine, so memoirs, fiction, etc. are all great. Thanks!
posted by brozek at 5:59 AM PST - 2 comments

Public squeaking, please help!

I have a four day event coming up with a fair bit of public speaking. A lot of it is general stuff (I'm 'conducting' the event, as it were). My audience is subject matter experts and the top management of my organization. I am TERRIFIED of public speaking. I said yes to this event in part to push through this irrational fear. The event is tomorrow. I'm panicking, big-time. Please bring your best tips and tricks that would help me not dissolve into a blubbering mess. Thank you!
posted by Nieshka at 5:52 AM PST - 33 comments

May 23

Is it possible to input categories on Wordpress the same way as tags?

What I'd really like to type them in with commas between, instead of having to scroll through the check boxes (or start typing the word and checking the box for each category). I've imported by Tumblr over and I have 20,000+ posts to categorize and it's a pain! Does anyone know of a way to do this?
posted by addelburgh at 10:52 PM PST - 1 comment

When you can not pick up a call, do you text back?

I and my boyfriend are the early 20s, being dating exclusively for 6 months, he had a 3-year relationship end up with his ex cheated on him. Recently I start truly noticed I am constantly being under a great pressure in this relationship. A particular situation really stands out: [more inside]
posted by dadaxiang1204 at 10:14 PM PST - 51 comments

How did it feel to walk away from a relationship with an expiration date

If you have had a short fling, relationship, or casual situation that had to end due to someone moving or other circumstances, how did it feel to walk away from it? Did knowing it was going to end allow you to feel detached? [more inside]
posted by HeatherMoor at 10:12 PM PST - 14 comments

Advice or recommendations for the Canary Islands?

I will be going on an artist residency in Agüimes, Gran Canaria for five weeks from June through early July. Any recommendations? My artwork is about ecologies and I am very interested in plants, animals, sanctuaries, botanical gardens, etc. I bought an underwater camera and want to do some artwork on the islands' marine biodiversity. I am also vegetarian, and like to do some tourism as well as work and exhibit. [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 8:31 PM PST - 5 comments

It's not a barf bag, it's called an expressive-woozies catcher

I feel like my motion sickness has been getting worse over the last few years. Is that normal? Deets inside. [more inside]
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 8:15 PM PST - 10 comments

How long does unmixed formula REALLY last?

We have a three-week-old baby who is mostly breastfed but occasionally requires a bit of formula to supplement. The formula container (Similac for supplementation) says to "Use opened container contents within 1 month". How seriously do we need to take this? At the rate we've been using formula we'd end up throwing most of it away. We are normally cavalier about expiration dates but wondering if we should reconsider all our priorities because baby.
posted by madcaptenor at 8:04 PM PST - 14 comments

What's the best paint for a DIY mural on my backyard cinderblock wall?

I have a giant wall that borders the whole entire north side of my yard, about 120 feet long. I want to paint a mural or do something visual on it. I want to DIY, maybe use semi permanent paint, and make it amazing and unforgettable. Looking for suggestions to make this project successful. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 7:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Help make our trip to Europe amazing, Madrid edition

Our family will be spending two nights in Madrid in June. We're traveling with kids (10 & 12), so our plan is for a mostly low-key trip filled with lazily exploring the city. But we're also looking for other unique or special experiences we could do as a family that would really make our trip special. [more inside]
posted by quantum at 5:51 PM PST - 13 comments

I don’t think I wrote this... Who did???

So, I wrote this quote down in a journal and then took a picture of it. The frame size was just large enough to get the quote in. I printed a photo of it and had it in a collage in my room for a few years. Over time it has become quite meaningful to me and now I am interested in finding the source. I have recently moved and my journals are currently inaccessible... [more inside]
posted by Orange and gray at 5:25 PM PST - 8 comments

How to manage GERD

I believe I have GERD but am reluctant to take Prilosec indefinitely. What are my options here? [more inside]
posted by Forty-eight at 5:04 PM PST - 21 comments

Moar Bladerunner please

I have only watched the original director's cut of the film and seen the new sequel. What else should I be watching/reading/playing that takes place in the same world? I assume there's fanfiction galore, novelizations, and spin-offs. What's truly good/worth checking out?
posted by egeanin at 4:32 PM PST - 20 comments

Yeahhhh, I'm gonna need you to help me buy some office supplies, OK?

We will have leftover office supply funds for this fiscal year (which ends 5/31) to the tune of $500-$4000 total and have exhausted our ideas on spending it. What are some items (no more than $250 per) that our office should own, that we haven't thought of yet? Looking for 1) generic purchases that every office should have, and 2) killer items that revolutionized your workplace and now you don't know how you ever functioned without. Lots of snowflake details about us inside. [more inside]
posted by seemoorglass at 3:56 PM PST - 54 comments

Turning premade curried veggies into a meal

I really like Trader Joe's Indian Fare pouches and their similar Channa Masala and Saag Paneer freezer items. I want to turn these into full meals, which means adding both calories and fresh flavors. Tell me your secrets to make this happen. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 3:32 PM PST - 17 comments

Best organizations to donate to for 2018 elections

What are the best organizations to donate to for taking back the House and Senate in 2018? [more inside]
posted by benzenedream at 2:39 PM PST - 8 comments

How does a bathroom remodel work?

I have a bathroom. It is not great. I would like it to be better. How exactly does one go about remodeling their bathroom? [more inside]
posted by Blue Jello Elf at 2:11 PM PST - 14 comments

geographic inequality

I've been reading a lot about income inequality recently (this FPP, this article, the inimitable kliuless, etc.), which has led to an inchoate idea about inequality that I'd like to pursue more. I'll be on vacation for the next few days, so it seems like an opportune time to try to find some reading. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 1:03 PM PST - 11 comments

remind me what I was going to put pickled okra on top of

A couple weeks ago I was looking up a recipe for a main course and it included a suggestion to top the finished dish with slices of pickled okra. "Well now," I thought, "that sounds interesting." Anyway I have completely forgotten what the recipe was, where I found it, or any identifying details at all. So I submit the question to you, AskMe: what are some good dishes to top with slices of pickled okra?
posted by prize bull octorok at 12:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Rochester Restaurant Recommendations?

What's new and exciting in the Rochester, NY dining scene that would be good for a date night? [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 12:29 PM PST - 10 comments

What is your experience with submitting your own music to Spotify?

I want to submit my own home-recorded music to Spotify via some service like Tunecore or Distrokid and have a few questions for anyone who has done that. [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 12:10 PM PST - 1 comment

Bug identify, 2 for 1

I’m constantly paranoid about German cockroaches and carpet bugs (which my neighbor is dealing with) and really any other thing that appears in my apartment. Pictures inside, ID appreciated! [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 10:11 AM PST - 7 comments

Experiences of finding happiness after leaving an unsatisfying marriage?

I'm looking for stories from people who made the scary leap of bailing on an unsatisfying marriage, and what happened after they did. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:05 AM PST - 27 comments

Signed up for Match -- what do I need to know?

After being on OKC for a really long time, and looking for greener pastures (following this question) I signed up for Match. I used to be on Match years and years ago, and it's obviously changed a fair bit. Also, all my recent online dating experience has been solely on OKC. My question: is there anything particular to the Match experience/character/interface that I should be aware of? How does Match differ from other sites? [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault at 9:05 AM PST - 7 comments

Who do I see?

I’m in a place where I’m dating two people for a while and getting stressed out by what to do. Complication factor: queer woman seeing man for the first time in a while. [more inside]
posted by treetop89 at 9:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me get caught up on web front end dev trends and best practices

I'm a software developer with 15+ years of experience, but I've been working exclusively on the middle tier and back end for the last 7 years. I'd like to get a kickstart of knowledge on best practices for front end/UI development so I can enhance my full-stack skills. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 8:42 AM PST - 6 comments

Getting out of project management roles

I've never been very happy as a project manager, but that type of role makes up the bulk of my work experience. How can I identify jobs I might enjoy where my experience is a plus but not central to my responsibilities? [more inside]
posted by sojournaut at 7:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Midday Dog Walking Necessary?

Asking for a teacher friend who has a 3 yo lab mix doggo who is polite and well-behaved. Said doggo gets 1/2 hour run at 7am, then is left at 8am with stuffed Kongs and other toys until 4pm. Walkies at 4, then another 1/2 hour run at 8pm. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 6:06 AM PST - 14 comments

Molly Mutt Duvet waterproof liner?

Does anyone have experience waterproofing the innards of a Molly Mutt (dog bed) duvet? [more inside]
posted by taz at 5:49 AM PST - 8 comments

How to remove or cover up a tiny stain on a white top

Does anyone have any ideas for how to remove or cover up a tiny dark stain from a white top made out of fabric that is 65% polyester, 32% viscose, 2% polyamide, and 1% elastane? [more inside]
posted by mydonkeybenjamin at 5:10 AM PST - 14 comments

Irritatingly picky pub quiz questions

I'm assembling a selection of "Annoying Pub Quiz Questions". These are questions which sound like straight forward trivia questions, but hinge on a annoying quirk of phrasing. What examples of the genre can you think of? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:57 AM PST - 85 comments

Advice on medicating or not medicating a pre-teen?

Just curious about the experiences of others dealing with a kid who exhibits symptoms of OCD (and perhaps a related eating disorder and depression..), but it's hard to tell because the kid isn't quite cooperating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:32 AM PST - 17 comments

Forced to work specific days or vacation pay withheld, kosher or no?

Is it legal for an employer to withhold vacation pay if you don't work on specific days that you normally would not work, ie Sundays? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:32 AM PST - 13 comments

Small family: big questions

It begins to appear that my dad is not actually immortal. He, my stepmom and my adult daughter are across the country. My dad is possibly in the process of dying. My stepmom is stressed to the uttermost and socially isolated. My daughter is an alcoholic. My adult son and I will be there in a few days for a week and a half. How can we help them? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 1:55 AM PST - 22 comments

May 22

Travel insurance for non-sequential days

I am travelling from Australia to the USA and Mexico for meetings and a conference, with four private days for sightseeing (in two two-day chunks, two weeks apart). I need health insurance for the private days only. Are there travel insurance companies that will let me do this? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 9:44 PM PST - 12 comments

Puppy-naming thread #16860953

I just brought home the cutest puppy and he needs a new name! He came with the name Maximus, but I have a friend named Max and that would be weird. I like 2-syllable smart people names, or names with nicknames that can be 2-syllables. The short list right now includes Ollie (short for Olivander), or Magnus, but I bet MetaFilter can do better!
posted by Weeping_angel at 9:10 PM PST - 59 comments

I want to learn about how finance works. Books? Podcasts?

I really appreciated The Big Short, both the book and the movie, and I realize I have no idea how banking actually works beyond a Miracle on 34th Street level. I want to learn, but I don't need a degree or a job in finance, I'm just curious how it actually works. Where do I start?
posted by gofargogo at 9:05 PM PST - 14 comments

Happy love songs

What's your favourite love song from the past 10 years? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 8:44 PM PST - 35 comments

Preparing for surgery for a six-month-old

Baby banana is six months old and getting tubes in his ears and scoped for reflux on Thursday morning. What do we need to know about prep and recovery? In particular, how should we deal with the no food after midnight rule? [more inside]
posted by bananacabana at 8:25 PM PST - 10 comments

I'm looking for another perfect tent.

I have an REI Kingdom 4 and I love it very much. However, I also want a tent that's a bit smaller. Please help me find a tent that's just as good, but takes up less floorspace at the campsite. [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 6:16 PM PST - 12 comments

What does this symbol look like to you?

I got myself this neat pendant, but I'm a little worried someone might look at it and think it means something it doesn't. When you look at it, what do you think it means? Spoilers inside. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 5:59 PM PST - 31 comments

Coney Island rock show where to stay question.

Going to a show at the Ford in September. Want to stay as close as possible, not break the bank, etc. [more inside]
posted by vrakatar at 5:56 PM PST - 1 comment

Help with Messaging

I am about to launch a book. It has a largely liberal audience which I think will be excited to read about something they love. But I believe it also has a largely conservative counter-audience, or, a group of people who also follow it but don't like it and want it to go away. First, is it unreasonable to try to market the book to both audiences? [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 5:52 PM PST - 4 comments

How to get yahoo to speak to me

On signing into a yahoo email account yesterday, I was invited to see and customise which advertising partners can see and use my data, now that yahoo is part of Oath. The 'Other partners' list includes, by my count, 273 options to unselect, running from 'Adsupply' to 'Zygon', with more options appearing under 'IAB partners'. All are pre-checked 'yes'. I don't see an option to change these globally. [more inside]
posted by wilko at 5:37 PM PST - 7 comments

Give me browsable online Archives of… Stuff

As a kid of the 90s, I used to love browsing FTP archives for old DOS/shareware games and programs. There's a sense of discovery I get in being able to poke through curated, or at least categorized, items in search of new shiny things. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 4:53 PM PST - 12 comments

Dog Filter: Intermittent Clothes Pulling

My 7 year old rescue dog Huggy has been with me for more than two years now, with big thanks to Metafilter who helped me with all kinds of new dog owner advice! I'm now puzzled by a very occasional trait of pulling on clothes. Never me, never predictably, and not aggressive. But still disturbing. I prefer not to muzzle her in public, but maybe I should? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 4:36 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me find art featuring wildland Fire!

I’m looking for paintings, prints, photos, etc of wildland fire. My go-to for cool new art is Etsy, which works really well if you’re looking for a million paintings of vegetables (which I often am) but the paintings, prints, and photography sections searching the keyword “wildfire” turns up like 6 images. Do you know of any art, purchasable or otherwise, the subject of which is wildland fire? I will take any and all suggestions.
posted by Grandysaur at 4:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Control VLC playlist from a keyboard?

I'm setting up an informational display at work: a large LED TV driven by a computer running VLC on Ubuntu. The VLC playlist contains several product videos that, for now, are just playing in a loop. I would like to be able to control the playlist from a keyboard, so that pressing 1 causes Track 1 to begin playing, pressing 3 causes Track 3 to begin playing, and so on. [more inside]
posted by xedrik at 4:14 PM PST - 5 comments

Who do I send a think you note to after a panel interview?

I was interviewed by four people today, one of whom would be my supervisor and three other department heads. About an hour after the interview I received a call telling me that they would like me to come back for a interview with the big boss of the organization. [more inside]
posted by SpaceWarp13 at 3:34 PM PST - 9 comments

I gave to your nonprofit, so what do I get?

Looking to merge our separate management of "membership" and "donor" processing. Do you work for a nonprofit that provides benefits to donors? How do you manage changing benefit levels for donors who give more than once in a year? Or: Do you donate to a nonprofit that provides benefits based on your level of giving? How does it work? Seeking resources and just not finding them. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 2:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Anxious Bride Speech Ideas

Dear hivemind, I will be a bride at my very informal (by wedding standards) but very large wedding. I will need to make a speech. Difficulty level: public speaking anxiety and many attendees I've never met before. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:54 PM PST - 18 comments

Diagnose my failing full-screen video (Linux,Debian,Intel)

Very recently out of nowhere my Dell XPS 13 9350 of a couple years has started to have a problem with full-screen video. The video will freeze after a bit of time while the audio continues to play normally. [more inside]
posted by zengargoyle at 1:27 PM PST - 17 comments

Interviewing the Interviewer

You're in a job interview. What are some tactics you use to determine whether the interviewer/manager is someone you like and want to work for? I'm looking for anything... subtle cues to look out for, questions to ask, etc.
posted by onecircleaday at 1:25 PM PST - 27 comments

Bookmark manager / Knowledge base app with automation

I'm looking for a bookmark manager / knowledge base app (either web or mac) that can take a big folder of saved URLs, load the contents, auto tag each item, and then let me quickly search based on tag/topic or full text search, providing me a quick list of all matches. I don't want to have to manually tag/sort the items on import.
posted by gwint at 1:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Any online tool for designing shelves for an alcove: recommendations

Does a planning tool exist for designing shelves for an alcove that I would then build myself? Ideally something that would tell me lengths of wood needed, and allow me to input the actual measurements to generate an accurate design. [more inside]
posted by Augenblick at 1:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Alerts on New Independent Films Near Me

I love independent films and live in Los Angeles, so am spoiled for choice. How can I get alerts if a specific film I’ve been waiting for is playing in my area? I’d love to enter my list somewhere and get notified the film is here. [more inside]
posted by Atrahasis at 12:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Recommend me a therapist in Portland, OR.

Looking for a therapist in Portland, OR. Can you recommend one that can help with depression/anxiety/grief, or help me figure out what kind of therapist would be good for me? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by actionpact at 12:19 PM PST - 11 comments

Should I set up a boot drive for Windows 10?

Should I set up a boot drive for Windows 10? If so, how do I do it? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 11:49 AM PST - 15 comments

Another where in Washington (state) question with a twist

African immigrant mom and kid moving to Washington State. She wants a place that's safe, that has good schools, and that is somewhat affordable. Not Seattle. Where should she go? [more inside]
posted by mareli at 11:15 AM PST - 24 comments

Extremely low energy slump in afternoon

I lose all my energy around 2 pm every day -- I can't function, I can barely drive, I'm completely unable to do anything. I'm desperate to find some solution. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by mrfuga0 at 11:10 AM PST - 31 comments

Is an LED panel a good choice for a low ceiling space?

I have a closet like space with a very low ceiling that I'd like to light properly. I've been seeing flat LED panels, I think that's the route I'd like to go. Recommendations for one? [more inside]
posted by aeighty at 9:32 AM PST - 4 comments

How much to charge for freelance editing?

I can't seem to find an answer since I am just doing this on the side [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:14 AM PST - 8 comments

Family Dashboard?

Does anyone have a one-stop digital way to see what's going on and important to the family? My wishlist inside.... [more inside]
posted by amanda at 9:11 AM PST - 2 comments

Broadband in the Crown of Maine

What's the current state of broadband in the County? I'm considering moving back to Aroostook from living on the gold coast of southern Maine for many years. [more inside]
posted by Gnella at 8:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Curls after curls

What can I do to my chin-length, fine, curly/wavy hair to make it look not-terrible at/after getting sweaty at the gym? [more inside]
posted by quatsch at 8:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Has anyone been to Groix?

I'm spending the first week of July en famille on this small island in the Gulf of Morbihan. If anyone happens to have been there, I would love recommendations and suggestions.
posted by Morpeth at 8:07 AM PST - 0 comments

Vacation paid with Bitcoin?

Hi everyone; Has anyone taken a mini vacation and paid the flight,hotel and/or car rental with Bitcoin? If u have,plz tell me what site u booked on,and ur experience. We are in Canada,and would travel within Canada Thanks so much :-)
posted by LOOKING at 7:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Advice for a classroom observation

I had a decent interview for an assistant teacher position at a Reggio-inspired preschool and have been invited back to see a class in action and be observed interacting with the kids. No formal “lesson,” just playing. I have worked with preschool-aged kids and have read up on Reggio methods, but am just curious what people in the community here think they might be looking for. Any tips/advice?
posted by sometamegazelle at 7:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for small outdoor container plants!

So I've found myself with a plethora of 4 and 6 inch terra cotta pots and I'm wondering what outdoor plants would do okay in such small containers on my patio. Flowering plants preferred. I'd rather not have herbs because I don't cook much these days, but could be convinced. Also I have absolutely no interest in succulents or cactus. [more inside]
posted by elsietheeel at 7:03 AM PST - 10 comments

a heroine, a puzzle, a novel

Looking for books with puzzles, and preferably female protagonists - think Special Topics in Calamity Physics and The Westing Game. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 6:43 AM PST - 13 comments

How do I actually talk to someone at Facebook?

My account is getting disabled for no reason, and it's completely beyond the pale at this point. All I've been able to find is of the "send a form in and wait" variety. I want to actually talk to somebody about this. [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 6:40 AM PST - 12 comments

Keywords for my aesthetic?

I'm in need of succinct, precise ways to describe what I like and dislike when it comes to spaces, clothes, and belongings. The only ones I can think of all point to something similar but not quite. Please give me your suggestions! [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 6:22 AM PST - 24 comments

Mental hygiene - work edition

I have a lot of mean coworkers, and I can't afford to get upset because I have too many commitments this year. Please share your mental hygiene / survival tips! [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 3:41 AM PST - 23 comments

How Old is Too Old for ADHD Diagnosis & Medication

So, as more information gets mainstreamed about how ADHD manifests in adolescent girls and young women (as opposed to boys), I see more and more of myself in the descriptors. BUT I'm 49 years old, secure in my white collar job, reasonably successful in it. I'm pretty well adapted to the stress, anxiety, disorganization and forgetfulness. Do they even assess women my age for ADHD? Treat it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:46 AM PST - 25 comments

Resources for quitting weed without demonizing it?

I think marijuana is a safe and beneficial thing for many if not most users, and I think it has been beneficial for me in the past. But it currently isn’t, and I am having trouble letting go of it. Can you recommend resources that can help me quit without dissing marijuana itself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:46 AM PST - 9 comments

It's a boy! Yay?

What are the positive sides of having a son? We do not know the gender of our anticipated child, but I already know I have a preference for a girl and I feel bad that I do. I want to head this off at the pass right now to avoid any potential disappointment. It should go without saying that my number one preference is for a healthy baby and I'm very excited and grateful that this is happening for us at all. I already know I'm gonna love this kid more than I can hold in my body at once. I would just like a kind and helpful word or two in getting over an ingrained gender preference that's sprung up from who knows where. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:45 AM PST - 46 comments

ISO easily digested resources for calling out an online misogynist?

Do you know of a nice simple primer that I can send to a garden-variety unthinking online misogynist? Just enough to get the wheels turning in his head - maybe with links onward to more? [more inside]
posted by rd45 at 12:38 AM PST - 8 comments

I want an online biography site

What's the best way to tell the story of your life on your own domain? [more inside]
posted by bendy at 12:30 AM PST - 4 comments

May 21

Bobiverse: worth continuing?

I'm midway through Book 2 of the Bobiverse, Dennis E Taylor's series of Bob books, and before I get further into Books 3 & 4, I want to know if they improve re: casual and inherent sexism. I'd normally just skim ahead in reviews, but they're so plot-heavy I don't want spoilers. They are totally Marty-Sue novels, but fun reads except the gender blinders and absence of any human social change past 2010-society is kind of... does it improve? Or worsen?
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 10:10 PM PST - 6 comments

Carpal tunnel syndrome-like symptoms... but only seasonally

For several years now, I have occasionally experienced numbness and tingling in my hands, but only in the spring and summer. This has me puzzled; the symptoms don't seem likely to be caused by or related to an allergy-like process. [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 9:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Harry Potter and the Ignored Memory of Colonialism

Has anyone written anything about how to square the brutal, colonial history of the world with urban fantasy or Harry Potter type magic? Alternatively, has anyone written urban fantasy/alternative history where magic actually made a difference in terms of colonialism and Europe's power in the world? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 8:34 PM PST - 30 comments

Help me bring Valley Forge alive for teens

Teach me about the story of Valley Forge so I can get some teen-age boys (and a few girls) excited about it, please. I am going with a Boy Scout troop (plus families) this weekend to visit Philadelphia, including a visit to Valley Forge National Battlefield. We have a long van ride, and I want to get them interested in its story instead of being b-o-o-o-o-r-e-d. [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 6:56 PM PST - 9 comments

What if Houdini had to wear a cone?

My dog is determined to never let his injured foot heal. How do people keep their crafty dogs from messing with their hurt feet when they can contort around or escape from every cone? [more inside]
posted by snaw at 5:34 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I switch out of S mode

I have a new laptop. It came with Windows 10S. I would like to turn off S mode. Everything I've read tells me how simple it is, but they're lying. How do I do this? Things I have tried are as follows: [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 5:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Starting in the job market as an older college grad

How should you handle multiple gaps in your employment history because you went back to school? Is it better to focus on recent academic achievements? Is it worth talking about work experience that might be outdated? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 5:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Recording Isolation Booth DB reduction

Is my new isolation recording Booth getting the DB reducition it was advertised to get? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 4:38 PM PST - 4 comments

My sight singing is my weakness

I want to improve my sight singing. My voice teacher says I need something like Rosetta Stone for sight singing. Please help! [more inside]
posted by whitelily at 4:23 PM PST - 23 comments

Foods for the newly texture-averse / post-anesthesia food problems.

A relative of mine had general anesthesia for gastrointestinal problems and four weeks later still can't handle most food - not because of digestion, but because everything 'feels wrong' in her mouth. She is the sort of person who does all the cooking for holidays, is the office baker, etc., so this is a major psychological downer. Resources? Ideas? What's worked/not is beneath the fold (and a little more GI stuff). [more inside]
posted by cobaltnine at 3:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Skip and a hop from Frankfurt

I'll be spending a week in Frankfurt, Germany, for work in mid-July. (Visiting from U.S.) I want to extend my trip 2-3 days into an interesting European city. What is an easy and somewhat unusual excursion from Frankfurt--my interests include museums, castles, music festivals (classical, jazz, rock), and nature--but I'll be traveling solo, so I prefer urban getaways over romantic ones. I have visited Europe a bunch, so major destinations like Paris, Berlin, Florence, or Barcelona already covered; but I don't have experience with European trains or cheap airfare like Ryan Air and am willing to explore. is there a good excursion close to Frankfurt? I can return home from any major city.
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 3:27 PM PST - 14 comments

Short term cellphone service in LA

I'll be spending 2 weeks in Los Angeles. Does it make sense to buy some sort of prepaid cellphone plan? [more inside]
posted by signal at 2:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Who plays Lord Bullingdon's second in the final duel in Barry Lyndon?

This is the scene in question. Bullingdon's second is the man co-ordinating the procedure of the duel. [more inside]
posted by Tuco Benedicto Pacifico Juan Maria Ramirez at 1:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Neighborhoods in Portland or Vancouver?

We're looking at moving to the pacific northwest in the next few years. We'd love to find a neighborhood of Portland or Vancouver that's walkable for groceries, library and restaurants. We'll be bringing our jobs with us, so that's one concern taken care of. We'll be taking a trip out there to investigate on our own, but are there any recommendations from the hivemind? I did see this question, but we're not bound to WA, and didn't know if things had changed in a year.
posted by korej at 1:21 PM PST - 20 comments

Makeup Ignoramus Filter: What on earth is "Microfinish Powder"?

I was at Sephora last week and redeemed my Beauty Insider points for a sample of Make Up For Ever's "Ultra HD Microfinishing Loose Powder." I have Googled this and I am still really confused (a) what it is supposed to do (b) if it is for me, since I don't wear foundation (I wear tinted sunscreen). [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 1:13 PM PST - 10 comments

How to play video from USB source on TV

Looking for high-tech solutions in a low-tech, small space, remote environment. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by raider at 12:55 PM PST - 9 comments

Migrating North

You are not my immigration lawyer, but maybe you can point me to a resource that will clarify something for me regarding applications and timing. US -> Canada spousal sponsorship question within. [more inside]
posted by halation at 12:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Best home 'improvements' for renters

What are the best home innovations/improvements that renters can use without altering their living space permanently or cause any security-deposit-loss-worthy damage? [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 11:58 AM PST - 31 comments

NYC/Brooklyn Park Lease on Public Land- We are looking for the Lease.

NYC Park Lease on Public Land- We are looking for the Lease. [more inside]
posted by ebesan at 11:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Best True Crime and Money-Related Podcast Episodes

My husband and are about to spend 16 hours in the car over two days. We are looking for engaging podcast episodes about true crime or money. [more inside]
posted by kate blank at 11:09 AM PST - 25 comments

Mess of anxiety around daycare

Since we put my almost 6 month old daughter in daycare two weeks ago, I've been a mess. I was fine when she was home with her father on paternity leave, but having her in daycare all day is really messing me up. Help me figure out how much is real and how much is anxiety. [more inside]
posted by oryelle at 10:43 AM PST - 8 comments

Parentfilter: Advice about a 3 year old and tantrums?

My 3.5 year old daughter has started throwing tantrums at naptime at daycare. I feel like her daycare is overreacting, but I'm really not sure. What do you think? [more inside]
posted by hought20 at 10:05 AM PST - 30 comments

Help us furnish our new home

We are in the process of closing in on a condo. Wheee! So far, we've relied heavily on (higher-end Ikea furniture), with some help from Overstock. We actually kind of like the Ikea aesthetic, but not to the extent of our house looking like a catalog! Where should we shop for our new furniture? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by redlines at 9:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Finances of buying then selling a "starter home"

How deeply ambivalent can you / should you be and still go through with a house purchase? On the one hand, I think it's just cold feet, and on the other, there are things that just might not work long term. I had really wanted to find a "forever" house, but this seems more like a "good for now" house. Is that a mistake? [more inside]
posted by ruff at 9:38 AM PST - 22 comments

Vestibular Neuritis hearing recovery?

I had a bacterial ear infection about a month ago, I've been seeing an ENT specialist since then. It seems I have Vestibular Neuritis which is affecting my hearing in the inner ear. I can hear at about 75 (?)%. I've tried Antibiotics and Steroids over the past few weeks. I's improved but slowly and, so far, not completely. ... [more inside]
posted by Liquidwolf at 9:27 AM PST - 8 comments

Upbeat shows to watch on Prime video

I'm looking for TV shows and movies available on Amazon Prime video that will not give me nightmares. [more inside]
posted by medusa at 8:03 AM PST - 25 comments

How do I light a DIY TV show?

I'm working on a late night talk show to be filmed in my apartment. I'm not sure of what to purchase in terms of lighting. I've seen lots of lighting "kits" on Amazon for <$200 but I'm not sure of (A) which kits will best suit my needs and (B) how to light a traditional talk show set (desk, guest chairs, backdrop, and...well, that's it.).
posted by frankokay at 7:57 AM PST - 6 comments

Quiet space in Manhattan (Gramercy preferably) for a video call?

I need to take a video call after 5PM. My apartment is under construction. Short of renting a hotel room, is there a quiet space, like a hotel lobby I’d be able to use?
posted by geoff. at 7:51 AM PST - 5 comments

Backstage at Fenway?

Bill "Spaceman" Lee is playing in an alumni game at Fenway Park on my birthday. I would really like to get his autograph. Does Fenway have anything like a stage door at a theatre or a nightclub where I could wait and see if he'd sign something? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 7:39 AM PST - 4 comments

Accessing a generous/kind/gracious minset

I'd like to get better (more frequently, longer duration) at being in the state of mind where kindness/graciousness are joyful for me. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 6:51 AM PST - 14 comments

Orphaned baby raccoon - help

Hi, Found a baby raccoon at the bottom of a tree. About a week old, eyes still shut. I left him out over-night on the chance mom would come pick him up. Its been about 36 hours, he has been chattering/yelling out the entire time but no sign of mom. I fear this guy is running out of time. He is strong and stands a chance but no clue what to do now. I am in Maryland. Everywhere I call doesn't take raccoons. I really want to give this critter this chance - any ideas?
posted by archivist at 6:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Like Airbnb but for Barns — Difficulty: no wedding factories

I would like to rent an unfinished barn for a weekend in the eastern US, but I want to be able to stay overnight and I don't need any of the usual predatory wedding industry trappings. [more inside]
posted by Funeral march of an old jawbone at 5:29 AM PST - 16 comments

Starting career late after years of depression, unemeployment?

I'm finally(!) recovering and feeling 'normal' after years of suffering from crippling depression, failing my college courses, and being unemployed, but now starting my career late seems next to impossible. (Specifically in computer/web security?) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:43 AM PST - 11 comments

If this is abuse, what are my options?

I'm a man married to a woman, and we have two toddlers. We love each other, and for the most part we have a good relationship. Lately, though, I've come to feel that my wife's behavior is sometimes abusive, and I don't know what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:42 AM PST - 70 comments

Help me feed a 9 year old with very specific food exclusions

Beloved grandsons are coming to stay next week and the youngest is on week 6 of a food exclusion diet to hopefully find and eliminate some of the cause(s) of eczema. [more inside]
posted by humph at 3:14 AM PST - 15 comments

May 20

How do I best use a few pounds of morels?

A couple of friends and I went on an impromptu mushroom hunting trip today, got VERY lucky, and came home with about ten pounds of beautiful morels! My third of these is way more than I've ever had at once - please help me know what to do with them? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 11:06 PM PST - 16 comments

Ray Bradbury story, grandfather unexpectedly visits grandson & roommate

Completely unannounced, grandfather shows up at his grandsons home, for the first time seeing grandsons living arrangement, first time meeting his grandsons roommate. Surprise ensues; spoiler inside. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 10:34 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I tomato plant?

I bought 2 tomato plants on a whim from Whole Foods. I know less than zero about gardening. What do I do now? [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 9:26 PM PST - 26 comments

Things to do and eat in Houston

Hi MetaFilter! I'm attending a conference in downtown Houston at the end of June, and would like recommendations for delicious vegetarian food and interesting things to do in Houston. [more inside]
posted by girasoli at 8:40 PM PST - 11 comments

When to disclose service dog when renting

I am moving across the country. I will be applying for housing without meeting the landlord in person. Accessible housing in my budget is limited. I can’t afford for a potential landlord to deny an application because I am expecting them to break their no-pet policy. I want to wait to disclose my service dog until after I am approved, but at the same time I don’t want to become A Problem Tenant. [more inside]
posted by apex_ at 7:46 PM PST - 4 comments

Photo book from 20 years ago?

Definitely-published post 1997, a book I saw once had tons of photographs of athletes staged to look a hundred years old. Where can I track it down? [more inside]
posted by mahorn at 7:36 PM PST - 3 comments

What flower is this?

Purple flower at the top of a bare stalk growing out of a succulent-type base. Pic. Google photo ID says purple hollyhock or California rose but neither seems right, and I can't find any photos showing base+stalk+flower all at the same time to confirm.
posted by mono blanco at 7:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Bicycle clothing with built in lights - recommendations please ?

There are clothes out there with built in lights to make you more visible in the dark. I'm interested in finding accounts of how well these work and reviews. [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 6:27 PM PST - 8 comments

Enlighten me about stage lighting

An old-fashioned, single-screen movie theater is set to host a political forum with three participants, who will be seated on stools in front of the screen. We're seeking advice on the best way to set up lighting, so that the audience can see the panel members. [more inside]
posted by JD Sockinger at 6:16 PM PST - 4 comments

what is a "think bucket?"

in the BBC show killing eve, s1e2, frank says to eve, "No. I was just tired of you piping up with your theories any time there was a snip of conspiracy in the air, you tiresome think bucket" [more inside]
posted by zippy at 6:11 PM PST - 14 comments

Simplest Nintendo Switch games

Recommendations for the simplest controlled Nintendo Switch games for little ones [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 5:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Abnormal Psychology Credit Hours

Following on to my question about Abnormal Psychology classes ... Is there a difference between a 3 credit hour class and a 4 credit hour class? For example ... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 5:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Which mass noun has the largest individual units?

Which mass noun has the largest individual units? Some mass nouns signify non-physical concepts (e.g. peace), others something that can be made up of different kinds of things (e.g. trash), while some refer to liquids (e.g. gasoline). But some refer to a substance that's made up of individual units of the same thing (e.g. wheat, spaghetti, rice). I'm interested in that last category. Which mass noun in that category has the largest individual units? The biggest I've thought of is "bacon". [more inside]
posted by Kattullus at 5:09 PM PST - 77 comments

What kind of designing pro do I need and where do I find them?

I need...a graphic artist? a website designer? or someone else? I made a Weebly website that has all the content I need, on all the pages I need. But it could look better. It feels like a simple job -- someone to just make what's there look better. Is that a thing that people do? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:01 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I join the broken ends of a pond filter/pump hose?

I'm having such a terrible time with the hose that goes from my filter/waterfall to the pump! [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 3:59 PM PST - 11 comments

Enrich my Web Accessibility Curriculum

I'm taking a bunch of web accessibility courses through DeQue University, in hopes of getting an accessibility certification in the next few months. I'd love some additional resources to supplement the information they provide. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 3:22 PM PST - 3 comments

The old hometown looks the same

Can anyone recommend a gym in San Antonio, TX that you know for a fact offers a guest pass? I'm in Monte Vista, so somewhere in the greater downtown area would be great, but is not required. Thank you!
posted by 8603 at 2:38 PM PST - 2 comments

Why am I invisible to men?

I'm a woman in my late 20s. My entire life, I've never made it onto men's radars as a romantic option unless I've assertively positioned myself there. Even in online dating where women are supposedly flooded with male attention and interest, I sent out more messages than I received, and most of them went unanswered. What's wrong with me? Am I simply too ugly? Not womanly or desirable enough? [more inside]
posted by Penny Dreadful at 1:52 PM PST - 44 comments

Why was I just mindlessly browsing YouTube? Please help me un-see this.

Not sure how this came up in my suggestions, but ugh, I really need to burn this image of a certain household pest out of my mind. It's not graphic but is gross and unpleasant, and gave me nightmares. (Link in description.) [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 1:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Summer of dinner picnics

Making the best of a bad situation, I need picnic dinner ideas + recipes for most weeknights this summer. Ideally:
  1. Quick to prep + cook
  2. Kid friendly
  3. Vegetarian friendly (meat can be a part, just easily added or removed per preference)
  4. Healthy
  5. Low-moderate expense
  6. Will keep in a cooler from 6am to 6pm -- no reheating!
[more inside]
posted by this-apoptosis at 12:38 PM PST - 17 comments

Roses that grow big hips?

I’m growing three happy rosa rugosa thanks to advice from Ask, but they have very small hips compared to the cherry sized hips on beach roses in Maine. Is this because it’s a different variety or is it something about the environment? The flowers look identical.
posted by ftm at 11:30 AM PST - 2 comments

Safely Storing My Cans

Can I safely store cans of food under the stove? Reference photos here [more inside]
posted by Goblin Barbarian at 11:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Is there a legal term for this type of deceptive behavior?

Since I don't know what to call it (duh!) here are a couple examples. Thank you. [more inside]
posted by rada at 10:48 AM PST - 10 comments

ISO university that offers online CHEM with intensive in person LABS

well, this is proving to be a bit of an elusive unicorn - yes, many schools offer hybrid online/in person CHEM but how to find the ones that offer a **very condensed in person lab option** - ie one you could travel for if you had to, and do all at once, efficiently. If you've never tried to look for this particular magical beast you probably think it's something a quick google can solve. Alas, this has not been my experience.. details inside [more inside]
posted by elgee at 10:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Need a course in godmothering, stat

I am stumped about how to navigate family relationships which to others might seem normal. [more inside]
posted by Ender's Friend at 10:16 AM PST - 26 comments

TSH high but no antibodies present. What does it mean and what next?

Thyroid question - My TSH is above where it should be but my new PCP says there's no need to treat because of an absence of antibodies. Help me understand what this means and what my next steps are. [more inside]
posted by matcha action at 9:42 AM PST - 18 comments

Outlook, meet Excel.

How can I get an Outlook account to write to Excel? [more inside]
posted by Vhanudux at 9:26 AM PST - 4 comments

Old school Thailand beach huts

In the early 2000's I spent a lot of time in Thailand on relatively undeveloped beaches staying in huts like this. A string of beach huts on a beach, no town or village to speak of and a restaurant or two along the beach. I haven't been to Asia for 10 years or so and I know that Thailand has undergone a huge amount of development in that time. My question is, do those type of places still exist, and can you direct me to them? Thailand preferably, but open to other suggestions also.
posted by conifer at 8:51 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me choose a relevant and useful PM-type certification

My manager and her higher-ups are very invested in training for me and my team, which is mostly made up of independent contributors. They're planning to pay for some sort of project management certification for me - a certification of my choosing. But which one??? [more inside]
posted by invincible summer at 8:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Boat Naming for Dummies

How do I get a decal designed and printed for my wife's new kayak? [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 8:39 AM PST - 5 comments

TV and movies of the last 20 years that capture that 70s feeling.

What modern shows and movies have a 70s/early 80s aesthetic (but with modern pacing) [more inside]
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 8:22 AM PST - 33 comments

Can I put music on my iPhone and iPad using a CD? Using iTunes Store?

I want to be able to have music on my iPhone and iPod classic. I’d also like to have a physical CD if possible. Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 7:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Genetic diversity and life-history strategies

This previous genetics question led to this answer, with links to some fascinating papers about genetic diversity. These papers have led me to a random smattering of questions, below the cut. I'd be happy for answers to (or informed speculation about) any or all of them. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by clawsoon at 6:43 AM PST - 4 comments

When did the cartoonist Charles Schulz say this thing about dogs?

It was something along the lines of "In the morning, when everyone in the neighborhood is leaving for work, I always wonder what the dogs will do all day." [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:24 AM PST - 1 comment

Can I try to negotiate via counter-offer even if I'm bluffing?

I'm expecting a job offer sometime next week for a job that I'm pretty sure I would be happy to take on the terms that I expect they'll offer me. Now is the time to be a little selfish though, so if I can get a better compensation package then I want to do that. Can I still try to use a counter-offer to drive up my starting pay? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:24 AM PST - 19 comments

Check out that mote in your eye!

Is there a good way to seriously analyze my involvement in a failed work project, for my own benefit? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:23 AM PST - 4 comments

May 19

Recovering from flying half the night

For work reasons I need to spend more or less a week per month for the foreseeable future in a city 4 hours away by plane with a 2 hour time difference. The only direct flight is 10PM to 4AM (accounting for time change), with the return flight 5AM to 7AM (again, local times on both ends). This gives me 2-3 days of jetlag/sleep disruption hangover on each end, with big effort needed to get back to my usual 11PM-6AM sleep pattern. How can I recover quicker? Give me all your road warrior tricks! [more inside]
posted by I claim sanctuary at 10:30 PM PST - 17 comments

Beyoncé at Coachella?

I was able to see the performance the day after it aired on a streaming website. Naturally, when I wanted to watch it again today I found that it's been scrubbed from youtube, streaming sites, etc. I don't want to try downloading it illegally, but I've been wondering whether it might be released officially at some point. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by Lurch at 10:14 PM PST - 1 comment

Movie in which kids perform Death of a Salesman?

We're stumped. [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 9:24 PM PST - 12 comments

Where do I get big rolls of wrapping paper?

I'm tired of buying tiny rolls of wrapping paper. At Christmas, we picked up a giant double-sided roll of wrapping paper from Costco. It was awesome! But now I need non-holiday paper. Where can I get similar quality AND quantity? I'm very unimpressed with the offerings from Target, Walgreens, Walmart...
posted by WowLookStars at 8:38 PM PST - 16 comments

Cleaning up iCloud storage/deleting pictures

I'm a semi-recent convert to the iPhone and didn't realize for a while that it was automatically uploading everything I saved to the camera roll to my iCloud account. I don't actually want 95% of those pictures backed up, and now I'm getting the message that I'm out of space. What is the easiest way to delete these and avoid this in the future? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 7:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Should my sister get a puppy while starting an IOP?

My sister reserved a puppy from a breeder and can bring it home at the end of May. She has also been looking for an intensive outpatient program for severe, lifelong depression and PTSD. She was hoping to complete the 8 week program before getting the dog, but thanks to an insurance issue, she can't start until after June 1. Is it advisable to take on puppy ownership while completing an IOP? [more inside]
posted by leftover_scrabble_rack at 7:32 PM PST - 9 comments

Stand up Paddle Board size

Will a 9'6 stand up paddle board be slow or is it the way to go for a light weight guy? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 7:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Pre-colonoscopy meals for vegetarians

I've got a lacto-ovo vegetarian parent with an upcoming colonoscopy who is at a loss about what to eat. They've already got the ingredient list of some dos (and many donts). What are some good meals to get them through the next four days?
posted by cichlid ceilidh at 5:52 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I move on?

About three months removed from a toxic friendship, though only one week of no contact. He's still on my mind all the time and I feel empty, alone and unable to really connect with others. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Duet for muezzin and swan.

What kinds of birds might I hear on the Nile in Luxor late at night? [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 2:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Mac Mini, or other computer setup for writing, research, and web?

I have around $900 to spend on a new computer setup. It will be used primarily for writing, research (reading documents, etc), and normal, light web browsing (so like, Metafilter type stuff, youtube, etc., but no serious video tasks). Do I want a Mac Mini? I think I want a Mac Mini. [more inside]
posted by still bill at 2:09 PM PST - 22 comments


Where and how would you start attacking this hot, steaming pile of health and overall life issues? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder at 1:49 PM PST - 26 comments

You/your kid on ADD meds. NOT hungry. Best way to replace electrolytes?

Up front: the parents are going to talk to the prescribing physician. I just want to hear first-hand experiences. I have a student who just started ADHD (inattentive subtype) meds, and it is like night and day. Everyone's psyched that it's working so well, but his hands are shaking because he isn't eating because of the appetite suppressant end of stimulants. If this is you, what do you use to replace electrolytes when you just can't eat full meals? [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 1:32 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I discuss expectations RE online IMs/friendships?

My previous partner had a whole other life going on online, which I only discovered after 1 1/2 years together. How can I better lay out my boundaries in future without looking unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 1:23 PM PST - 13 comments

Smartphone/Tablet Productivity Hacks

Tips, tricks and best practices to get it done with a tablet or smartphone as your primary computer. [more inside]
posted by DoreenMichele at 1:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Teenager wants to spend a month in Las Vegas

My son, who will turn 18 in July, plans to move to Las Vegas for the month of August before going to college in September. I think this is a terrible idea because (a) I'd prefer that he spend more of the summer working, and (b) if he's not going to be doing anything productive, I think there are places to travel he'd find a lot more rewarding/ enjoyable. How would you approach conversations about this with him? [more inside]
posted by metasarah at 1:09 PM PST - 42 comments

My car broke and now everything is ruined.

I need to drive once a month or so, for a few days. What's my best option? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 12:53 PM PST - 19 comments

Home base: PDX. 10 hour time limit. What amazing experience can we have?

A romantic partner has 10 hours with me on my birthday (next Wednesday) before an evening flight. We're in our upper 30's, love novel experiences, prefer interactive experiences over passive ones, and live in the Portland area. He has suggested we spoil ourselves with something fun. A day trip to the coast was floated. But, anything that gives us an opportunity for an amazing memory is what we're after. And, anywhere we can drive to within said time limit is fair game. What should we do?
posted by pdxhiker at 12:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Another Tenant vs. Management vs. Mice Question

I've got mice in my place, and I'm not satisfied with the way my apartment's management is addressing the issue. I'd like the hive mind to help me figure out whether my take on the situation and sequence of next steps are reasonable. [more inside]
posted by alphanerd at 11:34 AM PST - 4 comments

POS system for retail and cafe sales

I own a small retail store that is expanding and adding a coffee shop. We want customers to be able to purchase retail items at the coffee bar, but it seems like using our existing retail POS would be clunky for the purpose of sending food and drink orders to the barista/prep station. Is there a software option that's designed to serve both purposes? Feature wishlist inside. [more inside]
posted by roast beef at 10:17 AM PST - 3 comments

Which weather leads to congested nasal passages?

Is it dry and sunny or cloudy/humid? Or just the changes between them... [more inside]
posted by noelpratt2nd at 9:51 AM PST - 14 comments

Father's day gifts for a drummer?

This will be my husband's first father's day and I want to get a surprise gift for him, a new snare drum. But should I? [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 9:47 AM PST - 11 comments

London, for those who have been to London before

I'm heading out to London next week and looking for some suggestions - I was there just this last September and have done most of the main touristy things, but am back to visit a friend. I will be staying near Chalk Farm tube station. I will be there five nights so suggestions for day trips and/or overnight trips are also good. [more inside]
posted by scribbler at 8:49 AM PST - 12 comments

Editing Power of BBEdit in a More Flexible File Storage Structure?

I use BBEdit as a word processor (since I write in Mark-Up rather than WYSIWYG) so I can enjoy all the editing power (e.g. GREP search/replace). Problem: BBEdit relies on Finder for storage, ok for clearly-defined projects, but not so much for notebooking/spitballing. I'd like to use a gutbucket organization system (e.g. Evernote), but have BBEdit's editing power when I open a given item. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:11 AM PST - 8 comments

Story ID: mid/early 20thC, British, child buys 'fire dogs' at auction

The main plot point is that they see 'fire dogs' up for auction and feel compelled to buy them, expecting them to be animal dogs, not the metal implements you use in a log-burning fireplace. Read in the 1980s, but written or set earlier, pre-1950s I think. I remember it as a book where each chapter was a separate adventure, but all about the same charaters. [more inside]
posted by AFII at 2:15 AM PST - 3 comments

Smelly question

I put a brand new jacket over a brand new tshirt on my clean body. After about an hour or two, the armpits of the jackets were smelling a bit sweaty. My armpits didn't smell and neither did my tshirt. The jacket is polyester lined which I guess caused this. BUT why did nothing else smell? And is there anything I can do to stop this? I was wearing antiperspirant and didn't feel sweaty or anything. :(
posted by KateViolet at 1:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Similar acoustic transition in two songs (Trigger - suicide theme)

What's with very similar acoustic transitions in these two songs - Blink-182's Adam's Song - around 00:43 onwards and repeating thru track, kind of a down beat cycle - I'm not remotely musical so [more inside] [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 1:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Using a database to organize a construction company's equipment

I have a passing familiarity with Microsoft Access and Libre Base. Should I use a database to keep track of my company's construction equipment and vehicles? [more inside]
posted by jwhite1979 at 12:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Truncated Courtship- Launching a Successful Marriage in 45 Days

I have been seeing someone for a few months and need to decide in about 45 days whether we will get married. How can I spend this time getting to know him better in the areas that will be most crucial in laying the foundation for a good marriage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 AM PST - 42 comments

Gonna wash this weed right out of my pee

If I'm a daily stoner who has 30 days to quit before a urine drug test, what can I do to improve my chances of passing? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Quit a bad habit forever

I have a bad habit I am desperate to get rid of before I go bald. What's something I can do, without maiming myself or looking ridiculous at work, so I'll never itch my head again? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:22 AM PST - 12 comments

How do I convince my husband my education benefits our family?

My husband thinks my studying for a degree is selfish. How do I convince him otherwise? [more inside]
posted by Carravanquelo at 12:10 AM PST - 20 comments

May 18

How should I pick which one-shot tabletop RPGs to sign up for?

I've been trying to get into RPGs and LARPs but my experiences have been uneven. I've signed up for my very first local gaming convention. How do I find the events that are likely to match my preferences? [more inside]
posted by phoenixy at 11:07 PM PST - 4 comments

Could I just have half a glass of wine? Twice a week?

I'm not a heavy drinker, but I enjoy wine for the nuances of its flavor. However, my partner doesn't drink wine at all and I'm a very cheap date who gets drunk on a dime. How can I drink wine at home on occasion without pouring out most of the bottle? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 9:39 PM PST - 27 comments

I need an injection...of confidence/self-esteem (trainwreck edition)

My position ended, for which I am glad. It was a totally dysfunctional environment. But now I need to shake off the thicket of lies the boss told his best friend, HR, his boss, and Risk Management (his friend also lied to him about me). [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 9:16 PM PST - 9 comments

When to rate-lock a mortgage?

I'm applying for a mortgage, whose rate is currently floating. The loan officer claims that the rate will move unpredictably and that we should email daily for an updated quote until we are ready to lock the rate. We've detected a pretty obvious pattern over the last few weeks: they reduce the fee waiver a few hundred dollars each time, and then when the waiver reaches zero they raise the rate 0.125%. Is the loan officer just fucking with us? [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 8:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Bollywood me!

I have Netflix, Hulu, and Amazon Prime. I do not have any normal TV or cable service. What should I be watching? [more inside]
posted by ErisLordFreedom at 8:50 PM PST - 9 comments

Revisiting a decision about a family secret

This was my question seven years ago, about divulging to my dad that his recently-deceased mother had made a deathbed confession about having had a child and given it up for adoption as a very young woman. I’m revisiting my decision not to tell him, and seek perspectives. [more inside]
posted by goofyfoot at 8:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Tell me about your experiences bringing kids to Tahiti

Bringing 8 adults and 5 boys from 2-4 years old to Tahiti in October. If you've brought kids to this honeymoon mainstay before, what tips and tricks do you have for us? Places to recommend/avoid, overall warnings, and ideas appreciated. Basically, what do you wish you'd known before you went? [more inside]
posted by nadise at 7:33 PM PST - 2 comments

Dating in real life, with complications

Explain this to me like I'm five. More details than anyone needs below le fold. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 7:25 PM PST - 14 comments

Where to buy bulk (150+) custom printed cooler bags?

My wife and I run a small farm with a CSA and we are looking to buy custom-printed insulated cooler bags to make for easier pickups and transport of weekly shares. Has anybody had success getting custom printed cooler bags online? Any particular vendors you can recommend? Ali Baba has a ton, but it's hard to tell what's reputable. These don't have to be super fancy nor keep things cold that long, but any insulation is better than none.
posted by ghostpony at 6:20 PM PST - 7 comments

how to unlink iDevices on a shared iCloud account?

My family and I share an iCloud account, with several iDevices between us. Unfortunately, this means my photos were being synced to other devices without me knowing it. Their photos are also synced to my devices, and my devices sometimes get missed calls from people who call their devices, and app downloads are synced between devices. How can I make these information leaks stop? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 6:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Finding meaning outside infertility

How does a single 39 year old woman find purpose after two and a half years of IVF and miscarriages? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:00 PM PST - 15 comments

I feel like I keep asking pants-related questions

Pants question #2: I run. I like running, heck, even love it at times. But where are the running leggings/pants/capris etc that have proper pockets???? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 5:42 PM PST - 16 comments

Tide vs Tide w/Downy - isn't fabric softener just more plastic?

I wash my clothing/sheets/etc w/Tide HE, never used fabric softener because why would I want to put even more plastic in my life and on my body, which is, best I can figure, what a fabric softener does. A neighbor moved, gave me a bunch of ~ stuff ~ including full bottle Tide w/Downy. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 5:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for suggestions on dealing with a litter problem.

Anonymous litter like used food packaging has been appearing in the yard and waste bins, and it's not a new development. It's been going on for months. It's not all blown in; there's definitely some activity in the area when the home owner isn't present. [more inside]
posted by redrawturtle at 5:09 PM PST - 11 comments

Make my IKEA table sturdier

I have an IKEA Jokkmokk table. It has wooden legs that use metal bolts to affix them to a metal piece on the underside of the table. (Here’s an illustration.) No matter how tightly I twist the bolts, after an hour or two of use, they get loose again, and the table gets a little wobbly. I’m tired of climbing under there. How can I fix this permanently?
posted by ocherdraco at 4:55 PM PST - 6 comments

What is your experience with thyroid drugs side effects like Cytomel?

My doctor seems to think I have hypothyroidism and has prescribed Cytomel. I've often wondered if my symptoms up until now have included hair loss - but also some Cytomel users have claimed hair loss as a side effect also (something I'd like to avoid)... Can any hypothyroid sufferers help me understand the drugs and side effects? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 4:39 PM PST - 13 comments

Kid friendly spaces in the Atlanta airport?

Are there any playgrounds or other kid-friendly spaces in the Atlanta airport? The directory and website have nothing, and while travel sites claim there are kid-friendly areas they are hopelessly vague. I would include more detail but I'm dictating this with my phone in one hand while I carry an ornery toddler in the other!
posted by Tehhund at 4:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Name That Bug

I found this dead bug in my bed. What is it? [more inside]
posted by tuesdayschild at 3:11 PM PST - 14 comments

Feeling peeved and resentful: How to work less, but still progress?

Just over a year ago I accepted a counter-offer to stay at my current company. I accepted on the basis that I was given additional responsibility, not just more money. So we agreed that I would continue to do my existing role 70% of the time and spend the additional 30% on a new project, which would eventually become a full-time role in a year or two. [more inside]
posted by Britchick35 at 3:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Best low-code tools to get started, free or low-cost?

Because of Reasons I am interested in exploring low-code development platforms for a web/mobile project. For starters I am looking for something that is not a big investment but that would allow me to build more than what is allowed in a typical 14-day trial period. [more inside]
posted by cgk at 2:51 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I use my metadata in photos to track down a restaurant to review?

I want to write a bad review for a sushi place in Shanghai but I can't find it. Long story short, I got a bunch of food I didn't want and was charged a ton for it. Tried to fight it on the card, no dice. (have a feeling the owner's done this before) So I'd like to warn off people on TripAdvisor but I can't figure out where it is. But l I have two photos to go off of. Help me find this sushi place. [more inside]
posted by rileyray3000 at 2:20 PM PST - 16 comments

Which is the most durable computer?

Which commercially available personal computer could be expected to remain operational longest without replacement parts? Assume a few hours of use daily and an unlimited supply of user-input peripherals that might break down down mechnically (e.g. mouse/trackpad, keyboard). [more inside]
posted by phrontist at 1:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Do "smart" powerstrips damage electronics?

Do "smart" powerstrips damage electronics? I feel like they do, and have lost a device probably because of it, but can't find any solid information about it. [more inside]
posted by lpctstr; at 12:56 PM PST - 17 comments

Illustrator to LaserCut: What am I doing wrong?

The makerspace I belong to has a laser cutter run by LaserCut (not sure which version). I do my art in Adobe Illustrator, then export to DXF, then import to LaserCut. Somewhere along the way the scale gets all out of wack and I can't figure out what is going on. [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 12:16 PM PST - 5 comments

Android Youtube Player Recommendation?

Are there any decent standalone Youtube players for Android tablets that can play a channel's videos in order, and pick up where last paused? [more inside]
posted by BenevolentActor at 11:33 AM PST - 2 comments

mystery muscle aches

So, you know how the day after a strenuous lower body workout--say, lots of heavy-weight squats and deadlifts, or much stair-climbing--you get that intense achiness in glutes and hamstrings that makes it painful and difficult to stand up/sit down, or go down stairs, or pick things up off the floor or whatever? Yeah, so I've been having that daily for the past several weeks. However--I have been doing, trust me, no lower body exercise whatsoever. ?????? [more inside]
posted by Kat Allison at 11:26 AM PST - 15 comments

Real workouts, delivered virtually

My subscription to Fitstar/Fitbit coach recently expired and before I renewed again, I figured to check out the rest of the field, if there's anything more worthwhile out there. I generally do their 25-40 minute program 4-5 times a week. [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 11:14 AM PST - 3 comments

Small goals can be good goals

What small habits/goals/activities do you have for yourself that keep you engaged with life and doing new things? [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 11:08 AM PST - 19 comments

Executive career / interview coaching in Toronto?

A friend is looking for ideas on how to be a more compelling candidate during the in-person interview process for "director" level IT management positions in the education, civil service, medical etc sectors -- in Toronto. [more inside]
posted by seanmpuckett at 9:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Easy Peasy just leave me a freaking voicemail

What is the easiest way to get voicemail for a Japanese cell number? I would like a solution that is free and can be accessed via any web platform, but I have both an android and an iPhone to work with. [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 9:35 AM PST - 0 comments

Can you help identify this china pattern?

I am looking for whatever help I can find identifying this china pattern. It is from a full set that our family has only known as "Old Imari," but it doesn't match the classic Royal Crown Derby pattern of the same name. One plate has a small sticker next to the maker's mark that says "Japan." (the blue spoon in the background is not part of the set, in case that throws anyone).
posted by craven_morhead at 9:01 AM PST - 2 comments

WWMFD with this housing situation?

What would Metafilter do with this certain housing situation? Perhaps this is more tolerable than I think but I am at my wits end with decisions. Please hope me or at this point--just tell me what to do. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 8:11 AM PST - 19 comments

One bark over the line...

Sweet Jesus, I was shocked awake this morning at 4:58 a.m. by my neighbor's dog barking right outside my bedroom window. This is far from the first time this has happened. I am going to send her an email today but don't know what to put in it, what tone to take. I want to be firm, but not come off as unhinged even though I'm seething and dead tired. What things should I say and what should I not say? [more inside]
posted by fatedblue at 8:09 AM PST - 22 comments

Where to sell accordion

What is the best place to try to sell a fairly nice (~ $400 a few years ago, in very good condition) accordion? Is there some kind of forum for accordion players that has an active marketplace? There is no music store locally where I could consign it so online it will have to be.
posted by HotToddy at 7:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Are MLMs necessarily exploitative?

I work for a multi-level marketing (MLM) company at corporate headquarters. I have been there a couple years, and it seemed like any other company to me -- essentially honest people making good products, that just happen to be sold this weird way. But now this MLM thread has me reading this [pdf] absolute page-turner and I'm thinking... well, I'm thinking that my employer could be just as evil as the MLM in the book. How would I know? I don't have anything to do with distributors. How can I find out if my employer is a "good" MLM or a "bad" one? Can an ethical person ever work for any MLM? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:11 AM PST - 20 comments

Baby gates at night?

If you live in a 2-story (or more) house with the bedrooms on a top floor and you have a child, do you keep the baby gate closed and locked at night? [more inside]
posted by Bebo at 6:47 AM PST - 39 comments

How to get a random IMDB page? used to have a link ( or /title) that would give you a random actor's (or movie's) page. In the last few months they appear to have quietly removed it. Is there any way, perhaps some third party site or something, that would provide this functionality?
posted by Naberius at 6:26 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me contact someone from Amazon (UK) who can actually help me

What I really want is a phone number for Amazon customer services in the UK/Ireland of sufficient seniority to sort this out. Thank you! [more inside]
posted by LyzzyBee at 5:49 AM PST - 10 comments

Where to buy non-alcoholic spirits in NYC

I want to pick up a bottle of non-alcoholic spirits this weekend, like Seedlip. Seedlip itself would be ideal, but their website claims it's only available at a couple fancy restaurants. A cursory search of Astor Wines doesn't turn it up. Does anyone know of a place to buy a bottle in NYC or, failing that, a similar substitute? (Bitters and etc. are lovely, but I'm on the hunt specifically for a liquor substitute.)
posted by postcommunism at 5:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Less cowbell, more sledgehammer

Can you help me find more music videos similar to Peter Gabriel's Sledgehammer video? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 5:42 AM PST - 13 comments

How dangerous are UV manicures?

I was at the gym this morning and saw on the ticker tape at the bottom of Good Morning America a brief mention of dermatologists warning that UV lights used during gel manicures increase the risk of cancer. How dangerous are they? Should I stop having gel manicures? [more inside]
posted by srrh at 5:42 AM PST - 9 comments

How to anonymize donations - and withdrawals - within a small group

I'm part of a small community of members who share an intense common interest but come from widely disparate backgrounds and means. We're wondering if it's possible to set up an anonymous system in which some members could donate funds, and others withdraw, so we could all participate without any interpersonal weirdness or feelings of obligation. [more inside]
posted by itstheclamsname at 5:02 AM PST - 12 comments

What Injury Did I Incur While Doing Yoga - It still hurts.....

So I haven't been working out or doing yoga - at all - when I decided to engage and pick up yoga after a long hiatus. In the midst of the lesson, I was edging myself down and attempting to turn over on my side when ALL OF A SUDDEN I felt like I was being stabbed and a sharp pain permeated on my right side around my rib area. It's still hurting - non-abating - 3 weeks later. WTF did I do to myself and how do I recover faster?
posted by watercarrier at 12:12 AM PST - 10 comments

May 17

Best prepaid SIM for 4G LTE data in Germany, Austria and Czech Republic?

I'll be vacationing for 2 weeks in July in these three countries and need to stay connected, ideally with tethering. [more inside]
posted by wutangclan at 11:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Peanut Butter Pondering

My spouse accidentally bought reduced-fat peanut butter instead of the usual kind. I tried it, and I can't cope with the different texture. No one else in this house eats peanut butter. What can I do with a large jar of reduced-fat creamy peanut butter with the seal cracked and precisely one spoonful removed from it? I don't want it to go to waste. That's a lot of peanut butter! And I really, really, really can't handle it in sandwiches. Ideally, I'd give it away, but it's open? Help!
posted by Rush-That-Speaks at 10:35 PM PST - 35 comments

How long should a dentist guarantee his work?

Trying to figure out if my expectations are calibrated correctly re: a failed crown. [more inside]
posted by praemunire at 9:30 PM PST - 9 comments

New to Square POS & Appointments - help?

I'm new to Square POS & Appointments. I have some questions for our new business, and can't seem to find either the answers or work-arounds I'm looking for. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by Zosia Blue at 8:13 PM PST - 2 comments

Your Amsterdam and Prague recommendations

So, we're off on our belated honeymoon on Saturday to Amsterdam and Prague for 10 days, evenly-ish split between the 2. [more inside]
posted by atomicstone at 7:49 PM PST - 20 comments

Specialized therapy needed in/near Nashville, TN

A loved one is in need of intensive help. Can anyone personally recommend an excellent, accredited therapist/therapy center in/near Nashville, TN who specializes in a few key areas? [more inside]
posted by lock sock and barrel at 7:45 PM PST - 1 comment

Adolescent Artist Takes His Show on the Road

I want to get my 15-year-old a laptop that can support running photoshop and being connected to a drawing tablet (and running YouTube incessantly forever), hopefully without spending a billion dollars. I'm lost trying to figure out what specs he needs and whether to go Mac or Windows. [more inside]
posted by jeoc at 7:43 PM PST - 5 comments

What Do You Mean I Can’t Take Medication?

I’ve had a rash spreading on my face for 5 days and it’s now leapt to my hand. My dermatologist says that since I’m newly pregnant, I can’t use any topical creams or steroids and can only use wet compresses unless I can get my obstetrician to okay category B or C drugs. My complication is that I haven’t even seen an OB yet as I’m only seven weeks along, and I can’t get in touch with the one I chose! What can I do for safe relief tonight? [more inside]
posted by Yoko Ono's Advice Column at 7:15 PM PST - 17 comments

I've pet that dog vs I've petted that dog

OK, so the impetus for this question comes from this 9yo's Twitter account. And a related Mashable article that uses the same construction. [more inside]
posted by peakcomm at 5:20 PM PST - 33 comments

Can I hear what you hear?

Seeking recommendations for durable over-ear headphones. [more inside]
posted by ferret branca at 5:17 PM PST - 9 comments

Bird Eye Tourist and Theme Park Maps

I'm looking for samples of illustrated theme park or tourist birds eye maps -- not the simple to scale kind, but the more cartoony, exaggerated elements type. Samples inside.. [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 4:38 PM PST - 15 comments

the call of the redwoods

I'll be driving from Oakland to the Redwood National Park area next week for three days of exploring. Got any tips for me? Must-visit locations, spectacular views, exciting hikes, cute nearby towns? I'm also looking for a place to find lodging for a few nights that provides a sensible base for my daytime excursions.
posted by roger ackroyd at 4:17 PM PST - 5 comments

I Need Help with reCaptcha

I used a website builder called Serif. Serif has an email host that uses Captcha v.1. But Google discontinued v.1 and now only offers v.3 and v.2. I can't figure out how to incorporate the new recaptcha into my webbuilder's email host. Without that, people can't use the preorder form on my website. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 2:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Boosting Cell Phone Signal at Home

I just bought a house that is apparently in a cell phone coverage dead zone. I get two bars on my iPhone at best - the internet barely works at all, and even voice calls cut in and out. This house is right in the middle of the city (Raleigh, North Carolina), but in a wooded area on the far edge of the neighborhood near a creek. [more inside]
posted by something something at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments

And a time to every purpose, under heaven

When faced with the imminent, matter-of-weeks death of a loved one, who is sound of mind even as their body inexorably is giving out, how do you cope? I am not just looking for tips and strategies and reading recommendations, but also for personal stories of loss where you anticipated the death, particularly when you loved the person who is dying but found them very hard to spend time with, and how you, individual Mefite, prepared yourself for it/made peace with it. [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 11:49 AM PST - 16 comments

Experience with a fixed wireless internet service?

A WISP is offering me a deal on wireless internet, but I'm wondering how reliable the service really is. Looking it up, it uses a Mimosa Networks' 24 GHz antenna on my rooftop to connect to the WISP network. I assume it's more reliable than satellite? Will it cut out when it's too rainy/windy?
posted by mhh5 at 11:27 AM PST - 13 comments

Do you remember this blog post on social class?

A long time ago I read a blog post about categorizing social classes. The basics of it were that social class is not just a straight line defined by wealth, but that things were also separated into silos, like working in the arts or academics as opposed to finance. [more inside]
posted by solmyjuice at 11:27 AM PST - 6 comments

"Not qualified" for job at former office?

Last year I worked a long-term temp job for an academic journal. The position lasted the better part of the year and I left with a good relationship with my department. My former supervisor volunteered to be my reference on all jobs going forward, and has given me good recommendations for places where I've applied. The temp agency who placed me there posted a position on LinkedIn for which I'm qualified -- many of the responsibilities overlapped with what I was doing, but has a stronger editorial bent. When I contacted my recruiter about being submitted for the job, she said that because I "already worked there" I "wouldn't be eligible for the position". [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 11:06 AM PST - 25 comments

It Should Help Me Make Money, Not Lose Money

I want to start a side hustle of doing bookkeeping. Please help me think through what I need, and avoid costly mistakes. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 11:02 AM PST - 2 comments

Apartment hunting Philly frustration: Part 2

Apartment newbie here. Do I get a cheaper apartment now based on my minimal summer school budget or wait until fall when I will have more funding and can probably get a place more suitable to my needs and in my desired location? I'm currently in Philadelphia. [more inside]
posted by dancer4life at 10:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Interview tips when your qualifications don't match the description

I got recommended for a job that I am, on paper, pretty unqualified for (but it sounds interesting and it's something I could see myself doing well at). The initial screening stages went okay, but how do I keep from psyching myself out before/during the in-person interview, where they'll probably be asking me hard questions about things I don't know? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 10:27 AM PST - 10 comments

How can I incorporate discipline back into my life?

I want to spend my time more wisely like I did in university [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:50 AM PST - 10 comments

Summer playlist request

What songs say "love, NYC, and summer" to you? New and classics welcome.
posted by captainscared at 9:50 AM PST - 39 comments

Help me find a Doonesbury!

I'm looking for what I believe is an old Doonesbury comic. In it, a character who is a radio DJ is shown playing tennis. He explains to his partner that, since he's started playing classical records, he can just leave the station to take tennis breaks. In the final panel, he is shown in-studio announcing the classical piece he's just played. [more inside]
posted by grobstein at 9:49 AM PST - 9 comments

Do mainstream Universities these days let you study remotely?

I want to travel around Europe while studying coursework undergraduate or Masters. I'm happy to visit the University monthly and turn up for exams or other deliverables. I'm not specifically talking about online courses. I'm talking about programs and academics I'd like to learn from. I would like the qualification but the ranking of the University is not important to me if the context is good. Anyone have direct experience with this? Thanks.
posted by vizsla at 9:32 AM PST - 8 comments

Need a new rain jacket

My 15 year old Marmot Precip jacket has finally worn out completely, and I need a replacement. In the interval, Marmot seems to have become more fashionable + expensive, so I'm looking for suggestions for equally good but more affordable options if they're out there. Bonus points for jackets that don't contain the usual litany of rain-proofing toxins.
posted by ryanshepard at 9:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Attention English Teachers - Looking for Short Story Collections

I'm going to teach a short story class and am looking for THE BEST anthologies for one of the following: (1) Best American stories (all centuries) (2) Best 20th century stories (global - all countries) or (3) Best 19th century stories (global - all countries). It needs to be available now on Amazon.
posted by nancydee at 9:17 AM PST - 3 comments

A Document Manager/Browser for a Small Company

A small company I work with needs a small-scale knowledge management solution. Google Drive doesn't offer a "curated" enough interface, while something like Sharepoint would probably be too large and unwieldy. [more inside]
posted by chickenandwine at 8:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Ghosties for 3 year olds

Nearly 3 yo loves ghosts (of the sheet looking variety, not Poltergeist). We've been looking for picture books with them in, but have had no success so far. The ideal would be a lot like Funnybones, but any suggestions would be great. Thanks!
posted by threetwentytwo at 8:13 AM PST - 20 comments

Affordable wines for anniversary party

My parents are celebrating their 50th anniversary at a place where we bring our own alcohol. There will be a bartender on the premises to open and pour. My family doesn't drink all that much, and when we do, it's beer. I'm looking for affordable red and white wines for 50-60 people. [more inside]
posted by gladly at 7:41 AM PST - 18 comments

What paper should I use for large format painting?

I'm looking to get back into painting, and I have a few ideas for works planned out. I'm an abstract painter and I want to work on a large scale—on the order of square metres. Last time I painted someone else was bankrolling me, so I was able to use rolls of really wide, really sturdy professional art paper. I don't have that luxury anymore. What kind of paper can I get away with using? [more inside]
posted by Panthalassa at 6:54 AM PST - 7 comments

Voicemail is for my EARS, not my EYES

I have a down-and-dirty basic Samsung smartphone; it's been working fine for my needs. My only problem is - EACH and EVERY TIME I get a voicemail, I also get an additional prompt to "tap here to change your visual voicemail password". How can I turn that prompt OFF? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Water stains on hardwood floors

I’m considering buying a condo. I like the floors, but there are some water stains where a previous owner left potted plants sitting on the floor. Is this something that’s fixable with refinishing, or am I looking at having to either live with it or install new flooring? [more inside]
posted by Blue Jello Elf at 6:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Is it time for my fixed-amount tips to become unfixed?

At some point I picked up a couple rules of thumb for tipping: US$5 per night stayed to hotel housekeepers; US$1 per drink to a bartender when you're paying one at a time. I'd like some opinions on whether it's well past time for these rules of thumb to adjust to inflation. [more inside]
posted by Songdog at 6:43 AM PST - 44 comments

Hi, I have cancer

I received a diagnosis of DCIS about two weeks ago, following a biopsy. Breast surgeon suspects underlying invasive cancer, perhaps still stage 0, could be stage 1 or 2. Because of the size of the tumor and all the other reasons, I am choosing a double mastectomy with no reconstruction. Surgery is next Wednesday, early in the morning, and is outpatient. [more inside]
posted by sockoffleagulls at 5:32 AM PST - 21 comments

In search of somewhere peaceful for Fourth of July weekend

We are located in San Jose, CA and would like to go somewhere with no or minimal fireworks this Fourth of July. [more inside]
posted by massofintuition at 3:38 AM PST - 7 comments

May 16

Help me find these talon/pointy earrings

I saw someone wearing gold stud earrings that I really liked last week. They were small but looked like little talons or horns with a slight curve. No more than 1/2" to 3/4" long. Very poor sketch here. Anyone have an idea of where I could find these? I've googled talon/pointy studs with no luck.
posted by arnicae at 9:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Journal prompts, but the same ones every day

I'm thinking about journaling daily about my day and any associated thoughts. The main purpose is to record things that happened so it can jog my memory when re-reading the entry. I want prompts for this. Questions along the lines of "Did you go anywhere (interesting) today?", "What did you wear?", "Did you buy anything and if so, what?" are what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 9:10 PM PST - 11 comments

This One Weird Shrub! Bees LOVE it!

There's this weird shrub, which is swarming with hundreds of bumblebees. I love bumblebees and I want to plant one of these in my own yard. What kind of shrub is it? I'm near Seattle. Pic 1, 2, 3. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 8:53 PM PST - 13 comments

Smooch smooch stab

Seeking examples of romantic horror movies where the protagonist and the antagonist fall in love with each other at some point during the course of the film. Romance should be a significant plot element, even if it all ends in bloodshed. Thanks!
posted by egeanin at 8:33 PM PST - 17 comments


I recently started playing Dragon Age: Inquisition and have been feeling a very strong urge to imagine/write/research more about my protagonist beyond the in-game lore. What are some narrative/historical/artistic/other sources that might be helpful in imagining the experiences of a woman who is denied an interior life from birth within an ordered religious society, but escapes and slowly discovers her own subjectivity, power, and spirituality? I'm looking less for fantasy, and more for tracing similar ideas in ethnographies, histories of witchcraft and slavery, autobiographies, etc. [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 8:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Cat pee smell in small room

So I moved into a new place and a month later I realize when my bedroom door is shut and the window is closed and I come back from a few days away... it reeks of cat pee. I do not own a cat. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by Dynex at 7:55 PM PST - 27 comments

Help me spread my gigabit internet all over my home! Lots of details...

Ok, here goes: I have Xfinity gigabit ethernet. I have pretty good coverage over all of my house, but with more smart home devices being added each year (some outside) and 4k streaming, torrenting, etc. being part of my weekly usage, I'd like to utilize my fire hose as well as I possibly can. [more inside]
posted by arm426 at 7:44 PM PST - 20 comments

Day Trips from London in Late June

I'll be vacationing in London for a week in late June, staying near Goldsmiths College in the southeast. I'd like to get out of the city for a day to see some of the surrounding area. I'm especially interested in medieval and Tudor period history, modern art, and nature walks. Happy to take the train or rent a car for the day, and looking to spend no more than about 2 hours of travel time each way.
posted by 4rtemis at 7:23 PM PST - 13 comments

My Waiting On List is ridiculous

How does one manage their time or stress levels when working on multiple projects when so many of these projects involve waiting on responses from people who take a long time to get back to you only to demand you reply to them IMMEDIATELY or it's over? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 6:46 PM PST - 9 comments

What can you tell me about the Lapp/Sami shaman Per Utsi?

I came across a brief mention of the man and his name and promises of amazing things he did, but no details or time periods, though possibly 20th century. Plenty of Per Utsis in the world, but this one doesn't seem to leap out on google. Not to me, at least. Anyone?
posted by BWA at 6:27 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I assess my health risks given my deceased mom's history?

Point blank: my mom died of a heart attack in her early 40s, when I was a kid. Prior to that she had a host of pretty significant health issues, but also really bad lifestyle habits. As I approach that age myself, I am increasingly worried about my own mortality. I want to know if any of her health issues/death were genetic things that I should be worried about, or purely lifestyle. How can I research this further? [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 5:51 PM PST - 15 comments

Staycation Advice for the non-neurotypical

[ADHD/anxiety filter] I am about to be off work for ten straight days. For a number of reasons, I haven't taken more than 3-4 days off work in nearly three years. This shouldn't be complicated, but my anxious, perfectionist, ADHD brain is trying to immobilize me into doing nothing but sit on the couch for ten days. I need advice on how to avoid that. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 5:42 PM PST - 11 comments

How to repair my self esteem and get past the heartbreak of not landing

I recently interviewed for a position in a different industry than the one I am currently in. Interview went so-so, I felt afterwards, didn’t have my hopes up. Few days later, got what I thought was a positive sign from the interviewer, and THEN got my hopes up, against my better judgment… few more days pass, and the position has been filled after I reached out once again. I’m crushed. I feel like I’ve mangled my chances at about 3 different interviews I’ve had over the past year and a half or so. How do I move on and learn from this, help myself feel better about the way things went, and get myself out of a stagnating job and work environment that is making me desperately unhappy? Garbled mess of self-pity within…. [more inside]
posted by wats at 5:11 PM PST - 12 comments


This is a follow up to the medical situation described here, but you don't need to read that one to understand this. My doctor has said I should get the BRCA genetic test done and is in the process of getting it approved by my insurance. After I left the appointment, my family said it's unnecessary. Which is is it? [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 4:50 PM PST - 17 comments

Silicon Valley internship - interview tips?

A student of mine with a strong background in data science is interviewing for an internship in Silicon Valley. They are from East Asia, and I'm helping them prepare for the language skills needed for their interview, but does anyone here have any helpful tips about interviewing for a job in Silicon Valley? Which questions should they prepare to answer? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:46 PM PST - 2 comments

How to best bed for a year?

I'm all moved in my new studio apartment (and loving it so far)! I'm unsure as to what the best option is for bedding, though. Right now, I'm using a $29 Coleman airbed on the floor as a stopgap. Your recommendations would be much appreciated! [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 3:28 PM PST - 32 comments

How can I improve my bow's grip to improve my... uh.... grip?

I shoot barebow recurve. I'd like to use plumbers' putty or Sugru to change the grip, and want to make sure I'm doing it right. [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 2:39 PM PST - 7 comments

dealing with a bad life coach?

Last year, I met a talented and bright life coach who seemed to have it together to help me. We worked on a business together and made a lot of plans. Then, a few weeks ago while I was experiencing some major job changes, she tried to get me to join a multi level marketing programme called MOBE. I was sceptical but she knew me and kept pushing my buttons until I finally stopped responding. [more inside]
posted by parmanparman at 2:38 PM PST - 9 comments

Going in on a gift with friends: awkwardness

Two friends and I agreed to go in on a gift for another friend. They want to spend much less than I do. (Bonus question: do you have gift ideas?) [more inside]
posted by whitelily at 2:32 PM PST - 17 comments

Can my birds eat this?

I bought a bunch of organic rainbow chard and noticed that the back sides are bumpy and rough. Is this a sign that it's bad or...? [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 2:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Issues with Namecheap Forwarding

I have a domain I bought through Namecheap. I set it up, using Namecheap, to redirect to my portfolio. 99% of the time it redirects - but once in a while, clicking a link to my domain for the first time in a while, I'll see Namecheap's "this domain has not been set up" message. [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 2:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Seeking a special sectional.

Mr. Millipede and I seek a sectional couch--specifically the kind that is sometimes called an "L shaped" or "corner couch." As always, we have a lot of requirements and we'd like your help. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 2:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Backing Up Photo's from Iphone to Google Drive

With my Iphone 6, my photo's and video's were automatically uploaded & backed up to my Google Drive each day when I was in an area with Wifi. I now have the Iphone X (10), and for the life of me cannot figure out how I turned this setting on. I have went through my Iphone 6 settings and cannot figure out how I did it, or where the settings to make this happen even are anymore. Everything matches with both of my phones..... Nothing has uploaded to my google drive folder since I switched phones....Any advice?
posted by TwilightKid at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Should we resign to play badminton with electric swatters all day long?

We've had a fly problem for a few years now, that has largely been outside. While a bummer, we've learned to live with it, but a recent series of invasions has us worried. Every time we fire up the crock-pot before leaving for work, a dozen or so black flies in the house when we get home. None have successfully breached the crockpot, but it's only a matter of time. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 12:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Question about opioid painkillers

I'm going to give birth in a few weeks and I'll probably be faced with the question of whether to accept certain painkillers - most likely morphine, fentanyl, demerol - I don't know what else. In principal I have absolutely nothing against these drugs and I know they can be helpful in providing enough relief to allow the body to relax enough for labour to progress it if stalls, or at least help me get a nap in. However... [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 12:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Husband has kept a journal to prove I am mentally ill

Mind blown. Husband believes our marriage problems come from me having borderline traits and pushing him away when he shows love. I believe that isn't a helpful perspective to use and we are better off seeing problems as normal marital issues with communication etc. Husband has been tracking this. I think I want a divorce. [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 11:50 AM PST - 66 comments

Key organizer filter: What's this dealie bopper called?

What the heck is this thing called? How can I replace it? It's just a little black round thing with a hole for a key ring and a slot carved all the way 'round so that it slides into this lovely metal rack. [more inside]
posted by Made of Star Stuff at 11:44 AM PST - 13 comments

Shoes for narrow heels

My feet have narrow heels (AA). But the front of my foot is a normal width. Does anybody have women's shoe recommendations. In winter, I can get away with boots. But in the summer, ballet flats typically don't fit. I also walk a lot, and the few shoes that fit wear quickly (especially since I sometimes buy a half size down to deal with the heel issue). Summer shoe recommendations please. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 11:06 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for cheaper and expensive similar products

I am looking for a home that would be made entirely of decorative elements, furniture and accessories that represent alternatives that are virtually similar to other, but less expensive, products. [more inside]
posted by Wiserwood at 10:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Best Vegetarian Meal Delivery Service? (they curate and ship/ I cook)

We've been using a combination of Hello Fresh and Home Chef for the past yr and a half. We love their offerings and customer service but would like to switch to a similar service that features Vegetarian meal delivery. I'm thinking going Vegan is too far a leap for us, so Vegetarian is definitely what we're shooting for. I hear Blue Apron does a decent job but they send all ingredients for several meals in one big box. It's a hassle to store and retrieve ingredients when it's time to cook the meal; a major frustration. So, no Blue Apron. Any Vegetarians using meal delivery services that are not just a bunch of veggies? I'm listening!
posted by mickeefynn at 10:32 AM PST - 17 comments

A week in Dublin!

My sister and I will be spending a week in Dublin at the end of May. What should we do? I'm really into plants and animals. I'm also vegetarian. She doesn't like museums. We are considering taking a day trip out to see the Cliffs of Moher. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 10:25 AM PST - 20 comments

One day in Carmel...with baby

Next week I'll be in Carmel-by-the-Sea for a day with my six-month-old baby but without a car. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by anderjen at 10:02 AM PST - 10 comments

delete unused browser files?

Hi everyone, I regularly clear my browser history/cache/etc for Chrome to protect from adware/malware/whatever, which is the only one I use. I have windows so I also have Edge, Internet Explorer installed automatically. Is there any reason I should also clear out cache for browsers that I don't use? Are they like, portals into the internet that can be activated without my even using them, if that makes sense?
posted by bengalibelle at 9:44 AM PST - 5 comments

How do you manage aging, and grief that accompanies acquaintances dying?

Like everyone, I'm getting older. I'm thankfully healthy, sane, securely housed, have a wonderful spouse, and lovely friends who are like family. But as soon as I reached my 30s (and now approaching my 40s), I see more and more friends and acquaintances getting sick and dying. I understand this will continue as I get older, but it quite shakes me, so I'm wondering how to get a better handle on it. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 9:07 AM PST - 11 comments

Shake It Up

I'm spending a day next month riding lots of scary roller coasters with a friend. Yay! However, I mentioned this to a different friend, who is far more risk averse than I am and said, "Oh, great, so you're going to spend a whole day getting brain damage." Ha ha, dude, good one! But then I decided to ask Dr. Google, who told me that yes, in fact, it is possible to get subdural hematomas, among other things, from riding roller coasters. Um. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 8:52 AM PST - 17 comments

save and close yahoo

1. I want to close a really old yahoo email account. I can't figure out how to save or download messages first without opening each and forwarding it which is too time consuming. 2. After an account is closed, do they still mine and sell the data? I have many old email accounts and wonder this for both yahoo and gmail. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 8:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Preventing our outgoing email from being blacklisted because of our ISP?

The outgoing email we are sending to a particular client is getting blocked by their IT department - their IT people shared a log showing the messages has not been delivered. The stated reason for the blockage is that the outgoing SMTP server used by our ISP (1&1 in our case) is being blacklisted by one of the filters used by our client. It seems to be this is a generic problem affecting all users of this particular SMTP server; 1&1 have been useless at responding to our requests they address the issue (their advice is to us to request that our client organisation whitelist their server - which the client IT people are reluctant to do). [more inside]
posted by rongorongo at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments

Chance the Rapper '3' font?

Is the now famous Chance the Rapper '3' from the cover of Coloring Book from a specific font set? Full disclosure, what I actually want is a matching 4, so if it isn't from a specific font set, has a fan already made a matching 4 and I just can't find it? Or is the only way to get my hands on a matching 4 to make one? (By which I mean find someone to make one, because I definitely don't have those skills.)
posted by jamaal at 7:21 AM PST - 5 comments

Abdominal pain without any other symptoms.

YANMD. Pain the lower left abdomen when pressed. No other symptoms. Any thoughts? [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 7:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Can one build an entire wardrobe around a single brand of shoes?

Can one build an entire wardrobe around a single brand of shoes? [more inside]
posted by TryTheTilapia at 6:41 AM PST - 10 comments

Biology-MeFi: Chart of intra-species genetic diversity across phyla?

I am looking for information on how genetic diversity within a species (not between species) differs between taxa. In other words: Is the "spread" in the genetic pool, if measured, for instance, in terms of single-nucleotide polymorphism (SNP), generally bigger / smaller for some groups of species than for others? [more inside]
posted by megob at 5:48 AM PST - 18 comments

General retail interview etiquette

What's the general etiquette when you are interviewing for multiple companies? [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 5:10 AM PST - 6 comments

Journaling without spiraling

How can I start journaling again without it turning into tedious self-berating? [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 1:54 AM PST - 13 comments

May 15

What do you call a justification-apology?

We've all heard it: "I'm so sorry the bell woke you, but my delivery arrived 20m earlier than it said on the website." "I'm sorry I forgot to put your clothes in the dryer like I'd agreed, but I've had a stressful day." What do you call an apology that's actually more about explaining the mistake?
posted by yaymukund at 11:27 PM PST - 12 comments

Vibrant artsy towns in the mountains?

We're planning on moving to a town somewhere in Mountain West/PNW within the next 2 years to open an artistic business. We have a list of potential places, but want to expand the list before we start narrowing it down. Criteria inside... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Recommendations for a non-judgmental family law attorney in Austin, TX

Looking for a good attorney to facilitate my divorce. I have recently moved to Austin, Texas. My future ex lives in another state. We have no children and no shared assets—just shared debt. Here's the twist: I work in the adult industry (legally). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I deal with an art copycat that just won't stop?

Someone is making (wonky) replicas of my art pieces, taking screenshots of pictures I've posted and posting them as their own, and generally creeping me out. I'm looking for suggestions on how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Reading out loud is surprisingly hard on my voice, help?

I expect to read out loud a fair amount in the coming years. It's surprisingly hard on my voice. I assume we've developed technique for speaking continuously for 15-60 minutes at a time. How do I learn that? [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 9:50 PM PST - 14 comments

How to make your home/workplace/school/life more inclusive?

I'm trying to come up for some blog content for work (I do social media at a not-for-profit providing services to refugee and migrant children) and I've been asked to write a blog on 'how to make your home/workplace/school/life more inclusive'. I can think of a few examples myself but was wondering if there were any interesting academic studies or real-life examples of ways individuals and communities can welcome new migrants, or accommodate difference more generally. Thanks!
posted by Roger Schredderer at 9:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Getting rid of a car with wrong name on title

Our car is undrivable and we need to get rid of it. The title is in my partner's mother's name and she is across the country. How do we navigate this? [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 8:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Terrified of monogamy

Non-monogamous person having second thoughts. Wanting to try monogamy, but can't get over a veritable monogamy-phobia that was instilled after an emotionally abusive, controlling relationship. How to get over this fear? Anyone else have this fear? How to navigate being not quite monogamous, but not entirely non-monogamous or poly? [more inside]
posted by Dendrites at 8:38 PM PST - 8 comments

How to facilitate a difficult conversation

I'm a director of an all-volunteer organization. Last night, one of my fellow directors talked about a conflict with a couple of senior volunteers. I think we need to fix this. [more inside]
posted by adamrice at 8:36 PM PST - 10 comments

Does this place really exist on planet Earth?

Saw this picture on a friends facebook post. He could not say where it was taken but said it came from a site called Beauty of Planet Earth on Facebook. Alot of their pictures appear to be heavily photoshopped and the places may not actually exist, Is this picture real and where is it?
posted by Xurando at 7:57 PM PST - 4 comments

City library claims I have their book

I have never even heard of this author. When I said I had misplaced the card for a while, "well you're still responsible" in a snotty sort of way. I am 100% sure I never checked this book out. If I had and I lost it, I'd own up to it and pay for it, but I don't the point in paying for a book I never checked out. Other pressing things (moving, losing job) took precedence. Now it's gone to collections and collections has added $30 (total of $55). I read the similar post about the U library.
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 7:20 PM PST - 8 comments

Help make our trip to Europe amazing, Barcelona edition

Our family will be spending a few days in Barcelona in June. We're traveling with kids (10 & 12), so our plan is for a mostly low-key trip filled with lazily exploring the city. But we're also looking for other unique or special experiences we could do as a family that would really make our trip special. [more inside]
posted by quantum at 7:08 PM PST - 10 comments

Story/article about a woman from an African nation

I’m looking for an article or story I read. The author/narrator was a woman from an African nation. All I remember are a few details. I think I saw it here on metafilter. [more inside]
posted by umber vowel at 6:55 PM PST - 3 comments

What do I do with this stuff, mixed drink edition

I make painkillers which is appx 2 parts rum to 1 parts coconut cream to 5 parts fresh fruit juice. Coconut cream solidifies just below room temp. So how do i store a large make-ahead batch? Refrigerate seems out since the fat will solidify. Is this mix counter safe? [more inside]
posted by chasles at 6:29 PM PST - 10 comments

9 year old birthday party activities

My son is turning 9 and has requested a unicorn-cat-dog-turtle- themed party. Any ideas of fun activities we can do related to those critters? There will be 7 kids, ages 6-9. There will be cake and animal masks...and I'm out of ideas for anything else to do. [more inside]
posted by Empidonax at 5:36 PM PST - 15 comments


My six-year-old daughter, currently obsessed with the Beatles, has been asking for a drum kit for months. What would be a good, cheap "starter" option for a child her age? Where do we begin?
posted by gerryblog at 5:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Reliable sources for "Is X Vegan" searches?

I eat primarily vegan*. The internet is full of nonsense when it comes to food ingredients. Beyond contacting a company and my own knowledge, is there a reliable source of some kind for checking this stuff? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 3:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I include a pending divorce on NIH biosketch personal statement?

The NIH biosketch includes a 'personal statement' where you can explain slowdowns or gaps in your career, due to childbearing, for instance. I'm preparing a renewal application, and I'm sure it's not as good as it would be if I wasn't also working through a divorce. Deadlines are deadlines, however and my divorce won't be resolved prior to the renewal deadline. I'm torn as to whether to include this information. Help me, hive mind!
posted by u2604ab at 3:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Reccomend hospice care in Albuquerque?

My mother lives in Albuquerque and is in need of hospice care. She was connected with Heritage but they apparently don't offer an inpatient service, which my mother would much prefer over dying at home. So I'd love to hear recommendations for good inpatient hospice services in Albuquerque. Bonus if they take her insurance (Blue Cross and Medicaid), but that's not a primary concern at this point. Thanks in advance for any recommendations.
posted by nixxon at 3:04 PM PST - 3 comments

How does a white person dress for an Afrofuturism party?

I'm in the thinking-about-it phase. Want to be respectful, obviously. And not make an ass of my middle-aged self. And I've been invited. So....?
posted by RedEmma at 3:02 PM PST - 12 comments

Took a step back, don't think a friendship will work. What do I owe?

I met someone at work, a pretty intense friendship ensued, we mutually acknowledged "bigger than friends" feelings, but ruled out a romance. After bumping along for a while trying to make the friend thing work, I've realized some things I was doing that weren't great. I asked for some space, got it, and after several months I think it'd be best to just part ways. I'm not sure what I owe. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Instant Pot recipes. Difficult Level: Sleepless parents + Newborn.

In the home stretch of the third trimester, and trying to think ahead for meals. We need reinforcements. More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 12:59 PM PST - 34 comments

There Must Be a Term for This ... Or IS There?

Recently, my 14-year-old son has been responding to statements (or orders) with a dramatically-pointed question. I'm curious if there is a term for this rhetorical (?) trope. [more inside]
posted by majorsteel at 12:34 PM PST - 20 comments

Internet without an ISP? A Private Network? Huh?

I was reading Dear Prudence instead of working, as one does. There was a follow-up from a letter-writer who, unable to join in on a new fiber optic broadband service in her area, went ahead and set up a "private network." I am super intrigued but cannot find anything about it. Here's the post. Does anyone know where I can get more information about this?
posted by bluejayway at 12:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Did you learn about pyramid schemes the hard way?

I'm meeting with a 19-year old later today to try to explain to him why joining pyramid schemes, aka multi-level marketing and the latest name, network marketing, is a bad idea. I have a couple of good youtube videos explaining it, but would love to hear from you if you have had experience with one. I'd like to share this with him. This particular one is a combo of Amway and World Wide Dram Builders, but any you have tried will be just fine. Thank you.
posted by KleenexMakesaVeryGoodHat at 11:58 AM PST - 22 comments

In search of....

We have a holder for our Sonicare toothbrush heads that looks like this. I'd like to find one that holds three brushes instead of two, but they don't seem to exist. Can you find me one? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 11:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Parrot inheritance - am I being selfish?

I very well may be inheriting a 20yr old male African Grey parrot and I am beside myself with excitement because I have always wanted one. But is my excitement clouding my judgement, is this what's best for the bird? [more inside]
posted by danapiper at 11:28 AM PST - 27 comments

Blame Shame and Guilt

I’m blaming myself for my child’s “failures”. How to get out of this destructive pattern? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 11:25 AM PST - 9 comments

New job offer: Out of the frying pan and into?

I've received an offer for a new job that I'm genuinely conflicted about taking. The company I'm working for is undergoing some... changes. We're rapidly running out of money, in the process of being acquired, my department is now barren after layoffs, and there's a small possibility my role doesn't survive the transition after acquisition. Sounds awful, an an easy choice to jump ship, right? There's more to it... (maybe) [more inside]
posted by theplatypus at 11:06 AM PST - 12 comments

Car Insurance, tell or don't tell?

Hi. So we moved into a new house in a new city for a new job (with a new baby!) Within 48 hours of moving in, having parked on the street, a 16 year old backed into our minivan and dented the front panel. So, should we take money under the table, or go through insurance? [more inside]
posted by leotrotsky at 11:00 AM PST - 19 comments

Save the whales! What was this dimly remembered children's book?

Some time around 1984, I read a YA novel in which the main character either switched consciousness with or took over the consciousness of a whale. Anyone? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 10:32 AM PST - 6 comments

App to improve spoken French comprehension?

I'd like to find an app that primarily practices recognizing conversational French, preferably with a travel focus. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:26 AM PST - 2 comments

Helping male friend in early 30s through extended hospital stay?

A close friend is currently hospitalized for acute leukemia. He is going to be in the hospital for at least a month and possibly even longer, depending on how he responds to chemotherapy. He has minimal family support so his network of friends is taking the lead. How can we best help him through this? [more inside]
posted by castlebravo at 10:15 AM PST - 12 comments

River of News RSS Reader

Does anyone know of RSS feed reader which acts like a River of News. No side bar, just the ability to follow RSS feeds and have them appear in a column which I can just keep working through when I have an idle moment. [more inside]
posted by feelinglistless at 10:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Books about graffiti artists in America

Can you recommend to me books about the lives of graffiti artists? For research purposes I'm aiming towards the era of of modern day southwestern United States and preferably nonfiction and autobiographical, but those constraints are totally optional.
posted by Taft at 9:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Where can one clear a CA teaching credential without working full-time?

My mom is looking for a teaching credential induction program that is sponsored by a college or university. This will enable her to clear her credential without working full-time as a teacher or clearing it through a school district. [more inside]
posted by HE Amb. T. S. L. DuVal at 9:33 AM PST - 3 comments

Short story club!

My friends and I are starting a short story club, in which we will read and discuss a short story every 2 weeks. We would love recommendations for stories that will stimulate discussion, especially if they're feminist-oriented. Stories need to be available online. [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 9:00 AM PST - 27 comments

Holly help

The holly outside our front door is dropping many of its leaves. Any ideas of what's wrong, and what we can do to save it? [more inside]
posted by lharmon at 8:50 AM PST - 4 comments

LAMP Stuck

I am trying to figure out why a webserver would only hang up on (apparently) people using iMacs who have visited the site before. Has anyone experienced this problem? [more inside]
posted by michaelh at 8:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Sewing Manuals and Sewing Resources in Hebrew

Would anyone know of sewing resources for clothing primarily and design secondarily in Hebrew? [more inside]
posted by Tchad at 8:26 AM PST - 1 comment

Want Advice About My House

Hi everyone. I want to sell my house and move. It's my first time doing so. I've only had this house 2 years. I have thought about selling it myself through HelpUSell or Redfin or both. Details inside [more inside]
posted by DixieBaby at 7:57 AM PST - 6 comments

Best way to get scarves/hats/dress up clothes for a toddler?

What's the cheapest (and easiest, it sounds silly but even minor errands can be hard to manage logistically) way to get a bunch of dress-up clothes for a toddler, especially fancy-looking scarves, hats, and other things she can drape/put on by herself? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:41 AM PST - 16 comments

selling rental property: better empty or leased?

I have a four-unit apartment building which I may want to sell in the next year. This is in Santa Cruz, CA, where the city council have recently imposed rent controls including prohibiting tenant removal at end of lease, and a more punitive rent control measure is likely going on the ballot in November. Some of my tenants are moving out soon. When selling the building, would it be better to have all apartments leased and paying rent, or have apartments empty? What is better for a prospective buyer, and what are they likely to prefer?
posted by windsock at 7:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Dealing with harassment by limiting opportunity?

I'm looking for articles about workplaces addressing harassment in ways that are not quite the Mike Pence rule (no meetings alone with women), but close neighbors--keeping doors open, limiting out of town trips, having windows in every office. Articles that are pro and con are welcome.
posted by Mavri at 6:56 AM PST - 6 comments

"You look just like your mom!"

When out in the world with my mother or my children, people often exclaim about how much we look like each other. We never quite know how to respond to that; I usually say "thanks" but that's not quite right. Any suggestions for other responses? I'll use polite ones most often, but snarky or amusing ones are also welcome! [more inside]
posted by metasarah at 6:27 AM PST - 56 comments

Did you bumble around in your career in your mid to late twenties?

This seems like an obvious answer question but I would love to hear personal stories about figuring out your career in your mid to late twenties--especially where you thought you made a mistake (or did) and it turned out alright. How did you figure out what the right career move was for you? Is job hopping ever acceptable when you're still trying to figure out what kind of job is the right fit for you? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:22 AM PST - 37 comments

Dealing with guilt and regret after majorly fucking up

After several years of being a fuck-up, including withdrawing from two semesters of college, I finally feel as if I'm on somewhat solid ground. But the persistent guilt and regret of wasting so much time, money, and privilege weighs constantly on my mind. How do I accept responsibility for my past without having it ruin my future? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:22 AM PST - 17 comments

Where do I find this hat?

I saw this hat on a fellow in SE Asia, and I need your help finding it. [more inside]
posted by miles1972 at 2:12 AM PST - 2 comments

This Sandwich Needs Something

I have a toddler and a parent that is starting to require more care, management, and accommodation. I don't think I'm prepared for this. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 1:57 AM PST - 16 comments

May 14


I once saw a video of someone who found some talking a toy doll at a garage sale or something, and hacked it to say "skin" in an extremely creepy and hilarious way. I am fairly certain it was on twitter, but I have been completely unable to find it. Twitter's search is not the best, it turns out. Please help me creep out my friends with this video!
posted by aubilenon at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments

I thought my skin had my back

I'm meant to be seeing a dermatologist today about the increasing amount of psoriasis I've been getting on my face. Woke up this morning and my skin is fresher, clearer and less dry than it has been in months. Now I'm freaking out that the appointment will be a waste and I won't be able to get appropriate treatment because my skin isn't "performing". Will the doctor still take me seriously? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 11:20 PM PST - 3 comments

How much would you pay for toilet paper?

I need your help to determine the strategy for a GoFundMe campaign to raise money for the American Civil Liberties Union. [more inside]
posted by BeaverTerror at 11:09 PM PST - 17 comments

Leisurely breakfast near 36th and 6th in Manhattan?

We’re arriving in New York early Thursday morning and are looking for a place to eat breakfast. We’ll be stopping by the hotel near 36th and 6th first and then out to breakfast after that, around 7:15 or so. We’d like a place where we can have a low-key, leisurely, and tasty meal, where we can hang out for a little bit. We’d also like it to be in that area so we don’t have to travel too far—we’ll be tired and hungry. Any recommendations?
posted by jroybal at 9:40 PM PST - 9 comments

Best note-taking app for serious note-takers?

I'm constantly writing notes, lots of notes, on lots of different projects, both on my iPhone and MacBook. Apple's Notes app was my main go-to, because it's easy, but I've got several thousand notes in there and it's frozen up (also there's no simple export function, also it's too easy to delete notes by accident, also I hate iCloud). What's the best alternative? If there was some sort of stress-free tagging system (or AI-based predictive or automated classification) that would be great too, but I'm mainly just looking for a cross-platform workhorse that is easy to add to, and won't let me down.
posted by dontjumplarry at 8:48 PM PST - 31 comments

Have you seen this gif of a bike following a hedgehog?

Hello! I saw a loop or a video or a gif a few weeks ago that seemed to be of a bike going down a trail, following a little animal. Perhaps a hedgehog. It is probably animated. Or from a video game. But I can't find it again. If you know what I'm talking about, please share.
posted by 41swans at 8:42 PM PST - 1 comment

Selling without the hassle

I have a bunch of stuff I want to get rid of. Some of it is obvious donation/trash, but some of it in theory should be sellable (for example, I have almost every video game console ever made in working condition, plus tons of games). [more inside]
posted by thefoxgod at 8:10 PM PST - 15 comments

Unresolved body aches from new desk job?

I recently started a new job as a data entry clerk and have been experiencing an indescribable amount of body aches/pains all over. I've had two desk jobs before this and have never experienced anything like this before. I'm struggling to find a solution and am feeling very hopeless. Does anyone have any advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:04 PM PST - 12 comments

Hostile workplace

I work in a hostile environment, to the point where I think I need some sort of legal consult. Who do I go to? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Induce? Or wait?

39 weeks with a seemingly large baby. Obstetrician wants to induce. Mother feels nervous. What to do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:32 PM PST - 41 comments

Texting app for Samsung phone that syncs with a Windows desktop program?

I am an all-Macintosh person. Mac's texting app, Messages, syncs all texting on my iPhone, iPad, and MacBook Pro, so no matter where I am, I have all of my latest text convos. A friend has a Samsung phone and a Windows computer, and wants this same functionality. Is there a similar texting app/program for someone with a Samsung phone and a Windows computer that allows texting from either their computer or their phone, and see the whole thing on both?
posted by tzikeh at 6:22 PM PST - 8 comments

DIY wall bike rack: is this ok?

Can the wall hook not point to the center of the wheel and be ok? [more inside]
posted by cgs at 6:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Ah, my eyes! New and unwelcome eye allergy to cosmetics.

Hello, I seem to have unexpectedly developed a sensitivity or allergy to eye makeup ingredient(s). If I wear eye makeup the following day my eyes will be red and sore. This is new territory for me, are there common allergic culprits I should keep an eye (har har) out for? [more inside]
posted by haunted_pomegranate at 5:11 PM PST - 15 comments

The EPA doesn't protect our water-- does anything?

I'm concerned about PFOA and PFOS in our own drinking water. Is there any kind of at-home filtration system that would actually remove these chemicals? [more inside]
posted by Mystical Listicle at 3:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I improve my reading speed in midlife?

I have always been a slow reader. For some reason it never bothered me until recently. Can I do anything about this? [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 2:37 PM PST - 9 comments

How does one's social security number end up on background sites?

An employer says they can't find my info [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 2:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Lease ended, now on month-to-month; how to negotiate for a lease? (NY)

Brooklyn, New York: My (renewal) lease ended at the end of April and I haven't gotten a new lease from my landlord. There are no explicit provisions in the lease for what happens next, which, according to my best reading of the situation, means I'm on a de-facto month-to-month lease. I would love to renew my lease. What's the best way to approach my landlord? [more inside]
posted by wemayfreeze at 2:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Children as the "property" of their parents??

I'm dealing with a situation in which a couple has asserted (as a defense) that children are the property of their parents. This assertion is often made in conflicts of medical ethics, such as Christian Scientists vs medical caregivers. I think that Mennonites and Amish may actually teach that children are their parents' property. Does anyone have more information on this, specifically whether the Jehovah Witness religion teaches this?
posted by mmiddle at 1:39 PM PST - 14 comments

Modern Car Buying Advice with a Twist (recent unemployment)

I was recently laid off from work and my car of 20 years isn't really safe to drive. Will I be able to get a car loan if am unemployed? [more inside]
posted by mmascolino at 1:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Cat peeing outside his litterbox

My cat Mew Mew is generally a Good Boy (likes cuddles! tolerates smooches! will go walkies in the backyard in his harness! has only barfed on my new couch once!), but we're having repeated issues with urination outside the litterbox. [more inside]
posted by elsmith at 12:53 PM PST - 21 comments

The "A" in CAPM is for "Anxious"

I had been tossing around the idea of taking the CAPM (Certified Associate in Project Management) exam for awhile and then (on an expensive whim) decided to sign up for it. Now I have a week to study. Should I re-schedule or should I go for it? [more inside]
posted by thefang at 12:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Lower Ea(s)t Side

Where are your favorite Lower East Side eats? [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 12:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Textile stamp on fabric - what kinds of inks will work?

My birthday gift to myself was some beautiful textile stamps. Blick sells fabric ink, but can I use fabric paint, latex paint, India ink, etc? I especially want to print on tshirts, but I have my eye on the director chair covers, as well. Cost and permanence are factors. [more inside]
posted by theora55 at 11:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Mother's Day and unmet expectations

My mother is upset with me (>30, F) for forgetting Mother's Day. The truth is, I hadn't really forgotten about it, but I just do not care one whit about most consumer-/socially-/religiously- fabricated special occasions. [more inside]
posted by houseofleaves at 11:52 AM PST - 55 comments

Changes in PMS/PMDD after IUD?

I switched to a hormonal IUD (Skyla) about 16 months ago after being on BCP for over 10 years. Did your PMS symptoms change when you switched to IUD? Do your symptoms vary based on whether or not you bleed that month? [more inside]
posted by assenav at 11:23 AM PST - 7 comments

Partnered relaxation rituals

My husband and I enjoy watching TV in the evenings to unwind, usually while we eat dinner. But TV is a time-suck and not how I really want to be spending my time right now (as much as I enjoy it!), so I'm interested in what kind of rituals others have for relaxing with partners on workday evenings. Difficulty level: toddler, and preferably something that takes around 15 minutes. [more inside]
posted by CiaoMela at 11:13 AM PST - 26 comments

Returning to Philosophy

Hi folks. I have always read quite a bit, but once upon a time (in university) was way more on the critical theory/philosophy kick. In the spirit of new beginnings, I have been trying to delve into lots of old pastimes/skills/etc. recently, and I told myself instead of a novel I'd pick up one of my philosophy texts sitting around to get back into the swing of things. [more inside]
posted by parkbench at 10:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Suggestions for good role-playing game books to read (and not play)?

I have always liked to read well-written RPG game books, the ones laying out systems, encounters and adventures. I am much less interested in tables than I am in the prose - fascinating settings, interesting backstories, and cool systems of any genre. Think Nobilis or the stuff discussed in this recent thread. Does anyone have any suggestions? Bonus points for e-books or things that don't cost crazy amounts of money...
posted by blahblahblah at 10:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Is this translation-from-audio rate fair?

I'm looking to earn some extra cash during the summer, and have been offered a translation-from-audio job for some one-on-one interviews with bartenders. Can you give me a sense if this is worth doing? [more inside]
posted by monocot at 10:29 AM PST - 9 comments

Best price to capacity for low power storage

I'm building a battery powered suitcase jukebox for trips to the place we go that doesn't have Internet access. What is the most low power storage I can get for around $200? [more inside]
posted by donpardo at 10:29 AM PST - 8 comments

How best to spread the word about a NYC Resistance book club?

What are the best ways to promote a monthly New York City book club that is reading books for the Resistance? Examples of the books we read are here. [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 9:46 AM PST - 2 comments

My toddler is the class bully. Help!

My 21-month old pulls other kids' hair at daycare. Need advice or resources. [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 9:38 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me recover from a pulled muscle

I barely leaned over to feed the dog and I felt a sharp muscle pain. Now I have pain when I put my right leg forward while walking. The pain extends from my lower back to my knee. Can I stretch this out?
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 9:30 AM PST - 5 comments

Congratulations co-worker!

Wedding acknowledgment ideas for co-workers in small office. [more inside]
posted by the primroses were over at 9:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Talking to young teenagers

Can you recommend any books about effective communication with 10-13 year olds? This is for a (non religious) community group, none of them are my children. Thanks!
posted by limoncello at 9:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Mondays are for naming puppies

This 14 week-old chunkster needs a name! What do you have that's 2 syllables, not punny, and on the more serious side? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 8:16 AM PST - 81 comments

Insurance and car accidents, take 2

I'm still dealing with the fallout of this accident that happened in February. Turns out the insurance I bought only covers the damage to the car I was driving, and doesn't have liability. So the other driver's insurance is asking me to cover his damages. The accident was the fault of a 3rd party and I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 7:46 AM PST - 25 comments

Program or platform for making complex custom lists

I like to make lists: lists of books I want to read, my ratings of movies, lists of things I own. For simple lists, I put them on Evernote. I put more complicated lists in Excel, but when a list/spreadsheet gets too long or too wide (too many columns), I would like to be able to view the data as something like a sortable table or even a results page showing just the relevant information. [more inside]
posted by nequalsone at 7:36 AM PST - 15 comments

I think I took my issues out on my kid - or maybe I just parented?

My 10 yr old asked me if I'd bought eggs yet, and then walked away without a response when I said no. It triggered my PTSD. I *think* my response was within the realm of reasonable but I'm not sure. [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 7:34 AM PST - 36 comments

Even PoC Have Diet Restrictions

Are there resources for restricted diets/food allergies (FODMAP, gluten-free, paleo, Atkins, veg*an, raw, etc etc) that take into account foods and cuisines from generally non-White/PoC/"ethnic" cultures? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 6:14 AM PST - 11 comments

Ride from Rome to fiumicino EARLY on a wednesday morning.

We check out of an AirBnb next wednesday in Rome, near the Colusseum. Because of an airline-induced flight change instead of being at the airport at 9am, we have to be at there at 6am. [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 5:35 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I 'reset' my biological clock to function during 2 late nights?

Next week I will have to work until 6 in the morning for two nights (it's a shoot, the timings are non-negotiable). It's super important that I'm on the ball during these shoot days (nights?). I am an avowed morning person. HELP. [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 3:29 AM PST - 7 comments

May 13

unpaid credit card went to collection agency, too late to undo?

Whoops! I ran out of money and rather than talk to the credit card company, I ignored it for a few months, figuring the worst that would happen would be an accumulation of fees and interest that I would pay later when money came in. Nope! That wasn't the worst - just got a letter from a collection agency. Is there a chance that the CC company will take the debt back if I talk to them, or should I just deal with the collection agency? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me diversify my office.

My team lead is quitting and I'm probably going to get promoted. I want to make it a condition of my promotion that my replacement will not be a white man. How do I make this work? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:05 PM PST - 24 comments

Books about coping with a Bipolar 1 family member?

I'd love some reviews and recommendations from the smart minds of Metafilter. Are you a family member of someone with Bipolar 1? Is there a book that helped you understand and cope with how your family member acted, how they treated you, etc? [more inside]
posted by it's FuriOsa, not FurioSA at 9:44 PM PST - 4 comments

What's the UK equivalent to Yelp/Zomato?

What's the UK equivalent to Yelp/Zomato/Wongnai? (And while we're on the topic, is there a local equivalent to Beanhunter - or is Beanhunter used over there?)
posted by rednikki at 7:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Sewing pattern recommendation

I am looking for a sewing pattern for a very specific style of A-line skirt. I had one like it in the 1980s but if it still exists now, I'm missing it. It has an elasticized waistband in the back only, and it closes with a hook and eye at the left pocket--i.e., where the innermost seam of the pocket would normally be, it is open, and the pocket unfolds when the skirt is unfastened. Have you seen one like this?
posted by HotToddy at 7:17 PM PST - 7 comments

A children's book about washing stars?

I'm trying to find a book I loved as a kid. As far as I can remember, the plot was approximately this: In the beginning, everything was dark, but then a seer told the people about the stars. She said, if we wash and polish the stars so that they shine, the world will be full of light... [more inside]
posted by redneck_crake at 4:41 PM PST - 2 comments

Your PHP installation appears to be missing the MySQL extension

"Your PHP installation appears to be missing the MySQL extension which is required by WordPress." I updated an old WordPress site today, and broke it. To fix it, I re-installed my backup of the website which is several years old (the site hasn't changed), and now I get the above error message instead of my site. [more inside]
posted by extrabox at 3:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Best portable outdoor stereo?ii

I am desperately seeking a portable, durable, all-in-one stereo that is easy to operate. I am not looking for a bluetooth speaker. I’m thinking either a construction jobsite boombox or a regular boombox from Sony or something if it is durable enough. [more inside]
posted by fieldtrip at 3:03 PM PST - 9 comments

Event Listings for Chicago

What are you using these days to find stuff to do in Chicago? I'm looking for listings for anything and everything: live music, plays, dance performances, art shows, museum exhibits, movies, etc. Comprehensive listings are great but so are niche ones that focus on a specific genre or subgenre. [more inside]
posted by great_radio at 2:43 PM PST - 12 comments

Job interview advice, version: youth facilitation challenge

Tomorrow I am going for a second interview for a job I would really like to have. The job is running a life skills program for youth with mental health challenges. I have done the sit-down interview, and tomorrow they want me to facilitate a workshop on the fly with live youth test subjects. They'll tell me tomorrow what the topic of the workshop is. [more inside]
posted by unstrungharp at 2:18 PM PST - 3 comments

With what is my 11yo confusing Pink Floyd?

“Pink Floyd,” he said, “isn’t that a clothing brand? With like sweatshirts, and they have pink, like, here, and here?” Is he making up something out of whole cloth, so to speak, or is there something he’s confusing it with?
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 8:31 AM PST - 7 comments

Sad Mother's Day

How do I not be so sad when my family doesn't even want to spend time with me? [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar at 8:18 AM PST - 54 comments

Why was a new-age music ad playing nonstop on Nickelodeon in the 90's?

Why was an ad for a new-age music CD playing nonstop on Nickelodeon in the 1990's? [more inside]
posted by Ndwright at 8:17 AM PST - 10 comments

Estate Sale Score - Tell Me More!

Tell me more about the two, fetching equestrian paintings I bought at an estate sale. They are about 12x16 inches each, appear to be painted on glass panels, and have a little bit of writing in a language that I don’t know (but I would guess Arabic or Urdu). [pic1] [pic2] [more inside]
posted by eulily at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments

Last minute birthday present for almost-estranged parent

We're (1 sister, grown son, and I) going today to a milestone birthday party for my father, from whom we are largely estranged. He turned 80. Just the fact that we were invited is unusual, and I feel that I should attend. My extended family will be there, too. It will be OK being with all of them; we aren't close, but friendly. It's a barbeque. I feel I need to bring something for my father, but nothing personal. [more inside]
posted by primate moon at 8:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Examples of invite- or appointment-only "retail stores"?

I'm considering opening an appointment-only retail "store" out of my Toronto loft (legal in my building, which is zoned for commercial, and verified with my landlord) and am looking for examples of people doing similar around the world. I recall a few years ago reading about a kid who was doing so with skateboards (in NY?), and another with sneakers, but cannot now find those articles. What are some examples you know of of people doing likewise? Articles, websites, advice appreciated. Better description in the more inside. [more inside]
posted by dobbs at 7:44 AM PST - 22 comments

Discount contacts website, without a prescription?

Hi all. Probably two years ago I ordered Acuvue moist contacts online from a dodgy website where I typed in my prescription info but didn’t need to upload the actual script. Fast forward, I just used my last pair and I want to order more, but I can’t find the site for the life of me. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 6:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Research as assembling a jigsaw puzzles: some ideas and request for info

I am writing a paper about the role of economic policy in GDP growth rates I want to start with an exploration of the roots of knowledge to provide a framework for my approach to the subject. [more inside]
posted by JMC2018 at 4:56 AM PST - 2 comments

Complex PTSD in the workplace

Lately the stuff that has always previously manifested for me as a mood disorder has started manifesting more like complex PTSD, and it's beginning to impact my work. I've started a conversation about this at work with my manager and HR; I imagine someone's going to ask me what would be helpful in terms of accommodations at work fairly soon, and I have no idea what would actually help. Looking for advice and experiences from other people who've been through something similar. CW: childhood abuse. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:40 AM PST - 12 comments

Veranda pesto

Best practices (for lady with black thumb) growing basil, cherry tomatoes, and habaneros on veranda. [more inside]
posted by huimangm at 4:30 AM PST - 10 comments

Relationship troubles at a boiling point

I think the “Four Horsemen” are here, but I’m just having so much trouble understanding what’s happening. Trust issues, etc. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 3:09 AM PST - 50 comments

Help me overcome my seafood fears

My family didn’t often eat seafood aside from pre-filleted fish and pre-prepared shrimp. I want to get over my hurdles with eating shellfish and dealing with whole fish. If you’ve done the same, any tips? [more inside]
posted by lesser weasel at 2:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Fear has become a big part of my life

In my younger days, I used to be fearful about things going wrong in life. Eg not paying bills on time, paying excessive attention to details, making sure I locked the doors. I would always plan for bad scenarios. Then I sorta relaxed and became more at ease with my life. I attributed much of this to my passage of becoming an adult and don't really look back on those habits. For over a decade I have been much less worried about these things. But I think the fear is back now. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by gadget_gal at 12:36 AM PST - 7 comments

May 12

Articles on survivors and experiences of childcare as parents

Where can I find articles on how adult survivors experience childcare settings as parents? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 7:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Best app for tracking gas spent for mile

I'm doing an experiment with a rental car to see if having a car makes my life easier. I would like to get an app that will let me track how much I'm spending on gas per mile. What's the best iOS app for that? There seems to be a lot of options and I'd rather not have to do a bunch of trial and error. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 7:09 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I tell my awesome manager that I’m leaving to go to grad school?

How and when should I tell my manager I'm leaving to go to grad school? I've only been at this company for a month, and I'll be leaving at around 4 months. Should I say something sooner rather than later, or play it safe? [more inside]
posted by blissfulchar at 5:35 PM PST - 18 comments

biochar 101

In simple terms, what's biochar all about? How does it work? Is it actually good for the environment? Should I make it or should I just compost the yard waste? [more inside]
posted by aniola at 5:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Need to Sharpen My Casual Look

I'm a 40-ish lady and look great when I'm dressed in business attire, but my casual clothes don't look sharp or stylish or quality. What under-$125 pieces will trick the eye enough to convey I'm classy or something? [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse at 5:06 PM PST - 27 comments

Where on the Berkeley-Stanford corridor should I try to live?

I live in Berkeley but work at Stanford. I like Berkeley and have a good living situation, but I do not like the commute. So I'm thinking about moving nearer to Stanford, but I don't know which cities I should look at that might have some of what I like about Berkeley and be within my means. Details/criteria within... [more inside]
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 4:16 PM PST - 9 comments

What to do with scheduled first-dates when you don't feel it anymore?

I've been 'swipe dating' for a bit, and I've met someone with whom I'm a bit smitten. We've been on two dates over the past month (busy professional schedules), with a third scheduled soon. I feel amazing rapport, we flirt by text almost daily. We've not been undressed or intimate with each other. This is to say, it's 'early days.' Like way too soon to consider exclusivity, per se. And yet, I don't want to date other people. [more inside]
posted by Doc_Sock at 4:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking For Good Laying Hens

A friend is ready to go with her coop. I am researching good layers for her. Requesting good recommendations to start me off. She is a designer so stunning lookers are a plus
posted by goalyeehah at 3:59 PM PST - 12 comments

Novels about contemporary immigrant / refugee / expat experiences

I'm looking for great novels (or exceptional memoir / creative nonfiction) that use the experience of being an expat / immigrant / refugee as a way to explore the cultures of both the home country and the new country. Americanah's exploration of race in America from a Nigerian point of view is exactly what I'm looking for; more like that, please. [more inside]
posted by Jeanne at 2:41 PM PST - 27 comments

Need a product to fill hole in orthotic

I have a pair of custom-made orthotics that has developed a small hole in the surface of one of them. I don’t want it to spread, so I’d like to seal it somehow. Duct tape gets rubbed off pretty quickly. There has to be some sort of product that will fill the hole, dry, and not get rubbed off; I just don’t know what it is. Thanks!
posted by persona au gratin at 2:38 PM PST - 13 comments

question about co-op fees for Queens, NY cooperative apartments

So I'm in the market for a co-op apartment in Queens, NY and I have a question about the monthly co-op fees. [more inside]
posted by the hot hot side of randy at 11:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Sizing a battery for 12v transfer pump

Can you help me with sizing a battery for this 12v transfer pump? I'll be using this occasionally to pump water from a rain barrel for irrigation. Here is the pump I have, and here is the user's manual. I will probably use it for 20mins at a time approximately 1-2x per week. I'll be able to recharge the battery between each use. [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments

Sources of black-owned business data

I'm looking to identify black-owned businesses in the metro Atlanta area. Are there databases, APIs, or other data sources available with this information? I've poked around on,, and the databases available via my local library and haven't found anything promising.
posted by braveterry at 10:46 AM PST - 4 comments

What to do in Salt Lake City?

After some camping further south, my partner and I will be in Salt Lake City May 20-22. We have some flexibility and could be there May 19 for something awesome. We are looking for cool but low-key things to do. [more inside]
posted by alligatorpear at 10:14 AM PST - 11 comments

What is a small avocado?

I do not have a food scale so cannot use weight as a measure, but want to know in inches. I realize this is very inexact. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 8:35 AM PST - 7 comments

Recommend a great vegetarian food in east Midtown

I need recommendations for a vegetarian restaurant in NYC somewhere relatively on the way between 56th @ 3rd and 27th @ 7th. [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 8:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Can you help me find a sewing pattern similar to this blouse?

I really love this top and would just buy it to deconstruct it but who wants to pay pay 98.00 for a pattern? [more inside]
posted by the webmistress at 8:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Twitter - list curation as a service? NLP curation?

I follow a lot of people on Twitter (more than two thousand), in a lot of different categories. Right now, I see what everyone is posting either through scrolling through my Twitter timeline, or by looking at Nuzzel to see what people are posting en-masse. However, I feel like I am a late consumer because I don't have true live timeline engagement with the clusters of people I follow. The natural solution to that is to use lists on Twitter. But I follow so many people! Is there a company that would help me create lists of all my followers? Or a tool that could cluster on twitter bios? [more inside]
posted by oceanjesse at 7:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me solve my sleep problems?

What time to go to bed and what time to get up? Should I nap in the afternoon? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:30 AM PST - 29 comments

Out-of-state car buying logistics

I am a carless Virginia resident who will be moving to North Carolina in a couple months and will need to buy a car prior to the move. How do I do this without paying taxes/fees twice? [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 6:24 AM PST - 7 comments

How to be more present and interested in my marriage?

I am a 33F who has been married to a 40F for 10 months. Though I was excited to marry my husband, afterwards I became disinterested. I have written here before only 4 months after the wedding but was not ready to open up and now I am. [more inside]
posted by ilyilynot at 5:44 AM PST - 44 comments

Can I walk or should I play it safe?

I'm hopeful that I'm going to have a new job soon. The interview is next week. If I get it, I'd like to start ASAP—no two weeks' notice at the old job. Is it possible to tell the new job this without looking flakey? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:08 AM PST - 25 comments

May 11

Are off-brand digital stylus pens any good?

I've just bought a Microsoft Surface Pro but at the time I balked at the thought of spending an extra £99 on the official Surface Pen. There are third-party alternatives on Amazon for closer to £30-35; are these a worthwhile alternative or would I just be wasting money? It'll be used for note-taking and annotating far more than drawing.
posted by A Robot Ninja at 9:46 PM PST - 3 comments

How to prep for radio interview & debate?

I started an online petition which is having its intended effect: the (rather large) public organization's head officer I'm petitioning has been invited to a radio show. As have I. I will be sitting across from / debating him. How do I prep? [more inside]
posted by vert canard at 9:23 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you solve a problem like dog poo?

Someone in my large apartment building is letting their dog poop and pee inside the lobby of our building. It’s like RIGHT at the door leading outside, so it seems like they consider going outside, and then they just let their dog relieve itself inside. There’s carpet inside and tile in the foyer/lobby and the pee has soaked in. There are large amounts of poop as well that we (neighbors) have all stepped in. I learned from my neighbors that this is a frequent event and not a one time thing. [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 9:07 PM PST - 19 comments

Is caffeine withdrawal causing my debilitating headache?

The last two weeks have been the most miserable of my life. Some of it is definitely the anemia I'm going through. but I'm starting to think some of my pain is caffeine withdrawal. But I would love a more knowledgeable opinion. YANAD, or even if you are, YANMD, because my doctor has been useless. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 8:20 PM PST - 22 comments

Off-beat, off-key, incredible, inspiring

I love this cover of Route 66 by Yo La Tengo. A child named Lila sings while Yo La Tengo backs her up on Yo La Tengo is Murdering the Classics. I saw a superhero band in LA at the Mar Vista Farmer's Market a few years ago, where a number of parents and their children dressed up as superheroes and made music and sang songs. I am looking for other things with this aesthetic. If you could direct me to the superhero band that would be great. Thanks!
posted by GregorWill at 7:27 PM PST - 11 comments

Neighbor bass noise is bothering me. How to stop it?

How much neighbor bass noise is too much? And how can I get it to stop? [more inside]
posted by karakumy at 4:38 PM PST - 17 comments

What to do with too many kiwis?

What to do with all these kiwis? My produce box accidentally came with 9 kiwis that I didn't order. I don't even like kiwi that much, but before I offer them to my neighbors I thought I'd ask if anybody has any great recipe involving kiwis?
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:34 PM PST - 14 comments

Another "how should I feel about this job offer" question

I got a job offer but it starts out as a short-term contract that may or may not be renewed. I thought it was a long-term job. So what now? Details below. [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 3:51 PM PST - 19 comments

Asphalt content for Canada

We need to repave our driveway. We asked one company about the percentage of gravel to the hot mix asphalt and they said it's 50% gravel. We can't find what percentage is best especially with our Canadian winters with its fair share of snow. Looking for feedback.
posted by Tziv at 3:32 PM PST - 4 comments

I know what size it is, but what size will it be?

I would like to be able to single-click to select (not double-click to open) an image file in Windows Explorer and have the print dimensions displayed. Is there a plug-in or add-on to do this? [more inside]
posted by komara at 3:01 PM PST - 12 comments

Positive peeps, inspiring tweets

I'm recently changed my Twitter account to be mostly organized by topic using the lists option, and I've un-followed 90% of those feeds so they no longer are reflected in my timeline. I did this to make my automatic feed more positive and inspiring. This leaves my Twitter feed a little sparse, and I'm wondering what are some of your favorite, positive/inspiring blogs, individuals, Twitter feeds, etc.? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 2:55 PM PST - 19 comments

Being single in your mid-to-late 30s – positive stories?

This really is just that – a request for positive, hopeful anecdata re. being single and then finding love when you're over 35. I'm usually at peace with it but as 37 looms and I'm still the most single person I know, I'm struggling an unusual amount. [more inside]
posted by considerthelilies at 2:33 PM PST - 26 comments

shaving the back of your own neck

I've looked, and I can't believe this hasn't been asked yet. How do other men deal with hair on the back of their neck? [more inside]
posted by unix at 10:43 AM PST - 32 comments

Mysterious one-of-a-kind electric kettle?!

I covet this Kitchenaid kettle, in this colour. Hard. But very suspiciously/confoundingly, that particular site is the only place I've seen it for sale in this colour, or even referenced as existing, including after searching resale sites like ebay. The kettle is widely available in other, less desirous (to me) colours all over the internet. But the green apple version seems to be a kitchen-gadget version of the Polkaroo.... So: Is this site a scam? Is my google-fu just awful? (spoiler: probably yes to both...) Can you make my day and find me this kettle for NOT one billion dollars? [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 9:58 AM PST - 14 comments

What's the best subscription service for hosting private Composer repos?

What are my best options for hosted, private Composer repositories? My main requirement is that it should integrate easily with GitHub, but that seems to be pretty standard. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 9:57 AM PST - 5 comments

... and facebook and instagram and tumblr and twitch and ...

Is there something that will let me post to multiple social networks from one interface? Ideally there's a program/app that I can create my post in and it will post it like a native post in each chosen media? [more inside]
posted by J.R. Hartley at 9:35 AM PST - 4 comments

Surprise Surprise, what should I write on our gift-wrapping stickers?

I'm tasked with designing our custom gift wrapping elements for our online shop selling botanical accessories. I want to order large stickers to finish the look, with a fun saying on it. This look is similar to what I have in mind. What should the sticker say? I would love something that works for any occasion/recipient, and bonus point for something related to plants, growing things, green things. [more inside]
posted by PardonMyFrench at 9:29 AM PST - 18 comments

A problem which threatens to rip my extended family apart...

I'll try to keep this shortish and to the point. My sister is 25 and she's dating a guy who is 27. We have a daughter (3) and my sister and this guy she's dating have routinely looked after my daughter once a week. They've mainly done trips into the city, been to the park. Once or twice they've been swimming or to a play barn. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:29 AM PST - 125 comments

Cheapest way to ship vinyl record collection from US to Japan?

I need to send about 450 vinyl records to Japan. What are the cheapest options? Is it cheaper to ship them a certain amount at a time (like a 30-pack mailer), or are sending 14x14x14 inch boxed record crates the most efficient way? [more inside]
posted by topsykretts at 8:18 AM PST - 11 comments

What do I need for a simple home recording studio?

I am looking at recording some combination of the following: electric guitar, midi keyboard (connected to computer synth software), KORG Volca Sample [more inside]
posted by saul wright at 7:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Mental hacks when you have to be around someone who has hurt you

I can't believe I'm asking this ridiculous question, but here goes. I've always dated people outside of my social circle because of the break-up drama that is prone to happen in social circles. I made the mistake of dating someone newer to my social circle who turned out to be far different behind closed doors than his persona as a friend. Basically, it turns out that our ethics conflict and underneath the charm he's not a kind person. I was realizing these things and was planning to gracefully end things when he broke up with me in a way that was so baffling that I spent several weeks feeling quite awful. We were out together and out of no where he told me that he was using me, but felt like he was becoming attached and that he didn't want to see me again. Then, he just walked away without waiting for a response from me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:08 AM PST - 25 comments

Listing video on YouTube through the app

I recently posted a video that I had to post unlisted (only visible if you have the link). I’m ready to make it public. I only have access to the account I posted it on through my phone. Is there a way I can make the video public in the app?
posted by pxe2000 at 6:48 AM PST - 2 comments

Discreet things to do while working at the checkout

I work in a store and a lot of the time I end up being the main cashier. I usually go a few minutes without any customers to ring up and I get bored. Any suggestions for what I could do? I can only do discreet things, so no book reading unfortunately. I have access to register paper and pens. I could get something else to supplement that if need be. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 5:53 AM PST - 35 comments

Tell me more about our neighborhood frogs

We (myself and Mr. Sacchan) live in northern Honshu, Japan (also known as Tohoku) and are surrounded by rice fields. When the paddies are filled with water, the frogs go nuts croaking. We want to know the specifics on what they're up to. [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 4:19 AM PST - 2 comments

Replacing a lost US passport

I'm separated from my child's Other Parent, we share custody (see previous questions). OP borrowed child's US passport, and lost it. OP has shown no inclination to either report or replace. I will now do this, so: In these circumstances, is there anything I should specifically be aware of, before I begin the application/replacement process? Thank you!
posted by life moves pretty fast at 3:56 AM PST - 6 comments

May 10

Patiently Dating

I have recently broken up with my boyfriend and am re-entering the dating scene. But how can I be patient in looking for love when I feel so heartbroken -- not just over this past relationship, but also (maybe mostly) over not finding love yet in general? How do I handle these feelings of desperation without self-sabotaging (falling for incompatible guys, accepting lukewarm relationships as "better than nothing," making dating too heavy and fraught, etc) by being too desperate? [more inside]
posted by static sock at 11:55 PM PST - 21 comments

dog filter: getting a very skittish stray to come inside?

I came home tonight to find a cute, skittish little dog with no collar hanging out in my backyard. Closed the gate, posted a photo on every neighborhood group I could think of, no response. I've given the dog food and water, but I need it to come inside for the night. How? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 9:51 PM PST - 29 comments

What is this skin-pain condition? Is it related to shingles?

A friend (80 y.o.) has had some severe shingles episodes in recent years, and I've been helping his son keep this log of I-wonder-if-this-is-shingles-related stuff, in the hopes that it is helpful for asking Metafilter, in case someone here has any input. He's concerned about having to go through the same thing his father has. Is this kind of thing related to shingles? He's concerned that it is, and wonders if he should do anything about it. YANMD, etc. [more inside]
posted by circular at 9:31 PM PST - 15 comments

Describe this Siding

What term would you use to describe the wood siding on this garage built in the 1960s? The siding has vertical surface holes running the same direction as the grain. What kind of wood could this be, what caused the holes, and is there a term describing wood with this texture?
posted by ShooBoo at 9:24 PM PST - 2 comments

Taking birth control mid cycle to skip a period?

I‘m having a very important date in 3 days, which is the same day my period starts. Is there any way to delay it? [more inside]
posted by Tiffy119 at 9:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Did Richard Feynman or another scientist do this?

Does anyone remember the following anecdote about Richard Feynman: He was arguing with a friend or a colleague about the behavior of sperm in water. Finally to prove his point, he proceeded to the bathroom and returned with a sample (sorry for the image). I can swear that I read an anecdote like this but I cannot remember from which book and if it was indeed Richard Feynman or maybe some other physicist or mathematician. Does anyone remember anything at all close to this? [more inside]
posted by Clementines4ever at 8:34 PM PST - 4 comments

What is the logic behind this spam?

I received a Survey Monkey-esque email asking me to take a "Store Keeper Exhibition Survey." The strange part is where my name should be is an old password of mine. Obviously some old account I never use anymore was compromised. Doesn't this alert people to change their password? Why do this?
posted by blackzinfandel at 8:02 PM PST - 3 comments

Autocomplete woes

How do I get google autocomplete to suggest my business's new website instead of my old etsy shop? [more inside]
posted by Jon_Evil at 7:29 PM PST - 6 comments

How should I spend this Saturday on my own in Brooklyn/NYC?

I'm visiting a friend in Brooklyn (Crown Heights) this weekend and due to unforeseen circumstances he won't be around at all on Saturday, so I'll be on my own. I want to spend the day reading, journaling, wandering, and reflecting on turning 25 -- where should I go and what should I do? [more inside]
posted by kylej at 6:23 PM PST - 16 comments

One romantic(?) night in London

Where should a couple stay for their 20th anniversary while traveling in and around London? [more inside]
posted by turtlefu at 6:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Scan and Upload Analog Photos... Filter

I am looking for a cloud-based website on which to store scans of my analog photos. My concerns are that these photos will no longer belong fully to me if I upload them. I want a site that will not assume some sort of rights to my photographs, or have the right to claim rights on these images in the future. Does such a site exist? Or does all content in such cloud-based storage sites automatically remain the sole property of the person uploading the pictures? Suggestions for sites and general info on how this works is much appreciated.
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 5:53 PM PST - 4 comments

A flea mystery needs to be solved.

My indoor cats have fleas. Help. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:28 PM PST - 19 comments

Best Burt's Bees replacement that won't melt in my hot car

I love Burt's Bees lip balm (the peppermint flavor) and keep a tube of it in my car. This is great in the winter, and less good in the summer, because I inevitably forget to remove it and all the lip balm melts, seeps out of the tube, and makes my car all greasy. What are good substitutes that won't melt (or if they do melt, are in a container that won't make a mess?) I am looking specifically for things that give that good minty (not menthol; no Carmex, plz) tingle.
posted by coppermoss at 3:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Think Nina Totenberg meets Law & Order (the 2nd half) meets Undisclosed

I'm looking for a legal/lawyer procedural podcast, maybe not unlike Undisclosed*, but not limited to guilty-but-innocent, social justice, or otherwise sensational cases. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 2:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Appropriate to have a Dia de los Muertos at a mostly white school?

Mother (who's African) wants to do Dia de los Muertos celebration at mostly white elementary school. PTA chair says it's insensitive to celebrate a culture we don't understand (there are a few Hispanic and other minority kids but again mostly white non-immigrants) Is it truly insensitive or is this more a concern of optics, and either way how to proceed?
posted by angrybear at 2:56 PM PST - 33 comments

Selling Paper Stock Certificates

I have to sell some stocks for an estate. I have the paper stock certificate. I have no idea what I'm doing. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 2:14 PM PST - 16 comments

Relocating from LA to Chicago. What to expect?

Moving from Los Angeles to Chicago. What are some of the non-obvious things to know? [more inside]
posted by huskerdont at 1:59 PM PST - 23 comments

Let's play another round of What's That Rash?

A busy and stubborn friend of mine has had a non-itching rash on both legs, below the knee and mostly on the ankles and feet, for about 2 months now. Doctor seen at beginning of rash gave him anti-fungal meds, he used them, but no change. He won't go back to the doctor unless something changes. With his permission and some photos, I'm asking Metafilter for opinions on what it could be. [more inside]
posted by monopas at 1:41 PM PST - 12 comments

Gift Suggestions for our most amazing Cat Sitter

My neighbor (very willingly) looks after our two cats on a semi regular basis. We maybe take one or two trips a year that last longer than a week, but we go away a lot for weekends in the summer and she always feeds and looks after our babies while we are gone. [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 1:36 PM PST - 15 comments

cool function curves?

I'm working on some AI music algorithms and need mathematical curves on which to base certain aspects. What are the equations/names of some beautiful/interesting/unusual 2D function curves?
posted by Ain at 1:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Japanese Drugstore or Beauty Products Store in Chicago Area?

I am trying to put together a gift basket of Japanese sunscreens for a friend who used to live in Japan and who feels nostalgic for the variety, quality, etc. of Japanese sunscreens. I want to find a store where I can see them and select them in person, in the Chicago area. Any ideas?
posted by anonymous at 1:11 PM PST - 5 comments

"And I need you more than want you...

And I want you for all time". Some more artistic endeavours that express that same sentiment, please.
posted by threetwentytwo at 12:39 PM PST - 13 comments

tightly controlled blood sugar and dementia

I was recently told that there is an association between tightly controlled blood sugar levels and future risk of dementia even when the blood sugar control is achieved through diet and exercise instead of medication., i.e. not associated with hypoglycemia or any acute low blood sugar episodes. I have not been able to find any data on this. Can you find anything?
posted by anonymous at 12:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Hiring a contractor

I am trying to hire a contractor for the first time and could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 12:17 PM PST - 12 comments

Vox gun control article/video: rebuttal to the rebuttal?

Vox made a called "America's Gun Problem, Explained". A right wing guy made what looks like a legitimate rebuttal. What is the rebuttal to the rebuttal? [more inside]
posted by 4midori at 11:51 AM PST - 15 comments

Strategies for getting in problem-solving frame of mind for the anxious!

When confronted with any kind of problem these days, I seem to instantly hit rock bottom. What can I do in the moment to enter problem-solving mentality? [more inside]
posted by heavenknows at 9:51 AM PST - 18 comments

Side effects of now normal blood pressure are unbearable.

Long time high-blood pressure now well under control. However, the results are causing vast complications [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 AM PST - 25 comments

Looking for BBC Israel and Syria interview

Thing I partially heard on BBC Newshour (WHYY) this morning that I'd like to hear again and recommend: A woman interviewing spokesmen individually from Israel and Syria and pushing them both pretty hard about what their governments were doing and whether it made sense. Now that I think about it, she was much better than their average political interviewer, and I'd like to find more of her work. Anyone else hear it? Able to find the link? [more inside]
posted by Nancy Lebovitz at 9:44 AM PST - 1 comment

Travel insurance for American Expats Abroad -- to America

I know this has been asked before but it was a while ago so I'm hoping for updated information! I am an American living abroad with insurance in my resident country that does not cover the US. I am going back to the US for several months with my family (mix of US and non-US citizens.) What kind of health insurance do I get? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 9:39 AM PST - 2 comments

CFO in a week?

Recommend me some training options for a small biz CEO to develop a high level of understanding of managing the finance side of her business. Are there 2-3 day seminars for this? Several-month trainings that only require online attendance? If I could wave a wand for the optimal solution, I'd get her in to a mixed online/in-person workshop with 6-10 other young professionals like her. If physical presence is necessary, Seattle for the win, or maybe SFO, but open to any for the perfect fit. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 9:17 AM PST - 5 comments

What company was this?

Back in the late 1990s, I lived in NYC and signed up for a landline plan through an alternative carrier. All I remember about them is that they billed themselves as green and good for the environment, and they would send monthly coupons for a pint of Ben and Jerry's. Trying to remember this is driving me and my old roommate up the wall. Does anyone remember this?
posted by Neely O'Hara at 7:34 AM PST - 12 comments

What was this patch?

A woman on my bus had an inorganic patch thing on her arm. What was it? [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 7:29 AM PST - 12 comments

How do I not fail the Voigt—Kampff test?

I need to communicate with long-distance SO. It's about my mental health, treatment, and the impact on my work and our roadmap for the future. However, fear arising from past experiences grapples me. How do I keep myself intact while reaching true communication and understanding? [more inside]
posted by runcifex at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments

how do i be a less bitchy manager?

so, I worry that I tend to come off as mean or bitchy with my direct reports (who are admittedly undertrained, not that I can do much about that); and I tend to snap at them when they make stupid mistakes or ask stupid questions. how do I stop behaving that way?
posted by and they trembled before her fury at 7:18 AM PST - 31 comments

Looking for more information on abdominal surgery

I have abdominal surgery scheduled for next week and not finding many online resources about what to expect immediately after and long term and would appreciate any links, resources or personal anecdotes about what to expect. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:10 AM PST - 13 comments

Seeking book recommendations on parenting gifted kids

I’m looking for books on how to parent gifted kids, ideally with a focus on kids who have some discrepancies in their abilities. [more inside]
posted by eirias at 6:42 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me clean my floor

I seem to be unable to clean my bathroom floor. When I tried I made it worse. Help? I feel a failure as an adult. [more inside]
posted by sockofdreams at 6:10 AM PST - 7 comments

How to learn to sing simple harmony when you can't read music?

I would love to be able to sing simple harmony to equally simple folk songs but I have no formal musical training or knowledge and can't read music. Help? [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 5:50 AM PST - 27 comments

Upper body commuting exercise with skateboard and ski poles?

I'd like to exercise my upper body and core. I'd like to do it during my 6km commute, which involves stairs at one point but is otherwise mostly along a flat bike trail with many stops. I'm thinking of getting some sort of skateboard, putting some sort of brakes on it, getting some sort of poles, and arm-pumping my way there. I don't want to spend too much up front in case I flake out. Thoughts/warnings/suggestions/better options?
posted by clawsoon at 5:43 AM PST - 21 comments

RSS-ify my Facebook news feed?

This morning Facebook is trying out a new "feature" in my news feed: after about ten posts from people or pages I have actually friended or subscribed to, it stops showing me activity that I specifically signed up to view, and instead shows random crap labelled "Posts from around Facebook". I.e., paid content. [more inside]
posted by eviemath at 4:38 AM PST - 13 comments

What to do with an extra water line?

We’re buying a house with an extra water line in the kitchen. It’s a flexible hose that’s supposedly to hook up to a second refrigerator/ice maker, but we don’t want an second refrigerator or ice maker. We’ll probably just cap off the pipe and cut the line, but before we do: can you think of any good uses for the second water line?
posted by griseus at 3:45 AM PST - 16 comments

car shopping for a growing family

with kiddo #3 on the way, i’m looking to upgrade my 2009 prius to accommodate more my growing family and all of the car seats that come with it. [more inside]
posted by sabh at 3:34 AM PST - 18 comments

Why wouldn't the medical marijuana doctor want to tox screen me?

I had an extremely shady MMJ experience. I'm interested in some reasons for one aspect of the shadiness. I have my card, and I'm not interested in taking action against the doctor. Just curious. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 2:34 AM PST - 8 comments

May 9

Name that '70s synth tune

Synth instrumental, ca. 1975, used as broadcast news theme music as late as '80s. Haven't heard it since. No matches on the music search sites. I lost my original off-air recording; below is a wav file of a midi reproduction. URL is obviously temporary for this ask. [more inside]
posted by zaixfeep at 8:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Animal, vegetable, mineral?

Help me ID this stick I found? San Diego, about a month ago.... [more inside]
posted by zinful at 7:44 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I find the right CMMS?

I need a computerized maintenance management system. I don't want to spend two weeks entering information into a free trial, and then have pressure to use that software. Is there a service/consult/sizing guide for my options? [more inside]
posted by shenkerism at 4:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Visually gorgeous movies that don't overuse closeups

Lately it seems like every movie I watch consists solely of close-ups of people talking in uninspired settings designed half-heartedly. Please recommend movies that feature (1) incredibly gorgeous, detailed, distinctive visuals and scenery (like The Handmaiden, Inception, In the Mood for Love, or any Wes Anderson film), and (2) a directorial style that shows off those visuals through long shots and excellent mise-en-scene (like Playtime or A Brighter Summer Day).
posted by perplexion at 4:08 PM PST - 80 comments

Seeking gallery of video game menu screens

I am interested in viewing a gallery of menu screens from all sorts of video games on any and all platforms. Google Image Search is actually a pretty good match for this, but is there anything similar yet put together intentionally, maybe even with some commentary? Bonus if there's any way to show screens together that serve similar functions within their respective games, e.g. a bunch of character configuration menus, a bunch of level select menus, a bunch of root menus...
posted by one for the books at 4:01 PM PST - 5 comments

Programmatically validating an informal API

I need to create an automated solution for ensuring several client and server software modules of various versions can successfully interoperate. They don't have a formally specified API, so what are the best approaches? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 3:32 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I stop seeing my books as trophies?

I have - way too many books. I'm pretty sure I need to have fewer. But I don't know how to get over the mindset that having too many books is actually a point of pride. [more inside]
posted by my left sock at 2:22 PM PST - 64 comments

Groovy Los Angeles Vacation Recommendations

I'm visiting Los Angeles for the first time in early June, and would love recommendations for things to do and see related to the Sixties and Seventies. [more inside]
posted by kaisemic at 1:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Dinner in San Francisco: nice-casual, PoC-owned, sharable

Where should my partner and I go for dinner in San Francisco next week? Last time we were in town, our nice dinner was at Kin Khao, which we liked a lot. We prefer sharable plates when eating out, and don't want to go anywhere super formal. I would love to support a restaurant owned/chef'd by a person of color, or at least not go to a Mexican or Asian restaurant helmed by a white person. [more inside]
posted by silby at 1:44 PM PST - 14 comments

I'm a woman, should I take a security guard job?

We moved to a city where we could afford to buy a house. Great, but I haven't been able to find work in my previous field here. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 12:20 PM PST - 18 comments

Home appraisal to remove PMI - good idea?

I bought a house about 3 years ago in the dead of winter and got a good deal on it - the house itself is in very good shape, but the actual landscaping is very much a work in progress. The average house right now is going for +70K over what I paid for mine and I'm wondering if I should get a home appraisal to drop the PMI? [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 11:56 AM PST - 11 comments

Protect My arms

I'm looking to keep myself from sunburn while staying cool this summer. Is there a magical shirt that will do this? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 11:51 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me do right by my cat with congestive heart failure & URI

I have a cat situation and I am not sure how to proceed. My 11 year old cat Mama was diagnosed with congestive heart failure. She had been running around playing like normal and then all of a sudden she was lying on her side obviously having difficulty breathing. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws at 11:34 AM PST - 9 comments

Any empirically supported methods for helping a new mom learn to nap?

I've had troubled sleeping for most of my adult life. It's improved in recent years (34 now), but I've never been a napper. Once I'm up, it's very hard for me to get back to sleep. With my adorable 6 week old, I'd love to follow the advice of napping when the baby naps, but so far it's garbage for me, I can't nap. Help? [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 11:06 AM PST - 19 comments

Night weaning a spirited toddler

I am so tired. It's just me and potato Jr most nights, and I'm hesitant but ready(?) to night wean. I've had one false start interrupted by toddler illness and sheer exhaustion. Please give me some new methods to try. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 10:48 AM PST - 18 comments

Materials for a more diverse Diversity Training

Our corporate diversity mission is supposedly made of 2 parts: supporting different EEO classes (race, color, religion, sex (including pregnancy, gender identity, and sexual orientation), national origin, age (40 or older), disability or genetic information) and supporting all "Other Diversity". In practice, we only ever train about EEO classes. I am looking for materials which can support some trainings which focus on all Other Types of Diversity. [more inside]
posted by sdrawkcaSSAb at 10:29 AM PST - 4 comments


Is it permissible to audibly pass gas in front of strangers, while using a urinal?
posted by BuddhaInABucket at 10:16 AM PST - 40 comments

Fan running non-stop w/Ubuntu 14.04

I have an older Toshiba Portege laptop running Ubuntu 14.04, and starting about 6 months ago, the fan began to run constantly, at full speed, whenever it's turned on. I've tried to troubleshoot to no avail, so I'm looking for some help from folks with more Linux background than me that can ID the problem.
posted by ryanshepard at 9:49 AM PST - 11 comments

queer friendly psych hospitals in Mass, BC/BS insurance

Hi MeFi. I have a friend in need that I'm trying to help. They need to be hospitalized [psych ward] and have some special needs that need to be considered. They are queer and need to have queer-friendly/focused care and they prefer to stay in MA. I did some googling and just came up with one partial hospitalization program, which isn't enough [for Reasons]. What are some good psych hospitals/facilities in MA that are queer-focused that take Blue Cross/Blue Shield?
posted by gloraelin at 9:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Noob runner needs help

I am participating in a C25K program and feel like I'm plateauing/hitting a wall. Please help this struggling runner get better... [more inside]
posted by widdershins at 9:15 AM PST - 28 comments

What is my browser reporting as my referral source

As I follow a link from one page to another, I'd like to be able to see what my browser is reporting as my referral source. Is there a way to expose that to the user outside of waiting for it to show up in Google Analytics?
posted by willnot at 9:10 AM PST - 6 comments

Event Manager Mefites: Help me BEO!

We're suspending our subscription to Gather... [more inside]
posted by feistycakes at 8:51 AM PST - 0 comments

Get up and GOTV

What are the most effective GOTV and voter registration organizations? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 8:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Have you used an online mortgage lender?

We had an offer accepted on a house (we currently own a home and plan to sell our current home and move to our new house in a year for retirement) and are shopping for a mortgage. Have you used an online mortgage lender? [more inside]
posted by bluesky43 at 8:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Recipe for a British/Euro style Shandy?

In the U.S. - what type/brand of beer, which type/brand of carbonated lemon soda, and what proportions do I need to make a regular old beer-and-lemonade shandy? [more inside]
posted by hiker U. at 8:10 AM PST - 22 comments

Nonprofit seeks free cloud based shared password protected calendar

The community darkroom I'm involved with needs a better way to schedule darkroom time. We would like people to be able to add their own time reservations to a shared calendar but not write over any currently existing reservations. We also need to be able to pull and restore access via, I guess, a password system. And all this needs to be smartphone accessible. Is it out there? [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 8:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Suggestions for Béchamel-based Pizza Sauces

I've successfully done 1+1 with tomato sauce, blended with blanched kale/spinach and basil. What are other herbs or ideas that I can use to up my pizza game?
posted by tedious at 7:41 AM PST - 8 comments

Weed or plant?

Are these weeds I should be eradicating, trees that might end up being nice at some point with some cultivation, or delightful perennial plants I should leave alone to do their thing? [more inside]
posted by willpie at 6:16 AM PST - 11 comments

The opposite of what most people search the internet for...

Parents, teachers, health educators - do you have any recommendations for online videos that teach abstinence, appropriate for a high school audience? [more inside]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 6:00 AM PST - 5 comments

May 8

How can I improve this self-esteem issue?

I have something like a social form of Impostor Syndrome, where I believe that everyone that likes me is being deceived and will one day notice I'm not likeable. I'm sick of it, and want to know if I can switch from "managing" to "eradicating" or at least "seriously reducing" it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:23 PM PST - 16 comments

Like Cazadores but gentler

I really like tequila. Specifically, I like the flavor profile of Cazadores Reposado. I like the notes of white pepper and pears, the little bit of oak that backs up a delicate fruitiness. I'd like it even better if this taste didn't come bound to a shiver-inducing alcohol bite or the stink of witch hazel upon pouring. What is my next tequila?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 11:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Repurposing Parasitic Signage for Art

You know those signs made out of corrugated plastic that pop up in interstitial grassy areas by the side of the road? The ones that usually have dodgy real estate offers written in marker or ads for weird diet supplements? Do the people that put them there get permission from the property owners or just plunk them down there like so much litter? [more inside]
posted by picea at 8:20 PM PST - 14 comments

Building a webapp in 2018

Help me pick a framework/language for building a database-backed web app [more inside]
posted by ghostbikes at 7:37 PM PST - 11 comments

Always in key, but don't know which key?

I don't have absolute pitch, but someone who does has told me I tend to sing in actual keys (i.e. I'll sometimes sing the same tune in G, sometimes G♯, but never halfway between G and G♯). Is that likely to be true? Is it common? [more inside]
posted by aws17576 at 7:06 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I follow up with my boss after he made an inappropriate comment?

My boss came up to me during a meeting break and told me I was starting to show (I am 10.5 weeks pregnant), and it made me feel uncomfortable. Should I ask his boss to follow up on this incident? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:50 PM PST - 48 comments

What's safer, a VPN as a standalone app or as a browser extension?

I'm considering three VPN candidates. I understand the way they work, but there's something I don't understand. What's the difference, if any, in security between using, say, Private Internet Access as an app on my Mac desktop and using it on the same desktop but as a Chrome extension? Thanks.
posted by holdenjordahl at 6:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Probiotic suggestions please!

If you're currently taking a probiotic, I want to know how you like it and why you picked it! [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 6:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Seeking Sonoran Desert nocturnal animal photo prints

A few years ago, I saw some photos in a magazine (probably New Scientist). They were black-and-white photos of desert animals (Sonoran Desert, perhaps?) taken by automated motion-detector cameras for a research study. I remember javelinas or other wild pigs, a hare, coyotes, maybe a lizard, maybe an owl or other birds. I’d like to buy prints of these or similar photos. I really liked the raw aesthetic of the animals visiting the automated camera, but I’d settle for something similar without that exact feel.
posted by cnidaria at 5:40 PM PST - 5 comments

In Search Of A Lovely Day....

Can anyone help me track down a short film by Ed Burns, from 2001? It was part of the 9/11 Concert for New York City. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 5:19 PM PST - 1 comment

Procrastination, avoidance, laziness, prioritising - advice please

I'm having some major problems with procrastination and avoiding things I don't want to do or am worried about. I'm at a stage now where one of the issues is there are so many things I haven't done that I don't know what to prioritise. Looking for advice and strategies to get out of this rut and actually get something done. [more inside]
posted by paduasoy at 5:06 PM PST - 13 comments

Walk out

Can I walk out of my postdoc? The environment is toxic. I would rather stab my own eye out then finish my publications. I have a great industry offer. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 4:20 PM PST - 27 comments

Lathe experts: can you identify this lathe brand?

I recently bought a second-hand lathe from an estate auction. It's in good condition, but didn't come with a manual, and the lathe itself doesn't seem to carry the brand name. [more inside]
posted by New England Cultist at 4:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Are these the bugs that are biting me?

Awhile ago our cats got fleas. We did all the things to get rid of them and thought we had. But recently I started getting itchy bites again, mostly at night, and right in the same places I had gotten flea bites before (lower calf, upper ankle) so I put out some leftover flea traps to see if we needed to treat again. [more inside]
posted by mrmurbles at 4:07 PM PST - 8 comments

receiving paycheck for overseas friends?

I live in the USA. I have several friends in South America who do a fair amount of work online. However, the service through which they were being paid recently closed its doors, and the replacement services won't be ready for a few months. I've been considering the possibility of receiving their deposits here, cashing them out, and sending it to my friends via Western Union. Is this legal/practical? What are the tax implications of this? Should I receive them under my name and report it as business income/expenses on my taxes? Any help appreciated.
posted by Ain at 3:12 PM PST - 10 comments

Requiring an MLS listing before a coop sale?

Members of our townhouse coop association frequently sell their units privately, without going through a realtor. Because the units are not listed on the MLS, the sales aren't getting used as comparables for future sales, and we are concerned that this is depressing prices and/or interfering with the ability of buyers to get mortgages. Help me understand whether it might make sense to require sellers to list their property on the MLS before a sale! [more inside]
posted by wyzewoman at 2:08 PM PST - 12 comments

creepy beady eyes

Trying to remember a specific children's book with a drawing of a cockatrice. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 2:07 PM PST - 12 comments

A 48-hour trip to Indianapolis

This weekend, my spouse and I will be visiting Indianapolis. A longtime friend of ours is at IU Health University awaiting a liver transplant, and we want to show our support for her and her family. There will be time for us to explore parts of the city when we're not at the hospital, so for the 48-ish hours we're there, what recommendations does the crowd have? [more inside]
posted by stannate at 1:51 PM PST - 11 comments

Can't Edit Audience in Boosted Facebook Post

I am a new, wary user of Facebook. Boosted posts have been working fine until recently. Now, for some reasons, I can't change a former set of locations and audience preferences before boosting the post. Facebook is calling those formerly used preferences "default" when I never intended it to be a default. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 1:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Summer outdoor games

Are there some amazing outdoor games you like to play with adults and tweens at get-togethers? [more inside]
posted by waving at 1:43 PM PST - 29 comments

Improve credit score by paying rent? Does it work?

There are a couple of apps/websites out there, like pinch and renttrack that claim that if I set up my rent payments to go through them they'll report that to the 3 major credit agencies and that this will likely have a positive impact on my credit. Is this for real? [more inside]
posted by dis_integration at 1:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Grand Canyon Rim to Rim

If you were planning a four to five day trip to the Grand Canyon, how would you spend your time? [more inside]
posted by Missense Mutation at 1:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Neat freaks, help!

You are a person working full time with lots of hobbies and interests who also manages to keep your living space very clean--without the help of a hired cleaning person. How do you do this? What does your cleaning schedule look like? How many hours per week do you devote to cleaning? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 1:21 PM PST - 19 comments

Are these TOSLINK connectors defective?

One end of this optical audio cable is fine, but the other end has a piece of the optical fiber sticking out from the connector about 1/4". Photos. Is this broken? [more inside]
posted by zachlipton at 1:01 PM PST - 5 comments

How to best conceal a pee in the bed accident?

What can I do to lessen the smell of pee in a bed without access to a washing machine, and which won't leave a noticable trace behind? [more inside]
posted by crocodiletsunami at 1:00 PM PST - 25 comments

Should we bank our baby's cord blood / cord tissue?

We are a very racially-mixed couple expecting our first child next week. Should we bank the baby's cord blood and/or cord tissue? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Things to do in Chicago on a Friday evening

I'm heading to Chicago for a meeting on Thursday and Friday, and flying back home early on Saturday. What should I do on Friday evening? Can I get some birthday shopping done, and if so, where? Or is there a "don't miss" thing I can fit in between 5 PM and 10 PM? [more inside]
posted by RedOrGreen at 12:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Summer Runnin' / Sweatin' So Fast

I think I'm in the market for lightweight, knee-length running tights, but I'm a dude and they only seem to be marketed to women. I've found reference to so-called ¾ length running tights for men, but most of those hit at or below the calf (19-22" inseam) and I'd really like something that comes just below the knee (16.5-17" inseam). Does the product I want exist? [more inside]
posted by fedward at 12:25 PM PST - 11 comments

Where is this logo from?

Seeking info on a logo on a pin [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 12:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Android speech-to-text without the extras?

I'd like to use Google offline voice recognition on my LineageOS (Android) phone without all the baggage. Gapps Pico is too bulky and overkill. Can this be done? [more inside]
posted by mr_bovis at 11:56 AM PST - 2 comments

Wants to date casually, worried I should "keep working on myself first"

I'm a 32 year old sensitive/slightly awkward/nerdy guy with very little experience with dating and romance who is interested in "putting myself out there" after a long dry spell (keeping in mind a history of depression and anxiety, currently under control but not completely absent). I'm more or less together when it comes to most aspects of my life, but I haven't been on any sort of date in years-I've deliberately avoided trying to date because I felt like I needed to focus on self improvement. Unfortunately, I've made a lot of progress, but I don't know if it's enough to look for dates again. Any advice? Should I go for and set up an online profile, see what happens, despite not having my life completely "together" or being super-confident? [more inside]
posted by EyesDarting at 11:04 AM PST - 25 comments

Landlord: "I don't believe you need a service dog." Huh?

I live in reduced-income housing in the Boston area, but am moving out in a month. I have been without a signed lease for over 4 months. Today, in signing a notice that I was moving, a board member said they did not believe my son needed a service dog and he asked for documentation. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 10:57 AM PST - 14 comments

Books about MRIs, hospitals, surgery for a 3-4 year old

I am searching for books to read with a child who will go through an MRI (sedated) and maybe surgery. Also books or resources and books for a caring sibling. Thank you.
posted by anya32 at 10:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Dayhiking for the complete non-hiker

I have volunteered myself to go hiking and I know nothing about hiking. I would like to not look like a complete moron and show up relatively prepared. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 10:11 AM PST - 37 comments

Selling item on Craigslist and buyer who made deposit not communicating

Should I sell my item to someone else since the original buyer from Craigslist who put a deposit down on the item is not responding to my calls, texts, or emails? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 9:33 AM PST - 14 comments

Medical Travel Insurance for U.S. Citizen traveling to the U.S.

I'm looking for an medical insurance plan I can buy for 10 ten days that will cover me while I'm in the U.S. [more inside]
posted by Lingasol at 9:22 AM PST - 5 comments

Car insurance/ownership conundrum

What is the best way to give/sell my daughter my car and do we have to register and insure in expensive Michigan? [more inside]
posted by trinkatot at 9:21 AM PST - 3 comments

What's your work-appropriate daily sun protection regimen?

I need a plan for daily sun protection that has the following: high UVB and UVA protection; not itself too damaging to the skin (so, none of the bad/cheap UV filters like avobenzone-- maybe Euro active ingredients?); and plays well enough with makeup to look polished for work. What should I try? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 9:12 AM PST - 18 comments

Buying a PC to Minecraft

I'm looking for advise on buying a PC so my 9 year old son can play Minecraft. Would it be a bad idea to buy a used computer online? I'd like to spend as little as possible, but if I should purchase a computer new, is there a particular model that is low-cost but will allow him to install Minecraft? [more inside]
posted by okay-quiet-time at 8:55 AM PST - 5 comments

Book recommendations! Furiosa edition

It’s that time again. Right now I’m feeling in the mood for something that has a sort do I put this? Manic Tarantino-ish energy, but without the misogyny, and with ladies? I do not know if this exists, but I’m sure if it does, it is loved. Furiosa-ish, I guess. I’m looking for Furiosa’s book list. So what have you read lately that left you feeling energized and enthusiastic and all fuck YEAH? Or just what have you loved lately?
posted by schadenfrau at 8:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Products available in Canada for fine, curly hair

What's an alternative to Deva Curl products for my nightmare hair? [more inside]
posted by torisaur at 7:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Which day trip from Zagreb should I pick?

Should I go to Plitvice Lakes National Park, the Krapina Neanderthal Museum and “Grgos Cave”, or the Varaždin and Trakošćan Castles? [more inside]
posted by bardophile at 7:23 AM PST - 10 comments

I'm too old for this ... stuff

How can I best extricate myself from/manage this absurd level of roommate drama? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 at 7:09 AM PST - 52 comments

What can I do with granular citric acid?

I want to descale my OXO Barista Brain Coffee Maker, and I understand that OXO brand descaler is essentially citric acid. It's also very pricey. The buy-in-bulk price points for granular citric acid seem too good to pass up. If I buy a 5lb or 10lb bag of granular citric acid to make descaler on the cheap, what else can I do with it?
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 6:56 AM PST - 23 comments

August 2018 Plans

I'm a poor traveler—I tend to bounce around between famous sites/museums, not actually meet any locals, and then leave feeling like there wasn't much point—so how should I do better if I have this August off? Ideally in Japan (I speak some of the language). [more inside]
posted by sphys at 6:10 AM PST - 10 comments

is it too soon for another nail polish question?

Seeking new quirky, yet work appropriate and subtle, nail polish shades. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 5:44 AM PST - 14 comments

Tips and tricks for building nests

My partner and I are moving into a 1br apartment this weekend and will basically be starting from scratch, stuff wise. We have a kitchen table and a dresser and some assorted kitchen things. We are looking for your best furniture and grown-up stuff recommendations, do's and dont's, and any other advice. Bonus: I have a decent salary now! [more inside]
posted by ropeladder at 5:18 AM PST - 36 comments

Harry Potter themed school year - give me your ideas!

Our elementary school is going to have a Harry Potter theme throughout the next school year, focusing on the first Harry Potter book. What different elements from the wizarding universe can we incorporate into the day-to-day life of the school? [more inside]
posted by Blissful at 4:01 AM PST - 15 comments

May 7

Where to get the good GIS stuff free?

GIS historical datasets for national / provincial boundaries? [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 11:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Attempting to get back together with an ex after a decade

I want to get back together with my ex from a decade ago but I'm upset by his recent behavior and can't decide how much of it to chalk up to past baggage/resentment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:09 PM PST - 44 comments

Chicago 1) Shopping 2) Eating and 3) Interview Spot

I'm doing one of those interviews where the writer spends a day with the celebrity, and I've discovered...I'm not really good at planning fun days with celebrities. Can you help me plan our day in Chicago? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:08 PM PST - 5 comments

shoes as cheap and durable as rubber clogs, but breathable?

My shoes for the last year and a half have been a pair of rubber clogs I got from the half-off bin at a chemist's. I love everything about them except that they don't breathe at all. They don't scuff. Salt rinses right off. Tread is barely showing wear after eighteen months. No need to alternate pairs. What styles should I explore if I want a similarly durable and cheap shoe with a breathable upper?
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 9:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Windfall or mistake?

My property assessment always seemed high, and I just found out why - my assessment was square footage plus "additions" which listed all the rooms in my house. Rooms are supposed to only be counted under square footage, so I have been paying taxes on twice the house. I did see the assessment sheets before, but didn't realize this accounted rooms erroneously, so I've been paying an extra $2000/year in taxes. It's late for an appeal (90 day limit), but do I have any recourse to get back ~$8000 in extra taxes paid?
posted by tasty at 9:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Circling back for direction in life

What are some examples in fiction, TV, or film of characters returning to a location in order to revisit something from their past in order to move on with their lives? [more inside]
posted by perhapses at 9:25 PM PST - 22 comments

What is the church mentioned in the end credits to Infinity War

I said I would remember and look it up when I got home but I, of course, forgot. In the end credits to Avengers' Infinity War there is a line about thanks to a church of some kind, something like 'New Way Church' or something like that. It's not in IMDb so does anyone remember seeing that and remember what the name was, or does anyone know anything about what that was about? Thanks.
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 8:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Please let me leave the toilet

What... is this illness, and what are the possible outcomes? Lots of fun bathroom flu issues below the fold. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 8:29 PM PST - 13 comments

Move or build?

My wife and I are currently trying to figure out if moving or adding on to our current home will be 'best.' We don't know how to even start approaching at the cost of doing an addition. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 8:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for a very specific kind of travel deal

I know how to set a fare alert for a flight between two specific cities on specific dates. I know how to use airline websites to look for flexible dates. And I know how to sign up for "last minute travel deals", which are primarily to places I am not interested in going. Does my unicorn exist? [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 8:15 PM PST - 7 comments

How to support my quirky kid toward independence

My 15 year old has never been successful in school. What should we do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:43 PM PST - 19 comments

How can I sell unused nights at a conference hotel?

I’m going to a conference later this month and have booked a room at the conference hotel for the duration of the event. However, it turns out my stay will be abbreviated, so I will not use the original first and last nights of my hotel booking. The conference block of rooms has been sold out for ages, and ideally, I’d make money on the two unused nights. However, I’m not sure how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by Atrahasis at 6:17 PM PST - 9 comments

Netflix recommendations please!!

Due to some dental work gone wrong, i’m mildly doped up on painkillers, drooling like an idiot, still in pain and fighting for couch space with the cats. What can i watch on Netflix? Difficulty: looking for content where nothing bad happens while Canadian. [more inside]
posted by cgg at 6:10 PM PST - 27 comments

Can I fix this?

I was trying to change a lightbulb on an overhead light (a recessed light fixture I think it's called? With the string hanging down to turn it on) and the entire thing fell out of the ceiling and is now dangling by a wire. Yikes. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 5:25 PM PST - 20 comments

Some music education for old men.

What books or online courses would you recommend to get the basics of music theory down? What's music theory 101 that a reasonably smart person could digest in his spare time? [more inside]
posted by signal at 4:37 PM PST - 9 comments

gmail weirdness

Why does a single gmail message not show up in my inbox on my macbook air, but does show up in "All mail" (and on my iphone?) [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 4:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Yo Ho, Yo Ho, an Ocean Topic for Me!

Every week, I give a talk at a retirement home on a different piece of history. I do a few days of research and put together a powerpoint with images, summaries and some video clips. I usually follow themes for a few months at a time. In June, we will be doing activities around World Oceans Day on the 8th. I would love to do a series of oceanography or nautical stories. Some ideas I've had include the Kon-Tiki, development of SCUBA diving, and.... help! What else would make a compelling hour of new information?
posted by skookumsaurus rex at 4:14 PM PST - 16 comments

Is this what pancetta looks like or is it bad?

I bought some sliced pancetta at the grocery store today and just opened it. The middle of each slice is like, soft and mushy. It is like that the whole way through the packet. See inside for photos. [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 3:21 PM PST - 3 comments

celebratory week-ish long SF stay/cation

I've been a grad student living in San Francisco for the past two years. I'll be graduating this weekend, and then I'll have roughly two weeks before I start working full time, for the first time. Where should I go? What should I do? [more inside]
posted by wym at 3:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I install a keypad deadbolt lock system upside down?

I have an antique - not in good condition, but antique nonetheless - front door that I need to change the locks on. I rent and therefore am trying to do the least damage/change. I bought a newfangled keypad lock (this one) but the only way it will fit with the existing (antique) handle, is upside down. Is there any reason NOT to do this, do you think? Assume we can read #s upside down. Thank you.
posted by tristeza at 2:43 PM PST - 4 comments

Buy a new sewing machine, or repair a vintage one?

I want to have a sewing machine that's good for a upper-basic to intermediate sewer. It seems my options are either to repair a vintage (metal, solid, simple) Husqvarna machine or buy a new one. Are new machines (plastic, LCD screens etc) going to last as long as a well-repaired vintage machine? [more inside]
posted by twirlypen at 2:27 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for inexpensive tinted lip balm with SPF. Difficulty: in Canada

I really like tinted lip balms (like Burt's Bees Red Dahlia) as a lighter lipstick substitute, especially in the summer. I am specifically looking for a tinted lip balm with SPF, but I am not coming up with anything reasonably priced AND easily available in Canada, despite seeing plenty that is available in the US. So does anyone have suggestions for tinted lip balm with SPF that I can easily get in Canada but won't cost me double the US price? [more inside]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 2:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Moving: I Hate It

I hate moving more than anything. In four months I'm moving for grad school. What am I not thinking of to make it less of a nightmare for me? [more inside]
posted by colorblock sock at 12:22 PM PST - 29 comments

To whom near NYC can I donate a new 55" LCD display?

After repeated attempts to buy a specific hard-to-find 55" LG display on-line, I now have the one I want – and also have one of these, new in its box, which I do not want. To whom in the New York City area can I give it as a tax-deductible donation? [more inside]
posted by nicwolff at 12:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Do I have to clean my car?

I'm planning to trade in my 12-year-old junker. Will it make any difference if I fully clean the interior? [more inside]
posted by libraryhead at 12:14 PM PST - 5 comments

Is this fountain real or CGI in the Wonderfalls show intro?

I was watching the intro to Wonderfalls on Youtube for episode 1 and I saw this fountain. However I cannot find any other evidence that this fountain of the Indian woman in the canoe/maid of the mist is actually real. The video is too low resolution for me to tell if it is CGI or not. Does it exist?
posted by clockworkjoe at 11:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Take me out to the ball game!

We will be visiting Palm Springs this weekend. We are Twins fans and just realized they will be in Anaheim during our stay. We want to attend the game on Sunday the 13th, which is the only option that doesn't result in us driving back to Palm Springs in the wee hours of the morning. We have some itinerary ideas and would like a local's insight. What can we fit in? [more inside]
posted by SquidLips at 11:00 AM PST - 14 comments

Behavior Tracking App (For Kids)

My wife and I are looking for an iOS app that will allow us to track behavior over time for our five (almost 6) year old, so that he can receive a reward after having "good behavior" for some period of time. We'd like something visually interesting, so that he is interested in it, and ideally it would be something where we could set the conditions (length of time, times per day, specific issues) it is tracking. Any suggestions?
posted by OmieWise at 10:26 AM PST - 9 comments

Moving cross country, Yikes!

We are moving from Los Angeles to Southern Maine and boy is it getting a bit intense around here and would love some feedback on a few things: [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 10:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Gluten Free in Iceland and the Baltics

Does anyone have any advice regarding trying to eat gluten-free in Iceland and the Baltics? [more inside]
posted by LegallyBread at 10:02 AM PST - 5 comments

Peridots Are a Girl's Best Birthstone

I've got a string of peridot chips I want to use to make into a necklace similar to the one in this photo of actress Sierra Boggess. But my jewelry making skills may not be up to the task so I'm turning to the jewelry makers of MeFi for tips. [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 9:48 AM PST - 8 comments

The majesty of stone

I'm aiming to set up a 4-5 day vacation over Labor Day to check out the Grand Canyon as well as Antelope Canyon for that wild sandstone natural architecture. Caveat - I've never been anywhere near those places before, and know zilch about canyon hiking in the region or what else there is to do out there. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by FatherDagon at 8:12 AM PST - 12 comments

AirBnB by proxy?

I would like to get my husband a night away from home for Father's Day. Hotels are very expensive in our city, but I'm not sure it's kosher for me to book an AirBnB through my account but have him stay [more inside]
posted by Bebo at 5:27 AM PST - 15 comments

Does IKEA ever bring old patterns back?

I had an IKEA duvet cover that I loved but they no longer make the pattern. It came out probably 15 years ago. Do they ever bring patterns back, or is it gone for good? Been going through old pictures and feeling quite sentimental about it!
posted by stillmoving at 4:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Irrelevant doctorate helpful for a future therapist?

I will be graduating with my master's degree in a counseling field which will allow me to obtain a license to practice independently after accruing a number of hours of work experience which I have already began. My school offers a doctorate in organizational psychology which isn't at all therapy or clinical. However, I really love my school, I would love the idea of using the title of doctor which is ethical according to the licensing board because I wod still practice under my masters level counseling license, and I figure a few extra years of honing my academic writing skills would only be a good thing. [more inside]
posted by livelikegold6 at 2:02 AM PST - 13 comments

May 6

Pitching potential new clients in South Korea

I have a high profile music composition/arrangement gig in South Korea. I normally work in Los Angeles. While in South Korea, I was hoping to make some professional connections - I normally work on a contract basis doing orchestration, arrangement and composing music for movies, theatre and entertainment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 3 comments

What's wrong with me - and how can I start to change?

I'm in the first half of my thirties and I've realized that life seems to pass by me. I mean my life is more or less okay - I can pay my bills, I have a job that's at least partway interesting. My life hasn't changed much in the last ten to fifteen years. But that's not really a good thing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 15 comments

I'm just feeling sad about the disintegration of a friendship

How do you "get over" the disintegration of a long-term (10 year) friendship? The friendship between me and my best friend (well, former best friend now) has completely disintegrated and we aren't talking anymore. I have been feeling so sad about the ending of our friendship and I don't really know what to "do" to get over it. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 13 comments

Conflict of Interest in Individual Therapy?

It's hard to find a great therapist but I've found one... And she once provided couple's counselling for me and my partner. Is it for sure a bad idea to seek individual counselling from her? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 9:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Should we let our 16-year-old son go to a party in another town?

We live in Vancouver. Our 16-year-old son, who I'd describe as fairly responsible (but still 16), has been invited to a party on Vancouver Island, a couple hours away by ferry, hosted by someone about the same age - a friend from summer camp who we haven't met. Our son expects that there'll be drinking, possibly marijuana. I'm inclined to say no. Any advice?
posted by Ye Olde Socke Puppete at 9:02 PM PST - 19 comments

Can I stop iTunes from loading podcasts on my laptop?

I listen to podcasts exclusively on my iPhone. I want to use iTunes on my laptop for music only. I want to keep the podcasts on my phone, but not have them automatically load onto my laptop. Is this even possible? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 7:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Convenience Store of the Universe

I love 8 Films/Tobira by Uchu Conbini. Please suggest other similar music I might like. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 7:23 PM PST - 4 comments

What to do in Bologna?

I'll be in Bologna, Italy for a week in May. What (preferably offbeat, science-related) places should I see, or do? [more inside]
posted by dhruva at 7:13 PM PST - 12 comments

What temperature range is comfortable and safe for cats?

How warm can a room be and still be comfortable and safe for cats? [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus at 6:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Pink bike cargo rack?

I’m trying to find a basic rear mounted cargo/utility rack for one of my bikes. This is strictly a 10-20 mile daily commuter bike and I’m unlikely to have more than 5 pounds across two panniers so it doesn’t need to be super tough. The challenge is that I can pretty much only find these in black. Where do I go shopping for colorful bike racks? I’m specifically looking for a pink one right now but am probably going to grab another color for a different bike, so same criteria apply.
posted by curious nu at 2:38 PM PST - 11 comments

Calling all Londoners! Where can I live and be happy?

My cup runneth over! I am an American who wants to move abroad, and I have three job opportunities in the UK. I have always wanted to live in a city like London. Not all of the jobs are right IN London, and I need to start thinking about the commute and what's possible before I make a decision on which job I should take. Commute won't be the only thing, but it is a factor. [more inside]
posted by pazazygeek at 1:40 PM PST - 28 comments

Where in the Village(?) Was This Photo Taken?

This photo was taken in August 2004 on my parents-in-law’s trip to New York City along with their friends. They think it was in the Village, although, since they really didn’t know the city, it could easily have been in an adjacent neighborhood. Does any recognize where it was taken? I’m not sure, but I’m assuming it’s from the POV of the sidewalk looking at the front of the bar/restaurant. Does it ring any bells?
posted by Bromius at 1:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Coloring over root touchup?

I have my hair colored at a salon about every 5 weeks now that it is getting pretty gray. Last week I tried Clairol's root touch up to get me through a weekend event because I had a lot of roots showing. It worked pretty well, actually. [more inside]
posted by mmf at 1:04 PM PST - 4 comments

How does one go about even finding remote jobs not in tech?

My wife got a really prestigious grant to go study in Japan next year as part of her PhD. I'm hoping to follow along. We're trying to square the circle of me not shooting myself in the foot career wise if I do so. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 12:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Please explain This iMessage Quirk

I'm having a text conversation with another iPhone user. I see, by the icon, that they're composing....then the composition icon disappears (which I believe means their composition field was cleared). Then, like 10 secs later, a text arrives fully formed. This happens with about 1/3 of my iOs correspondents (and it's always that same 10 sec gap). Any idea what they're doing? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 12:26 PM PST - 8 comments

How to best get clothes to someone in Brazil from the US

Hi, I have a person in Brazil that I would really like to ship a gift of clothes to. What is the best way to do this? I'm wondering if I should just buy them and mail them, if there's a store that folks use to ship right to Brazil, any ideas about what works best. I'm okay with spending a bit I think but want to make it easy for the other person. Thanks!
posted by fairlynearlyready at 11:44 AM PST - 4 comments

My whole house hold loves the cat fountain but me.

So we have solved the cats not drinking by following ask mefi advice and getting a cat fountain. Its great! BUT I CANT STAND LISTENING TO IT. Bonus Pet tax inside [more inside]
posted by zara at 11:07 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I find these adorable white wire patio chairs?

Found these on craigslist and of course they sold already. The seller says they think they were made by Zuo but I can't find anything similar. Can you help me find them (or similar)?
posted by arnicae at 10:36 AM PST - 3 comments

Need ID help - landscape edition.

We have these two large shrubs/small trees in front of our new house and have no idea what they are. We don't care for how they look together, so we plan to have them removed and will likely give them away. We'd like a little more information about them first, but have no landscaping experience whatsoever (first time home owners). We haven't had luck with getting any local nurseries to help consult so we thought AskMeFites may be able to advise us.
posted by Katie8709 at 10:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Can we overthink ramen bowls?

I'd like to get some ramen bowls - is there anything I should look for? Do you have an especially awesome ramen bowl that you recommend? Of course, I'd love for it to be microwave/dishwasher friendly. Bonus question - your go-to ramen/rice/noodle bowl favorite recipe or source for recipes?
posted by amanda at 10:07 AM PST - 11 comments

Being deliberately excluded from work social event – how to resolve?

My department (about 12 people), plus a few others, are all going on a group vacation abroad. I have deliberately been excluded, which makes me feel awful, and I don’t know what resolution I could get from the whole situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:47 AM PST - 37 comments

Anyone recognize these shoes?

Help me find some shoes I saw in the wild this morning! [more inside]
posted by janepanic at 8:39 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for a good coffee pot with cleanable/removable interior parts

The title pretty much says it. My Cuisinart makes a decent pot of coffee, but its insides (water reservoir, etc.) have gotten gunky over the years. This has been true for every similar, pour-the-water-in-the-top pot that I've used over the years. I'd like to find a pot where as much of the interior workings as possible can be removed and washed, or at least wiped out. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 8:25 AM PST - 10 comments

Bell Hooks's best book.

Which Bell Hooks should I read first? Which is her key text? What other feminist texts should I be reading?
posted by feelinglistless at 8:24 AM PST - 10 comments

Who buys special event clothing for kids after divorce?

Wedding outfits are expensive, and I'm not even invited! [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 8:23 AM PST - 31 comments

Help finding specific type of box fan, please?

This room fan I experienced in France was effective, quiet, and slim. Just what I'm looking for....and having trouble finding. This Polish site seemed to have had it once? The usual search-pects are not bringing up any good contenders. (The Dyson fans are too large and expensive to dissuade me from my French dream fan.) Any pointers?
posted by cocoagirl at 7:34 AM PST - 8 comments

What to do after dropping laptop

I just dropped my laptop (2014 MacBook Pro) on the train. It seems to be working ok, but I have a few questions about what I should do next. [more inside]
posted by mydonkeybenjamin at 7:07 AM PST - 5 comments

Where can my girlfriend and I pet a baby pig in the NY area?

I would like to give my girlfriend the opportunity to hold, or at least pet, a baby pig. [more inside]
posted by Transmissions From Vrillon at 6:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Sleeping with a stiff neck

I can't figure out how to position my head/neck/pillow when I sleep to avoid aggravating muscle stiffness in my neck. [more inside]
posted by Mid at 6:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Short story ID - cataloguing knowledge

In the corner of my mind, I recall a story, published around 1966 I think, about a man who is cataloguing all knowledge. Or he is the librarian. Or ... [more inside]
posted by bwonder2 at 3:44 AM PST - 8 comments

Un-shower the people

Sure, "first sight" stuff is a myth, and how long depends on your shape/size/hair, etc., even weather. But: on average, about what % of your post-shower wetness do you estimate resolves itself (by drying or dripping away) if you just stand still in the tub for one minute? [more inside]
posted by Clyde Mnestra at 3:41 AM PST - 16 comments

Why, yes I was watching Harry Anderson videos on YouTube (RIP)

So, what exactly is Sam Malone (Ted Danson) wearing over his shirt in this clip from Cheers? [more inside]
posted by themanwho at 12:55 AM PST - 13 comments

May 5

That web site that connects stuff?

There used to be a web site that would tell you how different things were connected based on (I think) what amazon shoppers also bought. So you could enter any two books, movies, or albums (or a book and an album or any combination) and it would go from one through however many number of other items until it got to the other. [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 11:48 PM PST - 2 comments

Must I walk barefoot over Legos to get to the good stuff?

Third-life crisis here. I find myself thinking about whether or not I want to have kids, and unable to come up with a good answer. [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 10:35 PM PST - 52 comments

Drooling vs Spitting - Solve This Debate!

My husband and I are at an impasse between the definition of drooling versus spitting. What's your vote? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 8:00 PM PST - 32 comments

I need information on adult braces, especially eating with them..

I have had adult braces fitted,fixed train tracks.They are a lot more painful(it has just been a week) and uncomfortable than I thought.I have been looking for online support for adult brace wearers (yes I can use google) but I haven't found many resources. if anyone has suggestions I would really appreciate it.The biggest problem I have at the moment is eating, I find it difficult and painful.I have recently lost a lot of weight through being ill and I want to keep my calories and vitamins UP!Any suggestions would be welcome,soups,liquids,I would consider liquid food supplements in interim and hopefully this will be short term until I adjust but, as I said,it's been harder than I thought!Any suggestions welcome. Thank you.
posted by hitchcockblonde at 5:25 PM PST - 20 comments

How to cope with long (possibly illegal) work hours?

In February I started working as a septic truck driver for a portable toilet company. The weather has warmed, business has increased, and the number of hours have become kind of ridiculous. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 4:13 PM PST - 13 comments

How do working parents get everything done?

...and have time for anything else? I have a 5 year old and a 2 year old. My wife and I work full time, demanding jobs. We have 45 minute commutes. The kids are in day care. We have a babysitter once a week for date night or working late. Between groceries, cooking, haircuts, taking care of the house (ie managing people who take care of the house), doctor appointments, staying home with sick kids, occasional business travel, school visits, etc, etc, we’re exhausted and have little time and energy for fun. The weekends and evenings are like second jobs but with screaming kids in the background. How do other couples in this situation manage? Are we being unrealistic to try and both work full time?
posted by david1230 at 4:13 PM PST - 58 comments

Mother's Day etiquette for boyfriend's family

I was invited to a Mother's Day brunch for my boyfriend's mom and sister. Do I need to bring them presents? [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 2:41 PM PST - 25 comments

What can I keep private while applying for a NYS teaching position?

This year was my first year employed teaching at a NY City Public Junior High School, and I was forced to resign early. I was targeted for administrative abuse by an Assistant Principal, to the point where I was vomiting from anxiety every morning, and myself and another new math teacher both quit before the end of the year. If I am applying to teach next year at a school in New York State, but NOT in NYC, what am I obligated to divulge? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Question about Amazon SellerCentral account

I recently created a single-member LLC for tax and retirement purposes and am a sole practitioner. I would like to begin selling on Amazon but am confused about whether I must give up my individual Amazon account in order to register my LLC as a seller account; the information I've found online and on Amazon Seller support boards is contradictory and/or wildly out of date. (I'm in the US.) [more inside]
posted by catlet at 1:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Which PC makers offer a "clean" load of Windows?

I need to buy 2 new computers for my business, 1 desktop and 1 laptop. They need to be Windows machines, unfortunately, due to the software we have to run on them. [more inside]
posted by nickthetourist at 1:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Teach me to like eggplant

I've never liked eggplant. I think for texture reasons, although now it's been so long that I've eaten it, I don't really remember why I don't like it. I have some extra garden space and have decided to plant a couple eggplant plants. Please tell me how to cook it so I become a convert. Vegetarian ideas preferred. (Dairy is fine.)
posted by mudpuppie at 1:01 PM PST - 42 comments

Mozart's clarinet concerto pulls my heartstrings. Tell me why.

I am obsessed with this chord progression in the adagio from Mozart's famous clarinet concerto (1:18-1:36 in the linked video). Can any musically-minded people tell me why it is so effective? I'm specifically interested in what it is about the interplay between chord progression, melody and instrumentation that feels so yearning and poignant. Get as technical and music-theory-y as you like.
posted by Jellybean_Slybun at 11:46 AM PST - 11 comments

Craft cocktail bars in New Orleans

Heading to New Orleans next week for the first time ever, and excited to check out the cocktail scene. The one place on my list to check out is Jeff Berry's Latitude 29, so very eager for other suggestions. Bars prefered, but suggestions for restaurants with great cocktail programs also appreciated. Thanks!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 11:38 AM PST - 16 comments

I need a swimsuit from the ONLINE please.

I need a one-piece swimsuit that I can swim in. I don't need competitive sportswear, but I do want it to stay put if I swim vigorously. My problem: One-piece swimsuits usually aren't sized for me. Can you help me find the right shop or suit? More inside. [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 11:25 AM PST - 22 comments

How Salty Is Your Undercarriage?

That's not a euphemism. Does vehicle undercoating really protect from corrosion? Salty details inside. [more inside]
posted by baseballpajamas at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments

Outdoorsy pants for mildly curvy women?

I just purged my closet of all my pants that don't fit and am now left with two pairs of sweatpants. I'm looking for pants with pockets, that I can hike in, that are loose in the hips and thighs but that come in at the waist. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 9:13 AM PST - 21 comments

Are newer Roombas better than older ones?

We have a Roomba 530 that we bought in 2009. It does... alright. We've never used it too much since it seems like we're always cleaning hair out of the brushes and out of the bearings on the end of the brushes. Do newer Roombas need less maintenance? How about other robot vacuums like the Neato or the seemingly endless variety of other brands available on Amazon and other places online?
posted by zsazsa at 9:08 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a summer sublet /apartment in North Portland OR

Asking for a friend [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 8:47 AM PST - 3 comments

What to do about a child's last name?

Should I change my young daughter's last name to my own since her father has virtually abandoned her? [more inside]
posted by scrubbles at 8:17 AM PST - 20 comments

What gets pine sap off a car's windshield?

What gets pine sap off a car's windshield? I've tried lots of things that don't work, so what does? Looking for things you've personally had success with in the past.
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 7:34 AM PST - 17 comments

It's a spoiler, so I can't

We have seen "A Quiet Place" and my wife has a question ... [more inside]
posted by donpardo at 7:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Who watches the cloth men?

Does regulation or standardisation rules for garment size exist within the UK/EU? What steps can a consumer take to ensure that retailers who sell items of apparel as one size on the label, when the actual fit size is drastically different, are disclosed responsibly? [more inside]
posted by Vrai at 4:07 AM PST - 13 comments

MS Outlook and responsive email

You guys are smarter and nicer than Stack Overflow, so... I'm trying to make an HTML email template that looks OK on newer iPhones as well as desktops running Outlook 2010. It only has to work in Outlook 2010, nothing else. I have googled my fingers to bloody stumps but none of the purported solutions work for me. Maybe you can help? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 1:48 AM PST - 2 comments

May 4

Job creep but no salary adjustment, and also my spine is made of jelly

I wear multiple hats at my job, but some are worth more than others. My employer has gradually been assigning me tasks I’ve already said I would only do for $X, but paying me my standard rate of <$X (“task creep”). How do I assert myself here? Details below! [more inside]
posted by shalom at 11:28 PM PST - 13 comments

My wife is sick, we don't know why, and we don't know what to do.

My wife and I have been together for four years now. Before we met, she had had a history of mild but chronic odd symptoms: reproductive issues eventually leading to a tubal ligation and endometrial ablation, intense insomnia, near-daily hot flashes (she's nowhere near menopause), muscle cramps, and a lot of nerve tingling, pain, and numbness. After years of frustration, she had stopped trying to see doctors to address these issues; I convinced her to get medical help. Now things are getting much worse, and we don't know what to do. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:09 PM PST - 36 comments

AirBnB IDs

So I'm new to AirBnB, and I think I'll need to add a government photo ID for verification purposes. They mention driver licenses and passports, and you have to scan or take a picture of one of them to upload. Ignoring for now the creepy feeling about uploading official IDs to websites, is there a 'better' choice between those two ID options in terms of personal security? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Already saw a doctor, but would like advice

YANMD. I have come down with a moderate case of stomach flu... already saw a doctor, but how much should I worry? [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 9:11 PM PST - 13 comments

Books by folks with disabilites?

It’s been my mission lately to read books by non-cishetwhitedudes, but I realize I should change that to non-cishetwhitedudeswhoareablebodied. My tastes screw towards literary fiction and academic historical non-fiction. Also always down for a good memoir. But honestly, I’ll read most things happily and have no problem returning your recommendation to the library unfinished, or being pleasently surprised by something I never would have picked up. RAIN YOUR RECOMMENDSTIONS UPON ME! [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 8:57 PM PST - 25 comments

Advice 4 non-monetary compensation 4 upcoming job offer from start-up

I'll be receiving a job offer that I want to accept from a start-up soon. The company is less than 6 months old, has ~25 employees including 2 co-founders and they just put a President in place this week that I will report to. I know that salary cash is not in great abundance now and am looking for ideas they can offer to augment my earnings. [more inside]
posted by Exchequer at 8:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Choosing options for nose surgery to improve breathing

I'm planning to get surgery on my nose to improve my breathing. I'm wondering about people's experiences with this type of surgery, and how they weighed options for different combinations of procedures. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:16 PM PST - 14 comments

strength in solitude? or weakness?

I do a lot of work that is by turns intensely solitary and intensely collaborative creative work. While I love the solitude, it gets a little lonely. I can't figure out whether I should push through the loneliness (because it will make me stronger) or seek out more social interaction (to make the problem go away). Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 7:26 PM PST - 10 comments

Do I need an electrician or just a handyman?

I'm not very handy myself and am outsourcing a lot of smallish home improvement projects. I'm unsure whether the following tasks can be done by a handyman (so far extremely reliable but, you know, not an expert) or whether I'd be better off with a professional electrician: [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 7:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Old New Car - How Old is Old?

I have an opportunity to buy a 2017 VW wagon that has been sitting at the dealership for approximately 480 days. How concerned should I be that it has been at the dealership this long? [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 7:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Six year old protein treatment: can I use it?

I have the bottles for the Aphogee Two Step Protein treatment and Balancing Moisturizer. I probably used them once in 2012. They've been in a dark cool closet since then. Can I still use it or will it not work? Or will it damage my hair if I use it? I'm kind of wary of using it since it probably has a complex formula that can degrade, but I also don't want to pay $20 for something I already have.
posted by starlybri at 7:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me iPhone users, you're my only hope!

I'm considering switching back from Android to an iPhone, but I have some very specific questions around iOS 11 widget functionality. I primarily use my phone as a tool, and it's really important to me that I have quick, at a glance access to time, date, day of week, next alarm, battery, calendar, weather and to do via widgets, and not by needing to repeatedly open apps. There are multiple questions inside, but I'd really appreciate if you even answered one question. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by cnc at 6:59 PM PST - 15 comments

Looking for a German painting from the industrial revolution

I remember it being in some museum in Berlin (likely the Deutches Museum) last May. The painting was of a group of people heartbroken, grieving a dead factory worker. I remember there being a lot of gray in the painting, as well as the wrenched look of suffering in the mourner's faces. I didn't think to take notes of it when I saw it, and all of my google-fu has failed me. [more inside]
posted by Philipschall at 6:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I eat this? - Warm Kale Salad Edition

I am flying BOS>LAX tomorrow evening, and I am planning to bring along a kale salad that I made this evening. Yummy kale salad recipe here It’s about 1 1/2 hours drive to the airport, and I would probably eat the salad within the first hour or so of the flight. I thought this was a solid plan, but dorkyhusband think’s it’s a recipe for food poisoning. What do you think? There is no dairy or mayo in the salad at all. Just kale, fruit, onions (don’t like radishes), almonds and a vinegarette.
posted by dorkydancer at 6:51 PM PST - 15 comments

In search of cookies without brown sugar or chocolate chips 🍪🤤🤤🤤

I want to make cookies this afternoon. I have all your standard baking ingredients EXCEPT I only have a quarter cup of brown sugar and no chocolate chips. Hit me with your recipes please!
posted by tatiana wishbone at 11:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me DVR

So, I want to get a DVR because I often miss shows that are not otherwise available OnDemand or elsewhere. Jeopardy! for example. In my mind, a DVR works like a VCR did, back in the day, except it's even easier to program(?). Is this correct? [more inside]
posted by hydra77 at 10:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Summertime Sadness

Every time summer comes around (in my country/city it means temperature in high nineties, merciless sun and very high humidity), it hits me with sledgehammer force. My body acts weird. Details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Nieshka at 10:42 AM PST - 13 comments

a series of increasingly poor decisions

So I finished shooting with an SLR and put film away. Then I picked up a twin lens reflex camera from an estate sale for very cheap. Initial inspection and test shots show its in good working order. What do I need to know about 120 film stock, 6x6 composition, TLR quirks, and the film-digital hybrid workflow? (I'm using GIMP) [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns at 9:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Same Levi's, Different Body

I only wear Levi's jeans, and I've worn 514s forever (I like that they are simple, comfy and classic, and have a slim leg but it's not super-skinny and tight), but metabolism/being 49/beer has changed my body and they way jeans fit me at the waist (they fit lower now!). Can anyone who's had lived experience with this issue suggest a similar Levi's style to 514s but with a waist that's a bit higher...but not so high that I look like a Dad from 1996? [more inside]
posted by chococat at 9:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Insect identification, part 300. What are these little black flies?

Only one terrible picture, I'm afraid - they're about the same size and shape as fruit flies. Fifty or so tend to swarm about in a 2 x 2 x 2m area above our stone patio (in London) as the weather gets warmer. The mystery is there doesn't seem to be anything nearby for them to do or land on; no immediately proximate plants or standing water or fruit or any other visible food source. What are they and how do we get rid of them?
posted by srednivashtar at 9:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Superior Hiking Trail - 3 day recommendations?

Planning a mid-June backpacking trip on the Superior Hiking Trail with my wife. Looking for recommendations for a route. I'd prefer to start by taking a shuttle and hiking back to the car. [more inside]
posted by caution live frogs at 9:09 AM PST - 3 comments

What can you NOT bring on a plane?

I have not taveled in 10 years, so I was wondering if there is something I cannot bring onto the plane. For example, razors for shaving, or do I have to bring my electric razor, shampoos, hair gel, medications, contact eye solution, snacks? And what about cash? I want to bring some but I'm worried about when it goes through different checks that I might not be able to see; can I have the money on my person? And I want to make sure my carry on bag will fit in the overhead area, so do I just call the airline and ask them the measurements? [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 8:37 AM PST - 46 comments

Where should I stay in Los Angeles?

I'm visiting LA in August--I plan to be there for 3 nights. But the city is so massive I have no idea what part of it to stay in. [more inside]
posted by Automocar at 8:35 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I in good conscience apply herbicide once to my lawn?

We messed up a little and let our lawns go to the dandelions. They're extremely pervasive and the grass is thin and patchy. A lawn guy recommended a one time application of a commercial grade herbicide to get the dandelions under control. But I don't want to hurt bees! [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 7:51 AM PST - 16 comments

You can’t plan on the heart

When a short-term relationship ends (in this case on happy but bittersweet terms), how do you “learn” from the experience when seeking out future partners without trying to replicate the relationship? A few snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:06 AM PST - 6 comments

Is there anything vaguely equivalent to NoScript for iOS?

Can I achieve the same kind of protection NoScript provides on desktop systems on iOS, despite NoScript not being a thing on that platform?? [more inside]
posted by threecheesetrees at 7:00 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm not sure how to find a new job in business management

Failed med school applicant seeks help to advance in a business management career [more inside]
posted by ticktickatick at 6:31 AM PST - 3 comments

What established companies failed by trying something new?

Basically: what companies failed (or were badly wounded) by aggressively pursuing new tech, new markets, new products, etc.? Who bet big on the next big thing and lost? What's the opposite kind of failure from Blockbuster and buggy whips? [more inside]
posted by lieberschnitzel at 6:04 AM PST - 35 comments

Explaining the importance of basic cleanliness

How do I get my husband to understand that things like washing his hands and picking up after himself are important? [more inside]
posted by Somnambulista at 5:57 AM PST - 37 comments

How do I find mentorship in Technology?

I'm working in technology (hardware/software) in a director level position. I'm looking for mentorship in order to further my career but it has to come outside the company. Is there any way I can do this? [more inside]
posted by gadha at 5:45 AM PST - 1 comment

Fun ideas for a very small child's bedroom.

I'm just (hopefully) finishing up turning an old sail locker into a child's bedroom so now's the time to think about features, decorations, storage. Anything cool and fun that a child person might like in their room. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 5:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Bing / Chrome / China firewall, please stop doing this thing!!!!!1

Bing on Chrome / Windows, homepage is behaving oddly now, help? [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 4:26 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I access the swooshy characters in this font set?

This font has lowercase and uppercase letters but also has caps with swooshy tails. I feel decidedly stupid, but no keyboard combination produces swooshes for me. Can someone please unstupid me?
posted by DarlingBri at 3:50 AM PST - 8 comments

May 3

Rebooting a large Wordpress Site

I have a large wordpress site that needs some modernization. It uses a custom built theme done in 2012 which is no longer really compatible with the current versions of WP and WooComm. [more inside]
posted by humboldt32 at 10:50 PM PST - 2 comments

For better or worse: What is considered normal "worse" and what is not?

My marriage isn't even 11 months old yet & I am rapidly losing hope. Some serious red flags are emerging but I can't decide if these are severe enough to consider ending a marriage. In other words, when I vowed to love my wife "For better or for worse", is what I'm describing qualify as "worse" or am I describing behaviors that could qualify as marriage dealbreakers? Trust me, I 100% want this marriage to go the distance but not if I am going to spend a lifetime being the victim of emotional abuse. [more inside]
posted by NewlyWed614 at 9:43 PM PST - 105 comments

Help me find the perfect storage cuboid

I move very often. At least once every year or so, I'm in a new place. So I've become accustomed to keeping all my stuff inside of various cardboard boxes and bins to minimize packing when I inevitably move. I just put the boxes in my car and go. It's practical, to an extent, but they're just so ugly??? I'd like to keep all my stuff in nice sturdy but stylish containers. Preferably something like big opaque plastic storage cubes with lids... why can I not find something like that? [more inside]
posted by picklenickle at 7:23 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I eat these?

Accidentally put some grapes through the wash. I had one bunch in my bag and forgot about them after dumping my bag in the washing basket intending to take the grapes out later, so they went for a spin after I emptied the basket into the machine. They've mostly all split and come off the stem, but stayed in the bag apart from a few strays. I guess I'm mostly wondering how much chemicals and whatnot they might've absorbed after splitting and marinating in washing powder stew for an hour. They smell slightly like washing powder even after a quick wash (in the sink) and sitting in a bowl of tap water for a while. [more inside]
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 6:47 PM PST - 22 comments

Mirroring iPad Mini on Mac computer

I'd like to know if there is a way to mirror my iPad mini on my Mac computer without using wifi. There used to be a way to do this using Quicktime and a lightning cable, but apparently this does not work anymore. Basically, I want to browse the web on my iPad using the cellular internet connection and view it on my Mac computer monitor without using wifi to connect the two devices.
posted by ericthegardener at 6:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Body zaps from psych med

YANMD. I'm having terrible electric shock sensations throughout my body, and they are most likely a side effect from the Vraylar I started recently. I'm happy with the Vraylar otherwise but need relief from this. I'm waiting for my psychiatrist to call back. In the meantime, does anything bring relief? [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 5:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Where in the world should I go in the first two weeks of Oct. 2018?

My best friend lives in China. I live in North America. We try to get together every couple years for about a week. His work schedule means that early October is usually best. We're both seasoned travellers and we like to meet up somewhere we've never been before. I have ideas of where I'd like to go, but I want to go somewhere different where something unique might be happening. Where is that? [more inside]
posted by fso at 5:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Family trip advice wanted: WA or OR, shore plus forests plus city?

We (me, wife, boy 18 & boy 14) think we want to vacation in early August in Washington or Oregon, to enjoy the shore, tide pools, forests, parks, hikes, etc. that we've seen amazing pics of. We like city stuff too (museums, markets, record stores), but Portland seems a bit far from the shore and Seattle seems (maybe?) a bit much? (Expensive? Crowded?) We want tips from folks who have vacationed in the northwest or live there - are there smaller WA or OR destinations that have these NW things we are craving?
posted by chr1sb0y at 5:09 PM PST - 12 comments

Temporary solutions for sealing my window air conditioner

I have a window air conditioner. I rent. The windows are aluminum framed. There isn't a way for me to drill holes in the window to secure the accordion extensions so there's a small gap between them and the frame. I also see cracks where the extensions contact the unit. How do I best seal this up? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 4:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Resources to help me learn when to use different Spanish verb tenses

I’m studying Spanish, and trying to learn when to deploy the various Spanish past tenses. Looking for a book of exercises to help me practice. [more inside]
posted by penguin pie at 4:00 PM PST - 9 comments

How can I exercise around a bum hamstring?

I pulled my hamstring (I think). I know the best remedy is rest, but I fear for my waistline and mental health. How can I keep up my fitness routine without making things worse? [more inside]
posted by lovableiago at 3:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Relocating to Orcas Island

Tell me about your experience living on Orcas Island. i want details deeper than what the internet knows. [more inside]
posted by neanderloid at 2:45 PM PST - 8 comments

seeking your favorite chill, instrumental-only beat based electronica

like the title says. I am fully aware of streaming and search tools of course. - More on the insides. : ) [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 2:41 PM PST - 20 comments

Nonprofits/Women's Groups to Assist a Displaced Chronically Ill Person?

Much to my dismay, I am chronically ill and am really in need of help. I recently left a toxic home environment, so while some stress has been relieved, I'm still in an unsettled situation without the ability to fully support myself. I am young, unmarried and currently staying with professional contacts who have been a great help, and they've advised I reach out to women's groups or nonprofits/organizations who may be able to help. I'm asking here for help in my search. [more inside]
posted by dancer4life at 2:37 PM PST - 8 comments

San Francisco: Dinner for a Group

Anyone have thoughts about good restaurants that would be good for a crowd and also be reasonable for people driving in? [more inside]
posted by noonday at 2:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Wide-brimmed sun hat with a ponytail hole

I'd like to buy a hiking sun hat with a wide brim that goes all the way around the hat, and has a ponytail hole. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by medusa at 2:07 PM PST - 4 comments

A Word For Projecting A Single Incident onto an Entire Population

Is there a phrase for when someone has a single incident or interaction, and then decides that the entirety of the population or scenario in which that interaction occurred is true for ALL subsequent interactions? [more inside]
posted by knownassociate at 1:57 PM PST - 16 comments

Marriage Counseling in Los Angeles (or nearby)?

We've used the "Find a Therapist" tool but the results are so broad that we'd appreciate firsthand recommendations. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:28 PM PST - 4 comments

Gay 15yo nephew in Ohio, Super-Religious parents reaches a crisis: help?

My nephew is 15 years old. He lives in Ohio. His parents are very, very Pentecostal. He is very, very gay. Last week he sent out a call for help and I've not been able to reach him. Please offer any wisdom or advice you have. [more inside]
posted by n9 at 12:56 PM PST - 41 comments

Forbidden Gift Basket

Mothers’ Day Is coming up and my very best friend has a one-month old. For her first Mothers’ Day, I’d like to make her up a gift basket full of the stuff she couldn’t have while pregnant. Please help! [more inside]
posted by Weeping_angel at 12:55 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I try to get a PhD? Where? What don't I know about getting a PhD?

I think I want to apply to Georgia Tech's Digital Media PhD program. Do I? Do I have a chance of getting in? What other programs should I be considering? [more inside]
posted by hapticactionnetwork at 12:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Restaurant eti-filter: what does your culture think of doggie bags?

For those of you reading this outside the US, is it currently considered okay in your country to take home the uneaten portion of your restaurant meal? Or is this just terribly awful and you would die of embarrassment if someone at your table did this? [more inside]
posted by queensissy at 12:48 PM PST - 64 comments

220, 221. Whatever it takes.

We need to buy a home air conditioner that will be plugged into a dedicated 240V socket. What's the best thing to do here? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 12:29 PM PST - 6 comments

relocation: Charlotte or Winston-Salem?

So I'm applying for work & the two top contenders for location with one employer are Charlotte & Winston-Salem, NC. Q1: Opinions between the two? Q2: Recommendations for/against areas & neighborhoods within/around each? I'm very liberal, have lived comfortably in Boston, Seattle & Austin. I have a car but access to public transit would be a plus.
posted by scalefree at 12:22 PM PST - 17 comments

Motor City Shopping Filter: good cocktail and evening dresses in Detroit

Asking for a friend who will be in Detroit tomorrow and will have a car. She is looking for the best selection of evening or cocktail dresses. [more inside]
posted by pointystick at 11:05 AM PST - 1 comment

Please help me figure out how to fund my life

As I’ve noted before, I suffer with Chronic Fatigue Syndrome. I can’t do most of the things I used to do. Like hold a job. I hate being here with this problem, but I do need your help. [more inside]
posted by bryon at 11:03 AM PST - 13 comments

What are the loneliest public institutions in NYC?

With the weather getting hot, I want to hang out in cool, dark, maybe slightly musty-smelling places with interesting stuff to look at, and nobody else around. Museums, historic houses, libraries or whatever - especially in New York City, but if you know of amazing ones elsewhere, maybe I can go there someday. [more inside]
posted by moonmilk at 10:59 AM PST - 20 comments

What Video Doorbell Should I Get in Canada?

I am getting two video doorbells for my new house, which one should I get? I am in Canada (Toronto) where it can get cold. I understand that not all video doorbells work well in the cold. [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 10:40 AM PST - 3 comments

What are the best options for a cell phone plan?

What are the current best plans and deals for an unlimited data cell phone plan? [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 10:03 AM PST - 7 comments

What do you wish you'd known about chemotherapy?

I'm starting chemotherapy for non-Hodgkin's lymphoma tomorrow. Beyond the standard medical guidance, what should I know about going through chemo? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 9:57 AM PST - 18 comments

Can we do better than "reneger" to replace "Indian Giver"?

... Research shows there are several close words, the closest being 'reneger'. We can do better ... [more inside]
posted by casual observer at 9:27 AM PST - 39 comments

Nurse aide? Companion? Need help for grandmother with colon cancer

Grandmother has been diagnosed with Stage 4 colon cancer, and we anticipate more hospital etc stays in the next year. Added complication - dementia/memory loss. We need someone that could potentially stay at the hospital with her. What are we looking for? Any recommendations or experiences for elderly with colon cancer also welcome. [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 8:06 AM PST - 9 comments

How to stock a mini-library of diverse kids books?

How do I spend PTA money to buy gift books that will appeal to the widest possible audience of elementary school kids? [more inside]
posted by secretseasons at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments

Free meeting scheduler, anything better than Doodle?

I am trying to schedule a meeting with a core team of high-level leaders (read REALLY busy folk). I don't love Doodle. Is there an alternative application that you recommend? Another group I belong to uses groupmindexpress. Basically, you just say what times you are available each day during a certain time period. It looks like there is a fee though. Anything similar, or easy to use (for the leaders and me) that is free?
posted by Boyd at 7:17 AM PST - 5 comments

My shins hurt when I run. Should I stop?

IKYANMD. I get muscle pain in my shins when I run. I don't think it's shin splints - I think it's chronic compartment syndrome, affecting my tibialis anterior. Do I need to stop running (for a while? forever?), or can I push through it? [more inside]
posted by rd45 at 7:15 AM PST - 15 comments

What's fair??? Hamilton Tickets edition

My friend wants me to pay 4X her cost for a ticket to Hamilton. Her reasoning is that it worth at least that on the open market. [more inside]
posted by SoulOnIce at 5:59 AM PST - 91 comments

Hiring a house painter

Our little house needs to be painted. We will get quotes from each of several painters that have come with personal recommendations from neighbors on our street. What questions or parameters should we ask or provide? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 5:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Do animals have faces?

Please help adjudicate a debate. Do animals have faces, or is face a word that can only apply to humans (and anthropomorphic animals like cartoon characters or pets)? In case this is a regional / dialect thing, please note your background when answering. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 3:14 AM PST - 52 comments

May 2

Need amusing, funny easy to read book recommendations

I need something light and funny to take my mind off things because I've been under a ton of stress and my best friend died today. [more inside]
posted by stray thoughts at 9:39 PM PST - 38 comments

ASL books for tiny tots

I'm looking for books for the 2-4 year-old set (think pre-K) that include some American sign language. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 7:58 PM PST - 2 comments

What do I do with 20 lbs of rice?

Long story short, I bought 20 pounds of jasmine rice, and there are only 3 of us. Sure, I could return it, or freeze it and use it slowly, but is there anything I could do in one fell swoop, something that would use all (or most) of it in one go?
posted by kerf at 7:45 PM PST - 23 comments

Ask bread-afilter: is a lame worth the money?

I’ve been baking my own artisan loaves with great results, and have a lot of specialty tools. But I can’t bring myself to spend the money on a dough blade/lame because I don’t know if it will work better than a sharp knife. Any insight? [more inside]
posted by InkDrinker at 7:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Streaming A Movie's Sound to Multiple Devices

I'd like to screen movies with friends on my building's roof patio, but the building doesn't allow amplified/loud sound there. Is there some program or application that would allow me to play the video file on a computer but have the audio stream or be synced somehow to everyone's phone? [more inside]
posted by Sangermaine at 7:32 PM PST - 8 comments

Choosing a studio apartment in DC, any recommendations?

I need help and outside views on finding a studio apartment that meets my criteria. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 6:46 PM PST - 24 comments

Whisker-friendly, non-plastic cat dish

My fussy cat just got fussier. He refused to eat last night until I hand-fed him, he refused to eat at all this morning, and tonight he ate only after I transferred his food from his bowl to a saucer, at which point he ate fairly enthusiastically. I'm assuming he doesn't like his whiskers touching the side of the bowl, as he's kind of neurotic about any unusual sensory input (noise, movement) while he's eating anyway. I'm looking for recommendations for bowls, either glass or ceramic, that wouldn't bother his whiskers. (He also won't eat out of plastic. Other non-plastic items considered.)
posted by lazuli at 6:20 PM PST - 31 comments

Am I Latinx enough to wear the t-shirt?

How can I understand what it would mean to identify as both Latinx and white? Recognizing that race/ethnicity are complex social constructs, I could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by sockpuppetryarts at 6:04 PM PST - 29 comments

What are your favorite podcasts that aren't chatty?

I'm looking for podcasts that are more structured and less chatty, what are your faves? [more inside]
posted by sotonohito at 5:54 PM PST - 37 comments

Mother's Day gift for mom returning to Catholicism

My mom has returned to the Catholic church after many years and is very enthusiastic about it. I would like to get her a Mother's Day gift that supports this interest but am pretty lost about what to get. I think that a lot of Jesuit writings resonate with her. She likes religious iconography. Um, and that's all I've got. I'm looking for gift suggestions that go beyond "nice Bible" or "rosary"--something she wouldn't think of herself.
posted by HotToddy at 4:00 PM PST - 29 comments

What see through fabrics can I use in the bathroom?

whatever is see through and allows air through- like chiffons or mesh for example which can handle humidity [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 3:07 PM PST - 5 comments

Gas 911! Put diesel in car...standing at pump right now

just put over 2 gallons of diesel in my unleaded fuel only car. wasn't paying attention. what should I do? Again, literally standing at the pump...
posted by BadgerDoctor at 3:06 PM PST - 14 comments

Gift ideas for post-surgery (hernia)

Close relative (late 50s) is having surgery for a hernia next week. I would like to do something thoughtful besides sending a card (which I plan on doing). I'm far away and it would be nice to surprise them, though. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 2:40 PM PST - 6 comments

I want to work in affordable and sustainable housing

I am an (a)architect. Small 'a' because I am not licensed. Have hit retirement age, and been free-lancing for some time. I need the income, and won't let go of the passion. [more inside]
posted by ebesan at 2:02 PM PST - 3 comments

Do employers have to pay when employees file unemployment claims?

It's "common knowledge" that when you file an unemployment claim, your employer has incentive to deny this claim so they don't have to pay you unemployment. Is this really how this works? [more inside]
posted by seiryuu at 1:34 PM PST - 16 comments

What is best in turn-based strategy games?

Gamefilter! Seeking your suggestions for free-to-play or relatively inexpensive turn-based strategy games available for iOS/Mac! [more inside]
posted by halation at 1:30 PM PST - 22 comments

Windows 10 bluetooth shows almost every device as "Unknown Device"

I can't find my devices on the windows 10 bluetooth "add a device" listing on my laptop because they are all "Unknown Device" in the listing. Is there any way to get around the failure to resolve the names of bluetooth devices. It's detecting them but just not identifying them rendering the list useless since it isn't static and I can't systematically work through the list trying to find the device I want to connect (never mind the security risk of randomly connecting to nearby bluetooth devices).
posted by srboisvert at 12:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Questions at a second job interview

I have a second interview scheduled for a position at a science journal. I would like to ask some questions about the journal to show my level of interest in the job. When I’ve searched for information about the journal, I’ve gotten a lot of hits involving advanced science that I don’t understand and that wouldn’t have any bearing on my position. How can I ace this interview and communicate that I’m enthusiastic about working in this lab?
posted by pxe2000 at 12:25 PM PST - 15 comments

Second chance romance: long distance edition

Through cautious exploration, a former partner and I are going to attempt to try again. We are both single, never married, no kids. Have you successfully navigated this? What questions did you ask yourself and your potential partner to determine best fit? [more inside]
posted by nathaole at 12:21 PM PST - 3 comments

Stupid Cat Tricks

I have a really smart, really sociable cat who could use more entertainment than she gets from chasing my kids around all day. I have trained her to come when I call, and to get off the table when I say "down!" (although not to not get on the table in the first place but whatev). This consistently blows people's minds. What are some tricks I could teach my cat, to keep her busy and entertained, and amaze all my friends when they visit? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 12:11 PM PST - 29 comments

Really loud portable Bluetooth speaker. No, louder than that.

I'm looking for a very portable Bluetooth speaker that can produce a LOT of sound; it needs to be heard over classes of 45 orchestra kids sawing away. Does anyone have any specific suggestions for a speaker OR suggestions for search terms/specs I might use to find this quality more effectively? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 12:07 PM PST - 18 comments

Where in Seattle can one watch major league rugby?

I'm not a broadly sporty person but have gotten hooked on Seattle Seawolves rugby via a friend. What bars/restaurants/etc. in Seattle would be likely to be showing their away games, or could be talked into it? Bonus for West Seattle or downtown-ish.
posted by centrifugal at 12:02 PM PST - 2 comments

Make Audio Only Calls on Skype

I feel like this should be easy, but I just can't find an answer. On the new version of Skype (Skype version on Mac, it seems like they got rid of the option to not show video when making a call. I basically want to use Skype for audio, but can't locate a way to turn the camera off. Thanks in advance for help!
posted by dearleader at 11:47 AM PST - 2 comments

Improving my handwriting quickly!

I need to improve my handwriting within the next couple of weeks. It's quite bad, and if I slow down and take the time to write neatly it's almost legible but still very ugly. I need it to look nice and be legible within the next two weeks. Just block printing, not cursive script. Can I do this, and, if so, how? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 11:19 AM PST - 14 comments

incentivizing running w/ a return

Can you help me incentivize my runs to challenge myself? Can I make a running bank deposit, and get a payback when my GPS says so? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 10:56 AM PST - 7 comments

Canvassing for recommendations

Newbie studio-less artist seeks recommendations for supplies. [more inside]
posted by shallowcenter at 10:50 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for appointment software that also handles tasks & other stuff

I'm looking for software where I can set appointments for my sales team, create tasks/reminders/deliverables for myself, and one that will automatically send confirmation and follow up emails to customers. Basically a calendar on steroids that can handle some lead management and send emails, or at the very least prompt me to. If there is a mobile option for the salesmen to use for their appointments, then that's a bonus.
posted by bodgy at 9:10 AM PST - 2 comments

Curly hair stylist recs in the Bay/East Bay

Curly haired women in the Bay Area, who cuts your long-ish hair? [more inside]
posted by foxy_hedgehog at 8:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Vegan dips and spreads without any nuts?

I would like to make at least one vegan dip and one vegan spread this weekend, and they need to be: [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 8:00 AM PST - 22 comments

Referenced based what?

My employer is switching our health insurance from Aetna to an open provider model utilizing referenced based pricing. Does anyone have experience with this type of insurance to share, either as a patient or provider? [more inside]
posted by maddieD at 6:48 AM PST - 14 comments

Personal development blog recs

I enjoy reading a number of blogs about cooking, organization, finance, etc., but now I'm looking for blogs centered around personal development, self-help, or spirituality. Just wondering if anyone knew of any worth reading. Thanks!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 2:50 AM PST - 6 comments

Workbooks for anxiety?

I'm dealing with some intense anxiety at the moment. Can you please recommend me some kind of workbook to help work through this (in addition to therapy, of course)? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 2:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Academic Rank Decisions

I am faculty at a public university and am being aggressively recruited by a larger, far better funded public university in a different state-but to come in at a lower academic rank. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:22 AM PST - 18 comments

How do I keep them from shooting the messenger?

Three months ago I got a new job with a big promotion. However, probably predictably, I took over an organisation thought to be sound, but which is literally falling apart around my ears. I've had three solid months of bad news I needed to deliver and it seems like the end is not yet in sight. They know, intellectually, that this is not my fault-- but they're starting to look at me like Danger-Prone Daphne. How can I turn this around? Bonus: cultural differences and sexism. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:22 AM PST - 9 comments

May 1

How to not make my current boss think I'm heartless and conniving?

I've been offered an interview for a job I am very excited about, and would be great for my career. I am currently on (unpaid) bereavement leave. They're keen to recruit very quickly, and will likely want a reference check from my current boss very soon. How can I manage the process of organising this reference check without my current boss thinking I'm heartless and conniving given the circumstances of my current absence? [more inside]
posted by hotcoroner at 9:55 PM PST - 18 comments

How to get a career in fraud investigation?

I have been a staff accountant for about 1.5 years and plan to begin taking the CPA exam in the fall. Over the past couple years, I have become extremely interested in working as a fraud investigator. How do I go about it? What should my career trajectory look like? What skills/credentials/experiences should I be getting now, in preparation? What is it like, day to day, being a fraud investigator anyway? [more inside]
posted by static sock at 9:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Neurobiology for the drunk

What is the biochemical mechanism of an alcohol-induced blackout? I want genes, I want pathways, and most of all I want to establish whether there is any aspect of the brain's activity during a blackout that could be considered neuroprotective, rather than just a consequence of toxicity. [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 9:00 PM PST - 1 comment

Where to eat in Osaka?

We are spending one night in Osaka, in the Umeda area. What are best (not necessarily fanciest) places to eat? We are interested in everything.
posted by molla at 7:04 PM PST - 5 comments

What's the best laptop for digital audio work I can get for <$800?

I've been asked to buy a laptop for a friend on a budget who is looking to upgrade a home studio. My limitations are: -it has to work with his existing PreSonus FirePod (FP10), so either FireWire input or an adaptable replacement for it. -it has to run Windows software, preferably in Spanish. -it should be as sturdy and reliable as possible for the money. -I need to be able to order it in the U.S. The top end of my budget is $800. Is this feasible these days? [more inside]
posted by dr. boludo at 6:32 PM PST - 11 comments

What to do with orangey simple syrup?

As a byproduct of making orangettes, I have in my fridge about 1 cup of orange peel-infused simple syrup. It is lightly floral and citrusy (but not overly so), and, of course, very sweet. What should I do with it?
posted by btfreek at 6:09 PM PST - 21 comments

What kind of camera's that?

What is the song in this SmugMug+Flickr promo video? Who sings it? [more inside]
posted by maryr at 5:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Need Business Name Help.

I helped a friend find a job by fixing up her resume, finding appropriate jobs, writing her cover letters and filling out online applications. She told someone and they asked me to help them. Then someone else. And now it's a thing. What should I call this thing? [more inside]
posted by orsonet at 5:23 PM PST - 16 comments

2nd best way to start new garden beds?

I know you're supposed to cover new beds in fall. I didn't do that. Now what? [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 4:03 PM PST - 9 comments

I want to make someone's day in Palm Desert, CA

I'm looking for personal recommendations for a variety of delivery-based services in the Palm Desert, CA area. [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 3:58 PM PST - 1 comment

What would a good workplace for mental health look like in practice?

When I've read about this, it seems to usually be at the level of platitudes and "awareness". I'm interested in resources and anecdata about what a workplace that dealt super-well with employee mental health would look like, beyond offering good insurance (which is huge).
posted by ITheCosmos at 2:47 PM PST - 26 comments

How do dial Metropolitan Police (London) from Canada

I loved one is experiencing distress in London, UK. I want to call the Metropolitan police to check on them. I cannot find a number that I can dial from my Canadian cell phone. I have checked online but I can't find anything but 999. If anyone has a landline, it is postcode w1. My Google fu is not working due to nerves.
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 2:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Curly haired Mefites, help me with my daughter

My daughter has has just become curly haired. I do not know how to care and maintain curly hair. What advice, technique, methods or what you wish happened for you on the curly hair front? [more inside]
posted by jadepearl at 2:17 PM PST - 35 comments

Need Tax Advice for 1956

I had the opportunity to read some 60-year-old payroll files from a company that has been out of business for many years. Top managment in 1956 was being paid a salary plus monthly payments of $2000 for the premiums on whole life insurance policies. Was the additional $24000 a year taxed as ordinary income at the time, or was this an end run around the confiscatory income taxe rates of the period?
posted by Raybun at 1:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Someone used my SSN to get a job. How worried should I be?

I recently received a letter from the IRS saying that someone used my social security number to get a job. I immediately initiated a credit freeze with TransUnion (who is supposed to notify the other 2 credit bureaus). I also created an account at, and everything looks legit through the end of 2017 on my report. [more inside]
posted by AlisonM at 1:12 PM PST - 9 comments

Do you recognize this (1950s? cartoon?) character?

Who is this character? It looks to be from a 1950s animation, and seems very familiar. A reverse image search and Googling various phrases isn't working. (For me, anyway.) [more inside]
posted by The Deej at 1:00 PM PST - 4 comments

Do you think children suffer from parents' lack of social circle?

If you have kids and a really small social and family circle (no "village"), how did it affect your kids? Did you still throw birthday parties and who was invited? Did your kids ever realize or ask, "How come my parents never have visitors or go see people?" [more inside]
posted by KatNips at 12:58 PM PST - 39 comments

Is USPS informed delivery dead?

Last month, I could get to the Informed Delivery webpage easily, using a bookmark. Today, it won't load. None of the links on the USPS site work. Is ID dead?
posted by Kirth Gerson at 12:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Affordable, awesome, short-notice babymoon destination

We are looking to plan a babymoon, but we are procrastinators - where can we go, relatively inexpensively, around the second week of June? Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 11:16 AM PST - 5 comments

Books to read on short vacation

I'm going on a 5 day anniversary vacation with no kids! That means I can finally get some me-time for reading. Please recommend good books to read on a beach. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 11:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Planning a beach BBQ for 40+. Difficulty level: Beach is an hour away.

I'm having a Big Birthday soon, and we're celebrating with a bbq at the beach. Seeking suggestions for food for a crowd that travels well with minimal prep. [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 11:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Identify this statue in The Black Cat (1934)

In the 1934 movie The Black Cat, starring Boris Karloff and Bela Lugosi, there's a statue of a reclining woman on Karloff's desk. Does anyone know whose work it is? Is it a famous sculpture or just something made for this movie? Photo 1, Photo 2.
posted by beyond_pink at 10:49 AM PST - 4 comments


I am waging war with last year’s dried burdock plants so I can actually use my back yard. Stupidly, I was wearing a tank top and rained tiny itchy ouchy hairs ALL OVER MY BODY. I AM SO UNCOMFORTABLE AND PRICKLY FEELING. I just took a shower and loofahed off, and that helped the immediate itchiness, but I just put a shirt on and realized the hairs are definitely all still on me. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 10:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Whatever happened to the "print" option on news sites?

I've noticed that sometime in the last few years, the option to print out articles on news sites has slowly disappeared. I'm curious as to why this is (and when this happened). [more inside]
posted by leticia at 10:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me find examples of powerful or sinister lighting

I'm interested in the way light fixtures can project power or authority. I'm looking for images of powerful and/or sinister lighting and fixtures from film, art and architecture. [more inside]
posted by fake at 10:35 AM PST - 13 comments

Which non-drowsy OTC medicine do you use for a sneezy runny nose?

I'm trying to work and I can't concentrate with these nose tingles. Is there a spray I can run to the drugstore and get? [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 10:18 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me learn how to identify pitches watching baseball on TV

I love baseball. I love watching baseball on TV. But despite having done so for many, many years, I'm just pitiful at identifying pitch type. Please help me learn how to do so! [more inside]
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 10:01 AM PST - 10 comments

How to move/migrant documents saved in SharePoint to Google Docs

Greetings, My organization has been working with a consulting firm. The firm has documents saved on SharePoint. They are shifting the project to me and have asked me to download the files from SharePoint and move them to Google docs. Is there an easy way to do this? I have not used SharePoint before, and I am failing. Thank you in advance
posted by TRUELOTUS at 9:23 AM PST - 2 comments

mindfulness healing book thing?

While I know there are specific healing-oriented-style meditations and apps you can use, I was wondering if there was a practical non-woo book in the "healing your body with your mind" area that you guys might recommend (if such a thing exists). Seems like even ones that profess to root themselves somewhere near science are mostly woo and pseudoscience. Maybe such a guide does not exist? but figured I'd ask. Thanks once again, mefiters. : )
posted by bitterkitten at 8:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Add a bunch of self-signed certs to a Windows host

Can a script be written to collect self-signed certificates from a lot of hosts (like 200+), and then add them all to a single Windows PC's web browser (probably IE)? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 8:38 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for a nursing agency/aide near Rockland, New York

Asking for a friend who's been single-handedly advocating for their father, who has been in a nursing/rehab facility since having a stroke six months ago. [more inside]
posted by Funeral march of an old jawbone at 8:02 AM PST - 3 comments

how to approach landlord about month-to-month extension?

I'm renting while buying, and I expect to move into the new place at least one but possibly more months after my current lease ends. What are some conventional solutions to this problem? [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 6:21 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I get over the relationship hump?

I've had a handful of serious relationships, but they never get past what I refer to as ‘the hump'. The hump happens when the crazy-intimate-in-love relationship feelings start to dissipate, and your partner’s flaws become more and more apparent. For me this tends to happen around the three year mark. I really love my current partner (he is a wonderful man and has so many amazing qualities), but he also comes with some flaws. I am starting to notice them more and more often, and while I try to let them go, there are also times when they spawn arguments and unhappiness. I WANT to accept who he is, but I don't know how. How do you accept another's flaws? How do you focus more on the positive than the negative? How do you manage to have patience, to be less critical? How do you accept your partner's imperfections? [more inside]
posted by alipie at 4:39 AM PST - 32 comments

Is this the kind of red flag I should be looking for?

I started talking to a guy who was really pushy about getting more face pictures after I had already sent him 3. I've recently talked to my therapist about being attracted to men who end up being really controlling and she said to start paying more attention to early signs of boundary pushing to better protect myself. Is this that? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 3:52 AM PST - 30 comments

Adding transparent Pantone swatch to InDesign

I need to add Pantone Transparent White to my InDesign swatches in order to create a swatch for a custom Pantone. I guess I could hack round it but would like he swatch to be accurate if possible. I can't see Transparent White in the built-in Pantone swatches available. Do you know if it's possible to add it?
posted by KateViolet at 1:46 AM PST - 1 comment