October 2019 Archives

October 14

Heard it through the grapevine?

Can you think of an (android) app that fulfils my vineyard-management-wishlist? [more inside]
posted by any_name_in_a_storm at 11:32 PM PST - 0 comments

New Yorker Baggy Shirts

For years, a small company sold baggy, collared, button-down dress shirts through the mail and advertised in the New Yorker. Apparently they don't advertise anymore. I think they were located in Rhode Island. I've searched and can't find the company.Does anyone know who they are?
posted by tesseract420 at 9:50 PM PST - 0 comments

Help me name my apartment

I just moved and my new apartment hasn't quite told me its name yet. It's definitely something to do with sanctuary, hideaway, garden, forest, oasis, peace... It's also very small, and oddly-shaped, which could contribute to the name but doesn't have to. I've been trying to think of literary/fictional place names, but any ideas along the themes above would be welcome! Note that The Secret Garden has been rejected for I-am-12 reasons.
posted by rhiannonstone at 9:10 PM PST - 17 comments

Portland-centered crappy-road daytrips* for fall and winter

About 6 months ago I bought a new Crosstrek. I would like to make sure I am getting out and doing enough with it to make it worth it. [more inside]
posted by curious nu at 8:44 PM PST - 0 comments

Does fluoride varnish make your teeth ache and is it worth doing for me?

I went to a new dentist today for a new patient intake / 6mo cleaning. They asked me if I wanted a $30 fluoride varnish - something my wonderful old dentist never did. I said ok, and now my teeth hurt. I googled it and nothing much came up - is that normal? Also, how effective is it for an adult of my profile? [more inside]
posted by vegartanipla at 7:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Please Help Me Find This Poem About the Moon

Please help me find the title and author of this poem. My partner put an audio version of it on a CD for me probably 8 years ago - long gone of course. Details below! [more inside]
posted by PuddleWonderful at 6:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Pittsburgh reduce

I used to live in Bloomfield, Pittsburgh. My stuff has been in an attic the last few years because... I need to reduce my large pile of belongings. I figure I'll drop things off to various places. What non-profits would like donated items? Anything specific - like for books, clothes, kitchen items? I partially don't want to overload one place and my PGH knowledge is out of date. Who is rad?!
posted by PistachioRoux at 5:53 PM PST - 3 comments

How realistic would physics be on a modern high end dice simulation?

Let's say that you had professional developers create a simulation of two six sided die impacting a specific material and being thrown in specific ways by an industrial robotic arm. How realistic could you make this given high end modern physics simulation software? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 3:52 PM PST - 12 comments

Should I complain and how? And how to avoid--bad blood draw at lab.

Some people have told me I have "hard to find" veins, so I went to the lab to get bloodwork done instead of at my GP's office after the nurse seemed to be a little unsure/uncomfortable with it. At patient lab today, the person who drew my blood just stuck the needle in hard and energetically and confidently fished around in my arm (ugh) until I told her, "I don't think you're in the right place." [more inside]
posted by Bluebird Wine at 3:11 PM PST - 18 comments

My dog tore his CCL, please help me think through my options!

I have a 4 year old, 72 lb Belgian Shepherd I rescued from the SPCA who was born with hip and elbow dysplasia. His left hip is worse, and he tended to favor that leg, and now he's torn his right CCL (knee ligament) when he ran too hard through the yard. He needs surgery, and I need advice. Please help!! Puppy tax here. His name is Fenris and he is a very good boy. [more inside]
posted by ananci at 2:57 PM PST - 5 comments

Hopeless feelings software development jobs

My husband is a back-end software developer. He has seen a lot of ageism in this field, and is worried about how sustainable it is for him, especially as he is thinking longer term about his career and our life. I'm not in the field so I don't have perspective on this, and I'd really welcome others' thoughts. Separately but relatedly, he also struggles with depression and when this sort of work is very deadline-based with too much happening, he gets really stressed and anxious and can spiral pretty quickly from there. Are there programmer roles that are typically less stressful types of roles that folks would recommend he pursue?
posted by jenbo1 at 2:32 PM PST - 16 comments

Why do airlines in the US let people bring luggage on board?

It happens on every flight I take: the overhead bins fill up with roller bags, so the flight attendants ask if anyone will check their bag at the door. The passengers who take that offer that don't have to pay the $25-ish checked baggage fee that people who checked their bags earlier did. There is no downside for a passenger doing this, as far as I can tell -- either you get to take your extra bag as a carry-on, or you get your bag checked for free. But what's the airlines' motivation for letting this happen? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 1:55 PM PST - 26 comments

Which food/grocery delivery service is best in Richmond, VA?

I was hoping to send a gift card for something like Seamless, GrubHub, Uber Eats, etc., to new parents in the Richmond, VA, area. Do any of those services exist in any real way there? If so, which one offers the most (or best) options? If not, is grocery delivery (e.g., Peapod) an easy/useful alternative?
posted by unknowncommand at 1:50 PM PST - 1 comment

Career not spent sitting at a desk

What are some careers/paths of study for someone smart who has said they don't want to sit in an office their whole life? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 1:23 PM PST - 26 comments

Emergency Halloween costume ideas!

Please help this Halloween costume lazy-head come up with an easy, but fun last minute Halloween costume. [more inside]
posted by melorama at 1:08 PM PST - 18 comments

Does this pattern exist?

I want to make these dragon wings for my kids for Halloween. The pattern maker is no longer in business. Can the pattern be found? [more inside]
posted by tealcake at 12:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Looking for a TV and wall mount with minimal projection

How close can I get a TV to the wall? [more inside]
posted by bajema at 11:40 AM PST - 6 comments

Explain commanding in chief like I'm 5

What were the exact steps in the process of US troops leaving Northern Syria after Trump decided it should be so? [more inside]
posted by nantucket at 11:26 AM PST - 4 comments

Socially conscious jewelry company on Instagram

I'm trying to remember the name of a jewelry business that served me an ad on Instagram that prompted me to follow their account because they used a ton of diverse bodies in their ads and talked about the importance of offering jewelry that fit fat bodies, like larger size rings. I got tired of being tempted by their lovely jewelry so I stopped following them, then eventually I stopped using Instagram so there's no data on any ads I've interacted with since that only goes back 90 days. [more inside]
posted by the thorn bushes have roses at 10:50 AM PST - 5 comments

Expense tracking app (iOS), manual and local?

I'm looking for an expense tracking app that's fully functional in airplane mode (doesn't require a non-local user account or integration with any external accounts/cards) and lets the user both define their own expense categories and eliminate any pre-existing categories.
posted by kalapierson at 10:49 AM PST - 1 comment

Help me plan my dream itinerary for 2 weeks in Southeast Asia

I want to spend 12/20/2019 to 01/04/2020 traveling in Southeast Asia. Help me put together my dream itinerary! [more inside]
posted by panama joe at 9:03 AM PST - 10 comments

iPhone 11 Bluetooth Headphones

Some slight change the iPhone 11 made to Bluetooth broke my Anker Soundbuds Slim's ability to connect. They are working on a hardware update but I'd prefer to be wireless ASAP. Seeking recommendations for wireless headphones that are confirmed working on iPhone 11. I prefer earbuds that are connected and can hang around my neck, I am too afraid of bud only headphones like AirPods flying out away.
posted by yellowbinder at 8:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me figure out a very specific beginner crochet project?

I want to make a very lightweight, simple, crocheted "neck-warmer" (I'm not really sure what to call it); I'm a complete newb at crochet and need a pretty easy pattern / instructions. Help? [more inside]
posted by taz at 8:02 AM PST - 22 comments

Furnish my roof deck

We recently acquired a roof deck, yay! Alas, so many options for outdoor furniture... what are the best value for quality items I can buy? [more inside]
posted by DoubleLune at 7:03 AM PST - 11 comments

Cleaning a Smelly Thrift Store Coat

I have a Persian Lamb coat from a thrift store. Like always, there is that thrift store smell. If I take it to be cleaned at a professional fur cleaner, will the smell likely be gone afterward? From what I understand, they will tumble it with some sawdust and gentle cleaning fluid, then vacuum it, and coat it with conditioning oils. Will any part of the typical process remove the smell? Anyone have direct experience with such things? [more inside]
posted by thegreatfleecircus at 6:59 AM PST - 2 comments

Can I fence with a medical port?

I may be up for some more intense treatment for my multiple myeloma (still collecting second opinions). In the past, I've gotten oral and subcutaneous therapy, but my doc wants to put me on something that requires frequent IVs. I have terrible veins, but I've always resisted getting a port because I thought I'd have to give up fencing. My oncologist says I might be able to fence. What say MeFites? [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 6:46 AM PST - 16 comments

A Blast from the Past

While going through a storage shed, I found a pristine Tandy RL 1000 setup with a dot matrix printer, original diskettes, monitor, PC and catalog. And when I connected all of the peripherals and turned it on, it booted up. I'd heard that these kind of vintage computers are highly sought after. What is it worth, really?
posted by CollectiveMind at 5:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Win10 laptop, suddenly unable to see the wi-fi it's been using for ages.

Love to hear any clever network troubleshooting suggestions you folks may have. Deeply annoying details inside. [more inside]
posted by Sing Or Swim at 5:37 AM PST - 9 comments

Was Upton Sinclair ever recorded reading The Jungle?

I am after public-domain recordings of speeches from suffragists, socialists, communists or other social reformers/utopians! [more inside]
posted by Cantdosleepy at 4:22 AM PST - 3 comments

Corporate IT strategies, small but perfectly formed edition

You are a small (say under 50 people) company. What software tools do you use on a daily basis to get things done? [more inside]
posted by meronym at 4:22 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for passage from Michael Crichton book

The passage I'm searching for is about how the tide is constantly changing. A mother will look at her little boy and think this is forever but time is moving on. The shoreline keeps changing. [more inside]
posted by Coffeetyme at 3:37 AM PST - 1 comment

Energy use in buildings: explain like I'm 5

Why do we focus on reducing the energy demands produced by buildings (like heating and ventilation) if the energy still comes from nonrenewable sources with a high CO2 footprint? More below the fold: [more inside]
posted by luminary at 2:58 AM PST - 13 comments

A MaCy gray area.

Does anyone have any recollection of a live awards type program but not an awards show that was more of a tribute special to the rock and roll genre where I specifically saw an AMAZING cover of Lucy in the Sky with Diamonds sung by Macy Gray? I have been wracking my brain for years trying to find it and I cant remember what station it was on, what year or why it was even on. It was sometime between 1998 and 2003 [more inside]
posted by The_imp_inimpossible at 12:55 AM PST - 4 comments

October 13

Is not-great therapy better than no therapy?

Had my first appointment with a new therapist recently and to be honest she wasn’t great. A couple of small red flags, but my biggest objection was that we weren’t a personality fit. I’m unsure whether to continue. [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 11:51 PM PST - 12 comments

Is Kedah FA playing Tai Po in Alor Setar, Malaysia on 21 January 2020?

I'd like to attend this match, but I can't find out if, when and where this 2020 Asian Football Confederation Champions League preliminary round 2 football game is happening. [more inside]
posted by mdonley at 10:25 PM PST - 0 comments

Why is refrigerator/freezer door hard to open?

My apartment recently got a brand new refrigerator. I've noticed that after opening the freezer or refrigerator door and then closing, I can hear a what sounds like air being sucked in. If I try to open either door, I can't without a LOT of force. After a few minutes of being left alone the door opens okay. It doesn't do this on every open and close, but enough that I'm questioning what's going on.
posted by 922257033c4a0f3cecdbd819a46d626999d1af4a at 10:18 PM PST - 8 comments

How do I manage this?

I'm struggling to communicate to my parents the necessity of taking my elderly maternal grandmother to the hospital when something alarming happens. [more inside]
posted by elsmith at 10:02 PM PST - 7 comments

Coping with megacrunch

It's mega crunch time at work for the next two and a half months. What are your best tips for getting through it and keeping sane and productive? [more inside]
posted by moons in june at 9:16 PM PST - 13 comments

What's Up Bitches?

What's the origin of the phrase "What's up bitches?!" (ref: ERB Winston Churchill vs. Theodore Roosevelt)
posted by The Blue Olly at 8:11 PM PST - 2 comments

Apple ][ game - Labyrinth

Hi all, I'm looking for a disk image for the Apple ][ game Labyrinth shown in this video - last time I did this search I got a bunch of hits for a different game of the same name. Thanks in advance!
posted by AdaJoy at 7:55 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for activity ideas near Minocqua, Wisconsin October 21-26.

We are two people in our 50s headed up to the north woods for a 15th anniversary cabin getaway trip. Not our first time, but we'd like to hear from others about places/things/experiences that are either in Minocqua, Wisconsin (Booth Lake vicinity) or within a day trip from Minocqua that could be fun or interesting to experience. [more inside]
posted by mcbeth at 7:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Where to buy custom basic gold jewelry nowadays?

I want to buy some custom jewelry -- probably a bracelet or necklace, with some kind of engraving of a short message (haven't quite figured out what I want yet). I've had bad and so-so luck with previous jewelry purchased from well-reviewed Etsy sellers, but I also don't want to go to, like, Tiffany. What's in between those two? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 7:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Having my cake and living in it too

I’ve lived in dense cities for my entire adult life and really like most aspects of it. However, I have some hobbies that are noisy and messy (think woodworking, light metalworking) that I have found can be at odds with “polite” apartment living. How/where do I look for living spaces/arrangements where such activities (not every day; more like one weekend a month) are welcome, or at least more tolerated, without having to move out of an urban environment? Is it possible to bring this up with landlords without setting off “POTENTIAL NUISANCE TENANT” alarms in their heads? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 6:06 PM PST - 9 comments

Seeking exemplary qualitative health research presentations

I'm preparing to give a 15-20 minute presentation at a public health conference in November on a qualitative research project I undertook at my former employer. I'd like to review some successful presentations of qualitative health research as I prepare for my presentation. Could you point me to videos of effective conference presentations in this vein that are available for free online? Examples of good slide decks would also be useful. [more inside]
posted by reren at 5:48 PM PST - 1 comment

My beautiful blue broom

I remember seeing for a sale a beautiful broom online many years ago. It was a vivid trap or aquamarine color. It was very pretty, so pretty that the person who posted the link claimed they had painted their kitchen a complementary color in order to display it publicly. I can’t find anything similar for sale online (or not for sale), just cheap plastic stuff. Did I imagine this broom or did it really exist?
posted by bq at 5:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Sources for Learning Pen and Ink Technique

What are your best recommendations for learning to draw with pen and ink? I have some general grasp of composition, but I'm wondering about videos, books, or other sources of technique descriptions, demos, or exercises. [more inside]
posted by cupcakeninja at 4:58 PM PST - 5 comments

Book recommendation: Malcolm X

I'd like to read a good historical book about Malcolm X -- hoping Mefites can recommend one. Ideally it would be light on personal history (except where it informs the following) and more focused on his ideas and how they evolved, his work/relationships/interactions with various groups/movements, how he was perceived (by the US government, by other black leaders, US society, etc.), puts him in historical context, etc. [more inside]
posted by duoshao at 4:50 PM PST - 4 comments

getting a new supervisor; how can I keep my unofficial job perks?

I may type this out in some detail below but I guess the basic question is: what's the best way to convey to a new supervisor, "here's some stuff my old supervisor let me get away with that it is important to me to continue doing?" [more inside]
posted by less of course at 4:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Bedding Wonderland

Recommend the best sheets and comforter for our soon-to-be-delivered California king. I love soft and satiny/silky but not t shirt.
posted by bookworm4125 at 4:00 PM PST - 1 comment

A welcoming fantasy role-playing community? On-line?

Asking for a friend who got her first taste of fantasy role playing when some people asked her to join a weekly D&D game last year. It was very low key and friendly and she had a great time. The game fell apart and she was wondering if she could find something similar on-line since there is nothing else within her local friend network. [more inside]
posted by metahawk at 2:58 PM PST - 3 comments

Songs to commit to

I'm trying to build a playlist of songs about committing to one's art / work / values (or commitment in the abstract, just not in the explicitly romantic sense) -- anything with the theme of not wasting time or hesitating. Help me add to it? [more inside]
posted by Westringia F. at 2:29 PM PST - 18 comments

How to find an MDMA therapist in New York

I wonder how one goes about finding a psychedelic therapist using MDMA in New York. Asking for a scared friend.
posted by DMelanogaster at 2:28 PM PST - 6 comments

Media recommendations about MRA culture

I was recently very interested and moved by reading “Stories About my Brother” by Prachi Gupta (thanks Countess Elena for sharing on the blue!). I’ve had similar but less extreme experiences with a family member getting into MRA culture, and realized I’d like to read more about it and especially about deradicalization and how people have left that subculture or similar subcultures. Looking for books, podcasts and research articles in particular! [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 2:14 PM PST - 3 comments

HElp rescue Orion from MinGW DLL hell

I'm trying to compile some changes I made to 1OOM on WIndows. I've never done this before. I am used to Unix and Mac OS, which are much friendlier to my command-line centered workflow. [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 1:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Meet the parents, en español

My boyfriend and I have been dating for the better part of this year, and we moved in together just over 3 months ago. Now we're discussing hosting Thanksgiving next month and cooking for his parents. Added challenge: I'm white. His parents are Mexican and mostly speak Spanish. He's met my parent and sibling (and it went very well), but I haven't met his parents yet. I want this to go well! I'd love your cultural and linguistic advice. [more inside]
posted by INTJ at 1:25 PM PST - 16 comments

What should I do in Denver?

I have a day by myself in Denver this week. Where should I drink beer and coffee and eat? [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 12:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Michael Caine film quote

This is a long shot but I'm hoping some Michael Caine aficionados on the green can help me out. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 11:49 AM PST - 4 comments

RFC2812 RPL_MYINFO Parsing

RFC2812 indicates two mode sets in a response. I'm seeing three. What is the last set of mode characters (bkloveqjfI) for? [more inside]
posted by Johnny Waterbed at 11:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Need good item for pet hair on hardwood floor

I have a house where the downstairs is entirely hardwood floors and I have two dogs who shed moderately. I am looking for your advice for either a cordless stick vacuum or a robot vac. I don't want to spend typical Dyson prices, but want something effective for just hardwood. I do not want canister or big vacuums. Any pet owners with recommendations for what has worked well for you? Didn't work well? Thanks!
posted by Rad_Boy at 10:31 AM PST - 15 comments

Resources for Iraqi immigrant family new to Dallas

Asking for a friend of a friend - an Iraqi translator is moving with their family to Dallas. Unfortunately, don't have more details than that, but do you know some immigrant-friendly organizations/services in Dallas that could be useful for them? [more inside]
posted by Geameade at 10:06 AM PST - 4 comments

I command thee . . . name that book or movie!

I read a book, maybe 5-10 years ago, probably a magical type fantasy book (or possibly movie or tv) where one of the characters had the ability to issue commands through some supernatural power when he or she was speaking. I remember it in my head like the person saying "Shut the door" in a normal voice, but a deep, magically reverberating, maybe slowed down version of his voice said the command at the same time, and other characters were compelled in a zombie-like way to shut the door. Ringing any bells? South Park? Harry Potter? Heroes?
posted by bluesky78987 at 8:19 AM PST - 10 comments

Neighborhood to stay in Valencia Spain

What part of the Valencia Spain would be good for us to rent an apartment for a week? Family of 4, 2 adults 2 teenage daughters. We like to be able to walk to markets, restaurants, etc. and enjoy the vibe of the city. We want to have a place with the ability to cook some of our own meals, do laundry, etc. This is probably something we'll book with airbnb, but if there are other options I'd be interested.
posted by mcstayinskool at 6:47 AM PST - 0 comments

Mr. 40, E and Mr. $hort, Too?

What is the correct way to refer to persons in writing with non-"traditional" names, say, stage/performance names like the rappers "Too Short" and "E-40"? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 6:46 AM PST - 15 comments

What is visible to someone whose proxy server I'm using?

For work, I am visiting a university that has a very strict firewall. Like, I can't even access Outlook (which is where my work email and calendar live), Google Drive (where all my work files live), or Zoom and Skype (which I need for work-related meetings). A colleague here has shared his proxy server settings with me so I can bypass this firewall and access these things. What potential privacy implications should I be aware of? Assume I know nothing about networking. I only have a wikipedia-level knowledge of what a proxy server even is. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 4:54 AM PST - 9 comments

SF/Fantasy Movie/Show ID

Posted for a family member: I'm going crazy trying to remember what show or movie I saw a certain plot thread in. Probably fantasy or SF or pseudo-historical, involving an exotic, backward culture with a superstition that twin births were a form of defect in which a single person was born with two bodies, so that a pair of identical twins was raised as a single individual, and natives had a taboo against acknowledging that there was more than one person present, got confused when outsiders asked for the second twin's name, etc. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Scam calls from foreign numbers that appear as domestic

How does one caller ID system show me a different number for the same caller. One has +1 (appearing as a US Domestic call), the other does not (appearing as International). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:48 AM PST - 2 comments

How do I turn my iPhone into a dictaphone?

I want an iPhone app that will let me make multiple short voice recordings over the course of the day, appending them to a single audio file instead of creating a new recording each time. I also want this to be very quick—just open the app, press REC, and talk. (I don’t want to open the app, select a recording, select edit... etc. This is why Voice Memos isn’t doing it for me.) Basically I want to use my phone like Agent Cooper uses his dictaphone. Is there an app that will let me do this?
posted by No-sword at 12:19 AM PST - 3 comments

October 12

Excel - assign value to cell in irregular grid for a planted wall

Hi everyone, I'm working on a timber crib wall with a builder. With crib walls you can have planted cells across the wall according to some simple rules*. I want as random a pattern as possible so wondered if it was possible to do this in Excel 2016. I hope this sort of job would come up more often and this would simplify the design process. [more inside]
posted by unearthed at 11:55 PM PST - 5 comments

Cork handbags: durable?

I'm considering purchasing a cork handbag. Are cork "leather" bags durable and long lasting for daily use? [more inside]
posted by holyrood at 9:13 PM PST - 7 comments

e-book libraries with privileges for nonresidents?

Are there e-book lending libraries I can join that I don't have to show residence? I'm not talking about the public domain stuff like gutenberg. I know gutenberg, I love gutenberg, but that's not what I mean. I mean a lending library where I can check out e-books like I do from my local libraries. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 8:24 PM PST - 21 comments

Northern Virginia couples counselor, challenge level autism

Do you know a couples counselor with experience with couples where one partner is on the autism spectrum and the other isn't? Location is Northern Virginia, ideally in the Reston/Herndon area. [more inside]
posted by at home in my head at 7:26 PM PST - 1 comment

Word processor on the IBM 5150

What word processor would have been available to use on the IBM 5150 (the first IBM desktop PC)? My dad is trying to remember what he would have used when he bought the PC in 1982.
posted by CiaoMela at 7:01 PM PST - 9 comments

Transporting parent with dementia across the country

Greetings! My mother is in a declining state of dementia and lives in an assisted living facility in upstate New York, near my brother. For several reasons, my brother and I will be moving her to a memory care home in California, near me, within the next month or so. We need to act quickly as this is all happening much faster than expected. [more inside]
posted by htm at 6:45 PM PST - 15 comments

kindle dictionaries help

I'm reading a novel on my Kindle 4 and it's in English but has a lot of French phrases that I want to look up. [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 5:35 PM PST - 2 comments

Kitchen chemistry question

I tried making a lemon poppyseed loaf mix with vinegar plus baking soda as an egg substitute, to middling success. Then I drank some “light” pink lemonade—again from a mix—and it tasted terrible. Not bubbly, just unpleasant. Now that I’ve been finished with my slice for a while, the same glass of lemonade tastes fine. What kind of reaction happened? [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 5:00 PM PST - 3 comments

I want to see some magic

I live in the SF Bay Area and I'd like to see one of these cool magicians I keep reading profiles of. Anyone with a finger on the pulse of the modern magic scene can direct me to an upcoming performance I can check out?
posted by latkes at 4:34 PM PST - 2 comments

Friends’ opinions of new dating prospect

I just started dating again after some time away and have met someone whom I feel tentatively good about so far. My friend made a pretty negative comment about him and I’m having a hard time getting out of my head about it. Help me get perspective. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 4:09 PM PST - 49 comments

Alternatives to my fitness pal?

I’ve been using MyFitness Pal for weight loss and have been happy with it. For reasons, I now need an alternative, ideally an app. Please give me your suggestions! [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 3:07 PM PST - 11 comments

Interesting documentary biology films for university students

My department has a Biology Film Series that showcases documentary films on biological topics; we then have a discussion on the ideas presented in the film. We would like some more ideas of different films to screen. Please give me recommendations for films! Caveats inside. [more inside]
posted by Peter Petridish at 2:31 PM PST - 6 comments

Which are the top CS colleges in Australia?

So just like the title says, which are the best programs. I'm looking for a master's in science. I want to do research but I'd also like a university that has an entrepreneurial focus as well as strong industry connections. I don't know much about Australian universities. Thanks in advance.
posted by Tarsonis10 at 2:04 PM PST - 8 comments

Anyone know a reliable Mac person north of Burbank?

Have a friend with an older mac with a virus (resourcessource), may need to restore from hard drive backup and time machine :) 10.13.6 (high sierra)
posted by tilde at 1:50 PM PST - 0 comments

Do I really have to eat oatmeal for a year?

How do you figure out what is triggering your migraines? I believe I have been having migraines for a couple of years, but its only recently that I've realised the things I THOUGHT were causing my headaches (noisy children, gin and tonics, an iphone, and stress) are not the main culprits. Or not the only ones anyway. [more inside]
posted by catspajammies at 1:34 PM PST - 26 comments

Which of These Canon Printers is the Best?

Bought a new - not in box - Canon Pixma MX395 - the paper feeder doesn't work - and now am looking for the best model among these - MG-3650-white, MG-3150, MG-3155, MX-524, MG-3650-red, MX-525, MG-2150, MG-4140, MG-3650, MX-375, MG-3550, MG-2250, MX-475, MG-2255, MX-535, MX-515, MG-4250, MX-370, MG-3140, MX-435, MX-455, MX-454, MG-3250, MG-2140, MG-3255, MG-4150 for which I can use the 2 brand new inks that I purchased. Anything better than the MX395. Thank you.
posted by watercarrier at 1:18 PM PST - 1 comment

Difference in emotional maturity when dating

I am seriously considering parting ways with someone I've been seeing romantically. I think we are now at different stages of emotional maturity and want really different things. Knowing my own limitations and inexperience, though, I turn to you, AskMeFi, for feedback and insight. [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 1:15 PM PST - 11 comments

My dad is in recovery from major surgery; need a big long checklist.

My dad just had major emergency surgery; they didn't think he was going to live, but now he is apparently quite stable. He is lucid when he's awake, and so far he can easily answer random and fun, non-complicated yes/no questions, but he's otherwise nonfunctional, and recovery will be slow. My mom and I are trying to come up with a mega checklist of everything we should do. [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 1:09 PM PST - 20 comments

Mum threatening to divorce my 75yr old dad

Following my previous post about mum threatening to leave my sis out of the will/give her almost nothing if she doesn't care for them in old age, mum is now threatening to divorce dad every time he doesn't do what she says, and has many blow-up rows with him. Dad says she's been the main driver of my abuse in the house. They are so old and everything is so messy I don't know how to react. Any advice welcome. [more inside]
posted by abbagoochie at 12:54 PM PST - 15 comments

(How) can I use my Surface Pen in an app running on an emulator?

For my sins, I frequently need to mark up a lot of student papers submitted through the an online system called "Canvas." They only offer rudimentary pen support in their web app. Apparently it works great in their "Canvas Teacher" app on Android, but that leaves my Surface Go-owning self out in the cold. Sadly, neither the pen nor pinch-to-zoom works for me when I tried using Canvas Teacher in Bluestacks. Is there an emulator out there that will work? It doesn't have to be free. [more inside]
posted by col_pogo at 12:16 PM PST - 1 comment

Punk and what else aren't dead?

A recognizable punk subculture has existed — across generations, mostly without help from nuclear families and major institutions, and in a way that goes much, much deeper than just a musical genre — for 45 years and counting. What multigenerational subcultures have lasted longer? Historical ones that fizzled out long ago and modern ones that are still going both count. [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone at 12:13 PM PST - 25 comments

What's the easiest way to get kids playing Minecraft together?

I am a teen librarian and there is interest in having a Minecraft Club at the library. The last time we did this (2 years ago) we used laptops running the Java edition. I understand now that the Bedrock version is compatible with more devices and might make it easier for more kids to play. [more inside]
posted by Biblio at 11:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me find two CBC radio specials on 3 Mile Island

Years ago I heard two CBC radio specials on the Three Mile Island disaster, or possibly one with two parts? Could I get some help finding them? I think one or both of them might have been part of the Ideas series. [more inside]
posted by Canageek at 11:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Children's books: Historical

Seeking recommendations for kids books (from picture books to middle grade) that are set in a historical period/help teach history. Primary criteria: Fun and Accuracy [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 10:33 AM PST - 16 comments

Cleaning/Sanitizing a Friend's Portable Toilet

During the recent Northern California blackout, I was without power and water (my home is on a well). An awesome co-worker loaned me a Thetford Porta Potti portable toilet. Yay! Now I have power back, so I want to return the toilet. What the hell is the appropriate level of sanitation/cleaning required, both in terms of "You loaned me something to poop in" and "This is a semi-specialized piece of camping equipment that probably requires some amount of babying"? [more inside]
posted by lazuli at 8:55 AM PST - 11 comments

Safe or Sorry: cooked chicken bought last Sunday

Last Sunday I bought chicken tenders (not breaded) wrapped in bacon -- pre-cooked and refrigerated -- from a bakery that sells ready to eat meals, then forgot to eat them! They haven't moved from the refrigerator since then. What say you AskMe? Safe to eat or not?
posted by duoshao at 5:52 AM PST - 29 comments

Why would a bank not evict after a foreclosure and collect insurance?

I am trying to help a friend figure out their housing situation. Her home has been foreclosed on and the bank was the winning bidder at the Sheriff’s auction, which in our state means the bank is essentially the owner of the home. As I understand it, they should be able to evict them and file an insurance claim on the mortgage covering the unpaid balance of the mortgage plus legal expenses and Sheriff’s fees, but they are not and are trying to sell the house at a private auction. Why? [more inside]
posted by Short End Of A Wishbone at 3:01 AM PST - 8 comments

I have an idea, what next?

I have an idea for a product. It isn’t groundbreaking, like it won’t change the world, but is something that doesn’t seem to exist but could be used worldwide (I think). The design would technically be adapting design(s) for things that already exist but which haven’t been used for this purpose. I have no experience at all in manufacturing/selling/making prototypes. I am in the UK but not England. Where on earth do I start, if only to hear from a person who knows: “forget it”, or ideally: “great idea! Here’s what you need to do...”
posted by anonymous at 12:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Repatriating relative with severe mental health issues from Aus to NZ

My Kiwi relative is suffering from severe delusions and hallucinations but can appear normal to people who don't spend an extended period of time with her. She was house-sitting for me in Melbourne when I was overseas and the neighbours contacted me regarding her verbally aggressive behaviour while I was away. I've paid for temporary accommodation as I promised the neighbours she would move out, plus I found it hard to be patient with her regarding her delusions as most of her conversations are about them. She and I are on good terms. She doesn't want to go back to New Zealand. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:24 AM PST - 2 comments

October 11

Anxiety About Vegas

I have a conference starting on Wednesday, in Vegas. I will be there for about three days. I have autism, and pretty severe anxiety. [more inside]
posted by PinkMoose at 11:49 PM PST - 9 comments

Therapist recommendations in NYC?

Can you recommend me a therapist in midtown/downtown Manhattan or Brooklyn? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Time to let our bunny go?

We have an elder bun with health problems who was declining, but now seems to be perking up again. Is this a sign of recovery, or is this a last wind before the end? (Plus there's a time issue here as well). [more inside]
posted by gtrwolf at 9:28 PM PST - 5 comments

Nice fiction to read aloud

My boyfriend and I are looking for a novel to read aloud together — preferably YA fantasy, but other fiction is good too. Something interesting enough to hold adults' attention, but simple and peaceful enough to read at sleepytime. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by Banknote of the year at 9:16 PM PST - 18 comments

How should I propagate this begonia cutting?

I recently bought a Begonia pavonina cutting that I'm hoping to grow into a houseplant. Can I propagate it in water or do I have to do that bonkers thing where you stick the leaf in soil? [more inside]
posted by evidenceofabsence at 7:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Tea: Second Course

Micro McGee, 8, is a tiny Anglophile. He had a day off school last week and I took him to afternoon tea at a local pub. NOW ALL HE WANTS IS TEA-MEAL, which I'm going to make at home. But I don't love scones enough to eat them that often. What can I substitute? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:23 PM PST - 31 comments

Ube Powder in SF?

Where can I buy ube (or less ideally, taro) powder in San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by wym at 5:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Should I write my boss this email before I quit?

Should I write my boss this email before I quit, asking him why he handled it the way he did? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 4:56 PM PST - 39 comments

Car collision where only car has damage - what do you do about insurance

Let's say hypothetically you backed up into another vehicle, but only your vehicle has damage. Would you call your insurance company? What would you say? [more inside]
posted by Mushroom12345 at 4:44 PM PST - 9 comments

Should I do this, or get my accountant to do this?

Canada Revenue Agency Filter! I recieved a letter from the CRA (an official one, not a scam) that they're reviewing the tuition fees I claimed on my taxes. I read the letter, and understand which form (T2202A) and which tax schedule I need to send to them (Schedule 11). However, for the first time in my life I had an accountant do my taxes... should I get my accountant to do this? This seems easy enough to do on my own, but I'm also being cheap. [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 4:30 PM PST - 4 comments

Mitsubishi HVAC -- residential v. commercial systems?

HVAC nerd question: long tragic story how this happened, but our Mitsubishi installer just completed the job for our house (New York City, northern Bronx). Only then did we learn what actual systems were installed: a commercial system in a residential deployment. [more inside]
posted by cloudscratcher at 4:15 PM PST - 2 comments

Best games with that gotta-catch-em-all vibe

What games should I play on a (somewhat elderly) MacOS laptop or an iphone that are RPG ish but focused on large, complex sets of things to collect and tasks to do that aren't repetitive? [more inside]
posted by 100kb at 3:12 PM PST - 9 comments

Program(s) that backs up my iPod Classic and iPhone 7

I'm looking for a program that will backup my iPhone 7 and also my iPod Classic. One that will preserve my playlists on my iPod and also my notes, texts, pictures, etc from my iPhone. iMazing has said that can't do that, and iTunes is a crazy maze to navigate, but I am willing to try if that's my only option. If there are two separate programs that do this, I'm open to that as well. Thank you!
posted by Kombucha3452 at 3:06 PM PST - 1 comment

Rectocele surgery - how good or bad is it?

My GP has referred me to a surgeon to find out what can be done about my rectocele (and possibly cystocele). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM PST - 1 comment

how to save/invest on someone else's behalf

I have just inherited around $150,000 and want to earmark this money for the care of an elderly relative. Assuming that I will be withdrawing around $500 a month for his general expenses (cell phone, internet, etc.), but want to have the ability to make larger withdrawals if other expenses come up (moving, medical/dental expenses not covered by medicare), what kind of bank/investment account should I put this in? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me identify this old beer!

In this photo, there is a can of beer. What is it? [more inside]
posted by witchen at 2:42 PM PST - 5 comments

Japanese translation requests

Can anyone translate for me a variety of inscriptions on Japanese prints, and one on the label of a carved Buddha? Any additional information about the prints and Buddha appreciated as well! Details within. [more inside]
posted by beagle at 1:40 PM PST - 3 comments

Should I Try to DTR? Or Live with Doubt, But in the Present?

I am 35 years old, and divorced now for a little over 2 years. I've done the rebound, lived to regret it, and taken a step back and evaluated myself. I've removed toxic people from my life, and gotten my shit straight (mostly). When I was least expecting it, I seem to have met someone with a bit more promise than the usual catch and release, and he seems to feel similarly about me. However... it has been a really long time since I have been here, and I've certainly never been here when I've had a healthy perspective on myself and relationships. [more inside]
posted by Quincy at 12:59 PM PST - 9 comments

Disappointed Millennial to Despairing Doomer

It's the Millennial from this question. Five years later, I've gone from disappointment to out-and-out despair. I'm not sure how to move forward. [more inside]
posted by MetaFilter World Peace at 12:01 PM PST - 24 comments

Cargo pants that don't look like cargo pants

It appears Dockers has discontinued my two favorite pants. Both were "cargo" pants, but not in a traditional sense where the cargo pockets were external and bulky -looking. Need a substitute. Details follow ... [more inside]
posted by jrchaplin at 11:53 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find in NYC the "Abbey Road" 50th Anniversary edition on vinyl

For a friend's birthday tomorrow, I'm looking for a vinyl edition of the 50th Anniversary Abbey Road in Manhattan or Brooklyn preferably. Just the single record, not the deluxe set. I haven't had any luck (or much time) calling around to shops the past couple days. Has anyone seen it anywhere or know who might have it in stock? There's no time to have it shipped.
posted by theory at 11:45 AM PST - 2 comments

How to Introduce Someone to the Fab Four

How would you introduce a young adult to the Beatles? [more inside]
posted by Chuffy at 11:33 AM PST - 31 comments

Rooms to Go equivalent in Seattle

I've heard good things about Rooms to Go from people who live near one, but they don't exist near Seattle. What's the closest equivalent? [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 11:25 AM PST - 1 comment

What is the green thing reading

Not entirely sure if this is too broad of a question, but I've picked up some really good books that get mentioned here, like When things fall apart by Pema Chödrön and The gift of fear by Gavin de Becker that i probably wouldn't have come across them otherwise. what are books that you recommend or have seen recommended on the green that rock? I'm basically open to any genre. TIA!
posted by speakeasy at 10:14 AM PST - 13 comments

Is there a name for drumming riff, and what are other examples?

In the (awesome) Stand Atlantic song Roses, there's a quiet section, then two crashes, then the song picks up again (2:23, here). I feel like I've heard this a bunch in rock before. I'm wondering if this "telegraphing with cymbal crashes" of an upcoming tempo change has a name, and what are some other examples.
posted by Gorgik at 10:10 AM PST - 7 comments

Use it or lose it?

Is anyone familiar with a video game where the player's skills fade or diminish with disuse (ideally in a clear way)? We're working to teach my son about how practice maintains skills, even if it doesn't improve them. Since most games have a user reach a "level" and maintain skills at that point, he (and now I) wanted to know if there were any games where you can lose skills through disuse?
posted by TofuGolem at 9:46 AM PST - 8 comments

Any leads for dealing with Facebook lockout hell?

I'm caught in the Facebook Lockout paradox, with a software bug thrown in for good measure. PLEASE HELP ME OBI-WAN [more inside]
posted by dbiedny at 9:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Tests and conditions to consider for recurrent nausea/vomiting

My 60 year old mother is having nausea after almost every meal and 5-7 day bouts of vomiting every few months. She sees a new GI next week, but this hasn’t been taken seriously in the past. YANHD, but can you help me make a list of tests she should ask about and conditions they should try to rule out? [more inside]
posted by bananacabana at 9:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Dealing with nightmare coworker

How do you deal with a crappy, condescending male coworker? [more inside]
posted by marfa, texas at 9:00 AM PST - 9 comments

Rip an interactive DVD to create a playable video file not on DVD

My company owns an interactive DVD we use to teach safety protocols (videos show scenarios, then you're supposed to select the correct answer on a screen to move forward). We'd like to convert it to a playable video file that doesn't need the actual DVD to play. I opened it up with Handbrake and pulled out each video section, but (obviously) the interactive part is killed. How can I rip a copy-protected, interactive DVD and make a computer-playable video file that is also interactive? Software and more inside. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 8:37 AM PST - 10 comments

What's up with this HVAC setup?

We are looking at a house that is 100-ish years old. The ducting system is not one I'm familiar with and I'm wondering if it's going to be an issue or not. I've been looking online and I can't seem to find a name for it. [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 7:58 AM PST - 5 comments

British pre-WWII girls' boarding schools: help me find book listing them

Many years ago I was stuck in a place with very little to read. There were two battered volumes, possibly from the 1930s, but very possibly older, that were sort of catalogs of British boarding schools for girls. I don't mean each was the catalog for an individual school. Each book compiled numerous entries for discrete and unrelated schools. Each entry listed characteristics of a school: there were pictures of buildings, lists of all the subjects they taught, lists of sports available, tuition, etc. Does anyone know what such volumes were called?
posted by mareli at 7:56 AM PST - 5 comments

what actually IS flirting

What is the difference between friendly conversation and flirting? Recently I was told that I am a flirt but I am not aware of being one or of going into conversations with the intention of flirting. What are some key hallmarks of flirting as opposed to regular friendly conversation? [more inside]
posted by unicorn chaser at 7:43 AM PST - 32 comments

Car insurance for a car you haven't bought yet?

Hello I am an adult. I am planning to buy a car from a dealership for the first time in my life (a used car.) I currently have zero cars. How do I legally drive the car home? Do I get insurance before I have the car? I don't know when I'm buying the car. So I need to pay for insurance for a car I don't have yet and may not have for a few weeks? I am confused, help me.
posted by Automocar at 6:50 AM PST - 11 comments

Struggling with a childcare option for a kid with special needs?

My three year old daughter has a speech delay (or perhaps disorder - too early to tell, it seems). I'm at a childcare crossroads and genuinely don't know what to do. Any thoughts? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 3:42 AM PST - 14 comments

Best freeware for PDFs

Has anyone sorted through the Adobe Acrobat-mimicking freeware (or "cheap-ware?") to figure out which is best? Here is literally all I want to do: highlight words; add comments; and insert, delete, and rearrange pages. Even any one of these would be super helpful. Is it possible to get this for less than $8-15/month in some way? I'm willing to pay some small one-time cost. Thanks for any recommendations!
posted by salvia at 12:14 AM PST - 13 comments

October 10

Give me the smarts

I have a need for brain focus tasks that I'm not getting just living my ho hum life. I look for downloads in Play Store that have brain teasers but all I see are variations of the same Majong and Find the Hidden item. [more inside]
posted by The_imp_inimpossible at 10:16 PM PST - 17 comments

How to save the planet - one protest song at a time

My friend has written a climate change protest song. It's beautifully simple and he's not ready to share the lyrics. I get to do the animation for the video, and rather than just showing what's going wrong, I want to show what we as individuals can do right beyond recycling and not over-consuming. You know, plant a tree, plant bee friendly things, take public transport... I have 3 minutes and 15 seconds.
posted by b33j at 9:55 PM PST - 13 comments

Black or white best with brown

I'm buying IKEA KALLAX shelving and the size that I want only comes in black & white. The room also has a large heavy teak-color bookshelf that has to stay. I don't think they will be sitting directly next to each other but I'm not sure either. There's going to be a lot of the Kallax shelving eventually. I know that none of this is going to be optimal but do you think the black or white Kallax would be the least ugly? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 2:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Paris filter: looking to spend NYE in Paris, with the locals

What it says on the tin. My friend and I have a [long] layover in Paris coinciding with NYE, and would like to spend it at a bar. Many of the previous recommendations on here are a few years old, so I'm wondering if there might be newer, more relevant suggestions. [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 2:19 PM PST - 3 comments

What the FUCK progesterone?!

These drugs were supposed to stop my period. Which I just got. It's been well over a decade since my TCOYF days and I just realised I have no idea what's going on or why. [more inside]
posted by DarlingBri at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments

What to do with a possibly abandoned bonus cat?

For the past year or so, we've been feeding a neighborhood cat, with the knowledge of the cat's owner. I'm pretty sure the owner has since moved and left the cat behind. I don't know what to do now. [more inside]
posted by Ruki at 12:46 PM PST - 13 comments

What is wrong with my computer/browser?

My Google searches (in Gmail and in browser) are autofilling with "team reviled". Running antivirus turns up nothing. Google fu is failing me. Help!
posted by obliquity of the ecliptic at 12:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Alternative Face Protection For Skiing

I wear a Seirus Combo Scarf for skiing, but I dislike the Hannibal Lecterness/ inability to easily slide it down off my face to have a conversation. All the alternatives I look at - e.g. balaclavas - don't have mouth/ nose ventilation, which are critical to prevent goggle steaming and breath dampness. What alternatives are there to my Lecter mask, or, how do folks wear balaclavas without steaming up their goggles?
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 11:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Give us your easiest, no-hassle sauce recipes

Looking for dead simple sauces I can make by stirring things together and then add to something that is already cooked/prepared. In other words, these sauces shouldn't require cooking, or much chopping, or hauling out appliances like the blender or the food processor. (Brief heating in the microwave is fine, as is chopping a small sprinkling of herbs or maybe pressing some garlic.) I want sauces I can put on something that is already cooked--not something I need to cook other things IN. So stirfry sauces are out. [more inside]
posted by CiaoMela at 11:21 AM PST - 46 comments

Dictionary or thesaurus which gives reading level of a word

I could swear that I saw this somewhere: you look up a word, and the reading level is provided next to it. Or the percentage of English speakers who know the word. Have I seen this, or do I just wish it existed? I've checked several sources and can't find it!
posted by onecircleaday at 10:25 AM PST - 7 comments

What is this thing? Copper cremation artifact identification help please

What is this thing? It came along with some cremated remains from 1935 (but was not holding said remains). [more inside]
posted by natabat at 9:25 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I pursue a PhD?

I can't find any real guidance or documentation online re: PhD application processes -- there are just a lot of think pieces about why you shouldn't pursue a PhD. So I guess my question is: when considering a PhD, where do you start; do I need to have everything mapped out before I begin applying + requesting letters, or do I email professors my request and figure it out as I go? [more inside]
posted by mrk021 at 9:11 AM PST - 29 comments

Float My Boat

The little boat I've made tips me out; how do I make a boat that doesn't? I want to be [more inside]
posted by anadem at 8:53 AM PST - 19 comments

Extremely short permadeath games?

I like reading the wikis and watching different ending videos of games like Until Dawn and Fire Emblems where the ending changes depending on who dies during your run. But these are long games, at least for me, and I'm not going to replay the whole thing to compare changes. Are there any very short games where permadeath has narrative consequences? [more inside]
posted by gaybobbie at 8:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Help for Newbie to Gym Etiquette

For my son's birthday this year, my one sister gifted us with a membership to a pool club near us that specializes in disabled kids and families. It's really nice - lap pool, wade in pool with splash pad, an area for water basketball, and a lazy river with a 10 person jacuzzi whirlpool in the middle. They also have a basketball court, an open gym, a gathering room, and a tiny gym. [more inside]
posted by 80 Cats in a Dog Suit at 7:37 AM PST - 27 comments

What should I expect from an iphone SE with 85% battery capacity?

I just bought a new-used iphone SE in generally good shape. The battery capacity/health indicator says 85% capacity and that it's at "peak performance capability," but it arrived totally drained, gets slightly warm during charging, and seems to drain quite quickly. Is this normal for a phone of this age/condition? [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 6:18 AM PST - 28 comments

Coping with disability

Being disabled doesn't fit my internal narrative as a high achieving, fitness oriented person. I am in therapy and we are addressing this, but I wanted to hear from others that transitioned from able bodied to disabled physically to see how you made that process happen on a mental level. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 6:12 AM PST - 15 comments

Software for a courier - a van tablet?

We have a delivery driver for our warehouse - it would be REALLY cool to have a tablet permanently mounted in the van to which we could send his list of jobs, and which he could use with Google Maps to route him from point to point. [more inside]
posted by dance at 6:07 AM PST - 4 comments

Travel mug that DOESN'T keep things megahot but still keeps a good seal?

I know this might be a contradiction in terms, but I would like a durable (not glass) travel mug, preferably 16oz, that won't leak but also allows me to drink my darn coffee a little more quickly. Does this exist? [more inside]
posted by wellred at 5:59 AM PST - 23 comments

How to use gmail correctly with multiple accounts?

I've been using Gmail with multiple accounts and aliases successfully for ages, but yesterday discovered that a number of my colleagues' emails were going direct to spam. So I whitelisted our organisation's email domain, and now every time I send an email as one of my aliases I get a copy of that email in my gmail inbox. How do I stop it? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 2:30 AM PST - 2 comments

Party Hat construction help needed!

I need to make a party hat out of construction paper with very specific diameter and vertical length measurements. The instructions I have found online don't seem to allow one to perform such fine-tuning. The party hat I require should have a diameter of 7 1/2 in. (radius 3 3/4 in.) and a vertical length (or slant height) of 15 13/16 in. What's the best and/or easiest way of doing this and ensuring that the measurements are spot on?
posted by tenderly at 1:50 AM PST - 14 comments

October 9

Tablet, phonebook or kindle for academic pdfs?

I have 4-8 months of research work which involves reading a huge stack of PDFs, plus scanned pages. I have to go places and move around during the day and I would like a mobile option. I'm not worried about keyboards or annotating, I use a rocketbook for that. What should I get or do I just get used to hauling my laptop everywhere? [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 10:56 PM PST - 14 comments

I don't like having my brains picked.

People often ask me for tips about how to break into my desirable freelance career. I help them, and then I feel bad after. Help talk me through this? [more inside]
posted by nouvelle-personne at 8:09 PM PST - 27 comments

Which are the best universities for CS in Canada?

I want to apply for a master in science in Canada. I intend to apply to the obvious choices like UBC, University of Toronto and University of Waterloo. I'm not sure about who else has a good program so I thought I would ask about this. On a side note, I don't really have any research experience. I meet all the other requirements for those universities. Is it a problem to have no research experience for a master in science that requires a thesis? Also, I'd be an international student.
posted by Tarsonis10 at 7:23 PM PST - 9 comments

Can I “fat wash” whiskey without a sous vide setup?

This cocktail recipe calls for a sesame oil fat washed whiskey. The fat-washing directions call for sous vide-ing, but I don’t have a sous vide setup. Can I achieve the same effect without the sous vide?
posted by hapticactionnetwork at 7:17 PM PST - 6 comments

In NYC, is it illegal to write on illegal signs?

New York City is awash in unlicensed illegal ads wheatpasted on construction sites, walls, everywhere. Is it illegal to write on the ads with a marker? [more inside]
posted by history is a weapon at 6:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Credit card company lowered credit limit

Would it help to pay it down to 30% or less (I'm considering the C/D ratio) if I have the money lying around? [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 5:20 PM PST - 6 comments

silicone paste vs silicone grease vs silicone spray lube

What are the differences? What are the pros and cons ,and suited uses, of each? Hopefully someone here can sort this out for me. Also, where possible, can you please cite reputable sources for the info because I have seen many people claim personal knowledge that contradicts other people's personal knowledge. Such is the internet, I know. Thanks!
posted by atm at 4:26 PM PST - 8 comments

Baking Soda Chemistry: how much....

I want to use baking soda and vinegar to produce carbon dioxide bubbles. The grocery store vinegar is described as having 5% acidity (not how it would be described in chem class!). How much baking soda should I use for, say, 1 quart of vinegar? [more inside]
posted by SemiSalt at 3:18 PM PST - 14 comments

Google suggested articles - no politics?

I've been enjoying the feature an Android where I get suggestions for articles that might interest me. This pretty accurately guesses what is of interest to me, with one curious omission. I spend about an hour daily, during my commute, on politico, washingtonpost, cnn, huffingtonpost etc. and read tons of articles about Trump, congress, impeachment, the whole thing, but I never get any articles related to politics in my recommendations. What's up with that? [more inside]
posted by SweetLiesOfBokonon at 3:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Fun feminist songs

Hi there internet friends! I've really been craving some poppy, fun, feminist songs. Please share! [more inside]
posted by hotchocolate at 2:16 PM PST - 51 comments

Passive House Systems required in floodplains?

Are there any cities/communities requiring PHS in new buildings in floodplains to system to reduce carbon footprint?
posted by ebesan at 2:07 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I meet other parents in my age bracket (late 40s)?

One of the toughest things about getting divorced has been the loss of family friends who have kids roughly the same age as mine (7 & 10). How do I more or less start over, socially? [more inside]
posted by El Curioso at 12:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Every Photograph of Frederick Douglass

“The humblest servant girl may now possess a picture of herself such as the wealth of kings could not purchase 50 years ago" How do I find every photograph ever taken of Frederick Douglass?< [more inside]
posted by The Blue Olly at 11:41 AM PST - 2 comments

Wanted: this coat

My husband really, really likes this coat that Harry S Truman wore in Twin Peaks. (For non-TP fans, the guy on the right.) Do you know where I can find it, or one that's similar?
posted by rabbitrabbit at 11:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Is my cat evil?

This is meant only slightly as tongue in cheek. I have two cats: a larger male and smaller female. The female is the one I suspect of demonic possession. When the male cat has created a nest for himself somewhere, the female cat will notice and come over and start grooming him, then when he's fully woken up, she'll turn it into fighting and gradually escalate until male cat leaves and then female settles into nest and takes a nap. [more inside]
posted by Jon44 at 8:42 AM PST - 29 comments

Recommend me headphones for commuting! Wireless, with microphone

Please recommend me good headphones that I'll be using mainly to listen to spoken-word podcasts while commuting, and for phone calls when necessary. [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 7:30 AM PST - 14 comments

Looking for songs about letting the world go by, help me out.

My birthday is coming up next week, and I'd really like to create a playlist of songs about being fine with NOT trying to keep up. In the vein of John Lennon's Watching the Wheels. The wide and varied tastes of the Ask crowd would be super handy at adding some flavor to this endeavor.
posted by DigDoug at 6:02 AM PST - 51 comments

Is this a conflict of interest?

I work at a "large important institution". The Director of my group would like to bring in their spouse's new company to help us automate our workflows. The work would be free and according to the Director, the tools would work well. Would there be a perceived conflict of interest? More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:49 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for water-resistant, office-appropriate, no-heel women's boots

What the title says. What do women-presenting people wear in the office in the fall and winter when it's too cold for flats and they don't want a heel? I would like help finding a pair of dressy/office-appropriate black boots that are reasonably OK getting wet and have little to no heel. I've read over previous questions and unfortunately links are broken or the shoes aren't right. Boring is OK, even preferable, because I'll ideally only be wearing these. [more inside]
posted by schroedinger at 4:33 AM PST - 26 comments

October 8

Climbing back on a dead horse

I desperately need work. I'm fighting horrible depression, 18 months of unemployment, and a myriad of insecurities about my spotty work history before that. I need someone (in LA or online) who can listen to my background (see inside), rebuild my resume, and help me pick some short term career goals. How do find someone who can help me through this when I have no money? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:47 PM PST - 15 comments

Event check-in app that allows for repeat QR code/barcode scanning?

I'm running an expo that will have multiple vendors demonstrating their products. I plan to give all event attendees a unique QR code. I would like to find a mobile app that will: (1) allow me, as the event organizer, to check-in all attendees at the main door by scanning their QR code with a mobile app; and (2) allow each vendor to scan the QR codes of only the attendees who come to their table. Therefore, I'll have a master list of attendees, and each vendor will have a specific list of attendees who dropped by their table. This is the only functionality I need from the software. I see there's a ton of stuff out there, but most of it is overcomplicated for my purposes. Whatever software choice, it needs to be as simple as possible for the vendor to use. Help!
posted by dead_ at 9:15 PM PST - 5 comments

XPS-13 vs MAcbook Air 13" 2014

hi all, I'm debating whether to buy an XPS-13 2017 and a 2014/2015 MAcbook Air 13" I prefer to buy second-hand laptops so I can reduce my environmental impact. They both SAY that they have a long battery life, but how long are they really? For me, battery life is the biggest criteria, and I'm hoping to have a PC with a very long battery. I've found Macbooks to be fairly reliable and long-lived, and easy to get repaired if need-be. My last XPS got a tad wet and died. Really bad experience. It had amazing battery life though. If battery life is the only / main criteria, which computer will last longer, daily, really?
posted by earthwalker7 at 7:10 PM PST - 6 comments

flatbread with no/low marginal labor per serving, like a loaf of bread?

I like pita, roti, and bing, but they are more labor intensive to make. Some of them need to be cooked individually in a pan, and even the ones that can be baked en masse in an oven need to be rotated in and out because they don't pack as efficiently into the space. Contrast with, for example, a Pullman loaf, where I can throw a kilo of flour into my oven and walk away. Is there any way to get the best of both worlds? [more inside]
posted by meaty shoe puppet at 6:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Seeking recommendations for Windows laptop that runs Creative Cloud

I'm looking for a Windows laptop that can handle Adobe Creative Cloud (mostly Photoshop/Illustrator/InDesign/Acrobat right now). I've been reading through the system requirements pages for Illustrator and Photoshop, and I am getting lost in the graphics card requirements. None of the tested cards quite match what I am able to purchase in various machines. What should I be considering? [more inside]
posted by melissa at 2:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Snacks to bring for Korean dinner?

My neighbor has invited us to join his household for a Korean meal on Friday and has requested we bring “social snacks”; I suggested kimchi and was enthusiastically approved. What else should I bring? [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 2:43 PM PST - 29 comments

Montreal with tweens between Christmas and New Year's Eve

Seeking advice about traveling to Montreal at the holidays. [more inside]
posted by trixie119 at 11:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Potable water at AMC huts that are closed for winter?

I'm planning to hike Mount Adams in the White Mountains this fall. I know the Madison Spring Hut is a great place to refill water bottles when it's open (May through September), but now that it's closed for winter - can you still get potable water there? (e.g., from a well pump outside the hut?) Thanks in advance!
posted by stuehler at 11:24 AM PST - 5 comments

Ashkenazi history

Why did so many Yiddish-speaking Ashkenazi Jews migrate from Central Europe to Eastern Europe in the 16th to 18th-ish centuries? [more inside]
posted by dusty potato at 11:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Is purchasing a used electric Smart car in the US an okay idea?

We are considering purchasing a used electric Smart car for city driving over the next three or so years, as a supplement to an existing reliable vehicle with good cargo capacity. What should we watch out for? For example, should we be worried that parts and/or service are going to become much more expensive going forward? And, if we're looking to spend about a maximum of $8000, is it correct that we'd rather have a newer Smart car than an older, higher-mileage Leaf (for example)? [more inside]
posted by teremala at 10:30 AM PST - 19 comments

Favorite achievable experiment videos (YouTube, etc)?

My son's current favorite thing to do is to watch "experiments" on Youtube, e.g., attempting to blow up a watermelon, make a lantern, etc. He wants to try experiments but most of these videos are "do not try this at home". I am aware of the classic baking soda/vinegar volcano. Are there any experiments, preferably video series (books acceptable), that would be achievable for young kids (7-8)? Non-Youtube video sources welcome!
posted by typecloud at 9:57 AM PST - 17 comments

Help me paint my shoes metallic gold for Halloween.

For my costume, I need shiny, metallic gold shoes. Looking to take a pair of used light brown office shoes (suede/leather combo) and turn them into sparkly gold shoes. What type of paint do I need to accomplish this affect? Should I be using a white sneaker shoe instead? This is the type of effect I"m looking for. But I'm open to dress shoe/sneaker/boot, whatever type of shoe material best accomplishes this look.
posted by caveatz at 8:59 AM PST - 14 comments

Am I wrong to consider this orthodontist's billing practice unethical?

My dentist referred me to an orthodontist for consultation. The orthodontist's office said by email, "since you were referred, we will waive the consult fee." In the intake process, they took my insurance info, and then hit my insurance for $100. They said the "waiving" was of the co-pay, which was another $100. [more inside]
posted by Borborygmus at 8:49 AM PST - 11 comments

2 factor auth doesn't mean much if I can bypass it

How do I force Google to ask for 2 factor authentication again on a known browser? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 8:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me remember this book?

I have vague memories of a book I read as a young teen, probably some time in the early 00s, but I can't find it on Google, going off of the few details I remember. [more inside]
posted by shanek at 8:18 AM PST - 7 comments

MacOS Calendar app that will use the event color coding of Google's?

I'm looking for a desktop app for MacOS that doesn't just do calendar color coding wholesale, but uses a color coding scheme that's parallel with Google Calendar's, so that my events are color-coded as they would be on calendar.google.com. This has been surprisingly hard to search for, and every app I've done the trial for doesn't work in this way. [more inside]
posted by baptismal at 8:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Kids books with any of these elements

I'm planning a new book for my son, but I feel like the story lacks something isn't quite hanging together. I'd like to read other similar genre story to get a sense of the tropes. Here are some elements. Please list other picture books that have similar elements. Obviously no book will have all elements, looking for books that have any, not all. 1) A magical quest 2) Driving a magical vehicle 3) Finding lost items 4) passing through different landscapes 5) possibly a guide character 6) meeting lots of different characters along the way. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 7:21 AM PST - 27 comments

I Love My Baby Cause She Does Good Sculptures - a dance party

Counterintuitively, the B-52s now featured on the blue have always seemed very autumnal to me. This suggests, somehow, a sort of autumnal dance party. Given the constraints below, what would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:09 AM PST - 22 comments

Foreign Exchange programs, not by the State or Capital

My daughter is very interested in doing a high school foreign exchange program, maybe for a semester or a year at some point. We are fine with that, but the programs we are finding - like Rotary, etc. - seem to push a "business leaders of the future / networking" line with state backing that we don't identify with. [more inside]
posted by RajahKing at 7:05 AM PST - 12 comments

HALP! ISO cheaper cartridges for a Brother HD-3170CDW laser printer

Cartridge numbers = TN221BK, TN221M, TN221C, TN221Y Brother online on Amazon and Staples online have the cartridges for $70 - 75 each. OIder Asks say that compatible cheaper cartridges vary in quality. Please recommend current reliable sources. Thanks (wanders off muttering that cost of set of replacement cartridges should not approach cost of new printer . . . )
posted by jointhedance at 6:54 AM PST - 9 comments

How do introverts handle manicures?

Can you take me through my imaginary social awkwardness of sitting there having someone do my nails? Skimmables for TL/DR in bold. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 6:13 AM PST - 33 comments

Anyone have any success playing forum-based TTRPGS? Help me!

I've always been a fan of TTRPG games, but have always found it hard to get games to the table, as it were. Playing asynchronously appeals to me greatly, but I'm really struggling to find a good group. If you're someone who has succeeded at this, I'd love you advice! Snowflake details within! [more inside]
posted by wooh at 2:54 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I cope with my small business having an awful year?

I run a small business and, well... business has been bad this year. How do I manage this emotionally/logistically? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:19 AM PST - 6 comments

Does my employer know when I visit a doctor?

What it says on the tin, basically. This is a family company, I pay for PPO health insurance offered by the company with a major insurer. Does my boss and/or benefits manager know if I visit a doctor's office, in some sort of monthly claims statement or something? I have been fibbing about a medical issue. (Don't be me.)
posted by anonymous at 12:19 AM PST - 7 comments

October 7

Help me find my perfect online art class

I'm looking for an online art class that meets some particular specifications. Snowflakes within! [more inside]
posted by shadygrove at 8:05 PM PST - 10 comments

How can I spend down my HSA funds?

I have about $1K in my HSA fund and I need to use at least $500 of it by the end of the year. My family is generally healthy and we have pretty good insurance, so I haven't had to spend much on medical care. What else can I spend these funds on? I'd really like to not lose this money. It was tax-free, but still. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 7:27 PM PST - 22 comments

Looking for an Entertainment Accountant in San Diego or Orange County

I have sold words for money in the past and I intend to do so again. Meanwhile I started up and shut down a brewery and have a leftover S-Corp. I am looking for an accountant who knows what to do with these things. [more inside]
posted by Captain Shenanigan at 7:06 PM PST - 1 comment

Books like "The Worry Cure"?

I've found "The Worry Cure" by Robert Leahy to be super useful and effective. Are there other books that provide concrete ways of how to deal with worrying/anxieties? [more inside]
posted by ellerhodes at 7:00 PM PST - 4 comments

My hands are still burning 24 hours later

I’m an idiot and cut up about a pound of assorted hot peppers last night. My fingertips are still burning. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by elvissa at 6:13 PM PST - 22 comments

Help me not ruin my hiking vacation

Kinda freaking out about my upcoming hiking vacation where we will basically be going all over Blue Ridge National Park in NC for 10 days. I have been hiking for daytrips before but never in actual mountains and there was cellular service for emergency stuff....like totally the opposite of this place where the National Park Svc website says mostly no cellular service and seems to advise you GPS isnt even accurate for the area? There are few to no toilets and I have an inflammatory bowel disorder, and I have asthma so hopefully the mountain air isn’t too hard to breathe lol guess I’ll find out right? This trip was my husband’s idea and I feel like I am going to mess it all up with my shitty health or bad sense of direction. [more inside]
posted by marshmallow kitty at 5:46 PM PST - 24 comments

Estranged parent’s funeral

I haven’t seen my father for 10 years, he died last week. Family relationships are difficult. I don’t know what to do re attending his funeral. [more inside]
posted by ElasticParrot at 4:50 PM PST - 18 comments

Calling residents of Atlanta, Raleigh, Charlotte, and Philly

Tell me about all about your cities please! Ideal criteria of next city listed below. Also, when looking to relocate to these cities, how should I time applying to jobs? [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 3:50 PM PST - 21 comments

But I got this shot last year!

Why are some vaccinations good for life and others need to be given every year or require periodic boosters? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 3:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Give me your savory / easy / efficient recipes, yearning to be baked.

Baking is a particularly effective daily therapy to me. What savory recipes might replace my love of baking desserts from packaged mixes? Think the red-packaged Betty Crocker brownie and cookie mixes that only require a few staple additional ingredients (eggs / oil / butter / water). Satisfying, customizable, cheap, un-fussy, requires only a few staples on hand. For reasons, I really need to cut down on sugar. Are there similarly easy (less than ~10 ingredients) and quick (less than ~15 minute prep time) savory recipes that I could be baking instead? [more inside]
posted by seemoorglass at 2:32 PM PST - 38 comments

What type of burn did I have?

I had a pretty nasty burn a few weeks ago from a brush with my motorcycle's tailpipe. It's healed now, but what degree was it? [more inside]
posted by invitapriore at 2:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Best programming toy for 8 year old?

My daughter is turning 8 soon. I'd love to get her a programming toy as she's expressed a lot of interest in coding. [more inside]
posted by smoke at 2:19 PM PST - 14 comments

Is there a compact way of saving an old Livejournal?

I had a LiveJournal for a long time. At some point I did the LJ Book thing which saves it as a pdf--a pretty big file. I'm wondering if there's a way to save those old entries just as text, something I could print out and shove in a box in a closet to read some day since LJ itself will probably go away (and is already sort of a disaster.) I think the file I had was hundreds of pages because it saved a lot of formatting stuff. Thanks for any pointers. I've googled, obviously, but didn't find anything useful.
posted by less of course at 1:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Good and concise blogs / news sites about (American) football?

I really enjoyed the answers to Admiral Haddock’s question about the Patriots / Giants game and would like to read more of this kind of thing regularly. [more inside]
posted by fabius at 1:45 PM PST - 5 comments

books books books

Looking for books (also open to movies or tv shows) that are set in boarding schools/residential college campuses/artist residencies. NOT interested in dude main characters. Other preferences below. [more inside]
posted by tan_coul at 1:45 PM PST - 36 comments

Best Helios/Jupiter/Vintage Lens for filming??

I'm looking for a lens to shoot video on my Sony A7ii and as much as I am actually interested in aberrations and imperfections (the 'character' of vintage lenses) the swirling bokeh that seems to be standard on the Helios 44-2 & Jupiter 9 (two of the most recommended lenses it seems) happens a little too much character for my tastes. Can anyone recommend a reasonably priced vintage lens (Helios, Jupter, otherwise) that doesn't feature this particular swirling bokeh??
posted by dr handsome at 1:31 PM PST - 2 comments

Where is the best vacation destination for riding a moped?

What is the best vacation destination for someone who likes to ride a moped as a way to explore? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 1:01 PM PST - 15 comments

Restoring gold edges on fine china

I inherited my grandmother's china and I just ordered some extra pieces to fill in holes in her collection. They arrived a little more worn than was disclosed - the gilt edges are worn off in places. Is that kind of damage fixable, and if so, who can I hire to do it?
posted by marfa, texas at 12:47 PM PST - 1 comment

Why do people think Roth IRA/401(k) accounts are so great?

Am I crazy to think that most of the articles that promote Roth IRA/401(k) accounts over the traditional alternative are wrong? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 11:40 AM PST - 15 comments

Identify This Bug!

Here he is. A little under 1/2" long. Winged, but they all seemed to be walking. Hordes of them in my basement last night, with nary a trace of them this afternoon.
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:36 AM PST - 7 comments

What is this little desk fidget thing?

Help me identify this item I got from a mall in the 1980s or early '90s. [more inside]
posted by Flying Saucer at 11:20 AM PST - 5 comments

Advice on facing my finances

I am working on getting control of my finances (created a budget, paying down debt). There are so many apps and books out there, and it is very overwhelming! Where do you recommend that I start? I have heard of Dave Ramsey, Your Money or Your Life, and Rich Dad Poor Dad. Any recommendations for a good book/program to start with? Now that I have created a budget, I would like to track and record my expenses to see if I am on track with my budget. [more inside]
posted by TRUELOTUS at 10:47 AM PST - 15 comments

Help navigating insurance with a slightly smushed old(er) car

I was in a car accident and am working with insurance to repair my car. I haven't been through this process, and would love some help. Old(er) car edition. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 10:38 AM PST - 3 comments

College of Wooster

Did you, or did anyone you know, attend the College of Wooster? [more inside]
posted by nantucket at 10:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Should I buy this car?

My partner and I have the opportunity to buy an old used car for cheap. Should we do it? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by hepta at 9:59 AM PST - 20 comments

How to have fun in Boise, ID this week!

My partner and I are heading out to Boise late tomorrow night (10/8) and we'll be staying though Friday (10/11) night. I'd love to hear people's opinions on the best hits - restaurants, hikes, downtown walks, art galleries, museums, coffee shops (ideally with WiFi), bike shops, anything else. Also, if you know of any great road bike rides, I'll gladly accept input on that as well, since I'll be traveling with my bike. We'll be staying downtown at the Modern Hotel.
posted by matt_od at 9:28 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I fire and replace my oncologist?

I know that theoretically I can change oncologists for any reason whatsoever, but the circumstances I'm in make it seem awkward and impossible. I could really use some help navigating this. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 9:05 AM PST - 18 comments

Hopeful, kind, non-snarky podcasts needed

Help me survive the next few days? A few hours ago I said goodbye to my 13 year old dog Pippin for the last time - he was euthanized today. One of my best coping mechanisms is listening to podcasts but I need some new extra-strength-soothing podcasts to help me through this time. [more inside]
posted by Zumbador at 8:23 AM PST - 48 comments

Entry-entry-entry-level spooky movies

What would you recommend for kids requesting spooky movies/shows that are fundamentally not scary, because the kids are very sensitive to conflict and violence? [more inside]
posted by medusa at 7:45 AM PST - 22 comments

I need a hardside suitcase with super-durable wheels.

I'm looking for a hardside suitcase that my cat won't make into secret bed in the back of the closet (the fate of my current suitcase), and that has wheels that could go through the apocalypse. I live near cobblestone streets, go on the subway, etc. Should be smallish.
posted by backwards compatible at 6:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Translate this, Kilroy (Greek? version), please?

Short story: student(s) drew this on my dry erase board over the weekend. What's it mean? I need to make sure it's not the kind of thing I should erase asap. Thanks!
posted by correcaminos at 6:12 AM PST - 4 comments

What creative projects can a person do with driftwood?

I have no artistic experience (painting, drawing, etc), a desire to gain some, and access to a practically unlimited supply of driftwood. What are my options for beginner-friendly projects? [more inside]
posted by ToddBurson at 5:56 AM PST - 13 comments

I want to change jobs but feel underqualified. What can I do?

I'm in a job that's comfortable, pays (just) enough but is deeply unfulfilling and is beginning to seriously depress me. I'm in my 30s now and starting to feel old and useless. Convince me I can still do something new? (I'm in the UK) [more inside]
posted by Chaffinch at 5:40 AM PST - 11 comments

The thing about Arsenal is they always try to walk it in

I, a nerd, am going to see the NE Patriots play the Giants this week. If there is a pro sport I DO enjoy, it’s football. But I haven’t watch a game since maybe 2007. I have no affinity for the Pats or Giants (go Eagles). Can you catch me up on this match up in advance of Thursday’s game? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 4:36 AM PST - 15 comments

Is there a magic bag?

I'm going on a trip and I need a handbag. The one I use all the time is too big to carry around all day sightseeing and I only ever have one bag at a time (apart from an evening clutch and a hiking rucksack). Problem: I'm only taking a cabin bag, no hold luggage, and I need something that will go with everything I'm bringing because I don't really have room to bring one and pack one. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 4:34 AM PST - 5 comments

Long-term effects of temporary starvation

After competing on Survivor, more than one contestant has said something like "My digestion was messed up for a year afterwards." The contestants generally claim this was not caused by a parasite. What is the mechanism by which two or more weeks of restricted caloric intake (and/or generally rough conditions) can cause a year of digestive problems? Is there something they could have done before or after the period of starvation to prevent this? [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 3:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Nonviolent shows to binge watch during cancer treatment?

I have to have these weekly all day treatments for cancer -- basically hooked up to an IV for about 6 hours. I'd love some suggestions of non-violent but engrossing (and downloadable) shows to watch! [more inside]
posted by heavenknows at 3:10 AM PST - 36 comments

Positive stories about overcoming a career setback

I've just had a major career setback and am heartbroken. I'd like to hear stories, ranging from personal anecdotes to published works, about how people dealt with this failure and moved on. I don't want stories of people who had massive success afterwards- just regular people who managed to learn from the experience.
posted by daybeforetheday at 2:09 AM PST - 6 comments

My cat is no longer the center of my home

We have a cat that we adore. We also have a new baby (4 months old) that we frankly adore a lot more. All our attention is on the baby and the cat is pretty neglected. How will this shake out? [more inside]
posted by redlines at 1:53 AM PST - 17 comments

October 6

Cover phone camera

I used to put paper tape on my phone camera but it looks ugly and is annoying when I want easy camera access (tape gets dirty and needs to be replaced a lot). What low-profile solutions exist for covering the front and rear camera on my Pixel 3a phone? [more inside]
posted by k8lin at 9:32 PM PST - 6 comments

Too-soft mattress help

My wife and I pulled the trigger and bought a new mattress, but we think that it's maybe too soft. Anybody have experience with a too-soft mattress? How did you fix the situation? [more inside]
posted by zardoz at 8:26 PM PST - 13 comments

Help, I have one million prune plums

I have one million Italian prune plums. I spent the day baking five plum tortes, successfully using up .001% of them. I don't want to just freeze them because I know from sad experience that I suck and will never use them that way. Also, I'm tired and don't have much free time. Ideas?
posted by HotToddy at 7:53 PM PST - 20 comments

What kind of lubricant for an electric motor in a kitchen extractor fan?

We recently had our kitchen extractor fail after a lot of screeching. One fan motor got either burnt out or got stuck; it would not run at all, so we replaced it. Then the other fan motor started making the same noises. We lubed it with some oil we had, but now the lubrication is wearing off and this motor is starting to make screechy noises again. What can we use to lubricate the axle so it stays lubricated? Would we need to clean it first?
posted by kandinski at 7:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Add your 2 cents to help coin a phrase

I want a term that refers to a lineage of sorts, for holding a perspective or values or philosophy that one learned from someone(s) not necessarily known in person. I've heard the phrase "intellectual ancestor(s)" which doesn't strike quite the right tone for me. [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 7:41 PM PST - 14 comments

What's the deal with Hawaii?

I am using FB to boost posts. I created a list that targets fifty separate recipients. They have similar preferences. But about 92% of all responses seem to always come to only one of them. That shouldn't happen and I don't know why. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 7:33 PM PST - 2 comments

Tell-tale signs of a good (or bad) dry cleaner

We had the best dry cleaner ever in San Diego, and would like to find one just as good having just moved to northern Virginia. Not so much interested in specific dry cleaning shops per se, but in anything the hive has noticed in the way of sizing up a dry cleaner's quality at first glance, or after a round or two of actually cleaning some clothing. Thanks!
posted by BadgerDoctor at 7:09 PM PST - 4 comments

Portable booster seat for kids under 40 pounds

I am looking for a travel booster seat for my daughter, who is 4 years old and 40" tall, but is still only 35 pounds. Ideally it would be something that could be carried around comfortably for a whole day of walking. (US, California) [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 6:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Blazer for short trans man

I’m a short (5’2”) and proportionately small (32” chest) trans guy looking for a blazer for a couple of upcoming formal events. Tips? [more inside]
posted by thesmallmachine at 5:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Recovering from Heart Attack & changing habits -- when already depressed

I’m looking for recommendations on resources for someone (youngish) recovering from a heart attack. Books, blogs, videos, podcasts... whatever. NOT looking for cookbooks. I need resources that can help me think through some big mental roadblocks, and get through to some better practices for living. [more inside]
posted by armoir from antproof case at 5:30 PM PST - 10 comments

Replacing a Macbook Pro keyboard in NYC, y/n?

I have a mid-2014 MacBook Pro. I like my mid-2014 MBP. It can basically handle all the tasks I ask it to, though there is an occasional glitch and it can certainly run hot. In the happy universe, I'd be waiting another year or two to replace it. However...one of my Command keys and my 'i' key have stopped working, and it's a huge pain--I've remapped a couple keys to keep it usable in the short term, but that's not a long-term solution. [more inside]
posted by praemunire at 4:33 PM PST - 6 comments

How to help a depressed friend?

Hi. I have a dear friend that has been feeling quite down in the dumps which seems to have exacerbated the past few months. I am not exactly sure how to help, since I would like to help. I mentioned that he could possibly see a therapist or perhaps talk to his doctor -- but he is silent and did really make an effort to do that. [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 4:01 PM PST - 5 comments

An Edible Curse

My flatmate and I are having a Halloween party built around the theme, or more precisely the general Mood of 'cursed images'. One of my responsibilities is devising a menu. Items don't need to have anything to do with any particular 'cursed image' - it's more that they need to have a generally unsettling feel, a certain Wrongness, while still ultimately being tolerable-to-pleasant to eat. All the food I prepare will be vegan. There need to be plenty of savoury options.
posted by Acheman at 3:18 PM PST - 26 comments

How make LG V30+ photo settings completely natural

I have an LG V30+ which seems to have a photo effect where faces looked blurred in photos (i think it's supposed to be flattering/wrinkle smoothing?) I don't like it ans just want to take "as-is" photos. [more inside]
posted by bearette at 2:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Credit card chip not working, can places still scan (US)?

My chip is not working so I can’t take out cash anywhere. Until I get a replacement (or really until banks open tomorrow), I’ve noticed that places that chip first (doesn’t work) then scan get declined. Places that do scan and don’t chip work fine. I called up Chase and they said it was not declined on their end and the POS system declined it. What’s going on? [more inside]
posted by geoff. at 2:25 PM PST - 10 comments

Managing life with a temporary disability

Three weeks ago my Achilles’ tendon spontaneously ruptured, and now my leg is temporarily disabled. Neither my apartment nor my company’s office are ADA compliant and my bosses already violated ADA laws by disclosing confidential information to my coworkers. I’m looking for advice on how to handle my employment, living situation, and my general lifestyle for the time-being. Detailed account inside. [more inside]
posted by omgkinky at 12:27 PM PST - 18 comments

How much should I spend on a mattress?

Looking round the shops this weekend prices seem to go from £400 (500 USD, 450 EUR) to £2000+. How much is it actually worth spending? Is a £1000 mattress twice as good as a £500 one? What is the "cut-off" point at which diminishing returns kick in? It was repeatedly pointed out to me that "you spend ⅓ of you life in bed", but does that really mean I need to spend £1200 on a mattress? [more inside]
posted by alby at 9:32 AM PST - 15 comments

Olafur Eliasson's time-stretching mirror

I just watched the Olafur Eliasson episode of Abstract on Netflix. At 21:00 he's standing in front of a mirror that appears to delay time, and it makes NO SENSE. [more inside]
posted by jonathanhughes at 8:59 AM PST - 6 comments

the meaning of life at the molecular level

What are your favorite books that blend science and spirituality/theory to understand topics like consciousness, abiogenesis, and quorum sensing? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 8:54 AM PST - 10 comments

cat-proofing (ha) an upholstered bench

I have a very nice piano bench which I use daily. Our cats also use it daily and have done an impressive job of ripping apart the upholstery. I'm getting it reupholstered, understanding that nothing will be impervious to cat claws what are my longest lasting best looking material options? Suede? Rawhide? Microfiber? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 8:39 AM PST - 11 comments

No-Fail Fall Albums

It’s finally fall, you have the windows open to the sunny, chilly breeze, you can hear the fallen leaves scattering along the street, and along with your morning coffee and maybe an apple cider donut, you think “I know the perfect album for this time of year: it’s ___________!” [more inside]
posted by sallybrown at 8:32 AM PST - 49 comments

How can I put this survey online without programming?

Wired published this autism survey a long time ago, and I want to recreate it in an online form. Is there a web service that would work for this? Or perhaps a way to do this in Google Forms? The test/survey assigns different point values to each question.
posted by mecran01 at 8:20 AM PST - 1 comment

Ow, it hurts to sleep!

I have been having trouble finding a comfortable sleeping position. I keep waking up after taking a nap and after sleeping all night with a sore body, specifically with my neck, back and torso usually hurting. I have neck issues and fibromyalgia. I'm a side sleeper. I have a memory foam mattress that I've had for about six months. It hasn't given me any problems. Until a few weeks ago, I was okay using a buckwheat neck pillow on top of a flat pillow, but then I started getting body pain if I slept like that.Does anyone have ideas of things I can try to sleep better - like positioning of pillows and things like that? [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 6:55 AM PST - 11 comments

Tips for weaning my kid off thumbsucking for emotional regulation?

My son is turning five, and sucks his thumb when he is really stressed and upset as a way of regaining control of his emotions and calming down. We're trying to get him to break the habit; what are good alternatives to thumb sucking that he could use to regulate his emotions? [more inside]
posted by destrius at 6:44 AM PST - 34 comments

Android allow specific notifications on Do Not Disturb

I recently updated to Android 10, and my alarm app (Timely) is no longer considered an alarm for the purposes of muting my phone while Do Not Disturb is on. I would like notifications from this app, and only this app, to be allowed. I do not want to use the built-in google alarm. How do I do it?
posted by jeather at 6:39 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I make foods sticky for my dog?

This good girl was just diagnosed with dilated cardiomyopathy and congestive heart failure. Her prescription and supplement regimen is 16 pills a day. She is extremely picky and extremely smart, so this has been challenging. Many popular pill hiding options have failed because even if they’re high value treats, she can eat around the medication. We have a week to go before we see the specialist and learn more about compounding options, so I’m looking for ways I can make some homemade tasty treats that cling to the pills the way cream cheese or peanut butter does. Difficulty: she hates peanut butter.
posted by ferociouskitty at 6:22 AM PST - 27 comments

Firefox and bad font rendering under Windows 7

Why do certain fonts on certain websites look like utter trash under Firefox, and how can I fix it? [more inside]
posted by Rhomboid at 6:21 AM PST - 2 comments

October 5

My Heart Needs to Feel some Sax

Not looking for jazz or solos but more of something where the sax is the voice or the song. Tenor. Suggestions?
posted by iamhere:youarethere at 11:17 PM PST - 17 comments

Leaving Google

I want to move out of the Googleverse. To do so, I need three things, all of which need to work on (and sync seamlessly with) both my Android Phone and my Win10 desktop: * An email client (I have my own domains through Dreamhost) AND * A solution for managing my contacts (close to 1000) that works with the email client above AND * A calendar that works with both of the previous items. I am happy to pay for these solutions. In fact, I'd prefer to do so - I hate advertising. I already have an Office 365 account, if that matters.
posted by The Blue Olly at 8:45 PM PST - 10 comments

Board games without hand-held cards or dice

A group of us (ranging between 4-8 people) have started having a regular, casual, drop-in board game session some Fridays after work. I’m looking for games which can be played without holding cards, or rolling dice— there are some fine motor skill restrictions which rules out games like Exploding Kittens or Sushi Go. We’ve had fun with Code Names, and I’d like to mix it up with more in that space. [more inside]
posted by roshy at 8:19 PM PST - 24 comments

Best book on Pacific NW gardening

If I want to purchase the best, most comprehensive book on gardening in the Pacific Northwest, what should it be? [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 7:21 PM PST - 11 comments

Help explain this Spike Jones joke about Lloyd Bridges!

In the Spike Jones spoken word radio play/ comedy song "Ah 1 Ah 2 Sunset strip" there's a bit around 3:00 where the beatnik valet crashes the protagonist's car (it winds up in the water) and he says "Well [unintelligible to me} can always sell it to Lloyd Bridges." What does this joke refer to? I'm guessing it's probably a reference to some sort of pop culture ephemera which I'm too young to get.
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 6:21 PM PST - 6 comments

Fashion without the fast part.

I would like to sell some t-shirt designs through an on-demand service of some kind, but I'd also like to be able to sleep at night. If I want my work printed on t-shirts that won't dissolve in a month made of material that isn’t sourced from somebody who dumps their trash in the ocean or works meth-addled children through 17 hour days, and I would like everyone involved to be making something approximating a living wage, what are my options?
posted by mhoye at 6:18 PM PST - 1 comment

Guilt and regret over the death of my dog

My old dog "Cassie" died of what was probably a heart attack this January. I am still very affected by her death. It's sometimes hard to enjoy time with my other dog, "Rex" (who we adopted years ago) because I worry about how he will eventually die too. I feel like I let Cassie down when I think of her. What do I do? Details ahead. [more inside]
posted by Chuck Barris at 6:07 PM PST - 13 comments

TWS i15 fake airpods not working!

I fell for one of those Facebook ads and bought some of the above fake airpods. They randomly turn off and on, beep, and summon Siri when I'm trying to listen to audio. Is there something I can do to reset them?
posted by Mistress at 5:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Looking for a algorithm to optimize game convention table allocations

Given several rooms of varying sizes with rows of tables of varying lengths, I'm trying to programmatically solve the problem of optimally allocating tables to events. This seems like a variation on the bin packing problem, but I want to keep all "boxes" of same event contiguously grouped. [more inside]
posted by Kolath at 4:30 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I light myself well for webcam?

I work from home, and I'm trying to get a better lighting setup for when I have video calls. This is part of an initiative at work to generally have employees with home offices up their A/V game, as it were, so they're present in video conferences closer to how people in the office conference rooms are. (snowflake details inside) [more inside]
posted by cardioid at 3:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Emergency-accessible secrets for the digital paranoid

I don't trust cloud services but I want someone trustworthy to be able to access my accounts in case of emergency. What services, products, or setups can make this happen? Also, as a matter of pure security-theory, what is the best possible way to do so with minimal trust? [more inside]
posted by jackbishop at 2:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Where do teenage girls find other girls for dating and mayhem?

(Asking with enthusiastic permission from the teen in question) How do I, the mom of a teenage probably-lesbian, help her find girls when there aren’t a lot of gay girls at her high school outside of her friend group, which she doesn’t want to date in? [more inside]
posted by corb at 12:52 PM PST - 13 comments

Where to visit in Jardines del Pedregal?

Can anyone recommend specific address/streets/intersections to visit in Jardines del Pedregal (México City)?
posted by andoatnp at 12:40 PM PST - 2 comments

I have no idea what my next career move should be

Ever since graduating from university in 2010, I feel like I've spent the last 9 years making nothing but stupid career decisions. I've been working in libraries for the past 6 years and, regretfully, finished an MLIS in April. I honestly should have heeded to all the "don't do it!!!" advice, but I went on and thought this decision made sense. I'm seriously regretting wasting my time and money on getting an MLIS, but now I have no idea what to do. I hate myself so much for doing this. Where do I go from here? [more inside]
posted by VirginiaPlain at 12:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Source for QAnon theory history and development?

I know a decent amount about QAnon and its basic theories. I'd like to know more - specifically, how their theories and ideas evolve over time. Are there good succinct sources for this out there? [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 12:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Spooky non-spooky songs

I’m looking for individual songs that are tied to horror movies, such as Jump in The Line and Day-O from Beetlejuice or Goodbye Horses from Silence Of The Lambs. I am not looking for songs specifically written for movies (Ghostbusters theme), instrumental scores, or movies where the entire soundtrack could be used (The Lost Boys or Rocky Horror).
posted by Diskeater at 12:08 PM PST - 29 comments

Where is some contemporary Jazz & Classical music?

Looking for Jazz and Classical music late 20th and 21st century works (e.g. Reich, Glass, Riley) What has been done? Movements? Trends (e.g. Minimalism) Who?
posted by ebesan at 11:20 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me identify a tune in a youtube video.

Trying to figure out where the background music in this video came from: https://youtu.be/7IM6EupZZLY?t=730 Starts at 12:10 [more inside]
posted by iamabot at 10:47 AM PST - 4 comments

Occasional nausea during weight lifting?

I've been an on and off weight lifter for the past three years or so. As in, I go to my local Y and use their weight machines to build some muscle and stay active. But randomly I get nauseous enough that I need to stop my workout and I want to figure out why. [more inside]
posted by Twicketface at 10:35 AM PST - 14 comments

Good Alzheimer's online resources?

Someone very close to me has been diagnosed with early Alzheimer's. I am having trouble navigating the internet looking for useful info because it's very draining to read all the random stuff that crops up. [more inside]
posted by haemanu at 8:37 AM PST - 6 comments

What is this cord in my jewelry box

I bought this Pottery Barn McKenna jewelry box at a ridiculously discounted price due to some minor damage. I don't think there are any parts missing, but I can't figure out what this cord is for. [more inside]
posted by KleenexMakesaVeryGoodHat at 8:00 AM PST - 5 comments

How best to cook *wild* salmon fillets?

I have about 11 pounds of wild sockeye salmon in my freezer. This is sashimi-grade fish that has been vacuum-sealed into 7-8oz skin-on fillets. Because it's wild (and/or maybe because it's sockeye? and/or maybe because the portions are so small?), it's much denser and less fatty than the salmon I'm used to cooking. [more inside]
posted by unknowncommand at 7:36 AM PST - 12 comments

Advice for a non-traditional wedding reception

We're throwing a casual, friends-only wedding reception next month. How do we fill the time traditionally filled by dancing/DJ? [more inside]
posted by coffeeinanIV at 6:59 AM PST - 17 comments

Tired of being fatigued all the time

I've been feeling fatigued for the past two months. Not sleepy or lethargic, just physically heavy or "droopy"--like I'm wearing a lead suit and I just really really want to go lie down. It seems to get worse after moderate physical activity (or significantly worse after strenuous activity), until I've had a nap or been back to bed. I'm less tired after I've rested. I've been to the doctor but they haven't figured anything out yet. I'm hoping the internet might have some good suggestions for things to talk about with them or try before my next appointment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:41 AM PST - 24 comments

October 4

(How) should I try to rehab a bad kisser?

I had a first date yesterday. Dinner conversation was good, kisses afterwards were double plus ungood. Halp?! [more inside]
posted by nirblegee at 11:23 PM PST - 22 comments

External hard drive for iMac Time Machine

I think I need to replace my 2TB Verbatim external hard drive, which I use exclusively for Time Machine backups on my iMac (Retina 5K, 27-inch, 2017) running MacOS Mojave 10.14. [more inside]
posted by Joleta at 10:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Cozy, satisfying historical fiction for Fall

As Fall begins in the Northern Hemisphere, I am hoping to curl up with some historical fiction that could be described as cozy. For example, scenes in firelit rooms while it rains outside; passing long, chilly nights; comfy interiors; hearty meals. [more inside]
posted by delight at 4:58 PM PST - 30 comments

Breaking news to unsupportive parents - halp.

We have some big (very good!) news we need to break to my in-laws. I like to think it comes from a place of love, concern, and their own life experiences...but their response is likely going to be very very negative. I'm looking for practical tips for 1) drafting the email with the news and 2) handling the inevitable hysterical phone call that will follow. [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 4:58 PM PST - 26 comments

How to rid myself of salty cravings?

I've been doing a super healthy clean eating plan for 8 weeks. I'm amazed at how easily my body adjusted to portion control, no processed food, no sugar outside of fruit, no additional salt, mostly plant-based choices, some fish and only a little chicken, whole grains, etc. I feel great and was incredulous at how quickly my legendarily massive sweet tooth seems to have completely disappeared. But I am still absolutely craving salty goodness. What gives? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 3:55 PM PST - 26 comments

Managing Instagram Followers

I would like to manage my Instagram followers; unfollow some accounts who are not following me, who appear to be bots, etc. There are apps on the market that will do this, but I am wary of giving them my account access, which presumably they need to run their analytics. Are there any apps out there (paid is fine) that are trustworthy? It appears a number of the top ones inflate “you are being blocked” numbers, which may indicate other unethical behaviors.
posted by Atrahasis at 3:40 PM PST - 1 comment

Things to do in Jefferson Park IL this weekend

I have to be in Jefferson Park this weekend. What is there to do there or very close by? Going into Chicago is too far and that's my normal go-to when in Illinois anyway. An excellent restaurant recommendation is fine but I can't eat all the time. Open to anything but no late night events (8pm or earlier). [more inside]
posted by jojo and the benjamins at 3:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Hairstyles to cover stitches on hairline?

I have a few stitches on my hairline, right in the center. I have to keep them covered in Vaseline for the next two weeks. It's not cute. Already looking into hats and stretchy headbands. Need advice on hair styles (feminine) for long hair. [more inside]
posted by meemzi at 2:21 PM PST - 9 comments

Liquid medication for cats

How have you successfully administered your cat's liquid medication? I've had little success and I'm running out of other ideas! [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 2:19 PM PST - 20 comments

yet another "what laptop to buy" question

I need to replace a Samsung Series 9 ultrabook from (cough) 2013. Which brand? Used? Refurb? Try to wait until Cyber Monday? [more inside]
posted by mkuhnell at 1:55 PM PST - 6 comments

Recommendations for a mouse for MacBook Pro?

I'm learning to work in 3D graphics software, and my current mouse requires a lot of pressure for the middle click, which I am using constantly. The wire is a bit cumbersome, as well, but I can live with that. Can you recommend a solid mouse that requires only a light click pressure? [more inside]
posted by moira at 1:18 PM PST - 6 comments

Sexy-time underwear that isn't lacy (for ladies that like ladies)?

My wife is out of town for the next few days and I'd like to surprise her when she gets back with me in some sexy underwear. She's worn some lacy lingerie in the past and it was wonderful for the both of us, but lace is definitely not my thing (as in the idea of me wearing lace gives me panic). [more inside]
posted by carnivoregiraffe at 12:58 PM PST - 11 comments

First-time listener, pero en español

Looking for podcasts or broadcasts similar to NPR/WAMU's 1A or WNYC's Brian Lehrer Show, but in Spanish. [more inside]
posted by thecaddy at 12:12 PM PST - 2 comments


This tomato pie is delicious and relatively simple to make, but my tomato plants won’t stop fruiting. My favorite pizza place makes a spicy lamb meatball and kale pizza, which may be my benchmark pizza. I would like to make a variation of the pie that riffs on the pizza. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by Maecenas at 12:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Parents want to leave bulk (all?) to my brother, in their will

My parents seem to be considering leaving most of their assets and money to my brother (the favourite) in their will, cutting me and my sister out. They seem to be using this to threaten her if she doesn't visit/care for them enough. I'm prepared for this but my sister wants advice on how to handle it/what to do? [more inside]
posted by abbagoochie at 11:39 AM PST - 25 comments

Driving to Big Bear Lake at New Year in a Prius

Assuming the normal range of conditions, can you drive from Los Angeles to Big Bear Lake around New Year in a regular city vehicle like a Prius? What's the likelihood you'd need to use chains? What are the chances the conditions will make it unwise or impossible?
posted by caek at 10:57 AM PST - 10 comments

Does this exist? A video explainer comparing image and sound processing

What I would love to watch is a video that compares all the various image editing techniques and concepts (which as a designer I’m familiar with) with their equivalents in sound editing (which I’m not). I’ve wanted this for years – surely something like this exists? [more inside]
posted by snarfois at 10:34 AM PST - 11 comments

PMS and nocturnal panic attacks.

I'm 39 and, as per a doctor, moving into peri-menopause. The last few days of my cycle, I'm getting pretty terrible middle-of-the-night panic attacks. Any advice on how to cope with this? [more inside]
posted by leftover_scrabble_rack at 10:01 AM PST - 12 comments

What raptor is this? Help me id the bird

On my way into work today I saw this bird chilling on a fence in the train parking lot. I'd love to know what it is. Location is the Bay Area peninsula.
posted by Carillon at 8:58 AM PST - 12 comments

Tips on cleaning/painting before moving into a prewar apartment?

I just moved into a great apartment in a wonderful location! It’s a classic prewar NYC apartment, and slightly dirty-looking-but-not-necessarily-dirty. Can I do something creative about it? [more inside]
posted by many more sunsets at 8:47 AM PST - 14 comments

1 Night in Kissimeee/Orlando with a kid. Affordable/Fun Activities?

Myself, my husband and our 8 year old son will be in the Kissimmee/Orlando area for the Midevil Times show on a Friday night. We want to make the most of the trip. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by Sara_NOT_Sarah at 8:23 AM PST - 4 comments

What types of insurance are "industry standard" for sole proprietors?

I'm a sole proprietor (writer/editor), and I've got a client asking me to sign a contract stipulating that I carry insurance "at least to industry standard." What types of insurance would be considered "industry standard" for a writer/editor with no employees? [more inside]
posted by MelanieMichelle at 8:10 AM PST - 8 comments

short on shirts

I'm looking for help tracking down some new tops to fill out my work wardrobe. Details inside! [more inside]
posted by brilliantine at 7:52 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I develop my career in fiction without going crazy or broke?

Can you help me make the best next step from burnt out freelance writer to balanced day jobber/novelist? [more inside]
posted by foxmardou at 7:21 AM PST - 6 comments

How do you approach professional development?

You take professional development and leadership development seriously: you understand how you need to develop yourself so you advance in your careers, you have goals, and you reach them. Explain it like I am five: how do you do this, what is your process, and what are your tools? [more inside]
posted by teragram at 6:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Why did I want to go to Le Havre?

A few years ago I must have seen something on Le Havre France and wrote it down on my big bucket list of places to visit before I die. Now I'm down to some of my last few places. And for the life of me I can't figure out why I put it down. Is there anything amazing there?
posted by rileyray3000 at 3:59 AM PST - 12 comments

What to do about permit issues from before I bought my house?

Homeowner nightmare - what should I do about very extensive roof work done without a permit from before I bought my house, in 2007? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 2:00 AM PST - 12 comments

October 3

Where should we lunch between Houston and New Orleans?

We’ll be driving out of Houston about 8 or 9 am on a Saturday morning, mostly driving along highway 90, getting to New Orleans maybe 4:00, allowing for a few brief stops plus lunch. Should we just eat a boring burger at a fast food place along the way? Or is there some place with good food that is not way far away from the highway, not excruciatingly slow, and clean? [more inside]
posted by chromium at 10:30 PM PST - 6 comments

Time to get out the winter pants!

You guys helped me pick out some great women’s pants for summer - thank you! Now that’s it’s cooling off, can you help me find equally awesome pants for winter? Requirements inside! [more inside]
posted by bananacabana at 9:21 PM PST - 4 comments

Feeling Jung today?

For a book proposal, I need to illustrate (preferably quantitatively) that people are still interested in Jungian psychology and related therapies (including narrative therapy). [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:31 PM PST - 9 comments

"Neutronyms" for words referring to the past or future

I recently needed a word that is like "retrospect" but for the present instead of the past. [more inside]
posted by jjray at 8:30 PM PST - 26 comments

Recommend me a writing coach?

I've been working on a new book for, at this point, almost a year. I still haven't quite found the right groove (though I get closer and closer), and I keep revising the same 25,000 words over and over. It has been a hell of a year, personally, but I still need to finish this book ASAP, and for the first time I don't know what I need to do that. It's freaking me out. Hivemind, please help: can you recommend anyone who might be able to help me with this?
posted by schadenfrau at 6:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Roth vs traditional IRA

Today I saw a financial consultant (a free one, provided by Major Institutional Retirement Plan). I told him that I make $15K more per year than I'll need (or likely have) to live on in retirement, and he went on to advise me to put the extra in a Roth IRA. I was like, wait, why would I do that? And got a handwavy answer. But I'm right, right? In my situation I want a traditional IRA?
posted by HotToddy at 6:52 PM PST - 12 comments

What am I concerned about?

I obtained a button (pin, badge) that reads “I’m Concerned.” I’m wrestling with The Google to find out what it means. I’ve only found a link to it for sale (sold actually) on Etsy . I imagine it’s from some campaign about a specific concern, and while I have *many* concerns, I wouldn’t wear it if whatever the concern is isn’t one of my concerns.
posted by OrangeVelour at 6:23 PM PST - 13 comments

A sewing machine of my own

As a teen and into adulthood, I sewed a little bit; hemmed pants, repaired split seams, whipped out an occasional curtain or table runner. Clearly, I didn’t love it because I haven’t touched a sewing machine in about a decade. But I also dislike shopping and if a bit of sewing can save me from that horror and prolong the use of clothing that needs a little TLC, then game on. [more inside]
posted by dancing leaves at 4:41 PM PST - 22 comments

How do I print on SRA2 paper?

I designed a dust jacket and I bought some SRA2-sized Munken paper to print it on, thinking that I could just take it to my local print shop. I do this all the time with A3 and A4 paper, but they told me that they couldn't print at larger formats on provided paper because they use a plotter printer which prints on rolls. I tried printing it on their paper and it looks like crap. Is there a way to print on my beautiful SRA2 paper?
posted by Chenko at 4:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Where did I learn these Chinese characters?

When I was a young hanov3r, I found a book that was intended to, in a humorous fashion, teach mnemonics to remember a bunch of Chinese (or, MAYBE, Japanese?) characters. I can identify the characters for the numbers 1 through 6 and 10 because of the descriptions, along with the characters for 'man' and 'woman', but that's about it. I want to find this book again. [more inside]
posted by hanov3r at 3:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there any way to knit this poncho without a pattern?

I'm in the mood to knit and I've decided on a poncho. I haven't knitted in a while, and have mostly knitted scarves, but a couple of sweaters way back when. I've spent a couple of hours hunting for patterns, but this is the poncho I want to make! Alas, there's no pattern to be found. Is there some way for someone to reverse engineer the pattern? Who would do that, and would it be super expensive?
posted by swheatie at 3:31 PM PST - 8 comments

Recommendation for a resume-writing expert for a copywriter?

I'm in the middle of a job search that's taking way too long (digital copywriter/ACD, NYC metro area). I've been told by a recruiter that my resume needs work. I think I need to work with a pro on this. Can anyone recommend a good one? [more inside]
posted by PlusDistance at 2:56 PM PST - 1 comment

What should I do with my lawn jockey?

My house came with a lawn jockey. With its current paint job, it is *arguably* not a racist caricature (i.e. it is white, as am I), so we left it up for a few months out of a vague sort of sense of respect for the previous homeowners, who had lived there for ~40 years and apparently loved the lawn jockey. Now the jockey is in the garage and we have a large planter where he used to be. My garage is small and this cannot continue indefinitely. [more inside]
posted by mskyle at 2:08 PM PST - 22 comments

Dress Me: Hamburg in Autumn

I will be leaving for Hamburg, Germany shortly and I'm a bit out of my element when it comes to weather appropriate Autumn wear. I come from a dry, snowy, very cold climate and the concept of humid/wet weather in November/December is very confusing to me. I will be staying there from mid-October to mid-December, with a little bit of travel into northern France and eastern Germany. [more inside]
posted by Robocat at 1:43 PM PST - 5 comments

Geting from Airport to NOTA

I will be going to a conference in Rochester, NY. I'll be staying at the Choice Hotel at the airport, but I need to get to the School of the Arts in the NOTA district. How far apart are they? Is there any public transit available, or if I have to take an Uber or a Lyft, how much can I expect to spend
posted by CollectiveMind at 1:01 PM PST - 6 comments

Orgy-free sound library

I need a varied sound effects library like this one that doesn't include any of the sound effects like what they have here as "orgy" because I do not want to explain what that is supposed to be to any of the tweens I'm working with. It has to be online and free. Got a good one? [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 12:57 PM PST - 10 comments

Teach me how to infographic

With support from my supervisor and colleague, I need to summarize relevant aspects of a very complex topic (immigration law) in a way that my colleagues can understand and apply to the program that we oversee. I'm looking at this book, this one, this one, and this one. I'm interested in MOOCs, books, videos, or any resource that will help me go from basically zero knowledge to proficiency. I am technical and have design skills, but building a complex infographic is currently beyond my skill level. Help?
posted by onecircleaday at 12:44 PM PST - 12 comments

ISO an excellent scanner - scanning artwork for publication

I am scanning artwork (black and white line drawings and watercolor illustrations) for professional publication. What scanner should I buy? Under $400? more details inside. [more inside]
posted by zingiberene at 12:42 PM PST - 5 comments

Turn an old blog into rss feed or emails

I would like the reviews category posts from this blog to be delivered to me at slow intervals (preferably weekly or at the same intervals they were posted on the blog) via email or an rss feed. Is there a tool that can do this? Important: just subscribing now does me no good because the blog no longer updates and that wouldn't deliver old posts anyway.
posted by congen at 11:40 AM PST - 3 comments

No more Brooks Pure Cadence!

I just found out that Brooks is going to discontinue their Pure Cadence shoes. I've been using them for years and, dang it, I love them. I like the stability and zero drop. For that reason, they're great for racewalking and trail running. My running store said to try the Altra Escalante. I like their zero drop and the cushioning. The heel's a little wide, though, which makes it hard to plant the foot during racewalking. Any recommendations for a low drop, minimally cushioned, light weight running shoe? Thanks.
posted by holdenjordahl at 11:29 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me electric toothbrush

I'm 48. Speak to me like I'm five. Why can't I figure out how to brush my teeth with an electric toothbrush without getting drool *everywhere* and getting the non-brush hard plastic bits grinding against other teeth and gums? [more inside]
posted by media_itoku at 9:15 AM PST - 31 comments

Give me your best vegetarian recipes for a Dutch oven

I just bought a beautiful Dutch oven (5 1/2 quarts, Le Crueset, French Riviera color). What should I make in it? There are two of us, both vegetarian. I love to cook and bake, and we camp a lot in summertime. Thanks!
posted by sugarbomb at 9:00 AM PST - 13 comments

A Hairy(less) Situation

I have been diagnosed with frontal fibrosing alopecia. Wondering if anyone has had experience with Plaquenil or Propecia in treating this disease, or with the disease in particular. [more inside]
posted by ElleElle at 7:25 AM PST - 7 comments

smart home ownership in a transitional neighborhood

We bought a lovely house. It's our first house (after a long time in apartments), and it's in a different kind of neighborhood than we've lived in before. Help us stay both safe and neighborly? [more inside]
posted by skookumsaurus rex at 5:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Is Java Island the densest area in the world?

Geographers and statisticians and demography wonks! Java is an island of Indonesia. If it was a country, it would have 2% of the world's population, being the 10th most populous country in the world, while only being the size of North Carolina/Greece. This seems to be on a whole another magnitude of continuous density than anywhere else in the world. Are there any areas in the world around 53,588 sq mi/138,793 sq km that have just as many people? [more inside]
posted by facehugger at 3:45 AM PST - 17 comments

October 2

Micromanaged in new role, possibly abusive environment. Need advice.

I have taken on a new role at work, working closely with a contractor. Things aren't vibing out between us at all, and it's coming to the point where I feel daily dread and anxiety. I'd like advice on how to proceed, based on experiences in a potentially toxic workplace. [more inside]
posted by thoughtful_analyst at 10:09 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I put my Visa requirements on my resume?

Against all odds I am going trying to get a job in Los Angeles... but i'm a UK citizen. [more inside]
posted by ihaveyourfoot at 9:33 PM PST - 9 comments

Recommend me a word processor?

I would like to get a new word processor for my (newish, adequately powerful) Windows 10 computer, specifically for writing fiction. I don't need it to have a lot of features or do a lot of powerful formatting, but I am a little picky. What's out there that I should look into? [more inside]
posted by Jeanne at 9:18 PM PST - 17 comments

Linking to PDF drawings for download on a Wordpress page

How do I link to/post/host PDFs for download on my Wordpress site? [more inside]
posted by anya32 at 9:09 PM PST - 5 comments

What should I do in NYC 10/3?

I'm in town with my wife who is speaking at a conference and I have the day to myself. Can't do the art museums or major tourist stuff without her so what should I do? [more inside]
posted by Uncle at 8:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Navratri hostess gift?

What should I bring as a hostess gift to a friend’s Navratri party? My friend and her husband are hosting a Navratri party at their apartment. What is an appropriate hostess gift? They are both probably in their mid to late thirties, born in India, and have lived in the US for a decade, if it matters.
posted by fieldtrip at 7:47 PM PST - 3 comments

The Civil War Historiography of my High School Textbook

There's a name for the way my 1980's edition of The American Pageant approached slavery and secession. What is it? [more inside]
posted by mark k at 7:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Hotel in London with a bath?

I'm heading to London for a wedding in December and am likely to be tired and cranky for the first day after flying in on a red-eye flight. I'm looking for a nice hotel which is easily accessible from Victoria Station that has a large bathtub I can soak in because I miss having one at home. Preferably under £200/night. There's only me, and I don't mind if the room is small as long as there is a deep bath. Is this doable and does anyone have any recommendations? The places I'm finding so far only have them in super expensive suites.
posted by Kris10_b at 6:42 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me make Pinterest be less terrible

I do google image searches to get ideas for projects. More often than not, pictures I'm interested in show up on GIS but takes me to a pinterest page, but then i can't get anymore information about the picture because pinterest seems like a black hole of bad links. How do I stop pinterest be less terrible? [more inside]
posted by Karaage at 6:36 PM PST - 8 comments

The Earth + Plastic

Although I tend to agree with the late George Carlin's thoughts on the matter in the bit referenced in the headline, I would still like to attempt to save the planet/the human habitat. Or at least do my part not to kill it/us. So far, I try/do the following: [more inside]
posted by WinterSolstice at 6:21 PM PST - 14 comments

Books or resources about cultivating closer relationships as an adult?

Not exclusively as an adult, and also particularly interested in books or resources about becoming a more nurturing and giving person, and/or focused on introverts. [more inside]
posted by knownfossils at 5:46 PM PST - 2 comments

Seeking a USA made robe for a Minnesota winter

I’d like to buy my boyfriend a cozy, hotel-style cushy white bathrobe for his birthday. The caveat is, I’d love for it to be made in the USA (ethically made somewhere else is okay, too). This is harder to find than it seems. [more inside]
posted by sucre at 5:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Leaving the U.S. for better health care system? esp. Canada vs Portugal

I've become interested in living abroad, particularly in permanent residency in Canada (via an investor visa or skilled worker visa) or Portugal (via their golden visa.) Is one better than the other if my concern is good public health care? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:31 PM PST - 6 comments

Is my cat crying?

I notice on my cats face a wetness that drips when she hugs me. It isnt just a moist nose it's a dripping from her mouth area. When I touch her face it seems a tad bit dampened but some of it could be from her grooming. She could be drooling but even then why when she isnt hungry? Do cats cry? I dont suspect any illness.
posted by The_imp_inimpossible at 5:12 PM PST - 13 comments

positive fictional depictions of fat women

I'm reading the Shell Seekers, and it's a beautiful, pleasurable read so far, except for one thing that's rankling me: the repeated contempt for overweight women, the exaltation of the naturally slender, and the correlation of female overweight with poor character. This is something I have noticed in other otherwise kind-natured books as well. Help me find some counterpoints. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 5:02 PM PST - 28 comments

Vincent Price marathon suggestions

Give my your top picks for a Vincent Price marathon. These do not all have to be in the horror genre, but it's hard to hear that voice without a shiver!
posted by TrishaU at 3:19 PM PST - 29 comments

Is arbitrary 1st page formatting in Mac Word 2016 w/text flow possible?

I am trying to stop having to manually format each of my work letters that are longer than a page. To do that I need Word to act more like a page layout program, and let me have the body text on the first page have a different indent than the rest of the documents — regardless of where the first page breaks relative to the text on it. Can I bludgeon Word into doing this? [more inside]
posted by snuffleupagus at 3:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Explain tamales to me like I’m five

(and didn’t grow up with Mexican food). They’re delicious, but I feel like I fundamentally don’t get them. It’s like a dumpling... but you can’t eat the outside? [more inside]
posted by Questolicious at 1:54 PM PST - 31 comments

Carsharing using Getaround?

Has anyone on MeFi used Getaround for car sharing? Tell me about it! [more inside]
posted by pdb at 1:50 PM PST - 3 comments

What color eyeglasses do I want?

I am a bi female, slightly genderqueerish. My hair is brown with strands of silver glitter; I wear it shorn fairly close to the scalp. My eyes are on the blueish side of hazel. I have rosacea, and my cheeks, in particular, are pretty freaking red. My favorite color is purple, though I also like blue, pink, and the bluer greens. Currentish pic, current glasses are blueish-gray leopart. What color frames do I want for my new glasses?
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 1:47 PM PST - 11 comments

More Lore (Olympus)

I have fallen deeply, intensely in love with Lore Olympus and need more comics/books like it. [more inside]
posted by thefang at 12:31 PM PST - 1 comment

How to help 75yo mom with mobility & mental health issues from afar?

About two months ago, my 75-year-old mother called 911 because she couldn’t walk. They brought her to the hospital where she stayed for 3 days (Medicare requirement), then she was admitted to a rehab facility. They provided physical therapy during her ~4-week stay and sent her home. The next day, she fell and couldn’t get up, and this hospital/rehab cycle repeated. [more inside]
posted by scottso17 at 12:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Staying calm in chaos

I am seeking fresh ideas to stay calm in chaos. The chaos could be visual clutter at a friend's house or an overwhelming deluge of work tasks, bids for attention or decisions at work, or staying centered around children doing art and getting tiny bits of paper everywhere. More inside. [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 11:57 AM PST - 19 comments

Shouldn't texting from the US to the UK be less of a kerfuffle?

While in the UK, I tried to text my UK friend from my US-based cell phone, and nothing happened. Back in the US, I've tried alternative protocols, and I'm getting error messages. [more inside]
posted by The Wrong Kind of Cheese at 11:55 AM PST - 21 comments

How do I make a rectangle in Paint.net?

Using the Rectangle Select tool I end up with a shaded proposed outline of a rectangle but not the actual rectangle. I don't understand how to make it commit, and actually draw the rectangle. [more inside]
posted by lockedroomguy at 10:36 AM PST - 1 comment

Taking more noise out of life

Maybe six months ago, I stopped listening to NPR/music on my 30 minute commute and most other drives. I don't remember how I decided to do this, but it feels good, like I've turned down the static/ambient noise a tiny bit in my life. Since then, I've done a couple of comparable things, but am looking for other suggestions. [more inside]
posted by less of course at 10:29 AM PST - 33 comments

Want a texting program that alerts me when I get a phone call.

I used to use something called MightyText, and it worked like a dream. A few updates ago it stopped working and I'd like to find a solution. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 9:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Seeking a labor and employment attorney in Texas

Looking for a labor and employment attorney in Texas, preferably in the Dallas-Forth Worth area, regarding a possible wrongful termination claim. Thanks for any recommendations.
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 9:49 AM PST - 2 comments

Coding bootcamp or at-home DIY?

I've been working in games for almost a decade now. With the birth of my first son and a recent lay-off/generous severance I've been looking ahead to try and figure out if that's really where I want to stay. It's been hard to find work after a recent move, the hours are horrific and the pay gets less good every year (Long gone are the bonuses after crunch!). Recently I've been thinking about moving to full stack front end work- There are way more gigs out there for it. I have a now very rusty background in web dev, but my technical chops are intact. Since I'd be "starting over", my question is this: Is it worth it to do a coding bootcamp or should I just stay home, DIY it and get a great portfolio together? I ask because games is very portfolio & relationship driven. A degree can be nice but was never a requirement. If you could do the work you'd be hired. Is there a similar ethos in mainline development work? or do I need some credentials to stand out?
posted by GilloD at 9:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Help Me Improve My Low Budget Pescatarian Diet

I live on a low budget diet of brown rice, legumes, vegetables and cheap fruit supplemented with eggs, dairy and canned sardines. I would like to add more protein and improve things overall to improve my health and lose weight. [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 8:26 AM PST - 37 comments

Help me build my Japan Itinerary

Three mid-to-late 20 somethings will be flying into Tokyo (HND) on November 20th and departing on November 28th. What should we do while we're there? [more inside]
posted by lucy.jakobs at 8:18 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I sell or give away these tickets?

I bought tickets to see Nick Cave in Austin, TX this weekend but I didn't realize that the huge music festival happening at the same time would make that unaffordable for me to fly and get a hotel there. I've never resold tickets in general, but the added complication of them being pdf tickets and being located in a different state makes it extra difficult. I have an ad on CL but that feels sketchy. Any resources you would recommend? Is there a local Austin IG account I can contact to do a giveaway?
posted by Marinara at 8:07 AM PST - 5 comments

which dog joint supplement to use?

If you give your elderly dog with joint problems a supplement - which one do you give (and why that one)? [more inside]
posted by mirileh at 7:11 AM PST - 12 comments

is there a way to access a log file or activity file on iOS

I need to access information entered in evernote last night that somehow got deleted shortly after being entered and is missing from the "note history" feature in evernote (possibly due to a syncing issue as I was in the tube when the info was entered). I am wondering if iOS has any sort of key logging history or other ways to retrieve information that was clearly entered in iOS and saved in evernote (however briefly). If iOS has its own key logger or similar that would be exactly what I'd need to retrieve the missing information.
posted by specialk420 at 4:52 AM PST - 2 comments

A book about being a ghost

I read a book around 2002-2005 or so that I'm trying to remember the title of. There was a man who died and then existed in a misty world where he waited until the last person who remembered him died, and then he would fade away. It wasn't a fantasy or sci fi book, I think it was a contemporary literary novel. [more inside]
posted by Rufous-headed Towhee heehee at 4:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Would I benefit from therapy?

So I am having a good year, things are mostly going well and I’m happy. Despite plenty of difficulties in the past I don’t have anything specific I would need to work on in therapy. Ironically I just found out about a therapy practice which does after hours in a good location in my city, and so I was wondering if it would be worth giving them a try. [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 2:49 AM PST - 14 comments

What is the Difference Between a Fistula and an Adenoma Structurally?

Looking for the specific structural differences between a fistula and an adenoma structurally and content-wise and also their genesis. If anyone has any images to compare the 2 microscopically, that would be sublime. Thank you.
posted by watercarrier at 2:28 AM PST - 5 comments

October 1

Why do magic wands look the way they do?

The origin of the black-with-white-tip magic wand in stage magic is often attributed to legendary stage magician Robert Houdin, specifically via his book. Why did he decide to describe the wand as such? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 11:27 PM PST - 13 comments

Losing molars, how to decide?

Dentist wants to pull my remaining two molars on the top left side. Both teeth have old root canals and crowns, though the teeth to me seem sturdy with no looseness. But, I did go in to get a cavity filled by the gums in one of the molars. I am a little freaked out, and writing this question at 2am as I cannot sleep. [more inside]
posted by Glinn at 11:05 PM PST - 7 comments

WTF is going on, low-bandwidth American/Aus politics edition?

I am travelling in India with very low amounts of internet and haven't read the news for just over two weeks. Today I finally checked and... wow. The problem is that whatever happened seems to have happened several weeks ago, and so all the current articles assume lots of background knowledge already. I also still only have slow intermittent internet so can't go down all the rabbit holes. Where can I find a succinct summary of what's going on? Whatever the thing is with Trump and impeachment and Ukraine, and also why Australian politics has somehow been dragged into it?
posted by lollusc at 10:13 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for amazing vegetarian Chinese food

There's a restaurant in Chapel Hill that serves General Tso's Soy Chicken - fried chewy bits, good sauce, fresh vegetables. Is there something like that in Chicago? Note: not looking for fake meat made out of corn starch, tapioca, or arrow root (e.g. starch), but more proteiny stuff, like soy chicken or maybe seitan/gluten. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 4:01 PM PST - 9 comments

Photoshop Quick Mask Weirdness

Suddenly, Quick Mask in Photoshop is doing strange things and I don't know why. Can please hope me? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 3:39 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for travel advice from New Orleans area MeFites

I need to make a day trip from the Mississippi Gulf Coast to Trader Joe's in Metairie, with a stop somewhere for a cheap liquor stock-up. [more inside]
posted by mccxxiii at 3:17 PM PST - 3 comments

The next best thing to a dinner pill

What are some of the most "broadly" nutritious foods? By which I mean foods which contain significant levels of a wide range of nutrients. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 2:57 PM PST - 20 comments

Fighting climate change at the bank

This article on the blue was really inspiring as a strategy to address climate change by focusing pressure on financing institutions to move away from the fossil fuel industry. Now that I'm excited to do something to support this, and I'm looking for help in deciding how to do this. [more inside]
posted by beepbeepboopboop at 2:53 PM PST - 4 comments

So Bad at Masturbating

In the last few months I've been much more interested in penetrative sex and had much more pleasure from it, which has been great! But strangely, exactly at the time this started I became really bad at masturbating - which is frustrating as that has always been the only way I had orgasms. Has anyone got a solution, or a book or website that offers detailed help? [more inside]
posted by justapuppet1999 at 2:50 PM PST - 16 comments

ESTA - point of contact?

I'll be travelling to the US soon and while my ESTA is still valid, my friend who I originally stated as my point of contact no longer has an address in the US (he's just travelling around the country at the moment) and his visa expired recently. [more inside]
posted by U.N.Owen at 2:05 PM PST - 3 comments

Should I do anything to protect my iPhone 11 Pro's lenses?

People have always used lens caps to protect the lenses on their expensive cameras. I just got an iPhone 11 Pro, and one of its main features is the camera system. Shouldn't I cover its lenses when I put it in my pocket or bag? But how? [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 1:32 PM PST - 10 comments

What to do, what to do?

I’ve made it out of retail and into public health, but I’m still not sure I’m on the right path. I need some career advice. [more inside]
posted by bluloo at 1:30 PM PST - 2 comments

how terrible is a long commute?

i have two job opportunities and am mostly nervous about the transit-based commute. tell me about your long commute. bonus if it's in chicago. [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 1:14 PM PST - 37 comments

What's the origin of "Portland Orange"?

I learned this morning that traffic signal engineering specifications for DON'T WALK crosswalk signals in the US require that "Portland Orange" be the color used. This appears to go back to at least the mid-1950s as a specification, but I'm having trouble finding out (a) when exactly that specification came into being and more to the point (b) what the etymology of the name "Portland Orange" is in the first place! [more inside]
posted by cortex at 12:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Greyhound says what?

What's the current state of Greyhound bus experience? Are the rules about quiet enforced? Is there a lot of body odor? Recent experiences and tips requested, as the last question is a decade old. [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 10:51 AM PST - 13 comments

Trustworthy pet information site?

When I want trustworthy medical information about humans, I rely on MayoClinic.com. What's the corresponding site for reliable info for dogs and cats?
posted by conscious matter at 10:50 AM PST - 6 comments

Yet Another Excel Bulk Hyperlink Question

This isn't a question about converting a bunch of Hyperlinks in excel to URLs, nor is it a question about putting multiple hyperlinks into a cell. But it is a question about bulk hyperlinks in Excel. There has got to be a bulk system for doing what i"m doing, but I can't articulate it well enough to search for it. So lemme try asking humans instead of Google. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 10:22 AM PST - 26 comments

Health insurance for two soon-to-be uninsured cancer patients...

My parents both have cancer. Mom just lost her job and, as such, her employer-provided insurance that covered her and my dad. They've got COBRA now but can't afford to keep paying the insane premiums for that. There are no ACA plans available that are accepted by their treatment providers and they don't qualify for our state's Medicaid. What do and holy god, does insurance in this country just suck or what... [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 10:18 AM PST - 14 comments

The search for feather-weight furniture

Moving into a 4-story walk-up apartment and I'd love to find some furniture (especially a sofa) that comes in pieces that weigh less than 40 pounds so that I can get it up the stairs. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 10:14 AM PST - 11 comments

Seeking a small Windows 10 box that can play Steam games

I’m looking for a small Windows 10 machine that can run Steam and some games decently. [more inside]
posted by odinsdream at 10:13 AM PST - 14 comments

Essays/Articles That Opened Your Mind

In search of nonfiction that makes you go, "Huh. Never thought of it like that before.” Suggestions, please! [more inside]
posted by xenization at 8:16 AM PST - 50 comments

I need to purchase t-shirts - the kind with things on them

For reasons, I need to have a couple of t-shirts with...designs. I'm really not a t-shirt person, but if I have to buy and wear them I don't want to hate them. I want nicely made ones that aren't itchy or totally cheap. Where do I get them? Details within. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:58 AM PST - 18 comments

Anyone know of any effective strategies for reframing "fun"?

I'm very good at forcing myself to do really big, difficult, long term mental tasks. I'm terrible at prioritizing anything else (eg fun or escapist) and feel guilty if I'm not working towards a big, long term goal. Any advice? Too many snowflake details within. [more inside]
posted by wooh at 6:08 AM PST - 22 comments

Big Flex

My company just announced they were giving everyone the option of working flex schedules. Tell me about what changed when you switched over. [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 6:07 AM PST - 23 comments

How do I accept a sincere Day of Atonement apology?

Sometimes, my Jewish friends and coworkers will approach me for forgiveness around Yom Kippur. I’m not Jewish, but am always humbled by the gesture and intent. However, I really don’t know how to respond in the moment. Accepting the (sometimes very direct) apology seems to me to be acknowledging that my friend has done a wrong against me, which makes me uncomfortable. Assuring them they have nothing to be forgiven for seems disrespectful of the intent of the request. My brain spins and I tend to get tongue-tied at this point. [more inside]
posted by These Premises Are Alarmed at 6:03 AM PST - 16 comments

Repair wood chair in NYC?

I need some wood chairs repaired in NYC. Any recommendations?
posted by ebesan at 5:12 AM PST - 2 comments

Unbiased consumer reviews online?

The web is a sea of advertisements masquerading as content, so what are your go-to sites for fair consumer product reviews? I just found The Wire Cutter ("A New York Times Company") that seems to fit the description. What else?
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 3:38 AM PST - 33 comments

Help me plan a vacation scavenger hunt in Japan!

We'll be traveling to Japan in 2 weeks time with my 5-year old. One of the things we plan to do is walk a lot; in particular we're going on a short hike through the countryside. To keep my kid from getting too bored, I was thinking of preparing a sort of scavenger hunt for him to play while we're on our feet: a list of things he'd need to spot and point out while walking around. I need help coming up with that list! [more inside]
posted by destrius at 3:02 AM PST - 6 comments

What good discussion looks like, and where to find it.

What makes internet discussion good? And where do you go to get it? (MeFi included, natch.) [more inside]
posted by rustipi at 2:26 AM PST - 4 comments