November 2014 Archives
I'm paraphrasing, obviously, but I recently encountered the Thoughts of a Prominent Thinker who's belief in the existence of god is based, somewhat backwardsly, on the sheer ridiculousness? improbability? unlikelihood? of god's existence. I can't for the life of me track down the specific memory attached to this idea, and google only gives me a bunch of websites arguing about how to prove god does or does not exist. Help me out, friends!
Dream job pays $35k/year, health insurance is mandatory through CalPERS at $750/month (no employer contribution.) Since that would be more than 9.5% of my income, it looks like Covered California would kick in a subsidy. How does that work-- what do I ask for? [more inside]
I’m going with my friend who is doing stuff for her PhD. She will be at the university all day and I will be on my own. I need some reassurance about a few things. [more inside]
I have long used a Samsung LCD TV as a monitor. It works for me, with adjustment of the settings (backlight, sharpness, special display compensations turned off, etc.) as well as the graphic system's. So is there a good reason to buy a computer display that bills itself as a monitor over an HDTV? I've done a short search and the reasons given don't convince me, since they don't mention display quality differences. (Reasons, some old, include: can't go higher than x resolution, connectors, speakers...) [more inside]
I had repeated sparks and smoking coming from the upper left side of my microwave when trying to heat a bag of popcorn and some soup (I immediately stopped it of course). However, after a thorough cleaning the problem seems to have stopped. Is it safe to assume the microwave is fine? [more inside]
Thinking about applying to PhD programs in cognitive science after 4 years of tech job experience with no research experience. What do you say? [more inside]
I'm a food blogger and my photo editing process takes way too much time to justify at this moment in my life (normally I spend a long time on Photoshop saving everything for the web and resizing to a 605 width so it fits my blog). Is there a way I can do that straight from my phone and publish on to Flickr directly? That would be a huge help!
I have a wonderful eleven year old Westie. He's physically very healthy. He was just tested for Cushing's and cancer, both were negative. The only symptom he shows during the day is going out the dog door and then forgetting the dog door is there when he wants in. Bedtime is bad, and the accommodation we've been using failed tonight. Can you help me with ways to get him to bed safely? [more inside]
I want to make an online, easily-updated map with placemarks one can click on for more information. The challenge: many of my placemarks overlap (i.e., reference different individuals at one address). [more inside]
How can somebody on the receiving end of the unfortunate manifestations of Asian fetish ("yellow fever") suck it up and get on with her day/life as best as possible? [more inside]
A friend of mine (M, early 30s) started getting retinal migraines a couple of weeks ago. He's had probably three or four over the space of the past two or three weeks. How concerned should he be? [more inside]
I'm looking for a magic kit for my son who is 8 1/2. I'd like a kit that has lots of actual physical tricks, not one containing an instruction book that teaches tricks that are mostly not included with the kit. Also - I'd like tricks that are good quality - not cheap and junky plastic. Lastly, they need to be the self-working variety that don't require any sleight of hand. Recommendations for brands that fit the bill and brands to stay away from are welcome.
Three days in NYC, just before Christmas. Please give a newbie coupled with a been-before advice about the new Chinatown in Queens, riding the ferry to Staten Island, and the High Line. Plus, Metrocard. [more inside]
What is the sample used in Homebody Sandman's "I Saw a World" and Cunninlynguists - "Things I Dream"? [more inside]
I'm helping a friend with scanning her family's artwork from the 40s and 50s. Can you walk me through the best practices and equipment? [more inside]
My natural gas water heater just got replaced and a couple of oddities: 1) if I have my shed door shut all the way for a day, the next time I walk in there, it smells of natural gas (not an overwhelming odor, but you know the gas is present in the air); 2) the hot water doesn't last for an entire shower like the old water heater had. [more inside]
A friend in Victoria is trying to extricate herself from an emotionally abusive relationship. She has been living with this man for ten years and they own a house jointly. [more inside]
A few months ago I moved into a new apartment, and decided to get one of these industrial shelving units - something like this to use as a desk/bookshelf/musical gear shelf. Everything works great, except when I plug my macbook into its charger and start typing. If my hands are on the aluminum body of the macbook and my wrists brush up against the metal frame of the shelving unit, I get a sharp shock, nothing too bad, but painful and annoying. [more inside]
I often see braising recipes that call for marinating meat for an hour or overnight, and then braising the meat low & slow in the same marinade (plus liquid and maybe an added spice or 2). E.g. lamb shanks, pot roast, short ribs. But does a marinade really accomplish anything that 2 or 3 hours under low heat cannot?
Cheap 3d printers under $200 to keep a hobbyist busy? Not interested in kickstarter vaporware, and can be barely functional. This is to keep an electronics hobbyist friend from "fixing" other electronics in the house, actual usefulness not required.
What are some ten-year-old or older computer games that have active communities producing user-created content in 2014? [more inside]
I am in California. Yesterday while stopped at a red light I was hit from behind. The visible damage on both cars is minimal and no one was hurt, but it was still a jarring crash. The person who hit me is insured but does not want me to make a claim and has offered to pay for my inspection and repairs out of pocket. Is there any reason that I should not make a claim in this situation? [more inside]
I'm in a new position at work where I'm now managing multiple projects and people, and need to overhaul my system for organizing tasks to avoid drowning. What solutions are there for my situation? [more inside]
I'm trying to get my brother and sister-in-law (who are in their mid 30s) a good food gift for Christmas. They live in Nashville and are foodies. Last year we got them a cheese calendar (every month, they were mailed a delicious local cheese. This was in West Virginia). They liked it and I hope to do something like that again - a little gift each month that just automatically shows up. Any ideas? [more inside]
Help! Ardmore PA Amtrak station to the Philadelphia airport tonight — what's the best way? [more inside]
I'd like to read a book with more details on this. This is a cool page. "When the Northwestern Elevated Railroad built its Ravenswood branch in 1906, [lots of cool information with pictures]. Are there any books like that? I want to read all about the development of the area, illustrated with historical photos. What kind of cars did they use? Did they have to build through neighborhoods? how did that work? etc etc etc!
I've had a guest stay with Airbnb who self tanned constantly and even a week after they have left I can still smell it in the room. The problem is it is still so pervasive that I cannot even isolate where it is coming from by going around and sniffing things up close. It's a sort of vitamin C effervescent tablet/cat pee sort of thing. [more inside]
I forgot to put the cover on my grill last night, and now it's raining. Maybe one stop up from a drizzle, but certainly not a downpour. My gut feeling is that covering the thing now will only make the inside of the cover wet. Thoughts?
I'm in a cooking rut and have a toddler who eats a medically-necessary low-protein diet. Any ideas on how I can most easily find cookbooks that have nutrition facts listed for each recipe and are non-meat-centric? I've browsed through a bunch cookbooks of libraries but seem to have a 6% success rate at finding ones with nutrition facts. Those that do seem to be low-fat or low-calorie-focused books, and fat and calories are very much A-OK for my toddler. [more inside]
Help me find groups to up my community involvement in the dark months of winter. [more inside]
My partner works 12am - 8am Mon-Fri. He sleeps roughly 11am to 7pm. We see each other in the evenings and that works for us. The problem -- there is nothing to do on Friday or Saturday night from 12am-8am on his "days" off. He has no interest in bars or pubs. There is a 24-hour grocery store and bagel shop in our medium-sized city, but that seems to be all. [more inside]
Looking for advice on how to have a peaceful couple of days with family members with whom I have unresolved issues. [more inside]
Show me your best, weirdest, coolest, funniest, or most beautiful ornaments that can be got for $20 or less. [more inside]
Hey all, a particular literary conversation has gotten stuck in my head for days and I can't source it. I've tried every number and combination of Bing/Google searches, but it may be that I'm not getting the exact words right in the phrase. [more inside]
My friend's son is planning to join the Navy ROTC with the hope of becoming a pilot. What is the best computer (console?) flight simulator for the purpose of developing those skills? Are there any special peripherals to get? Is there a different answer for piloting drones than piloting traditional aircraft? Helicopters? Thanks.
Can this be cleaned? Should this be cleaned? Or should we go directly to replacing the seat? I've cleaned the surface, but it still smells, and I suspect the foam underneath must have gotten soaked. I'm willing to spend the money if it needs to be spent. I do not want to spend the next 10 years trying to excuse a faint eau de crap to my passengers.
I know I "should" take a break from dating, but I don't want to. Why "should" I? Snowflakery follows [more inside]
Running a discussion Monday night with a group of 5-6 year olds. We will be discussing how photography has changed the way we view the world, and I was looking for suggestions for some example photos to use. [more inside]
What are some good books of mythology/stories from world religion for kids? [more inside]
Hey everyone. For awhile now I have been living with aural fullness, meaning it feels like my ears are clogged but they are not. Not sure if my actual ability to hear has gone down, though, as I went to two audiologists and both say that my hearing is ok, though my right ear had trouble with certain frequencies I seem to remember that as a child I had alot of hearing infections if that means anything. I also have a case of tinnitus that can get intense at times. Ringing and stuff. I have read what I may be experiencing is called 'Aural Fullness'. Just a sense of fullness in the ears that can be caused by a long line of things. Does anyone know anything about this condition? I read that my whole issue might be a problem with my Eustachian tube, but if it was, wouldn't the audiologist notice that? I know I am not imagining this. I just want it to get better.
Spanish newbie filter. I'm teaching myself Spanish with the help of Duolingo and am having trouble with a few particular problem areas. Specifically, I would like some sort of handy way to recall present tense conjugations of the three types of verb. Something similar to differentiate the questions would be good as well. Also, if you use the app or found any handy methods while learning Spanish that aided recall, I would love to hear them. I'm enjoying this a lot and plan to stick with it. [more inside]
I stumbled my way into an associate editor position a year ago with no previous media experience, and have now been promoted to managing editor at the site. I'm successfully doing the job, but I constantly run into places where I wish I knew how "proper" newsrooms handled things. How do I learn? [more inside]
Lay your weirdest calendars on me. [more inside]
I met a guy. I liked him and I'm pretty sure he liked me too BUT I might not see him again if we don't do something about it right now. [more inside]
I often obsess in my head about how many of X item I should buy at a time. What is your process for deciding this with maximum end satisfaction for any given category? [more inside]
I bought pumpkin ravioli (stuffed with ricotta cheese and mozzarella) last night and left it in my backpack by accident. It's been about 22 hours. It's about 60 degrees here. Can I cook and eat this right now without getting sick, do you think?
I just got an lg g2 and ended up rooting it to install viper4android just so I can listen to my podcasts at a decent volume through full sized headphones. And the headphones I use to listen to podcasts with aren't even that special of headphones just a $40-50 pair of sennheiser hd 419s. I ended up rooting my nexus 7 yesterday and modifying the mixer_paths.xml files just to get the volume louder. My old s3 is slightly better in this repsect but i don't want to use 2 separate phones when I could just use one. So is it my imagination or are phone manufacturers treating us like babys and nerfing the output level of the headphone jack? Or has my hearing just gone to crap from listening to music too loud for too long?
What is the best alternative to a Thinkpad T series under $500 for someone who has been satisfied with a T420 until now? [more inside]
I need some sort of barrier or tape that will survive the winter snow and rain to apply to the gaps between my siding and window frame. [more inside]
Given that anyone can claim to be a photographer (myself included), how can I best (casually) sell my amateur photos? After reading about someone else's troubles selling fantastic photos on Etsy, is it more likely to make a sale on a site that does all the printing on their end? Is it better to upload photos daily to multiple sites, or is that considered poor form? Please tell me more of photo sites and their related etiquette. [more inside]
What kind of tape would work well to bolster my bag's handles against further wear? [more inside]
I'm looking at 2 Scrum certification courses (Product Owner & Scrum Master) that will give me the number of classroom hours I need towards my PMP. And then what? [more inside]
I just got a new TV -- a Sony Bravia kdl-48w600b -- and I am trying to figure out if I can connect a keyboard -- any kind of keyboard to it. The internet is not helping -- I cannot find a solid answer. Some say yes you can, some say no, it's impossible (which would be a huge pain for a smart TV). Has anyone successfully connected a keyboard (wired or not) to their TV of the same model? If yes, what type of keyboard do I need to buy?
What is a good website for finding cheap renting deals on RVs to travel one-way to the destination the company needs the RV moved to?
I have too-hot-to-eat chili peppers, but also a jar of milder pepperoncini brine. Can the latter "cool" the former? [more inside]
I'm looking for a cool historic photo for a specific spot in my house. What are your favorite sources for that kind of thing? [more inside]
My 3,5 year old's number one wish for christmas is a "farm, with two people cutting wood with scissors". I was stymied, until my husband said he vaguely remembers seeing an ad with her on a German children's tv channel. He thinks it may have been a Playmobil ad and there was, among other things, two guys sawing wood. [more inside]
I use a special brand of hairspray all the time to put temporary highlights in my hair.... the downside is it makes me smell HORRIBLE. I've tried lots of other brands and haven't found anything with as good a color. I'm able to take the top spray nozzle off the bottle. Could I add anything into the bottle to eliminate the fragrance? like maybe rubbing alcohol? The brand is BBlonde by Jerome Russell. Thanks!
Help maximize my small data allowance! [more inside]
My husband's been offered a position in Toronto that would advance his career somewhat, but the effect on my career is a Huge Unknown. [more inside]
Looking for a trendy wool/cashmere/Alpaca/Merino wool coat [more inside]
Employers verify a degree or get a transcript by contacting the prospective employee's school. Why isn't this procedure used in colleges and universities (instead of the onus being placed on the student to provide the information)?
We'd like to humidify our bedroom. Can we make a meaningful difference with houseplants? What kind, for low light and non-toxicity to cats? Alternatively, is there a humidifier that isn't annoying? [more inside]
...Intermittently, when I plug in the power cord or detach/reattach the tablet, the system freezes, unfreezes, freezes, etc. [more inside]
Blended baby meat - from the store or blended myself - tastes bitter and unpleasant. What are some good ways to make it taste better without using a sugar-heavy sauce?
I've been training for my first half-marathon in two weeks following the Hal Higdon Novice 2 program. My knee has been acting up more and more during the long runs. What to do now? [more inside]
After spending more time crawling pubs and attending street fairs, I've discovered some very good local music that I might not have heard about otherwise. Usually, the most press they get is a small blurb in a local community events paper, and you generally only hear about them through word of mouth. I'd love to find less-famous musicians in other cities who deserve some love. Who are your favourite local bands? Can you link to one or two of their tracks?
How should I keep two backup drives synchronized in Windows 8.1? I think I want something like Rsync. Why can't Windows do this easily? Or can it? [more inside]
There are loads of things I'm crap at including driving tests, reading maps, i.t, maths and statistics, science and anatomy and handling conflict. Some of these would help me professionally and all are areas I'd like to improve in... or at the very least have an elementary grasp of to be better rounded or whatever.. Whilst I'm sure self talk/prior negative experiences/crap teachers and/or feedback/brain wiring (maybe...) keep me a bit stuck with these subjects.. at various points I have sat down semi seriously at least to try and tackle these knowledge deficits. Granted discipline ain't always my strongest trait.. but have you had any related success stories to overcoming a subject you were intimidated by/felt 'doomed' in(?!) I'd love to get your tips and insights.
I aspire to be a woman who knows how to take care of a car. Where do I begin? [more inside]
I have a series of issues around getting my home insured. Please advise? [more inside]
Heated garage, just cold water pipe run to it. What's the easiest way to add hot (or vaguely warm) water to my utility sink? [more inside]
Need help identifying a vaguely remembered TV commercial. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: My daughter, "Christine", a recent college graduate, age 22, U.S. citizen, is one of three young people who got a job with a language teaching business in Hong Kong. She and the two others have been working without a permit for several months and were recently detained by immigration authorities. Now out on bail, what should she do next? [more inside]
We're looking into building a desktop 3d printer with our just-teen sons. What's a suitable 3d printer building process/kit, with good instruction chapters, for a sub-$1K investment, in a OSX/iOS, not-extreme-tinkering household? (Any recommendations from this recent list of entry-level 3d printers, some of which have kits?) [more inside]
How difficult is it for a skilled classical composer to write a decent pop song? [more inside]
Kind of a follow-up to this question: I need help converting high-resolution DjVu files to PDF. [more inside]
I'm looking for beautiful movies where love affairs are the jumping-off point for a critique of bourgeois society. [more inside]
I've dumped a pound of dried figs into a jar full of vodka for some fig-infused vodka goodness. The liquor is starting to turn golden and figgy... Mmmm! My recipe tells me to strain the figs out of the jar before consuming and discard them -- is there any way to reuse the figs themselves in another holiday recipe? [more inside]
If I ovulated yesterday, and had unprotected sex today (with withdrawal), will Plan B or a similar pill work? What I'm reading on their site and elsewhere indicates that it works by preventing ovulation, and there's no evidence that it prevents implantation. I'm sure I was ovulating yesterday, but not sure if I still am today (very possible). If there's a chance the pill will help I'll take it, but otherwise want to avoid it, because I know it will make me sick.
Trying to track down a research paper involving homosexuality and identity. Or something. [more inside]
Just got a new internal hard drive for my PC and would like to copy files from my netbook to my PC's new hard drive. [more inside]
Does anyone know common tricks used for practical effects in early films? [more inside]
I got a popup saying "You have been hacked by the Syrian Electronic Army (SEA)." It appears to be a group that defaces server pages. [more inside]
I'm preparing for several interviews and I want to figure out a way to finally effectively answer the ONE question that has always been interview-kryptonite to me, which has always been a a variant of: "Tell me about a time when you had a conflict with my coworker and how you resolved it." [more inside]
I live in an area with a lot of agriculture. Being late November, most of the crops have been harvested, and the soil has been cultivated to prepare for the next planting. In most of the fallow fields this means that they've made long, raised rows. In some of the fields, though, the soil has been formed into perfectly spaced hillocks about one foot tall. 1) Why? 2) What kind of farm implement makes these mounds? [more inside]
I recently purchased the Iphone 6 and love using it, but the EarPods do not work well for me. Help me find an alternative. [more inside]
I was recently diagnosed with a UTI at an urgent care clinic. The PA (I did not see an MD or NP) prescribed a ten-day course of cipro to treat it (500mg, twice a day, for 10 days). That seems excessive to me (though I will take the full course of antibiotics as prescribed). Is such a long course of antibiotics commonly prescribed for UTIs? [more inside]
I have a job. It's pretty good - for a graduate at least. However, it's not everything they promised and I've been looking for alternatives at the same time as trying to improve things in my current place. Now everything's happening at once and I don't know what the best way to proceed is. Snowflakes inside as always. [more inside]
Where can I get the best, finest, most fussy and superlative men's straight razor shave and a haircut in San Francisco?
Mr metarkest is a photographer using the Boutique template in Squarespace 7. On a gallery page, Squarespace superimposes the title and description on the lower part of images, but he wants the title and captions to appear below the images. Is there a code injection that can do this, or can you recommend someone who would write the code for hire?
I'm moving to a new state (California to Montana). I'm couch-surfing at the moment, so my cats are staying with my folks in California until I find a permanent place to live. I'm trying to figure out whether hiring movers is feasible, or whether I should just go back for them myself. [more inside]
I'm looking for media (books mostly) related to technical histories of engineering projects. [more inside]
I'd like to make a portfolio of videos. Can you help me find a template to use? [more inside]
I've posted plenty here about mental health stuff this year, and now I'm posting because I'm about two weeks into a manic episode which is the really irritable mania, not the euphoric kind. I have only been being treated for bipolar II starting this year, and it's possible my mania is actually a trauma response. I am hoping someone here can help me make do with the mania while it lasts, if not help me figure out how to get it to end early without totally crashing. [more inside]
I want to record two people talking to each other on my iPad (with iPad video) but I want better sound than the iPad mic itself provides. What's the best way to do this? [more inside]
Looking for MeFites with knowledge of the (FAR) federal acquisition regulations. After 18 years of invoicing the goverment for travel as a contractor and now subcontractor, a new auditor is saying I cannot charge for flights that do not orginate and end at a home airport. No one has ever said this before. Can someone tell me where this is referenced in the 1000+ pages of the FAR.
Help me find a coffee table I saw recently in a catalogue, or on Houzz, or in Dwell... It's haunting my dreams! [more inside]
My mom has been attending a new church whose congregants regularly fret over what they call "The Black Moon." The talk amongst the folks there (though not--as far as I know--from the pulpit itself) is that the Bible predicts a stock market crash in October of next year. What in the holy hell are they talking about? And, on a scale of one to ten, exactly how bananas are these people? [more inside]
I recall seeing a desk built with just a simple tabletop, and 6" below the tabletop there was a shelf that ran all the way around the table. Ring a bell? [more inside]
Please recommend (English language) books set in Japan, of the magical reality genre. I'm looking for well-written prose (or great translations thereof), quirky characters (with exaggerated traits), a touch of the supranatural (other worldliness), and ideally, a bit of humor in the mix. I love most of Rushdie's work and García Márquez', and thoroughly enjoyed Okri's famished road. What might I like?
I'm looking for paintings, photographs and maps featuring the Pioneer Valley of Western Massachusetts for display in my home. [more inside]
Best uses for homemade kraut? [more inside]
I have a question about facebook search and finding posts in a facebook group on certain dates. [more inside]
Ms. Justice would like to buy a few stylish, professional-looking scarves to dress up and add a splash of color to her business suits and jackets. One difficulty is that many scarves are just too big, giving the impression when worn that one has a small tablecloth draped around one's neck. Can you recommend some upscale, not overly flashy, scarf vendors who sell product suitable for professional office wear that is relatively small and thin?
I'm trying to identify a French movie for a colleague. I don't have much to go on and IMDB/Google have failed me. Somewhat [more inside]
Asking for a friend: I feel I'm being taken advantage of at work - being asked repeatedly to act for months at a time in a higher-duties role that I aspire to... with no compensation. And I keep being overlooked for the permanent position. [more inside]
Please help me decide what I need for cold-weather gear for Kilimanjaro! [more inside]
I was told (in an argument about feminism, of all darned things) that in order to be eligible to vote in the USA a (male) citizen is required to register to be drafted into the military. Is this true at all? [more inside]
How legitimate is rolfing? Wikipedia says it is pseudo-scientific. [more inside]
Could my anxiety/stress be manifesting itself with all of these distressing physical symptoms? [more inside]
I was trying to make a recipe that required pecans today, but when I went to get a bag of pecans from my freezer door, I found that the bag was strangely puffed up, as if someone had inflated it. The bag had never been opened and did not look like this when I originally put it in the freezer after purchase some months ago. Two questions: 1) What could have caused this? (Can things like botulism happen to nuts in a freezer?) 2) Would you still eat the pecans? They looked and smelled 100% normal.
I am about halfway into season 5 of "new" Dr. Who (first season with Matt Smith) and I am not liking it so far. Will the things that I don't like about it change? [more inside]
I have old Spanish olive oil label, apparently from the 1930s. The printer's name, in small print at the bottom of the label, reads "A. Martinez" (although there is a slight chance that the "A." is actually an "R."). This name is followed by a dash and "Barcelona" and preceded by what looks like T* G*. The "asterisk" looks something like a superscripted yen (currency) symbol. All this is difficult to read because it is printed in black on a dark green background. The brand name of the olive oil is Vulcano.
Does this product exist? Would it be difficult to set up? and how much would it cost? [more inside]
My girlfriend would like it if her old MacBook Pro could run faster and have Windows. I don't know how to do this - that is where you come in... Help please? [more inside]
I've lived in Chicago for more than two years and am curious why there is no meat in canned or jarred pasta sauces here. In England Spaghetti Bolognese (an inauthentic italian sauce I know) was a grocery store staple and almost always featured ground beef. In Canada there was the poetically named Meat Sauce. In Chicago there is nary a mention of meat in any of the prepared pasta sauces on grocery store shelves (Jewel, Whole Foods, Trader Joes). What gives? Is there some sort of regulation preventing this or is it just a regional taste thing?
I want to build a site but don't want to code my own password reset scripts. Looking for recommendations for frameworks (are they called that?) or respositories for frankencoding a website. Also planning/prototyping tools that would let me describe what I want in plain language/mindmap style. [more inside]
Looking for an easy introduction to coding for a 12 year old. It has to be something he can do on his own, without much adult input. He loves art, drawing, and creating his own cartoon characters, so visual references are a must.
Is there a standard go to trimmer for leaving a 5 o’clock shadow? Something small and maneuverable which cuts evenly and closely but still leaving hair above the skin? [more inside]
people who are a bit older than me in my field but who somehow see me as an equal [more inside]
There are kittens in the yard! Very tiny, very cute, very stumbly kittens. Unfortunately, they cannot stay where they are. Looking for help in rehoming them in NYC. [more inside]
This may be a long shot, but can anyone recommend someone who can transfer VHS video to DVD in Bucharest, Romania? [more inside]
So, my wife was in a bad wreck last monday, and during the course of MRI etc, they found a tumor on her brain. In spite of the hopeful, initial thought, it turns out to be a Grade 3 Annoplastic Astro Cytoma. Which pretty well sucks. The good news is, they were able to excise the entire tumor, plus a bit extra since it's location (right temporal lobe) lent itself to that surgery. [more inside]
Since Bento for the Mac is no longer supported, I converted a Bento database I use for keeping track of beer brewing to a LibreOffice database. The only thing that didn't work was a calculated field I had that used the Original Gravity and Final Gravity fields to come up with the ABV. How can I do this in LibreOffice? [more inside]
New job is going swimmingly except that the CRM I am working with is fast being shown by its own abilities to be a dud. It is called SuiteCRM. I am done with the official customer support and looking for a book that will show me how to do all the things our IT consultant either can't be bothered to do or doesn't know how to do. Particularly, set up functionality to receive email in the CRM and install email templates. Can you signpost me?
I've been out of college for about 15 years, where I minored in music composition, but I wouldn't say it was a complete education, although I'm pretty good on basic theory, counterpoint, modulating, etc. In the meantime I've done a bit of film and video game music on the side, but I really want to have a rigorous education in modern composition. [more inside]
I absolutely love the vibe of the song "I'm Not the Only One" by Sam Smith. Would like more songs like this, please. [more inside]
There's a particular meme that I remember seeing a while back, probably on Reddit, and I'm wondering if (a) it has a name and (b) if anyone has curated examples of it. [more inside]
Can you recommend shows or books that act as great "love-hate" letters deconstructing and showing off the flaws in a particular idea or genre while also being loving examples of the genre? [more inside]
I'm undertaking a research project in which I'm evaluating several different organizations based on specific yet qualitative criteria, e.g. "promotes outreach", "reports on progress", etc. I need to able to capture the information and then display the results in some sort of meaningful way so that it can be incorporated into a report. [more inside]
TV, movie, and book suggestions for a Daria fan [more inside]
How did you learn to feel comfortable in your body after trauma? (Possible trigger warning) [more inside]
Long story short, my wife and I are separating and I may try to find work and live in the US (I'm currently in Canada and a Canadian citizen). I'm trying to hear from others who have shared custody of their children where their ex- lives in another country. My situation is across the US/Canada border but I'm interesting in hearing other experiences as well. [more inside]
I'd like some recommendations for books to get my 6 year old girl who has a vast interior life I only rarely get glimpses of. [more inside]
My father is, and always has been, a loving, decent, supportive, honorable person. He's also always been crotchety, unworldly, domineering, and set in his ways. Is there a way to encourage him--without preaching and without being strident--to reflect on the ways his attitudes sometimes cross the border from "Sh*t My Dad Says" into less defensibly hateful/ignorant territory? [more inside]
I'm interested in teaching high school students mathematics through a tutoring agency. I have the required experience in mathematics, but very little in teaching. This doesn't seem to be a massive problem for many tutoring agencies, but I want to know: do you have any specific tips/advice about teaching mathematics? And more broadly, any advice about applying for and going to work for a tutoring agency? [more inside]
What are your favorite super-involved, day-long recipes? [more inside]
How have you reconciled differing sex drives? [more inside]
I am doing some pre-cooking for tomorrow, and hit a snag. The recipe I used for dressing was one loaf of cubed sourdough bread, some sauteed-in-butter celery/onion/green apple, fresh parsley, thyme, salt and pepper, and baked with turkey broth and eggs. The result is a dressing slightly too tangy and without much interest. Hoping you can help. [more inside]
I'm the frontman for a band and I recently had a come-to-Jesus moment using in-ear monitors for the first time, as opposed to monitor wedges. But some of the pitfalls scare me and I'm interested in your experiences. [more inside]
I find it very hard to cope with extramarital attractions that are cropping up several years into my marriage. What gives? [more inside]
MeFi Kitty Experts . . . I come to you: I have extensively googled and asked friends and family, but I want to hear your own stories and experiences. Today, at the local animal shelter, I met the most amazing 3 yr old male (neutered) kitty. I want to know if he is a good match for my 10 year old (also neutered) male kitty. This is a ten-year commitment and I want to get it right. [more inside]
Is there something I can do to help any future victims of a rapist I failed to accuse in my youth? I'm haunted. [more inside]
What is the song in my head? [more inside]
I have a 15 gig iPhone of the previous generation, and the Safari web browser has had some interesting quirks of late. When I've left websites with logins unattended for more than, say, thirty seconds, I automatically get logged out (even when I've clicked the "keep me logged in" box on the login page). More recently, the cache has "forgotten" the URLs for websites I frequent. I've set "never" to the Block Cookies option in settings. What can I do to get Safari to keep me logged in and to cache/remember the sites I visit?
Next weekend I'll be performing in a holiday concert with my chorus. This will involve, including rehearsal and performance time, roughly 11-12 hours (over the course of two days) of standing almost completely still, with my hands at my sides, on a very hard marble church floor. [more inside]
I need elegant but relatively uncomplicated cookie recipes (yes, just cookies: I don't have any cupcake tins at present; not inspired right now to bake a pie or cake, either - however I am open to sweet bread loaves like chocolate pumpkin bread*) that I can make with what I *already* have in the pantry/fridge, and can whip up either tonight or tomorrow morning before Thanksgiving festivities. Pantry contents inside. [more inside]
I am trying to remember the name of a mystery series I ran across recently and my google-fu is failing. All I can remember about it is that it was a mystery series, it was available on DVD in the U.S. (my local library has copies), and there were multiple seasons. Can you help me figure out what it might be? [more inside]
Is there any way to get free calling and texting on wifi but through a carrier when wifi isn't available (using the same number)? [more inside]
Our almost-three-year-old loves Peter Gabriel's "Sledgehammer" video (AKA "the fruit video"). Any suggestions for fun visually-creative videos? [more inside]
My workout music is centered around Public Image Limited's Metal Box ("Poptones," "Swan Lake," "Memories") and the first four tracks on The Walker Brothers' Nite Flights ("Shutout," "Fat Mama Kick," "Nite Flights," "The Electrician" ) What else am I missing when it comes to intense, propulsive jams?
Does anyone have recommendations for a cat feeder for a very, very food motivated and intelligent cat? It needs to be basically impossible for her to break into. Ideally this cat feeder would also be able to dispense canned food. It's fine if it only dispenses 1-2 meals. This needs to be available in Canada. [more inside]
I'd like for my company to offer smarter options like Vanguard Funds, but Vanguard doesn't seem to be one of the easy options. [more inside]
I went to the periodontist and was told I needed deep cleaning and scaling (4 quadrants). I got the perio charting done and had it sent to my dentist. The dental office said they can do that procedure, which I am happy about. My question: is the dental hygienist (who apparently does 90% of the cleanings there) skilled enough to do this procedure, as good as a periodontist? I have the option of requesting my dentist to do it if I am uncomfortable with her. [more inside]
I recently bought one of those Tile things to find your lost keys, things, etc, and they do mention putting one on your pet's collar as a use-case. It's all bluetooth, so I assume it's only good for ~30ft or so away, but I can't find any reviews of it (or similar things) online. Has anyone ever used one with an outdoor cat? Does it work reliably? [more inside]
YANMD (but maybe you can help me find a D?) A blocked ear has turned into super-vertigo, and ain't nobody got time for that. Advice and recommendations needed for the immediate and near-future term, please! [more inside]
In January we (family of 3) are moving to the East Bay area and need to buy a car. Our budget is ideally around $10,000 but we could stretch. What cars should we be focussing our search on? Should we be buying new (obviously more than $10,000 - is the expense justified?), a manufacturer certified second hand vehicle, second hand on Craigslist, or ...? Is having a warranty important? [more inside]
Does it make much difference whether my therapist has a PhD or just a master's? [more inside]
I was considering getting a Raspberry Pi or a similar computer for my 13 year old nephew, and then taking time to set it up with him. I was thinking we could turn it into an emulator platform for a variety of 16 bit systems. What are your experiences with similar gifts, are there better options than the Pi, and what would be good applications for a kid who likes technology, math, making music and games (including Minecraft)? [more inside]
I run a city-wide trivia company that's been growing pretty quickly in the last few months. It's a business that requires a lot of printed materials (answer sheets, handout rounds, prize certificates, promotional posters, that sort of thing), and we could use a regular, friendly place that won't gouge us. [more inside]
I am part of a group working on a policy document for the mitigation of traffic issues (e.g. speeding). Stakeholders are having a hard time with a particular criteria which reads as follows: "85th percentile speed is in excess of the signed speed limit by 5 mph or more." [more inside]
I plan on serving spiced cider this Thanksgiving, and I'd like recommendations for a brown liquor to spike it with. [more inside]
My new job is not the dream job I thought it would be. It's been 2 months and I'm miserable with the workload and how I'm being treated. Am I being unrealistic? Do I tough it out or look for a new job and claim bad fit? Complications: suddenly pregnant. [more inside]
I'm doing some pre-planning for a landscaping project next year. I have a brick wall that I would like to cover with some form of climbing ivy or the like. It is an eastern facing wall (4'w x 8'h), gets plenty of morning sunlight, located in the New York City area and would have to be planted in limited soil depth (6" or so) or a planter. I would like something that grows fast, has a long season and is a perennial. Not sure if Boston Ivy meets these goals but that look would be the ideal. Would appreciate your advice.
Two points in the early chapters of Karen Armstrong's "The Case for God" are really bothering me, almost to the point of putting the book down in frustration; can the hivemind put my doubts to rest by answering two questions about religious history: First about the validity of Armstrong's "logos/mythos" distinction, and second, about the current thinking on the documentary hypothesis? [more inside]
I'm looking for resources, not just articles, about teaching "consent" and body awareness and boundaries for kids at all ages and stages. [more inside]
For reasons I can't possibly explain, I have always wanted to build and decorate a dollhouse. The problem is that I don't actually want a dollhouse. What I'm trying to figure out is whether I could find a good home for one if I do this. [more inside]
No matter what size I am, or brand I try, I can never get jeans to fit. My shape just doesn't seem to fit anything - size A isn;t just tight but won't allow me to do them up, size B does do up but is so baggy that I can take them off without undoing them. I have an hourglass figure and I think it's the combination of large thighs and hips and a comparatively small waist that's the issue. Do I just give up? [more inside]
Gym-going chemists and civilians: do you take your products into the sauna and/or steam room with you? Is it safe to expose your lotions to the heat and the steam? [more inside]
In the past, I've seen that sometimes English is interspersed with another language on certain websites. This site, however, has English titles to their posts, but most everything else is in Dutch. Why? [more inside]
I'm considering a job offer from a Big Pharma corporation in Basel, Switzerland. I'm Filipino-American, currently based in DC, and am concerned about xenophobia and racism in Swiss society.* If you know of any blogs, articles, etc., that touch on this subject on a more personal level, please point me in their direction. I'm especially interested in reading first-person accounts.
What are Thanksgiving sides that travel well? [more inside]
Specifically if you are in a serious relationship with someone else. I'm sure this varies among couples and the best thing is probably just to talk to each other openly...but before I bring it up with my boyfriend, I wanted to get some unbiased advice to make sure I'm not stepping across a line because I do feel weird about it. [more inside]
With anxiety, chronic depression and ADHD (I'm being treated for all), I struggle sometimes to get out of bed and go to work, let alone exercising and making healthy food (I know, I know, 30 minutes daily exercise is the single biggest thing for health). Where do I start? It seems huge and impossible. I have some spare cash to throw at this, but I’m reluctant to buy expensive clothes racks that take up space in my tiny flat and accuse me silently. If you have any ideas/tips/links for an old (50ish) seriously unmotivated introvert with a BMI of 40 and the attention span of a lizard, that’d be good. If you see a (solvable) obstacle that I'm obviously missing, I'd appreciate your insight. [more inside]
My SO and I have been growing together more and more in the last three years. However, one thing seems to grow less and less, and as we move closer to thinking about marriage, I am a little concerned that our sex drives are mismatched for a very long term relationship. I am 23 and she is 21. I've heard a ton of anecdotes about women "waking up" sexually around 25. Is it realistic for me to think that that could be a possibility? [more inside]
My SO heard this song on a DJ mix years ago and has been trying to find out the title/artist ever since. We’ve Googled the lyrics and tried to identify it using Shazam, but have had no luck. He’s uploaded a clip of it here. Since this was taken from a mix, it might be played back at a different pitch than it was recorded at. Can anyone identify it?
Can anyone suggest a good book for a first time home buyer in Canada? My wife and I are hoping to purchase our first home in the coming months and we're a bit intimidated at the process. I've seen similar questions before, but the books seemed to be directed at people located in America and I don't know if those would be as applicable or not.
Our dog (part pomeranian, part pekinese, ~6 years old) has a behavior where she’ll bow and scrape at bottom drawers, focusing on the handles. She does this in our bedroom, in the living room, and in our previous house she did it at a kitchen drawer that had no visible handle. Sometimes she’ll whine, groan, and act worried while she does it. Sometimes she scratches although not so much these days. Usually she has her head down, in a sort of submissive pose. What’s going through her head? [more inside]
I want -- nay, NEED an icy sidewalk to be clean and bone-dry. What are your best, most hardcore ice melting and sidewalk clearing solutions, particularly those requiring less specialized equipment and/or money? [more inside]
I have one week to create a wearable mask for a client. Ideally, it would be something like this but open to other techniques. I have photos and my client has deep pockets.
I'd like to switch from creme/lotion facial moisturizers to something oil-based. Any recommendations? [more inside]
I've received a "Performance Improvement Plan" due to poor output and communication problems. This is almost entirely due to issues in my personal life that are resolving themselves. However, at most companies (probably including mine), a PIP is basically a way to build a paper trail before firing someone. While I'm going to work as hard as I can to improve performance, this is probably the time to start looking for other jobs. What is ethical for me to tell interviewers about why I'm leaving my current position? There are plenty of things I can cite that I don't like about this job, but none of them would normally be enough for me to quit. [more inside]
Ye olde Fleshbot was really cool because it was well curated and included all types of sexy media including videos, links, industry news, pop culture, reviews. It even had options for both queer and straight focused content. The last few years I've found that it's really gone downhill and gotten pretty mainstream and generic. [more inside]
Can I play SimCity really without any goals at all, or is there another game that is even more free-form than SimCity? [more inside]
I'm evaluating Curata for my company, but wanted to know if there are other options I should be looking at, as well as whether it is a good fit for us. Any experienced users have any advice? [more inside]
Looking for advice on how, if possible, I might clean a vintage beaded purse. The beadwork was done on a loom; it's not beaded to the fabric underneath. I'm wondering if there's a safe way to clean the beadwork, and am finding contradictory and possibly specious advice online. [more inside]
My parents have recently joined the Blu-ray generation, looking for something amazing for them to watch. [more inside]
I'd like to buy a new parka. Criteria: It must be warm enough for Toronto's winters; it should be available in Toronto or ship there; it shouldn't be too bulky; it should be under $200; and I'd like it to be aqua/turquoise/robin's egg blue with little to no second/other colours. This one would do but it's both too expensive and out of stock. Suggestions?
My friend's 5 yo daughter and I have become bffs and I want to get her a bunch of cool books. I would really appreciate some awesome book suggestions for a smart perceptive young lady. Thanks!
What is the word or words in Icelandic for 'the redeemer' or 'redeemer'? [more inside]
"Climb the walls like Peter Parker, now." what downtempo, Funky Lowlives-esque song from about 10-15 years ago does that line come from? [more inside]
Help me generate real-looking fake handwriting? I know that the Autopen has been used for a long time to help presidents and celebrities churn out thousands of signatures that look and feel like the real deal (it physically moves a pen and varies the pressure to get that true handwritten look). I'm looking for a machine that could "hand"write a multi-line card (e.g. 3x5 inches). Ideally it would be computer programmable (I believe traditional Autopen templates are physical plates). [more inside]
So, how crazy is it to go shopping at South Coast Plaza in Costa Mesa CA on the SATURDAY after Black Friday? Will it be as crowded as the day before? [more inside]
I recently migrated from Word 2003 to Word 2010, and love it. However, I'm wondering if there's a way I can easily define custom keyboard shortcuts in Word 2010. [more inside]
I have one address, 123@..., that is forwarding to another address, abc@.... Having lost access to the 123... address is there a way to still reply to mail sent to 123... as if it is coming from the 123... address not the abc... that I currently use? This is all in gmail too. Thanks!
Our honeymoon is going to be next August, we want to go someplace in Asia, but we'd like to go a bit off the beaten track -- here's our criteria: [more inside]
So there are a bajillion shirts with variations of "X in the streets/Y in the sheets" where X and Y might rhyme and are related and it's funny. What was the original one? Where did this start?
Trying to remember this scene: There's some TV show or movie where a white person says, "Hey, you, Slumdog Millionaire!" to address an Indian man whose name he should know but can't remember. Or maybe he's talking to his colleague and says, "Ugh, you know, Slumdog Millionaire in the accounting department." Does anyone remember what this is from?
After lots of burnt out strings and fadded bulbs last year, the time has come to replace the Christmas lights for my tree; which ones should I buy? I am CRAZY about lights. It's my family's tradition to put so many on, the tree glows like a small star. Think 4000 bulbs on a 5 1/2' tree. This is serious business. Requirements inside. [more inside]
Please recommend me works based on the lives and works of stage magicians. I want to learn about how they started their careers and how they changed as it went on. [more inside]
I want to purchase a small memorial at Pike Place Market for two relatives who have died recently but I'm severely limited in character space. Please help me choose a message. [more inside]
An unexplained user profile called 'matt' showed up in C:\Users on my Windows 7 laptop today. What does this mean and should I be worried? [more inside]
I'm wondering if Patreon is suitable for writers. If it is, what are some technical best practices to maximize engagement (and not fail miserably)? Or maybe there is a better platform than Patreon. Either way, besides creating good content in the first place, how can a writer "optimize" Patreon? [more inside]
I have a 2006 Honda Pilot with 150,000 miles. I have a problem with the headlights. [more inside]
I am trying to figure out the best way to name my recently deceased mother on her gravestone. I would like my father's name to be included but I would also like to be respectful of my step-father and of my mother's marriage to him. [more inside]
I (in the US) am going to mail a small gift to a friend of mine currently residing in South Korea. Having already unsuccessfully attempted to mail her a postcard a couple of months ago, I want to make sure my package doesn't vanish in the postal abyss since it is going to cost a double-digit number of dollars to mail. How do I properly address it and fill out the address on the customs form properly? [more inside]
Where can I get an endpeg to put on a kit-built Martin guitar that currently has none? [more inside]
Tell me about the energy dynamics of non-deciduous alpine trees. How do saplings stay alive when continuously covered by snow all winter? [more inside]
I am traveling for work. Just lost a filling. Suspect I need at least a temp to get me through as I don't get home til next Tuesday. Anyone got a rec for a dentist who will take a helpless American and hopefully not charge in the thousands? And if there's anyt unique about the process of going to a dentist in Australua that would help too.
I've been out of a relationship for over a month and I'm running into trouble reconciling with the single status. It doesn't help that the ex seems to be moving along well. How do I reconcile with the feeling that I'm completely isolated? [more inside]
Sometimes, mostly due to work circumstances, I'm using Twitter via their website rather than an app on my phone. But when I try to post a link to a news article or blog post, I find that Twitter isn't automatically shortening the URL. Do they not do this any more? [more inside]
My nephews, 8 and 11, have fallen in love with Call of Duty. Their mother isn't happy with their new love affair, but their neighborhood friends have an older brother so, what's done is done. I would like to get them one or two games for Christmas that are not quite so violent, or at least not so much realistic violence. [more inside]
We want a remote starter for a 2009 Honda Civic. I feel completely out of my element, and frankly don't care to learn all about them. I just want someone to tell me what to get. So which one should I get, and where in the Cleveland, OH area can we get it installed? [more inside]
I need some "punishments" to help a friend beat procrastination. Some snowflakes below. [more inside]
What should a couple in their early 30s do in New York City on Thanksgiving Day? [more inside]
I changed jobs last month and my commute (on the subway) has doubled. I'm finding it hard to deal with the packed subway cars and could do with some help. [more inside]
I teach English and Humanities classes at a community college. Because of scheduling issues, half of my course load has moved to online classes. I am seeking recommendations for activities, assignments, best practices, and resources that people have either a) used in their own online teaching or b) experienced as a student in an online class. What worked for you? What kept the students engaged and learning? What kept you from wanting to gnaw off your own leg to escape the tedium? [more inside]
I'm doing poorly in one of my classes because I've turned in very little homework even though I'm doing really well otherwise. Most of the missing work is actually done, but I can't pass it in because it isn't 100% perfect. Please help me understand this behavior and suggest things that have helped you in the past. [more inside]
I'm looking for a warm shoe that I can wear to the office and handles the gross curb slush in NYC. so far I'm considering Merrell's jungle moc. I am a dude. Thanks for your help!
I'm looking for a book of non-cheesy inspirational literature from around 1998...details inside. [more inside]
I have a list of several hundred words which I often forget to use in conversation or in writing (I compiled it by jotting down words I've found myself fishing for). I know their definitions, but I'd like to better familiarize myself with them, so they're more in the "front of my mind" and I don't have to eternally fish for them (e.g. astringent, banal, lascivious, subsume, criteria, duress, affectation). [more inside]
I write documents and flowcharts, create training programs, conduct training sessions, oversee employee development, manage the intranet, maintain shared documentation, conduct process analysis, administrate process improvement, and do some project management on the side. Now it's time to move on and I'm sitting staring blankly at indeed.com, not quite sure what jobs to search for; knowledge management, technical communicator, training, process improvement? Is there a job which encapsulates these all? Or am I barking up the wrong tree - maybe these skills are pre-requisites for a position I haven't yet considered? [more inside]
I suffer from what I call background anxiety that manifests as extreme muscle tension. Has anyone successfully dealt with this? Is there hope for me? [more inside]
One of the characters in East of Eden dies under circumstances that have always baffled me. I turn to the Steinbeck scholars and armchair physicians of Metafilter to help me figure out what happened. (Steinbeck spoilers below). [more inside]
I'm looking for articles that take anywhere from half an hour to one hour to read. Specifically, I'm looking for 1) in-depth, meaty reads in any field; 2) (auto)biographical reads about ordinary people. [more inside]
Asking for my wife: Are there any deodorants for women that are NOT also antiperspirants? Looking for a recommendation for just deodorant for women. Why is it that men get this option and women don't?
I have some questions about William Gibson's new novel, The Peripheral. Be warned, these questions the answers will involve spoilers. [more inside]
We have lots of family over and this year my dad won an electric roasting oven (like these) and two turkeys. Recipe needed! [more inside]
I'd like to give my 2 nieces and 1 nephew a shared device this Christmas, with which they can send and receive SMS and MMS messages (or similar) to and from an explicit whitelist of contacts. Apple iMessage is not an option. Is it possible? [more inside]
Tell me about Ditmas Park, and what is has (or has not) to offer a married couple/family. [more inside]
I'm not sure what these types of puzzles are called, but I want to build the canonical list of them. They are usually vague, open-ended descriptions of a situation, and the other players have to figure out what's going on. Players can only ask questions that can be answered by either "yes" or "no," they cannot ask anything else. [more inside]
Hi Mefites: I'm looking for a free/cheap web service that allows me to ask someone a few multiple choice questions via a survey and then be able to give them a text-based diagnostic (not a numerical score). Something similar to this, via Buzzfeed, where they ask a few multiple choice questions and at the end, they give you a pre-written response to how you've answered. [more inside]
My on and off love affair is off again.....I think. We had a row.....made up.....next day she cancelled forthcoming date....not heard from her since. Why do I care what happens next? [more inside]
A recent episode of Gastropod convinced me that I should get some gold-plated cutlery as a present for a friend (it supposedly makes certain foods taste nicer). I haven't had any luck finding cutlery in the UK from the usual trustworthy department stores, so now I'm willing to widen the search to other UK stores and also online stores in the US.
Asking for a family member: I'm a distressed brother living in Australia with no experience of US family violence, health systems, judiciary, police or addiction services. Please help. My sister "Pas" lives in Wood Side Queens, New York. She is a single woman and works as a nanny for the moment. She speaks very good English and is independent. Yesterday, whilst visiting an aunt who is very sick with cancer in New York, she was attacked by the aunt's son without any provocation. (Under influence? not sure). [more inside]
For 15+ years I've been a daily drinker. I quit several days ago, and my sleep has been horrendous. When, if ever, does it return to normal? [more inside]
I'm interested in learning more about the science of mind-body connections, especially in the mind-impacts-body direction. For example, I'm curious about how mental exertion can lead to physical fatigue, or how an emotion can trigger physical symptoms in the body (such as indigestion from stress). I'm looking for an interesting and accessible book on this topic, if one exists. [more inside]
If your scalp flakes after using a dandruff shampoo does that mean the shampoo is effective? [more inside]
A seven-year-old has asked for "bumblebee drumsticks and cymbals" as a gift. No idea what this may mean and we can't ask for clarification. Any ideas?
I ruined my pot roast last night! What happened? [more inside]
Please share your good experiences with hotels in San Diego!! I'm looking for recommendations for family (two adults and a three and half year old) that will likely be visiting this weekend. [more inside]
Have not been to PDX in 5-6 years. Will be there next week from Wednesday 12/3 through Saturday 12/6. I'll be staying in DT Portland. Restaurants are covered. Looking for a bike rental shops, coffeehouse's with awesome pastries and pies, and other random cool places. My hangout spots are Hawthorne District and (of course) Powell's. I am also a Farmer's Market junky and would appreciate suggestion on local markets that will be taking place during that time. Thanks in advance...
I'm home for the holidays and seeing many friends after years apart. I have five days, each consisting of brunch, lunch and dinner with others, and am looking forward to unimaginable quantities of free alcohol. I am a seasoned (pickled?) drinker that does not normally get hangovers but never have I been on such a social whirlwind with so many opportunities to celebrate. Does anyone have advice for overcoming the potential weaknesses of the flesh to rise to this challenge? Or, how to pace myself when offered so much free deliciousness? Details below [more inside]
A male equivalent of "fashionista?" [more inside]
I applied for a scholarship to do a Masters program starting next April, but I might also be offered an internship that starts then. If offered the scholarship, I'm 90% sure that I would be able to start the Masters in October instead, but I'm not certain. Can you help me decide what to do? Details within. [more inside]
Now that my wife's been bitten by the radio bug, the desire to do a show/podcast is starting to sink its teeth into me as well. The high-concept idea that I'm working with is to do a 16-part series that are all the soundtrack to a forgotten movie -- the title of the movie is the same every week, but the movie itself changes. [more inside]
I'm considering pursuing a degree to further my career in child welfare, educational and cultural non-profits. As I'd love to spend time living abroad and I wouldn't get into a especially impressive school here in the US, I'm wondering if it would be useless to get my degree from a university in Europe (most likely in the UK). If it is worth doing, what schools should I be looking at? Would I be eligible for any sort of financial aid?
Which books explore the question "What does it mean to have lived well"? [more inside]
Basically, our company would like to replace aim for our office instant messaging solution. After much googling and some testing, the top two currently on my list are hipchat and slack. [more inside]
What are the loudest, shrillest, most brutal metal albums of all time? I want cacophonous, demonic noise. The hardest of the hard stuff. It doesn't have to come from any particular metal subgenre, and it doesn't even have to be stuff you've liked. As long as it is being as extreme as possible.
Software testing job interviews: help me ask the important questions. [more inside]
I'm visiting New York for Thanksgiving. I'm driving from Pittsburgh to Manhattan and I arrive late tomorrow. I'm staying in the Upper West Side through Saturday, but I'm spending Thanksgiving with family in Monroe, NY. I have one night booked at a hotel in that area. Where can I conveniently and cheaply park my car in Manhattan for 5 days? How can I get from Manhattan to Monroe, NY, reliably and cheaply? I'm currently planning to park on the street and take the Port Jervis line. [more inside]
You'd think this would be an easy thing to Google, but it's not. [more inside]
Please help me select, buy, and actually wear accessories/jewelry that look great and make me happy—from scratch. I need best practices, inspiration photos, or just that One Weird Trick that makes you look great and put-together every day. Go! [more inside]
I am attending a social event in a few weeks where everyone is attending dressed as a version of Santa Claus. I have no problem with dressing as a normal Santa -- but that is too easy! Any ideas for a (more) creative Santa costume/outfit? [more inside]
I am hoping to find the US equivalent to the Australian "What Bird is That?" book and my google fu is failing me. [more inside]
How do I pick the right therapist to help with my anxiety, stress, indecisiveness, and perfectionist tendencies? What kinds of therapy/techniques/approaches might be most helpful? How do I quickly assess whether to stick with someone or look elsewhere? What are reasonable expectations of how much I can improve in therapy and how quickly? I'm terrible at making decisions-- I need help! (Especially since we want to start trying for kids in a few months so I feel real urgency to make progress quickly to feel comfortable going ahead, for both my and the kid's sake.) DC-area, FYI. [more inside]
I'm attending a wedding in Mumbai this upcoming weekend and am having a crisis of apparel. [more inside]
I regularly delete my messages from my droid. I have a bunch of protected messages that I have locked and they always stay there when I delete all of the thread. I just went to look for one of those messages and they are all gone!!!!!!!!!! Is there any way to retrieve these? I see a bunch of threads on the net, but can't find anything that works HELP!!!!!!!!
So last year's mix CD was quite a hit. Now the baby's turning 18. Got any ideas about songs that reference being/turning 18? Especially for a girl? [more inside]
Can an Excel expert help me with counting rows in a spreadsheet that can match one of 15 possible combinations? [more inside]
My wife wants to learn to knit. What do I buy? [more inside]
Help me figure out whether I should be heating my small house with the gas furnace or an electric space heater... [more inside]
I am rather experienced with handling my communication with my international traveling as I have been doing it for some time. However my current job relies very strongly on text messaging and I haven't come up with a bulletproof solution as to how to receive and respond to text messages seamlessly. [more inside]
My son is caught up in a medical crisis in Brazil and needs funds sent. What is the best bank to bank option or is there a way other than Moneygram services? Not to crowd this post with details but if anyone wants more details or to assist in our funding please MeFi mail me.
Okay, having a problem with dry brining my turkey. Help? [more inside]
Hi - I'm hoping for a bit of help comparing two similar 7 inch tablets that are on sale this Black Friday. [more inside]
My 2003 VW GTI VR6 warms up fine and gives heat while driving, but at idle it immediately blows cold air. [more inside]
I love reading about tech innovations and businesses in areas like energy, materials, farming, transport, construction etc. but the main tech blogs and websites are overwhelmed by IT--consumer electronics, software, apps etc.--which leaves me cold. Any tips much appreciated!
I have a lot of trouble writing stuff. I feel it's getting worse, to a point where it's problematic in my worklife. I don't understand why it is so, but I'd love to change this. Pointers, methods, experiences are all welcome, as I can't help but feel more than a bit weird about this. [more inside]
I'm looking to take a personal mini-retreat December 31-January 2, somewhere within 2 hours of Boston (including Boston proper) by train. I'd like it to be more on the luxury end than the rustic end (e.g., no yoga camps). [more inside]
What movie clips demonstrate what NOT to do in a zombie apocalypse/natural disaster/etc? [more inside]
My fiancee found a wedding band at an estate jewelry store that specializes in Art Deco-style pieces. The band can't be sized due to the design, so I'm hoping to find someone in New York to make the ring as a custom job. Does anyone have recommendations for someone in New York who can do this type of work reasonably quickly--within, say, a month? [more inside]
This recent post about picking a sewing machine has inspired me: I followed advice similar to this answer and bought a newly reconditioned sturdy metal Singer 301A a couple of years ago. I acquired a buttonholer and zigzag attachment, as well as a box of other theoretically useful sewing feet (I will be able to sew ruffles just like in Dick and Jane readers!). [more inside]
I just heard this song for the first time this morning and it is blowing me away. Can you recommend more like it: Curtis Harding - Heaven's on the Other Side [more inside]
I purchased an Olympia Press first edition of Beckett's Molloy a while back. Tucked inside was a four page handwritten review (scans). In the back of the book is written "Reviewed NSN Dec. 3 1955." I've poked around but I can't find anything. Is this a published review or draft of one? [more inside]
I need to serve chipolatas at my Christmas dinner this year, but I only vaguely know what they are. [more inside]
Our office has outgrown our ad-hoc personal calendars and we are looking for a calendar tool. The biggest need for us is to see when others are available for meetings and make meeting requests. We're not an Exchange shop, so Outlook/Exchange compatibility is not important. Most of us are accessing our email over POP3 in our favorite client, so something that can send/confirm meeting requests via email without preference for a specific client is helpful.
Help me find stories of epiphanies, particularly striking moments of self-awareness. Fictional, non-fictional, any kind of medium (books, articles, video, etc...). [more inside]
ISO: Nonfiction podcasts, spread over multiple episodes, not Serial but in that vein of long-form audio storytelling. Help! [more inside]
First winter in our new house, and the first real (but probably short lived) snow will come Wednesday (USDA Hardiness Zone 6A). We won't have to to prep for this snowfall, but what should we be doing longer term for the plants in our garden during the winter? [more inside]
Is it possible to make a mattress firmer, or am I better off buying a new mattress? [more inside]
After posting my last question, I have purchased Downcast and am ready to use it as my main podcast organization method/app. [more inside]
We have unexpectedly been assigned as foster parents to this little guy. I'm looking for advice about how best to take care of him as he has to be left alone during the working day. Is this bad for him? What can we do to make sure he's not distressed and also stop him chewing All The Things? [more inside]
I'm going to be traveling a fair amount over the holidays which means I'll likely be on public WiFi a lot more than usual, and with all of the various security and privacy issues that have popped up in the news recently, I figure the time is ripe to figure out a VPN strategy (since not everything I do is over SSL/HTTPS). [more inside]
My neighbors are being evicted after doing something dodgey that caused an explosion and involved (supposedly) a pressure cooker, and definitely a list of OTC pharmaceuticals, one ingredient was Baby Aspirin. I was told, anyway. What were they making? [more inside]
My question is, how do I go about marketing myself and finding jobs that need level 1 tech support or very Jr system admin jobs? Any help would be great. Thanks guys :) (more info inside) [more inside]
At our wedding, we want to light a fire in one location (the ceremony site) and after a brief period, say 10 minutes, transport it to another location. Ideally, we would light a fire in a ceremonial bowl with handles that do not transmit heat, then have our two "attendants" use those handles to carry that whole bowl to the real fire pit as part of the procession out. Does such a thing exist? If not, how could we pull this off? [more inside]
Fort Worden is apparently the only US Army base to ever be named after a Navy officer, one John Lorimer Worden, commander of the Monitor in the US Civil War. The reasons why are possibly lost to history. Any military history buffs out there who might possibly know why? [more inside]
Our 15 year old starter mattress is in a bad way. We have very little funds to spend on a mattress. We've found some in our price range, but also found there is a whole cottage industry of used, refurbished and slightly-bed bug infested mattresses. Is it possible to find something inexpensive but not one of the above? [more inside]
Where is all the lesbian/queer erotica that doesn't suck? (NSFW, naturally) [more inside]
Looking for more iOS game recommendations according to specific requirements. "Games that are more like toys" might be one place to put it. Update on this question. [more inside]
A few friends have asked about buying these two paintings. They're are a bit precious to me because, not counting a still life of balls and cones They made me do, they're my first two paintings. I thought maybe I could print these on canvas and give copies. How? I just started painting so I don't know anything and googling is just confusing me. Talk to me like I know nothing. [more inside]
Our daughters just got out of the NICU after a long stay. Our primary nurse was really wonderful and I'd love some advice about how to thank her. [more inside]
I have a high budget for this particular purchase-- as much as I need to spend, I can spend. I'm sure I want a small laptop, about 13", and I'm 85% sure about the builder I've chosen, Mythlogic. I'll be using the machine for gaming and programming/computer science applications for certain. I have some ideas about how to do this the ideal way, and some specific questions about those ideas. [more inside]
I'm looking for fashion blogs for inspiration as I'm trying to "dress for the job I want" in a creative field. Think tough but a hint of feminine. O Mefites, who's on your edgy creative fashion blogroll? [more inside]
The illicit parts of the dark web like Agora and Silk Road 2.0 have been pretty well-covered by the media. What's out there that's pretty vanilla but for whatever reason is a .onion site? [more inside]
I live in Toronto I recently started a full-time job (two weeks ago) and I've been using a debit card (with RBC) for the past five years. I didn't want to get a credit card because I didn't want to get sucked into the system. But yesterday changed my outlook on things, so I decided to apply for a low interest card. Question is, what options do I have and would I get accepted? [more inside]
Several years ago I went to an all you can eat sushi restaurant on Chicago's north side. You could order as many rolls as you wanted as long as you finished one before you asked for the next. What is the name of this restaurant? (Or failing that, what is a similar delicious sushi restaurant in Chicago?)
I'd like to get my soon-to-be 3-yr-old nephew an mp3 player, preferably with external speakers, and external SD card slot. A previous thread here suggested the SweetPea, but there seems to be a lot of debate about the quality of the current model. The Sansa Shake was also mentioned, but seems to be out of production. The others I've looked at seem to be less than impressive. Any current suggestions?
I have booked flights to Charleston SC, now I just need...everything else... [more inside]
My mom is coming down from Boston to NYC for Thanksgiving. Her current plan is to cook the turkey, wrap it in aluminum foil, put it in a polystyrene cooler and then drive it down to NYC on Thursday. This is setting off my warning bells about food safety. [more inside]
If you (or someone you know) attended a Renaissance Weekend, what was it like? [more inside]
In the spirit of self-care in the dead of winter, I want to treat myself to some fancy soap. I am not really aware of high-quality hip-or-classic skincare brands that might have a bar soap (not liquid!) that fits what I'm looking for:
a unisex scent palette (I like savory, spicy, vanilla-y scents more than florals),
a bit of exfoliant [more inside]
My middle-schooler is working on a science project involving the strength of magnets under different conditions. We are talking about using a Gauss meter to measure the strength of a magnet, but we are not sure what type of Gauss meter would be right for the project. Any recommendations? [more inside]
I love reading Chinese philosophy, and I'm looking to get into some Korean philosophy, just to see what their take is. But I'm having trouble figuring out where to start. I'd like to read uniquely Korean things, or takes on confucianism and taoism, from any time period, or just interesting thoughts posed by Korean philosophers. I'd also like to read some Japanese texts in the same vein, and once again don't really know where to start. I'm looking for the best English translations. Any suggestions?
(Asking for my sister) My sister has this houseplant (pics inside) which is not doing too well. She'd like ideas on what the problem is. [more inside]
I would like to shake off the discomfort that sometimes comes with being single and learn to develop myself more. [more inside]
My ex of three years and I broke up a few days ago. Initially he told me that the main reason was our different feelings about marriage (see previous posts), but upon further discussion, he said the biggest issue was our lack of intimacy. [more inside]
I have to be on call with work on Thanksgiving, and I have a good reason to believe I'm going to have to do several hours of work that day (via VPN). Assuming this means I have to skip the family Thanksgiving dinner, what can I do to sort of celebrate the holiday at home? [more inside]
What strategies have you used to cope with a bad boss/supervisor? [more inside]
Cheating or runaway imagination? [more inside]
I LOVE google drive, and google docs. However, I have a pdf file that I want to convert to a word/google doc, and I want to write inside of it. It would be great if I could save teh image to teh background to write on top of it, but I can not figure it out. Any ideas? thanks! I included the link below. link
I just got a call to DP a short film next summer. I've been a videographer for about 18 months, so most of my gear is oriented towards promotional video and documentary work. I use a Canon DSLR. We want the quality of the film to be high enough for festival submissions. What gear do we need to budget for? [more inside]
What books would you recommend for new parents who want to read parenting books and talk about them together? [more inside]
I'm looking for happy books (fiction or non-) about traveling and living in new or weird places. [more inside]
I just made an Instagram, and want to post some of my previously non-smartphone-shot-video on Instagram. I tried many different things and followed a bunch of guides on how to do this, but nothing worked. How do I do this? [Technical Details Inside] [more inside]
I recently tried some decent single malt scotch for the first time, and was blown away by how much more complex and smooth it was compared to cheaper whiskies I had tried before. What other alcohol is worth spending extra money to get The Good Stuff?
Where can I get a decent quality men's double breasted full length overcoat? [more inside]
There are a million of these questions, but none with my particular set of preferences, so here goes. I'm looking for great sci-fi/supernatural TV shows (e.g. Star Trek/Buffy), weird comedies, or violent dude soap operas (e.g. Sons of Anarchy). Many more details within! [more inside]
My sweetie and I own a small, fixer-upper home. We have many, many home projects coming up, including a big kitchen remodel that will probably be completed in six months. What can we do to make the place look nice until then? [more inside]
Can a battery-powered snowblower handle the challenge of a Boston winter? [more inside]
What blogs or other resources track the development of fashion trends, from the runways to widespread use? [more inside]
A family member has been through a nearly unimaginably terrible saga over the past four years and has just been released from prison after a conviction related to it. What type of therapist and what type of therapy would be best to help him cope and to get back on his feet again? [more inside]
I have a troubled half brother who has recently come into my life. He was just released from prison, there on possession charges. He lives across the country, is jobless, homeless, and without family (aside from my mother and me). Yesterday he asked if I could wire him money. Just enough to buy some food. I can easily do this, so without thinking, I said I would. [more inside]
I was donating plasma and the machine apparently ate a hole in the tubing and my blood was exposed to the air or "contaminated." Obviously they can't use the plasma sample they got and didn't want me to get that blood back once they realized what happened, but I had already received some of it (whole blood) back before they shut it down. I could not find much info about this happening during plasma donation but I'm wondering what are the risks/what are the chances I might get sick from having received blood that was exposed to the environment.
Mrs. Pairofshades and I are expecting a baby and would like to read up on parenthood. I came across one book in paticular, in about 2005, that I would love to find and read again. It was from a series based on personal anecdotes from parents who had just gone through the stage the book focused on: in this case it was the first year of parenthood. Some details below the fold. [more inside]
One of my cats has either sprayed or sneezed something on my wall... Is there a product or test that might determine whether the 'something' is blood? [more inside]
Boyfriend and I are at a crossroads after 6 years. He's in Chicago and I just left to move to San Francisco. After several months apart not speaking much, we plan to spend our December holiday making some big together-or-not decisions. He'll fly to SF and after that we have 10 days and around $2000 between us for a trip. Where would you suggest we focus our resources for a holiday? Tahoe? Yoga retreat? Bicycle trip? Surf School? Bit of a wide open question but all suggestions and specific recommendations welcome! [more inside]
How might a Luddite live without a home internet connection, but still have access to email and basic surfing for occasional practical needs? (Specific smart phone recommendations?) [more inside]
Do you know of any works that include an account of what it was like to grow up using at least three languages, and also shows the difficulties and confusion of having that experience?
Of late I have a hunger for something tasty and perhaps sweet an hour or 2 after dinner and nearing the time I all go to bed. Tell me some of your favorite ways to satisfy that in a healthy way please. I can't eat chocolate.
It was said by Wittgenstein that a perfectly good work of philosophy could be written which was entirely composed of jokes. Has anyone done it, in analytical or continental philosophy? [more inside]
Does anyone know the date, title of the article written by or about Toni Morrison many years ago in which she speaks at length about the U.S. treatment of children? It appeared in the New York Times Magazine.
My wife and I were talking the other night, and we were wondering about how human beings figured out what food is edible and what isn't - what possessed folks to figure out if they ate this part of the fish, but not that part, then they wouldn't die, or if they could just get past the prickly parts of this plant, the innards were good? [more inside]
Any theories as to what my cat thinks she's doing when she meows loudly and brings me her stuffed toys? [more inside]
There was a play I saw on TV in the '70s. I don't remember a title, or any character's name, but it was about a faculty at a British school of some sort, and an amiable professor of some unimportant english course, who was always there to help other faculty members with whatever came up. [more inside]
I am trying to determine the best way to clean up some DE that I applied too liberally to the carpet in my apartment, and I'm trying to decide how I can do so without a.) killing the vacuum and b.) killing my brother's lungs (or my own!). Anxiety inside. [more inside]
I'm looking for indie pop with mariachi elements, specifically the soaring trumpet fills, but jangly acoustic guitar is cool too. Something in the vein of Calexico, but less folk-y more pop-y. Barring actual good music I'd gladly take recommendations for mariachi style covers. You know how there's albums of Bossa Nova style covers and reggae style? Someone must make mariachi style covers? Okay, screw it, I want cheesy pop hits of yesteryear transcribed into a mariachi idiom.
My brother gave me his 2008 27" iMac. I tried to update Avira on it and now I can't turn it on. Help! I don't know from Macs - I have always had PCs. [more inside]
I am taking a much-needed vacation in December before the holiday season. I would LOVE to get out of the city for a week and just wander around in nature, but I don't know where to start given the potential obstacles. I grew up going to Acadia National Park in Maine...so I'm basically looking for the same thing somewhere warmer. [more inside]
I'm looking for all the places that claim to have the weather change every 5 minutes. [more inside]
Resources for a 14 year old boy who is gay? [more inside]
Now that I have worked full-time for a year I have discovered what I really want in a career – limited to no human contact. [more inside]
There is a 19th century portrait of a somewhat famous distant ancestor that I'd like to get my own version of. The portrait is held by a museum but not at all a famous piece of artwork, it is noteworthy because of its subject. Where (or who) can I pay an appropriate amount of money to get a very good copy of a 19th century oil painting? [more inside]
Not meant to be snarky on Buffalo per se-I wonder this about most cold places- but why did the people who settled Buffalo think it would be a good idea to live there permanently? [more inside]
For the last three+ years, we've used this Graco baby monitor to hear our little guy during naps and at night, but since moving to our new home (built in 2007), it's been like a terrible theremin, with interference noise increasing as you move away from it, or towards it, or turn off a light, or plug in another device in the same room. What might be causing this, can we fix it ourselves, and is this issue present in video models? More thoughts inside. [more inside]
I would like to learn how to appreciate esports as a spectator. I have a hard time getting into random Twitch matches. Please link me to your favorite YouTube videos of classic or important or especially cool matches! I'm mostly interested in MOBAs (LoL, DOTA), not so much Starcraft/CoD/etc. Thanks!
I am interested in going out to see live music in Austin but I'm not plugged into any groups who seem up on the scene right now. Who are the good bands? what is interesting in Austin music right now? what are the best venues and why? I'm open to any kind of good music. This is free-form, go nuts. Thanks.
Our recent cold, drizzly weather has me wanting to to curl up with a good book, but not just ANY good book, really specific specifics inside. [more inside]
I thought that we had harvested all the peppers that were going to ripen. I was wrong. [more inside]
I ran a few luggage bags into the airport terminal for my aging grandmother and ran back out to the curb. Must have been 2 minutes. Airport security waved me away from my car and told me my car was being towed. I just stepped in my car and drove away while security insisted my car was being towed. What does the law say? Will I get a ticket if they've pulled my plates? Am I legally obligated to wait for a tow truck? Am I a fugitive of airport security?
Crunchy parents and their untraditional opinions make me worry for the safety of my kid and theirs. Could my kid's health be in danger? How do I let go of my judgement and make friends? [more inside]
I am looking for fiction books on Medicine Women and Acupuncturists. I know that I was at a library a while ago and there was a fiction book on a woman who was an acupuncturist. Do you have any ideas? I can't recall the title. Also, I would like to see if there are any books on medicine women fiction or nonfiction that you could personally recommend, not just a google search, what do you know is good? thanks
We bought some lovely new radiator covers. But they took a little longer than expected, and there was a cold snap as soon as they were delivered, so the radiators have been on and the windows have been closed...and the air stinks of hot paint. Short of leaving the windows open (and freezing) or leaving the radiator covers outside for a while, any tips for counteracting the paint smell?
I have a fixed layout book in Indesign that I want to publish as an ebook on amazon. I need to export it as a fixed layout epbub and then amazon converts it to their format. It looks fine in indesign and when I export and view on my ipad as an epub, it looks fine, but something in the conversion to kindle format is screwing everything up. [more inside]
I'm hosting a brunchluck (brunch potluck, for my birthday) and want it to be festive, warm, etc. I'm not sure how to decorate/theme/make it really warm and welcoming given that it's going to be rainy and grey outside. Difficulty level: grad student brokeness and I'm *really* not a decorator, plus additional logistics questions. [more inside]
I go to a large public university in Canada and it has come to my attention that people are bribing their way into the university and/or paying people to write their personal statements. There's also rampant cheating - people paying to have their essays written or having people sit in on tests for them. Most of these are international students and they are a valuable resource at my school so I do not know if anyone will listen to me or who I should even tell. [more inside]
My favorite games are competitive games (boardgames, card games, etc.) with the scoring removed. I'm wondering what other games I might enjoy within those constraints, and other ideas for altering gameplay to make more games fun. [more inside]
I'm looking for a career change. I am a very focused, caring introvert, part creative and part analytical. But I'm really poor in an office environment. I hate meetings with more than 3-4 people and it's very stressful for me. I like people but I just feel that I thrive more in a one-on-one or small group setting. I work in online advertising for my company right now, and while I don't hate it and it sort of fits my personality type, the money isn't that great and I don't see myself as the "climb the corporate ladder" type. I am trying to find a career outside of the corporate office world where I may not sit at a desk all day and then have large meetings. I was looking into physical therapy assistant, massage therapist, maybe an allied health profession, or something else that is more one-on-one in nature. Any other suggestions? [more inside]
I feel like I'm being picked on and somewhat bullied from two girls in my program. It feels like middle school all over again. How can I handle this? Blubbering details inside. [more inside]
I will be taking a flight from Barcelona to Lyon, and I am an American. I plan to buy the ticket on easyJet (I have a separate set of tickets for US to Barcelona and Lyon to US). I have always used trains for intra European travel up to now. What should I know ahead of time? [more inside]
I read a while ago about a stretch in a particular river that's very dangerous because it's very narrow and looks calm, while in actuality it's extremely fast and deep. People try to cross it, or they get in, and boom. That's it. Does anyone know what I'm talking about? I've utterly failed at googling, and for some reason it's really bothering me. [more inside]
My seven year old daughter wants a pedometer for christmas. Does anyone have any favorite pedometers that are kid-friendly? [more inside]
Where / how do I buy whole watermelons during the fall/winter (i.e. now?) Am located in a major metropolis in the NE USA. Thanks! [more inside]
Almost 6 months ago I screwed up a newish friend by vanishing and leaving them in the lurch with a job for a client (anxiety and depression problems, etc). I know the work relationship is absolutely destroyed but, is there any chance of repairing the friendship? I have no idea how to even try to fix this or if it's possible. [more inside]
Super specific question here: What's the 'definitive' book on school desegregation in Seattle? I'm googling around and finding a bunch of older books, some from university presses, etc, but it's difficult to see which of these are considered credible by people who know this topic. Any help?
In my experience, any time I have tried to have gotten help over the phone or the live chat many companies seem to have nowadays, it has been excruciatingly painful. [more inside]
Hi folks, we have a tradition (this is year six!) that every Thanksgiving we take our boys camping (and cooking) over the holiday break. It's been an awesome tradition, and we've recently relocated to the Bay Area from SoCal and are looking forward to the first year of a new range for our Thankscamping. Your insight about the area would be very helpful! [more inside]
Can I learn to knit or crochet with fine motor deficits? [more inside]
Finally able to describe what I do in a way; now I need to sell it. What person do I hire in order to create a message that makes sense to people who hire people with weird yet valuable talent? [more inside]
Is it possible to get a dog trained to help someone who suffers from episodes of dementia? Specifically, could a dog be trained to help someone who will go for walks without their shoes, keys etc., ending up lost and unsure of how they got there? [more inside]
A close friend and I want to celebrate our birthdays together this winter and are looking for suggestions for a short getaway somewhere near New York City, Boston, or in between. Any recommendations, hivemind? [more inside]
I've been reading about various to do/calendar apps, as well as checking older questions on AskMetafilter and have gotten myself thoroughly confusaled and frustrated. [more inside]
My uncle (by marriage) has terminal cancer. His doctors have just recommended hospice care. We're medium-close; I see him and his family every couple of years. I live about 300 miles away. What can I do for him? For his wife (my mom's sister) and his grown kids? What can I say? Thank you.
Back in NYC for Christmas and need a good Xmas-dinner restaurant pick. Help? [more inside]
I’m wondering if there’s any academic or research value in the papers my mom kept, documenting her struggles to get a long-term care insurance provider to honour their contract. [more inside]
Will I ever get an endorphin rush? I started an incremental exercise program, a couple of weeks doing a basic routine (24 mins a day) and then adding to it, and adding again (finally just under an hour a day). There were resistance bands and lots of sweating, I put a lot of effort in but got no endorphin rush. [more inside]
My bf doesn't like it when I walk home from my job alone, at night. I am a woman. It's not that he won't allow me to, he just thinks it's a bad idea and urges me not to or to carry pepper spray if I do. I had been doing this for over a year before I met him, and want to explain to him why these warnings against it (which I get from others as well) are patronizing and annoying. Or maybe I really am being irresponsible? [more inside]
A little over two years ago I posted a question regarding a very difficult situation I was in. The result is - eventually after much trauma we got divorced. Two years have passed and whilst in some respects I have made progress, a terrible situation has now occured and I am weighed down with the weight of the world. Desperately need some hivemind perspective if possible. [more inside]
This morning, a relative called saying I had sent them spam from my Gmail account. I ran to the computer, checked Gmail's login history, but found nothing suspicious. I checked the spam folder, and sure enough, two pieces of spam with a link to a phishing site which Safari immediately picked up as such (I know, bad idea to click it at all) had been sent to every one of my contacts. I know anyone can spoof anyone else's email, despite the best attempts at protection by Gmail and such. My question is: how did they get my contacts? How can I make this spoofing harder, or at least prevent access to my contacts in the future? (Further details inside.) [more inside]
I have a non-American friend who has an undergraduate degree in Aerospace Engineering from a highly acclaimed non-American university and a couple of years of work experience in his home country as a mechanical engineer working on helicopters, airplanes and drones. He now wants to come to the US (any city) for a couple of years (at least) to work as a mechanical engineer in aerospace, preferably on drones. Does anyone know of any specific headhunting firms that specialize in placing aerospace engineers?
Each year, my office (~1500 people) pools together to give our building support staff (cafeteria workers, cleaners, mail room) a holiday gift. It's a tradition that's been going on for as long as I've worked in this office, and this year it's my turn to collect the gift. I'm looking for the best method of collecting the gift. [more inside]
What the hell do we do for all-day in the rain on Saturday. Difficulty level: 2 bum knees, not really a SAM crowd, and sadly, sushi is out (low experimental eaters) [more inside]
I would like to give a few members of my firehouse each a small, folding utility knife, engraved with their name, as a gift. Because I'm getting several of them, I'd like to keep costs under $35 or so. I've looked at Benchmade and Buck, as I have each of those brands and have found their quality to be good, but I'd like to find the absolute best knife I can for the price. Extreme durability under conditions of brutal misuse is a plus. [more inside]
I want to move from the South to the Bay Area, but I'm an administrative assistant. Is anyone going to hire someone like me who has to relocate? [more inside]
That's it really... New apartment + unknown object. Picture here. Can we take it down and put up a hanging chair/potted plants/hammock or something? Thanks!
My girlfriend's birthday is next weekend, and I'd love to surprise her with an hour or two or seven of playing with a corgi in a park, somewhere in SF. [more inside]
I'd like to purchase an antique map (or a good reproduction) as a Christmas present, and I'm having trouble figuring out where to shop. [more inside]
Just had my first baby, in my very late 30s...yay! I took four months off once the baby came. Before the baby came, some major things happened - i got promoted to supervise my team at work -- and my mom passed away suddenly. Additionally, I had a complication with the pregnancy and ended up going on maternity leave a month early. So, before I left for maternity leave, I was not exactly 100% at work and while my boss was understanding, I may have not made the best first impression in this new position. (questions inside) [more inside]
How do I feel more confident about myself? [more inside]
My favorite musical genre boils down to "upset women with pianos." Where can I find more of it? [more inside]
I'm looking for a copy of Wittgenstein's Philosophical Investigations that isn't in the en face format (German on one page, English translation on the other). I had a straight Anscombe translation in college but have since lost it. Any ideas? Everything I've seen on Amazon is the en face. Thanks for your help!
I have about four hours in between morning/afternoon plans and dinner plans on Thanksgiving in NYC. What should we do with them? [more inside]
My wife wants to start sewing and was wanting to get a Brother HC1850 sewing machine. Supposedly it's one of the best computerized sewing machines for $200 and under. I tried to buy one and it's really hard to find right now. I bought one online and almost instantly the seller refunded my money and told me there's a quality issue and Brother has asked sellers to not sell it until that's sorted out. Which other makes and models compare favorably and should be considered instead?
The other day I read this thing about ATOMIC GARDENING And apparently this controlled mutation is the reason we have ruby red grapefruits. So my question is what ELSE is atomic that I didn't know about? Is there anything else using radiation unconventionally or atomic technology in novel places I didn't suspect?
My husband and I are thinking of taking an anniversary/delayed honeymoon trip to the UK, and going on one of the semi-packaged Lake District hikes (where you hike from inn to inn and they trundle your baggage to the next inn for you). I'm getting conflicting information about the best month to do this. Data points inside. [more inside]
I have about 14 PDF Files with about 400 pages. Each page is an invoice with a number from 1 to 400. Unfortunately, they aren't all in the right sequence. What is the best way to sort them? Is there a way to do this automatically? If not, what other options do I have. The thumbnail view in MAC OS to small to see the invoice number.
We have a storage tank water heater from the mid-90s, meaning that it could go at any time. I'd like to have a plan in place for when it does. I've read a little about tankless water heating and it sounds great environmentally, but maybe not so great on the wallet (at least initially). I've got some questions for those better-educated on subject than I. [more inside]
I want to do Black Friday online this year and I'm looking for tips on how to make my experience as successful as possible since the last time I did Black Friday in general was when I was 8 and going from toy store to toy store looking for a goddamn Furby. [more inside]
I'm heading to London (and for a two day trip outside) a week from today and need a few more ideas. I have two days unbooked in which I'd like to get out of London (Monday and Tuesday Dec 1 & 2). I'm thinking maybe one or more of :
I'm trying to transcribe an old-time coroner's inquest and, between the cursive script and the medical terms, I'm having difficulty with some words. Can you help? [more inside]
I am hosting a Thanksgiving cocktail/housewarming party on Wednesday evening, and I need ideas for festive, on-theme recipes that can stand up to sitting out for a few hours while people graze. [more inside]
Where can I hold a public meeting for about 25-35 attendees in Greater Boston, with parking? Our group sometimes has attendees drive in from other states, so the usual suspects of city library branches or community centers are often a big pain for folks that need to find parking. Are there free meeting spaces that are near the T for transit users, but with easy-ish parking for car users? This is not for government or political organizing use, rather a meetup around a shared interest. Thank you!
There's several people I know that are big into gaming, (The Settlers of Catan, Carcassonne, Ticket to Ride, etc). They also like to read. In the interest of getting them something gaming related, is there a book or several books that function both as a piece of fiction and as a game?Not sure this sort of thing even exists, but figured if it does that would be pretty awesome as Christmas gift. Anyone?
Does anyone make my ideal notebook? A5 in size, any colour you like, with covers that flex but aren't too flimsy (not stiff boards) and with a mix (alternating pages if possible) of both lined and plain pages? The mix is important - I like drawing and writing - but I'm not really sure what to search for to find what I want. I'd take a mix of squared and plain at a stretch. All suggestions and pointers welcome.
How can one individual most effectively combat UKIP? (UK politics filter) [more inside]
Curly-haired denizens of Metafilter, share with me your tips for achieving low-maintenance hair that is not an angry pile of frizz. [more inside]
My wife and I (from Toronto) will be in Los Angeles all next week. Being Canadian, we only realized yesterday that this means we'll be there on Thanksgiving weekend. [more inside]
I'm doing final edits to my thesis and can't figure out how to cite a certain document. It is a Bible study curriculum intended for family use, but with no evident publisher. Thesis format: Turabian. [more inside]
The 3TB ex-NAS has been mounted as a new drive., but I only see ~350GB of that drive in windows. How do I convert/allocate/merge/discover the rest and make myself a big fat new hdd?? I've got EaseUS Partition Manager to help. [more inside]
I had a physical exam yesterday during which an assistant (not the doctor, but I'm unsure of this person's credentials) stuck a tool inside my ears to look around (the tool very solidly contacted my ear canal), and then immediately after without sanitizing it or using a different tip, placed the tool in each of my nostrils (and again, the tool touched the inside of my nostrils). [more inside]
Trader Joe's near me is selling fresh turkeys for Thanksgiving, both regular and (hey!) pre-brined at a good price. But no reservations and when they're gone, they're gone. Is it too early to buy a fresh turkey? Any reason not to get the pre-brined one? (same price, $1.99 a pound). Are there any advantages to thawing a frozen turkey? Would I get a better bird going to the old school meat shop (Gartner's in Portland)? Thanks!
I currently have chest tightness since this past July. I used to have asthma as a kid. I've gone to my primary care doctor about 3-4 times already. The following tests were performed: [more inside]
I've started reading the the entirety of Richard Stark's Parker series, and I can't help noticing that the ages of cars are always mentioned. It's never just a Pontiac, it's a "two year old Pontiac." Or, "The Cadillac was four years old." Did cars in the '60s have ridiculously short life spans? What's the deal?
I have a cramped S.F. bedroom, with enough room for a king-sized bed, but little else. I would like for my partner and I to be able to watch torrented and streamed programming in comfort whilst on the bed, ideally on something more robust than a Roku. Like a real PC... preferably Windows-based. A reasonably sized display. 12" or larger. Swivel-mounted to the wall (recommend hardware for this please!) Perhaps a touch interface. Ideally with a real wireless keyboard / mouse solution. Possibly even something a graphics tablet can be hooked up to. The ability to be hooked up to the network and store away a ton of shows. Hardware that is off the floor, and not overheating and gathering dust under the bed. The ability to handle some relatively undemanding gaming. Low power usage. Can any of you recommend the best hardware to make this happen? Extra points if you can point to parts of the solution that are either advertised or likely to be advertised as on sale for Black Friday.
I've recently ended a very intense emotional relationship with someone and now I've lost my sense of identity. So much of who I was was tied up in her, I don't seem to know how to be me now she's gone. Has anything helped you, in a similar position? [more inside]
Can a blood test be used to test for lactose intolerance when not combined with drinking a lactose solution? [more inside]
I'd like to read some great non-fiction books about political revolutions, both successful and failed. I'm particularly interested in the past couple hundred years of history, and in revolutions involving (former?) colonies. [more inside]
I have a large piece of amber with a couple of tiny insects embedded in it. Can anyone identify this one? It's tiny--probably less than 2mm long.
I need a comfortable robe where I can successfully push up my sleeves. I am short and have toothpicks for arms and I've never been able to successfully push up my robe sleeves and have them stay up. [more inside]
Looking for studies with data. [more inside]
My wife is interested in a grow your own mushroom kit and can you help guide me turn this gift up to 11? [more inside]
I'm looking for PhD programs with a philosophy of science track, where I would be able to focus on biology; in particular, biosemiotics. [more inside]
Repeated allergic reaction to vegan restaurant's food items, please help me figure out what it was from. (snowflake details inside) [more inside]
ahhh, ooo oo aHH! ahhh, ooo oo aHH! There's a song that starts this way! I thought it was an M83 song but that doesn't seem to be the case. Any ideas?
Hi, I may have a chance to work in Amman, struggle to get a decent sense of the cost of living, what sort of monthly salary it would take to live without scraping by and living in a place that's dire or dangerous, etc. I'd be okay with sharing a half-way decent place, eating street food and cooking, not going drinking at the Hilton, etc. Thank you for any thoughts and general Jordan insights you might be able to share.
Found a white capsule-shaped (but tablet form) pill on the floor, with M on one side of the score and AO on the other. We have various human and veterinary meds at our house, but this one didn't come up on any "pill finder" internet searches. I threw it out, and this is sheer curiosity: can anyone identify it?
Adult female standing at 5'2 seeks a badass olympic recurve bow for her new archery hobby. [more inside]
How do you combat self-consciousness that translates into shifty eyes, strange expressions, stiff demeanor, etc? [more inside]
Basically Nora Reed's unanswered question in this comment from two years ago: what is the etymology of 'umbers', in the New Mexican idiolect? Will also accept explanations of 'a la v[e|ay]'. At some point I was told it was a not super minced version of something really profane, and I've never been able to work out what.
What are some magazines or online publications that publish popular -- but not dumbed-down or gimmicky -- history writing? Difficulty level: must pay writers. [more inside]
I met a visual artist two years ago whose work is very, very important to me. I set up a meeting with him because I work in the arts and my skills are complimentary to his. We planned to do a project together, so we spent a lovely day meeting and doing a bit of work together. But he immediately stopped communicating with me as soon as we parted ways. [more inside]
I'm looking for a women's down coat that's longer than my hips but not down to my knees. Ideally it has a hood without a fur (fake or otherwise) trim. And it needs to be available in size 18ish. Where should I look that I haven't already? [more inside]
I'd like to non-permanently mount a 3x5 index card onto a business-phone so that it faces the person using it. [more inside]
I need to figure out a delightful holiday gift for my travelling brother (and perhaps his girlfriend as well). Help me earn Awesome Big Sister Points! [more inside]
I have four or five items that belong to me (worth a few hundred dollars each) that I'll be taking with me to Mexico. On my return, I want to leave them with my Mexican colleagues. How does this work with things like 'duty' and 'import' and all that? [more inside]
I've seen them all summer this Seattle (eastside), in large quantities. [more inside]
My kid has discovered she likes to do homework while listening to Brazilian music on Pandora but she is getting sick of the endless versions of The Girl from Ipanema. Where else can she listen to Brazilian music online? [more inside]
My club is looking for an inexpensive way to automate monthly dues payments by credit/debit card. [more inside]
I'm preparing a report on a proposed open ocean fish farm, and am having trouble explaining particulate dilution rates to my boss. [more inside]
I have a darling boyfriend who I have been dating for 1.5 years. We are generally very happy (so much fun, so much in common, and very attracted to each other), and I love him. My lease is up, and he's decided that he's not ready to live together yet. Other people (especially my family) are giving me a hard time about it. How do I know if they're right? [more inside]
I have long wanted to start a knitting blog/website but need help naming it. [more inside]
For Thanksgiving this year, I decided that I will spatchcock/butterfly the turkey. Problem? I've never cooked a turkey before, and I need some help thinking through specific logistics of size and scissors. Detailed questions inside! [more inside]
Looking for information on some of the NY Exchange Plans (NYC) [more inside]
I'm looking to read about the interesting, fascinating, and crazy lives people have lived. Any recommendations for biographies of people that have led fascinating lives?
I'm looking to print 50 or so simple Christmas cards: Folded, regular sized, one of my photos on the front. I'd like to get these printed online (or, locally in Vancouver, Canada, if possible.) Any recommendations? Snapfish? MPIX? Quality, price and speed are my primary considerations. Thanks!
Can anyone suggest menus of cocktail party appetizers which, when presented together, are like a mini-meal? [more inside]
I'm curious how those with a large amount of money at their disposal could go into a dealership and say "I'll take that one...now." [more inside]
Mrs. Awesome is having a baby very soon! Yay! At this point it's likely to be a C-section - not our first choice, but we'll roll with it if we have to. I understand the recovery can be a bit rough; I'll be around for a month or so after the birth, but will we need more help than just me? [more inside]
There's a scene/quote, probably in a movie but maybe in a TV show, that I know I've seen a pile of times but can't place it. Guy asks a question then answers it with "the answer to that is 'yes, sometimes.'" Any ideas? [more inside]
We live in a semi-urban, rust-belt neighborhood that has too many garage burglaries and home invasions between 2am and 5am. Our police department responds to calls but does not have the staff to frequently patrol our area. We have neighborhood communication channels to report incidents after they happen and to encourage neighbors to keep things locked up. What are some effective (and cost-effective) ways to get more people to make their homes and streets undesirable targets, and to make more burglars feel that they might be caught in the act or afterwards without having vigilantes patrol?
Going on a loooong boat trip on one of the cruise lines in a few months. What's the current deal for taking my electronics through the inspections? [Previously from 2009] [more inside]
Scandinavia has a variety of potato called almond. It's small, extremely mealy and delicate, and has a slightly sweet, buttery flavour; it's utterly delicious. I have been looking for this variety in the US (specifically, New York), but I'm coming up short. Is there a place to find it, or is there an American variety that is comparable?
I will be traveling internationally for two weeks and so I need to get a laptop to work on while I am gone. Please help me pick the best option. I am struggling between getting a dedicated laptop or something like the Surface Pro. [more inside]
Are there any books, magazines, or websites that might help the design-challenged pick colors during a complete kitchen remodel or new house construction? We'd like to be able to flip through pictures of various home interiors - most importantly the kitchen but also other rooms - to help us decide on the colors of our cabinets and floors. Google images hasn't been terribly useful.
I need to purchase multiple sets of hats, gloves, and scarves. Not a business but this is for a volunteer effort on behalf of a business. Where do I start? [more inside]
When looking for a new place to live, there is a question I want to ask my potential future housemates, but I can't figure out how to phrase it. My best attempt so far is "How particular is your household about doing things a certain way?" or perhaps "How many high-maintenance things do you have in your house, and what kind of care do they need?" Basically I'm asking how nitpicky people are, but I want to ask in a neutral way. [more inside]
Help me to find more ideas in the vein of this quote by Kurt Vonnegut: “But I have to say this in defense of humankind: In no matter what era in history, including the Garden of Eden, everybody just got here. And, except for the Garden of Eden, there were already all these games going on that could make you act crazy, even if you weren't crazy to begin with. Some of the crazymaking games going on today are love and hate, liberalism and conservatism, automobiles and credit cards, golf, and girls' basketball.” [more inside]
We are looking for a nice place to study in the mornings. Should be within a mile of the Rosslyn metro stop. Preferably they should be open by 7:00am, reasonably quiet, have wifi, and a comfortable temperature. We like Capital City Cheesecake, if that helps. Is the Plaza Branch Library decent? [more inside]
Last night a neighbor very sweetly brought me this little plant - a stub of what seems to be a succulent, about 3 inches high, potted in a tiny glass pot. I have no idea what it is or what it needs, and I'd like to keep it alive. Please help! [more inside]
I'm a big fan of learning things by reading; reading about cognitive-behavioural therapy has been helpful in combating depression, and reading about creative conflict resolution has been helpful in relationships with family and workmates. I'd like some reading recommendations for building healthy romantic relationships, since it's something I'm ignorant about. [more inside]
Help me buy music for my extremely eclectic dad! [more inside]
My wife and the kids are flying out to Virginia on Sunday as part of Thanksgiving visit with relatives. They have a couple free days to do tourist stuff and she was wondering whether it would make sense to spend one of them visiting Colonial Williamsburg. The kids are 9, 6, and 3, and they have enjoyed visits to small historical sites run by our state historical society. Has anyone taken kids to Colonial Williamsburg? Would you recommend that others do so? Is it worth visiting even on a rainy day?
I travel a lot with different organizations paying for different trips. Is there a mechanism or policy I could put in place to equitably split the costs of a single multi-city trip among the different orgs? Sample trip inside. [more inside]
I'm looking to explore developing a no-pressure easy-going family tradition of celebrating winter solstice. The main thing I'm trying to figure out is how to do a sunny yellow/orange cake to represent the sun, but am looking for other solstice-y 'let there be [more] light' ideas as well. [more inside]
I listen to a lot of podcasts that I know my mum would enjoy. But she can't/won't use a computer, doesn't have reliable internet, and she has arthritis that sometimes prevents her doing 'fiddly' things - e.g. scrolling a wheel on an ipod. Looking for a solution - details inside [more inside]
A game I played something like 2 decades ago, can you identify it? [more inside]
I want to change the default bullets that are available when you go through the Bullets and Numbering menu. I've looked online and various people ask this questions in forums and they always get unhelpful answers so perhaps this can't be done! [more inside]
How do you track the benefits of multiple projects delivering over time? [more inside]
We just got our wedding date and venue booked, and it's set for April, so we really need to get going on the invitations. So we were thinking of online wedding invitations. Is this even a thing? We recently got invited to a baby shower through this site where they sent us a cute e-card with an option to RSVP, enter how many guests, etc., and it just seemed pretty streamlined and neat. Just wondering if anyone has done it this way before. Thanks.
Carcassonne tournaments — how do I get in on this action? [more inside]
I'll be going to Japan for 3 weeks over the Christmas/New Years holidays. What are some things to see/do/eat/buy that are expensive but worth it? These need to be things I can do in either day trips or 2-day trips from Osaka. Bonus points for things that are kid-friendly. [more inside]
My co-worker is the first guy I have been attracted to in a year and he seemed to reciprocate but then abpruptly lost interest. I can't stop obssesing over it and feeling rejected and down. [more inside]
My impossible-to-buy-for boyfriend has requested a Mexican cookbook for Christmas. We've had very little experience with Mexican food (and I'm pretty sure Old El Paso doesn't count) but what we've had, we loved. [more inside]
I write freelance. I get paid based on page views. I want to track my views on articles independently, not just rely on the numbers fed to me by clients that host the articles I write. I know I can use tracking pixels for this. I have spent hours hunting for third-party services that host the little 1x1 devils and generate usable reports. I am shocked at the lack of alternatives out there. [more inside]
What were these called (if indeed they were called something), and where can I find out more about them? (Note that the video here has been retrofitted onto a 70s radio single.) I loved them as a 70s kid (they were pretty popular for a couple of years), and now I find them adorably stupid and kind of fascinating for some reason. Certainly not because they are clever.
Received a summons for NJ jury duty, which got called off the night beforehand. Is my service over for the allotted term, or could I be called up again within the next 3 years? [more inside]
A dear friend has revealed that their conception was the result of their estranged mother's rape. Help me craft a supportive, loving response, or at least caution me on what NOT to say. [more inside]
My job has an externship program that frequently hires externs once their externship is complete and they have completed their degree. I have been mentoring an excellent externship who have out performed any other extern I have mentored. She is fantastic and I want her for our team but my department supervisor refuses to offer her an job. Complication inside. [more inside]
Recently, I searched for hours online for a brag book for my grandmother as a gift. I found one that fit the bill, but stupidly did not save the page. It was leather, textured/snakeskin-like cover, a 4x6, with about 10-20 leaves, high quality - about $60 or so, and also able to be monogrammed. I cannot, for the life of me, find another that meets these specifications. It's hard to find books this small that are high quality. Can anyone help? I don't need that exact one (though that would be awesome), just a few companies that make things like this.
During the last six months or so, I've noticed that they haven't had those standard hand-held shopping baskets available in Walmart. Why not? This is quite annoying to me personally, since I hate using a giant buggy for my typical shop, but also annoying because every other store seems to still have them. Is there any reason for them to have disappeared, and if so, why only at Walmart? Also, any idea on an affordable and sturdy one for my own use?
Can you identify this backpack model and brand I saw two people both wearing while walking down the street. I'm going crazy trying to search for it. All I have is my memory/description to go by. [more inside]
I recently had knee replacement surgery and my dear friend sent along a care package. She knew I would be in bed quite a bit and the box included a lovely, cozy, blanket and a box of herbal tea. She is now preparing for sinus surgery in December, which I have never had. What items would be good for me to send to her? She is a blanket nut and has plenty of those already. Thank you.
One of our miniature dachshunds is deathly ill, vomiting and pooping blood. He's at the emergency vet overnight. My husband started feeding our dogs Purina Beneful four days ago and when I did a search to see if there has been any sort of recall I found this page full of people reporting similarly sick dogs. [more inside]
My terrierist got skunked tonight, in the face/chest. Before I realized what had happened, she ran in (very distressed), and rubbed her face on part of the couch, and probably more.. She's fine now, I'm pretty sure my house is not. Everything smells so bad I can't even tell what needs cleaning. [more inside]
For the past few weeks, I can only use Facebook on a particular Firefox profile when using my laptop. Facebook does not load (stuck on loading screen) on my other Firefox profiles even if I create a new profile, as well as in Chrome and IE. Sometimes, when I access Facebook, it takes a long time trying to load but displays only a severely broken snippet. All other Web sites load properly. Does any of you have suggestions on how I can fix this problem? [more inside]
Looking for warm AND comfortable leggings/tights for regular sized women. [more inside]
Mrs. Funmonkey1 and I ar looking for a decent happy hour. Think long bar with loads of room, decent bar food and a good selection of wine and beer. Crowd over 25 and relaxed. Anything like this in North Beach?
Which dumbphone should I get? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I've been searching but my searching has been for naught. Is there a term for a law or laws that are passed that are originally unpopular but then becomes indispensable or even popular? Like affirmative action or income tax or the 19th amendment? [more inside]
My grandfather, who has a history of being physically abusive, has become increasingly emotionally abusive in the past couple of years and I don't know how to handle it. [more inside]
What are some short, punchy multi-media clips and articles I can share with undergraduates to provoke reflection on how to effect social and environmental change? [more inside]
Hi all. A close friend is starting therapy with a therapist "certified in Client Focused Therapy and in ACT (Acceptance and Committment Therapy)". I'm a bit worried for her - what is the medical consensus on ACT? Is it bunk? Are there any resources I can direct her towards? [more inside]
I've inherited some jewelry (primarily art deco) and I'd like to get a handle on what I have in front of me (well, in the safe deposit box) before I make any decisions about what to do with it. I imagine that getting an appraisal would be a good first step, but I don't know where to turn. [more inside]
How do I find evidence submitted along with a written statement to a Congressional Subcommitee? For instance, if the Subcommitee on Oversight and Investigation held a hearing on a matter and the record reflects that outside witnesses submitted written statements with exhibits, can I find those on-line at a source other than the subcommitte's page for the hearing? [more inside]
I've decided in my quest to learn French, I am going to alternate between watching an episode of my favorite show -- The Golden Girls -- dubbed in French and watching the same episode subtitled in French. I've found a few episodes of the subtitled version online -- where can I find more of these AND the dubbed version? Does this even exist? [more inside]
What sort of "hosting" gift should I bring to an Indian (Gujarati) couple who have invited my husband and me for lunch in their new home? [more inside]
I want to give my husband a copy of Idylls Of The King by Tennyson for Christmas. Am I on an impossible quest? [more inside]
See in the background here, where can I find bins like these? thanks!
I have a lot of videos I need to preview, then trim based on the preview, possibly rotate, then save. What should I use? [more inside]
Trying to remember the name of a game we played in school. You were a scientist who could create monsters by choosing different heads, torsos, etc. Not Mail Order Monsters. I think it was based on choosing various chemicals or mutagens.
I'm getting my first pair of progressive glasses. I decided to go with Warby Parker rather than getting lenses from my local eye doctor because my doctor charged twice as much as Warby and I could not afford it. This is despite warnings from my doctor that progressive lenses must be measured in person. How will I know if the Warby Parker lenses aren't good enough? [more inside]
Can someone recommend a dynamic, curated, photo desktop replacement for the amazingly great dearly departed Bing Dynamic Desktop Theme for Windows (7)? [more inside]
I accepted an offer from the hiring manager three days ago -- but I still don't have an offer letter. When do I start to panic? [more inside]
I'm looking for good mystery novels with protagonists who are not cops, not PIs, not lawyers, etc., and who are not really working with those sort of professionals, and who may also be in over their heads. They may accidentally fall into the mystery, or they may bring it upon themselves. The point is that they are "civilians" who must investigate a mystery. [more inside]
I'd like resources on what books are available now that would spark interest for a city-dwelling 3rd grade girl. [more inside]
New guy I'm seeing came over completely wasted and seems to drink quite a bit. I have alcoholism/drug addiction in my family so I feel like sometimes I can be too judgmental about things that others deem normal. I also am petrified of vulnerability and have a tendency to push people away. How do I know what's normal and what's not when it comes to drinking and dating? [more inside]
I'm looking for a really great history of science or weird science podcast(s)! [more inside]
Every belt I wear eventually degrades into something like this on the end with the holes: http://i.imgur.com/bBttJLR.jpg (Sorry for the bad camera quality.) Should I be worried, and if so, what should I be fixing about how I wear belts?
I'd like to find some games (or other techniques) to play with my 3 year old in order to learn alphabet and numbers. From experience, learning through fun is much better for everyone involved, but may not necessarily be the case here. Please point me in the right direction so I can try some things to see what actually works.
I recently lost my pet cat to a coyote attack. I think I'm dealing with the grief of his death OK, but I'm feeling a little murkier about the trauma from the actual incident, which I was present for. [more inside]
Has your cat ever had a food tube? Please tell me good things [more inside]
What iPad app should I use for meeting sign-in sheets? [more inside]
4-year-old suddenly having accidents at school, fearful, should I worry? [more inside]
What are some great Canadian alternative bands from the 80s and early 90s? Plus: what would you name my radio show? [more inside]
I am looking for examples of musical performances in which the performer uses a natural break or pause in the song and stretches it out to the breaking point creating tension for dramatic effect before diving back into the song.
I'm trying to calculate the probability of contracting HIV for the husband of an infected woman. Given a risk of 10-50 conversions per 10,000 exposures. And assuming an average frequency of sexual acts of 2-3 X per week. That's 100-150 sexual acts /year. That should give about a 10%-15% yearly risk of contracting HIV, right?
My connection for clinical work/experience during winter break has suddenly dropped me. I now have a 2k+ ticket to San Bernardino, California and am anxious and scared as to how I should proceed. Help! [more inside]
We've been concentrating so much on the actual physical labor part of the birth that we are now (3 weeks out!) realizing that we want to give some consideration to the emotional part, and come up with ideas to make our families feel loved and included. [more inside]
I'm going to be in Liverpool over the Christmas holidays as I'm planning on going to Goodison Park on Boxing Day. Obviously, almost everything will be closed on Christmas Day but will there be anything open that isn't a hospital? I'd like to drink a lot so booze options most welcome, but really anything that isn't sitting by myself is great.
Due to some overzealous purchasing at Ikea, I have found myself with two extra slabs of bamboo tabletop. Any creative suggestions on what I can do with them? Would these be safe to use as cutting boards? [more inside]
We're trying to plan a 1-week vacation over Christmas for the three of us (wife, college-age daughter, myself). Some friends recommended Saint Martin, other friends recommended Grand Cayman, but neither has been to both to compare between the two of them. [more inside]
I belong to the gym next to my apartment building, which costs me $70/month. All I do there is use their stationary bicycles, and occasionally I have to wait for one to become free. I like to use it for 90 minutes per session, 4 times a week. It occurs to me that I could quit my gym if I could find a way to get that kind of - mindless, no need to pay attention to the traffic, worry about dressing for cold weather, or think about where I'm going - exercise at home using my current bicycle. [more inside]
I seem to remember that it used to be a thing that your kid could send their letters to Santa to a particular address and they'd get a nice reply from "Santa." Now that I'm old enough to have a kid of my own who wants to send a letter to Santa, I'm not sure where to send the thing. [more inside]
I am 33, newly pregnant and most of my usual skin care products are not allowed (retin-a, green peels, botox etc) I am interested in purchasing one of the more expensive beauty lamps using Red LED lights (not hand held) but I would really like to hear some experiences before I shell out any big bucks. Any other pregnancy skin hacks are welcome! My budget is about $1300 a year... but I like to spend it on things that have visual longer lasting effects. Thanks in advance!
World of Warcraft Battletag - since the Warlords of Draenor expansion - is now showing my unguilded alts to my Guild members...please make it stop. [more inside]
Due to Life Stuff, I fly frequently between the UK and mainland Europe. Does anyone have any short-range travel hacks for me? I'm a seasoned traveller, but I find air travel very time-consuming and are looking for ways of making the whole process a little easier. [more inside]
I can't for the life of me find a copy of this episode online anywhere. I've emailed HGTV but can't think of anything else to do to find it. It's an older episode, from a season that's not on Amazon/Hulu or anything else that I can see. Here's a link to a mini-version of it: http://www.hgtv.com/shows/house-hunters-international/episodes/young-woman-empowers-girls-of-battambang-cambodia [more inside]
After three years they (or specifically one case worker) are telling me that I was not supposed to get the full benefits for the last three years like I was. She's reduced it by almost two thirds. I don't think I believe her and I want the full benefits again but don't know what to do. [more inside]
Reading the news articles about the accusations of rape made against Bill Cosby has suddenly made me resolutely certain of the fact that my rapist has had other victims. My question is, how does one "find" those other victims... without going to court or being super public about having been raped? [more inside]
I'm having problems controlling my temper, every so often, with my child, who is increasingly pressing my buttons. I would like advice on how to not forget myself and spank this child when my temper is piqued (usually by hitting, kicking, or spitting). [more inside]
In BBC Sherlock's, series 3 episode 1 The Empty Hearse, the character Moran is uncredited. Even in the DVD commentary, Mark Gatiss refers to him only as "that guy." Tumblr pleading and screen grabbies here. Who is he?
I'm looking for ideas for "lists of things that are ordered". Can you help me think of some? Examples inside. [more inside]
My wife is starting a professional organizing business and is having trouble coming up with a name for her business that a) doesn't sound generic (i.e. "Organizing Solutions"), b) would appeal equally well to businesses and homeowners and c) would avoid her services being confused with a cleaning service. I'm wondering if anyone here might be able to offer any suggestions?
I'm trying to buy a copy of a famous Russian geometry textbook, Kiselev's Geometry (link to a recent English translation), in the original Russian. Any copy of any edition will do; in fact, a used copy would be mildly preferred. However, I speak no Russian whatsoever, so I'm having difficulty figuring out how to go about this, partly because I don't even know what to search for on a Russian-language site! How can I complete my task? [more inside]
I'm looking for a great spot to get away from New England for a New Year's beach vacation. I realize I'm booking last-minute so flights are expensive and lodging inventory is limited. Tulum is high on the list, but it doesn't seem possible to stay anywhere near the water for less than $500/night (which is WAY beyond my budget). Airbnb has places in town for around $1000/week which is well within reach. Would it be a fun/relaxing/rejuvenating beach vacation experience staying in town in Tulum, renting a car, and driving to the beach? if so, does the hive mind have any tips for staying in town? Also, what alternative destinations might I consider in order to get right on the water? [more inside]
Looking for a intercom and remote gate opener with control via the internet on a iPhone / iPad. [more inside]
This one's for a friend, who's being driven mildly insane by not having a title for this movie. It's a foreign film, probably (but not definitely) Japanese, and it had subtitles. The two principal characters are two boys, one of whom goes to live with the family of the other. They're friends at first, including at school (a martial arts school?), but find themselves on opposite sides of war. One of them loses his hearing during the movie. By the end, the two characters reconcile. The final shot is of the now-deaf one on a beach.
Just bought a house with a older Brinks Home security system. Well the previous owners had a Land-line and had the house monitored. When they moved out they disconnected the line and now the alarm is showing "CP Trouble" and beeping once every 45 seconds or so. We dont have a land-line nor plan on getting one. We also do not plan on having the alarm monitored but we like the door chime and being able to set the alarm. Even while set the CP problem is still there and beeps. I called Brinks and they said the only way to fix this was to disconnect the whole alarm system or get it monitored. I dont want to disconnect the alarm and I dont want it monitored. Does anyone know if there is a way to bypass this to stop the beeping?
Should I stay or look for another job? [more inside]
Drawing names from a hat just doesn't work for our far flung family anymore. Have you used a website or app to distribute secret Santa names. It should have some way to keep spouses from getting each others' names. It would be nice if you could post a wishlist at the same site.
Er, a woman who tends to feel the cold, and who will spend falls/winters in the UK. How rainproof should it be? How warm should it be? Should it be brightly colored to avoid getting hit by a car in the fog? [more inside]
Last year I burned "fake" logs made out of coffee grounds to great effect. This year - the company has "new and improved" logs which don't seem to throw as much heat. Any suggestions on what else I can burn in the fireplace? [more inside]
A few months ago I read/watched youtube previews for a spaceship simulator type PC game, where you flew around in battleship/capital ship style warships, kind of like Battlestar Galactica scale, against other players in their own capital ships. What was this game? [more inside]
I'm currently applying for a non-local position, but I'm struggling with what to say on my cover letter to address that. [more inside]
Hi All. I need a cloud-compatible printer (e-printer?) to buy as an X-mas gift for my daughter's Chromebook. (A Toshiba Chromebook 2, 13.3" Celeron 4GBMem -16GB Solid State Drive) Recommendations needed & greatly appreciated!
I need to power an electronic gizmo through USB. The requirements for the powerbank battery are: output - 5V, 1.5 - 2amp. I'd like the max practical mAh under $100. [more inside]
Update on this guy: http://ask.metafilter.com/87425/best-lube 6 years later, as there may be new stuff on the market. [more inside]
I have no full-time work experience outside of assistantships and internships. How much should I expect when I enter the non-academic market? [more inside]
Hi! I'm interested in finding some information about the way that Hephaistos is guessed to have come to be worshipped in ancient Greece. Please note that I am not looking for psychological theories (for example: "he represents the creative drive, and functions as a symbol of social exclusion and early technology"), but historical ones (for example: "he is found on an Athenian vase in 500 BCE, but no earlier, so that may have been when they began worshipping him" or, for example: "the philosopher Anaxamagazine tells us that the Thracians worshipped Hephaistos above all other gods, so it is possible Thrace was the initial origin of his cult"). Book recommendations or well-sourced websites would both be welcome! If you're dropping by the thread to merely mention a fact you know regarding Mister Hammer's origin point, that's great, but please link to a primary source. Thank you!
How can I negotiate an entry-level salary well when it already exceeds most posted ranges? [more inside]
I've discovered that my stereo receiver and CD player headphone jacks reverse the right and left channels. When I listen to the Grateful Dead track "Box of Rain" through the headphone jack of my old Sony CD player, the lead vocals (Phil Lesh - he sings the very first line) are slightly to the right in the soundstage, while listening through the headphone jack of my receiver, it's reversed (slightly left). Anyone know which is actually correct?
Some years ago, I read a quote from Carlos Fuentes (in English) in some secondary source. I have no idea where I read it, but I would love to find it again! [more inside]
Name this song! It was on 9.07 WFUV in NYC at 2pm a few Sunday's back during a Gaelic music show. Pretty sure it's in Gaelic. But I can't find the playlists for that show on WFUV. It is funky .
I have very good willpower (I would say well above average) when it comes to enduring painful, unpleasant, or tedious experiences (long distance running, winter hiking, data entry). At the same time, I have very poor willpower (almost certainly below average) when it comes to avoiding temptation (food, drink, buying things I want but don't need). On the face of it, it seems like the two should be related. Why is it so different to push through a wall when running than to push through a wall when peckish? But for me, they seem entirely independent. What sort of techniques can I learn to specifically build the second kind of willpower?
My lovely open-toed Camper shoe had an encounter with an unpaved parking lot resulting in a big gouge through the leather exposing the blue foam underneath. I took it took my local cobbler and all he could do was glue the sticking-out bit of foam down so it sticks out less. The blue gouge is still prominent. What can be done to repair/refashion these shoes? Considering DIY options but suspect I'd get better results leaving it to a professional. Pics inside. [more inside]
Can you recommend some good healthy living/fitness blogs, preferably ones that feel like they're written by real people who are not consumed with self-hatred? [more inside]
Where can I try on plus-size, conservative swimwear in San Francisco? Are there specialty swim/sports shops that carry plus sizes? I am going on vacation Sunday and don't have time to order online and mess around with things possibly not fitting. My ideal garment would be a sleeveless, knee-length wetsuit, but I'm also willing to go with a conservative one-piece and board shorts. No skirt suits. I am a US women's size 16-18ish. This is just for splashing around in the ocean, so it doesn't need any special features.
I'm a 22 year old college student who has a crush on a classmate. I've had very little interaction with him. Last week, I got to hang out with him at a friend's birthday party, he was very nice and funny and we even exchanged phone number. I also heard from his friends that he's single. Since the party, We haven't talked to each other much because there are very few opportunities to talk when we are in school. He sits far away and we don't have mutual activities outside of class. We have only said hi to each other in the hallway. I'm a shy person and very inexperienced when it comes to flirting or pursuing a romantic relationship. I don't know how to get to know him better without appearing desperate. I have no idea if he is interested in me more than a friend. I have never had a boyfriend so I don't know what to do. Thank you for you're advice!
We are trying to reserve a vacation rental in Key West FL that has set off some red flags as to its legitimacy. What question can we ask the contact person to help figure out if this is a legitimate rental or a scam? [more inside]
A family wedding will take us to Tulsa this weekend. Flight schedules imposed a Friday arrival for a Saturday evening function, so we will have much of the day Saturday with two little kids in a town we've never visited before. Saturday morning we are on our own, we'll be meeting up with cousins in the afternoon. Zoo? Aquarium? Good parks/play grounds would be good too. Kid-friendly restaurants? Lay it on me.
I'm looking for a particular style of earring. I'll post an example but I'm not necessarily looking for an exact copy of that pair -- just something that matches certain criteria, which I will list. [more inside]
I'd like to make a time-lapse video from a bunch of very boring normal-speed video files produced by a cheap dash cam. What's the easiest way to do this? [more inside]
It is, sadly, time to retire our dinosaur LJ4 and get a new printer. Our primary concern for the new printer is cost over the total life of the printer. We print quite a bit for home users, I'd guess about 200 pages a month. Low cost per page is important. Probably this means a black and white laser printer, but not sure. [more inside]
My sister has requested a pumice stone for her feet for Christmas. I'd like to go a step further and get her all the stuff she'll need to give herself a nice home pedicure. I'm not so interested in polish, I think she has that covered. But any recommendations for equipment/clippers/cleansing goo/foot baths/etc are welcome.
If I contribute $2500 to a Flexible Spending Account (FSA) in 2015, and end up spending only $2000 of it on health costs -- what happens to the other $500?
My little kitty Binky has grown really needy over the last few days and I have no idea what's going on with her! [more inside]
Is there such a thing? By which I mean, teams of people collaboratively transcribing public domain sheet music into some kind of open format.
Christmas is coming, and I want to fly! What's the current state of drone + video? Can I get something worthwhile for $100-$500? Any specific recommendations of models/vendors? I'm not looking for anything commercial quality, just something I can play with and take some pretty videos and check out my roof, stuff like that.
A couple of my blog's readers have told me that they read my posts via Feedly without clicking through to my blog, and they're wondering if that adds to my blog's pageview counter. I haven't been able to figure out whether it does by googling, so I ask you, is my site credited with the pageviews that happen via Feedly and other similar sites or are they just stealing my content?
I make the traditional Christmas snack mix, or 'Nuts n' Bolts' as we call it. But this year, I want to also make a different variation with a different flavor. Spicy, maybe? Sweet? Ideas and recipes are appreciated! [more inside]
So this is actually a 2 part question.... [more inside]
Where can I find the type of "funny" pics and pages that often get circulated through email or posted on fb? I don't receive any of these forwarded messages anymore, and I don't have a facebook account. I generally don't appreciate the type of humor that I am seeking-- But, someone I care about is laid up and finds [this type of thing I'm looking for] really entertaining, and neither of us know how to source it. [more inside]
Last year, little baby iminurmefi was born, and while I know that there's a grace period where you can say "I just had a baby!" to excuse temporarily dropping the ball on all sorts of life stuff, it's about year past when my husband and I should have gotten our crap together and done that legal... stuff (that's the technical term)... that you're supposed to do when you have a kid and a house and assets and newly-complicated taxes. Estate planning, I guess? I know AskMe can't do this for me, but I am a bit lost as to what sort of professional(s) I need to hire here. [more inside]
My most indulgent purchase to date has been a Delonghi Magnifica superautomatic espresso maker. I push a button, it grinds beans, makes me an americano with beautiful crema, and chucks a little puck of used grounds into the receptacle. Magical! Sadly, it's on its last legs. [more inside]
I live internationally, mostly in China. My IP adress changes on an hourly basis. [more inside]
For most of my adulthood, I've been unable to fully deal with normal things the way most people seem to be able to. I have a decent full time job, a nice home, and a great husband... really nothing major to complain about. But many things bother me to the point that it affects my daily life, and I want it to stop but I don't know how to make it. [more inside]
If my employer forces me to relocate out of town and I refuse, thereby losing my job, would I qualify for unemployment benefits in Texas? [more inside]
Stepson now lives in Massachusetts. He needs Obamacare, but has an aversion to the phone and has not figured out the website. Is there a physical office in Boston (ideally near Cambridge) where a live human could help him sign up?
What are the best ways to keep working for more time? [more inside]
How far do I need to be from a highway/parkway to no longer hear it? I hope to use this information to look at a map and find the nearest place that will be quiet in the middle of the night, to record sound. Local road noise or the occasional passing car is not a concern, just highways and parkways that will be busy all night.
I'd like a general sanity check on our plans for setting up multiple bank accounts in an effort to bring some organization, structure, automation and discipline to the movement of funds in the small business I'm working with. [more inside]
I'm leaving for 20 days in a hotel room with a three year old in tow. At home, we do a lot of crafting, and I'd like to bring something to work on in the evenings that is safe around her, bonus if she can join in.As the three year old loves to unravel my knitting and can only sort-of crochet, is there something else? [more inside]
How do I stop/discourage my pre-teen step-daughter from leaving her bedroom light/TV on all night? [more inside]
There was a movie I saw, about an overly innocent 17 year old boy who left his home for months or years, and came back and saw his old female friend (or love interest?) and one line was he said "If you hurt someone, you say you're sorry, and that's all you can do" or something like that.. what movie was this? I think it's about 10 or 15 years old, probably rated PG, and kind of a silly romantic comedy.
Hi, yes it's one of those pre-Christmas questions from a desperate gift-giver who's out of ideas. [more inside]
What is the origin of the design of this specific octopus pendant and why is this exact design everywhere? [more inside]
My google-fu has failed me, and I sheepishly turn to you. Need help trying to figure out if the non-Sprint US iPhone 6 will work on LTE in the UK. [more inside]
I was approached by a recruiter a few weeks ago. At the time, I was somewhat unhappy at my job, but was not actively looking. I told the recruiter this. I have a follow-up interview with a manager tomorrow. Potential problem: I was laid off after the conversation with the recruiter. How do I spin this information? [more inside]
The question pertains to the linksys smart wifi router but it could be applicable for anything comparable. My sister is in an abusive marriage and is working on figuring things out at this point. She has noticed that her husband is increasingly making it difficult for her to get online (starting with blocking websites). I know blocking websites can be done on any new router that has a companion app but is it possible to actually snoop on a computer within the home network? If so, how much data can be gathered (web history, key logs, passwords etc) ? Secondly, how can she protect herself from being spied on? Is it possible to encrypt all data leaving a computer/ipad before it hits the router? She is not particularly computer savvy. I am a bit more advanced user than her but networking technologies aren't in my skill sets. [more inside]
I'm visiting Chicago for a day. Of course the first thing I did was leave my wallet in the cab I rode in on. It was some independent guy not an agency so I can't call them. I do have a charge on my debit card (still in my pocket thankfully) which was made using a Square reader. That also says the guy's name. Can I track him down this way? [more inside]
My girlfriend and I are going to LA for Thanksgiving week and since we're not going down to join in any particular gathering, I wanted to query the hivemind for good things to do on Thanksgiving day. Are there any cool restaurants or events we should be booking now? [more inside]
I delayed disconnecting my outdoor garden hose from the outside spigot before the freezer that hit us today. I went to disconnect it, and I have found that the connection is very hard (couldn't do it with gloves hand) to turn, and I guess there was some water in the hose, so it feels like solid ice inside of it for at least about a foot out. I don't know anything about any interior shutoff for the spigot or anything like that. Should I attempt to thaw the outside connection and disconnect the hose, or will that cause more potential damage? I was thinking warm water or a hair dryer and pliers. Thank you for any advice!
What's the difference between the various Nespresso machines? [more inside]
I'm trying to coordinate an "on-site playgroup" for 3 hours a day (9am-12pm), five days a week for 5-6 of our local kiddos (2 years old) beginning in September 2015. The idea is that we could hire a new early education grad to come to an apartment to lead organized activities with our children with the assistance of a helper, probably our current nanny. [more inside]
What can I use to solve my terribly dry hand problem? I would prefer natural solutions, like oils (but coconut oil isn't working, see below the fold). I would accept unscented creams that I can buy at a drug store. I would rather not spend $45 per ounce of some lady cream at sephora. (yes, diet, water, sleep, humidifier. I'm on those things.) thanks! [more inside]
I am trying to remember the name of a film that I saw. It is Australian, made in the late 80s or early 90s, and is about the neighbour and the nurse trying to get an elderly man's family to help with his declining health. My Google- and imdb-fu are not worthy. [more inside]
Full eligibility for social security and Medicare requires a minimum 40 quarters of contributions. How worried should I be that this goalpost might be moved in the next decade or two (i.e. that more than 40 quarters might eventually be required)? I realize these programs are periodically threatened with reform, but is this particular threshold one of the facets challenged by reformers?
My friend could really benefit from a service dog. Unfortunately the waitinglist in Ontario is around two years long. She doesn't need a full-service service dog, i.e. she doesn't need a fully trained seeing eye dog. Is there a breed and training school that would best help her? [more inside]
I'm looking for stories (books, nonfiction but maybe fiction) of what you could perhaps call legal noir. Stories that have some of the trappings of noir (private eyes, plainclothes cops, grifters and crime bosses, you know the deal) but are more in the vein of legal cases rather than bodies and gunshots. Conspiracies a plus. Think in tone perhaps the movie Chinatown or the Great American Streetcar scandal.
During the Holidays, I like to order chocolate, and the choices are endless, so I need recommendations. I've read some of the earlier threads, but I'd like to narrow the field and ask for more specific suggestions. First, I'd like to avoid nuts and initially focus on chocolates that have marshmallow centers. Second, I'd prefer companies that are located in the US in order to keep shipping cost to a somewhat sane level. Third, though not necessary, companies that offer print catalogs would also top my list. [more inside]
Can I bake my muffins using the liners that were between the foil cups? [more inside]
[Asking for a friend] I'd like a list of common nouns associated with a range of subject areas and I'm not sure if some thing already exists . [more inside]
Trying to identify the dark, sweet hard cider we had with dinner. Bar led us down the wrong path. [more inside]
I am looking for some current articles (blog posts are fine) that discuss the 'science' of fundraising emails. Most people are aware of the Business Week article about the science behind the Obama campaign fundraising emails -- I'm basically looking for more material that is in the same vein -- not just someone's opinion, but rather "Our organization tested A, B, and C and here are the results."
What are our options for ceiling insulation for a ceiling that we can't drywall and paint? [more inside]
I want to map (or model, or some other word, not really sure what to call this) a whole lot of things that all pertain to a broad topic. My hope is to visually represent a lot of things, such as relationships, goals, tactics, gaps/needs, strengths, etc. Is there any type of software that does this sort of thing? [more inside]
I had phone and in-person interviews for a new job last week that went extremely well. I think odds are very good I might be hired, but I need a strategy for negotiating a salary! [more inside]
I have, for the past several years, worked as a journalist in a fairly niche area. I do not want to do this anymore - but I do want to put my skills to good use, and make a decent living. How do I do this? What now? [more inside]
We've have arranged a somewhat spur of the moment trip to B.C. at Christmas. The first leg will be Salt Spring Island, my mother is flying into Vancouver, we are are picking her up from there. Mostly, I think we will be staying at the place we have rented, which is 30 mins. out of Ganges in a more remote place, my mother is quite elderly, and will be content to look out at the ocean views and watch the deer while we cook Christmas meals. [more inside]
I need a chai concentrate that has the black tea and spices without sugar or artificial sweeteners. Liquid or powdered form is fine. Just something I can mix in, instead of worrying about brewing. All the 'sugar free' ones have not so pleasant ingredients such as splenda. If there is one with stevia, I wouldn't mind that. Extra points if it is 'spicy.' Thanks!
I get nervous when speaking to Important Businesspeople, specifically, VPs and C-levels and the higher levels of middle management. How can I avoid this? [more inside]
Very vaguely remembered. UK paperback. Probably in the early 1970's London city businessman, company director living in a penthouse or private office apartment has a chinese mistress. For some reason he ends up digging a long ditch out in the country and this becomes a self realization. Very vague I know.
What success (or failure) have you had with any kind of a software architecture vetting process? [more inside]
I've got numerous video files on a network drive in FLV format that I would like to change to MP4, hopefully with free software. [more inside]
I love spices. I live next to one of the best international grocery stores around. I sometimes get through a crappy day by promising myself I'll buy a bag of star anise (or whatever) when I get home. But the kitchen cabinet's getting bulgy and I don't want anything to go to waste or get stale. Spicy MeFites, help me use this stuff up! [more inside]
Can I jam an iphone in my tight side jeans pocket, with a bunch of other crap, sit down, etc., and not have it be destroyed? [more inside]
Employee H was incommunicado over the weekend, having sold all her belongings and skipped town, leaving me with a minor mess to handle. She left her work phone and company keys on her desk for me to find today, and planned on giving me no notice, or anything. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: how does one find an entry-level job as a software engineer--in supposedly the "best" market in the US, the Bay Area--without prior internship experience? [more inside]
I'm very new to crafting and DIY, and am getting overwhelmed by the amount of material online about such things. I could really use some help identifying blogs or other resources/keywords to help refine my searching; so far I'm finding lots of stuff but not much that fits my criteria. [more inside]
It looks like I'll be discharged from my week-long stay in the hospital tomorrow. (Fingers crossed, knock on wood.) I've been treated for double pneumonia, chronic migraine, trigeminal neuralgia breakthrough pain, and severe constipation. This is the longest I've ever been hospitalized. I'm weak as a day old kitten. Still having pain from the migraine and TN. Still having difficulty pooping. Still short of breath. But they say I'm better enough to go home. Give me your best hacks, skills, and advice for transitioning home and having an easy recovery. [more inside]
Safari quits during sleep! [more inside]
I'm writing directions and want to translate them into Latin. The directions are: Straight 25 (meaning "walk straight forward for 25 paces") Right 25 (meaning "turn right, then walk 25 paces") Left 25 (meaning "turn left, then walk 25 paces") So the directions are very abbreviated. Would I say something like: Protenus 25 Dextra 25 Sinister 25?
Help me create a mix CD for my wife that celebrates womanhood. [more inside]
What's the job market like for software engineers in NYC? [more inside]
My interview to offer (or even second interview) success is abysmal. (I think?) What can I do before an upcoming interview? [more inside]
I need some suggestions for videos a mix of adults and preschoolers would enjoy. The absolute gold standard is The Muppet Show, which is totally awesome and had something for everyone, but we've watched it all. What else is like it?
First world problems: I have a mid-line Mac Pro with maxed GPUs, 32GB RAM, and the 512GB drive; What are some games I can go nuts with? Difficulty level: absolutely no ongoing expenses. [more inside]
Looking for a place where I can donate a wedding dress in NYC. Worn once (natch), was cleaned after use and has been safely kept in plastic ever since. Designer is Alvina Valenta. Size is probably a 10, 12, or 14. Also has a veil. Purchased at Kleinfeld's; total cost was probably around $3,000. Only issue is that it is from 2006 (sites like Bridal Garden say they'll only accept dresses bought in last 5 years). However, style is very classic (dress is off-white).
This week's temperatures being consistently in the single digits and below zero has made me realize that I need some snow boots. I've had my eye on the Sorel Tivoli High II's but after reading some reviews, it sounds like the quality has declined in recent years. Can you give me info on Sorel's quality of late, or alternatively, recommend some good boots? Snowflakes (heh) within! [more inside]
I'm looking for resources that will give a layperson like me an interesting introduction into astrophysics, specifically how distant celestial bodies interact over vast periods of time. [more inside]
So I finally got around to watching Bee and Puppycat (previously on Metafilter) and there is NOT ENOUGH for me! What other media would you recommend that hits that spot? [more inside]
Let's say I wanted to see the history of the angel Uriel. Or Zoroaster. Or Astaroth. Or one of the many demon-like figures in Japanese folklore. Is there such a comprehensive work of mythological beings? Something with facts like the first historical mention of the figure, various physical descriptions throughout time with context, their backstory(ies), etc? [more inside]
So recently I was driving thru PA and a slushy rain started. Temps were in the 40s (F) and no one suspected slipperiness. Myself (and several others along that stretch) slid off the road. "Failure to drive within a single lane and or movement from lane was not made safely." [more inside]
I'm looking for television shows that have plots that span long periods of time. Boardwalk Empire comes to mind. So does The Borgias. [more inside]
Say I bought some fancy electronic gadget on Amazon. I took off all the fancy protective packaging, unwrapped the cables, etc. Then after using it for an hour or two, I decided it was actually a piece of junk they never should have released, and I returned it for the cost of shipping. It's virtually new, but not in factory condition. What happens to that item now?
My area just began requiring the use of a hands free device while driving. I don't talk and drive very often, but am occasionally required to for work. I've never used a handsfree device before, so I'm not super sure what to even look for. Any suggestions? Bonus points if it's available on Amazon. Extra details that may or may not matter: I have an iphone 5c, and whatever I get will need to go on my left ear. I live in an area where it's often below freezing,and my car radio is not bluetooth enabled. Thanks!
Can't seem to get the podcasts that I want onto my new iPhone. [more inside]
Currently watching The Spoils of Babylon and really digging how it's basically cut from the same deadpan absurdist cloth as Police Squad — where can I find more like this?
Any known bugs or work arounds with Acrobat XI's accessibility tagging? I'm getting inconsistent results. [more inside]
I like some classical music, and I love orchestras, but to my ears the emotional palette of a lot of classical veers towards the 'twee' end of the scale. Can people recommend me some non-twee pieces to listen to? [more inside]
Young couple living out their dream came to an abrupt halt in October. He was diagnosed with a particularly aggressive form of melanoma. They had not signed up for Affordable health care insurance, since they were planning on traveling and working around the country. And hey, they are young and healthy, right?? [more inside]
I consider myself a people person. I like to get to know other people of all walks of life. I make an effort to keep in touch with them, remember things that are going on in their life, and see them in person when I can. But it seems like most people don't do the same for me. How do I process these feelings and maintain realistic expectations of relationships that don't leave me hurt? [more inside]
I really love these boots, but they're a bit more than I can or want to afford to spend on them right now. Anyone have suggestions for similar style boots that aren't quite so hard on the wallet? Some loss in quality/longevity is ok, as I won't be actually working in an iron mine with them.
I was in a Xian, China picture shop recently and saw this painting. I would like to know if there is a Chinese fable or fairy tale related to this picture. Pray tell. And I would like to know what the inscription say? I know Narcissus was not born Chinese. Thanks in advance. Cheers.
Our child recently is having a very hard time relating to other kids, which comes out in inappropriate and sometimes aggressive ways. [more inside]
If I give my smart phone to my spouse, and he inserts his compatible SIM card, will the apps I have on it still be there when he inserts his SIM card? [more inside]
Why would a Mac Mini hooked up to a TV suddenly stop working? [more inside]
I understand that women's hormones get wonky after giving birth - some go up, some go down - and the effects are everything from gonzo baby love to night sweats to psychosis. But is there any information on how the hormones specifically change over time, over the day or even how they might vary between women? [more inside]
The title pretty much says it all. The last few litter box scoops we've bought have broken, which is getting a bit frustrating. Can you recommend any to us that can last? [more inside]
Do you have anything on your desk that is a fun distraction? [more inside]
Is there a Blu-ray player with HBO Go and WWE Network? [more inside]
I noticed that a lot of famous web development companies and professionals have listed several Drupal and Wordpress-based websites as part of their online portfolios. If a web developer set up a client's website using an already existing theme on one of these CMSs, does it still count as a portfolio piece?
Hello--I see that the new game Civilization: Beyond Earth is available as both a DVD-ROM or PC Download. They're virtually the same price (just under $50). I'm wondering why this is--I would think that the download would be slightly cheaper since there is no physical item to ship.
I am struggling mightily to find the internet radio station and/or streaming music service that works for me. Am I just being too picky? Musical snowflakes inside. [more inside]
A family member lost her sense of smell in an accident and we would like to hold a little "memorial ceremony" to help her process it. Can you think of any songs, poems, quotations, readings, symbolic activities we could use? Serious and humorous suggestions are fine.
I've been making music with FL Studio since it was still FruityLoops. I have a progressive physical disability that now limits my mobility severely enough that FL Studio's interface is unfeasible: I can barely use my right mouse button, and moving my mouse cursor frequently from one side of the screen to the other is time-consuming. I can still use an on-screen keyboard. [more inside]
Is this bad? [more inside]
The Mrs and I long for the give and bounce of the cheap mattress she had in college. But shopping around it seems like none of the new mattresses have that great springy coil bounce we enjoyed so much. What are we missing here? Is there something specific to ask for? Do I need to go super-cheap off-brand to get what we're looking for? [more inside]
I rarely check Google Location but it's always fascinating when I do. I just did a bit of travelling around Florida and am perplexed by the readings. Suddenly I appear to leap from the Florida Keys to California and back again in the space of a couple of hours. Obviously I didn't do this. My phone wasn't on the whole time - it died around when I got 'back' to the Everglades. I've put up a screengrab of this time-bending excursion - any insights as to how this happened are most welcome.
If I recall correctly, the elves in Lord of the Rings are known for, generally, only caring about elvish things. Does anyone have a citation for where Tolkein says that? (Or failing that, where it says that in the movies?)
I've just volunteered with a prison ministry in Tulsa, OK devoted to criminal justice reform, helping families of inmates, providing services to prisoners, etc. I'm looking for transition resources & am working on identifying the needs of transitioning prisoners. [more inside]
I've been with my girlfriend for 5+ years, and lived together for 4. We've moved around the country together, adopted a pet together, and spent a lot of time thinking about/planning our next move together (we've moved around a lot, most recently so she could go to school). Lately, though, I've had significant, plaguing doubts about whether we should be together, and I'm having trouble parsing what's really going on. [more inside]
I have a barely used twitter account. I looked at my profile for the first time this year and noticed I was following almost two thousand extra people. I changed my password (I used a password there I don't use elsewhere). As far as Spybot and Avast can tell me, I haven't gotten any unwelcome visitors. I'm more curious than worried, honestly. Was my twitter account hacked or is it possible to make a user follow someone without hacking into their account? Also, do I have to manually unfollow everyone or is there a quicker way to do it?
How, in a multi-apartment setup, do I determine what gas-run appliances are serviced/connected to which apartment? I strongly suspect I am paying for appliances I am not responsible for, but I need to be able to prove it to my landlords or gas company. [more inside]
I have a Golf TDI that I've been fueling just fine for three years. Today, I could not fill it up; diesel kept splashing back as soon as I'd start fueling and the pump would stop. I got about three gallons in by pumping extremely slowly, but that's it. I tried at a pump with the large-size truck nozzle and one with a normal car nozzle. I have an appointment to have it looked at, but I'm not sure what the ideal fix is... [more inside]
A friend of mine has been paying Ashford for over a year. I wan to hope for the best for her... [more inside]
After holding out lo, these many years, it seems I need to get a cell phone. Browsing AskMe & the internet, it seems the best, least contracty option is 7-11's Speak Out program. But maybe there's a better option of which I am not aware, and maybe you can help! [more inside]
I am looking for a complete list (online) of (a) English words of Arabic origins as well as (b) English words that are specifically about Arabic things. Miscellaneous words/lists are welcome too. [more inside]
I'm looking for fun, easy, casual games I can play on my Mac. I've read this question, and while my requirements are similar, I really just want to play on my laptop not my phone. [more inside]
I suffer from severe anxiety and PTSD, and I have been on benzos for 10 years now (first Xanax and then clonazepam). My insurance limits me to going to the county mental health center, and my psychiatrist there sent down a mandate that I have to stop the clonazepam. I'm frustrated, especially since I was not offered anything different for anxiety. I am mostly upset about poor communication and it’s not so much that I am questioning her judgment from a medical perspective. I am not seeking advice about managing anxiety; I want advice about self-advocacy. [more inside]
I'm looking for a UK-oriented fungus identification online group or guide or website or book or Android app. Recommendations based on personal experience are most welcome. Poking around online has led me to a few places, like Mycokey, but either the varieties aren't listed or I'm just rubbish at describing what I've found. [more inside]
What is the best restaurant in Manhattan that my dad can wear jeans to? [more inside]
My long-term boyfriend is moving to the US for his PhD-degree in September 2015 and plans on getting a J-1 visa. I would like to join him on a J-2, but we are not married yet. Is it possible for him to apply for a visa this winter, then we get married in the spring/early summer, and then I can apply for a J-2 visa at that time? [more inside]
I scored some nifty retro 60's or 70's kitchen cabinets and have been trying to find similar handles for my over sink dish drainer cabinet doors. [more inside]
I used to like people, but now I don't. I fear I'm creating an irreversibly solitary life for myself. I think the problem must be me, but I'm not sure what the cure is. Looking for advice. [more inside]
I'd like to read stories in English with my daughter. [more inside]
I'm in London and would like my father, who lives in the U.S., to see the film A Room and a Half. As far as I can determine, A Room and a Half has never been released on DVD in the U.S. The only workaround I've thought of has been to send him the British DVD and a multi-region player, but is there a more elegant solution? [more inside]
I'm traveling from the UK to the US in 2 days, and need a cell phone with a US number for roughly a week. I have an unlocked GSM smartphone with dual SIM slots. Any options to get a short-term US SIM card quickly (and, ideally, cheaply!)? [more inside]
I have romantic feelings for a coworker. I would prefer not to. Help! (You know there'll be snowflakes.) [more inside]
To start with, I know that this is something that will need to be discussed with a lawyer when the time is right and it will vary according to our local laws. But this is a general question, I'm looking for general information and answers (not legal advice!) about what sort of things may be necessary in the future to protect my husband. [more inside]
I went in to get a fitting for a crown today on a tooth that had a root canal 2 weeks ago and the doctor decided to do a filling instead of a crown. He said he would watch it for a year and determine if I would eventually need the crown. I didn't complain too much because well the out of pocket for the day was supposed to be $500 today and $500 at the time of the final crowning but, the filling only cost $150. I'll have dental insurance through work starting January 1st so either way I'll probably end up ahead in the financial department. Is this something dentists usually do? Is there anything I can do to prevent it from needing a crown in the future? Should I be extra paranoid about the tooth/
I'm halfway through my sophomore year of college and I feel as though I've binge-watched every good TV show in existence. Surely this can't be true, though. This is why I need your help! [more inside]
Should I and Mr. Darling get on a smart phone plan together? [more inside]
I have a 10 hour stop at Changi airport, Singapore. What do I do with that time? [more inside]
Google Authenticator. I see why it's useful where you're logging into a server that keeps some secrets. But why would it be useful to guard secrets that are stored on your own computer? [more inside]
Ok. So I'm a 40 year old woman and use basic Nivea moisturiser every day but have some serious wrinkles around my eyes and forehead that I'd like to minimise or at least stop them getting worse. I have sensitive skin so I need to be careful with creams. I know nothing at all about wrinkle creams and serums so I could do with some advise please! I am looking for the best available product in the cheap to mid range end of the price spectrum. I'm sure there are some that do a good job without having to remortgage the house! I'm in Australia, so would need to be able to buy any recommended product here. Thanks!
I have been unsuccessfully searching for the perfect new bed and just saw a super good one but... on a mattress website. How can I find the bed that the mattress is on? Hope me!
I am looking for suggested recordings of Chinese traditional music and some help in how to contextualize and understand what I am listening to. [more inside]
Can I search for two separate stores (or whatever) on (New) Google Maps to find not only which location of each is closest to me, but also where the two stores are closest to each other? [more inside]
I asked question on here last week, and I ended up buying a 1995 ford Ranger, but it's missing a stereo ( I guess it was stolen? ) I don't need anything fancy, just something I can put my cassette adapter into (or blue tooth? ) to play my NPR Podcasts while driving. I can get used, ebay, junk yard or whatever, but I'm overwhelmed by my options. Should I get a factory stock 95 ford ranger stereo used? How will other ones fit? (they won't fit right?) Can I install this myself? All the cables still seem to be in tact (I can supply a picture if needed. I just want to do this as inexpensively and hassle free as possible. THanks.
I have started biking to work with the goal of getting into better shape, and I think I want to upgrade my (old, crappy, but still functional) bike. Let's talk options! [more inside]
A recurring situation in my life: Meet a great girl, start sexy time, feel erect from kissing and fondling (good!), the girl goes down on me and then I completely lose my erection (bad). I cannot remember a time in my life that I've enjoyed oral sex. Is there something wrong with me? [more inside]
I sold my car to a Nissan dealership last Monday, November 10 for $22,000. At the time I owed $15,276.47 to Nissan Finance. I checked my account there today and now I owe $15,284.80, so the loan is still not paid off and it's still accumulating interest. Also, it's been five days and I haven't gotten a check for the $6,723.53 remaining after the loan payoff. [more inside]
How does a happily married couple with no children and tenuous family ties enjoy the holidays? My husband and I have been married for 10 years, and we are happy with each other. It's everyone else we struggle with. [more inside]
Anywhere from Dixieland to Penguin Café Orchestra, via Django Reinhardt and something Latin, what musicians/tracks/albums can you suggest for a 4-hour playlist to make a happy, potentially boppable score to a cocktail party? Would be nice to divide it into intro, main and outro parts - but all suggestions are welcome for a fun, refined, vocal-less (or at least mainly so), non-pop soundtrack to a charming, light-hearted evening. (Bonus points if sourceable via Rdio.) Thanks!
I'm in the pool six-seven days a week for various aerobics, pilates, and zumba classes. As my exertion increases, my old aqua socks are starting to fall off during class. Do you have recommendations for laced wide-foot water shoes? [more inside]
I've been craving a certain feeling, which I can only describe as a liberal arts college town coffee shop intellectual artist vibe. I'm looking for media that will let me immerse myself in it. Details inside. [more inside]
New to the gaming world and my kids want an Xbox. Xbox 360 will be available for $100 and the Xbox One will be available for around $300. Since we have no game library, is it worth the extra money for the latest console?
Next year she's off to college, but until then, help me fill the time with great books we can share. [more inside]
I commute 2 hours round trip, 4 days a week. Sometimes I listen to music, but mostly I like to listen to audiobooks. I'm just about out of ideas. What are some great, really long audiobooks or podcasts I might like? I'm into horror that makes me think, character-driven sci-fi, fantasy, paranormal thrillers (NOT of the vampire romance genre), paleo-lifestyle, and cool/funny non-fiction. [more inside]
See this New Yorker article. When I read it, the top New Yorker menu bar is hovering over the top of the page, so when I use the space bar to page down the bar blocks a part of the text. Is there some secret way to page down so that part of the text isn't hidden (I'm on a Macbook), or some way to make this type of menu bar go away? It's not just the New Yorker website--I see these many places.
So, a while ago, Anne Hathaway rapped on Conan. She said that it is "in the style of Lil' Wayne". Not knowing anything about Lil' Wayne, is there a particular song of his that sounds like hers? I google some of his songs, but, again, not knowing anything about him, I don't know if she's referring to a particular song. The few that I listened to briefly didn't really bear much resemblance. Thanks for helping me answer this critical question!
What are the current technologies for embedding interactive video games that accept mouse clicks and keystrokes as input for event-driven loops, inside a web browser page? I DON'T mean embedding Flash. [more inside]
I just got hired at UPS as a package handler. I'm wondering what the training is like, ie is there classroom time, will I need to bring a notebook, how long it goes on for, when we actually get to start working, etc.
I am remarkably conflicted on whether to buy a plane ticket to attend a family friend's funeral tomorrow. Obviously I have to make this decision soon but I'm really struggling. [more inside]
There are some things that bother me about my host family and living conditions. I have started looking for a new job already (that may require me to take a day off for an interview) and would like to give proper notice without making things unbearable for everyone involved. Help, please? [more inside]
This young gentleman will be joining my family of two other cats later today. I'm at a loss for names. [more inside]
Thanks to MeFi, I recently read Benjamin Rosenbaum's short story "Feature Development for Social Networking" - please recommend me some other high quality horror / supernatural fiction in which the Web plays a central role.
My mother is visiting Berkeley and would like to shop for clothing. She is 80 and her taste runs to Koret and Coldwater Creek but both of those have become online only. Can you recommend a brick and mortar clothing store where she might enjoy shopping for herself? She would be interested in a chain store or an interesting boutique.
We would like to have dim sum for Thanksgiving dinner. There will be 4-8 of us. What are your favorite dim sum places in the city? Thank you! [more inside]
I got a lot of great ideas after this question about things to teach my high school English class, but I need more book recs. MeFis are a literate bunch, but I have incredibly specific parameters from which I can work. [more inside]
I love Guitar Toolkit on my iPhone. Specifically, the scale and chord features. I want the same functionality on my desktop monitor so I can see more than 5 frets at a time. [more inside]
My partner and I are going on a 10-day cruise to the Caribbean with another couple, and we plan to spend a lot of time lounging outdoors on the pool deck playing board games. We're trying to find games without cards or crucial pieces that will blow away when the wind picks up. Want to know about our preferences? Read further! [more inside]
My friend showed up to my apartment around 2:30am this morning and admitted to my girlfriend and I that he started using meth for the first time on Thursday. I think he smoked at least two or three times between Thursday and coming to our place. He is now on our couch trying to sleep. We have no idea what to do. We are located in Portland, OR. [more inside]
My iPad insists that I'm using almost all of my available hard drive space. But I have no idea how, and the app-by-app breakdown purporting to show what's eating the storage doesn't add up to anything close to the 22+ GB it claims I'm using. Here's a screenshot. (Scrolling down shows only a couple more apps using very small amounts of storage.) What could be going on here? How can I figure out what's eating my hard drive space? I have no music or video on the device as far as I can tell.
I'm a university graduate with entirely separate vocational training in an industry that always interested me. I've since worked an entry-level position in said industry but I've discovered that the employers and employees alike are similar culturally in a way that I am not. If I were to draw a Venn diagram of my interests and theirs, it would look like this: O O. I can't change everyone, so do I change myself or my job? [more inside]
I can't find work in my field and am increasingly desperate. I need to find some kind of path to employment and have been looking at my options in my local community college. Can you all help me make sense of IT as a career option? [more inside]
I feel strong negative feelings about my girlfriend's sexual past. These feelings are making me hate myself, and pull away emotionally from the relationship. More inside [more inside]
Something that happened many years ago in my community is coming back to the fore in the form of multiple lawsuits. Many people were hurt and it turns out that a lot of people connected to my family were involved in one way or the other, on both sides: perpetrator and victim. There was a major cover-up operation back when it all went down and most of these people, perp and victim included, have moved on, in a way, from that time. I realize that I am uniquely suited to write this story , but I don't know how to go about getting people to talk to me, and talk to me on the record. [more inside]
I'll keep this one uber-short: I'm 25 years old, and 1.5 years out of college. I finished with a transcript and GPA not reflective of my abilities because I was, and still am, suffering from an anhedonic depression and what could possibly be a shade of BPD. I know I need structure and routine if I'm ever to get out of this rut. I've done a course in medical coding and found it wasn't for me. I want to go back and continue down the same path that lit a fire in my belly coming out of high school: obtaining a professional degree in either clinical psychology or neuroscience and making a concrete difference in people's lives. [more inside]
I was working on a Word 97 doc in OpenOffice Writer, and apparently I somehow deleted a huge section and then clicked "save". As soon as I realized the mistake I started frantically clicking "undo," but apparently this mistake goes back farther than OO will let me undo. It seems like there must be some way to access my previous saved versions of this file, but I'm having zero luck. Can you really save a file wrong just ONCE and lose your work for good? [more inside]
Today at work, I saw a girl with the cutest shoes. I am absolutely kicking myself for not asking her where she got them! Can you help me find them somewhere on the internet? [more inside]
My husband owns one small rental house. He had a tenant for several years (who has recently moved). Now that we are screening for new tenants we realize that we must educate ourselves anew about laws pertaining to service animals. We are completely on board about doing things lawfully, but it hasn't been easy to determine what we can and can't do. There seem to be tons of gray areas. [more inside]
I am looking for a reading lamp which closely imitates the light of a single candle. [more inside]
English does not have words for certain kinds of specific relationships, but other languages do. I am interested in learning examples of some of these words. [more inside]
Good places to work in Astoria/Long Island City for a few hours at a time on Sundays? [more inside]
I like to wear long skirts, and I like to ride my bike. Unfortunately, these two activities are appear to be incompatible -- is there a suitable chain guard I can install on my bike? [more inside]
Conan! What pencil eraser is best in life? [more inside]
I have chronic, often severe stomach pain and related problems that have gotten worse over the past few years. I’m unsure how to navigate these issues at work as it seems the rules have changed or aren't really clear? [more inside]
Ambroxol is an over-the-counter medicine used to thin mucus secretions, similar to the commonly sold guaifenesin. I've been able to buy it in Europe (usually under the brand name Mucosolvan) for a long time now. They even make a kids' formula! But why isn't it sold in the US? [more inside]
I love breakfast tacos! I eat them a lot. If I eat the exact same combination of ingredients every time it gets boring; thankfully there are endless combinations. Help me think of every ingredient that would be tasty in a breakfast taco. [more inside]
The fan in one of our bathrooms has been working intermittently since I cleaned it (more inside)--most recently, it worked for a few weeks, but is having trouble again. It will start if I "jump start" it by starting it spinning, and then seems to run fine. Not sure what to do, but due to the fan's slightly odd size, I don't want to replace it (i.e., cut up my ceiling) if possible. [more inside]
I just received an email from the company through whom I contract, claiming that they had paid me twice for a recent week. Obviously they now want that money back; however, they are asking for the full amount I was paid, NOT the amount I received after taxes. I am assuming I am on the hook for the whole [cursing] thing, but can someone tell me how this works? [more inside]
We just bought somevintage burled wood dressers, campaign style. Having trouble knowing what to buy for night stand for the same room. We don't want matchy matchy 1960's revival room but something modern/contemporary. [more inside]
What are the different types of innovation? [more inside]
What do horror, Louis Theroux "Weird Weekend", thrillers, the show catfish, and crime fiction have in common? That's right, stocking stuffers for Mr Moonlight. [more inside]
Is there any way to ensure that the logo image in an email signature will remain visible even after several replies and forwards? [more inside]
2 adults, 3 girl kids (2,4,6) want to venture to Disneyland for Christmas, because: 1. Frozen 2. No family nearby to spend the holidays with 3. One kid turns 6 on Christmas eve 4. Frozen Please help me plan the perfect trip on a budget. [more inside]
I have a pretty simple but repetitive task: From a starting spreadsheet, I have to input information from each row into a web form. The web form generates .pdf files, which are downloaded and need to be renamed based on data from the spreadsheet. What software can I use for a task like this? What approaches can I take for automating this and similar tasks in the future? [more inside]
Someone recently told me that Cormac McCarthy's All the Pretty Horses and Tony Hillerman's Navajo Tribal Police mystery novels evoked a significantly New Mexico/Southwestern feeling to the point that these books helped them stave off homesickness when they were living elsewhere. What other novels and authors capture and portray a sense of place that makes you feel like you're back in a place that you remember? I know some authors are known for writing about certain settings, but which works really capture the place as felt by someone who lives or lived there?
Putting two spaces after a period/?! is out of favor now, and apparently has been for a while depending on who you ask. How did you break yourself of this habit? Even typing this I was thinking about it and still had to go back and correct each one! [more inside]
I recently binged season 5 of Go Girls, and it occurred to me that there's a lot of TV I'm missing out on, simply because many countries don't export their pop culture to the extent that the UK and and the US do. [more inside]
How does VPN work? How well does VPN protect me? Should I get a paid VPN account? If so, from what provider? [more inside]
Due to a desire to curb my spending, I've been reading a lot more public library e-books lately, and so have discovered that I actually enjoy (some) romance novels. I am way into Courtney Milan's Brothers Sinister series--what other books might I like? [more inside]
My entire cosmology of music fell apart when I found out how much I love Taylor Swift. I grew up on cheesy 80's pop and still love it to this day. What music did I miss because I was haters gonna hating? Are there great songs by boy bands?
I spend soul shredding hours focused on things I lack, like good looks and social grace. I'm aware that my only real choice is to focus on the life I have and to live it with the traits I possess. I know that, but on some level I don't accept it. So how does one dispense with unnecessary suffering, accept what is, and carve out a decent life? I'm running out of time. Background below... [more inside]
What and why is the difference between a $5000 PBX system for our office and one costing $1600? We have been looking to replace our ancient PBX. We were quoted $5400 + $1700 in labor for a super slick fully featured system, The Univerge SV9100. This thing is cool and does everything. Office Depot however has this XBlue system at a significantly lower price, $1400. [more inside]
A UK colleague, who has worked for about a decade at various management and director levels in the UK academic sector (Education technology projects and services) is starting to consider moving abroad, but continuing the same line of work. His contact network in the education/academic sector outside of the UK is weak, and he doesn't know where to start looking online for positions in USA or Canadian Universities, Colleges, and Education Technology services and businesses that serve academia. Which are the good websites, and online listings, for these kinds of positions?
My daughter won some scholarship money for a video she did for Neel Kashkari (California candidate for governor). She now needs to change the disbursement, but emails are going unanswered. Any ideas on how to get ahold of someone who can help? What happens after a failed campaign like this? Is there some sort of post-election team in place or does the entire organization just evaporate?
Looking for more songs like these: * Godsmack - I stand alone * Drowning Pool - Bodies * Rage Against the Machine - Bullets on Parade * Powerman 5000 - When Worlds Collide * 1000 Homo DJs - Supernaut * Ministry - Stigmata Trying to build a nice pregame gym mix and these songs get me going.
I'd like to make homemade gluten-free bread in a bread maker. In your experience, is this possible?Is the bread tasty? [more inside]
I've been writing and recording radio dramas with some friends for the past year and it's been a terrific amount of fun. But I want to take them to the next level and I'm not sure how. [more inside]
For a coworker: I'm trying to track down a translated YA novel my co-worker remembered reading as a child in Russia. [more inside]
I have just started the second year of my PhD in History (fully funded), and I want to quit because I don't enjoy it and it is making me miserable. However, my supervisor feels I am responsible for finishing the project, or at the very least I should stay for another year and publish two more articles. I don't think I have any legal obligations to stay / generate any more output, but do I have a moral obligation? [more inside]
I have been invited to dinner at the home of Russian emigre's who are both physicists. I work administratively at a medical school. The context of the dinner is that the couple are clients of my partner, who is an artist. Other than Putin jokes, or asking them to explain string theory, does anybody have any suggestions for conversation starters that won't make me seem like I failed my "physics for poets" class in undergrad? [more inside]
At my company, I have a Roth 401(k) (post-tax dollars). The plan also allows "after-tax" contributions as well. (ie beyond the 401(k) limits). What's the name for those after-tax contributions, or what are they classified as, especially when rolling over or taking disbursements ? [more inside]
In an Atlas Obscura article titled The Strange Specimens of a Mysterious Thai Apothecary (caution: weird dead things in jars) there's this one particular image of what appears to be a modified ram's skull. I want to know more about it. [more inside]
I need a messenger bag that's, 1. Capable of withstanding a nuclear blast, aaaaand, 2. Somewhat feminine (in a "spunky pigtailed tomboy" way, not an "appletinis and selfies with the besties" way). Despite being REALLY GOOD at Googling, I can't find one. Rugged Cordura snowflakes within! [more inside]
I just moved into a small house and bought a frontloading washer and dryer. However when they came to install it, the appliances didn't fit. Now I am planning on buying a compact washer and dryer. However, in the past I have had problems with "mini" versions of appliances. Sometimes they are fine, but sometimes not only are they smaller, they also just simply work badly (don't clean, don't mix, don't heat etc. etc.)
Earlier this year I was diagnosed with meralgia paresthetica in my left leg. I am currently having a flare-up. Please give me your experiences, tell me what causes your flare-ups, tell me what helps you. [more inside]
Early risers, how do you make getting up early a regular habit? How do you overcome grogginess and laziness? How do you resist the temptation of sleeping late the night before? How do you prevent yourself from hitting the snooze button on your alarm clock? I would ideally like to start my day at 5 am every morning. But its hard! I'd appreciate any suggestions and opinions. Thanks!!
I don't really know how to phrase the question, but I'm trying to remember or find examples of names of characters who were either complete fabrications or were presented under the guise of another identity all along (in fiction). Also does this trope have a name? [more inside]
I'm looking for more information on someone I used to know and all I have to go on is their first name, the street they lived on when I knew them, an age range, and... that's about it. Oh and, this was 20+ years ago. Is this even possible? [more inside]
The infrequently mentioned counterpoint to the Dunning-Kruger effect is that people who are better than average at something underestimate their skills. Self-evaluation is hard. I know that I personally have a hefty dose of impostor syndrome and distorted thinking to add to that cognitive bias, but how do I adjust for this? [more inside]
I'm looking for movies scenes where protagonists don't understand each other, because of a lot of ambient noise or because the protagonists have to speak very low …people saying "what?", shouting, making weird faces, having a conversation based on a misunderstanding, etc. I'm looking for examples that happen face to face but also by telephone. Thank you in advance!
My wife was raped (drugged by a "friend", she doesn't remember the event). I need some help finding (online, books, etc) resources for comfort and perspective for myself. [more inside]
I'm buying a new Windows laptop computer after years of using a Mac desktop and enough has changed that I have no idea what to look for these days. I'd really like to run Dragon Age Inquisition on it (here's the specs for that) and I'd really like to buy it from someone reliable. [more inside]
I am contemplating replacing my flip-phone with a phablet, or even a 10-inch tablet. Fashion dorkiness aside, is this a viable phone for me? [more inside]
Help me find a pair of women's brogues or oxfords in a size 11. [more inside]
So I think I'm going about my business normally, trying to do the best I can...then I find out I am offending people or pissing people off and I just don't get it, it is like I said one thing and they heard a totally different thing with hidden meaning that I didn't intend at all. I am starting to find this pretty distressing and I am second guessing myself all the time. Other people must go through this too and if you have...maybe you can help me? [more inside]
My laptop hard drive broke. I have an idea of how to fix/replace it and recover the data but want to know if my plan makes sense. [more inside]
You know how on every single television show ever when someone is in the hospital, the nurse says they have to be wheeled out in a wheelchair upon discharge, even when they are perfectly capable of walking, because it's "hospital policy"? Is this a true thing that hospitals do? [more inside]
I think about this at least once a week as I drive myself to work. On my way in, I go up a hill and on my way home, I go down it. Am I using the same amount of gas as I would if my commute were flat both ways? [more inside]
I've seen the Food Justice Movement referred to a lot but I don't have a clear idea of what it means. I'm also wondering what opportunities are out there. [more inside]
I've been helping my mom and grandmother clean out my late great-aunt's apartment. She was a hoarder. One of the things I found today was a small bottle of Prohibition-era whiskey. [more inside]
Does anyone have tips on finding apartments beyond Padmapper? When is a good time to actually look/sign leases for apartments for next August? Apartments seem to go extremely fast here and I'm afraid I'm missing out on something by not signing a lease right now. Also, are there any neighborhoods you would recommend for a graduate student at the U? [more inside]
Going internet on this one, need house help: Problem, cold temps coming, exposed pipes with water in 'em, want to avoid freezing/cracking. [more inside]
When I turn my coffeemaker on, it acts like it's in the final stage of brewing (the loud gurgly part when all the steam comes out) the entire time. It results in painfully slow coffee brewing. Also, the end result is much less volumetrically than it should be -- I'll put 12 cups of water into the carafe, and get maybe 8 cups of coffee. What gives? [more inside]
I'm in the market to buy some tech that allows me to tweet and do other stuff at cafes and such, but what would be the best fit for me? [more inside]
Paroxetine has recently been FDA-approved for the treatment of hot flashes, but other SSRIs have been used for this purpose for years now. [more inside]
Hello. I'm having problems at the moment with feeling like I'm being microtargetted. After reading the November issue of Wired, it seems data brokers know everything about everybody. [more inside]
iTunes and iOS are fine for occasional use, but what is a good tool for organizing extracting and useful information; e.g. manual transcription, annotation, and tagging? [more inside]
I'm thinking of doing a blog of recipes found in very old public domain cookbooks. I will likely register a domain name. Can you help me come up with a good domain name/blog name? [more inside]
My father is aging, with heart problems and developing dementia. I am generally a conscientious person, but I'm staring down the necessity of supporting him like the barrel of a gun. Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
In the past year I've become very close with two people in my book club, let's call them A and B; the other two, C and D, are great, but have not shown capacity or interest in keeping in touch between monthly meetings. It's nearing Christmastime and I want to make gifts for A and B to express my affection and gratitude for their friendship. BUT I'm worried about it coming up later ("Oh, those ___ are so cute!" "Thanks, anonymous gave them to me!") and it resulting in hurt feelings. [more inside]
My nephew has had a shitty shitty year and I want to spoil him rotten for Christmas. I want to get him the awesomest of awesome presents. The sort of present that will use often & he can show off to all his friends and have them be jealous. Bonus points if that present is something he can't get in Australia but I can in the US. [more inside]
The Bavarian lodges. The Rothschilds. The Trilateral Commission. It's all so dated. Who are the new people behind the curtain running things? The gay mafia? Google? Some shadowy NSA subgroup? I'm trying to make a list.
At restaurants, tables often pedestal or trestle legs. At home, most dining tables have "stick legs" at the corners. Why? [more inside]
Please critique our itinerary, with special reference to public transport, music and baseball around Georgia and the Carolinas. [more inside]
I've been basically a lifelong atheist, but a small part of me is extremely tempted by some of the more comforting aspects of various religions (such as the idea of an afterlife). But the logical part of me just can't bring myself to seriously believe in things for which there is no evidence. I am interested in hearing stories of people who have gone from being firmly atheist to accepting religion later in life, and how they were able to do so without cognitive dissonance. [more inside]
One would think this exists somewhere, so maybe I just didn't do enough googling, but is there a way to search for podcasts or radio segments by topic? Say I want to find a podcast, talk radio segment or recorded lecture tagged with "Philae landing"...how would I go about doing that without googling a specific show like "Science Friday Philae landing"?
My hair is always a mess lately and I'm sick of it. I'm going to go to the salon soon but I'm running out of ideas for what to tell them to do with it so I thought maybe you might have some. [more inside]
My poor mom has always had sensitive skin but it has gotten exponentially worse - please help? We know YANHD [more inside]
About a year ago, my father was in an accident and suffered significant brain trauma. Since then, he has made great physical progress, but his mental progress seems stagnant. His memories are intact, thank god, but what he has trouble with is focusing/concentrating on things. I’m looking for suggestions on exercises he can do on a computer/iPad or in his regular life that can help with his healing and growth. I would also love to hear anecdotes from people who themselves have suffered significant brain trauma and what they have done to help themselves heal. [more inside]
Does this have potential to turn into a relationship? [more inside]
I’m ready to make the jump. If you have looked through my past posts, you can see that I have been throwing around the idea of moving for a long time. How does one go about doing that? [more inside]
I've realized I have a weakness for movies with "one man/woman (or at the most, a very small group) struggling against a Conspiracy That Goes All The Way To The Top" plots. From classics like The Parallax View to dreck like Extreme Measures, I'm a sucker for almost all of them. So what are your favourites in that genre that I might have missed?
There's a beautiful (late 90s, early 00s) metal song based around the Godfather theme. There are now hundreds on youtube. Can anyone help me find the one I'm looking for? [more inside]
Help me out, Hivemind. I'm looking for respectable, scholarly books, friendly to the layman, on the early beginnings of Christianity. More specifically, I'm interested in its first few centuries. I'm also hoping to attain a better understanding of Gnosticism and its place in Christianity's history. I am NOT looking for New Age-y neognostic inculcations.
I'm a super lightweight (even if I've eaten) who sometimes goes out drinking with new colleagues, in small groups, often as the only female in the group. I'm a happy melty drunk who gets dreamy and quiet rather than more social -- not the worst of all possibilities, but clearly not right for these important professional contexts. Any strategies for always being the non-drinker or less-than-one-drink-er in occasionally competitive and/or macho drinking cultures?
I'm looking for a really great garlic recipe to make for the next food day at work. [more inside]
I ordered a thing off of eBay, and there is a shipping problem. The seller wants me to solve the problem. What do I do? [more inside]
In a Swords and Sorcery middle grade children's book set in the medieval times I want to give a feeling of old English without the dense cryptic reality of old English. What makes for a good balance of thee and thous, doth and dosts? [more inside]
I am considering applying to an evening/weekend Masters in Public Administration program, but I’m not entirely sure if it’s going to help me. [more inside]
First, I am looking for suggestions of daytime activities on a Sunday afternoon (of a long weekend) in or near Burlington, Vermont. Second, I am looking for those activities to be friendly for an assorted cast of family and friends to do the day after a wedding. Both Vermont-specific and general-wedding-planning answers are welcome! [more inside]
Help me source specific packaging materials so I can reuse our Playmobil Advent Calendar. Bonus points if it's attractive and looks something like an Advent Calendar when all is said and done. [more inside]
A friend and I have been discussing creating a site wherein we interview people from various professions about how customers/clients can make their job easier, make their day a bit better, et cetera. We're in the process of seeking out folks with various jobs and we could use some advice about what kind of people we ought to seek out. [more inside]
There's a particular device or pattern or plot-type that I *think* might be an actual thing, but I'm not sure. It involves a character who *ends up* entangled in Deep Weirdness of some sort, after experiencing a series of seemingly mundane coincidences, but who never really becomes paranoid about the coincidences and only starts to believe Something Is Up when things get *really* weird. I'd love to read more stories about characters like this. [more inside]
It's ruining my social life, my self image, my body, my psyche, my job. [more inside]
What other media falls along the same lines as Gillian Flynn's Gone Girl and Taylor Swift's Blank Space? (more details with spoilers inside) [more inside]
This year for Christmas, my daughter has decided everyone has to do a "DIY" gift for everyone else. So I'm looking for input on some good ideas for my 11-year old son. [more inside]
Are there any medieval fantasy games or fiction where the illiteracy of the characters are a major plot point, or at least discussed in depth? Since most people couldn't read or do any sort of advanced math before the modern era, you would think it would come up more often, but it seems like it's barely mentioned or considered in most stories that I can recall.
My wife and I are moving to another country for 9 months. We're planning on selling both of our cars. As far as insurance goes, if we cancel it when we sell the cars, will there be some kind of penalty when we come back? If so, is there some way to suspend it for nine months? We're planning on buying cars when we get back.
Back in the early 2000's, I went to a bakery on Martha's Vineyard and purchased a jar of Beach Plum jam and a tin of homemade shortbread. Fell in love with the combination. Is it possible to buy Beach Plum Jam on Long Island or in Manhattan? Also, where can find delicious shortbread? [more inside]
I have a Bamboo Splash Wacom Tablet CTL571 running on Mac OS 10.6.8. I lost my pen and bought another pen, the Bamboo LP170ES which supposedly works with Splash. I reinstalled everything but the pen does not work. Is this a simple case that I got an incompatible pen? I know it is not the one that originally came with the Splash but the research I did do said it was compatible. I evend downloaded the legacy driver from Wacom for Splash to be safe, though I installed everything first (including ArtRage and Sketchbook Pro). I am off to work now but will monitor any wise input and take a crack at this later. Any thoughts appreciated.
My dear husband is learning Spanish via Duolingo. I'd like to get him some Christmas presents that allow him to practice and maintain these skills. What might that be? No real price point.
There's a short list of tasks that I need to do every single day, and some that I only need to do on weekdays, or only on Tuesdays, etc. How do I manage this given some constraints? [more inside]
Have you ever dropped a bomb on your life? Been disowned by your parents? Shunned by your extended family and community? Please tell me about it. [more inside]
I'm on a committee at my kid's elementary school and have been asked to start working on a spreadsheet of all possible funding opportunities that we could pursue for enrichment projects. What's my best strategy for searching for projects? [more inside]
My wife and I will be in Lima in a couple of weeks for just a day, and we are trying to find somewhere for dinner on a Sunday night. We're not opposed to street food and the like, but we'd like to do something more upscale if that's an option. Any suggestions?
I need to buy a Pay As You Go (no contract) dongle for broadband (4G would be great but 3G is acceptable) in the UK. It seemed like Vodaphone had the best options and prices, but their forums are saying that they don't work with Macs running Yosemite. Any experience or recommendations, on both devices and networks, would be helpful. Thanks in advance!
My partner is struggling as a new post-grad student. I don't know how best to help them. Details inside. [more inside]
What are some cities that are more likely than not to have weather? [more inside]
I've been training as a teacher for the last two months and it occurred to me that there might be an Ask a Manager type resource for teachers, particularly related to issues that arise in the classroom. Some caveats: [more inside]
What advice do you have for helping me go back to school in a few years? [more inside]
As a business casual "uniform" for cooler weather I want to wear turtlenecks with slim pants. But I am not sure what kind of pants I want. Can you help me? Requirements within: [more inside]
My husband and I will be staying in Quebec City for one evening/night in two weeks and we want to have awesome pizza delivered to our hotel room that night. I'm a non-carb eater (hurray keto!) but I have long planned to have that night be a super special carby treat night. This is my chance to get in the most delicious carbs evah. Help me make my carb binge as awesome and worth it as possible!! [more inside]
Last year on 12/11/13 we had to take my mother-in-law to the closest ER which happened to be a hospital that had just opened under new company/management (had been closed for almost a year until new company took over). I provided her Medicare Part A and B card and her AARP Medicare Supplement Card at the time we took her in. The intake person made copies of both cards and said nothing about the insurance coverage what so ever. [more inside]
I'm looking for a tool to visualize activity in a network (e.g. people sending emails to each other or planes moving between airports). [more inside]
Since upgrading to Yosemite, my laptop has been behaving very... poorly. Is there some way to speed it up, should I wait for some update to it, or should I try return to Mavericks? [more inside]
I just bought these Ellen Tracy wedges at Marshalls. I wore them at a conference and they are the most comfortable shoes ever! [more inside]
I'm having problems letting go of control and being authentically "me" in my relationship. [more inside]
Looking for an alternative to Walmart for groceries, I've discovered Aldi. l [more inside]
I want to create a blog for my students to explore math content. [more inside]
I live in a city rowhouse, and was just congratulating myself on my purchase on a new front door when I realized, d'oh! My new door doesn't have a mail slot like my old door did! [more inside]
What is the kind of armhole in this dress? Does it look good on ordinary people? How do I find similar armholes on dresses/blouses?
I want to calculate a sequence. It's built on some kind of exponential magic. That is as much as I know. Please hope me. [more inside]
My friend is coveting this David Bowie Gerbil mug from Takkoda! I can only find that used one on Ebay, and it's no longer available from the official Pets Rock store. Can anyone point me to where I might be able to find a new one online for her? Do you know of any brick-and-mortar stores in Toronto, Canada that might carry that line of products? Or failing that, if there are any specimen left in brick-and-mortar stores in the UK, would someone be willing to pick one up and mail it to me?
Does anyone else have experience with Pristiq, night sweats, and successfully weaning themselves off the drug? [more inside]
I'm taking my laptop on vacation, for the first time. What do I need to do to be sure my info stays safe? [more inside]
Help me sort out my options. [more inside]
Eight weeks ago, I was promised a substantial raise by my boss. After a couple weeks, he let me know that it wouldn't be as much as he suggested at first, but that I would still get a raise. Two times, I was promised that the raise would be on my next paycheck, but I still haven't gotten it. I've asked my boss what's up, and he's told me that it's being held up in HR, though I haven't been told why. I've asked HR for a meeting about it, but the person there just ignored my request. I'm very worried that I'm going to get screwed out of the raise because I've heard a lot of stories about this company acting less than honestly with regard to their financial promises. [more inside]
My iPad 3 (the first retina) running iOS 8.1 will drop the wi-fi connection fairly regularly. This often happens when streaming video via BBC iPlayer or YouTube apps. Any suggestions on how to fix it? [more inside]
Last couple of years I had a down Robe that I practically lived in. I lost it and now I have the flu. I think I'm sick partly because I was too cold some night not having a trusty robe on hand. [more inside]
Inspired by this post on the blue, I was wondering if MeFites who have gotten their beloved French bulldogs from good breeders would care to share some info. [more inside]
See a doctor? Or overreacting? [more inside]
I think this is from a podcast, but it's possible I read it somewhere. A woman relates a story about traveling abroad with her friends. They were guided to a local bath house and had to confront the foreign norms and customs. [more inside]
What's the Russian equivalent of Watching the English? What about for other nationalities too?
I completed freelance work for a company that I used to work for. It's been three months and I haven't been paid the roughly $900 that I'm owed. I have a signed contract and the deliverable has been received and acknowledged. What can I do to get paid? [more inside]
I want suggestions for something to buy with £30 as a treat for myself. [more inside]
Will my older hardware accommodate a 4TB (or larger) Hard drive? [more inside]
How can I not appear lazy to co-workers for not working during break? [more inside]
Is anyone aware of a searchable open database of cosmetic products and their ingredients? Ideally with API, though I'll accept anything at this point. For example: say I searched on exact product name "Dr Snakeoil's Amazing Anti-Ageing Potion" to get back a list "aqua, ceateryl alcohol, unobtainium, radium, phlebotinum". Anyone found anything like this yet?
The comments in this thread have inspired me to go ahead and ask: where can I find jeans that fit and don't stretch out? Hit me with your best pants. [more inside]
I spent $60 on a pair of these Bare Traps boots, which I loved for exactly five days until the heel completely fell off of the shoe. I am off to get my money back as we speak. What retailer makes boots like these that won't fall apart this winter? [more inside]
My extremely recent and woefully belated introduction to Die Antwoord has been accompanied by a need to be viscerally and directly reminded of them at all times. Normally this would be a job for a record played on repeat or a poster or something, but everything about DA -- music, art, videos, their corporeal selves -- is NSFW, and I'm cubicle-bound ~50 hours/week. Can you help me find a talisman to represent these guys that's either completely SFW or small enough to be easily concealed/carried on my person? [more inside]
How do I explain the principles of minimum detectable effect, statistical power, and statistical significance to a client? [more inside]
I want to be legally married to my partner in our home state. I can't figure out when that will probably be possible. [more inside]
I'm visiting Ghent and a small, ragtag parade just went under my window. What gives? [more inside]
I would like to make a person a quilt for Christmas. I have basic sewing knowledge but I have not done any quilting beyond sewing squares together to make pillows. Is this a feasible project, and where do I start? [more inside]
I want to get my Glaswegian girlfriend a Charles Rennie Mackintosh print for Christmas. Extensive Googling keeps bringing up the same type of result: massive print-houses like AllPosters. Maybe this is the best route? I don't know, but they all seem very cheap and what I want is something well produced and worth framing. What advice can the HiveMind offer? [more inside]
TechWritingFilter: As a lone writer, what tools should I use to create amazing user- and developer-facing documentation? [more inside]
I really want to find, be it on a soundboard, a youtube clip, or anywhere else online, a clip of when a studio audience would react with a collective happy-shocked "Ooooh!/Wooo!" when, for example, a couple unexpectedly kiss. My google- and youtube-fu are failing me. Help?
What to do for an elderly, sick, underweight dog who won't eat his prescription food? [more inside]
My stepdaughter is dancing The Nutcracker for the sixth or seventh time this year. She is the first Polichinelle to come out from under Mother Ginger's skirt. Post-dance every year she has a small party and receives a gift related to the ballet. [more inside]
This is stuck in my head. A few years ago I read something online, the gist of which was sort of following someone who starts a band, and how their life start off seeming a lot cooler than their friends who choose more traditional lives/careers, but over time, their friends lives start to look better, and the musician's life, a bit less cool. [more inside]
I'm about to start a qualitative research project that will require organizing a number of ideas from different sources. During my Ph.D. I used a variation on the index card method, but I'm curious what the state of the art is for software tools. [more inside]
I've been teaching English in Korea for 2 years now, I don't know where to go from here and I'm looking for some input from people who are not my family or friends. I'm a law grad who now only has 2 years of ESL teaching to my name and I'm really unsure about where I should go from here. [more inside]
Many years ago, I read a blog entry or the like by a person who followed his dream to be a cartoonist, despite not being very talented, and regretted his decision. Help me find it! [more inside]
I'm looking for shortcuts, mnemonics, hacks or cheats to become an expert at identifying trees. What helped you? Despite having a passion for the woods, owning several great books on tree identification and even carrying an ID chart, the business of saying "Ah! An elm! Hey! A lime!" or indeed "No. 1: The Larch. The Larch" still eludes me. Please note - I'm in the UK.
In other words, I'm looking for a list of adjectives that could complete the sentence "I am feeling __." This is actually a fairly extensive group of adjectives, and I'm wondering whether this type of adjective is identified formally as a certain type of adjective (which would make it easier to find the set) or whether anyone has assembled such a list.
Work travel is picking up for me again and my next destination is Raleigh, but I'll be in Winston-Salem one afternoon as well. Help me find food please! [more inside]
AskMetafilter has some shoe experts. I'd love your help finding comfortable, stylish heels to wear for my wedding and wedding reception. Hit me with your best bridal shoe suggestions! The wedding is a bit rustic and vintage, so if you can think of heels that are a bit different but might work for a formal ceremony, I'd love to hear! [more inside]
I was in an accident in a common mid-90s sports car. Summary: Body work, broken front axle. Because of the age and damage, the insurance will likely declare the car "totaled". My insurance will likely have to pay for repairs to the other car involved. I have liability only insurance, so they're not going to pay me anything regardless. No one was injured. Does my insurance need to care about my car, if it is liability only insurance, besides assessing for "fault"? One of my family members would like to repair the car. Assuming (he has done this kind of thing before, parts are plentiful, and time is not an issue) that he can make it safely drivable again, what do I need to do to make it legally drivable again? Is there anything I can do now to make it easier to get the car on the road in the future? I'm in northern Virginia.
I am lonely and busy-but-not-busy-enough such that basically, food has become a hobby of mine. This is bad because it makes me have semi-disordered eating habits. I need to keep myself busy enough or modify my behavior somehow so that I don't have all this extra energy to spend on thinking about food. [more inside]
Can you help me find melody and text to music that would be well known in Angola? [more inside]
Awhile ago, I read about a science fiction author on Wikipedia. The series was not concluded when the author's notebook fell into a body of water. When he fished it out and saw that his notes for the stories and how they all interlinked had been obliterated, he lost the will to continue on with his stories as he didn't have the patience to try to reconstruct the contents of his notebook. Please help me ID this author as I intended to track his works down, but never got around to it. [more inside]
I adopted a 10 week old kitten from the aspca on 10/31. He went for a booster shot today and the vet said he might have a touch of ringworm. One of his toes lost a little fur. It has been that way for two days and he was acting normally and I knew he was going to the vet so I let it go. The vet gave me a sulphur-y bath thing and clipped some of his fur to test. They explained to put the collar on him so he can't lick the solution but didn't say to do anything else. Is the bath all I need to do? [more inside]
What can a teacher do to help a conflict-avoidant, quiet, uncommunicative student be successful? [more inside]
I live in the Seattle area this year after spending pretty much my entire life in southern California. It's been proper chilly for the first time this week and I think I'm already feeling a bit out of my depth. Give me your Pacific Northwest winter protips! [more inside]
There's a guy I've been friends with - very close friends at one point - for over 20 years. I won't get into the details, but I've decided that because of his shoddy behavior towards myself and others I no longer want him in my life. How should I proceed? [more inside]
My excellent partner was once in love for years with a lovely lady and dear friend of his who is gorgeous, elegant, accomplished, well known and admired in her line of work. It's in the past but it bothers me. This is my issue alone. Help me get past my feelings. [more inside]
I'm looking for old radio show scripts that my students (fifth grade) can use to make CDs to be donated to our local veterans home and senior centers. See specific requirements below... [more inside]
I'm looking for dog boot recommendations. We use mushers paw wax, but we run in the snow/ice in Minnesota. I'd like some boots as back on I bought a of Good2go Extreme weather boots. After one 2 mile run the fabric is cracking and they stay on most of the time but not as well as hoped. Shes a red heeler mix if that helps at all. any recommendations for dogs+running+snow are much appreciated.
I'd love to find a recording device that can fit within my pocket and record words said quietly ten feet away. I am a normal/small size woman with smallish pockets. But it's WINTER! Coat pockets are large, but are padded and seem to muffle the recordings I take on my phone QUITE A BIT. Needed for non-creepy, extra moral applications only, I assure you. Triple bonus points for amazon links.
I use basic HTML for blog posts, and I don't have a purpose-built client for my blogs. My fingers need macros to keep my code from tangling. My Applescript knowledge is zero. The search terms I'm trying are too ubiquitous. I'm hoping you can tell me how to automate well formed HTML links, in the general form of <a href="http://ask.metafilter.com">a place with all the answers and amusing prose as well, which sometimes has quite wordy sentences which would show in this title.</a> [more inside]
I've never dealt with a staffing/temp agency before and it seems like I've mostly read negative things about them. However, I'm wondering if they'd be a good service to use while I look for a job in my "real" field. [more inside]
My friend wants to have a meal for around fifteen people in NYC, in a setting that will feel similar to the da Vinci painting, "The Last Supper". Extra points for being in a back room. Extra, extra points for a feeling of opulence or fake opulence. Price point up to $75 per person. Any ideas on places that would fit the bill?
I adopted 3 cats from the local shelter on Saturday. One of them is deaf, and I'm realizing that I don't really know how to express disapproval for things like determinedly trying to lick my face off. Details (and pictures) under the cut. [more inside]
I want to join a chess club or start a chess club for children (beginning level) in the millbrae, San Bruno area of California. I appreciate any related information. Thanks
Specifically, I'm looking for brand names of a great tasting flour tortilla that will go into making awesome burritos. [more inside]
I have a severe insect phobia, and now the task of eradicating a silverfish infestation in my apartment is causing this phobia to take over my life. How can I regain a feeling of safety about sleeping in my own bed at night when I am now facing a seemingly endless stream of silverfish entering my room each day? Many more details below the fold. [more inside]
My friends and I have found that we really like getting high and talking about books we've read recently, and we've decided to make it a Thing. We're having trouble finding more books to read. [more inside]
We are a well known bicycle brand, and one of our local dealers closed up shop over night with no notice to us or even their employees. They have over $20,000 in debt with us. What are our options? Our dealer owes us over $20,000 in debt for stock, with some invoices close to 4 months past due. [more inside]
Describe a person that you met who made you go "I want to be like that!" And what do you do if you have a moderately unlikable personality? (i.e. you are not like that!, and you perpetually feel like you ought to be more like that! but you just can't make it happen.) [more inside]
Help me figure out how to think about my calorie intake. Should I view it in terms of the net or the gross? [more inside]
Stupid question filter: there are a lot of leaves on my lawn. I've never had a lawn before. What do I do with them? [more inside]
I like the look of this leather blazer. I'm specifically looking for a jacket I can wear indoors as a pseudo-suit jacket in my business casual workplace. Can you suggest a leather blazer, similar to this one, or at least NOT moto or mixed media style? I am in the U.S. Size-wise, I'm right on the edge between 1x and XXL, or between a straight 16 and an 18W. [more inside]
So, we seem to have many snails in our outdoor area lately, and I've been observing them and have many questions... [more inside]
In the process of melting candle wax out of mason jars last night, my husband and I spilled candle wax all over the inside of our oven. Help us fix this. [more inside]
I live in NJ and work in Manhattan. I have a coworker based in Montreal who is wonderful. Recently she gave me a great little gift: a tin box of taffy. The taffy was fine but it's the box that's great. It has a map of Canada on top, and it's a perfect bit of kitsch. I'd love to get something for her. Ideas, MeFites?
Sooner than any of us would like, we're going to have to put one of our cats to sleep. I've never done this before. Looking for a Durham, NC area vet who can come to our home, and for a pet cremation service. [more inside]
How can I re-launch salary negotiations for my dream job after giving my potential future boss sticker shock? [more inside]
I know there are hundreds of these, but none that address my rather geeky, very special seattle snowflake of a boyfriend. Details below. [more inside]
So I've been studying up on the interview protocol/got questions and answers from one of the leading temp companies --but I am stumped on this. I have several chronic conditions that need tricky monitoring (usually no more than every 3-6 months, and I try to get as many of them in one day as I can). Most of my docs do not grant appointments outside of business hours. I do have plenty of sick days. [more inside]
I just started a new job working as a teacher assistant in a public school. I am working primarily in a separate classroom with a group of kids with varying disabilities, e.g. autism and down's syndrome. This is my first time working with kids who have disabilities, and I can tell that I have a lot to learn! How can I become a better, more effective, more confident and relaxed teacher assistant? [more inside]
I'm looking for a certain type of (perhaps faux) leather jacket, but, as with most clothing items I shop for, I have no idea what this kind of thing is called in the fashion world so I don't know what terms to search for. Help me out? [more inside]
I run iTunes Match on four devices: a 2010 iMac, a 2012 iMac, a 2012 Macbook, and an iPhone 5c. One of my favorite playlists has gone missing on the phone, the Macbook, and the 2012 iMac, but not from the 2010 iMac. What's gone wrong and how can I fix it? [more inside]
I'm trying to find an old episode of this american life about an US exchange student (I think?) going back to his school in Asia to find a girl he was in love with. Music or opera was involved. [more inside]
Because soon it will snow, it will snow, it will snow! Looking for a pair of super warm and super cute winter boots. Difficulty: vegan AND available in Canada. [more inside]
My favorite eyeglasses had no nose pads. Neither did they have a flap on each lens frame that sat on the sides of the nose. Instead, these wireframes had a bridge which curved to sit on the top of the nose. Nothing touched the sides of the nose at all. I can't find any glasses like that any more. Is there a name for this feature, so I can Google it?
I'm a mid-30s guy who loved the traditional animation of my youth. I never really grew out of cartoons. Don Bluth is my spirit animal. I just watched Over the Garden Wall and it touched on just about everything I love. I was seriously gushing after every episode. That is what I want more of. [more inside]
I am driving from Toronto to Philadelphia later this week for my brothers wedding. I have an opened bottle whiskey that I'd like to bring in the trunk of the car-- it's a bottle of great emotional significance and a family tradition. I know that in the US the open bottle is fine as long as it's in the trunk, but what about Ontario? also, where can I see these laws online?
I have six nieces and nephews ranging in age from 4 to 9 spread over two households, and I am thinking of getting each household a set of Lego Mindstorms for Christmas. The cost of the sets means I would not get them any other presents, so the kids would need to share. [more inside]
Why is the Latin name for the Eurasian eagle-owl 'bubo bubo' ? I can't find any reference to the Eurasian Eagle Owl having buboes - as in 'a swollen inflamed lymph node in the armpit or groin' [more inside]
I just installed Tampermonkey in Chrome, and it alerted me that it can "see and modify" everything I do online. From a technical standpoint, how do people use plugins like this and still feel secure when, say, doing online banking? [more inside]
My supervisor has TERRIBLE, life-endangering, totally illogical judgement. After serious consideration I have decided to go to her supervisor and though she has been welcoming and has taken things seriously, I feel horribly sneaky and I am having trouble being at work. Could you help me cope? [more inside]
Why do so many late-night talk show guests leave before the commercial break? [more inside]
Please help me understand how to google this product because I don't know what search terms to use: I am looking to purchase a microphone/headset system where people in an audience can listen to someone on a microphone translating into another language a keynote speaker's presentation. [more inside]
The scenario: access to the internet has been cut off due to (insert your worst fears here). Your only reading/reference material that you now have access to is what is on your shelves at home. Question: what are the best books to have stocked your shelves with beforehand?
I'm looking for a comprehensive chart to help me understand the history of technology. This can be either an online "chart" or a paper chart. I want a chart that covers the entire history of mankind, but given how much technology was invented in the last century or so, I would like one that covers modernity too. Does anyone have any recommendations?
Please help me find things and daytrips for my visiting parents to do the week of Thanksgiving here in Seattle and nearby. [more inside]
Can you please recommend to me an overnight road trip approximately 2-3 hours from New Orleans where I can do some low-key exploring (preferably outdoor), have a couple of quiet beers, eat some awesome (vegetarian) food, and mellow out? [more inside]
I would like to know what happens when a lender finds a recent change in leadership during due diligence for a loan, such as a business loan or a real estate loan to an organization. [more inside]
Has Roberto Bolaño ever used Chilean slang in his writings? [more inside]
There are squirrels inside my roof. It is basically impossible to get up there. What to do? [more inside]
I got my samsung galaxy s3 15 months ago. My phone has been acting up lately - been very slow to charge and even after being fully charged goes down within 10 minutes. Now my phone say that it is charging but only reports 0%. I've had it plugged in for several hours with no change. I then turned off my phone and then removed the battery and put it back in again. Currently can't get to a Verizon wireless store and traveling. Was wondering any means to self diagnose the problem until I get to a real store next week. ANY ADVICE WOULD be HELPFUL. Thanks in advance!
Looking for quiet, quiet, quiet date-y bars, lounges, and other drinking-places in SF and the East Bay (specifically Oakland or Berkeley)... [more inside]
My daughter would like a diary or journal like Anne Frank had. It is red plaid, with a lock and she would preferably like the pages lined. [more inside]
2011 Kia Sedona will sometimes have this funky problem wherein there is a significant loss of power. That is, I can floor the gas pedal and it's pretty unresponsive. Oddly, the digital instrument panel indicator that usually shows what gear it is in (or D for drive) doesn't show anything at all for the gear (the panel is otherwise lit up normally) when this problem is present. [more inside]
I'm looking for a peppy, upbeat, quick-paced version of the Gloria Patri and of the Doxology, perhaps in use in the 1980s. This is not the traditional, more stately version of the songs heard in most churches: it often took visitors by surprise. Does anyone have any suggested leads? (I would ideally need to hear it, since I can't read music well.) [more inside]
There's a story in this week's TAL about a woman who was an alcoholic by the time she was 13, then successfully went sober and centered her life around her identity as an alcoholic, to the point of becoming a kind of AA mini-celebrity, only to realize after twenty years that the real story of her childhood had actually been completely different and she was never an alcoholic at all. I found this fascinating. Please point me to more true stories (podcasts, memoirs...) of people whose most basic beliefs about who they are turn out to be flat-out wrong.
My iPad 2 recently bit the dust. Before then, I had been using the iPad for entertainment + school, as well as a droid smartphone for typical smartphone things. My droid is also on its last legs, and I'm considering changing my technology situation to an iPad Mini with mobile data + a dumb phone (just talk and text). Questions ensue. [more inside]
I want to simplify my gift giving/selection process, try to make it a little more routine and so easier for me to cope with each year, without being boring for the recipients. I'm thinking of having a list of categories for gifts (food consumable, household/personal consumable, sentimental, kitchen gadget, interactive) like I've heard some people do with kids gifts (something to read, something to wear and something fun)... [more inside]
I'm devoting tomorrow to battling entropy and getting my house back to a mostly-clean state. What's going to give me the biggest bang for my buck in that time period? [more inside]
Need recommendations on a good sturdy case for Iphone 6 [more inside]
I am about to wire some audio cables in my wall. It's two 1/4" jacks, stereo, one is microphone and the other headphones, going to a recording computer in a different room. Need help figuring out the proper parts. [more inside]
Help! I just started making a recipe for pumpkin bran muffins - I found the recipe at our grocery store, which has a samples kitchen at the back and has lots of recipe handouts. I just realized, part way through mixing the ingredients, that the recipe actually calls for one cup pumpkin pie mix. I wasn't paying attention and added one cup pumpkin puree. Can I just add pumpkin pie spice? Do I need to add more sugar? The recipe already calls for 2/3 cup packed brown sugar. Thanks for the help!
I'm in the process of applying to a few history PhD programs. My problem is deciding who I should ask to write references. The programs, naturally, would prefer academic references. However, I finished my Masters back in 2003 and my thesis supervisor has since moved on to another university. [more inside]
Please suggest some good generic wedding gift ideas for a couple with no registry. [more inside]
I need to interview presidents/CEOs/founders of companies specializing in traditionally blue-collar industries (manual labor, construction, manufacturing, agriculture, infrastructure, etc.) I'm particularly looking for diversity. Any suggestions where to look?
For my Secret Santa exchange I actually know the person pretty well, as opposed to every other year. Unfortunately my person tends to buy pretty much everything they need. I would identify his primary interests as cigars, bourbon, gadgets, Baltimore history and being Irish. What are some things I could get him where it wouldn't matter if he already had one? [more inside]
I am hoping to land my dream job in the heart of DC. The pay would be great for a single person, but as a working single mother, it won't be amazing. I am concerned about the usual: safety, quality of public schools, and commute times. Is Falls Church really that much better than Silver Spring? Is the red line as bad as I hear? [more inside]
My moulded t-shirt bras are built like tanks so they last a long time. The nude ones get grubby looking long before there is any structural damage. What can I do to spruce them up? [more inside]
I have seen the phrase "dwarf bravery" on japanese shirts a lot. What the hell concept is being mistranslated here? Does whatever japanese word or words this originates from have a real english equivalent?
A massive, difficult undertaking. A once-in-a-lifetime experience. A commitment to something big and challenging. What is it? [more inside]
This weekend, a wet spot appeared on the parkway in front of my house and has persisted: it hasn't grown or shrunk in the 24 hours that I've been aware of it. The soil seems to be wet as far down as I can push a stick, so I'm afraid a pipe below it has sprung an upwards leak. Does anyone have any strategies for diagnosing what the issue is? [more inside]
So it looks like hyphens in domain names do mean lower positing in Google’s SERP but does this mean the same for keywords? For example, my site contains the word 'multi media' but I would like to change that to 'multimedia' on every occurance. Is this ok? Will it impact my SEO?
A dear friend of mine is likely to have a baby this week. She's just today been diagnosed with gestational diabetes. I would love to help her and her husband out specifically by bringing them food to eat/freeze for when everyone's home from the hospital. However, I am a) clueless about baby things, b) clueless about how gestational diabetes complicates this picture. [more inside]
Bug out plans for San Francisco in an emergency? [more inside]
I'm interested in making perfectly-looping Vine videos of me playing guitar riffs. I'd like to shoot and edit these videos on my phone (iPhone 5, iOS 8.1), without using a desktop editor. Is there an app that allows you to hear audio while editing?.... [more inside]
There's one person in my (school) project group who seems to really not respect the ideas and skills of the women in our group. Now what? [more inside]
Now that it's getting colder, I won't be leaving the back door open all the time for the dogs to go in and out. With my Dane, this is not such an issue, but with the Beagles it kind of is. I would like to train them to do something like ring a bell attached to the door when they need to go out. [more inside]
I threw out our microwave the other day in a fit of frustration over the amount of space it took up compared to how rarely we use it, and with its general unreliability. Did I make a mistake or is modern life possible without a microwave? [more inside]
I want to take off the first week of January to do a bike tour someplace warm in the United States (or possibly in Mexico or Latin America). Where should I go? [more inside]
In horrible pain after root canal re-treatment today. What could be the cause? [more inside]
I'm looking for a "project" that takes 5 to 6 months to complete, ideally with most of the time being waiting. This could be anything - plants, food, art, etc - but should not be something that I simply send away for and have to wait 6 months for a package. [more inside]
Going to HK on Wednesday, and wondering how much getting around is affected by the situation in Central. More specifically, getting from the airport to hotel in Shatin, and getting from the hotel to City University (Run Run Shaw Creative Media Centre). Is there anything to be concerned about / that I should know before setting off? Many thanks.
For a long time I assumed the Muppets were a genre unto themselves when it came to awesome, fun, un-self-conscious goofiness (e.g.). Then I found The Rhythm of Life from Sweet Charity, featuring a cast made entirely of human Muppets. Help me find more examples of people having fun because it's fun. [more inside]
I'm looking for some black and white superhero comic strips that are wordless. Wordless is the most important part, color strips would be less desirable but ok. Non-superhero comic strips might work too. Additionally, if there is a place online that has super old comic strips that would be helpful too.
Mr. Sixswitch is an award-winning Canadian author. He's worked with a professional audiobook producer to create an audiobook version of his first book. But neither of us ever listen to audiobooks, so we're looking for test listeners. Can you suggest places to find interested people online? Or if you'd be interested, let me know in the thread or by MeMail?
An impoverished friend that I haven’t seen in 5 years contacted me about lack of closure. There were a lot of bad things that happened then, that are not necessarily morally bad... I’m just not sure how to feel about it all or respond in kind? [more inside]
NYCfilter: I have a group that just formed that’s looking for a free-ish workspace in midtown on weekday nights. [more inside]
We like to watch Blu-ray discs from Netflix, but despite careful cleaning they often have small scratches that our current player does not handle well. Is there a currently-available player or theater system that does well with these issues? If you can regularly play Netflix Blu-ray discs or other rental Blu-ray discs without problems, please let me know. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations for low-cost (or no-cost) web-based texting services for relatively light use. [more inside]
I need to buy a pressure washer to clean my concrete driveway, which is somewhat blackened with mildew. I don't want to break the bank, but I'm having trouble figuring out what the minimum PSI I can use is. Does anyone have personal experience in this? [more inside]
What am I not understanding about my HVAC system? [more inside]
For the annual students' holiday banquet at my college, faculty/staff sign up for a table that they decorate and serve food for. This year a colleague and I want to do a sleep theme, but need some ideas. [more inside]
I spend way too much time worrying about the way my friends communicate with me -- specifically, I worry that any delay in response time means that they're angry or annoyed with me, or, even more dramatically, that they don't want me around anymore. I wonder if there are any good ways to talk myself out of this. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My partner confessed to entertaining the idea of moving out, because living with me has been difficult of late and it's starting to hurt them. Is there any way back from this? [more inside]
As our Iphone ages a bit and the battery fails more and more we are looking into a battery/case combo and find that the prices are just all over the place as well as what folks recommend.I want to know, Has anyone had any good experiences with the less expensive combo case/batteries? What do you recommend?
My dad passed away recently. He was not yet 70, not in great health but nothing severe that we knew of. As far as we can tell, he was probably gone for about a week before his landlord noticed his rent was late. This is literally keeping me up at night--I also live alone, and I'm pretty sure it's going to stay that way for the foreseeable future, so how do I make sure that if something like this happens to me, I'm at least discovered promptly? [more inside]
A colleague/friend has accepted a job offer to move his life to Colombo, Sri Lanka (for a couple years at least). Can you suggest a farewell gift that might be useful to him in this move? [more inside]
The person I want to learn from is one of the best. The teachings will be extremely useful—they could even save my life someday. But the speaker might spend their earnings on hate. What to do? [more inside]
Just started a great part-time job, and may have the chance at a great full-time job on top of it. Would taking the additional job be a good opportunity, or a setup for overwork and failure? I need help deciding if I can/should do both, given the chance. [more inside]
I am looking for boardgames that have great android apps. Preferably the should be great boardgames too. [more inside]
We are looking for the best shoes ever to give to a 2 year old boy for christmas. the idea is that it's practical for the parents (no shoes to buy for this round!) but that they can be fun enough for a child (lights? other weird somethings?) Shoes must NOT be lace up, bonus points for craziness otherwise. Money is no object, but we will probably spent around $60. Online ordering a plus. Thanks!
A couple of months ago I finally got out of bridging visa hell and obtained my Australian permanent residency. What can I do with it? [more inside]
Our old farmhouse was remodeled in the 50s and as a result, the living room is seriously something like 35 x 20 in some spots, while others are 'only' 15 feet wide. We moved here from a house that could fit IN our current living room. It's freaking me out. I'd really like to make the house, our living room especially, seem more cozy. What are some ideas or hacks to make this happen? I see lots of tips on how to make rooms seem bigger, but not so many to make the walls feel like they're closing in on you.
I'm 21 years old, just got out of a long term relationship 6 months ago, and started dating a new guy a month ago. I really like him, and really want this to work. I think we both have different expectations of being in a relationship, and I suspect my expectations and behaviors are unhealthy as my last relationship was basically my life and it was suffocating. How can I make this a healthy one? [more inside]
Please help me determine/verify the name of this person: we got to Willis H. K____y Jr. and are now stuck. [more inside]
A certain (older) contact of mine on a certain business networking website is listed as having three bachelor's degrees. Out of curiosity, what possibly led them down this path rather than getting master's degrees in those subjects? (I hope I don't sound creepy, but said colleague rarely discusses their education in depth.)
Some friends bought us an expensive and extravagant gift that we can't reciprocate, and it is stressing me out. How do I handle this gracefully? [more inside]
We want to drive from Contra Costa County, CA, to Anglicon 2015 in Seattle. We'd like an interesting drive up and back down that balances sights and time, and would like to hit Portland along the way (and maybe tiptoe into Canada after Seattle). We have lots of specific requests, so we'd love some help. [more inside]
I have a small undeveloped lot that I would like to sell. I am looking for a reputable agent to help me do this. [more inside]
I am a registered voter in Oregon and no longer wish to be, how can I delete my name off the rolls?
What is the best service or method for designing and printing about a dozen copies of a cookbook? Lulu? Amazon? iPhoto? Kinkos? [more inside]
My mom (she's 71) continues to work a couple of part time jobs, both out of financial need and a determination to keep working. One of them has her standing on a concrete floor for fairly long periods a few times a week. I'm looking for advice on the best shoes that will keep her as comfortable as possible, ones I can buy online (preferably in Canada) and send to her. [more inside]
I'm looking for climate science textbooks that take a mathematical approach: that go in-depth with the maths of modelling etc. I'd appreciate if they also had a focus on the science of anthropogenic climate change / global warming. Can you recommend any? [more inside]
I'm dealing with a lot of financial anxiety, even though I'm in a place that I know many people would envy. Does anyone have concrete advice for managing illogical anxiety over money, savings and employment? [more inside]
The last time Guitar Wolf was in Chicago, he started off a song by screaming something like "Killer... KIIILLEEERRRR!" What is the name of this song? [more inside]
I have 2 dressers that were purchased by my parents from the Design Research store (an offshoot of The Architects Collaborative (TAC)) in Cambridge, MA in the 1950s. They are not in perfect shape, but I still want to sell them for a decent price - where can I turn to figure out what they are worth/and or how much I should ask for them?
I need to write a paper for school showing that Amazon.com is an empire based on several criteria of classic empires, like the Roman empire, Portuguese empire, etc. I'm feeling overwhelmed and unfocused on how to find what I need. [more inside]
Local photo place has a pretty good deal on 8x10" prints (20x25cm) if you buy 10 of them. What should I do with this many prints? [more inside]
post-herald.com looks sort of like a newspaper site but has only one story, about Mike Tyson. The same domain hosts thousands of thousands of stories like "Kathleen Herald misses out on Powerball prize." Change the numbers in the URL and you'll see different people's names and cities of residence. I assume these names and cities are scraped from a database somewhere. But why do this? [more inside]
Will sleep training ever end? [more inside]
My PC is not recognizing my iPad as a camera and for this reason, I cannot upload photos from this device to my PC, which is more than a bit frustrating. Details in the [more inside] [more inside]
I am an American university professor in a social science at a research 1 university. In the past decade or so, at my university (and all universities that I've worked at) there has been a huge influx of international students, especially from Asia. My current undergrad classes are between 50-75% "English language learners." There are a lot of challenges in teaching these students and I'm looking for some concrete advice. [more inside]
Late 20's. I have a stable job and income. Just one problem: I'm completely disengaged and disinterested in what our society has to offer. I tried consumerism and all I got was this pile of useless shit. I rebounded by taking on extreme minimalism: I own almost nothing now. I've looked into every hobby that could possibly interest me and found none of them engaging enough to pursue. What to do when you're completely disengaged from society? [more inside]
I don't appear to have the vocabulary for this question, because my Google-fu has failed utterly. I'm interested in vending machines of the 1960s (and maybe early '70s). [more inside]
I'm looking for a great karaoke game. (Not a karaoke machine.) [more inside]
My son has asked me if I know of any songs like Back To The Shack that only have F-sharp and G-sharp chords. I do not; do you?
To be honest, I don't know if I'm currently depressed. I do have some of the symptoms of depression but these tend to come and go: low mood, irritability, poor sleep, poor appetite, difficulty concentrating, negative thinking (I've had this one most of my life). I also suffer from anxiety and get stressed very easily - my personality is highly neurotic. Some days I feel pretty okay but my mood really goes down when I get home from work and especially on the weekends when I'm spending a lot of time alone in my room. [more inside]
I am trying to rent an apartment for a month in Playa del Carmen through a website that I found on google. Lets say it's called rent-playa-del-carmen.com (I can name the actual website if it's relevant). So far, I have been getting very professional responses with all my questions properly answered. The issue is that the agent is now asking for the full month of rent ($2500) plus $1000 deposit 30 days before my arrival. This is raising a bunch of red flags for me. Is this common or am I being scammed? Should I refuse and only pay the deposit? Is this such a big red flag that I I should walk away?
I'm trying to use the technique outlined here to merge my css files for my sites using SSIs, but am being plagued by [an error occurred while processing this directive]. [more inside]
My grandmother died two days ago. My three-year relationship ended a week before that. I'm still dealing with the trauma of a sexual assault that occurred last year. I just moved to another country for graduate school. I have people I'm friendly with, but my close friends and family are thousands of miles away. I'm scared, overwhelmed and lonely. How do I keep going? [more inside]
I'm looking to compile a collection of short, entertaining, inspiring, high-energy videos about creativity, the creative process, and innovation by their very nature. Classic showing, not telling. [more inside]
My 1.5 yr old cat will escalate grooming/playing with other cats into aggressive biting. What should I do? [more inside]
I'm looking for striking book cover designs that work separately for each book, and as a set (when the books are assembled next to one another, to tell some sort of a visual story, or that fit together like pieces of a puzzle). Any ideas?
I have some craft and design projects I'd like to create with *quality* scrap hardwood, *quality* scrap leather, and game animal skulls/teeth/other bones. The bigger the wood/leather scraps the better. Other than Etsy suppliers, where are the best places in my community to try to look for these things and get them for little to no cost? [more inside]
I picked up some powdered lemon peel from Penzeys because it looked intriguing, and I'm looking for ideas for using it! I'm thinking that things where you don't want to add moisture or texture would be good (they recommend cheesecake). Specific recipes and general ideas ("add it to sugar cookies") are welcome. Sweet or savoury is fine. Holiday baking is coming up so I'm casting about for ideas in that vein as well.
Old furnace in basement is leaking water at the rate of a few table spoons a minute; water in boiler is automatically refilled as needed. I can hear the water refill valve cycling on ~ once per hour. [more inside]
Reading another mefite's question, I'm concerned that the tuna salad I often take to work for lunch has been bothering colleagues. I am on a low-carb diet, don't eat meat or chicken, and often take a big salad with tuna mayo to eat at my desk. I didn't realise this might bother people as being "too smelly". [more inside]
I'm interested in how telepathy has been portrayed in fiction (written form) and was wondering if anyone could point me to some examples where the protagonist struggles with the trait and has to learn how to master/control it in order to stay sane. Note: I've read The Shining and its recent sequel. Thanks in advance!
We're going to Disneyland tomorrow. We haven't done any advance planning. I don't have a lot of time today to devote to research, either, so I thought I'd ask if anyone can brain-dump a quick-and-dirty way to shave some time off the inevitable waiting. More detail and explicit instructions are better. [more inside]
How do I accurately screen people on a survey when my screening criteria seem fairly obvious. How do I prevent them from lying just to pass the screening portion? [more inside]
Calling graphic artists: I have a microfilm-derived copy of a newspaper article from 1873. The copy is poor quality, to the point where it's hard to read. I don't think any sort of simple image processing is going to fix it. I'd like to re-create the article from scratch, but I have very little experience in this area. [more inside]
There are a lot of Anna's hummingbirds and a lot of bees here. They both like a big Mexican sage. Yesterday I saw several hummingbirds in series dive down near the sage then pull up sharply with a sudden 'tweet' noise like a short blast on a whistle. Why are the birds doing that? [more inside]
I woke up this morning, for some reason having vivid memories of this side-scrolling arcade-style space-ship shooter PC game I used to love, and now I want to play it again. Can you help identify the game? [more inside]
Taste-wise, what's the difference between spearmint and peppermint? Especially when used as a flavour for things like chewing gum and candy. [more inside]
I found the fridge and freezer in my (6 person) shared house turned off at the plug socket this morning. The freezer temperature had got to -6 degrees C. I read that it should be -18 degrees C. My breakfast milk from the fridge was room temperature. I don't know when the plug had been switched off. My housemates have meat in the freezer. To avoid the risk of food poisoning, should I tell everyone to throw all their food out? If not everything, what should we prioritise getting rid of?
I have a terrible phobia of tuna fish, particularly when it's covered in lots of mayo. Just being around someone eating it makes me gag and want to vomit. I work at a small company where we all eat lunch together. If I see someone is eating tuna I have to make an excuse to leave the room. My coworkers are becoming suspicious. My question is how do I deal with this? It's seems ridiculous that I feel almost embarrassed to talk about it and have trouble just saying the words "tuna" let alone talking about with a counselor. Yet I feel so overwhelmed sometimes, I feel like something is wrong with me. Is there a way to overcome this obstacle on my own? I'm an otherwise healthy and mentally stable person in a long term relationship.
The guy I'm dating loves to argue and has really strong opinions about everything. I don't. Where do we go from here? [more inside]
My industry has just had a Black Swan event and has entered a period of systemic risk. [more inside]
My mom just turned 50, and I want her to live to see 100. What kind of things should she be doing to keep up health-wise? What kind of things should I be reminding her about? [more inside]
so I share an apartment with a colleague from University. It's getting cold now here in New England so obviously it's okay to turn the heat on sometimes. If youre home. Last night the roommate left and just out of curiosity, I open the door and was hit by a blast. It felt like a sauna. [more inside]
A friend and I are thinking of doing a portion of the Appalachian trail, from the northwest corner of NJ down to Harper's Ferry. [more inside]
I have a degree and nine years of work experience, but I can't find any kind of job. How I can deal with my overwhelming feelings of hopelessness, and keep from losing my mind while I'm job hunting? Snowflakes inside, of course. [more inside]
When I travel, I sometimes like to pick up better-quality versions of everyday household objects that I already own -- both because sometimes the quality is much higher than what I can get in the U.S., and also because doing it feeds my desire for a souvenir without adding any clutter to my life. Soon I'll be in Helsinki for a few days, and I'd like to buy some high-quality, packable, practical, useful objects. What are the Finnish people particularly good at making? [more inside]
Or failing a service, is there a way to tell, ahead of time, whether or not a given sunset will likely be a colourful one? I have the perfect spot already, about 650' about sea level, and all of the camera equipment I'm going to get. What I need to know is what to look for in the weather conditions that will make a difference. Which type of clouds will be the most fortuitous, are there particular weather patterns that will help, etc?
Hi, I use to live in a neighborhood where a group of 10 girls used to be friends.I liked them and enjoyed their friendship for few years.I was very honest and sincere and very helpful to anyone when they need help.I am not a party type person.i couldn't join their family parties as my son has multiple allergies.They didn't like my decision not to join the family getogethers .They started making fun of my healthy life style I changed to for my son sake.I moved few miles away from that place and started feeling strange behaviors( like they didn't want me around) from few and then slowly came from each one of them.But nobody opening spoke about the problem to me directly.this continued for the last 1-1 1/2 years and I have been patiently ignoring their behavior and tried to smile when we met in girls only lunches.also,I lost my beloved Dad last year and I am still recovering from that .I am a positive person and I felt I can't take their behavior anymore and decided not to attend any of their group lunches to avoid me getting back at them if they behave like that again. [more inside]
What are some of the things you do, and your partner does for you, on a daily basis and perhaps as an occasional surprise that makes you feel loved and helps keep the romantic love in your relationship alive? Anything worthwhile takes some serious effort to maintain and nourish in the long term. I am very much interested in learning about the efforts healthy adults in healthy relationships have made that took their relationship to a higher level of love, maturity and intimacy. [more inside]
I've got a long-running itch to play video games. They're insufficiently like work (relative to my other hobbies) that they're an appealing way to decompress, and I can do them when it's cold/wet/dark... but I am absolutely not motivated by the grind. Help me find something that will absolutely not require collecting all/some/the last/the only McGuffin(s). [more inside]
A print company owner is asking me what my pay requirements are to join his staff as an illustrator. How much do people who do this kind of thing make? [more inside]
We're making a sort of fancified mac and cheese dish that uses a quantity of shredded Gruyere and Gouda. So I shredded the cheese, without actually reading the recipe, and shredded all the cheese we bought. That turns out to be more or less twice the cheese we actually need. Help! [more inside]
Are our Puerto Rico plans realistic? And how best to get around? [more inside]
New to Colorado, grew up skiing a couple times a year on the east coast, then stopped for a while. Now I have a local season pass. Help me acclimate to skiing out west once a week or so this winter, given my current abilities, gear, budget, and goals. [more inside]
Last week my family doctor told me I should limit my calcium from supplements to no more than 500 mg per day as excess calcium from supplements can cause health issues. The Canadian Osteoporosis recommendations suggest I avoid supplements entirely if possible. I can do that easily most days. But I have a question about timing: how much time do I need to leave between Glass of Milk #1 and Glass of Milk #2? [more inside]
I'm looking into soundproofing the party wall of my 1940s semi. What is a reasonable expectation for silence and cost? [more inside]
You are not my dentist, oral surgeon, or travel agent: can an extraction or root canal be delayed a week or two if the active infection has temporarily been resolved through a short (10 day) course of antibiotics? [more inside]
Do you have a crowd-wowing recipe for a room-temp appetizer with citrus somewhere in the mix? [more inside]
I'm looking for engaging videos (or websites, or accessible articles) that are critical of international development practices like voluntourism, etc. Humor is a bonus. [more inside]
I love me some Gmail, so I'm kind of peeved with its most recent shenanigans. I rarely check my Trash, but out of curiosity I did this week and found a lot of messages that should not have been in the Trash. [more inside]
Help me plan my first Thanksgiving menu! Bf & I are hosting my parents. I want to plan a delicious feast for 4! I don't need to worry about the turkey. I love experimental cooking, so no limits. Bonus: perfect pie recipes. [more inside]
I've been playing around with the Wireless Geographic Logging Engine and Shodan, and would like to hear from other MeFites about their favorite useful / interesting specialized Web search tools. Which do you use regularly or for specific, arcane (at least to others outside your profession) tasks? The bizarre and creepy are also of interest here - I'm casting a big net.
Best, most profitable way to get rid of stuff? [more inside]
Does anyone know how long Promethazine/Phenergan is thought to interfere with home pregnancy tests?
Husband and I have been married for many years and working through some relationship difficulties. This summer I felt things were not repairable and asked for a separation in prep for a divorce [more inside]
25-year-old woman here. My father confessed I have a 21-year-old half-sister that he had from a long affair. A half-sister he is in touch with and still, in some ways, financially supporting. I'm having a hard time processing this. [more inside]
I have mono-ish symptoms, but I'm not sure that it's mono. Details inside. [more inside]
Why does stranger A decide to ask stranger B for directions (or other small favours, like a light, or change for a bill), and not stranger C or D? [more inside]
I'm very curious to learn about people and organizations who are based there are making grants or scholarships to support local communities. Any leads or thoughts? [more inside]
I am watching my co-worker's cat because she had to move to a place where you can''t have cats. We can't find the cat and I am afraid she escaped from the house. However no one saw her run out of the door and no doors were left open. We have a resident cat who likes to run out of the house so we are extra careful when we leave. I think the cat might be hiding but my boyfriend thinks that is unlikely because he looked for her ALL day. Have you ever lost a cat inside your house?
Need recommendations for a reputable and affordable PC repair service in Northwest Austin. My friend is having problems that are beyond our abilities to fix. [more inside]
I am a doctoral student that needs to deploy a short survey as my research data collection instrument for my dissertation. I have passed a rigorous IRB process at my University. I am having an incredibly hard time getting college and universities to respond to my email request for permission to deploy my survey to their school student email systems. [more inside]
I'd like to buy a gift card for a foodie in my life for either Durham, NC or Washington D.C. My foodie is a passionate advocate of the slow food movement (and is an active part of slow food in his home city). Any recommendations? [more inside]
I want to look at awesome curious art from all eras in an easy-to-scroll through format with smooth feed and, ideally, some accurate but not necessarily detailed artist, nationality, and date format. [more inside]
I have a very mentally taxing/stimulating job. When I get home from work, I can't muster the mental energy to do anything but surf the internet. Even a supper with more steps than 2 (open and heat) seem overwhelming. Physically, I feel fine. I'm not physically tired, just completely mentally tapped out. It's starting to cause some tension in my relationship because I am no longer pulling my weight around the house. Leaving my job is not an option: it pays well and I love the work. I am looking for ways to have more mental energy at the end of the day to perform multi step tasks around the house and/or socialize. Any tips? Organization? Meditation? How do you get (more) stuff done? Thanks!
My husband and I were married this past May. In mid-February, before the wedding, the husband of my sister in law called my husband to tell him that he was making a huge mistake marrying me and that it was going to ruin his life. There was a lot of classism and casual xenophobia in his reasoning. Now he and my SIL are coming in from out of state for Thanksgiving. What to do? [more inside]
In light of this post, are there any programs or initiatives to offer an open, online, mainstream K-12 curriculum available to all students and school districts? [more inside]
I am finally starting to plan for long term financial security and retirement. Good news, I have a pension. My question is, should I feel secure in my pension actually being there when I retire, or should have a separate, backup retirement account? [more inside]
Books, websites, message boards, pamphlets, magazines, any resources at all! [more inside]
I am really bad at dealing with medical bills and keeping track of when I've met my deductible, particularly with out-of-network providers. Is there an app or software that can help with the administration?
I had a pretty terrible encounter with an incredibly aggressive person today. I feel a bit shaky and fragile. How do I cope when I deserve what happened to me? [more inside]
We're about to add a fourth member to our team, and will want to hold occasional staff meetings on the telephone. There are so many conference calling services out there that I'm just overwhelmed! We just need a way to talk on the phone together. This is for a backroom-type operation so 24/7 customer service, video, and other frills are irrelevant. All potential participants are US-based and the dial-in number need not be toll-free (although that would be a nice thing to have). Low cost is good; free would be better.
I'm looking for a therapist to help with my excessively self-destructive, masochistic desires and tendencies. Don't misunderstand; I don't need a "kink-aware" therapist, because these feelings do not fall within the realm of safe, sane, and consensual; they're compulsive, intrusive, and interfering with my life. They are also not exclusivly sexual or fetishistic in nature. I'm putting myself in real danger, and I need someone to help me stop wanting to.
I have an engineering degree and seven years of experience working as a mechanical engineer in a niche industry. I was laid off over a year ago, and I still can't find a job. [more inside]
I'm super bad at planning travel stuff and I'm trying to take a vacation with my girlfriend at the end of December. We'd like to do 3 nights at a quiet-ish beach within reasonable driving distance of Disney World and Universal Studios (because Harry Potter) in Orlando, and 4 nights doing both of those theme parks. First time Disney planner here, and I don't know anything about Florida beaches really. [more inside]
Challenges: Needs to be VERY easy to use. This is for a 99-year old who is forgetful, and has both hand mobility and vision issues. It needs to be something that is just very, very basic. She is hard-of-hearing, and also needs a good headset with clear audio at higher levels. I will be loading up audiobooks, probably from my local library, so she doesn't need to learn to do that, just the playing of the book.
I'm looking for ideas for things to do with my in-laws and my six week old baby that require basically zero walking. [more inside]
When I was on vacation in Chicago last year I stopped by the Field Museum and happened to catch a video in the Senegal exhibit of a musician playing and singing a song that I thought was really beautiful. I recall that he was playing the kora and that the lyrics pertained to a shaman or similar person. I have tried looking on the Field Museum website and sending them an email but no dice so far. Does anyone know who is in the video and/or the name of the song?
I own a weekender bag and a rolling Eagle Creek bag (front view, rear view). I often use the two together, but haven't figured out a way to attach the former to the latter (so I can roll both). Any suggestions? [more inside]
I am the first bartender this restaurant has hired and this is also my first bartending job, so both the owner and I are coming up with the tip out policy from scratch. This is in the US -- if you are not familiar with how US tipping culture works, please don't answer. [more inside]
Our office building is in the process of switching over to all-LED lighting. Our recessed can lights were recently swapped and it's causing a lot of grief- will we just get used to it over time or can I buy some warming filters that won't melt or look like yellow/orange/red dots all over our ceiling? I have only found theatrical lighting sources online so far. Help!
I'm going to start by admitting that my interest in reading went from avid bookworm to "I don't even want to read this considerably lengthy text message." That being said, I'm about ready to jump back into literature. So where do I start? [more inside]
If I have to pay back a signing bonus because I didn't stay at the job for a full year, is there any way to recover the taxes I paid on the signing bonus? [more inside]
Anne Carson is an oft-recommended poet/writer here on Ask.Mefi, but if she's your starting point, then where do you go? [more inside]
I noticed something about myself yesterday that I think I need help with. Basically, no matter how happy I am at the start of the day, I am often emotionally and physically depleted by the end of it. How can I maintain my 8:30am levels of optimism, competence and energy so they're not completely gone by the afternoon? [more inside]
I would like to find a software program that allows me to trigger photos/short video both live and preplanned. More explanation inside. [more inside]
For the past couple years I have gone to sleep with podcasts on (usually sports or news podcasts) and find it really difficult to go to sleep without a podcast on. I have tried sound machines and they do not help. No matter how long I sleep, I generally wake up feeling fatigued, and can have brain fog or feel tired and am tired throughout the day. I have never been a particularly great sleeper, but I am at a place that I need to address the fatigue. I am going to go get checked by a sleep doctor in a couple months (switching insurance and travel schedule), but in the meantime I am assessing things I am doing that may cause the fatigue. Does anyone sleep with podcasts on? Could this be an issue? My thought is maybe my brain is semi-engaged because I am listening to the conversation. Total guess, but thought I would reach out and see if anyone else has dealt with this. Thanks!
I found a scrap of paper and I'm very curious about it. It looks like a syllabus or course notes, and it refers to aggressors, defenders, and using will and visualization. Full text inside. [more inside]
Where can I find Indian movies with decent English subtitles to stream or download? [more inside]
Can you recommend a historical book to give me some background and context before I visit India? I'd like to learn more about the region's history to understand what I'm seeing. [more inside]
Three of the hardier herbs we had been growing in our back yard--sage, mint, and lavender--survived our absent-minded neglect and made it through the summer. As the temperatures drop, we've taken them indoors for the winter. We can provide either 1) warmth and artificial light, or 2) cold protection from the elements, but natural light all day long. What's better? [more inside]
Myboy’s twin passions are Minecraft and The Amazing World of Gumball. We are throwing him a GumCraft/MineBall 9th birthday party and would love suggestions on decorations, food/treats, beverages, music, party favors, and activities. Either Minecraft or Gumball suggestions would be great, but suggestions that meld the two themes together would simply rock the house. [more inside]
I have observed a new phenomenon in myself this year and noticed different patterns in how my brain interacts with language in the period after trauma. I have a lot of other stress reactions going on that seem to be hypothalamus stuff (loss of circadian rhythm, weird appetite things, feeling hot and sweaty) but am not sure how any of that plays into processing language. I would love to learn more about this, either from anecdotes or from a more research-based perspective. [more inside]
10 y/o female cat. She's urinated on the bed twice before, but never when we were in it. Now it's happened with us IN THE BED twice in the course of three days. What the hell do we do, and what the hell does this mean? [more inside]
Several months back I revisited a lifelong ambition and joined (part time) acting school. I was as a high as a kite... tapping into 'that' part of myself again, feeling encouraged and 'got' by a seemingly fun/knowledgeable/encouraging and well connected teacher, classmates are nice too.. but... [more inside]
We’ve decided to get married after dating for about 1.5 years because he needs a visa to stay here, and I feel weird telling my friends about it. [more inside]
My delightful and delicious farm share provides me with a sizable bunch of dandelion greens every week. I'm looking for recipes that mask the bitterness. [more inside]
I'm addicted to online gambling, and it's taking a toll on my social life, pocketbook, and self-esteem. I need to quit - and have tried to - but have relapsed each time within a week, give or take. The relapse usually occurs when I'm anxious/stressed (which unfortunately is quite often lately). To MeFites that have struggled with and overcome some form of addiction - how did you beat your habit? What did it take? How did you resist the temptation, even in moments of weakness? [more inside]
Can you explain what the differences between Raspberry Pi, Arduino or equivalent is in terms a non-techno-savvy 5 year old could understand? What do I need for the best Raspberry Pi (or equivalent) system / computer (?) for an IT developer? Difficulty - any suggestions will need to be available in Canada. [more inside]
Can I substitute kansui for lye or baking soda for making pretzels? [more inside]
Assuming we'll be together until death, I'm wondering what the reasons are for and against marrying my partner. [more inside]
What do I need to do and where do I need to go to have my adult brother receive a professional assessment stating he has autism and will need lifelong health insurance through my father? [more inside]
I'm creating an online poll for work, and have two options for user responses. Will the final tally be radically different if I choose one over the other? [more inside]
German visitor to the U.S. need a micro sim card with data for her iphone... [more inside]
I work for a small non-profit organisation. Our move from a hand-coded website to a WordPress-based system has stalled, and the company who were doing the work are no longer formally involved. Help me to understand who I'd need to engage to get the work finished. [more inside]
So I used to use Kaboodle, but it's plagued with bugs lately, and I can't access my account or my wishlists-- or make a new account. Does any one know of a Wishlist website that lets you add and sort subcategories/subsections when adding items? (Bonus points: Has a bookmarklet/browswer button). [more inside]
The organization I work for is concerned about inaccurate information on our Wikipedia page. What's the best way to go about getting that changed? [more inside]
I have an important human Kinesiology question: are there different muscles for farting and pooping? Specifically, when one has a fart feeling that might be a poop, it feels as though one has the control to selectively let out the potential fart but not the potential poop. Is this a dangerous delusion? Is it really just a "let it all out" switch?
In the vein of "squirrel away" or "ferret away" (and maybe even "badger"), I'm looking for a verb from the animal kingdom that means working hard at something, persistently and continually. It's come up a few times where I've wanted to say "Continue animaling away at the problem", but the particular beast I'm looking for eludes me. Help?
My long hair is a casualty of a recent ICU stint. I am ok with going short and starting over. But... There are complications. 1, I am still in hosp, and when I leave will be in a skilled nursing facility. 2, I moved here two days before ending up in hosp and have no friend base. 3, I have $40. I am hoping to find someone who would be willing to work in those confines to cut and style my hair, who does have experience. The nurses have no suggestions. I don't even know where to start, and am over whether by enough life changes in the past three months to last a lifetime. I need this to be as simple as possible. Please forgive not doing all the requisite searches, limited by tablet and energy. Thanks for suggestions on who might be able to help.
Lennon manages projects. Each project takes 125 about working days to complete. Lennon must complete 39 projects in any given twelve month period. How many projects must Lennon manage simultaneously so that the boss could cut a twelve-month wide window in a piece of paper, slide it over the Gantt chart, and always see the finalisation of 39 projects? [more inside]
I am an adult intermediate piano student. Lately I've started taping my practice sessions and I hear the musical shortcomings (rhythm, dynamics and shaping). But I find it difficult to catch these flaws while I'm playing. I have no trouble hearing wrong notes when playing, but it's the other musical dimensions that I'm not paying attention to. My rhythm is not grossly wrong but it sometimes can drift just a little. What exercises or techniques do you know that would help improve my sensitivity while I'm playing?
My wife is working on her dissertation on the topic of self-deception and self-knowledge. She'd like to create a database of examples of self-deception from literature or film to better illustrate her work. What are some interesting or novel fictional examples of people who are (or have been) self-deceived, ignorant about themselves, or who, conversely, have unnaturally good insight into themselves?
Does anyone here know of a patent attorney in the Bay Area whom they like and trust? [more inside]
I want to take a train journey across the US, from east to west. Which route should I pick? Complication: January. [more inside]
First non monogamous relationship. First serious post-marriage relationship. Lots of feelings. Need a navigator. [more inside]
I'm 23 years old and I have had rough tiny bumps all over my face for a few years now. They are not really acnes because they do not go away and are skin-colored. I have a good skin care routine, which I cleanse and moisturize daily and I use a Clarisonic about 3 times a week. Nothing seems to help my skin be smooth. I'm not sure if my condition should be seen by a dermatologist or not since it's not really a major problem. Should I go to a dermatologist's office or a cosmetic skin care center that offers chemical peels and microdermabrasions? Here's a picture of how my skin looks.
I have a whole pickled cabbage sitting in my fridge and I don't want to throw it out. Help! [more inside]
This weekend me and pips (aka mrs. jonmc) will be in Baltimore. We have a wedding on Saturday to go to, but sunday and monday are more or less ours. Not to be cliched but I definitely want great crab cakes, pit beef, etc. We'll be staying by the inner harbor but we'll have a rental car. Please tell me the must-go joints. Thanks.
I am thinking of buying a brownstone in Boston as an investment property. It contains three apartments, but the legal status is currently only one-family. Historically it was a legal three-family, but previous owners changed the occupancy to one family in1973. There are currently three totally separate apartments that are being rented despite it only being a one family. My question is what is the procedure and cost to get it back to legal three family status? [more inside]
Where should we go for a vacation in mid-January with our two small children? We don't need anything complicated; we just want to play on the beach, read books, eat tasty food, and maybe see a few fun things. [more inside]
What men's hair salon in NYC (Manhattan) should I go to? [more inside]
I had 4 drinks on halloween night - over the course of 4 hours - which resulted in ten hours of serious vomiting the next day. This is not the first time this has happened. Why can't my body tolerate alcohol? [more inside]
Please watch the sequence running from 32:24 to 33:19 in this episode of the BBC's Human Universe (which may be available only in the UK). It appears to be one unbroken take. My question is this: where was the camera positioned at each stage throughout that sequence? [more inside]
I have an xbox one and space is quickly running out. I have researched harddrives and western digital seems pretty reliable. If it's going to be used externally via a usb 3.0 docking station will there be any benefit to getting a black drive over a blue drive? The difference is about $20. I don't need it right away so I'm doing my research. This is the docking station I will most likely be using seeing how I already have one. http://www.amazon.com/Cable-Matters-SuperSpeed-Docking-Station/dp/B0099TX7O4
Mr Sally makes great chili from scratch, green or red, but he longs to create the flavor of -- yes -- the canned chili of his youth. Which we don't eat, given the high sodium, bad fat, etc. He says they all had a certain taste he has yet to replicate. What was it? [more inside]
My girlfriend recently had an instance alone where she contemplated (but did not attempt) suicide. It was the first time she'd experienced what she now recalls as a hallucination. She saw a psychotherapist 2 days afterwards to discuss options. After talking with the therapist, she decided to check in for inpatient psychiatric care (and arranged it for the same day). How can I be the best advocate for her health right now? [more inside]
I would like to have a career in one of the federal agencies that administers our nation's (that is, America's) public and protected lands—a park ranger or similar. What are the prospects like for those types of jobs, and how do I go about getting one given where I am now and where I plan to be in a year or so's time? [more inside]
Attorneys, law students, anyone: what is the best legal opinion you've ever read? I am fascinated by legal rhetoric and I want to read the best-written, best-argued, opinions (majority or dissenting) you can come up with. Amicus briefs will also be accepted. And the case doesn't need to be historical or momentous, nor does it need to be a Supreme Court case, but cool of it is.
I've discussed with some friends the possibility of starting a local group for women of color who are working to move into the upper ranks of the corporate and non-profit worlds. I have the format of the group all set up. I have a list of invitees. I have topics women would like to hear discussed. I even have potential guest speakers. What I don't have is a name. [more inside]
My hubby and I had an enormous blowup a few months ago and it's still bothering me. I am seeing a counselor to work through some of the residual feelings and depression that have come in the aftermath of the fight, which is helping a lot. I would like some additional insight from other MeFites about how you have dealt with difficult feelings with a partner after a really bad incident. [more inside]
Is there an iOS app that facilitates the simple exchange of contact information (to avoid the "What's your cell/email/Facebook/Twitter?" type routine)? [more inside]