March 2017 Archives
We have a case of bananas. What can we make with them that is shelf stable? We have a big food dehydrator and a well-stocked kitchen, but no freezer or fridge space to spare. (Also, vegetarian.) [more inside]
I earned my BS in Mathematics-- I especially love abstract math. Apply it to nothing, it is beautiful because it is. Then I earned my MA in in Library Science because I didn't know what else to do. I've been working as a Librarian I (i.e. Untrained social worker) for the past 14 years at a public library and I hate my job! I've been looking for research jobs, but where? I'm not interested in moving. My skills are ones of logic. What have I not considered?
I'm seeking suggestions for thoughtful additions to care packages for the homeless. What note could I include that would be of most value to them? [more inside]
We have worms trying to break in through our bathroom window - wtf? [more inside]
I want to take my sick mom on an awesome Sat drive tomorrow. [more inside]
I have sensory processing issues and am kept awake by even quiet snoring. Most snoring solutions seem to be designed to muffle loud snoring. I've tried a lot of solutions but nothing seems to work. My partner's snoring has been keeping me awake for years, and now that we're going to be in a new living in life situation I'm extra concerned. [more inside]
My car was repossessed right before I started a new job. I'm broke. What can I do? Is there any chance of getting my car back before Monday (discovering this on a Friday)?
We have been part of a very close knit group of families that all met through our kids' school. We are mostly in our 40's (some 30s and 50s). We have all been friends for years. I have been very active in keeping the families together and socializing now that our kids have scattered to different places. One family (The Family) has a second waterfront property and we used to be invited a 4 or 5 times a year to go stay with them and were always included when they would invite a group of the families out to camp on their property. [more inside]
Specifically wondering about self-guided ports of call exploration versus signing up for excursions; also wondering about dry suit snorkeling and zip lines in particular, or recommendations for HAL excursions in general. [more inside]
We're considering installing solar panels on our house. I'd like to learn about the pros and cons of different equipment types, financing, and installers. [more inside]
I'm a single black woman, 34 years old with natural black hair. I'm going on a trip soon and wanted to get a style that would be easy to maintain during the week. The stylist suggested cutting it along the sides and leaving the top part longer, in a tapered look. He showed me pictures from Google and I liked what I saw. I didn't have much of a shape to my hair before, so I was excited to give it a try. [more inside]
I share my WiFi with my neighbor, and with my wife of course. Will my neighbor's browsing habits be conflated with mine if my ISP tracks and sells our browsing info? How about my wife's? If so, is that a problem? We can separate the WiFi if necessary.
How do you play your PS4? Where to sit, how far, lighting etc.. [more inside]
I plan to sell my condo (no mortgage) in order to buy a house of similar value in cash. I cannot afford the house without selling the condo. I have been denied any kind of financial assistance by my bank due to being unemployed. How do I make this work? Ontario, Canada [more inside]
My father passed away and my mother wants me to sell his car. I don't have a clue what I'm supposed to do, how do I go about selling his car? [more inside]
Brief summary: do you have any anecdata (or actual data!) on whether a person can move from seeking validation from external sources (e.g. romantic partners) to seeking validation from internal sources (e.g. developing a solid, positive self-image, achieving personal goals), and HOW this is best achieved? More inside... [more inside]
I am looking for scholarly commentaries on Bible stories, particularly the Old Testament. These can be Christian, Jewish, or Muslim (since there's a lot of overlap between the Bible and the Koran). [more inside]
I like guys who don't check out women in public or when watching media. I also like guys who don't watch porn. Where do I find them? [more inside]
I'm in Albuquerque next week for training M-T during the day, and have the evenings available. I'd love to do some Breaking Bad-related wanderings/touring/etc, but formal tours seem to be during the day, and I'm OK with doing things by myself. [more inside]
In terms of impact, is it better to have a lot of smaller marches attended by some number of people, or is it better to concentrate the people into fewer but larger marches? [more inside]
Are there any creative opportunities for convincing my strata and their plumbers that a shower could be added to a washroom? [more inside]
I have an older Android phone that I want to replace with something newer (or perhaps another type of smartphone) on my current phone plan. I want to keep my existing plan with this provider. Can I buy a phone from someone else and get it linked to my existing Verizon account? Where should I look for a good phone without spending a lot of money? What are some smartphones I should be looking at for comparison? Thank you!
Leaving tomorrow night for a week in Brussels. It kind of snuck up on me and I have questions! Please assume I know nothing about Europe, because I don't. I do travel to Asia a good bit, for what it's worth. [more inside]
haircut help filter: I'm looking for pictures of short feminine curly haircuts that (...here comes the snowflake...) don't have hair falling into the face. halp? [more inside]
My wife and I own a property in California, but live elsewhere. Long story cut short, we got into a financial pickle, and the house was foreclosed and sold at auction. What happens next? Specifically, I believe that the house sold for more than the amount of the outstanding loan, so I would like to see if we can get hold of the surplus amount. [more inside]
I work for a pretty big private university in a smallish Japanese city, and have a permanent position (I’m tenured, plus it’s generally hard to fire employees here). However, this doesn’t mean that all is well. [more inside]
Can my 23 year old daughter be a dependent on my taxes?
Can you help me remember the scene and movie that had this joke about killing? [more inside]
I am looking for resources for following and understanding Canadian politics. I read the news regularly but I would like to have a better sense of political news, specifically what is happening, why, and when. I am also looking for ways to be more involved. [more inside]
Sometimes, while driving, I notice a dangerous situation — another driver who, I worry, hasn't seen me and will cause an accident — and I do nothing, hoping for the best. Afterward, I berate myself for this dangerously passive behavior. How can I improve? Is there some way to practice defensive driving other than just more driving? [more inside]
I used to have two YouTube accounts - a personal and a professional one. At some point a number of years ago, Google wanted to default me to using my professional one and I remember it took repeated selection efforts and whatnot to eventually get it to use my personal one instead. (I would prefer my personal browsing, subscribing, and liking habits be unlinked to my professional account, and I rarely use my professional one as evidenced by this years-later question.) Now I have no idea how - if at all - to access my old professional one. [more inside]
My husband and I bought a foreclosure last fall and after extensive interior repairs we are ready to tackle the outside. My husband couldn't care less about this so I'm the queen of the castle. Here is the house in question. It's a modular ranch. We live in southern Maine. [more inside]
I'd like to have somewhere other than the couch for guests to stay when they visit me. I live in a moderate climate (PacNW). Expanding the house itself is not an option, but I do have a long driveway. So my thought is some kind of minimal room-on-wheels with windows, electricity, and insulation, and not much else. Who makes such a thing? What are my options? [more inside]
I am an abstract artist. For a regional collaboration event, I'm paired with a research scientist and am to make a few paintings based on her work. My researcher does computer modeling of proposed pharmaceuticals, namely those that work on the sphingosine kinase 2. I have some good work so far but am struggling finding ideas for more. More inside. [more inside]
So at work, I was joking around, and I asked my coworker if he saw a certain movie, and I asked if he remembered what happened to a certain character, and he said yes. That character got killed in the movie, and so I told my coworker to not let that happen to him. But I guess he heard it the wrong way and walked away as if he was insulted. I guess he interpreted it as if I hoped it would happen to him. Of course, I did not want that sort of thing to happen to him but he misinterpreted it. If he happens to go to my boss, would that be something that I can get in trouble for??? Like maybe lose my job because it's wishing violence on another person?
Why does the government issue short-form birth certificates if they can't really be used for anything official? [more inside]
My feet have started vibrating every few seconds. This may drive me insane. Please advise. [more inside]
What are the best, accessible books on Russian history? [more inside]
I am at the part of my PhD where I need to analyse data and write. I am looking for a PhD coach who would be good at working with someone with a chronic illness. Goals of coaching are 1) Finish my PhD 2) Set myself up for a non-academic career. [more inside]
It had a round vertical chrome base and then a chrome piece that intersected it horizontally. The face of the clock had four squadrons and there was like a liquid inside that changed color as the hands went around. Does this sound familiar to anyone? I think it was by a famous designer I need to find a picture of it.
I always kind of had it in my head that Republicans and Democrats switched beliefs after the civil rights act passed in the 60s, but I think it may be more complicated than that, so what did the parties believe at various times in history? [more inside]
Thanks for helping me think this through and act with both heart and mind! [more inside]
I need to make dinner plans for 2 people--at 6pm this Saturday, preferably within 0.5 miles of PianoFight in the Tenderloin. What restaurants in this neighborhood will take reservations and actually have space available on short notice? [more inside]
I gave my notice 13 days ago, but the situation at work has become untenable. Tomorrow would be my last day but a situation developed today that leads me to believe that tomorrow would be an absolute nightmare. I'm angry, but I want to avoid a flame out. How to proceed? [more inside]
Hi All, I'm in the mood for some escapism, and have been trying to find stories with a "romantic first contact," theme. NOvels or short stories please, I can't read comics unless they have a good transcript. [more inside]
I'm looking for a camisole I can wear in place of a bra. Ideally washable and not too expensive. [more inside]
Does anyone know where to find an available Nintendo Switch to purchase in Toronto right now? Only looking for official stores selling the MSRP price, not any reseller [more inside]
I've been wondering lately why I don't enjoy fiction or stories, by and large. Furthermore, I wonder what most people do get out of fiction (books, movies, TV, or any other sort of story-based medium)? I ask this because I honestly don't know what sort of stories I might enjoy, or if I even enjoy stories at all. [more inside]
I'd like to find more music like Fool's Gold's "Surprise Hotel". I've liked this song for years and now as I get back into African music I'm wondering what African bands make/ made like this? Or what genres should I look into? [more inside]
My mother recently had surgery for a cancerous tumor and a long-ish hospital stay after. I'm her only daughter, and it was just me and her, battling through it, for what seemed like months but was actually only 12 days. It was scary, stressful and wonderful, an altogether strange experience. Crisis brought out the best in me, and I'm wondering how to hold onto those feelings and this new, better way of being in the world. Details inside. [more inside]
I (30, M) am dealing with the breakup of a fourteen-year-long relationship I truly but naively believed would last forever. She (33) and I were each other’s first love. I feel immense guilt over this. How can I move on without actually wanting to? [more inside]
My wife and I, as well as our two adult daughters, will be traveling to Ireland from Philadelphia for the first time in May. Been in Europe many time but first time in Ireland. We have a rough plan for what we want to do. Can anyone poke holes in it for us? [more inside]
I really love these shoes by chinese laundry, but: 1)the heel is too high and, more importantly, 2)they're cheap. More of what I'm looking for below the cut. [more inside]
I can't remember where I saw or read this. I can't even remember whether it was a book or a film/show. Would have been in the last oh, five years or so, but maybe it is from something older that I missed when it came out. Kind of icky so details inside. [more inside]
Recommendations needed for books to prepare a broody boyfriend for the reality of baby raising in an egalitarian way? [more inside]
What is the best way to add a shoulder strap to a quality twill duffle bag that doesn't have one? [more inside]
My wife and I are looking to buy a small farm in New Haven County, Connecticut. We've found a property we love, but there is a conservation easement which prohibits subdivision of the land, and per the realtor it limits the ability to build anything that could function as a residence (regardless of whether it can be subdivided). The realtor was very skimpy on what COULD be built on the property. How do we find out what what we can build? [more inside]
I am researching the development of monopolies/conglomerates at the end of the 19th and early 20th centuries, such as Standard Oil, I.G. Farben, etc.?
This is kind of a vague brainstormy Ask for the hive mind. Last summer we bought a house on a corner lot in a tight-knit city neighborhood (we've been in the neighborhood for many years, we just moved around the corner to a bigger house). The yard is a total blank slate right now. As I work over the next few years to bring it to life, I want to put in features that welcome and delight passers-by and that somehow give something back to the community. [more inside]
I just received a letter notifying me that an examination of my 1044's for 2011 and 2015 is about to begin. The letter is asking for a ton of information some of which I have no idea how to get. We have always been above board, filed our taxes, and paid what we owe. We did live overseas for part of 2011 and stuff got complicated. Looking for advice on having fun while attending a IRS party! [more inside]
Every weekend I play co-op online games with a friend for several hours, but lately we can't find anything to play that meets our requirements. I'm looking for suggestions, hopefully available on Steam. [more inside]
Zen Masters, help me? What's a great introductory program for meditation? I need something that will give me daily assignments (ideal would be every day for a month, but I can adapt). It can be a book, an app, a website, whatever. And yes, I know there are many different types of meditation and I will be learning for the rest of my life. I just need something with a bit of structure to get myself and a friend into the habit and hold each other accountable. Thoughts? Thanks guys.
I'm getting married in a few months. Yay! I don't want to wear a veil. My parents are insisting upon it, and we are fighting about everything. It's stressing me out. [more inside]
I work in a US gov't policy shop and am looking for ideas and examples for contracting out policy and other support for our challenging mission. [more inside]
Asking for a friend : my friend is in charge with her team of a women-only event. Her teammates want to present the event as « girls only ». She pointed them the fact that using the word « girl » instead of « woman » is infantilising and implies women are inferior to men, that their intelligence, emotions, and expertise are less valid. Her (male) team mates don’t see where the problem is (ugh). To them words are just words and they're are uncomfortable with using the word "women" instead of "girl" because "that's what we're used to" (ugh again). [more inside]
Hi everyone; So,I want to buy a flat screen TV(53"). I have never owned one before. Anyhow,my concern is that I have heard they are very difficult to set up. I was told I should pay $299 at Best Buy for them to set it up. Is setting up one of these that hard? I don't want to mount it on a wall,just buy it,take it home,watch DVD's,lol.
I am gradually using Gmail and Google Docs for more and more things: originally just my personal email, but over time some freelance work (Google Docs sent to that same address) that I would like to organize. But how? Folders? Filters? [more inside]
I want to figure out how to split a larger animated gif into several smaller gifs so that it looks like the image is moving across multiple panels like this . [more inside]
I'm looking for ideas for a cocktail, or cocktail presentation that will evoke medical concepts, e.g. pharmaceuticals, lab testing or immunization. [more inside]
I work co-leading a busy team of 30 professionals. We have literally hundreds of active projects at any one moment, some urgent and requiring several of my staff to work regularly (daily/weekly) on them and others only getting sporadic updates (monthly/annually). My co-lead and I are looking for a way we can track all of these projects at a glance (and our team can easily update and also check in on shared projects). Microsoft Projects was suggested - anyone have experience with that app or any other ideas? [more inside]
For the next 18 months or so, I will be living with a sofa that is not to my taste. E.g., I prefer lighter furniture with simple lines, including exposed legs and this behemoth is a queen size sleeper-sofa with green and cream plaid (not exactly, but close enough) fabric. I want to temporarily reupholster the piece without spending a fortune on upholstery fabric. [more inside]
I tried asking r/tipofmytongue, but I think metafilter is generally better read and would be more helpful. [more inside]
Looking for a character from myth, legend, fiction, or history who famously couldn't see. Whatcha got? [more inside]
I'm late 30s, recently settled in Vancouver, BC. I'd like to start dating, but where/how is a good way to go about it? [more inside]
I was told by a used car dealer that a sheet of plywood was a factory installed part of the vehicle. Is that true? [more inside]
I booked a honeymoon trip to the Big Island, but now I'm wondering if it would be better to go to Maui. Help! [more inside]
My younger sister is dying from cancer. I’m told she doesn’t have much time left. We’ve said our good-byes, but I can still visit her every few days for now. When I went to see her last night at the hospital, she was sedated and drifting in and out of consciousness. I’m not a chatty sort of person, so I took a couple of books of Dennis Lee poems I used to read to her when we were kids. Reading those aloud was good for a two-hour visit where she was aware I was there, but she wasn’t able to talk. I got some smiles from her, though. Taking the same books again seems low effort, but regular books have a narrative that I don’t think she’ll be able to follow. I think nice words without much of a storyline would work best, but I don’t know much poetry. I was wondering if folks had some suggestions as to what might be appropriate? She is religious (Salvation Army), I am not. She's read a lot of fantasy and romance.
I'm celebrating my 40th birthday next month, and it'll be an homage to my own Arrested Development. Fans of the show, help me come up with some AD-themed cocktail names! [more inside]
I have a side business that has surprised me by doing really well these past couple years (yay!). I am also employed full time (yay!). I know I need to start filing estimated taxes quarterly this year, but what does that mean? Does that mean just for my side business, or for all of my income? [more inside]
How do you create a perfect, tight sock bun? [more inside]
On the heels of the microwave question, I am wondering about the importance of dishwashers to the hive mind. [more inside]
Today I told someone on the phone that other people in the room were shaking their heads. She asked if they were shaking no or yes. Another coworker remarked later on how weird this was, and how I said "nod" deliberately later in the call. So it made me wonder, in English (especially in US English), is "nod" vs "shake yes" a regional variation?
Looking for sports-ish bras with small band size that are not completely flat across. [more inside]
I have an FSA to which I contribute (for example) $10 per month for a total of $1200 for the year. FSA rules allow me to use the entire $1200 before the end of the year, and the ongoing deductions from my pay will eventually fully fund the account. What happens if I use the entire $1200 before quitting my job on, say June 30? I will have paid in only $600. Am I responsible for the rest? [more inside]
OK, so I have fiction project. To do it properly, it's going to need factual, reality-based insights into a field I'm not an expert in. My buddy is, however, and he's going to consult to get the non-fictiony bits right. Cool! But this isn't like a retired detective doing some fact-checking and correcting process-based details. It's consultation on some core thematic & big idea stuff. Like imagine Orwell tried to write Animal Farm but only had a Wikipedia-level grasp of the USSR. How do I credit that?
Hello hive mind, especially those with project management expertise! I am at the starting line of a quick, three-month sprint to revamp a large website. I am looking for your best practices, tools, tips, and tricks for managing the process(es) to get from "terrible, ancient, overgrown website" to "well structured information" -- not at the information architecture or navigational levels but in terms of getting the best content on each page. More details within. [more inside]
It’s been about five years since I last thought about birth control, as that is when I had my first IUD put in. It’s been great not having to think about it at all, but all good things must come to an end in August. Before getting another one inserted, I thought I'd check and see what other methods people use and like. [more inside]
We're loading up the car and heading to North Carolina for a wedding in late June, from Long Island. I'd love some ideas and tips for things to do, places to stay along the way. We're planning to break the trip up quite a bit and make an event of it. We've never roadtripped with the li'l dude before though and we don't really know how he'll handle things like hotels, long drives, camping(?), etc. Any thoughts and ideas are welcome. [more inside]
Recently discovered the newspaper that I work for has a rich history. None of it has been preserved for the ages and I'm wondering how I could go about the process? [more inside]
I cannot get to a hairdressers before a big event, but I would like my long, dark, thick brown hair to look as awesome as possible. What (non- dye) products will give me the most bang for my buck? [more inside]
For the past 10 years, I have been creating websites using Content Management Systems (CMS). It's been a good run but I feel trouble brewing ahead on the CMS front: so what new technologies are suitable for someone who does not write code for a living? [more inside]
I'm enrolled in a weekly beginner's Tai Chi class and I am honestly truly terrible because I have co-ordination and balance issues. The class is mixed ability and quite large and I want to be able to practice on my own at home. There are tons of videos on youtube and websites but I can't tell which of them are yay! and which suck. I just want something for the first 10-15 movements so I know when to turn my wrists and when to drop the invisible ball!
I know it's probably an absurd question, but if I don't graduate with highest honors from my university, how badly have I hurt my chances of getting into a top grad program? I have a very checkered academic past, and I worry constantly about needing to prove that I've turned my life around. I'm working on coming to terms with that, and with what I understand to be a very common confidence problem among students, but just for the sake of hearing it, how much does it matter to graduate with highest honors? [more inside]
My partner and I are happily the parents of 2.5 year old twins. She is still nursing them and we want to change that. Did you or someone you love nurse/nurse twins for an extended period of time? How did you gently wean them? [more inside]
Tl;dr: all I want is a place to put savings that will, at a minimum, not steadily lose value to inflation (although actually growing would also be nice). What are my options? [more inside]
My friend has IBS-D AND a birthday coming up. I'd like to make her something sweet that might not make her totally ill. Complication: I live in Korea. [more inside]
What is going to be the status of a Kia Soul / Apple CarPlay infotainment system in, say, five years? Will it be updateable by either Kia or Apple? Will they charge a lot of money for a major update? How feasible will it be to replace the system altogether when better components become available? [more inside]
My partner's beloved pristine white 1990 Cadillac Fleetwood was recently totaled (and it wasn't his fault-not that it matters). I salvaged the hood ornament and a Cadillac emblem. I'd like to frame it as a surprise birthday gift. Needs to be displayed on a wall because space is limited. The ornament and the emblem are not connected. A shadow box display would be okay but I'd love to find a unique or inventive or even whimsical way to frame and display it. Thanks!
Who is this? The photo shows up early in the movie when we are shown Sebastian's apartment, and then at the end on the wall of Seb's.
I have a adult male cat on trial adoption from a shelter- today is day 7 of 10. He was considered too shy to be in the actual shelter so was in a foster home. He's really warmed up to me and is mostly doing normal cat stuff, but is yowling off and on all night, every night. He's got food, water, clean litter and access to the whole house (including my bedroom) while doing this. Needless to say, I can't sleep and it's making me crazy. [more inside]
We and our 6 month old baby live in a 1930's built house in AZ, it's a little ramshackle but we like it fine. We've discovered there's exposed lead paint in some areas and are trying to figure out what we want to happen if we're going to continue living here, given that AZ law doesn't require any remediation from landlords, it seems. [more inside]
I am going to be flying with the three small McGees for the first time ever in a few weeks. I have some questions! Nano McGee is flying as a lap baby -- should I gate-check an umbrella stroller for her and then rent a car seat at the destination? Help me with logistics! For the elementary-aged McGees (7 and 5, one with special needs), can they go through security holding a parent's hand? I want to be at the airport early enough to make the flight but not SO early my kids lose their minds with boredom -- how early? More details within. [more inside]
I've noticed that over the past several months that I know longer feel the desire to masturbate as much as I used to. I usually masturbate at least once a day. If I've watched some porn or seen a attractive woman wearing revealing clothing then I usually feel the need to masturbate twice. Recently however I feel the desire maybe once a week at most. Is this something I should be worried about? I turn 29 in 2 months and I'm wondering if my age has something to do with it. Is it normal to feel less sexual desire as you grow older? I also weigh 280 lbs and I'm wondering if my weight has something to do with it. I've been overweight my whole life but usually between 237-267 lbs. I was at 292 lbs 2 months ago and I've lost weight since then. When I was at 292 lbs I would practically never feel the need to masturbate, maybe once a month at most. As I've lost weight I've noticed feeling a bit more aroused. Finally I'm wondering if after going so long without so much as a kiss, much less sex, maybe my body has accepted it's fate and is now going into asexual mode. lol. Anyone have any thoughts about this?
Asking For a Friend: Sort of ex-boyfriend living in my house with his sort of ex-girlfriend, running a business and refusing to leave. How do I extricate them from my life? [more inside]
I need to learn PHP for my new job, and have been given the option to take an online class paid for by work. Anybody have any recommendations? It needs to have an instructor who interacts with students in real time. [more inside]
I have three credit cards, two are fairly maxed but ok and on time. The third is a closed account that has the highest balance and I can't seem to get a handle on it. I'm three months late on that card. The card company is offering me a 45% settlement offer. This is very attractive but I'm sure that paying a settlement carries some long term risk. Someday I would like to buy a little house for me and my daughter. [more inside]
Looking for any anecdata re: downloaded Netflix titles working in other countries. According to Netflix.....maybe you can? [more inside]
So my dear friend is heading to Iceland next week for a week. Staying in an Air BnB outside of reykjavik. She will have a rental car for half a week. Where should she go? Where should she eat? What is she do? No food restrictions. Both adventurous hikers and eaters.
I have a list of charges and need to figure out which went through based on the total. Can Excel do this? Could a different program? Example below. [more inside]
Congress just passed S.J.Res.34. So... I'm looking for VPN service recommendations/advice. I'm happy to pay (within reason) for reliability, privacy, and... any other considerations?
Can you help my friend find a good tailor? [more inside]
In medical dramas on tv, the doctor will approach an illuminated wall-mounted box and clip x-rays under the clip at the top, just by pushing it underneath. Is there something like this for an office, without the backlight, for displaying pieces of mainly A4 paper? What is it called?
For the last few months, I've been situationally depressed – I've been dealing with a breakup, shake-ups at work and other life stuff. I know that "this too shall pass" and I'm talking about all of this in therapy. HOWEVER, my therapist is not very good at giving me practical advice for keeping it together day-to-day, and that's what I'm asking about here. [more inside]
What are the stereotypes of Ivy league students and graduates? [more inside]
I got seats to the upcoming U2 show at Soldier field. But I ended up with 4 tix, 2 seated, 2 GA. But GA has a weird code I can't figure out (*GAFL21*). Can you help me figure out which tickets to keep? [more inside]
I will be in Seattle alone for one Friday night. Where can I get a decent, sit down vegetarian meal for one? [more inside]
My Dad (75, moderately computer literate) has an iPhone, iPad and a Mac. Tonight I tried to change his Apple ID password for him, but couldn't because 2-factor authentication is switched on; he says not by him. Has his account been hacked, and if so, what should I do? [more inside]
I need some suggestions for restaurants in Midtown that will accept a reservation of 15 people without going through the catering/special events departments and reserving a private room and all that. This is for a casual business meeting of high level execs who are not all that fancy, so a midrange bar & grill-type place is fine, but I'm not looking for like, TGIFridays in Times Square. Main priorities are 1. Not wildly expensive and 2. Have a liquor license. [more inside]
I am producing/curating a Artists and Fleas - like artisan faire in the Los Angeles area. Our flagship market is in South Pasadena and I'm dreaming of expanding it out to communities outside the DTLA/Westside center. It's time for a marketing assist and I would love to find a marketing/p.r. intern for the summer. My first thought is to approach FIDM (Fashion Institute) Calling on MeFites for suggestions for other local possibilities/solutions.
I have a ton of spices, and the tins I keep them in don't fit in traditional American spice racks. If you keep a wide variety of spice on hand, what do you use to organize and store them? If you've got a funky DIY solution for this, I'd like to know about it. [more inside]
I'm looking for some way to make a D&D style character alignment test (lawful good, chaotic evil, etc) that lays out the results of the test similar to the 2-axis political spectrum/compass test, with the two axis being law-chaos and good-evil. I'm having trouble figuring out a way to do this. [more inside]
How would you get rid of persistent mold in a dishwasher? [more inside]
You're not my doctor, but I can't get in touch with him right now. I typically take 15 mg of Prevacid (the only mg sold OTC that I can find) but I am having breakthrough heartburn a few days a week. I know prescription Prevacid comes in 30 mg, but the boxes of 15mg all say "Do not take more than 1 capsule a day." My plan was to take 30 mg all at once at the usual time I take 15mg (once a day.) Is this acceptable? Does the delayed-release aspect of the OTC Prevacid make this a bad idea?
Need a restaurant for Chicago, for dinner, this Thursday, for 7. Must have: good cocktails, at least one vegetarian option that is not pasta. Not be south of Congress, not be north of Montrose. Budget is pretty flexible, looking for nicer or something with a little wow factor, like a view. One diner really hates shared plates--so no small plate communal eating thing. [more inside]
We recently received a fruit basket that contained a container of what I now know were greengages. I had never seen them before, and now we want more. We go to Fairway on the Upper West Side regularly and have never run across them, and I've never spotted them in Whole Foods either. Hoping someone has seen them either recently or regularly, ideally in Manhattan? Dean and DeLuca? Chinatown?
In the last few months, I am often unable to sleep due to itching. Last night was the worst night, I think. I was up until 3am and woke up periodically through the night until I got up at 7am. [more inside]
I have a yard of wall to wall poured ~50 y/o concrete. I'm interested in removing an 18-24" deep strip about 15' long along one edge (to plant some greenery in). Is there a way to remove it cleanly? [more inside]
What exotic fruits could I grow (in US Zone 9)? [more inside]
When I need to rest my brain, I tend to play NethackW (the tile interface, not ASCII). As of yesterday, my computer's anti-virus software decided that only NethackW, and not the ASCII version, was infected with a Trojan or malware (gen:Variant.Jaik.15909), and promptly wiped it off my computer. [more inside]
I have a 5 year old, going on 6 who spends a lot of time on the internet. This has been pretty great for him- I'm sure his language skills, maths and general knowledge are far greater than they would have been without them. However I'm concerned that he will inevitably encounter things that I'd rather he didn't. Tools or rules for balancing giving him the freedom to explore without being too laissez-faire? [more inside]
I'm tired of trying to maintain a steady 78 rpm on my hand-cranked phonograph. Please explain wireless speaker systems to me like I'm some kind of Luddite. [more inside]
My child denies being tired in the morning and at night, especially when they clearly are. I am looking for age appropriate (7) tests or activities which they could perform periodically to measure their tiredness in a way which might illustrate to them that their mood or cognitive function is better when they are well rested. [more inside]
I am in a dire situation with my mother in law who is poor and (now) homeless. She has been in the hospital for the past month+ due to a suicide attempt, which has also resulted in her being denied return to her independent living home. The hospital has decided she is no longer a threat to herself and needs to be discharged. The hospital social worker has been unable to find her low-income assisted living and is now threatening to put her in a cab and send her to a homeless shelter unless my husband and I take her in. We can't. What can we do? [more inside]
I've been following an organization in my town closely for a while; they do awesome work in a field I'm interested in. A few weeks ago, they posted a job on their website. I sent in my resume and cover letter, but heard nothing. I checked the website a week ago and the job posting has been removed, replaced with "we are not currently hiring." I really want to work there, whether in that specific capacity, or another role. It's a small nonprofit (only 3 fulltime staff), so the staff wear many hats. I believe I have the skills and work experience to make myself a valuable addition. Assume this is my dream job. What can I do, if anything? Reach out to the director directly? Offer to volunteer? How much contact from a prospective employee (hopefully) is too much contact before they get annoyed?
I'm a woman in my early twenties who is experiencing attraction to women and I'm confused. I’m feeling attraction towards my best friend who is bisexual, but I’m not sure if I should act on it, due to morality and fears that she won’t be receptive. How can I explore this identity without acting in ways I might regret? I’d like to build my confidence before I become apathetic towards myself or stifle a part of myself. [more inside]
I will be spending 12 months on a round-the-world trip in which my girlfriend and I will visit twelve cities in ten countries, one city per month. I will have all business days free as she works remotely on her laptop solo. Please give me ideas for how to transform experience this from a merely fun and leisurely trip to something truly meaningful, magical, and that will jump out on a resume. [more inside]
I am about to start lacto-fermenting at home. I feel like I have always been doing this spiritually, but now I am about to do it physically. Your resources, recommendations and experiences please! [more inside]
I feel ridiculous asking this question, but I know nothing about DIY and I need help. I want to make abstract-ish fake flowers. In other words, I'm not trying to make fake flowers that look real. Instead, I'm trying to make something abstract-ish and modern that adds a pop of color for home decor. I have links to pictures inside showing exactly what I'm trying to do (as a starting point, anyway). [more inside]
Around or before summer 2014, there was a lovely zoetrope video that was posted on vimeo, and (maybe) posted on the blue. Help me find it? [more inside]
I feel tired almost all the time, and my boyfriend and I have noticed I need way, way more sleep than him. Does this sound like a health issue? [more inside]
My current direct supervisor is retiring. I don't know her socially at all, though I've liked her a lot as a manager. How can I politely express / request something like this: "Bye, I'll miss you as a boss, please be my reference for future hypothetical job searching, also I need your contact info because I don't know anything about you and you're not on social media." Help?
I've signed up for a raft trip through a beautiful,wild canyon, paid my deposit and about to pay the final balance. Reading the trip prep information it says I should be prepared to pay a 'customary' fee of 15%-20% of the trip fee to the guide. I've never encountered this before from an outfitter or business and wondering how to proceed. [more inside]
My husband and I are kind and generous souls. We'd both give you our last $40 or the shirt off of our back if you needed it. We just got rid of my sister as a roommate...now we have another...Mefites, help me be gracious. [more inside]
My wife and I are just now starting to move forward on planning our Christmas trip to Europe (fly into Prague, out of Vienna). However, there is a complication that is vexing us! How do we reserve lodging without an airline itinerary? [more inside]
I spend far too much time reading the news. Far, far, far too much time. It's embarrassing and I'm ashamed. I kind of want to totally disconnect, but I don't believe that would be effective ultimately. Does anyone have ideas for how to stay somewhat informed without getting sucked into an endless news spiral? I'd love it if there were some digital equivalent of a very thoughtful newspaper (without links!) with only the most important pieces in it, like with a paper newspaper. [more inside]
Pretty straightforward question. When the game came out I looked at the recommended specs and it didn't look like my computer (a Surface Pro 3) could. But I've played the demo on my computer and it works. Will the full game work too? [more inside]
My wife got into grad school at UO and so we are 90% sure we will be moving to Eugene (from Pennsylvania) this summer. Several questions about apartment hunting inside, chief among them: WHEN should we make a trip to secure a July 1 rental? [more inside]
My mother is evil, but my siblings and father are nice (if passive and somewhat in denial). What to do? [more inside]
I want to send Easter postcards to my 4-yo and 2-yo nieces. Any ideas of fun stuff that I can send them? Light DIY is fine (this is a shop that I can easily access).
I've recently accepted a job in Brooklyn. I'll have about $1,900 to spend on rent per month (less would be wonderful, obviously). I'm willing to live with a roomie, but would be open to a studio if that was at all possible in that price range (research suggests it's not). What are good options for places to look, given some criteria below the jump? [more inside]
I'm going to start a master's program in computer science in the fall. My current (Windows) laptop is great, but it's too heavy to carry to class. I'm looking for something under $1,000 (ideally closer to $500 or below; I'm poor) that I can bring in for in-class assignments and group work. What would you recommend?
It seems that there is a large proportion of Americans who support abortion only when certain circumstances caused the pregnancy. I'm trying to find any piece that actually argues for this. (Potential CW: sexual violence) [more inside]
Have you ever worked in a Japanese steakhouse? Ready to spill your secrets? [more inside]
I'm looking for a content management system that will allow for easy sharing of content, including PowerPoint presentations, pdfs, links to online content and videos, etc. [more inside]
So I just got an instapot, and one of the amazing features is the fact that you can drop in a frozen piece of chicken and have it perfectly cooked in no time. My highschool physics is not helping me understand why it's ok to do that with a pressure cooker but not by say baking it. My thoughts were baking may not get the temperature high enough in the frozen center for food safety. Is this not then true for pressure cooking? [more inside]
I'm a first time home buyer looking for Realtor recs and/or advice . I'm in Chapel Hill/Hillsborough/Durham, NC. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
My husband and I would like to adopt a cat! Complication: my husband has selective cat allergies, in that he has been varyingly allergic to some cats (ie, more severely allergic to individual cats at some times and in some situations than others) and not at all allergic to some other cats. We would obviously like to adopt a cat that my husband is less--or not at all--allergic to. The question is, how do we do this? [more inside]
Overwhelmed by this industry online and what deal sites are legit and what aren't. I've rooted around some blogs by people who do this for a living, but again -- they are being sponsored or run ads for these sites. Not sure if those are legit. Help! [more inside]
I went to Target last night to stock up on convenience meals, and noticed that the freezer unit housing the meals was fogged-up and that a lot of the cardboard inside was damp. The rest of the store was in some state of disarray, and there were random Amy's meals tossed into other areas of the freezer where the windows were clean and everything seemed to be pretty well frozen. But I was so dang desperate for my convenience meals that I bought a couple of them anyway. [more inside]
I do not think strategically, for reasons. Mostly principles, as it feels like manipulation which is not my jam. I am noticing that a colleague is getting ahead through strategy despite low quality work (lots of missed deadlines, typos, red flags in internal audits) and questionable technical skills, because she is managing up with the supervisor. It is clearly a "sucking up" approach, with a clear agenda in all conversations where boss is present that reads as this artificial "I am your friend and you really like me." How can I also get ahead, without resorting to tactics? [more inside]
When I approach jewelers both locally, and semi-locally (and maybe online), what kind of questions should I ask. What are some red flags I should look out for? [more inside]
I thought I was part of a whole new social circle of families in our small town, until I wasn't. [more inside]
The wife and I are considering moving into a condo. But, we know nothing about the condo world, or such a purchase. Please hope us! [more inside]
I am looking for a durable non-toxic jewelry glue that glues metal to metal with a flexible bond and dries clear without emitting harmful fumes. [more inside]
I went speed dating for the first time this past Tuesday (3/21). There were 6 women and 5 men. I got the email on Thursday that I matched with one man - the only information the company gave me was his first name and his email, so I sent him an email that afternoon (3/23). I haven't heard anything back. Do I let it go, or do I try to email again? [more inside]
Spring is kinda sorta here in our corner of zone 6a/b. If you're a seasoned (har) gardener, how do you kick off the spring to get your garden and lawn in the best shape? [more inside]
Hi there, I'm still cry on a weekly basis over some traumatic events that happened two years ago. Does anyone know how traumatic emotional damage ends? [more inside]
We have developed a habit of watching TV once a week with our six year old. It's something we all look forward to (and it means he's not the weirdo at school who doesn't watch ANY TV). We've worked our way through two box sets of Planet Earth and last night we watched Alone in the Wilderness which was wonderful as the narration isn't a million miles away from being like an American Attenborough. [more inside]
How do we find someone to help my mother manage the financial, legal, and day-to-day needs of her younger sister (my aunt) with special needs now that my grandparents are gone? [more inside]
I'm going to be in Rio de Janeiro for 4 days, at Iguazu falls for 2 days, and then in Buenos Aires for 6 days. What are your recommendations for things to do, places to eat/drink/dance, and any tips for getting the most out of my experience? [more inside]
Getting married in less than a week -- on April 1, appropriately enough! We're still working out details, and now we're flopping about, trying to decide on a tune that will work well (or well enough) on kazoos (that will be distributed to the assembled guests when they arrive). Ideas? The traditional wedding march is a little tricky. Other suggestions have included the Ode to Joy, but it always sounds like Deutschland Über Alles to me, so no thanks, and the Hallelujah Chorus (mmmmmaybe). Silly is fine, but tuneful would be best. Help!
Does anyone know of places online with footage from yesterday's Debbie Reynolds/Carrie Fisher memorial livestream? [more inside]
Who makes the best ropes for household-type things? [more inside]
I have finally broken up with my boyfrien. After over a year of unemployment, he had gotten a job, but I still felt things were off. He would lie to me about holes in the wall and say they were there from the beginning, but I just was not paying attention. He has lied about holes in walls and trash and furniture in a similar fashion. He has made me feel sexually inferior and treats me in a way that feels like he has all of the control even after I paid all the bills for that year. Each time I would try to break up before he told me that it wasn't fair and that I was taking away his ability to be happy. [more inside]
This summer I will be travelling to K2 base camp with a dear old friend. I realise that with all the geopolitics happening, it isn't an ideal moment for this trip, but we've been planning it for literally years and since Skardu is safe enough at the moment we're still going. Looking for tips and thoughts about travel in Pakistan in general or the K2 base camp trek in particular. Also looking for a travel insurance recommendation. (Please don't try to talk me out of going.) [more inside]
Looking for reasonably priced hotel suites (with kitchens) in Toronto. [more inside]
Help me identify this Be Good Tanyas track on very little information? [more inside]
I'm looking for a straightforward guide on how to setup Facebook Pixels so I can track conversions between Facebook ads, traffic to a website (my own), and sales on another site (where I've installed my Pixel as well). Help!? [more inside]
I've been using the Nuvaring continuously for the past six months, in the hopes that it would eliminate both periods and PMS. Thusfar I'm still getting periods (and PMS) every 5-6 weeks. How much longer should I continue with the experiment? Suggestions for other things that might help? [more inside]
My wife and I are thinking about traveling to India for vacation. We've mostly travelled in Europe, with the most exotic other destinations being Morocco and Central America. What should we expect to be different about traveling on our own in India?
What should I pray every day. [more inside]
I have a friend who is hoping to have surgery in Thailand and would like some assistance with the financial process. There are two main questions they're trying to resolve. What is the best way to convert their USD to Thai Bhat? And how can they hold THB before they make their payment to the doctor? [more inside]
I live in a new neighborhood that is getting ready to take over the HOA from the developer. Currently we have around 250 homes. In future years that will increase to +/-400. We are looking for a low cost solution that can provide a website with announcements, accept payment for annual dues (around $200/house/year) and also issue letters stating current dues status for homeowners that need a letter from the hoa for a real estate closing. [more inside]
I need to find a 12 cup Bundt pan that is NOT non-stick coated. I don't want a silicone or glass pan either. Does anyone know where I could find one? Nordic ware doesn't make any that are not non-stick. I would prefer stainless steel but aluminum would be ok too. It absolutely can't have a non-stick coating (anything similar to ptfe etc.) I suppose a carbon steel one might work, if such a thing exists. Thanks a Bundt-ch!
I am wanting to start an online literary magazine on the side while I pursue a MFA and intern in the coming fall. I am wondering if it is worth starting a literary magazine to make some pocket change? I know some magazines struggle, and I am wondering if there's any advice on how to make an ample amount? My first aim was non-profit, but there isn't much money in it, unless donations are given. I suppose it depends on the philosophical motive. I want to share and preserve the literary works, but I also want to make some money while doing this. Literarure and poetry are my two greatest passions. It's a lot of work to design and market this out of free labour; I do a lot of volunteer work myself, bur some extra cash with this project is something I would like to pursue. Some people may not view literary magazines as a business franchise while others may do so. Thoughts? Thanks, RW.
I generally fall asleep very quickly. Kiss my husband, light out, head on pillow, and I'm out. My husband finds this remarkable and says it generally takes him 15-30 minutes to sleep. Google tells me most people fall asleep within ten minutes, and falling asleep too quickly can indicate over-tiredness, but I've been like this forever and don't feel tired at all. Because my husband has always been so surprised by this (even after many years bedsharing), I am curious to know how long it actually takes others to fall asleep! More sleepflakes within. [more inside]
Gmail has been deleting all emails from a particular sender and I can't figure out why. The obvious answer is that there's some filter set up which is causing this to happen, but if so, I can't find it. There's no filter set up, that I can tell, which would move all these emails to the trash. Is it possible that there are filters somewhere else in gmail that I should be checking? I've been looking in the obvious place--under Settings, in Filters and Blocked Addresses--and there's nothing that would explain how this is happening. (The address is not blocked, either.)
I have all the conventional baking ingredients except milk, and would like to make something brunchish. I could use yogurt as a substitute but would prefer not to. What is my most delicious option? Thanks!
I have been reading a little about formal grammar in the context of computer language parsing. I understand that a formal grammar G is defined as the tuple (N, Σ, P, S), where N are nonterminal symbols, Σ are terminal symbols, P are production rules, and S is the start symbol. N, Σ, and P are all finite sets. But what is it called if they're infinite? [more inside]
Other than getting tickets for a game if the Spurs are in town, what should I not miss? Bonus points for quirky or outstanding offbeat places to eat, see, or things to do. Is the Alamo worth it? The zoo? I can get a car, or not. Hotel is maybe 15 min walk from downtown/riverwalk area. Late May timeframe. Coming from the Pacific Northwest, is it going to be hot and humid? [more inside]
Imagine someone is hosting a casual house party of 20-30 people and invites a guest who is a new friend. It goes like this:
- Host invites the guest personally, by text message
- Guest happily replies, saying they will come
- The day before the party, host texts guest a reminder
- Guest confirms they will come
- Guest doesn't show up to party, and doesn't send host a message before or anytime after the party
I really enjoy sleeping in the same bed as my partner, except that I don't actually get any sleep. Other than getting separate/larger beds, what can we do to help me sleep better? [more inside]
What did I forget to teach my 19 year old? What will help her adult when she is far, far away? Help me compile a list. [more inside]
What are good places for a lowkey femme/tomboy/outdoorsy queer lady to find durable, comfortable clothes? I'm trying to move from fast fashion into maintainable-over-years items (as well as figure out this aesthetic) and would love any guidance. [more inside]
In 2008, Boys Like Girls opened for Avril Lavigne, and had 10 large vertical light bars on stage. I can't find anyone who sells these light bars. Were they custom? I would like to own a couple. [more inside]
In iTunes 10 (Windows 7), I'm getting a 5002 error at the end of movie rental downloads, and then again when I attempt to play them. Does iTunes 10 play rentals for you? If not, how about 11? Any other insights? [more inside]
MeFites who have been making kombucha for a while: what containers have you had success with for your primary ferments? Looking for ones that make it easy to do a transfer to bottles for a secondary ferment.
I am a professor. I teach an advanced course in a technical (engineering) subject at a prestigious research university. I have concluded that my students have completely unreasonable expections, and I hate them for it. What do I do? [more inside]
My mom recently died, leaving a cat that does not like me. At all. And it's mutual. [more inside]
I've paid a Web designer to create a neighborhood-focused website for my little town (I am not tech-skilled). The most important part of it will be the Community Forum, providing a better level of public conversation. The platform is WordPress, but the current Forum page (and "manual" registration) is already proving to be too awkward to gather momentum. [more inside]
I’m having a mid-afternoon party for around 20 people as a sort of shared birthday party for me and my 2-year-old. Looking for food (and other) suggestions for a fun party that’s as easy as possible. [more inside]
I am the treasurer for a small community orchard. I have been using an old version of QuickBooks on an old computer and would like to update preferably to something I can use on my iPad. We don't have that many transactions; our bookkeeping needs are simple. But still, I would like to generate balance sheets and profit and loss standards easily. I am in the UK. Any suggestions?
I have 2 physical hard drives in my Mac Pro, one with OS X 10.11 & one with OS X 10.6. I would like to use the install of 10.6 virtually instead of having to re-boot from 2nd drive. [more inside]
What do you guys use to make a straight line in between the ceiling paint (white) and the wall paint( gray) I use frog tape but it does not seem to be super straight. I don't know how to touch up. Any suggestions?
My Mom & will be arriving in Dublin in early June - staying in nearby Howth for a couple of nights, then going on this tour. We will be leaving Dublin at the end of the month and will have about 5 days to fill in between. [more inside]
I am sick to my stomach about this and so stressed out. How to get rid of someone that was supposed to stay temporarily? I thought I was helping a friend out and it seems that no matter how well-intentioned, this situation has turned into something crappy. I am done feeling used and I need to know what is the best route to extricate myself from this mess I got myself into [more inside]
I am looking for examples of interactive dichotomous keys to use in a lesson on creating dichotomous keys. The few I've found have been... too cutesy and aimed at younger people. Do you know of any that are simple to follow, but not dumbed-down? [more inside]
My friend's mother has been missing for a month (and may lose her housing) and my friend has a couple questions. [more inside]
I want the meaning to be 'written by the Babylonians' rather than 'about the Babylonians', and google has left me thoroughly confused! (This is for a literary project rather than an historical one; the idea being that the Babylonians write a jolly good encyclopedia but have named it in Latin for some reason!)
I'm serious about learning Spanish, but I've come to dread my daily study sessions. What sort of framing, routines, or projects made language-learning more enjoyable for you? [more inside]
I missed services at my synagogue this morning and I need a place to say mourner's Kaddish for my Dad tonight. Does anyone have recommendations for a synagogue (preferably in downtown Manhattan) where there are evening or Havdallah services tonight? Open to any denomination. I am a woman and I don't mind divided seating but don't want to go somewhere where I wouldn't be allowed in with pants or prohibited from saying the Kaddish in my section. Any suggestions very much appreciated.
Can I store clothing hanging on an uncovered rack in a dry unfinished basement with no humidity or moisture but lots of spiders, or am I better off just buying plastic bins? What about shoes and toys? Everything I have read on the subject deals with the assumption that the basement is wet, which mine is not at all because I live in the desert. [more inside]
A Facebook friend saw the advert for a spooky film in the 80's, but she was young then and her parents refused to let her see it because it might scare her. Since it's never too late to have a happy childhood, can you help me identify it for her now? [more inside]
I have a glass top electric stove that only works well with pans that have perfectly flat bottoms. I want to try carbon steel pans to see if they can replace nonstick pans, but many of them seem to be thin and warp eventually after use (based on experience and internet reviews). [more inside]
I use MathType 6.9 with Word 2013. MathType's current position on the ribbon is after the Review tab, but I would like to move it to be one of the leftmost tabs. Is there a way to do this? (Yep, I've already tried "Customize Ribbon", but the MathType tab is not listed there, despite being on the ribbon.) [more inside]
How can I make the tongue of my shoe lay forward over the shoelaces while I'm recovering from a skin rash that it brushes against and irritates? This is what I want. Thanks!
My mother-in-law is overbearing and my temperamental opposite. Can the relationship be improved, or should we just see each other even less than we do today? [more inside]
I have a date in 3 hours, but my ears are plugged and I can't hear a thing. What's the quickest way to unplug them? I've been using olive oil spray all day, bit it doesn't seem to be doing anything. I've also tried the Valsalva Maneuver and nasal spray in case it's a sinus blockage (they usually get blocked because of ear wax, but I just had a cold so it could be sinuses). Is there anything else I can do to unplug them before 7:30?
Just that: does Donald Trump have, or did he ever have, a driver's license? Can he even drive anything other than a golf cart? [more inside]
What are your standards for housecleaning services and reviews thereof? I'm second-guessing a TaskRabbit review. [more inside]
I recently got (back) into cross-stitch and made a small sampler in a single color. It looks great and I want to keep going! Can anyone recommend books, websites, blogs, designers, etc that I can browse to find cool patterns? [more inside]
I'm playing piano at a Christian wedding and was asked to include a rendition of the Lord's Prayer, but in rehearsal I found out the song I grew up with (missionary high school in Hawaii) is not the "standard" one that most churches sing. I recorded myself playing the tune as I remember it, but couldn't find any similar recordings online - where does this arrangement come from?
I am trying to track down a short story I read several years ago in, I think, either Harpers or the Atlantic. A group of teenage boys accidentally kills someone and it haunts them for life. [more inside]
It's late Saturday night and suddenly all our power sockets have gone dead. (Lights and aircon are still fine). Anything we can do while waiting until we can get an electrician out (which might be Monday)? Or any ideas about what might have caused it? [more inside]
Looking for the latest cool sneakers for 28 year old sneakerhead brother in law. [more inside]
Our front steps are crumbling to dust - what type of block should we use to replace them? [more inside]
Other than the big dystopian books (Hunger Games, Divergent, the Maze Runner) in the YA genre, please tell me the names of some books that focus on escape and rescue stories (or the reverse -- rescue and escape). I'm specifically interested in ones that happen here on earth rather than in made up societies, though I will take a made up society if necessary. I prefer futuristic ones or contemporary ones to historical as well.
For reasons, I lost my 4 front teeth in my early teens. My parents couldn't afford much in the way of fixing this. The dentist very kindly built me a "flipper"; what was supposed to be a temporary piece until something more appropriate could be acquired. Jump to now, 44 years later, and I am still wearing same flipper. I looked into dental implants, but the cost is not in my means. My dentist worked out a way to make me a better partial, at a reasonable cost. Unlike the flipper, which no one could tell wasn't my real teeth, the new device has some visible wires. [more inside]
So my wife has had a toy since she was very young. As you can see, it's almost dead (my finger is included for proportions). I don't think I can find where it was made to get a replacement (see thread here), but does anyone know how I would go about getting someone to make a replica of it (there's admittedly not much left to go on, of course!)? Cheaper is better, and I'm UK based. I've looked on etsy but can't seem to find someone who will do it. Any help appreciated.
I am a recent graduate with a bachelor's in psychology and would like advice for whether I should continue to pursue psychology (if so which field in psychology), or go into another field like business. [more inside]
Basic idea, how do insurance companies decide what DR visit are part of an accident and what aren't? I got into a cycling accident almost 2 years ago and I'm in the final process of wrapping everything up, hence the question about insurance, specifically medical. This is regarding the lien they place, which I need to settle before I formally move on and get my damn money. [more inside]
I peruse "Three men in a boat" pretty much every day, in a certain situation, briefly. I'm a Californian and have no idea if Montmorency is pronounced as Mont-mor-en-cy or as Montsy, or Moresy, or. . . ?
Which video/digital games feature some kind of band as part of the story? Not something like Rockband or Guitar Hero, but where the story or universe involves a band of some fashion playing actual songs (doesn't have to be a big part of the gameplay). [more inside]
I am trying to understand some statistical data in a piece dealing with a historical text corpus and am in over my depth, which doesn’t take much doing. I’d be grateful for a simple explanation of what’s going on, plus the technical terms for this phenomenon, if it is one. [more inside]
Looking for advice on how to set it up and how to judge a good provider. Recommendations welcome. I don't want to spend a ton of money but willing to spend a reasonable amount. [more inside]
The longest of longshot find-a-website questions: Years and years ago, I remember reading some college kids' site (really more of a webpage) about the Ford Country Squire they had, and what a great car it was for roadtrips. (I think it was a 1991.) [more inside]
Today I got spam/phishing email that claimed to be from the postal service-- nothing new. However what was new, and scary, is that this message was to my primary email and had my correct address and my cell phone number. They missed a part of my address but had majority of it right. [more inside]
I'm trying to find an example of a specific shot in a film. The protagonist is in Times Square, and the camera circles around him as he takes it all in. This is done in both Vanilla Sky and in Captain America: The First Avenger. Please tell me there's a third movie out there that does this same thing!
I want to replace a drop ceiling with a regular ceiling in my house. I can't DIY this. Who (what kind of professional) do I need to call?
I've had an idea percolating for while about a "virtual phone bank" that would help progressive candidates get their message out. Is there anyone out there that can help? [more inside]
Is there more Black Sabbath repertoire like 'Planet Caravan'? I find this piece magnetic. [more inside]
I miss writing a blog - the creative outlet it gives, the community that can develop, and the way I can focus and deepen my ideas by putting pen to paper, so to speak. So time for a new blog with a short, catchy title that is available as a .com! I'm planning on writing a personal/lifestyle blog, with a focus on parenting/relationships (but NOT a mommy blog), minimalism/simplicity, outdoors, adventures, and developing habits to lead a good life (however one defines it). [more inside]
I am trying to find a specific special report that NPR did for Super Tuesday last year. I was driving in my car to vote and my local station was being interrupted by NPR's special coverage. It was around 5:15pm that day. [more inside]
What's the process? What's the likelihood of getting a larger package? [more inside]
Anon Jr. knows a transgender boy from her high school who's asking everyone if he can crash on their couch. I supervise an activity that they're both involved in and yesterday the boy spent the entire time talking about how he needs a place to stay, how his therapist (anon jr. thinks a school therapist) was late so that's why he was late to the activity, just literally crying out for help. [more inside]
I'm looking for some good examples of 60s-70s animation that has been restored and is available in good HD quality. Think simpler, cheap stuff like Hanna-Barbera style stuff or similar. [more inside]
I've searched previous questions, and while helpful, there's not quite enough recent info. I'm looking for a moving company for a move within NYC that will also pack up everything for me. That part is most important; I don't want to have to do my own packing. [more inside]
I'm managing an event where we're inviting people to test out some super rad bouncy sneakers by using this bungee swing (like this but hanging from metal scaffolding). We want to give them a cool takeaway video that would ideally be a Boomerang (if you're not familiar with the app, it turns your short video into a back and forth loop, like one of these). I think this is the perfect format to show the experience : boing! BUT, we want these to be professional. Like shot with a real camera rather than an iPhone. And we want to slap our logo on it in post. With a possible zoom-in on the shoes. Is there a way to do all this? My research is showing me that the app won't let me fiddle with an existing vid (I think). We can put a person or two with a computer for editing there on site but I'm also not sure how fast this would be, or how many people we'd need. Solutions?
I want to say naughty adult things to someone on my iPhone but my 11yo son uses it a lot to watch youtube videos and I don't want him to see it. I don't want to delete the message thread because I like reading it back. Is it possible to hide a single message thread in between comments?
My boyfriend and I never have sex, but I'm not sure either of us cares. [more inside]
I've gotten better at bringing my lunch to work - hooray! Unfortunately this means I no longer have a reason to leave the building around lunch time, and I hate just walking with no destination in mind. I need interesting things to go look at! [more inside]
Do you have a favorite recipe or ingredient recommendation for no-bake energy balls/energy bites? Please share! Dietary restrictions/preferences inside. [more inside]
I had LASIK surgery about a week ago and have had no side effects, except a persistent mild, possibly eyestrain-related headache that hasn't left since I had the surgery. Has anyone else had this effect and has it typically gone away? [more inside]
Looking for book recs (preferably fiction) that are along the lines of 1984, but with a few caveats. Looking for specific plot lines or scenes involving forced medical procedures. [more inside]
My favorite sewing expo is no longer coming to Worcester, MA, BOO!! Are there any other big sewing conventions that come to a ~500 mile radius of Boston? [more inside]
Dear mefites, where in London can I get a nice, intense back massage? Also, how much do you tip? Please only recommend places where workers are treated fairly. Thanks!
I love my new cardigan, but it's just a tad bit itchy. It's 50% viscose, 25% polyamide, and 25% wool. Will washing it make it softer, or should I just return it? I'm disappointed that such a low percentage of wool would bother me, but here we are. Is there any way to treat wool-containing fabrics to make them softer?
Obligatory cat album. Sick cat is the lynx point; fat cat is the chocolate point (?) with the air conditioner face. [more inside]
I'm ready to go from sedentary to starting regular exercise again. In the past, one of the things I've noticed that often kills my motivation to exercise is that when I start cardio I'll start getting pretty itchy all over my body - in some cases even a rash/hives would develop. It's a huge motivation killer and probably at least partially responsible (outside of weak will) for halting many previous attempts at exercise. Have you encountered this? Tips to overcome it? [more inside]
I have 13 days to return a tablet I got, should I? [more inside]
Since my last question, we've decided to get a cat! However, we're running into the interesting problem of not finding any that we like. Are we being too picky or should we wait? Snowflakes below. [more inside]
My basement apartment has a house centipede infestation problem. I have an extreme aversion to insects and feel nauseated and panicked for hours after I see a centipede. I attempted to tolerate them until their numbers increased and I was seeing multiple centipedes a day. They have also started to appear IN MY BED. How can I keep centipedes out of my apartment without damaging the structure or endangering my cat? [more inside]
I would like to know what changes I can make to look and feel better. I have two small children under 2, I am in my mid 30's ... I don't always feel 100% and I think I could feel better (obviously- I've just had 2 kids!) I want things that have a lot of bang for their buck... For example- daily light stretching or teeth whitening- neither take a lot of time but they do a lot to make me feel and look better. Sauna a couple times a week is a bigger time commitment but is VERY good for my skin and also helps me deal with stress. What other things can I do or changes can I make? [more inside]
For a friend: Who did your awesome, quick vasectomy? Looking for that doctor's name in DC or Maryland suburbs.
We've had to ban Hamilton from our lives, temporarily, because it was starting to make us all crazy. So, I'm looking to find some new musicals we can listen to in the car. One of the things that really worked with the Hamilton soundtrack was that the kids could follow the plot. It wasn't just a series of songs that only made sense if you already knew the story. What other Broadway soundtracks share that quality and might be appealing to kids ages 5 to 11?
I'm not sure if it's possible but I'm trying to grow the beach roses (Rosa Rugosa) of my Maine youth, outdoors in the ground, here in central South Carolina (zone 8a). They're going to get a lot of afternoon sun. Are there things I can do to help them live through the summer? TYIA!
We went for Korean food recently, and with our grill we were served a red dipping sauce - it was bright red, had a paste consistency, and tasted slightly spicy and quite salty/savoury. The waitress said it was called 'dengu', but I must have misheard as nothign comes up when I google. Any idea what this was?
I have a neighbour (in a small community) who is high-strung and nervy and now has some kind of strong reaction of dislike and judgement towards. It's her own story, and she does this regularly with people. I've been ignoring it but I find my response is to avoid going where I will be around her and to withdraw into my shell. It affects me more than I would like it to. I would feel much better if I could somehow make peace. Ideas?
Sci-fi filter: I'm looking for far-future stories where Earth existed, but for whatever reason, it's not in play anymore. [more inside]
Is it possible to get a mortgage when you work for yourself? How do I really figure out what I can afford? [more inside]
I am in the mood to read some radical works - on anything, from community organizing, to race relations, to feminism, to alternative economic models, to lgbtq, to anarchism to whatever...the more left wing, the better. But I have no time - nor an attention span for more than 500 words at a time. Can you help? [more inside]
And more importantly, are they fronts for human trafficking? [more inside]
I have fine, wavy/curly, thin hair, and I desperately want it to be thicker. Do any of the products, home remedies, or magic tricks on the market actually make hair thicker? I don't mean, "look thicker", I need there to actually be more hair on my head. Is there any hope? [more inside]
I remember seeing a one-off comic strip a few years back, in a sketchy style, where two cats were either fencing or dueling with swords, in panel one they adopted the en garde stance, in panel two they lunged at each other, and in panel three they were both on all fours curiously sniffing at the tips of the swords as all cats tend to do to any outstretched finger or object [more inside]
After years of wondering why I am constantly experiencing intrusive, obsessive thoughts about things I'm failing to do or otherwise screwing up, I have come to suspect that it is highly probable that I may have a form of OCD. I will be bringing this up with my therapist and psychiatrist, respectively, when I see them next. In the meantime, I'm seeking some advice from those who have been diagnosed with or are familiar with the condition. [more inside]
Has anyone kept a list or know where there is an online list of the major articles on the Russian connections to #45, his campaign, campaign personnel, nominee's and family? Anything on potential Treasonous activities, too. [more inside]
I have a couple boxes and I'm wondering if it might be worthwhile to try and condense them down to a rack but am I getting in over my head? [more inside]
How many chickens were employed, at minimum, to provide a steady supply of eggs for Gaston's breakfasts? [more inside]
I'll be spending the month of april in Thailand. We will be spending the Thai New year with friends in Ko Phi Phi and we are planning on island hopping for the rest if the trip. Have you been to southern Thailand? What MUST I see / do / eat? [more inside]
After several years as a devoted okcupid user, I branched out to also try tindr and bumble. I've spent a fair amount of time on both apps for several weeks but have only met one person from the new apps - from tindr - it didn't work out. [more inside]
Are there any companies making high quality (meaning quiet, good looking, and reliable for many years) ceiling fans without fancy wireless remote systems? I want one that is operated solely by a pull chain. No lights. [more inside]
I'm totally blind, and interested in a number of tabletop games which use hexes to regulate movement. I don't have an actual tactile map at this point, but have a giant Excel spreadsheet which is a somewhat cumbersome equivalent. I'm wondering about mathematical ways to tell the distance between two hexes, given (X, Y) coordinates, and determine what hexes are in, say, a 60-degree arc from a sepcific hex? [more inside]
I have about 3.5 months in which I'd like to transform my body. Given a lack of flexible time (full-time job + mommying), I have some specific questions that will ultimately factor into how I stay consistent, enjoy my exercise time, and make sure I don't fall off the wagon. [more inside]
I have a yucky rash that may or may not be getting infected. Can't decide whether this is very urgent or not. [more inside]
I have a milestone birthday coming up (think 30) and my dearest friends are flying in to celebrate. It's been a particularly challenging few years and they have been the ones to pull me through. I want to get them something as a fun thank you - think like bridesmaid gifts sans wedding. Thoughts? Ideally want to keep it under $50/person.
I'm looking for advice on dealing with what feels like cognitive decline, though it's all tangled up with anxiety and depression and it's hard to tell where one stops and the other begins. [more inside]
I want some green Connemara marble beads. (8mm, round, nice green color...) Can anyone suggest a reputable source that's not too expensive? Time isn't a factor: I can wait. [more inside]
I'd swear I recently heard a news segment about how smaller nonprofits not focused on human rights or health or the environment are seeing massive drops in charitable giving because those funds are being funneled elsewhere. Is this true? [more inside]
I wish for translation to be done, from Latin. [more inside]
I received a bill for ~$4000 for a surgery I had 8 weeks ago. (After insurance was applied.) I was laid off a few weeks ago and while I could pay the amount out of savings, I'm wondering if it's better to set up a payment plan with the hospital. I have never done this. [more inside]
Time to free up house space, so time to get rid of my CDs. Please help me sort out my options. Details inside. [more inside]
I fall asleep on my side, but recently I've started doing something odd; rolling onto my stomach and moving my entire body down to the end of the bed so that my feet and legs are hanging off. [more inside]
One of my oldest friends makes a high-drama (and expensive) command performance out of his birthday dinner every year, and I’m unclear how to handle it going forward. (excruciating detail within) [more inside]
Recently pregnant, and living a 6+ hour plane flight away from both our families. What tips and tricks do you have to help our future child(ren) build and maintain close family ties with distance keeping us apart for the forseeable future? [more inside]
I have some scans (currently TIFFs) of old newspapers I would like to OCR on my Mac. Can anyone recommend a good solution? I tried PDFPen but it seems to choke on some of the larger broadsheets. Is that my best option? Web services? Anything?
Can you ID this (80s?) light rock band based on one anti-apartheid song ("how can we afford to condone a racist government?") and another slow one ("Think I'll write myself a letter / maybe then I'll feel better")? [more inside]
I have a number of pieces of art that I would like to print as either a photo album (a la Shutterfly) or a self-published book (a la Lulu.com). [more inside]
I'll be visiting Baltimore, MD + points north for a few days. I'd like to buy a gift for a female friend while there (specifics inside, but think middle-aged-crafty-lady tastes). Especially seeking interesting items (not souvenirs) that wouldn't necessarily be available via the standard online channels or at my local mall back home. What area shops should I check out? [more inside]
I've got an employee on my team (technical executive... VP level) that is very easily rattled when challenged. I'll call him Davis. Davis is extremely talented, technically capable and delivers more software solutions of higher quality than anyone on my executive team. Unfortunately, he has an unpredictable temperament (things 'get to him' easily). I want to invest in him to get him over his gap in soft skills but I'm struggling to get through to him. Examples inside for the hive mind. [more inside]
Bits I remember: it was shot and edited so as to jump backwards in time every few seconds/beats, progressively getting further back. It opens with a woman (a jogger?) emerging from some bushes, possibly colliding with someone. And I think it ends with her on the top of a building. [more inside]
1600 to the power of 16. How can I effectively explain just how large this number is to a non-math audience in common language? My calculator says this number is 1.8446744e+51. That is kind of meaningless to me (e+51?) Is this number a sextillion? Can we put this number in context to other large numbers?
Paul Ryan will be headlining two fundraisers in the next two days: tomorrow evening in downtown Chicago and Saturday evening in Racine. Mr. DrGail and I will be demonstrating at both of these, but could use some help coming up with pithy signs we can carry. Topics could include the ACHA or really anything else. Ideas?
Having bought a new DSLR camera I am trying new picture taking challenges. I'll be in St. Pete, Largo, Clearwater area for a month and would like ideas or tips for early morning night shots. No Tampa area please since I don't want to wrestle with that traffic. I have a tripod so walking is fine. Thanks.
I like to knit, but currently have a wrist injury which means I have to abstain for a while. Looking for other things to keep my hands and brain occupied while consuming various media. [more inside]
My daughter has for some time been very interested in medical topics and the body, and is learning anatomical jargon the way some kids learn the names of dinosaurs. I'm sure there must be some great iPad apps to indulge her curiousity, but I'm confused by the choices. The field seems to be dominated by anatomy apps aimed at medical students on the one hand, and crappy or creepy and not very educational games aimed at small children on the other. Do you know of quality apps suitable for a 10 year old?
I have tadpoles in the garden pond; to minimise cannibalism when they turn to protein diets, I want to supplement their food. As a kid, I used liver-on-a-string, but now I'm a vegetarian so what are my options? [more inside]
In April, I'm going to be going to DC and the surrounding areas with my dad for a week. What are some must-see things to visit there, and along the way back to Massachusetts? We're definitely going to tour the museums (as I love to see art up close and my dad's a history buff) but other than that we're a little fuzzy on the particulars. More details under the cut. [more inside]
I'm interested in making a career shift and I'm curious about records and information management. I think the field would be a good fit for me. However, I'm not sure where to begin to make this change. What type of further education/qualifications would I need to get? I've noticed that some people in the field have an MLIS, some don't, etc. After I manage to get those qualifications, how do I get my foot in the door? The field seems a bit mysterious to me! [more inside]
I'm getting married in 2.5 weeks. A couple of weeks ago, my trainer had to suddenly stop the group training classes that had been getting me in the best shape of my life. I have a handle on nutrition and will keep that going on my own; but what can I do, on my own, for the next few weeks to maintain the stronger muscles and healthier body fat percentage that I've worked hard to attain over the last 9 months? I can't deny that I want to look good when the cameras are on me. [more inside]
From "The Third Man" by Green. Martins and the police are in the sewer chasing Harry. Martins said," It's odd thing-I don't even know your name." " Bates, sir." He gave a low laugh in the darkness. "This isn't my usual beat. Do you know the Horseshoe,sir?" "Yes." "And the Duke of Grafton?" "Yes." "Well, it takes a lot to make a world." My questions are..what the Horseshoe and the Duke of Grafton are and, what this Bates's last phrase means. I wonder if both are the names of the popular places like Sherlock Holmes House.. in the UK and if they are located in his usual beat ?? I googled them, but I couldn't find the answer.Thank you for helping me.
Maybe something we can print at home or make at home but I don't know where to get the material to print on. Or... we can buy them I guess but we've never done this before. Any help please. Thank you. OH, she is going to sell each one hand-made. Maybe a few, maybe a lot.
Recently moved. Kitchen counter/sink opens to living room and carpeted area instead of being walled in. Only a couple of inches, if that, of counter space between the back of the sink and the edge of the counter. Not a lot of buffer for splashes. What can I do to block the sink area off a bit to avoid splashing on the carpet when I am washing the dishes, et cetera? [more inside]
I've got a day off tomorrow. I live in London. What should I do? [more inside]
I'm thinking of a comedic actor who may still be active but came up in his 20s in the 1980s or maybe 1990s and who primarily acted in screwball comedies. But I can't think of the name! [more inside]
I normally shop bargain bins and veer towards minimalist shoes for road running because whenever a shoe has a rigid heel counter, I tend to wear holes in the lining within a month. I'd like to find trail worthy shoes that fit my clown feet and have that same lack of hard plastic that wraps up behind my heel. [more inside]
What would be a good retirement gift for a work colleague who will soon have significantly more time to compose music and enjoy his acreage in the mountains? [more inside]
I've been in a happy relationship for 7 months - the last 5 have been exclusive - with a man who is very sweet, funny, and good to me. We spend a lot of time together, have a lot of fun and good sex, but he's not the most romantic person in the world, in large part because he's not very emotional. The other day a good friend of mine told me that she felt like my boyfriend and I were "just friends" and that she didn't think I should be very invested in a long term commitment with him. I'd love to hear from the married/long-term partnered folk out there: what's the difference between romance and friendship in a relationship? [more inside]
What is the best salted oatmeal cookie recipe? I love the salted oatmeal cookies from Whisked in DC but they're a bit pricey for me to consume constantly and they haven't published the recipe (I wrote to ask). Please help me make delicious salted oatmeal cookies at home! [more inside]
How do I make the most of my time in Utah? Difficulty: heat, children, wheelchair. [more inside]
I’m in my second year of voice lessons, and I need to find an art song in the mezzo-soprano or alto range for the final exam. Classical singers of MeFi, can you give me some suggestions? [more inside]
(Note: I know it's illegal to copy DVDs to sell them...I'm not doing that)...just looking to print black type headlines directly onto my own back ups. [more inside]
Family BlahLaLa will be in NYC in a few weeks and I'd really like to go do something at Trump Tower. Yell at it? Spit at it? Hold up a sign? New Yorkers and other knowledgeable folks, what say you? It's not going to be the focus of our vacation, but I feel it's our patriotic duty to show how much we hate him and reject everything about his administration.
I've been a Firefox loyalist for...way too long, honestly. Its performance is now dire. It hangs and I have to force quit on a regular basis. What, besides Safari, should I replace it with? [more inside]
It is a unique joy when I encounter a particularly cool live (usually-but-not-necessarily acoustic) performance of a song that I love on YouTube. A bunch of examples are in the "more inside," but I particularly like tight harmonies, and stripped-down, and clean in a way that makes you hear the song in a new way. I want to fill a playlist with these. What are your favorites? All genres are welcome. (Note: I know there are probably a zillion pretty covers, but I am looking for the original artist playing their own song.) [more inside]
Over last night and today I have received literally hundreds of emails from ebay to my seldom-used gmail address. It must be a scam of some sort, but it's odd and there's no info online as far as I can tell. [more inside]
I'll be traveling to the East Bay (Oakland, to be precise) in July, and I'll be alone. Can you recommend places that are good for solo diners? Difficulty level: I really want dim sum. [more inside]
Being the Computer Technician for a Hospital, Clinic, School District, or Corporate IT has been always one of my ideal long term jobs. But curious on how the the Outlook of a Desktop Support Technician will be for the next 20+ years? I love talking to people a lot and resolving technical issues. [more inside]
I have used several automobiles that have bluetooth and have paired my devices with them. I like that i can hop in the car and my phone will automatically pair and connect. My car does not have this luxury however i do have a mini jack input and usb power. I am looking for a device that will give me bluetooth audio in my car. I have bought a couple over the years but they Neither A: turn on when my car turns on and B:pair automatically with my device. Hive! Do you know of such a device that I can power with my car's USB and will pair automatically with my phone (iphone6)?
I need help deciphering some writing in an old book I bought in Slovenia. [more inside]
I recently finished screening and thoroughly escape-proofing my porch, with an eye to giving my cats a safe taste of the outdoors. But I know my two white cats will now need sun protection for their ears, and many human sunscreens are toxic to cats. What feline sunscreen do you use or can recommend? [more inside]
At work, my boss has asked me to verify a few thousand numbers, as to whether they are cell phone numbers or landlines. Preferably by uploading a spreadsheet that feeds back results, rather than one by one. Any advice? Thanks. (both free and paid solutions considered)
I'm trying to come up with a nice, catchy, .com-domain-available name for my blog on the topics of organization, budgeting, planning, productivity, aimed at the disorganized and overwhelmed crowd. Something like Unf*** your habitat with a focus on organization and planning - and with less swear words. I'd like to keep this PG-rated. Any ideas are welcome!
I'm looking for ideas for database/statistics themed baked goods, possibly with a medical research angle. All the 'computer cake' pinterest boards are terrible. [more inside]
I've made an appointment with a neurologist but I just an incredibly disorienting seizure where apparently for the first two hours I missed the "Who is the president is the?" sort of questions. Then the rest were spotty pieces of memory that were very foggy dream-like, with it me like watching a movie almost. There were dream like elements (I thought people said things they didn't, etc.). I am fine now, but while I wait on my appointment, what is going on? [more inside]
This was a couple years ago, but it still bothers me from time to time. To get my attention (and as a mild rebuke while she asked about something I hadn't done yet), my coworker slapped my butt. What, if anything, do I do? [more inside]
I have two preschool-aged children, both of whom exhibit some classic signs of OCD. I've been aware of it in my eldest since they were very tiny, but only recently my youngest has been sharing that they are having intrusive thoughts about death and dying. They are especially struggling with it at bedtime and asking a lot of questions about it (which I am comfortable answering in an honest but reassuring way. We had a death in the family last year, and my parents are both dead, so I think my kids are old enough to start understanding that all living things must eventually die). [more inside]
I'm trying to determine my options for suppressed handguns that I can use without hearing protection. [more inside]
I have a friend who is a very good cook. We mostly hang out by cooking together. Unfortunately, she's now on an extremely restricted diet: no meat from land animals or poultry, no dairy, no gluten, complex carbs only in moderation, basically* no simple sugars. Fruits and vegetables are very likely to be okay. Eggs, pulses, and plant oils seem universally okay. What can we cook together that would entertain us for an afternoon but fit these criteria? Obscure salads? Fancy crudite cuts? [more inside]
I used to be able to find men's clogs at American Eagle Outfitters that were similar to the Birkenstock "Boston" clogs, but a lot cheaper. No longer! Does anyone know where I might find something similar suitable for wearing around the house and office?
I'm changing paths with my business -- how do I keep up optimism and focus? [more inside]
I lost my California driver's license and need to replace it as soon as possible, because I'm interviewing for new jobs and may have an offer soon. I actually don't own a car and almost never drive. The license is really just for official ID purposes. [more inside]
I am looking for a cereal that is sweetened (minimally) with an unrefined sugar (like honey). Anything? [more inside]
I love reading books about makeup, fashion, celebrity lifestyle etc. I have a number of books in my collection written by celebrities or people that are not from writing backgrounds (a costume designer for example). I am really curious to know how much actual writing they do and how the relationship with the 'written with...' person works. Examples after the jump. [more inside]
Hi Ask MeFi! I made a terrible mistake the other day: I put my phone in my pocket to record an interview that took place outside/while we were walking, and ended up recording a lot of loud, awful pocket noises instead of the conversation. Is there any way to salvage this? [more inside]
I may be in the market shortly for a laptop that would primarily be used for development work. Looking for recommendations from the MeFi crowd. [more inside]
Why are windows added in a somewhat haphazard way on skyscraper construction? I've been watching this this as Salesforce Tower is going up in SF, but I've seen it on other skyscraper builds too. [more inside]
I am replacing my Kenmore washer and dryer that are about seven years old because they are the worst appliances I have ever purchased in my life. [more inside]
I've been working with "Marney" for 3 years. I charge her $50/hour for all-inclusive communication services: high-profile speeches and pitches on multi-million dollar bids. Recently, she partnered with "Barney," and he hired me to write the pitch for a multi-million dollar proposal too. Between both companies, I had three consecutive rush jobs in five weeks. They now owe me several thousand. How do I get them to cough up before tax time? What's the best approach for raising rates and adding rush fees? I want my new terms to align with the new Freelance Isn't Free Act in NYC. Advice? [more inside]
An old high school friend sent in a friend request on Facebook. I had not responded because I am kind of tired of old high school friends on Facebook, you know? Then I get a message from him apologizing for his behavior back in high school.... [more inside]
What to get a second-time mom as a gift for her, not for baby? [more inside]
My husband has not been to the dentist in years. I just booked him an appointment and he FREAKED out. How best to tackle this? [more inside]
I'm a college student, woman, and ethnic minority who would love to get into playing board games. I tried my university's tabletop group, but felt sort of out of place as the only newbie (as far as I could tell) and only woman. Are there any meet ups in Austin (where I am currently) or New York (where I'll be in the summer) that are diverse/inclusive and welcoming to people new to the hobby? Some more specifics inside. [more inside]
Uncovered a bag of powdered sugar that I'd like to quickly use up. Hoping for something more original and/or less tedious than icing a few hundred sugar cookies. I have a candy thermometer but I do not have a marble board. Thanks!
Hello, AskMeFi! Recently, I was given generous notice by my main client that my services will not be required from Friday, April 28th through Thursday, May 4th 2017; as they need travel out of state. This is significant news, as it will be the first I have had off in over two years of working ludicrous hours, seven days per week. As such, my boyfriend and I are seizing the chance to finally explore a destination that has been on our respective bucket lists since ever: The Herkimer Diamond Mines, in Herkimer, New York. Lake effect snow within... [more inside]
I'm part of a recreational sports team. Since the election, some of our members have been very enthusiastic about the idea of creating a safe, welcoming space at practice for all people (particularly gender non binary people) and making that our number one priority. It's difficult to set boundaries about this because we all do care about our teammates' feelings and safety. It would be useful to have some resources that could help us figure out what is reasonable: [more inside]
and he might be interested in somebody else. Should I tell him how I feel anyway? [more inside]
I'm interested in watching movies, from any era, where the egregiously bad bad guys are hunted down and picked off one by one. Bonus points if the movie is available on Netflix. Thanks all. it will help my mental health right now
Could private individuals express their pleasure/displeasure with the state of the world by moving the money inside their 401Ks/IRAs in or out of stock investments, and actually have any impact on stock prices? [more inside]
We will be driving from Chicago to Daytona this weekend to spend spring break with my parents. Last year, we traveled the same route, setting out on Good Friday (along with a glut of other Midwesterners) and found terrible traffic jams due to construction on I-24 in Chattanooga (mid-day) and on I-75 in Atlanta (at rush hour, duh). Are these routes still under construction? [more inside]
A strange series of events has ended up with me needing to provide the text that will appear on a "handy general information" spread of a 365-day planner book. The likely audience for this book, based on its theme and art (sorry, I can't be more specific), is teenagers and early college students. [more inside]
My son turns 15 today. Last night he said he wanted a fidget spinner. It seems that they are best bought on-line, but I'm really hoping I can bring one home tonight. I'm at 21st and Arch, so Center City or University City locations are most accessible. Could also hit somewhere in Lower Bucks when I get off the train. TIA
Is there a term for the phenomenon of imagining what a person looks like based on their voice? [more inside]
What is involved in the Postal Exam/assessment for employment? Apparently there are two parts, on-line and in person. What might one expect and how would they prepare for these exams?
Discussing silences in text with somebody, I was reminded of a story I read where the (probably Jewish) author sought to write the different kinds of silences that came up when talking to his family by using little symbols - an arrow, a interrobang, a star. [more inside]
Is there a specific word for a "half-formed thought"? I have been puzzling over it and Google has been no help. I vaguely recall reading something about such a word, but memory is a fickle friend. Does this word exist? If not, are there any close approximations? Thanks all.
I have a diagnosed vision problem and a diagnosed learning disability. The symptoms for both are very similar. The optometrist says vision therapy may improve my life, but it is very expensive and I'm worried about spending a lot of money only to discover that the real issue was always just the learning disability. Can anyone share their experience with binocular vision therapy? [more inside]
I have recently come into the possession of a small (150g) jar of ethical foie gras (ie, naturally fed as opposed to the more traditional gavage). This is my first (and probably only) time eating foie gras, let alone cooking with it, and I'm at a loss. Can the hive mind recommend a recipe for me? [more inside]
My new job is the hardest job I've ever had, and I'm drowning under the pressure. My friends and family seem to empathize, but at the same time, they're also sort of chuckling at my distress and telling me it's good that I'm "finally" struggling at something when previously I've been "able to tackle everything" that comes my way. Can you recommend a CBT trained therapist in Pasadena who can help me stop sinking? [more inside]
Please give me feedback on good car rental experiences, We went through the San Antonio airport last year and had bad luck with hertz, we are travelling with a five year old and are getting our flight in may,so many companies to choose from,best recommendations and why Thanks for any help, I appreciate it!
Over the past year I figured out how to upcycle interesting clothing out of thrift store finds. Now that I've outfitted myself and my partner with more than enough cute one-of-a-kind shirts, I am thinking of ways to expand this hobby to others who have expressed interest. Can you help me come up with some options for baby steps beyond what I am currently doing? A tiny commission-only operation? A clothing label? Next steps? [more inside]
I need help coming up with alternatives to a metaphor that no one understands -- specifically, how to teach engineers about the values of an iterative design process. [more inside]
I live in a closely-packed neighborhood in a tropical location and would like to grow some plants alongside my house for more privacy. What species would be good for this situation? [more inside]
I'm looking at buying a new VW. The particular model I want has two interior options: black leatherette and beige leatherette. Please help me decide. Does anyone have a VW with leatherette seats that you either love or hate? [more inside]
I've been vaguely wanting to buy a new watch for a few years. Only half-hearted efforts I haven't found anything I like and now I really need one but am kind of home bound. Help? [more inside]
My old man cat has been slowing down for a while, and I think we may be moving into a new phase of old-man-cat-ness. I can handle the medical aspects, but what might I not be thinking of to make his life at home as comfortable and easy as I can for whatever time he has left? (Difficulty levels: Deaf, getting very stiff in the back legs, was never a good jumper to begin with, underweight, seems to be getting maybe a little confused). [more inside]
I'm interested in learning to take better photos. I've never had good gear, but I just got a bonus and now's the time to upgrade. Budget <$2000 including a case. [more inside]
I'm reconsidering what relationships I want to be central to my life. Help me figure out how to get where I want to be. [more inside]
Theater folk and Chekhov lovers, what book do you think Masha is reading in Three Sisters? [more inside]
My boss is a people pleaser, and true to form, she does not want to tell her boss anything they don't want to hear. My team has been bleeding people (one person has left each year I've been there) and is overloaded with work, but the grandboss is not responsive. Any tips on dealing with my boss in an ethical manner while still showing her that there is no real way to get everything requested completed?
Is there any rhyme or reason as to why the "s" at the end of some Greek first names is sounded by some people but not others? Or am I completely imagining things? [more inside]
I'm planning a 5-day trip to Sequoia National Park and Death Valley National Park in late March. I've never been to either. What should I see at either? And, in particular this year, should I be worried about snow on roads? (So will I need a 4x4?) Other things to think about? Y'all made my last vacation up to the Redwoods so much better than it would have been. Thanks in advance!
College graduate. What kinds of jobs can I get that pay at least $15 / hour? [more inside]
I'll be in Montreal on business next week, and would welcome suggestions for good places to eat and drink. [more inside]
Someone at work was joking around and said that he “needs a SWAT team”. My other coworker mentioned that using the word SWAT is inappropriate to use in the workplace since the W in SWAT stands for “weapons” and in today’s news, there are a lot of crazy things happening. And I told him that he is crazy, it’s totally fine to use that term. But he then went ahead and said that it refers to violence, and anyone who uses the word SWAT at work in that way can get in trouble, and possibly lose their job. He also says that any other word that refers to violence can get someone in trouble. What does everyone else think?
My dad is turning 65 in a few weeks and my mom has asked all of us to come up with 11 reasons that turning 65 is a good thing. I am drawing a blank beyond "Seniors discounts". Can mefites with more perspective help me out? They can be silly or serious.
I have a bodywork practice. While people are in the waiting room, I would like to offer them some delicious herbal tea at the least possible inconvenience to myself, while maximizing their enjoyment. Is there a beautiful tea maker and warmer that is easy for people to pour from and maybe even works on a timer? Do you have recommendations for an extremely delicious herbal tea that I could source online? Have you seen any small ceramic cups that look like "California hipster wellness" that are not overly expensive? What am I forgetting?
Protesters at the Zócalo in Mexico City on March 16, 2017 marched with this white flag depicting a red dot with a white line through it, and (I think) a face. What is this flag, and what were people marching about? [more inside]
If you threw a party and invited everyone you knew, would you invite people you already knew could not come? [more inside]
Do we need professionals to handle rodent issue? If so - recommendation for rodent control company in the Eastside of Seattle. [more inside]
Please help me weigh the pros and cons of bring my DSLR to Cuba. [more inside]
Please help me identify what manner of speech this is that my co-worker uses. [more inside]
Today, and a few times in the recent past, I have seen cars with a bumper sticker with a stylized "AA" in a circle. The logo was red, white, and blue. Unlike the most common variants of the Alcoholics Anonymous logo, however, there was no triangle in it. This looks like it except for the color, though it seems to belong to some sort of German drain company (why this would be on a Honda hatchback in the US is anyone's guess). This generic auto-generated logo almost looks like it. What could it be?
Hi Metafilter! I'm asking this for my niece. She has a chance to visit two of the following countries and asked me for advice, but I have not been to any of them! I thought that maybe some of you can help with suggestions. The countries are: Albania, Bosnia & Hersegovina, Croatia, Kosovo, Montenegro, Republic of Macedonia, and Serbia [more inside]
I would like a good drill that can also be used as a power screwdriver. Does this exist? What's a good one? How much should I spend? [more inside]
Minor spoilers for Howl's Moving Castle (the book). A character in Howl's Moving Castle describes a poem as being about submarines. What are they talking about? [more inside]
Looking a longish lined rain coat for Seattle weather [more inside]
I will be developing a social network for an NGO during this year. I'm thinking of using Django (with Channels ) for the backend, standard HTML + jQuery for the web frontend and the same plus PhoneGap for the mobile apps (android and iOS). Please tell me why I'm wrong. [more inside]
Not too long ago I posted this question and now I'm an Instructional Designer with a Master's degree and all. I like the work, but I need to see the next steps and to me, that's becoming a director or manager of training and development. So how can I prepare? [more inside]
I'm taking a roughly 28-hour train ride in a couple of weeks, and I'd like to sleep for as much of it as possible. Any suggestions for eliciting a deeper and/or longer-lasting-than-normal slumber?
A friend of mine is starting up a side business where he is selling the materials generally used for makers like himself. You know, 3D printing material, bearings, small motors, pulleys, extruders... you know. Maker stuff. Anyway, his business needs a tag line. I KNOW you guys can knock this one out of the park! [more inside]
This is one of those incidents that sticks in my mind and would appreciate opinions on it. I was at a bar-b-q and apropos of just a word that was connected, I referred to teasing a friend about how Obama is his deity. This guy in the group had a peeved look on his face and angrily asked "you really think there are people like that?" (as if I had just mortally insulted all Obama supporters.) [more inside]
A question has been nagging at me since I saw Rogue One. It’s about how the movie might be similar to other movies or works of literature. If you haven’t seen Rogue One yet, stop here to avoid a massive spoiler. [more inside]
So I'd dearly like my concentration back. Two things are stopping me from ditching my aging iPhone and getting a used dumbphone on eBay. [more inside]
We are gay. Girlfriend's parents already disapproved. They managed to read all her texts and found that we are into BDSM. Now they won't let her come back to campus (we are in college). What options do we have? Preferably non-legal, but if it comes down to them pulling her out of school, I will consider it. NSFW details inside. [more inside]
I fell out with a friend over principles. Is there any way to make up without renouncing them? [more inside]
What fields offer the best opportunities for part-time / flexible employment with reasonable pay? I'm interested in all options - as long as there are ample opportunities for work, I can work part-time or flexible hours, and the pay is decent. More details inside... [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations on the safest (most hygienic, disease-avoidant) method for cleaning rat droppings off of THINGS before those things are handled / moved, so that said cleaning, handling and moving doesn't cause health problems for the cleaner (me) or the movers. [more inside]
Does anyone have tips for making permanent moderate scoliosis more bearable? [more inside]
My elderly stepmother wants an app that will ask my elderly father any of several preset questions she chooses in his own voice. I want the app to be able to record new phrases and create new presets from them. I want to make this app myself -- no existing apps! Do you have any clues you can spare? [more inside]
I have this awkwardly blank wall in my apartment and wanted to put something up on it. I was thinking of a geometric washi masking tape design, something like this. Unfortunately this wall also has a wall-mounted electrical heater embedded in it, a couple of feet from the bottom. Fire hazard? [more inside]
I am strongly considering the new retractable hardtop version of the Mazda Miata as my next car. It is a lot of fun to drive. However, before I pull the trigger, I am wondering if any folks here have warnings I might not have considered, or regrets due to the small trunk? [more inside]
Basically, what it says on the tin. I teach preschoolers and kindergarteners, and would like a fun non-Mercator map that I could use in the classroom. From what I can see on the interwebs, all of the Gall-Peters projection maps out there are aimed at older kids and adults. What I'd like is one of those fun, colorful world maps for kids that has pictures of what a country/region is known for scattered about. Does such a thing exist?
I have a Kobo e-reader that is about 5 years old. I haven't used it in a couple of years. Now, no matter what I try (all kinds of suggestions from the Internet - various different chargers, pushing the button several times while plugged in, holding down for X seconds while plugged in, etc. ), I can't get it to turn on. The error message is "Please charge your EReader. Please connect to an AC outlet or your computer to recharge.". I realize this is my mistake. I should have topped up the charge occasionally. It's a micro USB if that helps. Do you know any hacks that I may not have happened upon? Am I wasting my time? Thanks!
Hello, all! I have a NookHDplus I bought about five years ago, and would like to transfer files to it, but am having a hard time figuring out how to do so from my Mac. [more inside]
I'm a straight middle-aged female who is experiencing a lot of issues with both romantic relationships and platonic male friends who have unvoiced expectations that I should perform nearly all of the emotional labor in our relationships. [more inside]
Wanting to understand the current standard of care for residential drug rehab, detox, and methadone. Is it standard of care to detox someone off of methadone? [more inside]
I found a new yummy salad to take to lunch. It has cut up cucumbers, tomato, mozzerella and onion in it. I'll have the dressing in a seperate container. Will this last in my bag at room temperature for five hours until eaten? Or should I find an insulated container? Thanks.
Yesterday, I got a call from an anonymous 404 area code from someone that said they were from the Planned Parenthood Federation, seeking donations. They kept giving an office address and said I'd get a receipt for my contribution. I agreed to a one-time donation and gave them my debit card number. Today I get another call from the same number, but this time the person on the other end said they were from the DNC. Did I get scammed yesterday? [more inside]
Good friend is turning 40 and I'd like to make her a special dessert. A cake would be great, but she can't have dairy, eggs and really shouldn't have wheat, but will occasionally. Tree nuts are also off the table because of my own allergy. I am a decent baker, but have never had to mess around with subs or this set of restrictions. Looking for tasty cake ideas or if that is unrealistic, other options for a special dessert. Thanks all!
We've been told we need to move to Humira injections for kiddo diagnosed with Chronic Recurrent Mulifocal Osteomyelitis (CRMO). Looking for any suggestions on making the injections less painful. [more inside]
I'm looking for a place in the Bay Area to have a mini-writing-retreat with a few friends. It could be a restaurant or coffeehouse with a private or semi-private room, a reservable workspace, a community center room, an AirBnB, or something I haven't thought of. It should be in the SF Bay Area and easily accessible by BART. Help? [more inside]
Seeking quality sandals that will hold up well, are suitable for business casual dress codes, can handle serious walking on unforgiving surfaces, take little to no time to "break in" and work for narrow feet with fairly high arches. Bonus if they are vegan and/or less than $100. [more inside]
Considering an extended weekend getaway to Arches/Canyonlands, Baja California, or somewhere else. [more inside]
In a couple of months, I will get my B.S. in geography. I must register online for graduation. The form has a space to indicate the phonetic pronunciation of my name. I have no idea how to do this in a concise way. [more inside]
I know the standard advice for dudes for "Hey, I see a pretty girl on the bus/reading in a coffee shop/walking down the street, how do I talk to her" is DON'T; does that hold true if the genders are reversed? My inclination is "Hey, that man looks interesting, I should introduce myself" but I don't want to be creepy. And related - is there good way to signal that hey, actually, I WOULD like to be approached if you think I'm attractive? [more inside]
A family member is still in contact with her rapist and brings him around. What is the best way to deal with this situation? [more inside]
Which iPad apps will help keep my 18-month old entertained and help keep me and my husband from wanting to jump out of the plane? [more inside]
Flovent inhalers are outrageously expensive in the U.S. for cats who neglected to sign up for health insurance. I used to order mine from a Canadian company without issue for years... then they moved to Vanuata. Nothing against the beautiful islands, but it raised a bit of red flag. I'm seeking a reputable online pharmacy to order Flovent/Flixotide inhalers - Sirius Black has a prescription. Previous questions related to this topic are pretty old, so seeking more current information.
My 13 and 16 year old nieces will be spending the last week in June with me in NYC (I live in Queens). The older niece spent a week here three years ago, and we had a blast. So I'm trying to figure out how to top that! [more inside]
Does it make sense to hire a CPA to go over old tax returns and help me correct anything I've missed? If so, can you recommend someone in the NYC area? [more inside]
The short version - I'm looking for a two-part story about an alien I remember from my childhood. I think it was in one of the Warren publications - Eerie, Creepy, or something similar. Very late 70s or early 80s, I think. [more inside]
I'm looking for game recommendations for my three kids, aged 8, 6, and 3. I have some very specific parameters... [more inside]
Seeking experiences with osteochondral defect (hole in cartilage, basically) surgery for the knee. Was the recovery rough? Did you make a full one? NYC on crutches? Dealing mentally with activity limitations? Other tips for this or knee surgery generally? [more inside]
I am afraid of dogs and hate it when dogs run up to me while I'm out for a walk. Is there a signal for "stay away from me" that dogs will understand? [more inside]
This seems to be an art. I am aware that some people have made a full time job out of it. But what programs are good? I want to collect miles with buying plane tickets, not using CC or something else. [more inside]
My very conservative family has abused me over my dating life and career choices for years. Living with them has caused a lot of emotional pain and health problems, but leaving is taking a toll on me as well. What can I do? [more inside]
I'd like to find a way to keep the sliding doors of my entertainment center closed, for baby proofing. [more inside]
I want to polish/restore some Nambé pieces I have (candlesticks or a plate) with a Dremel to remove scratches and dents and bring back a shiny, smooth finish. The internet says Nambé is an aluminum-based alloy. Dremel shows accessories for cleaning and polishing and sanding. Which should I try, and in what order? Do I need to use a compound or paste, too? I'm looking for guidance and any tips/tricks. Would something other than a Dremel work better? (I’m willing to risk a mess here. Worst case, I’ll just pay Nambé to repolish them.)
I've bought a house, and it came with a vintage O'Keefe and Merritt gas range in the kitchen. It has a large pipe coming out the back, feeding to a chimney. Does anyone know why this stove might have a chimney, when almost every other stove burns natural gas without? [more inside]
My partner is trying to remember a book he loved (and found emotionally devastating) as a child. He read it in English in the Netherlands in 1996, if that helps. This is the plot he remembers: a boy travels back to the age of dinosaurs and befriends a bunch of them, including a mother and baby stegosaurus. The book ends with him escaping back to his own time just before the meteor hits, and finding a dig site with the fossils of his stegosaurus friends. Any ideas?
I've heard that the people who got rich from gold rushes were mostly grocers, not miners. When marijuana is legalized, who makes money from it and what were they doing before? [more inside]
I'm trying to read a black-and-white manga title on my newish Kindle Fire, and experiencing apparent resolution problems that make it hard to read- areas of grey show up as a kind of screentone moire pattern. Is there anything I can do to fix this? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a website or a Facebook meme about how one should react to bad news, depending on how close you are to the people involved. [more inside]
This discussion on the blue has got me thinking about how much anxiety seems to be a factor in the behaviour and performance of many of the people I work with these days. [more inside]
I'm wondering about the conventions of apartment numbering in Prague: whether the individual apartments in a building are typically assigned numbers (or letters? or a different designation?), whether they normally appear on doors or on mailboxes, and anything else that might be of note about them. Anecdotal information from people who have been in a Prague apartment building once or twice but can't speak to overall trends would also be helpful.
Do you rock a buzz cut despite extreme babyface? If yes, teach me your ways! [more inside]
What is this plant that I have? [more inside]
Hi MeFi! Someone I know recently mentioned that they were performing laser removal of some sun damaged skin to "prevent it from becoming cancerous". I didn't know this was even a thing, and as a bit of a hypochondriac it caused me to worry a little. About 15 years ago, I went on a trip to Mexico and got some horrible sunburns on my shoulders, causing them to become very permanently freckled and (I think) making the skin on my back quite a bit more sensitive. I never really worried about it, but my acquaintance's comments made me think that maybe I should examine the area more closely. I know you are not my doctor, but is there anything to worry about if it's been 15 years with no real issues, or is there still an increased risk of skin cancer even all those years later? Also, I've never heard of laser removal for this sort of issue, and I couldn't find much on Google about it. Is this actually a common procedure for sun damaged skin, or is my acquaintance just being overly cautious? Thank you!
Seeking personal recommendations for bralettes that have worked for people with boobs on the larger side. [more inside]
Last year I ordered some items on a Canadian website and had to pay with PayPal as they would not accept a US zip code in their CC authorization info. I was charged twice for this transaction, but have subsequently been refunded three times. The monies due to the vendor are in a credit balance in my PayPal account, but the vendor believes they have been paid and refuses to acknowledge their accounts are wrong. How can I fix this? [more inside]
What tool, device, dropper, or whatever can I use to accurately and quickly fill 1.5 mL gummy bear molds with hot sugary sticky gummy mixture? [more inside]
I am very timid and shy. I also have ADD so I seem very spacy. I've noticed that people don't take me seriously and I have been taken advantage of before. This includes being sexually harassed at work. I am getting to the point where I am starting to be overly cautious of people and I am very distrustful in general. I had a goal last year of putting myself out there and I crashed and burned terribly. I feel like people see me as immature and dumb and I'd like to change that. [more inside]
I'm surprised how hard it's been to find this by googling: a reliable source that simply lists common foods (basic ingredients, including fruits, vegetables, grains, meats, etc.) along with the nutritional content of (defined quantities of) each. The list would ideally be sophisticated enough to distinguish between cooked and uncooked versions of the foods, and include dozens of foods, if not hundreds. At the moment I'm only interested in protein content, so that needs to be one of the nutrients listed. Anyone know of (hopefully free) sources that offer this?
Looking for route suggestions for 5-6 day, April photography road trip from Portland to las Vegas. Want to stay on two lane highway as much as possible. Wanting to avoid overly touristed areas and see local people and settings within the time frame. Bonus points for photoshoot ideas and foodie restaurants en-route.
We have small children and we both work full time so we found someone on our local parents mailing list to come to our house once a week and spend 3 hours cooking to stock the refrigerator with delicious food. She's a mom of a middle schooler and does this work so she can have something to do while he's in school. The food is amazing. She charges only $80 for the three hours and we buy the ingredients. Should we tip her? How much?
I once read a sentence to the effect that "the soul of a man in love is like the closed-up air of a sickroom." I don't remember much else about it, except that it was a quote in whatever else I was reading, and that it might have been in translation from another language. I think the person quoted might have been named Jose. Can you help?
I want to have a VM with either a dedicated DHCP number or have it share the network interface of the Mac it's on with the Mac having the routable IP. How? [more inside]
The recent article that ranked all MST3K episodes (posted to MeFi) prompted me to revisit some of my favorite MST3K episodes. As I watched, I realized - I have no idea how a lot of these movies got made. I just don't understand the economics. Can someone explain? [more inside]
Please help me make my milk kefir taste nice. [more inside]
Mom is in her 70s and does okay with computers, but is struggling with Windows 10 and organizing her photos. Any suggestions for programs that may help? Details inside. [more inside]
If you're a teacher, or if you know anything about small video cameras, maybe you can help. I'm in a M.Ed. Program in NYC, and I need to record myself delivering lessons for the edTPA (a multi-part certification process NY uses for teachers). I have a normal camera-on-tripod to set up at the back of the class and record my whole-class interaction at a wide angle. My professor's asking me to also record small-group interactions as well. (Specific questions inside) [more inside]
I'm the executor of an estate, and we are selling the house in the estate. The house is in need of some work and a good candidate for flippers - but not horrible as is. We also have a good real estate agent (not listed yet). How should we best manage this process? [more inside]
My friend wants to re-home her beautiful young indoor/outdoor tom cat, because he terrorizes and traumatizes her other cat with aggressive play. The other cat's a shy, skittish female and my friend is more bonded to her than to the tom. [more inside]
We're visiting NYC March 23-25th, and while brainstorming what to do, we are thinking it would be fun to get last minute show tickets on or off broadway. I remember seeing last minute ticket deals from vendors on the street when I visited as a kid. Do such places still exist, and is this still a viable strategy? Also, any additional ideas for a NYC visit next weekend are welcome. [more inside]
I just had an insight with my therapist: I am a narcissist, introverted/covert variety. What next? [more inside]
I can't quite put my finger on why, but a sizable portion of the artists and groups that make music that I really enjoy have origins in Sweden. Little Dragon, Icona Pop, Jose Gonzalez, Iamamiwhoami, The Knife (& Fever Ray), Robyn, and now I've recently stumbled onto another Swedish artist named Demen who has a song called niorum. What other artists have similarly great music and originate in Sweden to go with these?
I offered my 70-something-year-old aunt a day's visit to a spa. Optimum outcome costs no more than a reasonable amount where she will get a break from dealing with her son's terminal cancer diagnosis. But I have no idea what a reasonable amount is - $100? $300? - or what a day spa actually includes. [more inside]
I'm looking for a change in climate and cost of living and I've somehow gotten Las Vegas and Phoenix in my head. I could use some on-the-ground experience from both cities. [more inside]
I'm looking for a movie I saw (OnDemand on Time Warner Cable in Los Angeles) within the past 15 years. [more inside]
My memory is fading but I really want to find it again. It was a horror short story collection probably targeted to 8-12 year olds. I've been trying for a while to figure out the name of this collection that I read as a youngster. I've reviewed some of the Scary Stories series but none of them seem to be the book I recall. The horror in this one was particularly suffocating (literally, at times) and I really would like to find it again and see if it still chills my bones. [more inside]
Flying into Amsterdam, and working making my way to London within the span of a few days. Trying to decide between staying 2 nights in Amsterdam, versus one night in Amsterdam and one night in Brussels, en route to the UK. Advice? [more inside]
New fridge makes high-pitched whining noise whenever compressor kicks in. Who do I call and what do I ask for? Complicating factor: partner can't hear it and isn't bothered by it. [more inside]
I've been working on eating more healthy in an effort to drop some weight. Now I'd like to focus on improving the quality of the fish I consume. [more inside]
I'm looking for an old Daily Show segment that included a clip from some movie/TV show. It lampooned the Democrats' appeasement of Republicans. The clip involved mean kids driving a car and pretending to let another kid in the car, only to drive a few feet away whenever the kid would reach for the door handle. [more inside]
I'm a 30-year old socially anxious introvert who lacks a degree and has very little work experience. What work should I be looking for? [more inside]
How can I force Word to automatically recognize URLs in blocks of pasted text and link them? [more inside]
The MacOS used to offer one click personal websharing. But it seems that feature was taken out and moved to MacOS Server? Is there way to re-enable it in MacOS Sierra? Or does one simply download and install the server version along side the regular version? Sooooooo confused!
I'm struggling with a home buying decision, and I can't even figure out how to evaluate whether I'm making a mistake or not. I love the house's uncommon layout, and like the location. Inspection followed up with survey by a structural engineer revealed some things that need to be fixed. The sellers made concessions on the price based on quotes we gathered for the fixes. So that's all good, right? Except I am incredibly anxious and can't figure out if my anxiety is based on reasonable red flags or just irrational brain weasels. [more inside]
My org would like to develop some kind of online platform for members around the world to ask each other specific legal questions. We're not sure what the best way to make this work would be. More details: [more inside]
I have a co-volunteer who does a lot of good work for our organization but who is terrible about keeping everyone else updated because he's always on the road or otherwise busy. He recently discovered Facebook's voice message feature and that's helping, so I'm looking for something like that but better. [more inside]
Can I get the title of a movie/show based on a no-longer-available Netflix show's ID? [more inside]
Parking fines in San Francisco during street cleaning hours are steep in San Francisco ($71). Because parking is tight, my vehicle is not always parked on the same block and I usually just try to remember street cleaning schedule for the street I'm parked on. Obviously not very successfully. [more inside]
We have a chiminea, but we haven't used it because we don't have a screen or spark arrestor for it. I haven't found any good options locally, and only one store online, where the quality looks like something I should be able to make myself. Except I'm not sure what kind of screen to buy to keep sparks and embers in. [more inside]
I'm a law librarian (MLIS) interested in learning more about archival practices, particularly with regard to organization and taxonomies, and preservation issues to a lesser extent. [more inside]
Looking for a gentle, daily-use shampoos that will clean my post-workout sweaty head without leaving my hair dry, limp, and sad. I prefer cruelty-free/natural products. Suggestions? [more inside]
I bought a blazer that fits well in my shoulders and is in a fabric that I really like. However, it's a little big in the torso and as a result looks a bit boxy. Is there a way I can easily (and reversibly) make it fit better in the torso until I have time to get it altered? [more inside]
I really need some help finding or devising a light-weight, low-friction task tracking system for managing my work tasks. It doesn't need to be used by more than one person at once, but it should be clear enough so it could be handed off to someone else. [more inside]
The upshot: we are first-time homebuyers. We were diligent in asking questions and turning in our paperwork, but our loan officer dragged his feet and gave us misleading information about the loan process. Interest rates have been climbing...and we ended up on the wrong side of this week's rate hike. I am so angry that we didn't get better guidance. The extra costs aren't going to kill us, but thinking about how much it's going to cost us in the long run is making me sick with anxiety. How can I deal with this? [more inside]
Are you familiar with the word "make" being used, as an intransitive verb, to refer to going to the bathroom? Where and when did you learn it? [more inside]
I found rather accidentally an online business does not require authorization to view Order Information if you know the Order number. The information includes billing address, shipping address, phone number, email address, item's ordered, and price paid. I'm going to contact the business, but who else should I contact? Is there some governing body in charge of verifying things like this? The BBB? [more inside]
Has anyone had a great experience learning to surf in Mexico? Please tell me where you went! [more inside]
I am trying to find to source of this quote or idea. It goes something like, "If you have writer's block, it is because you told a lie. Go back, find the lie, fix it, and you will be able to keep writing."
AskMe shopping challenge #3,692: Looking for necklace t-shirts. Need to have a small neck opening, thin seam at the neck, bracelet or 3/4 length sleeves, thick mostly cotton fabric that's machine washable/dryable, and good colors or small patterns that would complement small necklaces. [more inside]
I'm really interested in analysing social networks, social graphs, use of language and behaviour therein. I am not a mathematician or academic. Where should I start, in terms of software or toolkits (I have a reasonable background in software development and nerdy things, but this is a slightly out-there area for me, hence my framing as a layperson - maybe an outsider academic is better or less worse?) [more inside]
My '00 Outback is succumbing to rust. At the same time, my work responsibilities are changing in ways that affect vehicle choice. What appropriate models have I not thought of? [more inside]
Mr. sutel finally said we can get a puppy! Yay! I have not had a dog since I was a teenager and I would like some advice on how to go about this. [more inside]
I employ a large number of people from Somalia and I'm looking to support a group doing work around the devastating famine currently in the region. Suggestions?
I will be in Austin, TX next week for a convention. I'll be at the convention center. Where should I go to find food trucks? And are there particular trucks I should look for? Bonus question: Any restaurants I should not miss in Austin?
In a March 16, 2017 article in the Washington Times, Andrew Napolitano made the claim... "Obama was the president and as such enjoyed authority under the Foreign Intelligence Surveillance Act to order surveillance on any person in America, without suspicion, probable cause or a warrant." Does the FISA law grant the President this power?
I'm looking for some sort of alarm I can use to wake up in the morning without waking my wife (in the same bed) and especially our toddler (in the next room). [more inside]
I’d like to give a gift of everything one would need to rekindle a love of watercolor painting. Bonus points for recommendations that will allow the recipient to stop and start painting sessions easily with minimal fuss. Need not be an actual pre-bundled "set." [more inside]
What authors, or specific books, have a particular gift for beautiful metaphor? Give examples if possible. [more inside]
I'm looking for a simple drag+drop file uploader script that works like a regular file uploader instead of "instant upload" I was using jquery.filer and I swear it was working in the way that I want it to but at some point yesterday it stopped working for no apparent reason and the documentation says it doesn't work like that ( I'm 99.9% certain it did, I feel like I'm going mad!) [more inside]
We're having to do self assessments at work for the first time in the 8 years I've been there. My boss will also be filling out essentially the same questions for me. I'm struggling to figure out how to talk about a couple of my specific weaknesses I'm writing about, as well as what my "action items" for the next year regarding them are going to be. [more inside]
I'm considering Rolfing for some issues of posture, joint pain, chronic muscle tension and back and neck discomfort. Have you been Rolfed? What did it do for you? [more inside]
I'm considering a solar-power system for my small workshop. My miter saw requires 1800 watts. Will a 2000-watt inverter be sufficient, or does the saw have a "start-up" energy requirement beyond 2000 watts?
The guy I recently started dating has become aware of my ip address. Using google analytics or some other tool, can he tell how often I visit his website? More importantly, can he tell what search terms I've used to get to his website? I look at his website an embarrassing amount and have used some embarrassing search terms to get there. Can he tell it was me? What else can he tell based on this info?
I am unhappy with both my job and my location, but I can't figure out how to remedy either without shooting myself in the foot or indulging "grass is greener" syndrome...help please? Details inside. [more inside]
I feel like I want to leave everything behind me and start over. Like I have embarrassed myself, and the only solution is to never have to see any of these people again. Yet, I know that won't fix anything and I'm tired of being a quitter. How do I get a fresh start when I feel like I blew it already? [more inside]
My partner and I need a new queen bed frame. Our bedroom furniture is a tricky color and we're having trouble finding one that will make sense. Help? Some requirements within... [more inside]
What are some fiction books you've read that changed your outlook on daily life after you finished them? I'm thinking of books that have the potential to make daily life seem more interesting and adventurous, or to give a new perspective on the seemingly mundane. Maybe they cause you to adopt a new persona, or envision yourself as a character involved in some sort of intrigue. Non-fiction will be considered, but I'm not looking for self-help books so much as inspiration to see things in a more exciting light.
My company is flying everyone out to Frankfurt, Germany for a week. I will have about 2 days for sightseeing. What are the best things to do/experience in Frankfurt or within an hour from Frankfurt?
I make 50-something gallons of stock a week at the restaurant where I work. We make the stock from roasted bones; beef, chicken, veal, etc, no veg. We make the stock in either a steam kettle or a very large pot. Sometimes the fat, when cooled, creates a very solid layer on top of the stock. Sometimes it is mushy and soft like a slushy. What gives? , I still haven't figured out the variable that creates a soft or hard fat layer. [more inside]
Writing practice tests: Quiet place, check. Timer, check. Proctor? [more inside]
I work in a research lab, and we've just moved into a new building (new to us and newly built). The HVAC in our testing rooms is pretty loud, specifically the airflow from the vents. We have two testing rooms, one with four vents and another smaller room with just one vent. Is there a way to sound proof around the vent area to reduce those noises? [more inside]
My partner and I are comparing options for mortgages and getting pre-approvals from several local mortgage brokers and online banks. We’re first time home-buyers and we're perplexed at how much cheaper the online bank's fees are (~$300) compared with a human mortgage broker's fees (~$3000). It seems like there must be catch, otherwise how do mortgage brokers continue to exist? Is there some benefit to using a mortgage broker that we'd miss out on if we went with the cheaper, online option? All mortgage shopping or condo/townhome-buying tips are welcome!
I'm a web developer who's been stagnating in a very low-effort job for several years. As such, my technical skills are way out of date. I'm not happy at this job, but I need to get up to speed again before I can get a new job that will be more satisfying. [more inside]
I've cold emailed someone in my industry and she responded with a rude email. How do I respond? [more inside]
I'm a professor in a dance department. We're making a new gallery website. As a recruitment tool, we want to improve our Google search hits when people search for the phrase "dance departments." The URL for the site is a long bureaucratic monstrosity. But we've also bought the domain OSUdance.com. If we distributed OSUdance.com and had it bounce to the long university URL, does that diminish our SEO—that people searching for "dance department" would find us any less than if we had distributed the long URL? Thanks so much for any guidance.
I am moving out of my current rental soon after several years. The property has light hardwood floors with a dark polyurethane(?) coating. I have a dog (approved by landlord), and from the dog plus furniture moving there are several places where at least the coating is scratched or worn away. However, there were also several spots when I moved in. Should I bring this up with the landlord directly and offer to recoat the floors, or just have them decide what to do about it? Complicating factors below. [more inside]
In the past few months, I've been experiencing a dramatic worsening of my mental functioning and my tendency toward health anxiety isn't helping me assess the situation. [more inside]
I am interviewing for a job in the next few weeks. In my role I would help non-profit managers improve their management skills in order to support the work of their team and meet the objectives of their organization. [more inside]
I’m starting to get bitter, lonely, and resentful, and am trying to decide if I should throw in the towel on this 8 month relationship before things get ugly. My girlfriend is basically telling me to distrust my own eyes. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
Is it possible for me to feed my entire Amazon wishlist into my city's library catalogue to see which books are in the library? [more inside]
I'm looking for contacts at reliable contractors in the Jaisalmer region of Rajasthan who have the tools and expertise to dig a 200m tube well. [more inside]
My dog pissed off a stranger this morning. She didn't handle it well. [more inside]
I've been dating my girlfriend for around 9 months. We got talking about previous sexual partners last night and she mentioned she had sex with someone else a week after we started going out. Am I wrong to be hurt? [more inside]
I ran across this chess set recently and would really like to track down where it's from. There were no other identifying marks or labels that I could see.
Turns out my toddler is really into puzzles. I'd like to get him something more challenging. Puzzle-lovers, what is out there? [more inside]
Help me find the most efficient way to accurately convert about 500 pages of charts (in which approximately 60 percent of the data is handwritten) into a spreadsheet. [more inside]
I just recently started working out for the first time in my life. I'm also 100 lbs overweight, and having a hard time figuring out what and how much I should be eating post-workout, for muscle recovery. [more inside]
Can you train a dog to stop scratching the ground after pooping? [more inside]
Anyone ever felt pain from ovarian cyst popping? I got diagnosed three weeks ago with an ovarian cyst on the left side. I have been doing some house work that involved lots of bending over and today it started hurting. I have this full pain. How long after it pops does it hurt? I take it that it is from that since it is left side pain and not right which could also be the appendix. My ovarian cyst is a simple one that is 58 mm
I have a pair of fairly ratty canvas awnings (on aluminum or steel frames) on my house. They're maybe 2 feet by 2 feet by 1 foot, so not that big. The canvas is shot and I'm hoping to get new ones. I just got a quote and it was almost $1000 for the two, just replacing the canvas. I have some other quotes coming, but is there a cheap alternative here? Could I just find a local craftsperson/sewing expert?
Currently with State Farm for renters and car insurance, looking to get some new quotes. How do I judge if an insurance company is good or not? Recommendations? [more inside]
Fuzzy slippers => head trophies. Doable? [more inside]
I'm looking for casual dresses, skirts, shorts and capris for the 30-something-woman student who hates shopping. Absolute requirement: POCKETS. [more inside]
How do you say "no", politely, to a second date? [more inside]
Does anyone know of a comic, online or otherwise detailing the story of someone who starts commuting by bicycle in Winter, discovers cycling subculture in the summer, but discovers themselves once again riding solo come Winter?
Where to go and what to do in Delaware Water Gap National Recreation Area? Or other suggestions for hiking/camping on the route from NH to VA. [more inside]
Cognitive dietary restraint is the "perceived ongoing effort to limit dietary intake to manage body weight"... and that's me. I'm never on a diet, but I'm also always trying to not get fat. I know I'm not fat, but I'm several pounds above my baseline weight, and I constantly feel potentially lumpy/awkward/ugly/like I am taking up too much space unless I am physically hungry and my clothes aren't too tight. I don't know how to get rid of this feeling and eat/enjoy food like a normal person. [more inside]
We've replaced both the furnace and AC units, but heating and cooling are really uneven through the house, no matter what we've tried (opening/closing vents, adjusting the dampers in the ducts, keeping unused room doors open/closed, etc.). We've been told by other people in our community that the ducting in our units isn't designed very well. What are our next steps? What kind of professional is best to have come in to evaluate the system? Bonus points for specific recommendations in the northern NJ area. [more inside]
I am arranging a group of 10 adults to travel from Amsterdam Centraal to Keukenhof, then onward to Leiden for dinner, and finally back to Amsterdam CS in the evening. I'm having trouble sorting thru the info on the English versions of the ride planning websites sites and my Dutch is niet zo goed. Can anyone help me sort this? [more inside]
Not wireless. No batteries. Must be wired.
The wire must be detachable from the headphones.
The over-ear parts must rotate so that the unit can be packed flat for travel w/Laptop.
Must sound good. Must be well built. I want them to last for 5+ years. [more inside]
Five days in Portland in early May with the extended family and an 11-month-old. Looking for outdoorsy things to do in the Gorge and Mt. Hood areas. [more inside]
My wife and I may be moving to Eugene, OR this summer for my graduate school. My mom, sister, and niece all live down in Florida. How do I feel okay about being so far away from them? Have you done this happily (or have you regretted doing this), and are there tips/experiences you could share? [more inside]
I have created a modified Bullet Journal/Day Planner for myself. A few friends have commented that it's really great, and I'd like to make some for them. And maybe a few other people. How does one do this? [more inside]
Help me find jeans that will fit my odd body type Details inside [more inside]
Boston-area people: Please suggest public houses within a mile of the Prudential/Hynes Convention Center that can informally accommodate a gathering of 30-40 garrulous geographers. [more inside]
I don't like tomatoes. It's a texture thing. Can I substitute 1:1 tomato puree in things like chili and stews? [more inside]
I've only ever the GP eye exam where you read the chart, and they say 20/20 and move on. I have noticed as of a month ago that trying to read anything about a foot to a few feet in front of me strains my eyes and looks a bit fuzzy (I can read, but it hurts). Long distance is no problem. Could I have a vision problem that requires glasses? No eye problems in the family, so no one believe's that I could have one and they blame me using a computer. [more inside]
I have some old laptops I'd like securely recycled. I used to use GreenDisk, but I was really dissatisfied with their service last year. Any better options? I'm willing to pay a small amount for peace of mind to have someone do this rather than just try to go at my hard drive with a hammer, or something.
I'd like my son who is five and a half to enjoy reading. He doesn't enjoy the assigned reading books from school (Biff & Kipper) and struggles to be persuaded to get through one each week. [more inside]
My 2002 Chevrolet Silverado got broken into about 3 or 4 months ago. The assailant(s) pushed the locks through the mechanism into the door on both sides (it's a two door). Since then I've gotten by with just the remote door opener, but both of them died on me on the same day (today). I'd like to open my truck the way the thieves did. [more inside]
I'm having bad feelings about a new job, and am thinking about quitting. [more inside]
I have a ten hour layover in Seoul tomorrow, and I am wondering if there is a way to get access to my checked luggage. I am also curious about day tours, especially the free tours Asiana offers. Haven't been able to find much info online. [more inside]
Can I get some current fashion advice for buying for a high-end-ish clothes for the male nerd? [more inside]
Where can a man with a waistline over 44 inches buy attractive, comfortable, durable casual clothes in London? I am a large man who cycles and walks a fair bit, and my wardrobe tends toward the Professor Brothers style: sportcoat, casual button-up shirt, durable trousers. [more inside]
Can you identify this toy hammer/pounding bench I had as a child, and if not, can you recommend a close substitute? [more inside]
I tend to move a lot and I'm trying to figure out if I'm better served (zing!) by going for a whole cabinet and just upgrading the casters or if it'd be smarter to break the equipment up over two or three smaller cabinets that can just be picked up and moved. [more inside]
I would like to dress up as the Wicked Witch of the West for an event many months in the future. Difficulty level: I am a very tall man and store-bought stuff is not likely to fit me. [more inside]
A friend and his wife are divorcing. He has been a stay-at-home father since their daughter was born eight years ago. Since he moved out of the house, she has diverted her paycheck into a a separate bank account he can't access and he doesn't have personal funds for a lawyer. This must happen all the time - how do stay-at-home parents hire lawyers? Is there some kind of divorce equivalency to contingency? [more inside]
I was recently diagnosed with ADD (inattentive type), and have been taking 10mg of Adderall XR once a day (or twice, as needed, on the instructions of my prescribing psychiatrist) for about a month. The ebullient 'kick' of focus and wellbeing I'd felt in the initial week-or-so has dimmed, and by now Adderall's most noticeable effect is the all-consuming, irrational frustration, irritability, and anxiety of the comedown, which lasts for several hours. Is this something that'll wear off eventually, or that I can mitigate through dietary changes or (etc, etc). Or is Adderall just not the right drug for me? What have your strategies been, both with ADD medication in general and for mitigating the Adderall crash in particular? [more inside]
I read an article in the past year about transactions in which both parties have an incentive to say publicly they want a thing to be really rigorous but actually don't, and this is kind of understood by the parties, resulting in suboptimal outcomes that were really desired all along. The transactions had a name - what was it? [more inside]
We have a 2-year old son who is in daycare full time during the school year, and three days per week in the summer. Recently, the room he is now in has introduced special "camps" during the day for holidays and special events - like Valentine's Day, St. Patrick's Day, and there was a "Winter Fun Camp" where the kids got to watch a movie and have a treat. The camps all cost $10, in addition to the regular cost of daycare. Our concern is that, while we can pay for the camps, we don't think that all families can do so, and we are uncomfortable with there being differences between the kids who go and the kids who don't. Right now, our son is too young to recognize the differences - or even care about going to the camps or not - but eventually he and the other kids will figure it out. So, my question is what do other parents do in these types of situations? [more inside]
I misplaced a piece of paperwok with my SSN on it. How risky is the situation, and what is the best way to get a replacement if that's the ideal solution? [more inside]
My wife, daughter, two dogs, and I are planning to have our house renovated over the summer, which will mean we'll have to move out for approximately 3 to 6 months. I'm asking the Mefi community if you have some ideas I haven't thought of to find nearby places to temporarily live. Besides Westside Rentals, AirBNB, and Craigslist, what are some reliable sources to find some places to find short-term rentals? [more inside]
I am starting to apply for IT jobs mostly entry mid level ( Help desk support and desktop). My family has told me that be careful when it comes to being paid a salary there are some companies that will take advantage of you as in make you work 60 hours a week and they don't have to pay you overtime. How true is this? But you can also get paid for 40 hours even if you just work 30 that same week. While being hourly non-exempt you are guaranteed to get paid overtime? [more inside]
I would like to buy snacks and drinks for my team of 10 people on Friday afternoon in celebration of Saint Patrick's day. [more inside]
My beloved black leather ankle boots have fallen apart past the point of repair, and they're no longer available online. Can you help me find a replacement? [more inside]
Five years ago I started hormone therapy as part of my transition to living as a woman. My loving parents were nice enough to pay for me to bank sperm before I started HRT, because I knew I wanted kids. Five years later, and I am panicking that there is no way in hell that any kid we have will have my DNA. How do I go about figuring this out? [more inside]
My parents' golden anniversary is in September, and they want a party. Fortunately they're helping plan it, but I'd love to step up and be Organizing Ninja. One problem - I've never planned a party of this scope and don't know what details to consider. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: Can you please help me find online support groups for someone going through a divorce? Facebook groups, message boards or anything online is preferred as my friend is a really busy person. (Although if you do know of books, resources or services in Madison, WI, please share that too). Young children and custody arrangements are involved, and my friend is mostly looking for empathy, logistical/practical advice and shoulders to cry on. My friend is a great person and parent in a really tough situation, and I'd love to help her out.
I want to staple fabric up in my basement as a temporary and quick way to hide the wires and spiderwebs going willy-nilly between the supports. It'll need to be opaque, not stretchy, either light enough or sturdy not to sag, able to handle being stapled without falling apart, and cheap, since I'll need a lot of it. What fabric-words should I be looking for if I want fabric suited to this purpose?
I'm interested in finding all sorts of online things (blogs, newspapers, community discussion/projects, photos, videos) around the idea of bringing back home economics. I know that Lichtenstein & Ludwig published a paper in the Journal of the American Medical Association in 2010 which has been cited by over 130 people since, but I really want non-academic sources. [more inside]
My mom, who watches a ton of tv, wants to cut her cable and explore streaming. She's enlisted my help to figure out what service(s) she should go with. She is going to send me a list of her must-have channels, which is likely going to include things like Lifetime, Lifetime Movie Channel, Hallmark, Hallmark Movie Channel, QVC, History, etc. Is there a site which lists cable channels and what streaming service they are available through? [more inside]
How can I make corporate videos quickly? I'd like to start making corporate videos. I want to produce them quickly, but effectively. Tips welcome. [more inside]
I just got accepted to Columbia's Nonfiction MFA program. What now? [more inside]
I'm curious about VR gaming headsets (for Mac or Windows). Have you tried 'em? Which one do I want? Lots more questions inside! [more inside]
Now that my mother's house is on the market, I've realized I need a more concrete plan to handle my share of the proceeds than 'save most of it'. [more inside]
I'd like to try to go see the California desert wildflower "super bloom", but due to my work schedule, I can only go on the weekend. But the traffic is apparently so horrible that there are hours-long delays getting into and out of Borrego Springs! My question is: how can I optimize my schedule/route to avoid the traffic as much as possible? I've never been to Borrego Springs before. I'm coming from San Diego. [more inside]
Help me help my best friend through the end of her life. [more inside]
I need to have a headmask printed with a very specific design (from an image file). The mask should be zentai-like in application (covers the entire head; spandexy/stretchy) but does not otherwise have any cultural associations with zentai. What's the best and most reliable way to have something like this made nowadays for a customer in the USA? [more inside]
So the wax ring in my basement 'utility' toilet finally failed. Difficulty level: Unusual toilet. [more inside]
A few/several years ago, I read an essay on the interney by a female teacher (possibly from upstate New York? possibly grade school level, possibly university level?) about correctly identifying and valuing "caring" as an outcome of expertise in teaching rather than an innate personality trait.... [more inside]
I’m a grand-uncle to 12 year old boy who is growing up in a relatively poor household that does not value education or hard work. What can I do to make his summer memorable? [more inside]
New to account management. I'd like to get some type of entry-level training regarding account management - customer relationships, networking, customer retention strategies, mapping out contact opportunities, meeting agendas, etc. Any ideas? (I'm in the tech industry, if that helps - web development)
I'm particularly moved by pieces of music that feel like they're blooming. It's that feeling of exuberance, exhortation, and exhilaration; it's a blossoming, a groundswell, an unpacking of meaning: it's an full-circled evolution on an earnestly beautiful theme. They'll have lots of harmonic interplay, elements of overlap and repetition, and will vamp and grow in layers, typically culminating in a grand fulfillment. Would you happen to know any like these? [more inside]
We live in a large, old house (1890s?). The roof is made of slate tiles, and I have no idea when they were most recently replaced/repaired/examined. A few days ago I found two connected tiles that had fallen off -- one full tile (4x8?) and one half tile section (4x4?). I cannot actually see where the tile fell from, it's too high/steep to see from either the ground or a 2nd-floor window. How urgent is this issue? [more inside]
I stupidly agreed to help someone with a project that I don't have the time or the emotional energy to do. Help me get out of this now before I waste any more of his time. [more inside]
I remember seeing something on TV in the 90's like CPG Gray's "The Trouble with Transporters". Does anyone know where to find it? [more inside]
Is there someplace for a long-weekend vacation near (no more than three hour drive) Houston for a big family with babies, kids and adults? [more inside]
I have a student who is going to be in Tokyo in a few days and I thought I would ask if anyone knows of any fabric stores in Tokyo that sell to the general public. [more inside]
Hi, I have an iphone 5 (T-Mobile) that I'm selling on eBay. It's running ios 10 and I've restored it to the factory image. What else do I need to do to make it usable by the buyer? I've had questions about whether it's "iCloud locked" and whether I've turned find my iphone off. How do I take care of these after it's been factory restored? What else do I need to do?
Looking for a licensed therapist in the NoVa or DC region who speaks Vietnamese/Mandarin or even Cantonese for someone who makes a low wage. [more inside]
I've been enjoying fun fantasy books but slowly have been feeling my brain become fluff. Anything I've been finding as critically acclaimed/recommended for excellent writing just seem to be full of drama, betrayals, and sadness. Any recommendations for an excellently written and enjoyable book? [more inside]
I've recently heard lore about a cake that caught on fire during a Food Network Challenge, as seen in this Cake Wrecks post. Sadly, the video of this incident is offline. [more inside]
I know that Betabrand sells men's 'dress pant sweat pants', which I like the idea of. However, the BB folks say that the waist band is not elastic. Ideally I'd like something that is both of those things (dress pant sweatpant + easily adjustable waist) due to stomach problems and upcoming surgery thing. Can't really seem to find anything like this? [more inside]
I'm slowly trying to pick up some Spanish, and one thing I thought might be helpful in addition to classes/duolingo would be reading some primarily English-language fiction that incorporates some Spanish throughout. A good example that I'm currently in the middle of is "The Gringo Champion" by Aura Xilonen. Ideally I'm looking for something like what "The Clockwork Orange" does for Russian, but for Spanish. [more inside]
Kindergarten aged child appears to have difficulty with expressive language, which makes it really hard to carry on a conversation with them. Assume the ball is rolling on evaluations; I want to know what I (as the adult) can do to grease the conversational wheels and maximize loving interactions. [more inside]
I'm participating in the #5WomenArtists campaign to highlight women artists throughout Women's History Month. I've also participated in #RPMChallenge, #TheBigDraw, and of course there's #NaNoWriMo. This has me interested in the proliferation of these wide-scale projects, often organized by hashtag, often tied to a particular spot on the calendar, which invite people to participate, contribute and share. What others do you know about? [more inside]
My husband and I are planning our first backpacking trip out West this September and could use MeFi guidance from anyone who has been out there before. [more inside]
My son who is on the spectrum has loved this particular Blanky Bear for over ten years. Can you help me find some more copies? Thank you so much in advance for your time and any help you can provide.
My eight month old is starting swimming classes in a couple of weeks (YAY!), plus we're planning to do a lot of swimming this summer both at pools and lakes. What is the VERY VERY BEST swim diaper we can get to prevent horrifying catastrophes? [more inside]
I commissioned a small art piece from someone who I do not know in person but with whom I share friends and with whom I also interact with frequently on social media. In January, the piece was complete. I sent the payment balance immediately but I have not yet received the art. [more inside]
A friend's bank prints customers' full social security numbers on pretty much everything, including mailed paper statements. She has tried multiple times to contact the bank and get them to stop doing this and they refuse. Are there any rules or laws about this or trade groups she could report the bank to? [more inside]
I need to learn a lot of names very quickly. How can I do it? [more inside]
I'm leaving next week for a 45-day treatment program. Friends are staying over to watch my place and feed my cats. I need to figure out some way to inform my onsite building manager of the situation, as well as advise her that she won't be able to contact me during that period. (She generally contacts me via phone or email once or twice a month about various matters, and in rehab I won't have access to my mobile or a computer.) I'd prefer, of course, to avoid divulging any embarassing or potentially incriminating details. Can anyone help me think of an appropriately euphemistic explanation?
I'm going to the Silicon Valley Comic Con in April of this year, and considering upgrading my 3-day ticket to the $250 VIP ticket. Is it worth it? [more inside]
I've been a lot grumpier lately and I don't like it... [more inside]
I did a Skype interview for an assistant professor position this past Friday and I believe that it went really well, committee said I will "definitely" be hearing from them within two weeks. Two weeks from my interview is my due date, exactly. The camera was aimed (as is usual) at my head and shoulders, so my 9 months pregnant status was not visible nor did it come up. I emailed a short formal thank you to the committee at the end of the day on Friday. The position is at the same university where I already work, but in a different department. It's a non-tenure seeking, teaching oriented position. I've just been to the doctor today, and she confirms I'm on track to deliver at or around my due date. Today is Monday, the first work day after my interview. My questions are within! [more inside]
I was at a nearby megamart that prided itself on being bi-lingual, everyone spoke Spanish and Portuguese! Apart from their excellent on-site fishmonger and butcher, who were very helpful and friendly, their cookware section had a lot of culinary knives of a pattern I hadn't seen before, and looked outlandish to my French/German/Japanese/Indian sensibilities (The Bonti, with coconut scraper, is the one kitchen utensil I really, really want, but know I am just not equipped to use it.) [more inside]
When making popcorn on the stove, I always pop in a couple "tester kernels" with the oil while it is heating. I was taught that once those kernels have popped, the oil is sufficiently hot and the rest of the kernels can then be added. Why is this necessary? Doesn't the act of adding a bunch of room-temperature kernels bring down the temperature of the oil anyway, causing the oil to have to re-heat? Can't I just add all the kernels in at once and let everything heat up together? The testers never appear to taste burnt or off to me- in fact it's impossible for me to tell which ones they were once all the other kernels have popped. [more inside]
I would like to purchase a bible that is easy to read, is clear on intent and can educate me. I am not religious. I would like to read this historically. I want to understand why people think that their personal beliefs are more important that other peoples personal beliefs. The concept confuses me. I would like to read a bible that is just direct and specific. What should I read?
I am approved for SDI. I got better. Now SDI isn't paying me for part of the time and doesn't give a reason. How can I talk to a person about this? [more inside]
I found a pair of Banana Republic pants at Goodwill recently that just fit all my criteria for perfect pants these days: black, slimming, some stretch but not too much, tapered, well-fitted... where do I find more, possibly in another brand that isn't so pricey? [more inside]
Thirty-two year old female who has absolutely never wanted kids. But I'm going puppy crazy and really want to get a dog now. Has anyone ever gone through this? [more inside]
My friend recently finished his novel, and I would like to send him some celebratory fudge. Because novels are terrible to finish, I would like it to be exceptionally good fudge. What is the best fudge I can order and ship to him online?
What bodyweight exercises can I do on top of jogging ~5K, on average 2/week, to maximize my non-existent exercise time? [more inside]
Going into commercial on season 24, episode 12 of Saturday Night Live, there were three short parodies of VH1's Behind the Music promos. One was Gwyneth Paltrow doing Joan Jett, one was Chris Kattan doing John Oates, and one was Jimmy Fallon doing Colin Hay. I have looked in vain for these for years. (They are cut out of the episode replays.) The closest I've come is a deleted YouTube video. Are they out there somewhere?
YANML. I am the successor trustee of a living trust. The current trustee/beneficiary is extremely difficult to deal with and is getting worse, and now I want out in a big way, even though I don't actually have to do anything until the current trustee dies or is incapacitated. [more inside]
There's a park in the Bay Area that has a fish run to allow rainbow trout to migrate upstream. I've never seen fish migrating and I am oddly fixated on watching trout go up the fish run. Are there even trout in these streams anymore? [more inside]
I've posted before about limerence. I've been seeing a great guy (not the one described in the linked Ask from October) for a few weeks. We're having a great time but my chest constantly feels like it's going to explode and I need help differentiating limerence/giddiness from anxiety. [more inside]
My 8 year old has trouble articulating the "r" sound. Do I have unrealistic expectations about speech therapy? [more inside]
Where can I turn for positive support when it's not regularly available? [more inside]
I finished my PhD in molecular and cell biology in December. I need a job. Added difficulty: I want nothing to do with academia or benchwork (doing experiments). My whole life I have just been following the next step of school and I've come to the end of the line. I feel lost and overwhelmed. Help me find a way out! [more inside]
I have hobbies/interests of an intellectual nature, and every so often I find information about a university course that addresses those interests (particularly from my alma mater). Would it be annoying or in any way gauche to send the professor an email requesting a copy of the syllabus so I can seek out the readings myself and read them in my free time? I have no idea how this is perceived in academia and don't want to step on any toes.
Are affordable lighting design consultants a thing? If yes, how best to find one? ...I've already tried Houzz, Homestars, and The Interwebs in general. [more inside]
I've been mostly ignoring the solicitations to join AARP because I had always assumed that they were kind of politically conservative. But recently I have been hearing that they are doing a good job fighting the Republican health care plan. Can folks tell me more about AARP's policy positions, both those that would be considered good and those that would be considered bad from the position of someone who is on the left (more Bernie/Warren/Jayapal than Hillary, but I voted for Hillary). Could I live with myself if I joined?
Does anyone know any apolitical/not-actively-far-right shooting ranges in the New York/New Jersey/Connecticut area? [more inside]
I have a Python script I use to take a set of spreadsheets, reformat them, and export them as a single spreadsheet split into multiple tabs. I run this daily to help a coworker, who works with the data on this spreadsheet. I'd like to set it up so coworker can run it instead. Deets below the break. [more inside]
We (two adults) would like to spend 6-10 days out of the US, preferably in Europe, this summer... for $2000, including airfare. Is this possible? Extremely flexible requirements within. [more inside]
I cannot find a DBT course for my location, nor a specialized therapist trained in it due to my lack of income. Can anyone recommend useful sites that present DBT in a clear fashion for an attention-deficit person? [more inside]
I have a wonderful friend who can't visit me this spring due to a serious illness and I'd like to cheer her up. She likes great keychains. I'd like to get her a solid, well-made keychain that screams "L.A." (or Hollywood or California). She's a bit on the serious side and I want to cheer her up, not push her boundaries, so no flower child lettering, pot jokes or sports teams. [more inside]
I bought an unlocked Verizon iPhone 6 on eBay for (wi-fi only) software testing. Did not come with SIM, and Verizon won't provide a SIM unless I'm a customer (I do have an AT&T SIM in my normal phone). I need, most of all, to check which iOs the phone's running (must be under 10.2.1 or else I'll resell), but I can't get past the welcome screen. How can I check iOs....and, for extra points, use the damn thing wi-fi only - without SIM?
Are there any areas of Anza Borrego where I might backpack this weekend, maintaining some isolation from 4WD drivers and wildflower enthusiasts? [more inside]
I'm thinking about getting some noise cancelling headphones but before I spend the cash I'd like to know whether they would work in my situation. I know it must sound bizarre, but I have a very noisy husband. And I'm noise sensitive. [more inside]
Seriously considering teaching English in Taiwan. My current job is ending, finding jobs when I'm over 50, especially with an employment gap, has been difficult. No experience teaching, but have done a good bit of training adults over the years as part of running library computer systems. I have a passport, have lived overseas but not in 30 years. Have minor, under control health issues. Have done some research, and this doesn't look insane, but would appreciate feedback. [more inside]
As a push towards better health, I've changed my diet and started seriously exercising. This has meant I've moved from a size 18/20 to a size 12/14 and now I have have no ideas where to buy clothes. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Due to a bizarre set of circumstances, my office computer's (wireless, USB) trackball stopped working, so I decided to relocate my home (wired, PS/2) trackball. This trackball glitches insanely if I move it faster than a slow crawl. Still works on the home machine, doesn't work on modern computers (which, amazingly, still have PS/2 ports) [more inside]
In contributed to our dependent care FSA in January, before we un-enrolled our son so my husband could stay home with him full time. Our benefits administrators are now telling me that the amount already contributed to my FSA this year can only be used for services that took place while my son was enrolled, so we have funds beyond what was spent in January. Is this a lost cause or worth pursuing? [more inside]
Are there any phones on the market today that weren't made through exploiting workers in 3rd world countries? [more inside]
Hi there's some interpersonal drama going on I'd rather not elaborate on (and really no time to write it out at the moment) and I'd like your best go-tos for managing stress. So far I have deep breathing, DBT skills (when I remember them) and Inderol (obviously not a permanent solution). Facts are my friends but obtaining/disseminating them takes longer than I'd like. Thanks.
I give up. I need a radio. A plain old tabletop radio that plugs into the wall. Not a tuner, not an internet appliance, but a radio. We lost power for three and a half days, and when the electricity goes out, the internet soon follows (even if the home network stays up, it goes out upstream); and cell coverage is, um, spotty and unreliable until it, too, goes out. [more inside]
We're going to Chicago April 18-24. We're a dyke couple in our 40s plus a 14 year old kiddo. Our interests include: music (singer/songwriter or rock/punk continuum), theater, books/zines/comics, delicious foods of all types (two of us are vegetarians), history/walking tours (especially exploring race/labor history/activism), queer things, stuff we wouldn't find outside of Chicago [more inside]
I have an interview tomorrow, and in doing some research I've learned that I'm ambivalent about a core part of their current mission. From a HR perspective, is it wise to engage with this during the interview (I don't mean actually telling them they're wrong or arguing with them, just being honest about that ambivalence), or is it better to voice wholehearted support it until I'm in the door? [more inside]
A friend, early 30s, is considering leaving a 10-year career in public school teaching to do a PhD in biology (program ranking= low 170s in the US News biosciences list). As a way of transitioning to a career in anything not-secondary-teaching, how good or bad of a decision is this likely to be? [more inside]
I would really like to know: 1. How should the restaurant have handled this? 2. What should my husband and I have done? (semi)Short story: While we were in a vacation town this weekend, a server lost our debit card between charging our card and returning it to us. We were not notified right away, when we sought out an assistant manager, she was unaware of the situation, the manager in charge was notified even later, and then did not apologize, got defensive, and escalated quickly. She was making the scene in the restaurant, not us. The police came and asked us outside. We found out the manager had told the police that we wouldn't leave and wanted them to escort us out. She had never asked us to leave and we were still waiting for information! We ended up filing a police report, and clearly we won't ever go back. What *should* have happened? [more inside]
I'm wondering if there's some cheap solution for Bluetooth speakers I can set up in the car that will give me nice crisp sound even at higher volumes. I wouldn't like to spend more than a few hundred, and my understanding is built-in systems of any decency are above 1K. [more inside]
I have an assortment of needlespoints and tapestries made by mother and grandmother that I can't keep. I'm trying to figure out if there is a better option than dumping them at the local thrift store. [more inside]
Is this even possible? [more inside]
I lost my dog in a somewhat rural area. What do I do? [more inside]
Almost 20 years ago, I wrote a story and tried unsuccessfully to get it published. Somewhat more recently, self-publishing caught on, and I started thinking I'd try that. But, before I got around to it, I read a passage in a Harry Potter book that was a lot like the climax of my story. So much so, I thought, that I shouldn't self-publish, because it would seem like I stole her scene. Can you help find that passage? [more inside]
Are U.S. citizens (by birth or naturalized) experiencing any difficulty with Customs at the present time? First- or second-hand experience, please, no hearsay. I am also interested in typical experiences rather than anomalies. [more inside]
Since his transition, my trans man partner has been reluctant to go for a cervical smear test because of potentially negative responses from health professionals. Does anyone have any recommendations for trans male friendly gynaecology clinics/gynaecology health professionals in London? Bonus for NHS clinics rather than private care. [more inside]
I'm bored at work and get restless, but I'm stuck. How do I get myself to concentrate when I don't like what I do? [more inside]
I just bought a Sony STR-DA1ES receiver in order to power my two speakers. I bought an RCA cable and plugged it into my Samsung 32" Smart TV (model no. UN32J525DAF). It doesn't appear to work at all, while there is definitely a signal going through the receiver to the speakers. I plug the RCA cords into each different setting on the back of the receiver and change the receiver's modes to correspond and it still doesn't work! [more inside]
I just fell for a scam and feel like an idiot. I am normally super skeptical and logical in general and have no problem telling people "no". For some reason I bought it and now I'm out $200 and a little bit of dignity. How can I frame my thinking around this so I feel like less of a moron? [more inside]
I'm looking for a container plant that will be happy in a covered (but light) carport in southern California. No direct sunlight, but it does get very light during the day. I'm looking for something that will provide a nice screen for an ugly HVAC unit so something that will grow tall would be great. I'd been considering Snakeskin plant (sanseveria). What else should we consider?
Where can I get an amazing filet mignon in Asheville, NC next Saturday night? [more inside]
Recently a friend of a friend, Sara, gave me a kiss on the lips out of nowhere. It was a quick peck. I'm a gay man, she's a straight woman. At the time I was so shocked I didn't say anything. Now our mutual friend is getting married so we will be spending more time together. Is this worth acknowledging or should I just pretend it never happened? [more inside]
I've never ever wanted a cat until about a month ago, but now I can't stop thinking about it. My husband likes them, my kid adores them, and I'm pretty sure I'm allergic. Should we try fostering a cat to see how it goes? Or just take the plunge? [more inside]
Lately I've been trying to understand a weird issue with my perception. I've had episodes of it throughout my life, mostly when I've been going through stress or emotional change. Usually I feel as though I'm not really connected to my surroundings and I zone out when I try to focus on them. It's like there's some sort of invisible barrier keeping me from grasping the reality of the things I see and how they relate to myself, rather than just seeing them like pictures. [more inside]
After getting a toner my hair is now too dark. Will this wash out of a full head of highlights? If so how long will it take? [more inside]
I am an academic librarian with a good understanding of technology. However, I definitely have holes in my knowledge. Most of my issues relate to networking, firewalls, and authentication for accessing content. I'm wondering if anyone had some suggestions for readings that will help me learn these concepts on a practical level. I like to joke that I know just enough to be dangerous! Thanks!
My soon-to-be 12 year old niece is getting into drawing Manga and Anime. I'm looking for some helpful instructional books for Manga / Anime. [more inside]
My plantains (platanos maduros) aren't as gooey and sweet as I would like them to be? How do I fix this? I'm trying to use this recipe. [more inside]
Where can we buy auto battery vent caps? We need only the small plastic caps, not an entire battery. [more inside]
Sorry to be so technology challenged here, probably a super simple question. I want to listen to youtube music on my android phone but I have data caps and I do NOT want to stream the data dense video. Just audio. Does turning off the video mean you do not stream the video? What is the best way to do this without killing my data plan. Is there an app that does this currently? kind regards jcw
Father-in-law wants to sell his house. He cannot currently locate the deed. That shouldn't be too big a problem. What is a problem is that the house is held by a trust. FIL is the executor of the said trust. However, he doesn't have any of those documents either. And the law firm that set up the trust no longer exists. Where does he go from here? This is in California. [more inside]
I have to take a test for my overseas nursing registration. As an advanced practice nurse from the US, the level of training and education I've had is far beyond what is required of me for this test. I have a 1,000 page manual of basic nursing procedures to memorize. How do I cram it all in and suppress my critical-thinking brain and hone my test-taking brain? [more inside]
We're driving from Las Vegas to Reno in August and planning to stop for a night on the way for some star-gazing. [more inside]
Used to be, I'd copy 'n' paste into the MSN window for the contact and voila, all done... [more inside]
How do I get better at self-care and work towards more positivity in my life when it seems that innately I'm a cynical person? How do I do the things I know that I need to do to feel better physically and mentally when I struggle with believing I deserve to be kind to myself? If you're a survivor of depression or abuse how do you even start to build self-esteem? [more inside]
Hi! I'm gonna be in Austin, TX in mid-April and I was looking for some quirky things to do! Like, really quirky. More details inside. [more inside]
Android stopped recognizing about a third of my mp3 files after a recent update. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I'm looking for precise, interesting, mellifluous, preferably aesthetically pretty words to add to my vocabulary! [more inside]
I recently was asked to head a small department, but now face a difficult situation with one of the Senior Executives. How do I navigate this mine field? [more inside]
Oh, god, I'm dumb... in the fall I got into an "accident" and I don't think I did the right thing, now I'm worried about my insurance. Details inside. [more inside]
I've had mostly mild, mostly intermittent lower left, lower right, and lower middle abdominal pain for more than a week but that seems to be sort of getting worse/more constant. I don't have a GP I trust or an urgent care clinic nearby. Way too many details inside. [more inside]
I think I remember a story by Borges in which the rules of chess are amended, such that a certain piece can move to any square on the board - including the square from which it started. Did I imagine that? If not - which story is it?
I'm almost 50 and just got my driver's license. I'm considering buying a van or SUV or VW Bus so I can take road trips with my dog. Do you have any advice for someone buying their first used vehicle? Also, I'm in Canada and have considered buying a used car in the US and then driving it back (and road tripping a bit on the way), but I cannot make head-nor-tail of how hard it is to drive a car back -- what fees are involved and such. Would hate to buy a car and be told at the border that I can't import it or the costs are crazy prohibitive. Any help appreciated.
I listen to almost all of my music now on my PC, streaming on Spotify or Youtube, either through my 2.0 speaker setup, or $20 Sony earbuds plugged in to speakers. I'm wondering what I'm missing. What is the ideal setup for optimizing my listening experience for a budget <$300? [more inside]
Are there any free web hosting options to store links and reading materials and organize them, if so any recommendations? [more inside]
My partner and I are in the unenviable position of being pushed out of our apartment in Queens and are now looking for a new place. We found one in a co-op building that we really like, but I'm really nervous about renting a non-stabilized apartment. What do I need to be prepared for? [more inside]
I am taking a road trip with my daughter and a few of her friends to a crafting retreat for a long weekend. And I am on day seven of keto (low carbs, medium protein, high fat). The meals are provided, but I don't want to drop the ball for four days. Any suggestions for things I can bring to snack on while avoiding carbs and sugars? ** Little snowflakes, all in a row below. ** [more inside]
My husband and I were fortunate enough to recently be able to purchase our first home, and we get the keys this weekend. What's a neat way we could celebrate/commemorate this big life event? [more inside]
How do people in cities without public transit get home after drinking? [more inside]
Asking for a friend: three of us, all middle-aged white women, have just purchased an established cafe in a downtown neighbourhood. We've noticed that, while the population of our area is quite diverse, our clientele appears to be predominantly straight, white, and middle-class. What can we do to encourage and welcome a wider cross-section of the community? [more inside]
How can I best simulate the Lisa Frank brush script logo with a free or cheap font? I need this desperately.
I need to buy a car as part of a move to Medford, OR (I'm currently car free). I'd prefer a small, fuel-efficient used model, and I'm flexible on price up to about $15K, $7-10K is better. Thoughts about what price range offers the best value are welcome, and whether to buy in PDX or Medford (buying in Medford would entail renting a car while I shop)? [more inside]
So my favorite lipstick shade has been discontinued: L'Oreal Couleur Riche Mystic Mauve (625). Does anyone know of another lipstick shade that's a close match? Or (failing that) is there a good resource for finding shade matches for discontinued makeup?
So, we bought our house a few years ago. It's a small one-story job, built around 1940 or so. The previous owners told us that the basement flooded years ago due to backup from the sewer system and after that episode, they installed a backflow prevention valve and a sump pump. I'd love to know more about how this basement is protected from moisture since I can't seem to figure it out myself. [more inside]
My parents have a 2013 Dodge Minivan that has shut off while driving three times - once a month or so ago, and twice very recently, between trips to the dealer who told them they couldn't duplicate or sense the problem. [more inside]
Why do I suck at dictating texts? I can speak at the rate I can think (or faster, oops), and I can type (key and touch) at nearly stream-of-consciousness speed, but dictating SMS messages is always a really fraught process. I find that I stumble over words, need to start over, miss important points and basically just fail for anything more complex than "yes" "no" "cheddar please". Why is that? Is there a cognitive reason? Am I using under-exercised parts of the brain or something? [more inside]
I am planning to leave Monday at around 4 a.m. from the Santa Rosa area, driving to San Diego. Car full of kids. Are there any routes I should avoid? Anything else to know about? I've never made this trip before and have only flown to SoCal once. Thanks!
I am getting married to a wonderful man who will be my 2 sons' new step-dad. I want to give my boys something from us to commemorate the event. If I had daughters, it would be easy to pick out a nice piece of jewelry for them, but I'm stumped with what to get for a 7 year old and 3.5 year old boy. More details inside! [more inside]
I'm having a hard time finding a simple camisole that isn't made to slim you. [more inside]
See, I don't mind spending a bit of $$$ to see my favorite bands at Terminal 5 or The Beacon Theater... okay fine, maybe I do mind a little, so I'm searching for smaller clubs, cheaper tickets, places with some good indie rock/punk stuff going on. It looks like a lot of places in Manhattan shut down recently but considering I live up in Washington Heights some Manhattan recommendations would be welcome!
I'm located near the Berkeley hills (SF Bay Area). There are lots of great forested trails around here, but I have a desire to wander in more of a wide-open meadow setting. Any recommendations nearby?
The thing with drip coffee makers is supposed to be that most do not get the water hot enough to produce a good brew. A few products that say they get the water hot enough are available for premium prices. But... ANY cheapo electric kettle produces boiling water. What's so hard about boiling water, letting it cool several degrees, and then spraying it on coffee grounds?
geegollygosh recently asked a similar question though for an adult's personal use. I'd like something that enables a parent's control over her child's phone use.
Give me your best guess regarding a car on our block that is left running at strange hours. [more inside]
Can you help me figure out what to do in this work/unemployment situation? Details under link. [more inside]
I watched a documentary last year online about a pod of orcas residing off the shores of Argentina and their hunting and social habits. There was a specific scene where the calf of the pod wanders into a kelp forest and when it discovers it is separated from the rest of the pod, it remembers to stay still and call out for help. The rest of the pod then respond to the calls. What is the name of this documentary? I've been searching for too long but none of the videos that pop up have this scene.
I tend to gamemaster tabletop RPGs in generic systems. When a game session veers into a specific genre, I'd like to have a better toolbox of mechanics in order to enhance the feel of that genre. What are some genre-tailored mechanics that I should know about? [more inside]
Is there a list somewhere, starting from 9/11-hoax up to women's-march-leaders-are-evil, which provides counterpoints and factual resources to eventually point a convinced Trump supporter (whom you need to deal with for a brief period) to? Are there good current-event dialogue-coaching tips, useful to avoid any conversation disintegrating into immediate adversity? [more inside]
My double wall oven is throwing error code F1, I have tried all options that I have found on the web. Any other ideas? [more inside]
Until a few weeks ago, I was able to use the Windows 10 Library function to sort my pictures by month/tag etc. Then one day, it simply refused to comply with any command except to sort by folder. It's the tiniest issue in the world and it's driving me up the wall. Any ideas for troubleshooting this would be most welcome! [more inside]
I have a Xiaomi Mi Box, it uses Android TV, and the default screensaver shows some kind of Google images. Help me identify one! [more inside]
As a lead up / sideline to helping some folks learn the art of reviewing things (learning critical / positive / incisive / insightful / constructive / sharp writing), I want to have on hand some stellar examples of reviews of 'all the things' to show and talk about. Movies, music, TV, comics, books, websites, products, businesses, ideas, visual art - please share with me the best examples of well written reviews of any and everything that you know of. Reviews you share can take any form (videos / written / audio / webcomics / websites and beyond).
I live near Brisbane, Australia and I'd like to learn how to mat and frame pictures (drawings, predominantly) professionally. I'm pretty poor so I can't spend thousands of dollars on lessons and even if I could there doesn't appear to be anywhere nearby that offers classes. Where do I start?
How did people – especially women, working class students, people of colour – go about getting a BA, and sometimes also a PhD, in the pre-WW2 era? Like was there a formal admission process and exams and scholarships for entry to uni and entry to graduate school like now? Or did you just network with the right professors? I know the system in the UK was essentially a closed shop for upper class white males, but how did the actual process work?
Earlier this week, my phone was stolen from my high school classroom (dumb on my part; it usually stays in my pocket). One of my students from another class recognized it and identified the suspect. The school resource officer confirmed the SN, and the student was suspended. I declined to press criminal charges against a student for the second time this year. [more inside]
I left my job after ~1.5 years on good terms, for a job in the same field but in a much different area of practice. I'm about six weeks in and it's going horribly. I'm miserable and I don't know how to proceed. [more inside]
I worked for small non profit centered around communities and families. I was recently informed that disturbed asbestos had been discovered in the building. [more inside]
I'd like to give/raise money to a mental health charity that isn't terrible, and actually does things. Which one am I looking for? [more inside]
I'm a 31 year old male who is Filipino and living at home with my dad, step-mom, and step-grandparents. I've been wrestling with the idea of moving out, as men in western society face a major stigma if he is still living at home especially within the dating field. However, it's the opposite in Asian culture and making it out on your own (having your own place without sharing) in Los Angeles is a major challenge if you're not a nurse, engineer, business owner, and etc. I work as an Admin assistant at a UCLA clinic, and I am also working as a per diem MRI assistant on the weekends. I have already filed my taxes, and my gross income didn't even reach 40k last year. I realized that it didn't make sense to move out and have a whole paycheck go to rent. I'm not interested in sharing an apartment with roommates. I've decided to contribute money towards 1/3 of our mortgage. I also pay the family's cell phone plan, cable, internet, and gas. Everyone helps out in sharing the cost of the monthly expenses. [more inside]
I am part of a Facebook group with more than 1500 members. I wish to help develop a policy about appropriate posts, comments and administration, including any possible deletions of posts and comments. Do you know any resources that discuss best practices for this type of thing?
I've become exhausted with people using me because I'm sincere and want to connect. How can I find more balanced friendships? what am I doing wrong that's inviting this selfish behaviour? [more inside]
I have a new cat and he is great but what's not so great is how he eats half of my previous cat's food. Complication - previous cat is extremely NOT food-motivated. [more inside]
I bought a vintage car and am driving it home to Chicago! It doesn't run well. Avoiding Interstates because I don't think it would make 70mph when new, is there one way out of the Appalachians that's flatter than another? [more inside]
Disney is apparently (in)famous for recycling animation, or using the same animation sequences in multiple movies. How does it work? [more inside]
Primary travel destination August-Sept is Barcelona, staying about 3 blocks from the La Floresta train station...is this manageable? [more inside]
How do I invest if I think a crash is inevitable? [more inside]
Who are the five people I should follow on Twitter to stay informed on what theater to watch in LA? (or insert similarly low-effort method here) [more inside]
My sister-in-law (the wife of my husband's sister) and I are both staying at the house of our respective significant others for a short time. We bought something together as a gift for the house, agreeing we'd split it 50/50, and now she refuses to take my portion. I feel upset but also like I'm being petty for being offended she won't take my money after she agreed we'd split it. What is the etiquette here? Snowstorm inside. [more inside]
We need sleek sophisticated aprons, ideally without a pocket on the upper (bib) part of the apron so we can get a logo silk screened onto them. We do not want to spend $45 or more per apron! (We might spend $30 or more for the right apron.) Please Hope Us!! [more inside]
I've been trying for weeks to identify a Florida tree for my mom from a photo, and I'm stymied. Can you help figure out what type of plant this is? Tampa, Florida. March 3, 2017. [more inside]
A former student of mine has meningitis and is now comatose in Uzbekistan. She has no financial resources for her treatment, and may also be receiving substandard care as a result. What is the best way to help her? What is the best method of sending her money? Can I find a Western doctor in Uzbekistan who might provide higher quality care? [more inside]
I have been told by my work to start seriously thinking about relocating to Oakland by the end of this year. How do you get out to the mountain resorts consistently while living in this area, and where do you go? What are our prospects of finding snow/backcountry anywhere near the city? [more inside]
My mother-in-law's garage door opener abruptly stopped responding to the remote control a few weeks ago. But it appears it didn't stop responding entirely—it'll still open/close if you press the button...from about one foot away from the receiver. We installed a new unit, no joy. What gives? What are our options? [more inside]
I have an herbal supplement in fine powder and I need to manually measure out a specific dosage in milligrams and get it into gel caps. [more inside]
Best way to prepare for a beginners rowing class in two months? [more inside]
I am a software person getting asked to do a lot of design work in a temporary position, which I am HORRIBLE at. Please help me make things of which I'm at least slightly proud. [more inside]
Hi guys I have a question about something that’s mildly (a lot) freaking me out. But it may be nothing. Or it is something. So I’m hoping your techy expertise may help! [more inside]
One of our group has a birthday coming up...we'll be in La Brea/Wilshire area restaurant but need to find a great cake to pick up for dessert and singing. Sweet Lady Jane isn't cutting it any longer--and we don't want a 'boring' old fashioned type of Susie Cakes for our birthday girl. [more inside]
Is there something weird about the way gaming laptops are configured that would make them less good for graphic design than their specs indicate? [more inside]
I'd like to build a shop light/tinker light out of cheap LED COBs, but I'm confused about how to size the driver. COBs have wattage, voltage and amperage ratings. To my understanding, to run 3 10w COBs, I would need a driver that puts out 30 watts. The voltage seems pretty straight forward, it's represented by a single number and the driver should be capable of delivering that. The amperage is where I get REALLY confused. [more inside]
So, non-advice givers, friend of the year MeFites, loving supportive people…what do you do instead of fixing? What is your thinking as people lay out their problems? How do you direct your end of the conversation so it’s helpful or productive in some way. [more inside]
longer explanation below, but essentially I'm looking for suggestions of game alternatives to musical chairs (preferably not too physical/challenging) to whittle down participants until there is only one left. [more inside]
I’m interested in some basic analysis of the people I’ve chosen to follow on Twitter and the makeup of the timeline I read every day. Things like “who tweets the most/least per day” and “who retweets the NY Times the most often” and “what is the gender breakdown of the people I’m following.” [more inside]
If you have sporting goods to sell in Portland where would you get the most money out of the deal? Next Adventure, Play it Again Sports, or good ol' Craigslist? [more inside]
I've been dealing with itchy skin and small, red, occasionally itchy bumps for the last two weeks-- do I need a doctor or an exterminator? [more inside]
My doctor has suggested that I try a low histamine and tyramine diet because it might help with my migraines. I'm looking for experiences and data. [more inside]
For years, the Niagara Falls stunt that David Copperfield performed on a tv special (YT link within) has bothered me. It seems like some things went wrong here but that the audience was supposed to think it was a success. And I haven't found any sources that discuss it as a failure either. More inside. [more inside]
My daughter's going to be in Yuma AZ for a physicians assistant clinical rotation in January 2018 for five weeks, then will return there in mid-March for a second five-week rotation in women's health. Her husband, a native of Ecuador, will be with her. They both are fluent Spanish-speakers. We're brainstorming about housing options, from renting an unused vacation trailer to WWOOFing (he'd do the work part). Help us think about what might be possible, and what might make sense in that context.
I'm looking for Cat + Jack, but for adults: cute, colorful, comfy clothes at normal prices. (More clothes I like but are only for kids: Tea Collection and basically everything in this thread.) I get brightly colored leggings from Forever 21. T-shirts are not my favorite; I really like tunics or dresses over leggings or with tall socks. I know about Hanna Andersson (still, the adult clothes are not as good as the kids' clothes) and Gudrun Sjoden, but I'm not spending $100 on a jersey-knit dress; I want to pay ~$30. Please hope me.
My melanoma has metastasized to my brain and I will be undergoing both gamma knife/SRS and neurosurgery. I was on a six-month contract-to-hire assignment with a Fortune 500 company and "released" after three months because of the uncertainty surrounding my schedule and availability. Was I wrongfully or illegally terminated? Do I have legal recourse? Snowflakes after the jump... [more inside]
This seems like a rather frivolous question to ask, but, does anyone know if there are any US celebrities who practice Jodo Shinshu (aka "Shin") Buddhism? [more inside]
So I'm following the US Healthcare debate a bit (from Germany) and what I am wondering is where all the money the US is pouring into it is going. It would seem that *somebody* has to get extremely rich under this system. This works under the assumption that the actual cost for treatments, doctors/ nurses salaries, drugs, equipment is roughly the same in industrialized societies. I think this can be a very complicated question, but are there any statistics about which Healthcare entities, in comparison to other countries are "fatter"? [more inside]
There is a homeless man living in a bus shelter (a small 4x4 concrete structure meant to keep people out of the bitter Wisconsin wind). It's still very cold here (Milwaukee), with the real feel this morning being right around 5F. Are there any authorities that I can contact to get this person some help? [more inside]
I'd like to take pictures of people socialising, enjoying themselves etc without being intrusive. Do you know any good tips / book / blogs etc on how to capture great, natural photos of events e.g. guests at a wedding; attendees at a conference; people in a a bar etc?
I have been a longtime fan of Celebrity's work. Though Celeb is a household name in their home country, they are more of a cult figure in my country, and as such, it's been relatively easy for me to meet them briefly a few times over the years. In the past year, however, I have found myself in the exciting (but also somewhat surreal) position of developing both a professional and personal (non-romantic) relationship with Celeb's Sibling. Help me make sure I don't inadvertently misstep! [more inside]
I'll be downtown near L.A.s Chinatown tomorrow at lunchtime, and so want to go there for lunch. When I eat there I usual go to the $1-a-plate sort of place where the food is served off of steam trays. Which I love. But: Tomorrow I want to eat Chinese food at a notch or two fancier sit-down type restaurant. Where should I go?
I am looking for an iPhone camera app that doesn't automatically put pictures into my photo library. I would like it put the pictures I take with the app into its own storage where I can view and retrieve them. I would like to be able to get them out of this app (into my iPhone photo library, onto my Mac, sent via e-mail) later, at my discretion. [more inside]
My son is driving 4 teenagers (I think they're all boys, not sure) from Ithaca to Boston today to go to PAX East . Some cousins were going to put them all up but one cousin got very sick last night and they cannot. Where should these guys look for a place to stay? They're on a tight budget. Thanks.
I'm thinking about going to Barcelona with my husband and our 11-year-old at Christmas time. We're interested in architecture, museums, food, and some low-key chilling out over the holiday. I'm concerned, though, that most stuff will be closed or extra-expensive because of the holiday. [more inside]
I'm a transwoman, pretty early on in transition, and need to start practising training my voice. I want to have a set of dialogues I can use to do that with where I can take a recording, blank out one character's lines in the dialogue and play it back, speaking the appropriate lines myself. I'm looking for recommendations and suggestions of scenes from TV and film that would be useful for this. [more inside]
I'm about to launch a Kickstarter to fund development of a very complex app. I have 3-4 app houses on my short list and they're all really good. Before I launch the Kickstarter, I need to decide who I'm going to go with and hire them to refine/redesign the prototype. Advice for how to make a good decision here? [more inside]
The wifi network at my work blocks traffic from certain apps, namely Whatsapp and some games. Is there any way I can set these apps to use mobile data, even when the phone is connected to a wifi network? [more inside]
I have a hard time opening up to people and inviting people in to help me with something - even though I really want to. I have few close friends (1-2) but a lot of acquaintance-friends, who are generously offering to help me with my wedding and I feel paralyzed. Like I don't have the right brain software to know how to take them up on the offer in a personal, genuine way that doesn't feel like a work transaction, which is my natural default. How do people do this?! How do you friend as an adult? [more inside]
For the past several years, I have lived in attic rooms due to my noise sensitivity. It's incredibly difficult for me to sleep if I hear footfalls above me, or there are doors slamming on the same floor. Attic rooms work great for me because of the lack of people-made noise. [more inside]
I once read a description of a special device something like a small box lined with black material - I think - that painters once upon a time - 19th century or earlier? - used to hold against their face and look into to refresh their tired eyes. Can't remember the source; no luck trying to Google this.
I'm an android user who spends way too much time on metafilter, reddit, Facebook etc. Can you recommend an app to save me from myself? [more inside]
Give me your favorite fan fiction! I'm invited to a fan fiction reading night on Sunday and want to make the group happy with something extra special. [more inside]
Wages owed to my partner by a former employer. What should partner do? [more inside]
I will have a week and a bit in Greece - where should I go, what should I do? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My wife and I are flying to Los Vegas from Ireland for a weekend event in mid May. We plan to hire a car in Los Vegas and make our way to San Francisco from where we fly home two weeks later. It's the first and probably last time we will be in this part of the world. What route do you recommend we should take and where should we visit? [more inside]
I have a lien for $3457. Tax periods '06, '13, '14. Date of assessment, respectively -'08, '14, '15. Last day for refiling, '18, '24, 25. Prepared and signed- April '16. It has been just over 10 years since the '06 tax period. Is there a 10 year end of time period'? I have an installment agreement in place, including a few other years (the lien amount is included) Do I have any options? Recently married, but we were told spouse will not be responsible. Can we file jointly w/ this liability? Will this affect his return?
My partner sustained a concussion about a week and a half ago. The ER and primary care doc say to just take it easy. But he's miserable: light-sensitive, sound-sensitive, headaches. Had to miss a major work function connected to his future in his company. How can I best support him? [more inside]
Help me figure out what I should be paying for a dental cleaning in the bay area? [more inside]
My (small) SF tech company is purchasing a trailer to be our mobile lab for field testing. We don't have anywhere in our building that we can store it, so we have to park it somewhere else. Our office is in the Mission and parking anything of perceived value on the street is not a good idea. Where can we park it? [more inside]
I was sexually harassed at work, I reported it and the investigation decided that I was right. I've been offered a sort of severance package. I feel like I should find an attorney/lawyer to look the contract over, but I have no idea how to do that or what to do once I find one. [more inside]
Looking for contemporary remixes of classical music to play at an informal figure drawing session this evening. [more inside]
I am planning a contest. I live in Puerto Rico (American dollars). How do I best pay the winner if he or she is overseas and uses a different and as yet, unknown, currency? [more inside]
Going to Ithaca for the weekend, tell me fun things to do! [more inside]
I live in the US, where the practice is to drive on the right hand side of the road. There is also a tendency, I believe, for a person to walk on the right hand side of the hallway when there are people moving in both directions. Is this convention reversed in countries where drivers drive on the left?
I have a bedside lamp hooked up to a timer. I had an older CFL bulb that took about 20 minutes to become fully bright. I set the timer for about 20 minutes before my alarm, to gradually, slowly bring the room to brightness. Problem: The bulb burnt out, and I can't find a replacement! Please enlighten me! [more inside]
I'm seeking ideas for making my galley-style bathroom more functional. Maybe you have some suggestions for improving how the space works, and maybe adding storage that won't have everybody ducking or squeezing by? [more inside]
For the first time i am leading planning for a summit/conference type event. While this size event is small, I am new to this and of course want it to go as well as possible - what how-to guides, event planning document templates, articles, books etc. would you recommend? If you have tips from your own experience, they are much appreciated too! [more inside]
I'm getting a massage from an RMT this afternoon in a setting that describes itself as "Wellness Centre and Spa - Osteopathy and Wellness Centre". I won a gift certificate for a 45 min massage. Do I tip the RMT? [more inside]
I am going to Luge Fantasy Camp at the Olympic Training Center in Lake Placid at the end of this month. I'll be flying into Burlington VT late Thurs evening, and then don't have to be anywhere until 1 pm on Friday. I've never been in that area of the country before, so could use some recommendations of where to stay/what to eat. [more inside]
I've had the great soul ballad "Rainbow Road" caught in my head all morning and it's bugging me that I don't know the proper name for the device used in one of the verses. "Then one day a man with a knife / Forced me to take his life / Though I pleaded with him so desperately / The judge showed no mercy when he passed his sentence on me." "Him" could refer to either the judge or the man with the knife. What is it called when you intentionally use an ambiguous pronoun for rhetorical effect? Is there a specific name for doing this between two other nouns that it could refer to?
Our summer vacation this year is taking us to Amsterdam by way of Iceland thanks to the cheap airfare packages Icelandair runs out of Logan Airport. We will have two days to spend in Iceland before continuing on to our final destination. Help us figure out what we can realistically fit in to that all-too-brief window. [more inside]
Examples inside. I have a client in a small-medium sized business who wants me to do more web design related stuff as opposed to creating content only for their WP site. Help!? [more inside]
What side dish should I contribute to a big campsite feast this weekend? [more inside]
Are you a data analyst/scientist or business intelligence analyst? Do you do data visualization? What specific skills should I develop to switch careers from project management? Are there certifications I should look into getting? What would impress a hiring manager, or at least let me get my foot in the door? [more inside]
Theologically well versed of MeFi: can you please enlighten me about the place of fasting in different religions? For example, I recall some differences between islamic and christian practice but nothing properly explained. Moreover didn't really find a "definitive" handbook of the topic, and I usually feel safe learning about a subject if I have a couple of these books at hand. [more inside]
I like my fundraising job, and I like the autonomy which comes with a more senior post. But with added seniority comes added responsibilities of the type I really dislike - a lot of schmoozing with important people, late nights and poor work-life balance. I prefer a more backstage kind of role. What jobs involve the same sort of skillsets one develops in fundraising, but less of the face to face, high pressure activity, and also allow for upward development? [more inside]
My phone just took off on it's own and now I am a bit flipped out........ [more inside]
I love dailysf - they send out an email each day with a sci-fi short story. Are there other services for different genres ? Things like crime, romance, poetry or just plain short fiction ? [more inside]
I've organised a trip for a group of people this weekend which has already been paid for. I've got at least 3 late withdrawals and I'm tempted to offer those places to others for free considering the late notice - is this OK? [more inside]
I'm searching for a good large Tree of Life poster that I can get custom framed for a wall or laminated for a curious child to examine up close so she can visually grasp the theory of evolution. So far I've only found A3 size and graphic-designed to be pretty not accurate. I can get a digital file printed A0 size if needed. [more inside]
Today I saw a doctor who suggested I lose weight. I have a history of an eating disorder and my BMI is healthy. However, I've got an apple shape and tend to carry weight around my middle, which led to the doctor's comments. [more inside]
I live in Boston and my LDR partner is coming for a visit. She'd like me to find some activities where "we'd be able to meet others, not like a concert or something where we'd be isolated". Halp. [more inside]
I found myself really in love with The Young Pope, but I have now finished all of the episodes. Please help me fill the hole in my heart with other TV or films. Vague spoilers lurk within. [more inside]
Pregnant lady has many questions and no answers. [more inside]
I thought the commonly accepted idea around race was that it existed as a bigoted construct and while racism is oppressive and breeds injustice, we shouldn't really accept racist groupings as the way we think of others. Then a friend posted this article from the NAIS which suggests racial socialization and seeks racial justice. [more inside]
It feels like now, in 2017, it has been quite a long time since I have seen any news stories about depraved serial killers. Why is this? Surely there must still be some serial killers roaming free right at this moment, mutilating corpses and terrorizing neighborhoods? Are they gone, or are we just not hearing about them?
I inherited mineral rights on two pieces of property in West Texas. I retire in about 7 years. Not sure which to sell, or not sell either. More after the drop. [more inside]
What's a good 1 hour documentary film on philosophy/art/music/culture to show my (easily bored) first year uni students studying music/music business/audio? I've got a couple of ideas, but they don't quite fit, and I'm stuck! [more inside]
I have an elderly parent living alone who has agreed that they are down with a) a daily phone call check-in service, and/or b) some kind of medical alert/emergency notification system (a la Lifeline). Does AskMe have personal recommendations for either? Otherwise I'm just Googling around. [more inside]
As a health consumer, I don't have a lot of control over the outcome of medical procedures. I have a colonoscopy coming up and have some questions about what, if anything, I can do to reduce the risk of an injury. [more inside]
I'm looking for names of fictional books. That is, books that do not actually exist but are referenced by a book, tv show, or movie. [more inside]
Where can I get IKEA-cheap furniture that's not IKEA in New York? Actual stores where I can go and sit and bounce and touch fabrics. [more inside]
Is there a collective term that is used to categorize adages such as Murphy's Law? [more inside]
I'm just about to have laser eye surgery and I will be out of commission for over a week, holed up in the dark and pretty much unable to see anything..... My husband is not a bad cook, he just really doesn't cook and I need to give him some easy and flavourful meals to cook while I am out of action. [more inside]
I am an old guy with a young son. (He is almost two. I am almost forty-nine). My birthday is the day before his. I'm curious how people with similar close birthdays in families have dealt with birthdays, any ideas you have, etc. [more inside]
Our power is out and isn't expected to come back until tomorrow mid-morning. Our heating system won't run without electricity. The low tonight is 32° F, and our house's insulation isn't great. How do we keep our 7 month old warm overnight? [more inside]
I lead a team (8) of software developers. As such, we have a bunch of regularly reoccurring meetings (grooming, sprint planning,retro) that I need my team to be engaged at. Unfortunately, I feel like we've gotten to the point where people are in a rut and are not quite coming to the meetings ready to hit the ground running. I'm hoping to find some activities that will get people ready to go at the start of the meeting. [more inside]
I'm going to be buying some new board games and RPG stuff in the coming months, and would like to support an independent, pref. worker-owned shop in doing it. We have a good one here in DC, but it's on the other side of town from me and I'm rarely able to get over there - what are some good online options? Bonus points for any that are MeFite-affiliated!
i have CPVC pipes running from my outdoor continuous hot water heater through the garage wall, ceiling, and then to the entire house. how do i insulate the pipes when they are installed flush up against the house? [more inside]
I've not strayed from my veggie diet ways, but I have strayed from the more healthful aspects of it (this likely explains my current weight loss plateau). Best tips and tricks for choosing better food? [more inside]
I'm trying to put two documents together into one doc, with varying headers. I am failing miserably and am about to throw a tantrum. Please help! [more inside]
For short term rentals in Barcelona, there's the usual AirBnb or VRBO, but I see a dozen or so listings on Craigslist vacation rentals. Wondering if these are legit. Need to rent for about 2 weeks. https://barcelona.craigslist.es/search/vac?lang=es&cc=es [more inside]
I just learned my godfather/uncle passed away, but no date for service has been set. I need to book a flight quickly once that is set, but I am not sure how to get the best deal. [more inside]
Help me make a list of stuff to do in preparation for a sudden move during a debilitating depression. Many special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I want nothing more than a schvitz and a soak and then to lay around in a bathrobe on a chaise drinking herbal tea (perhaps followed by more sauna and soaking). Pittsburgh, for all of its many fine qualities, utterly lacks any such opportunities (as far as I know). Until I can make it to Therme Vals, where should I point my vehicle to get such an experience, preferably for less than one meeellion dollars. [more inside]
I try to keep my level of paranoia to a minimum, but I can't help thinking "they" will keep track of people who download this information. So, no problem using my home computer? Go to the library and save it to a stick? Something else?
Can you still use a US credit card to order meds from Canada to ship to the US? [more inside]
I'm a fat, 40-something male, and I'd like to dress better. Halp? [more inside]
I need to create a small web application that has INSERT access to a table in a database. The authentication to SQL Server is going to be handled by a single ActiveDirectory account whose credentials (both username and password) must be stored in the web-application so that any user can use the application. Any idea about best practices or recommendations? [more inside]
I know that it is relatively trivial these days to spoof caller id to make it look as though you are calling from a different phone number. But I'm wondering if there is a way to spoof a phone number so that you will receive phone calls or texts meant for someone else. I'm not asking because I want to engage in illegal behavior - I just want to know if this is technically possible and if it is something that happens with any kind of regularlity.
So, I was speaking with someone at my daughter's daycare and I mentioned how cool it would by if they could set up an account on some service in which they can post pictures of the kids and then tag each photo with the child's name. And based on those tags, it would grant viewing access to parents, specific to their child. Does anyone know of a service that works like that? [more inside]
My mother's substantial estate is going to be liquidated soon, and we're trying to decide on a good place in the greater Cleveland, OH area to donate anything that isn't sold. She didn't have cancer, so The Gathering Place isn't a slam dunk. Any suggestions?
Tool fell from street light onto the roof of our car, responsible utility won't pay for damages. Suggestions? [more inside]
I'm headed to Puerto Rico for a week on Saturday, during which time I'll be cooking for four adults and three children. I'd like to take advantage of local ingredients. No deep frying/sous vide-ing, and I'll be working with the tools of a vacation home kitchen. What should I make?
I've been in a relationship for 8 months, and I am finding it extremely difficult to evaluate and navigate. I have multiple people speaking into my life with vastly differing opinions, and it's all very confusing. I am having difficulty trusting myself and finding my footing. [more inside]
I promised my parents I would help them find counseling for their relationship. Whether that takes the form of a shared marriage counselor or individual sessions remains to be seen - my dad is pretty skeptical, based on past experience in a previous marriage. How do I find recommendations in their area, near Jackson, MS, where I do not live? [more inside]
I work for a county medical system that encompasses several hospitals and clinics. My immediate team does outreach in the community. We have been issued mobile devices to use during home visits, etc. Using these devices, we can access confidential medical records (we need to do this for our work). We weren't even instructed to use passwords on these devices. They are not encrypted in any way. What should I suggest to my boss? [more inside]
My partner and I are thinking of getting married. He has a progressive physical disability that very significantly limits his mobility. We hope to have children. What considerations do we need to make before we tie the knot? I am especially interested in financial/tax/social security considerations and any other practical issues you can think of. [more inside]
2nd time this happened - out of the blue, my contacts disappear. [more inside]
Please talk me through minor surgery. [more inside]
I have a baby. I don't drive. How hard is this going to be? [more inside]
What things did you realize were related to endometriosis after you got treatment? How much had it messed up your stomach or gave you nausea and pain all the time? Did it get better after surgery or treatment? How was the surgery? [more inside]
I learned that exposure to at least seventeen foods is progressing my newly diagnosed Eosinophilic Esophagitis. Can you help me live a new life with food? [more inside]
I want to create a post in a private Facebook group, of which I am a moderator, and then have other moderators be able to edit that post. Oh and the post is a pinned post. Is this possible in Facebook?
After my jury duty (in Massachusetts), I handed over my badge to the officer since he asked for it back, and so I gave it to him, but then I just realized that I wrote something important in the back of it and I need that info back. Do the courts just trash these badges or do they file them somewhere in the same place as your jury duty notice? [more inside]
I have poison oak for the first time. My rash is not that bad (small patches, not really weepy, itching is annoying but manageable). The problem is that I am still getting new patches of rash 10 days after it started, and I want it to STOP. [more inside]
Over easy or hard boiled eggs sometimes make me sick, whereas scrambled eggs never do. Don't let the inconsistency fool you - eggs are always the culprit when I'm feeling this way. What gives? [more inside]
Middle class white girl leads political discussion group in Los Angeles -- race is (unsurprisingly) a push-button topic for us. We have liberals who think racism is everywhere and conservatives who are tired of being called racists. Is there a book for us? [more inside]
My kid wears girls size 12 pants but I think a girls 14 in dresses. Where can I get her dresses with (at least) cap sleeves and knee length, that aren't too ugly? [more inside]
Getting VPN; would like to get it now rather than when I land in Thailand on Friday. If I do that, will my VPN access remain for my stay in Thailand after I swap out my SIM card for a Thai one? Thank you!
I've been a home-based freelance graphic designer for a good long time, and now I'm finding I have a strong desire to get out from behind the computer - for part of my day, or a day or two a week. I'm looking for suggestions of jobs/activities that might do the trick. [more inside]
Share stories about software or physical products, when multiple problems or multiple feature requests were solved with a single solution rather than merely implementing the requested features .verbatim [more inside]
I opened a can of garbanzo beans and there are different colors of beans in there. I'm used to seeing just the creamy pinkish colored ones only. Is it okay to eat these? [more inside]
Due to my kids interest in the Beatles, I have had the chance to listen to "It's All Too Much" many times over the last month or so. [more inside]
We have been invited round to visit friends this weekend who's beloved dog is dying. It's a "who rescued who situation", they don't have children and this dog is their world. We will go round for hugs and cuddles, but I don't want to show up empty-handed. Ideas for what to bring along? [more inside]
I would like to read books that are about Rwanda, but do not focus on the genocide. [more inside]
In the mid 2000s my parents took me to see a foreign film set in a boarding school, where a kid rebels against his parents (who I believe run the school) by setting up a co-operative to distribute banned items. I mainly remember a scene at the end where, in a school assembly and/or meal, a large number of pupils and teachers spontaneously declare they are members of the co-operative in front of the kid's parents in a kind of I'm-Spartacus/Captain-my-captain sort of moment. What film was this? [more inside]
What's a good 36-38" TV that does 1080p and doesn't spy on you? [more inside]
I have a Moto G4 running Android Marshmallow, and every couple of months it will forget the permissions for most of the apps. Any ideas? [more inside]
My sister is getting married in May, and we're planning her last single hurrah. Give me some ideas of places to go and things to do. [more inside]
For people who are familiar with obtaining wilderness permit for Zion: It's too late to reserve wilderness permit online for Zion. What are my chances of securing one once arriving at the park itself? [more inside]
I'm a professor at a US institution. I have dual citizenship in both the US and Canada. My wife is a US citizen only. I am considering taking a one-semester sabbatical at an institution in Canada; we would be in Canada for no more than three months. Is there any way for my wife to work while she is in Canada with me? How about volunteering? [more inside]
I love shopping for my one-year-old at Tea Collection. The clothes are stylish yet practical, durable, and fairly-priced for the quality. I also really like that the designs are inspired by cultures around the world - it keeps things fresh and interesting. Where else can I find similar kids' clothes? I prefer to shop online but all suggestions are welcome!
My friend's husband recently said he's leaving her. They have a 4 year old. What does she need to know and do, and how can I help her? [more inside]
Heading to Paris for a vacation in a week. Would appreciate any tips you have for a pair of Americans in their late 30s (traveling without kids) on proper etiquette in France—the kinds of things that might not be obvious to travelers from the U.S. Regrettably we do not speak French, but any advice is welcome. Thanks!
We're considering the idea of having a second child, but doubling our daycare costs is going to be tough on our budget. How do people handle this expense? Are there options we are not considering? [more inside]
Grisen (The Pig) is a danish short film directed by Dorthe Warnø Høgh. I saw it at a short film festival years ago and I would like to watch it again. I found it on YouTube but without subtitles. Any ideas on where I could find it ? It's okay if I have to pay for it.
I'm creating a training for young software engineers on the topic of quotidian negotiation within a team (so, not like buying a house or negotiating salary, but more like negotiating project scope or distribution of tasks across a collaborative team). I'm looking for examples from media (movies, TV shows, books, podcasts, sports, other things I'm not thinking of) of negotiations with happily unexpected outcomes, especially where the outcome wasn't on the initial set of proposals. But, really, any examples of high quality, collaborative problem solving would fit.
Yes, it's time for your regularly scheduled "what novel is like Helen DeWitt's The Last Samurai" question. My husband and I really like quiet novels about intellectual, introspective, somewhat solitary main characters in which you also learn something about a subject you might not have known anything about before. Bonus if it is beautifully written. What are some novels that might scratch that itch? [more inside]
I am trying to get into to the IT field but my main priority is work life balance. Working no more than 40 hours a week with weekends off would be ideal and bonus would be holidays off ( especially Christmas and new years). The job title doesn't matter to me nor how entry level or how much the pay is. Does such a job exist in tech where you can work 8:00am to 4:30pm M-F with very little to no overtime? Reason: Family and Boyfriend time on the weekend is important to me. [more inside]
What video games can I buy for PS4 that will let me hold, pet, and/or feed the random wild animals that I encounter in-game? [more inside]
Months ago, I rented a car and drove it for two days. I received two tickets: one for parking during street cleaning (my bad) and one for expired plate stickers, which I didn't see during the initial walkaround. Am I on the hook for the charge for expired plates? [more inside]
I need to create a line graph for work. The left side should be numbered 1 through 15. The bottom would have fifteen names on it. There would be three lines tracking people's performance in three metrics. This doesn't seem like it should be that hard, but I keep coming across tools that are either too limited to allow fifteen names or three lines or are more complex than I need and require a learning curve that is too steep for this simple project. What should I use?
My psychiatrist has suggested one of the following drugs to treat bipolar II that hasn't responded well to previous treatment: olanzapine/fluoxetine combo (symbyax), aripiprazole (abilify) or sodium valproate (depakote). She told me to go away and do some research, so: tell me about your experiences with these medicines. [more inside]
I have an iPhone 6S with 16 gigs of storage and an iCloud account with 200 gigs of storage. I have a bunch of pictures stored on the cloud, over 60 gigs. My phone constantly has the 'storage almost full' alert. This happens no matter what I delete. How do I fix this? [more inside]
Granting the premise—however (un)realistic—that general-purpose robots will begin to enter the industrial and consumer realms within 20-30 years, what career path should I go down today in order to be able to help bring them about, and to continue working on them into the future? [more inside]
What are some high quality weight training, nutrition and fitness blogs worth following? [more inside]
I'm a US and EU national currently living in the Netherlands and looking to do consulting work for a former colleague. Does it make sense to incorporate here, or can I skip the hassle and incorporate in the States, doing business as though between two US companies? [more inside]
What would be the best small-batch bottles of Kentucky bourbon and rye to seek out in the Bluegrass State? [more inside]
I'm looking for enthralling cold war spy novels based around nuclear weapons, or indeed any novels based around the development and, especially, the geo-politics of nuclear weapons. Definitely want gripping page turners, books with female protagonists and some historical basis are extra welcome.
My friend and I have witnessed a pattern of sexual harassment at a local restaurant and want to know what we can do. [more inside]
I have recently been tasked with managing our museum's social media presence, but I'm having a hard time figuring out how much time I "should" be spending on it. Social media professionals, I would love your thoughts! [more inside]
My mother-in-law passed away a few months ago. I could not go to the funeral. While he was there, my husband paid for the funeral expenses and we haven't heard anything from the siblings that are supposedly handling the property about getting reimbursed for that from the life insurance. Snowflakes within... [more inside]
After much lobbying, the council has planted some trees on the London housing estate where I live. Three years on, some are doing well, others less so. Some have been planted in grass-covered areas, and the grass has regrown up to the trunks. Could this be a major factor in why they're not growing very well? Is it likely to make much of a difference if I remove the grass around the base of the tree? Do I risk damaging the roots if I do?
My wife is looking to set up a company that provides services in Europe, based in the UK. She has a name in mind for the company (and the domain name seems free). How to check if the name she has in mind isn't already taken (trademarked?) by someone else before she goes down the route of buying domain, doing marketing etc? [more inside]
Late at night, I love beautiful sounding spoken word. Please help me find some more. The content is far less important than that it sounds good, and beautiful verbiage is more important than meaning. English is optional. Background sound is fine, as long as it doesn’t overwhelm the text, and good production is a plus. My canonical examples would be: the velvet voice of Joe Frank; the closing, spoken word segments of the Late Night Tales mix series (Stephen Rea, David Tennant, Cillian Murphy); Alan Watts - though he loses points for seriousness of content. Thanks!
How do I get motivated and start moving with a new job search? I am quite tired of my job and ready to do something else - I'm tired because there is too much to do, and I've been in my role for awhile, and I don't see a future at my confusing jumble of a company. But I'm dragging my feet, for two main reasons: 1) I'm afraid of change (what if every place is like this??) 2) the possibilities are daunting because I could move anywhere (where do I go, how do I even search when I think I'm open to many locales??) How do I calmly, effectively focus efforts on finding something new?
My wife and I are getting divorced. I want to read short or longform essays about divorce. [more inside]
Looking for a job as a data scientist in Seattle. I have a few years' experience doing this already and want to be picky about my next gig. Main criteria: in Seattle city limits, not terribly evil, decent work-life balance. More details after the jump. [more inside]
Considering current events and DHS positions; Will volunteering and participating on ACLU activities affect citizenship application of a green card holder?
My middle school orchestra is doing t-shirts and we need help with a slogan. We have a pretty great drawing of an octopus playing string instruments on the front. On the back, we need a pithy/catchy/punny phrase that brings orchestra/music together with the octopus/the sea. [more inside]
I'll be transitioning career fields back to web programming. My job offer is low, but I'm wondering whether I should just accept it since my skills are rusty. If I should negotiate, I'm not sure how best to argue my value. [more inside]
What are some starting exercises that I can do with dumbbells that would be baby steps toward eventually reaching a full fledged weight training program? [more inside]
I need recommendations for in-patient (as in, living on-site for ~30 days) alcohol rehab places in and around Chicago/northern Illinois, say up to 2 hours from the city. This is for an adult cis male. [more inside]
How many years apart are your children, and what are the advantages and disadvantages of that spacing? [more inside]
I have many many tilapia and cod filets in my freezer. I am so bored of all the recipes I'm familiar with. Please help make fishy deliciousness happen. [more inside]
My wife is working on some genealogy stuff and came across a picture that claims to be of the family's home town in the old country. Complicating factors: we're not entirely sure where the old country was, when the photo was taken, or what language the text on the front and back are. [more inside]
I've played some games where a goal, or sometimes THE goal, is to get an NPC to fall in love, or lust, with your character. And this is accomplished by ME learning a lot about THEIR likes/dislikes, giving gifts, doing quests/favors, saying just the right thing at the right time, and putting up with a lot of rejection for some puny scraps of romance. Shades of real life! Just once, I want to be the one being courted, not have to do all the work in this relationship myself, damn it! [more inside]
I'm considering a graduate degree in children's lit. There are so few, I'm hoping to get a better idea of the pros/cons of each. [more inside]
After theora55's post last week on awful, useless SW interviews in which job candidates are put through the ringer with no clear benefit. I started thinking about my company's interview process for hardware people. So, Hardware People, what would your ideal interview process look like? [more inside]
My Mom is struggling to keep up being the sole caregiver for my grandmother--are there any places near the south Atlanta suburbs that help with respite care for people who don't want to go? [more inside]
Asking for a friend who works at a large non-profit (400+ staff). It seems there has been a lot of turn-over in staff and change in executive team structure this past year. She and I were talking and she wanted to know if this is the organization imploding or is this what shrewd organizations do (being quick on their feet to respond to changes in business or the funding world)? I've never worked at a large anything (unless you count Universities, but I feel like they are a different bear), so I thought maybe folks who have worked at large companies or organizations could share. [more inside]
In an open bar situation (i.e. no POS), what is a reasonable way to compensate a bartender for their time and labor? [more inside]
The Italians are after me for a two year old driving ticket I thought I paid, what do I do? [more inside]
Can you help me find a cake decorating book with lots of colorful, unpretentious decorating ideas that I read about a decade ago? [more inside]
I was watching Chungking Express last night, and love the look of the bra that the air hostess wears in one scene (image taken from a review of the DVD transfer / scene from the movie – bra appears from 01:30). Any idea where it or a very similar model could be found? I realise that this film is 23 years old, so the exact model my no longer be available – bra sleuths, help me out!
We just submitted our deposit to the "best" preschool in our neighborhood, and upon visiting the classroom our child will be in, discovered a checked-out looking assistant teacher blasting loud Rihanna on shrill bluetooth speakers surrounded by toddlers with dazed expressions. School says they will "speak with the teacher" about the music and that that doesn't usually happen there. I kinda don't trust them now. If it were you, would you pull the kid out and cancel our deposit check? [more inside]
I'm looking for the best reusable grocery/shopping bags. Parameters within. [more inside]
My best friend and I will be taking a vacation together to San Francisco in early April. Neither of us have ever been before. We will have pretty much 2 entire days in the city. Where should we stay and what should we do? [more inside]
I'm expecting to do a lot of business travel this year (by plane, with multiple night stays in hotels). I already have nice luggage, frequent flier/traveler accounts with my preferred airlines and hotels, an in-flight wifi subscription, Priority Pass lounge access and a fancy travel credit card. What am I missing? Help me make travel awesomer! Specifics within... [more inside]
I have some money to spend on our physics department colloquium room and I need help finding sliding chalkboards. I'm already getting a new carpet, a high-end projector, and acoustic baffles. But what I'd really like to do is get chalkboards that work like the one in this MIT lecture hall, with overlapping layers of chalkboard that you can move up and down. But I'm not having much luck finding a vendor. Can anyone point me in the right direction? [more inside]
Hi. I can't remember the name of this classic 80s arcade game. It was a WWII-themed airplane game where you're trying to sink a battleship. [more inside]
I bought these pendant earrings for my wife in an antique shop in Paris a few years ago. As the photo shows, the cameo from one of the pendants has since been broken off and lost. How could I find a replacement cameo that closely matches the original [zoom and enhance]? We live in the US. [more inside]
To cut a long story short, I am trying to find someone I went to school with 40 years ago. [more inside]
It's rude for a guy you've gone out with once to scope out other women in front of you... right? [more inside]
In two weeks, I'm going to have sexytime for the first time in a million years. Ack! What should I eat for breakfast every day before then to maximize muscle fitness, cardio health, etc.? [more inside]
How long can unopened insulin go unrefrigerated? [more inside]
My friend and I (both mid-30s F) were alerted to insanely cheap airfare, and so we spontaneously decided to take advantage of it and go to Lisbon, via a 48 hour layover in Casablanca, in June. We will be in Lisbon for 4 nights, and Casablanca for 2. Tell us things! [more inside]
I want to enjoy giving money and create a positive feedback loop. [more inside]
And yet it does. Syncing bookmarks from my PC to my new Android phone is completely impossible. I've tried everything on the Mozilla help pages and everything I could think of myself, including deleting my Firefox account and reistalling Firefox on the computer and the phone. AskMefi to the rescue! [more inside]
I listened to a segment about a coup in the online game Eve Online that's in the latest episode of the New Yorker Radio Hour. I didn't know anything about this incident -- are there any good articles about it you can point me to? (I didn't see anything on the New Yorker's website.)
When I read/study/write I notice that I've been "visualizing" a place the whole time. Sometimes hours pass before I realize I've been "seeing" a location (street, parking lot, school, often from childhood town) in the background the whole time. Anybody know what the name for this phenomenon is? [more inside]
What Men's coat is this? [more inside]
This is the second time in under 3 years that i've been - out of nowhere - let go/sacked/dismissed from an SME despite wholeheartedly putting my everything into the job. No matter how dedicated I was to both jobs - hand on heart - there was once again a dominant and volatile manager whom I had to contend with and whom ultimately sacked me. Is it me? Is there something I should be looking deep within myself at? [more inside]
My wife is an assistant principal at an elementary school. She is nearing the end of a two year probationary period, which is the normal entry route into school administration. Her direct supervisor has been behaving very inappropriately, which she has tried to discourage. His disappointment has taken the form of objectively undeserved professional censure. She has taken a stress leave, and is checking in regularly with her doctor and therapist. I want to know how to support her. We are in Canada. [more inside]
I'd be glad to hear from anyone, doctor or not, who can help figure this out. The symptom that bugs me most is the constant pressure in both ears that I’ve been feeling since October. Accompanying symptoms that started about the same time: often my earlobes burn, my scalp feels tight and itches, my exterior ears itch, and I get headaches. The ear pressure is constant; the others come and go in no particular combination. Sometimes my face and ears feel very hot to me but not to someone else’s touch. I’ve felt like I had a fever several times but the thermometer showed 97.5F. [more inside]
I (non-LDS) am starting a new job next month in an almost exclusively Mormon company: what do I need to know about how work culture will be influenced by almost everyone - colleagues and seniors - being Mormon? [more inside]
I'd like to eat in a way that, compared to my current omnivore diet, reduces suffering for animals and the environment. I have the following constraints: PCOS (best under control with a low-carb diet, possibly affected by too much soy), hypothyroidism (not sure this is relevant), and being a parent of two little kids (generally overwhelmed, willing to eat differently from them if it's not too much work). What are small-ish steps that have the greatest positive impact? [more inside]
Hopefully, we will be closing on a house at the end of the month. On the front door, there is a door knocker in the shape of a treble clef. This has what looks to be Hebrew letters on it (the house was previously owned by a Rabbi), and when I showed it to a few friends, they said it was a Mezuzah. I think it's absolutely lovely and I would very much like to keep it, but as a religious object that I have little familiarity with, I have a few questions: [more inside]
What I remember - driving guitar and a few snippets of lyrics. "You say I've got no brain in me head, (something) "I wear my shoes on the wrong feet, put my shirt on back to front" "Algebraic equations, I can do by the score. Cosines, tangents, logs and roots (something)" [more inside]
How can I stop/deal better with constant feelings of irritation? [more inside]
In the last year or so I've noticed that there's something going on with my feet when I exercise or even do a moderate walk. They will start to ache all around, with the acheyness frequently stronger on the outside edges. The acheyness eases up when I tie my sneakers really loosely, which tells me it might be a foot swelling issue. That was pretty manageable when all I was doing was walking or indoor cardio, but I've been taking a tap class and my shoes need to be pretty tightly tied for that. [more inside]
I have a small advertising budget to promote a book. How should I spend it? [more inside]
I am trying to understand a statistical problem with resampling and variation, and I’m unsure of my terminology so it’s hard to search. I have a set of geographic areas with known populations, and I’d like to generate new areas with redistributions of those populations. I can assume that the population is evenly spread throughout the original areas, but this gives me numbers without any kind of confidence interval. What would I need to do to calculate variance or deviation for this problem? [more inside]
My partner and I lost our beloved kitty of many years, and after taking some time, we're starting to think about adopting a new cat. Today we visited a local shelter and met a sweet, loving 1 year-old kitty who is missing one hind leg. We know that "tripod" cats tend to get along quite well and we'd take care to provide steps and a good soft bed. But my partner and I are both usually gone during the day, and we're wondering if a three-legged kitty might be more prone to falling, and whether she might be better off with more supervision than we could provide. Are we worrying too much?
I'm an ELL teacher and one of my students is a fifth grader. I have him for 17 minutes a day (really) and he has disabilities which mean he is at a pre-K reading level. We've been working on building vocabulary but nothing really seemed to grab him until I agreed to do a baking soda and vinegar volcano with him. He loved watching videos of others doing the same experiment, learning about Pompeii and other volcanic eruptions, and learning some volcano vocabulary. It provided a great reason for him to challenge himself to speak about new topics. BUT how do I top it next week? [more inside]
How do you preserve a dead beetle for long lasting ornamental value? [more inside]
I travel for work and have a large tool bag I usually check. This weekend I acquired this tool -- Its a screwdriver with a 4-volt Lithium battery that cant be removed. Im not sure if I should put it my tool bag or take it as a carry on. I know they normally ask me when I check my tools if there are any lithium batteries in it. Thanks in advance. *All travel is in the United States - No international
I've recently been trying to rebuild my freelance business online, and that includes social media in the last weeks (anonymously w/ a different name). But while my friends, colleagues have known it is me... why won't my male colleagues or so-called friends connect via Twitter? [more inside]
We are tossing around the idea of taking our two kids-7 and 11- to Mexico this summer. Ideally, we'd do a week someplace like Sayulita, where my husband could surf and we could explore-and then a week in an all-inclusive where we can relax and kids can run wild and we barely pretend to parent. [more inside]
My mother requires oxygen at night while she sleeps. She lives in the DC area, I live in Orange County, CA and we would like to find a way that she can visit me, as well as attend her granddaughter's graduation in June. [more inside]
Looking for suggestions of music with the complexity and experimentation found in a lot of modern classical that's more upbeat and joyful! [more inside]
I have an opportunity to spend three months in Germany with dear friends. I am choosing to work while I am there and am now doing research on what opportunities are available to me to work on-line. E-Lance, virtual assistant, etc. I am a writer, can do research, data entry, write copy and content and more. My first choice is creative opportunities. Am willing to explore other alternatives.
The best dog in the world (foreground) is now a middle aged (7 year old) lab mix, and as his little doggy muzzle turneth gray, he has a problem. A stinky dog fart problem. What should we try, and in what order? A very friendly dog who gets sad when no one wants him in the same room as them thanks you. [more inside]
I've been asked to research whether 'health' non dairy creamer exists, I guess on the theory that if 'healthy' margarine exists, corps might have done the same with creamer. I understand that soy, almond, oat milk, etc. exist and are healthyish. I'm looking specifically for nondairy creamer that does not contain trans fats, etc. that is not an alternative milk.
We are considering a move to Seattle, and if possible we'd like to drop down to one car and mostly use public transportation. How feasible is this? [more inside]
This watch just came up on an auction site that I follow and I want to learn more about this style. [more inside]
My best friend means a lot to me, but her alcoholic behaviour is getting out of control. After inexcusable drunken outbursts, the disintegration of our friendship group with school friends, several run ins with the law, ultimatums from loved ones regarding her seeking help going in one ear and out the other, I have run out of ideas. Do I offer my unconditional love and support her through her troubles, or is it time to burn my bridges with her and accept that only she can help herself. [more inside]
My brother is looking for a companion animal, specifically a dog that weighs 25 pounds or less (due to his apartment's regulations). Can anyone suggest a rescue organization in the Washington, DC area that he could connect with? Thanks.
My teen daughter and I are doing a quick trip to Vancouver, BC at the end of March as part of spring break. I need advice on where to stay and whether or not we can get around on just public transportation. Difficulty level: She'll get her acceptance or rejection letter to UBC a few days before our trip, so I need to stay somewhere that makes it easy to get to UBC - OR let's us completely avoid campus and just do fun stuff elsewhere. [more inside]
Difficulty level: Female, mid-20's, traveled a lot but first time traveling alone, never been to MI, no driving license, and will be attending a 4 week summer program in UMich. [more inside]
What's the actual food science reasoning behind these directions on a packet of powdered milk? [more inside]
I am currently looking for an apartment in a large city and am using a Facebook group called Gypsy Housing to identify potential leads. I'd like to receive an email update when certain keywords appear in the Gypsy Housing ads much in the same way one can program If This Then That (IFTTT) to send you Craigslist listings that match a particular criteria you've set up. Is this possible to do for Facebook groups as well? Has anybody constructed something that does something like this of which I’m possibly not aware? [more inside]
I've just got a new job (Hurrah!) and I had a planned vacation that occurs a few weeks into it. How do I ask for that? [more inside]
I am looking for two or three sentences that I can literally memorize before I go to two conferences in the next few weeks, where I have to navigate a tricky business situation that has a personal component. Help. [more inside]
I have been getting abscesses that when swabbed keep coming back positive for MRSA. I'm on round 4 of some heavy-hitting antibiotics and they aren't working. Has anyone successfully de-colonized themselves of this nasty bacteria? [more inside]
I'm a university lecturer and I wear dress shoes for work. But I have some back and joint issues which make dress shoes uncomfortable for more than short-ish walks. I'm looking for men's dress shoes that are faculty-appropriate but have the support and comfort of sneakers or hiking shoes. [more inside]
I'll soon be in Dubai for a week on business. I've traveled plenty, but never to an Arab country. What basic things do I need to know to be respectful of the culture and not look like an idiot American? [more inside]
My bra slides up over one breast (not the other) when I raise my arms. Accordingly, I try to avoid doing so in public but I'd like to actually solve the problem. [more inside]
My first love from high school messaged me and wants to meet up. We dated 9 years ago. I am unsure if this is a good idea or not, and am curious to hear any stories anyone might have about reconnecting with past loves. [more inside]
Please help me find a really GREAT kitchen prep knife! [more inside]
We have a fairly fast wireless network but our house generates a lot of interference from various systems. Without changing our router, what TV streaming device has the best caching system to cope with intermittent wireless slowness? E.g. I want to watch a movie on Amazon Prime, which systems will fetch and cache as much as possible on the device itself, so playing does not freeze the moment there is packet loss? Currently we have an older model Roku and are considering upgrading. Mostly we watch Plex or Amazon Prime. If this is all mediated at the app level and the device itself gets no say in caching, that would be useful to know.
I'm in the process of installing a long natural gas line in my mid-19th century rowhouse. It will run about 45 feet (inside the house) from the gas meter in the basement all the way to the attic. It appears that I have two options - CSST flex pipe or black iron pipe. Help? [more inside]
I would like to watch interesting movies about cultures interacting. Do you have any suggestions? If so, what makes them particularly worth watching? Both fiction and documentaries would be of interest to me.
I have an airbnb apartment in Los Angeles. I'm working on small touches to welcome folks and am thinking about making custom postcard with a nice photo (which I took) of a classic LA vista with a link to my listing on the back in the caption. I'm curious if two postcards would seem like a nice thing to receive as a guest and if you'd keep it or mail it? [more inside]
I've been trying out Omeka (the online.net version), and am surprised that the exhibits it creates are not as elegant or functional as I'd like (in exhibits, you can't click to expand thumbnails, for example). Am I missing something? Or should I consider a different solution? [more inside]
I live in a big East Coast city where I typically walk at least 4 miles per day as part of my commute. I'm always on the lookout for the holy grail of boots for women with a business casual dress code at work; can handle pounding the pavement (including a little rain) comfortably for several miles, and stylish enough to wear at work. In Googling around for flat lace-up boots I came across some websites for work boots which included several types of riding boot I'd never heard of before. Might these paddock boots be the boots of my dreams? [more inside]
Is there still a good benefit to cutting carbs if I'm not going full-on ketosis? [more inside]
We're looking for an infant car seat that will fit in our 2007 Honda Fit. What are your recommendations? [more inside]
What are some things that only someone from Wisconsin or Milwaukee would know? [more inside]
I'm interested in trying to get my current city of residence to divest their funding to the DAPL. Questions below the fold. [more inside]
My husband and I both come from homes where conflict isn't dealt with head-on but rather quietly avoided at all costs. I don't want to raise our kids that way, but I have no idea how to change. What books, tips, etc. can help us raise our kids to actually deal with conflict in a healthy manner so that in 30 years they're not asking this same question? [more inside]
I'm thinking of getting the Fraggle Rock DVD set for my nephew, who will be turning 6 years old next month. I have a lot of fond memories of watching it as a kid. What I'm wondering is if a kid growing up with today's media is going to find it slow or otherwise un-engaging. Thoughts from parents?
Who will be the slithy toves' webmaster? [more inside]
There are tons of websites that track what is being added and dropped from Netflix each month, but they mostly cover American Netflix. Are there any that cover Canadian Netflix?
I'm reading a book where, in dialogue, someone can hear the difference between these words. Book is set in Vancouver BC. Is this a real thing, and if so, how are those words pronounced? [more inside]
So I know tea and coffee developed with different traditions for brewing. But with the food industry always seeking the latest spin on novelty for selling the same food products in different ways, why haven't we seen coffee sold in tea bags (which seem like they're basically the same material as coffee filters), and why don't I see tea being marketed to be used with coffee pots or french presses (which seem like they're basically the same as tea pots)? [more inside]
We are having our Cub Scout Banquet soon. Any ideas for 2 good skits, one for about 10 Cubs (and 1 adult), and one for an all-adult skit? Ideas from the Prairie Home Companion radio plays would be awesome...
On February 13, my blog traffic, as measured by statcounter.com, increased by more than 10 times over what it had been for a long time previously. This is the second-largest number of hits I've ever gotten. On February 14, traffic was back to normal again. On February 15, it was about three times normal. From the 16th onward it's been normal. I'd like to know what the hell was happening. [more inside]
I have always been in relationships and haven't done a ton of dating. I've never done online dating. I have always met people in an "organic" way and a relationship has developed. I'm not nervous, but more confused. Much of this is a byproduct of anxiety. [more inside]
If you are the sole passenger in a driverless car, could you ride in a carpool/HOV lane? (And other Driverless car questions: contains murder!) [more inside]
The Opera is Così fan tutte written by Mozart and performed in Italian. What do Opera lovers do to enjoy the experience of listening without understanding? [more inside]
I'm a single lady doctor. I've been on tinder for a few months, but haven't run into anyone I work with on there because I worked about 20 miles from where I live. Now I'm working in my home town and feel weirded out about patients seeing me on there. I have a distinctive name and look, so it would not be difficult. Is there a way to anonymize tinder more effectively? Should I just delete my profile? Is there another dating app that would suit me better?
I'm a lifelong urban dweller about to move to a house surrounded by woods--and deer. Lots of deer. Whats the best strategy for planning my garden, and reconciling "start small" with the need to build a 6-foot fence around the thing to keep the critters out? [more inside]
Can anyone point me to helpful statistics both historically and at present about women's involvement in opposition to forced military service, the draft and general anti-war movements? [more inside]
This week it occurred to me that the funniest thing ever would be to get a solid latin translation of the English/American idiom "Hurry up and wait." (that this occurred to me while spending the day with my son's school band is perhaps coincidence) [more inside]
My wife has started writing in earnest. She routinely sends me her writing to ask me "what I think?". This has not gone ideally so far. Best way to provide feedback from a supportive husband? What has gone well for you? Caveat: I have a terrible poker face and not a good filter.
We can't decide whether to take on quite a substantial re-modeling project or to move to a house in the next street. Any advice very welcome. [more inside]
My daughter has arrived at the age of 20 without much of an education. She did go to school, first public, then private, but because of bullying she missed a lot. Now she finds herself without a basic knowledge of grammar, and is unable to write well. Where/how can I find a program or a teacher for someone her age who needs to go back to the beginning? [more inside]
What is my responsibility to disclose when getting new car insurance after a wreck? [more inside]
My girlfriend has said that, although she really enjoys sex with me and doesn't want me to change anything, the best sex she has ever had was with a few men (separately) of one nationality. She's basically told me that I have to live with the fact that I won't ever be the best sex she's ever had. Am I right to be annoyed at this even 5 months after she told me? Does anyone have advice on how to get over this? Thanks. [more inside]
We're trying to pinpoint the origin of this modernist geometric encaustic tile design pattern. It's still produced in Spain (where they're called baldosas - or losas - hidráulicos, one factory calling it "Lebrija". In those colours in particular, it's reminiscent of futurist graphics in the style of Balla or Depero. But it might just as likely just be a regional Spanish-moresque standard? [more inside]
I'm looking for men's undershirts that provide some modesty under thin golf shirts but don't make me hot and sweaty. [more inside]
"Can you please park in your driveway? The garbage + recycling trucks have to back up down [the street] and it is difficult when you are here. Plus, this is not really the kind of neighborhood where people permanently park like this. Thank you.” [more inside]
I opened a photo (iPhone 6 resolution) in Photoshop CC on my desktop. As I was dragging some guides onto the canvas, my displays glitched and turned off. The computer's fans kept running until I manually powered down. This is the latest instance of a problem that has existed since I built this PC 14 months ago. [more inside]
Most of my job at certain times of year can be done online. I live in NW Montana (Missoula) and am thinking that I need to/can spend more time just leaving my town for 4-6 days to explore in Washington, Oregon, Southern Idaho and British Columbia instead doing the same work at my house. But finding cheap and good lodging with a dog is holding me back. Some snowflakes inside. [more inside]
As an engineer who wants to be his or her own boss one day, would you get a MS in accounting or finance? [more inside]
There was a roach in my Frosted Flakes this morning. Which sounds like a line from an Insane Clown Posse song, doesn't it? Anyway, it quickly scurried away and I don't hold a grudge, but now I have to decide whether to throw everything out, or throw out just the bowl and eat the rest of the nearly-full box, or eat both because insects run over everything and this is probably just a case of ritual contamination, not a health risk. What would you do? And does it make a difference if it wasn't a cockroach but a generic bug? I couldn't quite tell either way.
Are there any reviews from 1990 online from the original airing of Twin Peaks? I'm particularly interested in reviews of the second episode, the one with Dale Cooper's dream. I am trying to remember what the reaction was like at the time. [more inside]
My very old Kimsta needs a new cushion. The Poang long ago replaced the Kimsta, but it is slightly different (at least the newer ones are). Does anyone know if Poang replacement covers will fit the old Kimsta style? [more inside]
Are the benefits of dental cleaning worth the risk of putting my 10-year-old lab mix under anesthesia? What should I be aware of and what questions should I ask my vet before making this decision? [more inside]
I'm working with someone else to start a blog aimed at a particular marginalized community that we belong to, focusing on personal stories and experiences. In addition to our own time and content, we have a monthly budget of "a couple hundred dollars" for 1-2 posts by members of the same community. What's a non-exploitative flat rate for an 800-1200 word non-reported personal essay? [more inside]
I have a couplet from a Loudon Wainwright song about modern etiquette in my head -- "When you're napping on your ex's futon / and you notice some new stains thereon" [more inside]
You know those "islands floating in air/space" that are such a mainstay of prog-rock album covers and new-age/hippy artwork? I'd like to read/watch about stories set in this landscape. [more inside]
I work in research administration and I'm interested in getting my CRA. But, I don't have a good sense of how much value this certification adds in terms hireability, pay, and (ugh) prestige. If you're a CRA, was it worthwhile? If you decided not to pursue it, why not? If you're a hiring manager, does this certification ever affect your hiring decisions? (I don't plan to leave my current employer anytime soon, so assume I won't be job searching for at least 5 years.)
I'm looking for an easy way to add .png/transparent .gifs or other titles to videos on my phone, to share on Instagram, Facebook, Twitter, etc... any suggestions, hive mind? [more inside]
I'm renovating my kitchen and need all new appliances. Pretending that money is no object, what should I get? [more inside]
Company X had a few different openings that I feel I am reasonably qualified for. I applied to the one that looked like the best match, only to get an automated email a few days later that the search for that position has been put on hold. What's my best approach for applying to the other open positions? [more inside]
I work for a non-profit in Ontario. Someone thought it would be a good idea to have all the staff and volunteers sign a "Staff Values" statement. [more inside]
Friend and I are heading to the Triangle area of NC for 4 days, starting tomorrow, to check it out for a possible relocation. [more inside]
I'll be in Paris for a few weeks this spring, and wonder if there's any must-visit stuff related to historical or current experimental music? A prosaic example would be a vintage synth museum, but really anything even loosely related would be of interest. I know Club d'Essai is long gone, but anything along those lines? The north of France is fair game, pretty much.
Where can I find Lenten Fish Frys in the vicinity of Columbia, MD (metro Baltimore area)? [more inside]
I have a mild problem that I'd like to solve regarding electric toothbrushes and their storage. [more inside]
I'm looking for a great hypnotist in the Portland, OR area.
I have trichotillomania (like fingernail biting, only pulling out hair). It has gotten really out of hand due to unreal stress. I need a hairdresser who can give me a cut and color minus running editorial/condescending commentary, judgment, or making me feel like s/he's just waiting for me to get out the door to make me a punchline or gossip target. [more inside]
I owe taxes for the first time in a while due to a stock payout from a former employer. Apparently the estimated tax I paid wasn't sufficient. I'm looking for a basic "yep, sounds about right" or "hmm ... I'd go hire a CPA." It's nice I had high income last year but I want to be smart about this. [more inside]
I am planning to file Chapter 7 bankruptcy in Maryland. I've been rather horrified to find out that bankruptcy is, of all things, expensive. How can I best minimize that? And how can I make sure I'm doing this correctly without a lawyer, which would also be expensive to hire? [more inside]
My laptop is very slow, but only when interacting with the Internet. Any troubleshooting ideas? Deets below. [more inside]
I have this nail polish and I am almost out. It is Salon Perfect Loves Me, Loves Me Not. I like it because it is matte, the dragees are flat and not beaded, and it looks like TV fuzz. Anyone know of a good dupe?
My sister has some sort of personality disorder. I don't know if she's on the narcissist/borderline/histrionic spectrum, but something like that. Though she could demonstrably control herself with her friends, she never had any compunction about letting loose with the family. Once I grew up and left the state, I've had ever less contact with her, to the point of none at all for the last three years. Fast forward to today: My parents' health is declining fast, and the way they've set up their affairs, I fear they've yoked me to her for years to come. Please advise. [more inside]
Paramedic filter: looking for step-by-step guides for re-learning first aid [more inside]
I have a Samsung S7 which is rapidly becoming useless since I cannot send any DTMF tones, meaning I cannot choose an option when I call any company helpline. How can I fix this? [more inside]
The DVD player in my MacBook Pro went on the fritz. I've been looking for a wireless Bluetooth DVD player with no luck. Does anyone know where I can buy one?
Is there any scientific evidence that PMS/hormones make women unreliable/unstable? [more inside]
Are there other past societies that had significant numbers of transgender / intersex people? What are its roots? [more inside]
What are some upbeat songs you listen to when you're waking up or otherwise need to be energized? I've included my main rotation inside to give you an idea of what I already like. Though there's one song from Hedwig, please keep the show tunes to a minimum. Thanks! [more inside]
So I was recently reading a book that mentions different methods for vote counting and ran into Duverger's Law. This seems to be a major issue with US politics, and so out of curiosity I wanted to learn more about how individual states decide to tally their votes. [more inside]
If my US passport expires in 2019, do I need to renew it before traveling to Canada this summer? I hear that in some cases you need more than 2 years validity. Any other considerations for travel to Canada?
How do I better approach my boyfriend about my dislike of his friends and their opinions? [more inside]
Let's say I have a piece of medium-weight linen yardage, 3 yards x 57”, and I want to cut it down to 90” x 30”, without selvages. I need the size more-or-less accurate and the edges need to be straight. How can I do this? [more inside]
At some point I will be doing a sleep study, meantime I would like to track my pattern of ... I'm not sure insomnia is the right word. Sleep disorder perhaps. I cannot fall asleep; and, yes, I really have worked all the recommended hacks for getting to sleep, including working with MDs and therapists. Please trust me on that. What I need at the moment is an app, or a way to re-purpose an app, to track the hours I am awake/asleep. How long I am awake, and if I sleep, how long do I sleep? [more inside]
A very dear friend of mine has suffered from severe anxiety and depression for a long time. One of the things that plagues him is feelings of self hatred, and being debilitated by the gender roles he’s expected to live up to (cis hetero male). Does anyone else feel this way? Any advice on how to manage these feelings? [more inside]
I recently released a free game on itch.io under pay-what-you-want. Much to my delight and horror, several people have actually opted to pay me for it. [more inside]
In the header of the PFLAG website, there is a very prominent link with the text "leave this site now" that takes you to Google. Why is it there? I've never seen something like this before and I wonder if it has some sort of accessibility purpose?
My girlfriend has an hour-long commute each way on public transport (and by car one day per week), in Melbourne, Australia. She was really looking forward to moving closer to work and cutting down her commute (her least favourite thing), but recently had to pause the idea for at least a few months, and is pretty bummed out about it. To take some of the pain away, I wanted to offer something interesting or enlivening via text each morning, that she can look forward to and enjoy using not much more than her phone. [more inside]
I broke up with my fiance two months ago. Of course I've been reviewing our relationship, and it just dawned on me that my ex may have manipulated me into believing that I asked him to choke me during sex... While we were having sex one day, he choked me (lightly). He didn't ask me first whether he could do that. Afterwards, he said "dyou know where the choking came from? You were putting my hand around your neck the last time we had sex, so I thought you'd like it this time". I have no memory of ever putting his hands around my neck, or asking him to choke me . It's not the kind of thing that I would ask for. But at the time i believed him: I figured that maybe i must asked for it before and forgot about it. Now, I'm thinking that he straight up lied. Im feeling confused, and I feel like it was an abusive thing for him to do (if he in fact was trying to manipulate me). I feel like confronting him about this. Is it a bad idea to tell him that I think he lied? [more inside]
I have cut ties with my immediate biological family many years ago as they were very abusive to me. They sometimes come out of the woodwork and it upsets me a lot. I am lately getting email from old contacts (that they know) saying they are worried about me and just want to know if I am okay. How do I handle this? [more inside]
Can anyone interpret this reference I came across in my archival research today? [more inside]
How do I serve tea to a visitor from the Middle East with a minimum of awkwardness? [more inside]
Short version: Backyard has compacted clay soil with tons of rocks. What are the best manual ways to remove all these rocks and amend the soil? [more inside]
Many years ago, I read a fantastic short science fiction story, written as a series of messages across centuries between Earth and an alien planet. One of the cool aspects for me was the long time gaps between the messages. At the end, I think it was AIs communicating with each other. It may have been printed in one of Gardner Dozois' 'Best of the year' anthologies. Hope you can help me find it - I would love to read it again.
I'm travelling to England and Scotland for 4 weeks in late April/May. Just looking for ideas about things I could see and do outside London. Hiring a car is out unfortunately as I don't drive at home so needs to be public transport accessible. I'm interested in tourist attractions history literature culture good food and drink and maybe shopping.
I just started working for a PR agency. Boss wants us to come up with cutting edge ideas for our toolbox and I want to wow my boss. Ideas that boss previously really liked were "blog parades" and "instagram takeovers". [more inside]
I recently completed a PhD in biochemical engineering. I am hoping to find a related biology/chemistry/engineering intersecting postdoc or research job. It seems most all of national lab and academic contacts I have are very concerned about funding right how. [more inside]
Hi Metas... I have a very nice white pottery barn armoire that I love but I am ready for something a bit different. I just want more of a distressed antique look (still in white), and have watched a few tutorials on distressing and using chalk paint. My question is, I want it to remain white so if I use the white chalk paint and then distress it using sand paper around edges and elsewhere, will it even look any different since it is already painted white? Do I need to distress the paint that is on there now but sanding a bit to get down to the wood first, and then paint with chalk paint over and distress again?
My wife has been having some health issues over the last few years, and the treatments (chiefly hormonal birth control and anti-depressants) keep interfering with her quality-of-life. We're not particularly impressed with the her medication is just swapped out when QOL issues come up, only for issues to come up again on the new medication, and then the process repeats. We're just really at a loss here. Details and an actual question inside. [more inside]
In light of the trans restroom protections for students being removed, I'd like to come up with a button for cis people to wear that basically says, "I am a person that is comfortable identifying publicly as a trans ally and will go to bat for trans people being discriminated against." [more inside]
Before the introduction of the horse, some tribes in what is now the central and western United States used dogs as beasts of burden. For example, dogs hauled the travois, a type of sled used by North American Indians to carry goods. What breed was the dog, and is it still in existence?
Can you recommend a dog trainer or behaviorist in the Phoenix area who can help my little pup with barking issues? [more inside]
My 8 year old niece is struggling at the moment with very painful toes on one of her feet. She has seen several specialists, who haven't managed to identify the problem. What could be causing this? [more inside]
Where will Trump be this Saturday? What city or cities will he be in? Does he have any public events?
This list of Mexican deputies has two columns: 'Entidad' and 'Distrito/Circunscripción'. Would it be correct to translate them to English as 'State' and 'Municipality'? [more inside]
I'm from the UK, and visiting New York for 2 nights. I've easily found great things to do during the day, but what can I do with my evenings? [more inside]
I got invited unexpectedly to a wedding that I’d like to go to. But I will be 7 1/2 months pregnant when it happens, and I’d like some help deciding whether or not I should go. [more inside]
Can you help me diagnose this weird problem that may involve my laptop's keyboard software? [more inside]
Is there some off the shelf system that will: 1. Allow someone to input a series of numbers online 2. Pass that group of numbers to a series of formulae to produce a series of results, and plot those results on a graph 3. Output those results and the graphs in a pretty report for the person inputting the numbers [more inside]
I am a member of a ~20 person committee composed of members from around the United States. We will be selecting destinations for our 2018 face-to-face meetings fairly soon and I want to show up with some awesome suggestions. Meetings are in March and June and must take place in the continental United States. Help me come up with some new ideas for locations! [more inside]
In the wake of current events, I'm considering a move into more advocacy-focused work. I'm being considered for a position with a relatively young, very small non-profit in an advocacy area I'm new to (and don't have a lot of contacts in). Before/during/after the interview, what should I do to figure out the organization's bona fides? [more inside]
A long time friend has an attitude toward trans people that I, as a gender non-conforming, basically trans person find upsetting. Is it fair to be upset? How could I have handled things better? [more inside]
Okay team, what's this green thingy with balls?
In about a month I will be writing short articles for an IT-related website. Please help me come up with topics. [more inside]
Who is trying to topple the tsar in 2017? There are a lot of non-profits and activists who are protesting, and a lot of it is great, but standardized in form. Are there any current groups, people, or movements that are doing something different? Seriously asking, not interested in chatfilter on the merits and theories, looking for where to look.
Boston flyers -- I have a 6:10 a.m. flight from Logan (JetBlue, Terminal C, if it matters) on a Saturday morning. Do I really really need to be there 2 hours early as the website generically recommends? Will security be really backed up at that time of day on Saturday? I will do it if I must of course but would like to hear from anybody who does similar flying at that airport.
We recently transferred our domain name to Wix webhosting/webbuilding service and as it turns out, their https:// addresses won't work on their site without the www. [more inside]
You run your own business from home and am paid by the output, not by the hours worked. How you fit in housework, exercise, appointments, errands and personal projects optimally into your week so everything gets done? [more inside]
I need to pixelate faces on bodycam footage at work - jerky camera work, jerky people bopping around the frame. Adobe Premiere, kdenlive, CaseGuard Studio... or something else? Please recommend and let me know of your non-fiction video editing experiences. [more inside]
On my Macbook, a shortcut I use all the time (command-space bar, then typing "word" to open Microsoft Word) has stopped working. The command-space bar shortcut works; it's the "word" part that isn't working. Instead, it opens Internet accounts from system preferences. All other common programs that I type there (outlook, Excel, keynote, notes, Firefox, chrome) still work. Just "word" has inexplicably failed. HELP! [more inside]
I lost/hid/misplaced an expensive and sentimental piece of jewelry several months ago. I really think I hid it somewhere in my house but I've searched and searched with no luck. Is hypnosis to remember what I did with it a real thing? Maybe I just lost it outside the house. I know it was in my purse at one point. [more inside]
For personal fun and a class I teach I am creating a Three Body game based on the information in the Three Body Problem. It's a chose your own adventure game with limited options. You can either play as Da Shi or Ye Wenjie, and the game is different depending that choice, though there are consistent points (the pyramid, the initial plain, etc.), and I suspect the details are both boring and (hopefully) unnecessary. I'm trying to come up with succinct character cards listing both characters' strengths and weaknesses. [more inside]
I see a couple of old threads with some good tips, but their focus seems to be price, storage and convenience. So to round all that out, I want to ask how can I make the most ultimate foodie noodle bowls? If anything, the focus is on variety – I could eat noodle bowls every day, but probably not the same exact one.
I started a baby gift basket business as a side hustle and did it too late for me to use my own children as models. Sadly, most of our friends are also past the baby stage. So how could I find parents willing to let me (for a fee? free product?) take photos at a predetermined location and with my product? Thanks!
I'm a computer science junior looking for internships for the first time. I have no idea how to do professional email, and often end up agonizing over how to word a response to an interview request for longer than I prepare for the actual interview. [more inside]
I'm looking for Spanish-language YA and/or short fiction I can read as part of working on my Spanish language skills. Even bodice-rippers might be fun, come to think of it. I initially thought of Harry Potter, but my local library surprisingly doesn't have the Spanish language versions in stock. I can purchase if I need to, but I thought I'd check and see what else is out there. [more inside]
A friend and I were having a sort of thought-experiment session/contest, and she came up with this question. We decided we wanted to hear answers from people who know more films than we do (which is most people): You're a time-traveling alien... [more inside]
I have health problems that prohibit almost all the things people use to soothe themselves - alcohol, cigarettes, tea/coffee, chocolate, hot baths. What can I do to treat myself well/soothe myself with these restrictions? [more inside]
What things should I bring along on a hike with some kids (age 9 & 12) who are curious about looking for cool rocks after a great demo in school? [more inside]
I have fallen in love with this (not a) perfume, which is made out of a single ingredient, Cetalox (artificial ambergris). I would love to have one of those diffusers with a bottle of liquid and reeds sticking out of it with this scent. Googling has not led me anyplace helpful. Do you have any suggestions of alternatives or good instructions on how to make this myself? [more inside]
We are thinking of buying our first house this summer. Assume we know next to nothing about the process. What website or book would you recommend? I see that there is literally a “Home Buying for Dummies” book that gets decent reviews. I figured I’d ask here about resources before buying it. [more inside]
I have spent 30+ years doing my darnedest to not miss any meals. Due to [reasons], I want to try fasting. I need hand-holding and baby steps. [more inside]
Retrofitting an old house for air conditioning. Does anyone have experience with retrofitted high-velocity mini-duct AC systems? [more inside]
I'm on medication that potentially affects the liver, and I'm trying to schedule a physical and get bloodwork done before my next medication followup visit. I'm also in the middle of a root canal and have been popping Tylenols off and on all week. Do I need to be concerned about that affecting the lab results? [more inside]
We have a new process at work that requires manual sorting of a large number of PDFs on a daily basis. I'm wondering if there is an existing program that does what I need. [more inside]
I'm planning a trip this June/July to Portugal, Spain, Italy (and maybe France) for 14-16 days. Any advice? [more inside]
How long after stopping use of marijuana should we expect to see relief in the case of cannabinoid hyperemesis? anecdotal evidence sought. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
How do I buy the other half of my duplex in the smartest possible way? [more inside]
My wife had her 20 week sonogram on Monday, and we purchased a DVD for $5. We just put it in our laptop DVD drive, and the disk appears to be empty. [more inside]
I'm looking for a now defunct online community of researchers. You could submit questions and a $ amount you were willing to pay for the answer. Somebody on the site would accept the question and work on it.. upon reading the answer the asker would unlock the payment.. I remember it being done by Amazon (?) but not under the main brand and it closing down 5 to 10 years ago. Most/all answers were public. My first objective would be to find this site/answer cache - and the second to find a successor? [more inside]
My daughter is in grade 1 in French Immersion. We are homeschooling while we travel through South America for the duration of this school year. We have many scanned French books and French workbooks. My wife is fluent in French as well. We are looking for some apps to enhance her reading. [more inside]
I opened a porny Threadless shop to make a little extra cash on the side of my 9-5. How do I promote it, given its content and the fact that I don't want it to be too time-consuming? [more inside]
What's a simple, clean, safe way to back up my Windows 7 machine onto external drives (not cloud-based)? Also, how can I back up older software that's currently on CD-ROM so I can be sure I can reinstall it later if necessary? [more inside]
Francophones of Metafilter: here's (gulp) a 1-minute audio recording of me rambling in French. (Language learner trying to speak somewhat off-the-cuff, so: pronunciation issues, grammatical errors and weird pauses abound.) If I had about a month, maybe 1-2 hours a day, to work on my spoken language with the goal of maximizing my understandability while speaking French in France, what should I work on, and how should I go about doing it? [more inside]
6yo is working through some vision problems, but his vision has improved enough that suddenly he wants to read everything he can get his hands on. We need recommendations for books that have sufficiently large and well-spaced print, but are also fun and interesting and have reasonably complex vocabulary. [more inside]
My best friend is moving to Texas near Fort Worth like the third week of March. We're driving some stuff and her cats from Central Jersey to her new place over a period of two- three days. What are some roadtrip tips you have for us, places we must eat along the way, places we can quick stop and see something neat? Suggest away. [more inside]
I want to take my husband's home movie theatre up to 11 by getting some custom stuff done up for it, namely custom high definition clips advertising his theatre, maybe some other "branded" items. [more inside]
What should I pursue as a new “day job” that has potential for high-earning & eventually going part-time? Snowflake-a-licious skills & experiences below... [more inside]
I'm buying my first condo! [more inside]
Where in Brooklyn or nearby can we find a fun, engaging afternoon event to celebrate and bond with a team of 60? [more inside]
In the audience at this year's Oscars ceremony was a woman I would like to identify -- or at least the dress she was wearing! The dress in question was blue, with horizontal stripes of white/cream lace and large sleeves trimmed with the same lace. She had light brown hair pulled back and gold hoop earrings, and appeared to be accompanied by a young boy with brown hair wearing a tuxedo. She was primarily visible in the opening song/dance from Justin Timberlake, during which she was (at least part of the time) standing in front of Ryan Gosling. [more inside]
Many L-shaped sofas have a small section with no back to lean on (at the end of the short side). Why?? Here are some examples: Couch 1 Couch 2 Couch 3
I'm currently cooking some beef stew in a slow cooker (should be ready in about an hour) and the broth is fairly thin. In the past I've added a roux and that is good, but I've got some penne which I've smashed into little bits, because I remember risoni being good in stews in the past and that's the closest I can get to it at this time. I'm wondering whe