April 2018 Archives
I'm deciding between two very different opportunities. Having angst about which to go with. [more inside]
I am interviewing for jobs on the down-low while still working at my current job. These interviews are often conducted on the phone, fairly long and technical in nature, and leave me utterly exhausted, not to mention somewhat nervous/anxious about how I did, whether they liked my answers, etc for the rest of the day. That, plus the fact that I'm taking time out of my work day to do the interviews in the first place, has totally tanked my productivity. How can I effectively switch gears from interview mode back to work mode, so I don't get fired before I actually find a new job?
I've got Adobe Acrobat X Pro. I've also got two PDFs: one has all of the even-numbered pages (2, 4, 6, 8, etc.) of a document, and the other has all of the odd-numbered pages (1, 3, 5, 7, etc.) of the same document. Is there a way to combine these two files such that the pages will automatically be in the proper order (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6)? [more inside]
I'd like to get my senior mother's finances sorted out, but I have no idea where to begin. By sorted out, I mean managed. I don't do any investing myself and my finances are pretty simple, so I feel out of my depth. [more inside]
The Patagonia ultra lightweight organic crew sock is my dream sock. I have 6 pairs. I've worn them daily for 7 years. I have ebay and poshmark alerts. How else might I find them? [more inside]
I made a very simple Twine file for work, and exported it to send out to my organisation. Double-clicking it just makes a blank browser window. It works in Twinery. Any thoughts?
My apartment complex management company wants me to pay rent online using a service called CoreLogic RentTrack. I googled the service and it looks like it has a iffy track record. Sounds fine, or should I try to avoid this? [more inside]
Looking for a phone-tablet (ugh, I cannot call it a 'phablet'). [more inside]
Bay Area folks, this one's for you. A friend I haven't seen for a while is coming to SF and I'd like to see them while they're here. However, it will have to be on a weeknight. Taking into account current traffic patterns (please don't answer this question if you lived here 7 years ago) what is the optimal spot for us to meet for dinner, accessible by BART from the city, and by car from the south bay? [more inside]
Using both Polymail on Mac and Microsoft Live Email on Windows, I've noticed that emails don't get sent or received when I'm at my local libraries (I go through 3 different ones). They work fine at home or at another wifi connection. What gives? [more inside]
help! I know nothing about this topic and am not even sure if this qualifies as a plumbing question. I certainly don't know what terminology to use or what to google. I have pictures inside. Basically, I have a very crooked shower frame, and need to know how to keep it straight. [more inside]
What's the necessary video and audio equipment for a family oral history project? Goal is to preserve these special people for a few generations. Budget is Best Buy or similar.
I am trying to remember the name of an artist, a painter known for painting first the blue element of a painting, then the red element, then the yellow. These were translucent oils so light would pass through all the layers then bounce back out as very luminous-looking combined colors. [more inside]
Hi. I'm finally about to finish my undergrad and do a graduate degree soon - but I also have the option of completing a Minor in English as well. Does a Minor in English benefit one's writing immensely? Is it worth the extra two semesters for the resume? I'm passionate about all things literary and artsy - but some people are telling me to simply focus on creative writing and not English Literature. I have a feeling I could benefit from it though. I can definitely see myself going the MA route if possible, but completing a Minor is a lot of work as well. Thoughts? Has your Major, Minor, Master's or Doctorate helped you with your creative writing exponentially?
I recently had amazing (to me?) espresso that completely changed the nature of the drink for me. Was it truly great espresso or just espresso for wussies? [more inside]
I am getting married in the fall and looking to get my first investment shoes, or heels I am willing to spend absurd amounts of money on and then wear until I drop dead. I am looking for red, probably, or maybe blue or silver, 7.5W. The dress is tea-length and the shoes will be obvious. I want something kitten heel or up to two inches, nothing too extreme, and comfort is a must. I hate the look of incredibly pointy toes. [more inside]
I'm in my late forties. And over the past year or so, I've noticed the skin on my neck getting looser and more crepe-y, and my hands are looking really sad too (the crepey skin along with age spots). I like to think of myself as accepting this aging stuff gracefully, but I'm not ready for this. Can you recommend any regimens/specific products to help with these problems? [more inside]
Recently saw someone singing the praises of Maida Heatter and found myself wondering, what other old cookbooks deserve to be rediscovered and brought back into use? I'm less interested in evergreen classics like The Joy Of Cooking and the Moosewood Cookbook that everyone still loves, and more curious about old forgotten ones that you're pretty sure you're the last one still cooking out of, especially if you think they're underrated and deserve a revival.
I work for a hospital, and my boss-doctor has over 300 tapes of old lectures and demonstrations and panel discussions and the like. [more inside]
I'm startled after reading this article in the Atlantic about kids receiving 3-4 hours of homework a night. [more inside]
Help me plan our road trip: Portland --> Oregon Coast --> California Coast --> Yosemite --> Smith Rock --> Portland [more inside]
Can anybody provide me with the location of a nice aspen grove in the vicinity of Rocky Mountain National Park? [more inside]
The financial guy (why am I making this sound like Queer Eye) at my credit union suggested finding my "orphaned" 401Ks to roll over into my IRA. [more inside]
I need to do some research at Firestone library occasionally this summer. Where can I park for free (or cheap) without having to fill up a meter every two hours? Thanks.
A dear friend is having a really bad day. What can I get for her today that will help her feel loved and taken care of? [more inside]
I have joined the legion of Instant Pot owners (the 3 qt. variety). I’m new to the world of pressure/multi cookers and… well, cooking in general. What recipes, recipe resources, accessories and/or general all around tips can you give me so I can amaze Mrs. Jabo with my culinary awakening?
When someone has died, I feel an impulse to write a letter of reminiscences, things I'll always remember, accounts of how the person changed my life... and then send the letter to the closest surviving loved ones (spouse, parent). Should I do this? [more inside]
My housekeeper is 65 years old, born in the United States, and fluent in English, which is his first language, but he never learned to read and write. I haven’t been able to find any local resources for him so I want to teach him myself. Help me learn to teach? [more inside]
I'm paying for my yard maintenance for the first time in my life and it feels like what I'm getting doesn't come close to what I'm paying for, but I don't have enough experience to know what's reasonable. Details inside. I'm pretty sure I'm not keeping the current company but I'd like to know a ballpark figure for what I should be paying to make sure I'm neither being taken advantage of nor pricing myself so low that I eliminate quality companies. [more inside]
The front and back porch of our house are held up (we think) by metal poles. Please help us figure out what sort of professional to contact to help us update the look of the columns. [more inside]
Looking for the impossible? Shade tolerant grass or other ground cover over a septic tank. Area is fairly shady. Difficulty: I'm not around to water it. [more inside]
Looking for semi-specific advice on a short Edinburgh trip. [more inside]
Neighbors and I share a bank of evergreen trees. All of theirs have died, and whatever is killing them is spreading to our trees. Pics (2nd and 4th pics show the dead trees on the left). [more inside]
My mother has just moved to a senior center in High Point NC (her choice), so I will be visiting on a semi-regular basis. What's good to see/do in High Point or surrounding areas? Mostly for me & MrR, as she'll have her own life there and it'd be nice to have something to do besides 'visit Mum'. [more inside]
Family member (from the U.S.) had an accident while on vacation and was taken to the Donauspital. Anything I should know about it? [more inside]
I've got a problem with my eye, I've gone through the system but I'm left not knowing what the problem is. Advice wanted on what it might be and getting a second opinion. [more inside]
Hi. I have just upgraded from a Samsung smartphone to a Samsung tablet and have successfully imported almost everything from the old to the new device - except for Wi-Fi passwords. [more inside]
Something fell behind the vanity that is sealed to the wall behind it. It fell from a small gap in the middle shelf. Is this a lost cause? Does anyone have any suggestions of how to retrieve this item? Thanks!! [more inside]
Scenario: a woman with mild to moderate dementia - and heart failure that's kept at bay with meds affecting cognition at therapeutic doses - is taken to a rest home when her daughter, who was her caretaker - falls ill with an aggressive cancer. The daughter dies. Medical staff at the home are strongly opposed to telling the woman. She asks about her daughter every day. Should she be told? [more inside]
Thinking about the last season of Twin Peaks, I was wondering what the distinctive font is that is used for street addresses, like the 3 and the 6 here. There are street numbers in a similar style on houses in California and other places, and I wonder where this started.
I wish to go on a news diet and am looking for calming and relaxing websites to browse and Android apps to use as a replacement. [more inside]
The new royal baby has almost the exact same name as my son. I’m bothered by this. How can I deal with this better? [more inside]
Help me figure out what tv show this is from vague details about a single episode. Sometime in the 1990s, I watched an episode of a tv show that has stuck with me because I found it horrifying and fascinating and I'd really like to find out what it was. [more inside]
New Yorkers, this college dropout needs your help. How do I search for NYC jobs with a gap on my resume? [more inside]
I am literally shaking I'm so scared, so please try not to scare me further. [more inside]
Might poly be right for me? I'm a woman in my late 30s and gave up love and sex a while ago. The burdens of a monogamous relationship are overwhelming to me. It basically boils down to not wanting to be another person's everything. Poly is appealing because I don't have to be another person's everything. [more inside]
Do you give your parents an allowance, and if so, what percentage of your salary/ in what form? [Chinese snowflakes inside] [more inside]
I am pretty under-utilised in my new job and it is starting to get to me. How can I get more work to do or learn to cope? [more inside]
First, let's just point out that I'm an INTP. That's half of the problem right there. For an example, I'll be watching a hockey game, and I'll see how passionate everyone is about it, and then I will think how strange it is that everyone is so passionate about something so trivial. I'll question why people like sports... is it because we need an outlet for our animal instincts, to fulfil some primal need to compete and conquer? Is it healthy to get aggressive with things like sports, or does that take us away from a more thoughtful path? [more inside]
I have some of my employer's money to spend (around 1200 bucks), and would like to get the fanciest standing desk in that price range. I have a seriously messed up back and many PTs have recommended a standing desk, but I definitely need one that will allow me to sit on occasion. Motors are a plus. It can be thing that you stand on an existing desk (that would be ideal, actually) but it needs to have room for 2 monitors, at least. What do you think, hivemind? I'm supposed to spend this money by Tuesday, but there is a little leeway...
I'm writing a doctoral thesis in mechanical engineering. I will have lots of equations to write in my paper which need to be labeled with numbers. Throughout the body of the paper I will have to cross-reference those equation numbers in discussion. I am currently using the built in functionality in Word but it is not tailored for equation numbering and includes some very cumbersome and finicky workarounds. How do people handle this efficiently in their science/engineering papers? Are there 3rd party products that will do this for me automatically and update the numbers automatically for both the equations and cross-references to them? I am willing to spend money on a solution if need be. The solution must work with MS Word 2016 and I also need the ability work on the same document on two different computers' installs of Word 2016. Any help is appreciated.
Help! Please help me not sound like a d-bag in my cover letter. [more inside]
Bramptonites of Ontario! The Mrs. and I are thinking of getting out of dodge (e.g. Toronto) in the next year or two, and Brampton seems like a possible stepping stone to tide us over until we can work towards moving way out further west in the long term. How is downtown Brampton (e.g. around Gage Park) these days? Is it somewhere that is worth considering in terms of living? Proximity to the GO train is a plus and I've heard rumours of revitalization coming down the pipes, but is it an enjoyable place to live now?
One of my neighbors really wants me to kill the ground wasps in my yard. I'm afraid doing that would endanger my other neighbor's prized honeybees. Help! [more inside]
A two-part question 1) Did you do something for a milestone birthday that you really enjoyed? 2) given my internet-person restrictions, could you make some suggestions for me? [more inside]
We recently bought a home in Phoenix, and we'd like to start looking into redoing the landscaping. We want to change some grading as well as replace the back lawn with something less water-needy than the current grass. But: we have no idea about cost, and have allergies, so we don't know how to start looking for a contractor that can handle the work we need! [more inside]
Allthough I love Squarespace, I've got a project where the length of each page makes populating pages with content an excruciating task. Are there any alternatives to Squarespace that handle long pages with lots of content like this better, while not sacrificing on looks or usability? Alternatively, are there hacks to fix this? [more inside]
This Is Ditto and he has what could be a bug bite or something else on his toe. The vet is closed. Does he need to go to the emergency vet? Is there something I can get over-the-counter to put on it? (Photo below the fold.) [more inside]
Mr. Millipede and I (41 M, 36 F) are going to Iceland in late June, arriving the morning of the 22nd and leaving the evening of the 26th. That's all we know so far. Tell us specifically where to stay and how to Iceland. [more inside]
If you specifically have a friend you don't want to lose who you know is not holding the opinion with bad intent, and thus you are specifically looking for material that is explanatory and avoids the anger around this topic (well-deserved!), and said friend is open-minded and has changed their mind on various things before, what reading pieces would you forward to him regarding why the "wait a minute, not all men" response is bad?
I'm being temporarily reassigned to a different team at work and I'm in need of advice. [more inside]
I’m in a bit of a reading slump and would like some help getting out of it. I really like realistic novels featuring ordinary families doing ordinary “life stuff” until they’re faced with an extraordinary situation—illness, crime, betrayal, death, etc. (I didn’t realize this sounded so grim until I wrote it down!) [more inside]
We are raising our 18 month old son to be as screen free as possible for now but there are times when we just need to distract him for a bit (like making dinner). Right now we put on Caspar Babypants music videos but they're a finite resource. Are there any other good suggestions along the same lines?
I'm interested in working as a content editor or similar in the future. I am considering starting a blog/website in order to gain experience and be able to show it to employers in the future. Is this a good idea? Or a waste of time? [more inside]
Hi folks. I have a gas oven and the stovetop is pretty dirty. It's all one piece, so I can't do the "remove the part and put it in a bag of ammonia overnight" thing. There is some scratching there from a previous owner's use of abrasives, so I would prefer not to use anything that will or even can scratch it, if possible. I know baking soda is a popular one, but I don't want to damage the finish any worse. Any ideas? Here's a picture.
Would an SSD drive breathe new life into my 2007 MacBook Pro? [more inside]
Due to budget cuts, my job of 20 has been eliminated. Your best tricks and hacks on getting a new one. [more inside]
As my due date approaches my husband and I are discussing how we are going to handle Modern Parenting. A huge subtopic is screen time. It looks like the American Academy of Pediatrics advises no screen time under 18 months except for video chatting, and after that 1 hour per day. I’m wondering if these guidelines are realistic, and if parents and kids more or less follow them? [more inside]
I am looking for some books to read that are smart, but not an intellectual exercise. Fun, but substantive. I like things that marry philosophy and pulp. Smart Fun!!! Details inside [more inside]
Mrs. Thistledown is an avid bicyclist and she's looking for her next ride. We're not sure what she's looking for actually exists, but if it does, we're totally open to suggestions: it needs to be light, flat-barred and have lugs for racks. Then it gets trickier.... [more inside]
Me- English teacher - have been asked to give tips to parent on how to help their kid improve their reading. Help? [more inside]
I'm coming into Austin in the first week of May for one day, primarily for an interview, but also to scope out the city as a possible home. Problems: limited time, and it might be rainy. MeFites of the area, what do you suggest for ... [more inside]
Artistic/creative people with managers and/or agents, especially those whose work is relatively unusual for your field/is in a weird field: How did you find them/how did they find you? What sort of work do they do for you? Have you found them worthwhile? [more inside]
Seeking a book about sisters (maybe twins?) in which one of them steals time from the other, making her grow old. But she doesn't know it because there's a witch who is disguising her to make her beautiful, so neither of the sisters realize what's happening. [more inside]
What do you know about the validity of supposed brain-based gender differences? What does the science say? [more inside]
We are doing a family photo shoot and all three ex wives will be there. I want an awesome sign for us to hold. [more inside]
We know that Buffalo, Montreal and Carolina have the top 3 NHL draft picks, but not the ordering. We also know that they had, in order, 18.5%, 9.5% and 3.0% chance of winning the first draft pick. Given that we know one of them did, what is each team's chance of getting the first draft pick? [more inside]
The Wikipedia entry for Robert Indiana (the LOVE pop art guy) has an inset pic showing him at work on a sculpture which features designs inspired by WW1 aviation livery. What piece is it? Are there color photos online? Are there more works by Indiana featuring these design schema? I think there are, but it has been many years since I scrobulated his oeuvre.
I live in a townhouse complex. The roof and gutters were replaced last year. It took forever, and the building materials were staged on the grassy common area / courtyard, and all of the grass died. The area was reseeded about 8 weeks ago and grass has grown back. However, it's sparse in places, and I can just see the grass being killed off by the kids this summer. What can I do to prevent this? [more inside]
Looking for specific places near where I live (southern Westchester, but can go into NYC if necessary) that would happily accept and use yarn and/or fabric.
My husband passed January 2017. I want to save as much as his digital life as possible, but don't exactly know how. I have access to some things, and others I don't. I've been afraid to do much at the moment because I don't want to accidentally lose access to what I have. [more inside]
Is it accepted design standard to refer to fonts in a web-only ad by their pixel size or point size? [more inside]
An amazing and completely unexpected opportunity has come up at work: I have the chance to facilitate a small event in the Northern Mariana Islands in June. Having never traveled anywhere near the literal opposite side of the planet (I am based in the northeastern US), and with my employer picking up the airfare, if I sign on to do this, I would love to piggyback further travel onto this trip. More inside. [more inside]
Closest I can come to on Google is a lacewing, but it has no wings. Any ideas? Mystery beastie! Location: Raleigh, NC. For scale, that thing he's sitting on is a (large-ish) coffee cup.
Lately some of my family members seem to be having an issue with me being happy and doing the things I like. This all started in January of this year, I felt like I had a lot of emotional issues from school and my childhood that I did not resolve. So I went to therapy to get help dealing with them. [more inside]
I have a stained glass mini-lamp that needs a finial to secure the shade and hide the threaded connector piece. Where can I buy a small, bronze-tone finial? [more inside]
I need a tax lawyer in Portland, OR. My local business taxes have become convoluted & I need a professional to help me sort things out.
There's a number of "candybar" phones with 4G connectivity available in India that scratch my itch for something basic but that offers a hotspot, streaming music, etc. I had an eye on the Jio Phone, but it is locked to Jio simcards and I've not seen that you can get them unlocked. The other options such as Micromax Bharat 1, Intex Turbo+, Lava Connect M1, etc. all seem much the same but unlocked. Are there any others I should be looking at? Which do you recommend otherwise? [more inside]
I've been comparing a few national spec builders and have noticed common language in several sales contracts. All of the real estate and legal professionals I've consulted say I need to suck it up. But what is the real worst case scenario here? [more inside]
I can't do anything. I'm always tired. It feels so physiological but every neurologist and other specialist I've been to says it's anxiety or depression or a mix of the two. But I don't know if to believe them when literally doing anything feels like dragging around a ball of lead that's resistant to anything. No medication has worked, including Adderall after its honeymoon period. Same goes for any and all antidepressants and therapy. I don't want to waste my life. [more inside]
Looking for recommendations of shoe styles to wear that will support my ankles, with closed toes. [more inside]
I was placed on academic probation, filed a successful 2nd final appeal, but failed to bring up my GPA the following semester. Is it over for me? [more inside]
I was doing the laundry this morning and noticed a pair of underwear got twisted in a weird way. I spent a few minutes trying to fix them--turning them inside out, flipping them around--but nothing worked! Metafilter, please help me untwist these knickers. [more inside]
Ok, this is driving me nuts. The theme of today's USAToday Crossword is "Social Media Fails". How do these answers fit? Spoilers below the fold. [more inside]
Our family will be traveling in Europe for three weeks. We want to pack clothes that are compact, lightweight, and that will dry quickly after being washed. Kids current underwear is thick cotton from Hanna Andersson. Good quality, but not ideal for traveling. [more inside]
What does it mean to be "good enough?" How does "being good enough" feels like subjectively? [more inside]
I read a quote recently, and cannot find it again. It was in an article or interview about better worlds, about the possibility of utopia. And the person writing/being interviewed quoted another thinker's doctrine, something like: "A possible world is only worth considering if it is better regardless of who you are in that world." [more inside]
This is just out of curiosity but having lived in a few cities in the UK and visited similar enclaves globally, where are the British expat communities? [more inside]
I've never dated strangers before and am not sure if this guy is interested or not (F, 26). [more inside]
Can anyone advise on the downsides to being declared as a disabled worker in France? [more inside]
I'm trying to decide between two positions, one at a post-IPO tech company (not big 4 but somewhat well-known) and one at a bank. Both seem to have reasonably interesting work, although I personally think the work at the bank may be more interesting, largely because I want to transition to a more data science/machine learning-heavy role, and that's what I'd be hired to do. [more inside]
My boyfriend just told me he uses Viagra most of the times we have sex. That’s fine, but I’m wishing he had told me sooner. I know this can be a sensitive thing for men, but we’ve talked about sex a lot, including difficulties I sometimes have reaching orgasm and my insecurities around that. I’m wondering, given this context, if it’s unreasonable of me to think he should have mentioned it earlier. [more inside]
I have never been good at sports, and I want to figure out why, plus if there is any way to become better. [more inside]
Looking for advanced photo editing/organizing/storage software that is intuitive and not too difficult too learn for a relative computer novice. [more inside]
I'm in a newly created position and work with another woman. It's not going well. What do I do? [more inside]
i'm 22 (yes, I know it's young but bear with me please!) and i unexpectedly met this wonderful guy around 6 months ago. if anyone taught me about what real love is like, it's him. we felt extremely connected from the beginning, very comfortable, had a good balance of similarities and differences. had our bickering and fights, but always compromised and worked together calmly. similar long-term goals. after all the guys i've met, i finally met the person who made me feel fulfilled: extremely supportive, caring, loving, matching sense of humor, empathetic and understanding of my mental health, etc. [more inside]
After being out of full-time study for over a decade, I now have an unconditional offer on a taught Master's degree. I'm excited, but it's come as a bit of a surprise and I'm feeling very unprepared. What can I do to get back up to speed between now and September? [more inside]
I am looking for books which feature intelegent artifacts - AIs - as a main character. Think the Culture novels or William Gibson. I'm interested in how they relate to each other and to humans or other natural life forms. I am aware of this AskMe but this is a slightly different focus and it was ten years ago.
I would like to make this mayo-free potato salad the day before a picnic. The recipe says to prepare it no more than 2 hours before. [more inside]
The office's new counter-style shared 3-foot desktop isn't adjustable. I'm short and fat, so sitting on the tall, barstool-style chairs is an unsustainable discomfort. So is sitting in a "normal" desk chair and typing all day at a desktop that's at shoulder level. Has anyone dealt with this and found a workaround? [more inside]
Is there an "easy" way to get an older MacBook (circa 2011) to write files to a PC external hard drive? I wanted to share some photo folders (that also contain a few video files), but the video files might be too big or something? Explain it to a 5yo, please. TIA.
Simple enough, but my Google skills are failing me: Who were the local news anchors for the major network affiliates in the Dallas-Fort Worth area in 1985? [more inside]
I desperately need a change in my life and feel like moving somewhere new would help. Please help me figure out where to go. [more inside]
I'm bi, but the straight part of me has gone on hiatus. I'd like it back so that my relationship with my opposite-sex partner doesn't fall apart. Help? [more inside]
I make chili in the slow cooker at least once a week. I'd like to be able to make a huge amount of it at once, freeze it in batches, and then reheat the batches in a slow cooker as needed. How do I do this? [more inside]
I need to have acceptable wifi strength outside of my home, inside another nearby insulated building (siding, not brick). What products do I need to buy to make this happen? [more inside]
My girlfriend is frustrated with all of her books right now and is looking for something that is “fiction, post-modern, made in the last 30-40 years; something long and exhaustive, or somewhat complicated”, although she’s not exactly attached to the 30-40 year thing. [more inside]
My kid is obsessed with computers, robots, and coding. I'm going to put the difficulty level in the lede because that's really the primary reason I'm coming to Ask rather than Google: He is five and not, like, supergifted or anything. I'm having a hard time finding stuff (books, Android apps, websites, videos) for him that hits a certain sweet spot. [more inside]
I'm helping start up a new group of media professionals in San Francisco (video editors, audio mixers/engineers, agency creatives, writers, producers, etc) who aim to use our professional and technical expertise in generating progressive political messaging. I'm working to set us up on some type of online platform to both facilitate conversation within the group, and ideally, manage the projects that will stem from the group. Plus, I want it to be free. [more inside]
I am trying to read more but struggle with paying attention to the books I read. Looking for tips on improving my reading comprehension. [more inside]
This plant has popped up in my garden after winter rains. I live in the San Francisco Bay Area and I think my zone is 9. It's about 2 feet tall now and looks lovely, but I'm hoping to ID it before it takes over the garden in case it's a terrible weed. Thanks, plant friends!
I'm thinking about becoming a QA manager. Who and what do I need to read? [more inside]
My wife has had some shady behavior, but technically claims to not have crossed a line into "affair" territory, and doesn't see why I have a problem with what's going on. Bear with me, I will try to be complete, since this is anonymous, and follow-up is difficult. [more inside]
I am trying to help a friend sort through and clear a storage space in Manhattan, before the remaining items are moved out of state. A large proportion of the items will need to be thrown out. How do we realistically dispose of large pieces of furniture and lots of other trash, when this unit is in the middle of NYC? [more inside]
In times of intense emotion, especially conflict/confrontation, I have an overwhelming adrenaline response. The next day, I have hangover-like symptoms: fatigue, headache, sensitivity to light/sound, continued loss of appetite, and difficulty thinking clearly. It usually lasts for 24-48 hours. Is there any way to recover more quickly, or make the hangover less intense? [more inside]
My wife and her good friend are taking their daughters to NYC / Manhattan for their 10th birthdays. They would love to see some shows, eat some interesting food, but outside of that are open to any and all cool experiences. Where should they stay and what should they do? [more inside]
What is the best adhesive to use to re-secure vinyl flooring? [more inside]
Help me try to remember the arcade cabinet I played in the 90s; A sci-fi shooter where you controlled a flying "car". [more inside]
I love local legends! What were some in your town, neighborhood, or community growing up? [more inside]
I need to make dessert for a dinner party of 8. One of the guests is allergic to eggs and none of my googling has inspired me. Give me your ideas for delicious, eggless desserts! [more inside]
My adult kids have now all flown the nest and I'm moving from a 3-bedroom house to a 1-bedroom apartment. Essentially, I'm looking for both physical and emotional hacks to make this as easy as possible. [more inside]
Give me your best recipes for make-ahead meals that: 1) are mostly vegetable based, especially root veg, with a few extra sources of vegan protein; 2) can be made in bulk, with as little prep as possible; 3) are NOT SOUP; 4) preferably can be frozen; 5) are STILL NOT SOUP; 6) are utterly delicious. Ideally I want to be cooking up my whole vegbox in one evening to feed myself through the week. [more inside]
I have a particular fiction itch that I’m having trouble scratching. I’m looking for scenes in novels or short stories where people turn an unpromising space into a cosy home out of very little. I’m not looking for fictionalised accounts of the housebuilding itself, but the small domestic details that make the space feel like home. All genres welcome. [more inside]
I've recently started interviewing for positions, and I've been caught off guard twice with personal questions that have nothing to do with my ability to perform the job. Both times, I'm sure they were questions that would never be asked of a male interviewing for the position. How do I politely steer the conversation away from this line of questioning without breaking the flow of the interview? Or should this be a solid red flag? [more inside]
I'm moving into a house with a concrete slab patio and a roof deck. No grass, no dirt! Is there a way to build a gravel dog potty area that won't be... disgusting? Is there any reason I shouldn't try to do this on concrete? [more inside]
I bought a new car in 2013. The dealership completely messed up the registration and it took months to unravel but was eventually sorted out. Then in 2017, I discovered I was no longer the registered owner of the car, which I also eventually got righted . Due to all these things, the vehicle history shown three owners over time. Does this suck for me once I try to sell the car? I am the original owner, according the sales record, DMV, and the dealership but will anyone care about the CarFax report? [more inside]
I’m getting married to my partner of six years in August and everything is perfect and he is perfect for me but a concern had started to niggle at the back of my head and now I can’t stop thinking about it. [more inside]
We adopted a four-month-old chihuahua mix this afternoon, and now she is hiding behind a bookcase. It’s a large, heavy bookcase, and can’t be moved without considerable unpacking and effort. Is there anything I can do tonight to lure her out, if only to go outside to the bathroom? Or should I accept that she’s going to live behind the bookcase? [more inside]
I bought a dress online. I like it. I want to keep it. However, there is a major problem with the fit, and I'm wondering if it can be fixed. [more inside]
I've decided I need to stop using disposable coffee cups and get some reusable coffee cups in the same style. This seems like it would be easy (and maybe was more popular 5 years ago?), but I'm having trouble finding something super dishwasher-safe. Some more details inside. [more inside]
I'm joining a team at my workplace that will be creating a knowledge base for our technical support staff. We provide support for domain/website management. We have a style guide that was gifted to us from another part of the company (cellular support) and it's pretty good. But I'm looking for any books that are helpful for creating this kind of technical knowledge base, for setting specific formatting standards and rules for our documentation team to follow when they create these internal documents/webpages. Other style guides that might be available on the web for us to model/mirror would also be appreciated.
Is there any place I can go that will take body measurements and make a custom bra for a person? The off the shelf bras don't seem to be fitting right for the person I'm trying to help and I'm wondering if this might be a viable path forward. Thanks in advance!
I use Ublock Origin, although I don't know how to use the dashboard at all. I read mainly The Guardian and Buzzfeed online and I'm not used to seeing adverts. Recently, about three or four times so far, I'm reading the Guardian and when I open a new page it's swarming with adverts. Always in the evening, 9 or 10 pm, always The Guardian. Clicking on the individual blocking elements in the bottom line of the Ublock Origin icon does nothing. How is this happening and what can I do to stop it? [more inside]
Going through some old things, we found a very nice wooden box that contains 16 complete decks of German playing cards (four regular suits, 2-10,B,D,K,A), all with the same backs, stored in jumbled order. The cards definitely come from Germany. The question is what would anyone do with so many decks of cards all mixed together? [more inside]
I found a great development opportunity and emailed my boss with a request to attend. Total cost ~$200. Boss says "how about a 60/40 split?" Floored. How do I respond to this? [more inside]
There's lots of anecdotal discussion about this. But I'm looking for a report, a study or a story that answers the question. There are many links to the kind of recommendations former employers can give to prospective employers. And there are a lot of specific examples of former somebodies leaving wherever and why. But I want to know why, in general, former employees are so much freer to talk once they become former employees.
From time to time my partner expresses prejudices against travellers and gypsies that are commonly held in the UK. I dislike hearing these views aired and it would make me very uncomfortable if he repeated them in front of strangers. We have argued about this in the past, and I now feel that I do not want to argue about it in future. Is there a way I can shut down the conversation better? [more inside]
I’m considering converting shipping containers into a plant nursery and I’m trying to determine my electrical needs. Containers are located very near a utility pole with a transformer and the property owner has says the local utility can bring power to the containers quickly and easily once we let them know our power needs. [more inside]
A friend just bought a bunch of dishes at an antique store in Kansas. No one in the store knew what they were! Asymmetrical, turquoise and gray. Here's some pics.
I'm buying a house that needs all new flooring. Most of the house will be hardwoods, but I think wood might be a bad idea for the laundry/cat litter room. This room also has doors to the garage and the backyard. [more inside]
What is the next step after being put on unpaid leave when you can’t get any information in regards to the employers decision? Friend has been out of work for almost three weeks while she waits, so I would like to offer her advice on what she can do. [more inside]
I'm looking for a new podcast player (iPhone) - currently using downcast, but it isn't doing what I want it to do. Suggestions? [more inside]
Do baseboards absolutely have to be nailed to the wall to obtain a certificate of occupancy in new construction? [more inside]
My 8 (?) year old Harmony/Logitech universal remote control is rapidly dying. I'd like to replace it with a remote that doesn't suck. What are my options? [more inside]
Recommend to me your favourite novels/memoirs set in Cape Cod, Nantucket, suburban Massachusetts, or other small town seaside New England places! [more inside]
Financially speaking, keeping my current car is possibly the best idea, but I'd like a new car for reasons inside. Would you keep an older, still functional car or upgrade to a newer one? If you've made a similar decision, why did you make the decision you did and are you happy you made that decision? And if you haven't had the make the decision, what would you do in theory? [more inside]
I'd like to improve/DIY/"lifehack" my fridge to reduce waste and make it easier to keep track of what we have. What are your elite icebox strategies? [more inside]
Jeweler offered $700 trade in on a ring appraised/insured at a replacement value of $2900. Should we go for it? We don't like the ring, the alternative would be perhaps removing the two yellow (probably irradiated) .25 ct diamonds and making earrings with them. Or I guess we could try to sell it on ebay/etsy. [more inside]
I am a tenured professor at a large, R1 state flagship university, a huge place with many multi-million dollar renovations and innovations constantly going on. This is one of the major state universities in the nation. We faculty do not get a summer salary. (Staff does, not faculty.) [more inside]
I'm trying to reduce the size of my gym kit, and shoes take up a lot of room. What very flat yet durable and washable shoes can I wear to the gym? [more inside]
I'd like to ride my bike more but my nether regions get really sore really quickly. Padded bike shorts only help so much. The (aftermarket) seat is somewhat squishy and it's been adjusted to the correct height by a professional. I take breaks and ride standing up but it's not enough. I rarely ride and this is one of the main reasons. Is there anything else I can do? [more inside]
I'm looking for a short women's or gender-neutral haircut/style with one big caveat: my hairline is one giant cowlick. [more inside]
At Casey's in Disneyworld there's a pennant that reads "Grand Haven," likely referring to Grand Haven, Michigan. Is this real vintage or faux-vintage? Does anyone have any information on this pennant at all, such as when it was made or where knockoffs can be found?
My partner and I have opted to do our part in for unhomed cats by fostering them. We passed the inspection test and our first foster cat arrives tonight. Cat fosters of AskMe, what are your best practices? [more inside]
I've written history pieces for a long time, but recently I've started getting legitimate requests to option my particular historical narratives. Which means I probably need to finally sort out an agent. But what type and how? [more inside]
Is it possible that a sudden, single occurrence of diarrhoea rid my system of a viral infection? TMI and details inside. [more inside]
I am struggling today because I found out that a colleague (my supervisor actually) is getting married, invites have gone out and I am not invited. I always seem to be cut out when it comes to weddings, even when I thought the person was my friend. Help? [more inside]
What is the least expensive yet still reliable way to back up 200 terabytes of audio and video files? [more inside]
This Fall I will start my first year of teaching English to Speakers of Other Languages to highschoolers. Could you recommend your go-to TESOL bible? [more inside]
I bought this unidentified plant while it was dormant over the winter and planted it...now it's in bloom, but I have no idea what it is. ID away!
I’m an engineering professor at a large R1 university. Last spring, I submitted my package for promotion to full to my chair. This week, I found out that requests for letters have yet to be sent out. What should I do? [more inside]
I am late to the game on this one. There seems to be all sorts of cool things happening on twitch. Where do I start? [more inside]
"I'm searching for a comic/TPB that takes place in a 'Weird West'-type setting. Robots are very commonplace. A woman comes into town and gets deputized by her ex, who's currently the sheriff. She plays Texas Hold 'Em, and there is a detailed description of how the game is played. Her name might be Alice, though I could be making that up." [more inside]
I’m anemic and my Ob prescribed 325mg ferrous sulfate twice daily, which contains 65mg elemental iron. I don’t want to take the pills and would rather try to get more iron in my diet. When I look at food labels, 100g of steak contains 3mg of iron. So, I would need to eat the equivalent of 40 steaks, or cups of cooked spinach or whatever, to get the amount of iron in those pills? [more inside]
Give me your favorite stories about portals to other realities / worlds / places, etc! [more inside]
So I have bought some of the original fit underpants from here (links to size guide + text = safe for work). Do all granny panties roll down or have I not yet tried the right size? [more inside]
Chicago filter: Looking for a cocktail bar that would be decently chill on a Saturday night for a small group (not more than 4 or 5). Some friends are visiting from out of town and want to grab post-dinner drinks. I am An Old and I tend not to go out to bars on weekends anymore, and I do not know what is good. Halp! [more inside]
Yet again I'm thrown for a loop and ask for your patience and advice. Having trouble dealing with a) the news, b) the way the news came to me and c) how to process this information so I don't end up acting like a dick around a blameless child. Would love to hear from people who've been through, and dealt elegantly with, situations like this. Flurry of snowflakes inside. [more inside]
This story involves a man who places a lit, quality cigar on a ledge outside a shop front and has the cigar stolen. To the delight of the cigar's original owner, the thief is enjoying the smoke to such an extent that the owner follows the man around town for a few hours, far more delighted in the thief's enjoyment than anything he could have experienced having smoked it himself. Maybe it was based in Cuba, maybe Europe? It had to have been 15 years ago I read it . . . [more inside]
Me: Person renting a classroom space for school agers 3 hrs/ day for 4/days a week. Think: an aftercare program (theres a school across the street, I'd potentially walk the group across to my class space) Does licensing need to get involved or would it be considered more like a "class/ camp"? Thanks in advance.
In the market for a new travel backpack, but obviously with special snowflakes. [more inside]
We're hosting a dinner party and I need some help with the menu given guest diet restrictions and wine pairing. [more inside]
Seeking your favorite boy shorts (or other undergarments) for modesty coverage under short summer dresses! [more inside]
I have come to love and depend on the PNW climate; mild summers, cold but not brutal winters, plenty of rain, plenty of nature. To a lesser extent, Oregon and Northern Californa also answer my needs. But I've lived on the West Coast all my life, and someday, I think, I might like a change. Is there a place somewhere to the east that is very similar to the PNW? [more inside]
I'm going to be in Berlin for ten days in early May. I usually like to take a short course when I'm visiting a foreign city. What cool courses are available to take in English in Berlin? Interests include art, science, music (piano), food/cooking, writing and literature.
I am seeking recommendations for a good shampoo for dry scalp. [more inside]
We decided to go ahead and book a trip to Mexico City/San Miguel de Allende, and have 4 days in each. Do you have favourite places to see, things to do, or tips on amazing food/cafes/restaurants we should check out? Anything you loved and would go back to? Places you wish you'd spent more time? Food you can't forget? [more inside]
SO and I are driving to NY to visit friends in both LI (Huntington) and Manhattan. We are looking for a hotel outside of Manhattan and taking a train into the city on 3 or 4 days. Just need safe parking and a basic level of room, like Super-8 or at most La Quinta. Not interested in AirBnB. [more inside]
At my library, storytime participants have to sign in with their library card number. This often results in a line to get in, as people are fiddling with their keychains, squinting at the numbers and juggling little kids at the same time. I have an idea for a new system, but I don't know how to make it work. [more inside]
How do I fine-tune Android Oreo notifications? [more inside]
My house has an old forced-hot-water heating system with radiators. It is dumb and slow. Which easy-to-program thermostat should we get? [more inside]
Looking for the name of an alternative (and possibly traditional) calendar, one that functions as a way to record important anniversaries and birthdays and other notable days. It doesn't record a specific day of the week (Monday, Tuesday, and so on), however, because that changes ever year. People generally receive these as a keepsake, and always in paper form. It's craft is significant compared to a regular office/home calendar. I don't remember what they are called, and I can't search for one until I find out. [more inside]
So, what are your favorite pastel hair dyes? I’ve tried - and love - Joico, but haven’t read great things about their pastels. And the color intensities don’t last particularly well, same with Arctic Fox. Once I cut them down enough to make pastels, they’re gone in a few days. Even cut down, both Arctic Fox and Joico are still pretty bright. [more inside]
I recently moved into an apartment on the same floor as a couple, both in their 90s. They are very friendly and my husband and I are trying to stop by more often. But I often struggle with what to do while we are there. [more inside]
A friend wants to host their CV and a selection of downloadable materials (PDFs, mainly) by way of a portfolio. They want it to look slick, and the less coding the better. Have any of you had good experiences along these lines with hosting or template providers? [more inside]
Many of us have heard that if a date is mean to the waiter at dinner that is a huge red flag... but is it really? [more inside]
Looking for reviews of Ancestry's DNA test, specifically focused on finding relatives. [more inside]
I've encountered a strange problem while translating this famous Bernardo Bertolucci film. (I'm working from an English translation, and I only speak basic Italian.) Please read on if you're familiar with the film or the source novel, or speak Japanese! [more inside]
I have roughly equivalent quotes from two HVAC companies to replace my furnace, air conditioning unit, and water heater. I'm not sure which company I should choose given the offered warranties and make of the equipment. [more inside]
In the last month or so, I've been getting a lot of emails along the lines of "yes this
is still for sale, would you like to come see it?". The items in question have been motorcycles, RVs, go-carts, etc. I've also gotten at least 1 request for money through paypal and a ton of spam from Twitter suggesting that I follow a lot of celebrities that I don't. I've changed my password twice - what next? [more inside]
Suddenly Thunderbird stopped downloading & sending emails from my Verizon/AOL accounts. Gmail still works fine. [more inside]
So I just bought a new oven/microwave combo, and so far it's great. But one little detail I didn't think about nor did I notice when I bought it: the LCD screen is not backlit, so it's a little hard to see. How can I illuminate the screen so it's easier to see? [more inside]
New leader wants to have one on ones with everyone asking what our top issues are and what our long term professional goals are. I don’t know what to say. [more inside]
I am a woman. A man I work with who is not my direct supervisor but who is above me in the org and who I work closely with on a daily basis has been making comments that make me uncomfortable. He has not yet done anything reportable (I think). I feel like it is my ethical responsibility to confront or maybe report him but am scared to do so for all the usual reasons. What responsibility do I have to myself and to future women who may work with him? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
I’m hoping to show the music video for Jay-Z’s Story of OJ to a class of high schoolers. I’m looking for a version that is edited because I can’t blast all those n****s in a classroom, even if it is for educational purposes. So far I haven’t found one. Help! [more inside]
What are some cute "first relationship" style experiences I can give to my late-bloomer boyfriend? [more inside]
I am strongly considering switching to a top-entry litter box for my cat but I have some questions. [more inside]
My roommate got me an LED night light cat. [more inside]
I'm not in a position to move right now, but what if I was? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
In my whole adult life, I've never had a romantic relationship that felt healthy. By healthy, I mean, where I felt secure and calm. Instead, all my relationships have consistently had this anxious (me)/avoidant (them) dynamic. I don't know what healthy looks or really even feels like. Any resources/advice appreciated. [more inside]
I signed up for a Facebook account in late February. I've probably boosted about a dozen posts, but I just noticed that it seems when a post is in process of being boosted, Facebook won't let me promote any new ones until the one current one is done. [more inside]
Where do you like buying your TLS/SSL certs -- and do you have a preference for the cert brand (say, Comodo vs RapidSSL vs GeoTrust)? I know about the free certs from Let's Encrypt*; in this case, I'm looking for 1- or 2-year wildcard (unlimited subdomains) certs with domain validation (DV) from a reputable reseller, since buying directly from an authority seems to be more expensive, AFAICT. [more inside]
I am a fan and subscriber of the site Reelradio.com. It's a site of old airchecks. Presently I must listen to the airchecks while on the internet which they link to realplayer. Is there a way to download these files directly onto my Mac computer? They probably do not want their subscribers to do this so I'm throwing this out to the hive. When I click the links a .rm file opens and allows me to play it using realplayer
My spouse is traveling internationally and the kid would like to be able to chat with them during the trip. Basically, I'm looking for the 2018 equivalent of AOL Instant Messenger. [more inside]
I was born in Novi, but left when I was two, and haven't been back. There are several counties with open Section 8 waitlists. Deadline: tomorrow. Please help this Portland/Seattle native choose which counties I can survive a year in without wanting to kill myself. [more inside]
I don't want my iOS apps slurping up all the photos on my phone. Can they do this without my express clicking, if I give them permission to read/write photos? [more inside]
My apartment manager just emailed me personally to offer a 48-hour renewal promotion, in which I can re-sign the lease for another year without a rent increase plus $100 off my first month of rent. I'm generally suspicious of big leasing companies doing anything to residents' advantage, especially in a super-competitive rental market like the one I'm in. I had already told them I was planning to renew, so it's a little extra weird. I want to make sure I'm not missing something before I sign it. [more inside]
It has been a few years since this has been asked AFAIK. I need to play portions of a DVD documentary in a court proceeding and have those excerpts entered into evidence. What do I need to do to get the data to my hard drive and, from there, to create video excerpts? What would be the best file format to save to Cd-r or a thumbdrive (i have to have extra copies available to give to the other side and for the court). I’m a Windows 7 user. Thanks!
What are some mashups where most of or the entire accompaniment to one song is used with the entire melody line of another? [more inside]
I’m pretty sure I once read a short story — pulp maybe — about a man who gets it into his head that it would be good to wipe language from his mind. I can’t remember the premise beyond that, but he gets so efficient at wiping out his vocabulary that, eventually, he is able to recite a word a single time to scrub it entirely. [more inside]
I'm attempting to run Ansible playbook to set up Kubernetes Cluster using Kubespray. I've followed all steps but my nodes are still failing. Help please! [more inside]
I'm pregnant with my second. Dealing with nipples that suck for latching and very low milk production almost certainly due to insufficient glandular tissue (tubular breasts). How do I provide as much breast milk to baby as possible, without driving myself nuts? [more inside]
About a month ago, I received a call from a very nice Indian gentleman claiming to represent MS, and [more inside]
It would be silly to blame decreasing employment opportunities and increasing income inequality on the older generation sticking around (and working) longer. But it would be silly to see no connection at all. Why is this something no one seems to discuss? [more inside]
How do I tell if two names actually belong to the same person? [more inside]
My 14-year-old dog/best friend was diagnosed with a splenic mass ten days ago. Based on her age and size, it's likely hemangiosarcoma (nasty cancer), but possibly benign (still dangerous, as it could rupture). I'm trying to decide the best course of action, both for treatment, and end of life care. I know nobody can tell me exactly what to do. I'm looking for commiseration & similar experiences that might help inform my choice. Has your dog had a similar diagnosis? How did you decide what to do? Plenty of details under the cut. [more inside]
Looking for recommendations, based on personal experience, for durable, reusable row covers (supports and cloth/mesh, or both together in a single product) that I can use to protect my greens from deer.
I have an upcoming June business trip taking me to Olympia WA, flying into Seattle. Would like to have a rental car available for getting to/from the airport and doing some touring of Seattle before departure, but the booking prices for cars at SeaTac run 50-100% higher than what I'm accustomed to at most US airports, except for a company (Fox) that has decidedly mixed reviews. Not sure I can justify the expense vs. taking airport shuttles + cab for local travel. Any advice from frequent and/or recent Seattle travelers?
In this morning's welcoming ceremony for President Macron, the interpreter who rendered Trump's speech into French had an interesting accent, and I wonder if any of you can identify it. This video begins with Trump's remarks, alternating with the interpreter I'm asking about. Is his accent from a particular region? [more inside]
I am traveling today to go take care of an injured family member. I’m realistically not going to be getting much work done from the airport. Looking for gentle book recommendations for the flight. [more inside]
I just got notified by Facebook that I need to either accept their new terms of service by May 25 or delete my account. The summary of the changes they are introducing is very vague. They are "updating Data Policy" and "making it easier for me to control my privacy". [more inside]
What's the story behind the abandoned subdivision just northwest of the STL airport? [more inside]
This bird showed up on a bird table in Ireland today. The closest British Isles match I could find is a siskin, but siskins aren't that flat yellow colour. It's a closer match to the American Goldfinch, but isn't as bright as that (and is somewhat out of its usual territory). Any ideas?
Suddenly I find myself getting called in by my manager, who'll be leaving in about 6 weeks being demoted in span of control, on a weekly basis! My numbers are good, although the system is not measuring all I do, but after first this, now my tasks are matter of suspicion, apparently. I'm having a hard time explaining what I do, it feels as if I'm ridiculed and that shuts me down before I even try. It also makes me mad. I never have headaches, I do now. [more inside]
A senior colleague whom I otherwise genuinely admire recently had a very public, loud conversation with me (within earshot of other colleagues' offices) in which they included some fairly unmistakably racist remarks. I was pretty stunned and fumblingly tried to change the subject as best I could, but now I'm kicking myself for not having just fled the conversation at once, or figured out a way to more definitively show my non-assent to those views. What can/ what should I do? [more inside]
I've been with my SO for 6 years and I've had doubts for a while, mostly pestering gut feelings that for whatever reason he's not the right one for me. I have many conflicting feelings, and a part of me thinks I should move on, while a huge part of me isn't sure, and another part of me wants to stay. I don't even know what tools to use to make this decision anymore. I'm feeling lost. [more inside]
Hi AskMefi, long-time lurker here hoping you guys can help. I recently stopped talking to a friend for a while and want general advice on the situation. I've had a close friend for several years who kind of sucks. Recently I became completely fed up with for being such a toxic and negative presence in my life, and told him I didn't want to speak for a while. Why do I feel bad? How do I feel better? [more inside]
I am looking for resources where I can ask specifics about using my microscope, how-to's, and with that also queries about my findings. Specifically in the medical field. Think - people who want to test their own samples.
After coming back from staying a couple weeks with a friend (who also has dogs), our pup Otis has rough skin on the tips of his ears. What could this be? Here are three pics of the dude, two before and one after: https://imgur.com/a/IntOphK [more inside]
I have never considered medical marijuana as an option for me until several podcasts I listen to mentioned use of marijuana oil. I don't know where to start researching this. [more inside]
Reasonably expensive repair on an old car. Keep it or scrap it? And if we scrap it, what next? [more inside]
I'm considering upgrading my old pickup to a 2010-2015 Dodge Ram 1500 or Ford F150. Automatic transmission and 4x4. I see highway mpg estimates online but I want to know what people REALLY get. [more inside]
I have a friend at work that's constantly teasing me/picking on me like it's his second job with playful/back and forth banter. Should i take it to mean he's just being friendly without actually asking him or does he like me? [more inside]
How do I figure out if it's time to move on to a new job? I planned on staying at my current position longer (but not that much longer), and an opportunity has materialized sooner than anticipated... [more inside]
We recently adopted this little lady, a retired show dog. She's nine years old and needs to have a veterinarian. I'm conflicted about whether we should choose a traditional vet or one with a holistic bent, especially in light of her history. [more inside]
I'm visiting Seattle and Vancouver Island in early August. Where should I go and how should I get there? [more inside]
How much can someone expect to pay for ECT (electroconvulsive therapy) ? I'm especially interested in learning how much did you or someone you know pay for ECT after insurance ?
2nd time in a few months I've been narced and had my acct deleted. this time they're demanding proof (last time i got away with a name change but no proof)... I do not use my real name. I am adamant about it. I won't argue that point. HOWEVER... I want my friends there to know i'm leaving and maybe get some files back/downloaded (just to be sure i have them). I dont' think they have any sort of 'backup your shit' like google does. But is there a way (without sending in my ID and setting up under my real name) short of having another friend attempt to contact all the other friends and notify them (further complicated by the fact they're not all the same friend networks)... Anyone ever deal with this BS? I don't care if I have to leave FB, I just want to say goodbye to those that matter to me from FB.
This is an admittedly silly question and one I don't think is going to be easy to answer but I'm wondering about the vocal "shredding" (I think this is what one might call it) that occurs, among many other places I'm sure, in Brandi Carlile songs and how the hell you get your voice to do that. [more inside]
Son is 15 and is heading to his first party where there will be drinking. He has spoken to me and Mrs. Ashtray Elvis about trying it but we are conflicted. I never drank by choice and didn't feel peer pressure from friends to do it, where on the other hand, my wife indulged. Is 15 too early to booze? [more inside]
We have a HP Officejet Pro 8600 Plus. [more inside]
Recommendations for a student moving to Philadelphia? Hi everyone, thank you for visiting my question! I'm about to begin a full-time, online master's and am hoping to relocate to a city with decent walkability and transportation and get a studio (or 1 BR apt if the price and availability are good). I am looking to move in within the next month. I don't have Facebook and looking at Google reviews can be inconclusive, so I thought I'd post here! This is my first time moving into my own place. [more inside]
My daughter has a subscription to the (fantastic) Phoenix story comic. However, coming up weekly, they are now taking over the house. They previously sold some great string binders which hold 26 issues each, but i made the mistake of only buying six and now they are all out. [more inside]
I have next week off, my plans fell through, flights seem reasonable, I've never been, and...??? Would this work? [more inside]
Pretty basic really... I can't see 3D pictures or movies. Will I be able to experience virtual reality now that it's becoming a thing? [more inside]
I'm looking for a nice venue to host an overnight birthday party this weekend for about 40 people. There are no Airbnb's left that will do an event for under $2k so I'm asking the hivemind now.
Please help me understand if an upcoming work "opportunity" that's being offered to me is patronage or patronizing. [more inside]
It's overly loud, less than studio quality, usually crowded. You have to sit through the bad songs. Most musicians are only barely performance artists. I just don't get the appeal. [more inside]
I've always really enjoyed martial arts movies, and something I've always wanted to do with a genre is go through its developments chronologically. Help me out! [more inside]
I need to replace a failed Sony VGP-BPS26 battery, rated at 10.8 volts. All the replacements I can find online are rated at 11.1 volts. Will this be an issue?
Title says it all. Four year old intact male cat just reeked. He was just neutered a week ago. How long will it take on average for his urine and by extension him to not smell so bad? [more inside]
I'm going to be working down in the Space Coast area for an extended period, and I'm looking for food and relaxation recommendations to maintain sanity. [more inside]
I've been in my office for about 18 months and don't have much in the way of storage or decor. Suggestions? [more inside]
This song popped into my brainpan today and I would like recommendations for other good songs about important things. Any genre, any subject. It just has to be good and memorable. I first heard this song on a radio interview about Magdalene Laundries in the early 90's and I've never stopped thinking about it.
I enjoy funny crime caper novels like Carl Hiaasen's Stormy Weather and Dave Barry's Big Trouble, both of which made me laugh out loud several times. I enjoy gritty and layered crime novels such as Denise Mina's books, which touch on poverty, class, resentments, and life in often nuanced and gritty ways. Can I get both? [more inside]
Are you a Londoner who’s pleased with your dentist? Please tell me about your experience! I’ve been to Bupa in the past and they’re okay but it’s always felt a bit rushed like I was one of a million patients. Private is ok. Central or Southeast London would be great.
I'm in a situation where I feel like I need to manage up and set clear expectations with my leadership team. What's the best way to do this? Details inside. [more inside]
I've never played a legacy board game. I'd like to fix that. But I have some specific requirements. [more inside]
Going to a thing that requires many hours of standing around and waiting on concrete floors for several consecutive days. It will be very crowded. What sort of portable chair should I bring? [more inside]
I've seen a number of episodes of House Hunters Renovation, and you'll frequently see a couple say their budget is "$500k total" and they'll buy a $425k house and have $75k "left over" for renovation work. What's the structure of home loans that would make this kind of deal work for the average home buyer? I've never heard of a bank giving out loans that included a big buffer over the appraisal/asking price to cover renovations, so how do people do it? [more inside]
What is the best matcha powder to buy to make cold drinks with? Also what are the yummiest milks, etc., to mix it with, and the best sweeteners? No dietary restrictions at all except that I don't like stevia or artificial sweeteners.
Being hugged by someone makes me cringe. Someone getting too close to me makes me move away subconsciously. What is wrong with me? [more inside]
I'm not very computer literate, so I'm hoping someone can help me. Although I can still access and use my e-mail without any problems, I can no longer check the comments section of their articles, nor post any comments. [more inside]
I'm small and petite framed - 5'0, 115 pre-pregnancy. I want a wrap to wear my newborn around the house and out for walks, and I can't seem to decide on one because the choices are overwhelming and the reviews are mostly good, which doesn't narrow the pool much. Details below the fold. [more inside]
I am looking for the most portable type of crafting that I can take everywhere and whip out as soon as my anxiety/sensory stuff gets out of hand, or when the conversation of People I Can't Avoid Forever And Their Upsetting Topics becomes distressing to me. [more inside]
I have been agonizing over an simple engineering dilemma for several years now, and I think I would like to submit it to maybe a junior-high-level or better engineering class to see if they can figure out something. What or how is the best way to go about this? [more inside]
We have seven to ten days for a family vacation in July. We have never been to any of the Maritime Provinces so we're taking a road trip north. Please recommend beaches, restaurants, and things to do in any of the provinces so we can eventually hammer out a plan. [more inside]
I am trying to think of good ideas for a birthday gift for my sister. She will be 54. Her hobbies are cooking, nature photography and outdoor recreation She also runs and does other exercise regularly. She has a dog that she spoils. We live in the desert southwest. She works at a sporting goods store, so she already gets great deals on gear for outdoor recreation. My budget is up to $100.
We're heading up from Buffalo to Toronto in mid-June to see a show at the Danforth Music Hall. Where's a good place to stay, and is there anything particularly fun in the area we should plan to do while we're in town? [more inside]
Is it possible, or advisable, to install a second hard drive in my new tower? I recently purchased a new tower with Win10. It has a 480GB SSd and a 1TB regular drive. My old PC has Win7. [more inside]
After an offer and a counter offer, we've hit upon a mutually agreeable purchase price, but seller wants us to waive the appraisal contingency. If we have the cash to offer $X above appraisal up to agreed upon price, is that a terrible idea? [more inside]
I'm going to a New York City (specifically Manhattan, but I don't think anyone's going to be picky) -themed potluck, and need ideas for menu items. [more inside]
Had a job interview that went really well with 4 of the interviewers - I could feel a strong connection and got a sense communication was going well. Then the 5th interviewer asked me some really odd questions and I'm not sure if my reaction is way off base. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I work at a local school as an English tutor, so I'll be off July and most of August. I also work as an online English Tutor for a company based in Taiwan. I have experience working with students of all ages and levels. [more inside]
My roommate did not pay the electric bill, apparently we were far overdue to the point where the electric company was about to cut electricity. Should this be something I should bring up with the landlord? [more inside]
About 2 months ago, I ran a half marathon that angered the second toes on both my feet. I went to trim my toenails this morning - one of those injured toenails is now very wiggly and barely hanging on. I'm also running another half next weekend. How to protect and proceed? [more inside]
My husband's over-the-top reactions to situations that aren't happening right now bug me. Why? [more inside]
Taking the fam 10 days from June 26, flying into SEA and out of Vancouver. Looking for ideas - pretty flexible. Never been. More inside. [more inside]
I need a new Android phone. I live in the UK and I will be visiting China soon. Will I be able to get a better deal on a phone in China that will work in the UK? [more inside]
I need a sock pattern (requirements below) and want to know if I can use this yarn (pics: 1, 2, 3) that I bought in Poland to make it. Or if you wouldn't recommend making socks with this yarn, what else would you do with it? [more inside]
I just can't with blippy any more. So I've been putting on funny songs, but ones I like too. So what are songs which are good but are also suitable for toddlers. [more inside]
I just bought this pool for the kids to play in. We've had smaller pools before on our sloping lawn and they were ok. But this one contains a lot more water when full. [more inside]
I'm in my early 40s and didn't think it was still possible for me to form bonds with other people. After some bad relationships and some friendships that ended horribly, I turned off the emotional part of my brain that let me care about new people. Reading on the green has made me realize that it's almost impossible for a woman in her 40s to find romance, so I turned off those emotions as well. [more inside]
I live in Illinois and work for a manufacturer that does have federal contracts. We are offered free physicals annually which includes blood and urine testing. It was published on the company website that "this is not a drug test". Can my employee test me for drugs anyway and if positive ( yes I smoked a tiny bit of weed a week ago), be fired as a result? [more inside]
My fucking smoke detector is beeping because the battery is dead. I don't have another 9 Volt in the house and it's 12:35 in the morning, so I can't go buy one. It won't stop and my upstairs neighbors are complaining (not to mention I can't sleep). Someone please help me
Wife and I picked up this really cool end-table at a garage sale. We are pretty sure that it's not Heywood-Wakefield. No identifying information that we can see. Any ideas?
I'm thinking of relocating to Montclair this summer, and currently looking at renting somewhere in the area surrounding Walnut Street Station. I have two questions about the area: 1. If you commute into NYC on the Montclair Boonton line, how's your commute? Google maps seriously underestimates the average time it takes me to get into NYC from another NJ suburb, so I don't quite trust it and would like to hear from people who actually do it if possible. 2. How safe is that particular area surrounding Walnut St? It looked perfectly nice when we visited, but previous Askmefi questions have mentioned some crime in surrounding areas. Also, if there's anything else you'd like to add about Montclair, either positive or negative, please let me know!
I need a clock radio and I’m not even sure what we call those things anymore. What do you like? [more inside]
I've been interested in taking some form of martial arts or self-defense class for a long time, but a couple of things hold me back: 1) the idea of grappling with strangers 2) fear of getting punched or falling a lot. I'm past 40 and falling is something I feel more and more cautious about. And 3) I'm not in great shape. [more inside]
Why is it better to take Prednisone or cortisone shots that to increase the dose of NSAIDs? [more inside]
Just one panel. A teen couple is walking home from a date. He's thinking about a good-night kiss. She's thinking about a hammer and sickle.
I need to get from Villejuif to CDG in the morning, but I'm finding conflicting information about where (and how) I should transfer from the 7 line to RER B. Could use some advice from people familiar with the system. [more inside]
My kitty needs a new dry cat food. Researching what's actually good and what's just marketing is super overwhelming and contradictory and I am lost! [more inside]
Posting this on behalf of a musician friend - what airline is best at flying a double bass out of the USA? And what recourse does a customer have against an airline that stopped her from taking her double bass at the last minute??? [more inside]
I'm freaking out a bit. I was using a Q-tip and accidentally pushed it too far in. It look a bit of force to pull it out. There was no blood, but it still aches a few hours later. Pain is not severe and hearing is same. Urgent care or wait? Thanks much.
I work with a non-profit that is working towards the elimination Hepatitis B globally. We want contact and work in conjunction with any pharmaceutical company that is developing a rapid test for Hepatitis B. The current Hep B test takes 2 days, but it could be done in 5 minutes and I'm sure some pharmaceutical company is working on it. Who are they? How can I get in touch with them? Thanks!
My daughter wants an apartment that doesn't involve a maze of hallways getting to the door. Is there a term that we can use to rule in and out buildings? She's calling it a "walk in", which results in lots of beautiful closets. Short of searching all ground floor units, can you suggest anything else? Thank you!
Help me design some vegetarian meals for me to make for my wife and her friend for their weekly Downton Abbey watching party. [more inside]
Is it safe for birds to be nesting in a metal shed? If not, what can I do? [more inside]
Where are non-designers posting photos of their homes nowadays? [more inside]
So, I'm sort of an all purpose translator/transcriber/sometimes writer/language person, bottom line being I do a lot of typing in lots of different formats, typing that involves a lot of formatting, editing, and stopping. The recent advances in microphones and voice recognition (Siri/Alexa, Google Translate voice recognition, dayum!) have me wondering...would it be economical to use it to replace or supplement typing? What are your experiences with this? Snowflake & hardware details inside. [more inside]
I need to print out a Word Doc with the comments. I'm on a Chromebook. Is this at all possible? Please help. [more inside]
My musical knowledge is extremely limited, but I've put together a small playlist that I think has some coherence. I'd love suggestions on specific songs I could add to it that would fit in well. A YouTube playlist with all of these songs is available here, and a list of each song is inside. Thanks! [more inside]
My UU church has a women's group - each month one attendee volunteers to host. The host provides some food, comes up with the topic or activity for the group, and kind of "leads" on the night. I am hosting next month's meeting and I have no idea what to do...help? [more inside]
I'm doing some research for a project and am having trouble finding information on what Seoul or general South Korean nightlife and drinking culture was like in the 1980s and 90s. I think I have a pretty good handle on the social customs/norms/hierarchy involved in drinking after some reading, but I'm still not sure exactly what sort of establishments would actually be available and what would go on inside. [more inside]
My direct report plagiarized my own work in her written performance review, copying sections of a document I had written nominating another team member for an award to describe her own performance. The document itself was confidential. My manager and I can't think how she could have accessed it in the first place. Help me get past my befuddlement and come up with a plan to deal with the situation. [more inside]
The digital age is starting to freak me out. Can someone please explain to me how Facebook - in web browser (chrome) - on my laptop (Windows 10) connected to the internet via cell phone hotspot (T-mobile/Android) knows that I recently changed locations, even with location settings disabled on all devices? [more inside]
Yeah, I 100% need something to cut me off from the internet on my iPhone during work hours. I used to use Freedom for this purpose, but it stopped working (and started messing with my computer). I can’t be cut off from everything on my phone because I have work related stuff on there. Anyone know of a good iOS Freedom alternative that will let me block select websites and apps, and actually works?
In November, we got a 2 year old rescue mutt who has gone from a deeply depressed dog to a sweet, silly pup... when my wife and I are both in the house. When it's just one of us - either one - she suddenly becomes something of a standoffish loner. [more inside]
I'm not interested in socializing with my coworkers outside of work- but they want to. I turn down invitations at least twice a week, but they haven't gotten the message. How do I avoid burning professional bridges when I don't want to build personal ones? [more inside]
Last night I became aware that 3 charges were attempted on my accounts and Dominos from different locations in the united states. 2 charges went through on the account I keep money in, one charge was declined on the account that I have as backup. Should I get a lawyer involved? Should I inform my employer? [more inside]
I would like to have some responsible, ethical, mutually-affirming casual sex in my life. I have genital herpes. How does this work? Is it even possible? [more inside]
In 1984, Chicago TV's Channel 66 went to a 24-hour music video station. One video they played regularly seemed to show a robotic assembly line for paint cans. The entire 2-3 minute video was purple-tinted and had the coolest industrial music soundtrack. Does anybody remember this, and more importantly, what was this video? [more inside]
I make my living in a job that necessitates my performing a lot of emotional labor. I am also a person who tends to take on a lot of emotional labor in my personal life. It getting exhausting and I'm responding to that exhaustion in maladaptive ways. Help me figure out how to recalibrate so that I don't lose my mind. [more inside]
For someone who has played acoustic guitar for a long time but is new to electric guitar, what new skills need to be learned that are specific to the electric guitar? [more inside]
Taking my folks to a Durham Bulls game tomorrow, 4/21/2018. Seeking locals info on parking. [more inside]
Where are the under-the-radar, but thriving towns with a lake or river system as the main draw? I'd like it to be in fly-over country and north of Missouri. The Great Lakes are almost TOO great for this question. Think smaller. [more inside]
From 1788 to present day, how many european countries used the Guillotine for execution. [more inside]
My uncle, who lives in Madrid, has very generously offered to fly our 13-year-old son over to Spain to spend three weeks with them this summer. How should he pack and what should he expect? [more inside]
I had a workplace incident (kitchen stuff), and as a precaution, the doctor gave me a tetanus shot last Tuesday morning. It's now Saturday morning, and the area around the injection is still swollen and warm to the touch, and damn, it hurts worse than the finger I mangled. A couple of days, sure, but this just seems to be getting worse. [more inside]
One of my cats, S, has become more and more affectionate with age. But one thing that hasn't really changed is that when he's got enough he doesn't just get up and leave, he almost makes a break for it. He'll get all close and purry but - regardless of whether I pet him or not - after only a few minutes he'll make a break for it as if something's after him--especially if he's lying on me or right next to me in bed. Any suggestions as to why? [more inside]
Can Android link your phone account to your other google accounts? eg if you log into another account using a mail app? Is there any way to stop this? [more inside]
I'm thinking about the logistics when it comes to charging stuff at international airports (anywhere not in the US). If I'm coming from stateside with US electronics the very least I would need is a socket converter right? Or would I also need a voltage transformer too? It seems kind of overkill though to me. Those things are big. Anyone with travel experience that can weigh in?
Does boiling water actually do anything special besides evaporate? Or is it just a convenient eyeballing metric for temperature? [more inside]
My cat may have just peed some blood. I'm stretched to my limit right now. Is there any possibility this isn't a big deal? Details inside. [more inside]
Every workday on my way home, I go through a busy intersection in Torrance, California. There is always a panhandler standing on the concrete island next to the left turn lane with a cardboard sign. It is never the same panhandler twice. Why is that? [more inside]
Several years ago I read an article by some guy who talked about how he just stopped asking permission and started doing things -- going to work parties that weren't where he worked, or a bar mitzvah he wasn't invited to, and how he never got into trouble for it and was teaching his son to do the same. This amount of detail has proved to be impossible to google for. Does anyone remember it? It was roundly mocked by people who are not white men.
I used to be able to pretty reliable find past tweets from particular users using the "searchterm from:username" format. Now I have to use Google search to find anything but very recent results. Have they started limiting historical access? Take @realDonaldTrump tweeting about Anna Wintour. "Wintour from:realDonaldTrump" returns nothing, when he's tweeted about her quite a few times.
Just got a new job working from home and I'm super excited about it! I will have set hours (9a-6p, with an hour for lunch in there somewhere) so there is some imposed structure. Tell me what your experience is like working from home. What should I do to optimize this situation in terms of being productive personally, while taking advantage of the little bonuses that come from being home all day? [more inside]
When I'm having a conversation with someone about something I'm excited about - say, a book I just finished that I loved, or a place I'm stoked about visiting for the first time, etc - my nose inevitably starts running. Why? [more inside]
Last Sunday I sexted with this guy from Tinder. It's the first time I've done this. Now he starts texting me in the middle of the day with screenshots of sexual things I said. It really freaks me out like he's trying to control me or something. What should I do? Is this actually dangerous or am I freaking out over nothing?
I've been recruited for a non-academic job at Stanford. I'd like to know the salary range for grade "I" jobs (that's "i" as in ice cream, not "l" as in lemon), but it looks like the salary ranges are only visible to people with a Stanford login. Would any Stanford employees be willing to look it up and share it here, or email me at stanfordquestion at gmail.com? It looks like it should be accessible through the button at the bottom of this page. Thanks. :)
Seeking recipes that call for multiple types or preparations of garlic [more inside]
I'm a 32 year old mom of 2, and I'm starting to notice more instances of having trouble word-finding. Should I be worried? [more inside]
We opened our women's clothing swap up to any gender, but now someone wants to bring their (male, cis, straight) partner and I don't now what to do. [more inside]
A person keeps changing my preferred name in an email chain and I don't know how to correct it, firmly, politely and once and for all without distracting from the content of the conversation but before everyone else decides to use the wrong name for me, too. Not a gender issue, just a manners one. [more inside]
Inspired by this question, I was wondering what boozy concoctions I could put on tap in my kegerator. [more inside]
I have had sleep maintenance insomnia the past few years and I'd really like it to go away. [more inside]
What are some nice, secluded, romantic locations to propose to my girlfriend in London or Paris in July? [more inside]
Part of my job involves taking very detailed notes during negotiations. For Reasons, it has to be done by hand, but I think people will be OK with me using an iPad or other flat-lying tablet. App or workflow recommendations? Stylus recommendations for use over 2+ hours? [more inside]
What's the fairest way to compensate one sibling when the other sibling has received an advance on their shared inheritance? [more inside]
How can we share our club's membership contacts? [more inside]
Over the last year, I’ve noticed that my workplace has become a lot more factionalised and influenced by shifting power dynamics. Lots of decisions that seem to me to be administrative and unremarkable are getting caught up in conflicts between different factions, and so I find myself constantly navigating around these conflicts. I don’t like this, but I don’t know how seriously to take my dislike. [more inside]
I am a fairly recent transplant to Pittsburgh, and am in charge of planning a birthday celebration this Saturday night. For lack of better ideas, I'm thinking of doing a progressive style dinner, but am at a loss for where to go and what to order. So my new neighbors, what are your favorite nom noms and cocktails in this fabulous city? [more inside]
Bedroom music producers/singers: Are you comfortable writing and practicing original music in your home when others are around, knowing they can might hear what you're doing? How do you get comfortable with this? [more inside]
I am prone to waking up groggy and tired often - my best guess is that I wake up in the wrong sleep cycle. Has anyone here had any success using a wearable that wakes them up in the right sleep cycle? [more inside]
Looking for brief, chill, mettabhavana (lovingkindness) meditations. What are your favorites? More inside. [more inside]
I'm a relatively new hobbyist woodworker. I've successfully made coffee tables, end tables, and bookshelves. Now I'm ready to tackle a cabinet project, and the first thing my house needs is a bathroom vanity. I'm looking for advice; specific questions inside. [more inside]
Tomorrow I will be attending a funeral and cannot avoid crying. Every time I cry, my eyes are dry and painful for hours and I need a way to relieve that in a way that does not involve lying down, splashing water, or objects placed on my eyes. [more inside]
How did you decide if a therapist was good for you when you really liked them as a person, but they maybe weren't serving you as well as a therapist? [more inside]
But not Draconius GO or Ingress. Friends enjoyed Pokemon GO, but we're all level 40, have done everything in the game and the current Raid scene looks to be dead for a few months. So we're looking for some other online/mobile game we could play that would allow us to pick teams, playing together or against each other. [more inside]
What are the magic words I need to use to get a therapist to call me back? [more inside]
About this time last year a new adventure company stole from me. I eventually got my money back, but they are still stealing from others and today a national newspaper promoted them. Can I/should I do something? [more inside]
I'm returning to Paris for the weekend, after several years of absence. I intend to eat my way through the city and I need the help of MeFi's food nerds to ensure that I do not waste precious tummy real estate on non-excellent food. More details on restaurant preferences inside… [more inside]
There are some wonderful stories on the site, but I'd like to find more of them. My favorites include: "Miriam and I after the End"."
Yes, I have read a lot about this (i.e. googled it) and considered the various angles and I realize there is probably no objectively correct answer. Unfortunately or not I also don't think I'm much of a special snowflake, so in the interests of succinctness relevant details are laid out as pros and cons in the read more. I'm really looking for some sanity checking and any obvious things I haven't considered. [more inside]
I have a family member whose 30th birthday is coming up. She mentioned once in passing that she absolutely loves Edible Arrangements. I mentally noted it and planned to get her one for her birthday. I heard through the family grapevine that she’s a bit hard up because her partner hasn’t started a new job yet, but will in about a month. [more inside]
I know: cats are weird. And maybe that's the only answer here, but on the off chance that it isn't the only answer... here's my question: Lately, one of my cats has started to covet protein bars. He steals them, night and day. But why? [more inside]
I'm hoping someone else has experienced this and knows what might be going on. There have been multiple instances now where someone will send an email with an attachment to both my husband and I, but I never receive it. My husband will then forward the email to me, which works, and it clearly shows my email address listed as one of the recipients. I have been carefully checking my spam folder before deleting and haven't noticed anything amiss there. Is it possibly being filtered into some other folder I don't know about? Thanks for any insight.
I'll be travelling to the U.S. and attending the University of Southern California in LA for 2 weeks in June. I'd like to buy some stuff online and have it delivered there. How would this work? [more inside]
I just bought myself a nifty new gaming laptop which is way more than powerful enough to run Oculus or Vive. Here's the thing - I have one small room, with furniture in it. Can I enjoy my VR experience WITHOUT having space to walk around? [more inside]
Just installed a row of 3 giant Ikea Pax wardrobes. Now they need doors! The problem is that the Pax sliding doors come in pairs, and aren't designed to allow you to hang three of them in a row. Any solutions? [more inside]
We’re three college friends living in three different states, going on a weekend trip to see each other after a few years apart. Two of us have good jobs and a spouse with an income, one of us is a stay-at-home parent of two whose spouse works for a non-profit. Help me navigate the money stuff so we can make this fun for all three. [more inside]
My grandma is visiting us for a month and change, and has repeatedly expressed a desire to watch Thai TV, especially news. I'd appreciate the hive mind's input on how I can make this happen. [more inside]
I have a friend's birthday coming up: She's pregnant with her 2nd child and is a knitter. I have an idea to put together a knitting kit for her so she'll have a project to work on while she's off work with the new baby. I'd buy the pattern, yarn, & materials and package it all up nice as a birthday gift; now all I need is ideas! [more inside]
Nobody really talks about rigging a house for just a bit of solar energy. [more inside]
I'll be in Paris (6th arrondissement) with a friend for a couple of days this May. What should we do? [more inside]
I am buying a house. The agent is trying to get us to buy a "home warranty" for $500. I don't understand what this is or why I need it. [more inside]
What are some good organizations (either governmental, non profit, grassroots, or even religious) that are trying to pressure California legislators to fix our homeless epidemic? [more inside]
I let a friend talk me into auditioning for the church choir he's in. Part of the audition involved singing a song that you could "sing with all your heart", as well as some scales. I've sung in choirs all my life, but I'm not a solo singer and have never had to sing a prepared song for an audition. I was wary about auditioning but decided to give it a go anyway. [more inside]
Help us identify and possibly save a bathroom countertop. [more inside]
I am thinking about buying a house in a college town a few hours away from where I live. The plan would be to hire a property management company to handle the day to day as well as finding tenants. [more inside]
I like songs with heavy bass. Lots of heavy bass. There's something about it for me that's like one of those weighted anxiety blankets; I actually find it extremely relaxing to listen to (go figure). So I'm looking to make a playlist of songs with heavy bass. [more inside]
I'm interested in a set of in-ear earbuds for, among other things, workout use. They have an IPx5 water resistance rating. According to the official rating scale, that translates to protection against "water projected by a nozzle." The company also offers a more expensive model it specifically recommends for workouts. Apart from some features I don't care about, the primary difference is that it ostensibly is "sweat proof" due to its IPx6 rating, which translates to protection against "water projected in powerful jets." Is an IPx6 rating really necessary for workout headphones? If it is, I'll incur the extra expense, but even though I do sweat, even heavily at times, I have a hard time thinking of my sweat as "projected in powerful jets"...
We love Madhur Jaffrey's Vegetarian India cookbook, but our one complaint: Not enough dishes with thick, flavorful sauces as you might find in an Indian restaurant. What are your most mouth watering, naan-dippingest vegetarian Indian dishes where the veggies/paneer/etc. are floating in a pot of delicious sauce?
We've got a dining room that's 90% complete, except for one corner that really needs something. In this photo, it's the corner on the left. [more inside]
We're having a baby right before mother's day! What are some cute, low key but meaningful ideas to keep mother's and father's day special without stress, expense, or the pressure to outperform the previous year? I'm looking for the comfort of tradition. [more inside]
A friend and I will be visiting Seattle in July and would like to get tattoos together (we are both very experienced with tattoos). We are looking for recommendations for excellent artists/shops that are welcoming for walk-in clients. Thank you!
I owned this book as a child growing up in the mid-1980's. It was about Abraham Lincoln; at least part of it was specifically about his childhood. I would guess it was written for kids between 6-9. It definitely had a turquoise cover, was paperback, and was presented in landscape orientation. Beyond that ... [more inside]
We sell Widget through a web site for £X,000 (it's a very good widget). Widget is all we sell. Demand for Widget spikes once a year when we release a new version of Widget and trickles down to a Widget purchase once every couple of weeks after a while. Here's the thing: we get a failure rate of c.40-50% on attempted purchases of Widget because credit card companies say WIDGET IS FRAUD (Widget is not fraud). [more inside]
I'm considering adopting a male dog. I've only ever had female pets. What do I need to know? [more inside]
Can a (newly self-diagnosed) aspie/high functioning autistic and someone who suffers from major depressive disorder and anxiety realistically have a happy, healthy relationship? [more inside]
I'm looking for books set before 1950 where the A or B plot follows queer characters who live, work, fall in love etc. and where I am better able to understand what being queer would look like in this historical context and where NOTHING SUPER TERRIBLE HAPPENS TO THE CHARACTERS. [more inside]
I am keen on law, but don't plan to go to law school because of the time and money. Yet, this new certificate opened up at Queens University, Ontario. Would it be of any practical use or is it merely for intellectual pursuit? Is it possible to land into legal research/government jobs with a certificate in Law? I also do not have to pay for the program due to scholarship and bursuaries benefits as well.
Does anyone have experience of using Reedsy (particularly writers looking at self-publishing, but other angles welcome).
Seeking a reasonably priced rectangular planter that can be used underwater. Length: will be creating the perimeter of a 12x12 foot square so would prefer to use eight 6ft but could do other permutations. Depth: should be 12 inches but could go down to 9 inches Width: can be as little as 9 but would prefer 9-12 inches Will be completely submerged but must be a dark and unobtrusive color (dark brown, black or dark grey) [more inside]
After reading about it on AskMe, I’ve recently started StrongLifts. I lift on Mondays, Wednesdays, and Fridays. But I like my daily routine of running to the gym, doing something there, then running home. What should I do at the gym on days I’m not doing StrongLifts?
Lately I have not been able to enjoy time off from work. The lack of structure makes me batty. Help me relax for the next four days, please! [more inside]
How should I approach deciding if / when to have children with a partner that has newly-diagnosed ADHD? [more inside]
My housemate cycles to work and is looking to buy a pair of gloves for the winter so that her hands don't freeze, but doesn't like the look of proper bike gloves. Alternatives? [more inside]
Spouse is looking for a CBT-oriented therapist in NYC who also has expertise in sexual issues. We have some questions. [more inside]
We will be running user testing sessions with groups of young people for several different online games. We have a testing protocol with a series of questions we want the kids to answer and need an easy way to capture their feedback, ideally directly from them and without too much adult intervention or supervision. [more inside]
All serious causes of my new headaches have been ruled out, now need (non medication) solutions [more inside]
Our baby is due in 2 weeks and we've been trying to settle on a name for 9 months! Please help! [more inside]
Nearly every queer character in every work of art I've experienced seems to figure out that they're queer easily and effortlessly. They fall in love or are hopelessly attracted to someone of the same gender, and quickly settle on a label (bi or gay or pan) to match. It's assumed that the romantic orientation matches the sexual orientation. Asexuality doesn't seem to exist. "Questioning" your sexuality is really just the process of coming to terms with the fact that you're not straight. But I want to experience works, in any medium (film, novels, comics...), fiction or nonfiction, where a character doesn't find it all so simple. [more inside]
I recently talked to an artist in Canada about buying one of their shirts. Postal office quoted them $18 to ship from Vancouver to New Mexico, almost doubling the price of the shirt. Is this the price of international mail, or is there a cheaper option? [more inside]
I've always had a ton of difficulty concentrating at work. I don't think I have ADD or executive function disorder, because I'm fairly good in other areas of my life. How do I fix it? [more inside]
Easy, under the radar methods of sending myself non-work documents-in-progress to and from an increasingly monitored work account? [more inside]
I love orange juice. My favorite brand is Tropicana, and I can easily drink a gallon or more per week. But my nutritionist said I should stop drinking juice because of the high sugar content. What can I replace it with that will satisfy the same craving? [more inside]
I just got a new job. HOORAY! The biggest drawback will be that for the first time in years, no one will be home with our dog during the day. Please help reassure me she won't be horrendously bored and depressed. [more inside]
Is this music video of Bob Dylan's Subterranean Homesick Blues the first instance of this flashcard trope? I realize there's going to be some ambiguity in answering this; just hit me with whatever observations you've got.
My eight year old laptop isn't keeping up with what I'm doing now, and I'm worried it won't be able to handle what I'm working on doing in the future. I'm utterly overwhelmed by all the options out there. Help me figure out what I want? Blizzard inside. [more inside]
This week, about twenty of my friends will head for a vacation together on an annual trip. We try to replicate a famous work of art or two while we have everyone together. Any ideas for good paintings/photographs or sculptures, once the easy candidates have been accomplished? [more inside]
My dad is trying to track down a half-remembered Don Knotts sketch, in which a barbershop trio never quite get started on their song for numerous physical comedy reasons, finishing with one guy swallowing the pitch pipe. Does this ring a bell with anyone?
OK, I cannot believe I am using a question for this but it bothers me at least once week. You go to a public bathroom. A nice, clean. well-maintained public bathroom. The toilet has a weird cloudy clump of what looks like dissolved toilet paper. But it’s like shredded. [more inside]
Hivemind brainstorm needed! I'm putting together a party where I want to have a screening of a horror film that ENCOURAGES people to interact. All suggestions accepted, even if never done before. [more inside]
I need names for 3 categories that have a clear order to them. A group of us are trying to come up with this list and we have been having problems. [Fast, Medium, Slow] and [Large, Medium, Small] are examples, but none of them quite work. [more inside]
Any mind/behaviour tricks to help an almost pathologically conflict-avoidant person become less of a doormat? [more inside]
For work reasons I need to come up with a list of about 20-30 fake names. They need to be immediately visibly fake, and yet easily and clearly distinguished from one another. Names that would not instantly be associated to any real or fictional person but instead feel as generic as John Smith does in English. [more inside]
I'm planning a one day fishing trip for 3-4 guys. Originally wanted to try a guided fly fishing tour, but with the learning curve and cost ($200-300 per person) it doesn't seem worth it. Any other suggestions? [more inside]
I'm trying to get one of these Pyle Headsets into a computer. I have a MBP along with a USB beherdynamic DAC - more or less like this. What do I need to make this work? [more inside]
I have an NFC brand smartwatch from China. After charging for a couple of hours, first switching on says: "Insert SIM". What size SIM card do I need? At the moment it is not pairing with my Samsung S7 phone from ATT running Android 7.0. Any help or advice welcomed as the "User Guide" is very minimal.
I enjoy reading philosophy after a “tall glass of water” or two, but more in the vein of Sartre’s “Being and Nothingness” than Kant or Hegel. [more inside]
Show to me all of the dips! [more inside]
Yesterday, I called my father-in-law several time about something boring and unimportant, and everything is fine. I also sent him one text message. Today, I got a response to this text from someone who is not him who is wondering why I am texting him. This new text from the mystery person is in the same text thread as years of conversation with my father-in-law. What on earth is going on? I have no reason whatsoever to believe he would have changed his number. [more inside]
In 1986, 6.5 million people formed a chain by holding hands across America: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Hands_Across_America I can't imagine the feeling of love and unity from participating in that. Where can I find other examples, like Hands Across America, of life affirming media spectacles? [more inside]
Hello, a friend of mine is living out of his car in the north Austin area (Round Rock, Georgetown). He has two cats and is unwilling to give them up - they are very important to him. He is looking into low cost Airbnbs and motels for potential short term housing, but he needs to find alternative housing for the pets ASAP. The days are getting hotter, and they are already showing signs of distress. I've offered to help pay for pet boarding if we can find something under $150 / month. Suggestions needed urgently--thanks!
Help me win an argument with my boyfriend! Is the phrase, "Not great, Bob!" from the season 6 finale of Mad Men, anachronistic? [more inside]
More experienced people of Metafilter: how do you switch jobs and do it right? What to do in the place you are leaving, how to adapt fast to the new place? Difficulty level: multinational companies in Central Europe. [more inside]
So, because of the nature of what I do, I sometimes wind up screen-sharing with someone else while I'm coding. I like having all of my code bookmarks on my usual personal Chrome profile, because I really don't want to juggle Chrome windows back and forth all the time. But when I'm screen-sharing, I'd like to be able to switch to a profile that ONLY has my code bookmarks, and not, for example, all my fandom stuff. Is there a way to sync just, say, one folder between the two? [more inside]
My trusty old 27" iMac is on its last legs so I need to buy a new computer. What should I get? [more inside]
My personal website with it's own domain has been using MoveableType 2.something for years. When my server last upgraded, perl updated along with it to 5.24.1, and now the MT CGIs don't run. [more inside]
I bought Yancey’s Fancy Maple Bacon Cheddar thinking it was just bacon cheddar. I put it on a cheese plate and everyone was pretty sad about it. What can I do with it? [more inside]
Suspicious water that's been through a filtering system. [more inside]
I realize minivans aren't super sexy but they are what I need; something that can transport cargo but also more than one or two passengers. I've been reading for days and I can't come away with any decent ideas of what to look for or what to keep in mind. [more inside]
So I am a very, very amateur guitarist with tiny hands and in the market for the smallest guitar possible. Details within! [more inside]
I'm not sure about the long term prospects of my current job and I wanted to know what others options I might have. What kinds of jobs can a PM skillset get you? [more inside]
I'm putting together an order for some new glasses at Zenni. I have my prescription, and I've filled in all the relevant boxes on the form at Zenni. So far so good. But I'm completely stumped by the final 3 lines of my prescription. Please halp! [more inside]
It’s a strange way to shop for cars but my kids like to see outside. [more inside]
Help me think aloud around a bathroom sign my boss just installed. She asked what I thought so I told her; I'm not crazy about it, here's why, but that's just me. It's one of these "mermaid/cenetaur/whatever, just wash your hands" signs. [more inside]
Long Story I got fired from 2 temp Jobs in IT for the same reasons " Performance Issues" . The jobs I was hired for was IT desktop support jobs . I need something more Slower Pace or figuring out if it's me or the company? [more inside]
My boyfriend of seven months is lovely -- except when his (clinical) anxiety flares up. Which is pretty much all the time lately. He is receiving no treatment and seems to have lost perspective on how disturbing his current behavior and state of mind actually is. How do I have a productive discussion with him about getting help? Because, frankly, either the anxiety goes or I do. [more inside]
My wife and I will be taking a little road trip in late April/early May from Detroit to the Finger Lakes area of NY with a two day/one night stop in Buffalo. Neither of us has visited before. Looking for recommendations on food/activities in these areas. We are interested in nature, delicious foods, hidden gems. [more inside]
Hivemind, I come to you begging for your kind help now that Google's failed me. Circa 1940-60s, obscure, black and white, low budget film about a *female* psychopath/serial killer with a knife and hypersexual personality, almost NO dialogue! Not being able to remember the name of this movie is driving me bonkers. Help! [more inside]
I recently moved down to San Diego, and found what I thought was a nice apartment, but upon moving in discovered that I can hear literally everything going on in the unit above me - footsteps, TV, sex, you name it. Does this give me grounds to back out of my lease, and what would be the best way to handle this situation? [more inside]
I have a half-remembered anecdote that I read somewhere that goes something like this: At a congressional hearing on nuclear deterrence, someone says this to a prominent nuclear weapons scientist: "We all see the value of nuclear weapons for protecting our country. But why should we be supporting the arts?" The scientist responds: "They make our country worth protecting." The details are probably all wrong, but I'm fairly certain that it involved Americans in some kind of government hearing. Can anyone help me find a source for this half-memory?
I've had a few bouts of illness this year that feel like a cold (fatigue, head ache-y, maybe some minor muscle aches, a bit of brain fog) without much (or any) upper respiratory symptoms like cough, runny nose, etc. or a fever. Is this normal? [more inside]
I am deciding if I should pursue a second graduate degree in MFA Creative Writing. Is it valuable for writer that wish to improve their writing and publishing? Does it look good on one's resume? Or is it a waste of time mostly? I have only taken two creative writing courses and two english courses during my undergraduate studies as well. I know that the art world and literary magazines respect writers with MFAs. I am not sure if it is a waste of time or if it is something of extra value and help.
Can you please explain here, (or point to streamlined sources), the wave of economic globalization that took off in the 1970s and 1980s? [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for an extra-large jogging stroller for a senior English bulldog. She can't walk very far, but she loves being outside and loves car rides. I'm hoping to take her out this spring and summer for some nice jaunts along paved outdoor paths. I will either be jogging or inline-skating behind the stroller. [more inside]
Should I seek appraisal before selling my mother's jewelry for its melt value, and anyone have any recommendations for appraisers or metal/gem buyers in the Vancouver, BC area? [more inside]
The rubber gasket around the edge of the door on my oven has come off. It fell down and caught fire on the electric heating element, which we quickly caught and put out. We had to throw the gasket away, of course. The landlord can replace the gasket next week. In the meantime, can I bake a pie without burning the house down?
Yahoo has just added a new privacy screen before I can get to my calendar which said, in part, its purpose is to protect the developer. I have been thinking about switching to Rainlendar. It's been around for awhile, but seems simple and is very customizable. It goes on the desktop. Can I get it on my phone?
I’m having a peculiar issue with my landlord in regard to getting a room cleaned, and I don’t really know where to turn to get it done. Details inside. [more inside]
I'm trying to reduce dairy and grains in my diet, while increasing fruit/vegetables/fiber/fermented foods. To give you an idea of my tastes, my favorite breakfast ideas so far are berry/almond/quinoa salad, and egg/veggie "muffins" with israeli side salad. Savory is good: I am not opposed to eating sauerkraut with breakfast. Difficulty level: microwave/slow cooker available, but no stove or stovetop.
I am having a difficult time deciding which candidate to vote for in the Georgia 6th District Democratic primary (The former Handel/Ossoff district). All of my searches turn up old articles about that high-profile race last year and there's not a lot that I can find comparing the current candidates. There are four candidates and I've been to their websites, but they are all pretty similar as far as policy goes. And, more generally, how do people research local and state elections? What about ballot initiatives, constitutional amendments, etc?
I intend to interview somebody for an article through a cell phone and wonder what are the best tools to record the conversation. I have an iPhone.
Where should I go online to find help finishing my Master's Project? It is an 8.5x5.5 journal for outdoor education students with watercolor illustrations, and it needs to be scanned, touched up, and formatted for printing. [more inside]
If you sold your house to a single, childless person who submitted a personal letter with their offer, what did they write in that letter? Or, on the flip side, if you as single, childless person wrote a letter which helped you get your offer accepted, what did you say? [more inside]
How do I know if, and where, my identity has been appropriated on the internet? [more inside]
I've checked two electric outlets in my new construction (~2000) apartment. An outlet tester shows both as properly wired, grounded, 3 prong outlets. Inside, however, both outlets are only connected to hot and neutral wires. Can someone tell me what is going on? [more inside]
I'm doing an independent study class on Ontology & the Semantic Web in my MSLIS program this semester and I'm kind of drawing a blank on what sorts of things I could do for a class project that aren't either too ambitious or too small potatoes. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I want a hatchback car. However, none of the available pool seems ideal or I have concerns for long-term reliability. Should I lower my standards, accept that a well-rated sedan is my future, or is there another option? [more inside]
To counter some unfortunate local NIMBYism, I need first-hand accounts of what it's like to live next to a solar farm. [more inside]
Looking for music recommendations! But the bands have to be ONLY a bassist and drummer or a keyboard/synth player and drummer. No guitars (or other instruments) in the band, though the occasional appearance of another instrument can be excused. Bands that are a synth player, bassist, and drummer are okay but not ideal. Multiple bassist/synth players okay. [more inside]
A while ago, I ran across an article about a Japanese (I think) man who approached depression from a sort of Stoic angle. The thing I remember was his focus on the outer world rather than the inner: his main question was something like "what has to be done?" or "what needs to happen?, meaning what things need to happen in your day, and focusing on the process of doing rather than on introspection. I know this is pretty vague. Any help is appreciated!
Yesterday's Tripods thread made me think about the sixties and seventies children's science fiction and fantasy that I read as a kid in the eighties/early nineties. I've listed a few things I remember below but I was wondering - what stands out to you among children's and YA books of the sixties and seventies? [more inside]
How do I discuss my end-of-life expectations with my partner when we conceptualise and respond to the topic in different intellectual and emotional ways? [more inside]
I'm looking to find or generate a list of movies whose official title includes at least one symbol replacing a letter or word. For instance, David O. Russell's 2004 film 'I ♥ Huckabee' uses a heart symbol in its official title. Punctuation symbols like dollar signs ($$$) or other non-letter punctuation does not count. 'I ♥ Huckabee' can't possibly the only one, right?
Help me get this car off my hands. Why is it so hard to prove sole ownership of my car so I can simply sell this car with its released, out-of-state title, and plenty of supporting documentation, too? [more inside]
These are both for the return leg of international travel. Flight option A routes from LPA at 6:40am to 10:20am MAD /11:50am MAD to 2:15pm ORD / 5:00pm ORD to 6:30pm MCI. Option B routes frtom LPA at 7:40am to 11:20am MAD / 1:10pm MAD to 3:40pm PHL / 8:25pm PHL to 10:23pm MCI. [more inside]
I can't seem to find this online essay, written by an employee of the Cabbage Patch doll hospital, anywhere. [more inside]
About 10 years ago, I was really into making greeting cards, and I bought oodles (several big boxes full) of stamps, cardstock, ink, and all of the accessories from Stampin' Up. I haven't touched them in years, and I'm feeling like it's time to get this stuff out of my house. The boxes have always been stored inside, so it's all still in great condition. [more inside]
I have recently taken the leap into being a freelance writer and have experienced some success. I am known in my field, have a healthy social media following, have written a book which is out with agents... But in the meantime I need money - not a lot, but something. I'm looking for part-time jobs that are not too demanding - bar work, retail work, part-time admin, etc, but so far am not having much luck. [more inside]
I'm planning on suing my old landlord in small claims costs for my deposit is there anything else I should consider? Is it worth it? [more inside]
I have this clear recollection of reading a story (maybe even on the Blue!) about a man (in the US?) who lobbied to change a law for years, and when the change was passed, he was able to get a decade(s?) old school essay regraded because it was factual under the new law. But where is this story?
Help me flesh out my trip to the Big Island (and any restaurant and shops recommendations)! I arrive in Hilo on Friday (4/27) around 1-2p and currently plan to spend 4 nights there, then drive to Kona for the remaining 4 nights, flying out Saturday around 9a. I want to balance not doing too much with not missing unique opportunities. One thing, I'm not too keen on sunbathing since I burn easily. Details inside: [more inside]
Today I was getting out of the car when I noticed a weird spray of orange dots across the vision in both of my eyes, like a faint tag of spray paint. I've done a quick Pixlr image to try and show what it looked like. The dots moved as I looked around, although they were fixed in a distinct shape. Light affected the color. When my eyes were closed the shape looked green, but when I stood in the kitchen the shape was red. It lasted maybe 5 minutes and then my vision seemed as if it was maybe a little blurry afterwards, although I wasn't sure. There was no pain. What the heck happened? [more inside]
Websites with pictures and the names of the paint colors used in exteriors [more inside]
We use thunderbird for email at work and until now everyone has used POP to download everything to their local PC. Obviously this can be a bit inconvenient when you have multiple devices, but it's difficult to use IMAP-only because our mail server only keeps the last 30 days of email. So I'd like to know what most people do in this situation. [more inside]
This does not appear to be a thing outside my fevered brain and bespoke interiors. Our living room will have one 9m/29ft wall where I want to run a single super long bench about 8m x 45cm high x 70cm deep so I can use it for extra bench seating, as a shelf for some large framed art, bookshelf, lamps etc. I'm wondering if buying 4x2m cabinets and placing them side by side would be enough (cheaper!), or if I need to bite the bullet and commission a proper 8m long bench cabinet to be built. The lack of other people doing this is freaking me out over what is a chunk of my furniture budget. Advice? [more inside]
Just gave my dog a dip of sulfurated lime solution. She's licking it off her fur. Is it harmful to ingest? [more inside]
Who is making great greeting cards, especially for Mother's Day? I'm totally fine with blank cards, but I'm specifically looking for birds, fairies, flowers? Pop up, but classy? Or some sort of papercraft, or on wood, or just something that won't be found in chain stores? [more inside]
My toddler has a distinctive way of folding his fingers while waving goodbye that I have been told my husband's late grandfather, who baby never met, used to do. Can there really be a genetic cause for such an insignificant thing? If not, what can account for this? [more inside]
I have a Large Molle II Rucksack, and I would like to make it look more civilian and less military. What can I do (besides dye it) to mod/customize it? Budget under fifty bucks. [more inside]
I'd like to find a headset (or mic/headphones combo) that I can use for spoken-word recordings and online conversation, so the microphone part of this setup is important to me. I'd also like to be able to hear my voice while I'm recording, so it'll be important to have mic monitoring. Noise reduction on the mic would also be a huge plus. [more inside]
My family's favorite recipe is this salmon en papillote, and I make it as often as salmon's on sale. The problem is, I hate fish. This smells pretty good, but after months and months of trying, I can only manage to eat about four bites. Could I put in a half chicken breast and have it work out about the same? [more inside]
I enjoyed Critical Role, the 5e episodes from How We Roll, and I’m enjoying High Rollers so far, but I’d like to put more in my queue. Unfortunately, I seem to bounce off of a lot of streams because they either have pretty awful sound quality (Dice, Camera, Action), or the people at the table are really unfocused (The Adventure Zone, Force Grey). Any suggestions? Bonus points for having at least one woman at the table.
Does anybody make a spill-resistant masala dabba? [more inside]
My best friend is going through some hardship. I'm trying to help her find relatable, inspirational, spiritual books about dealing with depression. Details inside. [more inside]
I have a day and a half in Seattle (or the surrounding area) to kill during the week. What should I do, where should I stay? [more inside]
There's an after-school arts program that I got invited to teach at, and I'm struggling to put together a curriculum. These kids love slime and other tactile things; however, the boundaries of the program are such that it sometimes feel like cheap after-school day care. [more inside]
What kind of things can leverage one's chances of success when switching career lanes from design to news/media production in their mid 30s? [more inside]
I've have a Yahoo account which I use as a secondary email for online shopping, random news sites like certain politicians or quiz games. It's basically non-personal stuff and no messaging. [more inside]
Last year, I posted this. In the time since, I've been going to a therapist most weeks, and I've benefited from that, especially in the anxiety and depression arenas. However, I am still struggling with my spending habits and associated honesty. I am working on not making impulse purchases (food has been a big trigger for me), and on better planning my expenditures. I still feel like I am scrambling to perform responsible adult thinking and budgeting. Metafilter, how do I get over my little panic attacks and reactive behavior and learn to save and spend like an adult? [more inside]
I was reading one of the excellent Sherlock Holmes short stories, though I don't recall which one, and was struck by the off-hand mention of a telephone. I know that this and many other devices had a presence in the 19th century, but am curious about their depiction in literature. How did "gadgets," enter the popular consciousness? [more inside]
In what is probably the biggest hunk of beach glass ever... I found this on the shore on PEI two Summers ago. Pic 1, Pic 2. [more inside]
I'm going to France for ~10 days and I'm considering my options to stay connected. [more inside]
My wife and I will be spending a week in Rome in early May, and would like to attend a smallish-scale, local spectator sport. We aren’t sports fans, but we do enjoy the experience of being amid a community of enthusiasts, cheering on something we only vaguely understand. Scale-wise, maybe on the order of a single-A baseball game? Examples of previous wins: a high school rodeo on Molokai, course camarguaise bullfighting and joute nautique in France. So. Rome, May 2018… is there a regional tamburello championship? An obscure suburban palio? Intense bocce? [more inside]
My significant other has decided to become a beekeeper. We're both buzzing with excitement--the hive arrives next week. He doesn't think he's ever been stung by a honey bee before, and he can't recall having any adverse reactions, but we've heard that allergies can change/worsen with age. I'd like to avoid discovering that one of us is severely allergic after the fact. What is the easiest/fastest/cheapest way to get tested? Are there direct-to-consumer tests that you'd recommend, or are we stuck making an appointment with an allergist?
I'm looking for memoirs or books about their working lives by contemporary women scientists, specifically ones who work in laboratories. This is for a 13-year-old who is interested in science careers. Looking for stuff published in the last ten years. We have read Hope Jahren's Lab Girl. Articles or online documentary programmes would also work, as would recommendations of women scientists who are on Instagram (not other social media). Thanks.
I'm on a project that has one client, I didn't realize we were using "Service Desk" which explains why the board and settings were foreign to me. The client will e-mail us both random enhancements and faults. What's the best way to use the software project feature of Jira and service desk? [more inside]
A bar/restaurant I pass every day on my way to work has a very prominent racist caricature outside. It's positioned on the sidewalk right by the front door. I want to complain. What's the best way for me to do so? [more inside]
At work we are trying to systematize the way we reach out to our contacts to inform them about what's going on. Services like MailChimp, etc., have been voted down (more on that below) so we need to build our own. [more inside]
2 parents, 3 kids in a 1000 square foot rental apartment for the long haul: how did you make it work? Hacks and advice needed! [more inside]
A friend is having surgery, and I want to get her a "healing crystal" or even a healing crystal kit. Neither of us is all in on believing in healing crystals, but I want to get her something really cool looking that supposedly has whatever powers crystals are supposed to have. What's a good source? [more inside]
I reside in California and am looking for a 529 plan to invest in for my offspring. I found this previously posted Ask, but the question is more than 10 years old now. I would love updated suggestions, and I would also love information and guidance on the specifics of what makes one plan any better than another. This is all new to me. Thanks in advance!
Or, is it even recyclable? [more inside]
I have a lot of trouble meeting people at parties and events because I don't know how to insert myself into group conversations. I'm not shy and I'm good at small talk and one-on-one conversation. I don't have any more social anxiety than the average person and I'm not afraid of public speaking. I have a lot of friends so I'm not a generally awkward person. But I dread parties unless I'm going to know more than 4-5 people because I feel like no one wants to talk to me. [more inside]
Short version: Wife has nervous habits that I think might hurt her job search. Do I tell her? [more inside]
I have recently been trying Hydrogen Peroxide feet soaks to cure a toenail fungal infection. I was trying vinegar soaks without much sucess until I found a blog where a woman was suggesting to use hydrogen peroxide soaks. I decided to give it a try and I was surprised to find out that the infection started to fade after a few soaks. I would like to continue the treatment but I just want to make sure that it is safe. [more inside]
After nearly 3 years away, we’re moving back (from DC) to NYC…but our lives are totally different. Help us decide where to live. [more inside]
I will be going to the Canary Islands this summer and want to take photos of underwater fauna and flora. I will definitely be swimming and snorkeling, there is a slight but not impossible chance of scuba diving but if so very beginner level so presumably not too deep. I have never owned an underwater camera and I have no idea what I need. I am an artist (not a photographer, though) and like good quality images but also I am an artist and therefore money is a factor. [more inside]
Inside: four missed calling opportunities, three French curse words, two nibling birthdays, and a final divorce decree. [more inside]
For a project I'm working on, I'm looking for examples of a very specific type of storytelling in film/tv. A character recounts a stressful/scary event, and the camera work changes/becomes more intense while the story is being told. [more inside]
Our local store had a run on the brand of CBD oil that we use to treat an adolescent's anxiety. [more inside]
I have a printer that has the capability to print on A3/Tabloid sized paper. I am looking for interesting posters/infographics/other things that I could print. The resolution should be high enough to look good on A3 paper. I am interested in math, (global) history, maps, science, but I welcome all suggestions, even for completely unrelated topics.
I enjoy dreaming but I almost always spend a significant portion of my dream-time involved in terribly stressful scenarios involving toilets that have no doors, are disgustingly filthy or overflowing, are lacking toilet paper or non-functional in any number of other horrifying ways. How can I stop this? [more inside]
I am newly single after 15 years with my soon to be ex husband. I don't want to date yet but I'd like to find someone (or ones!) who would like just to text and chat. Where should I look? By where I mean what app or website or something not in-person can I go to 'meet' someone? Is this unrealsitic? [more inside]
I saw a tweet that said "if there's less than 4 months of inventory, it's a seller's [housing] market." I get the idea of inventory being low, but how do months factor in? And how do I get that number for my locality? [more inside]
I need some tops to wear that are comfortably cool in hot weather. I want them to be made of natural fibres (a little elastane would be the exception). (I'd count Tencel as a natural fibre, as it's compostable.) I do have to look reasonably smart, but I'm not going to be ironing my tops. [more inside]
Me: A longtime nerd with some mild D&D experience. Have been through a few campaigns but don't really know the rules by heart. Game designer by trade, however, and like the ins and outs. I own the PHB, but not the DMG or the Monster. Manual. Them: A group of of curious board game enthusiasts and friends who wanna try this D&D thing. And are looking at me to help! [more inside]
Package of Aidell's andouille sausage, not opened, kept refrigerated, use or freeze by date of March 8th. Can I make some jambalaya out of this tomorrow and not worry?
This summer I’m going to an event at a convention center where I’ll be spending three days on a concrete floor. My feet usually kill me. In the past I’ve worn street-style sneakers, like Kangaroos (hence my MetaFilter name, because I kept quarters in the pockets). I’m wondering what’s the best casual shoe on concrete? [more inside]
I'm trying to cover gray roots using brown hair dye, but I end up with orange-ish roots. How do I prevent this from happening again? [more inside]
I accidentally took 2mg instead of .2mg of Xanax 22 hours ago because I mis-read the packet. I've slept for about 19 of them and am still careening off walls and staggering around like a drunk. This is rediculous. How long until this wears off and I can function?
We want to work on puzzles and sometimes "pause" them and put them away for a while. [more inside]
I feel I've really scoured the internet but cannot find a good source for some paintable, hinged ring boxes. The last ones I ordered are a total fail. Hope me?? [more inside]
I'm trying to remember a website, hoping MeFi can help me. Sorry, I know this is vague. It's just a list of documents gathered from different places -- similar concept to The Smoking Gun though I think the subject matter was different. [more inside]
I'm an adult who was diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome as a child. I have virtually no friends. [more inside]
One of the most dramatic and useful features in the garden of my new house is a stand of about 100 stalks of Giant Knotweed. When I Googled for advice about how to prepare the patch for the upcoming season, all of the results pointed to its awfulness, invasiveness, and how I am a terrible person for encouraging its growth. Is there a middle ground with Giant Knotweed? [more inside]
Do you write an article before pitching or you pitch before writing?
We're going to south-east Canada and north-east USA for two weeks, and any suggestions for our brief trip will be helpful. We'll be there soon: the last week of April and first week of May. [more inside]
How can I best go from being a beginner to being more advanced at solving the rubik’s cube? [more inside]
When I visited Tallinn, Estonia, I photographed some of the mosaics on the exterior of the 1901 Alexander Nevsky Orthodox Cathedral. The mosaics depict saints. Next to their images are their names in Cyrillic text that includes letters from the early Cyrillic alphabet. Translating early Cyrillic is beyond my minimal level of expertise in the Russian language. However, I'd like to know who I photographed, so if anyone here is handy with this form of Russian, a translation would be much appreciated. Here is the photo:
One friend holds patriarchal views about women [more inside]
We live on the second floor of a house. We are considering a front-loading washing machine. Are we insane? [more inside]
What are some entertaining books, fiction or nonfiction, that focus attention on people doing things, such as walking, cooking, taking care of a farm or a house, exercising, working at their job or project, etc. on a regular basis? [more inside]
I'm looking for a needle in a haystack - the exact stylist I went to in the early 2000s in Philadelphia (Northern Liberties). If you know of another great hairstylist in Philadelphia, I want to know that too! [more inside]
I've hit an incredibly rough time in my life, and it's came to a point where I really want to go back home and heal, but that'd mean leaving my job and my life in DC. I'm not sure if that's a good idea. [more inside]
I've had lifelong OCD/anxiety/depression. I have been off meds for about 5 years. I tried everything in the interim and had to try meds again. Questions inside [more inside]
I have an interesting idea for a novel but I am not sure if I have the ability to write a novel. [more inside]
Took a bag of spinach out of the freezer to defrost in preparation for using it in quiche. It was left on the counter overnight. When I woke I put it in the fridge. Is it usable? [more inside]
I've been struggling a lot lately trying to find TV shows to watch after work while relaxing and am looking for some advice please. My favourite ever show is Black Mirror but I've seen all the episodes and anyway it's a little too intense for chilling out to. I also love Brooklyn 99 and The Good Place but I'm all caught up on those. [more inside]
I'm currently pregnant with my first child. I suffer from moderate depression. I was prepared for my depression to get worse during pregnancy, but I don't remember ever feeling as happy and stable as during my first trimester. How come? [more inside]
This person is in their early 60s. I suspect they are going through some sort of health crisis. I want to respect their privacy and boundaries, so if they don't bring it up (and they haven't) I won't. I'd like to 1) deal with my own abandonment anxieties and 2) know what to do with caring feelings. [more inside]
I read this between 1980 and 1986, but it may well have been 40 years old. It was a fiction book about a physicist attending a conference; at night he either had dreams or was transported to another world wherein the topic of the day shaped the rules of physics in the world he visited. (So, in one dream/visit, quantum states were bigger, and billiards balls would eventually just appear outside of their rack because, instead of atoms shifting by tiny amounts, entire objects shifted around by a lot.) Short; fewer than 200 pages; possibly fewer than 100 pages. [more inside]
I've gone to restaurants that clearly don't change their menus often and their menus were printed on extremely heavy, supple paper. Not laminated in any way, but so flexible that it resisted creases or even tears. I have no idea what this paper is, but I'd like to print on it. Ideally A4 size but normal 8.5x11 will work in a pinch. Could you suggest a place to find this sort of paper and (better yet) a service online that I can use to print with it?
Today while walking to my volunteer gig, I heard some blood-curdling screams coming out of an alley half a block ahead of me... [more inside]
I’m tight with a couple I’ve known for years. Our families know each other. Lately, I feel she’s been distant, is it post-partum? [more inside]
Vegans, vegetarians, and omnivores! What are your favourite toppings at a nachos buffet? What does a good /great nachos buffet include? [more inside]
Why am I lonely when I have a great life? [more inside]
Lately I've fallen into a series of negative thought spirals due to stress and I'm looking for ideas to prevent myself from it getting worse day by day. [more inside]
Should I introduce my wife to an old crush? [more inside]
My soft(ish) mattress hurts my boyfriend’s back, but is perfect for me alone. When we sleep on it together I do notice that we sink into the middle together with the added weight. Is there something I can do to temporarily make it firmer when he sleeps with me? [more inside]
I’m almost 40, have dealt with lifelong health anxiety, it’s pretty well managed for the most part, but it’s still a “low-hanging fruit” for my anxiety machine. How do you deal, especially as you get older? [more inside]
I would like to sing this song while understanding what it is about, so I'd be grateful for any pointers. The credits show Alph Secakuku as the singer, but I haven't yet found this recording elsewhere. I am also trying to contact him... but I thought I'd try here, too.
I actually do remember life before internet (and then painful, dial-up internet, and chatrooms, and a/s/l...you get the drift). But right now I'm coming up totally blank on how one might simulate the jolt of pleasure/satisfaction that Facebook/Instagram/social media 'likes' provide. More details below, if you like. [more inside]
New apartment, new oven, new oven racks - which noticeably dip when I stick a dutch oven full of soup onto it. Is there a particular make/model of oven rack known for handling heavy loads?
In this modern age and making use of all available resources, what are some strategies for two people who are just not going to cook? I have listed below all the things we aren't going to do, and I'm wondering if there are other strategies or resources that I haven't considered. [more inside]
A friend recently bought this miniature framed picture of St Fabiola, and thinks it must surely be older than the date of 1961 written on the back. We think it's painted in a Victorian style. [more inside]
Should I switch jobs now knowing I've got another job lined up in a month or two? Situational details inside. [more inside]
GamingFilter: Three dear friends from back home and I wanted to try to "hang out" more by playing PC games online. We recently tried a particular 4-person game, but the group wasn't united in liking it. What are your favorite 4-person+ online PC games, MetaFilter? [more inside]
It's from one of the Greek philosophers or historians I seem to recall. Not only can't I recall the author, I can't recall the exact wording. [more inside]
My wife's been craving an extravagant Vegas-style buffet (or really, she's missing the hotel "viking" buffets of her homeland). What's the best way to scratch that itch near the SF Bay Area? Going more for quality/variety than just quantity, and a bit picky about Asian food (so places like Kome and Tomi don't look that appealing). Willing to drive 2-3 hours if necessary. Cliff House and Navio both look interesting but the latter especially is pricey and not sure how they compare. Any meal of the day would be fine, not necessarily brunch.
I accidentally sent a political and somewhat inappropriate personal email intended for a friend to a professional contact at another company from my work email account. I quickly realized my mistake and sent a second message clarifying (and tried to recall the messages), but now I'm extremely anxious about getting in trouble and wondering what to do now. [more inside]
I'm looking for a service, any service, that will for free or a low cost (<$5 a month) allow me to share a folder and password it. [more inside]
One of the few things that makes me feel joy is complimenting people. I don't do it very often because I'm a bit socially anxious and don't want to make anybody feel uncomfortable. How can I pay compliments every now and then without seeming insincere or manipulative or strange? [more inside]
I've been underemployed for close to a year after my newspaper went under due to financial reasons. A position for a press officer is open but I'm not sure exactly how to explain the last few months. More details inside. [more inside]
I'm a talker. I interrupt, and I monopolize. I am generally an asshole in conversation, though I truly just get excited and want to share my thoughts in a helpful/open/fun way. I need some short, pithy things to tell myself in the moment to shut me up. [more inside]
How can I ship twelve bottles of wine from California to Edmonton, Alberta? [more inside]
What are some healthy boundaries that are usually instigated regarding members of the opposite sex? [more inside]
This is almost like a puzzle. A friend has severe food restrictions - they don't fall into any previous diet that I've seen - and I seek help making recipes for her. Like me, she has psoriasis. Some of her restrictions have to do with eating to prevent skin reactions. [more inside]
I need to research the Icelandic language for a writing project. I am not trying to learn how to speak/read it. My focus is on the history, evolution, purity movements, and impact on culture. I'm fine with both scholarly and general sources. Bonus if you have any intel on how the Icelandic language has impacted Icelandic arts/culture or vice versa. [more inside]
My girlfriend has a very significant nest-egg from her wealthy family. I come from poverty but am doing fine financially. So far this hasn't come between us, but now I may need her help and don't know how to approach it. [more inside]
Can a courier *legally* charge for a service you didn't request (or have a choice) after delivery? UK/England law specific. [more inside]
I want to automate my new apartment a bit but the sheer proliferation of choices is bewildering. What I want is to press a button on my phone to turn on one set of lights, then press another to turn off a whole bunch of lights and appliances. I don't need to be able to do this from outside the house or on a schedule, and I'd prefer not to have Alexa-like devices involved because they'd require a VPN. I need guidance through the maze of options!
Asking as a clueless first time mom to a 4 month old baby who is nearly perfect. I didn't know I could feel this way about anyone, but now as I wonder whether to have a second child, I wonder how the heck could I love it as much as baby #1? [more inside]
I know nothing about the Superbowl or how its halftime shows work. But I do know I love this, the 2009 show by Bruce Springsteen. All the versions online I can find are of OK-ish quality. What I’m wondering is if there have been any higher quality versions put out: either audio or video would be great. Do Superbowl performances ever get released as DVDs or something? Has this particular show got a high quality version out there somewhere? Thanks!
I'd like to upgrade my digital house guidebook (12 pages, color, descriptions) to a physical guidebook. Our airbnb listing is super modern, every guidebook I see is laminated 3 ring binders and sheet protectors. Is there a better way?
I have to buy a car and need to borrow money to do so. My credit score, according to 2 of the 3 main US reporting agencies, is excellent. The two scores are within 5 points of each other. The third one, Experian, the one my bank used when I applied for a car loan, is 90, yes ninety, points lower. What is going on?
My old computer died. It had a partitioned HD and \users folders in both drives C and D. I got a new computer which has a 512GB SSD + 2TB HDD. So my questions are 1. Am I correct that i install all software on the SSD and put documents in the HDD? 2. Where do I put the two users folders. Should I put the old C:\users on SSD and d:\users on the HDD? Should I put them both on the HDD and let them merge? If I do that will windows find my appdata? [more inside]
I would like to buy a stuffed and mounted European Starling as a gift for someone. Where can I get one? [more inside]
I've been on a bit of a kick on watching/listening to shows/podcasts about cults. I finished Charles Manson's Hollywood on the You Must Remember This podcast (SO GOOD) and Wild Wild Country on Netflix (and the OPB documentary too!). What else should I watch? [more inside]
I’m more or less an 80s kid. We always had about 20 of these flat plastic tiles in the toy box. See my amazing rendition here. They snapped together along the flat edge and you could flex the stack so they hit each other. Multiple colors and the holes varied. Does anyone know what they were?
I had a very unpleasant bout of what I assume was food poisoning last night. It seems to be over but I feel really crappy still - I suspect I’m quite dehydrated. Is there anything I can do on top of drinking water and oral rehydration solution to feel better? [more inside]
I'm in the market for a field quiver. Everything I see is either the usual Easton ones with the huge logos or, on Etsy, leather ones for LARPers. What's out there for archers who are more into Marimekko? Or dorky pop culture? Or... anything else, really. What else is out there? [more inside]
It's possible I'll get a job offer in the next few weeks for a company in SF's SoMa neighborhood. I'm in Chicago now, and I'm trying to understand a neighborhood that would be a good fit. [more inside]
Please tell me what, if anything, I can find at a Trader Joe's that's standardized vegan that I can just buy and reheat or whatever without having to cook it myself and/or nitpick the crap out of the ingredients to make sure they're absolutely 100% animal free. [more inside]
I'm actually not looking for a way to have "the talk" and confront him about the problem--we've crossed that bridge--but rather how to handle ongoing conversations with him about the issue without alienating him. Details and other sad questions within... [more inside]
I need serious professional assistance in determining what my real monetary value is objectively in my field as a copywriter in the beauty industry. [more inside]
I'm interested in using HomeExchange.com for an upcoming trip, and I don't see any recent mentions of the site (or home exchange sites in general) on MetaFilter. Has anyone had personal experience with HomeExchange.com? It seems like it's one of those "everything's great unless something bad happens, in which case you're screwed" type of sites, and I'm trying to figure out if it's worth the risk.
Some time ago, I asked the Green for Bluetooth ear bud recommendations. I'm quite happy with my choice of Plantronics Fits, except for one thing: I keep losing them around the house. Is there a tracker thingy I can attach that isn't, like, bigger than the headphones themselves? [more inside]
In a story I’m writing, two of the characters are a gay couple in the early stages of opening up their relationship. I want for them to have come up with a sort of short code phrase they can use in mixed company at parties to say “I’ve met a really cute guy and things are looking promising and I don’t wanna miss my chance, so if you need to leave or whatever that’s fine I’ll catch up with you later and report back on how things went.” [more inside]
I would like to set up an automatic out of office reply in Gmail. Is it made obvious to the recipient that the reply is automatic? I know in Outlook it is because you get an immediate reply saying something like 'automatic out of office reply'. Just wondering so I can tweak the content of the message accordingly so that people don't get confused and think it is me replying manually.
Someone I'm supervising has trouble with deadlines (as in a lot of trouble with deadlines). I've been tasked with "helping her out" with them. I could use some help myself. [more inside]
My friend in Virginia is moving to Vermont and her company wants to keep her on as an employee and allow her to telecommute. Someone has told her that in order to do that she is going to have to work through a temporary agency in Vermont in order to do this because her company doesn't have a license to do business in Vermont. ??? [more inside]
I spent a week with an Apple Watch and returned it. I'm looking for a similar device with different specs. Can you help? [more inside]
I went on a great date, but now there may be someone else is in the picture. Do I back away? [more inside]
I need to fix or resod a piece of lawn in the next six weeks and don't know which way to go. [more inside]
Advice for first time* D&D player? [more inside]
Our marriage is coming to an end after 20 years and I need help finding stories, (fiction, essays, whatever) that I can relate to, to help me cope. [more inside]
I will be visiting Columbus, and probably Springfield, Ohio for family stuff. What should I do, visit, see, that I missed when I grew up in that area? Not a huge amount of free time, but I take for granted that I know the place when I don't anymore. [more inside]
If you work for a company with locations in multiple timezones and you have regular whole-company/all-hands meetings, how do you make them work logistically? [more inside]
If you were starting out in a PHD program, and wanted to start creating an online CV, that will hopefully follow you through your academic career, what sort of domain would you choose? [more inside]
I overshare information, and tell people things that would be better kept to myself. In the moment, I almost always think it's information that they should have or deserve to know, but in retrospect I end up wishing I had kept silent. [more inside]
For a labor organizer friend: A manager has signed their union's CBA contract but is now worried that they will be personally sued by the company for the generous contract provisions. Has this/does this happened/happen often? How severe was/is it? [more inside]
I love eating mango and kind of fear and loathe prepping it. I know two methods, and neither are as safe and fast as I would like. Surely there must be a better way. How would I be doing this if I were back-of-house in a restaurant that served a lot of mango? [more inside]
One buyer's agent lost me my dream home. After some uneasy conversations, I'm not sure I can trust another buyer's agent on my 2nd home purchase. Should I go dual agency (which I've done before) or keep trying to find someone? [more inside]
The IOC apparently publishes official reports after each Olympics. They're available digitally online, but I want hard copies, which go for hundreds of dollars on Amazon/eBay. Is there an official source for these? How do the copies that they print get distributed? (Could I get on a list somewhere for the upcoming Pyeongchang 2018 report?)
I feel like I should apply for this job, but I don't really want to. I'm a grad student in an MLIS program and there were a bunch of student jobs posted at the institution I'm studying at. I think it's probably better for me to stay at my current job, but I'm worried that if I don't apply for this job (and get it), I'll wreck any chance of having a career in this field. Details inside, of course. [more inside]
If you were starting tomorrow to create content (videos, images, articles) on the web, but did not want to create your own website, what platform(s) would you use?
I asked for and received accommodations -- with a string attached. [more inside]
I am soon to become the director of an elementary (preK-5) STEM lab. Teach me what I need to know! Specifically, book recommendations and curriculum ideas. [more inside]
I anticipate relocating from GA to VA in late May or early June for a job. I have an offer letter in hand with salary that is a hair under my current salary (changing fields/roles). Spouse works in a field where he is confident he can get a job fairly easily and would almost certainly have a higher salary than now due to the location, but has not started looking for work in earnest yet. We are looking to buy a house in the new location though prefer not to sell our current place if we can help it. [more inside]
Am I overreacting? [more inside]
I liked Fan.tv's web interface and iOS app, but the home page now says, Farewell & Thank You. Fan TV will be shut down on April 15. Before Fan.TV, I tracked my to-watch lists in a textfile. While that won't go out of business, it can't alert me to when shows become available on the streams of my choice. Is there a similar service that is more likely to not shut down without warning? [more inside]
My GF and I were hoping to fly from the Bay Area to NY in June/July to catch the David Bowie Is... exhibit at the Brooklyn Museum before it's put into mothballs (and maybe check out a few other museums as well while we're there). Might anyone know of any decent B2Bs/hotels/motels/whatever that are relatively close to the BM? (I'm guessing that Lyft is probably the best transportation option).
Obviously, you can pay YouTube for the feature of playing YouTube music in the background on an iPhone (as in Youtube is not the app currently shown on the screen or while the screen is off). But I'll watch/listen to ads instead of paying $10/month just to get YouTube Red to play in the background.... [more inside]
Do you love your local NPR station's app? I need to find a better one for my Android phone for streaming All Things Considered when it broadcasts. [more inside]
For a piece of fiction, and I'm stumped! My characters are having an illicit sexual liaison that began when they ran into each other out of town. The era is Victorian. The woman is a gentlewoman of modest but independent means, and has no living family. The man is wealthy, and extremely well-known in the city where they live. They are both unmarried. They can't go to his house (lots of servants, gossip-mongers) or her house (super-strict landlady for unmarried women). They know each other socially and attend some of the same parties, but they are not (as far as anyone knows) close. Where might they sneak off to while they're in their home city? [more inside]
I downloaded my facebook files today and among the apps listed is an app called "brazen authorization". Even it's name sounds scary let alone what it might do. Google has been unable to provide any information about this. There is a company call brazen.com but they appear to only make recruiting apps. Does anyone know what Brazen Authorization is?
My parents are travelling to New Orleans next week, and asked what they could get me. I'm looking for suggestions for things that I can't get in the Pacific Northwest and that can travel back in a suitcase. Details beyond the jump: [more inside]
My wife is watching Twin Peaks for the first time and we'd like to play Thimbleweed Park, which I hear has a TP influence. My question is...(spoilers inside)... [more inside]
I was given this vintage diamond cocktail ring that would like to sell, and no idea how to go about it. If it matters, I these seem to be mine cut diamonds and the dark bits are blue enamel. I doubt it will bring much but I don't wear it and don't care to keep it so I'm just looking to get a reasonable price.
A historical fiction scenario: The year is circa 1895. A man is in Edinburgh when his mother and sister die, suddenly, in London. I assume he could be notified within a day by telegraph, but could he travel by train in time to attend the funeral? [more inside]
I'm planning on leaving my job within a month or so. I have a small "education" fund that I can use for personal development, but I'll lose access to that once I leave. I'm leaning towards online courses/resources. I've got $400. What's the most awesome impactful thing I could spend it to learn? [more inside]
We are thinking of moving back to LA after five years in the East coast and would love to know what the opinions are from folks. We know the real estate is crazy but what else do people want to say about it?
What roof racks would one need to carry a kayak on a 2003 BMW X3? [more inside]
It was recently brought to my attention that my Mom has been giving me passive aggressive gifts. I didn’t notice. Should I do anything? [more inside]
I moved out of an apartment and into a new one a couple months ago. I was sent a move-out statement from my previous landlord company saying that not only are they keeping my $500 deposit, but I owe them more money. I responded explaining that I think they owe me money, and I have not heard back after many weeks. Not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
We're going to be in Rome and Naples and I would like to buy some garum and Lachryma Christi but have no idea what too look for to not buy overpriced tourist garbage. Help? [more inside]
I am looking for great books (or other resources) about making books and other paper art. [more inside]
My new therapist has been encouraging me to try EMDR for my depressive symptoms. I’m hella skeptical, so I’d like to gain some perspective from the hive mind. [more inside]
If I write on IG "I'm having lunch at @restaurant", does that look wrong to you? Or should I use "I'm having lunch @restaurant"?
if you have been trying to improve your emotional labour / mental load skill set (or have already succeeded in doing so!!), i would love to hear some stories of what tangible tools worked for people. [more inside]
My daughter spends much of her free time in school and in her after school program reading books, but the school itself doesn't really have a library. We need chapter book suggestions that will get her through the rest of the year and into the summer. [more inside]
Please recommend a minimal bag to wear while I ride my bike that looks super cool and gives me access to my stuff. I have a few criteria inside. [more inside]
I would like to construct a collapsible, durable, see-thru outdoor cat tunnel. I’m not handy at all. I’m wondering if there are materials out there that would enable me to do so, and any other advice on making this work. [more inside]
I’m looking for a way to gather all the content I’ve put onto the internet over the years — my posts on social media sites like Twitter and FB, but also website comments and forums like MeFi. My goal is to have this content in one place, so I can sift through it, organise it, and decide what’s worth publishing in an online space I control. Any ideas on tools or best practices for this? [more inside]
Help me find a webcomic series I once read. In it, a super hero goes on a rampage in which he tries to kill all other heroes. He just mindlessly repeats that he cannot be defeated. As soon as anyone kills him, that person immediately loses their mind and starts to do the same thing. The heroes must figure out how to defend their lives without perpetuating the endless cycle.
I have managed our research group's Twitter account for a few years. I have used it to follow around 400 people. Now someone else will be managing it and I will go back to using my old personal Twitter account. I would like to continue to follow those 400 people. Can I somehow export/import them? [more inside]
I have had many sessions with good therapists over decades and am fluent in CBT and ACT. I dislike the impact drugs have on me. Recently I have experienced an increase in anxiety that is impacting significantly on my life (without an external triggering event). I have flexible, rewarding work, sufficient income, loving partner, great friends, reasonable health, but my anxiety has increased to the point it is interfering with my daily life (daily panic attacks, chest pain, speech impediment, avoidance of necessary tasks). I still apply the tools of cognitive behaviour therapy and acceptance committment therapy. After years of experience, I dislike using SSRIs to manage my moods because they flatline me, and reduce the level of happiness I can experience. Is there anything else I can do? (Cis-F, 50, Australia, autistic, post-hysterectomy, still have ovaries, social anxiety rules out social support options).
Can you recommend a psychiatrist for MDD in Atlanta who'll help me assess antidepressant meds? [more inside]
E.U. citizens can immigrate to Switzerland, provided they have an employment contract from a Swiss company. We want to hire an E.U. resident Alice without E.U. citizenship but married to an E.U. citizen Bob who does not work. Can we use the E.U. residency of or the spouse Bob's E.U. citizenship to help hire the E.U. resident Alice? [more inside]
I'd like a bench to put a few small herb plants on. The goal is to have somewhere to put them that's not the floor, but I also want something unobtrusive-I'm not looking to make this part of the decor. I'm having trouble finding something online and am hoping the hive can help. [more inside]
Hi Boston, what should I do with you? My family is a teen and two middle aged queer women. Some or all of us like nerdy stuff, art museums, live music, science, nature, weird underground art, bookstores, history, activism, and eating really tasty food. We'll be in Boston (and Western Mass - mostly around Amherst/North Hampton) in mid-May. We don't have a big agenda, just want to relax and explore. I'm mostly looking for Boston suggestions but feel free to chime in with your favorite Western Mass suggestions too. Thank you!
Do I really need to run McAfee on my Windows 10 machine? After a decade long break from Windows, I built myself a new computer. Do I really need Antivirus software? [more inside]
Help me make my iPhone randomly surprise me with an alarm 8 to 16 times a day for the purpose of keeping a personal time diary, improving mindfulness, and hopefully changing habits? [more inside]
I'd like a nice serif font that I can embroider using a single line of stitching. By single line of stitching I mean something like this (probably the split stitch which is the yellow) not like this. Letters will be maybe 1 inch high, so pretty small. Also welcome your tips for embroidering letters. [more inside]
I use TextEdit a ridiculous amount because it feels "built in" and I'm superstitious. I regularly have like 60 windows open. But, eventually it crashes. [more inside]
I know a soon-to-be ten-year-old who loves to draw. She gets frustrated when lighter colored markers don't blend well--you can see where the distinct strokes overlap. Are there markers you recommend for a kid that are more blendable? [more inside]
I would like to buy a boy's suit for my adult woman self. I'd like to try things on in the store before buying. Help me not feel super weird about it. [more inside]
Looking for one pot/crockpot meals with crazy dietary requirements [more inside]
We're moving from the East coast US to the West coast US. From previous cross country moving questions I gathered that ABF is the most cost effective way to move our stuff. So that's what we'll do. However, we would like to find out how we can get 2 cars moved & what that might cost. We have 4 animals + 2 humans to get across also, but we'd like all living creatures to move in one vehicle, like a mini van or RV. Any suggestions/recommendations on having vehicles transported?
I was in my backyard in Northwest PA and I saw this mammal waddling away with dark black wiry hair. I couldn't get a picture. [more inside]
I've got a second story with ducts running to it from the basement, through the main level. Supply and return. The ducts are in a central spot and if we could remove them to re-work the floorplan, we'd get much better use from the space, adding a new bedroom. I was thinking about cutting off the ducts and going with mini-splits. Anyone with experience living with mini-splits or who went from ducted to mini-split? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I have tickets for Hello Dolly tonight at the Shubert (44th between 7th and 8th). We were just going to get fast food for dinner but I thought it might be nice to get a sit-down meal one step up from fast food. Fast casual would be fine (especially the price range), but I'd like to go somewhere where we can get an actual seat - and a comfortable enough seat, not terrible bar stools or rickety chairs. I can find lists of fast casual in the area but it's hard to tell what the seating is like. Any recommendations that might fit the bill? Any cuisine is fine.
I want to create lots more play and activity for my blind cat, has anyone any suggestions of cat toys and adventures that work well for an adult cat with nearly zero sight? [more inside]
We recently relocated to the DC area and my partner unfortunately needs a dentist! [more inside]
So, husband has a work conference in Harrisburg, PA over July18-20. The thing is, July 19 is our anniversary so I wanna go too! Looking for some fun ways to spend the afternoons/evenings from about 5:00 on, from locals or anyone familiar with the area! [more inside]
What were feminists called before the term feminism was coined? And what did they call themselves? In particular, what about Olympe de Gouges who was active around the French Revolution? Most sources (that I can find quickly) call them feminists or proto-feminists, but the term was apparently not invented until 1837.
I'm about to begin IVF and I'm looking for music to help me power through! [more inside]
I'm getting cold feet prior to an international move as a trailing spouse. I initially agreed to the plan because I was bored and exhausted with where my life was going so i thought trying something new would be exciting. [more inside]
Can I microwave this fabric? it's a mix of viscose/rayon/nylon/spandex. [more inside]
I just got an Apple TV 4K and I notice that when ever I use it, the first sound it makes is a loud hiss/crackle. It goes like this: I wake the Apple TV, go to something like Netflix or DirecTV, select a video, and when I press play, the very first sound I hear is a crackle. Does anyone know a solution for this? [more inside]
I have a consult tonight! What are some tips, words of wisdom, questions to ask, strategies to ponder, things to watch out for? [more inside]
The yarn I got to redo a sweater that fell apart (originally Eco Cloud, now Plymouth Merino Worsted) knits up at the wrong gauge and I'm wondering if I have to find a new pattern or if I can adjust. [more inside]
How do you find a tabletop gaming group in a new (small) city? Specifically one that is inclusive and includes queer women and nonbinary folks? [more inside]
My 80 year old brother says he has been told by physical therapists that he has dyssynergia of the pelvic floor. This condition causes him to constantly feel he is wearing a 26" belt on a 30" waist - as he describes it. He says its very painful. [more inside]
So a few years ago I bought the Sony NEX-6. I liked it. A lot. And it was my default even though it had a dust mote I could never get out of the sensor. Then someone stole it in the Johannesburg airport. So it's time for a new one. But WHICH one? I'm looking for small, for less than 600 bucks and ideally with GPS built in so that it tags WHERE the pictures have been taken. Is that possible?
My ex is asking me to consider dropping a 2 year domestic violence protective order I have against him because he has been denied several jobs due to it, and is currently in the que for another one in which they need to see court documents of it being dropped- is this a reasonable request? [more inside]
I want to do a 1 second every day style video for soon-to-be Child Rattery's first year of life but I only want to record 1 second at a time, instead of paring down a longer video into a shorter clip. Am I over- or under-thinking my available options? [more inside]
I have a 2001 Audi A6 with a Bose Symphony stereo. It has a cassette player and a cd player. Currently I have a cassette tape adapter that I plug my phone into play mp3 files. I was wondering if it would be possible to set it up to play music from my phone via bluetooth or by USB stick. [more inside]
I've never played or GMed in an Indiana Jones-style tabletop RPG campaign, in any system. But it has always seemed like excellent fun to me, and right now I'm preparing to run a banditry-themed D&D campaign which I'm beginning to suspect I could adapt to that style/feel. Those of you who HAVE participated in such a game: what worked? What didn't? Was it as rollicking as it seemed like it would be? Tell me your stories: the highlights AND the lowlights. And feel free to suggest other resources for my research. [more inside]
I've been trying to find a Daffy Duck cartoon, as this scene seems to have stuck in my head for years. A pile of cats are fighting on Daffy's head, so he picks up the feline brawl en masse and throws it into a lake. Within seconds, they jump out back onto his head, hiss at the water, and then resume fighting. Daffy looks at the camera, defeated. Does this ring a bell to anyone?
I'm traveling to CA, but reside in another state. I'm having trouble understanding the current laws and would like some suggestions if you have personal experience. [more inside]
I like listening to science-based books about parenting and diet/health. What are the latest books on these topics? [more inside]
Trying to remember the name of what I believe was the first original sitcom on PBS. It would have been mid-90s in the post Seinfeld boom. It is not the anthology Trying Times. I remember very little about this short lived show, just that it was a big deal PBS was doing an original (not British) sitcom. Does anyone remember??
I'm looking for an episode of Futurama where Hermes is dressed up in a purple jacket and white shirt (and maybe a hat or tam) and the outfit looks very much like something that Prince would have worn. (but he's just dressed to go out, I think. He's not in costume.) If you know the episode this is from, do share. Thank you!
Basically what the title says. What's the best place to make out in Los Angeles? Where can two gay women make out in a car, not be disturbed, and have the best views? Criteria are inside. [more inside]
For a gift, I'm looking for a large "coffee table" size book of animal photos. This is for an adult, so not the youth oriented animal encyclopedias I'm finding. [more inside]
How do you manage the worst government bureaucracy? [more inside]
What’s a good SMART exercise goal? More requirements below the fold. [more inside]
I understand the difference between traditional and Roth IRAs... and not much else. Where should I put my money and what the heck am I supposed to do with it once it's in there? [more inside]
I want to buy a macbook. It should be light. I'm mainly using it for reading, writing and watching movies on. What should I get? [more inside]
Asking for my daughter. She's hoping to find an apartment to share with 2 or 3 others, women or men, hopefully in their early or mid-20s like her. Best city location for her work in northern mid-Connecticut would be Springfield, MA but she's afraid there are no appealing neighborhoods there. I'm encouraging her to look in the city rather in more suburban towns around there like Agawam or Chicopee where she might be more isolated. [more inside]
Audio clip of birdsong (and traffic) here. North Texas, recorded in our backyard about twenty minutes ago. [more inside]
Back in the early 80s, I played "Dec Wars" on a Dec 10 computer, making best possible use of my university's multimillion dollar investment. It was a multiplayer Star Trek game via command line. I was curious to get some background on it, but it doesn't Google. Did I dream it?
A friend found these two fake $100 bills with overlaid Chinese characters tucked into a stop sign in his Long Island neighborhood. What are they for? What do they say?
My life's a downward spiral. It's important to me that I be sensual and attractive but I am not. What's worse is how I'm so ugly that I attract attention--others remind me that it's a horrible thing and it compounds upon my social awkwardness. People, usually only girls, bully me over my looks. I panic. Fetal positioning instead of attending to my obligations. Yearning for love because that's the certainty that'll save me, I feel, even though it's wrong. How do I climb out of this hell? [more inside]
For the past 2+ months I've been periodically getting calls to my cell phone from unknown phone numbers with the same area code and the same first three digits of my own cell number (the final four digits are usually different, but there have been a couple of repeats). What could this be all about? Are other people experiencing this kind of thing? More details below. [more inside]
I've spent several hours today working on a "freebie" for my business-to-be. One thing I haven't been able to find is any kind of research on the impact of productivity on mood. Everybody and their brother seems to have studied how mood impacts productivity. That's not what I'm looking for. [more inside]
I am moving to Columbus, Ohio and I will be working at 1111 East Broad Street. Do you recommend a neighborhood I should consider? And, an apartment complex? How do people in Columbus look for apartments? In Chicago I always used Craigslist, but I have had no luck finding places on CL in Columbus. Bonus points are being near whole foods. I would like to keep my commute under 30 minutes. thank you
I use Wikispaces for a team of about 30 employees to share their work. I've spent many days looking for an alternative. Help me to expand my thinking. [more inside]
Title says it all, is this 1. possible and 2. allowed by Apple 3. possible and not have the screenshots show up in the users Photo App/directory? [more inside]
We're visiting London, Paris, and Belgium this June. I'd really like to catch a show (probably something in the East End) and see some sort of classical music during our trip. I don't really know where to look to figure out what is going on. [more inside]
I ate some vacuum packed defrosted salmon, not realizing that my roommate took it out a week ago. How screwed am I and what do I do? [more inside]
I am setting up a small jewelry site, but am having trouble figuring out how to set up the item pages for one-of-a-kind items specifically. [more inside]
Hello friends, I'm finally getting out of the private education sector. Seems like a lot of my illness was stress related to this field. I'd love to become a field researcher (biology) or something biophysics related but I have a BFA, attained almost a decade ago. What can I do to accomplish my goal? Do I have to get a second bachelors/ MS? late 20's, midwest female, more than willing to relocate. [more inside]
I'm learning Spanish and want to listen to podcasts but I'm not having much luck finding ones which interest me. [more inside]
My daughter and I want to make and sell candles. I think doing this correctly involves using a LLC and some form of insurance. I am not a lawyer, insurance agent, or accountant and want to do this the right way. How do I ensure I don't put consumers or myself at risk in this modest endeavor? [more inside]
My company has been using Webex for webinars and online meetings and my whole office hates it. We've been trying out GoToWebinar and Zoom and I'd love to hear feedback from folks who've used either or both. Is Zoom too good to be true? [more inside]
Are there any venues for publicly talking about ideas, projects, discoveries along the lines of TEDx but organized locally? Speaking forums for Meetups seem to be like Toastmasters, for improving speaking abilities, but not discussion. Or what about national forums that schedule local events? What is a list of those?
Is there ever a situation where it is productive to kindly let an ex know you will no longer be engaging, or is silence always the most graceful route? If you want details, feel free to ask. We've been apart 6 months, and after 3 months of little contact save a cordial text she has lately started sending hostile notes. We'd agreed to keep communication open—there was talk of reconciliation—but suffice to say that what I've gotten from her no longer inspires that as a possibility. I'm just trying to do the most compassionate thing under hard circumstances.
Are there legal consequences for her if she doesn't? [more inside]
How do I code an override on a Squarespace slideshow to create a caption below the art? [more inside]
I'd love a good hefty Kitchenaid stand mixer but sadly my bank account would not (apparently, cakes are not legal tender down my way - WHO KNEW?). There are a range of cheaper stand mixers available that may look the part but don't necessarily bake the part. I wonder if I could satisfy more than one-fifth of my baking urges spending one-fifth of the money that I might splurge on the main event. [more inside]
My mother closed several accounts with her old bank in 2017. One of those was (she thought) a CD that had come to term. Tax forms from the bank now indicate that it was not a CD but she actually cashed out an IRA - much to her surprise. At this point, is there any way for her to avoid the tax penalty for not rolling this over? [more inside]
I am currently 8 weeks pregnant and have a three day retreat for work next week with our executive team. I am violently ill about 60% of the day, but fine the rest of it. I can't not go on this trip, but I'm not ready to reveal the pregnancy yet. Do you have any tips and tricks for hiding morning sickness? [more inside]
I use Keeper password manager. (MAC) Is there a better, or easier password protection? My browser, Safari, has a built-in password manager that can autofill. Is this any good? Do other browsers have a better system? While I'm at it, is Safari the best browser?
I recently found this guy on the street, and I have no idea who he is. He has grey hair, a brown shirt, tan pants and tall (rubber?) boots, made with swiveling arms and legs, and a ball socket neck for more head mobility. He stands about 3.75 inches (9.5 cm) tall, and he's marked as (C) 1975 Fischer-Price Toys, Made in Hong Kong.
I have 2lbs of already prepped mango flesh; what things can I do with it that aren't smoothies, or liquids drinkables? [more inside]
I am on the board of a local farmers market. We need to raise funds for our SNAP matching program which was being sourced, in part, through a grant which has not been renewed. Do you have experience with raising funds online? Any recommendations or anti-recommendations? [more inside]
I've been trying for a while now to come up with a name for my freelance VA service and not getting anywhere. Halp! Snowflakes (of course) inside. [more inside]
Yep, I'm looking for unitasker recommendations. What is the latest and greatest in:
- Citrus peelers
- Hand powered mincers/dicers
I would like to know how you felt if someone RSVP'd yes to your wedding (or theoretically any large expensive reception with $ connected to a specific headcount) and then, close to the event, changed their RSVP to no. [more inside]
I recently interviewed for a position that seems like it would be a perfect fit for me. It's a small new (2 years old) company that has just started getting some really interesting projects. However, during the interview, I was explicitly told that they are not looking for someone that will be there for a year and then jump ship (to another company). Unfortunately, this is the kind of commitment I can't make, since my fiancé's job is a year to year contract that is somewhat reliant on the current government administration. [more inside]
Help me talk to my partner about their foot odor. [more inside]
Last year I received a modest inheritance and the money has been sitting in a savings account for the last year. I'd like to invest a portion of it somehow, somewhere, but I have no idea where to start, how to do it, where to go to invest, etc. I'm looking to get some advice on where to go for more information/ideas on where/how to invest. I'm located in Canada. [more inside]
It feels like the convention in English, when stating pronouns, is to give nominative and accusative cases (eg writing she/her or they/them) Why only those two? [more inside]
Someone posted a probability question on Mastodon: "A, B and C toot the truth with a probability of 1/3 and lie with a probability of 2/3. A makes a toot and B toots an observation on whether or not A was tooting the truth or not. C toots that B confirmed A was truthful. What is the actual probability that A's toot was truthful?" Either I made it more complicated than it needs to be, or a lot of other people are wrong, and I suspect the former. Help me get to the bottom of this! [more inside]
The quote in question was similar to Mike Pollan's "Eat food. Not too much. Mostly plants." Except it was about the internet. Anyone?
Are there any healthy fats for weight gain without nuts or dairy? I am big on nuts, but I do like sunflower seeds and sesame seeds every now and then. I am also lactose intolerant unfortunatley. What are some good fats for proper weight gain?
A friend's elderly mother who is very ill wants to end her life using CA's end-of-life options act. Her primary physician agrees she is terminal and supports her intention but a consulting 2nd physician would not assent. Is there any possibility of appealing this determination? [more inside]
I just got back from my first Florida vacation, and I'd like to prolong the magic with some reading material. [more inside]
Why does the color saturation change when playing certain videos using VLC? [more inside]
Hello! I've used MetaFilter before in regards to immigration help and everyone here has always been so helpful! I am currently in Canada under a visitor status that runs out on May 24th, however, I'd like to extend my stay until September 30th so I can experience the Summer. I have enough money in my bank account to support myself or transportation back home if I need to go ASAP. For the most part of my stay, my boyfriend had been supporting me anyways.< [more inside]
I’ve been asked, “Where do you want to go in this organization?” Being in management is my personal (and lived) vision of hell. How do I spin my idea of going deeper rather than up? [more inside]
My mother is visiting the Virginia/Washington D.C. area the last week of July and would like some suggestions of interesting/beautiful things to do. [more inside]
I'm looking for an accountant in the Boston MA area who works with adults with learning challenges on such things as budget creation and financial decision-making.
I'm looking for YouTube links to gutbuster moments of comedy (television or movie clips, bits of comedians' routines) ... comedy centering around someone(s) whose self-centeredness and selfishness has grown so outlandish that you cannot help but laugh at them. It can be over-the-top or surreal ("meeee! meeee! meeeeeeeeeeee!"). Or, to put it another way, I'm looking for video clips to use as a tool towards shrugging off stress caused by dealing with self-centered people.
I'm wanting to market sustainable approaches into a Conservative business sector (Capital and lowercase c). [more inside]
What would a decent low-mid range home theatre setup be in 2017? 7.2 surround sound, a sound bar and wireless speakers, something else? [more inside]
I'm a cisdude and I'm losing hair at the temples, have been for years. It's getting to the point where it's time to get my (short) hair cut even shorter. I kind of want a high and tight, except I don't want to look like I'm in the marines, also I'd like to continue to read as queer, so I don't want a high and tight. Websites are no help, and I am terrible at explaining what I want done to my hair. Help?
I'll be doing RAGBRAI this year; what is your gear-specific, clothing-specific, and miscellaneous advice for how to have the best time? [more inside]
What town is like Cambridge, MA, but cheaper and with better weather? [more inside]
My husband has mentioned several times over the past year that he would love to learn how to start a fire from scratch. Is there a way to make a birthday gift out of this ? [more inside]
I am an adult but can't seem to learn my lesson and keep bumping my head on the bathroom vanity after using the sink. How can I train myself to avoid this? Or can somebody recommend a product to "child-proof" the hardware so at least I won't keep scraping my noggin into a bloody mess? [more inside]
I am helping an older relative here and hoping for some advice. He used to have a portable speaker he loved to use with his prior iPhone (which had 1/8" audio headphones jack, not lightning cable). Is there such a thing as a portable, wired speaker with a lightning connection? Bluetooth would theoretically work, but it always requires some fiddling, and this is for an older person with very little tolerance for troubleshooting. Bonus if this speaker can draw power from the iPhone and doesn't require a separate charger. Thanks!
Trying to get a date range for an old women's/girl's jacket. Provenance probably New England, could go way back (undated/labeled family item). [more inside]
Looking for suggestions on where to travel with American tweens/young teens that is culturally very different from the U.S. east coast and also safe enough that all travelers will feel at ease exploring. Kids are well traveled in the U.S. and Europe, adults well traveled in same plus SE Asia. Our typical travel pattern is a whole or half-day doing something culturally or geographically significant, then a whole or half-day hanging out in ways and places locals would choose, so someplace with an active local scene is ideal. [more inside]
What is the oldest iteration of Android phone OS on which most apps will work? Both big (facebook, google earth) and small (tourist apps like 'a guide to town X' and 'Natural Park X: the walking trails'). [more inside]
Am I right to resist using a work-connected/sponsored fitness tracker? [more inside]
A recruiter with an agency contacted me about a position with Local Company. I sent my resume to the recruiter, now they'd like me to call. This will be my first time returning a recruiter call, so I just wanted to ask what I might expect at this stage. Question: I guess this is an initial screen and if all is satisfactory for both of us, the recruiter will contact Local Company, who will take it from there? Thank you! [more inside]
What is the best garage shelving for my situation? I feel like the utility shelving I’ve looked at is overkill—I certainly don’t need it to hold 800 lbs per shelf. Mostly I need to store canning jars, Christmas ornaments, ordinary household items like that. I would prefer solid shelves, not wire racks. Right now it’s warped particle board on triangular brackets and the brackets get in the way of everything so I’m hoping for a span of like 4 feet between uprights. Trying to stay as cheap as possible. Links to specific products would be great.
Did you install - or consider installing - hardwood in your kitchen? What is your experience? [more inside]
I love the Belleville top from The Fold, but am a plus sized lady. Where could I find something similar in an XL or 16/18? [more inside]
Which transit option between DC and NYC has the most reliable wifi? Amtrak, Bolt Bus, Megabus, another bus service I am not listing? If Amtrak, is there a difference in wifi quality between Acela and the regular slower trains? [more inside]
I'm helping stock a house for 16 women on a bachelorette party trip in a house in Austin this weekend with food. What do I get? Where do I get it from? [more inside]
What breed is my cat? He might be mixed, but I would like to have an idea what he might be mixed with if he is. Photo Gallery [more inside]
At the end of the week I will be traveling internationally to Taiwan. This is my first time owning an unlocked smartphone (a Moto E4) and I am trying to figure out how to keep in contact back home. My current carrier is a PAYGO plan with Mint and my impression is that it would be cost-prohibitive to continue using SMS and calling people. But I would like to be able to check my voicemail. I need an International Phone Use For Dummies. Please help? [more inside]
My family is trying to plan a memorial gathering for my recently departed grandmother. We are not having a traditional (or religious) funeral, but my mom would like to have some kind of short service, and we are trying to figure out what that could look like. [more inside]
I inherited a lovely office plant. I have no idea how much to water it without killing it. What is it? Relevant: Last year, it developed yellowish/reddish flowers at the tips.
Why is facebook a better weather app than what I have on my phone, and can I use whatever they use instead of the useless garbage I'm using? [more inside]
My 11yo daughter likes Star Wars, and loves math and Harry Potter. But she wants to burnish her nerd cred by also becoming a Dr. Who fan, and asked if we could watch it together. Where should we start?? [more inside]
I need a system. I just started freelancing and I’m sending out lots of networking emails, seeing people, following up. I’ve been using a calendar to manage all of this but there has to be a bettwer way. I want an easy way to see who I’ve contacted, who I need to follow up with, that kind of things. What works for you? BTW, I’m on a Mac. Thanks.
I live in Ontario. I have a neighbor with four cars on his front yard and three sets of plates. One is presumably for parts and never moves. The others come and go, but sometimes, the neighbor will switch the plates between cars. In Ontario the plates are registered to a car so if someone ran the plates they should see the problem. I can't think of why the neighbor is doing this - is there some car thing I don't know about? [more inside]
I think I'm handling Mom fairly well, but hit a (maybe) big rock in the road today. [more inside]
At some point in the last year, I have become unable to see pictures that friends post using Instagram to Facebook. I would really like to see my friends fun pictures. [more inside]
If you think that what I'm doing is wrong, I'd really like to hear those opinions explained. If you think this situation is okay and have a similar experience to share I would also like to hear those too! [more inside]
I made grapefruit curd today! It's sweet and sour and bitter and bright and delicious. So far I've put it on crackers, spread it on toast and given some to a person I want to find me interesting. What more creative culinary things can I do with it? Bonus if you come up with ideas involving Dungeness crab, which I really like with grapefruit.
Job search noob question: if I know exactly when my current job will end, when do I start looking for a new job? If I start applying way early, will people who would otherwise like me get annoyed for wasting their time, or would they set my CV aside in case they have a similar position later? [more inside]
My friend’s giving birth and I’m watching her 3 year old for… however long she’s in labor. Give me all your ideas to entertain a toddler for an indefinite period of time. [more inside]
The song "Kivutar" by Varttina came up on random shuffle for me and part of it sounds extremely familiar--particularly the part that starts at 0:34. I can even hear it in my head: a slightly slower, New Age-y, maybe even chant-y? song with the same cadence. Do you know what song I am thinking of? [more inside]
I'm looking to buy an instant pot but they aren't stocked in Australia, can anyone point me toward the cheapest way to buy one? I've seen a whole variety of different prices online!
We currently use a Google calendar to meal plan. It works but is clunky and we wonder if there is a better way. Does anyone know an app or website that meets a couple specific requirements? It needs to have a monthly view, not just weekly. It needs to have an easy way to move things around and accommodate changes if we postpone one day's meal or something like that. It needs to let us save a given month's plan and repeat it later if desired. [more inside]
What the heck is this melody from about 1:49-2:00? It sounds familiar but I can't place it. (SLYT - 1712 Overture by PDQ Bach)
Our cat is somewhat sedentary but really likes to play with feathers. [more inside]
I find myself in late April with meetings on Friday and Monday in Taiwan, so I have decided to spend a weekend and go hiking instead of flying in and out. Any recommendations for a good hiking area and associated hotel/B&B? [more inside]
Given multiple people's lists of ranking from 1 to X, how do I figure out the highest ranking items on the overall list? [more inside]
Not sure if I could find something awesome enough. Suggestions appreciated. [more inside]
Should I use the Yale university endowment investment model [more inside]
How can the same computer model/brand seem so different to me when I got them from different locations? [more inside]
Starting immediately, I need someone to be the texting "interlocutor" for my partner and myself for the next few weeks, so that we can communicate neutrally through a third party. Who the hell am I looking for other than a lawyer? [more inside]
I recently started working with a personal trainer, "Chris," signing an agreement for 24 sessions total. About halfway through our contracted period, I've concluded this is a bad fit for me and I'd like to cancel our agreement. [more inside]
So, I just discovered viki.com and the show Die Now, about people stuck in a dangerous VR game. I loved it. What else should I watch on there? [more inside]
My kid is temporarily -- maybe one month-ish? not quite sure yet -- using a wheelchair. Halp. [more inside]
If I download a Google map (of say, Paris) onto my iPhone and then use it for directions (e.g., get from the Eiffel Tower to the Gare de Lyon) within the area of the download, do I use any data during those directions? If I do, is it less data than if I were using Google maps "live"? (If I don't use less data, what's the point?) For example - most radically - could I turn cellular data off and still have functional directions? I suspect not, because it has to know where I am at any given moment. Thanks.
Over the last, I dunno, ten years or so I have noticed that any and all table grapes from the grocery store leave a sulfur smell on my hands. It doesn't seem to matter how long or with what I wash them and soak them in, I can't get them clean. I know it is a treatment for preventing mold, but does anyone know any way I can get the grapes clean? [more inside]
Thanks for all the help with my prior panic question. One more: I’d like to improve my relationship with my panic. Are there any upsides? Has there ever been a way in which it was a gift to you? Thanks in advance!
I'm reading David Goldblatt's history of football The Ball is Round and in the chapter about Italian football in the 1980s he writes: "It was in an atmosphere of growing regional renaissance and self-assertiveness that Hellas Verona pulled off the miracle of 1985 – the last team outside the charmed circle of Milan, Rome, and Turin to win the scudetto," but a few pages later he writes about Napoli winning the title in 1987. [more inside]
I have a section of chain-link fence in my yard that I'd like to use as a trellis for growing peas. The soil is likely lead-contaminated, so I'd need to grow them in containers. What sort of containers should I buy? I figured something smallish and long, like window boxes. I'd need some amount of drainage (was going to line with burlap) and of course I don't want to spend $200 on these.
I'm looking for expressions or representations, in any form, of the notion that a person's pursuit of the feeling of happiness can lead them far afield, instead bringing them very much towards the opposite feeling or way of being. [more inside]
My grandmother, 87, is intending to visit us in the USA from Thailand in approximately a week. This was a spur of the moment decision, and we want to see if we can get travel insurance for her. I'ma bit lost. [more inside]
Where are your favorite spots for simple vegan and gluten free recipes that I may also be able to exclude or swap other ingredients as well? [more inside]
Considered asking this anonymously. What prison will Martin Shkreli serve his 7 year sentence in? [more inside]
It's driving me crazy; What's the name of the song/artist that Sam switches from to Black by Innanet James. Lyrics "I've got a one way ticket, going to take me out of here", female singer, typical singer-songwriter vibe, feels slightly country to me. [more inside]
My boyfriend's mother died yesterday morning and the mortuary is telling us that before the family can proceed with any burial/cremation arrangements, the county must issue paperwork that will take five days or more to generate. I don't remember dealing with this kind of delay when making funeral arrangements before. Does this sound right? Are we missing something here? [more inside]
If you're an apartment dweller and a dog owner can you tell me what your daily dog care routine looks like and how you manage to keep them healthy and happy? [more inside]
Is there a bank with a checking account that, say a year+ from now, actually lets me see an image of checks I deposit today? [more inside]
I am notoriously non-assertive and am starting a new job where assertiveness will be key. Can you recommend any books/resources that helped you with assertive workplace communication? Additional societal expectations wrinkle: I am a small young-ish lady and my new field & workplace is overwhelmingly men who are 10+ years my senior. [more inside]
I found this two page RPG called Honey Heist and I want to play it with the kids. How exactly do I play it? [more inside]
I've got two brothers, both bipolar. How can I help them access social services and get their lives together (from a distance)? [more inside]
My mother is dying of hypersensitive pneumonitis, they think she may have only a few months or so hard to tell. My brother and I take turns staying with her as she shouldn't be alone. I do not mind taking care of my mother but I will admit I miss my day to day life/routine....I feel guilty knowing that in order to get it back means my Mom will no longer be with us. [more inside]
I am considering a two week intensive workshop at the Penland School of Crafts on letterpress and broadsides. What is Penland like? [more inside]
I'd like to subscribe to a magazine about art and culture. Aesthetica is fantastic and ticks off all my boxes (below the fold), but it'd be nice to have something in print that comes once a month. Any suggestions? [more inside]
My friend found this dead animal near her home in Nelsonville, Ohio. Neither she nor I can figure out what species it is. Can anybody identify it? Photo here (don't click if you are squeamish about dead animals)
How can my friend come to terms with having an unexpected baby with his ex? [more inside]
Imagine you had a large room available in your house and wanted to put together the most awesome, flexible and full-featured VR room that is achievable with currently available tech. The room will be used for no other purpose and the budget is unlimited, both for furnishings and for technology. What is the absolute best way to set it up? [more inside]
I need new shoes to wear to work in the spring and fall, and I'm not entirely sure what I'm looking for. Help! [more inside]
I saw this on TV many years ago, probably some time in the early aughts. This was in the US. No idea what channel. Short plot summary here, more details below the cut: A couple on a dinner date in the woman's home have tense conversations and reveal strange vulnerabilities. [more inside]
To help control Lyme disease-carrying ticks, I want to spread home-made tick tubes around my yard. From all accounts, this is effective in killing ticks. The tubes contain permethrin- soaked cotton balls that the mice find and take for nest-making. Mice are ok, ticks feeding on them are killed. But I'm concerned that my cat will catch and eat one of these mice. Permethrin is deadly for cats, though dry permethrin is supposed to be safe, and the stuff should be dry. Helpful guesses are not useful. Authoritative answers only, please.
I'm trying to find an engaging math curriculum for my daughter that will take her from 6-8 grade. The one she is working from is really quite boring and unengaging, and I can hardly stand to work through it myself when I help her with it. I love math and so does she, but it's been rough. [more inside]
(From my sister in Orlando, FL) The herd of feral cats--roughly THIRTY--that two of my neighbors are feeding have ruined my yard by turning it into an enormous toilet, made my dogs ill... ruined several of my screens, and live in my yard (I have trees, and the two feeder/complicit/enabling neighbors do not), despite me not feeding them and actively trying to shoo them when I see them (This results in them moving from the front to backyard.). [more inside]
I want to hire someone to come to my apartment, open up all my closets and cabinets, and tell me how I could improve my life with a little organization. Have you ever done this? And how do I find someone to do this? [more inside]
We went to dinner last night with friends to exchange birthday presents. Then they told us they have been trying to eradicate bedbugs from their place for two months. How worried should we be, and how should be deal with these presents? [more inside]
My fiancée and I had dinner at the home of a close friend about a week ago, and she told us that after wrestling with this decision for some time, she has decided to raise a child as a single parent. She is in her mid-thirties, and while she would ultimately like to have both a child and a life partner, she doesn’t want the one to be contingent on the other. She asked us whether we would be open to my being a sperm donor to help her conceive. Basically… help? Snowflakery and beanplates inside. [more inside]
Having become more familiar with Dell beep codes lately than I ever wanted to be, it's time to retire the ole Inspiron 7537 (circa 2014). I hate shopping for new computers because I tend to get very stuck in the weeds of what I need now vs. what I could conceivably need in the :::future:::. I come to the hive mind for advice. [more inside]
I'm going on a short trip to Prague with friends this July. I"d like to add on another city, since Europe is too far away to just go for three days! What is a destination that's easy to reach from Prague (train would be ideal) and is not intimidating to travel to alone? [more inside]
*Pseudonyms used) Got a call at 8:30 a.m. (!) from a collection agency Monday. Was asked, “Who may I speak to regarding the estate of the -late- *Robert Smith - who is the brother of James Smith, my partner of 15 years. Half asleep, I told the collector, “He’s not dead!” The collector apologized, saying she may have the wrong info/name. (more inside). [more inside]
Can someone help me with the lyrics of this song? It's an Irish folk song. I'm listening to it in the car (not right now), and would love to know what they're talking about! [more inside]
This is a long shot. I want to turn a computer with an IR interface into something that will accept faxes beamed from a twenty-year old palmtop that still thinks IR Fax rules the roost and that if this email takes off, it will never replace it, or be used for junk. [more inside]
What would be the cheapest way to move somebody's stuff to New York City from another city that's 4 hours away? The Big Issue is that this person does not drive. Otherwise, I'd think hiring a van would be perfect. But if that's not possible, what's the best way to do this? The person is thinking of "shipping boxes" but that sounds very expensive! We're talking about clothing, some books, some guitars, amps, that sort of thing. Probably no furniture.
A few weeks ago I got sick. I saw a family nurse practitioner (FNP) at a local clinic every day for five days as my symptoms worsened. They failed to listen to my concerns or accurately diagnose my condition and I ended up in the hospital for treatment of an acute infection. I'd like to make a complaint, but how best to do that? [more inside]
Last Friday a pan placed in the refrigerator the wrong way kept the door from closing properly. By the time we caught the error Saturday am, the frig was at 53*. Over the course of the week, with the setting on maximum cold, it has oh-so-gradually moved down to 41*. Question: We have a repair man scheduled for Monday. Is there actually a problem for him to fix? Should I cancel? (Note this is a fancy refrigerator-only GE Monogram unit)
Is this guy (link leads to imgur photos) a northern red-legged frog? It's easily the largest native frog I've ever seen. [more inside]
What it says on the tin. Spring cleaning has unearthed a fully functional 4th-gen iPod Touch and 1st-gen iPad. They are ancient, crusty, and I don't know how they got wedged in my closet. I'm not an apple user at all, and I have a full compliment of modern windows/android devices, so I most certainly don't need them. Are they too old to be good for anything, should I give them away, should I trade them in & buy something else from the Apple store... or should I consign them to the trash heap? [more inside]
I need to install Windows 10 and Office 2016 on my home PC. I'm scared. [more inside]
In the noisy background of this Sonic State product showcasing video, there is a song I've heard before but that I can't for the life of me find the name of. Maybe it's from around 1997-2003? [more inside]
So I have a new job, by all appearances. It's currently just casual/part-time work, but the head of my department says she wants to make it more full-time in the next while. I wasn't interviewed or asked for references, and am left feeling a bit caught off-guard. [more inside]
I'm looking for a dimly-remembered life inventory/scoring system that you could use to grade yourself in areas like physical/mental health, social, finances, spiritual (maybe?) etc. [more inside]
I use Trello as a personal productivity tool and flexible to-do list. I love it. I want to add time tracking to Trello cards, without paying anything monthly. [more inside]
I work in a public-facing position and have sensitive eyes that water (sometimes profusely) when it is bright or windy. I can't wear sunglasses (or a hat) in this public-facing role and I'm looking for something that something that looks professional (not safety glasses). Is there a non-tinted coating I could put on clear eye glasses that would help? I don't normally wear rx glasses. [more inside]
I purchased a print of a portrait of the Joker from Batman at the Chicago 2012 C2E2, and I love it a lot. Trouble is, I don't know who the artist is, despite it being signed. Can anyone please help in identifying the artist?
My second-ever purchased 100% organic rose water spray, which I'm using as a toner, smells.... strange. It's still kind of rosy, but there's a strong note of something else. I'm calling it "cooked artichoke" for lack of a better description. It's pungent but definitely bearable for one bottle. I can't return it. Can you help me figure out what to do next? [more inside]
I have glasses that I love with anti-reflective coating. Unfortunately, I wore them outside on a windy day while spray painting something, and I got spray paint droplets onto my glasses. [more inside]
What's a good rule of thumb for a "good" sample size when it comes to human health trials. For example, I recently read of a study that said sunflower seed oil was good therapy for a certain disorder. But the sample size was n=16. Intuitively I'd say that's not much of a study. But at what threshold n would we consider that a study had good statistical weight? (Note I'm assuming that the methodology of the trial itself (other than sample size) is impeccable).
TED fu fail. Can you hope me find this TED talk on misunderstanding others? [more inside]
I'm looking for a hot, cinnamon, hard candy. Atomic Fireballs, as I remember them, would be great. I've had a few recently though, and they're just not cutting it. I remember them being significantly hotter (and larger) 20+ years ago. The rest of the internet seems to agree that they've been cooled down, but perhaps we're all overestimating due to our now-grown palates? Any recommendations?
I've just bought some new black Docs and now I have no idea how to wear them. For reference I'm a middle aged, over-weight woman in a suburban New Zealand city where anything goes. I tend to wear straight leg or skinny jeans most of the time with shirts and jackets.
I've had a bad run in the last few years with my Samsung phones dying early deaths (< 1 year old, 6 months old, 1.5 years old...) and am tired of dealing with Samsung and the issues I've had with their phones. Seeking a new Android phone under $500 (CAD) that is less likely to die on me within a year - any recommendations? Must be water resistant, and aiming for a rock solid phone with a low device failure rate. [more inside]
Who wants to identify another lost strange fantasy book? I got it around 1991 in paperback. It had a cover by a famous artist whose name I also cannot recall -- Thomas something? -- who specializes in ethereal paintings of elven types, so I thought it would be a typical fantasy. It featured an alternate history with either a "Blessed States of America" or "Christian States of America," and a doomed naval expedition. There was something more disturbing about it, too. [cw: sexual abuse of a minor] [more inside]
I need a metal glasses case that doesn't look too dude-broish. Help! [more inside]
I follow a Spotify playlist titled "Cleaning The House" which has over 28 hours of familiar songs. Are there others like it? [more inside]
We live in the U.S. and are traveling to Turkey next month to visit family. My mom is 65 and on Medicare, but Medicare does not insure patients abroad. Where can we find her legitimate health insurance to cover her for the trip? [more inside]
I belong to a community (buddhist) in my city that has been struggling for the past year or two with regard to attendance at our programs and regular meetings. We are at a point now where this is clearly a trend and needs to be looked at and changes made in order for the group to move forward. [more inside]
I need a new no-frills personal laptop for the sole purpose of occasional home programming in Visual Studio. I'd like it to be under $500 and on sale at Best Buy, Costco, or the Microsoft Store so I can pick it up same day. Am I safe to assume that it doesn't matter what model I get and that the minimum RAM/disc size are OK?
I would like to find out how to get a confidential license plate but google is failing me. [more inside]
I have a particular item that is no longer manufactured but I love. I have eBay alerts set up, but I'd like to have alerts on other sites like Poshmark or others. Does this exist? I can't find anything out there.
Someone is stalking my friend. She's been doing it for 3+ years and recently started escalating her behavior. He's got plenty of documentation, but the cops said there's nothing he can do unless she becomes violent. Help us find an expert he can talk to? [more inside]
I am in NYC and would like to adopt a dog three or four months from now. What are the concrete steps I need to take between now and then to prepare for this? [more inside]
I'm looking for reading material for a scheduled hospital stay, which will be entertaining for a shortened attention span. In a similar state in the past I've loved a couple of books of collected bad reviews - Ebert's Your Movie Sucks, and Jay Rayner's My Dining Hell. Are there similar books you'd reccomend? Or indeed books of similar short doses of cutting wit that would scratch the same itch? [more inside]
I am considering leaving my marriage of 14 years. I’m not sure how to go about it. [more inside]
I'm close to retiring (as in months, not years). I have several retirement accounts with money in them that should suffice. What's the best way to convert these into real money? On a side note, I'll be going for Social Security and plan to be married soon - he's rather younger than I am, is there a best way to handle this?
I would like to pursue a Master’s degree, but I’m undecided on what path to take. I am considering with a Masters in Computer Science or in IT Management. More details below the fold. [more inside]
Can you recommend a long board skateboard for a beginner? [more inside]
Google Play wants a picture of my photo ID and credit card... is this legit? [more inside]
Because you completely nailed it with the soundtrack recommendations for my RPG last time, I'm coming to you again with a very specific request for our game tonight. I'm looking for instrumental music that is otherworldly and eerie enough to unsettle my players, evocative without being distracting, and suggestive of a fateful moment when everything changes. Spotify links work best for me. More detail inside. [more inside]
All ceilings and trim in our house are Benjamin Moore's White Vanilla, a warm creamy white that I'm perfectly happy with. Except, when we painted the bathroom, suddenly the creaminess looks yellow and dingy next to the hospital-white of the toilet, shower, etc. Is it possible to choose a better white for the bathroom but still harmonize with the existing white in the rest of the house? [more inside]
I'm super duper bummed that I'm missing the cherry blossoms in Japan because they bloomed way earlier than expected. I know this is a privileged problem to have but I'm seriously sad and I need help getting over it. [more inside]
I'm in a... situation?... with someone I met online. I've started to have feelings and the situation is becoming increasingly something that I'd like really to move forward to a real relationship, if possible - or at least get some clarity on, if not. I don't know how much longer I can take this ambiguity. Help? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I will be in Sewanee, TN from Thursday morning until Sunday morning. He'll be attending a conference on Friday and Saturday, but I'm just there to have fun. What are some fun/interesting things we (or sometimes just I) should do? We will have a car and we already have accommodations booked. [more inside]
I just got a call from a very nice woman who informed me that every morning at 9:45 she gets a call from my number. Should I be worried and/or is there anything I can do about this? [more inside]
I'm working with a spreadsheet which has been converted from XML. It has several thousand rows. The first field is a person ID which applies to the next few rows, but in each case the person ID is blank on every row except the first one. How can I populate a field on every row with the relevant person ID? [more inside]
I would like to learn more about Chinese history, especially the modern period. Specifically, I'm looking for:
- The best one-volume history of modern China.
- The best concise one-volume overview of the whole of Chinese history (for context).
- Bonus points: a good English-language example of the PRC government "party-line" view of modern Chinese history, preferably from a government-affiliated publisher.
I am living someplace devoid of Filipino food right now and I am missing it, especially at breakfast. I want to make my own Filipino sweet pork longanisa but, if I am going to go through all that work, I want to make sure it will taste how I am expecting. I used to buy frozen Tropica brand. Got a recipe for me that you know will be correct?
I want to pay off a very old student loan, but the account has been closed and shuttled around various collection agencies. I’m hoping you have some advice on how to repay this debt. [more inside]
Really enjoyed my job last year. Feeling gutted this year. When, or do? I jump ship? [more inside]
It is 100 years since Swedish auteur Ingmar Bergman was born. In an effort to celebrate this we would like to show the famous spoof Da Duva from 1969. My google-fu only find crappy version online. Where could I find a good copy? [more inside]
My 13yo has been verbalizing suicidal ideation. I admitted her to a psychiatric hospital Monday night; things are not going well. Wall of text inside. [more inside]
Ok, just what the heck did I do to my Macbook's EFI and BIOS, and how do I recover it? [more inside]
I would love to know what you have the hardest time with in making new friends as an adult. [more inside]
I’m not actually terrible at math but I’m struggling to understand cat drug dosages and would love help with 1. doing the math and 2. understanding the math. [more inside]
My homemade yogurt frequently has a grainy texture and I’m trying to figure out how to fix it. There seem to be differing opinions about what causes this, including heating the milk too quickly, stirring the milk too much, and using a bad starter. I’m wondering what would happen if I skipped the initial high-heat step that’s meant to denature the milk proteins and kill competing bacteria. Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
I am stuck working with someone incompetent on a project with a tight deadline. I am 7 months pregnant and this project is supposed to be delivered before I go on maternity leave (8 weeks from now). I am emotional, angry and stressed. This basic situation is as follows: I am a software developer and this person, let's call him Bob, is the business analyst who provides the documented requirements I have to implement. If this isn't your industry, it's kind of like this: I'm a builder, and this person is give me shite blueprints. I have said directly to him, several times, your blueprints are shite; change them. They haven't improved. I have also communicated this to: my manager, my upper manager, his manager. Nevertheless, I keep getting shite blueprints. What now? [more inside]
Picture taken in Vero Beach, FL. Thank you!
I'm interested in learning how to speak/understand Farsi, but I'd like to ease into it. To me this means not learning another alphabet. I already know the Cyrillic alphabet, so I'm thinking that Tajik might be a good bet. Do you know any good tools for learning Tajik? Or a guide for Farsi that does not involve reading/writing?
I'm just finishing up my taxes, and I'm not happy with H&R Block. While it's fresh on your mind, what program do you love or hate? [more inside]
I came across a brief article once about a group of businessmen in (India?) who were sponsoring a humanities-based college for their engineers in order to foster creativity and thereby increase their competitiveness. Am I imagining this? Can you help me find it?
I'm looking for a reliable moving company for a move at the end of the month (or May 1) from Roslindale, MA to the Poconos, PA. Thanks!
Some time ago I was given this medallion necklace (front of medallion, back of medallion, medallion and chain), and now that I would like to sell it, it would be helpful to know what kind of stone it is for my eBay listing description. Can anyone identify it? Sardonyx or carnelian is my best guess, but I'm no gemologist. If it helps, it was purchased in Turkey. Bonus points if you can tell me what the necklace is worth (the trim and chain are silver).
I have had GERD off and on for years now, and it's flaring up again. I am trying to do everything I can to settle it down - seeing a doc (who prescribed prilosec 2x a day [I take the OTC name brand stuff; I also have access to generic omeprazole via prescription]), eliminating my stomach triggers (I miss you kimchi), not eating before bed, etc. [more inside]
I'm getting a new bike! Please help me style my helmet. [more inside]
Last Wed. someone tried to use my SSN number and date of birth to apply for a credit card. I have another card with this issuer and received a call from their fraud detection unit the next day. I am trying to work through what are the best steps to take to protect my credit (and other aspects of my identity) at this point. Would appreciate recommendations from folks who may have dealt with similar situations (my thoughts on this below the fold ..) [more inside]
My inlaws are celebrating a milestone aniversary this year. They want to charter a large yacht and sail around for a week. Is this idea safe for toddlers? [more inside]
Help me recall a young adult book I read in the late 1990s/early 2000s, about a girl's journey to the source of the only river in her world. [more inside]
I've been on a Vulfpeck kick lately. I'm digging their entire ouevre, but especially the treacly-sweet pop-funk Motown-tinged stuff. Exhibit A: Animal Spirits. Exhibit B: Back Pocket. Who else should I be listening to?
My dad was a simple guy. He wore the same leather jacket and hat for 30 years. He never was without his class ring and his watch. He died a few years back and while I didn't keep many of his possessions, I kept the few things he wore daily. I can't use them in their current form, I can't toss them, so how should I repurpose them? [more inside]
Moving from Los Angeles to Chicago. Need a good mover to help my stuff get from point A to point B. [more inside]
You know those transparent green visors accountants and editors wore once upon a time? I'd like to buy one, and I'm having trouble finding a good candidate. [more inside]
I have to make a presentation at work in a couple hours that involves presenting information considerably different than what a coworker has previously presented. I’m confident my analysis is more accurate than my coworker’s. How best to present without sounding like I’m trashing my coworker? [more inside]
My family is now big enough that I generally have to cook for five, and I frequently cook for 8 or 12 (now that I have returned to the McGee homeland and have many, many nearby relatives). I have a lot of recipes that involve doing meat (for example) in a skillet. I'm at the maximum skillet size my stovetop can accommodate (about 12"), and I can fit four chicken breasts. I need to fit five! What's my solution? [more inside]
We are moving to a new house that has a septic system instead of a sewer line. Septic makes me very, very nervous. What don't I know that I need to know, plus a few specific questions. [more inside]
Why is my iTunes creating duplicate playlists when I sync with my phone? [more inside]
My more professional, stressful jobs have been associated with depression. I was a really good administrative assistant, wasn't depressed while doing it, and had energy for personal projects, although it was boring. Help me figure out whether/how to change my career in hopes of hating my life less. Have you scaled back your job/career aspirations to manage your mental health? How did that work out? [more inside]
I'm having some trouble plotting a book and I want to see how other authors have done it. I need books that have characters interacting inside a siege or other enclosure in interesting ways, while the faceless enemy is outside. [more inside]
I have a gotomeeting meeting tomorrow morning and my computer is down. I need to be able to do screen sharing for part of the meeting. So I need access to a computer with a webcam and audio capabilities. I've tried calling the public libraries and FedEx kinkos to no avail. Is there a place I can go where I can have this meeting?
For those that do not pay, any published discussions about why not? [more inside]
I have been meditating for 5-7 minutes daily for the past few months, and was recently interrupted during one of these sessions by a profound fearful antsiness such as nothing I have ever known before. Is this a thing? [more inside]
Where are the good-quality (i.e. not absurdly thin) women's merino cardigans? Just a straight-up crewneck merino cardigan of good weight and durability. I realize it's a terrible time of year to be looking but this is a staple item of my wardrobe and all my good ones are biting the dust. Things I am NOT interested in: cashmere, cotton, tissue-thin anything, V-neck cardigans.
So, my roommate has launched a small business based on artwork and her proficiency for conlangs. Right now, she does mostly Vulcan calligraphy--phrases translated into Vulcan and then written in a stylized form, with some circular Gallifreyan transliterations on the side. She's getting a lot of interest from people who would like her to design a tattoo, but she has no idea how much to charge for something like that. In your experience, what's going rate for a service like this? [more inside]
Last Saturday, my girlfriend and I faced our first tough moment. (she's my first one, we've been going out nearly a year, she lives an hour away, we see each other on average 3 weekends a month.) It really was all my fault. We are both intensely busy and stressed - me with my coursework and her with finishing up her internship as a school psychologist and graduating with a Masters in May. As she put it, this past Saturday was the last weekend where she could have a moment free from stress. [more inside]
For the purpose of "seeing the ocean", does the Gulf of Mexico count? [more inside]
I'm interested in books on how crowd control and movement works: through stores, public transport, crowded parks or streets, etc. I'd like to know how engineers plan for crowds, and also what social behaviors are common in crowds, what ways they can be predicted or not. Thanks!
A young character in the book (may not be the protagonist, perhaps a sibling of the main character) discovers that in their past life, they were an older Scotsman or Irishman who died from a hanging. The young character has issues or sensitivity around the neck as a result of the hanging. The reader is also told that other birthmarks are a result of trauma in your past life. This was fiction, set in "present day" and was read in the late 90s- early 2000s.
My apartment faces a commercial street with a busy bar on one corner. The windows may as well not be there in terms of sound insulation. Is there anything I can buy that might help to mitigate street noise? [more inside]
I'm new to loom knitting and planning to make a top based on this pattern for needle knitting. I've practiced the stitches I plan to use, but still have a question about working the dropped stitch. [more inside]
I'll be spending an hour tomorrow afternoon having a business conversation over Skype. What's a good place, relatively near Silver Lake, Los Angeles, for me to do that? Someplace not too loud / busy, and with (most importantly) robust WiFi. [more inside]
I have a desktop computer set to dual boot (win XP and 7). It's not hooked into the internet. In trying to remove the XP dual boot (to clone onto an SSD), I changed the active partition (in disk management) from the XP drive to the win7 drive. Now, the computer won't boot. How do I change the active partition back to the original one? [more inside]
While all MeFi's well know that our twitter and facebook posts are being scraped, and analyzed to determine our intelligence and net worth.. Your job offers, insurance costs, and tax audits are increasingly influenced by what you say online. My friend wants to bring this pattern to a broader audience, and now built a tool that generates tweets and posts for you, to mess with the algorithms. All he needs is a name (and URL). [more inside]
Need insights configuring website to force/allow download of MP4 in Safari, instead of streaming? [more inside]
If you had a week off in may and could go to either island which would you choose and why? Taking my teenage son for a much needed vacation. [more inside]
Are any of the instant pot competitors (/knockoffs) worth considering? Which ones? [more inside]
I had some beloved family members staying as houseguests for a few weeks, and they'll leave in a few days. How do I painlessly make the transition back to solo living? Details after the jump. [more inside]
You take a card out of your wallet, thinking "this won't be useful for a few years". You were wrong. So horribly wrong. But where would you have put it in the meantime? [more inside]
I was hoping it wouldn't come to this, but it has. I'm looking for a lunch spot for a department social lunch in Boston for later this month. Of course there are details. [more inside]
This item belonged to my father, who kept it on his dresser all my life. When he fell ill and died I kept it, planning to ask my mother about its provenance. Turns out, my dad already owned it when they met and she never asked about it, either. (A lot went unsaid while they were married.) [more inside]
A friend's family member was severely injured when he was hit by a car. My friend needs help identifying a personal injury attorney in Hawaii who can help her family out who will also treat this situation delicately. [more inside]
I'm set for meals of the healthy/quick weeknight variety, but I want to put together a roster of rich, luxurious, splurge-for-a-celebration vegan meals. Difficulty level: no soy. [more inside]
I'm a child of the 80s. I remember being in grade school chorus, and for a recital we were singing a song -- one of those that were "inspirational" without actully being religious. [more inside]
For ten years, one of my favorite features of my apartment is the fact that I have my own thermostat. However - it sometimes can get too warm, and I'm only just now realizing that it may be because I'm not properly using it. Help? [more inside]
I'm looking for a teapot (EU/UK) with certain criteria: Does not drip! Holds enough for two medium mugs of tea; preferably comes with its own infuser; no plastic parts; lid will not fall off; not fragile or fancy, yet still becoming to the eye and a joy to use. [more inside]
A small semi-authentic Mexican restaurant in Texas. There are two squeeze bottles full of sauce on the table, one green, one red. Pics of the culprits. What were they and how do I make them part of my life? Details for detectives inside. [more inside]
I am wondering if there are anay specific grants that will fund literary magazines as well as a chapbook press? [more inside]
Approximately 35 years after asking my father for an in-ground pool (and 34 years after he stopped laughing...) I now find myself about to move into a house with an in-ground pool... and a hot tub! But uh... now what? [more inside]
I am just getting started with treatment for infertility (related more to being in my 40s than to any specific disorder). I have an office job with a lot of time-sensitive projects. How to balance the need for time off, and explain to my colleagues without awkwardness? [more inside]
My 9 year old daughter has recently showed interest in 'business'. She also loves crafts. I've decided to teach her both by making candles and seeing if we can make a modest profit. I told her we need to come up with a name and a story behind our little venture. What should we call our candle company? [more inside]
Looking for tips to move on with my life, three years after splitting up. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My nearly 9 yr old very bright kid is getting to an age when 40% of his class has some gaming console or another. I know nothing about them. Should I get him one? Do people have experience of which one has better parental control features? And once he has it, what are some good rules to make sure he continues to balance in his time between physical, chess, reading, homework etc. Thanks every one in advance
M and me are members of a group of friends. She is a perennial source of gossip about herself and the rest of the group. For a long time I have treated everything from M about her own problems with discretion. Recently though, I tipped off another member of the group (B) that M had told me all about her (B's) marriage problems - M can only have learned this straight from B. B had a fight with M and used that, sourced to me, as ammo. M feels that I seriously betrayed her trust and is angry. Is this reasonable? [more inside]
If I want to move to Portland in July, when should I visit to rent an apartment? [more inside]
Since moving into my co-op apartment (in the U.S.), I've used one room as a home office, and declared it as such on my taxes. Life-changes now mean I'm considering converting the home office into something else, but I haven't been able to find anything online about the tax implications of retiring a home office while still living in the same (owned) apartment. [more inside]
I have a Lenovo 2215s monitor and a Macbook Air 11inch 2015 running High Sierra 10.13.4. They don't seem able to talk to each other so that i can have an external display. I know that each item independently works (monitor, laptop and cables) and I have the right MBA adaptor. The monitor does not show my MBA screen. I have tried restarting etc. I have tried googling an answer too. What shall I do next?
Cross-ventilation-filter: We have a patio door (96x80) which we love having open at night for the breeze. Open, it has a flimsy screen door with an even flimsier lock. What options might we have to secure the screen door at night? Budget is a significant consideration. [more inside]
Help, I need a super easy potluck dish to make! I have little time and no ideas. [more inside]
I'm meeting someone to talk and we need it to be quiet and private, but can't use either of our homes for reasons. Where in Seattle would you suggest? [more inside]
What are your favorite representations of queer families in media (books, television, games, and comics especially?) [more inside]
Sigh. My neighbors are engaging in activity that dramatically shakes our shared wall. They deny it. I need to objectively measure it. [more inside]
I love the smell of sandalwood. I'm also making my own soap and skincare products and I'd like to put the two things together. However, I'm having difficulty finding sandalwood essential oil that smells like the sandalwood I'm used to. Can the keen noses of MeFi assist? [more inside]
My (American) wife and I (a Canadian citizen) currently live in Canada. We are planning on flying into the US next week for a vacation. Unfortunately, my wife's Permanent Resident card has expired and the renewal is still in process, leaving her without a valid card. Is there a way she can still return or should we cancel the trip? [more inside]
What in your opinion (if anything) is the best anti-virus/malware solution for Android at the moment? Personally, I'm not using anything apart from the "don't click on weird links, don't install things from shady sources" rule. I feel fine about this, however it's stressing a family member out who doesn't get why I wouldn't use an anti-virus. If (like me) you think the existing options aren't much use, how would you explain to someone fearful of viruses/malware (and not super tech-knowledgeable) that Android is a relatively safe platform?
A rumor I've heard about John Lennon that I can't find a source for now... help! [more inside]
Looking for simple in-class memory experiment/demonstration and/or facts for a bunch of design students. [more inside]
How many bee-hours does it take to make (say) 1 liter of honey? [more inside]
I don't like making eye contact but it is getting worse. Ideas? [more inside]
Standard British (and maybe other places) comedy trope- people go on holiday to Spain/the Med and bring back a straw donkey. But did it happen IRL? And why? [more inside]
Help me think through the practical steps in my snowflaky scenario of leaving my marriage of 24 years. I don’t want to focus on the reasons I want to leave, but how I would do this from a practical and financial standpoint. I say "leave" but I mean divorce. [more inside]
Looking for a dupe for a men’s cologne by Crabtree & Evelyn called Sienna (discontinued in 1990 :/). [more inside]
Last week I wrote about a movie on medium. After a few days, I contacted the author of the movie to make them aware, and they told me they already found the review here. Conveniently, that site does not appear to have an option for contacting them while still making money off my original content without having contacted me. Is there anything I can do about that (e.g., at the very least making them add my name to this)?
Our work health insurance policy is changing this June and rates are going way up. Our office accountant is seeking out other health insurance plans to save money and it turns out that my GP will not be included in this change, which is someone I really don't want to lose. According to the accountant I am considered a "valuable employee" so my boss has offered to cover the costs for me to see the doctor out of pocket. However, they want to know what those costs will be to see if it's worth it for them to switch to another provider or stick with the current policy. I have a bad feeling about this and need some advice. More details inside... [more inside]
Help me buy a wetsuit for my 3-year-old for the upcoming pool season! [more inside]
My older house (mid 70s) is in need of a new water heating system. We're looking at either replacing the old hot water tank, or going with a new tankless, hot water on demand system. What have been your experience? Also rent or buy? [more inside]
I'd like to know what the mail carrier and sorters think about my mail and the other mail they handle. Do you know of any first-person accounts of postal worker experiences, extra-credit for gossipy about postcards?
I'm attending an out-of-town baby shower in a couple of weeks (late April), in a place where the weather could just as easily be 75 degrees or 5 inches of snow. Help me come up with some tweaks so I don't have to pack half my damn closet. [more inside]
Did anyone have uterine irritability during their pregnancies, and can you tell me about it? I'm seeing my doctor tomorrow, but I'm really trying to understand what's up with these frequent, non-painful contractions I'm having. [more inside]
Do corporations employ people whose job is to look at the big-picture implications of the work the company does? I’m mainly curious about tech and social media companies and their long-term thinking about social, political, and cultural effects of their products and technology — stuff that’s beyond day-to-day business practices, fiduciary duties, compliance and various CYA-type things — closer to the work that a philosopher of technology does, or perhaps a medical ethicist. [more inside]
I'm considering setting up a Mastodon instance at the school (college, so adult students) where I work. Have you done something or used something similar? Any advice or recommendations as I look into this? [more inside]
Ancient lenovo thinkpad has died, so I am now looking for a replacement. [more inside]
I'm searching for a photo organization software that is 1. Shareable between many users on different computers, 2. Allows organization by user-created tags. [more inside]
What things should be on the shopping list for a vegan person who is overwhelmed by Trader Joe's and wants to make the most out of a trip? [more inside]
Well-paying but not fulfilling career in accounting/non-profit management has me bored and frustrated and feeling like I'm pushing papers day in and day out. I'd like to work with others more closely (ie: a team environment) and/or do something more challenging and rewarding... but how? [more inside]
I'm flying from the US to Singapore via Narita and I have a four hour layover in Tokyo. Will I have time to do some shopping? [more inside]
Someone didn't properly close the upright freezer in the garage last night. Found it as I was leaving for work this morning. All sorts of different food-stuffs contained within. What is still safe to eat? [more inside]
Does anyone know any home-made natural nail polish recipes? [more inside]
Where can I buy cotton chinos and denim jeans with no stretch? I’m old enough to remember the polyester 70s. Not only did bell bottoms look ridiculous, but they were hot and itchy (itchy, itchy, hot could have been a hit song from the era). Then came the 80s and 90s which rediscovered cotton replete with TV ads touting “the touch, the feel, of cotton, the fabric of our lives.” You can’t improve on nature when it comes to pants, seemingly we all agreed. But in the last year or two, synthetics returned with a vengeance. [more inside]
I will be in New Orleans for conference, next week, with just a little bit of spare time - what should I make sure I see/do? [more inside]
There is a scene where we see Amy use a winged infusion set nicked from her doctor's office to draw a quantity of her own blood. Would it have been possible for her to die accidentally by exsanguination via this method, or would the blood flow into the needle slow down before it reached a point to endanger health? [more inside]
Seven years ago I got married to teaspoon. Every year since I've asked your advice on anniversaries. That time has come again. According to the canonical source I've been going by (US version, because Year 1 needed to be paper) This year is either Copper or Wool (or both) [more inside]
I'm teaching a required community college course that unfortunately has a few students who are behavioral problems. I would like some tips on maintaining my cool when young people greatly skilled in the art of aggravation have me on their radar. [more inside]
I need to buy more of these basket shelf thingies for the pull out drawers of a pantry cupboard in my kitchen. The base of each one measures 23cmx 43cm (9"x18.5"). The landlord doesn't know the supplier of the original kitchen, so no joy there. What the hell are these things called so I can search for them more effectively? My google fu has completely failed. Suppliers or retailers within the European Union would be fantastic, but really my question is: what is the correct name for this item?
I have heard that only Australian's pronounce 'data' as dahta. Is this true?
My mom and I are meeting up in Chicago in a couple weeks and I'd like to find a non-touristy place to get good deep-dish pizza. I've been to Chicago once and she's never been there. It looks like we'll be near the Donald E. Stephens Convention Center and we'll have all day Saturday and Sunday morning there. Nothing more inside except pizza in ma belleh.
I have the most beautiful paintings in my mind's eye but I don't have the technical ability to paint them. [more inside]
I'm looking for online resources to help dealing with sexual assault. The difficulty is that it needs to be written in a way that does not presume the perpetrator is male and does not presume the survivor is female. [more inside]
Now that Let's Encrypt supports wildcard certificates, I want to move away from using GoDaddy forwards to something native to our apache + tomcat installation that will allow subdomains to be "sticky" masks for tomcat instances. I've been playing with configuration files all day and can't find the right combination of knobs. [more inside]
The vacant house next door is being flipped. It's also infested. How do I keep the rats and bugs from coming my way? [more inside]
I want to learn an instrument. What should I play? [more inside]
Can't decide. Deadline is tomorrow. Push out vs crank out casement windows? [more inside]
How do I open & dry out a coconut for use as a "trotting horse" sound effect? [more inside]
I need to convert a fairly long (350 page) Word document to pdf. Because it’s a large document and page numbers/Figure numbers sometimes need to be repaginated on editing, I’ve been used the Word cross referencing tool throughout the document. It’s causing problems. [more inside]
I did it, it was much needed, and booked a trip to the UK. It will be for 9 days (including travel time) in June. I'm not just staying in London and want to travel around the UK. I'm finding 7 day itineraries online, so I know it's possible, but what would be the major recommendations for these cities and the logistics of order? But also, should I rent a car? And also, I have a layover in Iceland now and will we have time to go hike somewhere? More questions below the fold, UK (and Iceland) experts appreciated! [more inside]
How do you deal with bullying behaviour when you have no assertiveness skills? [more inside]
I have a lovely white raincoat. I'm accident-prone, so now it's a black and white raincoat. I leave for vacation in less than a week, and the obvious things aren't helping. How can I have a mostly-white raincoat in a few days? [more inside]
Looking for a semi-serious parent performance review form (a la Calvin and Hobbes) to slip under the door of precocious spawn.
In the spirit of old-school, mysterious, deep-desert art, I'm pondering the installation of some very discreet, low-footprint, solar-powered art pieces on BLM land throughout the Mojave Desert. I can't find any useful info on how to go about this from a permissions point of view. [more inside]
A friend gifted me this bit of merch from a recent trip to Disneyland. The "GOLD" part is part of a label/sticker on the end of pen, with a UPC code. I asked what the "GOLD" label meant, if it was a loyalty points program, or maybe some other meaning, but they did not know. Do you? pic1 pic2
I'm going to a 20s murder mystery party as a 1920s gangster (specifically a gun runner). I know this is an easy mode costume, but I always have a hard time putting costumes together. So any advice would be appreciated. And I find that online resources are click-baitey and useless. [more inside]
In light of recent events, I would like to understand more about the theory of trade, in particular fair trade practices. [more inside]
My children are scattered. But we all love each other and want to stay in touch. I would like to find a good private family social website, preferably free, where we can all post photos, videos, recipes, thoughts, quotes, jokes, calendar items, share a youtube link, etc. Accessible via computer and android phone or tablet. To be clear, I don't want a photo (only) sharing website. But one where we can share all kinds of media among family member only. [more inside]
We're looking to take a 4 day road trip up the central coast of California but we can't seem to agree on an itinerary. My partner wants to stay in Monterey, venturing from there. I'm not as excited about the town of Monterey and I also can't seem to fit in everything I want to do! [more inside]
What advice would you give someone going through a serious long distance relationship? [more inside]
So, this is maybe a silly question, but I am looking for a replacement for instant ramen. I eat it pretty frequently but I am looking for a healthier option. When I make it, I usually throw in some fresh veggies and an egg and whatever leftover protein we have around. I work from home, so it's nice to have for a super quick, warm lunch. What other meals will scratch this same itch? [more inside]
I have a very good friend who is overweight and fighting an eating disorder. I want to support them as best I can, without suggesting fixes or minimizing their feelings. They've recently expressed that I don't really understand where their pain and feelings of isolation come from. Peeps of the Green, can you help me find some readable points of view that might shed some light? [more inside]
I got a free week of one of the meal delivery services. Is there a way to replicate that without the hefty price tag? What sort of meal planning apps or sites do you use and why? [more inside]
My mom has a generous long term care insurance policy. It has just been necessary for her to move into assisted living . I am looking for help getting the insurance policy to pay. [more inside]
I recently started a small service business and I'm trying to sort out the phone situation before I start advertising. I'd like to accomplish two things: 1) Find a decent answering service/virtual receptionist that will answer occasional calls when I'm busy so callers reach a person rather than voicemail, and 2) Use my current google voice number if possible to keep down costs. Can this be done? [more inside]
I rated our Uber ride from Prague airport but there was no option to tip... any ideas what's going on and how I can tip our driver retrospectively?
I have been working at a full-time job that I love for the past 7-ish years. I think that I need to find a better work/life balance (or better work/life integration, depending on your beliefs) but I'm struggling for a bunch of reasons - personality traits, ADD, etc. Help me sort this out, please? [more inside]
I am tentatively looking for a new job. I have never really looked for a job in my adult life -- I got lucky and have been promoted and worked my way up the ladder at the place I was hired at straight out of college, and even that came from a summer "internship", where they hired me because I was the kid of someone who worked here. So now that I decided that I want to explore new opportunities, I do not have the skills to even know where to start. Help! [more inside]
I own my own domain, and use distinct email addresses for any website that requests my address. For the the case of my Marion County Indiana voter registration email address, I received a political solicitation recently. This is the first message I have received other than my first email contact with voter registration (in 2015). [more inside]
I’ve been considering transitioning from shift work to a regular 9-5 office job in the next few years as my family grows. Can you help me parse this out in my mind? [more inside]
I was lucky enough to get firstlastname.com but the domain company (Hover) does not do website hosting. I looked at Squarespace and similar but I don't want a fancy template, I want a completely clean slate that I can just FTP stuff that I create, and I don't want to buy a domain name from the hosting company. I am fine with paying $5/month or whatever. Can I get an account at Squarespace and just delete all their crap? Or what's a better site? [more inside]
More specifically: How can I link multiple radio buttons to numeric values, and then have all values summed before showing the final score? [more inside]
My oldest friend recently asked, "do you want to go with me on a history tour of New York City?" and I said "YES." Before our trip next weekend we each have the assignment of identifying historical things to do on three days: Brooklyn Day, Downtown Day, Uptown Day. [more inside]
We're pregnant and thrilled! Names are hard; please suggest good, strong, nontraditional, evocative names for a baby boy. Details and preferences within. [more inside]
How can I put an end to obsessive thoughts about a crush before they completely ruin my life? [more inside]
Any ideas on how I could convert this cat butt coaster pattern into a granny square or granny hexagon for making a blanket? Or other ways to join a bunch of crocheted cat butts together? Thanks!
I inherited this plant. It's about a foot tall, and looked a little like a palm tree. It had long green fronds about 18 inches long fanning out from a central column, but those fronds are going brown and woody and it's spreading. Help? [more inside]
Curvy campers - what do you sleep on? I'm looking at doing more camping, backpacking and bikepacking, and I'm to work out if a sleeping mat that accommodates curves is actually a thing. [more inside]
Last month, in this post, "Can a website be continued by someone else", I asked if there was any way to either ask the gov't to give me the source code for the USDA's "Supertracker", or reproduce it myself. Reproducing it myself was unlikely. [more inside]
I'm hazily recalling a story about a city in Europe that was heavily damaged in a major conflict (maybe the Thirty Years' War?) and afterward the city chose to ask for a university in compensation/condolence. What historical event does this correspond to?
We found this vintage cocktail napkin. It is in excellent shape. What should we do with it? [more inside]
I'm looking for short works of speculative fiction or anthropology that discuss how society and nature shape technology. Ideally, they should address this question: how do different kinds of social norms, cultures, laws, physical environments, and biologies influence what science or technology is developed in the first place, and how it is adopted? [more inside]
I've worn RGP lenses since I was a kid, but my new optometrist convinced me to go with soft lenses (30-day disposable). She didn't give me much info about the new lenses or the differences between the two. Has anyone made a similar switch? Any "real" tips/tricks/warnings that a doctor wouldn't necessarily tell me?
I'm looking to spend 7-10 days in late May on vacation in Arkansas, Mississippi, Alabama, and Tennessee. Do you have recommendations for neat things to visit in these states (plus if you have itinerary suggestions, I'm all ears!)? [more inside]
About four months ago, I had cataract surgery on both eyes. My left eye has never been the same since. I wonder if anyone has had a similar experience. [more inside]
I'm a US citizen who works remotely for US clients (and, occasionally, Swedish clients) as a self-employed freelance writer. I want to move to Sweden, but immigration law hasn't caught up with digital nomads. Can you help me figure out how to do this? [more inside]
Within the past couple of years, I read an article about building skills in creative fields. The main point was that you start by developing taste, and then there is a period where your own work falls short of your standards, but with enough effort you can reach a point where you are satisfied with your own work. Anyone know the source?
Want lounge pants for those days when I get off work and do not want to be in normal human clothes. Or when it's the weekend and screw normal human clothes. Details for dream lounge pants inside. [more inside]
Any law enforcement people or other types know? [more inside]
Looking for an affordable, decent, self-powered small mic to use for sampling with my PO-35. Yes, I know I can line in from anything (my old cd player, mixer, audio interface, adapt a fancier mic, etc) but I'd rather not, in the name of super portable funz. I don't want the cheapest thing out there, because the built-in mic is already doing an approximate job of that. I know I could get a used SM57 or something like it to work, buuut is heavier than I'd like. Thx audio gadget mefiters!
I would like to print out some technical documentation that is provided in PDF, epub, and mobi formats (along with another set of technical ebooks in PDF-only format). [more inside]
Is there a good sewing manual in Korean that anyone could recommend? [more inside]
I'd like a tablet + keyboard combo or very lightweight laptop that I can use while traveling. The goal is to have something a little more pleasant to read and watch things on, and more comfortable to type longform on, than my phone, without having to lug around a laptop. The kicker: must run Android or be able to run Linux. So while something like a Surface is exactly what I'm looking for, it's out of the running. What's the Android or Linux-friendly equivalent?
Can you recommend a podcast that consists of good recordings of sermons? My girlfriend missed Episcopal services this morning and would like a replacement. [more inside]
Inspired by this old blog post, what’s the best way to obtain a 5000$-to-10000$-ish full education in music, without seeking a conservatory degree? [more inside]
I'm looking for videos of choirs backing well-known singers, along the lines of Choir! Choir! Choir! and David Byrne, or this gospel choir singing with U2. Acoustic a plus, as is a smaller venue. [more inside]
What kind of influence should my husband’s conservative religious family have in our household and traditions? [more inside]
I would like to read a fun, fast-paced, ideally thriller-y fiction book not written by Stephen King in which ley lines are used as a plot device. I only have enough interest in me to read one such book. Any recommendations?
Need advice from experienced turkey people - how to adjust cooktimes on those "ready to roast" turkey breasts in the plastic bag things that have been thawed? [more inside]
Is the work culture in southern China (Guanzhou) noticeably different from in central and northern China? [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for metalsmiths who re-tin copper pots and pans. [more inside]
My mom is likely within a week of dying. I've gotten to spend considerable time with her over the last 2 months and I'm grateful for that. I face two dilemmas that I can't resolve internally. One is straightforward, the other is more nuanced. [more inside]
Our almost-17yo is realizing that he is interested in a more feminine, stylish personal presentation, but struggles to articulate what that might be. Help point me to resources for him. [more inside]