March 2018 Archives
I'm a video game designer looking to switch careers and maybe/maybe not industries in the near future. I'm looking at a specific program for a computer science degree and want some input from general software engineers and video game programmers (or others with relevant knowledge) on whether this program will adequately prepare me for the switch. Specifics inside. [more inside]
I'd like to find a way to collect data from continuous integration builds for a non-profit project and graph the execution time of multiple tests in the simplest way possible without requiring manual intervention. The codebase is Python and source is stored in BitBucket. Can spend a little money but I definitely don't want to do anything that involves talking to salespeople or a complicated infrastructure project. Ideally, I'd post a set of data over HTTP and there'd be a publicly accessible URL where people could see the results of tests by commit. [more inside]
In my childhood, I was given a set of classics, about 12 volumes. These were children's versions of classics like Tom Sawyer. The trick was, there would be one book on one side of the volume, and another one the other-- upside down. So I'd read one story, then turn the volume over and read the other book. I want to find a set of these. [more inside]
Looking for the name of a YA book series about people who, unbeknownst to them, live in a dry Mediterranean basin; and it is slowly filling. It features big cats and the environment lacks of wood (an intact log is a king's treasure). Anyone recall the name? [inspired by this front page post] [more inside]
I ordered a uBiome SmartJane kit, but now the internet is saying it is an insurance scam. What do I do? [more inside]
I received an odd letter in the U.S. Mail with cash enclosed and an anonymous note. Should I be creeped out? [more inside]
Risks vs outcomes for dental surgery for a middle-aged kitty [more inside]
I don't think this is a job for a "handyman," but I don't know of another kind of person who would be the right person to call for this kind of thing. I have a TV, and I have a sound-bar-and-bass-thing, and I want them to go. I hooked them up with a digital audio cable and then rage-quit. Where can I get someone to do this one thing, in Chicago, without it costing me a lot of money? I searched TaskRabbit with some keywords, but nothing comes up. [more inside]
Purchased an item from a store. Called to check if I can refund. A week later the owner refuses to refund making excuses. What are the options for further action? [more inside]
What kind of coping strategies can I use for managing adult ADHD if it's extremely unlikely I'll ever get a formal diagnosis? [more inside]
I have people coming over at 7, but I work till 5pm [more inside]
A couple friends and I have a sort of shared world, where we have a Dropbox full of character concepts and "threads," in which those characters interact. It's light-hearted urban fantasy with some erotic overtones. Where can I find other people to engage in this sort of thing? [more inside]
I have been getting awful headaches (In the face, [jaw, lips, eyes]) for about 15 months, specialists have tried to help but they weren't much help. I do yoga, meditation, eat healthy, no alcohol, no caffeine. Help send me on a path to finding out more about my pain. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
Hi, I'm trying to find out more info about this amazing piece of archive footage I've found showing soldiers parading and saying goodbye to their loved ones in 1917 Detroit - Can anyone shed any light? [more inside]
I want to make a site with the exact same functionality as this one: http://stealstrategies.net In other words, I want a Tumblr site with one lead image. Clicking it takes me to a random post and so on and so on. Is this custom code or is there a randomization/shuffle feature that I’m overlooking? Thanks so much.
We used to have a singing candle in our family that we'd light every birthday. It's shuffled off its lighted coil, and now I can't find a replacement. The closest I could find are these kind, which seem like one-use to me. Where can I buy one? Or how do I DIY one?
I went to turn the soil in a raised bed at my new home and found a big patch of...something growing there. What is it? [more inside]
"Always!" [more inside]
How do I get a Minecraft account for a child on a Windows 10 box? [more inside]
I've had uveitis off and on for a few months. If you've had uveitis, do you have advice on treating it? (If you don't know what uveitis is, DO NOT GOOGLE unless you like seeing pictures of inflamed eyeballs.) [more inside]
I have to send a parcel to somebody at a big company in the Netherlands. It is meant to be opened by him and nobody else. [more inside]
For MeFites knowledgeable about how insurers make a doc in-network...Why would the same doctor be in-network at one office, but not in-network at another office? [more inside]
I have three of these Strawberry plants arriving on Tuesday. Please give me your best advice for keeping them alive and healthy on my NW facing porch. [more inside]
What are the best books for choosing a college major? My 17 yr old daughter will need to declare a major next year and is having difficulty pinning it down. Although, she has a little time to decide and could just do a liberal arts type degree, she really does want to pin her choice down soonish. [more inside]
What can I accomplish in 90 days in Japan, with a car, without my baby, during the hours of 8 am to 7 pm? I am all over the place inside, help me focus! [more inside]
I have extreme anxiety/OCD/depression. I went from using pot as needed to calm down and sleep. I now start using it the second that I get home. I want to change this. Details inside [more inside]
I'm struggling to come up with a name for my speech and language pathology company. Those of you that are good with catchy wording please help me out! [more inside]
I, a 34[M], dread every single day of my upcoming wedding and think I'm doing it for all the wrong reasons. Is it just normal pre-wedding anxiety, or something more? [more inside]
After a violent relationship, I'm finally ready to date again, but have noticed that I'm afraid of conflict. How can I fix this? [more inside]
Are there any articles, videos, or instances directly or indirectly disagreeing with or responding to renowned herbalist Susun Weed’s pretty extreme claims about some things like veganism, raw food, or anything else? I came up short. [more inside]
I have a somewhat unusual way of feeding myself. Each week, I pick a menu of two recipes that share ingredients, and cook in one afternoon 10 servings of each recipe. I love buying in bulk, and I hate measuring volumes. And I really, really hate the "US customary" volumes. Are there recipe sites that (1) publish recipes scaled for 10 servings, (2) suggest recipe pairings that share ingredients, and (3) specify ingredients by weight? [more inside]
I've been searching Google and Adobe forums and part of the problem is in explaining this: basically, black borders appear on the sides, and the edges of layers in the film show (at least I think that's what's happening). I will upload one version to Youtube if that helps explain it. It works better when I do it as an AVI but then the edges, which, since my video involves layers, makes it look like the edges of the layers are showing on one side. [more inside]
I was quite fascinated with the FPP on AWK, and the commentary that it's A: only good for a couple of things, but B: seems to be -really- good at them. What other languages are like this? Equally, the comment on Humdrum interested me enough that applications of that one-trick would also be very welcome.
My house from 1979 needs a new tub and toilet. Badly. Due to some water damage, it's going need to go down to the studs. I'm going to need to do a good chunk of work myself. Where do I start to get a handle on this? [more inside]
Most cultures love to tell stories: spoken or written accounts of specific individuals who go on a quest/endure a challenge over a linear time frame, culminating in a resolution. But what other kinds of story-like practices have been reported in human societies past and present? An example might be the lists in Sei Shonagon's Pillow Book. Other made up examples: stories about concepts not people, stories with no time axis, stories with no ending; stories made of material objects; stories in Q&A form; etc.
My almost four-year-old and I will be flying out to meet the rest of my family in a big Airbnb in Flagstaff. And I've got no idea what we're going to do once we get there. [more inside]
People are tampering with our CISA lock on the tenement door (UK) - do people here know anything about these locks, and what is being done to it and how to stop it? More inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for 100% cotton bandanas, of good quality, in traditional paisley patterns. I'm having a surprisingly hard time finding them. [more inside]
What .htaccess lines will redirect a request for an arbitrary URL on a former WordPress site to the index page of WayBack Machine snapshots for that page? [more inside]
My wife and I are moving to Manhattan in the fall with our three-year-old. We're Canadians; she's been accepted to a 10-month master's program at Columbia, and as a not-allowed-to-work-dependent, I'm weighing doing stay-at-home-care with our little guy vs. putting him daycare. I feel like one year in New York offers opportunities for a fun, exciting year — but I have no idea where to start. What's the stay-at-home parent lifestyle like in Manhattan? [more inside]
Myself and a bunch of friends are entering a League of Legends tournament (in the "All Random All Mid" game mode). We need to submit a team name by this week. What should we call our team? [more inside]
Are there any vegan chocolate brands that attempt to taste like conventional American candy bars? I love all varieties of chocolate but mostly have fancier dark chocolate bars with figs, almonds and sea salt. Are there brands that offer reasonably good approximations of milk chocolate candy bars like Kit-Kats or Snickers? [more inside]
You know how after a camera flashes in your eyes, you see a sort of after-image of the flash for a while before it fades? I see something like that all the time, but my eye doctor doesn’t see anything and a brain MRI didn’t show anything. What gives? [more inside]
I have accepted that I am 47 years old and I will never be a vegetable fiend. I do not want to/can't make juices/smoothies/etc. Can I drink low-sodium V8 Juice and pretend I'm at least getting SOME veggies? How much of it do I need to chug to, say, get a full day's worth of veg per the USDA??
I'd like to find a coat that is: warm, comfortable, (eventually) biodegradable, and vaguely attractive. And that minimises cruelty to animals. I'm really struggling. Suggestions? [more inside]
Can you please recommend the best podcasts reporting on or following the MRA or RedPill or Alt-right "movements"?
I had a farmer's ale that tasted like a freshly mown lawn. Can a home brewer recreate this? If so, how?
Help me find the perfect sports bra. I wear a size 40G and have the worst time finding a sports bra that fits my needs. [more inside]
I occasionally teach large lecture courses of 100+ students, for which I've been using the course management software TopHat. I like it, but it costs each student $26. Is there a cheaper or free alternative? [more inside]
I have a First Alert SCO7 smoke/carbon monoxide detector, built in June 2011. It tests just fine. On the back, it says that it will give a specific warning beep when it reaches the end of its life, yet “replace unit after 60 months” is printed next to it. Aren’t these units supposed to last 7-10 years? Why would it say this?
A while back I asked how much fossil fuel it took to walk. I built a calculator. Can you look over the math and sources of information and tell me if there's something better/more accurate to use, and more generally if there are things that I'm overlooking that I could include (without getting too into the weeds). [more inside]
I'm looking for good books about the history of California (or the West coast more generally, or Los Angeles in particular). They don't need to be tours d'horizon. They can focus on a specific time/place/person/theme. To give a rough idea of other "local history" I've enjoyed, this question is inspired by Robert Caro's The Power Broker, but I also enjoyed Gotham and London: The Biography. I've read Kevin Starr's one-volume California, and would certainly be interested in thoughts on his other books.
Is there a credit card that will give me 5% back in cash or equivalent from a specific vendor? [more inside]
When couples get into a fight, is the responsibility always 50-50? And whose job is it to deescalate things? [more inside]
I remember reading somewhere that in some parks in New Zealand (and this might be my mind playing tricks on me) there are no waste bins to be found because "if you generate waste they want you to take your waste with you". [more inside]
I leave early, my partner comes home late. We have a 14 week old. If you worked similar hours and had a baby, do you have advice about baby bedtimes? [more inside]
A few local-music podcasts would like to use a cover song I posted on their podcasts. All their podcasts are distributed on Spotify and Apple Music. I’d like to get the rights for the song, but after reaching out to the publishing company that owns (?) the song, I think I may be in over my head. I’ve started looking for a lawyer to help me deal with the rights, but I have no idea what to look for. Has anyone gone through this? What should I look for in a copyright lawyer?
How can I perform well at work, to eventually get some benefits of being recognized as a strong performer, without making enemies from competition? How do I know what "my place" is? Can I "fight back" if someone makes me look bad or do I have to "pay my dues" by accepting this from a high status person? [more inside]
I have a touch panel from a 1991 AT&T home security system complete with wiring harness and supposedly in good working order. I'd like to somehow use common household batteries as a power source to illuminate the panel's lights. Is this possible?
Looking for some ideas for a nice carrot based side dish for an Easter Lunch. [more inside]
I'm going to New York City from Boston for a quick overnight next weekend. Arriving Saturday, leaving Sunday. Amtrak doesn't really work for our schedule so I'm thinking I might drive but of course I don't want to drive or park in the city. What are my park and ride options? [more inside]
After 10 years in our downtown offices, our administrative offices are moving to our clinic location and I do not want to go! There are 2 other spaces that a select few are going to and I cannot tell if that option is available to me but I want to advocate for something. I do not know the criteria for who was placed in any of the locations. [more inside]
We have to be in Golden Gate Park in San Francisco on a Saturday afternoon for a wedding (very soon). Where should we stay that is safest and nicest while also an affordable Uber/Lyft to the park? [more inside]
We've been looking for a house for about three months and we kinda dumped our realtor, how awful are we? [more inside]
The contractor we hired to do significant renovations to our house has done the demolition part and not much else. We are living in rubble and I’m concerned our house is structurally unsound. What are our options to get our home back? [more inside]
How do computers "think" about irrational numbers? If I tell my computer: √2 ^ 2, does it first calculate the square root out to a certain decimal place, then square it, and round the answer up to 2? Or does it somehow understand the irrationality of √2 and not perform that part operation? I don't have a CS background, so this question might be pretty naive. Links to articles/ discussions are welcome, my googling didn't go so well.
Asking for a friend. 2 x 5lb prime ribs, already bagged for sous vide today. Something happened last night - either 2 quarts of hot stock or a cracked door - and the fridge warmed up, and the prime rib temped at 50 F at 9am today. She immediately put the prime ribs in the hot bath. Can They Eat It?
Breast development NSFW question, with maybe TMI below the fold. [more inside]
I'm looking for a 2-5 year old car with better-than-average ground clearance, good acceleration, and decent gas mileage. I'll have very little time to test drive, so am hoping to narrow down the options early. [more inside]
I want to move abroad from the US for a few years. I know this kind of a move will be expensive. I have a pretty severe stutter and use a wheelchair. I don't want to struggle in a foreign job market after having struggled in America for six years. I have a BA in psych with an interest in both scientific and creative fields, and some hospital-based experience, but not sure if I want to stay in science or medicine, but maybe? How can I build a life that allows for a reasonable degree of comfort and mobility by working from home? [more inside]
What books, long form articles, research papers (or even tweetstorms or podcast episodes) explore how individuals are affected by the online social feedback system of things such as likes, favorites, claps, followers, replies, retweets? Seeking research into how humans, as social creatures seeking to fit into the group, have been impacted by getting constant feedback online by total strangers. [more inside]
How can I make the most of a substantial moving allowance? [more inside]
What contemporary thinkers have most influenced you and why? I want to familiarize myself with the contemporary intellectual landscape. Bonus for book, video, or podcast recommendations.
Please recommend software designed for reserving facilities and tracking their use. [more inside]
What type of greenery is used in these centerpieces? For bonus credit, what are the white flowers?
My partner and some family want to start a tabletop RPG campaign. We have varying levels of experience and none of us have DMed before. How can we get started? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I ran across this pretty statue which I'd love to have for my garden. Unfortunately its owner doesn't know anything about it. I'm guessing it may be a Hindu deity but I could be completely wrong. [more inside]
I saw this tree while surveying a roof in Northeastern Massachusetts this week. As best as I can tell, it is an ash tree on the bottom and a birch tree on top. This makes no sense to me. What is the deal with this tree? [more inside]
Need shopping help. Packable puffer jacket for top-heavy woman please. Inside, my story. [more inside]
Why do hard boiled egg recipes call for turning off the heat once the water reaches a boil?
Our 15 year old cat, Sam was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism this past summer and was prescribed methimazole. He has gone from 11lbs to 6lbs, is nauseous and vomits, and barely eats. We've tried everything we, and the internet, can think of. What else can we do for him? [more inside]
I have an empty milk jug (cleaned, washed, dried) and I want to fry chicken tonight - the problem is I don't have a big enough stainless steel container to store the oil in. [more inside]
I'm back again and struggling with how to disconnect from my 72 year-old mentally ill alcoholic mother. I've come to the realization that my sense of "obligation" to my mother is what's preventing me from moving the hell on from her. But... I feel "obligated" to "take care of her" in some way or other, because *literally* no one else will. [more inside]
What kind of work and resources go into producing a long-form journalism piece like this one? [more inside]
I bought a new computer for a business I help run with my SO. Hes paying me slowly back overtime. I'm very much about keeping it like new and well managed for as long as possible. I don't like kids behind the desk and that goes for his child as well. I take the business very seriously so when I saw the child was on there, I said "oh, no kids on there." And he got very very annoyed and felt I was ordering him around. So he said I should just take the computer back. I said we need it for the business. I feel hes making my job harder than it needs to be. He feels I'm talking down to him. Was I wrong to say this?
I realize that sleepless nights are *great* practice for having a newborn, which I'll have in a few months, but I'm pregnant and need relief from the RLS I've developed. I've asked my doctor, but can't stomach the magnesium oxide supplements she suggested.* I'm curious what has worked for others who have been (or are currently) in the pregnant-with-RLS-boat. [more inside]
This is a lunch tomorrow, Good Friday, in a Spanish household in London. An early Easter celebration for them due to family commitments and travel limitations. I have been asked to bring a bottle of wine, but what gift(s) could I also bring that would be appropriate, relevant and appreciated?
I'm a trans woman in Austin, and I've been letting my hair grow out for quite a while. I haven't been able to get it styled because I'm not out at work. That's about to change, and I'm ready to do something fun with it (my hair, that is). The question is, what to do, and who to have do it? [more inside]
I'm looking for underwear to wear when I'm on short bike trips around town. I don't need the padding for my rear, but need some way to stop chafing on the front. More details under the fold. [more inside]
How do I have a captivating resume without any college experience? I'm 42 years old and have worked in middle management and as a corporate trainer. I won't be deceptive on a resume, my integrity is important to me. I need a resume that can get me in the door without that gaping education gap. [more inside]
My husband's birthday is coming up, and his well loved Android-compatible smart watch bit the dust. Rec me a replacement? [more inside]
I received a strange text message and call purporting to be from Amazon about an appointment for a job interview. It feels scammy, and I'm just wondering what their angle is. [more inside]
I (strongly suspect I) have hidradenitis suppurativa. I didn't get it treated for more than ten years because of reasons, and now I'm trying to get it treated I can't actually tell if it's worth the misery of the treatment or not. People of MeFi with HS, I would love to hear about your experiences of treating this damn thing. (cw: lots of gross detail) [more inside]
Is it possible to remove timestamps from comments in Word 2016 documents without removing the commenter's name as well? [more inside]
I am hosting a competitive performance show, and I am looking for some alternative ways to award points and name a winner. [more inside]
I tend to have shallow emotions. I don't think it's quite the same as depression, as I've been depressed and gotten better. Most times, I have a rather numb baseline feeling. This doesn't go away so easily. I'm pretty much unable to cry and worry I don't react strongly enough to deaths and sad events. Sometimes, I think I sort of fit the definition of alexithymia, although it's a difficulty in feeling and not just a difficulty in describing feelings. I'm uncomfortable in realizing that this quality seems to be something seen in pop culture sociopath characters. I can't help but shake the idea that this could be part of me, and I'm not sure how I'd be comfortable with that. [more inside]
We're looking for walking holidays in Alps/ Europe for one week. Difficulty level: 10 month baby (single center with lots of <5 hour round trip hikes nearby) and no car (so the town must be big enough to have restaurants, groceries, etc). [more inside]
Our 6 year old has never been on a "vacation" and has been asking about one for over a year now. Now we also have a 7 month old daughter. We can't agree on a vacation to save our lives. HALP. [more inside]
I'm having lots of fun making my own music. I'd like to try some tools that include large sample libraries (i.e. Kontakt, et al) but I have an Air with a pretty small hard drive and they are a butt to upgrade. Seeking advice on my options to have libraries (and maybe some VSTs?) externally. [more inside]
I just looked at my iPad's photo roll and I see that there is a screenshot of the lock screen taken on 31 January, 4, 18, 19 and 23rd February, and 23rd March. At 12:03am four times, once at 12:02am, and once at 12:09am. There are none prior to January 31. The timing makes me think it must be automatic rather than e.g. me pressing the wrong button trying to log in and accidentally screen shotting. Does anyone know what would be causing this? (I don't think the iPad does automatic updates that often, so I don't think it's that.)
I am looking for beauty products/skin care with cool applicators. [more inside]
For the last 4 years I have lower abdominal pain on and off in the second half of my menstrual cycle. So far doctors can't find anything wrong and we can't come up with a successful treatment. YANMD, but can you help me figure out what next steps to take, or whether I should be seeing some other kind of doctor? [more inside]
I got this just now: "The webpage at http://www.free-spider-solitaire.com/ might be temporarily down or it may have moved permanently to a new web address." I love this version of this game and really need a similar online replacement. I am using Chrome on Win 10. Please help!
I'm in Da Nang, Vietnam for a work meeting but I will have one free day just for me on Saturday. In the past, I have visited Hoi An and the Marble Mountains. Any suggestions for other nearby attractions I should not miss? I prefer nature and history to beaches. I will not drive myself, but can get a driver.
My 10-month-old domestic shorthair was neutered at 5 months old. For the past few months, he has still gone on to display some aggression, mainly late in the day, and it seems to have gotten worse lately. Halp?! [more inside]
I have access to a great gym for three hours a week, 9am to 10am M-W-F. They have everything but since my time is limited, I'm trying to figure out a routine that makes the best use of my time there. [more inside]
I have developed an extremely avoidant personality in the last few years. I don't recall being this way before my late 30's. It manifests as extreme avoidance of conflict or difficult conversations. What would a CBT approach to working on this look like? [more inside]
I need some makeout music for bedroom scenes [more inside]
I just adopted a 10-year-old Bengal kitty. She is, of course, the best cat. Help me come up with a name! [more inside]
I'm moving to Germany in October. My state (California), does not have reciprocity with Germany for driver's licenses. Which means I'll have to spend upwards of €2000 to obtain one. Are there any legal ways that I could get a license from a state that does have reciprocity? [more inside]
How do I prepare my house and my mind to host them? PROS: I like having guests, go out of my way to host well, am accommodating, and have a dedicated guest space. CONS: I'm not a big fan of children, don't have any, am an introvert/need space, own expensive furniture and art, and work from home. How do I minimize the risk of casualties? [more inside]
Please help resolve a long-running question/dispute in my family: who is the lead actor in this Cathay Pacific ad? (YouTube link) [more inside]
I am soon going to be sharing my home with cat. He is a litter-kicker. I am converting my broom closet to his "bathroom" (litter box room?) but the room has hardwood floors and I'd like to cover them with something that won't get kicked around, that will protect my floors. Ideas? [more inside]
I have to sing it in a concert. [more inside]
I always struggle with this. At work, the hierarchy is clear and you just do what your boss says. At school and in other collaborative projects though, I always run into this problem. [more inside]
Inspired by this question, I'd like recommendations for a replacement for my Jawbone UP wristband. I like its app, the fact that I can track food as well as exercise and sleep, and it's not terrible looking. Heart rate wouldn't be a terrible thing to add to that list, I suppose. What are my options?
So for $Reasons we have a rotation of large clay ice packs for various pains that crop up ... foot on one person, sciatic nerve on the other, occasional sports strains ... but our ice packs seem to be less cohesive than they used to be. They feel almost "liquid" but aren't leaking, and don't last as long between recharges (which also takes longer). Do they "wear out" and should be replaced when they get all flabby? [more inside]
I found a hand-drawn flier on the campus where I work today (picture link below.) In the past, Identity Evropa and other alt-right organizations have tried to recruit on my campus. I'd like to know if this poster is in the same vein. [more inside]
How hard is it to get a 2nd mortgage for a separate property if you don’t have a ton of equity in your current home? [more inside]
Extreme irritability. What are some potential and possible logical or medical reasons for this? [more inside]
Every year I drive down to Salt Lake City along I-15 in March. Right after crossing from Montana into Idaho, there are a bunch of weird tracks plowed in the snow in the fields next to the road. What the heck are they? Pictures inside the fold... [more inside]
Stationery filter: Help me find a new filofax with security and a bit of magic. Details inside. [more inside]
Please help me identify these Reebok Classics I recently picked up at a Thrift Store: Reebok Classics (imgur link) My google-fu is failing. Are these newly released? Older never-worn sneakers? Would love to know the design name and/or year. Thanks!
I have an Acer Chromebook laptop. It's a few years old. Last year even when plugged in the battery wouldn't take a charge. Given my pathetic income, my next step was to use it when it was plugged in and ignore the battery issue. This worked for awhile until it would intermittently shut off even when plugged in. My next step was to bend, twist and hold the pin into the port with tape just so I had use of the computer. Welp, that's rarely working now. [more inside]
Driving a truck cross-country with a car; tow dolly or car carrier? [more inside]
I want to get from the Northwest to the Southeastern part of Costa Rica. I think I want to do half by bus, half by plane, since I don't have enough time to do the whole thing by bus. Which half will by more interesting by bus? [more inside]
I bought a refurbished Lenovo thinkpad with Windows 10 from Micro Center a few weeks ago. Because I’ve been dealing with a lot the past few weeks, I hadn’t gotten around to inputting the activation key for Windows 10 I had received on a piece of paper with the laptop. This weekend, a friend who was helping clean my apartment accidentally threw the paper away. Is this a big deal? [more inside]
Cats and dog are peeing in the wrong places, sometimes in related ways. It is making me crazy. Please help me figure out why this is happening and a solution! [more inside]
I'd like to keep track of what I'm actually doing with my time outside of work. This might be a long-term thing, but I want to at least get a really good picture of two weeks. I'd like for it to be able to nudge me once an hour and ask what I spent the last hour doing. Recommendations for an Android app?
At last, only six years into my membership, I must engage in a MeFi rite of passage. Can I safely drink Bailey's Irish Cream, purchased probably March 2017, that expired in September 2017? For how much longer? If I do, will it be gross? It is opened, and was not refrigerated but was stored in a cabinet with no exposure to sunlight. Yes, I know that Bailey's would tell me the answer is no.
Can anyone point me toward any research/literature on mouth breathing and heart attacks deaths? My hypothesis is that it does. I will ask my doctor, but I’d like to do some research before my appointment in a month or so. [more inside]
I am an engineer who doesn’t wear sneakers. Could use your fashionable but not too dressy shoe recs. [more inside]
I have a boneless butterflied leg of lamb to prepare on Easter. Upon researching how to cook this, the most recommended methods are either a grill or a broiler. I have an indoor electric grill and an electric broiler. Which should I use? [more inside]
My friends and I are looking for a certain type of game for our gaming night. We'd like a game we can play in which our gameplay affects future sessions, like carrying characters or game states over from session to session. We want to ALL play together, so having a game master is right out. What can we play? [more inside]
Small yard is half moss. How make it all moss? [more inside]
I've been reading about the sense of smell. In particular there is the idea that the olfactory system goes directly to the limbic system. They say that the very first time you smell something, your emotional reaction whether positive or negative becomes permanently imprinted. You will have that same reaction to the smell for the rest of your life. So what's the truth? What's the scientific consensus on this?
A friend trying to work his way out of poverty has asked me to help him buy a car. I'm concerned that the amount he wants to spend is going to get him deeper into debt because of excessive maintenance costs involved with the car. How much do you have to spend on a used vehicle to minimize the chances of getting a lemon. (If it makes a difference, he's in Jacksonville, NC.) There's a similar Ask from 2007 that puts the figure at around $2,000, but 2007 is a long time ago. [more inside]
Bullying has really ramped up with my second and third graders and I am struggling to know the appropriate action to take. I want the kids in my class to know that bullying is something I will not stand for, but there is obviously so much going on when I am not there. How should a primary school teacher respond to bullying? My classes are small so it is hard for the children not to interact with each other and to avoid his/her bully (which isn't the ideal soluation anyway). [more inside]
What options for non-wristband fitness trackers are available in 2018? [more inside]
I run the social media accounts for a couple of charities, and I've decided this is the year I finally get to grips with video. Please suggest great tech, good practices and apps I can use! [more inside]
This year at the seder I help cook and organize, we've got about 16 people coming and only one vegetarian. I'm responsible for the chicken soup and chopped liver and would love to make some similarly satisfying and delicious soup for the veggie guest to have with the matzoh balls. Ideas? [more inside]
I’m looking for engaging fiction or maybe non-fiction books for our new two person book club. They should be light to medium weight and reasonably intelligent. The goal is to get us back in the habit of reading and for my friend to survive a recent breakup. After that we can start on books that require more patience but that is not where we are now. [more inside]
Spring is finally came to us) I want to buy cool and spring jeans. I would like to find stone wash boyfriend jeans. is it still fashionably? Please advice shops ) Thanx a lot! [more inside]
I have ants. I do not want ants. Ants have been here longer than I have, and they'll be here long after I've gone. I'm the only one on the lease and they've ignored my no trespassing sign in very tiny writing so I need other ways to let them know they're not welcome. Complication: I don't think they are very concerned with my wishes. [more inside]
[Posting for a friend. Everything that follows is their words.] Have you ever been in a friendship with some financial or business entanglements with someone that turned out to be a narcissist? How did you disentangle yourself with the least amount of damage? Or did you have major damage and have learning experiences to share with me? [more inside]
I have an elderly overseas relative in Australia. They are not in the best of health with possible memory loss/dementia issues. Not being recognised as family is providing a hurdle for dealing with the situation. [more inside]
Not *totally* out in public, but to a limited set of facebook friends whom I trust. But still. It's facebook. It's the internet. I cannot guarantee 100% that it will stay within this group. My main concern: I never ever want my kids to know. Secondary concern: I have kids with the abuser with whom I share 50-50 custody; and I don't want to threaten the co-parenting relationship. [more inside]
Life is too short to continue to sell my labor in tech if I don't have to. I'm seriously considering life in an intentional community. I'm scouting out places like La'akea in Hawaii, Twin Oaks, and Catholic Worker houses that accept Buddhists. Would like to hear from MeFites about their experiences in ANY intentional community. [more inside]
What are your best ways to get free and cheap digital books to read? [more inside]
I'm the leader of a contemporary worship team at a mainline Protestant church in the USA. I would really love some resources for finding those rare gems: songs that are a) contemporary Christian, b) overtly progressive in their views, scope, and language and c) GOOD. [more inside]
I read that the Moon protects the Earth by slinging approaching dangerous space junk out of the way. Jupiter does the same thing. But given a random approaching bit of space junk, wouldn't the Moon or Jupiter be just as likely to sling a bit of space junk into our path as out of our path?
A colleague and I will have an unanticipated evening free in Manhattan tomorrow night. It would be awesome to see a show. Of course we have no plan and no tickets. I think there must be a way to get tickets at the last minute, preferably for cheap. Can someone clue us in so we can avoid scalpers and scammers?
Where can I get a Casio G'zone Ravine 2 from a seller who isn't utterly sketchy? And, alternatively, what other flip phone could I get instead? [more inside]
I'm so excited, this is my first Can I Eat It question! Whole foods 365 brand uncured bacon left at room temperature for about 5 hours, now in the fridge. I could just cook it all now and save the cooked bacon in the fridge, or is it too late even for that?
Recently I acquired these lamps. I am looking for suggestions for what lampshades to buy, as well as where to buy them, at not-exorbitant prices. [more inside]
I read a lot of nonfiction in different formats, including online publications, digital books (on Kindle and other devices), videos, online courses, conversations, and print media. I want to start to be more systematic about organizing this information. What's worked for you? [more inside]
Can you ID the green bag Selma Blair is carrying here? I've already read the comments there and in other posts where she's shown wearing it and googled several variations on "olive green bag" to no avail. Anyone recognize? Or maybe you're aware of something similar, since I'm sure the original is out of my price range? Important factors: olive green, structured, shoulder straps and cross body strap, leather or vegan leather. Thank you!
Sometime in 1960, Coca-Cola launched a new sign in Times Square (the circular one that looks like this). To promote it, they held a lighting ceremony in Times Square, and I have located a photo of that event here. Wondering if anyone is albe to recognize any of the people in the photo. Thanks!
I will be traveling to Italy and Greece in a few days. I take five different prescription medications, all in pill form. At home, I put them in one of those pill holders with little compartments, one for each day. Can I do that when traveling, or do I need to bring the pills in the original prescription bottles? [more inside]
How can I make an interactive bingo card? [more inside]
My all-time favorite American Chinese restaurant dish is Mongolian Beef. Whenever I order Mongolian Beef at a restaurant, though, it's a tossup as to what kind of Mongolian Beef I'll get. [more inside]
Our kid is enamored with the Cooking Channel's Carnival Eats. He loves the over-the-top fair foods the show features: weird permutations of pizza, burgers, hot dogs, tacos, etc. with heaps of cheese and bacon, lots of frying, and clever/stupid (it's a fine line) collisions of cuisines. The dessert stuff is even more up his alley. We're going to spend a few days traipsing around Chicago around next month and we'd like to hit a few places that might serve loony food that's right up his alley. Suggestions? [more inside]
I regularly need to do markups and changes plus simple sketches on architectural drawings. Mac only. Help. [more inside]
My dad used to make a version of oatmeal pancakes when I was young. I've been trying to figure out how to make them and failing. Any help is appreciated. [more inside]
I am starting to get seriously into skincare and am posting about it a lot on Instagram. I'd like to start a separate Instagram account just for that, and keep my main one for pictures of my kids and such. Is there a way I can transfer the posts from my current account to a new one, preferably all at the same time?
Hi All, I would like a bag where I can carry my gym clothes, sneakers & lunch. Ideally, this bag would have a seperate compartment for each: my sneakers, lunch & clothes with 2 shoulder straps like a purse. [more inside]
For several years, we’ve hired a company for weekly housecleaning. For a long time, the company has sent the same person most weeks: Someone we like, who does a great job. We were contractually forbidden from hiring her independently of the company. But now the company is closing, and that restriction is gone. The housecleaner would like to work with us (and other clients) directly. That sounds good to us. I’m looking for advice on how we can best make this work for all concerned. We are in Canada (Toronto) if that affects any legal concerns, etc. [more inside]
For something I'm writing, I'm looking for examples of the complexity (and expense, if you have any details to share) of the type of lab equipment used to research and develop complicated new technology that addresses major world challenges. The tech might be radically more efficient solar cells, a new treatment for Alzheimers or cancer, nuclear fusion, the hyperloop, etc.—anything with lofty aims. Can you share an example of what's needed to develop a particular technology? I want to contrast developing this type of technology and developing something like an app that requires very little equipment at all.
Do you guys remember Cringe, founded by Sarah Brown? My friends are all talking about and performing for Mortified, which I had not previously heard of, but seems to be the same idea. Which came first? [more inside]
Last fall, I bought a house with a healthy lawn. I have never lived anywhere with a lawn before, so lawn-related behaviors are new to me. I mowed it once but then had to travel for a few weeks and, by the time I got back, it was winter and the freeze was on. Now that spring is almost here, what can/should I do for the lawn? Should I mow it now, spread anything, leave it alone until...? [more inside]
Hello! I think it's a fun idea to have a bit of a sled to get through my crawlspace instead of literally having to crawl. There's a few projects down there, and having a bit of a mine-cart type situation to get around would be super interesting. I bought a mechanics creeper - but now I'm trying to think of the cheapest way to build a "track" for the small wheels so they don't get caught in the dirt. [more inside]
I have legitimate need of a decent Facebook chatbot to help our prospective visitors get to the right office. I've built a twine game previously that does it, but I'd really prefer it as a chatbot on FB. What's the best way to do this? Are there trusted hosts like Twine and CBDQ or do you host it "on Facebook"? For free is the obvious caveat.
I had bad post-partum depression following the birth of my second child. I couldn't breast-feed and was pretty unable to function and care for him for the first few months of his life. Things are better now and he is a delightful baby, but I worry that I somehow may have failed to bond with him properly. It's making me desperately sad and I could use some advice about a) how to strengthen bond with 8 month old b) whether this is even really an issue or just in my head? [more inside]
I'm looking for The One. Can anybody recommend a good therapist in the Sacramento area? [more inside]
I have three bonsai in a shared bowl. Two are snow rose and one is a ficus. One year into my bonsai journey, I am looking for good sources of Bonsai 201 content. [more inside]
I am looking for a side gig. I have a seen a lot of advice that a side gig should be something you really like doing. This has led me to create several small crafts, do some thrift shopping, take some random serveys, and not decide on a side gig. Please suggest side gigs where I can actually make some money. [more inside]
I've living in Vancouver, BC and there's one thing that gets me is that many people I've met are very willing to share details about themselves, at times telling me things I have never asked, and yet they don't seem to care about asking details about me. Is this a cultural thing? [more inside]
Six months ago I received an amazing gift - a mature philodendron monstera with a 4' tall, 5" wide trunk (aka swiss cheese plant). I put it somewhere where it didn't get enough light and over the next 3 months all the leaves died. Now I have a slowly withering trunk with no leaves. If I put it somewhere that works better for it (filtered light, etc.) could I revive this or is it compost?
I purchased a mattress after trying two ubiquitous companies that let you do the standard 100 night trial, the first one I returned, the second one I kept and it was awesome! I want more of this when I make purchases online in the future. What new companies (or old ones) are built on this same kind of business model, either try it free before committing or buy it and get free (& free return shipping) returns in X amount of time? [more inside]
I have felt the need to switch to another platform for: keeping up with others socially (events, birthdays, general status updates), posting pictures & interests, writing / journaling. Outside of the news of late, I felt a sense that Facebook was just becoming not only a suction of time and maintenance, but now even worse some shady bias practices. I made a statement in a post as such, and many friends said they'd be willing to follow to another platform if I found such. Does anyone have any recommendations (I'm thinking like old-school LiveJournal, or Tumblr, or something of the likes) that can be a safe, enjoyable, social space either for a small group of people or potentially a wider audience? Interested to hear what's out there.
What's my 2nd cousin once removed to my 2nd cousin on the other side? [more inside]
My tax accountant is in another state this year. I need to get her my tax documents - is there a way to do so securely online?
I moved to NYC last September with a BA in English from a good school and few marketable skills in my pocket, and I've had trouble finding work outside of a seasonal gig at a bookstore. I've had no luck finding any good tutoring jobs, which is the other thing I've done. So, I'm thinking about expanding my job search to outside the city, and I'm not sure what my best options in the USA are. [more inside]
Speakers of more than one language: how do you politely navigate group conversations when everyone is speaking really fast and you don't understand everything? [more inside]
I am bringing my teenage (17) daughter to Coachella this year. I've done basic Google research looking for tips and suggestions, but would love any personal experiences with the festival. [more inside]
Found this filter (front, back, long side, short side) lurking in my closet, next to the bags for my vaccuum cleaner. However, it definitely doesn't seem to be an accessory for the vaccuum, and I'm stumped as to what it goes with. It is about 6"x4.5"x1.25". There is no writing nor any markings anywhere on it. Thanks for your help!
Following on my question about an Abnormal Psychology class, I also need a Human Growth & Development class. For this class I can take a CLEP test. [more inside]
I've had some significant package delivery issues since moving to a new city. A cursory survey reveals that it is a systemic problem involving UPS as well as USPS but the former is my main issue. What recourse do I have? [more inside]
I've been contemplating guided-tour biking vacations, but I'm also cheap, and I happen to live about 100 yards from the East Coast Greenway. At which point -- hey, it's an already defined biking route, and a week or so to do 250 miles would be a very reasonable pace to get me from NYC to Providence, at which point I could take Amtrak back home with my bike. (Or, I suppose, go in the other direction -- train first and bike home). Specific questions below. [more inside]
I coordinate projects for an unusual recycling industry that is trying to expand. Random people contact me when they have suitable material available, and I'd love to have a streamlined way to share this with lots of industry members who may be interested. In the past, I've shared these alerts to an email list, but then I never know if anyone followed up, whether materials were ever recycled, or if it all got lost in the void. I keep wondering if there's any team communications app that I could use to post new listings, see who saw the post, and allow people to "claim" items on a first-come, first-served basis. Bonus difficulty: people in my work world aren't generally tech-savvy, so it would need to be really straightforward and simple. While I think a Slack discussion etc. could theoretically work, I'm looking for something with a ridiculously easy interface: see post, click yes or no. Does something like this exist?
My fiancee are considering honeymooning in Bulgaria. We're drawn by the relative affordability, the beaches, the mountains, the meat balls, and the realization that if we have a kid, our vacations might be more of the car-camping-at-a-state-park variety. MeFites that have traveled in Bulgaria, what did you like? Dislike? We'd be there in August.
Demolished an old weathered structure built of scrap interior doors. The structure was probably 20-30 years old, but some of the painted doors would likely have been older. White paint flaked off all over the lawn. Not sure if it's lead paint, so it's probably best to assume it is. How to clean it up? [more inside]
My mom will be spending a lot of time in the near future as a companion in a hospital room. When I asked what I could send her, she asked me to surprise her with a book to help her pass the time; I need recommendations. She prefers nonfiction. [more inside]
Based on my own research and discussions with family/friends, I am convinced that I fall somewhere along the spectrum of ADHD inattentive. I brought this up with my PCP, who has suggested that I go through the process of formal ADHD screening with a psychiatrist. She won't diagnose me herself, since it is easily misdiagnosed. However, all of the psychiatrists I've looked into offer out-of-network services only. Most tell me that the cost of screening will run me at least $900-$1200, and it likely will be much more in the event I need medication management follow-up appointments. I've made it to my 30s without pursuing a diagnosis or medication, relying on my quick wits, hyperfocus, and procrastination-induced panic-urgency to get things done. But, I've reached a point where I think this may be preventing me from living my life in the way I'd like, because I can't sustain interest in anything, including lifelong, beloved hobbies and a decade-long intellectual pursuit. This is causing me a lot of distress. It will take me months to save up for this process, not to mention how much mental energy it will take me to follow through with appointments. Have you been here? Was it worth it to you?
My husband is the owner of two 529s, one for each of our children. We want to transfer these to another institution with me as the owner, and have been advised that the only way to do a proper rollover is for both accounts to be in the same name. Does an ownership change count as a rollover? [more inside]
How likely is it that my life circumstances will torpedo my mortgage application? Negatives: Divorce is not final; 2016 taxes were filed late (ie, over the weekend, not accepted yet): 2017 & beyond income is good, but 2016 was terrible. More inside, plus some positive aspects of my situation. [more inside]
Before I tried to google this and failed, I could have sworn that one of the Naked Gun movies had a scene where Leslie Neilson sings "I'll Know" inexplicably under someone's window. [more inside]
My life has gotten unmanageable. I've found the details of life to be overwhelming, and despite my best intentions, I cannot get organized, nor seem to finish important projects. This is not a new thing for me. My life has simply not scaled well to my own solutions for getting by. I have a high-level management position, and the walls are starting to close in. It's gotten beyond being a time-management issue or trying to get more organized, and I've been seeing a psychiatrist about anxiety and depression. [more inside]
There are tons of train cab ride/ driver's view videos on youtube, but I've only been able to find this one shot on board a shinkansen (Tokyo -> Nagano). Is this the only one, or are there others which have escaped my search? [more inside]
Hi Toronto people, I'm going to be in your town this weekend, staying a few blocks from the Rogers Centre. Any wonderful food experiences in that neighborhood you recommend? I doubt I'll have time to go anywhere that isn't reachable on foot so just that area only please. Any cuisine, any degree of fanciness/not fancy.
I’m trying to understand some Google Translate weirdness. For English->Spanish entering "my name is ____" translates to "mi nombre es ____" for every name I can think of. Except Tim. "my name is Tim" translates to "me llamo Tim". As much as I like to feel special this is weirding me out a bit. Can anyone suggest an explanation?
I (36 F) and Mr. Millipede (40 M) are trying to conceive, via fertility treatments, after a 6-month break from doing so. Last time, it was increasingly emotionally hard each cycle. This time, it is already emotionally hard. I seek your strategies for mental and emotional stability during this time. [more inside]
I rescued a lot of tomato juice from my giant can of diced tomatoes. What can I make with it that a) isn't a smoothie or soup b) can be eaten with a fork or spoon or sport?
My 12-month-old loves songs with hand motions involved: Itsy-Bitsy Spider and I'm a Little Teapot are in our top-5 rotation. (And he's a bit young for Miss Mary Mack...) I'd love to find more songs to sing with him that fit into this mold. What other songs with hand motions can we work into our rotation?
Is there any way to monitor an off-property garage door without wifi? [more inside]
I recently stumbled across a job I'm very qualified for and would be interested in if the money was amazing, so I'd like to apply. I love helping other people put together CVs but ironically, now that I have to do one myself for the first time in 15 years, I am in need of layout and organisational ideas for self-employed people applying to traditional roles. [more inside]
The Invincible house is moving! How do we hold an open house when we live with three cats and a very barky dog? [more inside]
I am visiting Tokyo for the first time, and am looking for something besides a guidebook (fiction or nonfiction) that will provide an interesting layer of interpretation as I move about the city. [more inside]
MusicFilter: I can't believe I'm wasting a question on this but for years now I have been obsessed with Bob's burger's The Mad Pooper. I need more music like it but nothing satisfies. What should I be looking for? Poop references not necessary. [more inside]
Help me decide where to live! [more inside]
I know I need to lose weight, but I've spent half my life battling with my weight and the remaining half of my life battling with the psychological scars from that process. I would like to lose weight, for my health, in a way that does not trigger the demons of my childhood and early-20s to raise their ugly heads again. Can I do this? How can I do this? I am scared. [more inside]
This is an apartment, not a dorm. 1 of 4 roommates is being awful, and the roommates want to know what they can do. My son (19) goes to college in Boston, the school has no dorms, he and and three other young men leased an apartment at a reputable complex close to their school. [more inside]
I have a spreadsheet with movie titles and release year. I'd like for each of them to determine whether they are available on netflix. How can I achieve this? [more inside]
I stupidly leased a room to someone for a year, with a 30-day verbal agreement should he need to move or I needed him to move -- as 'giving notice'. No written lease. There was also a verbal agreement re the utilities, a set amount per month. He stiffed me on part of the rent and month and half of utilities (just up and moved out), and I want to go to small claims court. Can I? [more inside]
I have over 300,000 air miles on three different airlines (Delta, United, Alaska) and realized that I could use those air miles to go around the world! Suggestions? (and trip limitations inside) [more inside]
What are things the exist and don't exist at the same time? [more inside]
I was once told that "1 million seconds = 14 days, and 1 billion seconds equals 35 years." Now that I've learned about the difference between a Long Scale Billion and a Short Scale Billion, I'd like to know if this quote is correct using the Short Scale (1,000 millions = 1 billion). [more inside]
Please share your successful photo sharing strategies for distributed teams who need low, low tech. [more inside]
What does one person do with 5lbs of (Yukon gold) potatoes that she.. accidentally cooked? My intention was to parboil them and freeze some for roasting later, but I lost track of time and now they're very cooked to the point of falling apart, and my feeling is that they will not hold up well to tossing in oil and roasting at this point. The only thing I can think of is mashed potatoes, but I don't actually like them very much. Any other ideas?
The girlfriend and I are getting ready to go to New Orleans next week for the first time. We are not big partiers but would call ourselves foodies. What spots so we make sure we hit keeping away from the touristy stuff? Outside of great restaurants, what else are must sees in New Orleans? Thanks in advance
But they have a heart of gold. Movie examples include Hugh Jackman as Wolverine. Jeremy Renner in Wind River. Ethan Hawke in Maudie. Clint Eastwood in Gran Torino. On Netflix, the sheriff in Longmire. Books like A Man Called Ove. Extra points if currently found on Showtime or Netflix. Thanks.
So the women at my work are in a bit of a bind. We're experiencing what we believe is sexual discrimination, but the only reason we can say that is because the women are treated differently from the men, and tasks are prioritized differently. That's one problem - it's not blatant, just a pattern - which is obvious to anyone who knows about sexual discrimination, but harder to understand for people who don't take it as seriously as they should. The second problem is that it's technically a "subordinate" - although we are not their supervisor, they are supposed to be taking requests from us. And most sexual discrimination laws seems to be discrimination from "employer/potential employer". The person has been reported to their supervisor (which is our supervisor), with no results. That is potentially the only avenue that I can think of to take it to HR - that the supervisor has been informed of sexual discrimination/bias and has refused to take action. Thoughts? Advice? I have begun requesting documentation from the supervisor as to what they've done - actual specific steps and it's all very vague. [more inside]
I'm putting together a compilation of resources about affirmative/enthusiastic consent. Please help me find an amazing video I watched a few weeks ago breaking down the sexual misconduct allegations against Aziz Ansari. [more inside]
I would like to set up a very simple website for my synagogue. At this point, and for the foreseeable future, what I really need is a donation form. If tax receipts can be auto-generated, even better. [more inside]
Wife and I are planning a trip to Iceland this summer. I have many questions I'll probably be posting over the coming weeks/months. First up, which flight to choose? [more inside]
I don’t know if it’s me or I’m just attracted to wrong people. I am also not sure if this relationship has been a rebound for me after that terrible previous experience I still think about a lot. [more inside]
Several years ago, we took the perfect winter vacation with a group of friends. We could go back to the same place, but we'd like to experience a new location with some of the same elements. [more inside]
I have wanted a dog for a few years now, and my desire is only growing. The only thing is that I will be moving to a new area for a PhD program and don't know if it's realistic to think that I will be able to manage coursework and the responsibilities of having a dog. I'd like to think that I can, but maybe I need a reality check. [more inside]
I'm going to be commuting by car twice a week from Berkeley to Stanford and back. I have some timing flexibility on the way back: I can leave Stanford at 3pm when I finish work, or I can hang around for a while and leave later. How much difference would it make traffic-wise to leave at 3pm vs. 4pm vs. 5pm vs. 6pm? When is peak rush hour on that route and when do things ease up a bit?
I would like to find a site that will allow attendees at a public even to easily upload photos they already have on their phones to a location that everyone at the site can view easily. [more inside]
I’m finally going to see the Wienermobile tomorrow! What are some other commercial cars shaped like the things they sell?
I often experience moments of euphoric happiness that are so fleeting that they are gone immediately after I become consciously aware of them. What are they, what causes them and is there any way to "grab hold of them"? [more inside]
I'm happy to make the first friendship move, but I don't know if you're ignoring me on purpose to send a soft no or your computer was broken for three days. [more inside]
We have a terracotta tiled kitchen floor with a couple broken floor tiles and a couple that are so broken that there are pieces missing. The eventual goal (within the next few months) is to repair the substrate and replace the floor. I'm also tired of tripping over them and will be having a bunch of people over this coming Friday. I'm seeking temporary fix ideas that won't interfere with future actual fixes. [more inside]
We are an overseas couple who are considering eloping to a US city. As we will be on holiday, time will be limited, so we want somewhere which is basically first come, first served. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I would like a simple kickstart program to getting back to fitness and weightloss and I have an unexpected opportunity to concentrate on this for 3 weeks starting from Friday. Suggestions please. [more inside]
Recently re-watched Cassavete's 1980 film Gloria and was mesmerised by the wallpaper in Gloria's bedroom in her Bronx apartment. I can find only two poor shots of it online. Anyone recognise it or able to roughly date it? Or know an archive I could trawl through to search for it? Hope me, MeFi!
I have come into possession of a pair of headphones that are perfect in all but one respect — the bare wire is exposed on the cable right where it connects to the earpiece. What can I do to make them sturdy enough to use? [more inside]
I’d like to set up a self-hosted wiki for personal notekeeping. Good mobile support is a must (either mobile web or a decent app that can point to my server). Can anyone recommend good wiki software to use? [more inside]
We need new window coverings, and I am not sure what is desirable or what to look for, with considerations of pets, children, and automation. Fortunately, we only have 6 windows… [more inside]
I have a question about an unusual problem with thinking about things someone doesn't want to think about. [more inside]
I'm looking for Seattle restaurant recommendations for a special-occasion dinner. We're a group of 8 who vary in income and whether we eat meat. [more inside]
I'm part of a civility working group. My first assignment: develop standard language to use when soliciting volunteers for event support to remind people not to rely on stereotypes when deciding to volunteer. [more inside]
I discovered an apartment rental scam on craigslist and so I made my own post in the same section, calling it a scam, in the hopes that it would help keep other people from becoming victims. Apparently this is a pretty common scam. Within hours the scammer emailed me threatening "consequences" if I don't remove it. How risky is this? Should I just give in and pull down my scam announcement, just to be safe? I just hate to see someone fall victim to it. [more inside]
My cat eats too fast and ends up vomiting later. If you had a similar problem, what timed/automated feeder do you and your cat(s) love? [more inside]
I have written innumerable papers and essays throughout my academic career, but upon entering grad school writing a papers have just felt like a struggle. In particular, it's like I've forgotten how to properly structure a paper and I probably spend more time figuring out how to structure my ideas/arguments than I do actually writing my papers. How can I stop worrying about the structure and just get on with writing my papers? [more inside]
Suppose you were exploring the boundaries of the Second Amendment’s grant of the right to bear arms, and wanted to pose a continuum of weaponry from muzzle loaders to nuclear warheads and biological weapons, to see where someone might finally say no, that shouldn’t be in the hands of civilians. What types of “arms” would you place on this continuum? Let’s limit it to ten.
My friend- a lawyer from DC- is coming into SF for a work trip and we're trying to get together for dinner and a drink at around 8 on Monday evening. I'd like to take her somewhere special that shows off SF dining a bit but that is not too pricey, and after a long day she wants it to be walking distance from her hotel in Union Square. Many of the restaurants recommended in previous Asks are really expensive (Fleur De Lys, Masa's) or closed (Ponzu, Lulu). Any local favorites that you would recommend? Thank you!
My go-to baked chicken stuffing recipe is just Pepperidge Farms sage and onion stuffing. However, this weekend I need to bake a chicken and would really like stuffing, but it can not have any leavened bread. [more inside]
I've just finished a collection of Mary Beard's reviews, Confronting the Classics. What else would I like? [more inside]
A Twitter account that is clearly a Russian political troll has retweeted one of my non-political tweets (about Pokemon of all things). Now that I'm aware of the account, how do I report it to Twitter in a way that they may actually do something about it? [more inside]
What is the best way to bleach white clothing to get it as white as possible?
Give me a solid, old-school RPG I can play on an Android phone [more inside]
In hopes of encouraging more reading in the house, I want to create a bookshelf of Adventure for my elementary aged kids. [more inside]
I bought raw honey for the first time. Before we nom... [more inside]
Over the course of many years I've discovered that medical procedures on someone else will make me physically weak and almost to the point of passing out. I've also nearly passed out several times when getting my own blood drawn at the doctor's office, so now there's an embarrassment factor involved along with the anxiety. How can I get myself under control without using xanax or other prescription meds? When you feel the lightheadedness coming on, how do you get a grip on it and stay upright? [more inside]
I've got to relocate to the burbs and, at the tender age of 37, need to buy my first (used) car. Feeling overwhelmed and need to narrow down the search, either with recommendations or with things to avoid. Details below the fold. [more inside]
What healthy foods do your teens eat? [more inside]
Going to Rome the first week of April and feeling a bit lost with the tour guide and tour company options. [more inside]
Looking for podcast recommendations. I love listening to podcasts like Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin, Dear Sugars and Group which analyse relationships, involve a lot of emotional honesty and are really insightful when it comes to human behavior and why we do what we do. [more inside]
How do I build a LinkedIn profile from nothing in my brand new job, without looking like a total incompetent in my new field? [more inside]
We need names for our upcoming (female) dog... preferably on of notable literature ancestry to match our (male) cat named Tobias Wolf (Toby). She is an English Cream Golden Retriever... so Thusfar I've proposed Virginia Woof and Jane Arfsten, but we're looking for your best names...
I own a domain which I currently pay for hosting on. I use an email address associated with this domain as my primary email, and I also pay for SMTP forwarding on that email address. Can I stop paying for web hosting and still keep using this email address? [more inside]
I am going to buy a new (to me) electric or hybrid or plug-in hybrid car... tomorrow! What should I get? [more inside]
Now that I have an Instant Pot, I've ditched my rice cooker to save cabinet real estate. I mostly make basmati rice, but after following this recipe which almost ended in disaster,* I'm wondering how you all do it. What's your tried-and-true method for cooking basic basmati rice on the stove? [more inside]
We moved near NYC on the Jersey side 3 years ago when our daughter was born. Since then it's been juggling responsibilities and life. We currently find ourselves looking for a richer social life but aren't sure how to find good new friends anymore. How do we find groups that we can have regular activities with? How do we build actual close friendships when we have comparatively less time? What has been your experience? What worked and what hasn't?
I've been curious about a sensory deprivation float experience for awhile, but mild claustrophobia has kept me from it. I just discovered a local place has larger cabins instead of enclosed pods, and long story short, I have a voucher for a 90-minute float session now. What should I expect? What do I need to know? If you float, what do you get out of it?
(tw: non-explicit discussion of erotic materials) Recently on the Blue's front page was a post about a UK shop that will take vintage erotica from embarrassed families. I need to find a US equivalent, preferably within 100 miles of Chicago, strongly-preferably within the next 30 days. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
When the populations of China and/or India are referred to, it's always "over a billion people." Is there common agreement about whether that is a thousand millions or a million millions? All I find is references to America and Great Britain. What about the French? Or the Chinese, for that matter? This is a number, even if an approximate number. Surely it doesn't change depending on my geographical location.
Hi AskMeFi, I’m curious to hear from divorced dads: how long did it take before you felt you could really date again? And how did having a child (and an ex-spouse with whom you co-parent) effect your dating life? [more inside]
I have an csv file with names of charities and their URLs. I want to add a column with the direct URL of their donation page. To speed things up, I am assuming many will be http://URL/donate, and would like a way to efficiently ping each one and see if that page exists/works. Is there a way to do this in excel/gooogle sheets or anything else (simple)? Any other tips to find donation URLs without manually checking appreciated.
Parents, what do you do with your slightly older children when on vacation? I am talking children that are let's say 7-13 years old, not so young that they need non-stop supervision yet not old enough to stay by themselves in a hotel room or a short-term apartment rental for a couple hours. [more inside]
What's the term for that thing where a group takes a word with a broadly accepted meaning, changes that meaning to something that suits their political aims, then argues (disingenuously, I think) as if the group's re-definition of the word was generally consensual?
The tenth anniversary of a close relative's tenth clean and sober anniversary is approaching. I wanted to find something in gold jewelry, like a necklace and pendant, as a congratulatory gift. I am asking for your help in finding a source of woman's jewelry that would commemorate her achievement. Price range US $300-600. Thank you for your help.
I was planning to accompany a friend to attend the March for Our Lives in DC tomorrow. As the day approaches, and as more information has come out about the plans for the event, I'm feeling more and more anxious about it and was hoping Mefites could suggest the best way to proceed. [more inside]
Mefi fastshionistas! I love this top (Mazzy from Alembika). Can you find me another that checks the same boxes but doesn't cost so much? [more inside]
Where did the bridge between housing development and web development occur? How come we say “I build webpages/websites”, which seems to present an analogy to “building” (in the conceptual sense) a house, or some other physical object? [more inside]
Hi everyone, I'm very concerned about a family member's mental health. He's 19 and has a history of depression/anxiety. He currently takes anti-anxiety medication (Lexapro) without a psychiatrist. Yesterday, he called me and described bizarre symptoms that I (as someone who is not a doctor) thought could've maybe been a manic episode? Today, he said he felt like he had a panic attack while trying to leave voicemails for doctors and every interaction with another person makes him want to sob. He's not suicidal, which seems to mean that no immediate care is available. He's in Philadelphia. Please help! Details inside. [more inside]
I am reading The World Only Spins Forward and finding it to be utterly enthralling. I'm looking for other stuff to read, as I have a very hard time lately finding things that hold my attention. [more inside]
I've got a boat with a dutch registration number. Is there somewhere I can search on that number to find historic details of my boat? [more inside]
What are some affordable options for cruelty free cosmetics that are also waste free or low waste? I'm looking for options that preferably come in tins or recyclable glass that can be found at drugstore prices or slightly above drugstore prices. [more inside]
My husband (who knows I'm asking this) will be on the job market again soon and I suggested that he might look for something other than coding positions. He's been coding for 20 years. It's all he knows. He can't even think of another position to apply for. Is there a direction I can point him in? [more inside]
The lease on our very ostentatious base model Civic is up in August, and I now have a 20 mile highway commute instead of a 7 mile surface road commute. The Civic is so, so loud on the highway. Metafilter car people: what if a teeny, late-model luxury car, that is maybe also a hybrid? [more inside]
My friend's mom (and family) was on an episode of Sally Jessy Raphael in the 90s. I would love to find either the name/# of the episode, a transcript, or bonus points for the whole video. [more inside]
This is purely idle curiosity, but I've been wondering why Twitter-hosted images are served from twimg.com, and Facebook media from fbcdn.com, rather than something like img.twitter.com or cdn.facebook.com. What's the point of using a whole new domain name instead of a subdomain?
We schedule multiple volunteers for two hour time slots on weekend days. The scheduling needs to be accessible from multiple platforms (phone, tablet, desktop, etc). It needs to be easy to use as we would like to not have a large energy of activation for people using the software. And of course, as a non-profit, we hope to not spend too much money. [more inside]
Is a NYS "legal separation" (a contract between my ex and myself, signed through lawyers and stamped by courts) count as unmarried by IRS standards, or do I have to file under "married filing separately"? You'd think this is a simple MFing question but noooooooooo. Warning: There is only swearing within, this is my entire question. [more inside]
I'm leaving my PhD program in Switzerland to go back into industry in the U.S. While I was there, I took a medical leave of absence for six months. I came back for a year, but have decided that this program is not for me, and am eager to rejoin the workforce in the same field I was in before I started my PhD (which does NOT require a PhD to succeed). Since my employment gap is three years, is this too long to admit that academia was not a good fit for me? [more inside]
I'm flying to Vancouver for a holiday in about 6 weeks and have run into a hitch with my eTA - I have a minor criminal conviction from over 30 years ago - and have been asked to provide information it that I cannot easily obtain. Not sure what the consequences of this might be or how to best approach it. [more inside]
I read a sci-fi story that probably came out within the last 10 years about the challenges of effective immortality and divergent evolution on a generation ship, with some people preferring to die rather than use the new tech to become immortal. The ship eventually meets other humans, only to discover that they are now incredibly advanced to the point of being barely human, and now the immortal-gen-ship generation is faced with the same quandary as the generation who chose to die off at the start of the story. What is the name of this story?
I just finished reading Alexis Pauline Gumbs' M Archive, "a series of poetic artifacts that speculatively documents the persistence of Black life following a worldwide cataclysm". I'm totally in love with it and would like to read more in this genre. [more inside]
Going to be in Central London playing tour guide to a relative who wants to see the London sightseeing highlights. Taking my compact DSLR and need somewhere that will copy photos taken during the day from SD card, onto CD or DVD. Must be in Central London and must be same day service. [more inside]
Is there an app or a Google Sheets/Excel template that can help me manage a budget for a specific project? The budget will include budgeted and actual expenses, income - and hopefully the ability to allocate particular sources of income to specific categories in the budget. [more inside]
Help me find a safe, clean, tetanus-free “junk yard” experience for my 9-year-old mechanically/technologically curious kid. My kid wants to collect scrap metal/busted mechanisms with which to invent new cool stuff. I’d like to provide her with lots of opportunity to indulge that curiosity. [more inside]
I am looking for a particular clothing type that was popular in the 90's - does it no longer exist? [more inside]
Are there any? A small business organizer app? Something that syncs with a web site? (Evernote?) Documentation tracking? Best scanner app, and a way to scan directly to Google Drive or
? Your brilliant solutions? [more inside]
It's the future. People don't die; they make clones of themselves and are able to upload their brains to the cloud. One couple (the adventurous versions of themselves) has an accident where the wife dies and there's no available backup. The husband has to figure out how to deal with the loss while no one else seems to understand (including the other copies of himself and their wives). [more inside]
When I Google replacing aglets on shoelaces, the results are all kludges involving glue, tape, or heat shrink. Is there not a way to professionally replace an aglet (specifically the clear plastic variety) on a shoelace? I want to keep the laces that came with my shoes, so I don't need the solution to be cost-effective versus simply buying new laces, as long as it's cheaper than replacing the shoes altogether.
I had planned for my mom to care for the baby when I return from mat leave and then put him in daycare at 18 months. I got a call and he's been offered an infant spot when I go back to work. Should I send him to daycare at 12 months instead of 18 months? If I don't send him, will I never get a spot? And how do I decide if I like the spot? This is in Toronto. This daycare is not my first choice and I would move him to my first choice if I got a spot. [more inside]
Say you were collaborating with someone in a Google doc. It was on their (corporate) instance of Google Drive. Assume that you will imminently lose access to the document. How can you preserve the edit history to show evidence of your work? Are screenshots the only way?
Do you have any recommended software for plotting data onto a geographical map? [more inside]
I paid for a copyright for an image on a site called Copyright Registry Online. It seemed to expensive ($135) and I later noticed some possible scam flags about the site online. I'm wondering if anyone knows about purchasing a copyright on third party sites, and even assuming I did overpay could I still get a legal and legit copyright license? Or could they give me some fake license that wouldn't hold up in court? I usually research this stuff before I jump into anything but I did this on a whim. Thanks for any help.
Can anyone identify this tune? It's in 3/4 or something, and sounds perhaps vaguely classical. Original source is a toy from about thirty years ago that plays it (=lower limit on the tune's age).
My wife and I were looking at appliances yesterday and the really helpful salesman had a tattoo on his forearm featuring a white triskelion-type pattern on a red sun. How could I determine in the moment if he is just proud of his Celtic heritage/liked the pattern or is waiting for a chance to ethnically cleanse us? [more inside]
Aside from Netflix, Amazon and Hulu, what other streaming platforms are out there, developing and/or presenting original content? I'm interested in all, no matter what size.
We found out this week that we may be gaining custody of a 4-year-old child who we've never met before. What should we be thinking about? I've got a list of things that I think are priorities, what am I missing? [more inside]
My niece is graduating with a PhD in psychology from a really good school this spring, and much like this question, I want to get her a great grad gift. The wrinkle? I don't really know her. More details below. [more inside]
What do we need to know about living out of a rented camper van for a couple of weeks this summer? What do we need to make sure we bring with us or buy? Tips or tricks for making it as easy and comfortable as possible? [more inside]
My question is two-pronged: Why, in general, is my toilet so terrible? And two, more urgently, what the hell do I do now that it's on the precipice of creating a disgusting mess in my bathroom? Details below: [more inside]
I have a company iPhone that syncs to our Exchange server using the default Mail app. Every once in a while - say, once a month - I get an email that I really should respond to rapidly (IT help tickets). I'd like to be able to glance at my phone and quickly tell that such an email arrived. How can I do this? [more inside]
I am looking for a science program broadcast between 1985 and 1990 on PBS on the brain. It had a very distinctive opening sequence with mysterious-sounding 80s synthesizer music. [more inside]
Help me make my Plex home media system work for vacations and business travel. [more inside]
My living space is in desperate need of a makeover, but I'd appreciate some direction towards online retailers I might like. Where should someone with a budget a couple notches above Ikea and a love of beauty, particularly Asian and Mediterranean-influenced decor, buy home furnishings? [more inside]
There's this coworker a bit senior to me. We started working together on a project several months ago when I first joined. At some point, I developed an intellectual crush on him. He's very likable, smart, and has a fan following, so I don't think I'm the only one. However... [more inside]
I was thinking about this passage in Fernand Braudel where he says that furniture was something really only enjoyed by the upper class in the West and claims that the rest of the pre-modern world mostly did not use furniture! Can this really be true? [more inside]
Help me find a jewish day school for my niece and nephew. [more inside]
An inspirational campaigner over a niche topic has recently died. A lot about his life would make a fantastic documentary, and there is a lot of archival footage of him. How do I approach his family to say I'd like to make a documentary about his life? Is there a "too soon", and, if so, how would I find out when I can make the approach? [more inside]
I've been using the word "bemused" wrong my whole life. I always figured it referred to affable, amused thoughtfulness. I'd imagine someone grinning a sardonic grin, comfortably seated in an easy chair, drawing on a pipe. Lost in thought, a bit detached and aloof, but grinning in self-amusement. Sort of a combination of "beguiled" and "amused". But no. Bemused, it turns out, is more of an expression of defeat. You don't know the answer, and you're probably not going ever know, and that's that. So what is the word I'm looking for?
Angel on one shoulder, devil on the other? I think I have Fred Rogers on one shoulder and General Zod on the other. I swing back and forth more than I would like between my kinder/agreeable/respectful side and my contemptuous "This planet must be cleansed with fire" side. I'd like to find a way to practice mindfulness/meditation (not sure I am using those terms right) to tilt my temperament more towards ol' Fred, but I'm wary getting started because I'm resolutely non-religious/non-spiritual and I don't want to sift through a bunch of woo or corny self-help schlock. Still there must be some way for me to find inner calm. Anything you would recommend? Books, CDs, whatever.
My income comes mostly through my single member LLC while wife is employed. I work from home and would like to maximize my deductions. We also had a baby last year. I'd like to find someone who can get us the best refunds, but a Google local search only returned H&R Block which IMO is overpriced for the services they provide.
We're looking at a 2-bedroom co-op in NYC whose application says that the apartment is restricted to three people. We're planning to have at least two children, so we'd like permission for four people to live there. What would be the best way to feel out the co-op board about this? [more inside]
My friend/roommate broke up with his girlfriend. Who is also my friend. I'd like to continue both friendships as smoothly as possible if possible. Could be tricky? More below... [more inside]
I have a few excellent photo art books of Latin America, Destino Final by Giancarlo Ceraudo and Miriam Lewin (about the military junta in Argentina) and Joao Pina's Condor (about Operation Condor). I have a number of great photo books about Latin America, but the quality of these two are a step above. What else is there out there, specifically about Latin American and the Caribbean history? [more inside]
I have been creating websites for therapists and therapy practices and I need to formalize things and that requires having a name. [more inside]
I'm the world's most indecisive person. This usually only applies to big decisions like jobs and which city to live in and whether to take opportunity A or B. I don't typically sweat small everyday decisions like what to wear that day or what to order for lunch. I hem and haw a short time, then I make the small decision and move on. How can I do the same with big decisions? [more inside]
A very dear friend in the UK has been robbed by someone they met online. They are traumatised, in shock and afraid to report it. I live on the other side of the world. Is there any support local service that could help them - or do you have other advice about how we could provide support? [more inside]
I've become more cognizant the past couple of years that I am moodier before my period, and moods often break almost as soon as my period comes. I feel like this should be useful information to have to gain perspective/objectivity in relation to whatever I'm being moody about but am having a hard time figuring out how to apply that concept in practice. [more inside]
I want to populate my digital picture frame with many classic images. Can you suggest a way to bulk download pictures I find on a google image search? I am a mac user
Should I use a notorious website to find jobs in my business? [more inside]
Apoptosis the younger wants a spooky story/tall tale inspired birthday party this year. I'm all in for a creative theme, but not sure what will keep 15-20 tweens entertained for 2-3 hours. I've got a campfire and a storyteller so far..help me fill in the blanks! [more inside]
This has been driving my friend bonkers and I told her metafilter identifies books fast enough to set land speed records. She remembers reading a werewolf romance novel set in the Pacific Northwest (she thinks Seattle?) with the protagonist being the daughter of a Russian mobster and the hero being an alpha from another pack. Metafilter, can you help?
Unfortunately, I have need of some way to determine who is at my front door without having to go to the door. [more inside]
How to remove the 'original sin' belief? [more inside]
The student has become the teacher... literally. I am an assistant professor in the humanities and it looks like I may get an undergrad research assistant (!!!). Now what? [more inside]
can I have your very best crush music for when you're zoning out on the train to work, thinking about them? [more inside]
Tips for an organization seeking to build a strong remote culture? [more inside]
I bought this drinking glass for 25 cents at a ReStore in Asbury Park, New Jersey. Imgur link to a pic of the glass. I *LOVE* it -- it looks great (there's a wavy quality to the glass) and feels great while you're holding it and drinking from it! It was by its own lonesome in the store. I would like to know if anyone knows what this type of glass is called so I can buy more!
When I feel stressed I like to think about running away to live in the woods. Instead of doing that I'd like to read books about doing that. My Side of the Mountain is probably the definition of the genre, but I'm interested in your recommendations for regular and YA books. [more inside]
The big question of my life is: should I go to graduate school? please help. [more inside]
I've got an old BlogSpot blog as an XML file on my computer. I assumed that when I opened it, it would display as the blog does on the site. But not so. Is this even possible? Or what have I missed? If I can't recreate the blog, what's the point? Thanks.
What are your suggestions for fun, creative activities that goal-oriented problem solvers can work on collaboratively to blow off some steam? Bonus points if the activity can be abandoned and returned to later without penalty, and if participants can come and go as they please. [more inside]
I have developed pinkish brown spots from my neck to just below my boobs. They itch, mildly but persistently, whenever I get my blood pumping, even a brisk walk, especially if it is warm. I have had them for about a year, and they showed up shortly after I started taking Sertraline, but I only took that for a few months, and it could be a total coincidence. YANAD, YANMD, but any idea what’s up? [more inside]
So my hands need to be kept busy right now and I'm sick of all of my current projects. What I would like to know is this: what's the most useful and beloved handcrafted/handmade item you have ever either made yourself (and kept by you or given away and then treasured) and/or was handmade by a friend or family member for you? [more inside]
I bought a pair of tickets to a Broadway play that, due to my apparent inability to track my own calendar, I can't use. The play is "Lobby Hero" -- high-profile but not a sell-out and not something people are clamoring for. I'd like to sell the tickets on the secondary market and recoup at least some substantial portion of what I paid for them and I'm willing to take a loss if it means I can definitely get them off my hands without a great deal of effort. What's the easiest way to do this? [more inside]
You've probably heard a variant of the joke that goes, "How do you cook [insert some animal that isn't known to be especially tasty, i.e. a seagull]? Follow this old Plimoth Plantation recipe: prepare a large cauldron, put in the seagull, boil for 24 hours, throw away the seagull, and eat the brick." Sure, it's a cheesy and lame joke, but I've heard way too many variants over the years. Where did it originate?
I would love to buy more used books on Amazon but I have problems with comparing shipping costs. Surely there's some better alternatives ? [more inside]
Are there any shows as good as the old Queer Eye for the Straight Guy and the new Netflix Queer Eye? Not just one makeover element like clothes or a straight-up makeover, but a team of people, each member with different skills, sort of making over the whole person and their psyche and their environment?
It's snowing again today, and my partner and I are ready to never spend another winter in NYC. Talk to us MeFi: Are you living that snowbird lifestyle? How do you make it work? *Snowflake details inside* [more inside]
I leased a car last year. Now I'm moving overseas. What can I do to get out of the lease? [more inside]
I run several podcasts, including Role Playing Public Radio and RPPR Actual Play. Lately, I have heard from many listeners that the RSS feeds are not updating correctly and I can't tell what is broken. Details below. [more inside]
I'm looking for a book I read around 1981. It was a children's history book told through stories of a fictionalised English family - the same family over several hundred years. One chapter described children being allowed to wear more comfortable clothes as a result of changes in fashion following the French Revolution. There was a fold-out family tree at the end of the book. My copy was a fairly thin hardback without a dustjacket, and I'm sure it was a British publisher. It was more of a fictionalised textbook than a children's novel.
Howdy. I will make this as succinct as I can: If I have an array in PHP, like $filenames = ['filename1','filename2','filename3',...] and another array, $indices = [0, 2, 6, 9, ...], is there a way, other than using a loop over the indices array, to create an array containing elements from filenames at the indices in $indices? You know, something like this: $result = [$filenames[$indices], $filenames[$indices], ...]. I'm prepared to use a for loop, but I thought that there must be a more elegant way. Thanks!
Fiction can't hold my attention post-Trump. I haven't read science fiction since middle school in the early 90's but perhaps if I read about the future, it will provide better commentary on the present than fiction that takes place in the present or past. Can I get some recommendations? [more inside]
My baby will be turning 1 and I need a main gift for him (i.e. the "biggish" gift of something he will enjoy for at least a few months but longer is obviously better. Difficulty level: He has everything! [more inside]
What resistor value do I need to make a dummy load to check the battery charging circuit for my Sennheiser TR220 wireless headphones? A voltage of 9VDC exsists between the charging contacts on the base station with no load. The headphones have 2 new eneloop AAA batteries. I do not know if they are wired series or parallel. Everything else functions properly. Another question: If the headphones have to be replaced, could a bluetooth wireless dongle using the native W10 software match the Sennheiser base station in sound quality?
An elderly couple from my church has requested company since the wife is on palliative care and not able to leave the house much. I'm trying to arrange a visit with them, but it's up in the air whether they are able to receive visitors on a day-to-day basis, depending on how her condition is. What is something I could have on hand to bring over, that could be made ahead or with a couple hours' notice? [more inside]
My phone stopped getting service in my apartment and I don't know what I should do. [more inside]
My partner and I are moving temporarily to Waterloo, Ontario and have been trying, with no success, to find a daycare for our 3-year-old. Is there anything that would help us actually accomplish this? [more inside]
I would like to write a visual concrete poem in an iceberg photo I found. I do not know how to make the text stay within the boundaries of the iceberg without sliding over it. Afterwards, I want to remove the iceberg photo once the poetry text is finished. I do not know much or how to create visual poetry and text wrapping as well. I am a novice with Adobe Illustrator.
Buying an old house from the 50's. There's foundation issues. Is this just going to be how it is with old homes? [more inside]
We have a two-year-old Cavoodle... a King Charles Spaniel/ toy poodle cross. She's very affectionate and eager to please, but has recently started barking at all sorts of strangers, for no apparent reason. How do we stop this behaviour? [more inside]
My SO and I are going to Norway in June. We fly into Oslo on the 8th, have to be in Bergen by the 13th, leave Norway on the 15th for an overnight in Copenhagen, followed by two days in Reykjavik. Help us plan our trip a little. [more inside]
My preschooler needs a space at home where he can retreat when he's angry or upset so that he can calm down. I'm looking for recommendations for how to create a space like this in our home that will be durable enough not to be destroyed by tantrums or even just very active indoor play. [more inside]
I live in Massachusetts and I was involved in a car accident a few weeks ago. I called my insurance the day-of to report it, and they acted in a way I didn't expect. I moved here from New Jersey, and I'm confused; how does insurance work in Massachusetts after a collision? [more inside]
This is for an art project. I need to look at taxidermy specimens or life-like models of animals. A museum is fine -- I don't need to touch them or be super up close. In NYC, the Natural History Museum would be perfect, but I am in the Maryland/DC area. I know about the Smithsonian Natural History museum. Where else should I go?
I have two accountants, and they are disagreeing with each other on a tax question related to a business venture. [more inside]
Seeking vacation ideas that are active, engaging, and wheelchair-accessible. Bonus points for trips within driving distance from the Pacific Northwest. [more inside]
I recently purchased a 10" Windows 10 tablet. It works well for most things but for whatever reason many websites I visit in Chrome or Edge or Firefox have a scroll bar at the bottom and require me to scroll left and right to see the entire page. Some sites work fine, like Metafilter's front page (it renders nicely without a horizontal scrollbar but this question submission page isn't fitting properly either) but Google requires scrolling back and forth just to see the full search bar. What the? [more inside]
I just found out that the six-hour work road trip I'll be taking tomorrow will be in an older car that doesn't have bluetooth, and I'm not sure it will have an AUX port. (It reportedly has a CD player but no tape deck.) Is it possible to buy a speaker that would work well enough to be listenable during a work roadtrip? [more inside]
Wondering what HR people prefer: I'm helping someone fill out a job application. We need to summarize the primary duties from previous jobs. Should we just copy that from the official statement of duties provided by those jobs? Or rewrite them to be... more personable or something? What style of citation do we use? [more inside]
We're looking for suggestions for things to do around the southern end of Shenandoah National Park and the northern entrance of the Blue Ridge Parkway. We're staying for a long wknd in Crozet, VA - and interested in cool little towns, unique historic spots, dog-friendly hikes/walks, and good spots to eat/drink beer. [more inside]
My current phone (HTC one m8) seems to be on its last legs, and so I'm in the market for a new one. I'm in a number of cities over the next couple months, and I don't know which would be best to buy in! [more inside]
I've been playing/training for Roller Derby for 4.5 years, a couple of weeks ago I started Strong Lifts 3x a week and I'm finding a tire more quickly at Roller Derby practice the day after. Is this something that will get better on its own or is there something I should be doing to speed recovery? [more inside]
Back in the mid-90s I recorded (via VHS) a fragment of a music video from the LA TV show Are-Oh-Vee. I've been haunted by the song ever since, I get it stuck in my head about once a week, but all I have is that one fragment and I missed the name of the band and the song. [more inside]
Years ago, I recall this being a "thing" but having trouble finding anything clear on it currently. Maybe before leaving, or maybe in order to stay. Is there any utility to adding garbage info, or is it just a total waste of time? [more inside]
I'm having uncomfortable allergic reactions when in my primary workspace. I have been provided an alternate workspace where I spend 95% of my time, but it presents difficult psychological conditions. The associated stress is impacting my quality of life. [more inside]
On my bike commute I have to cross 16 freight train tracks south of downtown Seattle. About 10% of the time, there are trains with coming through and I can't stand feeling like I'm wasting time. Today I was kicking myself for not having left 20 seconds sooner, so I could beat the slow-ass trains that always seem to stop and change directions just when you think they are going to clear the crossing. [more inside]
It's been driving me crazy. I think it's from a video game, but I just cannot place it. PLEASE HELP. You can hear it here. (Played on keyboard, not the original song on anything.)
I'm cooking for seder this year. It's also the first time I'm ever cooking for the in-laws. Side and dessert help needed! Includes bonus question about sobriety and Manischewitz. [more inside]
Given my recent interest in Cold War-era technothrillers, I'm also interested in games that depict conflicts in the period. One is Northern Fleet, a simulation of a hypothetical war in 1996. The catch is that this map is required for play, and not available in a screen-reader accessible format. It seems to have a bunch of grid squares, but they're apparently laid out in a somewhat unconventional way. How can I get the information I need from this in order to plan effective strategies? [more inside]
Can anyone tell me why the hell a Windows workgroup just stops working. machines vanish off of the network, and are unreachable via network browsing when no one has even touched them. (All the machines involved are in my house). I'm at my wits end. [more inside]
Metafilter! Have you been to the Faroe Islands? Do you live in the Faroe Islands? Help me plan my trip for this July! [more inside]
I feel like I'm developing a reputation for crabbiness at work. I'd like to change that. Thing is, I'm genuinely pretty crabby because I feel like I'm not being supported or used efficiently. Given that there's nothing I can do about that, how can I at least stop letting it show? [more inside]
My lead approached me today, very casually, and asked me how I felt about shifting from my current role and taking on more on responsibility in order to eventually (and potentially) advance into a higher-paying position at the company. Nothing about this appeals to me and I'd like to decline. How do I do this? [more inside]
One of my few bits of brand loyalty I've retained from my childhood is to Pride of Szeged paprika in the red rectangular tin. In the Midwest in the 90s it was — so my parents claimed — the only kind worth cooking with, and I've kept that prejudice. But American grocery store spices are a lot better in general than I grew up with, at least in diverse coastal cities like the one where I now live. Is Pride of Szeged still the best you can get without going to a specialty retailer, or has the other stuff on the grocery store shelf gotten just as good and I'm making a stink over nothing?
I will soon be working in elementary schools. I have very little experience with children in this age range. Please advise? [more inside]
Do you have a favorite motel in the Sierras? [more inside]
I *just* noticed that for a plane trip tomorrow (US, domestic), I made a mistake on Kid BlahLaLa's reservation. Correct first & last name, wrong middle name. (I don't know how the hell I did this, but I accidentally gave him his dad's middle name. Dad isn't traveling with us.) How big a deal is this, given that we are traveling together, and in theory Kid doesn't need to show any ID. He's 14. [more inside]
Inspired by EmpressCallipygos' question below and its tragic resolution: once you've read all of James Herriot, what are the other great books about veterinary medicine? (Fiction completely welcome.)
I have an interesting rock/artifact/thing that I found in a creek in a state park in upstate New York in the early 1980s. What is it? [more inside]
We got an insane utility bill today that I am positive cannot be correct. Help me convince the utility company there is a problem. [more inside]
I just want a bit of color, without shimmer. I've been duped before - sample swatches and packaging that looks like it shouldn't be shimmery, but as soon as I open the package the actual lip balm is. Do you have recommendations? I'm looking for drugstore brands, but if you have a favorite from a fancier brand, I'll take a look at it too. Oh, also, I don't want lip balm you have to touch with your fingers to use.
We have kitchen shelving with these lamps built into the underside of them. They take halogen bulbs with two little pins. The problem is that the contact between the pins and the inside of the two-pin socket is terrible--some only work if you move the bulb around with your finger, and then stop working if you release that pressure. Is there any fix for this, short of replacing the lamps? [more inside]
So I'm not a pro in the kitchen, but I've recently started baking with kefir, and love the results, but I haven't figured out fermenting dough with kefir yet. I'd greatly appreciate any advice from someone more knowledgeable about bread making. Is it possible to ferment dough with ALL of the ingredients in, or should sprouted (pre-fermented) flour be used for this? [more inside]
Seeking the title of a book about a north English country vet I read once upon a time, who is not James Herriott. The few details I can remember are inside. [more inside]
For some time, I have been thinking I would like to go on a tropical/semi-tropical vacation. But I don't think a typical resort-holiday would be what I would like - and I know my husband would hate it (or so he says). So I'm here to pick brains about possible other, interesting but still affordable options - especially if there is a specific place you have been, or company/package you could recommend. [more inside]
We found out on this valentine's day that we got a wee little guy on the way (yay and omg) and since finding out I've had this growing urge to sing a lot to him/her (!even dug out the guitar) – which is cool and a little surprising and ...I've found that i really don't know many remotely lullaby-ey or baby-soothing songs...so this is where you guys could help? any ideas? [more inside]
I'm looking for a book I had as a child (1970/80s). It was a color illustrated children's book that showed the history of an English town from prehistoric to "modern" (1970s?) time. Each page had a scene showing the state of the town from prehistoric settlement to Roman town to medieval city, etc through to modern city. I have vague memories of the title being "Story of a town" or "Life of a town" but my Google-fo has failed me.
Often, I delay going out to run errands till after lunch because I don't want to have to grab a lunch from a fast food joint. This is terribly inconvenient. The fix would be to pack a lunch and eat in the car or perhaps eat two small meals before and after the errand run. A packed lunch isn't very appealing and two small meals isn't as appetizing as a substantial meal. Do you have some work around that I'm missing?
I've recently started swimming for exercise, with the primary goal of generally improved fitness. It has the secondary benefit of elongating everything, which feels nice after I've been sitting for awhile (I go during lunchtime). What general advice can you offer? This can be examples of developing specific goals, practical tips, resources for workout planning, etc. [more inside]
I'm going off the birth control after many years of being on it and having pretty good skin (not perfect, but I'm happy with it). The only time my acne has come back was during my pregnancy when it looked pretty bad. If you went off the pill and anticipated that your acne would come back, did you start using any products right away or did you wait for it to appear again? Did you use the previous products or did you need to try something new?
We've finally started building presentation decks in InDesign and presenting them as PDFs. The slides look waaaaaaaaay better—but everyone really misses PowerPoint's presenter mode. [more inside]
In the North Carolina mountains, we put a bean in a jar for every August fog and use the bean count to forecast the next winter's snows. We also race hundreds of fuzzy caterpillars at the Woolly Worm festival each year and forecast the coming winter's severity based on the fuzziness and blackness of the fastest caterpillar. I'm not sure if we are unusually silly around here or if there are gleefully non-scientific forecasting methods everywhere. Is there a local folk weather forecasting tradition where you live?
I've recently taken up recording myself reading short stories for my long-distance sweetie. We're both well-read and adventurous sorts, but I'd love recommendations of individual short stories that she might like to hear. [more inside]
Mom-type here, trying to admin a WP website: it's set up with manual approval required for anonymous questions (that box in settings is checked). The new question comes to my email, but what is the process I go through to approve it? The "pending questions" shows zero; it doesn't work for me to click "submit"; "edit" is irrelevant. What am I missing?
Outlook 2016: Is it possible to add form fields to the body of an email and restrict editing to filling in forms? For example, in Word I can create a document that contains check boxes, fillable forms fields, combo boxes, etc. that can only be completed and not edited? This would be for documents that are sent outside of my organization. [more inside]
What is the most effective way of reporting a dangerous flaw in a car's design? (UK) [more inside]
Mr. Confusion and I are coming up on our first wedding anniversary, and I need some help in coming up with a way to prank him appropriately. We had the good sense to get married on April 1, so this will be an annual problem, but I need some help getting the ball rolling. What would be a good way to prank him lovingly? Bonus if it involves the traditional wedding anniversary gift nonsense—for the first year of marriage, it's supposed to be paper.
I am looking for scientific data on the health effects of eating eggs, specifically studies that use eggs with elevated levels of Omega 3 fatty acids. Has such a study been done?
I am looking for a decent quality set of headphones for PC Gaming and YouTube ranging from $130 - $210. I am looking for light headphones without added pressure because I find tight headphones cause headaches and discomfort. I live in Canada. [more inside]
From my layperson's skim of the literature, it seems pretty clear that warts and lice have been around a long time and have evolved along with their human hosts. But I can't even begin to discern where they sit in relation to each other on a timeline. In the long history of humanity, which came first: warts (or let's just say skin viruses) or lice (or let's just say parasitic insects)?
Soooo-we are heading to Sayulita, near Puerto Vallarta, Saturday for a week for Spring Break. We knew we’d be there during Semana Santa (Easter week) when we booked, but I don’t think we realized how perhaps bad of an idea this might be. And now I’m seeing online posts that indicate we are doomed to be stricken by norovirus and soaked in sewage for the week. Help! [more inside]
I'm asking for a friend. Apparently it was named partly after Wallis Simpson. It was called Wallis Something, and I guess they had a blog my friend followed.
Cleaning out my closet after many years of thrifting, I discovered a handsome pair of 1920s-era knee-high leather boots--but unfortunately without laces. I am a short lady, so "knee height" is 14" from the sole to top of the boot. The boots have 4 eyelets and 13 hooks, so 17 holes total. What is the proper length of a boot lace to tie these boots, and where can I purchase a pair, ideally in black leather to match the boots? I searched the interwebs, but all the charts I found stopped a few holes shy of 17.
What are some potential cancer therapies that look scientifically promising, but are not (yet) sufficiently studied / approved / standard? What treatments look like they have a good chance of becoming part of standard medical practice in the near future, but aren't quite there yet? [more inside]
What is this spider? We've mostly convinced ourselves that it's not a northern black widow, but we might sleep better with a positive ID. [more inside]
OK, I lead a very small group in a very big company. I was told last week that most of my group will be laid off (not me.) We are tight - we've worked together in a very different way than the rest of the company, and it is going to be brutal. I honestly believe the layoffs are unfair, but they are what they are. Moreover, the HR person won't let me inform people (either individually or as a group) in any way but the most legalese, robotic form. I'm not even allowed to answer questions, I have to defer them to the HR person. I guess I understand that, but it isn't my style. I could do it, of course, but.. I've been given the choice. Either I can do the layoffs myself with the HR person present, sticking to the script - or I can have my boss, who decided on the layoffs, do it. [more inside]
Help me guess: will Annihilation still be playing in or near San Diego on the 9th of April? (Ideally in IMAX, but regular would be fine if not.)
I suddenly have to find a new primary care provider, and in this area it's very hard to find a good one at all, much less one that's taking new patients. I'm seeking recommendations. Tl;dr: Man or woman is fine, PA or FNP is fine but osteopath is not, must take Medicare, must be within an hour of Blacksburg, VA (preferably closer). [more inside]
I would like to clean my new floors. However, the internet is full of people saying that anything you clean luxury vinyl plank (hot water, cleaning products) with will ruin them forever, and I have experienced difficulty in cleaning them the way I have traditionally cleaned floors in the past. Please help. [more inside]
Why can't I have carbonated lemonade on demand? [more inside]
Selecting a vacation destination shouldn't be this hard! Can you help? [more inside]
My favorite casual button-down shirt has frayed at the cuffs and collar. I am confident I can replace them, but I definitely can’t match the plaid. Is a solid collar and cuff in a plaid shirt dated or weird looking? It looks OK to me but I’m not to be trusted in these matters.
My feet and lower legs often/always feel quite achy -- it's not especially severe, but it's noticeable. It feels a bit like my feet are swollen, maybe, and like my ankles/calves need stretching? A foot massage helps a lot (especially while the massage is happening), but I'm wondering if there are other things that I can do to prevent/help this achiness. (Compression socks? Elevating my feet? Soaking them? Drinking more water?) [more inside]
I am getting back into the job market after being self-employed for the last 10 years. My career path has been unorthodox -- mostly in the software industry (as a manager, not programmer), with some stints in non-profit/advocacy. I need help getting back into the regular working world. [more inside]
At this time of year, Lidl has milk chocolate eggs which are filled with hazelnut or almond praline, which I love. I'd like to find similar that I can get year round (in the UK). [more inside]
I need a discontinued wood thing. A few of them. They’d be easy to make, but not by me. So how do I obtain them? [more inside]
Following up on this post. A proper in-lab sleep study will cost thousands. Are there alternatives to rule in or rule out certain conditions? Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
I'm ostensibly "dating" someone "casually," but where is the freakin sex??? [more inside]
I hate to put other people out by disrupting the smooth functioning of shared systems, particularly in ways that come across as selfish/self-absorbed. I'm curious about etiquette surrounding the use of self-service kiosks at places like department stores or groceries; Specifically, is it commonly seen as rude to make two separate transactions in one go? [more inside]
I start constantly getting pissed off of my boyfriend's behavior/attitude towards his friends/acquaintances/strangers. Because I think he's wasting his time and energy to people just want to use him. [more inside]
I'm going to be in Washington DC between Thursday 3/22 and Sunday 3/25. Usually I just buy a ticket to the opera or the symphony when I'm visiting another city, but this time I'd like to keep to a tighter budget. Can you good folks point me towards resources where I can find out about cheap or free classical performances? I especially love chamber music.
Can you recommend any good books, written for the lay person, on the history of the distillation of alcoholic spirits? Thank you so much!
Got a call, did a reverse phone look up which said it is a non fixed VOIP number, but originally a Verizon number. I called the number back and got a tone, followed by a computerized voice saying, "Welcome, enter the meeting number followed by the # key." Does anyone recognize that prompt? Who would use this type of system to get in touch with me?
I have a 2006 Ford Fusion that I own outright. I moved to Maryland from New Jersey a while ago. Insurance company sent me a letter saying I had to register my car in MD. How do I do this and how much is it going to cost me? I'm finding the MD MVA site to be very confusing. Please assume I do not know anything about how this works because I don't. [more inside]
My friends have a six year old daughter, in kindergarten right now, whose teacher has recommended that she skip first grade and go directly to second. My friend has not made a decision yet, and she's looking for testimony from adults who skipped a grade as children. Was it a net positive or negative in your life? How did your parents explain it to you? More inside. [more inside]
A month ago I sewed a set of four extra large Christmas stockings. Now I want to make name tags for the stockings. Could someone tell me how to do this in Word? [more inside]
For a future post am constructing (yes, it's about cake, no big surprise) is there a picture anywhere online of a cake that says "MetaFilter" on it? Various google searches have turned up nothing (or rather, a heck of a lot of other cakes but not the one I want/need).
I work in an administrative office and would like to provide suggestions for one of my colleagues who has recently taken over the maintenance of our Wordpress website. We're not a web development shop and our needs are minimal with a primary focus on day-to-day content updates. How do I best support my colleague in learning this new skill set? [more inside]
I’m trying to remember a quotation by a famous artist or composer. He was dying and his friend asked if he was disappointed that his art or music was over and he answered that his work will only be beginning, or something like that.
Does anyone know the polarity of the power supply plug for a Blackstar Fly 3W miniamp? It should produce 1.5A and 6.5V. [more inside]
I'm attend an event that is both super hero themed and bicycle themed. Who should I go as?
I like to read before bed and I've been hankering for book recommendations for books that are either fairly long or part of a series. I like getting engrossed in a good story, and I also just like not having to pick out what I'm going to read next for a while. [more inside]
I am in central Minnesota and I didn't plant the tulip bulbs we bought last fall. Snow is due tomorrow, but it will be above 40 for the rest of the week. Should I keep the bulbs in a paper bag in the fridge until next fall? Is there anything likely to work for this year, like putting them in the freezer for x weeks before planting? [more inside]
My partner and I communicate over chat a lot, and often do a lot of character or world building or plotting. We like to save these chat conversations to a Google doc for reference later. Our current chat system is lacking--suggestions needed! [more inside]
I am obliged for reasons to attend a talk that will be unpleasant. How do I pass the time? [more inside]
Kid #2 is arriving in the next month. What do you wish you had known? What gear am I forgetting we need? Tips on cloth diapering? What prep are we forgetting? I have lots of questions. [more inside]
How do you deal with adult learners who resent being told what to do? [more inside]
I’m a freelance writer/designer, and I need software to help me with my billing. I’ve tried looking up program reviews, but I’m overwhelmed by the options, the pros and cons, the good reviews and bad. Can you help? (Specific criteria within.) [more inside]
I was recently introduced to motivational interviewing (MI). It looks awesome. I would like to do something like that on myself--like a daily journal that goes through MI-type questions to use at the beginning of the day in order to explore goals, feelings about them, strategies for achieving them, etc. Are there any scripts that I could use on myself? Better yet, journals that provide these questions in a pre-printed format? Any therapists familiar with MI who could help? [more inside]
I, a gainfully employed person, just completed my bachelor's degree. What now? When I google all I get is advice for finding a job. I am more looking for new goals or things I can work towards. Looking for anything from small, (get a CPR certificate) to big (get a SCUBA diving certificate). [more inside]
My dad has NEW symptoms AFTER a cancer diagnosis that seem more likely to be attributable to anxiety and / or depression than his disease. How can we, as his family and support system, help mitigate these symptoms so that his mental health doesn't get to a point where it affects his physical health and his future treatment efforts? [more inside]
I live in a Zone 5b region. I rent and would like to pretty-up my crap yard a bit. [more inside]
I need cleaning recommendations for a fiberglass tub with glass doors. No elbow grease preferred. [more inside]
My friend from this question and her partner are planning a "break" due to the already abusive situation escalating over recent months. My friend's partner suggested my friend move out for a few days to "reset" and she has asked to stay with me for this time. I'm keenly hoping this will spell the beginning of the end. How can I best support her, without becoming an unofficial therapist? [more inside]
Arabic doesn't seem to be among the languages supported by Android's TTS software (unless I'm mistaken). Is there a third-party library that would let a Java Android program speak out loud in Arabic? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a name for my experience with emotions. [more inside]
Will I electrocute myself and how do you clean dead insect parts trapped in between the meshes? [more inside]
Say you're an adult with a more or less happy, fulfilling life, but as a result of some adverse childhood stuff, you didn't really learn to be playful, and you find anything that involves being silly and frivolous pretty terrifying. What are some baby-step-type ways you could ease into incorporating play into your life?
I know that sounds dramatic, but I have a years-long history of missing things I want to do because I can't pry myself away from the internet. This feels like an actual addiction, but it's not feasible to just go cold turkey. I have tried just about everything to control it on my own, but nothing works. What's the next step? [more inside]
Complications: expired residence card and short timeline. [more inside]
I like working while listening to movie soundtracks - specifically ones that don't have words and are more like evocative sound-washes than clear melodies. What soundtracks should I be listening to? Sci fi and moody are my jam.
Looking for 100% cotton boxer shorts for a kid, aged 4. They should be shorts , not boxer-briefs - want them to be airy and loose around his, um, junk, even if they bunch up under his pants. Ideally purchased in Canada (in a store or online), but could do US too. The ones I have seen online (Old Navy, Wal Mart, Hanes brand) still seem fitted. Any suggestions? Thanks!
I have Show Cards from Harrah's in Reno from 1977-1984 that were marked "Please Autograph" and were autographed by the stars and mailed to my grandmother. How do I find if they are worth selling to collectors? [more inside]
I'm looking for books about the history of maternal care and childbirth in the United States. How did invasive medical interventions become routine procedure? What precipitated the shift (at least in California, and then only in some hospitals) away from unnecessary medical intervention? How are these dynamics connected to views of religion, feminism, economics, etc? [more inside]
Can you recommend to me good-quality hair products (most crucially shampoo and conditioner) that are either unscented or very, very lightly scented? The Free & Clear range is horrible on my hair. I'm currently using SoapBox Argan Oil shampoo and conditioner, which is fantastic (especially for the price!) and I would stay with it forever except for the strong smell. This question is almost hilariously impossible to Google!
I hope you can help me figure out how to upgrade my phone, but also keep my sanity. I run LineageOS and I finally need a hardware upgrade. [more inside]
I was going through some boxes recently and to my surprise found an unopened piece of mail with a check for several hundred dollars inside. The check was issued way back in 2006. [more inside]
Hello! We're in the early stages of planning a long weekend in Philly. First time for both of us, and we'd like some insight on where to stay in the city. [more inside]
Please recommend non-white, Indie and/or Post Rock and/or Punk female fronted bands. [more inside]
I need to make and monitor a budget on my android phone. What are the best apps or systems for this these days? [more inside]
I recently and voluntarily left my job as a software developer and will be taking the summer off to enjoy life without labor. For me, that involves some amount of video games, but I worry that I won't be able resist the temptation to play games all the time. [more inside]
I have been asked via Instagram DM if I would be willing to "sell the rights" of one of my photos. I don't want to give up the rights to the photo to use as I see fit in the future, including being able to sell the ability for someone else to use it. Suggestions on pricing for this type of request? This is the shot.
I'd like to switch my workstation from Windows to Linux. However, some my workflow can only be done on Windows. Help me figure out how best to do this conversion in a way that's convenient and lets me share my work directories with good performance. [more inside]
Looking for advice on mortgages in the San Francisco Area. I wonder if anyone has experience with 10 or 15% down mortgages and if you have, can recommend any lenders? [more inside]
There are many music blogs that provide educational information about rare & obscure music and vinyl records. They may also link to a single example song on a website like Soundcloud or box.com. What legal obstacles have blogs like this faced, or are currently facing? Is there a way to run a music blog like this and mostly avoid copyright issues? [more inside]
I'd like to find out if I have a different biological father. My mother is estranged, my father is dead but I think I can get one of my (full/half?) siblings to agree to do a DNA test as well. I know my mother had an affair at the time I was conceived, and I have a possible name. This would be for 95% European-Australasia ancestry. 23andme, Ancestry...?
This Saturday, I will take part in a local March for Our Lives protest supporting gun control. I have no ideas for a catchy sign. Do you?
I've searched here in AskMe and online, and there are a LOT of discussions about software used by non-profits, however, most of what comes up is related to CRM and donor-side tracking, or grant seeking. I'm looking for the holy grail of tracking site management data that changes over time. In the Cloud. Help? [more inside]
I’m looking for a decent projector that can connect (via WiFi? That’s a thing, right?) to an iPad and older MacBook Pro with no HDMI port. The projector will be about 10 feet away from the wall (which is 6 feet wide) and be bright enough to see during the day. I’m in the US and would prefer to buy it on Amazon if possible. Recommendations or guidelines to chose one would be appreciated!
I want to take a vacation this summer. I want to go somewhere in the US, I am unable to drive and I'll be alone. [more inside]
I am a resident alien in the US and have a relative in the UK who wishes to gift me $40K cash. If I transfer this sum in one go, will I be taxed on it? I can't find a clear answer on the IRS site or elsewhere, and I'd hate to move it over here and lose a large chunk come tax time.
I have a king-sized bed and I can't get quality sheets with animals, comics or superheros on them (e.g. Pottery Barn Kids sharks, Star Wars, Superheros, etc.). The only fun sheets available in king are made out of polyester or similarly flimsy. Any suggestions on where to find quality fun sheets?
Several years ago, I filed a domestic violence report and received a restraining order against my soon to be ex husband. I think I changed my mind at the end about pressing charges. I tried obtaining a copy of the report and order at the same police department last year but was told that it was sealed. [more inside]
I've never used outlook before and when I click on it I am lost. [more inside]
I am a groomsperson in a summer (Pacific Northwest) wedding. I have been instructed to wear purple. Does anyone have a good source for purple blazers? [more inside]
I am at the upper end of what my position pays. I would like to ask for a 2 or 3% cost of living raise. Is this a "thing?" Is there a way to calculate what a cost of living raise should be?
We have a choice between Jeckyll Island and Daytona Beach for a long weekend mini vacation. Which do you think will be less hassle with a toddler? [more inside]
Planning to visit our aunt in S. Carolina (Hilton Head Island) in the Fall (2018) with my little sister and BIL, flying in from the West coast (of Canada). Any events going on in the area around that time that we could piggyback the trip? To take our elderly aunt with? Suggestions on interesting visits in that area? [more inside]
So, someone is living on a deserted island, far in the jundgle, manned with everything they need to set up a small clinic - from microscope to morphine. They would like books and resources on how to diagnose and perform simple procedures that require one set of steady hands, how to do microscopic analysis and much more. Think Albert Schweitzer but with 2018 technology. Please post the definitive books and resources on the subject. TIA
I've been friends with a couple for about 4 months and I thought we were just friends, but I received a text from them today saying that they would like to discuss relationships when we see each other next. I'm not sure how to feel about this. [more inside]
Kindly recommend an offset print shop in L.A. that can handle an odd-sized, saddle-stitched booklet with fussy paper requirements. [more inside]
I'm an American who lives in Seattle and I have a trip to England coming up. I'm staying about an hour outside of London for the first part of it, and I have an unexpected extra 2 days with which to do whatever I want. What should I do with two nights and two days before I have to go back to the US? Some thoughts and guidance for suggestions inside. [more inside]
Two audiobooks I have enjoyed include You and Tampa. Each of these books is narrated by a single narrator. In each case the narrator is a terrible human being who is intelligent, has some wry observations about modern culture, and plots and executes one or more evil deeds. What are some other well-written audiobooks that are like this?
I have a friend who's interested in playing some games on Linux, for accessibility reasons, the Windows versions aren't super friendly as a blind user. I want to perhaps set up a server for her so she doesn't have to learn an entire new operating system just to play a game. I'd appreciate some guidance. [more inside]
How long should I keep off-size clothes in my childbearing years? [more inside]
What are good flooring materials to turn a concrete basement into a living space? Ideally something durable, waterproof, attractive, inexpensive, and not freezing cold. [more inside]
What could possibly be a logial explanation for a person to have several seeds and husks of multiple varieties impacted in the sinuses and skin around the nose? Let's assume this female does not, and has not in the past, have a diet of bird food.
I have a 20" hard case carry-on suitcase that is so space-efficient that I can pack a wardrobe for 4 nights/5 days (and I wear plus-sizes, so my clothes take up more space). But it's getting battered and ugly, and I really wish I had a front pocket for a laptop. Does a suitcase like mine, but better, exist? [more inside]
Can you tell me the real story about a ghost tale I read as a kid about a house in Utica, New York? [more inside]
My group of friends (including kids 1-16 years old) would like to start a summer reunion. Do you do this, and if so, how? I'm thinking summer camp cabin rentals are our best bet for cheap-ish spots we can cook our own food. What are your favorite campground or other rentals for big groups?
My photography habit has me filling up hard drive space faster than anything I've done before. I need some way of expanding storage and backing things up that doesn't cost an arm and a leg. I'd like to do it onsite; I'd rather buy stuff once than pay for a subscription forever. What's the cheapest way of doing this that's worth a damn? [more inside]
I am reaching a crossroads about where I want to put down roots in the next year or two. But I am seriously torn on staying in Spain or moving back to Scotland. Help me decide, or begin the thinking process? Or tell me your experience? [more inside]
Recommend me a battery-powered fan. [more inside]
I recently moved to a new street that has some serious community potential. But how do I harness it? [more inside]
My husband and our 2 year old daughter would like to spend 3-4 weeks this summer living in a Spanish speaking country. We would like it to be relatively cheap, safe, and ideally have some cool archeological stuff semi-nearby. We've thought about Mexico, PR, and Costa Rica, but we'd love to get some specific suggestions from people who have done something similar. Spain isn't out of the question but we are coming from the U.S. so shorter flights are better. Thank you!
So far I have only used wooden needles for knitting. I recently began my first project with small needles (size 2) and promptly broke one of the needles. Should I consider metal needles, or is there some other way to protect the needles? [more inside]
Good evening. How do you remember your dreams once you've fully woken up? [more inside]
I'm 36, self-employed, and owe ~$75k in debt. My debt's causing panic attacks all the damn time. Help. [more inside]
A friend of mine was just contacted by a news organization that is dredging up painful memories that she'd rather not revisit. What is the most effective way to keep out of the spotlight? [more inside]
She has a Medicare Advantage Plan. We were in Freeport the Bahamas and she tripped and hurt her wrist. She did not get any kind of treatment on our trip. When we got back to the USA she went to the doctor and it was then determined she had broke her wrist, she had to have surgery with metal plates. [more inside]
I want online instructions but not printable (pinnable) patterns for garments I can make (for) myself. Where are they? Every google search takes me to pinterest! Also, no video instructions please - I lose focus 30 seconds in and have to keep rewinding which is infuriating. No zips or buttons please. Ties and elastic are ok. [more inside]
DESPERATELY seeking recommendations. I promised a visiting uncle and aunt that I would make reservations for dinner somewhere good, near where they're staying on 421 W. 7th Street, for March 28. I figured one can get reservations for a Wednesday. But WHERE? It can't be loud - my relatives are in their 70s, and we'll want to talk. It should be culinarily interesting if possible - my uncle is a good, adventurous cook. [more inside]
I’m looking to add to a playlist that I use for a specific task. The most effective songs on this list so far are Rage Against the Machine’s Killing in the Name, Filter’s Hey Man Nice Shot, God Lives Underwater’s All Wrong, and Nine Inch Nail’s Head Like a Hole. What else should I add? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
I have 2 x 2TB drives in my Mac Pro that I set up as a RAID 0 using Apple’s Disk Utility. It’s working fine, & I have backups galore (time machine, onsite & offsite clones, Backblaze) but the disks are getting old enough that I’m beginning to get concerned about failure. Can I move these 2 drives into an external enclosure of any sort & have it recognize the RAID configuration? Or is the only device that will recognize an Apple software RAID the Mac that it’s built on? [more inside]
I really like the bright colors and wild patterns on a dashiki, and the general fit, and I LOVE the front pockets. But I'm a white woman and wearing one seems racially insensitive at best. Is there a line of shirts out there that is loose-fitting, light, 100% cotton, colorful/interesting patterns (without being just pop-culture T-shirts), and has large front pockets down low (NOT up on the boobs)? Pockets could be one-big-one or two-separate. Thanks!
There has to be, somewhere in history, a primal story where two deities make a bet about turning a mortal immortal. I need that story for a project. [more inside]
I'm running a brief table roleplaying game set in the late 1970s in the Midwest US. One of the players was alive and conscious that decade. I'd love to include a few specific, fun details about the time that would make a survivor of the era smile in recognition. These could be food items, ubiquitous music, a kind of car, a "that guy" that was common. I'm especially interested in details that would reveal a character to be kind of a dirtbag.
I am a new mom, who at 35 has only ever dabbled in make up and certainly was never taught to apply it. I have been feeling glum about my appearance and thought I might give make up a go. What are the absolute basics needed for a five minute make-up routine? Additional requirements/thoughts inside. [more inside]
I live in an old apt which I love, but in summer it's a pain to sleep in my bedroom, and the obvious solution is to not sleep in my bedroom in summer. I have both a huge dining and living room, either of which I could easily put a bed in. Would this be weird and/ or do you already do this? [more inside]
I'd like to expand my repertoire of desserts to include fruit pies, which are both my favorite dessert and s/th I have no experience making despite being an otherwise quite capable cook. At first glance, it seems some pies would be inherently more difficult than others to make from scratch. Lemon meringue, for example, includes the not-always-easy-to-stiffen-and-peak meringue, as well as getting the filling to gel just right. Pie made with whole fruit--apples, for example, would seem easier. What do people think? Are there better starter/first pies than others? Thanks, and happy eating!
I bought a pair of these skinny jeans, in black, and they fit beautifully. However, after I had them on for a little while, the tightness on my legs was really uncomfortable. [more inside]
I'm working with a high school Economics teacher. He has asked that I find a site where we can run a stock market simulation for the students. Each team will have $100,000 to invest between Tuesday, and May 29th. My big concern is that this not turn into a massive pile of papers that is impossible to manage. Have any teachers done this before? What is the easiest way to manage stock market simulations? Do you have web sites that make it easier? Thank you for your time!
I'm making apple cider vinegar for only the second time. My ratios of stuff may have been off. Link to pic and questions after the jump. [more inside]
Just found out I made it to the second round of interviews for an internal position. Interview is on Monday. The grapevine says the hiring manager/position supervisor will not be on the panel so I'm having a hard time coming up with questions to ask at the end of the interview. [more inside]
Why, if there's a universal translator in Star Trek, do some words and phrases in alien languages go untranslated? [more inside]
I am trying to get my debt snowball rolling, which means getting a handle on how much I really owe. [more inside]
Last summer I fell in love with this jersey swing dress from Old Navy. Help me find more like it, or maybe better quality! [more inside]
Do you own something that is a little bit (or a lot) more than the basic or the practical, and it's just the best? Please, tell me about it! Examples inside. [more inside]
Someone I know has an ankle brace-- a figure 8 brace with metal stays. It does a good job of supporting her ankle, but when she wears it, she gets low-level nausea and dizziness almost immediately unless she's sitting still. [more inside]
How to physically handle a paper document that's crumbling? [more inside]
I'm leaning towards switching from part-time to full-time in my grad program and taking out more loans. How much will this really affect me on the future? [more inside]
Can't believe I'm wasting a question on this but it's driving me crazy and the internet has proved fruitless, which is quite frankly, astounding to me! [more inside]
My job requires all of my coworkers and I to frequently ask if callers to a crisis line are suicidal or homicidal. I always say "are you having suicidal thoughts?", but some people say "are you having suicide thoughts?". Is "suicide thoughts" grammatically correct? I don't think it is, and Google doesn't help. I don't go around correcting people, but my one coworker always says SUICIDE THOUGHTS super loudly because he knows it irks me. Help us settle this once and for all! TIA.
I seem to have trouble remaining at a comfortable temperature while sleeping. My theory is that I get cold and then ball up into a fetal position, which causes me to sweat copiously. [more inside]
Selling a condo in Orange County, California. Section 7.C.2 of the contract references "owners title insurance", which our agent says will cost around $1,400. I understand why the buyer and/or lender would want to get proof of title and insure against risk that there are some issues. But why should we as the owners get title insurance? The title was clear when we bought the place a couple of years ago; what could have possibly changed to affect that? [more inside]
A few friends and I have formed a practice club to work on our nosework skills with our dogs. We are trying to come up with a name but none of us are very creative. [more inside]
Almost every day I see dozens (like 50+) of vultures over the BP Campus in the Houston's Energy Corridor (near I-10 and Highway 6). Why are they always there, just circling and circling? [more inside]
I (27, F) have had bad experiences with alcoholics both in my family and romantic relationships. I also tend to match the drinking habits of the people who are in my life, which is why I want to steer clear from heavy drinkers. I've started to date a guy I'm really into, but I'm getting anxious over the amounts of alcohol that is involved in our dates. Am I overreacting? More special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
This was me and I've given notice that I won't return to this teaching position, which I did after I was told I would not be getting professional status. Since stating I'm not returning, I'm being aggressively micromanaged and I've been informed by co-workers that admins are openly slamming me. Suffice it to say the union is no help at all. Should I just give 2 weeks notice and leave? [more inside]
I am specifically interested in sociology or history but I am wondering more generally about how credible these kinds of online programs are these days. I plan to travel around Europe and stay in various places for a month or two while studying. I am also wondering if there are any with an on-campus period component. Europe preferred (as that's where I will be based) but open to US/Australia/Canada as well. In fact, any background info about where to start looking or personal experiences would be much appreciated. Thanks!
Can we somehow figure an objective way to determine the best charity to give to? [more inside]
Need help in getting over the anxiety about launching a street food business and any tips the hive mind can provide. More inside. [more inside]
Our cat, Toki Wartooth (obligatory), was recently diagnosed with diabetes. We caught it early and his outlook is good, and he's already much happier and more relaxed after less than a week on insulin. My question is: should we buy a glucose monitor and attempt to do glucose curves at home? If so, which monitor should we buy? [more inside]
I rent a car parking space in the basement of an apartment building near my office, and the concierge used to keep a big bowl of these amazing tiny, individually wrapped candies on his desk. Grabbing one or three as I passed by was the highlight of my day and made the commute home more bearable. There is now a new concierge and no sweets. New concierge has no info about the sweets. Where can I buy them? [more inside]
I just finished Beloved by Toni Morrison and it was astonishing. It gave me, upon almost every page, the sort of palpable literary rush I received when reading Wolf Hall for the first time or Gilead or The Hare with Amber Eyes. I am unclear why I neglected Morrison for so long but I am hungry to rectify this immediately. So: where next? Continue with the loose Beloved trilogy (Jazz and Paradise), start at the beginning with The Bluest Eye, jump into the middle with better known books like Song of Solomon, go for some essays...?
My birthday is approaching, and I would like to take an overnight camping/backpacking trip to celebrate. I want relative seclusion, not-too-freezing weather, no super strenuous hikes. Car camping only if it's really worth it. Pretty much something akin to the Ozette, but closer. Does it exist? Assume I have access to a car, and all the necessary backpacking supplies. Thanks in advance!
But I want a 24 hour dial. I've found atomic clock movements and I've found 24 hour movements, but no atomic 24 hour movement. I've seen digital ones, but I want to make a dial clock. Any Ideas?
Any suggestions for a hike/walk holiday that would be more than a week, but not 2 weeks (!) and something that would be interesting, outside the U.S, yet not over the top expensive? Any tour companies would be helpful, or lesser known but more interesting hikes. Looking at July which also seems to be a problem since that tends to be peak travel season. [more inside]
According to family lore, my great-great-grandmother named her son after a character in a book that she liked. This literary character's name was passed down from my great-grandfather to my grandfather to my father and partially to me. The title of the book is a mystery. Can you tell me anything about a book written before 1891 that includes a character named Percy Winfield? [more inside]
I recently accepted an offer of admission for a grad program at Stanford. My wife and I are thinking of living in Oakland and having me commute. Is this a terrible idea? I know there's a fourth year who lives in Berkeley, but he's only on campus two or three days out of the week at this point. Is driving five days a week viable< under best conditions? Worst conditions? [more inside]
Should I move from Canada to the US for my partner's 2 year-long postdoc? Will this screw up my career? What other things should I be factoring in to this decision? [more inside]
I THINK I’m looking for minimal techno, house, and some style of music that probably isn’t as exact as those but closely resembles the Underworld songs Jumbo and Born Slippy.NUXX [more inside]
What is the best pillow for a face-sleeper - potentially one with foam and cooling technology? [more inside]
There seems to be a cognitive dissonance between the advice offered for all other matters but work, where the available advice is as enlightened as that of a bad marriage from the 50s. [more inside]
I'm self-learning basic electronics (via books and videos) and I'd like to use a virtual circuit builder to both guide me through the basics (like maybe in tutorial form) and once I know more, the ability to model, when designing, say, basic arduino projects. Googling produces tons of options. Wondering if anyone has direct experience with tools as they've gone from beginner/novice to intermediate level knowledge?
I would like to catalog every regional variant of the fries+meat+cheese+whatever calorie-bomb. [more inside]
I’m looking for soft, comfortable, women’s pajama sets... that won’t shrink! [more inside]
I’d love to get a precise date on some memories I have from when I was a kid. One in particular I have narrowed down to a few years in the 90s, and I remember Three Amigos was playing on KPLR-TV. How can I find out when it aired? [more inside]
I am feeling the need to sit around a table with like-minded folks and tell stories about how an evil, oppressive government was punished beyond the imagination of mankind, while the oppressed got to take a nice long walk in the sun and lay down some goddamned ethics. Plus singing and drinking. [more inside]
Am I eligible for unemployment? I have a full-time job during the week, but I just got laid-off/fired from my part-time weekend job. [more inside]
There's a common-ish first date/getting to know you question that I dislike because it makes assumptions about my background, and the truth is a sensitive topic. Surely I must be doing this to other people. Tell me your questions I should avoid or word more sensitively. [more inside]
Digg Reader (like Google Reader before it) is shutting down, what reader would you recommend I replace it with? Or should I even try? Are RSS feed readers becoming a thing of the past?
In the 1980s, my local (northeast Ohio) public radio station had a stable of comedy recordings that they'd play on New Year's Eve. One of them was a 5-10 minute absurd stand-up routine about how the moa bird became extinct, probably from the 1960s. I don't know who performed it, but I'd love to find it again.
What movie, book, stand-up routine, or other piece of art had the greatest impact on forming your sense of humor? [more inside]
Boden brand dresses don't fit me, and I can't figure out why! Mefites who find that Boden clothes fit well and are flattering on them, can you tell me a bit about what type of figure you have? [more inside]
I'm recovering from trauma. Last night, after a day full of obsessively ruminating on my trauma, I finally got the thoughts to go away by reciting poetry to myself. Yay! But I only know a couple poems by heart. I'd like to have more arrows in my quiver. Please recommend me some poems to memorize, and if you can, either link to the poem or copy it here. Think approximately the length of "The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost. Poems written by people of color, LGBT people, and women especially encouraged!
Is it best to force all browsers to https or allow the client to decide? Any other considerations I should take into account when moving my domains to SSL is welcome. [more inside]
More on our ongoing saga with the rodent-chewed wiring in mr. jane's truck. Stay with the dealer or go? [more inside]
I want to buy 5 copies of the perfect dress so I can wear the same thing to work every day this summer. Help me find this dress! [more inside]
What is reasonable to voice? What should you keep to yourself (and just tell your therapist or close friend instead)? How much should you reasonably expect for your partner to try to understand or is it just a burden? I don’t have any good relationship models (besides TV) and I am lost. [more inside]
My daughter takes singing lessons, and we're looking for a simple iPhone/iPod or Kindle app to lead her through warm-ups before she practices at home. Can anyone recommend one they have used that isn't expensive? [more inside]
Where can I take an accredited online class in Abnormal Psychology?
My pulse is too slow (37) and my Dr. says I may need a Pacemaker, so am being referred to a cardiologist. I have looked at previous questions and at Amazon, but am bewildered by the choice. Because I swim laps three times a week it should be waterproof (not just showerproof) and preferably tie in with an app on my Samsung S7 running Android 7.0 Would prefer not spend more than $45/50. TIA!
What is a good, lightweight, ad-free, preferably full-screen Windows 10-compatible program that will allow me to view images by folder or, optionally, run a slideshow of all the files in the folder? [more inside]
My 16-month-old loves his toys but is on the verge of being ready for the next big toy leap. Which will be what, exactly? We have some Toys R Us gift cards I want to spend while I can. [more inside]
Two days ago my card was hacked; I got alert texts about suspicious transactions coming in from a foreign country. I got a new number/card right away. This morning my new card was hacked!! What gives? [more inside]
The city I'm currently living in, Bellingham, is experiencing a housing shortage. Rent has gone up more than wages can match. I'd like to move, but I'm not sure how to go about it. [more inside]
I found a bone on my local beach. I'm mildly curious as to what it is, and of course if it is human I need to notify the police. Can the hivemind take a peek and at least let me know I'm not about to cameo in a CSI episode? [more inside]
In 2014 I weaned off Pristiq using Prozac. My doctor is out of the country and I want to get off Pristiq...again. I have left over Zoloft. YNMD, etc., but are they similar enough that Zoloft might work? [more inside]
Female who started lifting weights in October. Searing pain in my deltoids on both of my shoulder caps when I try to lift any type of weight on them. Did I injure myself and what do I do to heal? [more inside]
I'm tired of showing every emotion on my face. How do I not? [more inside]
Looking for advice and reassurance moving a cat long distance! [more inside]
I am looking for free or inexpensive Mac software that will record video using my Mac's built-in camera when it detects sound and/or motion. [more inside]
I have an iPhone and I would like to record meetings that I take on my phone. I will of course ask permission of the person I am meeting with. After the call has been recorded, I would like to have the audio transcribed. Question 1: How do I record calls on my iPhone? Question 2: After the call has been recorded, is there an app that will transcribe the audio into text? Also, I have a Mircosoft surface tablet.
It's March Madness time once again! I don't really care about collegiate basketball, but I do love BRACKET POLLS. Every year it seems like I hear about interesting and fun brackets long after they get going...this year I'd like to get in at the Sweet Sixteen level. Does your favorite website run a March Madness Bracket? Tell me about it. [more inside]
I am in Astoria, Oregon and it's time to start heading slowly back to Asheville, NC. Which is the best way to go with these criteria in mind: towing a camper, staying in state parks, avoiding bad weather, seeing fabulous scenery and quirky offbeat things, including Yellowstone (or not?) and Chicago on the itinerary and taking back roads as much as possible? [more inside]
A visit to the vet recently confirmed that my beloved 4-year-old dog has end-stage renal failure and will likely need to be put down in a few weeks. We took her to the same vet three months ago for a different issue, but during that visit we mentioned symptoms that turned out, in hindsight, to be indicative of renal failure. In response to our comments at that earlier visit, the vet tested her for diabetes, cleared her, and sent her home. Is our vet (legally, financially, morally) culpable for missing the diagnosis? [more inside]
I need casual, spring/summer shoes for walking in bad weather and going to the park and playground. Basically, urban mom shoes. I wish I could take a time machine to the nineties and get some shoes made for women to walk around in, but in 2018, what shoes are those? [more inside]
We got these gorgeous chairs that I love a couple of months ago and one of the legs recently split when the chair was sat upon. What’s the best way to fix it? [more inside]
We booked a downtown hotel and are going to spend this weekend in Roanoke, mostly because we've been in VA 20 years and have never visited Roanoke. I know about the parade and street festival on Saturday. What are the can't miss pubs/bars and restaurants we should hit this weekend?
My wife and I are planning on taking two kids (ages 7 & 10) to the Hay Festival. We need to book a room so our immediate questions are, "What's a good length of time to go with kids that age? And are there kid-friendly things to do in the area that are accessible without a car if the kids get festivaled out?" Beyond that, we'd welcome any tips on getting the most out of the festival, for kids and for grownups. [more inside]
I'm a (sometimes more, sometimes less) fat man, and was a fat boy. I have a thin wife, one solid 5 yo son, one skinny 3 yo boy, and one chunky 3 yo girl. My kids call me squishy. The 5 yo called me fat. I agreed with him, but my wife was disturbed. What are best practices to teach body acceptance and non-fat shaming to my kids? [more inside]
I'm upgrading from an iPhone 6 and am thoroughly confused by the options. I know I want an iPhone, and am fairly sure I want either the 8 or the X. Help please? [more inside]
Asking for fictional reasons. The parasite in question is T. Cruzi, which is the parasite that causes Chagas disease. Usually the little guy hangs out in heart muscle and causes heart attacks, but in this universe, the parasite now likes to live and reproduce in brain tissue. [more inside]
Looking for clever/apt business names that I can use for my plant-based, Australian meat pie company. [more inside]
Seeking something to listen to while starting daily workout habit. Complication: Will be playing out loud, no headphones, near the sprog, and therefore it needs to be curse-free. More requests inside. [more inside]
I would like to monitor a particular blood stat more closely than once or twice a year. I can use AnyLabTestNow (or some similar service), but they're still pretty spendy. When I was a kid, we did A/B/O blood testing in science class (I assume they no longer do) but clearly, at least for some tests, it's something a 12-year old with clean hands, an alcohol wipe and a lancet can do. [more inside]
My partner is open to Dungeons and Dragons, but we have one main problem. We won't necessarily have anyone to play with. What are D&D-adjacent games that can be played by as few as two people? Gloomhaven seems perfect, and we may spring for it, but there must be more out there. [more inside]
I'm fascinated by acting (professional/amateur). Specifically, how does becoming a different character affect actors' sense of self and their relationships with other people? [more inside]
I'm looking for a big fluffy white comforter or duvet for my full size bed. Obviously, a down comforter is the best choice, but I'm a student on a limited budget, so down is probably out. I'd like to find one for less than $100. Where should I be looking? Places like the Company Store are too expensive, and when I look on amazon, I see a bunch of white comforters that are super cheap and thinner than I want. I'm looking for thick, fluffy, comforters that feel nice on the skin.
I just moved to Cleveland; Ohio and I have fibromyalgia. I am looking for a primary care provider and a program. Does anyone know of any Centers, Institutes or providers/specialists that they can recommend? It would be great to find a provider that practices Functional Medicine or Integrative Medicine. I am also looking for a massage therapist, and a mental health therapist.
I woke up with this song in my head, with a specific melody and lyrics: "When you can't find the answer(s), days keep on slipping away." Something like that. I think it has acoustic-guitar backing. Here's how the melody goes. Usually I'll Google songs like this that I can't figure out, but I'm getting nowhere with that today. So maybe you guys can help. What is this song? [more inside]
Received a notification on my iPhone, I believe after an update: "Please launch WhatsApp to receive messages". Wondering if this means "In order to enable receipt of messages, please launch WhatsApp" or "New messages waiting, please launch WhatsApp to receive". [more inside]
I was diagnosed with PCOS last year, and I've found that almost all support/advice groups are aimed at women TTC. I am not. Is there anything out there for me? [more inside]
Help me find a good alternative to the location and activity tracking app Moves, and the data visualisation tool Move-O-Scope to log and visualise my travels and activities. [more inside]
Hello all. I recently (a month or two ago) decided to get better about personal security and privacy and in this regard I registered an e-mail account with a (at this point) well-known service apparently lauded for its encryption and security, etc. The other day I started receiving e-mails on this account--which I have used for almost nothing as of yet and have given to almost no one--regarding membership to an adult website. Initially I just treated it as spam and put it in the spam folder, but I decided to take a look and it started to creep me out a little bit. [more inside]
My young and extremely healthy (36) year old sister was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer last year. Initially the doctors told her it was inoperable and she began intense chemotherapy. Lo and behold six months later she was deemed elligible for an operation... [more inside]
The tip around my urethra opening is red, itchy and swollen. It has been for about four months. I'm a married man who has been faithful. My wife has no symptoms and has also been faithful. The docs have done the usual STD swab/urine tests and found nothing. [more inside]
I'm making good luck/St. Patrick's Day shamrock cookies for my son's preschool class for Friday (they also have a performance that day, hence the "good luck" aspect). There is a gluten-free child in the class. For Valentine's Day, I lucked into some gluten-free heart-shaped cookies at Whole Foods, but I've struck out so far on gluten-free shamrock treats. They don't have to be cookies... [more inside]
Why do men keep texting when we're no longer going on dates? [more inside]
For the last 4-5 years I have co-published a certain puzzle game that has gone viral many times over, so much so that it's become a full-time occupation for some in our company. For the last year we have been desperately been trying to move our production away from China and lift the quality of our upcoming releases, but having a real hell of a time finding a new factory. I know this is a bit of a longshot on the green, but can anyone recommend one at all? [more inside]
I'm about to move into a new 10ft x 10ft office with a roomie (I'm his manager.) We share a slightly larger office now. I get to buy some new furniture and set it up. I'm always on the phone, my roomie is sometimes. I'm thinking of Jarvis sit/stand desks, a couple decent Ikea office chairs, and perhaps a room divider thingy, and putting our desks so we'd be facing each other (that way we each get some window to our left-hand-side). And maybe a white noise maker? Any tips or tricks or recommendations for making a small office work for two people? Thanks!
Is it really worth it to go to a childbirth class in person instead of online? If you did the online version, did you like it and do you have a provider who you'd recommend? [more inside]
I think I want to get rid of my peach fuzz, any tips? Should I go forward with it? Will my makeup apply like butter? [more inside]
Where are the reasonably priced women's 100% cotton jeans? The last pair I had came from Madewell but the only all-cotton jeans they have now cost $495. Is there some kind of denim aggregator out there that will let me sort by fiber content? If it matters, I think I am looking for straight or "boyfriend" jeans without any shredding and whatnot. Ideally under $150. Just, you know, jeans. Like from my youth in the 1980s.
I've been going through a small Tom Clancy re-read, and realizing that while I enjoy his plots, even some of the improbable ones, the conservative politics rubs me a bit the wrong way. Is there anything which might scratch a similar itch, light-ish military thrillers with clear good vs. evil, but not as much political soapboxing? I like the older Cold War and early 2000s-era Clancy, but haven't been able to get into the post 9-11 stuff, let alone any of his collaborations. Bonus points for a few personal thoughts on why I might like a particular author/series.
I really like Amaro Averna and would like to try some others that are a little more off-the-beaten-path. I've tried all the big names (which for me is Fernet Branca, Cynar, Campari, Aperol) and Averna is far and away my favorite. Luckily for me, there's a bar and a few liquor stores near me that have many rare and unusual amaro options. If I enjoy the chocolate and coffee notes of Averna, and its slightly sweeter flavor, what might I be a fan of that I haven't heard of before?
I have a concussion, so pretty much all I can do is read -- tv/computer screens make it worse -- and I can't focus on anything even slightly complicated. I'm looking for engrossing books with one main plotline and one narrator and not more than two timelines. Some domestic thrillers fit, cozy mysteries, maybe YA romance? I'd like to stay away from anything with significant worldbuilding, so no SFF please.
I took a job I maybe shouldn't have, and now I'm wondering how to list it on my website. [more inside]
Assuming you're not in ultimate control of your email account. [more inside]
I have perfectionistic/grandiose traits that can keep me from doing simple tasks ("I'll probably burn the omelette, maybe I'll just have toast") as well as complex ones ("this idea for a blog post is cool! But you know what would be cooler, if I could get a PhD in it and then hire someone to create an app! No, wait, I can never do that, I guess I'll forget about it.") Are there workbooks or courses that might help me work through these traits? Did you do something for this that you found helpful? [more inside]
My husband and I have recently moved to Toronto from Sydney with zero furniture. We have an Airbnb rental and are currently looking for a long term lease. We've found somewhere that looks promising - yay! - but this also means finding furniture. Can anyone recommend good quality mid-priced furniture stores in the Toronto area that we would be able to access without a car (or at worst with a short cab ride)? I'd really like to avoid furnishing the entire place with Ikea if possible. [more inside]
My wife and I will be in Baltimore from midday on Friday to midday on Sunday celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. We are staying at the Inn at Henderson Wharf. What cool stuff should we do? [more inside]
There are three trains that go to Chicago from the west, the Empire Builder, California Zephyr and Southwest Chief. Which should we take? [more inside]
I am a project manager and at work people often refer to me as the person who "makes the trains run on time". My point of reference for this phrase is Mussolini. When I say, "are you calling me a dictator/Mussolini?" they are bewildered. Has this phrase been repurposed and I missed it? [more inside]
Is this wall decal a quote? What does it say?
My Dad has been sick for a long time but right now he is doing okay except that he won't eat. We are heartbroken and running out of ideas. [more inside]
Planning a trip throughout Europe leaving 4/19 flying into Dublin and planning to fly out of Porto, Portugal. I abandoned my goal of traveling to Asia for my 30th birthday and decided to switch it to a trip to see where my ancestors came from (Ireland and Germany) plus a few other places along the way. I'll put my planned itinerary in the extended explanation, but for a few countries, I still have not decided exactly where I want to go/best way to travel between the two. I am looking for both suggestions/alternatives/obvious things I am overlooking. [more inside]
TL;DR version: How do we compel a recalcitrant neighbor to address an overflowing sewer connected to a shared line in the city of Seattle. The city is not taking action despite clear and repeated evidence of a biological health hazard. [more inside]
I have a very large music library on an external drive. I'm running current version of iTunes and MacOS. For some reason, Every Single Track has the "!" next to it. Playing a song works; once I click it, iTunes finds the track with no problem. !'d tracks won't sync to other devices or play with Apple Music. How can I fix this without clicking on 20k items?
I've been thinking about where to go for my 10th anniversary and thought that Napa Valley might be the perfect place. I know next to nothing about it other than WINE. Can you help me get started with what I need to know for a great weekend trip? [more inside]
I have four Google Calendars and want staff from one domain to see all of my "busy" times associated with the other three. How do I accomplish this without requiring others to add my multiple other calendars to their "Other Calendars" list? Is there a way to sort of "flatten" all of my calendars onto one visible toggle-able calendar for others, and without details? Attempt at clear explanation inside. [more inside]
Help us figure out how to replace badly corroded battery contacts in a cool thriftstore microscope! [more inside]
Lately when I see sad news stories, I feel a desire to reach out and send flowers, or words of support - that kind of thing. I'm sure I'm not the only person who feels this way and wants to do something kind. I'm Canadian, so this is typically on the CBC. Is there a way to get contact information for individuals or families featured in these types of stories?
My wife has actually asked me to buy her a spatula as a gift. She is tired of spatulas that melt when they hit the pan, or spatulas that are too thick to get under something and flip it. Not just any spatula will do--I want to buy her the BEST SPATULA IN THE WORLD! But...what is it? Where can I find the perfect, all-purpose spatula?
I cooked some pork spare ribs with this dry rub yesterday, and they were tasty, but really salty. They're also not as tender as I'd like, so to solve both issues, my wife suggested cooking them with rice, but I don't want to ruin the rice and the ribs. [Tag-along question: also looking for good, not sweet rib rubs and recipes] [more inside]
The baristas as my favorite coffee shop (that I go to 2-3 times a day) keep giving me free coffees (the other day I got 3 coffees and paid for none). What is an appropriate gift to give them to show my appreciation? [more inside]
I am looking for the title of a Japanese movie about a family that lives in the mountains. They have this kind of spot where hikers can rest and some food is available. [more inside]
How many days/hours should pass before one can safely assume that one has been ghosted? [more inside]
I've got some auto immune issues, and I'm female, fat and 40. I'm a mutt mixture of European and north american ancestries, but I look and pass for white instead of light brownish and have the typical redhead's pain tolerance and issues with pain meds not doing much. No label on the auto immune except now (12 years in?) I'm on daily gabapentin for generalized pain. But I've got to work out more. [more inside]
My new(ish) partner likes surprises, especially surprise activities and surprise gestures of affection. I am not the spontaneous type, have limited funds, limited time to do it (something that we could do during a lunch hour would be perfect), and we're trying to keep our relationship secret, but I'd still like to try to do something for them. Help? [more inside]
I'm looking to find a map showing all military bases around the time of World War II. [more inside]
I'm writing a fiction piece that involves several characters (including a naturalist) encountering dinosaurs before the 1800s. I'd like to be able to have the naturalist come up with his own plausible scientific names for the creatures, as well as to coin a term that would be accepted by the scientific community had Richard Owen not come up with "dinosauria". Unfortunately, I do not speak either Greek or Latin, nor am I a scientist. [more inside]
Knives with ABS handles are losing their finish, should I get rid of them? [more inside]
My "pie" is going to be fruit tarts. I'm making four. Any shortcuts for the fruit? Can I stretch my fruit with something, since everything I normally use is out of season right now? Goals: Easier/faster, more cost effective. [more inside]
I went to the SPCA this weekend planning to adopt a relatively sedate, middle-aged cat. Instead, I came home with a petite young loudmouth. They estimate she is about a year old and that she may not get much bigger than her current size, which is just under 6.5 pounds. She shows a lot of confidence and is very chatty. The shelter named her Black Panther which I think is not a good fit at all. The names that come to my mind are Cassie and Delphine. What might this kitty's name be?
Upcoming trip to NYC with tickets to Broadway, The Met, and the Philharmonic. How are audiences dressing for such these days? Out here in the hinterland dress has gone from fairly dressy to the full range of Tux to Jeans and back again. Any guidance would be appreciated.
I've been out of work for about a month. When I returned this week, my computer had been wiped clean, it seems. How can this happen? [more inside]
My partner (M, mid-30's) and I (F, mid-30's) are negotiating having a child. We agree on almost everything and seem to be prepared and on the same page except for one thing that makes us both concerned: We are both sympathetic pukers. WARNING: DISCUSSION OF PUKE INSIDE. [more inside]
What are some scientific, non-woo explanations of the role of the subconscious mind in creativity and memory, as well as exercises for getting more "in touch" with the subconscious? [more inside]
I have depression, am a social eater and just got dumped. Help me convince myself that food is good. [more inside]
I'm moving! Almost all our furniture needs to be replaced and IKEA is fancy budget for me. We will be living in the new place for at least 10 years, and I'd like to stretch my budget by going secondhand where I can (except mattresses. Never ever. We did bedbugs once. Never again.) The internet is all "refurbish solid wood, shame on you for buying ikea secondhand", but I'm looking for more realistic advice. [more inside]
I've received a job offer to work in a pool store. However, Mr. Hubris is very against my taking this job. His argument is that breathing in chlorine fumes day in and day out is a dangerous risk, akin to working in a bar constantly full of second-hand smoke. My question: has anyone here worked in a pool store, and, if so, did the exposure to the pool-related chemicals cause issues? If nobody here has, could you at least tell me whether you would take this job? [more inside]
I'll be spending the week before Easter in Dublin and Galway. Your advice, please! [more inside]
I recently had a discussion with my extended family about how to properly prep veggies for cooking that made me want to get further opinions on this. [more inside]
I am on a mid-2015 MacBook Pro, on High Sierra 10.13.3 and using Safari 11.0.3, and earlier today I used the handy "force click" feature to preview a link (i.e. it comes up as a smaller image instead of going to the actual page in the main browser window) to a website that I had a bad feeling about. The offending site is a popular (though not usually malicious) click-baity site that I tend to avoid, and unfortunately, despite clearing "cookies and data" a million times, the offending site still pops up after typing a certain word in my Safari search bar. Yes, I know I can just turn off Siri suggested websites, but how did the offending website (which I won't call out by name unless I really have to) weasel its way into Siri's suggestions, despite the fact I never actually navigated to it? Why doesn't deleting history, cookies, and data do anything about it?
My last hair clip broke. It wasn't even a good one. Please help me find a hair clip I can order online and that holds my thick, long hair! [more inside]
... under amicable conditions. [more inside]
Next week I'm leaving for Europe for work. I'll be gone 2-3 weeks. It's been about 12 years since I left the country, so I'm looking for suggestions on how to make this amazing. I have a lot of leeway over when I need to actually be at certain places, and I've padded in a few days here and there to give myself some time to see the sights. I have some questions about what to bring and what to do.< [more inside]
I went shopping for a refrigerator yesterday and almost all of them had pathetically small crisper drawers. How do you fit your fruit and veg in yours? [more inside]
It appears there's no longer an inbox on okcupid. I get emails from okcupid saying "Someone's messaged you," but I have no way to find this message. It says "Go to Double take and the messager will be near the top," but this is not so. What gives?
No matter how improbable the Epley Maneuver and EMDR seem as solutions (because they seem too impossibly simple to "work"), they nonetheless do as intended. What other "Oh, c'mon!" things that seem silly or "too easy" actually work? [more inside]
When I was a kid, I had a cardmodel book printed in silvered and black ink on sturdy, die cut pages which was designed to be punched out and assembled into a lunar base or settlement of some kind. Sound familiar to anyone? [more inside]
Since Consumer Reports doesn't review them, I'm having trouble finding non-sketchy reviews of water softeners. Can anyone recommend one that uses the least amount of water in its recharge cycle? Or a table that compares them? We had to have the heating element in our 2.5 year old water heater changed because it was so badly calcified (pic for the curious) so I'm slowly being convinced that it is indeed a necessity like all my neighbors tell me. I just want one that doesn't waste a ton of water.
My wife is doing some volunteer work, and she would like to be able to make calls on her personal cell phone so that her ID shows her from the organization she is working with. It seems that there should be built-in protections against spoofing, but is there a way for her to do something like this legitimately to associate her with the organization she has been authorized to call from? The orgainization is out of state, and one step closer seems to be to get a google number in the same area code.
The last few years have been really, really hard. Stressors, grief, and disappointment have been relentless and it feels like one more thing just might break me. How do you get through periods like this? [more inside]
I don’t get a long time to read these days and find I really enjoy long novels (or memoirs) about strong women I find interesting. It often takes me a long time to finish them and that’s what I appreciate- once I’m into the story it means months of happy reading. I’ve LOVED almost all of Anya Seaton, Rosamunde Pilcher- and I’ve really liked “Wild Swans” and most recently I was just so happy reading “Kristin Lavransdatter” [more inside]
Starting a new job in a few weeks (yessssss). I am going to be using mass transit to get to my job, which is wholly new to me. As a woman who likes to have access to ALL MY STUFF at any given time, what do you typically have in your bag and what makes your commute easier/more enjoyable? [more inside]
I'm looking for a workshop my company can use to give people skills to talk about difficult subjects. I did a shallow dive into "crucial conversations" years ago and would like recommendations for something similar, but vetted from a diversity, inclusion, and progressive standpoint. [more inside]
Hi. I am hoping to run for a board of directors position with a theatre stage group. I am wondering what are some important skills and qualities a possible board member candidate should have in theatre and arts? [more inside]
I haven't bought stereo components in 20 years, during which time everything became a computer. I would love some help navigating the consumer stereo market. [more inside]
I'm working on an article or series about the origins of private spaceflight (going back to the '50s and '60s, not just the last decade) and I'm looking for interesting articles, essays, videos, and books. I'm also interested in highlighting any women or POC who may have been erased or downplayed in their own time. Any recommendations?
Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get a loudmouth cat to stop howling outside the bedroom door at night? Molly has made it her mission in life to keep me from ever sleeping. She yodels outside the door -- she brings toy mousies and leaves them in front of the door, and then howls her fool head off. I am seriously at the end of my rope. She woke me up four times last night! [more inside]
Years ago, Techrepublic came out with a tutorial for changing the color of selected text in MS Office, which worked until 2013. I've upgraded to 2016 at the office, and can't figure out how to do this. The default for selected text in 2016 is gray, which is difficult for me to see. Has anyone figured out how to do this? Google fails me.
We're looking to take a Danube river cruise at Christmas with a kid, but it is really hard to track down which cruises are available at what cost since there are at least 8 major lines, and no search engine. Plus some don't take kids. Do I need a travel agent? [more inside]
Doing some translation work, and I think I've stumped myself by overthinking things. So below the fold, a sentence and its context, and the question is simply, have I understood the sentence correctly? [more inside]
I have a can of jackfruit. I can get more but it won't be until the next grocery run, and I'd rather just use the one right now if I can. There's just two of us. We're not vegan but not opposed to the vegan meal. Hit me with your jackfruit recipes! [more inside]
What’s the shortest distance between me humming, singing or whistling into my iPhone and a MIDI file of the melody?
Is there a website where you can see how long IoT companies have supported their products?
I'm in MA, where we've had three Nor'easters in three weeks. Some trees were damaged in the first storm (strong winds); many more were damaged in the second (heavy snow). We have another Nor'easter predicted for tomorrow. Do you have any tips for assessing health (or, conversely, likelihood of dropping limbs or falling altogether)--primarily as a driver or pedestrian, rather than a tree owner? [more inside]
An article was linked in a recent FPP which talked about how Instagram "influencers" who post pictures of food feel obligated to say that they eat it all, even though, in some instances, "75% goes in the trash". What faux pas would they be committing or moral lapse would they be admitting if they were honest about not eating some of the food they take pictures of? [more inside]
We have had one child-related toothpaste catastrophe too many, and I need solutions that will let my 6- and 8-year-olds get their own toothpaste, but WITHOUT getting it all over my damn bathroom. Portion control is a plus.
I need more podcasts. Specifically, I need more of a particular type of podcast. Two/three regular podcasts hosts, no interviews, talking about things. Not humor/shoot-the-shit type podcasts however. Examples inside! [more inside]
Over the last few years, I've noticed a frequent argument, employed in many different areas, that goes "(moderate) believers are the ones most at blame". It's been employed most often against Islam, but also against progressives and by sceptics & atheists against religion. What do you call this rhetorical device? Is there a take-down or analysis of its use? [more inside]
Has anyone recently purchased a new Rinnai-like propane (not oil) heater/furnace that has a pilot light versus electronic ignition? [more inside]
I'm trying to access therapy via my EAP right now, and during the referral process the person I'm in contact with stated that after the eight free sessions my employer provides, I'd need to take a three-month break before resuming a therapeutic relationship with the provider I get matched with (assuming I want to). Why is this? [more inside]
I am the art director at a small design agency. Part of my job involves project management, and I am really struggling with keeping client feedback at a reasonable level/pace. How do you handle this at your company? [more inside]
Can I ask my doctor for a referral to a doctor from a different hospital and other questions? [more inside]
How does a Canadian residing in Denmark get married to an American/Swedish dual citizen living in Sweden? [more inside]
While working through issues recently, I came to realize that I need to go into trauma therapy, which I assume will include PTSD treatment and such. I have a list of names I'll begin working through next week. I also happen to be without any pets and am down to get a dog again soon. Questions inside. [more inside]
I've been confronting myself a lot with #metoo issues. It's colored much of my thinking lately. I'm pleased that young men (25-35 y/o) in my life have asked women, including me, about our experiences so that they can be more 'woke' and just better to their female friends. But, as my classmate/colleague/study partner Dave (32M) explains, sometimes they men are "just taken advantage of" by women who "manipulate them" with no romantic intention. I'm half outraged, half fascinated that he really feels this way. [more inside]
My husband and I are both looking for new dentists in Seattle - mine passed away, and we no longer live near his. Neither of us have hugely unusual dental needs - he has a crown that can be touchy, and I have some genetic risk for gum disease, but it's mostly just regular cleanings and the occasional filling. I would prefer a dentist somewhere in downtown Seattle, and for him ideally his dentist would be located in Greenwood/Broadview/Shoreline/North Seattle. Preferably places where the hygienists and reception staff are really nice (I once quit a prior dentist because the receptionist was so rude to me). Thanks!
This post on "natural phenomena that are worth the trip" has some amazing suggestions. I'm looking for more – but in South East Asia. The weirder the better! (I'll post some I've found online in the explanation) [more inside]
I'm organizing a Powerpoint Karaoke event (aka Battledecks) for a bunch of computer science researchers. I'd like it to be a smashing hit. Anyone have suggestions for slides, slide topics, and event design strategies that will ensure that both the presenters and the audience have a good time? [more inside]
I have a tune stuck in my head that I believe is from the 80's. I have a recording of me banging an approximation of it out on a keyboard. Can you recognize it? You are my only hope of getting to sleep tonight! [more inside]
I am self-taught Lean and Lean SixSigma but not certified because certifications are expensive and I cannot afford 4K+ price tags (my employer will not reimburse.) I found a few online training/certification courses that are affordable ($200-$500) from companies like this and this, but I am wary of these being valid. I use these methodologies in my current role, but the lack of any certification is problematic for career advancement and industry switching. Are these programs viewed as legitimate or are they a waste of my money?
I'm going to the gym, grocery shopping, cooking healthy foods, feeling great... and then I travel across the country to see family. Weeks later, I am still struggling to get back to my routine and be healthy. How do you set up your home environment and routine so that you can ramp back up after an exhausting trip? [more inside]
We are going on a long international flight soon (Denver to Tokyo) with our 13 month old baby. Help us keep her entertained with phone app and video recommendations! [more inside]
Super snowflake conditions inside. [more inside]
I'm helping compile a list of places and trainings for people who are interested in building knowledge and skills to intervene in social and political action. Any ideas? [more inside]
I recently saw someone with a nice pair of stylish glasses that had a magnetic frame she could attach sunglass lenses to. I would really love to get a pair of glasses like this, but I cannot find any photos of glasses that look remotely similar to the pair I saw. Dos anyone have any idea what brand would make a similar pair of glasses? [more inside]
Can I go home now? And how do I explain it? [more inside]
My dad has an old Sony A900 cordless phone and he can't remember how to set the date and time. Though I have located the Sony support page and even a link to the manual, it appears to no longer be there and that product no longer appears to be supported. Can you provide instructions?
Can we put our new range so that the back of it backs up against against a wall (like most people do...) but also so that the right side of it backs up against a different wall - more or less putting the range in a corner of the room. Aesthetically, I don't love it - but it's a compromise with other issues in the space. My question isn't about where else it could go, but simply, will building codes (for a remodel) allow me to do this or is putting a adjacent to a wall forbidden? [more inside]
"ABC dedicates her performance to the late XYZ." or "ABC dedicates her performance to the memory of XYZ."
Looking for a great spot for a one-night camping trip a reasonable day's drive from Edmonton. [more inside]
Looking for advice on the best places to stay in the Lake District that can be navigated without a car. [more inside]
My apartment is not able to be "wired" up for natural gas, so I'm not gonna be getting a gas range any time soon. I'd still like to have the option of using the high and instant heat of a flame to cook, though; it's really nice for searing steaks etc. While I have a grill, it's not accessible from the kitchen (my balcony is only reachable through the bedroom) and it's kinda nice to be able to heat things inside. I've tried induction, but induction doesn't work so well for woks. So, suggestions please? I could hit Amazon and just pick at random, but I'm hoping for a bit more information than that.
I'd like to fill some holes in a small area of a poured concrete basement wall. It's pretty dry down there and moisture doesn't seem to be a problem at all. The walls are flat to the naked eye. What product would you use to fill these holes that I can then paint over top of to make it look smooth?
Hello Metafilter. I am a philosophy major who works at The University of Chicago Library (and did my undergrad here) but recently was forced to work with a supervisor who I strongly believe to have been a clinical psychopath. She has a documented history of 'breaking' subordinates. One of whom I have made contact with. [more inside]
A friend is losing a relative. I would like to find a poem for her. I'm not even sure it's a good idea, so thoughts on that are welcome. In any case, what are some good poems that are subtle and you found of comfort? By subtle I mean poems that e.g. don't have the word "death" in it.
My mom, who lives in a rural town that is five hours away from me, passed away recently. According to the will, I inherit everything, including her car. She told me several times that once I passed, I should be using her car when I am in her town to manage her estate. But what about car insurance? [more inside]
The system consists of crossbars, rack pads like this: https://www.amazon.com/Dorsal-Round-Surfboard-Kayak-Surf/dp/B01GHDU2TM and straps. It was bought for ferrying my surfboard. Can I use the system on my snowboard, since it's a lot thinner and narrower than a surfboard?
And what might a mentor even do for someone: is it like in the movies? [more inside]
My spouse of a couple of decades has made a new opposite-sex friend, and this relationship has my spidey-senses tingling. I could use a quick reality-check to see if I'm being completely out of line. [more inside]
I have some medication that I need to get rid of it safely and very anonymously. This is in the United states.
Someone yelled "active shooter" in a movie theater today, causing a great deal of panic. I'm trying to process this. Was their action right, wrong, or somewhere in between? [more inside]
Can you help me find the Mandarin version of "It's tricky" by Run-DMC? I have heard it, and i Must hear it again. [more inside]
Direct mail seems the most effective of all marketing, including email and outbound telemarketing. I want to target public radio listeners in cities with a strong public radio presence. Where can I go for an up-to-date list that lets me target those listeners with direct mail? Or, what about is using a mailer service that includes my notice with the ads of other advertisers? I'm looking for options.
Hi, I have a friend who is homebound except for doctor's appointments. She hasn't been able to get out to run errands or any personal activities for a few months and it's getting her down. [more inside]
My Razer Naga Epic Chroma is great for most of my purposes, but I've worn through the mouse wheels on two of them in the last 6 months (home and work setups). I use the mouse wheel for a lot, and when it breaks and fails for center clicks it's really frustrating. Please recommend me a better mouse! [more inside]
It seems a lot of solo entrepreneurs these days are hiring a lot of virtual assistants abroad. The thinking goes that $2-3 dollars / hour is a livable wage given the cost of living in the Phillipines, therefore, it's not unethical. I think it's ethically a very gray area. continued below.. [more inside]
2002 Saab 9-3, frustrating episodic re-start problem. Turn the key all the way, the electrical system activates (various indicators illuminate), but the starter motor doesn't turn over at all. This happens only if the car has been in use and then left turned off for a few minutes (e.g., 5min). [more inside]
Sorry, this is not a question of the heart. While laboriously taking apart a jigsaw puzzle, it occurred to me, how do the commercial companies avoid this tedium? Is there an easier way? [more inside]
Lately I've been getting produce items (fruits, vegetable) at stores without being charged for them. While it's possible the cashier simply forgot to ring them in, this seems unlikely in cases where I was only buying one or two items. If you have ever been a cashier not charging for items, why did you do so and what moved you to bestow free gifts on a customer? If you have been a recipient like myself, what did you conclude was the likely reason for being given free stuff? [more inside]
I am a queer woman of color in my early 30s. I, erm, have recently realized how much I LONG for a role model. But I don't want to just pigeon hole anyone who checks off those same identity category boxes; I know how annoying that can be. Is there some sort of a mentoring program like that? Online or IRL? [more inside]
This poster was acquired in a random pile of things I salvaged from an artistic horder friend. I took it for its aesthetic value. It would appear to have something to do with the Israeli- Palestinian conflict. Beyond that, I know nothing about it. I do not know what politics it reflects, nor the meaning of the phrase on it. Any insight is appreciated!
As part of a journey to the final frontier of frugality, I have some white pumpkins to eat. Regular American pumpkins, not Indian white pumpkin. Are they the same as orange? Can I make a squash soup with them? Or do you have some other ideas? Thanks!
2 nights ago, when I got home from training I noticed pain in my right leg, outside of the shin, a few inches up from the ankle. It was sore and a little throbbing at rest, mild discomfort on plantarflexion and dorsiflexion, quite sore on eversion and a sharp pain on inversion - about a 7. I iced it straight away but the pain got worse. There is a tear drop shaped tender spot that feels very bruised but there is no bruising or redness. Pictured [more inside]
Within the past 10-15 years the Museum School in Boston had a gallery show for a recently deceased (?) artist. I’m trying to remember her name. [more inside]
In this YouTube video about setting up a microphone for livestreaming, there is a pillow/cushion in the background to the right of the presenter. Does anyone anyone know the company/brand/entity associated with that logo? (I asked in the comments section but am still waiting for response.)
I just accepted job offer for an ecological fieldwork position in the Ozarks this summer -- yay!! I'm super excited! And now I probably need to upgrade my wardrobe in a big way, please halp! [more inside]
I've been listening to mostly music by women these days. I love Peter Gabriel, especially his first four albums. Looking for recommendations of women who have made or especially are making currently music with a similar vibe or sound.
I'm headed south to warm waters with pretty fish at the end of the month and am considering purchasing a full-face snorkeling mask and waterproof camera bags. I'll use them at least 4 times on this trip and probably once or twice a year after. Do you have any recommendations or cautionary tales? I've been reading Amazon reviews and am on the fence. I'm in Canada so our Amazon options are slightly different than the US ones but any input welcome. [more inside]
I enjoy cooking. I am very slow at it. Recipes generally take me 2-3 times longer than the internet would lead me to believe. I want to get better at chopping/prepping/multitasking/(washing?). [more inside]
I want to make a font but would prefer to modify an existing one. Help me understand what license I need the original font to have and where to find an appropriate font. [more inside]
YANML. I have a house. There's construction happening next door. They want to dig up my driveway. UK, snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My aunt is visiting and has an interest in American literature (specialized in it in college) and is an English teacher. She's visiting from outside the US. We're based in the Boston-area which is perfect for this kind of thing - so would love to hear about gems we can explore either within the city or on day trips or perhaps one weekend away. [more inside]
A friend's drag/burlesque troupe once teamed up with a taste test organisation to run some meat-testing sessions in return for funding from that org. It was the first time many of us had heard of this option and we found it pretty novel and creative. What are some other unusual or unique ways that you know of for raising money, especially for creative pursuits?
What it says. I'm considering uterine artery embolization to treat fibroids, and there are some complications re: size and location. In addition to (of course) wanting a skillful practitioner and one who would treat the resulting pain appropriately, I'd like to be able to get the best, most up-to-date advice as to whether it's even feasible for me. My GYN is clearly leaning a bit towards surgery (pending MRI results), but that's, after all, his practice, not IR, and so his idea (and his intuitive preference) of what would contraindicate UAE may not be state-of-the-art. Any tales of personal experience would also be welcomed.
Is it possible that my body has gotten used to having certain neurotransmitters artificially amped up, and no longer regulates those systems effectively by itself? [more inside]
Have you experienced and worked through complicated grief/persistent complex bereavement disorder after the death of a loved one? Tell me how it got better. (content note: suicide) [more inside]
So, on a whim, I signed up for the Cape Cod Ragnar relay. I have experience of road races and of the East Coast, but not of Ragnars and not of Massachusetts. Help me minimize my rookie problems...so far, the office Race Bible only covers so many questions (and anyway, the founders are flyover-country yokels like me). [more inside]
I am a woman. I have a seersucker pantsuit. What shoes should I wear with it? [more inside]
How much does 2"x1" ginger weigh? [more inside]
Pretty much what the title says, but a few more details below. (YANMD, obvs.) [more inside]
During my first trip to Ireland last year I fell in love with the brown bread. Unlike the Irish brown bread I've had in the US, it was not dry and sandy and crumbly. Instead, it was moist, nutty, and hearty and amazing with butter and marmalade. I've looked at lots of online recipes, but rather than try 50 different ones in search of a great one, I thought I'd ask if anyone has a great standby formula they can personally share. Thanks!
I'm trying to find a new apartment in Chicago. A lot of older high-rises, which would otherwise be a good fit, have window air conditioner units. I'm seeing a lot of warnings about mold in window AC units. [more inside]
I'm a male nearing 50 who's only ever had one long-term relationship, and isn't wired for short-term ones. For multiple reasons including but not limited to long-term unemployment and mental health disability, I would estimate my odds at another as very slim (I also have social anxiety so have never been able to be the "pursuer"). I'm looking for recommendations for either online resources to have a good life nevertheless, representations of permanently single men and women in fiction or on film whether uplifting or downbeat, or good how-to guides on living alone. [more inside]
Are there forums or other resources that discuss with credibility how to restore or at least maintain antiques or fine furniture? [more inside]
My blood draw has showed slightly elevated creatine levels. I'm a little freaked out. [more inside]
Plus Size Jeans, 2018 Edition. [more inside]
A beloved family member has drunk so much of the right-wing Kool-Aid that they believe even Snopes has a treacherous liberal bias. I'd like to be able to go through his cesspool of a Facebook page, identify the Russian troll factory-originated memes and accounts, and plunk a report down in front of him at the next family gathering. Are there any resources for this, like a directory of memes? [more inside]
Pretty much what the question says: I want a car that uses the least possible gas, which I assume to be a hybrid, and which I can put my bike in without removing wheels, if possible. Basically a Honda Fit or similar, but hybrid? (An electric car is not an option for my living situation.) [more inside]
We are having ten people for Shabbat dinner next Friday. I want it to feel a little fancy, make them think that I am a good cook and yet minimize the effort. It also needs to be fish or vegetarian. I'm thinking slow cooker - I have about 30 minutes in the morning to prep. I will be home an hour before dinner but don't want to spend much of that time time cooking. Ideas?
Movie characters? Book characters? TV Characters? Something else? I was just given the nickname Joann and my counterpart is being called Wade. It won't stop unless and until we understand the reference. Driving me nuts. I strongly prefer Brenda, but that's not on the table. Metafilter, do your thang! Thanks so much you guys!
[knit-filter] I actually asked this on ravelry and got mostly unhelpful responses. I knitted a hoodie with yarn that, for whatever reason, broke really easily and the sweater became unwearable. I loved the heft and softness of the yarn (Eco Cloud) but feel like, if I go to all the trouble, I need to try something else. Looking for a soft, durable yarn of approximately the same weight as Eco Cloud. A few more details below. [more inside]
Consider someone practicing their drawing skills. Tons of studies and practice, no actual finished pieces. Think two hundred hands in a row done in pencil. This person is going to go through a lot of paper. What notebook is best for this person?
I am finally considering taking vacation, and would love to go overseas. However, I may just have a week to take off (possibly two if I’m lucky) and considering either London or Amsterdam (or Iceland because the tickets are not super expensive.) it would be in June. I’m flying from the east coast and have never flown outta the country alone before. Is it worth it to go overseas for a week? Or is that a waste with the travel time? What are some weeklong US alternatives if so? Budget snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I found out that a previous classmate on a group project has taken my written description of the project and is using it on their portfolio Web site. [more inside]
My house has a rodent problem. How can I mitigate it, and cope in the meantime? Bonus dead rats inside D-: [more inside]
I am studying French (in the USA), and would like to listen to some contemporary audiobooks and podcasts on my iPhone. Where can I find them online? My French is at an intermediate/B1 level. [more inside]
I need a cheap stopwatch that displays minutes and 1/100 minutes rather than minutes and seconds. I can't find anything under $50. Does anyone know of $10 to $20 stopwatch with this feature?
Hey, I'm a uni student currently living on occupied Darug land, and travelling into the city for uni several days a week. I'm looking to get more involved in activism and things this year and was wondering if anyone on metafilter had comments on either joining the IWW (barebones site right-now), or continuing my just initiated relationship with either Solidarity or the Socialist Alliance. [more inside]
Do you know any men or women who BEGAN their disordered eating later in life, such as past the age of 25? 30? (I picked arbitrary numbers and would be interested to hear about anorexia onset at any age above, say, 19.) Can you tell me more about their situation? More details below. [more inside]
I have a hard time ending conversations in professional settings, especially when it comes to clients (this applies to friends, too, but I can at least limit conversations with them to text) and especially on the phone. When it appears that they're going to keep talking (like this evening, for an hour and a half until 11pm!), I lie to myself that it's fine to let them keep talking because they're nice and I want them to like me. [more inside]
Looking for suggested readings on the Second Great Migration, specifically stuff about African Americans traveling from from the South to the Western states or California in specific. [more inside]
I've come to the conclusion that I have a lot of emotional baggage and issues that preclude me from forming healthy romantic relationships. The last relationship ended, but I've been given a second chance at a go-around. However, I'm apprehensive about it. So, for those of you who've gone through this before, what makes it worthwhile to try again, versus keeping the breakup, a breakup? (special snowflakes inside) [more inside]
I'm going to go see a show in London in mid-May, and it will be my first time really traveling internationally (not counting a cruise that didn't really count). I'll be traveling solo. I'm generally pretty well-organized and low-stress about travel planning, but could use some advice from seasoned jetsetters for this trip. Specific questions and a recommendation request under the fold. [more inside]
I'm intrigued by fake languages/speech that characters use in video games. I'm thinking of games like Celeste, Splatoon 2, or The Sims. Those are just a few off the top of my head, what are some other examples?
I've googled "shower curtain” “urine” and the results all list a bunch other reasons why my bathroom might smell like urine. I know for certain that it's my shower curtain - that's it on the inside of the curtain. [more inside]
I am an independent voter in Illinois, and have strong opinions on which Democrat I'd prefer on the ballot in November and which Republican I'd (really, really not) prefer. Illinois is an "open primary" state, so I can choose either party's ballot to vote on. But I can't take both. That means practically speaking that I can only vote halfway in the primary. In a two-party system where the Democrat or Republican will win a national race 99.999% of the time, the ability to only vote for primary candidates from one party feels disenfranchising. [more inside]
The East German national anthem could be sung to the tune of the (then West) German national anthem (and, consequently, vice versa). Are there other examples of lyrics that work with multiple tunes?
I tend to live in my mind and take my physical health for granted. I know I need to get into better shape and sometimes I go on a health kick for a few months, but the fitness gains never last and I will backslide to my original state. Please help me break this cycle! [more inside]
I like to have my frequently-used programs in the system tray bar at the bottom of my Windows 10 desktop. This means it is a single click to open a new instance of Chrome or Notepad or whatever. Except sometimes the open window gets bumped to the end. More detail within. [more inside]
I'm looking for good active forum, perhaps there's a better search term to use? I've looked in Reddit, Google Groups and basic web-searches, but I'm not finding any active forums. Some have posts no more recent than 2006. Please, guys, MY FRIEND NEEDS YOUR HELP!!! :D :D :D
For ~3.5 years I have had this Hamilton Beach electric kettle (#40996Z), but sadly it seems to have given up the ghost today -- or at least, the electric display still works but it is no longer heating up. So I'm now in the market for a new electric kettle -- any recommendations? [more inside]
Mid 90s, Olympia Dukakis (I think), road movie, orange 60s Dodge Dart or Plymouth Valiant, appeard to be set in the 90s, sidekick was a crazy late teens or early twenties woman. I've checked IMDB and Google and can't find any Olympia Dukakis movie that fits this. [more inside]
The last several books I've read have been good but Heavy and Sad. I would now like to read some Exciting Space Adventures. [more inside]
I really like the new Titus Andronicus album ("A Productive Cough"), which I can best describe as "Folk-punk" or maybe "backyard punk hoedown". What else would I like along these lines? [more inside]
Looking for an easy way to get decimal GPS coordinate (ex: 32.4883, -4.0393) on mobile devices, running either iOS or Android. It should be easy to copy these coordinates to send to a group. Not looking for how to do location sharing.
I need to price out some tubing for a children's project. I am befuddled by my options. [more inside]
Dear Friends, Brothers & Sisters! Please share your valuable insights, wisdom. [more inside]
Do you subscribe to Shudder? What are the best films you've seen on there? If you remember the film was foreign language with English subtitles please could you mention? Thanks!
Looking for pre-2008 metaphorical uses of the phrase "Dumpster Fire". Also looking for lyrics to the song "Dumpster Fire" by Radar Secret Service. [more inside]
Those websites like BeenVerified and Intellius etc, suck big time. [more inside]
Moving to Chicago suburbs from Indy suburbs. My husband's new job will be in Northbrook. Is it possible to find a 5br, 3ba updated SFH within an hour's commute for $450-550,000? [more inside]
My laptop is doing weird things with colors. They look different in different browsers, or sometimes in the same browser but for different versions of the same image. I'm mystified. Can you help? [more inside]
I’m throwing a baby shower for my very best friend this Monday and I need a little advice about food and making sure I have enough of it. (I asked about everything else baby shower related here and you guys were a HUGE help. I claimed I had food under control. I was perhaps over confident...) Specific questions (including instant pot questions) inside. [more inside]
Looking for your best recommendations of things to see and do in New York City over a few days in March (Wed. 3/21 - Sat. 3/24). I'll be travelling with family, but because of reasons, I'll have lots of time on my own. Lots of info within about my personal tastes and interests. [more inside]
I am working with a recruiter on a contract job. They have gone MIA several times. I really want this job and I feel I'm close to it, or would be if he weren't such an unresponsive [expletive]. What can I do, if anything? Timeline inside [more inside]
I need to get my dog out of the house while contractors are working during the day, but she isn't good with other dogs and is somewhat high strung. Any recommendations for a doggy daycare that has a quiet setup for individual dogs, near Los Angeles/South Bay? She doesn't need a lot of people interaction during the day, but one huge room with 100 dogs barking is going to traumatize us both.
I have some fruit trees that were planted in hard, rocky soil. They're getting by, but certainly not flourishing (or providing much fruit). In an ideal world we would have improved the soil before the trees had been planted. Is there anything we can do now, though? I have lots of great compost, but I don't know if layering it on top of the rocky soil will do much if it can't penetrate. Thanks!
Most of the time command+click opens a new tab in the background just fine and I can navigate there when I'm ready. Recently though, more and more sites seem to have broken that functionality and it's stopped working as expected. I'm not sure why or if there's a way to solve it. [more inside]
How did people aged roughly 15-20 speak to each other -- and to themselves -- in 1997? [more inside]
I'm feeling inspired by the NYTimes piece by Jane Brody on her weight loss. Help me do the same? Some challenges (of course) inside. [more inside]
What good can you do in less than 5 minutes a day? I'm reading The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. He challenges readers to adopt six tiny, daily good habits. What things do you do daily that take very little time, and have provided significant life improvements? [more inside]
My husband gave me a mini rose bush for Valentine's Day instead of cut flowers. How can I keep it alive until it can be planted outside (without buying a grow light or something)? It's not doing well indoors at all, and while I don't have a green thumb, googling leads me to believe that it's impossible for a rose to thrive under regular indoor lighting, even on a window sill. What's my best option? [more inside]
As a high school student, I discovered Frazer's The Golden Bough and was fascinated. Unfortunately, it turns out that "whenever the evidence did not fit he simply altered the evidence". Is there any book you can recommend which is as wide-ranging in its anthropological and historical interests but more truthful?
I am a planner. I have plans for almost every facet of my life. It is just how I am wired. My problem is that I feel as though I am obsessed with this new financial plan. It is difficult for me to do any activity without my mind wandering to my beauteous spreadsheet I made. [more inside]
Looking for the name of the Icelandic pop song that was so big in the summer of 1986, something about "never gonna stop singing in the key of g", only sung in Icelandic of course. NOT Bjork, guessing won't help as I can't seem to find any lists of top hits from that year. Bonus points if you can link me to it on Youtube or someplace.
I have a very intense job that doesn't really slow down, ever. I was doing very well at managing it and had finally sort of found my footing, but I just experienced a surprising personal crisis of a sort and I'm not sure how to keep pushing. I have lost my motivation. [more inside]
I have tried to get to the bottom of my sleep issues before, to no avail. It's time to try again. Recommendations? [more inside]
I am driving from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania to Burlington, Vermont at 9AM on Friday morning. Is this a horrible idea? [more inside]
Can Canucks Bring Wine into the United States of America? [more inside]
What's the best video editing software for someone who's never edited video before? [more inside]
I've reached the limits of what CBT can do for me. If you did too, or it didn't work for you, what next? [more inside]
My mother is part of a religious cult and after two years of not speaking to me, she wants me to go to a meeting. Should I go? (Urgent: need advice within 24 hours) [more inside]
I am having a very difficult time with my break up 2 weeks ago and have mixed feelings towards my ex. On the one hand, I may want to keep in touch with him in the future once the dust has settled - on the other, seeing him take an interest in other women on social media is killing me. [more inside]
When my divorce is final, I expect to get a payout big enough to pay cash for the full price of a modest home in the city where I live. I want to do this, but enough people have told me that this is a terrible idea that I am getting nervous and would like help understanding the pros and cons. A few more details about my situation inside. [more inside]
I'll be in Little Rock from the afternoon of March 18 through the afternoon of March 22, where I'll be attending a conference at the Statehouse Convention Center. What are good things to see and do there in the evening, or on Sunday afternoon? [more inside]
I'm looking for a funny thing I read online a while back - it was written as a dialogue of a parent trying to have adult conversations with a friend while looking after a toddler. I believe I read it about 6 months ago. Can't find it anywhere...searching for "conversations with toddler" and various permutations obviously throws up a lot of not-it. Does anyone remember? [more inside]
My wife has evolved recently into a non-dairy dietary approach. I like dairy: milk, cream for my coffee and occasional ice cream. Soy, almond and cashew milk have an aftertaste I don't like. Help us to remain married with resources that value both worlds. By the way, I don't like kale either.
I need help finding a new hosting service but get overwhelmed since I'm not even sure what it means to be a shared/managed/wordpress/vps host? [more inside]
A colleague puts an adverb before a noun every single time. The sentence: "The below graphic provides a guideline for X." I know it's incorrect, but... why? [more inside]
Asking for a worried friend: Will a current student debt to Student Finance England count against an application for a remortgage in the future? The next one is due in five years.
Does anyone have experience advertising their tutoring services by paying for Facebook ads? What was your experience like and was it cost effective in getting new students? Thanks!
I've always had anxiety and I've always had palpitations, but normally it's just an odd beat or 2 and it's back to normal. Lately I've been having runs of skipped beats that are scaring the bejeezus out of me. How should I proceed? [more inside]
With neighbors building fences and additions, I'd like to figure out exactly where my property lines are. I have various plats and maps from the county, and they have some longitude and latitude information, but is there a GPS-based way to determine the actual property lines on my own? Or do I need to pay the $1,000 + for a professional job?
For an International Womens Day radio program - bonus points if it's not sung in English. [more inside]
I want to buy a very simple lightweight camera that I can use as a sort-of on-person dashboard cam. Preferably something not too expensive, that I can clip on my coat or backpack. Quality should be good enough to see number plates. I don't care about quality otherwise, though it would be really nice if it worked okay-ish in low light. [more inside]
I have adult-onset eczema on my face and neck. If you have facial eczema, what do you do to combat flareups? What sorts of things do you say to your doctor to get help? [more inside]
A friend of mine has cancer and the outlook is not good. He just sent me a text that says they are starting "radiation today on my skull to alleviate headaches." I'm puzzled by this, I don't have a doctor to ask and I certainly don't want to bug him. Can anyone here knowledgeably explain the rationale behind this and what it might mean overall in terms of his prognosis? (Though I appreciate the anticipated sympathy, that's not what I need. I need information.)
We have a few old-house issues that need a structural engineer to analyze for us. We have had difficulty finding any, but mostly because we've looked on Yelp. [more inside]
My wife is speaking at a conference in Aarhus, Denmark on the weekend of June 9th. Where should we travel afterwards? [more inside]
I've become interested in the case of an activist and organizer that is currently in prison. This is not someone I know personally, but I know their work and advocacy. Their family has been sharing suggestions on how best to support this person, and one suggestion is to write letters of emotional support. I'm interested in doing this, and I'd just like some suggestions on what to say AND what not to say. (Firsthand experiences, either from senders or receivers, would be especially appreciated.)
We went away for a long weekend, leaving Mr. Jane's truck parked in our suburban driveway. Upon our return, the truck was running oddly. Took it in to the dealer and found that a rodent had crawled up in the truck and chewed through a bunch of hoses and wiring. Yesterday, after parking the truck in the driveway overnight, (after another weekend trip, on which we took the truck) the truck is running poorly. The rodent has AGAIN chewed up hoses and wiring. We would like this to stop. How? [more inside]
I'd like to make a list of online places to volunteer for that I can do sitting in my chair at home. Especially interested in stuff where I can help out people e.g. people who can't hear or see. Examples: transcribing audio/books (e.g. for libraries (which libraries currently need this?), Mefi podcast), subbing foreign language videos, Be My Eyes. I sometimes get pretty bad anxiety so would prefer ones where I wouldn't come into contact with actual humans. Thanks!
We have a snack table at work, refilled regularly with sweets. I would like to avoid it, but find this difficult. Help! [more inside]
How can I adjust to being a good Dad and husband without the luxury of using my dominant hand? [more inside]
On a 2 week business trip with stops in China, Japan, Taiwan. I noticed that my daily meds which were in my carry on luggage must have fallen out somewhere between the airport and the hotel after going through customs. [more inside]
I'm tryig to decide whether the five-week intensive program in Improv given at the IO Theater would be worthwhile. Anyone out there share any insight/excperience with it? I've been doing improv for about a year, taking weekly classes in Ottawa. I've been loving it.
How do you distinguish between possible dating connection (which may lack a romantic spark/instant connection at first but that's totally okay) and a basic lack of compatibility? [more inside]
I'm looking for a great yoga retreat that's being done by a studio in NYC. I want to be able to visit the studio a few times beforehand and meet the teachers and other students. Any suggestions? [more inside]
What are some reputable packaged websites I could resell? [more inside]
I am on a hunt for little or lesser-known classical music that invokes disquiet or suspense in the listener. Specifics below the fold! [more inside]
Please help me find an exciting hobby. [more inside]
Can a "large local reaction" to bee stings become a systemic reaction in the future? Should I take any special precautions? [more inside]
I've got some beloved mass market paperbacks from my youth with amazing cover art, and I've long wanted to display them on my walls. But how to do so? [more inside]
Is there a downside (for either side) to charging a good tenant a very low rental rate? My husband and I want to decide how little to charge a friend whom we already know will be a responsible renter. [more inside]
My friends are planning to take me to my first-ever manicure for my birthday, but it's my first time and I have some questions... [more inside]
In the early- to mid-80s, my dad, an electrical engineer, made a DIY satellite dish. I know what was on the outside, but I don't know what was on the inside. Sadly, he's gone and can't explain it to me. What did he cobble together, and how did it work with satellite technology of the time? [more inside]
Help me come up with a name for a loose, bi-weekly gathering of close friends taking place throughout the summer at various local beaches! [more inside]
So I've got a bunch of songs I've written for music compositions that are likely mostly in the public domain. Looking for some clarity on what I'm not understanding from all teh googles. [more inside]
My kid is in 9th grade, and I'm wondering what I need to know, at this point, about getting my kid into college? Esp. with respect to a nontraditional school (no grades, for example). Is there anything I need to be doing now? [more inside]
How do I come to terms with my child having absolutely no interest in all in participating in any extra-curricular activities at his school? [more inside]
What are some great apps that have made your life easier or have been useful to you? I have a nice Android phone (finally) with space for plenty of apps, so I'm interested in apps that will help me with daily life – not games! What are some apps I should look into? I especially would love some recommendations of apps that keep you organized, manage time effectively and help you manage your finances. Any apps that allow you to save money that are legit would be interesting too. [more inside]
My work requires me to sit for extended periods of time, and while I try to stay conscientious of my posture, I constantly find myself slipping. I am considering getting one of those "posture correctors" (band that fits around the shoulders and torso). Are they effective? [more inside]
In my new position, I have to do a lot more writing (for external audiences) than I ever had before. How do I do it more quickly or efficiently? [more inside]
I’ve been biting my nails for as long as I’ve been alive. There are a lot of resources for stopping, but my problem is that I bite my nails so that I can push them into my gums. I’ve been able to stop biting them for a few months, but I end up flossing my gums until they bleed or picking at them. Its a disgusting habit, and I worry that other people are able to notice and judge me for it. On the other hand, the sensation is extremely calming. How do I quit?
I'd like to read more women authors like Patricia Highsmith but I mean something probably more specific than it sounds. Details inside. [more inside]
My sister certainly qualifies based on income, but she says she's given up on their website. She says she's sent everything they asked for, and they keep telling her either they didn't get it, or she submitted her request the wrong way. Meanwhile, I think the deadline has passed? My problem is, I have never had to do this (private, employer paid healthcare for 30 years). I don't even know what to tell her. What should she do?
We'll be heading to NYC and DC for a few days each next month. We have a 7-year-old. Do you have hotel/B&B recommendations? [more inside]
What are some good shows or movies on Netflix that I might have skipped because of the Male Glance? [more inside]
I'm running out of hard disk space. How can I move some large Google Drive files to a destination that's not my computer? [more inside]
I would be very interested to find a book/website/other resource showing interesting differences in law (particular area of law doesn't matter, ideally a wide range) between different states (not a "wacky" laws list). Does such a work exist? I have been unable to find anything outside of the numerous lists online of goofy examples of laws. Thank you for any help you can provide. Have a great day.
Through a random event I googled my cell phone number. Wow. It showed my name and variations of my name. It also showed some backgrounds on these people. Some had lawsuits. Some had several wives. Some had prison records. And none of this is true for me. [more inside]
Is Spotify Pay to Stream for small bands - inquiring minds want to know. [more inside]
How much extra does it cost to manufacture electronic devices with USB-C connections vs micro USB connections? [more inside]
I have a Dell Inspiron 15 3000 series running 8.1. A while back, I started having a very irritating problem where I'll be typing and my cursor will suddenly jump back to an earlier place in the text. This happens in every program that involves typing. I can't find anything that the incidents have in common. Does anyone know how this might be or how to troubleshoot it?
I'm a young smallish woman that takes the subway every day. I've encountered my fair share of manspreaders, who really make me uncomfortable. I understand that personal space is at a minimum on the train, but I don't like when guys take up my space with their legs splayed out. What should I do to confront these guys? I don't want to spread my legs out because it bothers me so much for some guy's leg to be touching mine. It feels very sexual-harrass-y. [more inside]
Sales Reps in B2B territory - how do you find new customers! [more inside]
I've just replaced the battery on my iPod classic, but because it was a pain to open and I had to pry the thing apart, there is now a gap at the sides between the front plate and the case (here's a pic) I can live with how it looks as I'm going to put a silicone case on it, but I'm concerned that it might leave it vulnerable to damage. What can I put on there to 'seal' the sides? [more inside]
Jimmy has leased a large number of copiers. The monthly lease cost of the copier contract is X which includes Y color impressions and Z black impressions per month. Color impressions over Y are billed at Yo per impression Black impressions over Z are billed at Zo per impression. What equation does Jimmy use to determine the actual per page cost for both color and black when given the monthly page counts for color and black.
My four year old is really loving classical music, ballet scores, and like all little girls her age, John Philip Sousa marches. Particular favorites listed inside; do you have other recommendations? [more inside]
An epic tale of a guy who lost his job but kept coming in and getting paid - where was that? [more inside]
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My partner and I married last year and had a fantastic honeymoon, mostly spent at a couple national parks. I'm interested in finding things to memorialize our honeymoon--in a subtler fashion than a photo album. [more inside]
We've recently come back from a holiday with our small children. The seven year old was fun to be around and enjoyed the holiday and we feel like we parented well. With regards the three year old, she hated the change to her routine and was a bit of a menace. It made the holiday feel like the opposite of a holiday. We have come back more exhausted than we went away. [more inside]
Who visited Berlin? Can you help me with places to visit and presents to bring? Need not big and heavy)
What is going wrong with my breastfeeding and what, if anything, can help? [more inside]
I'm watching a show and there's a moment when a character is given too much heroin. Other characters seem very insistent to keep him from sleeping and talking, thinking about it I've seen that in other movies, be it drugs or alcohol. Is this something that's just a trope? Or is there any actual value to keeping people up/cogent if there having chemical issues?
I see the warnings everywhere, I googled the studies, but I still don't understand what happens that makes these herbs contraindicated with asthma. [more inside]
I have $10000 to spend on plants (well I wish I did anyway). My plants come in two sizes which I'll call thing1 and thing2. [more inside]
I have some questions about teaching piano lessons. [more inside]
I've let all my body hair grow for the past 18 months (I'm female). My partner thinks it's awesome, and I feel good, in principle, about it. But I cannot bring myself to get my hairy legs out, and not sure how to get over it? [more inside]
I have an Epson WF-3640 all-in-one printer that is printing blurry text in some, but not all parts of documents. I have tried everything I can think of. An image of what I am talking about is below the fold. [more inside]
Note that this question is literally about space, not cost. Details inside. [more inside]
I really like the design and functionality of Cory Doctorow's website -- http://craphound.com/ -- and I'm wondering if anyone connected with web design might have seen something similar in an existing site theme? [more inside]
Circumstances necessitate moving out of a family home quickly with less than $3000, no expensive possessions to be sold, no income beyond those savings, and a few bills that tap said savings at the tune of a few hundred per month. Minimalist lifestyle but no social circle I can lean on for a getaway. Walk me through the avenues I can pursue immediately and safely.
I got angry at the bank today, but the situation is not entirely their fault. Came home upset enough about my financial situation to get it into real order, but this is a subject that triggers my anxiety disorder harder than just about anything, so I struggle at time to find the best way to proceed. I also know there are entities out there who like scamming desperate, confused people, so I'm hoping some Hivemind guidance will get me started on the right track. Details after the cut bcs every attempt to escape American poverty is unique! [more inside]
The photo booth at the Diesel Café is out of order. Are there other old-school photo booths in the Greater Boston (i.e., within T-able distance) area? [more inside]
I can't think of a single person who can write such a letter because well, essentially no one beyond my family has read my work. [more inside]
We're doing a bit of a wirlwind honeymoon trip to both Scotland and Northern Ireland and I can't figure out what to do with the last Saturday (March 17) of the trip in Belfast. Also, it will be St. Patrick's Day. Is this a good or bad thing? [more inside]
Poly-filter. Funny how things change, advice needed. This is a follow-up to a previous question but I will try to word this to avoid mandatory reading of the previous question. [more inside]
Over the past fortnight or so I seem to have given myself a couple slight cases of frost nip on the tops of a few of my toes. The affected areas are slightly red, swollen, sensitive to touch and easily irritated. Googling about for advice has netted instructions for immediate care (drying, rewarming, &c), but save topical application of aloe vera I've not found any recommendations for ongoing ministrations. [more inside]
I'm leaving for a short 3-day trip to Iceland in a few days. This is going to be my first solo trip so I would like to know how to make the most of it and stay safe (F, 26). [more inside]
I work for a company that is creating a promotional installation, a temporary construction - based on two shipping containers filled with electronics and #hipstuff. We're based in the Netherlands, but our Dutch construction crew will be installing it in NYC, and later in California. Do we need permits? [more inside]
Approaching 50 (about half a year out, now). English; male; liberal. Believe in immigration, diversity, the EU (remain voter), and education, public libraries and healthcare completely funded by e.g. higher corporate taxation. But, one by one of late, peers (colleagues, friends from university days) of my age have said some variation of "Actually, I think [right wing or fascist person] has a point" and then it's revealed they have quietly become the opposite of my (and their old) positions on many things. How can I stop this happening to me? [more inside]
As described in the title – my spouse and I are seeking recommendations for a getaway destination and specific resort/hotel/villa. - Seeking to travel sometime within the next 3-4 months so locations with good weather during that time is critical – unwilling to risk rain and cooler temperatures. - Prefer adults only atmosphere, really want to avoid kids and families. - Departing from Washington DC. - Budget of around $3000 for two people, excluding airfare. - Not interested in Dubai, Spain/Canary Islands, Mallorca, Australia or New Zealand. [more inside]
I was in a Best Buy the other day that had an Nvidia-manufactured Geforce GTX 1080 with 8GB of RAM for sale for $589. [more inside]
I volunteer at a community radio station where we are in the process of trying to reform or replace the current board and governance structure with something that is more effective and offers representation for the diversity of viewpoints and stakeholders involved. Please share your experiences of what did and didn't work in orgs you have been a part of or offer examples of governance structures that you have found to be effective. [more inside]
My gym has canceled several of my strenth-based and cardio classes, which has completely upended my routine. Bad timing - I'm 23 weeks along. In lieu of classes, I've taken to climbing the stairs at work, about 28 floors a day ( I guess that's 56 flights?) which is about 30 minutes total. I'm finding it helpful, and I'm curious what specific physical exercises helped others. [more inside]
I'm attending an intro talk on TM (Transcendental meditation) tonight and am having some doubts on the way the benefits have been sold. I heard an interview with Bob Roth, then attended the talk he gave in Philadelphia, and have received a few emails from the organization. While I have no doubt on the long term benefits of TM, it seems to me they've oversold the short term experience. If you've done TM, can you tell me if it's really that different from other meditation techniques, such as mindfulness? [more inside]
After a nasty custody battle that settled permanently in my favor, the administration of my kids’ private school chooses to be Team Dad (because $$ & patriarchy) and the new principal, new counselor, and new secretary still seem to make things unpleasant for me at every turn. So I try to avoid setting foot in the school as much as possible, but this week I will absolutely have to enter the snake pit, and I don’t want to get triggered. Help me put on my armor. [more inside]
I recently finished Cixiun Liu's "Rememberance of Earth's Past" Trilogy and I would like to read more multi-générational sci-fi problem solving. [more inside]
I have a weird mail forwarding situation going on and I don't know how to get it to stop. [more inside]
I'm hoping to put together a discussion-based Meetup (as opposed to activity-based), but I don't have a lot of experience managing conversations between larger groups of strangers. What are some things to keep in mind when leading a discussion between 5 to 10 people? If the object is networking and socializing as much as it is to have stimulating discussion (maybe more so), what strategies can I use to see that people have a chance to get to know each other personally once the primary discussion or discussions have died down? [more inside]
Your favourite 30 Day Fitness Challenges? [more inside]
My boyfriend of about 2.5 months asks for reassurance of my feelings/love for him and it is pushing me away/scaring me. Is asking for reassurances on feelings so soon a sign of insecurity or is this just me being a little guarded in my first new relationship after a pretty abusive (emotionally/mentally) relationship? [more inside]
I'm drowning in mailing list emails. I don't mind them in my inbox, as I like to monitor as they arrive (if they flowed into a separate Gmail folder, they'd be invisible). But they mess with searches. E.g. if I'm searching for a Jcrew order confirmation, results will include 2000 Jcrew marketing list emails. Also, any search term can be found a zillion times among my WaPo Daily 202 emails, etc. I need a process for deleting old mailing list items once they've gone cold, i.e. after a few days. [more inside]
Our team has frequent skype calls where ten people are in a conference room, and the two or three who call in feel forgotten. Please suggest some kit that can help (specified within) and any other best practices. [more inside]
Gonna be there Monday to Wednesday next week [more inside]
Spring is in the air and I'm getting all moony-eyed over the idea of a new bicycle. Brifters, disc brakes and threadless stems weren't even things the last time I went bike shopping. Whole marketing categories -- gravel, cyclocross, adventure -- have emerged. Contrary to the remembered hype of yesteryear, steel frames have not been completely displaced by aluminum and carbon fiber. I am overwhelmed. [more inside]
I just found out I'm a donor-conceived person. How can I find the sperm donor, given that I was conceived in the 80s and donor anonymity was a thing? [more inside]
I love this vintage desk and want to buy it. But is there a risk to my kids from the paint? 1960s French -- worried I will just worry about it but I can't find anything similar new in the UK.
My roommate is schizophrenic and I believe their behavior is affected by this. Living with them is getting difficult, and I'm looking for healthy and gracious coping strategies since breaking lease early is not an option. Advice? [more inside]
My mother has always told me that after she gave birth to me, the doctors snatched me away in a hurry. She wasn't clear why. Later they took her to where I was - inside a small cold bed by myself where she saw me shivering with cold. She was not allowed to grab me of course. Days later they returned me to her. What happened? [more inside]
Hi all, I am working on a writing project and need to know more about the different stages of human decomposition. I appreciate this varies depending on where the body is - but I am interested in woodland/forest type sites and the insects that aid the process. [more inside]
For 20-40hpw, I sit at my dining table to compute—in a garden variety hard wooden dining chair. Tiny furnished rental. Can’t change the chair, so what is the optimal cushion for butt and back support? [more inside]
I hear backhanded comments against people (including myself, and maybe I'm biased but it does seem skewed towards women) about people them being old / unattractive / fat / unmarried - and I want to take a stand but don't always have the words and am often too D: to think during those moments. [more inside]
I think I would like to read the Koran. This is a blank spot in my education and knowledge of the world that I would like to fill in. But, I do not have the time, interest, or need for a deep study. [more inside]
We're trying to reduce the amount of plastic in our lives and a huge regular intruder are shampoo and conditioner bottles. I have bought specialist bar shampoos but I live with two hairy children who do unspeakable things like wash their toys and feet with $15 bars of shampoo soap. I'd like to explore using a common hand soap available in a supermarket with a follow up of cider vinegar or something. (Maybe. I don't know. Do I?) [more inside]
Is Kobe Bryant the first person to have won both an Academy Award and an Olympic Gold Medal?
Looking for a headhunter to help place a mid-careeer composer/orchestrator. He's been successful working on a contract basis with Big Name companies but would like to do more US film/tv. He's in LA and works primarily in LA and NYC. He's tried working peer networks and connections, and was wondering if there are reverse headhunters for this kind of thing? [more inside]
There is an important holiday celebration coming up and I am entangled in the seemingly impossible planning. Halp. [more inside]
I am looking for a job. My current contract may end in 4 months. Luckily, there are jobs in my town I am qualified for, great! I accepted invites from recruiters to talk to hiring managers and ended up with onsite interview offers. But I am not ready. How to stall? [more inside]
I'm in Chile, no cable, just internet access. I want to watch the Oscars. Is there a way I can watch them in English online? I have a proxy server in the US I can connect through, if that helps [more inside]
Inspired by creative community-cultivating projects (such as Shepherd's "tiniest art gallery" and the many ideas presented in The Wrong Kind of Cheese's FPP), I'm interested in cultivating neighborliness by providing sidewalk chalk to the world! (Well, my little corner of it, anyway.) Help me think through the logistics. [more inside]
I’m looking for a hair product that will help protect my very fine hair from damage caused by blow drying and styling tools. Can you recommend a specific product for this and tell me why you like it? Thanks!
What have you had done for overall anti-aging and skin texture improvement, whether at a medical spa or with serious treatments at home? Do you do peels? Microneedling? Have you had Fraxel or Thermage? [more inside]
I've stumbled across two jazz albums that, to my great surprise, have something akin to the chugging, playful, noise-funky tunes I loved on the first Lounge Lizards record from many years ago. They are Francesco Bearzatti Tinissima Quartet's first two CDs: Suite for Tina Modotti (YT) and X (Suite for Malcolm) (YT). [more inside]
I'm thinking of things like the brilliant Opus No. 1 by Tim Carleton and Darrick Deel, which I'd imagine most people that have made a phone call in the last twenty years have heard (but never knew what it was). There must be other songs like this. What might they be?
We'd like to pay for someone to clean our apartment in Medford, MA, (near Boston) once or twice a month. We're also committed to making sure that person is earning a living wage — let's say $15 an hour if salaried, or substantially more if a contractor. Is there a way to make this happen using a cleaning service? Or will we have to hire someone directly? If the latter, how much of a hassle should we expect it to be?
My cat turned up lame the other day, and after a blessedly cheap vet visit, it has been determined that she has torn her ACL. She is 14, and she is limping. I want to know if your cat has had this or a similar injury, and how that all went. [more inside]
At our PR agency, I‘m the person who‘s best at writing in English. Consequently, when we‘re trying to win a new international client, I get asked to vamp up the presentation. But I don‘t really know how to „talk PR“ in English and would really love to see some examples of pitches that could help me learn how certain expressions are used. [more inside]
A website building program I use sent me a note last week saying they would be shutting down the portion of their services that incorporates CAPTCHA as a smart tool because Google was moving away from the verification system. But I haven't found anything in the news about it. [more inside]
I spend far too long each night lying in bed messing around on my iPad and sleep with it under my pillow. I’d like better sleep hygiene. But I’ve become dependent on it to help me fall asleep. Assume for the purpose of the question that I’ve already tried setting limits for nighttime use and failed miserably. [more inside]
I'd like to read more about how communities in bombed areas went about the process of rebuilding after WWII -- specifically from the perspective of local government, urban planning and architecture. A few questions that interest me: How did these projects get funded? How long did they take? What kinds of controversies arose? Were there battles between "traditionalists" and "modernists"? How did these play out? Thanks in advance for your recommendations!
Why do some clementines have seeds, yet no commercial bananas seem to? What determines when a clementine will have seeds? Do they come from seedy trees, or randomly from any blossom, or from a particularly seedy branch? Seems to me a tree should either bear seedy fruit or not, but you, with your botanical knowledge, know better, I hope.
In interested in pursuing a PhD in Europe, but have no idea how to even start making a plan. Logistics, advice, warnings needed! [more inside]
The New Yorker is one of my favourite magazines. Are there any literary-artsy magazines similar to The New Yorker or that are based in New York City? I am looking for poetry, culture, books, stories, art, politics,and films.
So I am oddly googlefu-less in trying to find a Mad Magazine gag from my youth which comprised four anticlimactic stories, loaded guns which might save the hero or heroine if they went off, but they didn't. The one I particularly remember is the naive young couple honeymooning in Vegas. They're about to take in a show, and the bride sends the groom downstairs while she gets dolled up. He loses their entire dowry while she gets ready, and he's in utter despair. As he heads back to the room to confess, he sticks his hand in his pocket and finds a last silver dollar, just as he passes a slot machine the jackpot of which is almost as much as he just lost. He says a little prayer: if he could only get it back, get most of it back, he will never do anything so stupid again -- he and she will live responsibly and reasonably and lovingly and happily. He puts the silver dollar in the machine, pulls the lever, and... three lemons. THE END
My mom is thinking of moving back to the States after forty-plus years in the UK. She is in her sixties and understandably worried about getting healthcare there, as well as allergic to paperwork. Is there someone we can pay to give expert advice and perhaps help with paperwork and budgeting? Something like a financial advisor, but for healthcare. [more inside]
Help me out Mefi, I was attempting to find the Aeon Flux Special that was animated by Square and perhaps added onto the Animated Collection DVD, but the Internet has no record of such a thing ever existing! Am I insane? Where do I locate a copy of the video? Does anyone have a still to reassure my sense of sanity?
I was recently introduced (by a Mefi comment, natch), to Max Richter's re-composing of Vivaldi's Four Seasons. I can't stop listening to the incredible Spring 1. I want to listen to more music that does the same things for me. [more inside]
I am looking for some graphic design software to produce professional looking information sheets (letter / A4) on specific topics. [more inside]
Please help two families choose a destination for a week in Greece in early July. Travelers include four adults, two boys (12 yo), and two girls (7 yo). We like beaches, villages, ruins, food, and knowing that we're not in America. We don't like Disney Land, clubbing, or scary mountain roads. [more inside]
I've just been reminded of Toto Coelho's I Eat Cannibals and I'm obsessed. The sound, the vibe, the silliness, the look, how everyone's so sincere and intense but also having a ton of fun. Can you recommend me any other tracks or anything that has a similar vibe?
My skin has recently become quite sensitive and almost every bra I used to like is now unbearably itchy and pokey. I'm looking for recommendations from other similarly sensitive people. [more inside]
I'm looking for some recommendations from some classical music heads of two or more performances of the same piece, both which differ from each other and are good (or great) versions of the composition they're representing. I realized I don't know what kind of variances occur, and I'm looking to understand that. [more inside]
My son is asking for a drawing tablet for his birthday. It would actually be for both my daughter and my son. I'm looking at the Huion KAMVAS GT-191 Drawing Tablet but is this overkill for a pair of teenagers? We already have a computer to hook this monitor up to. Any recommendations are appreciated.
What roughly 2000 -era rag-timey minor song features the heavily UK accented lines: 'it was living with Jackie that made me finally happy.' and, 'two fingers shoved right up your Jackson?' The recording is just acoustic guitar and keyboard, I believe. [more inside]
I would like to be able to follow along with my knitting patterns and charts on my laptop, and track my progress through the pattern. [more inside]
I love art and I've always thought that if I had a kid, I would paint a mural on the wall of their room. Now there is in fact a kid on the way, and a room waiting to be decorated. The problem is that we're renting our place, and don't expect to be there a lot longer. [more inside]
I love cooking. I love baking. I even love NYC. I do not love my small kitchen. HALP. [more inside]
Where in Seattle tonight can we drink beer and eat with entertained kids...? (Any brewpubs with playspaces??) [more inside]
I'm having a hard time finding research specifically about managers. Most results I've been able to turn up (aside from an abundance of blog spam and job listings) are about the effects of managers on organizations, and suchlike. I'm interested in the effects of working in a management career on the people that are doing it. [more inside]
I think the landlord's general negligence toward the HVAC here has possibly led to my having much worse health issues than I would otherwise. [more inside]
I put 25K miles on a car a year. What is my best option to buy or lease a car that will not end with me being underwater constantly as cars fail? [more inside]
Car seat and stroller woes in 2011 Mazda 2 (compact car and baby question) [more inside]
I spilled some sugary beverage on my laptop. It's working now, but I feel like the spill bodes poorly for my laptop's long-term survival. Can I pay a service to take it apart and clean the insides? Does this service exist in Chicago? Does it cost a million dollars? [more inside]
I’d like to make a small (10 to 20 pages) website, and I’d like to do it by hand-coding in a text editor. I want to make sure it displays reasonably correctly across modern browsers without any security concerns. [more inside]
I'm reading Barbara Kingsolver's The Poisonwood Bible, which has me completely sucked in. I'm not very far along it it; about 17% in Kindle-speak. But it renews a question I've had for a long time: Why do/did many African countries and other places tolerate the invasion and intrusion of religious missionaries? I'm sure some were killed, but why weren't the rest run off, or banned from the area? (more below) [more inside]
Modern electronic music suggestions for an X-ennial who's been living in a cave since 2001? [more inside]
Anyone have a good solution for where to put the cat litter box in a studio apartment? The main issue is finding a location where humans don't pick up litter that has been tracked out and transfer the litter to bed. [more inside]
My elderly father refuses to let anyone accompany him to the doctor and we’re concerned that he’s minimizing some increasingly serious symptoms at his appointments. What’s the most effective way for us to inform his doctor about the difficulties he’s been having? [more inside]
I work from home and I’m on the computer all day. For most of last year I was going to Krav Maga martial arts classes twice a week. I loved it, but in January a flare up of a chronic overuse injury in my right arm sent me to physical therapy for four weeks, and I’m starting to think punching targets may not be the best way to preserve my wrist/shoulder. I’m looking for something new that has a social aspect and is strengthening! [more inside]
I dated a friend, briefly, it didn't work out. I feel very conflicted about our ending conversation and would like some help getting some closure. [more inside]
I've got a properly formatted csv file of ~100 book titles and authors from my Audible account. I'd like to automate getting a ISBNs for as many of these as possible. Is there a way to input a list of book titles somewhere and get back (any) matching ISBNs? I'm trying to add my Audible books to Goodreads and would like to not do this manually.
My macbook (powerbook, about 2014) screen is suddenly filled on the left side with colorful vertical lines preventing me from seeing the left hand side bar or the apple icon, which now seem beyond the border of the screen, and the left border is just lines. I figure it's the end. I want to back up but my Timemachine to an external drive also frequently fails to work, just doesn't back up, even with different external drives. I want to bring it in to the shop today and back up all my data to icloud first. [more inside]
My hair grows very fast, and haircuts are boring and expensive. I'd rather let it grow, but have few ideas how to manage the length other than putting it up in a bun or using a barrette - which is BORING. It's thick and wavy, but like most thick and wavy hair, looses oomph after 2-3 feet. How do I learn interesting ways to dress this mess? Am willing to look outlandish.
I grew up with the Passover tradition where an adult hides half the middle matzah during dinner, the children search for it after dessert and give it back in exchange for a reward. This year the youngest child is in college and most of the cousins well into their twenties and thirties. Time to update this tradition - any ideas?
I get one or two hairs growing between my shoulder blades. I want to pluck them, to stop me from poking at them, but it's impossible to grab them with normal tweezers. I don't want to ask for help, and shaving doesn't last long. Are there tweezers that can be used on one's own back?
I had a miscarriage this week and I'm feeling terribly alone but don't know how to tell anyone. [more inside]
Cannabis is probably the fastest-growing and well-funded industry these days and I want to get in on it. Googling gives me a lot of trolls and spam and nothing useful. [more inside]
I was assigned to lead my dream project. I need to collaborate with a partner company, and unfortunately we have creative differences. I find their behavior disrespectful. How do I improve the working relationship, so that I can enjoy this project? [more inside]
YANMD, but any thoughts that Metafilter might have on this would be helpful! This has happened to me a few times in recent weeks. I'm a side sleeper, and tend to roll over in my sleep so that my legs are sort of tucked up under me. At some point, I wake up to go to the bathroom, and when I go to straighten my legs, it hurts. [more inside]
I recently found out that my older half-sister, whom I hadn’t spoken to in 8 years, passed away last December. I found her 14-year-old daughter on instagram and I’d like to reconnect with her, but what can do for/with a grieving 14-year-old girl who doesn’t really know me? HALP. [more inside]
I have a very nice ballcap from L.L. Bean that's waxed-canvas lined with wool. It's dry, warm and comfy in the worst of weather and the ideal winter companion. I shampoo/condition every other day, shower daily, and my hair does not smell of much of anything normally. My hat, since I got it at Christmas, has begun to stink, especially on non-shampoo days. Just a wave of funk even when I just lift it up a bit. This is not something I've experienced with my other caps (tho admittedly I didn't wear those as often as this one) How do I de-odorize it without destroying it?
Can you help me find this book based on one vaguely remembered scene: girl with mental powers using those powers to push herself through a physical task (pretty sure it was climbing a tree)? [more inside]
I’m going on a beach vacation in a few weeks. Is there anything you’ve brought with you to a high-end resort that was an unexpected winner in some way? [more inside]
The gentleman I am seeing is in the Phoenix area staying at a hotel. He will be there for his birthday, which is in a few days. I would like to have something delivered (cookies, cupcakes, something fun if you have ideas), but I am not sure what, and I am not sure what in Phoenix is any good. Suggestions? Thank you in advance!
I'm turning 50 on April 25th, and am turning to the Mefiverse for great advice on how to have a killer staycation in NYC (I live in NJ) to celebrate. [more inside]
I have recently enjoyed Lexicon by Max Barry and the Flame Alphabet by Ben Marcus, both of which were fiction novels about language used as a supernatural force. What other fiction or non fiction books would I enjoy that are also about language, linguistics, speech, symbolism, etc? [more inside]
How does the average person deal with it on a micro level, if the president has a unilateral ability to institute tariffs on foreign commodities? [more inside]
When speaking English and quoting another person, the speaker will often "do a voice" to indicate the speech of another person. This has various specific forms, with many connotations. Does something similar exist in ASL or other sign languages? What does it look like? [more inside]
I want your best encouraging quotations--whatever quotation you try to keep in mind when you are in doubt about yourself, when you are anxious about something, when you are in trouble or worried. If the quotation has helped you get a grip or feel less desperate, I want to see it. That is all. Thank you.
Due to an imbalance of resources, I keep running into a particular demoralizing/demotivating situation with my job and it's starting to affect my productivity. How can I short-circuit this bad cycle I've gotten into? [more inside]
The title says it all- I've encountered THIS type of multi-pin connector a few times and don't know the proper name for it. (i.e. "Molex" "DB-9" )
I have ADHD and I struggle with managing the projects on my plate. I understand the "micro" stuff for staying on task in the moment (Pomodoro technique, playing fun music, etc.). The "macro" stuff is still a huge challenge to me, though: project planning and time management over weeks and months, keeping track of what projects are actually on your plate, and so on. What help is out there for people with ADHD trying to manage the big picture, not just the minute-by-minute focusing? All tips, resources, books, websites, personal anecdotes welcome!
I am looking for feedback on the plan I have in mind, and hoping that others can offer fresh perspectives which may help me improve this plan, or perhaps alter it completely. I am in the UK. [more inside]
Has anyone experienced this, do you have any tips, and is there anything I should try? [more inside]
I have Netflix and mostly use the DVD queue. I get that if the top thing on your queue is listed with a "wait", Netflix will skip to the next film and send you that. But...what happens to the "waitlisted" film when that happens? [more inside]
I'd like to improve my ability to connect and work with kids. Something I see teachers and some parents have down pat. Is there actual training that can help? Or is this just something that I'll just have to get experience? I'm looking for actual training rather than tips and anecdotes. I'm in NYC if that helps. [more inside]
My mother's health has deteriorated significantly in the past three years; her husband isn't handling her most recent medical situation well at all, and my sister and I are considering long-term living situations for her. Should I leave? [more inside]
We're undertaking a relatively (as these things go) basic kitchen renovation. How to money? [more inside]
I am looking for communities/blogs/podcasts/... that are critically discussing scientific research publications, especially in psychology and medicine. [more inside]
I've been trying to meet people online for five years and am still friendless and single. [more inside]
Recently, I have somewhat randomly discovered two food items that I didn't know existed: coconut aminos and chickpea pasta. I have been amazed at how well they sub in for their "unhealthier" counterparts and have been on a search for more food items like this that make me feel like I get to have my cake and eat it too. So if you know of any, please throw them my way!
I was reading the news and saw this snarky headline: "The White House chief calligrapher has a higher clearance than Jared Kushner," I thought "there's a White House chief calligrapher?*" and Google led me to the White House Graphics and Calligraphy Office. Which leads me to my question: How many other government calligraphers are there? Do the Senate and House have some, state and local offices, Governors? How can I find out? *The White House chief calligrapher is the award winning Pat Blair.
I stopped therapy due to coverage reasons a few months ago, and realize that I am so much happier and balanced and far less ruminative without therapy than I was while I was in therapy (on/off for the past several years). Now I have coverage again... but do I restart therapy? [more inside]
Woman working at a standing desk in a busy department, focused on computer ahead. Man comes from somewhere else, puts a hand on her waist for just a second and then moves next to her to look at the screen. His hand on her waist doesn't linger--just a tap. [more inside]
I've got a 2017 Honda Rebel 500 and I need to use these straps to secure this bag to the (stock) cargo rack and/or frame. They're all made to be used with each other, I'm just having some real spatial challenges figuring out how to do this, and the manufacturer provides no help. [more inside]
Years ago I read an explanation on how to think simply about dimensions from the 5th and higher. I'm trying to find it again, or the theory which describes it. [more inside]
Librarians of metafilter, how do I find more than a brief biography of this psychologist? I collect notable Margarets, and came across her in a textbook and while I've found a scan of her own short autobiography, what I really want is a thoughtful biography, preferably scholarly. I can't find anything in print, but surely as the first female psychologist with a PhD, someone wrote a thesis about her that's sitting on a shelf somewhere?
A relative's adult son injured his foot badly and lived wth her and her husband for seven weeks. Husband blew up and said she had to choose between him or her son. She refused to kick her son out, so husband filed for divorce last month, but wants her to continue living with him and take care of the house, cook meals, etc.—all the "wifely duties." Needless to say, she's having none of that. Any recommendations for a divorce lawyer and resources for emotional and financial support in the Cleveland/Strongsville, Ohio area?
The strangest thing just happened to my wife and I. We hired a company to provide us with postpartum doulas. We’ve had two ladies come for the past month or so, dividing up the week. Due to staffing issues we’ve had someone new for the past week. We received an email today from the company immediately terminating our relationship due to “words and actions they consider harassment.” [more inside]
I need a rug for my kitchen, to cover up some problematic flooring that I can't fix until later. My first attempt -- using an area rug I had on hand -- failed because I quickly realized the rug was a real bear to wash, and that any rug in my kitchen is going to get dirty because of cooking messes, spills, etc. Which rug can help me? [more inside]
I will be in downtown Austin March 17th and 18th with the late afternoons and evenings free. It won't be worth buying a SXSW pass for that limited amount of time but I know there's usually other events that run concurrently (as well as St. Patrick's Day). Any recommendations on things to do and things to avoid? [more inside]
My students and I are trying to fund this year’s yearbook by selling ad space to local business in the back of the yearbook. How much should we charge? Details below. [more inside]
Must a person donate a full unit of blood for it to be used? Can I get better at being a donor? And what's the deal with the dude across from me who spaced the heck out for like 30 seconds, but then was apparently fine after? [more inside]
Are there any independent video game developers who are also senior citizens? [more inside]
What kind of fabric glue will hold up on the interior of my car in the heat of summer sun? [more inside]
A family member is starting a group whose name is a sea of Cs and Rs. The name itself is fixed, but can you help us figure out some less unwieldy acronyms? [more inside]
Help me find a track that is as close as possible to Mikey Mike's "Doin' Me". [more inside]
I'm lazy vegetarian. (I eat dairy and, rarely, eggs. I'm also OK with animal rennet cheeses.) I work from home and am alone a few afternoons a week. Since I don't feel like expending a ton of effort on myself, I could really use some suggestions for low-key vegetarian lunches that I can make in small batches.
I'd like to purchase a Raspberry Pi kit for two kids (ages 10 & 12), but I have no idea how to begin or what other accessories they may enjoy. All I have so far is a very nice monitor, mouse, and keyboard. Assume my budget is $100-$200. Any other Raspberry Pi related links, videos, etc. that may help first time builders would be great. Suggestions to other related questions I should be asking would also be great! Thanks!
Recent discussions with my family have revealed that they are all going to be buried in the local cemetery. Recent contemplation has revealed that a traditional cemetery is not what I wish for myself. Plenty of death-talk under the fold. [more inside]
Help me park my butt! Where can I kill time in Central Rome for a couple of hours in the afternoon while waiting for a ride? [more inside]
We are thinking about going to coastal Maine for our family summer vacation. We've never been there. Do you have any recommended towns/areas that we should look at? [more inside]
I suspect that my co-parent’s new boyfriend may be sharing a bed with my kids (13-year-old boy, 8-year-old girl) and co-parent. Should I take action? What action should I take? [more inside]
At the beginning of feb my and my bf of 5 going on 6 years almost broke up because I brought up the topic of where we were headed since he hadn't proposed. I basically said I wouldn't wait around forever continuing to play house and waste my time. He said he had thought about marrying me since yr 2 but wasn't sure and that he had some concerns. [more inside]
Which would be best for me and my mobility impaired mother? [more inside]
I'm getting a new bike as a self-present for finishing grad school, replacing the old road bike that I've ridden into the ground since 2002. And it turns out that the road bike world has changed a bunch in 16 years. [more inside]
I've decided now's the time to buy a house. But I was way behind on filing and (sort of) paying taxes. If I am paid up and in good standing with the IRS when transcripts are pulled, will that red flag me for getting a mortgage? More (U.S.-based) details inside. [more inside]
Many years ago I saw a fake commercial, either on TV or on the Internet, that was along the lines of "Adam Clayton, Master of the Bass Guitar." I can't seem to find it. I want to watch it again. [more inside]
Yesterday I got something caught in the zipper of my jeans. The zipper is immobilized. I've tried pulling on it forward and back, even with a pair of pliers. No go. [more inside]
We're wanting to travel around Thailand for a couple weeks but we don't want to take all our stuff. We have three regular suitcases with excess clothing we'd like to store somewhere in Bangkok while we travel. [more inside]
My wife wears hairbands frequently, and there's one that's her favorite. Alas, it broke recently. I'd like to replace it for her. [more inside]
I really love the Olympics. (They're a problematic thing to love these days for lots of reasons, but I can't help it.) What are some ways that I could be involved in the Olympics, ideally on an ongoing basis and not just briefly every two years? Are there Olympic-adjacent organizations looking for help that I might not know about? [more inside]
Will this jacket work if the forecast calls for rain, snow, and freezing rain? [more inside]
Asking for story research, not a nefarious plan. UK-filter please. If you live in a mortgaged house, and you disappear without a trace, what will happen? Presumably the mortgage provider forecloses and auctions the house, but how long would that normally take? Would you need to be declared dead?
I found a tiny little bird lying in the snow beside my back door yesterday. He probably flew into the glass door. I thought he was dead but when I picked him up I saw he was breathing but was too weak to lift his head. After a bit of googling on how to care for an injured bird I put him on a towel in a basket and covered the basket. After some more googling I'm pretty sure he's a goldcrest, apparently they're one of the smallest birds in Europe. [more inside]