November 2015 Archives
Help! I have a scene from a movie (or possibly a TV show) stuck in my head, and I cannot remember from where it comes. A small country, whose primary export is stinky cheese, is at war with its neighbors. I'd thought it was The Mouse That Roared, but that's about wine, not cheese. [more inside]
I've had loose change move or disappear in the last few weeks, and some of the items on my desk have seemed to have been moved or shuffled through. I'm seeking recommendations for smaller webcams that I could use to monitor my personal space. [more inside]
I recently transitioned from classroom teaching to working at home - I miss kiddo time. I offered to babysit the neighbor's kids and now I'm running into a small issue. [more inside]
What are some resources to help parents deal with child-on-child sexual abuse? Trigger Warning: details of the incident inside. [more inside]
A lease says a sublet runs "From Sept 1 To December 31" -- and you moved in on Sept 1. Do you think it means you need to leave the apt. on December 31? Or is the idea that you are you allowed to keep the apartment for that day of the lease? [more inside]
From I guess what you could call an "aspiring" feminist to all else well-read on the matter: How do I become a "good" feminist? [more inside]
At the end of this article, the guy mentions "You want to achieve the Japanese state of mushido". My google-fu (and various search engines' insistence on "Did you mean Bushido?") is weak. Anyone have any pointers to this elusive-in-more-ways-than-one Mushido?
We're going to be in Winnipeg for a weekend soon. Most likely aiming to spend some time at the Museum for Human Rights, but otherwise … what's awesome in Winnipeg? Would we need to rent a car, or is the airport easy to get to from downtown hotels?
I can't see any laser pods for sale on eBay, or on any gadget websites. What happened ? How / where can I find ways to get one ? They were popular a few years ago!!!!
Please help me to get over my body image issues when it comes to sex with someone new. [more inside]
I can work from anywhere, and I'm considering a move to Indianapolis. I have a few good reasons for doing so, but I'm not sure if it's a place that I'd be happy as a single, introverted 30ish femme lesbian. If you're at all like me, please let me know what it's like to live there! [more inside]
I am 3 years into my career as an actuary. I was recently one of the final two candidates for a promotion at work. I ended up not getting the role and the feedback I received was that it was very close, but the other candidate was stronger for their leadership experience. So, my question is twofold. 1) Are there any books you can recommend that might help me improve my leadership abilities. 2) Given that opportunities to demonstrate my leadership abilities might be somewhat limited by the kinds of work my leader gives me, are there things I can be doing in and out of the workplace to improve my skills?
Burned by client. Go collection agency or lawsuit? [more inside]
I'm looking for games my young teen daughter and I can play together on our computers, probably through Steam, that have no killing, and are not too stressful. [more inside]
I got one of those $50 FireOS tablets, and it works okay... EXCEPT for Youtube videos. Sometimes it's okay, but most of the time it just hangs without playing a Youtube video. I assume this spotty performance is because it's not using an official Google-YouTube app? Anyone else have this problem? If I try to put Android on it, will YouTube actually work any better? (I don't want to brick this thing if it wouldn't help anyway.)
Looking for the most luxurious, pampering gifts... [more inside]
I got married recently. Now we're working through the Life Event Change processes of our respective companies. Here's the puzzler: If I'm reading this right, at my company, Medical is $90/month for myself, $300 for myself+spouse. At my wife's company, it's almost the same. This implies that it would be cheaper for both of us to be insured separately than together. What am I missing here?
Some close, older relatives make terrible financial decisions, and are unwilling to stop. My wife and I are liable to wind up financially responsible for them when the money runs out in a few years. How can we wash our hands of this situation (or can we)? [more inside]
I need a new pair of spectacles and I live in Richmond, VA. Where should I go? My preference is for black, heavy, Michael Stipe glasses. I had a pair a couple of years ago, but lost them. I would prefer to deal with a brick-and-mortar store. [more inside]
I'm researching how to easily offer recurring payments/subscriptions on services I provide (software support). Thought I'd just use PayPal, but dragons seem to be just below the surface. Help! [more inside]
I tried some free-sample of underarm deodorant and it had a freakishly strong scent that I just can't get out of two pieces of wool clothing I wore during the trial. I've tried Eucalan soak, regular wash with a natural, gentle detergent and I can still smell the stuff. I've read that dry-cleaning wool doesn't necessarily remove odors--any other suggestions would be appreciated.
For a board game I'm working on, I need a "definitive" list of teenage cliques that would have been present in a suburban American high school in 1989. This is mostly a "free-form, go nuts" question, but I have a few guidelines I'd like for you to keep in mind... [more inside]
Yinzers of Metafilter, I'll be visiting your city this weekend and need your help to have an even better time than I usually do there. [more inside]
What would be a good/interesting food- or cooking-related gift for someone who would be happy eating chicken literally every day? [more inside]
I just steamed mussels at home for the first time and was blown away by how easy it was. What are your favorite preparations for mussels? [more inside]
Is there any way to get a replacement motherboard for a Lenovo Y500 laptop? It's a relatively new computer. I'm surprised by what my repair guy is telling me. [more inside]
Help me come up with gift ideas for two lovely Scottish lasses that I can order online. They are 14 and 8, and I've not seen them in years and have no idea what they are interested in (I know...) or what's cool for girls their ages or what's cool in Scotland! [more inside]
Due to some unfortunate medical issues, I need to start taking smoothies with me to work for breakfast and lunch. Please help me with your best containers and good bag/lunch box recommendations for carrying two smoothies on public transportation! [more inside]
What are some truisms that you know of or have learnt through your personal experience when it comes to deciding whom to marry? What are some good rules of thumb to finding the right partner the first time around? [more inside]
I walk on asphalt most days for about a mile. I'm usually wearing sneakers/athletic shoes on these walks. The soles wear out in less than a year. Can I get a better walking shoe for less than $100? [more inside]
For a number of reasons, YouTube is overtaking streaming and other TV as the main way I consume moving images at the moment. My son watches a lot of Lets Play videos, and I enjoy them. But what else is there on YouTube.... for me? [more inside]
This seems to be changing somewhat these days. I see a lot of models these days that shut them off, but still every day I get messages from an admin at work telling people that their lights are on in the parking lot. This has been killing batteries for nearly a century now. Is there a good reason for what seems to be a design flaw?
I'm getting some heavy horizontal banding when I try to print a colour image using my Epson WF-3520 printer. I have checked the conventional sources of advice and tried cleaning the nozzles and aligning the print heads. But I'm still getting the banding! Can anyone advise? [more inside]
For colored girls who have considered temp work when the tech world is enuf: I'm looking for temp placement agencies in Los Angeles while I ride out this mid-career career change. [more inside]
I'm 23, currently living at home with my mum close to London. I've got a good degree but in a subject I'm no longer interested in pursuing. I've just been offered a QA job in Bristol which I originally applied for in September. They really liked me in the interview stage, but I was turned down because they found someone more experience. Today I received an email from them with a job offer, I'm really torn whether I should take the job or not because there's a lot of pros and cons. [more inside]
I would like to watch other people play video games reasonably well. Specifically I'd like recommendations of playthroughs for Bloodborne (the DLC especially) and X-COM (Enemy Unknown, Within, Long War). [more inside]
I am making Christmas crackers, and need some tiny cool gifts that are not nail clippers! Ideally under ten dollars each. These will be for adults! [more inside]
I'm auntie to a bunch of teens and tweens and am trying to build little gift kits for each kid this year. Some are inheriting "too small for me" nice cookware, some are getting solar-rechargable batteries for their phones, but I've got a couple of makers, too. [more inside]
I'm interested in a fuel efficient, reliable, modern, fun to drive car. Ideally >$22-25k. Doesn't need to be fancy. [more inside]
I have step brothers & sisters, whom I only see at Christmas every year. We aren't close but always exchange gifts anyway. [more inside]
I'm looking to put together an assortment of accessories for my dad's beloved cast iron pans as his Christmas present this year. I've already thought of one of those silicon heat-protecting handle covers and a bottle of flax seed oil (let me know if I should be going with another kind) for seasoning. What else should I include? [more inside]
I love bohemian style clothes. Always has, probably always will. I'm looking to find some new bohemian-style clothes online but it seems like all I can find are see-through scraps of fabric for waifish, dreamy-eyed, nymphets who work in the butterfly-chasing industry. Most of the stuff from Free People, for example, look like costumes to me. Please help dress a special snowflake. [more inside]
I have a good friend who recently immigrated to the United States from Albania. We are looking for the best first cell phone option while they are trying to settle down in their new country. [more inside]
I'm in charge of buying the boss's christmas gift this year. He is a huge fan of Star Wars (he came dressed to work as Luke on halloween complete with blonde wig), and I also know he's a fan of Optimus Prime. Budget is around $50. Looking for ideas! [more inside]
One of our cats is a habitual out-of-litterbox toilet user. Due to this issue, we've had to put him in the garage at night when we can't keep an eye on him. However, we recently purchased a new car and plan to begin putting it in the garage - but we're not sure how to keep that cat - plus possible one other - from urinating on the car. Can anyone think of some solutions? Right now all I can think of is a cover or tarp.
My little bro just bought his first place. What are some things you need as a new homeowner that he might not have as a former apartment dweller? Looking for housewarming/Christmas ideas. The more practical the better. [more inside]
Having stumbled across the utterly delightful It's A Holiday Soul Party, I'm on the lookout for any interesting Christmas/holiday music. I've searched past questions, but would love to hear from folks this year! Nothing is off limits - we love everything from traditional to Klezmer Nutcracker to Vince Guaraldi to the South Park Christmas record (don't you judge me). Thanks so much!
I'll be arriving in Berlin in the evening (earliest I'll be out of the airport is 9pm), with an early early morning flight the next day. Do I just get a hotel close to the airport and sleep? Or do I try to see a sliver of Berlin for the first (and maybe only) time ever that evening, somehow? Difficulty factor: grumpy old person who needs sleep. [more inside]
My period knocked me out for the third time this year. I need help coping with this, help preventing it if possible, and help looking for possible causes. (And how do I explain this at work?) Possible TMI. [more inside]
I can think of a handful of films that tried to recreate the Ghostbusters formula. Men in Black, R.I.P.D., Evolution, Howard the Duck, The Watch... What are some others?
I need help finding underwear that is comfortable for me. I am a man, about 260 pounds, and I only like briefs. Embarrassing details inside. [more inside]
I used to enjoy delicious when they had a very user friendly sidebar that would allow me to access my bookmarks and tags and let me open all the bookmarks in the tags at once. Seems those days are gone and I am looking for another option. Pinboard's only plug in for firefox seem to be one that only allows one to add a bookmark or tag a link. can I get a little hive love for some known options to my search for a solution? [more inside]
My husband and I are visiting my parents, who live in San Francisco, over the Christmas holidays. Something within a 2-3 hour drive, 2 day trip. We took them to Sonoma last time, which went down decently, but now that it's winter we're not as sure where to take them this time. Some restrictions below the fold: [more inside]
To use a credit, I'd like to set a price alert for multiple routes from a specific airport but ONLY for one airline - Korean air. How do I go about doing that?
Some, but not all, tables in a long Word document I am working on keep reverting to various utterly strange formats, with missing text, mis-sized cells, and new cells within cells. [more inside]
Where can I find more visual glossaries of international fashion subcultures, particularly the ones that are lesser-known or more specific? They'll have photos or video of the style, some background on what the style is about and where it's from, and some description of key elements. Some examples of what I'm after are Refinery29's Style out There playlist, this guide to Japanese fashion, and this list of men's fashion.
Help me find (or make) the perfect Christmas gift for my 3-year-old daughter: a collection of interesting scents. [more inside]
For the last few days I've been ill - mostly very sore throat (like waking up every couple of hours in the night to take pain killers). 2 nights ago I had a fever of >38c for about 8 hours. This morning my partner noticed our Galah has a wet (and possibly kinda bald) patch around 1 nostril. I suppose he could have been splashed drinking but I haven't seen him drink today [more inside]
Every year I have a small christmas party with friends. I like Christmas Crackers, but find the contents boring, so I generally produce a set of crackers which are a bit more interesting. Help me plan something for this year. [more inside]
I am a wimp who shies away from changing things about my appearance (even when I want to) because I get so self-conscious about comments I get from people. What are some good ways to respond and how do I work through this ridiculous hang-up? [more inside]
What are some fun things to do with kids in Portland? [more inside]
My family and I are taking a trip to Hong Kong and Taipei in a week. Where should we eat? [more inside]
Please recommend a trail / security camera setup to help capture various critters in our back yard, and which can double as a security camera. Details / requirements inside. [more inside]
It's that time of year when my family and I trade lists of things we could get for one another if we haven't already found something on our own. We usually just do a running email thread, and it devolves into sub threads excluding the person of interest, where all the other family members claim what they're getting or have gotten for the person who isn't on the cc:list. Until of course someone (Mom) replies on the wrong thread, and spills the beans. ;) [more inside]
My 80-year-old mother has been declining mentally in recent months. Recently she's been making some very poor decisions for herself, both financially and medically. I am her only child, I live with her, and I need to find some way(s) to get her to make better decisions, or to make them for her. [more inside]
I'm looking for a really large piece of art for my wall and there's a couple of works I'm eyeing on society6. Unfortunately, their largest canvas size isn't large enough for my liking. Their wall tapestries, however, are large enough. But! [more inside]
I am a tall (6'0) queer lady. I'm on the hunt for a versatile blazer/tuxedo jacket to wear to holiday work parties and events, but most things I've found have short arms/torsos. I've tried the usual suspects (Zara, Club Monaco, The Bay) but to no avail. I'm happy to invest some money in something that will last for years! [more inside]
I'm trying to find a short story i read years ago. The plot revolves around a man who accidentally comes into knowledge of a magical word, and any time you say it, the person listening to you instead hears the best possible thing you could have said in that moment. In the story (and the title of the short story too, i believe) this word is stylistically written as gibberish characters overlaid on top of one another, the result looks something like "RAETHBO". [more inside]
I'm having trouble finding a therapist who can accommodate my work hours. Is this a common problem? [more inside]
I would tentatively like to adopt an adult, housebroken dog, but could stand to hear some outside thoughts before taking the plunge. See below for lifestyle details. [more inside]
How mutually intelligible are sign languages of the same family? And how widespread is International Sign? [more inside]
I saw this bowl in a mac and cheese ad. I'd really like one, anyone ever seen one for sale? I tried image searching, no joy.
I am flying for the first time in close to eight years (I have purposely avoided it) very early tomorrow morning and can't stop freaking out. What are some mantras or soothing things you say to yourself right before take-off? I'm looking for something good to keep running through my head because I can't come up with anything on my own because I can't stop having awful thoughts. Not looking for pills or alcohol.
My family has just received approval to adopt this adorable little guy, and we are in the process of selecting a name. We have a tradition of giving dogs floral and botanical names. I am allowed to put two names on the ballot for the family to vote on, and I'm turning it over to y'all. [more inside]
I take my great dane everywhere except for the grocery store. I left her in the car for ten minutes tops, came back to a mean note citing animal abuse. What should I do? [more inside]
I'm a 40-ish married man. How do I stop being infatuated with a younger woman that I know very well? [more inside]
I'm trying to track down a Star Wars parody where Obi Wan and Luke are on Dagobah, and Obi Wan is explaining all the ridiculous backstory according to the prequels. [more inside]
Can you help me ID this smallish white naked bike? I thought it would be an easy find online or I would have taken a much better picture. I'm either not looking at the right bike, or it's got enough aftermarket parts to make it hard to ID. Thank you in advance!
Last night on a whim, I revisited This Is My Milwaukee, which in turn led to That Mitchell and Webb Look's Quiz Broadcast sketches, and now... I need more. [more inside]
Crate & Barrel used to sell a line of glassware called Granada - image. I am specifically looking for the highball (19oz) variety. Crate & Barrel has discontinued this line and I cannot find any on eBay. Where might I find ones that I can buy?
There's a method of sorting -- I've seen it on a website and in a shell script -- wherein you give it a list and the site or script shows you only two options from that list, making you choose between the two. [more inside]
Our just-dead entertainment system was a 1999 moderate-price set-up. We don’t need to understand why something is the best system; if it meets our needs (details coming right up) and it costs around $1500 we’d be delirious with joy. We're willing to buy an entirely new system, and/or happy to reuse the currently working bits. We're not audiophiles (we have mild hearing impairments). We'd like something that will still work in a decade. [more inside]
We have a contemporary door on 3 hinges, on which we plan to hang one of these. The cabinet unit weighs 40 pounds, empty. Question: Is this ok for the door, hinges, and the way the door hangs? Can doors sustain that sort of prolonged weight?
I am entering what I think could pan out to be my first real, actual relationship. It is so exciting and wonderful and also so scary. Please help me not fuck it up. [more inside]
I've had my Rancilio Silvia V3 for several years and have gotten to know its quirks (and my own home barista skill limitations) well. But I just moved, set it up in my new kitchen, and its current behavior is new to me! When I pull a shot, after a few seconds the stream gets very wide, light, and frothy, and I can hear loud frothing/bubbling/steaming when I turn off the flow. It's currently impossible to get a drinkable shot because of this. Any ideas? [more inside]
For xmas, we'd like to give a donation on another's behalf to an organization that helps with refugees fleeing that have brought their pets with them. [more inside]
After "Erase all Content and Settings", my Sprint iPhone now thinks it's a Verizon iPhone. WTF? [more inside]
It is my niece's very first Christmas this year, and I want to use her image and make personalized gifts for everyone: Mugs, Shirts, Calendars, phone cases, etc. I've used Walmart to make personalized mugs, but they were expensive and really annoying to order from (I'm ordering from Ontario, Canada). Can anyone recommend a reputable personalized-gift website that can take orders online? It would be great if they had a wide variety of items to personalize. Thanks in advance!!!
I'm looking for a computer version of the game Scrabble. It needs to run on Windows 10, and allow for offline play with a single human player against some number of computer players. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Ugh. I don't know why I'm having such a hard time making this decision. I'm being an over-protective dog mom and need some advice. [more inside]
A few weeks ago, I got an order confirmation from Verizon for a new account, but I'm not a customer. The order showed an old address of mine, so I called Verizon, and I was told that someone had used my social security number to place the order. The representative told me that the order was pending, and she could mark it as fraudulent and have it stopped. I then took a few extra steps (police report, checking credit, credit freeze) and thought that was all I could do for now. But I just learned from someone at my old address that I got a bill for the phone line, and paperwork showing everything went through. [more inside]
Everything is going great, until at some point my partner doesn't seem to be interested in me anymore. Physically. Everything is great, there is just no sex. [more inside]
We need to replace our 20 year old sofa and the Ikea Landskrona seems comfortable (we sat on it) and reasonably priced. If you have one, what's your review? [more inside]
One side of my neck/shoulder have been sore, off and on (increasingly, "on") for the past week or two. It's not getting better. [more inside]
My school's winter formal is coming up soon. I want to look fabulous, and since I already have the dress, that means one thing: good foundational undergarments. Given my description of the dress (and myself) below the cut, what kind(s) of shapewear should I buy? [more inside]
I'll be traveling to Kiev to meet new co-workers and for various meetings, and I was told to bring some small gifts to exchange. What should I bring? [more inside]
A Masters degree mistake, huge debt, and a brand new job. Major career questions inside! [more inside]
The apartment building I live in, in Brooklyn, NY, was just sold to a new owner. My lease, which expires in a year, was signed with the old management, and is a simple, non rent-regulated, rental. There was -$0- security deposit; I didn't pay one, and my lease reflects that. The new owner/management team placed letters under the doors in the building today, requesting a two month security deposit. [more inside]
I am in Central Florida, as is my aging mother. She currently lives independently, alone in her own apartment. Given the trajectory of her health, I don't believe it is safe for her to continue to do so. I know that she needs to go into an assisted living facility. I also know that she will be adamantly opposed to doing so. I know absolutely nothing about how any of this works, and would appreciate any and all advice. Extensive relevant details after the jump, since this is anonymous and I will not be able to answer any follow-up questions. [more inside]
My parents are throwing (and paying for) my husband and I to have religious/cultural wedding (bc they want to - we are already married). About 45% of the invitees are from my parents side, 40% from his parents side, and 15% our friends. I invited several people from college who I'm still very close with. My parents are friendly with another parents of someone in my college group who is a total mess - and invited them (and the kid, who is a mess) to the wedding. Can I uninvite the kid? [more inside]
I just upgraded to Windows 10 from 7 after being nagged enough by it to finally take the time to schedule an update. What are some of the good, new features in it that I should be aware of/take advantage of? Any apps that I should bother to download?
My parents are staying with me for approximately six weeks while my dad undergoes treatment for cancer. We don't always get along especially well, and he's starting to feel a little bit bored/stir-crazy. We're looking for activities/entertainment we can enjoy as a family, especially movies and TV shows that tick all the right boxes. [more inside]
I am trying to remember a series of books I read as a child, as I want to buy some of them for my niece. Can anyone help me find this supernatural, colonial themed book series? [more inside]
I'm short on resources this year, so instead of gifts for the holiday, I'm trying to come up with a list of unexpected/fun/silly/special/uncommon experiences-- which I will then attach a small gift card to with instructions to use it on something from the list. However, I need help coming up with more than the handful I've thought up... (MA locals are especially encouraged to respond.) [more inside]
Hi- I'm trying to figure out how to change up my exercise routine and diet to work on fat loss, as opposed to an emphasis on building strength. Details inside. [more inside]
What countries/empires -- current or historical -- cross entire mountain ranges and successfully control the territory on either side of them? Such as the United States and Canada and the Roman Empire. Countries with borders in the mountains, like Italy in the Alps, do not count, nor do countries IN a mountain range, like Switzerland. Also interested in WHY some countries manage it and others don't. [more inside]
I'm adding this telegram from everyone's favorite Aunt Dorothy to an essay. I want to add citation of course. It's been a very long time since I've done this. I cannot find an original source for it and they all seem to link back to this post. Is it ok to link back to the Letters of Note post in my paper? It feels like I should be crediting Dorothy herself or something. This is the only item in the essay that needs citation. [more inside]
Individual spices vs blends; ground spices in lieu of curry paste [more inside]
This might at first seem like a dumb question, because we take it as a given that people should believe other people. But when you ask a stranger a question, and they give you answer, you believe it - why? Or similarly, why do people believe their parents, religious figures, professors, etc.? [more inside]
Me and one girlfriend have a layover at Pu Dong airport (yuck yuck yuck) from 7:00 PM to 10:30 AM. We're wondering what to do, and whether it's safe to roam around Shanghai all night. [more inside]
I would like to hang holiday lights outdoors on a stucco exterior using magnets and hooks. Advice? [more inside]
This is my first go-round making kefir. I opted for organic, whole milk; however I see that it's ultra pasteurized. What is the difference between ultra-pasteurized and pasteurized? Did I just kill my kefir grains? I don't have access to raw milk, unfortunately. [more inside]
I'm interested in looking more attractive for myself and my partner. In particular, I'd like to improve definition and increase size of my arms, chest and abs. What specific exercises and dietary changes will best achieve this? [more inside]
A pretty hard drop on a pretty hard floor has done damage to an iPad screen. Does the damage seem like something fixable by a layperson, such as myself? [more inside]
Because of the nature of our wedding venue, I will be going solo on my wedding hair and makeup. Fortunately, I have loads of time to practice. Unfortunately, given my current skill and knowledge level, an eternity may not afford enough practice time to get me where I need to be. What are the best resources for the absolute beginner to learn techniques and how-tos for wedding hair and makeup? [more inside]
Hi, mefi! I am looking for a song (ideally a recording that I can listen to) called "Run Run Run". It was in an elementary school music textbook in the mid-eighties, but I have currently found only one mention of it on The Web, on this page. [more inside]
I'm trying to compute all the variations of my family last names in hoping of finding more leads to my family tree. [more inside]
The PC, DVD changer, HDTV, receiver and 5.1 speakers, theoretically, were properly set up. They're not working, and other configurations aren't working! How can I get them working together? [more inside]
I have too many tangerines, and I'm hoping to convert them into a tasty dessert for my dinner party tonight. I've got most other dessert basics (flour, sugar, eggs, butter, etc) on hand, but I'm doing a grocery run anyway. What will wow my guests? Skill level: Martha Stewart and Bree Van De Camp's lovechild.
Some years back, I read a funny story online - it was a parody of Ayelet Waldman's writing style. I don't remember if it actually mentioned Waldman or her husband by name. [more inside]
I'm really hoping I'm just worrying for nothing. We have a ten month old baby girl. She is a very heavy baby. Compared to her little playmates, she doesn't seem anywhere near as developed. [more inside]
My kid has a SSN, but I don't know what it is. How can I look it up on short notice? [more inside]
My ex- and I have struggled to coparent cooperatively. We share joint physical/legal custody, and it's been very high conflict. When we divorced a year ago, we wrote our custody agreement hastily and agreed to a schedule that we both feel is not ideal for our 6 year old son - too many transitions and it's confusing/unpredictable for such a young child. We've known for some time that our custody agreement needs to be redone for that reason alone. Since the custody agreement was signed, even more circumstances arose that signaled the need for a farther-reaching parenting plan to replace the custody agreement; we need one that states a mutual commitment to shielding our son from conflict and reduces ambiguity around resolving disagreements, holidays, schoolwork, significant others and parenting a child with ADHD/SPD. [more inside]
This evening, as I was making my way home, I looked up through my glasses and noticed that the Moon was not round, but oval in shape. However, when I squinted (which brings things into focus), the Moon became round. Now I don't know if my eyes have gotten much worse in the last two years, or if the prescription I was given was wrong. [more inside]
My Girl Scout troop disbanded this year, so I'm looking for something to fill my volunteer time. The past few weeks have strongly steered me towards advancing the principles of peace and tolerance. So what do I do? [more inside]
For the past several years I've been working on my family tree on Ancestry, which has been great. Lots of work has already been done on a number of branches, so there's lots of information. However, I've hit a few genuine dead ends and have run out of ideas of where to look and what to look for. Would hiring a professional researcher help? [more inside]
Possums are living in my attic, in California. I've found their entry, about 12x6 inches, and want to block it, but really don't want to trap any possums inside. [more inside]
I have had the Lenovo Thinkpad X201 for over 4 years and now it is dying :(. Hoping to get a replacement-ideas and Black Friday deals would be great. [more inside]
Lunch has become my most hated meal and I've started to avoid it. How can I enjoy lunch? How can I make a decent lunch for myself? As a kid I got out of packing a lunch by going home for lunch. As an adult I used to go out for lunch, when I worked close to restaurants. However, now I work too far from decent restaurants, so I really need to start bringing my own lunch at work. [more inside]
Where do I buy country ham on the internet? What type of country ham am I looking for? I've been watching Mind of a Chef on Netflix, and they show this dry aged ham that hangs out in the open air, and then the chef slices it ever, so, thinly, yumm, and you don't need to cook it further. You just eat it with breakfast. (Kind of like prosciutto?) [more inside]
I'm considering buying a swegway for my nine year old for Christmas. I'm a bit confused about what vendor to buy from and not get ripped off. In fact, I'm not certain which websites are official distributors or even if I can buy from "them" directly. For those in the know, I'd appreciate some advice getting what I clearly know nothing about.
Which is the better approach, buying an all in one electronic repair kit set or just compile one from various vendors? [more inside]
What was the name of movie set in early eighties about a bully and old black man in project building. The bully antagonizes all of the elderly residents. At the final boss scene, the old black man - the protagonist - creates some locking arm braces. He fights the bully and defeats him with a bear hug and locks the braces together. Then the cops come. And this kid about 8 years old started banging his forearms together like the old bully used to do. It was an afterschool special type thing.
Yes, I know it’s always nice to go as a gesture of support, but how important is it really, in this scenario? [more inside]
I know that this question has been asked a gajillion times, but I'm super-anxious right now, am not sure why, and could use some help. I have my fair share of life stressors going on, but I'm usually able to deal; since yesterday, however, it's like my mind decided to flick an internal switch and proclaim "you are hereby anxious!" What can I do in the next few hours so that this anxiety doesn't keep me up tonight? Keeping it at bay tomorrow as well would be a big plus. [more inside]
Twice now, my copy of the New Yorker has had two pages of the center signature way out of place (though no pages are missing). I would like to know why/how this happened (I think it's safe to say I'd remember if it had happened before, and I've been a regular subscriber for many years) and if anyone else has had the same problem (I assume it's not just me, but it's probably not a widespread thing because googling turns up nothing.) [more inside]
My family is having a Thai-themed second Thanksgiving meal tomorrow. We have people with a lot of dietary restrictions so we are trying to make tasty sauces that everyone can eat, which can be put on meat/veggies/tofu as needed. We have a good red curry and peanut sauce but other sauce recipe suggestions would be great. Should be vegan. Thank you!
Can you think of any examples of pieces of writing that open with a . . . temporal bait-and-switch? [more inside]
Are lovers' quarrels classifiable as abuse? [more inside]
The servers won't fit in the carry-on space. Help me find a Lappy that can? [more inside]
I have a collection of 50-100 images. I want to display them on a very basic webpage in which two random images are displayed side by side each time the page is loaded. Is there any free (or paid, I guess) website builder that could do this very easily? Or, do you have a suggestion for some very basic way for me to build it myself? I have little to no programming skill but used to muddle through some html back in the day.
I've got a friend's kid who's into computer gaming. Should he get a RaspPi, and if so what kind? [more inside]
My mother has been getting calls from some organization calling themselves nothing other than "CCA" claiming to want to talk to me about a "personal matter". Some preliminary googling reveals a few credit collection agencies by that name. I can't think of any outstanding debts that I would have, and last time I checked my credit report (about a month ago), there were no derogatory remarks. On the other hand, my old insurance company had a data breach, so if someone is running around stealing my identity, I would really like to know! [more inside]
Research on voice recognition software as a translation tool: is there any? [more inside]
You have a new cell phone (and contract) and you are totally in love for six months or a year. You receive the scheduled system upgrade (!) and everything is peachy. Until one day, YouTube decides it doesn't work on your phone anymore. [more inside]
How do you respond to someone who says that science is a matter of opinion and not fact-based? And who also believes that it's a matter of opinion whether science is fact or opinion? [more inside]
My 90-year-old aunt was just admitted to a nursing home, and they aren't set up to have landlines in individual rooms. For patients to have phones in their rooms, relatives need to provide cell phones. My aunt has some dementia. She still enjoys talking on the phone (and most of us live hundreds of miles away, so it's important), but she really is incapable of learning anything new. When I talk to her, she often won't remember something I said just five minutes before. More below. [more inside]
I am looking for suggestions for an appropriate winter gift for a currently 6-month old baby who lives in South Dakota. [more inside]
I've never been very good at outlining or planning academic papers. My method of attack has consisted of sitting down at my laptop and hammering out prose, then going back and editing draft after draft until I come up with something I like. This method served me just fine in most of my humanities and social science courses in college, but I have a much harder time approaching philosophy essays in this unstructured way. Does anyone have any particular tips or methods that have helped them plan and write academic philosophy essays?
My fiancee is wonderful, everyone is excited for us, and I think I'm miserable. Please help me figure out what is going on with me, and/or tell me I need to get professional help. [more inside]
The Mister and I are having our first consultation with a fertility specialist next week. What should we expect to have to talk about or do? [more inside]
Are there any good alternatives to the Amazon Fire phone and its custom Android OS? [more inside]
'Tis the season for chocolate letters! Complication: my mom and my sister are allergic to chocolate. I want to make tasty Non-Chocolate Letters for them. What are my options? Open to ideas that involve baking, candy making, and more. CAROB HAS BEEN VETOED. [more inside]
I want a small laptop that I can use to watch netflix and videos, and play steam games on. I often hook it up to my projector, so it needs an HDMI output. I am also curious about possibly getting one with a touchscreen to I can draw and make art in bed. Lots more details inside. [more inside]
My brother has been out of touch with the family for like six months, not returning calls or emails or picking up his physical mail. But, his cell phone and work phone worked, so we were worried but not panicked. Yesterday I left him a voice mail at work that basically said if you don't call soon, I'm coming to Boston. Today, his cell was disconnected. Maybe the two events are connected, maybe not, but I'm freaked out. I don't have any friends in Boston. [more inside]
Teachers who have taught at schools in poor areas and in well to do areas, can you please tell me what difference parent involvement at the school makes. Not talking about what happens at home between parent and child, but rather trying to gauge the impact parents who volunteer at the school have. [more inside]
I want to take a long break from dating to get to know myself better. The thing is, I don't have any in person friends and am very lonely. I mostly just hang out with my Mom. How do I keep myself from dating again just to fill the loneliness? [more inside]
This is a quickie. I am working on an audio piece about Salvation Army bell ringers and I make reference to "It's a Wonderful Life." I know there is a bell at the end when Clarence the Angel gets his wings. But is there a bell ringer on the streets of Bedford Falls (or Pottersville) elsewhere in the move?
I use my blu ray player to connect to Netflix and hulu and this is primarily the way I watch TV. What blu ray player will connect to a secure network..... [more inside]
Asking for my sister.
I'm trying to create a LARP event (18th century) and I'm looking for character names that imply various stereotypes, like the town gossip or the crazy recluse.She is not looking for made up names, but is looking for names that allow you to know what character they are. Some of the other characters she's mentioned to me are: suspicious character, herbal healer, healers apprentice (female), but please don't limit yourself to these characters alone.
I subscribe to the NY Times and use their app on my ios 9 device. Lately they've had a randoml auto-playing ad with video and sound either when I open the app or when it refreshes. I work in an environment where I can use a phone to read the news but absolutely cannot suddenly have sound blaring. Will the new ad blocking apps block in-app ads in the Times app? I know I can block in Safari but I use the app to also read the paper on the subway. [more inside]
I am dabbling with the idea of using rendered duck fat on my turkey... [more inside]
I had a detached retina on October 30 and then surgery on Halloween. The doctor put a gas bubble in my eye and said I had to be positioned face down all the time so the bubble would float up and hold my retina in place. Do you know what the percentage of gas remaining needs to be so you can stop with the positioning? [more inside]
I have a long layover in SFO next week just before a very long trans-Pacific flight. Of the time I have there, I have about 5 hours total I can spend in the city (after transport each way). I have two goals: tire out my 1-year-old, and meet up with some friends for drinks and snacks. Can you help me plan where to go for these? [more inside]
I want to buy some board games for my parents to keep at their house, to play by themselves or with their adult kids or young grandkids, but I don't know anything about new games that might be out, and would love some recommendations. Specifics within. [more inside]
We are buying a MacBook Air for our A+++ student. Is there anything to know besides the $100 student discount? Are there ever any sales prices tied to holiday buying? Is the AppleCare Protection plan worth it? [more inside]
I need to cook a Field Roast Hazelnut Cranberry Roast En Croute, a whole turkey breast and a couple turkey legs in the same oven, to come out at the same time. They need different temperatures. How do I make it work? [more inside]
I am willing to buy online or in a brick and mortar store, I just want a low to mid end laptop for as cheap as possible (Under $300?) I wanna watch netflix and check my e-mails on it. How do I go about finding a very good deal laptop on black friday? I'm in Columbus Ohio. Thanks
I can't seem to attach a virtual hard disk I created if I move it from its original directory unless it's attached as "read-only". Is this typical? [more inside]
Does anyone know if there are online forums that might be geared towards prediction along the same lines as the Good Judgement Project ? [more inside]
My best friend is sick at home in Denver today and unable to go her thanksgiving dinner. It's her very favorite holiday, and she'd normally be with us in Oregon, so we feel horrible for her! She joked that she wished we could fed ex her some soup, so we want to make that happen. Best delivery option for great soup, open today? She's on W 9th, by the hospital. Thanks!
Looking for a dictionary: 1. As many words (esp. scholarly) as possible. 2. As new as possible 3. Don't need etymologies 4. Don't need thesaurus. Ideas?
A few years ago we adopted an older dog. She's now an elderly dog. She has a kidney condition that makes her drink massive amounts of water, and she goes through periods where she'll pee in the house. [more inside]
Are there any video cameras (action cam, body cam, goggle cam, etc) that can be set to always capture video (storing the last X minutes to a temporary buffer), but only record/save the best moments when you tell it to? [more inside]
My boyfriend has had problems maintaining an erection and reaching orgasm for the 7 months we've been together. I love him a lot and know that this hurts him, probably far more than he is letting on. This isn't about me - I would just love some advice from people that have either been in my or his situation about things that have helped them to feel like they aren't a failure or less masculine because of it. [more inside]
So, I want to get back into regular running after a gap of a couple years. But I have mild atrial fibrillation, which means I'm pretty intolerant of high-intensity exercise and can't push myself hard while building up fitness. Help me find a training app that will let me go at my own pace. [more inside]
I'm planning to go to the Storm King Art Center (in New Windsor, NY) on Friday. I'd like to eat something delicious for lunch while I'm there or before I go. I can bring it from Manhattan (or anyplace in the city, I guess), but I would have to buy it the day before on Thanksgiving. Or, I could eat near the museum or near my hotel in Monroe. [more inside]
As a Colorado resident, what legal/custodial consequences may I face after brief, light usage of marijuana for management of extreme pain from approximately 20-21 weeks gestation? Please be honest but gentle if you can... [more inside]
Long story...be patient Before I even start explaining this situation, I am going to admit that business between family members is always a disaster in the making. I was left out of the decision making on all of the below described situation and only heard bits and pieces of what really happened until it got to the point where I had to get actively involved. This has to do with a grandchild cheating his grandmother out of a large sum of money and getting away with it legally. Read on [more inside]
The other day my partner did something and I am in still in shock. I can't think rationally about how to approach it and I am struggling with how to process it. [more inside]
A friend has something like 13000 swiss francs in PostFinance in Switzerland and wants to transfer this money to a bank in India where he now lives without losing any of it. What would you recommend? He will be near Switzerland soon and if required can withdraw and it all and bring cash back, but perhaps there is an easier way that will not mean losing money?
It’s Thanksgiving, and that means drama and tension. It also means that I don’t get much alone time to vent said drama and tension. What is some good music that I can listen to in between ten minutes (time for stage setting) and an hour (private time before sleep) that will cathartically purge all of my tension? Could be sad, could be relaxing, could be angry, but after hearing it I want to feel completely wrung out and serene. Thanks!
On Friday, Dec. 4, The Gits are reuniting for a show. I go way back with their drummer, and he has pointed out to me that they really do not have anything set up by way of media, like perhaps a live stream. Who here has suggestions on how to fix this, and fast? This is really kind of a special event, if you know who the Gits were, you would perforce agree
I have been looking for some time online to try and find children's books in Russian that are "progressive" with no luck. [more inside]
Do you knit? Did you have absolutely no experience with knitting before you started? Do you remember how you learned? Knitters of MeFi, please share your wisdom! [more inside]
Basically, I need a step-by-step explanation/tutorial on how to play audio files on my phone (not stream; play from memory). Android. [more inside]
I am looking for book suggestions for my partner. He enjoys the historical and comical nature of Rabelais and Casanova's memoir. He also enjoys the style/ambition of Vladimir Nabokov. [more inside]
When I was very young I would check a picture book out from the library; very vivid memory and can't for the life of me find it! Probably published in the '70s, it was at my public library in California in the mid-'80s. Details inside... [more inside]
How do I handle my poor cat's diarrhea? Specifically, how do I clean up the poor guy? [more inside]
A person is asked to select five other people from among a larger group of, say, 90 people with whom they would particularly like to work. Each of the other 89 people does the same thing. An overseer is charged with forming three groups of 30 people each (give or take one or two people, if that makes it easier) that best accommodates the most preferences. What algorithm would the overseer use? [more inside]
Hi all! I am a start-up founder and engineer, and am looking for some ideas to build/make something for my awesome and hardworking engineer employees for the holidays. My google-fu fails to find what I need. [more inside]
I am looking for songs about temptation, particularly those that wrestle with the question of how to do right by all parties involved. [more inside]
Caller ID on landlines typically shows the name of the person or business calling. Caller ID on cell phones only shows the name if you have it in your cell phone contact list. Otherwise it just shows the number. Why the difference? [more inside]
My PC is getting old. Help me decide on a cost-effective upgrade that will improve my gaming experience. [more inside]
I'm moving to Denver in a few months, and am looking for a two-bedroom apartment near light rail. I would love any tips on the Denver rental market. [more inside]
I remember a few years back playing a game about trying to cure stuffed animals with emotional problems. It was really sweet and delightful. I remember there being a hippo pencil case and a stuffed snake. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
My new beau is an awesome cook. Yay! So am I. Yay! He's pescetarian, I'm a meat-loving, fish-hating former vegetarian. Carb-heavy meals make me fat and, frankly, are probably making him fat, too. So ... what sort of meals can we make together/for one another? [more inside]
My wife and I are buying a house and our possession date is on December 4. My brother is my lawyer who will close the deal on the house. We're driving up from Regina to Saskatoon this weekend. This is our first house. He sometimes thinks he's given clear instructions when he hasn't and he'll end up blaming us for not reading his mind. My brother said I need to bring my cheque book, but he wasn't willing to answer why he needs the cheques. My wife and I are assuming that they're for both processing fees and for the down payment. If they are for a down payment too, should my wife and I move our money from our non-chequing accounts to our chequing accounts? Or will my brother only need void cheques, so that he can then obtain from funds directly from all my accounts at a later date (my tax free savings account and my chequing account, my wife's separate accounts)? Will it also be fine to have two cheques for the down payment (one from my wife and one from I)?
I have a staff of 25 and I'm looking for a holiday gift that will give everyone a little lift every day they are at the office. In the past, my go-to gift was gift cards, but they seem so impersonal and forgettable. Some ideas that come to mind are: - new Keurigs and stock an assortment of coffees, teas, and ciders - snack cabinet and stock it with snacks and drinks - personalized stationery [more inside]
I would have to break a small teaching contract to take a much more stable and lucrative admin job I interviewed for at the same university. I haven't told my current supervisor that I'm looking for other work, but the application form required me to put them down as a reference. What should I do if HR gives me the heads-up that they are going to call my references? [more inside]
I used to walk in heels, run in heels, practically sleep in heels, and its finally caught up to me. Help? [more inside]
Picked up a preserved fruit called "honey wompee" at the Asian market. It smells exactly like something. Help me figure out what that something is. [more inside]
What to do if I don't have a lot of work exp/references during the job search? [more inside]
My husband closed up the flue to our wood burning fire this morning and then left for work.... the fire wasn't completely out and the whole house got engulfed in smoke. Luckily, we have excellent neighbours and everything is absolutely fine... but I'm feeling frustrations and would like some help as to how to not lose my sh*t when I get home tonight! [more inside]
I'd like to send the same email to a group of about 40 people, but instead of sending it BCC with me in the "to" field, I'd really like to send it individually to each person. Is there a way to automate this? [more inside]
Hi everyone, I've found a few posts about brain fog, but more about being diagnosed, rather than coping with it. I am taking steps to cure it, but need to be functional till I sort it out. What can I try? [more inside]
This question is moderately gross (not for those averse to eye related things [I know y'all are out there!]): [more inside]
Time for me to upgrade from the combination of a Canon point-and-shoot, and the camera on my phone. What camera is a good next step for an aspiring photographer? [more inside]
So, grandpa can't make it here for Thanksgiving this year - he's in hospice care. Last minute we've decided to take Thanksgiving to him. Does anyone have suggestions for how to take the meal mobile? [more inside]
Can I have a book recommendation about Attila that you have read?
I want to buy my mother an mp3 player for Christmas, to use while she's running or walking on the track. I always just use my phone so I have no idea what's out there! I would also need some kind of arm band or something so she can wear it comfortably. [more inside]
At the bottom of this blog post is a sign that says "If you ate today, THANK A FARMER." Can you name the font, please? [more inside]
A friend is trying to remember the name of the font she used in her logo. Do any of you recognize it? I tried Identifont and WhatTheFont but had no luck. [more inside]
I'm looking for a reliable photo printer for infrequent, spontaneous use. [more inside]
I'm a pharmacy student pursuing post-grad training. How do I write a strong letter of intent to convince program directors that I'm the best person for the position? [more inside]
I had a freelance pitch accepted from a major national outlet. For various reasons, the editor didn't like it after I wrote it. Now what? [more inside]
Any Mefite Otaku who live in Japan: have you seen the Girls und Panzer movie that hit the theaters last Saturday? Care to answer some questions about it? [more inside]
I've recently learned that my cat is severely allergic to fleas, which means he can spend hours and hours grooming. I put Revolution on him monthly, but it's not enough. There are way too many other factors here, and I listed them in all their glory after the jump. [more inside]
In my quest for instant gratification, I lose patience with the fact that projects, goals, and behavioral changes often take a long time and require boring, repetitive actions. Positive change can seem imperceptible in the moment. [more inside]
I have a chronic inner ear fungal infection which was diagnosed 10 years ago and have a couple questions about diet. [more inside]
I fell in love with some hotel china while in Italy made by Schönhuber Franchi. Since coming back to the U.S. I've emailed their contact form (no response) and called them on the phone (language barrier - they couldn't understand my very poor italian) but their website suggests they primarily sell to restaurants. I'm at a loss: how can I manage to purchase a set of this china?
Recently at a friend's house we played Betrayal at House on the Hill and my husband really liked it a lot. He enjoyed the cooperative element, the suspense about what the Haunt would be and who would be the traitor, and the flip from one style of gameplay to another halfway through. He especially liked the procedural storytelling aspect, as he is a big RPG fan. I am thinking of giving him this game for Christmas, but I'd rather find something similar that works better with two players. [more inside]
Am I missing a non-racist current political or cultural South African nuance in this internet thingy? An acquaintance "shared" an, uh, thing, on Facebook and I'm not sure I understand the nuance, if any (i.e. is this just a "haha Black people aren't taken seriously" or is this a legitimate political commentary on the ANC, e.g. corruption or whatever else I'm ignorant of?). [more inside]
Long story short, a guy I met online sent me a text saying that he was in love with me, after our first date. I talked to him about it and he seemed to understand that it was too much too soon and it made me uncomfortable. It kept happening (he was texting, emailing, calling, talking about how much he missed me and about "us"), all within a month. During that time, he gave me a beautiful piece of art. About a week later, I broke it off. Now he's calling me asking for the piece of art back and asking what went wrong. [more inside]
I have.."unwanted thoughts syndrome", or something and it seems to come up mainly when I am trying to relax or meditate. I am trying to understand why. [more inside]
For those who have been cheated on: how did you deal with the heartbreak? For those who have cheated: how did you deal with the guilt? Would like to hear from those who were in very long-term relationships (10+ years) and whose relationships did not survive. [more inside]
I attended a nephew's basketball game at the end of last season. It was an age 10-12 league. My nephew's team was the losing one. I was upset by the final score and the tactics the opposing team used. I am hoping mefites more knowledgeable about Basketball can weigh in and tell me whether this was as outrageous as I feel it was or explain whether I am missing some part of Basketball. [more inside]
I'm moving into a new position at work that requires me to do away with t-shirts and jeans, and become a little more business-y. I don't have to wear a suit and tie thankfully so it'll likely be collared shirts/slacks. Any tips for the transition? [more inside]
How much is a reasonable amount to pay for pet sitting nowadays? My particulars inside. [more inside]
Do you have any practical tips for dealing with a '60s-era electric oven with temperature regulation problems? [more inside]
I believe the cover had an illustration of a kid on a tricycle. And it was an independent breakout, double CD, by a guy who I believe was a carpenter or machine worker. It was singer/songwriter or alt.country style. It’s haunting me that I can’t remember.
I am looking for a Wordpress plugin (or service?) which will allow me to send a tweet and display it at the top of the page, with some caveats. [more inside]
I have a subscription to a couple of monthly beauty sample boxes (Birchbox for example). Most of the stuff I use, but I am rapidly gaining a surplus of some things I'll never be able to use up. What can I do with this excess beauty supply inventory? [more inside]
First of all: I don't think this is a capital-p Problem with alcohol. I just like it--specifically wine--a lot, and I have some vague sense that I should cut down or stop. Much of this has to do with the fact that my partner is a recovering alcoholic and doesn't drink at all, so I have some guilt with my dinnertime glass even as he says he doesn't mind. I know, intellectually, that alcohol is bad, mmkay, but that knowledge does nothing for my decision-making. [more inside]
Looking for a responsive wordpress theme that's quick loading, doesn't have a lot of bloat, and lets me use my own plugins (SEO, etc.). I used to work in the biz; that plus my current field and sometimes slightly particular aesthetics make a certain amount of customization inevitable. There's so much out there to weed through and many reviews/compilations aren't all that helpful.
I live in California but will be spending all of December in a small city in Tennessee. I need a car to get around the city and perhaps do one longer drive to Atlanta and back. I won't have a car available to borrow there. What kind of options would I have for transportation? [more inside]
On TV's Hannibal, how would you characterize the exterior of Hannibal's house? Architecture-wise, but also history-wise? A UK friend would like to describe/discuss it in her fanfic, but is unfamiliar with US architecture/history. Images inside!: [more inside]
Can you point me in the direction of some good butternut squash recipes that would work as the main dish at a small vegetarian Thanksgiving? [more inside]
Need to get a full size hard shell cello case for a nice cello without busting our $300-to-$500 budget, and could use some recommendations. [more inside]
For my office, and for a Thursday food-related gathering, I would like to make one of my go-to quick bread recipes (almond poppyseed bread) but using one or several of these flours: almond; chickpea; lentil; and/or spelt. Is there a web site or flour translator that would help me re-work the recipe successfully? [more inside]
Hi Hive Mind I would like to create a work plan and a logic model for a project, and I am looking for resources/templates for a Work Plan/ Project Plan/ Work Breakdown Structure as well as a Logic Model. I am looking for something that is clean, easy and simple. I would prefer a Word doc over Excel. Would you have any templates that you have found useful in the past? I found this example, which I attached, and have been trying to tweak. Metahives do you have anything? Thanks!
I'm looking for songs where the singer vocalizes part of the instruments in the song. [more inside]
I'm looking for maximum one-on-one coaching from an accomplished writer and teacher. It must be online. Expense is no object.
I need a SIMPLE ios App to maintain a waiting list of patients wanting to be seen in my (low-tech) psychotherapy solo practice. [more inside]
I've always been very frugal and very unwilling to spend money. I recently lost 30 pounds and I'm in desperate need of new clothes, but I'm feeling tons of resistance to actually spending money. [more inside]
It's been a while since this question has been asked (I think, unless my archive searching skills aren't so good), so here we are again: looking for recommendations for the best auto cat feeder out there. Parameters inside. [more inside]
Due to a newly diagnosed medical condition I have been given a list of food restrictions that has slashed the kinds of food I can eat by...a lot. I'm out of ideas, help! [more inside]
Hi there, I think I have messed up with booking some holiday tickets for my family and would really appreciate some help asap!!! [more inside]
A service that I frequently use screwed up, and when I sent a note to customer service about it, they offered a pretty cheap coupon and not much explanation for what happened. I don't feel like justice has been served here, is there a way to push for more? [more inside]
I'm applying to a (private) college as a transfer student and am absolutely -stuck- on the personal statement. The prompt has a handful of questions and topics to write about. Do I address them all? Pick one and go with it? [more inside]
I heard a speaker say that if members of a religious congregation have at least two friends in the group--close enough that they feel comfortable socializing within each other's homes--the odds of them leaving the congregation are really small. I can't locate this research and am not sure about which key terms to use. [more inside]
What could be done to improve the international system of human rights with regard to protecting and furthering the rights of children and youth? What challenges currently exist with the capacity of international institutions that protect childhood rights? [more inside]
I am living in a long distance relationship and have encountered an issue I do not know how to cope with. I hope you can help me. [more inside]
One of my students brought a small statue to class. She says her family found it while digging on property they own in Guadalajara, Mexico. That's all the info she has. It's about 3 inches tall. We'd love any hints about what it is, how old it might be, or anything about it. Or even info as who to ask. Here's a photo I shot of it (balanced on my thermos) https://flic.kr/p/AvpU9a
I've had an MTV music video stuck in my head since 1996 at the latest (when I stopped having access to the channel) and probably for several years longer than that. Please help. Details within. [more inside]
I went out with a guy a few months ago. It didn't work out and for some reason I'm still puzzled by and dwelling at times on his behavior. Was it him? Was it me? Wtf. [more inside]
My partner and I are struggling with infertility. We are thinking of options but I'm not sure how we navigate how we really feel about those options, particularly adoption. [more inside]
I am starting maternity leave in a few weeks. My company believes I will be back about 12 weeks after that. I, however, know I am not coming back to this position afterwards. I'm trying to figure out when I should tell my employer in order to still receive full maternity benefits (both from my employer and from the state of California) but also not be a jerk. [more inside]
I'm getting married next year, and my friends have started asking me what I'd like to do as a batchelorette party. I'm really conflicted about who to invite because a) I'm a staunch feminist and want the least sexist wedding ever BUT b) I've enjoyed the "female space" at other people's parties AND ALSO c) my brother is in my bridal party, where does he fit in? [more inside]
A very dark water ring stain on a wooden surface -- attempts to fix it have made it worse. Please help! [more inside]
What are the best wire shelving brands? [more inside]
I'm looking for a fragrance-free dry shampoo that's readily available in Australia. I've always just used Batiste "Blush" but the fragrance is so heavy and cloying that it now makes me feel physically ill (thanks to morning sickness). Are any of the other Batiste shampoos fragrance-free? Are there any fragrance-free alternatives? [more inside]
I’m dating a man who is my kindred spirit in many ways. However, we have been dating for a year now, and I have felt over most of this time a sense of yearning for challenging conversation that I just don’t get with him. How have you seen people develop their critical thinking, abstract reasoning, and complex verbal expression abilities as adults? Conversely, if you have found happiness being with someone with whom you don’t have an intellectual connection, how have you managed around this on an everyday basis? [more inside]
Removed brisket from vacuum pack this AM, put it in roasting pan with dry rub, onions, and marinadey type ingredients, left in refrigerator, intended Spouse to start roasting it midday. Due to a mixup, that didn't happen. [more inside]
I have 2 or 3 cups of frozen blueberries and around the same amount of frozen and sliced (in quarters) plums. (Both fruits were picked and frozen by me this summer.) Can I make a pie with these fruits, together, that won't turn into soup? [more inside]
Has anyone had a situation in which they were taking a prescribed controlled substance and ran out of their prescription while traveling outside the US? How difficult was it to refill the prescription? What did you do? [more inside]
We just purchased Amtrak tickets for our in-laws, making the selection "pick up from ticket agent." We were sent eTickets. In-laws do not have the technical savvy to receive or print eTickets. One faq I found says that you can pick up tickets from an agent if you have ID and the credit card. If that's true, the credit card will be a problem, since it was ours. Anyone know for sure? [more inside]
I'm looking for films (or books) like Miyazaki's work: full of emotion, where the world is literally wonderful and every new street or path could contain something magical, touching, and unusual. Ideally more Spirited Away than Princess Mononoke, but either mood works. I'm already a big fan of magical realism novels and have Earthsea & Moebius on my to-read list.
My 2004 Honda Civic sometimes makes a squealing noise when I start it up. I took it to a mechanic, but it doesn't look like he fixed the problem. Looking for advice on whether to take it back again and what to do. [more inside]
Super vagueness coming up but would be so worth it if anyone knew the answer. About 10(?) years ago, my husband took me to see a production of Shakespeare's Richard III, in Oakland. The troupe - or possibly just the way was written? - had only 3 actors, who did all the different characters. The actor who played Richard was a black man. [more inside]
I need a bad-ass estuarial animal to compare a character to. The animal should be of the give zero fucks, will totally fuck you up variety. It should hang out in North American estuarial settings. I wanted to do crocodile but it turns out those dudes are timid. Give me your estuarial bad-assery! [more inside]
So I'm going to be spending about a month in Edmonton, AB this December and need to find an inexpensive cell phone and plan. I don't need data, only text & voice. I've seen other similar questions but they seemed to all have the option of bringing in a mobile phone from abroad whereas I want to buy something cheap and not too crappy.
Please show me your web-based multiplayer games like this version of Battleship that are super-easy to jump into and play with a friend.
How does a Python developer position themselves to move into web development? Specific questions about resume writing, job description/skills, and salary negotiation below the fold. [more inside]
I have friends in Canada who are sponsoring a family. As far as I know, there's no way to do that in the States. Are there other forms of direct aid we could provide? [more inside]
My Armenian great-uncle lived in Iran 1918(ish) to 1952(ish) and I'd like to find out more about his time there. [more inside]
Is there a way for me to blog under my real name and still avoid exposing myself to stalking, doxxing, threats, and harassment? [more inside]
I'm trying to figure out if some of the presidential primary candidates have said things in on the campaign trail that could warrant arrest. I'm thinking there are (at least) two kinds of potential offenses: slander/libel and harassment/threats/intimidation. However, my understanding is that these must be committed against individuals, not classes. Walk me through this, please. [more inside]
I am going on vacation! To Tokyo! I will be there from Christmas to a few days after the new year, and I've seen a lot of people saying their office is closed for that week. As a first timer and tourist, what can I expect to be disrupted by the New Year's holidays? Transit? Restaurants? Museums? Is there anything going on I positively must see?
I'm looking for a good criminal defense attorney in Atlanta who can help with a first degree forgery charge. I'm also looking for help to find an attorney online, as nobody involved lives in Georgia. [more inside]
In two weeks I need to drive from Vancouver to Vernon, I've rented a car, as I don't have all season tires, it's cheaper to rent, plus if a car ends up in a ditch it won't be mine. My question is what site should I check for current road conditions aside from Drive BC? Also, how do I determine whether to go north through Kamloops or South through Kelowna? Who has the best real time updates? [more inside]
Is there a quick way, using Python or Ruby or whatever, to read a wav file for several tones and import the time of the onset of different tones? [more inside]
I was in San Francisco in 1995 or 1996 (?) and saw two parts of a three-night performance by a woman who, with her voice alone, performed as more than a hundred different characters. She had written this trilogy, as well. [more inside]
Like many people, I've accumulated a stash of documents that are important to me and my family in some way (deeds, birth certificates, marriage certificate, passports) and some are difficult/impossible to replace (immigration paperwork, ancestral information). Right now they all sit in a plastic Tupperware box on the bottom shelf of an IKEA bookshelf. I was thinking that maybe they should be a little better secured. Is a safety deposit box the right answer or a safe? I'm having a hard time choosing. [more inside]
I’m looking for your bestest, funnest Xbox 360 game recommendations for a nearly-11-year-old girl and a nearly-7-year-old boy. [more inside]
Help Me Determine How I Should Spend My Charity Funds [more inside]
Suppose I have a 1" thick plate of A36 mild steel and I want a 1/2" diameter through-hole, but I can't use a drill press. Is it complete folly to consider using a hand drill? [more inside]
In the final minutes of my last session, my therapist encouraged me to explore anger following the abrupt end of a short term relationship. I don't feel angry. How might I approach this? [more inside]
What are some of your favorite wine based recipes? [more inside]
We never travel in August, because that's when everyone else travels. But next year we have a big birthday to celebrate in August, and want to take a nice trip somewhere. What's a good place to go (anywhere in the world) that is at its best in August? 30-something couple, no kids, experienced travellers.
I enjoy playing sports regularly (once or twice a day) and I end up getting injured often, (rolled ankle, straight calf, tight hamstring, over-use injuries too) and I'd like recommendations on injury prevention. Specific exercises, books, DVDs, principles, equipment, anything that can keep me in the field with less injuries. [more inside]
Using my iPhone 5S on Ting, I seem to have some data usage every day. This occurs even on days when my phone never leaves the house, where we have good wifi coverage. (The "wifi assist" that snuck in with the new ios was disabled long ago.) It's never very much data - usually around .02 megabytes - so it isn't impacting my bill, but the fact that it occurs at all is puzzling and I'd love to understand why. Can anyone help?
How can we play music from our massive library of tunes (~2TB), from our phones or tablets through our existing home stereo? A few snowflakes inside.... [more inside]
Have you or someone you've known started changing your attitude/work level, even if you're doing great by just getting by? How'd it go? How did you make steps required to change? [more inside]
With so many choices of themes, how does one go about narrowing them down? I'm a bit overwhelmed by the myriad of choices. I understand that security, updates, and responsiveness are all important. I'm brand new to WordPress and want to get going on building my installation, but I'm really kind of stuck until I figure out this theme thing. Bonus Question: I do realize you get what you pay for when it comes to themes. Do you have any recommendations for reasonably priced ones?
I run a nonprofit and believe there is a need to learn the arrest and conviction record of one of our volunteers, including misdemeanors that occurred in another state. So, I'm trying to learn how to do an inexpensive background check on him. There are number of online services and I'd like to know which one is the best or if there's a better way. [more inside]
I'm looking for a service or app that will allow my volunteer group to be a little more productive, rather than managing things from our individual email accounts. Yahoo Groups, Google Docs, and Basecamp all have some element of what I'm looking for, but not everything. Can you help me find my killer app? [more inside]
Something like St. Augustine but South of West Palm Beach. [more inside]
Cat people, please give us some cat introduction pointers, because we're kinda lost. [more inside]
She says she got badly hurt after a former partner "betrayed" her. According to her, that is why she has tended to be cold, rather cynical, and distant in our-till now- no-strings-attached, f*ck buddies relationship. She has recently expressed, to my surprise, that she would be open to a more serious relationship with me if I prove to be trustworthy. I would like to upgrade our relationship, but have my own doubts and fears of getting hurt. Any ideas on how to promote more intimacy without risking too much? [more inside]
I need some advice on teaching a 10 year old kid to play the guitar. Complications ensue: he's not my kid, and I'm not a professional teacher. Lengthy stuff after the fold: [more inside]
It really sucks, doesn't it. [more inside]
I want watch how people in professional kitchens clean, prep, and execute a service. I've already seen lots TV-chefs and youtube-wannabe-tv-chefs making single dishes, but I want to see cooking at scale. Any youtube channel/film suggestions?
Help me identify this Italian dessert that my wife had several years ago. She describes it as layers of Gorgonzola cheese, mascarpone cheese, and dried fruit. Possibly there were other elements but that’s all she remembers, aside from it being delicious. [more inside]
We have a one year old shih-tzu dog that we got as a 2 month old puppy. She is extremely sweet and calm and not territorial about food, toys, etc. However, if she has something small in her mouth that I need to get out, she growls as a warning and if I try to open her mouth, she bites. [more inside]
Need advice on sitting, walking, resting, and sleeping with this pain over the next few weeks; ideas around what to expect over the next bit; ideas on preventing long-term pain. Have you got any of that? [more inside]
I separated from my husband earlier this year after over a decade of marriage and have been living alone for a few months. I went to a party last night and a guy caught my eye - he's a friend of mutual friends and I realized later on that I had seen him at another event previously this year. But I didn't really have a chance to chat with him. Asked a friend what his story was via text after I got home and she said he was really great and "recently not engaged". This friend pointed me to his FB profile and it seems like we might have a lot in common. [more inside]
My 4 month old sweet little girl decided about 2 weeks ago she didn't want to sleep her usual 5-7 hours through the night, and now wakes up every hour or two needing help getting back to sleep, and it's killing me :( Our bedtime routine consist of bottle, bath, then rock until she's asleep at between 7-8 pm. She would sleep until 1-3 am for a feed and then sleep again until 6-7am...not anymore and it's continued for a couple weeks. She uses a pacifier which is the biggest culprit, and she is still swaddled. It's a vicious cycle, re-swaddle her tight, the paci falls out she wakes up crying, or even the paci will still be in and she will drop it just waking up grunting and wiggling around and then it falls out. She is a very active sleeper, I feel like she's trying to get out of the swaddle all night. Usually I have to pick her up and rock her back to sleep or get up to pat her back put the paci back in. [more inside]
Help me pick a dry cat food for my elderly cat, who is thinner than I'd like. [more inside]
Trying to remember this book/story. Girl lives in an apartment. Father is away a lot. He brings or sends her a present - a flying pony that she keeps on the roof of her building. [more inside]
WordPress hivemind, please – a client has requested a website based around ordering a service available at events from several different people. Oh, and they need ratings / reviews too. More after the jump. [more inside]
My girlfriend attended a top US private university. In the middle of her undergraduate education, she suffered a stroke that left her with significant written and verbal communication difficulties. Medical and family problems compounded, and she ended up getting kicked out of school for poor grades. Now she owes the university a lot of money... [more inside]
Help! I have been stuck immobile for 9 hours due to lower back spasms. I anticipate another day of the same tomorrow except without husband at my beck and call. What can we do to best prepare me? [more inside]
Where (online or in Seattle) can I purchase a nursing bra that goes larger than a 42 DDD? Not sure of my current size but that's what I was measured at mid-pregnancy. [more inside]
I was reading a book on probability and decision making several years ago and it mentioned a rule of sorts that could be used when making a selection from a sample that would help you make an efficient decision that was likely to gave a good outcome. [more inside]
I'm looking for a pillar candle with very specific (and apparently unusual) specifications. I'd like something that's 3 inches diameter and 5 inches tall. Ivory. Unscented. Real candle (not flameless LED, unless maybe it's the ones made out of real wax like Pottery Barn sells; MUST look real). [more inside]
Here is a photo of the port in the back of my Western Digital external hard drive. It's not a mini-USB, or anything else I recognize. I need a new USB-to-whatever-this-is cableto connect the drive to my laptop. The only one I've found is here, but it would take a full month for it to get to me. Any suggestions welcome.
The last two years of my doctoral education have involved some extraordinary circumstances that might raise eyebrows for someone looking at my CV. In a hyper-competitive job market where I was already kind of outlier, I think any kind of academic position is a long shot right now. How do I 1) explain my history to potential employers with minimal drama/"woe is me" details and 2) prepare for a likely transition to non-academic employment that still doesn't entirely shut the door on future university employment. Details inside.... [more inside]
Which library school would be the smartest choice for me, an employed Portlander in my thirties? [more inside]
I’ve developed either an allergy or a sensitivity to even unwaxed, unflavored dental floss. What can I use other than floss to floss? [more inside]
I'm looking for a gift for a 5YO who loves building things from diagrams. Snap Circuits were a huge hit. The obvious answer is LEGO, but 1) which LEGO set? and 2) what other building-from-instructions toys are out there? [more inside]
Quick! I l love it but what can I do with 6 bunches at peak freshness? Need either a storage solution, or a low-fat, low-carb dish/condiment to keep in fridge.
I've always had a hard time with making and keeping friends. Whether it be my insecurities, obnoxious behaviour, weirdness growing up, lots of bullying growing up, etc. I've always felt lonely, sad, frustrated, insecure and weird in social situations - this from all the way when I was a wee little child. [more inside]
The goal here is to invest $250k in buy to let property. Looking for a property investment company that will manage the property and also help with the search of buy to let property. Requirement: The company will help with property search Preferably have options available where rental income is predictable Manage the property Help with the analysis of the investment (price to rent ration etc) The company must specialize in US based properties. I am not aware of any such companies. Could you recommend?
And . . . long distance biking as well! Couldn't fit that in the question title. I'd like to pursue all of these over the course of the next year but am not sure how compatible they are. Any pointers? [more inside]
Anyone have experience with Punchpass, Tula, Front Desk or a similar apps or services? [more inside]
Asking for my son. He has been teaching English as a Second Language in a few countries but is interested in moving to Shanghai for a teaching job. He has lots of experience, is very good with teaching young children, but does not have advanced certification. Anyone with helpful info and advice they might share about Shanghai and teaching there?
[Career-filter] Help a somewhat disillusioned archivist brainstorm a new career. [more inside]
I know there was this process in the last few hundred years of European history where newly forming nations, trying to take hold of themselves, would decree one language official (French, Spanish), and try to squelch all of the many other languages/dialects (Occitan, Catalan) spoken within their borders. Where can I learn more? [more inside]
My new boyfriend's recent ex still contacts him. I don't think there is anything inappropriate going on, but the fact that they still have an emotional connection makes me uneasy. Can you give me a reality check on whether I'm being reasonable, and how to address it? [more inside]
I am moving from a small house to a one bedroom apartment and have WAY too much stuff. Most de-cluttering advice revolves around things one doesn't need or use. My clutter is largely backups of things I both need AND use, and I am having trouble getting rid of it because I worry I can't afford a replacement if the first breaks. What to do? [more inside]
There's very little lighting in my apartment's living room. It's pitch black outside by the time I get home from work these days, and I'd like to add some lighting to brighten things up. Suggestions? [more inside]
USA-based sausage question: What's the difference between sausage and breakfast sausage? Can I use breakfast sausage in stuffing for a turkey? [more inside]
Occasionally, I notice that friends' Twitter accounts (usually, apparently, dormant ones) are taken over by spambots posting links to fake Ray-Bans, etc. Why specifically does this happen? Would it be scripts trying out low-hanging-fruit passwords ("password"), a brute force attack, or something else? And would a very high-strength password fully protect you from these attacks?
What kind of under-regular-clothes thermal layer do you suggest for a chilly house? Silk, merino wool, poly-blend? [more inside]
Non-techy buying for very-techy .... Looking for a tablet that has features like my totally awesome new Galaxy note5. My husband could use it for his work and I want to get it for him for Christmas! Awesome things about it that I am looking for 1). Ability to take pictures then immediately and easily write notes on pictures and easily share 2). Stylus that works as like the Galaxy note5 (remove from holder and kicks into note mode) 3). Newly released so hopefully good processing power (what ever make the phone so responsive)
I'm dating this guy (20 yrs old) who is wonderful in every aspect except for being inexperienced with women. He's had a few relationships but I was the first person he ever slept with. We want to do a one sided polygamous relationship. Help us maneuver through this as smooth as possible! [more inside]
I recently moved into a house without central heat. Is there a safe way to safely keep my house warm overnight and when I'm not home? [more inside]
A relative will soon be leaving for West Africa on her first assignment with the US Foreign Service. We would like to get her a nice holiday/going away gift, but what on earth is appropriate? [more inside]
I am applying to full-time MBA programs after 5 years in industry. A major part of my life lately has been coming to terms with my sexual orientation. Would it be appropriate to mention this in essays and interviews? Or do I play it straight? [more inside]
I found this pair of shorts at a thrift stores years ago and absolutely love them. They are the most comfortable pair of shorts I have ever worn, and I have just about worn them out. I would very much appreciate any thoughts on how to find this specific design, material, and where to find/buy information you may have! Thanks in advance! [more inside]
Need a recommendation for a physical therapist in south Austin following minor injuries. [more inside]
Recently broke up with manboy whom I deeply loved and saw my future with, am dealing with it okay, but have a question about anger and forgiveness. [more inside]
Here are photos of my current dish drain. It's about 13"x18"x10"H when unfolded (ready to use) and ~16"x18"x3"H when folded. I think I got it in the late 90s at, like, a grocery store or something. It was cheap ($5-10). Since it got worn/rusty, I've tried to find a new one, but none of the places I've looked have anything like this anymore. [more inside]
I am extremely picky about my purses. When I shop for bag first I go by appearance, quality, then strap drop. The strap drop excludes a good 95% of bags I like, but online it is the hardest thing to search by. Does there exist a site something like Zappos or Nordstrom that will let me search by strap drop? That would solve most of my problems. I have tried to google for a site like that but my Fu is failing me. [more inside]
I am sort of stuck with a situation I don't know how to get out off. I recently moved in with a housemate that I didn't know before. He has been trying very hard to make me feel welcome. I don't really desire the type of closer platonic friendship that he seems to want. How to set appropriate boundaries on my time and space? Details inside. [more inside]
Tell me about getting a bank loan for a very cheap car. [more inside]
I was talking to a new acquaintance at an event and said something that came across as really bigoted (I had no clue at the time). Is there anything someone has said to you after a similar event that has made you feel more comfortable? [more inside]
Ladies who've done this successfully, and ones who've had complications, please tell me all about it. [more inside]
I'd like to watch more music videos showing dancers performing on stark, monochromatic, ultra-clean sets like those in Taylor Swift's Shake It Off so I can see what the dancers are doing. [more inside]
I'm an introvert, female-bodied, and not very feminine. I cannot seem to have a good haircut experience. I'm almost 32 years old and apparently I'm doing it wrong. [more inside]
creative minds: assemble! i want to make a game for my very good friend who is waaaaay into board games and card-based games. but i need help. [more inside]
My boyfriend is a big fan of rums, so I'd like to get him some for Christmas. A 'rum sampler' with different brands would be great, but if there are good recommendations I could build my own. [more inside]
Looking to buy some basic art supplies for my artistic but not serious artist sister. Need guidance on brands and whether art sets are just a waste. [more inside]
Who's singing "Don't Let Me Be Misunderstood" in this Shades of Blue promo? [more inside]
Why is Doctor Doom the greatest Marvel villain? [more inside]
In popular media, what are some examples of the "romantic tortured loner genius inventor" archetype who are women? [more inside]
I picked up a reel of film at an estate sale the other day. It is only labeled "Hoot Gibson Show #36." [more inside]
After I have crushed my enemies, seen them driven before me, and all that kind of thing... I'm going to want some food. I am a special snowflake traveler. [more inside]
Small engine repair classes nearish: Philly, Harrisburg, Baltimore? [more inside]
I (probably ill-advisedly) left my computer to be used by a family member for a few months. Upon returning, there are a number of folders missing, and other folders have had their names lowercased. What? The interim user swears up and down that they've no idea how it happened- and they are a mid-to-very competent computer user. It's all backed up and therefore safe, but those files are simply gone for no apparent reason. So what sort of gremlin 1) deleted files and 2) lowercased some folder names? [more inside]
By a stroke of crappy (pun intended) luck, I'm suffering from gastroenteritis for the second time in under a year. I'm taking Vicodin to manage the pain of stomach cramps. I'm going into the second day of taking them and I'm wondering if there's a reason that I shouldn't, or if maybe I don't have gastroenteritis. Money is super tight, so I'm hoping to avoid the doctor. TMI details about symptoms under the cut. [more inside]
I live a couple of hours south of Chicago. Given a 4 hour driving radius, what would be a good place to go with a 14 month toddler? I don't expect her to make any memories from this trip, so it's really more of a trip for her parents (us!) . [more inside]
Best way to get from LHR to Homerton/Hackney on late Sunday afternoon? [more inside]
I've really enjoyed watching some of JPL's von Karman lecture series on YouTube. I'd really like to have more good quality stuff to watch online about solar system exploration - "good quality" meaning probably lectures and even rather technical ones, but not the slick, graphics-heavy, ominous voiceover discovery-channel sort of stuff (and definitely not the endless PROOF OF ALIEN LIFE ON TITAN stuff that makes searching for the good stuff so difficult). Any recommendations?
Obviously it will be more expensive, but if I'm not taking the program seriously enough, is it foolish to keep overworking myself? [more inside]
I've been having trouble staying asleep. I would like to know how to take advantage of this. [more inside]
I just sent a PDF of my credit report to the wrong email address. (I left out two letters in my broker's email address). Am I totally screwed? What steps can I take to protect myself? [more inside]
Looking for resources on the the finer technical aspects of working with natural wools and yarns. [more inside]
I'm thinking of heading to New Orleans at Christmas. Nuts? [more inside]
For the last 48-72 hours I've had this mild nagging pain in my lower right below my gut. It's also been on the left a bit. My right shoulder has been in quite a bit of pain but, I put that down to my job. I took some aleve for the shoulder and it's got me backed up a bit (constipated). Also my stools have been rather hard for a week or two. My father also has ibs and I hear it's hereditary. The pain lasts for less than 1 second before it is gone. Other possible causes might be my new recumbent bike, pore posture, falling down the stairs a week ago etc. I also work a job pushing shopping carts and bending down to put water cases under peoples carts so I may have just pulled a muscle doing that. Am I being totally paranoid thinking this might be appendicitis? Or would it have escalated by now?
Where can I buy unique holiday cards in Orange County or south LA that are suitable for Christmas and Hanukkah and appropriate for friends and business colleagues?
I want to write a program to generate new, realistic-sounding and -looking words. I want to programmatically create strings like 'bik', 'clible', 'aunstic', and 'cranoak', (if these words don't already exist), and avoid strings like 'bblejkm', 'aunstrbl', and other things that don't look pronounceable. Looking for a database of word parts to feed into this program, possibly with a set of accompanying rules. English or any other language (ideally with phonetic representations). [more inside]
I need fictional novels to help me dive head first into the abyss. Please recommend some. [more inside]
I'm looking for a awesome ski resort in the U.S. or Canada. My kids are 5 and 7 and have never been skiing. I would love to give them an amazing experience in February. I don't mind paying a premium for awesome lodging / amenities. We would be traveling from Austin Texas. Any recommendations for a kid friendly resort?
I have a habit of muting my phone, dumping it into my bag, and forgetting that the phone has been silenced. I also spend a lot of time at the computer or using a tablet, so if I could just have the phone send me email, I'd know I had a call. I have an iPhone 6 with service from Verizon. [more inside]
My family will be joining me in the Boston area for Christmas this year, for the first time, for only a few days surrounding the 25th. If we were in NYC, near where I grew up, I'd know exactly what to do - see the windows, Rockefeller Ctr, St. Patrick's, the Grand Central train show...but I don't know what the Boston equivalents of these sightseeing traditions are. One caveat: Boston seems big on performing arts events for the holidays, and we probably aren't going to be able to coordinate schedules for ticketed events. I'm looking for things you can just drop in to. [more inside]
I'm scheduled to visit Brussels from Wed-Sun this week, and given the high alert and reports that seem to suggest shops, public places and events will be shut, I'm concerned that I've picked about the worst possible time. [more inside]
Please recommend audiobooks or podcasts on craft of teaching
Is there a non-photo shop option that will let me create a collage where I can resize photos and some other basic tweaks? [more inside]
I've been tracking my mood over the past seven weeks, giving it a score out of ten, along with some other information (e.g. amount of exercise, alcohol consumption, prescription drug usage). I want to find a way to put all this data into graph form. [more inside]
My husband keeps pulling up my clothes and rubbing my belly (not pregnant, not trying to get pregnant, dear god I can only imagine if I was). It's meant to be affectionate but I HATE it. I've told him to stop, but he keeps doing it. I think my problem has less to do with the touching (although I really, really, really don't like it and resent having to apologize or explain it) and more to do with the fact that I explicitly asked him to stop but he has not. This makes me irrationally angry. Am I overreacting by moving out of our bedroom into our spare room? [more inside]
My organization is doing more and more Periscope broadcasting as part of our outreach. We've found some budget to buy a specific setup with which to do this, rather than relying on staff member's personal devices. What's our best bet? [more inside]
I received an email from $bignamecompany on LinkedIn. They want me to interview for a position. For a variety of reasons, I am not interested in switching jobs right now. I would like to get more information about the position at the company and establish a relationship with the HR person for the future, however. How do I do this? [more inside]
I remember it was a talk show from the 90s, probably. And this guy, maybe famous, was talking/rambling about religion and the universe. I think I came across it because of a clip in a Godspeed You! Black Emperor song, or maybe A Silver Mt. Zion. [more inside]
I am looking for an iPhone app that will take me on a nice run in a town I am unfamiliar with. [more inside]
I have a new Macbook Pro 13" that I purchased two weeks ago from the Apple store. It has had two minor (but possibly signs of something bigger?) issues so far, and today is the last day I can exchange it for another one. Would you exchange it in my position? See inside for the issues. [more inside]
I'm having a terrible time processing and dealing with the sudden death of someone I had never even met. Why? Well, she was my (now ex)boyfriends good friend and ex-fwb, with whom his friendship was kept a secret from me. And now he's blaming me for her death... [more inside]
I have tremendous anxiety around situations where I have to Call In The Professionals. Unfortunately for me, I'm not particularly crafty or technical or really, skilled in any way, so these sorts of situations happen in my life a lot, and they never seem to get any easier. If anything, they're getting harder to deal with as I age. Is this you? Was it? What are your tried-and-true tips for making this less of a horrifying prospect? [more inside]
I'm currently on the academic job market. I've applied for positions at some places where diversity is very much on everyone's mind--and rightfully so. I'm of mixed ethnicity; one of my parents is a member of an underrepresented minority. I reflected this in the demographic question on my apps. However, I'm consistently perceived as white. It's likely I'll be asked in an interview about my commitment to supporting diversity in the university community. Is there a tactful way to mention my background, or should I avoid it? [more inside]
My pooch was eaten the heck up with fleas, and after about two months, some laundromat trips, a trip to the vet, etc, we've been flea-free for a couple of weeks now. I'm having a heck of a time trying to get rid of the flea dirt he had picked up, however. [more inside]
I'm embarrassed to have a question about MS Publisher, but I'm asking anyhow. [more inside]
After taking a myriad of online personality and career quizzes, I am turning to you all for some ideas because being a miner and roofing bolter aren't really what I want to do. So, given my likes, dislikes, personality quirks, and talents, do you have any suggestions on what career/job might be a good fit for me? [more inside]
I've been rotating the same set of suits for the last 5-6 years and I think it is time to rotate some out. Where can I get the best 2-3 suits in Toronto within a budget of $1,000 per suit? (the budget is the *) [more inside]
The gas oven in my apartment hasn't been working for the better part of three months. The light in the bottom turns on when I start it, and then turns back off when I stop. [more inside]
Where can I read about dissociation in which the mind convinces someone that something was positive? I'm thinking about Hawkeye from the end of M*A*S*H* and the chicken as an example of what I mean. (trigger warning) [more inside]
I recently discovered what an archivist does and have finally found a career path I would love to pursue. The only catch is, I'm still learning a lot and I don't know how to describe what I want my focus to be in my statement of purpose application essay. Help me not sound like a crazy fan girl begging UCLA to let me in. Please? Details inside. [more inside]
I'd like to go on a short solo vacation during the Thanksgiving weekend, to somewhere green and quiet, where I can just relax and read. I live in New York City and I don't have a car. I also don't want to fly. Where can I go? [more inside]
I'm shopping for a small, fire/water resistant case in which to keep important papers and documents. I see key locked and combination locked versions, various sizes and verifications of the duration of protection. I'd like some opinions on what might be my best option. Thanks in advance for the info.
I'm going to be in Oakland (visiting family) and need to get to Santa Cruz (Scotts Valley) on a Sunday, and I won't have a car. What's the least expensive way to do it in a reasonable amount of time?
I would like to know how coding is taught to complete beginners in countries known for the rigor of their academic practice. I am interested in these countries especially because my experiences with American education has shown that much American instruction is more based upon easy-does-it approaches that serve to make things "differentiated" and "student-friendly" thus sacrificing rigor. [more inside]
Metafilter, what fruit dish should I bring to brunch this Sunday? [more inside]
The one local thrift shop has this and no one knows what it is: [more inside]
Does anyone have experience or knowledge (first-hand or otherwise) of the Middle School Honors Performance Series at Carnegie Hall? My kid has been nominated to audition, and while it sounds like a great experience, it's also costly. I guess I'm partly wondering if this is a legitimate and competitive audition or something more like a Who's Who publication where the main criterion is whether you are willing and able to pay for it.
My son is 12, and starting to participate in online communities. Right now, the only community he's interacting with is 4 friends of his from school; they play Minecraft. But I suspect this will soon change. [more inside]
I've been using a CPAP machine for a long time, and my current machine is dying quickly. How can I pick a new machine, and what is the best way to do this through insurance? [more inside]
I can’t find a concealer that matches my skin. I’ve tried multiple brands/products and they all seem too yellow/warm-toned. [more inside]
I'm returning to work from maternity leave, and my daily 2 hours in the car is the only time I'm guaranteed to myself. Help me make it the best time possible with podcasts! I'm looking specifically for podcasts on: yoga, running, cooking (bonus points for vegetarian or vegan), music, and history. [more inside]
I want to frequently request/require a group of people to update their email signature for their business email (run on gmail). I also want to make it as easy as possible. [more inside]
My niece and nephew LOVE these coloring books. Unfortunately the markers don't last very long. Does anyone know where to buy just the markers without the books?
20 or so people are pitching together to get my husband big ol' tattoo for his birthday in a few weeks. Yay! Does anyone have any recommendations or ideas on the best way to collect money from these folks, which live all over the place? [more inside]
With The Man in the High Castle hitting Amazon Prime today, it got me thinking about other alternate histories that I have yet to read about or watch. Obviously this lends itself to dystopian lit, but I was wondering if there's more obscure things out there besides the mainstream/popular things like Inglorious Basterds. My favorites are sci-fi and horror, but I'm open to just about anything and will pretty much give everything a shot if it's highly recommended. Hope me, MeFites!
So I screwed up. We're having early Thanksgiving this weekend. My wife picked up a local turkey, frozen, stored it in a refrigerator, and gave it to me to take home and do either a sink thaw or put it in our fridge. "Don't leave it in the car," she said. Guess what? [more inside]
Is there a term among stunt actors for the primary actor they are doubling for? The actor can say, "That's my stunt double." But what does the stunt actor call the other actor?
We're going to Spain for two weeks in January. I've been told Barcelona is very fun and Madrid is dull but has great museums. How many days should we devote to each city? We like fine food, queer events, second hand clothes shopping, fancy bars, historical sites, and things you don't need a car to see. Would love to go out into the countryside if we can on public transportation. Is there a great reason to stay in Bracelona and just day trip to Madrid? Or vice versa? [more inside]
We're preparing for plans B, C and D for our just-turned four year old now that her preschool no longer fits, and I'm trying to do the research. Most of what I can find online and at the library is aimed at grade school kids or kids who are moderately advanced. Basically, I need recommendations for books, experts, and discussion groups (preferably closed) for parents and families of young asynchronous/weird and very smart kids. [more inside]
I adore spicy food, and I have no trouble with except, except my nose runs terribly. This is really embarrassing, especially while eating in social situations. Is there anything I can do?
My girlfriend has anxiety. My last girlfriend did too, as did the one before her and the one before her. What is it about me that's attracting anxious people, and how can I change it? And how can I best handle my girlfriend's anxiety without getting caught up in a caretaker role? [more inside]
After my mother died last fall, and my family having no money to bury her, it got me thinking about my own inevitable death someday. I know you can prepay for your funeral at actual funeral homes, but I never stay in one location more than 2-3 years. I have no idea where I'll be when I die. I've thought about life insurance, but I think that takes a while to pay out? Are there some options I'm missing?
I need to sculpt the end of a 5/8" threaded steel rod. I'll be removing a lot of material, hopefully very precisely, and it would be good if the rod stayed absolutely rock solid while it's being worked on. Is there are standard way to do this? [more inside]
I have legal access through my school to the full archives, on EBSCO, of a magazine, and I would like to save about a decade's worth of articles in PDF format. [more inside]
After several months of working with my manager to get more visibility from upper management on my performance and frequently discussing an official role/title change, I was given news this week that an org change will place me under a new manager, while also taking over many of my previous manager's responsibilities. No formal title change to title or compensation has been discussed. I am meeting tomorrow with my Director (manager's manager) to talk through any questions or concerns I have. I have many, but would like advice on the most professional way to address them. [more inside]
I manage a small team of software support people based in the West Coast United States. Now I'd like to hire one or more people based in Europe (I'm thinking maybe Berlin, Germany or Stockholm, Sweden) who would do the same thing (and whose hours would line up better with our European clientele). I've begun to do some research into the logistics of employing a German in Germany (just for starters) but I feel like I'm not getting far. Have you done this? What works best? [more inside]
My wee, sturdy iPhone 4 is reaching the end of its unnatural lifespan. I plan to get a new phone in January and cannot decide from these options: 5s, 6, and [unknown Android capable of seducing me]. Difficulty level: Canadian; have a decent month-to-month phone plan now and don't want to settle for less; smallish hands. [more inside]
I'm looking for the better (preferably Canadian or international) charities for Ulcerative colitis. Suggestions? [more inside]
Keeping a gratitude journal is supposed to make you feel happier, but instead it frequently fills me with guilt and shame because it reminds me that my life is full of good things I've done nothing to deserve. How can I allow myself to be happy about the good things in my life? [more inside]
I'm part of a cooperative that's trying to change the world! BUT we're having trouble keeping track of people and sending emails to everyone. Help me find a CRM / membership / contact management system that works great with Mailchimp! [more inside]
Next summer, a friend of mine and I will be traveling in Japan. We would like to do a combination of cultural tourism and hiking, so our preference would be to choose bases from which it would be easy to do day hikes. Our preference is for longer and/or more strenuous day hikes. Where should we go? [more inside]
I'm about to age out of my parent's healthcare system (turning 26 late December) and as a stroke of unfortunate timing I'm completely out of a job right now. I'm incredibly uninformed about how the new US healthcare system is set up other than a vague knowledge that there's potentially a fine for not having insurance, but I don't even know how much or when it'd kick in. My question is, basically: As someone unemployed and living in Massachusetts, either how much would I have to pay to buy my own insurance (and where would I go to do so) or how much is the fee for me if I can't actually buy it?
I've found a low mileage car I like in Portland. I live 2 hours away and would need to come in, get the car checked out and make a buying decision all while dealing with a professional seller. What are my best tactics to do so? [more inside]
Our organization is in a bit of a crisis. There were issues with staff not completing their jobs (notes are incomplete/incorrect) as well as management issues (supervisors signing off on incomplete/incorrect notes). The reorg has already started. People at the top and bottom were let go and jobs reassigned. I know that with a case like this, I wouldn't know all of the details however, being in upper management, I want to help. I have a list is skills that I can offer (process improvement, creating tools, improving morale, finding inneffiencies). I am also good at learning and plowing through mundane tasks like scheduling and billing. I am good at both discrete tasks and strategy but obviously not great at everything. [more inside]
My favorite part of the holidays is the FOOD. I love all the rich, sweet, and special seasonal eats, and I love to make them for my people. Unfortunately, this year, I Just Can't. Thinking about planning and cooking is stressful rather than exciting right now. How can I make nomming as low key as possible in terms of planning/effort, but still awesome? Wanting specific suggestions for Thanksgiving, periChristmas, and New Year's. Family will be visiting at various points. This is in the U.S., and we have a Trader Joe's and a Costco nearby.
I'm replacing the outdated and ugly ceiling lighting fixtures in my place -- almost a dozen of them at once. Decor is simple and modern, with white walls and wood floors. I also really like Tiffany lamps and chandeliers although I don't usually go for ornate stuff. I'm new to decorating. Can you recommend some fixtures for me (with links)? [more inside]
My possibly mentally ill sister wants to 'make things up to me' by taking me out. I don't want to go, but I don't want to have any drama either. Can this be done? [more inside]
I love love love post-apocalyptic fiction and found the suggestions in this previous Ask very wonderful, but I'm wondering about suggestions for post-apocalyptic fiction set decades or centuries later that focuses on the rebuilding of governments, societies, civilization. [more inside]
What happens to the Hawking Radiation particle and antiparticle AWAY from a black hole? Why does't the annihilation of the particle and antiparticle go BOOM? [more inside]
I work very closely with my (supportive, hardworking) boss on a daily basis and she's always juggling her ridiculous amount of responsibility with thoughtfully planning little birthday celebrations for her direct reports. No one has stepped up yet to organize something small for her, so I'd like to return the favor in a genuine, humorous way. I'm also sensitive to people who hate going to these types of things and it coming off as a big suck-up event. Suggestions needed! [more inside]
I just got an invite for the new OnePlus One X phone, and I have three days to decide. Per this article, the phone uses AT&T's HSPA network, which results in slower downloads and uploads than LTE. However, I use Cricket Wireless which is slow anyway. Would I notice the difference?
For the first time ever, my family is visiting Boston to celebrate Thanksgiving with my husband and me. I'm really excited, and I really need some help planning the dinner menu. [more inside]
Three and a half years ago, I (a man) ended a relationship with a woman and have not had any interaction with her since. In the past few months, she (1) left a series of love notes for me on a tree by a running path near my house; (2) sent me a letter at my work asking to meet in person to speak about our breakup; and (3) sent me an email the same day asking why I hadn't agreed to meet with her in person. All of this would be okay (but awkward) had we broken up three weeks ago, but, as it's been three and a half years, I'm a little concerned. What should I do? Not do? I have not yet replied in any way. [more inside]
Recommend your best aquarium youtube vids. [more inside]
Looking for a practical gift for my boyfriend for the holidays. We bought a 1954 house and we (he) really enjoy fixing it up. What tools, items, etc. make home renovation projects easier and/or more fun? [more inside]
I enter the last year of my 30s next week and I have noticed a recent interest in being, well, a little fussy about my appearance. Ladies of MeFi, give me your tips/tricks/suggestions for looking good! Self-centred snowflakes within. [more inside]
I'm terrified of loneliness and terrified of dating. Needless to say, I'm wound up most of the time. What can I do about this? [more inside]
due to unforeseen circumstances, i find myself having to prepare daily meals for older family members. they are adverse to anything vaguely unfamiliar, seasoned, or spicy and i'm looking for meal ideas/recipes. breakfast is taken care of. i try to have dinner leftovers around for lunch, so it can be scrounged from that, or simple sandwiches. [more inside]
We really need a good system and/or a really reliable alarm clock! My husband has turned his off twice when he's never done it before! [more inside]
I need to catch a 3:00 flight out of JFK on a Thursday (not Thanksgiving) and am wondering how long the trip will take from Manhattan. I am open to cabs, Uber and public transportation. [more inside]
I want to bake all the things. And by all the things I mean just pumpkin biscotti. [more inside]
I postponed my last planned trip to NYC so I could visit during the Macy's Parade (something I always wanted to attend). Now that the US is in a state of high alert regarding the recent terror attacks overseas and ominous threats to NY and Washington DC I have to admit I am scared to travel. I do understand that terror is what they want to instill on us and the terrorists shouldn't win BUT I am pretty apprehensive. I am just wondering what others think about traveling right now?
What's a good non-cloud collaborative software alternative to Google docs? [more inside]
I'm going to be in London this weekend and am looking for a men's hairdresser/barber. I'm from the UK but right now I live abroad, and between a lack of a common language and me not knowing what I want, I rarely get a haircut I'm pleased with. What I would really like is for someone to tell me what would look good on me, then make my hair be that (like all those style/makeover shows). Does anyone have any recommendations in central London? [more inside]
I forgot that I wasn't supposed to have dairy the day of my gallbladder ultrasound and had milk on my cereal and coffee, about 1/2 cup. My test is at 7:00 pm -did I completely ruin my chances of a good scan? Should I reschedule?
"Islamophobia" is natural as a default word because >90% of Middle Eastern people identify as Muslims -- but is there any other single word for MiddleEasternpersonphobia that's not religion-based? (I'm asking about a single word because I'm wondering if there's a replacement specifically for the term "anti-Islamophobic.")
Let's say I said something about person B to person A ("Person B is a terrible mother!") and person A relates that to Person B. Do I have to apologize to Person B if I said it in confidence? What if everyone knows I meant it? Would a phony baloney apology make everything better? [more inside]
I'm a fan of the vocabulary builder feature on Kindle that stores a list, with definitions, of words looked up while reading. Is there an equivalent for iPhone for web? The vocab builder apps all seem to teach new words; I'm not averse to copying and pasting into the app, as long as it keeps history of searches. Open to any non-app suggestions too. My temporary solution of dumping words + definitions into Notes is not working so well.
For the sake of relationship harmony I've created a Facebook profile. How can I use Facebook without having it become an intrustive and hateful thing in my life? [more inside]
This has been happening for a while, and since I haven't seen any actual transactions shown in bank / credit card statements, I've just cancelled every order that came my way - until today, when somebody ordered from Checks Unlimited! (but still sent to my old address under my name?! WTF) [more inside]
I am trying to find a text that discusses the interpretations of God as "Being" that exist in philosophy (e.g. Spinoza, Hegel, Ancient Greek Philosophy etc) in connection with the common translations of YHWH as "I am". There must be writings on this? [more inside]
We'd like to do more than writing letters and sending money - is it possible to sponsor a family or children to stay in our home and assist them financially? [more inside]
I'm trying to get the name of this French Quebecois movie I saw in a flight two years back, and its quite prominently featured English (American?) song. The movie is from the 2000's, I think, while the song is from 1980's. Your help needed, hive-mind! [more inside]
Adult vacationing with his parents for two weeks in Mexico City. We are all fluent Spanish speakers and eager to experience the best of the performing arts and culture here. [more inside]
I live in the US and I want to buy a pair of Museumkaarts (multi-museum passes) as gifts for a newly married couple who are about to move to the Netherlands. The website is set up to support purchase only with a Dutch address, which I do have for the couple, but also a Dutch bank account, which I don't have. Their customer service couldn't offer any alternatives. Is there a way to make this happen? [more inside]
(Asking for a friend) I need to ship most of my worldly possessions from Hong Kong to the US -- I will start teaching on the east coast in February. Most of my things consist of books, but there are also some other items including clothing, kitchenware, etc. What is the best option in terms of price? And would most of the items arrive by February? Thanks!
If one has a fair amount of lid space, and space between the crease and eyebrow, is there a way to balance out eye makeup so it doesn't look like all the makeup is on the lid (therefore making eyes appear almost proportionally smaller)? Further, is there a way to do this with a minimal amount of makeup? Thanks!
I am looking for excerpts or entire works that describe as viscerally as possible the feeling of wanting to die (not necessarily being suicidal but not necessarily not). [more inside]
I have some all-white shoes (unworn) that I'd like to turn into a different color (preferable a shade of black). Is there a way to easily do this? [more inside]
A campus horror movie group I attend has asked me to pick something short to open their December screening. We're after something with a wintry plot. Christmas horror suggestions are welcome too. A friend is screening a 90 minute movie after me, so the longest I could get away with is a 44 minute TV episode. [more inside]
This is a very simple question I guess, but that's the long and the short of it. Crawlspace is flooded, which killed our central heater. Our cast iron insert is damp and I'm unsure as to whether we should burn anything in it. [more inside]
I am fascinated by 70s/early 80s motion graphics, most often in the form of TV station bumpers and network identities. A great example is this show reel from 1978. How on earth did they get these effects with (I'm assuming) optical printers and mirrors?
I'm trying to get my family to stay active together during the winter. I was thinking about workout videos, but I'm not sure where to start. [more inside]
Going to meet up with my mom in Austin for Thanksgiving weekend. Neither one of us has ever been before. Where should we eat, drink, and hear great live music over Thanksgiving weekend? [more inside]
I have a 2004 Jeep Liberty. I was in my garage when it unlocked itself. I used my key fob to lock it back. A few seconds later the Jeep again unlocked itself. After several lockings and unlockings I decided to just leave it unlocked. However, even unlocked, the Jeep tries to unlock itself about every 30 seconds. Help? [more inside]
We would love to rent out our condo in Vancouver—or participate in some kind of home exchange—but are reluctant to leave our cat with strangers. (And local cat sitters are quite expensive.) Is there a site, or a filter on an existing site, to find others in a similar situation? [more inside]
Going on three years of marriage after a tumultuous two years of dating and an even more tumultuous engagement. I got married because at the time I was 33 and I thought my time was running out. I wanted to get married and start a family right away. Then I realized I don't love or even like my husband very much at all. [more inside]
I made took a simple chicken and noodles recipe and doctored it up a little bit with onions, celery, shallots, and carrots. Otherwise the same recipe (I added a like 2 ounces more broth than they called for, and cream of mushroom instead of chicken). I'm not sure what happened, but the result in my crock pot with ~2 hours remaining is very, very soupy, and doesn't look right at all. Is there anything I could do to salvage this and make it creamy?
I've been listening to the code newbie podcast recently, and really enjoying it. The most recent podcast interviewee I find very likable - Can anyone help me identify what it might be about her that is so like-able? (Or maybe it's just me?) [more inside]
I've seen reports that Amlodipine/Norvasc and grapefruit will basically kill you. I've seen reports that you'll be fine as long as grapefruit isn't your only liquid source. My prescription says "don't take with grapefruit products" (emphasis mine). Which is it? Should I avoid grapefruit for 2h? 12h? Forever?
I'm starting to study a life-cycle science called Sanmeigaku (Japanese Astrology). I'm slowly translating a book about it with a friend but we found out this table and we're stumped. It seems to be important to determine the correct meaning of the readings. Any help would be greatly appreciated!
What shouldn't we miss around the Romantic Road area of Germany and South Tyrol region of Italy? [more inside]
I need a running jacket for a 38 degree weather with rain and wind (and in the dark sometimes) [more inside]
Through a series of un/fortunate events, my CV is littered with copywriting, marketing and social media management experience. I set up my own business several years ago, doing all such things. On paper, I'm a marketeer. First problem? I can't stand it any longer. Second problem? Where do I start...? [more inside]
Why is it so difficult to determine which over-the-counter items are eligible for Flex Spending Accounts? [more inside]
Sewers and couturiers and designers of MeFi, where do you buy your silk charmeuse? [more inside]
I'm looking for a Wordpress theme that is similar to the style of a certain page, and I'm coming up with nothing. [more inside]
I worked in insurance for over five years. A good chunk of the freelance writing I do relates to the insurance industry. And it sometimes leaves a bad taste in my mouth because some of it is looking to make money off of people trying to comply with Obamacare and avoid the penalty for not having coverage. Please suggest names for an insurance alternatives site and how best to position it. [more inside]
My googlings have been unsucessful because the keywords I can come up with are all very generic terms, since I recall very little about the film or watch. [more inside]
It always just craps out after a few seconds, saying "An error has resulted."
I'm driving from Memphis to Mobile next week and have 2-3 days to spare in between. What places should I see? [more inside]
For various tl;dr reasons summarized within, I would like to have a laptop that has no internet access. Changing settings, using internet filters, etc. are not an option. I need a laptop that has no hope whatsoever of connecting with the internet. I've tried to do this myself with my tiny brain and limited experience and failed. Can you help me? [more inside]
Not-terrible, sub-$50 microphone for iPhone for interviewing parents? [more inside]
Our downstairs neighbours are using poison to combat a rat problem. Our bathroom already smells putrid from a dead rat somewhere in the vicinity of the relevant air duct. While the rats rot downstairs, can I block off the vents in my apartment to try to reduce the odour? If so, how can I do this safely, cheaply, and effectively? [more inside]
Sort of recently (about 2 & a half months in) moved to a brand new town so my husband (I'm, 29, he's 32) could go to uni. I was so stoked on having a clean slate to start everything anew, but not so much any more. Reality has set in and i'm dealing with soaring bouts of anxiety and pretty severe mood swings, and can't seem to decide anything tangible to get shit actually done. Any ideas / practical advice regarding how to deal with this would be so welcome. I have so much time alone i think i'm actually going a little nuts. More inside [more inside]
I have a small home windmill and wish to extract even the tiniest bit of heat from the 12v DC electricity it generates. The heat would be used to help warm water. [more inside]
Question for my fellow Canuck photographers - do you have a preferred option for online photo printing and delivery? [more inside]
I'm transgender and taking steps towards starting hormones (T) in the new year. A cisgender romantic partner is fully supportive, but nervous about the future. Hope us find resources (blogs, first-person essays, podcasts) created by and for cis partners of trans people? [more inside]
This month the progress of my father's dementia came to a decision point, as his drivers license was suspended on Halloween. Getting him to give up driving has been fraught, as one might expect. I've been kicked out of his house twice now, but have ultimately managed to get him to stop driving. I don't blame him, as I know it's his illness, but I'm left wondering if I have to accept that he is incapable of cooperating at all in getting him the care he needs. [more inside]
This risks being overly vague, but I'm really curious about how it works for other people. We have a child (and one on the way); I work part-time (but hope to go full time at some point) and my husband has a flexible job. And still, everything is -- crazy. Help? [more inside]
When Mickey Mouse is animated in 2D, his ears are always two black circles facing the camera. Disney once experimented with more realistic perspective ears, but went back to the old style. [more inside]
I don't have asthma, but I do have problems with shallow breathing and poor support. The doctor said there was no medical reason for it, but rather poor habits that I developed in childhood. [more inside]
When my hair gets to any substantial length, it starts to look like what can best be described as ragamuffin. I need to find a style that works for me that doesn't require a lot of styling in the mornings. Extensive details inside. [more inside]
Movies, tv shows, YouTube, books .... looking for the BIG LAUGH. Not ironic, not sarcastic. Immediately, viscerally funny. [more inside]
Help me fatten my cookbook with recipes that create copious amounts of food that last a while. [more inside]
Hello everyone, I've been dating this 23 yo grad school student that I met online for the past 6 weeks. We've been going out once a week (6 dates total). We've kissed but haven't been intimate yet. The dates have been fun and we both seem to enjoy each other's company. The only problem is that we barely communicate in between dates. He would only text me to make plan for the date and sometimes we would go for 3-4 days without talking to each other. [more inside]
What is the best piece of home exercise equipment, with the smallest footprint, for a 6'5" guy? [more inside]
Can anybody give me some examples of characters in film, television, or literature who incidentally have an illness or disability (i.e., their illness or disability does not somehow become a central plot device)? [more inside]
I'm looking for two hotels in Chicago, one convenient to Lincoln Park/Lakeview and the other one convenient to Wicker Park, for a weeklong stay for 3 people. A consideration is that we will have a car that we will be using frequently. [more inside]
I am trying to think of the title/author of a science fiction story I read and loved from a couple of decades ago... [more inside]
This Japanese trawler was photographed in the North Pacific, probably not too far from the southern end of the Kamchatka Peninsula, in late June 1957. Its name may have been something like Hokusen Maru. Its home port may have been Hakodate. I want to find anyone who was part of its crew when the photo was taken. [more inside]
Bank transfer by Stripe asking for my passport number? [more inside]
Hello all, I'm having some trouble in the dating world. I'm in my early 30s and male. I'm not rich, don't have an excellent career, and haven't traveled the world. I'm educated and make an OK living, but that doesn't seem to be enough for the women who live here. [more inside]
I'm in New York, supposed to fly to Minneapolis for Thanksgiving next week (flight is Monday but I could bump back). I'm an American citizen, but I don't have a driver's license and I lost my passport yesterday. Is there anything I can do? [more inside]
Electrician needed. Can anyone recommend an electrician in the knoxville Tennessee area? Work is on an older house, installing 3 pronged outlets, and outside light installation. Thanks!
Quarterly Essay is mentioned here and sounds really interesting. I've read The American Interest, The Economist and Foreign Affairs while stuck in airports, and currently subscribe to Z Magazine. What other political / current affairs exist and how would they be described (format / political position)?
I have a domain that's expiring soon (less than 2 weeks) and I want to get it renewed. It's managed at GoDaddy, and has been since I bought it. However, with the price they're asking for renewal, I'm wondering if I can't get a better deal elsewhere. Would it be better to switch, and if so, which company would you recommend? As always, unique white precipitation inside. [more inside]
I am looking for a queer friendly therapist anywhere from Tacoma to Seattle. ADHD experienced is also a plus. [more inside]
A friend brought an 18-pack of Miller Lites to our house, and we now have a bunch of excess Miller Lites nestled in our kitchen. I am wondering what kinds of cocktail recipes might make 'em more interesting. Beermosas and Micheladas are my classics for brunch, but what cocktails made with a light bland lager do YOU love? Yes, YOU; I'm asking YOU, dear reader!
Help me find this handbag? [more inside]
I'm looking for a higher-quality replacement for my favorite leather boots. Google, AskMe archives, Frye and other sites yield nothing so far. I guess front lace-up boots are not the trend right now; surely the style is classic, and someone's making them? FWIW, I'm female with average width calves. [more inside]
We are urban homeowners who don't own a car, relying on various car sharing services around town. But we travel, and when we travel we often rent cars. Every time we rent cars, we end up having to pay $15/day for liability insurance. How can we become insured drivers without owning a car? [more inside]
Career options for recent graduates with bad grades? [more inside]
Zendesk: Paid support for my open source app. Is this a good way to monetize my Open Source Software? [more inside]
We're looking into a new car; haven't car shopped in a decade and a half. I'm at least vaguely aware that there are a lot of new high-tech features out there but for someone who last time around thought finally having a remote keyfob was pretty neat, it's hard to see what's actually valuable vs. what's just shiny nonsense. What hybrid compact or subcompact hatchback would you recommend and what are the features that are really valuable to you? [more inside]
Going to Roswell for a day or so and looking to eat some good local Food. Never been to NM before and I want something that NM is known for. Recommendations?
Please help me pick an activity tracker that fits my needs from the seemingly limitless options out there. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Roasting a turkey breast to serve to my child's class and their families for a potluck lunch next week. I won't have time to roast it that morning, so I have to roast it the day before, refrigerate it overnight, and then bring it hot. What's the best way to do that? [more inside]
Yeas ago at Christmas I used to paint black lines on a window to create a Dickensian diamond pane leaded glass look. I remember the clean up~being very messy. Is there a black tape that would do the job while not leaving a lot of residue behind on the window?
I am in awe of the footage of New Years Eve in Manila. Where can I stay to get a view like this in Manila on NYE? [more inside]
I have recently become very interested in Taoism. Overwhelmed by the choices to read about it in English. Any must read recommendation on it in English will be really deeply appreciated.
I am 25 weeks pregnant, and was just admitted to the hospital with an incompetent cervix (IC). My condition is stable, but this is a stressful time for us and I'm looking for some help on how to prepare for what could be my new, preemie, very tiny, baby son. Thank you! [more inside]
I'm going to be in San Francisco for a week, and I'm looking for some stores that specialize in antique fine arts (prints, drawings, paintings, etc) and antique decorative arts (ceramics, jewelry, crystal, silver, etc.). [more inside]
I am about to go on a medical leave from work because of some mental health issues. I feel ashamed and guilty, and I don't know how to tell my manager - email? Meeting (how could I not cry in a meeting)? What specific words and phrases can I use so that he won't know or guess the reason for my leave? What do I say, and how? [more inside]
I'm a beginner runner and I'd like to keep running through winter. I'm a total wimp about running in the dark and cold. Lets change that... [more inside]
I'm going to have quite a long layover in Kiev on Christmas night. Is there anything I can do other than find a place in the airport to camp out? [more inside]
I'd like to hire someone to help me make an RSS aggregator, to replace a yahoo-pipes<, what is the best way to go about hiring for ultra-small scale projects like this? [more inside]
In my last question I asked how to structure long, intricate arguments. Now I'm specifically asking for book-length examples that make the argument explicit. [more inside]
What's a photo hosting (like Google Photos) site that's free and accessible in China? [more inside]
What is the reason that a leg massage would give me uncontrollable fits of laughter? [more inside]
I need some Thanksgiving menu guidance. I feel my current menu is missing some crunch/freshness/tang. [more inside]
We've got more hamburger meat in our freezer right now than we've probably eaten in the past ten years. We've found two recipes for it that we like--can you point us to more like these two, so we can get some more hamburgery variety? [more inside]
A federal agency uses gmail as their email service provider. I use this federal version of gmail as part of my job and need to be able to find and reproduce gchat/gtalk/hangouts exchanges I've had with colleagues. Why is this so hard? Why. [more inside]
I have Photoshop CC and a cheap drawing tablet. I would like to learn to make art such as this. I'm a beginner trying to teach myself through online tutorials, and not having much luck. How else can I learn? [more inside]
My little brother, who, by all accounts, is brilliant at math, science, and especially computer engineering, has struggled with English classes his whole life. He is struggling in college and is falling behind. More details within. [more inside]
I remember one scene from a movie -- but what movie is it? A boy is sitting on the floor watching TV. We know that the kid's dad is a butcher. The boy is thinking about what he wants for Christmas (there's a narrator) -- typical toys. The Dad walks in with a large package wrapped in white paper and throws it on the floor and says "Hey kid, Merry Christmas" in a totally flat tone. We know the package is a side of beef or something like that, but I can't remember how we know that. [more inside]
I had a crummy experience during my morning commute just now that made me feel pretty awful. How can I keep this from ruining the rest of my day, and what can I do in the future if it happens again? [more inside]
Thanks to all the help I got on this question I've decided on a two week trip from Las Vegas to Glacier National park. Our destinations are various parks in Utah, Yellowstone/Tetons and Glacier NP. Our focus is nature and history. I haven't mapped out our route and would like help with 1) must see things and 2) one or two cities/town that are interesting and fun. Traveling -> one 9 year old boy and 4 adults.
So I've just been given a date for some genital reconstruction surgery in a couple of months, and am looking for advice on how best to plan for surviving the hospital stay and recovery without going insane, and what I need to know. If you've had this sort of thing done, what'd you wish you'd known or done? [more inside]
How do I co-author a book? How do I make a contract with the other author? [more inside]
I have tons of photos of me and my partner on my iphone and would like to put them all together in a grid fashion (maybe 10x7 photos ish) to then be sent off and printed so i can frame it and give it to her as a present. I would really like an app that would be able to do all of this in one shot but cant seem to see any. Failing that, any other option that is kind of straight forward. Id rather not be messing around with Photoshop templates and stuff if possible.
I've been given the opportunity to apply for one of two roles within the same organisation; one is a software dev, the other is team leader of the software dev team. Team leaders: how much of your time is taken up with the administration of your team? [more inside]
Last night I let a stranger use my mobile phone to make a call. The whole interaction gave me a weird vibe. Could I be at risk of being the victim of a scam of some sort? [more inside]
I have approximately a $1,500 USD budget and want to buy a telescope. I am pretty sure I want a Cassegrain (SCT or Mak of some sort) for portability. And I am pretty sure I want a German Equatorial Mount (GEM) for ease of manually tracking objects and the potential of maybe one day exploring astrophotography. I had selected the Celestron VX 8" SCT as it seemed to give me everything I was looking for. Then I learned about Push-To as an alternative to GoTo and that has given me pause. [more inside]
I live in a studio apartment with parquet flooring. The building is old for one in Toronto (~25 years), and the heating comes from pipes embedded in the ceiling of the room. The tenants right under my unit have their heat constantly turned on, which means my floor is constantly hot. Turning on my AC and two fans all the time doesn't solve the problem, and is borderline surreal as I embark on yet another Toronto winter. [more inside]
I'm sure this is a stupid question, but I wondered. Why don't cell phones and other chargeable electronics charge multiple small batteries in parallel? The analogy is like this: * I have one cell phone with a large battery that takes 3 hours to charge. * I have three cell phones with small batteries that take 1 hour to charge. Why can't cell phones just have 3 smaller batteries and charge them all at the same time, and therefore make the charging faster?
I have an US Verizon number and want to forward them to me in Sydney. [more inside]
I've never been to the Grand Canyon. Isn't that terrible? I have next week off of work and am thinking about taking a road trip to go see it. I've also never been to the Painted Desert or the Petrified Forest, so I ought to do those as well. [more inside]
The world seems dark and depressing and full of rasicm and sexism and transphobia. Just general hate. Can you tell me how to not let it eat away at your soul? [more inside]
Help me cure my sofa. [more inside]
I author a knitting blog. It makes driblets of money. I've done the math, and for me to get what I would consider a worthwhile level of compensation for the ten hours of work I put into it every week, my blog needs to get 20 times the traffic it currently gets. Does anyone have any brilliant ideas as to what I can do to increase my traffic? [more inside]
I’ve tried to search various times, but this seems to be one of those questions that’s hard for search engines. Suppose one is an American and loves the Desert Southwest but would like to live in another country. Sonoran Mexico would be an obvious answer, but where else would be similar and would be a good place to live? I know there are many things about the area that are unique.
I am still running Snow Leopard (maybe issue #1) yet have tried to batch edit shows in MetaZ and Subler, but I simply don't know how to do a bulk edit. [more inside]
Outdated-tech-filter: need help possibly restoring two micro cassette tapes. It sounds like there's just nothing on them... are they degraded? Demagnetized? Is that even a thing, and can it be fixed? [more inside]
My 2-year-old cat is at the veterinarian’s office overnight. I’m afraid she may not have much time left. I’m looking for more information than I’ve got so far so I have a better idea of what I’m dealing with. [more inside]
What are some alternate ideas about the ultimate reality of life and death? Everyone knows the standard metaphysics of the major religions: Heaven, hell, karma/reincarnation and so on. But what are some alternate ideas about life and death's true reality? [more inside]
Hi all - My husband came in the door today shaken. His AAR (Access-A-Ride) trip home today involved a driver who "handled him roughly", a torn sweater, and a one-inch piece of plastic hanging out of said sweater. I think this is potentially a case of negligence. More inside. [more inside]
I live in an apartment with my sister. We got a notice on our door this morning that in 48 hours construction workers are coming to completely replace both windows, and both balcony doors between 8am to 5pm on Wednesday. The notice suggests all residents just be out of their apartments during this time (and cover furniture with sheets because of the dust) but we both can't for so many reasons. [more inside]
Looking for a music video from the '80s. Pop/dance music, features a guy and a girl on a swing facing each other with the camera mounted on the swing as it moves back and forth. Interesting spinning effects as I recall. Had heavy play probably on BET (possibly MTV or VH1) for a short period, my guess is mid 80's.
EXIT-Germany did a famous stunt that turned a Neo-Nazi march into a fundraiser for their organisation, which helps Neo-Nazis get out of that life. Are there groups in the United Kingdom who can help people move on from hate groups? What about the US? [more inside]
I have a microwave above my rangetop stove. Its exhaust runs through the back of the cabinet above the microwave. In the winter, this cabinet can get pretty cold since that exhaust is open to the outside of the house. I'm worried about wasting energy (ala, this cabinet is letting the hot air out of my house). What can I do? Should I bother? [more inside]
You know the little plastic feet on the bottom of a mouse that should allow it to skate effortlessly across a mouse pad? How do you make them smooth again once they've been roughed up? Sanding? Nail polish?? (I have two Logitech M510's. The older mouse is better, except for its scruffy little feet.)
I badly need a dental procedure and it's looking increasingly like it won't be possible to get it. Do you have any ideas about a hail mary pass at this point? [more inside]
Do you have a favorite? [more inside]
Our USPS mail carrier appears to have some problem with us, and it's fucking up our mail delivery in weird ways. What are my options? [more inside]
I'm not asking whether I should let become our kid's caregiver. It will NEVER happen, due to what I've seen from her since having the baby. But obviously I can't let her retire on false pretenses. How in the world do I put these worms back in the can while trying to salvage what's left of our relationship? [more inside]
Should we go to Paris this Sunday? [more inside]
Good news: I have been to the optometrist and got a new glasses prescription! Bad news: it'll be a week or so until they get here, and my face hurts. [more inside]
Please help me 1. stop using social media and 2. find other "home" pages for my day's exposure to the world. Complicating factor: I use social media for work. [more inside]
My son has been accused of misdemeanor sexual battery, California Penal Code 243.4e. He talked to a detective, but has not yet been charged. What now? You are not his lawyer and cannot give legal advice... but maybe you can give some insight? [more inside]
I'm on a committee that is being asked for a grant of $10,000 to produce a 3-hour continuing education program for lawyers. The venue is free of charge, and the speakers will be members of the bar association sponsoring it, so I assume they are not charging either. The bar will not charge admission; they will make the program streamable from their website. [more inside]
My laptop (and only my laptop) keeps randomly losing its internet connection after 20 minutes. Disconnecting and reconnecting to my wifi fixes this temporarily, but I haven't got a clue how to even approach fixing this. [more inside]
I have a cheap pre-paid 100-minute unlimited data + text plan from T-mobile. I use wifi calling at home, but the minutes fly by even though I don't talk much when I'm out. When I am out of minutes, people get a "you cannot call at this time" message with no opportunity to leave a voice mail. Is there a way for me to set up voice messages through data or otherwise? Do I have any other options besides changing my plan? [more inside]
I'm looking for a house in Raleigh or possibly Durham. I need an agent who won't make me miserable. I know a great guy in Durham, but unfortunately he doesn't know Raleigh very well. He doesn't know all the stuff like "Everyone wants to be on this street because it's next to (nice thing)" etc. So I'm thinking maybe I should find a Raleigh-specific agent. The difficulty is finding a good agent. [more inside]
In the 1980s and 1990s more than today, there were tons of commercials for products that you had to call or write to an address to order from. Putting aside the fact that nobody would really want most of the stuff that was being advertised, how did they ever expect the following to happen... [more inside]
Where can I buy clothes online for a plus-size male? [more inside]
My neighbors, who raise backyard quail, were given another bird about a month ago by someone who apparently found her (him?) in a gutter nearby. Initial assumption was that NewBird was also a quail...but six weeks later, it's pretty clear that isn't the case. Local wildlife agencies have been slow to get back to my neighbors -- any bird experts in the house here want to weigh in? (Additional details and photos within.) [more inside]
Looking for a tool to use — a cross-platform app or web app would be great, or alternatively a method we can apply and use with something basic. I work on a voluntary campaign team where it would be really helpful to dump our knowledge in a shared location where it can be mapped and searched, both for us now and for handover. Paid solutions are probably out of our reach. [more inside]
I like to listen to albums and playlists from my music collection on my iPhone. I don't need a streaming service, or radio, or recommendations, or social networks. I just want a simple user interface that lets me pick out an album (or maybe a playlist) and listen to it. Does such a thing exist for iOS? The built-in music app has gotten way too complicated, and does not work well for me or my family. [more inside]
We are heading to Switzerland next spring and are researching the most efficient method of moving our bodies from Orlando to Zurich. In this case the word efficient means the melding of economy, few transfers and speed (ie: we don;t want to spend 24 hours making this journey). We found a direct flight from Tampa (point on transfers & speed, debits for economy) but there's no direct flight back. Options involving a single transfer that gets us close is optimum, as is flying out of Tampa or Jacksonville (we try to avoid the mess that is International travel through Miami).
As part of some merger among hospitals, my wife, a primary care physician, is now being asked to sign an agreement to follow the Ethical and Religious Directives of Catholic Health Care Services as a condition for her continued employment. The directives conflict with her own conscience and medical judgement. Is this legal? Does she have any recourse, if she chooses not to sign? [more inside]
Is there a way to use say google maps to hone [first time using that word in a sentence feels good] in on a specific location for business or even job opportunities?
I'm looking for more music that combines spare, dub-steppish beats with soulful-but-altered vocals, in the vein of FKA Twigs and Burial. I am not looking for sick drops. I have a dim idea that there is a lot out there, or that this genre even has a name, but am in need of clues.
I have a minor disability that limits my mobility somewhat. It's not immediately visible, so you wouldn't know about it unless I told you. I'm just now starting to date again. At what point should I tell a potential mate that I have this disability, and what is a good way to address the subject? [more inside]
Can you identify this font? I'd love a free equivalent.
Hello HiveMind! I have just moved to Chevy Chase, Maryland and I work in DC. I am looking for recommendations for: 1.) an acupuncturist/ Traditional Chinese Medicine practitioner. 2. Cooking classes, a health coach, or meetup group for eating Plant- strong: When I was in Boston, Whole Foods had a Healthy Eating Specialist, and Health Starts Here classes, however, in the DC area, such services do not exist. I would love any and all advice on how to support this new lifestyle- I don’t know how to cook 3. Neurofeedback or ADD Executive Coaching- I have used neurofeedback in the past for attention issues. I would love to find a good practitioner.
I'm currently going to a nurse practitioner as a substitute for a psychiatrist. The problem is, I sometimes get the feeling that she doesn't understand psychotropic medications well enough to be prescribing them; for example, she didn't know what beta blockers were when I brought them up. What are the differences between a nurse practitioner and psychiatrist? Should I trust the nurse practitioner, or should I make the extra effort to find a full-fledged psychiatrist?
In a moment of misguided sympathy, I signed as a "friend" of a charitable group. I did not look them up first, nor had I heard of them before. I have now. [more inside]
My boyfriend got sick at the last minute before our planned trip. Should I still ask him to cover his half of the hotel room? Details within. [more inside]
I've been doing a lot of hands-on failure analysis and inspection for my work, and I need a good way to dictate inspection notes using my iphone. You know in TV when the coroner describes the autopsy as he's doing it? Like that. I'd really prefer it to be an iOS app, but some kind of laptop app would be vaguely acceptable. Specific Required features inside. [more inside]
So, I feel like I am losing all grip on reality. I feel aimless, horrible…and confused. (continued below) [more inside]
I love to hear stories of people who got famous simply because they were quite awful at doing something. I don't mean "x is a famous musician, and he sucks." I mean that people sought out x in droves and made up drinking games for his records because he sucks so much despite thinking himself genius. This can be in any field, any era. My favorite two examples are below the fold. [more inside]
In the late 70s or early 80s, I saw a TV show that involved a kid who wasn't supposed to open a glowing door. The kid reached for the door... he was about to open it... and at that point, I got freaked out and ran out of the TV room. My sense of terror makes it one of my more vivid childhood memories, and to this day, I often wonder what was behind that door. From these vague details, can you help me figure out what the show was so I can finally find the answer? [more inside]
We're considering taking out two girls to Disneyland next spring, when they'll be 7 and 3 1/2. Is this too young? [more inside]
We were getting close to making an offer on a home — but the house was a lifestyle upgrade, not a necessity. This month we found out a kid is on the way (whoo!), and we're trying to decide if the house is still doable, or if we should save our pennies for the little person-to-be? [more inside]
I'm trying to decide whether to leave a cushy but very frustrating government job for one at a private firm. [more inside]
I booked a couple tickets from New York City JFK to Columbus Ohio for 11/17 with AA for my parents. I just found out they may be coming from New York to Columbus any day other than 11/17. AA change fee is 200 plus the difference. That's sooooo high on these 280*2 tickets. Any idea of how to change the ticket to get the minimum change fee?? Thank you! Plus, AA never sent me confirmation number via email or phone. I called today to confirm the purchase. Not sure if that's gonna help my case.
Someone sent me a link (and I trust the link) to download a very large number of photos. What's the best way for me to do so? [more inside]
I have long term pain arising somewhere in the inner thigh that happens only when the leg is raised with the knee bent. Straight leg lifts are pain free. I need to know which muscles are involved so as to take appropriate action to heal. Any advice most welcome.
I'm a young professor working in an interesting but crowded field. The main reason I got into academia is that I love communicating ideas. I also tend to have a stream of side projects, some of which are too small or vague to merit a research paper. And I like writing. So I was thinking of starting a blog of sorts... [more inside]
I've been assigned dessert for a Thanksgiving food drive. Everything needs to be dropped off this week, so it will have to sit around for a bit before it gets eaten. What's your favorite supermarket dessert that will still taste good in a week?
For my NanoWrimo story, my FMC has been transported 20 years into the past and 4000 miles ("4234.7 miles, to be exact.") across the Atlantic to the USA. She works as a web designer and I have one or two questions about this. [more inside]
A few days ago I started getting vertigo, though I don't seem to have any other symptoms (nausea, dizziness) that people have asked about before. Why is this happening? Is this something to worry about? YANAD, YANMD - but right now, I have no doctor! More details inside. [more inside]
What are the best fish for a widescreen 13 gallon aquarium? [more inside]
We're going to a potluck to honor our football team (Minnesota United FC). Based on a supporter's in-joke, I'd like to bring 3 dishes entitled: 1. Not Hot Nuts 2. Hot Hot Nuts and 3. Hot Hot Hot Hot Hot Hot Nuts [more inside]
I was accepted into an MSW program next fall to become an LCSW. I’m concerned about this working out because I have a hard time fitting into office cultures. I particularly have problems with women--and since they dominate the agencies I’m wondering if I should do this? A few scattered snowflakes inside. [more inside]
Looking for advice/information on reducing humidity and mold growth in my apartment? [more inside]
What is the proper series of credits given to a screenplay which was liberally adapted from a short story, but which was selected for adaptation (and premise changed) by someone other than the screenwriter? [more inside]
I have my ears pierced and don't want them to grow in. I want a small (or even tiny) pair of earrings that are pretty and subtle (so that they match everything) and flat (so that I can sleep in them and they won't bug my ears or head) and affix in a way that they'll never ever fall out. [more inside]
I'm probably moving to Seattle next June. What neighborhoods should I look at to live car-free with my wife and 11 year-old daughter that will have an urban feel but still be safe and have good schools? [more inside]
I'm looking for a way to mirror a desktop Windows PC to an Android tablet. [more inside]
My 17yo son just finished the last available book in the Game is Life series by Terry Schott and is looking for other books he might enjoy. What he likes: YA science fiction, light fantasy, in-depth character development. Other books he has enjoyed: His Majesty's Dragon, The Martian, and Ender's Game. Any suggestions would be appreciated, thanks!
One way I like to explore and discover new (rather, new to me) music is by sifting deep through a record label's back catalog. I'd love to hear about labels I don't already know about or that I may have overlooked. My taste spans all genres, but I'm specifically seeking labels that feature world music/music of the non-West, field recordings, lost gems and rarities, non-commercial/non-profit, and generally obscure and/or outsider recordings. [more inside]
Is there a way I can use 205/65 r15 tires on a car that's recommended to have 205/60/r16 tires? The r15 tires are not on rims but I would purchase if needed. I would like to avoid buying a new set of tires if I can, but if it'll damage the car or affect safety in any way then that becomes more important. Thanks in advance!
My in-laws gifted us with a Disney cruise for Christmas. My daughter will need to use her car seat for hotel shuttles. I've never taken her on public transportation before. Do you have any tips? Do I simply carry the seat base everywhere with me and strap it into taxi and shuttle seats? Is that practical? Or do I not bring the base and simply hold the car seat? I have no idea how other people have approached this. Thanks for your experienced advice!
My wife and I are considering buying a place that requires a kitchen and bath renovation in Park Slope, Brooklyn. Our real estate agent is suggesting we get an architect or contractor to come in, take a look, and give us an estimate before we even put in an offer. A couple questions: (i) is this necessary? We've done some research online and have a good general idea of how much kitchen and bathroom renovations cost - or I am I wrong and we really need a individualized estimate?; (ii) we don't have any friends who are architects/contractors - how would we go about finding one to come by a place we haven't even put an offer in on yet and give us an estimate?; (iii) assuming we go forward, with or without getting an estimate up front, how do we find a good architect and/or contractor - and do we need both? Any answers, suggestions, resources, etc. would be greatly appreciated - thanks!
Could anyone suggest a feminist activist in London, UK, who could be invited to speak on the topic of slutshaming? [more inside]
Looking to find or recreate an piercing image sign on a bodega door in NYC on the day that Mr. Roger's died that said "It's a sad day in the neighborhood." Also searching for ways to make millions of dollars at home doing nothing and for world peace. [more inside]
We're nearly done remodelling our bathroom. All that's left is a fixture to go over the vanity. We have this idea we'd like a four bulb fixture (maybe three) with Edison bulbs. But everything else we've got is chrome and we aren't finding a match. Ideas? [more inside]
I'm turning 30 soon. I don't want to look ridiculous, but I don't want to give up my bright colors and girly style either. Help! [more inside]
I have been getting into quilting lately, and I love looking at pictures of beautiful quilts out there that other people have made. Do you have any quilt blogs that you follow and love? [more inside]
I'm at a conference and feeling like a failure. I know about power poses, I've started blasting upbeat music in my headphones when I'm going from place to place, and I've started doing little mindfulness/body checks if I'm feeling really alarmed. What else can I be doing to combat my imposter syndrome/crises of confidence, right now?
Partner and I would like to use an oil-based primer on our moldings and baseboards, then use a no-VOC eco-friendly paint (Colorhouse; MSDS) for the topcoat. I've successfully used run-of-the-mill latex over oil primer before. But does anyone have experience with using no-VOC paint over oil primer? [more inside]
I sew and do a lot of fabric crafting. I've had cheap plastic irons (that broke) and I've been using a 60's vintage heavy-weight metal Sunbeam from the thrift store, but after my last round of all day sewing and ironing, it seems that I have worn the sole plate down to whatever the base metal is and it's leaving marks on my fabric. Yes, I will try cleaning the sole plate, but perhaps it's time for an upgrade. Do you sew a lot and have a heavy-weight iron you can recommend?
I have a few hundred dollars worth of 2 cent USPS stamps, how can I convert them into money? The are about 5 years old, in the original packages, shrink-wrapped as new.
I'm looking for materials, tips, and ideas on working with elementary school kids. Many of them come from economically challenged families, lack stability, and have experienced significant trauma. [more inside]
Hello there. I'm looking for music with certain attributes. I want it to be electronic (is that even the word?), with a decent amount of energy but not too fast, and most of all, repetitive. Prefer no vocals but if they are repetitive and as monotone as possible that's fine too. [more inside]
Hello MeFi! I am doing a 5-month internship at my local rescue center and I will have twelve 24h shifts every month. I'm located in a dense district with the highest number of operations in my city. On average, I will have around 15 interventions scattered in a day. It means that I'll have small chunks of sleep on my shifts, it is especially painful when they are 48h shifts. [more inside]
Is there an example layout-template of this, including the attached memo to support the motion (I'm assuming that the memo to support a motion is FIRAC, too)?
How do w help reunite a stuck bird with the out of doors? [more inside]
I am a 40-something woman who was diagnosed with Bipolar II and ADHD about a decade ago. I have also suffered from chronic insomnia throughout my life, more so as I get older. Up until recently, I was able to find an acceptable sort of holding pattern through both talk therapy and medications, but a recent change of meds has sent me into a horrible, months-long insomnia, followed by a nervous collapse, followed by days of nausea and painful indigestion. I saw a doctor last week and I am going to see him again in the next few days, but I wanted see if anyone can tell me A) why I my body is acting this way, B) what I might be able to do to mitigate my situation, and C) how I might explain to my work why I am so indisposed from a confluence of individually benign ailments. [more inside]
My feeds are getting boring to me. I was reading quite a few home reno blogs but really I'm interested in reading well written material on a range of subjects. I guess that is too broad though...so maybe I like blogs about films or television, pop culture, literature, or art and design? [more inside]
I have a rather extensive (read: physically burdensome) library of books I'd collected over the years that I'd like to digitize to take with me as I move on to my next adventure. I'm wondering what the best (most efficient, reliable, and economically efficient) way is to digitally preserve a large library of books as PDFs. I'm especially concerned to prevent files from becoming corrupted over time. [more inside]
Can anyone suggest a great ear-bud headset for an android phone that has a high quality mic for phone conversations?
This is really a multiple-part, branching question. 1. Are wolves that afraid of thunder? 2. If they aren't, why are dogs? (Subquestion: Did we have something to do with it?) 3. If they are, why haven't they evolved out of it? And it goes on from there. Cats in my experience don't freak out nearly as much. I don't know about things like elephants or hyenas, who also must face grave threat from lightning. There doesn't seem to be a shred of anything worth reading about this anywhere.
So tomorrow we will be bringing home our new kitten Matthew Meowdock. This will be my first ever kitten, and I'm trying to make sure he integrates into our household (including our existing dog and cat) reasonably easily. Difficulty: Matthew is completely blind. If you have or have had a blind cat, what do you wish you'd known at first? [more inside]
Over the last few weeks I've start getting recurrent and consistent headaches...at work. And only at work. Nothing has changed and I don't know how to go about fixing this. [more inside]
I'm thinking of replacing my current 3+ year old Mac mini workstation for a 2015 27" iMac 5k but after doing some research I think the 2013 Mac Pro might make more sense. [more inside]
I am a single dad currently functioning as a transplant in a new city. I've been here a year, but haven't had much luck in meeting people. ❅ ❄ ❆ inside. [more inside]
I am instructed by my lawyer to change banks immediately. I remember seeing an ad, which I cannot place in time, for a bank which would let you build categories (kind of like budget lines) into your checking account. You could allocate X for household supplies, for instance. I have scoured these webs and cannot find such a thing. Does it still exist? What bank had it?
Should I get a new mole (ew) looked at? [more inside]
I was contacted recently by an ex-gf living in California, with a tale of woe. Sent some money along, and apparently things are getting worse, and amazingly, less believable. Any ideas on how to verify any of this? [more inside]
I'm experiencing a persistent dull ache on the left side of my lower back. How do I make it get better and prevent it from spreading? [more inside]
I was recently hired into an Associate XXXX position in the technology space and received a base salary of $80,000. This base salary is already around $10,000 higher than what the position typically pays in other cities. Now that I've been at the company for ~5 months and have been kicking ass, performance-wise, my boss told me that he'd like to get me promoted to full on XXXX position at my half-year mark because I'm outperforming my peers, and to a large extent, even Senior XXXX peers. But... [more inside]
Hi Hive: Our "Brother" laser Fax (Intelifax 2840) is giving us a "replace drum" message but fax quality is still quite good. Can we wait until the quality diminishes before we replace the drum, or will we harm the machine by waiting (which is what Office Depot told us). Thanks!
I'm trying to find a reflective women's running jacket-- not the kind with tiny little reflective strips at the zipper and seams, but the full-on blazing reflective jacket that lights up your entire torso when light hits you. It's getting dark early now and I don't like running at night/early morning with my current puny reflective-seam jacket. It's also very rainy (Pacific Northwest) so I'd like to avoid the boxy reflective-strip vests in favor of a jacket. [more inside]
I've read David Allen's "Getting Things Done" for the second time and gone all in on implementing the system. The only area I feel the system and guidance are a bit weak on is planning your day-to-day and moment-to-moment choices for next actions. [more inside]
Can you tell me the most useful, direct approaches to applying to schools to only write up my PhD thesis? [more inside]
Medically billing question: did I cost myself big by not asking enough questions, or was this doctor acting unusually? [more inside]
The Talenti gelato containers are the perfect size for leftovers, and storing small amounts of dry goods in the kitchen. I like the super wide mouth, and being able to run them through the dishwasher. Where can I buy more containers like this? (Without eating so much gelato.)
Can't believe I'm asking this question, but the thought never crossed my mind. While I should have been more responsible about this over the last 30 years or so, only now that I have a septic system have I started to worry about it. Shame on me, but being forced into a better habit... well, better late than never. I guess I'm looking for the best way to do dishes without wasting as much water. [more inside]
Are there metro systems not open to the general public? I know of Moscow's rumoured Metro-2, but are there others, either for military or civilian purposes, that are not part of a city's public transit system? I'd also be interested to know of rumoured systems, or any fictional systems described in great detail.
I've been listening to CDs on a crappy thrift store boombox for years now, and would like to buy some equipment to get me to a higher level of audio quality. The complication is that I live in a small apartment with small children, and don't have the space for a standard component stereo system. [more inside]
I've been listening to Karina Longworth's Hollywood-history podcast You Must Remember This, and it's made me realize that I'm a little culturally illiterate when it comes to movies. Can anyone help me find resources to make a list of movies that I should watch so that I can be the movie-watching version of a well-read person? I aim to watch particularly notable, excellent and/or influential movies and to have a sense of how the medium has developed over time. [more inside]
Bad things seem to happen a lot, and one of the problems I find myself running into is the fact that after the events happen, there's usually no quick and easy way to find out where to send any money or time. Is there a site anyone knows about that serves as a central place that gives suggestions to where to donate? [more inside]
I have been a big fan of mind mapping for almost 20 years now, and within the last 5 years started drawing flowcharts for use in my business planning processes. Recently I've taken to using gantt charts, too. I choose to hand-draw all three most of the time, and I get a lot of enjoyment out of it. So what are some other types of charts out there that I don't know about, that could be useful? Is there a catalog of visual language out there that I should know about, where all these different kinds of charts are listed?
Hi there. I just subscribed to a site called pilatesanytime.com, which offers numerous pilates videos for subscribers to watch. However, I’d like to be able to download the videos to my hard drive to watch when I don’t have an internet connection. I’m using a Mac with Firefox, Chrome and Safari. I’m an “intermediate”-level tech person, but the usual Firefox "get video" Fox extensions do NOT work on this site, nor is the underlying video file visible using such methods as “View Page Source” or Firebug. [more inside]
Hi all! For our wedding, we got a disc and rights to all of our photos, but no prints. As the holidays are approaching, we want to get some prints and nice frames to give close family. However, money is tight and we are lazy. What is the cheapest and easiest way to get a dozen or so prints and frames in standard sizes, at a quality level somewhere above we-bought-everything-at-the-dollar-store? Thanks!
How can I feel more comfortable around men, and find men who are gentle and solid and who I might like to date (as a queer/bi trans woman)? [more inside]
Coming at this from a psychological/sociological stance, not a personal/idosyncratic one. What are the broad categories of reasons someone doesn't do or get something they say they want? For example, one would be "Doesn't really want it" (actual desire or willingness to 'pay the cost'). Another: "Doesn't know how to achieve it" (the domain of knowledge/capability). And, perhaps, "Doesn't have permission" (no power/authority to effect the change). [more inside]
My fiancee is considering a career change and is looking at options in the vet tech field. It seems like there are plenty of job opportunities where we live (Toronto) but not a lot of reliable information about salary, working conditions, etc. compared to info from the US. [more inside]
I'm going to be cooking and freezing large quantities of meals for two family members (same household) who are undergoing medical difficulties. Suggestions needed! [more inside]
In light of recent events, I'm looking for situations where a terrorist attack has been widely believed to be the work of one group, but has turned out to be the work of another group. I am particularly interested in incidents were attackes were believed to be the work of Islamists, but turned out not to be.
I was wondering if any Metafilter crafters could help my wife out with a sewing problem she's having? Here's her question: "I make felt animals, usually of the jointed variety. I draw my own patterns and sew by hand, and it's been going fine up till now, but the last two creatures I made have both had a weird bunching at the neck. I've tried altering the width of the necks, the gussets, basting in advance, what-all, but I can't figure out what the problem is... [more inside]
My car (2010 vintage) is pre-HD radio. I want to get an HD radio for said car. I do not want a radio with all other kinds of stuff and HD. But, all of the HD radios come with full on radios and other bells and whistles. I have a perfectly nice radio, I just want the HD channels! Is this possible?
I have been offered an opportunity at a promising company in Ottawa, Canada. However, I'm a US citizen who has never lived outside of the US. Have any Metafites done this before? Do you regret it? Is this just a Bad Idea (TM)? [more inside]
I adopted a sweet 11yo black lab on Halloween. He's obviously still settling into home life after spending two months at the animal shelter, but in general things are going great. This was his first week with his midday dog walker, and I'm not feeling super pleased with the dog walker's services. Help me figure out if I'm right to be worried or I'm being an anxious, over-protective new (dog) Momma. [more inside]
I'm looking for some exercise equipment for my home: a treadmill, elliptical, or a stationary bike. I am a short woman and need something that I can actually use. I'd prefer to spend less than $550 total. [more inside]
There is a very high chance that a woman I have been seeing on a sort of friends-with-benefits relationship is terminating with me in a few weeks. I have unfortunately and against my best interest become emotionally invested in the relationship (despite signs that she was only looking for casual hook-ups). Now that the end seems to be fast approaching, is there anything I can do to reduce anxiety and make the process less painful? [more inside]
I'm fortunate enough to be taking a river cruise down the Danube in March 2016. Starts in Vienna, then Bratislava, terminating in Budapest. What must I see, do, ??? Four days, three nights. I'm an art lover- mostly Modern. But I want to see beauty, regardless of the century. Also love nature, learning, great architecture. The liberal arts. And great shops and bars. Lots of both... what's hip and edgy? What must I see/do/? on this 4 day, three night trip? And, what might I tack on after- a day or two? Thanking the hive in advance...
Decades ago, I got into some trouble with the law in Canada. I now have a record that shows a single summary conviction and a suspended sentence. This has not mattered until recently, when I was unable to pass a criminal background check. Should I apply for record suspension myself and eschew a "pardon" service (as suggested by the Parole Board of Canada, who warn of fraudulent services) or pay to have someone else take care of _some_ of the headache? [more inside]
My kids like raptors. Which would be better to visit, the International Owl Center in Houston, Minnesota or the National Eagle Center in Wabasha, Minnesota? Has anyone been to either or both? I realize the names are a little overblown. I'm just wondering which is better for a fun family visit. (They've been to Hawk Ridge in Duluth before and have visited the University of Minnesota's Raptor Center, so I'm looking for somewhere new. All three kids like raptors.)
I have a Kobo Glo, and an account at kobo.com. I'd like to set up a new Kobo account via Indiebound so that I'm supporting an independent bookstore. It looks like you can only have one account tied to a device, so if I set up my new account on the Kobo, I won't be able to read books I bought in the old account (unless I completely re-set-up the device each time I want to switch). Is there a work-around for this using Adobe Digital Editions, Calibre, or some other software?
13 year old likes comics and would like to read more. Likes/dislikes below: [more inside]
What are some terms for transgender in other languages, especially Spanish? What words do they use to identify themselves? [more inside]
I have a neat opportunity to potentially create my own job at a company in a segment of my industry. How do I do that? [more inside]
Looking for a good way to work with my own photos in jpeg form, narrowing down and sequencing sets of photos for exhibitions, galleries, submissions, books, and what have you. Are there any good apps or programs that might help with this? [more inside]
Intermittent slight tingling / numbness on outside of calf and foot. NO pain. At all. Is this sciatica or what? [more inside]
I'm considering doing a major computer upgrade - CPU, mainboard, and video card. Is Windows going to completely shit the bed after I do this? [more inside]
Our group of close friends is looking for more group entertainment in the form of board or other games. I’d like ideas and suggestions that will be hilarious and fun and can allow the six of us (or teams) to participate without long waits or taking forever to get to one’s turn. [more inside]
I've harvest about 100 of these peppers, now what do I do with them? [more inside]
I have a very old German book that is missing its title page. I really want to know what book it is. Pictures within! [more inside]
I'm suddenly getting ever diminishing returns with my breastpump. Do I have to bite the bullet and shell out for a different one? [more inside]
I met a guy who lives 8 hours away and really like him. Should I invite him to visit or focus on meeting people locally? [more inside]
My father (in his 80s) has just finished a series of joint-related surgeries. His appetite has been diminishing for years, but between the surgeries and some problems with his meds -- now resolved -- he was nauseated for a period and his weight plummeted. He's got his appetite back, more or less, but we can't seem to put weight back on. YANOD, but his doctor's advice is appetite and med-related, and we'd like to know what foods (or meals?) would be best for sustained, healthy weight gain. Thank you!
I'm trying to transfer the files from my 8 GB Sony flash drive to my computer. However, whenever I plug it in and try to open, save, or transfer a file, doing so causes my computer to freeze--which prevents me from doing any of the above. I'm thinking that something went wrong when I ejected it on a previous occasion. So, what can I do to get these files? (Ideally, I'd like to transfer them all.) Thanks!
Not really about a specific stock but I'll use NWPX as an example. To clarify what I'm asking I should say I understand the concepts of discounting earnings, voting rights, common stock, diversification etc. but fundamentally I have always scratched my head over what the point of owning this sort of stock is. [more inside]
That is, what is a novel you read later in life that you wish you had come across as a kid or teen? Totally fine to recommend books that weren't yet published when you were young.
Diagnosed with an eating disorder last week. My dietitian will consult with my therapist of 3 years. We haven't been focusing on the ED in therapy very much up to this point. What kinds of things will the nutritionist and therapist talk about? What will the nutritionist want to know about therapy, and what info will my therapist get from the nutritionist?
About to be homeless in London. [more inside]
I'm looking to downsize my car for city parking and convenience. Would love suggestions on makes, models and years. I want to look for as compact a car as possible, while still meeting my needs below. * It's got to be safe enough to drive with a kid and fit a child car seat * It has to be able to drive on highway. I have a 45 mile commute 2 - 3 days a week. * It needs to get up to 75mph without red lining. * Some kind of storage in trunk or hatch back. * Looking for proven reliability [more inside]
I'm getting married soon, and I'm trying to pick out a ring. I really like the idea of a plain, sterling silver wedding band, but I know next to nothing about jewelry. If you work regularly with silver, or have silver jewelry, can you tell me if you think a silver ring would stand up ok to everyday wear? Would it scratch and tarnish quickly? [more inside]
Rings, not music. Looking for jewelry stores in the GTA. Specs within. [more inside]
We have a small cabin out in the middle of nowheresville, USA that is probably five miles from the nearest human being. No electricity, no indoor plumbing, wood stove for heat, that type of thing. We recently decided to use a big ol' marine battery to power some electric lights because the lp gas lantern lights really just don't cut it anymore. To charge those batteries (we have two), we are currently using a generator, but we would like to use solar instead. What are we looking at for equipment and cost?
I'm doing research on the FlowHive and I want to get some screen captures from the Indiegogo site from prior to them hitting their goal (February through April 15, 2015). When I go to the Wayback Machine, I get their backer numbers, but not the text about the product from the main part of the Indiegogo page. [more inside]
How can we shorten the time from lights out to going to bed and sleeping? Our two-year-old energizer bunny takes an hour or more of climbing about, initiating interaction, jumping on the bed, etc. after lights out. [more inside]
I am 30 years old, just had my first baby 3 months ago and have constantly struggled with jealousy/insecurity... I need to learn how to overcome these things because it is causing severe anxiety and ruining friendships/relationships all round me. What I am asking is for advice on those that have struggled, how to "let go in relationships," and how to learn to trust. The best piece of advice I have heard is that you can't control someone. I have a tendency to want to control outcomes, to avoid a perceived wrong or hurt that I assume will come; I think it comes from an insecurity or feeling "not good enough." I have pushed friends and boyfriends away because I always assume someone is going to hurt me, is out to get me or is "leaving me out." I want to change and be better because it's hurting me and others around me. The outcomes which I seek to avoid I am attracting if that makes sense. [more inside]
For my job, I need to visit homes with these tools: measuring tape, flashlight, drawing tools (a couple pens), a notepad, business cards, my phone. I need something kind of like a toolbelt, only more minimal. Somewhat stylish or neutral, if possible. What kind of bag or solution am I looking for? [more inside]
My niece isn't doing so well in chemistry (read, a point away from an F) and I need to help her. However, it's been a long time since I've done chemistry, and I can't exactly hop back in. Does anyone have any resources for chemistry that would help me learn and help me explain things to her? Also, general studying resources appreciated as well. She has no skills, and it's now or never! [more inside]
We're planning on getting the Aprilaire 800 steam humidifier installed. But, the question is: upstairs, where we sleep, or downstairs? [more inside]
Nothing particularly unusual in Australia. It’s been biopsied and confirmed. Specifically a “Mixed superficial and nodular basal cell carcinoma.” Mine’s too close to my lower left eyelid to have a simple removal. Here’s the thing. The BCC is completely invisible as far as I or anyone can comment. Previous question, related question. [more inside]
Hi MeFi! I'm going to get another tattoo in a week or so and I chose an artist I absolutely adore. My question is about tipping the artist when the studio is owned by them. In the past, I have always tipped but I've always heard the tipping is for when the person performing the service is not the owner. In this situation, I'm not sure what to do since the price is set by the hour, not the piece, and it's the owner doing it. So, to tip or not to tip? Thanks!
I bought a lovely puppy last week, and she is now 9 weeks old. She is a cavalier spaniel/collie cross. I work from home with fields out back, so the hope is that I can give her the attention and exercise this high energy breed combo will most definitely need. [more inside]
My wife are planning to move to New York in around six months. Assuming you had the $$$ & job situation figured out, what steps in moving are unique to that city, or things you wished you did before you moved there? Is there a good 'NYC basics' guide (things that tell you-- yeah you really should get a NYC driver's license, etc) that isn't geared to 22 year olds? [more inside]
This video was done, as it says at the end, by using stock footage from dissolve.com. However, throughout the video, there is a white typeface (looks like handwriting) used, and there are also white lines that follow the motion of the video. I'm wondering how this sort of illustration and movement is created over the stock footage.
Why is it that when staying in the same key, when the backing band / bass changes in some way, the notes that "feel right" on the guitar change? (Lots more inside) [more inside]
I want to find a science center, college biology department, museum or other facility that will allow a visitor to look through a decent microscope for a few minutes, at her own slides or theirs. Anywhere in the bay is potentially useful, the closer to the south bay the better. [more inside]
My 2001 325i that I absolutely babied got totaled this weekend. I need a replacement. What should I get next? Details inside... [more inside]
Today, I tried to crank up my copy of Photoshop CS5 for the first time on my machine running OS X Yosemite. Much to my chagrin, the application won't start, instead I get an alert advising me to downgrade to JRE 1.6.x. [more inside]
I'm in NYC. Our written agreement requires a minimum of 30 days notice if he is going to leave (also 30 days if I want him out). Wednesday he told me he is leaving today (Friday), and probably won't be back, but may want to come back in 2 weeks if his new job does not work out (he is on vacation from current one). [more inside]
My family (aged 1-70) is having new year together for the first time in ages. What can we do that will make it a really memorable night? We're all staying in the same house, and have transport if needed. We're in the southern hemisphere so it will be light pretty late. How can I make it a great night, for kids and adults alike?
Hello. I have been friends with "James" for a little over a year. He is in his second year studying chemistry. I'm ambivalent about his social behaviour, if he possesses narcissistic characteristics or perhaps a case of social anxiety and nervousness in general. [more inside]
Landlord has made an offer. Before getting to the immediate issue, some details regarding daughter's back story in previous posts and a not-do-brief update are below. [more inside]
MeFites, have you ever been able to turn a decidedly only cat into an at-least-tolerant-of-other-cats cat? [more inside]
I'm considering coloring the ends of my dark blonde/brown hair a bright shade of blue or possibly green (or both?) But I'm worried about hair breakage - my hair is very fine - and maintenance. And is this look still in style? Please tell me your brightly colored hair secrets. Or do you have other hair advice? Help a bored, tired lady feel more stylish. Thanks! [more inside]
In an attempt to avoid usual New Years Eve misery, a friend and I are planning a NYE Craft "Retreat". Now we just need to come up with the projects. [more inside]
I'm out of books to read. I realize I've been loving books (more so in the fantasy realm) of a group of people (including solid female characters) who become friends and adventure, travel, or go on a mission to save something from some danger. Recommendations? [more inside]
I have gmail set up to grab my domain mail and it has always worked well. I forced it to check once manually a few days ago and now it has stopped doing it automatically for hours at a time. How can I fix this? [more inside]
I've hesitated to ask this question (partly cause I assume it'll receive malicious responses from the usual suspects), but here it goes--my current two indoor/outdoor cats have been with my around 8 years. I live in an area with a lot of predators but cats always respond intelligently to threats and are quite healthy and happy. So, I'd be interested to hear others experience who've had outdoor cats--can I rest easy and assume that now they've survived a long time, they essentially know how to stay safe? [more inside]
What is the best way to handle friendships ending? [more inside]
Almost all of the dogs I have ever known (including our new rescue, Mia) have made huffing, blowing or sort of chewing noises when they are feeling a bit soppy or are being petted or cuddled intensively. I'm curious as to why there's no word for this - does anyone have any theories? Is it not as widespread as I think it is? If you have a word for this yourself then bone-us points for sharing your coinage here.
We have been dating since early September and he has so far been really decent. He said he was going to make me dinner this week but hasn't spoken to me since Saturday. What has happened? [more inside]
A newly vegan friend's birthday is coming up, and I want to assemble a gift box of four to six jars of high-quality spices and herbs for her. So, vegan cooks of the green, what herbs, spices, and blends do you find indispensable? [more inside]
I routinely give a large seasonal gift to my employee, a brilliant young woman who recently got married and also scored a wedding gift from me. She and her new husband love making things, from cocktails to meals. I bought her an excellent Zojirushi fuzzy logic rice cooker last year, and a Vitamix blender as the wedding gift. They use both all the time and seem thrilled. So, what next? [more inside]
We are looking for a counselor to help us work on our marriage. Can you recommend a great one? [more inside]
How do I stop people from breaking my car windows? [more inside]
Seeking examples or links to some cheesy, bombastic, super-patriotic instrumental music that is free to use. It should be old-fashioned, like 1930s-1940s style. Thanks for your help!
We want to stream music to our living room. Maybe throughout the house later. What set up should we look at? [more inside]
Where do English majors go to learn key principles behind deriving mathematically sound meaning from data? I worked for years as a digital editor. Now I'm a "content strategist," which means I'm responsible for proving my new strategy increases reader engagement via different metrics like UVs, shares, attention time, average story finish rate, etc. I'm very familiar with platforms like Google Analytics and Chartbeat. But I want to learn how to see patterns in them there numbers, and I NEED to make sure my insights are mathematically accurate. How can I most efficiently do that without getting a brain transplant? (Example below.) [more inside]
I have to go to a potluck tomorrow night, which happens directly after work. So, I need something that will be ready without me actually doing anything after work, hence I think I need a crockpot recipe. I also have a dozen chicken thighs that must be used by tomorrow, so the crockpot recipe must include chicken thighs. [more inside]
In September, my mom's email account sent out a bunch of spam to her address book. She sent out a "disregard that", changed her password, and we thought it was done. Then a couple of days ago it happened again. She is stressed out and I'm supposed to be the techy one in this family, so what do I tell her? [more inside]
Where are the cross-brand variety packs for finding your favorite lubricant? [more inside]
Dear hivemind: I'm going to bring a 300X video microscope to my daughter's preschool. What easily obtainable substances will be super cool to view? Bacteria are too small, red blood cells are a biohazard. Toddlers could care less about onion skins, cork, and plant vasculature in my experience, and I am not doing anything that requires fixing/staining. [more inside]
While living overseas for the past two years I went through two different rounds of antibiotics, which were generally handed out like candy. After reading this article about the damage antibiotics can cause to the gut biome, I'm wondering how I can rebuild my gut. [more inside]
Auckland mefites: is there such a thing as a sponsored park bench there? [more inside]
I'm seeing someone new. We are both intensely attracted to each other but there are some baffling technical issues I have never experienced before and am not sure how to handle. NSFW details to follow. [more inside]
We're moving into a reasonably sized fourth floor apartment next month with our cat, Toki. We have no access to an outdoor area. We've been staying in similarly constrained apartment for the past two months, and Toki has become super clingy and playful - I think he's just really bored. We're thinking of getting him a kitten of his very own. Is this a ridiculous idea? [more inside]
I am desperately in need of some glasses like the ones Paul Bettany is wearing in these photos. Can anyone tell me what brand they are or where to buy them please?
PsychologyFilter: When users talk to technical support personnel about computer issues, why do they so often exaggerate (and often just outright lie) about things? It's extremely common, and it seems to be unique to computers. [more inside]
My friend is looking for an inexpensive audio recorder for her very creative daughter to record the stories she comes up with. Specifics inside. [more inside]
What should I be reading to replace Grantland? [more inside]
I need an app to easily track various things in my life that can be captured as numbers. I'm sure the app I'm looking for exists, but I just don't know how to search for it. [more inside]
Can you recommend a dressmaker or seamstress in Toronto? [more inside]
I want to start up some kind of review of my week -- half on my own, half with my spouse -- including what needs to be done next week. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I have very flat feet and a new podiatrist I visited today suggested that I look into HyProCure to help improve it a little, although did state that I would still need to keep wearing orthotics due to how bad my feet are. Has anyone had this procedure and, if so, would you recommend it?
Over the last few years, I have become increasingly horrified by the animal industrial-complex over its appalling treatment of living beings, the hugely negative impact on the environment, and the health issues related to contaminated or otherwise chemically treated meat and dairy. What actions can I take against these issues? [more inside]
I have the type of bathtub drain that opens and closes from a knob at the side of the tub. This morning, I fished out a lot of hair from the drain with a metal stick. I was very pleased with myself as I turned the water on, expecting it to flow at great speed down the drain. Instead, nothing! [more inside]
Ever since I was adolescent, so before there was even TV in my country, let alone Internet, I've always been attracted to the same type (skinny men with high cheekbones), and wonder what determines the physical type of people one is attracted to. Is there some kind of cultural, biological, Freudian or whatever explanation?
My stupid old computer is on the fritz again. All of a sudden, my computer keeps shutting itself down. It'll say Entering power save and the screen will go blank. Then there's no way to wake it back up. So frustrating! Is this fixable or I should I finally break down and buy a new one? [more inside]
This mustachioed fellow is a 2 year old who has been living at a shelter. He is chatty, gregarious and loves a lap to sit on. Any ideas? I am open to anything as long as it's not too long and complicated.
My preference is for heavy, rich food. It's too much for me lately, but that's what I'm in the habit of eating and making. What would I like that feels / tastes a bit lighter? [more inside]
Can anyone identify this specific species of heron?
There’s something wrong with the building I live in. Something causes all the rain which runs off the building to sheet over a single pane of one of the windows in the back of the house. So in every significant rainstorm, rain gets in. Is it the gutters? The siding? Even if I am completely wrong and the window is defective, what can be done about the sheets of water? [more inside]
I'm whipping my LinkedIn profile into shape, and I'm really stuck on whether I should add a profile photo. Slight complication: I'm a visible minority with an ethnically misleading name. Help? [more inside]
I'm helping a performing artist friend with media outreach. I've been a reporter and PR flack before, but always on the print side and for organizations, not individuals. What should be in her online media kit that will be posted on her website? [more inside]
Pretty simple. I've started lifting and making my macros is a mess, much less calories. Need a rec for a protein shake that requires me to open it, not make it. [more inside]
I've developed an interest in UX and web/content strategy and may have an opportunity to shift my career in that direction. What should I be reading/doing to make the most of it? [more inside]
My normally food-obsessed dog does not appear to like his new food. [more inside]
When Rilke says, "Vielleicht, daß ich durch schwere Berge gehe / in harten Adern, wie ein Erz allein," does his last phrase mean "like an ore [moves], alone" or "alone like an ore" or "like only an ore [can move]"? Translators seem to all assume the first.
My highly intelligent 10 year old loves national Geo. I am afraid it is over with Murdoch buying it. I hesitate to re-up for another year to find out. Knowing what it did for me when I was growing up (11th grade vocab by 6th grade), I'd like to find something to replace it. Her main interests in NatGeo are articles about animals, indigenous peoples, mostly nature rather than hard science. Any suggestions?
How much is too much when it comes to vitamins? Can you mix and match them? Please advise! [more inside]
I am looking for software (no video games; see inside for explanation) that lets you design the graphical user interface however you wish before you start actually using the software. [more inside]
You know that friend that helps you scratch that twisted itch you sometimes get? [more inside]
My friend, an attractive woman in her late forties, recently had a fling with a significantly younger (early thirties) guy whom she met by chance and who did all the pursuing. Both of them were unattached and, for various reasons, not interested in "real" relationships. It ended amicably and she realized that she would like to have this kind of lover in her life again, but how should she go about deliberately finding a willing partner? [more inside]
Help, New York MeFites! My daughter and 359 of her closest friends are participating in a little shindig you guys throw at Thanksgiving. Her 20th birthday is right in the middle of all the festivities, and she's sad about being away from home on her birthday. Help me figure out how to make her day special in the midst of the hubbub. [more inside]
Is it possible to darken leather with conditioner/polish/oil? Or will I destroy this pair of light brown boots trying to make them into a pair of dark brown boots? [more inside]
I have an acquaintance who I suppose used to be a (shitty) friend. he was an asshole to me when I was in college so I don't talk to him anymore. I don't think he knows that I hate him, and I don't care to reopen that can of worms with him since I don't want to see him again. He is still my Facebook friend, but I want to get rid of him BUT I might see him at weddings/etc. in the future. Would you unfriend him if you were me? [more inside]
Hi there Brilliants, I'm looking for examples of identity thieves in movies, tv, literature, comics, etc. Or for articles about techniques these thieves use. Even something like "Catch Me If You Can" is helpful. I'm looking for techniques that these thieves use. I am not a thief! I am just doing some research for a story to help out a student. Thanks so much for your help!
Back in the olden days I had a whole slew of search engines I would use to find stuff on the interwebs, some engines were better than others, some were slanted in areas, science, images, etc. These days I just use Google and it seems to do me pretty well. [more inside]
Mexican food here is horrible or I'm not looking in the right places, anywhere in midtown that recreates the SoCal/Texas experience? [more inside]
What is the formula to have Excel pull information from a list based on a specific identifier? [more inside]
I need help switching our web videos from Flash only to html5 friendly. [more inside]
I would like some very dim strip lighting or something so I can see the stairs that go from my bedroom to my bathroom in the middle of the night. But I don't want something too bright since I can see the stairs when I'm in bed. Details inside! [more inside]
I can sign onto gmail from Chrome or IE no problem, but Firefox tells me that gmail is an untrusted connection. What gives? [more inside]
If you have owned a 10” Tuft & Needle mattress for at least 101 days, how long have you owned it and how is it holding up? Having slept on it for a while, is there anything you didn’t know or that caught you by surprise? And if you had to do it over, would you still buy this mattress? [more inside]
In my family secret santa exchange, I have been chosen to buy a gift for my sister who is a 31-year old lawyer, married with no children. She loves to go tent camping with her husband, usually at drive-in (rather than hike-in) camp sites. I would like to get her a camping-related gift that is awesome but which she is unlikely to already own. [more inside]
I asked this question a while back, and I found the answers very validating. The situation between me and my sister is complicated. I'm not sure how, or if, it can be resolved. [more inside]
Do you have a favorite resource, tutorial, or FAQ that could get me started as I learn more about creating and managing accessible websites? [more inside]
A family member was released after being in prison for a felony conviction and has been living with family and friends since then. They seem convinced that they won't be able to lease an apartment because of the conviction. Does anyone know if this is a pervasive problem or if it's not such a big deal and if it's a real problem what are good alternatives for felons?
What are some great punk bands with women singers? [more inside]
We are getting iPad mini 2's for our 3 kids for Xmas, and I'm trying to decide how to get the best deal, particularly with Black Friday/Cyber Monday coming up in 2 weeks. How do you know when to wait vs. buy? [more inside]
Our newly adopted retired racing greyhound is somewhat fixated on our cat - despite being tested as cat-safe or cat-trainable. What else can we do to help this? Is it salvageable? [more inside]
A sibling of mine is in crisis. Possible bipolar disorder, definite prescription pill abuse, possible suicide risk. We need to find them help immediately. But my family being my family, there are some requirements that have to be met. More details inside. [more inside]
I want to learn how to make animations. I would like to find a program that will let me draw A and then B and will automatically fill in what's in between. [more inside]
I have some questions about my experience of the world, relative to others', sort of along the lines of the "What is it like to not be depressed" thread awhile back. I'm familiar with the emerging body of literature that people really suck at multitasking, no matter how good at it they think they are, but I'm starting to realize that I'm really, really bad at it. What I don't know is whether or not most people feel this way. [more inside]
My kitchen and living room are one open space. In the middle of the longest wall, I have a kitchen window that is 69 inches wide, and approximately 80 inches high. This window is bare, as I have been paralyzed with indecision about how to treat it. I'm hosting Thanksgiving here in a few weeks, and the time has come to dress this window....but how? [more inside]
I'm looking for wiki software to help me organize information on a project I'm working on. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I write a lot of my own programs, and I want to start using version control (git) instead of creating lots of versions of things. I'm not sure, though, when to be doing git-type operations along the way. [more inside]
My daughter is eleven. When she was a toddler, the advice about talking about sex that I read emphasised answering their questions. Kids are naturally curious! They will have all sorts of questions! Just answer them truthfully and you’ll be fine! Of course that did not happen. My child is apparently not very naturally curious about these things, and suddenly she’s a teenager and I have not talked to her about sex yet. I now know I should have handled this differently, but I can’t do anything about that anymore and could use some help with how to talk about this now. [more inside]
A little over X years ago, I traded for about $1500 worth of bitcoin off mt. gox (I'm PRETTY sure about that). I then set an alarm to go off in 7 days so that I could check on it to see if I'm making money or not. Shortly after, I received horrible news over the phone, and I had to leave the country for 9 months. A little while ago, an alarm on my calendar went off. I had set the alarm for X years and 7 days instead of just 7 days. It doesn't make sense, but it explains how I never remembered this. I have no idea where I put anything!? [more inside]
I have about 500 digital photos, each of one page from a hand-typed, 1940s-era text. How do I best transcribe it as part of an effort to share it digitally, and then include it in my own project? [more inside]
Usually I am on cloud nine as to how great my life turned out despite childhood abuse and how thankful I am, but this week I suffered a setback and I wonder how to get over this. How do you get back to enjoying your current day life after a huge nasty abuse cloud from the past has come over you? [more inside]
The recent FPP on Aziz Ansari, made me wonder exactly how much Indian Americans are under represented on television. According to the 2010 census, Indian Americans are roughly 0.9% of the U.S. population, but what percentage of TV actors are Indian American? The only statistics I was able to find on representation of minority groups lumped all minorities together. Can anyone point me to a good source for this type of information?
Dearest New Yorkers, Having just showed up in Brooklyn little more than a week ago (via SF), I've been wonderfully overwhelmed. The one thing I'm missing is a good list of the best places to help distill (or not distill) the innumerable art events and openings popping off both nearby and in Manhattan. Any advices and favorite digital spots are hugely appreciated. I've got a few things I'm looking at but the more, the better. Bonus points for physical publications! <3 Matthew
I have two different primary accounts under two different email addresses on tumblr simply because I didn't understand how it worked when I set it up. This is an extreme hassle for me when attempting to quickly post content to one of the other back and forth. [more inside]
I am traveling to Taiwan and my hosts requested a store-bought apple pie. [more inside]
I just got a pair of these QCY QY8 Bluetooth earbuds. There is a volume control on the right earbud, but it seems to only control the volume of your music and ongoing phone calls. The 'operator' volume, however, is always set to the max--I was just listening to music when someone called, and it basically screamed the announcement into my ears. The startup announcement and jingle are also always maximum volume. I don't see anything about how to control this in the instruction manual (which I can't find online, unfortunately). Any tips?
Is there a way to find out if Amazon Prime is paying off for me? [more inside]
My wife and I moved into our first home in March of this year. The previous homeowners asked if we could hold onto any mail addressed to them and put it in the mailbox around Friday of each week and they would come by and get it. Fast forward to today and we are still doing this for them. It's a bit tedious and frustrating to still have to do this and I'd like to find a way to politely find a way to get out of doing this - otherwise it feels like we may be doing this indefinitely. [more inside]
CPAP machine (or rather, an APAP) has been helping me feel better, I think, but I was never actually diagnosed with sleep apnea and the sleep study results didn't show any apneas. The CPAP trial has ended, and I need some help deciding if I should buy the machine. Many details after the jump! [more inside]
I have to be in class for 6 hours with someone who is doing something that drives me beetles. What can I do to make class bearable? [more inside]
I've broken free of my stupid belief that living in Seattle in a "hip" neighborhood is a MUST for me, but I'm dealing with some depression/anxiety and have a hard time working up motivation to go exploring, so I need help on where to focus my attention for potential new places to live when my lease ends. Everett, Lake Forest Park, Kirkland, Bothell—never been to any of these! Barely know where they are on a map! [more inside]
Where should I live: California addition [more inside]
I've posted about my adventures in health before. I have a clusterfuck of reflux symptoms but most tests--not all--are coming back normal. I met with a surgeon today, after my most recent test came back normal, and he said there was nothing they could do. I'm at a loss and wondering if any of it could be psychological. More inside. [more inside]
Recommendations wanted for a Pdx-area dentist! [more inside]
My friend the artist would like me to help her find a printer for her business card. The catch? Because she makes popup art books, she would prefer a card that pops up. Is there a way do something like this without pulling our hair out over the details? [more inside]
Our vet doesn't want to neuter our four-month-old kittens due to their weak positive FeLV status. We feel the importance of neutering now outweigh the risks and have found a vet willing to neuter them both next week. Can we continue seeing the old vet after the operation or should we find a new practice? [more inside]
I need to know what else is out there that has a USB port, and a Wifi antenna, is cheap, and can be carried with me on a trip (on foot). Keyboard, Disk drive, HDD larger than 32GB are all basically unnecessary. [more inside]
What is the best travel pillow that provides side-to-side neck support with minimal back-of-neck support? [more inside]
Testing sim cards at a booth in the mall has led to the phone being locked with a pin # password. She has not set up a pin number password at any time in the phone's [~1 month] career. This is not ideal and I am searching for a way to rectify this without a factory reset [Android Device manager is not installed]. [more inside]
It seems like white people in the U.S. are grossed out by lots of things that Chinese people eat, but not vice versa. Is this is a real phenomenon? Why does it happen? Examples inside. [more inside]
"Over the meadow and through the woods to grandmother's house we don't go". We're taking Thanksgiving on the road this year--perhaps a little more thankful of family if we get away from them for a while! Renting a house w/Mrs. Moth and two teenage Moth-ettes near Eureka Springs, Arkansas. We need ideas, efficiencies and even recipes for making the best possible Thanksgiving Dinner with the least fuss as well as any hints about what to do in the local area, how most memorably to spend our time together, etc. This is probably a once-in-a-lifetime in-law-less holiday for us all... [more inside]
Are there any existing research surrounding the impact of colors on eye strain and mood? [more inside]
I have been to around 6 different colleges and had at least 10 majors, been in school for 5 years now. I was thinking of giving up on trying to do a practical major and going for something I'm passionate for. Is this a bad idea? [more inside]
We are looking to stay in Kauai (or possibly another Hawaiian island) for a week in the spring and am having the hardest time finding a place to stay that has a zero-entry pool, a separate sleeping area, a/c, and is priced under $300/night. Are these criteria unreasonable or is there hope? [more inside]
For Christmas, I'd like to get my dad, who is a soft blanket superfan, a blanket that retains its softness for as along as possible. [more inside]
My feet are freezing even though I'm wearing slippers and it's barely winter. I am obviously in need of some warm slippers/moccasins to wear around the house. Who makes the warmest slippers? [more inside]
I have a CSV with one column that contains User IDs. I need to make another CSV that counts how many times each User ID appears in the document, and output it to another CSV That has something like UID1 >> 3; UID4 >> 1; UID20 >> 0. There are thousands of User IDs, so I need to be able to set up a range for it to scan for. Is this possible with free software and not much programming expertise? [more inside]
Moving in a few weeks and looking for tips on how to make that day go as smoothly as possible. [more inside]
I love Allmusic.com and its pretty wonderful gang of critics opining on various music albums. Allmusic has a feature where it permits you to see the best albums arranged by genre and star rating. I'm looking to see if anybody knows a way to find the best albums arranged by user ratings that albums also get. [more inside]
I recently, drunkenly engaged in minimal (Re: not sex) cheating with a person in a long-term relationship. They seem disinterested in telling their partner, whereas I can't shake the feeling that they should know... [more inside]
I have half a can of fire roasted corn and half a poblano pepper. Assume standard staples and cookware. I need, must have, want corn fritters. Specific recipes desired. Thanks!!
They say you shouldn't rinse chicken before cooking because it just spreads bacterial contamination (and I agree). But how, then, am I supposed to deal with brining chicken, which involves both dumping out raw chicken water and rinsing the raw meat? (Assume I am not interested in dry brining.) [more inside]
I'm currently taking care of an injured friend after she broke her back and sternum in a very bad car accident. She's severely mentally ill and throws screaming shitfits at least a dozen times a day. She acknowledges that this is a problem and thus I'm hopeful that she'd be receptive to reading a self-help book on the topic. [more inside]
I'm looking for a leather handbag that can comfortably carry a 13" mac book pro, an A4 diary and bits and pieces of make up etc... Ideally it would be black, brown and tan and be able to be carried over the body or off the shoulder. Classic, unfussy and work friendly design preferred.
Purchased a five gallon fermentation crock. What should we ferment? Microbial snowflakes within! [more inside]
Hi all - I'm looking to maybe visit Alaska in December around Christmas time. Specifically we are looking at Anchorage and maybe Fairbanks. I've found a bunch of stuff online, including the official visitors guides and some old Metafilter asks, but I have some questions and I think it would help me to hear from some locals or people who've visited in the winter before. Specifics below. [more inside]
These baby kitties are going to live with a very nice family soon. They have litter box setup questions: 1. What will make the litter box SMELL as little as possible, besides frequency of cleaning? Types of litter? Type of box? 2. While Mom is dealing with a temporary health problem (kidney-related), what are best practices for handling poop as little as possible in getting it from box to garbage?
I'm planning on making 65 cards for a friend's milestone Birthday. I have a few ideas, but need many more suggestions on wording or sayings or funny notes. I have a bunch of saved up cat pictures that I can make fit a variety of sentiments (funny, sweet, languid, acrobatic, zonked-out, playful, etc.) so I'll be able to fit just about anything with an image. I'm open to any suggestions offered up; or links to websites with something to inspire me. Suggestions? [more inside]
The US military follows a time honored tradition of retiring and destroying damaged US flags. That protocol is outlined in US Code, Title 4, Chapter 1 which (link) outlines the disposing of such flags in a manner that shows respect for the flag and the service it has provided. Yet, I frequently see people flying very damaged flags in very prominent locations. [more inside]
My friend has one day to go sightseeing in Lima, Peru. She is overwhelmed by the available options. What are the highlights of Lima? [more inside]
Have a computer I'm repurposing to a headless home-server. Looking for some suggestions on what server software I should need, with special snowflake needs inside! [more inside]
The VPN service I use has blacklisted a number of torrent sites. Do you know if they all VPN services have done the same and if there is a way around it?
My wife and I are heading to Puerto Rico for a few days, and plan to explore the island and see a couple baseball games. One is in Mayaguez, but it's only just occurred to me that means driving back to San Juan at probably a little before 10pm. We live in the middle of nowhere, so I'm used to hours-long drives home late after we do something in the city, but my only experience driving in PR is from San Juan to the rainforest, during the day. Are highway conditions OK for driving at night if I only have tourist Spanish and don't really know where I'm going? I'll have an iPhone, but should I spring for the GPS with the rental car?
My almost-four-year-old has a very hard time with socks. I'm looking for seamless socks that also don't have the "bump" of a seam next to the big toe and pinky toe, since that's the part that bothers her the most. [more inside]
I’m looking for those terrible candies that you resented in your Halloween loot bag as a kid. I need to buy some, ideally online. Must ship to Canada. My Google-fu is failing me, only turning up out-of-stocks from Halloween. There has got to be somewhere that stocks them year round. What store/site is this?
Asking for a friend. Friend needs an attorney in New Jersey who specializes in employment law. This is fairly urgent due to her employer's current actions. I have read the Metafilter wiki page Get a lawyer and we are both actively searching for attorneys in her area. I am specifically seeking personal recommendations from MeFites who have had good experiences with an attorney with this specialization. Northern NJ/nearish NYC is a plus.
I’m looking for suggestions for a new desk in my home office. Details after the jump. [more inside]
Since Zagat sold to Google, it is no more reliable than TripAdvisor or Yelp. MetaFilter directed me to the Katie Parla app for Rome, and it is exactly the kind of thing I am looking for--a curated, professional guide to where to eat. Does something similar exist for California--and for that matter, the rest of the U.S. and Canada?
Wells Fargo has required that I fill out a Uniform Borrower Assistance Form because my wages are being garnished for repayment of credit card debt. Is this considered a reduction in income outside of my control?
Applying to grad schools -- I've accomplished a lot, but I've also been through a lot. How do I talk about the latter in the personal statement, if at all? [more inside]
I don't feel sexually attracted to my spouse anymore. What now? [more inside]
What should a couple keep in mind about deciding whether to move to a small town and become a single income family? Bonus complications: Resort town, SAHD. [more inside]
I'm going to be visiting the University of Chicago for a few months (Jan-Marchish) in 2016. I probably will have the option of staying in one of their graduate student housing places. Looking at this map, which area should I aim for? [more inside]
I have a two-year-old, and occasionally I take her out to a restaurant. (Nothing fancy or inappropriate for kids -- think Chili's.) She sits in a high chair and she's pretty well-behaved, but she drops a lot of food on the floor (because she's two). What is the best way to handle this situation? [more inside]
I'm looking to adopt a virtual pet for an Android device! Got suggestions? [more inside]
I maintain several related groups. Sometimes people post a message to the general group (which is moderated) and it should really be sent to one of the specialized topic groups. What is the best way to redirect a message while it is in moderation? [more inside]
the author is Thomas Lynch. I read this book a long time ago and I'm having trouble finding a poem I vaguely remember. [more inside]
New job, need guidance. How many words should I try for each day if I want to a) keep my job while b) not building unsustainable expectations or burning out? [more inside]
I know Edmonds Shaker Pancake Mix is a New Zealand product but was wondering if anyone knew a shop I could buy this at in the States. I will be in Seattle and Boston for a little bit so either an online shop that ships to there or a physical shop in those cities would be great. I usually try World Market but they don't seem to have this.
I get sweaty, and having tried a backpack with a suspended mesh back panel (aka trampoline suspension aka tensioned-mesh panel), there's no going back. But these all seem to be gormless with one giant chamber and maybe one or two small pockets -- I also want the sort of organizer panel and multiple compartments you get from a commuter daypack. And a hip belt to put the load on my hips. Anyone know a specific backpack with all of the above? [more inside]
This will be my fourth winter living in a place that gets snow every winter. Every year I get VERY VERY excited when it snows for the first time. Other than squeeing joyfully, what is something I can do each year to celebrate the first snow of winter?
I'm in CA and my company has folded. My research shows that moving to TX would be a good plan because, running the numbers, there is a reasonable amount of daily postings for positions I am suitable for across the TX metro job markets, and house prices are considerably less (read: affordable) compared to CA metro areas. So it all makes reasonable sense except for this: I have no emotional drive to relocate there. [more inside]
A long time ago, on another forum, someone wrote a quote that came from Pride & Prejudice, or some other work by Jane Austen. The quote criticized women who put down other women in an attempt to appeal to men. [more inside]
How much wired data does a family of two adults and two teenagers use? [more inside]
I love the company but my brain is torturing me with anxiety all day long [more inside]
I've been a blogger, off and on, since "weblog" first became a word, but the way blogs and communities are built these days confounds me. I miss tight-knit, ye olde internet communities but am no longer sure how they are built or nourished in a noisier, more commercialized web. I need opinions. [more inside]
Help me think of a not-too-expensive gift (under $50) to take to a friend's baby shower. They have a registry but I'd rather get them something fun that they weren't expecting. [more inside]
The short version: I have an undiagnosed disorder that is getting worse. I am now at the point where I cannot walk and am in excruciating pain most of the time. I don't know where to turn next. [more inside]
Where I work, our current Bloody Mary mix is uninspired. I'm putting together a new recipe, but I want to try making a bunch of other tasty recipes first! What are some good Bloody Mary mix recipes for me to try? [more inside]
What is the best way to approach asking my employer to move from a full-time schedule to part-time? What is reasonable to expect in terms of changes to pay and benefits? [more inside]
What do Interior Designers talk about among peers? Looking for topics from logistical to theoretical. What is important to Interior Designers? What verbs do they use, what are their specialized vocab and sayings? What drives them to create? What do they hope their content to communicate? If the inner circle of the top Interior Designers went out for a drink, what would they discuss? What is the culture of Interior Design like?
I'm considering moving my 18 month old from a nursery to a nanny share. Thoughts on what I may not be thinking of? [more inside]
This has been in my family all my life, I believe it came from my uncle some time in the 70s. On the face of it, the story with this is obvious, but is there more to it? Were they common? [more inside]
Ok, so I'm light years behind and finally watching season 5 of Game of Thrones. I need Ellaria Sand's cape in my life yesterday (and quite honestly, the entire outfit). [more inside]
I'm trying to remember a movie I've seen (and hopefully not invented in my own mind). Details are hazy, but it has a recurring theme about Skylab falling, and a piece of it does, in fact, fall in some narratively significant way in the end. [more inside]
Has anyone else experienced this? I take Klonopin for anxiety, but I've discovered that it takes away my crying urges. I find that strange because I have never thought of or experienced my anxiety being linked to crying before. [more inside]
A few years back, I posted a poem on my blog. This fall I saw a small but steady series of hits that seem to be coming from (two?) schools. The referrer links in WordPress, however, terminate for me as dead ends because they require logins to classroom management sites. Is there any way to figure out what classes are associated with the URLs? [more inside]
I have been given a blank check by my good friend's parents as a wedding gift, and I have not the slightest clue what I'm supposed to do with it. [more inside]
I know all about DogVacay, but I've had a range of mediocre experiences with people on that site -- and they tend to keep upping their prices. I thought I'd found someone who would be my mainstay, but she just flaked out on me. I'd love to find someone non-flakey, good with dogs, affordable. Can you recommend anyone?
I'm a young-looking (mid-30s) middle-aged (actually 47) dude with very long half-Chinese, half-white hair. My long hair is starting to look unkempt and I'd like to go to a stylist to get an idea of hair styles, cuts and so on. Mostly I'd like your thoughts so I can go to the stylist with some idea of what to look for. [more inside]
My favourite thing about ordering a burger at a pub or diner is the dill pickle spear on the side, which seems to be a different style of pickle than the inferior Bicks I get at the store. They're longer, slightly softer, and milder/less acidic, though still definitely dill pickles, not sweet. I would take recommendations for brands or delis in Toronto, but I'm also interested in making my own, so recipes and pointers for this specific style of pickle are also welcome. (Disclaimer: I've never pickled anything ever.)
Can you think of any jobs that sound like this? Spending time outdoors, collecting samples, analyzing them in the lab, figuring out how to improve our way of life on this planet. Maybe teaching kids from time to time. [more inside]
I have a new boyfriend, total sweetheart, things are going well. It feels like a relationship that could be a good thing long term, though I know it is new. The kind of person I could see myself making a home with. It's been a while since I've been "in a relationship" so I'm not used to trying to fit someone into my life. Logistically...how do you do a good job navigating doing your own thing while getting closer to someone new? [more inside]
In my U.S. state (Michigan), there is one sperm bank, and it's about an hour and fifteen minutes away, which makes going that route somewhat difficult (it requires weekly deposits for a year and generally takes only medical students). I've done some searches online, but several of the sites I've found come off as slightly creepy personals ads, which is something I'm not at all interested in. Are there any more legitimate/less disturbing sites or methods to go about this? Anything I haven't thought of yet? [more inside]
Just bought a 1926 home where the living room walls and ceiling has been recently painted with a sad dark gray. The walls are plaster, and previous owner had used an electric sprayer. I have a feeling he put on the paint too thick because where some fixtures have been removed, paint is peeling off in sheets- but stretches off like rubber! Peels cleanly off of the plaster. [more inside]
Most of my makeup is old, and I really need to replace it. I've not done a lot with purchasing new makeup recently, so I feel a bit out of touch and overwhelmed with products that are out there. I have a bunch of points at Walgreens (hey, at least there is some benefit to having too many expensive prescriptions, right?) somewhere around $100 that I can use in $50 increments. Need some suggestions with special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I am looking for pictures, video clips (interviews, music videos, movie clips) and articles about women with short hair who can serve as role models for me. [more inside]
There is now a Dead Authors-shaped hole in my heart. Are there any other humor podcasts of a similar literary and/or historical bent?
An Etsy seller just messaged me, "I wrote a lower value on the package so you don't need to pay taxes at your country's customs. I hope this is Okay!" I am actually not super okay with this. As the buyer, what are my responsibilities (morally and legally)? Is there an easy way for me to pay the proper customs fees without getting the seller in huge trouble (they do have my home address)? How should I proceed? It was a ~$40 used clothing purchase, so nothing major. I haven't received the package yet.
Please recommend a mild black tea that I can drink hot and straight without adding milk. Irish and English breakfast teas with no milk are too harsh on my stomach. I want something like black iced tea but heated up. [more inside]
If you wanted to have one really memorable meal in Tokyo and another one in Kyoto where would you go? [more inside]
I'm travelling to West Africa soon. I need to make calls from the airport as soon as I've landed. I could choose a cheap sim-free phone with a global sim, or a more expensive dual sim phone*. My questions are, firstly has anyone done this and what sim/phone combination would they recommend? Secondly, given that the dual-sim phone runs on GSM 850/900/1800/1900 is it likely I would be able to use my usual 3G sim in this phone while still in the UK? Websites tell me 3G Band 2 uses 1900 MHz (PCS), is this equivalent to GSM 1900? [more inside]
My mom and I are going to London for a week. We're staying on the north side of Hyde Park, near Notting Hill Gate. I have been to London twice but the first time I was poor and the second time I was a vegetarian. I'd like some restaurant recommendations! [more inside]
I'd like bluetooth to connect my phones to it and the standard built-in one doesn't offer that. I've taken it apart to add a 3rd party AUX but that only worked for about 6 months so now I've decided to replace it all but how? When I look it mentions you need adapter cables and such? There seems to be no one-stop shop. Anyone suggest a working combo? [more inside]
I'm traveling for work to Berkeley/Berkeley Marina (staying at the Doubletree) this week and will have 3 late afternoons/nights to myself this coming Thursday, Friday, and Saturday. I'm leaving Sunday morning. On Thursday I arrive at the SFO airport before 1 pm so I've got the whole day after that. Friday I will be in UC Berkeley until 5pm so I'd like to check that area out while I'm up there. Saturday I'll be staying at the marina and free after 5pm. [more inside]
I am looking for any research or books on how we in the west went from conservative to permissive in our culture, specifically around clothing styles, movies, marriage norms etc. Details and a word of caution inside. [more inside]
I have a bicycle that I want to sell, but it breaks spokes constantly on the rear wheel. What are my options to maximize my price, but not be a jerk? [more inside]
Looking for a friendly, positive book explaining developmentally appropriate details about sex and reproductive organs etc for my seven-year-old, who is an advanced reader. Also: good science books for a smart seven-year-old in general. [more inside]
Trying to plan out the logistics of where to spend Christmas. Appear to be upsetting everyone due to continuing crises and painful memories on both sides of the family. What should I do for the best? [more inside]
Is a voice coach the right choice for me? Details herein. [more inside]
Can anyone help with a bit of Googlefu? I am looking for some cheap and basic wire handles for a children's Laternelaufen. Can't believe I'm wasting my question on this! :-) [more inside]
I recently had a phone interview for a federal GS-11 paralegal specialist position that went well. They’ve offered to fly me out for an in-person interview at their location. I’ve never worked for the federal government, but have roughly 10 years of experience working in various law firms. If this were a law firm, I'd know what questions to ask, and what the red flags would be. However, when it comes to the federal government, I'm really clueless about everything. If you transitioned from a career in the private sector to the federal government, what do you wish you had asked before you started? [more inside]
I started a MFA writing program in Vancouver this fall. I wasn't sure about whether I should go or not to begin with, and now, I'm still second-guess and worrying I made a big mistake. I'm unhappy, often, and I'm worried that if I stay it will be for the wrong reasons: a big, heavy sunken cost fallacy. Can you help, please? Long complicated backstory inside. [more inside]
I am currently estranged from my mother. I don't know if I should give her another chance. [more inside]
I'm taking a trip in six weeks to Hong Kong and Taipei. I called my doctor's office and asked if I needed any vaccines for the trip, and she said because I was staying in cities and not going into the countryside, I didn't need a typhoid vaccine. However, since then, my mother's doctor, my husband's doctor, and my brother's doctor all recommended typhoid vaccine for the same trip. [more inside]
I heard it a long time ago and believe it may be of Asian origin. It had something to do with a princess who wanted a general to conquer a particularly desirable town and drive out the people living there. He took the town, but didn't drive out the people, choosing instead to rule them justly. When confronted by her, he asked her whether the empty houses were the source of the wealth she craved, or something to that effect. Anyone heard of this or something similar before?! Where might it have come fron?!
I've been offered a position working in a lab that does research on human cytomegalovirus (HCMV, a common type of herpesvirus that can cause mono-like symptoms). I'm excited about the position and really want to take it, but I have some concerns about biosafety during hypothetical pregnancy and I'm trying to gather my thoughts before talking to the PI. Looking for personal experience working in a bio lab while pregnant (or immuno-compromised) and suggestions for how to talk to the PI about this. [more inside]
For the last few months (and no: I am absolutely not pregnant) one side of my ancient C-section scar has hurt when I sneezed or moved too suddenly. Sort of a sharp twinge. Occasionally the whole scar will hurt and I am afraid to stretch out or twist too abruptly for fear of hurting or possibly tearing something . You are not my doctor! I will go to a doctor! But before I do, I wouldn't mind hearing from anyone who's experienced this. Special snowflake information follows. [more inside]
I say "pen" because while I'm willing to spend a fair amount, max ($200-300, if I have to), I'm not willing to go much above that. I'm hoping I can get one that will 1. last me a long time 2. looks reasonably stylish 3. is somewhat weather resistant. 4. no leather 5. no velcro 6. possibly removable strap. [more inside]
Recommend a built-in under counter wine fridge for me. [more inside]
My spouse died a few months ago. I am nearly 50. [more inside]
I just got a senior-oriented tablet (GrandPad) so my elderly, beloved relative can video chat and receive digital photos. However, I can't get the tablet onto his house WiFi and it's really frustrating. I am able to get other devices onto his WiFi, so the WiFi works. The tablet is able to log into other networks, so it's not that the tablet's connectivity is totally borked. But they won't work together. I traveled hundreds of miles to set this tablet up and have to leave Tuesday, so for me the stakes are high. [more inside]
I need to find out accurate information showing the quantity of university/tertiary/higher education students and lecturers, by age, for Australia and internationally. [more inside]
My work has a use-it-or-lose-it "health and wellness" benefit that I need to use up before EOY. What things (especially biking related) can I spend it on? [more inside]
Traveling to New Orleans via train in March. Staying for three nights. Would like to know which hotels in the French Quarter are pretty cool without being pretty expensive. Centrally located with balconies is a plus. More Hotel Chelsea than Plaza Hotel if that makes sense. Would rather a bohemian vibe than a 4-star, but would like to avoid any flea bags.
My fiance/partner of 8 years broke up with me a few months ago and it is definitely over. I am trying to decide how to proceed in starting my life over. I am seriously considering moving out of state. It is difficult because I have OCD and anxiety and ADHD etc. Simply put, I have a hard time making any decisions. I'll spend weeks researching which cell phone to get. When I am faced with a decision of this enormity, it is almost unbearable. I am terrified of making a decision that I will regret. Details inside. [more inside]
I'm not sure if I'm putting my foundation on incorrectly or maybe using the wrong products. But my foundation always looks cakey and I have no idea how to fix it. [more inside]
Have you purchased residential real estate, especially a condo, in foreclosure? Please share so that I may learn. [more inside]
We have a staircase in the middle of our house, which has a 90 degree turn and two 45 degree turns. Above it is a pair of recessed lights, which are very hard to replace the bulbs in. I'd also like to hang a piece of art on the tall wall above the stairs. So I'm thinking it's time to try to find a ladder that will work there. But I don't know what to get. [more inside]
In my NanoWrimo story, the FMC is a website designer, and she somehow, accidentally finds out that the MMC's girlfriend is visiting dating and sex websites. Is this possible, and how could this happen? Also any hints/tips/gotchas I should be aware of? [more inside]
Please recommend background material about the Happiest Place on Earth TM. There are a ton of books and articles out there so I'm hoping to narrow things down. [more inside]
I teach first grade, and have been reading some Shel Silverstein poems to my students. One boy in particular adores them, but he was very disappointed to learn that Silverstein wasn't brown but rather was a white Jewish fellow. This child (who is multi-racial, and self-identifies as brown) is thirsting for funny, age-appropriate poetry, a la Shel Silverstein, that features (and/or is written by) brown people. Any recommendations?
Where should we have Christmas dinner in Manhattan? [more inside]
Question over dinner last night from my nine year old daughter after a long (and ongoing) discussion about advocacy and bullying in schools. LittleTaff:"If a trans woman was Jewish, would her babies be Jewish if she used her seed?" [more inside]
Inspired by our old friend The Weatherman and in particular this project I'm interested in learning to use microphones for field recording. I'd like to experiment both with portable battery-powered recorders and with installed outdoor mics that can be connected to a computer or rack of other gear. [more inside]
For a 70 page booklet( size 8.5 by 5, approximately) using Publisher 2010, which is formatted into four pages spreads for the body, how do I insert a .jpg file into the back of the front cover? [more inside]
Like a lot of Californians, I saw this light in the sky last night. The Navy has revealed that it was testing a Trident-launched missile, so that part of the mystery is resolved. But why did it look like that? [more inside]
My Google-fu has failed. There was a Delicious Bookmarks alternative, made by a mefi, [more inside]
I'm looking for inspiration for how to structure a long, intricate deductive argument. Can you help me find examples of arguments like this? [more inside]
I do small-scale metalsmithing - sterling silver jewellery, specifically. I work VERY small (a delicate ring is about as big as I go). I'd like to make close-up films of my work and process. [more inside]
We have this Byer's Choice wooden advent calendar. What very small items could I buy or make that would fit in something like this? [more inside]
I have a metric gajillion image files dumped on one external hard drive. As the first step in my effort to backup my pictures, I need to organize them. I have tried for hours for exiftool to do my bidding but failed. What might be the proper instruction to have it sort all files into a new directory structure that looks like this: Image format (NEF, JPG)/Camera model/Year/Month/Date/Originalfilename.extension Thank you! ?
I'm showing the Star Wars movies to a mixed set of 1st to 8th graders (who have mostly seen it before) and I think they'd be receptive to a short film preceding each movie, in the manner of those old dream palace bills. Suggestions for something streaming on Netflix, Hulu, Amazon or YouTube? [more inside]
How to make a roast be ready when I want it to be? [more inside]
Am in the midst of planning a start up business and actually need two names (for different price points- mass market and higher end). More.... [more inside]
I could find only one bluetooth mic on amazon and it had horrible reviews. I'd like to use voicecommands for our livingroom tv but would need a wireless mic, is there a ~$50 option? Can I just use the mic off a wireless headset but still have the audio go through the speakers? [more inside]
I don't know anything about model trains except the scales. Can you recommend a book or site that will take me through everything, step-by-step? Preferably in Z Scale (I don't have a lot of room and I love really tiny things) [more inside]
I’m looking for suspenseful, edge-of-your-seat movies (horror, mystery, thriller, action) that are reasonably realistic and have a conclusive, unambiguous ending. When watching movies, I’m always willing to suspend some disbelief, but only up to a point. I’m turned off by gaping holes in the plot line, implausible twists, and puzzling endings. [more inside]
This Christmas, I’m making an ABC-book for my very first, brand new (6 mo) niece. Her parents (and my family) are big Arnold Schwarzenegger fans. We especially love Terminator, T2, Predator, Kindergarten Cop and Total Recall. I need help with some ABC Arnold-related quotes. [more inside]
Are there any file / log formats that mix data and text in a readable, flexible way? Something like Markdown + binary blobs? Or JSON with interspersed strings (maybe as comments)? Do Jupyter notebooks have a more static equivalent? Question purposefully vague because I'm not finding much and so exploring wider possibilities. [more inside]
What is currently the best value in durable, comfortable, heavyweight, wool-blend hiking socks? [more inside]
Since Verizon ditched the subsidized-phone-with-contract deal, I'm not sure what the best way to buy a phone is anymore. My contract just ended and I'm DYING to get a new phone. My last one failed under warranty and the replacement that they gave me had a battery that would barely make it through the day ("like new", my ass). I've been counting the days until I was able to upgrade. [more inside]
I am genderqueer/nonbinary and plan to legally change my name to reflect this next summer. I have a first name and middle name which I've cast into gender-neutral forms, and I'm looking for a second, new middle name to add to them. [more inside]
Where can I buy Sea Tangle kelp noodles in Manhattan (or, perhaps, near Cobble Hill if necessary). [more inside]
I'm a single woman living with my dog. I own a 750 sq.ft. condo with two bedrooms. What should I do with my smaller bedroom? [more inside]
I have recently had to share accommodation with a number of acquantancies that have known each for many years. I am pretty new but have decent 1-1 freindships with couple of them. The whole group often excluded me from conversations and talked over me. How to react? [more inside]
what is everyone's take on handling opposite sex friendships when you’re in a relationship, especially as we get older? i'm 32. my best guy friend from college moved in with his girlfriend over a year ago. i have met her several times (which i initiated as i wanted to meet her) and i like her (although i have seen her freak at him and noticed she has some insecurity issues) but since they moved in together he always brings her when i ask if he wants to catch up [more inside]
Hey guys so my mom is opening a new lunch spot serving homemade perogies and such, and we're trying to finalize a business name for her. [more inside]
I'd like to take on more work and I have the opportunity this month to shape how my work schedule could be structured and set some boundaries to stay healthy while I do this job as I have just gotten my severe migraines under control. I am looking for experienced advice from other people working around flare-ups of chronic conditions. [more inside]
Almost all of the apartment bathroom sink countertops drain away from the sink and toward the back of the countertop where it meets with the mirror, creating a puddle of standing water every time I use the sink. 1st, out of scientific curiosity, I seriously need to know why do contractors do this time after time? Why wouldn't they create a slope and non-projecting sink basin that allows splashed water to drain toward the sink instead of away from it, like this: ? 2nd, what can I do to counteract this effect? Build a plastic moat around the sink? I've already tried not splashing so much when washing my face, but the sink is small and it is inevitable. Thanks!
I used Yahoo Pipes to make a fantastic literature skimmer, but now it is dead and I'm struggling to find a replacement. [more inside]
I'm looking for a giant book of life on earth for a kid. A book with real pictures (not drawings) that highlights the biodiversity of the earth. A book with 400+ pages that would have pictures of things like the dragon blood tree, the jewel caterpillar, the banyan tree, the cashew tree, the iridescent sky blue Hoplia coerulea. Not just pigs, zebras, and lions. And not anything framed as "weird!" If there was an updated version of the Illustrated Wildlife Treasury Cards, that would be fantastic and ideal. But I don't see such a thing, so a book will have to do. Any suggestions?
I have received a verbal offer of employment over the phone. I did not verbally accept it, but I have a meeting on Monday where I suspect that they expect me to view the offer on paper for the first time and then immediately sign it. I still have questions about the position. How do I best handle this? [more inside]
I realize this could be a judgment call, but I'd like to know if there are any good rules when acknowledging a face lift. [more inside]
This chaise longue was found at terminal 2 of the Mumbai airport and turned out to be quite comfortable. Any ideas about the product/company/designer?
I'm looking for an organization in the Chicago area that specializes in rescuing/rehabilitating injured bats. Is there such a thing? I'm looking for volunteer opportunities. Also interested in any general wildlife rescue organization that might have a department of bats (DOB).
I'm not sure if this career choice is right for me. Details inside. [more inside]
So: my 2-month-old PS4 has broken down, with error CE-34878-0 across all applications. Sony US normally replaces machines that have this issue. My problem: I have a Japanese PS4, and Sony US refuses to service it. Sony Japan could probably help, but I don't speak Japanese (and I live in the US). What can I do? [more inside]
A guy I dated briefly canceled literally a minute before we were supposed to meet for dinner. He asked for a raincheck. I said some choice words that I now regret. [more inside]
It was by Callard & Bowsers. It came wrapped in gold foil. It was a chocolate kinda of toffee. I have looked everywhere--it is being made and where can I get some? Thanks all.
We currently have a WRT-160N which has on the whole been a reliable workhorse. However, it hasn't handled the proliferation of internet connected devices in our household very well, and it's ethernet wired connection is painfully slow (100Mbs) with our attached NAS. It therefore needs replacing. Looking for your suggestions. Specific requirements follow... [more inside]
Hello, I'm currently looking at replacing my mother's heating and air conditioning units because they are both frequently broken and both old and inefficient. I'm hoping that this can be used as an opportunity to save money, even though it will be a sizable upfront expense. [more inside]
I was listening to Kirsten Dunst on the Nerdist podcast and she said that she was writing a screenplay based on a book set in the 50s. Hardwick was pressing her for the details and she was like "I can't say yet, but let's say it's based on a book most women have read." What is it? [more inside]
We (party of two) are going to be in Munich for Christmas Eve. It seems like all the places that are open are hotel restaurants doing very traditional (and expensive) Christmas Eve-special dinners. Where else is there? [more inside]
I'm going to be starting a graduate program in St. Paul in February (coming from Omaha) and need to get my (new) life together in a fairly short period of time. Where can I find a place to live and a roommate? Details below the fold. [more inside]
Today's couples who are having difficulty "TTC" can potentially access IVF, surrogacy, medical interventions/advice, adoption, fostering, etc. What was life like for couples before these options arose? Was there shame, guilt or sorrow attached to not being able to have children ... and what did the men and women in this situation do about it?
I host parties sometimes and would like to play a mix that my guests will love dancing to. I am looking for an app/service that plays DJ-mixed music similar to what I often hear in dance clubs, i.e.: (1) A mix mainly of pop, hip-hop, R&B, dance, and EDM; (2) Many chart-toppers & crowd pleasers; (3) Mostly recent songs but maybe some old ones too; (4) Song transitions are professionally done (mixed into each other to keep the energy level high, and match in BPM) [more inside]
I'm looking for a great pre-filled advent calendar that I can order online. Ideally under $30, and I want a surprise variety of things! [more inside]
What goes in an electronics technician's tool bag? [more inside]
Returned a rental car recently, had some damage in a crowded parking garage. Seems like the rental agent was trying to get me not to admit fault, but I was dumb and did so. Can they void my LDW by saying it was "reckless"? I'm worried: only light body damage, but will be hella expensive, plus downtime charges, if I'm on the hook.
Hey! Looking for examples of really innovative health care systems, that have found new ways to improve patient health, reduce costs, and improve overall patient experiences. Iora is famously innovative. Open Dialogue in Norway is a great example. Others? [more inside]
I have a number of duck legs in the fridge, which need using over the next few days. Please suggest recipes. I don't need basic cooking instructions, just your best ways with duck legs. I don't particularly want to go down the confit route, as I don't have much storage space in this flat, and there doesn't seem much point if I don't let then mature. But if you think I'm insane to pass up the chance I'm sure you'll let me know. Thanks!
I will have an afternoon free in Toronto tomorrow (Sunday). What should I do? [more inside]
I am a budding programmer. The trouble seems to be that I am well into my adult years and, for some reason, this seems to be an issue for some... [more inside]
In the late 90's I used to drink an ale and I'd like to drink it again... but unfortunately I can't remember its name. [more inside]
I have fiberglass insulation jammed in it now, just to prevent airflow. I'd really like it to be a functional fireplace. What can be done? [more inside]
We're looking for strong girls names with spunk for our daughter. No wilting flowers need apply. Ideally the name wouldn't be in the top 50-100 most popular, but we're struggling a bit for ideas. What should we name her?
What would happen to earth if we suddenly had 10% less water? The mass of the planet would change, so would our orbit? Would weather and seasons change? Would it affect tides and the moon? At what point would we begin to suffer? Is it 10% or 20% or 50%? [more inside]
I'm wondering what forms of online dating are most popular in the UK. I joined OKCupid but have only gotten copy-and-paste messages from creepy dudes and I get the impression that maybe this website is not as popular here as it is in the US (though I haven't used it in the US). Have dating websites become outdated? Is everyone on Tinder? Is Tinder only used for hooking up? Any thoughts or experiences with the current online dating scene would be appreciated.
I have the urge to chat anonymously online. I've tried things like Omegle, which just seems filled with gross marketers, and I've tried Reddit, but had no success. So, I'd like to chat with people, but I don't know where to do this. What's the current Chatroullete, where do people go to chat with strangers?
I care about celebrity gossip. I would like to be a person who does not care about celebrity gossip. There is especially a certain group of celebrities whose petty dramas I am entirely caught up in and I relish reading juicy new stories entirely too much. I know how to use internet blockers, so I don't need pointers on that kind of stuff. What I am looking for (if it exists) are mind hacks, tools, philosophical things, or *anything* to fundamentally change myself so that on a cellular level it is no longer interesting to me. Maybe this is not possible for me, maybe it is- please, give me your best shot.
Melatonin is prescription only in the UK, but having heard many USians talk about how it helps with sleep, I:m tempted to pick some up when I visit the US. However, is it generally OK to take if you are taking drugs for a mood disorder? [more inside]
I am female and 30 years old and currently in a great awakening that has been forming my whole life but only really starting to happen over the last few years. I'm a recovering Christian with relatively new feminist realizations and I want to find others like me. [more inside]
So, I'm trying to pay the filing fees online that I never got around to. The personal tax account I made, my business tax ID number is attached to as well, HOWEVER, it's not indicating that I owe anything. I looked everywhere on the site menu to see how I can pay and it says I owe nothing (I owe a lot, even with no sales). Tax man is after me and I don't know what to do, please help! I'm in NY.
I am cold all the time. Help me not freeze to death. [more inside]
It seems like the multi-national that owns my division will be shutting us down next year. Already, people are quitting and not being replaced. My boss is trying to find ways to ensure we all keep our jobs next year. He wants me to think about what I'd like to be doing- should I tell him I'm thinking of quitting? [more inside]
I asked this AskMe about finding help with my social difficulties. A common theme in the answers was, "social mechanics can't be understood logically; you must understand them through the lens of empathy and emotion". So...how does one do that? [more inside]
Please help me find good, preferably publicly available, citations regarding eg # of commits as lousy performance metrics. [more inside]
So took the cat to the vet because she had bloody stools for 2 days. We did fecal test is negative. Now she drew some blood and we are waiting for those results. We might do an ultrasoubd she said to test for colitis and other rumors. We had that happen before and can't tell you what it was. Just went away after treatment with metronidazole. They has giardiasis and coccidia on the past but that's 9 months ago. Got treated She is 1 year old ragdoll cat Any experience with this ? Any advice?
They have moved very quickly: red flag? How much stock should I place in Glassdoor reviews? Is any "consultant" title a useful foot in the door to the industry? Is this uninspiring salary reasonable given my background? Intricacies below the fold. [more inside]
My relatives are coming to visit the big apple and I would be chaperoning them around on a site-seeing tour. The problem is that they are elderly (are retired), from another culture & country (India), a group of 5 and there is a very young baby ( couple of months old) traveling with them. This makes using subways, or taking long walks or using bicycles a difficult proposition. What would be the best way to give them a good NYC experience? [more inside]
My daughter's been doing gymnastics for several years, and a stinky problem keeps developing. After a season of work on the bars, the grips she uses for that get really funky. [more inside]
My son spent several hundreds of dollars a few years ago on a shopping trip in France, buying these unique lidded blue glass jars with porcelain labels. His decorating needs changed, and I inherited these unique and lovely jars, but I have no idea what they are, what they might be worth, and how to turn them into cash. (Craigslist, eBay, etc,?) Can anyone advise? [more inside]
She licks a lot. Compulsion or behavioral issue? [more inside]
My Palmy U lock, with one of those simple circular keys, is stuck. How do I open it? [more inside]
I am terrible at maintaining contact with former supervisors/professors and have the tendency to put it off until it can't be avoided, then I feel like a jerk for only reaching out when I need something. How does one word a professional keep in touch email? [more inside]
What are some good things to look for in a financial planner? Any recommendations that might seem like a fit in the Atlanta, GA, area (or elsewhere)? Please see below for details. [more inside]
What blogging platform should a design research group use? [more inside]
This sweet rescue was found wandering the streets of downtown L.A. He is 1.5 years old and moves slowly, and sometimes falls asleep while sitting upright. [more inside]
I am going to ask my undergrad students to systematic follow celebrities on social media. Is there an easy systematic way to do this? [more inside]
After a year of normal functioning, my washing machine's spin cycle is not extracting properly -- but ONLY with flannel sheets. They go through the spin cycle, but the water doesn't extract. The wash drum has no puddle. Just the flannel sheets are soaking wet. Other types of fabrics come out normal, with excess water extracted. Towels, jeans, percale sheets come out normal. Small flannel pillowcases come out normal. [more inside]
I been told to setup a meeting with one of my professors, but faculty will only vaguely say it is about my "level of participation" and "demeanor," and have refused to give any further details. What are my options for declining to meet with this professor or arranging some alternative to a one-on-one private meeting? This is at the university level. [more inside]
My wife and I signed a contract for a home we love in Port Washington, New York. It's exciting and sort of terrifying. We have a pre-approval letter from a bank, but we probably won't actually get our mortgage from the bank that issued the letter. It's the first time we've ever bought a house (-- it's the first time we've ever bought anything bigger than a breadbox --) and we need to get up-to-speed on how to compare offers from different banks and make this decision wisely, instead of by the seat of our pants. Please point us to good resources online and offer us advice. Assume we know nothing (because we really don't know anything about this sort of thing). We plan to put down between 20 and 25 percent, and, of course, we'd like to get that lowest interest rate and lowest closing costs we can. Thanks!
Now that I've figured out I'm FTM how do I tell people in my life? [more inside]
What type of food (savory, doesn't need to be eaten right away) should I make for people this Christmas? Details, including allergies, below. [more inside]
My 9 year old son is having a very hard time learning to spell. He's a voracious reader, and reads above grade level with good comprehension. In general he's plenty smart. But spelling even basic words is a struggle for him. It has gotten to the point where "just practice more and you'll catch on" doesn't seem like the right strategy. Is there a specific learning disability related to spelling? [more inside]
Short version: a friend and I would like to have some experiences that allow us to temporarily but deeply plunge into another world/culture/paradigm that is markedly different than our own. We don't want to actually BECOME [Francophones/farmers/Amish/rock stars/Uzbekistanis/etc.]; we just want to quietly, respectfully inhabit their world(s) for brief intervals of time. More under the cut. [more inside]
I have a MacBook Pro that I want to make into my music hub at home. I have a nicer laptop I use for work, so this would be a dedicated music computer. [more inside]
I think I'll be okay with the HMO. What am I missing? [more inside]
Four people, one competition. One officially won. The others want half the prize. Details within. [more inside]
I accidentally purchased a child's Halloween costume instead of an adult-sized one when ordering online. I used one piece of the costume (hat), so I can't return it, but the rest has never been worn, so I'd like to donate it. Googling turns up donation drives from 1-2 months ago, but nothing in November. DC MeFites, can you think of anyone who would take this? Preferably in DC proper, does not need to be tax-deductible.
Most of the posts I found here were by posters suffering from depression themselves. I'm interested in those perspectives (what a partner can do to help) but primarily those of people who've been in relationships with a depressed person, but aren't depressed themselves. More specifics inside. [more inside]
My mailbox in San Francisco got broken into and now it can't be locked. I took some steps (see inside) but I don't know how to get the thing replaced. [more inside]
I'm stranded in New York City for a day. Is there anything to do in this town? [more inside]
I recently came into possession of a pair of Energy e:XL-28P speakers. Which is cool and all, but can I actually connect them to my current receiver? [more inside]
I am working on a paper for graduate school and I'm having no luck finding a key piece of information: how many K-12 schools in NJ (or, failing that, the entire US) use iPads/tablets in 1:1 classrooms? [more inside]
Today's reminder of why I hate airlines: Not a big United flier, but I have a flight tomorrow. Bought the ticket at united.com and created an account there. I did not create a MileagePlus account. Trying to install the United Android app, I find it won't accept the united.com username and password. At united.com, I can't log in with the username and password. It tells me it is not accepting username/password logins and refers me to the MileagePlus page. [more inside]
We've been roasting a chicken every Sunday and pulling off the meat for sandwiches and salads and stuff throughout the week. We've also been making stock with the mostly clean bones -- unctuous, gelatinous, delicious stock. Quarts and quarts of stock. [more inside]
Hello HiveMind! I have just moved to Chevy Chase Maryland, and I work in DC. I am looking for recommendations for health providers. [more inside]
Is it moral for me to choose my doctor based on political views? [more inside]
The narrator relates how his parents met. In postwar Germany a soldier involved in criminal activities encounters a young German woman who is barely getting by (saves her from thugs?). Back home the soldier is a mid level mobster or account for the mob. The narrator as a young man fights with his father and leaves home. [more inside]
What kind of drawer pulls or knobs should I use for this DIY jewelry box? Or... should I? [more inside]
Of course you are not my doctor and I need to go to one! Any personal experiences you have that you can share to help me choose where to go and when in caring for my foot injury would be most helpful! Many thanks! [more inside]
I read a lot of content from articles/essays I save online. Sometimes I want to annotate these articles and organise them for research purposes. At the moment the best way to do this is Evernote, but I find the iPad / Android app clunky for reading and highlighting. The interface is designed for writing, and is a constant frustration. Are there any better solutions? [more inside]
How does one search LinkedIn for WFH opportunities; also, how to present yourself as someone only interested in those types of jobs? [more inside]
I would love some suggestions for fun weekend or short trips within driving distance of the San Jose area. [more inside]
I would like to install a Marshmallow ROM for my Nexus 5. I quite like the default version of Android, my issue is simply that Marshmallow doesn't install on my device. I don't absolutely need Marshmallow, I would just like it. Specifically, I don't want to install a ROM if it is going to have a significant negative impact on performance or battery life, so if someone has run some benchmarks on the ROM, then that would be great. [more inside]
If you were selling this thing on Craigslist, how would you describe it (like--what is it? what is its purpose? what era/style? etc.) and how much would you ask for it?
I have a three-month-old (almost four months) whose sleep, or lack thereof, is baffling and exhausting me. Please help. [more inside]
We're traveling in Japan and my daughter has been taking photos all along on her Sony nex5r camera. After 10 days of beautiful photos, it suddenly it displayed a dialog stating a file format "not recognized" ... ! [more inside]
Help me remember this presentation I think I saw as a child during the Reagan administration, featuring a Michael Jackson song. [more inside]
My very politically conservative boss is outspoken about her political beliefs and frequently spouts off about issues on which my opinion is the opposite (I’m very politically liberal). Her remarks tend to skirt (but not exactly cross) the line of what’s overtly offensive. I don’t want to jeopardize my working relationship with her, but I need some help and advice on how to cope with this situation, especially with the next presidential election coming up (I’m in the USA). [more inside]
Help, help, I've dried up my supply of TV shows! What are some great, possibly under-the-radar TV shows that are heavily plot-driven? (That is to say, not episodic at all.) [more inside]
Why does YouTube always suggest Vietnamese videos to me, even though I don't speak Vietnamese, I've never clicked on a video in Vietnamese or from Vietnam, and no one in my house has either? [more inside]
Today on my local NPR affiliate (KUOW), there was an interview with someone who sang a song using the standard airport "unattended baggage" announcements as the the lyrics. It was during the all things considered time slot, but I'm not sure if it was actually ATC, or if it was a local piece. I'm trying to figure out who the artist is, or if I was suffering from an extended hallucination. I have checked the ATC and KUOW websites, and also googled every combo I could think of. Who is the artist and what is the piece called?
My 5-year-old son has been getting notes and gifts from classmates who seem to be quite fond of him. Now what? [more inside]
I'm flying back to the US from Australia at the end of February, and decided to take advantage of some cheap flights and stop through Sri Lanka along the way. I've always wanted to see a bit of the middle east as well. Coincidentally, there are some cheap flights to Amman from Colombo. How should I split my time and (very limited) budget to maximize this trip? [more inside]
I'm trying to find the story about some big oil guy, like president of Shell or Exxon or something like that. He was at home and some students, or just garden variety environmental protesters, had gathered outside his house to shout at him. He went out and instead of arguing with them, he sat down on the lawn and invited them to join him and talk. [more inside]
From a non-medical perspective, what is it like to recover from having most of a leg amputated? [more inside]
A plumber has been here all day to work on a toilet and shower that backs up. He pulled a few things out of the pipes, but hasn't succeeded at restoring the flow (still backs up a bit). Is it proper for him to still charge me $350 without succeeding at fixing the problem? What's the protocol for plumber/client here? Thank you!
I received a package today sent via Media Mail in USPS. Inside contained only a book on cannibalism in Africa. This is totally creepy. I have no idea why this was sent to me. What now? Can I find out more information about the sender? [more inside]
It's time to buy some more lovely Apples. Can you help me decide which exact models of iPad or Air + iPhone to buy? [more inside]
I have an excel doc with products down the left and people's names across the top. The people have each marked in their column the quantity of each product they would like. How do I make sure everyone gets what they want? [more inside]
Surprise test results at a workplace wellness screening have left me scrambling for a GP. Looking for a supportive, good doctor anywhere west of Mid-City on the Westside. [more inside]
I am shortly about to be on a job hunt for the first time in over a decade. I have a fair bit of experience as a professional, but the one thing I do not have is a completed degree, for reasons that are perhaps explicable, but how best to explain them?. Details within. [more inside]
Maybe a decade ago I read a book on the history of live music venues in Toronto from the 1950s to maybe the eighties or nineties. I am maybe 80% sure that title was borrowed from a song title, but every one that comes to mind (e.g "Heart of Gold") is something other than this. Anyone know the book? [more inside]
I'm helping in the planning stages of a swap(s) (it's for a quilt guild) and I'm trying to find a site that will help with the matching of pairs, kinda like the secret santa thing Metafilter and Reddit does. Prerequisites after the break. [more inside]
I work long hours and I frequently get so caught up in work plus basic staying afloat with relationships and errands and life maintenance tasks that I feel like whole seasons pass without my really having noticed, despite the fact I really love holidays and seasonal celebrations. To counteract this I have been looking for minimalist ways to commemorate various special days so that I am more aware of time passing. [more inside]
I've been reading about new laptops with very high resolution such as 3200x1800, 3840x2160, etc. It sounds amazing for my programming, it's a big plus to view more code on the screen at a time. But I've heard that the ultra-high resolution will make it difficult to even read the text, without scaling, which some say is problematic even in Windows 10 (and especially with an auxiliary monitor). Can someone advise who has firsthand experience with this? Should I wait until UHD/4K technology (and Windows) matures a bit more, before shooting for such high res? [more inside]
Is there a store that sells Diastatic Malt Powder in the Twin Cities? Can you tell me that store? Dear reader, which store is it?
Suppose I have a text file, is there something that can do English text-to-speech and save a series of wav files, one for each line in the text file? Suppose I'm using Windows.
A long-shot find-me-this-book question, academic edition! A friend has mislaid the title of a book he needs on Mexican popular religion. Do you know the book, or where else on the Internet might be a good place to ask? [more inside]
You are not my architect but maybe you can explain these concrete things to me. [more inside]
I am doing a major re-haul of the 8x11 tattered paper signage in my public library that indicates where things are in my library. For example, the shelves in the 500's with books on biology, astronomy, and general science are labeled, un-surprisingly, "science"; I'm thinking about changing that one to "Life, the Universe, and Everything." Are there better ideas out there? [more inside]
My husband needs to take both the OAR and GRE in the next handful of months. He has never taken the GRE and did a good job on the OAR, but needs to do a GREAT job. [more inside]
I am seeking the absolute most top-notch way to make popcorn at home. Ideally, it would be air-popped, though I could use a little oil if needed. Looking for recommendations on both cooking method/devices, popcorn types, and any other accoutrements. [more inside]
I used to be a decent writer growing up. I could write things in two hours that would take other people weeks while in school. Ideas.... mental outlines... of what a certain piece of writing would look and sound like would spontaneously form in my head, sometimes down to specific wording. Suddenly, I would get a burst of energy and write until there was nothing left. Now even writing an email feels like pulling teeth. What's wrong with me? YANMD. [more inside]
My partner read last week's FPP about emotional manipulators. He says that while he does not want to imply this is me at all times, it resonated, particularly this article. The internet is replete with advice on how to spot manipulators and get them out of your lives. It has little on how to stop it in yourself. Help. [more inside]
We're getting ready to do our first renovation ever, and while we're excited, there's a lot that's overwhelming in the planning and process due to our lack of knowledge on how these projects typically work. I'm sort of needing some clarity regarding the "order of operations" for moving a project like this along, in addition to a whole bunch of questions and concerns we've been finding ourselves discussing. [more inside]
Do slow cookers have any advantages over pressure cookers, in terms of the final result? The differences in cooking process are clear to me -- what I'm trying to understand if there are results that you can achieve with one appliance over the other. [more inside]
I've been invited to give a series of workshops at a local high school on writing science fiction and fantasy. What should I do to make them awesome? [more inside]
I'm stuck on part of a short story I'm writing. My main character is at a silent Vipassana retreat, but I'm not comfortable having so much of the action be internal. Aside from natural disasters and the like, what are some weird/dramatic things that could happen there that are realistic?
I replaced my laptop's hard drive, and it sometimes comes loose because it doesn't fit snugly into the compartment. Solutions? [more inside]
This previous question could almost be me--except that I'm much larger. I need to find a wedding outfit for a December wedding in Vegas, and I'm profoundly uncomfortable in dresses. Can you help me find sources for dressy straight-butch-ish clothes, in maybe a 26/28 size pant and a top size that ranges from 28 into the 30s? [more inside]
What do you do when someone halfway around the world is threatening suicide online in real time? Had a scary periscope experience last night, and my instinct to do something was impeded by not even knowing where to start. [more inside]
My five year old is running out of books. Need recommendations for new chapter books series appropriate for a younger kid who reads at a fourth grade level. He likes: Captain Awesome, Captain Underpants, Big Nate, The Alphabet Mysteries, My Weird School, The Magic Treehouse, Superfly.
I am planning a two-week hiking trip primarily to Utah, with a stop at the Grand Canyon, in (likely) mid-April next year. I have library books galore, but it's all a bit overwhelming in these early stages of planning, and I'd love some insight from those who have been before. [more inside]
According to this, Justin Trudeau spends less than two minutes a day on his glorious hair. Is it really that easy - just rub your fingers through your hair with the right pomade - or does it also require a glorious haircut from just the right barber?
I had a stroke and now have facial droop on one side of my face. My friend told me they have surgery, and/or injections to fix this. Is that true? What would it be called? what is the approximate cost? Would my insurance cover any of it? Thanks!
I'm throwing a barbecue / fireworks party for my wife's birthday. What things do I need to organise? [more inside]
I am starting a blog using a very simple wordpress template. But, Wordpress cuts off the post so that users see only the beginning. In addition, it is not clear that there is more content to follow. Is this a theme issue? I need the whole post (including photos) to show on the main page. This seems so basic. I tried googling but no luck.
My girlfriend's birthday is coming up (really soon)! I've planned for us to do some DIY activities with different friends, and I'm stuck on ideas. She loves making things, learning how to make things, and having things that she made herself. [more inside]
I got a new Nexus 6P the other day. Part of its appeal was all the reviews said the battery life was really good - and would last approx a day and a half with sensible usage. But for the last two days, I have come to work with it charged, listened to about an hour of music with the screen off on my commute, then left it on my desk, hardly used it apart from checking a couple of messages and yesterday it died after 11 hours, today after 11 hours it's down to 12%. [more inside]
My two children (ages 6 and 9) and I would like to buy a Tarot deck so that we can learn to tell each others' fortunes. The children like standard kid/fantasy stuff (Cthulhu, LOtR, Star Wars, puppies, LEGO, Minecraft, Terraria, cartoons, etc) and my only requirement is that it doesn't have nudity as that would freak out their long-suffering mother. Bonus points if it's under $15 and available on Amazon.
Is it possible to use a qi charger meant for a cellphone on a Kindle (Fire)? [more inside]
I am looking for examples of companies that have done an interesting, effective execution of using technology to improve their user experience in the physical space. Examples that I have so far: Disney's MagicBand program, Apple Stores and their checkout system, British Airways and their mobile boarding pass. Can you help me think of others?
This might be a bit of a stretch, but does anyone have any experience dealing with kosher caterers in Toronto? Recommendations or ones to particularly stay away from? [more inside]
Hi My nephew is 5, starting school in 2016 January (southern hemisphere semester.) He reads above the average for his age, and his interests vary greatly week to week. Neither of his parents, or Grandparents or extended family have any interest in Mythology or literature at all. He does have some though. He grasps the narrative structures of cartoons and TV shows he likes. He also really enjoys books of classic Fairy Tales like Grimm and Aesop, told for children. He seems like he is ready for Roald Dahhl... [more inside]
Help me find a creative use for an awkward ledge in my kid's room! [more inside]
Ben Carson stated his belief that the Pyramids of Giza were originally used to store grain, rather than royal corpses. I've never heard this hypothesis. Is there any archeological evidence to support this?
I bought a shirt. I ruined the shirt the minute I decided to return it. Can I fix this or have I just bought a £30 cleaning rag? [more inside]
I couldn't sleep last night, so I re-read Johnny Got His Gun, of course. Ever since the movie was released, I've wanted to see the actual crater of Joe's injured head. I've searched the web and Images using several phrases/key words, but the results are only the novel cover art or the drummer of the same name. [more inside]
Two sides of my house are clad in painted cedar shakes, and for some reason, two sides are clad in an aluminum clapboard (all the same color). We're due for a paint job in the next year or two and I'm considering having the house stripped down, re-insulated (blown in cellulose from the outside) and then re-clad. What to re-clad with? [more inside]
I'm thinking about changing careers, and what I've really always wanted to do is teach. But I'm not sure it's a reasonable goal at this stage, or what such a career would look like. Maybe someone out there can offer a suggestion. [more inside]
I wish to send my dear Finnish penpal a bunch of cool things you can only buy in Canada (and maybe also stuff that may be sold elsewhere but is only really popular in Canada). What to send, MeFi? [more inside]
I've got a week to myself in Mexico, starting in mid-December. I want to really learn how to surf, and maybe do some diving or snorkeling too. I don't have a very big budget, and I'm flying home out of Puerto Vallarta, but starting the trip in Guadalajara. I'm looking for recommendations on hostels, surf schools, and other things to do in the PV area. [more inside]
I got Nylas N1 for Windows today. Looks pretty, seems cool for developers, but is there any way I can use it? [more inside]
The idea of a marker/symbol of engagement appeals to me (as does the idea of tweaking gendered norms). I'm not otherwise terribly ornamentally inclined, so this feels like a good one-exception for her. I've seen suggestions online of "Eventual-wedding-ring on right hand, swap hands at the ceremony", which sounds particularly appealing, though I haven't seen anything consistent about where this might be common or how common it might be. Within the United States, about how well would this be received/understood? [more inside]
My mother and I are driving up to Kansas City this weekend for a coffee crawl and I am hoping to get suggestions for places to eat. [more inside]
Were you, or someone you know, discharged from the hospital with delirium? What can I expect? Does delirium clear up faster outside the hospital? [more inside]
I'm a single straight man in my mid 30s. I'm seriously considering buying and wearing a (cheap) wedding band for reasons I'll list out below, but I know it will seem weird when I have to explain to someone that I'm not actually married. I can't gauge how weird, though, so please help. [more inside]
I could have written this question. I think we could benefit so much. But, how do I get SO on board? [more inside]
My internet speeds aren't good, and randomly drop out. I'd like to rent/buy a new modem, but know nothing about them. Help? [more inside]
My four-year-old is as obsessed with Hamilton as I am. He is full of Alexander Hamilton facts and keeps sing "Oceans rise, empires faaaaaaall" with Broadway gestures. We need some high-quality Founding Father (and/or Mother!) children's books! Obviously the big gets are the guys from the musical: Hamilton, Washington, Adams, Jefferson, and Madison. But we will also accept Franklin, Jay, lesser founders, and assorted wives and girlfriends. And I suppose Aaron Burr, sir. [more inside]
I'm looking for a replacement for my old weekend/short trip bag. Ideally I'd like a small (~18 in) duffle bag that still has some structure to it. More details inside. [more inside]
I have this friend I'd like to buy a gift for Christmas... Except I'm stumped on what they'd actually like. Difficulty level: eats only for sustenance, no scents or things that involve dealing with strangers, politely flees from novelty. Mends clothing and not due to lack of funds; refuses to throw out or change anything remotely functional. [more inside]
I bought some milk by accident when I still had an almost full container. What are some recipes (besides making ricotta/mozzarella) that use up a decent amount? It's cow milk.
CPAP users: How do you prevent rainout (condensation forming in your hose and landing on your face) in your CPAP, besides using a heated hose? My "hose cozy" is just not cutting it. Is there anything I can do before I see my doctor about a new prescription for a CPAP with a heated hose? [more inside]
For my dad's birthday, I am planning to take him to dinner and a movie--the new James Bond. I am planning to make him a whole mission dossier, like something 007 would get. I was already planning to have him meet me at a rendezvous point (the restaurant) with Moneypenny (my mom) where he would have to...hand off...something? To get the tickets? What fun details can I add to his mission? What Bond-y items might I want to include? [more inside]
Hey gang, I am thinking about buying a small apartment in Skopje, Macedonia. I don't know the first thing about Macedonian property transactions, but I need to buy something for family reasons. Can you refer me to trusted advisors who can assist? I need advice on finding the right property, the legal aspects, the negotiation, etc and willing to pay for it. Thanks!
I can buy a bike from Shop 1 for 20% off MSRP. They're local, but not too local, and I have no particular allegiance to them. The 20% is a discount for members of a certain group. I'd prefer to buy the same bike from Shop 2, which is more local to me and which I like more. Is it ethical to ask if Shop 2 can give me a discount as well (whether 20% or less), or do I need to suck it up and decide between a discount and my preferred shop? [more inside]
I am a 30-year-old male from the United States that is considering a move to the Pacific Northwest (Washington/Oregon) from the Midwest. Rain, clouds, fog: these are my ideal weather conditions. Can you help me find what I'm looking for? [more inside]
Hi there, I have a colleague in PR who was used to getting data from Sysomos. He says 'she would love some other tool which will help her quantify engagement around particular news (press releases, financial news, etc)' Other than Hootsuite/Talkwalker I can't think of many others. Any tips? Thank You!
How do I (a n00b) fight a collections agency holding debt I am not liable for? [more inside]
How can I become satisfied enough by non-relationship pursuits that a relationship no longer feels necessary? Using "relationship" to mean a romantic relationship, here. [more inside]
I'm hosting an all-day TV/movie marathon at my house. Tacos are a requested menu item. Please help me work out how to keep the cold stuff safe. [more inside]
At the casino table game of Craps, does the way you throw matter? If you blow on the dice, shake them, throw different than the other previous shooter, or emulate the lucky shooter, will the outcome of winning or losing change? or is this a simple un-measurable superstition related to "things that make a shooter 7-out"?
My cat has been scooting his butt for months. We've tried all of the usual suspects, but he still scoots! Our vet has no idea and wants us to see a specialist. I was hoping one of you has solved a similar scooting mystery. [more inside]
Spouse and I are struggling. We're busy, we're cranky, we're over extended, we are both feeling unappreciated and unheard. We have some of the stereotypical gender based dysfunctional interactions. We are having the same damn fights. Though more frequently because of life. There's no big drama, but we aren't being as nice to each other as we should be. We aren't supporting each other the way we should. [more inside]
I saw this print in an ice cream shop in Denver and would really like to get a copy for a friend. I asked a couple folks there and they believed that all the art on the wall had bee acquired online ("probably on Etsy"), but I haven't been able to find anything even similar. [more inside]
I need to check about 10 wine bottles on a flight. I want to pack with cheap molded pulp inserts (either two-across or three-across), which I'll pack into a box like this. But I'm having trouble finding/buying those molded inserts. I need 4 or 5, and if I can buy them locally in NYC (or, better, my destination in Austin/Dallas), that would be great, as I leave pretty soon. [more inside]
Hello Metafriends, I'm teaching a class tonight and have blanked out on scenes that have sparse dialogue and take place in a stairwell or parking garage or a hallway (locations we have available). I'm hoping the hive mind could help. Clear conflict and turning points are ideal. Thanks for your thoughts!
I'm looking for the best memoirs by male comedians. There was a similar question four years ago, with a bunch of great suggestions (Steve Martin, George Carlin, Mike Birbiglia), so I'm interesting most in ones that have come out since then. Mix of funny & poignant, lift-story stuff.
How do I determine if it’s better to continue being a landlord or sell my rental property to invest in a new primary residence? [more inside]