December 2013 Archives

December 31

How can I make GMail messages appear w/ white text on black background?

GMail Themes only change the look of the inbox as best I can tell, not the background and text color of the actual messages. My grandfather's eyesight is degenerating badly, and he can read white-on-black much easier than black-on-white. I assume the answer involves user styles managed through the Chrome plugin Stylish, which has a lot of options for Google Chrome, but searching the web hasn't turned up a working snippet of code for user styles that will change the text and background colors. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
posted by Televangelist at 10:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Where should I put my Oregon Political Contribution Credit?

I'm a relatively new transplant to Oregon, so I didn't find out about the Oregon Political Contribution Credit until last April. And then I promptly forgot about it until I heard a fairly annoying ad on the radio reminding people today is the last day to make a contribution. Should I donate my 50 bucks to any particular cause? [more inside]
posted by pwnguin at 7:49 PM PST - 3 comments

iPad vs 2-in-1 laptop/tablet

My wife wants to buy a laptop that also converts to a tablet. She needs a good typing laptop for work (15 inch screen, nice keyboard) but she also dreams of using the tablet portion for sketching (like they do on Project Runway). She is not an artist; she just wants to draw a bit. I am concerned that the laptop/tablet combo will be less than ideal. I have heard that these tablets are not as sensitive as an ipad, and I am wondering what software she would use that would be better or as cheap as a $10 app. I think she should get a cheap laptop along with a used iPad. Does anyone have any firsthand experience one way or another? [more inside]
posted by at 6:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for timestretching software that supports variable tempo curves

I'm looking for an audio timestretching tool that allows me to vary the compression/expansion amount over time. In other words, I'd like to be able to draw a tempo "curve" for the input file—say, starting at −8% speed and remaining there for the first minute and twenty seconds; then gradually increasing speed so that it reaches +12% at 5:33; then remaining steady at +12% for the remainder of the track. Help? [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 6:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Name this book/story, SF division

All I remember is the macguffin is time travel, and the setting is a time period that I think may be similar to the few generations before and after the Roman occupation of Gaul. There may have been a murder mystery thrown in. The book was in English, I suspect by an American author. [more inside]
posted by qurlyjoe at 5:58 PM PST - 9 comments

Truck + plow blade. Snow-covered driveway ending in garage. Can it work?

Dumb question: can a pick-up truck with a plow blade clear a short straight driveway that goes from the street right up to a garage? By design, the plow is intended push snow in front of it—so won't the result be a pile of snow against the garage door? Or can the blade be raised high enough so that the driver can move it over a mound of snow, lower the blade, and drive backward to pull the snow away? [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie at 5:02 PM PST - 11 comments

Target Credit Card Fraud: The gift that keeps on giving (spam)

Victim of Target credit card fraud followed up by a massive flood of spam. We're curious what exactly is going on. [more inside]
posted by neilbert at 4:09 PM PST - 12 comments

Gamer teen to coder

A friends teenage (16) son is considering skipping university and instead training themselves to be a programmer, with a particular interest in making games. Assuming he's starting from scratch what would be some good cheap or free resources to get him started? Both in terms of getting the basics and allow him to work on a game-related project that might hold his interest?
posted by Artw at 3:23 PM PST - 25 comments

I married an idiot.

Husband was arrested for saying something stupid during chemotherapy. What happens now? [more inside]
posted by wandering_not_lost at 3:20 PM PST - 25 comments

What's the Real Effect of Not Paying Time Share Maintenance Fees?

Let's say that I own a timeshare that I cannot sell or give away or rent. Let's read as given I am stuck with this thing for 7 years AND every year there are "maintenance fees" and "annual charges" and all sorts of things costing me up to $6000 a year. Let's just imagine this is the situation and I can't pay them anymore. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:07 PM PST - 10 comments

Tub is leaking water through the floor, and I'm very worried (Cleveland)

Living in the Cleveland, Ohio area. The area around my upstairs bathroom's bathtub has been leaking through the floor to the downstairs bathroom for some time now. I kept putting off getting it fixed, and when my son who is home visiting saw it grew extremely worried. He said that it is damaging the structural integrity of the house and could also be breeding "black mold" which is a health hazard. Is it really that bad? What kind of work would be necessary to fix this, and should a professional be called? (Picture inside) [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 3:03 PM PST - 6 comments

30-something lady still eating like my 80's latchkey kid self

Resolution time! I grew up eating junk food. Lots of it. My fruit/veggie intake is minimal to non-existent. Though my BMI is in the healthy range, I know I can't possibly be healthy with decades of this diet. Where do I even start to relearn how to eat? [more inside]
posted by sixtyten at 2:42 PM PST - 33 comments

What's life like with an epileptic cat?

The cat the we are fostering to adopt just had a very scary seizure. She may have epilepsy. What's life with an epileptic cat like? I'm interested in treatment costs, medication, frequency of blood work, incontinence issues, cat quality of life, or anything that might be useful. [more inside]
posted by fermezporte at 2:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Drummer wanted. Humans need not apply.

Looking for the right solution for a drum machine / software / thingee for casual jam sessions. [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 2:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Where (online) to buy a nice framed photo of DC?

I am thinking of buying a nice framed photo that is recognizably DC (landmarks, cherry blossoms, etc., or something more creative) as a wedding gift. I looked at and everything was pretty generic, 'obvious' and postcard-looking. I'd love to find a photo that is a bit more unique, or even perhaps a cool framed graphic print. My budget is not awesome: I am looking to spend under $300. Any recommendations of websites/photographers/artists I should check out?
posted by imalaowai at 2:20 PM PST - 16 comments

All your chocolate are belong to me.

I received an 11 pound bar of Callebaut MILK chocolate last year. I have about 10 pounds of it left. What on earth am I going to do with it?? [more inside]
posted by Sophie1 at 12:37 PM PST - 23 comments

High income options for life science PhDs

I am graduating within the next year. I will have my PhD in Pharmacology - 4 first author publications, 1 patent. Several presentations at national conferences in my field. I also have an MS in Biochemistry and a BS in Math. 1 year of experience working as a research specialist in academia. Various extra curricular activities that demonstrate leadership. I want to make 100k a year or more. I want to do this reasonably quickly (within the next 4 years). I do not want to go back to any schooling of any type. What options are available for me?
posted by sickinthehead at 12:37 PM PST - 11 comments

Help me out with the old online dating profile please.

Hello, I'm trying out the whole thing for the first time and am having trouble making my profile really stand out. I'm getting a little writers block as well. I've tried doing the funny thing and it just comes across as corny. I'm not fond of my writing skills and what I've put together feels it's a little flat. Let me know if anybody has any suggestions for improvement. Of course, any grammar corrections are more than welcome as well. More inside and Thanks! [more inside]
posted by Che boludo! at 12:26 PM PST - 31 comments

Where to learn about cars?

So, assume I don't know an awful lot about cars but would like to learn. What books and/or websites do I turn to? [more inside]
posted by Steely-eyed Missile Man at 12:18 PM PST - 8 comments

They Rip MP3s, Don't they?

In honor of (juke)Boxing Day, I want to move into the 21st century, and wrangle my prehistoric CDs into digital forms. Delight me with techniques for central storage and playback of all my musics! [more inside]
posted by gregglind at 12:06 PM PST - 10 comments

Its bigger on the inside...

Did Matt Smith quit, or was he fired from Doctor Who?
posted by blue_beetle at 12:03 PM PST - 7 comments

WIN7 Permissions, sharing and HTPC, so so much fail.

How can I clear up whatever problem with windows 7 permissions is plaguing my new HTPC? [more inside]
posted by T.D. Strange at 11:21 AM PST - 3 comments

Where can I buy an electronic target rifle?

I want to do target practice in my basement, but no bullets, pellets, or BB's. I'd like an electronic target rifle that uses infra-red or ultra-violet light and somehow indicates where I hit on the target. [more inside]
posted by mbarryf at 11:18 AM PST - 3 comments

I don't enjoy hanging out with women.

I AM a woman. I don't generally like hanging out with women. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by skbw at 11:09 AM PST - 78 comments

How does the shrinking work in Michael Crichton's book Micro?

There's a Michael Crichton book (technically finished based on his notes) called Micro. It is about a group of people who get shrunk to miniscule size and are attacked by mundane wildlife. [more inside]
posted by Lorc at 11:00 AM PST - 6 comments

NYE Online!

As usual, Mr. jshort and I will likely spend NYE at home... We typically go to bed early since we don't have TV and watching the clock isn't all that exciting. If we decide to stay up, are there online resources to help us ring in the New Year? I'm aware of this app, which looks fine, but I like to have options. We're in the US Eastern time zone (GMT - 5:00).
posted by jshort at 10:36 AM PST - 2 comments

Do I tell my wife that I have a child with someone else?

A long time ago, I asked this question. Since, I learned that it is most likely my child, but the mother does not wish for me to play a role in his upbringing. I made the promise I would keep it between the two of us, but my wife demands to know what is going on. [more inside]
posted by Bathtub Bobsled at 10:22 AM PST - 63 comments

Best place to hold stuff I need to get to later on?

Every now and then I go through my inbox and clear it out. I create events in Google calendar whenever there is an item I need to address in the future. I've never been 100% happy with this non-system for reasons I can't properly define. Is there some better place to offload everything that integrates with Android and windows/any browser? [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 9:47 AM PST - 8 comments

Find this essay!

In the 70's (I think) there was an essay written on meat-eating that argues that the animals we eat exist because we bred them for eating and if they are raised humanely then they have had a life which they would not have had. The author might have been Annie Dillard, John Ashbery, or Wendell Berry. I just would like to find this specific essay. Please do not turn this into a discussion of the rightness or wrongness of the premise.
posted by agatha_magatha at 8:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Turkey Timing

I have a 5.13 kg (11.322 lbs) turkey I am cooking tomorrow IN A TURKEY BAG. I would like advice on cooking times from people who cook their turkey IN A BAG. According to this recipe, the total cooking time is 2 hours, and that is freaking my shit out. [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 8:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Novels set in Westchester, NY?

Looking for books set in Westchester County, New York, in any of the towns/ cities. So far, I have T.C. Boyle's World's End, Gish Jen's Mona In The Promised Land, and various John Cheever works. I want the "a ha!" moment, when I recognize a street or a founding family's name while I am reading. (Boyle did that so very well.) Fictionalized towns are OK too. Thanks!
posted by Neeuq Nus at 8:27 AM PST - 17 comments

How can they still be selling credit card numbers stolen from Target?

My understanding is that a stolen card or card number has a shelf life of a couple of days at most, before someone gets wise to the theft and cancels the number. The stories I'm reading suggest that these stolen numbers are good for quite a long time. The online stores that sell them even guarantee they're still good! Are the owners of the cards failing to notify the bank after realizing that their cards were used at Target during the period when all the numbers were stolen? Are the banks not scanning their files to find out which cards were used at Target during the period, and taking the initiative in canceling them?
posted by markcmyers at 8:26 AM PST - 19 comments

Cash and disclosure

When we found out we would be moving we had a yard sale. We did really well! But we need that money to go towards our closing costs/ required reserves on our new home. How do we explain a cash deposit of this nature to our lender? We can't very well track down every random stranger that came by to purchase something. We can write a letter explaining where the money came from, but would that be good enough? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 8:06 AM PST - 21 comments

SourceThatQuote Filter: Give an @sshole a hard time?

(Apologies for the vulgarity) I often find myself gravitating to the phrase "what's the point of life if not to give an asshole a hard time?" I really think this is a loose adaptation from a movie, but maybe I'm really the asshole. Rudimentary googling produces no answer. Anyone know the real quote and source? No probing analysis of my psyche or job necessary.
posted by keasby at 7:33 AM PST - 0 comments

How can I get help with an *extremely* bad, intractable sleep problem?

I need help finding an exceptional sleep specialist or sleep center to help with a complex, long standing problem with insomnia. I need to find someone really good who's serious. [more inside]
posted by trevor_case at 7:18 AM PST - 9 comments

kanji interpretation, or other character?

I would like to translate the name 'sophia' using kanji characters. Perhaps there is another Japanese writing character more appropriate for these sounds? or for a name?
posted by ebesan at 7:12 AM PST - 15 comments

Recommend Brooklyn sports bar near Barclays Center?

We have Nets tickets for this Saturday at Barclays Center but may want to scoot a bit early to catch the end of Eagles/Saints if possible. Looking for a nearby place (walking distance) that's not too crazy (two 14yo boys with us) and will be open to putting that game on a TV if it's not on.
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 7:01 AM PST - 7 comments

Beer Suitcase Best Practices

Other than the 50 lb weight limit for checked luggage, what should I consider when attempting to take back as many exotic midwestern delights (aka 12 oz bottles or pint cans of beer) as possible to the west coast? It would go in a roller suitcase with my clothes as padding.
posted by mandymanwasregistered at 6:48 AM PST - 16 comments

Declaring a mental disability on a job application in healthcare

Should I declare a mental illness on a job application within the NHS (UK) or not? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:40 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for authoritative data on adult conflict styles and tactics

I am looking for researched or surveyed information on how adults in a relationship fight. Specifically, books or articles on how common it is for adults to make deliberately hurtful comments in anger, and references from sociology, psychology or counseling about the effects of that style of fighting.
posted by anonymous at 6:39 AM PST - 4 comments

Seeking vivid descriptions of cities

I'm looking for vivid written description of cities (real or fictional) that are especially accurate or perceptive. Interested in any written (i.e. passages from books, magazines, possibly song lyrics; not looking for videos) description . I'm more interested in descriptions that capture the "feel" of a city, as oppose to something clinical or factual. Especially looking for passages where the author has strong emotions (positive or otherwise) about the city in question. Length-wise, anything from a few sentences to a few paragraphs. Thanks AskMefi!
posted by dragonfruit at 6:33 AM PST - 30 comments

Looking for a new cologne

I’ve worn the same cologne off and on for about 20 years, and I think it’s time for a change. I’m looking for scents for everyday wear with woody notes (or citrus/fresh notes, like what I wear now). Nothing musky or spicy! [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:12 AM PST - 17 comments

Help for a photography newbie!

My mum got a shiny new camera. It has dials and buttons and beeps now and then. Understandably, it's all so confusing. Help! [more inside]
posted by 0 answers at 6:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Percentage Question

Help me understand percentages. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 4:35 AM PST - 32 comments

How to write down life and business goals

It's the goal writing season, and I recently came across an article that explained a specific technique for writing down one's goals. [more inside]
posted by NekulturnY at 3:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Name that sci-fi short story (aliens discussing humans)

Do you remember reading a short science fiction story where aliens were regretting their decision to exterminate humanity? [more inside]
posted by ana scoot at 2:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Getting in shape without getting bored

Over the past year or so, due to several factors (busytimes with work, moving places twice, a surgery), I let my diet and my fitness slip up. I would like to get back in shape and lose some weight as well. Typical problem: how to come up with a solid exercise/diet plan so that it becomes routine? [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 2:04 AM PST - 15 comments

What's the best iOS app for body weight monitoring?

I'm looking for an easy to use, extremely simple app for monitoring my body weight and fat%. [more inside]
posted by tonylord at 1:42 AM PST - 6 comments

How to prepare for disaster without going all Doomsday Preppers

I think it's not too tin-foil-hatty to say that we're getting more extreme weather because of climate change. Let's say you're city dwelling DINKs with a cat and you want to kit out one of those under bed storage boxes with supplies (food? candles? batteries? whiskey? tiny cat hard hat? I really have no idea) in case of extreme weather. What would you include? [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 1:36 AM PST - 34 comments

How to manage emotions when teaching

How do you keep yourself from getting too emotionally invested in your students and your teaching? My day can be made or destroyed by my students and the extent to which this happens makes me uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by sarae at 1:03 AM PST - 17 comments

December 30

Guitar Hero controllers on PS3 and XBOX360?

I picked up an XBOX 360 Guitar Hero controller for very little money at a thrift store. But I do not have an XBOX, I have a PS3. So I have been doing some eBay research, but I am still rather confused. [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 11:11 PM PST - 3 comments

A "Great" Anniversary

I like to give myself literary new year's resolution and since this year will be the 100th anniversary of The Great War I think it would be fitting to read some literature and history of/from that era. I've read Guns of August and All Quiet On The Western Front. What else should I read?
posted by brookeb at 10:22 PM PST - 37 comments

Books Like The Jungle?

What are some books, stories, or poems like Upton Sinclair's The Jungle? [more inside]
posted by Edna Million at 9:31 PM PST - 9 comments

Help with my NYE playlist: poppy, top-40-ish

We're throwing a house party tomorrow, and I'm looking for a painless way to get some top-40-ish best-of-2013 music playing all night. [more inside]
posted by Jacen Solo at 9:13 PM PST - 12 comments

New Jersey "exit tax" questions. (Nonresident sale of NJ real estate)

How do I file to get the money back that was withheld at the closing of a condo in New Jersey? [more inside]
posted by bink at 8:47 PM PST - 2 comments

How do I get a banjo onto a flight as hand-luggage?

I'm wanting to take a banjo on a (domestic) United flight to Honolulu soon. The banjo fits the letter of the law (dimensions etc) for fitting it into the overhead locker, but I'm concerned that flight crew may want us to check it. Musicians of Metafilter, what are your tips and wisdom for getting a banjo on board a United aircraft as hand-luggage?
posted by Alice Russel-Wallace at 8:22 PM PST - 18 comments

Around the World in Eighty Pages

I am trying to read my way around the globe. Can you please recommend me international fiction/memoirs that frame the contemporary culture, customs, and values of the country that it is set in? [more inside]
posted by sevenofspades at 8:01 PM PST - 13 comments

Name that tune!

It's a short song, with a female vocalist and what sounds like acoustic guitar and violin/fiddle in the background, relatively fast-paced. I can't make out all the lyrics (it's on Store Radio at work) but the bits I've been able to work out are "remember the years when you and I were young and free" and "a knock at the door, I'm going to have company". Any ideas?
posted by mornie_alantie at 7:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me compile a list of 100 books to read

This year one of my goals is to read two books a week, help me make sure I get the good ones! [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 7:39 PM PST - 35 comments

Feedback on itinerary for short stay in San Jose, Costa Rica?

Feedback on itinerary for short stay in San Jose, Costa Rica? I'm very unfamiliar with the area... [more inside]
posted by 99percentfake at 6:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Double taxes? Really?

If a person lives* in Washington state but works** in Oregon, to which state does she pay state income tax? Oregon, Washington, or both? [more inside]
posted by SLC Mom at 5:59 PM PST - 23 comments

LA eats for a big group

Where can my large family go eat on a Friday night in Los Angeles? [more inside]
posted by cheeserk at 5:43 PM PST - 33 comments

Where to spend wester NYE in Hong Kong?

Where should we spend western NYE in Hong Kong? [more inside]
posted by bystander at 5:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Which PMI-related courses should I take to obtain PDU's?

I am a certified Project Management Professional (PMP). I am always looking for good values in my ongoing education while also meeting PMI's PDU requirements. I also want to take those courses that others have found to be rewarding and useful for project managers' careers. Frankly, from what I've seen online and taken so far, it has been somewhat disappointing. I am looking for your recommendations. Are there any courses you can recommend? Thank you!
posted by neruda1968 at 4:16 PM PST - 1 comment

What's fun to do in Joshua Tree?

Based on the hive mind's advice, I'm off to Joshua Tree for a few days to get out of the city and see some stars. What's fun up there? Deets inside. [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 3:09 PM PST - 18 comments

Will the Prius C "fit" my needs?

I've driven a 2008 Honda Fit Sport for the last 5 years, right up until it got totaled in a collision last week. One of my top choices on paper is the 2013 Toyota Prius C 2, and another is the 2013 Fit Sport. I'll be test driving a Prius C tomorrow, but in the meantime I want to hear from anyone who has experience with both cars. One specific question is: How roomy is the back seat in the Prius C as compared to the fit? [more inside]
posted by jepler at 2:58 PM PST - 14 comments

Is e-mail legally binding in any way?

We're up to renew our lease and want the new lease modified so that we can keep our dog in the apartment. Our landlord refuses to modify the lease at all and suggested instead an e-mail stating that we are allowed to have the dog. Is this meaningful in any real way? [more inside]
posted by shotgunbooty at 2:44 PM PST - 18 comments

Know any good instrumental workout music?

I've been flirting with weightlifting on and off for awhile and figure with New Years' right around the corner there are plenty of people in the same boat of "this is the year I get abs!" Good pulse-pounding music is of course a big help, but I find songs with lyrics too distracting for work out time. Know any cool stuff without words? [more inside]
posted by johnpoe50 at 2:31 PM PST - 12 comments

Everything into one notebook

Help me organize my notebook. Separate sections or all mixed up? [more inside]
posted by jgwong at 1:54 PM PST - 9 comments

Which quadcopter model would you recommend?

Have been thinking about getting a small quadcopter for indoor use, I know very little about them or radio control stuff in general. Which one would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 1:19 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you keep your head when it starts to fly off the handle?

When an argument is brewing or someone upsets me, all my mindfulness study goes directly out the window. I am immediately engaged with the full complement of negative emotions and responses. When I've calmed down I can see all the things I should've said or done differently - if I'd managed to keep my head. How do you train yourself to practice INSTANT mindfulness?
posted by Josephine Macaulay at 1:17 PM PST - 22 comments

Job application, not sure what to do.

For job applications, what should I do about a few months long job where I was terminated after being moved between projects? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Low-cost tablets for academics

I would like a low-cost tablet for academic work. Mainly reading and annotating PDFs and scientific papers, note-taking, and brainstorming/checklist-type activities. I have a Nook and barely use it because it's terrible with PDFs and can't do graphics and figures at all, even in the ePub format. I don't know anything about tablets--I don't even own a smartphone--so I have no idea where to start looking, what's appropriate, or what's a reasonable budget to expect. [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 1:16 PM PST - 31 comments

Vegetable soup hacks?

It has literally been a couple of decades (maybe 3) since I threw a bunch of vegetables in a pot and made vegetables soup. What are your tricks and hacks for vegetable soup? [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 12:45 PM PST - 23 comments

Apprehensive about ordering glasses online

I need to wear glasses all the time for my job (and for seeing things in general). Unfortunately, they broke the day before Christmas, and, while I have repaired them, they're pretty unsightly. The only way I could replace them in the near future would be to order a pair online. However, I have kind of a small head and am apprehensive about not being able to try frames on before purchasing them. How have you folks done with ordering glasses online that fit comfortably? Where should I order from? [more inside]
posted by The Great Big Mulp at 12:28 PM PST - 30 comments

Supplemental income suggestions

What type of additional services could I provide and/or part time jobs could I take to supplement my income? [more inside]
posted by Wolfster at 12:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Suggestions for online (Mac) computing tutorials

Brushing up...and doing things correctly with my new out an oldster! [more inside]
posted by naplesyellow at 11:48 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for advice on leaving the cat alone for a week.

Hard as it is to believe, we are leaving our beloved kitty all alone for the first time since we got him 5 years ago. I'm looking for advice as well as answers to a couple specifics. [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 11:08 AM PST - 32 comments

Bridged DSL Modem Still Broadcasting SSID cause problems?

I have att dsl at my house. I bridged the modem and setup a third party router and all is fine. Only problem I can see is that the ssid listed on the side of the modem and is still being broadcast. The wireless light on the front of the modem is off so I don't see why. I tried connecting to the ssid with supplied password and it doesn't do anything so I'm assuming it's inactive. Could having an ssid that is unusable cause problems with interference or something? It's kinda driving me crazy.
posted by mamamia88 at 11:01 AM PST - 4 comments

Is there paint to use on pre-baked Sculpy?

I want to paint my Sculpy before baking it. That's because I want to paint designs on a rolled-out strip, let it dry, then roll it into beads, and then bake it. If I bake the beads first, it will be hell to paint the kind of itiny designs on the beads that I want to be there. (And I don't want to make the designs out of different colors of Sculpy - that's too difficult for me and not the look I'm going for.) I haven't, in my research, found any way to do this. Help?! (alternatively there is a product that is not exactly Sculpy that I can paint and then roll into beads and then either bake or get it to harden in some way other than baking?)
posted by DMelanogaster at 10:57 AM PST - 15 comments

I'll Sample Anything

Who was (is?) the musical artist Apeonaut? [more inside]
posted by komara at 10:52 AM PST - 1 comment

Stiff keys on MS Natural Keyboard - already cleaned it.

I use an ancient MS Natural Keyboard, but the main thing that's relevant here is the key mechanism. The Goog will show you models old and new. I recently took mine apart, cleaned the plastic parts with water, got it nice and clean (years of accumulated cookie crumbs, etc.) The problem is - now the keys are kind of stiff. For example, if I strike them at a slight angle, they don't depress as smoothly as before. The standard advice online is to clean a keyboard to prevent sticky keys, but I have the opposite problem. Is there some kind of lube/oil/spray I can use?
posted by 4midori at 10:42 AM PST - 3 comments

Mac-less in Seattle (but hopefully not for long)

I know everyone asks the "which mac?!" question constantly, but it's a bit of a moving target, isn't it? I am looking to replace my 2008 MacBook (aluminum). I know that the recommendation is to buy either the Retina MBP, or the MBAir. But would I be shooting myself in the foot if I bought a non-Retina MBP? Caveat: Can't really wait months and months for the next and newest--this is my work computer and I can't afford to have it crap out without a replacement. [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend at 10:40 AM PST - 15 comments

Life after Teaching?

I have surpassed the statistical average and have taught (Mathematics) in NYC public schools for over 10 years. I have an MA in Psychology and a need for a change. Any suggestions Mefites? [more inside]
posted by bquarters at 10:33 AM PST - 16 comments

Bay Area online news to replace horrible SFGate?

I no longer want to read the (free) San Francisco Chronicle online because of their vile, racist, homophobic comment section. I try incredibly hard not to read the comments, but it's impossible, and what I'd really like to do is no longer reward SFGate with clicks. [more inside]
posted by oneirodynia at 9:40 AM PST - 16 comments

Need easy weeknight family meal recipes

I know there have been many, many recipe questions on AskMe. I'm sorry to contribute yet another one. But I am in search of simple, quick meals that will actually be eaten by my small family. [more inside]
posted by barnoley at 9:01 AM PST - 56 comments

Call all book detectives! I'm looking for a book, the cover was blue...

Please help me find a book on toy making from the 1960s or 1970s (and that I read in the 1990s). [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 8:56 AM PST - 2 comments

Buying a house in 2014. Maybe?

The only solution I can see that will allow me to live with all my pets (current and future) is to finally purchase my own home. However, I'm not entirely convinced this won't be a colossal mistake! On the other hand, if I'm not ready now I probably never will be, nor will I be able to achieve my "pet goals". Am I ready to be a homeowner? Is this really a good idea for me? Are there any other options? Obviously, there are some snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by cgg at 8:55 AM PST - 24 comments

Task management for the overwhelmed

Are you easily distracted and overwhelmed? What task management techniques/systems have you found successful? [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 8:40 AM PST - 17 comments

Temecula, CA accomdations with an eastern (for star gazing) 2 hr radius?

How can we find a room/cabin/whatever that has a hot tub and a fireplace within an eastern 2 hr radius (for star gazing) from Temecula, CA? [more inside]
posted by magnoliasouth at 8:31 AM PST - 14 comments

Kindle Imposter Needs To Be Shut Down!

Starting around 11am Dec 25 I started getting email from Amazon for a person named Tammy XXXX who shares my last name. My assumption is she used my email address accidentally to register her kindle. What do I do about this? [more inside]
posted by spicynuts at 8:30 AM PST - 23 comments

Winter getaway/babymoon in Berkshires/Cooperstown?

My wife and I are planning a babymoon for mid-February, and want to visit the Cooperstown Baseball HOF. Are there things to do around there, or things to do in the Berkshires, that are pregnant-friendly and winter-friendly? [more inside]
posted by cavs33 at 8:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Weird fertilizer/gassy smell in the basement (from the water heater?)

I was away from the house last night when I got a text from my wife about a strange "fertilizer" smell coming from the basement of our house. I came home a few hours later and smelled it immediately - hard to describe, but a slightly acrid, recognizable chlorine-y scent reminiscent of a garden center. It was noticeable on the first floor but stronger in the basement. I sniffed around for a while but couldn't locate an obvious source. The only thing I could find that was awry was that the pilot light had gone out in the water heater (only time that's happened), which is suggestive of a chimney backdraft. I relit the pilot without issue and verified that the water heater was venting correctly with a stick of Nag Champa. Multiple C02 detectors in the house detected nothing. We'll have an HVAC guy come out ASAP, but I'm wondering if anyone else has experienced this and whether I'm diagnosing the issue correctly. Is this what water heater fumes smell like? We've lived in the house for a year, and this is the first time it's happened. [more inside]
posted by ndg at 7:36 AM PST - 15 comments

Looking for house cleaner in Jamaica Plain, MA

Can anyone recommend a good house cleaner in Jamaica Plain, MA? I've checked yelp reviews and Boston magazine but I'm hoping for a personal recommendation. Thanks!
posted by Majorita at 7:35 AM PST - 3 comments

Correct way to charge rechargeable devices (iPhone, laptop, toothbrush)?

I've just been told at the Apple store that it's a bad idea to keep the iPhone plugged into the power for long periods when fully charged, and that if possible I should really only charge it when it tells me to (ie. when the battery is almost dead). [more inside]
posted by Dragonness at 7:35 AM PST - 7 comments

BookFilter: English fiction with lots of Spanish language elements

I'm looking for recommendations of English-language fiction that heavily features Spanish-language elements. I'm working on learning Spanish again (I had 3 years in high school, about 10 years ago) and thought it would be fun and useful to read novels that incorporate Spanish heavily, kind of an immersion strategy. [more inside]
posted by sprocket87 at 7:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Use 'terms' on hardware?

Are terms and conditions, disclosed after sale, legitimate? What if the associated item is a gift? [more inside]
posted by Goofyy at 5:23 AM PST - 29 comments


My HTC One Android phone has somehow become infected with a Facebook app again. I want to delete it permanently, completely and forever. It wont let me, I've checked the forums and googled around. When I drag the icon into 'remove' or 'un-intsall ' it just wont. It doesnt show up in my list of Apps in the App manager menu... its like voodoo...Gah! Is there a way or is Facebook like forever, like Orwell's canonical Boot?
posted by evil_esto at 1:21 AM PST - 14 comments

Cob houses and dust mite allergies?

My husband and I are interested in building a low-cost house (in India, where we live). We've been researching building materials/technologies and cob is something that interested us. But we aren't sure whether cob houses might be prone to getting dusty (in particular, dust-mitey) and set off my allergies. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 1:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Depressed & lonely; obviously the solution is to make myself lonelier!

I had a significant depressive period earlier this year. I'm climbing out if it now, but I'm awkwardly reticent and hung-up about telling anyone about my issues. My closest friends don't know or have been told a generic, "It was just a hard semester for me" story. But I feel so isolated and acutely lonely when I stumble and have a few bad days again, and I'd like to be able to reach out to friends. I don't want to engage in destructive isolation and have this unnecessary martyr complex, and need advice on how to open up and ask for/accept support. [more inside]
posted by Sudo at 12:53 AM PST - 13 comments

December 29

Hybrid vs. Cyclocross bikes?

Back in the day, there were two styles of bikes that I was aware of – road bikes and mountain bikes. Now there are road bikes, mountain bikes, hybrid bikes, and cyclocross bikes. This is very exciting – as more options – but also subtly confusing. [more inside]
posted by nickrussell at 11:45 PM PST - 17 comments

Font help!

Can anyone help me identify the font from this T-shirt? [more inside]
posted by vecchio at 10:12 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I cut off contact with parents who have dysfunctional marriage?

For as long as I can remember, my parents have nasty arguments with each other every few days, including shouting, harsh words, put-downs at each other. When I was a child, they involved me in their marital strife, and I feel damaged from it. I am now in my 30s. I've tried years of therapy for myself to learn how to not be bothered, but I am still very bothered. I want to reduce my contact with them to just occasional phone calls, but I am scared that we'll become estranged and they'll die, and then I'll regret it. Advice from MeFites who have reduced their contact with their parents? [more inside]
posted by cheesecake at 9:42 PM PST - 24 comments

What kind of skin treatment should I get?

I have good skin, but for the past 15 years I have had a single dime-sized discoloration on my cheek-- a faded red color but not itchy, scaly or raised. I think it is leftover from when I had an irritated dry patch there that I picked at when I was a teen. Anyway I'd like to do something about it, and my husband gave me a gift card to a medi-spa that offers a variety of different kinds of peels, microdermabrasion, etc. I'd like to know what type of treatment is best for helping get rid of this type of spot. Not interested in a long recovery time (a day or two is ok) or having to go back for multiple visits unless absolutely necessary. I'm overwhelmed by the options but would like to use this gift certificate towards a treatment that will minimize this discoloration, without having to consult a dermatologist first. (YANMD) thanks!
posted by egeanin at 9:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Dreaming of Ottolenghi and Amada; stuck on frozen gyoza

I love cooking, but it's been a while since I've cooked on a regular basis (besides throwing together ingredients for salads and pastas) and even longer since I put together a proper meal with courses. I'm a pretty decent cook (and I have a list of favorite blogs, like Smitten Kitchen and 101 Cookbooks) but nothing's clicking, and I want recipes that are complicated and fun and delicious for a change of pace! And so I turn to you, AskMetafilter: help me find awesome, vegetarian, delicious, adventurous dishes to usher in 2014. [more inside]
posted by jetlagaddict at 9:24 PM PST - 14 comments

locing fine straight hair

Looking at trying to twist up my own hair need input on how to start I have very fine straight hair. Any and all suggestions would be welcomed! Thanks
posted by 4Spokenwords at 9:02 PM PST - 9 comments

On job searching and hope.

Looking for experiences of job seekers who were offered a job long after the final interview. What is the LONGEST amount of time you have waited for a verbal and written offer? Some background: i quit my job somewhat unexpectedly to relocate after some crummy Life Things happened. I have been job searching for almost 7 months. I work in academic research (coordination and managerial roles, I am not a trained phd researcher). Back in the late fall I had a promising phone interview. The in person portion did not go quite as well, but I still had a good feeling. They told me that hiring occurs at a glacial pace and I probably wouldn't hear from them for a vague amount of time. I want this job and I want to convinced myself that maybe I am still in the running, but I still feel like I would have heard at least something by now. I was also told I would be reimbursed for part of my travel since it was out f state. It had been two months and nothing. I know they have not hired for the position yet and I was told it would be slow, but... Your experiences with long hiring processes? Or time between final interviews and offers or rejections?
posted by anad487 at 8:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Returning to a stressful home environment during school breaks

I'm in my early twenties. Whenever I come home during breaks in school, I find the atmosphere at home unbearably stressful. It's so bad that my sister (who is in college and also comes home for breaks) and I prefer to stay literally paralyzed with anxiety in bed all day or either leave the house for most of the day. It mostly boils down to the fact that we can get yelled at for almost anything we do. There is no way to win-- I will get yelled at or criticized or caught in some argument over the most ridiculous thing no matter what I do. Alternatively, I will have to watch my siblings get yelled at for something equally innocuous. My siblings and I walk on eggshells all day. It's exhausting. But I love my parents. I already don't see them very much and I just want to enjoy the time I have with them. How can I better do this? Any tips or strategies to reduce the stress? [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 8:09 PM PST - 18 comments

The realities of online dating in the UK?

I'm concerned that I might have unrealistic expectations of online dating, and that this might be why I'm not having much luck with it. [more inside]
posted by toerinishuman at 7:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Professional Matchmaker Wanted!

Recommendations needed for good recruiters/staffing firms/headhunters in cloud services management. [more inside]
posted by anonnymoose at 7:36 PM PST - 0 comments

Best place to see stars near San Francisco?

I have a hunger to see the night sky in all its glory. Where can I go to within 50 miles of San Francisco to be awed by a sky full of stars?
posted by mono blanco at 7:34 PM PST - 10 comments

New Yorker interested in legal marijuana jobs

I'm a New Yorker who is completely willing to move to a new area for work and a change of pace. With Colorado legalizing marijuana starting January 1st, I find myself interested in working in what will certainly become a lucrative industry. Without specific experience, is that possible? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:41 PM PST - 15 comments

New Year's night, dinner in Manhattan; GREAT service?

My husband has been incredibly wonderful and patient as I trained for two marathons this past fall, and a 48.6 mile challenge that I will embark on next week. I would like to treat him to a great meal in Manhattan on Wednesday night. [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 6:22 PM PST - 6 comments

dumped by email. Wrote a response. Send or not send?

I was in a relationship with a girl for 3 months. In the final weeks she became increasingly distant, but assured me that it was only because she was stressed out and depressed and we were good. We spent Christmas together, then the day after she dumped me by an email that was full of bullshit . We talked for a bit after she sent the email, where I never said anything I would regret but only that it was unfair how she handled it. And I said I wasn't angry. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 6:08 PM PST - 36 comments

Dr. Windykites- realistic goal or foolish pipe dream?

I want to become a Doctor. With my history and circumstances, is this a realistic goal or just a daydream? [more inside]
posted by windykites at 6:03 PM PST - 13 comments

What was this sit-in space vehicle toy I had as a kid?

The Christmas season has me thinking about a toy I had as a child in the late 70s and early 80s. I don't know what to call it -- or even what category of toy it is, so I can't search for it with Google. [more inside]
posted by Flying Saucer at 5:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Great historical fiction for YOUNG kids?

I want to get my girl (8 years old) some highly readable historical fiction. I have two goals: (1) get her great, interesting stuff to read that will entertain her and broaden her horizons, and (2) more specifically, get her books set in places that we may actually go, since it's so much more interesting to visit places when you have a context for them. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 5:42 PM PST - 24 comments

Need to remove a file from Yahoo Groups but we don't know what group

A document revealing my friend's private information has shown up on Google searches and she is hoping to have it removed. It looks as if someone posted the PDF to Yahoo Groups, as a file attachment. The trouble is that we can't figure out what Group it belongs to because the URL is obscure. [more inside]
posted by steinsaltz at 5:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Documentary on Time

I am looking for the title of a documentary on the concept of time that I think was produced for the Discovery Channel in the mid 90s. It was rather bland, but I still want to see it again. It wasn't about time travel or anything flashy, it was just about the concept of time. Can anyone point help me out with a title or a place where I can purchase it?
posted by 517 at 5:33 PM PST - 2 comments

First generation iPad browser (or other!) help for crashing, viewing

My iPad 1 (iOS 5) crashes a lot and has trouble viewing some sites (dlisted, I'm looking at you). I'm running Safari. Any advice on how to make it stop is greatly appreciated, I'm happy to change settings, browser, jailbreak, etc, I just don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by cestmoi15 at 5:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Socially responsible credit card?

I need to sign up for a new credit card and am looking for one that is as socially/environmentally responsible as possible (i.e. not tied to big banks, corporations and/or oil companies who would be profiting off me as a consumer and doing bad things with that profit). Does such a card exist? I've searched online but am wary of bias.
posted by athousandtelephones at 5:21 PM PST - 10 comments

I would like to learn more about Japanese mythology

What are some good English-language resources to learn about Japanese mythology? Book recommendations are welcome, too. My interest is mostly to gain some background knowledge that would help me understand better Japanese novels or manga, in the way that knowing Greek or Norse mythology is helpful when reading Western literature.
posted by needled at 4:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Turn-based games for both the iPhone & Kindle Fire

My mom and I have been playing Words With Friends lately (I have an iPhone 4S and she has a Kindle Fire). We want to find more games to play together that are turn-based, that work on both devices, and that are ideally free (or at least cheap). We like puzzles, word games and classic card/board games, and want something that won't feel too slow, as she only plays once per day. This has been much harder to Google than I expected, so I'm hoping to gather some recommendations.
posted by JannaK at 4:06 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I fabricate stuff?

What books will show me how to fabricate stuff? The FabLab curriculum is oriented more towards digital fabrication techniques, but I'm interested more in (seemingly) simple things such as all the different types of fasteners for hanging things on walls, or how to make objects that serve a function (e.g., a lamp, or a steel-and-wood bench) look less, well, home-made. I guess what I'm asking, and have a hard time translating into a search query, is: how do I learn to make the things I want to make look more designed and less like they were a Saturday-afternoon hobby project? (which, in all fairness, they are) [more inside]
posted by ar0n at 3:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Which figureheads have taken power?

Just what the title says. Besides the Meiji restoration, when did a figurehead manage to overthrow / take over from whoever the de facto rulers were? Bonus points for figurehead positions that had actually held power in the past and lost it.
posted by PMdixon at 3:30 PM PST - 10 comments

Snowflake seeking snow-free home

I want to move someplace in the US where I can find a good enough job to pay the rent, have a good social life, and avoid all of the weather that New England has. This is pretty much all I have to go on, so I need some help figuring out how to proceed from here. [more inside]
posted by cheerwine at 2:19 PM PST - 47 comments

help with post-break up coping?

i'm at break-up +3 months and could stand to re-up my mefite input as regards coping. [more inside]
posted by fingers_of_fire at 1:08 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I write a will and help my mentally ill son become independent?

I am a woman in my early sixties and have a son with pervasive developmental disorder (Aspergers and bipolar) in his early thirties who lives with me. Although I am currently in good health, I am aware that there is an urgency to write a will which I have been putting off due to anxiety about the situation. I am unsure of how to go about doing this. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:56 PM PST - 17 comments

What's the best option for a dedicated media box for my tv?

For the past year, I've been plugging my laptop into the TV using an HDMI cable to watch netflix, youtube clips, or TV shows. This is getting tedious, and I'd like to move to a dedicated box for this purpose. But I don't know what to get. [more inside]
posted by zug at 12:23 PM PST - 21 comments

Software for jamming along with on guitar, with tampura?

I play solo guitar, and had great fun jamming along to a tampura, which is an indian drone machine. I'm wondering if there is any software that can replicate this sound, or perhaps an album with 'very' minimal production in a single key. I'm particular interested in playing celtic music, and perhaps the blues also if a chord sequence facility exists? I'm aware there are some complex 'band in a box' midi sequencers that can do this, but I'm looking for a simple solution with high quality looping droney sounds with some organic sounding variance.
posted by molloy at 12:19 PM PST - 5 comments

dealing with dry skin and being active outdoors

I like running in the cold, but it’s majorly screwing up my skin and drying out my already dry skin much more than usual. Please help me! [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 12:16 PM PST - 7 comments

What does a "John Dos Passos-like list" look like?

I was reading a review of Kim Stanley Robinson's 2312 and a reviewer said the following: The author inserts John Dos Passos-like lists here and there in the text. Not quite sure that works, however (These lists are distorted and truncated in the Kindle edition). What do these lists look like? [more inside]
posted by hjo3 at 12:15 PM PST - 3 comments

How seriously should I take the "in a relationship" in her fb status?

I met a woman I liked through a common friend. I've learned from my friend that this woman has recently broken up with her boyfriend. I think I heard she is seeing someone new. I don't know for sure. My friend does not know about my interest in this woman, and I don't want to openly ask if she is available. Said woman befriended me on facebook soon after we met. I checked her profile and it reads "in a relationship". There are no boyfriend's photos, names, or specific references to a SO in her recent posts. She might have neglected to update her relationship status (even though she has been posting other pretty personal stuff lately) or she may indeed be in a relationship. If she is not, I would be interested in starting chatting. So, is it common to be single and leave the fb "in a relationship" unchanged? Would you attempt to establish contact here? How would you go about that? PS: I know there´s plenty of fish in the sea, "fish" whose singledom is less uncertain, but I'm interested in exploring this particular situation now.
posted by Basque13 at 12:01 PM PST - 23 comments

magical realism/surreal books by women

I love Kelly Link, Jeannette Winterson, Margaret Atwood, Karen Russell, and Aimee Bender. I would like to read more books like this. Women authors only please, and I'd also love to have more queer and of color authors in my library. Thanks !
posted by dysh at 11:24 AM PST - 43 comments

How can I save money on food?

How can I save money on food if I live in a place with roommates and an inoperable kitchen? Assuming that nothing in the kitchen works and that I work a full time job, study part time, and my roommates are overgrown slobs who I never see and don't really care about my opinions or thoughts.
posted by antgly at 11:15 AM PST - 41 comments

Using mascara without the brush.

So I'm having a recurrent pink eye issue that has been going on for months. Obviously eye make-up is a no go, but considering this has been going on for so long, I feel I should probably just work around it instead of waiting it out. Does anyone have any techniques for putting on mascara without touching the brush? [more inside]
posted by Dynex at 11:05 AM PST - 8 comments

Honda CRV: Road Noise for the Ears?

My trusty Chevy finally gave up the ghost after eleven loyal years, thus I am in the process of picking out a new vehicle and have focused my sights on the Honda CRV EX-L. While this model is ranked by many as best in its class, one continual complaint I keep reading is that it suffers from excessive road noise. I would love any input from CRV owners or those who have had experience in riding in Honda CRVs. [more inside]
posted by Atreides at 10:41 AM PST - 15 comments

How long is too long for muscles to heal?

So I'm older now and I know that injuries take long to heal. I'm just trying to get a handle on my new normal. I pulled the muscles in my upper arm two months ago and it's still sore. Is this normal for age 40ish? [more inside]
posted by Jalliah at 10:23 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I automate my new year's resolutions?

I have a number of goals, not quite new year's resolutions exactly, but the new year is getting me going on implementing them. They include reading more, running more, staying on top of current events, continuing to study French, listening to more new-to-me music, things like that. None of these are measurable or "SMART" goals, and that's the way I want it--I want this stuff to become a habit, not a chore. How can I automate these goals so that they are more likely to just happen? [more inside]
posted by payoto at 9:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Is There Such a Thing as 1000D Ballistic Nylon?

ThinkGeek is selling a "deluxe" version of their Grab-it pack holster which they claim is made from 1000D Ballistic Nylon. However, from what I can find there is no such thing as 1000D Ballistic Nylon. Instead, there's 100D Cordura Nylon (initially used in the 80's). Am I wrong here? Is the description on ThinkGeek incorrect? If it is, what is the primary difference(s) between Cordura and Ballistic nylon?
posted by OpnSrce at 9:26 AM PST - 2 comments

Dell vs Lenovo or other Desk-top for writing paper, surfing net

I am not a gamer or anything, and I want a desktop for writing papers at home. I got the Dell 20 inch all in one for $349 but I cannot believe how slow it is on the internet- brand new out of box, and it froze a few times. I want to be under 500, ideally no more than $450. I like the flat screens at least 20 inch. Any advice? thanks!! i like the lenovo monitors and key boards. [more inside]
posted by TRUELOTUS at 9:20 AM PST - 12 comments

Central American lion parks

Is there a statue of a lion (or possibly Chinese lion) in or near a nature preserve or park in Central America? [more inside]
posted by Jacen at 8:09 AM PST - 2 comments

You're MythTV, no good for me

A friend purchased a generic smart TV box (running Android 4.2) for use as a PVR for her elderly mother for Christmas, but is seeking a port of the MythTV back-end. It seems like it should be simple, but neither of us has been able to find an answer. Compiling the source code is apparently not an option as that would void the warranty and they are not comfortable. Does anyone know of an alternative that isn't a paid subscription service (a TV guide like ICE TV) for Australia that will work? I'm not that smart in PVRs, but we are both comfortable with Linux at different levels.
posted by Mezentian at 7:47 AM PST - 2 comments

Recommendations/advice/reassurance for a trip to Pakistan?

My colleague (who is from Pakistan originally, is well-traveled, and is well-known/liked within the science community within Pakistan) has invited me to join him at a scientific conference (all-expenses-paid) in Bahawalpur (Punjab province) in February. After consulting with my wife, I accepted, and I'm excited, but I'm also a bit nervous. I could use recommendations, advice from those who know Pakistan (and especially this area), and especially reassurances, as many people look at me as though I'm crazy when I mention that I'm going to Pakistan. [more inside]
posted by JMOZ at 7:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Jessa-fy my relationship

What fun, romantic, slightly edgy things could I do with my boyfriend? Things are really good between the two of us, and we are not particularly "edgy" people. He is extremely sweet and actually a bit of an introvert. But we often joke that deep down inside, he has a part of him that wants to be wild and carefree, and flirt with danger. We refer to this as his "inner Jessa" after the obnoxious character on the series Girls who lives for the thrills and doesn't care what people think. What surprises could I spring on him that will appeal to his inner Jessa? What have you done for your boyfriend/girlfriend along these lines? It should be something fun, unconventional and maybe slightly transgressing society's accepted boundaries. [more inside]
posted by creeky at 5:44 AM PST - 20 comments

Makeover, Boston edition

Where can I go to get a good haircut, makeup tutorial, or personal stylist in the Boston area? [more inside]
posted by redlines at 5:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Keeping friends in the loop?

Last night, while capping off a great day out, my girlfriend stumbled upon a big table crowded with friends she knew from before we met. It created a wave of sadness and nostalgia on her part that I could not do much about but listen. We go on several dates each month. I am working really hard to make our life more certain and rich but see clearly that I am not able to provide enough group experiences that my girlfriend would enjoy. I like to entertain but she is tired of always having everyone at our house. I can find lots of groups to join. I really want to ask her friends not to forget about us when they are going for a night out. What are some tactics I could use to do this?
posted by parmanparman at 4:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Animal birthday cake suggestions for a big kid please!

My sister's birthday is coming up and I'm developing a tradition of baking her a cake in the shape of an animal. Looking for animal and recipe suggestions. [more inside]
posted by neilb449 at 3:16 AM PST - 12 comments

Jarred awake by sensation of someone grabbing, shaking, or poking me?

I'm sometimes jarred awake by the physical sensation of a hand roughly grabbing, shaking, or poking me. What's going on? NON-WOO EXPLANATIONS ONLY, PLEASE! [more inside]
posted by Jacqueline at 1:44 AM PST - 15 comments

What would happen to an astronaut if they floated off in space?

After watching Gravity and Europa Report I started to wonder what would happen to an astronaut's body if they floated off in space. Googling reveals information about how long they'd be able to breathe (~8 hours) and that we have little jet packs that can help people maneuver, but nothing about what would happen over thousands or millions of years, assuming there's no way to rescue the astronaut alive or dead and they drift off into outer space, say on an interplanetary mission and not near the Earth's atmosphere to be burned up. [more inside]
posted by UltraFleece at 1:00 AM PST - 11 comments

December 28

Integrating receipt scanner with Sage 50, Canadian edition

My husband and I have a small consulting business. I would like to scan all our receipts and then download them into Sage 50 so as to save time when doing our monthly accounting. Do you have any experience doing this? What hardware/software did you use? Did you have to do anything special to be compliant with the CRA? [more inside]
posted by angiep at 9:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Int student finishing MFA, possibly obtain one-year working pass...

I'm a semester away from finishing my MFA in San Francisco and I'm looking for advice on how to start job-searching especially as a (about to be former) international student. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 9:42 PM PST - 3 comments

Meter Reader Craziness

Help me understand why the energy company seems to (somewhat randomly) choose to estimate my energy usage rather than billing me for actual usage. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 9:17 PM PST - 9 comments

Sing along with Jabo

I'm looking for suggestions for songs and/or free songbook pdfs for a sing-a-long. [more inside]
posted by jabo at 8:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Sex and intimacy and emotional connection

For the last odd month, I have been getting together with this guy and having really enjoyable/intimate/fun sex together. He just wants to be friends, but I'm half trying to convince myself that it could be/will be more, eventually. I just don't get it, how can the sex be this lovely with no emotional attachments on his side? [more inside]
posted by Ocellar at 6:20 PM PST - 50 comments

Name that tune

There is a short YouTube video that contains three songs. The second of three has me stumped. Can you help? Songs: 1. Kuomintang - Teargas & Plateglass 2. The second seems to start at about 0:35 of the video, seems to have a similar feel to Teargas & Plateglass but I'm stumped. 3. Cloud Atlas End Title
posted by firetruckred at 6:15 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for first- or second-hand expereinces with no!no! hair removal

There's a new version of the no!no! hair removal system, so I'm taking another stab at asking the hive mind for their opinion. The question was asked back in 2008 and 2004; back then it was new and pretty unknown and now the usual online sources have as many good reviews as bad. Five years later, I'm hoping there are enough MeFites that have tried it to get a better sense of how well it works. [more inside]
posted by Room 641-A at 6:05 PM PST - 8 comments

I want to do a Manhattan Project on obtaining a post-grad degree.Advice?

Hello, Is there a formula for thriving at post-grad level with a reputable degree? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 5:06 PM PST - 9 comments

Best recipes for savory cereal/Chex mix?

I'm looking for the best recipes for homemade chex/snack mixes. Savory, not sweet. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 4:59 PM PST - 16 comments

Am I being undermined at work?

Something upsetting happened at work that makes me feel totally undermined, but I'm not sure how to handle it. Can I get some help from the office politics gurus of MeFi? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:25 PM PST - 16 comments

Lost my camera in the snow; is it worth trying to find it in the Spring?

I dropped our point-and-shoot today while sledding with the kids. I figure the camera is a write-off, but I may be able to find it when the snow melts. Will the SD card still be good? [more inside]
posted by werkzeuger at 2:31 PM PST - 11 comments

Seeking meat slaughter in Los Angeles

I have never seen my meat slaughtered, and wish to either witness this or do it. This will be a learning experience for me and for my teenage nephew. Is there a place within L.A. County to participate in or to witness slaughter?
posted by goofyfoot at 2:24 PM PST - 23 comments

I need 80's instrumental sex music.

For a comedy show I need some 80's sex music. Something funky but definitely of the 80's and it can't have words, or at least have large sections with no words.
posted by Uncle at 1:55 PM PST - 23 comments

Registered nurse vs physician assistant

Hello. I need your opinion on going back to school. I currently work in healthcare in a hospital lab as a technician. I make good money don't get me wrong but I would like more responsability, more clinical diagnosis and treatment related job. I want to interact with patients and be a more important person than just a lab tech. I am thinking nursing school or physician assistant school. Please tell me the reality on the field, which one job gives you more satisfaction: pa or rn?i am 27, almost married,no kids, no house. I have a bachelor in biology/ medical technology. Do you think the rn to nurse practitioner is a better option than the physician assistant?
posted by barexamfreak at 1:44 PM PST - 16 comments

Three odd negs?

Lecturer's odd behaviour from the semester is still niggling at me, what was it about? [more inside]
posted by Chorus at 1:31 PM PST - 31 comments

How can I assert my dislike of something more effectively?

How do you honestly and politely let someone know when you don't like something that they absolutely love without opening the door for them to try and convert you into liking it? [more inside]
posted by These Birds of a Feather at 1:31 PM PST - 25 comments

NYC neighborhood with no pigeons?

Im looking for a neighborhood to move to with no lots of pigeons around the subway stations. All borough including Jersey City are considered, but I'm really trying to stay in affordable ones. I find all lower Brooklyn are ridden by the rats with wings, especially D train Ft.Hamilton pkwy and all stops follows, all lower part of N trains especially Bay Pkwy. I also found lots of pigeons at grove st stop of PATH in Jersey city. Queens seems hae more rodent problems. Please help give some advice about really clean and affordable neighborhood in NYC. I caught Lyme disease in one dirty residence. I am sick with rats and rats with wings in NYC.
posted by pack2themoon at 1:14 PM PST - 22 comments

Is it better to read Proust when you're young, or when you're old?

I'm approaching forty; there are only so many books I'll get to read in my life. With that in mind, I'm trying to plan out my reading at the start of each year (planning one year at a time, mind you -- my 40-year-old self doesn't get to be the boss of what I read when I'm eighty). [more inside]
posted by spacewaitress at 1:10 PM PST - 27 comments

Transitioning from academia back to a former job

I'm coming to think that, while I don't hate academia, I'm beginning to like it less and less and have apprehensions about continuing through to my dissertation. I'm in my second year of the PhD program, and have a masters with practical application in the field that I was working in before deciding to continue on to my PhD. The place where I was working, a public library, is now hiring for a position similar to the one that I was in before I left. Typically my master's degree would command a higher salary, and I think I would probably need a little bit more than what they're offering to live comfortably and start paying down my extant debt accrued during my masters (I'm not taking on any new loans, thankfully). I left on great terms, and feel like a really strong candidate for the job with the skills I've gained in the interim, but would only be able to take it with slightly higher salary than they offer now. I loved this job, and it's looking more and more appealing compared to my current experience in academia. What steps should I take to contact the HR department of the library system to a) let them know that I'm interested and suss out how interested they might be in me, and b) talk about flexibility in salary? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:00 PM PST - 2 comments


How to stop stress/procrastination/self-punishing/comfort binge eating? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 12:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Dark spots

A couple of months ago I noticed a couple of dark spots in the back of my neck. Now they are bigger (I was getting my hair cut, they thankfully don't have hair). I'm going to the doctor at some point in the future but I'm wondering if they are 'GO NOW' priority or 'Wait until I get paid'. Any ideas?
posted by anonymous at 12:41 PM PST - 7 comments

How has the MFA/Creative Writing affected fiction?

Is it possible for a layperson to differentiate an MFA trained author from one who isn't?
posted by larry_darrell at 12:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Where Can I Send My Supplement Off For Testing?

I have a 'condition.' There is a supplement touted as a miracle pill for those with it. Recently I went to purchase another bottle of my trusty supplement, which costs $59 for 60 pills, and I came across a few reviews stating that the content in the capsules is just plain white sugar. I thought what a joke, but I cut one of mine open anyway, and lo and behold, it looks, tastes, and smells exactly like white refined sugar! [more inside]
posted by OneHermit at 12:27 PM PST - 13 comments

How far in advance to buy trip/travel insurance?

We're booking flights from the US to Scandinavia soon, with the trip planned for late May 2014. I'm getting confusing guidance about when it's best to buy trip/travel insurance from a third party vendor (i.e. not our airline). [more inside]
posted by midatlanticwanderer at 12:16 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there a decent weekly news-in-review podcast?

I've been looking for a good weekly news-in-review podcast, but I can't find one. Surely one must exist - right? [more inside]
posted by maxim0512 at 11:46 AM PST - 2 comments

Grieving - my boyfriend was supportive but has become unsympathetic?

My boyfriend has gone from being supportive to unsupportive/critical of me in a short space of time. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 11:25 AM PST - 38 comments

It's only for personal use, honest.

Please advise me on the best microphone to buy in order to record vocals at home. [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 11:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me find hope that things will get better

Things just keep getting worse and I don't know what to do. Please see extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 11:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Tell me what to watch.

I've got the landlord coming on Monday to do something mysterious to my appliances and my apartment is a slight disaster area. The only way I can stomach cleaning for extended periods is to watch a show or movie in an alternating schedule--20 minutes of cleaning, 20 minutes of watching, rinse and repeat. I need more stuff to watch. [more inside]
posted by xyzzy at 10:35 AM PST - 42 comments

Traffic Hell A

How long would you expect it to take me to get to LAX from Pasadena this Tuesday (New Year's Eve) for a noon flight? [more inside]
posted by gerryblog at 9:42 AM PST - 5 comments

How can I be (or demonstrate that I am) more thoughtful?

It's clear that my partner thinks I'm not as thoughtful as he is. How can I become more thoughtful - or prove to him that I am being thoughtful - without keeping a tally sheet or going crazy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:19 AM PST - 22 comments

Help us plan a Southern road trip from Chicago!

We have 7-10 days for a road trip (leaving from Chicago in a couple days) and are thinking of exploring the South by car. Where should we stop, and what should we see? Thoughts we've had include driving towards Florida or Savannah and hitting Cattanooga, Asheville, Bowling Green, and/or Nashville. We will have one dog with us, so bonus points for State Parks or Forests where we can hike with her, but we'd like to see some towns or cities, too. Thank you, hive mind!
posted by walla at 9:17 AM PST - 6 comments

Broadchurch font

Hoping that the fab font people on here might be able to help me out. I was wondering if anyone can identify the font used for the title in the Broadchurch tv series? We are currently branding our music company, and this is EXACTLY the sort of font we have been searching for. I have done some poking around, but I can't find a listing for that particular font. Any assistance would be greatly appreciated. Thanks!
posted by ChaoticIndustry at 9:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Hit me with your best music macrohistories!

Trying to find the perfect book to scratch a partner's literary itch for macrohistories related in some way to music. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Stacey at 9:14 AM PST - 12 comments

Vacation days on loan from employer

The company I work for is changing their policy on vacation days. Has anyone ever heard of vacation days being "loaned" to employees to be paid back if/when that employee left the company before the end of the year? [more inside]
posted by Shadow Boxer at 8:48 AM PST - 29 comments

Help me get rid of my 'idea possessiveness'

I have a tendency to be protective or possessive over what I consider to be (but isn't at all) my personal intellectual property. I would like to figure out ways to get rid of this feeling. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by ladybird at 8:07 AM PST - 25 comments

Help me find very large wool or wool blend socks

I have very wide feet and I wear either a sock for wide feet or a sock in size 12-15 or XXL. These are hard enough to find in regular white cotton socks and I need to find them in a warm wool or wool blend sock.
posted by john123357 at 7:41 AM PST - 10 comments

Do warm, non-synthetic, petite maternity pants exist?

I'm mid-second trimester and not fitting into any of my pre-pregnancy pants anymore, so I'm looking for suggestions of maternity clothing -- stores, brands, styles -- with the following constraints: [more inside]
posted by nonane at 7:35 AM PST - 15 comments

Carved up Skyrim for multiple characters?

I got Skyrim for Festivus, yay! I'd like to experience it as more that one play style; how can I divide up the map / quests so that I have minimal repetition? I tend to explore and have a hard time saying 'no' to side-quests; are there areas that I should save for one particular class?
posted by a robot made out of meat at 7:26 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I figure out workplace a job-seeker?

I'm currently employed, but looking for a new position, due in part to cultural aspects of my current job that are a bad fit. How do I figure out the culture of a prospective employer without dooming my candidacy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:46 AM PST - 15 comments

how to explain away this short tenure in my next interview?

after more than 3 years with my current firm, i am in the market again looking for the next gig. however there was a short stint on my resume i found very nagging. details below. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Stray Xbox Identity

When I boot Windows 8.1, I usually play a game of solitaire to let the computer sort itself out and get my juices running. (My drug of choice is 2-suit Spider.) When I click on the solitaire link at the opening screen, a popup opens at the top right saying "Xbox Games WarmedMilk72469." I have no Xbox and have never played Xbox games on this computer. Am I infected with something? Is the popup simple to get rid of?
posted by KRS at 6:07 AM PST - 3 comments

Where did the Menu go when viewed on an Ipad vertically.

I purchased a template that adapts to the device it is being viewed on. It works as it should on all devices I've tested it on except that when viewed on an iPad - specifically in portrait - the top menu disappears. When viewed in landscape, it is fine. Link to the (totally SFW) template running on my server after the jump. [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 5:51 AM PST - 9 comments

How to say nicely no, we can't bring a parcel back into Australia?

We're staying at an Airbnb in Malaysia and the host has asked us if we could bring a small present back to Australia with us, for a friend of hers who also lives in Australia. There is no way in the world I am doing this. I am 99.9 percent certain that it is just Chinese New Year decorations as the host says, but I really have no way of knowing for sure and have no ambitions whatsoever to find out that it is something prohibited or illegal from a customs officer on arrival in Australia. How can I say phrase my refusal so that she doesn't loose face? [more inside]
posted by t0astie at 4:35 AM PST - 27 comments

A flash cartoon. I saw it. I know I did.

I give up. I saw a flash cartoon. Maybe, what, ten years ago? There was a miniature king. Birds. Talking birds? It was dream-like. The sound sparse and excellent. I remember the thing being theme-wise pretty dark. I've since looked high and low and have not been able to find it. Any ideas?
posted by Time To Sharpen Our Knives at 3:40 AM PST - 5 comments

Why does dropping the 5th sound nice?

When you make a 7th chord, it's common to drop the fifth. We're told it "sounds better," apart from fingering considerations. Why? What is is about the fifth that doesn't go so well when the 7th is in there too?
posted by Opengreen at 3:06 AM PST - 12 comments

December 27

Best prepaid plan for iPhone 4s?

I previously had an android phone and was doing the t-mobile unlimited talk/text/data for $50 a month. Now I have a used iPhone 4s. I've never used anything made by Apple before so I'm a bit confused. From some research, it appears that data network is different and doesn't support 4g the same way so the t-mobile thing I was doing may not be the best way to go? Anyway, does anyone know what is the best deal for a (preferably) prepaid talk/text/data plan for the iphone 4s? Thanks!
posted by long haired child at 11:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Gift for 21 year old guy.

So I have a nephew who is 21 years old that I don't know AT ALL. His mom just married my brother, so he's only been family for a few months. I'm going to see them for Christmas tomorrow and I just realized I don't have a gift. Ideas are needed! [more inside]
posted by odragul at 9:52 PM PST - 18 comments

There's one bottle of gin on the wall

My partner and I are about spend the next two weeks camping in a fairly remote national park in Tasmania. We are bringing a bottle of gin because we like it and being compact it can come in by boat with our other supplies. We can buy limited other supplies before we leave to mix with it. Other than that we will have access to (possibly rather mediocre) tank water and a decent camp kitchen. So please give us all your creative gin cocktail recipes that can be prepared with limited ingredients in the middle of nowhere. We will toast you as we drink them!
posted by deadwax at 9:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Name the movie I am thinking of! (Or tell me it is all in my head)

Name the movie I am thinking of! (Or tell me it is all in my head) [more inside]
posted by halseyaa at 8:57 PM PST - 11 comments

Unusual rental situation

Renting a house where the landlord will stay some weekends - bad idea? Have you ever done this? [more inside]
posted by galenka at 8:28 PM PST - 22 comments

Songs for when the boyfriend is away. "Home is wherever I'm with you..."

My boyfriend is away and I'm making a playlist of poppy songs about love that are either cheery (& uptempo) or lovely/sweet (& understated) without being "too much" of a good thing. Currently have two songs: I wouldn't dance and Home. Nothing over-the-top (no Whitney Houston or other full-lung songstresses, nothing overproduced). Any decade is fine by me. Unfortunately, I don't have much happy music and I've run out of songs already (and one of my two songs is already leaning heavily towards sad/wistful!). Any help?
posted by flibbertigibbet at 6:27 PM PST - 38 comments

Where to find mulled wine in Vancouver, BC Dec 28, 29 ?

The only place the Internet indicates we can find this is the Christmas Market, which has ended for the season. I've called a few places but haven't found anyone who currently has this beverage on their list. Will be there the 28th - 30th, and if anyone could point us at a place where we could find a glass of Gluhwein, mulled wine, Glogg (insert appropriate diacriticals where needed,) would be most appreciative.
posted by dorgla at 6:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Ashes - Splitting After Cremation

Ashes taken against both the letter and spirit of the dead's wishes. [more inside]
posted by Talez at 6:07 PM PST - 10 comments

Look, let's shelve this discussion for a minute.

I just moved into a house and I'm trying to figure out what to do with our considerable wall real estate. One thing we saw that we liked was this image of bookshelves along a wall and above a doorway. We were hoping to emulate that idea with this wall. Can you help us? [more inside]
posted by to sir with millipedes at 5:47 PM PST - 11 comments

We got hitched! Going to see a lawyer for a will. What to ask?

A week ago today, my sweetheart and I got (gay) married in Utah! We're thrilled. We're going to see a lawyer familiar with gay rights issues that our friend recommended in the new year so we can draw up wills, etc. Here's the question: what is the etc? And any tips for input on wills? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 5:18 PM PST - 8 comments

science + art = ?

Please help a generalist brainstorm on what to do for a living. I'm finishing up a PhD in the physical sciences, and I love art and design. I'm happiest if I can constantly learn new subjects and if I can make things every day. How do I bring the parts of science and the parts of art that I love into the working world? [more inside]
posted by you're a kitty! at 4:56 PM PST - 20 comments

Swoon! Parka love! But I need more information.

I am on the verge of this parka by Quartz Nature. I have searched the web for reviews of this Quebec company, to no avail. (Really, the NSA would have been proud of my efforts.) I'm more looking for reviews of their coats, rather than of the company, but there's just nothing out there for me to read. Do any of you MeFites happen to be Quartz Nature customers? Do tell all.
posted by BostonTerrier at 4:18 PM PST - 6 comments

PDF form checkboxes go blank when emailed. Why?

Updated a PDF form for a client. Now, checkboxes go blank when the form is emailed or saved. Why? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 3:53 PM PST - 6 comments

How can I help my friend come out to play with baby around?

I've only seen my best friend outside of his house twice this year. He and his wife have a 15-month-old baby boy, and they ignore, decline or don't make it to every social engagement because the baby might cry, or the baby is sleeping. They've all but stopped communicating with me. Help me understand why this is so hard for them, and if there is there any advice I can use or pass on that can help? [more inside]
posted by cogat at 2:57 PM PST - 55 comments

101 guide to NYC laundry service

I've been dropping off my laundry for the past several years now, but really only know about the drop and fold. My work wardrobe is more business attire these days (male), but can't seem to figure out the terms and services usually available. This may sound a little silly, but I run into language barriers and unclear signs in every laundromat in a 10 block radius. So whats usually available besides the classic wash & fold (and dry cleaning)? -I have button down shirts, what does pressed mean? -Whats the correct term for wash and iron? Sometimes they look puzzled. (sometimes they don't have this service) -If you have your shirts done itemized, the $1.75 each option, what are they doing? -How do most men get there work shirts laundered at these places? Thanks, and note: these laundromat persons around me are all pleasant, and hard workers, but I just can't figure out whats what.
posted by shimmer at 2:47 PM PST - 10 comments

Evaluating a kid for possible attention, sensory, & motor issues

My son's teacher, my spouse, and I have concerns about a few different, but possibly related, issues with my 9 year old son. What kind of place should we bring him to for an evaluation? I'm looking for suggestions either about general kinds of places you might bring a kid to get an evaluation or for specific places in Portland, Oregon. Any other input on these individual issues, including how they might be related, is welcome as well. [more inside]
posted by bluedaisy at 2:26 PM PST - 15 comments

Grabbing an Expiring Low-Competition Domain

I want to try to buy a domain (expiring next month) which I'm pretty sure won't be competed for. I don't want to keep loading WhoIs (it's a hassle, plus I'm afraid my inquiries will be logged, creating the appearance of interest in the domain). GoDaddy and SnapNames offer aggressive sniping services which funnel into auctions, and this biz model creates incentive to escalate auction competition. Since I'm not anticipating competitive interest (nor do I want to risk inducing it!), is there a non-industrial strength service which will simply monitor and grab the domain as it comes on the market, without all the dodgy auction provision stuff?
posted by Quisp Lover at 2:20 PM PST - 8 comments

Not Negging, But...

I was approached at a bar by a man who tried a very unusual line on me--one that I've heard before. Is this a common tactic in his world? [more inside]
posted by therewolf at 2:17 PM PST - 13 comments

My tub! It cannot be cleaned!

My husband and I are moving into a house soon (woo-hoo!) and want to leave our apartment spotless. This isn't an issue for any part of the place except for the bath tub! [more inside]
posted by Verdandi at 2:06 PM PST - 28 comments

Scenes about forgetting, then remembering again

There's a particular kind of movie scene I really like, where a character has forgotten their purpose (due to amnesia, magical fugue, etc -- not absent-mindedness), then remembers it and sets themselves back to the task at hand with a renewed sense of urgency. Please recommend me movies with scenes like this? Examples below the fold. [more inside]
posted by prize bull octorok at 2:05 PM PST - 18 comments

What should I title my porn-related art project?

I'm doing a rather extensive art project that uses images from porn magazines in various ways. I don't think it's important to discuss all those particulars but can leave a comment with them if that would help. Anyway, I'm having trouble coming up with a title for the overall series. I've considered synonyms for porn, words for porn in other languages, porn terms (like "money shot" and such), lines from famous quotes about porn, and a variety of other titles, but none seem right. Does anyone have suggestions? Even if you have a general suggestion (like "why don't you read x website?") rather than a specific phrase, that would be helpful. Thanks.
posted by mermaidcafe at 12:23 PM PST - 24 comments

Upcoming contemporary dance in NYC?

I wanna go to some dance performances! Help me figure out what to see. [more inside]
posted by neroli at 12:17 PM PST - 7 comments

What to do about a dog's unwanted behavior?

A friend's dog has an unusual behavior. It he sees someone with shoes on, in other words walking or sometimes just standing, he goes nuts. I goes into a play bow and starts biting the shoes. Sometimes he succeeds in biting through a tennis shoe, for example, which is painful. If you move your feet, he thinks you are playing and becomes more aggressive. He will stare at the shoes looking for the slightest hint of movement. If someone tries to correct him, usually by saying no loudly, he pulls back and barks and maybe takes a swipe at a hand and becomes aggressive. I can sometimes get him to stop by holding on to his collar until he snaps out of it. But that is difficult to do sometimes. Otherwise this dog could care less about shoes. If there is a shoe on the floor he leaves it alone. But put on shoes and watch out. Any ideas how to correct this behavior? He is about a 2 year old lab mix, if that matters.
posted by jtexman1 at 11:46 AM PST - 16 comments

How to best treat rhinisitis?

The only cold symptom I ever get is a bad runny nose, what drug treats a runny nose and only a runny nose? [more inside]
posted by cirrostratus at 11:33 AM PST - 13 comments

LED TV breaking Wifi Network

I have a wifi network on an Airport Extreme 802.11n, extended by several Airport Express (2008 model, MB321LL/A) base stations. My new Samsung LED TV, in a room about 20 feet from the Airport Extreme, takes down my entire network—I can't reach the internet anywhere in the house—until I shut down the TV and reboot the Extreme. Suggestions for diagnosing and repairing the problem, please? [more inside]
posted by MarkWBennett at 11:05 AM PST - 9 comments

Where should I sell my camera, in Seattle?

I want to sell my Nikon D40. I live just north of Seattle. What's the best place for me to sell it? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 11:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Cooking with Asian ingredients, 101?

I recently made Smitten Kitchen's Miso Veggie Bowl for a holiday dinner, and it was incredible. (Seriously, try it.) But now I have quite a bit of leftover miso, sesame oil, rice vinegar, ginger, and sesame seeds. (Oh, and tahini, which isn't Asian, but I still don't know what to do with.) Help? [more inside]
posted by ulfberht at 11:01 AM PST - 27 comments

Dance "textbook" for different qualities of movement

I am at the stage in my dance hobby in which I am trying to go beyond individual moves into dancing those movements in a way that evokes a specific feeling. Whether it's assertive & funky, soft and flowing, or happy and excited--I need to learn how to use my body to convey different moods. I'm taking private lessons, but are there written resources like textbooks or handbooks that walk through basic principles like "here's what makes arm or leg lines look confident, this is how to make a movement look quieter, etc."? I do partner dancing but resources for any style of dance are welcome.
posted by philosophygeek at 11:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Inheritance question, Canadian/Dutch edition

Knowing none of you are my lawyer, I pose this actual inheritance situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:58 AM PST - 5 comments

cuckoo clock chimes at 10 before the hour

Hi - my Mom has this quartz cuckoo clock. It chimes at 10 of the hour and I'm hoping to fix it for her. [more inside]
posted by ftm at 10:26 AM PST - 2 comments

Good-quality men's warm pajamas (not made in China)

Misterben is seeking good-quality warm men's pajamas. LL Bean is excluded since the quality has dropped in recent years. Pants only or a set are OK. Flannel is preferable, although fleece will also be considered. The price should be approximately under $50 USD. Finally, they must not be made in China or from a brand that is known to use sweatshops. He loves US-made brands but we know that is hard to find at this price point.
posted by matildaben at 10:25 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I become an adventurer - and still get paid?

I want to move around the world, get paid a decent salary, and not have to worry much about room and board - What jobs should I apply to? [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 9:40 AM PST - 27 comments

Best mascara for dry eyes?

I was given a few no-no's for eye makeup by the eye doctor: must not be waterproof, avoid alcohol, and no oil-based makeup removers. How do I find brands/products that meet the above criteria? [more inside]
posted by lovelygirl at 9:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Fun Fun Elmo Filter

Looks like they just finished producing the first season of Fun Fun Elmo, which is the Chinese version of Sesame Street. I'm looking for other recommendations of Chinese children's shows that would be appropriate for my 5 year old. Pleasant Goat and Big Big Wolf (喜洋洋) is popular, but too violent. And "Dora the Explorer" in Chinese is interesting, but also not what we're looking for. We'd love suggestions like Adventures of Little Carp (小鲤鱼历险记) that were originally produced for a Chinese audience. Bonus points if you can direct us to shows that were designed to be educational (like Sesame Street), rather than just shows directed at kids.
posted by richmondparker at 9:36 AM PST - 3 comments

What should I do alone in Montreal tonight?

Staying downtown near Atwater metro. 25 year old woman [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:34 AM PST - 2 comments

What is this method of painting method called?

I have a couple small (approximately 3"x5" in) paintings that I picked up in a thrift store. Likely not worth much, but I like them and would like to find out more about them. Here is one, here is the other. [more inside]
posted by BeBoth at 9:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Looking for a good butcher in Seattle Eastside.

I moved (again), to the Seattle area, and am now without a good butcher (again). Can anyone recommend a good butcher in Seattle's Eastside (e.g. Redmond/Bellevue)? I cook pretty seriously, so ideally I'd like a place that has high quality meats, is knowledgeable enough to answer questions, can deal with custom or unusual orders, that kind of thing.
posted by madmethods at 9:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Tastes of the Midwest: Grocery Edition

I work with a small retailer of non-perishable foodstuffs (among other things). Niche and one-of-a-kind product lines—local/craft/boutique, organic, gluten-free, etc.—do quite well here, and we'd like to carry more of the same. [more inside]
posted by glibhamdreck at 8:55 AM PST - 7 comments

iPhone 4 versus iPhone 4s: antennas, maps, and iOS questions

I have a no-contract plan at Virgin Mobile USA, which I like because it is so cheap ($35/month for unlimited data and enough calling). The downside of cheap and no-contract is expensive phones. However, I just lost my Android phone and would like to switch back to iPhone. My options at Virgin are iPhone 4, for $200, iPhone 4s, for $314, or iPhone 5, for more than I want to pay really. How to decide? [more inside]
posted by toomuchkatherine at 8:54 AM PST - 13 comments

Stuck on you

What is the best way to clean and remove the remnants of vines that have been stuck to my garage wall for years in preperation for a paint job? The little nubs that remain after the vines have been pulled away.
posted by silsurf at 8:46 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I build the Best Of July-December 2013 playlist?

I have a friend who loves good music (a bit of explanation inside) and has been out of the country with limited media access for the last 6 months. I want to put together a sampler mix of everything she's been missing out on in the second half of 2013, but I don't know much about current music. What resources are out there that can help a musical novice assemble this playlist? [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 8:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Gift for an aspiring children's author

I want to get my friend a gift who would like to write books for children. But I don't know what would be a cool gift. What would you get an aspiring author? [more inside]
posted by Attackpanda at 8:33 AM PST - 6 comments

High maintenance fitness tracker recommendations

I'm looking for a fitness tracker / calorie counting app ( or a combination of, if I have to) with some fairly specific requirements [more inside]
posted by asockpuppet at 8:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Back muscle injury after car long to heal?

Hello all, I know YANMD, but I am curious about how to go about addressing my muscle gripes with a doctor. [more inside]
posted by Young Kullervo at 7:44 AM PST - 7 comments

What type of mental health professional do I need?

I'm working on separating from my spouse and need objective help on figuring out how to do this (financially, emotionally, working on co-parenting agreements). What type of mental health (or perhaps legal) help do I need to do this? (Like when I'm choosing from the insurance company dropdown menu or googling for people.) I need more than a mediator, I think.
posted by anonymous at 7:40 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I forgive my parents for reacting badly to my pregnancy?

My parents are very religious and do not agree with many of my life choices (I'm gay), but they have worked through their discomfort and I thought we were in a better place. They reacted badly to my new pregnancy and said horrible things which hurt me a lot. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:40 AM PST - 29 comments

help us choose our first iphones

My parents and I are about to get iphones (and smartphones!) for the first time. We're trying to choose between the 4s and the 5. I've heard that the 5 models tend to eat through data even when the user isn't meaning to use data. Can anyone confirm, deny, or otherwise talk about this problem? [more inside]
posted by tacoma1 at 6:23 AM PST - 15 comments

Best Canadian mail-away negative scanning services?

I have some 120 and some 35mm negatives that I would like to have scanned, and there's nowhere nearby that offers this service. Has anyone in Canada used a online mail-away negative scanning service? If so, what was your experience? If you do this regularly or have used more than one, which is your go-to?
posted by jpziller at 6:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Can you drink every day and not be an alcoholic?

Where is the line between drinking-is-my-hobby and alcoholism? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:15 AM PST - 44 comments

How can I write a good statement of purpose?

I'm applying to a competitive writing workshop and as part of the application I need to compose a cover letter / statement of purpose. What should I include? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 5:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Say this, not that

Recently I discovered some great phrases that work much better than the standard response to a situation, and was wondering if anyone had any others. [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 4:56 AM PST - 32 comments

Working in independent medical review

What do you know about working in independent medical review? [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 1:32 AM PST - 0 comments

December 26

Why is my boyfriend's behavior so inconsistent?

Do other people see this as normal, or am I clueless because I've never had children? [more inside]
posted by femmefatale123 at 11:23 PM PST - 26 comments

Intuitive Sensing, Sensory Intiution

In the world of Myers-Briggs, what's the difference between N and S? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 11:10 PM PST - 14 comments

Aspergers Career Paths?

I'm somebody who's classic Aspergers (very focused interests, excellent with little pieces of data, sociable but utterly clueless), who's increasingly aware a lot of jobs revolve around the political side of things, and who's currently tossing up on university courses for future career potential (environmental/geosciences being a current lock). [more inside]
posted by solarion at 10:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Recommend me a stylish nappy bag

We want to buy a nappy/baby bag but we don't like what we've seen. This may not be possible, but we'd like something for less than $150 aud including shipping, if relevant, and it needs to ship to or be available in Australia. We'd like something fairly modern. [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 10:55 PM PST - 16 comments

High quality flowers in Brooklyn?

I need to have flowers delivered to a friend in Brooklyn (South Slope), and I want them to be great - looking for recommendations for someone who can do a beautiful, high quality arrangement and won't try to rip me off or fall through on delivery.
posted by ryanshepard at 10:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Programs that will let me travel to Europe

Hello folks! I am looking for a way to spend the next 4-6 months travelling around Europe (I have some money saved up). Does anyone know ways to work for money or volunteer in Europe, preferably with a group of others? I don't have EU citizenship. Has anyone had any positive or negative experiences doing this? Thank you, and Happy (upcoming) New Year!
posted by Kombucha3452 at 10:25 PM PST - 7 comments

One False Keystroke

What am I doing that makes my computer suddenly read all inputs as though the Shift key were pressed, and how do I make it stop? [more inside]
posted by koucha at 9:07 PM PST - 5 comments

Help Me Find the Perfect Grown Up Classic Purse

I'm looking for suggestions for an everyday classic, leather, cross body purse without any bling. Mefi bag experts, I need your help to sort through my options or find the purse I saw on the green recently. [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 8:46 PM PST - 18 comments

Juvenile Glaucoma, Panic Panic

My second grader might have juvenile glaucoma. Our insurance is changing at the beginning of the year. How fast do we need to proceed? [more inside]
posted by Andrhia at 8:23 PM PST - 11 comments

How to walk to Hobbiton and other 365/52 challenges

I want to listicle my life in 2014. The web is full of 365 day/52 week project ideas like take a photo every day or cooking a dish from a new country every week, but short on the nuts and bolts of doing them. What kept you going? What made you drop the whole thing in March? What do you wish you'd prepared or done differently? What projects would you recommend from personal or friends' experiences? I'm interested in the process, not so much the project itself.
posted by viggorlijah at 8:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Salvage title requirements in MI

I purchased a used car from a family member without running a carfax report. My insurance agency just told me it was totaled before, and when I put the pieces of the story together that makes sense (the family member had told me he had "rebuilt" a part, but that term has not been completely elucidated until now). But the fact the car was totaled is not indicated on the title. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:04 PM PST - 3 comments

Resources for Period Accurate Decorating

I own a 1931 Arts & Crafts style house in Seattle, and am looking for resources to help me give it some "period accurate" accents. (For example, my foyer houses a working, refurbished phone from the 1930's). [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 7:43 PM PST - 12 comments

Just call him a litter bug

My cat tracks litter all over the house and my husband is Over It. Please help me keep both men in my life happy! [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 7:28 PM PST - 23 comments

Moisturizer for Hot tub?

We use the Soft Soak System by SpaGuard and in particular the Shock-Oxidizer, Stain & Scale, and the Sanitizer. Lately, it has really been drying our skin. Is there a moisturizer that can be used in concert with these to help with this?
posted by falsedmitri at 7:03 PM PST - 1 comment

Can I use my sister's US Verizon phone in the UK?

My sister just replaced her US-based Verizon Motorola Droid Razr and I want to know if I can use it in the UK. That is all.
posted by stinker at 6:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Can't remember old (50s? 60s?) horror movie - only remember the end

I think it was in black and white. It was definitely in English. Not sure if it was American or British. [more inside]
posted by Meep! Eek! at 6:39 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I find a "real" tech job?

My workplace is in a decline, and I think it's time for me to explore other options. I'm a programmer at heart, an architect and team leader in practice, and a manager in name. Prior to this job I'd had really soul-crushing experiences in consulting, so (for example) I am experienced with but extremely cynical about capital-E "Enterprise" platforms and technologies. I don't want to go back to that world; I want to find a company and a team with a spark of life to it and people with the incentives to help each other out. What's the best way to filter for tech job opportunities that won't sink me back into the muck? [more inside]
posted by my name is irl at 5:50 PM PST - 9 comments

3 motivational tools to help me rock 2014

I want an app, a visual reminder & a sound track. 2014 is going to be my best year yet, and I need some tools to make it work. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 5:48 PM PST - 8 comments

Be my personal suit shopper?

It is APPIC predoctoral internship interview season, and I need a new, formal suit ASAP for mid January! [more inside]
posted by amileighs at 5:44 PM PST - 14 comments

Hairstyles or other ideas for keeping sweat out of my hair?

Does anyone have any magic ways to keep your hair less sweaty while exercising? I want to run every second day, but I don't want to wash my hair that often and have just realised that that is actually the number one reason why I procrastinate on running. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 5:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Backpack for hiking supplies and easy access side pocket to DSLR camera?

Husband loves to take photos when hiking, but hates taking his backpack all the way off and on again every time he wants to reach for his camera. I need a hiking backpack for my husband that will hold all the regular stuff for a day hike but with some sort of easy access zippered side pocket where he can just reach around to grab his camera, shoot photos, and put it back inside while leaving the backpack on his back the whole time. Ideally for $60 or less. Searched around on amazon but cannot find it. Any suggestions? Thanks!
posted by skjønn at 4:48 PM PST - 13 comments

Why do the syrups go last?

We got a sodastream for xmas. All the instructions say to add the syrup *after* carbonating the water. Why? [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 4:20 PM PST - 11 comments

Fun neighborhoods for first time visitors to NYC?

I have been charged with being "the guy" to sort out accommodation for four of us in NYC in May. I know exactly what I want, but how do I ensure that I'm doing right by them? [more inside]
posted by pdb at 4:04 PM PST - 15 comments

New Year's Eve in Madrid

I am going to be in Madrid, Spain for a few days. Most of my time is scripted. However, I had the afternoon of New Year's Eve free. Do you have any suggestions on what to do? I am already going to the Prado, taking a walking tour, and a bus tour. I am looking for something that is a must see or do. I am a female in my early 40s. I may or may not be able to get someone else to go with me.
posted by nimsey lou at 3:47 PM PST - 10 comments

Why is it so hard to make it in America?

How would you put together a reading list that helps answer the question "how do Americans' present-day struggles for wellness, independence, and community compare to humans who've lived in other places and times in the ethnographic record?" [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 3:11 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me find a good older model DSLR

Hi all. I'm thinking of upgrading my camera from a bridge/superzoom to a proper DSLR. My budget is pretty small and it's likely to see some pretty rough use, so I probably don't want to get anything new. I think I have a pretty good idea of my requirements, but navigating the world of obsolete DSLRs is a bit complicated for me so I would appreciate your recommendations. [more inside]
posted by Scientist at 3:01 PM PST - 13 comments

Sexism for neckbeards

Please share with me your absolute beginner level resources to foist upon an unexamined sexist. Snowflake level: special needs. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 2:51 PM PST - 22 comments

Japanese document in "Sherlock"

At 3:35 in the "Unlocking Sherlock" video on, a scroll with Japanese characters is shown on the wall. [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 2:32 PM PST - 3 comments

Location Ideas for Wedding Photos in Brooklyn - Winter Edition

My sister will be getting married next month, Yeah! She doesn't know where to take her post-wedding/pre-reception pictures, Boo! Does anyone have any cool spots they know of in Brooklyn to take some wedding shots? [more inside]
posted by Julnyes at 2:23 PM PST - 7 comments

seeking xmas workout place in Portland OR

I'm visiting NE Portland for the holidays and want to be able to work out. I've called several nearby gyms and none of them offer day passes, they're all members only. Where should I go to burn off all the holiday eatings?
posted by Sauce Trough at 2:10 PM PST - 6 comments

Optimal Blind Spot Mirror Placement

I normally position my car's side mirrors according to this method of minimizing blind spots, but the car I'm driving now, the driver's side mirror will not move as far out as I need it to, so I am supplementing the mirrors with little convex blind spot mirrors (the current mirrors also won't show parking spot lines). However, what is the optimal placement for these? Outside/bottom? Inside/bottom? People have them all different ways and I'm wondering what works best. [more inside]
posted by Mo' Money Moe Bandy at 2:05 PM PST - 9 comments

New Year's break in Paris, on the cheap

My girlfriend and I have won a week's holiday in Paris over the new year period. Flights, bed, and breakfast are covered -- how can we stretch our food and entertainment budget? [more inside]
posted by pont at 1:33 PM PST - 22 comments

Give me your best savory finger food recipes, please. Celiac edition.

I've volunteered to bring some finger foods to a small New Year's Eve party of other adults who are, let's be honest, more serious foodies and better chefs than I am. One guest has Celiac disease, which eliminates the sorts of things I normally make - like little quiches/tarts, spanikopita, or cheese puffs - when I want to impress. Popping them in the oven to cook or reheat, or transporting them hot, is not a problem.
posted by DrGail at 1:17 PM PST - 24 comments

Good, symmetrical multi-button wireless mouse (for left-hander)?

Hi everyone. I'm looking for a wireless replacement for my Logitech MX310 mouse, which has served me well for years. Many mice have extra buttons that can be assigned to various functions. The nice thing about the MX310, though, is that its extra buttons were symmetrical, so it was as easy to use left-handed as right-handed. Do you have a recommendation for a good, relatively inexpensive wireless replacement?
posted by Alaska Jack at 1:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Do I tip my personal shopper?

Do I tip my personal shopper? I suspect the answer is yes. If so, how much? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 1:00 PM PST - 12 comments

Please explain like you are talking to a 3rd grader

I have a kindle and a kobo. I am trying to switch permanently from my kindle to my kobo which I will make my new ereader because it has many other options as well ( the tablet offerings). I have downloaded the epub mobi,az, etc. converter and epub master. I need to remove the kindle DRM to be able to move the kindle books to the kobo. Everything I read makes it seem so straightforward yet, there must be one thing I am missing. I have searched mefi for answers but am not finding anything that helps. Within my reading, it appears that using those programs you add the file and it converts it, super easy. Mine are not converting. [more inside]
posted by femmme at 12:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Suggest unto me more records like Ronnie Laws' Friends And Strangers.

So Im sitting in this dive downtown waiting for a friend to show up, and this lady in her 60's is absolutely destroying at Jukebox. I mean Delphonics, Philly Soul, early 70s Quincy (you gotta love the modern Internet jukebox.) So then, out of nowhere, the greatest song I have never heard comes on. It's Ronnie Laws' "Friends and Strangers" and the song hits me so square-on that I'm on ebay ordering the vinyl before the song even ends. Now I can't stop listening to the album and want more. That's where you come in... [more inside]
posted by Senor Cardgage at 12:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Which to watch first?

Should I re-watch The Shining before watching Room 237, or vice versa? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 12:23 PM PST - 21 comments

What CAN I eat?

Going to finally really commit to low-carb. Past attempts have obviously failed. Please set me up for success. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 12:22 PM PST - 29 comments

Was this car dealer taking me for a ride?

Does auto financing ever fall through after a car has been driven off a lot? Dealer tells me this is a usual situation. [more inside]
posted by gfrobe at 12:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me subtly prank a Philadelphia-obsessed friend

I'm looking to make a list of hockey players who have played for both the Buffalo Sabres and the Philadelphia Flyers. [more inside]
posted by troika at 12:00 PM PST - 5 comments

What's the best pen to get?

I'm looking for a refillable ink pen that I can use for years to come. [more inside]
posted by chrchr at 11:47 AM PST - 13 comments

Weird me out!

I'm fascinated with the Uncanny Valley theory and would like to see more examples of it. I'll look at anything: YouTube, movies, articles, books, video games - you name it, I want to see it. I've looked at several things online and have poured over the wikipedia entry for it, but I want to see the truly weird and far out examples of uncanny valley. Weird me out, MeFi!
posted by ThaBombShelterSmith at 11:27 AM PST - 18 comments

We're gonna need a montage!

I was joking with someone about needing a montage for getting in shape; now I'm stuck on the idea and want to build a playlist. [more inside]
posted by epersonae at 10:58 AM PST - 12 comments

Can I ever get the water marks off of my screen?

A few days ago, my Nexus 7 wasn't switching on. Taking off the back showed there was water inside it - though I hadn't dropped it in water. Left it to dry and it works again - save two 'water stains' on the screen. Does this mean it's likely to remain functional? And can I remove these water marks? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 10:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Recommend books about "infinity"

I'm looking for recommendations of popular science books about the mathematical / scientific concept of infinity. [more inside]
posted by DevonKappa at 10:43 AM PST - 11 comments

How To Close Yahoo Mail account???

Wanting to close my Yahoo account. How would I do so and save all past e-mails.
posted by goalyeehah at 10:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Children's book: mid 1970s, a scary (for me) mystery

This is what I remember: A boy (and his dog?) wants to go outside, and he asks his mother for permission. She says "okay, but don't cross any streets in this fog!" [more inside]
posted by Melismata at 10:26 AM PST - 3 comments

Crowdsourcing a 30-something New Years Eve in toronto: I need ideas.

My friends and I are single ladies in our mid 30s, and we want to go out on NYE, preferably to a restaurant and/or bar that is unlikely to be filled with 23 year olds in bandage dresses. [more inside]
posted by Kololo at 10:15 AM PST - 8 comments

Kids those days!

A few of Ernie Bushmiller's WW2-era Nancy comics mention a subculture called "Jitterbug" (as in "a jitterbug") that has its own fashion that I've never seen depicted anywhere else: Example 1, Example 2. Was this an actual thing? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 9:25 AM PST - 23 comments

Things to do with hummus

What interesting (food) things do you make with hummus? Sandwich combinations? Other ideas? [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 9:16 AM PST - 24 comments

Pure CSS Navigation

I need a pure CSS navigation menu solution for a static, one page application, the simpler the better. [more inside]
posted by jedicus at 9:07 AM PST - 9 comments

I am looking for a smartphone, without Google, Apple, or Microsoft.

I am looking for a smartphone, but do not want to be special friends with Google, Apple, or Microsoft. [more inside]
posted by adipocere at 9:00 AM PST - 29 comments

What concerns should I have about scientology and children?

How concerned should I be about the involvement of my nephew (12 yrs) and niece (10 yrs) in Scientology? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:53 AM PST - 36 comments

Maintaining significant weight loss: how do you do it?

A year and a half ago, I lost a large amount of weight, i.e. 75 lbs, or about 30% of my body weight on a very low calorie diet, under medical supervision. Although I was not able to follow the official maintenance program after moving to a new city, it was relatively easy to keep things stable for the first year. But, about four months ago, I notice that some of the weight--about eight lbs worth--had crept back on. Although I've lost five of them, the last three seem determined to stick around. This, combined with the dismal statistics on long-term maintenance (97% of people regain within five years), has me pretty scared. Have you beaten the odds, and if so, how do you do it? Also, what is the balance of food vs. activity in your regime? [more inside]
posted by navizzar at 8:29 AM PST - 19 comments

My hair is so dry and I am wondering why and how to improve it.

This has been going on for about a year. At first I noticed my shoulder length hair falling out more but that has definitely improved. For the last month it's begun to feel a little itchy and for a few weeks I started using dandruff shampoo every 2 days though I don't have that problem. Does anyone have any thoughts or solutions before I cut it.
posted by Tziv at 8:20 AM PST - 15 comments

Blindness translation to and from dreams?

I am a quite vivid dreamer, but one of my reoccurring themed dreams is me going along, usually in a vehicle which I may or may not control, and going blind temporarily while travelling in that vehicle. I'm used to them, but does going blind during vivid or lucid dreaming at all related to blindness caused by TIAs? [more inside]
posted by tilde at 8:06 AM PST - 16 comments

Using a 13" MacBook Air as an audio delay.

This is for live sound at a party. I need to add a delay to a set of speakers to synchronize them with the main stacks. I don't have a digital console or an effects box capable of this. Could I use something like Audiomulch to do it? How would I set up my 13" MacBook Air so it won't shut don't or cut the audio for several hours? [more inside]
posted by Monday, stony Monday at 7:56 AM PST - 8 comments

I need help with my son's iep

At the parent-teacher conference Dec 5th the teacher told me my autistic/ADHD/OCD/GAD child is so aggressive the staff fears their safety and want to use restrainsts, and they want to bring it up in the next iep. This is the first I've heard of any aggression. [more inside]
posted by FunkyHelix at 7:54 AM PST - 15 comments

Forgiving a parent's infidelity

I'm unsure if and how to forgive my father for having an affair. I feel that being unable to get past this, is affecting me as a person and has complicated my relationship with my mother. I'd really like to hear from others who may have come to crossroads with forgiving a loved one, especially anyone who's dealt with a parent's infidelity. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:42 AM PST - 31 comments

Give a kind bit of advice to a young lady adrift in the sea of life.

My brain is swirling with options and I just need kind advice. I have no shoulder on which I may settle my weight for a moment's rest. I beg your listening ear!Should I sit tight and save or make a move to take pressure off my vehicle? It needs to last me a few years.... How can I escape the white trash wastes I have been condemned to? [more inside]
posted by Driven at 7:22 AM PST - 34 comments

Best subway Android apps?

I just recently took the plunge and switched to Android, which has a lot of great/cool apps. Unfortunately, most of the ones I've been trying seem to require internet connection, which is completely useless to me. I want to play games in the subway: if I had internet connection, I'd be on the internet, not playing games. Can anyone recommend some good Android apps that don't need connection?
posted by corb at 7:09 AM PST - 12 comments

Great friend I grew up with passed away. Can't make his funeral.

A great friend of mine passed away. I can't make his funeral in another country tomorrow, and feel really guilty. Should I/what can I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:51 AM PST - 15 comments

men's leather trench coat, in the Greater Toronto Area?

Where in the GTA (greater Toronto area) is a good place to look, for a quality, genuine leather men's trench coat? [more inside]
posted by thermonuclear.jive.turkey at 5:30 AM PST - 2 comments

Easing my way into the 2000s

Getting an iPhone / smartphone for the first time! Is ebay/Craigslist an okay place to start? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 3:45 AM PST - 15 comments

What are the interactive options for practicing rhetorical figures?

Reading it, learning it, still crap at it. How might I meet others, to master rhetoric? [more inside]
posted by King_Wang at 3:23 AM PST - 2 comments

Camera Accessories

NOT another "what camera to get" question; I already own a Canon EOS Rebel T3i. It's the other stuff I'm confused about! I received a $200 Amazon gift card, but I'm getting overwhelmed trying to decide what to get. [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog at 3:01 AM PST - 22 comments

December 25

Help me crush this crush!

I'm married, with a kid. I work in the service industry. I have a powerful, consuming crush on my boss, who is also in a serious relationship. I used to be his boss, and we have a very friendly and candid relationship. I really, really need to not feel this way anymore. If I try to back off and go professional, he always asks what is wrong and it sucks me right back in. How do I make it stop?
posted by hopemeplease at 11:32 PM PST - 24 comments

What might this German dessert be?

What is this dessert I read about on a blog? It was cooked by a German person and the blog author wrote: "It was like a really, really thick pancake cooked in a huge skillet, then cut up into big chunks, and topped with a syrupy, crystallized type of peach topping that was just to DIE for. Everyone in Germany/Austria/Hungary knows what it is". I don't think she knew what it was called, but I want to, because it sounds freaking delicious!
posted by threeants at 11:27 PM PST - 11 comments

What should I do with my deceased grandmother's handbag?

She passed away almost 10 years ago but no one knows about this bag. I don't think she wanted anyone to know. I should have dealt with it when she died but I had forgotten about it. Inside are her IDs, a letter from someone that has been folded and unfolded so many times it's falling apart, and about $470. [more inside]
posted by feastorfamine at 10:29 PM PST - 15 comments

Condolence gift?

After the Recent suicide of an old friend who lives out of town, I have been trying to think of an appropriate gift that might bring any degree of comfort to his devoted wife. Rule out flowers and foods. donations don't really rock my boat. I want to avoid the presumption of books about spirituality or grieving/ healing. I am stumped. Any ideas?
posted by Lylo at 9:51 PM PST - 14 comments

Toshiba Satellite: good deal?

I have a nephew who is thinking of buying a Toshiba Satellite L50.A01Q: 2.40GHz Intel® Core™ i7-4700U Quad Core Processor 15.6" HD Widescreen with TN LED Backlit Display 8GB RAM, 1TB HDD 2GB nVIDIA GeForce GT 740M Graphics. He is 18 and heading off to university, and wants it mainly for typical laptop stuff with some light gaming (skyrim, minecraft). It's $NZ 1280 with a 20% discount, so normally $1600 or so. The deal only lasts one day. My feelings are he could get something as good for cheaper, given that the slick processor isn't gonna be all that useful to him. Is that sensible? Or is it actually an ok deal?
posted by Sebmojo at 8:22 PM PST - 10 comments

Best practices for hiring a nanny?

I'm in the process of hiring an occasional daytime babysitter, who may become a more regular babysitter if the freelance work I'm getting turns into a regular job. I'm feeling rather panicky about leaving my baby with someone. Help me figure out best practices to keep my baby safe and soothe my fears. [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 5:54 PM PST - 8 comments

Good job offer's deadline is up, but a preferred job offer is incoming.

I have a good job offer in hand, but the deadline was today, and a preferred job offer is close enough that they say they're just waiting for the offer letter to be signed. Special details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:10 PM PST - 19 comments

Penalties for importing presumed antique ivory carvings to Canada?

An xmas present may be made of an animal controlled by CITES. I'm struggling through the ethical dilemma of whether to even keep it - respectful insight welcome - but am now wondering what the legal ramifications might be of even trying to bring it home. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Altitude sickness and panic. Help me cope!

Traveled to Yellowstone from Illinois. I have gotten hit with with some altitude sickness. Unfortantly my biggest symptoms are insomia, panic, and diarrhea. Ick. YANMD. Can you help with coping strategies ? [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 4:29 PM PST - 15 comments

What are some useful paradigms for understanding people?

Sometimes it can be useful to divide people into categories* for the purpose of understanding the differences in how people behave. For example: *Asker, guesser: Askers assume that it always okay to ask for a favour, guessers feel that one should have a good idea of whether the favor will be granted before asking. *Advocates, truthseekers: Advocates care about winning an argument, truthseekers search for the truth. *Givers, takers, matchers: Givers always try to help people; matchers try to help people, but seek reciprocity; givers only care about what what they can get from others. So, what are some useful paradigms for understanding different people? [more inside]
posted by casebash at 3:14 PM PST - 32 comments

Help me chose a small dog as a pet, snowflake details inside

Help me chose a small dog as a pet, snowflake details inside [more inside]
posted by kikithekat at 2:44 PM PST - 22 comments

How can I redirect my FedEx package to a different address?

I am in Texas right now for the holidays, I have a package arriving to my apartment in Ohio which is very important (it will allow me to renew my drivers license). I am flying back to Pittsburgh this Sunday night, and I'd like to have the paperwork in Pittsburgh with me, otherwise I'd have to drive to Ohio to get the paperwork, and then drive back to Pittsburgh. I called FedEx and they said only the shipper (with a FedEx account number) can re-direct the package. I'm wondering what are my options to save me a trip of driving to Ohio and back. Can I ask my package to be held at FedEx in Ohio, and then pay for them to send it to me in Pittsburgh? Can I authorize a friend to go pick it up from the FedEx location instead of me and then have them send it to me? Are there any other options? Thanks for the help askmefi! Please feel free to ask me more questions if anything is unclear
posted by lijiaxiaoniu at 2:35 PM PST - 4 comments

Software job: Am I going to get fired? How to make it go best-ish-ly?

Do verbal warnings predict firing? What should I expect if I do get fired, and how do I make the best of it? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 1:42 PM PST - 35 comments

Should I get the Dr. Who DVD or just watch on Amazon (online)?

I want a copy of "The Day of the Doctor" (50th Anniversary Special.) I have to choose between the DVD or the Amazon online "collection". [more inside]
posted by SMPA at 1:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Microoenada y longaniza

Can I nuke this sausage? I hope I can. [more inside]
posted by mreleganza at 1:09 PM PST - 5 comments

Best alternative to Skype for Android and PC?

I'm getting tired of Skype constantly resetting my phone while video chatting [more inside]
posted by Ryogen at 1:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Emergency cleaning a dry clean only costume?

Dry cleaning a furry costume with milk on it? [more inside]
posted by Joh at 12:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Anyone ever try L-CITRULLINE for impotence?

Hi, 45 yr old male with erectile dysfunction problems. I'm curious if anyone has any experience with L-CITRULLINE supplements? Thanks!
posted by werebad at 12:25 PM PST - 1 comment

Estonian songs about barn swallows?

The barn swallow figures prominently in Estonian folklore and culture, and I would love to find poems or folk songs that mention it. Unfortunately, I do not speak the language, and I am stumped over how to proceed. Do you know any Estonian verse about barn swallows, or can you suggest how to start looking?
posted by Vic Morrow's Personal Vietnam at 9:42 AM PST - 2 comments

Beautiful wall calendars?

I am looking for a really beautiful and distinctive 2014 wall calendar. Has anyone seen any really great calendars this year? Whatever I get will have to be available via mail order, because the calendar selection in my town is fairly limited.
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 9:01 AM PST - 18 comments

Bad at math

I have a question about probability math. I am essentially flipping a coin (except instead of a 50/50 chance, my odds are 50.5% heads, 49.5% tails). I am concerned with the probability of me hitting heads (a 50.5% chance) several times in a row. [more inside]
posted by disillusioned at 4:43 AM PST - 45 comments

December 24

Anybody know what movie this is from?

Trying to identify what movie this gif comes from. Warning: kind of really scary.
posted by DZack at 8:45 PM PST - 5 comments

“Original” self-marketing ideas

I'm looking for original self-marketing ideas for a writer and/or a designer. Okay, social media is important: Design your own page, update it frequently and get your friends to like it and promote it to their friends. But I'm looking for those kinds of tips that you've read and thought to yourself "Well that's original!". Something on par with Nine Inch Nails'/H2DA/Radiohead's decision to give their music for free "lest they come to the unique live concert experience" marketing ploy. Have you ever come across a Seth Godin or a Malcolm Gladwell book (or anything else) and was struck by something interesting?
posted by omar.a at 7:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Things to do on Christmas day in San Francisco

So my original Christmas day plans fell through, and I live 5000 miles from most of my family. I do have a brother who recently moved to San Jose, though, and we'd like to spend the day doing something together. We're both wary of bringing each other to friends houses (we're different kinds of people, move in different circles, etc) - so we'd like to try and find something fun and novel that we can go and do, just the 2 of us (though if it were something social in the sense that we may meet a bunch of strangers doing this thing, then that would be cool). Anybody have any ideas? We're also British. I don't know if this information will help you, but hey, there you have it. 2 British guys in San Francisco with no idea what to do on Xmas day. Hive mind, halp!
posted by TheTorns at 6:21 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me help my disorganized family member

I have a close family member who I am somewhat estranged from. But he has some needs that I have the skills to help with, and I want to help. Help me help him. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 5:45 PM PST - 10 comments

Boxes to pulp to boxes again, but what of the tape?

I unpack a cardboard box. I cut the tape and flatten the box, and a person with a truck takes it to the recycling center, where it is chopped up and wetted into a paste and made into other boxes. What happens to the tape that held the box together? Is it soaked off before the box is chopped up? Is it a total waste, or is it incorporated into a recycled product? How bad is plastic tape for the environment?
posted by blnkfrnk at 5:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me understand fragrance: Hermes edition.

Do you use Hermes perfumes? Do you like them? Can you explain them to me? I'm not a typical perfume wearer. I recently tried the Hermes fragrance Un Jardin Sur Le Toit at a friend's house and I really liked it. Then I started googling and found myself in a world of top notes, drydowns, accords, and other things where I don't even know what the words mean, much less how to understand them. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia at 3:45 PM PST - 13 comments

60s soul

Looking for more 60s soul songs to make me happy. [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 2:42 PM PST - 15 comments

Minor key electronic songs—please recommend!

What are some minor key electronic/house/ambient songs similar to Moby's "Hotel Intro" on the Hotel album? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleGargoyle at 2:40 PM PST - 10 comments

iPhone Replacement Screen Quality?

I dropped my iPhone 4S a couple weeks ago and broke the screen. Insert humorous anecdote here. Can anyone describe their experience with 3rd-party replacement glass versus "official" replacement screen glass? Bonus points for specific locations in suburban Boston where I could get this fixed on a while-you-wait basis, since I'll be in Boston-ish over the next few days. Thanks.
posted by baseballpajamas at 2:30 PM PST - 9 comments

Dealing with social anxiety about "new" family arrangements

My mother recently divorced my step-dad of 11 years and started dating a new guy about 6 months ago. Having a stranger in my family is causing my social anxiety to manifest when I go to visit on holidays and other times, and I don't know what is the best way to talk to my mom about this, and to what extent I should feel OK removing myself from these situations. I'm 26 years old but I have the feeling that the way I am acting is perceived as highly inappropriate and rude for an adult. She has been very understanding of my anxiety in the past but is now that it is related to her boyfriend, she's taking it personally and I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by supernaturelle at 2:28 PM PST - 26 comments

Need a Manhattan Italian Restaurant

Need Epic Italian restaurant in Manhattan. This may have been asked before but restaurants change and close all the time. Relatives are coming into Manhattan this Friday from Texas (originally from Long Island) and seek "epic pizza and Italian food". I know places in Brooklyn etc so please only Manhattan. They have a family of 4 and subways to Bensonhurst would be prohibitive. Special "Awesome Points" for "hole in wall" tiny places. Mifi-ites don't let me down!
posted by donaken at 1:47 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for MacBook keyboard outline template

I'm searching for a size-accurate outline image of a unibody MacBook keyboard (basically an accurate diagram/wireframe). For this outline file, any format will work, although Vector (.ai, .svg, etc.) would be ideal. I've tried googling but the results tend to be photorealistic images with broad outlines, shadows, etc. I'm looking for a technical drawing like a blueprint. The goal is to make custom keyboard covers with multiple languages by die-cutting and laminating paper; these would be one piece, hence the need for precision. I'm thinking there must be an diagram of MBP keyboards one on the web somewhere... Any advice on where to find one would be highly appreciated. (As far as I know, the keyboard layout is the same for all models except the 11 inch/Air.) Thanks in advance.
posted by landonmoon at 1:12 PM PST - 3 comments

1000% of the US RDA of WHOOOOOOMP.

In an attempt to be all healthy and virtuous, I tried to make kale chips in the microwave. I nuked a small plate of plain, unadorned kale. The kale WENT UP LIKE A FREAKING FIREWORK (sparks, flames, scary noises). Multiple times (hey, I learn by doing). WHY?! [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 1:04 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for a Silver Superman ring in Toronto.

Please help me help my husband replace his Silver superman ring. (Toronto version) [more inside]
posted by scrute at 12:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Are my "unlisted" youtube videos irretrievably gone ?

In the transfer of Youtube to Google, my unlisted videos have vanished. Is there a way to get them back? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 12:18 PM PST - 6 comments

Am I on Candid Camera?

When I boot up my work laptop, the camera light comes on for an instant. Is it taking a picture? If so, where would it store those pics? [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 12:13 PM PST - 11 comments

Christmas goose problems!

I have a beautiful, just shot wild goose! Except I didn't expect to receive a wild rather than tame goose, and I have no bacon or other fat to cover it in. How can I cook this without turning it into leather? Help? [more inside]
posted by digitalprimate at 12:04 PM PST - 17 comments

How do I deal with passive insults?

I always run into these types of people at work and life. Hopefully someone can understand what I mean. [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 11:24 AM PST - 31 comments

What unnamed theme do Top Gun, Batman & Robin, and 300 share in common?

What are your favorite unintentionally gay movies? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 11:21 AM PST - 47 comments

How to download Yahoo group archives?

Our organization has years' worth of Yahoo group postings. We would like to move our groups to Google but still be able to access and search these archives. Recent changes to the Yahoo groups UI seem to have broken existing third party tools. How can we download Yahoo group archives and host them on our own site?
posted by ottereroticist at 11:05 AM PST - 0 comments

Missing Link: Overdrive Edition

Can you help me find a lost link to an awesome guitar-nerdy overdrive review site? [more inside]
posted by j_curiouser at 10:43 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for earbuds

I'm looking for earbuds. Under $200 is preferable but willing to go up to $300. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by pdq at 10:30 AM PST - 13 comments

What are your tools and rituals for reflecting on the past year?

Around New Years I enjoy rituals or activities like filling out little surveys in my journal that help me reflect on my past year and make a record I can revisit in the future. Do you have (or know of) any year-end rituals that you find satisfying and/or specific questions or surveys you use for self-reflection? [more inside]
posted by dahliachewswell at 9:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Am I overreacting to my boss's (maybe innocuous) remarks?

I quit my first post-college job a few months ago because I decided to relocate. My company offered to let me do contract work for them, so I’ve been doing projects for them on the side. However, given what I just learned about something my boss said, I don’t know if I want to keep freelancing for them, or if I'm overreacting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:05 AM PST - 34 comments

All I Want for Christmas is to be Negative

I had an encounter with another man several weeks ago. I would normally wait for the end of the three month window to check my status, but I have recently gotten sick, which (given the vague symptoms listed for acute retroviral syndrome) has me spooked. I have made arrangements to get tested later in the week by DNA PCR (18 days after exposure, with the understanding that I will still get tested at 3 months), which should give me a decent degree of confidence whether I have HIV and whether these symptoms are ARS. However, I won't get these results until well into next week. In the meantime, it's the holidays, and I need to keep up my spirits and not cause chaos with 'what ifs.' Not that this is a conversation I'd ever feel comfortable having with my family. I'm feeling really isolated and am spending too much time inhabiting my own head. I could really use some external feedback about how high my risk is and whether I have any right to be this worried. Handwringing details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:03 AM PST - 17 comments

No Cat Pee Smell Litter Box - Does it exist?

Okay, sorry for this gross question I am about to lay on you. I clean my cats' litter box on a pretty regular basis, scooping it daily (okay, almost daily) and then washing it down when needed. It is large size. What I am finding is the cat claw scrapes go down to the base and it's like the cat pee seeps down into the actual plastic of the box and just makes the box permanently stinky. I tried litter liners and it was a disaster - they ripped them to shreds and it was just extra mess to clean up. Does there exist like a stainless steel litter box base or that material they make space ships out of or something?
posted by mermily at 8:23 AM PST - 29 comments

Best vacuum for "human hair" on carpets

There are plenty for pet hair. What about "human" hair? And we are talking "long strands" here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:14 AM PST - 12 comments

Backing up an open disk image?

Based on your answers to my prior question, I keep sensitive files on my Mac in an encrypted disk image. I back up my Mac to Time Machine, plus a local external Superduper! clone, and to Crashplan. How do I ensure those backups accurately record the disk image--do I have to eject the disk image or will the backups copy the open (mounted) disk? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 5:26 AM PST - 4 comments

No dogs at Christmas

Despite no one wanting to go there, it seems that we're doing Christmas at my sister's house this year. No one wants to go there because a) she doesn't cook well and b) she has two big, untrained, messy, and annoying dogs. I can handle the crappy food if I don't have to deal with the dogs. How can I get her to keep them in a separate room without getting really pissed at me? [more inside]
posted by firei at 5:00 AM PST - 43 comments

Orchestral Manoeuvres leave me in the Dark

I attended a concert last night and I have a question about how the members of the orchestra are paid. [more inside]
posted by essexjan at 3:08 AM PST - 15 comments

Is there hope after cheating?

I severely fumbled with my boyfriend's heart. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 1:35 AM PST - 30 comments

Porky Christmas Goodness - please help make this happen!!

I have a 3 lbs Pork Shoulder I do NOT want to braise, but rather roast. I need advice on whether roasting is an option. I also have some Pork Cheeks going in the slow cooker overnight with a bit of white wine, garlic, rosemary, and shallot. Plus a lot of fat trimmings. Including a small amount of smokey slab bacon. Can I make Rillettes from this after overnight slow cooking? Or was the addition of wine and shallot a deal breaker? Specific plans for the Pork Shoulder (Injection? Brine? Wet rub?) after the jump.... [more inside]
posted by jbenben at 1:17 AM PST - 13 comments

In search of cool user-interface tweaks for XP

Help me pimp my box! [more inside]
posted by nurgle at 12:50 AM PST - 4 comments

December 23

Reporting an Impersonation of a Police Officer

Today I was talked to by an older man who I believe was impersonating a police officer, but without any harm or foul intent. Should I follow up on it, and if so, is there a way to do it without ruining his life? [more inside]
posted by Deflagro at 10:16 PM PST - 46 comments


We are visiting Merida, Mexico next week and have questions [more inside]
posted by ladoo at 9:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Chicago on New Year's Day. What's there to do? Where to go?

Catch: New Year's on a Wednesday. I don't have the surrounding days off. [more inside]
posted by harisund at 9:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Can We Be Friends?

I had a sort-of breakup recently, and I'm wondering whether I should move forward as friends or never speak to this guy again. [more inside]
posted by cscott at 8:36 PM PST - 24 comments

A long walk in Philadelphia and New York: Where should I be going?

Last year around the holiday, there was a trip to Chicago that ended up having an awesome walk down Clark Street for five or six miles. My boyfriend and I had a great time and want to replicate the experience in Philadelphia and Manhattan/ possibly the other boroughs. So, Philadelphia and New York people, what route would you recommend? Route preferences: between 5-7 miles, photogenic architecture, relatively safe neighborhoods, and not exclusively through highly touristed areas. We will be staying in Philadelphia and traveling by train to NYC so somewhere near a commuter train station would also be great but not absolutely necessary. I like snobby coffee, book stores, and craft beer, so any walk that incorporates some of those along the way would be great. Also open to suggestions for activities, shows, or other interesting things to do between Jan 9 and 13 in either city.
posted by _cave at 8:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Slow basement seepage towards boilers, solutions?

Aaahhh, the Northeast. With melting snow and rainfall, our basement has a slow leak, maybe two to three inches deep at the worst. It has reached under one of the boilers, barely a half inch at that point, and we are trying to figure out if/when to panic. [more inside]
posted by lillygog at 7:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Brining the wrong turkey

I accidentally bought a turkey that has been "deep basted with butter." Can I still brine it? [more inside]
posted by arcticwoman at 7:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me dismantle my couch.

How big is the hex wrench needed to remove the legs from a Natuzzi sofa? [more inside]
posted by bethnull at 6:05 PM PST - 13 comments

How can I filter one term out of my feedly feeds?

There is exactly one word that I never, ever want to read anything about, and it's super-hot right now (with no end in sight) and comes up all the time lately in the stuff I read via RSS. I use Feedly on Firefox. Is there a script that does this? Some kind of native setting in Feedly that I haven't found? If there's a solution that is cheap-but-not-free, I'd happily consider it. Anyone?
posted by emumimic at 5:53 PM PST - 7 comments

Cyclist visiting Tucson this week. What should I check out?

I'm visiting family in Tucson the 24th - 30th and I'm flying my road bike in from San Francisco. I'm intending to get a lot of riding done while I'm there since I've signed up to participate in the Rapha Festive 500. I'm looking forward to doing some great riding including Mt. Lemon (I'll be staying up in the Oro Valley area). While I'm there I'd love to also tap into any cool cycle-culture type stuff the city of Tucson may have to offer. Are there any great cycle coffee shops? Brew pubs? LBS's with some actual community to them? Any group rides or cycle clubs that really embody the Tucson community. While I'll only have my roadie with me I'm also into fixed gear riding in SF. I don't know if that's a thing in Tucson, but would love to know of stuff in regards to that too. I know there is a strong senior cycle community out there, but for what it's worth I'm a 31 year old male. Thanks!
posted by matt_od at 5:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Ok to eat? Spaghetti sauce question

I sauteed onion, ground beef, ground italian sausage and then added a can of crushed tomatoes. We ate dinner and it was left out for three hours. eat or toss? Thank you!
posted by michellenoel at 5:08 PM PST - 23 comments

How can I be less sensitive about things I should really expect by now?

I would like tips on how to have a thicker skin when people say offensive things or especially when people defend offensive things. You know how whenever there's a racist incident someone says "but was anyone really surprised?" Well I am that person who is somehow always surprised and I tend to cry a little. I cry over comments on the internet. I don't know anyone else who reacts like this and I'm afraid I'd just be dismissed because there really are more important things going on. I want to respond less dramatically, maybe just shrug my shoulders or say something intelligent but not get so upset.
posted by Danila at 4:50 PM PST - 27 comments

Any experience with myofunctional correction?

My daughter's dentist is recommending myofunctional correction to correct a bad bite. My person experience is with regular orthodontics when i was a child and they did nothing. I am open to new approaches, but I'd like to know if anyone has had good or bad experiences with myofunctional correction.
posted by alcahofa at 4:37 PM PST - 4 comments

What do I get my pregnant wife for her birthday?

My wife is 36 weeks pregnant, and her birthday is next week. What should I get her? I'd like to get something for her rather than something baby-related. But at the same time, she has already taken advantage of many of the luxuries that pregnant women seem to appreciate -- like spa treatments, massages, and prenatal yoga. I'm a little stuck. Any good ideas? [more inside]
posted by scottso17 at 2:59 PM PST - 33 comments

No Certificate of Occupancy. What are my options?

My out-of-state relocation to Brooklyn, NY is suffering from complications due to a delayed Certificate of Occupancy. What should I do? More details below the cut. [more inside]
posted by unhappyprofessor at 1:46 PM PST - 10 comments

What do you use to clean floors? How about grease spots in laundry?

We've been using Pine-sol cleaner for years. The pine oil in it dissolved grease and killed germs. Unfortunately, the old formula has been replaced by a new "original formula" that is advertised as having a longer-lasting scent. It stinks! It smells like very bad cheap imitation floral perfume now, a long-lasting scent that makes the house smell horrible. We can't have this scent in our house. What should we use instead? [more inside]
posted by Ery at 1:30 PM PST - 25 comments

Free Software For Making Audio Mashups

My 12-year-old son hit me with an awesome idea for an audio mashup; take the vocal track from Miley Cyrus's "Wrecking Ball" and lay it over the music from Gotye's "Somebody That I Used To Know" (working title: "A Wrecking Ball I Used To Know"). I need help finding the right software. [more inside]
posted by DWRoelands at 1:27 PM PST - 9 comments

Messy Breakup Advice

I'm trying to make a full break from my significant other. Things get messy because we currently share a home, I feel that he is verbally and borderline physically abusive, and I am expecting a baby in about 8 weeks. I have been intermitently sleeping in hotels or couch surfing, but am having trouble sleeping well. My significant other SAYS he has moved out so I have a quiet place to stay while trying to find alternative housing, but would you go back? [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 1:02 PM PST - 30 comments

Where to live in the UK this summer

My spouse and I are interested in living in the UK next summer. We'd like to stay for three months, and we're looking for ideas on where to live and how to approach organizing this visit. [more inside]
posted by foggy out there now at 12:53 PM PST - 14 comments

Playstations not playing well with NAT?

I'm a network wrangler at a university. I keep reading articles in the consumer press that that the new playstations have issues in a NAT environment. I'm trying find out what's actually going on with it but my google-fu is failing because all my searches are overwhelmed with results containing, say, instructions for how to set up your linksys home router to do the right thing. Which isn't quite as applicable to my enterprise-level Juniper SRX firewalls. Anyone have pointers to a more enterprise-level technical documentation on this? I'd like to have a good idea of what the issues are before I try and put dorms full of PS4-wielding kids on a NAT network. Thanks!
posted by rmd1023 at 11:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Finger waves in New York?

A question from my fiancée: Bromius and I are getting married in Brooklyn in May. I have a vintage-y wedding dress and about five inches of hair, so I figure finger waves are the way to go for the big day. I'm not from NYC and I don't know any hair stylists in the area. Are there any you would recommend that can do finger waves/retro-y hair? Bonus points for makeup artist recommendations (retro-y or not). Thanks!
posted by Bromius at 11:40 AM PST - 6 comments

How to serve homemade noodles with a rib roast?

How to serve homemade noodles with a rib roast? [more inside]
posted by wwax at 11:38 AM PST - 15 comments

is it safe for me to live in this neighborhood?

I finally found a place in Brooklyn that seems perfect with one catch: it's in a semi rough area. The thing is I can't seem to get a clear opinion online of exactly how unsafe it is. [more inside]
posted by timsneezed at 11:37 AM PST - 62 comments

Where can I find an image of the Mountain Standard Time zone?

I'm looking for a map that shows the Mountain Standard Time zone and nothing else. It would look something like this only zoomed in to the MST. I'm hoping to use the image to make a t-shirt so black and white works best. I've tried Flickr with no luck. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 11:19 AM PST - 7 comments

What happens when you try to talk to your spouse's doctor?

My husband gets a clean bill of health from his doctor every time he goes for a checkup, which makes no sense to me if she knew his habits. He seems to like and respect his doctor, and is inclined to listen to her. I've been considering calling her up and informing her of what she's been missing. Have you ever done this? Have you ever been the doctor on the receiving end of this information? I welcome your thoughts and experience. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:10 AM PST - 24 comments

Looking for a specific pair of Roos

The most comfortable shoes I own (Kangaroos Tai Chi M) are starting to show their age. When I bought a replacement pair online a couple of years ago, I was disappointed that they use a different material/style which is more rigid and far less comfortable. Help me find the older style of Roos! [more inside]
posted by antonymous at 11:09 AM PST - 1 comment

Christmas Present for friends in a LDR

Because of work, my very good friend and her husband live on two different continents (she in Asia, he in North America) and see each other every couple of months. I'm wondering if there are any apps or digital subscriptions that they can share/use together around $25 that might make a good Christmas gift for both? [more inside]
posted by Pineapplicious at 10:46 AM PST - 5 comments

Where should I go for international mobile research?

I work in product marketing for a mobile company. As 2013 draws to a close, I am thinking about strategies for growth in 2014. One big area is ramping up international growth. I am currently in the information gathering phrase. I am reading up a lot on mobile and international markets. I would love to travel and gather information to accomplish the following goals: [more inside]
posted by pando11 at 10:30 AM PST - 3 comments

Duck, duck, no goose

So, I got a couple duck breasts for our Christmas Eve supper, and was hoping for any and all helpful hints on how to prepare them. [more inside]
posted by PlantGoddess at 10:18 AM PST - 18 comments

[moviefilter] Gunshot 'shatters' film-camera lens: which movie?

Please help me remember a film scene. During a shoot-out, possibly a car chase, a gunshot hits and shatters the camera lens. That's the trope anyway. This occurs in an iconic movie. lists some similar moments but those are pretty random and weak examples, whereas the one I have in mind is from a movie classic. Could it be "Bonnie and Clyde"? -- but I checked film stills and nothing's showing up. Help!
posted by taramosalata at 10:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Quarter-page sheet protectors

What can I use to organize quarter-page-size cards in a binder? [more inside]
posted by roll truck roll at 10:06 AM PST - 5 comments

"Cool" things to do in Reno, NV.

My girlfriend and I are visiting Reno to see my parents for Christmas. My parents are older (early 60's) and really enjoy doing "cool" things. We live in Portland and when my parents visit here they always have a great time and really enjoy doing the "cool" things we like to do. The thing is... [more inside]
posted by gucci mane at 10:04 AM PST - 11 comments

Lost scifi short story from my youth, the Golden Age of Scifi.

I am looking for a science fiction short story probably from the first half of the 20th Century. It involved a deep mine, strange events at the bottom, footprints in stone and a species that evolved to live underground, INSIDE the rock. [more inside]
posted by Seamus at 9:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Ow My Ear

I have an earache for the first time since I was, what, 6? It sucks. Help. [more inside]
posted by bq at 9:39 AM PST - 23 comments

Tea-of-the-month club recommendations

We're thinking of getting a friend of ours some kind of Tea of the Month club subscription as a (slightly belated) Christmas present. We're not big tea drinkers ourselves; can anyone recommend a particular company to get it from? [more inside]
posted by Horace Rumpole at 9:32 AM PST - 12 comments

Tablet piano instruction?

I have an electric, piano-weighted keyboard that I want to learn how to play. I can't afford lessons right now. It has MIDI in and out connectors. Is there a hardware/software combo that will take that MIDI out connection, plug it into an Android or iOS tablet, and provide a more interactive teaching experience? [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 9:29 AM PST - 4 comments

I crash later in the day, and need this to stop.

I wake up at 7 am, and am very sleepy by around 6pm. This occurs whether I work or have the day off, and is screwing with my hygiene and social life. I would appreciate advice on what could be the problem, or in the case that there is nothing fixable, raise my energy levels naturally. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 8:19 AM PST - 31 comments

What is this?

Is this *trigger warning terrible whistling* the theme song to something? If not, what is it? [more inside]
posted by h00py at 8:17 AM PST - 14 comments

Purchase used iPhone on Amazon?

My iPhone was stolen and I need to purchase a new one. I am considering saving myself the hassle of a craigslist interaction by purchasing a used one through an Amazon retailer. Has anyone done this? Would you recommend it? Anything I should look for specifically besides carrier compatibility etc.?
posted by Packy_1962 at 7:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Christmas craft help - decorating picture frames

Every year my family does a craft project around the Christmas table. This year we're decorating picture frames. I'm supposed to buy the supplies. Except I've never done this before and I don't know what to get. Help. [more inside]
posted by desjardins at 6:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Abusive family seems to know where I live. What do I do?

My abusive mom that I cut off ties with (along with the rest of my abusive family) emailed me a few days ago and seems to know where I moved to. She said that she tells everyone back home where I moved to. She made it sound like she just guessed it, but I find it highly unlikely. If it wasn't just a guess, I don't know how they found out (since I haven't contacted them since arriving in my new city) or how much they know. Am I in danger? Should I move? What do I do? Please help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:32 AM PST - 43 comments

Gimmee your yummy, not too fussy, bread stuffing recipe?

After years of making only rice dressing for our Christmas turkey, I no longer have even the bones of a recipe for bread stuffing in my head – care to share yours? [more inside]
posted by taz at 6:24 AM PST - 20 comments

How can I make a baby doll look like HR Giger's Alien?

For a costume I need an alien. I would like to take a plastic baby doll, maybe 16", and modify it to look like an alien, preferably HR Giger's Alien from Alien. [more inside]
posted by Polychrome at 6:17 AM PST - 5 comments

What is cb9465.msi?

This is a second-hand office computer, running Windows 7. Every time I turn it on, a box pops up asking to install C:\Windows\Installer\cb9465.msi. What is this file, what is it trying to do, and how do I make it stop? The folder C:\Windows\Installer must be hidden, because I can't see it, and Google turns up nothing for the name.
posted by Faint of Butt at 6:16 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I make my (TLC@AOM) presentation more interactive?

I am preparing a 30 minute presentation proposal for the Teaching & Learning Conference at the Academy of Management Annual Meeting next year. One of the evaluation criteria is “evidence of a dynamic and interactive session”. I just want to describe a new teaching methodology in an online learning environment, so how do I make the session “dynamic and interactive”? What are the expected types of activities? Any help would be much appreciated! Bonus points if you attended the TLC@AOM last year! Thanks in advance!
posted by Bobka at 5:45 AM PST - 4 comments

When to follow up about following up?

I met an old classmate at a party recently and would like to reconnect. I emailed her about asking her to hang, but I've gotten no response. What next? Social anxiety-colored snowflakes abound. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Xmas potluck for the secular humanists, and fresh out of frankincense.

What would Jesus bring? Just moved, most of my kitchen stuff is still in boxes, but want to bring something homemade. Hosts making "a" salmon, so I assume that means whole and poached or roasted, so I'll bring a nice pinot noir. But what side or dessert or whatnot would work and be easy enough with let's say just a skillet and a pasta pot and a few tools to work with? (I don't have myrrh either.) Help! Thanks!
posted by fivesavagepalms at 5:25 AM PST - 11 comments

Origin of 'Step-dad [...] kill command [...] dog [...] died [...] never.

Hi everyone, I'm apologize for the oddness of my title. I am looking for the origin of this quote: 'My step-dad said he would tell me the secret command word for "Kill!" once the dog had died, but he never did.' It may not be verbatim and is presumed to be from a book. Thank you!
posted by sans at 5:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for a good pair of scissors

Looking for some suggestions/recommendations for a good pair of scissors. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 4:43 AM PST - 18 comments

dealing with new food allergy?

I tried a new citrus fruit yesterday and had an allergic reaction. How wide of a range of citrus fruits do I need to avoid while I wait to see a doctor? (YANMD) [more inside]
posted by SymphonyNumberNine at 3:54 AM PST - 8 comments

Blog This! Bookmarklet

Blogger used to have a bookmarklet that could be dragged to the bookmark bar in one's browser. It was called "Blog this!" and was a little snippet of javascript that let you highlight text on a page and then publish it, with a hyperlink, on your Blogger blog. Does anyone know if this still exists?
posted by mecran01 at 2:27 AM PST - 6 comments

Facebook etiquette: to tag or not to tag?

Is tagging OK when you want to make sure that specific people will see (or, at least, be notified about) a specific post? Even if it would mean tagging about 20-30 people... [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 1:57 AM PST - 13 comments

December 22

Abraham Lincoln Quote?

I'm looking for a quote from Lincoln that essentially says, "If you want to see the leaders of the next generation, look to the children's schoolyard." Does anybody know that quote exactly and it's source?
posted by CollectiveMind at 8:48 PM PST - 6 comments

I'm looking to get (re)belted...

I have a slim leather belt with lovely Mexican silver hardware; but the belt itself is fairly shredded, and has already been repaired once (by a shoe repairman, who did the best he could). Who fixes belts these days? How do I find someone to put the hardware on a new piece of leather, in Montreal, in New York, or on the Internet? How much should I expect to pay?
posted by musofire at 8:21 PM PST - 3 comments

How to unruin Pinterest?

My Pinterest feed has been ruined recently, it's mostly posts by strangers about topics I don't care about. How do I fix this? [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 7:32 PM PST - 23 comments

How can I increase income to pay student loan debt?

I have $85k in student loan debt, and need to increase my income so I can pay it off. I need a bigger spoon to eat this elephant. Fishing for ideas. [more inside]
posted by mannermode at 7:26 PM PST - 13 comments

Unusual feats of badassery

I'm looking for feats of skill, intelligence, or courage that fall outside the usual martial arenas (so, no beating somebody up). I would prefer written sources but will accept other media also. This is kind of vague, so let me give an example: I remember once reading a book where the protagonist challenges some alleged badass to slit his wrist and just bleed into a bucket. First person to staunch the bleeding loses. I'm not really interested in identifying the book, but rather finding more examples of surprising challenges like that. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 7:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Looking for gift-worthy bottles of beer

I'd like to pick up a couple nice beers to put under the tree for my partner. I don't drink much beer myself, so while I know what he likes enough to pick out everyday-drinkin' stuff for him, I don't know what's currently available that might be nice (new, seasonal, unusual, somewhat difficult-to-find) enough for a gift. Any ideas? Helpful details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 6:55 PM PST - 30 comments

Beautiful Music Theory

I want to adorn my walls with gorgeous music theory posters. Suggestions please. [more inside]
posted by thisclickableme at 6:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Transporting Christmas Dinner

I want to do a special day after Christmas dinner for myself and my boyfriend. The only thing is, I'll be in a car for 6-7 hours heading back from my parents' before I'll be back at my house. I'm looking for ideas for a festive meal that can be transported in a cooler for that long and will reheat well once I'm home, or be really tasty served cold. [more inside]
posted by PearlRose at 5:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Sluggish iTunes despite following steps

I have my iTunes on an external 1 TB USB drive for iMac (10.6). It is around 250 GB. Despite following the steps of moving the itl and other files to my computer Itunes folder as layed out nicelly in this link among others (look at user roncron's commments at bottom of page). ITunes is still sluggish when deleting tracks especially. I have 3GB RAM, not using any other item while running iTunes, and Activity Monitor doesn't show any large discrepancies of things running in the background (unless I am looking at it wrong). Maybe my computer is just too old or needs 4 GB of RAM. thanks.
posted by snap_dragon at 5:27 PM PST - 5 comments

How can I engage in better conversation and avoid boredom?

I'm tired of dreading large social gatherings where I am bored/bore people. How do I step up my game and engage people in conversation such that it is enjoyable and interesting for all involved? I want to avoid small talk. Please give me tips, tricks, mantras to make it better! [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 4:05 PM PST - 28 comments

Christmas Bonus for Building Staff?

How much should I give the staff of my luxury condo building in Brooklyn in Christmas bonuses? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:03 PM PST - 9 comments

No Snow Tahoe

On Dec 26, my sister and I, and 6 teenage boys (children, nephews, and friends) are going to Squaw Valley, California, near Lake Tahoe. The plan, of course, was a great ski vacation. But now we are looking at nearly no snow. So, what else can we do? [more inside]
posted by Flood at 3:56 PM PST - 10 comments

Become a buddhist monk to treat my depression?

I'm pretty depressed and want to become a monk temporarily to help me find myself again and be better person. Is this an unethical reason to be a monk? [more inside]
posted by defmute at 3:40 PM PST - 34 comments

Logic Pro and multiple microphones on separate tracks

In Logic Pro, is there a way to add two Shure SM81 microphones (connected via Shure USB-to-XLR adapters) as separate tracks for recording? Currently, the only way I've been able to bring them into Logic Pro is as a merged or aggregate input device, which means the signals from the two mics are merged before going into one track. I do not want this, but instead wish to feed the signal from the two mics into two separate tracks. Is there a way to do this in Logic Pro with the equipment I have? [more inside]
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 3:29 PM PST - 7 comments

potty training blues

Can anyone give us tips on getting our daughter to "let go" in the potty or toilet??? She can hold it in and knows when she needs to go... but can't do it in the right place. [more inside]
posted by beccyjoe at 3:26 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me find a webcomic about knitting a sweater

I'm trying to rediscover a webcomic in which the protagonist is a Jewish girl who defeats a monster in a sweater-knitting competition. I think it may have been linked from MetaFilter circa 2010, but I can't re-find the post, and apparently failed to bookmark it. Can you assist, O Hive Mind?
posted by Androgenes at 3:15 PM PST - 3 comments

A rugged, semi-professional flap-top bag or briefcase or whatever.

I need a sturdy flap-top briefcase or messenger bag for holding a 15" laptop, books, notepads, and small personal items. I am considering the Saddleback thin briefcase, but the prominent role of Bibles in the product demo videos on the Saddleback site is giving me pause. I'm also wondering if a similar price/quality ratio can't be found at a lower cost. [more inside]
posted by Nomyte at 3:09 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me remember an influential Islamic text about the US in the 1920s

I'm trying to remember details about a book written about the US in the 1920s from the perspective of a visiting fundamental Muslim. The book, from my memory, was influential in the progress of fundamental Islamism (and later terrorism) as the book described the jazz age, black people, women's sexuality, etc. in a very bad light. Strangely Google isn't helping me with this. Thanks!
posted by reductiondesign at 2:28 PM PST - 3 comments

Experiencing Weather on the Internet

This is kind of an oddball questions, but I love things like Rainy Mood that allow you to feel like it is raining outside, and it's my go-to site for some background serenity when I'm on the computer. I like other types of weather, too, like being inside when it's snowing (wind blowing), watching a lightning storm, that kind of stuff. Are there sites that do this well, in terms of simulating weather or encouraging the kinds of feelings that surface from being in weather? I like the sounds, but also visual representations, as well.
posted by SpacemanStix at 2:04 PM PST - 9 comments

This sentence is an example of the passive voice that I'm desperately

trying to get rid of. I have to write for my job and although I'm a good writer, the passive voice is my nemesis. I want to use it consciously and for a reason, not as a mistake or a bad habit. So ummm, yeah, I need some resources. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 1:54 PM PST - 22 comments

Open in case of very small emergency.

I'm assembling a bag of useful things that I will keep in the trunk my car. What goes in it? Think less "zombie apocalypse" more "raining, forgot umbrella." [more inside]
posted by justkevin at 1:48 PM PST - 50 comments

Kosher-keeping Jews of Metafilter! How do you do it?

I was raised in a kosher household, and am feeling like I would like to get back into keeping kosher. Kosher (or Kosher-ish) MeFites, how do you do it? [more inside]
posted by Wordwoman at 1:37 PM PST - 19 comments

Hip hopping in style?

I have to hop on one foot on concrete. Are there any fashionable and supportive shoes for me? [more inside]
posted by crazycanuck at 1:12 PM PST - 3 comments

Identify a film musical featuring a song about Rin Tin Tin

Can you identify a classic film musical about a woman who meets a guy that turns out to be a film star? It includes a big song/dance built around people at a party name-dropping film stars, but the heroine only being able to remember the name "Rin Tin Tin". [more inside]
posted by metaBugs at 12:55 PM PST - 4 comments

What is this UK radio broadcast called?

A long string of obscure messages. Almost like code. Said in a low voice, a hypnotic monotone. I though it might be the Shipping Forecast, but that has some sense to it, in that it uses recognizable area/place names. What I'm thinking of seemed more mysterious, harder to parse. Does this ring a bell? Thanks.
posted by the sobsister at 11:37 AM PST - 6 comments

American Express gift card online use

I just used a $25 American Express gift card for an Amazon order that was more than $25. What happens now? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 11:01 AM PST - 16 comments

This gluten-free cake needs gluten

I'd like to add flour to this gluten free cake recipe, but I'm not sure how much to use. The current recipe makes a very wet batter. Also, would I need to adjust baking powder amount after adding flour?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 8:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Boob pain for Xmas

Basically what it says on the tin. I've been having a bit of an achy right breast for a while now. Help me calm down between now and my mammogram in two weeks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:51 AM PST - 24 comments

How To Get Out

I've been married for ten years. The last four have a been a long downhill slide. I have to end it. Do I give him notice or just go and deal with the aftermath? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:50 AM PST - 22 comments

Using Safari on iPad Air with Chrome on Mac

I've been using Chrome on my Mac and Safari on my iPad Air. Trying to get them both to sync with each other is a challenge. I used a Safari on Mac for a short while recently to keep the two perfectly in sync but I've since switched back to a Chrome on my Mac as it is just a quicker and nicer to use browser. On my iPad Air I've installed Chrome but nothing beats Safari on the iPad as it's smoother and uses a faster rendering engine. Chrome on iOS is a bit sluggish and doesn't feel comfortable to use. Is there a way that I can sync my Chrome bookmarks and settings on my Mac with Safari on my iPad?
posted by antgly at 8:46 AM PST - 2 comments

Road conditions in Oakville, Ontario

Toronto Mefites! I'm currently in balmy western Pennsylvania, with plans today (Sunday, December 22) to drive into Oakville, Ontario. Oakville is in Halton, about 38 miles southwest of Toronto. How difficult is that going to be in light of this weekend's ice storm?
posted by Ian A.T. at 8:22 AM PST - 12 comments

December 21

How can I try to approach this (battered) woman?

Yesterday I came back for holidays to the small town where I grew up. At my sister's home, she introduced me to a nice young woman (let's call her Mary) who lives next door from my sister. From my weekly phone calls to my sister, I knew that Mary and my sister had become quite close over the last couple of months. Mary seems to be a helpful and considerate person. On meeting personally yesterday, I found her attractive too. I knew she was living with the father of her two young children, so I had ruled out any attempts to get to know her. However, last night during dinner with my family, I learned from my sister and mother that a couple of weeks ago Mary had had her partner arrested on charges of domestic violence. I also learned that there was a history of incidents of spousal violence involving the couple, and that the man had since his release from prison been living in a different flat next to Mary and their children. According to my sister, Mary is planning to terminate the relationship soon. [more inside]
posted by kayrosianian at 10:15 PM PST - 54 comments

Feminist basics for dads?

I'd like to get some recommendations on the basics of feminism, especially as it might relate to things a dad can do to help his daughters prepare for and deal with sexism in society and also do his part in understanding the world and making it a better place for women (and by extension all people). [more inside]
posted by Reverend John at 9:58 PM PST - 34 comments

How to do a gift exchange for a large family.

One parent doesn't "play by the rules" in our family gift exchange and therefore one of the grandchildren gets two presents while all the rest only get one. As grandma/step-grandma to the other eleven kids, this aggravates me every year. Is there a better way to do gift exchange in a large family? [more inside]
posted by tamitang at 9:01 PM PST - 43 comments

Bluetooth Headset Which Mutes Calls

Is there a reasonably priced (<$50) bluetooth headset for Android (HTC One) that can mute calls? I've done a healthy amount of research & I'm not sure why what seems like such an obvious feature is so curiously difficult to find.
posted by forallmankind at 8:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Feel good movies and TV shows.

Please give me recommendations for feel-good TV shows and movies that are available on Netflix streaming or Amazon Prime to help get me through a tough time. [more inside]
posted by catatethebird at 8:30 PM PST - 43 comments

Book / textbook recs for learning basic (art) painting techniques?

Decided to take a break from photography. Would like to learn how to draw / paint. Can anyone recommend a good book / textbook for reference purposes?
posted by NYC-BB at 8:15 PM PST - 4 comments

Anyone went through the "crown lengthening procedure"?

Anyone went through the "crown lengthening procedure"? [more inside]
posted by Mountain28 at 8:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Volunteering in NYC

I'd like to possibly do some volunteering. Specific requirements inside. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 7:48 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I get a test specialist job with IBM?

I have 17 years experience in the computing industry at 33. Web design, hardware, etc. I am looking to either move sideways and learn more, or exit the industry (which I do not want). [more inside]
posted by squirbel at 7:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Who's trying to fix the NSA back door in SSL?

In some of the Edward Snowden articles they mentioned that the NSA put back doors into web standards like SSL. Is anyone trying to find them? What the latest news about it?
posted by cupcake1337 at 7:18 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me learn how to collaborate with programmers!

Hi everyone, I will soon be working on a project that involves the development of a web platform and will be hiring part-time engineers. I would like to know enough about programming and web development to be able to collaborate with them and understand the language, and have realistic expectations of when things get built. So I am not looking to learn how to program (I wish I had time for that), but rather have a basic understanding of how the system works and fits together (front-end, back-end, etc.) Anyone know of any good online resources- online courses, websites, etc. for this type of knowledge? I've checked out Code Academy and Khan Academy, but both seem heavily focused on helping you learn how to write code vs. understanding the system abstractly and holistically. But I may have missed something. Thanks in advance for your help!
posted by tessalations999 at 6:48 PM PST - 19 comments

Advice on using a flowbee

Ok, this post was the best pepsi-blue ever and I just ordered a flowbee. Any hints? [more inside]
posted by bswinburn at 6:39 PM PST - 6 comments

perfume dabblerey

For some time now I've had an on-off fascination with scent and perfume, particularly the artistic side of scent. How can I further explore this? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 6:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me figure out clues to a gift please

My mum makes me an advent calendar with little gifts and chocolates every year. The past two days I've unpacked a nail and a piece of a vinyl disc - she says these are clues to an event on Monday. She had previously asked me to keep a two hour slot at an allotted time free the day after tomorrow. Now I wanna know what treat I'm in for (I can only assume it's something positive!) but I cannot for the life of me figure out what this could be. I mean, I have one idea but don't wanna list it here as to not distract you. I'd really like to see what you guys might come up with. (Full disclosure: There's a chance this is a play on words and my mother is German. Nail is "der Nagel" and for the disc I have apparently not figured out the correct term yet...)
posted by mrsh at 5:55 PM PST - 15 comments

In need of a Mac Mini like computer, but for Windows.

Looking for a Mac Mini like computer, but for Windows 8. [more inside]
posted by Brent Parker at 5:49 PM PST - 15 comments

How to find an ovum donor in twenty years?

My wife and I will soon use an egg donor to try to conceive. It's important to us that our future child be able to contact the egg donor if the child so desires and it's in his or her best interest. The egg donor is open to this. Until there is a need for contact (either for the aforementioned reason or because of a medical issue), she prefers not to be contacted (nor are we eager to initiate contact until such time). How can we maximize our chances of being able to reach her in the future? It could well be over a decade before such contact is initiated. Phone numbers and email addresses are not that long-lived. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:43 PM PST - 20 comments

Stories where the hard-charging protagonist is submissive or masochistic

[NSFW?] I am looking for fiction (books/movies/short stories/TV/etc) of a non-erotic nature where a hard-charging and strong-willed protagonist is revealed to possess a submissive or masochistic side. [more inside]
posted by 99percentfake at 5:12 PM PST - 18 comments

Cookie frosting toxicity for dogs

My two pugs (15-pound females) got into the garbage and ate probably about a tablespoon each of CakeMate cookie frosting (similar to this.) I've googled each ingredient (i.e., xanthan gum, propylene glycol alginate) and none appear to be toxic to dogs. They are exhibiting no physical or behavioural symptoms of poisoning. Should I continue to worry?
posted by docgonzo at 4:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Can I keep and store chinese lantern branches?

I've had some chinese lantern branches in a vase for about a month now, no water, and they're still in great shape--bright, intact "lanterns." I want to replace them with something a little more wintery, but I hate to just throw away the chinese lanterns. Can I wrap them in paper or something and store them away until next fall? Or will they just disintegrate into dust?
posted by primate moon at 2:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me figure out my life... goals? wants? needs?

This has been a year of change (breakup, move, deaths, grad school). I'm home at my parents' for the holidays and want to take some time to reflect on what I want for the next year and the rest of my life. I feel like I'm entering a new phase of life, and want to do it with self-knowledge and a vision of what I want it to be. This includes career, love, friendships, travel, everything. I'm hoping you can recommend exercises, readings, and approaches to figuring out what I truly want and (to a lesser extent) how to get there. [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs at 2:42 PM PST - 18 comments

Another laptop recommendation, i7 needed

Another laptop recommendation (or how can I get back to as good a laptop as my 2002 laptop?) Wanted:i7 tablet with digitizer and matte screen without all the extra frills. [more inside]
posted by chinabound at 2:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Who's better for me - the girl I want or the girl my family wants?

It seems like a no-brainer answer at first glance - of course you stick with a girl you really dig regardless of what Mommy and Daddy think. But I'm not so sure my own tastes are in my best interest... [more inside]
posted by johnpoe50 at 2:23 PM PST - 51 comments

Recommendations please for the nearest gorgeous landscape. [Northern CA]

I am finishing finals and me and a bud would like to go somewhere on tuesday and look at something really gorgeous. I live in Davis, CA and am willing to drive 2.5 hours in any direction. Looking for specific recommendations. [more inside]
posted by afterdark at 2:02 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for gifset of a kid dancing while getting arrested

A while back, on tumblr, I saw a gif-set of some kids dancing. One of the kids is then arrested by the police, but then the camera zooms in on his feet, and you can see that he's still dancing even as he's getting arrested. Does anyone have a link for this? I can't seem to find it now, and it's driving me batty.
posted by Greg Nog at 1:56 PM PST - 5 comments

My friend doesn't want to be an admin assistant anymore

One of my good friends has been an administrative assistant for the past few years and is getting depressed and burnt out. What types of jobs can he get with his skills? [more inside]
posted by reenum at 1:32 PM PST - 14 comments

Decadent veggies: what is your best recipe?

The boyfriend and I will be attending a holiday dinner with his brother, who professes to hate all plant-based food except grains, rice, and potatoes. He has thrown down the gauntlet and asked us all to produce a vegetable based dish that he will actually enjoy. Please save us from defeat by sharing your most delicious vegetable and fruit-based dishes. Main meals, side dishes, appetizers, and desserts all welcome, and the dish can include other food groups, as long as the fruit or vegetable is prominent.
posted by rpfields at 1:15 PM PST - 47 comments

Should I be blog mistress of my own domain?

I have a couple of blogs on Blogger (and want to start a third one), and I've had a few people advise me to move them to their own domains. Should I, and if so, where should I move them and how? [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 1:13 PM PST - 3 comments

For ADD-ers: How do you set up your morning in order to stay productive?

I currently have a sporadic work schedule for a job that I would like to quit as soon as I land something better. On my days off, I know that I need to be filling in the extra days with productive stuff such as finding a new job. And on occasion I am successful! But more often than not, a misstep in the morning tends to snowball and leads to an entire morning - or even day - wasted. I'd like to know how other people who suffer from ADD or impulsivity were able to beat back their morning bad habits, or even reform them into good ones. [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 1:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Video streaming app for Android

I'm looking for a video streaming app and server for an Android phone and a Windows PC. [more inside]
posted by ArmyOfKittens at 12:48 PM PST - 11 comments

How can I get this seemingly interested employer to actually hire me?

How can I get this seemingly interested employer to actually hire me? [more inside]
posted by TryTheTilapia at 12:46 PM PST - 5 comments

Moving 1BR Apt from CT to NC in one week: help?

Looking for some advice on moving a one bedroom apartment worth of stuff from Connecticut to North Carolina the week of New Years! Legitimate moving companies (Atlas/United/etc.) can't do it in such short notice. Renting a UHaul/Budget van is as expensive as using a company with little/no reviews. Any other suggestions? Any specific references for a reputable company which can make this happen? Thanks!
posted by StarmanDXE at 11:23 AM PST - 11 comments

Can I fake out my work VPN with a complete disk copy?

If I do a disk copy of my work computer, will the VPN be usable? Nothing nefarious planned; I simply want to be able to VPN in if I'm stuck at home (snow, sickness) without my work laptop.
posted by IAmBroom at 10:08 AM PST - 15 comments

Translation from Hawaiian to English of a Hawaiian song

Where can I find an English translation of the lyrics to a Hawaiian song called "Ka `opae" written by Dennis Kamakahi? [more inside]
posted by surfgator at 9:21 AM PST - 2 comments

Best Practices for Database Interfaces on the Web?

I'm in the earliest possible stages of building a web interface that will make it easy to display, graph, download, summarize, and interact with a wide variety of data. If you use scientific data from the internet, what are some of the websites you've encountered that make using data the easiest, most intuitive, and give you the best control? Also, what are some must-have features for you, and some of the best and worst design decisions the site builders have made? [more inside]
posted by ropeladder at 7:41 AM PST - 4 comments

Airlines don't allow "snub-nosed" dogs. But my dog's face is special!

I have a Boston Terrier and would like to take him on a plane. Airline rules say Bostons are "snub-nosed" dogs that are not allowed on planes. But this particularly charming Boston is not "snub nosed" at all. His nose is not squishy. No breathing problems. He has a noble carriage! Many people think he is, in fact, some other breed. Is there any leniency in airline policy on this? (Pic inside!) [more inside]
posted by amoeba at 7:21 AM PST - 15 comments

Started to install a printer, and bricked my laptop!

Help! My family member ask me to help install a printer (a Lexmark x5470) on her laptop. I installed the drivers and then, when I restarted the computer the MOUSE AND KEYBOARD DONT WORK. I can't login! I can't do anything! It even happens in safe mode, I am running windows 7 family premium, 64 bit on an hp laptop. Help me not ruin Christmas,
posted by cacofonie at 6:50 AM PST - 9 comments

Seen any good (by good I mean bad) erotic thrillers?

My wife and I are big fans of cheesy erotic thrillers. Can you suggest any we haven't seen? [more inside]
posted by The Card Cheat at 6:40 AM PST - 33 comments

Can you point me to a TV show episode that contains words like "adorbs"?

I'm looking for examples of real-world (that is, non-Internet) usage of new slang shortenings like "totes", "ridic", "adorbs" or "awks". TV shows where characters use such words would be great, especially if the episodes are available online. I've found Youtube videos where people talk about the phenomenon, but I'd prefer non-ironic, spontaneous examples.
posted by redlines at 6:31 AM PST - 30 comments

How to deal with my height

I'm a girl that is 1,76 m tall, and I'm having serious problems with my height. I'm getting really depressed with it over time and I've come to the point where I am completely desperate. I really need some help. [more inside]
posted by Emily119 at 6:10 AM PST - 88 comments

Should I switch my electricity provider to ConEd SOLUTIONS?

is this ConEd solutions on the level, as providing more eco-friendly electricity than my regular Con Edison provider? What are the pros and cons? The agent who is trying to sell me this says my bill will go up a little. This is for residential usage in New York City. Any experience or information on this is much appreciated.
posted by DMelanogaster at 5:23 AM PST - 10 comments

Looking for dystopian short fiction and literary theory

Please help me find as much short (8,000 words or less) dystopian fiction and literary theory (any length) as possible! Anthologies are fine. It can be on the internet or in book/magazine/any purchasable form. It can be famous; it can be obscure. Anything goes, really! [more inside]
posted by Quilford at 4:54 AM PST - 15 comments

Interview extroardinaire

How to do well in interviews? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 4:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Should I try to get out of this lease?

I recently signed a lease on a new apartment that I'm supposed to move into on January 16. Now, I'm having serious second thoughts and trying to figure out if I should talk to the owner about getting out of the lease. I paid a deposit, but don't mind forfeiting that. I've been looking for a new place for the last four months, ever since new neighbors moved in upstairs. I have insomnia, though my sleep had been ok earlier in the year; it got much worse, though, because the new neighbors are frequently up late talking loudly. Even smaller sounds, like their footsteps on the hardwood floor above me, started to bother me. It's been a huge problem because I haven't slept well essentially since they moved in, and though I tried to talk with them, I definitely want to move. [more inside]
posted by three_red_balloons at 4:16 AM PST - 17 comments

Staying in close contact with someone that has hurt you...bad idea?

I basically had a thing with this guy that I ended up wanting more commitment than he did. When I ended it, he begged me to stay in touch so we are. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by sabina_r at 4:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Any tips on how to eat less?

I would like to start eating less. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 4:02 AM PST - 22 comments

Great Red Shark Blues

I'll have time to waste in California in February and have set my mind on enjoying a Hunter S. Thompson memorial road trip to Las Vegas. Trouble is, it's proving surprisingly hard to find someone who'll rent me a Great Red Shark to do so. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by themel at 2:45 AM PST - 2 comments

A purposeful life for a paper notebook

What do you use your paper notebooks for? I was recently gifted with several beautiful notebooks and also acquired various notebooks over the past year. I am having trouble figuring out great and practical uses for all of them. Hivemind, lay on me your notebook wisdom. [more inside]
posted by sums at 2:07 AM PST - 15 comments

December 20

Will a Kaiser doctor write an Rx that you can take to another pharmacy?

That's pretty much the whole question. I ask because I am signing up for Covered California and am leaning toward Kaiser, as that is the health provider I will have up to Dec. 31 of this year and it would be nice to not switch everything around. But the plan I am looking at charges $19/30 day supply for generic medications, and I know that one of my meds can be bought at Target for $10/90 day supply. I know that the normal Kaiser process is to use the in-house pharmacy, but I wonder if doctors will write a prescription that you can take elsewhere. Medications form the bulk of my healthcare spending so this could potentially make a big difference to my meager budget.
posted by imalaowai at 11:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Help convince me that alcohol isn't terrible!

I don't drink at all and I'm happy that way. What I don't like is the strong aversion I have to other people drinking. Help me understand why people drink and why it needn't be all that evil! :) [more inside]
posted by miaow at 10:16 PM PST - 39 comments

I want to buy a fancy thing for my girlfriend, but lady sizes confuse me

Help! My lovely girlfriend is blessed with sexy curves. I want to buy her either a particular dress or a particular skirt, in a surprise gift sorta way. But the sizes don't really match. And I am confused. [more inside]
posted by paultopia at 9:12 PM PST - 28 comments

Help me find the right Master’s Programme specialising in Oil in Germany

Hi there, I’m in a conundrum - I hold a Bachelors Degree in Physics and I am currently searching for a Master’s Programme at a German University specialising in the management of Oil resources and/or the relation to Oil and Physics that I studied. [more inside]
posted by theTrap at 8:46 PM PST - 3 comments

How can I minimize the cost of a public transit only trip to LA?

I'm planning a solo trip to Los Angeles for a week this coming February and will only using public transit... [more inside]
posted by danlewis84 at 8:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Unguided trekking in Tierra Del Fuego - Bad idea?

I'm going to Tierra Del Fuego soon, and I am considering going on a four to five day unguided trek... [more inside]
posted by MeanwhileBackAtTheRanch at 7:24 PM PST - 4 comments

How long should Clarks shoes last?

The shoes look fine but my husband says they are "dead" after only six months of daily wear. Is this normal? [more inside]
posted by platinum at 7:09 PM PST - 30 comments

Almost a decade later, any updates on alternatives to Ikea?

I'd like to configure a recessed niche part of a rec room wall with some floor-to-ceiling sliding doors, a la the Ikea PAX system. I recently picked up an Ikea piece and was gobsmacked to discover just how horrible they've become since the last time I bought any. [more inside]
posted by wkearney99 at 7:00 PM PST - 9 comments

Watch band pin replacement

One of the cotter pins in the stainless steel band of my Citizen watch has come loose to the point that it slides out on its own rather easily, separating the links of the watch band. The watch is still under warranty, but I'd rather not deal with shipping it away and waiting for such a minor repair. Are local jewelry shops likely to have a replacement pin, or [more inside]
posted by tonycpsu at 6:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Can you use a Samsung Galaxy Note without phone service?

I'm interested in getting a Galaxy Note (perhaps a used "Note II" version off of Craigslist) to use mainly as a sketchpad. Also, any other apps that happen to be helpful. I already have a mobile phone, so I wouldn't want to sign up for another account. Will the device function as just a hand-held computer, without cellular service? So for example, could I connect it to my home wi-fi network and use Dropbox, browse the Web etc?
posted by trevor_case at 6:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Is it contagious and is Christmas cancelled?

The person my mom lives with has a gastrointestinal virus or some such thing. He is still symptomatic. My mom does not have it, but is she contagious? Gross-ish detail to follow. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 4:03 PM PST - 17 comments

What does "MTK" stand for?

This may be an absurd long-shot: what song/album/artist could "MTK" stand for? [more inside]
posted by Starmie at 3:33 PM PST - 23 comments

Using Hulu (free) with Chromecast on iOS?

I've googled this, but every reference is to Hulu Plus. I have an iPod 5th gen, and the Chromecast dongle plugged in to my TV. Using the Chrome browser for iPod + Chromecast app, watching stuff like Netflix works fine. However, when I visit, the site detects my OS/Browser, and won't serve me content unless I buy Hulu Plus. Of course I can plug my laptop directly in to the TV, and watch Hulu's free programming that way. But not with Chromecast. Is there a way to mimic a desktop browser in Chrome, and then 'Cast' a Hulu program to the TV? Other options?
posted by 4midori at 2:52 PM PST - 7 comments

Is CiviCRM suitable for a tiny nonprofit?

I am involved with a tiny nonprofit -- we have a few hundred donors, volunteers and clients, and no paid staff. Some of our volunteers have been frustrated with our recordkeeping system (shared Google docs), and one of our volunteers is suggesting CiviCRM. I think this is overkill. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Books to make Statistics Interesting

If I'm going to succeed in a field I am considering (bioinformatics), I'm going to need to learn a good deal of statistics. I have limited experience in the subject and have never found the details of it especially compelling. Can you recommend some books on statiistics (not necessarily light on the details) that are well written and interesting? Something designed to get the layman interested in the details could be good, but textbook recommendations would also be good.
posted by garuda at 2:35 PM PST - 20 comments

New questions about an old problem (belly fat)

Regarding diet/exercise, what would you think would be the most effective way to lose my belly beyond what I'm already doing? [more inside]
posted by mintchip at 2:09 PM PST - 25 comments

Job Seach Resources Help for Science-y, Communications-y Type Jobs

I'm looking for some help finding job search resources for a field that, at least as far as I know, doesn't have a super specific name. I'm interested in looking for communications-y type jobs that are specifically in science-y environments or that work with science-y content. Bonus points for resources specific to Washington, DC or Baltimore. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 2:00 PM PST - 5 comments

If You Like Aramis and Drakkar, You'll LOVE...

I have waited too long to buy my father a Christmas gift. He is hard to buy for, but one thing he reliably likes is cologne. The only trouble is I have no idea what he likes now or even what newer men's fragrances are out there. It's been years since I purchased cologne for him. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 1:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Postcard stalker?

Since mid September I've been receiving vintage postcards in the mail from an anonymous person. [more inside]
posted by Hellafiles at 1:01 PM PST - 153 comments

Fuck female-pattern hair loss

Female-pattern hair loss: Is Rogaine my only hope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:52 PM PST - 14 comments

Best way to approach a girl in a library?

So I'm going to this library practically everyday to study (I can no longer study at home) and there's this girl who sits 5 meters or so from me in another table. We just stare at each other for seconds and then look away. [more inside]
posted by Attozes at 12:27 PM PST - 32 comments

How do you keep your deck from pooling water?

The wood on my deck is too tight, so water isn't draining. This = icy danger and a messy entryway. How have you dealt with this? I don't want to drill drainage holes if i don't have to. Thanks!
posted by smelvis at 12:15 PM PST - 9 comments

What to do to heal from a cough?

In week 4 of a cough they say I just have to wait out. What can I do to speed things along here? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 12:11 PM PST - 25 comments

Where is the rear brake pedal on the new Vespas?

The Vespa scooter I rode many years ago had a front wheel brake operated by a hand lever and a rear wheel brake operated by a foot pedal. Motorcycles have the same layout. I see Vespas all over the place, but they don't have the rear brake pedal. How do you actuate the rear brake?
posted by KRS at 12:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Raincoat adaptable for puffy and unpuffed people

What's a great waterproof men's rain shell / raincoat that I can wear over my winter coat AND by itself in the summer? [more inside]
posted by scarylarry at 11:52 AM PST - 4 comments

Anyone trained in singing out there able to answer this?

I've taken up singing as a hobby and have started a class. I'm confused as to some of the technical aspects we're learning. On the one hand the instructor has mentioned that Singing is merely sustained Speech... but then she has also said that singing is different from regular speech because when we sing we must aim to keep the rib cage up and expanded whereas when we speak the rib cage and intercostal muscles collapses with the breath. So this has left me wondering- Is the collapsing simply a bad habit that many of us do that we should correct during our speech? Or do we really need to breath differently when we sing rather than the rest of the time? I'm not talking about how we would need to take a bigger breath to sustain a note or something like that.. I'm talking about the technical aspects of breathing ie - The use of the intercostal muscles etc... Should the technical aspect of breathing for speech and singing really be that different from one another?
posted by manderin at 11:17 AM PST - 9 comments

In sickness and in (better) health

My wedding is coming up in a few months and I want to find some small things I can do to reduce my spare tire before I walk down the aisle. [more inside]
posted by SeparateAccountForWeddingQuestions at 11:09 AM PST - 14 comments

Facebook etiquette for what is basically, a year-long vacation?

After years of saving and planning, I've been able to realize my dream of traveling the world for a year. I'm 6 months into my trip and I've been posting photos or updates about where I am in the world on facebook about 2 or 3 times a week. While many people have expressed appreciation for the updates or interest in what I'm doing, I've noticed about 7-10 friends who used to interact with me all the time on FB and real life have totally stopped liking/commenting/sending messages although they're still very active on the site. I kind of suspect some of them have blocked me from their timelines. I know not everyone will have an opportunity like this and I try to be sensitive to that. I'm not preachy about "the importance of travel", or posting pics of 5 star hotel rooms and fancy restaurants (I'm doing this as cheaply as possible, mostly hostels in developing countries and couchsurfing.) At the same time I LOVE seeing others' travel pics and, well, want to share some of the exciting, amazing things I'm experiencing with people in my life. But some people seem put off by this, so I'm wondering - am I being a jerk? What's the etiquette here?
posted by horizons at 11:01 AM PST - 55 comments

Explain student loans to a twentysomething!

I'm trying to figure out how federal student loans have changed in the past 5 years, including the Bipartisan Student Loan Certainty Act of 2013. [more inside]
posted by annabellee at 10:42 AM PST - 3 comments

What can a customer do?

I placed an order on The Body Shop's website on Dec. 1 for cyber monday. There was some issue with shipping (where the courier company was given insufficient information, and never delivered and instead returned the package), and I never got the package that I had paid for. I have called, emailed, and tried numerous time to get in touch with a customer service person. I was on hold for more than half an hour each time, and no representative ever responded to my email. I am infuriated now-- they charged my credit card. What options do I have at this point? What can I do? I want either a refund or my order. I don't care which. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 10:27 AM PST - 17 comments

How to make light floors and dark furnishings work?

It's time to paint the living room. Problem: we have light wood floors with dark furnishings and my SO wants to keep the room "light and airy" whereas I would do anything to avoid white or eggshell walls and keep pushing for colors he says are "too dark and claustrophobic". What color scheme can we both agree on to really tie the room together? [more inside]
posted by The Whelk at 10:22 AM PST - 31 comments

Is there life on Mars?

When scientists seek out life forms on other planets, what kind of methods/ technology are employed (both past and present)? I am especially interested in anything on this topic that would have been going on in 2006, but any information would be helpful about any era.
posted by mermaidcafe at 10:11 AM PST - 11 comments

Can I expect the airfare of this ticket to go back down?

I am considering booking a roundtrip ticket from Chicago-Montreal for a certain weekend several months from now. I've been looking up prices for the last week or so, and most google/orbitz searches were consistently around the low $400 mark for a trip with one-stop each way. I checked today and notice that now the fare of the same flights are around $600. Is there any reasonable way of knowing if the price will decrease again in the foreseeable future? [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 9:45 AM PST - 10 comments

Last minute trip to Portland and Seattle!

We just decided to drive from SF to Seattle via Portland for about a week. What are some fun family things to do?  Places to eat?  Places to stay?  Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by mamabear at 9:25 AM PST - 30 comments

Who owns/services your mortgage and what're they like? Does it matter?

We're shopping for a mortgage (in the DC area), and are feeling anxious and frustrated that 1) it's so hard to know who we'll end up with because so many lenders/originators are likely to sell our loan and/or servicing after closing, and 2) it's easy to find complaints about most servicers out there and hard to find anyone that's satisfied.  What has your experience been like with the place(s) that own and/or service your mortgage?  Or should we put all that to the side and just try to find someone with the best rates/fees and the best reviews/recommendations regarding smooth and quick closing? [more inside]
posted by EmilyClimbs at 9:19 AM PST - 22 comments

So, uh, how does this sex stuff work, anyway?

(Or, how do I reconcile the tension that comes with wanting to date but not having an internal template for how the whole rigmarole of dating works?) My life is pretty good right now, and a huge part of why it’s that way is my amazing friendships. But sometimes I feel like taking steps towards something more meaningful and a little more permanent in my life. Where do I start? I feel a little weird about the whole sex and dating thing for chicken-and-the-egg-y reasons, and weird emotional issues too, and reading on the Internet and hearing from friends about the myriad ways people are able to be judgey, or to screw each other over, or generally look out for #1 in their relationships is really getting me down too. As a result, I’m kind of despairing a little about being able to find a mutually respectful and healthy environment with someone neat where I can explore the sexual side of myself and we of ourselves, all the while remaining true to myself and what I value. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:21 AM PST - 22 comments

Tax emergency in Canada

A disabled relative is having all the money automatically taken out of her account by the Canada Revenue Agency (CRA). She doesn't owe taxes (all she has to do is file and they will give the money back) but this will take many months. What can we do? [more inside]
posted by Dreadnought at 8:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Suggest an audiobook for a long, boring drive.

The week after Christmas Mr. Ant and I are driving from East Tennessee to Central Florida and back, which is about 1600 miles. A good audiobook would help a lot with the boredom. [more inside]
posted by workerant at 8:09 AM PST - 21 comments

Does a basic homeowner's insurance policy cover water line replacement?

Tree roots have grown into the main water line that runs from the meter to my house and the whole thing has to be dug up and replaced. (Merry Christmas to me!) It occurred to me while talking with plumbers yesterday that my homeowner's insurance might cover something like this. However, I read the policy packet and am not seeing any details about what my insurance does and doesn't cover. [more inside]
posted by something something at 7:54 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me find a nutty, German dessert to bake!

What are your favorite nutty German desserts that are not terribly sweet? Please share your tried and true recipes! [more inside]
posted by Viola at 7:46 AM PST - 10 comments

What can I do on Christmas Eve in Fort Smith, Arkansas?

As part of an epic, if ill-timed, roadtrip, I will be in Fort Smith AR on the evening of Dec 24. What might I find open in terms of restaurants and entertainment?
posted by eaglehound at 6:57 AM PST - 5 comments

unempathic roommate?

I work in a human services discipline, and recently one of my clients passed away unexpectedly, most likely due to natural causes. I was shocked and very sad to find out about this, but also had a number of other clients to see that day, and so coped with it during the day as best I could. That evening, when my roommate asked about my day, I briefly told her what had happened and that I was pretty affected by it. She, a nurse, gave a response best paraphrased as "Yeah, that sucks, when my first client died it was really hard for me, it could have been suicide, did you think about that?" and then launched into a long description of everything that had happened to her that day. I was rather stunned by her apparent disinterest in my experience, and didn't say anything, but I've been feeling pretty annoyed since then, and am not sure how to best deal with this. [more inside]
posted by ribbit ribbit at 6:55 AM PST - 33 comments

What is a good way to signal the end of a large gathering?

I regularly find myself needing to conclude a fairly sizable gathering of people. Too often I find myself at the end of our proceedings, saying something like "Have a great week," expecting people to get up and leave. But they don't. After an awkward moment, I find myself resorting to "We're done." Everyone laughs and finally leaves. How can I better signal a conclusion?
posted by toots at 6:45 AM PST - 49 comments

Camera Recommendations for Video Blogging?

I've heard really good things about the Canon T3i but I'm not a fan of the bulk. Does anyone have other camera reccs (good with video) that offer a full swivel LCD screen? [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 6:43 AM PST - 4 comments

What are these odd kinda-USB ports on my HP laptop?

I have an old HP Pavillion (I think) laptop. It has two standard USB ports, and then two others that are almost the same size as USB ports, but not quite, and any USB items I plug in do not get recognized by the computer. Anyone have any clue what they might be?
posted by canine epigram at 6:28 AM PST - 8 comments

I need cookie receipes...

I got an early Christmas present, these cookie stamps. So now I need cookie recipes that I can stamp. My go-to cookies are chocolate chip and thumbprint, which I don't think would work. No doubt the basic peanut butter cookies that are smooshed with a fork would be fine, but what other cookies are "smooshable?"
posted by Marky at 5:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Why is my MacBook running so slow?

How can I figure out why my MacBook Pro is running so slow, and what can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 5:42 AM PST - 24 comments

Non-technical WordPress user's guide

I'm looking for an absolute beginner's guide to WordPress that just covers creating and editing posts and pages and uploading media, and nothing else; the kind of thing that I imagine a web developer might give to a client. Can you recommend some (free) on-line resources? [more inside]
posted by Zeinab Badawi's Twenty Hotels at 5:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Budgeting QA time in web dev?

For those working in web dev with a dedicated QA/testing team: what percentage/ratio of the project schedule do you devote to testing, fixing, and regression testing, especially when compared to planning and the time actually allocated to dev? [more inside]
posted by flibbertigibbet at 5:08 AM PST - 11 comments

Dizzy in bed in the morning

I've been waking up before my alarm the last few days, seemingly just so I can be dizzy for 5 minutes before I go back to sleep. When I do wake up, any movement causes me to be dizzy and I have to lay there for another 10 minutes or so before I feel good enough to get up. After that, the dizziness is gone until the next morning. You're not my doctor, but any ideas or suggestions? [more inside]
posted by sarae at 5:04 AM PST - 15 comments

Before or After Christmas to buy a desktop computer?

Does Dell Computer run the best sales of it's desktop computers before or after Christmas? [more inside]
posted by BillyAnne at 3:31 AM PST - 4 comments

the joys of PMS

As I've gotten older, my PMS has gotten worse and worse. It's not emotional, though, just physical discomfort. Anyone have any ideas on how to ease the week or so before my period? Details within. Warning: This got gross. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:40 AM PST - 25 comments

Weirdness in the workshop

Is it possible for a 3 phase motor to switch polarity without changing the input wires anywhere? [more inside]
posted by Kerasia at 1:17 AM PST - 14 comments

Introduction to Culinary Studies - Portable Edition

Looking for lunch ideas to pack and take with me, when I go to college starting in January. So, in January, I'll be starting full time school again. Yay. However, this particular Community College has a dearth of lunch options - just a sad cafeteria, and nothing within easy walking distance that I know of. Boo. (North Seattle Community College, if familiar). And I need ideas. I won't have access to a refrigerator. I will have, in theory, access to a microwave - but it may break, and/or be in constant use by other students. So I'd probably need dishes that can be eaten safely at room temperature that are filling and tasty. I can cook, and am adventurous, so I'm willing to try lots of different things. [more inside]
posted by spinifex23 at 1:17 AM PST - 14 comments

Can anyone help me identify this weird water pipe in my yard?

I rent, and tonight I heard the sound of running water in my yard. I went outside to investigate and saw that water was spurting upwards out of this black pipe in the yard that is about 8" in diameter and sticks out of the ground about a foot (link to picture inside). The pipe has a cap on it that has a hole in it - it looks like an intentional hole that water is supposed to come out of. However, I've lived here for years and I've never seen or heard this happening. It rained today, and I live in SoCal where it hardly rains, but again, this seemed new. The water coming out was substantial and flooded a bit of my (very small) yard. After a while the water flow petered out. Since then, it's been going on and off at random intervals. I've tried to see if me running the water or flushing the toilet is connected to this, but I'm not sure that there is a correlation. The water coming out looked clear, but smelled a little funky and may have emitted a little steam (I didn't want to touch it to check the temp). The pipe is located less than a foot away from the side of the house and is next to my water heater that is located outdoors in some sort of locker thing. I've left a message for the landlord but wanted to see if anyone has any insight as to what this thing may be, and if this is unusual. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by emily37 at 12:44 AM PST - 13 comments

Does this relationship worth continuing?

I have known this girl for about 8 months. She has put a lot of pressure on me to meet her parents and wants to see my parents as well. In the beginning of our relationship she told me that she was done with dating and the last person she wants to be intimate with should ideally be her husband. She said that she dated two other people in the past and I am the third one. Since she was 30 years old and her number was too low to me, I asked her if she met other people in between her serious relationships and she said yes but she claimed she was not intimate with them. Anyways I did not care about her number as long as she was honest with me. [more inside]
posted by mbn1455 at 12:09 AM PST - 50 comments

December 19

IF only I knew where to start...

Please recommend some interactive fiction with published source code (Inform 7) that is good for showing a beginner IF author best practice. [more inside]
posted by man down under at 11:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Frozen Epipen

Today I realized that I left my purse in my car for several days, in temperatures well below freezing. In my purse was an epipen. It was in the cold, and quite possibly frozen, for at least 72 hours, possibly longer. I know that the pens aren't especially shelf-stable even under the best of circumstances--is it still good? [more inside]
posted by MeghanC at 10:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Where to go for high quality freelancers? (Angies list for oDesk?)

I'm a big fan of outsourcing, and use oDesk extensively. But sometimes I need a reliable worker from a recommended source. Is there an Angie's List equivalent for online professionals? [more inside]
posted by felspar at 10:37 PM PST - 5 comments

NYC subway trains stink, mold?

I feel sick every time I get on to nyc subway trains. The N train is constantly stinky like urine and mcdonalds and feet, that triggered my multiple chemical sensitivity badly. I noticed 7 train usually have very fresh air which does not trigger my symptoms, as well as #6 train. R train is much better than N train, and E train is much better than F train. I want to know what caused these nasty stinky trains? Are all odor caused by mold? Btw: I can't tolerate PATH smell as well. I'm so confused people in these trains seem do not feel anything. Any information or comment are welcome.
posted by pack2themoon at 10:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Crafting a Monthly Love Letter

Christmas gift help: what's a fun way to visually design a different love letter for each month of the year? [more inside]
posted by bbuda at 9:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Set of religious greeting cards with no one to send them to?

I accidentally bought a pack of beautiful Hanukkah cards with no one who celebrates it to send to. What is the best thing to do with them? [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 9:30 PM PST - 15 comments

Old friend had a baby... maybe.

I recently did a Google search for an old college friend of mine that I haven't seen since his wedding a couple of years ago. I found a link to a baby registry with his and his wife's name on it, and the due date was listed as a week ago. I really want to call him up and congratulate him, but there's something a little weird about it: The registry has a ton of stuff on it, but almost nothing has been purchased: Just a few stuffed animals. This makes me worry that maybe they lost the baby and they just never took down the registry. [more inside]
posted by AlexanderPetros at 8:34 PM PST - 15 comments

SugarSync alternatives?

Sugarsync is transitioning to paid-only plans, with the minimum plan being $75/60GB. This is more space than I need, so I'm looking for alternatives. [more inside]
posted by modernnomad at 7:57 PM PST - 13 comments

Cost of living in Beijing?

Hi, I've some prospect of an offer to work in Beijing for what I understand would be closer to a citizen's salary than an expat's, which in theory is okay. The number looks to be about 11,000 RMB per month. There is some Beijing cost-of-living info out there, but I'd be grateful for your experiences and thoughts. In short, I don't want to live somewhere dire by any standard and live on rice and twigs. Possible? Thank you for your thoughts.
posted by ambient2 at 7:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Issues with spoken-word listening apps on iPhone 5s, other smartphones?

It's that magical time of the biennium where my loved ones upgrade my phone for me. I listen to a lot of audiobooks and podcasts on my current phone, an iPhone 4s, using the Audible and Downcast apps, respectively. Unfortunately, when I pause and do something else on the phone, it often "forgets" what I had been listening to, forcing me to reopen the app. I'd like my next phone to not experience this issue, but relevant info isn't something I can get out of the standard review article, so I've turned to you kind people. [more inside]
posted by dondiego87 at 7:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Glass Block or Insulated Replacement Window

So I have been working on my house and making it energy efficient. It is now time to replace the basement windows in my split level. One double wide window needs to be replaced with one that opens to meet code, but the other three single wide windows do not. Would I be better installing glass blocks in those three, not vented, or installing either a picture, slider, or another type of insulated vinyl replacement window? If I should do a replacement window, which type should I use? [more inside]
posted by Nackt at 7:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a Plant of the Month Club for a gardener's gift!

I'm looking for recommendations for a monthly subscription club that ships live plants suitable to be replanted outside or, at a minimum, kept alive on a porch or window. Cut flowers won't work here, I want to give a gardener a steady stream of projects and surprises for 2014. Mid-Atlantic region of the east coast if it helps. Thanks you so much in advance! This is a bear of a bunch of search terms.
posted by troublewithwolves at 7:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Cat stops meowing

My cat has barely let out a meow since I've been home from work. Usually he starts up as soon as my keys are in the door. I plan on taking him with me tomorrow if he's not back to normal by the time I'm ready to leave for work, and hitting the Vet. Any ideas what could be wrong though? [more inside]
posted by one4themoment at 7:40 PM PST - 15 comments

Sutter Health doctor rec needed

I'm moving to the Brentwood area and need a new doctor (family medicine/internist/GP) who is part of Sutter Health. My wishlist: Relatively young, female, not obsessive about my weight, good diagnostician, uses MyHealthOnline. [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 7:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Christmas in a ski condo. Please help me cook.

Spending Xmas at a shared ski condo, and not sure how to plan. Apparently folks share the (poorly equipped) kitchen, so I can't monopolize it for hours on end, and people don't usually share meals. [more inside]
posted by cyndigo at 7:08 PM PST - 7 comments

When is it appropriate to ask about someone's health?

A friend of mine (let's call her "Sarah") came over for dinner at my flat last week. Some way through the meal (just after the first bottle of wine was finished) she told us that her partner had recently been tested for a very serious medical condition. She then said that she "hadn't intended to talk about it". She will have recently received the results of this test, and I'm wondering whether it's appropriate to ask her what the result of the test was. I care a lot about Sarah and her partner (who is an incredibly warm and wonderful person), but I don't want to intrude. On the other hand, I don't want to be unsupportive. A few details are below the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 PM PST - 8 comments

I waxed my skis, now please un-wax my floors

I offered up my house's basement to apartment-dwelling friends for a ski waxing party, and now walking through my basement with sock feet is potentially lethal. Is there anything I can do to tone down the slippage? [more inside]
posted by adiabat at 6:12 PM PST - 9 comments

One couple in Sacramento for the holiday - no family - what should we do

The lady and I are hanging out in Sac-town, next week with a little spare time to go out and about. What should we do? Bonus points for holiday-themed ideas.
posted by jander03 at 6:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Curious about my possessed knuckle

I woke in the middle of the night last night with a pain in my finger, only to find that my pinky knuckle--and only my pinky knuckle--was red, sore, and a little swollen. I put some antibiotic ointment on it (because that is my solution for everything) and went back to sleep. When I woke up this morning, it was completely back to normal. I know you're not a doctor, but what is this? Did I cut off circulation? Was it an illusion created by my anxiety-prone mind? Am I going to die? If it helps, I live in a cold climate and I've never broken any fingers.
posted by sandwiches at 5:19 PM PST - 16 comments

Spice me up

Can you help me meet and learn about spices, but the minimal cooking version? [more inside]
posted by Wolfster at 4:31 PM PST - 26 comments

I've created a dirty talking monster

I've been having a wonderful (until recently) online relationship with a guy until I told him to talk dirty to me now he won't stop. [more inside]
posted by sundaytea at 4:03 PM PST - 22 comments

Computer-controlled typewriter output (with impact, not typewriter font)

I'd like to use my computer to generate output that looks like it was typewritten, not like it's a photocopy of something typewritten, i.e., with some form of mechanical impact printing. What's the cheapest way to do this? [more inside]
posted by Zed at 3:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Is the website a scam?

I've been looking at some toys for the kids for Christmas and this site, keeps coming up with prices way cheaper then a lot of other online retailers. However, I've never heard of it and the site itself seems a little "scammy". Any thoughts? Thanks
posted by senseofsurreal at 3:20 PM PST - 7 comments

$3100 bill for "completely covered" procedure.

My doctor sent me for a colonoscopy due to family history. The clinic gave me some paperwork saying it would be completely covered unless they found something, and then it would be $250. They didn't find anything. I lost the paperwork. Now they're sending me bills for $3100. [more inside]
posted by johnofjack at 3:12 PM PST - 26 comments

Identify this 1960s counterculture book

I'm trying to identify a book I once encountered on the shelves of the father of a friend. The father grew up in the 1960s in the UK. I think the book was also from the 60s, and it was a shockingly underground artefact of the 60s counterculture. As I recall, it was a mixture of a guide to counterculture life, and fiction. The guide provided practical information on countercultural necessities, such as squatting, drugs and possibly theft. The fiction part included the indelible description of a someone cutting a hole in someone's scrotum, and inflating it with a drinking straw (as part of a sexual encounter, I think). As you can imagine, googling this has been an unpleasant experience.
posted by anonymous at 2:59 PM PST - 7 comments

13 years old, my car’s about to hit puberty.

I have a 2001 Prius and it needs a new hybrid battery. Does anyone in Milwaukee, WI, know of a shop that can do this? [more inside]
posted by thebestsophist at 2:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Too close for comfort . . .

I've searched previous threads regarding appropriate relationships with exes, but I'm still a little confused with my situation. Would really appreciate some feedback from both the male and female perspective. [more inside]
posted by canda at 2:05 PM PST - 24 comments

This totally awesome iridescent bag

I saw the coolest messenger-ish bag today, made with subtly iridescent fabric. Anyone know where I can find this bag? [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 1:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Tokyo Hotel Location Filter

Part of my honeymoon will be in Tokyo. We are narrowing our hotel choices (we are limited to these for point/free redemption ability), but wanted to get a sense of the pros and cons. We are seasoned travelers who will likely be seeing many different parts of the city and nearby towns (i.e. Kamakura). Have seen this thread but want to get a sense for a couple. What are your thoughts on where to stay? Our criteria include a)ability to get in and out, b) 'interestingness' of area --is it a 24 hour district (this is good) and c) the IT honeymoon factor (i.e. the hotel experience). [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 1:39 PM PST - 5 comments

Taking care of a European Cypress tree

My dad sent me a European Cypress tree in the mail. How do I take care of it? Minnesota edition. [more inside]
posted by Zosia Blue at 1:38 PM PST - 1 comment

How can I get my car to start?

My much-babied, recently inspected 2008 Scion xD won't start! When I got in the car yesterday morning and turned the key in the ignition, it made a buzzing/grrrr sound and some of the dash lights come on -- but that was it, the engine wouldn't turn over. I tried again about a half hour ago, and it did start up after a little hiccup, so I thought maybe yesterday was a fluke. But when I got in the car just now to actually go somewhere, it refused to start up again. Now the radio won't even turn on, though most of the dash lights still do. I tried rolling it down the hill, pumping the breaks, all the stuff non-mechanically-minded me can think of. Help! What can I do right now to get it to start and to get the engine to turn over? [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 1:27 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me escape my college town!

I'm a 20-year-old college junior near the Roanoke area of southwest Virginia, and I have a car for the first time this year. I need ideas for interesting attractions within a four hour drive. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by bonifate at 12:51 PM PST - 21 comments

Why won't images print in my MS word document?

Why won't images print in my MS word document? Especially when these same images printed just fine in a nearly identical previous version of this document? [more inside]
posted by mai at 12:47 PM PST - 6 comments

End of World problems: disaster recovery / secure remote access for SMB?

What are IT folks doing to ensure continuity for small business customers whose offices could be affected by natural disasters? Is XenDesktop a good idea, and if so, what configuration would seem to make the most sense? Other ideas also fervently solicited. [more inside]
posted by Embryo at 12:46 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me make an awesome 90's alternative rock mixtape

Inspired by the Cones Of Dunshire link on the blue wherein Letters To Cleo is invoked. Trying to make a 60 minute mix of vaguely obscure alternative rock from the 90's. Preferably early to mid 90's. Preferably of the one-hit-wonder-you-totally-forgot-about-until-hearing-that-again variety. No bands that are still together allowed. Or at least, no bands that you ever heard from again but quixotically still tour.
posted by mediocre at 12:44 PM PST - 87 comments

The Cheesecake Factory at Home.

I have a great cheesecake recipe. I want to bake it for a small profit or no profit, mostly for fun and to see what it's like to run a business. It does not have to be an official LLC or anything, but can be. What do I need to know to run this business? [more inside]
posted by ethidda at 12:39 PM PST - 13 comments

How to best deal with a despised close friend of my SO?

For reasons that I find entirely justifiable, I despise one of my significant other's closest friends. Until recently, we have gotten along, and although he treats his girlfriend terribly and frequently complains about their relationship to my SO and me, I thought he was just unhappy in his relationship, and dismissed it. Recent events have brought to light that, not only does he dislike me deep down, it appears he genuinely thinks of women in general as nothing more than inconsequential beasts with breasts that somehow continue to exists despite their obvious stupidity and inability to do anything of value. Obviously this revelation makes me a little uncomfortable with the idea of he and my SO cavorting about together without me being around to deter the "I hate women" diatribe. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Quincy at 12:36 PM PST - 32 comments

Etiquette for contacting possible post-doc opportunity

I'm about to finish my PhD this coming Spring in the U.S., and although the funding I received was specifically for creating "practitioners" I'd actually like to sharpen my research and publication skills via a post-doc. The thing is, most researchers in my area are in the U.K. How do I introduce myself to them? [more inside]
posted by absquatulate at 11:40 AM PST - 5 comments

What does getting married have to do with Christmas cards?

My partner and I got married a few months ago, and now we are receiving Christmas cards from people who had not sent us any before. Why? [more inside]
posted by Pwoink at 11:02 AM PST - 29 comments

Aviators: how do you lookup navaids' A/FD pages in ForeFlight?

ForeFlight is a great replacement for paper charts and the A/FD -- except when it comes to non-airports in the A/FD. How do you find information about a navaid that is not on an airport? [more inside]
posted by phliar at 11:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Christmas parties shouldn't involve a trip to the grocery store, right?

My boyfriend is having some coworkers over tomorrow night for a little get-together/party thing. This isn't their official christmas party (they had that at work last night), just a few (6-7 or so people) getting together. When asked about what he's doing for food, my boyfriend just assumed they'd all just go to the grocery store to get something, which I personally find pretty... weird. As I'm helping host, I want to provide better noms! [more inside]
posted by hasna at 10:58 AM PST - 46 comments

Please help me find and choose a Drupal theme

I'm hoping to find a Drupal theme/template that would be suitable for the website of a wedding venue. [more inside]
posted by wats at 10:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Ipod to Computer file names, renaming files question

I transferred files from an old ipod to a new computer, but lost all of my file names. Names appear in hundreds of folders like AAAA , and within each folder 100's of songs title AAAA. Now the catch is the mp3 tags still have some of the proper filenames, but what program can I use, or what method to strip MP3/ID3 tags to rename all of the files? (I don't want to do this manually, were talking 10,000+ files)
posted by MechEng at 10:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me find a great, easy baked French toast recipe!

I foolishly committed to having my parents over for Christmas breakfast, the day after we are hosting 10 people in our tiny apartment for Christmas Eve. I'd like to make a baked French toast where I can whip it up the night before, leave it in the fridge overnight, and just pop it in the oven in the morning. I figure that plus bacon plus fruit and we're done. But I've never made baked French toast! Please point me toward your favorite recipes and share any tips you might have. Thanks!
posted by skycrashesdown at 10:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Is my therapist's definition of "social currency" correct?

Recently I spent hours with a former co-worker gossiping about our former workplace. We didn't actually connect or strengthen our own friendship; I just felt shitty after. My therapist labeled this conversation/habit "social currency" because workplace gossip was something impersonal to talk about that could ease conversation, but didn't result in actual sharing. But I've Googled the phrase and don't see "social currency" defined in that way. Is there a phenomenon by another name that she was referring to? [more inside]
posted by whenbynowandtreebyleaf at 10:12 AM PST - 10 comments

I need health insurance and MassHealthConnector is broken

Hello all, I was laid off from my job in July and went to Europe for a few months. Now that I am back in USA, I tried to sign up for affordable care act via only to find out this site is the reincarnation of the devil. I cannot finish my application for this health insurance because I get stuck on a page that requires me to put in my employer info. Now since I am unemployed I obviously do not have an employer. This site literally will not let me complete the rest of the application without entering a whole bunch of information on my current employer which does not exist! How on earth do people without jobs apply for this?? Does anyone else run into this frustrating issue? Is there any other health insurance I can sign up for?
posted by bostonhill at 9:56 AM PST - 12 comments

Make my parents' Christmas.

I'm a 40 year old man, recently single and spending Christmas with my parents for the first time in two decades. They're excited, help us have a good one. [more inside]
posted by Caskeum at 9:50 AM PST - 17 comments

A last minute Christmas by myself?

For various reasons including pets with no available sitter and a few failed plans, I have my first Christmas Day in NYC by myself. I don't feel particularly sad about this, but it might be weird to wake up in the morning with nothing to do. Fun and meaningful activities? [more inside]
posted by ulfberht at 9:44 AM PST - 20 comments

What to do in Albany on a weekday in January.

I have to take a crash solo trip to Albany, NY in mid-January for a (very short) business meeting on a Wednesday morning and another meeting the next day. I will be staying in a hotel near the SUNY campus, and my meetings are downtown. I'm looking for suggestions of things to do afterwards on Wednesday, as I will have the whole day and evening to kill, as well as a bit of time on Thursday morning. I will not have a car or bike, but am perfectly happy to walk sizable distances or take public transit, and though I plan on dressing appropriately for the weather, I'd prefer activities that involve at least some amount of indoor time, are open on a weekday, and are on the cheaper end. Suggestions on places to eat are also welcome! Oh, and though I have driven through it, I have never actually been there before. Thanks!
posted by likeatoaster at 9:16 AM PST - 9 comments

How To Talk About Sex

Occasionally, I bring up the subject of sex with my partner, and I always get nowhere. Sex has never been something that we've really talked about. We had those first few conversations when we met several years ago: disclosures of risks, general preferences, expectations for monogamy, etc. and from there we just let it develop naturally. We need to talk about it because our sex life isn't meeting my needs, and I've asked to talk about it, but I still don't know how to talk about it, and I'm afraid this is just going to become another in a string of failed attempts to talk about sex. [more inside]
posted by this *is* my happy face at 9:09 AM PST - 28 comments

Looking for good spacey music streams

Long story short - diagnosed with ADHD, went on Adderall, changed my life, and I've found that I'm particularly productive if listening to non-lyrical, somewhat unpredictable/atonal music in my headphones. My go-to web streams are Soma.FM's Space Station Soma and Deep Space One, but both of these stations often feature music with vocal interludes or samples. These distract me a bit, as well as making me laugh, because the interludes are often quite hilariously stereotypical (reminiscent of Strong Bad's electronic classic "The System Is Down"). So basically, I'm looking for web streams of spacey music without vocals. Any ideas?
posted by downing street memo at 8:46 AM PST - 16 comments

Plex Alternative for Cataloging/Playing Ripped DVDs in Video_TS format?

I have a number of ripped DVDs that maintain the original DVD file structure. VLC can play them fine. So can built in DVD players. I like Plex for the way it catalogs and organizes the files for me, but it never played that structure back very well, and in newer released versions it isn't even trying to play it any longer. Is there something with same cataloging features of Plex that can seamlessly pass the file to VLC or some other program for play back? Solutions for Mac and/or Windows are welcome. Extra credit if there is a client/server implementation that could actually play these files through something like Roku.
posted by willnot at 8:29 AM PST - 4 comments

Planning a ski trip... A year in advance

Help me figure out all the logistics involved in planning my very first big-boy vacation: A ski trip to the Rockies. I could use location recommendations or tour companies if any of you have experience with that. Details inside [more inside]
posted by nickhb at 8:23 AM PST - 14 comments

One woman pyjama party

If I have nothing much to do on a Sunday, I like to have a bath and spend the day in a pair of pyjamas, preferably while watching telly and sewing. Where can I get some awesome pyjamas that fulfill all my annoying fit requirements? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 8:07 AM PST - 15 comments

Dog-proof beanbag chairs?

Do you have destructive dogs? Do you have beanbag chairs that have survived the attentions of your destructive dogs? Please tell me the brand and where you bought them (online shopping preferred). Alternately, general advice on which material(s) are particularly impervious to chewing and dog pee would also be appreciated. Thanks!
posted by Jacqueline at 7:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me with a Spanish Christmas present for my mom VERY FAST!

I need to get a Christmas present for my mom (I KNOW HOW LITTLE TIME THERE IS LEFT, THANK YOU!). I'd really like it to be related to our recent trip to Spain, ideally somehow either to the flamenco dancer Adrian Sanchez or to the Cortylandia display in Madrid. Any ideas welcome! [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 6:58 AM PST - 7 comments

Is the AppleCare warranty for an Imac worth the money?

I'm looking into buying a new Imac 21 1/2" for about $1300. They offer an AppleCare extended warranty for $100 a year. Is it worth it? What's your experience with the Imac? Thanks!
posted by crazylegs at 6:39 AM PST - 33 comments

Need ideas for chocolate-flavored olive oil

I was gifted with a bottle of chocolate-flavored olive oil. What are some of your favorite recipes or uses for the stuff? I don't want it to gather dust in my cupboard.
posted by Rosie M. Banks at 6:37 AM PST - 14 comments

Letter etiquette, reply to a job offer: 'thanks, but no thanks'

My SO applied for, was interviewed for, and subsequently was offered an academic post (lectureship). Some stuff just wasn't right from the outset, and all the contact with the department made it clear that it's not the right place to be working. Please help us to say 'no thanks' correctly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:32 AM PST - 14 comments

Need a quick advent activity for tonight!

It's my turn to come up with a surprise advent activity, and I'm running out of steam! Help me find a short, seasonally-appropriate thing to do with my fiance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:32 AM PST - 12 comments

Please shed some light onto my ignorance of iOS development

I'm beginning development of first iOS app and I aim to know as much as I can about what I don't know about app development. [more inside]
posted by j3nn1f3r at 5:57 AM PST - 6 comments

The science of depression

What are major and minor theories concerning depression and what causes it? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 5:31 AM PST - 23 comments

Daughter can't leave her mother's side.

My 4-year-old daughter has suddenly become incredibly over-attached to her mother - Why? [more inside]
posted by Tenacious.Me.Tokyo at 3:44 AM PST - 12 comments

SELF-ESTEEM - I need that. In Megadoses.

Time to rebuild my psyche. I've been somewhat of a target for the narcissism, drama and toxicity of an entire family for too long. Extreme emotional abuse. Now, it's time for a COMPLETE make-over. This stuff has effected me to the point where I was depressed with an eating disorder and in general just extremely low-achieving in life. So low, it's pathetic - but given the circumstances, understandable. So - my question is this: I am looking for FREE resources, books, seminars, hidden gems out there ( you can memail if that's preferable) on the exact steps, thoughts and actions required to begin to build self-esteem. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 1:07 AM PST - 16 comments

Is this acid reflux? Is this heartburn?

YANAD - but I went and saw a doctor and I'm still a little confused about things! The medication isn't helping and the symptoms aren't "standard", so is this reflux or something else? [more inside]
posted by thebots at 1:05 AM PST - 19 comments

December 18

Low-care pet?

Visited a fellow window-less office and saw a small, apparently forgotten jar tucked behind their computer. Upon inquiry, my coworker pulled it out and was astonished that the little shrimp-things and plants inside were still alive and madly swimming around. He told me he thinks it was a kit one of them got in the mail. I want something like this. [more inside]
posted by DisreputableDog at 11:43 PM PST - 17 comments

Online dating is a numbers game, so help me improve my numbers

Like most straight guys on OKCupid, I'm lucky if I get a response to one in ten messages I send. This would be fine if I could fire off several messages every day, but I'm running into writer's block. One-liners and templates don't work, and I rarely know how to compose a longer message to someone I know next to nothing about. (I'm a mumchance kind of guy; I'm terrible at small talk even with friends I've known for years.) Help stir my creative juices, tell me what kinds of messages have got your attention in the past, oh and why not critique my profile while you're at it. [more inside]
posted by zeri at 11:31 PM PST - 45 comments

HTML on Craigslist Problem

Craigslist no longer allows the HTML A command. This is a hardship for me as I often sell several items in different Craigslist categories and can no longer post a link to all of my items for sale. Hoping someone can help me figure out another way to do this. [more inside]
posted by You Get A Favorite For Being A Snowflake at 10:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Flight stuff for Toddlers

We'll be flying with a two year old for the holidays and I'm about to place an amazon order for toddler headphones so he can watch a few favorite shows if things go poorly. Anything else I might want to add to the order? [more inside]
posted by HMSSM at 9:10 PM PST - 23 comments

Now that is a nice track suit.

Help us realize our holiday dream of eating ice cream in front of the tube in matching track suits. [more inside]
posted by macadamiaranch at 8:56 PM PST - 10 comments

What kind of palm tree is this?

I bought this tree at a stoop sale about 8 years ago and they told me it was a "weeping palm". Just got around to googling that name and it looks like that might not be a real name for any kind tree, or at least any kind that tells me what kind of potting soil it wants. Help? Bonus points if you help me take awesome care of it.
posted by paul_smatatoes at 8:36 PM PST - 5 comments

My kid can't sing, but can recite just like me - what's this called?

Our two year old loves songs and poems and has learned a bunch of them - but she recites them all as spoken poems, even when other people are singing them with her. My other kids are adopted and sang, and my husband points out that I cannot remember lyrics except as poems, so it appears to be an inherited trait. I can remember teaching myself to sing Baa Baa Black Sheep as a kid with great effort. Melodies and tunes don't connect to lyrics at all in my memory - hum a few bars and I will stare at you blankly. Both of us enjoy music - it's specifically lyrics that just don't compute. What is this particular quirk called? We're not worried at all, but my husband would like to know more about it because he'd like to have her enjoy singing too.
posted by viggorlijah at 8:07 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I get a rough estimate of alimony in my upcoming divorce?

My wife and I are splitting up relatively amicably in the state of California. We'd both like to avoid a legal fight over money and income, but after some requests of hers that seem a little unreasonable, I'd like to get an assessment of how our income would roughly split up if we *did* go the legal route. Still, I'd rather avoid paying hundreds of dollars to a lawyer to figure that out. Is there some cheap way to get an extremely rough assessment of alimony? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 PM PST - 17 comments

Do food sensitivities get worse if you remove the culprit from your diet

Over the last few months I have developed a food sensitivity (I believe the culprit is rice). It is merely annoying at the moment, but I was wondering what happens when you remove an item to which you are sensitive from your diet? Generally speaking, does your sensitivity get worse? [more inside]
posted by baniak at 7:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Anorgasmia and Antidepressants

I am having unpleasant sexual side effects from my antidepressant. I am wondering what my options are. I am a 28 year old male. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:00 PM PST - 11 comments

Brainstorming school fundraising

So at the last minute (today) I got "volunteered" to be the parent rep. for my daughter's classroom at a parent's association brainstorming session tomorrow for fundraising. I am a little out of my depth here, and I would like to show up with at least one idea, but I can't think of anything that hasn't already been done at her school. Help? [more inside]
posted by gaspode at 6:32 PM PST - 24 comments

Straightforward Lasagna To Feed 10-12 People?

Next week I am cooking lasagna for 10-12 of my SO's coworkers after their Christmas day shift in the hospital. I am a decent cook but I've never made lasagna before, certainly not for this many people. Any Metfies have any favorable (and straightforward) lasagna recipes for feeding lots of people? I'm not looking for anything fancy, just simple and effective. Side question: I don't have any baking pans, could I use two of these instead.
posted by Spurious at 5:57 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me track down a fictional landing site?

I have a question about the film, Gravity, and the geography of its ending. Obviously there are major spoilers if you click through. [more inside]
posted by Narrative Priorities at 5:57 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for commercial kitchen supply store, north Chicago burbs

I'm looking for a restaurant supply/commercial kitchen supply store in the northern (near Gurnee) Chicago burbs. I'm setting up a business in Japan, and there are some things (like clothing in my size, certain specialized utensils) that are difficult or expensive to find here. I'm also interested in GFS/non-membership stores that sell bulk spices, if there are any in the area.
posted by Ghidorah at 5:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Vet Recommendation

Could anyone recommend a fabulous vet for cats in the SF Bay Area? [more inside]
posted by missmary6 at 4:14 PM PST - 10 comments

What are the jazz standards of your kitchen?

I'm pretty recipe-bound in the kitchen. I'd like to get better at improvising. I'm looking for things to cook that are instantly identifiable and delicious despite major changes in the ingredients list, the culinary equivalent of a jazz standard that can be played a thousand different ways while still being itself. Dishes that have the weird recognisability of Benderick Cumblebatch's name. What have you got? [more inside]
posted by justsomebodythatyouusedtoknow at 4:08 PM PST - 36 comments

Los Angeles Very Small Business Taxes

I have a very, very small business (a blog; it gets decent traffic and I made some money advertising). I have some questions, and I'd like to speak to a tax professional or attorney for probably less than 30 minutes. I'm in Los Angeles, CA. Can you recommend someone and give me a ballpark cost? [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus at 3:55 PM PST - 3 comments

To neuter this beautiful dog... or not?

We got our 13 year old son a beautiful chocolate lab (his name is Tony and here's the obligatory picture). Is there a good reason to have him neutered? [more inside]
posted by brownrd at 3:34 PM PST - 47 comments

holding the deed to my parents house--what should i be thinking about?

My parents are moving to florida (previously--they ended up in Lehigh Valley). They are also in the midst of filing for bankruptcy, and have asked that I therefore hold the deed to the new house. Help me wrap my head around this. [more inside]
posted by msjoannabanana at 3:07 PM PST - 22 comments

I don't need an electric wheelchair 'cause fire shoots out my butt

As I wait impatiently for my new bad ass manual chair (like, it is a sweet little thing, all *latest technology* *aerodynamic* *ultralight* yadda yadda), it occurs to me that the question, 'why don't you get an electric chair' is one with which I am having an increasingly hard time shrugging off without wanting to be like because I have super strong arms *BAM* SEE? I'm not on the brink of violence, honest, but would like some help quelling you know, those tendencies toward belligerence. To that end, what are a range of responses that will shock (in not a mean way). [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 2:42 PM PST - 128 comments

Help stop my friend from trying to hire a black-hat hacker

Someone very close to me is involved in a UK libel/defamation case as plaintiff. They want to hire a black-hat hacker to 'improve' their case. I want to stop them from doing so. [more inside]
posted by motty at 2:13 PM PST - 25 comments

Family law attorney recomendations in Milwaukee

So my sister in law missed a court date after moving out of Wisconsin. She failed to keep her address current with her child custody court and missed the notification of a court date. She now has found out she has a bench warrant out for her arrest. So what is next for her and can anyone recommend a good lawyer in the area?
posted by The Violet Cypher at 1:45 PM PST - 5 comments

SSRIs and the end of romantic love

Four months after my husband went on Lexapro, I could see it in his face that he didn't love me anymore. At seven months, he asked to separate after four years of marriage. After finding this article online, I'm curious as to whether others have had similar experiences. Have you or your spouse experienced a decline in attachment/romantic love after starting an SSRI? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:15 PM PST - 76 comments

Can I afford to take out a mortgage?

I make about $46,000 in Seattle, WA. Monthly take-home pay, excluding overtime which automatically goes into a savings account, is $2,800. I have no debts and no significant non-optional recurring expenses. At some point in the next few months, I will have about $150,000 in cash after splitting the equity in a home that is being sold. Assuming that I can put that amount toward a down payment, can I afford a mortgage? Before I contact my lender, is it even wise for me to take one out? I've been looking at a few suitable homes in North Seattle priced at or below $275,000. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:12 PM PST - 15 comments

Introducing a new foster dog

Due to an emergency rescue, my plans for introducing a new foster dog have been pushed up significantly to tonight. There is one problem, I'm the only one around tonight and by the time, I pick her up - it will be super dark so introducing dogs in a neutral location is out. Help me make this as smooth as possible. [more inside]
posted by lpcxa0 at 1:07 PM PST - 8 comments

Feature Length Music Video

I'm looking for movies that are essentially glorified music videos in the vein of Interstella 5555, Fantasia, or The Wall. Are there any other movies like those?
posted by fizzzzzzzzzzzy at 1:06 PM PST - 25 comments

Christmas presents that support a vegan lifestyle?

My parents, both in their 60s, have recently gone "mostly-vegan" for health reasons. I'd like to get them some Christmas gifts that support this decision (and their overall commitment to more healthy eating). I've already gotten them some kelp noodles (they loved them at a vegan restaurant we went to). Other thoughts about basics/add-ons/general useful and inspiring stuff for a couple of vegan noobies? [more inside]
posted by enzymatic at 12:43 PM PST - 18 comments

Christmas Tofurkey?

Vegetarians of MeFi! What are you having for Christmas dinner? I am totally capable with vegetarian dishes in general, but most of them are rather light and don't seem substantial enough to be a Christmas dinner. So what are you having? [more inside]
posted by whatzit at 12:37 PM PST - 21 comments

Bay Aea tax advisor with knowlege of option exercise implications?

In the next few weeks I have to make a decision about exercising some incentive stock options. I have a general idea of the tax implications of this event, but I would like to meet with an accountant who can run me through the exact numbers. [more inside]
posted by outlaw of averages at 12:27 PM PST - 4 comments

What's that book with the thing?

I'm trying to recall a business/self-help book. The main idea was that setting goals and pacing yourself is counterproductive, and that accomplishment happens by immersing one's self in a big idea. Steve Jobs, etc. I believe the cover was an illustration of a businessman opening a shirt to reveal a superhero costume. There may have been a critique of Tony Schwartz' energy management model inside. It was probably written in the last ten years. Can anyone name the book?
posted by michaelh at 12:26 PM PST - 2 comments

Renting a room. The walls are pink. I'm a dude. What I cover it with?

Is there any cheap neutral-colored wallpaper that I could use that's temporary? Or anything else that I can cover it with that I can take down later? I just can't do a pink room, man. [more inside]
posted by suburbs at 12:17 PM PST - 28 comments

Should They Eat This?

I'm recovering from a miserable couple of days of norovirus- started puking late Monday night, now just sleeping it off. The thing is, I'm supposed to be hosting ten people for Christmas dinner here Saturday afternoon. Am I going to sicken the whole family? [more inside]
posted by Erasmouse at 11:17 AM PST - 24 comments

Brisbane Christmas Gift Help - Dificulty Level: Antipodes

My brother is going to depart for Brisbane (the one that isn't near San Francisco) to do a postdoc in invertebrate biology about 15 minutes after Christmas and is pretty much taking everything he's going to take as check luggage. While the $100 note has that cool Lyrebird graphic and is easy to pack, it seems somewhat unimaginative. [more inside]
posted by Kid Charlemagne at 10:42 AM PST - 14 comments

What should I think about while jogging?

You are a jogger. You do not necessarily LIKE jogging. What is your headspace while jogging so that you keep going? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 10:30 AM PST - 47 comments

Two Player Head-To-Head Doom over Internet between PC and MAC

I want to play head-to-head Doom/Doom II over the internet with a friend. I have a PC, she has a Mac. What's the easiest way? [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 10:21 AM PST - 3 comments

How to make each gift count at Christmas

My kids get so many holiday gifts these days that on Christmas day many of the new items are just tossed aside and only the shiniest given attention. I’m wondering if it would make more sense to stagger the unwrapping rather than let them open everything at the same time. I realize the unwrapping frenzy is part of the fun, but clearly receiving many gifts at once minimizes the value of the individual gifts. I don't come from a tradition of Christmas-time excess so I don't really know what this feels like to a kid. Scaling down is probably not an option, unfortunately.
posted by Dragonness at 10:20 AM PST - 51 comments

Beginning knitting book for kids

I'm looking for a book on how to knit, for a 7 year old. I'm planning to teach her the basics in person, and then give her the book to take home for further reference. Can anyone recommend a good one? Bonus: Do you have a favorite yarn store in SF?
posted by pompelmo at 9:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Online Magazines or Magazine-like Sites?

I enjot reading OMNI Reboot, Aeon Magazine, IEEE Spectrum, and Nautilus. Can you suggest more like them? [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns at 9:50 AM PST - 12 comments

Christmas vacation places in Southern CA.

Hi! Since most of our family is traveling for the holidays, and we haven’t yet taken our honeymoon (we got married in October), we thought we’d take a trip ourselves. But we could use some recommendations for someplace to go. [more inside]
posted by FritoKAL at 9:42 AM PST - 5 comments

How to fold a trifold brochure that has a front, a back... and a front

We have to print out and fold up hundreds of this pdf brochure (spoilers: BEDBUGS!). Usually a trifold brochure is a no-brainer -- print two-sided, fold in thirds (either accordion or in on itself). This is very much a brainer. Help. [more inside]
posted by A neighbourhood park all covered with cheese at 9:38 AM PST - 16 comments

GiftFilter: prank edition

Secret Santa draw asked for "something useful for playing pranks", and I' nothing. Help? [more inside]
posted by kagredon at 9:13 AM PST - 19 comments

Make This Into Salad Dressing, Please

A few weeks ago I had dinner at Oh Canada, Eh? and the meal included the most amazing salad dressing I've ever had. We asked for the recipe and the chef gave us the ingredient list, but did not include amounts because (he said) he always makes it in such huge batches. [more inside]
posted by kate blank at 9:13 AM PST - 26 comments

Character effectiveness in WoW: what's the player skill: gear ratio?

At or near the top end of the WoW performance curve, how much does gear contribute compared to player skill? [more inside]
posted by Sternmeyer at 9:11 AM PST - 18 comments

Looking for these dining utensils made from large nails

Last month I had dinner at a restaurant in Rome that used these utensils. They seem to each be made from a single, large nail. I've tried to find them online, but have come up empty. Maybe the hivemind has some ideas?
posted by jedrek at 9:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Recommend me some high quality hair clippers?

After watching this scene from Full Metal Jacket, my SO wanted to get a pair of similar quality clippers.  He has shaved his head by himself for more than 10 years but often complains of clippers that clog, or have a slow motor or "miss spots".  He was blown away by the clippers in that Full Metal Jacket scene.  After searching online Wahl seems to make good ones. Can anyone recommend me some good high quality clippers? He shaves his head with no guard on the blade down to 1/8".  
posted by denimchair at 8:40 AM PST - 18 comments

What should I be looking for in a work relocation package to Australia?

Asking on behalf of a friend: May be transferred from the US to Australia shortly. What should I be looking for in a relocation package? Special snowflake details inside that may affect your answer! I have been transferred around the US a lot and thus know how to assess a relocation package when it's from point A to point B in the US - and, most importantly, I know when it's not enough and I need to hold out for more. I've never been transferred overseas and the only thing I know right now is that a relo package like the ones I get in the States would probably be insufficient. What should I be looking for? [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 8:26 AM PST - 14 comments

A little perfume? Good. A lot of perfume? Not so good.

Following this post I finally came across a perfume that is exactly what I was looking for. The only problem is that it is quite strong and the sprayer sprays out too much so the perfume is applied too heavily. How can I moderate that? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 7:47 AM PST - 14 comments

do you even gift?

gifts ideas for my baristas & purveyors of food? [more inside]
posted by crawfo at 6:46 AM PST - 21 comments

Online crossword creator that can be filled in online.

I need a crossword creator tool that will allow me to choose my words and post the clues. There are a great many that let me do this and then print out my results and hand out as necessary. I want my final result though to be a live form that i can embed on my website that students can go to and fill out online. The search terms that I am using keep pointing me to creators that I have to print out. Any help would be great.
posted by dstopps at 6:15 AM PST - 3 comments

My dead friend's cat is dying

A friend of mine died nearly thee years ago and his cat ended up in the care of my mother. The cat is now dying. Should I email my friend's family when the cat dies? If you were the friend's brother, is this an email you'd want to receive? (The obligatory picture from healthier times.) [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 5:55 AM PST - 31 comments

Help me build a gangplank.

I need to get on and off my boat easily. More to the point my pregnant wife needs to be able to. (Because we both live in the boat). I have recently built a new wooden gangplank which is not too bad. (but heavy) But for reasons I will go into below I think I need a replacement. [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 5:19 AM PST - 13 comments

Where can I learn about evidence based personal development?

Most personal development is based purely on the author's personal opinion, rather than any empirical evidence. What are some good, evidence based resources for learning about personal development?
posted by casebash at 12:50 AM PST - 11 comments

Specialist brick repairs in South London

My house, a standard Victorian terrace, has several spalled bricks. I'm looking for a reliable, preferably cheap, brickwork specialist in [South] London. [more inside]
posted by MuffinMan at 12:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Family history blog - should I start posting out of order?

I started blogging family history recently and have been having fun with it, but now I'm at a crossroads. Should I break out of the chronology and start posting content out of order? [more inside]
posted by christopherious at 12:07 AM PST - 7 comments

December 17

I'm stuck and not sure how to do life.

I am lost on how to proceed with my life/diet. Because #1 - There are many positives to eating strict #2 - There are many negatives to eating strict. [more inside]
posted by learninguntilidie at 11:16 PM PST - 21 comments

I Went Out With A Dreamboat and It Went Well - Now What?!

I'm really inexperienced with these things, so forgive me! I went on a first date with a wonderful dude- he's one of those mind-blowingly amazing dudes, too cool for school, super amazingly successful, a fantastic artist, puts every inch of his abilities to full use, makes the best of himself and all his abilities..He's a dreamboat in everyway. I've known him from online for a few years. And we'd run into each other once in a while and say hi. He asked me out about a year ago, canceled on me the morning of our date and then didn't contact me again. Then a few weeks ago he asked me out and we weren't able to make a time to hang out (actually, I suggested Monday and he got back to me Monday evening saying he's too busy.) Then we decided to hang out yesterday. The date went very well! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:14 PM PST - 39 comments

Advice on water damage, flood, cleanup and insurance.

Our finished basement flooded thanks to a backed up sink and the iron filter discharge running. As far as we've been able to discern, our insurance does cover this. We've had a cleanup crew sent out by the insurance company. However, I've got some concerns on how it's being handled, specifically that not enough and not enough of the right work is being done. [more inside]
posted by LANA! at 10:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Mavericks Server

I am replacing an old XServe running Snow Leopard Server with a Mac Mini which is currently running Mountain Lion Server. I would like to know what is the best way to do this. [more inside]
posted by chairish at 10:35 PM PST - 1 comment

Remove demonic* rust/poop stains from toilet bowl?

How to remove rust stains etc. from very dirty toilets? [more inside]
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 9:59 PM PST - 29 comments

Can you help me find a classic, badass, [fake] leather jacket?

For the past year or so I've been daydreaming about buying a classic leather motorcycle jacket, like this or this. Tragically, though, I cannot afford to spend $700. My budget is more like $200. Can you help me fake it? [more inside]
posted by pretentious illiterate at 9:49 PM PST - 9 comments

All the single gentlemen, SF version

How do I meet single men in their 30s in SF? [more inside]
posted by so much modern time at 9:31 PM PST - 16 comments

What is the best way to "purge" my information from the internet?

I'm interested in what people have done to find and then delete their personal information (address, especially) from online directories. I've deleted my info from WhitePages and Spokeo, but I'm wondering what other sites I should look at or if there's a master directory of some sort out there. Googling doesn't turn up much, but I know my information could still be out there. Thank you.
posted by madonna of the unloved at 9:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Resources for web publishers and editors?

I run a fairly large (~1m readers per week) website that publishes ~20 articles per week. I'm looking for resources that will help me do my job better: managing writers, keeping up to date with publishing trends and events, managing a community, and so on. [more inside]
posted by third word on a random page at 8:38 PM PST - 1 comment

Recommend a printer/cartridge system?

We're trying to optimize our home printing. We don't print an enormous amount, but we want to print in color and to be able to print in moderately high quality. You've already solved this problem and put some thought into minimizing cartridge expense: what printer do you use? how often do you replace the ink? do you refill the cartridges at a store or buy new ones from the OEM? (Bonus points if you've solved this problem for the HP 8600.) [more inside]
posted by foursentences at 8:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Epiphone Les Paul Baritone Guitar

Thinking of buying an Epiphone Les Paul Baritone Guitar (appears to be the same model as the wooden one in back of picture). This is a craigslist purchase which I will see tomorrow. Any advice on what to look for/ask? More questions inside about price and amps and so on. [more inside]
posted by Corduroy at 8:02 PM PST - 7 comments

Folic acid, still recommended for women who may conceive?

In light of the editorial on vitamins published today in the Annals of Internal Medicine that advises Americans stop taking vitamin supplements, should women who are trying to conceive still take folic acid? [more inside]
posted by tigeri at 7:56 PM PST - 11 comments

Where should we stay in Tulum?

Heading to Tulum without the kids at the end of Jan/Beginning of Feb for 3 nights and am seeking recommendations for accommodations based upon relatively recent stays. Our requirements: Quiet, clean, nice bed, ceiling fans, hot water, good restaurant, on the ocean. We'd like a cabana but also would consider the right hotel. We can spend up to $500/night for the right place but I'd love to find something closer to $300. Ideally, not next to any major new developments, which I understand are starting to take over the area. Thanks in advance for any help!
posted by avrobie at 7:39 PM PST - 4 comments

New monthly Plan for old iPhone 3GS

I am on an AT&T family plan. I have had an iPhone 3GS since about 2011, and just upgraded to an iPhone 5c. I still have the 3GS. What is the best way for me to use this phone with a monthly plan completely separate from the family plan, with any carrier? Our daughter is on the Virgin 35/month plan. That seems pretty good. Am I hosed because this phone was locked into AT&T, or whatzers?
posted by battleshipkropotkin at 7:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Resources on Alan Moore's process

I couldn't find any information as to how Alan Moore goes about writing his comics (namely Watchmen, V for Vendetta, and From Hell). I found an excerpt from his Watchmen script which shows how incredibly detailed he is in describing each panel. I once read that on Watchmen, it was a back-and-forth between him and Dave Gibbons, where Gibbons starts off with roughly sketching out the panels, gets comments from Moore, gets greenlit, then proceeds to drawing the final version. Any more information on Moore's process? Any other scripts you know of and is his writing as detailed for all his projects as detailed (I know that From Hell has labyrinthine appendices that almost match the work itself in length for example)?
posted by omar.a at 7:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Books with no or few words? (comic books okay)

My five year old is just starting to read, and loves looking through the Captain underpants books for their illustrations. I'd like to get him some books (or comic books) that have few or no words, or which he could at least follow without knowing the words. He's really into story, and I think it would entertain him, and also (for the ones with words) encourage him to read. His interests are the stereotypical boys ones -- sports, superheroes, etc, Suggestions?
posted by michaeldunaway at 7:08 PM PST - 18 comments

I'm traveling the US, what health care plan is best (PPO, HMO)?

Hello! After getting laid-off from a job and having a job to look forward to in June, I have decided to spend the next 6 months traveling, WWOOF-ing around the US and overseas, living off of my savings and picking up odd jobs. In terms of health care, and the marketplace, what health insurance plans cover multiple states for things other than emergencies (i.e. mental health, a foot fracture, etc)? Would a PPO do that or an HMO? I've spent a ton of time talking to the Maryland Health Exchange people, and after being told something different by each person I spoke to, I wanted to ask you all. Thank you kindly!
posted by Kombucha3452 at 6:52 PM PST - 5 comments

To catch a thief

About a month ago, my mom misplaced her government-owned (work) iPhone 5. After a month of searching her home/car/office/relatives/everywhere to no avail, she copped up and told boss. They took the news well and paid for not only her new phone, but also for the loss of her old phone. Being the mischievous son I am, I want to make an attempt to retrieve the phone. [more inside]
posted by mrrisotto at 6:39 PM PST - 21 comments

Where is a good place to buy glasses in Melbourne, Australia?

I'm having difficulty finding good frames for glasses. Does anyone know of anywhere, preferably in the inner North or CBD, that has good service and a wide range of frames? [more inside]
posted by deadwax at 6:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Google Earth Wallpaper?

I read this article that said there was a button on the Google Earth site that let you download wallpapers. The article states there's a "globe" link at the bottom of the page, however when I load the Earth page I don't see that icon. Does anyone else? Or can I get to the images somewhere else?
posted by cozenedindigo at 6:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Tethering MBP to iPhone - how to seamlessly avoid big data bills

What's the best way to setup a MacBook Pro so that it can be regularly hooked up to an iPhone's Personal Hotspot without unexpected background processes (Dropbox, iTunes Match, auto OS or app updates, etc) resulting in massive data charges? [more inside]
posted by puffmoike at 6:07 PM PST - 7 comments

How do ceramic infared heat bulbs work and are they safe to stare at?

I have a 150 watt ceramic infrared heat bulb similar to this one that I use next to my desk to help keep me warm. It produces no visible light, only heat. Sometimes I have the urge to stare at it, can it hurt my eyes from the infrared radiation, similar to how looking at a regular light bulb can hurt your eyes? I am also interested in how these bulbs work, and the type of infrared radiation they give off if someone can explain it to me.
posted by john123357 at 5:35 PM PST - 17 comments

Am I doing something *wrong* in my Okcupid profile? Can I stop?

OKCupidFilter, sorry. I am getting dramatically fewer visitors and messages these past couple weeks. I haven't gotten a year older. I tried switching around pictures, editing answers, all the stuff I could think of to do. But, other than the "hey, beautiful lady, I hop ur write me back!" messages, I'm getting crickets. Here is my profile. (Please be nice, I know I'm older.) Is there something I can do to fix this? Or is it out of my hands? Thanks ever so much!
posted by The Noble Goofy Elk at 5:21 PM PST - 46 comments

Readings on Johnson and the Great Society

Looking for books/long articles about Lyndon Johnson and the Great Society- the history, the political effort, the hits and the flops. [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 5:12 PM PST - 4 comments

Shoes where I can wear my orthotics for normally barefoot activities?

Are there minimalist shoes that would allow me to wear my corrective orthotics during normally barefoot activities? [more inside]
posted by genmonster at 5:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Crush Me Out on Sweden!

I have developed an unavoidable crush on Sweden. I want to hear from Mefi locals about the best your country has to offer, things you love about living there, music, culture, all of it - help me crush out on Sweden! [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 4:59 PM PST - 10 comments

Packing light

I've always packed light by taking a backpack on all trips and going carry-on only. But I'm going to be extensive international travel with a 35-liter backpack and want to know how to pack even lighter. Usually I only go on 1-week trips, and thus pack a shirt for every day, etc. How can I pack lighter? I've heard that Merino wool is a good material for shirts that can be worn a couple times before needing a wash. What are your tips and tricks?
posted by signondiego at 4:30 PM PST - 20 comments

Give me your links to critical readings of Buffy/Angel!

Some recent FPPs about Buffy have reminded me of Reading the Vampire Slayer which is a collection of critical essays about the show circa season 5. It was surprisingly interesting and I would like to read more things like that. I'm looking for relatively academic stuff (not fannish musings but more like comparative studies of the show vs. various mythologies, thematic analysis, etc) and Google is failing me. Links to online sources would be ideal but books are okay too.
posted by annekate at 4:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Rap song on bandcamp with Vanilla Ice sample - Alright stop

Longest of long shots but does anybody recall hearing a rap/hiphop song on bandcamp with a Vanilla Ice sample? The beat may have had a bit of the "under pressure" bass line and some hand claps. About 3 times through the song they'd throw the vanilla ice sample in from "Ice Ice Baby" and right when the sample said ".....alright stop" the beat would cut out for a few seconds and then start back up.
posted by cashman at 3:46 PM PST - 2 comments

How to interact with an unfamiliar new resident in my parents home?

A lovely, college-aged young woman who has had a very rough year is coming to live with my parents, whom I visit several times a year, often for extended periods of time (I live 900 miles away, but I'm a student with long vacations). I think this is great. However, I feel a little at sea for how to interact with her, and to prepare for this change, especially given the giant elephant in the room: the horrible event that happened which has caused her to need a new home. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:45 PM PST - 32 comments

How to share Google spreadsheet without collaborating?

I've created simple Google spreadsheet which calculates some data entered by users. Now I need to share it with my co-workers. The problem is that when I set a share on it any data entered by one user is instantly visible to all others. I want independent copies of my spreadsheet so anybody could enter different data and get different results. In short I need to turn my Google spreadsheet into a interactive webpage something doing something like this. Is it possible?
posted by przepla at 3:06 PM PST - 5 comments

How on earth do you earn this much money?

This story about an IBM sales executive earning AUD $295,000 with a bonus of up to $1 million after allegedly earning $9 million in revenue for the firm, has made me really curious. In my industry, salaries top out around the low six figures. What does a job like this look like? [more inside]
posted by t0astie at 2:56 PM PST - 13 comments

A wiki with an Integrated list-serve?

Simple question, is there a wiki service out there (free) that integrates a list-serv into the wiki itself so as to not have to use two different services for wiki creation and communications? We will mostly be using a list-serv to communicate among our campaign team, but want a repository for documents, lists and meeting minutes, to-do's, etc - all in the same place / URL. Thanks! :>)
posted by franklen at 2:22 PM PST - 2 comments

Flowerpots hanging in trees

There are a series of terracotta flowerpots hanging upside-down in trees in a residential area, and I'd love to figure out why there there. This is what they look like. [more inside]
posted by carbide at 2:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Can I stay the night at a friend's house? What are the rules?

I'm not sure I ever really learned the rules of when it is OK to stay the night at someone's house (non-romantic). This is my roommate from last spring semester. I Facebooked her a few weeks ago to say I was swinging by town on the way to my parents and if she wanted to hangout. She said yes and offered me a place to stay for the night. I mentioned I was going to stay in a hotel room. She said that if I change my mind, I can stay with her. [more inside]
posted by eq21 at 2:09 PM PST - 17 comments

Do We Have Enough Money For A Trip To England?

We are a married couple with one child who is old enough to require their own room. If we're leaving from the midwest of the US, and plan to stay for two to three weeks, is $9k USD a realistic rough estimate of the amount we ought to budget for the trip? [more inside]
posted by Ipsifendus at 2:04 PM PST - 21 comments

UPS wants to charge me brokerage fees AFTER I rejected the parcel!?

Hello folks, I live in Canada (Toronto), and I ordered an item (worth US$200) from the USA about a month ago, and the seller used UPS to ship it to me. As I have never used UPS before, I was not aware of their negative reputation at the time of the online purchase. Well, about two weeks later, I received the UPS notice for a delivery attempt, and I was hugely surprised at the brokerage charge (CAN$70). Usually I do not get charged any brokerage fees at all when sellers use USPS to ship to me (because USPS hands the parcel to CanadaPost, which has never charged me brokerage fees, in my experience). [more inside]
posted by vanizorc at 1:48 PM PST - 19 comments

Healing your inner child after childhood neglect. What helped you?

I have long-running case of depression and generalized anxiety disorder, with plenty of childhood triggers. I do see a therapist but due to the holiday schedule, I won't be seeing my therapist for a few weeks. I want to do some work by myself, because crying to sleep nearly every night is getting exhausting. I want my subconsciousness to chill out and be less triggered. I want tips, stories, and resources. Difficulty: I live with my parents, and I get triggered by them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:26 PM PST - 15 comments

Tips for buying a cassette deck, in 2013, in Chicago?

I'm putting together a stereo system that only needs to be able to play cassette tapes and vinyl records, because yes I am that much of a hipster. I have my speakers and turntable, and I just picked up a 1970s receiver with integrated cassette deck...which stopped working almost immediately. How do you go about buying something with many breakable, moving parts that stopped being manufactured with any quality in the 1980s? Should I replace my receiver with just a receiver and get a standalone tape deck? Where do you even buy a standalone tape deck? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 1:24 PM PST - 21 comments

Men's Jeans, 31" x 33"

I need your hope. I cannot seem to find any clothiers who make jeans with a 31" waist and a 33" inseam. Alas, this is the size of jeans that would best fit my (apparently abnormal, disfigured) body. Do you know of a nice shoppe that would sell such an item to me? If so, I would be grateful beyond measure.
posted by (Arsenio) Hall and (Warren) Oates at 1:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Technical career ideas?

Mid-twenties looking for career suggestions and ideas. More inside about what I value/enjoy in work, etc. [more inside]
posted by Chicoreus at 1:01 PM PST - 9 comments

Black and White and Protected By Multilateral Treaty All Over

The #1 item on my eight year-old son's Christmas list is "AN ACTUAL PENGUIN". Please help me creatively accommodate his request without violating the Convention on International Trade in Endangered Species. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 12:47 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me remember an old loon joke.

There's a joke that I (think) I remember someone doing to me when I first saw a loon. The set up is: "Want to hear a loon call?", which is followed by loudly yelling "HEY LOON! OVER HERE!". Did I imagine this, or is this an actual joke(total dad joke, but I like it)?
posted by aleatorictelevision at 12:47 PM PST - 3 comments

Switch to Malarone from Chloroquine now that I'm home?

Hello YANMDs, can I switch to Malarone (and only take it for one week as opposed to 4....) now that we're back? Or do I have to stick to the same drug? [more inside]
posted by powpow at 11:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Dress Me: In search of better tops edition

I (petite, mid-20's woman) want to get rid of all my long-sleeved button-front shirts and replace them with things that are still work-appropriate but more flattering and maybe okay for non-work wear as well. What styles would work for me? Where should I shop? Special snowflake style preferences ahead. [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated at 11:30 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for a quiet/soothing, easy to clean cool mist humidifer

A year and a half ago, we got a a cool mist humidifier, but now we're looking for a new one, with the caveat that it has to be quiet, or at least the noise it generates is calming or similar to white noise. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 11:29 AM PST - 10 comments

How can I forgive myself for something I did as a teenager?

When I was 15, I was extremely cruel to a friend and sabotaged our very special relationship. I was crazy and didn't really understand what I had done until college. When I finally "got it" too late, I wrote him a letter to apologize, but he never responded. 10 years later, suddenly the guilt is flooding back again big-time... [more inside]
posted by MetaFilter World Peace at 11:28 AM PST - 49 comments

Flu took away my lust for life! Help!

Two weeks ago, I had the flu. I had all the classic symptoms: fever, muscle aches, coughing, chills, and fatigue that kept me in bed for 3 solid days. Now I am better but I am having odd symptoms. I don't feel like eating. Nothing tastes good. And nothing is interesting. I don't want to do crafts, or play with my dog, or read, or watch TV, or talk to my friends, or do anything, really. Everything seems annoying, and I am beyond bored, which is uncharacteristic for me. I don't feel sick, exactly, and I'm not totally exhausted like before, but I'm feeling the need to lie around in bed 2 to 4 hours a day. What is going on and how do I make it stop? All suggestions are welcome, including "woo."
posted by summer sock at 11:04 AM PST - 24 comments

Are there any gotchas/pitfalls when selling a domain name through Sedo?

I have never sold a domain name before but it appears I'm about to do so now. Yay! An offer was made to me by a buyer through Sedo and after some email negotiations we have arrived at an acceptable price and presumably the process of transfer and payment is about to begin. Having never done this before I am wondering if there are any pitfalls and gotchas I should be watching out for. Specific details inside. [more inside]
posted by Hairy Lobster at 10:50 AM PST - 1 comment

I mug L.A.

Where can I get an iconic Los Angeles-centric coffee mug? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 10:36 AM PST - 19 comments

Help with gift for Dad

I need help finding a Christmas gift for my dad. I'm looking for: - Something that requires occasional hands on -- a project, but not a full-time project - Something a little science-projecty and geeky, but that does not involve a computer (he's 72 and not terribly computer literate; he does have an iPad, though) - Something that has a definable end result - Something he can attend to while my folks spend three months in their RV this winter - Most likely something plant-related More... [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 10:01 AM PST - 8 comments

What to get for the person who doesn't like anything?

My mom is so hard to shop for: she doesn't really have any interests, she doesn't really do anything, she doesn't appreciate nice things, and she is very set in her ways. Past years' presents have fallen pretty flat. Help? [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 9:50 AM PST - 45 comments

What did I read and where?

I am trying to find an article I read online, sometime in the past month or two. [more inside]
posted by Cosine at 9:47 AM PST - 4 comments

I don't know how she does it! really, please tell me...

As I mentioned in this question, I'm a single mom of an 8 month old. My question in a nutshell is, how in the hell do working single parents do it? [more inside]
posted by argyle dreams at 9:46 AM PST - 23 comments

Need name of company in Richmond Virginia

Looking for the name of a company in Richmond, Virginia which makes electronics or radios and may or may not begin with the letter "C." [more inside]
posted by Ironmouth at 9:36 AM PST - 13 comments

What makes an aircraft flying overhead noisier?

I've been doing research on jet aircraft noise over urban areas. And, while I've uncovered some very clear explanations of the different types of aircraft noise to share with others, there are some questions that still are eluding my Google foo. I'm looking for resources that will help me to answer a variety of specific questions about aircraft noise, whether they are discussion groups or specific authors of research papers, etc. The kinds of questions I'm seeking resources for are all related to aircraft noise, but can be somewhat different. For example: [more inside]
posted by jeanmari at 9:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Do I have any chance of getting my money back?

On Oct 28th a friend mailed a package addressed to DirectTV at my local PO. He stood in line for 20 min and then handed the package over. The package was my equipment I was mailing back after canceling service. [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 9:33 AM PST - 24 comments

Hybrid shopping

Are there any Prius C owners out there? Will I like having a Prius C? I'm considering buying a 2013 Prius C Three or Four in the next few weeks. I test drove one the other day and really liked it. I'm going to do another test drive on the highway to see how it feels. My goal is to make a purchase that last week of December. [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 9:26 AM PST - 8 comments

I tip well but not *that* well

I was overcharged by $10 at a cafe. I know this from checking my bank statement, I no longer have the receipt. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by troika at 9:18 AM PST - 25 comments

Large scale web applications running on Windows

As a long time Linux Engineer I enjoy reading about the technologies used by sites like Twitter, Facebook, Etsy, Yahoo (for things like Flickr) and other large sites to build things out to scale. I often lend a hand with Windows customers at work and it recently occurred to me that I've never seen a website or blog posts that relate to scaling on Windows. [more inside]
posted by togdon at 9:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Where to buy a tide clock in Toronto?

I've decided to buy a tide clock, I can order one online, but I'd prefer to go into a store so I can ask questions regarding calibration etc. Does anyone know of a store that sells them in Toronto (or area?) Thanks
posted by devonia at 8:54 AM PST - 0 comments

Roomba, Roomba, wherefore art thou, Roomba?

Will a robotic vacuum be an asset to our (snowflake filled) home? If so what makes, models, or features are worth the cost nowadays? First hand experience preferred but any input is welcome. [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 8:54 AM PST - 17 comments

Too late to study art?

I'm interested in studying 2D Animation later on in life but is this idea feasible or just a pipe dream? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 8:46 AM PST - 9 comments

Can I switch to a full foot lift instead of heal lift for my LLD?

Due to back pain, I had a bone scan 12 years ago that showed I have a 15mm leg length discrepancy. Since then I was prescribed a 9MM cork heal insert to make up for most of the discrepancy (LLD for short). It has worked mostly ok, but I still have some back pain (probably from leg length discrepancy says doc). I'm out of USA for a while now and won't be able to see my normal doctor for a while.. I am considering trying a full foot lift instead of my traditional cork lift. I feel like the full foot lift will do a better job of evening out the discrepancy. Is it worth a shot? If they are both used for LLD, what benefits does one offer over the other? Which situations call for a full foot lift over just the heal? Thanks a lot.
posted by crawltopslow at 8:27 AM PST - 6 comments

Learn me about the past.

History Buffs of MeFi: Please share your most favorite, most compelling sources. Movies, books, graphic novels, fiction - everything is fair game. [more inside]
posted by gnutron at 8:25 AM PST - 24 comments

Legal language needed for wedding contract

How should I word a clause in a contract which states that we will receive a refund on our deposit for a wedding reception venue if that business is sold or goes out of business? [more inside]
posted by lovableiago at 8:08 AM PST - 6 comments

GiftFilter: Drummists - what (cheap) thing would you like for Christmas?

I have one day left to online shop for my brother's Christmas pressie and I'm drawing a blank. I've already gotten him a couple of things, but I need one more item to make it a worthwhile parcel. He is 33, a drummer, and wears casual, laid back clothes, but no "funny" tees etc. Is there a t-shirt/ book/ small piece of drumming gadgetry/ anybloodything that would suit him? Will have to be available in an online UK store for it to be delivered in time, and my budget is about £20-25. He will be travelling back to London from Belfast after Christmas so it needs to fit in carry-on luggage. Thanks!
posted by billiebee at 7:48 AM PST - 8 comments

Tell me about nonprofit marketing

Do any Mefites work in nonprofit marketing? Can you tell me a little about what it's like and how to get started in it? [more inside]
posted by silly me at 7:18 AM PST - 9 comments

Drums in NYC

Where can I play a drum kit in New York City? [more inside]
posted by dyobmit at 7:17 AM PST - 6 comments

The time for cunning plans and crazy capers.

I really, really enjoyed Nicholas Schmidle's article "A Very Rare Book" (on a nearly-flawless contemporary forging of a unique copy of Galileo's "Sidereus Nuncius") in last week's New Yorker and I'd like to read more journalism/non-fiction like it. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 7:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Bought a used lemon. Now what?

How can I end the suffering of having purchased a terrible used car under duress? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:10 AM PST - 16 comments

Someone is intentionally attacking me & my family online.

Someone has created a site via Google Sites that is radically defaming myself and my family. We're not talking about a 12 year playing a prank. It's a systematic attack with the most egregious accusations one can imagine. They're parroting my personal business site and posting info that is not only libelous, but fantastically horrible. The junk they've posted about myself, my wife and our two small children is heartbreaking. We believe we know who it is (but have no proof) and have contacted the FBI on advice of a lawyer. They've told us they'll call us once they get jurisdiction figured out and the cybercrime guys take a look. The kind SAIC looked at the site and understood the problem but only got the ball in motion. That could take weeks/months for them to move on this and the site needs to come down, now. HOW? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:10 AM PST - 21 comments

Will college costs keep growing faster than inflation in the U.S.?

I'm trying to do some long-term financial planning for my family. I need to decide how much to put in college savings plans. From what I read, College tuition in the U.S. has been increasing faster than inflation for at least the last 30 years. Does anyone have a sense of what's going on inside educational institutions and in State legislatures? Do you have any information suggesting that some efforts are being made to reduce costs or at least limit increases? I've looked at some projections of what tuition, fees, and room and board might be in 10-16 years and I don't see how I will ever be able to send my kids to college if we see the 4-5% annual increases that have been common over the last decades.
posted by Area Man at 6:47 AM PST - 13 comments

Help me find a fix for this weird MS Outlook 2010 sent items issue?

Recipients in my Outlook “sent items” folder, despite having the exact same email address, can have any one of 4 forms of displayed email address, which makes sorting by sender and date a real pain, as Outlook sees each recipient as entirely distinct / separate, despite them actually having the exact same address. See inside for example of what i mean... [more inside]
posted by kev23f at 6:25 AM PST - 6 comments

How to Talk to My Boss

There was an incident last week. I have a 1-on-1 with my boss today, and I think I should bring it up with him. How should I bring it up, or is bringing it up a bad idea? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Garm at 6:09 AM PST - 18 comments

Mefites led me to Game of Thrones but now I need more to read!

Several years ago I found the Game of Throne books after several people suggested it on here. I have a pretty decent amount of Christmas vacation this year and I would like to read more, well-written, fantasy. This is where you come in - what would you have me read? [more inside]
posted by WinterSolstice at 5:59 AM PST - 23 comments

How can I be more articulate when I am talking to big shots?

I am newly promoted on a diplomatic track. I guess this promotion comes from my clear vision, unique perspective and general abilities. That's great, of course -- but: When I meet up with people high on the food chain, I sometimes speak too quickly and without enough reflection. I become very animated and expressive and while this attitude is part of my success, it simply is not professional. I lack the calm and highly articulate speech that my brilliant colleagues regularly employ. it makes me look Mickey Mouse by comparison. [more inside]
posted by mateuslee at 5:49 AM PST - 9 comments

From iPhone to iPad Mini

My SO will be getting an iPad mini for Christmas. They currently have an iPhone 4 with various Apps. Is there automatic or easy method of figuring what iPhone Apps have iPad mini equivalents and auto transferring them to the iPad mini, even if it requires paying for the new App?
posted by sock, the puppet at 5:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Resume/CV writing services in London?

Recommendations for a reasonably-priced service in London (which is where I currently am) that can help clean up my CV with an eye toward English teaching work? [more inside]
posted by the luke parker fiasco at 4:30 AM PST - 0 comments

December 16

Chapter One: The End.

Tell me the story of how you managed to keep your novel organized! [more inside]
posted by mittens at 6:35 PM PST - 15 comments

Gummy bears and scotch probably won't cut it.

I'm so excited. I'm so excited for Archer. I'm thinking about hosting an Archer premier watch in January. Can you suggest some party foods? [more inside]
posted by superquail at 6:22 PM PST - 24 comments

No more drama please: My neighbor says I'm too loud, is it revenge?

I think my neighbor is complaining about my noise because I previously complained about him to our landlord who is his boss. Should I wait to talk to him in person, which with our schedules could be days, write him a letter, or email our landlord? All three? [more inside]
posted by abirdinthehand at 6:14 PM PST - 24 comments

Micro-run offset printing for CD inserts.

Can anyone offer opinions on reputable offset printers for CD inserts in short-run or micro-run quantities (50-100 copies)? [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 6:02 PM PST - 4 comments

My male gender fits me ever so badly. What do I do?

My gender identity has been something I've had a lot of thought and confusion about for some time. Now that I'm racing headlong towards 30, I feel like it's got to be time to do something about it rather than just pushing it down again, like I've been doing all my life. I was born male, and I have an overwhelming urge to be feminine, to be a girl. Not a snowflake, but a snowdrift inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:00 PM PST - 26 comments

Negotiating Back Taxes Down?

So, in a nutshell here's the situation: I owe a significant amount of back taxes, and have the ability to pay - but want to see if it's possible to negotiate a lesser amount. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:58 PM PST - 6 comments

No business like snow business

What are your go-to "talents" that don't require any actual talent? [more inside]
posted by oinopaponton at 5:54 PM PST - 20 comments

Where could one find a Jeff Hornacek jersey besides eBay?

I'm trying to grant a Christmas wish for my sweetheart. Shh! Don't tell! [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 5:27 PM PST - 1 comment

what are some popular resources for massage theapists and spa owners?

i'm just finishing up my bands latest cd, who's working title is "music for spas" (we're the house band at a resort/spa in bali) i'd like to sell it outside the resort and our shows, and in order to do that i'm going to have to promote it - mainly online as our budget is limited, but i'm willing to pay for some ads here and there if i think it will help out album reach a wider audience. tropical snowflakes inside! [more inside]
posted by messiahwannabe at 5:17 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I get to the bottom of my sleep disorder?

I have a health care problem that is fairly ambiguous that deals with sleep. Basically, roughly since puberty (i.e. beginning of high school or a little before) I have been exhausted on anything less than 10 hours of sleep, and I don't sleep more than 3 consecutive hours more than a handful of times a year (generally this means getting up to use the bathroom, sometimes it can mean full on insomnia.) [more inside]
posted by imabanana at 4:52 PM PST - 21 comments

Dates that encourage interaction with others?

I have been dating someone new and I really like spending time with him! But so far we've only hung out one-on-one. What are activities two people can do together, but which also encourage interaction with others? [more inside]
posted by figgy_finicky at 4:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Ron Rosenbaum has intrigued me re: an aspect of Hitler's personality

Reading his "Explaining Hitler" a while back, Ron Rosenbaum briefly mentioned reading various explorations of Hitler's personality, one of which touched on the possibility that Hitler was not actually Hitler, but was merely 'acting like Hitler' and was very aware of the gap between real man and created monster. And I just thought he was nuts. While not overly concerned with Hitler himself, I am extremely interested in that idea: that people can be themselves, or other than themselves, or intentionally act like themselves on a long-term and global scale. I feel that way once in a while myself. It is a very hard topic to google, though (or explain, clearly), and my skills are thin. Does anyone know of this literature he referred to or anything similar? Or even what such a thing might be called? [more inside]
posted by umberto at 3:59 PM PST - 19 comments

Unexpected TEENAGE guest for the holidays?

Both my niece (16 yrs old) and her father (my brother - 37 yrs old) conveniently "forgot" to tell me that her 18 year old boyfriend would be coming to our family Christmas. They will be staying in MY house and did not ask for permission for the boyfriend to stay, nor did they ask myself or my mother (Grandma) permission for an outsider to come to the family Christmas. The kid already has a plane ticket and I honestly don't believe it's his fault - I 100% blame my brother and my niece. So, it's sort of too late - he's coming. But what do I say to them to let them know that I am FURIOUS but it's the holidays so I'll do my bloody best to be HOSPITABLE and FUN and CHEERY but that this is seriously NOT OKAY with me? [more inside]
posted by athena2255 at 3:56 PM PST - 118 comments

Is this a bedbug?

Recently moved into a pre-furnished room in NYC and noticed a lone dead bug on the mattress a few days ago. I hope it's not a bedbug, but I can't tell for sure. Someone look at this picture and say it isn't so! Also, that it isn't another species that will be invasive or cause an infestation. [more inside]
posted by taupe at 3:51 PM PST - 7 comments

How did getting a dog change your life?

I have no pets and will be becoming a first time dog owner shortly. I'm interested in learning everything I can to prepare. I've read and learned most of the basics, but would love to hear more. How did going from not having a dog to having a dog change your life? I want to hear it all- what inconvenient, weird, wonderful, mundane, happy, unhappy, and most of all unexpected ways did adding a dog to your family change your life?
posted by long haired child at 3:37 PM PST - 45 comments

How do I find out if a foreign work has ever been published in English?

I am trying to find out if an Italian short story now in the public domain has ever been published in English. [more inside]
posted by millions at 3:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Road Trip! Suggested eats and roadside attractions?

It appears as though my wife and I will be driving from Toronto, Canada to San Diego between Christmas and New Year's because that's what life presents you with sometimes. We're on a timetable so we can't stop at every cool thing, but it would be nice to find some scenic spots and local chow that isn't Denny's. Route and other details inside. [more inside]
posted by dry white toast at 3:26 PM PST - 9 comments

Can I eat this? (I'm going to anyway.)

I marinated four chicken breasts late yesterday, the recipe says to marinate for at least half an hour, but no longer than two hours. I accidentally left two breasts in the marinade overnight in the fridge. I will be cooking them for dinner tonight regardless, but should I expect a drastically different result because of the extra 12 hours in the marinade? [more inside]
posted by malibustacey9999 at 3:23 PM PST - 12 comments

Shopping around for Buddhism

I'm trying to figure out whether my local Triratna Buddhist organisation will be a fit for what I think I want from Buddhism. [more inside]
posted by aesop at 3:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Where to buy Borges' translation of Whitman's Blades of Grass

Help me find a copy of Jorge Luis Borges translation of Whitman's Blades of Grass that I can buy. Bilingual edition a plus, but not a deal breaker. [more inside]
posted by Doroteo Arango II at 2:47 PM PST - 7 comments

I want to Excel

I need some Excel assistance. [more inside]
posted by pullayup at 2:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Family board games for adults and little kids

This holiday season, I'm thinking about giving the gift of board games. Most of my friends (adults in their 30s - 50s) have little kids (2-6 years old). Do you have any board game recommendations for a family with kids around that age, that everyone can play together? Card games, or heck any other games are good, too. Thanks!
posted by lillygog at 1:56 PM PST - 33 comments

Personal shopper needed for some snowboots in Aisle 7 please

Say you're a hip and adorable lesbian- what snowboots would you buy? I'm trying to buy my partner a pair of snowboots for Xmas and want to find some really cute, stylish ones but am coming up short. We're in the Rockies. I just buy utilitarian boots, so I am bad at this. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 1:52 PM PST - 17 comments

Drive w/encrypted partition will not mount w/Ubuntu

I have a portable drive w/an encrypted partition that I cannot get to mount on a laptop running Ubuntu 12.04. It is not visible to Disk Utility, either. Can anyone walk me through accessing its contents?
posted by ryanshepard at 1:50 PM PST - 4 comments

Not just revenge, but REVENGE.

I'm looking for stories featuring grand, visceral, over-the-top, self-indulgent revenge. Why not suggest a few? [more inside]
posted by Willie0248 at 1:28 PM PST - 53 comments

Home buying tools, maps, data crunching etc.

Glorious SO and I plan to buy a home in the next 18-30 months. I'd like to line up all the best tools, maps, and data to keep track of homes we've seen, neighborhoods and towns we'd consider, flood maps, commute times, train lines--really anything and everything that could inform this decision. Yes, yes, friends, colleagues and a good agent are great resources--but we want tools at this point! [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 1:16 PM PST - 3 comments

Managing fear of sex noises/PDA

How can I manage my fear of PDA and sex noises? [more inside]
posted by bluekazoo at 12:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Shopping for large-breasted women?

You are an average-sized woman with a disproportionately large chest. You have great bras. You look fabulous in your tops, which magically do not pull, gape, make you look skanky or fit like a giant bag. How did you learn how to dress yourself in a way that flatters you, and where are you shopping for clothes that have a chance of fitting without tailoring? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 12:35 PM PST - 21 comments

Let's get physical...I wanna get physical...

In an AskMe that will surprise no one given its proximity to the New Year, I'm looking for cardio/workout DVDs that will have me working up a sweat in 2014! [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 12:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Can you help me make Starbucksy drinks at home?

I just received an espresso machine and am prone to buying $4 iced lattes every day. How can I duplicate the taste I love at home? [more inside]
posted by masquesoporfavor at 12:10 PM PST - 21 comments

The Peace Corps and Anxiety Disorders - mutually exclusive?

Does having a diagnosed anxiety disorder that requires, but is well managed by, medication, generally disqualify you from consideration for a Peace Corps post? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:43 AM PST - 9 comments

Laptop? Desktop? Tablet?!!!

Please help me decide what kind of computer, and if possible what brand and model we should get. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Hanuman1960 at 11:17 AM PST - 21 comments

Best app for finding concerts?

I'm looking for the best way to be notified when my favorite music acts are playing near me. What is your favorite app or site to do this? [more inside]
posted by widdershins at 11:00 AM PST - 10 comments


I’m a healthy but sedentary person. One of my greatest wishes is to climb Mt. Fuji. If I have 5 years to get ready, what should I do to prepare physically? [more inside]
posted by clearlydemon at 10:59 AM PST - 15 comments

Looking for a cheaper replacement for the Lo&Sons OG

I'd like something almost exactly like the Lo&Sons OG gym and travel bag — something that includes a laptop sleeve, pockets, and the additional strap to hold it on a rolling suitcase. Ideally, it would be professional-looking enough to carry to job interviews. Unfortunately, I'm also working with a graduate student budget. Any suggestions?
posted by you're a kitty! at 10:29 AM PST - 5 comments

What are some cool American-history-related books/games/movies for kids?

Looking for a fun gift for an 8-year-old that might fuel his interest in American history (or any history) ... Any ideas? (Some specifics provided inside.) [more inside]
posted by pokermonk at 10:18 AM PST - 11 comments

What is the best way to get a >500k term life insurance policy on myself

’d like to buy a 1 million dollar life insurance policy for myself to protect my family and dependents should I die unexpectedly. I already know to get a term plan and avoid the other trappings that insurances may offer. Now the question is how do I do this? More inside [more inside]
posted by RapcityinBlue at 9:55 AM PST - 11 comments

Eat it or not: Expired fish stock edition

I have two unopened jars of commercially prepared fish stock. Expiration date April 2013. I planned to make seafood bisque as part of a special dinner tonight and will seriously disappoint someone if I don't (and don't have time to buy more stock.) But food poisoning ain't festive. Eat, or forget the bisque, baby? [more inside]
posted by ladybird at 9:51 AM PST - 16 comments

Turn up the music: rent vs. buy speakers for a party

I've got a house party coming up in a couple weeks. I will be playing downloaded, not great quality mp3s from a laptop via Winamp (please assume this setup cannot be changed/improved). Should I rent a standing speaker, or buy something suitable from a store like Best Buy? I am not looking to crank the music super loud, but it there will be dancing and I want the music heard. Details: party to happen on main floor - open concept, approx 45 people, detached house. Minimal room for speakers. Simple set up desired. Budget - around $200. Location - Toronto
posted by walkinginsunshine at 9:40 AM PST - 12 comments

An Unelectric Boogaloo

What are some activities and technologies that I could use for a completely non-electric New Year's Eve party? [more inside]
posted by Polyhymnia at 9:28 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I welcome two teenagers from Kazakhstan?

For Christmas my family is hosting two teenagers (~12 yrs old) from Kazakhstan. They are in town for a hockey tournament, and the place where the team is staying is closing for the nights of the 24th and 25th, so we are taking them on while other families take other members of the team. Help us make them feel welcome while being so far away from home! [more inside]
posted by TheyCallItPeace at 9:14 AM PST - 9 comments

Beyond rubber duckies: must-haves for the best baths

You love to take baths. What do have in and around your tub that makes it a great experience? Is there more to life than soap and shampoo? [more inside]
posted by Theophylactic at 9:08 AM PST - 28 comments

Vintage IBM keyboard (Personal Computer 5150) sends computer to a halt

I have recently acquired the keyboard for the IBM 5150 Personal Computer. It also came with a DIN-5 to PS/2 adapter, so I plugged into my desktop, and everything screeched to a halt -- typing occurred very delayed from the key presses, mouse became inoperable. Is this the keyboard, the adapter, some software incompatibility, or something else completely? [more inside]
posted by subversiveasset at 9:01 AM PST - 9 comments

What are some good NYC restaurants open Christmas Day?

NYC-ers: Where have you eaten dinner on Christmas Day that's awesome? Caveats: $30/person max, coming from UWS and we have a show in the Hell's Kitchen area (50th and 8th) at 8pm... [more inside]
posted by windbox at 8:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Cheerful, intelligent anime and cartoons - dubbed or in English

My mother's health isn't so great (and it isn't, sadly, going to get much better). She still enjoys movies, however, and I'd like to get her some animated stuff. Her vision isn't strong, so subtitles are out - so these must be dubbed or from Anglophone countries. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 8:58 AM PST - 18 comments

Where to buy yoga clothes in the UK?

Where can I buy good-quality yoga clothes in the UK? My mum wants some for Christmas and I'd love your recommendations for comfortable yoga clothes for more mature women (say 60+). Basically she doesn't want skintight leggings or any obtuse logos, etc. She'd like darker colours (although 'a little bit of colour but not too bright' is ok). Bonus if the store is online and offers shipping. Thanks!
posted by atlantica at 8:39 AM PST - 4 comments

I just want to playyyyyy!

Requesting suggestions for very cheap, decent quality Android small tablet for a 7 year old boy. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 8:31 AM PST - 9 comments

Tell me how to ask my work whether I get paid during holiday

Just shy about it and want to minimize awkwardness [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 8:30 AM PST - 29 comments

Old-school conference calling?

Hi, looking for a reliable service to set up cheap, flat-rate conference calls on a semi-regular basis (non-internet based). [more inside]
posted by Laura in Canada at 8:28 AM PST - 1 comment

Mushy Meatballs

I'm making a cocktail-sized version of these baked chicken meatballs for a party tonight, and my meatball mixture is super mushy. (Which I now know is a feature of cooking with ground chicken...) I need help in figuring how to stiffen these things up! [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon at 7:59 AM PST - 19 comments

DSLR on a budget: Buy an older high-end or a newer low-end camera?

This blog post has inspired me take better photos of people without spending a fortune. For a given budget (let's say camera body less than $600) should I buy a current low-end DSLR (e.g. the Canon Rebel T5i) or watch eBay for a used higher-end DSLR from a few years ago (e.g. the Nikon D7000)? [more inside]
posted by teem at 6:47 AM PST - 17 comments

Fiance Met Up with Old Female Friend; Didn't Mention It. Now What?

Me: mid-40's living with teenage kid, him: mid-50's moved in with us (after several year LDR) months ago. A few days ago, he got together with an old female friend and I found out accidentally. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:39 AM PST - 73 comments

Forcing a snow day -- What kid traditions do you know about?

The kids in my town (philly burbs) have certain rituals they follow to "cause" school to be canceled the next day when snow is forecast. Specifically: sleeping with a spoon under your pillow and turning your pajamas inside out. Also heard this year: flushing ice down the toilet. I never had these growing up, and I'm wondering if it's a regional thing, a thing new to this generation, or if other superstitions exist/existed along these lines.
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 6:07 AM PST - 50 comments

Almost Heavenly Ham?

Family is clamoring for "Heavenly Ham" for Christmas this year but the price per pound in our area is cost prohibitive. The few times I've tried to make the supermarket substitutes have been disappointing to say the least. Is there a secret to making a good spiral ham at home? If so, what do you look for on the label including the average price this time of year? There is wide range for these and I want to do what you're doing.
posted by R2WeTwo at 5:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Therapist in midtown Manhattan? Software; life changes?

Are you/were you a software developer or PhD researcher who is or was having horrific career issues? Do you/did you really like your therapist? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 4:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Make a trip to see elderly relatives, even if she caused odd mini-drama?

Should we make plans to drive several hours and stay in a hotel, after flying across the country with our young kids (who'll be ages 6.5 and 4.5) next Spring, so that they can meet my husband's elderly relatives, with whom he has always had very good relationships... that is, until his octogenarian Grandmother said something to him over the phone that caused my husband to suddenly have a strong negative/ambivalent reaction to the whole idea? [more inside]
posted by hush at 12:29 AM PST - 46 comments

December 15

Version of Rudolph, The Red-Nosed Reindeer with 'Callback' Lyrics

I am trying to find a good, actually any version, of Rudolph, The Red-Nosed Reindeer, with 'callback' or 'kid's addition' lyrics. For example, "They never let poor Rudolph (Rudolph)/ Join in any reindeer games (like Monopoly)". I have searched, unsuccessfully, on iTunes and Google Play, for such a version. Any recommendations? I am sure there are plenty out there but I'm just not finding any.
posted by vac2003 at 11:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Anyone have a compilation of lax movie security guard clips?

IE: The guy is watching something funny on TV while on his security monitors there are intruders entering...etc etc
posted by Salvatorparadise at 8:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Attending the funeral. Do I send flowers also?

Usually I think of sending flowers when I won't be able to attend a funeral. I will be attending one this week, for a pretty close relative, and another relative asked me to go in on some flowers. Is it customary to send flowers even if you're attending? This is in the US.
posted by lakeroon at 7:43 PM PST - 16 comments

My shoulders are up here

My manager put his hands on me in a way that felt strangely intimate. Should I be concerned, or am I reading too much into this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:41 PM PST - 44 comments

Want a (used?) PS3 - but which model?

PS4 is out, so time for me to get a PS3 and enjoy a sweet, sweet back catalogue of cheap, cheap games. But given that I also like to 'open' my consoles for media playing / emulator goodness, which new or used model should I buy? The main concern seems to be downgrading the official firmware from whatever it is now to 3.55 so that unofficial firmware can be installed. Is this easily done on all models (for example, the latest 12gb or 500gb jobs) or only older slim / fat models?
posted by obiwanwasabi at 7:09 PM PST - 4 comments

All I want for Christmas is a poem!

We are doing secret Santa exchange at work in which everyday we leave a small gift for the recipient. I want to make all my little gifts tie together using a poem. Halp? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 6:45 PM PST - 3 comments

How to sync bookmarks across 2 browsers and a tablet

I'd like to like to sync bookmarks between Chrome and Firefox on a computer AND with the Android version of either Chrome or Firefox (doesn't matter which). [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 6:18 PM PST - 4 comments

In-tex ad hyperlinks

I recently purchased an Asus All-in-One computer as a replacement for my Dell XP system. The two computers are used in tandem, with the Asus used as the main monitor for the Dell. The XP unit will be used off line starting in March of 2014 and will remain in tandem so that certain XP only software can still be used. The systems are a Windows 8.1, Asus ET2411INKIB011K and a Windows XP SP3 Dell T3400 [more inside]
posted by Raybun at 6:15 PM PST - 5 comments

You're Not Lost! I Hope...

I've just spent several hours trying to find addresses and phone numbers for old friends who have relocated. Is there a standard URL to use to find different cities' white pages listings? One that doesn't want to charge me a monthly fee, that is - something that's up to date and free. Thanks, Mefites!
posted by summerstorm at 5:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Where am I supposed to end up?

Not sure where to relocate to. Or how to even start looking.. Help? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 5:22 PM PST - 8 comments

Getting rid of The Birds...

A bird couple (pigeons, apparently) have set up shop in the corner of my balcony and I have tried various and relatively humane methods in an attempt to drive them away. They've barely reacted. What are my next courses of action? [more inside]
posted by chloe.gelsomino at 5:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a history-of-fashion art book, please!

I'm looking for a nice art book covering fashion and (particularly) hairstyles, both men's and women's, in America in the 30s, 40s, and/or 50s. This is a gift for a hairstylist, so pictures are key - the text is much less important. Price range up to $200. Thanks!
posted by restless_nomad at 5:02 PM PST - 2 comments

How long should I wait before refinancing my car?

How long should I wait before refinancing my car? [more inside]
posted by Evilspork at 4:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Medical Science Question

Hello, I have a stem-cell related question which I hope someone familiar with said information can help me out with. Basically, I was wondering if it's theoretically possible to grow a brand new male reproductive organ within an existing male organ as its eventual replacement with the aid of stem cells (i.e. via stem cell injection into the organ tissue). The cells could then differentiate into specialized organ cells which could then divide, etc. What are your fact-based opinions about this?
posted by Neutron12 at 4:26 PM PST - 17 comments

Is this investing in my future or is this a stupid decision?

I've been offered to be hired where I have been a contractor. However, there is a health insurance issue that would cost me a lot of money for several months. But I would have a great retirement plan. I have nothing in savings and $100k I just consolidated in student loans, so this issue is just complicating things. [more inside]
posted by McSockerson The Great at 4:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Good train set for a 5-yr old?

Thanks for any advance help here, but want a train set that you can control via some type of remote instead of letting the train run after you turn it on. Thoughts?
posted by skepticallypleased at 4:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Custom All Over Print hoodie sources

Where can I get two hoodies custom printed with an all over print (similar to this but without a 20 day turnaround) before Christmas? [more inside]
posted by ChrisHartley at 4:06 PM PST - 2 comments

How to invest 25K for the short term?

So you've got $25,000 that you want to invest for 3-4 years. You're not interested in something crazy, you know nothing about the stock market, and you're financially conservative. What is the best financial tool for this? [I'm asking this for a friend of mine] Thanks
posted by Murray M at 3:42 PM PST - 16 comments

What book is similar to "Number the Stars" for my 9 year old?

My nine year old just read "Number the Stars" by Lois Lowry. It is her first introduction to really high quality historical fiction. She is excited to read more books that teach her about history, but are also fun to read because they are fiction. Do you have any ideas about historical fiction books that are excellent quality like "Number the Stars" but that are age appropriate for my nine year old? Thank you.
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 3:37 PM PST - 42 comments

I don't want to have to go to Dr. Oz or Andrew Weil for this one.

Which healthy grocery items/nutritional supplements/dietary interventions have you found to be worth the splurge, and how/why? [more inside]
posted by blue suede stockings at 3:32 PM PST - 35 comments

American restaurants outside of the U.S.?

I'm an American who has done a fair amount of travel in Mexico and Europe, and in all those travels I don't remember ever coming across a non-hamburger-centric American-style restaurant*. [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 3:30 PM PST - 52 comments

Should I give my student a gift to celebrate her PhD? If so, what?

This is a gift question, but not holiday related. Still, MeFi is full of experts.... So, my first PhD student just successfully defended, and I am very proud of her. The question is whether to give her a gift, and if so, what.... [more inside]
posted by JMOZ at 3:17 PM PST - 20 comments

You're the one, the one I see

My friend has been trying to identify this song for over 20 years. It's from the early to mid 80's. It came unlabeled on a mix tape. Google lyrics searches come up empty. SoundHound/Shazam fail. [more inside]
posted by irontech at 3:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Cell phone provider in EU

We are travelling from Canada to France and Italy and would like to have our roaming charges and calls be as inexpensive as possible. Can someone recommend the best cell phone provider in the EU for both cell phone and data usage where we would buy or get the iPhone 5S SIM card?
posted by Tziv at 2:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Physics Study Guide

For my pal...What is a good physics study guide for: a) 1st semester algebra-based college physics b) lots of solved problems c) without calculus. I remember liking Schaum's in undergrad, but I seem to recall it being calculus based. Thx Hive!
posted by j_curiouser at 2:02 PM PST - 4 comments

Boyfriend & I have blow out fights every so often - what's going on?

We've been together for 6 months and things have generally been lovely. But on two occasions now we've had two big fights with a similar theme. [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 1:46 PM PST - 49 comments

Is there an app for displaying multiple images on a Kindle Fire?

I would like to display 2-5 images on the screen of Kindle Fire (8.9") at the same time. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by Science! at 1:46 PM PST - 1 comment

Is 'Cantata Mortis' an accurate Latin phrase?

Presuming it means 'song of death', do the cases match up? My latin is too rusty...
posted by Sebmojo at 1:45 PM PST - 2 comments

Depression vs. IUD

I've been dealing with depression for years. I can't tell if it's worse because of my birth control. Help? [more inside]
posted by themaskedwonder at 1:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Foster Care Firsthand

I'm looking for blogs, books, articles or other materials written from the perspective of foster children or former foster children in the United States. I'm especially interested in those who aged out of foster care or who were adopted as older children/teens. [more inside]
posted by snarfles at 1:36 PM PST - 3 comments

Shipping my Purolator..."received by Barry"?

I bought something online on November 30th, and just realized that I haven't received the package yet. It turns out the company shipped by Purolator. In my tracking history it says that shipment was delivered. It was picked up by "Barry" at "shipping dock" on Dec. 13, and that it has arrived at the sorting facility at Purolator International YYZ. I don't know Purolator at all...does that mean it's returned? I am really confused. I've received one phone call that sounds very scammy and told me to go pick up my "freight" in Etioboke (I live in downtown Toronto)...and otherwise no other information about the package. WTH is going on?
posted by redwaterman at 12:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Arduino & other electronic project kits for a 10 year old boy

More gift advice needed! For a 10-year-old science geek with advanced computer and electronics skills for his age, I am looking for cool electronics project kits. He has an Arduino starter kit and has worked with that a lot. He has some soldering skills. He's into digital audio at the moment. He also has a Mac laptop and an iPad, in case it's relevant. Looking for things in the $75-150 range.
posted by spitbull at 12:55 PM PST - 9 comments


What would cause this pattern/path to develop to and from my front door? [more inside]
posted by mazola at 12:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Help shopping for camisoles

I need help finding a good camisole. I am a b-cup, 5'8", size 12, 37yo American woman. I am looking for a camisole that can replace a bra, has skinny straps, and doesn't make me feel like a sausage. Nothing too girlie or sexy.
posted by mola at 11:56 AM PST - 7 comments

Gift ideas for science-minded 11-year-old boy

Another gift-question, but I didn't find anything in the archives that's exactly applicable, so here goes: I'm looking for a Christmas gift for my 11-year-old cousin. He's pretty into science and math, and according to my aunt, already has tons of toys/games/kits. So it seems like she would prefer for him not to get another one of those, but her only other suggestion was to give him "coupons" to play card/board games with me. I'd be happy to do that except frankly I'm not sure he'd actually appreciate it - fwiw we rarely see each other, and I'm ten years older and female. I'm thinking a good book might be nice, but I don't know exactly what he's already read and liked, other than the typical series like Harry Potter, Percy Jackson, Diary of a Wimpy Kid etc. Any suggestions - either lesser-known books or other options I might not have thought of? My max price range is probably $25-30 but I can be a little flexible.
posted by st elmo's fire at 11:39 AM PST - 20 comments

Quality oil painting lessons online

I am an amateur painter. Never taken lessons, but I really enjoy it. I am looking to improve my technique - particularly working with texture and light. My paintings are pretty flat now. I want to learn how to add depth and contour. I want to paint in a realistic style, not abstract or impressionist. Looking for some good starting points for online videos and resources to get me to the next level.
posted by SarahBellum at 10:28 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for clandestine news website about DPRK that I read about

A month or two ago I read about a network of clandestine reporters who use old cell phones to collect information inside North Korea and then publish it to the internet. What is the name of that website, and where did I see that article? [more inside]
posted by vincele at 10:23 AM PST - 3 comments

Why does WeatherBug's data suck, and is there anything better?

Last night I was checking WeatherBug, the iphone app I use for weather, and it said the expected low for the night would be 25. It was also telling me that the current temperature was 18. In the forecast for today, it predicted a high temperature of 42. Great! Snow melt! So I checked the hour-by-hour forecast to see when it would hit that high, and it didn't show anything higher than 35. This sort of thing happens a lot, and it offends the nerd in me. So: can other apps do better, or do they all just feed off the same NOAA data? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 9:14 AM PST - 23 comments

how to maintain depth as well as breadth of friendships?

I have a good life - good community, friends, lots of different communities in different interest areas as well as geographically in the town i live in. I try to maintain involvement with a lot of different communities because I feel that learning broadly from a lot of people (and a lot of different types of thinking, experiences, backgrounds) is really important. But I'm worried that the depth of my friendships may be suffering. How have some of you folks balanced broad networks (professional, personal, interest-based, geographical) with keeping them deep as well. [more inside]
posted by waylaid at 9:12 AM PST - 12 comments

Can you recommend other good movies that feature folk music?

I'm looking for movies that feature folk music in an interesting way other than the ones I've listed below (not many). I've mostly loved American and Irish folk music in the past along with some Australian bush band/string fusions but I'm pretty open-minded. [more inside]
posted by h00py at 8:51 AM PST - 31 comments

Is the sky no longer the limit? Getting back on track in med school

I had a rough start to medical school academically. People keep telling me that if I "do well" here on out, it "shouldn't matter" in four years when I apply to the next stage in my training (residency). That's easy for them to say, but I need more perspective than that. I'm bothered that it could put a "ceiling" on what I might be able to achieve otherwise. Those who have experience with medical education and academics, please give me your thoughts! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:48 AM PST - 17 comments

Pulling the plug on my LDR, because meh?

I am become rather obsessed with the idea that I want more from a relationship and might need to end this one. Should I? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:48 AM PST - 13 comments

Lego Power Functions - Trying to stay sane!

Has anyone found a reliable source for Lego Technic Power Functions builds? [more inside]
posted by jeffmac at 7:12 AM PST - 5 comments

How to Handle Obnoxious, Intrusive Neighbor

Every time my new neighbor sees me, he feels the need to ask me some intrusive question or make some annoying comment about what I'm doing or my habits. I feel like he's invading my privacy and he's very aggressive. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by OneHermit at 7:02 AM PST - 52 comments

I'm a grown-up, but I still don't know what I want to be...

Having spent the last year+ underemployed, I need a new direction. I've got a bachelor's degree in Mechanical Engineering, a dormant PE license, and a dead-end resume. I'm currently "working" for profits from an unprofitable mechanic shop doing brakes, radiators, and whatnot. It seems like all the engineering job listings require deep, specific experience--so I'm not qualified-- or are entry-level and I'm overqualified. [more inside]
posted by notsnot at 6:40 AM PST - 17 comments

Infinity Scarf for Men

Is it possible to wear an infinity scarf for men INSIDE of a jacket/coat? [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 6:08 AM PST - 12 comments

How to Platonically Ask a Guy Out

There's a guy I'm interested in getting to know better as a friend (and it's strictly as a friend, because he has a girlfriend). But I have various concerns. A whole nor'easter worth of details inside. [more inside]
posted by Puck Soppet at 6:06 AM PST - 33 comments

Andalusian Activities?

My family and I will soon be embarking on a trip to Spain. We'll be in Seville the 19th-27th, Cordoba for a couple of days after that, and Granada until January 2nd. What's cool stuff to do in these places (we've already got Alhambra tickets), or very nearby? Is there anything associated with the current winter festivities to do? Any good restaurant recommendations?
posted by Maecenas at 5:42 AM PST - 8 comments

Booze, bars-- it only makes sense

I have a bartender friend for whom I would really, really like to get a Married to the Sea "It's Motherfucking Booze Time" shirt (from this comic.) Where oh where do I get one now that their merch site is closed? [more inside]
posted by Because at 1:53 AM PST - 5 comments

December 14

Seeking style blogs by and for trans women

I am looking for style blogs by and for trans women — either single-contributor "here's what I wore today" blogs or tumblr/pinterest-type aggregators. Details within. [more inside]
posted by Now there are two. There are two _______. at 10:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Is It Better To Not Fill Up?

My car weighs 4013lbs (with me in it) and averages 17mpg on my 21.7m (roundtrip) commute. My gas tank holds 20 gallons, but I only ever fill it up half-full. The reason I do this, is because my brain knows how heavy 4 x 2.5 gallon containers of water is, and thinks that not carrying this additional approx 60lbs of weight (1.5% of the 4013lbs) will be better for both mpg and performance (i.e. less liquid sloshing around the tank). Is my brain crazy?
posted by forallmankind at 8:19 PM PST - 24 comments

Space abhors a vacuum, but I still want one that works

Please explain to me some things about central vacuum systems and/or steer me towards some good reference materials. I can find tons of websites by googling, but having a really hard time wading through thinly veiled advertising for real unbiased info. Especially concerning replacing the vacuum unit of a pre-installed system. [more inside]
posted by Tandem Affinity at 7:47 PM PST - 8 comments

What's a fast way to choose which new songs to download for Rock Band?

My sister and I are big fans of the Rock Band video game on XBox. They seem to be winding up the franchise though and we want to download a whack of new songs while we still can. We've already downloaded songs we know and love already. The dilemma is what to get next. It would take forever to go through the list and listen to each song. Is there a better way of narrowing down the choices? Is there some rating system we could consult online that could tell us which songs are at least more popular than others? Our musical interests are all over the place which makes things tougher. We like Creedence Clearwater, Pearl Jam, Sting, The Who, Bob Dylan, Queen... but as you can see these are older bands. We don't know much about the newer bands but we've liked Dover, Amy Winehouse, Stone Temple Pilots....
posted by storybored at 7:45 PM PST - 7 comments

How can I find an inexpensive beach rental on the TX coast?

Where can retired Alaska snowbirds find a rental along the Texas gulf coast? By that I do not mean where are the nice beaches, as I know the answers to that question. I need to know HOW to find a rental by the month that includes linens, a furnished kitchen, cable, and internet. VRBO, Craigslist, airbnb, and other sources have failed. Everything I find is daily/weekly and incredibly expensive. I hope to travel from mid Jan thru mid Feb and $900 to $1100 per month seams reasonable to me. The specific location is not as important as price, and a beach view.
posted by woman at 6:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Seeking images of grand relief sculptures at Angkor Wat

Angkor Wat in Cambodia is perhaps the largest archaeological site in the world, and I am now fascinated by it. I am trying to learn more about the grand relief sculptures at Angkor Wat, and especially the Churning of the Sea of Milk, the Battle of Lanka, and the Battle of Kurukshetra. Unfortunately, these are so big and complex that I am having trouble finding great images of them online. Are there gigapixel photos, interactive panoramas, or other digitized versions of these available? I suspect that there are, but I cannot find any. Leads to such imagery would be greatly appreciated.
posted by mortaddams at 6:18 PM PST - 3 comments

Back surgery in 5 days: What am in for?

Having back surgery on Dec. 19th. Fusion of L5-S1 with bone from pelvis and some "hardware". Doc has been great with the exception of what I'm in for in terms of post-op pain and recovery. Basically, he's told me "it varies." I do know I'll be hospitalized for at least 2 nights. [more inside]
posted by jrchaplin at 5:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Gift in the midst of cancer for someone you don't know well?

My beloved dog walker has been battling with cancer - and it sounds like she's losing. What can I give her and her partner as a Christmas/New Year's gift in the midst of this? [more inside]
posted by Gucky at 5:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Chest pains after vodka

I recently discovered that the morning after drinking vodka (I'm not getting drunk and this wasn't on an empty stomach), I get mild chest pains. I'm not looking for what to do: obviously I've stopped drinking vodka and will see a doctor ASAP. What I'd like to know is: have you experienced this and did you ever figure out the cause?
posted by anonymous at 5:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Athletic Sponsorship?

How does an athlete go about getting a sponsorship as an adult competitor (mid 20s) in an expensive but not popular (relative to something like basketball, ie signed/contract athlete) sport? [more inside]
posted by driedmango at 4:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Question for lawyers and law types, but not asking for legal advice

Suppose two adverse parties meet in a formal legal setting (for instance, suppose plaintiff is being deposed and defendant shows up to observe). Should the parties shake hands? Would it be rude if one of the parties doesn't want to shake hands? I certainly appreciate that the lawyers or other representatives of the parties should shake hands, but what (if any) are the customary duties of civility with respect to hand-shaking between adverse parties themselves? Is it necessary, or is a grim-but-civil "How do you do?" statement between parties enough? (Or is this simply a huge plate of beans that I'm overthinking?) I guess my own view is that there is significant tension between the basic duties of civility between any two members of society and the hostile behavior or insult that has created a lawsuit.
posted by Mr. Justice at 4:39 PM PST - 13 comments

The most amazing tomato soup recipe I can't find

A long time ago in country far, far away, I was friends with a dude from Bangalore who ran an Indian restaurant. He had this tomato soup, and he'd never tell me the recipe. Google fails me. [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 4:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me get up-to-date in genetics and immunology.

Please recommend some up-to-date textbooks in genetics and immunology. [more inside]
posted by Protocols of the Elders of Sockpuppetry at 4:32 PM PST - 2 comments

Ripples, Ribbons, and Fudge: Help me make better ice cream.

Made a deal with an Amish neighbor to buy, among other things, a pint of heavy cream a week. As a result I've been making a lot of ice cream. I've got a few good go-to recipes, but what I want to learn about next is flavoring with ribbons and ripples. I have this excellent salt carmel ice cream recipe, for example, but the carmel seems to turn to hard candy when frozen. What's the trick to keeping ripples and ribbons from getting too hard? Are there tricks to folding in fudges and caramels in ice cream? Do added gelatins or oils help? And while you're here, what's your favorite homemade ice cream recipe? [more inside]
posted by Toekneesan at 3:41 PM PST - 12 comments

Hanging HEAVY stuff from my old plaster ceiling

I'm hoping to hang a heavy sliding door system from the old lath and plaster ceiling. Are bolts screwed straight up into the wood going to be enough support--or will they just pull out? All the information I can find on sliding, barn door style systems show the rail support being screwed into a wall. But I was able to buy some ceiling brackets, so that must be "another" way. I can't bolt from above, so: am I asking for trouble screwing straight up into the wood, and expecting the bolts to support a 10-foot track and two 4x8 doors?
posted by largecorp at 3:07 PM PST - 17 comments

Independent Toyota Prius Repair in Portland, Oregon?

Does anybody have a favorite independent Toyota repair shop in Portland, Oregon? Preferably one you know to have worked on Priuses, but any recommendations / anti-recommendations welcome.
posted by spacewrench at 3:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Knock-out nut roast

We're having a vegetarian Christmas. I love a good nut roast. There's only going to be three of us, and no one to freak out over vegetarian clichés. So I'm looking for a scene stealing nut roast recipe to be the main attraction. [more inside]
posted by Helga-woo at 3:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Christmas in NYC

I'm visitng NYC for the next couple days and would like to pack in some quintessential Christmastime in New York City activities. ! [more inside]
posted by gardenbex at 3:01 PM PST - 18 comments

Whats wrong with my vintage audio receiver?

When I play records sound only comes out of the right speaker. [more inside]
posted by hellameangirl at 2:53 PM PST - 10 comments

Doctor says I need to lose some weight. But I have a history of anorexia

I am currently an overweight adult and my doctor has mentioned I could drop some weight. However, I have a history of anorexia and I definitely don't want to go down that path. How to go about losing weight without triggering myself into relapse? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 2:49 PM PST - 20 comments

A movie with a kid-killing bull

I have a dim memory of seeing a movie on television in which a young person is killed by a bull after wandering into its fenced-off bull field, but I haven't had any luck searching for a film title. [more inside]
posted by dougmoon at 2:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Another one of those where should we live questions- please help!

Please help me find a new love now that I have to move on- love of place. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 2:28 PM PST - 9 comments

SoCal Costal Hotels for Overnight Getaway?

My girlfriend and I both have some time off between Christmas and New Years Day. We'd like to take a one-day roadtrip somewhere along the southern California coast, get a hotel, hang out on the beach a while, sleep, come home the next afternoon. We're located in Santa Monica, and on a pretty tight budget. Ideas for great little spots/hotels? [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 2:18 PM PST - 15 comments

How can I keep warm while carrying shoulder bags?

For the nth time, I can't believe I'm using my question for this, but it is making me crazy and I need help. Here's the situation: I hate coats and they hate me, but I have to find a way to stay warm outside in winter. Help me figure out what kind of warm garment won't ride up or cause my bags to slip off my shoulder when I walk outside? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:07 PM PST - 15 comments

Identify this song please!

My son has been watching this Mario Power-Ups video, and I cannot identify the song at 1:37. Can you?
posted by 41swans at 12:15 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I know if a job is a good fit for me?

Earlier this week I started working at a flour mill driving tractor trailers, after 2 months of training at a truck driving school to obtain a CDL, and I am having doubts about this decision. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 12:00 PM PST - 28 comments

Rice and Beans

I'd like to start preparing my meals for the workweek in a batch on Sundays, to be refrigerated and microwaved as needed. I'm looking for a specific rice and bean-based recipe (type(s) of bean, optimal ratio of rice to beans, cooking time) that's cheap and nutritionally complete. That is to say, I'd like to be able to eat this for about half of my meals in a week and remain healthy.
posted by phrontist at 11:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Sedation effect from amitriptyline, does it fade?

My neurologist has prescribed amitriptyline (Elavil) for migraine +/- sleep issues. I took the first dose, 10 mg, last night. Today I am Elmer Fudd. I have felt substantially sedated all day, and this is not ok if it stays! I'm trying to decide whether I should continue with another dose tonight, or discontinue & call the doc on Monday. Dr. Google tells me that the half-life of the drug is 10-50 h., so I'm leaning towards no. So, if you have experience with amitriptyline - is the sedative effect an initial one that fades, or will it stay (or get worse)?
posted by Dashy at 11:17 AM PST - 12 comments

How expensive is Tokyo, REALLY?

What's a reasonable cost of living wage increase when being transferred from Toronto to Tokyo? [more inside]
posted by 256 at 11:16 AM PST - 13 comments

Why are electrical outlets at shin height?

In my old, pre-1950s house, the outlets were in the baseboards. Today, that's against code. I've heard several reasons why: possibility of minor flooding; flammable vapors may settle near the floors; etc. But now that I know why they're not so very low anymore, my question is: why aren't they (usually) any higher than shin height? Why not eye-level? The stooping seems inconvenient enough that there must be some good practical reason to justify it.
posted by sarling at 10:42 AM PST - 18 comments

Vroom vroom kitty

Does anybody out there have a recommendation for a pet stroller? [more inside]
posted by bolognius maximus at 10:28 AM PST - 5 comments

I'm looking for the name of a kid's book series.

There was a short-lived kid's book series whose title that for the life of me I can't remember. It came out around the time that ESP McGee did. The main character had this unusual ability - he could draw anything and he had a photographic memory. The series was basically like Encyclopedia Brown, with a series of short mysteries in each volume, except that the clues to be gleaned were always hidden in the drawing. The protagonist, at the scene, always said "click" like a camera, and remembered the scene to be drawn later in his sketchbook. I mentioned this to a friend of mine and he asked me if it was Cam Jansen, who also says click, but I looked that series up and it's not her. Can anyone help? This has been haunting me for years.
posted by Sully at 9:40 AM PST - 4 comments

Making a tealight/teracotta pot heater more efficient

I've gotten caught up in the hype about those upturned-terracotta-plant-pot-with-tealight-candles-underneath-heaters, so I've made one. It's doing the job and keeping the chill off, and what can I expect, really, from something heated by 4 tealights. I want to make it more efficient, though. [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 8:44 AM PST - 11 comments

I am a 53 year old woman. What should I be using on my face?

I've always had radiant skin, according to family members and complete strangers, and am only recently beginning to notice a few extra ... laugh lines. I had read somewhere that I should no longer be washing my face with soap. What would be good products to clean and moisturize with that wouldn't be too terribly expensive? Up until just a few years ago I used Neutrogena bar soap (oily skin formula in the summer and regular the rest of the year) and loved it. I was an oily T zone type. I'm not a girly girl and don't want to take a great deal of time with this. Thanks.
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 8:38 AM PST - 22 comments

Help me keep my game from being gamed

I'm developing a website where people try to be click number X (sort of like radio call-in contests) to win a prize, and am looking for advice on ways to make it harder for someone to cheat. [more inside]
posted by signal at 8:23 AM PST - 13 comments

How long is the "chain" of moving, when people move?

We're moving to a new house, and the people in that house are moving somewhere ... and someone is moving into our place, and probably someone is moving into the place they left... How long, typically, is one of these "chains" of moving, which are terminated by vacancies on each end?
posted by dmd at 8:05 AM PST - 17 comments

Best methods and resources for learning Swedish?

I have decided that one day, sooner rather than later, I should like to move to Sweden. In order to get a job there, it would probably help to learn the language. [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia at 7:07 AM PST - 11 comments

Seeking a decent psychiatrist <1 mile of Farragut North or West

Can you recommend a decent psychiatrist in DC, within a 1-mile radius of either Farragut North or Farragut West (i.e., near K Street NW)? I have Cigna, however I am willing to go out of network. Thank you in advance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:34 AM PST - 2 comments

Me and You and That Guy

I can't stand my sister's boyfriend. He's coming for Christmas. They're inseparable. Now what? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:34 AM PST - 47 comments

How should I act around my girlfriend's coworker?

How should I handle social situations with my girlfriend's creepy coworker? [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 6:13 AM PST - 21 comments

How do I make peace with the stress of contributing to society?

Having a career is hard work (Duh). But I didn't know it would be this... all-consuming. How can I stay happy and stress-free when I suddenly have a tiny fraction of the "me time" I used to have? [more inside]
posted by johnpoe50 at 6:10 AM PST - 18 comments

What has happened to the past perfect tense?

I've recently noticed an irritating trend in English-language writing: sections that really should be written in the past perfect tense are instead in the simple past tense. I've seen this more in American English than in British English, but that might just be confirmation bias. Is there a reason for this, for example a new style of teaching in schools or universities? And is it really new, or am I just looking for things to get annoyed about? [more inside]
posted by daisyk at 2:42 AM PST - 34 comments

2nd-degree burn: supplies for pain management and healing?

2nd-degree burns: what helped you recover from and care for yours? Any advice as I prep to leave tomorrow for a vacation where I won't have access to any big pharmacies/stores? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 2:09 AM PST - 20 comments

Relationships - how to decide if they're worth the effort?

I haven't been in an LTR in years. I'm in my early thirties, strongly introverted and don't have many friends, so its not a surprise that I haven't met "the one" yet. Everyone I know seems to be getting married and having babies, which has prompted me to wonder if I'd like to do the same. To be honest I'm not sure if it is worth the effort of dressing up, and going on lots of dates to find a guy, and then having to maintain a relationship (I'm not good with people) or whether I should accept that I am different to the others, and just focus on being happily single. For the singletons: did you ever consciously decide to stay single, or did it just happen? If you decided, how did you make that choice? For the coupled-up: Have you ever considered being single long-term, and if so why did you reject that idea? Did you consciously choose to find a partner or did you just meet them by accident (e.g. online dating vs meeting when you least expected it) Hope that all makes sense!
posted by EatMyHat at 1:22 AM PST - 29 comments

December 13

Would you (female) stay for a few weeks at a co-ed "share" airbnb?

It's someone's house that they turned into an exclusively-Airbnb house where several rooms are available for short to long term rent. The owner has one of the rooms, and stays there every other day or so. If you were a young female, do you think you would be generally comfortable staying in this kind of place for a few weeks? [more inside]
posted by pelu at 11:42 PM PST - 14 comments

Are women supposed to bring up the commitment talk?

I've been "seeing" someone for three weeks now, and he seems interested... I think... but hasn't mentioned anything regarding a relationship or exclusivity yet. Should I bring it up or wait it out? [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 11:41 PM PST - 27 comments

.io TLD for a personal/family website?

How do people generally feel toward the .io TLD for personal or family websites? I'm aware that a lot of techy startups use .io, but I'm not a startup. I know that .com is preferred overall, especially for commercial use. But what if the domain name is perfect, except for the TLD? [more inside]
posted by Kevin Sanders at 10:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me pick an inexpensive standing desk seat

I moved from an Aeron knock off that was beautiful and comfortable to a adjustable bar stool when I realized over time, the chair was the source of terrible back pain. So now I want to get a seat that is more ergonomic but I can't make up my mind. I want to sit erect. I want a place to put my feet if I choose. I want it to adjust up to at least 32 inches. I want the seat angle to be adjustable. All of these do that but I want to make the best decision. Here are my choices: 1, 2, 3. I've narrowed the selection down to these three. They are in my price range and aren't too ugly. I spend a lot of time at my PC and on the phone but I don't want my back to hurt anymore.
posted by CollectiveMind at 10:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Help Me Build a Solar System

I want to build a solar system with a decent amount of verisimilitude, and the math and physics are killing me. [more inside]
posted by Deoridhe at 10:10 PM PST - 4 comments

A non-white Christmas?

Are there Christmas/holiday films or TV specials that star non-white protagonists? I was watching a holiday ad for The Criterion Collection on Hulu and was nonplussed at how white the casts are for all the classic holiday films. I mean, I have a soft spot for Home Alone as a child of the Chicago suburbs, but I'd love to show nieces and nephews and cousins more than whitebread suburban holiday cheer. Are there Christmas films featuring people of color (foreign or American) you would recommend? And if foreign, hopefully subtitled? I can poke around for Korean films, but am otherwise linguistically stuck with the English language.
posted by spamandkimchi at 9:54 PM PST - 23 comments

Migration naturalisation frustration

Father: had a British passport he let expire. Grandfather: British citizen. Grandmother: married him pre-1949, automatically making her a citizen. Me: Australian national, NZ resident, wants to live in the UK. Please help me make sense of what I can apply for! [more inside]
posted by monster truck weekend at 9:45 PM PST - 9 comments

A sign of the times?

I just had someone tell me that it is correct to close a letter with “Signed, [Mr. Letter Writer].” It’s the use of the word “Signed” that I find strange and just wrong. I have never in my life seen this and am having a hard time believing it is acceptable. Can anyone enlighten me?
posted by Dolley at 7:04 PM PST - 36 comments

Help me find my utopia!

Living in NYC is wearing me down... Or maybe I'm just slowing down... So I typed up a wish list of my dream hometown and thought I'd see whether any such place exists or even comes close to it. Ha. I realize my list is a bit silly since it's not completely thought out but boy I'd snap out of this major funk I've been in if such an area existed! ...or comes close to it? [more inside]
posted by peasncarrots at 7:01 PM PST - 30 comments

Good Toyota shop in Los Angeles for maintenance and repairs

Recently moved to the South Bay area of Los Angeles County and I am looking for a good place to take my Toyota Corolla for any maintenance and repairs it may need. [more inside]
posted by jayder at 6:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Preventing heartburn before a large meal

Asking for a friend: He's going out for a large meal that has given him heartburn in the past. He wants to have the meal anyway. In case it's important, it consists of a steak, potatoes and some vegetables. Is there anything he can do to stop heartburn before it comes? Non-medication options are appreciated (foods he can eat beforehand, anything behavioral, natural remedies, etc).
posted by jet_pack_in_a_can at 6:07 PM PST - 14 comments

Is it best to continue my career in academia, or take a different path?

I am a 25 year old woman, and handing in my thesis tonight for a Master’s in English. I am at a crossroads in my life, and it’s making me very confused. My original plan was to go on to complete a Ph. D and become a college professor of English, while working as an adjunct instructor to gain teaching experience. But with the expense of living being what it is, as well as the student debt I’m in, I’m not sure if it’s worth it. Not only will a Doctoral program take me to greater debt, but working as an adjunct wont pay very well at all, and doesn’t come with benefits. I would need to take a handful of other part-time jobs to supplement the adjunct salary, just to pay the bills. [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 at 5:00 PM PST - 30 comments

How Do I Explain My Situation To my Mechanic?

I know I need some maintenance on my Volvo, I haven't kept it up perfectly, but I don't know how to ask for what I want without appearing as a complete mark to my mechanic. [more inside]
posted by Hennimore at 4:47 PM PST - 20 comments

Where's the mess to go?

My family owns a Mazda 5, which suits our needs. However, there is stuff all over the floor. What do you do to organize the car so it's passable (i.e., kids can get to the way back without wading through books)? [more inside]
posted by China Grover at 3:59 PM PST - 21 comments

Chinese translation, please

Asking for a friend, can someone translate this chinese frame, please?
posted by jgwong at 3:50 PM PST - 2 comments

What VOIP services play well with CenturyLink DSL?

I'd like to move from using a land line to a VOIP service over my CenturyLink DSL. I'm afraid the service will suck. How can I evaluate this before committing to porting my phone number? [more inside]
posted by diode at 3:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Still looking for a printer.

I tried this last week but got no response, so I'm going to ask again in a somewhat more general way. I'm looking for a good photo printer that is reliable, takes lots of different paper sizes, doesn't cost a ton, and is relatively cheap to run. [more inside]
posted by Scientist at 3:17 PM PST - 7 comments

The house that no one wants, but I'm stuck with

I'm in a pickle - I own a house that I've been renting out for several years but things recently soured with the tenants and property managers and it is now vacant. Listed for sale but market is painfully slow - should I hold out for a buyer or list it for rent again? [more inside]
posted by photo guy at 3:15 PM PST - 10 comments

RC Cars/Trucks for the yard

I need recommendations for remote control trucks that will work in the yard. [more inside]
posted by Talia Devane at 3:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Coolest sound toys for young children?

My 1-year old niece was entranced by my bluetooth speaker last time I visited. What are some cool sound toys for kids? [more inside]
posted by wemayfreeze at 3:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Need ideas for ball shaped party foods!

My friend is having a Christmas party with a ball theme. Fancy clothes, sparkly decorations... and ball shaped foods. What should I make? [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 2:59 PM PST - 23 comments

What to put in a picture frame for a kid?

I bought a picture frame for my 7 year old, now I don't know what to put in it. Would a kid like a photo or art or something else best? [more inside]
posted by Margalo Epps at 2:43 PM PST - 14 comments

The ex is reaching out...

A few years ago, my ex started avoiding me due to his new girlfriend not being okay with us hanging out. We have a lot of mutual friends, and this created a very awkward social dynamic for the last three years. He recently reached out to me via email and I'm not sure how to respond... [more inside]
posted by ohmy at 2:41 PM PST - 32 comments

Help a Picky Traveler Plan a San Diego Trip

I'm planning a trip to San Diego in early February. Not sightseeing, just being somewhere else and getting out of the Michigan cold for a while. [more inside]
posted by still_wears_a_hat at 2:26 PM PST - 6 comments

Dessert bar disaster

My hello dolly bars are a delicious but crumbly mess. How do I salvage them? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 1:54 PM PST - 13 comments

Color-coding caramels

Where can I find colored or decorated wax paper for wrapping homemade candies? Alternate wrapping media accepted. [more inside]
posted by maryr at 1:22 PM PST - 7 comments

Vintage Honda motorcycle manuals?

Incredibly-specific-gift-filter: What is/where can I get the best manual for 1977 Honda CB750Fs? [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 12:56 PM PST - 3 comments

What is going on in my mouth ?

I just discovered a hard, white, roughly quarter-inch lump in my mouth, just behind my incisors on my jaw. It is painless, and I have a dentist appointment on Tuesday, but I am curious and slightly freaking out as to what this could be. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 12:23 PM PST - 17 comments

Suggestions on how to forget forgetting?

I have a tendency to automatically dissociate from/"forget" things that are stressful or anxiety-provoking. How can I better focus on these scary things so that I can better address and resolve them? [more inside]
posted by rhooke at 11:48 AM PST - 11 comments

Breaking the usual song structure

I've been on a massive songwriting binge recently but can't seem to break out of the Verse-Chorus- Verse-Bridge-Chorus structure. I'm looking for examples of high quality pop songs that really break that mold. What songs/songwriters can you suggest that are creative with structure in a pop context? Some examples inside: [more inside]
posted by BlerpityBloop at 11:27 AM PST - 24 comments

How to mend a broken 5+ year friendship

Friend and I had a blow out 4 months ago. We've been friends before that for 5+ years. She's ignored my previous initiatives to reach out and try to apologize and talk things out. Is there any hope? Or should I just leave this alone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:25 AM PST - 21 comments

What do I do/need to diagram images on a Mac?

How do I draw lines on a .pdf or .jpg image on a recent Apple computer? [more inside]
posted by NiceParisParamus at 11:15 AM PST - 12 comments

What do I do with "fans" on Facebook?

I'm lucky enough to be experiencing some success in my career, and people are adding me on Facebook who don't know me. I want to communicate with these people as I appreciate their support, but how do I do this in the best and safest way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:06 AM PST - 12 comments

Fun school club ideas?

I'm a high school teacher and I want to start a club for my students that's just about having fun. [more inside]
posted by figaro at 11:04 AM PST - 12 comments

"This towns got secrets you can't possibly comprehend!"

It's a common trope in literature, film, etc. where somebody warns another person: "You can't possibly grasp the secret that's going on here!" Which, of course, raises a mystery that an author's got to resolve, usually anticlimactically. What are instances of stories which pay off on those juicy teasers? i.e., stories in which the thing that our protagonist "can't possibly comprehend" is in fact astonishing, unexpected, and totally rewarding for the reader? (Bonus points for avoiding cosmic horror, unnecessary violence, sexual savagery.)
posted by Rory Marinich at 10:40 AM PST - 66 comments

Mama I do it! Mama you do it!

I have a 2 year old (26 months to be very precise). We have entered the phase of "I do it!", which is okay in and of itself, but a pattern is starting to appear. He wants to, say, put on his coat himself. Great! Usually one of 2 things happens: he puts it on himself (about 10% of the time), or as soon as I hand him the coat he insists that I do it. So I start to do it, but I get a tearful "MAMA I DO IT!" He creates an impasse where I can't help him but he refuses to do what he says he wants to do. [more inside]
posted by DrGirlfriend at 10:35 AM PST - 29 comments

Help me make a kickass gourmet dinner for my parents in Baltimore/DC

I will be visiting my family in the Baltimore/DC area for the holidays. As a present I would like to make my parents a really fabulous, gourmet dinner. Please point me to the stores with the best selections of seafood, veggies, and cheese! [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 10:10 AM PST - 10 comments

Worth springing for Macbook upgrades?

Is it worth paying for the upgrades on a new Macbook Pro? [more inside]
posted by Nightman at 10:01 AM PST - 23 comments

How often do anti-depressants cause permanent sexual dysfunction?

What is the actual chance of developing permanent sexual dysfunction as a result of taking an anti-depressant--meaning that the sexual dysfunction persists for let's say a year or more after the person has stopped taking the drug? [more inside]
posted by Koray at 9:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Small business IT Support

So my wife has a small business (5 employees, 3 in the USA and 2 in China), and I currently do IT support for them "for free". I'd like to get out of doing this for several reasons. [more inside]
posted by escher at 9:34 AM PST - 0 comments

What is the most ridiculous thing I can have delivered in Manhattan?

For my friend's birthday I want to send the most absurd, ostentatious thing possible to her office in New York. What is that thing? [more inside]
posted by Aizkolari at 9:07 AM PST - 45 comments

Master's program options for Geography/GIS undergrad

Do any of you know what my options might be as a Geography/GIS undergrad looking for Grad programs? And I guess more specifically, can you all think of any programs/occupations that use GIS to a certain extent as a supplementary tool rather than the sole tool? [more inside]
posted by at 7:49 AM PST - 24 comments

Help me find a good pattern for knitting my husband an infinity scarf

I am a fairly beginner knitter: I can knit, purl, decrease, increase, probably a few other things. I want to knit my husband an infinity scarf along the lines of this scarf in terms of size and length. Please help me figure out a really easy pattern so that I can do this without tears and drama. [more inside]
posted by Viola at 6:37 AM PST - 12 comments

Calling all interior designers

We're getting our kitchen counter measured today for a new black Silestone countertop. We need to make a decision before they get here: what kind of edge bevel to use. I'm wondering if there is a consensus on a 45 degree bevel versus squared off (or squared off with a very small rounded-off edge)? We don't want it to look dated. The counter being replaced is a simple large 8'x26"' rectangle -- no weird angles. Thanks!
posted by PSB at 6:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Gay travel in India: bad idea?

So the Indian Supreme Court has made gay sex illegal in India again, punishable by up to life imprisonment. Western governments are duly amending their travel warnings. But is there any realistic threat to gay foreigners? [more inside]
posted by dontjumplarry at 4:05 AM PST - 9 comments

What is the best calendar, to do, and notes app for my situation?

I have macs, and several iOS devices (including iPads) What would be the best setup for using a calendar function, to do function, and notes? [more inside]
posted by hal_c_on at 3:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Someone else's grief: office edition

My boss' mother is dying. It's not about me, but: what am I not doing that I should be doing? What have I not even thought of? [more inside]
posted by terretu at 2:49 AM PST - 16 comments

What is the equivalent of Paint for Mac?

I just got a Macbook Pro and would like to be able to draw simple diagrams with shapes and text fields. Are there any Mac programs or apps equivalent to PC's Paint? My search online has brought up Paintbrush which appears to be a very old program. The new ones in the apps store are either really expensive or poorly reviewed if they're free. Thanks!
posted by grak88 at 1:17 AM PST - 12 comments

Songs for those who wear their belts low

Suggest great karaoke songs, for male or female voices, in the same vocal range as Tracy Chapman? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 12:00 AM PST - 14 comments

December 12

Surprise ball for a teenager?

What kinds of smallish or flat things can I wrap into a surprise ball that teenagers would like? [more inside]
posted by hellochula at 9:34 PM PST - 14 comments

a little twlonger

Is there some sort of online venue that's midway in concept between twitter and a blog? [more inside]
posted by threeants at 9:30 PM PST - 9 comments

How much is my dentist upselling me on dental implant restorations?

A few months ago my dentist quoted me $6,000 for two front lateral incisor implant restorations as well as new abutments (she claims that the old abutments aren't very good.) So we're talking $6,000 for just the porcelain crowns and new abutments, as I had the surgery to put the posts in years ago. I haven't gotten a second opinion yet. Part of the problem is that I let them do the casts and make me a temporary flipper, thinking the implant restorations would only cost a grand or two, then she hit me with this estimate. I am in this fix due to a botched restoration with an extremely shady dentist about a decade ago. I would like to hear what people have been quoted for similar procedures (the restoration/crown part of the process, in the SF Bay Area) and if anyone can recommend a truly sterling dentist. [more inside]
posted by ziggly at 9:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Oops! Did I spill my crazy on you? Help me be a better online dater!

First date excitement, late-night texting, boundary-pushing, and empty promises of a second date. Drama ensues, all in the span of a few weeks. Did I bring this on myself, was this guy bad news, and how do I tell the difference in the future? [more inside]
posted by mini apple at 9:26 PM PST - 49 comments

Looking for a volunteer food prep opportunity in NYC

I'd like to put in a few dozen to a hundred hours over the next year practicing cooking large amounts of food---far too large for me to buy and eat myself. Is there a place in New York where I could volunteer a few hours each weekend doing scutwork in somebody's kitchen? More specific criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 9:02 PM PST - 5 comments

US Consumer Electronics Contract Manufacturing: How do I get started?

I am having issues with our overseas electronics contract manufacturer. I would like to collect proposals for domestic manufacturing, but I'm not sure where to start. At this stage, I am most concerned about assembled PCB costs. We have a critical semiconductor component that our overseas CM has sourced at well under 50% of what I can find that component at, and it's making other proposals difficult. This is for a product that will sell in the $25-$30 range, and we expect an initial order quantity of 20-50k units. I could just cold email manufacturers, but is there a better way?
posted by trevyn at 7:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Can I eat this? Expired treacle in Christmas pudding

I bought brand-new treacle today, but accidentally used the old expired tin ""BB END MAY 2012 DISPOSE OF ON EXPIRY" instead of the new one. Nothing looked strange when I used it; I only noticed what I had done when I found the new tin with the seal still on it. The Christmas pudding will have been steamed for almost 5 hours. How dangerous might it be to eat it? [more inside]
posted by sueinnyc at 4:50 PM PST - 9 comments

How would your fix your EMR?

Medical Professionals: If somebody gave your office $20,000 to improve your medical records systems, what would you want done? What don't you like about the way your office's system works now? What are features you do like and want to keep? [more inside]
posted by Jon_Evil at 4:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I keep my resignation secret?

I sent my resignation a few days ago after several years in the company. Historically people either disappeared without a word if fired or they were requested to keep their resignation secret and announced their resignation in the very last day. I found it to be extremely uncomfortable doing that. [more inside]
posted by Sharcho at 3:46 PM PST - 26 comments

My hands and wrists hurt. Help?

My hands and my wrists really hurt doing any activity that engages them, I don't see my doctor for until December 29th, and I have things I need to get done involving my hands. Looking for some ideas/short term solutions to keep functioning until I see the doc next in a couple weeks. [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 3:38 PM PST - 17 comments

Who do you hire to build a simple prototype item?

Where do I begin looking to hire a person as cheaply as possible to build a prototype for a very simple invention I thought of? It will only be for me and not to try and pitch or have made en masse. It extremely simple and involves a containment unit and timed lock but I would need to explain my idea and have somebody build a spiffy looking one. [more inside]
posted by Jenna Roadman at 3:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Is there a word for "one word", like monosyllabic means "one syllable"?

Is there a word for "one word", like monosyllabic means "one syllable"?
posted by mikeand1 at 3:13 PM PST - 13 comments

Migraines and hospital night shift mitigation

My friend is in nursing, working in an ER right now, and also finishing up a degree to be a nurse practitioner, with intention to work in a hospital emergency dept. She suffers from migraines, and whenever she's worked a nightshift, she's been hit with a terrible one at 3 or 4 in the morning. It seems like new hires in every position she's found are expected to take on regular night shifts, and that even later on they'll be expected to do that a few times each month. Is there any hope of getting hired in an ER at that level with a stipulation that drastically limits the number of night shifts she has to endure, or is there really no recourse other than to leave the emergency department in order to work. (In her present job, she's been doing regular 12-hour daytime shifts, which has been fine.)
posted by spbmp at 2:50 PM PST - 10 comments

My son is struggling with depression/unemployment. How to help?

My son, a late-20s college graduate, got fired from a job out-of-country and was forced to come home; he has been staying at my place (I am a single parent). I was happy to have him home and figured he would stay for a month or so then be out on his own again, but it has been 3 months with few signs of him actively job hunting. He has confided in me that he is unsure of what to do with his life, and is feeling overwhelmed and depressed. I would appreciate suggestions on how to keep him motivated on finding a job, and also ideas on how he can go about deciding on a career path. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:50 PM PST - 42 comments

Looking for a good webhost that will let me run Unix processes

I'm in need of a new webhost, and I need the following: SSH/SFTP, PHP support, ability to run background processes (namely the Unix version of Dropbox), webmail forwarding, and monthly payments. I don't need much space (1 GB would likely be plenty) or bandwidth (1 GB/mo? maybe?), and the Dropbox process is literally the only thing I would have running. What's my best, cheapest option? Thanks!
posted by reductiondesign at 2:43 PM PST - 16 comments

Mostly Just Bothered and Bewildered

My boyfriend internet usage is suggestive of an interest in escorts and other activities to an extent that bothers me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:50 PM PST - 41 comments

Career-switching in your 50s: Please share your experiences

I'm 52 and thinking about investing in a Masters Degree to learn computer forensics. I'd be interested to hear from people to attempted a career left-turn that late, and also from people in this field re: the feasibility of my goals. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Where to get a REAL Santa suit?

Where to get a REAL Santa suit? I don't want a costume! I want something I can wear as I work outside in the winter, real functional clothes that happen to be red and lined with white fur. [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 1:32 PM PST - 7 comments

Allentown PA / Bethlehem PA - Indoor Playground or Children's Museum?

I need to entertain my 2.5 year old for several hours this weekend while my wife attends a bridal shower in Macungie, PA - which is right outside of Allentown PA, here's a Google Maps link of the area. Can anyone suggest an indoor playground or children's museum or something else that my kid might enjoy? Something within a 30 minute drive?
posted by exhilaration at 1:28 PM PST - 6 comments

3D CAD for complete beginner?

I had an idea for a product. I'd like to make a few prototypes using a 3d printer. I am utterly clueless on where to start. [more inside]
posted by Marky at 12:39 PM PST - 14 comments

Give more quitting notice during the holidays?

I'm likely going to be able to accept a new job (Yes, no resigning until I have a written offer, I know) but I am concerned about giving only 2 weeks notice during the holidays. For example, if I resigned 12/17 and my last day is 1/31, no one will be working for most of those two weeks. I supervise 6-7 other social workers and an intern; if I leave during a break I worry that they will not have A. heard about it and B. been able to sort of make any coverage plans. I know I'm not irreplaceable; I just don't want to burn bridges. [more inside]
posted by ShadePlant at 12:38 PM PST - 11 comments

The job market in LA

I'm making plans to move to Los Angeles and I very likely will have someone else accompanying me who is also feeling the desire to move to Los Angeles with me as well (he went with me on a week long vacation - please note the previous AskMeFi for better reference [more inside]
posted by antgly at 12:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Therapist recommendation for OC/LA area

I need recommendation for a good therapist working in Orange County or LA. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:25 PM PST - 1 comment

Help Me Overcome My Prejudice

Posting this anonymously, as this is a pretty shameful thing to fess up to. But please bear in mind that I realize this is irrational, that prejudice is born of ignorance, and that I do want to work through it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:25 PM PST - 25 comments

Do you know of any weird music/sound creation programs??

i've been scouring the web for free and weird sound generators, sequencers etc... i've found a few interesting things, and i know others exist. i will sample a few i've found below, can you share any you might've found? i would like to use this stuff for ambient/electronica music i create. :D looking for experimental and new ways of creating digital music. highc synth zone tune toys preferably for windows... :D
posted by modbom at 12:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Thinking of moving to S. Oregon (Meford/Ashland) ... Advice?

There is a possibility I may be getting a job that would require a relocation to southern Oregon (Medford/Ashland area) With a few exceptions, I've grown up and lived almost my entire life in the Chicago area. Can you help recommend a community or neighborhood? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by zooropa at 11:52 AM PST - 15 comments

Rihanna without Rihanna

I'm doing a mix CD challenge with my friends, and want to win. [more inside]
posted by spunweb at 11:27 AM PST - 19 comments

Lorem Ipsum mug for my boss (anyone read Latin?) and gift advice.

My boss is retiring. He used to teach Latin. I made some webpage mockups a few months ago and he thought the lorem ipsum (dummy filler text) was very amusing. I'd like to get him a Lorem Ipsum coffee mug for a retirement/holiday gift. [more inside]
posted by hotelechozulu at 11:16 AM PST - 15 comments

Any problems with changing brands of blood glucose meters?

I'm a person with diabetes and I have my blood glucose data going back for more than a year. If I change blood glucose meters now will I still have a basis for comparison with my old data? [more inside]
posted by Rob Rockets at 11:09 AM PST - 7 comments

Cheapest site for photo or art mugs?

I have some artwork that I want to put on coffee mugs for friends. Though I see a few DIY sites, I am not sure what resin to use to hold up in microwave so would like your recommendations on commercial sites. I may eventually do bulk orders if I decide to sell so if you have any recommendations that would be different for bulk orders, I am game for those suggestions as well. Vistaprint was around $20-25 after all was said and done. Thanks, and enjoy your weekend.
posted by snap_dragon at 11:08 AM PST - 9 comments

How to create short, masking url for single .html file in Dropbox?

(Sorry, I'm Internet-challenged:) I keep a small website (essentially it's one html file) in my Dropbox folder as a minimalist way to share my various weird projects with friends. I like everything about this solution except the fact, that website's address is this ugly​u/​yadayayda​ydyadyada/​something/​somethingelse.html Is there a way to mask this address from showing up in browser and replace it with something more elegant and free? Or is this some next level stuff?
posted by desultory_banyan at 11:02 AM PST - 20 comments

Transferring Gmail data to a new account

On Dec 31st my primary email, which I've had for almost 15 years, is converting from a free service to one with an outrageous annual fee! I need to know if there is a way to transfer all of the emails and their attachments to another email address. [more inside]
posted by dgaicun at 10:53 AM PST - 7 comments

What do I need to know about filing a car insurance claim?

In November I purchased a 1985 Volkswagen Vanagon. Two days ago it was hit in the middle of the night. They drove off at the time, but came back the next morning and gave their insurance information. [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 10:43 AM PST - 8 comments

What shall I have for dinner tonight?

I'm out of ideas for something delicious and simple to cook tonight, but which does not require many ingredients. Assuming I have all the basics in my cupboard (onions, garlic, pasta, rice, potatoes, eggs, milk, herbs and spices etc) what should I make for dinner tonight? [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 10:18 AM PST - 23 comments

Send me away, please.

I left my holiday vacation planning until the last minute and I'm at my wits' end as to where I can take a warm, relaxing vacation at any time between Dec. 21st and Jan. 5th without spending my life's savings. Any ideas or frugality resources? [more inside]
posted by dynamiiiite at 10:01 AM PST - 10 comments

Avengers inspiration: How do I get a body like a Marvel film actor?

Hello, I'm living off savings mostly at the moment, as I concentrate on my Chinese studies. This should continue for about 1 - 2 more years. I have some spare time at the moment, so I'd really like to improve my fitness. I have the time to commit to full time plan for a few months. [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 10:01 AM PST - 17 comments

Phoenix > Sedona > Grand Canyon?

What will the weather be like on a Phoenix > Sedona > Grand Canyon trip in early-mid February? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 10:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Videos for the office TV?

My office has had a giant TV sitting unused for ages. Today, we got a Chromecast to plug into it to get some use out of it. What would be some things we could play that would be nice background video? [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 9:51 AM PST - 18 comments

What's the best way to prevent sports injuries?

Changing play style, preventative exercises, diet, etc? [more inside]
posted by randomnity at 9:28 AM PST - 10 comments

Put it in the fridge. No, not THAT part.

As I was leaving for work yesterday, I instructed my mother to "help yourself to the oatmeal; afterwards, put it in the downstairs fridge." This morning, as I opened the downstairs fridge, I discovered she'd put the actual slow cooker appliance into the fridge along with, instead of just, the ceramic insert with the food. Will this harm the slow cooker? [more inside]
posted by Zelos at 9:03 AM PST - 14 comments

Cover me

I want a definitive list of hit songs that were covers or written by other artists. More specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 8:54 AM PST - 47 comments

A pirate's favorite programming language... and mine too?

I'm a daily MATLAB user for data analysis, and fairly fluent with most toolboxes, including Parallel Computing. I know I need to learn something new, though.* (MATLAB is great for prototyping but unwieldy for real data-crunching.) I'm taking a class (Bayesian stat methods) starting in January based around R. What's the best resource to get started with R for someone like me? [more inside]
posted by supercres at 8:35 AM PST - 14 comments

Bleaching teeth – no food or drink afterward, literally?

Can I bleach my teeth late afternoon or early evening, and then eat or drink later without unbleaching? [more inside]
posted by Lesser Shrew at 8:29 AM PST - 6 comments

Do I NEED a personal trainer or is there an online resource?

Want to work out to facilitate a great deal of weight loss. Currently "holiday poor" and can't afford a personal trainer, but want to maximize my workout. Member of a gym. Is there a good web site that can help me plan workout routines and give me examples of workouts to do? [more inside]
posted by arniec at 8:27 AM PST - 6 comments


I'm looking for recommendations for twee art. You can define this as broadly as you like, and if you want to include how you are defining the word, feel free. But I am looking for art that you actually like that is nonetheless decidedly twee. [more inside]
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 8:23 AM PST - 51 comments

Smart detective fiction?

What are some particularly intelligent or well-written novels in the suspense/mystery/detective fiction genre? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 8:14 AM PST - 55 comments

Bowling shoes or tricks to make rented shoes slide?

Should I buy bowling shoes, or are there any tricks to make sure the rented shoes slide? [more inside]
posted by czytm at 8:12 AM PST - 8 comments

I just got my masters in Biophysics and want to leave. Should I?

I'm in a Ph. D. program in Biophysics. I'm getting paid to be here. I've joined a lab and finished the classes, but I still have at least 2 and a half long years of research to go. I don't care for my project, I don't care for the town I'm in, and I don't even know if I care about science anymore. Finally someone noticed and I've been told I need to step up my game. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:10 AM PST - 22 comments

I just want a hot shower!

We have a hot water problem and I would love to have an idea of what the problem and solution is before wasting a bunch of money on a plumber. [more inside]
posted by katers890 at 7:58 AM PST - 22 comments

Things are getting steamy - boiler exhaust safety?

New high efficiency boilers installed - great! But what exactly is in the condensate? [more inside]
posted by analog at 7:28 AM PST - 5 comments

SugarCRM, CiviCRM or something else?

We’re a new and fast growing non-profit makerspace (community workshop & art studio) that’s looking for a free CRM. We’re currently considering SugarCRM Community and CivicCRM and we’d like you to help us choose one, or tell us about others we should be considering. [more inside]
posted by 14580 at 7:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Help! Setting up an Obeya - any resources to get started?

I have been given the responsibility to set up an Obeya for one of the product lines for a Fortune 50 manufacturing company. I am having trouble locating resources to help me get started. Can anyone point me in the direction of good resources or share any experience with setting up an Obeya? I need help! Thanks!
posted by anonymous at 6:58 AM PST - 2 comments

How to put a value on free?

I run a daily free (tips appreciated) walking tour and would like some ideas on how to work out how much it is worth as a business. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:58 AM PST - 9 comments

What board games are popular with the kids these days?

Yesterday, my gentleman friend brought home two cards from our community center "angel tree" - where you can buy holiday gifts for a neighborhood kid in need of some. The problem is, the cards are maddeningly opaque - they each just say the kids (boy age 13, girl age 11) want 'board games'. What should we get them? [more inside]
posted by catesbie at 6:50 AM PST - 38 comments

Finding all my annotated PDFs amongst the clutter

I have a lot of PDFs and some of them contain my notes and annotations. How can I single out the annotated files without opening them all, one by one? [more inside]
posted by bollockovnikov at 6:05 AM PST - 2 comments

I'm starting out with "I Saw Her Standing There"

My baby's turning seventeen and I want to surprise her with a mix CD. We've been joking about Stevie Nicks' "Edge of Seventeen" which has oddly been haunting our airwaves. What can I add? She's my music geek kid so the more obscure the better. Please note the title because I can think of no better opening than "She was just seventeen, you know what I mean..."
posted by readery at 5:47 AM PST - 42 comments

Is there any good William Blake tourism to be had in London?

I'm headed to the UK for the first time, and would like to do some sightseeing related to William Blake. Is there anything worth seeing? I've haven't found anything apart from Poet's Corner and this very dodgy seeming walking tour. Alternatively, can anybody advise me as to which museums in the UK are best for viewing Blake's original prints?
posted by HeroZero at 5:27 AM PST - 9 comments

CABBAGE SOUP? My favourite!!

Comforting, hearty vegetable recpies OR good veggie snacks for carrying around with me Difficulty level: Low starch vegetables only please [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 5:12 AM PST - 18 comments

Alternatives to Movable Type

Is there an alternative to Movable Type that is a decent open source publishing blog platform that can be fully programmed to be graphically modified and inserted into a custom website? [more inside]
posted by miss tea at 4:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Harry Potter fanfic recommendations

I'm looking for good (as in well-written and canon-compliant) and preferably complete or regularly updating fics that expand the HP series. They can be prequels or sequels or depict "missing" time in between the books. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 4:39 AM PST - 3 comments

How to have a life long close relationship with your kids ?

Recently seeing a lot of disappointment from parents/ grown children regarding their parents/ grown children. Both sides disillusioned with the difference between who they want/ need the other to be/do and who they actually are/ do. What has kept you close to your parents/ children? [more inside]
posted by oink at 4:00 AM PST - 44 comments

releasing counseling record to insurance? any bad impact?

In order to get reimburstment, I was requested by my insurance to provide medical record from my doctor. I'm wondering is there any bad impact in the future to release these confidentical (psychiatric)counselling histrory to insurance company? They do not always request this. This is the first time. I do not know why they are requesting it this time. I guess maybe because I submitted the claim for several visits all together which is a large bill that they are not willing to pay? Any my doctor is kind of tight on this saying that he had never done this before and unless I sign a release and come to pick up myself he would not do it. His emphasis on "comfidencial" made me think about is there any bad impact if I release this to insurance company? Will it be in my public record? will I be quoted higher premium in the future? Will these be recorded as pre-existing conditions? Does it worth it to give up reimburstment to keep record from insurance? Thanks.
posted by pack2themoon at 3:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Exterminator X to the edge of panic

We're renting a mid-50s house in south Minneapolis and have an unwanted guest (mouse). Our cat decided today was a good day to try and become a hero mouser but failed miserably so we spent this morning tearing our living room apart trying to catch the mouse she captured to show us but failed to kill. We're calling the exterminator this morning to get someone out today and need to be prepared. Help us! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:43 AM PST - 15 comments

Would you take the 'better' job or wait for the 'perfect' job?

I think I'm about to be offered a new job. It's the type of work I'd like to do. But it's not my 'perfect' job and it wouldn't mean a payrise. Should I wait? . [more inside]
posted by Encipher at 2:24 AM PST - 10 comments

December 11

Who was this famous prankster?

I am looking for the name of a famous prankster, who was active perhaps in the 70s and 80s. Here is what I remember. He would dress up in a New York Yankees uniform and try to sneak into the annual team photo. I believe he was successful twice. [more inside]
posted by LarryC at 11:33 PM PST - 5 comments

bathroom difficulties...

What is happening to our bathroom drywall? [more inside]
posted by artdrectr at 10:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a Specific Show On Nickleodeon

I was pranked about 2 months ago for a Nickleodeon TV show and I want to see if my piece actually aired. I forgot the name of the show. What I do remember is that it aired on Saturday either in the late morning or afternoon and pranks were a regular part of the programming. Any help?
posted by goalyeehah at 9:40 PM PST - 7 comments

A better Dappered for affordable men's streetwear.

A previous question about affordable men's style generated a recommendation for Dappered. Dappered has helped in a couple of cases, but its glib self-importance, aspirational posturing, and adolescent dating advice (from a real, live woman!) make me feel like I'm reading a 19-year-old's advice for the varsity jacket crowd. What are some alternatives that do stick to a similar, relatively sensible budget and don't descend into tedious aspirational window-shopping, as many other fashion and consumer design blogs do?
posted by Nomyte at 9:33 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me source a delicious yet terribly obscure honey!

I recall with aching longing the taste of a honey that is only sourced from wild hives up in the Atlas Mountains in Morocco. Help me find it, or something like it, in the US. [more inside]
posted by Dante Riordan at 9:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Please suggest a nice tv show with wizards and fancy dresses!

I'm looking for a good TV show for my parents to watch that has at least a few seasons available for streaming on Netflix. They really like medieval, wizardy, lords and ladies types of shows, and period dramas in general. Nothing too complicated or upsetting, though. [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 7:57 PM PST - 37 comments

Private Long Lease?

Pros and Cons of a Private Long Lease? I'm looking at property that must be purchased via this method (rather than fee simple or gov. long lease). Anyone have any pertinent information? [more inside]
posted by jne1813 at 7:22 PM PST - 0 comments

MAC OSX Driver Download needed for SATA docking station.

Because the cd driver for my SATA docking station does not fit into my iMac (Mac OS X Version 10.7.5), I am on the lookout for the correct driver download. I cannot find one for MAC. Here are links to the unit I own: and [more inside]
posted by captainsohler at 6:48 PM PST - 12 comments

Superman toys for a four-year-old

Ayo- My four-year-old niece thinks Superman is pretty bitchin', and I'm thinking about maybe getting her Superman-related toys for Xmas. Are there any good Superman toys for someone her age that might be educational? Failing Educational, what about Superman toys that are just rad beyond belief?
posted by Greg Nog at 6:39 PM PST - 11 comments

All smashed UP. How do I wake up tomorrow? Need answer fast.

Have a second gen UP, UP24/7 on order. iPhone 4s, iOS 7. [more inside]
posted by tilde at 6:12 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I hire a PR agent for myself on the d/l? (Is this a dumb idea?)

I'm a professor, at a pretty good school in a non-STEM type field. I like my current gig. I would like to move up to an even better gig, in a better location. The standard m/o for such things is a) produce a lot of good research, and b) wait for people to notice it. I'm already doing a). I don't really want to wait around for b). Catch: blatant shameless self-promotion both looks icky and off-putting and signals lack of commitment to current gig. Possible solution: hire a very discrete PR person. To do... what? Does such a thing exist, for individuals, who need attention from really specific groups of people? Or is this just a really ridiculous idea?
posted by anonymous at 5:55 PM PST - 17 comments

Gained weight or had trouble losing it on Abilify or Trazodone?

I have been on both Abilify and Trazodone for about two years and have gained about 30 pounds. Before I started both drugs two years ago I lost 20 pounds by restricting my diet without exercise. Well, I realized in the past couple of months that things needed to change as far as my weight was concerned. For the past month and a half, I have now been on a 1 hour / day elliptical machine workout plan and 1400-1600 calorie per day diet (I'm F, 5'10, 225 pounds) and I am not losing weight. One week I may lose a pound, the next, I gain a pound. I weight in once a week, on Sundays. It is very frustrating. I have fluctuated from 228 to 224 and back since I've started. Ack! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:55 PM PST - 10 comments

Online English Teaching with Colingo or similar company: Yay or Nay?

I am a high school English teacher in the Midwest & I'm looking for a way to make some extra money, preferably from home. I'm also feeling a little burned out in my current position. I'm considering applying to Colingo as an online English teacher, and I have a few questions. [more inside]
posted by SamanthaK at 5:14 PM PST - 0 comments

Great haircut in NYC?

I want to get my hair cut, and I'd like to go to someone who can just look at me and say "This, this is what you should do with your hair," or something like that. A genius with scissors. Any recommendations for a really skilled haircutter in NYC? I don't want to pay too much more than $100, if I can help it. Thanks!
posted by swheatie at 5:03 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I fake empathy?

I just started a new job last week and am in a workplace with only one other person. She was crying the other day and it turns out her father was just diagnosed with brain cancer. [more inside]
posted by Literaryhero at 4:47 PM PST - 33 comments

so much for trip of a lifetime

In a few hours I'm about to board a flight that was supposed to include my girlfriend. except she broke up with me last month and now I'm flying alone and demoralized. How do I not make this trip suck more than it already does? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 4:44 PM PST - 10 comments

"I've never met you but I love you."

What is the commercial from the 90's where a little boy says this? The best I can come up with is that it is a commercial for some type of charity, and the "plot" of the commercial is that this middle-aged guy donated and made life better for the boy. In my memory, the boy is playing with a puppy in a field, the boy says "I've never met you but I love you" in a letter to the man, and the man says "I can't tell you how that made me feel" -- kinda through tears. Any ideas what this was? Does anyone else remember it?
posted by RingerChopChop at 4:41 PM PST - 5 comments

Jawbone or Fitbit, wake me up before you go-go (to the snooze button)

I'm strongly considering buying a Jawbone UP24 or FitBit Force specifically for the alarm/sleep tracking functions. Does anyone have any experience with either product for that purpose? Is there something else that would meet my needs better? [more inside]
posted by Paper rabies at 4:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Contact Lens: CIBA Vision Dailies Total 1. How is it?

Anyone tried CIBA Vision Dailies Total 1 contact lens. How is it? Is it easy to remove? (Read stories that it's hard to get it out) Is it for beginners?
posted by Mountain28 at 4:16 PM PST - 7 comments

Christmas instrumental music

What's your favorite Christmas instrumental, classical-sounding music? [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 3:44 PM PST - 28 comments

Hashtags (?) in Outlook: Is it possible? Who could make it happen?

I manage a specialized service Outlook inbox for a large corporation. I would like to manually add hashtags (I think?) to each incoming e-mail and then create tag clouds – similar to the Metafilter tag cloud, actually - for groups of e-mails. [more inside]
posted by Munching Langolier at 3:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Making programming videos

I've recently been asked to make a few programming tutorials for work. These would eventually be available to a consumer audience. Looking for good resources (and exemplar videos) for guidance. [more inside]
posted by fishhouses at 3:12 PM PST - 4 comments

What is the slowest-growing whole number sequence?

What is the slowest-growing non-repeating, non-trivial* whole number sequence? [more inside]
posted by Eideteker at 3:00 PM PST - 28 comments

Need a rate for .NET development for agency with pressing need

I've been approached to do some short-term project work for an agency here in New York City who is up against a tight deadline with their client, and need some advice about rates. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:56 PM PST - 2 comments

What's in a name, anyway?

My husband and I are expecting our first child, a girl, due in 2 months and are having a serious naming dilemma. We are both worried about the possibility of our chosen name leading to teasing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:55 PM PST - 80 comments

I just want to be able to shake!

A while ago I bought my nephew a plush toy train with a string-wound mechanism inside that shook the toy but made no noise until the string was wound down again to the rivet opening. I know for a fact the toy was discontinued. Could you please direct me to a company which sells string-winding shaking toy mechanisms?
posted by parmanparman at 2:53 PM PST - 6 comments

Cool toys for 3-4 year olds for immediate play?

What are some cool toys for a three and a half year old which I could open and would be really wondrous and cool immediately? He's in an astronaut phase and has a great imagination generally, but the toy does not have to be space-related. He already has a stomp rocket, so not that, but that's a good example of the kind of immediate-fun toy I'm thinking of. Thanks.
posted by shivohum at 2:02 PM PST - 17 comments


I have a new friend that I care for very deeply. He really really likes scotch. I want to get him a Christmas gift that is scotch related. [more inside]
posted by jen14221 at 1:54 PM PST - 26 comments

How to have beer delivered in Ukraine?

I want to thank co-workers in Dnepropetrovsk, Ukraine by sending them some high quality beer. Is there a store or service that would accept an order by credit card and deliver to their door?
posted by scose at 1:49 PM PST - 2 comments

Advice on bringing babies to developing countries

MeFites with experience raising or traveling with young infants as expats in developing country settings: what influenced your decision to bring your baby with you as you worked abroad? What were some challenges you faced? What were some benefits? In hindsight, do you think it was the right decision? What issues came up that you would not have expected? [more inside]
posted by palindromic at 1:42 PM PST - 12 comments

I need to find a substance with the following physical properties:

I need to find a substance that is : a) transparent over the visible or infrared, b) melts between 10 and 100 degrees C c) has modest freeze/melt expansion e)is at least a bit volatile in the liquid phase. [more inside]
posted by Nish ton at 1:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Seeking First-person Accounts of Poverty in the United States

I have of late been reading and watching first-person accounts of poverty in the United States. The most recent being Invisible Child. I would like to continue reading stories told from the perspective (or about the perspective) of those living in poverty in the US. Books, documentaries, articles are all welcome.
posted by xingcat at 1:08 PM PST - 26 comments

Holiday party cocktail suggestions?

Hoping some of the boozier denizens of MeFi might have some good suggestions for a couple holiday cocktails. [more inside]
posted by malphigian at 12:50 PM PST - 22 comments

What are considered the DEFINITIVE versions of popular Christmas songs?

So, after decades of basically ignoring them, I'm finally getting into the spirit of enjoying classic Christmas songs. But I don't know much about them. I know many of them have been covered literally hundreds of times. As a starting point, I'd like to better understand which versions of popular Christmas songs have been MOST popular over time. [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 11:14 AM PST - 45 comments account hacked. Reaction: Apathy or Urgency?

I have a Diablo III license. I beat the game a couple months ago and haven't been on at all since then. So recently I have received a few emails from Blizzard Entertainment ( containing links which seem legit (going to: which I (stupidly?) have ignored up until now. [more inside]
posted by Debaser626 at 10:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Where is the best man's scarf?

I don't want to find a good men's scarf. I want to find the best men's scarf. It should be non-wooly/scratchy, smooth to the touch, long enough and thick enough to be wrapped around the neck and draped over the front to create an insulation layer while waiting on cold train platforms and be in a "masculine" pattern/color that would suit most coats. It should also be durable and long lasting, I want a scarf you could wear without comment for 20 years and then be buried with it. Where is this scarf?
posted by The Whelk at 10:04 AM PST - 32 comments

Where to find simple, clean, and stylish website templates?

I need to make two simple one-page static websites to host on my existing webhost. [more inside]
posted by entropicamericana at 9:41 AM PST - 7 comments

PS2 partner game for putzes

Hi. I'd like to shoot things and blow things up with my guy. We have a PS2 that's been gathering dust for years, largely due to the fact that the last time we tried to shoot things and blow things up it was a disaster. [more inside]
posted by lizifer at 9:33 AM PST - 13 comments

A way to search flights with flexible location, but inflexible days?

Is there a flight search engine that lets you say your From location, leave the To location blank and set the date? [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 9:25 AM PST - 6 comments

iPad browser controls stupidly opposite of those on iPhone; fixable?

I want the forward/back controls in my browser on iPad to be at the bottom of the screen, same as they are on my iPhone. I don't see any way to do this in Safari or Chrome. My thumb insists on doing it the iPhone way (and quite logically because that's where my thumb already is while holding the device). It is driving me crazy. Please tell me there's a way.
posted by HotToddy at 8:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Is there a way to send typewritten Xmas letters with sentimental value?

I would like to send Christmas letters, including one to a girl I like. There's only one problem: I have terrible handwriting. It's really, really bad. I've worked on improving it my whole life, but my motor skills just can't seem to pick up on the knack of writing properly; my words honestly look like the scribbles of a child, and unless I take care are sometimes illegible to other people. For this reason I much prefer typing things, but I feel that much of the sentimentality is lost if a letter is typed. Is there any way for me (through cool program, font, or other method) to send something that's typed that gives the same impact a written letter would? [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 8:55 AM PST - 24 comments

How to stop my father's rages (or at least their effect on me)?

Throughout my life, my father has had anger issues, typically directed at me. Although he isn't violent, he will become extremely (almost uncontrollably) angry whenever I do anything 'wrong'. Now that I'm an adult and no longer financially dependent on him, I want to stop this cycle. However, I'm having trouble figuring out how to do this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:40 AM PST - 63 comments

Qualifying for Medicare in WA?

I'm trying to determine if I'm eligible for Medicare in WA state, and can't get into a social services office right now. I've read the website back and front, and still can't quite figure out if I qualify due to my "household" (read: co-parent's) income. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:39 AM PST - 11 comments

UK Film Streaming Search Engines

The film streaming search engine Can I Stream It? looks very useful but only covers the US. Does anyone know of a UK version? Find Any Film is similar but doesn't cover subscription services like Netflix or Lovefilm.
posted by feelinglistless at 8:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Best blender for $100?

I have started making smoothies in the morning, and my $30 wedding gift blender ain't cutting it anymore. I want a new one, and my budget is $100. [more inside]
posted by pyjammy at 8:24 AM PST - 23 comments

Reasonably priced IR/thermal imaging camera

I don't need something like the Predator's thermal/IR graphics, but a thermal imaging camera seems like something that would be interesting to have/use. Except they are $800 and up. Are there any cheaper options ? [more inside]
posted by k5.user at 8:08 AM PST - 3 comments

Trying to make fetch happen...again. Movie suggestions, please.

There are a handful of movies I adore and have watched over and over: Bring It On, Clueless, Legally Blonde, Mean Girls, and, most recently, Pitch Perfect. Suggest more movies like this, please. [more inside]
posted by serialcomma at 8:05 AM PST - 93 comments

Lentil Soup Mystery

Many years ago I had a fabulous lentil soup in a very nice Greek restaurant (in Greece) whose owners/chefs were Cretan, and which used many ingredients from Crete (which may or may not be pertinent to my question). This soup was very, very dark, like mahogany colored, rich but not thick, and fairly "oily" (which sounds bad, but it was heavenly), and it was soooo good. Now, all lentil soup is good, really. Mine is quite marvelous, but I've been remembering this soup for so long, and have never figured out how it acquired that color, or what ingredient(s) made it so different and special. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by taz at 7:18 AM PST - 26 comments

Need an ugly holiday sweater in the east San Fernando Valley

Looking for a place to buy an ugly or garish holiday sweater somewhere in the east San Fernando Valley, to wear to an office party. Thrift stores have apparently stopped receiving them because people are saving them to wear ironically. Somewhere in the east San Fernando Valley, preferably near North Hollywood would be preferred. Also preferably not too expensive as I only plan on wearing this thing once (maybe again for our family get-together.) The uglier the better!
posted by carrolldamian at 7:11 AM PST - 5 comments

I need to be able to memorize several formulas for a test next week

I'm taking a numerical methods class and there are all these discretization schemes of partial differential equations named after pairs of dudes and they all are kinda the same, maybe a bit different in indexes.... I'm trying to organize it all in my head, like a frat house, with the dudes that worked on the same scheme being roommates, but it seems to be taking a long time to actually "find" a place for each scheme in their "rooms" and keeping it there in a sort of visual arrangement. Test is no books no notes, and everything kinda of just jumbles inside my head right now.
posted by spacefire at 7:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Baltimore to Boston Road Trip: Costs?, Tips?, Anecdotes?

Hi all, We're going to be renting a car in Baltimore around December 20th and taking it for about a week (till approximately the 27th), with the intention of driving down to Boston and back. Has anyone done the trip? Any thoughts on good local dealerships to rent a car from? What about how long it will take? Routes to avoid? General cost of tolls? Places to stop and eat lunch? Any help is appreciated!
posted by Violet Blue at 6:53 AM PST - 30 comments

How do I start a goat farm?

If you were in your late twenties with no experience of farming or dairy, what would you start doing now to have a small goat farm and dairy of your own in 5 - 10 years? [more inside]
posted by twirlypen at 6:19 AM PST - 25 comments

Delay in Home Closing. How do I Stop the Panic?

In appears, due to a combination of factors, we are short the necessary funds needed to close on our home purchase, scheduled for this Friday at noon. What can I do to smooth this situation over with the sellers and myriad of volunteers slated to help us move on Saturday and ease my own massive anxiety on having to delay the closing? [more inside]
posted by theBigRedKittyPurrs at 6:12 AM PST - 22 comments

Another finding a photo help button

I found this photo on a blog a few months ago. I have been looking for a larger higher quality version and or the name of the photographer to find out if I can purchase a print. This is what I know. It is from West Side Story It appears a number of times on the internet, all small pixel sizes The photographer is NOT Ernest Hass or Phil Stern (the two photographers who were present taking photos at some stage on the production of Westside Story) Thanks, this one baffles me. When I have time I will go to the Motion Picture Academy Library (I live in Los Angeles) and see if I can find out anything more, but until then I thought I would let Mefi rip on it!)
posted by silsurf at 5:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Finally meeting in real life; the disappointment will be palpable

There are several people I've been chatting to online for various periods of time, who I'm likely to meet on my next journey around the USA. In the case of a few, they are asking to meet up. Nothing romantic and more than friendship with any, though the level of friendship differs; in some cases it's quite strong or complex. Problem is, the prospect of finally meeting IRL repeatedly terrifies me to the point of making me feel ill. Is this kind of feeling normal or common, or not? How can I subdue it and not make myself hide, literally? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore at 5:10 AM PST - 23 comments

getting a car ready for winter

My friend has 2 cars; a '77 Toyota sedan, and a "06 Subaru Forrester. Most of her driving is in the city and some highway. I have brought up the idea of winterizing them both; tuneups, de-icer, scraper, better wiper blades, windshield fluid, tires, more weight in the rear, sand, shovel, emergency flash, cell phone charger.......she has let me know the tires are not changing. Any ideas for making the cars, and her time in them, safer and more secure? Best battery? Oil?
posted by ebesan at 4:55 AM PST - 23 comments

Pre-school playground politics.

My son is being kind of sort of bullied at pre-school and I want to know what--if anything--I can or should do about it. [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 4:21 AM PST - 21 comments

Uplifting songs about and by women

Most of the music I listen to is by men, and about men. The songs I have from female singers are either somewhat depressing or about love. I would love to get recommendations for uplifting songs by strong women that are not about love.
posted by blub at 4:18 AM PST - 54 comments

Where should social media posts originate?

Greetings all, I work for a small company that provides educational services. We are quite active on social media in an attempt to increase traffic to our main website and push up our status on Google. We create various types of social media posts including memes and short videos. We currently post these directly onto the social media sites. My question is whether we could better serve our website by having them originate there (our main domain) and to then link to them on FB, twitter etc. Another idea is to embed the code from our Youtube channel onto our main webpage and to then link from social media. Would either of these have any impact on the traffic to our main page?
posted by tjabeijing at 1:18 AM PST - 4 comments

December 10

What does this mysterious activity in front of a friend's house mean?

Some friends of mine are really concerned about something that happened outside their home two days ago. While they were out of the house, a neighbor says that two weird things happened... [more inside]
posted by circular at 11:05 PM PST - 35 comments

SF weekend = super fun weekend?

2 whirlwind days in San Francisco -- please help me figure out an itinerary! [more inside]
posted by miss_kitty_fantastico at 9:53 PM PST - 14 comments

iBeacon's competition?

I'm curious where iBeacon stands, competitively speaking. They're just APIs to use Bluetooth LE, but there are a bunch of other details that I'm less aware of. [more inside]
posted by jragon at 9:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Book recommendations for a nerdy, super smart, often silly uncle?

What newly released books would my nerdy, geeky, incredibly smart, completely rad uncle enjoy? [more inside]
posted by missmary6 at 9:18 PM PST - 26 comments

Is there legal recourse for this sort of noise disturbance?

My boyfriend has been living in his townhouse for about 5 months now, and unfortunately, the townhouse is just on the other wall of this small-ish establishment that makes very loud pallet-dropping noises. It happens sporadically throughout the night and day. So it could be 6 pm, 3 am, 10 am, whatever. We are pretty sure it's whenever they get a new shipment, they start unloading them into the warehouse, and there's this huge, startling clatter of pallets being dropped. [more inside]
posted by massofintuition at 7:38 PM PST - 20 comments

Uneven heat in a slow cooker?

I have a relatively new 6.5 quart crock-pot and on the I've been noticing that certain sections heat up much faster than others (it's especially noticeable on the high setting). Is this normal? [more inside]
posted by tigeri at 7:11 PM PST - 7 comments

So how much do you want to pay?

We are shopping for a new home. We think we have found a home we want to put an offer on. The thing is, we have no clue how much the mortgage payments will be. We know the taxes and insurance, but there are so many online calculators giving us very different numbers for the monthly payment. [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 7:07 PM PST - 21 comments

NYC Photo Card Printing ASAP

Where in NYC can I order a printing of 250 photo cards with the quickest turnaround? I'm talking like 24-48 hours. Can pay $$$. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 6:59 PM PST - 5 comments

What do I need to know about buying a tent?

I would like to try camping, but I am an absolute beginner, and don't know a thing about roughing it outdoors. I guess the first thing I need to organize is shelter, so please help me: what do I need to know about buying a tent for one person?
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 6:52 PM PST - 29 comments

2013 gift guide guide

I really like holiday gift guides, which combine the illusion of thoughtful shopping with the ruthless efficiency of the internet. It's easy to find guides from popular websites and publications, but surely there are more and weirder out there on the web. What is your favorite 2013 gift guide? What are the most interesting gift guides from blogs and niche publications? [more inside]
posted by ecmendenhall at 6:36 PM PST - 10 comments

Streaming underwater camera

I am looking for a streaming camera intended to be permanently mounted underwater, that ideally can be viewed at anytime on your iPhone. Help? Ideally it is not insanely expensive.
posted by corn_bread at 6:00 PM PST - 11 comments

Another flying-with-a-baby question

In about three weeks I will be embarking on a trip from Australia to the middle of America (solo!) with a very active 14-month-old. In an effort to stave off the anxiety that this prospect raises in me, I'm overthinking the logistics. Would love some advice on a few things. [more inside]
posted by forza at 5:59 PM PST - 36 comments

Where can I find an old soda keg fridge?

Where can I find a refrigerator approximately 30" tall and 12" wide, or thereabouts? Fridges of roughly these proportions used to be made for soda kegs, and I'm hoping to convert one to use for my homebrewed beer. All I want to fit inside is a single cornelius keg, which is 9" in diameter and 23" tall. [more inside]
posted by narcotizingdysfunction at 5:22 PM PST - 8 comments

Hope me with Housing in NoVa? Renting. Buying.

Should I get a mortgage even if all the house I can afford right now in the Northern Virginia (NoVa) area is $120k to $150k (according to two different calculators)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:17 PM PST - 28 comments

Musical ability and family influence

Musicians, how did your parents' attitudes affect your musical development? [more inside]
posted by mermily at 4:55 PM PST - 35 comments

Unique photo gifts?

Last Christmas I gave my parents a snowglobe with a family picture inside and they flipped their shit. What non-traditional photo-object can I get them this year? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 4:51 PM PST - 17 comments

So apparently my family is publicly bragging about our child abuse now?

So I log onto facebook for the first time in weeks today and see my brother has posted this image and my mother has "liked" it. Nothing that was done to us as kids would qualify as spanking (punched in the side of the head very often, welts on skin, bruises, dad threatening my sister with a kitchen knife, holding us off the ground by our necks, locking us in the bathroom and hitting us for half an hour for eating the wrong yoghurt from the fridge, knocked over if we ever spoke back to them etc). My brother was actually very rarely hit and it stopped altogether when mum threatened to divorce dad after he hit my brother badly one time. (No such luck for us girls though). I'm SO ANGRY right now and want to react but don't know how it would improve anything. I feel like I'm being goaded but am trapped in how I handle this, with it being a public forum all my friends can see. Please Mefi help me stay calm and do this right (even if that means doing nothing). [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 4:31 PM PST - 39 comments

Can my parents bring me a Persian rug from Iran?

(asking for a friend) I am a US Citizen living in the US. My parents are permanent immigrants - they split their time between Iran and the US (California in case that matters). They have visited the US before and while in the US, they live with me -- their US address is the same as mine. Can they bring a Persian rug from Iran for me to keep? If so, what supporting documents will they need when entering the US at LAX? [more inside]
posted by artlung at 4:21 PM PST - 6 comments

Setting up a prop kit for beauty product photographs

I am starting a blog which will feature photographs taken by my boyfriend and myself. He is a professional video cameraman and also an excellent photographer but neither of us are stylists. Can you help with some prop and set up ideas? [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 3:34 PM PST - 4 comments

What is the name for this music scale?

Trying to find if this minor scale has an actual name to it: the intervals are 1, 2, b3, #4, 5, 6, 7. In the key of C, the pitches would be C D Eb F# G A B C. I've been doing some research and the closest results I can find are either melodic minor (C D Eb F G A B) without the augmented 4th or the Hungarian minor/gypsy scale (C D Eb F# G bA B) which has a lowered sixth compared to my example. Is there a succinct scale name or mode that applies to my example, or can it only be described in terms relative to another scale? [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 3:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Book for a soon-to-be new mom?

My cousin's fiance will be having a baby this next spring. She loves to read and is really a fun, smart person. I'd like to get her a book as a pregnancy gift. I'd really prefer for it to be about a new mom. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by jillithd at 2:56 PM PST - 11 comments

NY Health Exchange Plan: Oscar, Health Republic, Metroplus. Help please?

I would love the knowledge and insights of Mefites on this decision and on my top three contenders for insurance companies and their networks: Oscar, Health Republic, and Metroplus. [more inside]
posted by Salamandrous at 2:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find an article about seeing 50% women as "mostly women"?

A few years back I remember reading an article that talked about female characters in media, specifically that a fifty-fifty split of men and women was seen as "mostly women", and a lower ratio (1/3? 1/4?) was seen as "even". I seem to recall "The Simpsons" was used as an example? Maybe it was just mentioned. Anyway, I would like to read that article again but my google-fu is failing me. Halp?
posted by insufficient data at 2:37 PM PST - 15 comments

What to do with a day on the south side of Sequoia Natl Forest?

My girlfriend and I are going down to a wedding in Ontario, CA this summer, and have enough time for a day trip to Sequoia National Forest. What would you do if you only had a day? [more inside]
posted by Apropos of Something at 2:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me stick to a healthy diet while on holiday

So I have majorly changed the way I have been eating over the past 6 months, and it seems to be working so far. (Yay!) I will be going on an all-inclusive week long vacation in Mexico with a large group of family at the end of January. They love to party and eat, and so do I, but I know that a combination of drinking a lot, eating too many carbs, and staying up late make me super tired, unhappy, and break out. I'm looking for specific strategies to stay on track while I'm at the resort. I intend to enjoy myself, but still not go overboard with the booze, and mostly try to eat well so I don't feel like crap at the end of the week. This is literally the first time in my life I have made significant progress on changing my diet and lifestyle and I don't want to fall back too much. Last time I was at a resort there was lots of food to pick from but most of it was the "standard american diet" with lots of carbs and way too few fresh veggies. What foods can I bring with me and things should I look for on menus to stay close to my healthy diet without making it too difficult to enjoy my all-inclusive vacation? [more inside]
posted by photoexplorer at 2:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Can I get sued in civil court if plaintiff is in a different state?

1) From what I can tell, a plaintiff can only successfully sue a defendant in another state if the defendant owns land or was in a traffic accident in that state? What if it is not a traffic matter and the defendant does not own land, but technically has an apartment lease (but not residing in said apartment)? 2 If so, what is the likely outcome in court in this situation? [more inside]
posted by WhitenoisE at 2:01 PM PST - 15 comments

How to snap out of it/ concetrate on work?

What are practical tips for keeping my mind on tasks at hand rather than other things? [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 1:58 PM PST - 8 comments

How to be content again and pick myself up once more

During my studies I've dragged myself into some sort of downward spiral: falling behind multiple times but still managing to pick myself up, only to find myself struggling even more. I've now arrived at a point where I feel completely broken and depressed. I need to find a way to start off again without feeling overwhelmed by everything else that still needs to, or can be done. I seems the only way to regain control is if I could be as carefree as I was as a freshman. [more inside]
posted by csdfa at 1:51 PM PST - 5 comments my Kickstarter funded in 2 days and doubled in 7. Now what?

I began a Kickstarter last week and it exploded, reaching its funding goals in 2 days, 6 hours. I've started adding stretch goals like mad, but I'd like to use the overwhelming response to get some media attention. How do I do that? [more inside]
posted by sdis at 1:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I apologize to my girlfriends parents for not moving in with her?

My girlfriend and I were due to move in together (rental). I pulled to plug with a week to go. To rescue the relationship my girlfriend says I must first apologise to her parents. [more inside]
posted by JIMSMITH2000 at 1:24 PM PST - 71 comments

need suggestions for fun gifts for my mom to play with Christmas morning

I'm looking for a fun gift for my mom, specifically on