March 2018 Archives

March 31

Is This Post-Bacc Comp Sci Degree Good Enough for My Needs?

I'm a video game designer looking to switch careers and maybe/maybe not industries in the near future. I'm looking at a specific program for a computer science degree and want some input from general software engineers and video game programmers (or others with relevant knowledge) on whether this program will adequately prepare me for the switch. Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by ConradLandsman at 9:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Quick 'n easy time series graphing service?

I'd like to find a way to collect data from continuous integration builds for a non-profit project and graph the execution time of multiple tests in the simplest way possible without requiring manual intervention. The codebase is Python and source is stored in BitBucket. Can spend a little money but I definitely don't want to do anything that involves talking to salespeople or a complicated infrastructure project. Ideally, I'd post a set of data over HTTP and there'd be a publicly accessible URL where people could see the results of tests by commit. [more inside]
posted by paul_smatatoes at 9:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Trying to find set of "Tete-Beche" books from my childhood- Double books

In my childhood, I was given a set of classics, about 12 volumes. These were children's versions of classics like Tom Sawyer. The trick was, there would be one book on one side of the volume, and another one the other-- upside down. So I'd read one story, then turn the volume over and read the other book. I want to find a set of these. [more inside]
posted by my-sharona at 7:37 PM PST - 5 comments

So much water.

Looking for the name of a YA book series about people who, unbeknownst to them, live in a dry Mediterranean basin; and it is slowly filling. It features big cats and the environment lacks of wood (an intact log is a king's treasure). Anyone recall the name? [inspired by this front page post] [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 7:17 PM PST - 6 comments

Did I fall for an insurance scam?

I ordered a uBiome SmartJane kit, but now the internet is saying it is an insurance scam. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by marvelousmellitus at 7:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Weird letter with cash "refund."

I received an odd letter in the U.S. Mail with cash enclosed and an anonymous note. Should I be creeped out? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 6:38 PM PST - 35 comments

Cat Dentalfilter

Risks vs outcomes for dental surgery for a middle-aged kitty [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont at 6:10 PM PST - 11 comments

Finding someone in Chicago to do a relatively easy technical A/V thing?

I don't think this is a job for a "handyman," but I don't know of another kind of person who would be the right person to call for this kind of thing. I have a TV, and I have a sound-bar-and-bass-thing, and I want them to go. I hooked them up with a digital audio cable and then rage-quit. Where can I get someone to do this one thing, in Chicago, without it costing me a lot of money? I searched TaskRabbit with some keywords, but nothing comes up. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 4:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Filing a complaint against a business in Indiana.

Purchased an item from a store. Called to check if I can refund. A week later the owner refuses to refund making excuses. What are the options for further action? [more inside]
posted by xm at 4:04 PM PST - 11 comments

Coping with possible adult ADHD without a diagnosis

What kind of coping strategies can I use for managing adult ADHD if it's extremely unlikely I'll ever get a formal diagnosis? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 3:49 PM PST - 18 comments

What can I make for Easter dinner that only takes 2 hours to cook?

I have people coming over at 7, but I work till 5pm [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 2:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Where can I find collaborative writing/role-laying partners?

A couple friends and I have a sort of shared world, where we have a Dropbox full of character concepts and "threads," in which those characters interact. It's light-hearted urban fantasy with some erotic overtones. Where can I find other people to engage in this sort of thing? [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 2:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me start on a path to ridding myself of awful headaches

I have been getting awful headaches (In the face, [jaw, lips, eyes]) for about 15 months, specialists have tried to help but they weren't much help. I do yoga, meditation, eat healthy, no alcohol, no caffeine. Help send me on a path to finding out more about my pain. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by maxexam at 2:04 PM PST - 27 comments

Location for archive Detroit film, anyone know where this might be?

Hi, I'm trying to find out more info about this amazing piece of archive footage I've found showing soldiers parading and saying goodbye to their loved ones in 1917 Detroit - Can anyone shed any light? [more inside]
posted by ebear at 1:44 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I make a Tumblr site that serves a random page every time I click

I want to make a site with the exact same functionality as this one: http://stealstrategies.net In other words, I want a Tumblr site with one lead image. Clicking it takes me to a random post and so on and so on. Is this custom code or is there a randomization/shuffle feature that I’m overlooking? Thanks so much.
posted by captainscared at 12:57 PM PST - 7 comments

ISO a resuable singing candle

We used to have a singing candle in our family that we'd light every birthday. It's shuffled off its lighted coil, and now I can't find a replacement. The closest I could find are these kind, which seem like one-use to me. Where can I buy one? Or how do I DIY one?
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 11:25 AM PST - 3 comments

What is this thing - plant edition

I went to turn the soil in a raised bed at my new home and found a big patch of...something growing there. What is it? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 11:23 AM PST - 19 comments

Can you name this movie with a one-word clue?

"Always!" [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling at 11:05 AM PST - 7 comments

How do I get a Minecraft account for a child on a Windows 10 box?

How do I get a Minecraft account for a child on a Windows 10 box? [more inside]
posted by pracowity at 10:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Advice for dealing with uveitis?

I've had uveitis off and on for a few months. If you've had uveitis, do you have advice on treating it? (If you don't know what uveitis is, DO NOT GOOGLE unless you like seeing pictures of inflamed eyeballs.) [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 9:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Directing mail to a person at a Dutch company

I have to send a parcel to somebody at a big company in the Netherlands. It is meant to be opened by him and nobody else. [more inside]
posted by wachhundfisch at 9:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Doctor is in-network, just not at his office

For MeFites knowledgeable about how insurers make a doc in-network...Why would the same doctor be in-network at one office, but not in-network at another office? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 9:11 AM PST - 5 comments

Stay alive!

I have three of these Strawberry plants arriving on Tuesday. Please give me your best advice for keeping them alive and healthy on my NW facing porch. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 8:02 AM PST - 3 comments

Book Recs For Choosing College Major

What are the best books for choosing a college major? My 17 yr old daughter will need to declare a major next year and is having difficulty pinning it down. Although, she has a little time to decide and could just do a liberal arts type degree, she really does want to pin her choice down soonish. [more inside]
posted by Sassyfras at 7:01 AM PST - 23 comments

90 days to...

What can I accomplish in 90 days in Japan, with a car, without my baby, during the hours of 8 am to 7 pm? I am all over the place inside, help me focus! [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 6:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Trying To Stop "Needing" Marijuana To Unwind At Night

I have extreme anxiety/OCD/depression. I went from using pot as needed to calm down and sleep. I now start using it the second that I get home. I want to change this. Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:49 AM PST - 20 comments

Name my SLP practice please

I'm struggling to come up with a name for my speech and language pathology company. Those of you that are good with catchy wording please help me out! [more inside]
posted by rrose selavy at 5:35 AM PST - 17 comments

34[M] dreads his upcoming wedding - am I doing it for the wrong reasons?

I, a 34[M], dread every single day of my upcoming wedding and think I'm doing it for all the wrong reasons. Is it just normal pre-wedding anxiety, or something more? [more inside]
posted by BetterThanReddit at 1:37 AM PST - 104 comments

March 30

Anger after violence?

After a violent relationship, I'm finally ready to date again, but have noticed that I'm afraid of conflict. How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Has anyone ever disagreed with Susun Weed?

Are there any articles, videos, or instances directly or indirectly disagreeing with or responding to renowned herbalist Susun Weed’s pretty extreme claims about some things like veganism, raw food, or anything else? I came up short. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:29 PM PST - 2 comments

recipe sites for cheap once-a-week cooking with a SCALE

I have a somewhat unusual way of feeding myself. Each week, I pick a menu of two recipes that share ingredients, and cook in one afternoon 10 servings of each recipe. I love buying in bulk, and I hate measuring volumes. And I really, really hate the "US customary" volumes. Are there recipe sites that (1) publish recipes scaled for 10 servings, (2) suggest recipe pairings that share ingredients, and (3) specify ingredients by weight? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 10:44 PM PST - 10 comments

when I export a video in Premiere Elements 14, borders appear

I've been searching Google and Adobe forums and part of the problem is in explaining this: basically, black borders appear on the sides, and the edges of layers in the film show (at least I think that's what's happening). I will upload one version to Youtube if that helps explain it. It works better when I do it as an AVI but then the edges, which, since my video involves layers, makes it look like the edges of the layers are showing on one side. [more inside]
posted by GospelofWesleyWillis at 10:44 PM PST - 13 comments

"One-trick" programming languages/applications?

I was quite fascinated with the FPP on AWK, and the commentary that it's A: only good for a couple of things, but B: seems to be -really- good at them. What other languages are like this? Equally, the comment on Humdrum interested me enough that applications of that one-trick would also be very welcome.
posted by solarion at 10:22 PM PST - 16 comments

This tub has got to go... okay, how do I do this?

My house from 1979 needs a new tub and toilet. Badly. Due to some water damage, it's going need to go down to the studs. I'm going to need to do a good chunk of work myself. Where do I start to get a handle on this? [more inside]
posted by cowcowgrasstree at 9:42 PM PST - 12 comments

What alternatives to traditional storytelling exist?

Most cultures love to tell stories: spoken or written accounts of specific individuals who go on a quest/endure a challenge over a linear time frame, culminating in a resolution. But what other kinds of story-like practices have been reported in human societies past and present? An example might be the lists in Sei Shonagon's Pillow Book. Other made up examples: stories about concepts not people, stories with no time axis, stories with no ending; stories made of material objects; stories in Q&A form; etc.
posted by dontjumplarry at 9:36 PM PST - 13 comments

Five Days with my Family in Flagstaff

My almost four-year-old and I will be flying out to meet the rest of my family in a big Airbnb in Flagstaff. And I've got no idea what we're going to do once we get there. [more inside]
posted by missjenny at 8:26 PM PST - 6 comments

CISA lock being tampered with

People are tampering with our CISA lock on the tenement door (UK) - do people here know anything about these locks, and what is being done to it and how to stop it? More inside. [more inside]
posted by Flitcraft at 7:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Show me to the good bandanas, please.

I'm looking for 100% cotton bandanas, of good quality, in traditional paisley patterns. I'm having a surprisingly hard time finding them. [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 6:06 PM PST - 16 comments

Substitute broken site using redirect to WayBack Machine

What .htaccess lines will redirect a request for an arbitrary URL on a former WordPress site to the index page of WayBack Machine snapshots for that page? [more inside]
posted by sindark at 5:17 PM PST - 5 comments

NYC: Seeking advice from stay-at-home pre-K parents!

My wife and I are moving to Manhattan in the fall with our three-year-old. We're Canadians; she's been accepted to a 10-month master's program at Columbia, and as a not-allowed-to-work-dependent, I'm weighing doing stay-at-home-care with our little guy vs. putting him daycare. I feel like one year in New York offers opportunities for a fun, exciting year — but I have no idea where to start. What's the stay-at-home parent lifestyle like in Manhattan? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:07 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me name my League of Legends ARAM team

Myself and a bunch of friends are entering a League of Legends tournament (in the "All Random All Mid" game mode). We need to submit a team name by this week. What should we call our team? [more inside]
posted by aielen at 4:53 PM PST - 5 comments

Vegan Chocolate Covered Candy Bar

Are there any vegan chocolate brands that attempt to taste like conventional American candy bars? I love all varieties of chocolate but mostly have fancier dark chocolate bars with figs, almonds and sea salt. Are there brands that offer reasonably good approximations of milk chocolate candy bars like Kit-Kats or Snickers? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 4:10 PM PST - 9 comments

I see a camera flash-type after-image all the time. WTF?

You know how after a camera flashes in your eyes, you see a sort of after-image of the flash for a while before it fades? I see something like that all the time, but my eye doctor doesn’t see anything and a brain MRI didn’t show anything. What gives? [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 4:03 PM PST - 16 comments

I coulda has a V8. Actually, could I?

I have accepted that I am 47 years old and I will never be a vegetable fiend. I do not want to/can't make juices/smoothies/etc. Can I drink low-sodium V8 Juice and pretend I'm at least getting SOME veggies? How much of it do I need to chug to, say, get a full day's worth of veg per the USDA??
posted by clseace at 2:02 PM PST - 16 comments

The perfect coat - can it be bought? Made?

I'd like to find a coat that is: warm, comfortable, (eventually) biodegradable, and vaguely attractive. And that minimises cruelty to animals. I'm really struggling. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 12:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Best podcasts reporting on MRA/RedPill/Alt-right

Can you please recommend the best podcasts reporting on or following the MRA or RedPill or Alt-right "movements"?
posted by OmieWise at 12:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Mown grass beer?

I had a farmer's ale that tasted like a freshly mown lawn. Can a home brewer recreate this? If so, how?
posted by parmanparman at 11:41 AM PST - 7 comments

In search of my ideal sports bra

Help me find the perfect sports bra. I wear a size 40G and have the worst time finding a sports bra that fits my needs. [more inside]
posted by Shanda at 11:37 AM PST - 12 comments

TopHat alternatives?

I occasionally teach large lecture courses of 100+ students, for which I've been using the course management software TopHat. I like it, but it costs each student $26. Is there a cheaper or free alternative? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 11:12 AM PST - 5 comments

“Replace 60 months” on First Alert smoke detector, but no beep?

I have a First Alert SCO7 smoke/carbon monoxide detector, built in June 2011. It tests just fine. On the back, it says that it will give a specific warning beep when it reaches the end of its life, yet “replace unit after 60 months” is printed next to it. Aren’t these units supposed to last 7-10 years? Why would it say this?
posted by Seeking Direction at 11:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Suggestions for dirt-cheap, high calorie foods

I'm dead broke and yet still need to eat. I'm having trouble staying full on my budget and I worry my overall value health is suffering for it. I'm looking for suggestions for filling, high calorie food that can be purchased for next to nothing. [more inside]
posted by item at 10:33 AM PST - 76 comments

Fossil fuel per human mile assumptions & math

A while back I asked how much fossil fuel it took to walk. I built a calculator. Can you look over the math and sources of information and tell me if there's something better/more accurate to use, and more generally if there are things that I'm overlooking that I could include (without getting too into the weeds). [more inside]
posted by gregr at 10:20 AM PST - 10 comments

The Power Broker, but about Los Angeles?

I'm looking for good books about the history of California (or the West coast more generally, or Los Angeles in particular). They don't need to be tours d'horizon. They can focus on a specific time/place/person/theme. To give a rough idea of other "local history" I've enjoyed, this question is inspired by Robert Caro's The Power Broker, but I also enjoyed Gotham and London: The Biography. I've read Kevin Starr's one-volume California, and would certainly be interested in thoughts on his other books.
posted by caek at 10:13 AM PST - 12 comments

ninja star credit card tambourine

Is there a credit card that will give me 5% back in cash or equivalent from a specific vendor? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 10:07 AM PST - 6 comments

Arguments in relationships - who's responsible?

When couples get into a fight, is the responsibility always 50-50? And whose job is it to deescalate things? [more inside]
posted by phoiyikas at 10:00 AM PST - 30 comments

Are there any cities/areas where waste bins are purposefully absent?

I remember reading somewhere that in some parks in New Zealand (and this might be my mind playing tricks on me) there are no waste bins to be found because "if you generate waste they want you to take your waste with you". [more inside]
posted by edmz at 9:56 AM PST - 20 comments

Baby Bedtime vs. Parent Work Schedule

I leave early, my partner comes home late. We have a 14 week old. If you worked similar hours and had a baby, do you have advice about baby bedtimes? [more inside]
posted by beyond_pink at 9:32 AM PST - 21 comments

Copyright lawyer in Massachusetts

A few local-music podcasts would like to use a cover song I posted on their podcasts. All their podcasts are distributed on Spotify and Apple Music. I’d like to get the rights for the song, but after reaching out to the publishing company that owns (?) the song, I think I may be in over my head. I’ve started looking for a lawyer to help me deal with the rights, but I have no idea what to look for. Has anyone gone through this? What should I look for in a copyright lawyer?
posted by pxe2000 at 9:26 AM PST - 3 comments

Office politics: being a new high performer without backlash

How can I perform well at work, to eventually get some benefits of being recognized as a strong performer, without making enemies from competition? How do I know what "my place" is? Can I "fight back" if someone makes me look bad or do I have to "pay my dues" by accepting this from a high status person? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 9:09 AM PST - 22 comments

Powering-up the lights in a old piece of technology

I have a touch panel from a 1991 AT&T home security system complete with wiring harness and supposedly in good working order. I'd like to somehow use common household batteries as a power source to illuminate the panel's lights. Is this possible?
posted by Jamesonian at 8:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Need a Carrot based side dish for Easter.

Looking for some ideas for a nice carrot based side dish for an Easter Lunch. [more inside]
posted by wwax at 8:05 AM PST - 22 comments

Driving and Parking to/near NYC?

I'm going to New York City from Boston for a quick overnight next weekend. Arriving Saturday, leaving Sunday. Amtrak doesn't really work for our schedule so I'm thinking I might drive but of course I don't want to drive or park in the city. What are my park and ride options? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 7:32 AM PST - 15 comments

Advocating for better workspace

After 10 years in our downtown offices, our administrative offices are moving to our clinic location and I do not want to go! There are 2 other spaces that a select few are going to and I cannot tell if that option is available to me but I want to advocate for something. I do not know the criteria for who was placed in any of the locations. [more inside]
posted by PeaPod at 7:29 AM PST - 5 comments

The flowers in your hair part is taken care of

We have to be in Golden Gate Park in San Francisco on a Saturday afternoon for a wedding (very soon). Where should we stay that is safest and nicest while also an affordable Uber/Lyft to the park? [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 7:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Did we do a realtor-rible thing to our realtor?

We've been looking for a house for about three months and we kinda dumped our realtor, how awful are we? [more inside]
posted by Dmenet at 7:15 AM PST - 15 comments

Contractor nightmare - what are our options?

The contractor we hired to do significant renovations to our house has done the demolition part and not much else. We are living in rubble and I’m concerned our house is structurally unsound. What are our options to get our home back? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:11 AM PST - 12 comments

Computers and Irrational Numbers

How do computers "think" about irrational numbers? If I tell my computer: √2 ^ 2, does it first calculate the square root out to a certain decimal place, then square it, and round the answer up to 2? Or does it somehow understand the irrationality of √2 and not perform that part operation? I don't have a CS background, so this question might be pretty naive. Links to articles/ discussions are welcome, my googling didn't go so well.
posted by Think_Long at 6:56 AM PST - 17 comments

Can I Eat It - Prime Rib Edition

Asking for a friend. 2 x 5lb prime ribs, already bagged for sous vide today. Something happened last night - either 2 quarts of hot stock or a cracked door - and the fridge warmed up, and the prime rib temped at 50 F at 9am today. She immediately put the prime ribs in the hot bath. Can They Eat It?
posted by ftm at 6:48 AM PST - 10 comments

The girls grow up so fast!

Breast development NSFW question, with maybe TMI below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Promethea at 3:56 AM PST - 12 comments

When a Honda Fit just isn't the answer

I'm looking for a 2-5 year old car with better-than-average ground clearance, good acceleration, and decent gas mileage. I'll have very little time to test drive, so am hoping to narrow down the options early. [more inside]
posted by exutima at 3:31 AM PST - 6 comments

Best work-from-home *careers*

I want to move abroad from the US for a few years. I know this kind of a move will be expensive. I have a pretty severe stutter and use a wheelchair. I don't want to struggle in a foreign job market after having struggled in America for six years. I have a BA in psych with an interest in both scientific and creative fields, and some hospital-based experience, but not sure if I want to stay in science or medicine, but maybe? How can I build a life that allows for a reasonable degree of comfort and mobility by working from home? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 2:18 AM PST - 9 comments

The impact of wanting to be liked online

What books, long form articles, research papers (or even tweetstorms or podcast episodes) explore how individuals are affected by the online social feedback system of things such as likes, favorites, claps, followers, replies, retweets? Seeking research into how humans, as social creatures seeking to fit into the group, have been impacted by getting constant feedback online by total strangers. [more inside]
posted by the thorn bushes have roses at 12:15 AM PST - 7 comments

March 29

How can I move and pay other people to do all the work?

How can I make the most of a substantial moving allowance? [more inside]
posted by honeybee413 at 9:48 PM PST - 15 comments

What contemporary thinkers have most influenced you?

What contemporary thinkers have most influenced you and why? I want to familiarize myself with the contemporary intellectual landscape. Bonus for book, video, or podcast recommendations.
posted by xammerboy at 8:59 PM PST - 12 comments

Facility/Room Scheduling Software

Please recommend software designed for reserving facilities and tracking their use. [more inside]
posted by Caxton1476 at 8:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Identify greenery from wedding centerpiece

What type of greenery is used in these centerpieces? For bonus credit, what are the white flowers?
posted by vegetableagony at 8:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Tabletop gaming for not-quite-beginners

My partner and some family want to start a tabletop RPG campaign. We have varying levels of experience and none of us have DMed before. How can we get started? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 7:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Please help me identify this statue

I ran across this pretty statue which I'd love to have for my garden. Unfortunately its owner doesn't know anything about it. I'm guessing it may be a Hindu deity but I could be completely wrong. [more inside]
posted by DrumsIntheDeep at 6:13 PM PST - 9 comments

What the heck is going on with this tree?

I saw this tree while surveying a roof in Northeastern Massachusetts this week. As best as I can tell, it is an ash tree on the bottom and a birch tree on top. This makes no sense to me. What is the deal with this tree? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 5:49 PM PST - 8 comments

help me find a packable puffer jacket that keeps my butt warm?

Need shopping help. Packable puffer jacket for top-heavy woman please. Inside, my story. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 5:41 PM PST - 8 comments

Why turn off the heat on hard boiled eggs once water boils?

Why do hard boiled egg recipes call for turning off the heat once the water reaches a boil?
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 4:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Kitty vs Methimazole. Kitty losing.

Our 15 year old cat, Sam was diagnosed with hyperthyroidism this past summer and was prescribed methimazole. He has gone from 11lbs to 6lbs, is nauseous and vomits, and barely eats. We've tried everything we, and the internet, can think of. What else can we do for him? [more inside]
posted by vivzan at 3:46 PM PST - 35 comments

Storing frying oil in milk jug?

I have an empty milk jug (cleaned, washed, dried) and I want to fry chicken tonight - the problem is I don't have a big enough stainless steel container to store the oil in. [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 3:02 PM PST - 9 comments

But if I don't do it, who will?

I'm back again and struggling with how to disconnect from my 72 year-old mentally ill alcoholic mother. I've come to the realization that my sense of "obligation" to my mother is what's preventing me from moving the hell on from her. But... I feel "obligated" to "take care of her" in some way or other, because *literally* no one else will. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 2:55 PM PST - 13 comments

How did they make this?

What kind of work and resources go into producing a long-form journalism piece like this one? [more inside]
posted by stellaluna at 2:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Was I being condescending when I said this?

I bought a new computer for a business I help run with my SO. Hes paying me slowly back overtime. I'm very much about keeping it like new and well managed for as long as possible. I don't like kids behind the desk and that goes for his child as well. I take the business very seriously so when I saw the child was on there, I said "oh, no kids on there." And he got very very annoyed and felt I was ordering him around. So he said I should just take the computer back. I said we need it for the business. I feel hes making my job harder than it needs to be. He feels I'm talking down to him. Was I wrong to say this?
posted by InterestedInKnowing at 2:22 PM PST - 24 comments

Restless legs at night are driving me mad

I realize that sleepless nights are *great* practice for having a newborn, which I'll have in a few months, but I'm pregnant and need relief from the RLS I've developed. I've asked my doctor, but can't stomach the magnesium oxide supplements she suggested.* I'm curious what has worked for others who have been (or are currently) in the pregnant-with-RLS-boat. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 1:33 PM PST - 25 comments

Good Friday, Easter lunch in Spanish household, London UK - gift ideas?

This is a lunch tomorrow, Good Friday, in a Spanish household in London. An early Easter celebration for them due to family commitments and travel limitations. I have been asked to bring a bottle of wine, but what gift(s) could I also bring that would be appropriate, relevant and appreciated?
posted by Hugobaron at 1:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Who and Where, hair edition.

I'm a trans woman in Austin, and I've been letting my hair grow out for quite a while. I haven't been able to get it styled because I'm not out at work. That's about to change, and I'm ready to do something fun with it (my hair, that is). The question is, what to do, and who to have do it? [more inside]
posted by Tabitha Someday at 12:39 PM PST - 28 comments

Supportive shorts without the shorts?

I'm looking for underwear to wear when I'm on short bike trips around town. I don't need the padding for my rear, but need some way to stop chafing on the front. More details under the fold. [more inside]
posted by rebent at 12:38 PM PST - 11 comments

Resume Help Needed- I didn't go to college

How do I have a captivating resume without any college experience? I'm 42 years old and have worked in middle management and as a corporate trainer. I won't be deceptive on a resume, my integrity is important to me. I need a resume that can get me in the door without that gaping education gap. [more inside]
posted by Draccy at 12:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for a fairly rugged smart watch w/extra long watchband available

My husband's birthday is coming up, and his well loved Android-compatible smart watch bit the dust. Rec me a replacement? [more inside]
posted by terrierhead at 11:57 AM PST - 1 comment

It's time for the next round of "Name That Scam!"

I received a strange text message and call purporting to be from Amazon about an appointment for a job interview. It feels scammy, and I'm just wondering what their angle is. [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 11:25 AM PST - 10 comments

Ruining my gut flora but doing nothing for my skin

I (strongly suspect I) have hidradenitis suppurativa. I didn't get it treated for more than ten years because of reasons, and now I'm trying to get it treated I can't actually tell if it's worth the misery of the treatment or not. People of MeFi with HS, I would love to hear about your experiences of treating this damn thing. (cw: lots of gross detail) [more inside]
posted by terretu at 10:10 AM PST - 12 comments

Removing timestamps from comments in Word 2016?

Is it possible to remove timestamps from comments in Word 2016 documents without removing the commenter's name as well? [more inside]
posted by rubbish bin night at 9:24 AM PST - 7 comments

What are some creative ways to score a performance competition?

I am hosting a competitive performance show, and I am looking for some alternative ways to award points and name a winner. [more inside]
posted by TrarNoir at 9:16 AM PST - 3 comments

I'm not a sociopath, am I?

I tend to have shallow emotions. I don't think it's quite the same as depression, as I've been depressed and gotten better. Most times, I have a rather numb baseline feeling. This doesn't go away so easily. I'm pretty much unable to cry and worry I don't react strongly enough to deaths and sad events. Sometimes, I think I sort of fit the definition of alexithymia, although it's a difficulty in feeling and not just a difficulty in describing feelings. I'm uncomfortable in realizing that this quality seems to be something seen in pop culture sociopath characters. I can't help but shake the idea that this could be part of me, and I'm not sure how I'd be comfortable with that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:39 AM PST - 27 comments

Active Walking Holiday Alps/ Europe with baby and no car

We're looking for walking holidays in Alps/ Europe for one week. Difficulty level: 10 month baby (single center with lots of <5 hour round trip hikes nearby) and no car (so the town must be big enough to have restaurants, groceries, etc). [more inside]
posted by moiraine at 7:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Vacation Help: Where to take active 6 year old and a baby? Southeast USA

Our 6 year old has never been on a "vacation" and has been asking about one for over a year now. Now we also have a 7 month old daughter. We can't agree on a vacation to save our lives. HALP. [more inside]
posted by Sara_NOT_Sarah at 6:53 AM PST - 32 comments

Advice for music production storage strategies

I'm having lots of fun making my own music. I'd like to try some tools that include large sample libraries (i.e. Kontakt, et al) but I have an Air with a pretty small hard drive and they are a butt to upgrade. Seeking advice on my options to have libraries (and maybe some VSTs?) externally. [more inside]
posted by aesop at 6:15 AM PST - 6 comments

The iPad screenshots at midnight?

I just looked at my iPad's photo roll and I see that there is a screenshot of the lock screen taken on 31 January, 4, 18, 19 and 23rd February, and 23rd March. At 12:03am four times, once at 12:02am, and once at 12:09am. There are none prior to January 31. The timing makes me think it must be automatic rather than e.g. me pressing the wrong button trying to log in and accidentally screen shotting. Does anyone know what would be causing this? (I don't think the iPad does automatic updates that often, so I don't think it's that.)
posted by lollusc at 6:13 AM PST - 11 comments

Beauty Products with Cool Applicators

I am looking for beauty products/skin care with cool applicators. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 5:59 AM PST - 12 comments

at my wit's end with abdominal pain

For the last 4 years I have lower abdominal pain on and off in the second half of my menstrual cycle. So far doctors can't find anything wrong and we can't come up with a successful treatment. YANMD, but can you help me figure out what next steps to take, or whether I should be seeing some other kind of doctor? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:11 AM PST - 18 comments

This site can’t be reached - free spider solitaire

I got this just now: "The webpage at http://www.free-spider-solitaire.com/ might be temporarily down or it may have moved permanently to a new web address." I love this version of this game and really need a similar online replacement. I am using Chrome on Win 10. Please help!
posted by lungtaworld at 3:02 AM PST - 12 comments

March 28

What to do in Da Nang which isn't Hoi An?

I'm in Da Nang, Vietnam for a work meeting but I will have one free day just for me on Saturday. In the past, I have visited Hoi An and the Marble Mountains. Any suggestions for other nearby attractions I should not miss? I prefer nature and history to beaches. I will not drive myself, but can get a driver.
posted by frumiousb at 8:59 PM PST - 8 comments

How to curb aggression in 10-month-old neutered male cat?

My 10-month-old domestic shorthair was neutered at 5 months old. For the past few months, he has still gone on to display some aggression, mainly late in the day, and it seems to have gotten worse lately. Halp?! [more inside]
posted by nirblegee at 7:00 PM PST - 29 comments

Help Me Maximize My Work Out Time

I have access to a great gym for three hours a week, 9am to 10am M-W-F. They have everything but since my time is limited, I'm trying to figure out a routine that makes the best use of my time there. [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 6:34 PM PST - 17 comments

What does CBT for avoidance look like?

I have developed an extremely avoidant personality in the last few years. I don't recall being this way before my late 30's. It manifests as extreme avoidance of conflict or difficult conversations. What would a CBT approach to working on this look like? [more inside]
posted by twoplussix at 6:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Soundtrack to getting it on

I need some makeout music for bedroom scenes [more inside]
posted by fluttering hellfire at 6:15 PM PST - 32 comments

With all the grace of a sledgehammer

I just adopted a 10-year-old Bengal kitty. She is, of course, the best cat. Help me come up with a name! [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 6:09 PM PST - 44 comments

Getting a German driving license cheaply

I'm moving to Germany in October. My state (California), does not have reciprocity with Germany for driver's licenses. Which means I'll have to spend upwards of €2000 to obtain one. Are there any legal ways that I could get a license from a state that does have reciprocity? [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 6:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Friends w/ kids will visit for a week. I have no kids. How do I prep?

How do I prepare my house and my mind to host them? PROS: I like having guests, go out of my way to host well, am accommodating, and have a dedicated guest space. CONS: I'm not a big fan of children, don't have any, am an introvert/need space, own expensive furniture and art, and work from home. How do I minimize the risk of casualties? [more inside]
posted by myrtle at 5:53 PM PST - 53 comments

Who IS that guy?

Please help resolve a long-running question/dispute in my family: who is the lead actor in this Cathay Pacific ad? (YouTube link) [more inside]
posted by alligatorpear at 5:09 PM PST - 19 comments

What to put down on hardwood floors in new "litterbox room"

I am soon going to be sharing my home with cat. He is a litter-kicker. I am converting my broom closet to his "bathroom" (litter box room?) but the room has hardwood floors and I'd like to cover them with something that won't get kicked around, that will protect my floors. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 4:48 PM PST - 15 comments

How can I connect more, emotionally, with Faure's Requiem?

I have to sing it in a concert. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 4:01 PM PST - 16 comments

Who should take leadership?

I always struggle with this. At work, the hierarchy is clear and you just do what your boss says. At school and in other collaborative projects though, I always run into this problem. [more inside]
posted by vAndrew at 3:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Jawbone successor?

Inspired by this question, I'd like recommendations for a replacement for my Jawbone UP wristband. I like its app, the fact that I can track food as well as exercise and sleep, and it's not terrible looking. Heart rate wouldn't be a terrible thing to add to that list, I suppose. What are my options?
posted by lizifer at 3:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Do clay ice packs just "wear out" after a while?

So for $Reasons we have a rotation of large clay ice packs for various pains that crop up ... foot on one person, sciatic nerve on the other, occasional sports strains ... but our ice packs seem to be less cohesive than they used to be. They feel almost "liquid" but aren't leaking, and don't last as long between recharges (which also takes longer). Do they "wear out" and should be replaced when they get all flabby? [more inside]
posted by tilde at 3:40 PM PST - 1 comment

Is this hand-drawn flier recruiting for white supremacists?

I found a hand-drawn flier on the campus where I work today (picture link below.) In the past, Identity Evropa and other alt-right organizations have tried to recruit on my campus. I'd like to know if this poster is in the same vein. [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley at 2:05 PM PST - 7 comments

2nd mortgage question

How hard is it to get a 2nd mortgage for a separate property if you don’t have a ton of equity in your current home? [more inside]
posted by sockymcpuppeterson at 1:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Why am I so irritable?

Extreme irritability. What are some potential and possible logical or medical reasons for this? [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll at 1:53 PM PST - 34 comments

(Snow) Plowing Fields?

Every year I drive down to Salt Lake City along I-15 in March. Right after crossing from Montana into Idaho, there are a bunch of weird tracks plowed in the snow in the fields next to the road. What the heck are they? Pictures inside the fold... [more inside]
posted by so fucking future at 1:47 PM PST - 5 comments

With these six rings you are my everything

Stationery filter: Help me find a new filofax with security and a bit of magic. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by welovelife at 1:42 PM PST - 1 comment

Help identify these Reebok Classics

Please help me identify these Reebok Classics I recently picked up at a Thrift Store: Reebok Classics (imgur link) My google-fu is failing. Are these newly released? Older never-worn sneakers? Would love to know the design name and/or year. Thanks!
posted by Ike_Arumba at 1:35 PM PST - 4 comments

laptop charger pin won't stay connected to the port

I have an Acer Chromebook laptop. It's a few years old. Last year even when plugged in the battery wouldn't take a charge. Given my pathetic income, my next step was to use it when it was plugged in and ignore the battery issue. This worked for awhile until it would intermittently shut off even when plugged in. My next step was to bend, twist and hold the pin into the port with tape just so I had use of the computer. Welp, that's rarely working now. [more inside]
posted by pipoquinha at 1:07 PM PST - 6 comments

tow dolly or car carrier?

Driving a truck cross-country with a car; tow dolly or car carrier? [more inside]
posted by skewed at 1:04 PM PST - 8 comments

Advice on Costa Rican/ Panamanian itinerary?

I want to get from the Northwest to the Southeastern part of Costa Rica. I think I want to do half by bus, half by plane, since I don't have enough time to do the whole thing by bus. Which half will by more interesting by bus? [more inside]
posted by mrmurbles at 1:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Windows 10: Activate

I bought a refurbished Lenovo thinkpad with Windows 10 from Micro Center a few weeks ago. Because I’ve been dealing with a lot the past few weeks, I hadn’t gotten around to inputting the activation key for Windows 10 I had received on a piece of paper with the laptop. This weekend, a friend who was helping clean my apartment accidentally threw the paper away. Is this a big deal? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco at 12:56 PM PST - 4 comments

Animals looking for pee in all the wrong places.

Cats and dog are peeing in the wrong places, sometimes in related ways. It is making me crazy. Please help me figure out why this is happening and a solution! [more inside]
posted by corb at 12:50 PM PST - 19 comments

Personal tracking Android app?

I'd like to keep track of what I'm actually doing with my time outside of work. This might be a long-term thing, but I want to at least get a really good picture of two weeks. I'd like for it to be able to nudge me once an hour and ask what I spent the last hour doing. Recommendations for an Android app?
posted by hollyholly at 12:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I drink it?

At last, only six years into my membership, I must engage in a MeFi rite of passage. Can I safely drink Bailey's Irish Cream, purchased probably March 2017, that expired in September 2017? For how much longer? If I do, will it be gross? It is opened, and was not refrigerated but was stored in a cabinet with no exposure to sunlight. Yes, I know that Bailey's would tell me the answer is no.
posted by capricorn at 12:13 PM PST - 24 comments

Can mouth-breathing contribute to heart attack deaths?

Can anyone point me toward any research/literature on mouth breathing and heart attacks deaths? My hypothesis is that it does. I will ask my doctor, but I’d like to do some research before my appointment in a month or so. [more inside]
posted by glenngulia at 10:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Summer shoes for tech workplace?

I am an engineer who doesn’t wear sneakers. Could use your fashionable but not too dressy shoe recs. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 9:47 AM PST - 19 comments

does this exist?

Gluten-free dairy-free chocolate-covered matzo. Is this a thing? If so, where can I get it? [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 9:38 AM PST - 3 comments

Cooking a boneless butterflied leg of lamb with limitations

I have a boneless butterflied leg of lamb to prepare on Easter. Upon researching how to cook this, the most recommended methods are either a grill or a broiler. I have an indoor electric grill and an electric broiler. Which should I use? [more inside]
posted by bananana at 9:17 AM PST - 7 comments

Cooperative Tabletop Game with Persistence?

My friends and I are looking for a certain type of game for our gaming night. We'd like a game we can play in which our gameplay affects future sessions, like carrying characters or game states over from session to session. We want to ALL play together, so having a game master is right out. What can we play? [more inside]
posted by FakeFreyja at 9:08 AM PST - 23 comments

Moss Boss, part 2

Small yard is half moss. How make it all moss? [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 8:49 AM PST - 5 comments

The first time you smell something forms a permanent imprint? T or F?

I've been reading about the sense of smell. In particular there is the idea that the olfactory system goes directly to the limbic system. They say that the very first time you smell something, your emotional reaction whether positive or negative becomes permanently imprinted. You will have that same reaction to the smell for the rest of your life. So what's the truth? What's the scientific consensus on this?
posted by storybored at 8:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Don't want to make lemonade, so help me avoid a lemon

A friend trying to work his way out of poverty has asked me to help him buy a car. I'm concerned that the amount he wants to spend is going to get him deeper into debt because of excessive maintenance costs involved with the car. How much do you have to spend on a used vehicle to minimize the chances of getting a lemon. (If it makes a difference, he's in Jacksonville, NC.) There's a similar Ask from 2007 that puts the figure at around $2,000, but 2007 is a long time ago. [more inside]
posted by layceepee at 6:53 AM PST - 21 comments

Elementary teacher versus the bullies

Bullying has really ramped up with my second and third graders and I am struggling to know the appropriate action to take. I want the kids in my class to know that bullying is something I will not stand for, but there is obviously so much going on when I am not there. How should a primary school teacher respond to bullying? My classes are small so it is hard for the children not to interact with each other and to avoid his/her bully (which isn't the ideal soluation anyway). [more inside]
posted by Blissful at 6:35 AM PST - 28 comments

Replacement for a Fitbit One?

What options for non-wristband fitness trackers are available in 2018? [more inside]
posted by spamloaf at 5:52 AM PST - 6 comments

Moving pictures and sound!

I run the social media accounts for a couple of charities, and I've decided this is the year I finally get to grips with video. Please suggest great tech, good practices and apps I can use! [more inside]
posted by Helga-woo at 5:06 AM PST - 6 comments

Matzoh Ball Soup for the Lone Vegetarian

This year at the seder I help cook and organize, we've got about 16 people coming and only one vegetarian. I'm responsible for the chicken soup and chopped liver and would love to make some similarly satisfying and delicious soup for the veggie guest to have with the matzoh balls. Ideas? [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 4:36 AM PST - 21 comments

Recommendations for engaging, reasonably intelligent books.

I’m looking for engaging fiction or maybe non-fiction books for our new two person book club. They should be light to medium weight and reasonably intelligent. The goal is to get us back in the habit of reading and for my friend to survive a recent breakup. After that we can start on books that require more patience but that is not where we are now. [more inside]
posted by tychotesla at 3:45 AM PST - 21 comments

Help to find cool and springlike jeans!

Spring is finally came to us) I want to buy cool and spring jeans. I would like to find stone wash boyfriend jeans. is it still fashionably? Please advice shops ) Thanx a lot! [more inside]
posted by Tori88 at 2:49 AM PST - 2 comments

With the good ... comes the ants

I have ants. I do not want ants. Ants have been here longer than I have, and they'll be here long after I've gone. I'm the only one on the lease and they've ignored my no trespassing sign in very tiny writing so I need other ways to let them know they're not welcome. Complication: I don't think they are very concerned with my wishes. [more inside]
posted by Thella at 1:53 AM PST - 15 comments

I bet you think this post is about you

[Posting for a friend. Everything that follows is their words.] Have you ever been in a friendship with some financial or business entanglements with someone that turned out to be a narcissist? How did you disentangle yourself with the least amount of damage? Or did you have major damage and have learning experiences to share with me? [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 1:14 AM PST - 11 comments

March 27

Family support for relative in Australia

I have an elderly overseas relative in Australia. They are not in the best of health with possible memory loss/dementia issues. Not being recognised as family is providing a hurdle for dealing with the situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Is it wise to talk about my abusive marriage after getting divorced?

Not *totally* out in public, but to a limited set of facebook friends whom I trust. But still. It's facebook. It's the internet. I cannot guarantee 100% that it will stay within this group. My main concern: I never ever want my kids to know. Secondary concern: I have kids with the abuser with whom I share 50-50 custody; and I don't want to threaten the co-parenting relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:22 PM PST - 37 comments

Imagine no ... commute.

Life is too short to continue to sell my labor in tech if I don't have to. I'm seriously considering life in an intentional community. I'm scouting out places like La'akea in Hawaii, Twin Oaks, and Catholic Worker houses that accept Buddhists. Would like to hear from MeFites about their experiences in ANY intentional community. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Free and cheap books 2018 edition

What are your best ways to get free and cheap digital books to read? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 8:16 PM PST - 23 comments

Definitely not the most Metafiltery question ever

I'm the leader of a contemporary worship team at a mainline Protestant church in the USA. I would really love some resources for finding those rare gems: songs that are a) contemporary Christian, b) overtly progressive in their views, scope, and language and c) GOOD. [more inside]
posted by daisystomper at 7:36 PM PST - 16 comments

How does the Moon make Earth safer?

I read that the Moon protects the Earth by slinging approaching dangerous space junk out of the way. Jupiter does the same thing. But given a random approaching bit of space junk, wouldn't the Moon or Jupiter be just as likely to sling a bit of space junk into our path as out of our path?
posted by musofire at 6:50 PM PST - 8 comments

Rush tickets for Broadway shows?

A colleague and I will have an unanticipated evening free in Manhattan tomorrow night. It would be awesome to see a show. Of course we have no plan and no tickets. I think there must be a way to get tickets at the last minute, preferably for cheap. Can someone clue us in so we can avoid scalpers and scammers?
posted by Sublimity at 6:43 PM PST - 5 comments

A aquatic dinosaur you can drive a truck over

Where can I get a Casio G'zone Ravine 2 from a seller who isn't utterly sketchy? And, alternatively, what other flip phone could I get instead? [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 5:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Uncured bacon, left out 5 hours: eat or kill?

I'm so excited, this is my first Can I Eat It question! Whole foods 365 brand uncured bacon left at room temperature for about 5 hours, now in the fridge. I could just cook it all now and save the cooked bacon in the fridge, or is it too late even for that?
posted by moonmilk at 5:40 PM PST - 20 comments

Lampshade Question, Link Corrected

Recently I acquired these lamps. I am looking for suggestions for what lampshades to buy, as well as where to buy them, at not-exorbitant prices. [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 5:16 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you organize what you learn?

I read a lot of nonfiction in different formats, including online publications, digital books (on Kindle and other devices), videos, online courses, conversations, and print media. I want to start to be more systematic about organizing this information. What's worked for you? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 2:42 PM PST - 6 comments

ID Selma Blair's green bag?

Can you ID the green bag Selma Blair is carrying here? I've already read the comments there and in other posts where she's shown wearing it and googled several variations on "olive green bag" to no avail. Anyone recognize? Or maybe you're aware of something similar, since I'm sure the original is out of my price range? Important factors: olive green, structured, shoulder straps and cross body strap, leather or vegan leather. Thank you!
posted by CheeseLouise at 2:31 PM PST - 12 comments

Can you help identify anyone in this 1960 press event in Times Square?

Sometime in 1960, Coca-Cola launched a new sign in Times Square (the circular one that looks like this). To promote it, they held a lighting ceremony in Times Square, and I have located a photo of that event here. Wondering if anyone is albe to recognize any of the people in the photo. Thanks!
posted by brbmaroon at 1:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Should my prescription pills be kept in the original bottles for travel?

I will be traveling to Italy and Greece in a few days. I take five different prescription medications, all in pill form. At home, I put them in one of those pill holders with little compartments, one for each day. Can I do that when traveling, or do I need to bring the pills in the original prescription bottles? [more inside]
posted by merejane at 12:33 PM PST - 18 comments

How can I make an interactive online bingo card?

How can I make an interactive bingo card? [more inside]
posted by acoutu at 12:28 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I get the "right" style of Mongolian Beef?

My all-time favorite American Chinese restaurant dish is Mongolian Beef. Whenever I order Mongolian Beef at a restaurant, though, it's a tossup as to what kind of Mongolian Beef I'll get. [more inside]
posted by Enemy of Joy at 12:11 PM PST - 16 comments

Rockin' Chicago like the state fair

Our kid is enamored with the Cooking Channel's Carnival Eats. He loves the over-the-top fair foods the show features: weird permutations of pizza, burgers, hot dogs, tacos, etc. with heaps of cheese and bacon, lots of frying, and clever/stupid (it's a fine line) collisions of cuisines. The dessert stuff is even more up his alley. We're going to spend a few days traipsing around Chicago around next month and we'd like to hit a few places that might serve loony food that's right up his alley. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 11:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Suggestions for stylus/pad markup on huge-page PDFs

I regularly need to do markups and changes plus simple sketches on architectural drawings. Mac only. Help. [more inside]
posted by jeff-o-matic at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments

Trying to recreate a simple oatmeal pancake recipe

My dad used to make a version of oatmeal pancakes when I was young. I've been trying to figure out how to make them and failing. Any help is appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 10:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Is there a way to transfer Instagram posts to a different account?

I am starting to get seriously into skincare and am posting about it a lot on Instagram. I'd like to start a separate Instagram account just for that, and keep my main one for pictures of my kids and such. Is there a way I can transfer the posts from my current account to a new one, preferably all at the same time?
posted by apricot at 10:53 AM PST - 5 comments

Your favorite gym/lunch/tote bag

Hi All, I would like a bag where I can carry my gym clothes, sneakers & lunch. Ideally, this bag would have a seperate compartment for each: my sneakers, lunch & clothes with 2 shoulder straps like a purse. [more inside]
posted by PeaPod at 9:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Our housecleaner is going independent. Advice? (for us and her)

For several years, we’ve hired a company for weekly housecleaning. For a long time, the company has sent the same person most weeks: Someone we like, who does a great job. We were contractually forbidden from hiring her independently of the company. But now the company is closing, and that restriction is gone. The housecleaner would like to work with us (and other clients) directly. That sounds good to us. I’m looking for advice on how we can best make this work for all concerned. We are in Canada (Toronto) if that affects any legal concerns, etc. [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 9:47 AM PST - 12 comments

What's in your lab?

For something I'm writing, I'm looking for examples of the complexity (and expense, if you have any details to share) of the type of lab equipment used to research and develop complicated new technology that addresses major world challenges. The tech might be radically more efficient solar cells, a new treatment for Alzheimers or cancer, nuclear fusion, the hyperloop, etc.—anything with lofty aims. Can you share an example of what's needed to develop a particular technology? I want to contrast developing this type of technology and developing something like an app that requires very little equipment at all.
posted by pinochiette at 9:10 AM PST - 13 comments

History of Mortified vs Cringe

Do you guys remember Cringe, founded by Sarah Brown? My friends are all talking about and performing for Mortified, which I had not previously heard of, but seems to be the same idea. Which came first? [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 9:10 AM PST - 4 comments

Save this lawn from its new owner (me)

Last fall, I bought a house with a healthy lawn. I have never lived anywhere with a lawn before, so lawn-related behaviors are new to me. I mowed it once but then had to travel for a few weeks and, by the time I got back, it was winter and the freeze was on. Now that spring is almost here, what can/should I do for the lawn? Should I mow it now, spread anything, leave it alone until...? [more inside]
posted by chimpsonfilm at 8:42 AM PST - 12 comments

Cheap material to use as a track for a mechanics creeper in crawlspace?

Hello! I think it's a fun idea to have a bit of a sled to get through my crawlspace instead of literally having to crawl. There's a few projects down there, and having a bit of a mine-cart type situation to get around would be super interesting. I bought a mechanics creeper - but now I'm trying to think of the cheapest way to build a "track" for the small wheels so they don't get caught in the dirt. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 6:44 AM PST - 19 comments

Cheap bots done quick but for Facebook?

I have legitimate need of a decent Facebook chatbot to help our prospective visitors get to the right office. I've built a twine game previously that does it, but I'd really prefer it as a chatbot on FB. What's the best way to do this? Are there trusted hosts like Twine and CBDQ or do you host it "on Facebook"? For free is the obvious caveat.
posted by Iteki at 6:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Bonding with second child/Is this even a problem?

I had bad post-partum depression following the birth of my second child. I couldn't breast-feed and was pretty unable to function and care for him for the first few months of his life. Things are better now and he is a delightful baby, but I worry that I somehow may have failed to bond with him properly. It's making me desperately sad and I could use some advice about a) how to strengthen bond with 8 month old b) whether this is even really an issue or just in my head? [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 6:40 AM PST - 20 comments

I need a therapist matchmaker. Do you know that perfect someone in Sac?

I'm looking for The One. Can anybody recommend a good therapist in the Sacramento area? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Best intermediate bonsai websites or videos?

I have three bonsai in a shared bowl. Two are snow rose and one is a ficus. One year into my bonsai journey, I am looking for good sources of Bonsai 201 content. [more inside]
posted by Dr_Janeway at 5:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Side gigs

I am looking for a side gig. I have a seen a lot of advice that a side gig should be something you really like doing. This has led me to create several small crafts, do some thrift shopping, take some random serveys, and not decide on a side gig. Please suggest side gigs where I can actually make some money. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 3:16 AM PST - 17 comments

Meeting new people - why do they not ask questions about me?

I've living in Vancouver, BC and there's one thing that gets me is that many people I've met are very willing to share details about themselves, at times telling me things I have never asked, and yet they don't seem to care about asking details about me. Is this a cultural thing? [more inside]
posted by TrinsicWS at 12:52 AM PST - 31 comments

March 26

Philodendron with no leaves - can it be saved?

Six months ago I received an amazing gift - a mature philodendron monstera with a 4' tall, 5" wide trunk (aka swiss cheese plant). I put it somewhere where it didn't get enough light and over the next 3 months all the leaves died. Now I have a slowly withering trunk with no leaves. If I put it somewhere that works better for it (filtered light, etc.) could I revive this or is it compost?
posted by arnicae at 9:56 PM PST - 5 comments

What can I try before I buy (online)?

I purchased a mattress after trying two ubiquitous companies that let you do the standard 100 night trial, the first one I returned, the second one I kept and it was awesome! I want more of this when I make purchases online in the future. What new companies (or old ones) are built on this same kind of business model, either try it free before committing or buy it and get free (& free return shipping) returns in X amount of time? [more inside]
posted by the thorn bushes have roses at 9:40 PM PST - 9 comments

Alertivative social media outlets

I have felt the need to switch to another platform for: keeping up with others socially (events, birthdays, general status updates), posting pictures & interests, writing / journaling. Outside of the news of late, I felt a sense that Facebook was just becoming not only a suction of time and maintenance, but now even worse some shady bias practices. I made a statement in a post as such, and many friends said they'd be willing to follow to another platform if I found such. Does anyone have any recommendations (I'm thinking like old-school LiveJournal, or Tumblr, or something of the likes) that can be a safe, enjoyable, social space either for a small group of people or potentially a wider audience? Interested to hear what's out there.
posted by hillabeans at 8:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Family tree and geneaology word problem

What's my 2nd cousin once removed to my 2nd cousin on the other side? [more inside]
posted by letahl at 8:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Secure file-sharing recs?

My tax accountant is in another state this year. I need to get her my tax documents - is there a way to do so securely online?
posted by Dragonness at 7:07 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me to expand my search for a place to live (and a career)

I moved to NYC last September with a BA in English from a good school and few marketable skills in my pocket, and I've had trouble finding work outside of a seasonal gig at a bookstore. I've had no luck finding any good tutoring jobs, which is the other thing I've done. So, I'm thinking about expanding my job search to outside the city, and I'm not sure what my best options in the USA are. [more inside]
posted by rallizes at 6:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Navigating group conversations in another language?

Speakers of more than one language: how do you politely navigate group conversations when everyone is speaking really fast and you don't understand everything? [more inside]
posted by iamsuper at 4:20 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me Coachella!

I am bringing my teenage (17) daughter to Coachella this year. I've done basic Google research looking for tips and suggestions, but would love any personal experiences with the festival. [more inside]
posted by Bresciabouvier at 3:59 PM PST - 6 comments

What the heck is this filter for?

Found this filter (front, back, long side, short side) lurking in my closet, next to the bags for my vaccuum cleaner. However, it definitely doesn't seem to be an accessory for the vaccuum, and I'm stumped as to what it goes with. It is about 6"x4.5"x1.25". There is no writing nor any markings anywhere on it. Thanks for your help!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 3:41 PM PST - 9 comments

CLEP - Human Growth & Development

Following on my question about an Abnormal Psychology class, I also need a Human Growth & Development class. For this class I can take a CLEP test. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 2:06 PM PST - 1 comment

What to do about subpar package delivery?

I've had some significant package delivery issues since moving to a new city. A cursory survey reveals that it is a systemic problem involving UPS as well as USPS but the former is my main issue. What recourse do I have? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 1:55 PM PST - 9 comments

Biking NYC to Providence?

I've been contemplating guided-tour biking vacations, but I'm also cheap, and I happen to live about 100 yards from the East Coast Greenway. At which point -- hey, it's an already defined biking route, and a week or so to do 250 miles would be a very reasonable pace to get me from NYC to Providence, at which point I could take Amtrak back home with my bike. (Or, I suppose, go in the other direction -- train first and bike home). Specific questions below. [more inside]
posted by LizardBreath at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments

How to streamline sharing supply chain offers with a group

I coordinate projects for an unusual recycling industry that is trying to expand. Random people contact me when they have suitable material available, and I'd love to have a streamlined way to share this with lots of industry members who may be interested. In the past, I've shared these alerts to an email list, but then I never know if anyone followed up, whether materials were ever recycled, or if it all got lost in the void. I keep wondering if there's any team communications app that I could use to post new listings, see who saw the post, and allow people to "claim" items on a first-come, first-served basis. Bonus difficulty: people in my work world aren't generally tech-savvy, so it would need to be really straightforward and simple. While I think a Slack discussion etc. could theoretically work, I'm looking for something with a ridiculously easy interface: see post, click yes or no. Does something like this exist?
posted by hessie at 1:49 PM PST - 3 comments

grease is the word

I have a roundabout question about the correlation between the cleanliness of my hair and the cleanliness of the rest of my body. [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 1:22 PM PST - 29 comments

Honeymoon in Bulgaria; Thoughts?

My fiancee are considering honeymooning in Bulgaria. We're drawn by the relative affordability, the beaches, the mountains, the meat balls, and the realization that if we have a kid, our vacations might be more of the car-camping-at-a-state-park variety. MeFites that have traveled in Bulgaria, what did you like? Dislike? We'd be there in August.
posted by Fister Roboto at 12:47 PM PST - 7 comments

How to clean up paint chips from lawn and driveway

Demolished an old weathered structure built of scrap interior doors. The structure was probably 20-30 years old, but some of the painted doors would likely have been older. White paint flaked off all over the lawn. Not sure if it's lead paint, so it's probably best to assume it is. How to clean it up? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 12:21 PM PST - 14 comments

ISO nonfiction book recommendations

My mom will be spending a lot of time in the near future as a companion in a hospital room. When I asked what I could send her, she asked me to surprise her with a book to help her pass the time; I need recommendations. She prefers nonfiction. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 11:41 AM PST - 48 comments

Is it worth it (time, cost, energy) to get diagnosed with ADHD/ADD?

Based on my own research and discussions with family/friends, I am convinced that I fall somewhere along the spectrum of ADHD inattentive. I brought this up with my PCP, who has suggested that I go through the process of formal ADHD screening with a psychiatrist. She won't diagnose me herself, since it is easily misdiagnosed. However, all of the psychiatrists I've looked into offer out-of-network services only. Most tell me that the cost of screening will run me at least $900-$1200, and it likely will be much more in the event I need medication management follow-up appointments. I've made it to my 30s without pursuing a diagnosis or medication, relying on my quick wits, hyperfocus, and procrastination-induced panic-urgency to get things done. But, I've reached a point where I think this may be preventing me from living my life in the way I'd like, because I can't sustain interest in anything, including lifelong, beloved hobbies and a decade-long intellectual pursuit. This is causing me a lot of distress. It will take me months to save up for this process, not to mention how much mental energy it will take me to follow through with appointments. Have you been here? Was it worth it to you?
posted by houseofleaves at 11:09 AM PST - 28 comments

529 Question

My husband is the owner of two 529s, one for each of our children. We want to transfer these to another institution with me as the owner, and have been advised that the only way to do a proper rollover is for both accounts to be in the same name. Does an ownership change count as a rollover? [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 10:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Can I get a mortgage before I'm divorced?

How likely is it that my life circumstances will torpedo my mortgage application? Negatives: Divorce is not final; 2016 taxes were filed late (ie, over the weekend, not accepted yet): 2017 & beyond income is good, but 2016 was terrible. More inside, plus some positive aspects of my situation. [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak at 10:31 AM PST - 4 comments

"I'll know" - but apparently I don't remember the movie scene

Before I tried to google this and failed, I could have sworn that one of the Naked Gun movies had a scene where Leslie Neilson sings "I'll Know" inexplicably under someone's window. [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike at 9:47 AM PST - 2 comments

I think I have ADD but not sure how to proceed under life collapsing

My life has gotten unmanageable. I've found the details of life to be overwhelming, and despite my best intentions, I cannot get organized, nor seem to finish important projects. This is not a new thing for me. My life has simply not scaled well to my own solutions for getting by. I have a high-level management position, and the walls are starting to close in. It's gotten beyond being a time-management issue or trying to get more organized, and I've been seeing a psychiatrist about anxiety and depression. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Shinkansen Cab Ride Video

There are tons of train cab ride/ driver's view videos on youtube, but I've only been able to find this one shot on board a shinkansen (Tokyo -> Nagano). Is this the only one, or are there others which have escaped my search? [more inside]
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 9:32 AM PST - 2 comments

Toronto restaurant recommendations?

Hi Toronto people, I'm going to be in your town this weekend, staying a few blocks from the Rogers Centre. Any wonderful food experiences in that neighborhood you recommend? I doubt I'll have time to go anywhere that isn't reachable on foot so just that area only please. Any cuisine, any degree of fanciness/not fancy.
posted by JanetLand at 8:46 AM PST - 19 comments

Everyone gets a nombre but me?

I’m trying to understand some Google Translate weirdness. For English->Spanish entering "my name is ____" translates to "mi nombre es ____" for every name I can think of. Except Tim. "my name is Tim" translates to "me llamo Tim". As much as I like to feel special this is weirding me out a bit. Can anyone suggest an explanation?
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 8:22 AM PST - 20 comments

Seeking strategies to be less deranged while trying to conceive.

I (36 F) and Mr. Millipede (40 M) are trying to conceive, via fertility treatments, after a 6-month break from doing so. Last time, it was increasingly emotionally hard each cycle. This time, it is already emotionally hard. I seek your strategies for mental and emotional stability during this time. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 8:22 AM PST - 14 comments

Tomato pudding? What to do with 64oz of tomato juice?

I rescued a lot of tomato juice from my giant can of diced tomatoes. What can I make with it that a) isn't a smoothie or soup b) can be eaten with a fork or spoon or sport?
posted by tedious at 8:16 AM PST - 16 comments

Songs with hand motions for toddlers.

My 12-month-old loves songs with hand motions involved: Itsy-Bitsy Spider and I'm a Little Teapot are in our top-5 rotation. (And he's a bit young for Miss Mary Mack...) I'd love to find more songs to sing with him that fit into this mold. What other songs with hand motions can we work into our rotation?
posted by melodykramer at 8:03 AM PST - 45 comments

Monitoring a garage door away from home and wifi?

Is there any way to monitor an off-property garage door without wifi? [more inside]
posted by figgy_finicky at 7:57 AM PST - 7 comments

CV examples for professionals moving from self-employment to employment?

I recently stumbled across a job I'm very qualified for and would be interested in if the money was amazing, so I'd like to apply. I love helping other people put together CVs but ironically, now that I have to do one myself for the first time in 15 years, I am in need of layout and organisational ideas for self-employed people applying to traditional roles. [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 6:10 AM PST - 2 comments

Moving the Zoo

The Invincible house is moving! How do we hold an open house when we live with three cats and a very barky dog? [more inside]
posted by invincible summer at 5:59 AM PST - 10 comments

What to read before visiting Tokyo?

I am visiting Tokyo for the first time, and am looking for something besides a guidebook (fiction or nonfiction) that will provide an interesting layer of interpretation as I move about the city. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 5:59 AM PST - 15 comments

What is this music (sub)genre and where can I find more?

MusicFilter: I can't believe I'm wasting a question on this but for years now I have been obsessed with Bob's burger's The Mad Pooper. I need more music like it but nothing satisfies. What should I be looking for? Poop references not necessary. [more inside]
posted by Tarumba at 5:37 AM PST - 9 comments

Yet another NYC vs SF question

Help me decide where to live! [more inside]
posted by whitelily at 4:28 AM PST - 10 comments

How to lose weight without losing my sense of self

I know I need to lose weight, but I've spent half my life battling with my weight and the remaining half of my life battling with the psychological scars from that process. I would like to lose weight, for my health, in a way that does not trigger the demons of my childhood and early-20s to raise their ugly heads again. Can I do this? How can I do this? I am scared. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 3:00 AM PST - 29 comments

Roommate Refuses to Leave, College Freshman Apartment Edition. Halp.

This is an apartment, not a dorm. 1 of 4 roommates is being awful, and the roommates want to know what they can do. My son (19) goes to college in Boston, the school has no dorms, he and and three other young men leased an apartment at a reputable complex close to their school. [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 2:47 AM PST - 30 comments

How to programmatically check whether a movie exists on netflix?

I have a spreadsheet with movie titles and release year. I'd like for each of them to determine whether they are available on netflix. How can I achieve this? [more inside]
posted by knz at 2:17 AM PST - 10 comments

March 25

Small Claims Court and Verbal Agreements

I stupidly leased a room to someone for a year, with a 30-day verbal agreement should he need to move or I needed him to move -- as 'giving notice'. No written lease. There was also a verbal agreement re the utilities, a set amount per month. He stiffed me on part of the rent and month and half of utilities (just up and moved out), and I want to go to small claims court. Can I? [more inside]
posted by zenpop at 10:57 PM PST - 8 comments

How Best To Go Around The World on Air Miles?

I have over 300,000 air miles on three different airlines (Delta, United, Alaska) and realized that I could use those air miles to go around the world! Suggestions? (and trip limitations inside) [more inside]
posted by ITravelMontana at 10:10 PM PST - 9 comments

It is there, but not really no

What are things the exist and don't exist at the same time? [more inside]
posted by TheGoodBlood at 9:25 PM PST - 48 comments

Please walk me through a math problem

I was once told that "1 million seconds = 14 days, and 1 billion seconds equals 35 years." Now that I've learned about the difference between a Long Scale Billion and a Short Scale Billion, I'd like to know if this quote is correct using the Short Scale (1,000 millions = 1 billion). [more inside]
posted by kestralwing at 6:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Yes, but can we search these photos quickly and by keyword?

Please share your successful photo sharing strategies for distributed teams who need low, low tech. [more inside]
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 6:34 PM PST - 2 comments

The dumbest tater question

What does one person do with 5lbs of (Yukon gold) potatoes that she.. accidentally cooked? My intention was to parboil them and freeze some for roasting later, but I lost track of time and now they're very cooked to the point of falling apart, and my feeling is that they will not hold up well to tossing in oil and roasting at this point. The only thing I can think of is mashed potatoes, but I don't actually like them very much. Any other ideas?
posted by btfreek at 5:46 PM PST - 35 comments

Make it easy while I'm in the Big Easy!

The girlfriend and I are getting ready to go to New Orleans next week for the first time. We are not big partiers but would call ourselves foodies. What spots so we make sure we hit keeping away from the touristy stuff? Outside of great restaurants, what else are must sees in New Orleans? Thanks in advance
posted by keep it tight at 2:21 PM PST - 20 comments

Movies and books about grumpy, cranky, broken men who don’t talk much.

But they have a heart of gold. Movie examples include Hugh Jackman as Wolverine. Jeremy Renner in Wind River. Ethan Hawke in Maudie. Clint Eastwood in Gran Torino. On Netflix, the sheriff in Longmire. Books like A Man Called Ove. Extra points if currently found on Showtime or Netflix. Thanks.
posted by HeyAllie at 1:59 PM PST - 37 comments

Sexual Discrimination... from "subordinates"? Best way to deal with it?

So the women at my work are in a bit of a bind. We're experiencing what we believe is sexual discrimination, but the only reason we can say that is because the women are treated differently from the men, and tasks are prioritized differently. That's one problem - it's not blatant, just a pattern - which is obvious to anyone who knows about sexual discrimination, but harder to understand for people who don't take it as seriously as they should. The second problem is that it's technically a "subordinate" - although we are not their supervisor, they are supposed to be taking requests from us. And most sexual discrimination laws seems to be discrimination from "employer/potential employer". The person has been reported to their supervisor (which is our supervisor), with no results. That is potentially the only avenue that I can think of to take it to HR - that the supervisor has been informed of sexual discrimination/bias and has refused to take action. Thoughts? Advice? I have begun requesting documentation from the supervisor as to what they've done - actual specific steps and it's all very vague. [more inside]
posted by Lt. Bunny Wigglesworth at 1:50 PM PST - 20 comments

Video response to Aziz Ansari Allegation

I'm putting together a compilation of resources about affirmative/enthusiastic consent. Please help me find an amazing video I watched a few weeks ago breaking down the sexual misconduct allegations against Aziz Ansari. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 1:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Help setting up a non-profit's website

I would like to set up a very simple website for my synagogue. At this point, and for the foreseeable future, what I really need is a donation form. If tax receipts can be auto-generated, even better. [more inside]
posted by mhz at 1:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Flying to Iceland

Wife and I are planning a trip to Iceland this summer. I have many questions I'll probably be posting over the coming weeks/months. First up, which flight to choose? [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 1:04 PM PST - 8 comments

Should we just end it, if 'it' ever even existed?

I don’t know if it’s me or I’m just attracted to wrong people. I am also not sure if this relationship has been a rebound for me after that terrible previous experience I still think about a lot. [more inside]
posted by Nnennoo at 12:39 PM PST - 18 comments

Finding a Winter Wonderland

Several years ago, we took the perfect winter vacation with a group of friends. We could go back to the same place, but we'd like to experience a new location with some of the same elements. [more inside]
posted by Barnifer at 12:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I get a dog? Graduate school edition.

I have wanted a dog for a few years now, and my desire is only growing. The only thing is that I will be moving to a new area for a PhD program and don't know if it's realistic to think that I will be able to manage coursework and the responsibilities of having a dog. I'd like to think that I can, but maybe I need a reality check. [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 12:08 PM PST - 28 comments

Afternoon commute Stanford -> Berkeley: any times better than others?

I'm going to be commuting by car twice a week from Berkeley to Stanford and back. I have some timing flexibility on the way back: I can leave Stanford at 3pm when I finish work, or I can hang around for a while and leave later. How much difference would it make traffic-wise to leave at 3pm vs. 4pm vs. 5pm vs. 6pm? When is peak rush hour on that route and when do things ease up a bit?
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 10:39 AM PST - 11 comments

What site will allow easy public photo uploads to a group page?

I would like to find a site that will allow attendees at a public even to easily upload photos they already have on their phones to a location that everyone at the site can view easily. [more inside]
posted by TrarNoir at 9:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Cars like the Wienermobile

I’m finally going to see the Wienermobile tomorrow! What are some other commercial cars shaped like the things they sell?
posted by pxe2000 at 9:14 AM PST - 16 comments

What are these fleeting moments of sublime happiness?

I often experience moments of euphoric happiness that are so fleeting that they are gone immediately after I become consciously aware of them. What are they, what causes them and is there any way to "grab hold of them"? [more inside]
posted by piranna at 6:55 AM PST - 18 comments

How do you want me to prod you to answer my invitation?

I'm happy to make the first friendship move, but I don't know if you're ignoring me on purpose to send a soft no or your computer was broken for three days. [more inside]
posted by Jenny'sCricket at 4:54 AM PST - 37 comments

Not best practice: temporary fix for broken and missing floor tiles

We have a terracotta tiled kitchen floor with a couple broken floor tiles and a couple that are so broken that there are pieces missing. The eventual goal (within the next few months) is to repair the substrate and replace the floor. I'm also tired of tripping over them and will be having a bunch of people over this coming Friday. I'm seeking temporary fix ideas that won't interfere with future actual fixes. [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 4:44 AM PST - 13 comments

Getting married in the us - where?

We are an overseas couple who are considering eloping to a US city. As we will be on holiday, time will be limited, so we want somewhere which is basically first come, first served. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:08 AM PST - 13 comments

March 24

Be my personal trainer for my 3-week boot camp

I would like a simple kickstart program to getting back to fitness and weightloss and I have an unexpected opportunity to concentrate on this for 3 weeks starting from Friday. Suggestions please. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 9:55 PM PST - 11 comments

At the intersection of Cassavetes fans and wallpaper aficionados

Recently re-watched Cassavete's 1980 film Gloria and was mesmerised by the wallpaper in Gloria's bedroom in her Bronx apartment. I can find only two poor shots of it online. Anyone recognise it or able to roughly date it? Or know an archive I could trawl through to search for it? Hope me, MeFi!
posted by trotzdem_kunst at 6:58 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me save my headphones from an early grave!

I have come into possession of a pair of headphones that are perfect in all but one respect — the bare wire is exposed on the cable right where it connects to the earpiece. What can I do to make them sturdy enough to use? [more inside]
posted by sesquipedalia at 6:34 PM PST - 13 comments

Recommendations for wiki software?

I’d like to set up a self-hosted wiki for personal notekeeping. Good mobile support is a must (either mobile web or a decent app that can point to my server). Can anyone recommend good wiki software to use? [more inside]
posted by fencerjimmy at 6:15 PM PST - 4 comments

Seeking something shady

We need new window coverings, and I am not sure what is desirable or what to look for, with considerations of pets, children, and automation. Fortunately, we only have 6 windows… [more inside]
posted by zachxman at 4:52 PM PST - 2 comments

Doo-dah, doo-dah

I have a question about an unusual problem with thinking about things someone doesn't want to think about. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 4:14 PM PST - 14 comments

Seattle veg-friendly restaurants that are nice but not too expensive?

I'm looking for Seattle restaurant recommendations for a special-occasion dinner. We're a group of 8 who vary in income and whether we eat meat. [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 3:17 PM PST - 6 comments

How to increase volunteers for workplace events?

I'm part of a civility working group. My first assignment: develop standard language to use when soliciting volunteers for event support to remind people not to rely on stereotypes when deciding to volunteer. [more inside]
posted by Rob Rockets at 2:34 PM PST - 18 comments

Craigslist scammer is threatening me. Do I need to worry?

I discovered an apartment rental scam on craigslist and so I made my own post in the same section, calling it a scam, in the hopes that it would help keep other people from becoming victims. Apparently this is a pretty common scam. Within hours the scammer emailed me threatening "consequences" if I don't remove it. How risky is this? Should I just give in and pull down my scam announcement, just to be safe? I just hate to see someone fall victim to it. [more inside]
posted by inatizzy at 2:01 PM PST - 12 comments

ISO automated/timed feeder for cat (difficulty: in Canada)

My cat eats too fast and ends up vomiting later. If you had a similar problem, what timed/automated feeder do you and your cat(s) love? [more inside]
posted by methroach at 1:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Every paper I write feels like the first one I've ever written!

I have written innumerable papers and essays throughout my academic career, but upon entering grad school writing a papers have just felt like a struggle. In particular, it's like I've forgotten how to properly structure a paper and I probably spend more time figuring out how to structure my ideas/arguments than I do actually writing my papers. How can I stop worrying about the structure and just get on with writing my papers? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 1:31 PM PST - 13 comments

What comes between muzzle loader and nuclear warhead?

Suppose you were exploring the boundaries of the Second Amendment’s grant of the right to bear arms, and wanted to pose a continuum of weaponry from muzzle loaders to nuclear warheads and biological weapons, to see where someone might finally say no, that shouldn’t be in the hands of civilians. What types of “arms” would you place on this continuum? Let’s limit it to ten.
posted by HotToddy at 1:13 PM PST - 14 comments

Good restaurant for an out-of-towner near Union Square in SF?

My friend- a lawyer from DC- is coming into SF for a work trip and we're trying to get together for dinner and a drink at around 8 on Monday evening. I'd like to take her somewhere special that shows off SF dining a bit but that is not too pricey, and after a long day she wants it to be walking distance from her hotel in Union Square. Many of the restaurants recommended in previous Asks are really expensive (Fleur De Lys, Masa's) or closed (Ponzu, Lulu). Any local favorites that you would recommend? Thank you!
posted by foxy_hedgehog at 12:58 PM PST - 14 comments

Stuffing recipe - Difficulty level: sage + unleavened bread

My go-to baked chicken stuffing recipe is just Pepperidge Farms sage and onion stuffing. However, this weekend I need to bake a chicken and would really like stuffing, but it can not have any leavened bread. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 12:36 PM PST - 7 comments

I'm not saying anything against Alexander - books about antiquity

I've just finished a collection of Mary Beard's reviews, Confronting the Classics. What else would I like? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 12:31 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I report a Russian political troll Twitter account?

A Twitter account that is clearly a Russian political troll has retweeted one of my non-political tweets (about Pokemon of all things). Now that I'm aware of the account, how do I report it to Twitter in a way that they may actually do something about it? [more inside]
posted by Servo5678 at 12:24 PM PST - 6 comments

How to bleach white clothing

What is the best way to bleach white clothing to get it as white as possible?
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 11:58 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for Android RPG suggestions

Give me a solid, old-school RPG I can play on an Android phone [more inside]
posted by Dr Dracator at 11:39 AM PST - 2 comments

Elementary Aged Adventure

In hopes of encouraging more reading in the house, I want to create a bookshelf of Adventure for my elementary aged kids. [more inside]
posted by PorcineWithMe at 11:38 AM PST - 5 comments

hey honey can I eat it?

I bought raw honey for the first time. Before we nom... [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 11:01 AM PST - 10 comments

How to NOT pass out due to someone else's surgery

Over the course of many years I've discovered that medical procedures on someone else will make me physically weak and almost to the point of passing out. I've also nearly passed out several times when getting my own blood drawn at the doctor's office, so now there's an embarrassment factor involved along with the anxiety. How can I get myself under control without using xanax or other prescription meds? When you feel the lightheadedness coming on, how do you get a grip on it and stay upright? [more inside]
posted by MultiFaceted at 10:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Used car/crossover SUV advice

I've got to relocate to the burbs and, at the tender age of 37, need to buy my first (used) car. Feeling overwhelmed and need to narrow down the search, either with recommendations or with things to avoid. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Beardman at 10:44 AM PST - 10 comments

Beyond cereal and pb & j

What healthy foods do your teens eat? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 9:06 AM PST - 16 comments

What was your favorite tour guide/tour company for the Colosseum/Rome?

Going to Rome the first week of April and feeling a bit lost with the tour guide and tour company options. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 8:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Suggest some podcasts - emotional insights edition

Looking for podcast recommendations. I love listening to podcasts like Esther Perel's Where Should We Begin, Dear Sugars and Group which analyse relationships, involve a lot of emotional honesty and are really insightful when it comes to human behavior and why we do what we do. [more inside]
posted by Nilehorse at 8:02 AM PST - 10 comments

LinkedIn anxiety and avoidance

How do I build a LinkedIn profile from nothing in my brand new job, without looking like a total incompetent in my new field? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:58 AM PST - 10 comments

Notable Literary Dog Names.

We need names for our upcoming (female) dog... preferably on of notable literature ancestry to match our (male) cat named Tobias Wolf (Toby). She is an English Cream Golden Retriever... so Thusfar I've proposed Virginia Woof and Jane Arfsten, but we're looking for your best names...
posted by Nanukthedog at 4:56 AM PST - 47 comments

turns out I do not actually know how email works

I own a domain which I currently pay for hosting on. I use an email address associated with this domain as my primary email, and I also pay for SMTP forwarding on that email address. Can I stop paying for web hosting and still keep using this email address? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 4:03 AM PST - 8 comments

March 23

Virtue signaling car suggestions

I am going to buy a new (to me) electric or hybrid or plug-in hybrid car... tomorrow! What should I get? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 10:01 PM PST - 19 comments

Perfect rice on the stove

Now that I have an Instant Pot, I've ditched my rice cooker to save cabinet real estate. I mostly make basmati rice, but after following this recipe which almost ended in disaster,* I'm wondering how you all do it. What's your tried-and-true method for cooking basic basmati rice on the stove? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 9:12 PM PST - 35 comments

How to make friends as newish parents in a new place

We moved near NYC on the Jersey side 3 years ago when our daughter was born. Since then it's been juggling responsibilities and life. We currently find ourselves looking for a richer social life but aren't sure how to find good new friends anymore. How do we find groups that we can have regular activities with? How do we build actual close friendships when we have comparatively less time? What has been your experience? What worked and what hasn't?
posted by blueyellow at 8:56 PM PST - 5 comments

What to expect from my first float?

I've been curious about a sensory deprivation float experience for awhile, but mild claustrophobia has kept me from it. I just discovered a local place has larger cabins instead of enclosed pods, and long story short, I have a voucher for a 90-minute float session now. What should I expect? What do I need to know? If you float, what do you get out of it?
posted by rhiannonstone at 8:06 PM PST - 33 comments

Have to find a forever home for erotica.

(tw: non-explicit discussion of erotic materials) Recently on the Blue's front page was a post about a UK shop that will take vintage erotica from embarrassed families. I need to find a US equivalent, preferably within 100 miles of Chicago, strongly-preferably within the next 30 days. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Mutant Lobsters from Riverhead at 7:17 PM PST - 8 comments

I know ONE BILLION is "a lot." But how much really?

When the populations of China and/or India are referred to, it's always "over a billion people." Is there common agreement about whether that is a thousand millions or a million millions? All I find is references to America and Great Britain. What about the French? Or the Chinese, for that matter? This is a number, even if an approximate number. Surely it doesn't change depending on my geographical location.
posted by kestralwing at 7:12 PM PST - 17 comments

advice for dating a divorced dad?

Hi AskMeFi, I’m curious to hear from divorced dads: how long did it take before you felt you could really date again? And how did having a child (and an ex-spouse with whom you co-parent) effect your dating life? [more inside]
posted by zebrabananafish at 5:55 PM PST - 20 comments

Spreadsheet ping a URL and return whether it exists

I have an csv file with names of charities and their URLs. I want to add a column with the direct URL of their donation page. To speed things up, I am assuming many will be http://URL/donate, and would like a way to efficiently ping each one and see if that page exists/works. Is there a way to do this in excel/gooogle sheets or anything else (simple)? Any other tips to find donation URLs without manually checking appreciated.
posted by dripdripdrop at 4:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Short-term child care for older children

Parents, what do you do with your slightly older children when on vacation? I am talking children that are let's say 7-13 years old, not so young that they need non-stop supervision yet not old enough to stay by themselves in a hotel room or a short-term apartment rental for a couple hours. [more inside]
posted by rada at 2:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Searching for a word

What's the term for that thing where a group takes a word with a broadly accepted meaning, changes that meaning to something that suits their political aims, then argues (disingenuously, I think) as if the group's re-definition of the word was generally consensual?
posted by heyho at 1:44 PM PST - 16 comments

Search for appropriate Clean and Sober Jewelry - 10th Anniversary

The tenth anniversary of a close relative's tenth clean and sober anniversary is approaching. I wanted to find something in gold jewelry, like a necklace and pendant, as a congratulatory gift. I am asking for your help in finding a source of woman's jewelry that would commemorate her achievement. Price range US $300-600. Thank you for your help.
posted by KneeDeep at 1:44 PM PST - 7 comments

How should I work with my partner on this?

I've been in a relationship with someone an hour away for nearly a year now and I'm starting to feel like the relationship is getting a bit one-sided. There's not much engagement from her side of things, and I'm wondering if this is still the right thing for me. Can anyone help with ways to get things back to some kind of equilibrium without being confrontational or seeming discontented? [more inside]
posted by winterhill at 1:41 PM PST - 31 comments

What's a good strategy for participating in the DC March for Our Lives?

I was planning to accompany a friend to attend the March for Our Lives in DC tomorrow. As the day approaches, and as more information has come out about the plans for the event, I'm feeling more and more anxious about it and was hoping Mefites could suggest the best way to proceed. [more inside]
posted by argonauta at 12:40 PM PST - 20 comments

Find me a cheaper top this cute!

Mefi fastshionistas! I love this top (Mazzy from Alembika). Can you find me another that checks the same boxes but doesn't cost so much? [more inside]
posted by ottereroticist at 12:33 PM PST - 11 comments

Building a website vs building a house

Where did the bridge between housing development and web development occur? How come we say “I build webpages/websites”, which seems to present an analogy to “building” (in the conceptual sense) a house, or some other physical object? [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 12:25 PM PST - 13 comments

So... are we just supposed to wait until he hits rock bottom?

Hi everyone, I'm very concerned about a family member's mental health. He's 19 and has a history of depression/anxiety. He currently takes anti-anxiety medication (Lexapro) without a psychiatrist. Yesterday, he called me and described bizarre symptoms that I (as someone who is not a doctor) thought could've maybe been a manic episode? Today, he said he felt like he had a panic attack while trying to leave voicemails for doctors and every interaction with another person makes him want to sob. He's not suicidal, which seems to mean that no immediate care is available. He's in Philadelphia. Please help! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by metacognition at 10:52 AM PST - 33 comments

More books like "The World Only Spins Forward"?

I am reading The World Only Spins Forward and finding it to be utterly enthralling. I'm looking for other stuff to read, as I have a very hard time lately finding things that hold my attention. [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 10:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Boat Papers Please

I've got a boat with a dutch registration number. Is there somewhere I can search on that number to find historic details of my boat? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 10:13 AM PST - 3 comments

Waste free/cruelty free/affordable cosmetics

What are some affordable options for cruelty free cosmetics that are also waste free or low waste? I'm looking for options that preferably come in tins or recyclable glass that can be found at drugstore prices or slightly above drugstore prices. [more inside]
posted by donut_princess at 9:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Reading wuxia in English

Please recommend me wuxia fiction in English. [more inside]
posted by daisyk at 9:17 AM PST - 12 comments

What alternatives, career-wise, does a 50 year coder have?

My husband (who knows I'm asking this) will be on the job market again soon and I suggested that he might look for something other than coding positions. He's been coding for 20 years. It's all he knows. He can't even think of another position to apply for. Is there a direction I can point him in? [more inside]
posted by patheral at 9:16 AM PST - 33 comments

What's a Honda Fit, only very quiet, a hybrid, and costs $9.99?

The lease on our very ostentatious base model Civic is up in August, and I now have a 20 mile highway commute instead of a 7 mile surface road commute. The Civic is so, so loud on the highway. Metafilter car people: what if a teeny, late-model luxury car, that is maybe also a hybrid? [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 8:56 AM PST - 16 comments

Find My Friend's Mom on an Episode of Sally Jessy Raphael

My friend's mom (and family) was on an episode of Sally Jessy Raphael in the 90s. I would love to find either the name/# of the episode, a transcript, or bonus points for the whole video. [more inside]
posted by knownassociate at 8:46 AM PST - 1 comment

Why do big web sites put their CDNs under different domain names?

This is purely idle curiosity, but I've been wondering why Twitter-hosted images are served from twimg.com, and Facebook media from fbcdn.com, rather than something like img.twitter.com or cdn.facebook.com. What's the point of using a whole new domain name instead of a subdomain?
posted by moonmilk at 8:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Scheduling Volunteers for a non-profit

We schedule multiple volunteers for two hour time slots on weekend days. The scheduling needs to be accessible from multiple platforms (phone, tablet, desktop, etc). It needs to be easy to use as we would like to not have a large energy of activation for people using the software. And of course, as a non-profit, we hope to not spend too much money. [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 8:28 AM PST - 10 comments

Help with my goddamn taxes after the goddamn separation

Is a NYS "legal separation" (a contract between my ex and myself, signed through lawyers and stamped by courts) count as unmarried by IRS standards, or do I have to file under "married filing separately"? You'd think this is a simple MFing question but noooooooooo. Warning: There is only swearing within, this is my entire question. [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 7:51 AM PST - 7 comments

How should I explain my unfinished PhD (3 years in) to employers?

I'm leaving my PhD program in Switzerland to go back into industry in the U.S. While I was there, I took a medical leave of absence for six months. I came back for a year, but have decided that this program is not for me, and am eager to rejoin the workforce in the same field I was in before I started my PhD (which does NOT require a PhD to succeed). Since my employment gap is three years, is this too long to admit that academia was not a good fit for me? [more inside]
posted by pianohands at 7:20 AM PST - 12 comments

Visiting Canada. Need some advice about an eTA issue

I'm flying to Vancouver for a holiday in about 6 weeks and have run into a hitch with my eTA - I have a minor criminal conviction from over 30 years ago - and have been asked to provide information it that I cannot easily obtain. Not sure what the consequences of this might be or how to best approach it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:10 AM PST - 2 comments

Missing title of this sci-fi story about divergent evolution on gen ship

I read a sci-fi story that probably came out within the last 10 years about the challenges of effective immortality and divergent evolution on a generation ship, with some people preferring to die rather than use the new tech to become immortal. The ship eventually meets other humans, only to discover that they are now incredibly advanced to the point of being barely human, and now the immortal-gen-ship generation is faced with the same quandary as the generation who chose to die off at the start of the story. What is the name of this story?
posted by flibbertigibbet at 6:49 AM PST - 4 comments

poetic explorations of a radical post-cataclysmic future

I just finished reading Alexis Pauline Gumbs' M Archive, "a series of poetic artifacts that speculatively documents the persistence of Black life following a worldwide cataclysm". I'm totally in love with it and would like to read more in this genre. [more inside]
posted by dysh at 5:35 AM PST - 2 comments

Seeking Central London Specific photo services:SD card to CD/DVD copying

Going to be in Central London playing tour guide to a relative who wants to see the London sightseeing highlights. Taking my compact DSLR and need somewhere that will copy photos taken during the day from SD card, onto CD or DVD. Must be in Central London and must be same day service. [more inside]
posted by Faintdreams at 5:31 AM PST - 2 comments

Budget & Expense Tracking for Specific Project (with some hard mode)

Is there an app or a Google Sheets/Excel template that can help me manage a budget for a specific project? The budget will include budgeted and actual expenses, income - and hopefully the ability to allocate particular sources of income to specific categories in the budget. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 5:08 AM PST - 4 comments

One person’s junk is my kid’s magic [Toronto]

Help me find a safe, clean, tetanus-free “junk yard” experience for my 9-year-old mechanically/technologically curious kid. My kid wants to collect scrap metal/busted mechanisms with which to invent new cool stuff. I’d like to provide her with lots of opportunity to indulge that curiosity. [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 4:20 AM PST - 22 comments

Desperately seeking (American) jumper

I am looking for a particular clothing type that was popular in the 90's - does it no longer exist? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 2:41 AM PST - 23 comments

March 22

Hot new tools for small business organization

Are there any? A small business organizer app? Something that syncs with a web site? (Evernote?) Documentation tracking? Best scanner app, and a way to scan directly to Google Drive or ? Your brilliant solutions? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 11:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for Short Sci-Fi story with clones, brain downloading, and loss

It's the future. People don't die; they make clones of themselves and are able to upload their brains to the cloud. One couple (the adventurous versions of themselves) has an accident where the wife dies and there's no available backup. The husband has to figure out how to deal with the loss while no one else seems to understand (including the other copies of himself and their wives). [more inside]
posted by johnstein at 9:19 PM PST - 2 comments

Reagletting shoelaces?

When I Google replacing aglets on shoelaces, the results are all kludges involving glue, tape, or heat shrink. Is there not a way to professionally replace an aglet (specifically the clear plastic variety) on a shoelace? I want to keep the laces that came with my shoes, so I don't need the solution to be cost-effective versus simply buying new laces, as long as it's cheaper than replacing the shoes altogether.
posted by ionnin at 8:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Unexpectedly offered a daycare spot for 1yo. What to ask. How to decide.

I had planned for my mom to care for the baby when I return from mat leave and then put him in daycare at 18 months. I got a call and he's been offered an infant spot when I go back to work. Should I send him to daycare at 12 months instead of 18 months? If I don't send him, will I never get a spot? And how do I decide if I like the spot? This is in Toronto. This daycare is not my first choice and I would move him to my first choice if I got a spot. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 6:16 PM PST - 19 comments

Google Doc: how to preserve edit history when access is lost

Say you were collaborating with someone in a Google doc. It was on their (corporate) instance of Google Drive. Assume that you will imminently lose access to the document. How can you preserve the edit history to show evidence of your work? Are screenshots the only way?
posted by rednikki at 6:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Best data mapping?

Do you have any recommended software for plotting data onto a geographical map? [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 3:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Legit Copyright website?

I paid for a copyright for an image on a site called Copyright Registry Online. It seemed to expensive ($135) and I later noticed some possible scam flags about the site online. I'm wondering if anyone knows about purchasing a copyright on third party sites, and even assuming I did overpay could I still get a legal and legit copyright license? Or could they give me some fake license that wouldn't hold up in court? I usually research this stuff before I jump into anything but I did this on a whim. Thanks for any help.
posted by Liquidwolf at 3:25 PM PST - 16 comments

Identifying a tune from an old toy

Can anyone identify this tune? It's in 3/4 or something, and sounds perhaps vaguely classical. Original source is a toy from about thirty years ago that plays it (=lower limit on the tune's age).
posted by inconstant at 3:14 PM PST - 4 comments

How can you tell if a tattoo is white nationalist or just Celtic?

My wife and I were looking at appliances yesterday and the really helpful salesman had a tattoo on his forearm featuring a white triskelion-type pattern on a red sun. How could I determine in the moment if he is just proud of his Celtic heritage/liked the pattern or is waiting for a chance to ethnically cleanse us? [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 2:30 PM PST - 51 comments

Streaming platforms with original content?

Aside from Netflix, Amazon and Hulu, what other streaming platforms are out there, developing and/or presenting original content? I'm interested in all, no matter what size.
posted by davebush at 1:30 PM PST - 24 comments

Things to consider when becoming a guardian

We found out this week that we may be gaining custody of a 4-year-old child who we've never met before. What should we be thinking about? I've got a list of things that I think are priorities, what am I missing? [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 1:06 PM PST - 29 comments

Wanted: one great psych PhD grad gift

My niece is graduating with a PhD in psychology from a really good school this spring, and much like this question, I want to get her a great grad gift. The wrinkle? I don't really know her. More details below. [more inside]
posted by inky_the_pinky at 12:50 PM PST - 14 comments

Camper van living

What do we need to know about living out of a rented camper van for a couple of weeks this summer? What do we need to make sure we bring with us or buy? Tips or tricks for making it as easy and comfortable as possible? [more inside]
posted by gingerbeer at 12:05 PM PST - 18 comments

Help! My toilet is creating a messy situation

My question is two-pronged: Why, in general, is my toilet so terrible? And two, more urgently, what the hell do I do now that it's on the precipice of creating a disgusting mess in my bathroom? Details below: [more inside]
posted by peachpie at 11:56 AM PST - 29 comments

How to get notified of a certain email on iOS?

I have a company iPhone that syncs to our Exchange server using the default Mail app. Every once in a while - say, once a month - I get an email that I really should respond to rapidly (IT help tickets). I'd like to be able to glance at my phone and quickly tell that such an email arrived. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 11:24 AM PST - 11 comments

Trying to locate a mid to late 1980s PBS science miniseries on the brain

I am looking for a science program broadcast between 1985 and 1990 on PBS on the brain. It had a very distinctive opening sequence with mysterious-sounding 80s synthesizer music. [more inside]
posted by Valuev at 11:08 AM PST - 4 comments

Home Theater solutions for traveling?

Help me make my Plex home media system work for vacations and business travel. [more inside]
posted by Kyol at 11:06 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me decorate my house!

My living space is in desperate need of a makeover, but I'd appreciate some direction towards online retailers I might like. Where should someone with a budget a couple notches above Ikea and a love of beauty, particularly Asian and Mediterranean-influenced decor, buy home furnishings? [more inside]
posted by shirobara at 10:44 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me get over a work obsession

There's this coworker a bit senior to me. We started working together on a project several months ago when I first joined. At some point, I developed an intellectual crush on him. He's very likable, smart, and has a fan following, so I don't think I'm the only one. However... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Did the non-Western world use furniture?

I was thinking about this passage in Fernand Braudel where he says that furniture was something really only enjoyed by the upper class in the West and claims that the rest of the pre-modern world mostly did not use furniture! Can this really be true? [more inside]
posted by johnasdf at 10:16 AM PST - 19 comments

How much do Jewish Day School's cost?

Help me find a jewish day school for my niece and nephew. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 10:08 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I approach the family of a dead man, to film a documentary?

An inspirational campaigner over a niche topic has recently died. A lot about his life would make a fantastic documentary, and there is a lot of archival footage of him. How do I approach his family to say I'd like to make a documentary about his life? Is there a "too soon", and, if so, how would I find out when I can make the approach? [more inside]
posted by omnigut at 8:42 AM PST - 11 comments

What's a word for thoughtful, sardonically amused, contemplation?

I've been using the word "bemused" wrong my whole life. I always figured it referred to affable, amused thoughtfulness. I'd imagine someone grinning a sardonic grin, comfortably seated in an easy chair, drawing on a pipe. Lost in thought, a bit detached and aloof, but grinning in self-amusement. Sort of a combination of "beguiled" and "amused". But no. Bemused, it turns out, is more of an expression of defeat. You don't know the answer, and you're probably not going ever know, and that's that. So what is the word I'm looking for?
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:36 AM PST - 15 comments

Recommendations for woo-free mindfulness/meditation

Angel on one shoulder, devil on the other? I think I have Fred Rogers on one shoulder and General Zod on the other. I swing back and forth more than I would like between my kinder/agreeable/respectful side and my contemptuous "This planet must be cleansed with fire" side. I'd like to find a way to practice mindfulness/meditation (not sure I am using those terms right) to tilt my temperament more towards ol' Fred, but I'm wary getting started because I'm resolutely non-religious/non-spiritual and I don't want to sift through a bunch of woo or corny self-help schlock. Still there must be some way for me to find inner calm. Anything you would recommend? Books, CDs, whatever.
posted by DirtyOldTown at 7:48 AM PST - 26 comments

How do I find best tax preparer for my situation?

My income comes mostly through my single member LLC while wife is employed. I work from home and would like to maximize my deductions. We also had a baby last year. I'd like to find someone who can get us the best refunds, but a Google local search only returned H&R Block which IMO is overpriced for the services they provide.
posted by spacefire at 7:44 AM PST - 3 comments

how to feel out a co-op board about occupancy restriction?

We're looking at a 2-bedroom co-op in NYC whose application says that the apartment is restricted to three people. We're planning to have at least two children, so we'd like permission for four people to live there. What would be the best way to feel out the co-op board about this? [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 7:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Navigating a breakup. Only thing is... it's not mine.

My friend/roommate broke up with his girlfriend. Who is also my friend. I'd like to continue both friendships as smoothly as possible if possible. Could be tricky? More below... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:12 AM PST - 12 comments

Latin American Photobooks of History

I have a few excellent photo art books of Latin America, Destino Final by Giancarlo Ceraudo and Miriam Lewin (about the military junta in Argentina) and Joao Pina's Condor (about Operation Condor). I have a number of great photo books about Latin America, but the quality of these two are a step above. What else is there out there, specifically about Latin American and the Caribbean history? [more inside]
posted by history is a weapon at 6:55 AM PST - 1 comment

Help Me Name My Web Design Business for Therapists

I have been creating websites for therapists and therapy practices and I need to formalize things and that requires having a name. [more inside]
posted by orsonet at 6:44 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I become less indecisive?

I'm the world's most indecisive person. This usually only applies to big decisions like jobs and which city to live in and whether to take opportunity A or B. I don't typically sweat small everyday decisions like what to wear that day or what to order for lunch. I hem and haw a short time, then I make the small decision and move on. How can I do the same with big decisions? [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 3:45 AM PST - 18 comments

Emotional support for a victim of crime (UK)?

A very dear friend in the UK has been robbed by someone they met online. They are traumatised, in shock and afraid to report it. I live on the other side of the world. Is there any support local service that could help them - or do you have other advice about how we could provide support? [more inside]
posted by andraste at 1:44 AM PST - 6 comments

How do you distinguish PMS symptoms from "real" emotions?

I've become more cognizant the past couple of years that I am moodier before my period, and moods often break almost as soon as my period comes. I feel like this should be useful information to have to gain perspective/objectivity in relation to whatever I'm being moody about but am having a hard time figuring out how to apply that concept in practice. [more inside]
posted by knownfossils at 12:33 AM PST - 21 comments

March 21

I want to populate my digital picture frame with many classic images. C

I want to populate my digital picture frame with many classic images. Can you suggest a way to bulk download pictures I find on a google image search? I am a mac user
posted by citybuddha at 11:10 PM PST - 1 comment

What are the lines in the grassy area of this image?

I was browsing some Sat. images on Google and came across this [more inside]
posted by 922257033c4a0f3cecdbd819a46d626999d1af4a at 9:07 PM PST - 11 comments

Using a job finding website that my industry shuns

Should I use a notorious website to find jobs in my business? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 8:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Nothing as scary as a bunch of bored tweens...

Apoptosis the younger wants a spooky story/tall tale inspired birthday party this year. I'm all in for a creative theme, but not sure what will keep 15-20 tweens entertained for 2-3 hours. I've got a campfire and a storyteller so far..help me fill in the blanks! [more inside]
posted by this-apoptosis at 8:04 PM PST - 25 comments

Bookfilter: Werewolf romance novel involving Russian mob in the PNW?

This has been driving my friend bonkers and I told her metafilter identifies books fast enough to set land speed records. She remembers reading a werewolf romance novel set in the Pacific Northwest (she thinks Seattle?) with the protagonist being the daughter of a Russian mobster and the hero being an alpha from another pack. Metafilter, can you help?
posted by arnicae at 7:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Home security camera recommendations

Unfortunately, I have need of some way to determine who is at my front door without having to go to the door. [more inside]
posted by tllaya at 7:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Basic psychotherapy, wise woman counseling or woo woo will help too

How to remove the 'original sin' belief? [more inside]
posted by Mesaverdian at 7:06 PM PST - 19 comments

On the other side of the desk

The student has become the teacher... literally. I am an assistant professor in the humanities and it looks like I may get an undergrad research assistant (!!!). Now what? [more inside]
posted by athirstforsalt at 6:59 PM PST - 7 comments

CRUSH CRUSH CRUSH

can I have your very best crush music for when you're zoning out on the train to work, thinking about them? [more inside]
posted by there will be glitter at 6:07 PM PST - 31 comments

Building culture in a remote organization

Tips for an organization seeking to build a strong remote culture? [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling at 6:06 PM PST - 15 comments

What do you call this type of glass?

I bought this drinking glass for 25 cents at a ReStore in Asbury Park, New Jersey. Imgur link to a pic of the glass. I *LOVE* it -- it looks great (there's a wavy quality to the glass) and feels great while you're holding it and drinking from it! It was by its own lonesome in the store. I would like to know if anyone knows what this type of glass is called so I can buy more!
posted by vacuumsealed at 5:53 PM PST - 12 comments

Books suggestions about escape, like My Side of the Mountain

When I feel stressed I like to think about running away to live in the woods. Instead of doing that I'd like to read books about doing that. My Side of the Mountain is probably the definition of the genre, but I'm interested in your recommendations for regular and YA books. [more inside]
posted by ChrisHartley at 5:50 PM PST - 18 comments

Should I go to grad school?

The big question of my life is: should I go to graduate school? please help. [more inside]
posted by ghostbikes at 5:39 PM PST - 23 comments

I've exported a Blogspot blog as an XML file. What can I do with it?

I've got an old BlogSpot blog as an XML file on my computer. I assumed that when I opened it, it would display as the blog does on the site. But not so. Is this even possible? Or what have I missed? If I can't recreate the blog, what's the point? Thanks.
posted by feelinggood at 5:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Collaborative diversions for bright, bored people

What are your suggestions for fun, creative activities that goal-oriented problem solvers can work on collaboratively to blow off some steam? Bonus points if the activity can be abandoned and returned to later without penalty, and if participants can come and go as they please. [more inside]
posted by mmcg at 5:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Please tell me I’m allergic to exercise?

I have developed pinkish brown spots from my neck to just below my boobs. They itch, mildly but persistently, whenever I get my blood pumping, even a brisk walk, especially if it is warm. I have had them for about a year, and they showed up shortly after I started taking Sertraline, but I only took that for a few months, and it could be a total coincidence. YANAD, YANMD, but any idea what’s up? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 4:58 PM PST - 8 comments

What's the most useful crafted item you've ever made and/or received?

So my hands need to be kept busy right now and I'm sick of all of my current projects. What I would like to know is this: what's the most useful and beloved handcrafted/handmade item you have ever either made yourself (and kept by you or given away and then treasured) and/or was handmade by a friend or family member for you? [more inside]
posted by elsietheeel at 4:41 PM PST - 66 comments

Selling theater tickets without overexertion

I bought a pair of tickets to a Broadway play that, due to my apparent inability to track my own calendar, I can't use. The play is "Lobby Hero" -- high-profile but not a sell-out and not something people are clamoring for. I'd like to sell the tickets on the secondary market and recoup at least some substantial portion of what I paid for them and I'm willing to take a loss if it means I can definitely get them off my hands without a great deal of effort. What's the easiest way to do this? [more inside]
posted by eugenen at 4:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Where did the "discard the meat, eat the brick" recipe joke originate?

You've probably heard a variant of the joke that goes, "How do you cook [insert some animal that isn't known to be especially tasty, i.e. a seagull]? Follow this old Plimoth Plantation recipe: prepare a large cauldron, put in the seagull, boil for 24 hours, throw away the seagull, and eat the brick." Sure, it's a cheesy and lame joke, but I've heard way too many variants over the years. Where did it originate?
posted by Seeking Direction at 4:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Used Amazon Books - optimizing/discovering shipping

I would love to buy more used books on Amazon but I have problems with comparing shipping costs. Surely there's some better alternatives ? [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 4:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Queer Eye-type shows?

Are there any shows as good as the old Queer Eye for the Straight Guy and the new Netflix Queer Eye? Not just one makeover element like clothes or a straight-up makeover, but a team of people, each member with different skills, sort of making over the whole person and their psyche and their environment?
posted by zeek321 at 3:46 PM PST - 7 comments

How do you live that snowbird life?

It's snowing again today, and my partner and I are ready to never spend another winter in NYC. Talk to us MeFi: Are you living that snowbird lifestyle? How do you make it work? *Snowflake details inside* [more inside]
posted by juliaem at 3:41 PM PST - 7 comments

How to get out of an auto lease?

I leased a car last year. Now I'm moving overseas. What can I do to get out of the lease? [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 3:15 PM PST - 5 comments

The RSS feed of my podcasts are not working (Ithink?)

I run several podcasts, including Role Playing Public Radio and RPPR Actual Play. Lately, I have heard from many listeners that the RSS feeds are not updating correctly and I can't tell what is broken. Details below. [more inside]
posted by clockworkjoe at 3:04 PM PST - 3 comments

What was this children's history book?

I'm looking for a book I read around 1981. It was a children's history book told through stories of a fictionalised English family - the same family over several hundred years. One chapter described children being allowed to wear more comfortable clothes as a result of changes in fashion following the French Revolution. There was a fold-out family tree at the end of the book. My copy was a fairly thin hardback without a dustjacket, and I'm sure it was a British publisher. It was more of a fictionalised textbook than a children's novel.
posted by paduasoy at 2:47 PM PST - 2 comments

Quick PHP array question

Howdy. I will make this as succinct as I can: If I have an array in PHP, like $filenames = ['filename1','filename2','filename3',...] and another array, $indices = [0, 2, 6, 9, ...], is there a way, other than using a loop over the indices array, to create an array containing elements from filenames at the indices in $indices? You know, something like this: $result = [$filenames[$indices[0]], $filenames[$indices[1]], ...]. I'm prepared to use a for loop, but I thought that there must be a more elegant way. Thanks!
posted by Don_K at 2:42 PM PST - 8 comments

Please Help Me Find Some Sci-Fi

Fiction can't hold my attention post-Trump. I haven't read science fiction since middle school in the early 90's but perhaps if I read about the future, it will provide better commentary on the present than fiction that takes place in the present or past. Can I get some recommendations? [more inside]
posted by shushufindi at 1:43 PM PST - 32 comments

ISO: Main Birthday Gift for 1 year old

My baby will be turning 1 and I need a main gift for him (i.e. the "biggish" gift of something he will enjoy for at least a few months but longer is obviously better. Difficulty level: He has everything! [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 1:00 PM PST - 43 comments

Looking for a good resistor

What resistor value do I need to make a dummy load to check the battery charging circuit for my Sennheiser TR220 wireless headphones? A voltage of 9VDC exsists between the charging contacts on the base station with no load. The headphones have 2 new eneloop AAA batteries. I do not know if they are wired series or parallel. Everything else functions properly. Another question: If the headphones have to be replaced, could a bluetooth wireless dongle using the native W10 software match the Sennheiser base station in sound quality?
posted by Raybun at 12:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Make-ahead homemade treat?

An elderly couple from my church has requested company since the wife is on palliative care and not able to leave the house much. I'm trying to arrange a visit with them, but it's up in the air whether they are able to receive visitors on a day-to-day basis, depending on how her condition is. What is something I could have on hand to bring over, that could be made ahead or with a couple hours' notice? [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 12:42 PM PST - 17 comments

My AT&T Samsung Galaxy S7 Active doesn't get service in my apt. (Help?)

My phone stopped getting service in my apartment and I don't know what I should do. [more inside]
posted by fairlynearlyready at 12:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Daycare in Waterloo, ON

My partner and I are moving temporarily to Waterloo, Ontario and have been trying, with no success, to find a daycare for our 3-year-old. Is there anything that would help us actually accomplish this? [more inside]
posted by frimble at 12:06 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I create a visual poem text in a photograph in Adobe Illustrator?

I would like to write a visual concrete poem in an iceberg photo I found. I do not know how to make the text stay within the boundaries of the iceberg without sliding over it. Afterwards, I want to remove the iceberg photo once the poetry text is finished. I do not know much or how to create visual poetry and text wrapping as well. I am a novice with Adobe Illustrator.
posted by RearWindow at 11:12 AM PST - 7 comments

Should we buy this house? Foundation issue on slab

Buying an old house from the 50's. There's foundation issues. Is this just going to be how it is with old homes? [more inside]
posted by monologish at 11:05 AM PST - 22 comments

My two-year-old dog has started barking at random strangers

We have a two-year-old Cavoodle... a King Charles Spaniel/ toy poodle cross. She's very affectionate and eager to please, but has recently started barking at all sorts of strangers, for no apparent reason. How do we stop this behaviour? [more inside]
posted by MinPin at 10:45 AM PST - 5 comments

A week in Norway. What should we do?

My SO and I are going to Norway in June. We fly into Oslo on the 8th, have to be in Bergen by the 13th, leave Norway on the 15th for an overnight in Copenhagen, followed by two days in Reykjavik. Help us plan our trip a little. [more inside]
posted by Marinara at 10:37 AM PST - 7 comments

How to create a durable enclosed "safe place" for my preschooler at home

My preschooler needs a space at home where he can retreat when he's angry or upset so that he can calm down. I'm looking for recommendations for how to create a space like this in our home that will be durable enough not to be destroyed by tantrums or even just very active indoor play. [more inside]
posted by aabbbiee at 9:45 AM PST - 16 comments

What to expect after a collision in MA?

I live in Massachusetts and I was involved in a car accident a few weeks ago. I called my insurance the day-of to report it, and they acted in a way I didn't expect. I moved here from New Jersey, and I'm confused; how does insurance work in Massachusetts after a collision? [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 9:33 AM PST - 10 comments

Where can I see taxidermy or animal models in MD or DC?

This is for an art project. I need to look at taxidermy specimens or life-like models of animals. A museum is fine -- I don't need to touch them or be super up close. In NYC, the Natural History Museum would be perfect, but I am in the Maryland/DC area. I know about the Smithsonian Natural History museum. Where else should I go?
posted by OrangeDisk at 9:29 AM PST - 10 comments

Married co-owners of LLC getting conflicting advice on income tax issue

I have two accountants, and they are disagreeing with each other on a tax question related to a business venture. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 8:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Accessible & active vacations must exist?

Seeking vacation ideas that are active, engaging, and wheelchair-accessible. Bonus points for trips within driving distance from the Pacific Northwest. [more inside]
posted by mosst at 8:11 AM PST - 6 comments

Sites on a Win 10 tablet that should be responsive aren't

I recently purchased a 10" Windows 10 tablet. It works well for most things but for whatever reason many websites I visit in Chrome or Edge or Firefox have a scroll bar at the bottom and require me to scroll left and right to see the entire page. Some sites work fine, like Metafilter's front page (it renders nicely without a horizontal scrollbar but this question submission page isn't fitting properly either) but Google requires scrolling back and forth just to see the full search bar. What the? [more inside]
posted by dozo at 7:34 AM PST - 2 comments

Would a portable speaker work well enough for a roadtrip?

I just found out that the six-hour work road trip I'll be taking tomorrow will be in an older car that doesn't have bluetooth, and I'm not sure it will have an AUX port. (It reportedly has a CD player but no tape deck.) Is it possible to buy a speaker that would work well enough to be listenable during a work roadtrip? [more inside]
posted by theefixedstars at 6:50 AM PST - 20 comments

Best way to list former duties on a job application?

Wondering what HR people prefer: I'm helping someone fill out a job application. We need to summarize the primary duties from previous jobs. Should we just copy that from the official statement of duties provided by those jobs? Or rewrite them to be... more personable or something? What style of citation do we use? [more inside]
posted by Baethan at 6:12 AM PST - 8 comments

Suggestions for a short stay around Crozet, VA

We're looking for suggestions for things to do around the southern end of Shenandoah National Park and the northern entrance of the Blue Ridge Parkway. We're staying for a long wknd in Crozet, VA - and interested in cool little towns, unique historic spots, dog-friendly hikes/walks, and good spots to eat/drink beer. [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 5:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Where in the world should I buy my new phone?

My current phone (HTC one m8) seems to be on its last legs, and so I'm in the market for a new one. I'm in a number of cities over the next couple months, and I don't know which would be best to buy in! [more inside]
posted by hasna at 5:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Strong Lifts Training Fatigue

I've been playing/training for Roller Derby for 4.5 years, a couple of weeks ago I started Strong Lifts 3x a week and I'm finding a tire more quickly at Roller Derby practice the day after. Is this something that will get better on its own or is there something I should be doing to speed recovery? [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 3:43 AM PST - 7 comments

What the heck is this 1990s alt-rock song?

Back in the mid-90s I recorded (via VHS) a fragment of a music video from the LA TV show Are-Oh-Vee. I've been haunted by the song ever since, I get it stuck in my head about once a week, but all I have is that one fragment and I missed the name of the band and the song. [more inside]
posted by Ursula Hitler at 2:43 AM PST - 3 comments

March 20

Is there any point in gumming up FB with bad data?

Years ago, I recall this being a "thing" but having trouble finding anything clear on it currently. Maybe before leaving, or maybe in order to stay. Is there any utility to adding garbage info, or is it just a total waste of time? [more inside]
posted by Gotanda at 11:59 PM PST - 12 comments

Workplace Woes, part 3: Crisis in Exile

I'm having uncomfortable allergic reactions when in my primary workspace. I have been provided an alternate workspace where I spend 95% of my time, but it presents difficult psychological conditions. The associated stress is impacting my quality of life. [more inside]
posted by itesser at 11:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me be fascinated by freight trains

On my bike commute I have to cross 16 freight train tracks south of downtown Seattle. About 10% of the time, there are trains with coming through and I can't stand feeling like I'm wasting time. Today I was kicking myself for not having left 20 seconds sooner, so I could beat the slow-ass trains that always seem to stop and change directions just when you think they are going to clear the crossing. [more inside]
posted by oxisos at 10:10 PM PST - 13 comments

What is this song?

It's been driving me crazy. I think it's from a video game, but I just cannot place it. PLEASE HELP. You can hear it here. (Played on keyboard, not the original song on anything.)
posted by visual mechanic at 10:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Seder help

I'm cooking for seder this year. It's also the first time I'm ever cooking for the in-laws. Side and dessert help needed! Includes bonus question about sobriety and Manischewitz. [more inside]
posted by Ruki at 6:41 PM PST - 38 comments

Help me fight the Northern Fleet in a wargame :)

Given my recent interest in Cold War-era technothrillers, I'm also interested in games that depict conflicts in the period. One is Northern Fleet, a simulation of a hypothetical war in 1996. The catch is that this map is required for play, and not available in a screen-reader accessible format. It seems to have a bunch of grid squares, but they're apparently laid out in a somewhat unconventional way. How can I get the information I need from this in order to plan effective strategies? [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 6:15 PM PST - 25 comments

I've lost all my patience with Windows notworking.

Can anyone tell me why the hell a Windows workgroup just stops working. machines vanish off of the network, and are unreachable via network browsing when no one has even touched them. (All the machines involved are in my house). I'm at my wits end. [more inside]
posted by pjern at 6:06 PM PST - 14 comments

Faring well in the Faroe Islands

Metafilter! Have you been to the Faroe Islands? Do you live in the Faroe Islands? Help me plan my trip for this July! [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 5:17 PM PST - 10 comments

How can I put on a pleasant face at work?

I feel like I'm developing a reputation for crabbiness at work. I'd like to change that. Thing is, I'm genuinely pretty crabby because I feel like I'm not being supported or used efficiently. Given that there's nothing I can do about that, how can I at least stop letting it show? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 4:38 PM PST - 23 comments

How do I professionally decline an opportunity at my current workplace?

My lead approached me today, very casually, and asked me how I felt about shifting from my current role and taking on more on responsibility in order to eventually (and potentially) advance into a higher-paying position at the company. Nothing about this appeals to me and I'd like to decline. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by hexenkunst at 4:22 PM PST - 13 comments

Rectangles just taste better

One of my few bits of brand loyalty I've retained from my childhood is to Pride of Szeged paprika in the red rectangular tin. In the Midwest in the 90s it was — so my parents claimed — the only kind worth cooking with, and I've kept that prejudice. But American grocery store spices are a lot better in general than I grew up with, at least in diverse coastal cities like the one where I now live. Is Pride of Szeged still the best you can get without going to a specialty retailer, or has the other stuff on the grocery store shelf gotten just as good and I'm making a stink over nothing?
posted by nebulawindphone at 4:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Advice for working with children?

I will soon be working in elementary schools. I have very little experience with children in this age range. Please advise? [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 3:43 PM PST - 12 comments

Beautiful cabin or cabin-motel outside of Bay Area

Do you have a favorite motel in the Sierras? [more inside]
posted by artdrectr at 3:07 PM PST - 7 comments

What to do about this plane reservation mistake?

I *just* noticed that for a plane trip tomorrow (US, domestic), I made a mistake on Kid BlahLaLa's reservation. Correct first & last name, wrong middle name. (I don't know how the hell I did this, but I accidentally gave him his dad's middle name. Dad isn't traveling with us.) How big a deal is this, given that we are traveling together, and in theory Kid doesn't need to show any ID. He's 14. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:06 PM PST - 23 comments

Vet Fiction That Isn't James Herriot, But For Real Now

Inspired by EmpressCallipygos' question below and its tragic resolution: once you've read all of James Herriot, what are the other great books about veterinary medicine? (Fiction completely welcome.)
posted by peppercorn at 12:13 PM PST - 12 comments

What is this thing? (Rock edition)

I have an interesting rock/artifact/thing that I found in a creek in a state park in upstate New York in the early 1980s. What is it? [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 11:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me convince the utility company my gas meter is broken

We got an insane utility bill today that I am positive cannot be correct. Help me convince the utility company there is a problem. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 11:19 AM PST - 16 comments

Looking for tinted lip balm that's not shimmery.

I just want a bit of color, without shimmer. I've been duped before - sample swatches and packaging that looks like it shouldn't be shimmery, but as soon as I open the package the actual lip balm is. Do you have recommendations? I'm looking for drugstore brands, but if you have a favorite from a fancier brand, I'll take a look at it too. Oh, also, I don't want lip balm you have to touch with your fingers to use.
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 11:07 AM PST - 24 comments

Erratic bi-pin halogen lamps

We have kitchen shelving with these lamps built into the underside of them. They take halogen bulbs with two little pins. The problem is that the contact between the pins and the inside of the two-pin socket is terrible--some only work if you move the bulb around with your finger, and then stop working if you release that pressure. Is there any fix for this, short of replacing the lamps? [more inside]
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Baking with Kefir-- Advice for novice cook?

So I'm not a pro in the kitchen, but I've recently started baking with kefir, and love the results, but I haven't figured out fermenting dough with kefir yet. I'd greatly appreciate any advice from someone more knowledgeable about bread making. Is it possible to ferment dough with ALL of the ingredients in, or should sprouted (pre-fermented) flour be used for this? [more inside]
posted by dancer4life at 10:22 AM PST - 11 comments

BookFilter: On Beyond James Herriott

Seeking the title of a book about a north English country vet I read once upon a time, who is not James Herriott. The few details I can remember are inside. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 10:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Ideas for a tropical explora-vacation

For some time, I have been thinking I would like to go on a tropical/semi-tropical vacation. But I don't think a typical resort-holiday would be what I would like - and I know my husband would hate it (or so he says). So I'm here to pick brains about possible other, interesting but still affordable options - especially if there is a specific place you have been, or company/package you could recommend. [more inside]
posted by jb at 10:18 AM PST - 13 comments

Rock-a-bye little one

We found out on this valentine's day that we got a wee little guy on the way (yay and omg) and since finding out I've had this growing urge to sing a lot to him/her (!even dug out the guitar) – which is cool and a little surprising and ...I've found that i really don't know many remotely lullaby-ey or baby-soothing songs...so this is where you guys could help? any ideas? [more inside]
posted by speakeasy at 9:47 AM PST - 35 comments

Help me find a childhood book

I'm looking for a book I had as a child (1970/80s). It was a color illustrated children's book that showed the history of an English town from prehistoric to "modern" (1970s?) time. Each page had a scene showing the state of the town from prehistoric settlement to Roman town to medieval city, etc through to modern city. I have vague memories of the title being "Story of a town" or "Life of a town" but my Google-fo has failed me.
posted by jamtur01 at 8:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Lunch at mid-day is inconvenient. Do you have a work around?

Often, I delay going out to run errands till after lunch because I don't want to have to grab a lunch from a fast food joint. This is terribly inconvenient. The fix would be to pack a lunch and eat in the car or perhaps eat two small meals before and after the errand run. A packed lunch isn't very appealing and two small meals isn't as appetizing as a substantial meal. Do you have some work around that I'm missing?
posted by Coffeetyme at 8:48 AM PST - 14 comments

New to swimming for exercise: Your tips?

I've recently started swimming for exercise, with the primary goal of generally improved fitness. It has the secondary benefit of elongating everything, which feels nice after I've been sitting for awhile (I go during lunchtime). What general advice can you offer? This can be examples of developing specific goals, practical tips, resources for workout planning, etc. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 8:11 AM PST - 22 comments

Keeping acne under control after going off the pill

I'm going off the birth control after many years of being on it and having pretty good skin (not perfect, but I'm happy with it). The only time my acne has come back was during my pregnancy when it looked pretty bad. If you went off the pill and anticipated that your acne would come back, did you start using any products right away or did you wait for it to appear again? Did you use the previous products or did you need to try something new?
posted by trillian at 8:10 AM PST - 6 comments

Best presentation software for a PDF?

We've finally started building presentation decks in InDesign and presenting them as PDFs. The slides look waaaaaaaaay better—but everyone really misses PowerPoint's presenter mode. [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 7:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Beanplating bean jars

In the North Carolina mountains, we put a bean in a jar for every August fog and use the bean count to forecast the next winter's snows. We also race hundreds of fuzzy caterpillars at the Woolly Worm festival each year and forecast the coming winter's severity based on the fuzziness and blackness of the fastest caterpillar. I'm not sure if we are unusually silly around here or if there are gleefully non-scientific forecasting methods everywhere. Is there a local folk weather forecasting tradition where you live?
posted by xylothek at 7:07 AM PST - 22 comments

Stories to read aloud to your sweetheart

I've recently taken up recording myself reading short stories for my long-distance sweetie. We're both well-read and adventurous sorts, but I'd love recommendations of individual short stories that she might like to hear. [more inside]
posted by libraritarian at 6:47 AM PST - 14 comments

DWQA plugin for WordPress: how to approve an anonymous question

Mom-type here, trying to admin a WP website: it's set up with manual approval required for anonymous questions (that box in settings is checked). The new question comes to my email, but what is the process I go through to approve it? The "pending questions" shows zero; it doesn't work for me to click "submit"; "edit" is irrelevant. What am I missing?
posted by mmiddle at 6:35 AM PST - 2 comments

Change my Outlook: Creating Forms in the Body of Email Messages

Outlook 2016: Is it possible to add form fields to the body of an email and restrict editing to filling in forms? For example, in Word I can create a document that contains check boxes, fillable forms fields, combo boxes, etc. that can only be completed and not edited? This would be for documents that are sent outside of my organization. [more inside]
posted by Draccy at 6:18 AM PST - 2 comments

Car design flaw

What is the most effective way of reporting a dangerous flaw in a car's design? (UK) [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 2:53 AM PST - 6 comments

March 19

Help me prank my honey!

Mr. Confusion and I are coming up on our first wedding anniversary, and I need some help in coming up with a way to prank him appropriately. We had the good sense to get married on April 1, so this will be an annual problem, but I need some help getting the ball rolling. What would be a good way to prank him lovingly? Bonus if it involves the traditional wedding anniversary gift nonsense—for the first year of marriage, it's supposed to be paper.
posted by pleasant_confusion at 10:03 PM PST - 28 comments

Studies about pricey eggs

I am looking for scientific data on the health effects of eating eggs, specifically studies that use eggs with elevated levels of Omega 3 fatty acids. Has such a study been done?
posted by bq at 9:59 PM PST - 1 comment

Light PC Gaming Headphones?

I am looking for a decent quality set of headphones for PC Gaming and YouTube ranging from $130 - $210. I am looking for light headphones without added pressure because I find tight headphones cause headaches and discomfort. I live in Canada. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 9:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Infestations and human evolution: lice vs. warts

From my layperson's skim of the literature, it seems pretty clear that warts and lice have been around a long time and have evolved along with their human hosts. But I can't even begin to discern where they sit in relation to each other on a timeline. In the long history of humanity, which came first: warts (or let's just say skin viruses) or lice (or let's just say parasitic insects)?
posted by Morpeth at 8:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Semana Santa in Sayulita

Soooo-we are heading to Sayulita, near Puerto Vallarta, Saturday for a week for Spring Break. We knew we’d be there during Semana Santa (Easter week) when we booked, but I don’t think we realized how perhaps bad of an idea this might be. And now I’m seeing online posts that indicate we are doomed to be stricken by norovirus and soaked in sewage for the week. Help! [more inside]
posted by purenitrous at 7:37 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for the name of an out of business shop in Portland, ME.

I'm asking for a friend. Apparently it was named partly after Wallis Simpson. It was called Wallis Something, and I guess they had a blog my friend followed.
posted by jwhite1979 at 7:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Length (and where to source) laces for vintage knee-high 17-hole boots?

Cleaning out my closet after many years of thrifting, I discovered a handsome pair of 1920s-era knee-high leather boots--but unfortunately without laces. I am a short lady, so "knee height" is 14" from the sole to top of the boot. The boots have 4 eyelets and 13 hooks, so 17 holes total. What is the proper length of a boot lace to tie these boots, and where can I purchase a pair, ideally in black leather to match the boots? I searched the interwebs, but all the charts I found stopped a few holes shy of 17.
posted by Scram at 7:25 PM PST - 7 comments

What's in the cancer research pipeline?

What are some potential cancer therapies that look scientifically promising, but are not (yet) sufficiently studied / approved / standard? What treatments look like they have a good chance of becoming part of standard medical practice in the near future, but aren't quite there yet? [more inside]
posted by zeri at 6:34 PM PST - 11 comments

Spider ID

What is this spider? We've mostly convinced ourselves that it's not a northern black widow, but we might sleep better with a positive ID. [more inside]
posted by Salvor Hardin at 6:32 PM PST - 21 comments

Should I refuse to give the news about layoffs to my staff?

OK, I lead a very small group in a very big company. I was told last week that most of my group will be laid off (not me.) We are tight - we've worked together in a very different way than the rest of the company, and it is going to be brutal. I honestly believe the layoffs are unfair, but they are what they are. Moreover, the HR person won't let me inform people (either individually or as a group) in any way but the most legalese, robotic form. I'm not even allowed to answer questions, I have to defer them to the HR person. I guess I understand that, but it isn't my style. I could do it, of course, but.. I've been given the choice. Either I can do the layoffs myself with the HR person present, sticking to the script - or I can have my boss, who decided on the layoffs, do it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:21 PM PST - 28 comments

Predicting how long a movie will run

Help me guess: will Annihilation still be playing in or near San Diego on the 9th of April? (Ideally in IMAX, but regular would be fine if not.)
posted by kalapierson at 5:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Primary care recs near Blacksburg, VA

I suddenly have to find a new primary care provider, and in this area it's very hard to find a good one at all, much less one that's taking new patients. I'm seeking recommendations. Tl;dr: Man or woman is fine, PA or FNP is fine but osteopath is not, must take Medicare, must be within an hour of Blacksburg, VA (preferably closer). [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 4:30 PM PST - 3 comments

How to clean luxury vinyl plank flooring?

I would like to clean my new floors. However, the internet is full of people saying that anything you clean luxury vinyl plank (hot water, cleaning products) with will ruin them forever, and I have experienced difficulty in cleaning them the way I have traditionally cleaned floors in the past. Please help. [more inside]
posted by corb at 3:34 PM PST - 8 comments

What is the science behind the fact that I can't SodaStream my lemonade?

Why can't I have carbonated lemonade on demand? [more inside]
posted by mccxxiii at 2:50 PM PST - 22 comments

In search of a family vacation from NH

Selecting a vacation destination shouldn't be this hard! Can you help? [more inside]
posted by libraryhead at 2:32 PM PST - 15 comments

Do collars and cuffs that don’t match the shirt look dated or weird?

My favorite casual button-down shirt has frayed at the cuffs and collar. I am confident I can replace them, but I definitely can’t match the plaid. Is a solid collar and cuff in a plaid shirt dated or weird looking? It looks OK to me but I’m not to be trusted in these matters.
posted by blnkfrnk at 2:06 PM PST - 15 comments

Aching feet

My feet and lower legs often/always feel quite achy -- it's not especially severe, but it's noticeable. It feels a bit like my feet are swollen, maybe, and like my ankles/calves need stretching? A foot massage helps a lot (especially while the massage is happening), but I'm wondering if there are other things that I can do to prevent/help this achiness. (Compression socks? Elevating my feet? Soaking them? Drinking more water?) [more inside]
posted by cider at 1:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Seeking headhunter and/or career counselor in the Boston area

I am getting back into the job market after being self-employed for the last 10 years. My career path has been unorthodox -- mostly in the software industry (as a manager, not programmer), with some stints in non-profit/advocacy. I need help getting back into the regular working world. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 12:33 PM PST - 1 comment

What pralines are like Lidl's easter ones?

At this time of year, Lidl has milk chocolate eggs which are filled with hazelnut or almond praline, which I love. I'd like to find similar that I can get year round (in the UK). [more inside]
posted by Vortisaur at 12:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me obtain a discontinued item

I need a discontinued wood thing. A few of them. They’d be easy to make, but not by me. So how do I obtain them? [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 12:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Alternatives to sleep study (sleep techs - can you advise?)

Following up on this post. A proper in-lab sleep study will cost thousands. Are there alternatives to rule in or rule out certain conditions? Snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by falcon42 at 11:58 AM PST - 11 comments

This is doomed, yes?

I'm ostensibly "dating" someone "casually," but where is the freakin sex??? [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 11:42 AM PST - 46 comments

How Rude is Using Self-Checkout Machines Twice?

I hate to put other people out by disrupting the smooth functioning of shared systems, particularly in ways that come across as selfish/self-absorbed. I'm curious about etiquette surrounding the use of self-service kiosks at places like department stores or groceries; Specifically, is it commonly seen as rude to make two separate transactions in one go? [more inside]
posted by credible hulk at 11:31 AM PST - 55 comments

Is my boyfriend a people pleaser ? And what should I do about it ?

I start constantly getting pissed off of my boyfriend's behavior/attitude towards his friends/acquaintances/strangers. Because I think he's wasting his time and energy to people just want to use him. [more inside]
posted by dadaxiang1204 at 11:28 AM PST - 11 comments

Free/Cheap Classical Music Performances in Washington DC

I'm going to be in Washington DC between Thursday 3/22 and Sunday 3/25. Usually I just buy a ticket to the opera or the symphony when I'm visiting another city, but this time I'd like to keep to a tighter budget. Can you good folks point me towards resources where I can find out about cheap or free classical performances? I especially love chamber music.
posted by matildaben at 11:20 AM PST - 7 comments

Books on the history of distillation

Can you recommend any good books, written for the lay person, on the history of the distillation of alcoholic spirits? Thank you so much!
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 11:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Where is this call from?

Got a call, did a reverse phone look up which said it is a non fixed VOIP number, but originally a Verizon number. I called the number back and got a tone, followed by a computerized voice saying, "Welcome, enter the meeting number followed by the # key." Does anyone recognize that prompt? Who would use this type of system to get in touch with me?
posted by blackzinfandel at 11:02 AM PST - 6 comments

Registering (and titling?) my car in Maryland

I have a 2006 Ford Fusion that I own outright. I moved to Maryland from New Jersey a while ago. Insurance company sent me a letter saying I had to register my car in MD. How do I do this and how much is it going to cost me? I'm finding the MD MVA site to be very confusing. Please assume I do not know anything about how this works because I don't. [more inside]
posted by runcibleshaw at 10:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Did you skip a grade in elementary school? Did it ruin/save your life?

My friends have a six year old daughter, in kindergarten right now, whose teacher has recommended that she skip first grade and go directly to second. My friend has not made a decision yet, and she's looking for testimony from adults who skipped a grade as children. Was it a net positive or negative in your life? How did your parents explain it to you? More inside. [more inside]
posted by missrachael at 10:57 AM PST - 57 comments

Santa needs to know what to give to whom

A month ago I sewed a set of four extra large Christmas stockings. Now I want to make name tags for the stockings. Could someone tell me how to do this in Word? [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 10:57 AM PST - 3 comments

Picture of a cake that says "MetaFilter" in icing on it

For a future post am constructing (yes, it's about cake, no big surprise) is there a picture anywhere online of a cake that says "MetaFilter" on it? Various google searches have turned up nothing (or rather, a heck of a lot of other cakes but not the one I want/need).
posted by Wordshore at 10:48 AM PST - 5 comments

Professional development for basic website maintenance

I work in an administrative office and would like to provide suggestions for one of my colleagues who has recently taken over the maintenance of our Wordpress website. We're not a web development shop and our needs are minimal with a primary focus on day-to-day content updates. How do I best support my colleague in learning this new skill set? [more inside]
posted by ElKevbo at 10:40 AM PST - 3 comments

quotaion famous artist or composer his work continuing next life

I’m trying to remember a quotation by a famous artist or composer. He was dying and his friend asked if he was disappointed that his art or music was over and he answered that his work will only be beginning, or something like that.
posted by mcbeitz at 10:33 AM PST - 0 comments

Polarity of Blackstar Fly 3W PSU?

Does anyone know the polarity of the power supply plug for a Blackstar Fly 3W miniamp? It should produce 1.5A and 6.5V. [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 10:30 AM PST - 6 comments

It's a bird, it's a plane, it's...

I'm attend an event that is both super hero themed and bicycle themed. Who should I go as?
posted by brookeb at 10:29 AM PST - 25 comments

Recommendations for Long, Engrossing Books

I like to read before bed and I've been hankering for book recommendations for books that are either fairly long or part of a series. I like getting engrossed in a good story, and I also just like not having to pick out what I'm going to read next for a while. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 9:32 AM PST - 68 comments

What to do with the tulip bulbs?

I am in central Minnesota and I didn't plant the tulip bulbs we bought last fall. Snow is due tomorrow, but it will be above 40 for the rest of the week. Should I keep the bulbs in a paper bag in the fridge until next fall? Is there anything likely to work for this year, like putting them in the freezer for x weeks before planting? [more inside]
posted by soelo at 8:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Private chat system for 2 writers

My partner and I communicate over chat a lot, and often do a lot of character or world building or plotting. We like to save these chat conversations to a Google doc for reference later. Our current chat system is lacking--suggestions needed! [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 8:38 AM PST - 14 comments

Strategies for listening to long insufferable speech?

I am obliged for reasons to attend a talk that will be unpleasant. How do I pass the time? [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 8:38 AM PST - 32 comments

What baby gear am I forgetting? Tips for second kid?

Kid #2 is arriving in the next month. What do you wish you had known? What gear am I forgetting we need? Tips on cloth diapering? What prep are we forgetting? I have lots of questions. [more inside]
posted by john_snow at 8:36 AM PST - 28 comments

Strategies for working with hostile learners

How do you deal with adult learners who resent being told what to do? [more inside]
posted by pipeski at 8:27 AM PST - 16 comments

Billing and Time-Tracking Software for Freelancers

I’m a freelance writer/designer, and I need software to help me with my billing. I’ve tried looking up program reviews, but I’m overwhelmed by the options, the pros and cons, the good reviews and bad. Can you help? (Specific criteria within.) [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 8:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Motivational Interviewing on Myself

I was recently introduced to motivational interviewing (MI). It looks awesome. I would like to do something like that on myself--like a daily journal that goes through MI-type questions to use at the beginning of the day in order to explore goals, feelings about them, strategies for achieving them, etc. Are there any scripts that I could use on myself? Better yet, journals that provide these questions in a pre-printed format? Any therapists familiar with MI who could help? [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 8:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Congrats! Now what?

I, a gainfully employed person, just completed my bachelor's degree. What now? When I google all I get is advice for finding a job. I am more looking for new goals or things I can work towards. Looking for anything from small, (get a CPR certificate) to big (get a SCUBA diving certificate). [more inside]
posted by MadMadam at 7:47 AM PST - 14 comments

Anxiety AFTER cancer diagnosis - helping my pops cope...

My dad has NEW symptoms AFTER a cancer diagnosis that seem more likely to be attributable to anxiety and / or depression than his disease. How can we, as his family and support system, help mitigate these symptoms so that his mental health doesn't get to a point where it affects his physical health and his future treatment efforts? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 7:31 AM PST - 9 comments

Building a simple static web page

I want to make a simple personal home page. I have a domain and a host. I know a bit about HTML, CSS, and JavaScript. How can I make this easier? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 7:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Where Do Flowers Come From?

I live in a Zone 5b region. I rent and would like to pretty-up my crap yard a bit. [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser at 7:10 AM PST - 12 comments

I don't know how to clean these newfangled tubs.

I need cleaning recommendations for a fiberglass tub with glass doors. No elbow grease preferred. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 6:05 AM PST - 14 comments

Supporting friend during a "reset" stay away from abusive relationship

My friend from this question and her partner are planning a "break" due to the already abusive situation escalating over recent months. My friend's partner suggested my friend move out for a few days to "reset" and she has asked to stay with me for this time. I'm keenly hoping this will spell the beginning of the end. How can I best support her, without becoming an unofficial therapist? [more inside]
posted by doornoise at 5:37 AM PST - 14 comments

A way for an Android program to speak Arabic?

Arabic doesn't seem to be among the languages supported by Android's TTS software (unless I'm mistaken). Is there a third-party library that would let a Java Android program speak out loud in Arabic? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 4:46 AM PST - 0 comments

I'm not able to internally manipulate feelings, what's it called?

I'm trying to find a name for my experience with emotions. [more inside]
posted by Violet Hour at 3:05 AM PST - 60 comments

Should I buy an electric mosquito swatter/racket?

Will I electrocute myself and how do you clean dead insect parts trapped in between the meshes? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 2:27 AM PST - 17 comments

How can an adult learn to play or be playful?

Say you're an adult with a more or less happy, fulfilling life, but as a result of some adverse childhood stuff, you didn't really learn to be playful, and you find anything that involves being silly and frivolous pretty terrifying. What are some baby-step-type ways you could ease into incorporating play into your life?
posted by anonymous at 12:03 AM PST - 30 comments

Fiction and memoir about reconstructing childhood

This was me. Help me find fiction to help me move forward. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:03 AM PST - 3 comments

My relationship with the internet is ruining my life

I know that sounds dramatic, but I have a years-long history of missing things I want to do because I can't pry myself away from the internet. This feels like an actual addiction, but it's not feasible to just go cold turkey. I have tried just about everything to control it on my own, but nothing works. What's the next step? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:03 AM PST - 21 comments

March 18

Transferring money from Japan to the U.S.

Complications: expired residence card and short timeline. [more inside]
posted by automatic cabinet at 11:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Subtle, ambient movie soundtracks

I like working while listening to movie soundtracks - specifically ones that don't have words and are more like evocative sound-washes than clear melodies. What soundtracks should I be listening to? Sci fi and moody are my jam.
posted by egeanin at 9:25 PM PST - 35 comments

Boxer shorts for a little man

Looking for 100% cotton boxer shorts for a kid, aged 4. They should be shorts , not boxer-briefs - want them to be airy and loose around his, um, junk, even if they bunch up under his pants. Ideally purchased in Canada (in a store or online), but could do US too. The ones I have seen online (Old Navy, Wal Mart, Hanes brand) still seem fitted. Any suggestions? Thanks!
posted by leslievictoria at 8:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Who Can I Rely On To Verify/Sell Celebrity Autographs?

I have Show Cards from Harrah's in Reno from 1977-1984 that were marked "Please Autograph" and were autographed by the stars and mailed to my grandmother. How do I find if they are worth selling to collectors? [more inside]
posted by ITravelMontana at 7:23 PM PST - 1 comment

History of maternal care and childbirth in the U.S.

I'm looking for books about the history of maternal care and childbirth in the United States. How did invasive medical interventions become routine procedure? What precipitated the shift (at least in California, and then only in some hospitals) away from unnecessary medical intervention? How are these dynamics connected to views of religion, feminism, economics, etc? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 6:57 PM PST - 11 comments

Not necessarily UNscented, but not noticeably scented hair products

Can you recommend to me good-quality hair products (most crucially shampoo and conditioner) that are either unscented or very, very lightly scented? The Free & Clear range is horrible on my hair. I'm currently using SoapBox Argan Oil shampoo and conditioner, which is fantastic (especially for the price!) and I would stay with it forever except for the strong smell. This question is almost hilariously impossible to Google!
posted by HotToddy at 5:39 PM PST - 25 comments

What replacement for my Droid 4 would meet my requirements?

I hope you can help me figure out how to upgrade my phone, but also keep my sanity. I run LineageOS and I finally need a hardware upgrade. [more inside]
posted by fritley at 5:25 PM PST - 7 comments

What to do with ancient uncashed checks?

I was going through some boxes recently and to my surprise found an unopened piece of mail with a check for several hundred dollars inside. The check was issued way back in 2006. [more inside]
posted by Transl3y at 4:12 PM PST - 12 comments

Help us plan a long weekend in Philly

Hello! We're in the early stages of planning a long weekend in Philly. First time for both of us, and we'd like some insight on where to stay in the city. [more inside]
posted by cozenedindigo at 4:02 PM PST - 7 comments

POC female fronted rock & punk

Please recommend non-white, Indie and/or Post Rock and/or Punk female fronted bands. [more inside]
posted by signal at 2:48 PM PST - 44 comments

Simple but robust budgeting app

I need to make and monitor a budget on my android phone. What are the best apps or systems for this these days? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 1:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Translate this (Hungarian?) shirt into English

I recently got this shirt at a thrift store. The front says ÉN ITT HUN VAGYOK, and the back says HÁT TE HUN VAGY. Can you translate this into English for me? [more inside]
posted by 23skidoo at 1:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Staying on task during funemployment

I recently and voluntarily left my job as a software developer and will be taking the summer off to enjoy life without labor. For me, that involves some amount of video games, but I worry that I won't be able resist the temptation to play games all the time. [more inside]
posted by lalunamel at 1:11 PM PST - 11 comments

How much is my photo worth?

I have been asked via Instagram DM if I would be willing to "sell the rights" of one of my photos. I don't want to give up the rights to the photo to use as I see fit in the future, including being able to sell the ability for someone else to use it. Suggestions on pricing for this type of request? This is the shot.
posted by ms_rasclark at 12:53 PM PST - 13 comments

Running a Windows + Linux Development Workstation

I'd like to switch my workstation from Windows to Linux. However, some my workflow can only be done on Windows. Help me figure out how best to do this conversion in a way that's convenient and lets me share my work directories with good performance. [more inside]
posted by serathen at 12:39 PM PST - 9 comments

Real estate question on 10 or 15% down mortgages in California

Looking for advice on mortgages in the San Francisco Area. I wonder if anyone has experience with 10 or 15% down mortgages and if you have, can recommend any lenders? [more inside]
posted by specialk420 at 12:03 PM PST - 0 comments

Copyright, Fair Use and (Rare, Obscure) Music Blogging

There are many music blogs that provide educational information about rare & obscure music and vinyl records. They may also link to a single example song on a website like Soundcloud or box.com. What legal obstacles have blogs like this faced, or are currently facing? Is there a way to run a music blog like this and mostly avoid copyright issues? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 12:02 PM PST - 3 comments

Figuring out a possible bio-dad - which DNA test?

I'd like to find out if I have a different biological father. My mother is estranged, my father is dead but I think I can get one of my (full/half?) siblings to agree to do a DNA test as well. I know my mother had an affair at the time I was conceived, and I have a possible name. This would be for 95% European-Australasia ancestry. 23andme, Ancestry...?
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 11:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me with a protest sign

This Saturday, I will take part in a local March for Our Lives protest supporting gun control. I have no ideas for a catchy sign. Do you?
posted by maurreen at 11:09 AM PST - 18 comments

Site Data Management Software for NonProfits...Tracking Impact

I've searched here in AskMe and online, and there are a LOT of discussions about software used by non-profits, however, most of what comes up is related to CRM and donor-side tracking, or grant seeking. I'm looking for the holy grail of tracking site management data that changes over time. In the Cloud. Help? [more inside]
posted by jeanmari at 10:46 AM PST - 6 comments

On the hunt for a wireless projector!

I’m looking for a decent projector that can connect (via WiFi? That’s a thing, right?) to an iPad and older MacBook Pro with no HDMI port. The projector will be about 10 feet away from the wall (which is 6 feet wide) and be bright enough to see during the day. I’m in the US and would prefer to buy it on Amazon if possible. Recommendations or guidelines to chose one would be appreciated!
posted by ananci at 10:40 AM PST - 3 comments

Best affordable car-less, single US vacations

I want to take a vacation this summer. I want to go somewhere in the US, I am unable to drive and I'll be alone. [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 10:05 AM PST - 28 comments

Will I be taxed as a US resident alien on a $40K cash gift from the UK?

I am a resident alien in the US and have a relative in the UK who wishes to gift me $40K cash. If I transfer this sum in one go, will I be taxed on it? I can't find a clear answer on the IRS site or elsewhere, and I'd hate to move it over here and lose a large chunk come tax time.
posted by my log does not judge at 9:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Quality kids (superhero, comic book, animal) sheets for king size bed

I have a king-sized bed and I can't get quality sheets with animals, comics or superheros on them (e.g. Pottery Barn Kids sharks, Star Wars, Superheros, etc.). The only fun sheets available in king are made out of polyester or similarly flimsy. Any suggestions on where to find quality fun sheets?
posted by arnicae at 9:08 AM PST - 10 comments

How to get a copy of a sealed court record

Several years ago, I filed a domestic violence report and received a restraining order against my soon to be ex husband. I think I changed my mind at the end about pressing charges. I tried obtaining a copy of the report and order at the same police department last year but was told that it was sealed. [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 8:38 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I set up outlook to receive yahoo mail?

I've never used outlook before and when I click on it I am lost. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 7:56 AM PST - 2 comments

when I am in this wedding, I shall wear purple

I am a groomsperson in a summer (Pacific Northwest) wedding. I have been instructed to wear purple. Does anyone have a good source for purple blazers? [more inside]
posted by yarntheory at 7:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Should I Get A Cost Of Living Raise?

I am at the upper end of what my position pays. I would like to ask for a 2 or 3% cost of living raise. Is this a "thing?" Is there a way to calculate what a cost of living raise should be?
posted by kbbbo at 6:34 AM PST - 7 comments

Jeckyll Island or Daytona Beach with a toddler

We have a choice between Jeckyll Island and Daytona Beach for a long weekend mini vacation. Which do you think will be less hassle with a toddler? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 5:15 AM PST - 7 comments

S. Carolina in the Fall

Planning to visit our aunt in S. Carolina (Hilton Head Island) in the Fall (2018) with my little sister and BIL, flying in from the West coast (of Canada). Any events going on in the area around that time that we could piggyback the trip? To take our elderly aunt with? Suggestions on interesting visits in that area? [more inside]
posted by porpoise at 3:23 AM PST - 2 comments

March 17

Being Your Own Doctor - From Diagnosis to Surgery - Resources Needed

So, someone is living on a deserted island, far in the jundgle, manned with everything they need to set up a small clinic - from microscope to morphine. They would like books and resources on how to diagnose and perform simple procedures that require one set of steady hands, how to do microscopic analysis and much more. Think Albert Schweitzer but with 2018 technology. Please post the definitive books and resources on the subject. TIA
posted by watercarrier at 11:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Have I been dating a couple?

I've been friends with a couple for about 4 months and I thought we were just friends, but I received a text from them today saying that they would like to discuss relationships when we see each other next. I'm not sure how to feel about this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:08 PM PST - 55 comments

A document worthy of the USGPO 1956.

Kindly recommend an offset print shop in L.A. that can handle an odd-sized, saddle-stitched booklet with fussy paper requirements. [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 10:17 PM PST - 3 comments

2 days and 2 nights in the UK - where would you go?

I'm an American who lives in Seattle and I have a trip to England coming up. I'm staying about an hour outside of London for the first part of it, and I have an unexpected extra 2 days with which to do whatever I want. What should I do with two nights and two days before I have to go back to the US? Some thoughts and guidance for suggestions inside. [more inside]
posted by pazazygeek at 6:55 PM PST - 17 comments

help me wear this dress!

I would like to buy a dress but am hesitating for reasons. Help me look cute! [more inside]
posted by thereemix at 5:04 PM PST - 20 comments

First person Audiobook where smart bad person does bad thing(s)

Two audiobooks I have enjoyed include You and Tampa. Each of these books is narrated by a single narrator. In each case the narrator is a terrible human being who is intelligent, has some wry observations about modern culture, and plots and executes one or more evil deeds. What are some other well-written audiobooks that are like this?
posted by skjønn at 4:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Linux Gaming Server Setup?

I have a friend who's interested in playing some games on Linux, for accessibility reasons, the Windows versions aren't super friendly as a blind user. I want to perhaps set up a server for her so she doesn't have to learn an entire new operating system just to play a game. I'd appreciate some guidance. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 4:17 PM PST - 4 comments

An overflowing wardrobe of clothes that are too big...

How long should I keep off-size clothes in my childbearing years? [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 4:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Basement floor options?

What are good flooring materials to turn a concrete basement into a living space? Ideally something durable, waterproof, attractive, inexpensive, and not freezing cold. [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 4:06 PM PST - 12 comments

A one woman garden

What could possibly be a logial explanation for a person to have several seeds and husks of multiple varieties impacted in the sinuses and skin around the nose? Let's assume this female does not, and has not in the past, have a diet of bird food.
posted by OnefortheLast at 4:05 PM PST - 57 comments

Does my dream suitcase exist?

I have a 20" hard case carry-on suitcase that is so space-efficient that I can pack a wardrobe for 4 nights/5 days (and I wear plus-sizes, so my clothes take up more space). But it's getting battered and ugly, and I really wish I had a front pocket for a laptop. Does a suitcase like mine, but better, exist? [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments

summoning elementals in Utica

Can you tell me the real story about a ghost tale I read as a kid about a house in Utica, New York? [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 10:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Affordable summer reunion for 20-30 in Midwest or East Coast

My group of friends (including kids 1-16 years old) would like to start a summer reunion. Do you do this, and if so, how? I'm thinking summer camp cabin rentals are our best bet for cheap-ish spots we can cook our own food. What are your favorite campground or other rentals for big groups?
posted by lillygog at 9:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Most cost-effective onsite backup solution?

My photography habit has me filling up hard drive space faster than anything I've done before. I need some way of expanding storage and backing things up that doesn't cost an arm and a leg. I'd like to do it onsite; I'd rather buy stuff once than pay for a subscription forever. What's the cheapest way of doing this that's worth a damn? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 8:31 AM PST - 16 comments

What is 'home'? And how do I choose mine?

I am reaching a crossroads about where I want to put down roots in the next year or two. But I am seriously torn on staying in Spain or moving back to Scotland. Help me decide, or begin the thinking process? Or tell me your experience? [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 8:26 AM PST - 14 comments

easy breezy

Recommend me a battery-powered fan. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 5:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Starting up a neighborhood . . . what?

I recently moved to a new street that has some serious community potential. But how do I harness it? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 4:56 AM PST - 27 comments

Where can my family go this summer?

My husband and our 2 year old daughter would like to spend 3-4 weeks this summer living in a Spanish speaking country. We would like it to be relatively cheap, safe, and ideally have some cool archeological stuff semi-nearby. We've thought about Mexico, PR, and Costa Rica, but we'd love to get some specific suggestions from people who have done something similar. Spain isn't out of the question but we are coming from the U.S. so shorter flights are better. Thank you!
posted by chaiminda at 4:21 AM PST - 9 comments

How to not break small knitting needles

So far I have only used wooden needles for knitting. I recently began my first project with small needles (size 2) and promptly broke one of the needles. Should I consider metal needles, or is there some other way to protect the needles? [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 2:23 AM PST - 22 comments

March 16

Strategies for Remembering Dreams ≥ 3 Minutes After You Awaken

Good evening. How do you remember your dreams once you've fully woken up? [more inside]
posted by not_on_display at 11:32 PM PST - 14 comments

How can I stop debt ruining my mental health?

I'm 36, self-employed, and owe ~$75k in debt. My debt's causing panic attacks all the damn time. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:22 PM PST - 23 comments

How to keep the media dogs at bay?

A friend of mine was just contacted by a news organization that is dredging up painful memories that she'd rather not revisit. What is the most effective way to keep out of the spotlight? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 8 comments

My friend and her health insurance, got hurt in a foreign country...

She has a Medicare Advantage Plan. We were in Freeport the Bahamas and she tripped and hurt her wrist. She did not get any kind of treatment on our trip. When we got back to the USA she went to the doctor and it was then determined she had broke her wrist, she had to have surgery with metal plates. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 6 comments

No-pattern homemade garments

I want online instructions but not printable (pinnable) patterns for garments I can make (for) myself. Where are they? Every google search takes me to pinterest! Also, no video instructions please - I lose focus 30 seconds in and have to keep rewinding which is infuriating. No zips or buttons please. Ties and elastic are ok. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 9:34 PM PST - 17 comments

Mid-week downtown Los Angeles dinner for elderly relatives SOON

DESPERATELY seeking recommendations. I promised a visiting uncle and aunt that I would make reservations for dinner somewhere good, near where they're staying on 421 W. 7th Street, for March 28. I figured one can get reservations for a Wednesday. But WHERE? It can't be loud - my relatives are in their 70s, and we'll want to talk. It should be culinarily interesting if possible - my uncle is a good, adventurous cook. [more inside]
posted by goofyfoot at 9:28 PM PST - 9 comments

Specific 90s music recommendations

I’m looking to add to a playlist that I use for a specific task. The most effective songs on this list so far are Rage Against the Machine’s Killing in the Name, Filter’s Hey Man Nice Shot, God Lives Underwater’s All Wrong, and Nine Inch Nail’s Head Like a Hole. What else should I add? Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 7:31 PM PST - 44 comments

Can I move a software RAID 0 array from my Mac to an external enclosure?

I have 2 x 2TB drives in my Mac Pro that I set up as a RAID 0 using Apple’s Disk Utility. It’s working fine, & I have backups galore (time machine, onsite & offsite clones, Backblaze) but the disks are getting old enough that I’m beginning to get concerned about failure. Can I move these 2 drives into an external enclosure of any sort & have it recognize the RAID configuration? Or is the only device that will recognize an Apple software RAID the Mac that it’s built on? [more inside]
posted by Devils Rancher at 7:19 PM PST - 7 comments

What if dashiki, but not?

I really like the bright colors and wild patterns on a dashiki, and the general fit, and I LOVE the front pockets. But I'm a white woman and wearing one seems racially insensitive at best. Is there a line of shirts out there that is loose-fitting, light, 100% cotton, colorful/interesting patterns (without being just pop-culture T-shirts), and has large front pockets down low (NOT up on the boobs)? Pockets could be one-big-one or two-separate. Thanks!
posted by The otter lady at 7:12 PM PST - 17 comments

I need an Epic!

There has to be, somewhere in history, a primal story where two deities make a bet about turning a mortal immortal. I need that story for a project. [more inside]
posted by achrise at 6:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Need fun late-1970s flavor

I'm running a brief table roleplaying game set in the late 1970s in the Midwest US. One of the players was alive and conscious that decade. I'd love to include a few specific, fun details about the time that would make a survivor of the era smile in recognition. These could be food items, ubiquitous music, a kind of car, a "that guy" that was common. I'm especially interested in details that would reveal a character to be kind of a dirtbag.
posted by 4th number at 5:43 PM PST - 47 comments

Have face. Now what?

I am a new mom, who at 35 has only ever dabbled in make up and certainly was never taught to apply it. I have been feeling glum about my appearance and thought I might give make up a go. What are the absolute basics needed for a five minute make-up routine? Additional requirements/thoughts inside. [more inside]
posted by CMcG at 5:01 PM PST - 29 comments

Is It Weird To Sleep In Your Living Room/ Do You Do It?

I live in an old apt which I love, but in summer it's a pain to sleep in my bedroom, and the obvious solution is to not sleep in my bedroom in summer. I have both a huge dining and living room, either of which I could easily put a bed in. Would this be weird and/ or do you already do this? [more inside]
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 3:48 PM PST - 37 comments

Are some fruit pies easier/harder than others to make from scratch?

I'd like to expand my repertoire of desserts to include fruit pies, which are both my favorite dessert and s/th I have no experience making despite being an otherwise quite capable cook. At first glance, it seems some pies would be inherently more difficult than others to make from scratch. Lemon meringue, for example, includes the not-always-easy-to-stiffen-and-peak meringue, as well as getting the filling to gel just right. Pie made with whole fruit--apples, for example, would seem easier. What do people think? Are there better starter/first pies than others? Thanks, and happy eating!
posted by BadgerDoctor at 3:26 PM PST - 25 comments

When are skinny jeans too tight?

I bought a pair of these skinny jeans, in black, and they fit beautifully. However, after I had them on for a little while, the tightness on my legs was really uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 3:02 PM PST - 9 comments

Stock Market Simulation

I'm working with a high school Economics teacher. He has asked that I find a site where we can run a stock market simulation for the students. Each team will have $100,000 to invest between Tuesday, and May 29th. My big concern is that this not turn into a massive pile of papers that is impossible to manage. Have any teachers done this before? What is the easiest way to manage stock market simulations? Do you have web sites that make it easier? Thank you for your time!
posted by dfm500 at 2:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Will this Kill Me (Apple Cider Vinegar Edition)?

I'm making apple cider vinegar for only the second time. My ratios of stuff may have been off. Link to pic and questions after the jump. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 2:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Questions for the questioners

Just found out I made it to the second round of interviews for an internal position. Interview is on Monday. The grapevine says the hiring manager/position supervisor will not be on the panel so I'm having a hard time coming up with questions to ask at the end of the interview. [more inside]
posted by erloteiel at 2:27 PM PST - 10 comments

The most important question I've ever asked

Why, if there's a universal translator in Star Trek, do some words and phrases in alien languages go untranslated? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 2:17 PM PST - 14 comments

How much of this debt do I need to pay?

I am trying to get my debt snowball rolling, which means getting a handle on how much I really owe. [more inside]
posted by eggs at 1:40 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me have a swingin' summer (dress)

Last summer I fell in love with this jersey swing dress from Old Navy. Help me find more like it, or maybe better quality! [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 12:51 PM PST - 10 comments

How to buy happiness.

Do you own something that is a little bit (or a lot) more than the basic or the practical, and it's just the best? Please, tell me about it! Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by rodneyaug at 11:55 AM PST - 77 comments

Ankle brace causes nausea, dizziness

Someone I know has an ankle brace-- a figure 8 brace with metal stays. It does a good job of supporting her ankle, but when she wears it, she gets low-level nausea and dizziness almost immediately unless she's sitting still. [more inside]
posted by Nancy Lebovitz at 11:13 AM PST - 0 comments

temporary (?) document restoration

How to physically handle a paper document that's crumbling? [more inside]
posted by komara at 10:33 AM PST - 11 comments

How bad is student loan debt?

I'm leaning towards switching from part-time to full-time in my grad program and taking out more loans. How much will this really affect me on the future? [more inside]
posted by bearette at 9:44 AM PST - 18 comments

Dear Sugar Theme Tune Lyrics

Can't believe I'm wasting a question on this but it's driving me crazy and the internet has proved fruitless, which is quite frankly, astounding to me! [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 9:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Morbid grammar question: Suicide thoughts, or suicidal thoughts?

My job requires all of my coworkers and I to frequently ask if callers to a crisis line are suicidal or homicidal. I always say "are you having suicidal thoughts?", but some people say "are you having suicide thoughts?". Is "suicide thoughts" grammatically correct? I don't think it is, and Google doesn't help. I don't go around correcting people, but my one coworker always says SUICIDE THOUGHTS super loudly because he knows it irks me. Help us settle this once and for all! TIA.
posted by ShadePlant at 9:28 AM PST - 27 comments

Help me regulate my temperature while sleeping

I seem to have trouble remaining at a comfortable temperature while sleeping. My theory is that I get cold and then ball up into a fetal position, which causes me to sweat copiously. [more inside]
posted by delight at 9:24 AM PST - 23 comments

Title Insurance. What is it good for?

Selling a condo in Orange County, California. Section 7.C.2 of the contract references "owners title insurance", which our agent says will cost around $1,400. I understand why the buyer and/or lender would want to get proof of title and insure against risk that there are some issues. But why should we as the owners get title insurance? The title was clear when we bought the place a couple of years ago; what could have possibly changed to affect that? [more inside]
posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at 8:17 AM PST - 10 comments

Help us think of a name for our club

A few friends and I have formed a practice club to work on our nosework skills with our dogs. We are trying to come up with a name but none of us are very creative. [more inside]
posted by twilightlost at 8:16 AM PST - 19 comments

Why are there so many vultures over the BP Campus in West Houston?

Almost every day I see dozens (like 50+) of vultures over the BP Campus in the Houston's Energy Corridor (near I-10 and Highway 6). Why are they always there, just circling and circling? [more inside]
posted by jschu at 6:41 AM PST - 16 comments

How much alcohol is OK in the early stages of dating?

I (27, F) have had bad experiences with alcoholics both in my family and romantic relationships. I also tend to match the drinking habits of the people who are in my life, which is why I want to steer clear from heavy drinkers. I've started to date a guy I'm really into, but I'm getting anxious over the amounts of alcohol that is involved in our dates. Am I overreacting? More special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by mesija at 6:17 AM PST - 75 comments

Hostile Work Environment/Teacher Edition

This was me and I've given notice that I won't return to this teaching position, which I did after I was told I would not be getting professional status. Since stating I'm not returning, I'm being aggressively micromanaged and I've been informed by co-workers that admins are openly slamming me. Suffice it to say the union is no help at all. Should I just give 2 weeks notice and leave? [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 6:01 AM PST - 14 comments

Want to study Masters online while traveling. Where to start looking?

I am specifically interested in sociology or history but I am wondering more generally about how credible these kinds of online programs are these days. I plan to travel around Europe and stay in various places for a month or two while studying. I am also wondering if there are any with an on-campus period component. Europe preferred (as that's where I will be based) but open to US/Australia/Canada as well. In fact, any background info about where to start looking or personal experiences would be much appreciated. Thanks!
posted by vizsla at 5:52 AM PST - 4 comments

Got some extra $, best charity?

Can we somehow figure an objective way to determine the best charity to give to? [more inside]
posted by skepticallypleased at 5:49 AM PST - 27 comments

Tips for a food business rookie

Need help in getting over the anxiety about launching a street food business and any tips the hive mind can provide. More inside. [more inside]
posted by longjump at 4:51 AM PST - 5 comments

What can we DIY for our diabetic cat?

Our cat, Toki Wartooth (obligatory), was recently diagnosed with diabetes. We caught it early and his outlook is good, and he's already much happier and more relaxed after less than a week on insulin. My question is: should we buy a glucose monitor and attempt to do glucose curves at home? If so, which monitor should we buy? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 4:28 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me identify these hard candies

I rent a car parking space in the basement of an apartment building near my office, and the concierge used to keep a big bowl of these amazing tiny, individually wrapped candies on his desk. Grabbing one or three as I passed by was the highlight of my day and made the commute home more bearable. There is now a new concierge and no sweets. New concierge has no info about the sweets. Where can I buy them? [more inside]
posted by cilantro at 3:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Dearly Beloved...

I just finished Beloved by Toni Morrison and it was astonishing. It gave me, upon almost every page, the sort of palpable literary rush I received when reading Wolf Hall for the first time or Gilead or The Hare with Amber Eyes. I am unclear why I neglected Morrison for so long but I am hungry to rectify this immediately. So: where next? Continue with the loose Beloved trilogy (Jazz and Paradise), start at the beginning with The Bluest Eye, jump into the middle with better known books like Song of Solomon, go for some essays...?
posted by giraffeneckbattle at 3:20 AM PST - 8 comments

March 15

Short wilderness spring getaway near Seattle, WA?

My birthday is approaching, and I would like to take an overnight camping/backpacking trip to celebrate. I want relative seclusion, not-too-freezing weather, no super strenuous hikes. Car camping only if it's really worth it. Pretty much something akin to the Ozette, but closer. Does it exist? Assume I have access to a car, and all the necessary backpacking supplies. Thanks in advance!
posted by Behemoth, in no. 302-bis, with the Browning at 11:18 PM PST - 0 comments

I want to make an auto setting clock...

But I want a 24 hour dial. I've found atomic clock movements and I've found 24 hour movements, but no atomic 24 hour movement. I've seen digital ones, but I want to make a dial clock. Any Ideas?
posted by Marky at 10:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Travel holiday ideas - physical activity, in the month of July...?

Any suggestions for a hike/walk holiday that would be more than a week, but not 2 weeks (!) and something that would be interesting, outside the U.S, yet not over the top expensive? Any tour companies would be helpful, or lesser known but more interesting hikes. Looking at July which also seems to be a problem since that tends to be peak travel season. [more inside]
posted by proficiency101 at 10:40 PM PST - 10 comments

Name that book, family history edition

According to family lore, my great-great-grandmother named her son after a character in a book that she liked. This literary character's name was passed down from my great-grandfather to my grandfather to my father and partially to me. The title of the book is a mystery. Can you tell me anything about a book written before 1891 that includes a character named Percy Winfield? [more inside]
posted by peeedro at 8:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Commuting in car from Oakland to Palo Alto?

I recently accepted an offer of admission for a grad program at Stanford. My wife and I are thinking of living in Oakland and having me commute. Is this a terrible idea? I know there's a fourth year who lives in Berkeley, but he's only on campus two or three days out of the week at this point. Is driving five days a week viable< under best conditions? Worst conditions? [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 8:46 PM PST - 40 comments

Should I move for my partner's postdoc?

Should I move from Canada to the US for my partner's 2 year-long postdoc? Will this screw up my career? What other things should I be factoring in to this decision? [more inside]
posted by Sockmaster at 5:44 PM PST - 34 comments

Always confused about electronic music genres

I THINK I’m looking for minimal techno, house, and some style of music that probably isn’t as exact as those but closely resembles the Underworld songs Jumbo and Born Slippy.NUXX [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 5:26 PM PST - 10 comments

What is the best pillow for a face-sleeper?

What is the best pillow for a face-sleeper - potentially one with foam and cooling technology? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 5:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Why is most work advice online so terrible?

There seems to be a cognitive dissonance between the advice offered for all other matters but work, where the available advice is as enlightened as that of a bad marriage from the 50s. [more inside]
posted by ariadne_88 at 4:58 PM PST - 25 comments

Best web interactives/apps for both learning and designing circuits

I'm self-learning basic electronics (via books and videos) and I'd like to use a virtual circuit builder to both guide me through the basics (like maybe in tutorial form) and once I know more, the ability to model, when designing, say, basic arduino projects. Googling produces tons of options. Wondering if anyone has direct experience with tools as they've gone from beginner/novice to intermediate level knowledge?
posted by coffee and minarets at 4:02 PM PST - 2 comments

The Poutine of [Your Area]

I would like to catalog every regional variant of the fries+meat+cheese+whatever calorie-bomb. [more inside]
posted by stefanie at 2:28 PM PST - 49 comments

I’m dreaming of PJs. . . that won’t shrink!

I’m looking for soft, comfortable, women’s pajama sets... that won’t shrink! [more inside]
posted by bookmammal at 2:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Could old TV listings give a date to a childhood memory?

I’d love to get a precise date on some memories I have from when I was a kid. One in particular I have narrowed down to a few years in the 90s, and I remember Three Amigos was playing on KPLR-TV. How can I find out when it aired? [more inside]
posted by Monochrome at 2:04 PM PST - 3 comments

Finding a low-key, Jewish Atheist Leftist Pot-Luck Seder in Chicago

I am feeling the need to sit around a table with like-minded folks and tell stories about how an evil, oppressive government was punished beyond the imagination of mankind, while the oppressed got to take a nice long walk in the sun and lay down some goddamned ethics. Plus singing and drinking. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 12:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Am I eligible for unemployment?

Am I eligible for unemployment? I have a full-time job during the week, but I just got laid-off/fired from my part-time weekend job. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 12:10 PM PST - 12 comments

Dating while woke

There's a common-ish first date/getting to know you question that I dislike because it makes assumptions about my background, and the truth is a sensitive topic. Surely I must be doing this to other people. Tell me your questions I should avoid or word more sensitively. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 11:34 AM PST - 43 comments

Where will I keep my web comics?

Digg Reader (like Google Reader before it) is shutting down, what reader would you recommend I replace it with? Or should I even try? Are RSS feed readers becoming a thing of the past?
posted by patheral at 11:31 AM PST - 25 comments

Looking for old comedy routine about how the moa bird went extinct

In the 1980s, my local (northeast Ohio) public radio station had a stable of comedy recordings that they'd play on New Year's Eve. One of them was a 5-10 minute absurd stand-up routine about how the moa bird became extinct, probably from the 1960s. I don't know who performed it, but I'd love to find it again.
posted by CopRock at 11:21 AM PST - 4 comments

Foundational Comedy and Humor

What movie, book, stand-up routine, or other piece of art had the greatest impact on forming your sense of humor? [more inside]
posted by Groundhog Week at 11:20 AM PST - 53 comments

What kind of body is Boden designed for?

Boden brand dresses don't fit me, and I can't figure out why! Mefites who find that Boden clothes fit well and are flattering on them, can you tell me a bit about what type of figure you have? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 11:13 AM PST - 18 comments

Poetry to Memorize

I'm recovering from trauma. Last night, after a day full of obsessively ruminating on my trauma, I finally got the thoughts to go away by reciting poetry to myself. Yay! But I only know a couple poems by heart. I'd like to have more arrows in my quiver. Please recommend me some poems to memorize, and if you can, either link to the poem or copy it here. Think approximately the length of "The Road Not Taken" by Robert Frost. Poems written by people of color, LGBT people, and women especially encouraged!
posted by ocherdraco at 11:03 AM PST - 42 comments

SSL Best Practices

Is it best to force all browsers to https or allow the client to decide? Any other considerations I should take into account when moving my domains to SSL is welcome. [more inside]
posted by cjorgensen at 11:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Ravenous Rodent Repair Recourse?

More on our ongoing saga with the rodent-chewed wiring in mr. jane's truck. Stay with the dealer or go? [more inside]
posted by sarajane at 10:17 AM PST - 2 comments

What should my summer uniform be?

I want to buy 5 copies of the perfect dress so I can wear the same thing to work every day this summer. Help me find this dress! [more inside]
posted by neematoad at 10:11 AM PST - 17 comments

Should you voice your insecurities to your partner?

What is reasonable to voice? What should you keep to yourself (and just tell your therapist or close friend instead)? How much should you reasonably expect for your partner to try to understand or is it just a burden? I don’t have any good relationship models (besides TV) and I am lost. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 9:28 AM PST - 36 comments

Simple vocal warm-up app for a kid?

My daughter takes singing lessons, and we're looking for a simple iPhone/iPod or Kindle app to lead her through warm-ups before she practices at home. Can anyone recommend one they have used that isn't expensive? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 8:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Abnormal Psychology

Where can I take an accredited online class in Abnormal Psychology?
posted by falsedmitri at 8:29 AM PST - 4 comments

I need an inexpensive waterproof heart beat watch

My pulse is too slow (37) and my Dr. says I may need a Pacemaker, so am being referred to a cardiologist. I have looked at previous questions and at Amazon, but am bewildered by the choice. Because I swim laps three times a week it should be waterproof (not just showerproof) and preferably tie in with an app on my Samsung S7 running Android 7.0 Would prefer not spend more than $45/50. TIA!
posted by lungtaworld at 7:15 AM PST - 7 comments

Windows 10 photo album/slideshow software (not a Windows Store app)

What is a good, lightweight, ad-free, preferably full-screen Windows 10-compatible program that will allow me to view images by folder or, optionally, run a slideshow of all the files in the folder? [more inside]
posted by Bugbread at 5:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Toys for a two-year-old soon?

My 16-month-old loves his toys but is on the verge of being ready for the next big toy leap. Which will be what, exactly? We have some Toys R Us gift cards I want to spend while I can. [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 5:21 AM PST - 21 comments

Debit card hacked AGAIN. WTF?

Two days ago my card was hacked; I got alert texts about suspicious transactions coming in from a foreign country. I got a new number/card right away. This morning my new card was hacked!! What gives? [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 4:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Rent is too damn high! I want to move but how to proceed?

The city I'm currently living in, Bellingham, is experiencing a housing shortage. Rent has gone up more than wages can match. I'd like to move, but I'm not sure how to go about it. [more inside]
posted by gusottertrout at 2:11 AM PST - 11 comments

March 14

What kind of bone is this, please?

I found a bone on my local beach. I'm mildly curious as to what it is, and of course if it is human I need to notify the police. Can the hivemind take a peek and at least let me know I'm not about to cameo in a CSI episode? [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 8:10 PM PST - 10 comments

Weaning off Pristiq...but using Zoloft?

In 2014 I weaned off Pristiq using Prozac. My doctor is out of the country and I want to get off Pristiq...again. I have left over Zoloft. YNMD, etc., but are they similar enough that Zoloft might work? [more inside]
posted by bluespark25 at 7:06 PM PST - 8 comments

Do I have a shoulder injury? And what do I do if so?

Female who started lifting weights in October. Searing pain in my deltoids on both of my shoulder caps when I try to lift any type of weight on them. Did I injure myself and what do I do to heal? [more inside]
posted by orangesky4 at 4:09 PM PST - 17 comments

Tired of wearing my heart on my sleeve

I'm tired of showing every emotion on my face. How do I not? [more inside]
posted by Nyx at 1:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me safely fly my cat!

Looking for advice and reassurance moving a cat long distance! [more inside]
posted by Space Kitty at 1:36 PM PST - 41 comments

Sound- or motion-activated video recording software

I am looking for free or inexpensive Mac software that will record video using my Mac's built-in camera when it detects sound and/or motion. [more inside]
posted by radioamy at 12:51 PM PST - 5 comments

How to record phone calls/ meetings ? And, transcribe the audio

I have an iPhone and I would like to record meetings that I take on my phone. I will of course ask permission of the person I am meeting with. After the call has been recorded, I would like to have the audio transcribed. Question 1: How do I record calls on my iPhone? Question 2: After the call has been recorded, is there an app that will transcribe the audio into text? Also, I have a Mircosoft surface tablet.
posted by Boyd at 12:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Meta March Madness

It's March Madness time once again! I don't really care about collegiate basketball, but I do love BRACKET POLLS. Every year it seems like I hear about interesting and fun brackets long after they get going...this year I'd like to get in at the Sweet Sixteen level. Does your favorite website run a March Madness Bracket? Tell me about it. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 12:40 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me choose a route East.

I am in Astoria, Oregon and it's time to start heading slowly back to Asheville, NC. Which is the best way to go with these criteria in mind: towing a camper, staying in state parks, avoiding bad weather, seeing fabulous scenery and quirky offbeat things, including Yellowstone (or not?) and Chicago on the itinerary and taking back roads as much as possible? [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 12:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Did my vet commit some form of malpractice?

A visit to the vet recently confirmed that my beloved 4-year-old dog has end-stage renal failure and will likely need to be put down in a few weeks. We took her to the same vet three months ago for a different issue, but during that visit we mentioned symptoms that turned out, in hindsight, to be indicative of renal failure. In response to our comments at that earlier visit, the vet tested her for diabetes, cleared her, and sent her home. Is our vet (legally, financially, morally) culpable for missing the diagnosis? [more inside]
posted by scriptible at 12:19 PM PST - 11 comments

How to shoe in spring and summer?

I need casual, spring/summer shoes for walking in bad weather and going to the park and playground. Basically, urban mom shoes. I wish I could take a time machine to the nineties and get some shoes made for women to walk around in, but in 2018, what shoes are those? [more inside]
posted by sputzie at 12:18 PM PST - 10 comments

Best way to fix vintage chair leg?

We got these gorgeous chairs that I love a couple of months ago and one of the legs recently split when the chair was sat upon. What’s the best way to fix it? [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 12:12 PM PST - 14 comments

Roanoke VA for St. Patrick's Day

We booked a downtown hotel and are going to spend this weekend in Roanoke, mostly because we've been in VA 20 years and have never visited Roanoke. I know about the parade and street festival on Saturday. What are the can't miss pubs/bars and restaurants we should hit this weekend?
posted by COD at 12:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Tips for the Hay Festival

My wife and I are planning on taking two kids (ages 7 & 10) to the Hay Festival. We need to book a room so our immediate questions are, "What's a good length of time to go with kids that age? And are there kid-friendly things to do in the area that are accessible without a car if the kids get festivaled out?" Beyond that, we'd welcome any tips on getting the most out of the festival, for kids and for grownups. [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 11:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Ain't no shame in our game!!!

I'm a (sometimes more, sometimes less) fat man, and was a fat boy. I have a thin wife, one solid 5 yo son, one skinny 3 yo boy, and one chunky 3 yo girl. My kids call me squishy. The 5 yo called me fat. I agreed with him, but my wife was disturbed. What are best practices to teach body acceptance and non-fat shaming to my kids? [more inside]
posted by OmieWise at 11:42 AM PST - 17 comments

iPhone 8 or X

I'm upgrading from an iPhone 6 and am thoroughly confused by the options. I know I want an iPhone, and am fairly sure I want either the 8 or the X. Help please? [more inside]
posted by TravellingCari at 10:45 AM PST - 26 comments

What would be the symptoms of a parasitic infection of the brain?

Asking for fictional reasons. The parasite in question is T. Cruzi, which is the parasite that causes Chagas disease. Usually the little guy hangs out in heart muscle and causes heart attacks, but in this universe, the parasite now likes to live and reproduce in brain tissue. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 10:22 AM PST - 4 comments

Name my vegan Australian meat-pie company

Looking for clever/apt business names that I can use for my plant-based, Australian meat pie company. [more inside]
posted by Marksil at 10:04 AM PST - 31 comments

Clean fun podcast recommendations?

Seeking something to listen to while starting daily workout habit. Complication: Will be playing out loud, no headphones, near the sprog, and therefore it needs to be curse-free. More requests inside. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 9:54 AM PST - 31 comments

DIY Blood Tests

I would like to monitor a particular blood stat more closely than once or twice a year. I can use AnyLabTestNow (or some similar service), but they're still pretty spendy. When I was a kid, we did A/B/O blood testing in science class (I assume they no longer do) but clearly, at least for some tests, it's something a 12-year old with clean hands, an alcohol wipe and a lancet can do. [more inside]
posted by spacewrench at 9:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Introduce my partner to self-guiding D&D-esque games

My partner is open to Dungeons and Dragons, but we have one main problem. We won't necessarily have anyone to play with. What are D&D-adjacent games that can be played by as few as two people? Gloomhaven seems perfect, and we may spring for it, but there must be more out there. [more inside]
posted by cmoj at 9:08 AM PST - 19 comments

Bookfilter: How acting affects humans

I'm fascinated by acting (professional/amateur). Specifically, how does becoming a different character affect actors' sense of self and their relationships with other people? [more inside]
posted by Frenchy67 at 8:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Big Fluffy White Comforter or Duvet

I'm looking for a big fluffy white comforter or duvet for my full size bed. Obviously, a down comforter is the best choice, but I'm a student on a limited budget, so down is probably out. I'd like to find one for less than $100. Where should I be looking? Places like the Company Store are too expensive, and when I look on amazon, I see a bunch of white comforters that are super cheap and thinner than I want. I'm looking for thick, fluffy, comforters that feel nice on the skin.
posted by ocherdraco at 8:20 AM PST - 31 comments

Providers for fibromyalgia in Cleveland, Ohio

I just moved to Cleveland; Ohio and I have fibromyalgia. I am looking for a primary care provider and a program. Does anyone know of any Centers, Institutes or providers/specialists that they can recommend? It would be great to find a provider that practices Functional Medicine or Integrative Medicine. I am also looking for a massage therapist, and a mental health therapist.
posted by TRUELOTUS at 7:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Woke up with this song in my head—but what is it?

I woke up with this song in my head, with a specific melody and lyrics: "When you can't find the answer(s), days keep on slipping away." Something like that. I think it has acoustic-guitar backing. Here's how the melody goes. Usually I'll Google songs like this that I can't figure out, but I'm getting nowhere with that today. So maybe you guys can help. What is this song? [more inside]
posted by limeonaire at 7:28 AM PST - 3 comments

Stupid beanplate syntax question: WhatsApp edition

Received a notification on my iPhone, I believe after an update: "Please launch WhatsApp to receive messages". Wondering if this means "In order to enable receipt of messages, please launch WhatsApp" or "New messages waiting, please launch WhatsApp to receive". [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 7:25 AM PST - 6 comments

PCOS help!

I was diagnosed with PCOS last year, and I've found that almost all support/advice groups are aimed at women TTC. I am not. Is there anything out there for me? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 5:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Moves app + Move-O-Scope alternative for mapping travels and activities?

Help me find a good alternative to the location and activity tracking app Moves, and the data visualisation tool Move-O-Scope to log and visualise my travels and activities. [more inside]
posted by gravelshoes at 5:37 AM PST - 3 comments

Suspect e-mails from adult website that seem weirdly targeted. Help!

Hello all. I recently (a month or two ago) decided to get better about personal security and privacy and in this regard I registered an e-mail account with a (at this point) well-known service apparently lauded for its encryption and security, etc. The other day I started receiving e-mails on this account--which I have used for almost nothing as of yet and have given to almost no one--regarding membership to an adult website. Initially I just treated it as spam and put it in the spam folder, but I decided to take a look and it started to creep me out a little bit. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 AM PST - 9 comments

How to receive the best cancer care

My young and extremely healthy (36) year old sister was diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer last year. Initially the doctors told her it was inoperable and she began intense chemotherapy. Lo and behold six months later she was deemed elligible for an operation... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 AM PST - 13 comments

YANMD - Itchy penis edition

The tip around my urethra opening is red, itchy and swollen. It has been for about four months. I'm a married man who has been faithful. My wife has no symptoms and has also been faithful. The docs have done the usual STD swab/urine tests and found nothing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:13 AM PST - 10 comments

Gluten-free St. Patrick's day treat for child's classmate - Philadelphia

I'm making good luck/St. Patrick's Day shamrock cookies for my son's preschool class for Friday (they also have a performance that day, hence the "good luck" aspect). There is a gluten-free child in the class. For Valentine's Day, I lucked into some gluten-free heart-shaped cookies at Whole Foods, but I've struck out so far on gluten-free shamrock treats. They don't have to be cookies... [more inside]
posted by Pax at 2:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Why do men keep texting when we're no longer going on dates?

Why do men keep texting when we're no longer going on dates? [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 1:06 AM PST - 42 comments

Puzzle me this... Can you recommend a puzzle manufacturer?

For the last 4-5 years I have co-published a certain puzzle game that has gone viral many times over, so much so that it's become a full-time occupation for some in our company. For the last year we have been desperately been trying to move our production away from China and lift the quality of our upcoming releases, but having a real hell of a time finding a new factory. I know this is a bit of a longshot on the green, but can anyone recommend one at all? [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 12:11 AM PST - 3 comments

March 13

Tips for a small, two-person office

I'm about to move into a new 10ft x 10ft office with a roomie (I'm his manager.) We share a slightly larger office now. I get to buy some new furniture and set it up. I'm always on the phone, my roomie is sometimes. I'm thinking of Jarvis sit/stand desks, a couple decent Ikea office chairs, and perhaps a room divider thingy, and putting our desks so we'd be facing each other (that way we each get some window to our left-hand-side). And maybe a white noise maker? Any tips or tricks or recommendations for making a small office work for two people? Thanks!
posted by jlittlew at 8:36 PM PST - 15 comments

Online childbirth classes vs. in person?

Is it really worth it to go to a childbirth class in person instead of online? If you did the online version, did you like it and do you have a provider who you'd recommend? [more inside]
posted by _cave at 7:10 PM PST - 20 comments

So you're a lady-person that shaves your face...

I think I want to get rid of my peach fuzz, any tips? Should I go forward with it? Will my makeup apply like butter? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 7:02 PM PST - 25 comments

NO STRETCH!!

Where are the reasonably priced women's 100% cotton jeans? The last pair I had came from Madewell but the only all-cotton jeans they have now cost $495. Is there some kind of denim aggregator out there that will let me sort by fiber content? If it matters, I think I am looking for straight or "boyfriend" jeans without any shredding and whatnot. Ideally under $150. Just, you know, jeans. Like from my youth in the 1980s.
posted by HotToddy at 6:43 PM PST - 21 comments

Like Tom Clancy but Less conservative?

I've been going through a small Tom Clancy re-read, and realizing that while I enjoy his plots, even some of the improbable ones, the conservative politics rubs me a bit the wrong way. Is there anything which might scratch a similar itch, light-ish military thrillers with clear good vs. evil, but not as much political soapboxing? I like the older Cold War and early 2000s-era Clancy, but haven't been able to get into the post 9-11 stuff, let alone any of his collaborations. Bonus points for a few personal thoughts on why I might like a particular author/series.
posted by Alensin at 5:27 PM PST - 28 comments

What are some other amari to try if I like Averna?

I really like Amaro Averna and would like to try some others that are a little more off-the-beaten-path. I've tried all the big names (which for me is Fernet Branca, Cynar, Campari, Aperol) and Averna is far and away my favorite. Luckily for me, there's a bar and a few liquor stores near me that have many rare and unusual amaro options. If I enjoy the chocolate and coffee notes of Averna, and its slightly sweeter flavor, what might I be a fan of that I haven't heard of before?
posted by capricorn at 4:38 PM PST - 27 comments

Books that do not require much brain

I have a concussion, so pretty much all I can do is read -- tv/computer screens make it worse -- and I can't focus on anything even slightly complicated. I'm looking for engrossing books with one main plotline and one narrator and not more than two timelines. Some domestic thrillers fit, cozy mysteries, maybe YA romance? I'd like to stay away from anything with significant worldbuilding, so no SFF please.
posted by jeather at 4:27 PM PST - 33 comments

another resume question

I took a job I maybe shouldn't have, and now I'm wondering how to list it on my website. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 4:13 PM PST - 2 comments

How do you appropriately save emails for a potential legal situation?

Assuming you're not in ultimate control of your email account. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 4:06 PM PST - 15 comments

Where can I find workbooks or courses to work on perfectionism?

I have perfectionistic/grandiose traits that can keep me from doing simple tasks ("I'll probably burn the omelette, maybe I'll just have toast") as well as complex ones ("this idea for a blog post is cool! But you know what would be cooler, if I could get a PhD in it and then hire someone to create an app! No, wait, I can never do that, I guess I'll forget about it.") Are there workbooks or courses that might help me work through these traits? Did you do something for this that you found helpful? [more inside]
posted by hungrytiger at 3:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Furnish me! Toronto edition

My husband and I have recently moved to Toronto from Sydney with zero furniture. We have an Airbnb rental and are currently looking for a long term lease. We've found somewhere that looks promising - yay! - but this also means finding furniture. Can anyone recommend good quality mid-priced furniture stores in the Toronto area that we would be able to access without a car (or at worst with a short cab ride)? I'd really like to avoid furnishing the entire place with Ikea if possible. [more inside]
posted by Kris10_b at 3:31 PM PST - 8 comments

Cool stuff in Baltimore

My wife and I will be in Baltimore from midday on Friday to midday on Sunday celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary. We are staying at the Inn at Henderson Wharf. What cool stuff should we do? [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 2:10 PM PST - 16 comments

West Coast to Chicago Amtrak choices

There are three trains that go to Chicago from the west, the Empire Builder, California Zephyr and Southwest Chief. Which should we take? [more inside]
posted by plasticpalacealice at 2:06 PM PST - 21 comments

Do people know the phrase "make the trains run on time"?

I am a project manager and at work people often refer to me as the person who "makes the trains run on time". My point of reference for this phrase is Mussolini. When I say, "are you calling me a dictator/Mussolini?" they are bewildered. Has this phrase been repurposed and I missed it? [more inside]
posted by Emmy Rae at 1:34 PM PST - 115 comments

Islamic wall decal: translation?

Is this wall decal a quote? What does it say?
posted by Kriesa at 12:51 PM PST - 2 comments

How can we help my Dad eat?

My Dad has been sick for a long time but right now he is doing okay except that he won't eat. We are heartbroken and running out of ideas. [more inside]
posted by ftm at 12:00 PM PST - 25 comments

2.5 weeks: Ireland, Germany, Switzerland, French Riviera, Spain, Portuga

Planning a trip throughout Europe leaving 4/19 flying into Dublin and planning to fly out of Porto, Portugal. I abandoned my goal of traveling to Asia for my 30th birthday and decided to switch it to a trip to see where my ancestors came from (Ireland and Germany) plus a few other places along the way. I'll put my planned itinerary in the extended explanation, but for a few countries, I still have not decided exactly where I want to go/best way to travel between the two. I am looking for both suggestions/alternatives/obvious things I am overlooking. [more inside]
posted by Bossypants at 11:44 AM PST - 10 comments

How to compel neighbor to unclog overflowing sewer (Seattle)

TL;DR version: How do we compel a recalcitrant neighbor to address an overflowing sewer connected to a shared line in the city of Seattle. The city is not taking action despite clear and repeated evidence of a biological health hazard. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:32 AM PST - 10 comments

iTunes: All the !'s

I have a very large music library on an external drive. I'm running current version of iTunes and MacOS. For some reason, Every Single Track has the "!" next to it. Playing a song works; once I click it, iTunes finds the track with no problem. !'d tracks won't sync to other devices or play with Apple Music. How can I fix this without clicking on 20k items?
posted by bluejayway at 11:16 AM PST - 1 comment

Explain Napa Valley to me

I've been thinking about where to go for my 10th anniversary and thought that Napa Valley might be the perfect place. I know next to nothing about it other than WINE. Can you help me get started with what I need to know for a great weekend trip? [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 10:24 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me Google Calendar nicely with others

I have four Google Calendars and want staff from one domain to see all of my "busy" times associated with the other three. How do I accomplish this without requiring others to add my multiple other calendars to their "Other Calendars" list? Is there a way to sort of "flatten" all of my calendars onto one visible toggle-able calendar for others, and without details? Attempt at clear explanation inside. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 10:09 AM PST - 4 comments

Oakland Electronics Repair: Battery Corrosion Edition

Help us figure out how to replace badly corroded battery contacts in a cool thriftstore microscope! [more inside]
posted by andromache at 9:21 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I contact families I see in the news?

Lately when I see sad news stories, I feel a desire to reach out and send flowers, or words of support - that kind of thing. I'm sure I'm not the only person who feels this way and wants to do something kind. I'm Canadian, so this is typically on the CBC. Is there a way to get contact information for individuals or families featured in these types of stories?
posted by kitcat at 8:56 AM PST - 15 comments

What better way to say "I love you." than with the gift of a spatula?

My wife has actually asked me to buy her a spatula as a gift. She is tired of spatulas that melt when they hit the pan, or spatulas that are too thick to get under something and flip it. Not just any spatula will do--I want to buy her the BEST SPATULA IN THE WORLD! But...what is it? Where can I find the perfect, all-purpose spatula?
posted by arniec at 7:52 AM PST - 35 comments

How to salvage salty ribs

I cooked some pork spare ribs with this dry rub yesterday, and they were tasty, but really salty. They're also not as tender as I'd like, so to solve both issues, my wife suggested cooking them with rice, but I don't want to ruin the rice and the ribs. [Tag-along question: also looking for good, not sweet rib rubs and recipes] [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 7:43 AM PST - 11 comments

What is a good gift for my baristas?

The baristas as my favorite coffee shop (that I go to 2-3 times a day) keep giving me free coffees (the other day I got 3 coffees and paid for none). What is an appropriate gift to give them to show my appreciation? [more inside]
posted by ejfox at 7:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Looking for a Japanese movie about a family in the mountains

I am looking for the title of a Japanese movie about a family that lives in the mountains. They have this kind of spot where hikers can rest and some food is available. [more inside]
posted by wolfr at 7:05 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the time frame to assume a ghosting?

How many days/hours should pass before one can safely assume that one has been ghosted? [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault at 6:59 AM PST - 27 comments

HITT me with your best thoughts - auto immune edition

I've got some auto immune issues, and I'm female, fat and 40. I'm a mutt mixture of European and north american ancestries, but I look and pass for white instead of light brownish and have the typical redhead's pain tolerance and issues with pain meds not doing much. No label on the auto immune except now (12 years in?) I'm on daily gabapentin for generalized pain. But I've got to work out more. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 AM PST - 10 comments

secret lunch hour dates and public anonymous gestures

My new(ish) partner likes surprises, especially surprise activities and surprise gestures of affection. I am not the spontaneous type, have limited funds, limited time to do it (something that we could do during a lunch hour would be perfect), and we're trying to keep our relationship secret, but I'd still like to try to do something for them. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Help finding a map/atlas

I'm looking to find a map showing all military bases around the time of World War II. [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 6:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Alternate term for "dinosaur" and alternate names for dinosaurs?

I'm writing a fiction piece that involves several characters (including a naturalist) encountering dinosaurs before the 1800s. I'd like to be able to have the naturalist come up with his own plausible scientific names for the creatures, as well as to coin a term that would be accepted by the scientific community had Richard Owen not come up with "dinosauria". Unfortunately, I do not speak either Greek or Latin, nor am I a scientist. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 5:49 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I throw out these knives?

Knives with ABS handles are losing their finish, should I get rid of them? [more inside]
posted by cali59 at 5:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Short cuts for the fruit part of fruit tart?

My "pie" is going to be fruit tarts. I'm making four. Any shortcuts for the fruit? Can I stretch my fruit with something, since everything I normally use is out of season right now? Goals: Easier/faster, more cost effective. [more inside]
posted by anaelith at 4:46 AM PST - 18 comments

March 12

And now, the long-anticipated next episode of Name That Cat!

I went to the SPCA this weekend planning to adopt a relatively sedate, middle-aged cat. Instead, I came home with a petite young loudmouth. They estimate she is about a year old and that she may not get much bigger than her current size, which is just under 6.5 pounds. She shows a lot of confidence and is very chatty. The shelter named her Black Panther which I think is not a good fit at all. The names that come to my mind are Cassie and Delphine. What might this kitty's name be?
posted by 4rtemis at 10:50 PM PST - 36 comments

What are folk wearing to the Theatre, Opera, and Symphony in NYC?

Upcoming trip to NYC with tickets to Broadway, The Met, and the Philharmonic. How are audiences dressing for such these days? Out here in the hinterland dress has gone from fairly dressy to the full range of Tux to Jeans and back again. Any guidance would be appreciated.
posted by leafwoman at 10:36 PM PST - 12 comments

This is not the Windows 10 you are looking for

I've been out of work for about a month. When I returned this week, my computer had been wiped clean, it seems. How can this happen? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:54 PM PST - 14 comments

Parenting and Sympathetic Puke

My partner (M, mid-30's) and I (F, mid-30's) are negotiating having a child. We agree on almost everything and seem to be prepared and on the same page except for one thing that makes us both concerned: We are both sympathetic pukers. WARNING: DISCUSSION OF PUKE INSIDE. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:33 PM PST - 27 comments

are you there, me? it's me, me

What are some scientific, non-woo explanations of the role of the subconscious mind in creativity and memory, as well as exercises for getting more "in touch" with the subconscious? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 8:45 PM PST - 13 comments

How do you eat your feelings

I have depression, am a social eater and just got dumped. Help me convince myself that food is good. [more inside]
posted by zinful at 7:48 PM PST - 20 comments

What furniture is worth buying second-hand?

I'm moving! Almost all our furniture needs to be replaced and IKEA is fancy budget for me. We will be living in the new place for at least 10 years, and I'd like to stretch my budget by going secondhand where I can (except mattresses. Never ever. We did bedbugs once. Never again.) The internet is all "refurbish solid wood, shame on you for buying ikea secondhand", but I'm looking for more realistic advice. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 7:12 PM PST - 24 comments

Job in a pool store: good idea or bad?

I've received a job offer to work in a pool store. However, Mr. Hubris is very against my taking this job. His argument is that breathing in chlorine fumes day in and day out is a dangerous risk, akin to working in a bar constantly full of second-hand smoke. My question: has anyone here worked in a pool store, and, if so, did the exposure to the pool-related chemicals cause issues? If nobody here has, could you at least tell me whether you would take this job? [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 6:40 PM PST - 9 comments

Dublin and Galway Tips

I'll be spending the week before Easter in Dublin and Galway. Your advice, please! [more inside]
posted by smorgasbord at 6:37 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you wash your vegetables?

I recently had a discussion with my extended family about how to properly prep veggies for cooking that made me want to get further opinions on this. [more inside]
posted by massofintuition at 5:59 PM PST - 28 comments

Mac Safari zombie "Siri suggestions" - please die already!

I am on a mid-2015 MacBook Pro, on High Sierra 10.13.3 and using Safari 11.0.3, and earlier today I used the handy "force click" feature to preview a link (i.e. it comes up as a smaller image instead of going to the actual page in the main browser window) to a website that I had a bad feeling about. The offending site is a popular (though not usually malicious) click-baity site that I tend to avoid, and unfortunately, despite clearing "cookies and data" a million times, the offending site still pops up after typing a certain word in my Safari search bar. Yes, I know I can just turn off Siri suggested websites, but how did the offending website (which I won't call out by name unless I really have to) weasel its way into Siri's suggestions, despite the fact I never actually navigated to it? Why doesn't deleting history, cookies, and data do anything about it?
posted by Seeking Direction at 4:45 PM PST - 1 comment

One extremely specific hair clip to rule them all.

My last hair clip broke. It wasn't even a good one. Please help me find a hair clip I can order online and that holds my thick, long hair! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:05 PM PST - 14 comments

Trying to hash out fair division of domestic labor

... under amicable conditions. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 3:20 PM PST - 25 comments

European Travel (for work): suggestions to make it awesome

Next week I'm leaving for Europe for work. I'll be gone 2-3 weeks. It's been about 12 years since I left the country, so I'm looking for suggestions on how to make this amazing. I have a lot of leeway over when I need to actually be at certain places, and I've padded in a few days here and there to give myself some time to see the sights. I have some questions about what to bring and what to do.< [more inside]
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints at 2:41 PM PST - 15 comments

How do you fit fruit and veg in your fridge?

I went shopping for a refrigerator yesterday and almost all of them had pathetically small crisper drawers. How do you fit your fruit and veg in yours? [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 2:27 PM PST - 16 comments

Can't figure out the new okcupid. Help?

It appears there's no longer an inbox on okcupid. I get emails from okcupid saying "Someone's messaged you," but I have no way to find this message. It says "Go to Double take and the messager will be near the top," but this is not so. What gives?
posted by gigondas at 2:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Bippity Boppity (Not) Woo

No matter how improbable the Epley Maneuver and EMDR seem as solutions (because they seem too impossibly simple to "work"), they nonetheless do as intended. What other "Oh, c'mon!" things that seem silly or "too easy" actually work? [more inside]
posted by The Wrong Kind of Cheese at 1:46 PM PST - 24 comments

Cardmodel book of very stylized 'lunar colony' from the 1970s?

When I was a kid, I had a cardmodel book printed in silvered and black ink on sturdy, die cut pages which was designed to be punched out and assembled into a lunar base or settlement of some kind. Sound familiar to anyone? [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 1:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Can you recommend a very efficient water softener?

Since Consumer Reports doesn't review them, I'm having trouble finding non-sketchy reviews of water softeners. Can anyone recommend one that uses the least amount of water in its recharge cycle? Or a table that compares them? We had to have the heating element in our 2.5 year old water heater changed because it was so badly calcified (pic for the curious) so I'm slowly being convinced that it is indeed a necessity like all my neighbors tell me. I just want one that doesn't waste a ton of water.
posted by exhilaration at 1:34 PM PST - 3 comments

How to legitimize phone number with organization?

My wife is doing some volunteer work, and she would like to be able to make calls on her personal cell phone so that her ID shows her from the organization she is working with. It seems that there should be built-in protections against spoofing, but is there a way for her to do something like this legitimately to associate her with the organization she has been authorized to call from? The orgainization is out of state, and one step closer seems to be to get a google number in the same area code.
posted by SpacemanStix at 1:31 PM PST - 4 comments

How do you manage during prolonged periods of profound stress?

The last few years have been really, really hard. Stressors, grief, and disappointment have been relentless and it feels like one more thing just might break me. How do you get through periods like this? [more inside]
posted by robertthebruce at 1:26 PM PST - 14 comments

Recommendations for long books with strong heroines?

I don’t get a long time to read these days and find I really enjoy long novels (or memoirs) about strong women I find interesting. It often takes me a long time to finish them and that’s what I appreciate- once I’m into the story it means months of happy reading. I’ve LOVED almost all of Anya Seaton, Rosamunde Pilcher- and I’ve really liked “Wild Swans” and most recently I was just so happy reading “Kristin Lavransdatter” [more inside]
posted by catspajammies at 1:25 PM PST - 30 comments

Best daily carry tips for the professional commuter

Starting a new job in a few weeks (yessssss). I am going to be using mass transit to get to my job, which is wholly new to me. As a woman who likes to have access to ALL MY STUFF at any given time, what do you typically have in your bag and what makes your commute easier/more enjoyable? [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 12:26 PM PST - 45 comments

Looking for a "difficult conversations" workshop

I'm looking for a workshop my company can use to give people skills to talk about difficult subjects. I did a shallow dive into "crucial conversations" years ago and would like recommendations for something similar, but vetted from a diversity, inclusion, and progressive standpoint. [more inside]
posted by rebent at 12:24 PM PST - 3 comments

Advice for a theatre board of directors?

Hi. I am hoping to run for a board of directors position with a theatre stage group. I am wondering what are some important skills and qualities a possible board member candidate should have in theatre and arts? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 11:54 AM PST - 9 comments

Recommendations for a new stereo/multimedia receiver?

I haven't bought stereo components in 20 years, during which time everything became a computer. I would love some help navigating the consumer stereo market. [more inside]
posted by Dr. Wu at 11:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Reading/resources for history of private spaceflight and people in it?

I'm working on an article or series about the origins of private spaceflight (going back to the '50s and '60s, not just the last decade) and I'm looking for interesting articles, essays, videos, and books. I'm also interested in highlighting any women or POC who may have been erased or downplayed in their own time. Any recommendations?
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 10:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Please, cat, shut up and let me sleep!

Does anyone have any suggestions on how to get a loudmouth cat to stop howling outside the bedroom door at night? Molly has made it her mission in life to keep me from ever sleeping. She yodels outside the door -- she brings toy mousies and leaves them in front of the door, and then howls her fool head off. I am seriously at the end of my rope. She woke me up four times last night! [more inside]
posted by sarcasticah at 10:44 AM PST - 55 comments

MS Office 2016 & changing the color of selected items

Years ago, Techrepublic came out with a tutorial for changing the color of selected text in MS Office, which worked until 2013. I've upgraded to 2016 at the office, and can't figure out how to do this. The default for selected text in 2016 is gray, which is difficult for me to see. Has anyone figured out how to do this? Google fails me.
posted by onecircleaday at 10:40 AM PST - 2 comments

Finding European river cruises with an agent?

We're looking to take a Danube river cruise at Christmas with a kid, but it is really hard to track down which cruises are available at what cost since there are at least 8 major lines, and no search engine. Plus some don't take kids. Do I need a travel agent? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Native English speakers, a quick help needed with a sentence

Doing some translation work, and I think I've stumped myself by overthinking things. So below the fold, a sentence and its context, and the question is simply, have I understood the sentence correctly? [more inside]
posted by Pyrogenesis at 10:24 AM PST - 17 comments

What to do with jackfruit

I have a can of jackfruit. I can get more but it won't be until the next grocery run, and I'd rather just use the one right now if I can. There's just two of us. We're not vegan but not opposed to the vegan meal. Hit me with your jackfruit recipes! [more inside]
posted by like_neon at 10:18 AM PST - 9 comments

iPhone audio to MIDI

What’s the shortest distance between me humming, singing or whistling into my iPhone and a MIDI file of the melody?
posted by bigbigdog at 9:21 AM PST - 2 comments

IoT wall of shame?

Is there a website where you can see how long IoT companies have supported their products?
posted by signal at 9:03 AM PST - 6 comments

Tree health post storms?

I'm in MA, where we've had three Nor'easters in three weeks. Some trees were damaged in the first storm (strong winds); many more were damaged in the second (heavy snow). We have another Nor'easter predicted for tomorrow. Do you have any tips for assessing health (or, conversely, likelihood of dropping limbs or falling altogether)--primarily as a driver or pedestrian, rather than a tree owner? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:43 AM PST - 11 comments

The morality of influencer eating

An article was linked in a recent FPP which talked about how Instagram "influencers" who post pictures of food feel obligated to say that they eat it all, even though, in some instances, "75% goes in the trash". What faux pas would they be committing or moral lapse would they be admitting if they were honest about not eating some of the food they take pictures of? [more inside]
posted by clawsoon at 8:22 AM PST - 20 comments

Stop the Toothpaste Madness!

We have had one child-related toothpaste catastrophe too many, and I need solutions that will let my 6- and 8-year-olds get their own toothpaste, but WITHOUT getting it all over my damn bathroom. Portion control is a plus.
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:57 AM PST - 13 comments

Two people talking about things. I need more podcasts!

I need more podcasts. Specifically, I need more of a particular type of podcast. Two/three regular podcasts hosts, no interviews, talking about things. Not humor/shoot-the-shit type podcasts however. Examples inside! [more inside]
posted by cgg at 7:53 AM PST - 33 comments

"Moderates are the most dangerous" - what's the name for this?

Over the last few years, I've noticed a frequent argument, employed in many different areas, that goes "(moderate) believers are the ones most at blame". It's been employed most often against Islam, but also against progressives and by sceptics & atheists against religion. What do you call this rhetorical device? Is there a take-down or analysis of its use? [more inside]
posted by outlier at 7:31 AM PST - 6 comments

Can I buy a propane heater/furnace with a pilot light

Has anyone recently purchased a new Rinnai-like propane (not oil) heater/furnace that has a pilot light versus electronic ignition? [more inside]
posted by Gnella at 5:35 AM PST - 6 comments

What's the ethical issue here?

I'm trying to access therapy via my EAP right now, and during the referral process the person I'm in contact with stated that after the eight free sessions my employer provides, I'd need to take a three-month break before resuming a therapeutic relationship with the provider I get matched with (assuming I want to). Why is this? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 3:06 AM PST - 11 comments

March 11

How do you set limits on client feedback?

I am the art director at a small design agency. Part of my job involves project management, and I am really struggling with keeping client feedback at a reasonable level/pace. How do you handle this at your company? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 11:56 PM PST - 28 comments

Referrals, Pcps and health insurance?

Can I ask my doctor for a referral to a doctor from a different hospital and other questions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:07 PM PST - 6 comments

We only have four countries' bureaucracies to deal with here.

How does a Canadian residing in Denmark get married to an American/Swedish dual citizen living in Sweden? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Therapy dog questions

While working through issues recently, I came to realize that I need to go into trauma therapy, which I assume will include PTSD treatment and such. I have a list of names I'll begin working through next week. I also happen to be without any pets and am down to get a dog again soon. Questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:07 PM PST - 7 comments

How do women flirt to get what they want in NON romantic settings?

I've been confronting myself a lot with #metoo issues. It's colored much of my thinking lately. I'm pleased that young men (25-35 y/o) in my life have asked women, including me, about our experiences so that they can be more 'woke' and just better to their female friends. But, as my classmate/colleague/study partner Dave (32M) explains, sometimes they men are "just taken advantage of" by women who "manipulate them" with no romantic intention. I'm half outraged, half fascinated that he really feels this way. [more inside]
posted by flyingfork at 9:14 PM PST - 51 comments

Good dentist(s) in Seattle

My husband and I are both looking for new dentists in Seattle - mine passed away, and we no longer live near his. Neither of us have hugely unusual dental needs - he has a crown that can be touchy, and I have some genetic risk for gum disease, but it's mostly just regular cleanings and the occasional filling. I would prefer a dentist somewhere in downtown Seattle, and for him ideally his dentist would be located in Greenwood/Broadview/Shoreline/North Seattle. Preferably places where the hygienists and reception staff are really nice (I once quit a prior dentist because the receptionist was so rude to me). Thanks!
posted by skycrashesdown at 7:45 PM PST - 12 comments

Unusual/amazing animal/plant phenomena you can visit in South East Asia?

This post on "natural phenomena that are worth the trip" has some amazing suggestions. I'm looking for more – but in South East Asia. The weirder the better! (I'll post some I've found online in the explanation) [more inside]
posted by omnigut at 6:24 PM PST - 7 comments

help me help nerds be funny

I'm organizing a Powerpoint Karaoke event (aka Battledecks) for a bunch of computer science researchers. I'd like it to be a smashing hit. Anyone have suggestions for slides, slide topics, and event design strategies that will ensure that both the presenters and the audience have a good time? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 6:23 PM PST - 5 comments

What song is this?

I have a tune stuck in my head that I believe is from the 80's. I have a recording of me banging an approximation of it out on a keyboard. Can you recognize it? You are my only hope of getting to sleep tonight! [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 5:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Go Lean

I am self-taught Lean and Lean SixSigma but not certified because certifications are expensive and I cannot afford 4K+ price tags (my employer will not reimburse.) I found a few online training/certification courses that are affordable ($200-$500) from companies like this and this, but I am wary of these being valid. I use these methodologies in my current role, but the lack of any certification is problematic for career advancement and industry switching. Are these programs viewed as legitimate or are they a waste of my money?
posted by apex_ at 5:33 PM PST - 4 comments

It All Falls Down (After Travel). Staying Healthy/Organized After A Trip

I'm going to the gym, grocery shopping, cooking healthy foods, feeling great... and then I travel across the country to see family. Weeks later, I am still struggling to get back to my routine and be healthy. How do you set up your home environment and routine so that you can ramp back up after an exhausting trip? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 4:18 PM PST - 14 comments

App and Video Recs for a One Year Old

We are going on a long international flight soon (Denver to Tokyo) with our 13 month old baby. Help us keep her entertained with phone app and video recommendations! [more inside]
posted by warble at 4:09 PM PST - 15 comments

Chronically-ill introvert job ideas?

Super snowflake conditions inside. [more inside]
posted by youhavedeadedme at 2:57 PM PST - 14 comments

Where to go for political education and/or organizer training?

I'm helping compile a list of places and trainings for people who are interested in building knowledge and skills to intervene in social and political action. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by vecchio at 2:56 PM PST - 8 comments

What brand of eyeglasses makes these?

I recently saw someone with a nice pair of stylish glasses that had a magnetic frame she could attach sunglass lenses to. I would really love to get a pair of glasses like this, but I cannot find any photos of glasses that look remotely similar to the pair I saw. Dos anyone have any idea what brand would make a similar pair of glasses? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 2:00 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I go home now?

Can I go home now? And how do I explain it? [more inside]
posted by Gusaroo at 1:16 PM PST - 22 comments

How Can I Set the Time on a Sony a900 Cordless Phone

My dad has an old Sony A900 cordless phone and he can't remember how to set the date and time. Though I have located the Sony support page and even a link to the manual, it appears to no longer be there and that product no longer appears to be supported. Can you provide instructions?
posted by ms_rasclark at 1:14 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I put my kitchen range so that the right side is adjacent to a wall?

Can we put our new range so that the back of it backs up against against a wall (like most people do...) but also so that the right side of it backs up against a different wall - more or less putting the range in a corner of the room. Aesthetically, I don't love it - but it's a compromise with other issues in the space. My question isn't about where else it could go, but simply, will building codes (for a remodel) allow me to do this or is putting a adjacent to a wall forbidden? [more inside]
posted by pwb503 at 1:11 PM PST - 14 comments

Which is the more elegant, less awkward phrasing:

"ABC dedicates her performance to the late XYZ." or "ABC dedicates her performance to the memory of XYZ."
posted by BostonTerrier at 12:07 PM PST - 6 comments

Camping in the Rockies

Looking for a great spot for a one-night camping trip a reasonable day's drive from Edmonton. [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 11:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Visiting the Lake District without a car

Looking for advice on the best places to stay in the Lake District that can be navigated without a car. [more inside]
posted by Put the kettle on at 10:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Resources for RPG code construction and design?

I'd like to get better at Javascript and the browser ecosystem. And I've been promising myself for years that I'd write a game. (About the level of Ultima IV, not Skyrim). I have plenty of time and ideas. Seems like a great opportunity! But when I start trying to tie all the bits and pieces together into an actual design, I get paralyzed by all the possibilities. And google is just pure noise on the subject. Does anyone have favorite resources for principles and structures for RPG's? [more inside]
posted by cowcowgrasstree at 10:28 AM PST - 3 comments

Give me suggestions: I need a countertop gas burner

My apartment is not able to be "wired" up for natural gas, so I'm not gonna be getting a gas range any time soon. I'd still like to have the option of using the high and instant heat of a flame to cook, though; it's really nice for searing steaks etc. While I have a grill, it's not accessible from the kitchen (my balcony is only reachable through the bedroom) and it's kinda nice to be able to heat things inside. I've tried induction, but induction doesn't work so well for woks. So, suggestions please? I could hit Amazon and just pick at random, but I'm hoping for a bit more information than that.
posted by ChrisR at 10:18 AM PST - 10 comments

Help fill poured concrete basement wall holes to make smooth

I'd like to fill some holes in a small area of a poured concrete basement wall. It's pretty dry down there and moisture doesn't seem to be a problem at all. The walls are flat to the naked eye. What product would you use to fill these holes that I can then paint over top of to make it look smooth?
posted by Mikey51 at 10:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Neuropsychiatry/Neurodiversity-Involved Litigation Specialists?

Hello Metafilter. I am a philosophy major who works at The University of Chicago Library (and did my undergrad here) but recently was forced to work with a supervisor who I strongly believe to have been a clinical psychopath. She has a documented history of 'breaking' subordinates. One of whom I have made contact with. [more inside]
posted by Redag at 9:54 AM PST - 23 comments

What are some good poems to comfort a friend in bereavement?

A friend is losing a relative. I would like to find a poem for her. I'm not even sure it's a good idea, so thoughts on that are welcome. In any case, what are some good poems that are subtle and you found of comfort? By subtle I mean poems that e.g. don't have the word "death" in it.
posted by storybored at 9:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Using an Inherited Car?

My mom, who lives in a rural town that is five hours away from me, passed away recently. According to the will, I inherit everything, including her car. She told me several times that once I passed, I should be using her car when I am in her town to manage her estate. But what about car insurance? [more inside]
posted by pickles_have_souls at 8:04 AM PST - 14 comments

Can I use surfboard car roof rack system for snowboard?

The system consists of crossbars, rack pads like this: https://www.amazon.com/Dorsal-Round-Surfboard-Kayak-Surf/dp/B01GHDU2TM and straps. It was bought for ferrying my surfboard. Can I use the system on my snowboard, since it's a lot thinner and narrower than a surfboard?
posted by spacefire at 6:02 AM PST - 4 comments

How might an adult acquire a mentor?

And what might a mentor even do for someone: is it like in the movies? [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 5:51 AM PST - 8 comments

In need of a reality check, please

My spouse of a couple of decades has made a new opposite-sex friend, and this relationship has my spidey-senses tingling. I could use a quick reality-check to see if I'm being completely out of line. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:17 AM PST - 37 comments

how do I dispose of prescription medication anonymously?

I have some medication that I need to get rid of it safely and very anonymously. This is in the United states.
posted by anonymous at 3:16 AM PST - 26 comments

March 10

Yelling fire in a movie theater when the fire is across the street...?

Someone yelled "active shooter" in a movie theater today, causing a great deal of panic. I'm trying to process this. Was their action right, wrong, or somewhere in between? [more inside]
posted by acidic at 9:01 PM PST - 33 comments

It's tricky to rock a rhyme (in Mandarin) (when I don't speak Mandarin)

Can you help me find the Mandarin version of "It's tricky" by Run-DMC? I have heard it, and i Must hear it again. [more inside]
posted by andreapandrea at 7:49 PM PST - 1 comment

Where can I find a good mailing list?

Direct mail seems the most effective of all marketing, including email and outbound telemarketing. I want to target public radio listeners in cities with a strong public radio presence. Where can I go for an up-to-date list that lets me target those listeners with direct mail? Or, what about is using a mailer service that includes my notice with the ads of other advertisers? I'm looking for options.
posted by CollectiveMind at 6:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find an Esthetician who can do house calls (SF Bay Area, US)

Hi, I have a friend who is homebound except for doctor's appointments. She hasn't been able to get out to run errands or any personal activities for a few months and it's getting her down. [more inside]
posted by lysdexic at 6:04 PM PST - 1 comment

I need a mouse with an INDESTRUCTIBLE scroll wheel.

My Razer Naga Epic Chroma is great for most of my purposes, but I've worn through the mouse wheels on two of them in the last 6 months (home and work setups). I use the mouse wheel for a lot, and when it breaks and fails for center clicks it's really frustrating. Please recommend me a better mouse! [more inside]
posted by isauteikisa at 5:30 PM PST - 4 comments

ISO worker-owner / coop models designed to work across currencies ..

It seems a lot of solo entrepreneurs these days are hiring a lot of virtual assistants abroad. The thinking goes that $2-3 dollars / hour is a livable wage given the cost of living in the Phillipines, therefore, it's not unethical. I think it's ethically a very gray area. continued below.. [more inside]
posted by elgee at 5:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Saab won't re-start

2002 Saab 9-3, frustrating episodic re-start problem. Turn the key all the way, the electrical system activates (various indicators illuminate), but the starter motor doesn't turn over at all. This happens only if the car has been in use and then left turned off for a few minutes (e.g., 5min). [more inside]
posted by Kevin S at 5:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Breaking up is hard to do

Sorry, this is not a question of the heart. While laboriously taking apart a jigsaw puzzle, it occurred to me, how do the commercial companies avoid this tedium? Is there an easier way? [more inside]
posted by alonsoquijano at 4:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Free produce is always welcome; but... WHY?

Lately I've been getting produce items (fruits, vegetable) at stores without being charged for them. While it's possible the cashier simply forgot to ring them in, this seems unlikely in cases where I was only buying one or two items. If you have ever been a cashier not charging for items, why did you do so and what moved you to bestow free gifts on a customer? If you have been a recipient like myself, what did you conclude was the likely reason for being given free stuff? [more inside]
posted by tenderly at 3:16 PM PST - 15 comments

queer woman of color looking for role models; don't want to pigeon hole

I am a queer woman of color in my early 30s. I, erm, have recently realized how much I LONG for a role model. But I don't want to just pigeon hole anyone who checks off those same identity category boxes; I know how annoying that can be. Is there some sort of a mentoring program like that? Online or IRL? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 2:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Can anyone tell me what this poster means?

This poster was acquired in a random pile of things I salvaged from an artistic horder friend. I took it for its aesthetic value. It would appear to have something to do with the Israeli- Palestinian conflict. Beyond that, I know nothing about it. I do not know what politics it reflects, nor the meaning of the phrase on it. Any insight is appreciated!
posted by SystematicAbuse at 12:48 PM PST - 3 comments

White pumpkin recipes?

As part of a journey to the final frontier of frugality, I have some white pumpkins to eat. Regular American pumpkins, not Indian white pumpkin. Are they the same as orange? Can I make a squash soup with them? Or do you have some other ideas? Thanks!
posted by 8603 at 12:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Diagnose my Leg

2 nights ago, when I got home from training I noticed pain in my right leg, outside of the shin, a few inches up from the ankle. It was sore and a little throbbing at rest, mild discomfort on plantarflexion and dorsiflexion, quite sore on eversion and a sharp pain on inversion - about a 7. I iced it straight away but the pain got worse. There is a tear drop shaped tender spot that feels very bruised but there is no bruising or redness. Pictured [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 12:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Help ID this artist

Within the past 10-15 years the Museum School in Boston had a gallery show for a recently deceased (?) artist. I’m trying to remember her name. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 12:09 PM PST - 1 comment

Brand or company associated with this logo/insignia?

In this YouTube video about setting up a microphone for livestreaming, there is a pillow/cushion in the background to the right of the presenter. Does anyone anyone know the company/brand/entity associated with that logo? (I asked in the comments section but am still waiting for response.)
posted by mistersquid at 12:04 PM PST - 2 comments

Dress me for summer fieldwork.

I just accepted job offer for an ecological fieldwork position in the Ozarks this summer -- yay!! I'm super excited! And now I probably need to upgrade my wardrobe in a big way, please halp! [more inside]
posted by Ornate Rocksnail at 12:00 PM PST - 16 comments

Women singers similar to Peter Gabriel?

I've been listening to mostly music by women these days. I love Peter Gabriel, especially his first four albums. Looking for recommendations of women who have made or especially are making currently music with a similar vibe or sound.
posted by kokaku at 11:36 AM PST - 11 comments

Snorkeling mask and waterproof camera bags?

I'm headed south to warm waters with pretty fish at the end of the month and am considering purchasing a full-face snorkeling mask and waterproof camera bags. I'll use them at least 4 times on this trip and probably once or twice a year after. Do you have any recommendations or cautionary tales? I've been reading Amazon reviews and am on the fence. I'm in Canada so our Amazon options are slightly different than the US ones but any input welcome. [more inside]
posted by mireille at 11:03 AM PST - 7 comments

Teach me how to cook faster, through videos.

I enjoy cooking. I am very slow at it. Recipes generally take me 2-3 times longer than the internet would lead me to believe. I want to get better at chopping/prepping/multitasking/(washing?). [more inside]
posted by frizzle at 10:35 AM PST - 30 comments

Fonts and copyright

I want to make a font but would prefer to modify an existing one. Help me understand what license I need the original font to have and where to find an appropriate font. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 6:35 AM PST - 4 comments

"Can we dig up your driveway?" Can they?

YANML. I have a house. There's construction happening next door. They want to dig up my driveway. UK, snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 4:18 AM PST - 37 comments

Help me show my literary-minded aunt a good time in Boston and nearby

My aunt is visiting and has an interest in American literature (specialized in it in college) and is an English teacher. She's visiting from outside the US. We're based in the Boston-area which is perfect for this kind of thing - so would love to hear about gems we can explore either within the city or on day trips or perhaps one weekend away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:44 AM PST - 25 comments

Cows for Cash

A friend's drag/burlesque troupe once teamed up with a taste test organisation to run some meat-testing sessions in return for funding from that org. It was the first time many of us had heard of this option and we found it pretty novel and creative. What are some other unusual or unique ways that you know of for raising money, especially for creative pursuits?
posted by divabat at 2:54 AM PST - 15 comments

March 9

Looking for recs for interventional radiologist in NYC

What it says. I'm considering uterine artery embolization to treat fibroids, and there are some complications re: size and location. In addition to (of course) wanting a skillful practitioner and one who would treat the resulting pain appropriately, I'd like to be able to get the best, most up-to-date advice as to whether it's even feasible for me. My GYN is clearly leaning a bit towards surgery (pending MRI results), but that's, after all, his practice, not IR, and so his idea (and his intuitive preference) of what would contraindicate UAE may not be state-of-the-art. Any tales of personal experience would also be welcomed.
posted by anonymous at 9:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Could my fatigue be a rebound effect of quitting Wellbutrin or Vyvanse?

Is it possible that my body has gotten used to having certain neurotransmitters artificially amped up, and no longer regulates those systems effectively by itself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:51 PM PST - 6 comments

treatment for "complicated grief"

Have you experienced and worked through complicated grief/persistent complex bereavement disorder after the death of a loved one? Tell me how it got better. (content note: suicide) [more inside]
posted by supersweet at 9:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Running loons on the Cape

So, on a whim, I signed up for the Cape Cod Ragnar relay. I have experience of road races and of the East Coast, but not of Ragnars and not of Massachusetts. Help me minimize my rookie problems...so far, the office Race Bible only covers so many questions (and anyway, the founders are flyover-country yokels like me). [more inside]
posted by armeowda at 8:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Lady shoes advice

I am a woman. I have a seersucker pantsuit. What shoes should I wear with it? [more inside]
posted by something something at 8:25 PM PST - 23 comments

Ginger aliquots

How much does 2"x1" ginger weigh? [more inside]
posted by maryr at 5:27 PM PST - 9 comments

Pausing Wellbutrin/bupropion two days after starting: can I?

Pretty much what the title says, but a few more details below. (YANMD, obvs.) [more inside]
posted by adastra at 4:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Irish Brown Bread. Do you have a great recipe?

During my first trip to Ireland last year I fell in love with the brown bread. Unlike the Irish brown bread I've had in the US, it was not dry and sandy and crumbly. Instead, it was moist, nutty, and hearty and amazing with butter and marmalade. I've looked at lots of online recipes, but rather than try 50 different ones in search of a great one, I thought I'd ask if anyone has a great standby formula they can personally share. Thanks!
posted by Miko at 3:52 PM PST - 13 comments

How bad are window AC units (old and/or new) for mold allergy?

I'm trying to find a new apartment in Chicago. A lot of older high-rises, which would otherwise be a good fit, have window air conditioner units. I'm seeing a lot of warnings about mold in window AC units. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 3:36 PM PST - 15 comments

Book and resource recommendations for midlife permasingles

I'm a male nearing 50 who's only ever had one long-term relationship, and isn't wired for short-term ones. For multiple reasons including but not limited to long-term unemployment and mental health disability, I would estimate my odds at another as very slim (I also have social anxiety so have never been able to be the "pursuer"). I'm looking for recommendations for either online resources to have a good life nevertheless, representations of permanently single men and women in fiction or on film whether uplifting or downbeat, or good how-to guides on living alone. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Like Metafilter for antique and furniture maintenance and restoration

Are there forums or other resources that discuss with credibility how to restore or at least maintain antiques or fine furniture? [more inside]
posted by seasparrow at 1:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Creatinine levels and all that follow (YANMD) (Lithium filter)

My blood draw has showed slightly elevated creatine levels. I'm a little freaked out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Where Have All the Good Jeans Gone?

Plus Size Jeans, 2018 Edition. [more inside]
posted by ApathyGirl at 12:54 PM PST - 21 comments

He believes millions of illegal immigrants voted in the election tho

A beloved family member has drunk so much of the right-wing Kool-Aid that they believe even Snopes has a treacherous liberal bias. I'd like to be able to go through his cesspool of a Facebook page, identify the Russian troll factory-originated memes and accounts, and plunk a report down in front of him at the next family gathering. Are there any resources for this, like a directory of memes? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 AM PST - 21 comments

Who has a hybrid car and is able to fit their bicycle inside of it?

Pretty much what the question says: I want a car that uses the least possible gas, which I assume to be a hybrid, and which I can put my bike in without removing wheels, if possible. Basically a Honda Fit or similar, but hybrid? (An electric car is not an option for my living situation.) [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 11:52 AM PST - 23 comments

Friday Night Dinner from the Slow Cooker - Easy, Tasty AND Impressive?

We are having ten people for Shabbat dinner next Friday. I want it to feel a little fancy, make them think that I am a good cook and yet minimize the effort. It also needs to be fish or vegetarian. I'm thinking slow cooker - I have about 30 minutes in the morning to prep. I will be home an hour before dinner but don't want to spend much of that time time cooking. Ideas?
posted by metahawk at 11:31 AM PST - 27 comments

Who are Wade and Joann?

Movie characters? Book characters? TV Characters? Something else? I was just given the nickname Joann and my counterpart is being called Wade. It won't stop unless and until we understand the reference. Driving me nuts. I strongly prefer Brenda, but that's not on the table. Metafilter, do your thang! Thanks so much you guys!
posted by janey47 at 10:41 AM PST - 36 comments

How badly do I need to get this tooth pulled?

I need to get a tooth pulled. I can do it for X amount at the local dental school but I really, really need that X amount for other living expenses. Can it wait? [more inside]
posted by item at 10:18 AM PST - 32 comments

What yarn should I use to re-knit a hoodie (ideally like the original)?

[knit-filter] I actually asked this on ravelry and got mostly unhelpful responses. I knitted a hoodie with yarn that, for whatever reason, broke really easily and the sweater became unwearable. I loved the heft and softness of the yarn (Eco Cloud) but feel like, if I go to all the trouble, I need to try something else. Looking for a soft, durable yarn of approximately the same weight as Eco Cloud. A few more details below. [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 9:42 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for the best CHEAP unlined notebooks

Consider someone practicing their drawing skills. Tons of studies and practice, no actual finished pieces. Think two hundred hands in a row done in pencil. This person is going to go through a lot of paper. What notebook is best for this person?
posted by FakeFreyja at 8:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Is it worth it to vacation for a week in Europe/UK?

I am finally considering taking vacation, and would love to go overseas. However, I may just have a week to take off (possibly two if I’m lucky) and considering either London or Amsterdam (or Iceland because the tickets are not super expensive.) it would be in June. I’m flying from the east coast and have never flown outta the country alone before. Is it worth it to go overseas for a week? Or is that a waste with the travel time? What are some weeklong US alternatives if so? Budget snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 8:38 AM PST - 30 comments

What do you do when you discover your words have been stolen?

I found out that a previous classmate on a group project has taken my written description of the project and is using it on their portfolio Web site. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:04 AM PST - 20 comments

Tips for a life free of rats

My house has a rodent problem. How can I mitigate it, and cope in the meantime? Bonus dead rats inside D-: [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 6:29 AM PST - 10 comments

French Audiobooks & Podcasts Online (USA)

I am studying French (in the USA), and would like to listen to some contemporary audiobooks and podcasts on my iPhone. Where can I find them online? My French is at an intermediate/B1 level. [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 5:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Decimal Minutes Stopwatch

I need a cheap stopwatch that displays minutes and 1/100 minutes rather than minutes and seconds. I can't find anything under $50. Does anyone know of $10 to $20 stopwatch with this feature?
posted by grahahw at 5:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Which of these organisations should I join, Sydney AUS.

Hey, I'm a uni student currently living on occupied Darug land, and travelling into the city for uni several days a week. I'm looking to get more involved in activism and things this year and was wondering if anyone on metafilter had comments on either joining the IWW (barebones site right-now), or continuing my just initiated relationship with either Solidarity or the Socialist Alliance. [more inside]
posted by AnhydrousLove at 5:27 AM PST - 4 comments

Have you seen later-in-life anorexia? (trigger: disordered eating)

Do you know any men or women who BEGAN their disordered eating later in life, such as past the age of 25? 30? (I picked arbitrary numbers and would be interested to hear about anorexia onset at any age above, say, 19.) Can you tell me more about their situation? More details below. [more inside]
posted by flyingfork at 1:59 AM PST - 19 comments

March 8

How to not be rude when I need to stop talking to you

I have a hard time ending conversations in professional settings, especially when it comes to clients (this applies to friends, too, but I can at least limit conversations with them to text) and especially on the phone. When it appears that they're going to keep talking (like this evening, for an hour and a half until 11pm!), I lie to myself that it's fine to let them keep talking because they're nice and I want them to like me. [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 9:33 PM PST - 26 comments

Recommended reading on the Great Migration

Looking for suggested readings on the Second Great Migration, specifically stuff about African Americans traveling from from the South to the Western states or California in specific. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:07 PM PST - 3 comments

When do second go-arounds in relationships work?

I've come to the conclusion that I have a lot of emotional baggage and issues that preclude me from forming healthy romantic relationships. The last relationship ended, but I've been given a second chance at a go-around. However, I'm apprehensive about it. So, for those of you who've gone through this before, what makes it worthwhile to try again, versus keeping the breakup, a breakup? (special snowflakes inside) [more inside]
posted by phoiyikas at 8:29 PM PST - 18 comments

First-time international travel tips + London recommendations?

I'm going to go see a show in London in mid-May, and it will be my first time really traveling internationally (not counting a cruise that didn't really count). I'll be traveling solo. I'm generally pretty well-organized and low-stress about travel planning, but could use some advice from seasoned jetsetters for this trip. Specific questions and a recommendation request under the fold. [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 7:51 PM PST - 37 comments

What are some other video games that have created fake languages/speech?

I'm intrigued by fake languages/speech that characters use in video games. I'm thinking of games like Celeste, Splatoon 2, or The Sims. Those are just a few off the top of my head, what are some other examples?
posted by Fizz at 7:35 PM PST - 15 comments

My shower curtain smells like pee...the internet says it doesn't.

I've googled "shower curtain” “urine” and the results all list a bunch other reasons why my bathroom might smell like urine. I know for certain that it's my shower curtain - that's it on the inside of the curtain. [more inside]
posted by bonobothegreat at 7:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Has the one-ballot-only primary system ever been challenged in court?

I am an independent voter in Illinois, and have strong opinions on which Democrat I'd prefer on the ballot in November and which Republican I'd (really, really not) prefer. Illinois is an "open primary" state, so I can choose either party's ballot to vote on. But I can't take both. That means practically speaking that I can only vote halfway in the primary. In a two-party system where the Democrat or Republican will win a national race 99.999% of the time, the ability to only vote for primary candidates from one party feels disenfranchising. [more inside]
posted by AgentRocket at 6:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Different Tune, Same Words

The East German national anthem could be sung to the tune of the (then West) German national anthem (and, consequently, vice versa). Are there other examples of lyrics that work with multiple tunes?
posted by hoyland at 6:53 PM PST - 31 comments

How can I make my health an intrinsically motivated personal value?

I tend to live in my mind and take my physical health for granted. I know I need to get into better shape and sometimes I go on a health kick for a few months, but the fitness gains never last and I will backslide to my original state. Please help me break this cycle! [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 6:13 PM PST - 13 comments

No, I want it THERE

I like to have my frequently-used programs in the system tray bar at the bottom of my Windows 10 desktop. This means it is a single click to open a new instance of Chrome or Notepad or whatever. Except sometimes the open window gets bumped to the end. More detail within. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel at 5:46 PM PST - 6 comments

ISO Discussion Forum/Group for Commitment Phobic Women

I'm looking for good active forum, perhaps there's a better search term to use? I've looked in Reddit, Google Groups and basic web-searches, but I'm not finding any active forums. Some have posts no more recent than 2006. Please, guys, MY FRIEND NEEDS YOUR HELP!!! :D :D :D
posted by alice_curiouse at 4:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Durable electric kettle?

For ~3.5 years I have had this Hamilton Beach electric kettle (#40996Z), but sadly it seems to have given up the ghost today -- or at least, the electric display still works but it is no longer heating up. So I'm now in the market for a new electric kettle -- any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by crazy with stars at 3:52 PM PST - 18 comments

Another Movie ID Question - Olympia Dukakis in an old orange car.

Mid 90s, Olympia Dukakis (I think), road movie, orange 60s Dodge Dart or Plymouth Valiant, appeard to be set in the 90s, sidekick was a crazy late teens or early twenties woman. I've checked IMDB and Google and can't find any Olympia Dukakis movie that fits this. [more inside]
posted by BenevolentActor at 3:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Good Old-Fashioned Sci-Fi Escapism

The last several books I've read have been good but Heavy and Sad. I would now like to read some Exciting Space Adventures. [more inside]
posted by darchildre at 1:46 PM PST - 43 comments

Folk-punk recommendations

I really like the new Titus Andronicus album ("A Productive Cough"), which I can best describe as "Folk-punk" or maybe "backyard punk hoedown". What else would I like along these lines? [more inside]
posted by no regrets, coyote at 1:44 PM PST - 29 comments

Easy way to get decimal GPS coordinates on iOS & Android?

Looking for an easy way to get decimal GPS coordinate (ex: 32.4883, -4.0393) on mobile devices, running either iOS or Android. It should be easy to copy these coordinates to send to a group. Not looking for how to do location sharing.
posted by Brandon Blatcher at 1:21 PM PST - 15 comments

STEAM education program urgently needs bulk tubing quote

I need to price out some tubing for a children's project. I am befuddled by my options. [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 1:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Break out 401k or keep paying monthly minimum debts?

Dear Friends, Brothers & Sisters! Please share your valuable insights, wisdom. [more inside]
posted by globalbuddy at 12:30 PM PST - 15 comments

Good films on Shudder

Do you subscribe to Shudder? What are the best films you've seen on there? If you remember the film was foreign language with English subtitles please could you mention? Thanks!
posted by KateViolet at 12:05 PM PST - 8 comments

"Dumpster Fire" citations? Radar Secret Service band connection?

Looking for pre-2008 metaphorical uses of the phrase "Dumpster Fire". Also looking for lyrics to the song "Dumpster Fire" by Radar Secret Service. [more inside]
posted by Squid Voltaire at 11:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Is there a way to look up ACCURATE arrest records?

Those websites like BeenVerified and Intellius etc, suck big time. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 11:04 AM PST - 11 comments

Chicago suburban home finding for sticker-shocked Indy transplants?

Moving to Chicago suburbs from Indy suburbs. My husband's new job will be in Northbrook. Is it possible to find a 5br, 3ba updated SFH within an hour's commute for $450-550,000? [more inside]
posted by percor at 10:52 AM PST - 11 comments

What the heck is going on with my laptop's color management?

My laptop is doing weird things with colors. They look different in different browsers, or sometimes in the same browser but for different versions of the same image. I'm mystified. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 10:33 AM PST - 3 comments

Feeding 30-40 people...

I’m throwing a baby shower for my very best friend this Monday and I need a little advice about food and making sure I have enough of it. (I asked about everything else baby shower related here and you guys were a HUGE help. I claimed I had food under control. I was perhaps over confident...) Specific questions (including instant pot questions) inside. [more inside]
posted by Weeping_angel at 9:17 AM PST - 27 comments

I'm going to NYC, so tell me what to NY-See.

Looking for your best recommendations of things to see and do in New York City over a few days in March (Wed. 3/21 - Sat. 3/24). I'll be travelling with family, but because of reasons, I'll have lots of time on my own. Lots of info within about my personal tastes and interests. [more inside]
posted by Rock Steady at 9:04 AM PST - 46 comments

what do I do about this unresponsive recruiter?

I am working with a recruiter on a contract job. They have gone MIA several times. I really want this job and I feel I'm close to it, or would be if he weren't such an unresponsive [expletive]. What can I do, if anything? Timeline inside [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 9:01 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for private doggy daycare in LA area...

I need to get my dog out of the house while contractors are working during the day, but she isn't good with other dogs and is somewhat high strung. Any recommendations for a doggy daycare that has a quiet setup for individual dogs, near Los Angeles/South Bay? She doesn't need a lot of people interaction during the day, but one huge room with 100 dogs barking is going to traumatize us both.
posted by lemonade at 8:54 AM PST - 7 comments

Fruit trees struggling in rocky soil - how can I help them out?

I have some fruit trees that were planted in hard, rocky soil. They're getting by, but certainly not flourishing (or providing much fruit). In an ideal world we would have improved the soil before the trees had been planted. Is there anything we can do now, though? I have lots of great compost, but I don't know if layering it on top of the rocky soil will do much if it can't penetrate. Thanks!
posted by malhouse at 8:44 AM PST - 7 comments

Force new tab in Chrome (on a mac)

Most of the time command+click opens a new tab in the background just fine and I can navigate there when I'm ready. Recently though, more and more sites seem to have broken that functionality and it's stopped working as expected. I'm not sure why or if there's a way to solve it. [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 8:13 AM PST - 2 comments

Talk to me like it's 1997

How did people aged roughly 15-20 speak to each other -- and to themselves -- in 1997? [more inside]
posted by platitudipus at 8:10 AM PST - 44 comments

Losing weight as a busy adult, 1400-1600 calorie range. What do you eat?

I'm feeling inspired by the NYTimes piece by Jane Brody on her weight loss. Help me do the same? Some challenges (of course) inside. [more inside]
posted by metarkest at 7:58 AM PST - 31 comments

What are your best daily, tiny habits?

What good can you do in less than 5 minutes a day? I'm reading The Compound Effect by Darren Hardy. He challenges readers to adopt six tiny, daily good habits. What things do you do daily that take very little time, and have provided significant life improvements? [more inside]
posted by angiep at 7:42 AM PST - 53 comments

Rose experts advise, please!

My husband gave me a mini rose bush for Valentine's Day instead of cut flowers. How can I keep it alive until it can be planted outside (without buying a grow light or something)? It's not doing well indoors at all, and while I don't have a green thumb, googling leads me to believe that it's impossible for a rose to thrive under regular indoor lighting, even on a window sill. What's my best option? [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 7:36 AM PST - 6 comments

Like The Golden Bough, but accurate

As a high school student, I discovered Frazer's The Golden Bough and was fascinated. Unfortunately, it turns out that "whenever the evidence did not fit he simply altered the evidence". Is there any book you can recommend which is as wide-ranging in its anthropological and historical interests but more truthful?
posted by clawsoon at 7:02 AM PST - 7 comments

I made a financial plan for the next 3 years, and I am obsessed with it.

I am a planner. I have plans for almost every facet of my life. It is just how I am wired. My problem is that I feel as though I am obsessed with this new financial plan. It is difficult for me to do any activity without my mind wandering to my beauteous spreadsheet I made. [more inside]
posted by squirbel at 6:27 AM PST - 16 comments

Icelandic pop song 1986

Looking for the name of the Icelandic pop song that was so big in the summer of 1986, something about "never gonna stop singing in the key of g", only sung in Icelandic of course. NOT Bjork, guessing won't help as I can't seem to find any lists of top hits from that year. Bonus points if you can link me to it on Youtube or someplace.
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 1:49 AM PST - 3 comments

March 7

Staying productive while depressed

I have a very intense job that doesn't really slow down, ever. I was doing very well at managing it and had finally sort of found my footing, but I just experienced a surprising personal crisis of a sort and I'm not sure how to keep pushing. I have lost my motivation. [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 8:36 PM PST - 16 comments

Sleep specialist in Portland OR

I have tried to get to the bottom of my sleep issues before, to no avail. It's time to try again. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by hishtafel at 7:56 PM PST - 7 comments

A trip to Bernieland

I am driving from Philadelphia, Pennsylvania to Burlington, Vermont at 9AM on Friday morning. Is this a horrible idea? [more inside]
posted by marvelousmellitus at 7:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Canuckian Seeking Grape Relaxation in Mickey's House

Can Canucks Bring Wine into the United States of America? [more inside]
posted by joelhunt at 7:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Video Editing for Dummies

What's the best video editing software for someone who's never edited video before? [more inside]
posted by SquidLips at 7:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Life after CBT

I've reached the limits of what CBT can do for me. If you did too, or it didn't work for you, what next? [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 5:20 PM PST - 17 comments

Emotional blackmail via cult participation

My mother is part of a religious cult and after two years of not speaking to me, she wants me to go to a meeting. Should I go? (Urgent: need advice within 24 hours) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:56 PM PST - 70 comments

Do I need to delete my ex & his family/friends off social media forever?

I am having a very difficult time with my break up 2 weeks ago and have mixed feelings towards my ex. On the one hand, I may want to keep in touch with him in the future once the dust has settled - on the other, seeing him take an interest in other women on social media is killing me. [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 3:10 PM PST - 42 comments

Where can I find a Big Dumb Arrow Javascript library?

I have an extremely basic website with a link to a file. When the user clicks on that link, I want the download to start and for a big arrow to appear pointing at where the download is happening (bottom left toolbar for Chrome, the download arrow at the top right for Firefox, etc.). Like this site does. Surely someone has written a javascript library that detects the browser and points an arrow at the appropriate location, right? Seems like a really common use case, but I'm having trouble tracking such a thing down. Where can I find one?
posted by JDHarper at 1:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Should I pay cash for a house?

When my divorce is final, I expect to get a payout big enough to pay cash for the full price of a modest home in the city where I live. I want to do this, but enough people have told me that this is a terrible idea that I am getting nervous and would like help understanding the pros and cons. A few more details about my situation inside. [more inside]
posted by croutonsupafreak at 1:39 PM PST - 39 comments

Little time to spend in Little Rock, Arkansas

I'll be in Little Rock from the afternoon of March 18 through the afternoon of March 22, where I'll be attending a conference at the Statehouse Convention Center. What are good things to see and do there in the evening, or on Sunday afternoon? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 1:06 PM PST - 6 comments

ISO funny piece of writing about conversing while looking after toddler

I'm looking for a funny thing I read online a while back - it was written as a dialogue of a parent trying to have adult conversations with a friend while looking after a toddler. I believe I read it about 6 months ago. Can't find it anywhere...searching for "conversations with toddler" and various permutations obviously throws up a lot of not-it. Does anyone remember? [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 1:00 PM PST - 7 comments

Never the twain shall meet?

My wife has evolved recently into a non-dairy dietary approach. I like dairy: milk, cream for my coffee and occasional ice cream. Soy, almond and cashew milk have an aftertaste I don't like. Help us to remain married with resources that value both worlds. By the way, I don't like kale either.
posted by Xurando at 12:46 PM PST - 37 comments

Web host advice for tech illiterate person

I need help finding a new hosting service but get overwhelmed since I'm not even sure what it means to be a shared/managed/wordpress/vps host? [more inside]
posted by Bossypants at 12:07 PM PST - 8 comments

I know this is wrong. I can't say why. It drives me bonkers.

A colleague puts an adverb before a noun every single time. The sentence: "The below graphic provides a guideline for X." I know it's incorrect, but... why? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 11:34 AM PST - 23 comments

Student debt vs remortgage in England

Asking for a worried friend: Will a current student debt to Student Finance England count against an application for a remortgage in the future? The next one is due in five years.
posted by Carravanquelo at 11:18 AM PST - 4 comments

advertising tutoring services through Facebook ads

Does anyone have experience advertising their tutoring services by paying for Facebook ads? What was your experience like and was it cost effective in getting new students? Thanks!
posted by Gosha_Dog at 9:37 AM PST - 2 comments

Ectopic beats: anxiety or a medical problem?

I've always had anxiety and I've always had palpitations, but normally it's just an odd beat or 2 and it's back to normal. Lately I've been having runs of skipped beats that are scaring the bejeezus out of me. How should I proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:11 AM PST - 15 comments

Do I need to hire a surveyor? Or is there a DIY GPS fix?

With neighbors building fences and additions, I'd like to figure out exactly where my property lines are. I have various plats and maps from the county, and they have some longitude and latitude information, but is there a GPS-based way to determine the actual property lines on my own? Or do I need to pay the $1,000 + for a professional job?
posted by RandlePatrickMcMurphy at 9:10 AM PST - 13 comments

Tell me about your favorite songs sung by womxn/women, please

For an International Womens Day radio program - bonus points if it's not sung in English. [more inside]
posted by vjpdx at 8:49 AM PST - 30 comments

Wearable camera

I want to buy a very simple lightweight camera that I can use as a sort-of on-person dashboard cam. Preferably something not too expensive, that I can clip on my coat or backpack. Quality should be good enough to see number plates. I don't care about quality otherwise, though it would be really nice if it worked okay-ish in low light. [more inside]
posted by blub at 8:26 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm tired of being a lizard

I have adult-onset eczema on my face and neck. If you have facial eczema, what do you do to combat flareups? What sorts of things do you say to your doctor to get help? [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 8:23 AM PST - 17 comments

Treating headaches with radiation?

A friend of mine has cancer and the outlook is not good. He just sent me a text that says they are starting "radiation today on my skull to alleviate headaches." I'm puzzled by this, I don't have a doctor to ask and I certainly don't want to bug him. Can anyone here knowledgeably explain the rationale behind this and what it might mean overall in terms of his prognosis? (Though I appreciate the anticipated sympathy, that's not what I need. I need information.)
posted by donpardo at 7:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me find a structural engineer in the Bay Area, please

We have a few old-house issues that need a structural engineer to analyze for us. We have had difficulty finding any, but mostly because we've looked on Yelp. [more inside]
posted by honey badger at 7:27 AM PST - 3 comments

Another European vacation question.

My wife is speaking at a conference in Aarhus, Denmark on the weekend of June 9th. Where should we travel afterwards? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 6:57 AM PST - 8 comments

How best to offer emotional support to an incarcerated person by letter?

I've become interested in the case of an activist and organizer that is currently in prison. This is not someone I know personally, but I know their work and advocacy. Their family has been sharing suggestions on how best to support this person, and one suggestion is to write letters of emotional support. I'm interested in doing this, and I'd just like some suggestions on what to say AND what not to say. (Firsthand experiences, either from senders or receivers, would be especially appreciated.)
posted by duffell at 6:31 AM PST - 4 comments

Repelling the Recurring Ravenous Rodent

We went away for a long weekend, leaving Mr. Jane's truck parked in our suburban driveway. Upon our return, the truck was running oddly. Took it in to the dealer and found that a rodent had crawled up in the truck and chewed through a bunch of hoses and wiring. Yesterday, after parking the truck in the driveway overnight, (after another weekend trip, on which we took the truck) the truck is running poorly. The rodent has AGAIN chewed up hoses and wiring. We would like this to stop. How? [more inside]
posted by sarajane at 6:21 AM PST - 12 comments

volunteering between keyboard and chair

I'd like to make a list of online places to volunteer for that I can do sitting in my chair at home. Especially interested in stuff where I can help out people e.g. people who can't hear or see. Examples: transcribing audio/books (e.g. for libraries (which libraries currently need this?), Mefi podcast), subbing foreign language videos, Be My Eyes. I sometimes get pretty bad anxiety so would prefer ones where I wouldn't come into contact with actual humans. Thanks!
posted by womb of things to be and tomb of things that were at 5:09 AM PST - 11 comments

Dealing with the snack table

We have a snack table at work, refilled regularly with sweets. I would like to avoid it, but find this difficult. Help! [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 4:18 AM PST - 34 comments

March 6

Coping with one-handed parenting after De Quervain’s Release surgery?

How can I adjust to being a good Dad and husband without the luxury of using my dominant hand? [more inside]
posted by melorama at 11:02 PM PST - 14 comments

In Asia for 2 weeks, daily prescription was lost in transit...

On a 2 week business trip with stops in China, Japan, Taiwan. I noticed that my daily meds which were in my carry on luggage must have fallen out somewhere between the airport and the hotel after going through customs. [more inside]
posted by eusebis_w_adorno at 9:41 PM PST - 6 comments

IO Theater's Summer Intensive Program for Improv - worth it?

I'm tryig to decide whether the five-week intensive program in Improv given at the IO Theater would be worthwhile. Anyone out there share any insight/excperience with it? I've been doing improv for about a year, taking weekly classes in Ottawa. I've been loving it.
posted by storybored at 9:15 PM PST - 3 comments

chemistry, desires, connection, the slog of dating

How do you distinguish between possible dating connection (which may lack a romantic spark/instant connection at first but that's totally okay) and a basic lack of compatibility? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 7:50 PM PST - 13 comments

In search of a yoga studio in NYC that's doing a fun retreat this year!

I'm looking for a great yoga retreat that's being done by a studio in NYC. I want to be able to visit the studio a few times beforehand and meet the teachers and other students. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 7:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Packaged website sales

What are some reputable packaged websites I could resell? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 7:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Classical music desert island playlist...for the Isle of the Dead?

I am on a hunt for little or lesser-known classical music that invokes disquiet or suspense in the listener. Specifics below the fold! [more inside]
posted by shelbaroo at 6:50 PM PST - 25 comments

I am desperately bored.

Please help me find an exciting hobby. [more inside]
posted by pumpkinlatte at 5:14 PM PST - 39 comments

Can moderate bee sting allergies get worse?

Can a "large local reaction" to bee stings become a systemic reaction in the future? Should I take any special precautions? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 4:49 PM PST - 12 comments

How to frame a mass market paperback book so I can hang it on the wall?

I've got some beloved mass market paperbacks from my youth with amazing cover art, and I've long wanted to display them on my walls. But how to do so? [more inside]
posted by mylittlepoppet at 4:04 PM PST - 7 comments

Really low rent -- any pitfalls?

Is there a downside (for either side) to charging a good tenant a very low rental rate? My husband and I want to decide how little to charge a friend whom we already know will be a responsible renter. [more inside]
posted by wryly at 3:48 PM PST - 16 comments

Manicure etiquette?

My friends are planning to take me to my first-ever manicure for my birthday, but it's my first time and I have some questions... [more inside]
posted by middlethird at 3:47 PM PST - 15 comments

How was a DIY satellite dish engineered in the 1980s?

In the early- to mid-80s, my dad, an electrical engineer, made a DIY satellite dish. I know what was on the outside, but I don't know what was on the inside. Sadly, he's gone and can't explain it to me. What did he cobble together, and how did it work with satellite technology of the time? [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 3:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me name our summertime fun club!

Help me come up with a name for a loose, bi-weekly gathering of close friends taking place throughout the summer at various local beaches! [more inside]
posted by wats at 3:16 PM PST - 15 comments

In my mind I'm going to Music City

So I've got a bunch of songs I've written for music compositions that are likely mostly in the public domain. Looking for some clarity on what I'm not understanding from all teh googles. [more inside]
posted by tilde at 2:10 PM PST - 4 comments

What does a parent of a 9th grader need to know about college?

My kid is in 9th grade, and I'm wondering what I need to know, at this point, about getting my kid into college? Esp. with respect to a nontraditional school (no grades, for example). Is there anything I need to be doing now? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 1:50 PM PST - 38 comments

Try not to become a success, but rather try to become someone of value.

How do I come to terms with my child having absolutely no interest in all in participating in any extra-curricular activities at his school? [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 12:44 PM PST - 92 comments

Recs for apps that improve your life, keep you organized, etc.?

What are some great apps that have made your life easier or have been useful to you? I have a nice Android phone (finally) with space for plenty of apps, so I'm interested in apps that will help me with daily life – not games! What are some apps I should look into? I especially would love some recommendations of apps that keep you organized, manage time effectively and help you manage your finances. Any apps that allow you to save money that are legit would be interesting too. [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 12:29 PM PST - 21 comments

Spine Health

My work requires me to sit for extended periods of time, and while I try to stay conscientious of my posture, I constantly find myself slipping. I am considering getting one of those "posture correctors" (band that fits around the shoulders and torso). Are they effective? [more inside]
posted by Christ, what an asshole at 11:54 AM PST - 9 comments

How to be a prolific writer... at work

In my new position, I have to do a lot more writing (for external audiences) than I ever had before. How do I do it more quickly or efficiently? [more inside]
posted by RajahKing at 11:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Nail biting with a twist

I’ve been biting my nails for as long as I’ve been alive. There are a lot of resources for stopping, but my problem is that I bite my nails so that I can push them into my gums. I’ve been able to stop biting them for a few months, but I end up flossing my gums until they bleed or picking at them. Its a disgusting habit, and I worry that other people are able to notice and judge me for it. On the other hand, the sensation is extremely calming. How do I quit?
posted by Sotha Sil at 11:35 AM PST - 13 comments

That Sweet Sickness

I'd like to read more women authors like Patricia Highsmith but I mean something probably more specific than it sounds. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 10:39 AM PST - 24 comments

My sister needs help getting healthcare (ACA) in Maryland...

My sister certainly qualifies based on income, but she says she's given up on their website. She says she's sent everything they asked for, and they keep telling her either they didn't get it, or she submitted her request the wrong way. Meanwhile, I think the deadline has passed? My problem is, I have never had to do this (private, employer paid healthcare for 30 years). I don't even know what to tell her. What should she do?
posted by brownrd at 10:04 AM PST - 6 comments

NYC and DC with kids -- accomodations edition

We'll be heading to NYC and DC for a few days each next month. We have a 7-year-old. Do you have hotel/B&B recommendations? [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 9:55 AM PST - 16 comments

Good stuff on Netflix that might look like it's "just" for women/girls?

What are some good shows or movies on Netflix that I might have skipped because of the Male Glance? [more inside]
posted by straight at 9:40 AM PST - 61 comments

How to move Google Drive files to an external hard drive?

I'm running out of hard disk space. How can I move some large Google Drive files to a destination that's not my computer? [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 9:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a book

I would be very interested to find a book/website/other resource showing interesting differences in law (particular area of law doesn't matter, ideally a wide range) between different states (not a "wacky" laws list). Does such a work exist? I have been unable to find anything outside of the numerous lists online of goofy examples of laws. Thank you for any help you can provide. Have a great day.
posted by gibbsjd77 at 9:17 AM PST - 8 comments

Cleaning online information

Through a random event I googled my cell phone number. Wow. It showed my name and variations of my name. It also showed some backgrounds on these people. Some had lawsuits. Some had several wives. Some had prison records. And none of this is true for me. [more inside]
posted by jtexman1 at 8:59 AM PST - 9 comments

The Economics of Spotify - Local Band Version

Is Spotify Pay to Stream for small bands - inquiring minds want to know. [more inside]
posted by gsquared at 8:15 AM PST - 7 comments

How much extra does it cost to manufacture devices with USB-C connection

How much extra does it cost to manufacture electronic devices with USB-C connections vs micro USB connections? [more inside]
posted by purefusion at 7:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Why does my cursor randomly go back in text?

I have a Dell Inspiron 15 3000 series running 8.1. A while back, I started having a very irritating problem where I'll be typing and my cursor will suddenly jump back to an earlier place in the text. This happens in every program that involves typing. I can't find anything that the incidents have in common. Does anyone know how this might be or how to troubleshoot it?
posted by mermaidcafe at 7:23 AM PST - 11 comments

Dealing with NYC manspreaders

I'm a young smallish woman that takes the subway every day. I've encountered my fair share of manspreaders, who really make me uncomfortable. I understand that personal space is at a minimum on the train, but I don't like when guys take up my space with their legs splayed out. What should I do to confront these guys? I don't want to spread my legs out because it bothers me so much for some guy's leg to be touching mine. It feels very sexual-harrass-y. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 7:18 AM PST - 38 comments

How do Sales Reps get leads?

Sales Reps in B2B territory - how do you find new customers! [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 7:11 AM PST - 4 comments

How can I reseal my wonky iPod case?

I've just replaced the battery on my iPod classic, but because it was a pain to open and I had to pry the thing apart, there is now a gap at the sides between the front plate and the case (here's a pic) I can live with how it looks as I'm going to put a silicone case on it, but I'm concerned that it might leave it vulnerable to damage. What can I put on there to 'seal' the sides? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 6:34 AM PST - 3 comments

Help With a Real World Math Word Problem (Does not involve two trains)

Jimmy has leased a large number of copiers. The monthly lease cost of the copier contract is X which includes Y color impressions and Z black impressions per month. Color impressions over Y are billed at Yo per impression Black impressions over Z are billed at Zo per impression. What equation does Jimmy use to determine the actual per page cost for both color and black when given the monthly page counts for color and black.
posted by jmsta at 6:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Classical music for a preschooler

My four year old is really loving classical music, ballet scores, and like all little girls her age, John Philip Sousa marches. Particular favorites listed inside; do you have other recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:02 AM PST - 30 comments

Guy loses job but keeps coming in and getting paid?

An epic tale of a guy who lost his job but kept coming in and getting paid - where was that? [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 5:45 AM PST - 14 comments

Help with identifying this font?

Font inside. [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot at 4:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Items to Memorialize Our Honeymoon

My partner and I married last year and had a fantastic honeymoon, mostly spent at a couple national parks. I'm interested in finding things to memorialize our honeymoon--in a subtler fashion than a photo album. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:05 AM PST - 9 comments

Holidays with small children

We've recently come back from a holiday with our small children. The seven year old was fun to be around and enjoyed the holiday and we feel like we parented well. With regards the three year old, she hated the change to her routine and was a bit of a menace. It made the holiday feel like the opposite of a holiday. We have come back more exhausted than we went away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:05 AM PST - 24 comments

Please Help! What is the best present to bring from Berlin?

Who visited Berlin? Can you help me with places to visit and presents to bring? Need not big and heavy)
posted by Tori88 at 2:47 AM PST - 17 comments

Breastfeeding nipple torture after 10 weeks :-( please help!

What is going wrong with my breastfeeding and what, if anything, can help? [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 12:33 AM PST - 17 comments

March 5

Keep him awake or talking!

I'm watching a show and there's a moment when a character is given too much heroin. Other characters seem very insistent to keep him from sleeping and talking, thinking about it I've seen that in other movies, be it drugs or alcohol. Is this something that's just a trope? Or is there any actual value to keeping people up/cogent if there having chemical issues?
posted by Carillon at 11:03 PM PST - 9 comments

Insomniac and Asthmatic - Why can't I take Tryptophan?

I see the warnings everywhere, I googled the studies, but I still don't understand what happens that makes these herbs contraindicated with asthma. [more inside]
posted by generic230 at 9:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Combining 'things' in different ratios

I have $10000 to spend on plants (well I wish I did anyway). My plants come in two sizes which I'll call thing1 and thing2. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 8:26 PM PST - 6 comments

Can I be a piano "tutor"?

I have some questions about teaching piano lessons. [more inside]
posted by Lurch at 7:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Body hair. I rock my pit hair but can't get my legs out?

I've let all my body hair grow for the past 18 months (I'm female). My partner thinks it's awesome, and I feel good, in principle, about it. But I cannot bring myself to get my hairy legs out, and not sure how to get over it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:50 PM PST - 24 comments

Please help me not throw my printer out the window

I have an Epson WF-3640 all-in-one printer that is printing blurry text in some, but not all parts of documents. I have tried everything I can think of. An image of what I am talking about is below the fold. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 6:12 PM PST - 9 comments

How much house is too much?

Note that this question is literally about space, not cost. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 5:19 PM PST - 47 comments

Is there a WP or Squarespace site theme similar to this?

I really like the design and functionality of Cory Doctorow's website -- http://craphound.com/ -- and I'm wondering if anyone connected with web design might have seen something similar in an existing site theme? [more inside]
posted by zenpop at 5:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Moving out with limited income

Circumstances necessitate moving out of a family home quickly with less than $3000, no expensive possessions to be sold, no income beyond those savings, and a few bills that tap said savings at the tune of a few hundred per month. Minimalist lifestyle but no social circle I can lean on for a getaway. Walk me through the avenues I can pursue immediately and safely.
posted by missh at 3:37 PM PST - 11 comments

Special Snowflake Tired of Being Blown Around

I got angry at the bank today, but the situation is not entirely their fault. Came home upset enough about my financial situation to get it into real order, but this is a subject that triggers my anxiety disorder harder than just about anything, so I struggle at time to find the best way to proceed. I also know there are entities out there who like scamming desperate, confused people, so I'm hoping some Hivemind guidance will get me started on the right track. Details after the cut bcs every attempt to escape American poverty is unique! [more inside]
posted by EatTheWeak at 3:15 PM PST - 18 comments

Photo booths in the Greater Boston area?

The photo booth at the Diesel Café is out of order. Are there other old-school photo booths in the Greater Boston (i.e., within T-able distance) area? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 3:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Letter of recommendation for a writer's retreat. Who should I ask?

I can't think of a single person who can write such a letter because well, essentially no one beyond my family has read my work. [more inside]
posted by dostoevskygirl at 2:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Extra Day in Belfast. What to do?

We're doing a bit of a wirlwind honeymoon trip to both Scotland and Northern Ireland and I can't figure out what to do with the last Saturday (March 17) of the trip in Belfast. Also, it will be St. Patrick's Day. Is this a good or bad thing? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 2:51 PM PST - 5 comments

What to do and what to tell?

Poly-filter. Funny how things change, advice needed. This is a follow-up to a previous question but I will try to word this to avoid mandatory reading of the previous question. [more inside]
posted by Twinge at 2:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Suggestions to speed the recovery of a slight case of frost nip?

Over the past fortnight or so I seem to have given myself a couple slight cases of frost nip on the tops of a few of my toes. The affected areas are slightly red, swollen, sensitive to touch and easily irritated. Googling about for advice has netted instructions for immediate care (drying, rewarming, &c), but save topical application of aloe vera I've not found any recommendations for ongoing ministrations. [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 1:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Short trip to Iceland (alone)

I'm leaving for a short 3-day trip to Iceland in a few days. This is going to be my first solo trip so I would like to know how to make the most of it and stay safe (F, 26). [more inside]
posted by U.N.Owen at 12:43 PM PST - 21 comments

Work permits / unions for foreign construction workers in NY?

I work for a company that is creating a promotional installation, a temporary construction - based on two shipping containers filled with electronics and #hipstuff. We're based in the Netherlands, but our Dutch construction crew will be installing it in NYC, and later in California. Do we need permits? [more inside]
posted by Thisandthat at 12:21 PM PST - 10 comments

One by one, my friends age and turn to the right. I'd rather not.

Approaching 50 (about half a year out, now). English; male; liberal. Believe in immigration, diversity, the EU (remain voter), and education, public libraries and healthcare completely funded by e.g. higher corporate taxation. But, one by one of late, peers (colleagues, friends from university days) of my age have said some variation of "Actually, I think [right wing or fascist person] has a point" and then it's revealed they have quietly become the opposite of my (and their old) positions on many things. How can I stop this happening to me? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore at 10:41 AM PST - 51 comments

Another question seeking warm, sunny, Zika-free, beach destination

As described in the title – my spouse and I are seeking recommendations for a getaway destination and specific resort/hotel/villa. - Seeking to travel sometime within the next 3-4 months so locations with good weather during that time is critical – unwilling to risk rain and cooler temperatures. - Prefer adults only atmosphere, really want to avoid kids and families. - Departing from Washington DC. - Budget of around $3000 for two people, excluding airfare. - Not interested in Dubai, Spain/Canary Islands, Mallorca, Australia or New Zealand. [more inside]
posted by seesom at 9:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Did I leave money on the table?

I was in a Best Buy the other day that had an Nvidia-manufactured Geforce GTX 1080 with 8GB of RAM for sale for $589. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 9:23 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for successful governance structures for community organizations

I volunteer at a community radio station where we are in the process of trying to reform or replace the current board and governance structure with something that is more effective and offers representation for the diversity of viewpoints and stakeholders involved. Please share your experiences of what did and didn't work in orgs you have been a part of or offer examples of governance structures that you have found to be effective. [more inside]
posted by metaphorever at 9:17 AM PST - 2 comments

MomFilter: Physical exercises that helped you prepare for childbirth?

My gym has canceled several of my strenth-based and cardio classes, which has completely upended my routine. Bad timing - I'm 23 weeks along. In lieu of classes, I've taken to climbing the stairs at work, about 28 floors a day ( I guess that's 56 flights?) which is about 30 minutes total. I'm finding it helpful, and I'm curious what specific physical exercises helped others. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 9:12 AM PST - 14 comments

Is TM really better than other types of meditation?

I'm attending an intro talk on TM (Transcendental meditation) tonight and am having some doubts on the way the benefits have been sold. I heard an interview with Bob Roth, then attended the talk he gave in Philadelphia, and have received a few emails from the organization. While I have no doubt on the long term benefits of TM, it seems to me they've oversold the short term experience. If you've done TM, can you tell me if it's really that different from other meditation techniques, such as mindfulness? [more inside]
posted by daikon at 9:04 AM PST - 11 comments

The poisoned, post-divorce well of my kids’ school

After a nasty custody battle that settled permanently in my favor, the administration of my kids’ private school chooses to be Team Dad (because $$ & patriarchy) and the new principal, new counselor, and new secretary still seem to make things unpleasant for me at every turn. So I try to avoid setting foot in the school as much as possible, but this week I will absolutely have to enter the snake pit, and I don’t want to get triggered. Help me put on my armor. [more inside]
posted by edithkeeler at 8:38 AM PST - 27 comments

Stories of Successful Long-term Planning Coming to Fruition

I recently finished Cixiun Liu's "Rememberance of Earth's Past" Trilogy and I would like to read more multi-générational sci-fi problem solving. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 8:05 AM PST - 10 comments

What is going on with my mail?

I have a weird mail forwarding situation going on and I don't know how to get it to stop. [more inside]
posted by catoclock at 7:57 AM PST - 9 comments

Any advice for running a discussion-based Meetup?

I'm hoping to put together a discussion-based Meetup (as opposed to activity-based), but I don't have a lot of experience managing conversations between larger groups of strangers. What are some things to keep in mind when leading a discussion between 5 to 10 people? If the object is networking and socializing as much as it is to have stimulating discussion (maybe more so), what strategies can I use to see that people have a chance to get to know each other personally once the primary discussion or discussions have died down? [more inside]
posted by millions at 7:54 AM PST - 1 comment

I like to move it move it

Your favourite 30 Day Fitness Challenges? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 7:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Is this a healthy behavior in a new relationship?

My boyfriend of about 2.5 months asks for reassurance of my feelings/love for him and it is pushing me away/scaring me. Is asking for reassurances on feelings so soon a sign of insecurity or is this just me being a little guarded in my first new relationship after a pretty abusive (emotionally/mentally) relationship? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 at 7:31 AM PST - 33 comments

Deleting Old Mailing List Emails

I'm drowning in mailing list emails. I don't mind them in my inbox, as I like to monitor as they arrive (if they flowed into a separate Gmail folder, they'd be invisible). But they mess with searches. E.g. if I'm searching for a Jcrew order confirmation, results will include 2000 Jcrew marketing list emails. Also, any search term can be found a zillion times among my WaPo Daily 202 emails, etc. I need a process for deleting old mailing list items once they've gone cold, i.e. after a few days. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 7:17 AM PST - 20 comments

Help me hack my skype calls

Our team has frequent skype calls where ten people are in a conference room, and the two or three who call in feel forgotten. Please suggest some kit that can help (specified within) and any other best practices. [more inside]
posted by rebent at 6:55 AM PST - 6 comments

3 days in Nashville - what are the must- sees?

Gonna be there Monday to Wednesday next week [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 6:19 AM PST - 17 comments

What kind of bike do I want?

Spring is in the air and I'm getting all moony-eyed over the idea of a new bicycle. Brifters, disc brakes and threadless stems weren't even things the last time I went bike shopping. Whole marketing categories -- gravel, cyclocross, adventure -- have emerged. Contrary to the remembered hype of yesteryear, steel frames have not been completely displaced by aluminum and carbon fiber. I am overwhelmed. [more inside]
posted by jon1270 at 5:39 AM PST - 29 comments

All those sperm donor jokes are suddenly less funny.

I just found out I'm a donor-conceived person. How can I find the sperm donor, given that I was conceived in the 80s and donor anonymity was a thing? [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 5:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Is it safe to buy this for my kids?

I love this vintage desk and want to buy it. But is there a risk to my kids from the paint? 1960s French -- worried I will just worry about it but I can't find anything similar new in the UK.
posted by caoimhe at 4:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Tips for living with a high-functioning schizophrenic

My roommate is schizophrenic and I believe their behavior is affected by this. Living with them is getting difficult, and I'm looking for healthy and gracious coping strategies since breaking lease early is not an option. Advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Why was I cooled down as a newborn baby?

My mother has always told me that after she gave birth to me, the doctors snatched me away in a hurry. She wasn't clear why. Later they took her to where I was - inside a small cold bed by myself where she saw me shivering with cold. She was not allowed to grab me of course. Days later they returned me to her. What happened? [more inside]
posted by vacapinta at 2:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Best sources/book(s) for research on human decomposition...

Hi all, I am working on a writing project and need to know more about the different stages of human decomposition. I appreciate this varies depending on where the body is - but I am interested in woodland/forest type sites and the insects that aid the process. [more inside]
posted by TheGarden at 1:35 AM PST - 7 comments

Sit your ass down right here.

For 20-40hpw, I sit at my dining table to compute—in a garden variety hard wooden dining chair. Tiny furnished rental. Can’t change the chair, so what is the optimal cushion for butt and back support? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 1:10 AM PST - 5 comments

March 4

Responses to age / spinster / ugly shaming

I hear backhanded comments against people (including myself, and maybe I'm biased but it does seem skewed towards women) about people them being old / unattractive / fat / unmarried - and I want to take a stand but don't always have the words and am often too D: to think during those moments. [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 11:32 PM PST - 35 comments

What is a good ebook version of the Koran - Al Quran for me?

I think I would like to read the Koran. This is a blank spot in my education and knowledge of the world that I would like to fill in. But, I do not have the time, interest, or need for a deep study. [more inside]
posted by Gotanda at 7:43 PM PST - 4 comments

I'd like to wash my hair with bar soap. And still afford avocado.

We're trying to reduce the amount of plastic in our lives and a huge regular intruder are shampoo and conditioner bottles. I have bought specialist bar shampoos but I live with two hairy children who do unspeakable things like wash their toys and feet with $15 bars of shampoo soap. I'd like to explore using a common hand soap available in a supermarket with a follow up of cider vinegar or something. (Maybe. I don't know. Do I?) [more inside]
posted by taff at 6:55 PM PST - 25 comments

Both an Olympic Gold Medal and an Oscar?

Is Kobe Bryant the first person to have won both an Academy Award and an Olympic Gold Medal?
posted by themanwho at 6:50 PM PST - 3 comments

Headhunter for mid-career composer/orchestrator

Looking for a headhunter to help place a mid-careeer composer/orchestrator. He's been successful working on a contract basis with Big Name companies but would like to do more US film/tv. He's in LA and works primarily in LA and NYC. He's tried working peer networks and connections, and was wondering if there are reverse headhunters for this kind of thing? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 6:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Impossible group planning - suggestions please!

There is an important holiday celebration coming up and I am entangled in the seemingly impossible planning. Halp. [more inside]
posted by k8t at 5:43 PM PST - 19 comments

Delaying interviews

I am looking for a job. My current contract may end in 4 months. Luckily, there are jobs in my town I am qualified for, great! I accepted invites from recruiters to talk to hiring managers and ended up with onsite interview offers. But I am not ready. How to stall? [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 3:33 PM PST - 11 comments

Where to watch the Oscars outside of US with no cable.

I'm in Chile, no cable, just internet access. I want to watch the Oscars. Is there a way I can watch them in English online? I have a proxy server in the US I can connect through, if that helps [more inside]
posted by signal at 3:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me think through a neighborhood "chalk library."

Inspired by creative community-cultivating projects (such as Shepherd's "tiniest art gallery" and the many ideas presented in The Wrong Kind of Cheese's FPP), I'm interested in cultivating neighborliness by providing sidewalk chalk to the world! (Well, my little corner of it, anyway.) Help me think through the logistics. [more inside]
posted by duffell at 2:42 PM PST - 4 comments

How can I protect my hair from heat damage?

I’m looking for a hair product that will help protect my very fine hair from damage caused by blow drying and styling tools. Can you recommend a specific product for this and tell me why you like it? Thanks!
posted by bookmammal at 2:14 PM PST - 7 comments

Most effective skin treatments?

What have you had done for overall anti-aging and skin texture improvement, whether at a medical spa or with serious treatments at home? Do you do peels? Microneedling? Have you had Fraxel or Thermage? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 1:51 PM PST - 11 comments

More jazz like this, please?

I've stumbled across two jazz albums that, to my great surprise, have something akin to the chugging, playful, noise-funky tunes I loved on the first Lounge Lizards record from many years ago. They are Francesco Bearzatti Tinissima Quartet's first two CDs: Suite for Tina Modotti (YT) and X (Suite for Malcolm) (YT). [more inside]
posted by progosk at 1:50 PM PST - 10 comments

What songs does everyone recognize, but not know?

I'm thinking of things like the brilliant Opus No. 1 by Tim Carleton and Darrick Deel, which I'd imagine most people that have made a phone call in the last twenty years have heard (but never knew what it was). There must be other songs like this. What might they be?
posted by stillmoving at 1:04 PM PST - 74 comments

How to hire a cleaner while paying a living wage

We'd like to pay for someone to clean our apartment in Medford, MA, (near Boston) once or twice a month. We're also committed to making sure that person is earning a living wage — let's say $15 an hour if salaried, or substantially more if a contractor. Is there a way to make this happen using a cleaning service? Or will we have to hire someone directly? If the latter, how much of a hassle should we expect it to be?
posted by nebulawindphone at 1:02 PM PST - 17 comments

My cat has a torn ACL. Has your cat had a torn ACL?

My cat turned up lame the other day, and after a blessedly cheap vet visit, it has been determined that she has torn her ACL. She is 14, and she is limping. I want to know if your cat has had this or a similar injury, and how that all went. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 12:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Examples of PR pitches in English

At our PR agency, I‘m the person who‘s best at writing in English. Consequently, when we‘re trying to win a new international client, I get asked to vamp up the presentation. But I don‘t really know how to „talk PR“ in English and would really love to see some examples of pitches that could help me learn how certain expressions are used. [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 12:30 PM PST - 1 comment

Is CAPTCHA and re-CAPTCHA going away?

A website building program I use sent me a note last week saying they would be shutting down the portion of their services that incorporates CAPTCHA as a smart tool because Google was moving away from the verification system. But I haven't found anything in the news about it. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:14 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me stop sleeping with my iPad

I spend far too long each night lying in bed messing around on my iPad and sleep with it under my pillow. I’d like better sleep hygiene. But I’ve become dependent on it to help me fall asleep. Assume for the purpose of the question that I’ve already tried setting limits for nighttime use and failed miserably. [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 12:02 PM PST - 19 comments

Looking for books about reconstruction in Europe after WWII

I'd like to read more about how communities in bombed areas went about the process of rebuilding after WWII -- specifically from the perspective of local government, urban planning and architecture. A few questions that interest me: How did these projects get funded? How long did they take? What kinds of controversies arose? Were there battles between "traditionalists" and "modernists"? How did these play out? Thanks in advance for your recommendations!
posted by Trespassers William at 11:33 AM PST - 11 comments

Seedlessness?

Why do some clementines have seeds, yet no commercial bananas seem to? What determines when a clementine will have seeds? Do they come from seedy trees, or randomly from any blossom, or from a particularly seedy branch? Seems to me a tree should either bear seedy fruit or not, but you, with your botanical knowledge, know better, I hope.
posted by musofire at 10:22 AM PST - 9 comments

What did you need most when having surgery?

Can you help me figure out what you bring to the hospital when your having surgery and what helped you the most in the first two or three days afterwards at home? [more inside]
posted by kanata at 10:00 AM PST - 35 comments

Disgruntled American philosopher seeking EU PhD

In interested in pursuing a PhD in Europe, but have no idea how to even start making a plan. Logistics, advice, warnings needed! [more inside]
posted by zinful at 9:09 AM PST - 13 comments

Magazines similar to The New Yorker?

The New Yorker is one of my favourite magazines. Are there any literary-artsy magazines similar to The New Yorker or that are based in New York City? I am looking for poetry, culture, books, stories, art, politics,and films.
posted by RearWindow at 8:41 AM PST - 11 comments

Where can I find Mad Magazine piece consisting of anticlimactic stories?

So I am oddly googlefu-less in trying to find a Mad Magazine gag from my youth which comprised four anticlimactic stories, loaded guns which might save the hero or heroine if they went off, but they didn't. The one I particularly remember is the naive young couple honeymooning in Vegas. They're about to take in a show, and the bride sends the groom downstairs while she gets dolled up. He loses their entire dowry while she gets ready, and he's in utter despair. As he heads back to the room to confess, he sticks his hand in his pocket and finds a last silver dollar, just as he passes a slot machine the jackpot of which is almost as much as he just lost. He says a little prayer: if he could only get it back, get most of it back, he will never do anything so stupid again -- he and she will live responsibly and reasonably and lovingly and happily. He puts the silver dollar in the machine, pulls the lever, and... three lemons. THE END
posted by maddalo at 8:26 AM PST - 7 comments

What Is This Job: US expat health insurance advisor

My mom is thinking of moving back to the States after forty-plus years in the UK. She is in her sixties and understandably worried about getting healthcare there, as well as allergic to paperwork. Is there someone we can pay to give expert advice and perhaps help with paperwork and budgeting? Something like a financial advisor, but for healthcare. [more inside]
posted by katrielalex at 8:17 AM PST - 3 comments

Aeon Flux CG Animation?

Help me out Mefi, I was attempting to find the Aeon Flux Special that was animated by Square and perhaps added onto the Animated Collection DVD, but the Internet has no record of such a thing ever existing! Am I insane? Where do I locate a copy of the video? Does anyone have a still to reassure my sense of sanity?
posted by endotoxin at 8:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Music that gives you chills?

I was recently introduced (by a Mefi comment, natch), to Max Richter's re-composing of Vivaldi's Four Seasons. I can't stop listening to the incredible Spring 1. I want to listen to more music that does the same things for me. [more inside]
posted by Happy Dave at 4:47 AM PST - 42 comments

Infographic software without being a graphic designer

I am looking for some graphic design software to produce professional looking information sheets (letter / A4) on specific topics. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 3:14 AM PST - 6 comments

March 3

Which Greek island should we visit?

Please help two families choose a destination for a week in Greece in early July. Travelers include four adults, two boys (12 yo), and two girls (7 yo). We like beaches, villages, ruins, food, and knowing that we're not in America. We don't like Disney Land, clubbing, or scary mountain roads. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 8:44 PM PST - 14 comments

Aesthetic: 80s cannibal eater

I've just been reminded of Toto Coelho's I Eat Cannibals and I'm obsessed. The sound, the vibe, the silliness, the look, how everyone's so sincere and intense but also having a ton of fun. Can you recommend me any other tracks or anything that has a similar vibe?
posted by divabat at 8:42 PM PST - 30 comments

Best bra for people with sensory issues or sensitive skin

My skin has recently become quite sensitive and almost every bra I used to like is now unbearably itchy and pokey. I'm looking for recommendations from other similarly sensitive people. [more inside]
posted by potrzebie at 7:41 PM PST - 18 comments

Classical Music - looking for contrasting performances of the same piece

I'm looking for some recommendations from some classical music heads of two or more performances of the same piece, both which differ from each other and are good (or great) versions of the composition they're representing. I realized I don't know what kind of variances occur, and I'm looking to understand that. [more inside]
posted by neuromodulator at 6:14 PM PST - 29 comments

Mid Range Drawing Tablet

My son is asking for a drawing tablet for his birthday. It would actually be for both my daughter and my son. I'm looking at the Huion KAMVAS GT-191 Drawing Tablet but is this overkill for a pair of teenagers? We already have a computer to hook this monitor up to. Any recommendations are appreciated.
posted by crios at 5:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Billy Bragg's Bratty Brother

What roughly 2000 -era rag-timey minor song features the heavily UK accented lines: 'it was living with Jackie that made me finally happy.' and, 'two fingers shoved right up your Jackson?' The recording is just acoustic guitar and keyboard, I believe. [more inside]
posted by es_de_bah at 3:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Best way to read/follow knitting patterns and charts on a laptop?

I would like to be able to follow along with my knitting patterns and charts on my laptop, and track my progress through the pattern. [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 3:21 PM PST - 8 comments

I want to paint a mural, but, uh, not actually on the wall

I love art and I've always thought that if I had a kid, I would paint a mural on the wall of their room. Now there is in fact a kid on the way, and a room waiting to be decorated. The problem is that we're renting our place, and don't expect to be there a lot longer. [more inside]
posted by bookish at 3:14 PM PST - 22 comments

Give me your hacks for a teeny kitchen

I love cooking. I love baking. I even love NYC. I do not love my small kitchen. HALP. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 2:54 PM PST - 33 comments

Where in Seattle can we drink beer and eat with entertained kids...?

Where in Seattle tonight can we drink beer and eat with entertained kids...? (Any brewpubs with playspaces??) [more inside]
posted by clseace at 2:16 PM PST - 11 comments

How can I find research about restaurant managers?

I'm having a hard time finding research specifically about managers. Most results I've been able to turn up (aside from an abundance of blog spam and job listings) are about the effects of managers on organizations, and suchlike. I'm interested in the effects of working in a management career on the people that are doing it. [more inside]
posted by mikek at 1:37 PM PST - 3 comments

What to do/how best to document HVAC problem

I think the landlord's general negligence toward the HVAC here has possibly led to my having much worse health issues than I would otherwise. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 1:32 PM PST - 10 comments

What is the best cost-to-car for a long haul driver?

I put 25K miles on a car a year. What is my best option to buy or lease a car that will not end with me being underwater constantly as cars fail? [more inside]
posted by corb at 11:32 AM PST - 44 comments

Babyfilter: Talk Doona to me.

Car seat and stroller woes in 2011 Mazda 2 (compact car and baby question) [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 11:22 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I pay someone to clean the insides of my laptop?

I spilled some sugary beverage on my laptop. It's working now, but I feel like the spill bodes poorly for my laptop's long-term survival. Can I pay a service to take it apart and clean the insides? Does this service exist in Chicago? Does it cost a million dollars? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 11:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Is it a bad idea to hand code a website in 2018?

I’d like to make a small (10 to 20 pages) website, and I’d like to do it by hand-coding in a text editor. I want to make sure it displays reasonably correctly across modern browsers without any security concerns. [more inside]
posted by Pork-Chop Express at 10:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Why was/are religious missionaries tolerated by their "host" countries?

I'm reading Barbara Kingsolver's The Poisonwood Bible, which has me completely sucked in. I'm not very far along it it; about 17% in Kindle-speak. But it renews a question I've had for a long time: Why do/did many African countries and other places tolerate the invasion and intrusion of religious missionaries? I'm sure some were killed, but why weren't the rest run off, or banned from the area? (more below) [more inside]
posted by BostonTerrier at 10:36 AM PST - 10 comments

Aging X-ennial seeks new electronic music.

Modern electronic music suggestions for an X-ennial who's been living in a cave since 2001? [more inside]
posted by Ralston McTodd at 10:15 AM PST - 18 comments

Cat Litter: Studio Edition

Anyone have a good solution for where to put the cat litter box in a studio apartment? The main issue is finding a location where humans don't pick up litter that has been tracked out and transfer the litter to bed. [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 9:40 AM PST - 17 comments

Getting information to the doctor

My elderly father refuses to let anyone accompany him to the doctor and we’re concerned that he’s minimizing some increasingly serious symptoms at his appointments. What’s the most effective way for us to inform his doctor about the difficulties he’s been having? [more inside]
posted by Blue Jello Elf at 8:12 AM PST - 7 comments

Fitness for the Clueless (and Sedentary)

I work from home and I’m on the computer all day. For most of last year I was going to Krav Maga martial arts classes twice a week. I loved it, but in January a flare up of a chronic overuse injury in my right arm sent me to physical therapy for four weeks, and I’m starting to think punching targets may not be the best way to preserve my wrist/shoulder. I’m looking for something new that has a social aspect and is strengthening! [more inside]
posted by caitcadieux at 6:27 AM PST - 21 comments

Just tell me he doesn't like me

I dated a friend, briefly, it didn't work out. I feel very conflicted about our ending conversation and would like some help getting some closure. [more inside]
posted by twill at 5:40 AM PST - 45 comments

Trying to get ISBNs from a list of book titles and authors

I've got a properly formatted csv file of ~100 book titles and authors from my Audible account. I'd like to automate getting a ISBNs for as many of these as possible. Is there a way to input a list of book titles somewhere and get back (any) matching ISBNs? I'm trying to add my Audible books to Goodreads and would like to not do this manually.
posted by iamkimiam at 5:37 AM PST - 8 comments

Please walk me through icloud backup

My macbook (powerbook, about 2014) screen is suddenly filled on the left side with colorful vertical lines preventing me from seeing the left hand side bar or the apple icon, which now seem beyond the border of the screen, and the left border is just lines. I figure it's the end. I want to back up but my Timemachine to an external drive also frequently fails to work, just doesn't back up, even with different external drives. I want to bring it in to the shop today and back up all my data to icloud first. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 5:19 AM PST - 3 comments

I want to learn how to dress up my hair

My hair grows very fast, and haircuts are boring and expensive. I'd rather let it grow, but have few ideas how to manage the length other than putting it up in a bun or using a barrette - which is BORING. It's thick and wavy, but like most thick and wavy hair, looses oomph after 2-3 feet. How do I learn interesting ways to dress this mess? Am willing to look outlandish.
posted by goofyfoot at 2:18 AM PST - 16 comments

March 2

Updating the Afikomen

I grew up with the Passover tradition where an adult hides half the middle matzah during dinner, the children search for it after dessert and give it back in exchange for a reward. This year the youngest child is in college and most of the cousins well into their twenties and thirties. Time to update this tradition - any ideas?
posted by metahawk at 11:33 PM PST - 10 comments

Tweezers... for backs?

I get one or two hairs growing between my shoulder blades. I want to pluck them, to stop me from poking at them, but it's impossible to grab them with normal tweezers. I don't want to ask for help, and shaving doesn't last long. Are there tweezers that can be used on one's own back?
posted by anonymous at 11:02 PM PST - 7 comments

how to tell a friend about a miscarriage

I had a miscarriage this week and I'm feeling terribly alone but don't know how to tell anyone. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:01 PM PST - 10 comments

I want to invest in the cannabis industry. Where should I start?

Cannabis is probably the fastest-growing and well-funded industry these days and I want to get in on it. Googling gives me a lot of trolls and spam and nothing useful. [more inside]
posted by bendy at 10:27 PM PST - 11 comments

Dream project with a challenging partner

I was assigned to lead my dream project. I need to collaborate with a partner company, and unfortunately we have creative differences. I find their behavior disrespectful. How do I improve the working relationship, so that I can enjoy this project? [more inside]
posted by vienna at 10:11 PM PST - 5 comments

What's going on with my legs while I'm sleeping?

YANMD, but any thoughts that Metafilter might have on this would be helpful! This has happened to me a few times in recent weeks. I'm a side sleeper, and tend to roll over in my sleep so that my legs are sort of tucked up under me. At some point, I wake up to go to the bathroom, and when I go to straighten my legs, it hurts. [more inside]
posted by backwards compatible at 7:18 PM PST - 12 comments

Advice on reconnecting with a 14yo niece after her mom’s death

I recently found out that my older half-sister, whom I hadn’t spoken to in 8 years, passed away last December. I found her 14-year-old daughter on instagram and I’d like to reconnect with her, but what can do for/with a grieving 14-year-old girl who doesn’t really know me? HALP. [more inside]
posted by logic vs love at 7:11 PM PST - 14 comments

De-odorize a wool-lined waxed-canvas cap?

I have a very nice ballcap from L.L. Bean that's waxed-canvas lined with wool. It's dry, warm and comfy in the worst of weather and the ideal winter companion. I shampoo/condition every other day, shower daily, and my hair does not smell of much of anything normally. My hat, since I got it at Christmas, has begun to stink, especially on non-shampoo days. Just a wave of funk even when I just lift it up a bit. This is not something I've experienced with my other caps (tho admittedly I didn't wear those as often as this one) How do I de-odorize it without destroying it?
posted by Slap*Happy at 5:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me find a science fiction/possible Star Trek novelization

Can you help me find this book based on one vaguely remembered scene: girl with mental powers using those powers to push herself through a physical task (pretty sure it was climbing a tree)? [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 5:04 PM PST - 1 comment

Did You Bring Something Awesome On Your Beach Vacation?

I’m going on a beach vacation in a few weeks. Is there anything you’ve brought with you to a high-end resort that was an unexpected winner in some way? [more inside]
posted by Charity Garfein at 4:26 PM PST - 25 comments

If they were me and I was you

The gentleman I am seeing is in the Phoenix area staying at a hotel. He will be there for his birthday, which is in a few days. I would like to have something delivered (cookies, cupcakes, something fun if you have ideas), but I am not sure what, and I am not sure what in Phoenix is any good. Suggestions? Thank you in advance!
posted by oflinkey at 4:23 PM PST - 2 comments

Fun Advice for a 50th Birthday Staycation in NYC in April?

I'm turning 50 on April 25th, and am turning to the Mefiverse for great advice on how to have a killer staycation in NYC (I live in NJ) to celebrate. [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 3:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Words about words

I have recently enjoyed Lexicon by Max Barry and the Flame Alphabet by Ben Marcus, both of which were fiction novels about language used as a supernatural force. What other fiction or non fiction books would I enjoy that are also about language, linguistics, speech, symbolism, etc? [more inside]
posted by sacrifix at 1:27 PM PST - 36 comments

Consumer solutions in the event of a trade war?

How does the average person deal with it on a micro level, if the president has a unilateral ability to institute tariffs on foreign commodities? [more inside]
posted by Selena777 at 11:27 AM PST - 6 comments

What are fake accents like in signed languages?

When speaking English and quoting another person, the speaker will often "do a voice" to indicate the speech of another person. This has various specific forms, with many connotations. Does something similar exist in ASL or other sign languages? What does it look like? [more inside]
posted by Adridne at 11:21 AM PST - 8 comments

Encouraging words

I want your best encouraging quotations--whatever quotation you try to keep in mind when you are in doubt about yourself, when you are anxious about something, when you are in trouble or worried. If the quotation has helped you get a grip or feel less desperate, I want to see it. That is all. Thank you.
posted by Jenna Brown at 10:54 AM PST - 86 comments

Sustaining motivation in a demotivating environment

Due to an imbalance of resources, I keep running into a particular demoralizing/demotivating situation with my job and it's starting to affect my productivity. How can I short-circuit this bad cycle I've gotten into? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 10:40 AM PST - 15 comments

What is the name of this type of electronic connector?

The title says it all- I've encountered THIS type of multi-pin connector a few times and don't know the proper name for it. (i.e. "Molex" "DB-9" )
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 10:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Help for ADHD and larger-scale time/project management?

I have ADHD and I struggle with managing the projects on my plate. I understand the "micro" stuff for staying on task in the moment (Pomodoro technique, playing fun music, etc.). The "macro" stuff is still a huge challenge to me, though: project planning and time management over weeks and months, keeping track of what projects are actually on your plate, and so on. What help is out there for people with ADHD trying to manage the big picture, not just the minute-by-minute focusing? All tips, resources, books, websites, personal anecdotes welcome!
posted by cadge at 10:28 AM PST - 4 comments

Any suggestions on a future course for a 50yo renter with £50k savings

I am looking for feedback on the plan I have in mind, and hoping that others can offer fresh perspectives which may help me improve this plan, or perhaps alter it completely. I am in the UK. [more inside]
posted by zingzangzung at 10:26 AM PST - 12 comments

Low hum tinnitus in one ear, tests revealed nothing, any suggestions?

Has anyone experienced this, do you have any tips, and is there anything I should try? [more inside]
posted by greenish at 9:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Waiting (for DVDS) Is The Hardest Part

I have Netflix and mostly use the DVD queue. I get that if the top thing on your queue is listed with a "wait", Netflix will skip to the next film and send you that. But...what happens to the "waitlisted" film when that happens? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 8:35 AM PST - 5 comments

Kid Interaction Training

I'd like to improve my ability to connect and work with kids. Something I see teachers and some parents have down pat. Is there actual training that can help? Or is this just something that I'll just have to get experience? I'm looking for actual training rather than tips and anecdotes. I'm in NYC if that helps. [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 8:20 AM PST - 12 comments

Moving to take care of ailing parent?

My mother's health has deteriorated significantly in the past three years; her husband isn't handling her most recent medical situation well at all, and my sister and I are considering long-term living situations for her. Should I leave? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:13 AM PST - 15 comments

Financing minor home remodeling in 2018

We're undertaking a relatively (as these things go) basic kitchen renovation. How to money? [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 5:39 AM PST - 14 comments

Critical discussion of scientific literature

I am looking for communities/blogs/podcasts/... that are critically discussing scientific research publications, especially in psychology and medicine. [more inside]
posted by zinnia_ at 2:37 AM PST - 8 comments

Should I switch from meeting people online to in person?

I've been trying to meet people online for five years and am still friendless and single. [more inside]
posted by Eevee at 1:36 AM PST - 36 comments

Healthy substitutes for "unhealthy" food?

Recently, I have somewhat randomly discovered two food items that I didn't know existed: coconut aminos and chickpea pasta. I have been amazed at how well they sub in for their "unhealthier" counterparts and have been on a search for more food items like this that make me feel like I get to have my cake and eat it too. So if you know of any, please throw them my way!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 1:27 AM PST - 20 comments

How many professional government calligraphers?

I was reading the news and saw this snarky headline: "The White House chief calligrapher has a higher clearance than Jared Kushner," I thought "there's a White House chief calligrapher?*" and Google led me to the White House Graphics and Calligraphy Office. Which leads me to my question: How many other government calligraphers are there? Do the Senate and House have some, state and local offices, Governors? How can I find out? *The White House chief calligrapher is the award winning Pat Blair.
posted by Marky at 12:35 AM PST - 1 comment

March 1

Is therapy making me overthink and exaggerate my problems?

I stopped therapy due to coverage reasons a few months ago, and realize that I am so much happier and balanced and far less ruminative without therapy than I was while I was in therapy (on/off for the past several years). Now I have coverage again... but do I restart therapy? [more inside]
posted by fernweh at 11:03 PM PST - 16 comments

Is it OK for male colleague to touch a woman's waist in passing?

Woman working at a standing desk in a busy department, focused on computer ahead. Man comes from somewhere else, puts a hand on her waist for just a second and then moves next to her to look at the screen. His hand on her waist doesn't linger--just a tap. [more inside]
posted by flyingfork at 8:42 PM PST - 103 comments

Please help me figure out how to use these motorcycle cargo straps

I've got a 2017 Honda Rebel 500 and I need to use these straps to secure this bag to the (stock) cargo rack and/or frame. They're all made to be used with each other, I'm just having some real spatial challenges figuring out how to do this, and the manufacturer provides no help. [more inside]
posted by mph at 8:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Simple explanation of dimensional space

Years ago I read an explanation on how to think simply about dimensions from the 5th and higher. I'm trying to find it again, or the theory which describes it. [more inside]
posted by lesser weasel at 6:50 PM PST - 17 comments

Biography of Margaret Floy Washburn?

Librarians of metafilter, how do I find more than a brief biography of this psychologist? I collect notable Margarets, and came across her in a textbook and while I've found a scan of her own short autobiography, what I really want is a thoughtful biography, preferably scholarly. I can't find anything in print, but surely as the first female psychologist with a PhD, someone wrote a thesis about her that's sitting on a shelf somewhere?
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 6:43 PM PST - 1 comment

Divorce lawyer in Cleveland area

A relative's adult son injured his foot badly and lived wth her and her husband for seven weeks. Husband blew up and said she had to choose between him or her son. She refused to kick her son out, so husband filed for divorce last month, but wants her to continue living with him and take care of the house, cook meals, etc.—all the "wifely duties." Needless to say, she's having none of that. Any recommendations for a divorce lawyer and resources for emotional and financial support in the Cleveland/Strongsville, Ohio area?
posted by Johnny Wallflower at 6:30 PM PST - 1 comment

Doula “harassment”

The strangest thing just happened to my wife and I. We hired a company to provide us with postpartum doulas. We’ve had two ladies come for the past month or so, dividing up the week. Due to staffing issues we’ve had someone new for the past week. We received an email today from the company immediately terminating our relationship due to “words and actions they consider harassment.” [more inside]
posted by leotrotsky at 6:09 PM PST - 20 comments

Which rug for my kitchen?

I need a rug for my kitchen, to cover up some problematic flooring that I can't fix until later. My first attempt -- using an area rug I had on hand -- failed because I quickly realized the rug was a real bear to wash, and that any rug in my kitchen is going to get dirty because of cooking messes, spills, etc. Which rug can help me? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 5:47 PM PST - 11 comments

Things to do (and not do) in Austin the last weekend of SXSW

I will be in downtown Austin March 17th and 18th with the late afternoons and evenings free. It won't be worth buying a SXSW pass for that limited amount of time but I know there's usually other events that run concurrently (as well as St. Patrick's Day). Any recommendations on things to do and things to avoid? [more inside]
posted by Candleman at 5:16 PM PST - 7 comments

How much to charge for yearbook ads?

My students and I are trying to fund this year’s yearbook by selling ad space to local business in the back of the yearbook. How much should we charge? Details below. [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 3:41 PM PST - 12 comments

Like getting blood from an very-curious stone.

Must a person donate a full unit of blood for it to be used? Can I get better at being a donor? And what's the deal with the dude across from me who spaced the heck out for like 30 seconds, but then was apparently fine after? [more inside]
posted by miss_kitty_fantastico at 3:01 PM PST - 15 comments

Senior Citizen Game Developers?

Are there any independent video game developers who are also senior citizens? [more inside]
posted by sleevener at 2:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Best fabric glue for high temperatures?

What kind of fabric glue will hold up on the interior of my car in the heat of summer sun? [more inside]
posted by chocolatepeanutbuttercup at 2:32 PM PST - 10 comments

What's a pirate's favorite letter?

A family member is starting a group whose name is a sea of Cs and Rs. The name itself is fixed, but can you help us figure out some less unwieldy acronyms? [more inside]
posted by heyforfour at 2:23 PM PST - 24 comments

In Search of Similar Song to

Help me find a track that is as close as possible to Mikey Mike's "Doin' Me". [more inside]
posted by monologish at 1:50 PM PST - 2 comments

I'm a lazy vegetarian.

I'm lazy vegetarian. (I eat dairy and, rarely, eggs. I'm also OK with animal rennet cheeses.) I work from home and am alone a few afternoons a week. Since I don't feel like expending a ton of effort on myself, I could really use some suggestions for low-key vegetarian lunches that I can make in small batches.
posted by orangutan at 1:30 PM PST - 22 comments

As Easy as Raspberry Pi?

I'd like to purchase a Raspberry Pi kit for two kids (ages 10 & 12), but I have no idea how to begin or what other accessories they may enjoy. All I have so far is a very nice monitor, mouse, and keyboard. Assume my budget is $100-$200. Any other Raspberry Pi related links, videos, etc. that may help first time builders would be great. Suggestions to other related questions I should be asking would also be great! Thanks!
posted by defreckled at 12:36 PM PST - 7 comments

Bury me under a bristlecone pine

Recent discussions with my family have revealed that they are all going to be buried in the local cemetery. Recent contemplation has revealed that a traditional cemetery is not what I wish for myself. Plenty of death-talk under the fold. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 12:33 PM PST - 19 comments

Places to sit down in Rome for a couple of hours?

Help me park my butt! Where can I kill time in Central Rome for a couple of hours in the afternoon while waiting for a ride? [more inside]
posted by bowtiesarecool at 12:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Family Vacation in Maine?

We are thinking about going to coastal Maine for our family summer vacation. We've never been there. Do you have any recommended towns/areas that we should look at? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 9:56 AM PST - 20 comments

My co-parent's new boyfriend is sharing a bed with my kids?

I suspect that my co-parent’s new boyfriend may be sharing a bed with my kids (13-year-old boy, 8-year-old girl) and co-parent. Should I take action? What action should I take? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:40 AM PST - 38 comments

how do i bring the future of our relationship up (or should I)?

At the beginning of feb my and my bf of 5 going on 6 years almost broke up because I brought up the topic of where we were headed since he hadn't proposed. I basically said I wouldn't wait around forever continuing to play house and waste my time. He said he had thought about marrying me since yr 2 but wasn't sure and that he had some concerns. [more inside]
posted by soooo at 8:18 AM PST - 26 comments

Arches or Canyonlands?

Which would be best for me and my mobility impaired mother? [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 8:08 AM PST - 13 comments

How much marginal difference is there between Tiagra and 105?

I'm getting a new bike as a self-present for finishing grad school, replacing the old road bike that I've ridden into the ground since 2002. And it turns out that the road bike world has changed a bunch in 16 years. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 7:50 AM PST - 21 comments

Will late filing affect my mortgage chances if I'm paid up w/the IRS?

I've decided now's the time to buy a house. But I was way behind on filing and (sort of) paying taxes. If I am paid up and in good standing with the IRS when transcripts are pulled, will that red flag me for getting a mortgage? More (U.S.-based) details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:06 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find this parody commercial about Adam Clayton

Many years ago I saw a fake commercial, either on TV or on the Internet, that was along the lines of "Adam Clayton, Master of the Bass Guitar." I can't seem to find it. I want to watch it again. [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 7:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Zipper not zipping

Yesterday I got something caught in the zipper of my jeans. The zipper is immobilized. I've tried pulling on it forward and back, even with a pair of pliers. No go. [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 6:13 AM PST - 13 comments

Place to store three suitcases in Bangkok for two weeks?

We're wanting to travel around Thailand for a couple weeks but we don't want to take all our stuff. We have three regular suitcases with excess clothing we'd like to store somewhere in Bangkok while we travel. [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 6:06 AM PST - 7 comments

hairband replacement

My wife wears hairbands frequently, and there's one that's her favorite. Alas, it broke recently. I'd like to replace it for her. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 6:05 AM PST - 8 comments

Missing the Olympics: Opportunities for volunteer involvement?

I really love the Olympics. (They're a problematic thing to love these days for lots of reasons, but I can't help it.) What are some ways that I could be involved in the Olympics, ideally on an ongoing basis and not just briefly every two years? Are there Olympic-adjacent organizations looking for help that I might not know about? [more inside]
posted by findabair at 5:46 AM PST - 7 comments

Cold Weather Aficionados, I Need Your Help.

Will this jacket work if the forecast calls for rain, snow, and freezing rain? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 5:22 AM PST - 12 comments

Missing people and their finances

Asking for story research, not a nefarious plan. UK-filter please. If you live in a mortgaged house, and you disappear without a trace, what will happen? Presumably the mortgage provider forecloses and auctions the house, but how long would that normally take? Would you need to be declared dead?
posted by KateViolet at 4:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I release recovered wild bird during snowmageddon

I found a tiny little bird lying in the snow beside my back door yesterday. He probably flew into the glass door. I thought he was dead but when I picked him up I saw he was breathing but was too weak to lift his head. After a bit of googling on how to care for an injured bird I put him on a towel in a basket and covered the basket. After some more googling I'm pretty sure he's a goldcrest, apparently they're one of the smallest birds in Europe. [more inside]
posted by night_train at 1:43 AM PST - 11 comments