November 2019 Archives
So, my car just died in a way that I suspect may be, if not final, a poor value to fix. While I'm waiting to hear from the shop where I left it, please help me brainstorm car ideas to look at if I do end up having to take the plunge and buy something new-to-me. (Caveats: Single dude with space-consuming hobbies, dislikes SUVs, likes 'fun' cars, wishes charging an electric were practical for apartment-dwellers). [more inside]
My life is undergoing some changes in the near future which may affect which health plan to select and I am looking for some advice. [more inside]
Please help me find historical fiction that takes place around the ancient Silk Road. [more inside]
Are there ways to improve use of Box? Help me troubleshoot my lab's documentation organization. [more inside]
My puppy is doing well with house training so far but there’s a problem when it’s pouring rain outside. Namely, she refuses to go out there at all. Unfortunately this means sometimes she holds it too long and goes potty inside the house. [more inside]
I'm looking specifically for breast cancer testing, but any accounts will do. Here's a link to their site.
Driving south from Charleston to Florida, I got stopped for speeding on a state highway, shortly before the interstate. (The ticket, printed from a mobile device, was for 73 in a 60 zone.) Here's the odd part: the officer hands me her business card with the printout, and tells me (not once but repeatedly) that I should email her to discuss, eg maybe reduction in points. [more inside]
I'm doing the OK Cupid thing, but meeting people in person seems like it would save me a lot of messaging only to end up with "oh we have no chemistry." If I'm a genderqueer woman looking to meet other women to maybe date, are there still physical places where I can do this? Or are internet dating, social hobbies, and friends-of-friends really my only good options? [more inside]
Could you recommend some fashion blogs, instagram accounts, etc where at least some of the outfits are business casual or more formal work attire? I’m looking for inspiration and am open to accounts / sites featuring people of any gender or size! [more inside]
They live together at home and I no longer live there, but I visit often. He's in his early 20s and I'm about 4 years older. He's been going through a rough time after graduating from college but taking a lot of his anger and frustrations out on my mom. It's tearing our small family apart. [more inside]
Please recommend examples of non-White futurist aesthetics (Afrofuturism, Indigenous futurism, etc) - particularly as it relates to interiors! [more inside]
I live in a Brooklyn neighborhood with a lot of oak trees, and it feels like this autumn there have been waaaaay more acorns than in any of the 20 previous autumns I've been around here. Can any Northeastern US naturalists confirm it's been a big acorn season this year and maybe explain why?
I’ve just re-read, and re-enjoyed the book, but there’s something I just can’t work out, it’s really just a tiny detail but it’s bugging me so much, you know how you’re reading, thinking “I must have missed something,” turning the pages back and forth and back and forth in search of an explanation - so much so I kind of lost the momentum of the finale. So I’m wondering if anyone else can put me out of my misery and explain it. SPOILERS inside! [more inside]
I'm seeking tasty recipes for savory pies that are vegetarian and do not contain eggs. (Dairy is very welcome though.) Thanks!
It looks like my roommate might be moving to another city (from Brooklyn, NY) halfway through our one-year lease, while I'm staying in the apartment, under non-dramatic circumstances. Before things move further, I'd like to get a sense of best practices on handling this, as well as what reasonable expectations on my part would be. [more inside]
Imagine a log cabin that is unheated but dry inside. The cabin is in a snowy field, and it's January, about -5 to -10ºC, or 15–25ºF. Now put a human corpse in the cabin in a burlap sack. By March, the weather has slowly warmed up to about 5ºC/40ºF. You go into the cabin. Is the sack oozed through? Does the corpse smell yet? [more inside]
A group is getting together to watch The Mandalorian. We love having themed cocktails for these gatherings. What should be made? [more inside]
My new house is wired up with Ethernet jacks. But I can barely get a Wi-Fi signal on the top floor — the Wi-Fi Modem is on the ground floor. I need a device to plug into the Ethernet jack to get Wi-Fi up there. I can plug in my laptop directly and get online, so I know it works. Googling has only confused me as I do not think I need a Wi-Fi range ‘extender’. What do I need exactly? What it the device called? Thanks for helping me to untether myself.
I'm having some GI issues and my doctor suggested cutting out FODMAP foods, but it's not very intuitive to know what's ok and constantly scanning a printout to find the answer is tedious an error-prone. Please suggest iOS apps that can help me avoid FODMAP foods. [more inside]
A family member who lives in an independent living complex left a plastic pan cover on an electric stove burner. There was an aide in the apartment at the time that saw the burning cover and extinguished the fire. It was agreed, in a family meeting, that they would not use the stove anymore and that the family would supply more packaged meals and come over during the week and cook family meals for them. What are your thoughts on giving them a tabletop induction cooker and proper cooking utensils so they can still prepare some meals on their own?
In the late 90's I read "Deerskin" by Robin McKinley. I also remember reading something at that time, also by Robin McKinley, commenting that several readers had criticized the Deerskin/Lissar/Moonwoman character for not being a virgin throughout the novel. I can't remember if this was a forward or afterward to the novel or something I read online. Could anyone please let me know the ISBN of any book that might contain this forward or afterward or where I could find it online? Google is not being helpful. Thanks.
I'm writing a book. This is frightening. Honoring myself as an artist grounds me, but I'm not too sure how to do it? [more inside]
My (male, american) work outfit is what I think is called business casual--dress shoes, slacks/khakis, and a collared shirt. A few times a month, I need to be wearing a suit and tie for an hour or two. What kind of sports coat should I buy to make me look decent but not be a hassle? [more inside]
We have a gas furnace that intermittently sounds very noisy upon starting up, like a small prop plane. This seems to happen when it's running a lot, such as during cold nights. At other times it makes only a very faint humming/whooshing sound when starting up. Is this a "contact the landlord" situation, if it is otherwise functioning fine? [more inside]
My spouse has asked for warm boots he can slip on without tying for short trips between the house and garage, in our snowy climate. [more inside]
I've finally reached that age and girth when I've been asked to play Santa Claus for our local early childhood centre. How do I be the best Santa possible? [more inside]
What am I missing about this cat litter: [more inside]
Can someone explain Child Health Plus in NYC to me? [more inside]
My parents don't have a lot of money. They would like to send Christmas presents. I have more money than they do. I would like to send them presents. How do I make it not awkward? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
YANMD but my doctor also doesn't know, so why am I bloated all the time and what can I do about it? [more inside]
I am wondering if a university certificate in financial management is worth it if I do not have a bachelor's in finance/STEM? I am wanting to get into a government kind of job down the line possibly. [more inside]
Before quitting three weeks ago, I smoked for about a year. During that time I also switched up my psychiatric meds a couple of times. I'm wondering how long I should give it before I attribute my weird state of mind (read: anxious, depressed, fatigued, etc.) to the psych med adjustments rather than coming off of nicotine. [more inside]
I would like to read some more email newsletters (whether from Substack or somewhere else). Currently I subscribe to Nicole Cliffe and Anne Helen Peterson's newsletters, but I would like to read some different things and perspectives. [more inside]
A bank card and details for an account that I didn't open arrived today. I know enough to know that this isn't good, but I don't know what to do next. Hope me, MeFi.
I've never, in 25 years of Mac computing, made an Avery label template work as-is. Not the design-online thing, I'm just downloading Pages templates and filling in. Most common: a font size small enough to fit the template prints out insanely small. Any general guidelines/strategies? [more inside]
Do I need an internal and external flapper on the ductwork for my range hood? [more inside]
After asking Monday about a potential trip to (or connecting through) the UK immediately post the next Brexit deadline, we opted to book a trip to Dublin instead. It seems like it will be a great place to go with our 5 year old. We will do more research on sights later, but hoped those who know Dublin can help us figure out where to stay so that we’ll be central to the sights we may ultimately visit. [more inside]
My thumbs have not been functional since last January, and doctors can’t find an explanation or effective treatment. What should I do next? [more inside]
My daughter just discovered Squirrel Girl, and she wants more. She'd like to read them in order, if possible, but my usual sources for such info (Wikipedia, Amazon) aren't working. Is there an ordered list of titles somewhere on the Internet? [more inside]
I am the world's least crafty person, so this may be obvious, BUT, I have a much loved kilim rug (damaged in one corner so needs retirement) that I would like to turn into a floor cushion with a bit of stuffing. Who/what terms should I look for to find someone to do this for me? Triple bonus points if you can recommend this sort of service in the UK?
This question may offend if of a particular religion and if so I deeply apologize. I have been in my life deeply haunted by something and I dont know any other way to ask without sounding like a loony. I'm wondering if my belief that I am among ghosts and spirits and that I have a slight touch of ESP may be possible, or could it be proven? More on that ... [more inside]
I made an onion soup with thyme, butter and a couple bay leaves yesterday and it was a-ma-zing. So good. I think I’m in love. What other recipes might I like? [more inside]
The Christmas teas at Lidl had cute tins and decent ingredients. Alas, the flavour is completely not up to par. I balk at just throwing away the tea. Give me your baking, DIY or other surprisingly useful recipes that use up black tea and are forgiving of the tea's quality! [more inside]
Curious what fellow Mifis are paying for their insulin?
I live in LA and have always commuted by car. I'm taking a new job that doesn't provide employee parking, and the nearby street lots are $8/day, so it's time to start taking the bus. The good news is I'm not dreading it, but I'd still like your tips and advice for making it as un-dreadful as possible. [more inside]
I am trying to access documents on an early 2000's computer for which both hard drives are broken. I think I could access this data by installing a new hard drive from the same era with Windows ME installed (I think that was the Microsoft OS before XP).. I am a bit confused about where to find a suitable hard drive and what details I need to check in terms of compatibility (possibly relevant may be RAM details, whether I need a 32-bit or 64-bit operating system)? [more inside]
I would love to watch videos of & read essays about birds who are happy, communicative, empathetic, intelligent, and who have positive & close relationships with humans and animals of other species. [more inside]
Can other animals (apes/bears/etc) be allergic to bee stings like humans? [more inside]
I don’t have any Jewish heritage really - I do have some Ashkenazi family but it’s so far back that it has no direct significance in my life - so that fact that I’m studying Hebrew always prompts the question of why I bother studying the language. Plus I’ve got the whole “Oh how could you ignore what they do to Palestine?!” a couple of times. [more inside]
I would like to handle being bad at things (not perfect at them) better. I would like to not feel a sense of shame and worthlessness if someone is smarter than me. More below. [more inside]
I'm looking for good gift ideas for an 11-year-old interested in art and Japanese media. They like drawing (particularly cutesy manga-style work) and just got interested in cosplay. (They dressed up as a video game character for Halloween.) Other interests: cats, Studio Ghibli, Zelda, and Squishmallows (we got some Squishmallows already). Any gift suggestions? [more inside]
Anyone have a recipe for savory granola? I try to limit my sugar and prefer salty snacks anyways. Has anyone tried making granola at home with savory flavors—salt, lemon, dill, mustard, cheese, onion, peppers, whatever? I can easily find recipes for savory oatmeal, but not this... [more inside]
Are there options beyond Ring for a video doorbell that integrates with a few cameras? Or do I just have unrealistic expectations for what I think I want to do with minor home surveillance? [more inside]
I recently discovered that a friend whose behavior I had had some somewhat hazy reservations and discomfort about has apparently been privately harassing several other mutual friends via DMs, text, and letters? possibly for years? Everyone involved is part of an extended and long-established network of friends, and the harasser is someone who has been part of this group for much longer than the people being harassed. I'm not directly involved, so I could say "not my circus" but... snowflakes. [more inside]
I've recently been promoted to a position that has me supervising new people in three knowledge areas. I'm very familiar with one of the areas, less so with the other two. I've worked at my company for 13 years and been at the manager level for 6, so I'm not new around here. I know all the of these people well from working closely with them before the promotion. [more inside]
My sun room is very poorly insulated, which means that my apartment gets very cold in the winter. What steps can I take to remedy this? Difficulty level: I rent. [more inside]
Back when I was in high school in the 1980s, I remember there being a candy store -- not a newsstand where you'd buy candy bars, but someplace you'd buy chocolate or caramels by the pound -- inside the 14th St Union Square subway station: if I remember accurately it was right at the top of the stairs up from the 4/5/6 platform. It went away in some remodeling of the station in the late eighties, I think. First, does anyone else remember it at all? Second, the part of my memory that seems really implausible. [more inside]
Usually I am a good speller. But there are words that I type regularly that I always spell wrong first. For example covenant I always first spell convenant. There are other words I often but not always mess up in spoken language, usually by misordering similar phonemes (chicken/kitchen --> "The kitchen is defrosting in the chicken"). I am guessing that I am still mentally "speaking" the word as I type, and am doing the same kind of misordering for covenant, where I put the "n" too early in the word? [more inside]
What on earth could cause wrist pain that came on with no warning and now won't go away? [more inside]
I'm looking for a very mildly-scented perfume or scented lotion. Just the sort of thing that's like a hint of fragrance, not super distinctive or punchy. What are some scents I should investigate? [more inside]
IdleCuriousityFilter. Why do would-be vendors always tell me all the names of everyone they've met at my company? They must learn this in school, because they ALL do it. Why do they think I'd care if they know Joe Blow in Marketing or Jane Doe in R&D? Even if it's someone I happen to know, so what? I don't get it.
I listen to a lot of music, and spend a lot of time curating playlists from that music. I'd love to turn some of these playlists into recorded mixes (while getting some DJ practice in the process). If I wanted to record mixes from a combination of Spotify tracks and vinyl records, what equipment and software would I need? [more inside]
I'm looking for videos of people who are very good at what they do stealing the show. The best example I have is this video of some good guitarists performing a boring cover of While my Guitar Gently Weeps, until Prince swoops in and performs SO HARD and leaves everyone else in the dust.
I've never owned a car in my whole life. And for the first time in my life I'm living in a "car city" with the idea of living there long term. Will I get frustrated? Have you been in a similar situation? What were some workarounds you discovered? Should I reconsider living here even though I like it? [more inside]
I am currently making a mid-career change. I left my previous field to get a master’s degree applicable to new field. I know that finding a new job in new field can take a few months. I can do retail immediately at low pay, wait for a better higher paying contract job or take neither and focus solely on the new field job search. I'm not sure what to do. [more inside]
Life is chaotic right now, and we need some coziness and together time. Unfortunately, I'm not in the easiest place, mentally, for making that happen effortlessly. I need a list, and I need inspiration. Can you share your favorite seasonal activities for creating a cozy atmosphere? [more inside]
I'm a med student currently interviewing for residency. I'll be graduating med school in December, but won't be working as a doctor until July. My folks have been supporting me for the past six months, since I'm no longer supported by loans,* and understandably would like it if I could get some sort of job in the meantime. I'm pretty burnt out on job hunting, as I have effectively been doing a version of it (the residency application process) for the past 14 months.** How do I get myself fired up to find a part time job that will last me from now until May? What kind of jobs can I even get? Will places like Starbucks hire a weird baby MD like me for a 6 month stint? [more inside]
I've always had serious problems with executive functioning and I've wondered if I might have ADHD. I talked to my GP about it around ten years ago and she looked at me like I was crazy and told me that ADHD is only diagnosed in children with severe behavioural problems. [more inside]
My boss wants us to dabble in PLC programming. What are good resources for self-teaching this skill? I am completely new to this -- I don't even know what PLC stands for, so 101-level resources would be the best right now. [more inside]
i was due in court today for a citation i received for not having car insurance. .. [more inside]
I'm looking to read a book (if it exists!) that would be/contain accounts of how it felt to 'be on' Testosterone or Estrogen. Ideally there would be multiple such accounts, rather than just one perspective! I've read the odd article that interviews people mid-transition, and I find it so fascinating - is there anything like this at full book length?
So I was idly thinking about voting systems, with an eye on gerrymandering. And I came up with the idea to give the winner as much voting power as he got votes. So a winner of district A with 100 people who got 51% gets 51 "voting power" and the winner of district B with 1000 people and 80% gets 800 "voting power". As opposed to every winner getting one "voting power" in the Sentate/ House whereever. Does this exist, what's the name for it?
My young adult kid (18) is a getting a tattoo at the home of a tattoo artist in our town who evidently has done tattooing (stick and poke) on my kid's friend and others they know. I'm filled with worry. [more inside]
I'm involved with starting a shared office for game developers in Zurich. Right now we have a drab-looking 60sqm room with white walls and grey carpet, tables, and chairs. How do I make this look like an inviting place to work in? [more inside]
I have convinced myself that a prototype model of a sculpture is called a macaque. Is that right? What's the word I'm thinking of? [more inside]
Looking for a short story titled "Dwindling" by a female author. [more inside]
I am an educated, mid-30s woman with a successful career in a white collar industry and a PTSD diagnosis. A couple of years ago I left a very abusive relationship and that experience was compounded by expansive grief and a very scary childhood. I'm in a good place at this point and would like to date but held back by how and when to discuss these parts of my life. Details below the fold. [more inside]
I am a professional actor. About 3-5 times a week, I have to prepare and self-tape an audition. I procrastinate TREMENDOUSLY and feel miserable every single time. Please help! [more inside]
I'm burning out in my emotionally demanding public sector job, but I've never had any really good ideas about where to go from here. I've sometimes thought that I'd like working in hospitality and tourism -- maybe in hotels? -- but I don't actually know anything about those jobs. What's out there? [more inside]
My grandfather served in the U.S. Army 99th Infantry Division during the Battle of the Bulge in World War II, winning the Bronze Star. I have never served. I have always been very proud of my grandfather and would like to buy a black hat with the 99th checkerboard insignia (with no words) to honor him. Is this acceptable/appropriate? [more inside]
For reasons, I have not had much sex in my life. I am looking to learn now the kinds of skills and experience that you would expect a late 30s female (heterosexual) to have. Practice is the obvious answer, but seeing as I can’t control who wants to sleep with me, can you also lead me to books, videos, podcasts, anything like that that I can look at on my own beforehand to lessen the rejection from Tinder dates when they figure out I am bad in bed. Please assume I have really absolutely no idea about anything (if I know it already I will happily ignore that advice)
Terrible recording I made in an Urban Outfitters store, but this song is kind of weird and haunting and I wonder if anyone could identify it or the musicians.
It's my with another parenting-is-all-about-font-selection question. Tell me what font to write my kid's book in. I need a regular body font but some words might be written bigger and more fun-ly (e.g. "pop" as big capital letters in a bright colour or "bumping" written on a bumping path (yes, may be too short to pull that off, we'll see, "groovy" may be written in some sort of groovy way). Please recommend, including opinions on whether I should use one font or two (or more). I have Adobe Creative Cloud, which I believe gives me all those fonts. [more inside]
I read this story years and years ago. Essentially, it was about how if you stepped on someone's toe in an elevator, you'd apologize. [more inside]
Has anyone seen these or have experience with turntables with built in tube preamps? [more inside]
I don’t know anything about life insurance, and I know you’re not my insurance agent, but I have no idea where to start. [more inside]
I'm in Chicago at work for the first time ever, and I'm kind of bummed it's so cold and dark and that lots of the usual night tours and such are closed for the winter (because it's so cold and dark). Anything open after 5 you would recommend? [more inside]
I have spent 20+years cursing people who drive with snow flying off their cars. Now I am one of *those* people because I have a minivan and am too short to actually get all the snow off (and honestly in too much of a rush to do a great job on the areas I can reach). What are my options? [more inside]
I can't get therapy. What's the next best option? [more inside]
After a lifetime (literally) at Kaiser I'm considering switching to Anthem, primarily so I can start going to therapy (Kaiser is terrible for me in that regard). But, Kaiser in every other aspect is so dang easy. What should I consider before making the switch? [more inside]
After watching Nirvana in Fire (at Mefi's recommendation!) I've been looking up other Chinese shows and came across a genre of media known there as BL, or Boys Love. As I understand it BL involves gay male protagonists and ranges from the implied to the erotic. It's apparently popular enough that huge, expensive, popular historical romances are being made — e.g. The Untamed. My question is: wait, what? Isn't mainland China famously restrictive, especially lately, of LGBTQ+ representation in media? How is it possible that BL is essentially mainstream there? [more inside]
I'm suddenly having weird intermittent pain in my right ankle, toward the outside of the joint right where my ankle meets my foot. (This came on seemingly out of nowhere, but I'm very sure that it's related to a nasty sprain I got playing soccer about 9 months ago.) The earliest appointment I could get with my sports doctor isn't for another month. In the meantime, I am in desperate need of ideas for how to exercise with this limitation -- I'm starting to feel like I'm crawling out of my skin! [more inside]
I've made plans (including flights) to go to Beirut and Byblos for a week in Dec/Jan. How do I decide whether or not to go? I am not looking for an answer on whether or not to go. I'm looking for advice on how to make that call, and possibly whether to go to Israel (or Saudi Arabia?) instead. [more inside]
I have to have a LOT of conversations about and around African Art, Fashion, Design, & Aesthetics. Are there any art books on these subjects you’d recommend? [more inside]
Found a Yeti stainless tumbler for cheap at the thrift store. Unfortunately it has some kind of chemical taste in it like someone carried detergent in it for a while. I've tried rinsing it with soapy water, filling with baking soda, and currently it is soaking in vinegar. If the vinegar doesn't work I will need some other solutions (no pun intended) to remove this residual flavor/smell. Can you help?
I use Voice Access on Android to control my phone, but it doesn't play well with Firefox for Android. [more inside]
I remember reading a specific "regional fast food bracket" article on a sports/pop culture site a few years ago, and I'm trying to find it again. Grantland and Deadspin (RIP both) both ran brackets like this, but I can't find what I'm looking for by searching their archives. [more inside]
weathering UV Lamps would do I guess, but I can't seem to find them on amazon. Any pointers would be helpful. [more inside]
I have decided to discontinue seeing my therapist, for a couple of reasons. I'm having trouble figuring out exactly how to phrase this to him in a graceful way. Can anyone help me with a script? [more inside]
I got all of my wedding photos over the weekend. I had paid my wedding photographer for 10 hours of her time and a minimum of 100 photos per hour. When I got the album, I didn't suspect anything was amiss, as there were more than 1,000 photos in the album. However, when I got to the end of the album, the photos abruptly stopped at the end of dinner, and there were no photos from the dancing portion of the reception. When I wrote to my photographer asking if there was a mistake, she told me that she had lost all of the photos from the last two hours of our wedding. Her SD card was corrupt and she could not access any of the photos. Should I push for a refund on the missing hours? And if so, how should I tactfully word it? [more inside]
Can someone recommend me a general target destination for a road trip this week, starting from San Francisco and going... probably east? Hopefully places that aren't *too* icy/snowy? [more inside]
My wife is looking for a new hobby/activity which scratches a particular problem solving/puzzle-ish itch. We've tried looking but honestly aren't even entirely sure what we're looking for so I suggested we see what kind of ideas the hive mind might offer up. She's mostly looking for stuff that can be done indoors/at the computer but all suggestions welcome! Her thoughts inside. [more inside]
My husband and I are getting divorced. He's getting the cats in the divorce. He has effectively moved in with his new girlfriend (temporarily, until we can sublet our apartment and he can afford his own) whose living situation precludes him taking his cats with him, leaving me as the sole caretaker of two very upset cats who don't understand why their favorite human isn't around and are acting out accordingly. How do I survive this and maybe help these poor babies be a little happier? [more inside]
My ankle hurts again. Last time I saw a doctor about it, they said it was a sprain or strain, but I have no memory of any specific injury whenever this happens. It occurs a few times a year and now it is my left, but usually it is my right ankle. What could this be? [more inside]
For the record - I know this question is stupid. I am trying to do what should be a simple Excel formula but it is stymieing me. [more inside]
If you have experience with teaching/tutoring adult English Language Learners, which published resources do you consider to be essential? For the purpose of this question, I’m only looking for PRINT materials that deal with any/all aspects of English Language Learning for adults—day to day survival skills, workplace , health, etc. I’m looking for print resources that would be used by educators, as well as by students. Suggestions for materials for learners at all levels are welcome. Thanks!
Why is Twitter sending me promoted tweets in Russian? [more inside]
After being laid off from my previous job, I have tried to get back in the door at Apple Retail, but seem to be hitting a brick wall so far. Also running into brick walls with my job search. [more inside]
I've opened up a PDF of a practice ACT test I got from Prep Scholar here. I want to split it up into the separate test categories, rather than having one single document for the whole test. I opened it in Preview, clicked on a thumbnail of a page I wanted to remove, clicked the delete key -- nothing happened. The "delete" feature from the Edit menu is grayed out. Is the PDF saved in such a way that the user can't edit it? If so, does anyone know a workaround?
Sometimes when I'm with new potential partner, I'll *really* want sex. Other times, I can get into a sort of compassionate, caring state where there's much less internal pressure to have sex. It's very distinct. And it makes relating go much better. I don't know how to reliably do this, though. [more inside]
Looking for the best app for listening to MP3s of interviews on my iPhone. Requirements inside. [more inside]
I recently spent a month in India, where my hair was all soft and wavy with lots of body. My hair is usually stick straight, fine and thin, and often quite dry (but so fine that any product makes it look limp and even thinner). My best guess is the high humidity was what made my hair look so nice. How do I replicate that back in dry Australia? [more inside]
I need something that will stick on the side of my refrigerator, and allow me to track the number of glasses of water I drink. What is that thing? [more inside]
What is the purpose of my life? - this is a question I have been thinking a lot about. [more inside]
My husband and I are looking for a series to watch on Netflix or Prime that we both enjoy. This is difficult. We've narrowed it down to a) must be set in the past and pay attention to historical details, and b) should have interesting characters you can root for and intelligent plot. Humour is also good. So far we have enjoyed Mad Men and Life on Mars (British version) as well as House of Cards (British version). [more inside]
I'm moving out of my apartment next month and trying to decide between three different places I could potentially move to, each with their pros and cons. I have to make a decision in the next day or two - help! [more inside]
Metafilter has always been there for me when I am in an anxiety spiral about something. I would not say I am in one now, but I was recently and upon reflection could still use advice about how to deal with this new situation with my sister in law. I never thought there was any conflict in our relationship until recently. I'll try to keep it from being too wordy but snowflakes inside. [more inside]
There is a commercial building in my neighborhood for sale and I'm interested in purchasing for personal use (i.e. art studio), but need advice on how to go about looking into it. Details below. [more inside]
Could someone point me to a tutorial, please? I've looked at the ones on musicbrainz.org, howtogeek, and plex.tv, all found by googling, and I find them all not basic enough. I thought I was computer-savvy enough, and music-savvy enough, but I feel defeated. None of the screenshots of interfaces seem to correspond to what I see in my version (2.2.3). [more inside]
I am going back to school and I have a Surface. I understand that I can take handwritten notes on the tablet and I am very excited. What app do you recommend? It looks like there is a lot you can do in OneNote. How do I get started? How can I get organized with OneNote? [more inside]
Hi everyone. My friend and I are both 30F and have been friends since we're 4 years old. Here's a brief description of my friend and our friendship. The positive: My friend and I can talk about pretty much everything and she's my go to when things get rough. I do believe she genuinely cares about me. When I'm down, she doesn't kick me down further and has reassured me and complimented me in the past. [more inside]
We would are working on getting financially fit and we need to cut our coffee budget. I am interested in making cold brew coffee and lattes at home so that we can ditch Starbucks. Any tips on the best cold brew system to buy? And, an inexpensive and easy to use latte maker? I heard about Aeropress, any thoughts and advice? [more inside]
On the way over from Heathrow to Seattle I screwed up and had a few toiletries that were 150ml (where the max was 100ml). Luckily I had the option to stow my hand luggage in the hold. Will I have the same option on my return journey, also with BA? I want to keep my toiletries and avoid paying for extra luggage.
My San Francisco-based friend has a 4 m/o daughter, and has had a very very tough time with pregnancy, birth, and the first few months of her baby's life. She needs help, but she's too overwhelmed to figure out where to start. Do any of you SFers have tips or resources for finding a nanny or other childcare help? [more inside]
I'm having a host of Windows 10 issues that I think are generally related to a corruption of user account control, and I can't figure it out. I first discovered this when trying to run Windows Update and it cannot connect, having last successfully updated in March 2019. Details inside. [more inside]
My three-year-old has, overnight, lost interest in baby board books and wants real paper, and stories. Yay! Reading with him is so much more fun now that it’s not just pointing out all the fire trucks. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
I'm looking for Portuguese-language documentary films that show how a Portuguese-speaking community has come together in response to a climate event. [more inside]
I'm looking for a larger resolution picture of a cat (a tabby, not necessarily orange, either classic or mackerel pattern is fine) in the exact position found in this piece of stained glass. Different pictures for head/body/tail are acceptable but not ideal.
We are considering selling our London flat in order to buy one that will better suit our needs. We've never done this before. (We were first-time buyers when we bought our current flat.) I have questions about the timing of selling and buying, as well as choosing an estate agent. I'd also love any general advice from people who have been through this process in the UK. (UK-centered answers only, please) [more inside]
Is there an app that will slurp in my LinkedIn connection photos, and quiz me about their names/job titles/organizations?
The company that administers my mortgage charges a $20 "pay to" fee. What the heck is a "pay to" fee? [more inside]
I have a job interview coming up at the end of this week (yaaay), but I have become filled with anxiety and almost dread about the upcoming interview. I've been avoiding preparing for it, or even thinking about it... how can I best prepare for it? [more inside]
We might be moving and thus looking for a new house. But it's been close to 2 decades since we've been house hunting and we're feeling kinda lost/overwhelmed with what to check for when viewing a prospective house. Anyone got a link a good checklist to use as a starting point? [more inside]
In order not to feel so helpless, I want to donate to organizations that are mitigating ICE policy at the border: detention, forced separation, and deaths. [more inside]
I'll make this intro short. I've been dating my girlfriend for the past 2.5 years, and she talked with me yesterday about how she wanted to get engaged. I want to as well. The problem is that I don't feel financially secure enough in my career growth. The reason this is an issue is because gf's parents are strict Indian people who have told me that they want me to be in a certain place before accepting me and moving forward.
This phrase used to be how lawyers joked about what it was like to advance in their industry, but it's starting to feel like all work is this way. Are there exceptions? [more inside]
I recently started working out with a personal trainer but she missed so many sessions I need to figure out how to move forward without her. I wanted to begin a starting strength program, but she expressed concerns that I wasn't ready for the most common beginner weightlifting programs. Should I begin a training program on my own or find a new personal trainer? Or something else? [more inside]
We've been playing D&D for a few months now - all us players are beginners, (not the DM, he's experienced). I'd like to know about ways to ensure that we have the best group dynamics possible. How to avoid players getting too frustrated with one another. Slight complication, the DM is on Skype, but all the players are in the same room. [more inside]
We’re making plans for school vacation week, 2/17-21/2020. The next Brexit deadline is 1/31/2020. We’re trying to decide where to go, and are a bit torn. [more inside]
I both tend to lose receipts, and even if I've kept hold of them, fail to hold attention all the way through the tedious xledger entry process to actually get the reimbursement form submitted. Does an app exist where I could snap a photo and QUICKLY code it for easy upload/entry later? Bonus points if it specifically works with xledger! [more inside]
My 11-year-old son is struggling with new friendships at a new school. He is very loyal to his friends, who can be difficult and get in trouble, and that can lead him into trouble. I would like to find teen fiction books that address these kinds of situations -- for example, where the kids have friends, and those friends are imperfect and do bad things, and kids have to decide how they will respond. I'd also be interested in teen fiction that addresses issues of troublemaking, independence or loyalty more generally. He is a fairly mature reader for his age, so books aimed at 10-14 year olds might fit the bill.
We have a couple of weeks in southern Finland. Most of the recommendations on here have been for summer. We are looking for recommendations for November. What are your top tips?
Hi all, I'm curious to your experience if you've had the new style, minimally invasive hallux surgery, Percutaneous Bunionectomy, where they make several small incisions instead of 1 to 2 large ones? If yes, what was your recovery like, do you have loss of mobility, and overal, are you satisfied with the results? [more inside]
What examples of studying the behaviors of animals led to breakthroughs in understanding the behavior of humans in a direct or correlative way? As in, has a Jane Goodall of some species study (like meerkats) been like "Eureka! Meerkat behavior for how they don't want to take out their trash is exactly like teen males!" Or is there some discipline in behavioral studies that is dedicated to finding these common links?
I ate raw green tomatoes. Can I breastfeed? The Poison Control hotline confirmed that there can be toxins like solanine that theoretically can pass through breast milk, so to be safe, i should give the baby stored breast milk and "pump and dump" for a day. Really? [more inside]
Hello fellow sufferers. So the title is pretty explanatory. My family wanted a puppy so after a lot of research we identified the breed etc. I (the potentially allergic person) even had a skin allergy test done. The tests came back negative, but the allergist cautioned me and said basically they only test for major proteins and it was possible I was reacting in the real world to proteins that they dont test form. [more inside]
This year at XOXO Fest I played a card game that had elements similar to Set and a basic memory game. You placed square cards upside down and then took turns either viewing, flipping, or sliding cards IIRC. The object was to make a set of cards in a row. [more inside]
A question just came to me as I was looking over legal papers. Is there any research that says that men who father mostly girls do or don't get along with men who mostly father boys? [more inside]
Are there any Vegas buffets that will have no wait? This is for a weekday (breakfast, lunch or dinner). We want whatever the best options are that won’t have a wait. Thanks!
My landlord is refusing to fix a broken toilet, claiming it's my fault that it keeps clogging and therefore it's *my* responsibility to hire a plumber and pay for the subsequent repairs. Meanwhile, my toilet keeps clogging up so badly I can't use it and it's only a matter of time until it floods the apartment and rains shit water on the shop downstairs (sorry but it's true). [more inside]
Looking for suggestions -- books, websites, personal anecdotes -- about what to do once you realize, "I want to learn to read tarot." (Like, other than "Buy a deck," what are the literal next few steps?) [more inside]
What are some great "soft skills" management courses (especially geared to deep introverts, socially anxious, low EQ type people) that I can ask my job to pay for?
There is a man I just cannot get out of my head, so I made a bold move. His response has been...puzzling. Can someone offer insight? [more inside]
I’ll be spending a few days at La Concha resort in San Juan, PR and would like to eat amazing food that locals eat. The nearer to the resort, the better. Where should I go?
It finally happened: my iPod Nano 7 bit the dust. I bought the Nano 7 as a replacement for a previous Nano 5, even though the 7 was the obviously inferior model, lacking the scroll wheel. I see that the Nano is no longer manufactured in any model, leaving only the iPod Touch, which has all the drawbacks of the 7 and is also way too huge. It's clear that Apple no longer makes products I want to buy, so where do I go from here? [more inside]
I'd like to know what environment/mindset really resonates with you--is there an awesome place in your head that may or may not exist in reality that really ticks your boxes re: safety, comfort, relaxation, and empowerment? Do you know why it resonates with you? And if not have you considered it? As much detail as you're comfortable giving is welcome. Example inside if this is abstruse; I guess it's sort of like the idea of a "happy place" but specific. [more inside]
My job isn't fulfilling me creatively, and is causing me a lot of anxiety, but I can't really decide once and for all whether I should stick around and suck it up and know I'm getting a good salary in a sector that is meaningful to me, or whether I should leave and risk ending up with a worse salary or an equally toxic job elsewhere. I feel like this question has been asked a thousand times, but I just need some help getting over the hump. [more inside]
When we were 21 years old, a friend had a crush on me and I rejected him. 12 years have passed, and we have kept in touch despite living thousands of miles apart. We've traveled together, were roommates for a time, etc. Neither of us has made a move since that one rejection, and I doubt he is interested anymore. But I am. I miss him a ton and fantasize about us being together. And then I get sad. Should I dismiss these fantasies or should I make a move? [more inside]
I’m working on a several month project that involves listening repeatedly to conversations about sexual trauma for long hours. I use audiobooks to unwind while I do chores and craft and I have run out of non-sexual violence content. I’ve tried only YA audiobooks but so much coercion! Loved The Magnus Archives but maybe less nihilistic. I hate true crime. I need at least 20 to 100 hours of content In one books or podcast, something I can sink into.
Asking for a friend: What are your favorite places to stop/eat/shop/browse/stretch your legs along I-70 from St. Louis, Missouri to Limon, Colorado? Long road trip ahead, looking for places to take brief pauses along the way. Thank you! [more inside]
I would like to acquire some pawpaw fruit in time for Thanksgiving. Is this possible? [more inside]
A few years ago I owned a business. As part of the business dissolution, I received a relatively hefty sum in personal goodwill separate from the sale of the business assets and customer list. Unfortunately, at the end of the business sale process my life took a real turn and I never got everything handled with the IRS. I need to know who to talk to and in what order. [more inside]
I'm planning to start a blog that focuses on managing Endometrial Cancer, PCOS, and infertility. These are three separate issues that are linked. There are many blogs out there that focus on PCOS and infertility, but fewer that focus on Endometrial Cancer, so that will be the primary focus in the beginning. [more inside]
Mr. Westridge and I would like to give some assistance to teachers in our area this Holiday season. We don't have kids, and so are pretty clueless regarding whats needed and how to get it into the right hands. Details follow. [more inside]
I’d like to make a long list of possible vacation options for a long weekend in February or March. Details inside: [more inside]
I’m working on an EP that I planned to release on a 7”. I’ve read that 7” records have a limit of seven minutes a side, and one side is coming out to eight-ish minutes. Is seven minutes at 33 the hard limit for time on one side of a 7” record?
I’m a first time home owner. My basement has furnace, water heater, and laundry (all gas powered) and the electrical panel. Should I put a smoke alarm in my basement? If so, how will I be able to hear it in the middle of the night? My bedroom is in the finished attic 3 floors up.
Mr. Pup often gets canker sores. Eating anything acidic or spicy hurts / delays healing, so he eats bland food (basically rice and bread) when he’s on the mend. He ends up losing weight because the food is so boring, and he’s trying to gain weight. What low- or no-acid recipes and snack ideas can you share to keep Mr. Pup eating while he heals? [more inside]
I want to sell items to independent gift shops, not a Spencers or Hallmark store. Looking for guidance on how to set wholesale price based on what I think the retail price would be. [more inside]
My new shag haircut looks dull and blocky. Could it be an execution error by a stylist using the wrong tools? If so, what's the best way to get it fixed (if it's even fixable)? [more inside]
My 4 yo saw the book Guts today at target and fixated on it; I want to give him language to talk about his anxiety but I don’t want to feed / seed it either. Is the book too old for him? And what other books would you recommend for parenting an anxious kid? [more inside]
My wife and I have two kids who go to different daycares, and only one car. We are considering upping our commute game with an e-bike, which would be used to pull a trailer containing one of the kids. I'm looking for general advice as well as recommendations for specific models. [more inside]
I have a shell (jacket) with two liners. The shell is damaged, but the liners are still in great shape. How can I shop online for a new shell? [more inside]
My mother has been diagnosed with what two separate neurologists have independently concluded is probably Alzheimer's. My father took my mother to another doctor for a third opinion. The doctor had my father sign a "transfer of care" away from the neurologist she is currently seeing to her( the new doctor). Is this normal? [more inside]
My wife started a bakery this year and has worked really hard at getting earth-friendly packaging. One thing she's had the hardest time finding, though, is cake boxes. She's hoping for a variety of sizes. She would like to find something made from plant fiber (like sugar cane) because she likes that it's more easily renewable than trees, for example. Does anyone have any ideas?
Had an ultimately unsatisfying pseudo-relationship with someone who I now realise fits all the criteria for an Avoidant relationship style. I know he wants to have a loving relationship, and is flummoxed as to why this keeps happening. Do I break my no contact and share what I've learnt from reading about attachment styles, in a non accusatory and hopefully helpful way? He is a good person and I don't want him to be alone forever, which he is convinced he will be, and honestly so am I. [more inside]
TLDR; my DEXA scan shows a lean mass decrease of approximately 3kg, and a fat increase of about the same, in spite of increasing my strength work outs. Why is this happening and what sort of professional do I talk to figure out how to reverse it? [more inside]
My 38-year-old partner's mum has just revealed they never vaccinated my partner against measles and whooping cough as a child. This is ahead of a holiday - with the mum- somewhere with a measles outbreak. I have a ton of questions, which include how to discuss this with their mum and where/whether to travel at all. [more inside]
I loaned my bicycle to a friend in Jersey City and it was subsequently stolen from their building's bike room (along with several other residents' bikes). The police report my friend filed is now ready to be picked up, which I’d like to do ASAP to get the ball rolling on an insurance claim. Is it even possible for me to go get a copy of the report in person even though I'm not the one who filed it? [more inside]
Need advice on hard drives w/ music files. Seven years ago I ripped a bunch of CDs and also backed up the collection to a Passport hard drive (a little Western Digital black box). I started playing the files on the computer, a Dell laptop, and have ever since. Now, I want to throw all the same music onto a different computer. Should I use the files as they are from the old computer, where I've been playing them? Or would they be "fresher" coming from the Passport hard drive that's just sat safely for seven years? [more inside]
A member of my family is shipping a car across state lines to their daughter who is not reliable. In order to ship the car to Daughter State Y, the car has to be registered and have plates in Home State X. Last time my family member shipped a car to this daughter (yes, second time), daughter did not register the car or get plates in Daughter State Y. All of the tickets and toll bills etc. ended up eventually routed to my family member who paid them. [more inside]
I've been with my partner for four years. Never really had a 'butterflies in the stomach' kind of feeling with her, but we're generally fairly compatible despite having completely different hobbies and interests. Ended up falling head over heals for an old family friend and starting an emotional affair. My partner discovered by reading messages. We've subsequently realised we'd both been very unhappy over the last 2 years, but seem to have identified many of the problems. I'm still not feeling 100% about the relationship though. Should I leave? [more inside]
Looking for board games for a pre-teen girl who will be coming from a Spanish speaking country to live with an American family, with not much previous study of the English language. [more inside]
My rented garage has this RCD power socket installed (or at least one that looks identical). It's acting like it's permanently tripped. Am I just using it wrong? [more inside]
I use marijuana nightly for anxiety, depression and sleep. I am traveling out of the US for a week. Am I going to get withdrawal? How do I deal? Details inside [more inside]
I've uploaded some images here - can anyone tell me what type of camera this might be? [more inside]
Advise me on roach sitings and how to get rid of the *****ers. Complication: new house, a couple of innocuous bug sitings, and prior apartment had roaches but was regularly sprayed. [more inside]
When I lived in the Bay area I used to buy really great, fairly cheap ($7/lb) vegetarian stock powder (sometimes chicken flavored, sometimes "vegetable" flavored, both were good) in bulk at Berkeley Bowl. I moved away and can't find anything that's as good & as cheap, so I'd like to order it in bulk online. Does anyone know what brand it is? I don't think it's Frontier, which seems to be the most common bulk bin supplier.
I want some fleecy leggings for winter. I would like them to be high-rise, come in 7/8ths or petite lengths, and resist pilling and bagging. A higher price point is fine if they are really well made. Thanks!
I've been unhappy with zoloft/sertraline and don't know if I should try something new or continue to make the best of things without it. What should I tell my psychiatrist? [more inside]
Offered a job change that sounds less interesting and would force me out of my comfort zone, in exchange for a significant raise. How should I make this decision? [more inside]
My wife and I thought we were in the final weeks of our road to becoming certified foster parents. Unfortunately, we've hit a roadblock, or at least a significant speed bump. The social worker at our agency is now demanding that my wife attend several months of therapy to obtain a written letter from the therapist that her anxiety diagnosis will not be detrimental to her being a good foster/adoptive parent before they will certify us. We feel horrible about this, as my wife's anxiety is minor and not something we believe would cause us to be unfit parents. We are now wondering if we should switch to another agency, try to plead our case with the current agency, or just suck it up and do what they're asking. Details below. [more inside]
My small division was acquired by a big corporation that is systematically ruining everything good about it. I would like to have a signature cocktail to drink on evenings when something particularly egregious has happened. Suggestions? [more inside]
How do you have a conversation with Trump supporters about politics, or anything related to politics? [more inside]
Which non-fiction of the past ten years should I not miss? I'm looking for books that you're pretty sure you'll still be recommending thirty years from now. [more inside]
I need help finding an entry-level job in marketing in the Los Angeles area (although I live in Riverside right now). I’m sort of flailing in the dark here; nobody I know works in marketing so I don’t have anyone to ask for help. [more inside]
A few months ago I relocated to the Twin Cities area. Suddenly it is unseasonably cold. I think I need a new coat sooner rather than later. [more inside]
I slammed a door on my big toe while wearing flip flops about a week and a half ago. Under my nail is a little sliver of blue - I think that's blood because I poked it thinking it was dirt and it bled. Anyway, I'm worried because it's still very tender to the touch. Although I've been walking on it since I hurt it and it's not crazy painful. Should I go to the doctor or just let it heal? I know YANMD but just curious. I can afford to go to the doctor but I just don't want to take an extra trip.
Going to Cozumel for a week — do I rent a car the whole time or could I get by with a scooter the whole time for exploring the island? [more inside]
A lot of co-working spaces offer healthy snacks, coffee, etc. for sale. Example here. We are looking for a vendor who will install and operate a vending arrangement similar to this (not vending MACHINES, something similar to the video posted) in our building in New York City. I am having trouble locating any companies that operate like this; does such a thing exist?
I was going to visit someone romantically. Then I find out this person is dating our mutual friend when I thought otherwise. Do I cancel the trip? [more inside]
We’re taking down some curtain rods, and can’t figure out how to remove the brackets that were holding them. Here’s a photo of the whole bracket and a photo of the top, which is the only clue to its attachment. All other edges are flush with the wall. Tugging in any direction (up/down/left/right/out) is doing nothing to dislodge it. How do we get these things off?
I read a lot; short stuff; NYT. But anything like a book I find myself drifting away, wondering what I just read. Little retention, easily distracted, so little memorization and comprehension. I try to read again, harder, concentrate more. Not my glasses (I've had them checked for reading distance) and not the subjects. This is not new, had trouble when I was a kid. Help! I want to read all the books I buy but barely get started on. Need to add that short attention is not just a reading issue in my life!
I have a nickel allergy. I also have a cobalt allergy. I might have a chromium allergy as well (am currently looking at getting tested for that). Do electric guitar strings without any of these metals even exist? And if they do, do they exist in heavy gauges (12+ on the high E ideally)? What about bass strings? [more inside]
I started building a Spotify playlist and would love help finding more things that fit the vibe. The artists are all female (with a few that have supporting male voices, but not many) with smoky, rich voices. I titled it Velvet in case that helps set the tone. [more inside]
The title says it. I am a pretty decent cook with access to a giant Asian Supermarket (and vegan ingredients nearby too). What I don't have is any experience eating Thai food beyond pad thai, green curry, and red curry. October's Palak Corn and September's Mole sauce on roasted veggies went over really well, so I want to impress again.
I found a great deal on a laptop (I think!) but I'm woefully out of the game on what to be looking for. I want to use it for school, programming, some games. I mostly want it to last! [more inside]
I need to coordinate multiple family members' calendars including iOS, Google and Outlook. I attempted to use FamilyWall, but it will not pull in one iOS calendar and their tech support has been unable to resolve it. Can anyone recommend a good app for this?
In which countries, if any, is lying to police unpunished? [more inside]
I'm still considering the potato, and this is a question about Acadian recipes, and salt pork, and potatoes. The internet has a trillion recipes, but some clarification would be helpful. [more inside]
Is there any reason to keep my Apple TV (hardware device), if I sign up for Apple TV+ (the streaming app)? This seems like a simple question, but my Google-fu is failing me. [more inside]
I need gift suggestions for family and friends who like to give gifts to my tweens for upcoming holidays. These kids have everything they could think to ask for already (literally shrug when I ask what to tell people). [more inside]
I asked this question six years ago, but I'm getting an Xbox One and so I thought I'd ask again: what's new on the visually stunning, nonviolent exploration/puzzle games front? [more inside]
My partner is in college for the first time, balancing school with work. He's not getting any financial aid outside of loans-- is there anything we should be doing differently, or is that just the norm? [more inside]
Looking for recommendations on books (audio is fine) or podcasts that tackle the issue of talking to people who you disagree with or openly dislike. [more inside]
I picked up a "Hits of the 80s" album on YouTube music and only realized while listening in the car that NONE of the songs were originals. They were all soundalike covers. (The Ultravox one really made my eyelid twitch!) I understand such songs are made for advertising purposes... and it didn't cost me anything to download, but why the heck would a consumer buy or want an album of fake songs? In short, what are they for? [more inside]
It's another Arabic calligraphy question, this time supervillain-themed. Can anyone read what it says on this t-shirt, around the Hydra skulltopus? [more inside]
Do you ever turn your head while awake or asleep and feel a muscle in your neck do something weird, which results in not being able to turn your head normally and without pain for several days? That happened to me this morning and today has been a complete waste. [more inside]
I have a few hundred old family photos that I want to digitise (using my iphone). Please give me your recommendations on how I might best organise and store them together with some text about each photo. [more inside]
What's a good Christmas present to give a 7 year old who's getting into spy and detective stuff? [more inside]
Stroke of luck, a friend re-signed up for new cable, new phone service, new iPhone. Sign-up bonus: brand new iPad. He sold it to me for $100. Another friend just got latest iPhone, sold me his iPhone 7 Plus for $150. So I've a brand new iPad, a sweet (if a bit dated) iPhone. I've used cheapo android phones and don't even know what all they can do -- Apple a whole nother game. Seeking instructional site, series of videos, where I can go from knowing nothing to utilizing these amazing pieces of gear. Any ideas? [more inside]
I'm after some rational solutions to reduce a newly-recognised but long-term trigger for anxiety. [more inside]
I want to work on my physical fitness, but I don't want to leave my house. [more inside]
I'm interested in writing short stories (genre fiction more so than literary or non-fiction). Share with me the best resources for learning how to do this well. [more inside]
For an art project, I would like to generate some maps of neighborhoods in various cities, from OpenStreetMap, I guess. I would like to keep this as simple and cheap as possible. [more inside]
You have a microwave on which you have completely muted button and reminder beeps. What specific model is it, and would you recommend I buy it? (Please no comments about how the beeps are for safety, etc. I am aware of the danger of leaving bagel bites in the microwave for too longer after they're done, thanks.)
My couch is about 10 years old, and while structurally sound, the foam is noticeably less supportive than it used to be. How should I go about replacing it? [more inside]
I have a question about definite article use--and its non-use. [more inside]
Seems obvious that the answer would be PS4 if I can afford it, BUT there are snowflakes involved. My primary use for the Playstation will be to play RockBand, puzzle games (like Portal 2), and games I can play with my 6.5 yo daughter (like MineCraft). [more inside]
I’m making a custom crossword for which the player will input their guesses into Excel. My plan is to have two sheets in this document: a hidden puzzle with all the correct letters in it (the player is on the honor system), and a visible sheet with the proper boxes blacked-out and the rest empty. (Obviously each cell has to correspond exactly between them.) I know just enough about Excel to know that there’s gotta be a way to set up a visible indicator when the puzzle is completed successfully, but… [more inside]
Our smoke/CO detectors are at the end of their lives. Time for new ones. The thing is, everyone hates their smoke/CO detector. [more inside]
I live in Orange County. I'm not from around here, originally, but I've been here for about 10 years now. I find that I've been in my office for the past few hours, listening to Elton John's "Goodbye Yellow Brick Road" on repeat, and longing desperately to get away from the shiny, commercial, traffic-filled life and somehow, just for a little while, escape. For people who are in Orange County: Is there anywhere you like to go when you feel like this? [more inside]
I've been doing this unofficially for several years and I finally want to try to take some next steps with my freelance work. I want to focus on resume review, interview prep, and career coaching. Help me pick a domain name.
My mother has three prints that she acquired knowing only that they were "a Chinese artist," and although I can make out part of the title of the prints, I haven't had any luck figuring out the name of the artist. Can anyone read either the title of the prints or the artist? Bonus points for the seal! [more inside]
I'd like a book on nutrition aimed at athletic women aged 50 or higher. Any favorites? [more inside]
My daughter's friend is turning nine. According to her mom, she likes "anything cat. Toys, books, clothes, you name it." This somehow does not help narrow it down at all! Please help! [more inside]
I live in New York, am quitting my job, and plan on traveling and maybe doing a freelance project or two in the next 3-4 months. What are my health insurance options in the meantime? [more inside]
I last had an Ektorp 3 seater couch purchased in 2005, before they came disassembled. You literally walked out with a couch. My understanding is that now they come disassembled, with a base, back, and arms. I LOVED that Ektorp. Do the "new" ones hold up as well? Are they as comfortable? I'm looking at the 3.5 seater, and it's at the way high end of my price rage, but I don't want to get it if they aren't as comfortable as they used to be.
I need an eggless vegetarian Thanksgiving stuffing recipe. Over the years I've tried many, and they've mostly sucked. Parameters inside. [more inside]
Hi all, my job just designed a swanky new logo and we'd like to stick it up on the wall outside our office. Probably something around 3 feet long by 2 feet high, with color (not black and white). I found a few options online for custom vinyl decal printing -- does anyone have any specific recommendations or stay-away-froms? [more inside]
You all were so helpful last year in my sister's Thanksgiving appetizer competition, here's this year's... Select a single color and make a dish. We need 2 for adults and 1 for a tween. Only green has been taken. Suggestions?
I am looking for a decent sectional couch for under $1500, but I have many conditions and it is making things complicated. The biggest issue is that the longest part must be <110'', and I have cats so I need a slipcover to fit it. [more inside]
I'm prepping to teach abnormal psychology to undergrads, and want to find some videos about various mental disorders to show. What engaging, short to mid-length (<30 min) videos have helped you understand a mental disorder in a new way? [more inside]
For those who dropped their caffeine habit cold turkey (or close to) in favor of ADHD meds - should I expect to have any withdrawal symptoms? Or will it feel like an "upgrade" since ADHD meds are generally regarded to be more "powerful" than caffeine products? [more inside]
Within my organization, there has been rising awareness of the transgender day of remembrance, culminating in an event. The organizers - who identify as trans - have asked the org and attending individuals to not display rainbow pride flags/symbols during the event, just trans flags/symbols. [more inside]
Is there a way to verify the number of books printed in a edition of a book?
I'm wondering if anyone knows any established poets or authors of other genres who have written about dementia. [more inside]
I’ve been trying to find a workout class to sign my partner and I up for, but totally overwhelmed with these new fancy classes. Help. [more inside]
A friend asked/offered to live together in a new apartment, but now seems to be dragging their feet a little. Should I chalk it up to them being worn out and short on time, or bail on this whole idea, and if it is reason one, should I be doing more to help with the apartment search> [more inside]
I'm looking for a todo app with a difference. I want a list (or ideally multiple lists) where I can input a list of tasks and when one has been done it goes to the bottom of the list. [more inside]
I'm a customer of an unscrupulous ePOS company - all of my stock holding is stored in a Firebird database. Pictures, barcodes, stock levels, descriptions etc. I'd dearly like to move to a new ePOS provider and import my current data into their system. My current provider won't help with this and they won't disclose the username and password, either. [more inside]
Please tell me about your dual-monitor setup and how are you using it to be a (more) productive business professional. [more inside]
I bought a motion-detecting light set to attach under the upper kitchen counters. It will only light up when it's dark, because it turns out it's for closets. I want to be able to wave my hand under a small, bar-shaped, bright, batter-powered light and have it brighten for 10 or so minutes. Does this exist? [more inside]
How could two CFL light bulbs burn out at the same time? [more inside]
I'm an American looking to marry a Chinese citizen, with the aim to move to America together (we are currently in China). It seems pretty straightforward, but I have two questions...within! [more inside]
I want go into ocean science - but I have to navigate some tricky obstacles and a whole lot of unknowns. I also have no idea what I'm doing. More below the fold. [more inside]
My mom has bad enough arthritis in one of her hands that she seriously struggles with trimming her other hand. Are there any options that might work better for her? [more inside]
I really like fiction that takes established universes or tropes and plays with them or completely subverts them. What should I check out next? [more inside]
Is it cheaper (in terms of gas-usage / energy usage) to run a new bath in the evening or to keep the morning bath heated throughout the day? [more inside]
Who makes this inverse/bar-end brake lever, and where can I buy a pair?
I've never had or even used a dishwasher. Now I'm living in a place that has one. What do I need to know about cleaning it (it really needs a good clean), using it, and getting my dishes clean? [more inside]
I recently had to throw out the front driver's seat floor mat in my mid-2010s 4-door Honda Accord. I went to the dealership and they offered a replacement set of four floor mats for $255. Obviously that's not happening. I'd rather go without floor mats than pay that exorbitant price. What are my best options for after-market floor mats? How can I make sure that they'll fit in my car? What's the best place to buy them?
I want to make a picture book for a 6-year-old boy who loves music, but I've got no ideas. Maybe he's a rockstar and then.... um yeah I've got nothing. Can you lovely creative Mefites throw me a few story prompts?
What entrepreneurship programs support domestic violence survivors? [more inside]
I have houseguests. Last night one of them made dinner and put a lot of turmeric in it. So much of it that 24 hours later the taste is still lingering in my mouth. I've brushed my teeth several times. I've used mouthwash. I've drunk lemonade hoping the acidity would help. Nothing is helping and I really really don't like this taste. Am I the only one who has experienced this? Any suggestions? Yeah, I know, it will eventually dissipate.
I need to get video of mosquitos in flight. I'm particularly interested in ones around 250 cm (8 ft) from the camera so I was going to set the focus there, but even if they're blurred I need to record all of them within the field of vision. I know between little and nothing about cameras or video in general. [more inside]
I have a show coming up in December and for the first time I won't be doing my own photo developing. I'd like to do prints on metal, canvas and standard archival photo paper. I've seen a number of reviews, but I value the opinion of Mefites more than random blogs. Have you gotten particularly spectacular prints from somewhere? Is there a review that you actually trust? I'm giving up some control over the process, and I want to go with a company I can trust. (My turn around is a little tight, so I would rather stay with stateside companies rather than deal with international shipping.) [more inside]
"Travel Agent". How much does 10 days of budget travel for two in Japan cost? [more inside]
I am very early in pregnancy and have been taking in a lot information and advice about what foods to eat and not to eat, but there appears to be a huge variance in people's personal risk tolerance as well as in whether they happen to have a more laid back or uptight OB. [more inside]
Short version: I dialed the wrong number by mistake and am now being flooded with calls from various 800 numbers tracing back to the same company. How do I make this stop? [more inside]
There are lots of forums devoted to life in Bali, and more specifically to Ubud, but the hive mind has never steered me wrong. And I have questions about moving a family of four to the Ubud area for a minimum of one year starting July 2020. [more inside]
After many years of health issues and setbacks, in late 2018 I decided I was ready to meet someone. I joined several dating apps and did my best, but I have only had a few dates (about 5 with three different guys) and only once did I get past the first date, in that case I got three dates and then he didn’t want any more. [more inside]
I am rehabilitating a 1995 Nissan D21 Hardbody. One thing it needs is new leaf springs. Some questions ... [more inside]
About a month ago (plus or minus) I read an article somewhere online about "survey fatigue" - especially regarding the ubiquitous NPS (Net Promoter Survey) that all companies seem to be asking these days. Has anyone seen this article? [more inside]
I recently bought two cameras (one tape and one digital) that each had baby video on them. I am considering posting a notice on FB to try to find the parents of the kids to see if they want the tape/files. [more inside]
I have several yards of synthetic upholstery fabric. It is heavy weight and a dusty rose in color. Ideally I'd like it to be a sage green. Any suggestions? The Rit website suggested adding green would (reasonably enough) create brown but had no suggestions about how to create green.
Does an app like this exist? I would like to be able to input a bunch of text messages of my own choosing (motivational, reminders to stand up and stretch, etc.) and have them sent to me in a random order on a regular but not strictly scheduled basis (e.g., it would send me one of my messages in every two hour period, but not at the exact same interval). I’m only interested in apps where I get to input the content.
Do you have any recommendations for a 30-90 minute show I can watch on Netflix (or maybe Youtube) this morning? [more inside]
I would like to take the ferry from Cork, Ireland to Santander, Spain in February on foot. They do not allow passengers without vehicles. Is there a way to do this? A bus that I haven't been able to find or maybe a casual carpool or other way? If I could rent a car and dump it in Santander or Bilboa, I may be interested, but I would prefer not to.
I'm a 33 year old accountant living in the Washington, DC (NOVA) area, and plan to apply to law school next fall. In the meantime, I'd like to volunteer on Saturdays for a legal organization or with the court. My personal goals are to learn more about attorneys' day-to-day work, to start developing an interest in a specific specialty, and hopefully to wind up with a law school rec letter (maybe even a mentor). Where should I volunteer? [more inside]
Is is possible to update multiple Outlook calendar invites at once OR create Outlook invites in bulk via a mail merge kind of action? [more inside]
I have a Thinkpad T470s, in good condition, running Windows 10. This morning it suddenly started giving trouble: its battery (one of the two batteries is registering but not supplying power) and its display (which suddenly cycles to red and then back, sometimes immediately sometimes not). I am about to leave for a work trip overseas and would like to get it sorted quickly. Any suggestions what I should do to fix it? I am self-employed so I'm my own IT department. [more inside]
I've got a limited-edition Wave City coffee table (link/info inside), and a somewhat persistent individual interested in buying it. With my financial situation having gone down the toilet in the years since I got it, it's getting awfully tempting to sell. But for how much? [more inside]
Trans, non-binary, and genderqueer folks! How do you feel about the cutesy "whatever, just wash your hands" all-gender public restroom signs? The ones that typically feature fanciful creatures such as fairies and satyrs, unicorns and dragons, aliens and mermaids, or robots and (more) aliens? [more inside]
A few months or a year ago I found a website that specialized in selling baseball caps (and I think maybe jerseys as well) that were high quality reproductions of negro league and old minor league teams with cool logos/history. Now I'm having trouble tracking it down... [more inside]
Well, winter is here and I woke up this morning to a dead car battery. I'm waiting for roadside assistance to come out, but I rarely plug my car in during the winter because I've always been suspicious that my block heater doesn't work. How do I know if it works for sure? [more inside]
A friend of mine is looking to price/sell her wedding china. It's an unused 12 place set of Tiffany band china: soup bowl, small plate, dinner plate, sugar bowl and creamer, serving platter, vegetable dish, soup tureen, coffee pot, twelve cups and saucers. (Either she will sell it or her STBX will buy out her half. She currently has an offer that feels lowball, $1200 for the set.) Where in the NYC metro area can she sell this? She also has silver utensils, so both at once would be a bonus.
Approximately what year did these stickers popular with children and as packaging highlights first appear?
Two part question. Seeking a camel leather convertible backpack that can pass as feminine-ish/androgynous but not super femme, and is big enough to hold an iPad and a few other things. Also seeking the best possible men's shoes for comfort, nonslip and longevity. [more inside]
Look at this old book. I know nothing about it. It could be 1,000 years old. It could be a stage prop from 1987. Can you tell me anything about it? Thanks!
I'm trying to find an essay or a magazine article about the Trump administration and the Republican party from at least a year ago and my google-fu is completely failing me. Unfortunately, I don't remember the author or what publication it was in. Two things stood out for me about the essay. First, it featured a very vivid biological metaphor about some sort of insect or virus that did not just kill its victim, but completely transforms its still-alive host in a particularly cruel way. [more inside]
No, with no Rhyme or Reason, when I click on a link in Google, a new tab opens trying to sell me something related to the link that I clicked on. [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out a solution to handling a contest with variable entry fee for a club I'm involved with using our existing wordpress site. Can you recommend a shopping cart plugin that will do what I need? [more inside]
I am looking for tips, suggestions, and recommendations for where to buy a new (road?) bike anywhere within 4 hours of central Pennsylvania. More specificity below the fold. [more inside]
If you LOVE being a mom (or the default parent if not a mom), can you break down why? Is it something you DO? Is it a way of thinking? Is it an attitude thing? Just your personality?
We have a toilet that gets super stinky and accumulates dark flecks on the underside of the seat and lid. Cleaning it temporarily removes the odor and the dark flecks, but they soon return. I believe nobody in the apartment is taking super-messy poops in there. We've cleaned it, gone away, and come back to find it dirty again. But I don't think it's backing up because we're on the fourth floor, the sink and tub drain fine, and we never see anything in the bowl. Help?
I have owned a lovely bamboo flute in the key of G for years and years. I'm having a super hard time finding another one. [more inside]
Over Christmas I'll be traveling with my family to a small US vacation town and I have the opportunity rent a Tesla. I'd love to do this - is it practical? [more inside]
I need help remembering what this funny Coldplay reference is from. I think a guy had just gotten broken up with and he weepily says “I finally understand Coldplay. We ARE all yellow!” Maybe he was in love instead of dumped. I can’t remember if it was from a movie or a tv show or it could even be from a stand-up routine. Anyone else remember this? I’ve had no luck googling.
I'm currently in a Zola and Balzac phase and would love to hear recommendations about books, podcasts, videos, academic articles (I am grad student with access to jstore) about these authors and their novels (and other 19th century authors). Also if there are any books that link the art world with the literary world, share those too. My reading knowledge of French is low intermediate so English resources are preferred.
I love the plush toys by Barbara Sansoni! If you ask me they are more fabric works of art than toys. Especially the crocodiles! They are from Sri Lanka and I’ve only seen them in a handicrafts from around the world type store like the one in Seattle. I’m looking for a way I can order several pieces without paying exorbitant shipping fees to ship from the UK or Australia. eBay is a no go. Etsy did not work either. Thank you!
I live in a townhouse, and my neighbor has started playing a bass in the evenings, around 8-11pm for 1-2 hours. I get up early and this isn't working well for me. Musicians, what are some equipment solutions I can suggest beyond quiet hours? [more inside]
I'm a science grad student (in the USA) in the fourth year of my PhD, in a small lab group of other nearly-completed PhD students. Our advisor decided he wanted to move to a new lab space, and has told us to do everything. I recognize this isn't fair. Can/should I do anything about it? [more inside]
What can they be? In the last couple of months I've been noticing tiny flying bugs in my living room. They're a little floaty rather than flying more directly, like flies or something. They don't bite, but they seem attracted to me. I don't see groups of them sitting on furniture or other surfaces. [more inside]
I have a friend with whom I have a great relationship that I really value. We actually met when our kids were infants and they have been playmates for both of their lives. The problem is I don't like the way their son plays with ours. [more inside]
I'm looking for some fun bar trivia for peeps who are pretty particular about bar trivia. [more inside]
My volunteer organization needs a method to log member availability for about fifteen separate events over a ten-month season. [more inside]
I am having extremely distracting dental pain. Please help me solidify or change my plan. [more inside]
I have a friend in Toronto who owns a rental property. She wants to evict the current "excellent tenant" so that her pregnant granddaughter can move in. Ontario law says that she cannot do that unless it's her daughter, not her granddaughter. As a result, she now wants to change the title to put her daughter as co-owner so that she can then do the eviction. I believe this is unethical. I'm curious if it's unlawful. [more inside]
I feel like I've seen this trope a lot in popcorn movies: a mother is grieving something (usually the loss of her husband or another child) and for that reason she's not emotionally available to her kids. Then something threatens the family and by the end she's like, SUPER into her kids. Can you give examples of movies that do this (not TV shows?)
I have my mind on an art project and it requires sixteen (16) identical hardcover books. I'd like to spend as little money as possible. [more inside]
I'm in my 50's and have a very ectomorphy body and have always been skinny. I had a year of gaining some weight (maybe 7 pounds above normal) and now I've lost it but still have those gross bulges protruding over my swimsuit. Is it ever possible for us old people to naturally lose them? [more inside]
Mr. Armeowda and I will be in the Reedsport area on Thanksgiving to visit my aunt. We fly in via Medford (long story) that afternoon. We originally had plans for Aunt to buy groceries in advance, and we’d make dinner together. But after travel dates were locked in, some health stuff came up. She now has surgery scheduled two days before our visit. We want to remove the shop/cook/cleanup burden by picking up dinner. Will anyplace be open? [more inside]
I am looking for some children's classics to listen to in the car with my elementary aged kids. The problem is that so many of the children's classics I remember have some pretty awful content hidden among the delightful English countryside or wherever. Specifically seeking classics and not modern books. [more inside]
I have Comcast gigabit internet, and use my own cable modem (which then hooks to my router, etc.) In evaluating my plan Comcast said they will lower my internet cost by $50 but the catch is...I MUST install and use their modem/router. Is there any reason I shouldn't do it? [more inside]
Rising autocrats are usually facilitated by politicians who are caught up in the credo (i.e. believers) and/or at direct material stake (i.e. paid off). Is there much historic precedent for privately disgusted representative leaders falling hostage to constituent buy-in to the populist b.s.?
I will be in Tulsa in a couple of weeks for work. I really love hamburgers, and it seems like Tulsa has an awful lot of hamburger restaurants. How do I choose? [more inside]
I've gotten into a number of podcasts. These podcasts put out merchandise, like pins and posters. I really like these pins and posters! I want them, and I want to support my favorite podcasts! But what does one do with pins and posters? [more inside]
I'm producing music, so at home I have a USB-connected audio interface through which I route all of my audio. When I have my laptop on the road, I need my audio switched around so that it comes out of the built-in speakers. I'm tired of having to go into sound options and switch this back and forth every time I plug in. Is there a software / MacOS built-in solution to either be able to detect when the audio interface has been plugged in and switch, or to create a hotkey or something to switch between audio configurations?
My son uses Google Docs for all school work (school requires it). The spellcheck function is atrocious! Are we doing something wrong? Is there a solution? [more inside]
Thinking about upgrading the shower in our bathroom & have some interest in a large rain-style showerhead with a handheld accessory for rinsing off soap, etc. Looking for your recommendations/experiences. [more inside]
I am enrolled in a master's programme for history, I applied to this particular programme for its focus on a particular region. Now the professor who usually teaches a survey course (that provides a sweeping overview of the region) is a bit of a superstar in his field and he's away this year -- so the course is being taught by a youngish prof who as nice as he is doesn't really know how to lead discussion seminars. [more inside]
What are the best-written arguments you've seen both for and against preserving online anonymity? [more inside]
Please share tips, techniques, and favorite recipes for salads that contain leafy greens and will keep in the fridge for more than two days. [more inside]
I don't own a bar code scanner. Is there any software or web service that will OCR (or, better, OCR plus look up product info for) image files of bar codes? My usual solution for quickie OCR needs, Picatext (Mac only), isn't quite right for this task.
I need a punny name for a group of women that is somehow tied to ancient Egypt. Something along the lines of "Midlife Isis" or "Scrolling in the Deep" (those are not awesome examples, hence why I'm asking this question). This is related to Mardi Gras, but nothing profane or too sexual. Pop-culture, drinking, song references, etc. are ok. Help!
I am by nature an anxious overthinker. Add to this the fact that I'm now back in the dating pool, 35, female and wanting to find the man that I settle down and have babies with and I am reaching what I think is the zenith of an extremely unhealthy pattern of not being able to see the wood for the trees and stressing myself out needlessly. Please help. [more inside]
I have biked all winter for years and years and I still don't have a satisfactory biking coat situation. What works for you? [more inside]
Last night I couldn't fall asleep for ages bc I kept having itchy spots all over. Does anyone know a remedy? [more inside]
I would like to back up my new MacBook Air to an external hard drive, but have no idea how to configure this... [more inside]
IKYNMD - and here is the back story. I've been sick with a few issues - with many symptoms for at least 6 years. Only recently (last 3 months) it's been confirmed that due to high calcium and PTH that I'm basically dealing with a parathyroid issue. [more inside]
I'm looking for the most difficult mountain/terrain I can hike up/across, on a hobbyist budget and without technical/mountaineering experience. [more inside]
My partner tends to dump anything they are holding or using onto the nearest flat surface and leave it there, this drives me crazy. There's no rhyme or reason to it, just whatever is convenient. When I confront them about this they tend to get defensive and turn the conversation into how I also am messy and therefore it's no ones fault. How do I defuse their attempt to redirect the conversation to my failings and get them to actually engage and improve. Further details below the fold. [more inside]
Where have you stayed that's peaceful, breathtaking, and relatively affordable in the US/southern Canada? [more inside]
Where and how should I order a custom wood brand? [more inside]
I now have a Win10 Home laptop. The built-in Edge browser loads automatically, and interferes with some other programs. I want to disable it, since I'm not using it, but MS doesn't want me to. [more inside]
I have a weekly boardgame night that's pretty recently turned into Gloomhaven Night. I'm looking for recommendations for background music and ambient sounds to go with our sessions. [more inside]
Is there a way to trap a bat without actually seeing a bat? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a short story for a friend. It's about a hacked hot-beverages machine in a research facility, and one line references Picard's famous order, "Tea, Earl Grey, hot." More details inside. [more inside]
Where can I directly download the transcripts of the impeachment witness testimony in the House? Scribd demands I log in and the other couple places I saw had embedded document windows on their web pages, no way to download them to read on my own time. [more inside]
I'm in Bangladesh for work, and I find myself facing a long weekend in Dhaka. I could stay in the hotel and work and probably will for part of it, but I'd like to see or do at least something. [more inside]
Friends of AskMe, I find myself with child, after two years of trying and two rounds of IUI fertility treatment. I am having a lot of Thoughts and Feelings, and I yearn for reading about feminist perspectives on the experience of pregnancy, whether it leads to birth or not. Therefore, I find myself in need of a Feminist Pregnancy Book. [more inside]
One specific and one general question for fun date ideas; let’s go! [more inside]
I used to take injectable medication and I still have about 20 pre-filled syringes left. I tried to turn them into the DEA on their take back day and they refused. The flyers they gave me are generic and only talk about where to dispose of used needles. I want to get rid of these unused - where? [more inside]
I am looking for recommendations on devices or ways to make washing dishes not so much of a chore. [more inside]
Found these photos on the internet and somebody told me they mention some health tips for life. Can you help me out to translate them? Each photo has a different set of "rules". Thanks!
I have 12 staff members who are scheduled at any one of 3 locations between 9 am and 11 pm Monday through Friday. What's going to be the clearest, easiest, simplest way to convey this information in poster form? By person? By time? Or by place? Join me as I way overthink this with [more inside]
Do I tip this person off? Details below the fold. [more inside]
i want two air purifiers that filter the bejesus out of two spaces (300 sq ft, 600 sq ft) when the air is sooty or pollen-y or otherwise spare the air day-y. [more inside]
I work in a branch office of a company that has a much larger home office fairly nearby. Standard "office supplies" that one could normally get at an office store are supplied by the home office, but me and a couple other coworkers handle procuring other items (snacks, paper towels, tissues, dish soap, medications, etc.) ourselves through a couple different methods. Our branch has grown to a degree that this is becoming unsustainable. What are our options? [more inside]
How do I connect this DVD player when the TV is out of HDMI ports? [more inside]
I bought concert tickets for myself and a friend, but couldn't go for Reasons. I asked friend if they wanted to take someone else in my place, but they didn't know anyone who could go. [more inside]
My dog (Merlin) got into an 8 oz container of Hershey's Special Dark cocoa while I was away this morning. The container currently weighs more than the advertised weight (226 grams) - it's weighing out to 259 grams. But there was definitely some on the floor and I assume he consumed some so I assume some of that weight is packaging. Does anyone have an unopened container they can weigh for me so I can do a worst case scenario math?
How often should I clean my rice cooker? I have a fancy fuzzy-logic rice cooker with a delicate non-stick inner pot. I use the rice cooker everyday. Assume I know what the *best practice* of cleaning the inner pot of the rice cooker, i.e. every day with a warm water and a soft sponge. Looking for good-enough answers that considers the capacities of tired worn-out parents with young children and full-time jobs. [more inside]
Does anyone know what these seeds are called? [more inside]
My searches have not yielded a good result. Does anyone know the term used to describe the clinginess or stickiness or perhaps grippiness of rubber or rubber-like materials? Examples of products that exhibit of lot of clinginess are those rubber pads for car dashboards that cling to cell phones or adhesive rubber dots used to keep artwork straight on walls, etc. [more inside]
All Mrs. True wants for Christmas is for everyone in the family to TURN OUT THE BATHROOM LIGHTS when they aren't using them. I'd like to come up with a magic button to make this happen, from anywhere in the house. Help me make her dreams come true! [more inside]
I watched about an hour of the NYC Marathon yesterday to cheer on some friends as they ran through my neighborhood. I noticed that there were many runners who ran with stuffed pineapples strapped to the top of their heads or their foreheads. They were not running as a team. What's up with this? [more inside]
I'm giving thought to this qualification, and I'm interested in soliciting opinions as to its value (or lack of it). Snowflakes below the fold. [more inside]
My current job is building SharePoint business workflows - e.g. approval workflows - in Nintex (example) and MS Flow (example), mostly for the Audit and Compliance teams. I'm successful at this because I'm good at understanding and mapping out customer requirements, building low risk/ stable/ adaptable workflows, and testing rigorously. I'd like to find a new job which utilizes these skills and would also allow me to broaden my experience (vs just re-doing what I do now). What other types of opportunity could I be looking for/ what other keywords could I be searching for on Indeed?
I have a 17 year old cat and his behavior has changed significantly in the last year or so - can you tell me why, and if there's anything to be done? [more inside]
What flowers and plants are in New Orleans? [more inside]
We will be cruising with day stops at Port of Key West and Port of Cozumel in late December. We would like to go snorkeling, interact with dolphins, caving, and eating. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I'm looking for small clear boxes I can buy in bulk and use to hold earplugs, similar to these. Help? [more inside]
Most of our Crock-Pot recipes call for cooking on low for 6 to 8 hours. But thanks to our work schedules we usually put the food in 12 hours before we take it out, so the Crock-Pot stays on warm for an extra 4 to 6 hours before we get home and eat. This means everything gets a little dried out, no matter how liquidy. Can we adjust the cook time down if we know it's going to sit on warm for hours? How many hours on warm = 1 hour on low?
How does The RealReal get away with taking such a big cut of consignment sales? [more inside]
I’m a new, wearer of glasses. I love them but I’m having an issue. I haven’t been “oily/greasy” for the past 20+ years but my new glasses beg to differ. I cannot keep them clean and every little smudge drives me nuts! Give me your best tips on keeping my new specs sparkling clean. [more inside]
What should I do with a possibly rainy Saturday in Seattle next weekend? [more inside]
When I moved earlier this year, the moving company lost and damaged many of my things as signed and acknowledge on the BoL by the delivery representative. Based on the $0.60 per lb. valuation, I am owed several thousand dollars. They currently offered $86. Is there any law or regulation I should site or use to ensure I am properly covered. [more inside]
I am quite happy with my new job. My only issue is with one of my peers. He's very very good at what he does and I think we tend to respect each others' opinion. However, our style as to the how is incredibly different and a source of friction. Any advice? Particularly love to hear from folks more like him. [more inside]
Please recommend a San Francisco restaurant for an indulgent weekday lunch in mid-December for a dozen or so people. If they have a private room, that's a bonus. [more inside]
I don't need my lashes to be thicker or longer. I just need them to be dark all the way to the tip, and have a natural shine. Is there a mascara that will do this? *bonus question* I would also like to find a powder-based eyeliner, the kind of thing you sort of tap into your lash line to make a soft line. I guess I can do this with any dark eyeshadow but I wonder if there's one you particularly recommend.
I work at a small company (we are only 7 people, including the owner). The owner, my boss, is getting married this weekend and I am invited. It is supposedly a very small wedding, in the neighborhood of 30 guests. [more inside]
We want someone to inspect our French drains, and also give us an opinion on whether an area of our yard could be paved or needs to stay gravel for drainage. [more inside]
I need to transcribe 15 to 20 hours of interviews. Someone recommended Express Scribe software and the foot pedal, but I see that it gets pretty mixed reviews. Do you have any tips for transcribing efficiently? What has worked for you? I have a Mac, and I'm recording my interviews both on my iPhone and also with an Olympus recorder. I've found AI transcription software to be useless. And for various reasons, I'm not keen on paying someone else to do it.
This is a band I remember listening to about a year ago. They were two brothers who grew up in Florida. [more inside]
I’m interested in going to graduate school to earn a MSW. What’s it like to be a school social worker or a social worker in a hospital/healthcare setting? What is the demand/competition like for these jobs? [more inside]
I'm an editor of (among other things) personal essays, and people who work with me have compared the process to therapy. I love this part of the job—helping people figure out what they really mean and how to express it—but being an editor is intensely precarious right now. I'm kicking around the idea of getting a counseling degree. Is there a middle step I can take instead, or while that's in process? [more inside]
We both have an upcoming (return) flight scheduled. We both flew out but only one of us is flying back. She can make it. I can't. The flight is non-refundable, non-changable. How can she best make use of my empty seat? [more inside]
I need vegetarian main course ideas for a recurring group dinner of 15-30 people! For the sake of my sanity, the meals should be:
- Possible to prepare for a large group in ~3 hours. I'm still learning this skill, so general advice here is appreciated as well!
- Ready to serve to everyone all at once. For instance, pizza is not ideal, because by the time the 6th pizza is ready, the 1st pizza is already cold.
I would like to have a peaceful soul-cleansing desert hiking experience somewhere in the American southwest during the first 10 days of December. I would be flying in from New York and without a car. Does any particular destination come to mind for this? [more inside]
Someone I love very much and spend a lot of time with is EXTREMELY negative and pessimistic. I am a pretty positive person and having a running narrative about how bad things are is very difficult to deal with and manage. Have you dealt with someone like this before? What kind of stratagies might I try? [more inside]
My refrigerator began to run loudly a few days ago. Should I try to fix this, and if so, how? [more inside]
One of the burners on our electric stove blew up (will explain further). I am curious to know certain estimates, like: how hot it may have been, the amount of TNT it was equivalent to, and the amount of UV and IR radiation that might have been emitted. [more inside]
I got this new clock from amazon which states: "2 Display mode: it can have a fixed display with time, humidity and temperature or it can alternatively switch between time, date, humidity and temperature in turn." Mine keeps switching from time to date, but I want it to stay just on the fixed display with time. I can't find any way to do change this in the English version of the instructions (I can only read English), nor in any google results. Perhaps there is something more in the Chinese version? Can anyone read this and see a way??
How can I bring more of a feel of a "country life" into living in a city, WITHOUT moving? [more inside]
My dad has five sheets of physical paper filled with account information and passwords. I'd like to backup this information by taking pictures and storing those images in a password manager, rather than typing everything out, now, and verifying that I got everything correct. But, I don't want the images to end up in iCloud or something. And I don't know which password managers support image storage, anyway. [more inside]
I am told that couples counselling is not recommended for situations with an abusive partner. Why is this, and what is recommended instead?
When I’m in relationships, I have a bunch of emotional needs, things that make me feel loved —and if these aren’t met, I’m absolutely miserable and the frustration builds up . [more inside]
I've been asked at the beginning of interviews if I have any questions. Google doesn't really turn up anything, and I have an interview in a couple of days for a very competitive job, so no room for error. Is there a decorum for this, because in every case I've asked to defer to the end and not gotten the job. Thanks.
Hi! I'm going to try my hand at candle making for loved ones for Christmas. Is there a place in Portland where I can buy tiny samples of essential oils? I don't really want to buy full bottles because if I hate making candles then I will have wasted a bunch of money. Thanks!
I would like to get my masters degree but most programs do not appear feasible for me right now. After some online research, I found many accredited programs which are several orders of magnitude cheaper and would work better with my schedule with young children and working full time. [more inside]
Say that a person was convinced to switch away from AirBnB. What alternatives are there for people with a room to rent out? [more inside]
The vet says partner's cat needs some kitty dental surgery. What's an average price range for this? Relevant details inside. [more inside]
Help me fill 20 4x4x4 boxes with wonderful little things! [more inside]
I've been trying to remember the name of a web browser I used in 2001 or 2002. It may have been very niche, as I can't find it on the Wikipedia pages. Details inside. [more inside]
After 10 years, it's time to replace our old Magic Bullet. What's the best single-serving blender? Wirecutter says the Nutribullet, but other reviews--including comments on that article--are less positive. This will be used almost exclusively for making smoothies, or the occasional dressing/sauce. But 99% of the time, smoothies, involving frozen fruit and the other usual suspects. A quieter option is a big plus, but I realize that's challenging.
Is there a restaurant anywhere close to The Centre in the Square that can accommodate both vegan and keto diets? What's good for one is bad for the other, so a pure vegan place is out, but I'm not seeing a lot of vegan dishes at regular restaurants. This is for a celebration, so a little spendy is okay, but time will be a factor, so nowhere that'll take over an hour and a half. So far our only option is TWH Social, which has one vegan selection.
I'm getting spam pop up messages on my gmail account trying to lure me into clicking on a porn site. How do I block these?
does anyone have a good dupe for MAC studio fix powder foundation? i have had NO luck replacing it!
What can I do to help myself feel better about my life and about feeling stuck, when it seems like almost everyone around is in a different life stage/situation? [more inside]
On Monday I am flying with a friend to Guernsey from Southampton on Aurigny Air. After I got the boarding passes, my friend told me they don't have any photo ID, which the airline apparently requires. [more inside]
My teenage niece and I both enjoy fantasy books. We would like to find new titles to read together. We enjoy magic worlds but do not like excessive violence or dystopia and we do not care for love stories. [more inside]
So I find myself without health insurance in MA. Long story, but my existing insurance dropped me for non-payment as I am in a shitty financial position. What to do now? [more inside]
My friend is looking for a grocer or butcher shop that sells pork cheek near the Highland Park area of Los Angeles. [more inside]
My mother, a middle-class elderly White lady, is magnetically drawn to children of other ethnicities. More than once, I've seen that this attraction make parents and children feel really uncomfortable. I'd like to see her stop approaching strangers and attempting to touch their kids. [more inside]
I appreciate design, but I am awful at it. I know what I like from a visual standpoint, but I never seem to be able to achieve it. Short of hiring an interior decorator, what resources are there? [more inside]
I have a 13-year old male cat at home. When he was younger, his favorite game is to play "catch ball" with me throwing out a paper ball that I crumple a small sheet of paper into small and tight that rolls and bounces fast. [more inside]
My daughter is turning 8 soon. She wants “something with a keyboard”. There are so many options out there with different pluses and minuses, I’d love to hear what your kids are using and how it’s working out or any other advice. [more inside]
I would like to make a robust stew to eat over the course of the week. I have almost no fresh stew ingredients in my home so I will be buying everything other than pasta, dry beans and spices. What should I make? [more inside]
Okay, so we're supposed to wash lettuce. What am I trying to wash off? How long? Am I supposed to use soap? (Yuck.) What am I doing to myself if I just do a quick rinse under the faucet?
I listen to music streaming from a classical radio station on my android smartphone. I'd like to hear it through better speakers. I listen through the phone in only one room in my house, so portability is not necessary. What are my options? Under $100, if possible.
I remember loving the "feel" of loud music when I was younger - the sheer force of a loud soundsystem playing great music, thumping in my chest with every beat. I'd like to experience this again now, but anxiety precludes me from experiencing this through any of the venues I'd traditionally expect to (clubs, shows, etc). Help me find an alternative way to experience this again. [more inside]
I want to include my kinkiness in my next serious romantic relationship, but I don't know how to articulate my desires. When past partners have asked me to be more specific about my needs, I've been at a loss to explain well, and there's been a lot of trial-and-error and "I dunno how to describe it, but I know it when I see it". [more inside]
What food seasons are there in the San Francisco Bay Area? For example, Alaskan king salmon season ended a few weeks ago, and I just read that Dungeness crab season starts this month. What else can we look forward to at only specific times of the year? Food in particular, but non-food would be interesting, too.
Interested in getting a watch with a vibration alarm, for when I can't use my phone alarm, or when I want to have a backup in addition to my phone alarm. I don't expect it to wake me from a deep sleep, but I'm hoping it'll be noticeable enough if I'm taking a catnap, or working in the yard or on something temporarily where it'd be inconvenient to use my phone. I know Casio and Timex make relevant watches - suggestions for specific models under or around $50? Any others to be aware of? [more inside]
I just saw a program that pays you to work remotely from Tulsa (LINK). It's interesting and I'm thinking about applying. But I was wondering if there are any others anywhere else in the world. I know there are other programs you pay to be a part of but are there any others like this that pay YOU?
With the return of snow (!!!), my minivan's sliding doors immediately froze shut, which is a problem since the whole point of the thing is that it's a kid-hauler. This happened near the end of last winter, too, but winter was over before I got around to dealing with it. How do I fix this problem? [more inside]
I want to hang out again with neighbors that I met at another neighbor's birthday brunch. I am not especially skilled at making new friends, and I'm asking you to be my external brain because I'm not sure what's appropriate here. [more inside]
Word won't allow me to point at a subfolder of documents and automagically build a master document from them, instead requiring me to click through an awkward user interface for each subdocument. Is there a more-automated way of building a master document? I am not tied to Word. Google Docs, weirdly, does not support master-document style source embedding. [more inside]
1. It's about 40 years old. I have a Luxman receiver, a Luxman turntable, a pair of Advent on-the-floor speakers (13x22 in.), and a Sony CD changer (10 yrs. old). What do I need to do to make the system wireless? [more inside]
So, I'm always juggling a few projects at a time, and I really like using plaintext or close to it for project files. I love how Excel and its clones have tabs that let you have multiple sheets at once in a single document - is there anything like that for plaintext? Preferably free and low-feature? [more inside]
Random 3-4 day roadtrip to Portland because I need time and space to think about things, please share your best deep thought spots. [more inside]
I have two sets of lamps in my apartment hooked up to two different wireless radio frequency remote control outlets, controlled by two separate remotes. They've worked great for 4 years. A couple weeks ago, both of the remotes stopped activating their outlet unless they were ~3 feet away. I changed the remote batteries and it didn't help. What gives?
I'm visiting Salt Lake City, Utah, next week, but I'm there for work, and I won't have a car, so I expect that the fun things listed previously aren't an option (though there are restaurant recommendations there). [more inside]
I need 1000 sets of 10 stickers. Each set of 10 are identical to each other; each set is different from all the rest. Each set is associated with a regular size piece of paper (printed questionnaire). [more inside]
I'm looking for RSS feeds to read on long train rides to and from work - so the most important aspect is that they load full articles, not snippets. I wouldn't quite say "I'm open to any kind of content," but I have a broad range of interests, and over two hours every weekday morning and evening on trains and buses. [more inside]
I bought a small side table on ebay. It is quite small but heavy- at least 60lbs. I'm trying to figure out how to get it shipped to California. The seller doesn't want to take it to greyhound or ups for me and I dont know anyone in Long Island. Help/advice? [more inside]
Can you point me to great videos of live theatre online? [more inside]
My dog has had many accidents and smeared a lot of food on my cream, wall-to-wall carpet. I am renting a big carpet cleaner from the hardware store tomorrow. How do I make sure that it gets the stains out? [more inside]
What are your best recommendations for resources on making meetings effective, useful, and dare I suggest it, enjoyable? [more inside]
My daughter has a USB hub on her nightstand for her IKEA reading light. We also got her a small USB fan. She has two USB slots left! I would love recommendations for other cute/useful kid-friendly USB-powered gadgets.
I know there are lots of AskMeFi questions about making friends as an adult (I think I've even asked one of them), but I don't think I've seen anyone ask about finding community. I've realized that part of the emptiness in my life is lack of community, but I'm not sure where to find it. More inside. [more inside]
AskMe, you were so helpful when I went to Oshkosh, WI a few years ago. Now, same question, different city. I'm taking a business trip to Sioux City, IA in about a month and will probably have a few hours of spare time here and there. How should I spend it? [more inside]
I'm on a social media break! (I know...) I would quite like to put something in place of Twitter and Facebook on my phone to fill those little 5 minute gaps that is wholesome, good for me, educational, maybe even mood-boosting etc. [more inside]
Unexpected trip to Lisbon and I need to have the following to present at restaurants: Allergy Alert I cannot eat any food which contains: Fish Sesame Lentils Peanuts Any kind of nut I would be very grateful for help with this, especially that last phrase. Thank you so much!
So I'm trying to be more responsible in having sex with my genital HSV1. I've never had an outbreak (as far as I know) but, based on a recent bad incident, I now know I DO shed. So...responsibility. I've just been prescribed some Valtrex. Unfortunately it seems like they only gave me two weeks of it. So two questions related 1) how soon after taking it is there a preventative effect? One day? Two days? And 2) is it as effective to just take it a day or two before having sex and while having sex instead of every day?
I am a software engineer working on a team without a manager. I'm going to be part of the interviewing process for my new boss. I have worked for bad bosses before and want to make every effort to not work for one again. So, askme, do you have any tips for how to interview candidates who may become your direct superior? [more inside]