November 2017 Archives

November 30

Orbital Essence Archives

Many years ago, there were some amazing compilations of mostly-obscure-and-forgotten 60s psychedelic rock posted to Usenet newsgroups. I've never found them again, but the internet is a big place, and they must be out there somewhere. [more inside]
posted by Erroneous at 7:03 PM PST - 1 comment

I might actually be why Keurig was invented...

I don't drink coffee, but other people do, what kind of coffee maker do I buy? [more inside]
posted by magnetsphere at 6:41 PM PST - 74 comments

How can I create a large hanging wallpaper mural in my apartment?

I would like to obtain a 4'x8' piece of plywood (or hardboard or plexiglass or something), wallpaper it, and hang it horizontally on my wall. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by argonauta at 6:37 PM PST - 16 comments

The love and career dilema...again

Some weeks ago I went through the same situation and even posted a question here. I have a very stable 2 years relationship but my company is offering me to move overseas. [more inside]
posted by Nikolai2017 at 5:29 PM PST - 10 comments

In the event of a nuclear confrontation between the US and North Korea

What is the likelihood that other countries will take it as an opportunity to also attack the US, or attack each other? I mean, at that point, isn't the deterrence balance of terror has provided for decades is pretty much out of balance?
posted by CollectiveMind at 5:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Eggs and cheese and dinner and lack of direction

I have eggs, cream, aged gouda, regular gouda, fancy blue cheese, and cheddar. I'd like something rich and lovely, and importantly, easy. I need to figure out dinner in the next fifteen minutes, preferably and annoyingly (sorry) not an omelet, souffle, or frittata -- I actually make those often. But I might be able to repurpose relevant ingredients in another application -- so if you have discovered blue cheese and apples is the best thing ever, let me know! [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 4:13 PM PST - 25 comments

Salvaging Meringue

Last night I made Hot Chocolate Meringue from ATK. It was great, they are delicious! I doubled the recipe and I didn't have enough time to bake the second batch, so it went in the fridge overnight. The meringue fell because of the oil in the chocolate. If I had thought about it hard enough, I should have known. I want to know if I can do anything with what's left. [more inside]
posted by Bistyfrass at 4:00 PM PST - 8 comments

PCOS + skincare after stopping hormonal birth control?

I am 37, and I have PCOS. I've used hormonal birth control (Yasmin) for the past ten years. Before I started the pill I used to have mild but constant acne on my cheeks, but while on Yasmin it cleared up and I've had very clear skin since then. I've been so lucky! But now, for medical reasons, I have to discontinue Yasmin. What should I do to take care of my skin? [more inside]
posted by zoetrope at 3:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for great examples of interactive advertisements

I am doing research for a friend and I’m trying to find interactive ads (like the one on youtube a few years back with the guy and the bear where you could ask questions). Just interesting takes on advertisements that have some participatory aspect. Thanks.
posted by captainscared at 2:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Do I confront my friend about this betrayal?

I'm currently on the job market, as is a friend in the same field. I found out today that she secretly applied to my dream job with my dream company, and they offered it to her. How do I talk to her about what I perceive as a major betrayal of trust? [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 2:48 PM PST - 46 comments

How can I get better at solving NYT crossword puzzles?

I've been trying to improve my crossword game for a few months now, and I feel like I've hit a rut. I can usually solve the Wednesday puzzles, but beyond that, I have a lot of trouble getting through them. Are there any strategies for improving my crossword skills? I solve them either on the NYT website of their crossword app, if that makes any difference. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 1:27 PM PST - 19 comments

My Uncle Is About to Be Homeless in Tempe, AZ

My uncle has schizoaffective disorder and has been unable to work for many years. He is medicated, but has severe memory issues and has occasional breaks with reality, mostly in the form of hearing highly negative voices. Up until 2 years ago he was supported by his wife, at which point she divorced him and moved out of the state. Since then he has gone through various government programs in the state of Arizona, and has unfortunately has come out the other end without any housing assistance. Last week he attempted suicide. Tomorrow he is going to be homeless. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 1:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Comic for kids that teaches perspective drawing?

Does anyone remember a short graphic narrative that features a sister teaching her brother how to develop problem solving and/or perspective drawing? There was one part where they were talking about creating a transportation system built on telephone poles. Does that ring a bell?
posted by sholdens12 at 12:51 PM PST - 1 comment

Roommate moving sooner than expected and it feels...not nice

I live with a roommate - I'm on the lease, he's not. When he moved in, landlord required him to sign away his right to stay in the apartment should I move out. Well, I'm moving out! I promised I'd give him ample notice if I were ever to leave, and I did. I'm moving out on Dec 30th and told him on Nov 14th. He was cool with it, appreciative of the notice, said he was fine with moving after Christmas. I offered to help, be a reference, etc. Today he told me he's found a new place and will move out on Dec 8th, sticking me with the lion's share of the rent for next month. [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser at 12:06 PM PST - 47 comments

Best way for a small business to back up G Suite, and other questions.

What are best and most affordable options to back up G Suite? Automated would be best, but if it's a huge cost savings, we can calendar this and do it manually. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 11:59 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommend a RaspberryPi kit.

My husband has shown interest in Raspberry Pi; I'd like to get him a starter kit for Christmas but I've looked at a few and have no idea what the best options are for him. [more inside]
posted by Laura in Canada at 11:48 AM PST - 10 comments

Durable and good shoes for the wide-footed gent

My partner has had a poor run of luck with finding durable wide-width shoes. He has an active indoor job and, while he's had the best run with hiking shoes or light hiking boots, they invariably split in 6 months to a year. What are some durable hiking (or other) shoes for someone who wears a 12EEE and is on his feet all day? A subdued look is preferred and they need not be the height of fashion, but he'd be bothered if they were much more than $200. [more inside]
posted by palindromic at 11:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Wheat/dairy/egg/nut-free cake? Is this a thing?

My darling nephew is turning one and I would like to make him a cake or other dessert food amenable to a candle and one-year-old activities like smushing and perhaps even getting some in his mouth. Difficulty level: he has all the allergies. [more inside]
posted by this, of course, alludes to sex at 11:24 AM PST - 17 comments

🎶Here I go (for the first time) on my own (sorta)🎶

I will soon be leaving my full-time job to make a go of it as a consultant. What should I know/do? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 11:05 AM PST - 9 comments

Twitter timeline scrolling when I click on a link?

I'm not sure how to phrase this so I'm having no luck with help forums. [more inside]
posted by orrnyereg at 10:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Single device webcam/mic needed for Skype

My mom needs help with Skype. Her issue is: she wants a single device she can hook to her (not awesome, not so new, but solid) PC that will comfortably run Skype without a lot of rebooting, settings fiddling, etc. Features beyond "nice picture and sound" much less important than "plug and play," "seldom craps out," "very low bar for PC expertise needed." What do you recommend?
posted by DirtyOldTown at 10:35 AM PST - 4 comments

How to deal with restricted credit card?

I was notified earlier this month that one of my two credit card accounts (the one I rarely use) has been restricted. I suspect it’s related to my change of address in August and/or the Experian credit breach thing. My question is should I jump through their hoops to un-restrict my card, try to cancel the card (not sure they will even let me), or just let it sit there restricted forever? [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 9:06 AM PST - 6 comments

hey, Alexa....

My brother in law is in love with his Alexa. Are there cheapish ($50) gadget-toy stupid things that he can hook up to the Alexa system that aren't serious "smart home" items? (He already has a bunch of Hue lightbulbs.) Nothing practical or useful like monitors or hubs or thermostats. Something frivolous and silly.
posted by anastasiav at 8:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Father/Toddler Hobby Gift

What hobby gift would be good for my husband to do with our 21 month old ? [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 7:33 AM PST - 16 comments

Decision paralysis

I need to choose between a job I have been offered, which meets a long held goal, and fairly new, but cherished relationship, which can't coexist right now (because of location). [more inside]
posted by the offing at 7:26 AM PST - 12 comments

I want to offer free computer support - but only for an hour?

I have a bunch of smart, computer savvy, young adults that want to help out an answer general computer issues via phone (local calls) and email. [more inside]
posted by bleucube at 7:02 AM PST - 2 comments

Serious treatment of alien civilisations?

Where can I find serious investigation into what alien civilisations could be like, assuming they exist? [more inside]
posted by StephenF at 6:54 AM PST - 7 comments

1997 catch phrases and yadda yadda yadda

It's late 1997. Frank Costanza has everyone saying "Serenity now!" Thanks to Dirk Diggler, we're all gonna be big bright shining stars. What other catch phrases and pop culture references would have been popular? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 6:40 AM PST - 29 comments

What should we do (and not do) in Orlando over Christmas break?

Family of four - Mam, Dad, college freshman, and high school sophomore are vacationing in Orlando December 23 - 30. We plan on going to various amusement parks. We've been to the area before, but not during the holidays. My understanding is that there are a number of special events and shows during this time. It is also my understanding that it will be silly crowded, so I'd like us to be able to maximize our amusement/aggravation ratios. Are there things that we should be sure to do/see? Are there things that would not be worth our time?
posted by qldaddy at 6:33 AM PST - 8 comments

What should I ask an optometrist before ordering new lenses?

I've read about the different kinds of coatings and lenses. It seems that none of the four places I've asked are sure about which maunfacturer they use, or what kind of anti-glare or anti-reflection coating they use. My questions are: - Is it true that there are kinds of anti-glare that don't smudge and attract dust? - What is the difference between anti-glare and anti-reflection? - If quality can't be determined by brand, what other indicators of quality can I ask about? I'm in Australia, is this standard for Australia or elsewhere?
posted by A4 at 3:40 AM PST - 3 comments

What are your favourite sites for long reads?

My early-70s father has asked me for recommendations for more websites with "good reading". What are some of your favourite sites for reasonably long reads - not necessarily news, but about literature, science, art? [more inside]
posted by fever-trees at 1:53 AM PST - 21 comments

alternative ideas for christmas gifts?

I tried having a discussion with my siblings about xmas gifts as our extended family grows, about picking names, doing secret Santa, or otherwise cutting down on the number of gifts this year (particularly for older kids 10+ & young adults). It didn't go well, and according to my siblings, "they just want lots of gifts." This idea is foreign to me since we didn't celebrate Christmas growing up, and I did not have involved uncles and aunts. My nephews and nieces also have everything, and (imho) are extremely spoiled and don't have a lot of gratitude, as I've seen in holidays and other occasions. Is there anything I can do to give them the gift of giving? Give to others, in their name? Any alternative suggestions that won't cost me an arm and a leg? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:26 AM PST - 31 comments

Failing to Rebuild Trust in My Husband

I'm having a difficult time trusting my husband. It's ruining our relationship. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:26 AM PST - 59 comments

November 29

The thought of going to the office tomorrow is bringing me to tears.

I took a mental health sick day today, but I absolutely need to go back to the office tomorrow. I left early yesterday because after breaking down in tears for reasons I don't understand, I just couldn't pull myself together. Although I had to deal with a couple of stressful situations (and frankly, didn't really handle them well and got called out for it) it's nothing that should have caused this type of reaction, and hasn't in the past. But thinking of going back tomorrow is literally causing me to break out into tears again and I can feel the beginnings of an anxiety attack happening. What on earth do I do with this?? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:15 PM PST - 15 comments

the dearly deleted

Is there a normal process/timeframe for removing the deceased from your phone contacts list? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 9:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Who's my +1?

I'm recently divorced, and have a family wedding to attend in a month. I received a message from the groom asking who my "date" was so they could fill out the place cards. Fact is, I don't know. I haven't been dating, and while I would like to ask someone, I need a little time to figure out how to do this. What's a reasonable response to his question? [more inside]
posted by joebakes at 7:52 PM PST - 40 comments

How to give gifts without a side of offense

I have a group of online friends I've become close with recently, and we're planning a meetup in person in January. A few of the members aren't able to come due to financial reasons, but I'd really like to see them. I have airline miles I could give them (or just cash for a flight) but I'm not sure how to offer without offending them/making it weird/offending others (or if I should offer at all). [more inside]
posted by jouir at 7:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you recommend a prefab house?

I like the looks of a small, modern prefab house called Ideabox, but I'm looking for something that could be delivered to upstate New York (this one can't). Do you know of a similar house available on the East Coast? Bonus points for anything especially energy efficient or with any sustainable features. I'm not looking for a typical "tiny house" with a lofted bedroom, but a house with at least one fully separate bedroom with a door.
posted by pinochiette at 6:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Old-time vs bluegrass music

For an article I'm writing, I need to be able to understand and explain the difference between old-time (Appalachian) music and bluegrass music. I have already exhausted Google on the subject but I'm still not satisfied. I don't have time to order books or anything. I've been listening to music but don't have a good enough ear for this. I will take any aspect you've got (origins, instrumentation, song structure, etc) though I'll only have room for a paragraph or two on this subject. Thank you.
posted by mermaidcafe at 6:01 PM PST - 14 comments

Is there employment law that addresses layoffs after bankruptcy?

I work for a U.S. subsidiary of a German-based parent company that has filed for bankruptcy. I have been informed that, due to lack of funds, my position is ending this Friday. Are there legal ramifications for letting me go prior to my direct counterpart, especially in light of the fact that I have seniority and higher sales numbers? [more inside]
posted by ms_rasclark at 5:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me think about health insurance options

I'm going to be needing some medical care in the coming months, but I don't yet know exactly what kind and how much it'll cost. I'm trying to figure out whether to keep my current insurance, which is paid for up front but only pays 75% of costs, or buy new insurance, and if the latter, what a good option would be. Because of the uncertainty about the types of services I'll be needing, I'm not sure how to go about making this decision. Help? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by zeri at 4:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Help us see Tokyo Sumo in January and other travel tips

We are travelling to Japan and will be in Tokyo during the January 2018 Sumo Tournament. What is the best way to get tickets? [more inside]
posted by MT at 4:19 PM PST - 7 comments

Which goal app can help me?

I want to be able to set and track a few goals each month. One is fitness related. Another is a don't -- like, don't be on my phone after I get in bed. What app can help me with this? I know about HealthMonth but it seems to cost $5 per month now (also I don't care about being in a group with others) and I'd prefer to maybe pay $5 once for an app. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Cheap guy wants expensive knife set

I'm interested in buying a Global knife set. I know they are expensive but I'm interested in finding the set for the best possible price. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by rachelpapers at 3:03 PM PST - 16 comments

International couriers: a waybigg conundrum

I have a letter-sized, unaddressed envelope in Toronto that needs to be couriered to me in New York. The shipper is a receptionist who was instructed to pass it to Fedex (therefore, the envelope is out of the hands of the very busy sender). After speaking to Fedex, I realize that the envelope needs to have affixed on the outside an address label AND 3 signed invoices. Which means I'd need a mega envelope, a transparent pouch and a live signature. [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 2:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Replacement for Google Finance portfolio

The old Google Finance is shutting down, to be replaced by a new version lacking portfolio functionality. What other tools are available? [more inside]
posted by danny the boy at 2:38 PM PST - 3 comments

Gmail problem? Fraud? Phishing? What?

Getting emails where accounts are registered with an alternate email address, but I am not registering them and when I call the companies that I'm getting emails from, they can't tell me what's going on. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 12:51 PM PST - 17 comments

How do you dig out a slope while controlling the spill?

If I have to dig out after, say, a landslide or a rockslide along a tall vertical surface, what's the way to do it while controlling spill? Is there a proper technique for this? Does one start at the top and go along in sections? The pile of dirt and rubble in question would be about twenty or thirty feet high. [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath at 12:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Is there an American Giant of jeans?

Looking for indestructible, non-stretch, black, relaxed-fit men's jeans. [more inside]
posted by potrzebie at 12:24 PM PST - 14 comments

Plants, lots of plants, lots of fields

I need a plant selection database for my business. I'm not a programmer and have no time to set this up - am willing to move this to mefi jobs. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 12:17 PM PST - 3 comments

Free? Low-tech? That could be a "stretch"

Looking for a basic, yet thorough, stretching routine; non-dramatic functional fitness. Old-school may not be glamorous, but it suits just fine. [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 12:15 PM PST - 11 comments

Text etiquette: how do I respond when they don't respond?

Once in a while I'll try to arrange a night out with a friend, but don't hear back from them. What's the socially acceptable way to extricate myself from that plan, and make another? [more inside]
posted by Jellybean_Slybun at 11:54 AM PST - 26 comments

California Health Insurance - Alternative to marketplace?

Is buying health insurance directly from a carrier, versus through the Covered CA marketplace, any cheaper for somebody who doesn't qualify for subsidies? The cost increase this year (27%!) has me thinking about options. [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 11:08 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me name my scavenger hunt team?

My office is having a scavenger hunt tomorrow, and my little team of environmental bureaucrats needs a fun name. I am at a complete loss. [more inside]
posted by suelac at 10:50 AM PST - 18 comments

Roof rack recs

I need roof rack bars to mount on my roof rails. What do you have/love? Doing research on this yields a buncha options and very little info. Mostly concerned about noise and aero - is there anything else I should be concerned about? [more inside]
posted by blueberrypuffin at 10:05 AM PST - 6 comments

Why make a house a Home?

Lately, we've been thinking about buying a house in the next few years, but have come upon the existential questions of Why? Why do we *need* to buy a home? How will it better our lives? It doesn't seem to be worth the hassle, and almost feels like a societal push to buy. Bean-plating below the cut. [more inside]
posted by RhysPenbras at 9:55 AM PST - 40 comments

What is up with my thumb nail?

My thumb nail looks crazy. No, not a photo thumbnail, the actual nail growing on my thumb. It's been like this for years and it seems like it might even be getting worse. I never asked a doctor about this because my nail has looked weird for years so I assumed it's just one of those little imperfections we all have. Photos and details after the jump: [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 AM PST - 20 comments

Female Talk Show Host (from 80s or 90s) with Awesome Hair

I'd like to show my hair dresser a photo of a female TV personality from my childhood who I remember as having awesome hair. She was a Caucasian lady with chin-length wavy dark hair with a lighter streak in the front. I think the show was a homey precursor to HGTV-type home shows. I remember her style being kind of preppy (sweater over a popped collar with a beaded necklace). [more inside]
posted by meindee at 9:15 AM PST - 7 comments

Short story collections for a Terry Pratchett fan?

What short story collections would you recommend to someone who enjoys Terry Pratchett, Jasper Fforde, Douglas Adams, and Susanna Clarke? Nothing dark or disturbing, and they've already read Gaiman (but he's not a favourite). Thanks!
posted by haunted_pomegranate at 9:00 AM PST - 18 comments

Alternative Benefits at Work

Our staff just got the lousy news that our insurance premiums will be going up more than 120% next year. This means a real net loss of compensation, as the benefits themselves are not richer, but people will be taking home hundreds less in cash. The question has been raised, are there ways that we could provide other "give backs" to improve the quality of work life without adding much in cash costs? What are some non-cash benefits your work provides that you love? [more inside]
posted by Miko at 8:51 AM PST - 77 comments

Another cookware question

Inspired by this question and the fact that it's time to replace my 12" anodized skillet (which I cook EVERYTHING in), I'm now wondering if I should just get a stainless skillet or replace the anodized one? I usually just buy my skillet(s) from the restaurant supply house. What kind of skillet do you cook in?
posted by sarajane at 8:50 AM PST - 9 comments

It's honestly a miracle I have any bones left

After years of a relatively drama-free uterus, my period now has one reliably, shockingly heavy day. Help me deal with the menstrual logistics. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by nerdfish at 8:48 AM PST - 37 comments

sorry if this ruins it.

How many calories are in a Murray's bagel, i.e. a gigantic dense NYC bagel ? (Or if unknown, how many ounces is one of the biggest NYC bagels?) Take a plain bagel just for simplicity. No cream cheese etc.
posted by flourpot at 8:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Is this water heater working correctly?

We recently moved into a rental house and I need help diagnosing what is going on with the water heater. [more inside]
posted by COD at 8:25 AM PST - 6 comments

Will generic brand RC car burn my house down?

There are several RC cars on Amazon that come with a USB cable for recharging. If I bought one of those cars for Christmas, will my house burn down? [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 8:13 AM PST - 4 comments

your fanciest non-boozes

As a notable non-drinker at work, I've been asked for input on what the non-alcoholic fancy drink should be for our Christmas party and I need some ideas. [more inside]
posted by terretu at 7:52 AM PST - 24 comments

Help me plan a low-stress family holiday feast...or two

My family has been going through some challenging times, and ended up doing nothing for Thanksgiving just because nobody had energy to make anything happen. I want special food in the Christmas/New Year period. Help me think about how to make it happen. [more inside]
posted by Orlop at 7:50 AM PST - 13 comments

Mixing U.S. and British English—native speakers, how do you react?

I'm a fluent, but non-native, English speaker who liberally (and mostly unknowingly) mixes American and British English while writing and speaking. To what degree is this distracting or even difficult to understand for Americans and Brits? [more inside]
posted by jklaiho at 6:43 AM PST - 25 comments

Tasse de Cafe Mule

I need help getting a secret, hard to get Christmas present and have no idea how to go about it. International MeFis, your sage advice please! [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 6:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Anonymizing 23andMe request

I'd like to send a sample to 23andMe for testing but I don't want them to find out who I am and it shouldn't be any of their business. Help me do this. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 5:17 AM PST - 10 comments

When did English speakers start saying "gelato" rather than "gelati"?

OK, one is the plural of the other, but as I recall shops were Frank's Gelati and people asked "Do you want to go for (some) gelati?" and now it's "Let's get gelato!" from Gelato Frank. [more inside]
posted by hawthorne at 5:01 AM PST - 17 comments

You are a cook who likes to throw everything in the dishwasher...

... what kind of pots, pans, and cooking utensils are you using? [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 2:25 AM PST - 20 comments

Not insomnia, but what?

About once a week I have neither the urge nor desire to go to bed. I simply dont feel tired. If I were to go to bed, I would be able to sleep with no problem... unlike when I have had occasional episodes of insomnia, when I'm tired, want to sleep, but for some reason cannot. What is this called? Is it something with a name? [more inside]
posted by blue_wardrobe at 12:45 AM PST - 6 comments

low-stress jobs for a creative coder

I've worked as a freelancer in art & technology for a decade. Before that, I worked in video games and newspaper publishing. I'm sick of stress and deadlines and responsibility! What kind of jobs (full-time or freelance) could I seek out that have low stress and not much decision-making, but still allow me to parlay my technical skills into a reasonable wage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Cognitive Behavioral Therapist in Reno/Sparks area?

I need recommendations for a GOOD cognitive behavioral therapist in the Reno/Sparks area. Must have experience with PTSD/Abuse triggers. Gender not important. Must be available in December. Thanks!
posted by anonymous at 12:01 AM PST - 1 comment

November 28

No RSVPs to kid's birthday party :(

Daughter has her 5th birthday this weekend and we decided to go with a larger party in a rented playspace. The party is on Saturday. The space takes up to 20 kids, so we invited both preschool classes from her daycare, 30 kids in total. Invitations were sent two weeks ago and we have only had RSVPs for five kids. What do we do now? [more inside]
posted by Tamien at 10:27 PM PST - 38 comments

What's wrong with my ladybits?

I'm having extremely weird ladyparts symptoms. YANMD, but have my symptoms ever happened to you? (Gross details inside.) [more inside]
posted by WidgetAlley at 9:35 PM PST - 14 comments

How to get Appraise and Insurance for Chinese Stamp and Coin collection

My father has a collection of Chinese stamps from early 20th century and a quantity of old coins from the same period. According to the prices for some of these stamps on Chinese websites like, they can be pretty valuable. I want to find the best way to get insurance for them. We live in Oregon. Since these are Chinese stamps and coins, I am afraid not many in America would be able to appraise them right. What the best way to get them appraised and get the right insurance for them?
posted by Pantalaimon at 9:13 PM PST - 1 comment

Even though my lease has ended, am I still on the hook?

My CA apartment lease ends December 1, 2017. Or so I thought. [more inside]
posted by invisible ink at 9:13 PM PST - 11 comments

Two page per day bound planner

I'm looking for a bound dated planner in a two page per day format. [more inside]
posted by gerstle at 9:04 PM PST - 5 comments

I got the job that my boyfriend also wanted and I feel bad!

A couple of months ago I posted here about hating my job. Well.. I found an amazing job since then, but it’s a position both my boyfriend and I applied for and I got it over him. I can’t stop feeling guilty and bad about it and I keep worrying about what it might do to our relationship! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:15 PM PST - 22 comments

Where can I get live feedback for my PowerPoint presentation?

What resources are available for helping a person like me to improve and perfect my PowerPoint presentation on relatively short notice? More details under the fold. [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 8:05 PM PST - 5 comments

Things that go bump in the night

I slipped and whacked the back of my head on a window ledge. Do I need to go to the doctor? [more inside]
posted by airmail at 7:41 PM PST - 4 comments

I need help finding a reading for my wedding

I'm looking for something written by a radical or at least very leftist writer about love/relationships/marriage. It's for my wedding. All the details are inside. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 7:01 PM PST - 11 comments

moving forward, but towards different goals

Boyfriend of 5 years and I have started talking about next-step plans like marriage, kids etc lately, and while we seem to agree on every front verbally, our approach, attitudes and pace towards these goals seem to be completely different. The most immediate step in our plan is to move to a new country together in the next year, and start a business together soon after; but should I jump into it while I'm still having reservations about our differences? [more inside]
posted by 01080591 at 7:01 PM PST - 7 comments

Can you hear me now?

How do some podcasts get such good audio from call-in guests? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 6:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Mic that plugs into an iPhone S

I’m recording a video this weekend and I need to get good sound. I’m singing and playing the uke, and I’d like to find a mic that plugs into an iPhone or iPad S. I’d prefer not to get a lavalier Mic (the ukulele could muffle it), and I have a budget of $100 or less (by preferably in the $50 range). Any suggestions?
posted by pxe2000 at 6:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Is it safe for a cat to use a heating pad made for people?

My wife is achy, and has been using a heating pad a lot recently. Our cats just discovered the magical heating pad and they think it's cozy, and we feel bad about kicking them off of it all the time. Is it safe for them to sit on the heating pad? I tried to Google this but Google just gives me links to heating pads for cats.
posted by madcaptenor at 5:00 PM PST - 32 comments

Where can I find cool shirts matching for toddlers and little kids?

I usually buy my nephew lots of t-shirts (he's always had a Biggie Smalls shirt in his size). Recently my sister in law bought matching shirts for my nephew and my kid. Not only was it adorable to see the kids in their shirts, but my nephew loved that his cousin was wearing the same shirt. My kid's moving up in sizes right now, so I thought this would be a good time to buy some cool, off beat matching shirts for them! (Sizes would be 2T and 5.) [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 4:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Faux virus warning on my laptop

Last night a page came up with a faux virus warning and a voice telling me "You have a virus and you have porn on your computer and please enter your username and password for help or you will be fined $5,000" Etc. This happened about a year ago and I merely closed it and ran a scan (I forget what I have; my ISP provides it). [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 4:42 PM PST - 11 comments

What statistical measure compares a subset and its larger group?

I'm looking to compare an employer's racial/ethnic representation to the population of the geographic region where it is located. I know nothing about statistics. Is there a statistical measure I should use to characterize the size / significance of the employer's deviation from the larger population? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 3:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Where to find Affordable pet for Emotional Support (for someone on SSD)?

Where can I adopt a pet dog with a low or no rehoming fee? [more inside]
posted by Kombucha3452 at 2:51 PM PST - 15 comments

how can you tell if your dog would like living with another dog?

My dog was kind of a jerk to my sister's dog over the holiday, does this mean he wouldn't be able to have a dog brother or sister someday? [more inside]
posted by cakelite at 1:44 PM PST - 19 comments

Have you cycled the Katy Trail (even better, with kids)?

After getting good AskMe advice on bike adventures in Glacier NP and the Natchez Trace Parkway, I am looking for tips and tricks on cycling the Katy Trail (with kids). Have you done it? How was it? What advice do you have? [more inside]
posted by AgentRocket at 1:41 PM PST - 2 comments

Help finding quotations about a company (Samsung)

I am working on a project at work, and Samsung is one of our customers. We are preparing a gift for some of their high level executives. We’d like to include in this gift (think of it as a commemorative book of our work together) some quotes said by Samsung executives, business publications, or business personalities. [more inside]
posted by brbmaroon at 1:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Eating vegetarian in Southeast Asia

Headed to Southeast Asia (Vietnam, Cambodia, Thailand) for the first time in March. Everyone says that vegetarian food is plentiful in the region, but seeking your tips on how best to eat vegetarian while there. (I'm okay with fish sauce.) Thanks!
posted by DavidNYC at 12:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Muffage Roughage

Seeking an easy recipe for very high-fibre tasty muffins. [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 12:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Help Me Get Away for a Quick Winter Break

I, like probably many others, have some PTO to burn! Where can I go for a quick three-day getaway in or near California in December? Specifics/requirements below the cut. [more inside]
posted by yasaman at 12:47 PM PST - 16 comments

A rock and a lava place

With the ongoing eruptions and shakes near Mt Agung on Bali, our long planned vacation plans are looking dim. Suggestions for alternatives appreciated. [more inside]
posted by monocultured at 12:33 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me ID Yael Stone's sunglasses in Deep Water!

Yael Stone has some rad shades in the 2016 TV series "Deep Water" that I'd love to buy for someone as a gift. But I need help finding them! Collected netflix/photo/video examples of said sunglasses inside. [more inside]
posted by paullelujah at 12:29 PM PST - 0 comments

Housecleaning gift - Chicago area edition

Hello! I would like to get my lovely mother a monthly housecleaning service for Christmas. What is the best way to go about this, and do you have any people or companies to recommend who serve the Chicago suburbs? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 11:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Please help me come up with a name for my pottery shop

I've never sold my stuff before, but am participating in my first ever sale at our studio for christmas in just over a week. I've put some of my work on insta and FB to attract people in and already made some sales, which is amazing! But now I'm having more direct enquiries and commission requests I thought I better set up an etsy shop. I'm just at a loss as to the name. [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 11:22 AM PST - 28 comments

Who made the decorations in the movie Elf?

I watched Elf the other day, and I have a question about how people are credited. [more inside]
posted by msali at 10:53 AM PST - 8 comments

I need to get better at proofreading/copyediting.

I am not one of nature's proofreaders. But my job would be a lot easier if I was, as I have to review a lot of long, complicated documents for inconsistencies. Tell me what tools, tips, exercises and style guides I can turn to to help me improve my skills in this area. [more inside]
posted by Diablevert at 10:53 AM PST - 18 comments

Need recommendations for all-purpose day/shoulder bag for a guy (me)

Looking for an all-purpose shoulder bag or casual backpack that I can wear/carry all-day during multi-day, non-business trip to Chicago. Something I can use all day as I go to museums, sight-see, etc. Must fit the following items: Fuji mirrorless X-T1 camera with 2 lenses (1 attached, 1 loose), iPad 4 mini, spare camera batteries, charger, a paperback or 2. [more inside]
posted by jrchaplin at 10:50 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for books about "parentified" children.

This great FPP about children having to parent their parents reminded me of one of my favorite books, Child of the Owl. I'm looking for books that depict kids like this; more details inside. [more inside]
posted by Melismata at 10:24 AM PST - 20 comments

Buddhism for Buddhists

Looking for easy to read but scholarly books or articles on Buddhism and Buddhist theory. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 9:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Was I unclear or did they act in bad faith? Or alternative explanation?

I realised that a mutual friend of my two recent exes has a serious case of mentionitis. I asked her politely to stop talking about them to me but, literally, the very next day she mentions one of them again, apropos of nothing. Can the hive mind check out what I told her and let me know if I'm going crazy? Why would she do this? And this is what the slow fade is designed for, right? Wall of snowflakes, avoid if impatient with middle aged dramaz. [more inside]
posted by doornoise at 9:22 AM PST - 44 comments

Reaching people with email as well as possible

I work for a small non-profit, and sometimes I need to send an email out, such as an invitation to our annual meeting, or to remind people who've signed up for a class, or to gather a bunch of volunteers. I find that many people report having not received these messages. [more inside]
posted by xo at 8:30 AM PST - 17 comments

Accounting Software not speaking to Bank

Hi - I have been charged with asking this question on behalf of the financial officer at work. We are desperately seeking solutions for a problem we're having - Quickbooks and Merril Lynch don't seem to be talking to each other. How can we get them to connect? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 8:24 AM PST - 4 comments

How did directory assistance work in the 70s and 80s?

Back in the day, I believe you could dial "0" to reach an operator and get directory assistance. (Correct me if I'm wrong, however!) What happened if you were looking for a phone number in a different town or a different state? Did the operator transfer you to a different, local operator, or was there a way for him or her to look up the number directly? [more inside]
posted by cider at 7:42 AM PST - 34 comments

Best ways to get responses to a market research survey

I am helping a student of mine collect responses to a market research study on privacy and social media use. I’d really like to get a wider variety of responses so the results of her data collection process are as robust as possible. We’ve already posted on Facebook. Where else can we share the link to the survey so it gets more visibility? The results so far are heavily skewed towards younger women and it would be ideal to get responses from more men (25+).
posted by Hermione Granger at 7:22 AM PST - 5 comments

Finding an apartment for 1.5 persons?

I'm having some major anxiety about finding another apartment. It's complicated by a partner living with me, but only temporarily. I don't know how best to handle this when looking for new apartments. Also, how far in advance should one look for an apartment? [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 7:16 AM PST - 15 comments

Hurricane Damage and Insurance

We own a home in the state of Florida that was in the path of Hurricane Irma a few months ago. The good news: nobody in our family was injured, and no major structural damage was sustained. The bad news: The roofing company says we need a new roof (I believe them), the insurance company says we just need to replace shingles. More complexities inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Should this dented can of coconut milk go in the garbage?

Blue Apron sent me this dented can of coconut milk to use in one of its recipes this week. I want to cook said recipe tonight. Must I go buy new coconut milk? [more inside]
posted by millipede at 7:04 AM PST - 19 comments

More biological learning systems?

I've been building a list of ways that biological systems accumulate knowledge. Which ones am I missing? [more inside]
posted by clawsoon at 6:04 AM PST - 18 comments

To upgrade or not to upgrade my Mac: that is the question

I've got an 11 inch Macbook Air from 2011, which 4GB of storage and 1.6 GHz processor. It runs Yosemite. It is second hand from my boyfriend and works fine. A lot of my work is online, or using sharepoint / google docs, so it doesn't need heaps of storage. However, I'm freelance so this thing is my livelihood to an extent - and I want to be as efficient as possible without replacing tech for the sake of it. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 4:10 AM PST - 13 comments

Not getting Interviews - Design work from past FT job sucks. Advice?

I'm in a major quandary: I'm a brand-print designer who has been working FT and freelanced for the last 15 years - then made the transition to web/UX about 5 years ago. I recently graduated from a MA Interactive (IX) program to improve on my interactive/design thinking and ux-architecture skills, so I'm job hunting again. Right now I seem to have an impressive resume having worked for some top-tier companies, brands - and get past the first stage HR application process. But the moment my portfolio gets to the Design Team/Hiring Mgrs, I get shot down because my past professional design work is very conservative, corporate - and unfortunately I think my more creative work is now old (or certainly past 5<yrs of age). Help! What do I do? [more inside]
posted by sam3cat at 3:16 AM PST - 3 comments

November 27

Where to find Goro Masaki works?

Does anybody know where I could find the Goro Masaki works Evil Eyes (published in 1986, won the 13th Hayakawa SF Contest in 1987) and Venus City (published in 1993 and won the 14th Japanese SF Award, which is apparently the Japanese equivalent of the Nebula Award)? He apparently use to be considered the Japanese William Gibson, but I can't find either of these stories anywhere, and I have no idea where I'd potentially find them in person. Evil Eyes ended up being released in a collection in 1988 under the same title. Thank you!
posted by gucci mane at 9:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Salyut-7 with English subtitles?

According to the Verge, Salyut-7 has been exhibited at Fantastic Fest, probably in September, with English subtitles. I have poked around for a digital release of this version and have not come up with anything. I assume the current political climate in the US makes a US distribution agreement unlikely. Any leads? I would very much like to see this film.
posted by mwhybark at 9:04 PM PST - 1 comment

Haulin' Ass, Gettin' Paid

I'm looking for examples or a list of movie scenes (or TV, I suppose) which feature the presentation of futuristic money as a punchline, especially re: who is pictured on the bills. Think the $10,000,000 bill in Idiocracy, or Hillary Clinton on the $10,000 bill in Pluto Nash. Bonus points for examples with links to pics. Thanks!
posted by themanwho at 9:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Where online to view BBC adaptation of Oresteia - The Serpent Son?

The BBC produced, in 1979, a three-part version of Aeschylus' Oresteia trilogy titled The Serpent Son that featured Diana Rigg as Clytemnestra and Helen Mirren as Cassandra. I'd love to see it, but can find it nowhere online. I understand, per the linked article, it can be seen at BFI, but I'm on the other side of the pond. Any thoughts on where I might view this online? Thanks in advance.
posted by the sobsister at 7:44 PM PST - 4 comments

Small Electronic Parts near Tampa, FL

With the demise of Radio shack, I am wondering if there is anywhere I can buy small electronic parts locally (Tampa, FL area). I am mostly interested in building fairly simple circuits using off the shelf parts. [more inside]
posted by ZeroDivides at 7:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Dealing with losing friends after trauma

CW: sexual assault. It’s been a little over two months since I was raped by one of my closest friends. Last Friday, I had a falling out with another of my closest friends, “Kay,” because she has decided to maintain her close friendship with my rapist. How do I deal? [more inside]
posted by superswell at 6:59 PM PST - 20 comments

Using third party apps to record workouts with Apple Watch

I am new to using an Apple Watch to record my outdoor walks, and I'm used to third party apps (Nike Run Club mostly) for tracking & motivation. Now I'm confused as to if I should just use watch apps for workouts, or keep using my iPhone. I don't have Bluetooth earphones so I need my iPhone for music. [more inside]
posted by hgws at 6:03 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me understand Bible stories

Help me find summaries of the important stories and their meanings. [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 5:58 PM PST - 14 comments

What kind of tree plant is this, and is it safe for cats?

A neighbor left this plant in the freecycle area and hey, free plant. I just need to ID it to make sure it’s non-toxic for cats. (And if it is safe, care tips would be great.) I’m in SoCal if that’s helps.
posted by Room 641-A at 3:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I bother with this job interview?

Two days ago I applied to a job for which I meet about 50% of the qualifications. My resume is 100% honest, but today they emailed me asking for an interview. I accepted a day/time but is this even a good idea? There's no way I can teach myself or fake knowledge of the missing qualifications. They're a startup - is it more normal for them to cast a wider net? Why would they contact me? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 2:45 PM PST - 28 comments

Kid shows similar to Daniel Tiger?

Hi -- my five year old loves Daniel Tiger and has been watching it religiously for the last year. He has ASD, and the social stories, self-regulation tools, and interpersonal relationships and problem solving on DT have all been beneficial for him. The problem is he seems to be boring of it and I'm trying to find another show with similar qualities. [more inside]
posted by JenMarie at 2:41 PM PST - 25 comments

Best Christmas Cakes in Toronto?

I'm looking for places in Toronto, preferably downtown or midtown, to buy a selection of small quantities of Christmas Cake. [more inside]
posted by TORunner at 2:38 PM PST - 1 comment

How do I make new friends?

As I get closer to middle age, how do I make new friends? [more inside]
posted by jaybeans at 1:50 PM PST - 22 comments

The curious non-abilities of humankind

What kinds of non-abilities are some small percentage of humankind born with that don't affect their everyday life and, in fact, may not be discovered as a non-ability until later in life? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 1:40 PM PST - 34 comments

Things to do with kids leading up to Christmas

Usually I get into the Christmas groove early and easily, but for various reasons that's not happening this year. Still, I need to make things fun and memorable for my 7 year old. Please help me come up with a list. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 1:35 PM PST - 18 comments

Ironbutt Star Trek: TOS

I want help putting together a curated list of 10 episodes of Star Trek: The Original Series, to show in an all-day marathon. 10 episodes is about 8.5 hours; add in some snack breaks and lunch, and maybe a late dinner after, and that's a solid day on the couch. Since these are slash fic writers & readers, that means "Amok Time + 9 more." Reference aids: Season 1 | Season 2 | Season 3 [more inside]
posted by ErisLordFreedom at 12:50 PM PST - 41 comments

How do I love thee?

If you were making a list of things you love about your partner/spouse/significant other, what would you include? [more inside]
posted by sock puppy at 12:32 PM PST - 31 comments

I like these cover songs. What other cover songs would I like?

I like Disturbed's cover of "The Sound of Silence" and Five Finger Death Punch's cover of "House of the Rising Sun." I think the commonalities are cover of oldish song by metal-y band. What other songs would I like?
posted by misanthropicsarah at 12:10 PM PST - 30 comments

Spend my PTO: American South edition

I have 5 days of use-it-or-lose-it paid time off that I need to spend before December 31st. Including a weekend on either side brings the total trip to 9 days. Help me decide where to go! I have friends in Washington, D.C. that I can visit for a couple of days to start with, but I was thinking I might take the opportunity to go on from there and see what I can see in the south or, really, in any direction but back north. I'd like to stay in the same general region, so places like Arizona and Oregon will have to wait for next time. I've added a few details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Grimp0teuthis at 12:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Budget-friendly collective gifts for family members?

I'm in a situation where I have a largeish family that resists the idea of Secret Santa or Kid Presents Only. The idea of getting everyone individual presents has irked me for several years already, and I'm super broke this year and am struggling with gift ideas for my siblings and their families. Can I improve upon previous collective gifts for 2017? I've got a budget of about $150 for 15 people this year. [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 12:05 PM PST - 28 comments

Moving out of state: what am I forgetting?

I have lived in two towns in the same state my entire life (even during college!). I am moving out of state next month. I'm pretty organized, but low-key freaking out a little bit. What move-related things am I forgetting? [more inside]
posted by bowtiesarecool at 11:43 AM PST - 15 comments

NYC local news

Where do you get your NYC local news now that Gothamist and DNAinfo are gone? [more inside]
posted by enn at 11:40 AM PST - 14 comments

name this short story, it's keeping me up at night

help me find the name/author of this short story. [more inside]
posted by chasles at 10:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there a name for this kind of sloppy duet?

This 2003 live radio performance of Frank Black's "Song of the Shrimp" has Frank and Glen Hansard singing a duet in an unusual way. They're not always synced up, with both of them wandering all over the place and occasionally dropping out for a few bars, resulting in a sloppy, slapdash feeling I absolutely love. Is there a specific term for this kind of anti-harmony? Are there other examples in any genre?
posted by ejs at 10:27 AM PST - 8 comments

The Ethics of Electronics Returns

I've always been burdened by the question: is it ethical to buy electronic devices with the expectation that you'll return (some) of them once you've tried them out? Or are returns meant to be for exceptional cases where the product just doesn't fit your needs? [more inside]
posted by archagon at 10:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Rugby shirt with slim fit

I'm looking for a long-sleeve, horizontal-stripe rugby shirt to fit a tall, slim gent. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 10:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me find a night vision spotting scope!

So my folks live out in the country, and my dad enjoys hanging out on the side porch and watching the wildlife. I'm thinking of getting him some sort of binocular or spotting scope or something with light amplification or night vision so he can see the night critters. Only issue - I know jack squat about optics, and have very little data to differentiate between junk and worthwhile purchases. Experts, I consult you! [more inside]
posted by FatherDagon at 9:51 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me find an NYC Therapist

Please help me choose some NYC therapists to visit. This person takes Aetna, has a trauma informed approach, goes a bit further than DBT skills can take me, and understands that ADHD is different in women than in men. Perhaps someone with a proficiency in Bessel Van der Kolk’s work, as I’m also not dealing well with some complicated grief that’s associated with really fucked up childhood attachment stuff. No triggers in the rest of the ask. [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 8:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Do you have a great, gluten-free bread recipe?

I'm a decent cook and an all-right baker, would you please share with me a gluten-free bread recipe that doesn't taste like sawdust and sadness? [more inside]
posted by TomMelee at 8:51 AM PST - 11 comments

Christmas Gift Shipping

Do any major E-Commerce companies ship to UPS Box numbers without a street address? [more inside]
posted by leafwoman at 8:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Weird, gentle, story-type games on Steam

Non-gamer looking for recommendations for interesting, non-violent games on Steam. I like visual novels, dating sims, queer/trans stuff, gentle animal games, and mildly spooky stories. List inside of what I've already ordered! [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 8:37 AM PST - 26 comments

Why Can't I Turn Off RTs Within a Twitter List?

I follow a Twitter account, which I've also added to a Twitter List. Even though I've turned the account's retweets off, viewing my list is full of their retweets. Is there any way to get around this? [more inside]
posted by Juliet Banana at 8:27 AM PST - 3 comments

Screen dark on Dell Laptop

I recently got a new computer at work. When I first got it, the display was noticeably dim. For some reason, this self resolved - I did nothing but it became brighter. This morning, I have the same problem. Help? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:03 AM PST - 11 comments

Smart Phone for 11 Year Old

Any recommendations on what kind of cellphone, provider, and tools that would work best for supervising an 11 year old's access to the digital world? How do you do it in your family? [more inside]
posted by trbrts at 7:56 AM PST - 6 comments

Cycling shoes for big, bad feet

I'm looking for cycling shoes for clipless pedals (SPD). Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 7:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Can I get a gate pass at Boston Logan?

My wife is flying with our twin sons to Seattle (God bless her) on Wednesday. I'd like to accompany her to the gate to help with luggage, car seats, etc. They're flying JetBlue. When I worked for the airlines (post-9/11) this wasn't an issue and I'm wondering if this is still true.
posted by eggman at 7:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Examples of libertarian market successes

In the run up to the FCC decision on Net Neutrality, I've been seeing libertarians happy that this regulation might be rescinded. It has left me curious: what unregulated markets do libertarians point to as working well for individual "consumers" (in quotes bc there are many different types of markets) because of free market corrections. (I'm aware of the philosophical arguments for lack of regulation per se, I'm asking specifically about examples where no/low regulation leads to a better outcome for citizens instead of just for capital.)
posted by OmieWise at 7:43 AM PST - 8 comments

I need suit buying advice

I need a suit, am completely lost, and would really appreciate any help or advice. [more inside]
posted by lost_cause at 6:32 AM PST - 15 comments

Is there something cheap I can buy to make a Pixel talk to a Honda Fit?

Help me help my wife get her new Pixel phone to talk to her Honda Fit. [more inside]
posted by saladin at 6:17 AM PST - 8 comments

Name that unconventional relationship

Do you have an unconventional relationship with a person in your life? What do you call them? Examples: nonbinary family members; chosen family; various kinds of romantic and sexual partners. [more inside]
posted by libraritarian at 5:22 AM PST - 31 comments

Help Me Make Snap Crackle Pop!

My joints are loud and when I move my arms and back it makes a surprising amount of noise, one that continues as I move, not "this popped once and that's it." I'd like to record the sound of my joints as I move and then use this in a sound editing program, like audacity or garageband (aspirationally, Ableton). What's the best setup for this? [more inside]
posted by redpajamas at 4:43 AM PST - 1 comment

How can I honestly be there for my mother?

Looking for suggestions and mid to long-term strategies for being there and caring for my mom despite several issues related to my childhood. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by longjump at 3:34 AM PST - 8 comments

I am not a snitch

Someone has reported the office 'skiver' to the boss. The office 'skiver' thinks it's me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:39 AM PST - 13 comments

Pornhub but... nicer?

Is there a Pornhub-like site that is a bit nicer in the presentation? Details of what I'm looking for inside. (probably nothing in this question is going to be SFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Can I softball my hard crack?

Once sugar has reached the hard crack stage, can it go "backwards" to an earlier, softer state? [more inside]
posted by zinful at 1:45 AM PST - 11 comments

Can I use this Half-and-Half?

I thought I put away the ultra-pasteurized half and half in the fridge when I got home from the store yesterday afternoon (about 14 hours ago). Alas, I did not. It’s ultra-pasteurized; it’s unopened: can I still use it? My 4AM coffee-needing self thanks you.
posted by ocherdraco at 1:17 AM PST - 11 comments

November 26

International (US-Canada) connection at SFO in <50 minutes. Really?

For an upcoming trip I have been booked (note the passive voice) on a United flight that includes a 49-minute transfer at SFO. I've never flown through SFO before - is this as impossible as it sounds to me? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 11:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Holiday Season Family Party Ideas

Now that I've moved back near my extended family, I'd love to create a holiday tradition that I host in my home for my family. I'm trying to come up with some ideas -- they could be cultural celebrations, theme party ideas, types of party ideas, just looking for the right peg to hang my party on, both this year and for years to come. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 9:32 PM PST - 25 comments

Why is Netflix A/V sync off on particular episodes?

In the past few days, I’ve been having trouble with A/V sync on Netflix—the video is ahead of the audio. [more inside]
posted by epj at 8:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Sacramento mechanic open on the weekend?

I will be buying a new (used) car shortly, perhaps as early as this weekend, and would like to have it inspected by a mechanic before I seal the deal. Taking time off of work isn't really on the table, so I need to find someone that is open on the weekends and this is proving to be difficult. Can anyone suggest a Sacramento area mechanic that is open on weekends for pre-purchase inspections?
posted by sacrifix at 7:56 PM PST - 4 comments

Ideas for an exercise to show you what info your phone is collecting

I'm conducting an exercise where people will check settings on their phone and (hopefully) be shocked and horrified at the insane amount of information their phone is collecting about them. I would love links to stories that show (e.g.) how apple and google track locations, browsing history etc. The idea would be to collect the information and tally it up.
posted by Sebmojo at 7:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Hong Kong — Shenzhen — Hong Kong: What should I do and see?

I’ll be tagging along with my wife as her company sends her to Hong Kong and Shenzhen for 10 days this December. (How fortunate are we!!!???) We’ll be staying in Kowloon first, then Shenzhen, then Hong Kong island. The company has lots of stuff planned, but also some down time here and there (and when my wife is working proper, I’ll be left to my own devices). What should we absolutely not fail to do and see while we are there? [more inside]
posted by notyou at 7:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Probably Attributable to "No-one or Everyone"

My mother used to say to me (when my father was vexing me): "Soldiers are romantics who believe they are realists. Poets are realists who believe they are romantics." She always said it in the manner of Someone quoting Someone. Various internet searches indicate it's just--basically--conventional wisdom with various groups standing in for the soldier/poet dichotomy. Anyone got a better source for the quote or sentiment?
posted by crush at 7:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Changing publication name mid-career as a trans academic?

I'm a middle aged academic working my way through a gender affirmation process. I've been publishing under my given name for a long time, and am trying to work out how (or when) to alter the name I put on publications. Any thoughts on how to do this with minimal fuss would be appreciated! [more inside]
posted by saltbush and olive at 7:01 PM PST - 11 comments

Getting from Cordoba, Argentina to Quebrada del Condorito National Park

My partner and I are planning a trip to Argentina in late December to early January. One of the main things we really want to do is visit Quebrada del Condorito National Park near Cordoba, Argentina for a day hike. We plan to stay somewhere in Cordoba and are trying to figure out how to get from point A (Cordoba) to point B (Quebrada del Condorito National Park), preferably via public transit. Details below. [more inside]
posted by firemonkey at 6:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Gallbladder surgery

Hi all I am having my gallbladder out tommorow and I am totally freaking out right now. I am scared out of my mind. Is this going to be vey oainful? I know they will give me a prescription for pain pills but still.... Any advice? How did it go for y’all?
posted by barexamfreak at 5:50 PM PST - 29 comments

Should I buy a compact spare tire?

I drive a 2003 Mazda 6, which came equipped with a compact spare tire. The rubber on my spare tire has moldered away, and I need to replace it. However I can't find a compact spare locally - what should I do? [more inside]
posted by samthemander at 5:36 PM PST - 8 comments

How to cope with workplace depression?

Everyday at work I feel extremely depressed at work, or more accurately at what I feel this job means about who I am and where my life is heading. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 5:32 PM PST - 8 comments

Group gift exchanges like Yankee swaps or Secret Santas?

What are some ways families and groups can exchange gifts or otherwise do a Christmassy thing without everyone getting a gift for everyone else? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 5:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me make my mom’s house smart

My mom is recently retired and is interested in a Nest thermostat for her house. My sister and I are planning on giving her one for Christmas, and I’m thinking of additional ways to make her home a little better. [more inside]
posted by elvissa at 4:48 PM PST - 9 comments

What is the most common type of Christmas dinner in America?

My wife and I were discussing Christmas dinners and I said that Turkey was the most common Christmas dinner in America. She said that she didn’t think so, that probably prime rib or ham were. She put a guess out that ham and prime rib made probably 3/4ths of dinners with turkey making up the rest. She looked it up but could find nothing. I couldn’t either and by the end we were both quite curious. Does anyone have info regarding this?
posted by ArthurBarnhouse at 4:14 PM PST - 24 comments

Gummy Bears as Good as Vitamin Gummies

I don't buy vitamin gummies anymore because I will over eat them simply because of their taste and texture. What is a conventional gummy product that is equivalent? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 2:55 PM PST - 17 comments

What does one do after teaching elementary school?

I've (probably) decided to throw in the towel after 7 years of teaching the little ones, but I'm pretty unclear as to my next steps. What are some good options these days? [more inside]
posted by ORthey at 2:51 PM PST - 12 comments

Australia visit in August 2018

My family (two adults, one 13-year-old boy) are planning a vacation to Australia the last two weeks of August in 2018. It's a big country with a lot of possibilities, but at the moment we're thinking of doing a Sydney-Uluru-Darwin-Cairns-Sydney loop. Any thoughts and suggestions welcome. [more inside]
posted by ShooBoo at 1:48 PM PST - 21 comments

Don't force your air on me. Looking for non HVAC resources.

So, for reasons that I won't get into and that aren't open for debate, I cannot deal with forced air units -- heating or cooling. Radiant heat is okay and fans are doable. But anything that pushes air into the room beyond what a ceiling fan does just isn't gonna do it. We're building a house in a few years and need ideas/resources about airflow that don't require HVAC. [more inside]
posted by patheral at 1:40 PM PST - 27 comments

How does an HSA work?

More specifically, where do you set one up if you are an independent freelancer? Pros and cons for different places. Also, I understand that some health insurance plans aren't compatible with HSA's. I'm not sure what this means exactly. I've had an FSA before but need to understand how an HSA works. I am in Missouri.
posted by rglass at 12:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Specific URL being redirected someplace weird on my home network?

For the past couple of weeks, I have been unable to access one specific domain ( from any device in my home. This is the domain that Canvas uses, so I'm always accessing securely (https). But my browsers are all complaining that the certificate is invalid. Any ideas what could be going on? [more inside]
posted by ErWenn at 11:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Menstrual cycle and mood

Can you help me identify resources to better understand how menstrual cycle influences mood, and weigh in on a couple of questions I have? [more inside]
posted by the thought-fox at 11:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Deadbolt with a non-standard 2" backset

My backdoor has a hole for a deadbolt, but it's at 2", not US-standard 2 3/8". The previous owners put a "fake" deadbolt there with the latch, but without actually drilling for the bolt itself so it doesn't work. It's not an important door and I live in a very safe area. What are my best options for making it functional? [more inside]
posted by idb at 11:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Can you share real-life love stories involving women over 50?

There’s a lot of bad news on metafilter and elsewhere about the love-finding prospects for hetero middle aged women like me. I’m 51. I’ve never had a good, happy, mutually fulfilling relationship, though I’ve had a number of unhappy, unfulfilling ones — and lately no relationships at all. [more inside]
posted by swheatie at 11:10 AM PST - 34 comments

Nintendo Switch vs XBox for confused olds

I want to get a videogame system, but I'm pretty out-of-touch with the pros and cons of the current generation of game consoles. [more inside]
posted by roll truck roll at 10:06 AM PST - 9 comments

Bathtub accessibility modifications

My friend with severe leg weakness needs a better bathtub accessibility solution. She has an old bathtub with sliding glass doors. She has a bath stool that she sits on to take a shower. But transferring from her walker onto the shower stool, and the reverse, is slippery and awkward and risks a fall. What are the best solutions for this, that will work with the sliding doors? [more inside]
posted by LobsterMitten at 9:55 AM PST - 18 comments

Album cover with people in suits with animal heads

I'm trying to remember an album by a band (whose name I also can't remember) where the album cover is people in suits with animal heads. I think the animals might be deers or foxes. I think the two or three people are in a forest, one is sitting down, they are wearing pastel colored suits. It all has a very Wes Anderson-y vibe, and the music itself sounds a little like it might be in a Wes Anderson film if it were from the 60s or 70s. The album is from the mid-200s I believe.
posted by Corduroy at 9:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Birthday wrong in wills etc. Florida.

Well, this holiday season my folks gave me all of their paperwork. Will, living will, etc. etc. etc. Yay. But ... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:05 AM PST - 2 comments

CA wildfires and smoke conditions

California wildfires: Is there any way to predict how likely wildfires similar to 2017 will be during 2018? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 9:04 AM PST - 6 comments

RIP (musically speaking)

While listening to Greg Allman's last album Southern Blood I found myself crying. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 9:02 AM PST - 16 comments

How can I accept my decision not to give a relationship a chance?

I turned down a relationship with a guy I was dating and I keep revisiting the decision even after a year. I need to take action or move on for my own mental health. [more inside]
posted by seraph9 at 8:44 AM PST - 16 comments

How to online date when unphotogenic?

I'm interested in starting online dating in the new year, but I am just not photogenic. How can I make this work? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 7:48 AM PST - 29 comments

How will I be billed for prenatal care and labor & delivery?

I'm expecting first baby in a few weeks (yikes) and have a proper health insurance plan for, like, the first time in my life. It's a California off-exchange (meaning I receive no subsidies) platinum plan that is $0 deductible, 10% co-insurance, and $4,000 out of pocket max. According to my plan summary all prenatal office visits are covered with no co-pay. I've just been paying $20 co-pays for lab tests. I'm not totally sure the plan is technically an "ACA plan" since it's off-exchange. [more inside]
posted by KatNips at 7:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Weather-proofing a door we never use

We have an exterior door we have never once used, and we don't foresee any situation where we might use it in future. I need to do the weather stripping on it but it occurred to me there might be a more effective solution given that we don't actually need to open or close the door. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 7:14 AM PST - 10 comments

Apologizing to recommenders

I had asked my recommenders (about a year ago) to sign a certain recommendation form, but the recommendations were supposed to be submitted online....they never got the recommendations online but they nonetheless signed a bunch of forms that would never be used -- should I apologize to them for making them sign the forms? But come to think about it, after all signing a few pieces of paper is no big maybe there is no need to apologize. Any thoughts? I may or may not ask them for these online recommendations later on. Should I include the apologies with the requests for these online recommendations only in the instance that I do get to ask them again?
posted by red_alert_3 at 6:28 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me do just a little bit of exercise

I'm on the lookout for an exercise DVD to replace my yoga one. Most likely pilates based but open to suggestions. [more inside]
posted by jojobobo at 1:13 AM PST - 2 comments

November 25

Bartending classes in LA (for the non bartender)

Simple question this time - looking for a short intro to bartending class recommendations. Deets inside. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 10:29 PM PST - 0 comments

Old School Broadway Duets for Men

A friend of mine an I are thinking of singing showtunes at local farmer's markets. We are looking for male duets from Broadway musicals from the 30's, 40's and 50's.... Some examples. "Brush Up Your Shakespeare" from Kiss Me Kate "Guys And Dolls" from Guys and Dolls. Show stoppers from recent show also may work Also, male/female duets would work if they are relationship songs Example "Always True To You In My Fashion" from Kiss Me Kate. Some trio's can also transfer well. Thanks in advance
posted by goalyeehah at 9:00 PM PST - 25 comments

pre-gaming the funeral

Lately I, a 23-year-old, have realized that many people I love are probably going to die before I do. This has caused me a lot of emotional distress. Is it normal to "pre-mourn" deaths?? Or are my symptoms a sign of a deeper problem? How do I deal with it? [more inside]
posted by glass origami quicksilver robot at 8:01 PM PST - 23 comments

Which (if any) Android music players respect sort-order metadata?

The ID3v2 standard has tags for sort-order titles, album titles, and performer names (TSOT, TSOA, and TSOP). How do I get android media players to use these? [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 7:54 PM PST - 0 comments

How to watch the Psych movie?

I don't understand how modern TV works. Kid BlahLaLa is desperate to watch the Psych movie coming up next week, but we don't have the USA Network, satellite or cable. We do have: broadcast TV, internet, Roku, iTunes, Amazon, a willingness to spend a reasonable amount of money. Is there a way to do it? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 7:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Writing about Japan that doesn't suck

What is some great, nuanced, insightful English-language writing you've read about Japan, particularly about culture and day-to-day life? Writing specifically addressing women's issues and LGBT issues is a huge bonus. [more inside]
posted by fast ein Maedchen at 7:20 PM PST - 12 comments

A copy of shien vi di l'vone

You've seen the short "Over Time" by Damien Ferrie - youtube I want an MP3 or something of one of the songs featured. [more inside]
posted by Pogo_Fuzzybutt at 7:15 PM PST - 1 comment

Please help me figure out this instrument.

I was recently playing the video game Banished and part of the music track that accompanies the game is a haunting, atmospheric bit that features what sounds like some sort of wind instrument. Can anyone help me identify what this is? Thanks!
posted by BigHeartedGuy at 7:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Bowing to the old gods

Which european philosopher (or scientist?) was it I think from the middle ages who bowed to a statue of one of the old gods and answered that at some point it might be their turn in power again and he wanted to be in their favor? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 7:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Home wireless network help: what router configuration is best?

I need to setup two wifi routers on the same network and don't know what I'm doing. [more inside]
posted by cgs at 6:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Horticultural Alert! Flowering plant ID Question

Please help ID a plant flowering in DC area. [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 5:53 PM PST - 3 comments

Origin of the cover art for Magnetic Fields' "House of Tomorrow"

A song from the Magnetic Fields' "House of Tomorrow" popped up on Pandora a half-hour ago, and I've been obsessively trying (and failing) to find the source for the album's cover art. Those are Venetian gondolas, but that doesn't look like Venice. Google doesn't seem willing to reveal the liner notes or anything else that would give me a clue. Help?
posted by lazuli at 5:49 PM PST - 5 comments

A particular kind of pizza crust (chewy)

Hello! The weather's cold (in some places), so let's preheat our ovens to Hell and make some pizza. [more inside]
posted by 8603 at 4:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Where is the Metafilter of food blogs?

I used to love reading food blogs, but all my favorites have disappeared, turned into more of a storefront for the author's book(s), or become full of recycled affiliate-linked content. I miss being able to spend a large chunk of time consuming new food writing content a few days a week. Where can I find original-content-rich, regularly-updating websites focused on food-related writing? Can be a single author or many. Any food topic. Some ads are OK (we all gotta eat), but if it's 50% or more of the content, no-go.
posted by rhiannonstone at 4:18 PM PST - 22 comments

What is the Planet Money of Current Affairs? And History?

What is the Planet Money of Current Affairs? The podcast 'Planet Money' feels like it's aimed at intelligent people, who just so happen to have no economics background: there's plenty of explanation from first principles, explanation of consequences, etc. There's also a fair amount of personality to the tone of the podcast, as opposed to purely dry and factual. Is there anything similar for Current Affairs? And for the history that would help us understand current affairs? A podcast would be nice, but if there's another way, that would be good too. Thank you.
posted by surenoproblem at 2:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Outdoor Christmas lighting hacks?

It turns out that due to reasons we are especially short on time, but had originally hoped to step up our outdoor Christmas lighting game this year. Does anyone have outdoor lighting hacks they would like to share? Preferences and limitations within. [more inside]
posted by forthright at 12:48 PM PST - 9 comments

A wall bordered with flowers, not thorns

Reacting strongly to people (as I perceive it) pushing on my boundaries is becoming a pattern and I don't like it. Two examples within. Please help me do self-protection and communication appropriately. [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 12:41 PM PST - 19 comments

Meta Gift Guide

What are you favorite gift guides? I know about Cooltools, Wirecutter and NYTimes, so I guess I'm looking for something a little more out of the ordinary. I ask because I can't find the guide from a couple of years ago that led to the pet portrait on our wall.
posted by donpardo at 11:17 AM PST - 19 comments

Speed-Heal a Cough

I went to bed last night with a slight sore throat and woke up this morning with a cough. I'm due to see my family tomorrow for our post-Thanksgiving gathering. Help me shake this fast so I can make it. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 10:34 AM PST - 24 comments

Seed pod or alien life form?

While walking in a rural neighborhood along the eastern shore of Virginia, we came across these seed pods, attached to vines stretching across a grassy area with cedar and pine trees. The outside is thick and papery. On the inside are gelatinous white seeds. Plant ID apps weren’t helpful. Any idea what kind of plant this comes from?
posted by zebra at 10:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Christmas(?) cookie ID: rolled up, filled, not a pinwheel?

I have encountered this cookie on multiple cookie plates in Central NY. It kind of reminds me of a cross between a pinwheel cookie and a babka. I want to know what it is so I can make it myself! [more inside]
posted by Knicke at 9:45 AM PST - 11 comments

My Morning (Book) Jacket

I need an alternative to waking up and immediately scrolling through the news on my phone to see what terrible things happened while I was asleep. So I'm looking for suggestions for books (Kindle is a bonus) that offer daily inspirational readings that make me feel good, instead of bad, when I get out of bed. [more inside]
posted by fiery.hogue at 8:58 AM PST - 7 comments

Sensitive teeth

Please recommend magical toothpastes 'n' mouthwashes to desensitize sensitive teeth. [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 8:34 AM PST - 8 comments

Home stereo question

Our place has two (wired) in-wall speakers. We need to get a receiver/amp to use these, but would also like to be able to add bluetooth speakers in the future. We would mostly listen to music/the radio, and don't really care about surround sound or other higher end capabilities. Is there a decent, cheap receiver that would let us use the current speakers and add bluetooth speakers later?
posted by molla at 7:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Share your Instant Pot love here!

I think I want an Instant Pot. If you love yours, what model/size do you have and why do you love it? What do you make in it the most? Do you have a favorite cookbook that you find helpful? Possibly relevant details—I only cook for myself, but love bulk-cooking ahead and freezing single servings. No dietary restrictions.
posted by bookmammal at 5:17 AM PST - 44 comments

Going no contact without burning bridges... impossible?

I had a very painful falling out with a friend I'll refer to as Ted. For more than year, I've kept it all a secret from the rest of our friend group. I've come to the point where I want to unfriend Ted, unfollow him, un-everything him on social media, but I'm worried about how this will look to our friends, and how it could impact the entire group. How do I do this while minimizing damage? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:37 AM PST - 18 comments

Looking for a NYC real estate agent for apartment owner.

Looking for suggestions for good, ethical real estate agents who can help us rent our East Village, Manhattan, NYC apartment.
posted by anonymous at 4:37 AM PST - 2 comments

So friend, do you want me to pay you?

My friend is studying to become a reflexologist and will be opening her new practice within the next six months. I had my first session with her yesterday but the issue of payment never came up. Can you help me come up with a script to approach this? [more inside]
posted by Blissful at 3:29 AM PST - 14 comments

Natural products to enhance wave/curl?

Anyone know of some great natural products to enhance wave/curl? [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 3:00 AM PST - 12 comments

November 24

Fitting a table into a nook

We have a nook in our kitchen (diagram) for a table. We currently have a 40x40 square which doesn't allow us to eat comfortably. Any recommendations on shape and size of table that would be the best fit? Round, square, rectangle? Needs to seat two relatively compact people. Bar/pub height not an option due to ceilings.
posted by arnicae at 11:21 PM PST - 6 comments

That time of the year again: which health insurer should I get?

I am on the New York Essential Plan and need to choose a healthcare plan. I've done some research but could use some practical input. [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 9:41 PM PST - 4 comments

How can I subscribe to this Google calendar from my Mac and iPhone?

Has Google made it harder to find the ics url needed to subscribe to a calendar, or am I going crazy? Is there a way to dig out the URL so I can subscribe to a published Google calendar from iCal on my Mac or from my iPhone calendar? [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 8:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me understand termination of therapy.

I was extremely successful in therapy for 13 months, and terminated about two weeks ago. I have very mixed feelings about it. Help! [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 7:57 PM PST - 17 comments

Is this half a turkey done for?

I bought a 24lb turkey with plans to spatchcock it, same way I did last year. I must have blocked last years turkey drama from my memory because that size turkey is hard to cut and manage. [more inside]
posted by mokeydraws at 7:18 PM PST - 3 comments

need new sub $1k monitor for photo editing, mostly.

PhotoFites: I'm looking for a better monitor, 'cause current one gots a problem. Criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 5:29 PM PST - 1 comment

I want to feel like I'm sleeping on the floor, but not be on the floor

I'm looking for a bed frame where instead of slats, there is just a solid surface. I currently sleep on a Japanese futon mattress that is on the floor, but I'd like to find a bed that would allow me to be up off the ground and keep that solid feeling under my mattress. Google has failed me so far. Any suggestions?
posted by holmesian at 3:49 PM PST - 11 comments

National conferences for govt./nonprofit accountants?

Professional development: how do I National Conference? (Public/nonprofit sector accounting edition) [more inside]
posted by armeowda at 2:24 PM PST - 2 comments

A cheap, non-smart wireless switch (for a light)?

I have a dining room light with a (normal) light switch in the adjoining living room. I would like to be able to control the dining room light while in the dining room, but the electrician told me that rewiring to put in a regular switch in the dining room would be expensive. [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 12:37 PM PST - 14 comments

Facebook, let me decide if content should be translated

Is there a way to tell Facebook, "no matter what the language is, never translate it automatically?" [more inside]
posted by frimble at 11:32 AM PST - 1 comment

Best wearable (eg apple watch) phone-capable device for older person?

I'm hoping to get a Black Friday weekend deal on a wearable device for my mother. The question is, which one? I don't have an iPhone or Apple Watch myself and have never really looked into android wearables so I don't have any experience. more key info below the fold.. [more inside]
posted by elgee at 11:07 AM PST - 6 comments

Help Me Identify This Tool, Episode Eleventy Million

We recently moved to a new-to-us house. Yesterday we set about cleaning out the garage's attic. There wasn't much up there but a few sleeping bags, some gun cleaning equipment and three identical of these things. They're made of iron and fit in your hand (5" folded, just under 6" extended.) It only unfolds as far as it's shown in the picture, so not quite to 90 degrees. The conical section is threaded, but the threads aren't deep so it doesn't look like anything self-tapping. Any ideas?
posted by workerant at 10:58 AM PST - 1 comment

Brick and Mortar store for Bralet

What is a good store in Seattle that sells quality undergarments? Specifically bralets? Less heteronormative, more body positive the better. Preferably in the city.
posted by kittensofthenight at 10:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Too much storage unit, too little time.

My mom died a couple months ago (expected, peaceful, but still really hard). There is now a huge storage unit full of stuff for my siblings and I to deal with. [more inside]
posted by Cocodrillo at 10:19 AM PST - 7 comments

What should I do with all this turkey stock?

On a whim, I threw the leftover turkey carcass and drippings in to a crock pot last night, with a chopped onion and some carrots, and covered with water. Now I have about 8 cups of stock. I tried making noodle soup once before like this, but it was so bland I ended up just tossing it. This stock tastes a little better, but it's still not wowing me. What should I do with it? [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 8:13 AM PST - 27 comments

I have a confusing COBRA healthcare question, and I'm overwhelmed.

I had a job end in September. I haven't done anything about health insurance. I need to figure out a few things - thank you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:36 AM PST - 6 comments

Non-commercial food/excercise/weight tracker?

Is there a non-commercial food/exercise/weight tracker i.e. run by a university or other research institution rather than a corporation? [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 6:59 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I re-carpet with confidence?

New carpet is needed but I have all these issues. HALP [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 5:51 AM PST - 12 comments

Recommend me a personal wiki for research?

I come across interesting stuff all the time on the internet which I would like to note electronically. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 5:07 AM PST - 13 comments

Help me get schooled.

What are some good MOOCs for non-coders? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 4:49 AM PST - 2 comments

MDMA Therapy for PTSD - How Can I Get There?

I've been in this chasm of trauma since birth. I am dealing with so many issues that my life is on the line now. Health-wise it's bad. As bad as it could get. Emotionally, there's not much more I can do. Yet, there's that glimpse of light at the end of the horizon that maybe somewhere, someone, somehow would be able to offer me a life-line in the form of an excavation and healing of the psyche. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 2:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Putting the fun into functional fitness

What strength-building exercise/class can I do that I will not hate, and given my poor coordination and weakness? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:02 AM PST - 15 comments

November 23

G'day Melbournians. Arriving soon. Must buy shorts.

I'd buy shorts before the trip, but here (Thailand) there are 2 choices: 1) Too much polyester, or 2) 100% Cotton and expensive. Both have poor construction quality. Seeking mid-range quality and price, 100% cotton. Far enough out of fashion that teens or 20-somethings wouldn't wear, but it's what their dads wear. Seeking store names. Bonus points for easy access by public transportation and proximity to the CBD. Just to be clear, I need outerwear, not underwear.
posted by Homer42 at 9:48 PM PST - 6 comments

Weil at heart

Can you recommend a good book about Simone Weil, possibly also about her brother Andre? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:36 PM PST - 1 comment

What experiment can I do to show that the Earth is a spheriod?

Flat Earthers fascinate me. Mostly because it's such a pure conspiracy theory; it's good to see someone standing up to Big Sphere. What kind of experiment could I carry out for an open-minded Flat Earther that would demonstrate the Earth isn't a disk? There's the old "ship disappearing beyond the horizon" thing, but that's something you rarely (if ever) see with your naked eye. Presume that I'm willing to throw a little but of money into this. [more inside]
posted by Betelgeuse at 6:42 PM PST - 41 comments

Are these shrimp ingredients created equal?

Planning to make Thai curry paste this weekend, but my partner came home with shrimp sauce instead of shrimp paste. Is it an acceptable substitute? [more inside]
posted by Rora at 6:32 PM PST - 5 comments

Budding fiction writer lacks confidence (no MFA) and needs help!

Essentially 1) Do I need to know technical details of creative writing? 2) Am I disadvantaged because I don't have an MFA? 3) How do I work in relative isolation? 4) Are online writing courses useful? [more inside]
posted by dostoevskygirl at 4:55 PM PST - 24 comments

Can I power a portable hard drive using a USB wall charger?

I'm picking up a Wii U, and want an external HDD to go with it. Portable hard drives need a USB Y-cable to draw power from two of the Wii U's USB ports at the same time, and some people say they have stability issues / drives die from constantly powering the console on and off. But could I run the Y cable to a wall outlet (eg a 5A phone charger) instead, running the data part of the cable to the Wii U? That way the drive would stay powered when the Wii U shuts down.
posted by obiwanwasabi at 4:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me get my cursor back from the hijackers

Last night it seemed I lost control of my cursor. As i tried to click it off it became obvious I’d been hijacked. I have disconnected from the net and don’t know what do do now. [more inside]
posted by taff at 2:31 PM PST - 30 comments

How do I deal with a lack of perks/subpar facilities at my company?

I know this may make me sound entitled but tell me if I’m over reacting or thinking out of place regarding work environment. I’ve worked at tech companies for most of my career. My last companies had pretty good facilities and would often have snacks and coffee at a minimum. Most of them would buy us lunch at least once a week. From what I read about other tech companies, this seems like the norm. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:24 PM PST - 24 comments

Replacing Physical Intimacy and Comfort

When you expect to be without friends or sexual partners for the very long-term, what can replace, satisfy, or alleviate the need to physically comfort and be comforted? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:22 AM PST - 34 comments

Good tours of film history in LA?

Would really appreciate any recommendations for interesting tours/places to visit/whatever really in the LA area that have strong connections to film history. [more inside]
posted by dmm9999 at 10:31 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I stop my LG smart TV from turning off my PS4?

I've adjusted every setting and yet every time I turn off my LG smart TV it abruptly cuts the power to my PS4 and it won't even turn on until the TV has been on for several seconds. What is going on? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 10:19 AM PST - 3 comments

What ducks are these?

Are these ducks escaped domestic ducks of some kind, or are they a weird species of wild duck that I'm unfamiliar with? [more inside]
posted by Johnny Assay at 10:07 AM PST - 7 comments

Clearwater Beach activities?

My esteemed mother-in-law is headed down to Clearwater Beach, Florida from late January to the end of February to avoid the Massachusetts winter and would really like to find some activities to occupy herself while there. Anyone know of any good beginner art classes, nature classes, short-term volunteer opportunities in food banks or the like, anything else that could help her feel like she was using her time well?
posted by merocet at 9:19 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the best Scrabble app?

What’s the best Scrabble app for iPhones? Ideally ad-free, but minor ads would be okay. [more inside]
posted by Charity Garfein at 6:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Does the author of a book foreword get a contract?

I'm trying to make arrangements for someone to write a 3–7 pages to begin an edited anthology. It's for an academic publication. What are standard practices here? [more inside]
posted by Dr and Mrs Eaves at 6:15 AM PST - 5 comments

Can Google lose my name?

When I Google my name, there's a link right on the first page to an activity in my past that I wish would be forgotten forever. Short of asking Google to remove the page from its results, what can I do to bury the news to page 90 of the search engine? [more inside]
posted by Kwadeng at 5:19 AM PST - 9 comments

HTML email creation

What do you recommend for creation of HTML emails - newsletters for example? Not something that's too constrained by preset templates (e.g. MailChimp), but something that still helps you create responsive emails that will work in most clients. I've got Dreamweaver but I don't really feel confident in using it. Windows preferred.
posted by KateViolet at 4:16 AM PST - 8 comments

November 22

Who Takes the Metra Two Stops?

I'm always curious, when I take the Chicago Metra, who takes it one or two stops -- from Union Station to Western Avenue, which is like 3 miles and there are cheaper buses. Or a little farther -- but there are still cheaper buses, and CTA train options. Have you done this, or do you know who does? I'm sure there must be a million reasons -- I'd like to know a few! Non-Chicago commuter rail answers okay, more deets within. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:22 PM PST - 57 comments

Motivating yourself to do difficult work you really don't want to do

I have a set of tasks I absolutely need to do that are very challenging, will take a lot of time, and that I dislike working on a whole hell of a lot. (Think something along the lines of writing a thesis on a subject you dislike intensely.) I'm really struggling with finding the motivation to even get started, and time is running out. How can I force myself to grind my way through it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:19 PM PST - 22 comments

Reeling with bestie breakup over allegations

Last week I broke up with my best friend largely due to his response to sexual harassment allegations. I'm still reeling from my decision and don't know what to think. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 6:05 PM PST - 40 comments

What is this hole in my wall and how do I fix it?

My apartment is an old warehouse that had walls constructed to divide it into units. I have two holes in the walls that look like this. [more inside]
posted by Borborygmus at 5:39 PM PST - 14 comments

What do YOU do with clothes worn but not dirty?

What is your alternative to the dreaded Chair - you know, where you put all the stuff you will wear again but don't have the energy to re-drawer/re-hang? [more inside]
posted by tristeza at 2:28 PM PST - 66 comments

Where did I read this odd anecdote about JFK's assassination?

Years ago, I read an account (presented as true, I think) about a group of drama students who went to a class on this date in 1963 and were immediately told of the assassination of John F. Kennedy. They decided that this must be an exercise in improvisation and began acting out the grief and shock they would feel if such an event occurred, not realising that it had actually happened. I can't remember where I read this, and Googling it just brings up general stuff about the assassination. Does it ring a bell for anyone?
posted by Perodicticus potto at 2:06 PM PST - 2 comments

A very strange CMS issue.

We are using an old CMS (soon to be retired) and something very odd is happening that I can’t get my head around. [more inside]
posted by Lescha at 2:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for a recording of a specific WW2 news broadcast

I'm putting together the sound effects for a play and the script calls for the following to be heard on the radio. I believe it is taken from a real news broadcast and there's lots of recordings of them on, YouTube etc. but I can't find the one with this specific section. [more inside]
posted by Jim H at 1:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Abridged vs. UnAbridged Ebooks

I'd like to do some comparisons of abridged and unabridged books. Can you suggest some books that have abridged and unabridged versions that are both available as ebooks? I'm open to all genres/periods/etc, but I have a preference for books that would appear on a list of classic or must-read books.
posted by gregr at 12:49 PM PST - 2 comments

Finding Open New York Cellar Doors

I have made an idle hobby out of photographing open cellar doors in New York City. What neighborhood in New York and at what time could I go to get the most bang for my buck? [more inside]
posted by Sreiny at 12:44 PM PST - 3 comments

Hand-kissing etiquette

I'm wondering about the acceptability and frequency of hand-kissing by strangers. I was recently at a friend's casual gathering and was introduced to several persons, and kissed on the hand by one of them, as a farewell. Is this a popular or trendy thing to do these days, or was just a strange episode? The kisser in question is Western European, so perhaps it is more common there? (Although he didn't kiss anyone else, which is why it struck me as a bit odd). [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 11:56 AM PST - 38 comments

Help me torment my child with a screaming chicken

My 10 year old and I have been taking turns hiding one of those incredibly annoying screaming rubber chickens (yes, like the one Adam Savage used for his Ultimate Duck Army) to try to surprise and scare/annoy each other. So far he has gotten me MUCH worse than I have gotten him. I need to up the ante and come up with some creative new ways to annoy him with it. The more ridiculous, unexpected, Wile E. Coyote-esque, and over the top, the better.
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 11:54 AM PST - 38 comments

Philadelphia Barber Shops

Looking for an affordable hairstylist in Philly who can shave an undercut and cut mixed hair. [more inside]
posted by snufflepup at 11:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Best crowdfunding site for raising money for a UK resident

I need to crowdfund some airplane tickets to visit my dying grandma. :( She is in Toronto. I'm in the UK. I'd like to crowdfund using a site that would get the money easily to a UK bank account, and would let people from the US, Canada and the UK contribute. It would also be nice if I can take it down afterwards for privacy. I want a reputable and well known site that will reliably send the money. Thoughts?
posted by Mistress at 11:37 AM PST - 1 comment

Where's Waldo's Luggage?

Are there any sub $60 luggage trackers that are worthwhile? Have you, or someone you know, had luggage lost by an airline that was then found via the gizmo? This is for maybe twice yearly travel, so a yearly access fee would not be viable.
posted by Sophont at 11:07 AM PST - 1 comment

Coco Movie - Appropriateness for a younger child with sensory issues

My five year old has some mild sensory issues (mostly aural) and is on the autism spectrum (high functioning / mostly social behavior related issues). His school class has a trip to the movies later today to see Coco, and I'm checking if anyone can confirm how loud it is / how scary it is relative to that age group. [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 10:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Can I eat this? Late Blue Apron delivery version.

We ordered Blue Apron (through one of those 100% free week offers!) for the first time. The food came late, they are crediting the account so we get a free box next time, and I need some help to determine if I can still safely eat some/all of the contents of the box. [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I hire a locksmith in Brooklyn to open this foot locker?

I inherited a 1960s steel Army footlocker from a relative, but no one has a key. What is the best way to hire a locksmith in the Brooklyn area who could help? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 9:17 AM PST - 24 comments

Is it safe to eat these oysters?

Two weeks ago, my mother bought two pints of oysters at Costco. They look just like this. The "Sell By" date is today, and we're planning to cook them in a casserole for Thanksgiving dinner (tomorrow). I'm not worried about being one day past the "Sell" date, but I am worried that she bought them two weeks ago! They've been refrigerated the whole time, and the containers are sealed. The plastic lids are very slightly convex, though. Should I toss them out, or are they safe to cook and eat? Thanks for informed advice!
posted by barefoot at 8:46 AM PST - 12 comments

After school program supervisor grabbed my son by the arm

Yesterday, when my wife picked up our 6 year old son from his after school program, he was crying and shaken up because the supervisor of the program had angrily grabbed him by the arm and scared him. He had been playing with a toy that he had received in the previous period as an academic reward from his teacher. The supervisor informed my wife that they'd been having problems with our son playing with toys in the program, which is not allowed, though this is the first we've heard of it. [more inside]
posted by OrderOctopoda at 8:16 AM PST - 19 comments

Budget Subscription Boxes

What are subscription boxes that are under $30 and preferrably under $20 a month that you find are worth it even at that price as gifts? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 8:02 AM PST - 23 comments

What's the heaviest, rockiest, thrashiest, grungiest synth/piano songs?

My middle school kid is a keyboard player and loves it. He's been playing for years and is in our city's local version of "The School of Rock" where young musically-talented people get put together in bands and practice/perform regularly. The problem is that he's in a band of mostly metal and heavy rock-influenced kids, and though they've been receptive to what he's been interested in playing (they did kickass Joy Division and Jesus & Mary Chain covers last time), he's interested in trying to find harder, more rock oriented or upbeat stuff to try with them. [more inside]
posted by 40 Watt at 7:36 AM PST - 34 comments

I want to create an automated series of reminders on my outlook calendar

I run a three-month program that kicks off with a new group once a month, and it involves a lot of moving pieces, including scheduling meetings (that I can't schedule until the new folks have started), and sending instructional emails at a certain time for each cohort. [more inside]
posted by spindrifter at 7:05 AM PST - 4 comments

Middle-aged man in search of the perfect wallet

I have spent years looking for a good, buy once, wallet. They are generally too small (Credit cards don't fit) or the leather is shoddy and falls apart. I will pay top dollar for a really great leather wallet. Suggestions please.
posted by captainscared at 7:01 AM PST - 33 comments

Any Buddhist Retreats Wk of Dec 26-31 w/in a 6-hr Drive of New Haven?

Anyone know of any? I know it's a long shot but this is something I'd like to try. Doesn't have to be the whole week. Needs to accommodate beginners. Prefer something heavy on silent meditation. Thanks!
posted by ZenMasterThis at 6:55 AM PST - 4 comments

How to change from an "alpha" to a "beta"

My workplace is absolutely awash with people who are constantly jockeying for position. I am in the really fortunate position of having now been promoted to the job I want at the level I want to stay at for the rest of my career. So how can I be one of the people who manage to put their egos aside and quit playing these games? [more inside]
posted by hazyjane at 3:46 AM PST - 14 comments

November 21

Volunteering for a Paid Position

Is it appropriate to offer to work for free at a non-profit if the position is usually paid? [more inside]
posted by agentofselection at 10:50 PM PST - 14 comments

How can I change how I see a website?

Please help me bleach a part of a website! I'm doing it with a Firefox add on, but it's not updated for 57 and I doubt that it ever will be, and I can't update Firefox until I can replace the function it fills for me. I want to stay with Firefox, and get updates. Please don't suggest Pale Moon. [more inside]
posted by monopas at 9:40 PM PST - 3 comments

The little apartment that fell from the sky

Seeking stories of serendipity that saved people at the end of their rope - that were actually made possible by people laying the seeds of their own salvation [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 9:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Help Me Mac My Roku and Continue Life Sans TV

So my puny 19in TV finally gave up the ghost and I feel zero need to replace it. I'm the happy new owner of a 27in iMac on which I can stream my Amazon and Netflix addictions. And yet. I miss my Roku. Details below. [more inside]
posted by eglenner at 9:12 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me light my loo

I'm looking for a nightlight solution for our bathroom. It just needs to be barely bright enough to illuminate the way, so we can navigate a nocturnal path to it. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 8:54 PM PST - 22 comments

Books to read after Wandering Earth?

I'm looking for sci fi short story compilation recommendations. I've read Wandering Earth by Liu Cixin, which I really enjoyed for it's engaging read and what felt like fresh topics to me. Are there others that folks would recommend? Hoping to curl up with a book this Thanksgiving.
posted by ellerhodes at 8:10 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for ways to improve my office at work!

How do I make my office at work smell nice? What else can I be doing to make my office a nice, peaceful place to work? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 7:46 PM PST - 21 comments

Seeking gift ideas. Edition #659.

My oldest sister (B) and I are hung up on what to get as a holiday gift for our middle sister (C). The fact is, C has been so distant from B and me for so long that neither of us know her very well. But since our parents died, C has been at least trying to stay connected with us and that's a huge improvement that we want to nurture. [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 7:44 PM PST - 17 comments

twitter basic

Apologies for the lamest question of the day, but is it possible to see who has liked or forwarded a tweet? I know you can see how many people have liked it. Hovering over or clicking the likes doesn't show who liked it, though. Is there a to see who liked or forwarded a tweet? [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 7:35 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me end intrusive thoughts

I was in a relationship that ended almost 3 years ago. I can't stop thinking about the person. Tawdry details inside. [more inside]
posted by chonched out at 7:03 PM PST - 18 comments

Need recommendations for a new printer/scanner

I'm planning to buy a new printer/scanner soon. I'd like to keep it under $100. I print mostly text documents (plus the occasional picture), and want something that will do auto double-sided printing. Oh, and NOT HP. When I look around online, most say they are wireless. I have a desktop computer and no WiFi. Can these wireless printers be attached to a computer the old fashioned way? Any recommendations for what to buy and/or what to avoid would be greatly appreciated.
posted by Dolley at 6:52 PM PST - 9 comments

Questions about sharing old Audio Archives online.

I have an old computer not connected to the internet (Mac OSX 10.6.8) (not my main computer) with some old audio files (Audacity 1.3.14-beta) archived on it. I would like to hear some suggestions for the easiest way to share these audio files online. [more inside]
posted by ovvl at 6:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Evolution 101

What are some good books to explain the basics of evolution and how it works while countering creationism and ID? [more inside]
posted by thedarksideofprocyon at 5:55 PM PST - 16 comments

Ideas for workspaces please!

#writers and #freenlancers: where, other than your favorite coffeeshops, do you feel comfortable to buy something small and then plop down for an hour or two of work? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 5:51 PM PST - 16 comments

Moving iTunes lib from one ext drive to another. Difficulty level: GRAR

I am trying to move my iTunes library from an older external drive to a newer external drive, following this how-to. I got all the way to the part in section 2 where you select iTunes and drag it to the external hard drive. This is where the problem starts. Specs and specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 5:05 PM PST - 9 comments

How does/will American Net neutrality affect European folks?

Can anyone predict how Net neutrality is going to work out? Please refer to the likely European experience - if that is even possible. [more inside]
posted by dash_slot- at 2:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Holey crochet blanket, Batman!

How warm/useful is this chunky v-stitch afghan likely to be? [more inside]
posted by moira at 2:16 PM PST - 15 comments

Domain name help

I'm thinking of registering a couple domains for my wife and young child, and hell, maybe even for myself. I've never registered a domain before and could use some guidance on both how to go about it, and what domains to choose. [more inside]
posted by noneuclidean at 2:11 PM PST - 11 comments

How can I get the boiler in my new flat to start up?

I just bought a new flat and I can't get the combi boiler (hot water / central heating) to start up. It turns on, and although it is old I have no reason to believe it shouldn't work. I don't want to look like an idiot calling out a plumber for something stupid I don't understand. Details and photos inside. [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c at 1:56 PM PST - 9 comments

Rotary Telephone Trick?

I started reading "Secondhand Time" after seeing it recommended in another ask, and I'm curious about a "trick" that involves a rotary phone. The trick was "so that the KGB agents who tapped our phones wouldn't be able to make anything out" [more inside]
posted by one4themoment at 1:38 PM PST - 9 comments

What do I want?

My parents have asked me for a Christmas list this year, and they do a format of something you need, something you want, something to wear, and something to read. I have no trouble filling out small, reasonable gifts for need, wear, and read, but I absolutely cannot figure out something I 'want'. My mom really likes this format, so I'd like to stick with it, but I can't figure anything out this year. Small details after the jump, but without all too much detail to try and get a lot of ideas. [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 1:34 PM PST - 26 comments

Business banking with check deposit by phone

Is there a bank that lets you deposit checks into a business account by phone or online? I'm not looking for depositing them with equipment that I rent. Thanks!
posted by lockestockbarrel at 1:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Seamed hose for thick-legged women

I'm plus size and I carry most of my weight in my hips and thighs. I also dress vintage. I'd like to find seamed pantyhose that fit and aren't completely uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 12:49 PM PST - 5 comments

More stuff like ‘traffic cones of Japan’ and ‘Brooms of China’ please!

I love collections of photos that document the ordinary parts of everyday life in other places, like traffic cones in Japan. I’m not really looking for art and cultural examples, like the masks of Mexico, but a collection of the baguette delivery boxes of Moorea would awesome. Please share similar web sites, instagram, anything else not requiring a log in that you enjoy!
posted by Room 641-A at 11:36 AM PST - 22 comments

Record digital video without distortion?

I want to take some video of myself, weekly, that doesn't distort the proportions of my body. But, all webcams (and I think my mac's built-in camera?) seem to have fish-eye lenses. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 11:27 AM PST - 4 comments

Which areas can I specialize in with a degree in computer science?

I find myself at a cross roads, I have just finished my internship and with it my time in college. My time as an intern was spent in web development specifically in C# and Javascript. I'm not sure how to feel about it, on the one hand I like UI work but web in general was not very exciting. One of my friends in this career is looking for jobs in the business analyst field, I asked if he was doing this to avoid programming, he told me he was very interested in the large volume of data that is handled in that position. In a way he opened my mind, I don't know which area I want to go in anymore. [more inside]
posted by Braxis at 11:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Searching for the best resources for information on Autism

My newly 4 yr old grandson has been struggling with a variety of issues over the past couple of years. Now they're suspecting Autism might be yet another thing to add to the list. [more inside]
posted by SoftSummerBreeze at 11:10 AM PST - 13 comments

Is there an app that tracks how much time each person in a convo talks?

I would like an app that keeps track of how much time each person in a conversation, meeting, therapy session, etc talks. This could be done manually. It doesn't have to involve speech recognition or anything. The interface would be something like a chess clock in reverse. There's a spot for each person. When a person starts talking, they tap their spot and the app begins running up their time. When they are done, they tap their spot again to stop their clock. Alternatively, if someone else jumps in they can tap their own spot and the app starts running up their time and stops running up the previous person's time. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 10:52 AM PST - 7 comments

Have you ever chosen love before career?

I am a 32 year old gay guy from Argentina. I work for a big company and some weeks ago I was offered a temporary position in Europe for 9 months, with no extra pay as I would only cover a coworker during her maternity leave. Once I finished it, there was a chance they would want to keep me there or send me back to Argentina to a different city. [more inside]
posted by Nikolai2017 at 9:59 AM PST - 19 comments

Seeking eerie tales of the icy sea

A number of my favorite books and stories are eerie tales of the sea - China Mieville's novel The Scar, John Wyndham's Out of the Deeps, the boat parts of the Earthsea Trilogy, ghost stories that take place on ships, the Girl Who Circumnavigated Fairyland, etc. Eerie tales of the sea are extremely restful, for some reason. I especially like tales of Antarctica, such as Ursula Le Guin's "Sur" and Birth of the People's Republic of Antarctica. I would like more. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 9:56 AM PST - 34 comments

What to say in job application when supervisor will speak unfavorably?

With my last long term full time employment, I was subject to some rather unsavory behavior by my employer. Human resources had to be involved, and I wasn't told very much about the situation and they were not terminated. Most applications ask A) may we contact supervisor and B) why did you leave. Officially I was laid off, as that was really the only retaliation they could legally do (state employment). I obviously won't be getting a good review from that person even though my employment reviews were quite good. What do you say i this situation?
posted by kingbuzzie at 9:53 AM PST - 23 comments

Non-US Disability/Handicapped Access

Can anyone suggest an information source for learning about disability/handicapped accessibility resources in other countries? Are public buildings/facilities set-up or required to have ease-of-access entry? I have family members that would like to travel but are concerned about a lack of access. In particular, they are mobility-impaired and use either a walker or scooter for most of their daily activities.
posted by sandpine at 9:01 AM PST - 4 comments

Recommendations and advice for a 2 in 1 windows laptop

I'm looking for an affordable 2 in 1 laptop that can serve as my primary all purpose machine. I'm not a heavy gamer but I do like to play occasionally. I do some light coding - no seriously computationally expensive stuff. Weight isn't an issue. I'd prefer a larger screen. I don't want a Chromebook or iPad. [more inside]
posted by srboisvert at 8:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Expanding (kids') views of the world through other views of history

Inspired by a note about secondary school curriculum across West Africa from glasseyes, I'm interested in how history is taught in different places, for myself and for my kids. Details below. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 8:32 AM PST - 4 comments

Smart meters- yes or no? [UK]

I got a text from my electricity company today, with a date for my smart meter installation, which I haven't requested. Should I just go ahead with the installation or cancel? [more inside]
posted by threetwentytwo at 8:18 AM PST - 13 comments

I Have Tendinitis In My knee. Are My Running Days Over? What Cardio Can

I ran for years. At one point my knee starting really hurting. I went to the doc and they told me that I had tendinitis. I would take a month off. The pain would stop. I'd run again and it would come back. Ibuprofen would help, but the pain would come back whenever I ran. I tried again recently, after years, same result. Is there anything that I can do to still go running outside? If not, what other forms of cardio can I do? Other info inside. [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 8:12 AM PST - 15 comments

Storing flour cut with butter

For biscuits, can I do the "cut flour into butter" step once, for multiple recipes, and store it until needed? How (refrigerator/freezer)? For how long? [more inside]
posted by DevilsAdvocate at 7:22 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me use these new mental health diagnoses to find resources

Had severe, treatment-resistant depression for a long time. Recently, after a few suicide attempts, there are two new diagnoses on the horizon: my psychiatrist thinks I may have bipolar 2 rather than depression, my therapist agrees and is pretty sure I also have borderline personality disorder. I've got a basic, Tumblr-and-Wikipedia-level understanding of both of those. I know they're treatable and the stigma they carry is often unfair. I know DBT for borderline is A Thing. What else should I know about living with either of these diagnoses? What books or articles should I read? What resources should I make use of?
posted by nebulawindphone at 7:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Osteo, physio, or something else?

YANMD, but I slipped 3 discs in June, and have been in physio twice a week for most of the time since then, with two spinal epidurals in August and September. I feel like I should be better than I am by now, and would like advice on what other kind of treatment to look into. [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA at 6:41 AM PST - 4 comments

How to ask for what you need/want in dating?

New to dating, and it seems so different than what dating used to be- how can I ask or express what I want for my long term without putting pressure or expectations? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 at 6:32 AM PST - 10 comments

Best English translation of the Decameron?

Please what is the best English translation of Boccaccio's Decameron? I can't find any quotes of chunks of the McWilliams or Nicholls translations online and I want to buy a fun but full translation. [more inside]
posted by maiamaia at 6:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Compromising with someone who won’t compromise

I’m involved in a legal dispute over an insurance policy. It’s been going on for a year. The other party is completely unwilling to settle and it is eating me up inside. I know I can’t make them resolve this if they don’t want to. I need to focus on dealing with my own stress better. How can I do this? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 5:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Why was freedom of movement one of the founding principles of the EU?

Why was freedom of movement one of the founding principles of the European Union? I can find lots of articles that take this as a given, but none that talk about the motivations that led to it being regarded as a fundamental principle. Does anyone have any pointers to such an exegesis? [more inside]
posted by pharm at 1:35 AM PST - 13 comments

November 20

Where can I buy a used sewing machine? Should I buy used?

My mom has a Sears Kenmore from the 70s, and it is solid. It's made of metal and it smells like oil. It has worked beautifully for the past four decades. Can I just buy one like hers somewhere? Should I? I'm in the Bay Area. [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 9:39 PM PST - 25 comments

poem with the line "Why do I fall in love with every girl I've ever met"

Just that--I think it's part of the classic canon, like Bukowski or TS Eliot or something. Might've even been quoted in a television show like Mad Men. Would love to read the full thing again.
posted by ABlanca at 9:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Dog breeds that are good with cats and with stairs

My wife and I would like to get a dog. We're both fond of pretty much all kinds of dogs, but there are a couple of practical considerations. First, we have a cat, so we're looking for a gentle dog with a good sense of humor (the cat is pretty funny.) Secondly, our house has lots of stairs. The dog would need to be able to handle stairs, certainly in the prime of life and, hopefully, when older, too. Given that we may need to carry the dog up the stairs in its senior years, though, maybe we should look for one that weighs no more than, say, 50 pounds. [more inside]
posted by saywhat at 9:02 PM PST - 16 comments

Big difference between Wordpress stats and server logs

Hi, I volunteer as co-editor and main tech person for an academic collaborative blog. In our most recent full calendar month (October 2017), there was a 4-fold difference between the unique visitors reported by our server logs (Awstats) and what was reported by Why? [more inside]
posted by acridrabbit at 8:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Buying better

Help me come up with a list of 'good' brands that don't rely heavily on sweatshop labour [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 8:16 PM PST - 7 comments

animism shmaninism!

I've been reading a lovely but very heady book about animism. What are some other books (or other types of media) that explore animism themes further, and perhaps more directly? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 7:55 PM PST - 3 comments

Skype call log

I want to see my skype call log on an android phone with specific details (i.e. number of missed calls) from a specific contact for the last 4 months. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 7:01 PM PST - 1 comment

The college experience, for adults.

I miss having random conversations with smart people who are doing research in fields that are not my own. Is there any good way to scratch that itch as an adult? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 6:02 PM PST - 15 comments

Can an old git get a part time degree at Berkeley?

I’m someone in my 50s living in the Berkeley area and although I have written software since the 80s and probably wrote part of your web browser, I have no actual qualifications in computer science. No degree at all in fact. I was wondering if there was some way I could attend CS classes at Berkeley here and there and and work my way to a degree. Is there an organization that helps people like me work this out?
posted by w0mbat at 5:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Will you help me time my Thanksgiving meal?

I have never cooked a big meal before. I'd like to do as much in advance as possible. Please share your expertise. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 3:49 PM PST - 10 comments

What kind of houseplant is this?

Small, delicate indoor plant with trifolate leaves, each leaf has 1-2 ridges along each side. Grows upright, and leaves are medium green, thin and glossy, no woody stems. Here's a picture. [more inside]
posted by Orca at 2:23 PM PST - 2 comments

My Squirels aren't drinking!

I am rehabilitating some baby squirrels since Hurricane Irma destroyed their nests. I'm getting them ready for release, but they almost never drink water, and seem to rely solely on food for hydration. How do I humanely teach them to drink? [more inside]
posted by Kimothy at 2:01 PM PST - 5 comments

"Please Don't Cash Our Check" as a Donation Request

I have been asked to help write a letter from our church to an entity that rents space from us, requesting a donation. It requires a high level of finesse, and I'm stumped. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 1:48 PM PST - 13 comments

What are the Swedish words for hello and thanks?

What are the Swedish words for hello and thanks? Context inside. [more inside]
posted by lucy.jakobs at 1:39 PM PST - 6 comments

I don't think that I can take it, 'cause it took so long to bake it

Can you recommend a great, relatively simple birthday cake recipe? Amazing buttercream frosting is a must; other specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 1:32 PM PST - 16 comments

Where to find old magazine issues online?

Thanks to Google Books Magazines and OpenLibrary, I've been enjoying a number of vintage magazines. But is there a place online to get whole issues (not the odd scanned page) of 1980s/1990s women's/teen magazines to read? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 1:26 PM PST - 6 comments

Recommend someone with narrow feet some barefoot type shoes

So I've been using various different insoles for the last 13 years or so and they're doing almost nothing. I want to try something new and would like to try some barefoot type shoes (just for general walking rather than running) without any insoles to try and retrain my feet arches (they're almost non-existent). (More inside.) [more inside]
posted by sockpim at 1:24 PM PST - 8 comments

Need a new Podcatcher

I've been complaining about it for years, but the most recent round of "updates" to the iOS built-in Podcasts app has finally broken this camel's back. I need a new podcatcher, but I realize I have no idea what's out there beyond Apple's walled garden. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by firechicago at 1:18 PM PST - 27 comments

A haircut fit for a hat!

Seeking recommendations for a women's haircut or hairstyle that withstands the impact of winter hats! [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 1:16 PM PST - 7 comments

Best Family Boardgames

Ticket to Ride was a big hit with the grandkids last year. I'd like to get them another game. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 12:58 PM PST - 43 comments

Wordpress wants my featured image to be my sad, sad face

Is there any way to add "featured image" capability to a self-hosted Wordpress site without CSS? Is there really no plug-in? [more inside]
posted by The Wrong Kind of Cheese at 12:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Christmas in New York City: What's not to miss?

We, a family of four with two adult children from New Zealand, are spending two weeks around Christmas and New York in New York City. What is not to be missed, and indeed to be avoided, from a Christmas point of view? We like food, music - classical and jazz - and museums. Any thoughts on where to have Christmas Eve or Christmas Day lunch? We have some pretty strong family traditions (mainly Hungarian) at this time of the year but these are normally based around our home. It will be exciting to try something new. We will be staying in Williamsburg if that helps. All suggestions welcome.
posted by vac2003 at 12:40 PM PST - 19 comments

Nontoy gift ideas for kids

I am seeking nontoy gift ideas for kids in the 7- to 11-year-old range. [more inside]
posted by rabidsegue at 12:33 PM PST - 19 comments

Games that Simulate Multiple Generations

My favorite part of The Sims is watching a family grow and change through multiple generations. I'd like to iterate through those generations faster. [more inside]
posted by moonroof at 12:03 PM PST - 6 comments

Seeking replacement plastic lampshades; is 3D printing an option?

I have several of these floor lamps. The lamps work well for my space, so I don't want to replace them, but the bulbs' plastic shades are brittle and keep breaking. [more inside]
posted by GrammarMoses at 11:45 AM PST - 9 comments

Name that book, again: French guy does some... stuff?

I have another forgotten book title question. This one was set in colonial New York, with a French aristocrat; he comes over from Europe, does some stuff in NY, then goes on a trip down a river... [more inside]
posted by reshet at 11:39 AM PST - 2 comments

other names of the rose

I recently finished Umberto Eco's The Name Of The Rose and think it is a wonderful, wondrous book. I loved the interplay of language, theology, philosophy and mystery, the images, the characters, the narrative style. What else can I read? [more inside]
posted by the man of twists and turns at 11:19 AM PST - 32 comments

How to repair back pack straps

My backpack straps are becoming unusable due the canvas covering of the strap-cushion tearing where is creases. The manufacturer is unable/unwilling to repairs. So anyway how you go about repairing the torn fabric covering on backpack straps? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 11:17 AM PST - 10 comments

Diatomaceous Earth & Young Kids

Fleas have sadly entered our world. I have diatomaceous earth coming today. I have little humans at home. I am nervous about how to use it safely, despite online research, as it is my first time using it. [more inside]
posted by anya32 at 11:16 AM PST - 6 comments

Ya? Who else?

I have used Yahoo mail almost since its inception, and used to be quite happy with it. But between ads which hold everything else up while they take too much time to load, and constant urging to change back to the new version (which performed even worse for me), I have had it with the post-Verizon Yahoo. I'm not willing to pay $50 + $20 a month for the ad-free service. So what are my other options? [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 10:17 AM PST - 23 comments

Who could make a custom size ceramic bowl

I am interested in having a bowl with specific dimensions made for my cat. He has food allergy so he has prescription food, and I have just gotten this feeder that keeps his food separate from our other 2 cats. The problem is he is also allergic to plastic and the plastic bowl that it comes with causes sores on his face. I would like a bowl made that fits into the recessed area in the feeder. [more inside]
posted by ridogi at 10:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Last minute non-factory turkey suggestions, Central Los Angeles

I have taken on the task, last minute, of making a Thanksgiving turkey for just two. I live in Echo Park, Los Angeles - on this late date, where should I get a turkey that isn't just a big old ball of hormones and antibiotics? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 9:59 AM PST - 16 comments

How to manage late appointments at a research lab?

I work in a research lab that has families come in for studies. We're in a metro area with LOADS of transit options and we have free parking available nearby to our participants. Our provided directions are very good (I think). Despite all this, at least 20% of our participants arrive later than our late cut-off time. [more inside]
posted by ancient star at 9:57 AM PST - 36 comments

Post-Mastectomy, what support would you want most?

My mom (64 years old) has recently been diagnosed with breast cancer and will be having a mastectomy sometime in the coming weeks (she does not yet have a surgery date, but was told first week of December was most likely). She has opted for a mastectomy and no reconstruction. We do not yet know what (if any) further treatments will be required, and will not know that information until 2 weeks post surgery. What can I do to support her emotionally and physically in the uncertain days leading up to and following the surgery? Difficulty level: I live far (like, most of a continent) away. [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 9:47 AM PST - 5 comments

Introducing new cats part 2: Thanksgiving stress edition

This was me about a week ago. Things have not exactly improved since then, plus I have a three-day trip planned this week. What to do? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 9:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Workflow for printing very large photos

I have a new house with lots of white wall space, which I would like to populate with very large prints of my own photos. I need some help figuring out how the best workflow for doing so without completely breaking the bank. [more inside]
posted by googly at 9:28 AM PST - 7 comments

How to be content in a new marriage?

I happily married 6 months ago, but since then have the urge to leave everything and escape. How do I sort through these feelings? [more inside]
posted by ilyilynot at 9:19 AM PST - 25 comments

Porn doesn’t necessarily bother me, but the medium does?

My boyfriend watches porn, which doesn’t normally bother me. But why do certain mediums he watches it on bother me? It feels a lot more personal and I’m not sure if/how to address it. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 9:07 AM PST - 35 comments

Should I rehome my dog?

Family members have suggested that I rehome my dog. I am beyond pissed at them for suggesting this but understand their concerns. Help me figure out the best thing to do in this situation. [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 9:03 AM PST - 39 comments

Android email app

I would like an email app for my Android phone where I can view both my yahoo and gmail emails in a non-threaded style. I am fine paying for it. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 7:55 AM PST - 13 comments

Nuking the North Sea

Over on the blue, this thread is discussing wartime experiments in undersea tsunami-creating bombs. A while ago, I found a reference to cold war Soviet plans to nuke the North Sea, wiping out the oil field infrastructure and causing a massive tsunami that would devastate the north-eastern UK coast. This was before the Russian revelations mentioned in the thread. I've been unable to re-find my original reference or anything else related. Fantasy? Fiction? Real plan? Any atomheads know more?
posted by Devonian at 7:47 AM PST - 2 comments

Fillings for sandwich cookies that don't require refrigeration?

My family makes a few delectable sandwich cookies that unfortunately cannot be easily shared because the creamy fillings need to remain refrigerated. How do I determine which recipes would be safe outside the refrigerator long enough for, say, sending through the mail in the Great MetaFilter Cookie Swap? [more inside]
posted by Soliloquy at 7:15 AM PST - 6 comments

deep cuts en francais

I am trying to find the teacher's edition of an old (1995-ish) French grammar workbook. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 6:54 AM PST - 1 comment

Retirement Gift

Assume you know nothing about someone except that he is in his early 60s, Brazilian but living half the time in Florida, and an executive at a multinational corporation. What would you buy this person as a retirement gift in the $350 range? [more inside]
posted by something something at 6:15 AM PST - 15 comments

Doing things that make you sad.

Ever since my mom became ill, I have been having a really hard time keeping in touch with her. I need to be strong and be there for her, but I subconsciously avoid calling or interacting in general. How can I get over the sadness and go back to being a loving daughter? [more inside]
posted by Tarumba at 5:12 AM PST - 14 comments

Meal Trains for Other Purposes?

Are there sites that are like those meal train websites (to help those with severe illness or mourning) but which help organise hangout times? Or a way to customise those sites for those purposes? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 4:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a bath caddy

I am looking for a bath caddy with specific features. [more inside]
posted by drunkonthemoon at 4:33 AM PST - 1 comment

Does split bills = cheap ? ( asking for splitting within 3rd dates)

Recently I have met one guy I really enjoyed sharing the intimacy with him, he's a new grad but unemployed for 6 months. [more inside]
posted by dadaxiang1204 at 1:45 AM PST - 35 comments

find this toy (transformer)!

My 4 year old son has become transfixed on a particular toy he wants. Problem is, I can't find it. Can you? [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 12:47 AM PST - 10 comments

November 19

Reach Out, or Let it Be?

I’m trying to decide whether to make one last attempt at contacting a person I admire, or to let it go and move on. I'm a little concerned about seeming intrusive since I discovered the person through an older blog and only found contact information indirectly. [more inside]
posted by Carouselle at 10:31 PM PST - 9 comments

Books about cooking/learning to cook that aren't cookbooks

I love reading about other people learning to cook! Both in cooking schools and at home. Looking for more recommendations! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 10:26 PM PST - 15 comments

How did you find your graduate school major professor?

I am probably going to apply for graduate school in the spring in the sciences. People who have a graduate degree in the sciences, how did you find your advising professor? [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 8:39 PM PST - 7 comments

James Caan, Kirk Douglas, and the late Dinah Shore-ah

Is it in poor taste for non-Jews to play/sing the Adam Sandler Chanukah song?
posted by Chrysostom at 8:32 PM PST - 15 comments

London in December with a child

I'm going to London between Christmas and New Year's, to meet another of my children, and hopefully catch some sights. I have maybe 6 days max in the city and some logistics questions. Both of us are decent travelers in Asia. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 8:29 PM PST - 16 comments

Cox internet phone: how to record calls?

We get our landline phone service from Cox as an internet based phone service. I'd like to record calls on this line. What is the best way of doing this? [more inside]
posted by mattu at 7:44 PM PST - 4 comments

I just need to vent

All the windows in my apartment can only be opened a little bit at the top (like this). How do I vent the kitchen when cooking? [more inside]
posted by airmail at 7:24 PM PST - 11 comments

Recent hard science - not necessarily science-fiction - thrillers?

Oh hey look a book question. After a bunch of depressing non-fiction (pretty much everything from this previous Ask) it's time to lighten the mood with Kim Stanley Robinson's mammoth Green Earth. Anything else in this vein, perhaps a little more thriller-ly, but most certainly science-ly? [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia at 5:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Garage door opener mystery

A neighbor's garage door remote is opening my garage door. I have tried SO MANY things to fix it. Please help! [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 5:29 PM PST - 9 comments

Exploring SE Asia

Planning a getaway to SE Asia this Spring. Not experienced with international travel. How do I begin? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 5:22 PM PST - 21 comments

Fancy schmancy breakfast for drunks

I'm going on a ladies' weekend next week. We have a woman who doesn't eat red meat, and an egg allergy. I need a luxurious hangover type breakfast that doesn't have eggs! I'd intended to make an overnight type casserole (bread soaked in egg overnight, with ham and cheese) but that so doesn't work. She does eat turkey bacon. Any ideas? I'm a great cook but not experienced with the no egg thing.
posted by Ftsqg at 5:10 PM PST - 24 comments

Reinforcing the recall command? Any tips?

When I first got my rescue dog, Huggy, mefi was very helpful in assisting me as a newbie dog owner. Thanks! I've had her now for almost two years, and it's been wonderful. Until yesterday, I would have said the one thing I was sure of in her training was that she was responsive to the recall command. And she always has been, until she wasn't and the consequences could have been dire. Is there anything further I can do to strengthen it, or is she simply doomed to life on a leash? [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 4:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Are nous still enchantés?

Do French speakers still say enchanté(e) on first meeting or is it outmoded? What are possible (more) casual alternatives? [more inside]
posted by runincircles at 4:47 PM PST - 10 comments

A lot of latte, with a little effort

My partner drinks a lot of lattes. I'm looking for a way to make lattes at home to cut down on cost, but am not sure the best way to go about it that's a) inexpensive and b) efficient. [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 4:41 PM PST - 27 comments

Ongoing iron deficiency cause?

I've had iron deficiency for many years (not anemia apparently - I have a normal red blood cell count, although they are small) and have lately been going through All Of The Tests to find out why, with no answers yet. Anything else I should be thinking about or asking my doctors about? [more inside]
posted by fleecy socks at 4:35 PM PST - 16 comments

Cruelty free, organic, quality makeup... that makes a great gift?

My sister has requested cruelty free makeup for Christmas, and I'm at a loss.... I know I can just google "cruelty free brands" but can you recommend a great one that is also organic, sustainable, maybe that donates to a good cause, etc? And even better - recommend a nice palate or collection from said brand, that would make a good Christmas gift? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 3:16 PM PST - 16 comments

Can I eat it? Red pasta sauce containing canned tuna left out all night

Last night I added some vegetables (broccoli and green peppers) and canned tuna to a jar of commercial pasta sauce, heated the whole lot until the vegetables were thoroughly cooked, ate half, put the remaining half into a loosely covered container about an hour later, and then forgot to put the container into the fridge (grrr!). It was sitting out for about 8 hours in total. Is this safe to eat?
posted by mydonkeybenjamin at 2:33 PM PST - 17 comments

Two Buck Chuck, but Six

I am looking for a cheap, decent red wine as a stable for our liquor cabinet. Give me your best recommendations of bottles between $0-$10! [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 2:31 PM PST - 30 comments

39th birthday party ideas in Seattle

I'll be in Seattle with 10-20 of my coworkers for my birthday. Party suggestions? [more inside]
posted by crazycanuck at 1:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Asking work/life advice for a friend down in the dumps

A good friend of mine is spiraling (aren't we all in the US) and I'm at a loss as to help him. Mostly looking for practical actions but "headspace shifts" also acceptable. [more inside]
posted by zinful at 12:44 PM PST - 7 comments

Advice on how to unlock an Ipad

My father has a 2nd generation ipad mini that he cannot use because he has forgotten the password, and Apple customer support has been no assistance. Please help me help him use his device. [more inside]
posted by parkerposey at 12:33 PM PST - 7 comments

Can I chance a hormonal IUD if hormonal BC pills didn't work for me?

I took hormonal birth control pills briefly a dozen years ago and stopped because they gave me migraines. Am I crazy to now consider a hormonal IUD? [more inside]
posted by anderjen at 11:34 AM PST - 13 comments

Name that thing: 1920s house edition.

This thing must have been for a phone at one point. What I don't understand is the space below. It looks like some kind of speaker grille but I can't figure out what it would have been for. There's a big hollow space behind the grille but there's no obvious way to open it. Maybe the previous owners screwed the shelf on in such a way that prevents it from being opened? If I were to access that space, can anyone think of something useful / interesting that could be done with it? Thanks!
posted by sewellcm at 11:13 AM PST - 11 comments

Where and how and why are my photos?

I migrated my photos from Apple Photos to Google Photos and hate it. I can't migrate back, so now my photos are in multiple places. All I want is 1) all my photos in one place where 2) I can share to Facebook and 3) I can upload to Shutterfly. My next step is to hire a teenager, but I am hoping I don't have to. [more inside]
posted by arcticwoman at 8:40 AM PST - 3 comments

Underrepresented or Up-and-Coming [Indie?] Games?

Where can I find underrepresented or up-and-coming games that I can post onto my YouTube channel that thousands of others aren't already playing? [more inside]
posted by TinWhistle at 8:27 AM PST - 6 comments

Online Dating and Expectations

Are my online dating expectations reasonable, or should I try being more open/giving people more chances? [more inside]
posted by bearette at 8:09 AM PST - 24 comments

Will no one rid me of this vile video buffering?

My phone data plan has been mysteriously eaten for ~3 months, despite no change in browsing habits. I disabled image loading in Firefox and that helped some with data usage and also helped me ID a culprit: unwanted video buffering. How do I stop video, especially HTML5 video, from buffering? Note: I am not interested in youtube only hacks, or Facebook's stop autoplay. The buffering data use is the injury, the autoplay is the insult. [more inside]
posted by jointhedance at 8:01 AM PST - 6 comments

What to do with my (literal) emotional baggage?

I have been decluttering and I find myself unable to throw out coursework/dissertation copies from undergrad/grad school as well as equipment etc. associated with failed passions/dreams. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 6:38 AM PST - 24 comments

Good way to acknowledge being "uninvited" to a party?

I accepted a party invite by a casual acquaintance on FB, but looks like they've now uninvited me. I'd like to let her know that a) I won't show up and b) no hard feelings. Main aim is to minimise future awkwardness, so maybe I should just say nothing? What would you do? [more inside]
posted by hirsutebob at 5:41 AM PST - 13 comments

Advice on troubling relationship incident

While we were having a fight, my partner kicked me accidentally and I don't know how to feel about it. We usually get along well (we are both very anti-confrontational). I grew up with a verbally abusive parent and I am used to smoothing things over as much as possible. I feel like I don't have any perspective from which to look at this incident and tell if it is really worrying, or just an accident, or a small red flag to keep an eye on. Any opinions are welcome. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:37 AM PST - 39 comments

Recommendations for Christmas for a very special baby?

I am looking for recommendations for toys/books etc that Santa could bring. I especially want to find things which other Downs kids have loved and found useful for aiding their development. [more inside]
posted by mrbenn at 4:10 AM PST - 5 comments

Income tax on repayment?

Will I pay tax on my daughter's repayment of the loan we took out to buy her house? [more inside]
posted by Peach at 2:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Deducting closing costs in off-market home sale

In working out the details of a real estate sale between siblings, should closing costs be considered in the price? [more inside]
posted by lalas at 12:13 AM PST - 20 comments

November 18

How do I know what kind of programming skill to ask for in a project?

First off, let me begin by saying I'm out of my depth here so I will try to present this question as clearly as I can. I have basically no tech skills/knowledge, and the only reference point I would have for this project would be a database (relational?) like Access running queries to compare subsets of information against each other to come up with a report that integrates info from different databases and questionnaires. [more inside]
posted by GospelofWesleyWillis at 9:52 PM PST - 10 comments

Not Ready to Dive In

Should I abandon ship whenever someone tells me they’re not ready to dive into a relationship? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by AlexandriaParis at 9:29 PM PST - 23 comments

What does it take to move abroad?

I am curious about what it takes to move to or spend significant time in another country, especially during a time in my life where most of my peers are "settling down" and launching their careers. I've lived/worked abroad briefly, but nothing on the scale of 3-5 years. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 8:13 PM PST - 18 comments

Book recomendation: fiction by authors who excell at anthropology + psyc

I love reading fantasy and science fiction, but my two favorite books are actually slightly off from the norms for these genres: "hyper-realistic culture-focused fiction" is what i'll call the target genre for this book search. All recommendations are welcome! :) And if you can tell me a bit about why the book(s) you recommend fit this category, that too would be much appreciated! :) [more inside]
posted by ch3cooh at 7:52 PM PST - 31 comments

I can't find this damned Christmas tree...

Last year, when it was too late to buy a Christmas tree, I saw a beautiful, pre-lit artificial Christmas tree on a blog, and now I can't find it again. [more inside]
posted by ersatzkat at 6:06 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me win our Christmas decorating contest

The small private university I work for as a departmental Christmas decorating contest each year. The winners always have some sort of theme and I need help brainstorming ideas for this year. We have basically no budget, but tons of enthusiasm. I work for the business school and our offices are located in a one-story house on campus. [more inside]
posted by shesbookish at 5:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Seeking stylus-based note taking and synching app with a certain feature

I have a feeling I haven't seen this because it doesn't exist, and perhaps it CAN'T exist! But here it is: [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 4:36 PM PST - 2 comments

A very specific question about a very frustrating social network.

In a fit of alcohol-induced brazen networking, I sent a Facebook friend request to someone I've been wanting to connect with. Now, much more sober, we are not connected, and I see the default "Add Friend" button on their profile instead of the "Friendship Request Sent" icon that usually shows up when a request has been sent but neither accepted nor rejected. I know one possible explanation is that the request was already received and rejected -- but what if I actually never pressed the button? [more inside]
posted by telegraph at 4:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Species which went extinct because of super-specific sex?

I'm sure that I've read about species (animal or plant) which went extinct because they had some specific sexual habit or preference or requirement which turned out to not be very robust in the face of change. However, I'm having trouble thinking of any examples now. Is this a thing that actually happens? Can you think of examples?
posted by clawsoon at 3:51 PM PST - 17 comments

What's irritating the skin on my upper back?

Several years ago, the skin on my upper back (on and around the shoulderblades; not in the middle) started getting dry, flaky, bumpy, red, and mildly itchy. What might be causing this? Could it be my shampoo? Or a reaction to some other irritant? You are not my dermatologist. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 2:59 PM PST - 14 comments

VW mechanic in Sacramento?

Seeking a mechanic in South Sac or Elk Grove who specializes in Volkswagens, especially one familiar with the old air-cooled engines. Thanks!
posted by Rash at 2:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Easiest way to clean floured countertop

I've been ramping up my baking on the way to Christmas and cleaning the countertop is the most annoying part of the whole process. Help [more inside]
posted by tedious at 2:03 PM PST - 17 comments

Books/Articles on tattoos in Mexican culture

[ResearchFilter] I am trying to find information about tattoos in Mexican culture for a class project, and am coming up blank. I'm looking for recommendations on both the info itself, and tips on how I can find resources better on my own. [more inside]
posted by motioncityshakespeare at 1:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Need a Cookbook in Japanese

I want to buy a beginning American cuisine cookbook in Japanese in the United States. Help? [more inside]
posted by ceramicblue at 1:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Why, stomach, why?

Sometimes if I walk after eating I become increasingly bloated and eventually throw up. This is obviously inconvenient and now happening more frequently. Anyone ever have this issue? [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 1:05 PM PST - 31 comments

Small Items to Gift in Advent Calendar

For the last ten years, my hubby and I have exchanged an Advent Calendar with our long time friends. This year it is our turn to fill up the stand-up rustic holiday house (aka The Adventure Calendar) and gift it to them. I am asking jolly Mefites to suggest new ideas to fill up the calendar. [more inside]
posted by narancia at 12:29 PM PST - 16 comments

best apple cider donut recipe?

i’ve been asked to bring a dessert to thanksgiving dinner this year, and i want to try to make apple cider donuts. the recipes from my usual sites have poor reviews, so i came here to see if anyone has a tried and true recipe for me? [more inside]
posted by sabh at 11:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Can you get in any trouble for turning down shift not scheduled?

Is it possible to get in trouble for not answering your phone on a scheduled vacation period even though boss admits they did it by mistake? [more inside]
posted by mamamia88 at 11:19 AM PST - 17 comments

(When) Do I Go? And How?

I started at this job almost two months ago (despite having major reservations) because I really needed a job. As it turns out, I am not happy for multiple reasons, and I’d like to quit before I have to put it on my resume. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:29 AM PST - 4 comments

What's a good name for PDF rendering app with arXiv integration?

I made an app that renders PDFs more readable on your phone. It also lets you browse the latest articles on the arXiv, specific to your field. This app has a very unusually / non-discoverable name, and so basically no users (according to iTunes Connect, Google Play stores. Except me, I think it's great!). [more inside]
posted by tintexas at 10:21 AM PST - 11 comments

What's a realistic career direction for me? Mom in 30s w/ MPH, ADHD

I earned a Master's of Public Health (MPH) in my early 20s. It wasn't a good fit for me, and I've struggled to find career direction (see below for details). Now in my early 30s, married, and the mother of a young child, I'm concerned about how to make better career decisions going forward, to help provide stability for my family. What options do you see for me? I appreciate your thoughts! [more inside]
posted by a constant satellite at 9:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Tell me about being an independent contractor (US)

I'm thinking of doing some locums work for an agency and would thus become an independent contractor (1099). I understand this means I will have to pay my own social security and Medicare taxes. It sounds like I also have to pay taxes quarterly--how does that work? Is there an additional self-employment tax I'm required to pay? I am married to a non-resident alien so I always file 1040 married separately, can I still do that? What else is there to know, and what else is there to watch out for? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 9:32 AM PST - 6 comments

Cheap, safe, cross-country shipping for a single piece of furniture

I'm looking for the best (safe and inexpensive) way to ship one heavy, antique piece of furniture from Berkeley, CA to Cambridge, MA. [more inside]
posted by tangosnail at 9:30 AM PST - 3 comments

How to protect family/self/team during public controversy?

For a long time I've been mulling a campaign to rename a local street and (possibly) a state county. I'd start with the street. It also has a park associated with it which I'd like renamed but feel like the street needs to come first. My hesitation is the negative attention that seems to come with these endeavors and I'm wondering if there are ways to protect myself. [more inside]
posted by amanda at 9:29 AM PST - 6 comments

What's an effective feminist organization for holiday donations?

Last year I asked people to donate to the ACLU in my name as my gift. I'd like to do the same this year, but I want to add a feminist organization (for obvious reasons). I'm looking for something that will use money effectively to get women elected to office and/or end harassment. Basically, a respectable way to smash the patriarchy. (I thought of NOW, but I don't know if they've gotten top-heavy and ineffective like so many long-lived organizations.) Thanks!
posted by languagehat at 9:23 AM PST - 8 comments

How to make alien voices like in 50s/60s radio

I'm curious how radio stations made voices like this and how I might do that today.
posted by tcv at 8:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Experimental home chef seeks semi-challenging recipes

I'm a home chef looking for new and different recipes that will challenge my lately-underused cooking skills, or at least encourage my creativity in the kitchen. Intermediate to advanced is OK. I have no dietary restrictions. Anything goes, but bonus points if 1) it's fun to cook [and eat, of course], and/or 2) doesn't require too many expensive ingredients. Doesn't have to be fancy or haute cuisine - could be anything from chicken & waffles to, well, consommé. Prefer direct recipe links online (with photos) over cookbook recommendations. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 8:11 AM PST - 16 comments

"Morning Coffee" Firefox Extension - May it rest in peace! Argh!

Until this morning, I used the Morning Coffee firefox extension heavily. You click the button on your toolbar, and all of today's websites load as tabs (different days of the week can be customized). Now that Firefox Quantum is upon us, it doesn't work, and I'd like to switch to Chrome I guess anyway (I should right?). How do I replace this? [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 6:58 AM PST - 10 comments

Infant/toddler shoe brand that sounds like “robot”?

A random parent yesterday was talking up the brand of shoes their 10-month-old was wearing. They were soft-soles slipper with elastic in the back. The name on the tag looked something like “robot.” Maybe reebo? Rebot? Google is not helping because all I get is Reebok. Any ideas?
posted by whitewall at 5:41 AM PST - 3 comments

What do "multicore" and "multithreaded" mean?

I just got a new computer and its CPU is described as "four core, eight thread." Can you give me a simple layperson's explanation of what that means? I don't know anything about computer architecture, and all of the Google results seem to assume a base knowledge that I don't have.
posted by Frobenius Twist at 5:17 AM PST - 15 comments

What should I bolt on to my Nashville trip?

I will be going to Nashville in April from London - what else should I add to my itinerary? [more inside]
posted by lethologues at 4:55 AM PST - 13 comments

'Good stories' for my Mum this Christmas

My Mum has asked for some books (novels) for Christmas. She does not want me to just buy her a Amazon or Waterstone's voucher (I checked). What a nightmare. [more inside]
posted by churlishmeg at 3:50 AM PST - 53 comments

May I re-enter the UK with a T2 visa and almost-expired US passport?

I have a tier 2 UK visa (valid for many more years), a biometric residence permit, and a US passport that expires in May (so, in < 6 months). If I visit the US in December, will I be able to re-enter the UK in January or will I get in trouble because my passport is expiring soon? I'm especially looking for recent personal anecdotes or links to government policies/helplines. Thanks!
posted by heterosoy at 12:39 AM PST - 11 comments

November 17

Are these school show costumes cultural appropriation?

My kid's school regularly requests costumes for short shows throughout the year. Usually it's stuff like animals or a snowman. This year my kid's class have been assigned various "national costumes" for their winter term show, and I'm unsure of their appropriateness and am concerned they could be classed as cultural appropriation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Navigating non-monogamy

I am dipping my toe into the waters of non-monogamy and looking for a little guidance. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 6 comments

I've Got This (don't I?)

A question about how to gracefully keep from having to pick up the tab every single time we eat out with friends and family. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 31 comments

Car audio via Bluetooth dongle, plus separate Bluetooth buttons?

My car stereo doesn't have native Bluetooth connectivity. I want to use my phone as a music player to send audio via Bluetooth to a dongle that plugs into the stereo's 3.5mm audio jack, and have a separate Bluetooth media remote (steering wheel buttons). Is such a thing possible? My phone has Bluetooth 5.0, so it theoretically supports connecting to multiple devices simultaneously. [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 11:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Health insurance in Mawlamyine

My mom took a teaching job in Mawlamyine, awesome! She needs health insurance, less awesome. How can I help her from across the globe? [more inside]
posted by carnivoregiraffe at 10:34 PM PST - 2 comments

Eye or brain, or both or neither?

Asking for a friend. Mystery halo seen in eye? [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 5:46 PM PST - 18 comments

Breaking the devil that is nail chewing

2 year old edition. Recently started chewing fingers and while no blood has been drawn, he is getting close. I know there is something we can paint on his nails, any brand recommendations or other tips and strategies we could try to get ahead of this before it becomes a lasting habit?
posted by MandaSayGrr at 5:32 PM PST - 9 comments

Voice Memo App for Android?

I want an app like the voice memo app on the iphone for android so I can record stuff. [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 5:31 PM PST - 2 comments

Where can I write personal, blog-style posts for actual readers?

Looking for a place/places to write blog-style posts where there's an actual audience, or a chance to build one? [more inside]
posted by FlyByDay at 5:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Would you please share your coping experiences with Firefox Quantum(57)?

My daily productivity has declined since Firefox Chromium installed. Anybody else have the same problem? What are your alternatives, suggestions? More within. [more inside]
posted by forthright at 5:04 PM PST - 22 comments

State (WI) Tax Refund Check made out to... estate of me.

My husband passed in January. I filed taxes late this year, and only recently got the refund check. Which is made out to.... "The estate of [my name]". The bank won't cash it. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 4:21 PM PST - 15 comments

Easy Peasy Responsive Design Question

How do I keep a responsive web page from sliding around horizontally on mobile devices? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 4:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Exactly how politicized is the high and tight hairstyle right now?

So, I just got a haircut literally yesterday. I'm not from the USA and am not really aware of style trends there. The haircut I got looks very much like this. It looks good on me and it's not going to raise any eyebrows where I live, but it just came to my attention that this haircut, or ones like it, are now being associated with neonazis in the USA. I am going to the USA in one week to attend a wedding. A Jewish wedding. Is my hair a real problem, or is it just an overblown internet thing? Do I need an emergency head shave?
posted by Vodka Martini on the Socks at 3:17 PM PST - 47 comments

What to expect before and after urological surgery

I'm scheduled for surgery next month. I've never had any type of surgery before, so I'm totally in the dark in terms of what to expect, how to prepare, and what questions might be helpful to ask my doctor. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by nixxon at 3:17 PM PST - 9 comments

My kinda BFF is a flake and I'm kinda over it, or am I?

One of my oldest, dearest friends is a flake and pretty introverted and has been as long as I've known him (20 years). Last week he and his family flaked on my kid's 1st birthday party and I realized that I'm not cool with this anymore. Do I need to just move on or should I try saving this friendship? [more inside]
posted by sock potato at 3:09 PM PST - 13 comments

Dr. weight loss advice not following laws of physics e.g., prison camps

Thought experiment: two conflicting concepts regarding weight loss where the math doesn't add up and is completely contrary to real life conditions. [more inside]
posted by Arachnophile at 2:38 PM PST - 23 comments

What part of speech are mathematic operands?

I just heard a colleague mumble a change order number in Spanish, his native language. He said, "Numbers are the one thing I still have to do in Spanish - I learned tres mas cuatro es siete, not three plus four." Which got me to thinking, what part of speech are math operands? They're telling you to do something (verb) but they don't conjugate. Are they a conjunction? Something weird?
posted by notsnot at 1:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Who is Brode, what is he?

My grandfather had a habit in correspondence using last names only. Thus, in 1931, he was in Berlin, attending a gathering of the International Women's League for Peace, where spoke: "The Ohioan (we should guess Czech) Brode [who] propounded the program of his own city society – a league emphasizing the word “progress” - and tried to get a Berlin branch started." And so forth. Who he, what his proposed program? (A half dozen other mystery guests after the jump, if Brode is unfamiliar, and if the upcoming Christmas Challenge questions are too easy for you) [more inside]
posted by BWA at 1:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Where to get facsimile maps?

I am interested in building a collection of historic facsimile maps, ideally full-scale and in color. Do you have any suggestions about where to buy these? I have heard that sometimes a facsimile map will be included along with a book about the map. Do you know what publishers do this regularly? Any tips would be greatly appreciated.
posted by mortaddams at 1:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Bedroom music making (not that kind of bedroom music)

I'm looking to make some DIY, teenage-y/college student music. Like the stuff people make in their bedroom alone by themselves. Particularly dreamy/slightly twee/electronic pop. Some bands I'm interested in are Crying and Stars. I don't know anything about music theory. I don't want to do anything complicated until I understand this stuff better. Where do I start? Should I buy a mini synthesizer? Toy piano?
posted by starlybri at 12:48 PM PST - 9 comments

It's not a funeral, but it just might feel like one

We've had a newborn living with us for the last 6 months or so (previously), and the time is quickly approaching for him to transition to living with his birth family. This is all being handled by an Organization who does These Things and we're working with a team there that has been really great throughout this process. The transition should go smoothly, but we're at a bit of a loss of what to do when we come home that first time without the boy who has been (and will always be considered) our son. [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 12:12 PM PST - 17 comments

What ages is the Adam West Batman series appropriate for?

Is this appropriate for kids? What ages? I remember watching it on TV as a kid and it seemed fine to me and my parents but that was in the 80s.
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 11:38 AM PST - 20 comments

Looking for "Laura Ingalls Wilder Goes to the City" historic books

Hello librarians and historians and researchers and all-around readers! I'm researching a novel and am looking for books (ideally non-fiction) about women born in the prairie/western states that then move to a larger city. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by good day merlock at 11:14 AM PST - 22 comments

Is this a flu?

This may seem a bit silly but I've never had the flu before that I know of. Two nights ago around 8pm I felt a sudden very sore throat with some swelling and closed-throat feeling, plus significant muscle/joint pain. I took a sleeping pill and slept all night and most of the next day, by last night I felt 90% better and am back at work today. The weird part is the exact same thing happened three weeks ago. Is this what a flu is? Something else? I do tend to be a worrier.
posted by Cosine at 11:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Best Inspiring Movies About Middle-Age/Midlife Crisis/50 and Now What?

Discovering that I'm not exactly dealing with turning 50 in April in the most harmonious fashion. Looking for movies featuring characters facing midlife with lingering doubts/questions, but are inspired to move ahead anyway. Nothing major here - just a hideous combination of political despair, existential angst, and I'm in need of a cinematic pat on the back as 2018 approaches. [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 11:06 AM PST - 20 comments

How do you get things done in your office?

I strongly suspect that the marketing department that I belong to is more dysfunctional than average. Please tell me about the workflow, best practices, software solutions, meeting frequency, etc. that make your office (marketing or otherwise) work so I might have a better idea of how far off the mark we are. Blizzard within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Upwork alternatives?

Hi AskMe! :) Related to my previous question, I'm trying to offer myself as a freelance accessibility tester to folks who might not be in the market for a larger company. Upwork seems like a decent place to do this, but has… let's just say a variety of accessibility issues itself. I can't even get an account created there yet, so am looking for alternatives. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 10:07 AM PST - 4 comments

Sun for my birthday

Every year I get Seasonal Affective Disorder (the appropriately acronymed SAD) in the winter. This year I'd like to get out of Minnesota around my birthday - February 15th - to find the sun and some (relative) warmth. Our requirements are under the fold. [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 8:45 AM PST - 15 comments

French Workbook for Reading?

I need to read French in order to read secondary academic historical works. I have some books that are quite good, but they are just reading passages and teaching the grammar, etc. They aren't interactive. I would like a workbook where I write things down/fill things out, etc, and isn't aimed a high school students. Thanks.
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 8:37 AM PST - 11 comments

No really, nitrogen carbon and phosphorus don't have feelings

Is there a name for the logical fallacy that "the purpose of life is to pass on your genes?" I see this all over the place. [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 8:19 AM PST - 21 comments

The Crocodile, Seattle, 11/19

My teenage daughter wants to see a show at the Crocodile in Seattle on 11/19, a Sunday night. We live 3 hours away, and I don't want to drive home afterwards. Lodging, parking questions below. [more inside]
posted by 101cats at 8:08 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I Confess if I've Harassed People in the Past?

I'm a straight white man who is in my thirties. When I was younger, I didn't always treat people well. I had "nice guy" tendencies, and while I never subscribed to their ideology, I did internalize that same grievance. Because of this I didn't always treat women well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:06 AM PST - 59 comments

A possible employer praised my work but I can't say I did it. What now?

I wrote copy for a web project a few months ago. A potential employer praised in on LinkedIn. I'd like to raise my hand and try to get a job with his company. But the work was under NDA. I REALLY need a job. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Stuff This: Stocking Stuffer Suggestions

My family and I usually each buy some stocking stuffers for each other. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 6:26 AM PST - 26 comments

Considering going to France for a year with kids -- crazy?

I just learned that I can take a sabbatical (yay!), which would allow me to spend a year in France with my two kids and partner. Trying to think through whether this is a good idea. [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 6:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Mystery TV for my mother?

My mom loves mystery TV. She's seen every season of Midsomer Murders and I can only assume she's seen every mystery TV series on (Canadian) Netflix (Miss Fisher, etc.). She especially loves the Cumberbatch Sherlock, and is periodically obsessed with Jack the Ripper. What hasn't she seen that she might like?
posted by flibbertigibbet at 4:20 AM PST - 38 comments

A coffee table novel?

I just woke up from a dream in which I was sitting in a used bookstore, absorbed in a novel that was printed like a coffee table art book - a big heavy hardback in which more than half the pages were printed with beautiful reproductions of colorful 19th through 21st century paintings; but instead of text about the paintings, the text was a contemporary novel. Has a book like that ever really existed?
posted by moonmilk at 4:03 AM PST - 7 comments

"Hi micro friends!!"

What can I do to keep my gut microbiota healthy? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 2:38 AM PST - 14 comments

Hold both my hands and look into my eyes

I'm trying to work out the cultural/ethnic origin of the classic greeting of my mum's aunts. They do a single (sometimes double) kiss, followed by holding hands (one in each) while greeting you and brief conversation. Cultural details inside. [more inside]
posted by cholly at 12:03 AM PST - 4 comments

November 16

Thanksgiving recipes? Difficulty: recently removed gallbladder

We're used to creating Thanksgiving dinners that accommodate a wide number of dietary issues, but this year presents a challenge we're not quite prepared for: one of our guests had their gallbladder removed a few weeks ago. Do you have any yummy, ultra-low-fat recipes for just such a scenario? [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 9:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Cataract surgery: Pros and cons of correcting for near vision

I'm having cataract surgery soon in both eyes. I'm getting monofocal lenses. I'm trying to decide whether to have the correction set to favor near vision (no glasses needed for reading, but glasses required for driving) vs. distance vision (will need glasses for reading). [more inside]
posted by alex1965 at 8:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Thanksgiving for Two

Normally, my partner and I would be spending this Thanksgiving with our three teenage children from our previous marriages, our parents, our friends, or a combination thereof -- but we just discovered today that a last-minute change of plans means that this year for the first time ever, it's gonna be just the two of us. Help us figure out what to do? [more inside]
posted by pinkacademic at 8:16 PM PST - 20 comments

How to setup a clubhouse wifi

I may or may not have been volunteered to help setup wifi for the neighborhood pool/clubhouse, halp me. [more inside]
posted by k5.user at 7:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Why would an STI clinic ask about prescription medications?

So I went to a clinic recently for STI testing, and while most of the pre-testing questions made sense (in terms of determining risk factors etc), a few of the questions left me confused afterwards as to what the purpose might be. One question was whether I'm taking any prescription medications and what conditions those medications were for. Why/how is this relevant to an STI test? [more inside]
posted by ersatzhuman at 6:28 PM PST - 12 comments

So what are these Indian spice blends good for?

I've got two boxes of spice blends from an Indian grocery store, Zatpat Kolhapuri Masala and Pay Bhaji Masala. For the life of me, I can't remember why I acquired them and I have no idea what to do with them (or any other mysterious spice blends I see in the Indian grocery store) but I long to learn. [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Home equity conversion mortgage (HECM)

We are considering taking out a home equity conversion mortgage so that we can move into a larger home. I've read a lot and am pretty well up on how it works but I am interested in hearing from anyone who has actually been through it. Anyone out there?
posted by charlesminus at 5:42 PM PST - 2 comments


I'm working on individuation from my parents. I've been asked by my therapist to list 12 things each, for mother and father, that I'm thankful for. 12 is a big number in this realm ... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 5:27 PM PST - 32 comments

Birth control timing when you don't need birth control

I'm on birth control solely to suppress my periods. I don't and will likely never have the kind of sex that could get me pregnant. Do I still have to take it at exactly the same time every day? [more inside]
posted by brook horse at 5:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Hero/Villain Switcheroos!

Looking for movies or other stories where the antagonist becomes the villain, the antagonist becomes the hero, but in the end work work together to save the world or help each other out in some other way? [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 4:50 PM PST - 21 comments

Need recipe for sweet potato pie -- with no added sweetener

Want sweet potato pie with no sugar, no agave, no stevia, no maple, no artificial sweetener. My searches yield "no sugar" recipes with Splenda or xylitol. And paleo recipes with maple syrup. How do I make a yummy sweet potato pie with absolutely no sweetener added? Aren't the sweet potatoes sweet enough? I'm happy to add spices, eggs, dairy, nuts. Just no sweetener.
posted by valannc at 4:38 PM PST - 21 comments

Where Should We Go on Vacation?

Hi! I have off on a Thursday-Monday (I work Tuesday starting at 4:00, so Tuesday could potentially be a half day off) and want to go somewhere that is RELAXING, not super cold (and maybe even warm), soothing, potentially has lovely swimming, and is not a super long plane ride or car trip from San Francisco. [more inside]
posted by bookworm4125 at 3:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Help! I need to make telephone calls from my computer and record them!

A really big part of my job is doing telephone interviews, and I need to be able to record them in order to get accurate quotes from them later. My telephone doesn't support call recording (or rather, it only records my end of the conversation, which is useless), but I've had a really successful system of using Skype, with a paid balance to make outgoing calls to telephone numbers and then recording them using the third-party Skype Call Recorder program for Ubuntu. This doesn't work anymore. [more inside]
posted by 256 at 3:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for REALLY GOOD speeches/lectures/talks

I've noticed I enjoy listening to talks online. I want to find more good ones. [more inside]
posted by monologish at 2:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Can you re-mineralize/grow/repair your tooth enamel?

Googling this seems to provide conflicting answers. Would like fellow mefites' thoughts on my question. If you believe you can grow/repair/remineralize tooth enamel, links or product names would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by luvmywife at 2:36 PM PST - 17 comments

What should I do for my Fortieth Year?

What should I do for my fortieth birthday at the end of May next year? [more inside]
posted by doogan nash at 2:14 PM PST - 7 comments

Fear aggressive dog causing relationship issues, or is it me?

My bf of a year and a half have had ongoing issues over his dog's aggressive behavior, including snapping at my face and lunging and growling at several people. Multiple requests to get her trained have gone nowhere. BF also shuts down and withdraws any time this comes up, to the point I feel like I have to prepare for a breakup every time I initiate the discussion. No one else seems to have an issue with the dog, so maybe I really am the one in the wrong? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:45 PM PST - 51 comments

Alice in Stickerland

Where are all the brick-and-mortar stores that sell stickers? Difficulty level: UK, not Paperchase. Minor snowflake flurry inside. [more inside]
posted by sailoreagle at 1:35 PM PST - 6 comments

manifest density

Last weekend, I made Metafilter's favorite Mark Bittman no-knead bread and it turned out delicious, but a little denser than optimal. I've identified a few possible issues – can some of the master bakers out there weigh in? [more inside]
posted by roger ackroyd at 1:27 PM PST - 23 comments

Need a book about "The Labor Movement" in the United States

I've become more active in my local teachers association recently, and I find myself wanting to read up on the history of the labor movement in the United States. [more inside]
posted by Temeraria at 1:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Treats available in the U.S. but not the UK

Sending a Christmas package with snacks/sweets that my friend in the UK can't get over there. I don't want to ask her favorites because I want it to be a surprise. Suggestions? Lighter weight is better, as postage has gotten ridiculous. I saw this thread but it's been three years and maybe more stuff is available over there now.
posted by trillian at 12:56 PM PST - 30 comments

craft pack for kids

I buy gifts for a local kiddo every holiday season. This year the nine-year-old girl I was assigned asked for craft supplies. I want to put together a kit of amazing, fun stuff for her to get creative with! But I am at a loss, and all the "craft buckets" seem lacking and sad and full of only pom poms and googley eyes (which are great but kind of have limited creative range)! Assuming a $50 budget for craft supplies, help me put together an AMAZING group of gifts to make my very own craft bucket for her. [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 12:01 PM PST - 30 comments

Arm me with Knowledge!

Looking for reading material to help support/educate me on matters I care about! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 11:37 AM PST - 8 comments

annuity rider charges?

Would someone mind breaking this into down into to understandable terms, please? My friend has asked her district appointed agent who advised her to move her savings from a 403b to a Voya account several times and yet she still have no idea why these rider fees are more than the interest accrued, or even what they are (and why are they in parenthesis)? She is retiring soon from a district position. She and I would like to know exactly what is going on here. (Details below) Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by ConnieL at 11:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Should I Join the Democratic Socialists of America?

For the last month, I've been looking at the DSA as a political organization. I was impressed by their multi-tendency nature and their willingness to work within other parties (mostly the Democratic Party) in order to achieve goals. After their sudden surge in the Nov 7 election, I decided to check them out in person. I just went to a small local meeting in my area (about ten people) and saw what at least the locals are about. Now, I want to know, should I start paying dues and join them? [more inside]
posted by Lord Chancellor at 10:40 AM PST - 11 comments

Slightly More Interesting Roast Turkey

Do you have ideas for making roast turkey that is slightly more interesting than my family's very simple and delicious recipe? I want to see about changing it up but not enough to ruin timing or leftovers. [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 10:27 AM PST - 20 comments

I’m broke, he’s...not.

For the first time in my life I’m in a relationship that features a significant(!!!) income disparity. I have questions. [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 10:24 AM PST - 17 comments

How to improve videotelephony meetings

How do you make video conference meetings with remote workers as useful as face to face meetings? How do you minimize setup time and efficiency and improve quality? [more inside]
posted by GernBlandston at 9:23 AM PST - 7 comments

ELI5 - paying for graduate school, last-minute edition

I need help figuring out how one goes about getting loans for graduate school, and I don't have a lot of time to figure it out. I'm a full-time employee making a comfortable salary, and I have been taking courses one-at-a-time at a local university (through a certificate program in the same department) since 2015. I now want to go full-time and finish a master's, but the kicker is that I want to make this change by January 2018, and I have no idea how to pay for it. [more inside]
posted by houseofleaves at 9:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Bill Maher, where are you?

I get HBO streamed via Amazon Prime. Any idea why the Real Time with Bill Maher, which airs Friday nights, isn't available till at least Monday or Tuesday? Other shows (John Oliver) are usually available within hours of broadcast. [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 8:11 AM PST - 4 comments

Can I control which generic med I'm given?

I've been getting a generic medication from the same CVS for a couple years, but just moved to NYC. When I picked up the prescription from my new CVS, the copay was about $30 more than usual. I got home and realized that this generic looked totally different and was by a different manufacturer than my old one; I'm assuming this is why it cost more. How do I switch back to the old generic? [more inside]
posted by Lady Gotohell at 8:09 AM PST - 14 comments

Should I use a buyer's broker?

Very basic question about real estate purchases and buyer/seller brokers in New York/Western Massachusetts. I'm thinking about buying a property that I would use partly for my own vacations and partly to rent out on AirBnb. What are the ramifications about working with a broker of our own versus just booking appointments with the sellers' brokers and not having our own broker? [more inside]
posted by pipti at 6:46 AM PST - 11 comments

Day/Night out with my 18-yr old nephew

My husband and I want to take my 18-year old nephew out for his birthday and I'm stumped on what to do. [more inside]
posted by moogs at 6:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Concert Kerfuffle - shady reseller, accidentally bought to many

So, I am not a concert goer, but decided to by tickets to a show through VividSeats. Thought I was buying one ticket, clicked yes, ended up with a very l charge on my account for 6 tickets. [more inside]
posted by AlexiaSky at 6:04 AM PST - 9 comments

What software is used to create video presentations like this?

What is the likely process and software for creating Google Developer videos like this one? It's basically a slideshow, but with lots of builds and transitions, and some subtle sound effects, perfectly synchronised to the audio. They also have a speaker overlaid on top. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 4:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Can we eat it pre-Thanksgiving edition

Can an uncooked turkey sitting out at 70 degrees for several hours be cooked and eaten safely? [more inside]
posted by tip120 at 4:04 AM PST - 19 comments

Super-fast vegan dinner ideas - UK edition

What kid-friendly vegan meals take less than 20 minutes to cook? [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 1:30 AM PST - 24 comments

November 15

Shit in ice cream

I remember this bit of stand up comedy which was about how much literal shit are you willing to have in your ice cam for you to lick it. It was of course a metaphor for the tolerance of racism / white power, etc. And I can't find it anymore. I thought it was Hari Kondabolu, but I can't find it. I definitely saw it lineked in metafilter several times. Does this ring a bell for anyone?
posted by Pyrogenesis at 10:40 PM PST - 7 comments

Trying not to channel flannel

Help me find a very specific out-of-season bathrobe. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 6:59 PM PST - 6 comments

Dermatologist in NYC

Please help me choose a dermatologist in NYC. This dermatologist will accept Aetna, be near the N/R in brooklyn or Manhattan, and won’t shame me for having all these unattended moles and this other thing on my head. [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 6:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Worlds of words to escape to

Yesterday, I read the gorgeous, perfect, sweet all-ages comic "The Tea Dragon Society" and fell in love. And then realized how badly I need to disappear into a really good book or 10. Recommendations? I'm looking for some fantasy, historical fiction, regular fiction, or sci-fi novels to read for the purposes of escapism. I'm open to webcomics, too, and podcasts/audiobooks, and kid's books, and movies. Anything where I can really sink into another world and lose myself. [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 6:00 PM PST - 47 comments

Boyfriend wants to avoid me so we don't ''get bored of each other''

Alright, so I've had a good thing going with someone, I'm 26, he's a bit younger, it's just that it's long distance - lasting for cca 2 months now. And we really have not much time for each other, but i've felt good more or less so far. I did not have a feeling I was being too clingy, of course i write to him sometimes. The thing is that he shares the room with a friend and we can barely talk relaxed. Today as I called him, he told me he ''needs to be alone a bit'' because ''his roommate is gone'0.' because i mentioned that we don't really talk a lot, je claimed he didn't want to hang up on me because of that. ''I don't want to talk to you too much because we'll get bored of each other then and i feel uncomfortable when i have nothing to say.'' [more inside]
posted by Salicornia at 4:58 PM PST - 27 comments

Why does my hair form locks, not a curtain - and can I change this?

My hair likes to hang in strands. I can brush it, and then for a little while it will be curtain-esque, but then it just returns to being locks. It's wavy hair (probably around 1c); can look almost completely straight when brushed, but tends to air-dry in wavy locks. I do see other people with hair that is more of a homogeneous mass, and I think it looks nicer. Why does my hair not do this? Can I get it to do this?
posted by tangerine_poppies at 4:43 PM PST - 26 comments

How long do I stick with my first good job...which I hate

Will I be hurting my chances of future employment if I leave a job after four months? [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 3:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Coffins in the film 'Passchendaele'

When the credits run at the end of the 2008 film Passchendaele there are newsreel clips from the period. One of these shows soldiers carrying coffins - see screen grab here [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 3:32 PM PST - 2 comments

Dolla Dolla Balms Y'all

I am breaking up with my lip balm collection, which is approximately 100 pieces strong. Are there places that will take these as donations? [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt at 2:55 PM PST - 20 comments

Beginner seeks help with kayak purchase

My reasonably fit wife (49 y.o., 5'6", BMI of 24) is interested in getting a one-person kayak for day use and general recreation on lakes and in the California Delta river and tidal system. I have read enough about kayaks to understand that there's a lot I don't know. Please help us choose the right kayak for her. [more inside]
posted by mosk at 2:45 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me navigate what could very well be a painful breakup.

How do I exit this relationship in a way that minimizes harm to myself, my soon-to-be ex-partner, and most importantly, my stepkids? [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 2:42 PM PST - 5 comments

need to move: must be under 1000 ft elevation, cold, low cost of living

So my 19 year old son informed me last night that he quit his job, where he'd been for 1.5 years, and was going to buy a ticket to Buffalo New York. He wanted to move there today or tomorrow, with basically the clothes on his back and his laptop. He's saved $15,000 from the job, and wants to live on that until it runs out. [more inside]
posted by Rapunzel1111 at 1:32 PM PST - 63 comments

165 eathquakes in 12 hours.....?

I visit this site a few times a week and have never seen this many recorded before. No where close. Is this unusual? If so what's up?
posted by haikuku at 1:11 PM PST - 6 comments

How to pay a freelancer in Australia

I am in the US and I need to send money to Australia. What's the best service to use? [more inside]
posted by rada at 1:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Recommend birth-control pills to me

I have PCOS and they want me to start taking birth-control pills to help regulate things. I also have family and personal history that contraindicates many types of pills. Is there a safe pill for me that does what I want? [more inside]
posted by INTJ at 12:26 PM PST - 20 comments

Mystery reader needs help

If you were an auntie who was asked to be the mystery reader for your favorite 4 year-old's preschool class, what would be a funny book or one with surprises in it? It must be short enough to read in 15 - 20 minutes, have good pictures for sharing, and not be one of those books that every 4 year old has already read. (Mystery has nothing to do with the genre of book, BTW -- the reader is a surprise to the students, but a mystery would be great!)
posted by mmf at 12:14 PM PST - 35 comments

Explain ISU rankings to me, please?

I'd call this inside baseball, but it's inside ice dance: how do the ISU world rankings work? Specifically, I don't understand this current ranking because Virtue/Moir in 3rd & Papadakis/Cizeron in 7th is crazy. Does this have to do with who's done 2 GP comps so far and who hasn't? Or...? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 11:45 AM PST - 2 comments

Vulva-safe homemade paint?

Inspired by the documentary Venus, I'd like to make prints of my vulva (by which I mean: brush paint onto vulva, press paper against vulva, voila). To make this as safe for delicate tissues as possible, I'm curious as to the best paint recipe out there to use. Considerations: viscosity, should be sugar-free, no unnecessary ingredients. I was thinking of either an organic flour/salt/water paste + color, or tempera (egg yolk + color). Coloring agent: beet root powder, carrot powder, turmeric? Are there any better ideas/dangers? I've seen paint that is supposedly safe for sex, but it has too many ingredients for my liking. Thank you!
posted by sugarbomb at 11:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Custom tailoring in Vietnam

I'm headed to Southeast Asia in March with some friends, and one of our stops is in Ho Chi Minh City (Saigon). We'd love to engage the services of a custom tailor (suits and shirts for the gents, dresses and perhaps corsets for the ladies). I'd love any and all tips on how best to do this, including links to online resources. Thanks!
posted by DavidNYC at 11:19 AM PST - 3 comments

is my desired thing a thing? homologous anatomy coloring book edition.

I want to get my kid a coloring book that illustrates homologous anatomy of animals and people. Does it exist? Maybe there is a search term I am missing? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 11:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Secret Santa: Explain Like I'm a Planning Buffoon

I'm in the first year of a grad school program, with a cohort of about 30 people. I'd like to suggest a Secret Santa-style gift swap because a) I like these folks and think it would be fun, and b) I don't think anybody else is going to do so even though we're all quite social with each other. However, I'm kind of a putz at organizing things and don't want to get in over my head! [more inside]
posted by DingoMutt at 11:12 AM PST - 9 comments

How to dispose of broken laundry basket?

We have a laundry basket that looks a lot like this that has a crack across one of the handles. We'd like to get rid of it. Is it recyclable? Would Goodwill take it? Or should we toss it into the trash? Or some other option? (This is in Seattle.)
posted by mpark at 10:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Recommend a depressed guy some interesting/ uplifting UK magazines

Struggling with the winter blues and at times lacking the focus to read books, but I think if I bought some one off magazines with a view to subscribing (in the UK) that might give me the incentive to at least get out from my cosy home and read a magazine in my local cafe while having a latte. Male aged 48. If I tell you what I like, can you recommend something along the same lines? [more inside]
posted by AuroraSky at 10:55 AM PST - 7 comments

Objectively crappy/subjectively awesome movies to laugh at while tipsy

Some of my girlfriends and I have set up an “Oh God you have to see this amazing train wreck of a movie and also let’s drink” calendar. Finding just the right movies for this kind of activity is not easy, as the sweet spot is narrow, I looked at this ask, but those are mostly definitely not what I’m looking for (maybe one or two). Criteria inside: [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 10:54 AM PST - 146 comments

No thanks, I'll be at the Sheraton

I have a strong (as in strong) preference to not stay over at people's houses when I go traveling. Is there a way to turn down an invitation to be a houseguest without seeming rude or cold? [more inside]
posted by holborne at 10:42 AM PST - 17 comments

Dating 101

There's this guy in my dog training class and I feel like we could hit it off. But I am an introvert and the class is not set up as such that you really get to interact with the other participants. Help me figure out how to talk to this guy and possibly ask him out! [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 10:20 AM PST - 9 comments

WWABD? (What would Alton Brown do?)

I’m a turkey novice. Last year, I used the Good Eats brine/roast method to great success in cooking my first turkey. This year, I want to do just a breast, since I’m only cooking for two. I need some guidance. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 9:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Cheap and Easy Way to Make Our Bathroom Much Brighter?

We moved to a new house (yay!) and our toddler is terrified of the bathtub (boo!). Bathtime used to be her favorite and now she won't even get in the tub by herself. I think part of the problem is that the old room was very bright and the new one is much darker (I can see how it would look scary to a little monster). How can I fix this? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 8:44 AM PST - 43 comments

Under is bad, but what about adjacent-to-under?

According to superstition, walking under a ladder should be avoided because it brings bad luck. But what about when the ladder is leaning against something that you have to walk under? Is that still considered unlucky? Or is only the space directly under the ladder the bad-luck zone? [more inside]
posted by Mchelly at 8:02 AM PST - 6 comments

what the fuck is up with this banana

My coworker just sliced a banana up into her bowl of healthy breakfast, and HOLY HELL this is not an okay banana. WHAT IS HAPPENING HERE. Photos inside. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 7:37 AM PST - 7 comments

Name of old Winamp Visualization Plugin?

During my time using Windows XP I often used winamp to play music, along with a specific Visualization plugin. Please help me track it down. [more inside]
posted by Faintdreams at 7:32 AM PST - 3 comments

How to move when you don't know when you're moving

We will be moving in the next few months. Neither of us plan ahead well. Please help me understand what we need to do and when. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 6:31 AM PST - 27 comments

Does using a very cold iPhone risk damaging it?

When I use my iPhone in cold weather, it sometimes turns itself off. I thought that was because the battery performs poorly in the cold, so I got an external battery with a cable, so I could keep using my phone while the battery stays warm in my pocket. But then I read that the iPhone turns itself off by design, to protect itself from usage outside its operating range. So is it a bad idea to override that by using the external battery? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 6:26 AM PST - 3 comments

10-year-old (5th Grader) is a reading machine: Help with nonfiction

My 10-year-old is a voracious reader. He's read much of the usual fiction for his age and maybe a year or so older (Percy Jackson, Harry Potter, etc., etc.). He's always been good with reading nonfiction/historical fiction (the I Survived books, those "Who Is" books, the Ken Jennings books), but has favored fiction. Recently, it feels like that balance is more out of whack... [more inside]
posted by lieberschnitzel at 6:06 AM PST - 43 comments

Keeping good habits

I'm struggling with keeping a few good habits that are essential for my life. No snowflakes here, just the regular stuff: exercising, eating well, meditating, limiting alcohol and caffeine. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:53 AM PST - 15 comments

What helps with PTSD-related exhaustion?

I have been in therapy for a few years to deal with complex PTSD. It has made a world of difference with the emotional and cognitive aspects of trauma, but I still struggle with the physical symptoms of PTSD (like overactive nervous system and digestive stuff). The hardest of these to deal with is being tired all the time. Assume I have gotten all my levels checked, eat healthy, and sleep decently well. What else is worth trying?
posted by anonymous at 12:53 AM PST - 13 comments

How do you do anger as a female person?

I just don't know how, and I've got a lot of it. [more inside]
posted by lauranesson at 12:45 AM PST - 13 comments

Dinner in Copenhagen this Sunday

I'm looking for restaurant recommendations in Copenhagen that will be likely to have a table available this Sunday evening. My parents, my partner and I are spending a long weekend in Copenhagen for my mother's 60th birthday. I was charged with booking a restaurant for a birthday dinner on Sunday - but time has slipped away from me and now I'm panicking! All cuisines considered though my mother is not a fan of Chinese food. Hard price limit is £100 per head (I guess roughly 700-750DKK) which rules out a lot of places in Copenhagen. [more inside]
posted by bored_now_flay at 12:37 AM PST - 15 comments

November 14

What's the story behind this once-ubiquitous gold elephant figurine?

Growing up in the early 80s, my hippie parents and all their hippie friends had this gold-plated elephant with red rhinestone eyes on their mantels next to the incense burners (not always literally, just setting the scene). They were small and slightly heavy for the size. Is there a story behind them? Were they supposed to be good luck or have some other symbolism? Do we know why or how the hippie home decor market got flooded with them? I have weirdly fond memories of them and I'm curious.
posted by rhiannonstone at 11:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Republican tax plan - channeling resistance

Last week's election victory was a welcome respite in the endless news nightmare, but the dread is returning when I read more news about the looming Republican tax plan vote. [more inside]
posted by hampanda at 9:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Is buying an unrelated man socks kinda sleazy is it cool?

Hi, is buying an unrelated man socks kinda sleazy or is it cool? Trying to figure out where the line is in terms of gifting masculine apparel. Something like this not like a 6 pack of Hanes. Thank you!
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 9:05 PM PST - 54 comments

Man I need help finding a backpack.

OK hive mind, I need help. I've used Timbuk2 laptop messenger bags for 10-15 years and I'm ready for a backpack, but I can't find the right one for me. Open to any and all suggestions. I'm a freelancer and practically live in coffeeshops, so this is my EDC and laptop bag that I will have with me at all times, including travel. I think my perfect bag would be a Tom Bihn Synapse with big soft straps from the North Face Recon, but I haven't found it yet. [more inside]
posted by kdern at 8:30 PM PST - 13 comments

"W"hat is it?

What's that little blue "W" I often see in the tabs of websites? I'm guessing it's the logo for a webhosting company, but which one? Here's a pic.
posted by lunasol at 7:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Brady Bunch with cats

In a few months I will move in with my partner. Hooray! Also, my cat and her cat will come along: uh-oh. How to best navigate multiple problems? [more inside]
posted by soonertbone at 6:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Early morning ride from RI to Logan airport?

How do I get a ride from Rhode Island to Logan Airport for a 6:45 am flight? Can I count on Uber/Lyft to come get me at 4:45 am, when I need to be on the road? Is there a better alternative? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 6:27 PM PST - 16 comments

Was Charlie ever redeemed?

The character Charlie (aka Scottish sniper with PTSD) in Wonder Woman fails to take a shot at a critical moment in battle due to his own issues. This is a relatively common trope which is traditionally followed up by the character getting a hero moment later on, usually by performing a similar action under impossible circumstances. Charlie is seen fighting later, but he never gets his moment. [more inside]
posted by Tell Me No Lies at 5:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I get an outdoor propane burner?

I like to cook meat on the stove at very high temperatures to get a nice sear, and also for stir frying vegetables, but this creates a lot of smoke, smell and sometimes spatter. Should I try getting a propane burner and cooking outside with a cast iron pan or steel wok? [more inside]
posted by skewed at 5:40 PM PST - 9 comments

Bad at sex

My gf told me that I'm bad at sex. I'd like to be better at sex. Part of my confusion is that how she sees my performance and behavior is not how I see my performance and behavior. Perhaps you can help me out and direct me to good advice? [more inside]
posted by website user at 5:24 PM PST - 58 comments

What was that book?

I'm trying to help someone recall this book and it sounds so intriguing! Will? Liam? William? Does this ring a bell? [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 5:17 PM PST - 0 comments

Talking about pubic hair with a first date...?!

A guy I'm going to go on a date has put it up on his OkC profile that he prefers women who shave their pubic hair. I don't shave my pubic hair. Should I bring this up before we meet? [more inside]
posted by twill at 4:50 PM PST - 25 comments

Same Tweet, Different Interactions?

Several hours ago, I tweeted this quote from a radio interview on OPB, attributing it to the speaker; "Portland is a city that pushes black people out of neighborhoods and replaces them with 'Black Lives Matter' signs." I tweeted it using the speaker's handle. But I didn't combine both handles in the same tweet because I wanted to see if it would be treated differently if I tweeted them separately. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 3:04 PM PST - 8 comments

dispute with a garage

I had my strut mounts and strut assembly replaced in December 2016. Another garage is telling me the spring seats are broken. How can I get the installer garage to warranty repair this? [more inside]
posted by diode at 3:02 PM PST - 8 comments

What shoes does a minimalist wear in winter?

I am a cis-woman, mid-40s, living in the Bay Area, and I want shoes (brands or specific shoes) to wear to work in a casual environment in the winter that will fit a generally minimalist aesthetic and lifestyle. [more inside]
posted by vunder at 2:34 PM PST - 23 comments

Reviewing/submitting a short personal essay…. somewhere ?

I wrote a short nostalgic essay. Where is a good place to submit it and get it shared? Any good places to have a quick review of it? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 2:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Plastic sheeting to block VOCs from Kills2 primer? Chemists? Anyone?

In case the layer of Killz2 primer I put on the plywood subfloor is the thing causing my headaches/nausea, is there a _type_ of plastic sheet or other barrier that will seal it well? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 2:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Half of the class are women? Is women?

Which is correct: Half of the class are women OR Half of the class is women? I think the former, but someone I'm editing for insists it's the latter.
posted by swheatie at 1:01 PM PST - 20 comments

Facebook anxiety

About a year ago, Facebook forced me to make a facebook page just so I could read a couple of people I was interested in. [more inside]
posted by Transl3y at 11:53 AM PST - 16 comments

Google Analytics stopped working. Code is on site.

Hi All, Our Google Analytics stopped working this Monday at exactly 00:00 -- completely flat. I ran a GA debugger and tag assistant and they both show that tracking code is placed correctly. Here's what we did 1. We first updated Google Analytics from http to https on View Settings (3 column) 2. Day later when we saw that GA stopped working, we also updated Property Settings (2nd column) from http to https Did this make it stop working? I thought https was best practice for setting up GA but perhaps it was done incorrectly. How do I remedy this so GA works again? Thanks for your help! [more inside]
posted by cheero at 11:14 AM PST - 5 comments

How to adjust scroll distance in browsers?

How can I use Chrome or Firefox's advanced about:config settings to tweak how many pixels/lines are shown for each time you do a full-screen scroll with the spacebar? I'd love to shorten the scroll by about 5% of the window height, but tried everything and can't seem to get it to work (or are there extensions to do this?) [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 11:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Mind Growing Book Ideas

I have been sending books I find interesting and thought provoking to my brother in law, who has been devouring them at a fantastic rate. I'm looking for more book ideas to send his way! [more inside]
posted by zug at 11:13 AM PST - 26 comments

Are there British podcasts I'm missing out on?

I love podcasts. But I feel like I'm missing out on a wealth of British ones. Do you have any favorite UK podcasts or radio shows? [more inside]
posted by actionpact at 11:10 AM PST - 35 comments

City Street & Slice of Life Tumblrs

Looking for websites (especially Tumblr sites) that focus on contemporary urban day-in-the-life and street photography. There are a ton of them for places like NYC, Tokyo, Paris, etc. and I follow some of those. But what I'm really looking for are Tumblrs of cities and places that may be difficult for a monolingual English speaker to find. Places like: Lagos, Sao Paulo, Mumbai, Beijing, Karachi, Kuala Lumpur, Guangzhou... Please share your favorites!
posted by Chrischris at 10:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Cream cheese mix-ins

Can you suggest savory ingredients that I can mix into cream cheese to spread on toast and slather on potatoes? [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 10:35 AM PST - 33 comments

Non-Spicy Thai Curries

Is there anyway to purchase a Thai curry paste that has zero chilies in it? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 10:25 AM PST - 12 comments

Another shoe question!

Looking for a pair of chelsea boots, in either style A or style B. Details within! [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 9:37 AM PST - 8 comments

Basic quality podcast setup?

Can you provide an overview of a basic podcast setup? [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 8:28 AM PST - 8 comments

New cat old cat blues

I am hoping for anecdata about introducing a new cat to existing cats and having it initially go poorly but then they eventually become friends and everyone lives happily ever after. [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 8:14 AM PST - 15 comments

shoulder pain help

I have been having mystery chronic shoulder pain for three weeks. There was no trauma that I can recall. Saw my PCP yesterday, who ordered an X-ray that didn't show any dislocation, fracture or calcification. I can't get in to an orthopedist for a month. Is there anything I can do besides heat and meds? The PCP was shruggo if I should stretch or rest it. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 7:47 AM PST - 26 comments

Zika Free Travel in February - Need Ideas!

My husband and I are looking to travel somewhere in February for 8-9 days. We live in NYC and open to just about anywhere in the world, with preference for warm weather / beaches and no Zika risk. Any ideas? (We went to South Africa last year, but ideas for other travel in Africa, S America and beyond would be welcome...)
posted by angsolom at 7:34 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I up my shoe care game while still remaining extremely lazy?

I've never learned to take care of my leather shoes and hiking boots. But when I look up information on shoe care, I find Internet obsessive instructions that I know I'll never follow through on. [more inside]
posted by medusa at 7:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Windows Woes

I bought a laptop with a Traditional Chinese language edition of Windows 7 on it... help me keep my license as I switch over to an SSD. Complicating details inside. [more inside]
posted by matkline at 7:21 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me get started making music with synths!

I have previously made music with live instruments and would now like to learn to work with synthesizers. I want to use hardware. My goal is to have something I can use to write entire songs, not just design individual sounds. Please advise me on how to get started! [more inside]
posted by capricorn at 7:13 AM PST - 9 comments

How can this be mended? Is it dead?

On my way to work this morning I noticed a hole in my favourite pair of knit gloves: Is there any way for this to be repaired? I love these gloves, they were an expensive treat for myself a few years ago and they are so comfortable and great to wear when driving in the winter. Can they be fixed? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 7:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Healthy Self Medication - Marijuana & Alcohol

I suffer from severe anxiety and depression with OCD. I have been getting treatment for most of my adult life with little success. I am currently trying to manage it with exercise, therapy and marijuana/alcohol. Details inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:32 AM PST - 12 comments

How to cure health anxiety

Fellow health-anxiety sufferers, can you share some successful thinking techniques or self-talk that helped ease your anxiety to do with health and doctors? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:49 AM PST - 10 comments

Is anything that is vegan haram?

Is anything that is vegan haram?
posted by pompomtom at 4:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Advice about asking for money for a non-profit

I need some help figuring out how to ask people I've never met at a certain company for money. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Is my ob-gyn scheduling this follow-up too soon?

Is 3 months enough time to heal, or to let the abnormal cells possibly go back to normal, or to show a different result? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:29 AM PST - 6 comments

How does one recover from a whirlwind relationship?

Long story short, a very close friend and I became romantically entangled (in an affair, to be completely honest), in which there lots of emotion invested, promises were made, then she broke it off, thereby also killing the friendship - which I knew was a risk. I know we shouldn't have gone there be we did anyway. I'm having difficulty coping with the loss. What's next, and how do I move along? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:29 AM PST - 7 comments

November 13

Last night I could not read

I lost the ability to read last night, shortly before beginning a food-poisoning induced toilet hugging session. What was going on? [more inside]
posted by bergnotburg at 10:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Corporate Income Tax: Who Pays?

Whenever a discussion of taxation comes up, Republicans and especially big L libertarians claim that corporate taxes are always necessarily paid by the purchaser of the product and therefore the only rational corporate tax rate is zero. However, applying a bit of thought uncovers some seemingly obvious contradictions with other parts of their economic mental model. I'd like some help figuring out the real arguments on either side rather than the superficial crap that seems to dominate. [more inside]
posted by wierdo at 9:23 PM PST - 18 comments

How do I find out if these Japanese stamps are worth anything?

My grandfather-in-law was given these Japanese stamps by a colleague a few decades ago. We've framed them and used them as wall hangings. We're ready to toss them, but wanted to check whether they might be valuable. [more inside]
posted by pompelmo at 9:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Can I eat this? Mint extract edition

Will my mint extract kill us? If yes, what did I do wrong? If no, please suggest recipes that use mint extract! [more inside]
posted by Fish, fish, are you doing your duty? at 8:01 PM PST - 13 comments

Conan! What is good in Cincinnati?

Hey MeFi! I'm going to be in Cincinnati shortly and am a bit of a snowflake as you may know from my prior asks. It's going to be a short trip but I'm not at all familiar with the area. Under the cut for more, any advice appreciated. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 7:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Writing in Fragments

I read about Nabokov writing Lolita on large index cards while his wife drove him around the United States so he could collect butterflies. I love, love, love the idea of writing an entire book, or at least heavily outlining a book or longer work, one card at a time. I'm looking for anything on writing in small chunks, or fragments, that are eventually combined into something larger. It could be personal experiences, methodologies, workflow examples, links to author interviews, apps, books, or what have you. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 7:24 PM PST - 26 comments

Just another barely remembered text

I would like to find a short story that I read in the 80s or 90s. Very few clues. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 6:52 PM PST - 3 comments

Find that top!

Can you help me find the top that Stephany Buswell is wearing in episode 1 of season 4 of Holiday Baking Championship? [Picture] I can't even see most of it due to the apron but I've fallen in love. It's a black short sleeve top with a stylized purple floral design across the front and a scalloped v-neck with rose details. [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 6:26 PM PST - 6 comments

Easy, low salt meals

I'm looking for a cookbook for my dad that contains easy, low salt recipes. He's more of a vegetable guy than a meatloaf guy. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 6:12 PM PST - 2 comments

We need help navigating screen limits for our 12 year old.

We have been worried for years, tried to impose limits without success. We need help. [more inside]
posted by peeps! at 5:55 PM PST - 19 comments

Trying to find a short story

I’m trying to find a short story. It’s told from the perspective of a teenage girl; her mother dies or has recently died. The girl withdraws from all her friends, and almost all of them stop reaching out. One friend leaves the girl cards or maybe flowers or a plant on her porch every week. The friend says (I’m not sure if implicitly or explicitly) hey, I know you’re not ready to be in the world and talk to me, but I’m here when you’re ready. [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus at 5:34 PM PST - 0 comments

Hardwired fire alarms are so sensitive we can't make dinner. Help!

I'm living in a brand-new house with brand-new hardwired fire alarms (this model, I think). The one in the living room - a good 20 feet from the kitchen - goes off almost every single time we cook. [more inside]
posted by Tomorrowful at 4:36 PM PST - 14 comments

Which online petition applications do you like?

I'd prefer to have options to limit publicity and the visibility of signatories. This is more like a letter with multiple signers. Has anyone used Google Forms for this purpose? Thank you!
posted by walla at 4:34 PM PST - 1 comment

Handheld salad-like hors d'oeuvres for Thanksgiving?

We're having a non-traditional menu this Friendsgiving and are doing everything appetizer style. I have lots of cheesy/high-carb/main dish appetizer ideas, but am having a hard time thinking of a handheld analog to the salad I usually serve at holiday meals. I'm looking for crisp, veggie-based, low cheese/carb appetizers that I can serve and reasonably expect people to eat without cutlery. I have access to a few decent local grocery stores the week before, and a Trader Joe's day-of.
posted by stellaluna at 4:19 PM PST - 21 comments

ID an American drama or film for me, pre-2000.

I saw a piece of drama. It was definitely made before 2000. Probably set in the South, and centred around slavery or its aftermath. The one scene I remember is in the extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by Leon at 4:19 PM PST - 0 comments

Calling all cooks: How do you time cooking large meals?

I have lots of practice cooking and I do it often. I still don't have the timing down, though. I do best when following recipes that specify "while X is cooking, do this." I find it tremendously helpful, but most recipes are not written this way. Thanksgiving Day looms near, and I want to cook a lovely meal for my sweetie! Help! [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 4:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me find a work from home career path

I have recently become a single mom and have need of a job that will pay decently to help my family find a more independent footing. I also have a special needs child that makes getting a "regular" job almost impossible. I need some direction! [more inside]
posted by kittyloop at 3:51 PM PST - 13 comments

I am a terrible musician. Help me be terrible on a new instrument.

Do you have experience with electric cellos? What would you let someone know looking to purchase one? Any recommendations for a specific instrument? [more inside]
posted by munchingzombie at 3:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Discovered redundancy is imminent - what to do?

I have been told, from a reliable source, that, after many years with my employer, I am probably going to be made redundant at the end of the month. I am not meant to know this, and I am not sure what to do with this knowledge. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by teselecta at 2:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Which small Christmas tree should I buy?

We would like to have a Christmas tree, but our house is very small. We could potentially find room for an ultra-slim tree or a tabletop tree. What is the best solution, given the snowflakes behind the cut? [more inside]
posted by oblique red at 12:48 PM PST - 16 comments

Fix my lips

Getting over the mouth-breathing part of a bad cold or upper respiratory infection or whatever. What’s your magic cure for lips beyond chapped? I’m talking crinkly and cracked, look and feel burned, bleeding at the edges nightmare-lips. I’m on day two of constantly applying Vitamin E and it’s not working (yet), what with the bleeding and all.
posted by OrangeVelour at 12:35 PM PST - 53 comments

Is there a successor format to animated GIFs?

Is there a viable successor format to animated GIFs? Technically it should be very easy to create short looping videos that are higher quality and smaller size, but apparently GIFs still rule the world. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 11:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Get a list of open documents and their desktops on a mac?

In order to prevent loss of state in the event of a crash, I periodically make a list of all my open windows and which desktop each one of them is on (~50 documents across 16 desktops), and then I date it. Is there a way I could automate this? [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 11:19 AM PST - 2 comments

Training a machine learning/neural network on comic book images

I have what seems like it should be a fairly straightfoward machine learning/image feature identification problem. I want to identify speech bubbles and captions in comic book pages. Am I out of my mind for thinking that this is something an amateur programmer can take a crack at, and if not, how should I approach it? [more inside]
posted by Sokka shot first at 11:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Removing suggested places on Google Maps

Trying to put together a detailed map of Barcelona with all the places that I want to visit pinned to a saved map. Managed to create the map but all of Google's suggested restaurants and shops are also showing up, in addition to my saved places. Is there a way to remove that layer of suggested businesses? I don't really care to see the McDonald's or other random restaurants on my map layer.
posted by something_witty at 10:55 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I decide what to do with my future?

I am floundering in a pool of indecision regarding grad school. I want to pursue both Eurasian studies (Russian, specifically, and Central Asian language / culture) and become a Physician's Assistant. How should I plot this path? [more inside]
posted by erattacorrige at 10:36 AM PST - 28 comments

Can Sinuses Be Damaged by Prolonged Exposure to Urine/Diaper Odor?

I developed unusual and prolonged sinus damage last year around the same time that I spent a few consecutive weekends packing-up and moving my elderly parents. Both are incontinent and lived in terrible conditions to which they had become accustomed. I will spare you the details but imagine the worst. Now double it. The smell alone was terrible and overwhelming. Could my exposure to these conditions have had anything to do with the sinus problems that still plague me today? [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 10:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Books about Love

Looking for a fiction book about love. The catch - not a book about new love, puppy love, unrequited love, etc. I'd like a book about people who have been in love for a decade or more and are happy (or end up happy). The love story doesn't have to be a main plot in the story, but it would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by peasandcarrots at 9:23 AM PST - 27 comments

Freezer burrito fillings!

I'm making these for a friend who just had a baby. Help me think of things to put in them. [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 9:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Help for Steroid Side-Effects?

I am off prednisone but am still feeling the effects of the medication. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by *s at 9:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Carving for children?

My ten-year-old grandson is interested in carving. I would like to buy him a kit for Christmas, but I'm not thrilled with what I'm finding. Is this doable? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 8:28 AM PST - 18 comments

What's on your European bucketlist?

Related to my last question, my transfer to the home office in Munich has been approved! We will be there for 3-4 years. Neither of us have ever been to Europe and we want to see as much as possible. What's on your European bucket list? [more inside]
posted by LizBoBiz at 8:17 AM PST - 47 comments

Too much white space in my Facebook posts?

Sorry I can't screenshot, but multiple people are reporting that my Facebook posts start with lines and lines of extra whitespace. Like, a phone screen worth of whitespace that they have to scroll down to see my posts. Any suggestions for what's going wrong on my end? (I don't think this is universal, just some people have reported.) Thanks!
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 8:05 AM PST - 3 comments

To dust you shall return: winter skin edition

It is coming on to winter where I live, and in keeping with annual tradition I am now doing my best CryptKeeper impression with the skin all over my body turning to dust. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 7:39 AM PST - 31 comments

Snowflake-y recommendations for 24 hours in Lisbon

I'm heading to Lisbon for a conference and basically have this coming Friday at noon til Saturday slightly after noon to myself. I'm into pottery/ceramics and early Japanese-Portuguese encounters (e.g. tempura). How can I maximize my time in Lisbon?
posted by johnnybeggs at 7:17 AM PST - 6 comments

Washington DC Travelfilter: Seeking calm, quiet, cozy gustatation

I'm taking a much-needed short vacation to Washington DC this weekend (I've been describing it to friends and family as "four glorious days during which no one will talk to me."). I'll be alone, which is sort of the whole point. I'm looking for food and drink locations that are especially pleasant for a lone woman with a book to pass some quiet late fall evening hours, around the Foggy Bottom and Georgetown areas (or farther afield if it's really worth it). [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 6:55 AM PST - 19 comments


I need an NYC ENT with a friendly staff and not horrific scheduling/availability (NP or PA is fine with me!) that takes Aetna. Bay Ridge or Brooklyn/Manhattan on the N/R line preferably below 59 Street/Columbus Circle. Bonus points if you saw them for nosebleeds. My chronic nosebleeds have returned to being two or three times a day and I’m currently having my second nosebleed of the morning. [more inside]
posted by bilabial at 5:26 AM PST - 7 comments

I hurt a friend and I'm not sure how to proceed

My need for space hurt a friend, and I need some advice, please. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 3:33 AM PST - 23 comments

Games for Android and Windows

What are some good games for Android and Windows (assume pretty good specs for this question). My budget is around $100 and can stretch more if needed [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 3:32 AM PST - 6 comments

November 12

How do I navigate my relationship with my functional alcoholic mother?

This is a 2 part question & id appreciate help with both if possible. First, how this affects me personally, and second, how it is affecting me in the context of a romantic relationship. [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 11:12 PM PST - 9 comments

What are these? (Found in carpet)

An elderly neighbor found these in her carpet, and asked me to see if I could find out online what they may be. Anyone here have an idea? (Originals are smaller than a grain of rice.) carpetthing1 carpetthing2
posted by tenderly at 10:56 PM PST - 6 comments

Ancient Iodine

I have this extremely vintage-iconic iodine bottle in my bathroom. As far as I can tell my mother gave it to me after her mother gave it to her. How old is it? [more inside]
posted by tehloki at 10:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Hidden infrastructural marvels of the Southern California mountains

I've been finding many strange and unexpected infrastructural treasures on my hikes through the mountain ranges of Southern California/greater Los Angeles. Help me find more! [more inside]
posted by mykescipark at 8:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Longshot hard drive recovery question

My hard drive is on its way out, I would like to get it to work one more time to grab some photos off of it. [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 7:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Am I a Sucker or What?

How can I make this job in healthcare more tolerable? [more inside]
posted by loveandhappiness at 7:28 PM PST - 13 comments

Is Christopher Alexander's A Pattern Language in the public domain?

After reading A Pattern Language, I noticed it was up on Things on the Internet Archive are generally in the public domain or are otherwise noted, but I also know that anyone can upload anything to it. Christopher Alexander is still alive, but is this somehow in the public domain? I'm hoping to do a project with it, and it would make it way easier if this really was in the public domain.
posted by ignignokt at 7:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Transferring mp3 files from a Mac formatted hard drive to a PC?

Macbook Pro user for the last 10-12 years I have about 200 gigs worth of mp3's & other music on a mac formatted portable hard drive.. Mac book finally died.....Decided to go with a PC laptop... PC is not recognizing my mac formatted hard drive and therefore I have been unable to rebuild my itunes library....Stupidly cancelled my iutnes match a year ago....Murphy's Law, I know. Anyways I have tons of live shows and super rare music that is not replaceable via spotify, itunes, amazon music or whoever... This music resides on my portable hard drive? Did a bit of googling, but not sure of the best and safest option to transfer these 'mac' mp3 files to my new PC. Hellllp?
posted by TwilightKid at 6:42 PM PST - 7 comments

programming novice asks: how to emulate website

I'm a teacher with a small, outdated programming background who wants to build a website for my own students. I have a couple of very large lists of vocab, ranked by frequency/approximate difficulty. I'd like to use these lists to create a web game exactly like the one at for my students. I need to be able to change up the lists without too much trouble down the road: if I find typos or want to change a definition, for instance, I'd like to do that without a colossal inconvenience. I thought it would be fun to learn how to do this myself. What programming language or tools should I study? Is this something Python could do? Thank you! [more inside]
posted by lotf629 at 6:24 PM PST - 4 comments

Sediment inside base of humidifier? Anything to worry about?

Some kind of sediment or growth has occurred in our humidifier after a period of nonuse . . . it's white on a portion of the internal workings of the humidifier that's black. Here are two pics . . . Normally I'd just use it but this was to be used in our twin toddlers bedroom.
posted by eggman at 5:28 PM PST - 7 comments

Yoga streams

An intermediate level yoga practice has been helping my hip recover from an overtraining injury, but I'm not able to get to the studio as much as I'd like. I've got Netflix, Hulu, and Prime-can you recommend intermediate or higher level yoga programs that are really just yoga (no cardio mixed in, etc) to supplement my in-person classes? Also open to something you love that I can get another way. Thx!
posted by PaulaSchultz at 4:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Between a polyamorous rock and a monogamous hard place??

Should I give it a try or cut contact? [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 3:57 PM PST - 25 comments

How can I help unseat Paul Ryan?

My daughter lives in WI congressional district 1, where the current rep is Paul Ryan. I am going to be out there for the month of February, and and wondering about how I could help do some regime change. I had been planning on working while I was out there, but am unexpectedly retiring, and I would have time to do something useful during the daytime Who should I contact? Asking now because I will be out there Thanksgiving week and might make early contact then.
posted by MtDewd at 3:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Seattle, I hear you have some art.

Simple: I'm heading to Seattle for the first time, and I love art—as in, I'm open to all of it. I'm going to be there for two full weekdays later this month, and my time is my own. I want to see cool stuff I can't see every day in Chicago. What might that be? [more inside]
posted by heyho at 2:37 PM PST - 13 comments

Half-size acoustic guitar that isn't classical/nylon string?

I can't find a half-size guitar that isn't a classical (or worse, toy-style -- all cheap stiff nylon strings that are impossible to get or keep in tune). Does such a thing exist? [more inside]
posted by erst at 2:00 PM PST - 19 comments

Is there anything better than Slideshare?

I do a lot of public speaking for work. I usually make a page like this one with downloadable slides in various formats; I'd love to be able to embed my actual talk. I use Keynote to make/present my talks, but its PDF export is suboptimal and I can't upload those talks to Slideshare. Slideshare's PDF and Powerpoint options are no good. Is there somewhere else I can upload a Keynote presentation so that someone can click through it while reading the presenter notes, Slideshare style? [more inside]
posted by jessamyn at 12:58 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I help actually rebuild Puerto Rico, with my actual hands?

I want to go help fix people's houses in Puerto Rico over the holidays. Will this really be helpful? If so, what organization can I volunteer with? [more inside]
posted by gusandrews at 12:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Should we freeze a baby's credit files?

In the aftermath of the Equifax breach, we've been on a credit-freezing binge. We're good on the adult side -- files are frozen for my wife and I at all the major bureaus. Should we go through the process of freezing our 1yo's files too? [more inside]
posted by heresiarch at 11:49 AM PST - 2 comments

What should we do in Berlin over New Year's?

My partner and I are looking for recommendations for our trip to Berlin in late Dec./early Jan. [more inside]
posted by stonetongue at 11:11 AM PST - 12 comments

Considering adopting a fostered motherless kitten-

We are considering adopting a very young 8 week old kitten who was found on the streets at 3 weeks old and has been with a loving foster ever since. What should we consider? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 11:03 AM PST - 16 comments

Hurricane Sandy Cost Breakdown

Are there any figures on where the funds were spent for Sandy's repairs? i.e. cost of infrastructure repair. (tunnels, bridges, roads) Residential. Public (schools, hospitals)?
posted by ebesan at 11:00 AM PST - 1 comment

Cold Weather Jeans for Women

I've always been jealous of the flannel-lined jeans for boys and men that I used to see in the L.L. Bean catalog. Are there any companies that make a similarly soft fleecy/flannel lined denim in a women's skinny jean? [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 10:08 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I take vitamins?

I know people have varying opinions about this, but is there an actual fact-based answer? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 9:58 AM PST - 32 comments

Is there a way to select/copy/isolate files from a list of file names?

I have a folder of files (A, B, C, D, E, F, G, H...) and a list which represents a subset of those files (B, C, F, H...). Is there a way for me to use the list (excel, .csv) to automatically select these 300 or so files from the complete set? Ultimately I need to send the files from the list files (and ONLY these files from the list) to someone else. I can use either Mac or PC solutions here.
posted by brbmaroon at 9:32 AM PST - 8 comments

Where should I go to buy a diamond engagement ring [New Jersey]?

I'm unsure about where to buy a diamond engagement ring. [more inside]
posted by Carius at 9:20 AM PST - 9 comments

What book should I give to an alt-righter?

I have a longtime friend who has always been a political contrarian - whatever the political majority is within the environment he resides in, he reacts against it. Last year however, he became enamored with the alt-right (Milo, Vox Day tier writers included) and I have become increasingly worried about his ideological tunnel vision. This is a person who I think of as smart and intellectually curious - but very stubborn. Is there an ideal book out there that might help to expand his worldview? [more inside]
posted by the_querulous_night at 8:44 AM PST - 15 comments

The pie's the limit!

I'm looking for your best pie recipes, both sweet and savory. I'm hosting a pie and book party in mid December, and I want my pies to wow people. Recipe me! [more inside]
posted by firei at 8:36 AM PST - 21 comments

Where can I rent a laptop? (UK edition)

Over this Christmas period, I've got a fair amount of time off from work, and although I'll be seeing friends and family, I'm going to have a large amount of time by myself with not a great deal of money or anything to do..... I'm going to be living by myself for the first time in a while, without a TV and want to be able to rent a laptop for this period, primarily to watch films via streaming on, and re-play an old cracked copy of Half Life 2 I've got. [more inside]
posted by inner_frustration at 7:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Joyful, loud gospel songs needed!

I’ve discovered that gospel music is very comforting and energizing to me in these trying times we’re living in. Please recommend your favorite joyful, loud, uplifting, inspiring gospel songs. I’m looking for suggestions for specific versions of gospel songs—classics or modern— that are immediate mood-boosters—sung by individual artists, groups, or even better, full choirs. Thanks!
posted by bookmammal at 6:08 AM PST - 24 comments

Web service for writing a book, confidentially.

Where on the internet can I compose a book (from a browser and a mobile device) and know with a high degree of confidence that it won't disappear if I am incapacitated? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 7 comments

I think I have vertigo

I've been feeling dizzy and weak for 5 days. I think it might be vertigo. I'm going to the doctor on Monday but in the meantime do you have any tips for how I can feel less awful. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 17 comments

Divorce without friends

I am thinking about divorce. I won't go into the reasons now, I don't think they matter for this question. The thing that's holding me back most is that my spouse is my only friend. I have no other friends. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:09 AM PST - 16 comments

November 11

Looking for a missing person in Santa Clarita

I have a friend who has gone missing in Santa Clarita, CA and I have no idea how to look for them. [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 9:29 PM PST - 4 comments

I want to be a music maker

How can I set up a mini home studio? Studio may be too strong of a word, but I’m looking for a set up of (I think) a basic mic, a large speaker, and a keyboard (eventually trading that out for a piano). I want my kids to be able to experiment and get comfortable with speaking/singing into a mic, and to be able to do karaoke with them. Can you help with suggestions? [more inside]
posted by sealee at 9:02 PM PST - 1 comment

Bad back pain, hurts to stand, hard to breathe... out of the blue.

This week, my lower back began to hurt a bit as I moved around, but nothing severe, but tonight, out of the blue, my whole stomach/back hurts. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 8:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Creepy-ass CL advert: cult in Texas?

Yeah, so I recently glanced through the rooms offered section of Craigslist and noticed one that was directly advertising to single parents and encouraging them to move to Dallas. The text was about 90% red flag and heavily implied that the group writing it was in a cult, but not necessarily in a way that made me think "obvious joke." It's CL, so grains of salt ahoy, but: is there a chance this is a serious ad? And if so, who the hell do I warn? [more inside]
posted by sciatrix at 7:48 PM PST - 14 comments

Is this how therapy is supposed to end?

I am wondering what experiences other people have had ending a relationship with a therapist. I recently decided to terminate my relationship with my therapist, and the experience has left me feeling pretty terrible. [more inside]
posted by PrincessCrouton at 6:23 PM PST - 15 comments

What jacket is Idris Elba wearing on Jimmy Kimmel? Thanks!
posted by gummo at 5:33 PM PST - 6 comments

New Year's in Mexico City

We'll be in Mexico City the last week of December this year, through New Year's. Can you advise us on any holiday events to look into, and how the September earthquake should factor into our planning? [more inside]
posted by slanket wizard at 4:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Hack my flight- iphone edition

I'm flying for about six hours twice in the next week. I've converted a few movies and want to play them on my iphone. It keeps asking for a wireless connection. Google has failed me. More info inside. Help me ObiWan. [more inside]
posted by Draccy at 3:37 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I clean a grimy street sign?

My decommissioned NYC street sign is dingy and dirty, but I don't know how to clean it properly. What solvents or materials can I use to clean it without damaging it? [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 3:29 PM PST - 13 comments

Tried and true resources on emergency coping skills?

So my life has had a big, ugly, bad change in the last 24 hours, for reasons that are unambiguously my fault, and I'm in the level of emotional crisis that makes people ask if you're safe being alone. (I am safe, no worries there - please assume this is true.) I need more ideas than I currently have about how to cope with this in a healthy way. What resources on emergency coping skills for big crises have worked for you and yours?
posted by centrifugal at 2:55 PM PST - 28 comments

Should I buy this tube amp?

Does it make sense to purchase this tube phono preamp if it's going to be hooked up to a mid-range Denon AV receiver? [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 2:16 PM PST - 4 comments

The Proper Care And Feeding Of One's Garments

In 2010, Jezebel ran a limited series of blog posts under the title, "Dress Code: The Proper Care And Feeding of Your [Garments/Shoes/Leather/etc]." I'm looking for an updated, hopefully expanded resource like this. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 1:37 PM PST - 3 comments

Collection agency coming after us for damages we paid in 2014

We rented a property in Vancouver BC in 2014 and damaged the carpet (hot glass smashing on the stove, an accident). As a result, of course when property inspection was done, the damage was noted and we were informed that our security deposit would be witheld ($900). Everything seemed sorted, the landlady went through our payments in the office with us and was happy. Then we got a letter from a debt collection agency stating that we owe a further $700. [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 1:06 PM PST - 7 comments

Serial number of deregistered Kindle

My much-beloved Kindle is broken. I need the serial number to have it repaired. However, I never registered it, so I can't see the device in my account. The packaging has long since been discarded. How screwed am I? [more inside]
posted by easy, lucky, free at 12:17 PM PST - 17 comments


I've got a bibliography, part of a research paper, with many links to web-based audio and video. Think YouTube, vimeo, mp3s hosted on miscellaneous sites, radio broadcasts, TV broadcasts, videos hosted on various small websites, etc. I would like to compile all this content into a playlist that is (relatively) accessible to visually impaired people with an internet connection. [more inside]
posted by 8603 at 12:08 PM PST - 2 comments

What should be in my freezer?

I really enjoy cooking, but I'm a first-year law student without much time to cook on weeknights. What can I prep ahead of time and freeze to cut down my cooking time? [more inside]
posted by frizzle at 11:46 AM PST - 15 comments

"Faculty member sponsor". What does that mean? PhD edition.

What does it mean to have a faculty member sponsor during the PhD application process? I haven't come across that language before, but one school says they require two of them, and that it's appropriate to contact potential sponsors. [more inside]
posted by lilies.lilies at 11:11 AM PST - 10 comments

The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck--science edition!

I'd like to read a book along the lines of The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck, but something written by someone with professional credentials, like a psychiatrist, psychologist or neuroscientist, that draws upon current research. Any recommendations?
posted by mecran01 at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments

I have been asked my salary req. how do I research salaries in this area

I have applied to be a program manager in Cleveland, Ohio. I am relocating from Washington, DC. How do I go about finding salaries for program managers in the non-profit field in Cleveland, Ohio?
posted by TRUELOTUS at 10:16 AM PST - 5 comments

unusual ceiling - can it be repaired?

Can this ceiling be repaired instead of just replaced? [more inside]
posted by dilettante at 9:47 AM PST - 14 comments

What to expect when losing a perfectly good kidney: Hashimoto's edition.

In a few days I have pre-op exams for the removal of a 8cm fatty benign tumor (angiomyolipoma) on my kidney. There's a good chance the kidney will also be removed because of size and position. I have also started synthroid about 6 weeks ago for newly diagnosed Hashimoto's. Trying to Google what to expect from this possible confluence is giving me a lot of Woo. What can I expect from losing a perfectly good kidney (possibly adrenal too) with Hashimoto's? [more inside]
posted by romakimmy at 9:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Seeking balance in relationships

I realize more and more that by far, the majority of my relationship have not had balance. I want to change that. [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 9:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Lone turkey seeks weekend day trips in SoCal

I'll be (sorta-kinda voluntarily) alone this Thanksgiving, and I want to go on an adventure. Where should I go/what should I do? [more inside]
posted by otenba at 7:06 AM PST - 7 comments

What is stealing the elixir of life?

We make our coffee in a Pyrex jug with one of those plastic pour-over cones and paper filters. It tastes better than coffee from a fancy machine, but there's a problem. I always measure out a pint of water to boil, and usually get a pint of coffee back. But sometimes it's reduced to as little as 3/4 pint. I guess the rest of the water is absorbed in the coffee grounds, but why does it happen at some times and not others? How can I prevent it?
posted by Perodicticus potto at 5:56 AM PST - 9 comments

It’s bad news to me!

I just found out that my IPhone 6+ and both of my iPads are sending my location in each and every text/email I send! I’m in shock! I have searched settings to turn this off and have no luck in how to do it. PLEASE HELP!
posted by pamspanda at 4:02 AM PST - 5 comments

What is another example of nauseous vs nauseated?

In conversation this evening we were talking about the use of nauseous vs nauseated. Often I hear “I am nauseous” when from my understanding the correct usage is “I am nauseated.” However, the former is so prevelant that it has become an acceptable usage. (**Not here to argue about what is technically correct or incorrect,**) This reminded me of another example that’s been on the tip of my tongue the whole night but I can’t quite recall. It is a similar situation in which a different form of the word is used incorrectly but it is done so often that it has become an acceptable usage of such. The example I am thinking of is very similar in that “I am....” Can you think of any examples?
posted by masters2010 at 1:11 AM PST - 60 comments

November 10

Should it stay or should it go? UK-Japan money movement question

I am a UK citizen, permanently based in Japan. I have several Japanese bank accounts, a UK bank account, but no UK address. A kind family member in the UK has given me £10,000 to use as I please. I don’t need this money right now, and probably won’t need it for the next 5 years, in fact. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Working as a security guard, with disabilities?

I'm middle-aged and I need to start a new career fast. I just want a basic, non-challenging job, ideally something at night. I'm thinking about becoming a security guard, but I'm not physically brave, I have health issues that have kept me out of the work force for a few years and I experience varying levels of disability. I've long fantasized about having the kind of slow-paced, quiet security job you see in sitcoms and movies, where some guard is alone at 3 AM looking at a bank of monitors, bored out of his mind. How likely is this? (More questions follow after the cut.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 PM PST - 12 comments

life after depression 🌅

Looking for recs for works about life after depression [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Budget bitters, amaro alternatives, or digestifs for dabbling

I hardly drink alcohol at all, but over the past couple years, my girlfriend and I have slowly discovered that we like bitters/digestifs. What are some after-dinner liquors (or digestifs, or bitters, or even brandies, or what have you) that are worth checking out, but won't break the bank? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 8:01 PM PST - 28 comments


I’m spending January rafting the Grand Canyon. I am mostly prepared, I’ve done a lot of river trips and have backpacked a lot but this will be the longest I’ve spent on the river, and have never rafted the Colorado. Do you have any life hacks? [more inside]
posted by Grandysaur at 7:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Did I do enough to locate the owner of this cat?

My father brought home a stray cat. It was hanging around some ladies house for a week or so but she didn't want to let it inside and it was near winter in Chicago so we took it in. It has an unregistered chip but we filed a missing report at the humane society the chip originated from. The lady has his number in case owner shows up as well. Did I do enough or do I need to do more? [more inside]
posted by mamamia88 at 7:21 PM PST - 11 comments

I have lots of portraits. How to align heads/faces for timelapse video?

I've taken lots and lots of pictures of my baby sitting in his stroller. They're taken at a similar angle with similar cropping, but not literally with a tripod same zoom level etc. etc. They're not identical. I want to make a timelapse video and it would be great if the heads could line up. Is there software that will line up the heads and make a timelapse? [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 6:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Work-based life insurance question (Canada)

I've been made permanent after 4 months at my job, and this comes with some small amount of insurance of various kinds. I have to name a beneficiary for the life insurance bit. [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 5:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Personal Information and Political Organizations. And Emails.

I got an email from, one of the many Democratic organizations I find myself unable to unsubscribe from. They are offering a free sticker in support of Dreamers - maybe you've seen it! Anyway, I would be most happy to show support for Dreamers and I would like to see the sticker so I clicked knowing full well that donation requests would accompany the free sticker. But am I agreeing to something more than just a free sticker? [more inside]
posted by Glinn at 4:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Early stage kidney disease

Someone close to me was diagnosed with Stage 2 kidney disease. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 3:50 PM PST - 6 comments

We co-signed for a private student loan, now primary isn't paying

Several years ago we co-signed for a private student loan with Navient for our relative "Sarah". It seemed like the right thing to do at the time. The loan has recently come out of deferment. Sarah is not paying on the loan and quite possibly won't. Navient cannot reach her. They can reach us, though. I know we don't have lots of options, but what are our options here? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:27 PM PST - 48 comments

looking for a warsan shire poem

i read a poem by warsan shire that used to be available. i can't find it anywhere now. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 2:27 PM PST - 1 comment

Selecting a basic (non-smart) phone

I’m spending too much time on my smartphone, so I would like to leave that at home/in my car and purchase a super simple phone with limited features for emergency use. I’d like it to be inexpensive, and all I need it to do is store 10-15 contacts, send and receive texts, and make phone calls. [more inside]
posted by delight at 2:25 PM PST - 6 comments

What's hot in Library and Information Science jobs?

What are the growth fields in LIS? [more inside]
posted by AArtaud at 2:01 PM PST - 6 comments

How to tell a good food pantry from bad

A food pantry I've donated to several times makes me concerned. Should I be? Details within. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 1:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Literary escapism for those who are Sick of This Shit

I cannot with everything that's going on in the world and I would like to take the weekend to lose myself in fiction. Please recommend novels that will help me briefly forget about how awful the world is right now. [more inside]
posted by tatiana wishbone at 1:36 PM PST - 39 comments

Christmas looms ever closer

My 5.5 year old wants a loom. Which of these basic models will bring the most enjoyment? [more inside]
posted by run"monty at 1:32 PM PST - 21 comments

What is this 70s-80s comic strip I remember?

I have a memory of a comic story I read when I was a kid (late-70s-mid-80s). The plot was something about an alien pilot coming out of a spaceship and a scene where he shed his space suit. It was a bulky power armor type suit, but it revealed he was a frail old man or just very withered being. [more inside]
posted by Legomancer at 1:18 PM PST - 1 comment

Funny, quirky, earnest movies?

Looking for movie recommendations for a blustery weekend. I loved "We Are The Best!" and "Lars and the Real Girl," because they were sweet and funny and slightly offbeat, but also earnest and thoughtful with endearing but not saccharine plots and characters. What other movies might I like?
posted by stillmoving at 1:08 PM PST - 68 comments

Income tax withholding responsibility?

Can a publicly funded institution be compelled to withhold income taxes for employees who live in cities outside of the institution’s location? [more inside]
posted by Big Chief Little Pants at 12:38 PM PST - 7 comments

How does a stock price going up help a company after the IPO?

Companies hold IPOs to get bursts of cash as they go public. But what good does it do for the company when their stock price rises. It helps anyone with options and owners of the stock, but does it help the corporation, as an entity? [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 12:31 PM PST - 13 comments

Bookfilter: Murder, identity theft, boating accident, photography etc.

I've read this book about five times and yet I can't remember its name. A guy discovers his wife is having an affair with their neighbour, who's a photographer. He kills the guy in a rage, then covers up the murder by faking his OWN death in a boating accident and using the neighbour's body. Then he assumes the neighbour's identity (photographer) and moves to a little town in the Rocky Mountains... Anyone?
posted by reshet at 12:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Help--our internet is stuck in the 90's!

Our business is located in a zone that cannot be hooked up to a cable internet without running cable underground and paying for construction. There must be a better way! (In Los Angeles, btw) [more inside]
posted by biscuits at 11:38 AM PST - 8 comments

Dysfunctional non-profit: how to remove a rogue Executive Director?

I took over a year ago as Chair of the Board of an established non-profit organization whose previously excellent reputation has been slowly degrading over the last decade or so. Over this year, it’s become clear that things are out of control behind the scenes. The Executive Director and a number of the staff have zero respect for the Board or the membership of the organization, openly ignore direct instructions to the detriment of the institution, and simply aren’t productive. I’m worried about possible malfeasance leading to liability on the part of the Board members. There’s a broad consensus among Board members is that the first order of business is removing the ED, but this person has the power to break a lot of china on their way out. I’m looking for your advice on how to navigate their departure in the most respectful and least disruptive way possible. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:16 AM PST - 6 comments

Mommy Dearest

How do I continue my relationship with my mother? Wall below. [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 10:22 AM PST - 16 comments

Getting better at emotional labor in friend/family relationships

MetaFilter, did you use to be a person who was bad at being thoughtful, proactive, and supportive in friendships, and now you are better at it? Tell me how you did it! Nota bene: I'm female and this is not a question about gendered labor. [more inside]
posted by robot cat at 9:46 AM PST - 12 comments

EM-pty messages on iPhone

My partner and I just got new iPhone SEs. When she texts me a message with an em-dash, (typing two hyphens autocorrects it into an em dash, which never happened on the iPhone 5...) I can see the text that follows initially, but when I scroll back up to the message, everything after the em dash has disappeared. Is this a feature or a bug? [more inside]
posted by coppermoss at 9:03 AM PST - 4 comments

How do you respond to emails that you've taken too long to respond to?

I have several emails in my inbox from the beginning of October. They're mainly from people introducing me to other people, or for wanting to collaborate on work. And I haven't responded, partially because it was a slog of a work month, and partially because it feels too late to respond. As each day passes, it feels harder and harder. I'm curious what language you've used in these situations where your response is late. I have much more time on my plate now and would like to rekindle these potential work relationships.
posted by anonymous at 8:33 AM PST - 22 comments

How to deal with possibly competing job offers?

I'm thinking ahead because I haven't gotten an offer yet but I'm gonna have a big dilemma if Company A makes me an offer next week, because I want the job at Company B but I haven't had the final interview yet. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 8:16 AM PST - 11 comments

emotionally abused male?

I've seen Steven Stosny books recommended a few times on ask.mefi. As my marriage (19 years, male-female) continues to deteriorate, I'm trying to figure out if I'm being abusive, but also if my wife is being abusive. Stosny's books seem to be primarily written to women (at least based on Amazon descriptions.) Does anyone know of good resources, apart from therapy, for men that may be dealing with emotionally abusive spouses? Thanks.
posted by anonymous at 8:07 AM PST - 3 comments

LibraryThing vs goodreads?

Do you use LibraryThing or goodreads or both? What do you like or not like about each of them, aside from goodreads being owned by Amazon which I imagine most people dislike? [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 8:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Minecraft - tips for playing with young elementary, rules; hindsight

I once played Minecraft, but it's been about 5 years.. and now I have an interested kindergartner. I know there's some of you who have played this with your elementary kids... tips, rules you go by? [more inside]
posted by typecloud at 7:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Baking filter: reducing butter in bread (sweet) recipe

I'm planning to bake a sweet holiday bread (German stollen), but the recipe calls for 1/2 cup of butter per loaf. Yummy, but a daunting amount of fat. If I reduced the amount of butter how would that change the bread (less moist, different texture, etc)? Is there a reasonable substitution I can make for part of the butter?
posted by duoshao at 7:41 AM PST - 14 comments

What should I do, I've been fired but the company still needs me?

The owner of the agency I work for threw a big fit and fired me because I had too much power and her husband didn't like it. There is no one who can do most of what I was doing, and some of it is essential on a daily basis. Now everyone but the owner keeps coming to me for help, what should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:30 AM PST - 78 comments

Dress this snowflake for snowflakes

Recently moved to a cold, snowy place. Could use advice for dressing warmly. Snowflakes inside! (And outside!) [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 6:38 AM PST - 38 comments

being socially proactive with anxiety

How can I be proactive with social events when I have anxiety over rejection and don't want to bother people? [more inside]
posted by bearette at 6:33 AM PST - 5 comments

What else does a one-year-old need?

Many, many relatives want to buy my very well-stocked baby Christmas presents. I feel like we have everything. I am at a loss and looking for outside the box suggestions for wants/needs I might suggest. [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 6:18 AM PST - 34 comments

Item to match a shawl

I'm crocheting a shawl for a friend for christmas, I'm almost done and have around 2/3rd of a skein left - about 60g worsted weight. Is there anything I could make to go with the shawl to use up the leftover yarn? [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 5:37 AM PST - 10 comments

How to best record video interviews with older family members

My wife and I would like to record documentary-style interviews with our parents, aunts, and uncles while they're still around - asking about their lives, where our families came from, etc. I'd like to do this with the highest quality possible, I'm ready to rent a camera and proper mics, but I have no idea what kind of files come out of the high-end video cameras and how to edit them -- my only experience is with iMovie on a Mac. More inside... [more inside]
posted by exhilaration at 5:07 AM PST - 3 comments

How to handle politically-driven self-doubt/anxiety?

I have rumination spirals that feel unhealthy/unproductive, but simultaneously totally correct with respect to my personal progressivism. [more inside]
posted by InTheYear2017 at 4:56 AM PST - 22 comments

Help me replace my camera bag

So, I have been using a Tamrac Velocity 6 for the last decade or more as my quick camera bag. The front clip crumbled in my hands in the woods last night, and I don't see an easy way of replacing the clip. Also, I'm having some trouble finding a good replacement for the bag. [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 4:41 AM PST - 6 comments

How likely am I to break my face (or other things) riding a bike?

I want to start riding a bike as a part of my commute. I've known two people who have flipped over the handlebars and broken their jaws/teeth/general face area. One person did it twice! Are accidents just part of the deal? How often do you hurt yourself (more than pulled muscles)? [more inside]
posted by greermahoney at 1:17 AM PST - 59 comments

November 9

Song or commercial from 1980/81

Looking to id song or commercial hubby heard on the radio in 1980/81 in San Francisco. Singer had a bob dylanish voice and the line hubby remembers was "don't let him (em/them?) go to Pimlico". Googling turns up nothing.
posted by TestamentToGrace at 9:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Conflicted about sex. What's your experience?

How old were you when you started thinking about sex? Snowflake inside. [more inside]
posted by Spiderwoman at 8:59 PM PST - 41 comments

How can I stop (or better manage) my crying episodes?

Recently, I've had more and more instances where some sort of a emotional or physical trigger makes me start to cry, which then often devolves into me sobbing, complete with borderline hyperventilation and difficulty speaking. How can I stop -- or better manage -- these crying episodes? [more inside]
posted by kylej at 7:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Can you recommend a PC game for me?

I really like doing missions in GTA Five involving shootouts with police, drug dealers, etc. Nothing fancy or complicated, just like shooting targets while trying not to be shot. Call of Duty and other war games seem like they might be too much for me to do (I am not a very talented gamer!). Suggestions?
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 6:49 PM PST - 13 comments

Is there anything concerning about this Tinder experience?

My friend's date suggested they rent a place in the city for two nights -- as their second date. I can't think of any specific concerns, but it's like nothing I've ever heard of. Two nights? Before they've even kissed? There's not some kind of well-known "Tinder Airbnb scam" I've never heard of, right? [more inside]
posted by a birds at 4:37 PM PST - 68 comments

Choosing a fatbike - what to look for

My wife and I have tried some fat bikes and they appear to be super fun. We're thinking about buying some, but with the prices involved, I'd like to know a few things. [more inside]
posted by Acari at 4:22 PM PST - 9 comments

Best E-Reader Or Tablet For Physics Textbooks?

What's the best E-Reader I can get to read a physics textbook that has lots of equations in it? [more inside]
posted by Kevin Street at 4:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Is this some kind of weird scam?

Sold a car on Craigslist. Guy is taking forever to pick it up. What gives? [more inside]
posted by Malleable at 4:15 PM PST - 8 comments

Mobius marathons: Need to qualify for a marathon? Run a marathon! But...

I have set a goal of running the Chicago Marathon in 2019: motivation to get back in shape, as well as my fiftieth birthday present to myself. Every google search I do on "how to qualify for the Chicago Marathon" says "run a qualifying marathon in Xh:xm." Great! But when I look up the qualifying marathon online, it has a qualifying marathon requirement. How do I break in to Marathon World? More details inside.... [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 4:09 PM PST - 8 comments

NSFW: Help me stop touching my bf in my sleep.

The last two times my boyfriend has slept over, I have touched him sexually in my sleep. I have no memory of this. He isn’t bothered, but I am. Help me figure out how to stop doing this? [more inside]
posted by schroedingersgirl at 3:07 PM PST - 32 comments

Planning office fun

My company has a new committee to plan office activities: happy hours, theme lunches, game nights, etc. I thought I'd query the hive mind to see what different companies have done that you've enjoyed. [more inside]
posted by radioamy at 3:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Juggling multiple job semi-offers - the government agency edition

Mefites who are familiar with guvmint bureaucracies: After searching with no luck for quite a while, I have suddenly ended up with 1.75 job offers at the same giant public agency and I am not sure how to respond. [more inside]
posted by Dr. Sock, WebMD at 2:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Stuck in Youtube hell...

Hey guys! We're yet another small business trying to get established on Youtube, but we're stuck with an old channel a former employee created and can't regain access. [more inside]
posted by roygbv at 2:26 PM PST - 9 comments

how to live through a very complicated day

I survived a suicide attempt on a date coming up very soon. What do I do that day? That week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Roomba (or equiv) for Elderly Couple?

My mother and her husband are in their early seventies and recently face substantial physical limitations. Would something like a Roomba work for them? [more inside]
posted by Ivan Fyodorovich at 1:15 PM PST - 15 comments

What was sex like in the olden days?

I recently came across the husband and wife rating scales published by a psychiatrist in 1939 and was surprised to see that a husband would score 20 points for "ardent lover--sees that wife has orgasms in marital congress," as I didn't think there was much professional or personal insight back then into female sexual satisfaction. What would sex have been like in different centuries, and when did it become important for women to be sexually satisfied? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 12:39 PM PST - 50 comments

Plan "B" for if deadbolt lock fails?

I want to rent out a remote cabin but the deadbolt lock has been acting strange. I need some kind of plan for if it fails. [more inside]
posted by cda at 12:38 PM PST - 11 comments

Quick question on advanced excel conditional formatting

I have a list of leads on Column A. I have a list of attendees to a conference. I want to highlight matching names so I can sort by color. for example ABC company is on A25. ABC company will be attending the conference and their name appears on B44. I want B44 to highlight in Yellow (and of course, do this for all matching entries). Thanks!
posted by FireStyle at 11:53 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to ride my bicycle, I want to ride it where I like

I'm a fat woman, and I want to bike to work. I also want to avoid looking too embarrassing during my commute. What should I wear while biking? [more inside]
posted by meese at 11:43 AM PST - 19 comments

Help me understand data use when streaming video

I am somewhat ashamed that I have to ask this, given that it's 2017 and I'm a grown-ass, educated person, so please do not laugh. When I am streaming video (Netflix, Hulu, etc.) does it use more data to watch it on my 48" TV than it does to watch it on my iPhone? Assume that I mean the same degree of video quality in both cases. Is the small screen view drawing less data to make me a smaller picture, or is it the same amount of data just sizing up or down as necessary?
posted by mccxxiii at 11:39 AM PST - 8 comments

Neurological/Health Benefits In Tying Unseen Knots?

I have a designed a pair of sarong-like pants where when you complete "putting them on" you finish the process by tying a shoelace/bow knot behind you just below your lower back. Because of this you cannot see the knot being tied. Is there neurological/Health benefits tying this unseen knot?
posted by goalyeehah at 11:02 AM PST - 9 comments

Is there a polite way to specify how long relatives can stay with us?

I have family who like to visit (great!) but sometimes will stay for over a week. They never say specifically how long they'd like to stay. This may be a cultural thing, so maybe there is no correct answer to this, but if I would prefer someone not stay for longer than 3-4 days, how does one navigate this conversation? [more inside]
posted by neeta at 10:20 AM PST - 17 comments

Knee pre-hab/strengthening

When I lift heavy weights, my right knee feels a twinge of pain. I would like a way to make sure my knee joints are in the best shape they can be. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 9:54 AM PST - 15 comments

books/resources about dealing with pathological liars

I just learned that my recent ex had been lying to me about various things, great and small. The behavior is definitely pathological but he doesn't have many of the typical narcissist traits I'd associate with this sort of abuse. I've dated a couple of people with similar issues. I'm interested in books/online resources for myself to try to understand this sort of personality problem and how to avoid entering a similar relationship in the future. more below. [more inside]
posted by twoplussix at 9:45 AM PST - 8 comments

What's the biggest & best checked luggage I can take around the world?

So I'm heading around the world for three months. I bought a luggage set and it fell apart, luckily, before I got going. So now I'm looking whatever the biggest checked bag is that I can take with me. Ideally it's strong, light, rolls well and isn't black (ideally red or brown). So I can find it on the luggage carousel. What's the right Joe Vs. The Volcano luggage for me?
posted by rileyray3000 at 9:17 AM PST - 11 comments

Should I wear mascara?

I get eyelashes stuck in my eyes unusually frequently. Is it dangerous if this happens when I have mascara on? [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 8:44 AM PST - 6 comments


I'd like to get some gloves for the winter. But I am a person that 'runs hot' and its pretty easy for me to get frustrated with gloves or elastic cuffs on jackets. I'd like light gloves, maybe fingerless, that don't have any decoration and will last for a long time, but keep my hands warm while I'm carrying groceries or riding my bike. [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 8:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Fixing a rain-jacket zipper

My wife has an older Mountain Hardwear rain jacket with pockets that zip shut; these zippers were not sewn down to the surrounding fabric but instead were bonded with some kind of glue strip, and that glue is no longer holding. We're wondering how to re-attach the zippers. A couple of photos of what I'm talking about: the zipper, the bonding strip
posted by adamrice at 7:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Sulfur smell in beef ribs

Opened up a pound of flanken cut ribs and was overwhelmed by a sulfur smell. Beef is within its use by date. Was going to slow cook it for dinner tonight. Should I Eat This?
posted by infinitewindow at 7:39 AM PST - 15 comments

I’ve always wanted to be a sperm donor.

My genetic traits seem just what the doctor ordered (no family history of cancer or mental illness, academically successful/high-IQ, good cheekbones, etc etc) with one glaring exception - I carry recessive Sickle Cell Anaemia. This means that I'm ineligible for sperm donation in the UK through the NHS system, which is heartbreaking, as that’s always been something I wanted to do. [more inside]
posted by piato at 7:00 AM PST - 14 comments

Any color, except brown. No more brown.

Please choose an interior paint color for me. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 6:08 AM PST - 18 comments

Hiring cooking help

Hubs is about to start working a terrible schedule and I'm considering bringing in outside help with chores. I think I want someone to come in and cook the family's meals for the week. If you've done this, will you share your insight? [more inside]
posted by erloteiel at 5:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Mid-thirties lesbian trans woman: How do I meet people?

I'm in my mid-thirties, am transgender and a lesbian. I haven't dated in years - before transition I was in a six-year-long relationship. So far all my efforts at meeting people have been completely unsuccessful. What am I doing wrong? What should I do differently? And how do I stay sane in the process? [more inside]
posted by xchmp at 5:15 AM PST - 9 comments

My Google Home Mini won't light up, won't search, won't speak

My Google home mini will show the white lights upon reboot and the white lights will pulse a bit but after it is finished the device shows no lights and does not respond when I say ok Google. I've had it for a week and it seems to have stopped this morning My phone still does the search for me, but it is showing results on the screen instead of talking to me. I am aware there's been an update to the Mini. Help?
posted by Mistress at 5:09 AM PST - 1 comment

Considering single motherhood via sperm bank

I'm mid-30s and have wanted a kid for years now. I'm considering doing it as a single mom through a sperm bank. Has anyone done this? I'm looking specifically for resources about single moms who decided on their own to self-inseminate via a sperm bank. Anecdotes (preferably of the first-hand type) are also welcome. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:45 AM PST - 12 comments

November 8

Repair my fractured attention and concentration!

Over the last several months, I've noticed a drop-off in my ability to focus on large, difficult projects. My attention seems easily fractured (devices + internet = probable cause). I need to repair and grow back my ability to concentrate for long periods of time so I can complete a massive project. Have you re-engineered your focus (using non-pharmacological means)? What were your tactics and strategies? [more inside]
posted by Mystical Listicle at 7:51 PM PST - 24 comments

Which Thinkpad should I get?

I am going to buy either a Thinkpad T470s or a Thinkpad X1 Carbon 2017 (5th gen). If you have used either or both of these, what do you think of the keyboard (most important consideration!), the trackpad and the robustness? I am especially interested in the views of those who can compare either of these keyboards to older generations of the Thinkpad T-series (original or chiclet) and can say whether these are better/ worse/ the same for a heavy user. [more inside]
posted by tavegyl at 7:02 PM PST - 7 comments

Chia seeds: How much nutrition do I get from a teaspoon or 2 in oatmeal?

I eat oatmeal for breakfast every day (overnight oats). How much nutrition do I really get if I add a teaspoon or two of chia seeds to it? Can you help put it in perspective? It seems like I'd have to eat more like 2 tablespoons to really see a benefit, or am I reading the nutritional info wrong? And am I already getting those benefits by taking a multivitamin? [more inside]
posted by 2oh1 at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Travel Better London campaign McBess posters

A few years ago (2014) we took a trip to London and fell in love with the pithy poems of the Travel Better London campaign. I'd love to have one or more to hang in our guest room, but am not able to find any for sale. Ideas?
posted by meindee at 4:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Recataloguing a large home library - looking for advice/resources/tips

I have been asked to help recatalogue a large private library and am looking for any good suggestions/tips/resources that might be helpful, whether software, shelf naming systems, or just web resources that might be helpful. [more inside]
posted by coupedloups at 2:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Fucking magnets, how do they work, etc.

OK so I used the concept of "when you were in 3rd grade and you laid a non-magnetic metal next to a known magnet next to each other and you looked in your desk the next day and they were both magnets" in a facebook comment recently and then realized: [more inside]
posted by tivalasvegas at 2:41 PM PST - 12 comments

Getting the right Facebook Page to show up when marking self as a writer

I got prompted by Facebook to confirm that I write for particular publications, so I tried to add the publications I actually do write for regularly. For some reason, instead of that publication's official Facebook page, I can only add the Facebook-generated Interest page for that publication. How do I get the right page to show up as an option. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 2:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Casual food in Montreal

Tell me about your favorite not-white-tablecloth places in Montreal. Hole-in-the-wall restaurants, good chains, anywhere with counter service, buffets, street food, snacks, lovely cafes or markets that serve food, etc. Some follow-up questions inside. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 2:29 PM PST - 17 comments

Infertility in 2017

After my third miscarriage in a year, I have an appointment with my ob-gyn clinic to “talk about my options” and a possible referral to an infertility clinic I guess. I don’t really understand what is happening or what to expect. I don’t know anyone else who has gone through this. What is the usual course of treatment for infertility? Am I even infertile? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 2:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Can mirror-finish, outdoor stonework be 100 years old?

Can mirror-finish, outdoor stonework be 100 years old? [more inside]
posted by XMLicious at 2:08 PM PST - 8 comments

Paper baby diaper delivery

I'd like some recommendations for paper baby diaper delivery. My friend is going to have a baby and I'd like to give her some months worth of diapers. Our small town doesn't have a cloth diaper service, so a prepaid paper diaper delivery arrangement must be the way to go. Help me out here.
posted by partner at 1:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Cat stressed out - help me be the best cat carer I can be...

Our cat, Jake, is acting stressed out lately. I took him to the vet this week and she suggested Feliway (which we have) and trying a calming dry kibble (Royal Canin Feline Calm Dry Cat Food). I need your cat experience / help! [more inside]
posted by joseph conrad is fully awesome at 1:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Physical Acts of Self Care?

I'm a big believer in self-care, and I also exist in my own head a lot. For mental self-care, I listen to podcasts in the evenings, make art, read books for leisure, talk to friends, etc. For physical self-care, I don't really know where to start. What do you do? Hoping for some general suggestions, but am also just curious about what sparks other people's fancies. [more inside]
posted by snufflepup at 1:01 PM PST - 35 comments

Recommend guided 'emotional release' meditations?

As a fan and regular user of guided meditations, I'm struggling to find good/fresh guided meditations toward 'emotional release.' What I'm looking for are guided meditations similar to Derek Turesky's "Connecting With Difficult Emotions" or "Being with Pain," both found on his 'Garden of Now' CD. [more inside]
posted by Doc_Sock at 12:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Any real connection between seasonal allergies & inflammatory diseases?

I have bad seasonal allergies, and I live in Austin, where there is literally no time when at least one allergen is not peaking. I also have stage 3 endometriosis, with lesions all over my uterus, ureter, bladder, and probably pouch of Douglas. (It's as fun as it sounds.) I was traveling this weekend and had almost no allergy symptoms and my endo pain was a lot better, too. Is it possible that allergies could increase the endo inflammation? [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake at 12:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Post Partum exercise professionals in Seattle

Does anyone have recommendations for a Physical Therapist or Personal Trainer in Seattle who specializes in post-natal bodies? [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 12:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Dairy-Free, Make-Ahead Brunch

Can y'all please recommend some dairy-free, make-ahead brunch recipes for 4-6 adults? I seek main courses, not side dishes. I would prefer something that is easily transported via a quick car trip and that requires less than 20 minutes to prep for serving at our destination. My kitchen equipment and cooking skills are above average and I am in a US city with easy access to international markets for special ingredients. [more inside]
posted by juliplease at 10:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Will prepping ahead of time affect this vegan chili?

I've made this recipe once before and was pretty happy with the results...I would like to make the chili tomorrow but do as much prep as I can today, while chopping/working on a separate meal. There are 2 main components to the dish; the chili and the tofu crumbles that you stir in, and I'm hoping to cook the tofu today and be able to stir it in tomorrow. [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 10:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Calculator for comparing HSA (high-deductible) health plan costs

I am being offered a High-Deductible Health Plan (HDHP) with a Health Savings Account (HSA). But trying to calculate what my net cost would be is a nightmare. Is there a good calculator out there? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:22 AM PST - 2 comments

Let an acquaintance live in an RV in our driveway?

My husband and I are considering letting an acquaintance & her daughter (we have mutual friends) park her RV in our driveway and live there for six months to a year in order for them to save some money. We want to help her out, but we don't want to put ourselves in a bad situation. What should we be thinking about before saying yes or no to this arrangement? [more inside]
posted by Jaclyn at 9:32 AM PST - 58 comments

How do these websites make money?

I have stumbled upon an oddly anachronistic search engine company. If this were an Italian restaurant, I'd assume it was a front. What's going on here? [more inside]
posted by toastedcheese at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Flying around off-the-beaten-track Japan this summer: where to go?

I am taking three weeks to explore Japan by air from July 13 to August 4 on Japan Airlines (JAL). I am doing this instead of a train pass because all my domestic flights will be totally free. I can fly anywhere on this map. Help me plan some amazing trips! [more inside]
posted by mdonley at 9:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Do I really need an electirican?

I bought this light fixture at Lowes to replace one I already have. The box says it needs to be installed by a licensed electrician. I can't find an electrician to take the job. Can I hire a general handyperson? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 9:07 AM PST - 9 comments

How to politely yet assertively turn down business?

I have a trade business. I am finding it very hard to turn down inquires which I know are either a waste of time or are a bad fit. How to say no with a smile? [more inside]
posted by Sentus at 8:41 AM PST - 17 comments

friend needs help buying and setting up a laptop

Asking for a friend who is older (late fifties?), mostly computer illiterate and is looking to buy a laptop so he can have a simple website to run his small independent business. [more inside]
posted by Koko at 7:54 AM PST - 7 comments

I need a label maker to replace my cheap thermal label printer

I am looking for a label maker that is NOT thermal, but also not $900. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 7:35 AM PST - 6 comments

It's like Ben Franklin with a key and a see it right?

Suggestions, tips and tricks for attaching (installing?) a lightning rod to my house? [more inside]
posted by Ginesthoi at 7:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Software development jobs overseas for non-rockstars.

I am an apartment-dwelling 30-something web developer working for a boring Fortune 500 company in the midwest. I've recently been re-assessing my life, which is sans partner or children at the moment and likely to remain so for awhile, and thinking I need a change. This is probably going to involve relocating in the US, but I got to thinking... if I was just willing to broadly move basically anywhere in the world that's interesting and is generally safe and politically stable, how hard would it actually be for me to get a job overseas? [more inside]
posted by Sequence at 7:27 AM PST - 13 comments

Getting sharp images on LinkedIn profile media

I am trying to add media to my LinkedIn profile. I'm struggling to get the cover images to display nicely. What do I need to do? [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 7:08 AM PST - 3 comments

What scale for weighing my cat?

My vet recommended that we track our cats' weight between visits. Most bathroom scales aren't accurate enough, most baby or pet scales are bulky and expensive, and most kitchen and postal scales are too small. Can you find the right scale for my cats? (I'm sure it's impossible without photos...) [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 6:49 AM PST - 22 comments

Wide front, narrow heels, hope me!

Walking shoes for narrow heels, wide front foot, bunions, and plantar fasciitis. Plz hlp. [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 6:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Strange home network problem

Some browsers cannot connect to my router admin page at but others can. Why so and can this be fixed? [more inside]
posted by exogenous at 5:48 AM PST - 12 comments

I need to project simple lines in a bright environment

How can I project very visible guide lines on a work table in a reasonably lit room without breaking the bank? [more inside]
posted by Harald74 at 4:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Why all the songs in ‘90s cartoons?

Why did so many ‘90s kids’ cartoons have songs all the time? Bobby’s World and Garfield & Friends come immediately to mind. Was it a legal classification and/or budget thing like Mighty Boosh?
posted by DoctorFedora at 3:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Making my own read-along story books for my kids' tablet

I have digitised bunch of read along books (now pdf) and audio (mp3) that I had and loved as a child. We're going overseas at the end of the year, and I'd love to get these files into my kid's tablet so she can listen and read along as we're on holidays, but geez it's hard! [more inside]
posted by smoke at 3:02 AM PST - 4 comments

Freestanding TV cabinet with bloody-minded cats and gymnastic child

I want to put a 55" TV into our living room, but we have several challenges. We're likely to move in a year, so it can't be an expensive or permanant solution. Because of the room's configuration, the TV would be best perpendicular to the wall, but I'm leery of putting a large TV on top of a cabinet with three active cats and a small child who treats the sofa as a trampoline without some way to secure everything. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 2:33 AM PST - 4 comments

November 7

Why do so many Japanese buildings have external stairs?

I’ve noticed that so many Japanese buildings have external staircases. But why? I strongly suspect that there is a policy reason for this, but I can’t prove it. This excellent album shows what I’m talking about. [more inside]
posted by ripley_ at 9:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Fellow PDXers: Where can I street-park my car for a month?

I'm leaving Portland (OR) in Thursday to attend to a family emergency. May be gone as long as a month. Just moved here, so I don't know the city well, and I can't afford a pay lot... [more inside]
posted by t(h)om(as) at 8:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Sommeliers, connoiseurs, those who love the vino...please advise.

For a Christmas present, I'm looking for three tasty and interesting bottles of wine that I can procure here in Southern California. Deets inside... [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 7:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Side Sleeper Pillow Top Mattress Topper Recommendations?

Hi all! We bought a Leesa foam mattress in January, and I've developed debilitating pain in my right shoulder (and starting to in my left). Working on resolving that, but I would also like to solve the problem of my mattress without buying an entirely new mattress in less than a year. I'm a side sleeper, and I would like to specifically get a pillow top mattress topper as I've used those before without problems. However, most reviews seem to be for foam or latex toppers and one lone bamboo pillow top. Any recommendations?
posted by cui bono at 7:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Boot call.

Please help me find the boots I want. I'm looking for personal recs to supplement the difficulty of judging Zappos photos and (sometimes nonexsitent) reviews. [more inside]
posted by flourpot at 6:45 PM PST - 26 comments

Plastic-free clip lunchboxes?

I'd really like to find an alternative to the extremely useful clip-lock plastic tupperware boxes that can carry even soups without leaking. I just would prefer not be using plastic - health reasons and just a dislike of plastic because of it not biodegrading. Is there any alternative that is similarly useful (can carry liquids)? I guess glass is not an option, as it's too heavy to carry around.
posted by tangerine_poppies at 6:10 PM PST - 24 comments

All my business

I'm having a surgery done next week and I don't feel like sharing. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 5:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Physical comedy time

Seeking video links of your favourite physical comedy moments, from movies, tv, stage, or life. Bonus points for explaining what you love about them. Thanks!
posted by pseudostrabismus at 5:22 PM PST - 55 comments

Where to camp in Angeles National Forest?

Fans of Angeles National Forest, which campgrounds are most likely to have a spot available for people arriving late on a Thursday night on Veterans Day weekend? [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 5:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Children's science YouTube channel?

I'm interested in finding a children's science YouTube channel that has at least the occasional experiment that can be easily done at home. [more inside]
posted by Nonce at 5:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Tag-Along Camping Gift!

Hi! I am sort of tagging along on a two day camping trip with two other people, and want to bring a gift or nice thing of some kind to show appreciation for the invite. As an infrequent-camping city-kid I don't know what would be fun or reasonable. [more inside]
posted by rosswald at 5:04 PM PST - 12 comments

Home theatre hell

Explanation will likely get confusing. But hoping someone can make me look like an idiot. [more inside]
posted by raider at 4:32 PM PST - 7 comments

Battling Loneliness While Homebound Post-Surgery

I'm recovering from major surgery and have been largely immobile and homebound. My friends have become increasingly busy, and I feel myself slipping heavily into SAD (despite using a SAD lamp and being in PTSD therapy) as the weather has turned really cold and dark in the past 2 weeks. I've been spending 7 hours a day in my room watching films, and it's terrible for me....any suggestions for how to fill time would be helpful. [more inside]
posted by Kombucha3452 at 4:25 PM PST - 8 comments

If it's not OK on the national level (politics and business mingling)

In my local election today we have someone running for a District position who also appears to be part owner of a business that specializes in business strategies for that district class. [more inside]
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 3:57 PM PST - 2 comments

Help my find these swim trunks for my picky boyfriend

My boyfriend really likes these swim trunks (scroll down for the picture) please help me find them. [more inside]
posted by SpaceWarp13 at 3:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Does the Poang chair frame deteriorate over time?

In my limited experience, a Poang chair is virtually ideal seating, i.e., it's a perfect fit for me and I love the slight bounce/rocking motion. I recently bought a couple off craigslist and they are not what I remember them to be. [more inside]
posted by she's not there at 3:13 PM PST - 12 comments

Tire pressure sensor woes

Local auto repair shop seemingly broke two tire pressure sensors. Is this a common problem? Help me convince the shop to cover the cost of fixing them or convince me this is a thing that happens. [more inside]
posted by sewellcm at 3:03 PM PST - 10 comments

IANYG (I Am Not Your Grandma) but explain it to me like I'm 95!

My sister and I use AIM to keep an intermittent chat going all day. Since AOL announced that AIM is ending December 15th, we need help finding a replacement. [more inside]
posted by a humble nudibranch at 2:31 PM PST - 16 comments

How to calculate the temp of falling water?

I'm curious how much the temperature of hot water (say, 37ºC) drops as it falls through the air, like in a shower. I don't know enough physics or fluid dynamics to even know where to start googling the problem, but if you had a shower 2m off the ground, and assumed ideal large drops, how much would the water temp drop after falling say, a meter in height? [more inside]
posted by mathowie at 1:34 PM PST - 22 comments

Goosebumps-like horror series?

Looking for suggestions on 90s-era children's horror fiction along the lines of Goosebumps for a personal project. More inside. [more inside]
posted by thedarksideofprocyon at 1:06 PM PST - 13 comments

Chrome browser is now Chromium, and now my extension doesn't work

I work for BigCorp, and as such, they control everything that is installed on my laptop. I have my Chrome home page and new tab default (via extension/plug in) pointing to a custom file.html with all my links. I noticed today that when I start chrome, opening a new tab has been replaced with the chrome default new tab page (tiles/speed dial), and my new-tab-redirect extension no longer works. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 1:00 PM PST - 4 comments

When is spam, not spam?

As someone with a Virginia area code on her cell phone, I've been getting a lot of calls and texts from other VA numbers in the last several days reminding me to vote. Ordinarily I'd think they are just typical spam robocalls/robotexts, except... [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 12:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Los Cabos 2018

We've booked our flights to Los Cabos, Mexico. It was not our first choice but we had airline vouchers and this was one of the more reasonable options. Unfortunately, everything I am seeing online makes me think we are about to have a very bad vacation... any tips for salvaging it? [more inside]
posted by rada at 12:01 PM PST - 15 comments

what to do with a ham?

A kind soul gifted me a 8 lbs ham. Now what? [more inside]
posted by ouke at 11:54 AM PST - 17 comments

LA plants on the cheap

I am trying to beautify an ugly concrete slab at the front of my East LA house - I'm thinking potted plants. Where/how can I do this on the cheap? I'm hoping for drought-tolerant plants and also big pots that don't break the bank. Do you have any specific stores or general ideas for cheap pots and outdoor cute plants? the winter gets less full sun but the summer is full sun, and I am not the BEST waterer, so these are the battles the winning plants will have to wage. Thank you!
posted by andreapandrea at 11:38 AM PST - 11 comments

What can I do?

I need to re-enter the workplace, but I have no flipping clue what my strengths or aptitudes are. Of course, snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 11:34 AM PST - 7 comments

What are the benefits available to someone born in Britain but left?

I was born in the UK but left when I was under 10 years old. I've re-visited as a tourist but never stayed for long and never worked there. Are there any benefits that an expat like me is entitled to? I imagine I wouldn't get a pension but are there other things that I'm overlooking? Thinking not just of gov't things but other stuff available from corporations etc, regardless of how trivial they may be!
posted by storybored at 11:24 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me remember the name of this movie about making a bad movie.

I'm trying to find a documentary about some really bad amateur film makers shooting a horror film that is NOT American Movie. [more inside]
posted by thejanna at 11:01 AM PST - 7 comments

What are the best spa hotels in the US for a winter visit?

Must haves: indoor pool, nearby natural beauty, decent food at the hotel or nearby. [more inside]
posted by david1230 at 10:20 AM PST - 10 comments

I Need a Sound System and Advice

I am in the market for an excellent sounding system - speakers, subwoofer and amp. Maybe 50 watts per speaker. I'd go for something used if it was in pristine condition. It needs to be solid, a decent name, attractive, relatively compact and sound amazing. Clear and resonant like a bell. I want to hear everything that needs to be heard. Price range (clincher) around 300 bucks. What are my options?
posted by watercarrier at 10:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Books by and about women in Spanish or French?

Please recommend well-written novels about women in Spanish or French, similar to Maeve Binchy or Jojo Moyes. [more inside]
posted by kristi at 9:43 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I focus on academic/creative work within short blocks of time?

I have a couple of creative and academic projects that I would like to get done by the end of this year, and one project that urgently needs to be wrapped up in the next couple of weeks. I have a 1-2hr block each weekday, at best, to try and get this work done -- but when I get to this block of time at last, I find my mind is all over the place and I can't get focused or achieve much. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by Aravis76 at 9:27 AM PST - 7 comments

Calling all watch experts, especially Russophiles

Dug an old favorite watch out of my drawer, would love to know more about it. All I know for sure is that I got it in 1998 as a gift from someone who'd been in Poland, that it's self-winding, and that it has Russian text on the face and back. Anything else is surmise and conjecture. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 9:26 AM PST - 12 comments

Name the kitty sisters...

My best friend has two new Egyptian Mau kittens, sisters, that must be named. Seven months old. Help O help wise Mefites. brief vid Thank you!
posted by Melismata at 8:51 AM PST - 29 comments

Christmas concerts in the Old World

Help us find nice Christmas concerts (or just music) in Prague, Cesky Krumlov, Vienna, and Regensburg! While searching for information on where to listen to the great music of the season in these cities, I find that the results are often dwarfed by third-party ticket merchants selling concert tickets for the larger venues. At the same time, doing an exhaustive search church by church sounds, well, exhausting! We need the experience of the Meta-filterettes! [more inside]
posted by Don_K at 8:50 AM PST - 7 comments

Attack of the Afternoon Munchies and Couch Potatohood

Help me lose weight by avoiding stress-related junk food eating and getting back to exercising. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 8:27 AM PST - 21 comments

One way friends

Kinda embarrased by this question: As an extrovert who is slightly awkward: I'm having a little trouble dealing with the fact that 75% of my social hangouts are instigated by me. Logically, it should be ok-- when I reach out, more times than not, people want to hang out. Folks seem to have fun and repeat. But I feel like maybe I need to 'slow my roll?' I don't want to be awkward and overbearing. Am I thinking this way too much? Snowflakey details inside: [more inside]
posted by sandmanwv at 8:09 AM PST - 15 comments

Recommend me a laptop

It's time to upgrade my eight year-old laptop, since it has a hard time handling any video or photo editing. Snowflake requests inside. [more inside]
posted by craven_morhead at 7:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Can I un-doom my lawn?

We've left our lawn unmowed for way too long. I could mow it short now; mow it somewhat shorter, in stages starting now; or leave it alone until spring. I've poked around here and elsewhere online, but I'm not sure what's best given that it's late in the season, in Massachusetts. [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 6:48 AM PST - 10 comments

Kiru comics is not Kirtu comics

My friend has setup a website, Kiru comics, suitable for for all ages. However, Google isn't currently recognising his brand, so when searching for Kiru comics Google prompts you with: Did you mean: kirtu comics So the question is, what do you think he should do? He's paying an seo consultant for 3 months to attempt to fix this, but he's seriously considering renaming his site to not clash with Kirtu, but he's spent time building up his kiru brand, and he would rather not have to.
posted by ben30 at 6:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Job Hunting With Monster Dice

About to ETS out of the Army (Signal Officer with a armful of cyber/tech certifications) and it's about time to get on that job hunt. I'm looking for a network security or project manager position, but beyond my directly networked hook-ups, I'm coming up a bit empty looking for places to crawl for open job postings. Querying the MeFi Hive Mind for information on where/what to look for. [more inside]
posted by Punkey at 6:11 AM PST - 14 comments

Best history of the Anita Hill/Clarence Thomas hearings & moment?

What is the best cultural, historical, and legal book on the Anita Hill/Clarence Thomas hearings? Or maybe there is an exceptional essay or two?
posted by OmieWise at 4:19 AM PST - 3 comments

How to help a depressed student

I have a student who did his undergraduate project under my supervision. He is enthusiastic and very interested in my study taxon. He did a pretty good job on his thesis, and wanted to continue for his masters with me. But in between he had a sort of mental breakdown and now I have to figure out how best to help him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:54 AM PST - 4 comments

How to think of myself as sexual again?

Me: female, cishet, 43, 15 years divorced and now that the kid is off on her own, I want to try dating again, but I'm scared because I cannot imagine myself having sex, because I am so revolting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:54 AM PST - 25 comments

Help me blow the whistle, not my career (TOR/anon email)

I need to use anonymous email to report something at work. (I've thought this through, it is the only viable option). Will TOR, on my personal tablet, effectively protect my IP address? Note: this device has been on work's guest network where I have to log in. So, if they save IP addresses/logins, and they wanted to look, they could match me up if TOR lets my IP through. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:54 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me prepare for my internship in the US

(Asking for a friend) I'm moving to Silicon Valley for three months to intern at a big tech company there, and I'm looking for some advice to help get everything set up. I'll be moving from Australia in a few weeks, so I'm looking for a) cheap short term accommodation in the area b) a bank to open an account at and c) a phone provider. [more inside]
posted by Panthalassa at 3:30 AM PST - 8 comments

How sketchy is this?

So sometimes on Twitter I get tagged randomly on stuff that's vaguely environment-related (as are most of my tweets, which all relate to my work). And these tweets get hundreds of likes so they keep popping up in my notifications. But the tweets themselves seem sort of non-sensical or weird, like this one from a "Foundation" that doesn't even have their website set up, only a Twitter presence. [more inside]
posted by stinker at 1:42 AM PST - 5 comments

What is the Snowcrash of today?

What is the Snowcrash of today? In my youth, the novel Snowcrash was quite a phenomenon: it was a fun, exciting read, with crazy ideas, and you didn't have to be into sci fi to enjoy it. People who were into literary fiction, or who didn't even normally read books, had read it. What book holds a similar sort of place nowadays? It doesn't have to be sci fi.
posted by surenoproblem at 1:34 AM PST - 52 comments

On the etiquette of complimenting an outfit

What approach should I take to complimenting someone's outfit? It seems like there's a clear set of social norms about how women exchange compliments about outfits, but it's a little foreign to me and I could do with some pointers. Difficulty level: novice trans lady. [more inside]
posted by saltbush and olive at 12:15 AM PST - 24 comments

November 6

Worried about 5yo's flapping/running behaviour

On a recent holiday, I became concerned over some of my five year old's repetitive flapping and running behaviour - I am going to make a doctor's appointment, but would like some advice on what to mention, what to ask for, and any things I could be doing in the meantime. [more inside]
posted by fever-trees at 10:15 PM PST - 17 comments

Damn you.

Name that tune in only two words. [more inside]
posted by maryr at 8:44 PM PST - 5 comments

How do you meditate, work out, work full time, and cook for yourself?

In my ideal world, I would meditate for 20 minutes a day and work out for 30-40 minutes a day plus another 30 minutes at the gym for steam room/shower/getting dressed. In my actual world I need to work 8 hours a day, with a 30-minute commute each way. I also would like to cook for myself, including making lunches to bring in. Is anyone else fitting all this in? [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 8:23 PM PST - 37 comments

Creative twinning to celebrate tenure

An old pact for outrageous dressing post-tenure finally comes to fruition. Please help. [more inside]
posted by k8t at 7:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Middle-aged guy trying to date in NYC/DC. What am I doing wrong?

Like the title says: I'm a middle-aged guy trying to date in New York City or D.C. Hope me, datingfilter! Snowflake details after the jump! [more inside]
posted by arkhangel at 7:10 PM PST - 22 comments

Delhi for 14 hours, what should I do?

At the end of a business trip I will have a 14 hour stop over in Delhi, next Sunday. I have never been to India before and I love museums, cultural landmarks and generally sightseeing and I'd like to go somewhere to pick up gifts for my family. Tell me where to go and how to get there! [more inside]
posted by keeo at 6:53 PM PST - 4 comments

How bad is a one-star NHTSA crash rating, really?

I have a chance to get a good deal (from a friend) on a 1990 Hyundai Elantra GLS. It's in great condition shape, in my price range, with only 80,000 miles. But my wife is concerned about driving our young kids in it since it got a one-star rating from the NHTSA in side impacts, and three stars in other categories. [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 4:49 PM PST - 19 comments

I want to read books by women from the Middle East

I'm really curious about what daily life is like in say, Saudi Arabia, and fiction is the best teacher. Please have at it, Metafilter. What would I like? [more inside]
posted by karmachameleon at 4:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Cheap dresses

I am interested in semi disposable dresses. Specifically, I've seen a lot of dresses on amazon for 18 dollars. I am looking for something like this that will hold up to 10 washes without pilling or totally falling apart. [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 3:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Stroller and carseat recommendations

I'm reading through review websites for strollers and car seats, and realizing that making a choice is... um... quite the project. I'm looking for recommendations. More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 3:29 PM PST - 15 comments

I abandoned my career and I don't know what to do next.

I used to have an amazing job and I gave it up. I don't know what to do with my life now. [more inside]
posted by spacewaitress at 3:02 PM PST - 39 comments

Walk me through the disability process? (U.S.)

It’s become apparent that I will not be able to work any time in the near future. How do I apply for disability? What things affect it? Who can I ask for help? I'm confused about my age related to the rules. Any tips or other things to think about? [more inside]
posted by SockWombat at 2:56 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me find a good spiralizer so I can get oodles and oodles of zoodles

I have this basic, manual spiralizer. It meets all my needs except the manual twisting. Can you recommend a good, basic spiralizer that has some kind of feature that helps you twist the zucchini? [more inside]
posted by Room 641-A at 2:52 PM PST - 6 comments

Which MIDI-USB cable do I need?

I am attempting to get both a Rock Band keyboard and a Roland FR2 digital accordion to communicate with my Windows 10 machine and am having trouble finding a MIDI-USB cable that works. [more inside]
posted by subocoyne at 2:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Don't they all have that?

Looking for specific examples of automobile features considered (by the manufacturer anyways) so advanced as be worthy of being proclaimed on exterior badges and are now considered mundane "features" of modern cars. [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 2:18 PM PST - 18 comments

Middle Grade/Early YA Mysteries

My niece is turning 11 at the end of this month. She is very smart and a voracious reader. The last time we talked, she told me mysteries were her favorite. [more inside]
posted by something something at 1:55 PM PST - 22 comments

Help me properly describe my father's position in the Marine Corps.

I'm writing an obituary for my father and I know it would be important to him to get the details of his time in the US Marine Corps right. I've never really understood the structure of the Corps so the odds of me getting this right are slim - particularly as I'm not 100% sure of the details. [more inside]
posted by AthenaPolias at 12:56 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I not wimp out of therapy?

I (early 40s) have been dealing with depression since HS. I tried therapy once in college, but couldn't really bring myself to go into anything because it all just seems so dumb compared to people who really have problems. I have my first therapy appointment since then booked for this week. Any advice for pushing through that reluctance?
posted by bigdamnnerd at 12:45 PM PST - 23 comments

One base, several meals?

Recently used a recipe where you could make one creamy chicken base and use it for several different recipes (pasta bake/pie/something with spuds). Minced beef and tomatoes is another common one. What other bases could I make a load of and then make several different things out of, depending on whim?
posted by threetwentytwo at 12:31 PM PST - 11 comments

When you forget to check your phone before the big trip...

Two related questions about my smartphone functionality while I'm abroad right now: 1). Is there any way to check my voicemail on my ATT phone when I'm already abroad and I've forgotten my voicemail password (if I ever had one?) 2).I managed to remember to enable one of the "passport passes" so I can save money one texting/data, etc. Besides "use wi-fi everywhere" are there any tips/tricks about my phone settings I should know? [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 12:29 PM PST - 4 comments

What are these things on the ceiling?

I saw these devices on the ceiling of a tech firm I visited. What are they? Are they Alexa-style "eavesdrop on everything" listening devices?
posted by Borborygmus at 12:26 PM PST - 13 comments

Things to do in Ashland, Oregon in November?

Due to changing work schedules and other mix-ups, my spouse and I are visiting Ashland, Oregon this weekend instead of in the summer as we'd planned. So no Shakespeare Festival for us -- but we're excited to explore Ashland. What should we see this weekend? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 12:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Singing akin to Talking

Hey guys. Listening to my music tonight, I noticed many of my favourite artists are almost more talking than singing, though it's definitely not rapping either. What would you call this? Can you name some other musician's in the same vein? I'm thinking of Modest Mouse, CAKE, and the Blow as some examples.
posted by Trifling at 11:41 AM PST - 38 comments

he's just a skater boy (who wants to record his sessions)

Please recommend a not-insanely-priced phone with good audio and video/photo capability. [more inside]
posted by headnsouth at 11:19 AM PST - 4 comments

Cat-proof cheap Christmas decorations

In need of cheap, cat-proof, Christmas decoration ideas. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 11:17 AM PST - 13 comments

Cure for Loneliness and Feeling of failure?

A very good friend of mine is very unhappy with his situation: being 45, single, no kids (which he years for), and unstable startup job, no (bought) home and no savings. He believes everybody around him has their life organized, or is at least together with someone. - Can you recommend media (books/movies) for him to process through this feeling? [more inside]
posted by Thisandthat at 9:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Mp3 player for swimming?

I'm looking for a new waterproof mp3 player to listen to podcasts on while swimming. Currently I have an exeze rider which is ok except there is no way to select specific tracks, fast forward or rewind - I can only skip tracks. A new one should have ff/rwd, should be loud, and I'd like to spend around $150 or less. Thank you.
posted by hazyjane at 9:31 AM PST - 3 comments

Ew, tick - can a tick's size show how long it has been feeding?

This morning I pulled a tick off of my 5-year-old daughter's scalp. The little bugger can be seen in these pictures, with a dime in the shot for scale. I know you're not my doctor, etc., and we're in touch with her pediatrician - her course of treatment isn't going to change based on this question. But is there any way to estimate how long the tick has been attached and feeding, based on how engorged it looks? We're in Western Pennsylvania, and I guess this is a deer tick.
posted by chinston at 9:27 AM PST - 10 comments

love to drop things, thinking about a new phone

Which iPhone is the least likely to break when dropped? Right now, I have an iPhone SE (which I love and doesn't break when I drop it) but I've been noticing that my photos are terrible compared to everyone else's. I'd love an iPhone X, but all of the media coverage is about how dropping the phone means cracked screen & back doom. I drop my phone multiple times a day, and I don't want to get a case for it. Could other phone droppers advise on the best way forward?
posted by aaanastasia at 8:42 AM PST - 20 comments

Reliable source for legit decants?

I'm looking for a suggestion for a reliable source for perfume decants. Since shipping perfume/liquids to and from the US to Europe is now verboten, I need a Euro supplier who will ship to the UK or Ireland (either.) [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 8:31 AM PST - 7 comments

Tonsils or No Tonsils! That is the question!

Do I have my tonsils out or keep them where they are? Do you night grind and did your night grinding improve after you had your tonsils out? [more inside]
posted by zizzle at 8:10 AM PST - 15 comments

New iPhone: Using Lightning Headphones with... Anything Else?

I'm getting an iPhone 8 this week, my first without the headphone jack, and since my current headphones died on me a couple days ago, I figured I'd just bite the bullet and get some lightning headphones at the same time. But! I need to use my headphones at work a lot (for actual work stuff), and there's no lighting port on my office computer. [more inside]
posted by Fish Sauce at 7:30 AM PST - 6 comments

Best option for shared calendar between ios and android?

Hi, I have a group of 4 people. 3 of us are on ios and the 4th on android. ios folks are using stock apple calendar app and android person is using google calendar. Nobody wants to change from what they're using. How do we get it so that the Android person shares a calendar, gets notifications of new events, etc?
posted by mattholomew at 6:45 AM PST - 6 comments

How to start over when your career dreams die

I am at a loss. After spending over a year in anticipation, my friend watched his career dreams vanish without warning in the wake of the government's hiring freeze. I've never even remotely been in his shoes -- so how do I advise him? [more inside]
posted by lecorbeau at 6:34 AM PST - 9 comments

Day Hikes

I did some amazing day hiking in Zion National Park last summer. I want more of this. I have two requirements: Relatively easy to get to and a diverse range of hikes. I am in Austin TX and will fly anywhere in North America. Where do I go?
posted by jasondigitized at 5:49 AM PST - 16 comments

Voting on school bonds

Tomorrow I'll be voting in Virginia, and though I know the people I want to vote for, there is also a school bond referendum that I need to consider. I'd appreciate some help understanding the pros and cons. [more inside]
posted by brilliantine at 5:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Need Vet for Stray Dog in Tucson

So I have a stray dog in my house and it will be staying with me anywhere from a couple days, if its owners can be found, to FOREVER. I need a recommendation for a vet in Tucson, and some general doggy guidance. Lots of information and lots of questions inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:00 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me resolve conflicts professionally

I am in the final three weeks of my six month, room-and-board-covered onsite, unpaid internship at an academic non-profit that provides eco-tourism. This is my first time living outside of the U.S., and I’m glad I took the plunge. It is a fantastic and friendly place, and I’ve thoroughly enjoyed the work. I’ve made friends (though not close friends) with fellow interns and the local staff. There’s just one tiny problem… [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:00 AM PST - 5 comments

Parent with memory problems

My mom is having some problems with her memory and this seems to be getting worse. I feel unprepared to deal with this and scared. Details abound. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:59 AM PST - 5 comments

Overthinking primary (elementary) school: how much does it matter?

I though I knew what my criteria for a good primary school was; now I'm not so sure. Help! [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 1:41 AM PST - 18 comments

November 5

Security deposit dispute

I subtracted money from my sublessee's security deposit for damages, but they won't accept my check. How should I handle this? [more inside]
posted by mollywas at 10:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Do I have to pay back the vacation days I used before quitting?

My company says I owe them. Do I really? [more inside]
posted by lain at 8:32 PM PST - 15 comments

Suggestions for surprise 33 1/3rd birthday celebration

My boyfriend & I will be spending a long weekend with friends at a cabin mere days before the day that marks precisely one third of a century since his birth. Please help me brainstorm fun ways to surprise him and celebrate this thirdthday!
posted by kitarra at 8:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Where do I go from here in tech?

I'm a late 20s computer enthusiast without a CS degree, though if I could do college over again I'd stick it out and try for one. I can read code better than I can write it, I'm familiar with HTMl and Javascript and a little CS, but not the "frameworks," and CMS systems which seem to be in vogue these days. I have a working knowledge of the Web Content Accessibility Guidelines, and a knack for writing bug reports. I am totally blind. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 7:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Feed my Family: Complicated Vegan/Keto Meal

Please help me be a good host to my awesome in-laws and give me some main dish recipe ideas that are both vegan and keto! [more inside]
posted by AliceBlue at 6:23 PM PST - 22 comments

Advertising across the border. Canada and USA edition.

My partner has started a small print publication in the Pacific NW, and a Canadian company would like to advertise in it. She's concerned about the legality and tax implication of this. YANAL, but does anyone know about cross border print advertising? [more inside]
posted by juice boo at 6:19 PM PST - 2 comments

Where, what and how in DF & Riviera Maya this February

We're going to Mexico for a 2 week vacation this February. We're planning to spend half the time in D.F., half on the RIviera Maya. Please help us plan it out. [more inside]
posted by signal at 5:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Are there real examples of "historians will X"?

The idea that future historians will have some special reaction to the current era of madness is common. Have previous historical figures ever expressed similar sentiments and were they right about how historians looked back?
posted by Skorgu at 3:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Domain name pricing (including renewal fees)

A relative wants to buy a cheap domain for non-commercial use but I'm concerned how the renewal fees might change over time. [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 2:45 PM PST - 8 comments

Everything but the Kitchen Sink

Mrs. pjern and I are refreshing our kitchen. Some questions have arisen. [more inside]
posted by pjern at 1:42 PM PST - 14 comments

Readable history of Saudi Arabia

Recent events have made me realise I'm quite ignorant about the history of Saudi Arabia. Please point me to relevant sources (magazines, journals, books equally welcome). I'm particularly interested in the global geo-political context and treatment of women. Less so in the intricacies of prince such and such's relationship to prince so and so, unless it directly relates to the former.
posted by roolya_boolya at 12:02 PM PST - 8 comments

Please recommend some bar soap with specific qualities!

I have been using Ivory or Dove or Irish Spring type bar soap in the shower my whole life, but sometimes when I'm visiting friends, I notice that they have soap that feels much more decadent: it's a more substantial (larger/thicker) bar, with a more pronounced arch and rounded corners, and it feels kind of creamy. I don't know if I'm thinking of a specific bar soap or whether I've had the same experience with many different soaps -- but can anyone recommend a brand along these lines? [more inside]
posted by cider at 11:45 AM PST - 32 comments

Apps that involve friends in behavior change

I'm looking for examples of apps that support some kind of lifestyle/health/mental health behavior change (e.g., practicing mindfulness, exercising, quitting smoking) by involving a friend. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 11:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Geriatric cat with unresolved GI tract issues

I have a 17 yr old lady cat with IBD-like symptoms who is making my home life very... poopy. She is attentive, eating and drinking, lively and mentally alert. The ONLY issue we're having is that for Reasons (health reasons?), she poops on the floor, no matter what I do. For those of you with experience troubleshooting elderly cat bathroom behavior, what am I missing and what else can I try? All the dirty, poopy details contained within... [more inside]
posted by Snacks at 11:37 AM PST - 10 comments

LiveStream of NYC marathon finish

I'd like to watch my friends finish the NYC marathon, but I can't seem to find a live stream that just shows the finish line. ABC and ESPN have live coverage, but it jumps all over the place. It is really possible that there isn't a fixed live camera just streaming the finish? If you know of a link, please post it. Or if you know for a fact that such a link doesn't exist, please let me know so I can stop looking. Thanks
posted by robverb at 11:31 AM PST - 1 comment

Illegal Candy Sought!

So, I just came home from a trip to Germany - and while I was there, I picked up a pair of Kinder Surprise Eggs, one each for my niece and nephew - because, they are illegal in the US. However - one of them did not survive the trip, and crushed all over the inside of my bag. Is there any way to somehow get another one by Christmas without asking friends to run afoul of the law? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 11:18 AM PST - 31 comments

Road warrior, not a good flyer. How to manage/cope?

Recent career changes the past few months (not entirely by choice) have left me in a new position that requires semi-frequent international travel (30%-40%) for 1-2 weeks at a time, often on extremely short notice. I've handled it okay - fortunately I'm an over-planner and tend to be prepared for anything (delays, jetlag, etc) - except for one small problem: I'm a terrible flyer. I have a lot of flying coming up very soon so I need to figure out something. [more inside]
posted by photo guy at 11:14 AM PST - 13 comments

Which famous musical is this tune referencing/riffing off of?

Which famous musical is this tune referencing/riffing off of? [more inside]
posted by Murderbot at 10:42 AM PST - 4 comments

What Animation Software Is This?

Anybody have any idea what animation software is used to make this video? [more inside]
posted by LiteOpera at 10:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Where can I buy blended, unbranded, tall-size men's athletic shirts?

Where can I buy unbranded/subtly branded tall-size men's athletic shirts that aren't 100% polyester or 100% cotton? [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 9:45 AM PST - 6 comments

NaNoWriMo-filter: White hat hackers who work for the gov, 2017 style

Writing a book and a significant character is a white hat hacker who works for a bureaucracy. He spends most of his time doing stuff other than work but to try to understand him better I'm trying to understand - what DO white hat hackers who work for governments do these days? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 9:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Books about architecture

I recently had the good fortune of finding Virginia Savage McAlester's "A Field Guide to American Houses" at my local library, and now I'd like to find similarly thorough books on related topics. [more inside]
posted by kevinbelt at 9:34 AM PST - 6 comments

Gift to ease the transition

My mother recently moved from a 3-bedroom home to a studio apartment in an independent-living facility. I'd like to come up with a Christmas gift that helps her feel happy in her new home. [more inside]
posted by layceepee at 9:05 AM PST - 14 comments

DC > Orlando > ?Relaxing-Semiadventurous-Nature? > DC

Where should I travel to for a few days in late February? Must have direct access from Orlando, and returning to DC. International ok, but not required. [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 8:50 AM PST - 4 comments

My Whole Apartment Stinks After Cooking. Help!

My small apartment absolutely stinks after cooking. What Can I do. [more inside]
posted by EddieF at 7:14 AM PST - 21 comments

I want a job with you--but leaving my current one will screw you over.

My job is about to get a lot less pleasant, but the employer I'd probably go to would like me to stay in place for a couple of years to see some joint projects through to completion. How to manage this strategically and not lose my mind in the process? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Risperidone / Risperidal For Obsessive Thoughts?

I just started seeing a new therapist and psychiatrist for my lifelong OCD. They suggested Risperidal / Risperidone. Thoughts inside...... [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 6:59 AM PST - 10 comments

Teaching sullen 15 year olds

I have been a volunteer in a program that teaches basic coding to students in"under-resourced" city high schools for the last three years. My students this year are very different - they have been sullen and unengaged from the start and I'm looking for some help in engaging them. More snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by maggiemaggie at 6:00 AM PST - 13 comments

Noise cancellation ear plugs / headphones?

I often have to work in a space with small kids nearby - looking for noise cancellation recommendations to drown out their racket.
posted by ryanshepard at 5:42 AM PST - 7 comments

Movies with long, realistic scenes of psychoanalysis?

I'm writing a scene in a book where a character, herself a therapist, is undergoing psychoanalysis. Two questions. First, what are some examples of psychoanalysis done well in film? Second, under what circumstances would a practicing psychoanalyst go to another psychoanalyst? Could there ever be a pedagogical relationship between the two, or would that be beyond the pale of ethics? Thanks!
posted by jwhite1979 at 3:10 AM PST - 14 comments

Resources for working with jealousy

I experience a significant amount of jealousy in relationships and would like to work on this to make things easier for myself and my partner. I live in a place where it is hard to find a good therapist so while it would be great to have external help, at the moment I'm looking for readings, ideas, experiences, methods, and so on. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 2:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Recommend an inspirational book for young Muslim woman

Would you please help us find a book in English, fiction or otherwise, for a young Muslim woman, with an inspirational theme that could lend her support as she navigates her life under the dominance of a patriarchal family? [more inside]
posted by runcifex at 12:36 AM PST - 13 comments

November 4

What is this b&w movie about a small town post war impersonator?

What is this movie? I'm sure I watched it within the past few years, probably on Turner Classics. It was black and white. I took it took place in a small town. A drifter or somebody shows up at an elderly lady's house and begins helping her out with chores, maybe? Maybe he's impersonating a war buddy? Maybe he's a deserter, post world war 1? He gets found out in the end I think?
posted by J0 at 9:51 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for a late 80s/early 90s R&B music video

I only remember a few details, but it's driving me crazy! [more inside]
posted by aquamvidam at 5:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Does Miele's "SteamFinish" feature work?

I need a new tumble dryer, and I've narrowed it down to two Miele models. The main difference is that the more expensive one offers Miele's "SteamFinish" feature, which Miele claims makes ironing "easier and quicker - or even completely unnecessary." If it makes ironing unnecessary, I'd spring for it. Can somebody who has used the feature tell me how well it works? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 2:41 PM PST - 6 comments

Improve my photographs? Post processing?

We're trying to get photographs for a holiday card. We took some, and I think I had the settings... not exactly right. I have two questions. Could you please help me with the settings on our dSLR so that the subject, not the background, is what's in focus? And what's the best way to get a few of the photos post-processed -- is it easy enough to do myself? is there a way to pay someone? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 2:10 PM PST - 16 comments

New bicycle has shifting problems

I built a bike frame, and I can't get the bike to shift onto the large chainring; it seems like the front derailleur can't quite reach far enough. Can I fix this with a different derailleur? Different crankset? Or something else? [more inside]
posted by egregious theorem at 12:45 PM PST - 11 comments

Best synthetic mid-layer

Looking for a new mid-layer for general winter use, as well as winter sports (skiing, snowshoeing, etc.). What's good? [more inside]
posted by so fucking future at 11:46 AM PST - 10 comments

I love colorful vaguely utopian political art. Help me buy more.

I am obsessed with the affordably priced lefty posters from JustSeeds. I would like to find more art like this to buy for my walls and my comrades. My tastes run more towards utopian/colorful/ecological than grim/scary/death imagery. For example, this honeybee-inspired "Labor Creates All Wealth" image is very much my thing. I also want to support lesser-known shops, artists, and collectives than say, Shepherd Fairy.
posted by mostly vowels at 10:34 AM PST - 12 comments

Health insurance coverage terminated with no notice. What do I do?

I just discovered that apparently my employer-provided health insurance was terminated and that coverage ended on 10/31. All premiums have been paid as normal (deducted automatically from paychecks, last one dated 10/27) and absolutely no notice of any form was provided to me. Any ideas how this happened, or what I do now, apart from waiting until Monday when the insurance company will actually be open and take my dang calls? [more inside]
posted by halation at 10:24 AM PST - 23 comments

Hosting a large-ish family gathering 101

For this Thanksgiving, which happens to be right before my 30th birthday, I decided to invite my extended family and friends to Thanksgiving at my place in NYC. At this point it looks like it will be me plus 11 or 12 guests, most of whom are coming from out of town. I would love any tips you can give me about 1) being an awesome hostess in this situation and 2) the logistics of preparing Thanksgiving dinner for this many people! [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 10:04 AM PST - 36 comments

Have a cat, introducing a new cat - gender and age?

I have a 4 y/o female cat. After initially being happy having the house to herself after losing her buddy 6 months ago is definitely lonely. Trying to decide what gender and age of cat we should adopt. Getting two cats isn't an option (yes, we've heard that would be ideal). Cat is a retired breeder and not a fan of kittens. I know opinions go all over the board on this, so am interested in anecdata from my trusted mefi community as well as any empirical information you may be able to link to.
posted by arnicae at 8:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Hints and tips for teachers?

I'm an experienced teacher and am about to move schools. What things have made you a better, more efficient teacher? [more inside]
posted by chr at 8:29 AM PST - 10 comments

What is this Tavern Puzzle Called? How is it Solved?

A coworker gave me this tavern puzzle. I'm not very good at these, but he thinks I'm very clever (I do ID/Desktop Support) and assumed I was up to the challenge. I have three specific questions: [more inside]
posted by jazon at 8:28 AM PST - 3 comments

World best degree in drama or arts therapy?

I want to study at one of the best institutions for drama or creative arts therapy anywhere around the world. I am thinking initially Masters degree but I'm not sure I have the required prerequisites so also interested in undergraduate. Looking in US, UK or Australia primarily but open to anywhere in the world that teaches in English. How do I go about finding the ranking of such degrees? Thanks.
posted by vizsla at 7:54 AM PST - 3 comments

First time poker player: I have question about how Raising works

I played poker last night for the first time with a group of other first-timers after reading several articles that detailed the rules. But when we started playing we found that raising was confusing. Here's the question: [more inside]
posted by crapples at 7:38 AM PST - 12 comments

Best Voice Changing Apps

I want to become different characters with different voices, for a musical piece I'm writing. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 7:22 AM PST - 1 comment

"I'm applying for the position but cannot relocate ..."

I'm on the job market, and am seeing some interesting positions, for which I have unique qualifications. But I cannot relocate. I'd like to pitch (gently if necessary) the possibility of remote/consulting work in the same area as the listing. I'm not sure if I should apply, maybe the remote angle can be worked out if they like my resume, or if I should just contact the organization straight up. What are some good/constructive approaches to getting on somebody's radar in this way? Many thanks!
posted by life moves pretty fast at 6:54 AM PST - 6 comments

What are these Mathnet harnesses?

I've been bingewatching Square One's MathNet and in this Broadway Unkidnapping episode (from 55 seconds in) Monday and Frankly are wearing these brown leathery things that look like a cross between suspenders/braces and harnesses, with rather unusual backs. What are they wearing and are they available anywhere?
posted by divabat at 4:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Maybe we'll be in a relationship by the time I'm 800 years old

I've gone on a few dates with a self-professed slow mover. I like him, but he's terrible at communicating between dates and the glacial dating pace is slowly killing me. Is there any hope here? [more inside]
posted by amycup at 2:39 AM PST - 30 comments

November 3

First author boogie

I'm writing my first manuscript for a scientific journal article, as first author. I got a first draft together, it looked pretty OK to me -- and it was ripped to shreds by my co-authors. So now I have 5 million comments to address by five different people... this weekend. Second draft due Monday. Hope me please. [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 11:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for Occult-themed Music- Especially Non-Black Metal

I'm djing a radio show and need to find diverse occult-themed music or recordings (oddities like Louise Hubner and so on) I don't want it all to be black/death metal; I'm looking for obscure oddities especially. [more inside]
posted by GospelofWesleyWillis at 11:19 PM PST - 43 comments

Yes I will go to an Al-Anon meeting after I post this

Please help me think out how I can help my parents buy my disabled and unemployed sibling a house. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 10:08 PM PST - 26 comments

Toys lost under the sofa!

I have an Ikea Karlstad (3 seats wide + a chaise). In our old house we had carpet so we lost some, but not many, things underneath. Our new house has hardwood, so every toy in motion remains in motion until irretrievably lost under the couch! How do I solve or mitigate this? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 8:42 PM PST - 23 comments

new to iphone 7; mophie battery case micro-usb-to-3.5 mm analog adapter?

So far the intertubes is turning up nearly zero in this regard, and what does seem to exist is very poorly rated. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 8:18 PM PST - 0 comments

Recovery for the tired, tense and troubled

I'm on the tail end of a kind of intense and long week. I've had a constant headache for two days, stayed up later at night than usual and have gone to social things and school non stop. I'm probably dehydrated too. My head muscles are super tense and I went through a emotionally shaking (but not totally bad) ecperience. Tomorrow afternoon and Sunday I have most of the day to try to recover. What should I do to try to heal from all this craziness? [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 7:52 PM PST - 12 comments

Possible to nuke the most annoying dream?

I woke up today after yet another episode of The Most Annoying Dream, wherein I have failed to either graduate high school or college because I don't have enough credits. After about ten years of this dream, I am tired of it. How do I get it to go away? [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 7:44 PM PST - 14 comments

What is the natural end of a therapy relationship?

How can you tell when the natural end of a therapy relationship has been reached? How much ongoing maintenance is needed? What does that look like? Snowflake: young child. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Still pregnant (and struggling with feelings)

This was me a few weeks ago - pregnant and at grad school. How do I move on from this event and care for myself in a respectful way? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:26 PM PST - 21 comments

Tell me 'bout bike racks

I have two kids with new bikes, and the three of us would like to go places to ride them. How do we choose a car-mounted bike rack for our 2009 Nissan Rogue? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 3:28 PM PST - 13 comments

How do I wash my tiny cheap plastic monkey?

I have a tiny plastic and fake plastic (nylon?) fur monkey, which is very dirty. How can I clean his fur up a bit? [more inside]
posted by Dext at 1:21 PM PST - 14 comments

I need the mother of all stain removers

I bought a used car a year ago, and it had some stains on the rear seat. I have been living with them, but I feel like having a go at removing them. I realize this is most likely impossible, but then again, I am a believer in the power of the hive mind. Give me your most brutally effective fabric cleaners, your nuclear options, your most powerful chemical warfare, and I vow to you to try them and report back here as to how well they worked. Do your worst, Mefites. Do your worst. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 1:05 PM PST - 24 comments

Help! I've Accidentally Deleted GSuite

I accidentally deleted my consulting business GSuite account when thought I was deleting another software subscription. [more inside]
posted by summerstorm at 12:57 PM PST - 2 comments

Why do people think kale is so expensive?

I'm a big fan of garlicky greens. Most of the year, those greens are kale. I have regularly seen advice to avoid kale to save money, because it's so "trendy" or "expensive". I've seen this advice in various places (including over the last 10-15 years, and I'm wondering why, when in my experience kale is pretty cheap? [more inside]
posted by sputzie at 12:48 PM PST - 27 comments

High dividend/interest investments

I am looking for investments to be made through an irrevocable trust. I want investments that produce high "income", which for the purposes of a trust means dividends or interest, not capital gains (rental income would be defined as income too). Diversified, unmanaged investments (index funds, ETFs, etc.) preferred, so long as they produce income. [more inside]
posted by molla at 12:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Digital human assistant, or human digital assistant?

I am an academic and I have either an organizational or filtering problem with respect to my files on my computer. I can never seem to find the files I want, and I also tend to lose things that are recently but not immediately active (so, if I have to go away for a week or two, or things get in my way, it is possible for me to forget some files or some work even exists. [more inside]
posted by sockermom at 11:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Looking for legal structure

Billionaire Joe Ricketts shut down news sites Gothamist and DNAinfo, coincidentally, shortly after its journalists voted to unionize. News reports said it was because Ricketts said they both were losing money. But in prior news reports, staff was cheering the vote there was no mention of financial problems. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 11:33 AM PST - 8 comments

Accountant recommendation in Ottawa

I'm looking for a good accountant in Ottawa, ON. [more inside]
posted by Gor-ella at 11:15 AM PST - 0 comments

Best low APR balance transfer options?

I'm looking to move about $12,000 credit card debt to a lower interest creditor, and then to pay approximately $2,000 per month toward the debt. What is my best option? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 10:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I get student loan scammers to stop calling?

I get 3-5 calls every day from "student loan forgiveness" scammers. Most of the calls are from the area code of my hometown (always different numbers, so I can't just block them), but sometimes they are out of state. I also get calls from out of state vendors for my job (which I receive on my cellphone) so I'd like some way to get them to STOP CALLING. [more inside]
posted by permiechickie at 10:49 AM PST - 15 comments

Any Tips or Things to Consider Before/After Purchasing Nintendo Switch?

I am pulling the trigger and purchasing a Nintendo Switch (my poor wallet). I've heard a number of things that have me a bit concerned: dead pixels, left joy-cons that do not work, docked charging that scratches the screen or doesn't charge. Is it better to play docked or handheld? It's been out since March, so for all you early adopters, what should I be aware of and/or avoid spending money on with regards to accessories (screen protectors, grips, fancy gamepads)?
posted by Fizz at 10:34 AM PST - 16 comments

YouTube uploader for iPhone S/current OS

I just installed the most recent OS to my iPhone S, and I'm having a hard time uploading video to my YouTube channel. Help? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 10:22 AM PST - 1 comment

Online source for printing a manual?

I have a pdf of about 220 pages, 8.5 x 11, and I would like to have it printed and bound into a spiral booklet form or similar using an online printer that would then mail it to me. Any suggestions?
posted by nanook at 10:18 AM PST - 5 comments

Claim forms and particulars of claim. England and Wales.

Can someone point me towards good FREE resources for drafting claim forms and particulars of claim for the English courts? [more inside]
posted by inner_frustration at 10:14 AM PST - 1 comment

I don’t feel loved or sexy in my relationship.

For all intents and purposes our relationship is good, but I just don’t feel... cherished. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:14 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I get my dog to walk?

My 8 year shiba inu dog hates walking in the neighborhood. Are the any tricks or specific products I can use to get him to walk? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 8:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Animals? Neighbors? Ghosts?

I'm weirded out by a pumpkin that came and went from my front porch. Should I be? [more inside]
posted by Lutoslawski at 7:30 AM PST - 12 comments

Dear AskMe: I never thought it would happen to me...

but I have a "Can we eat it?" question. Do treacle and golden syrup spoil? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Sleeping in the sprawled position doesn't help.

My mattress is a 4 year old pillowtop from a good brand and it's got an indentation in the middle because, apparently, no matter what, that's the spot I migrate to at night. Thinking a memory foam topper might help mitigate the issue but . . . how do you decide which one to buy? A regular old egg crate is less than I need, but a four inch memory foam luxury whatsit seems like . .a lot. [more inside]
posted by Medieval Maven at 6:26 AM PST - 9 comments

Mortgage amortization questions

I'm trying to figure out whether I should "recast" or refinance my mortgage. I've never been able to understand how amortization works. Also, is it smart or dumb to prepay a mortgage in this low rate environment? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 5:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Do I Want to Use Redfin If I'm Looking for a House In Another State?

Have you ever used Redfin for an out-of-state purchase? Is this even a good idea? [more inside]
posted by neeta at 1:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Removing an unpleasantly fragrant residue

My car reeks of carpet shampoo. How do I get rid of the smell? [more inside]
posted by bigtex at 1:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Does LR,LF,RR,RF indicate where the tire was or where it should go next?

I'm swapping to my winter tires. I finally bought all my own tools (jack, jackstands, torque wrenches, etc) to do it myself after years of taking it into the shop. There's chalk marking the tire as position, but does it typically indicate where the tire was or where it should be rotated to?
posted by wutangclan at 12:21 AM PST - 11 comments

November 2

Can you recommend a blender for turning oats/dried fruit into powder?

I'm looking for a low/mid-range blender that I can use to turn steel cut oats and freeze-dried fruit into powder form so I can easily mix into a drink in the future. [more inside]
posted by eliluong at 10:25 PM PST - 12 comments

What are normal lows in a relationship

How do I tell the difference between a fear of commitment and vulnerability and an incompatible relationship that I should end. [more inside]
posted by aaabbbccc at 10:11 PM PST - 57 comments

Looking for a great post-Thanksgiving hike around(ish) Portland, OR

Due to the fires a lot of my go-tos in the Gorge are closed. I'm okay with rainy hikes and driving up to a couple of hours, and am not too concerned with hike difficulty (easy is fine, tough is fine). It'll be late November -- what're some trails that have something unique to offer this time of year?
posted by curious nu at 6:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Best HSA-as-investment custodian

I'm interested in using my HSA as a tax-advantaged investment vehicle. What custodian provides the lowest fees and access to good funds (e.g., Vanguard)? [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 5:24 PM PST - 8 comments

Information sources for generic vs brand name psych meds

Hive mind: what’s a good source for in depth information about generic vs brand name psych meds? [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont at 4:41 PM PST - 1 comment

“I love the idea of us reading together, have you any books in mind?”

What books read together made a difference for you and your partner? [more inside]
posted by brokeaspoke at 4:34 PM PST - 11 comments

How many prizes do I need for these bridal shower games?

I have been tasked with coming up with last minute shower games for my best friend's wedding shower on Sunday. (I'm her maid of honor but I'm out of state and her aunt is hosting the shower. I just assumed she was taking care of it but she told me last night it was up to me. Whoops!) I found what I hope won't be horrible games, but I'm having a hard time thinking through how many prizes I need for each one. [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 4:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Licensing art for tattoos...

If you get a tattoo of a third party's art (not the tattoo artist's), how much should the original artist be compensated? (or should they at all?) [more inside]
posted by Unsomnambulist at 3:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Gimme some Ocean's Eleven music without the dialogue!

I really dig David Holmes' drum-heavy orchestration to the Oceans soundtracks, but it seems like every good song is interrupted by Brad Pitt or George Clooney talking about the Bellagio. Can you recommend any Holmes-like music that's purely instrumental? Does any of Holmes' other releases sound similar?
posted by adverb at 3:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Is this a bad idea, or just an eccentric one?

We received a substantial windfall (previously) and are looking at how to invest it. From our perspective, "Socially Responsible" index funds look like a joke. Would it be prudent to put nearly all of it in Municipal Bond Funds and withdraw the returns to cover a substantial portion of our living expenses? They look stable and low-risk, and public infrastructure is something we can get behind. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Bed bugs - keep them from moving with me!

My fiance and I recently had a run-in with bed bugs at our apartment. Last Saturday we had the entire apartment heat-treated, and we're due to move to a new apartment this Friday. As of yesterday, "new" bites are still showing up on my arm, even though we passed post-treatment inspection by a bed bug dog. Is it likely that these are just a delayed reaction from old bites? What reasonable precautions should we take to ensure we don't carry any remaining stragglers with us to the new apartment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 3 comments

How to be happy in professional school

I've recently started dental school and am feeling super disconnected and unmotivated. Most days I wake up with a feeling of dread, knowing the drudgery that lies ahead. I need hobbies that make me happy, ways to re-discover my purpose/social responsibility, methods for maintaining a social life, and any techniques/milestones I can implement to make this time (4 years) go by smoother. [more inside]
posted by DayTripper at 2:27 PM PST - 10 comments

Effect of Tax Changes on Refinance In-Progress

We're in the middle of a cash-out mortgage, and are looking for advice and/or explanation of the new rules for mortgage interest in the new congressional tax proposal. [more inside]
posted by mach at 2:18 PM PST - 1 comment

When will life feel real again?

I have gone through several massive, life altering changes in the past year and a half including separation and divorce that ended a 20 year marriage, local move from my marital move to an apartment, remarriage, buying a new home, move from east coast to Midwest usa, and taking on the role of stepmom to 3 kids (incl twins) when i never parented before. The whole experience has felt surreal more often then not. [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace at 1:52 PM PST - 8 comments

Responsive stylus tablets

I really like taking notes by hand, and would love to be able to do so on a tablet. Unfortunately every tablet I've tried has been terrible to write with, with the latency for "ink" to appear after the pen touches an area being too high, and the strokes being too thick (which I assume is caused by poor sensitivity) being the killers. A few days ago though, I tried the Blackboard Boogie Board and was amazed at how good it was. Is there something like it that gets closer to a "real" tablet? [more inside]
posted by The Notorious B.F.G. at 12:23 PM PST - 14 comments

Name that bug!

A box of supermarket recycled tissues came with this beetle(?) wrapped in one of the tissues. It's still alive, and currently in my kitchen bin. I'm in the UK, and the box says that the tissues were made here. What might it be? (Pictures inside) [more inside]
posted by Urtylug at 11:44 AM PST - 11 comments

Beach recommendations in Thailand

Headed to Southeast Asia in March and very excited! Will be concluding our trip in Thailand and seeking recommendations for a beach destination there. Details on preferences inside. [more inside]
posted by DavidNYC at 11:22 AM PST - 12 comments

What Video Games Are 12-14 Year-Olds Playing?

I'm giving a presentation to Grade 7 & 8 students on writing fiction. I'd like to give some examples of storytelling techniques taken from video games. A couple of years ago, I struck a chord with older kids by referring to Fallout 4 -- but these kids are younger and Fallout 4 was so 2015. [more inside]
posted by Prunesquallor at 11:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Academic Journals that focus on social movements and activism?

Hello. I am trying to find scholary journals that focus on social movements, activism, environmental rights that accept interviews? I am looking for a Canadian-based Journal mostly, but any will do if they focus on this niche. Also, I am open to literary magazines and literary journals that focus on social movements and activism too. Thank-you!
posted by RearWindow at 10:37 AM PST - 4 comments

audiobook voice actor recommendations

I've been listening to a lot of audiobooks, and some voice actors are better than others. Two I like are Tom Weiner and Enn Reitel. Can you recommend more?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 10:13 AM PST - 32 comments

Please help me understand my therapist.

I've been working with a psychotherapist for about a year and a half and I'm feeling stuck. For the past two sessions we've been talking about the therapy, and I'm not feeling comfortable with his answers. I'd like help in evaluating them. More details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by A. Davey at 9:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Am I under real psychological stress or do I have intrusive thoughts?

I'm finally reaching out to see if I can find a therapist. But I'm not quite sure what I'm looking for. Hoping you all can give me some ideas about whether it's CBT I should try or something focused on anxiety or if I have real unresolved emotions that need a lot of talking through? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:58 AM PST - 4 comments

[Fashionfilter] Find me the perfect sweater dress

I'm searching for a flared or A-line sweater dress with partial wool content. For under $200, which seems like a reasonable thing to ask, but where are they? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 9:02 AM PST - 13 comments

Adams Morgan hotel

Can you please recommend an at least somewhat charming, very clean not very corporate hotel under $250 within easy walking distance (< 15 minutes) of Marriott Wardman Park Hotel, 2660 Woodley Rd NW Washington DC. We could stay at the Marriott or Omni but prefer something less giant/chain. Difficulty: Not The Normandy (which October 2017 yelp says has bed bugs - do not wish to risk this) or Woodley Park Guest House (which is full the dates we need).
posted by velveeta underground at 8:32 AM PST - 9 comments

Taking next-level photographs

What are some resources to help experienced/advanced amateur photographer develop craft even further? From an aesthetic perspective, not technical. [more inside]
posted by Sreiny at 8:07 AM PST - 15 comments

Zoloft: two pills, same dose, different experiences?

I started taking Zoloft a month ago, and I’ve noticed a difference between taking two 50mg pills and one 100mg pill from the same manufacturer. Am I crazy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:58 AM PST - 9 comments

Union members and non-union members: Your experience about strikes

Strikes seem to be impending for various unions in my part of the world. I am looking for what needs to be communicated to the general public by the union during or right before a strike. This is mostly a US question, but experience from outside the US is also welcome. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:44 AM PST - 20 comments

Babies and Multitasking

Asking experienced parents: I have a three month old baby. Other than the sleep deprivation, caring for my baby has been great so far. I am able to write my novel while he sleeps, and sometimes when he is awake too. When does he get more active and I have to entertain him full time? [more inside]
posted by moiraine at 7:38 AM PST - 9 comments

Real (Tie-It-Yourself) Bow Ties for a Three Year Old?

My three-year-old son is going to be in a wedding (he's the ring bearer, as he'd be the first to admit), and I want to buy him a real, tie-it-yourself (not clip-on or pre-tied) bow tie. Where can I them for sale online?
posted by thursdaystoo at 7:34 AM PST - 7 comments

How to get unstuck?

I can't find any motivation to do anything with my life. Now that I’m in my early 40s, is it too late to change? [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 7:09 AM PST - 23 comments

Arguing with my therapist. Again.

How do I move on from arguing with my therapist? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:09 AM PST - 20 comments

SciFi for other values of Sci

Please recommend: recent science fiction books (and stories) that are based on sciences and disciplines other than the usual 'hard' ones like physics, chemistry, astronomy, math, biology, computers and engineering. Looking for things like musicology, linguistics, sociology, philosophy, criminology, economics, etc. [more inside]
posted by signal at 7:05 AM PST - 32 comments

What is the best cheap polymer clay for this project?

I want to make the clay covered pens seen here. What is the best, least expensive clay for this project? [more inside]
posted by Biblio at 6:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Recommend an online course for a computer newbie?

We have a new employee who has somehow avoided using computers over the past ever. Any particular recommendations for an online course that teaches the basics: Navigating via keyboard and mouse, finding your way through drives and folders, basic commands like copy and paste, using menus, email, navigating and searching online, etc.? Additionally, the basics of Microsoft Office would be good in the same or a separate course.
posted by SampleSize at 6:19 AM PST - 8 comments

Baby/Toddler Gate Recommendations

We're moving and will need baby gates. What are the best options that are very safe and can absolutely be opened with one hand by an adult carrying a rambunctious monster but NOT by the monster herself, even if she is very clever? Complication: wide doorway. [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 6:16 AM PST - 6 comments

How long is lentil dahl safe in the fridge for?

I bought some sealed plastic containers of freshly-cooked lentil dahl on the evening of Tuesday 31 October and put it straight in the fridge. Just now, the evening of Thursday 2 November, I put it in the freezer. The ingredients are lentils, oil, tumeric and bay leaves. [more inside]
posted by Murderbot at 4:24 AM PST - 11 comments

What is the easiest way to delete my Facebook account?

Haven't used it in years yet I still get emails about posts, and because I don't use it, I don't want it to exist for other people's use. I just want to delete it with a minimum of fuss. If you've done this recently, do you have any tips?
posted by qsysopr at 3:56 AM PST - 7 comments

An office activity to mark the season of giving

No one at the office is particularly interested in doing a gift exchange this year because it seems frivolous. The part that feels good is the giving, but receiving a gag gift or candles, socks or wine doesn't do anything for us. Instead we'd like to give physical gifts to people in need and I am way overthinking the logistics. [more inside]
posted by shocks connery at 3:42 AM PST - 22 comments

Is this job offer formal enough for me to give notice?

I received an informal job offer for a job I'm really excited for. I've negotiated salary and a start date. Can I give notice at my current job without having the formal offer letter in hand? [more inside]
posted by stripesandplaid at 2:40 AM PST - 18 comments

Give me your fun and funny tap dances!

We are a dozen women of mixed beginner/intermediate skill in a weekly tap dance class. We want to develop a fun routine to do in the spring show, and we need inspiration! Video searches come up short. Help us make people laugh. [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 12:38 AM PST - 2 comments

November 1

What's it like to be an introvert?

Hyper-extrovert, adventuring parent here with a *gasp* introverted child. Want to not torment him too much, please share with me what it's like to be a book-worm, shy, introvert, mellow kind of person, as well as what it was like as a child. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:56 PM PST - 51 comments

Google Arts and Culture: Comparing Two Images

When I last used Google Arts and Culture, there was a way to compare two images on the same screen. I cannot see how to do that now, and all of the sources that say it's possible are old. [more inside]
posted by Francolin at 8:36 PM PST - 0 comments

Chevy / GM Commercial With Nickel Balanced On Engine 60s/70s

So, I'm watching the world series with my grandfather, we see car commercials and he tells me about being in a GM engine plant (where he worked for 40+ years) repairing a machine near a crew shooting a commercial where a nickel balanced on top of an engine doesn't fall over when the engine is started because IT'S JUST SUCH A SMOOTH HIGH QUALITY ENGINE. According to him, they had to shoot it about 1000 times. Anyway, anybody know how to find that commercial? I thought it'd be fun to watch with him.
posted by windowbr8r at 7:25 PM PST - 2 comments

Expired vehicle registration

I got cited for expired registration on my car (just plain forgot about it). I now have it registered. The court date is Friday. That officer said that if I show the judge that the vehicle is now registered, that the judge will probably drop the charge. If he doesn't ... I noticed that the citation lists the vehicle as a Subaru. It is not a Subaru, it is an Audi. Would it be worth mentioning this technicality to the judge?
posted by falsedmitri at 7:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there a relatively easy way to find nude art in the Met’s collection?

For a feminist art project, I’m hoping to find all (or at least a lot) the depictions of nude female bodies in the Metropolitan Museum of Art. (Since gender isn’t that simple: I’m looking for depictions of nude bodies of people who likely menstruated.) Is there an easy way to search their collection by content that might reveal these images?
posted by ocherdraco at 3:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Why so many scam call reporting websites?

Like many people, I'm getting increasingly frequent scam calls. Sometimes I'll search unfamiliar numbers online and will come across dozens of sites where they've been reported:,,,,, etc. What's the deal with these sites? They don't have any differentiating features. Are they their own scam?
posted by waninggibbon at 3:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Preparing for a possibly technical panel interview

I have an interview next week for a Lead Business Analyst position and the HR person said it would be three hours long - the first part with a panel and the second with the hiring manager. The job description is IT-heavy and is frankly a stretch, but when I spoke on the phone with the non-tech gatekeeper yesterday it sounded like something I could manage via filling in gaps in my knowledge. Now I have to convince a panel. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 3:22 PM PST - 7 comments

Can the landlord do this?

Landlord just gave notice they plan to raise our rent by $100 next month. We are also required to give 30 days' notice if we plan to move or we forfeit our deposit. Can they do this? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 3:21 PM PST - 17 comments

When worrying about losing a boner kills your boner...

After twelve years of wonderful monogamous sex exclusively with one other person, and never the faintest hint of any erectile or orgasm problems, my first and second attempts at intercourse with a different person have been so humiliating that I fear I now have a hangup that will make it forever impossible. [more inside]
posted by nikodym at 2:56 PM PST - 20 comments

Sticker design help

I am ordering some stickers for packages of toffee I make every year and the design-decision-making part of my brain has overloaded. I am using Moo and have a basic design I like, but could use some opinions on the text (color, font, justification). Some choices. [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 1:58 PM PST - 19 comments

Simple IRA: to keep or not to keep?

I have an old Vanguard Simple IRA account with less than $10k in it and I have not contributed to it in a long time. Should I cash it out? Should I roll it over into an active 401(k) account (it's not Vanguard)? Should I start contributing to it again on my own? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:43 PM PST - 7 comments

Need to convert Markdown to Wikitext

I've got a very long file in Markdown that I need to convert to Wikitext and I'm having trouble. [more inside]
posted by IndigoRain at 1:30 PM PST - 8 comments

What do you put in your quiche?

I love making and eating (crustless) quiche, but I'm in search of some new ingredient combinations. Give me some quiches to make! [more inside]
posted by Pope Guilty at 1:13 PM PST - 36 comments

Health insurance options not on the exchanges (for the self employed)?

Last couple years we've bought health insurance on the exchanges. We're already on the cheapest plan sold there. This year we are facing a big increase in premiums, big enough that we're considering dropping coverage altogether. We'd like to explore our options though. [more inside]
posted by mattu at 1:13 PM PST - 9 comments

Steam for Mac OS game recommendations

I've got a Steam credit and would like to use it to purchase a game for my 11" Macbook Air. I'm looking for something that can play nicely on that and doesn't require a lot of coordination (no first person shooters, etc.). Games I've really liked (some are boardgames but they give you an idea of what I'm after): Skyrim, Carcassonne, Discworld, Journey, Ticket to Ride, Splendor, Twilight Struggle, I Love Hue, Portal, Tetris, and anything wordy or puzzley. There is so much choice on Steam, even when filtering down to Mac OS, that I'm really lost and could use some recommendations please. Thanks!
posted by iamkimiam at 1:03 PM PST - 18 comments

What is going on in this video?

What is going on here? [more inside]
posted by drunkonthemoon at 12:42 PM PST - 5 comments

How to decline a job offer, edition 876

I have been offered a job under funky circumstances. I think I have to decline the offer, but I don't know exactly how to word it, and also -- I'm not 100% sure I ought to decline it. Please advise! [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 12:32 PM PST - 27 comments

NYC Plumber and A/C Repair Recommendations?

I'm looking for recommendations for both a plumber and someone who can do A/C repair in the NYC area. [more inside]
posted by Sangermaine at 11:49 AM PST - 1 comment

Book suggestions about the labor movement?

I've been on a reading spree* trying to understand the American origins and recent political consequences of libertarianism/free market fundamentalism, and much of the earlier history seems to involve a reaction to either the labor movement or the New Deal. I'd like some reading suggestions on either of those histories. [more inside]
posted by girl Mark at 11:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Toolkit Talk: Need to Fix Light Source for Photo Shoots

I'm currently in the middle of shooting a series of hands-on tutorials and have built a nice little camera set-up. This set-up is hands-free, gives me control over framing, and packs away quickly. But I also live in Scotland and by mid-day it is now too dark to take photos indoors (and too wet to go outside to set up). Talk to me about a good way of adding much-needed light to my photos. [more inside]
posted by kariebookish at 11:38 AM PST - 5 comments

Replace gas wall oven?

Who do I get to install a new gas wall oven where the current unit gas wall oven is beyond repair? Needed parts are no longer made and "universal" parts don't fit my oven. [more inside]
posted by donovangirl at 11:32 AM PST - 3 comments

Kid racked up $300 bucks in 6 days on iPad app

So, our kids have iPads. We have a house rule that they need to ask permission before buying anything. In fact, until recently they were UNABLE to make purchases without getting approval from one of us. Somehow was changed, and in the last week out daughter racked up $300 in charges on some stupid High School app. [more inside]
posted by leotrotsky at 11:15 AM PST - 18 comments

How can I merge two macOS Photos libraries?

I'd like to merge two macOS Photos libraries into one, with the ability to weed out duplicates during the process. [more inside]
posted by bassomatic at 10:54 AM PST - 5 comments

Vegan appetizers - the Costco edition

Months ago I volunteered to provide the food for our local shelter's art fundraiser. Normally I'd cook, and enjoy it. However, work and life has thrown some curveballs, and it's become clear I'm overextended. The event is from 4-7 on a Saturday afternoon, so I'd been thinking mostly heavy, savory bites. [more inside]
posted by korej at 9:39 AM PST - 13 comments

How to elicit troubleshooting discussion in marriage?

A small thing has exploded into a huge thing. I need help figuring this out please. [more inside]
posted by What a Joke at 9:31 AM PST - 24 comments

The unicorn of shoes: black leather slip-on, stylish, no heel

Non-heel-wearers of MeFi, help me find my shoe unicorn. The "stylish" and "no heel" part seem to be the most complicated. Sometimes durability is an issue too. Assume price is no object. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by danceswithlight at 9:13 AM PST - 9 comments

What worthwhile, beneficial sites can I find on the deep web?

The deep web is hundreds of times larger than the surface web. Something so enormous has to have some beneficial or interesting things, doesn't it? The dark web is only a teeny, tiny part of it, and I have no interest in anything that happens there. But I have a lot of interest in seeing what else there is on the deep web. What do you guys think?
posted by BadgerDoctor at 9:11 AM PST - 4 comments

I now pronounce you and your health care legally illegal.

I'm in a legal domestic partnership (Wisconsin) with my favorite and best, and thanks to Scott Walker all state employees' domestic partners, including me, will be losing health insurance coverage effective Jan. 01, 2018. Me and mine are considering our options, including getting a marriage license to retain current benefits, and we have a couple of questions to resolve before we do anything. [more inside]
posted by mcbeth at 8:46 AM PST - 8 comments

But Her Light Bulbs?!

Last night, our landlord called to make sure that we didn't have anything stored in the basement, because apparently the former first floor tenant that just moved out took a bunch of stuff that wasn't hers...including the light bulbs. What? Why on earth would someone take light bulbs from a common area when moving out of an apartment? [more inside]
posted by okayokayigive at 8:40 AM PST - 36 comments

Saving & highlighting online articles on an e-ink device

Elegant solution wanted for: 1. Saving articles to read later. 2. Reading them on an e-ink device. 3. Taking notes and highlights on articles and retrieving them easily later/automatically. [more inside]
posted by 0bvious at 8:40 AM PST - 1 comment

Gift Exchange Ideas for Large, Broke Family

White Elephant did not work out well for us last year. My family found the rules confusing and several people were disappointed with the results. Please help me find an alternative gift exchange tradition. [more inside]
posted by MuChao at 8:09 AM PST - 27 comments

Tool Identification, what is this thing?

My mother found it in my deceased step-father's stuff. Other than that, I have no context for what it is. It appears to be broken, I think it was symmetrical at one time.
posted by COD at 7:56 AM PST - 3 comments

Attention, all craft beer aficionados, where do you go for beer news?

Looking for the best in beer blogs, magazines, and ephemera. Help me stay on top of the news in my field! [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:32 AM PST - 17 comments

Looking for a white laboratory-style background to photograph components

I need to photo some electronic components. I would like to do this using a solid white background laboratory-style background, how do I go about this?
posted by jacobean at 6:00 AM PST - 7 comments

EWW proofreading

How do I overcome my distaste for checking my work? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 5:59 AM PST - 21 comments

How to get code from Github to "go"

So there's this Github-project Bookdrop - I would like to run it on my own. Could you walk me through the general steps I'd need to take to run this somewhere else - and where? I was thinking about an AWS- or so service - but how do I actually do this?? [more inside]
posted by mathiu at 2:44 AM PST - 11 comments

let's scrape this thing clean!

Please help me download ALL of the (dynamically loaded, javascript-served) images from this website. [more inside]
posted by wym at 12:22 AM PST - 20 comments