November 2013 Archives

November 30

Help me miss my Dad

My Dad died this week after a long illness. I don't feel a thing, except maybe tired. How do I get my feelings back? Are there resources for people like me? [more inside]
posted by SecondSock at 11:52 PM PST - 36 comments

Requesting book recommendations for a one-year-old

My one year old niece loves books that "do things" - especially ones with flaps to lift. Her favorite thing to do when she wakes up is to play quietly with her books for about 20 minutes, and I'd love to encourage that. I would like to get her some books for Christmas. I've purchased Fuzzy Bee and Squishy Turtle for children before, and they were well-received, but the children were younger (in the 6 month range). Are Fuzzy Bee and Squishy Turtle too young for her? Can you recommend any other books that she might like? Her parents are open to anything, as she doesn't have many books and they'd like her to have more, but they're first time parents and not sure what she'd like either.
posted by RogueTech at 10:45 PM PST - 20 comments

Midnight snacks that are safe(-er) for teeth?

I'm looking for midnight snacks that are less likely to cause tooth problems/tooth decay/etc. Assume that I'm grabbing this food in the middle of the night and then going back to bed without brushing my teeth. [more inside]
posted by Deathalicious at 10:02 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I exercise in winter?

I have been running 3 to 4 miles every other day since about June of this year. It has become a very important part of maintaining my mental health, and now that winter has arrived it has been nearly impossible to run. What do I do now to stay active and sane? [more inside]
posted by Hey Dean Yeager! at 9:32 PM PST - 23 comments

What's a proxy app for Chrome that works like Anonymox for Firefox?

Is there an app like the Firefox extension Anonymox for Chrome? I have switched to Chrome, but I can't figure out how to use a proxy as easily as I did on Firefox. [more inside]
posted by vincele at 9:30 PM PST - 4 comments

Replacement hat

I bought this hat, I think, in Cairns back in 2002/2003, lost it a few years ago, and would dearly love another one like it. Every now and then I get online & try searching for one, but I can never find the right thing. I loved this hat, I found the width of the brim to be just perfect for me, it was easy to shove into my handbag with mangling it, it was light, wouldn't blow off, etc etc. Above the blue/black band, was more white & a blue star on the top. It was made of cotton & either knitted crocheted. Is there a specific name for this type of sunhat? I don't want anything with bows or frills or other adornments. Happy to consider commissioning someone to make one.
posted by goshling at 9:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Poisoning the well of Facebook's facial recognition

I don't like that Facebook knows my face, so I'm tagging myself (and asking that friends tag me) in a lot of random photos. Does this work? Any tips to do this more efficiently? Is the algorithm already smart enough to detect that something fishy is going on?
posted by Tom-B at 9:07 PM PST - 15 comments

Are these running tights or underwear (or both)?

I received these compression pants and I would like to use them as running tights. To my mind, the difference between "running tights" and "base layer" is primarily just marketing, but similar models look like they are really just meant to be underwear. Assuming the ugly waistband is covered by my shirt or jacket, can the pants I received be worn as running tights (without shorts over the top), or will everyone think I'm running in my long johns?
posted by stopgap at 8:31 PM PST - 21 comments

I bit off more than I can chew. How do I deal with a potential F?

I've been overwhelmed with personal issues and professional involvement this semester, and I completely dropped the ball in one of my classes. The term project is due in a few days, and I think I might be unable to complete it, which would mean failing. I am a good student. This has never happened to me before. How do I address this situation? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by rensar at 7:58 PM PST - 20 comments

How can I accept online donations given some snowflake details?

I'm raising funds for a non-profit, and I have a quota to meet. They have an online donation form, but I need donations attributed to me. And there's no way for me to look over the list. How can I accept online donations? [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 7:28 PM PST - 6 comments

can I eat this, butter edition

long story short: apartment fire on Monday, frantic move on Tuesday, unorganized to say the least. I had butter in my freezer.Just found the butter in a box in my new kitchen a few minutes ago , thawed. it is still holding its shape. is it still edible?
posted by St. Alia of the Bunnies at 7:06 PM PST - 20 comments

How to make Windows 7 find all files. Like Mac program Easyfind.

Hi everyone. Sometimes I'm trying to find an obscure system or game file, and it is actually very difficult to get Windows 7 to understand that, yes, I want it to search through ALL files on a disk. [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 7:00 PM PST - 5 comments

To catch a mouse...

Give me all your best tips for catching mice and making traps more effective. Creative ideas welcome, I just want these little bastards dead! [more inside]
posted by catatethebird at 6:52 PM PST - 22 comments

New Yorker publication schedule

I know that the New Yorker Magazine publishes 47 times per year. But what weeks does it skip? There doesn't seem to be calendar of publication/non-publication weeks. I have a recurring fear of finishing an issue at the end of a week only to find that I have to wait 7 more days for another one. (the horror!)
posted by schrodycat at 6:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Dog defense in Los Angeles

Good people of MeFi, please tell me anything you can about defending against a plaintiff and animal control after having your dog bite someone. Anecdotes? Love to hear 'em. Attorney recommendations? Love those even more. Getting homeowners insurance affordably after settling a dog bite suit? I'll listen to and consider anything and everything. California and Los Angeles a plus.
posted by infinitewindow at 5:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Banking error?

I deposited $200 cash into my checking account today and requested that the teller push the funds through so they would be posted today and I could use them on Monday. This evening, I checked my online banking statement and I had two deposits and an available balance totaling $200 more than expected. [more inside]
posted by sarahgrace at 5:35 PM PST - 10 comments

iPad stand for the office?

I'm looking for a stable iPad stand to support the iPad as an additional screen in the office. [more inside]
posted by cahlers at 5:06 PM PST - 4 comments

Stomach crunches: more quickly, or fewer but holding them?

Is it better (in terms of muscle building) to do a large number of stomach crunches quickly without pausing at the 'up' part of each crunch, or fewer but pausing and holding the muscles tensed for a few seconds with each crunch?
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 4:53 PM PST - 7 comments

I never want to cry about my body again.

I'm 21, got both legs and arms, a working brain, am decently attractive and completely healthy. I have periodic crashes where I whole-heartedly despise certain parts of my body and fall into deep despair. What can I do to help avoid these crashes? I am seeing a counselor and she's been helpful in that regard. I ask: other than therapy, when did YOU stop giving a crap about your bodily imperfections? And what's helpful to you when you do start needlessly worrying? [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen at 4:29 PM PST - 51 comments

Can my ex withhold work that I've already paid for?

YANML. TINLA. What are the possible legal ramifications of a contractor accepting payment for work, but refusing to deliver the completed (or partially completed) work once the business relationship is terminated? Possible complication: the contractor is a soon-to-be-ex-spouse. [more inside]
posted by justonegirl at 4:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Learn to code the hard way

I want to learn to program, and I really like the webpage for python, "Learn Python the Hard Way." Are there any other books/websites that work in this type of style for learning how to code? Ones where they really stress the basics and walk you through exercises? Thanks.
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 4:14 PM PST - 13 comments

Need park games & ice breakers for kids and moms

What kind of easy 1) ice breaker kind of game and 2) active game can a small group of kids and their moms play together as a group in a park? [more inside]
posted by biscuits at 4:11 PM PST - 3 comments

Plan My Day For Me Mount Dora Edition

Mrs. W and I are spending the weekend after Christmas in Mount Dora, FL. Recommendations wanted- restaurants (particularly lunch), arty type stuff, bookstores, out of the way gems we might not otherwise know about. Plan our weekend!
posted by wittgenstein at 3:23 PM PST - 2 comments

How much to charge for part-time film lecturer position?

[HowMuchShouldIChargeFilter]: I've recently been asked to teach a filmmaking course in New York on a part-time basis by a private start-up. What to charge? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by war wrath of wraith at 3:01 PM PST - 8 comments

"Scalper" ticket source for Stirling Castle Christmas events?

My mother and I have planned a somewhat last-minute trip to Scotland and we just discovered the Carols at the Castle event at Stirling Castle on the 15th. It is, of course, wildly popular and already sold out. Where might an enterprising couple of ladies manage to find tickets from those who have purchased them but no longer want/can use them? In the US I'd look on Craigslist for something like this, but that doesn't seem to be a popular option here in the UK. Gumtree hasn't given me anything either. Any way for us to track them down, or is it a sadly lost cause?
posted by olinerd at 2:31 PM PST - 11 comments

Christmas Entertainment in San Francisco?

My wife and I usually visit our families on the east coast for Christmas. This year, however, my wife will be 35 weeks pregnant, so we're staying home in San Francisco. We'd like to find some festive Christmas events in San Francisco to entertain us that are local and compatible with being pregnant (so Santacon is probably out). Bonus points for events that are uniquely San Franciscan.
posted by pombe at 1:56 PM PST - 8 comments

How do tattoo parlors stay in business?

I don't know anything about how much tattoos cost. I know I see a lot of small tattoo parlors all over the place. I got to wondering how many tattoos they would need to do a month in order to stay in business. How much does it typically cost to run a tattoo parlor?
posted by curious nu at 12:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me to be a Secret Santa

I need to make some purchases online for Christmas - but I don't want the items to show up on the sidebar. We're a one computer family and my 16 year old daughter will easily figure out what Santa's bringing. I know there's a way to surf and purchase covertly, but when I Google "shop online secretly" and other such phrases, I don't find what I'm looking for.
posted by kbar1 at 12:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Fiction featuring Thanksgiving gatherings?

What are some examples of works of fiction (e.g. novels, movies) that feature a Thanksgiving family gathering as a major plot element? [more inside]
posted by Asparagus at 11:18 AM PST - 21 comments

Short. Sweet. Macabre.

An artist friend makes charming decorative lettered signs with uplifting, inspiring words on them. 'Growth.' 'Love.' 'Inspire.' 'Dream.' I asked her if she had 'Vengeance' - regrettably, it was not in stock. [more inside]
posted by Lou Stuells at 11:14 AM PST - 58 comments

Recorded history...What's a good way to approach studying it?

My local news can barely report stories accurately when they happen on the same day, in the same town. How can I trust the validity of information that's been whispered-down-the-lane for decades, centuries or millenia? And if history isn't intended to be entirely factual, then what are we supposed to be gaining by studying it? [more inside]
posted by jumelle at 10:41 AM PST - 16 comments

Help us move without too much chaos!

We are making a local move (less than a mile) to a new house. When my husband and I moved into our current 4-bedroom house 14 years ago, it was the two of us coming from a small two-bedroom apartment with not much stuff - I packed it all, had movers, and it was done in a day. This is not that move. Please share your tips and tricks for moving a big, complicated household! [more inside]
posted by Lulu's Pink Converse at 10:30 AM PST - 19 comments

Instead of sending out Xmas Cards to clients - I need an alternative

I'm looking for an innovative alternative to sending out Xmas cards to clients. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 10:01 AM PST - 13 comments

Blood work: how do I normalize values over time between different labs?

How do I normalize similar values from multiple medical tests with different reference ranges? [more inside]
posted by cgs at 9:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Vocabulary buffs: What's the word for this?

What's a word that means you say things to make people believe your intent or mindset is different than it is in order to harm them later without them suspecting you? For example, you might mention in discussion how much stealing disgusts you so that they won't suspect you later when you steal from them. [more inside]
posted by Defenestrator at 9:09 AM PST - 49 comments

How do I eyeliner?

I'm late to the makeup game and would like to get better at applying eyeliner. I am especially interested in doing the cat-eye look that's become so popular recently. Unfortunately, I have had some problems. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 8:37 AM PST - 33 comments


How do you know when you've truly forgiven someone? How do you let go of old pain when you've long ago forgiven the person who caused it? Is it possible to truly forgive someone but still not want them in your life? [more inside]
posted by evil otto at 8:28 AM PST - 21 comments

what are these red blotches on skin

My partner went hiking in Spain about a year and a half ago. She experienced some difficulties with her feet so it was a difficult hike with a fair amount of pain to complete the journey. She stayed in hostels along the way. She now has what looks like poison oak patches on her feet and arms that never seem to heal. [more inside]
posted by diode at 8:12 AM PST - 22 comments

How do I find out if my wireless bridge, wireless router is the problem?

This is a follow up to this question. My cable provider allows me to use ethernet instead of coax. Wired works fine, but wireless bridge sort of works fine ... it'll play fine for long stretches then inexplicably freeze up. No other devices are on the wireless network. How can I troubleshoot this problem? I can certainly upgrade my router, which is 300mbps wireless-n, but I have a feeling that raw bandwidth isn't the issue. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 8:03 AM PST - 7 comments

Fantasy/sci-fi TV series NOT available on Netflix?

I'm looking for a DVD stocking stuffer for my partner, who loves fantasy and science fiction television series of varying quality (examples within). He uses his Netflix account heavily. Do you know of any fantasy or sci-fi series that are slightly more obscure -- meaning they're not available on Netflix, but are still available for DVD purchase? [more inside]
posted by southern_sky at 7:47 AM PST - 36 comments

Best cities for a mid-thirties single woman: international edition

I asked this question recently: best cities for a mid thirties single woman, and got lots of awesome answers about US cities (thank you!). I'm wondering the same about some cities outside the US (I have a few specific ones in mind). [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 7:38 AM PST - 10 comments

Will my partially frozen soda be OK?

I happened upon an extremely good sale on 2-liter bottles of soda yesterday, and stocked up for entertaining this holiday season. Like a big dummy, I forgot they were in my trunk over night, and when I went and retrieved them this morning, they were partially frozen. [more inside]
posted by mzwz at 5:20 AM PST - 14 comments

Where can I buy glasses online?

I'm about to go get an eye exam, and I would like to buy my glasses online. However, there seem to be so many sites out there that I'm having trouble choosing which one to order from. What have your experiences been like? [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp at 4:54 AM PST - 38 comments

Un-waterproofing a fleece jacket

How can I remove the waterproofing treatment from a polyester fleece jacket? I've tried running it through the wash a few times, which is about all I can think of. [more inside]
posted by CustooFintel at 1:53 AM PST - 5 comments

November 29

Is bitcoin mining worth it at this point?

So bitcoins have gone up in value a lot recently. It's gotten to the point that supercomputer level processing power is being used in some mining rigs. Does it make any sense for the average Joe that has a single laptop to a few home desktops to spare at most to join a pooled mining coop like this? Or is it a complete waste of time and electricity?
posted by bookman117 at 11:36 PM PST - 10 comments

I love my boots, but they hate my socks. Help!

I have several different pairs of boots - ankle, cowboy, calf-length - and I have the same problem with each. How do I find socks that don't slide down and get scrunched under my heels within a dozen steps? [more inside]
posted by Salieri at 10:50 PM PST - 19 comments

What are these mystery cables in my condo?

My new condo (built 2005) has a couple of holes in the wall with pink cables coming out and another hole with random wires. [more inside]
posted by globotomy at 10:13 PM PST - 5 comments

What's a reasonable price range for airfare from New York to Tokyo?

I'm traveling with a friend to Tokyo next year, May 24th to June 6th. I've had Orbitz, Expedia, Kayak and Skyscanner on heavy rotation for three weeks and the best price I can find for travel time shorter than 24 hours is about $1500 round-trip. I'd rather not get scolded by our friends for paying too much, and Googling "nyc to tokyo airfare price range" is giving me the equivalent of hearing "usual and customary" from my insurance company, so I am turning to MeFites for help. Possible pertinent details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Recliner of Rage at 10:13 PM PST - 13 comments

Red state vs. Blue state: where can you do more good?

I'm currently serving as an AmeriCorps VISTA in VT and while I love it here in this socialist wonderland, I find myself wondering if poverty-related service wouldn't do more immediate good in a red state. [more inside]
posted by youcancallmeal at 10:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Using OpenVPN only for specific applications

I have a working PPTP VPN with very specific routing requirements that I need to replace with OpenVPN due to issues with our ISP, and I am having issues adapting my Linux routing table rules to OpenVPN. [more inside]
posted by chundo at 8:51 PM PST - 4 comments

Tastless, cheap liquid caffeine

For some time now, I've been getting my AM caffeine through these fancy "sparkling energy water" drinks I get at the health food store. They are totally unsweetened carbonated water with caffeine. These drinks are expensive, and earlier tonight my husband and I had a come to jesus talk about our out of control grocery budget. My daily sparkling energy water can has got to go. [more inside]
posted by long haired child at 8:07 PM PST - 26 comments

Samsung S4 protective cover deals

Looking for deals on covers for Samsung S4 [more inside]
posted by ladoo at 7:55 PM PST - 3 comments

EZ-pour wine decanter?

I find wide-bottomed decanters hard to pour from, especially when I'm sitting at a table. Can you recommend one that's not too heavy and can safely be used even by clumsy people? [more inside]
posted by wryly at 7:04 PM PST - 8 comments

Making furniture from reclaimed materials. Wut.

I plan to take up a new hobby: making furniture from reclaimed wood and metals. What should I read? What materials do I need? What should I know? [more inside]
posted by Mr C at 6:53 PM PST - 11 comments

End of life planning

My brother and I are sitting down with my parents tomorrow to discuss specifics of what they've put in place for end of life planning. What should we ask? [more inside]
posted by chiababe at 6:07 PM PST - 23 comments

I need wedding shoes that fit orthotics

I'm getting married in October 2014 and I'm starting the search for shoes now as I need to get shoes that will fit my orthotics. [more inside]
posted by poxandplague at 5:24 PM PST - 3 comments

What should I know about Lake Merrit that I'm afraid to ask?

We'd like to learn everything there is to know about Lake Merritt and the surrounding neighborhoods. [more inside]
posted by nominal at 5:12 PM PST - 16 comments

Examples of transactional relationships in pre-industrial cultures

Anthropologists, please help-- I'm looking for unique examples of interpersonal relationships or family/friendship customs that are blatantly transactional, specifically in so-called "primitive" tribes or far-flung cultures that exist/have existed within the past century. The more surprising, extreme, or out-there the anecdote, the better. [more inside]
posted by np312 at 3:47 PM PST - 11 comments

Best starter lens for Canon 60D?

I'm buying my first DSLR, a Canon 60D. My original intention had been to purchase a body and (18-55mm) lens kit and spend some time learning with that before purchasing any other lenses. However, I have found an excellent deal on a 60D body only and am contemplating purchasing that and putting the savings (and maybe a little top-up from the slush-fund) to purchasing a separate lens. (Especially as i understand that kit lenses tend not to be great quality). What would be your recommendation for a good, versatile lens for a DSLR beginner?
posted by jcm at 3:25 PM PST - 21 comments

Keep me from buying a 'homebuying for dummies' book.

My wife and I are trying to wrap our heads around the process of purchasing a home. We know a little bit, but we also know there are gaps in that knowledge. We're looking for information on how to go about the process, and what specifically we should be doing to assess the prudence of home-buying [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 3:20 PM PST - 25 comments

How to administrate "photos with Santa" as painlessly as possible.

My place of employment (an agro-tourism destination) has procured someone to play Santa this weekend for photos with kids (by donation), and we are having trouble figuring out the best way to deal with the paperwork and administration of that, without it turning into a huge nightmare. [more inside]
posted by wats at 3:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Kill the Buzz Kill

I met a guy recently who has an amazing personality. He's incredibly playful and sweet, and he's a nerdy feisty intellectual. Precisely the type I like. I want to go on a few dates with him and see if there's anything there, but my interest in him is dwindling already because of a certain something, and this always happens to me. It's damn frustrating and I'd like to change it, but I don't even know precisely what 'it' is. [more inside]
posted by OneHermit at 3:09 PM PST - 27 comments

How do I hold people accountable in a fair and reasonable way?

Over the summer I was promoted to Art Director at my small company (15 people total). I've never been a director before, and so far things have been going really well, but I feel like I'm still on shaky ground when it comes to dealing with people when they've made mistakes. What are you supposed to do and say when someone screws up and you want them to be held accountable but you also want to treat them like the human being they are? [more inside]
posted by Hello Darling at 3:00 PM PST - 17 comments

How can I turn my Finnish visa into a temporary residence permit?

I'd like to turn my Finnish tourist visa into a temporary residence permit, and I don't know how. [more inside]
posted by crawltopslow at 2:19 PM PST - 3 comments

career switch from public to private sector

I currently work in the federal government in transportation. Its the third career I've had (had worked in the private sector in IT and the nonprofit sector as well). I've been there for about six years and have a good track ahead of me - it's a safe and stable one, if a little monotonous and mono-industry. I make an excellent salary and have thought of returning to the private sector at some point. [more inside]
posted by waylaid at 1:20 PM PST - 6 comments

A good mechanic near New Orleans for a '94 4Runner?

This is a long shot, but does anybody know a good mechanic in the New Orleans area who'll work on my old 4Runner? I'm having a hard time finding one for some reason. [more inside]
posted by Scientist at 1:15 PM PST - 5 comments

How do the recent Stereolab reissues sound?

I'm wondering if anyone has picked up any of the recent Stereolab reissues from 1972, and if so how do they sound? I'd like Emperor Tomato Ketchup and Mars Audiac Quintet on vinyl, but a previous reissue of Peng! by Too Pure was totally unlistenable, so I'd like some feedback before laying down my cash.
posted by The Card Cheat at 12:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Let's pretend it's not winter.

I am looking for gardening books focusing on perennial flowers or vegetables or books on landscaping design/ideas that will make me drunk with plans for spring. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 12:28 PM PST - 6 comments

How much do you spend on food in a month?

I just downloaded the app and found to my absolute horror that partner and I are spending $1300 a month on food (!!!) Surely this cannot be right. What does your budget look like and what is an average spend for you? [more inside]
posted by everydayanewday at 12:23 PM PST - 79 comments

Where to go on beach/scuba vacation, renting a house, w/in-laws & kids?

I'm looking for suggestions on where to go on vacation next summer (late July, early Aug 2014) with my in-laws and their kids. The criteria: 1) Within reasonable travel/flight time from Dallas, Texas. There will be four children on this trip, ages 1, 3, 5, and 7. 2) A house/apartment/bungalow to rent for around $2500/week to house 6 adults and the aforementioned four kids. 3) Good SCUBA diving for my father-in-law, brother-in-law, and myself (all with advanced open water). 4) Good beaches for my wife, mother-in-law, brother-in-law's wife, and the kids, preferably within easy access of the lodgings. Thanks very much.
posted by oneironaut at 12:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Starblazers/Space Battleship Yamato inconsistencies?

So I remember watching Star Blazers a bit as a kid. I remember enjoying it, but never really got into the long term storytelling that was going on. Was probably too young to understand it anyways. But I do specifically remember the Argo/Yamato being completely hopelessly destroyed what seemed like damn near every episode. And yet when the next episode began, everything was hunky dory. I don't remember this ever really being explained. Was it? Wikipedia hasn't been much help. This has been bugging me for a while, thanks!
posted by mediocre at 12:17 PM PST - 5 comments

NAME THAT FILM PART N, Regency Fop edition

Some time ago, on one of the national basic cable movie channels (USA, I think) which would run multiple showings of a given film for a month or so, I repeatedly flipped into a period film that amused me each time I watched a snippet. Unfortunately, I never watched enough of the film to get a good idea of the plot, and therefore can't effectively describe the story, sooo... [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 12:14 PM PST - 23 comments

Getting started with EC2 and SOA

I want to write a web app that deploys to EC2, but not having any prior experience I'm struggling to find the info I need to get started. [more inside]
posted by invitapriore at 11:54 AM PST - 7 comments

Books that allow ten y/o girl take new feelings out on "test drive"?

There is a scene in season 3, episode 4 of Louie ("Daddy's Girlfriend Part 2") where Louie is in a bookstore asking the salesperson (Parker Posie) about recommendations for his ten year old daughter. There is a great exchange where Parker Posie reveals to Louie that there are things about being female, that at that age, start coming "online." And that she knows of books that can "take these feelings, these big emotions, they let you take them out for a safe kind of spin." Then she hands Louie a book. At first I was dying to know what book, specifically, that was. Then I thought I might ask Mefites for recommendations for those types of books. Can y'all help me out? Books for ten year old girls that let them take new teenage emotions and feelings out for a "spin"?
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 11:44 AM PST - 36 comments

Awesome books from 2013?

What are some well reviewed books in 2013 that blow my socks off? [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 11:44 AM PST - 19 comments

Barnett Jackal vs. Wildcat Crossbow

I'm trying to find an entry-level crossbow for my husband. Correct me please if I'm wrong, but it looks like Barnett is a good brand and I've read that the Jackal is a decent entry level one. But I've noticed that there is one call the Wildcat and I can't figure out which is better. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 9:56 AM PST - 5 comments

Do you close the bathroom door when you're home alone?

On the most recent episode of Homeland, a female shut the bathroom door during use, which allowed an intruder to make a clean exit. The people I watched this with were baffled as to why she would close the door when she was home alone. This is something I do 90% of the time, and after talking to some other people I'm definitely not alone in doing this. I'm just curious if this normal, a guy or girl thing, something cultural? I guess for me it just feels odd to have the door open while in the bathroom.
posted by signondiego at 9:23 AM PST - 123 comments

Help me learn to daydream again

As a kid I loved to make up stories and fantasies. Now, 22 years old and almost out of college, I realized that I can't do this anymore, can't let my mind go where it will. How can I learn to? [more inside]
posted by gold-in-green at 9:14 AM PST - 12 comments

How to stay sane spending the holidays with my bigoted parents

How to stay sane spending the holidays with my bigoted parents [more inside]
posted by GorgeousPorridge at 9:10 AM PST - 35 comments

Seeking Metaphysical Mystery Tour

I'm looking for recommendations for literary crime novels. (Examples within.) [more inside]
posted by mlle valentine at 8:34 AM PST - 25 comments

What are the oldest art collections depicting life in Poland?

I'm looking specifically for paintings/art that depict what daily life was like for non-royal people in Poland. It's easy to find lot's of art depicting royalty but I'm looking for the oldest paintings that captured what the houses and villages and people looked like outside of the castles and royal families. [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 7:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Configurable soundfont player on old iPad

I'm looking for an app for my 1st gen iPad (iOS 5) that can play soundfonts and respond to a USB midi keyboard plugged in via the Camera Connection Kit. Ideally I could also set it up to fade between two different soundfonts via the keyboard's mod wheel (perhaps by mapping it as a pan control). Is there such a thing? [more inside]
posted by moonmilk at 7:38 AM PST - 3 comments

We can just drive around Brooklyn!

Help! My brother and his many children (ranging from 4 - 19 in age) are heading up to visit from PA right now. They live in Illinois, and spent Thanksgiving with other relatives. They are only coming for the day, and when I asked what they wanted to do, my brother said "we can just drive around and see Brooklyn". [more inside]
posted by catrae at 7:14 AM PST - 11 comments

Is there anything out there like a small pre-made deck I can buy?

Basically I have a very tiny tiny yard behind my place. It gets no sun and there's green carpet there now. One of my thoughts was to make a little 3x3 or so deck to put a couple of chairs on it. But rather than have someone build it, I was wondering if there's anything like a little pre-made, pre-treated deck - like shipping pallets or something only not awful - that anyone sells. It'll save me sawing off a finger or hiring a handyman or filling out permits. And I'd rather not do way too much for something so little.
posted by rileyray3000 at 6:51 AM PST - 10 comments

A crash Course into Netflix

I just signed up for netflix (streaming only) for the first time for several years (since 06-07ish). I'm looking for some great tips, tricks, and userscripts, other websites to get the most out of netflix, particularly with tuning the ratings system so it gives very relevant recommendations. [more inside]
posted by fizzix at 6:34 AM PST - 6 comments

What happens if a deer gets hit by a car but doesn't die?

If you hit a deer with your car, and it doesn't die, what happens to the deer? Does someone come and "put it out of it's misery"? Take it to the deer hospital? [more inside]
posted by smalls at 5:19 AM PST - 25 comments

Any business people out there? I'm looking for some tips.

Hi, I have been building up to launching a specialist coaching business in the new year for a long time. I have done a lot and learned a lot but there is still so much I'm unclear about... If anyone had any thoughts on any of the below I'd really appreciate your insight. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 4:56 AM PST - 8 comments

AV receivers which split audio and video output

Are there AV home theatre receivers which do the following with input and output: [more inside]
posted by Blazecock Pileon at 2:24 AM PST - 6 comments

Should I have casual gay sex?

I’m a 28 year old gay guy. Up until recently I had never considered the idea of having casual sex until now. Should I and if so how? [more inside]
posted by lifeliver7 at 1:54 AM PST - 15 comments

Why's it called that?

What are the etymological origins of the drink called "Chapman"? [more inside]
posted by orrnyereg at 12:35 AM PST - 2 comments

November 28

Why do I feel so sad, post wisdom tooth extraction?

I had a wisdom tooth extracted yesterday, surgically with IV sedation. I was very very nervous, but it went fine, and today the pain is under easy control from paracetamol. However, I feel not just completely drained (which is, I guess, understandable given how tense I was yesterday and the small physical trauma) but unusually sad. I can't remember the procedure due to the sedation, and I feel weirdly like I'm missing a bit of time that I shouldn't be. I feel ashamed that I was so nervous beforehand. But more than that I just feel so sad about nothing I can put my finger on. I take lofepramine for depression, which is generally pretty well under control. Would any of the drugs I might have been given yesterday counteracted it? Has anyone else experienced this?
posted by anonymous at 11:21 PM PST - 17 comments

Help me cater for Christmas

My family Christmas lunch has blown out from the usual 15 people to at least 27 and my original plan to roast a whole sirloin in the Webber isn't going to cut it. I have a motorised spit-roaster (charcoal, rated to 25kg) and I need to cook beef. What sort of cut should I order from the butcher to feed the crowd? [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 10:45 PM PST - 1 comment

Am I really gonna dump someone over a dog?

New SO's dog is sort of a nightmare. Can this get better or is it time to jump ship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:52 PM PST - 53 comments

Should I mention sexual harassment in a job interview?

The primary reason I'm interviewing for another job two months into a new position is because this potential job is a better fit with my interests and will better prepare me to move forward in the field. The secondary reason is because I want to escape the subtle but frequent and unwelcome sexual harassment going on at my current job and the office culture that is aware of this one man's behavior but doesn't see it as a problem. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:51 PM PST - 23 comments

Can't find peanut butter cup recipe

I can't seem to find a recipe I'm fairly certain I've seen in the past for peanut butter cups. I seem to recall that it involved not using any actual peanut butter, but starting with peanuts and grinding them up kinda coarsely with something else in them to get that weird, chunky, not-quite-peanut-butter consistency to the filling. Does anyone know what I'm talking about?
posted by DoctorFedora at 9:42 PM PST - 4 comments

A Certain Irritating Soundtrack

A friend of mine's been watching the anime "A Certain Scientific Railgun S", and he's been having trouble identifying one of the incidental music pieces. It's in episode 11, from 17:52 to 20:00--what song is this (mp3), used here, and which of the OSTs is it on, if any? He says he's searched them all, including a second Railgun S OST which apparently came out yesterday, but he can't seem to find it, though he admits that he might have missed it along the line. Any help you can offer he'd appreciate. Thanks!
posted by KChasm at 8:49 PM PST - 2 comments

Blanket of Earth?

Tonight my 8 year old niece told me that for Christmas she wants a blanket for her bed that has a giant picture of Earth on it. I asked her if she saw this somewhere, and she told me that she just thought about how cool it would be in her own head. I tried doing a Google search, but I'm having no luck. Anyone have an idea of where I might find such a thing? Thanks!
posted by ezrainch at 7:59 PM PST - 8 comments

NYC experience gift for a 9 year old boy: GO!!

I babysit a (pretty mature) just-turned-9 year old boy and would like to get him a ~$20 gift that is non-material and preferably something we can do together in Manhattan. He has two little brothers so the apartment is bursting at the seams toys and books. My first, best idea is a trip to the Superhero Supply Store in Brooklyn, which totally would be his jam, but Mom would probably prefer staying in the city, so I'd like to source some other ideas first! Something we could do after school together one day that wouldn't take more than 2 hours would be perfect. Educational and enriching are secondary to straight up fun. He's mostly an indoorsy bookwormy type whose yearly highlight is the NYCC. He does karate and loves Shake Shack (but too cold!) He's vaguely into video games. And his bday party is inviting friends over to watch Indiana Jones and eat "dirt cake". Is there anything coming up in the next month event-wise that the little dude would enjoy? Any ideas for fun experiences would be magnificent. Thank you MeFi!!!
posted by Juicy Avenger at 7:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Were/are the Taliban pro or anti-poppy? Why?

Sounds simple, but we were wondering because in 2000 for religious reasons they cut opium production and we're curious where they stand.
posted by glaucon at 6:15 PM PST - 2 comments

Find me my perfect PDF organizer!

In my line of work (doctoring), there are a lot of PDF files that I use, for example, handouts for patients, copies of guidelines, referral forms for particular clinics, etc. I'd love to be able to organize them hierarchically but also access them in a way that lets me search for keywords or tags and returns results quickly and dynamically, with the ability to easily print said PDF results. Are there any programs (for Windows) or cloud-based sites that might make this easy? Ideally it would be great to have a little search bar that could just sit on my desktop, but that would just be icing on the cake. Oh, and I've tried Mendeley - it works somewhat well for this, but it's a hassle to print files unless you open them up in Acrobat Reader or another external program.
posted by greatgefilte at 6:06 PM PST - 6 comments

Book ID Request: Book on Internet & Culture with Brin/Page interview

In an opening chapter of this book which I read a year or two ago, the author describes a meeting/discussion with Google's Brin and Page, during which one of them refuses to take his eyes off the mobile device he's holding (if memory serves, the author requests the Googler to be present and not distracted/have his attention split by his little device, to which the latter responds laconically in the negative). [more inside]
posted by tenderly at 5:39 PM PST - 3 comments

Will this facial flushing be permanent?

My cheeks were flushed and very hot when I woke up today thanks to an electric blanket.. Will the flushing probably be permanent? Pictures included. [more inside]
posted by cp311 at 5:27 PM PST - 10 comments

From "Did you play football in highschool?" to "Are you up for tenure?"

AcademicClothesFilter: MetaFilter, help me (20ish dude) find a store that sells awesome tweed or professorial-like sportscoats/jackets! I am a beginning academic who hates suits, but soon I will start to teach and go to conferences and will need to "look the part." Thus, I need to update my wardrobe with something thematically between "formal" and "wannabe hipster causal." The hitch is: I am sort-of built like a linebacker, with a very broad chest and very wide shoulders but with a not-quite-commensurately-large bottom torso, and thus sizing can often be an issue for me (i.e., getting more fabric "up top" in generic sizes ends up with billowing fabric down below). Is there any store that sells hot to trot professorial tweed that might fit someone with my body build? Or will I need to get a loose fit and then get it tailored? (Is that... what tailoring is?).
posted by Keter at 4:14 PM PST - 14 comments

Best alcohol to add to eggnog?

This holiday season I want to make a non-alcoholic eggnog and have some liquor on the side that people can just add to it. The question then is: bourbon, whiskey, rum, brandy...what's the best alcohol for eggnog? [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 4:09 PM PST - 31 comments

Alpine touring setup for a 105 lbs, 5'0" beginner skier

With just about every activity that I ended up enjoying, I started out by buying cheap-ish gear and then having to purchase everything all over again when I was ready to upgrade. Help me not do that when it comes to a randonee/alpine touring ski setup to be used in the Pacific Northwest backcountry. Complications: I'm a 5'0" woman with mondo size 22 feet, don't weigh a whole lot, and I'm going back to skiing after a decade of snowboarding (lessons start next month and I tend to be a very fast learner). I've my backpack, all clothing and avy gear, but I need skis, bindings, boots, poles, and skins. I'm on a budget and unfortunately nothing is available used in my size, but I'm willing to invest. Help?
posted by halogen at 2:30 PM PST - 9 comments

What does this part of the sentence mean?

I'm translating some Pynchon. Here's one of those endless and rambling sentences, and I can't figure out what this one part is supposed to mean. Longish sentence below. [more inside]
posted by Pyrogenesis at 2:18 PM PST - 9 comments

Owl problem.

There's this owl, and it starts hooting at around 2am, not finishing until 4:30am. This has now become a frequent occurrence, and it's driving me nuts. Unfortunately, one attempt to remedy the situation has made it worse. So, how can I get this owl to either shut up or go somewhere else? [more inside]
posted by Wordshore at 2:14 PM PST - 54 comments

Recommendations for an online meal planner?

I need to be better about managing my grocery budget and streamlining my time in the kitchen. I've just started poking around for options but I'm eager for hive mind recommendations. The main caveat is that I'm in Canada, which has ruled the promising Something that allows you to cost meals fairly easily would be nice. Please pardon any typos--mobile AskMeing is a bit tricksy.
posted by Decimask at 1:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Where can I buy these glasses frames?

I found the perfect frames for my new glasses! Unfortunately they are discontinued and I I can't find a supplier who will ship to the UK. I'm looking for Roxy 03
posted by Tapioca at 1:00 PM PST - 2 comments

Does it inconvenience anybody to call AAA assistance on a holiday?

A friend mentioned they were not to call AAA today about their car problems because it's a holiday and they don't want to inconvenience anybody. Would this really inconvenience people?
posted by circular at 12:38 PM PST - 15 comments

What account is this WP8 account currently associated with?

My sister has a WP8 phone, but she doesn't remember what Microsoft account she associated with when she first set it up. Is there any way, on the phone, to discover this?
posted by kickingtheground at 12:22 PM PST - 1 comment

How to make a standing privacy screen out of posters (or similar)?

Looking to make freestanding privacy screening on a small budget. I have the notion that posters on some sort of framework would do the trick at a minimal price. I'm crafty but have never tried this before; I have some ideas but I'd like to hear success stories and surefire techniques. [more inside]
posted by L'Estrange Fruit at 12:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Suggestions for games that can be interspersed with getting things done?

I'm looking for suggestions for games that fit well for short breaks in between getting stuff done. See inside for more info on the kind of properties that I think would be good. [more inside]
posted by philipy at 11:39 AM PST - 27 comments

Xmas gift filter: What's the best weekly sports magazine?

Please help me choose a sports magazine subscription for a literate 53 yr old sports fan. [more inside]
posted by dchrssyr at 10:18 AM PST - 7 comments

Publishing contract with a new publishing house

A publishing house expressed interest in a story of mine but I know nothing about this side of writing and wanted some Meta Advice regarding royalties and rights. [more inside]
posted by I have no idea at 9:59 AM PST - 4 comments

I love ginger! Let me drink it! Glug glug glug!

I am obsessed with ginger at the moment in terms of drinks. I love the sharpness and the bite of gingery burn from the spiciness. I have a hot ginger tea/drink recipe NAILED but now I want to make my own ginger drink that is akin to ginger beer but not too alcohol-y. I would also like it to be as natural and inexpensive as possible (ie. no "Soda Stream" or nutsy chemicals or adding pop). Help? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 9:33 AM PST - 26 comments

Am I the only victim of this devious plant?

Nothing is happening with my plant-in-a-can Venus Flytrap a month after planting the seeds. Do I wait? [more inside]
posted by Dr Dracator at 8:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Returning a car to Seatac with a lot of luggage to check.

I have more luggage than I can carry by myself. I have to return a rental car and check my luggage. Is there an easy way to do this at Seatac? [more inside]
posted by tweedle at 8:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Looking for a working Bakelite radio in the U.S

Aside from the standard stops ( etsy, eBay, etc ) where should I be looking to find a breadbox-sized, working radio from the 1930s-40s? Ideally Bakelite but not a deal breaker. Ideally shipping from the U.S? A period shell over modern electronics/cords is fine.
posted by The Whelk at 8:25 AM PST - 8 comments

Toilet flush runs constantly after flush...

Hello all. My toilet cistern has developed the extremely annoying habit of continuing to run water into the bowl after a single flush. [more inside]
posted by kev23f at 6:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Is our relationship over and time for us to move on?

So me and my girlfriend of 6 months got into an argument over going to her house for Thanksgiving and she ended up break up with me. [more inside]
posted by Parh6512 at 6:34 AM PST - 53 comments

How can I get help from my work colleagues?

The problem is that sometimes is is quite difficult to get a help from my colleagues - I can clearly see that they know how to help me, but just can't really get them talking. [more inside]
posted by MittenLs at 3:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Making friends out of communities

How do I turn people I am in communities with into friends? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 2:23 AM PST - 9 comments

I would prefer not to spend time with my friend when she is very stoned

Is there any good way to tell a dear friend I don’t really want to chat on the phone or spend long periods of time with her when she’s very, very stoned? [more inside]
posted by JayAlfred at 12:31 AM PST - 15 comments

November 27

Recipe ideas for cookery tomorrow!

I'm going to a friend's family's house tomorrow and want to bring something delicious. I have wine as a fallback, but am hoping you can help me combine my random ingredients into a delicious whole. Ingredients are in the [more inside]; what I need is something vegetarian, seasonal, that won't become too gross on my two-hour journey to their place. [more inside]
posted by c'mon sea legs at 10:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Which small tablet to get? (7-inch-ish)

I like Apple stuff so I ideally want an iPad mini :), but it's a little too expensive... [more inside]
posted by pelu at 10:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Why does my mother get called "dear" in restaurants, stores, etc?

My mother gets called "dear" in restaurants, stores and coffee shops. It started about two years ago and drives her nuts. She thinks that it's an overly-familiar term of endearment and it feels weird (and even patronizing) coming from a stranger. [more inside]
posted by reeddavid at 9:11 PM PST - 39 comments

IE-11 Edge mode

IE-11 for Win7-64 rolled out yesterday, and it makes one of my favorite sites break. The site isn't mine and it isn't going to get fixed any time soon. [more inside]
posted by Chocolate Pickle at 7:47 PM PST - 5 comments

How bad did I ruin this pie?

I followed this recipe for a coconut cream pie up to but not including the last step for making the custard. I did not incorporate the butter? How bad is this? How will it affect the final product?
posted by blackjack514 at 7:47 PM PST - 11 comments

Serious joint pain, no diagnosis

Does anyone have any experience with persistent, unexplained joint pain in multiple joints? [more inside]
posted by ducky l'orange at 7:39 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me remember the name of a Philip K. Dick story about molluscs

It's a relatively short one, and it concerns some type of land molluscs – snails or some other type of small creature that is typically regarded as "gross". I remember something about the shells being important. There's a twist in the end, possibly involving the nature of the molluscs. I can't remember much else – hence the AskMe!
posted by deathpanels at 7:38 PM PST - 2 comments

Nerdy field guides for California/Baja?

I am a biologist moving to San Diego. My work will take me all over the state, including SoCal deserts and Baja California. There are a million natural history books out there - which ones are worth the money? I want a good plant book for sure. But I would also love recommendations for geology, herps, birds, general natural history and anything else an outdoorsy gal might find interesting.
posted by intoxicate at 7:32 PM PST - 11 comments

Welcome back

Congress readmitted several Southern states to the Union in an “Omnibus Bill” it passed on June 28, 1868. Where can I find the text online?
posted by LonnieK at 7:26 PM PST - 4 comments

Travel to South America, west coast

We're thinking of traveling to South America and in particular, the southwest coast ... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 7:22 PM PST - 7 comments

How to eke out a great Thankgiving while sick?

My SO has a lot of anxiety about holidays - and so we try do something to make them special. We're all sick (with colds). What can I do to still make this work? [more inside]
posted by lab.beetle at 7:03 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me find the NM secret sandstone caves

I'm in northern New Mexico for a few days and would like to visit the caves discussed here. [more inside]
posted by doctord at 6:54 PM PST - 7 comments

How do you hook up this Comcast cable box?

Had the Comcast basic cable service. Saw a deal for HBO for just an extra $10 a month for a year. Ordered. Had to get a new Set Top Box in order to display HBO. The box included instructions for setup, they looked simple. Except the instruction diagrams didn't match the box that was sent. [more inside]
posted by sock, the puppet at 6:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Embellishing my own wedding dress. Will it end in tears?

How difficult would it be for a non-sewer to add lace or embroidered appliques to a dress? [more inside]
posted by Rora at 6:37 PM PST - 18 comments

Please help me find video presentation about psychology of programming

Some time ago (maybe four years) I saw a video of a presentation about psychology of computer programming by a man who said he was writing a book about it. He also had a blog where he discussed the book. It wasn't a single blog post about the topic, but a specialised blog about the psychology of programming. I can't find either. [more inside]
posted by kandinski at 6:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Narrowing my son's grad school search

My son is a junior physics/math major at a small midwestern state university. He needs to start looking at graduate programs. He would prefer to stay in research or academia. How can I help him start this process? (B.S. for me) Location is not an issue. It's more a question of what programs offer the best opportunities and fields of study. How can we find out that kind of information? How can I help him start with a reasonable number of candidates?
posted by DaddyNewt at 5:54 PM PST - 17 comments

Supporting friend with PTSD and dealing with my own anger

How do I support my friend, who was diagnosed with PTSD for severe sexual abuse? How do I deal with my own anger towards the perpetrators and guilt for not having done more? [more inside]
posted by fantoche at 5:04 PM PST - 14 comments

Dealing with the company holiday party

How can I better handle the dreaded company holiday party without freaking out? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 4:47 PM PST - 13 comments

Flood Plains, Surveying, and Housing Projects

Recently I purchased a home that has acerage. Part of the acerage, part of the garage, and part of the lean-to are in the flood plain. The house and the rest of the land are not. Trying to figure out logistics between house projects, FEMA zones, and surveying. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 4:28 PM PST - 9 comments

another college radio song ID request

What's the name of this song that was played on a college radio station? [more inside]
posted by aerotive at 3:47 PM PST - 2 comments

SMTP Failure

I am trying to do some household computer work for my dad, and his email problems are giving me a fit. Can you, o wise metafilter, help me? [more inside]
posted by China Grover at 3:27 PM PST - 9 comments

the cost of a breast reduction

I have health insurance, and the co-pay will be about 3150. Should I do it now, or wait? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:22 PM PST - 14 comments

You know, other than spending my entire next paycheck at Ikea.....

Ok, so I recently purchased a pullup cage/station. You know, includes a side for dips, a pullup bar, etc. and is one large metal structure put together with nuts and bolts. Anyway, I think I enjoyed putting the darn thing together even more than I will using it. What other projects/hobbies can I work on/build/create using a tool box, wrench, other hardware type stuff etc. in my small to medium sized apartment that won't lose me my security deposit?
posted by sendai sleep master at 3:14 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I address the issue that my new flame doesn't offer to pay?

I'm a 32 year old male, she's 28, and we're both NYC natives, if it matters. We get along well and we enjoy our time together. Generally, I'm ok paying for the first three or four dates, however beyond that it's clear we like spending time with each other, so I'd prefer that it was a mutual effort to cover costs. Otherwise, I feel like I'm paying for her time and presence, and it feels gross. We've been dating for almost a month now. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 56 comments

How do you all deal with death?

How do you all deal with the fact that you and everyone you love will die some day? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 2:44 PM PST - 34 comments

Help me find a good pendant for a man

I am looking for links to places online (or names of brick-and-mortar shops accessible to the Seattle or Portland area) where I can find a unique and unusual pendant for a man. The price should be in the $75-$150 range. I already have a white gold chain so I am looking for the pendant alone. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 2:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Google Glass Etiquette

Given that many people are divided about Google Glass, with some people especially resistant to even the idea of someone wearing them, how, when and what would be appropriate for someone wearing them? I'd especially like to hear feedback from people who are averse to the concept. [more inside]
posted by mulligan at 1:38 PM PST - 43 comments

Turning a tres leches cake recipe into mini cakes?

I have a beloved recipe for tres leches cake. It makes a single 9" diameter cake, and bakes for about 45 minutes at 350F. I would love to convert this recipe so I make a lot of individual tres leches cakes with it - cupcake-sized. [more inside]
posted by Joh at 1:21 PM PST - 5 comments

Teach me to read (a particular book)

I'm a devoted reader but every now and then a book will just stump me. I am about to start reading The Man Without Qualities and I'm afraid it may fit this description. I'd appreciate any hints as to how to approach it for most enjoyment and absorption. [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 1:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Switching flank steaks for top round steaks.

How do I cook this roulade given the following changes? [more inside]
posted by squirtle at 12:47 PM PST - 6 comments

What is the best way to ask for pay when my employer takes vacation?

(Posting on behalf of a friend and sending them a link to the thread. I can relay updates as needed). I am a nanny caring for a three-year old in the Boston area. The family I currently work for is leaving for two weeks during Christmas vacation. I expect that I won't work during that time and I won't get paid. I would've requested the first week off anyway because I am traveling with my family. but the second week I would have chosen to work had they been here. Is it fair for me to ask for compensation for the second week? If so, can you recommend how I can word this request so it doesn't sound like a demand? I've been writing it down and talking it out and I can't seem to come up with the right words.
posted by carpographer at 12:19 PM PST - 20 comments

Advice re: overhead video monitors in a Toyota Sienna

I am interested in adding an roof-mounted video system to my 2005 Toyota Sienna. I have three kids and when we visit family it's a boring 9-hour drive. But I know nothing at all about car video systems. [more inside]
posted by Pater Aletheias at 12:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Charlie Rose is a shill for the powers that be. Too judgemental? Unfair?

Before I get into any more arguments about it, I'd like to know if my negative impression of Charlie Rose is unfair -if anyone remembers any shining moment where he actually contradicted someone who was spouting "the conventional wisdom". [more inside]
posted by bonobothegreat at 12:03 PM PST - 19 comments

Why won't my carmel....carmel?

Two attempts to make carmel sauce have gone wrong. Hivemind, tell me what I'm doing wrong and lead me to Thanksgiving Pie Glory. [more inside]
posted by zara at 11:32 AM PST - 21 comments

Best laptop to install minecraft on.

What is the best laptop to install minecraft pc on? [more inside]
posted by BillyAnne at 11:20 AM PST - 8 comments

No Tingles, But My Chance at Having a Family...

I'm with a great guy who's ready to have a family with me. I'm in my late 30s, near the end of my childbearing years and definitely want a family. While he is a very good man who I love and respect — I'm not feeling much in the way of butterflies, tingles, or excited feelings to be with him. He's nice though! If I were 22, I'd probably take a break for awhile and date around more. But I worry that if I did this now, I will risk never having children of my own. What to do...? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:15 AM PST - 64 comments

Brain and body not both in love, makes me feel bad

I have been dating a woman for just under six months that I met unexpectedly when visiting another city. She is almost perfect: smart,funny, sassy, intellectually stimulating, kind, attentive, independently minded, socially aware, positive, sociable, generous, emotionally strong and sensitive, likes and wants to have children, easy going and has great friends. She dresses well and is pretty, has a lovely smile and is healthful. We enjoy straightforward communication and are open and honest with each other. I am not very physically attracted to her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:14 AM PST - 25 comments

How do I optimize the gift of diapers?

I would like to give a subscription for diaper delivery to a friend. I want to make sure I do it right, though. Does anyone have experience with diaper subscriptions? [more inside]
posted by jefficator at 11:04 AM PST - 7 comments

I'm hacking together a standing desk- But what do I need to know?

In advance of the new year, I'm making a resolution: No more sitting desk. Traditional standing desks are hilariously outside my budget, but I've spied a number of Ikea hacks that are appealing. Here are the Q's I have (And, hey, suggestions are also welcome!): [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 10:52 AM PST - 16 comments

New Year's Day in San Francisco

I'm spending New Year's in San Francisco so my partner and I can get married (no gay marriage allowed in Montana, so we're headed to the home state of both our families). We plan to be there with our parents and siblings for the event, but are not sure what to do with ourselves on the day of the 1st. [more inside]
posted by ikahime at 10:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Simplest setup for unembarrassing Youtube video creation

What are the simplest requirements -- in terms of both technology (camera/software/etc.) and lighting/clothing/makeup/background setting/etc. -- to make a reasonably good-looking Youtube video that will feature just one speaker talking. Are iMovie and an iSight camera inadequate?
posted by shivohum at 9:52 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a new laptop.

I'm looking to replace my development laptop with a more powerful model. I'm having a hard time finding a model with everything I need. Do you have any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Vorteks at 9:35 AM PST - 10 comments

How do you dance like nobody's watching?

Been checking out Pharrell's 24 Hours of Happy and some of the people don't seem to care what they look like and totally go with it and have fun. Others are decidedly apprehensive. I would probably not even volunteer to do this sort of thing myself. For those of you who can dance like nobody's watching, or do or say something funny that might grab the attention of the room, or sing karaoke at a bar, etc, I am curious to know what goes on in your head before, during, or after you "perform." Other ways to phrase this question: What makes you a ham? Do you think about what you are doing or going to do, or just go with it? Why don't you get embarrassed when you do something fun and crazy? Or do you? What is the payoff for you? Were you born this way or did you learn it somehow?
posted by thorny at 9:19 AM PST - 39 comments

How to deal with disappointment and sadness?

I've been involved in a long distance relationship for years. I live on one side of the country and he lives on the other. We don't see each other as often as I'd like for us to and I constantly deal with sadness and disappointment because of that. What can I do to combat these feelings? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ at 9:09 AM PST - 19 comments

Recommend me an ENT specialist in Portland, Oregon

Last week I managed to have an attack of vertigo at work which resulted in me collapsing, throwing up all over the floor, getting stretchered out of the office, into an ambulance, into the ER, an overnight hospital stay and a diagnosis of Vestibular Neuritis. Fun times. The doctors there have been telling me that my symptoms will clear up soon, but the more I talk to people, the more this sounds dubious, and I very much want to see an ENT. [more inside]
posted by TheDonF at 9:05 AM PST - 4 comments

International affairs

Where can I find good, solid articles on this year's revolution in Egypt, and the war in Syria, and their respective effect on international relations? [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 8:57 AM PST - 9 comments

Best paint to use for a portrait on a toaster oven?

A coworker of mine often complains that we do not have a toaster in the office. I have an unused one, and would like to paint her portrait on it as a humorous secret-santa gift for our office xmas party. I like to work with acrylics and india ink, but am afraid that they will peel off when they get hot. What paint/technique do you think will work best?
posted by DaveZ at 8:52 AM PST - 8 comments

please recommend books like Greider's Secrets of the Temple

Please recommend books like William Greider's "Secrets of the Temple". [more inside]
posted by bukvich at 8:51 AM PST - 1 comment

One pork roast with froth, please.

Should I eat fizzy pork? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDrink at 8:43 AM PST - 21 comments

Is a Christmas pudding containing coins safe to microwave?

I made three Christmas puddings on Stir-up Sunday, with the intention of giving two away to two families with small children. As is traditional, I included a coin in the pudding. I really don't want to add to the faff of Christmas with toddlers so I was going to suggest that they microwave the pudding. Today it occurred to me that there's a chunk of metal inside each of them so perhaps that suggestion isn't as clever as all that. [more inside]
posted by calico at 8:35 AM PST - 16 comments

What's the best way for a nonprofit to hire a web developer/coder?

Our nonprofit has a ~$20,000 budget to spend on a web coder for our new website. We're developing our wireframes/design in-house. Where/how should we hire a web developer/coder? [more inside]
posted by bluelight at 8:23 AM PST - 10 comments

How can I fix my scaly dragon eye?

I have eczema on my eyelid, and have been advised by my GP not to use the prescribed steroid/antibiotic cream for more than a week. What should I be using now to help it heal, and keep the rest of my face happy? Are there any brands/ingredients I should steer clear of? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 8:22 AM PST - 22 comments

Help me find particular glassware

My housemate has a couple of glasses he LOVES, and I want to find and purchase more for him for the holidays. They hold about 4.5 oz, have a relatively heavy bottom, and very thin walls that curve in a gentle hourglass shape. Here's a picture. I'd love to find these or some very like them.
posted by spindrifter at 8:14 AM PST - 11 comments

OTC anti-anxiety remedies?

Are there any studies or medical evidence to support the effectiveness of homeopathic remedies for anxiety, such as Hyland's Calms, Hyland's Nerve Tonic, or Rescue Remedy? [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 8:08 AM PST - 19 comments

My ex-girlfriend assaulted me. Now what?

My ex-girlfriend assaulted me, damaged my property, and kicked in a door to a public establishment where I was hiding from her. What's going to happen now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:05 AM PST - 21 comments

Staying at Land of a Thousand Cleaning Products

My family spends most holidays at the home of a family member with untreated OCD. It’s already a huge challenge, and I’ve discovered it’s slightly worse than I’d thought. Will solve an immediate problem temporarily, but won’t see my therapist until after Thanksgiving. Please just help me to not go nuclear this week. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:04 AM PST - 41 comments

Words with Fires?

Why does my iPhone 5s get too hot to touch when playing Words with Friends, and is there anything I can do to stop it? [more inside]
posted by scarylarry at 7:30 AM PST - 6 comments

I swear it's not a Double Secret Quonsar!

We received a mystery package form Amazon, which I didn't order. I have the Order ID number. Is there a way to figure out who sent it? [more inside]
posted by Liesl at 7:23 AM PST - 3 comments

Is a steam mop worth it?

We have all hardwood floors, other than two tiny areas of ceramic tile in the kitchen and bathroom. I have been using a Swiffer WetJet on the floors, but I dread mopping the floors with it because it uses so many pads (we have two dogs in a tiny house so our floors get really dirty), the cleaner refills are expensive, and I don't even think it actually cleans all that well. [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 6:55 AM PST - 18 comments

Matchmaking for singers?

I'm an amateur singer in NYC. I've done a lot of choral singing and have taken a lot of voice lessons. I'd really like to be singing folk music or non-experimental jazz - acoustic music with zero to light instrumentation and tight harmonies - with small groups (2-8 people). I'm not sure how to make it happen and how these things work. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 6:32 AM PST - 5 comments

What cool stuff can I do with 30 Pez dispensers?

I have a ton of extra Pez dispensers that are itching for a use. What cool things can I do with them?
posted by smelvis at 6:22 AM PST - 14 comments

If I reapply to grad school, will my application get shot down?

An academic mentor says I should wait a year and submit The Strongest Application Ever to guarantee my acceptance. I said if I get rejected this year, I'll spend a year developing more research experience and reapply next year - no problem! What do I have to lose, right? Everything, according to him: he says he's concerned that they automatically look unfavorably upon re-applicants. Is that true?
posted by sarling at 6:10 AM PST - 17 comments

The Overhead Oven Hood Is A LIE. How Do I Install A New Fan?

So I've got a nice oven and a nice overhead hood. Unfortunately, behind the facade of wooden veneer is NOTHING. No vent, no fan, nothing. Can I install a fan up there? [more inside]
posted by John Kennedy Toole Box at 5:57 AM PST - 10 comments

What is the best Internet forum software for hosting debates?

I'm looking for Internet forum software -- preferably at no cost -- that is suitable for hosting debates. I'd like something that is threaded, which allows strict moderation, and yet is fairly bare-bones. I don't want Slashdot or Reddit style voting (I don't need comment voting at all), and I don't really want the user to be able insert any HTML or crappy banners. Maybe administrator configurable emoticons, at the most. I want the message system itself to be easily searchable, and if anything has been written for enforced constructive debate, I'd be especially interested.
posted by Chasuk at 5:50 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me find more of these nice, long, relaxing YouTube videos

I like streaming long videos on YouTube that are soothing in some way. Can you recommend some more things I might like? Specifics within. [more inside]
posted by tomboko at 4:39 AM PST - 8 comments

iCloud…Should I Use It?

Just curious if I should use the iCloud? Will it make things complicated for me? Make it easier? Do I need it? Am I using it already?? [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 3:50 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find the right job knowing my strenghts

I co-own and manage a financial services company and I stopped liking my job about 2 years ago. I'm growing increasingly frustrated because I have to spend my time doing things I don't like, and the job (actually thew industry) has changed so much over the years. My problem is to find an alternative. I read many books about finding my path and did many tests, and the usual result is that I love inventing things, fixing things/problems and helping people. [more inside]
posted by caudingo at 2:55 AM PST - 13 comments

High quality black friday pants to Germany

Where's this black friday online deal: 1. high quality pants (really nice chinos/khaki pants/like Bonobos - i.e. a bit hip/in fancy colors) 2. at around $25-50 3. that ship to Germany? Recommendations for brands that match the style and price are fine (I'd find out about the shipping..).
posted by mathiu at 2:02 AM PST - 3 comments

Board book recommendations

My 4-month-old loves reading eye-catching books, but I am a bit bored with the ones we have. Help me find some more, with examples inside. [more inside]
posted by lollymccatburglar at 2:00 AM PST - 23 comments

November 26

Impossible to have flammable material shipped to Hawaii?

Hello--I'm very interested in buying this spray fixative called Fixatif Lascaux but can't seem to find a way to have it shipped to me. [more inside]
posted by lirael2008 at 11:43 PM PST - 8 comments

Making camp awesome, one craft at a time

I've been offered the chance to run a week-long day camp this coming summer at a local art space. I have an idea for a theme, but I want to run it by the hive mind and make sure it's as awesome as it can possibly be. Who want to help me plan Costume Camp? [more inside]
posted by nonasuch at 11:38 PM PST - 7 comments

How to manage bloating? Halp

I've had about 10 days straight of distended belly due to bloating. I look 5 months pregnant if I stop sucking in my stomach. I've tried Gas-X and charcoal pills and so far nothing has worked. What should I try? [more inside]
posted by spamandkimchi at 11:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Over-indulged kids, thrifty aunt: Christmas present version

What do I buy 6 nieces and nephews when a) they have everything, b) I'm on a tight-ish budget, and c) I'm a bit anti-consumerist and riddled with guilt about buying anything? [more inside]
posted by Salamander at 9:56 PM PST - 53 comments

recommendations for a wallet as a gift?

I'm getting my girlfriend a wallet for christmas, and need some help shopping! [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 9:38 PM PST - 11 comments

What's it like to be a RAINN online hotline volunteer?

I'm thinking of volunteering for the Rape, Abuse & Incest National Network, specifically their online hotline. Before I dive in, I'm hoping to find someone with RAINN (or comparable) experience who could speak a little beyond what's on the website as to the day-to-day of working on the online hotline, if I should expect much contact with other volunteers or paid staff, favorite/least favorite parts, anything to know going in, etc. [more inside]
posted by jameaterblues at 9:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Can I take notes during a job interview? (I'm the one applying.)

Hi! Quick question for people who conduct employment interviews. I have a job interview in two days. I would like to take a small notepad with me and jot down the pertinent things discussed that I will need to consider should I be offered the position, and make a move from my current job. I am afraid I will not remember accurately the important aspects, such as salary, benefit details, and other kind of crucial stuff I will need to consider. [more inside]
posted by Savannah at 8:29 PM PST - 19 comments

Do I throw her under the bus?

My assistant is all of these things: (1) Friendly; (2) Good about telling us when she won’t be there for the day; (3) Takes no initiative; (4) Makes an error in every single document or task given to her, without fail; (5) As a result of #4, unreliable. [more inside]
posted by juliagulia at 8:12 PM PST - 57 comments

News Articles about Canadian Fundamental Freedoms for Students

I'm working on a draft lesson plan for elementary students that involves news articles about violations of the Canadian Charter of Rights and Freedoms' "Fundamental Freedoms" or situations where the Fundamental Freedoms were upheld...but I need more news articles! [more inside]
posted by stray at 7:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Public library job interview advice needed

So I have a job interview coming up for a librarian position at a public library. However, all of my job experience has been in academic libraries, so I'm not sure what to expect from this interview. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:16 PM PST - 7 comments

What do afghans from Afghanistan look like?

I'm looking for links/books/a place to start researching to find out more about the origin of afghan blankets. I just ordered the yarn to knit a largish blanket of my own design. In thinking of a name for the pattern I got to wondering whether the word "afghan" as applied to blankets really had anything to do with Afghanistan. [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 6:11 PM PST - 7 comments

Why is Sesame Oil sold in hourglass shaped bottles?

This is a typical bottle of sesame oil as sold in Japan. When I lived in the US there were also bottles with the same hourglass shape, usually with ridges, and only for sesame oil. Why are the bottles this shape? [more inside]
posted by 23 at 5:58 PM PST - 15 comments

Which Analysts cover which stocks ?

Is there a source of information which tells you which Stock Analysts cover which stocks ? Particularly interested in Australian stocks but grateful for others. More inside ... [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 5:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Hot tamales! Ay yi yi -- what now?

A local group of Latina women make tamales to help raise money for community support of our county's Hispanic workers. They offer a variety of kinds of tamales for Thanksgiving and Christmas dinners. This year we're having a vegan Thanksgiving, so for the first time I ordered a dozen vegetable-only tamales, and picked them up this afternoon, as instructed. [more inside]
posted by kestralwing at 5:08 PM PST - 15 comments

Do professional bakers like receiving cooking tools as gifts?

I have a person that I know fairly well for a secret Santa gift exchange that has a soft 30 dollar cap on it. I have a few routes I can go down, but she's a baker by profession. She works at a grocery store's bakery department, and does some side work for weddings on occasion. For people who work as bakers / cooks, would you want to receive some sort of gift related to this or is that the last thing you want to think about after you're done with work? If no, then what's an awesome ~30 dollar gift that someone could give you?
posted by codacorolla at 4:56 PM PST - 15 comments

Where can I find Sony Featherweight headphones at a reasonable price?

I'm trying to track down a pair of Sony Featherweight headphones for Mrs_Eep, but the prices have quadrupled. Is there a similar pair that anyone can recommend? [more inside]
posted by Wild_Eep at 4:52 PM PST - 1 comment

Amusing, surprising, and cheap stocking stuffers for the whole family

Every year, each of my (8 or so, all adult) family members buys the same small gift for the rest of us and gives the gift anonymously (and to themselves, to preserve anonymity). With Christmas a month away, what silly or useful stocking stuffers can I give out to each of my family members across a wide variety of ages? [more inside]
posted by joan cusack the second at 4:35 PM PST - 38 comments

Making the most of a professional windfall

An opportunity to consult for a prestigious institution fell into my lap right as I've been trying to make a professional shift, how do I make the most of it? [more inside]
posted by ITheCosmos at 4:13 PM PST - 3 comments

Wool/Fleece Jacket for Women?

Is there a jacket out there that is just like the LL Bean Wool Tek Hooded Jacket, but for women? [more inside]
posted by The Toad at 3:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Have 2 IT degrees, but want to do something else. How to go about this?

I have a BS degree in Information Science/Technology and have just completed a further post-graduate degree in the same field. I was awarded my degree with distinction and could most likely go on to a PhD if I wanted to. I am also currently looking for work in my field and am confident to find a job. The thing is, I really don't like IT. I try to convince myself that there is something I would like, but in all honesty, I am not excited about any of the jobs I'm looking at much less continuing on with more education (although that would at least allow me to explore something I may somewhat like). [more inside]
posted by deeba at 3:48 PM PST - 13 comments

Should I walk away from this mortgage?

My ex-boyfriend and I own a home together that he is currently still living in. We're underwater on the mortgage and he doesn't make enough to cover the whole payment. I've been paying half of the mortgage since the breakup in order to buy time and figure out a plan. But I'm at the end of my rope both emotionally and financially, and I'm wondering if there are any options left or if I should just stop paying. [more inside]
posted by fanta_orange at 3:47 PM PST - 31 comments

Suggestions for what to do on a 12-hour layover in Mexico City?

I have an upcoming trip that includes a stopover from about 6AM to late evening in MEX. We'll be traveling with a 3-year-old, so we will probably spend the first few hours trying to get some sleep at an airport hotel. I'm wondering if anyone has an idea for something to do with the rest of the day that won't cause a lot of stress about making it back for our flight? I've never been to Mexico City. What are the usual tourist attractions? Is traffic so bad that we could only fit in something really quick and nearby? Is it even worth it to leave the airport area? Thanks!
posted by mmc at 3:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Setting up online appointment system?

So, at my work, I'm thinking of setting up a simple online appointment system for the people we work with (citizens of a given municipality). There are a few questions I have if we go this route. [more inside]
posted by symbioid at 3:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Antique Keyboard on Windows 8.1

My beloved IBM M keyboard from 1991 works well on windows 8.1 with a USB adapter. Is there an Alt-something-something-something command that represents the Windows key on newer keyboards?
posted by Raybun at 2:10 PM PST - 9 comments

To stay or to leave? that is the question.

What would you do? Im saving money to buy an apartment. Another part of me wants to go live in another country for a few months instead. [more inside]
posted by red47Apple at 2:09 PM PST - 21 comments

Motivation to exercise when there are no goals, or they are vague?

I have read in numerous places that exercise can sometimes help with mood and concentration. My only exercise goal is to help alleviate these possible issues, but I couldn't keep any motivation and stopped after only a few weeks. Specific considerations: [more inside]
posted by polywomp at 1:53 PM PST - 38 comments

Make Ahead Hors d'oeuvres

Every holiday season I generally host at least 2-3 get-togethers focusing on small bites, hanging out, and (on Christmas Eve) presents. However, after many, many years of making the same things I am looking for some new additions. [more inside]
posted by daikaisho at 1:25 PM PST - 18 comments

Do corporation dream of paper sheep?

How does a corporation show that it "sincerely holds a belief"? [more inside]
posted by PMdixon at 12:52 PM PST - 17 comments

I don't want to be a witch.

I am interested in Wicca. Always have been. Despite a conventional Christian ubpringing, my inner belief has always been that 'god' is part mother nature and part earth/environment. That's just the way my mind has always imagined 'god', and it's worked for me for over 40 years. Now I need to take it further. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:47 PM PST - 20 comments

Attempted Mugging

Practical gifts, coffee edition: please direct me toward a travel mug which meets these criteria: 1. All components of the mug must be permanently affixed TO the mug (no fully-detachable lids/etc). 2. It must be difficult to tip over. 3. It must be dishwasher-safe. 4. It must be durable. [Backstory: Mr. Julthumbscrew has lost-lids-to/inadvertently-destroyed/wept-copiously-about hundreds of sub-par mugs; I want to get him ONE MUG TO RULE THEM ALL.]
posted by julthumbscrew at 11:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Stocking Stuffer Block -- Help

So, every year I can't figure out what to put in my beloved Bear's holiday stocking, and this year I have total Stocking Stuffer Block. I so don't want to delay getting shopping for this done. Details about him below. [more inside]
posted by bearwife at 11:45 AM PST - 27 comments

Designer bag too expensive: looking for similar affordable one

I fell in love with the Fendi bag this woman is carrying, which I think is the 2Jours tote, or something quite similar. Barring winning the lottery, I'm not about to pay that much for a bag, and would like suggestions for a similar one. Details of what I like about the bag inside. [more inside]
posted by telophase at 11:28 AM PST - 12 comments

Long-term WordPress Maintenance

I'd like to read about issues, strategies and concerns regarding long-term WordPress maintenance. I have several clients using WordPress. I'm adept with the nuts and bolts, but I can see that staying on top of plugin updates is important and must be done carefully. I've killed live sites enough times to know now not to update willy nilly. [more inside]
posted by humboldt32 at 11:25 AM PST - 1 comment

Has your childhood bully ever apologized to you?

I was an angry kid at one point in my life. My best friend had moved away and I was unpopular. I became a bit of a bully. There are three people in particular that I treated particularly bad. I want to apologize to them, but does it just serve to only make myself feel better? Has anyone here been bullied and received an apology later in life? And how did it make you feel? I was also bullied. My bully tried to add me as a friend on Facebook multiple times, and I always declined it. I wonder sometimes if maybe he was trying to apologize.
posted by kbennett289 at 11:04 AM PST - 53 comments

Roots in my root beer: do you have a favorite homemade soda?

I would love to make my own non-alcoholic beverages. As hippy, from scratch as possible. Do you have favorite recipes? [more inside]
posted by anya32 at 11:03 AM PST - 14 comments

Looking for a basic review of math (algebra, geometry, fractions, etc)

I have to take a math placement test in the next two weeks that will determine which college class I will place into next semester (January). I have already taken Math 1010 (Intermediate Algebra) and 1030 (Quantitative Reasoning) long ago but those credits do not count any longer towards this current placement. I need to test to see where I fall now. I'm hoping to get into Math 1050 (College Algebra) ideally. My skills are rusty though. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 10:39 AM PST - 9 comments

Don't test me

I am looking for current industry thinking around software quality management. Specifically, the differences and boundaries between testing and quality management and how quality management plays in to all phases of the SDLC, not just testing (ex: code reviews, requirement inspection). I'm specifically interested in content from established leaders around IT management, such as PMI, ieee, IBM, incose, etc. Thank you!
posted by seesom at 10:37 AM PST - 1 comment

Retro USB Controllers for NES/SNES/Saturn

Looking for a quality build of classic console controllers with USB. [more inside]
posted by lkc at 10:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Dog-friendly DC

I have yet another "where should I live in DC?" question, but mine has a dog park twist! [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 10:04 AM PST - 16 comments

Sure, I accomplished....something. Workfilter edition.

I took a job two years ago thinking it was a great opportunity, and instead, it's turned out to be terrible. Lots of nice people and good intentions, but little infrastructure, tight budgets, and an executive director whose poor leadership skills are equaled only by her desire to micromanage. Long story short, I have about 8 weeks to meet some (unreasonable) departmental goals or I'm likely to get fired. Help me turn two years of helping my department tread water in spite of huge organizational obstacles into accomplishments for my resume, please? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Macbook pro battery life

My macbook pro battery life is awful, and it shouldn't be. What can I do about that? [more inside]
posted by R a c h e l at 9:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Good 3.5mm male to 3.5mm female audio cable extension?

I am looking for a 3.5mm to 3.5mm male to female audio cable extension where the male end would fit into an iPhone audio jack through a case. (So the male end should be roughly similar to the end of a pair of default iPhone headphones.) The female end would attach to, say, speakers or maybe a Square card reader. I would prefer if the male end is at a right angle to the rest of the cable. [more inside]
posted by Korou at 9:41 AM PST - 5 comments

Talk me into or out of an airport lounge.

I have two passes to an American Airlines lounge that expire at the end of the year, and only one opportunity to use them between now and then. I've never been inside of an airline lounge before, so I don't really know what I'm missing, and I'm having a hard time deciding if it's worth dragging my wife to the airport an extra hour early so these don't go to waste. [more inside]
posted by ndg at 9:24 AM PST - 20 comments

Comcast modem/router upgrade - asking for trouble?

After an internet outage (now resolved) Comcast customer service recommended that we update our 8 year old cable modem (Thompson DCM-425) to a new wireless router/modem combo. I'm trying to figure out if this will really be an upgrade or more of a "well the wireless would be faster, if it were still working" sort of situation? [more inside]
posted by mercredi at 9:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Him: Prince Albert piercing. Her: Veneers on front teeth. Advice?

If all goes well, this weekend I will have my first encounter with a Prince Albert piercing. I am very excited about this prospect, but I'm also concerned about breaking the veneers on my two front teeth. Other than the obvious "be careful!" is there anything else I should know or do? Even better, is this really not a problem I need to worry about? [more inside]
posted by Schlock Puppet at 8:50 AM PST - 5 comments

Condo insurance conflict of interest?

I'm in the process of buying my first condominium. Is using the same insurance agent that holds the condo association's insurance for my own homeowners/content policy a good idea? If not, any suggestions for insurance agents in the Bergen County area of NJ?
posted by quokka quokka quokka at 8:29 AM PST - 4 comments

Do you deal with major depression without drugs?

I've been off Effexor cold turkey for about five days. I think the worst of the withdrawal is over. My doctor's office is not calling me back about refills. Should I keep trying to get some more or should I try to go it alone? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:07 AM PST - 22 comments

Becoming Fluent in Predictive Analytics

I work in a University managing the broad based direct mail, email and calling programs. I have zero undergrad or graduate experience with math, business or the social sciences. (Aka, I can write a really nice essay...) I would like to chart a path to being recognized as an expert in predictive analytics. [more inside]
posted by meta x zen at 7:34 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there a temporary aesthetic solution to toothlessness?

A year into recovery from a decade-long meth addiction, the most obvious and lingering effect for me is a horrific case of "meth mouth". I've been told I'll need to have my remaining teeth pulled and replaced with a full set of dentures. Due to my HIV status, I receive basic dental care and denture coverage through a national insurance program; unfortunately, the system-wide policy of the program-affiliated clinics in my city is that once my teeth are removed, I must wait about 6 months for my mouth to heal sufficiently before I'm fitted for dentures. Is there anything I can do to avoid looking drooling pudding for the next half year? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Where can I buy Jelly Belly Sour Santas?

Is there a retail chain that carries Jelly Belly Sour Santas candy? I found them online but I'd like to avoid paying shipping. I'm in the Kansas City area, if anybody happens to know a local source.
posted by mmmbacon at 6:44 AM PST - 2 comments

Scented oil mishap - how to de-scent my clothes?

A bottle of nasty, concentrated potpourri oil spilled in my closet - now all of my clothes reek like rotten fruit mixed with lighter fluid. Repeated washings with Tide aren't helping at all! What should I use? [more inside]
posted by falldownpaul at 6:40 AM PST - 24 comments

Can I make the web have pages? No, really!

I want to read web sites by flipping through a series of letter-size pages (like you do with PDFs), instead of scrolling one long page. Right now I'm just printing sites as PDFs and reading them in Acrobat, but is there a way to make the browser do it instead? [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 6:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Bench Press and Injury?

What exercise should I substitute for Bench Press if I'm concerned about injury? So many people have nagging shoulder problems that started when they were bench pressing. I'm an older guy and I really need to stay injury free, even if that means I end up making slower progress. Should I bench press using dumbbells instead? That would make linear progression harder, as the weight increments aren't as small. I've tried using incline bench press with the barbell as a substitute, but that seems to interfere with my progress on overhead press. At the moment, I'm using a plate-loaded bench press machine, and that has worked well, but I wonder if I'd be better off using a free weight exercise? Thanks.
posted by surenoproblem at 5:40 AM PST - 12 comments

Fun fitness-based games/group challenges for bootcamp/group fitness

I'm looking for a few new ideas for game or group challenge style activities to make my group fitness classes more engaging and fun and to mix things up. What have you tried and loved, or heard about and thought sounded fun?
posted by lifethatihavenotlivedyet at 5:39 AM PST - 2 comments

Emergency Thanksgiving Chicago pick-up

I was wondering if anyone knew of some place in Chicago that was still offering Thanksgiving pick-up that's somewhere in the vicinity of the lake or the loop. Everything I'm finding is way out west which isn't going to work for me, or sold out. Alternatively, given that it's just the two of us, is it better to just go to a restaurant? If so, any recommendations?
posted by bleep at 4:45 AM PST - 13 comments

Gift Ideas for a 6 year old

My nephew is 6 years old and will be 7 in a couple of months. Looking for Christmas gift ideas. He's really interesested in becoming an actor/director. A few snowflakes though... [more inside]
posted by KogeLiz at 1:28 AM PST - 13 comments

Who has time to enjoy a robe?

I would like to purchase a terrycloth robe for a woman, ideally with animal print. Images of animals would be preferable to a leopard or zebra print pattern. Where can I find such an item?
posted by outlaw of averages at 1:19 AM PST - 8 comments

November 25

Help me find a all metal space heater with a high quality thermostat

I have found that space heater with plastic anywhere on it starts to smell like burning plastic if you run it alot. I have also found that the thermostats on a lot of space heaters do not work well. example you set it to 73 but it just runs and never turns off or turns off before reaching 73.
posted by john123357 at 11:56 PM PST - 13 comments

Where do the feminist programmers hang out online (other than MeFi)?

I read a lot of Hacker News. I'm a self-identified male feminist programmer. Comment threads like this one make me want to strangle my computer monitor. I loved this article. What else should I read? Who should I subscribe to? Where do the feminist programmers hang out online?
posted by azarbayejani at 11:49 PM PST - 17 comments

Best book on art deco or architecture in Mexico City

Am looking for a book recommendation or three. I am really getting into the architecture of Mexico City but I really don't know all that much about architecture, particularly Mexican architecture. I'm not much into colonial or contemporary stuff but everything in-between, from the Porfiriato French Empire stuff to the 1960s, and particularly the Art Deco and Art Noveau periods and whatever it is that came just before. Amazon is kind of skimpy with recommendations. So anybody read any really great books on either Art Deco architecture, Art Noveau architecture, Mexico City architecture, 20th century architecture, or one of these art movements as a whole if they are really good? Preferably in English, but Spanish would be good too.
posted by pynchonesque at 11:16 PM PST - 0 comments

Concerned citizen meets with real estate developer and architect

A real estate developer offered to meet with me and a friend and have his architect show us conceptual plans of their project in advance of the official unveiling to the public. I've never met with a developer or an architect. What do I do to make this a productive meeting & not waste the time of developer and architect? [more inside]
posted by bertran at 10:09 PM PST - 9 comments

how to help the salvadoran anti-mining cause?

I am Canadian and feel really sad about the lawsuit brought against the El Salvador government for banning mining. Are there any Canadian organizations to which I can donate money that will support El Salvador people in their fight against the mining companies? If not, do you know of any good organizations that work in the country that might be doing this indirectly?
posted by bellbellbell at 9:59 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for new-to-me abstract artists, especially painters

I love abstract art and recently did a very thorough self-led course through its history. (I decided I am most a fan of lyric abstraction, if that helps at all.) Now I'm trying to get schooled in more current abstract artists (particularly painters), but it's hard to know where to go for info, especially for artists who are under the radar. I've been reading the major websites and I also looked into all the artists mentioned in this wonderful article: The Golden Age of Abstraction: Right Now and liked a lot of what I saw. I don't live in a big city and don't travel to cities often, so those aren't viable options for me. If you have any names for me to investigate or websites, etc. that feature exciting new abstract artists, please share. (I say new,but they don't have to be brand new--just don't try to introduce me to Damien Hirst or Jackson Pollock.)
posted by mermaidcafe at 9:57 PM PST - 16 comments

My Folks Want a GPS

What's the best GPS for my folks? They're in their 80s, and want it to speak directions to them. [more inside]
posted by musofire at 9:45 PM PST - 7 comments

CD's not playing properly in my car?

When I burn a CD, some songs that sound fine in iTunes on my computer will inexplicably have between 3-20 seconds of 'silence' at the beginning, thus causing my car's CD player to skip them if I don't fast forward to the actual music...WTF? (do my best to give some Tech Specs inside!) [more inside]
posted by PeppahCat at 9:34 PM PST - 11 comments

Seeking meditation apps and podcasts

I'd like to meditate more. I have the Simply Be app and like it, but would like to try others. MeFites, what do you recommend?
posted by elizeh at 8:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for a new job, but don't know where to start

What are my options for good jobs without a bachelor's degree? [more inside]
posted by Ryogen at 8:06 PM PST - 12 comments

Chasing debt in the land of Oz

I run a small business. I have a couple of clients who won't pay their bills. What's the best move? [more inside]
posted by mewsic at 8:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Statistics for approval correlating demographic variable?

How do I use SPSS to analyze a range of approval ratings which vary by participant and correlate the skew to one demographic variable? [more inside]
posted by lettuchi at 7:53 PM PST - 3 comments

So I love your digs and all…

How to tell a company I’d like to telecommute? Should I take the job if they don’t agree to it? [more inside]
posted by Dotty at 7:38 PM PST - 6 comments

Front license plate blues

Is there a way I can get my front license plate on my 97 Honda Civic without using a power drill or going to a mechanic and having him take the bumper off/drill it on? [more inside]
posted by discopolo at 7:02 PM PST - 17 comments

Heatless in NYC

My apartment has no heat. How long must I wait for a response from my landlord before I report them to the NYC housing authority? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:50 PM PST - 11 comments

An incredibly convoluted - possibly dumb - travel dilemma

I am headed to Los Angeles for work. My wife is in the NYC-area (where we live). We can meet somewhere for our anniversary: Where should it be? [more inside]
posted by lieberschnitzel at 6:39 PM PST - 26 comments

Netflix sound issues

Netflix recently updated their Roku app and now we're having sound issues. [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 6:34 PM PST - 2 comments

Is this some kind of crapmunk?

Heya, people. I live in an apartment in a rural area and I have a question about what appears to be giant mouse poop, but perhaps the reality is truly more monstrous. My cat is alert and caught a couple of mice in the past and I assumed that he had it under control. However, this showed up in his bowl today, and I'm wondering WTF kind of animal left this. I found something similar earlier this year, and it felt like mud and smelled like mud, so I dismissed it as a I ask: what the f kind of animal could this be from? I don't want to utter the R-word, but brutal honesty and trapping techniques welcome.
posted by lakersfan1222 at 6:13 PM PST - 11 comments

How much did 19th century climbers know about their gear's limitations?

If you were the average climber/mountaineer in the mid-to-late 19th century, how aware were you that your gear was basically crap in terms of providing protection from falls? [more inside]
posted by gottabefunky at 6:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Where can I buy fancy coffee beans in sample sizes in San Francisco?

I'd like to give a person some coffee beans from San Francisco-based roasters, but instead of just buying one full-size 12-16 oz bag of one specific kind, I'd like to put together a set of multiple kinds - for example, 4 oz each of four types of beans. Do any of this city's fancy coffee shops sell small sizes or gift sets like that? [more inside]
posted by dreamyshade at 6:00 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me get my legal classic doctor who on!

Ok, the 50th anniversary special bit me and I really want to rewatch the old classic Doctor Whos that I loved so much as a kid (and now will probably find painfully boring...) I can find scattered episodes on netflix or amazon (or even google play), but I really want to watch ALL THE DOCTOR WHOS, or at very least have continuity that doesn't suck. I'm totally willing to pay, but not huge amounts. And I'm in the US for region issues.
posted by aspo at 5:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Lemon Meringue Pie: Beginner's Luck edition

I'm making a lemon meringue pie for Thanksgiving, and it's my first time 1) making a pie 2) making meringue and 3) transporting it in my car for a hour. My grandmother's signature dessert was a lemon meringue pie that she made from a recipe she'd memorized and no one ever wrote down. She's been gone for about ten years, and we're all still missing her cooking. I decided to make a lemon meringue pie this year, one that my father (who has celiac disease) can eat too. [more inside]
posted by gladly at 4:55 PM PST - 18 comments

Transfering Photoshop files to Windows PC through iPhone?

Is there a way to transfer Photoshop files from a Dropbox folder to a Windows 8 PC, via iPhone, without wifi? [more inside]
posted by Nedroid at 3:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Best food for a large breed dog that's not quite a puppy anymore?

My husband and I are adding another dog to our family. Yay! He's a rescued coonhound/great dane mix, about 18 months old. We couldn't be more excited to bring this awkward, gangly guy into our home. But what should we feed him? [more inside]
posted by terilou at 3:43 PM PST - 11 comments

Recommend some festive, easy champagne cocktails

I have roughly a case of cheap, but drinkable champagne. It was purchased to go in mimosas, but fewer mimosas were consumed than anticipated, so I have lots and lots of leftovers. Luckily, its the holidays, and people feel festive, so I should be able to serve it to everyone I meet, right? Wrong. In my crowd, if I offer this up at a party, I'm going to be met with a chorus of "thanks, but I'll have a craft beer please." [more inside]
posted by juliapangolin at 3:24 PM PST - 40 comments

Messaging app for Android that supports Google Voice?

I need a text messaging app for Android that supports sending/receiving through my Google Voice number rather than my phone number. [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 3:11 PM PST - 2 comments

Tips on running a successful nonprofit for the first couple of years?

I'm federally incorporating a nonprofit in the next few months. I've heard that most nonprofits fail within the first couple of years. How can we plan for success? We are Canada-based and our focus is on wildlife, but any general nonprofit advice would be welcome. [more inside]
posted by quiet earth at 2:57 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I find the best rate to refinance my car loan?

My credit is good. My loan on my new-last-year Toyota Yaris is awful; the interest rate is absurdly high. My credit union, who issued the loan, doesn't want to help. How do I find the best rate I can get on a refinance? [more inside]
posted by drjimmy11 at 2:43 PM PST - 18 comments

How Old Before He Can Travel On His Own?

What's a nice round consensus on the minimum age for an unaccompanied boy to go from South Station to Midtown? [more inside]
posted by whuppy at 2:39 PM PST - 44 comments

Can you identify this nuclear war themed computer game?

I remember playing a great computer strategy game on my ZX Spectrum back in the 1990s (although perhaps the game is older) which simulated being in command of the US Strategic Defense Initiative. Most of the gameplay involved doling out funding dollars to different SDI research & development projects (X-Ray satellites, high energy lasers, ABM bases etc.). You could choose whether the US president and Soviet Premier were hawkish, dovish or a mix (but they could not be both doves). There were DEFCON warning levels. All games culminated in a nuclear war with a Soviet first strike launch. There was a map with the missile swarms tracked. You had to scramble to set the red 3-letter code to activate the SDI system in time. You could take charge of individual SDI platforms yourself or just let them run automatically. You could also OK the wholesale launch of US nukes in retaliation. What is this game? (games that this is definitely not inside) [more inside]
posted by zresearch at 2:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Are we there yet? 17th Century Version.

How long did it take to sail from the Americas to England in 1609? And vice versa? [more inside]
posted by Big_B at 2:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Turkey Day toast

So we are hosting Thanksgiving. Neither one of us believe in God, and our families are very religious. Please help me with a toast. [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 2:11 PM PST - 18 comments

Point me to the best chocolate bars

When I encounter the chocolate bar aisle at a Whole Foods/Trader Joe/Central Market (if you're in Texas) type store, I am struck dumb by OPTION PARALYSIS. Please recommend me the best 2 or 3 brand/variety type chocolate bars to try next time I find myself in one of those hellpits. Muchas gracias!!!
posted by slappy_pinchbottom at 2:10 PM PST - 46 comments

Where can I find "Le tour du monde en 80 jours"?

I've bought hundreds of books online so please believe me I wouldn't ask such a dumb question without trying myself. My son would like a copy of Le tour du monde en 80 jours (English: Around the World in 80 Days) meeting these three criteria: in French, unabridged, with the original illustrations. Looked on,, and several other places, but I can't find (a reasonably priced) copy that says explicitly that it meets all three criteria. We've already gotten burned! Apparently there are a lot of abridged student editions out there. I don't speak French myself so it's hard for me to parse the many French listings. Merci pour votre aide.
posted by iconjack at 1:38 PM PST - 4 comments

Oh the fun you'll have!

Magical video of festive people speaking lines in rhyme about life and fun? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 1:01 PM PST - 2 comments

Donating to Public Radio

So I've been donating to public radio about as long as I've been listening to it. But as I'm getting ready for end of year donations, I realized I listen to podcasts instead of the radio now. So should that affect how I give? [more inside]
posted by garlic at 12:45 PM PST - 12 comments

What are "beam clamps" called in Canada?

Searching comes up empty, but this is the result from [more inside]
posted by wutangclan at 12:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to buy a deceptively warm coat?

I get cold easily. I'd like to buy a new men's winter coat that doesn't look like anything special but is secretly lined with magic warmth nodules. I don't want to be the guy bundled up in a Michelan man snowsuit when everybody around me is wearing hoodies and windbreakers. Help me fit in, fashionably speaking, while still feeling like I'm perpetually cozied up by a roaring fire. [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis at 12:20 PM PST - 32 comments

Identify this t-shirt?

Does anyone recognize the t-shirt with a stylized bear logo worn here by J Mascis (Dinosaur Jr)? Is it a logo for something or a one-off design? [more inside]
posted by Pre-Taped Call In Show at 12:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Address for Ryan Gosling?

My wife has written a letter to Ryan Gosling that she'd like him to read personally. She's found the addresses for his fan mail, but doesn't think Gosling actually sees the mail sent to those addresses. Ideas you might have on how to search for a direct address for him or where to send such mail for him are appreciated.
posted by partner at 11:40 AM PST - 20 comments

Has anyone heard of Simpson College?

My son is interested in Simpson College, in Indianola Iowa. It seems to be a reasonable choice for him, but we can't find any seemingly independent first hand accounts of the School. Can somebody help? [more inside]
posted by vilcxjo_BLANKA at 11:08 AM PST - 46 comments

Tis the season for a Yankee Exchange / White Elephant gift

What are your suggestions or best items you have seen for a swap gift? More inside. [more inside]
posted by maxg94 at 10:32 AM PST - 36 comments

Any ideas for getting primary school children into school on time?

The primary school (age 4-11) I teach in is in a socially disadvantaged area: about half of our pupils are on free school meals compared with around 18% nationally (England). Educational attainment is low. With the aim of improving student outcomes, the Local Educational Authority is awarding an innovation prize of £5000 to execute the project. One of the biggest problems that we face is low attendance - about 92% (of which only approximately 1-2% are absent owing to illness). Currently, actions to improve attendance such as weekly assemblies to celebrate good attendance, class awards and a rigorous follow-up of attendance issues, have only had mixed results. What do schools in the US do to ensure their children attend school regularly and come in on time? Rewards? Phone calls to parents? We are at our wits' end at our school, so I am calling upon you all for suggestions and advice. Thank you so much!
posted by ashawill at 10:16 AM PST - 28 comments

It Wasn't a Tuffet

Is there a single, non-compound English word for this kind of university lecture hall desk (those bolted-down seats with the arm-rests masquerading as desktops)? [more inside]
posted by paperback version at 9:58 AM PST - 10 comments

Who was the sci-fi writing mathematician who didn't cash his checks?

In James Tiptree, Jr.: The Double Life of Alice B. Sheldon, the author, Julie Phillips, mentions "a mathematician at the Institute for Advanced Study who was so closeted about his pen name that he didn't even cash the checks for his stories" (Google books preview) that Fred Pohl had worked with previously, but Phillips doesn't provide additional details. Who is (or was) this mysterious writer? [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 9:18 AM PST - 15 comments

National Lampoon's European Vacation Moocher

What's the age cutoff to expect to be able to tag along with your parents on a vacation? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 9:17 AM PST - 34 comments

How to handle my healthy pregnancy and friends' pregnancy struggles?

How to handle my healthy pregnancy and friends' pregnancy struggles? [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor at 9:05 AM PST - 13 comments

Where's someplace warm and cheap to spend a week or so over New Years

I've been thinking recently that it might be fun to spend 4-7 days in a warm part of North America to ring in the New Year with my girlfriend. I'd love to find a place to get away, warm up from the Chicago winter and maybe sit on a beach if I can. [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 8:51 AM PST - 15 comments

Thanksgiving-related vocabulary word needed! (for adults, not children)

I am required to bring a "word of the day" to my Toastmasters club's next meeting. This word should be an interesting and useful word that will expand everyone's command of the English language and ideally would be fun to use. Twist: I want it to be Thanksgiving or holiday season related if possible. My google-fu is failing me because I keep getting results meant for children's crossword puzzles ("pilgrim", "turkey", etc.). I'm looking for something more along the lines of "puritanical" or something like that. Can be historical, related to feelings or gratitude or even satirical of the holiday.
posted by halseyaa at 8:51 AM PST - 17 comments

New-baby present for a second, older baby?

I have spectacularly flaked on a friend's new baby and am now looking to buy a welcome gift for a ~9-month-old. It's also a second baby, so they'll already be overstocked with gear, clothes, toys and books. To be worthwhile, this will have to be monumentally awesome, and/or personalized to the particular baby. What should I get? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 8:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Verizon Nixes Nexus, What Now?

Made the mistake of buying an iPhone 5c on which no one can hear me. I've brought it back to the apple store twice, they wanted to give me a third phone and I said no. I'm stuck with the contract but want out of the phone. It looked like the Nexus 7 was going to be a perfect replacement until I found out it don't work with Verizon. Need a contractless, reasonably priced alternative to the 5c. I don't need or want the options of the 5s. Would like to buy new phone over the net not through Verizon or Apple. Any suggestions?
posted by Xurando at 8:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Turning unpublished report into conference paper - self-plagiarism?

I'm trying to turn my masters report into a conference paper. This mainly involves shortening it by many, many pages. Masters reports in my department are not published or even listed online or at the library. The only way anyone could ever read it or even know about it is to ask me or my advisor for a copy. Instead, the way I am sharing the work is to write a conference paper on the same subject. Do I need to cite my own unpublished report? [more inside]
posted by Gravel at 8:27 AM PST - 9 comments

One Day in Istanbul

I'll be traveling to Hong Kong/China this February, with a one-day (19 hour) layover in Istanbul. What's the best use of my time there? [more inside]
posted by Curiosity Delay at 8:03 AM PST - 6 comments

Instrumental Tracks - Jeff Wayne's "War of the Worlds"

I'm interested in getting the instrumental tracks from Jeff Wayne's musical version of War of the Worlds without any singing or narration. Any idea how I would get ahold of that?
posted by to sir with millipedes at 7:59 AM PST - 0 comments

Advanced Home Cooks--What's on Your Wishlist? (Assuming You Were Good!)

Cooking is probably my main hobby these days. And, as a late-thirties professional, I have a fully outfitted kitchen. I'm being asked for gift ideas for Christmas, and I think I'll probably limit myself to 1) whisky and 2) stuff for the kitchen. Fellow advanced home cooks with fully stocked kitchens, what's on your wishlist this holiday season? Not looking for gimmicky stuff; rather something I'd actually use for years to come. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 7:25 AM PST - 53 comments

The Penn is mightier than my patience

Two adults catching a mid-afternoon Amtrak from New York Penn station on Wednesday. Looming weather disasters aside, what's the best way to make this as stress-free as possible? Travel pros, share your Penn station hacks! [more inside]
posted by Theophylactic at 7:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Onion bit re: brother & sister wait for sibling relationship to occur?

The Onion posted either a photo with a title, or a short article, around the idea of a brother and sister who are awkwardly waiting until they somehow magically end up with a close sibling relationship. I've googled and searched the Onion site, but I can only find the one about the brother and sister who talk on the phone to make their mom happy. [more inside]
posted by chonus at 7:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Wifi Woe

Having wifi troubles, don't know why. Help! [more inside]
posted by xenization at 6:12 AM PST - 7 comments

Best way to track number and duration of wireless sessions?

As an organization that provides free wifi to our guests we would love to be able to track the number and duration of the wireless sessions in our facility. Just as importantly, we'd like to be able to track these statistics as easily as possible, e.g., with a log that's emailed daily, or with an interface that lets you query data for a particular time period. [more inside]
posted by woodman at 5:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Where to run in Bryan - College Station that isn't concrete?

We'll be spending time in Bryan-College Station over Thanksgiving. Where can we get in a long run -- say, 7-10 miles -- that isn't concrete? Crushed granite paths would be ideal, but I'm not holding my breath.
posted by starkraven at 4:27 AM PST - 2 comments

Is there an English version of these German publications

On the weekend I discovered a great series of German magazines/publications: Karfunkel, especially the Karfunkel Combat series. I know my son would love this stuff, but his German is super basic. So is there an English magazine series anything like these? [more inside]
posted by Megami at 4:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Career advice for math major (also competent programmer)?

I like math. Programming is OK, but I don't want to make it my thing. What careers should I be looking at? (Special snowflake details inside.) [more inside]
posted by sqrtofpi at 2:23 AM PST - 15 comments

November 24

What to do if nude photos were ever leaked?

I’m in my very early twenties. I made some horrific decisions in my late teens to send guys naked photos of myself. Yes, completely naked. Yes, including my face. While none of them have leaked as far as I know, I’ve been extremely anxious about the possibility that they one day will. I pray everyday for it not to happen. I was young, stupid, insecure. I’m going into a field where, if I’m successful, I’ll be in the public eye, where I’ll be well-known to some degree. I worry that one day these photos will either be used as blackmail or be leaked…or that it’ll ruin a blossoming career. I worry that the bad decisions I made to hurt myself will haunt me. What can I do to alleviate this risk, and if it does indeed happen, how can I deal with it in the best way to save my career, relationships, soul? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:33 PM PST - 45 comments

When does Dorothy's dream begin in Wizard of Oz?

In the 1939 film version of Wizard of Oz, Dorothy wakes up and discovers her trip to Oz was all a dream. But when does the dream begin? [more inside]
posted by dontjumplarry at 10:29 PM PST - 2 comments

Thanksgiving in Manhattan

Help me be an non-touristy tourist in New York City this week. [more inside]
posted by bamassippi at 9:22 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me identify the meaning and origins of this old Netscape t-shirt!

I'm on a major closet-purge (selling off all my old geek t-shirts from the 90's & 2000's), and I uncovered this old "Cypherpunk Policy" Netscape t-shirt that I'm trying to identify the origins of. [more inside]
posted by melorama at 8:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Bulk Christmas goodies

What are your best recipes for holiday goodies to give out as gifts, to make in bulk? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 8:16 PM PST - 29 comments

Why is sports officiator Frank Fats Cubellis called "Fats"?

Frank Cubellis, a New Castle, PA, sports officiator, got the nickname "Fat" shortly after birth and was later called "Fats". Is this because he was chubby or fat or for some other reason?
posted by kirsti at 8:07 PM PST - 4 comments

No more drama, plz

How can I handle this situation with a minimum of fuss and hurt feelings? [more inside]
posted by bookgirl18 at 7:29 PM PST - 15 comments

Vegetarianism for the lazy

Is there a vegetarian/vegan version of Shrinking on a Budget that provides a weekly meal plan and shopping list? Doesn't necessarily have to be weight-loss oriented. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 7:23 PM PST - 5 comments

How to sell classes online (but not online classes)?

Can you show me examples of websites you love that make it easy for you to sign up for/purchase classes? Alternatively, can you point me towards resources for best design practices for this kind of site (online signup for real-life classes)? [more inside]
posted by atlantica at 7:10 PM PST - 3 comments

My Wii audio is all static! Gasp!

Suddenly today my Wii (regular, not U) is putting out static in the audio! Google says it may be the component cables going, could it be anything else? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 6:08 PM PST - 3 comments

Baby Sucked Down the Snot Sucker

Your child ate what? I'm fairly certain that Baby Tafetta swallowed herself one of the filters from the Nosefrida Snot Sucker this evening. The blue filter consists of moisture absorbing polyurethane. I tried unsuccessfully to sweep out her mouth a couple of times but found nothing. She was otherwise fine and finished her bottle before going to sleep. [more inside]
posted by tafetta, darling! at 6:06 PM PST - 11 comments

Student discounts for software?

I am graduating college this year and wondering what student discounts on software ought I take advantage of? I am aware of Tableau, Max/MSP and Microsoft Office Suites offering academic discounts but would like to be aware of anything that becomes prohibitively expensive after my scholarly status ends. Are there any professional organizations I can join such as the ACM that offer book or software discounts as well?
posted by anonymous at 5:57 PM PST - 10 comments

Recreating the hot chocolate from City Bakery in NYC

What is the richest hot chocolate recipe you know? I'm looking for something starts off, "grate baker's chocolate into a bain-marie of heavy cream..." and produces something so rich I can nurse a "small" serving for almost an hour because every sip fills my mouth with chocolate flavor. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 5:42 PM PST - 25 comments

Crash-course in IT security?

I'm looking for good books or websites that will give me a crash-course on modern IT security - common vulnerabilities, common strategies, common jargon, etc. [more inside]
posted by Dr. Zachary Smith at 5:30 PM PST - 13 comments

Song help needed : "beware the romance of exotic frontiers"

I heard a song on the radio. Male vocal over instrumental backup, more or less folk style, sort of vaguely Irish sounding in style. I can only remember two lines: "beware the romance of exotic frontiers" and "garnished the blood of a nation". Google's got nothin'. What is this song? Thanks!
posted by crazylegs at 5:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Advice for broken-hearted 36 y.o. who cannot stay pregnant

My best friend just lost her third pregnancy. She and her husband have been trying to have a baby for 3 years. Her first and second losses were both in the first trimester, causes unknown. This most recent loss was especially horrible - they terminated after profound birth defects (as in: the baby could not survive outside the uterus) were detected on the 20-wk ultrasound. She's 36, and wonders if she'll ever be able to carry a healthy pregnancy to term. Should she give up trying to get pregnant and give birth? Anyone been down this road before and have good advice for her?
posted by hush at 5:00 PM PST - 28 comments

Monkey Farm

My 3yo wants a monkey farm for Christmas. We have no idea what a monkey farm is. [more inside]
posted by Hogshead at 4:00 PM PST - 37 comments

Paypal Prepayment: am I being scammed?

I need to know whether I should be refunding a client who prepaid me on PayPal and then cancelled. [more inside]
posted by endless_forms at 3:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Used iPhones in Stockholm?

A long shot but does anyone know if there are any places, online or preferably in a store, where you can buy a used or older iphone in Stockholm, Sweden? [more inside]
posted by Papagayo at 3:21 PM PST - 3 comments

ISO: fabulous soft Thanksgiving food

My sister just had thyroid surgery that did not go entirely as planned; she is getting better, but is very hoarse and having some difficulty swallowing. We are very hopeful that this is temporary, but it will certainly put a crimp in her Thanksgiving. [more inside]
posted by maryrussell at 3:10 PM PST - 20 comments

Best way to get from Boston to NYC

We're trying to get from Boston to NYC with as little expense and aggravation as possible. What's the best way to do that? [more inside]
posted by Colonel_Chappy at 2:58 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me keep our Apple Cinema displays out of the landfill.

We have five aluminum 30" Apple Cinema displays at the office. They are slowly going dim. I don't want to trash them. How can they be fixed? [more inside]
posted by Mei's lost sandal at 2:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Oh wow, I bet it's a gift card.

Looking for fun ideas to wrap restaurant gift certificates for Christmas that will disguise what the gift is a little under the tree. Difficulty: less than $10. [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 2:15 PM PST - 21 comments

Geek parent meets high school theater -- there must be an app for that?

I've got a kid enjoying high school theater, and I'd like to help. My skills do NOT run to hammers or sewing machines, but I can work Chrome / Google Docs / databases like a pro. The costume designer is wishing for a way to track student measurements, costume notes, and pictures / photos in some sort of online / app format for going to fabric stores and keeping track of sewing progress. She's coveting an iPad mini to use with it, so I guess an app would be fine. I'd prefer a Chrome / Google Doc option, because I'm cheap. LOVE to hear from costume designers / wardrobe coordinators who've figured this out. Extra credit points for people who know how to create a costume database for completed costumes after the shows.
posted by contemplativenapper at 2:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Putting weird lenses on a micro four thirds body

I have a lovely little Lumix GF3. It has a 14mm lense. While I have great fun sticking the camera right in peoples faces to get a picture, I would like to get something a little more versatile. Ideally by buying inappropriate lenses from strange Chinese sites. [more inside]
posted by Iteki at 1:40 PM PST - 7 comments

Can father be legally required or encouraged to improve housing?

Asking for a friend. She is wondering if anything can be done to get her ex-husband to move into larger accommodations and stop sharing a bed with her protesting children. [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 1:33 PM PST - 39 comments

interesting tree choices for South Carolina yard?

The very large pecan tree shading our backyard is dying and must go this winter. We're looking for a replacement to be centered in the (1/8 acre or so) backyard. We don't want another shade tree - just a nice tree to anchor the yard. I'm specifically looking for especially odd/unique/interesting options - something that will surprise people. This is in zone 8a and would probably start as a seedling.
posted by ftm at 1:22 PM PST - 20 comments

Car-appy paint job

We have a 97 Jeep Cherokee, which has two flaws (according to my wife, who is the primary driver). One is the paint job, which is typical for a car of this age- many little scratches and dings from rocks and such, and the other is the headliner (the ceiling fabric), which is descending. We can't afford (nor is the car worth imho), a new paint job, and the headliner issue just makes me shake my...head. Anyway, I was hoping to DIY one or both of these things while I have access to the car between Thanksgiving and Christmas. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by PlantGoddess at 1:02 PM PST - 15 comments

How to drive cross country - safely - in the winter?

I'm driving from DC to Washington State in a few weeks, and will take the northern route (OH, IL, IA, SD, MT, ID, WA). I'm concerned about wintry weather, and want to take precautions for a safe drive. What are some best steps or considerations to get there safely? What worked well for you in similar circumstances? [more inside]
posted by LittleFuzzy at 1:01 PM PST - 20 comments

Need art portfolio app with extended text, for ipad

Can you recommend an app for iPad that will be useful both as an art portfolio and a sort of book creator? I'm trying to figure out a way to display small works of art with their short individual (fictional) backstories. So, sort of a picture book. Sort of an art gallery. [more inside]
posted by Glinn at 12:40 PM PST - 1 comment

Figuring it out

What should I learn next: Node.js or Android development? [more inside]
posted by antgly at 11:34 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I listen to new music inside my blackhole office?

In my office at work, I have no FM radio reception, no cellular phone reception, and only have https internet access. Are there any internet music streaming sites using SSL? Or any podcasts I could download at home and bring to work? [more inside]
posted by mnemonic at 11:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Trying to find the title of a dog movie; perhaps Wilford Brimley

I'm vaguely remembering a movie, maybe a made-for-tv movie. The plot involved a kid, I think a boy, coming to live with relatives (?) Maybe he was a foster kid, or maybe the adults he was to live with were his grandparents. The kid wants a dog. Wilford Brimley, I believe, was the irascible grandfather with a heart of gold. [more inside]
posted by newdaddy at 10:45 AM PST - 13 comments

Have you ever used a laundry pick-up/delivery service in Brooklyn?

Laundry is a major scourge in my life. It occurs to me that there are services that pick up and drop off your laundry. How…do those work? What sort of bag do I need to put my stuff in? How risky is it, i.e., what is the likelihood something will get lost or damaged? Most importantly, is there a service you can recommend in the Prospect Heights/Park Slope area?
posted by Charity Garfein at 10:17 AM PST - 9 comments

Running shoes without laces

Can anyone recommend some running shoes with no laces that don't need to be fitted in a running shop? Ideally they should be buyable in London tomorrow, or able to be delivered in the UK quite quickly. [more inside]
posted by Bows of Bow at 10:04 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me make Beautiful Music with my computer.

What software for the Mac will let me import midi files and produce a full piano score for the song? [more inside]
posted by duckus at 10:00 AM PST - 5 comments

I want to be heroic but not, you know, in an inconvenient way.

I recently lost my cat, and I would like to go to the local humane society to adopt another one. I would like to find a balance between selecting a cat that would both best fit the requirements of our household and one that would probably a lower chance of being adopted. Can you help me identify traits to look for? [more inside]
posted by bibliowench at 9:59 AM PST - 17 comments

Choo choo cha question. About trains. For grammy.

Help me help grandma figure out what's in the passing trains. [more inside]
posted by letahl at 9:52 AM PST - 9 comments

Newbie travelling to India

I'm contemplating travelling to India (New Delhi to start with) in January for ~10 days and meeting a friend there who is a naturalized US citizen who was born and raised in India. I know I need a visa in advance of leaving (gathered that much from the US State Dept website) but which kind? And: what else should I know?
posted by eustacescrubb at 9:49 AM PST - 17 comments

Looking for a vacation spot in NC or Virginia, need help!

I'm planning to travel south from Massachusetts this summer's vacation, Virginia or NC (with elementary aged kids). Looking a home base with beautiful natural scenery, nice little restaurants nearby, and maybe a river to tube down. [more inside]
posted by beccaj at 9:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Area Woman Wants to Learn to Hit People

I'd like to take up a martial art, and there are a bewildering variety of them. Help me choose one and figure out where I can study it in my area. [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 9:35 AM PST - 7 comments

Computer shopping, what do I need?

I have a Dell Computer desktop that runs with Windows XP now. It is 11 years old and has been a good one but is running slow so it is time for a replacement. I just need the tower, I have been looking at Dell's website but am willing to try another brand if they are comparable. I do not do any gaming on computer, just internet surfing and some Microsoft Office Word and Excel work. I have Internet through Dish Network Satellite. I have read if you are not into touch screens to get Windows 7 Home Edition. I don't think I want to go with refurbished computer and Amazon seems to be a popular choice for computer shoppers. I have no idea really what to look for, the Dell Inspiron 660 is priced at $529 with 1 TB Hard Drive, 8 GB RAM, 6 M cache/up to 3.3 GHZ Intel Core i5 - 3340 processor. There are other towers with 1 TB Hard Drive and 4 GB RAM - would this be a good choice? Any suggestions appreciated.
posted by just asking at 9:32 AM PST - 8 comments

SelfishFilter: Is there a polite way to say "gifts ok"?

Some friends are throwing us a wedding reception and have requested "no gifts" on the invitation. Can I somehow ask them to change that or is that just the done thing now? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:50 AM PST - 68 comments

Pregnancy announcement at work

You all have helped me out with scripting a number of workplace situations, including lay-off, being hired, and sadly telling HR that I would not need maternity leave (which I asked anonymously, but no longer care if it became known). Plus, I've learned a lot from others' questions. So I'm hoping you can help me out again with telling my brand new employer that I am newly pregnant. [more inside]
posted by Kriesa at 8:48 AM PST - 18 comments

Non-sports competitions for adults

I'm most productive when I'm being competitive and there's outside pressure. I'd like to find some competitions or groups to give me this opportunity. [more inside]
posted by LSK at 8:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Spend all the money on the car or use it to vacate Dodge?

A longish just post quarter life crisis question for my 30 year old daughter. Short version: jobless; car died; cost of repairs = every single penny coming from her 401K - her only income. Worth it to repair or should she b) leave town or c) get a cheaper beater car or d) got a Plan D? She could use a d. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 7:41 AM PST - 23 comments

Considering divorce... or depression

Married almost 3 years, together for over 4 years. My husband is a funny, arrogant genius, and when I first met him he was very kind to me. Right after we got married, things changed... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:05 AM PST - 53 comments

Live Cam?

How do I set up a live camera at my business? [more inside]
posted by unreasonable at 7:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me stay warm: tall+slim outerwear for women

Winter coat filter: Hello minds of mefi, I am looking for an uber warm women's parka. Complexity level: I am six feet tall and size 4. Brands like North Face are great, but the sleeves are too short and waist is too wide. So I am looking for quality brads that I could look into that would fit a tall, slim woman. Any suggestions are appreciated. Thanks in advance.
posted by mooselini at 7:03 AM PST - 9 comments

Ow. Ow. Ow. Ow.

Inside my right boot there is a thin fold in the material that is in the perfect spot to press directly onto my pinkie toe and hurt. How do I iron this out or something? Even the thickest socks don't help; it's like a Princess and the Pea thing going on. Ideas?
posted by griphus at 6:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Murder Mystery/Thriller buffs, I need your help for Nano!

I debated whether to post this as I am not sure it is an acceptable use for AskMe, but I am stuck and need help! I have pantsed 39K of what I would describe as a plotless mess of an anti-novel, but I am determined to fiinsh. So even though this feels a bit like cheating, I am asking for advice related to plot issues in my Nano. [Warning - contains spoliers lol!] [more inside]
posted by marienbad at 5:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me win the hearts and mold the minds of my faraway niece and nephew

I'm spending the holidays with my sister and her family and need gift suggestions for her son and daughter, ages 8 and 6 respectively. Bonus for gifts about animals! [more inside]
posted by désoeuvrée at 2:52 AM PST - 11 comments

What are some gender stereotypes that used to be reversed?

I am interested in gender stereotypes that used to be reversed or are the other way around in another culture. For example, pink used to be considered a vigorous masculine color and blue was a softer color associated with girls. Similarly, high heel used to be worn by men (as riding boots), but were introduced into women's fashion at a time when women were dressing to emulate men
posted by casebash at 12:34 AM PST - 29 comments

November 23

What can I do to improve my old school gas-fired floor furnaces?

Are there improvements that can be done to them to improve their efficiency and safety? Are there retrofits? Would I be able to purchase something more modern that would directly replace the existing units? [more inside]
posted by rybreadmed at 11:48 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there some sort of etiquette in getting a second medical opinion?

I haven't had many medical problems over the course of my life, but recently I had two (separate) "emergency" hospitalizations for a condition that I had been unaware that I had/have. (Complicated diverticulitis with perforation). Both hospitalizations were truly harrowing and have pretty much turned my life upside down. Very serious! In the hospital (the 2nd time) a surgeon who was on call told me that it really is not a matter of if I need surgery, but when I need surgery. (He says I need a colon resection). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:09 PM PST - 10 comments

CPAP Machines and TSA X-Rays

Why must CPAP machines be removed from their carrying cases when being X-rayed by the TSA? [more inside]
posted by Juffo-Wup at 9:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Point me to some harbors from the storm

November 2013 has been brutal. It has featured the sudden collapse of my prosperous business of 17 years, and simultaneously of my romantic relationship of 3 years, and now it looks like I'll be losing my home. What I'm left with is an income of only about $1100 per month, a battered heart, 100,000 frequent flyer miles, and a passport. Where can I go to get my head together? [more inside]
posted by dacoit at 8:55 PM PST - 19 comments

Where can I get more education, inexpensively?

I already have one bachelor's degree, and now I have all the time in the world, and a desire to learn even more. Which state offers low-cost or free-cost bachelor's degree programs, and can you just get into your car and go? What are my options for getting more education, inexpensively? [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 7:32 PM PST - 15 comments

In desperate need of Italian sausage recipes

Due to an impulse purchase at Costco, we have more mild/sweet Italian sausages than I know what to do with. I wanted a couple-few to stuff mushrooms and eat for lunch, and now we have enough to feed the entire neighborhood (which I would do if there were room to invite them over, but there's not). So please, give me your best recipes and ideas for Italian sausage! And your second-best, and third-best... Difficulty: no pasta, bread, or poratoes because we're eating low-carb for medical reasons.
posted by rhiannonstone at 6:28 PM PST - 40 comments

Meal planning extreme!

Help me app-ify the way that I plan for meals for extreme streamlining given a series of food restrictions. [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 6:19 PM PST - 5 comments

What should I put in a meal in-a-box?

What meals-in-a-box should I send to my darling? [more inside]
posted by justalisteningman at 6:13 PM PST - 6 comments

What are the lyrics for Vlasta Popic's song, Nova?

I don't speak Croatian, but I need to find out whether the lyrics to the song "Nova" by Vlasta Popic are objectionable. If anyone can understand the song lyrics, could you tell me what the singer is singing about, and if any part of it would be offensive to little old Croatian ladies? [more inside]
posted by Techbear at 5:56 PM PST - 2 comments

A JFK assassination book that stays away from conspiracies?

I'm looking for a book about JFK's assassination that covers the events leading up to, during and following the assassination, but not one that gets bogged down in discussing the various conspiracy theories. A book that's written by a respected historian with a good reputation works the best. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 5:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Searching for more squonky sax.

What is some music that sounds like this? I keep thinking GE Smith SNL intros, but there has to be a well of this somewhere- I hope?
posted by greasy_skillet at 5:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Need tall slim women's boots

My wife ordered these boots but they are not slim enough in the calf. (The site states they are 13" around at the top but it is really 16".) She can't find anything under $300 that is a slender enough size. She's about 5'3", ~110 lbs, size 8 shoe. Any suggestions? Would like to keep it under $150-200 if possible.
posted by tracer at 4:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Would it be ok to ask this person for a reference letter?

I haven't known him for that long. And am in a position of privilege [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 4:50 PM PST - 17 comments

Home practice guitar amp for 80's hair metal fan?

I'm brainstorming ideas for a Christmas gift. The recipient is a fan of 80's hair metal (Van Halen especially) and has a guitar but no amp for playing at home. Sound quality is the thing I'm after, it doesn't need to be too loud. [more inside]
posted by keep it under cover at 4:48 PM PST - 12 comments

Should I buy a camera?

That's my question, really... I'll be going on a short overseas trip soon and I'm still undecided about whether or not I should splurge in a new camera. Surprisingly long (more inside) for a camera question. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by misozaki at 3:57 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me improve my dismal musical ability!

I'm looking for a piece of music training software, designed for use with a MIDI keyboard, that will help develop my dexterity and general competence with melody, harmony, and chords. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 3:41 PM PST - 7 comments

A question of screws

I've got some heavy things mounted on the wall (mirrors, mostly) that are mounted (and can only be mounted) by hanging them onto two screws inside their top corners. There are no screws at the bottom, and there is no way for them to be: but I'd like them not to fall down if they are hit from the base and pushed upwards, lifting them off the screws. [more inside]
posted by gorcha at 2:19 PM PST - 17 comments

Christmas Sweater Question

I need to buy a christmas sweater for someone with one very important detail. [more inside]
posted by poffin boffin at 2:01 PM PST - 23 comments

What's it called when you have label inks in an illustration?

Realistic question: What is it called in printing when a copy of the art has inks labeled with lines and callouts and labels? Long "this would solve everything" question inside [more inside]
posted by Brainy at 1:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Finding the markets for your salvage?

I am in a remote rural area of Atlantic Canada. There is as much old collapsing shit here as a person could want, I have only been here a short while and already have more salvage than I know what to do with, it's an embarrassment of riches! [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 1:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Wedding Dance Lessons NYC

Weddingfilter: My fiance and I are getting married in NYC in October, we'd like advice on Wedding dance classes. We'd like personal recommendations if anyone has experience with specific places. [more inside]
posted by edbles at 1:21 PM PST - 2 comments

Any bright ideas to bolster my diagnosis about this electric motor?

Troubleshooting an ancient 3hp split phase 240 VAC motor, I found a likely problem, which I fixed, and the fine old beast still trips the breaker. Join me in my diagnosis, and suggest if further work is warranted. [more inside]
posted by FauxScot at 1:17 PM PST - 9 comments

Educational mathamatics apps for adults that will work on an iPhone?

I am looking for adult-oriented iOS apps that will help improve my math skills. [more inside]
posted by Gin and Comics at 1:02 PM PST - 5 comments

Adventure vacation suggestions

Help me plan our next vacation. [more inside]
posted by TorontoSandy at 12:44 PM PST - 1 comment

Do I really need both stocks AND bonds in my long-term investments?

I am planning to invest for retirement (35+ years away) in a Roth IRA. I've always been told to have a mix of stocks and bonds in any portfolio, starting at about a 90/10 split for someone my age. Considering that I'm not going to touch this money for a very long time, wouldn't I be better off just putting my money into some low expense ratio index funds and skipping the bonds altogether? This seems to fly in the face of every investment advice I've ever seen, but I don't understand why. [more inside]
posted by wondercow at 12:15 PM PST - 20 comments

Same-sex marriage: what does it legally mean?

Dear Metafilter: My girlfriend and I (also a lady) want to get married. Yay! Now what exactly does that mean for us? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:07 PM PST - 11 comments

I'm looking for an article about an old woman that looks fabulous.

Roughly a week ago I read an article about an elderly woman (eighties or nineties) that looked fantastic for her age. I cannot find it. [more inside]
posted by Fairchild at 10:58 AM PST - 3 comments

How to set up a weekly meal planning/recipe subscription service?

I would like to set up weekly meal planning/recipe/shopping list service. I follow a certain dietary plan -(NOT paleo )and think that that there i a gap in the market for a simple menu/shopping list which arrives in your inbox every week. The problem is that I have no idea how to go about setting it up.I am a very decent cook and have done this for myself for about a year,so I already have a whole set of recipes and tricks that are diet compliant. I need to know if there are any software options that I should be looking at and I have no problem investing the money for someone else to do it-but I'm not even sure who I should be approaching!I would like to be able to modify it and maybe offer add ons/customizations if it was successful. So any help and advice would be gratefully received! Thank you!
posted by hitchcockblonde at 9:49 AM PST - 5 comments

Scraping/Painting an Old House With Layers of Lead Paint

The exterior of my 100 year old house (dutch colonial) is a mess: layers of paint atop paint. Nobody's ever scraped because there's obviously lead in there. So at this point, it's a gunky, peeling mess. And I don't want to resort to siding. I got one estimate to scrape (in full-out hazmat suits and containment set-ups, etc) and paint for $25K. Yeow! I don't want to make anyone sick - not the painters, nor the kids in the nabe - I really don't. Are there less expensive options?
posted by Quisp Lover at 9:20 AM PST - 25 comments

Advice for Massachusetts Road Test

I will be taking my first road test on Monday, in Massachusetts (specifically, Lynn). I'd like to hear from people who've taken this test in the past. What were you asked to do? I'd particularly like to hear from people who've failed the test: where did you fall down? [more inside]
posted by HoraceH at 9:05 AM PST - 19 comments

Hourly contract rate for SQL in the UK?

I'm an American in the UK and have been hired to do some freelance work for a tech company in Northern England. I'm not sure what to charge for my hourly rate. I am working in SQL, writing queries and turning them into data visualizations for the web (using Ruby and Javascript/HTML). I am very junior, although quite competent at SQL; I'm coming up (and quickly) in the other areas. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:29 AM PST - 3 comments

What to do with my life?

I'm at a crossroads, and I want to figure out a few things: a) What I can do with my interests, in the long run. b) What I need to do in order to achieve my goals. c) Whether I should start undergrad next year. d) What I should do with the next year of my life if I don't start undergrad next year. Long details inside, but if you have a personal story of how you handled these decisions that has nothing to do with my special-snowflakeyness, I'd love to hear it, too. [more inside]
posted by alon at 8:20 AM PST - 7 comments

To DHA or not DHA when pregnant?

Hello! My wife is pregnant with our first child (second trimester.) She's been taking a DHA supplement (Nordic Naturals PreNatal) for prenatal brain development, but has suddenly gotten worried about whether it's good to take a DHA supplement. Our doctor/nurse pretty much has no advice on this matter. Now my wife is worrying about mercury/lead though we can't find any evidence that this actually exists in fish oils, or Nordic Naturals in particular. Take it or not? [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 7:22 AM PST - 18 comments

California / Southwest road trip itinerary advice

Boyfriend and I are planning a round trip (by rental car) through California and the Southwest and we'd love some input on the first rough draft of the route. We're going for 23 days in September next year and would like to stay in fairly affordable hotels and motels (no camping). [more inside]
posted by Skybly at 7:20 AM PST - 34 comments

How can I listen to cricket broadcasts in the US?

How can I listen to live Ashes cricket radio commentary in the US? During the first leg of the series played in England, I listened to Test Match Special via the "British Radios" app but all I get now when I choose the BBC Radio 5 link is a message telling me that "this part of the program is unavailable due to rights restrictions." I cannot access the ABC through the Grandstand website. Clicking on the live commentary link gets me ads for Grandstand but no Jim Maxwell. The link on the Cricket Australia site is dead. Google hasn't helped me. I'd rather listen on my iPhone or iPad (ios7) but I'll resort to a laptop if needed. Is there a free solution I've overlooked? Is there a paid option I haven't found? If it turns out that I can't listen to broadcasts can someone please explain why?
posted by firstdrop at 6:48 AM PST - 13 comments

November 22

What is this movie?

I've only seen the trailer, but... [more inside]
posted by patheral at 10:14 PM PST - 5 comments

Nutritionally Balanced Fish Recipes

Recommendations for fish recipes that include a carbohydrate and a substantial vegetable component? Alternatively, what are your favourite vegetable side dishes/pairings for fish? [more inside]
posted by kiki_s at 9:58 PM PST - 19 comments

Find me a beer similar to Golden Road Berliner Weisse

What beer can I easily find that will be closest to Golden Road's Berliner Weisse? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 9:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for pc action-adventure game from the 90's

-PC action-adventure game, mostly action, but I do remember simple adventure things like moving blocks or unlocking doors -first person view -can't remember how health stats and weaponry were viewed -Had to rescue a woman (go figure), but not sure if she was royalty or anything, just motivation to do the journey -Started in kobold (or kobolt) caverns, there was a spider cavern section where it was tunnels burrowed by the spiders themselves, a lava cavern/mining level where you had to break down a rock borer (might have been a laser) -mid to late 90's probably because it's graphics were close to Quake 2, just not as smooth [more inside]
posted by LittleNami at 9:27 PM PST - 9 comments

What car to buy?

Let's play the ask-the-green-what-car-I-should-buy game. [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 8:00 PM PST - 27 comments

What are the best cities for a mid-thirties single woman?

What are the best cities for a mid-thirties single woman? [more inside]
posted by sunflower16 at 7:58 PM PST - 21 comments

Is there any reason to change this compromised password? And if so, how?

My "throw-away" password is in the list of those compromised by the Adobe hack. It's a common dictionary word that I use for sites that I really don't care about security on: things that I don't even understand why they should be password protected, "test-driving" sites or products where I don't intend to keep using them, and an old email account that was for a blog that I haven't updated in about four years. (And I don't use the account any more). I'm pretty unconcerned about it being compromised. Is there any reason I should worry? And if I do want to change it, is there any way to find out what all the sites are that I have used it on in the past? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 6:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I buy my son a hookah for Christmas?

Should I buy my son a hookah for Christmas? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 5:39 PM PST - 38 comments

Help Me Find Some Giant-Sized Snacks!

So, a few weeks ago we were in Freeport, Maine and saw a giant whoopie pie, which we knew immediately would be the perfect Chrismas gift for my youngest brother. Then, tonight, my wife found a giant Rice Krispie Treat, which she bought as a Christmas gift for my middle brother. So now we have A Theme for amusing consumables for the rest of the family. But now we need to come up with some other Abnormally Large Food Items for 5-6 other family members. Help me find them. [more inside]
posted by briank at 5:12 PM PST - 39 comments

Looking for Jiro or Fuyu Persimmon recipes

My neighbor has a persimmon tree. They are the squat, bright orange type of persimmons, likely Fuyu or Jiro. They look like this. I have tasted one and it has the texture of an apple. The skin is edible. The flavor is honey. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by amanda at 5:02 PM PST - 16 comments

wanted: brick-and-mortar store in Chicago for winter coats

First Chicago winter for a California native. Need recommendations for stores that have good-quality but not-too-expensive winter coats. [more inside]
posted by phoenix_rising at 4:38 PM PST - 19 comments

Can we eat it: talking a green streak version

We have just the right number of potatoes per person. Organic Yukon. One of them had a green streak visible through the skin -- I can't see everything that's inside, of course. Can we eat this potato? I cut off the visible green part. There is a lot of Toxic Green Potato lore out there. I just can't believe it's a big deal -- I mean, a busy sous chef would never throw out a potato for a bit of a green streak, right? or even notice it?-- but another cook in our kitchen thinks it's dangerous toxic mold. Yes, the potato was only 25 cents or something, but it would be nice for everyone to have their baked potato if there's no reason to toss it. The potatoes will be done in an hour, so thanks!
posted by third rail at 4:10 PM PST - 13 comments

Human assumptions?

Lists of assumptions? [more inside]
posted by curuinor at 3:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Does black carbon silt coming from the filter in my ZeroWater pitcher co

Does black carbon silt coming from the filter in my ZeroWater pitcher contain any of the stuff it filtered out? [more inside]
posted by vash at 3:25 PM PST - 1 comment

Batman: Linguistic Origins

What are some examples of really easy/obvious etymological descents that most people aren't really aware of? I'm trying to prove to somebody that there are a lot of these in the english language but I've forgotten most of the interesting ones I used to know. [more inside]
posted by tehloki at 2:59 PM PST - 28 comments

How do I get the "follow" button to show up on Facebook posts?

I have a Galaxy S3 that I've been using to check facebook groups by clicking on the link in my email notification, then opening it in Chrome. I like to "follow" posts to get email notification if anyone else comments. I just got a Nexus 7, and when I access my groups in Chrome, there's no follow button, only "like," "comment," and "share." The follow button does show up in Firefox, but Firefox doesn't let me pinch zoom. Trying to click on the link in my email and then choosing the facebook app to open it with doesn't work at all. So if anyone has ideas about how to either make the "follow" button show up in Chrome or how to zoom in Firefox or if I should use a different browser/app, please let me know. Thanks!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 2:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Where can I find high-waisted boy's pants?

My kiddo, like his dad, has a pants problem. Specifically, while his legs are only slightly longer than normal, he is built in such a way that regular pants don't make it far enough up his butt. Basically, he needs pants that are longer in the crotch-to-waistline area and can pull up higher. Most boy pants don't have a lot of room for that. We end up with either plumber crack or uncomfortably hitched pants. [more inside]
posted by emjaybee at 2:41 PM PST - 9 comments

How to discuss possible theft with house cleaner?

I have had the same house cleaner every two weeks for close to 20 years with no issues. He is very honest. The main guy comes every time and I trust him enough to have a key to my house, but his crew of 2 or 3 that accompanies him seems to change. On Sunday night I wore a diamond pendant and 3 not-valuable stacking rings. I recall removing them and placing them in the drawer where they live when I'm not wearing them. The cleaning people came Wednesday. I went to wear them again today (Friday) and found the necklace and one of the three stacking rings missing. [more inside]
posted by cecic at 2:37 PM PST - 17 comments

Doctor my eyes have seen the tears

The past few days, my eyes, especially my right eye, have been watering a lot. Like, people keep thinking I'm crying a perfect single tear. But there has been no redness, no swelling, no anything, other than tears running down my cheek or waking up with salty crust on my eyes. Last night and today, however, are a different story. Snowflakiness inside. [more inside]
posted by emcat8 at 2:29 PM PST - 16 comments

Recommendations for a robot kit to build to with my two young sons?

I'm looking for recommendations, please, for a robot kit to with my two young sons, 9 and 7. I want it to be a serious project, which will produce a fairly sophisticated animal-like robot, with sensors, navigational abilities, learning abilities, etc. I also want the project to be educational, so that the kids learn something about robotics, electronics, and computing. [more inside]
posted by kitfreeman at 2:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Awkward neighbor

My neighbor attempted to ask me out today. I'm not interested. How do I keep things from being awkward while living here for another year and a half? [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune at 2:18 PM PST - 43 comments

How do I get blood out of sheets that have been washed?

I have a 3-4 quarter sized blood stains on white sheets. The sheets were laundered and ran through a dryer. Anyway to get it out? They're definitely a lighter color then before, but still visible since the sheets are white. [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 2:17 PM PST - 27 comments

To sign or not to sign

I'm doing a series of digitally printed images on canvas for a show. I've only done this screen printed before, so this time with the digital prints, I'm not sure what to do about signing and numbering them. Is this something I should do? Not? [more inside]
posted by monkey!knife!fight! at 1:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Ontario plumber hassles

Hired plumber to fix water softener. $357 later I am worse off than I was before I hired the plumber. What remedies are available to me in Ontario...? [more inside]
posted by kmennie at 1:54 PM PST - 2 comments

Cross-cultural meal times & frequency

How standard is the 3-meals-a-day eating behaviour? What about times of day for eating, x-culturally? It would be interesting to hear any insights from folks outside of North America. Thank you!
posted by SpecialSpaghettiBowl at 1:24 PM PST - 22 comments

How do I deal with my spouse having an external romantic relationship?

I found out my partner of 20 years/spouse of 11 was having an emotional/romantic affair with our best friend and lied to me about it. Now that we've gone through the initial reveal, I've told her I've forgiven her; she's hinting she's been thinking about romantic relationships outside of our marriage. tl;dr- Are we done here or can this be saved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:16 PM PST - 50 comments

What do you do when you're new in a job, and your life goes to hell?

I'm new in a job, and so far I've received extremely positive reviews, however I've noticed that I'm making mistakes that are unlike me because I'm terribly distracted by personal challenges. Some snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:15 PM PST - 12 comments

What could they be, the 12 Flavours of Hercules?

Homebrewing brother brainstorming for a series of Classically-inspired beers. One such thought - 12 Labors of Hercules. Trying to pin down geographically helps - lots of apples, oranges, dates, different kinds of aromatic trees, etc. Milk stouts for the cattle. Have any of you seen a food/drink play on the 12 Labors before?
posted by J0 at 12:55 PM PST - 9 comments

Summer Slippers/House Shoes?

My mum and I have been wearing simple fabric embroidered slippers (as house shoes) for years. The store we used to buy them from (in Chinatown Sydney) for $10 each has closed down and I can't for the life of me find a new supplier. [more inside]
posted by bingoes at 12:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Is there a way to regulate a steam radiator?

Apartment dweller here; I don't use much heat, and believe there is an addition to one-pipe steam radiator to regulate them? Anything on the market? reliable? cost?
posted by ebesan at 12:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Weekend headaches: WTF?

For the last two weeks, I've woken up on Saturday morning with a nasty headache that has lasted the entire day. Help? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 11:23 AM PST - 30 comments

What are some good tabletop role playing games similar to D&D?

What is a good "offline" role playing game that I can buy as a gift for a 12 year old who has just gotten really into Dungeons & Dragons? (affordable ones?- under 25 dollars? other than d&d obviously)
posted by petsounds at 11:19 AM PST - 19 comments

Tips on Portraying Santa Claus?

I have to portray Santa Claus at my library in a few weeks and would appreciate some suggestions! [more inside]
posted by cinemafiend at 10:21 AM PST - 8 comments

Non-photographer has to learn to use a studio light kit ASAP

Because I've taken photos that people like, my boss has given me the task of shooting a few corporate studio portraits using the company's equipment (studio light kit and light meter). The problem is that I've never used any of this stuff and have no idea where to begin. I've watched a few YouTube videos but they seem to assume some familiarity with the topic. I have none! While I understand things like f-stop and shutter speed, I've always used the auto settings on my camera. I have any eye for composition but no practical photo equipment skills. Can anyone offer a quick tutorial on how I use this stuff? [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 10:13 AM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a cognitive therapist in Ulster County, NY!

My father has recently suffered brain trauma and needs cognitive therapy. He is at a rehab center now but we are hoping to move him to outpatient soon. First we need to find a good cognitive (and possibly occupational) therapist. He lives in the Kingston/New Paltz area of New York. [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 9:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Suggestions needed for romantic deliveries before the big proposal

On the day I'm planning to propose, I want to flood my partner with deliveries at the office. I'm already planning on: flowers, fruit basket, balloon-o-gram. I'm hoping for additional suggestions of items to send. Difficulty level - gluten free. Bonus question - looking for a courier who will deliver in east Toronto/Scarborough (for gluten free baked goods, which I need to source - recommendations?) [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 9:49 AM PST - 17 comments

Short video for in-class discussion of film techniques

In class next week I'll be doing a "shot at a time" session as described by Roger Ebert, and I need a short (~30 min), visually interesting, readily available video to show in class. [more inside]
posted by fogovonslack at 9:33 AM PST - 16 comments

Please recommend some DJ mixes to put on my running iPod

I've started listening to hour long DJ mixes as the soundtrack to my daily runs. I love BigBeat, Funk, GlobalHouse, Soul, mash-up type stuff. There are millions of DJ sets to download but the names mean nothing to me as I left the 'scene' well over a decade ago and find searching for new artists exhausting. Current faves and musical tastes inside, please help me find more? [more inside]
posted by BlerpityBloop at 9:32 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I get reimbursed for out of network health expenses

I have had quite a lot of medical expenses this year - much of it not covered by insurance. I will speak to my accountant about tax write offs. Is there anyway to get reimbursed for any of the following out of network: blood tests (expensive tests) phone consultations dr visits vitamins travel time Thank you in advance
posted by kbbbo at 9:18 AM PST - 10 comments

Axis of Awesome?

At our company, the "Centre of Excellence" has been too overused, and we've been asked to come up with an alternative. We're hoping to find one that also spells something memorable (Centre of Genius would be COG which is not quite what we'd like). Can you help us? If it helps, the context is around a new PMO Dept, who is intended to be the new Centre of Excellence around project management. Although we have a little leeway, it needs to be professional, so "Axis of Awesome" probably won't fly (not to mention it doesn't spell anything).
posted by routergirl at 9:18 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I break up with a partner who is going through a rough time?

My partner of several years and I are in a long-distance relationship, and I think I've come to the point where, due to a whole bunch of things (which probably mostly rely on a fundamental difference in what we want in terms of a romantic relationship), that I want out. At the same time, I do care about them, and since they are in a really rough spot, I don't want to abandon them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:14 AM PST - 19 comments

Leather + shampoo =?

Shampoo spilled in my suitcase. My leather boots and leather pumps were stained. I tried absorbing the shampoo but the stains are still there. Home remedies? Take to dry cleaner? Cobbler? [more inside]
posted by k8t at 8:48 AM PST - 4 comments

I work with a vampire.

Please help me sort out a human relations issue I'm having with a coworker. I feel exhausted when I work with this person. The easy answer seems to be Talk with her about it, but I imagine the conversation just creating more exhausting drama. And, seeing as it's a work relationship (colleague), I wonder if the right thing for me to do is suck it up and accept that part of what makes it paid work is dealing with different personalities. Any unpacking advice? [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 8:44 AM PST - 36 comments

DC on Black Friday... Non Shopping Suggestions, Please!

My husband and I have the opportunity to be dropped off at the Metro (red line, Glenmont side) at around 11:00am and picked back up there around 5:30-6:00pm on Friday 11/29, the day after Thanksgiving. What should we do? What's open? [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 8:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Where to buy kitchen utensils in Berkeley, California?

To be precise, I need to purchase a gift voucher (online) for a store selling kitchen utensils in Berkeley. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by wavelette at 8:19 AM PST - 20 comments

What's your favourite dance workout?

I love workout DVDs, but often HATE the music they have in them. I get especially annoyed when the instructor isn't even moving to the beat, so imagine my joy when I discovered Zumba a couple of weeks ago! I don't have a regular schedule, so can't really guarantee that I'll be able to attend classes, so I think I'll be exercising in my small living room. What other DVDs or styles of fun and intense dancey workout things should I try? Bonus points for something that burns off a lot in a short amount of time.
posted by joboe at 8:16 AM PST - 8 comments

Tennants rights re: storm broken window.

Yesterday I left 2 apartment windows cranked partially open and, in the heavy winds later that evening, they broke. There is a possibility my landlord could try and charge us for replacing them (~$175 ea). Help me prep in case it goes that way. Oakland, CA. [more inside]
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey at 8:09 AM PST - 7 comments

I think I need a UPS? If so, which one?

When the heater in my place (convector) cycles off, my TV goes black for a second or two. I worry a lot about what this is doing to all of the electronics using outlets in the same wall as the convector. Do you think I need a UPS, and can you guide me through the process? Details inside! [more inside]
posted by theatro at 8:00 AM PST - 10 comments

Post Apocalypse Fic in a Car

My husband needs audiobooks for a boring night shift that work on his (android) phone. He really likes apocalypse and dystopian fiction, as well as classic sci-fi. More inside. [more inside]
posted by blue_and_bronze at 7:52 AM PST - 17 comments

Good weekday DSLR beginners courses in London?

I've recently found myself with an excessive amount of holiday which needs to be taken in December so I've decided to buy myself a Digital SLR and go on a beginners photography course in London. However given that I won't be working and it's the winter (so limited hours of light), I want one that runs during the day. Help! [more inside]
posted by mr_silver at 7:50 AM PST - 4 comments

How to deal with a stalking e-mail sent to 12 year old girl

My friend's 12 year old daughter just received a disturbing anonymous e-mail. What should my friend do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:34 AM PST - 30 comments

Help me do passwords like I should.

So, I was one of many people to have my adobe account information leaked. Though I know I shouldn't, I use that same password on lots of different accounts. I've changed them on the important ones, but how do people possibly keep the dozens of passwords for every different website straight? [more inside]
posted by fontophilic at 7:18 AM PST - 37 comments

Guidelines for roof work in MA

Our landlord sent us an email last week telling us that they were doing roof work on our building. They asked us to leave the driveway free so they could put a dumspter there, which we did. They're currently *doing* the roof work, but there is no dumpster, no scaffolding, and no work permit, and they setting up to go up on the roof in the rain. Is this kosher? There are safety nets, but as far as I can tell nothing else. This is for a commercial property in Massachusetts [more inside]
posted by puckish at 7:12 AM PST - 8 comments

I can't do much, but I can help cook! Best recipes for freezing, please!

Going home unexpectedly for a week this December because of a sick parent. Aside from being there for moral support, I would like to help make food for future meals. Snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 6:48 AM PST - 12 comments

This post will change your life!

How can I best fill two hours in order to help young adults? [more inside]
posted by Cuke at 5:41 AM PST - 17 comments

How do courses at dinner work where you live?

I am in the UK and am fascinated by a 'salad course' separate to either a starter or main course. I would like to know how that works, and how a typical multi-course meal would go where you live. [more inside]
posted by plonkee at 5:39 AM PST - 27 comments

Can I open a European bank account in Finland from the internet?

I'd like to open a bank account from a bank of any EU member country, preferably opening it over the internet, and I am an American Citizen, in Finland on a tourist visa. (details inside) [more inside]
posted by crawltopslow at 4:58 AM PST - 5 comments

experts on portuguese literature senior academics preferably

can anyone direct me to some experts on either portuguese literary translation, portuguese literature or 19th century portuguese literary realism senior academics preferably or people with a PHD anywhere in the world who write in english? [more inside]
posted by sparkle55 at 4:03 AM PST - 4 comments

MacBook G4 SUDOERS file At COMMAND PROMPT - Can't Exit - Help

So someone gifted me with an old MacBook G4 - and now stuck in Command Prompt. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 1:05 AM PST - 9 comments

November 21

Help Me Figure Out the Best Finanacial Strategy

I'm unexpectedly broke. How do I get cash to use now, and a way to pay tuition and living expenses soon -- with the least risk of ending up in this situation again? [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 11:36 PM PST - 19 comments

Alcohol 101

I just turned 21, and believe it or not, I have done very little drinking of alcohol until now. However there is now a plethora of choice I am newly privvy to, and I am interested in trying some things out. But I would like some advice. [more inside]
posted by ejfox at 11:22 PM PST - 38 comments

Switching to 12-hour night shifts: what am I missing?

I'm a new nurse, just getting used to working second shift, now I'm switching to overnight 12-hour shifts. I haven't fully adjusted to the second shift way of life after two months of it, so I'm rather concerned with how this is going to go. I know intellectually the importance of sleep, proper meals, socialization, finances.... What am I missing? [more inside]
posted by RainyJay at 11:09 PM PST - 18 comments

how do you find / hire a researcher (for a freelance project)?

I am looking for one or more professionals to find interesting moments in the history of one of the detroit car makers. someone who can i.e. provide me with information out of which I can make interesting "on this day in 1952, this happened" articles. how should I go about finding the right person for this project? [more inside]
posted by krautland at 9:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Children's book about two kittens on a witch's broomstick

My daughter vaguely remembers a picture book from her childhood (10+ years ago) about two lost kittens who find there way to a witch's house, then stow away in her bag while she flies off to a witch convention (or party?). When they stick their heads out of the bag, their eyes look like headlights in the moonlight, so the witch lets them stay. Does this sound at all familiar? Googling turns up some near misses. It isn't "Room on a Broom," or one of the "Worst Witch" books.
posted by dws at 9:00 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me find two animations from early-mid 2000s

There were two animations I saw years ago pre-youtube that have stuck with me, but I no longer have a link to the animation itself, or even name. However, I'm pretty sure I originally found these animations here on metafilter. One was a live-action city being invaded by fun animated characters. The other was a Japanese Red Riding Hood-esque animation (much more animation than this: So if you can help me figure out what these are from my loose recollection, I will be amazed. [more inside]
posted by wilburthefrog at 8:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me fill out my birthday mix cd!

As a small birthday gift for a friend, I want to make a mix of birthday songs. I'm looking for rap, hip-hop, R&B, and upbeat pop/dance songs that reference birthdays. I have some already, but not enough for a worthwhile mix cd, which is where I need Mefite help. [more inside]
posted by Fig at 8:17 PM PST - 12 comments

Any websites or blogs similar to this one?

I'm thinking of starting a low-key blog that posts black and white photographs of impoverished and disadvantaged people from around the world. The stories don't have to be elaborate or contain a lot of photos. Each one can consist of only one photo and a short description of the person's plight. Are there any similar websites/blogs out there? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 8:00 PM PST - 21 comments

Breaking Up is Hard to Do: medical system edition

I think I need to dump my primary care doctor under bad circumstances. He's abrasive, no longer coordinating my healthcare and has been suddenly unwilling to perform the services I pay for as part of a $3k+ yearly concierge program. After being a real boon to my healthcare as somebody with a rare disease for years, his treatment of me changed on a dime this fall. I blamed myself initially -- or thought he was just having a difficult day/week/month. It turns out he's being disciplined for severe incompetence (like, jaw dropping) and the practice will be monitored for many years. He has been so angry and abusive just to my husband picking up paper that I don't feel safe in the room alone with him. How can I tell new doctors why I'm leaving? How should I wrap things up? *blizzard* [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:12 PM PST - 25 comments

What hoop-jumping is necessary to take or audit classes at NYU?

I graduated from college in 2010, and have lived in downtown NYC ever since. I'm getting the desire to take some classes again, and NYU is a few blocks away. But I can't find any information on how to get into classes there, as a non-student. [more inside]
posted by Jacen Solo at 7:08 PM PST - 6 comments

What are your office whiteboard tips and tricks?

I just got a 3' x 4' (91 cm x 121 cm) whiteboard installed in my office. And I can't think of a single way to use it. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by whitewall at 6:57 PM PST - 17 comments

A microwavable Thanksgiving

My son and I are both gluten-free and incredibly sensitive to cross-contamination. We are going to a big family thanksgiving where the food will not be GF and cross-contamination will ruin the food that normally is. (a serving spoon being shared between dishes or someone dropping bread crumbs on an open dish would leave me very sick). I would like to bring dishes so my son and I can enjoy a traditional Thanksgiving meal. I don't mind spending this whole weekend cooking and freezing so he has a nice Thanksgiving. The only problem is that everything we bring has to be microwavable... So help me MFites. What are your favorite Thanksgiving recipes that would hold up well to being warmed up from frozen in a microwave. (Don't worry about the recipe being gluten-free -- I'm pretty good at converting recipes).
posted by LittleMy at 6:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Gifts for the Twelve Days of Christmas?

My sister needs help coming up with gift ideas for the twelve days of Christmas! [more inside]
posted by chatongriffes at 6:49 PM PST - 6 comments

Going to my boyfriend's grandma funeral

Hi, guys. My boyfriend's grandma died today of a brain tumor. I come from a culture where when someone dies you all go and spend time and mourn together with the close family of the dead. It is something similar to viewing in America. Now he calls me tonight and tells me she died and that the funeral is on Monday. Then he says that probably this weekend he will go home to his parents house and spend the weeken with them and that might be best if I don't go because I might not see them at their best and that way he gets to see them alone because he hasn't really spend any time alone with his family ever since we started dating. Like I said, I am Romanian and in our tradition you want exactly the opposite , people to come by and sit by your side. Is that a cultural change in America? Is he right? Is he acting goofy? Just don't know if I should just shut up and mind my own business? This is weird because he was ok before with me spending the entire weeken in the hospice. Tell me how would you react from an American perspective? We have different cultures.
posted by barexamfreak at 6:44 PM PST - 43 comments

Help me find a big-button phone for my elderly father

My father has been using a plain old phone for decades. He's been somewhat visually impaired for a long time, but recently he started receiving an eye treatment in his one good eye that has reduced his vision even further. He also has low dexterity (though his mind's still totally sharp) due to a stroke earlier this year. He needs a new phone. Help! [more inside]
posted by limeonaire at 6:42 PM PST - 7 comments

What calendar/scheduling program might have output this graphic?

I've taken over a graphic design project and need to update this weekly calendar image (just the schedule part, not the kids on rolling globes). But I only have the image, not the original working file. Where did it come from? [more inside]
posted by nevers at 6:36 PM PST - 5 comments

What is the best used car for the money?

I am buying my first car. I am thrifty so I'd like it to be used because I think I will find the best deal there; I just don't like the idea of spending all of that money for a rapidly depreciating asset and I'd rather buy it after it has already depreciated some. I am looking for one of two types of cars, either: 1) A sporty, but economical car (think Honda S2000, Mazda Miata) 2) A long lasting electric/hybrid (ie Nissan Leaf, Toyota Prius, Corolla, etc) Please let me know what your suggestions are, along with any caveats to buying a used car. I do not know much about cars. Should I bring a friend who does or hire a mechanic to inspect my car before purchase? Also, where is the best place to find a good deal? Thank you all.
posted by locussst at 6:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me toddler-proof our apartment!

Three-year-old relative coming to stay with us for four days over Christmas. We need to toddler-proof our place. [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 6:27 PM PST - 15 comments

Can you use standard Handlebar Mounts on the Frame of a Wheelchair

I'm looking into easy ways to mount lighting to the frame of my wheelchair. It's easy to purchase items designed to be mounted to the handlebars of a bicycle, but I'm wondering if anyone here has ever used those same mounts to secure something (like a safety light) to the frame of there chair.
posted by OpnSrce at 6:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Inexpensive Electric Menorah in London?

So you're Jewish and homesick and in London and all you want for your Chanukah miracle is an inexpensive electric menorah. How can this be achieved? [more inside]
posted by Mizu at 6:11 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me understand the difference between 28dB, 38dB and 48dB.

Help me understand the difference between 28dB, 38dB and 48dB. I'm thinking about buying a fridge, and the fridges I'm considering have noise levels ranging from 28dB to 47dB (according to the latest fridge assessment in Choice). Fridges with a 28dB noise level rating are too expensive for me, though, so I'm trying to find something I can afford but which won't annoy me too much (I'm sensitive to the noise of a buzzing fridge). What I can afford tends to be somewhere in the mid-30s dB range. But it's no use going into a noisy showroom and trying to properly gauge how a fridge will sound in my quiet home. So I'm wondering if there's a way I can test these different noise levels at home before I buy, to see what's the difference.
posted by paleyellowwithorange at 5:12 PM PST - 9 comments

High quality audio dramas?

I have been enjoying We're Alive. What are some similarly high-quality serial audio dramas? They can be ongoing or not. I particularly enjoy post-apocalypse fiction and historical fantasy along the lines of Jacqueline Carey. I'm not a huge fan of science fiction, but otherwise I'm open.
posted by torisaur at 5:04 PM PST - 5 comments

[Australia filter] Weirdness with Telstra connection in rented house

I'm trying to get a phone line and broadband set up in the house I'm renting. When the Telstra technician came round to set up the connection, he gave up and left without completing the order because it appears the phone sockets on the walls aren't connected to the line to crosses the boundary from the Telstra pit outside the property. WTF? [more inside]
posted by infinitejones at 4:57 PM PST - 18 comments

Work and depression

I had a nervous breakdown at work two weeks ago. At the insistence of my doctor, I took medical leave and am now in a partial hospitalization program being treated for depression and anxiety. [more inside]
posted by prunes at 4:12 PM PST - 7 comments

Is endless crying during therapy really a good thing?

I have been seeing a sex therapist for about six weeks. We started off with a very specific focus but she now seems to be having trouble figuring out where to start with the Hydra of my emotional issues. [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 3:15 PM PST - 8 comments

The Meltdown Kid

My husband and I have been married 15 years and we have an 8-year-old daughter. She is incredibly intelligent and receives straight As in school. She participates in the gifted program and reads at a 6th grade level. She has always been an intense child -- one who feels emotions strongly. But after we moved about a year ago, things started to move up a notch and third grade has been very difficult. She has these meltdowns, usually over small things. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:53 PM PST - 47 comments

Monthly subscription from

A year and three months ago I registered on And I got a month service and I paid for it.
I just realized they have been charging me on my paypal account monthly since then.
But autopayment did not go through. So I owe them about 200 dollars now. I have never used the account after the first month.
Do I have to pay for it?
I want to complaint but I don't know how to reach to them either.

Thank you guys so much!
posted by lijiaxiaoniu at 1:53 PM PST - 2 comments

Trips tips for weekend visit to LA and Huntington Beach

I'm flying down to SoCal on Saturday morning and flying back back Sunday evening after spending Saturday evening visiting with some friends in HB. I'll be flying into LAX, picking up a rental, then head south to Huntington Beach. On Sunday, I'll head north to catch the plane flight back. How can I make this easy to do, where can I stay, and what beaches might I visit along the way with the short time I have planned? [more inside]
posted by diode at 1:44 PM PST - 5 comments

What are the cheapest cities to fly to on United?

I'm in San Antonio. I am going to be 1,454 miles short of making platinum on United Airlines at the end of the year. I'm trying to find a site or something that would allow me to find the cheapest round trip flight that would get me another 1,500 miles I could make on a single day before the year is out. Is there anything like this? [more inside]
posted by nushustu at 1:42 PM PST - 16 comments

What kind of used projector can I get that supports wireless live stream

I have a ceiling mount for a projector – I’d like to get a projector that I can use to wirelessly stream video from the internet (e.g. from Netflix) with no plugs and cords connecting my projector to my computer necessary. [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 1:33 PM PST - 6 comments

CRM platform recommendations?

Hi, I work at a political advocacy organization and we're looking for a new CRM platform... [more inside]
posted by HylandErickson at 1:21 PM PST - 8 comments

How Does NYC's High-Tech Community Communicate?

I want to sell my communications services to high tech start-ups in NYC. How do I get tech eyes onto my promotional materials? Are there bulletin boards, newsletters, or message boards that serve Greater New York City where I can advertise my services? [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 1:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me find the half-mint julep poem/story

As a child my grandfather read me a poem/story about the old South. A man murders his wife with a silver icepick, and at his informal trial, he says that his wife had an absolutely annoying habit. When asked if she wanted a mint julep, she would say "No thanks, I'll have half of my husband's." [more inside]
posted by Pablo MacWilliams at 12:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Best way to get a weird and wooden object framed?

How best can I frame a wooden star that has survived since the 1960s? [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 12:30 PM PST - 4 comments

Canceling your Internet Service: Is this a weird thing?

I had to send my ISP a letter in the mail to cancel my internet service. My question is, what this a weird/jerky requirement or is this something that the FCC makes them do? [more inside]
posted by selfnoise at 12:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Oral sex-iprocity?

My boyfriend has forgotten I exist in the bedroom. How can I go about initiating a chat about this and finding a solution before my sexual self-esteem completely disappears? (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 PM PST - 20 comments

why is my cat sniffing so much?

my cat is reverse-sniffing...short, half-second bursts maybe once or twice an hour. this is a new development, i.e. she hasn't always done this and I wonder if anyone out there can let me know what this is about. Google search is not helpful. [more inside]
posted by bengalibelle at 12:10 PM PST - 17 comments

snowflake skirt needed

I would like to find a seamstress or tailor to make a custom pencil skirt for me that I can wear to work (so, stuffy business fabric). My attempts to google a solution have not been successful. I either find places that want to charge me $300 or more (nope!), places that do alterations (I need it made from scratch), or places that make custom clothing for men but not women, or brides but not non-brides. I am located in lower Manhattan but have a subway card and am willing to use it. Can anyone suggest where I can go to have a nice suit-like pencil skirt created for me?
posted by prefpara at 11:28 AM PST - 7 comments

Canada has SEDAR, US has EDGAR, how about other countries?

Canada has SEDAR, US has EDGAR, how about other countries? [more inside]
posted by devonia at 11:21 AM PST - 2 comments

What do you tell a kid who has been caught "playing doctor"?

What should we say to our daughter about appropriate play and touch after learning she was playing doctor with one of her little friends the other day? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:44 AM PST - 25 comments

Pranks for nothing: anonymous, international version.

For the last day, my phone has been targeted by the "have two random cellphones call each other simultaneously and see what happens when someone picks up" prank, similar to what is available through websites I won't advertise here. (Google, "have two phones call each other prank." Yes, I looked up the 4 I could find, and registered on all of them to have my number's still happening.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Everyone IS hanging out without me!

Like it says in the title: everyone is hanging out without me. How do I get back into my group, or should I not even try? [more inside]
posted by like_a_friend at 10:18 AM PST - 31 comments

Is it ever a good idea to have kids late in life?

I would like to hear from either parents who had children much later than they planned, and also from people whose parents were older than "normal". What were the main obstacles? What do you wish you had known in advance if you were the parent? What would you have advised your parent if you were the child? And what were the positives on each side? Complications to follow. [more inside]
posted by outoftime at 10:18 AM PST - 29 comments

Where to go in Europe?

Going to Europe. We have 4.5 weeks. Help us narrow down our choices! [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 9:56 AM PST - 19 comments

What is French coffee.

I am currently in Kuwait drinking something they call 'French coffee'. I like it a lot but I cannot figure out what it is and the internet isn't helping (nor is the waitress). Its texture is mealy (unfintered), it's strong, there's a lot of sediment, no milk (none offered either), there seems to be a hint of sugar in it (was offered the option of extra when ordering) and it's served in a cup that is somewhat bigger than an espresso one but much smaller than an American coffee cup. It's definitely not Turkish coffee. What is this stuff and how do I make it at home?
posted by Skyanth at 9:36 AM PST - 19 comments

You bastards!

I want to hear more pre-solo exclamations. I'm talking about the thing where the vocalist yells something (not just the end of a chorus or verse) to kick off a guitar solo. Examples: You bastards!, Do it! [more inside]
posted by ignignokt at 9:33 AM PST - 51 comments

Dating for dysthymics

Single guy here, doing the online dating thing. Despite pickiness in who I message and high on-paper compatibility, all my dates so far (about ten different women) have been meh. This may be just a statistical fluke, but I suspect it's related to the meh-ness of life in general: I have dysthymia, aka constant mild depression, so am rarely very excited about anything, women included. I'm in therapy for this, and may be starting on meds soon, but meanwhile, what should my dating strategy be? Should I try for second and third dates with women who don't really interest me and hope I warm to them with time, or should I keep searching for that spark? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:08 AM PST - 23 comments

Chocolate frosting emergency!

I am making a birthday cake to serve to a bunch of kids, and I just did the first stage of the frosting recipe: I melted 125 grams of chocolate with 75 grams of unsalted butter. Then I realized the next step involves raw eggs, which I'd rather not use in a recipe for young children. (Especially because it will probably sit out for a while before serving.) But I hate to waste the chocolate and butter. Without using raw eggs, what can I do to transform this melted butter/chocolate mixture into a delicious chocolate frosting? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 9:07 AM PST - 19 comments

My coconut flour pancakes taste like dirt and disappointment

In an attempt to embrace my gluten intolerance, I purchased some coconut flour. Things have not gone well. I've had problems with another GF flour mix I have. WTF is going on. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 8:50 AM PST - 20 comments

Alternatives to the Appalachian Trail

I want to go on a long hike before my wife and I buy a house or have kids, sort of a 'final big adventure by myself' before completely settling down. The Appalachian Trail is tempting but 5 months is a long time to be away from home (not to mention it'll be expensive). Please suggest some alternative long hikes. Maybe in the 1-2 month length range. Bonus points if your suggestion is in Canada. [more inside]
posted by signsofrain at 8:32 AM PST - 27 comments

Smoked salmon + pasta ?

Is there a delicious way of combining sliced smoked salmon and pasta for dinner? [more inside]
posted by Chorus at 8:24 AM PST - 22 comments

What are these? Die-cut stamps from Japan

My grandmother's father brought these home from 'the orient' decades ago. [more inside]
posted by SarahBellum at 8:20 AM PST - 3 comments

should I risk my Honda's engine block failing?

Should I risk my Honda's engine block failing? My 2006 Honda Civic is unfortunately one of a batch of Honda's Civics made from 2006 to around 2008 with engines that have potential engine block failure. [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 8:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Boundaries with builders.

Hands up. I struggle with boundaries. I am pretty confident (some think 'uber' confident).. but give me a situation that could potentially spurn conflict and I will do anything to avoid it. This has caused me a phenomenal amount of other kinds of crap. So here s the deal - I have had a young'trainee' builder in doing some work - very pleasant and a good worker. We agreed a fee and I said I'd pay half that if he did half a day. He said he'd do the full day today and so I was shocked when he left at 3:30 (he started at 10). I said I would settle with him on his last day (this was because I wasn't sure what to pay and wanted to think about), though then he'll be with someone else so I'm probably going to find it harder. I can see now, I should have stated prior what I meant by a full day. 2 questions - Is a builder's day shorter than an office day? They seem a bit of a law unto themselves. If it should be an 8 hr day - how do I say I'd pay for 3/4's of a day whilst sounding reasonable and nice/assertive instead of aggressive or a tad, frankly, nervous. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 8:07 AM PST - 9 comments

Name that graphic style!

I'm fascinated by old union logos, especially the iconic IBEW (fist-and-lightning-bolts), Teamsters (two horses) and IWW (globe) insignia. I like the heraldic layouts, the modern-as-of-1920 visual style, and the heroic/futuristic/quasi-mystical iconography. You see similar features in Masonic iconography, logos for other fraternal orders (Lions, Eagles, the FOP) and in some older corporate logos (MGM and Paramount, the old American Airlines logo, Does this cluster of design features have a name? Where did it come from? What are some other good examples? [more inside]
posted by Now there are two. There are two _______. at 7:40 AM PST - 12 comments

Best jazz Christmas records?

I like jazz, and I like Christmas music. Which jazz Christmas music would I enjoy? [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 7:39 AM PST - 21 comments

How do I feel like my boyfriend is my boyfriend?

I see my boyfriend once a week with little to no contact in between. I don't feel important or close to him but I don't know if I'm being unreasonable or pushy about this. How do I change this without being crazy? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:38 AM PST - 24 comments

Snacks for a Doctor Who 50th viewing party

I'm throwing a party this Saturday for the Doctor Who anniversary special, and am trying to come up with some ideas for food and drink. Bonus challenge: One of the guests eats gluten-free. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 7:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Help me be a good therapist!

Therapist in training. Finally got my first clients. This is my calling and I want to be damn good at it. Naturally, I turn to AskMe. [more inside]
posted by stuck on an island at 7:18 AM PST - 13 comments

How much for a Wireless Tower ground lease?

A wireless carrier has approached us about building a cell tower on our property in Northern Virginia. Aside from using the bandits that pop up in a Google search, how do we determine a fair ground lease price? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:02 AM PST - 8 comments

Post-assault PTSD resources in NYC?

A friend of mine was physically attacked while walking to the train station in NYC a couple of days ago. Can you recommend good, affordable PTSD counselling/care in NYC? More details under the cut (trigger warning for violence). [more inside]
posted by fight or flight at 6:46 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me convince the boss I DON'T have to be in the office 12/26-12/31

I've been asked to show up at the office for the four weekdays between Xmas and January 1 -- AGAIN. But the boss is taking vacation. More drama inside. [more inside]
posted by Flying Saucer at 6:32 AM PST - 60 comments

I slept with him on the first date - is this fixable or a lost cause?

I slept with him on the first date, and now he's lost interest. Is there any salvaging it? [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 6:27 AM PST - 44 comments

Battlestar Galactica viewing order

I'm watching the 2003 Battlestar Galactica series for the first time, and loving it! I've come across this post, which purports to be the ultimate BSG viewing order guide. I've just finished season 2, episode 17, The Captain's Hand, and this guide now recommends I watch Razor, a TV movie that was the start of season 4, before watching the next episode of season 2. It also recommends that I mute two bits of dialog near the end of Razor to prevent any spoilers for season 3, which I'm fine with doing. BSG fans of Metafilter - what do you think? Is watching Razor now the best idea for continuity of the story? Will I spoil anything for myself by doing so?
posted by srrh at 6:09 AM PST - 18 comments

Linking Facebook group to Instagram + Twitter?

I'm an admin for a Facebook group that focuses on local history and sharing / discussing old photos. We also have Instagram and Twitter accounts that we'd like to make better use of. In trying to integrate the three, I'm running into some problems. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 6:09 AM PST - 1 comment

25 minute Spanish lesson

Tell me what topics would make you excited to learn a foreign language. [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom at 5:54 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me stay the cool aunt: lemonade-version....

What's the difference, if any, between pink lemonade and regular lemonade? [more inside]
posted by easily confused at 5:54 AM PST - 25 comments

Kids Arts & Science Room

We have a spare room that we're turning into an Arts & Science room for the kids (13 year old girl and 8 year old boy). It's in a walk-out basement with a painted concrete floor and a window. We have some ideas but little knowledge in how to setup a room for them to create and explore. We have a cheap beginner's chemistry set, some art and craft supplies, and...that's about it. What ideas can we implement with the little expertise and money we have? [more inside]
posted by medarby at 5:37 AM PST - 15 comments

How do you process empathy?

What do you guys do with your feelings when you see people you love really struggling and it makes you sad? [more inside]
posted by misspony at 5:07 AM PST - 9 comments

Best place to relax and get some work done in Porto on a Firday morning?

I'll be visiting friends in Porto (Portugal) this Friday, but my flight lands early in the morning and I won't be meeting them until lunchtime. What would be a good place downtown to get some work done on my laptop and possibly drink a coffee or two? Internet access is a must. I'd love something with a bit more local flavor than a Starbucks, but I'm open to all suggestions. Thanks in advance, Hive Mind!
posted by doctorpiorno at 4:37 AM PST - 2 comments

Teach me how to cook congee.

I've searched previous instances of congee showing up in comments on the Green, but very few actual recipes. None of the recipes I've found online even agree on the rice-to-water ratio or cooking time. Recipes from any nation, savory or sweet and any serving tips or suggestions most welcome!
posted by digitalprimate at 4:24 AM PST - 9 comments

I am afraid to write.

I'm a writer who doesn't really write [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 4:17 AM PST - 31 comments

How do I develop an interest in football?

I'm a dork who's never been interested in any sports at all. I've never played or watched any sport. I don't see why it's so interesting. But sports, especially football, is one of the most-watched type of show on television. The Superbowl is like a national holiday. I feel like I'm missing out on something big. How do I develop an interest in football (or other sports) after a lifetime of disinterest? What makes football exciting that should be obvious?
posted by Sleeper at 12:09 AM PST - 33 comments

November 20

Who yields right of way at a crossroads?

Who yields right of way in this situation? A north-south street (North Street) intersects an east-west street (East Street). At this intersection, there are no stop signs or signals on North Street; East Street has stop signs. Two cars approach this intersection on East Street from opposite directions, arriving at their stop signs more or less at the same time. One car is turning left, the other is turning right (that is, they're both trying to go in the same direction). Which car legally can go first? [more inside]
posted by jaguar at 10:58 PM PST - 7 comments

four wheels good, two wheels bad?

What's wrong with running my 4WD with the front wheels always engaged? [more inside]
posted by wilful at 10:42 PM PST - 8 comments

A comprehensive schedule for Christmas Music specials on BBC for 2013?

Every year I look forward to BBC Radio's Christmas music specials (especially choral concerts), including the Festival of Nine Lessons and Carols on Christmas Eve. In 2005 the Beeb broadcast a concert called 'Carols by Candlelight' by the Chapter House Choir that was delightful. And so every year, I scan the schedules of the various BBC Radio services to see what I can find, but I invariably miss something or other (I'm in the US, btw). For all you radioheads in the UK: is there an all-in-one place to go that has a complete list of that kind of thing?
posted by DandyRandy at 10:39 PM PST - 3 comments

What is a good phrase or analogy, similar to passing the buck?

An angry client emails a partner at a law firm about an expensive court filing. The partner responds "oh, don't worry, we'll look into this and take care of it." He cc's his secretary, the associate who drafted the filing, the associate's secretary, the paralegal, and the accounting clerk in charge of billing. Being at the top of the food chain, the partner immediately assumes that the associate will take care of it, and the partner's secretary assumes the same. The associate assumes that since the paralegal prepared the documents, including the itemized fee transmittal, that she'll handle it. Meanwhile, the paralegal figures that since the associate's secretary was the one in charge of electronically filing the document and selecting the fee options online, that it was probably an error on her end, and that she'll look into it. The associate's secretary assumes that since the accounting clerk is the only one with authorization to view and reconcile the charge account online, that she'll handle it. Last but not least, the accounting clerk brushes it off, as she works in accounting, not preparing and filing legal documents. Aside from passing the buck, what is a good term, phrase or analogy to describe this circular, dysfunctional work dynamic that occurs when a dozen people are cc'd on the same email? Everyone assumes someone else will take care of a problem, and in the end, the problem is never addressed.
posted by invisible ink at 10:11 PM PST - 22 comments

flipped out!

How do I get better at not ignoring all the positive emotional work I've done when suddenly being triggered in a high-stress low-functioning situation? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 9:25 PM PST - 6 comments

What can i do with a (cloud) server?

Someone linked to CloudatCost on Metafilter recently and, on a whim, I sprung for the $35 for life plan -- so I'm now the proud owner of a virtual cloud server. But I'm kind of a doofus and don't know what I can actually do with it. [more inside]
posted by AwkwardPause at 8:50 PM PST - 2 comments

Have I imagined this thing in Hotline Miami?

I replayed Hotline Miami when it came out for Linux, and noticed something missing--but it's such a tiny detail, I'm not certain it was really in the game to begin with. [more inside]
posted by LogicalDash at 8:26 PM PST - 4 comments

What phone is right for me?

I am a phone luddite moving into the modern era. There is a huge array of options, most of which are meaningless to me. [more inside]
posted by a robot made out of meat at 7:59 PM PST - 17 comments

Looking for RAGBRAI advice

What charter service would you recommend to both shuttle me to and from the airport, and to provide support during the ride itself. [more inside]
posted by sixpack at 7:34 PM PST - 4 comments

Moving to the Washington DC area

I recently started a new job, and for the time being I'll be working remotely in NE PA. Eventually though I'll need to move down here. I've been doing some research and well there's a lot of information to digest. [more inside]
posted by 922257033c4a0f3cecdbd819a46d626999d1af4a at 7:32 PM PST - 18 comments

Negotiating the best Comcast internet rates (PDX edition)

Ok, theoretically simple question that I can't find a simple answer to: I'm currently a Comcast customer subscribed to low-tier tv and internet. I'd like to drop my tv service and replace it with an antenna for OTA channels and a higher internet tier for streaming and general internet'ing (Comcast is my only real internet option, so I won't be dropping them entirely). I need advice as to how to get the best possible rate for the internet service. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear at 6:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Why am I still single?

I'm female, 37 and single, with minimal relationship experience. I'm moderately attractive, a bit shy, and lacking in confidence. Over the years I've tried online dating, speed dating, asking people out, expanding my social circle, asking friends to set me up and going to therapy. I've dated a few guys but haven't been involved with anyone in almost 2 years. I've considered reaching out to guys I dated in the past to ask why things didn't work out, to see if there is a theme, but I've been advised this is a Bad. Idea. Guys tend to just drift away with no explanation. I think it may be that I'm not so good at talking about feelings or asking for things (like commitment, or "can you tell me where this is going?") I know you don't have enough information to pinpoint why I am single. However, perhaps you can suggest some of the questions I could be asking, or things I could try that might help me find someone and not scare them off?
posted by anonymous at 6:46 PM PST - 23 comments

Is my TV too old for my nifty new tablet and adapter?

I bought a Kanex Slimport Adapter (from the company) to connect my Nexus 7 (2013) to my TV. There is no signal - nothing on the TV at all. I have searched around online and it seems that it's possible my TV is just not compatible. But the info is thin on the ground and I am at a loss. I have an older TV -- a Sharp Aquos LC-26DA5U -- which I think I bought in 2006 or 2007. I am going to test it on another TV when I can -- I only own the one TV so it might be a while. Question: Could it be my TV? I don't want to send the adapter back unless it's really broken. Not that I want to buy a new TV, but I really want to watch Netflix with Hola Unblocker....the whole point of this tablet purchasing exercise.
posted by Lescha at 6:35 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me choose a name, book club edition

I'm starting a book club and need to come up with a name. [more inside]
posted by ambrosia at 6:31 PM PST - 17 comments

Is there a word for a four year period of time?

I find that I measure time in spans of four years. Is there a good noun that can be used to a four year period of time or four objects in a group? (Wikipedia suggests a tetramer, but I find that answer unsatisfying & am hoping for a better one.)
posted by Going To Maine at 6:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Um... well... it sort of... how do I put this... kind of... like...

How do I stop using filler words? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 5:30 PM PST - 20 comments

Muppet Puppets in NYC

Anyone know where I can buy Bert and Ernie-ish hand puppets in NYC? [more inside]
posted by overhauser at 5:07 PM PST - 10 comments

best podcasts for personal growth/ recovery from depression

I will be doing quite a bit of driving. I would like to listen to smart, interesting, thoughtful people talk about depression, Buddhism, neuroscience, anxiety, brain science, being better humans, rocket surgery, and other stuff, including humor of the not-mean category. [more inside]
posted by theora55 at 4:47 PM PST - 24 comments

You give my website money, my website gives you the file you need

My dad is a consulting structural engineer. His current approach to billing clients is to finish a job (or portion of a job) and email files along with an invoice generated in (I think) quickbooks. This works fine for his regular architecture firm clients- he knows that they will pay, even if they take 90 days or whatever. The problem is little jobs for people that will probably never hire him again- say, someone who has a sagging beam in their house, and hires him to take a look at it and make a plan for a fix. Once they have the files they need, there isn't much leverage for him to get them to pay, and the amount isn't really enough to take them to court over. What he would like to do is be able to email them an invoice with a link. That link would take the client to a secure website where they can enter a credit card payment, and, after it goes through, give them access to the files that they paid for. Does such a tool exist, preferably as a plug-in or part of something like Freshbooks or the ecommerce portion of Square? [more inside]
posted by rockindata at 4:39 PM PST - 13 comments

Cricket near Times Square?

I'm a big cricket fan (support England) and live near New York City. Now that the Ashes are going again, I'm quite interested in spending an evening or two watching the cricket in a social environment with other like-minded people. It doesn't actually need to be near Times Square, but Manhattan is preferred, since I live in Newark. Any suggestions of good places to go?
posted by naturalog at 4:19 PM PST - 3 comments

What to consider and how much to charge for freelance jingles?

How much should I charge companies to write and record 30-60 second instrumental jingles to help sell their products on websites? [more inside]
posted by priested at 3:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Praising Others - Dependent Personality Disorder

Is there a specific disorder when one goes to all costs to avoid rocking the boat, overpraises others , and always feels the need to project a sunny emotional state all in order to gain the affection and adoration of others? (While actually being in a state of anxiety about being liked?)
posted by M83 at 3:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Is this what "being the breadwinner" means?

What strategies can I use to convince my husband to more openly discuss our household finances with me? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:54 PM PST - 50 comments

Looking For Songs That Have A Dark, Driving Beat

Working on a project and I'm looking for songs that have a dark, driving, ominous beat. Like a thunderstorm looming on the horizon if I could give it a visual. [more inside]
posted by christiehawk at 2:54 PM PST - 39 comments

Tile in living room: fugly or nice?

I am getting rid of the horrible pet-stained carpet in my living room and am considering replacing it with tile. Is this a completely crazy idea? [more inside]
posted by Wordwoman at 2:50 PM PST - 48 comments

awful running weather trifecta

After months of training, I’m due to run my first 5k on Saturday morning. It’s going to be quite cold. And windy. And pouring rain. Thinking about it makes me shiver, and really, really not want to run it. Can you help me not quit it and get through the rain? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 1:58 PM PST - 37 comments

Additional Education

I completed my masters in counseling psychology back in December. I have been unable to find a job doing therapy as of yet. It seems like most of the places I've applied to work for want someone with a CADC in addition to their masters degree. [more inside]
posted by nidora at 1:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Earlobe holes.. why?

Help me understand why people put giant gaping holes in their ears. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:26 PM PST - 29 comments

I think my back is dying.

I have been having some really really terrible back pain lately and I need to know roughly what it might be and what kind of doctor person I should see about it and what I can do in the meantime so that I don't end up defenestrating myself in order to escape it. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 1:07 PM PST - 23 comments

Seeking estimated drive times... at some point in the future

Is there a mapping service that will give me the estimated drive time for a given route at some specified time in the future, based on historical data? [more inside]
posted by alms at 12:45 PM PST - 7 comments

A question I wish I weren't asking

We put our 20-year-old cat to sleep at home last night. I had read about what to expect, but did not anticipate her struggling so desperately throughout the procedure. Now my mind keeps going back to those awful moments over and over. I’m wondering if anyone here has had a similar experience, or just has some thoughts on how to process this. [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 12:29 PM PST - 41 comments

Is my neurologist incompetent, lazy or reasonable?

My Doctor wants me back on MS modifying medications. To avoid going back on the self-injecting MS medications I am trying the new pill forms. These medications all have side effects that sometimes go away or lessen over time. I am willing to soldier through this period with help. The prescribing Doctor does not want to deal with the side effects. [more inside]
posted by cairnoflore at 12:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Some questions about the medical process of pregnancy

What happens, from a medical process standpoint, when you first tell a doctor you may be pregnant? Where do midwives and other professionals fit in? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:01 PM PST - 15 comments

The best-case "two cats and a baby" scenario?

My brother and sister-in law are about to have their first human kidlet. They also have two cats (both rescued young-adult Siamese mixes) that they absolutely adore. I'd like to help them out in the kitty department...any suggestions for gifts / books / Really Useful Bits Of Advice / etc. geared toward integrating a baby into a cat-containing household? [more inside]
posted by aecorwin at 11:53 AM PST - 20 comments


I own this very cool book, that attempts to teach you a few of the most common Kanji that you might come across in China on a day to day basis. It makes no attempt to teach you to read Chinese; it just familiarizes you with some common, useful Kanji. If I wanted to do the same type of thing for Egyptian Hieroglyphics, what 10 hieroglyphics would be the most useful to memorize for the purposes of visiting museums (whether in person or in pictures)?
posted by wittgenstein at 11:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Scary books for someone who's new to the "reading" thing...

What would be a good scary "intro" book for someone who normally isn't into reading but loves scary movies and has recently decided he is open to reading scary fiction? [more inside]
posted by lovableiago at 11:42 AM PST - 31 comments

How can I best preserve and distribute pre-digital manuscripts?

I have inherited several memoirs and other paper documents produced by family members before the digital age made document creation, storage, and dissemination so easy and extensive. What's the best way to make sure these documents survive and are accessible to those who might be interested in them? [more inside]
posted by Naberius at 11:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Indestructible plush dog toys

Can you recommend a plush squeaker toy for dogs that's durable? [more inside]
posted by .kobayashi. at 11:23 AM PST - 20 comments

LDR Distress: did I lose the love of my life?

I have been in a (very) long distance relationship that I think might be over. I need closure but I am not sure if I can get it. I am always worried something very bad happened to keep this person from contacting me. I have no idea what to do. Loooong story. [more inside]
posted by his median eminence at 10:18 AM PST - 24 comments

Is it crazy to consider teaching a class 8 weeks after having a kid?

Hi! I'm pregnant with my first child, due in early spring. I just found out that I can teach a short (college) summer school course that starts about 10 weeks after I'm due. (Who knows, if I'm late, it could be just 8 weeks.) The pay is very good, and we kind of need it, but I don't want to sign up for something I'll regret. [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 9:52 AM PST - 38 comments

Textbook return after THREE months?

Today, I received a second refund request on my Amazon seller account under the A-to-Z Claims Guarantee. This is for a textbook I sold three months ago on Amazon. Should I accept the request? [more inside]
posted by horizonseeker at 9:27 AM PST - 16 comments

Are there any websites that lets you explore the human anatomy in 3D?

I'm looking for a low-cost app or site where you can explore the muscular structure, how they attach to the skeleton, isolate a muscle by turning on/off other muscles, etc. My chief aim is for fitness purposes so I can understand my own body better before my chiropractic visits. Book or other learnig tool recommendations are welcomed! [more inside]
posted by film at 9:11 AM PST - 9 comments

How to make an appointment with a UK GP for mental health issue?

OK, I know how to make an appointment with a GP, but I need a bit of advice with how to navigate the logistics of making the appointment and getting the best out of that appointment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:51 AM PST - 7 comments

accessibility and web captioning timing formats

I'm managing a project right now, acting as the go-between for two vendors, and I'm having some trouble communicating the requirements for a particular captioning format. I'm hoping someone more experienced than I in the MeFi community can identify the name of the standard being used here so I can point to a clear reference for it. [more inside]
posted by Kosh at 8:24 AM PST - 2 comments

HR Filter: I think I have an employee conducting drug deals in parking

HR Filter: I think I have an employee conducting drug deals in parking lot. [more inside]
posted by cheechman85 at 8:19 AM PST - 34 comments

Home Laundromat!

I would like to buy a used washer/dryer and thought I'd pick your collective brains. I've been in apartments with coin op laundry for so long the thought of buying a washer/dryer is daunting. I looked on craigslist and there are scads and scads of washers and dryers and the prices run from stoopid cheap to stoopid expensive. [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 8:16 AM PST - 18 comments

How to make our Hawaiian Christmas party special?

We're having a holiday party for about 65 guests, and the theme will be "Holiday Luau." What are some clever, on-theme games/activities or decorations or a surprise dish or tiki spectacle that will make the evening truly memorable? [more inside]
posted by pgswim at 8:15 AM PST - 8 comments

Fake reviews and conflicts of interest?

What are some instances where people got caught praising a business that they worked for or a Scott Adams-like fiasco where the person being praised turned out to be the person posting? [more inside]
posted by jihaan at 8:13 AM PST - 10 comments

Blue flower, red thorns. Blue flower, red thorns.

Mix CD, Christmas edition. Now with special snowflakes! [more inside]
posted by trogdole at 7:40 AM PST - 9 comments

Can't sleep. Mice will eat me.

How do I endure the mice that descend upon my room at night? I really need to sleep again. [more inside]
posted by koucha at 7:14 AM PST - 34 comments

Is it still thoughtful if I had to ask MeFi for help?

My best friend is taking her quals in a few weeks (or comps or whatever you want to call them--the thing that makes you ABD). I thought I would send her a little present of the stress-reducing variety, but I'm kind of stuck for ideas (or way overthinking the ideas I do have). Help? What would you have wanted? [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 6:29 AM PST - 16 comments

How to remove a baseboard diffuser?

I am attempting to install a new baseboard diffuser in my room as the current one has started to rust off. I got the grille off but I am not experienced at anything DIY so am not sure how to remove the rest. I will be installing a Truaire Smoothglide. Photos, extra details inside. [more inside]
posted by Thanquol180 at 6:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Should I give this another shot?

I searched for similar questions but had a hard time finding something that applied to what I think is a very specific situation. I'm trying to decide if I should attempt dating an ex, and I'm hoping the Hive Mind can help me out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:04 AM PST - 23 comments

Should I stay or should I go?

I am in a strange situation. Around 8 or so months ago I met a man on a message board. We started private contact and things quickly turned romantic. He lives in another country that I will be visiting in a few months. There are some concerns in if I should bail now or go through with the meeting. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:04 AM PST - 30 comments

Busted oxygen sensor on my car: safe to drive?

Looking for second opinions. My car has a busted oxygen sensor, and it can't get fixed today. Tomorrow I'm supposed to start driving for Florida. Is this crazy? [more inside]
posted by JanetLand at 5:54 AM PST - 16 comments

Where can you license crossword puzzles for republication?

A friend has built a crossword app and wants to find some content for it. [more inside]
posted by pete_22 at 3:40 AM PST - 8 comments

What to do about my expensive family wireless plan?

Please tell me what wireless plan to get for my family! We have four lines (mom and dad, two grown kids) on our family plan from Verizon for $188/mt. I think we can pay less but I'm really overwhelmed by all the options and possibilities. [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo at 2:45 AM PST - 14 comments

AdChoices: by Google or Yahoo??

I saw some ads online showing a lable on the right top corner with a "i" in a triagle, by moving mouse to it it shows "AdChoices". Clicking on the label brought me to: [more inside]
posted by pack2themoon at 2:05 AM PST - 4 comments

November 19

Superhero mystery party ideas

Planning a superhero-themed 11th birthday party. Birthday girl wants it to be like a murder mystery party, with one guest a supervillain who must be defeated. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by nonasuch at 10:44 PM PST - 18 comments

Developer looking for high-performance portable dev laptop

I'm a software developer who is finding himself more and more in need of a very powerful, very portable machine. Here are my requirements:
  • Under 5 lbs (key-- I don't want this to be a brick)
  • i7 processor
  • 8 GB RAM (with 2 slots for upgrade to 16 if desired)
  • 512 GB SSD, or smaller SSD with HDD secondary drive
  • NO HP. Their repair rate is terrible, their customer service is worse. They're the one brand I will not buy for PCs.
Now, I've checked out the new MacBook Pro and I can spec it out this way, but it'd cost 3k. I'd insist on 16 GB for the MBP as I would be running parallels and doing windows dev with visual studio, and would dedicate at least 8GB for that environment. What I want to know is, does such a machine exist other than the MBP?
posted by pennstatephil at 10:44 PM PST - 27 comments

Can we ever see eye to eye? Body language idioms, please.

Trying to think of idioms / phrases that relate to body language, rather than just body parts. One example could be "to raise eyebrows". There must be others, but the web mostly came up with things like "in one ear and out the other", which isn't quite what I wanted. Suggestions appreciated.
posted by Prof Iterole at 10:40 PM PST - 28 comments

Can I see an oral surgeon about wisdom teeth before deep cleaning?

Do I need to get my teeth deep cleaned before seeing the oral surgeon? [more inside]
posted by Danila at 10:27 PM PST - 12 comments

Response to (foreign) friends posting antisemitic conspiracy theories?

I'm finding several Chilean friends circulating an antisemitic conspiracy-theory sketchy blog "news" item on Facebook. And I realized they were taking this quite seriously. I'm offended as a Jew and hurt as a friend, but I'm not sure how/ or whether it's my place to respond. [more inside]
posted by Jeddelicious at 9:13 PM PST - 29 comments

Why are there multiple versions of Lincoln's Gettysburg Address?

In short, the "Question Title" provides my question... Why are there multiple versions of the Gettysburg Address? [more inside]
posted by matty at 8:54 PM PST - 7 comments

How does a white girl learn to do black girl hair?

My husband and I are foster parents and we just got a placement. She is 20 months old and in addition to being silly and snuggly and clever she is also a girly girl and black. How do I learn to style her hair? [more inside]
posted by Saminal at 8:36 PM PST - 37 comments

Can mental clarity / acuity come in bursts on a regular (monthly) cycle?

Can mental clarity / acuity come in bursts on a regular (monthly) cycle? [more inside]
posted by Alabaster at 8:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me source my perfect chopping knife

A decade or more ago, in an Asian market somewhere in North America, I came across a chopping knife that became my favorite kitchen tool. It's been lost for more than a year now ... and I am desperate to replace it. But I haven't a clue who the maker was and have had no luck locating anything like it again in the dozen or so markets I've since visited. Help? [more inside]
posted by peakcomm at 8:03 PM PST - 11 comments

Best Christmas light displays near Hopkins or St. Louis Park Minnesota?

I'd like to take my mother-in-law on a drive Christmas Eve to look at Christmas lights. What neighborhood should we go to in the Hopkins/St. Louis Park/Minnetonka/Edina area near the Twin Cities? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 7:41 PM PST - 3 comments

Red light alarm clock

I'm having a tough time finding an alarm clock with a pure red light digital display that can hold a radio station in tune or otherwise play a pleasant sound, with a large snooze button. The better quality ones are in the blue light spectrum. Since exposure to blue light is related to age-related macular degeneration and sleep disturbance, I'd prefer looking at only red light in the dark. I also tried an alarm clock app for my phone, but the red light option is stylized so not really red light only. So, can anyone recommend a good quality red light alarm clock?
posted by alusru at 7:05 PM PST - 14 comments

Where should we go?

My wife and I have 10 days off after Christmas and would like to take “a trip of a lifetime.” We got married this past June and never got a chance to go on a honeymoon. This is our chance to go on a fantastic trip but we can’t decide where to go. We are hoping you all can help! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by degoao at 6:29 PM PST - 35 comments

Stories where heroes travel to the villain's land and bring back a cure?

I'm looking for stories (movies, books, folk tales, whatever) where somebody or something arrives from some rather mysterious realm and proceeds to wreck up our hero's land, and the hero has to travel to the realm of the unwelcome entity and bring back some way to defeat it. (It could be a special weapon, some knowledge of the previously unstoppable villain's weakness, etc.) Anybody got some examples? [more inside]
posted by Ursula Hitler at 6:18 PM PST - 23 comments

What can I do with a lot of garlic?

The CSA garlic has been piling up. What sorts of things can I do with quantities of garlic? I think we currently have 10-12 heads of garlic. Bonus points if whatever it is will keep in the fridge for a couple of weeks, or in the freezer for a couple of months. (I found this from previously but maybe there's more!)
posted by curious nu at 5:59 PM PST - 31 comments

You can check my nooks, but don't bother me.

We are selling our home and have an offer. My baby and I have no where to go during inspection. What happens if we stay? [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 5:58 PM PST - 42 comments

Nice, Ice, Baby!

I am looking for the absolute most convenient, easiest to use, best, and well-engineered in ice tray/bin setups! Find me one like it was designed by Dyson! [more inside]
posted by sourwookie at 5:57 PM PST - 17 comments

How might I squeeze a little extra mpg out of my old truck?

I've become mildly obsessed with trying to improve the fuel efficiency of my old truck. I've already done all the basic things and I realize that I'm fighting physics at this point, but what else might I consider if I wanted to make a bit of a hobby out of it? [more inside]
posted by Scientist at 5:41 PM PST - 28 comments

Should I ask the man I'm seeing not to have a vasectomy?

I'm in my mid-20's, leaning towards not having kids, but recognize that I could change my mind. I just started dating a wonderful man who has scheduled a vasectomy for next month. Is it asking too much to ask him to reconsider? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:15 PM PST - 44 comments

Motivational sites like Health Month and Fitocracy?

I'd really like an easy way to motivate myself and my family members to do a few things everyday or at least more often (push-ups, stretches, skip dessert). [more inside]
posted by tigeri at 5:11 PM PST - 2 comments

songs about folk tales

You know that Decemberists song "The Crane Wife"? I'm looking for more songs like that - songs that re-tell, are inspired by, or make explicit references to a particular folk tale or fairy tale. [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 4:36 PM PST - 23 comments

What's the #1 change you've made to improve your time management skills?

former chronic procrastinators, reformed flighty people, etc.: What's the #1 change you've made to improve your organizational and time management skills? (new mantra or mindset? taking a course? etc) [more inside]
posted by NikitaNikita at 4:36 PM PST - 23 comments

Plan My Day in London (Include a Fabulous Lunch)

I'll be arriving at Marylebone station at 10:30am and departing from the same station around 5:00pm. What should I do with my six hours? I definitely want to have lunch somewhere fabulous.
posted by tmharris65 at 4:06 PM PST - 3 comments

I want to estimate the cost of an animal shelter

I want to estimate the cost of building and running a state of the art animal shelter for dogs and cats. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 4:03 PM PST - 12 comments

Questionable Credentials

I want to acquire unusual certificates. Something along the lines of Certificate of Ordination at Church of the Latter Day Dude and the amusing (and fake) Certificate of Virginity. What are the (preferably legally recognized) certificates out there?
posted by pakoothefakoo at 3:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I get pasteurized eggs in Portland?

Has anyone seen pasteurized eggs anywhere near the Portland, OR metro area? I used to get Davidson's pasteurized eggs at Safeway, and maybe long ago at Trader Joes? Neither of those stores have them now. Davidson's doesn't seem to supply any local stores. [more inside]
posted by peep at 3:44 PM PST - 4 comments

Help my friend find a dog! Snowflake details inside.

I have a good friend who wants a dog. Here is the criteria. We are looking for ways/places to go check out/ideas on how to find a dog for her: -My friend lives in Northern California, and is willing to travel a reasonable distance (50 miles give or take). She is willing to pay adoption fees. The dog: -Must be male. -Can be of any breed/mix. -Must be young to adult, but not a puppy. -Must be medium to large in size. -Must have all shots/vaccines. -Must be neutered. -Must be a rescue dog. Help us find places to look around for rescue dogs. We have been striking out... maybe there's some places we aren't finding/thinking of besides the pound, pet shops, rescue agencies, etc?
posted by nurgle at 3:32 PM PST - 21 comments

Wanted: state of the art educational/career counseling

I'm curious to know which businesses, organizations, people and projects are at the forefront of helping young people (12-25) to reach their educational and career goals. What kick ass programs do they have that motivate kids and help them figure out and work towards their futures? Are there any ventures/tools that support or replace the career counseling that kids get in school? [more inside]
posted by Foci for Analysis at 3:08 PM PST - 2 comments

What is this song?

Trying to find an awesome song I heard. I saw the music video once a long time ago (five years?). The color palate was all white. Poodles featured prominently. I recall in certain scenes the poodle was getting it's hair done, as if in a salon. A blonde, very sensual and well-manicured lady. Something about wanting to be a dog. Very cool electronic-sounding, kind of monotonous vocals. Help, I'm dying to hear this song again!
posted by space cat at 3:06 PM PST - 4 comments

Quickbooks Enterprise vs Sage 50?

We are a retail business, ~10 employees, multiple locations of inventory and some drop-ships. I am looking at both Quickbooks Enterprise and something from the Sage 50 family but can't find anything online that provides a good comparison. Anyone use both? Opinions?
posted by vaaaase at 3:00 PM PST - 6 comments

History Trivia

I'm writing a trivia game for a birthday party. What are events from the 1950s through today that 60 yr olds would have a good grasp of that I would miss out on just by scanning through wikipedia? [more inside]
posted by troika at 2:56 PM PST - 22 comments

Quino cartoon about television.

I've been trying to find one of my favourite cartoons, but with no luck so far. I'm pretty sure it's by Quino. It depicts a child watching TV and the child's mother coming in through the living room door. The child's head is made up of horizontal lines (presumably from watching too much TV), and the draft coming in from the door makes the lines (i.e., the top of the child's head) disconnect from each other and fly out. Help me find a link. Thank you!
posted by jlverissimo at 2:43 PM PST - 3 comments

How to get my town to ban leaf burning?

A year and a half ago I moved to a small town in Illinois that allows leaf burning. It is obnoxious. A local group has tried for years to ban the practice (via petitions, complaining at city council meetings, etc.), but have not been successful against the entrenched supporters of the leaf burning (several of whom serve on the city council.) I'm looking for some creative suggestions for getting the leaf burning snuffed out.
posted by JeffL at 2:39 PM PST - 15 comments

Build a Doll?

Besides American Girl, are there any other sites that will let you enter some basic characteristics and create a doll for you? [more inside]
posted by ramix at 2:10 PM PST - 11 comments

Do I need a flu shot?

According to the CDC, the answer is yes. But wait, there's more inside! [more inside]
posted by lollymccatburglar at 1:44 PM PST - 73 comments

Naked Lunch

Philosophical persectives on slaughtering animals for food required. Help me work through unexpected questioning? [more inside]
posted by Caskeum at 1:35 PM PST - 23 comments

Best doll for a toddler?

I went shopping for a baby doll for an 18-month-old relative, thinking it would be an easy purchase, and now I'm so confused... [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 1:31 PM PST - 15 comments

Retro Comic Artist

I'm looking for current amateur/underground artists who have a style similar to late 70s/80s X-Men artists Dave Cockrum and Marc Silvestri. [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 1:27 PM PST - 0 comments

From Experience... in Latin.

If I want to say "From experience" in Latin, what's the best way to say it? Right now I'm thinking "Ab expertus." [more inside]
posted by heliostatic at 1:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Transporting board games

What's the best solution for transporting a bunch of board games? [more inside]
posted by MsVader at 12:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Where on can I get Cirque Du Soleil style dance and acrobatics costumes?

I am a member of a small acrobatic group including both men and women, and we are having a hard time finding costumes. There are more options for women, but almost none for men except basic gymnastics outfits and unitards in a handful of colors. We'd love to find a place to get really dramatic costumes, or at least parts we could use to design our own without having to make them completely from scratch. Online is best, as I am in Iceland.
posted by Nothing at 12:33 PM PST - 5 comments

LankyManClothing Filter

Where does one buy clothing for a 6'2, slim, broad-shouldered man that is dapper but not preppy, well-made but not exorbitantly priced? Britishy aesthetic, minimalist style, and monochromatic colors all desirable. Current favorite is Topman, but looking for something with better quality construction. [more inside]
posted by snappysnapper at 12:29 PM PST - 6 comments

Dear IRS, I swear I am who I say I am!

My legal name and gender change court order will be finalized in late January and I will immediately go and change my SSA, DMV, and birth cert information. My W2 will probably arrive before I can get my new documents to my HR department. Will this cause problems filing my taxes? What should I expect and prepare for? I'm in California and use Turbotax.
posted by blnkfrnk at 12:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Purchasing a waterproof, fireproof safe?

Hive mind inquiry: does anyone have experience or advice they can give for the purchase of a waterproof, fireproof safe, big enough to store a few folders of documents? [more inside]
posted by Cycloptichorn at 12:11 PM PST - 6 comments

extrapolating temp/energy use difference from small boxes to my condo

Physics geeks! Help me save energy! How do I estimate how much less energy will be used by light siding vs gray siding, based on an experiment with small boxes? I made some identical boxes, put them in the sun, measured temperatures, and am trying to figure out how to scale up. The net has info about different roof colors, but not siding colors. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 12:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Seeking a series of fantasy/war books from the 1980s

You know how you can just remember a few details about some subject from your youth, and it's going to bother you until you can reveal the full scope of that memory? Yeah, I'm right there. I'm looking for a series of books. They were in the SF/F section in the 1980s. They were probably popular because their covers resembled Frazetta prints, and they tended to be really violent (i.e. jumping on the popularity of Conan). [more inside]
posted by thanotopsis at 11:47 AM PST - 4 comments

Tell me about the history of unusually same sex dancing!

I just caught a scene from the 1953 film Stalag 17. In it, some WW2 prisoners of war hold a dance, and for obvious reasons, half the male dancers are following. Can anyone help me fill in the imaginary back story as if I were watching this film in 1953? [more inside]
posted by emilyw at 11:37 AM PST - 11 comments

gift heirloom mom

Can Mefi help me find a gift that would become an heirloom later on? Details inside... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:29 AM PST - 20 comments

Facebook Friend Stop Dinging Me!

I have one friend on Facebook, whom every time he posts a status update or shares anything, I get notified or dinged on my mobile (this only happens with one other person, my girlfriend, and that's ok :>) How do I stop this? I've looked at all the options in Facebook and can't find what I need to adjust him singularly, am I just looking in the wrong place? Help!
posted by franklen at 11:16 AM PST - 5 comments

What have you been wrong about, realized it, and it changed your life?

What have you been wrong about, realized it, and it changed your life? I remember reading Albert Ellis' wonderful self-help book A Guide to Rational Living where he gives a great list of irrational and self-defeating beliefs that people have. Among these beliefs was the importance people placed on other's opinion of them as well the emphasis people placed on being perfectionistic in their own lives. Much of this underlies Cognitive Behavioral Therapy but the effect is even more prevalent than that. We all have had beliefs that have held us back, and I'm curious as to what things you once believed that were holding you back in your personal or professional life. Anything will do. It can be anything from knowing the importance of making good first impressions to the need for keeping oneself physically fit even when one doesn't want to. I'm looking to see whether I share of any of these traits or not. So what are the beliefs that have held you back or others that you know?
posted by RapcityinBlue at 10:56 AM PST - 61 comments

RAW processing on the go

What´s a good portable option to process RAW files? [more inside]
posted by Fermin at 10:51 AM PST - 12 comments

Chicken Soup for the Entrepreneur's Soul

So I asked you for help solving my problems and said I'd do a three-part series over three weeks- thing is, I'm still on the first. Please help me with my business. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 10:07 AM PST - 10 comments

Should I sign over this check?

My father has just sent me this specific text - "I'd like to do some income tax avoidance, completely above the board, by having you sign over a check to me from my year end family trust account funds. I've had my brother's son **** do this is the past, no big deal just a matter of having someone in the family sign a check made out to them over to me." [more inside]
posted by assasinatdbeauty at 9:41 AM PST - 37 comments

Getting your name changed. How to?

Do any of you have experience with changing your name for non-marriage/divorce reasons. As far as I understand, it involves filling out a form, getting your fingerprints taken and requesting a hearing with a judge. It's the hearing that concerns me. On what basis might a name change be denied? What helps your case? Florida here, if that's an issue. I know, I know. Talk to a lawyer. I plan to do so but it's also important to just hear "I never thought of that" real experiences from everyday, non-attorney people. Thanks.
posted by caveatz at 9:13 AM PST - 15 comments

Adrienne Rich poem

Poetry question: Do you think Adrienne Rich's "November 1968" is literally about burning leaves? Does she intend that month and year to mean something to the reader? Any other thoughts? [more inside]
posted by kalapierson at 8:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Any audio equivalent of "extract a person or object using Photoshop"?

I have a sound recording that ideally I would like to remove the background sound from. My recording has unfortunately captured the unwanted sound of an episode of Doctor Who being played from a TV in the background. Is there a way to filter that out? [more inside]
posted by polymodus at 8:46 AM PST - 12 comments

What are your favorite quirky sayings?

I find certain sayings particular endearing and would love to add more into my repertoire. A few examples of saying I use are: Mary Beth is as sweet as pie (meaning, I think she's just a swell girl). That new baby is as cute as a button. Spending my weekends as the park makes me as happy as a pack of puppies. I've also been known to say someone "drinks like a fish" and/or "smokes like a chimney." Your favorite sayings don't need to be analogies, I just want to know what sayings you use regularly. I am an english speaker in the us of a, if that helps at all. Thanks! [more inside]
posted by Stan Grossman at 8:39 AM PST - 144 comments

Helping 7 yo process mother's death

So my sister-in-law had a stroke last week and passed away on Friday. My niece's are 7 and 19. The older one, of course groks it, but I'm not sure how much the younger one is getting. [more inside]
posted by jacy at 8:29 AM PST - 25 comments

Make handwritten feedback as anonymous as possible?

I'm planning a workshop for my colleagues with various exercises. In one exercise, each person will have a stack of index cards. We will focus on a person in the group, everyone will write that person's strengths/weaknesses on one of their index cards, move to the next person, repeat. How can this process be anonymized as much as possible? I'd like people to feel comfortable and be completely honest. Their handwriting, unfortunately, will ruin anonymity. Also, I'd rather not involve technologies like computers.
posted by daniel.poynter at 7:35 AM PST - 45 comments

iPhone budgeting app with multiple users?

I'm looking for suggestions like Toshl in the budgeting / family expenses app department. [more inside]
posted by glaucon at 7:13 AM PST - 9 comments

What are some good books on the history of LGBT rights movement?

I really want to find out more about the history and progress of LGBT rights. Namely, early forms and social codes to express homosexuality, the civil rights movements and how psychology viewed before and now, and what led to finally removing homosexuality as a disorder from the DSM. [more inside]
posted by ahtlast93 at 6:47 AM PST - 13 comments

RC Helicopter or Plane Recommendation

Looking to purchase an indoor Remote Control (RC) helicopter or place. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 6:03 AM PST - 15 comments

Can we have a stealth wedding at sea?

My fiancée and I want to get married at sea on a cruise. Unfortunately, we can't find a cruise line that sails from our nearby ports that offers a wedding package that works for us (all the lines we checked require that everything be done by the book on their schedule with their vows, music, food, etc.). Has anyone ever staged a "stealth wedding" at sea where you bring your own officiant, gather a small number of family and friends together at an agreed-upon time in a quiet corner of the ship, and carry out a short impromptu ceremony? Will the cruise line have a problem with this? Would there be a penalty if we were caught? More importantly, would a marriage license from our state be valid if signed at sea in international waters? If not, what if we handled the paperwork in port? It's just a germ of an idea right now and at this point we really want to know if this is all possible and legal. Any advice for us?
posted by Servo5678 at 5:43 AM PST - 12 comments

From Dixons to Nixon

I'm interested in learning more about late 20th century American history and politics, particularly the Cold War, Watergate and Nixon. What books, fiction or non-fiction, can you recommend to a non-American? [more inside]
posted by mippy at 5:41 AM PST - 18 comments

I heard you like emotional stress

Managing my mental healthcare has become stressful at precisely the worst time for it to be stressful. Please can someone advise me on how to play this. I feel like the anxiety about what happens next is making things worse right now. [more inside]
posted by Acheman at 4:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Unwanted Stuff On My Cat

My cat had something on his fur, near his left rear thigh, that looked like a slug. It was about an inch long and 3-5mm wide, black, and shiny. He is a fraidy cat who will not tolerate being touched. He only just tolerates playing chases with a piece of string, so I spent some time with him this morning doing just that and trying to take a picture. I was not able to get a picture that was clear enough. He actually washed around whatever it was, but only once, and he didn't dislodge it in the process. We tried to catch him and failed. He got outside. Since he has so many hangups it is possible that he won't come back and likely that he won't trust us for another six months if he does. He only knows a few words, but "vet" is one of them and he has a very strong reaction to that one, so the effects of stuffing him into a pet carrier can only be imagined, even if we had any hope of accomplishing that now. So: what external feline parasite looks like a slug, is about an inch long and lurks on the fur near the thigh, and what do we do about it in the unlikely event that we get the chance?
posted by tel3path at 3:51 AM PST - 20 comments

Help me find this Dutch photographer

He took portraits of people on the street and arranged these portraits into collections of 'types' - parka boys, gabber girls, nonnas, Muslimahs etc. Does this ring a bell for anyone?
posted by nerdfish at 3:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Name this song!

I'm looking for this pop/R&B song that appeared on the radiowaves sometime between this year and last year (so fairly recent). I think it's pretty popular. [more inside]
posted by rozaine at 1:01 AM PST - 4 comments

November 18

3D Printer >$3000?

My wife and I are looking into investing in a 3D printer in the $2-3,000 price range. Can anyone who actually owns one / has used one extensively give any suggestions on brands/models to look at? We're hoping for a basic desktop model with a size capacity of about 8"x8"x8" for making small props, prototypes, etc. Also, what can one expect to pay for the "goop" or whatever they use for a printing medium?
posted by ShutterBun at 11:35 PM PST - 9 comments

What Does a Woman Taste Like?

However bizarre my inquisition, for those men and women who have 'been down,' and eaten the proverbial flower, what have your experiences been like? What does it taste like? Men taste like skin and smell a bit earthy.. and sometimes taste incredibly salty which is slightly unpleasant but not off-putting in the moment lol. So what do we taste like?
posted by OneHermit at 11:10 PM PST - 22 comments

How do I hack scheduling classes when I work all day?

I'm a science teacher who is trying to take prerequisite courses in order to eventually apply for a graduate physics degree. The problem is as a teacher I work a set schedule everyday, and the pre-requisite classes I want are designed for the first-time college goer who is attending school full-time or has a part-time job at night. How do I get the classes I need? [more inside]
posted by Peregrin5 at 10:17 PM PST - 16 comments

Fun games for a wedding?

What are some fun games or activities that can take place at a wedding and at the reception? I'm hoping to hear about things that you've experienced at a wedding that worked really well, made people laugh or contributed to the meaning of the wedding. Thank you.
posted by surenoproblem at 10:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me replace Everpix, at least a little.

So I'm one of Everpix's many very disappointed soon-to-be-ex-users, and I really, really liked their Flashback emails showing me photos from Today In History. Is there any way to easily automate something like that just coming from my local Aperture library?
posted by DoctorFedora at 9:36 PM PST - 6 comments

Where do you acquire cheap thin plywood and acrylic sheets?

I'm a member of a maker space that recently acquired a really awesome laser cutter. I want to learn how to make awesome laser-cut 3D objects. Problem: materials for it seem unreasonably hard to find in local stores, and are super expensive online. [more inside]
posted by miyabo at 9:11 PM PST - 12 comments

Why do Rx pain meds make me so mellow and sentimental?

As I type this, I'm having to curb the urge to call friends and family and gush about how much I love them and how wonderful they are. I'm on 750mg of Percoset for an arthritis flare tonight. What is happening in my brain or body to cause these feelings? I'm always this way with any kind of Rx pain meds and I'm just curious. Thanks!
posted by michellenoel at 9:02 PM PST - 9 comments

This is just a crazy, crazy coincidence, right?

OK, this sounds insane and paranoid, and I feel fairly confident this is just a very weird coincidence, but is there some computer virus-y way that a Google search term can end up being reflected in credit card fraud? [more inside]
posted by looli at 8:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Step right up! Oh wait, you're taller than I am...

I'm looking for fundraiser carnival game ideas for middle school kids (ages 11-14). The carnival will be held in the spring, with a Color Festival theme. We will have a color run; we're looking for booth games, as well. These kids have been playing the ring toss/ cakewalk/ bouncy castle circuit for years, so we're looking to make it more appealing to them now that they're older. Some popular ideas so far have been a football toss and outdoor twister. Do you have more? [Gotta shoot you down on the teacher pie-tossing/ dunking booth ideas, though. I'd like to keep enforcing respect for the teachers, especially since their average age is about 24.]
posted by Jane Austen at 8:01 PM PST - 11 comments

Articles / books comparing writing to other artistic mediums

Can anyone point me to articles or books which investigate the artistic advantages and disadvantages of writing vis-a-vis other mediums like film (e.g. what effects can written documents have that movies cannot, and vice-versa)?
posted by shivohum at 7:52 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me try to figure out what kind of career might be good for me.

Help me try to figure out what kind of career might be good for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:40 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I legally get work to pay my rent?

So I've done the math, and if my job pays me $750 a month less, and uses that money to pay my rent, I actually end up about $150 ahead. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:20 PM PST - 24 comments

Looking for MIL-W-5664-T1-C2.

I am making myself a pair of suspenders. I have determined that the ideal elastic for this endeavor would be MIL-W-5664 Type 1 Class 2, 1.5 inch width, dark green. I have found a few dealers online that sell this product, but they're wholesalers and have minimum orders in the range of a thousand feet or so. I'm looking for about twelve feet of the stuff.
posted by CustooFintel at 6:15 PM PST - 7 comments

Teaching in France ??

Hi, my last questions have been about learning French, then skiing in France (thank you for all those answers to those questions)...and now I'm thinking "what about working in France"? [more inside]
posted by bquarters at 5:27 PM PST - 8 comments

What steps can I take to meet a family orientated partner?

I'm an early 30s male, I have spent the last few years living a very self-centered life, hopping around short term casual relationships. I recently had a change of priorities, and want to prioritise starting a family. The gist of the question is about compromise. What kind of traits should be prioritised in a partner? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:57 PM PST - 39 comments

Schubert's Impromptus - who should I be listening to?

Falling hard for both Schubert's Impromptus and Chopin's Nocturnes. Who are the best players, what recordings are essential to own? [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 4:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Cheddar for Christmas

I am mailing my friends a package for Christmas. They live in Africa; I'm in the US. They asked for cheddar cheese (among other things). How do I make this happen? [more inside]
posted by raspberrE at 3:50 PM PST - 13 comments

Gay story from the 70s - 80s about a body part changing color.

Does anyone remember a story from the 70s or 80s about one day when every gay person woke up and their noses (ears?) had turned purple (blue, green?)? It was basically an illustration of Harvey Milk's call for all gay people to come out because if everyone was out, straight people would realize we were everywhere. It may have been a short story, a children's book, or a short film. I was a manuscript reviewer for Alyson Books in the mid-80s, so it might have been something I read then. [more inside]
posted by hworth at 3:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Stranger in a Strange Land

I'm considering confronting my father with the threat of estrangement. What should I know before initiating this kind of "break" with family? (Snowflakes abound, but general guidance helps too!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM PST - 20 comments

How to kick ass when you're depressed

My depression seems to have come roaring back all at once this weekend. I know how to take care of myself in the long-term scale, but I have an important and difficult life event in two days, and a lot of work to do in the interim. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM PST - 13 comments

Best houseplant soil mix and filler for use in self-watering planter?

Should the capillary action which will allow water to soak upward from the bottom of my self-watering planters be a factor in selecting a potting mix for Arrowhead Vine houseplants, or is the ideal potting mix the same regardless of whether they receive most of their water from the surface? Also, what would be the best lightweight "filler" for the bottom portion of the planters? [more inside]
posted by lmpatte2 at 3:11 PM PST - 2 comments

Minimalist Thanksgiving

I need help finding some really easy, uncomplicated one-pot Thanksgiving recipes! I'll be hosting an orphan's potluck for 4-8 people at my place this year and I need to provide a couple dishes. Problem is, I'm a notoriously shitty cook which means I never cook which means I have a really understocked kitchen. And I'm kinda poor. [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 2:58 PM PST - 33 comments

Roller Derby Documentaries

Which roller derby documentaries would you recommend as a 60th birthday gift for my mother? [more inside]
posted by postel's law at 2:33 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for a rather long article about a psychotic break

I'm trying to find an article from several years ago written by a man who had had a psychotic break, stayed at a hospital and then was released when he was behaving normally, but still considered himself a robot. The article was written after his break had ended. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 2:33 PM PST - 4 comments

Munich in January?

I'm going to Munich the second week of January! What should I do in Munich in January? [more inside]
posted by 2bucksplus at 2:08 PM PST - 9 comments

How to modify potato recipe cooking time/temperature?

Can I cook the potatoes at a lower temperature for a longer period of time and have a good result? Will the potatoes dry out or not cook (or otherwise go wrong) if cooked longer at a lower temperature? Can I cook them and then reheat them without them getting soggy or otherwise weird? [more inside]
posted by AllieTessKipp at 1:56 PM PST - 10 comments

Why do drivers swerve left to turn right (and vice versa)?

I see this behavior all the time on the road, and I don't really get it: drivers about to turn -- usually into a parking lot/space -- who first swerve in the opposite direction before making the turn. Sometimes it's just a small movement. Other times the driver will actually swerve into the other lane before turning. What is the advantage in doing so? It doesn't look like a move that saves any amount of time or effort, and in most cases seems counter-productive. I've tried this to see what the benefit is, but have only ended up making my turn less efficient.
posted by Mo' Money Moe Bandy at 1:21 PM PST - 35 comments

Small Thanksgiving meal thought: Am I missing something?

I think I figured out a way to simplify my family's Thanksgiving meal. What didn't I think of? [more inside]
posted by Marky at 1:10 PM PST - 21 comments

[MovieFilter] Help me remember this movie

I can only remember one scene, where a woman is looking for a kid gone missing (maybe her own or maybe she was babysitting) and ends up finding him with a couple of pedophiles (a man and a woman) who have the missing kid and one or two others. The kid is hidden somewhere in their place and at first she is almost ready to leave, but then something strikes her as odd, and she starts noticing little details, like the nursery floor covered with plastic (to make cleanup easier). She comes back and finds the hidden kid and I think she ends up shooting the pedo couple. The movie is from the last decade or so. I can't remember any of the actors. I think the missing kid story was just one of several intertwining stories in the movie.
posted by gakiko at 12:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Is there a dead-simple way to create an insert for an audio cassette?

Assuming a level of graphics competence at "low, but very willing to learn", what's the easiest method of creating inserts for audio cassettes? Level of quality around "punk/hardcore/straight edge" on the sliding scale. Preference slightly skewed to a 4 or 5 panel card, tools available are MS Office products, Photoshop Elements and of course GIMP. Access to printers and copiers, willing to lay out double digits for a tool, click-and-drag type template, or assistance. Thoughts/advice/help?
posted by ersatzkat at 12:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Will I collapse and then freeze to death in the woods?

I've been thinking of trying cross-country skiing this winter. How easy is it to learn, and is it possible to start without a great baseline level of fitness? [more inside]
posted by vogon_poet at 12:18 PM PST - 18 comments

I've been going in circles about this for a while

My relatively new boyfriend (half a year) told me he never wanted to get married or have kids. I have always wanted these things. Friends tell me that since we're still young and none of this is an issue yet, I shouldn't be worrying about it, but I can't help it. What to do? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 11:56 AM PST - 49 comments

Elephant: Combining B2B sales divisions in a large company

I work in e-commerce at a large national retailer. We have at least four other B2B divisions at some stage of e-commerce, and we all know it's time to get our act orchestrated. The question: the head of one of the groups-- my boss-- has asked me to provide internal or external content that makes the case for not only getting our omnichannel presence together online, but also combining our processes and customer-facing (CRM) act together, too. Anyone been to this rodeo? Have any resources you can point out?
posted by Arch1 at 11:35 AM PST - 2 comments

should I switch to Ting phone service ?

I'm thinking of switching my phone service from sprint to Ting. Since this is a change that's difficult to undo, I'm asking for feedback ( positive or negative ) about how your Ting experience has been. I'm in Seattle so if you're a Seattle Ting customer, I'm particularly interested in what you have to say about signal quality, 4g/3g service, etc. I'm not too concerned about the savings of switching to Ting. It's clear that I come out ahead even with the penalty I have to pay for terminating my contract early. I'm more interested in any gotchas that you didn't find out about or think about until after choosing Ting. For example, unexpected roaming charges, bad customer service, bad reception... If it makes any difference, my phone is a samsung galaxy s3 . Thanks!
posted by metadave at 11:26 AM PST - 17 comments

mineral rights

Through a long series of events I have come to own some mineral rights on some acreage near Norman, OK. I found out I owned when I was contacted by a landman offering to lease it. I thought the offer fair, so I took the money. But now I am getting offers to outright buy it. [more inside]
posted by jtexman1 at 11:04 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I improve my computer screen reading experience?

I do a lot of proofreading for work, but it's a struggle compared to proofreading hard copies. I already use f.lux to cut down on eye strain, and browser plugins to make text more readable, but I find I'm still straining to keep my eyes from bouncing all over the place. Help! [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 11:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Should I give my baby the same name as my cousin's child?

I'm pregnant with my second child (yaaay!) and am mulling over naming options with my husband. Two of my favorites are family names, but already taken by the children of cousins. Is it weird for us to use the names, too? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 10:49 AM PST - 66 comments

Incognito Rolex?

From 1967 until his death, my dad wore a perpetual-movement stainless steel watch that my mother gave him when they got married. He always said it was an "incognito Rolex," and I've recently learned that there might be some truth to that. Watch-loving MeFites, can you help me discover my watch's history and teach me how to change the date on its face? [more inside]
posted by catlet at 10:12 AM PST - 8 comments

Question about resume and jobs in Democratic politics in the South

I am considering some jobs in Democratic politics in Georgia or elsewhere in the South, and I'm wondering if there are some activities that I should leave off my resume and cover letter, even if they might have some relevance to the job I am applying for. [more inside]
posted by andoatnp at 10:12 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me identify this short story based on my hazy memory, please.

I heard a story (fiction) on the radio a few years ago and I'd like to find out what it was called and who wrote it. It was most likely presented on the show "Selected Shorts" but I'm not certain about that. The story took place in a town where everything seemed normal except that a black shape appeared one day in the sky overhead. Slowly over time the black shape fills the sky until the horizon is covered. A married couple are at the center of the story - there's more about their relationship than this thing in the sky. I think the sky-thing is a metaphor for something unspoken that dominates our fears. The characters barely react to it's presence (I think.) Anyone out there know this story?
posted by cellura p at 9:45 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for web app development resources.

Help me find good web app planning and development resources. [more inside]
posted by davebush at 9:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Can I put a TV in my window so I can watch while I watch?

What are the downsides, or dangers to my TV, of putting my TV in a bay window? [more inside]
posted by Naib at 9:35 AM PST - 7 comments

Real propaganda?

Defense Against Enemy Propaganda, a 1956 film intended for US troops, contains a couple of clips of Soviet propaganda with voiceovers in English. Are they genuine Soviet films? Where did they come from? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c at 9:23 AM PST - 2 comments

Life is awesome. I'm depressed. How do I become ok?

I think I've been plagued by this low-grade, corrosive depression for a while now. Maybe over a year. You think, "Ah ok if I do this and achieve this and fix this in my life maybe things will be okay again." And they don't turn out that way. I've reached goals, I've exercised, I've tried CBT. I don't enjoy living. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:46 AM PST - 18 comments

Help me give my first blowjob.

I'm a gal in my late 20s and I've never given a blowie before. Give me some tips on how to try it out without embarrassing myself too badly. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:46 AM PST - 28 comments

Help me to check the information against a source about Fuller

"He had catched a great cold,had he had no other clothes to wear than the skin of a bear not yet killed."- Fuller- This is from "Middlemarch" written by G.Eliot. I'd like to know the source of Thomas Fuller. I can't find any information about it whereas I read a lot of his another quotations on the internet. I wonder if he really said so...
posted by mizukko at 8:39 AM PST - 1 comment

Driving from Maine to Chicago via Canada with 2 dogs...Tips?

We are planning to drive to Chicago for the holidays, and we thought it might be fun to go through Canada on the " getting there" leg of the trip. We will have two dogs with us, so the sightseeing and lodging would have to include them. [more inside]
posted by lobstah at 8:28 AM PST - 9 comments

App for alternate-side parking regulations, street by street, in NYC?

Is there an app or a web site that will tell you what the alternate-side regulations for each block in the city? (And if there are meters or) not. [more inside]
posted by Ollie at 8:26 AM PST - 5 comments

Home-owners Insurance Co Wants to Survey House...After 12 years

I've had a home-owners policy with the same insurance company since purchasing my house in 2002. Last week, I had a message on my answering machine from a man identifying himself as an auditor with a 2nd party surveying firm. He said he was calling at the request of my insurance company to set up a date/time for a survey of my house. [more inside]
posted by klarck at 8:23 AM PST - 24 comments

Any recommendations on how to donate labor to disaster recovery?

Lacking money but possessing skills, I'd really like to pitch in, and Illinois isn't too far away. How can I volunteer labor and time? [more inside]
posted by TomMelee at 7:35 AM PST - 9 comments

Plant ID for pets

Is this a polka dot plant? I need to know in case Mr. Muffin decides to munch on it (details and links to pics inside) [more inside]
posted by Calzephyr at 6:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Better than now? Maybe? Different from now? Certainly!

Awhile ago, a friend of mine on Facebook posted this picture of John Kennedy and friends in some kind of control room. I commented about how photographs from the 60s had a certain quality about them that I tried to find words for. I came up with 'hyperclarity' in that stuff in the background and foreground are blurry as usual, but when an object is in focus, it is in FOCUS! What makes this happen? The film? The equipment? Photographic technique current at the time? [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 6:42 AM PST - 15 comments

Combating SAD with a light therapy box - suggestions?

My mood has always taken a downturn around November and picked up again mid-April for as long as I can remember. I've been getting particularly depressed this year, so I talked with my therapist and was diagnosed with SAD. She recommended a light therapy box to help, but with my circumstances I am unsure of which to purchase. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by BuddyBoo at 6:41 AM PST - 10 comments

How is distillery formed?

How do newcomers enter the spirits business when distilling without a permit and or without paying excise taxes is a federal crime? Home distilling is not a viable gateway hobby like home brewing. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:40 AM PST - 20 comments

Private Genes.

Who does genetic testing that is as interested in protecting my privacy as taking my money? [more inside]
posted by Goofyy at 6:26 AM PST - 8 comments

T-shirts for chubby, busty women?

I'm seeking the perfect black t-shirt. I'm also fat, short and busty. Where should I look? [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 6:16 AM PST - 10 comments

Proper Settings for Adobe Media Encoder Bulk Transcoding?

Previously, I have used Adobe Media Encoder to convert hundreds of varying video files in to one common format. Works great. Set it and forget it. A godsend. Now, I have a folder of about 5000 WMVs (with a few MPGs and MOVs scattered throughout) of all different resolutions and quality. I need to convert them to MP4s, each the same resolution and quality of the file each original was. [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 6:07 AM PST - 1 comment

Birth control pills and ejaculation inside vagina

I would like to know your opinions about ejaculation inside the vagina and the risks of pregnancy, while using birth control. [more inside]
posted by Emily119 at 5:47 AM PST - 18 comments

Skinny man seeks winter coat (London)

I like M&S-style clothing, but as a slender man (35 chest 31 waist) I often have trouble finding something that fits, and the M&S range of winter coats, even in 'Small', looks a little baggy on me. Where else in London could I find something reasonably stylish, but also warm, to wear over a shirt & sweater, for less than, say, £300? [more inside]
posted by piato at 5:40 AM PST - 12 comments

best places to live working in west covina (los angeles?)

I'll be working in West Covina, CA in the Los Angeles area for two months early next year. (I currently live in DC). I'm trying to figure out where to live. [more inside]
posted by waylaid at 5:24 AM PST - 22 comments

Legal copyright procedure?

How does someone get a copyright to a photograph they have taken? [more inside]
posted by BillyAnne at 4:19 AM PST - 5 comments

How to deal with spicy food when avoidance is not possible

I am starting to travel to India for business, there is no getting around it. I LOVE to eat, but I do not like spicy/hot food. Everything (to my palate) is spicy in India. How to acclimatize? Just time? Please help. [more inside]
posted by alchemist at 4:17 AM PST - 25 comments

How should I spend $3000? Need to thank 1000 volunteers

I work for a fledgling non-profit. We have 1000 volunteers spread throughout the state but most people are in the capital. We hold a barbecue once a year and inevitably, it's here in the city. Most of our social events, meetings etc are here in the city. Now we're coming up to the end of the year, I really want t thank everyone for their hard work. The thing we're doing is socially, historically and politically significant. It's an uphill battle for many because we're breaking long and tightly held tradition and often its the people outside of the big city who deal with the most resistance (therefore, do the hardest work and with least support). 1. What are some good things you've done or seen to thank volunteers in general? 2. What can I do to include those who are out of the city? I have $3000 to spend.
posted by stellathon at 3:56 AM PST - 6 comments

How to do what I want in Remember the Milk?

I have daily, weekly, monthly, and seasonal tasks. I want these tasks to show up on their due date and stay on my to do list until I complete them. Then I want them to disappear until the next due date. But instead of showing me what repeating tasks are currently due, my inbox shows me the next instance of ALL repeating tasks. How can I use RTM to only show me the tasks that are currently due? Thanks.
posted by skidoom at 3:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me find a new psychiatrist in NYC pdq?

I've looked at all the askme NYC psychiatrist questions but haven't found what I'm looking for, which is a recommendation for a doctor who will pretty much do two things: take insurance and manage meds. I am not interested in talk therapy; I have a non-MD therapist that I love. My prescriptions are just straightforward antidepressant/anxiety stuff. [more inside]
posted by torticat at 2:13 AM PST - 11 comments

Apart from the William Tell Overture.

Classical music for workouts? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:09 AM PST - 23 comments

Explain this Spanish translation for me

I was googling for a Spanish chef called Karlos Arguinaño and found what turned out to be his web site but Google Translate seems to have a wicked sense of humour as every mention of his name is translated as Gourmet Dessert, this made reading the pages very confusing initially. Google Translate seems to not convert the words in isolation or in reverse order but only when the name appears in full. What is going on? Is this some lingustic subtlety or guerrilla branding?
posted by epo at 2:08 AM PST - 8 comments

Seeking gunk-free mascara

My current mascara (Cover Girl Professional) leaves residue that collects in my tear duct area and beneath my lower eyelid. I apply the mascara carefully, and remove it thoroughly at the end of the day, but the gunk nevertheless manages to surface, sometimes the following morning. I've tried both the waterproof and non-waterproof formulas without success. While this doesn't irritate my eyes (yet), I can't imagine it's good for them. I'm seeking recommendations for mascara that won't leave gunk behind. Bonus if it's also effective at making your lashes long and full.
posted by delight at 1:09 AM PST - 29 comments

Book recommendation for feminist soon-to-stay-at-home mum

Please help me find a good book gift for my amazing manager who is leaving before Christmas - after fifteen years in HR, she has decided to spend some time with her two school-age kids, one of whom is disabled and needs more time of her than she can manage whilst working. [more inside]
posted by coffee_monster at 12:17 AM PST - 4 comments

November 17

How do I swap houses with my mother?

My mother has suddenly got into a position where she cannot afford to keep up payments on her mortgage since retiring. The amount left she has to pay is £14,000. I have a mortgage of £72,000 left to pay on my own house. How do I go about tacking the £14,000 onto my own mortgage and swapping houses so she lives in my place mortgage free and I have her house with an increased mortgage? (Bonus points for a super easy fix for all this!)
posted by aqueousdan at 11:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Language school in Beijing needs business model advice.

We have an idea to create a paid membership site based around short educational videos. We have lots of supplementary materials (PDF's e.t.c) to go with each video. Our question is how much should we give away for free? Any experience with paid membership sites based around a freemmium model would be greatly appreciated. Thanks
posted by tjabeijing at 10:04 PM PST - 3 comments

Self-Perpetuating Hierarchy

I saw an incredibly concise quote floating around social media a few weeks back that described how hierarchy becomes self-perpetuating. The gist of it was that those at the top of a hierarchy deprive those below them of the practice required to conceptualize and implement their own plans, and then turn around and justify their position by pointing out how incapable their subordinates have become. I'm almost certain the person quoted was female, and I'm fairly sure she was a social sciences academic, but may have been an activist of some stripe.
posted by wobdev at 9:32 PM PST - 1 comment

Dear Santa, I can explain....

Help me write clever holiday cards. [more inside]
posted by msali at 8:00 PM PST - 5 comments

Where to donate / sell specific items in Atlanta?

I have inherited multiple generations of household items that I would like to donate to the best possible recipients in Atlanta or sell if there is a market for these items. [more inside]
posted by Frank Grimes at 7:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Shoe repair while you wait in Manhattan?

I'm visiting Manhattan for a few days, and only have one pair of shoes. The stitching on one side has started to come apart, but I really like these shoes. I'd like to get them repaired, and not buy a new pair. Is there anywhere I can get my shoes repaired while I wait? If it helps, I'll be in the upper west side.
posted by Philosopher Dirtbike at 7:30 PM PST - 2 comments

Holes in the wall, concrete behind drywall, shelving disaster.. help!

I'm trying to put up shelves on a wall that, I believe, is drywall over concrete. I made holes for plastic anchors, but the drywall part isn't deep enough for them to fit. Help, I'm about as handy as the two I have at the of my arms! [more inside]
posted by cacofonie at 7:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Is this anaphylaxis?

Several times in the past 2 years, my husband has had episodes of skin redness. He also seemed oddly drunk. He's already promised me he'll make an appointment with our doctor about it, but I'm curious what questions he should be asking and what precautions we should take. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:11 PM PST - 15 comments

Why would remaining silent "harm your defence" in the UK?

Was just watching a UK mystery-crime show when one of the cops recited the right-to-silence statement, which includes the phrase You do not have to say anything. But it may harm your defence if you do not mention when questioned something which you later rely on in court. Anything you do say may be given in evidence. This seems backwards to the law in the States where nothing you say to the police is useful for your defense. I'm curious about the legal circumstances under which answering police questions would benefit the accused. [more inside]
posted by Deathalicious at 6:35 PM PST - 18 comments

How can I look more "tough"?

I'd like to incorporate a bit more edginess into my work look (I work in a creative field, and as a lady, I want to project a bit less sweetness and a bit more edge). What are some ways I can do this? Open to any appearance-related suggestion-- clothing, hair, makeup, accessories, etc.-- with the exception of satanic face tattoos. [more inside]
posted by enzymatic at 6:33 PM PST - 36 comments

immaculate conception: hermit crab style

A weird thing happened with our hermit crab(s). We started with two, one died, but now we have two again! [more inside]
posted by kirst27 at 6:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Getting over a love and hate relationship with a womanizer

I dated a guy, on and off, for more than two years... He didn't commit and even slept with other women while he was sleeping with me. I still loved him but hated him at the same time. I tried to get my revenge but I don't know what to feel anymore. [more inside]
posted by sedulous at 6:13 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me become a bomb-ass hip-hop dancer in New York City!

Where do you find great hip-hop dance classes in NYC? I have never taken a dance class before. I am interested in private instruction or intimate classes (NOT a gym class...). I would like to learn as quickly as possible, in a structured way. I don't expect to go from 0-60 overnight, but I will put in some serious work. I tend to prefer methodical approaches to learning new skills with clear goals. I'm most interested in hearing about personal experiences and recommendations.
posted by yaymukund at 6:09 PM PST - 1 comment

Teach me the piano.

I have loads of free time and would really like to use it in a positive way. I want to be more musical and have always been attracted to the piano. I spent a few years in middle school band playing the tromobne but haven't done anything musical since (I'm 27). I've been pondering the idea of buying a keyboard and searching for some software or resources for self-learning. Does anyone have any good recommendations for a young adult who wants to learn the piano?
posted by sewellcm at 6:08 PM PST - 9 comments

What's that essay about hearing "finger fucking" in Blondie's "Rapture?"

Back in the 1980s, when I was an impressionable lad, I read an essay in which the author remembered a friend of his insisting that Debbie Harry sang a lyric that included "finger-fucking" in the hit song "Rapture." I remembered this as appearing in Stephen King's book Danse Macabre, but I just checked the e-book edition and it's not there — and it doesn't really fit with the mission of Danse Macabre, anyway. Do you know where this essay appeared? [more inside]
posted by Mothlight at 5:37 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me name/make my playlist!

I'm putting together a new playlist and so far have added Drake's Hold on, We're Going Home and Lady Gaga's Do What U Want. I need help coming up with a better name than "That SOUND" and finding more songs to fill it. [more inside]
posted by mikeweeney at 5:21 PM PST - 2 comments

What was supposedly in these jars? Please translate the labels?

I bought eighteen apothecary jars at a recent auction. They were from the set of Total Recall, and some of them still have labels on them. I'm not sure what language it's in, and I'm curious about whether the "herbs" in them had the names of anything real, or if someone just made stuff up for the movies. Have a look at these three, for instance, and please let me know if you can translate? (The middle label may now be upside down at this point.) Thanks, in hopes of satisfying my curiosity.
posted by peagood at 5:13 PM PST - 6 comments

DIY ombre dye velvet curtains?

I bought a pair of very hefty velvet curtains and am wondering whether or not it is possible to ombre dye the bases of them with bleach... this is soooorta the look I am going for, and the curtains are dark green and 9' long. I don't want to ruin them, they are very nice curtains... how well does velvet bleach? Thanks for any and all suggestions!
posted by qzar at 5:08 PM PST - 8 comments

dirty backpacker seeks employment

I'm currently traveling outside the us and trying to line up a job for when I get home in January. Help me succeed. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 4:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Best digital photo frame - easily adding pics via iPad?

Any photo frames out there easily allow adding of photos via an iPad? [more inside]
posted by peripatew at 4:32 PM PST - 3 comments

It's all downhill...

How do you make sure your kids have a good time sledding? [more inside]
posted by Sublimity at 4:30 PM PST - 32 comments

I'm slow, lethargic, unproductive, dirty, messy - but it's just me

I'm generally a very, very messy girl. It's really cramping on my style and how I feel about myself. I feel pretty close to the people on Hoarders when I really let myself go (which happens when my mother doesn't get on my case every week)... I just simply have no energy or motivation to cleaning my room. My poor mother has no idea why I am the way I am. I also do NOTHING over the weekend. If I'm at home for a break, I have an insanely hard time getting anything done, doing ANYTHING productive. I do EVERYTHING last minute. It's insane, stressful, horrid. I have a hard time following through on anything important, any big projects on a long-term basis. While I have some successes (doing decently at school, have cultivated some cool hobbies, have had some great experiences, have learned a lot, etc) I think I'm reaching about 30% of my potential. I have some sneaking suspicions why I'm this way, but how do I change this? [more inside]
posted by rhythm_queen at 4:28 PM PST - 48 comments

Japanese/Korean food for the Chinese home cook?

Reasonably decent Chinese home cook would like to venture into Japanese and/or Korean cuisine. I'd appreciate help on (1) good cookbooks, (2) pantry stocking and (3) choice of cuisine! [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 4:04 PM PST - 17 comments

Seeing a play at Cort Theater in New York - What seats should I get?

I'm planning on going to see Patrick Stewart and Ian Mckellen do Waiting for Godot (AMAZING!). The tickets are a lot, from $100-300. Because it's already that much, it would really stink to get some of the cheaper tickets and be dissatisfied with them. Can you tell me which tickets to buy? Seating chart inside. [more inside]
posted by Buckt at 3:53 PM PST - 4 comments

What's a good gift for a parent and child on the go?

Over the next year, my friend will be doing a lot of air travel with her one-year-old child in tow. What are some useful products that will make the whole airport/airplane process easier for both of them?
posted by Rora at 3:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Definitive book for Doing Things?

Is there a definitive activity book? Sort of like a cookbook, but for Activities To Do? [more inside]
posted by aniola at 3:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Stumped on this Sudoku

I've been stuck on this Sudoku for weeks. What's the next step? [more inside]
posted by johnofjack at 3:25 PM PST - 14 comments

What advert is this?

Looking for a TV advert where a woman is walking through the woods surrounded by cute woodland animals in the style of Snow White. She ends up leading the animals into a trap. (I think).
posted by iamsuper at 2:53 PM PST - 2 comments

Novels about entering middle age?

Can you recommend fiction books that feature a main character who is entering middle age and is evaluating his or her life so far, and what direction their life should take? [more inside]
posted by mark7570 at 2:18 PM PST - 27 comments

Please identify this trailer music.

The UK trailer for the French film Les infidèles has a piece of music about thirty-five seconds in. Does anyone know the artist and title? The hearable lyrics are "I see you watchin the way that I walk, I know you like it the way that I talk..." which seem impervious to Googling and Midomi doesn't recognise it.
posted by feelinglistless at 1:59 PM PST - 4 comments

Desoerately Seeking info on Painting of Two Butterflies Dancing on Stage

Once, I saw in an art book a reproduction of a beautiful drawing of two butterflies dancing and stamping on a theatre stage, the curtains pulled apart behind them. I've been looking for this drawing , I don't even know who the artist is. Perhaps Dufy? Thanks!
posted by laurah at 1:40 PM PST - 2 comments

In search of decadent, divisible, freezable recipes

I’m looking for a specific type of recipe that will hit that right note of yummy hearty comfort food AND that I can make a decent quantity of so I can freeze the leftovers in one-serving containers for nights when I don’t feel like cooking and really shouldn’t order/eat out. I’m looking for stuff that is decadent and enticing enough to persuade me that I’ll feel just as “treated” as if I’d gone out. [more inside]
posted by hapax_legomenon at 1:31 PM PST - 28 comments

Immigration to Europe, preferably Nordic, without a Bachelor's degree?

Best way for a moderately successful Canadian tech entrepreneur without a degree to emigrate to Europe? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Your experience with solar power

We're seriously contemplating installing a PV system on our roof. Any experience you've had with this process would be most appreciated. [more inside]
posted by Capri at 12:58 PM PST - 8 comments

Trying to find an artist...

I'm trying to find the artist who made this painting. I purchased the painting in Orta San Giulio, Italy, about 5 years ago. The signature says "Bertocchi" although it may say "Beitocchi". The painting came in a larger frame, I think I spent about $200 for it, however it may have been slightly more. Would like to get more works by this artist on this location. Thanks!
posted by Farce_First at 12:49 PM PST - 2 comments

Space Jam II

My jam did the thing again -- it levitated in the jar overnight. I took a photo this time. I'm asking again in the hopes that someone new may have a definitive answer, as I'd like to know for sure if this means the jam is now inedible. [more inside]
posted by (alice) at 12:07 PM PST - 34 comments

Help me get my jam on! (Because I can-can-can!)

This year for Christmas, I want to make jam, specifically this strawberry-grapefruit marmalade. But I've never canned anything in my life! Specific questions inside. [more inside]
posted by Weeping_angel at 11:59 AM PST - 7 comments

How safe is Clinton Hill, Brooklyn?

I've been living in Brooklyn Heights for two years. It's expensive and kind of boring, but definitely very safe. I'm moving soon and found a place I love in Clinton Hill close to Pratt. I love the beautiful architecture and artsy vibe. I was ready to sign a year's lease but then I did a bit of googling and found out that Clinton Hill and Fort Greene were found to be the 6th most dangerous neighborhood in NYC. Is Clinton Hill really that dangerous? I am a 95 pound woman in my 20s, not super street smart, but familiar with the Subway and Brooklyn in general. Is moving to Clinton Hill a bad idea? Am I doomed to moving to Park Slope instead just to be safe? Will I be okay in Clinton Hill as long as I don't walk home alone at midnight - which I do in Brooklyn Heights now? Or conversely, is it on the dangerous level of not walking alone any time after dark?
posted by anonymous at 11:55 AM PST - 14 comments

What is the likelihood we picked up worms from our pets?

Our dog had tape worms several weeks ago. Presumably she got them from raw pork fat she got out of the garbage overnight. We gave her medication as prescribed by the vet and they cleared up quickly. We just noticed several small worms sticking to the area around our cat's butt. [more inside]
posted by wansac at 11:53 AM PST - 8 comments

A Christmas present for my sister who is travelling in Asia

I am trying to find a great Christmas present for my sister. This year there are complications. [more inside]
posted by Laura_J at 11:52 AM PST - 5 comments

Is "tee tee" for pee a regional or ethnic thing?

Is "tee-tee" for urination a regional or ethnic thing? [more inside]
posted by vincele at 11:49 AM PST - 37 comments

Gold leaf stuck on cat eyeball

My new hobby is gilding things and now the cat has a big gold leaf stuck to her eyeball. How bad is it for the cat? Will it just go away by itself?
posted by uandt at 11:29 AM PST - 14 comments

This feels like Iron Potluck

My office does everything-but-the-bird potluck for Thanksgiving, with prizes in each category. But every year I kind of end up punting to something dumb because we have some limitations. I want to impress this year. [more inside]
posted by Lyn Never at 10:56 AM PST - 14 comments

Days of wine and oxtails...

What's the best wine to use to cook oxtails? According to the recipe, I should"use a wine that [I'd] enjoy drinking." Ah, but I enjoy drinking a lot of different kinds of wine. I've googled and looked at previous AskMes, but all I really get are suggestions on what to pair with beefy dishes. Is that what I should be using to cook with, too?
posted by LynnDee at 10:30 AM PST - 12 comments

How do I get into the field of Human Resources?

I am currently a program assistant in banking, but I am considering trying to get into HR. How can I successfully achieve this goal? (details inside) [more inside]
posted by aka_anon at 10:15 AM PST - 6 comments

Short, brilliant books on management?

My software management roll is expanding, looking for those rare, insightful, better than average books on the subject. [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 7:27 AM PST - 9 comments

Can you have a mini-seizure due to food blocking your airway?

So I was just eating some hummus on crackers while doing something else, felt a clump of hummus get lodged in my throat, felt briefly dizzy, then a kind of blackout for about five seconds. Came to, my trackball has been knocked off the desk. I otherwise feel 100% okay. What just happened? [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 6:31 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me find volunteer work for theater gigs in Philly.

For reasons related to an interest in playwriting, I want to volunteer for Philly theater companies. I'll do anything as long as it is related to the theater and in the company of other theater folks. THE BIG CHALLENGE: I'm a wheelchair user. What is the best way to approach this looking-for-volunteer work situation?
posted by angrycat at 6:30 AM PST - 5 comments

I want a copy of the audio guide in the Forbidden City

The Forbidden City has a cool self-guided audio tour. How can I get the audio track? [more inside]
posted by johnnybeggs at 5:01 AM PST - 1 comment

How to make a ring with a certain image

I've been googling and googling different ways to make rings, but I can't find precisely what I'm looking for. I have an image that I'd like to use to make a ring with a simple band. I want to know how to treat/preserve/protect the image so I can wear it frequently and also how to turn it into a ring. A plain wire-type band is fine with me. Adjustable size is ideal, but a fixed one would work too. Does anybody either know how to do this or know of a resource that would be helpful? I think this is enough information, but feel free to ask if you have other questions. Thank you!
posted by mermaidcafe at 2:43 AM PST - 8 comments

Substitute Philippines telephone carrier SIM for my AT&T SIM in Ipad 3

I purchased an iPad (3rd generation) with AT&T SIM in Dallas in 2012. I am now living in Philippines and would like to use the device's comms capability with a Philipppines carrier. However, I have tried simply switching the AT&T SIM with one from the Philippines carrier, GLOBE. [more inside]
posted by lometogo at 2:27 AM PST - 6 comments

November 16

What are some non-ideological resources related to gender issues?

I've personally found that the vast majority of blogs or discussion groups on gender issues (both feminist and MRA) are either too extreme or too ideological. For example, while I am generally opposed to affirmative action (but might consider it allowable in extreme circumstances), I'd love to debate someone who generally supports it, but who is willing to consider the possibility that they may be wrong. Or it would be nice to read an article about the wage gap where the writer isn't trying to either maximise or minimise it, but actually discover what the gap is and what causes there are What are some good moderate and non-ideological resources? Try to keep in mind, that what a non-feminist, non-MRA like me considers moderate is obviously going to be different from what a feminist or MRA considers to be moderate
posted by casebash at 9:51 PM PST - 18 comments

I love you to the Moon and back / I love you to the Stars and beyond

What are the top space / space exploration achievements for 2013? [more inside]
posted by Mike Mongo at 9:42 PM PST - 8 comments

Take my husband, please.

Calling all the comedy writers of MetaFilter! Mr. BlahLaLa have a low-key but long-running marital dispute. I've decided that I need some snappy one-liners to throw at him the next time this happens. Give them to me? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 9:39 PM PST - 31 comments

Types of Defects in Vision

When I was around 8 years old, I would get headaches if I watched TV for more than an hour or so. My mother took my to the optometrist and I was given an Rx for glasses that were supposed to make my eyes "aline correctly". What is the technical term for the type of vision defect I was suffering from? [more inside]
posted by 517 at 9:22 PM PST - 1 comment

Scooter safety

What should I be aware of in terms of safely riding a small scooter (150cc) in the dark on icy city roads, with extra baggage? [more inside]
posted by Rainflower at 8:49 PM PST - 28 comments

What is it like to own an old-ish farm property with a pond and stable?

I'm currently on the market for a house, and have made a critical error in my house hunting quest - I've fallen in love with a house - which is a 1970s era home with stables, a horse paddock, and a pond. I have thus lost the ability to be objective in my assessment of said house, and so I turn to you, AskMe…. [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 8:04 PM PST - 53 comments

Why am I so tired?

For the last several weeks, I've been very tired and prone to napping during the day. This doesn't seem to affect my ability to fall asleep at night. Before you suggest sleep apnea: yep, I have it. I use my CPAP as directed - I breathe so much better with it on that it's no hassle for me to use it (even during my frequent naps). More details below: [more inside]
posted by rikhei at 8:02 PM PST - 13 comments

Smallest border on tablet

What is the tablet with the smallest border? Are there any where the screen goes all the way to the edge?
posted by meech at 8:02 PM PST - 4 comments

What sci fi story had an assistant trapped in a prof's simluation?

I remember reading a seminal short story notable for raising ethical issues about simulated consciousness, but I can't recall the title or author. I believe a group of researchers were trapped in the simulation, being used to draft papers for the Professor. [more inside]
posted by brownbat at 7:49 PM PST - 7 comments

Best free antivirus software in 2013?

This was last asked in 2011, and things can change a lot over 2 years. In your experience, what is the best (free) way to protect one's PC? Ideally, it would use native system dialogs, not hog the CPU, and respect users by not constantly attempting to up-sell.
posted by anemone of the state at 6:53 PM PST - 23 comments

How do you get over someone who loves you and still leaves you

There's a lot of advice out there for getting over someone but I can't wrap my head around being left unexpectedly when I still feel loved. First time being broken up with at 30 doesn't help either... [more inside]
posted by Valkyrie21 at 5:47 PM PST - 29 comments

How do I include tethering in my AT&T order?

In spring of 2014 I will be getting an iPhone 5S. I cannot figure out how to get a plan that includes tethering so I can generate wifi for my non-cellular iPad mini. What will I need to do to activate that during my order (I am switching from Verizon to AT&T) and how do I find out how much it will cost in addition to my unlimited talk/text plus XGB of data? I have already contacted customer support and they have given me the same unhelpful stuff that's on the AT&T website.
posted by These Birds of a Feather at 4:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Simple meals, low sodium, one skillet

What are some tasty low sodium meals I can make in a skillet? [more inside]
posted by graymouser at 4:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Samsung 3 or 4 OR the Iphone 5s

I need a mobile phone for work and am debating, help me choose please [more inside]
posted by ladoo at 3:59 PM PST - 12 comments

How to troubleshoot the phones in my house.

I'm looking for pointers for troubleshooting the phones in our house. They seem to have been installed by Cheech and Chong and appear to be wired in series: one to the next. However, some work and some do not. [more inside]
posted by jquinby at 3:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Do I go to my stepson's wedding if I don't support it?

Do I go to my barely 18 year old stepson's wedding if I don't support the reasons and believe it to be a huge mistake? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:00 PM PST - 81 comments

to authenticate a lie

Is there a word that means to corroborate a lie? For example if one person says the sky is green and then another person confirms that they sky is green. Or is there a legal term for this as well in the sense of lying about statutes?
posted by skwint at 2:50 PM PST - 14 comments

I need to share this space somehow...

I like my housemates but hate sharing the kitchen with them. This is not good for housemate relationships. I can't move out. What can I do to mitigate things in the mean time? [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated at 2:34 PM PST - 14 comments

The alternative is removing either the dashboard or my knees...

I really want to have something small and sporty but I've just had my heart broken by discovering i'm too tall for the MR2, MX5 and GT86. Is there anything available in the UK that I will be able to drive? [more inside]
posted by sodium lights the horizon at 2:18 PM PST - 17 comments

Whom should I ask for a letter of recommendation?

I'm a liberal arts major who wants to study Nutrition Science. I know that a letter of recommendation from a community college teacher generally doesn't carry as much weight as a letter from someone teaching at a university. Unfortunately, I have only taken science classes at the community college level. Is my case an exception? [more inside]
posted by aphorist at 1:52 PM PST - 10 comments

Please help me find a wellness escape where I can recover (East Coast)

One of my oldest friends just died and I'm feeling serious Crohn's pain starting to creep up again, threatening my remission. Everything in my life right now is stressful and exhausting, and I know that if I do nothing I will have a full-bore flair on my hands by thanksgiving. I need help finding a health resort/ wellness retreat on the East Coast - optimally between DC and Boston. My wealthy uncle says money is no object, so my only real stipulation is somewhere that isn't too scary/isolated for a young woman alone. [more inside]
posted by howgenerica at 1:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Movie with a twist in a very modern house on the coast

What's that James Bond style cinema movie, where at the end hero and heroin are inside a very modern house on the coast, overlooking the ocean? The house might be surrounded by mediterranean pine trees. The two are followed and discovered by a team of police or similar, and then follows some kind of a twist, a pun, a surprise. Sorry, can't even remember what that is. Thank you!
posted by oxit at 12:30 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I get used to not having an item I loved?

My house was burglarized this week and I'm taking it surprisingly well. This isn't my first time having my place broken and entered, and I know I'll eventually start feeling safe here again. But one thing that was stolen had profound sentimental value, and I feel like I'm in a bit of denial and trying to understand how to heal. [more inside]
posted by town of cats at 12:21 PM PST - 15 comments

What to do about $600 glasses?

I got a new pair of glasses. Hated them (exaggerated my baby face). Returned them and got another pair. Hated them too (too severe, made me look like a mean old witch). Yes, I know this makes it seem like I'm the problem, but there aren't a lot of glasses available in my width to choose from, plus the styles I prefer just weren't in the stores at the time. [more inside]
posted by serena15221 at 12:14 PM PST - 16 comments

Variations on cat pee + carpet + pulling out my hair

We recently discovered that my cat has been peeing consistently on the carpeted floor behind a bookcase in our rental apartment. The bookcase is ruined, but what can we do about the carpet to keep our security deposit bleeding to a minimum? [more inside]
posted by wintersonata9 at 11:21 AM PST - 9 comments

Specific places for my fiance to apply at

So my fiance is very smart, hardworking, great with people, courteous, etc and so forth. He's currently working as a lead teller at a large banking corporation. He's been there for a while, and the management staff over him have all rotated and gone from being pretty good managers to people that make working there frankly awful for him. He of course wants to leave, but both of our experience has been that looking at places that post lots of classifieds from different sources is that you may as well mail your application to the void. SO! What are your recommendations for specific employers whose job postings we should keep an eye on? [more inside]
posted by kavasa at 11:04 AM PST - 9 comments

Tech that can run Adobe Suite, that is cheap, sturdy, and in bulk?

I need recommendations for a all in one desktop or study laptop that can run the Adobe Suite (not the newest in the creative cloud) for a new proposed Digital Arts course. These would purely need to run Photoshop, Illustrator - some sort of video editing program, and potentially a light game design program. (Doesn't need to be Flash) I know about different specs needed but am lost how to find what would work best and for 32+ students in one classroom. This would be a huge investment for the High School so if I can quote under 30,000 for all the new technology it would be more likely considered. [more inside]
posted by mariecheri at 10:59 AM PST - 14 comments

I Need a Good Search Box

I have a website that has 50 pages, each containing the text of a different US state constitution. I want a search box that gives me the option to search all 50 constitutions at once (Entire Site) for all mentions of that term OR lets me search a single constitution (Alabama) for all mentions of that term. The box I'm currently using only allows one result of the term per constitution. So the entire site search give a max of 50 results, and a single state search gives a max of 1 result. And Google Custom Search freezes. Do I have to build one or is one available commercially that I can customize and plug in?
posted by CollectiveMind at 10:44 AM PST - 6 comments

Debit card compromised: what should I do besides dealing with my bank?

There was a fraudulent online charge on my debit card which I'm dealing with disputing with my bank. What passwords should I be changing or other tactics now to protect myself and the new card I'll be getting soon?
posted by dahliachewswell at 10:21 AM PST - 9 comments

How should I store my grandmother's fancy table?

I have a very old, fancy-seeming wooden dining table with lots of scrollwork around the edge, etc, that I need to store. The legs are detachable, giving me a 6ft by 4ft by 1ft (or so) oval tabletop with real pretty wood surfaces. I have no idea how she kept it in such good shape for longer than my whole life. [more inside]
posted by doteatop at 10:07 AM PST - 5 comments

Want to chomp some vegan food.

You're vegan? Tell me, what delicious things did you eat this week? [more inside]
posted by mibo at 9:32 AM PST - 19 comments

Can you help me understand this sign of mourning I saw in Honduras?

When I was living in Honduras, I noticed that when a person died, the family would hang up a large piece of black fabric outside of their house or in their window. This banner would be cut into a shape that reminded me of a bow tie. This might be a long shot, but does anyone know what the history is behind this tradition? [more inside]
posted by Paper rabies at 9:07 AM PST - 7 comments

Working as a petsitter

For years I have wanted to be a professional petsitter. Right now I work 30 hrs./week in an office. I would do it the "right way," getting insured, learning pet CPR, paying self-employment taxes, etc. Ideally it would be my main job, along with maybe freelance writing on the side (which I have done). Have you done this? Is it possible to make an OK living doing this? I have a lot of marketing experience and animal-related contacts, so that will help.
posted by trillian at 7:31 AM PST - 15 comments

How much should potential visitors to Israel be worried about polio?

My family has planned, but have not purchased plane tickets for, a trip to see relatives in Israel a couple of months from now. We are concerned about the presence of wild polio virus there, apparently imported from Syria. The CDC is recommending that adults get a booster dose of IPV (the "killed" virus used in the countries, like the US, where polio infection has been essentially eradicated) and that kids are up to date with our vaccination; for our 3-year-old, this would mean getting her last dose of IPV early (though not so early as to violate any guidelines.) But Israeli children are getting OPV, the live vaccine. If I understand correctly, IPV is effective at preventing you from actually getting paralytic polio, but it does not prevent asymptomatic infection with poliovirus. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:25 AM PST - 6 comments

Ideas for a low powered home server running Linux...

I'm not going to be doing much with this. I already have a NAS so this won't be a file server. I just want it to do a few things such as XBMC, OpenVPN server, Squeezebox server, etc. It's going to be on 24/7, and I don't want it to use much power. Since it is isn't going to be doing too much, I don't want too spend much. I tried the Raspberry Pi, but it doesn't have enough power. It can run one of these applications perfectly, but it can't run much more at the same time. Same with an old PogoPlug. I was thinking about one of these: Beaglebone Black? CubieTruck? An old Dell Mini 9? If anyone has any ideas or can tell me about their low powered/low cost server, I'd appreciate it.
posted by toddst at 6:49 AM PST - 18 comments

How high do backgammon stakes get?

In my limited experience, the doubling cube gets to 2 frequently, 4 rarely, and 8 not at all. Among high-level players (for some definition of high-level), how many doubles have ever occurred in a single game? Also, given that the stake of "1" occurs (at least briefly) in every game and the stake of "64" almost never, why is the unit space on the die labeled "64"? [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 6:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Break or Break Up?

My boyfriend of two years has given me the silent treatment for a week now. [more inside]
posted by showmetheway at 6:14 AM PST - 81 comments

Gift for a camping enthusiast

My aunt is a big camper. And we're talking serious wilderness mountain/desert camping, not loading up the RV for a weekend. She shops regularly for gear and thus has most of the basic things. I need to get a Christmas present for her. What are some objects that serious campers/hikers can never have too many or too much of? Alternately, what would make a good gift as an object that is more attractive or otherwise superior to the basic utility version? (I'm thinking here of like a really good folding knife, but I am purely spitballing here.) Price range would be ~$50.
posted by Scattercat at 5:33 AM PST - 28 comments

A is for Autopsy

My soon-to-be-17-year-old niece is interested in pursuing forensic science as a career. What are the best books on the subject that would both entertain and inform her? Fiction and non-fiction suggestions are welcome.
posted by Paris Elk at 4:39 AM PST - 14 comments

Which Christian Saint said his teachings had been worthless.

I recall that there was a famous Christian Saint who had some type of mystical experience towards the end of his life, said something to the effect that all his previous work had been worthless and did not speak again until his death. Does anyone know who this was?
posted by nickji at 2:45 AM PST - 4 comments

November 15

LDRs: Tales and travails

Have you been in an LDR? What worked, what didn't, and what's your analysis of the outcome? I'm in an LDR now (after 1.5 years of togetherness and half that cohabitating) and I'm struggling for a number of reasons. Your thoughts/experience/advice/et cetera welcomed. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 10:25 PM PST - 12 comments

Identify this Chrysalis

Saw this chrysalis on an old wooden picture frame inside a house. Would love to know what's going to emerge from this this thing. Description and Links to photos inside. [more inside]
posted by samoa at 9:35 PM PST - 7 comments

Can you teach me how to winter?

I've spent my entire life (with little exception) between Houston and Atlanta, latitudinally speaking, and moved to Seattle this summer. I don't really know what I'm supposed to be wearing to best handle the winter. [more inside]
posted by Precision at 9:34 PM PST - 20 comments

Samsung NC20 Laptop Slow, Malware--Should I just reinstall Windows?

I have a Samsung NC20 laptop that I bought 4 or 5 years ago. It runs Windows XP and has some sort of malware, IRP Hook, that AVG has found but cannot remove. In addition, it runs significantly slower than I would like, and cannot play most videos at all--the sound plays fine, but the image just staggers and jumps. [more inside]
posted by Slinga at 8:17 PM PST - 10 comments

What is the best way to back up photos and videos?

What is a good place to back up photos and videos from several different devices into one shared place? [more inside]
posted by echo0720 at 7:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Who is this?

Who is the guy being interviewed by Fuse in Washington Square Park last week? I *think* I know, but would like some outside opinions...
posted by blaneyphoto at 7:03 PM PST - 13 comments

I was fired after six weeks. Do I tell potential employers?

What started off as a good relationship with my manager soured after I was not living up to his expectations. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:41 PM PST - 15 comments

Engagement rings

I'm trying to develop my taste in engagement rings, but nothing feels right. Help me figure out what I want. [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 6:23 PM PST - 27 comments

Find me the best martial arts choreography of the last 8 years

Okay, so I used to share a house with this guy who would often bring home lots of good Asian cinema (of all sorts, but this question is about martial arts movies), but I moved across the country back in 2005 and I've been getting a hankering for some well-choreographed fighting. I haven't been paying attention to what's come out lately, so I don't know much of what's out there. So I'm looking for the best and cleverest fight choreography from Asian cinema, from 2005 on. [more inside]
posted by ErWenn at 6:20 PM PST - 14 comments

How to frame a poster...

Is 31.5 inches by 23.5 inches a common frame size? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 6:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Husbands/Partners of a Surrogate Mom: Tell me your journey/thoughts

If your wife/partner was a surrogate, can you give me some more info? Feelings, type of surrogacy, was it worth it, how was your wife, ANYTHING else useful. Bonus points if you had kids during surrogacy. [more inside]
posted by NotSoSimple at 5:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Funny books for me

Read Pratchet. Read Adams, Asprin. What next? [more inside]
posted by Jacen at 5:08 PM PST - 43 comments

What do you wish you knew when you first started cooking?

I recently took the step from instant meals and dining out to to living a little more health-consciously by making my own meals. Although my creations thus far have all been edible, I get the feeling that I am making a lot of novice mistakes that I would be able to correct more quickly if I had someone more experienced guiding me. To this end I come to you, oh wise MeFites; please share with me a list of things you wish you knew or realized when you started out cooking. (Or, mistakes you used to make that made you much better when you fixed). [more inside]
posted by Kamelot123 at 4:37 PM PST - 57 comments

Navigating after the apocalypse

If Earth-based command centers ceased functioning tomorrow, how long would the GPS system remain usable? [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 4:34 PM PST - 4 comments

Charles Dickens -- where to start?

I've read A Christmas Carol, and I sure love it, more often than not I read it on Christmas Day each year. But that's it for me. Where to start on any of these following titles: A Tale of Two Cities. Bleak House. David Copperfield. Great Expectations. Nicholas Nickelby. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 4:20 PM PST - 17 comments

Not disciplining 7-y.o. boy for publicly battering younger girl - WTF?

While at a small family gathering in our friends' home, my coworker's 7-year-old son suddenly grabbed a 4-year-old girl, raised her up into the air over his head, and body-slammed her onto the living room floor -- in full and complete view of 8 parents, including both of his own. His parents never did or said anything to him about it that night, and we're all horrified. How do we get to a place of acceptance when folks make vastly different parenting choices than our own, and our kids see it? Details ... [more inside]
posted by hush at 4:08 PM PST - 58 comments

Those pesky hairs

Need recommendations for a battery-operated ear and nose hair trimmer whose noise level doesn't cause me to become hard of hearing! [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 4:06 PM PST - 5 comments

How to Create and Place a Sign for Delivery People

Help me figure out how to make a permanent sign asking package deliverers to leave packages inside my front door (there's a vestibule, so the outermost door's unlocked). And where to put it! [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 3:39 PM PST - 17 comments

Gift for someone starting a new life overseas

I have a friend who is extremely social and environmental conscious. She has been an activist for most of her life not because she woke up one day and decide to be one, but because she sees where the need is and get busy. She is an Pediatric Nurse Practitioner who volunteered for a month duration in Haiti after earthquake hit in 2010. During her service at Haiti, she saw what she was doing was just a stop gap measure and not really in any way helping Haitian to better their medical service and delivery. So she came back and got busy with getting a master degree in Public Health. Now she got a job of a lifetime to go over to Rwanda for Partner's in Health to oversee and train nurses in 3 hospitals and 30 clinics. This assignment is indefinite, meaning she will be starting a brand new life. [more inside]
posted by gloturtle at 3:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Pittsburgh: Riding the choo choo with Daddy

What's fun around a Pittsburgh Light Rail stop for a 2.5-year-old? I'm taking my toddler-daughter for a ride on the train tomorrow. Last week we went to Dormont Park. What should we do this week? I haven't spent much time in the South Hills. (I'm looking to go South, not North - we know the North Side in-and-out) Meal suggestions also welcome!
posted by chickencoop at 2:59 PM PST - 3 comments

Advent Calendar Ideas Needed for Geeky Adult Male.

My husband is a big fan of Christmas so I would like to do him up an Advent calender to count down the days. I have the actual calender idea sorted, I am going to wrap each present in tissue paper and number them and hang them from a decorated branch that we hang our Christmas cards we get on. I am looking for smallish reasonably priced present ideas, say no bigger than say a paperback and around a few dollars for each present. He is a typical Geek guy, programmer by trade and loves his computer games, table top games and dungeons and dragons. I have thought of getting a pound of assorted dice from Amazon so he could have a few bundles of mixed dice, gaming themed mints and a few of his favourite candies, some bones figurines for different games but that gets me no where near 24 presents. So basically silly, fun, geeky, smallish, cheap things a guy would like, he's parents will be seeing the gifts so I'd like to avoid sexy things or "coupons for hugs" type things. Any and all ideas appreciated.
posted by wwax at 2:45 PM PST - 14 comments

Good online banks with fraud protection

I'm interested in switching to an online-only bank, but I want one that offers complete fraud protection. I am considering Ally Bank, but I can't tell from their website exactly what sort of coverage and reimbursement they offer. My current bank (B of A) watches my account for red flags and has been very good about immediately reimbursing me for any fraudulent purchases. It's happened about once a year when I use my debit card regularly, so I need to make sure I'm covered. I'm a student, so I don't have that much in a checking account to protect but every dollar counts.
posted by you're a kitty! at 2:27 PM PST - 7 comments

Can I use my old passport even though I've legally changed my name?

I was married a few years ago and subsequently changed my name. My DL says my married name. We are preparing for international travel early next year, and I'm wondering if I need to pay the $110 to get a new passport or if we can just put my maiden name on the plane ticket. I'm a US citizen... [more inside]
posted by ancient star at 1:53 PM PST - 12 comments

Increased fusion in the sun's core: How long to reach the surface?

If hydrogen fusion in the center of the sun suddenly increased by a factor of 10^3 to 10^10, how long would it take until the energy burst reaches the surface and is radiated away? As I understand it, energy is transfered via convection and radiation within the sun and may take tens of thousand of years until reaching the surface and being radiated away. Would this hold even when the energy flux is much bigger? [more inside]
posted by Triton at 1:41 PM PST - 8 comments

How to not get a panic attack during road test

I failed my road test 3 times. My driving instructors said I'm ready and I have years of experience but the day of the test I choke and freak out. [more inside]
posted by lifeonholidae at 1:14 PM PST - 14 comments

Shipping songs?

I'm looking for songs written from the perspective of someone who is expressing admiration for another couple (in a shipping sort of way). Any suggestions?
posted by ericbop at 1:10 PM PST - 18 comments

What kind of frog/toad will this tadpole be?

Asking for a friend. This tadpole was shipped to the pet store accidentally with some fish and she's taking it home with her. It's about 2-2.5 inches long.
posted by quiet coyote at 1:10 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I invest according to my ethics?

How can I find mutual funds to invest in that are inline with my ethics? For example I am vegan, liberal, pro-choice, feminist, not anti-gay, etc. To that end I'd like to not have companies that test on animals, engage in discrimination, are part of war effort, etc. Looking in my mutual funds there are some companies that I don't know about, and some that are sketchy like tobacco companies. [more inside]
posted by ridogi at 1:03 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I get over a platonic workplace crush?

I've had a platonic crush (aka squish) on a male co-worker for the past six months or so. Even though I'm a woman and we're both heterosexual, it is not in the least sexual. If we were men, it would be called a "man crush" or "bromance". (FWIW, I'm happily married, and he's happily engaged, both to people of the opposite sex.) It's not mutual. He sees me as a friend and colleague, while I idolize him, even though I'm aware of some of his flaws, including that his social skills aren't very good, and he occasionally does or says something that inadvertently hurts me (he wouldn't deliberately harm a fly), especially because he underestimates my professional competence. Anyway, I wish I didn't care what he thought of me. Any advice for getting over this crush, besides time and distance?
posted by anonymous at 12:44 PM PST - 7 comments

Massage Therapists Help Me NOT Be That Client

I get regular massages from my local massage-in-a-box store. I want to know what kind of things NOT to do so that I am not an annoying client. I'd also like to know how to best ask for certain treatments so they get done properly. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 12:39 PM PST - 13 comments

I'm looking for contractors for retaining wall repairs in Minneapolis.

I'm getting estimates for repairs to a retaining wall in south Minneapolis; the web's awash in listings, but I'm hoping that some MeFites have worked with and had good experiences with some contractors they could recommend. The wall in question is about 10 feet high and holding up my neighbor's yard, so this is more of a structural thing than a cosmetic thing.
posted by COBRA! at 11:40 AM PST - 0 comments

How do I learn to enjoy talking about myself more?

A while ago, I joined Meta specifically to ask this question. Well, I am happy to announce I am another AskMeta success story! Following a large amount of advice I received, I was more specific about my wants and needs and to cut a very long story short, my boyfriend proposed on my birthday a couple of weeks ago! I'm thrilled! The boy did good. He agreed he needed a kick up the bum and I really owe that to you guys! This brings me to my question, I am extraordinarily uncomfortable talking about myself for extended periods of time and being the centre of attention. [more inside]
posted by JenThePro at 11:16 AM PST - 15 comments

I need an excellent Thanksgiving dessert!

I need a Thanksgiving-related, autumn-inspired dessert to bake. I would like something with some manner of fall seasonings like ginger or cloves that will make the house smell like the holidays. I am not looking for pumpkin pie (other pumpkin recipes are welcome though). [more inside]
posted by Viola at 11:12 AM PST - 25 comments

Employment Attorney in Portland

How do you go about finding an attorney for someone who has just been fired? [more inside]
posted by repoman at 11:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Commercial kitchen space in London?

I am helping a friend to expand her London based bar snack business and seek commercial kitchen space to rent in London. [more inside]
posted by fray at 10:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Streaming Theater

I just learned that today is the premiere of "Waiting for Godot" with Ian McKellen and Patrick Stewart in New York at the Cort Theatre. I am a Beckett-Fan as well as Stewart/McKellen-Fan, but since I live in Europe, is there any possibility that I can watch the performance? Will it be recorded? I couldn't find recordings for past plays at that theatre,so I guess the chances are slim. Any ideas?
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 10:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Cancel my credit card?

I just got a call from my credit card company. it seems my card's number got compromised, along with about a million others. they strongly urge me to cancel the card and get a new one. this will be a major pain, as i have all sorts of accounts linked to the card for automatic billing. and, besides, isn't security their responsibility? because what if this happens next week and the week after? do we have to change numbers each time there's a breach? does anyone have any experience with a situation like this and how did you resolve it? thanks.
posted by holdenjordahl at 10:16 AM PST - 28 comments

What jobs were unique to the Renaissance era? And Colonial America?

Obviously innkeeper, bartender, tailor, etc. were jobs of both of those eras (and virtually all other eras, including our own.) But I am trying to figure out jobs that only existed in these two specific eras (Renaissance and Colonial). The sort of thing I am looking for: ie. specific jobs for specific eras: atilliators (who made crossbows in the middle ages); lamplighters; and "board boys" (who manually posted stock quotes in brokerages in the early 1900's. ) [more inside]
posted by tangyraspberry at 9:51 AM PST - 29 comments

Scatterbrained sadness. How to feel better about myself?

I've been having a hard time for the past few months. With what? Just being me! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:44 AM PST - 8 comments

Anyone know anything about buying a stair lift?

So, I'm getting progressively more disabled and looking at getting a stair lift. I have zero experience with stair lifts. Does anyone have any words of wisdom about buying one? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Really want to call this guy...but not sure if for friendship or dating.

We clicked and he seems super fun and I want to hang with him again [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:12 AM PST - 14 comments


What's an easy pie to make? I don't really cook or bake, but I have to make a pie for Thanksgiving because of reasons. [more inside]
posted by nooneyouknow at 9:02 AM PST - 58 comments

Differing Used HD Space Reports in OS X

According to Disk Utility, I have only 36 GB / 500 GB free, and it's been pretty full for a while. For the last year I've taken this at face value, but today I looked into it closer, and found that according to other applications (Disk Inventory X and JDiskReport), I apparently should have more like 200 GB free. How can I figure out what is using this extra space? [more inside]
posted by Yiggs at 8:54 AM PST - 20 comments

Spotify withdrawal woes

Is it possible to see the "ticker" of what friends are listening to in the Spotify web player? [more inside]
posted by aka burlap at 8:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Can you help me prepare for a planning job interview?

I have an interview for an urban planning job (yay me!), but I feel a little worried about the interview. [more inside]
posted by Hypnotic Chick at 8:36 AM PST - 3 comments

How can I give myself the best shot at getting into PA school?

I am 28, and will soon be setting out on the long journey of becoming a PA. I already have a bachelor's in another field, but I now need two years of science prereqs before I apply to PA schools. Should I go to my local community college for the prereqs (it'll be cheaper, and I'll have a better shot at getting top grades), or should I go to the more respectable, more expensive local university where straight A's will be harder to come by? In other words, what do you think admissions officers are more likely to value: excellent grades from a community college or the occasional B from a state university known for its medical school? [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 7:51 AM PST - 11 comments

Is there a mobile webcam that can stream video w/o WiFi?

I would like to put a streaming webcam on the front of a large piece of machinery as it goes about its daily business. The problem is that this piece of machinery will most likely be outside of WiFi range for the majority of its day. However, it will be within good cellphone/4G range. Are there webcams built to handle this kind of use? Any recommendations if so? (Or, potentially, could I just use a smartphone or something similar?)
posted by Peemster at 7:51 AM PST - 7 comments

Turkey on the Big Green Egg - Looking for kickass recipe

My aunt, uncles, cousins, grandma, and everyone else I know is coming to Thanksgiving this year, and they all love good food and my aunt and grandma may very well be the best cooks I've ever met. I am smoking a turkey on the Big Green Egg and I want it to knock their socks off. I've googled but what I've found doesn't give me any indication that the turkey is going to turn out GREAT. I need a great, great recipe. Anybody have one? I'd be forever indebted to you. Bonus question: anybody have an equally delicious bread pudding recipe?
posted by trandolph at 7:49 AM PST - 10 comments

Finding the essential episodes of multiple-season TV series.

I'm wondering if there is a website that builds lists of the essential episodes to watch in a given series in order to maintain story continuity and emotional investment. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 7:47 AM PST - 8 comments

Scotish Highland Day Hikes? in November?

So last time I was in the UK I asked about day hikes outside of London. This time, I'm looking for day hikes in the Scottish Highlands... and I'm even more overwhelmed. [more inside]
posted by larthegreat at 7:19 AM PST - 17 comments

Do doctors actually tell their patients they "cannot have children"?

In my life I've heard a number of stories from women who claim to have been told they could not have children... who then proceed to have children without intervention. Sometimes, this is an extremely welcome development, other times, very much the opposite. Saying something like "you will not be able to have children" with such certainty seems like an extremely irresponsible thing for a medical professional to say to a patient and so I have a bit of a hard time believing that doctors say it, at least in any case where it is at least physically possible for someone to conceive. [more inside]
posted by Feel the beat of the rhythm of the night at 6:37 AM PST - 47 comments

Saving water in the shower and at the toilet

I'm looking for ways to save water at home. We already have a water efficient dishwasher and washing machine, so I'm looking at the shower and toilets. I live in the US and own my house. Shower: * We waste a lot of water waiting for it to warm up. Is there something we could install so that the water is warm immediately? * What's the best low-volume shower head? * Strategies for an on/off switch at the shower head so we can wet down, shut off, soap, turn on to rinse? Toilets: * What's a good low-volume toilet that won't clog up? * Dual-Flush toilets (for when you do a number 1 or a number 2) Thanks!
posted by GernBlandston at 5:46 AM PST - 26 comments

How to consolidate, organize, and share tourism information?

I'm looking for smart ways to consolidate, organize, and share tourism information for people who visit me and for places that my partner and I might visit. [more inside]
posted by neushoorn at 2:04 AM PST - 8 comments

November 14

Can you translate what's written on these mysterious envelopes?

These two envelopes arrived in my office in the autumn of 2010. I've kept them around because they're neat-looking, and an interesting conversation piece. Can you translate into English what's written on them? They may be in Japanese or Chinese (?). [more inside]
posted by not_on_display at 9:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Am I actually an Aspie?

I'm a 45 year-old adult who has just been diagnosed with Asperger's Syndrome. At least, my counselor and my ex- both believe I have it. I don't believe I can be an Aspie because I am *phenomenally bad* with *both* computers *and* math (details on request). Are there Aspies like me?
posted by dr. zoom at 8:37 PM PST - 32 comments

O captain, fire of my loins!

What are some flattering address from classic literature? My two examples (and the extent of my list) are Walt Whitman's "O Captain! My captain!" and "...light of my life, fire of my loins!" from Lolita. Both are very fun things to call Mr. Grandysaur. BUT I WANT MORE. I'm looking for grandiose, recognizable, turns of phrase that I can use to address those that are worthy. The more ridiculous the better.
posted by Grandysaur at 7:04 PM PST - 40 comments

Furnaces Suck!

Whenever I change my furnace filter (approx every 60-90 days), it's always bent inwards towards the furnace fan. It's gotten significantly worse this year, and tonight when I tried to replace it, the filter was nearly sucked into the furnace. What causes this? Do I need to call for service? [more inside]
posted by magstheaxe at 6:44 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I help a battered friend out?

I have a younger friend, not very close, that was beaten up badly by her boyfriend. He went to jail on existing warrants and just got out. She hasn't answered his phone calls and has been walking past her restaurant with a friend, looking in as he does. She wants to come over until she finds a friend to stay with for tonight, since I live close by. She's young and I think has had bad incidences with the police before and won't talk to them. I want to help her, but she's not that close at all and more of a friend of a friend. I'd like to extradite myself from the situation as much as possible while still doing the right thing. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 6:38 PM PST - 14 comments

How do you eat green curry?

When you get a soupy rice dish like green curry, what is the intended way of eating it? Are you expected to have a big bowl of sauce at the end that you throw away?
posted by cgs at 6:28 PM PST - 22 comments

Conundrum about working out preferences

What can I do at the gym that would mimic Jillian Michael's 30 Day Shred? I like the idea of an intense, well-rounded program (abs, strength and cardio) that I can do every day, but I don't see myself bringing in my ipad to the gym and taking over a classroom. I tried this at home like you're supposed to but there aren't any suitable spaces in my apartment. I had a phase where I went to the gym and did the elliptical for awhile but I liked how this program was more well-rounded yet compact. Also I don't want to shell out for a trainer. Please advise..
posted by bleep at 6:20 PM PST - 11 comments

How to manufacture a version of something that already exists?

I would like to manufacture a table with these legs, but with a wood desk top. Where would I go to do such a thing? Most "prototype" manufacturers are for metal products, etc.
posted by uncannyslacks at 6:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Meet me in St. Louis, Meet me at a big screen movie theater

This December, I want to see the holiday movie Meet Me in St. Louis at movie theater. It needs to be on a weekend. It should be in a city served by Southwest Airlines. A beautiful revival theater would be awesome. [more inside]
posted by 26.2 at 5:53 PM PST - 5 comments

How to mend a broken heart after so many years?

There is this guy I've liked for the past four years. I'm 25 and he's 33. We were always good friends, very attracted to each other, but he always told me he never wanted a relationship, not just with me, but with anyone. But I always had very deep feelings for him, he was the first man I ever had sex with, and he cared for me a lot too; even got a little jealous when I had a boyfriend. Anyway, he's been seeing this girl for a few months that he told me tonight he's really serious about her. It's killing me. He said the reason me and him never got together was because of timing, our age difference, and the fact that we are at different stages in life. He said he sees a better match with her than with me. He said I'm amazing and it has nothing to do with me, but this whole scenario killed me. With me, it was casual hanging out, and with her, it's nice vacations,meeting his family, spending holidays together. He also came back to me once over the summer while they were broken up, but went back to her. It hurts so much to see him giving to someone else what I always wanted. How can I feel better? :(
posted by summertimesadness1988 at 5:52 PM PST - 31 comments

Traveling to Nicaragua in February. Costa Rica and other questions...

Looking for a particular kind of vacation in Nicaragua. If it isn't possible, hoping for some advice on the best way to Costa Rica. [more inside]
posted by lattiboy at 4:42 PM PST - 5 comments

Searching for a Lumix Li-ion Replacement Battery in Austin

I'm trying to find a replacement battery for my Panasonic Lumix camera in south Austin, TX. The camera is a relatively new model (DMC-FZ200), and I'm having a hard time finding local stores that might carry the battery in stock. The battery is a DMW-BLC12PP 7.2V, 1200mAh/8.7Wh Li-ion. No time for ordering, I need to find something and pick it up tonight. Thank you for your help!
posted by nickerbocker at 3:42 PM PST - 2 comments

What are the best film festivals for short films?

My friends made a handful of short films this year, and we'd like to send some of them out to various film festivals. Where should we submit? [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 3:23 PM PST - 11 comments

Which of these zillion things could be causing my thinning hair?

My hair has been thinning noticeably lately (I've noticed it in the past 2-3 months), but there are a bunch of things going on and I have no idea where to begin figuring out the probable cause. Short version: I have seborrheic dermatitis that's been particularly bothersome lately, I have PCOS (polycystic ovarian syndrome), I color treat my hair about once a year, and I've been under some stress. Long version under the cut. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:15 PM PST - 12 comments

Housemate money troubles

What is a fair way to divvy up finances when two people move out of a four-person share house? [more inside]
posted by lovedbymarylane at 3:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Is your school tax a line item on your property tax bill?

I am looking for examples of states or localities (in the US) where school tax payments are separate (either separate bills, or line items) from property tax bills. This is the case in NY State where the school tax bill is a separate bill. If anyone knows a comprehensive source on which states do and don't do this, that would be great. Otherwise your anecdotes as property tax payers in specific states will be helpful, even better if you know where this is explained on a state government website. I am trying to figure out where people know (as in NY) exactly how much money they are contributing to the local school system (or think they are, since they are also contributing to federal and other forms of school support).
posted by cushie at 2:34 PM PST - 21 comments

Songs about two women on the run?

I'm looking for songs about two women running away/hitting the road, preferably on the run from the law. [more inside]
posted by honey wheat at 2:25 PM PST - 15 comments

All the world's a or it didn't happen

Is there some sort of online repository where I can find photographs of the sets of Broadway productions? [more inside]
posted by BrianJ at 1:46 PM PST - 10 comments

Who is the executor?

A relative passed away this Summer who was the executor of an estate that was "finalized" 20 years ago. Now there are new assets found from the estate. Is the relative's surviving spouse the new executor? [more inside]
posted by Slothrop at 1:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Can you explain these comments on my credit rating?

I have a fairly good FICO rating, but according to the report, these two factors are negatively impacting my rating. Can you explain these to me and--more importantly--offer some advice on how I can improve them? 1. Proportion of loan balances to loan amounts is too high. 2. Length of time revolving accounts have been established.
posted by jackypaper at 1:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me make the most of a trip to China

I'm psyched because I'm planning to go on a volunteer trip to Guangdong, China in March. However, I'm going alone (will be meeting a group there) and I would like to do some brief independent travel while I'm in the country. More details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 1:22 PM PST - 11 comments

Should I still be looking for a new job?

I am working full time and making okay money. But I'm not satisfied with my salary or my commute. Should I keep looking or stay where I am for awhile so my resume doesn't look flaky? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 1:20 PM PST - 10 comments

Entering Data in Semi-Protected Google Spreadsheets

I work in a high school where we often want teachers to fill out a single Google spreadsheet with information about students in their homeroom class. [more inside]
posted by allison00 at 1:13 PM PST - 8 comments

Roadtrippin' in basically winter. Where to?

Imagine you're leaving New York City in a rental car. You have one week—November 30th through December 7th. You're first spending a few days with your Grandmother near Washington DC. Where would you go after that? [more inside]
posted by ulfberht at 1:10 PM PST - 6 comments

Running Every Day... What do I need to watch?

Basically, complete the following sentence: “Now that you’re exercising all the time, you should_______________________.” [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 12:58 PM PST - 33 comments

Recording video to PC

I have a PC that has a very nice external camera connected to it that I use for lecture capture, but I need software with more capabilities. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Silvertree at 12:26 PM PST - 5 comments

How about a little Mefi interior design?

I have an awkward window and I don't know what to do with it in terms of covering it up. It's in a baby's room. Please help. [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 12:23 PM PST - 22 comments

Where should we stay in LA?

What part of LA should we stay in for a long weekend trip of exploring and eating, preferably without a car? [more inside]
posted by brilliantine at 12:13 PM PST - 36 comments

Port-Forwarding To Different Internal Port, Keeping It Simple

My old router with Tomato firmware did it very simply: there was a blank for the external port, and a blank for the internal port behind NAT, and external traffic sent to the external port gets forwarded to the internal computer on the internal port. Now, I can't seem to find any router hardware or alternative firmware that does it so simply. [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 12:07 PM PST - 10 comments

Help with Hydronic Heating

Our new-to-us-but-very-old home needs a new boiler (and water heater). What are our best options? [more inside]
posted by sportbucket at 11:55 AM PST - 7 comments

Mundane Portal!

Starting with the wardrobe in the Narnia books, I'm looking for other examples of mundane objects (ideally furniture) that contain or allow access to magical worlds. Literature, film, pop culture - anything really. [more inside]
posted by rog at 11:46 AM PST - 52 comments

so question such askmefi very internet

What is the name and/or origin of the meme where intensifers/adverbs are placed before nouns? [more inside]
posted by i_am_a_fiesta at 11:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Why can't our iPhones, and other devices join the Comcast network?

Apple products not working and playing well with Comcast Wifi. Is there a trick to overcoming the dreaded "unable to join network" message? [more inside]
posted by Ruthless Bunny at 10:53 AM PST - 11 comments

Grommets (no Wallace)

I had to take my drapes (shirred, not pleated) down when I got new windows. This has presented me with the chance to make some changes, and I've decided that I'd like to insert grommets into the drape headers and rehang them that way. [more inside]
posted by Dolley at 10:18 AM PST - 1 comment

Several characters in search of a plot

I'm looking for an example novel(s) that features several separate third person viewpoint characters with seemingly different plot strands at the beginning but whose plots converge as they go on and they end up meeting further on in the novel (if only briefly). I want to see how the author handles these meetings and the meta narrative of several stories merging into one. I would prefer mainstream rather than literary as I'd like to seem something straight forward rather than overly tricky and would prefer sf but please don't let that constrict you as I'm more interested in the mechanics rather than the background and any genre would do.
posted by fearfulsymmetry at 10:10 AM PST - 50 comments

Running - but for the arms??

Running has done amazing wonders for my tree trunk like legs. I am wondering if there is an equivalent exercise to get shapely arms? [more inside]
posted by WinterSolstice at 9:55 AM PST - 12 comments

Zap! Pow! Wizards grow up!

So I've been reading Harry Potter to the kiddo (7) at nighttime for a while and she's loving it. I'm enjoying it too to the point where I don't really want spoilers on anything. However as things get darker I have some concerns about the stories ahead... [more inside]
posted by Artw at 9:35 AM PST - 44 comments

Disable iTunes Radio on iPhone?

Is there a way to disable iTunes Radio on the iPhone, or at least keep it from being the default Music app selection and overriding my previous selections and playlists? [more inside]
posted by fallacy of the beard at 9:29 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me change a light bulb in an old fixture

I need to change the light bulb in this older overhead light fixture (and others in the building like it). Problem is, I can't figure out how to get the glass down. [more inside]
posted by OHSnap at 9:15 AM PST - 9 comments

What exercises can someone with cervical disc herniation (c3-c6) do?

After a nightmare MRI experience sometime in 2011 I found out that I have a cervical disc herniation on c3, c4, c5, c6. The pain was so severe that I was unable to move my neck to right side without feeling like I was going to pass out. Now that I've gotten my first coritsone shot and feel alive, I would love to work at gym on strentheting my cervical discs so I can beat this problem and avoid having to marry cortisone shots for the rest of my life. What are some excercise machines and workouts I can safely use to strengthen my neck without damaging it further? [more inside]
posted by cheero at 8:46 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I send an encrypted email with attachments from gmail?

I know there are a variety of options out there, but I'm having a hard time sifting through the information myself. [more inside]
posted by snarfles at 8:40 AM PST - 7 comments

How to integrate teacher's notes into student class materials?

I am working on student materials for classes that I and others will be teaching. We have a need for a "teacher version" of the student materials that consists of the student materials with teaching notes inserted in various places. Currently, I have been doing this by making handwritten notes on my copy of the student materials for a given lesson. Is there a better solution for this? [more inside]
posted by greenmagnet at 8:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Biology Gift Idea

Iam thinking of gift idea for the scientifically minded specifically Biology, even better Microbiology. It's for a SO who just enrolled in Phd program in a reputable university. She already has the microbe/parasite pillows. Any suggestions?!
posted by radsqd at 8:21 AM PST - 17 comments

soup kitchen volunteers! can you lend me your recipes, menus, & advice?

I am part of a group that regularly gets together to cook and serve meals at a soup kitchen. Our amazing group leader of many years recently passed away very, very unexpectedly, and we have been struggling somewhat in his absence -- he always just kept everything in his head: set menus, what to buy and how much, where to get the best price on stuff, etc. Can you help us put everything back together? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 8:16 AM PST - 18 comments

I don't drink. How do I answer "Why?"

I prefer not to drink alcohol and can't figure out how to tell this to people without them wanting to discuss my reasons. [more inside]
posted by LSK at 7:38 AM PST - 91 comments

Can you identify the group playing this ancient pagan Slavic music?

Music buffs of the Eastern European, pre-Christian/pagan and generally history-oriented sort: I stumbled upon a youtube video of what, as far as I can make out, is a group performing ancient pagan Slavic music. Fascinating stuff and I want more of it. Can anyone help me identify the group? Are there other groups like this? Thanks!
posted by tidecat at 7:35 AM PST - 7 comments

Matchmaker, matchmaker, make me cream sauce?

I am cooking dinner this weekend for an old friend who has requested Italian, preferably pasta with a creamy sauce. I am not very well acquainted at all with cream sauces, apart from this very simple one. I have many extra hours to work on this, and access to several specialty markets and a Trader Joe's. Help me find a crazy delicious recipe! Special farfalle inside... [more inside]
posted by jetlagaddict at 7:27 AM PST - 16 comments

Employment scam or legit invite?

I've been job searching for the past couple of months. Some online listings compel you to apply for them through a recruiter site. I try to avoid doing this, because I've been spammed as a result by sites like who apparently don't vet their partners very well. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 7:17 AM PST - 11 comments

Please Help Me Overcome My Programming Anxiety

I am paralyzed trying to work on code. Not sure how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:56 AM PST - 17 comments

Contouring for pale gals?

I am trying to learn how to do make-up. All the advice for contouring requires you to have some bronzer a shade darker than your skin. The thing is, I'm super pale, and I don't have much of an interest in looking more tanned than I am. Are there any other colour options for shading my face?
posted by teraspawn at 6:28 AM PST - 20 comments

Recommendations for interactive teaching methods

I am working on compiling a list of interactive activities for my faculty colleagues. Our department is trying to move away from heavy lecture-based teaching, and my goal is to compile a resource guide of ways to involve students in the learning process so that the department can provide support to faculty who have less experience with this approach to teaching. Can MeFi recommend resources to me that I can add to our resource guide? [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 6:06 AM PST - 6 comments

Writing a letter of recommendation via email: in body or as attachment?

A question about writing letters of recommendation. Specifically, when the letters are not hand-written and snail mailed, but are emailed instead. [more inside]
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints at 6:06 AM PST - 12 comments

What is the secret sauce of a technology meet-up group?

What is the secret sauce to starting and maintaining an informal meet-up of technology start-up people? [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 5:59 AM PST - 5 comments

Bookfilter: YA Roller Skating Novel

I am trying to find a book I read as a child in the early/mid 90s. Set in the UK. [more inside]
posted by drunkonthemoon at 5:22 AM PST - 3 comments

Appraising a property to split equity

I currently jointly own a property in the US, that both parties agree I should take sole possession of. I would like to get a realistic appraisal value, in order to buy out the other person. Is there anything particular that I should discuss with a potential appraiser when I contact them? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by carter at 5:16 AM PST - 6 comments

Kit me out in Union/Hippy/Socialist/Anarchist/Morals Friendly Clothing

I am looking for a new clothing supplier. The previous company I shopped with have been outed as a bunch of labour-abusing dirtbags and I can't have that. I need to know the names of some places I can buy clothes with confidence and conscience and was hoping maybe I could get some suggestions. [more inside]
posted by longbaugh at 5:04 AM PST - 21 comments

Selling domains in 2013

I have a private offer to buy a domain that I registered with Network Solutions. It's not worth much, and I'm selling for less than $200. After some email communication, I'm happy to just trust the buyer to deposit funds in my Paypal account. Question: How do I actually do this in 2013? Do I have to use a domain escrow service and then eat the commission fee? I seriously cannot figure out how to do a direct person-to-person transfer/sale without using escrow. Every search for "transfer domain" points to transferring back to Network Solutions. Every search for "sell domain" points to escrow services. I'm stumped and turn to you. Please explain it to me like I'm in elementary school. Thanks.
posted by ImproviseOrDie at 4:28 AM PST - 4 comments

Vanilla is the finest of the flavors

I like vanilla, caramel, butterscotch, brown sugar -- what are some reasonably easy-but-delicious desserts I can make that allow for multiple servings over a few days/a week and aren't too troublesome/weird to make, ie., not creme brulee? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 2:17 AM PST - 25 comments

Advanced Korean Foods in LA's Koreatown for an East Coast KoreanAmerican

What can a Korean American who's grown up eating Korean food on the East Coast find in LA's Koreatown that they can't find in the Northeast? [more inside]
posted by Hennimore at 1:12 AM PST - 8 comments

336 Hours of Looking at the Floor

My mother will undergo eye surgery soon and her recovery involves at least two weeks of keeping her head tilted forward, even when she's sleeping. Please help me help her through this time. [more inside]
posted by therewolf at 12:49 AM PST - 15 comments

Looking for globetrotting (non-news) podcasts

I'd like to expand my podcast listening horizons a bit--as in geographically and culturally. Are there any podcasts that regularly go globetrotting for their non-news stories? Makes regular attempts to be less WEIRD? Radio Netherlands Worldwide for example had the environmentally themed Earth Beat and a TALish The State We're In. They were both amazing, but canceled due to budget cuts. I'm also on a crime and mysteries kick, so something like Interpol's greatest hits podcast (they don't AFAIK) would be awesome.
posted by jyorraku at 12:47 AM PST - 4 comments

How do I describe my goals and interests to a valuable contact?

How do I describe my goals and interests to a contact in the PR field? [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 12:34 AM PST - 2 comments

November 13

find me a Canadian women's magazine

I'm looking for a magazine subscription for a gift. The recipient lives in small-town Canada, is very fit and outdoorsy, has a cozy house, enjoys gardening in the summer, and is a child-free professional in her 30s. Can you recommend any magazines that might fit? Not too rustic, but not too design-focused. Just a general eco-friendly-interesting-articles-home-and-lifestyle-women's-interest mag (no celebrities and not too much fashion and make-up). US magazines would be fine but they would need to post to Canada at a reasonable rate.
posted by superfish at 11:39 PM PST - 8 comments

All nature all the time

Please recommend interesting spots within the US or Canada for a 7-10 (or even 15) day nature-centric vacation (for example bike tours, canoe trips or long hikes). [more inside]
posted by PorcupineQuills at 10:29 PM PST - 13 comments

Where to get a gift card for cookware?

Since we are moving soon and already have tons of stuff to move, a couple of family member are considering getting us a gift card for cookware. We have a bunch of cruddy old stuff that we won't be moving, and it'd be great to replace some of these things with items of reasonable quality. However, places like Williams-Sonoma and Sur la Table are very expensive. Is there another good choice for a place to shop in person with a gift card? We live in the San Francisco Bay Area. [more inside]
posted by wintersweet at 10:08 PM PST - 11 comments

Please help my house not smell like ass.

My new dog seems to have a problem with her anal glands. Which is now my problem. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 9:41 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me help people with the least waste.

How much does giving a lot to one charity vs giving a bit to a few smaller charities help a relief effort? [more inside]
posted by fishmasta at 9:40 PM PST - 10 comments

The real Irises?

Was it really the real Irises, for reals? [more inside]
posted by shino-boy at 9:08 PM PST - 9 comments

Lyric-free music for good concentration while working?

When listening to music and working, I find I concentrate better when the music is lyric free. Please share some of your favorite music without words that helps you get into the zone and also drown out noise while working. I'm open to most kinds of music. So far I'm listening to things like the Tron Legacy soundtrack, Ottmar Liebert, Bernie Williams and some classical music.
posted by fx3000 at 9:00 PM PST - 63 comments

Best dry cleaner in Bay Area for a white satin designer suit?

I need to clean an expensive white Oscar de la Renta skirt suit that's lined in taffeta/tulle; it has some faint smudging here and there on the thick reverse silk-satin fabric. I wouldn't trust a normal dry cleaner with this, and don't know where else to go. Alex's seems exorbitant and gets awful reviews; Peninou seems doubtful as well; and I read somewhere about Crystal in San Mateo but don't have much to go on. Does anyone know a cleaner (preferably in San Francisco, but I can drive elsewhere if necessary) who works with designer items, maybe wedding gowns, who would know how to work with tricky white silk fabric? Many thanks!
posted by roxie110 at 8:49 PM PST - 5 comments

What do I need to watch movies on this projector?

I have Casio Megavision LCD 2way projector FV-600 that my parents found in the garage (just the projector, no cables, instructions). It has a cable coming out of its butt that goes into the wall (a plug), and three holes that say "ear" and "input" What do I need to watch movies on my wall? A DVD player? Can I connect it to my computer? Do I need to buy any cables? If so which ones? Can I get everything I need with amazon prime? Obviously, please explain it like I'm a three year old.
posted by LaunchBox at 7:32 PM PST - 6 comments

I've reached a crossroads

Have completed 2/3 of an undergrad course and want to transfer out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Why do people on TV holster their guns wrong?

Why does everyone on TV or in movies seem to holster or tuck their gun into their belts backwards? Is there something behind this screen convention? [more inside]
posted by stet at 7:26 PM PST - 16 comments

Toy Universe

What are some good simulation/strategy computer games that don't emphasize violence or warfare? [more inside]
posted by byanyothername at 7:15 PM PST - 17 comments

Looking for romantic heavy metal songs

I'm looking for romantic heavy metal songs, specifically Iron Maiden songs. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by phoenix_fire at 7:15 PM PST - 16 comments

Identify a classic rock song by outro (butchered approximation attached)

I always hear the very end of this song on the local rock station, but never any other part! Since much of what the station plays (94.1 WHJY, "94 HJY" in Providence, RI) could be called "classic rock", I'm going to assume it falls into that category. A butchered GarageBand approximation of the outro is attached. (Note that the actual outro is played on an electric guitar - it's actually chords.) [more inside]
posted by Seeking Direction at 7:00 PM PST - 5 comments

Web presence strategies for academic/professional job search?

I am at the start of a long runway leading to a job change in mid/upper higher education management. I don't have online skeletons, I just want my presence to be coherent and to point to me -- I google people when I hire, and I know how it can go awry. I am looking for best practices in self-SEO, details inside. [more inside]
posted by cgk at 6:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Outsourcing ALL of your Information Technology

How common is it to outsource almost an entire Information Technology department in a corporation? Can anyone provide some examples? [more inside]
posted by smalls at 5:49 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me remember what TV show or movie this was.

My wife and I are going crazy trying to remember a TV show or movie. All we can remember is that two high school girls go out with two college guys, hang out at a furniture store, and things turn bad. (more inside). [more inside]
posted by lenore at 5:45 PM PST - 3 comments

I'm dumb. How many cups of beans?

The recipe says "2 cups dried cannellini beans, soaked overnight". Does it mean 2 cups of the beans after soaking, or before soaking? [more inside]
posted by under_petticoat_rule at 5:21 PM PST - 13 comments

Summoning native Rhode Islanders

Help me locate this historic home /museum in the Fall River area of Rhode Island near or across the border in Massachusetts. (No Lovecraft jokes required.) [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 4:59 PM PST - 16 comments

Weekend Civil War Roadtrip around the SE US?

We'd like to take a three-to-four day road trip originating and terminating in Atlanta, focusing on Civil War history this weekend. Looking for suggestions on sites and itinerary ideas. [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 4:49 PM PST - 7 comments

Should I join the UK genome project?

I'm interested in joining the UK personal genome project (PGP), as I like big science and think that the project looks interesting and has some admirable aims. However, I'm not so sure about having my genetic information freely available on the internet, and I don't fully understand what the risks of this could be. I found this article on the gurdian, but any more information, resources or advice would be appreciated. Thanks.
posted by Ned G at 4:45 PM PST - 3 comments

Can you recommend a food tour in NYC?

I'm sure my Manhattan (West Village) based niece would adore a food tour as a gift, but I'm overwhelmed with the choices and don't know New York very well. She has traveled much of the world and is an adventurous eater as well. Single, thirty-something, is relatively new to NYC. If you have either specific food tours or operators to recommend, I would very much like to hear. Thanks!
posted by DrGail at 4:07 PM PST - 13 comments

What's my career

Help me find a new career where I don't have to take my job home with me. [more inside]
posted by Salvor Hardin at 4:06 PM PST - 29 comments

Flash! Aa-aaa-a!

Teach me about flash/vacuum pickling. Caveat: I'm not using a chamber vacuum. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 4:03 PM PST - 2 comments

Making something pretty from old slides

I need ideas for an art project using old 35mm slides. I have looked at the lampshades and curtains. The problem is most of my slides are a black background with very fine colored lines forming the image (they're protein structures, this picture here is a good example of what's on my slides). I worry any lampshade I formed with these wouldn't highlight the images on the slides the way I see in photos because so much of the slide itself is opaque. [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 3:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Sweater Obsession

I recently stumbled across this sweater and I'm enamored with it. Unfortunately, it's sold out or $600 everywhere I can find it. Oh great hivemind, can you find me a sweater that ties in the front like this and drapes all gorgeously? I especially love how wide the belt is and how gracefully the sweater flows from the waist.
posted by chatongriffes at 3:38 PM PST - 5 comments

At least I won't be a *40* year old virgin

I'm a woman in my thirties. I'm in a newish relationship with a guy I really like. The problem: I'm a late bloomer who took it a little too far and before I got together with this guy I had absolutely zero sexual or relationship experience. What's the least horrifying, least embarrassing way to tell him this, and when should I tell him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 26 comments

Please help me snap myself out of this

I am depressed/anxious and self-sabotaging by doing little to no work at my job. My boss has not yet said anything to me about my un-/non-productivity, but I have to think she'll cotton on sooner or later. Help me figure out a) how to start working again and b) whether I should say anything to my boss. Predictably, there is more inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:18 PM PST - 9 comments

Buying a house... weirdly

I want to buy the house I'm renting. How do I even start? [more inside]
posted by MrVisible at 2:26 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I cite a film Harvard style,that was filmed in several locations?

My reference requirements are getting increasingly obscure and I can't figure this out. So much for leaving referencing behind in my Uni days.. it was always the referencing part that pushed me over the edge! Thanks for reading
posted by tanktop at 2:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Twitter tips for ex-facebooker?

I've just left Facebook for Twitter, please help me understand this new place. In what ways are they alike, and different? Tips, tools, etiquette? Thanks!
posted by Tom-B at 2:09 PM PST - 12 comments

Basic Math for Math Majors

Hello! I'm a first semester grad student in applied math. I am a non-traditional student in a variety of ways (liberal arts undergrad, working full-time), and while I'm finding that I intellectually understand the concepts I'm learning, execution is being made difficult by my lack of fluency with algebraic manipulation and calculus. [more inside]
posted by downing street memo at 2:08 PM PST - 16 comments

Why can't I connect devices to my wifi?

Last week I had to upgrade my cable modem. Most of my wifi devices were perfectly happy, but my scale and printer refuse to connect to wifi now. [more inside]
posted by Blue Jello Elf at 2:08 PM PST - 7 comments

What are some movies or TV shows that will make me cry continously?

I've recently realized how therapeutic it is for me to have a nice, long, crying session. Watching something emotional that makes me cry has been my way of releasing stress, but I'm having a hard time finding material. I've been able to find lists of "movies to make you cry", but they tend to be romance movies or feel-good dramas with a sad ending. What about movies or TV shows that are sad, sweet, or emotional throughout the length of the film? [more inside]
posted by daisies at 1:49 PM PST - 112 comments

boyfriend is leaving for two months... are we doomed?

My boyfriend of 1.5 years is leaving to go back to his country (wasn't granted a visa) and he will be gone for at least 2 months.. maybe more if he doesn't get another one he's applying for. I feel like that's a long time and we are both bad at communicating on the phone/skype/etc. We work best when we can see each other and value doing a lot of things together (our love language is touch and quality time). He hasn't mentioned coming to visit, although I would. I'd even love for us to both go to another country and explore while he's in this transition period but I don't think his financial situation would allow for it and would feel like Im trying to save the relationship more than he is. I feel like we're doomed since long distance relationships rarely work out. What should or can I do?
posted by soooo at 1:43 PM PST - 14 comments

Band-Aids for Gushing Wound of Irresponsibility

I'm screwing up and need mind hacks to get through the rest of the semester and finals. [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 1:36 PM PST - 11 comments

Best suggestions for Team Communication & Collaboration Tools

We are a team of about 25 spread across two main locations with a single person in a third locale. We also use some outsourced resources now and again. We use a mish mash of tools to do everything from email (some of us use Outlook, others use Gmail with a forward, others use webmail/Zimbra, some use MacMail, etc.) to file sharing, chat and video conferencing. We need to get our act together and select the right tools. Help! [more inside]
posted by FlamingBore at 1:33 PM PST - 6 comments

A one way flight to anywhere? (What should I do with my life?)

I'm recently back from a long trip through South America, but my travel lust is hardly satiated. I have some savings left, and I'm desperate to take off again. Is this a good idea? And if so, where should I go next? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by lightgray at 1:30 PM PST - 5 comments

I need a short, long, casual, formal, trendy, classic jacket.

Not really, but it’s just as tall of an order. I am looking to invest in a winter jacket, since I’m tired of buying one that falls apart after a couple of seasons. It needs to be formal, yet casual, and made for a body type that clothes just are not made for. I’m petite and busty. (Think Jessica Simpson’s body type, but even more… full figured in the upper area.) [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 1:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me come up with a new Thanksgiving family tradition

So, I have a friend whose family has an amazing Easter tradition. They have a traditional easter egg hunt in their yard, only some of the eggs contain candy and some of them contain various numbers of tickets. Their mom buys a range of amazing and not so amazing prizes (think PS3 to a new spatula, or whatever). Next ensues a crazy bidding war on the prizes, using the collected tickets. I want to start a new Thanksgiving tradition that compares in awesomeness. [more inside]
posted by corn_bread at 1:18 PM PST - 6 comments

Mood tracking app for iPhone

My young adult daughter, who suffers from depression, was advised by her therapist to track her moods, to be better able to identify what triggers them. I suggested that she use an iPhone app, since she has her phone with her at all times. Does anyone have a recommendation for a specific mood tracking app? [more inside]
posted by merejane at 1:08 PM PST - 10 comments

songs: i'm sorry

Looking for songs that reflect the following sentiment: I'm sorry I hurt you, you were right to end things, I hope we can build a better friendship but I don't expect anything, thank you for trying anyway. [more inside]
posted by divabat at 1:05 PM PST - 22 comments

Men's trousers: flat front, high waist. Help?

I wear a suit or dress trousers most days to the office, and am looking to replace some of my wardrobe. I've gone to a few mens' clothing stores, but have struck out looking for high-waisted, fitted but not tight, flat front men's trousers. (Details/snowflake/etc inside) [more inside]
posted by Seeba at 12:18 PM PST - 12 comments

Will the Project Runway Belk dresses be sold anytime soon?

In the latest season of Project Runway, there was a challenge in which the prize was to have your design produced and sold by Belk. I'd love to purchase Dom's design, and I've been stalking the Belk website since, but there have been no updates, much less actual dresses for sale. Anyone know if/when this is ever going to happen, and if they'll be sold online? (Maybe they're only appearing in physical stores, but seems like they are really missing out on a marketing opportunity if that's the case!)
posted by rainbowbrite at 12:09 PM PST - 2 comments

I'm actually into someone. Uh... what now?

I've taken a liking to someone and it seems that whenever this happens said person loses interest - even when they were previously quite into me. How do I prevent this from happening this time? Also, how do I not mess things up inbetween dates? [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 11:59 AM PST - 8 comments

Young, Cancer, Abroad

Asking for a friend: my good friend has just been diagnosed with endometrial cancer. She is in Europe and not returning home for treatment, and I'm trying to help her figure out her funding options and provide emotional support. Tips wanted/needed please. [more inside]
posted by obviousresistance at 11:49 AM PST - 11 comments

Raising kids with "grit"

What can I do as a parent to help my child build persistence, self-discipline, high standards, and work ethic? [more inside]
posted by Bardolph at 11:48 AM PST - 44 comments

A Broad, Abroad, Alone

In a month, I'll be traveling abroad for the first time, all by my lonesome. Looking for helpful tips for a first-time international traveler. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 11:47 AM PST - 26 comments

New power supply for old lego motors

I have a bunch of old Lego 71427 motors (seen here) and a battery pack (I believe part 5293) that was stored for a decade with the batteries inside, with predictable results. Easiest way to make these usable, short of tracking down the long-discontinued original battery pack? [more inside]
posted by ook at 11:47 AM PST - 5 comments

Gaming console and games for a almost 6 year old.

Looking for a gaming console and games for almost 6 year old boy, with few issues to address/target. [more inside]
posted by zaxour at 11:03 AM PST - 12 comments

Do you know a programme that showed a dance in a swimming pool?

I don't suppose you remember a programme that showed ballet or contemporary dance in a swimming pool at night that would have been shown in the UK in the late 80s or early 90s? [more inside]
posted by calico at 10:58 AM PST - 4 comments

Gas Struts

I have a couple of gas struts to lift a big steel hatch. I'm concerned about breaking them (because I had a couple of other gas struts which did break) I'm assured by the vendor that they are suitable for the location, but I am not entirely convinced by their design. It was put together only by looking at a few photos and is only really for the purpose of selecting the correct bracketry etc. What do I need to think about when attaching these struts? What sort of forces are particularly bad? What kind of travel should I be looking at? Basically what advice can you give me on positioning these things?
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 10:46 AM PST - 2 comments

What are these stains on my pillow covers?

I have blue stains on my new pillowcases, and I'm scared it could be mildew. But I don't understand how it could have got there so fast, and I don't know what to do now. Can anyone confirm what it is, and give me ideas for what to try next? [more inside]
posted by jlibera at 10:40 AM PST - 17 comments

Where can I get a neck tie in this one-horse town

Where can I buy a cheap, solid red neck tie in NYC? Preferably in Soho, or anywhere along the west side? [more inside]
posted by windbox at 10:37 AM PST - 9 comments

Automate My Monotony?

I write minor variations on similar reports pretty much everyday. Other than working from basic templates, what can I do to speed up, automate, etc? [more inside]
posted by jimmysmits at 10:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Alcoholism and the holidays

How do I navigate this family dysfunction around an alcoholic at Thanksgiving and Christmas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:20 AM PST - 18 comments

Preparing my house for a new adopted shelter dog

What can I do to make my home "dog-proof" for the new 18-month-old dog I'm getting from a shelter? And what can I do to ease the trauma for him of moving to a completely new home? [more inside]
posted by madman at 10:15 AM PST - 11 comments

Printer spooler not working... again

My Dad has an old (5+ years) PC running Windows Vista, and a laser printer. Over the last few months, he's started to have problems printing pdfs. Help me fix the problem, please! [more inside]
posted by meronym at 10:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Help needed with nvidia works with Parallels Desktop 9 in MS Windows 8.1

I have an Apple MacBook Pro Retina display with NVIDIA GeForce GT 750M I use Parallels Desktop 9 for Mac and I installed Microsoft Windows 8.1 Pro with success, however windows does not recognize that I have nvidia installed in my system. My question is: How to let Parallels Desktop 9 to enable NVIDIA work in windows 8.1 pro? If it does not support it, what other tools or software to make nvidia work in windows 8.1 pro? Thank you.
posted by omaralareefi at 9:23 AM PST - 8 comments

I want better poop.

I want to poop better. I poop frequently enough, but I rarely get the super-satisfying, perfect, long, clean-wipe poop that I deserve. I need reliable information on how to do this. What diet should I have? What should I eat more/less of? What supplements would help? Thanks!
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 9:16 AM PST - 38 comments

Bacterial growth - logarithmic vs. exponential?

Why is the log phase of bacterial growth called the log phase, when it actually resembles an exponential curve rather than a logarithmic curve? I'm really dusty on my math, can someone explain this to me?
posted by jolyn at 8:59 AM PST - 15 comments

Medi-Cal in San Francisco - how does it work?

How will Medi-Cal (Medicaid) work in San Francisco in 2014? Can you choose your doctor? [more inside]
posted by kristi at 8:55 AM PST - 3 comments

The red wire!? No, the black wire!

I've been watching Archer recently, and they had an episode with the super cliched "which wire to cut" scene. This made me wonder, is there any actual real world precedent for cutting a single wire to defuse a bomb (with every other wire resulting in death), or is this entirely a fictional scenario?
posted by codacorolla at 8:32 AM PST - 17 comments

Book and movie name

What is the name of the book and movie about a simple-minded, poor man who lived with his mother, carried a pet bird with him and gets innocently involved in an social uprising? I think he discovered gold near the beginning and his clothes are tattered.
posted by mcbeitz at 8:29 AM PST - 3 comments

Life after coding

I'd like to hear about people who have left the computer programming/software development field, particularly for jobs that don't involve sitting in an office all day. If you've done this, how did you manage it? How old were you, and how long had you been in the software industry? What kind of job did you end up in? Do you like your new job? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:19 AM PST - 4 comments

My fiancé is friends with a sex worker.

My fiancé is friends with a sex worker. (NSFW) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:19 AM PST - 68 comments

Why does the advertised and available hard drive space not match?

I ordered a Buffalo Drivestation Quad 4Tb external hard drive. It shows up as exactly 3Tb capacity. Am I missing something, or did they ship the wrong item in the right box?
posted by roofus at 7:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I Buck the Trend and Move from Mac to PC?

Long term Mac user, 90% of work is browser (chrome) based and other than that I use skype, evernote, 1password, coda, etc. I run my own web based business and consider myself almost but not quite a geek. Purchase price and maintenance costs are important to me but also given my browser based use I now doubt that I can justify the extra $ for a mac. [more inside]
posted by lapsang at 7:40 AM PST - 17 comments

Opensource Music?

I have a video thanking funders that is scheduled to go live for National Philanthropy Day on Friday. I thought I had student composed and performed music to go with the video, but this morning I learned that I don't. Can you point me toward any on-line source for peppy, modern-ish (ie: not classical), instrumental music recordings that are free for public use?
posted by anastasiav at 7:32 AM PST - 4 comments

I don't need a smart phone. What do I need?

I have a Verizon iPhone 4 that is now off-contract. It's clear from my usage that I don't really need a smart phone. For my purposes, what do I need? [more inside]
posted by not that girl at 7:30 AM PST - 17 comments

School us on the Twin Cities School Systems

We just moved to the Twin Cities (Keewaydin in south Minneapolis to be exact) and are starting to explore potential neighborhoods for our first home purchase next fall. We're interesting in your experiences with either having your children schooled in Minneapolis or St. Paul proper or being schooled yourself in either of the Twin Cities school systems. [more inside]
posted by playertobenamedlater at 7:20 AM PST - 17 comments

Strategies for quality time with my wife when life gets in the way

How does a youngish (36) married couple spend quality time together when demanding jobs and childcare responsibilities seem to make it nearly impossible? What are your strategies? How do you cope? [more inside]
posted by Creamroller at 7:18 AM PST - 18 comments

Buy or watch old episodes of Nature?

Is there somewhere I can buy old episodes of Nature, like from 1998? It seems like you can only find recent episodes online, from 2008 at the earliest. Any leads would be greatly appreciated! Even transcripts would be helpful. [more inside]
posted by lemoncakeisalie at 7:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Is there a list or blog that tracks writing contests?

I enjoy writing but often have trouble with motivation. Is there a blog or other resource that tracks writing contests? Looking for anything from publishers looking for compilation submissions on a certain theme to overtly commercial contests (where you might write something about a product to win a small prize or the product itself) to just for fun bragging rights competitions. [more inside]
posted by mikepop at 6:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Searching for a searchable directory of line art

I'm in love with these wedding place cards, but I'm having trouble finding online sources of line art I can use. Specifically, I would like to find an online directory of line art - the kind of black and white image that would accompany a dictionary definition. Ideally, it would be open source/taken from old books but I'd be willing to pay if I could find the right images. I've tried searching Google images with the line art function, but it's pretty limited in the results and often too cartoon-y for what I"m looking for. Additionally, if you could think of any additional search terms for that style of art it could be very helpful. [more inside]
posted by fermezporte at 6:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Child-friendly Nexus 7

What should I do to a brand new Nexus 7 to make sure it's both safe and fun when my four-year-old daughter unwraps it at Christmas? [more inside]
posted by monkey closet at 6:06 AM PST - 8 comments

Unexpected Death

My Dad just called and my Mom unexpectedly died in her sleep at 62. We need help in knowing what to do. [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar at 6:02 AM PST - 21 comments

Gluten allergies must be made up

How do I come to terms with the glaring in-your-face reality that I have a gluten allergy and that it is not going to go away? [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 5:52 AM PST - 32 comments

Outlook -- removing or hiding text when displaying emails

We have been required to attach a lengthy signature to all of our outgoing emails signatures must be attached to replies as well. This is very frustrating when trying to read through an email thread because there is a 18 line signature block in between the content of each email. Assume I can't modify the email signature policy is there any type of scripting available in Outlook that would allow me to search for a string in an email I am viewing and hide it? I could do something like this with Grease Monkey in web outlook but I prefer to use the desktop client.
posted by jmsta at 5:28 AM PST - 1 comment

What are hidden benefits to applying for a patent?

I have many unusual ideas of unique approaches to complex problems which relate to my line of work. Writing a patent seems like a good way to get them on paper and an interesting way to boost my competitive profile. I do not have the legal know-how or resources to finance legal action, nor do I plan/care/want to. Aside from helping me outline my idea in precision and detail, what other "hidden" advantages are there to patent application?
posted by mateuslee at 3:30 AM PST - 8 comments

Selling one-square-metre plots to stop a developer

I read about this some years ago and can't recall the details - Does anyone recall it? [more inside]
posted by Quillcards at 2:37 AM PST - 4 comments

November 12

Can biofeedback help somebody with cold hands?

I'm curious about your experiences with using biofeedback devices to learn how to warm your hands up. My wife is always cold and I've been thinking about getting her a handheld thermometer (e.g. this doodad), but I don't want to waste her time / our money if it's unlikely to help. [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 11:21 PM PST - 12 comments

MacBook Pour Homme (looking for a men's fragrance I remember)

~10 years ago, I used to wear a cologne that came in a smooth, rounded rectangular grey aluminum bottle with a white front. Very Apple-esque. I can't remember what kind it was now. Any help?
posted by ferdinandcc at 11:21 PM PST - 3 comments

My roommate hates me. I can't afford to move out. What do I even do?

How do you live in an apartment with a roommate who would probably prefer if you dropped dead? [more inside]
posted by dekathelon at 10:49 PM PST - 79 comments

Pee Wee Herman doll in a movie?

Got this photo of a Pee Wee Herman doll from a friend, who claims that the doll (well, maybe not this exact one, but the same model) was featured in a movie. No other clues - no year, genre, etc. I've tried the Google, to no avail. Any of you happen to know what movie featured a Pee Wee Herman doll?
posted by davidmsc at 10:14 PM PST - 3 comments

What is this horrifying Batman parody?

Can anyone point me to this online Batman deconstruction? [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont at 9:58 PM PST - 2 comments

What do you wish you'd read before you left college?

I'm helping to design a course for college juniors and seniors in the health sciences. What books (textbooks, popular non-fiction, or even novels), articles, essays, and websites would be most helpful for the students as they finish up their degrees? [more inside]
posted by terrierhead at 9:11 PM PST - 19 comments


I'm a single guy. I go to a yoga class. There are lots of attractive women in my yoga class. I'd like to talk to some of them, but I suck at talking to strangers. I need prescripted lines. Not pickup lines, just making-a-basic-connection lines. Ideas please. [more inside]
posted by zeri at 9:11 PM PST - 48 comments

Any good event spaces in San Francisco?

Looking for an event space in San Francisco for Thursday, November 21st. I'm looking for something that can fit 60-80 people. It's for a developer-focused meetup event. Have you been to a good event in SF? Do you know of a good space?
posted by TimeDoctor at 8:35 PM PST - 3 comments

Tiny Advent Gifts

I made my boyfriend an advent calendar for Christmas and I'm looking for tiny (but quality!) gifts to fill it! [more inside]
posted by brynna at 8:29 PM PST - 26 comments

What is the best drinking water option?

Been reading a few articles about tap water vs. bottled water, and some of these mention how tap water is at least the same, or even better (1, 2, 3, and 4) and of course, less expensive. I live in Toronto and I buy PC's bottled water (simply because it doesn't have that artifical taste that other brands have in my opinion), but I'm starting to look at other options. Between bottled water, water cooler bottles, and installing a tap filter, which is my best option?
posted by omar.a at 8:15 PM PST - 18 comments

White bundle of joy or white elephant?

I have around $200 Aus burning a hole in my pocket and I am thinking of getting a nintendo console, two remote units and wiifit board. I have never played anything on a tv or computer except dos tennis and solitaire. I know zilch about nintendo and game consoles or games. [more inside]
posted by Kerasia at 7:35 PM PST - 8 comments

My pooch is a never-nude

On Saturday we have a community street festival here in Perth, and I need my little Clyde to win the whole damn dog show. [more inside]
posted by honey-barbara at 7:32 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for new job but uncertain about career direction...

I'm a GIS office worker for a city government in the midwest. After a few years in my full time position I think its time for me to go, and move closer to my family, but I'm having trouble figuring out what exactly I should be looking for. Suggestions much appreciated. [more inside]
posted by ajax287 at 7:24 PM PST - 5 comments

How to stop the weight gain?

Stressed out and at my heaviest, how can I gradually start to lose weight? [more inside]
posted by elisse at 7:10 PM PST - 28 comments

"Same background dating" for a potential immigrant in the United States

I'm currently a non immigrant in the United States and looking to settle down here because I want to be away from the society I was raised in. However, I'm looking for a person that shares the better parts of my cultural beliefs and value sets so I can preserve some of them when raising children here, and keep in touch with my roots. Are there any good dating resources that mefi can help me with, or general ideas on what I can do to seek such partners? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:30 PM PST - 12 comments

Game Show Blues

I'm scheduled to appear on a game show and I just found out that a guy I went to high school with years ago used to work for that particular game show, but no longer does. I think this might disqualify me and I'm Not sure what to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:29 PM PST - 13 comments

Please help me plan a big Christmas Eve party in a small apartment!

My husband and I moved into our first real apartment a little over a year ago, and we've entertained groups of four (making it six counting us), but I invited eight people for Christmas Eve... and they all said yes. Even the people with family in the area who usually have other plans. Even the people with kids - they're getting babysitters. Totally unexpected. Help me do this without losing my mind! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 4:47 PM PST - 19 comments

Star Wars EU: just the good parts.

What parts of the Star Wars Expanded Universe are worth exploring? [more inside]
posted by signal at 4:34 PM PST - 18 comments

1994 Toyota 4Runner with bad muffler/tailpipe – what to do?

My 1994 Toyota 4Runner (V6, RWD) has a bad muffler and/or tailpipe. It runs loud, but not undriveably loud. Today I took a good look under there for the first time since buying the truck (pictures within) and I would like some advice on the best and most cost-effective way to proceed. Bonus mystery switch question at end. [more inside]
posted by Scientist at 4:28 PM PST - 15 comments

Durable children's activity table and chairs

I need a durable (durable!) children's table and chairs for a new community center (human services multi-service center). [more inside]
posted by fieldtrip at 3:43 PM PST - 11 comments

Advanced Current Affairs in 10 minutes a day!

What is your 'current affairs' routine? [more inside]
posted by dinosaurprincess at 3:37 PM PST - 25 comments

Hotel near Trinity River jogging trails in Fort Worth?

We'll be staying in Fort Worth this weekend. I've read that there are some nice crushed gravel trails along the Trinity River. From my review of the trail map, it looks like the crushed gravel portion begins west of downtown, just a little north of Trinity Park. So, we'd like to choose the most convenient decent hotel to that portion of the trail. Fort Worthers, are there any decent hotels just a hop, skip, and a jump away? [more inside]
posted by starkraven at 3:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Should I consider a new therapist?

My ongoing problems with my therapist have reached a head, but she is urging me not to leave. Having received humane and insightful responses from AskMeFi about another MH issue, I would really appreciate some perspective on this. [more inside]
posted by beyondthepale at 2:48 PM PST - 59 comments

Temporary bookshelf walls - outside of NYC?

Can I get a temporary bookshelf wall outside of NYC? [more inside]
posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 2:37 PM PST - 11 comments

I need help identifying a Japanese author/filmmaker!

I need help recall the name of a Japanese author and/or filmmaker. The one detail I remember is that during WWII he was a boy working in a factory that was firebombed. In order to survive, he and the other boys fought to get under one another as the building came down around them in flames. Does anyone know who this might be? I'm stumped and so is Google . . .
posted by Quaversalis at 2:37 PM PST - 2 comments

Struggling to forgive my SO's emotional cheating

How can I forgive my SO (and myself) for emotionally cheating on each other? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:00 PM PST - 12 comments

Heart Rate Monitoring on the Cheap

Dear Hive Mind, My friend (a graduate student in psychology) wants to collect physiological measures for her dissertation. However, she doesn't have much money with which to do so. What is the cheapest way for her to accurately record the heart rate of some undergraduates? How much more will it cost her to be able to export the data to a computer? Thanks 10^6, zscore
posted by zscore at 1:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Moving a digital piano. Difficulty filter: UK to Belgium.

Further to my earlier question, I want to have my digital piano with me in Belgium. Suggestions? [more inside]
posted by fearnothing at 1:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Hair for Grownups-Slash-Dummies

I have medium-thick, fine, kind of wavy hair that I have washed and either pulled back still-wet into a high ponytail or French braided every day since the beginning of time. It's a little longer than shoulder-length. I would like to find some more interesting and adult things to do with it, (maybe something that looks a little less severe?) but would not like to spend more than 10 or (gulp) 15 minutes of my morning on hair-related tasks. Is this even possible? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 12:39 PM PST - 31 comments

Source for vegetable-shaped flash drives?

I'm looking for reasonably priced, low capacity, vegetable-shaped flash drives to use for holiday gifts. They will store a small PDF e-book and about fifty small .doc files of my recipe collection. I've seen... [more inside]
posted by partner at 12:35 PM PST - 10 comments

What is the best method / materials to use when making hand prints?

Salt dough isn't good for the very long term when it comes to durability, so I need suggestions. I don't have access to a kiln, but anything else is fair game. This is for keepsake handprints for a baby and preschooler.
posted by Nickel Pickle at 12:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for new, intellectual, stand-up comedians

The other night I dumb-lucked into the last ten minutes of the new Dana Gould stand-up special, and I loved it. And it got me thinking about how much I love intellectual stand-up comedy. Who else might I like? [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 11:50 AM PST - 46 comments

What are the exemptions to performing the Hajj?

I know that Islam requires followers to perform the Hajj at least once in their lives if able... but what determines that ability? I presume it's a matter of health and financial concerns, but even so, I imagine many Muslims make great sacrifices and take significant risks for this. Are there generally-accepted measures of when it's understandable for someone not to make the Hajj, or is it all a matter of personal faith & judgment? I also know there was a time when one could send someone to more or less take their place... is that still an accepted practice? [more inside]
posted by scaryblackdeath at 11:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Convert rich text field in Access or Excel into plain text

I have thousands of rich text message message fields currently formatted in RTF (rich text format) that need to be stripped of their formatting and converted to plain text. Currently the field is in a Microsoft Access database. But if needed, the database could be sent to Excel if that would ease the conversion of the RTF to plain text. [more inside]
posted by Jackie_Treehorn at 11:25 AM PST - 16 comments

taking responsibility in a breakup

How do you manage healing from a breakup when you contributed a lot to the problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:56 AM PST - 18 comments

Stop My iPhone From Making Ghost Prank Calls?

People I have never heard of before are calling me to ask that I stop calling them. Fine. If I had called them, that is! But I haven't. Neither has my phone, according to its log. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:55 AM PST - 8 comments

Cheap, Chew proof, Non-toxic, hard surface for a puppy's pen

Husband & I are getting a puppy soon. Since we spend most of our time in our study, we were going to purchase this pen to keep in our study along with his crate. Unfortunately, our study is carpeted. So we need something we can cover a section of the carpet with, help us find it! [more inside]
posted by long haired child at 10:54 AM PST - 11 comments

What regular maintenance should I schedule for our new home?

We bought a house, yay. It’s a small 1910’s bungalow with gas appliances and everything basically works. The foundation’s been replaced in the not-too-distant past and it’s ready for an earthquake. I've never been anything but a renter, so what kinds of regular maintenance should I be thinking about to minimize the risk of catastrophic emergency repairs? Plumbing, gas, heating, electrical, sewers: what’s a good schedule, and what kinds of things do I ask for to make clear that there’s nothing particularly wrong but I’d like to keep it that way? I looked at this old question, but most of the interesting-sounding links are dead.
posted by migurski at 10:51 AM PST - 10 comments

23andMe for Jewish Genetic Testing

Is 23andMe sufficient for the genetic testing my fiance and I require before getting married (Jewish genetic testing)? [more inside]
posted by RUPure at 10:48 AM PST - 16 comments

Upgrade or Replace Gaming Computer?

I am considering either upgrading or replacing my 6 year old gaming computer, not sure which to do. What would you do? [more inside]
posted by zompus at 10:42 AM PST - 17 comments

How can I best help my depressed friends & also take care of myself?

I watch many people who I care a lot about suffer from depression. I would sincerely do anything to help them, and do whatever I can think of: conversations, little notes and random texts, hanging out, offering help with thinking through options if they want it, etc. But, as someone who is lucky to not have 'been there', it's hard to know when I'm crossing a line and what's really needed. In fact, I think most of my efforts translate to "I know you mean well, but..." even though I'm also one of the few people these friends go to when things get bad. On top of worrying and trying to help, I also spend (probably too much) time thinking about what they're going through and what would be most helpful. It's exhausting for me and stressful, but it's personally not an option not to care. I end up internalizing this stuff and it affects my normal activities, even though at the end of the day, I'm not the one suffering. I want to be as good a friend and resource as possible to these people I truly care about and also want to avoid falling victim to anxiety or depression myself because of it. Any tips from either the 'been there' - depressed and knows what's helpful - perspective or the sincerly-caring-friend side of this equation would be much appreciated. Thanks.
posted by anonymous at 10:04 AM PST - 16 comments

How do get into Science grad school w/an Art undergrad degree ?

I have a bachelors degree in film. I want a Masters in Cell and Molecular Biology. I want to work in a research lab. Getting into grad school in general is a mystery to me, but my special circumstances make it seem that much more it? [more inside]
posted by Telomeracer at 9:58 AM PST - 6 comments

I need a jacket that won't shed or cling to my shirt sleeves

I need a fleece jacket that has a wooly and not velour texture. [more inside]
posted by reenum at 9:48 AM PST - 6 comments

inexpensive cold weather headgear, for outdoor exercise?

Can you help me find some inexpensive, machine washable headgear for cold weather exercise? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 9:34 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I sleep cooler at night?

I sleep hot. My body creates a lot of heat at night, which is good for me but bad for my partners. My ex-wife used to complain, and my current girlfriend doesn't enjoy cuddling because I'm warm and often sweaty. I sleep hotter when I drink alcohol, I know that, and memory foam seems to be a problem (so I'm replacing my memory foam mattress with an expensive mattress that's supposed to be cooler). What other things can I do to be cooler at night? I want my girlfriend to cuddle more!
posted by jdroth at 9:29 AM PST - 25 comments

3D Printing: Can I Affordably Print Larger Than a Matchbox Car?

I'm looking to print something with about 2.5% density that would fit within a bounding box 355mm tall, 505mm wide and 253mm deep. I modeled it in Google Sketchup (only took me 3 days to really figure out what I was doing!) and found that it was too big for ponoko and others who could print that large (is a foot and a half really that large?) wanted over a thousand dollars. Is 3D printing affordable as long as you're willing to print cheap rings, D&D dice and tiny action figures? [more inside]
posted by Brian Puccio at 9:28 AM PST - 9 comments

how to strip out text from a CSV file record

I have an exported CSV file which contains a field with an entire address in it like so: name, address, postal code, country. I need to strip out everything except the country name so I can sort by country. [more inside]
posted by diode at 9:25 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me find plates that will last a decade

12 years ago I bought Mikasa stoneware dishes for our every day use. They held up really well for the first 10 years. But now they're breaking, chipping, and in need of replacement. But it seems stoneware is no longer available. I see a nice porcelain set by Mikasa. Is that good for everday use or am I looking at lower cost china? [more inside]
posted by arniec at 9:02 AM PST - 21 comments

Why does my cat chomp on my bare legs when I'm walking around?

YANMC (You are not my cat), but why does my 2 y/o cat attack my legs? Bare legs = Wide, crazy kitty eyes and sideways CHOMP right into my calf. This has been going on for about a month. And I mean MY legs- we've tried to see if she will go after my husband's and she won't! This is not a serious problem; I'm just curious. I'm an experienced cat owner but this is funny and baffling. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by ShadePlant at 9:00 AM PST - 38 comments

Help me buy a bike please

Shopping for a used bike for light commuting and weekend touring. What questions should I be asking? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 8:48 AM PST - 16 comments

Genetic DNA test turns up a surprise... what should I do?

I am a male. I am the family historian. In an effort to fine-tune my own research into my maternal grandfather's family (the "Jones"), I have my male first cousin take a Y-DNA test, since he has the "Jones" Y-Chromosome (I have my Dad's Y chromosome). Lo and behold, the test comes back with a perfect match, and a predicted Most Recent Common Ancestor within 3 generations. I have researched back farther than that and I know all of their names. None of the last names match. My occupation doesn't take me anywhere near genetics... but I am assuming that a Y DNA match with a MRCA that close should have the same surname for his male ancestor, correct? Except if there's been adoption or infidelity or rape, correct? I sent the results to my cousin, prior to the lightbulb going off over my head. He knows a lot less about this than I do. He hasn't called me yet, but what if he does? Should I just let sleeping dogs lie? Ugh!
posted by anonymous at 8:46 AM PST - 24 comments

Can you sue a dead person for libel or slander?

I am writing a novel (and hoping to publish it under a pseudonym), and I was hoping Metafilter's legal experts could provide some guidance: can you sue a dead person for slander and/or libel? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:45 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me pick my baby doctor!

I'm currently 31 weeks pregnant, and this afternoon I'm heading into a "meet and greet" with a new pediatrician at a practice affiliated with the big multi-specialty doctor group in my town. At this point, we're thinking it's pretty likely that we'll either go with the pediatrics group or with the family practice group where my PCP practices, and I had set up this meet and greet to help try to make that decision. However, it's now 5 hours until we head over and I have no clue what to ask this doctor to help us make a decision. I am sure others have probably gone through this before--so help me figure out what to ask! [more inside]
posted by iminurmefi at 8:38 AM PST - 15 comments

Why won't you just leave the package?

We're getting increasingly frustrated with the UPS driver refusing to leave our (no signature required) packages at our front door. Would a small sign help? [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 8:33 AM PST - 20 comments

Good quality hardshell suitcase?

We're looking for a good quality hardshell suitcase - any suggestions on brands and where to buy? A 2 pack would be great - one carry on size, and one slightly larger. [more inside]
posted by needlegrrl at 8:18 AM PST - 3 comments

Restaurant Thanksgiving Options?

Need options for a nice, high-quality restaurant experience for Thanskgiving Day in Columbus OH [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 7:51 AM PST - 4 comments

We're fine, mom

(stop worrying about my husband's employment) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:30 AM PST - 18 comments

Should I tell my wife that I know her family's dark secret?

Sorry for the gothic novel vibe this seems to give off, but it is what it is. There's some unpleasantness in my wife's family's past that I know still troubles her, and that she's never told me about. I know what this secret is, but she doesn't know that I know. Would telling her lift a burden from her, or just stir up trouble? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:28 AM PST - 46 comments

Iceland in the winter

Three friends and I semi-impulse bought tickets to go to Iceland in a month (December 4-8) -- what should we try to do in the short time we're there? Winter-specific suggestions most welcome! [more inside]
posted by aaanastasia at 7:23 AM PST - 6 comments

What percentage of English words have three syllables?

What percentage of English words have three syllables?
posted by reverend cuttle at 7:12 AM PST - 10 comments

How [Not] To Job Search

I've heard it all: "You're Too Professional," "Not Enough Experience," and of course, "Just not the culture fit we're looking for." After three months of non-successful job searching, I've decided to turn to the hivemind for help. [more inside]
posted by nikayla_luv at 7:01 AM PST - 20 comments

Italian business font wanted

Is there a particular font that figuratively says "Italy" and business for a US person who will be reading about an investment in an Italian company? [more inside]
posted by otto42 at 6:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Turkey or house?

Do people generally go house hunting Thanksgiving weekend? I had planned on doing Thanksgiving on Saturday (it is the ONLY day we can), but now that our house is on the market, I fear we may have to forgo it this year.
posted by MayNicholas at 6:26 AM PST - 19 comments

How to make your own massage wax?

I just started a massage course and I'm looking for a good recipe to make my own massage wax. Any professionals out there that want to share their recipe? Thanks!
posted by Sourisnoire at 6:09 AM PST - 1 comment

Headphone and Earbud Recommendations?

Looking for suggestions for headphones and earbuds to purchase for myself. [more inside]
posted by dbirchum at 5:56 AM PST - 12 comments

What are the greatest EU/UK bath & beauty products?

So, every time I go looking for recommendations for makeup, etc. (here, and Makeup Alley, mostly), the majority of highly rated items are US products that are usually impossible or expensive for me to get, which is why I'd like your tips for your top-rated favorite bath and beauty items made-locally / available in Europe at reasonable cost. Maybe I can replace a few things, and find some new gems. [more inside]
posted by taz at 5:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Help dress me - over 40 edition

Looking for websites, blogs, sources for fashion for women of a certain age [more inside]
posted by AMyNameIs at 5:38 AM PST - 13 comments

How will 3rd floor renovations affect us?

If you've ever lived on the first floor and had renovations going on on the third floor/roof (adding dormers, installing plumbing for a bathroom, etc), please tell me your story! I'm trying to figure out if this will be a minor inconvenience (eg, only distant noise) or a major headache (feels like it's happening in my apartment). The building is a 2-family condo with three floors altogether. Thanks!
posted by cider at 5:01 AM PST - 10 comments

Replacing guys

Whats a good group noun to replace guys? [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 3:48 AM PST - 56 comments

Clinical or academic term for "make work" situations?

I'm having trouble searching for articles on this because I don't know the right terms. It's when you have a job that isn't a real job but is instead a very simplified job paid way above the market value in order to provide income and occupation to someone who is otherwise unable to get employment, e.g. creating a simple lawn mowing job for someone with intellectual challenges when you could hire a professional to do the job twice as fast and much cheaper. Does anyone know the correct phrases I can use to find academic or clinical articles on this? I'm especially interested in the phrases social workers would use.
posted by viggorlijah at 3:27 AM PST - 11 comments

It rubs the lotion on its skin...

I'm looking to find / make / adapt a costume for a fine art photoshoot that I'm currently planning. The character in the picture is one from myth, who is said to have a skirt made from flayed human skin. Short of sending Ramsay Snow's a raven or becoming Buffalo Bill, how can I put together a costume that will look as creepy-beautiful as I need? [more inside]
posted by gmb at 3:18 AM PST - 12 comments

Sunday Assembly?

Looking for a Church/not a church [more inside]
posted by InkaLomax at 3:12 AM PST - 10 comments

How to get past four years of misguided limerance?

Around a month ago, I (female, straight, Asian, 21) broke off an engagement (with P, 32) because I had reason to believe a former tutor of mine (B, 26) was interested in me. I've since spoken with the latter and he ignored my emailed request to reconnect. What's more, I discovered that he (B, 26) is sleeping with a variety of 18-yo "sugar babies" on my college campus. (This explains why I see him often; he's not there to see me but to see attractive freshmen he pays for sex.) I feel betrayed because I really loved B and thought he was the perfect guy for me; I'm appalled that he's resorted to such a low that he targets freshmen girls. I wonder if he was only pretending to be interested in me when we met, since I was an 18-year old freshman then and am now older. I've been feeling blue about the entire situation and I'd appreciate any advice on navigating the post-limerance stage. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:25 AM PST - 30 comments

Blocking ebay seller's items from listing?

Is there a way to automatically block an seller's items from showing up in the search results? I'm hoping for a greasemonkey script, but I'll take whatever works. [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 2:08 AM PST - 1 comment

I want to set up a fund for the children of a friend who passed away

A very close and dear friend of mine passed away a few days ago at a very young age and left behind a wife and 2 very young children ages 3 and 1. I would like to set up an investment fund for his children in his memory which people can donate to and will accrue interest until they are ready for college. To increase the chances people will donate I want it to be possible to use paypal or google wallet. I know nothing about finance or laws or any of the things that I imagine come with setting this up. Can anyone advise? Thanks in advance
posted by postergeist at 1:42 AM PST - 5 comments

November 11

Apps created by artists or as part of an artistic project

I'm a journalist looking to write a series of profiles on artists who are using apps, not to create their work, but as part of their output. If you know of any, or where I should look, could you let me know? Cheers.
posted by quarsan at 10:32 PM PST - 14 comments

Buy her out or sell it?

My wife and I are getting divorced, and I'm trying to figure out what to do with the marital home. We have a lot of equity in the place, but also have a not-insignificant amount of joint debt. Equity is probably between $130-$150k. Around $60k other debt (two cars, small credit card, student loans). Help me consider the pros/cons of buying her out of the house (through a cash-out refi) and selling the place. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:27 PM PST - 15 comments

How to get video off the camera

I have a canon camcorder, a mac computer with no hard drive space and cannot figure out how to transfer the video to an external server. [more inside]
posted by turtlefu at 9:14 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me figure out a sustainable exercise and nutrition routine

I used to exercise a lot, generally violent sports like rugby or boxing, but several years ago I got injured and two years ago I got pregnant and I haven't really done much since. I really want to figure out how to get back on the horse -- and while I'm at it eat a little better -- but every time I try to just think about it, the many layers of interacting constraints exhaust me. I'd really appreciate help thinking through these, or ideas about what might work. [more inside]
posted by forza at 9:10 PM PST - 28 comments

How to baby an injury for a newbie runner?

I'm midway through a 13-week beginner's running program. Today was supposed to be a run day for me, but I noticed a little twinge in my ankle last night, and the soreness has persisted. Skipped the run for today, but I'm wondering how long I should rest the ankle before attempting to run again? Spent the day reading about high ankle sprains and freaking myself out, need some advice from experienced runners. [more inside]
posted by Diablevert at 8:58 PM PST - 11 comments

Gift ideas: puzzle, game, or other.

Looking for a gift for my father, who loved the Tetris Cube puzzle, but is the kind of guy to get himself whatever he wants. So, I'm trying to be thoughtful and creative. [more inside]
posted by little_dog_laughing at 8:57 PM PST - 7 comments

Best video games for two?

What are the best collaborative 2-player video games? My husband and I played Mario Galaxy 2 and it was perfect - he player Mario and I played "Starfy" and it worked out great. Are there more games like that for 2 players, where one player (aka me) can be kind of bad at video games? We have a Wii, some computers and are considering getting an Xbox One in the next few months..
posted by annie o at 8:39 PM PST - 19 comments

Helping a partner through life changes

My partner is facing some big life changes, including a new job and loss of a pet, and I'm wondering what small ways I can support him and make life easier for him. [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 8:20 PM PST - 6 comments

Surprise! I'm moving out!

O wise people of AskMeFi, please help me decide if I'm being too impulsive in jumping at a chance to move out of my parents' place. I really want this, but I want to make sure I won't regret it a few months down the road. [more inside]
posted by cucumber patch at 8:08 PM PST - 15 comments

Determine pricing structure for financial portfolio management software

With a couple of friends we are building a very sophisticated system that we believe is vastly superior to anything currently on the market. Our aim are independent financial management companies of any size in Europe (those non-bank companies that manage people's investments by buying and selling stocks, bonds, funds,...). The current market practice heavily penalises the small companies and only few of them can afford a good system. We want to change that. [more inside]
posted by caudingo at 8:01 PM PST - 3 comments

Hats, please!

I need help coming up with famous hats/headwear in popular culture... [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 6:59 PM PST - 59 comments

Former business partner (fbp) is trying to con me

The question is, is it possible to delete Google revision history? I hope not, because that is the proof I have that fbp has changed the revenue percentages we agreed on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:27 PM PST - 11 comments

Help for jaw neuralgia?

In May, I went to my dentist for a deep root cleaning on my upper and lower teeth on the left side (with the right side to be done the following week). After the Novocain wore off, I had the usual mild soreness that has accompanied similar cleanings in the past. However, after a couple of days the pain started to migrate over to the right side (i.e., the side that had not been cleaned), at which point it gradually flared into an intense upper and lower jaw ache that was reminiscent of the pain of getting my braces adjusted or the pain that followed my jaw surgery about 9 years ago. The pain lasted off and on for about a month, then gradually went away – until... [more inside]
posted by scody at 6:01 PM PST - 7 comments

Telemark shop in Boston?

Can anyone recommend a good telemark ski shop in the Boston area that can do a decent boot fitting?
posted by teradude at 5:12 PM PST - 1 comment

Best Wireless Digital Photo Frames?

For Christmas, I'd like to purchase digital photo frames for family members that would allow me to update the photos wirelessly. The reviews for several of the digital wi-fi frames are awful on Amazon. Do you have any recommendations for digital photo frames that specifically come with wi-fi? Or another digital photo frame that would be easy enough for non-tech-savvy people to use? Thank you.
posted by melodykramer at 4:38 PM PST - 8 comments

play audio file, stop, start, so 2 people (diff places) can listen,eval

How can I listen to an audio file (and stop and restart) with a colleague far away, so we can hear it simultaneously and evaluate it? Something like Team Viewer with audio? I've been trying Audacity, holding my cordless phone to the speaker for my colleague, but it's very tiring for me and hard for him to hear. I have an iMac, one colleague has an iPad, other a Windows PC.
posted by judybxxx at 4:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Correlations between orange juice and automobile accidents?

I would like to find a cite-able reference for an anecdote that I heard — drinking orange juice is correlated to a lower frequency of automobile accidents. The point of this example is that correlation is not causation by using a true correlation with a ridiculous causation. But, where did I hear of this example? Is the correlation true? [more inside]
posted by Peter Petridish at 4:03 PM PST - 9 comments

That Used Car Smell