October 2016 Archives

October 31

Quote hunt: the way things are mistaken for the way things should be

I'm trying to hunt the exact quote and source for what I remember as something like this: "I know I am at risk of having my statement of the way I think things are mistaken for a statement of the way that I think things should be". No luck googling this and variations, so I'm stuck.
posted by grazer at 10:46 PM PST - 5 comments

When to take a pregnancy test?

When do you take a pregnancy test if you don't have any periods? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 10:25 PM PST - 13 comments

What to do for a weekend in Boston?

I'm visiting Boston for the first time over Veterans' Day weekend. What should I do there? [more inside]
posted by hoist with his own pet aardvark at 8:00 PM PST - 11 comments

Tampa Road Trip Suggestons Early February?

A buddy and I cashed in air miles for a Florida vacation in early February, 2016. We fly into/out of Tampa and have six nights. We will have a rental car. We will be leaving frozen Montana. What do you sugest we do? Dislkes inside. [more inside]
posted by ITravelMontana at 7:51 PM PST - 10 comments

Ticket refund

Story: I purchased tickets from a ticket vendor for an event. They have a no refund policy unless the show is cancelled. When I got to the event it was a complete mess getting in. There weren't enough check points in the lines or security guards to help with the traffic flow. Management put the attendees in danger by overselling tickets. People were being pushed and close to being trampled on waiting in line, and there was no exit out of the line once you got in. I waited 2 hours and was extremely disappointed by the disorganization and greediness of the management, and promoters. I have attended a number of similar events and this was by far the worst experience ever. [more inside]
posted by quasicalligraphic at 7:08 PM PST - 12 comments

Car in Brooklyn

Thinking about getting a car and live in Brooklyn. What's the best move? [more inside]
posted by jourman2 at 6:56 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find this poem about a Vermeer painting

This is a long shot because I'm so fuzzy on the details but I've exhausted my searching skills: I'm looking for a poem (it's possible it was a very, very short story) about a woman in a Vermeer painting -- maaaybe in reference to the one stolen from the Gardner Museum, since it ends with her "escaping." The bits and pieces I remember are inside. [more inside]
posted by ella_minnow at 6:43 PM PST - 7 comments

I feel like I am losing my friend, need advice on how to proceed

I basically divulged my feelings to my best friend, and now I feel like I am losing him. Is there any way to stop the damage? [more inside]
posted by bolognius maximus at 5:17 PM PST - 17 comments

You are not my therapist, but could you play one on the internet?

An event occurred in my family when I was a teenager which I recently brought up with the family members involved. This created a second issue, and I have been trying to understand the reasons, meanings and ramifications of both the original and more recent events. [more inside]
posted by Thella at 5:06 PM PST - 23 comments

toilet plunger goes "inside out" - cannot plunge toilet

Help, I broke my original plunger (which I found out is a sink/shower plunger) so I bought the most expensive flange plunger the store had. I fill plunger with water, get a good seal (I think, can't see), and push down slowly, but when I come back up the plunger has partially popped "inside out" if you know what I mean and breaks the seal so I can only do one plunge at a time. I have had no luck googling. What do I do? How do I unclog this? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 3:42 PM PST - 32 comments

Recommendations for disability insurance--freelance edition

Disability insurance for freelancers: Worth it? Who does it well? The last question on this topic was from 2009, so I'm hoping for some more current info as well as (hopefully) recommendations! [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 2:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Do people think there is a dog poop fairy in the woods?

I take my dog [sorry no picture, I'm at work, can't get to Instagram for a link] to run or walk in our lovely regional parks 2-3 times every week. I keep her on leash, I always carry at least one dog bag, and I carry out her poop or deposit it in the garbage bins conveniently located at every trailhead. And every week I end up picking up at least a few other people's (full) poop bags from the trail, some of them within 40 yards of the garbage bin! [more inside]
posted by suelac at 1:22 PM PST - 36 comments

Best Practices: Light Therapy for moderate acne

Do you use blue or red light therapy for acne? Does it work? A friend is looking to phase out the topical ointment she currently uses for acne treatment. She's going to ask her dermatologist, but wants to have some information prior to that meeting, and a lot of the information online is very obviously written by the manufactures of the devices. [more inside]
posted by Svenny at 1:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Is there a name for this fresh BS my partner is hoisting upon me?

During disagreements (no matter how small), my partner tends to go from 0-60 and uses words, tone, and facial expressions that I see as an attempt to intimidate me into shutting up. It's frustrating and insanely uncool but my question: is there a name for this behavior? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 12:51 PM PST - 110 comments

Where can I find these discontinued glasses frames?

A while back I bought a pair of glasses with these frames from Zenni Optical. They've since discontinued those glasses; where can I get a similar pair? [more inside]
posted by mistersix at 12:47 PM PST - 8 comments

How to transition from breastfeeding to formula.

My baby is breastfeeding 7 times a day, plus a bottle of formula. How do we transition to just 4 or 5 feeds of formula a day? [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 10:39 AM PST - 16 comments

Do you speak Donald Duck-ese?

In the 1952 cartoon short "Trick or Treat", any idea what Donald says after he wakes up from unconsciousness? I've never been able to figure it out! [more inside]
posted by theatro at 10:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Gelatin for arthritis: is there SCIENCE behind it?

I'm as anti-woo as person can get, and my sister is the same. On a recent visit, she said she mixes a packet on unflavored gelatin powder (not Jello) into her smoothies, and it helps with arthritis pain in her knees, which I also suffer from. The theory is, it's made of collagen (protein) and will help with the ailing collagen in the joints. [more inside]
posted by BostonTerrier at 10:02 AM PST - 11 comments

Urgent: How do I get rid of keylogger on my computers

I know for a fact someone has installed something on at least one of my computers. How do I get rid of this? [more inside]
posted by olivetree at 9:55 AM PST - 27 comments

What happens to disability claims when the third party left?

I'm filling out a claim for temporary disability and am stumped on the section about a third party--both of us (or neither of us) were responsible, and I thought I was okay and didn't get the person's contact info. Both "no" and "yes" seem dishonest/incomplete as an answer to if a third party was responsible, and there isn't room to explain the situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:53 AM PST - 3 comments

Long Voice Mails of Static

I am stumped. I don't know why this keeps happening. I administrate the phone system in my workplace. One of my users has been receiving long voice mails that consist of static. Just really loud static. They are from several different numbers. When I call the numbers, the people have no idea what I am talking about. The first couple could be explained away as pocket dials. Now it's a nuisance. [more inside]
posted by domo at 9:50 AM PST - 7 comments

If Not a New MacBook Pro, Then What?

95% of the time I use my Mac laptop at home, docked to monitor, keyboard, and mouse. Problem is, it's a 13" air, and I find I really need a 15" for times when I do work outside on laptop. So I need to make a change. But the new MacBook Pros don't seem for people who dock at home. [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 9:35 AM PST - 25 comments

Making science "popular science", what are the "tricks" used by authors?

What are the "tricks" used by authors such as Malcolm Gladwell in making science topics into "popular science"? [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 9:12 AM PST - 7 comments

Love Poems 1916

For a game that I'm going to be playing I'm looking for love poems which will have been reasonably well known in Ireland in 1916/ 1917. [more inside]
posted by Laura_J at 7:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Your favorite vegan restaurants in Berlin

I'm heading to Berlin soon and am excited and overwhelmed by the variety and number of vegan/vegan friendly restaurants & cafes. I've read every list of recommended vegan restaurants, but I'd really like personal recommendations. What vegan or vegan friendly restaurants, cafes, bakeries, shops are your favorites? All cuisines, all price-ranges welcome.
posted by Pineapplicious at 7:56 AM PST - 8 comments

'ancient boundaries of Yorkshire quiz' questions

I need help with finding the answers for an ‘ancient boundaries of Yorkshire quiz’ for a charity quiz im completing. The theme & details for the quiz is: ‘cancer research - ancient boundaries of Yorkshire quiz', and the closing date is Monday 7th November. All answers can be found in or partly in the ancient boundaries of Yorkshire. I’ve posted the questions below which im struggling with and I've tried really hard working them out but i can't find the correct answers for the questions. [more inside]
posted by kelster1 at 7:09 AM PST - 11 comments

Experience with Wall Convection Heaters?

Do you have any experiences with wall-mounted convection heaters, like this thing? Are they any good? I have a small glass porch I'd like to warm up for winter mornings. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 5:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Carrying a LOT of music

How can I carry around a LOT of music? I have 300+GB of music, audiobooks, and lectures, and the few GB of space on my iPhone frustrates me. I have a travel router that works dandy as a pocket-able streaming server; are there USB storage devices in that size range that don't require wall power? [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 5:45 AM PST - 22 comments

North or central London yoga class recommendations

I'd like to continue to learn yoga when I move to London in the coming months. North or central London would be best. I've done research but I can't figure out what would the best class for me. So I thought I would ask for some personal experience-based recommendations. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:10 AM PST - 4 comments

October 30

Keeping cats OFF the (hot tin) roof

What's a good method to stop feral cats from climbing up trees and getting on the roof? Special parameters inside.. [more inside]
posted by kilohertz at 8:04 PM PST - 12 comments

Unlikely cousins on 23andme

My knowledge of biology is minimal, so bear with me. I'm on 23andme, which shows me a list of relatives. From the names and biographical information, most look accurate (same South Indian ethnicity as mine). However, there are 2 people on the list who are white American and don't appear to have any Indian connection, who share about 0.10% of my DNA. I don't have white ancestors either, AFAIK. Is this a sequencing error? A coincidental common mutation? Or an actual shared ancestry?
posted by redlines at 7:57 PM PST - 18 comments

I live in remote area of Mexico and need fast internet...

Hi folks. I run a hotel in a lazy, somewhat remote area of Mexico and at the moment our internet service is slow and frequently cuts out (our provider keeps telling me that their electricity keeps cutting out for no apparent reason). I was wondering if any of you had any genius ideas about DIY installations. As a side note, our cellphones get OK 3G service on some parts of the property. Also, I'm not sure how our current provider is supplying us with internet, but our setup for that involves an antennae on our roof that is pointing (I think) at the nearest cell tower that then connects to our router. I am willing to turn this into a project since most aspects of our business (hotel) requires reliable, high speed internet for both our customers and our administrators. Please help and thanks!
posted by MD_yeahright at 7:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Thanks (for the newspapers), Obama

On November 5th 2008 and November 7th 2012 here in London England, I tried to collect as many British newspapers as I could that featured Barack Hussein Obama II's historic election to the presidency of the United States. The whole world was united in pride for the US on both of those days. Now that he's moving out of the White House, I feel like it's time to give them away; the question is, who gets them? [Preferably to someone in New York City. Sorry Duluth.] [more inside]
posted by Ten Cold Hot Dogs at 6:52 PM PST - 7 comments

keratoconus - Should contact lenses move significantly with every blink?

My boyfriend has keratoconus - a disorder that effects the shape of his cornea and causes vision problems including double vision. According to his opthamologist, it's a pretty severe case of keratoconus, but he's able to correct it with specially made contact lenses. I'm concerned about the fit of the contacts because they do not seem centered on his eye and they seem to be moving a lot every time he blinks... [more inside]
posted by snickersnee at 6:34 PM PST - 10 comments

I've been so angry lately, how do I cool down?

I wouldn't normally think of myself as an angry person or a person with a big temper, but lately my temper has been out of control. I can't act like this anymore, it's completely unacceptable... how exactly do I calm down? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 6:14 PM PST - 25 comments

JFK to Times Square in one piece - November 30th

What is the best, most cost-effective transportation for me and my bags to get from JFK to my hotel in Times Square? [more inside]
posted by Cookbooks and Chaos at 5:21 PM PST - 21 comments


So I am looking for a bodycam and wondering what is out there. [more inside]
posted by metajim at 4:18 PM PST - 5 comments

1st Time PC Builder with a Question

I'm trying to build my own gaming PC and have hit a snag. The motherboard powers-up but a few seconds later powers back down, then repeats. [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 2:37 PM PST - 13 comments

What do I do with all this green tea?

I'm in the process of tidying my kitchen cabinets by finishing old products, and it's quickly becoming clear that there is no way I'll get through the massive jar of dried green tea leaves I got two Christmases ago. I drink tea, but this is not my favourite tea so I maybe have three cups a week of it at most and it's not making a dent. Help me use up the tea in creative ways. [more inside]
posted by easternblot at 2:23 PM PST - 22 comments

How do I find these amazing band-aids outside Germany?

I found the BEST BAND-AIDS in the world in a pharmacy in Germany. I bought 7 boxes of them, but now they are almost gone, and I want more! They were 0.89 € for a box and are super soft/comfortable "sensitive skin" bandages. Unlike some other comfortable bandages, they also stay on super well and come off easily. I would love ideas for other similar products (if I could buy 200 for a reasonable price, it would be amazing), or how to get these magical band-aids from Germany to Canada. [more inside]
posted by oranger at 2:03 PM PST - 5 comments

Is Pouring Soup on Pies A Thing?

I'm from Scotland, live in Utah, and recently came across this local company who assert that they make "authentic Scottish Meat Pies." That as may be, but they then continue with the following suggestion: "Top it with chili, soup or gravy for a great meal!" As a bona fide Scotsman, I'm pretty 100% sure nobody in Scotland tops their meat pies with chili or soup (although possibly with gravy). Is this a thing? I have never seen a pie served in a small bowl of soup either, as the picture suggests. How do you eat/ serve your pies?
posted by 7 Minutes of Madness at 2:00 PM PST - 26 comments

The foam still cleans for me, as it does for all those who truly believe

On your advice, I bought some offbrand Mr. Clean Magic Erasers. I'm not feeling the magic. What gives? [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 11:45 AM PST - 18 comments

replacing overhead light fail

Overhead light with obscure bulbs long burned out so I don't know if it worked recently. Removed same. Confirm with voltage tester that hot wire is hot, neutral wire neutral, ground wire firmly attached to box. Installed new lighting fixture with LED bulbs. Put on juice. Light goes on for half a second, then died. Uninstall, check lights & fixture with known power, works fine. Repeat. Connections appear firm. (I've done this before.) Brief light, fade. Repeat. No light. Works fine elsewhere. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by IndigoJones at 9:28 AM PST - 11 comments

How much does it cost to wrap a car?

One color, nothing super fancy, average size car. In the US.
posted by fixedgear at 9:23 AM PST - 2 comments

Depression/Anxiety help in Cleveland

Depression/Anxiety help in Cleveland. Looking for a doctor/therapist/counselor to help my daughter deal with the return of her old nemesis. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:23 AM PST - 3 comments

Does universal velcro exist? Or some other non-polar fastener?

I know velcro generally works by having one strip with tiny hooks catch on another strip with tiny loops. Does velcro exist where each piece contains a mixture of hooks and loops, meaning any piece can stick to any other piece? [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 6:40 AM PST - 12 comments

Pain in foot, why?

Over the past year I've developed a recurring pain in my left foot's big toe joint. It would appear for a few weeks, heal, and return several months later at regular intervals. I do rock climb and hike, but this does not seem to correlate with the pain. My other foot is normal. [more inside]
posted by BeaverTerror at 6:02 AM PST - 13 comments

How to install Ubuntu on a wiped drive?

In the process of putting up my old desktop for sale I wiped the hard drive. Now that I'm ready to install Ubuntu via USB, I forgot how to get it done. Once I boot, what command do I type in so I can have it boot and install with USB?
posted by AngryTypingGuy at 3:03 AM PST - 6 comments

October 29

Is trouble having difficult conversations in a relationship a bad sign?

I feel like my partner avoids difficult conversations and often pays me lip-service to avoid unpleasant topics. How worrisome is this behavior long term? [more inside]
posted by aquablue582 at 11:27 PM PST - 33 comments

Looking for a particular YA novel

Can you help me find this book based on the very few (and disturbing) details I remember? [more inside]
posted by Ruby Me at 10:35 PM PST - 6 comments

What electronic music hardware/software/tutorial combo do I need?

I want to make a very specific kind of electronic music purely for fun, but getting a bit overwhelmed by all the hardware and software options out there, as well as the best way to actually learn them effectively with super limited time. Can someone help a snowflake out? Difficulty level: Sampling from Apple Music or Spotify [more inside]
posted by LongDrive at 10:04 PM PST - 8 comments

What's a computer?

I'm using an old 401k rollover to pay for graduate school. Tuition is a higher education expense, so it qualifies for penalty-free withdrawals, and the PATH Act confirmed that "purchase of computer or peripheral equipment" is also a qualified expense (as is software). Do things like adapters and dongles fall under the aforementioned "computer and peripheral equipment", or would I have to separate those out? [more inside]
posted by chimpsonfilm at 8:29 PM PST - 1 comment

Reviews of ordinary life blog

A number of years ago, I remember there was a middle aged or older woman, I think in the Midwest, who wrote very plain reviews of restaurants and other things of everyday life. Somehow, she ended up going viral, and was "a thing" for a bit. But I can't seem to remember enough about it all to find her on Google. Does this ring a bell for anyone?
posted by jasper411 at 7:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Moving North... Metro North. What's the 411 on Westchester Co.

My wife, 3-year old son, and I are leaving Brooklyn for somewhere off the metro north. We're looking to rent. Is there anything affordably middle class, not too long of a commute, and with good schools (specifically pre-k and early elementary) in Westchester County? [more inside]
posted by demonstartivepapadonous at 3:35 PM PST - 18 comments

I want to be an early riser. How do I stay alert in the mornings?

So, I'm a home-based worker and I've got the waking up at 5am-6am part down. The issue is that I'm in a mental fog for most of the morning. I've played around with sleep schedules and it seems I DO get enough sleep (7 hours), just that I have a hard time staying alert. Do you have tips or strategies on staying mentally sharp early in the morning? [more inside]
posted by neeta at 3:19 PM PST - 23 comments

Help me track down the chips and salsa of my childhood!

I'm looking for a particular brand of chips and salsa from my childhood. It was a snack bag size, taller than it was wide, bright orange "mexican" style branding across the top, otherwise clear bag so you could see the round corn chips. The bag included a packet of red salsa about 1.5 inches wide 3ish inches long. [more inside]
posted by magnetsphere at 3:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Someone annoying me at work / harassment?

First, I want to point out I am a guy, and I work in a professional white collar environment. There is someone at work who is annoying me to the point in which it's really aggravating. He comes up to me when I am at the copy machine, and says comments like: 1) You are looking good today. And sometimes he just gives an intense long stare at me, which is weird. 2) He once said I have a nice chest. 3) Yells out my name in a mocking way when I pass by, but when no one is around. 4) Makes comments about the way I dress. It might not seem much, but it's done in a weird way, which is done in a snide / mocking / teasing manner. Is this something that I have to learn to brush off? It's very annoying. I am close with my boss, so should I tell him first, before I tell this guy to stop irritating me? I will like to check with my boss first to see how he will react in the event I tell this guy to stop and he doesn't. Do I need real evidence of him bothering me? I was thinking of using the recorder on my phone to record any interaction.
posted by pieceofcake at 2:45 PM PST - 42 comments

Have a book stuck in my head, maybe about the apocalypse?

I'm trying to remember a story I read some time ago. I'm 83% sure it was a novel, but there's a slim chance it was a short story. One key phrase sticks in my head: "Been down, goin' up!" I think the plot of the story was an intervention of a couple who, if left to their own devices, would give birth to the Antichrist. I don't think this was a religious book, instead I keep picturing a Neil Gaiman-esque author. Fantasy writing, but more along the lines of an American Gods-style fantasy. [more inside]
posted by Moondoggie at 1:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Hearing aid assistance in northern CO/online alternatives?

My uncle is looking for a new provider to service his hearing aids. The only, new-in-town one in his area (northern CO), is "incompetent" and wants to sell him a (prohibitively expensive) new pair. Alternatively, he is also interested in an online, $50 pair with "good reviews", which can be programmed individually?? Any suggestions/thoughts about local providers or cheaper hearing aides would be very much appreciated. TIA!
posted by warm_planet at 12:48 PM PST - 3 comments

What is this (likely South Asian) charm or talisman I've seen in cars?

In the cars of a few Indian acquaintances (I am in the US), I've seen what looks like a bright orange "flying" dragon or lion hanging off the rear view mirror. What is this called, and what does it mean? The closest image I could find is this, but the ones I've seen appear solid orange, perhaps plastic.
posted by Seeking Direction at 11:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Is it possible to recycle a vacuum flask?

I have a Zojirushi travel mug that I have had for a while. Someone gifted me a new one. What do I do with the old one? I don't to just toss the old one in the trash so it ends up in a landfill, but I don't know what else to do with it. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 11:36 AM PST - 13 comments

How to make an upright umbrella costume that opens and closes?

How can we make an umbrella costume for our 3-year-old that opens when he raises his arms and closes when he lowers them? [more inside]
posted by marlys at 8:32 AM PST - 13 comments

Best job I’ve ever hated

My job is, by most objective standards, terrific. I work from home (which I like); have flexible hours; overtime is okay’d whenever requested; boss likes me and thinks I’m brilliant. And the pay is more than I’ve ever made in my life (which puts me at just under the low end of middle-class income). Yay. What’s not good: the work I do, which includes an increasing number of tasks I dislike intensely – enough that I’ve thought not only, “I’d rather work with raw sewage than do this,” but “hey, I wonder if that guy I used to know who worked at the sewage plant still works there? Nah, they probably don’t pay this well for untrained labor. (Could I get trained?)” [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:48 AM PST - 32 comments

US healthcare

A relative of mine is visiting the US without travel insurance, and their child has been hospitalised in New York and is receiving treatment. This relative does not have the means to pay for the hospital stay or treatment, so what will the consequences be? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:48 AM PST - 14 comments

Help Me Understand if the New Federal Overtime Wage Law Applies to Me

I am employed by a travel company as a tour manager. I am considered by the company to be a "full time employee" which means I get guaranteed 26 weeks of work, 2 weeks paid vacation and health insurance . On Monday we have a mandatory conference call with the head of HR and I would like to be prepared to ask the right questions. More detail inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:48 AM PST - 4 comments

Art hurts

Artists of Metafilter: what do you do to avoid hand pain and/or eye strain? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 7:43 AM PST - 8 comments

number of rent-controlled units in Berkeley, CA?

Can Mefites help me find how many rent controlled units there are one year to the next in Berkeley, CA? I thought it would be simple to find this information but I have been looking for four days. Would help tons!
posted by parmanparman at 7:39 AM PST - 3 comments

Funny Times

I've been reading The Funny Times for years. It might be time to move on. [more inside]
posted by allelopath at 7:28 AM PST - 5 comments

Why do so many lactose intolerant people continue to eat dairy?

Although I have almost entirely adjusted to the lactose intolerant lifestyle over the last few months, it never ceases to amaze me that lactose intolerance is supposed to be the default, yet dairy is such a permanent fixture of the American diet! There's cheese and/or milk in nearly everything. My question to is: why do so many lactose intolerant people continue to eat dairy? [more inside]
posted by Delia at 7:04 AM PST - 60 comments

How Do I Get My Mentally-Ill Mother Permanent Help?

The situation described in this question has gotten both better and worse. I'm stuck in yet another bind with regard to my mother, who has been hospitalized but cannot live by herself. They may release her on Monday to her home, where she has no supervision and is being evicted. I know that I shouldn't be the primary caregiver - I do not WANT to be the primary caregiver - but I am, and now I need to make sure that my mother has a safe place to unravel. More details within. [more inside]
posted by Ashen at 6:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Adapting Angelina Jolie's bungee-cord-aerial-dance-thingy in Tomb Raider

In the Tomb Raider movie, Angelina Jolie has a bungee dance scene, where she's wearing a hip harness attached to two bungee cords in the ceiling and doing flips through the air. If someone wanted to do the same thing in their home, would it be possible (assuming you had the ceilings for it). How would you go about doing that? What's the required equipment, and how do you learn how to use it? (And what's this thing called? I'm finding a *little* under 'bungee dance' but not much...)
posted by sirion at 5:09 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I politely decline going to a wedding?

I don’t want to go to the wedding of a formerly close friend. What’s an acceptable way to decline (and am I overthinking this)? [more inside]
posted by dayspteh at 1:36 AM PST - 33 comments

October 28

What vegetarian dinner should I serve with buttermilk biscuits?

A friend from the UK who is enamored with my buttermilk biscuits is coming to visit, and I'm making her dinner. What should I serve with the biscuits? [more inside]
posted by mynameisluka at 10:28 PM PST - 22 comments

What Job Perks Are Commonly Negotiated In 2016?

After some time away from my regular career (5 years), I am jumping back in. I have been spending time thinking what kind of perks I might look to negotiate in a job. It seems like more people are doing this than 5 years ago; certainly more of my friends have. So what is common? [more inside]
posted by [insert clever name here] at 9:01 PM PST - 16 comments

How can I encourage my wavy hair to go curly?

I'm a man with medium-length, thick, generally wavy hair that's prone to frizz. It's curled up at the ends since forever, and I've always tried to tamp that down by working in mousse while it's still damp. However, occasionally I'll accidentally wash it in a certain way and wake up the following morning with lots of big O-shaped ringlets. I quite like the look, others do too, and it does away with my curly-ends problem. How can I achieve this more consistently? [more inside]
posted by Panthalassa at 8:00 PM PST - 20 comments

How to "Marissa Mayer" a high-powered job negotiation (with new baby)?

Being recruited for a CEO-level position, and I recently had a baby. A mentor of mine suggested that I "Marissa Mayer the s**t out of the negotiation" to ask for all the lifestyle amenities I'll need to make this work. What should I ask for? [more inside]
posted by yearly at 7:32 PM PST - 16 comments

Simple two player game that's also good for travel?

I have a lot of travel coming up this holiday season. I'm looking for two player games that I can play with Mrs Mars on a plane. Few parts or cards only would be best, and simple rules are a must.
posted by Eddie Mars at 7:04 PM PST - 18 comments

Idiot's Guide to Moving to NYC

I've taken a job in NYC. Yay! The only tricky part is I'm in Texas. I could do with some advice on finding an apartment, neighborhoods, car ownership and the things I haven't thought of yet. Basically, tell me everything, but specific questions below. [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 5:34 PM PST - 40 comments

Parts is Parts for Thanksgiving?

On Thanksgiving, can I just roast turkey parts rather than an entire turkey? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 5:04 PM PST - 25 comments

Cute fun reading glasses I can order online?

I am middle aged and need reading glasses. I like colorful relatively inexpensive reading glasses since I am good at destroying or losing them. I used to buy them at Flying Tiger, but it appears glasses are no longer in their range. I bought some cats-eye models from Amazon, but they literally disintegrated after 2-3 uses. Too cheap! Bonus if the company ships internationally to me in Hong Kong, but I can also live with shipping to my sister in the US or to friends in the Netherlands.
posted by frumiousb at 4:51 PM PST - 17 comments

Seeing last.fm's "Similar Tracks"?

Last.fm used to keep an amazing, long list of "similar tracks" for every song. As of a year or two ago, their godawful new interface only shows four. Can full lists still somehow be generated somewhere, and if so where/how? [more inside]
posted by zokni at 4:46 PM PST - 2 comments

What is it like to file Chapter 7 bankruptcy?

I am looking at filing Chapter 7 bankruptcy in the next month. I would like to know what this process is like and how nerve-wracking it is and how anxious I, an anxious person, can expect to be throughout. You are not my bankruptcy lawyer, nor are you in my situation with my specifics, but I would like to hear about your experiences. More about my personal situation under the cut so you can give advice if you feel so inclined. [more inside]
posted by shamash at 4:14 PM PST - 9 comments

Body Position Classification System

Is there some system to describe the ways that the human body can be positioned? Something like the International Phonetic Alphabet where you can notate the full range of human speech sounds, but for the human body? I have a project where I want to compare different body positions mathematically.
posted by gregr at 2:45 PM PST - 12 comments

Breathtaking nature near southern Germany

What is the most breathtaking day trip into nature that can be had within two hours' driving distance of Tübingen, Germany? [more inside]
posted by a sourceless light at 2:06 PM PST - 7 comments

YANMD - but what is this mystery? And should I see a doc?

2 weeks ago, I thought I was coming down with a cold - one night, I started sneezing a ton & my nose started running. I went for a really intense sports massage the next morning and came out feeling very emotional & teary & tired. A few hours later I felt so tired and out of it that I went home - for approx 24 hours of vomiting & diarrhea and feeling awful. Complete with red rash on my chest. And then I was okay. Kinda tired & out of it for another day or so, but fine. No cold symptoms, even. I wrote it up to flu, or maybe food poisoning. THEN THE EXACT SAME THING HAPPENED YESTERDAY. What? [more inside]
posted by red_rabbit at 1:30 PM PST - 16 comments

Contingency sales are like dominoes, only with money

We were supposed to move on Monday. We were selling our previous home and we had an approved contingent offer on a new home. Closing dates were set. We found out today the buyers for our home had their loan fall through. Now what do we do? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 12:41 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for baby books (board books) in Spanish

I'm looking for baby books in Spanish that meet the following criteria: 1. Board book 2. Written in Spanish (i.e. not a translation). 3. In Spanish, only (not bilingual) 4. Not somehow about the fact that they are in Spanish. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 12:17 PM PST - 7 comments

Glass door installer is stalling on me. Next step?

Back in July we were doing a number of renovations on a house we just bought. A local company did both window and roof work, so we thought we'd kill two birds and hire them. Turns out that was a mistake. [more inside]
posted by cartoonella at 12:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Getting back into video games

I haven't played video games in about 10 years. While I still don't have the time or inclination to become any sort of serious gamer, I've enjoyed games in the past and I recently came into possession of a PS4. I'm looking for The One Game to serve as my gateway into non-obsessive modern gaming -- something on which I can spend a rewarding few hours a week for a while and from which I can hopefully then branch out to other stuff I might like. A few (general, loose) criteria inside. [more inside]
posted by eugenen at 11:24 AM PST - 36 comments

What are my options here?

My job is a sick system and I feel burnt out, miserable, and trapped. This UK employer sponsors my Tier 2 work visa. If I quit, I will have to return to the US immediately, which I have absolutely no intentions of doing. Current UK visa rules mean it's nearly impossible for me to find a different employer, moreso since the Brexit outcome. I have three more years living here under a work visa until I can apply for citizenship, which is my long-term goal. As crazy as it sounds, I'd like to stay with them, but how do I survive this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:09 AM PST - 7 comments

Can you recommend a financial planner in the Toronto area?

My partner has come into some money. Can you recommend a financial planner? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:08 AM PST - 3 comments

What do we do with this very big check?

My husband and I are looking to buy a (modest) home in (the farther reaches of) New York City. I recently mentioned this to my parents, who promptly offered to help and then wrote us a big check that's currently burning a hole in my pocket. It's a lovely, generous offer, but we don't need the money. What my parents don't know is that my husband has a trust fund that would cover a down payment with money left over. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:08 AM PST - 30 comments

Ethernet to USB hub/switch

I have an iMac where the internal USB controller has gone flakey. It corrupts photos from SD cards, and just recently seems to have messed up my backup drive (also USB). The repair place is suggesting it will cost $800 to replace the logic board (parts + labor). Since everything else works well, I'd like to salvage the machine. [more inside]
posted by CheeseDigestsAll at 10:07 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I get a copy of this unicorn art from the movie Contact?

Here's a screenshot of the unicorn print in question. Is this familiar to anyone? Is it an actual replication of renaissance art than I can get my hands on?
posted by Ambrosia Voyeur at 9:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Cause...you...light up my bike...

I'm determined to continue my bike commute until the first here-to-stay snowfall happens. But I want and need to be visible! Suggestions that deviate from the usual bike headlights and how-to's wanted. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 9:39 AM PST - 34 comments

How to find broad surveys of recent literature on a topic?

I'm a new PhD student and I am wondering if there is some kind of trick to finding a broad "Review of Recent Literature" or "Survey of Recent Literature" on my subject area. I've been on JSTOR and BMCR the last couple of days just trawling through single book reviews, papers etc amassing a prospective bibliography. But I do remember once last year stumbling across a gem that happened to be broad literature review on 10-20 different secondary works on the exact author I was interested in (in political philosophy). Is there a trick to it? [more inside]
posted by mary8nne at 9:22 AM PST - 13 comments

Dishonored 2 Trailer: Live Action + CGI, or Just CGI?

Alright, I gotta know. Is the live action trailer for Dishonered 2 actually live action + cgi, or is it 100% cgi and should I just give myself over to the computer gods because jfc I can't tell the difference anymore?
posted by Hermione Granger at 9:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Any American Expat bars to watch the election in Mexico City?

Hello, I will be in Mexico City next week and I’m trying to find an American expat bar that will be showing the coverage of the election. I’d prefer a place skewed towards younger people if possible. I got to watch the last election in an expat bar in Buenos Aires and it was quite an event. If anybody can help me out I would really appreciate it. Thanks!
posted by Che boludo! at 9:16 AM PST - 1 comment

Looking for a small bon voyage gift for the Antarctica/Falklands bound

One of my dearest friends and his husband are going to Antarctica and The Falklands in a few weeks and I would like to get them a small going away gift. If you have been to these places, is there a small thing you wish you had with you? [more inside]
posted by Room 641-A at 8:58 AM PST - 12 comments

Perfume similar to Yves Rocher Neonatura

Once upon a time my favourite perfume was Yves Rocher Neonatura. It was chocolatey and dark with just a touch of vanilla rather than being flowery or sweet. Any recommendations for perfumes that hit a similar note? I feel like spoiling myself this fall/winter!
posted by MandaSayGrr at 8:40 AM PST - 5 comments

Are cross-dressing costumes still acceptable?

Is it still considered OK to have cross-dressed costumes for Halloween? I mean like, Sonny and Cher, or Leia and Luke, only with the guy in the female costume and the woman in the guy costume. As a cis white guy who's trying to be more aware of my privilege, I don't want to be a jerk to the LGBTQ community.
posted by notsnot at 8:36 AM PST - 18 comments

NYC suggestions this weekend, 10/28 and 10/30

Spur of the moment trip to NYC this weekend and looking to make the most of it; what music/arts/culture would you recommend? [more inside]
posted by alexandermatheson at 7:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Solutions to manage a scattered workflow

I'm having trouble keeping up with work requests coming at me from all directions. Seeking an online tool that will help me stay organized and on track. [more inside]
posted by jschu at 6:22 AM PST - 24 comments

I want my shoes to fit just right.

Problem: I bought a couple pairs of booties. They seemed great at first - and they still are - but I now realize after a couple of wearings that they are both just a *little* too long for me. Enough that the heel slips a bit when I walk. It's just enough to bug me. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 5:14 AM PST - 12 comments

Quality used silver jewelry in NYC?

I have to get it after work tonight so no time for a lot of shopping around or flea markets. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 4:12 AM PST - 4 comments

October 27

So many little bottles. So, so many.

How do you store your household medicines so you can see everything you have easily? We have so many little bottles of pills and stuff that I always have trouble finding what I'm looking for, which is extremely not fun when it's an urgent need. It also means a ton of waste, as we're always buying dupes of things we've got but couldn't find. How do other households deal with this? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 10:44 PM PST - 27 comments

Image Morphing/Tweening by color, not control points

I have a series of images that I would like to animate, but using a fade transition from image to image is less than satisfying. I'd love to be able to do a tweening/morphing type transition from image to image, but the tools I've found for this aren't suited for the type of images I'm working with. [more inside]
posted by radwolf76 at 8:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Couples therapist

Does anyone have recommendations for a good couples therapist/marriage counselor in the Ithaca NY area? Is this the sort of thing that insurance covers?
posted by danep at 7:02 PM PST - 4 comments

What Lego set?!?!?

Help me pick out a Lego set! [more inside]
posted by ian1977 at 6:40 PM PST - 17 comments

I have same Apple ID on three devices at home, how to change one id?

I have a I-Phone and I-Pad I use, my husband got a I-Pad last year and I used same Apple ID on it when in hindsight it would have been better if I had used another Apple ID for him. He has downloaded some apps and I don't want him to lose any of these in a transition. What is smoothest way for me to change his Apple ID on his I-Pad and keep his stuff on there too? [more inside]
posted by just asking at 5:24 PM PST - 3 comments

German hyphenation

If I needed to hyphenate the term Bundespräsidentenwiederholungswahlverschiebung across the end of a line, where would be the acceptable places to do so? [more inside]
posted by Shmuel510 at 4:29 PM PST - 10 comments

"Touch-A Touch-A Touch me, I want to be dirty!!!"

I'm looking for sexy, over the top songs about sexual awakening, kind of like Touch-A Touch-A Touch me from Rocky Horror. Looking for recommendations for similar songs.
posted by twill at 4:04 PM PST - 53 comments

A (Very) Little Somethin'-Somethin'

Why yes, I WOULD like a (non-free) sample! So the discovery of perfume decant vials and snack samples (like Nuts.com and Sugarfina's sample packs/tasting bags) have greatly enhanced my life. What other things (food/drink and health/beauty are categories that immediately come to mind, but I'm open to ALL things) are readily available for purchase in sample sizes? Note that I'm NOT interested in beauty or snack subscription boxes... I'd like items that I choose, in quantities I choose, on a non-recurring basis.
posted by julthumbscrew at 2:53 PM PST - 23 comments

MacBook purchasing advice

I have a mid-2010 MacBook Pro that I'd like to replace with another Mac (I like the OS) given that 1) I have run out of room to store things, 2) it's been running slow and pretty hot (even when I wasn't completely out of memory), and 3) it's a little heavy for me now. I can't decide which Mac would be the best replacement, and could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 at 1:51 PM PST - 16 comments

Thank Yeh-oo in Advance

With some American English-speaking, usually young female speakers, I sometimes perceive a subtle but distinct shift of ... tone, maybe (?), in the middle of the word "you" that makes it sound almost like "yeh-oo" instead of "yo͞o". My American English-speaking, mid-40's female partner neither pronounces the word this way nor does she hear it in others when I point it out. Am I hearing things, or is this "a thing"? What is it called? Is it a "glottal stop"? Why do some people pronounce it like that and others don't? [more inside]
posted by majorsteel at 1:35 PM PST - 20 comments

Baby name in English / en français

Need help with our baby name list! We are looking for ideas of baby girl names that are pronounced identically (or very nearly so) in French and in English. [more inside]
posted by ohio at 1:19 PM PST - 65 comments

How to find a junior communications job?

I have about 3 years experience as Admin/Exec Assistant and I'd like to get a fulltime communications role. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 12:57 PM PST - 6 comments

My very skittish cat has fleas- how can I treat her?

One of my cats has fleas. Unfortunately, she's also very skittish and nervous. Getting medication / Revolution on her is a hard battle. What alternatives do I have? As an added question, how can I treat my house when I can't take her away from the house (therefore ruling out flea bombs)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:16 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I pick myself up during the worst year of my life?

I have lost everything this past year. How do I move forward? [more inside]
posted by ladykitty5 at 11:55 AM PST - 35 comments

Election night themed party food

Some family friends through an election night party every year and everyone brings a potluck dish. Doesn't have to be themed, but where's the fun in that? Looking for ideas that are punny but nothing that would cause real offense. Trumpkin pie territory.
posted by LKWorking at 9:48 AM PST - 50 comments

Nonprofit labor-management relations for dummies?

I work in a small public library system. In advance of upcoming contract negotiations, our tiny Staff Association is trying to get our act together. Somehow I was elected as an officer(!), and I don't have a good understanding of our current contract and how it affects various employees (part-timers especially). Help! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Flying solo in Montréal

Looking for offbeat, interesting things to do, places to meet people in my age range, traditional or alternative art galleries to visit, craft breweries, live music venues? and anything else that's a must see! Also looking for help on how to handle selling artwork internationally. [more inside]
posted by LonelyOnes at 8:51 AM PST - 8 comments

What tools do digital project managers use?

For any digital PMs can you describe the tools you use and skills? [more inside]
posted by stormpooper at 8:42 AM PST - 11 comments

What to doooo with a PhD in psychology

(Cue Avenue Q) I'm at a lost with where to go with my next career path. Psych phd and now in the fed government. Kinda tired of research. My job is pretty ok, but I'd like a change. [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 8:30 AM PST - 9 comments

Boot Issues

New cowboy boots -- the right one fits great, the left...just enough to be uncomfortable. [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 8:27 AM PST - 13 comments

How early to get to Toronto Pearson for a Sat. AM flight to the US?

Flying back to the US out of Toronto Pearson on a Saturday 7:45 AM flight (AA terminal 3). How early should we get there to deal with customs, security, checking bags ... (we are US citizens).
posted by gudrun at 6:29 AM PST - 8 comments

I Love I Love Dick. What Else Will I Love?

Seeking recommendations for books that mix the personal with critique/theory. [more inside]
posted by dearwassily at 6:00 AM PST - 14 comments

Municipal water ends about 15 feet below us. Can we pump?

Is it possible to pump municipal water uphill to a house site from the municipal water supply if the municipal water supply doesn't *quite* reach the house site? [more inside]
posted by Salvor Hardin at 5:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Expert in Native American Treaties needed to help #noDAPL movement

The Native Americans at Standing Rock, who are protesting the Dakota Access Pipeline being run through the Missouri River, as well as through their sacred grounds and burial grounds, are in need of an expert in Native American Treaties, to help their legal battle. [more inside]
posted by MexicanYenta at 5:57 AM PST - 9 comments

I'm smitten! When do I tell my date that I'm planning to move?

Recently met this guy & we've really connected. But I'm applying to a programme abroad next month and it will take me to another country for at least 8/9 months starting next September. [more inside]
posted by Ariel432 at 5:25 AM PST - 12 comments

Fixing a warped countertop

Our sink/countertop combo has developed a raised surface where we do all our cooking prep, and I would like to know if this is fixable. (Details inside) [more inside]
posted by lesser weasel at 5:18 AM PST - 5 comments

What should we send to Mexico?

A man at a car dealership in Mexico did us a huge solid today. We were very lost, and he called us a cab and let us sit with him at his desk. We had a really pleasant chat while we waited. He wouldn't take the money I tried to give him. We want to send him a thank-you box of goodies from the USA. What might go over well in Mexico? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 4:29 AM PST - 8 comments

Costume idea involving silver velvet cloak

Last minute costume help.... I am attending a party on Saturday that I have just found out is dress-up for Halloween. I love dressing up and I have a silver full length velvet cape made for a previous costume that I would love to reuse but I need ideas on how to use that aren't just generic queen/zombie queen ideas. [more inside]
posted by Lesium at 2:21 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me replace my peacoat

I have a wonderful peacoat with a hood that I have worn out (it is threadbare and beyond care). I've been searching for a replacement for the past 5 winters and can't find one that meets my specs. Does my jacket exist anywhere or should I have it made? [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 1:37 AM PST - 9 comments

October 26

Melodies similar to Rainbow Connection?

Ha, this is such a silly question!! This question percolates every couple months/ years, and I think, yeah! damn, what is it I'm reminded of?! I feel like I recognize the melody in a phrase of the "Rainbow Connection" (that's right, the Kermit the Frog song) and have heard it elsewhere, but can't identify where. [more inside]
posted by queseyo at 11:21 PM PST - 10 comments

Who owns the home next door (Massachusetts edition)?

College kids (Tufts) moved in to the recently-purchased home next door and are acting like this is frat row. I have newborn twins, police have been called given no behavior modification after having spoken to them nicely several times. This dude cannot abide. [more inside]
posted by eggman at 9:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Salary expectations for move to Europe

I recently dabbled my toe in the European job market, and one of the first things that I was asked was my salary expectations. [more inside]
posted by HiroProtagonist at 7:37 PM PST - 4 comments

What's a good book about the Puritans?

I'd like to read a book about the Puritans, in particular John Winthrop. Any suggestions? Ideally the book would've been written in the past few decades.
posted by The corpse in the library at 7:24 PM PST - 5 comments

Smooth jazz/pop a la Steely Dan and Sade?

If I've always loved the well-constructed, sophisticated music of Steely Dan, Donald Fagen's The Nightfly and Sade, what else should I check out?
posted by porn in the woods at 6:53 PM PST - 37 comments

Who here likes puzzles?

I found this strange artwork at a thrift store today. Can you tell me what it says? [more inside]
posted by Hey Dean Yeager! at 5:53 PM PST - 47 comments

Do my cats hate each other?

How do you know if your cats are mortal enemies when cats currently lack the ability to devise warring gang signs? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 5:50 PM PST - 12 comments

Screencapping video on iPhone

I want to be able to record moving images that are playing on my iPhone screen. Is there an app that will do this? It doesn't need to record audio, just video.
posted by MsMolly at 5:35 PM PST - 4 comments

How do you reframe a frameless door?

I've got three beautiful unframed old doors I want to install. They were taken out of an old house and the frames did not come with. I know how to install a door that is in a frame but how the hell do you put a door IN a frame? [more inside]
posted by Foam Pants at 4:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Anxiety about planning a solo long weekend in and around San Francisco

I'll be traveling to SF for business in mid November, and I booked my flight so I'll have a long weekend before the obligatory part of the trip starts. I'd like to spend at least two days seeing the nearby parks, but I'm worried about weather and accommodations. [more inside]
posted by ayerarcturus at 4:40 PM PST - 8 comments

Can you recommend a soft/warm/dim book light?

I'm looking for a clippable book lamp that has a soft yellow color to attach to my books for night reading. A cursory search seem to have the same bright halogen light, which I would like to avoid if I am using this before bed. Any recommendations?
posted by helios410 at 1:37 PM PST - 5 comments

Thanking Neighbor

Yesterday morning a new neighbor helped prevent the towing of a very large box truck I was borrowing. I'd like to thank him, but I'm stuck on ideas. [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 1:32 PM PST - 31 comments

Boyfriend adopted a dog that wants to hunt my pet rabbit. Now what?

Through his breeder/handler, my boyfriend was offered a retired showing dog, a beautiful 4 year old Dalmatian. We already live with my rabbit, a very sweet 9 year old male. As an avid rabbit owner who has also been badly bitten by a dog in the past, I expressed my concerns to my boyfriend, who went ahead and brought the dog home in spite of my qualms. The dog is showing signs of aggression toward my rabbit, and now I am really worried about what to do. [more inside]
posted by Mistress of the Bunnies at 1:05 PM PST - 94 comments

Like Indiana Jones With An Expense Account

Looking for everyone's best hacks when it comes to funding travel. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 11:21 AM PST - 46 comments

I accidentally named myself after an acquaintance. Help?

I'm a recently-out trans woman. Early in my period of self-discovery I fell in love with the name "Heather," completely forgetting that I have an acquaintance with that name. She and I haven't talked in the past few months, but we live in the same apartment complex, so we run into each other every now and then. We're friends on facebook, so she's definitely seen my coming-out post by now. Is this even an issue? Do I bring it up, or just ignore it? If I say something, what should I say?
posted by brecc at 11:19 AM PST - 36 comments

"Calling From Windows" scam. How to stop the calls?

I hadn't got this call in a long time, but now I'm getting at least two a day, sometimes as many as six. Both on land line and cell. You know the one - sounds like a South Asian operation, they're getting messages from my computer, blah, blah. [more inside]
posted by Right On Red at 10:22 AM PST - 23 comments

Discontinue OneDrive access on computer I don't have physical access to?

I set up OneDrive on many windows computers and devices - including a desktop at a location I will not visit again. Without having physical access to this computer, is there a way to remove the OneDrive files from it? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Sock at 9:47 AM PST - 2 comments

ISO Casual (but good) OC or West LA Restaurant open on Thanksgiving

What it says. Turkey menu not necessary. Know anything going to be open that's not so uber fancy? A delicious hole in the wall place that you just happen to know will be open would be perfect. We like all kinds of food.
posted by bluesky78987 at 8:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Orphan Black [spotted cat]

I need advice about what to do with a feral cat that now resides in my urban front yard. I like her, she likes me, but I can't take her in. [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 8:57 AM PST - 14 comments

Balancing community obligations with operational needs in a public org

I'm on the board of directors for our local community radio station, sitting on the grievance committee, and trying to help the station move forward from a situation where a problematic volunteer meant well in some ways but was a toxic presence in others, and was ultimately dismissed. Is there any existing work or wisdom on how to balance a community organization's obligation to accommodate community members against its practical limitations in dealing with people with extraordinary needs? [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 8:38 AM PST - 8 comments

Free Video Games as Science Fiction Texts

I'm teaching Introduction to Science Fiction and I'm looking for a good, free, science fiction game with a strong story that the class can play and talk about later. Even interactive fiction would work. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 8:27 AM PST - 15 comments

Keeping my Mac happy

I have a Mac. It's not very old (spring 2015), but I have used Migration Assistant from Mac to Mac every 2-4 years for a very, very long time. And therein lies the question. [more inside]
posted by uberchet at 7:44 AM PST - 9 comments

Creating a grandparent journal... for someone else.

Help me help my aunt and uncle create a memory journal for their grandkids. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 7:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Hope me find some shoes

I need some new, casual everyday shoes. A flurry of snowflakes follows inside... [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 7:09 AM PST - 13 comments

Re-directing Domain to another Domain Page via DNS Record A

Greetings MeFi, I come from old-days when re-directing web-pages and domains was done via one line of code. Now I am hearing this is best done by updating (A) record within DNS. However, I want the Domain to re-direct to a page within another domain, not root-domain itself. My confusion lies with this. The domain I wish to re-direct is not going to another root domain name, but rather --- a product page on that domain. So I don't want Domain 1 to simply re-direct to Domain 2. A tech-lead told me this is how re-direction is done but I am 99.9% still sure that DNS (A) record is simply for DOMAIN to DOMAIN, versus Domain re-direct to a page within another domain. Thanks for your help and tips! Much appreciated.
posted by bostonhill at 7:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Give away free stuff at polls?

I was thinking about what would counter possible bad feelings about polling places this year, and started wondering if anyone had previously made an effort to just give away food, or even free samples and coupons from businesses, at polling places. Especially if it were part of a sincere effort to "be neighborly" (deliberately biblical word). Would this be allowed? [more inside]
posted by amtho at 6:39 AM PST - 67 comments

Shortcuts and compromises for keeping house during a busy season

I am a SAHM of three little kids. My husband has a big important exam next year and will be working/studying seven days a week for the next several months. Housekeeping duties will fall 95% on my shoulders. What are some shortcuts and compromises I can make to keep the house clean and keep myself sane? [more inside]
posted by that's how you get ants at 6:25 AM PST - 33 comments

Primary donations missing from FEC lookup

In January of this year, I made a small donation to a candidate in the presidential primary, through the candidate's website, and received an email confirmation via ActBlue. This page from the FEC leads me to believe that presidential campaigns must report either monthly or quarterly. The FEC individual transaction search page says that it may take an additional 30 days after the end of the reporting period for data entry to be performed. Nonetheless, it's now been more than 10 full months since my donation. Why doesn't it show up in the FEC's search?
posted by enn at 5:56 AM PST - 2 comments

Who's a good tenancy lawyer in NYC that I can call right now?

My account is in litigation and my building called the marshals to change my locks without notice last night. My cats and meds are trapped inside the unit. I've been calling law firms but no one has called back. Does anyone know a good firm I could get on the phone with right now? Money is no problem.
posted by mins_mellow at 5:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Career burnout. Now what?

I have serious career burnout. After an exhausting and stressful decade of working at two of the highest profile, most competitive tech companies anywhere, I'm quickly reaching the point where I just can't stand it any longer. I'm stressed all the time, and I'm starting to think it's becoming dangerous for me to have this much stress at this time in my life. Trouble is, I can't seem to decide what to do next. Snowstorm after the jump. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:06 AM PST - 30 comments

Name my blog: weightloss + health issues + healthy cooking

Help name my blog! It's going to be about my weightloss journey and healthy lifestyle choices, etc. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Determining if Correspondent is Munchausen by Internet or Authentic?

I suspect a long-time e-mail correspondent of mine may be faking her illnesses and traumatic events, i.e., Munchausen by Internet. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:06 AM PST - 17 comments

Book recommendations about 1970s-1980s NYC

I have a very specific interest in NYC during this period. What are some good non-fiction books about it? Think the New York of Taxi Driver and A Most Violent Year. [more inside]
posted by basehead at 2:26 AM PST - 11 comments

October 25

What's Trump's ground game?

Can you direct me to short articles (for political dummies) on what Trump's ground game for getting voter turnout is? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 10:30 PM PST - 5 comments


Following my question seeking authors similar to Jane Rawson, Tom Robbins, Douglas Adams and Franz Kafka ... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 6:58 PM PST - 7 comments

What's cool this year?

Last year, for a fundraiser, my organization had a paint-and-wine night. It was very successful and we'd like to do it again, but we're wondering -- is paint-and-wine still a thing, or is it played out? Is there some other X-and-wine activity we should do? Or will paint-and-wine still be a draw? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 6:25 PM PST - 12 comments

Recommend me a quiet wet/dry vac

I'd like to purchase a wet/dry vac (aka shop vac) that is effective, well made, and relatively quiet. Can you help me? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 6:21 PM PST - 9 comments

R.I.P. my mailbox

Victim: Mailbox. Cause of death: Decapitation. Prime suspect: USPS. What now? [more inside]
posted by circle at 6:12 PM PST - 6 comments

Amazon 3rd party items arrived with Serial Numbers cut out.

I ordered speakers from a 3rd party seller on Amazon (Discount Music) and when they arrived the serial numbers had been cut out of the boxes. This sketches me out. Why would someone do this and, given that the items are now out of stock and more expensive, how should I proceed? [more inside]
posted by lucasks at 5:44 PM PST - 17 comments

I wish to know my world better

Specifically the natural world around me. I recently moved back to California (southern, but interested in all) and have a growing desire to know and understand the 'natural' world around me. The flora and fauna (ID & cultural/commercial/ethnobotanical qualities), weather, and the changes to this aspect of the world, all interest me, especially in an environment so dynamic and exceptional, yet heavily culled and altered by human hand. Books, articles, websites, film, writers; any and all resources are welcome. Thank you. [more inside]
posted by shaqlvaney at 4:48 PM PST - 15 comments

Slow and Steady Wins the Chili Cookoff

I need a new slow cooker. [more inside]
posted by bearwife at 4:23 PM PST - 24 comments

Automatic backup program

Hi, I need something that will automatically (or even with the relatively easy push of a button) back up all the files on my computer that have a certain extension. Specifically, I have a Mac and I want automatic backups of all my Excel and Word files but don't want backups of pdfs or anything else. [more inside]
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 3:52 PM PST - 22 comments

Al Capone's hidden son, or was this whole theory a fraud to sell books?

I fell down a bit of a Wikipedia rabbit hole today: Al Capone and his family. As in, whatever became of Al Capone's son? Along the way I unexpectedly found some stuff from 2009-2010 about a dude who claims he's Al Capone's grandson by a second and unacknowledged son, despite acknowledged Capone family members and assorted historians to the contrary. And other than several interviews from 2009-2010, plus a single book Christopher Knight Capone published in 2012, I can't find out much. [more inside]
posted by easily confused at 2:28 PM PST - 4 comments

Scariest movies available for streaming?

I have been in a spooky mood lately and would like your recommendations for the SCARIEST movies available to stream on Netflix, Hulu, Amazon Instant Video, or HBO. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 1:57 PM PST - 21 comments

Forty-something asthmatic seeking greater fitness through jogging

How do I not injure myself, continue to vary and enjoy my workouts, and optimize my chances at success as a budding jogger? Possible complications: I hate group activities and can't always rely on my lungs allowing me to exercise outdoors at a higher impact on a regular basis (indoors is generally always fine, and outdoor *walking* is generally always fine). [more inside]
posted by pammeke at 1:53 PM PST - 10 comments

Desperate for relief from symptoms of Klonopin weaning/anxiety

PLEASE DO NOT OFFER HOMEOPATHIC SOLUTIONS. I AM NOT INTERESTED. I've been on Klonopin (1mg am / 1mg pm) for longer than I can remember. It is doing nothing at this point. My anxiety is higher than ever and i am sure I've developed tolerance for the medication. I have read nothing but bad things about the drug and I want off. My concern is the awful, awful and prolonged withdrawal period and all of the horrible effects. Is there any relief from this while titrating off? [more inside]
posted by chonus at 12:43 PM PST - 26 comments

Walk-in chair masage in Portland, Oregon?

Are there any (good) walk-in chair massage places in Portland, OR? I know in some parts of the country Whole Foods has them, but I haven't seen any here.
posted by kbuxton at 12:42 PM PST - 3 comments

My parents forgot I was raped - really confused about how to proceed

So, in the wake of all the conversation about triggers/sexual assault happening in the USA right now, I shared an article about how this campaign has been demoralizing to survivors of sexual assault and briefly mentioned my own story (basically, I was sexually assaulted by an acquaintance. My parents responded to my post saying "WHY DID YOU NEVER TELL US?" The thing is, I did. 10 years ago. And 3 years ago. And I have no idea how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by socktothepuppet at 12:37 PM PST - 29 comments

Where Can I Buy Cute Rain Ponchos in Japan?

So I'm going to Japan (for the third time) in Dec/January. This time, I'm determined to buy one of the cute rain ponchos that seem so stylish and well made. I always wanted one; the ones I seem to find in Australia, the US and the UK are few and far between, they are also not well made. There are a couple of Japanese brands I've seen and I'm wondering if people know where these may be available for purchase? [more inside]
posted by Dimes at 12:02 PM PST - 6 comments

What's good in zombie/post-apocalyptic fiction?

There appear to be many series of post-apocalyptic or zombie fiction. Which of these are good reading or worth the trouble? I guess vampires as in The Strain and The Passage count. (I have already read these, and I liked the former better than the latter.) I'm not interested in things like Pride and Prejudice and Zombies.
posted by OmieWise at 11:58 AM PST - 24 comments

Online yoga subscription

I'm looking for yoga classes which are available online. I'm looking for a paid membership where the classes are updated fairly regularly by experienced/certified yoga teachers (i.e. not someone in their living room). Can anyone recommend anything they like? [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 11:51 AM PST - 17 comments

How do I propose to my girlfriend without an official ring?

I want to propose to my girlfriend. I'm planning on using some stones from her family (and some new ones as well) in the final version of her engagement ring. However, she has pretty particular tastes, so I'd like to include her in the design process (although I do have an idea in mind). In lieu of giving her an "official" engagement ring, what do I give her when I propose? Thanks for your idea.
posted by Fister Roboto at 11:45 AM PST - 40 comments

10 guys going to Moscow

Me and my friends are going to Moscow with no plans for a couple of days. Difficulty: we are 10 guys. [more inside]
posted by wolfr at 11:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Attachment research- nurturing

What research do you know of (or how would you best word searches to get results on the topic) for how responses to toddler crying impact later attachment? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 10:57 AM PST - 5 comments

Possible to make a campaign contribution without being hounded forever?

I live in NC, and I am interested in making a non-trivial campaign contribution to the US Senate candidate here. If I do this, am I setting myself up to get put on a list of people to be hounded for contributions forever after? Is there a way to avoid this? [more inside]
posted by msbubbaclees at 10:11 AM PST - 11 comments

What relatively inexpensive audio 'toy' do I want?

I'm in the market for a little piece of audio gear to experiment with and add live sounds to a fairly traditional three piece rock band. I'm having a bit of trouble working out what would suit my 'needs'. [more inside]
posted by srednivashtar at 10:02 AM PST - 7 comments

Need help to grind my salt

I seem to have overly flaky salt, with the result that it sort of leaks out the bottom of the grinder onto the counter and plates, rather than being released by actual grinding. Is there a proper grinder for flaky-type natural salts, or do I need to either find rockier salt or go to a sugar-bowl approach? [more inside]
posted by acm at 9:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Legal Insurance

Legal Insurance: Has anyone done a legal insurance plan like MetLaw or Hyatt Legal Plans? My work is offering one and I’m not sure if they are a good value. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by edbles at 9:50 AM PST - 11 comments

How do I flowchart multiple decision factors?

I have a small amount of flowcharting experience. I'm creating a formal flowchart to identify which authority receives a report about an incident. If any of nine conditions is applicable, then X authority should be notified. How do I chart all 9 decisions? [more inside]
posted by angiep at 9:48 AM PST - 2 comments

Old Speaker & Bluetooth

I have an old school speaker, and I would like to be able to hook it up to my phone via bluetooth. I thought I had this solved, but is there a new way to do it? [more inside]
posted by zara at 9:47 AM PST - 9 comments

spots caused by acne- Any way to prevent these?

Starting 3 years ago my acne changed. I went through my 20's having some acne that would clear up entirely without leaving any marks... but in my mid 30's I have been unable to get a single zit that will not leave a practically permanent spot. [more inside]
posted by manderin at 9:01 AM PST - 15 comments

what do you use?

Asking for a friend. What is the best software under $300 for a solo interior decorator? [more inside]
posted by shaarog at 8:44 AM PST - 7 comments

Walk me through testing our water for lead.

We have decided dive in and test our house's water for lead (previously), and remove any pipes that are causing problems. We expect it to be expensive but worth it. Now... how do we test, and how do we make sure we get all the pipes that are causing problems? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 8:28 AM PST - 16 comments

Animals tearing up grass?

We've noticed a few areas of torn-up grass in our backyard recently. Pic. Some googling suggests it might be raccoons or skunks tearing it up to look for grubs. Has anyone else experienced this? What's the best course of action?
posted by cozenedindigo at 8:23 AM PST - 7 comments

finger food for a crowd of 15

I've been bringing in something for my grad students to snack on during our weekly evening seminar because it straddles the dinner hour. I'm tired of making hummus and tea sandwiches. Other ideas? [more inside]
posted by pinkacademic at 8:02 AM PST - 24 comments

What's the best secured debit card to own?

So many apps that I have on my cell phone require a credit card on file with them and I'm nervous about having my only credit card tied up to so many possible hack able sources. I wanted to get a Mastercard or Visa secured debit card to use in these instances. Low cost and good customer service are important.
posted by BillyAnne at 5:57 AM PST - 14 comments

Gripping nonfiction books about THINGS

I realized recently that I like nonfiction books that are about things -- books that don't have an obvious narrative, but that are exciting to read nonetheless. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by heavenknows at 3:59 AM PST - 42 comments

What should I bake for the bake off finale?!

So I've got really into baking while watching The Great British Bake Off. I guess that's happened all over the UK. We have a tradition of enjoying some homemade baked treat during the show. The finale is tomorrow. I've previously made: pecan pie, bakewell tart, croissants, pain aux raisin, baked cheesecake, salted caramel brownies etc etc. Can anyone suggest something similarly "easy" but impressive to make for the finale tomorrow? I don't mind beginning something tonight to be finished tomorrow evening. [more inside]
posted by dance at 3:36 AM PST - 18 comments

Pre-empting possessiveness

My partner of over 10 years and I split up on very good terms about a year and a half ago. We had a very platonic relationship almost all through, just a deep friendship really, so it's easy to continue to have a friendship with absolutely no attraction or complicated emotions. He has a sweet new girlfriend now, I am spending time with them for the first time this weekend, and I'm looking for tips on adjusting to the new reality gracefully, making her very comfortable, and dealing with emotions of possessiveness that might come up for me. [more inside]
posted by miaow at 2:11 AM PST - 16 comments

Must downsize due to no regular income

Wife and I need advice on the best way to downsize. We have no regular monthly income and very little savings due to many previous substantial medical bills. We have no health insurance (because of no monthly income). One idea is to sell our home and find a 2 bedroom place or condo. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:10 AM PST - 13 comments

Should I take this promotion?

I've just been offered the chance to become (the newly minted position of) "social media editor" at a local newspaper. Aside from a vague job description and lofty goals and expectation attached to it, I have other qualms and concerns that I hope you want to read about in order to help me make an informed decision: [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:10 AM PST - 7 comments

Hamilton Chicago Playbill

I just bought tickets to Hamilton in Chicago as a Christmas gift for my significant other. Since Ticketmaster won't deliver tickets (e-tickets at that) until shortly before the show, I'd like to get a playbill from the Chicago show for them to open on Christmas morning. I have no idea where to look to get one. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:10 AM PST - 6 comments

October 24

Name this 80s electronica/experimental/post-punk band and song

Some time between 1983 and 1985 (maybe as late as 1986) an electronica/experimental/post-punk band (probably British) released a slow-paced song that mentioned "yellow, blue and green" in its lyrics. The sound was more moody than aggressive. It was at least partially spoken more than sung by the male vocalist. I can't remember another damn thing about it, but it's been driving me mad for years. [more inside]
posted by maudlin at 10:55 PM PST - 14 comments

Lend me your ear... and your podcasts featuring interesting women!

I have been on a podcast binge, and am very particularly enjoying listening to women talk about a niche interest. I can listen while I work, and need more recommendations! Examples of what I've been enjoying below. [more inside]
posted by jrobin276 at 10:16 PM PST - 20 comments

Got a new harpoon & a clean red bandana. What next?

My nurse, while looking at images of my lungs, said I should start playing a harmonica as preventive medicine. She's a very smart lady, so I got a Hohnrr Special 20 G cheap and am almost able to play single notes moving between all 10 holes. So where to go next? I'll be playing unaccompanied to an audience of livestock and dogs for at least two hours a day and we would like to build up a large enough playlist I don't start to hate the songs I'm playing. [more inside]
posted by ridgerunner at 8:20 PM PST - 5 comments

Who are history's most incompetent scientists?

I'm curious if there are scientists who, while not evil (so I'm not thinking here about the measure of The Worst Scientist meaning the one with the highest body count as a result of their work or most unethical practices), have achieved some historic notoriety for their general incompetence or stubborn wrongness in the face of all available evidence. [more inside]
posted by StopMakingSense at 8:05 PM PST - 39 comments

Film Filter Question: Naked People and One Man's Journey

I'm trying to remember a movie I saw maybe ten years ago that was two different threads: one involved a man who traveled a lot, had various affairs, and eventually reconnected with his wife. The other involved a white woman and a black man awakening in a Garden of Eden and exploring their new surroundings! [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 7:46 PM PST - 3 comments

Please help me not rip my tongue out

I have an absurdly painful lump on my tongue. Please help. [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 7:29 PM PST - 20 comments

How best to photograph black and white painting

I have been asked to digitise a painting that the artist would like to use on a website I am creating for her. The painting is black and white acrylic, on canvas, unframed, and not stretched. So it's going to have to be lying on a table or something. I have a DSLR. What are some tips for getting the best quality image? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 7:27 PM PST - 11 comments

Where can I find more theories that explain it all

I'm a systems thinker. I like seeing the whole picture. What are some books, youtube videos, etc. that are useful in explaining why things are the way they are in a global way? [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 7:03 PM PST - 10 comments

Mandarins (& Clementines) for Dummies

Sometimes when I buy those bags of small, easy-to-peel citrus fruit (sometimes called mandarins, sometimes clementines) they are sweet and yummy. Other times they are sour or bitter. What’s the trick to always getting sweet ones? Time of year? Country of origin? Luck?
posted by mulcahy at 7:03 PM PST - 9 comments

Fast Tracking a Hat Design

I have an opportunity to capitalize on a local trend. I would like to have a milliner redesign a traditional suffragette hat in school colors for an upcoming 2017 event. It would be ideal to launch it in two weeks. In this day and age is it possible to have a quality hat designed, sampled and production ready in two weeks? I would like to have 4000 made.
posted by goalyeehah at 6:10 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I handle this HR issue?

I am a manager at a very small creative agency. A friendship between two of our employees is both alienating and distracting to almost everyone else, but they aren't doing anything wrong. How do I bring it up delicately? [more inside]
posted by ElectricGoat at 4:37 PM PST - 24 comments

Birds pecking at lawn - insects?

Over the past week or so, I've noticed a whole bunch of small birds pecking at the lawn in our back yard. And something has also torn one edge of the lawn. So I'm wondering if there's an insect problem, and if so, what the correct treatment is. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 4:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Board or card game for 3 guys

It's bonding time with my father again, so what board or card game do you recommend for 3 players, all guys (if that matters). Some level of decision making, skill or thought could be nice (Settlers of Catan?) but also just something fun (poker?)
posted by Jason and Laszlo at 4:20 PM PST - 23 comments

Financial advice for a single woman

I'm in need of some basic financial advice and tips of general personal money management, on things like how to keep tabs on my spending, how to control/set budgets for some areas and how to set good savings targets. More inside. [more inside]
posted by longjump at 3:26 PM PST - 7 comments

Managing screen time for autistic kid

Help me find the best screen time manager for kids ever! Difficulty: autism. [more inside]
posted by low_horrible_immoral at 2:18 PM PST - 6 comments

Travel Planning Challenge!

I'm in grad school in New York, he's working in Wyoming. We've got from Dec 16-Jan 1 to plan an awesome adventure. I love planning. He hates planning. He'd like a option presented to him in full detail that he can happily agree to. [more inside]
posted by grinagog at 2:02 PM PST - 6 comments

how should I make food for campaign office people?

I can't do phonebanking or canvassing, for many reasons, but I want to help out the people helping get out the vote, and it looks like the best way would be for me to make food for them. The only part of this plan that I know how to execute is the actual cooking part; I have too many questions about the logistics because I'm anxious and/but I want to help. I'm in SF, so anyone who knows about the SF campaign office in specific is extra welcome, but it's probably similar to elsewhere. [more inside]
posted by you could feel the sky at 1:09 PM PST - 13 comments

Bathroom doors policy - unique preference or equally valid option?

Do you leave your bathroom door open or closed when not in use? [more inside]
posted by hworth at 1:08 PM PST - 60 comments

Book filter, with a slice of history

I'm looking for books that provide insight to a (perhaps) underrepresented group, time, or event. Happy to have fiction or non-fiction (but if non-fiction, prefer a more journalistic or narrative bent). [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 12:54 PM PST - 14 comments

Low cost pocket calendars

I would like to order a couple dozen pocket calendars for low cost. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 12:30 PM PST - 7 comments

Books about teaching?

What are the "must have" essential books on teaching? Not necessarily about classroom management or working with kids, but about connecting with students (children or adults), helping them process and retain information and build understanding particularly when it is voluntary learning (i.e. there are no grades involved.)
posted by roaring beast at 11:52 AM PST - 11 comments

Parenting a toddler - when he cries, I cry

My son is a happy, loving, smart and funny almost-three-year-old and I love him tremendously. But sometimes he's crabby, or tired, or just generally unhappy, and when that happens I feel like it's my fault, like I'm a bad parent or maybe a failure as a human being. How do I stop feeling so terrible every time he cries? [more inside]
posted by beandip at 11:40 AM PST - 29 comments

What books are similar to these?

I really enjoy reading semi-novel style books on the story of companies and technology. Do you have any recommendations for me? [more inside]
posted by gadha at 11:31 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me stop being terrorized by spam phone calls.

Nearly every weekday morning I'm woken up by a phone call from the same scammer entity, it's a canned pre-recorded message trying to get me to lock in my loans or something or other. It always shows up in my caller ID as some all caps name like GETCASH, PBCASHPRO, PBPROMOTIONS, etc. They're using completely different phone numbers each time, with different area codes. I can and do block the number each time but it doesn't make a difference. What, if anything, can I do to prevent this? It feels like a daily onslaught and it seriously does wake me up, since I go to bed and start work later than most people do. I'm just so sick of it. Help!
posted by naju at 11:31 AM PST - 13 comments

Logistics for "watching" the World Series outside of Wrigley Field

Going to Chicago to be with the crowd outside of Wrigley Field during the World Series games this weekend. Three adult males and three teen boys. What do I need to know to make this as awesome an experience as possible. [more inside]
posted by tomjoadsghost at 11:14 AM PST - 5 comments

What you said upset me, because I actually do care

On the phone the other day, my mom, after complaining (perhaps justifiably) that I didn't call her enough, said, "Sometimes, I think you don't really care that you have a family." I can't stop thinking about this and I want to figure out a way to address it with her. [more inside]
posted by pretentious illiterate at 11:08 AM PST - 28 comments

All the nuclear targets in the US

The geopolitical situation has got me wondering, where are the likely nuclear targets in the United States? Suppose the United States comes under nuclear attack by a state power with many weapons (hundreds or thousands), where are the weapons likely to land? [more inside]
posted by grobstein at 10:40 AM PST - 5 comments

How can I listen to more Cuban Spanish content?

I would like to relatively quickly train my ear to understand spoken Spanish better, especially Cuban Spanish. I'm a little past the "News in Slow Spanish" phase of language learning. Are there any podcasts, audiobooks, radio shows, movies produced by Cubans or Cuban emigres that I can listen to? Ideally, with subtitles or a written transcription that I can follow along with? [more inside]
posted by EmilyFlew at 9:03 AM PST - 4 comments

After seperation with child, do you consider ex family still?

I have been seperated, and have lived seperately for 3 months from my ex, we have a 14 month old daughter. Looking through my past questions, it's clear I have a hard time setting and sticking to boundaries, and especially hard now in this instance when I'm trying to co-parent with someone who acts as if we are still together, and tells his family we are, and doesn't really listen or believe me when I say I have nothing left to give or hope for. Am I terrible for feeling as if he is not part of my family and I don't want to be part of his due to the fact that we are seperated now? [more inside]
posted by MamaBee223 at 9:02 AM PST - 22 comments

Favorite weekday recipes you can make without fresh ingredients?

What are some great recipes that take less than 30 minutes and can be constructed using ingredients from tins or that live in the pantry? I'd like to increase my repertoire of tasty things I can prepare without either a trip to the grocery store or carefully planned fridge-stocking in advance.
posted by simonw at 8:39 AM PST - 42 comments

This election has revealed that I do not know as much as I think!

I need better news sources and am sometimes at a loss as to how to evaluate stuff on the internet. I am looking for left-leaning but fact-based news and opinion sources that discuss ongoing events and get fairly detailed about issues, events and policy - not the Economist, not Foreign Affairs, not Harper's or the Atlantic or the Guardian. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 8:25 AM PST - 21 comments

Help me make that fun swoosh-squoosh noise when I walk.

As it is finally cooling off in our area, I am in need of new corduroy pants. I am a plus size, petite (long torso, short legs) curvy (small waist, but hippy) woman. However, where I'm even more of a special snowflake is that I'm a child of the 90s, so this skinny pant/legging popularity is pure torture for me. [more inside]
posted by librarianamy at 8:10 AM PST - 8 comments

name some living ex-cons who later became millionaire entrepreneurs

I'm looking for people out there currently who made a felony criminal mistake, served their time in prison, and later (today) became successful entrepreneurs. While I know there are probably a lot in music, film and TV, I'm also looking for the ones in OTHER industries.
posted by rileyray3000 at 8:02 AM PST - 16 comments

Dealing with Drupal - short term question and long term question

As part of my post doc work, I'm helping to finish up a Drupal site that has been built by a few different grad students and post docs. They're gone, there's no documentation, and I need to finish up some parts and the faculty supervising me really haven't had any hand in the details. Drupal is sort of wildly-overfeatured for the simplicity of our site, but that ship has sailed. I have a small amount of CMS experience (older Drupal version and Wordpress) but I'm having trouble with a couple of things. [more inside]
posted by pantarei70 at 7:58 AM PST - 11 comments

What Would Jorah (Mormont) Say?

I am considering going out on Halloween as Ser Jorah Mormont (of Game of Thrones). Part of the appeal is a little bit of character acting. What would Ser Jorah say, after squinting wistfully into the distance, if he misheard what his companion said in a noisy bar and instead responded about: his unrequited mistress, the wars of years past, the habits of Dothraki hordes, etc? [more inside]
posted by tintexas at 7:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Convergence insufficiency in a young child

Based on the results of my near-6-year-old's kindergarten eye exam, and watching the followup, I expect he may be diagnosed with convergence insufficiency and we may be recommended to do vision therapy. I'm interested in hearing about people's experiences, and in any information that may help me evaluate whatever I'm told at the upcoming meeting to discuss the results of the exams. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 7:26 AM PST - 11 comments

Can I include logos/signs in my documentary film without permission?

my footage includes: 1. business names/logos in the background of outdoor shots 2. phone numbers of businesses on bus stop benches, etc. 3. people walking by in the background 4. logos on my subject's clothing 5. vehicle license plates driving by in the shot. [more inside]
posted by isaacq at 7:21 AM PST - 3 comments

Culture Day in Tokyo

Help me figure out what we should be doing on or around the week of Culture Day in Tokyo. [more inside]
posted by FarOutFreak at 6:57 AM PST - 2 comments

Hourly vs. salaried?

What exactly does it mean to be paid hourly? [more inside]
posted by Puck Soppet at 6:56 AM PST - 21 comments

Short but Scary - for middle schoolers

Tell me your favorite scary, creepy, Halloween-ish shows for a middle school audience, that aren't so long they take up too much of a party. [more inside]
posted by RajahKing at 6:43 AM PST - 7 comments

the appearance of delight while fantasizing about the kill

How do professional women* manage to maintain poise, or, even more--smiling--in the face of overwhelming emotion? [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 6:26 AM PST - 30 comments

You are not my tech support, but you are my tech support

My friend has a Lenovo G770 laptop that has developed problems with the screen display and the battery. Coincidental? Or related? What is the hypothesis space and how do I whittle it down? More inside. [more inside]
posted by Kutsuwamushi at 5:03 AM PST - 4 comments

Experienced writer writing first play

While I have an MFA in creative writing and lots of experience writing/publishing other genres (poetry, fiction, creative nonfiction), I've never written a play that was meant to be performed. I have written verse plays, but performance wasn't a factor. I'm hoping to get some tips beforehand on strategies unique to playwriting. More inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 4:40 AM PST - 6 comments

Tax relief question: Curadebt review / IRS detainment at airports

I am an EU resident and have pending IRS tax debt (~$30,000) from when I was a US Resident (until 2011). I was on a payment plan but my finances were difficult for a while and I defaulted on my payments starting in 2013. I have had no communication from the IRS in this time (they have my current contact information). I would like to settle this issue now and be rid of this debt. I would like to request the MeFi community for help regarding two questions I have. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:27 AM PST - 3 comments

I need an intervention with my fiance before it's too late.

I am in a crisis situation with my SO. We are engaged with a wedding date less than 8 months away. While she is busy planning the wedding, I am spending more and more of my free time worrying about everything that is wrong with our relationship. As much as I'm praying that we can work through our issues, our fights have become more frequent and nastier. As a result, I'm experiencing major anxiety related to the upcoming wedding. I'm going to have a conversation with her about my feelings but am genuinely torn about what decision to make: keep the wedding date and try to work through our issues vs. postpone the wedding and work through our issues vs. cancel the engagement altogether vs. break up. Based on the relationship dynamics I describe below, what is everyone's advice as to the best course of action to take? To postpone the wedding & work through the issues seems like the most logical path, but my gut feeling tells me that she won't be receptive to that idea. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:27 AM PST - 64 comments

Want a Big Red Barn for a Vermont Wedding, Lack Funds.

My daughter and her longtime girlfriend are engaged and are in early days of planning their wedding for fall of 2017. They're both horsey, outdoors women and they both have always dreamt of celebrating in a big red barn (Vermont friends will know this is A THING). The catch: they don't want to spend $3k and up on fulfilling their dream wedding as they're both good, frugal Yankee stock. How to get this to happen? [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 3:03 AM PST - 17 comments

October 23

Find the Fabric!

I suspect I have the most impossible askme question ever... but miracles have happened here before, so I thought I'd give it a try! I have found a bolt of fabric that I've fallen in love with, but the shop (Zarin in NYC) doesn't have enough of it for my upholstering project. [more inside]
posted by torticat at 10:52 PM PST - 7 comments

Online movie service for classic movies?

Is there a Netflix type of service that's geared for classic (pre-1970) movies? I'm outside of the USA, so TCM.com doesn't work. [more inside]
posted by oceanmorning at 9:31 PM PST - 11 comments

Flash Error On Xfinity on Demand

Help me fix flash error on Xfinity on demand. Comcast is no help at all. [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 6:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Strategies for a fun, affordable large wedding in the midwest?

We want to throw a party for about 300 people that happens to begin with a wedding ceremony. What are some nontraditional / outside-the-wedding-industrial-complex strategies for creating a meaningful, festive, family-centered, and cost-conscious celebration event for such a large group? We're in St. Louis, Missouri but are very interested in general strategies and examples from other regions that may not be as commonly known here, as well as St. Louis-specific advice. Help! [more inside]
posted by inatizzy at 6:53 PM PST - 27 comments

One Girl, Two Cups: How to separate two cups stuck together?

While moving, I put a glass tumbler inside a tea mug like so. Now they are stuck and I cannot separate them. I tried running hot water over them; I tried applying vegetable oil with a Q-tip but can't get it down far enough; I even tried breaking the tumbler in hopes that I could salvage the mug. (It's pretty sturdy). Any ideas?
posted by Jeanne at 6:24 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you get silly string off indoor walls?

My latex painted, rough textured white wall now has festoons of glow in the dark silly string firmly bonded to it. How do I get this off? [more inside]
posted by Phalene at 6:14 PM PST - 11 comments

Where to for Seattle guerilla wedding?

What are the best free or nearly free places in or quite close to Seattle that would be nice for a small 8 person wedding party to have a ceremony? We are thinking outdoors, like at a park, like Gas Works Park for instance. [more inside]
posted by TheRedArmy at 5:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Media About Occult Stores, Books, Organizations, etc.

One of my favorite tropes in film, TV, and books is when there's a supernatural, occult, and mysterious world hidden just beneath the surface of our own (metaphorically or physically), and that one simply needs to dig a little deeper to find it. I especially love it when an outsider gains knowledge of or access to this supernatural part of our world through a store, book, or, heck, even the words of a mysterious old person. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 3:49 PM PST - 53 comments

Who would want an old wall unit air conditioner / heater (PTAC)?

I live in a condo that is heated and cooled by PTAC's - 100+ pound electric air conditioner / heater wall units such as are common in hotel rooms. Except that two of mine are 15+ years old and don't work well, such that I need to replace them. I want to find someone to take my old PTAC's away and ideally help me put the new ones in place too. I figure I'd just put a posting up on Craigslist with that offer (no charge for the units, but I don't pay anything either), but before I do, I'm curious: are there really people out there who would be interested in this? If so, why? For the scrap metal? For the bit of life left in the things? Are they worth more than I thought, should I charge something? More info on them below. [more inside]
posted by Mechitar at 2:44 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I underwear like a grown-ass woman?

I have no idea how to buy underwear that fits anymore. How do I buy underwear in the modern world? [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 2:19 PM PST - 33 comments

Workplace Drama - How do I choose/do I have to?

Work part time (eg, no full time contract) in academia. Currently split between two departments, with most of my time spent in Department A. Department B gave me a promotion. Now Department A wants me to only work with them. Dept B wants me to eventually be full time with them. Added complication: there is growing bad blood between the two departments, and both sides are smearing each other. [more inside]
posted by troytroy at 2:17 PM PST - 5 comments

"I Voted" Selfie Contest?

I run the social media pages for our school's page, and want to do our part to GOTV on the 8th. I was thinking about doing a prize drawing for people who post selfies with their "I Voted!" sticker. As long as the selfie is taken at least 100 ft from the polling place - is there any legal issue here? I'm in Missouri, if it matters. We all get offered stickers here, and I suspect the number of absentee voters in our area will be low, so not too worried about them feeling left out.
posted by jferg at 1:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Halloween costume for a blue-haired 8 year old

My 8 year old son cannot decide what he wants to be for Halloween. He has turquoise blue hair, which doesn't have to be part of his costume, but I mean, if you're going to have blue hair, you may as well make the most of it at Halloween, eh? [more inside]
posted by pyjammy at 12:16 PM PST - 32 comments

Raising kids in a ski/ mountain town vs a large city??

We recently moved from Brooklyn to Lake Tahoe and love it... but we're starting a family soon and i'm freaking out a little. Is a small mountain/ski town really a great place to raise kids? Is it "better" than raising them in NYC? [more inside]
posted by nightdoctress at 12:05 PM PST - 17 comments

Please help identify this film!

Sitting around at the pub and a friend is dying to find the name of a film she saw as a child - please release her from this cinematographic purgatory! [more inside]
posted by Ten Cold Hot Dogs at 11:11 AM PST - 6 comments

You don't need a silver fork to eat good food.

Can Metafilter please crowdsource our dinner tonight. I'm out of ideas. [more inside]
posted by anastasiav at 10:59 AM PST - 9 comments

Surfing Lessons Near Bangkok

I just had my first surfing lesson and it was a lot of fun. I'll be in Bangkok and Pattaya later this week, but somehow I can't find any surf schools. Can the hive recommend and schools or teachers in that area?
posted by jander03 at 10:40 AM PST - 2 comments

Bitten by bedbugs at hotel

Help me deal without panicking [more inside]
posted by aperturescientist at 7:33 AM PST - 9 comments

How would I know if my webcam had been infected by malware?

The news stories on Friday's attack on Dyn noted that devices from the "internet of things" has been infected by malware which was conscripting them to send requests to the DNS. Is there anyway I could know if devices which I own were infected? If they were is there anything I could do about it?
posted by gteffertz at 6:59 AM PST - 7 comments

Frame me

I'm trying rather desperately to find some new eyeglass frames that are very similar in shape to a pair purchased years ago. I don't even know if there's a name for the shape I'm searching for; it seems fairly uncommon. Please see this photo of my old frames. New frames can be just about any material, and I strongly prefer to buy online at a shop that offers high index lenses. Anyone seen some glasses this shape? Thanks for any info you can provide!
posted by vers at 4:32 AM PST - 9 comments

October 22

Loan or gift?

Someone we met earlier this year needs help. He has asked for a loan but we can easily afford to give the money to him. We're not sure whether it's better to lend it to him or just make it a gift. [more inside]
posted by Skaffen-Amtiskaw at 9:57 PM PST - 22 comments

Am I too incompatible with my white fiance?

I am a Nigerian woman engaged to a white guy of Swedish background. We live in Canada. We've been together for about five years and I love him very much. We've been arguing a lot lately, mainly because of what I perceive to be his pattern of insensitive and condescending behaviour towards me. Recently he was in one of his argumentative moods, and in response to me saying (facetiously) that I have a fantasy about killing slave masters, he told me that it's strange for me to identify with descendants of slaves, since my ancestors in Nigeria also sold slaves to Europeans. He said by talking as if I have suffered from the Trans-Atlantic slave trade, I am "appropriating someone else's tragedy". This deeply upset me, more than any of his other insensitive / arrogant comments have. He has also made other comments that suggest he is not sensitive enough to race issues to support me. He doesn't seem to understand how black people understand their identity or how racism works. I fear that we are going to have problems in our marriage because of this. How can I explain why the comment he made is so hurtful? Have any of you found yourselves in a situation like this, and stayed in your relationship? [more inside]
posted by Hummingbird1983 at 9:43 PM PST - 77 comments

Stressing out about cooking mini-Thanksgiving tomorrow

I'm cooking a mini-Thanksgiving for six people tomorrow, occasioned by my birthday (yesterday) and realizing that I had a turkey in the freezer from last year. Turkey is now in the fridge, thawed. But I haven't cooked a turkey or mashed potatoes in a few years, and I haven't cooked for more than 4 people in a while either, so I'm kind of freaking out. Help me plan, and suggest mashed potato and turkey recipes! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 8:57 PM PST - 23 comments

Have yourself a pleasant end of year period

I'm trying to think about what to do for the Christmas-New Years-Early January Birthday period this year. Every year I get stressed out and exhausted thinking about all the planning buying all the presents, doing all the cleaning & decorating and such that I don't really get around to anything and the actual days in question are kind of let downs. Then I feel regret and wish I could get a re-do. Trying to avoid it all this year. Any thoughts? [more inside]
posted by bleep at 8:42 PM PST - 11 comments

What to do in northern NJ?

We will have time to kill this Sunday afternoon. Looking for things to do between Princeton and Newark, New Jersey. Unique sights, nature stuff, events, anything goes. Also, any suggestions for comfortable, quiet places to rest?
posted by molla at 7:04 PM PST - 6 comments

Identifying a Mexican mariachi trumpet/brass sample from an 80s song

The first 40 seconds of the song "Ecstasy" by The Wolfgang Press (1984) features a sample of a Mexican mariachi-style trumpet/brass piece. I cannot identify the source of this sample. [more inside]
posted by wivy at 6:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Meet the devil at me

Help me dress up like a Crossroads (as in, Blues musician Robert Johnson selling his soul to Satan at a crossroads).... [more inside]
posted by purenitrous at 5:22 PM PST - 10 comments

My son ruins shoes. What are the most ruin-resistant high-tops for him?

My 8 year old son has some foot issues...his feet/ankles pronate inward. Between his OT and his podiatrist, we've been told to get him anti-pronation inserts and high top sneakers for ankle support. The inserts were easy to get...the high tops are not as simple. We're looking for recommendations! [more inside]
posted by christinetheslp at 4:46 PM PST - 8 comments

49 Day Funeral Customs

My friend, who is Taiwanese American, is having a gathering at his home for his mother’s 49 day funeral ceremony. We will be making paper lotus blossoms. This is in the United States, and we are in our mid-30s. I am not sure what dress is appropriate for the 49 day funeral ceremony. Is it formal black? Casual since we will be making origami lotuses? Also, is it appropriate to bring food and alcohol? Are there more traditional offerings that I should bring? Are there any other customs that I should be aware of for this ceremony?
posted by MS_gal at 4:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Roof leak! Eek!

Two-three years ago, I had an oak branch plummet through my roof, like a spear thrown from Thor himself. Of course this was the year after my new roof had been installed, but I digress. I took a new shingle, and some of that black goo (can't remember the name) up there, and patched it up nicely.... [more inside]
posted by PlantGoddess at 4:01 PM PST - 10 comments

please help me find a comic from my childhood

As a child, I dimly remember reading a specific comic book, and (after all this time) I'd like to find it again. The story had Iron Fist fighting Fu Manchu in a frozen or icy place. [more inside]
posted by Techbear at 3:37 PM PST - 10 comments

Children's book identification - 1970s

Another one of these! There is a book I have been trying to remember (for no real reason) for 157 years, and I'm finally going to ask. Early to mid-1970s, color illustrations, gems, a little girl... [more inside]
posted by tristeza at 1:50 PM PST - 4 comments

Really funny comedy recommendations?

Looking for recommendations for movies or TV shows that will make me laugh out loud, with a couple specifications. [more inside]
posted by EarnestDeer at 12:11 PM PST - 55 comments

Does your town schedule Trick or Treat?

I grew up in Ohio and trick or treat times would be scheduled and published in the newspaper. I'm in California now and can't seem to find scheduled trick or treat times for my town. Is it possible scheduling trick or treat is just an Ohio/Midwest thing? [more inside]
posted by shesbookish at 11:56 AM PST - 55 comments

How to distract a hungry cat?

After fostering cats for a couple of years I decided to adopt the lovely Adelaide, rescued as a stray late last winter. She's been with me since February and recently I've had to own up to how she's putting on too much weight. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by zadcat at 11:51 AM PST - 19 comments

Are non-committal friends the new normal?

It is sometimes a herculean struggle to get people in my friend group to commit to events. Often 50% to 75% will cancel the day of the event, just hours before. None of them have kids, serious relationships, or crazy work schedules. Is it me? Could I organize things differently? Or is this the new normal? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 11:36 AM PST - 60 comments

Best resources for cheap flexible last-minute travel?

Which resources should I be using to find high-value/low-cost flights/hotels if I don't have a particular destination in mind? Looking to take a short trip from NYC for a couple of days next week and go someplace new or different (to me). Do airlines have last-minute just fill some seat deals for those of us who don't travel enough to have any status? Do you have specific ideas for easy and inexpensive escapes from NYC at the end of October?
posted by andrewraff at 10:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Cracks in drywall: who do we call?

We recently noticed some cracks in the drywall around a little alcove in our kitchen. The cracks appear right on the seam of the drywall where the wall angles away from the main kitchen wall. They're on both sides of the alcove. It looks to me like a patch job was done before, and I am concerned this is pointing to something more serious. Is it just a patch job over some poor drywalling, or should I be calling somebody in? If so, who? Photos are here. [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 10:26 AM PST - 7 comments

Please help me to not quit teaching.

This is my second year as a certified secondary classroom teacher (I have 4 years of experience including full-time substituting k-12 and paraprofessional work). I don't know where to begin. I live 3000 miles away from all of my family and friends. I teach in an urban school in Arizona, consistently ranked as the 1st or 2nd worst state for teachers. I'm depressed, frustrated with myself, and feel like I'm losing control of my class more and more as the year goes on. Soul-spilling rant inside. [more inside]
posted by WhitenoisE at 10:26 AM PST - 13 comments

Managing post stress emotions

Things are finally better at work, but I think I'm finally letting myself have the meltdown I should have had before. How do I keep it from impacting my work and life? Strategies, tips? [more inside]
posted by sockomatic at 10:03 AM PST - 7 comments

Should I let my mom use my name in a MLM business?

My mom has joined a MLM business that sells "health" products. They've got all sorts of wonderful claims and, of course, no science to back them up. My mom wants to add my name in as one of her distributors. She says she will do all the work, I'll get the money, and eventually a new car. She just needs my social security number and bank account. [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 7:40 AM PST - 36 comments

How easy is it for someone to discover your real identity online?

I'm struck by cases where someone who suddenly becomes famous is shamed by people online after they discover embarrassing comments they made in the past. As an example, CEO of Whole Foods used an alias and engaged in petty fights online over prospects of company. Somehow, hackers discovered it was him. Say I say some really harsh things about iPhones online (e.g., on Ask Mefi), then achieve fame through asking a question at a Presidential debate--how easy would it be for someone to discover my shameful anti-iPhone tirades?
posted by Jon44 at 6:27 AM PST - 17 comments

Quick! Is there an applied linguist on board?

I have the chance to complete my master's in applied linguistics for almost no cost. I want to do, but am not sure it's quite right for my career. Can anyone help me, please? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 6:25 AM PST - 7 comments

Warm workout clothes?

I've recently started walking the trails near my house for exercise. As it starts getting colder, I've realized I need better clothes to wear. Must be available in petite, and have pockets (either in the sweater or pants is fine, I just need to carry my keys and phone.) Ideally, I would like some kind of zip-out lining, but I don't know if that's possible. Thanks!
posted by backwards compatible at 6:21 AM PST - 17 comments

Advice for attending a Hillary rally?

My main question is- if I take a day off work and go all the way up to NH on Monday, what are the chances that I'll actually get into the Clinton/Warren rally? If anyone has been to a Clinton rally recently, how early do I have to line up for a good chance at getting in? If I bring my 6 year old will it be a miserable experience for both of us?
posted by banjo_and_the_pork at 4:09 AM PST - 5 comments

Using public dorm shower booths barefoot

So this is 5~10 years ago but I used to get into dorm shower booths barefoot. I'd thought that if you wear a flipflop in the shower, that the flipflop(I wore a really cheap one back then) would become the harboring ground for bacteria itself. Now I'm in a university environment again and came to think about how to manage my slippers -- I found out that you need footwear in the shower. Even so the shower floors were cleaned by the janitors every day; I always washed my feet with soap and then wiped them with towels before wearing my flipflops outside -- how much bad fungus do you think I would have picked up? I seldom had any symptoms of foot disease during college as far as I can remember, although during work I had less luck and my formal shoes were worse places for athlete's foot and foot itches. Now I wear plastic, thick slippers around and will buy Crocs soon (although I'm sharing a bath with only four people now).
posted by red_alert_3 at 1:18 AM PST - 14 comments

October 21

Browncoats? (not the Whedon kind)

Many years of Anglophilic TV-watching have left me with a clothing question. What's the deal with the light brown, mid-length, indoor overcoat that certain British workers wear? [more inside]
posted by NumberSix at 10:31 PM PST - 14 comments

Free/low cost online solution for file sharing and discussion forums?

My research has left me confused. I want to provide a simple online place/forum for participants in my adult education programs to share files and discussions. [more inside]
posted by MT at 6:53 PM PST - 6 comments

Best European sites for locating copies of out of print books

Does anyone have recommendations for particularly effective search engines for European second-hand / out of print books? Back when I used to look for these books pre-google, there were a couple of specialist sites that consolidated searches across numerous second-hand booksellers' catalogues, but I've forgotten their names. Do these still exist and if so, are they any use? [more inside]
posted by ogorki at 5:27 PM PST - 7 comments

How do I deal with the pain/guilt of not keeping in touch with family?

I have social anxiety, and I've put off calling my family members (other than my Mom) for years because I'm afraid/don't know what to say/think they'll reject me. Now it looks like one of them doesn't have much longer to live. How do I not hate myself for putting off getting in touch? [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 3:56 PM PST - 11 comments

Help a teacher with their Halloween costume!

After my costume became a sleeper hit last year, I need help coming up with another fun costume for 2016! Help! [more inside]
posted by Nightman at 3:56 PM PST - 40 comments

How do I turn my mother's house into my home?

My mother passed away over the winter, and now I am alone (except for two cats and the squirrels in the attic) in the house we've shared for years. I'll be staying in the house for a year or two, and I'm trying to figure out ways to make the house feel like *mine*, not my mother's house that I happen to live in. [more inside]
posted by Archipelago at 3:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Free or cheap computer for indigent artist

Hi, my friend is a brilliant digital artist and wants to apply or ask to get a free or cheap computer - his present main box is manufactured in the last millenium! Are there agencies, websites or subreddits, etc where he could show some of his work and get parts or a complete computer ? Should be capable of running adobe cs5 if possible. He is in the UK.
posted by Mistress at 3:21 PM PST - 7 comments

Test credit card for production?

I'm working with an ecommerce startup and we need a test credit card for production testing, as in a real credit card where we can purchase and void transactions. Is this something that a credit card company provides? I basically, don't want the card to get flagged because we use it then void it continuously. This might just be, use a corporate card and they don't care, but didn't know if there was a more clean way to do this. Bonus points if there's a magical card that we can have make transactions that don't actually go through so that we can use that for automated testing.
posted by geoff. at 3:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Break my daughter's heart or get sicker

I have come to the realisation that I can no longer safely or humanely look after the 2 cats my daughter grew up with. It is not fair to them, my neighbours, my landlord, and I am unwell and it is difficult for me. But my daughter has gone through so much in the past few years, bulimia, OCD, anxiety, depression, at least 2 rapes, her grandmother died, her father went to prison for a horrible crime. She can't take the cats on, she lives in a high rise on a limited income. There is no one else. I can't face telling her that I need to find a new home for them, and causing her more grief, but I can't keep doing this. It's too hard. I also love the cats but I'm not being a good enough kitty mama. What do I do?
posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM PST - 15 comments

How has sleep apnea affected you cognitively or emotionally?

My partner was diagnosed with sleep apnea 18 months ago. He became somewhat emotionally unstable around the same time. It's time to put my foot down and insist that he seek treatment for the apnea. I'm wondering whether I need to ask him to seek separate treatment for the emotional issues--which would be an extremely hard sell--or whether those are likely to improve if the apnea is treated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:03 PM PST - 17 comments

radio tech nerds! your bat signal!

Hi. I have a question about the FCC assignment of radio frequencies in the early 20th c. U.S. I know three things that I can't resolve, probably because I have only dipped into this lightly (and really can't get stuck in right now). [more inside]
posted by listen, lady at 2:23 PM PST - 7 comments

I quit. Here is a gift.

Leaving my job. Love my boss. She is taking my leaving like a champ despite it putting her in a tough spot. Looking for help for a thank you/good bye gift. [more inside]
posted by teamnap at 1:03 PM PST - 11 comments

Is eating with utensils better than eating with your hand?

Objectively speaking, is it better to eat with utensils than hands? If so, why? [more inside]
posted by yawper at 12:48 PM PST - 28 comments

best free or cheap video chat

I have a regular video chat with friends. For the last few years we’ve been using Google Hangouts for this purpose, but lately it seems like the quality has gotten worse. We have regular sound/video quality and connectivity issues, to the point where sometimes we just give up. What are our other options for doing this for as little money (and with as little hassle) as possible? There are usually 4-5 of us involved, and a mix of iPhones/laptops/Android devices being used to make the calls. [more inside]
posted by juliapangolin at 12:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Casual Michelin restaurants in Paris?

After a truly horrendous day of travel (missed flights, extra fees to switch tickets, navigating Chatelet- Les Halles at rush hour, then locking ourselves out of the apartment), I'd like to treat my dear, patient, flustered husband to a meal at a Michelin-starred restaurant. He's expressed an interest, but unfortunately forgot to bring anything but jeans and (nice enough) collared plaid shirts. A couple of other qualifications inside... [more inside]
posted by deadtrouble at 12:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Credit card chip fell off, what now?

So the chip on my credit card fell off somewhere, what can somebody do with it if they found it? [more inside]
posted by crashlanding at 12:35 PM PST - 5 comments

How to be more confident and less socially anxious?

Hello All, I seem be having some low-self esteem issues lately, especially with expressing a fierce opinion, sharing my beliefs, and sharing/explaining my hobbies to others. I have such a difficult time warming up to strangers, that I will excessively worry that I'm not interesting, exciting, and vibrant enough -- I'll shut down and become aloof. I have become withdrawn and reserved -- how can I open up and gain some confidence? [more inside]
posted by RearWindow at 12:17 PM PST - 6 comments

Accessible, no bells & whistles spreadsheet program for financial info

I used to be a maven at Lotus 123 -- that is not compatible anymore; and, I've forgotten what I was great at. Never really used Excel -- for real medical reasons not up to learning it now. For financial planning and estate planning I need to produce budget, asset and assorted other spreadsheets detailing my personal info. [more inside]
posted by alwayson_slightlyoff at 11:51 AM PST - 11 comments

What is a generous gift to an Indian woman helping plan our India trip?

My friend and I are headed to India for a 10 days trip, and a lovely woman answered a Facebook post I posted to a travelers' group about finding a driver. This lovely woman and her lovely travel agent sister have been essentially planning our trip, hotels, driver, etc. for free and I'm so, so grateful. How can I show my appreciation? [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 11:49 AM PST - 10 comments

OK so site is down for just me: now what

Hellllllllp. The file sharing site I use for a job has been up and down all day, but now it's apparently "up", and I still can't access it. How can I get back in? I am on a SUPER URGENT HOLY SHIT deadline and this thing REALLY needs to get fixed. Like now. Things I have tried below the fold. [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 11:33 AM PST - 15 comments

Is this bullshit or am I nuts? Workplace edition.

I was hired a year and a half ago to a position that I very much like and work very hard at in an extremely niche field. Everything has gone swimmingly until this week. Looking for some extra outside insight into this situation. Anybody had this happen to them? Or something similar? [more inside]
posted by strelitzia at 11:25 AM PST - 16 comments

Math for Board Game Design?

I'm making board games as a hobby and I'd like to have a better understanding of statistics and similar math topics in order to start the design stronger outta the gate - having better balance instead of just guessing. [more inside]
posted by symbioid at 11:01 AM PST - 4 comments

Why don't children's tricyles have chain drives in North America?

We recently moved from the US to Europe with our 2-year-old son. We immediately set about finding him a tricycle, and very quickly noticed that a lot of the tricycles here have chain drives. Watching him speed around I've been wondering: why don't we have tricycles with chain drives in North America? [more inside]
posted by CoureurDubois at 8:50 AM PST - 18 comments

Help Me Buy My First Breast Binder

AFAB, want to try binding to help me look more like I feel. I've seen other binder shopping questions, but few are around my size. Please help me buy my first binder. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:24 AM PST - 10 comments

Batch download PDFs linked in PDFs?

Need to download hundreds of PDFs, but they are linked in PDFs... Browser extensions can't auto-download them- what are my options? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:23 AM PST - 2 comments

How to achieve maximum impact of promotional free software

We are getting ready to release a free standalone CAD software. It is a downloadable product, does not run in a web browser (not like the more typical startup SAAS offers). Our company intends to sell an API library and consulting services using said API. The API was used to build the CAD software. [more inside]
posted by spacefire at 8:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Should I wait until after the election to officially change my name?

Mr Millipede and I got married in September. I am taking his last name (and moving my last name to my middle name), but I haven't gone to the social security office to do so yet because work has been very busy and I never got the chance. I now have time to go, but I thought of something: voting. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 8:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Movie Night Nom Noms

What would you serve at a "Hunt for Wilderness" movie night other than twigs, whatever they eat in New Zealand, and Māori food? [more inside]
posted by RoadScholar at 7:47 AM PST - 22 comments


A lot of Hillary Clinton backlash I see from more left wing/radical friends is "FUNNY to see Clinton/Obama talk about how they stand up for children and women but then turn around and DRONE STRIKE SYRIAN FAMILIES." Has there been anything written to counter this critique from the left, or meditating on Obama/Clinton drone politics, or reconciling with drone policy on the democrat side? [more inside]
posted by windbox at 7:20 AM PST - 12 comments

Prioritized changes in health behaviors with effect sizes. Exists?

I am looking for aggregated data/review articles on the estimated positive effects of lifestyle/diet changes based on research that could be used to prioritize such changes by their impact/effect sizes. [more inside]
posted by srboisvert at 7:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Where should I control volume from in a series?

Where should I control volume when I am listening to music on a device with a volume control through one or more devices with their own volume controls? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:46 AM PST - 7 comments

The gentle art of verbal defense - princess cupcake edition

So my tween has decided he wants to dress up as a cupcake princess this year for Halloween for a school event and general trick or treating. Advice for responding with something other than the string of cusswords and momma bear mode once people start saying something? [more inside]
posted by tilde at 5:56 AM PST - 23 comments

How to Gracefully Quit a Job After Only Six Months

I will be quitting a professional, white-collar job after only six months. There are a number of reasons for this, but the bottom line is that the new opportunity is a much better fit -- though I'm not sure that explanation will go down well with my current manager. My current bosses are good people and I'd like to keep it cordial, given that our professional circles are small. Any tips? [more inside]
posted by GorgeousPorridge at 5:22 AM PST - 11 comments

October 20

Boudoir Photo Book - where to print?

I want to print a boudoir photo set for my anniversary. Where's the best online place to print it that will accept it? It seems I'm between Shutterfly and Blurb? Maybe Apple with some Photostream workaround? [more inside]
posted by SockWombat at 11:53 PM PST - 10 comments

cross-eyed after eye exam... why?

I just had an eye exam. Took a picture because I thought my dialated eyes were amusing and I'm bored as I can't see anything .. I looked at the photo realized I'm currently cross-eyed. What's up? [more inside]
posted by chapps at 10:34 PM PST - 3 comments

Need an electromagnetism physics textbook. Difficulty level: No calculus

Please recommend an alegbra/trig-based physics textbook to supplement the free textbook used in my college physics class. [more inside]
posted by Snarl Furillo at 8:29 PM PST - 4 comments

Help Selecting a Charity

Hope me; I made a thing that is Popular On The Internet, people are asking for prints/t-shirts, and I want to give to charity any money from selling such products. But WHICH CHARITY? [more inside]
posted by TangoCharlie at 8:17 PM PST - 21 comments

WoW: The Movie

I took a trip down memory lane and watched Exploration: The Movie. It made me want to make my own video in World of Warcraft. I got the screencapping software, now I want inspiration. [more inside]
posted by gorbweaver at 7:26 PM PST - 0 comments

AT&T refuses to unlock my phone. What should I do?

AT&T refuses to unlock a phone that I own... What are my options? [more inside]
posted by matkline at 6:50 PM PST - 10 comments

Trying to find a song, "Third and MacDougal"

I'm trying to find a song titled "Third and MacDougal" being a NY street corner where addicts scored drugs. Here are the lyrics that I know: "You hang around Third and MacDougal - with your mind and you body at war You spend half your life on the corner - just hoping and praying to score But the fire in your eyes is a blue fire - and the truth in your mind is a lie With a matchbox and spoon at your table - and the glory of hell in your eye" Thanks for any help finding this song!
posted by FlipDezz at 5:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Worried about being caught looking for a job

So here is what happened... I have been applying to jobs, and I got an email from a recruiter about not getting a job offer, and I was reading this on my phone. After I read it I put my phone down, and I accidentally left the screen on after things got really busy at work, and so I forgot I left my phone on and went to a different part of the building. When I came back I then realized my screen was left on with the email for everyone to see. And I found out from my coworker that my boss came inside the room. And so my mind is racing and worried about if my boss went up to my phone and read the message. [more inside]
posted by pieceofcake at 5:15 PM PST - 16 comments

Looking for a replacement tray for a Samsonite train case

I bought a red vintage Samsonite train case (like this) but it's missing the tray (like this). I'm looking for a replacement—either the original design or an alternative that fits my requirements. Aside from saving a search for "Samsonite train case replacement tray" on eBay and Etsy, what can the hive mind suggest? [more inside]
posted by ottereroticist at 4:09 PM PST - 4 comments

What to read, published 1900-1909?

For the past couple of years, I've been doing an informal, personal challenge to read a new-to-me book published in each year from 1900 to 1999. The only decade I haven't touched yet is the first, and I'd appreciate recommendations for books published from 1900 through 1909. [more inside]
posted by mixedmetaphors at 2:37 PM PST - 51 comments

A Wedding Registry Anxiety Omnibus!

So after being engaged for-ev-er, our wedding is finally within sight and we've started to get questions about where we're registered. Zola's persistent advertising has convinced me they're a good option for aggregate gift-giving and receiving, and it actually does look pretty nice--but is it? I also have questions related to my money/materialism anxiety. [more inside]
posted by witchen at 2:35 PM PST - 16 comments

Book or Oral History About Failed Marriages?

I'm doing some research for a story about a broken marriage, and I was wondering if anyone knows of a Studs-Terkel-esque oral history containing interviews with people about their deteriorating relationships or the lies they would tell themselves to keep a marriage together? Thanks in advance for any suggestions!
posted by Bobby Bittman at 2:34 PM PST - 5 comments

Cool collaboration platforms and products

My office is in the middle of piloting a certain tool for cross-organizational collaboration, but I'm wondering what else is out there. [more inside]
posted by lunalaguna at 2:22 PM PST - 6 comments

Did my doctor do this right?

Just had a mole removed from the back of my neck. The doctor gave me a shot of lidocaine (I think) and then sprayed the area with a numbing spray. Shouldn't it have been the other way around? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 2:03 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I give notice from my remote job?

I've decided to accept a job offer and leave a job that I had become dissatisfied with, yay! But now I need to tell my manager and my teammates that I'm leaving and I'm not sure how to do that because I'm a remote worker. Special snowflake details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:09 PM PST - 10 comments

Short story about a composer publishing a piece by another composer?

Please assist me in re-finding this short story I read last year about a composer publishing his friend's unpublished symphony as his own, because his friend faked his death to escape from a crime. [more inside]
posted by Iron Carbide at 12:00 PM PST - 3 comments

Reasonable Risk or Terrible Parenting Idea?

Can we go to a Halloween party at the house right next door with the 10-month-old baby asleep in our house with the alarm on and baby monitor in our hands? [more inside]
posted by bluejayway at 11:13 AM PST - 80 comments

Best post-debate Nasty Woman T shirt?

Which Nasty Woman T shirt should I buy? [more inside]
posted by medusa at 10:46 AM PST - 14 comments

The Great Apple Cake Off

Give me you best apple cake recipes! My boyfriend just got a job, we are going apple picking Saturday, and I want to make him a cake to celebrate. I plan to make this a round layer cake, with pipeable frosting for decoration, so recipes simple and fancy - send them my way! The only requirement is that they must be delicious and use apples.
posted by DoubleLune at 10:46 AM PST - 13 comments

Barely remembered quote about talkative women and romantic relationships

Sometime in the past year or so I read, either online or in print, something relating to compatibility and fulfillment in (hetero) relationships where the woman is one who has a fast paced brain and needs to talk and needs to be with a man who will listen and take that all in order for her to feel fulfilled in the relationship. Did you read this, too? [more inside]
posted by PaulaSchultz at 10:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Automated WooCommerce

Any developers out there use WooCommerce? Anyone know how to write a PHP script that creates downloadable products from a script? [more inside]
posted by johngoren at 9:44 AM PST - 2 comments

Where to put "virtual tables" in MVC?

Short version: Should ORMs only map to actual tables in the actual database, or is it useful to add classes that create "virtual tables" based on filtering the records? [more inside]
posted by lore at 9:41 AM PST - 2 comments

I don't want to rip off the band-aid... Without your input

I think breaking up is probably a good decision, but I think this is something we should discuss. But I'm not sure how to have this conversation. [more inside]
posted by Urban Winter at 9:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Songs that put you in the BEST MOOD POSSIBLE

Looking for songs that pick me up and make me want to live again after a long day of work! What are your favorites? [more inside]
posted by switcheroo at 9:34 AM PST - 77 comments

What're some examples of tech/inventors who got laughed out of the room

Looking for people who had ideas that changed the economy but were initially ignored/shot down. Like Brian Chesky & AirBnB — he got 7 rejections for $150K investment in 10% of AirBnB in 2008, would be worth $300,000,000 today. Or Brad Feld - invented the Fitbit, said “literally every VC passed on me.” When do the VCs/futurists/pundit class get it wrong? Looking for more recent examples, not like poor Ignaz Philipp Semmelweis who pioneered antiseptics in the 19th century and ended up in an insane asylum.
posted by Peemster at 9:31 AM PST - 13 comments

What to get for the man who is giving us everything

My wonderful father is turning 70 next year, and for his birthday he is flying a big group of family and friends to Mexico to celebrate. He is covering most of the costs for everyone. I would like to coordinate a gift from the group - something really special - and I need ideas! Details inside... [more inside]
posted by GoldenEel at 9:24 AM PST - 9 comments

anyone have experience with .law or other new-fangled TLDs?

I know the whole topic of acquiring a TLD can be fraught with interest; my question has more to do with what happens once you have it. I have a client interested in a .law domain. Has anyone run into problems with this TLD, either in dealing with registrars, DNS difficulties, or getting Microsoft hosted exchange or Google Apps working with it? [more inside]
posted by randomkeystrike at 8:44 AM PST - 4 comments

Do millennials say "save face" ... ever?

Is the term "save face" one that only older people use, or do millennials use it, too? If they don't use it, what are some alternatives?
posted by frizz at 8:37 AM PST - 26 comments

When might this Pet Shop Boys show end?

Friends have invited me to go see the Pet Shop Boys in Boston on November 9 at the Orpheum. I would love to go, but I am old and I have an early flight the next morning. The show begins at 7:30 and I can't find anything about an opening act. I haven't been to a show in maybe a decade - my memories are of everything starting late and ending later (enshrouded in cigarette smoke), but they're getting old, too, right? Has anyone seen them play lately? How likely am I to get home before midnight?
posted by chocotaco at 8:31 AM PST - 8 comments

What is this small, fluffy, slightly fox-like dog?

The owner did not know, but they did give me permission to take a picture. [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 8:14 AM PST - 11 comments

How much should I spend on a new child's bike (24" wheels)?

I'm planning to purchase a new bike for my 9-year old for Christmas this year. (with 24" tires). I've done some research, and it seems like there's a bunch of bikes in the $300-$400 range at any of our local bike shops. There's also a bunch of bikes in the $100-$150 range at our local big box stores (Target, Walmart, Toys R Us). So, my question is, what's the difference? [more inside]
posted by stuehler at 7:40 AM PST - 10 comments

October 19

World Series ticketing guide?

I've not had a reason to buy tickets for such a big event before, where should I look for seats that will be reliable and not risk losing my money? Coming from out of town.
posted by wnissen at 10:43 PM PST - 6 comments

Reset android chrome external protocol handlers

How do I change Chrome's external protocol handlers on my phone? [more inside]
posted by anadem at 9:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Resources for someone who feels too much

A friend recently messaged me to ask: "Do you ever get the feeling like you feel absolutely too much about everything and you worry so much that you can't even exist anymore? I feel like I have no barrier to protect myself against all the sad and all the what ifs of the world and maybe I'm faulty." Is this anxiety, or something else? What resources can I point her to while she works toward finding the time and money for therapy? [more inside]
posted by rhiannonstone at 8:54 PM PST - 14 comments

Android Reminder App ?

I have to take a tablet every day and would like an Android app (or a mobile friendly web-app) to help me remember to do that. The obvious choices don't suit me ... more inside [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 6:04 PM PST - 15 comments

The impossible scenario we never planned for?

Well, we better come up with a plan. I accepted a job offer at a company I'm really excited to work for in a position I'll excel in and be very happy doing. I've been a sahm for almost a year and out of work for a year and a half. We don't have childcare lined up and I don't know how I'll do transitioning back to work. [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 6:03 PM PST - 8 comments

So...how does one actually get a job?

I'm about to finish grad school and I've been applying to jobs furiously, but I feel like I'm shouting into the wind. I need some advice on networking and how to appropriately reach out to employers. [more inside]
posted by the offing at 6:00 PM PST - 10 comments

Care and feeding of a garbage disposal

I am a chronic ruiner of kitchen sinks. What rules do people follow to avoid clogging or breaking their garbage disposal? [more inside]
posted by space snail at 5:22 PM PST - 32 comments

SF Filter: Best bar to watch debate?

SF Filter: Best bar to watch debate? [more inside]
posted by mingodingo at 5:12 PM PST - 1 comment

What's my best HTPC receiver/amp option?

What should I use to send sound from my HTPC to my speakers in two separate rooms? [more inside]
posted by soy_renfield at 4:52 PM PST - 2 comments

Cartoon where train track is moving while train is oncoming?

Can you identify for me, if it even exists, a cartoon (perhaps Bugs Bunny or other Hanna-Barbera) where some character averts disaster by dismanting and rebuilding the train track in front of a moving train? Perhaps a villain had previously done the same in order to move the train for some reason.
posted by Listener at 4:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Training terminology time!

Co-worker is planning a program of hands-on trainings in [esoteric public-sector field] and wants to jazz it up a bit with unnecessarily grandiose names. Specifically looking for current tech-sector jargon for "experiential learning" or something along those lines.
posted by psoas at 4:32 PM PST - 1 comment

Which NYC ice rink for figure skating?

Which NYC (Manhattan) ice rink, accessible from Chelsea Market, is best for figure skating practice? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 3:39 PM PST - 5 comments

My husband is a crappy communicator. Resources?

I'm looking for an article to get my husband to read which will convince him that active listening and empathising is a good thing to do and which will teach him how to do it. [more inside]
posted by hannahlambda at 2:45 PM PST - 30 comments

Do I want a c-section?

Some complications have arisen as I reach the end of my pregnancy. I think I want to ask for a c-section. Will they let me do this? Is is a smart idea under the circumstances? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 2:34 PM PST - 37 comments

Mining the air

Is there any machine created commodity? That is, could you set up a machine and make something that could be sold at a market price? [more inside]
posted by 445supermag at 1:21 PM PST - 29 comments

Who let the dogs out?

Is there a sensor (preferably a lit signal than audible) that will alert us that the front gate is open? [more inside]
posted by sarajane at 1:14 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I move my sim into a different iPhone and just start using it?

My phone is an iPhone 6. Through work I have access to an unlocked iPhone 6S Plus. I would like to try using the iPhone 6S Plus as my everyday phone to see if the form factor works for me. Can I just move the sim from the 6 into the 6S Plus and start making calls, or do I need to involve my carrier (Verizon)? [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 1:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Fast responsive Blog and Blog Theme that work in China.

Sounds easy but is surprisingly difficult. I need a blog and a blog theme, e.g. WordPress and a theme. Requirements: 1. Must be for a finance related blog 2. Must be FAST, must be also fast in China. Meaning loading no bulls.t from Facebook, google analytics, google fonts etc. since this stuff is blocked there. 3. Must be responsive. Must look good on a cell phone. [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 12:17 PM PST - 6 comments

SharePoint and Mac users

I have SharePoint 2010 sites, with lists, libraries and InfoPath forms. SharePoint is only worth a goddamn in Internet Explorer, as you probably know. I have a bunch of Mac users who do not like to use a virtual machine. These are senior-type Mac users, however. What can I do to bridge the gap? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 11:51 AM PST - 7 comments

Perplexing Plumbing?

Two on going, things that just annoy and confuse me. [more inside]
posted by silsurf at 11:21 AM PST - 11 comments

The Monetary Value of Connecting the Dots

I have a simple idea for a cottage business, but I don't want to get screwed because it's so simple the industries involved could easily shoulder me out. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by rougy at 10:51 AM PST - 11 comments

T-Shirt Designs on Shirts for Women

I can't believe I'm using a question for this, but... women of Metafilter, when you purchase a T-shirt how cognizant are you of how the design might interact with your chest? [more inside]
posted by robocop is bleeding at 10:13 AM PST - 57 comments

Hillary Cilinton knew that Iraq had no WMD?

Can you give me incontrovertible proof that Hillary Clinton had access to information illustrating that Iraq's WMD program was non-existant? Long story, but I need information that Hillary disregarded the warnings of Hans Blix and Mohammad ElBaradei, and other inspectors, and chose to support war rather than extend the UN inspections regime.
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 10:02 AM PST - 16 comments

Wiretap Podcast Archive... no iTunes, please!

Is the full archive of the Wiretap podcast available to download anywhere besides through iTunes? I want to be able to download/listen with Android phone, but all of my basic Googling points to iTunes. Can this be right? thank you.
posted by jimmereeno at 9:49 AM PST - 4 comments

I'm gonna play the doom album now

Please recommend me your favourite recent-ish metal albums in the following categories: (1) stoner doom; (2) psychedelic black metal; (3) psychedelic doom/sludge/desert rock. Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by Sonny Jim at 9:48 AM PST - 13 comments

Diabates of the Second Kind

I need a good book about Diabetes Type 2, one that's a notch about 'Diabetes for Dummies'. And I need a good resource for looking up glycemic loads. Can be an app. The ones I can find online are either puzzlingly limited (Harved doesn't think I ened to know the GL of cucumbers) or have pictures of celebrities on them and seem untrustworthy.
posted by anonymous at 9:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me cope with/solve an unstable digestive system

I am a woman in my late 20s, and I had my gallbladder removed a couple years ago. I feel better now than I did before the surgery, but my gastrointestinal system has become JUST unstable enough to be a source of anxiety in my life. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:32 AM PST - 21 comments

I may be offered a job that I'm unqualified for

A colleague (X) that I have closely volunteered with at a separate non-profit for a couple years recommended me to apply for a job at her workplace from which she is soon departing. This job (technical in nature) is in the same department that X works in and she also sat in on each of the interviews as a part of the interviewing team. I've had a couple interviews so far, and based on my advancement, now believe that I may actually be offered this position, and my long-held impostor syndrome is actually now warranted. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:32 AM PST - 15 comments

Durable, reliable 2-3 burner camp stove?

I am in the market for a 2-3 burner camp stove - do you have one you've used regularly for at least a few years? Looking for recommendations for one that's reliable and well-made.
posted by ryanshepard at 8:57 AM PST - 14 comments

What's the scam? filter

I usually pride myself on knowing what the scam is, but this one has me stumped. It's on eBay, from a buyer named "wealth-enhancement-resources." I tried searching all the scam warning pages, but all of them assume that you have a valuable item like a phone or computer that they don't want to pay for. [more inside]
posted by Melismata at 8:43 AM PST - 16 comments

Introducing a short term dog foster (Advanced Beginner Dog)

Six months ago I adopted the wonderful Huggy and we have come to live very happily together. I am taking an unknown foster for the weekend, and would appreciate some advice about how to go about this in the best way. [more inside]
posted by frumiousb at 8:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Wedding gift ideas for quirky grad student

Can anyone think of some good wedding gift ideas for a very literary, offbeat, humanities grad student that won't break the bank? [more inside]
posted by armadillo1224 at 8:23 AM PST - 10 comments

Remove large grease stain from wool coat?

An expensive wool overcoat got pretty much soaked in *used* fry oil several months ago. Long story. I know it would have been easier to resolve when it happened, but I procrastinated as the weather was warming up and forgot about it. Now I'm regretting that. Can it be saved? I'd ask a dry cleaner, but I'm afraid they'll just suggest, in bad faith, an expensive cleaning.
posted by barbudo at 7:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Question for screen printers

Please give me the words with which to speak with a screen printer in order to get what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 6:32 AM PST - 9 comments

Sunrise or sunset?

When you see a photo of an unfamiliar landscape that was taken either early morning or late afternoon, are there clues (aside from human activity) that might indicate which?
posted by LonnieK at 2:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Thoughts on pursuing academia? (English Literature, UK)

Hi, I finished an English degree recently. I'm older than most - late 20s. I really like the idea of an academic career, but... (there are several buts) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:13 AM PST - 21 comments

Google indexing

Does Google index child pornography? About two months ago, I Google Image Search'd "vintage porn" because I have a soft spot for Victorian pornography. However, as I was scrolling through the images, one caught my eye. I won't describe it because triggers, but suffice it to say, I'm almost positive it was a pornographic image involving a child. I noped out as quickly as possible and almost threw my phone across the room. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:13 AM PST - 9 comments

Can this otherwise-promising affair survive a sexual incompatibility?

We've been seeing each other for 6 weeks or so, and it's a promising start. We're compatible in multiple ways, we clearly really dig each other, except for this one thing. NSFW snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:12 AM PST - 17 comments

Daily life in the USSR

What books give a sense of what daily life was like in the USSR? [more inside]
posted by StephenF at 1:44 AM PST - 23 comments

Creating unspoken boundaries in new/casual relationships?

How do I create subtle boundaries with someone I just started casually dating without pushing them away? I want to give it a chance and see where it goes, but I don't want to get too attached while it is still casual. [more inside]
posted by prism4tic at 1:43 AM PST - 7 comments

2-Day Córdoba Trip

Looking for recommendations for a 2-day (probably a bit rainy) trip to Córdoba, Spain next week. [more inside]
posted by iamsuper at 1:20 AM PST - 1 comment

October 18

Hairs Fibers and Lint.. Everywhere

It's getting cold. I need to stay warm. I hate hairs, fibers, and lint that shed from clothes. How do I avoid them? [more inside]
posted by Avosunspin at 10:22 PM PST - 10 comments

Physical pain when those I feel uncomfortable with touch me

I'm wondering if this is something deeper. Like some sort of synesthesia. [more inside]
posted by cacao at 9:33 PM PST - 8 comments

But wait, so maybe I'm NOT a garbage human being?

Need help/advice for resources for recovering from an emotionally abusive relationship with a whole mess of complications. I am the special-est of snowflakes. [more inside]
posted by FakePalindrome at 7:24 PM PST - 14 comments

The Middle Ages: This Time With Things That ACTUALLY Happened

I need some cool resources for topics relating to the Middle Ages (Europe for now, but soon Japan, northern Africa, the Middle East, etc.) that are appropriate for middle schoolers (11-13 years old, decently diverse with lots of students with special needs). Here's the catch: I would really like sources that DON'T propagate myths about the middle ages (burning witches, world is flat, church put scientists on trial, etc.) AND are interesting. [more inside]
posted by guster4lovers at 7:23 PM PST - 19 comments


Is it eccentric to submit a cover letter as a .txt file? [more inside]
posted by postcommunism at 5:23 PM PST - 24 comments

Home Purchasing Club

There was an online series of short videos from VH1 parodying home shopping TV from around 2006-2007 called "Home Purchasing Club". Does anyone know if there is any way to view or purchase these, or are they lost to the sands of time and the vagaries of digital culture? [more inside]
posted by Hal Mumkin at 5:22 PM PST - 1 comment

Guy from Goo Goo Dolls video seeking way down from tower

I'm trying to get a music project started in a city I haven't lived in that long, where I don't have a huge network. How do I draw an audience in the early stages? [more inside]
posted by invitapriore at 5:03 PM PST - 4 comments

Can we name our baby "Kermit"?

Teradude and I are expecting Terababy in about three weeks. We do not know the sex and are trying to settle on names. If baby is a boy, can we name him Kermit, or would that doom our child to a life of ridicule and disgrace? The last name will be a common American last name, think Smith or Jones though neither of those. The middle name would be a more common, less Muppety man's name.
posted by teragram at 4:59 PM PST - 139 comments

Black Sabbatical

I've recently been laid off. Help me make the most of my time between jobs. [more inside]
posted by burntflowers at 4:24 PM PST - 9 comments

Custom couch still sets off asthma. What's fair?

A custom couch induces asthma after two years' careful offgassing; is it fair for us to ask the shop to resell it without commission? Their sample furniture didn't cause asthma. [more inside]
posted by clew at 4:12 PM PST - 21 comments

Is there more than monochromatic minimalism?

Hey clothes-loving folks! I've been reading about capsule wardrobes, paring down clothing, and other minimalism-type posts My question is- does anyone know of a good post on capsule wardrobes/minimalism that has color in it? Something along the lines of "hey, I'm a minimalist and I love color, here's how that works" [more inside]
posted by EVM at 4:06 PM PST - 9 comments


Is there a suffix (or other word modifier) used like -phobia/-phobic/-phobe that means concern or alarm or apprehension without the connotation of terror or hatred or exclusion? Ideally the word would make sense to a fluent English speaker, but if it needs a little explaining, that's okay. This isn't a political question; it's for a story.
posted by michaelh at 4:02 PM PST - 10 comments

Help us make the most of our free days in London!

My husband and I have a business trip to London in a couple of weeks and have tacked on some free time because OF COURSE. We would be so grateful if you would help us make the most of two and a half days! [more inside]
posted by woot at 3:41 PM PST - 13 comments

Tiny Little Company, Great Big Surgical Procedure

How do I tell my bosses about an impending surgical procedure I will be receiving? We are a tiny company, we are very busy, the procedure is pretty big, and I will be out of commission for a good while. Also: the procedure itself COULD be considered "elective" (but kinda isn't). Iodine-swabbed snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 3:31 PM PST - 25 comments

UX Design exercise for job candidates

Do you have, or have you encountered a design exercise for a UX job application that you thought was effective? [more inside]
posted by colin_l at 3:10 PM PST - 7 comments

How to get rid of sentimental objects?

Do you have any tips, tricks or mantras that help you detach from objects and/or reframing the need to document memories? [more inside]
posted by retrofitted at 3:06 PM PST - 22 comments

What are the pros and cons of county home rule?

It is on my ballot. I think the newspaper story used only the county for a source. This is for Bernalillo County, New Mexico, USA.
posted by maurreen at 2:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Indoor toys for an active 3 year old?

Winter is coming! I'd love any toy suggestions for burning off some energy when we're stuck inside. KidDog has an inflatable ball pit that he loves rolling around/being dragged around in, which has resulted in the untimely demise of said ball pit but has been super fun for him! [more inside]
posted by bighappyhairydog at 2:42 PM PST - 8 comments

Unripe avocado question.

I bought an avocado to make guacamole. I thought it yielded to my touch at the store, but when I got it home and cut it open, most of it was really hard. [more inside]
posted by Bruce H. at 2:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Where do I begin reading Celtic Mythology?

I would like to know more Celtic myths - what are the best books to start with? I'm looking both for accurate retellings that might be more accessible to a newbie and good translations of primary sources. Thank you!
posted by darchildre at 1:54 PM PST - 6 comments

Looking for career counselor recommendations in the Seattle area

A friend of mine is looking to change careers and is at kind of a loss for the best path forward. I was hoping to find them a career counselor in the Seattle area. This person is not in a technical field, which is what most of the Seattle area counselors appear to specialize in.
posted by lattiboy at 1:31 PM PST - 1 comment

I need some light sci-fi/fantasy to read, completed series only!

I keep reading books and then finding out that they're just the first in a series that's not yet finished. I don't want to have to wait! Therefore I am asking you all to tell me about the best light sci-fi and fantasy books or series that you know of, that are entirely complete. A single standalone book or a completed series is fine. [more inside]
posted by that girl at 1:28 PM PST - 35 comments

How should I follow the 2016 US election result from the UK?

What is the optimum strategy for following the US election results from the UK? Is there a guide as to when key states like Florida, Penn, Ohio etc are likely to release their results? I would like to have a good idea if possible of the result before I go to bed but I have to be in work at 10:00 GMT on the 9th November so I need to sleep at some point as well. I have seen some confusing stuff but is it correct that the earliest "call" about results will be at 04:00 GMT? [more inside]
posted by Another Fine Product From The Nonsense Factory at 1:01 PM PST - 12 comments

How do I get in touch with who approves block party permits in NYC?

During the warm months, every other weekend, people put on a block party type thing on my street. Most aspects of of the event are benign and fun. But: about 3-4 DJs set up along the street, which is not very long and spend the next 10 hours competing with each other. It makes my apartment uninhabitable for that time period, even with all the windows closed. My wife and I have to shout at each other to communicate, etc. I'd like to know how to contact the board/committee/official who approves these permits and make a complaint about the noise. [more inside]
posted by eustacescrubb at 12:01 PM PST - 3 comments

How should I handle my landlord's lease buyout/move-in eviction?

My landlord intends to move back into my flat. She has discussed (with no terms) a lease buyout. She has indicated that if we can't reach an agreement on a buyout, she'll proceed with a move-in eviction. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by mrgrimm at 12:01 PM PST - 32 comments

Is this weed

I'm unfamiliar with drugs. Is this weed that I found in the parking lot? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:46 AM PST - 36 comments

Trying to ID a sneaky camera book from 1980-ish

Taking a wild swing: I'm trying to locate a book I had as a kid, likely published in the US somewhere between 1977 - 1984 or so, that featured instructions on how to mount & hide a 110 camera in a hardcover book. [more inside]
posted by mintcake! at 11:27 AM PST - 4 comments

Are my ideas around a real estate career a little too lofty?

Yes, pun completely intended
Will real estate help be get what I want from life, will it be a good fit, or is there something else out there better for me? What am I not thinking of? [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 10:26 AM PST - 25 comments

Where is my parcel? Package angst.

A package was shipped to me by an online retailer. The USPS is having a lot of trouble delivering said package to me. I'm not sure why, and now they seem to not know where my package is. Anyone know what I can do to suss out the location of my parcel? [more inside]
posted by OsoMeaty at 10:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Seeking fair-labor, nontoxic bindis that'll stay on forehead for 12 hrs

I'm an Indian-American Hindu woman living in New York City. I've recently started wearing a bindi every day -- the sticker kind, a.k.a. kumkum or kunkma. If I want ethically produced bindis that have nontoxic, long-lasting adhesive (will stay on my face for 12 continuous hours without moving around), what brand should I seek out, and where/how should I buy it? [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 9:46 AM PST - 1 comment

Come for dinner, little birdies...but not that way.

I would like to hang some bird feeders in my yard but our next door neighbors have 2 semi feral outdoor cats. Is there a way to feed the birdies without presenting the cats with a moveable feast? [more inside]
posted by The Elusive Architeuthis at 9:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Poems for shy people in love

One of my favourite short love poems is Shailja Patel's 'First Dates in Utopia', which has a gentleness and loveliness to it that I associate with shy folks like myself. What are your favourite poems or lines of poetry about love that is awkward, hesitant and quiet - filled with silences and mis-timings? NOTE: I'm not looking for poems about unrequited love, but rather connections made or being made whilst shy. [more inside]
posted by beijingbrown at 9:03 AM PST - 21 comments

Chicago Mefites - Help me find a last-minute inexpensive room

Looking for help finding a last minute room near Chicago's River North district without breaking the bank [more inside]
posted by downtohisturtles at 7:46 AM PST - 12 comments

Domestic crisis = time to reasses

Should I move back to England and back in with my parents? [more inside]
posted by guessthis at 7:43 AM PST - 14 comments

Slicing and dicing photocopies of open faced books

I'm always copying chapters from books at work. I usually scan them straight to a pdf file by opening the book face down and copying two pages at once. This makes the final product difficult to read on various screens. [more inside]
posted by mecran01 at 7:33 AM PST - 13 comments

Perfect comfortable earplugs for musicians?

I'm starting to get some ringing in my ears from various loud music/teaching/gigs/etc, and looking for earplugs that I can wear for hours at a time, with decently flat (i.e. not muffled) attenuation. I have these and they're great sound-wise, but uncomfortable long-term. Soft foam earplugs are comfy but too deadening & muffling. Any suggestions? Extra points for relatively invisible earplugs, so I don't have to explain myself 50 times a day.
posted by jeffjon at 7:29 AM PST - 12 comments

Getting rid of "ghost touches" on Dell laptop

Hi. The cursor flies around opening/closing programs, etc. I see these weird "bubbles" at top of screen all along at points where icons are. Like someone's touching tablet. Well-known phenomenon -- and NOT a virus. [more inside]
posted by noelpratt2nd at 7:16 AM PST - 10 comments

How do I keep electricians from running out of my house? (Cleveland, OH)

My Mom, who is recovering from leukemia, needs an exhaust fan put in our bathroom before she can come home. We've tried getting estimates from five highly rated electricians, and each time they've said they need to "crunch some numbers" - then they leave and never call back, even when we give a follow-up call/email. How can we get one to actually want the job without us getting ripped off? (Details inside). [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 7:13 AM PST - 18 comments

Hole in the diaphragm (not THAT diaphragm!)

My 74-year-old mother-in-law was in a car accident on Saturday. The impact tore a hole in her diaphragm and her liver is poking up into her chest cavity. Help us plan for recovery, please. [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher at 4:44 AM PST - 2 comments

Are there any Freeview HD PVRs that don't totally suck?

My parents Humax YouView Freeview HD PVR has died after only two years. They are less than keen to get a Humax again but, last time I tried to find a Freeview HD PVR for them, the options out there really sucked. What's the least sucky option now? [more inside]
posted by mr_silver at 3:43 AM PST - 4 comments

Weaning imitating perimenopause?

We weaned Peanut #2 at the end of September. It's been 5 years of either being pregnant or breastfeeding. My boobs are back to pre-preggo size, but I'm suspecting my hormones are not. [more inside]
posted by romakimmy at 12:42 AM PST - 5 comments

October 17

Not sure how to make friends after partner's passing

My partner died a little over a year ago. He was a gregarious, goofy guy who had many friends. He was pretty much my only friend. His friends were wonderful when he was sick, and some tried to reach out after he died, though not many. I didn't know what to do except not be a bother; I couldn't bring myself to call them. The issue is that how to interact with people baffles me. [more inside]
posted by Vispa Teresa at 9:03 PM PST - 11 comments

Daycare vs nanny vs sitter

My wife has recently started working full-time. We are struggling with the decision to enroll our little guy in daycare, hire a live in nanny, or hire a regular babysitter. For the past 21 months my wife has taken care of our baby boy while working from home. We have had some limited babysitting but he's never been to daycare or had a regular babysitter. Over the last month or so my wife has started working more and more and is now employed full time for the same company I work for. [more inside]
posted by karst at 8:25 PM PST - 42 comments

teaching english in japan as a parent

In Japan, is teaching english compatible with family life? would I ever see my children if I did that for a living? [more inside]
posted by myriad gantry at 7:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Candidate phone-bank expected me to use my own cell phone

So I volunteered for a candidate phone bank tonight and was surprised to learn upon arrival that I was expected to use my own cell phone. If you've phone-banked recently, is this now normal? I felt a bit uncomfortable when I was called back by one of the folks on my list while I was in a restaurant bathroom a few hours later. "Yeah, you called this number? [more inside]
posted by mediareport at 5:45 PM PST - 33 comments

Though they moved in a long, long time ago, your neighbors will know?

You have probably heard about one political party in New Mexico sending postcards warning voters that "their neighbors will know" who they voted for. However, I was under the impression that the only public voter information is whether someone voted, and not who they voted for. What else could one know about their neighbors' voting habits?
posted by Seeking Direction at 5:24 PM PST - 14 comments

Help me remember a few sets of edutainment games from my childhood!

When I was younger I remember playing a Win 3.1 game that either was a collection of four separate games or were four separate games distributed together. I don't recall very many details of gameplay at all, but I'll share what I remember in the extended explanation. [more inside]
posted by LSK at 4:24 PM PST - 3 comments

i've got major mama drama, and i need help

I grew up with two severely mentally ill parents, but my mother's rejection is what has scarred me for life. Details within.. [more inside]
posted by a knot unknown at 1:53 PM PST - 19 comments

How can I support my girlfriend as she begins therapy?

She's never been and she wants to tackle a lot of deep issues. [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 1:33 PM PST - 12 comments

How wasteful is a meal delivery service?

One of my friends suggested that we subscribe to Sunbasket, and we've tried them out for a few weeks. (I've got the next few weeks skipped). How wasteful is a service like that? [more inside]
posted by bleary at 1:28 PM PST - 21 comments

How can I understand the architecture of an existing code-base?

Help me to make sense of this largish C++ repository, so I can become an upstanding citizen and contribute to the program and give back to the community. [more inside]
posted by Zigurana at 1:10 PM PST - 8 comments

No Sound in Media Encoder-Rendered files?

All of a sudden, every video I edit in Adobe Premiere and render through Adobe Media Encoder have no sound track. I have not changed hardware but AME is updates to 2015.4. [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 11:43 AM PST - 4 comments

It's time to take the big leap! Let's buy a house!

Starting our home buying journey slightly sooner than expected, what do we absolutely need to know/do? [more inside]
posted by shesbenevolent at 11:43 AM PST - 16 comments

Quietest spot in the 14 Columbia libraries?

I joined the Columbia Library system, needing a quiet spot to work, with a laptop. [more inside]
posted by ebesan at 11:40 AM PST - 15 comments

We are trying to Denver. Hope us.

Due to a complicated series of events, Honolulu attorney/former law enforcement officer (28/F) (me) and Florida writer/drummer (25/M) who has also worked in retail, food service, hospitality are relocating to Denver together. (Yes we read the other Denver questions! Some of them were very helpful!) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:22 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me build an overhead projector from scratch?

Looking for help with the optics in my from-scratch overhead projector! [more inside]
posted by AutoPilot83 at 11:08 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I clean mold and scum off brick and concrete?

I have a concrete carport with a brick trim, and it doesn’t drain well and sometimes has leaves on it, meaning there’s a decent build-up of green mold and some black stuff that’s probably mold or some other fungus. What’s a good cleaner or other stuff to use to eliminate it, without a ton of scrubbing or causing some kind of major environmental damage to my yard?
posted by ivey at 10:59 AM PST - 8 comments

What are the US rules for hiring a foreign company?

We are a US based company that is in discussion with an EU based IT software development company. Are there any rules/regulations required by our company to be able to hire the EU company? This would be a B2B relationship, not an employer/employee relationship. [more inside]
posted by herda05 at 10:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Dealing with mental health issues as a nomad

I lead, and love leading, a pretty nomadic lifestyle. I do seasonal, travel based work interspersed with backpacking around the world. I am told constantly I lead a dream lifestyle. I love it, and am proud of what I have created. However, it's also becoming clear to me that something is not ok with my current mental health situation (more details below). My lifestyle is 1) interfering with my ability to get help and 2) possibly aggravating it. How can I keep the life I love and still get help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:28 AM PST - 21 comments

How can I find a good therapist in San Francisco?

How do I find the right therapist in San Francisco? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Rides ain't cheap in America

Does anyone know why car rentals cost about $50/day in the States, on average, and cost about $30/day in Canada? [more inside]
posted by kinoeye at 10:14 AM PST - 15 comments

Podcasts That Make You Feel Smarter

I'm looking for podcasts that will either a) teach me stuff that feels essential, or b) exercise my brain. Most "educational" podcasts feel more like entertainment than education to me - Radiolab and TED talks, for example, feel like they lack that essential element. Any recommendations?
posted by Anonymousness at 9:27 AM PST - 33 comments

Binding arbitration

My daughter wants to be male, and one of the things she wants to do in pursuit of that is minimize her breasts, specifically by binding them. Pros & cons, please? [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 9:21 AM PST - 21 comments

Phone for next 6 months CONUS then 3yrs OCONUS?

I don't have a cell phone but I'm six months pregnant and probably need one. Difficulty, moving to Japan in the spring. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 8:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me combat redness on my face

Over the last 6 to 8 months, I've been taking better care of my skin, and the efforts (and, sigh, money) are paying off with fewer blemishes and better texture. The one thing that hasn't been affected, though, is uneven skin tone -- specifically, redness. What can I try next to help even out the redness? More details about my specific skincare routine below the fold. [more inside]
posted by devinemissk at 8:00 AM PST - 26 comments

¡Emergencia Educativa!

Good news: we found a house we love and we close in two weeks. Even better, the school is the one that hosts our second grader's Cub Scout Pack. He knows many of the kids there and is excited to attend. Problem: it's a dual language school and there is a Spanish proficiency test required to attend, and if he doesn't pass, he'll have to attend a different school, further away, where he knows no one. HALP. [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 7:49 AM PST - 18 comments

Condolences on death of Thai king, in a work context?

I work with some people in Thailand. Do I, and how do I, express sympathy at the recent death of King Bhumibol? [more inside]
posted by JuliaJellicoe at 7:40 AM PST - 6 comments

Insomnia with GI issues

I know YNMD and I'm going to see mine but not for a week, but what could be making me have GI issues only at night? Again? Lots of details inside... [more inside]
posted by Valancy Rachel at 7:18 AM PST - 2 comments

What is the best way to save reading for later, without Wi-Fi?

I sometimes end up in areas without Wi-Fi, for days at a time, and I do not want to be bored. It's there a good way to preemptively save reading to an iPad or iPhone for this scenario? What strategies work for you? What is the best approach for news feeds? How about magazines or ebooks?. Any other tips?
posted by mortaddams at 7:00 AM PST - 18 comments

Possible lead pipes in house problem - with a relationship twist.

We probably have lead pipes delivering our drinking water. We have been advised not to test the water, but just to assume we have lead in our water. My wife doesn't think it's a big deal and continues to use potentially-leaded water for everything. We have an infant, and even if we didn't I don't want lead in my food and coffee either. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 6:39 AM PST - 35 comments

Should I take a "lady vacation" that could be either horrible or amazing

A group of friends are going to Iceland. I said I would go: it's been a rough two years and "I'm worth it." But now it looks like the trip will cost about 800-1000 euros. I'm not sure I'm worth... that much (existential snowflakes below). Should I bail? I am losing sleep over this. [more inside]
posted by athirstforsalt at 4:57 AM PST - 22 comments

Storing a spring mattress on its side

How bad is it, really, to store a queen-sized spring mattress on its side for 2-2.5 months? Is this sure to ruin the mattress or is it likely to actually be okay? Would rotating it every couple of weeks help? [more inside]
posted by st elmo's fire at 4:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for an old mashup

I'm trying to find a mashup I downloaded years ago. It included "I'm Yours" by Jason Mraz and "Somewhere Over the Rainbow" by Israel Kamakawiwo'ole, as well as several other songs, but it did not include "Don't Worry Be Happy" by Bobby McFerrin, or at least I don't think it did. (I found a mashup of those three songs, and it's not what I remember.) I recall reading that the DJ who created it wanted to make a pleasant, happy mashup that his grandmother would enjoy. Can you help?
posted by Faint of Butt at 4:03 AM PST - 4 comments

What on earth was this program?

I was recently, late at night, in a hotel watching random TV in a language I couldn't understand. Can you id the show for me? [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 2:46 AM PST - 4 comments

October 16

Pie chart haters: I'm listening

I understand why pie charts give dataviz folks agita, and I certainly get that there are many bad applications for pie charts. But I'm having a hard time with the maxim that there are no good applications for pie charts. In fact, I think I have a scenario where not just a pie chart but an exploding pie chart is ideal ... but if someone wants to talk me out of it, I'm listening. [more inside]
posted by blueshammer at 8:53 PM PST - 18 comments

Arsonist and Improvised Incendiary Devices

An arsonist torched my vehicle last Friday, and we caught it on security camera video. My question: what type of time-delayed, improvised incendiary device (placed on the EXTERIOR of the vehicle) would burn hot enough to ignite the engine compartment, using no accelerants? [more inside]
posted by piedrasyluz at 8:48 PM PST - 31 comments

Antarctic Fiction

I know there are one or two posts on AskMe on this, but the last one was posted 2012 so I figure an update is due. [more inside]
posted by New England Cultist at 6:06 PM PST - 23 comments

fall clothes for the grown up punk....

i looked in my closet today and realized that i own dozens of tank tops (from years spent in vegas), more than a few hoodies, and band t-shirts. basically. my fall/winter uniform is usually a tank and a hoodie or something like that. but it's time to upgrade. [more inside]
posted by megan_magnolia at 5:40 PM PST - 7 comments

Moving to Brooklyn, jobless...oh dear

My partner has a job offer in Brooklyn. We both love Brooklyn. But we currently live in the midwest, I have no job prospects in NYC at the moment, and I have no idea how long my job search will take...can we survive? [more inside]
posted by Miss T.Horn at 4:42 PM PST - 29 comments

Modular house design for hot climates

I have an idea for a house I might someday build, and I was wondering if it is a pre-existing Concept that I can discuss with builders. [more inside]
posted by BeeDo at 3:11 PM PST - 8 comments

I want to tweet my google searches

Is it possible to make a twitter bot that tweets out my google searches verbatim? How would I do that? [more inside]
posted by hapticactionnetwork at 3:08 PM PST - 5 comments

Apartment Rental - Rules & Regulations

Mr. Kitty and I are drafting our apartment rules & regulations. Help me think of things I'm missing! [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 2:56 PM PST - 32 comments

My Bump, My Little Belly Lump

So this is a little icky, but I had a gallbladder removal about 10 years ago, and about 5 years ago, a small lump developed over the scar. I looked that up online, and it appears to be a regular thing, no big deal, so I got used to it. It would occasionally hurt, but mostly, it was just there, a fatty, roly-poly thing. But two nights ago... [more inside]
posted by xingcat at 2:49 PM PST - 7 comments

It's another episode of "Help me remember this childhood book!"

Read in the early 80s: Some number of children are visiting (living in?) a place (on the coast?) and look for pirate treasure. There is a place (cave?) with lots of little mud balls. At the end of the book, they realize that the pirates have hidden their gems (emeralds?) by encasing each one in a little ball of mud. That's all I can remember. Help, please? Thanks!
posted by 2soxy4mypuppet at 2:38 PM PST - 2 comments

How to remove a stuck wash plate from LG WT5001CW Washer?

I followed this Youtube video to the letter. Once that little bolt comes out of the center the wash plate is supposed to lift right off. This one doesn't. I have tried to pry it off, I gave it a gentle whack with a rubber mallet... nope. I have closely examined it and there are no other screws or bolts. Anyone have experience removing one of these?
posted by brownrd at 2:24 PM PST - 2 comments

ISO database (?) app to sort list items by tag

I want to create a list of exercises/skills and tag each item with a ton of tags according to what it might be useful for. Then I want to search/filter the list by multiple tags. Is there an attractive Windows/Android app for this? [more inside]
posted by nevers at 2:08 PM PST - 3 comments

it'll be just like a sleepover, except not!

Tomorrow I leave for a "work retreat" my manager has arranged. Four days and three nights, with her and my two colleagues who make up our team. In a rental house. With every minute planned out. I'm starting to panic a bit and need survival tips. [more inside]
posted by castlebravo at 1:18 PM PST - 20 comments

Looking to buy or make a flask shaped like a gavel.

For Reasons, I have decided that the perfect Christmas present for my dude would be a wooden gavel that doubles as a flask. Surprisingly, the internet is not providing for me here. [more inside]
posted by frizzle at 1:11 PM PST - 4 comments

Gift ideas for a teenage super nerd? UK specific?

I'm getting a Christmas gift for the teenage (14ish) daughter of a friend who lives in the states, and am wondering if there is something that I can get here in the UK (London, specifically) that she wouldn't be able to get herself at home? [more inside]
posted by catch as catch can at 1:07 PM PST - 13 comments

Baby doesn't always want to take formula and I hate pumping.

6-month-old babyminda is in daycare five days a week while I work and is sometimes fussy about eating formula. How much extra time should I be putting into addressing this problem? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 12:23 PM PST - 28 comments

Commuter Jeans for a 12-year old?

My son (12, going on 13 in a month) rides his bike to/from school in the PNW. This means wind, rain, wet, damp, etc. He prefers to wear jeans, but doesn't like how long they take to dry, so I'm hoping for some good suggestions from the hive.mind. [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 11:45 AM PST - 14 comments

Alternative to Apple Mail that won't download my whole gmail archive

I just tried to set up Apple Mail on my laptop and it insists on downloading the whole !@#$% archive for every account I link to it. Googling around, I get the sense this is a common complaint. Is there some kind of Apple Mail or Outlook alternative that will let me configure a Gmail account and an Exchange account to download all NEW mail but not any OLD mail? I'd be willing to pay for it. I don't need much functionality--mostly something that'll work when I'm offline. A Mail or Outlook clone that doesn't insist on this downloading-and-storing-1.1GB-of-email nonsense would be fine with me. [more inside]
posted by lotf629 at 11:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Toaster Oven Cuisine

Let's say you don't have access to a full size, traditional/convection oven. But you have a large toaster oven - large enough to rotisserie a chicken. What baked, broiled, roasted or braised dishes can you still make in the toaster oven? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 11:09 AM PST - 24 comments

Travel advice for San Diego please!

Hello MeFites! Due to some odd scheduling issues with my job, I'm going to be spending several days in San Diego fairly soon. I am almost totally unfamiliar with the city and would like some advice about where to go while I'm there. I am very excited to go to San Diego, because it's a big city with lots of amenities, but the downside is that it's so big that I have no idea where to start. I am a special snowflake traveler and details are under the cut. [more inside]
posted by bile and syntax at 11:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me move on from a recent bad job and understand what happened.

I need help distinguishing what was my fault and what was bad management. Also need help dealing with the anxiety that still comes back to me about it. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 10:21 AM PST - 11 comments

Songs with queer lyrics?

Whenever I listen to songs referencing relationships and attraction, either the lyrics are always referring to a generic "you" ("I love you, you're so sexy...") or they are explicitly hetero ("Girl, I want to be your man..."). I was wondering if you could recommend me songs that are hella gay. I don't mean the musician is queer (though obviously they probably will be), I mean the lyrics specifically have some non-hetero references. [more inside]
posted by picklenickle at 9:45 AM PST - 89 comments

Task tracker for managing marketing for a non-profit?

I'm about to start as the advertising/marketing coordinator for a local non-profit. I'd like to set up a task tracker for myself and a small group of people, maybe 5, and of course, free would be a great price to pay. I have some experience with task trackers but would love it if someone has advice here. [more inside]
posted by amanda at 9:27 AM PST - 2 comments

To freeze or not to freeze

I made a delicious batch of zoupa toscana yesterday. The recipe has you finish with heavy cream. There's more than enough of the soup. Can I freeze the rest in containers?
posted by kathrynm at 9:01 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for affordable, quality clothes in Toronto

Toronto-specific question: I need to buy some new clothes for work, particularly white shirts, but I don't know where to look. [more inside]
posted by jb at 8:52 AM PST - 12 comments

Talk to me about Newark, NJ: Safety, surrounding places to live, etc.

I am in some conversations about a potential new job at an organization based in Newark, NJ. When I was growing up in NJ the city had a reputation for being unsafe. My sense is that things have improved, but how much? What is it like to work in, and live in or near Newark? [more inside]
posted by Miko at 7:09 AM PST - 15 comments

Can I leave a good job because I don't have any friends?

I moved to the UK with my family a few years ago for work. I like my job a lot, we have access to good schools, we don't pay rent, and the quality of life is generally good. The problem is that, after 3 years, I have no friends. I've invited people over, invited people out, gone to everything I have been invited to myself, and it just hasn't worked out with... anyone. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:06 AM PST - 13 comments

How secure is YNAB?

I abandoned Mint after a programmer friend told me that if your bank account is compromised, and you've ever given your password to a third party, the bank can call the breach your fault and you're out of luck. Does You Need A Budget have the same problem? [more inside]
posted by pipti at 5:23 AM PST - 9 comments

Did my gas stove emit carbon monoxide?

Is it correct that a stove running on natural gas can only emit CO if the burner is lit? On Saturday morning, I went out to run an errand, and when I came back to my studio apartment, I smelled gas. One burner was very slightly on (but burner was not lit). I wasn't using the stove, but I guess I must have bumped into the burner. I opened windows and called the gas company to ask what to do, and they sent someone out. He showed up ~15 minutes later, and by the time we went inside, the smell had dissipated. Everything tested fine. He told me that an unlit burner would not produce CO- is that right? Is it true that a stove would only produce CO if there is a flame? [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 4:03 AM PST - 11 comments

Finding a Jewish "home" and spiritual nurturance in NYC

I am seeking a spiritual home in NYC through a Jewish group or synagogue. Help me find the right place! [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 3:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Am I too hard on my adult son

I'm worried about my 24 year old son slipping back into a rut and it's led to me badgering him and being tough on him, for his own good I feel. However I do wonder if I'm being too hard. [more inside]
posted by blokefromipanema at 1:38 AM PST - 34 comments

Help me ID a song from E04 of HBO's high maintenance (link to mp3 below)

Help me ID a song from E04 of HBO's high maintenance (link to mp3 below) https://soundcloud.com/user-389686736/high-maintenance-clip-s04-1908m Shazam isn't helping and it's not listed on any of the websites that normally document this stuff.
posted by jtothes at 12:25 AM PST - 3 comments

October 15

CA Prop 61: a complicated law and a whole bunch of paid analysis

I've a pretty good idea on my views on my CA ballot, but am having a hard time figuring out how to vote on Prop 61. Was curious of actually decent analysis of the potential effects.
posted by Carillon at 8:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Horrible Experience At The Dentist

I sufferred a very severe panic attack along with weakness and trembling in my arms and hands about 45 seconds after being injected with local anesthesia. This is the second time such a thing has happened and I'm looking for advice. A few more details to follow. [more inside]
posted by WalkerWestridge at 8:10 PM PST - 20 comments

How to buy the most Hemingway possible rum?

I feel like this is a stupid question, and yet here I am...in the United States, and wanting to buy my husband rum Saint James. But what is it, exactly? And can you point me to a place to buy it in the US? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 7:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Who Judges the Judges? I do! (....maybe?)

I just got my mail-in ballot, here in Maricopa County, AZ. (Woohoo, democracy!) I see there are 43 judges listed, and I get to vote whether or not to retain each one of them... But how can I learn which way to vote for each one? [more inside]
posted by meese at 6:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Childhood book from the 50's

Want to identify a book I loved as a kid in the 50's. I think it involved 2 kids, a boy and a girl, who spent some time on ranches in Montana and New Mexico. There were lots of illustrations of horse tack and cowboy gear. I think it may have been about 9"x12". That is really all I can remember. If you can think of anything even close, I will happily explore all suggestions,
posted by Hobgoblin at 5:09 PM PST - 6 comments

For very weird cribbage

I'd like to buy a deck of cards that includes negative numbers. So all number cards should have a negative equivalent; ideally there'd be anti-face cards and zeroes, too. Where do I buy/commission this?
posted by blnkfrnk at 4:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Creepy Daytime Halloween Attractions in Portland Oregon Monday the 17th?

I will be in metro PDX area monday the 17th. Any good creepy and halloween stuff to check out? Thrift store recommendations also appreciated!
posted by long haired child at 3:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Healing From Being Smart Kids Raised by Less Smart Parents

It's tough to grow up much smarter than one's parents. Seeing clearly through the illusion of parental omnipotence at an unnaturally early age sparks a deep, lingering dread of perilous results due to lack of responsible navigation. I'm looking for writings shedding light on post-childhood fallout. Insights for unpacking it all, etc.
posted by Quisp Lover at 2:46 PM PST - 8 comments

What can a jew on her own do for sukkot in NYC?

I left it to the last minute and now I'm not sure what I should do for Sukkot. [more inside]
posted by manderin at 2:41 PM PST - 11 comments

Getting keys for 2012 Honda without any existing keys

Someone close to me has lost the only key to her 2012 Honda. Assuming they will never be found and there are (just go with me here), what's the cheapest way to get new keys made? I suppose it doesn't have to be electronic if that will save $$$. [more inside]
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 2:39 PM PST - 6 comments

The Theme is Book Titles and We Need Costumes

We are me (early 20s, female) and my live-in babe (late 20s, male). The party theme is Book Titles. [more inside]
posted by meemzi at 2:24 PM PST - 30 comments

Can my senior citizen mother use Uber or Lyft without a smartphone?

She drives but can't go far, doesn't have friends where she lives (so can't ask someone else to drive her), and isn't the socializing type. I'd like to find a way to make her more mobile for shopping and doctors' appointments. Lyft or Uber seem like possible options, but she doesn't have a smartphone, and barely can use a cell phone. She can use her home computer. She lives in Hacienda Heights, CA. [more inside]
posted by StrawberryPie at 2:14 PM PST - 13 comments

Difficult Conversation-Filter: Probably Not Cancer

I'm having some surgery on Friday next week to excise what is probably not skin cancer on my scalp. I have no idea how to tell my boyfriend this. I'm usually good with difficult conversations and I'm at a loss for how to do this one. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:01 PM PST - 19 comments

Thai for lesbian

I go to Thai restaurants and Thai massage on a semi-regular basis. My name is Dee. Googling has previously told me that Dee is the Thai word for a femme lesbian. Is this something that your average Thai person would know or sub-culture slang? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:01 PM PST - 7 comments

What is working at a polling place on election day actually like?

I've been reading what seems like an increasing number of articles that discuss the threat of voter intimidation and I'm like, yikes! I also work at a university that takes election day as an academic holiday. I'm considering volunteering to be a precinct election officer, and I'd like to hear from people who have done it before to see if it's something I actually want to do. [more inside]
posted by nvvd at 1:51 PM PST - 14 comments

Bay Area Bug ID

Woke up to an infestation of these things -- maybe 30 or 40 around the apartment. Thought they might be ants but my boyfriend doesnt think so. What's really weird is that they don't seem to have come from outside -- they're not near doors or windows, not clustering near food. They're in the middle of the living room and on the interior stairs. [more inside]
posted by pocketfullofrye at 1:23 PM PST - 10 comments

Kodak, Shutterfly, Picasa, oh my

Is there an online photo sharing site that will let me upload photos into an album, move around photos within the album, and caption the photos so that they show up in a slideshow? [more inside]
posted by Elsie at 11:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Another half-remembered children's book!

I'm trying to find a picture book that I read as a child (1980's; I'm not sure how old the book was at that time). All I remember is that it was about a girl named, I think, Arabella, who ventured into a huge Victorian mansion with convoluted passageways and got lost. Can anyone help me figure out what this book was?
posted by Ralston McTodd at 11:40 AM PST - 1 comment

XPath: Apply a "zero or more" quantifier to a subpath (or equivalent)?

I'm new to Xpath. Take the (see within) XML representing the (nested) prepositional noun phrase "friend of father of cat". I want to select all nodes where pos=NN and orth=cat, that are children of a nsubj via a nested preposition. The Xpath for that is this: /nsubj/prep/pobj/prep/pobj[@orth='cat' and @pos='NN'] But now I want to generalise this to select the 'cat' node at an arbitrary depth of nested prepositions... [more inside]
posted by ed\26h at 9:50 AM PST - 2 comments

Do you have a contact for a taco truck for hire in the Chicago burbs?

We are having a party for my wife's birthday in the western suburbs and I want to get a taco truck/cart for the food. I can find lots of Mexican food caterers, but google is failing me on proper taco trucks/carts. (It seems like most purveyors do not really have websites or facebook accounts or anything.) Do you know a guy?
posted by AgentRocket at 9:22 AM PST - 5 comments

Trying to remember a beloved book from childhood

My sister and I were desperately trying to remember the name and author of a book we read as children in the 60s. I don't have many details, and of course my memories of the book may be distorted by time. [more inside]
posted by primate moon at 9:15 AM PST - 2 comments

Flu Shot Yes or No?

I am recovering from a bout of diverticulitis. I completed a ten day course of antibiotics (cipro and flagyl for seven days and then moxifloxacin for three days after an allergic reaction to the flagyl developed) two days ago. Can I get a flu shot now or should I wait? [more inside]
posted by HonoriaGlossop at 9:10 AM PST - 3 comments

What to do about Dad? (International edition)

Our increasingly elderly father has survived another health crisis, but is going to need more care than we can afford or provide. Difficulty level: he's an ex-pat on the other side of the world, but wants his kid(s) to take care of him. Wall of text and some Whiskey Tango Foxtrot-ness inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:57 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me sort through an extremely sad employment situation

I'm on the board of a small condo. The building has a small staff that has been here for almost two decades, and last night, a situation arose that resulted in one member getting arrested. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Walking shoes or stomping shoes? (Converse vs Dr Martens)

I prefer to have just one pair of shoes per type that I wear to death, and my mostly loved Converse Shoreline shoes are falling apart after a year of daily wear. I'm considering Dr Marten Mary Janes, but I'm not sure if I'm being wildly impractical. [more inside]
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 2:42 AM PST - 19 comments

October 14

Is this refrigerator beyond help?

Hi, AskMe! I recently received a refrigerator that was kept outside (through rain, in particular) for some time. The bulk of the mess is gone – trays and the interior are quite clean, though – but I'm concerned about everything we can't see. Will a little more in-depth cleaning of the gaskets and such help, or will it always be a food safety risk? Picture inside. [more inside]
posted by a series of tube socks at 9:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Hymn me

I'm obsessed with this Icelandic Hymn being played in a train station. Help me find more music like this. [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 9:48 PM PST - 17 comments

If I were going to die next week...I'd________________.

I have a terminal illness, a husband, 2 children (boys, ages 8 and 14), and a very risky surgery scheduled next week...what affairs should I make a priority? [more inside]
posted by Amalie-Suzette at 8:50 PM PST - 61 comments

Dead water heater - what now?

I found my water heater leaking today, probably a failed sidewall. Is there some perfect world where replacing one of these is both cost effective, timely and skillfully done? [more inside]
posted by diode at 6:41 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me escape my lack of adequate Internet.

The service provider who will not be named (starts with a V) has kept me on hold for a total of 10? Hours over 4-5 useless calls re upgrading my internet. I'm in Manhattan with slow speeds- what do frugal nontechnical people do for Internet in this city?!? [more inside]
posted by bquarters at 6:18 PM PST - 10 comments

LLC just to publish a couple of apps?

I plan to release a couple android/iOS apps in 2017. Personal projects that I do mostly for enjoyment and to gain new skills. I’m considering whether it’s really worth it to form an LLC just to release these apps and have some basic liability protection. I've read in a few places it's good to be paranoid about this kind of thing in our hyper-litigious country. [more inside]
posted by quantum at 5:27 PM PST - 3 comments

I feel conflicted about asking a girl out.

I feel conflicted about asking a girl (A) out. I've been trying to get over a crush over another girl (B) for a month now. B was everything I've wanted, but it didn't work out. I don't want to hurt A by asking her out and nothing happening in the long run. [more inside]
posted by Thisisbuffalo at 4:08 PM PST - 10 comments

How can you tell if your IUD is being expelled?

I had a Skyla IUD inserted in August. I might have done goofed today. [more inside]
posted by Ruki at 4:05 PM PST - 7 comments

Problem with New Facebook Status Update "Effect"

When I try to type something into a Facebook status update, I get a lightbox effect wherein the update pops forward and the rest of the screen dims. Unfortunately, this new "effect" makes me lose characters I'm typing, which is driving me effin' bonkers. Facebook, like most monoliths, isn't going to be helpful with fixing this. Any ideas? Scripts I can block? Etc.?
posted by WCityMike at 3:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Contract dispute - Need a gut check

Hoping for a gut check from my fellow legal practitioners on the steps forward on a disputing I am having with a contractor in DC/VA. IAAL. YANML. Prior to signing a contract for installation of a product a few years ago, I inquired with the salesperson, in writing, as to how much a [service] would cost if [situation] occurs. Salesperson responds by writing stating it would not be more than $X. Relying on this, I sign the contract. The contract does not contain this specific price quote, but it also does not have a merger/integration clause. Two years later, [situation] has occurred. I require the stated service. Company is quoting $5X for service and says the original e-mail by the salesperson cannot be honored because salesperson does not work with the company any longer. I have a general idea of how to proceed with this, but I want to see if there's anything I'm missing and how my fellow practitioners would proceed. [more inside]
posted by Karaage at 3:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Plus size women's clothing

Seems it's been awhile since anyone asked about clothing web sites for us big girls. I'm a 22-24, 2x, and just want some new ideas for my wardrobe. I'm not asking about any particular style, just throw your favorite sites at me! (I'm craving palazzo pants right now!)
posted by wwartorff at 2:31 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me understand autism

At the school I work at (in a mostly non-educational role) there are several children with severe autism (or what I would consider severe, but maybe not). They have their own aides, do modified programs, etc. I've never really worked with or been around children with autism before and because I don't come from an educational background, I am really struggling with understanding what autism *is* exactly and understanding what reasonable behavior/educational expectations look like. Are there any resources I should be looking at to get a better idea of what autism is and how to best interact with the children at the school who have it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:01 PM PST - 19 comments

I know you want your money, but I can't help you!

tl;dr, I worked for a non-profit that shut down and now a service I used for my job hasn't been paid and they've called me. I'm wondering if I should do anything or just ignore it. I used the service, but it's not like I was in charge of our financials or compliance. Full details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:00 PM PST - 4 comments

saying no to philanthropy?

I had a great-paying job in fundraising but the job was insanely emotionally over the top and I found myself running away after 18 months and now work in the private sector as a business development director. I donate money to charity and it has created a major dilemma that I can't figure out how to solve. Can you give me some advice? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:59 PM PST - 10 comments

How to Slowly Gain Independence in an Abusive Relationship

My childhood friend is married to an emotionally controlling, increasingly paranoid man. What can she put in motion now to assist with her independence later, if it becomes necessary to leave? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:57 PM PST - 18 comments

Odd Man Out Tightens the Belt

I am in need of a new belt, and in possession of a waistline an odd number of inches in diameter. As men's belts typically only come in even sizes, I can't find one that buckles properly at the third hole, and my Google skills have been unable to dig up a satisfactory answer to this question: A belt one inch too long or one inch too short -- which will make me look less of a schlub? [more inside]
posted by Devoidoid at 12:22 PM PST - 18 comments

"Birth with R.D. Laing" - I'm trying to find the full documentary

I have recently become aware that in 1978, a documentary was made, entitled either "Birth", or "Birth with R.D. Laing". My attempts at finding the full documentary either on-line or for sale have failed. I'd be very grateful for any help. [more inside]
posted by holist at 12:19 PM PST - 3 comments

Best microphone setup for an audience using a MacBook

I will be running a quiz in a room with no PA system. I have a MacBook Pro and a reasonable bluetooth speaker - will a combination of that and simple USB microphone broadcast my voice to the far reaches of the room? [more inside]
posted by jontyjago at 12:05 PM PST - 7 comments

My elderly mom is about to buy a manufactured home in Albuquerque

My mom is making what seems like a... suboptimal... real estate decision. Should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by You Can't Tip a Buick at 12:04 PM PST - 20 comments

Can you help me find a mass-produced ring?

About 15 years ago, I bought a mass-produced piece of fine jewelry, and about 10 years ago, I lost it. Is there any way to find a copy? [more inside]
posted by possibilityleft at 11:14 AM PST - 4 comments

Finding near-misses between lines in 3D

Is there a good (read: well-known/efficient) way to find the "near-miss" intersection of 3 lines in 3D space? The lines almost, but don't quite, cross each other (image in an attempt to illustrate the problem) [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 11:04 AM PST - 6 comments

A Hertz, an Iphone and Crackerjack GPS?

Once I had a Garminfone, and when I’d rent a car, I’d plug the phone into the car’s USB outlet, run the GPS, and listen to podcasts, the radio, or just sit in silence. Now I have an iPhone 5s running on OS10, and I recently rented a Hertz, and found much of that impossible. Worse, Applemaps led me the long way round the Northeast recently, adding several hours to my trip. Soon, I’ll need to drive home. Please suggest a new mapping program. Without GPS, I’ll never get home at all. [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 10:48 AM PST - 23 comments

My boyfriend doesn't like life with me and our baby.

I found out my bf has been telling a female coworker he's unhappy with me and our newborn baby. I am hurt and angry. Now what? [more inside]
posted by piranna at 10:48 AM PST - 33 comments

Need a plan to deal with digital photo storage and backup

Since getting a new camera and renewing my love of photography, the quantity of images I've generated has quickly outstripped the size of my hard drive. It's only going to get worse, so I'm looking for a plan for both storing and backing up these files, especially if you've solved this same problem with a high volume of data. [more inside]
posted by Special Agent Dale Cooper at 10:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Get my feets moving!

I want to learn the style of dance in this video. What is it called, and where in the Boston area can I go to learn it?
posted by spindrifter at 9:57 AM PST - 9 comments

Emergency USPS help--accidentally shipped overseas package to wrong addr

I shipped a pair of large, moderately valuable packages to Italy last night, and I accidentally sent to the wrong address. The two addresses are about 5 hours apart from each other in Italy. I realized my mistake this morning. I went in to USPS and they said the packages were already out, but I could call USPS and try to get them sent back to me. I called USPS and they were busy and took my number and said they'd call me back. [more inside]
posted by Slinga at 7:52 AM PST - 4 comments

"Stay on target…" - A toaster oven without a stay on feature

Please recommend a toaster oven available in the US market without a stay on feature. [more inside]
posted by zamboni at 7:14 AM PST - 9 comments

What's the best Twitter assistant available?

Recently I got active on Twitter again, and I'm experimenting with following a much larger group of folks than I have in the past. Now that I have achieved a critical mass, though, reading my feed is like drinking from the proverbial firehose. What I really need is a decent AI to crunch that feed into a digest with the best items, or at the very least, a list of trending topics from just my feed. Surely such a thing exists?
posted by monju_bosatsu at 6:26 AM PST - 6 comments

Ticks on cats: rip them off or leave them on?

My (outdoor) cats pick up a lot of ticks and I live in an area with a lot of Lyme Disease. Consensus among Vets seems to be that there's never been an observed case of Lyme in a cat (though they're not really sure why). I'm opposed to putting any type of repellent on the cats (as it gets in their bodies). [more inside]
posted by Jon44 at 6:02 AM PST - 19 comments

Estate planning with a baby

We need to get wills. I've never done this before. What am I not considering? [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 5:55 AM PST - 7 comments

Teach me your side eye

Please help me identify a recent video of a toddler silently and terrifyingly threatening a grown man with nothing but his eyes. [more inside]
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 4:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Hedge in a pot

I would like to grow a hedge but don't want to plant it permanently as I'd like to be able to move it if necessary. Are there any suitable plants that I can grow in containers? Parameters below the fold. [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 4:29 AM PST - 6 comments

Gift ideas for someone with a new motor home

What can I gift my dad to help my parents' motor home experience? [more inside]
posted by shortyJBot at 2:57 AM PST - 11 comments

Alone again, naturally - help me cope with a fresh breakup

After my recent question about a long distance relationship going awry, it has ended. He broke up with me and I didn't try to stop it. I know it was the right thing, and break ups are never easy, but I'm finding it really hard to cope. Please help me find some hope in all of this. [more inside]
posted by wreckofthehesperus at 1:45 AM PST - 15 comments

October 13

Practical gift ideas to positively improve a friend’s life and hobbies

I am trying to brainstorm some ideas of small gifts for a friend’s birthday. I like to give gifts that are practical and can in some small way be useful for people’s lives; not just sit in a box or closet. As an example I have given other friends who really like live music Etymotic Ear Plugs or other friends who like to bake the Cook’s Illustrated Baking Book. Ideas for services are also cool. [more inside]
posted by cycleback at 9:11 PM PST - 13 comments

Ideas to fill in a tattoo?

I have a wolf print outline tattoo - meaning there are four toe prints and the bigger heel print, obviously. [more inside]
posted by jitterbug perfume at 8:58 PM PST - 11 comments

Help finding a red carpet Wikipedia prank.

Need help finding the details of a well-timed Wikipedia edit! [more inside]
posted by Nightman at 8:21 PM PST - 3 comments

How do we tax internationally?

Last year, my partner and I did farm work in Australia on a work & holiday visa. Some employers gave us PAYG forms, which appear to be the Aussie equivalent of a W2, but not all did. We have since returned home to the US. What documentation should we provide the IRS in place of a W2 when we file? [more inside]
posted by sibilatorix at 8:11 PM PST - 6 comments

What is smop.?

Someone put a sticker in the elevator lobby of my building that says "smop." with three lines above it (picture under the fold). Today I saw someone wearing a shirt with the same logo and words. What on earth does it mean? I am at a tech school in Atlanta, GA. [more inside]
posted by scruffy-looking nerfherder at 8:08 PM PST - 13 comments

Fugue-like stop-motion short?

I'm looking for an stop-motion short that loops and repeats like a fugue, with people overlapping and walking around each other! [more inside]
posted by suedehead at 7:49 PM PST - 2 comments

You Shorted Me

What's a good way to politely handle a short pour? [more inside]
posted by plinth at 6:29 PM PST - 30 comments

How good (or bad) do we have it?

Earlier today on reddit someone shared a hospital bill for a baby delivery from 1954. The bill was for $99.84, which inflation adjusted is $893.93. Other posters chimed in to complain about cost inflation for homes and college tuition, with the sentiment that the present generation "has things worse off" than the post-war generation did. Does it? [more inside]
posted by prunes at 6:28 PM PST - 28 comments

I like the low road

I know that I should not let these comments annoy me and take the high road. But, sometimes I don't want to. To summarize, someone who is close to me speaks with a southern accent and I get really irritated when people make fun of southern accents. I wish I had a witty comment or retort that made people think twice about making these types of comments. I'd like to communicate how rude it is and actually just makes them look judgmental and small-minded, while at the same time keeping it light-hearted and not too critical. Yes, I know it's probably better to ignore it, but for the purposes of this question, please assume that is not an option! Any advice?
posted by seesom at 6:13 PM PST - 25 comments

How Can I Safely & Cheaply Unlock This Old Phone?

I have an old Alcatel One Touch 5020T that I would like to unlock so that I can use it with an Italian sim card. I used the phone on a T-Mobile pre-paid plan. (Have a new phone and new service now). What is the safest and least expensive way to unlock the phone? I did a google search and none of the sites looked very reputable. Prices ranged from $49.99 to FREE! (if you give them your email, SSN and first born child).
posted by pjsky at 6:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Maximum home cosiness (hygge) with a budget of UK £200 to spend online?

I have one book and two Audible audiobooks and have read several articles about the whole Danish concept of hygge, roughly translated as cosiness but also covering belonging and warmth of the group. From the photos I have seen on Pinterest and in the articles it seems cosy winter/ Christmas pattern socks, multiple candles, and a cosy fleece throw or wool blanket are absolutely essential to cultivate hygge. I have moved into a housing association rental in Glasgow so the walls are bare and there's no knick-knacks or decorations, just loads and loads of books. If I want to make my flat a cosy and inviting place where people might want to pop over in the winter, what should I be buying? I am willing to spend up to £200 in total, Amazon products are handiest as I have the student version of Prime, but that's not as important as getting nice things which create a cosy hygge feeling. Any suggestions (other than spending it all on beer and cakes whih might also be a very hygge thing to do :) )?
posted by AuroraSky at 4:40 PM PST - 12 comments

The world is going to pot and so is my psyche.

It seems like everywhere I look today, there's negativity*. Racial profiling by cops. The Syrian refugee crisis. Syrian children dying by the thousands on a daily basis. School shootings in the U.S. Corruption in Haiti preventing monetary aid from getting where it's needed. And, obviously, the Great Orange Millionaire Disaster, many of his supporters and much of what they represent. Heck, even Kim Kardashian was robbed at gunpoint. I'm looking for ways on coping with all of this, because my hope in humanity is running real low. [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 4:30 PM PST - 35 comments

What is this rainbow colored plant or fungus?

The object in the linked picture was recently found on a gravel road in Northern Georgia (the US state). The picture is a cross section of something, either plant or fungi, which smelled mushroomy and has a light brown exterior. About 2 inches in diameter. I have deja-vu, I feel like I've seen or even asked this question before. I'm hoping someone who still has a good memory can tell me what it is.
posted by ...tm... at 4:14 PM PST - 5 comments

I demand satisfaction

Were these gloves designed for some specific use? Made by Swaine Adeney. Pigskin maybe, unlined, and with mysterious asymmetrical suede pads. Swaine Adeney doesn't even seem to make many gloves, closest cosmetic match by another brand were some lightweight summer shooting gloves ... but no clues on the odd padding. Does it serve some purpose?
posted by Lorin at 3:58 PM PST - 15 comments

Transporting hot sandwich - ORD to BOS

I'm in Chicago getting ready to fly home to Boston. If I buy an Italian beef sandwich (sold hot) right before I board the airplane at 7pm ET and manage to get it into my fridge at home by around 11pm ET is there any chance that it would be edible tomorrow with a bit of microwaving? By edible I only mean safe to eat -- aesthetics are not a consideration.
posted by duoshao at 3:27 PM PST - 9 comments

Nonlocal candidate: the impossible dream?

Last time I was actively job searching (2010-2014, give or take), conventional wisdom had it that hiring managers/HR wouldn't even look at a resume with an address beyond reasonable commuting distance from the job. [more inside]
posted by scratch at 2:44 PM PST - 13 comments

Easiest way to turn a HTML+JavaScript page into an android App?

I have a working HTML + JavaScript webpage. I need to have it run on a tablet with no web/net access. What's the easiest / best / most stable / best looking way to do this? [more inside]
posted by signal at 2:36 PM PST - 6 comments

Airplay puzzle

Why can't I select a given local Mac as an Airplay playback device? [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 2:28 PM PST - 0 comments

Bold and Happy Style

I saw this photo on instagram and I think I have found my tribe! Where can I find the pink dress on the very left or styles that are similar?
posted by katinka-katinka at 1:30 PM PST - 11 comments

Best way to add wifi during car trips with a dongle/hotspot

Looking for the simplest device/way to set up a mobile hotspot in the car that ideally doesn't involve tethering to another phone. Google research is making it tough to figure out what I need exactly. [more inside]
posted by andruwjones26 at 12:40 PM PST - 8 comments

Uh...am I being hacked?

Okay does it mean something bad when a website Vimeo doesn't appear correctly on TWO different browsers I have - safari and chrome? Especially when website looks perfectly fine on other people's computers? Also I have a mac. [more inside]
posted by rileyray3000 at 12:40 PM PST - 13 comments

Loafing in the lap of luxury

What's the most luxurious place in Boston where I can sit on my butt all day and do nothing? [more inside]
posted by Metroid Baby at 12:11 PM PST - 9 comments

Low and slow? Or bacterial breeding ground?

Guys I've been trying to smoke a couple pork shoulders for the past four hours. Can't get the temp over 120F. Go time is in 3 hours and I'm about to just throw them in the oven, because they're totally smoked but barely cooked. But the question is, are they safe to eat?
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 12:07 PM PST - 11 comments

Organizing my electronic life - photos, files, music - in one place?

I really can't deal right now with the (lack of) organization of my electronic photos, music, and files. [more inside]
posted by wannabecounselor at 11:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Resource for learning more about AdWords

My wife has a medium-sized law practice in a specialized practice area. I'm a techie, but more of a developer and pointy haired boss than anyone with super appropriate skills in AdWords. Looking for a good resource to either learn enough to do some basic tweaking of her campaigns or a way to find appropriate professional help. [more inside]
posted by Lame_username at 11:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Which fascist leader threatened to punch the opposition?

Well hello! Recent political developments have reminded me of a half-remembered story from the rise of fascism in Europe (at least, I think it was Europe?). A fascist political leader was being interviewed by a journalist, who asked how he would deal with the opposition. He jovially replied something like "We will punch them in the nose!" or "We will break the faces of the opposition!" or some such thing to that effect. It feels a bit Mussolini-esque to me, but hell, it might even be from a post-WWII noneuropean authoritarian regime. Does this ring any bells for anyone?
posted by Greg Nog at 11:26 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for attorney time tracking/invoice generating software.

Right now all time tracking and invoice generating is done by hand. This will not do. I think eBillity would work, but looking for other suggestions - specifics within. [more inside]
posted by Lucinda at 10:28 AM PST - 10 comments

Used Car Buying Advice

I want a car that is roadtrip-worthy and reliable. I can spend about $2700 cash and could maybe spend $100/month on a car loan, though I'd rather not. I don't care about what the car looks like, just that it's reliable and roadtrip-worthy and automatic transmission. I would be purchasing in the SF Bay Area but potentially moving to colder/snowy areas next year. What should I be looking at and what should my expectations be for that price range? ( Plus bonus q about my current car inside.) [more inside]
posted by needs more cowbell at 10:23 AM PST - 22 comments

Children's rhymes and songs

Hi! I'm wondering if you all can recommend some children's rhymes and songs that are positive or at least free of ghastly, scary, and offensive things? [more inside]
posted by slidell at 9:24 AM PST - 48 comments

Books about/set in Minneapolis

My SO is going away to Minneapolis for a course for a week, and I'd like to make her a little care package. After checking the weather, I got some posh lip balm and swanky mittens, but I'd also like to get her a fun (non-travel guide) book about the area too -- she enjoys Jonathan Franzen and David Sedaris. Suggestions for the care package are welcome too!
posted by jobby at 9:03 AM PST - 19 comments

Successfully promoting great software engineers to leadership roles

I've noticed a pattern at the software company I work for: our best engineers (not just in terms of engineering but also in terms of their social skills, collaboration, coaching and working well with others) are promoted to engineering leadership roles and given direct reports. This reduces the time they spend actually making things by at least 50% due to the time they spend in management. They often don't make great managers (at least at first) and in some cases they eventually ask to return to being an individual contributor. How can we make this work better? What patterns of success have you seen for this in your own workplaces? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:56 AM PST - 20 comments

Here comes the . . . gloom?

A friend and I have received the tremendous honor of being asked to co-officiate the wedding of our close friends, Bride and Groom. Bride and Groom have given us a long leash for the ceremony, with only two requests: first, that the ceremony be "humorous and heartfelt" and second, that we meaningfully acknowledge the Bride's mother, who died several years ago. What might be a good way to reconcile a humorous ceremony with an emotionally significant tribute? [more inside]
posted by fiery.hogue at 7:56 AM PST - 18 comments

Good resources for all the "Hillary Clinton" should be in jail!!!1 stuff

I'm currently "discussing" Clinton with 2 friends on Facebook (actual friends) who are very left-wing and also very anti-Clinton: the word "traitor" and "criminal" has been used. They seem convinced that the FBI investigation was a sham and then something about the Senate Oversight Committee hearing about it. I admit I'm not that well versed in this but I don't believe Clinton is a criminal. Can you give me some good resources about this? Either news or some sort of explanation of what sounds to me like a crackpot conspiracy theory. Thanks!
posted by Automocar at 7:53 AM PST - 27 comments

What would a theoretical left wing president do?

Okay, I was thinking about this last night, and realized that I don't understand the full extent of the US president's executive powers, and I don't really understand the political-capital consequences for using them. Questions inside! [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 7:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Post-rock chiptunes?

Let's say I wanted to listen to chiptunes in the style of e.g. Explosions in the Sky or Do Make Say Think or Sigur Ros. Ideally long pieces (7+ minutes?). Any suggestions on where to find these? Is anyone doing this? 100 bonus points if it's actual chiptune (or a faithful recreation) versus "sounds kind of video game-y".
posted by curious nu at 7:14 AM PST - 10 comments

Taking a job when you know you won't be staying long

Recent grad school graduate here on the first adult job hunt. I'm quickly realizing that it won't take a magical month to find the job I want. I'm living at home while searching, and a job in my hometown is hiring. It is in my field, but exact opposite of what I want to do, however it would help me save money. Would it be wrong to take a job that I know I would probably only stay in for 4-6 months or so? [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 7:08 AM PST - 13 comments

What is considered pretentious outside of the US?

What American cultural habits are considered pretentious or eye-rolly when performed in another country? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 7:02 AM PST - 68 comments

What should my next career move be?

I'll be graduating next year with a degree in Psychology with a concentration in Childhood & Adolescent development. I'm looking to find a new job in the meantime, and I'm not sure if I should try to find something in my field or switch fields entirely. [more inside]
posted by Autumn at 12:44 AM PST - 8 comments

October 12

Bought pre-built Lego at tag sale. How best to take it apart?

I bought a large pre-built Lego toy at a tag sale. It came with three instruction booklets. What do you recommend is the best approach to taking it apart and organizing the 700 pieces so my kid can rebuild it?
posted by Dragonness at 10:25 PM PST - 17 comments

Burnt out on trying for years and years

I’m nearly 50 and have all but given up on any form of worldly success or financial stability. What now? [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith at 8:46 PM PST - 15 comments

Confused about health insurance coverage for out-of-network services

Background info: I have an employer-based PPO plan with BCBS. According to the plan, out-of-network providers and services are covered at 80 percent (I owe remaining 20 percent). Deductible: $250 per year, out of pocket maximum: $2k per year which includes deductible and out of network as well. I am undergoing cancer treatment and one of the surgical specialists I want is out of my network. I'm trying to determine if I can afford to see him. See details below! [more inside]
posted by CancerSucks at 7:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Hivememory help with a dimly remembered SF novel.

What I remember of the book (likely with errors): Starts within about 25 years of 2010. We've identified exoplanets with a (light interferometry?) telescope (on the moon?). A 4-6 member volunteer genius crew sets off on the first interstellar voyage, but they burn through their entertainment/education material early in the voyage and are so bored they become supergeniuses (one solves Goldbach's conjecture?). Then plot twist, the telescope didn't really find planets; these folks were sent out as a psychological experiment. [more inside]
posted by Emmy Noether at 7:31 PM PST - 3 comments

When to sell ESPP for best tax advantage in a special situation?

I have stock purchased over the years through my firm’s ESPP. I also bought a house this year. But I may get laid off next year. My bosses expect the firm to be sold in 2017. Should I sell in 2016 or 2017 for the best tax advantage?
posted by Borborygmus at 6:26 PM PST - 4 comments

Please don't walk my dogs

How can I tell my new roommate that I don't want her to walk my dogs? [more inside]
posted by Lingasol at 5:48 PM PST - 23 comments

How to make a Freezing apartment warmer?

I'm living in a place that seems to have invisible drafts coming from secret places that I do not know. [more inside]
posted by olivetree at 3:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Halloween in New Orleans

Mrs COD and myself will be arriving in town on the 30th, and leaving on the 3rd. It looks like we will miss the parades and most if not all of the pre-31st activities. So what shouldn't we miss on Halloween itself, and what restaurants / museums, etc. should be put on our itinerary? I've been to N.O. once, for DrupalCon earlier this year. I was busy with the 'Con and saw little beyond getting to Frenchman's Street one night for some blues. WWII Museum is on my list. Beyond that - looking for ideas.
posted by COD at 3:10 PM PST - 8 comments

Best way to provide free digital download on WordPress site?

I've been avoiding adding widgets to my WordPress site ... keeping it basic, I think, may reduce the amount of security policing I have to do myself. But now I've made a coloring book page I'd like people to be able to download and print for free. Anybody with more experience know the best way to do this? I have it as a jpeg, but could easily make it a pdf.
posted by Nancy_LockIsLit_Palmer at 2:51 PM PST - 5 comments

Making cardboard look like enameled metal?

I want to make high-density cardboard look like enamel-coated metal, even when inspected at close range, but there's no need to actually fool anyone (willing suspension of disbelief). What products/methods should I use? I have limited time to make this work, or I'd set up a series of experiments, so I'm hoping someone else has tried something similar.... [more inside]
posted by aramaic at 2:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Financial planning for PhD students

I’m a PhD student with a stipend who needs to figure out how to manage their finances. What’s a good system to ensure I’m living within my means and am saving properly? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:48 PM PST - 18 comments

Probably need to GTFO [another how do I spin leaving question]

Short Version: I'm at a start up that I suspect will not be getting its series B in time for us to not run out of money. I'm kind of expensive and also I like having a pay check. I need to figure out what to say when I'm interviewing. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:48 PM PST - 7 comments

Coping with being friend-dumped in the age of social media :(

This question contains ongoing millennial grief about being friend-dumped in the age of social media! It's been over a year, I made it so I can't see her Facebook anymore which is great and everything was going perfectly, and I was totally over it. But now she's popped up on my Instagram feed, and it's making me upset all over again. I need some healthy mechanisms to deal with this! Please help! Lots of special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by spicytunaroll at 1:29 PM PST - 10 comments

Escape from LA

Looking for special trip recommendations 5-8h from LA by plane, good for a couple-ish celebration of sorts. [more inside]
posted by St. Peepsburg at 1:16 PM PST - 12 comments

simple skin (face) care for adult male

I'm pestering the hive mind for any suggestions or best practices on trying to maintain my face. Simpler (and cheaper) the better... My googling usually just gets me advertising. I currently just use lotion with spf each day... Any other thoughts?
posted by aggienfo at 1:12 PM PST - 12 comments

Guitar amp recommendations

Looking for a guitar amp, $200-range, just for messing around. The Blackstar ID15 looks pretty versatile. Good reviews on the Roland Cube 20GX as well. Anything else I should be looking at? Looking for some built-in effects with a good user interface, easy to program. (Good/bad experiences programming with an iOS app welcome!)
posted by starman at 1:05 PM PST - 9 comments

Sugar Skull face mask for Halloween

We're having a Halloween costume contest at work and I wanted to paint my face like a sugar skull. I've seen some great masks online in the finished stage, but the awesome pictures leave me with some questions about the how-to part. . . [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 12:03 PM PST - 14 comments

What can be done to make Chapter 13 less horrible for a human creditor?

We are not a bank, but hold a secured note. (Complex details inside) Days before the sale, the debtor just filed Chapter 13 bankruptcy. What can we do to maximize our chances of getting either the property or the loan/lawyer fee amount soon? We were counting on this for a lot. Also, please help me not get taken for a ride by a lawyer that I'm not sure is acting in our best interest, and not panic. [more inside]
posted by corb at 11:48 AM PST - 13 comments

Looking for a pomodoro timer with specific qualities

I'm looking for a pomodoro timer that keeps track of my actual time worked/time spent on break. In other words, I'd like it to ring an alarm after the 25-minute work time, but keep timing until I press "Start break," and ring an alarm after a 5 minute break, but keep timing until I press "Go back to work." Does such a thing exist? [more inside]
posted by cider at 11:27 AM PST - 3 comments

What stereo amplifier should I buy?

I have hundreds of records (translation for those under 32: "vinyl"). I have stereo speakers. And somebody just sold me her turntable for twenty bucks. Now all I need is an amp. I don't want to spend a lot of money. What should I buy?
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:00 AM PST - 21 comments

Personal Advice on Redeeming Reward Points

Where can I go online to get specific, personalized advice on how to maximize my use of travel rewards points? I am looking for help with Chase Ultimate rewards specifically if that matters. [more inside]
posted by bove at 10:06 AM PST - 8 comments

How do I, an American, manage the practicalities of moving to France?

I am moving to France in two weeks - I speak French, I have a visa, I'm enrolled in a doctoral program, my money is more or less straight. . . but I'm starting to flip out. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by os tuberoes at 9:01 AM PST - 11 comments

Mean Absolute Deviation: Empirical Rule?

I'm looking for either a secondary source confirming this so-called "empirical rule" of mean absolute deviation and standard deviation -- 1.25MAD≈s -- or a quick explanation of how that may have been derived. [more inside]
posted by glibhamdreck at 7:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Rental househunting in College Park/Greenbelt, MD - resources?

New job in College Park in a month ... need to find a 4bdr (at least) house to rent for my family before then! Panic. Very little is available on Craigslist. Are there other/better options? [more inside]
posted by aperturescientist at 7:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Black and Yellow Orb Weaver Spider Egg Sac relocation

This summer we had a lovely black and yellow orb weaver (named Agnes) set up on our porch. She hung out for a few weeks, ate heartily, and ultimately laid a nice egg sac in the corner of said porch and died/moved locations. The Catch: We may be moving soon and I don't want the sac to be destroyed by the next owners. [more inside]
posted by Twain Device at 7:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Is it timing? New York Vacation Filter

My partner and I are going on holiday to New York from the 5th-11th November. Yay! It's a big trip for us for lots of reasons, including a couple of milestone birthdays, his being on the 7th which is why we're travelling then. What we didn't figure in was the NY Marathon being held on the day after we arrive, and something about an election or something on the 8th idk apparently I've been on Mars? So in addition to the usual questions I'd like advice on navigating these events please. [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 6:27 AM PST - 25 comments

Changing Class Schedule for a Middle Schooler

My 8th grade daughter is avoiding school because she doesn't like the people in her classes. She wants to change homerooms to be in more classes with her friends. I can't figure out if this is a reasonable thing to request from the school, and if so, how to go about doing it to maximize success. [more inside]
posted by jeoc at 6:21 AM PST - 21 comments

APA help, or the most boring askme ever

I am trying to cite a chapter in the Maine State Board of Nursing's website using APA. I am either having a brain fart or legit difficulty categorizing this source... [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 6:17 AM PST - 6 comments

Prisoner I have never met emailed asking to contact me. What now?

What it says on the tin. I don't know this person and I've never lived in Indiana, where she is located. The service she contacted me through is called Getting Out and appears from a cursory Google source to be legit. A) how and why did she identify me as someone to contact, B) should I respond in any way, and C) is this a Thing?
posted by sciatrix at 5:56 AM PST - 26 comments

sudo apt-get clue

Help me learn Linux the right way circa 2016. [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 4:42 AM PST - 15 comments

October 11

Trust a trader website

I'm looking for any real life experiences of using the Trust a Trader website in the UK in general and London in particular. Also for any recommendations for other ways to find reputable trades people.Assume we don't know anyone irl to ask, either friends or others builders/carpenters/roofers. Partner and I have been burned before so general trust is low but need some work doing around the house that is well beyond me.
posted by fatfrank at 10:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Is marijuana use something a surgeon needs to know about?

(Asking for a friend). A friend smokes weed a couple of times a year. They just smoked (for the first time in a year or two) yesterday, and are going in for a hernia surgery in three days. The hospital intake paperwork asks whether they use illegal drugs. The privacy statement specifically retains the right to share information with the police. So they'd rather not admit to the marijuana unless it's actually medically relevant. Is it possible that a couple of joints could have lasting effects four days later that a surgeon would need to know about?
posted by anonymous at 9:15 PM PST - 20 comments

How do I get excited about dating?

Given the times and lack of single men around me in real life, I set up a dating profile on two different sites, but shy away from actually responding to people. How do I get myself excited and motivated to communicate and go out with men even if they don't seem that appealing on paper or after a few brief texts? [more inside]
posted by greatalleycat at 8:36 PM PST - 13 comments

Help me kill some time in Harlem

So I scored tickets to the Conan O'Brien show when he comes back to New York next month. The venue is the Apollo Theater. I need to get there early to pick up my tickets but instead of going back home and then returning for the show which is in the early evening, I'd like to spend a day in Harlem. I've already got the Studio Museum on my itinerary but I need some more ideas for places where I can kill some time. Also a good coffee shop would be appreciated. Thanks.
posted by cazoo at 6:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me find a file on my computer

I need to find a Word file from 8 years ago and I don't have much to go on. [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 6:33 PM PST - 6 comments

Family Television for 5- and 7-year-olds

My boys are old enough to watch family TV (and movies) instead of just children's stuff! Yay! But this is hard to find! BOO! Suggest for us some family TV series in particular that we can enjoy as a family. Specifications within. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 6:05 PM PST - 50 comments

iPhone vs. home wifi

My iPhone (and only my iPhone) is having trouble with my home wifi (and only my home wifi). What gives? [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 6:04 PM PST - 12 comments

Where to buy paintings or photographs as wall decor?

I'm looking to decorate some of the empty white walls in our house, and I've been to places like Pier 1, Home Goods, Target, etc. looking for some paintings or photographs to hang. Nothing has really caught my eye so I'm wondering if there isn't some online source (or even other stores) that sell affordable art. I'm mostly looking for landscapes or nature but open to considering a wide variety of subjects. Thanks for any ideas!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 5:47 PM PST - 18 comments

Sci-Fi books, short storys for a 9 year old boy

looking for help finding Sci-Fi books, short story's for a 9 year old boy. Trying to get that book habit going. thanks
posted by patnok at 5:47 PM PST - 12 comments

Day tripping to Louisville. Difficulty: mother/son getaway.

My kiddo and I are taking an impromptu mother-son day trip to Louisville. Help us figure out where to eat and one "mom" thing to do... [more inside]
posted by pinkacademic at 5:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Which House MD episode?

The song "God, Please Let Me Go Back" by Josh Rouse is on the House MD Original Television Soundtrack released in 2007. What I can't recall and can't find online is which episode it's performed on. Anyone recall? Thanks.
posted by mmw at 4:54 PM PST - 2 comments

Help us with our orgasms

My partner can only come in one position (lying on her back with her legs dead straight) and then only sometimes. Do you have any suggestions for us? [more inside]
posted by sinbarambam at 4:06 PM PST - 41 comments

Tier 1 Capital, market value of common stock or shareholders equity?

I am trying to understand the definition of Tier 1 capital. Internet sources seem contradictory. I understand the concept but I am confused as to whether it is shareholder equity or the market value of all shares of common stock that make up the portion that is not retained earnings, preferred stock or creative things. Wikipedia does not make this clear. Also if you can point me at a good resource for answering these kind of simple but slightly obscure questions I would appreciate it. [more inside]
posted by Pembquist at 3:27 PM PST - 8 comments

Ever seen red flags that weren't actually red flags?

A dating question about potential red flags. Am I misjudging this person? [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 3:06 PM PST - 47 comments

Want to ask my city to provide context for a Confederate monument

A public park that I frequent (Sam Houston Park, in Houston TX) has a large statue which was dedicated in 1903 "to all heroes of the South who fought for the principles of states rights." I consider this to be a blot on the park, and while I don't want it to be removed, I would like to approach my city government about building a plaque or a marker explaining the historical context of "Lost Cause" monuments. [more inside]
posted by Clambone at 2:49 PM PST - 5 comments

My glasses make me feel unreal / are provoking feelings of derealization

I've worn glasses for the last ten years, and ever since I've got them, I've experienced what I can only describe as minor feelings of derealization. Everything always seems.... a little strange with them on - it's as if the world is not quite there, and everything is slightly unreal. How can I stop this? [more inside]
posted by inner_frustration at 2:48 PM PST - 17 comments

Looking for some good mom blogs

Almost done with pregnancy, so now I am looking to replace some of the pregnancy blogs I read with blogs about caring for a baby! [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 2:45 PM PST - 9 comments

Putting better behavior into practice.

I'm a dreamer, and always enjoy coming across beautiful thoughts on ways of living and thinking. Some seem to be so worthy of making change about! But they always only make marginal impact for about as long as I can hold them in my mind. Aside from those realizations that demand that a change happen right-then-and-there, how do you bring yourself to incorporate new ideas into your actions, mind, and lifestyle? Do you do this? [more inside]
posted by a good beginning at 2:25 PM PST - 4 comments

Rhymes with Silver and Orange

I'm looking for a poem that uses a play on words to find rhymes for both silver and orange, I believe within the same poem. For example, I think the use of "door-hinge" is used to rhyme with orange. I can find a bunch of poems out there that play with "unrhymable" language in this way, but I thought there was a shorter, catchy one that took on silver and orange in one verse. Maybe five lines or so, maybe a limerick? Sound familiar?
posted by SpacemanStix at 1:28 PM PST - 11 comments

Lost notes

I lost a lot of documents from the Notes app on my mid-2012 Macbook Air. Is there ANY way they are recoverable? [more inside]
posted by colorblock sock at 1:27 PM PST - 5 comments

Digital examples of utilitarian journals and logs

I'm looking for visual references to logbooks that craftspeople have kept over the years for their work. For example, maintenance logs, mechanics logs, captain's logs, work related journaling, etc. Digital copies are fairly important, and a getting a feel for layout, language, and visuals are all a plus.
posted by codacorolla at 12:49 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for an Android inventory app with QR code image retrieval

I am looking for an Android app which will allow me to scan a QR code (which the app may provide or have me generate my own) that is affixed to the outside of a physical box, then take a picture of the contents of said box. I can then put the boxes into storage/move them to new house/etc. When I desire, I fire up the app, scan the QR code on the box and can now see what is contained inside the box. [more inside]
posted by JJtheJetPlane at 12:43 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me trick out my new office

Good news: I'm getting a bigger office! Can you provide tips, tricks, or inspiration on how to set up a comfortable, productive, organized work space? [more inside]
posted by kinsey at 12:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Mythical Elements in Other Cultures

I know that the Babylonians/Egyptians/Greeks (and through them European cultures), and China, Japan, Tibet, and India all had conceptions of the world being made up of four or five fundamental elements (e.g., earth, air, water, fire). Did any cultures outside of these (the Mayans, native North American societies, sub-Saharan societies, etc.) have similar elemental cosmological systems?
posted by Sangermaine at 12:07 PM PST - 2 comments

Is it unreasonable to bow out of a work trip?

My business is planning an out of state week-long meeting for next spring, with hundreds of people coming in from across the country.... the week before my wedding. Am I unreasonable for asking for an exemption? [more inside]
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 12:06 PM PST - 30 comments

Spending four days in Austin. What to see, do and eat?

SO and I will be in Austin Tx from late on October 30 to early on November 3. We're staying close to downtown and we'll have a vehicle. We're not into the 20 something bar scene. We'd much rather listen to some music (blues and country) and eat some good food. Not really picky eaters, but at least one BBQ meal. Franklins is amazing, but we're not sure we want to line up for 3 hours. Any suggestions from the community?
posted by Pablo MacWilliams at 12:00 PM PST - 15 comments

Danish Design and Culture - Highlights for a 4 day trip to Copenhagen?

What are your best, specific recommendations for great food, design, and local culture highlights in Copenhagen for 3-4 adults and 2 18-month olds? [more inside]
posted by foodmapper at 11:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Baby-Friendly Meeting Spot in Manhattan?

I've got a new baby and a friend coming to town who wants to meet this baby on Friday! Friend has a tight time window and needs to meet in Manhattan somewhere in-between Midtown and the West Village. I have no idea where to go. [more inside]
posted by yearly at 11:07 AM PST - 7 comments

Where for family with baby to stay in Richmond, VA?

My wife, baby (18 months), and I will be spending a couple of nights in Richmond, VA on the weekend of Oct 28. Looking for a good part of town to stay in. [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 10:29 AM PST - 3 comments

How can I now see a map of all my Tripadvisor Saves?

Prior to the new update of the Tripadvisor app, I could open a saved location, zoom out, and then see the saved locations nearby. The new update destroyed this functionality. Is there any way for me to access a map of my saved locations? I like to plan a route among proximate sites, and I don't know how to do this.
posted by jefficator at 9:21 AM PST - 0 comments

Idle hands need new work

I need a new hobby to do while watching TV that fits my desires to improve myself, have something to show for it and still be able to concentrate on my show. Difficulty: I have a bum shoulder. Please don't recommend knitting! [more inside]
posted by litereally at 9:20 AM PST - 24 comments

How do I tell potential employers I want out of a job after 2 mo?

Been at a job for 2 months. Not what I was told it was be. I want to bail but concerned how potential employers will see this. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by stormpooper at 8:17 AM PST - 19 comments

Let's Talk Turkey

Help! Back in the early months of this year I concluded that I was going to need to be somewhere outside of the U.S. as we headed into the last few weeks of the election. I had an airline voucher that needed to be used and I'd wanted to visit Turkey ever since taking a class in the history of the eastern Mediterranean region in university, and so I booked myself tickets to Istanbul with two weeks to spend between my arrival and departure (the last week of October and the first week of November.) [more inside]
posted by Nerd of the North at 7:58 AM PST - 12 comments


I have a large west-facing window and I'd like to set up some large leafy plants/trees set up in front of it. What would you recommend, based on the parameters below? [more inside]
posted by sea change at 7:32 AM PST - 10 comments

Spooky graphic novels or comics?

Help me find some spooky graphic novels or comics to get me in the Halloween spirit [more inside]
posted by Bulgaroktonos at 7:30 AM PST - 17 comments

NYC obgyn and endocrinologist recs, please?

I just switched insurance and am looking for new doctors. Can you recommend an obgyn and/or an endocrinologist (in NYC) who you love? [more inside]
posted by 168 at 5:09 AM PST - 4 comments

What do you do in your smaller moments?

I have trouble resting in my no-obligation-smaller-moments, and I want to know what you do in your free moments throughout the day to build energy rather than deplete it. [more inside]
posted by uncannyslacks at 4:46 AM PST - 22 comments

Press contact email. Difficulty level: Plate of Beans

I’m a photographer and a writer. I’m working with a new music site and we really want to land an interview with a band who are on their farewell tour. I’m beanplating about whether to reach out to the band members directly. Help! [more inside]
posted by gmb at 2:14 AM PST - 6 comments

October 10

Biggest Loser Challenge at work gone awry. Advice to handle this??

About three months ago (July 11), our nurse at the clinic wanted to start a biggest loser challenge at work with money on the line. ($1,050) It was seven people including myself that put in $150 each. Now, the nurse decided to include her boyfriend who’s not a regular employee and happened to be overweight at the time. Fast forward to today which was the final weigh-in, and some shady business took place with the boyfriend winning the pot money based on the amount of BMI (body mass index) lost. [more inside]
posted by tnar23 at 11:04 PM PST - 21 comments

Help me identify these mushrooms from my backyard

With the arrival of the rains, a patch of mushrooms of a wide variety of shapes and color patterns has sprouted around my chestnut tree in the backyard. I heard mushroom identification can be tricky so I have no plans on eating them. But I would love to know what species they are. I've tried a couple of online mushroom identification sites but haven't had much luck. Here are some pictures They are all about 2-3 inches tall. As far as I can tell they don't have any striking odors. I live in Portland Oregon.
posted by Pantalaimon at 10:24 PM PST - 6 comments

Got My Mind Set On You

Help a hopeless romantic get over her fear of asking a guy out. [more inside]
posted by Champagne Supernova at 10:23 PM PST - 15 comments

My housemate has a loud voice.

My housemate's voice really carries in our apartment, and it's stressing me out. [more inside]
posted by delight at 10:18 PM PST - 21 comments

Dealing with Anxiety

Techniques to help when getting caught up in feelings of doom? [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 8:57 PM PST - 11 comments

How to break a rental lease

How would someone break a lease at the beginning of a rental agreement and what are reasonable causes for doing so? [more inside]
posted by CosmicSeeker42 at 7:17 PM PST - 7 comments

What to ask an aging relative?

There is a project I have been pushing off for a long time now of sitting my loved ones down and interviewing them, maybe on tape. What questions am I going to most appreciate having their answers to, some day in the (hopefully distant) future when I can no longer ask them? [more inside]
posted by Cozybee at 7:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Audio 101 filter

We've just demolished our kitchen/dining room and now decided that in-ceiling speakers for music, and a tv would be a good thing. Short on time, and audio isn't my thing, help! [more inside]
posted by nobeagle at 7:02 PM PST - 9 comments

Downsizing for new place -- and staying that way

I purchased a condo, hurrah! I will have approximately 2/3 to 1/2 the space I had before [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 6:34 PM PST - 14 comments

In what way is Android Device Manager wrong about my phone?

Android device manager claims that my phone is somewhere in my house. But when I tell it to ring my phone at full volume, it claims that it's doing so, and then...nothing. My house is small. I have searched it from top to bottom, while the ringer should theoretically be sounding. I hear nothing. Which is more likely to be malfunctioning - the locator or the ringer? [more inside]
posted by pretentious illiterate at 6:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Where to move that has sun

I just can't take the grey drizzle anymore, where should I move? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Orca at 6:01 PM PST - 39 comments

Balls. Bats. Strikes. Walks.

I need the baseball underpants shown in this commercial (About 18-20 seconds in). I do not want boxers. I would like as close to these pants as possible. Can you help me?
posted by oflinkey at 4:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Examples of successful, multi-lingual magazines and newspapers?

Are there any proven publications (specifically magazines and newspapers) that are bi-lingual (primarily in the USA/Canada and Europe) and are the non-English parts necessarily a translation of the English parts? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 4:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Crafting the perfect juice shots

After juice shots from a shop kept me going on a recent vacation, I'm interested in learning more and making my own. I have no interest in buying a juicer; I'm looking for things I can make with pre-made juices, oils, supplements, etc. A few more details inside. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 4:16 PM PST - 3 comments

What to get for my bosses at work that already have everything...

Christmas is coming up and I work for a family business. I need to get all the owners a gift. There are 10 individuals total (five couples). I am at a loss what to get them, I can not afford to spend a lot. I would consider spending up to $100 for all of them. [more inside]
posted by just asking at 3:30 PM PST - 14 comments

Working under the table - Canadian law.

Hi; This is in Canada. When a employer hires u, and says u will be paid in cash once a month (no taxes), and it's up to u to pay your taxes - at the end of year, what happens to the employer - or u? How can the worker or employer get caught? Thanks :-)
posted by LOOKING at 3:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Cozy, nerdy fall book recommendations

Looking for a few comforting, fantasy-ish books I can immerse myself in while washing dishes or drinking my tea. Bonus points for audiobooks! [more inside]
posted by linettasky at 1:43 PM PST - 39 comments

What side dish/appetizer should I make with these ingredients?

I am going to a friend's house later for an impromptu, casual Thanksgiving dinner. I want to bring a little something to contribute, that would be tasty yet unconventional with turkey dinner. There are a few standout ingredients in my fridge, which include gorditas, flour tortillas, chicken breast, sweet potato and regular potato, refried beans, green onions, chipotle in adobo, salsa, and both mozzarella and cheddar cheese. I was thinking empanadas with the chicken, potato, cheese, and refried beans... but I'd prefer to not have to make dough from scratch. Is there another dish that you'd recommend considering what I've got? Thanks!
posted by to recite so charmingly at 1:05 PM PST - 11 comments

[UK Tax filter] Where to go for help with sorting self-employed tax?

I've got a full time job but have landed some freelance work that will bring in multiple thousand pounds a year. I'm registering as self-employed and I've read a whole bunch around allowances/expenses etc. I've a couple of questions over the fold: [more inside]
posted by chr at 12:57 PM PST - 3 comments

Help me learn to plan and cook for one?

Help me learn how to plan, shop, and cook for just me. Cookbooks exist for the cooking alone market, but it's hard to choose between them. What I want is something in the vein of Serious Eats for the solo chef. The things I need are guidance on how to shop in a non-wasteful way for one, including how to keep fresh vegetables on hand but not prone to spoilage, techniques for recipe splitting, etc.
posted by ChrisR at 11:00 AM PST - 19 comments

Dating someone who jokes too much

Dear Mefites, I've started going out with this person i met on a social app. He's jolly, but ever since we've met in person he hasn't stopped joking, literally. He's smart, confident, attractive and grounded but what tires me out abit is that he seems rather hard to get to know on a personal level. [more inside]
posted by eustaciavye87 at 10:17 AM PST - 22 comments

Three seasons of young love

Trying to find a poem I once read, can only remember this: We sat inside, we drank our tea. In sips, he had enough of me. [more inside]
posted by autolykos at 9:16 AM PST - 1 comment

Should he stay or should he go? FIV+ cat in multicat household.

Last week I posted about a stray cat I found. I got him checked out by the vet and he's FIV+. Vet said he's about a year old and showing no symptoms. I have two existing cats that AFAIK are FIV- (they've never been outside or come into contact with other cats). What should I do? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 8:09 AM PST - 33 comments

Medical billing shenanigans. What recourse do I have, if any?

I was billed for a surgical procedure that my doctor never performed. When I complained and asked for a refund, they instead raised the price of a different procedure listed on the same bill, so that my total bill still came to the same amount. What recourse do I have? [more inside]
posted by nebulawindphone at 8:05 AM PST - 17 comments

Richard Avedon of the Eyepatch Set

I am a lifelong, semi-professional photographer who has recently had severe vision loss in my right eye. Help me to become the best one-eyed photographer ever. [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 5:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Wanted: distracting internet stuff, NOT politics or current events

I am losing my mind because of this election and the state of the world. In an effort to retain sanity I am trying to find alternate ways to entertain myself on the internet that have NOTHING to do with politics or current events. Please help. [more inside]
posted by forza at 5:13 AM PST - 33 comments

Should I not say anything?

I met a great man about a year or so ago right after getting out of an abusive relationship. I left after a few weeks to figure myself out. I never told him about the nature of the relationship I left, just that I needed time and could I get back in touch when I was in a better place but that I didnt know how long that would be. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:02 AM PST - 15 comments

"I know we can't talk, but c'mon, you've been filming me for a month!"

In reality TV shows where there is unavoidable ongoing contact between contestants and production staff (particularly camera/sound crew), how are the inevitable human relationships managed? [more inside]
posted by russm at 3:40 AM PST - 16 comments

What is wrong with my dog?

He's been demonstrating bad behavior and regressing in his training in the past month. [more inside]
posted by Sherbil at 3:03 AM PST - 20 comments

Help me identify a piece of Arabic music

Last night I heard a really intriguing piece of Arabic music. I'd like to hear it (or at least something similar to it) again! [more inside]
posted by soundofsuburbia at 3:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Need recommendatios for a low voltage (12v ideally) electric blanket.

USA edition. Wanted 12 volt electric blanket with a built in step-down and rectifier circuit from 120VAC to 12VDC. [more inside]
posted by InsertNiftyNameHere at 1:39 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me create a workflow for editing a ton of images for a portfolio.

I have to process a ton of jpeg images that will be used for a web portfolio of projects. I have been struggling to come up with a way to do this efficiently (as well as not shooting myself in the foot of the images need to be used in a different format down the road). [more inside]
posted by This_Will_Be_Good at 12:37 AM PST - 3 comments

October 9

Wisdom teeth partially left in (or my molars are very sharp)

I had my wisdom teeth out 15 years ago and I've always thought my back molars felt sharp or like there was some jagged tooth behind my molars. I perpetually forget to do my dentist about it but aren't sure if they would see left over wisdom teeth bits in an x-ray or visual exam. [more inside]
posted by toomanycurls at 11:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Where should I take my mom on vacation?

My mom and I are planning a trip for Veteran's Day weekend, but we haven't quite decided on where. Our main interests are cute shops with handmade items, historical sites, gardens and nature hikes, and delicious baked goods. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by cndelia at 8:53 PM PST - 9 comments

What political donations are most impactful in October?

This late in the election cycle, are my (modest) donations best targeted towards individual statewide candidates, or towards general democratic get-out-the-vote efforts? If the latter, any suggestions? I'm specifically interested in impacting Missouri statewide races, which will be highly competitive if enough disgusted GOPers stay home.
posted by chrisamiller at 8:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Does anyone know the inscriptions on the doors of the Milan Cathedral?

I've read online that over the triple doorways of Milan Cathedral are three inscriptions spanning the arches. Above one is carved a wreath of roses, with the words, “All that pleases is but for a moment.” Over the second is a cross, with the words, “All that troubles is but for a moment.” Underneath the great central entrance to the main aisle is inscribed: “That only is important which is eternal.” I presume the inscriptions are in latin or something. Can someone confirm, and provide the exact wording in latin? [more inside]
posted by hellomina at 6:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Wherein I Admit That I Am In Over My Head

Several months ago, I used some Terminal commands to set up symlinks to make my Macbook sync certain folders with Dropbox. Now I want to undo this. However, I now cannot remember how I set this up, and I want to stop it. This is where you come in. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 6:56 PM PST - 5 comments

Which down ballot Dem candidates should I donate to?

I have some extra room in my budget and would like to support a Democratic candidate in a close race. To whom should I donate? Or is better to just donate more to Hillary's campaign? [more inside]
posted by that possible maker of pork sausages at 6:46 PM PST - 11 comments

How do single folks in Auckland connect?

Asking for female, cool, well traveled, worldly, well educated, very fit, pretty, 30-something professional who is looking to meet a similar fellow not in a bar scene, not on tinder etc...? are there better apps in NZ? unusual places or groups to meet good guys? Loves great foods, cooking, the restaurant scene in Aukland, is hilarious, and generally great all around but has hard time finding the right cool cat. Suggestions? Tips? Tricks? Auckland dating hacks?
posted by specialk420 at 6:00 PM PST - 3 comments

Uber deleted my account, now I can't get an account

Uber deleted my account because the tech support staff didn't understand me. I have contacted tech support twice and each time got a reply that didn't didn't make sense. OK, I'll make a new account. Nope, "Phone number is unavailable for use." Now what do I do to re-activate my deleted account or set up a new account to my phone number? More inside. [more inside]
posted by ITravelMontana at 5:45 PM PST - 9 comments

What is this T-34 part?

A friend and I are putting together a model T-34/76 '43 model, and we're stumped as to what a particular part is supposed to be. [more inside]
posted by coolname at 4:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Travel Advice: where should we fly from London for 2-3 weeks in January?

We are going to be in London and Edinburgh at Christmas and New Years, but don't fly back to Canada until Jan. 21. Where should we go where our Canadian dollars go further than they do in the UK? [more inside]
posted by hamandcheese at 4:12 PM PST - 5 comments

Solo road trip from Ottawa to Saskatoon - hot tips?

What's the best route and things I should know for a trip from Ottawa to Saskatoon? [more inside]
posted by EarnestDeer at 2:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Online games for a 10-year-old to play with his pal who lives overseas?

My 10-year-old son's friend moved to Spain permanently. We're looking for some online games that they could play together. [more inside]
posted by palliser at 1:57 PM PST - 7 comments

Cracked touchscreen laptop: what's my move?

My wife's touchscreen laptop, an Asus Q302L, is cracked. Is there an easy way to tell whether I need to replace the LCD screen, the digitizer, or both? I've replaced the screen in my non-touchscreen laptop without much hassle, but I don't know where to begin with touchscreen technology. Extra points: whatever part/parts it turns out I need, where's the best place to go? Many thanks.
posted by jwhite1979 at 1:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Is This a Bed Bug ?!?!

I was cleaning my apartment this afternoon and I came across this bug. Doing a quick internet search it looks close to a bed bug, but doesn't quite match the pictures I came across. What type of bug is this? If it's a bed bug, how do I ensure my apartment stays bed bug free? Should I just burn down my apartment and call it a day (I've never had bed bugs before)?
posted by Shirley88 at 1:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Pee for enjoyment, not employment

I need positive, constructive references to peeing. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 1:16 PM PST - 42 comments

What is this cat's name?

We need a name for this cat! He's gorgeous: completely black, green-eyed, sleek & lithe like a panther. His brother is a tuxedo cat named Sam. What do we call this one? [more inside]
posted by Westringia F. at 12:48 PM PST - 56 comments

Computing for preppers

Reading more dire climate change posts made me idly wonder: what could one build or buy today that would still be usable as a general-purpose computing device in 100 years? What about 1000 years? [more inside]
posted by doiheartwentyone at 12:18 PM PST - 20 comments

This merry-go-round sure is fun but I'd like to get off now.

Well, I have a few really awesome problems that I would completely recommend to anyone. I would suggest you try any of, or especially the full combination of, the following:
  • Chronic illness
  • No social network
  • Mental illness
  • Geographic dislocation
  • My question: how do I build a decent life? Or start in that direction, in a stable way that won't fall apart in a light breeze. Again. [more inside]
    posted by bizarrenacle at 11:32 AM PST - 8 comments

    Identify vaguely scandanavian furniture design/DIY book

    I'm trying to identify -- and then buy, in the UK -- a book about furniture design that was loaned to a friend of mine a while ago. Sketchy memories of details inside... [more inside]
    posted by metaBugs at 9:46 AM PST - 6 comments

    How should I set up my master bedroom/bonus room?

    I'm in search of layout/design advice on how to set up my new bedroom. [more inside]
    posted by trixie119 at 9:40 AM PST - 9 comments

    eBook App to replace Bluefire

    I currently use the Bluefire reading app on my Android device, but it has two problems that make me want to kill it with the fire of a thousand suns and two other minor problems that only make me want to maim it a bit with a yellow flame, so I am looking for a replacement that does good things it does and doesn't do bad things it does. [more inside]
    posted by jacquilynne at 8:59 AM PST - 8 comments

    This past Father's day was (literally) erased from my memory. How? Why?

    I was talking with my dad today and he told me he enjoyed our going out to eat on father's day at a restaurant I have no recollection going to with him (ever). He described the meal in detail to the point where I'm sure he's not making it up, but what he was saying didn't even jog my memory - it's like the day didn't happen. I'm in my early thirties so I'm very worried about this. Has anyone had anything like this happen to them, and how did it turn out? [more inside]
    posted by Thanquol180 at 8:38 AM PST - 31 comments

    Travel advice for El Paso, TX please!

    Hey MeFites of and familiar with El Paso! I'm going to be traveling to your fair city in the near future and I'd like to know what to check out. I am a special snowflake traveler as you will know if you've encountered my previous travel asks, so more under the cut. [more inside]
    posted by bile and syntax at 8:12 AM PST - 4 comments

    What's a good travel shoe for men?

    On my most recent trip, I slipped on some wet tiles in a bathroom and fell. I wasn't hurt but it could have ended my holiday and put me in hospital. (I barely missed hitting a steel plumbing fixture with my head). So I'm looking to replace my New Balance walking shoes with something more reliable. [more inside]
    posted by storybored at 8:11 AM PST - 13 comments

    Best Apple Store in Atlanta for quick repair?

    Hi, refugee from the Hurricane Matthew evac, staying in Columbus, GA with a suddenly dead Macbook Pro. There are 4 Apple stores in Atlanta, which is best for making an appointment for someone to look at it today? It has to be today. [more inside]
    posted by Brandon Blatcher at 8:08 AM PST - 4 comments

    Waking up raring to go

    This school year my kids both have to start school early, so we all have to be up at 6:30am. We're not morning people, and the kids especially walk out the door tired and cranky. How can we start our day feeling positive, upbeat, and energised? Tips please! I'm thinking music choices, activities, or other things you might do to start your day right. [more inside]
    posted by tracicle at 6:02 AM PST - 19 comments

    Hardwood floors: What could leave spots of bare wood?

    We are finding bare spots on our hardwood floor, (i.e. apparently missing the polyurethane sealant). We have found spots in the middle of the floor (away from windows) in a few locations (images here). The wood looks bare. The edges of the spots missing the polyurethane are crisp. I do not believe this is water damage. It doesn't appear to have "bubbled up" characteristic of the water damage that I've seen. [more inside]
    posted by KevCed at 5:25 AM PST - 13 comments

    New Orleans bar debate watching where? (And other things to do)

    I'm visiting NOLA from Chicago. Would like to watch the debate tonight, at a democratic friendly bar. Where? Also because I'm using a question, things to do this week, places to go and yummy food recommendations are encouraged and welcome. Staying near Benachi House.
    posted by AlexiaSky at 5:18 AM PST - 3 comments

    To sleep with wires or not.

    REM sleep behavior disorder. I've discussed it with my GP, psychologist and neurologist and we're fairly convinced I have it. Thrown myself out of bed twice in the last year, giving me a lovely new scar on my neck. Too many episodes of thrashing and kicking. Many, many episodes of talking. The last objectively confirmed by family while we were recently on holiday and thus in closer sleeping arrangements. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 2:06 AM PST - 5 comments

    October 8

    How do I get my macbook working after my hard drive got erased?

    Aaaaaaaahh!!! Friend tried to fix my macbook and erased my hard drive in the process. Now I get a white "stop" symbol when I try logging in, which apparently means that my Mac can't find a valid System Folder to start up from. I'm beyond warranty--how do I get my macbook working again? [more inside]
    posted by melancholyplay at 10:15 PM PST - 4 comments

    Need a reputable and affordable dentist in Atlanta

    We need a third opinion and have maxed out the dental insurance. Anyone have a dentist who knows their stuff and is t expensive? Details inside. [more inside]
    posted by LizBoBiz at 7:54 PM PST - 2 comments

    High collar cropped/bolero jackets for work?

    I am an executive and wear a lot of sleeveless dresses to work in California. Right now I keep a suit jacket at work and throw it on top of the dress when I have the need. I'd like to up my game with lightweight, cropped/bolero (I'm VERY short) jackets made of interesting fabrics. I like this (high in back, collarless) but am open to anything with the proviso that I have muscular arms, so jackets proportioned for very short women with burly arms are particularly desirable. [more inside]
    posted by stewiethegreat at 6:44 PM PST - 6 comments

    sharing costs in a new relationship?

    I'm in a fairly new relationship with my girlfriend. We've been dating 2 months and exclusive for the last month now. How can I bring up the topic of money to her in a mostly non-awkward way? I'm uncomfortable about talking about it, but I would definitely like some help on occasion with dating. She's 28, a registered nurse. I'm 30, work in IT Helpdesk. We both really like each other so far and I'd like to start bringing up topics like this in particular in our relationship. I really don't know how to word it or even when on a date to ask it? I've looked all around the internet, and there's a lot of advice on BRINGING it up but not what to say. I'm more than a little awkward with these things and almost want an EXACT scenario and script to go by. [more inside]
    posted by isoman2kx at 5:50 PM PST - 69 comments

    What is the best history of the indigenous people of Canada?

    I am reading The Orenda right now, which is set in 17th century Canada and told from the point of view of a Huron man, an Iroquois girl, and a jesuit priest. This has me wanting to read a history book about Canada that focuses on the indigenous nations that were here: can you suggest the best one? [more inside]
    posted by chunking express at 4:57 PM PST - 4 comments

    Moving from the big city (NYC) to somewhere in the Northeast, where?

    We have spent our adult lives living in big cities and as we grow older, our desires and priorities have changed. But how the hell do we know where is right for us? Kind of a two parter. [more inside]
    posted by shesbenevolent at 4:52 PM PST - 15 comments

    Should I STOP ask guys out in order to achieve better results?

    I'm wondering if asking men out sets the tone of being the pursuer - one man in particular. What are your thoughts? [more inside]
    posted by Kat_Dubs at 4:30 PM PST - 17 comments

    Pick Your Refrigerator Lupita

    Mrs. W and I need a new refrigerator. We want freezer on top, stainless steel, easy to replace water filter, and, if possible, a tray that catches water if the fridge happens to leak ( if such a thing exists.) Do you love your refrigerator? Tell us about it.
    posted by wittgenstein at 3:25 PM PST - 10 comments

    Wordless videos for a toddler?

    I'm looking for wordless (or nearly so), non-animated, non-idiotic/condescending short videos for my toddler. The Sesame Street Milk Song is a nearly perfect example.
    posted by dmd at 1:23 PM PST - 10 comments

    Kipling Poem?

    Trying to find a half-remember verse that goes vaguely like "(something something)/ever since the world began/for those who have to keep/and those to take who can" - thought it might be Kipling but Google won't help me.
    posted by tspae at 12:29 PM PST - 9 comments

    Why is THIS the controversy that might finally sink Trump?

    Trump's comments from the 2005 tape are, obviously, incredibly offensive. But why are they so damaging to his campaign, when nothing else has seemed to affect his popularity? [more inside]
    posted by Questolicious at 12:20 PM PST - 46 comments

    Going to be in South Carolina for cleanup work, where to view debate?

    I'm going to Charleston SC with the company I work for on Sunday, knowing that tv and internet can be out due to storm damage, is there any good options for trying to hear the debate? I have a portable AM/FM/SW radio I can bring, do you know of any stations that would be broadcasting it? Barring that any other good options?
    posted by Ferreous at 12:06 PM PST - 2 comments

    Which Republicans have stopped supporting Donald Trump?

    Who are the politicians revoking support from Donald Trump? I'm looking for people who aren't on this wiki yet.
    posted by andoatnp at 11:57 AM PST - 13 comments

    Google Suite referral code for charity

    The bigbrowncow family are signing up to google suite (was google apps for work). If I get a referral code I get 20% off and the owner of the code gets $15 per user. My question is how can I get my $15s to go to a good cause rather than some sketchy coupon site contributor? We are UK based if it matters.
    posted by Bigbrowncow at 11:28 AM PST - 2 comments

    Seeking Hivemind Tips for Finding Home for a Foster Cat

    Assume, correctly, that I am someone who barely uses social media and is still shocked that people prefer to text rather than speak on the phone, what tips/ideas/things have you tried that you would or wouldn't recommend for finding a great cat a great home? [more inside]
    posted by not that mimi at 9:13 AM PST - 16 comments

    Tips for a Southern New Mexico Road Trip

    I grew up in New Mexico, but I have lived on the East Coast for almost 15 years. I will be taking my significant other to New Mexico for the first time in a few weeks. In addition to seeing my family in Albuquerque, we are going to go on a two-ish day road trip to see some of the sights in the southern part of the state. But there's so many to choose from! [more inside]
    posted by forkisbetter at 8:37 AM PST - 8 comments

    Marriage counseling is off to a poor start. What to do next?

    My wife and I are in couples therapy, but I feel like we haven’t made much progress. Help me develop a strategy to get things on track. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 4:59 AM PST - 18 comments

    I can't stop thinking of every man as a potential date

    I am a happily married women in my forties and this is causing me some heartache. I would like to be friends with straight men that I find interesting without constantly thinking about them in a romantic way. How do I stop this? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 4:58 AM PST - 11 comments

    Low-Income Housing, Unaffordable Rent Increase--Help!

    After being financially ruined after a divorce, my 3 kids and I were lucky enough to be chosen for a low-to-moderate-income 3 bedroom home; the rent was $650 monthly which was all I could afford at the time. Unfortunately, my rent is now being raised to $1450 (30% of my AGI) and I just cannot afford that. I have a son with a mental health disability who is thriving in a special education program in the public high school. If we move, I won't find a comparable program (also, it's his senior year and moving him will not go down easy). Wise Hivemind: is there ANYTHING I can do to get the board to reconsider? Does my son's disability factor? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 4:58 AM PST - 15 comments

    October 7

    Seeking suggestions for a sonorous selection

    This is kind of the definition of a problem of plenty, but I was recently gifted $1000 with which to buy a musical instrument for myself, and I have no idea what to buy. I already play a number of instruments, and between my girlfriend and myself (mostly her) we have a small selection of instruments already. I would love to hear any and all suggestions. [more inside]
    posted by teponaztli at 9:54 PM PST - 16 comments

    Help me celebrate my golden birthday in Portland, OR!

    I am turning 25 on the 25th of November this year (the day after Thanksgiving) and I will be in Portland/Tualatin visiting family. I'd like to do something special to celebrate! [more inside]
    posted by jouir at 9:13 PM PST - 4 comments

    How can I best forward my apartment buzzer?

    How can I best forward my apartment buzzer? [more inside]
    posted by Chaussette and the Pussy Cats at 9:04 PM PST - 8 comments

    Weekend trip to Vancouver, BC

    Planning a quick solo-getaway to Vancouver. What should I be sure not to miss? [more inside]
    posted by little_dog_laughing at 8:16 PM PST - 11 comments

    Stay sexy, don't get murdered

    After listening to too many true crime podcasts, I need suggestions on updating my apartment security. [more inside]
    posted by pumpkinlatte at 8:08 PM PST - 12 comments

    Help me give the gift of urban gardening

    I think my husband would like more plants and his birthday is coming up. Help me figure out what to get him? [more inside]
    posted by kat518 at 6:50 PM PST - 8 comments

    Recommendations for a replacement laptop battery?

    I'm looking for a new battery for my old Lenovo laptop. The OEM Lenovo batteries are pretty expensive ($70 and up). I would like to buy a cheaper aftermarket one especially since the laptop is quite old and might not last another 2-3 years. Can you recommend good places to buy online? [more inside]
    posted by roaring beast at 4:48 PM PST - 4 comments

    Hi, can you tell me nice things about Halcion and hydroxyzine?

    I'm getting oral conscious sedation (not IV sedation) tomorrow for wisdom tooth removal and am feeling nervous about it. I don't like feeling high or out of control, and it doesn't seem these drugs do that, but what else do they do? Specific questions in the [more inside] [more inside]
    posted by c'mon sea legs at 4:32 PM PST - 13 comments

    Baby Grabbyhands

    My six month old constantly grabs at my face and pulls my hair, especially while nursing. What specific toys / objects / techniques have worked for you to distract a grabby baby? [more inside]
    posted by insectosaurus at 4:21 PM PST - 21 comments

    I want to like Boring

    Is there an app or method to help me like tasks that are boring and rote? I have gotten by in life by avoiding things that tend to bore me, such as dry readings, cooking, waiting in line or cleaning my room. It feels like I need constant stimulation in order to get by. [more inside]
    posted by kinoeye at 2:53 PM PST - 14 comments

    What Do I Need To Know About Hostels in San Francisco?

    I'm going to be in San Francisco 10/30-11/2(ish. may stay a day or two more). I am attending a conference at Westin St. Francis. To save money, I want to stay in a hostel. There seems to be plenty in the immediate area. But I've never stayed in a hostel and I just don't know the area. What should I be looking for and what should I expect? [more inside]
    posted by [insert clever name here] at 2:46 PM PST - 17 comments

    How to take 3 people on a winter beach vacation?

    My family has a tradition of traveling together for a week or so during the winter to Mexico (or similar) to get away in lieu of Christmas. Usually, this has been pretty easy to pull off, because all the couples simply booked the rate for two adults. I got divorced recently, and trying to fit three people in a room at one of these resorts seems crazy and super unaffordable. Does anyone have any tips or hacks to help us figure out the logistics of this? [more inside]
    posted by theantikitty at 2:11 PM PST - 6 comments

    Safety question regarding electricity during a hurricane

    We recently moved to South Carolina and are on the very edge of hurricane Matthew's path, but are close enough to a marsh that we might be impacted by some flooding. This an older home that has some electrical outlets located on the floor and at the bottom of the walls. At what point should I cut power at the main breaker? The ground floor is 26" above ground and we have no basement. Thank you!
    posted by wensink at 1:50 PM PST - 4 comments

    In lieu of quals...

    I'm currently in the first year of a PhD program in physics. Right now I am just taking classes. My school does not have a qualifying exam, and there's not much I need to do outside of my classwork. However, I don't want to live from homework to homework -- so I'd like to set aside some extra time for textbook-reading and problem-solving. Have you done this? Tell me about your experience. [more inside]
    posted by miniraptor at 1:23 PM PST - 8 comments

    Help me find the right sweater (or jacket)

    I'm looking for a black, long sleeve cardigan that I can wear over a black lace dress to a semi-formal ("black tie optional," although people's dress tends to run the gamut from party/cocktail to full gowns) work event. I'd like it to be cropped or hit at/above the natural waist so it doesn't ruin the lines of a fit and flare dress. [more inside]
    posted by misskaz at 12:00 PM PST - 15 comments

    Romantic novels filter: happy couples edition

    I just read the last available Eileen Wilks book and the next one won't be out for a while. What should I read in the meantime? [more inside]
    posted by faethverity at 11:52 AM PST - 11 comments

    Dirty rental compensation

    I'm staying at a vacation rental property that is not clean. What is an appropriate amount to ask for compensation? [more inside]
    posted by mrfuga0 at 11:39 AM PST - 6 comments

    What’s worth buying on Groupon?

    I have about $35 in “Groupon bucks” from an item I returned. Since the last two actual products I bought through Groupon were junk, I am leery of buying more. Is there a way to be notified just for Groupon gift card deals? Alternately, is there some great product worth around $35 that you’d recommend? [more inside]
    posted by Kriesa at 11:34 AM PST - 7 comments

    Staying safe & having fun in Cairo, Egypt

    I will soon be spending a week by myself in Cairo. What should I do? What should I not do? In particular, I'm looking for live music and amazing food. [more inside]
    posted by the bricabrac man at 11:22 AM PST - 6 comments

    What happens at HIV+ diagnosis where there's no link to a case manager?

    For a project at work, I'd like to know more about what happens at HIV+ diagnosis in settings where the patient isn't connected with a case manager (or peer navigator, linkage coordinator, or similar). E.g., at ER's, public health clinics, and any other diagnosis settings where connection to a case manager or similar isn't routine, what happens? Can you fill me in, or suggest how I can find out? [more inside]
    posted by daisyace at 11:04 AM PST - 5 comments

    Really need help soothing my daughter's fears

    So someone told my six-year-old daughter that bad people take little kids and kill them. I wish I could say it's not true. It's just so unlikely. But kids don't understand probability. What can I say to put her mind at ease? She's been scared to be away from me (like, in another room even) for three weeks now and I just found out that this is what has been bothering her. [more inside]
    posted by kitcat at 10:57 AM PST - 26 comments

    What kind of esoteric hobby should my character have?

    I'm writing a short story and I'm looking for a detailed, intense hobby my Type A/introverted character can engage in. Something like building ships in a bottle or detailed miniatures but less obvious. Any ideas?
    posted by heavenknows at 10:52 AM PST - 44 comments

    Need new options for home phone system

    We are doing some remodeling and my wife is not happy with the old wall mounted phone we have in the kitchen. Since we have Xfinity Voice, I bet there are some options out there I'm not thinking of. [more inside]
    posted by Rad_Boy at 10:42 AM PST - 2 comments

    Time tracking for a multitasker

    I'm having trouble tracking where my day is going. I've had a lot of success with pomodoro on the days when my schedule is well defined, however other days time just seems to disappear. I know I'm working and doing productive things, I just want a better record of it. Start/stop timer based approach doesn't work for me. What are some other things I could try? [more inside]
    posted by aeighty at 10:23 AM PST - 11 comments

    How to refinance a mortgage?

    I am 8 years into a 30 yr mortgage, with a fixed rate that is about 1.25 to 1.75 points above where rates are now, so it seems like a good time to investigate refinancing. What are the problems and issues I need to watch out for? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 10:22 AM PST - 14 comments

    Love your music, hate your name

    How do you go about finding more information on music acts whose names are difficult to google? [more inside]
    posted by obtuser at 9:23 AM PST - 9 comments

    Tegan and Sara riff for fingerstyle/solo ukulele

    I have to learn "U Turn" by Tegan and Sara for a video shoot on Monday. I'm playing it in G from these chords, and I've tried everything that I thought would work for transcribing the riff, including isolating the tonic and playing up or down to it and putting the guitar riff through the converter on Ukulele Tabs and trying to play that (which wouldn't have worked because I'm playing it in a different key). This seems like it should be really simple and straightforward, but it is not. Can anyone help me?
    posted by pxe2000 at 8:59 AM PST - 2 comments

    Study/writing retreats in Europe

    I am looking for places anywhere in Europe where I can spend 1-8 weeks at a time to work long, consecutive, undisturbed and isolated days writing my thesis. They should be accessible by public transport and within reasonable reach from an international airport. Ideally the places would be in idyllic nature settings, with the possibility of long, picturesque walks, and most importantly contain a bright, clean study space within the apartment/flat/house/room or an inviting, quiet and small library in the near vicinity. I am on a student budget so I'm thinking no more than €300/pw. I am thinking there must be somewhere that fits the bill in 'overlooked' countries like Slovenia, Hungary, or Portugal where my money would go further than obvious choices like Switzerland or Norway. Any suggestions for this odd, particular request? Just to clarify, I am looking for specific places rather than countries/regions.
    posted by nagoya at 8:39 AM PST - 12 comments

    Name my blog: Personal Finance and Sustainability

    Need help coming up with a new for a blog! The focus will be on sustainability/green living, personal finance, paying off debt, and science related topics. [more inside]
    posted by snowysoul at 8:10 AM PST - 8 comments

    Earbud cables: Insulating plastic coming off

    Hi. I want to know if this is dangerous, how, and what alternatives there are. [more inside]
    posted by noelpratt2nd at 8:07 AM PST - 16 comments

    Game-ify my health

    I am looking for a health/fitness app to use to encourage some needed lifestyle changes. I want it to be fun, set challenges, track food, and be competitive among a small group of friends. [more inside]
    posted by FirstMateKate at 7:24 AM PST - 2 comments

    I need more room!

    I deleted a couple of years' worth of emails from iCloud to free up space but my iPhone reports that Mail is still eating up 2.8GB. How can I claim those iCloud gigabytes back for myself? [more inside]
    posted by popcassady at 6:14 AM PST - 9 comments

    Help me plan my next solo vacation!

    I just got back from a five day trip to Washington DC and I had such a good time there! Please help me decide where to go on my next solo vacation! [more inside]
    posted by bookmammal at 3:14 AM PST - 27 comments

    Pub I can eat/watch the Sunday debate in Westbrook,Portland Maine?

    I'm going to Westbrook/Portland, Maine for work and arriving on Sunday. I'm staying near the airport. Any suggestions for a place where I can eat which will have the debate on? [more inside]
    posted by Spumante at 2:28 AM PST - 4 comments

    October 6

    Note-taking setup

    I need to be able to efficiently take notes digitally that involve both figures (think simple geometric drawings) and typeset equations interspersed and interwoven together. What's the best setup for this? [more inside]
    posted by dragonfruit at 11:58 PM PST - 12 comments

    Help Me Find Better Fantasy Novels

    I love the fantasy genre, but I am super picky, and lately I can't find anything to read. I'll be very obliged for your help. More info after the jump. [more inside]
    posted by WalkerWestridge at 9:16 PM PST - 51 comments

    How do I find confidence in identity?

    This is a super deep question about identity and self-esteem and social anxiety but it's something that I can't stop thinking or understanding lately and I feel like the answer is what I need to achieve some sort of happiness or stability in my life. [more inside]
    posted by oracleia at 8:41 PM PST - 16 comments

    math/geometry/construction query!

    Suppose you have to install new moulding in a house. Suppose also that it's a huge house with many rooms large and small, and many windows of different size. This means that you end up needing many different lengths of wood... [more inside]
    posted by Rich Smorgasbord at 7:59 PM PST - 14 comments

    Aviation- and Space-nerd books please (fiction need not apply)

    Looking for awesome non-fiction recommendations for somebody who loves books about non-military planes and spaceflight . [more inside]
    posted by cholly at 7:42 PM PST - 21 comments

    How the hell do I find a job?

    Female, 23, English major who's (almost) always worked exclusively in childcare. I need to leave childcare and get a sort of real job and move out of my damn parents' house and start my life. But I can't find a job. [more inside]
    posted by Amy93 at 7:03 PM PST - 17 comments

    I feel like I'm getting nowhere on this treadmill issue!

    Please recommend a treadmill! We want to get one for our basement space. Durable and non-flimsy-feeling is our first-priority. This is more important than features. We understand that they're expensive and are preparing to accept that. Other requirement: It has to work with a regular domestic 120V power outlet, not a commercial one.
    posted by ignignokt at 6:48 PM PST - 22 comments

    Dedupe and Merge Crufty Contacts for Mac/iPad

    I've delayed tidying my 400-record Address Book/Contacts info way too long. I sync my Contacts between Mac 10.11.6 and iOS 10.0.2 using iCloud. Because my contacts are very private info, I don't want to use an online service like Scrubly. [more inside]
    posted by Jesse the K at 6:43 PM PST - 0 comments

    Sharpies on a DVD collection?

    Problem: several thousand DVDs in storage boxes and limited room in the movie bookcase. Solution: Vaultz CD wallets, which I've used for my music collection for many years with good results. New problem: how to transfer data onto the DVD discs before sending the original plastic holders into the attic for storage? [more inside]
    posted by TrishaU at 6:35 PM PST - 8 comments

    Is it safe?

    Is it safe to update my iPhone to ios10 ? It keeps bugging me. I have a 6s plus.
    posted by banshee at 6:02 PM PST - 34 comments

    Am I out of my mind trying to automate this in R?

    I built a machine that (mostly) works, but I omitted an element from the spec. The machine's required logging works - it accurately shows what goes wrong, but a facility for inverting the logs to show errors is what I omitted. Therefore, I need a tool that will help me and others diagnose it when it fails, and the tool in my bag that has worked for me so far is R. Is this even the right bag from which to keep working? [more inside]
    posted by jet_silver at 5:39 PM PST - 4 comments

    health insurance question

    My husband lost his health insurance and I can't add him to mine. Can you give us any advice on how best to proceed? [more inside]
    posted by prefpara at 2:31 PM PST - 11 comments

    Glamify a road-warrior style wheeled bag

    I am the new (female) owner of this bag. Help me glamify it to downplay its inherent business aesthetic? [more inside]
    posted by thetarium at 2:26 PM PST - 14 comments

    Epson scanner driver needed but it's not installing properly

    I have an Epson 2480 flatbed scanner but have recently acquired a newish MacBookPro (mid-2012) running El Capitan and it doesn't work with it. My Brother printer needed a new driver, which installed properly and it works fine. I went to the Epson site and downloaded a driver it said I needed but it doesn't install properly. [more inside]
    posted by MovableBookLady at 2:19 PM PST - 5 comments

    Losing like a champ, who is in fact actually losing

    Hi, I just switched fields / areas of study and I'm getting used to not getting by on my fancy words and good looks anymore. Please help me not hate myself? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 2:17 PM PST - 18 comments

    Natural hair dye

    Looking for a hair dye made up of the least amount of chemicals [more inside]
    posted by metajim at 2:10 PM PST - 11 comments

    fall foliage in Puget Sound

    Where is the best fall foliage in the Puget Sound area?
    posted by the man of twists and turns at 2:05 PM PST - 7 comments

    Find a short story from maybe the 70s?

    This story scared the bejesus out of me as a kid and I'd love to read it again. It concerns a haunted house, with two people, a man and a woman (I seem to recall that they are journalists) spending the night to see why (something something -- maybe why no one comes out alive?). [more inside]
    posted by janey47 at 2:04 PM PST - 2 comments

    Can a crankshaft break?

    I think my mechanic is full of crap and I need a new one. Took my car in for an oil leak, after telling me I needed to pay 550 for a new seal, they're telling me crankshaft is 'broken' and it may be cheaper to get a new engine. [more inside]
    posted by motioncityshakespeare at 1:52 PM PST - 16 comments

    An old tiger and a new printer

    Google-able information about this problem appears to be fragmented and riddled with wise-guyage and pop-ups, so here I am: Which new-to-be-bought printer would work seamlessly with OS X 10.4 Tiger? Emphasis on "seamless" because [more inside]
    posted by Namlit at 12:33 PM PST - 7 comments

    Best way to combine overlapping video clips?

    I'm trying to find a good way to combine multiple video clips that overlap (shared frames between the videos)-- ideally something can be run on Windows, but I'm interested in good solutions on toher platforms, as well. This is for H.264 Quicktime MOV files (1080p 12-15fps) that are captured as the live part of iPhone Live Photos. [more inside]
    posted by cosmonaught at 12:30 PM PST - 6 comments

    News & review site for coffee

    I'm looking for a good online resource to stay up to date with the goings-on in the fancy coffee world so I can be a better informed and conscious online consumer of roasted beans. [more inside]
    posted by shaqlvaney at 12:00 PM PST - 3 comments

    Rain and gloom on your wedding day?

    While I am glad we won't get Hurricane Matthew, it's expected to rain and be gloomy on my wedding day. I am devastated. Recommendations for making it more enjoyable? [more inside]
    posted by inevitability at 11:12 AM PST - 32 comments

    George Costanza Serenades Oprah

    Googling has left me hanging, but perhaps somebody will have better luck. I'm trying to find a video of the fantastically awkward segment on Oprah's show where actor Jason Alexander sings a song for/to Oprah. This would've been over ten years ago, probably more. thank you in advance!
    posted by jimmereeno at 10:38 AM PST - 2 comments

    Khonshu guide me... to some comic books

    I take my second grader to the comic shop twice a month for Adventure Time, Moon Girl & Devil Dinosaur, etc. I've got an itch to get some stuff for myself, but it's been years since I was much of a regular comic reader. What ongoing titles are worth a shot? [more inside]
    posted by DirtyOldTown at 10:29 AM PST - 15 comments

    Firewall, Virus Protection, & Kid Protection Software for Home Devices?

    I am what passes for the IT person for my household. I am not qualified. We have a couple home PCs (windows 7 & 8), a couple iPads, and some Kindle Fires. At the moment, I have no up-to-date anti-virus software, no programs to keep my kids from looking at inappropriate stuff, and no firewall software. What should I have installed on the PCs? Are their apps I should have on the devices? Are there other things I should be doing? [more inside]
    posted by Alluring Mouthbreather at 10:24 AM PST - 8 comments

    Cold weather running gear for active teen

    My nephew is turning 15 this week and he has been really into running and training with his school track team. I want to get him some gear to help him keep up the habit into colder weather and beyond! I'm considering a fitbit but I think he would require a wrist version and my budget is closer to $50-60 rather than $100-150. [more inside]
    posted by deadcrow at 10:18 AM PST - 14 comments

    If you wanna be somebody else, change your mind?

    How do I cope with a change in my mindset about my relationship? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 10:01 AM PST - 16 comments

    Where near San Francisco should I drive my tesla for a day?

    I have a tesla for a day near San Francisco and would like to have a fun pretty drive. Thinking of driving to napa or Sonoma. Which one? Any specific routes? Or suggestions on places to stop for lunch or visit? Have car from 8am-7pm and about 200 miles.
    posted by UMDirector at 9:54 AM PST - 17 comments

    Let's talk about my butt.

    I need a new bike seat, and there are a bewildering array of options. Can you help narrow them down for me? [more inside]
    posted by pdb at 9:05 AM PST - 19 comments

    Give me more upbeat, dancey music!

    I find that lately, maybe because 2016 is so depressing, I really love listening to happy danceable music. Foster the People is pretty much 100% awesome, especially Helena Beat. Other things like what I'm looking for: Beck -- Dreams and Coldplay -- Adventure of a Lifetime. What else should I be listening to?
    posted by rabbitrabbit at 8:56 AM PST - 18 comments

    Can my employer access sensitive information if they pay my phone bill?

    I work for a company that has offered to pay my cell phone bill. I'd like to take them up on it and consolidate my two phones since I'm currently carrying a work and personal phone everywhere. But is it too good to be true?? [more inside]
    posted by sparringnarwhal at 7:19 AM PST - 19 comments

    Help with songwriting credits

    What's the pithiest, yet still accurate, way to say what we mean in terms of songwriting credits for this album: [more inside]
    posted by dirtdirt at 6:45 AM PST - 10 comments

    Name my blog: Plus size + sewing + fashion

    Help me name my blog! Broad strokes are that it is going to be about sewing your own clothes, plus size fashion, and stuff like that. Extra details within. [more inside]
    posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 5:20 AM PST - 48 comments

    Help me find graphic novels in a language I can't read.

    I'm doing a project for which I need graphic novels / comics / graphic stories which use typography in interesting ways. The catch is, I really need them to NOT be in english, and preferably be in their original language (i.e. not just translated). Do mefites have any good recommendations that I can get in the UK? Thanks.
    posted by stillnocturnal at 5:11 AM PST - 10 comments

    October 5

    No True English Teacher Would Ask This Sort of Question

    I've recently discovered that I'm supposed to be teaching logical fallacies and argumentation to a couple classes of second year high school returnee students. I'm looking for solid ideas or examples for use in teaching students how to recognize and avoid using fallacies. However, there've been some snags. [more inside]
    posted by Ghidorah at 11:14 PM PST - 15 comments

    Watch and read comedy one-acts

    I love David Ives' All In The Timing, and I'd really like to read more comedic plays like that. I'd also really like to watch them. Do you have suggestions for either, comedic writers to read, or things (preferably online) to watch? Maybe there are good YouTube channels, or equivalent? I am not particularly interested in solo comedic acts.
    posted by freyley at 9:52 PM PST - 3 comments

    How do I find primary citations/best info?

    In conversations on the internets, I would like to use facts and stuff. How best to find them? [more inside]
    posted by Vaike at 8:35 PM PST - 6 comments

    Best unlocked cheap phone available at Walmart?

    I'm traveling, and my phone is dead. What is the cheapest, best unlocked phone I can get tomorrow morning at a brick-and-mortar Walmart that will work with Consumer Cellular? [more inside]
    posted by susanvance at 8:31 PM PST - 9 comments

    Fun, flat, mail-able, multi-participant game / puzzle-like things?

    Imagine you want to send a flat envelope full of random things to a bunch of people. Bonus points if those random things encourage the recipients to interact with each other. What would you fill the envelopes with? [more inside]
    posted by adamkempa at 8:04 PM PST - 10 comments

    Is this a food allergy? If not, what is it?

    A few years ago, while I was writing about drinks, I started experiencing some … symptoms within an hour or so of getting home. As a courtesy I will describe them after the jump. [more inside]
    posted by fedward at 6:58 PM PST - 15 comments

    Preserved Lemons

    I bought some preserved lemons. Now what? [more inside]
    posted by lunasol at 6:23 PM PST - 21 comments

    Anime suggestions with Japanese subtitles?

    Looking for recommendations on good anime series in Japanese with Japanese subtitles. Any ideas where I might be able to find 'em? (More than happy to pay for the content)
    posted by sirion at 6:01 PM PST - 9 comments

    The Bruce Molsky of Irish concertina?

    I recently stumbled up on this Facebook video of a girl just crushing it on the concertina. I am a big fan of American fiddle music, and would like to find the equivalent of Bruce Molsky, but on the concertina in the Irish tradition. [more inside]
    posted by jamaal at 5:45 PM PST - 7 comments

    How to get an accepted offer on a house - California edition

    We are trying to buy a house, Southern California edition. We really like it! Our realtor believes it was priced to invite a multiple offer situation (it was listed yesterday and the listing comments state offers will be considered a week from now). We'd like to see if we could avoid getting into a bidding war. Can you help us? [more inside]
    posted by arnicae at 5:28 PM PST - 25 comments

    Applied Behavior Analysis (ABA) therapy

    I'm looking to better understand the theory and practice of ABA (Applied Behavior Analysis) with children (on the autism spectrum and otherwise) and would appreciate some book/article/forum recommendations to that effect. A few specifics inside. [more inside]
    posted by Eyebrows McGee at 5:03 PM PST - 6 comments

    Drumpf Picture Request

    Looking for a picture of His Drumpfness for a commercial project, obviously as inexpensive as possible, and the more objectionable his expression, the better. Any suggestions as to where to go?
    posted by ivanthenotsoterrible at 4:30 PM PST - 6 comments

    Stickers!!!!!! (Squee)

    Where (preferably online) can I buy the very best and most motivating stickers? [more inside]
    posted by chainsofreedom at 4:27 PM PST - 9 comments

    Paris, Avec Des Petits

    I am excited to be spending a couple of days sight-seeing in Paris in late October. I've never been before, I may never go again. How can I make the most of my visit - which will be accompanied by a four year old and an infant. I expect the bébé will spend most of her time eating or sleeping, but what memorable, Parisian activities can we take part in? [more inside]
    posted by maryr at 3:27 PM PST - 19 comments

    Engineering technician job with A.S in engineering science ?

    Can you get a job as an engineering technician with an A.S. in engineering science? I was studying mechanical engineering (towards a B.S. but I got my A.S. first then transferred and stayed for two semesters) and may pick it back up in the future but right now want to take a break from school and start working. [more inside]
    posted by SArcher at 3:25 PM PST - 5 comments

    Feel free to tell me to look at a map

    Asking for fiction: looking to recreate a Donner party situation in the 21st century after the collapse of society for reasons. Group is on the road trying to get across the Rockies from the East Coast to Portland, Oregon for reasons. There aren't motor vehicles for reasons. The roads are still there, though. So are the tunnels? I guess there are tunnels? What paths would a group of dystopia travelers take over the Rockies? Where might they run into trouble when the winter comes in? [more inside]
    posted by angrycat at 3:06 PM PST - 15 comments

    What Do We Call the Lawyers Who Defend Lawyers?

    What do we call the lawyers who defend other lawyers before the state Bar and how does one find them? (I'm currently going to go with "not through the state bar association.") [more inside]
    posted by DarlingBri at 1:43 PM PST - 11 comments

    Is a DJ still a necessity?

    I’m getting married in a week and a half. We expect about 130 guests in an indoor venue. Thus far, I’ve rented speakers that I’m told will be sufficient for ambient music and then a dance floor, and I’m planning on creating a Spotify playlist to play from my laptop during the dance. Am I doing this wrong? Should I panic and try to find a DJ at the last minute? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 1:42 PM PST - 27 comments

    Should I get contacts after wearing eyeglasses for 20 years?

    I've been wearing eyeglasses for the past 20 years or so, and I'm tired of them. However, I'm on the fence about getting contacts – any tips or thoughts would be appreciated. [more inside]
    posted by dubious_dude at 1:35 PM PST - 43 comments

    Where can I find trustworthy nutrition and diet information?

    I'm currently participating in the "Whole Life Challenge" which has me eating a paleo-ish diet for 2 months. I've been surprised by how quickly I've acclimated to it. It's gotten me interested in understanding more about nutrition. I'm particularly interested in actual facts regarding "paleo eating" and what nutritionists/doctors actually think of as a healthy diet these days. [more inside]
    posted by soplerfo at 1:21 PM PST - 13 comments

    Children’s Books with Characters Named Max

    Max, my two-year-old loves Where the Wild Things Are because the kid in the book is named Max, too. Please suggest other kids’ books with Maxes in ‘em.
    posted by thursdaystoo at 1:13 PM PST - 16 comments

    Darkness (and winter) is coming

    I hate coming home to a dark apartment. I would like to have a light on a timer that would switch on about ten minutes before I'm due home and would switch off later that night. The timers I've bought, however, have defeated me. [more inside]
    posted by gladly at 1:04 PM PST - 14 comments

    Anti-Trump articles, blogs, facts, etc. in Chinese?

    I need anti-Trump (or pro-Hillary) articles and facts to sway to send to my dad, a semi-retired physics professor and lifelong Democrat, who is planning to vote for Trump in this election. One caveat: they have to be in Chinese. [more inside]
    posted by the_wintry_mizzenmast at 12:56 PM PST - 3 comments

    Everything's more exciting with BRAAAAAAAAAM.

    I've found that Hans Zimmer's musical scores for the Christopher Nolan Batman films as well as (god help me) the Zack Snyder Superman films are absolutely perfect as music for me to work to -- a combination of urgent/propulsive and melodic that lets me focus and build a rhythm. What else might work for me along these lines?
    posted by eugenen at 12:41 PM PST - 14 comments

    How do you navigate interfaith practices as a couple?

    How do happily married interfaith couples (or those with one religious and one non-religious partner) make it work? What do your daily routines look like? And how do you maintain intimacy and avoid conflict around differing religious practices and beliefs? Looking for stories, anecdotes, books, articles, or other information about how interfaith couples navigate difference. [more inside]
    posted by carrioncomfort at 12:19 PM PST - 9 comments

    Outside of LA Day Trip

    I moved to Los Angeles recently and have been loving the landscape of California. Let me know your recommendations of places to drive and explore. [more inside]
    posted by senterstyle at 11:57 AM PST - 17 comments

    Is it possible to insure an iMac in checked baggage?

    Asking for a friend: My photographer/videographer buddy's going to Paris for a month, and would like to take along his 27" iMac to edit his work while he's there. Being as this whole business is too large for a carry-on, is there a way for him to insure his computer in checked baggage? [more inside]
    posted by lauranesson at 11:32 AM PST - 14 comments

    Object to track hours?

    A few weeks ago I came across a couple of different websites about objects with motion sensors inside them that sit on your desk. You could write the names of projects on various sides of the thinger. As you put hours into a project, you rotated the whatchamacallit so that the side corresponding to that project was upright, and the motion sensor kept track of the time that side was upright, so you'd basically have a toy that tracked project hours. I can't find the websites now. [more inside]
    posted by telophase at 11:10 AM PST - 3 comments

    high-quality, low-budget scanning in NYC?

    Where can I rent time on a large, high-quality scanner, in NYC? [more inside]
    posted by the_blizz at 9:52 AM PST - 3 comments

    How to not burn bridges turning down a rental apartment

    How do I turn down my bid for a rental apartment without burning bridges? [more inside]
    posted by proficiency101 at 9:51 AM PST - 11 comments

    How do I hang up these signs?

    I bought these two small signs in Japan and I'm not sure how to hang them up. Each one arrived with a small wooden peg but I am not sure what it is. Maybe a nail goes through the hole on the peg but I'm not getting it. Each sign has a small open ended string going through a hole at the top. And if I can slip in a bonus question, what is the english translation of each? [more inside]
    posted by solmyjuice at 8:50 AM PST - 6 comments

    great quoting or invoicing apps?

    I write quotes for clients on a daily basis, have about 30 products in 3 different colors, I need to produce a quick--hopefully visual quote (want to feature small thumbnails of the items on the quote) Most of my clients call in their orders on the phone---so it would be just producing a quote on my end that i can send them as a PDF. No one uses my web site to actually order items, just peruse them. Mac OS X here but would prefer web app is possible. Please let me know what works for you
    posted by caveatz at 7:55 AM PST - 3 comments

    Is hiking in Patagonia with approach shoes a bad idea?

    Is hiking in Patagonia with approach shoes a bad idea? [more inside]
    posted by helios410 at 6:09 AM PST - 6 comments

    Guitar to Mac to Amp (2016 Edition)

    What's the best way to plug my electric guitar into my Mac to record (I'm using GarageBand) and what's the best way to output from my Mac to an amp/PA (say if I'm using GarageBand's virtual effects to play live)? [more inside]
    posted by coffee and minarets at 6:00 AM PST - 11 comments

    What am I making a big ceremony out of and not even aware I'm doing it?

    So, in a discussion I observed that wrapping packages was a pedestrian task which the Japanese have elevated to a high art. Which immediately made me wonder, what sorts of things am I doing that I'm actually overdoing or that I culturally expect to be overwrought? That people from other places would peg me as as someone from the US or even the midwest because of what I pay extensive attention to. What about other places? What cultures think a job done right is worth overdoing?
    posted by Kid Charlemagne at 4:29 AM PST - 82 comments

    Did you ever have to choose between your relationship and a career?

    I recently graduated from the university and I'm currently looking for a job, but the career opportunities in my field are limited in the town where my boyfriend and I live now. How do I choose between staying with my boyfriend (and possibly regretting not moving to a bigger town where job offers are much better), or moving away and losing him? (F, 25) [more inside]
    posted by U.N.Owen at 3:37 AM PST - 66 comments

    Apples and Oranges?

    How can we label two changing rooms to sort of split users evenly without reference to gender or sex? More details after the jump. [more inside]
    posted by Promethea at 2:03 AM PST - 58 comments

    October 4

    Nifty items to get someone who has (temporarily) lost use of one arm?

    Mom had rotator cuff surgery and really needs to keep her arm immobilized and then even more so take it slow and easy during recovery. I'm far away and can send flowers or something, but a neat, fun, or especially practical gift item that would help her would be really nice. Suggest away! Have you had to deal with going one-handed for a while? What helped the most? Snowflakes (of course) inside. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 11:39 PM PST - 14 comments

    80s/90s "message" movies - how were they a thing?

    The late 80s/90s seemed to be a golden era for "message" movies. Not after school special but "let's explore a theme" type movies. Why is this? [more inside]
    posted by St. Peepsburg at 10:44 PM PST - 5 comments

    What am I supposed to do for work when my stress tolerance is so low?

    The stress at my new-ish job is getting to me and I dread going into work. I can't sleep some nights because of it. It should not be a difficult job, but it is made difficult by how poorly run the place is, and a couple of really dramatic coworkers. I'm looking for a new job, but I'm in school, currently still grieving the loss of my brother and cycling through moods rapid fire. Any ideas of low stress jobs I could search for? [more inside]
    posted by blackzinfandel at 10:30 PM PST - 9 comments

    Micromanaging isn't quite the word...

    My manager gets defensive when they come into contact with parts of my work they don't know how to replicate and acts as though I've caused A Problem. Help? [more inside]
    posted by blerghamot at 9:58 PM PST - 16 comments

    Movies with characters dressed up for halloween

    Can you think of any movies with characters that dress up for halloween? Thanks!
    posted by poorchanticleer at 8:21 PM PST - 33 comments

    Email closing lines

    I need new ideas for email closing lines. [more inside]
    posted by triggerfinger at 7:36 PM PST - 40 comments

    Planet of the Birds?

    I really want to read some fiction/watch some films that deal with avian aliens (or just hyperintelligent Earth birds) and their society. I've read about a lot of bug people and lizard people, so why not bird people? [more inside]
    posted by lemonadeheretic at 6:49 PM PST - 31 comments

    I didn't leave you, you left me!

    The daycare we've been using suddenly announced they were closing with 30 days warning. In our community, this is ridiculously little time to find a new place. Miraculously (and with connections), we found a place, but need to start next week to keep a spot. All good, no? But when we tell old daycare, they tell me that we're contractually obligated to pay them for 1 month after we announce we're leaving. YANML, TINLA but does this make any sense? [more inside]
    posted by papergirl at 6:33 PM PST - 18 comments

    Collarbone pain, lumps, bumps, and more - what could it all mean?

    I'm having a variety of symptoms and I'm hoping others who have experienced something similar could chime in. Currently working with my doctor to figure out what the deal is with my "enlarged" collarbone, pain below it, slightly swollen lymph node, fatigue, etc. [more inside]
    posted by theshmeek at 6:13 PM PST - 7 comments

    Your Uncommon Song

    So I love karaoke. I go to karaoke. I got my usual song choices. What might my not-so-common song choices be? [more inside]
    posted by zizzle at 4:26 PM PST - 35 comments

    This month's water bill is $650. I live in a studio apartment. Help?

    Hey guys, I am not sure how to handle this situation and could use some advice before I call the water company tomorrow (their office is closed now). So I live in a studio apartment in a large building. I've lived her for 2 years with no issues. My monthly water bill has always been less than $50. Nothing has changed in my water usage of the apartment, but I just got a bill for over $650 from the period of 8/14 through 9/13. This includes a $300 "sewer tax." It says I used 64,119 gallons of water! NOT possible. [more inside]
    posted by picardythird at 4:00 PM PST - 24 comments

    Where should we stay in Nashville?

    My wife and I are going to Nashville in December for a long needed getaway without children. We'll be there for 2-3 nights. We like walking neighborhoods, books, music, coffee, beer, good food, and spas/massage. What should we do while we're there? Where should we eat? And most importantly, where should we stay?
    posted by david1230 at 2:39 PM PST - 15 comments

    Mysterious SD card issue

    I had been using a Lexar Professional 32 GB SD HC card in my camera until one day it didn't work. I don't know the issue, perhaps it was ejected while writing. Anyway, I paid a smart computer tech to recover my pictures, which he did, except for the mystery (more inside)... [more inside]
    posted by weapons-grade pandemonium at 2:06 PM PST - 7 comments

    filling out a rental application while on EI

    How do I fill out the employer section of a rental application while on EI? [more inside]
    posted by human ecologist at 12:55 PM PST - 2 comments

    Ideas for marking a one-year anniversary of death

    I'm coming up on the one-year anniversary of my husband's death and am trying to figure out how to mark it without a grave or ashes and with my young daughter. [more inside]
    posted by otherwordlyglow at 12:35 PM PST - 34 comments

    In need of aerobics and cardio routines/videos

    I need to shake up my exercise routine with some new videos & am looking for suggestions. Details inside. [more inside]
    posted by atinna at 12:29 PM PST - 5 comments

    Recommended neckwear for a men's Victorian outfit

    I'll be attending a wedding with a Victorian era dress theme. I've got my tailcoat and waistcoat picked out, which you can take a look at here. Unlike in the photo I'll be wearing it with a white dress shirt underneath. I'm wondering what I should go for in an ascot/cravat/tie/whatever. I'm less concerned about 100% period accuracy than I am about something that looks interesting and/or good. If it affects the recommendation at all, I'm blond and fair skinned, and don't currently plan on wearing a hat. Any and all suggestions or ideas are welcome, thanks!
    posted by haveanicesummer at 12:22 PM PST - 8 comments

    Help me contain my cats

    BLUF: new house, shared with parents, cats confined to one side of house behind pocket door. Most adventurous (and strongest) of Gang of Four insists on prying open pocket door. Need suggestions for securing door. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
    posted by ereshkigal45 at 12:10 PM PST - 12 comments

    Japanese pantry staples?

    I'm looking to expand my home cooking horizons in the direction of Japan (not sushi, everything else). What are some long-lasting pantry staples I should be looking to acquire on my first trip to a local Asian supermarket? So far I'm planning on Mirin, Hon-Dashi and dark and light Miso. What other specialist ingredients like these should I aim to stock my cupboard with?
    posted by simonw at 11:45 AM PST - 30 comments

    Boardgames for a group of 10 year olds

    Looking for suggestions for board games for our 10 year old to play with her friends. Preferably something easy to pick up but with a fair degree of depth, and she's also interested in something with a bit of a fantasy roleplaying vibe - I'm thinking something like GW's Heroquest from back in the day might work, but nothing more complicated than that. Any suggestions?
    posted by Artw at 11:35 AM PST - 21 comments

    Scrum Master certification - worth it?

    Someone recently told me I should look into scrum master certification, and I can't for the life of me figure out if it's a good or horrendously bad idea. Advice welcome! [more inside]
    posted by good day merlock at 11:24 AM PST - 13 comments

    Female with "five-head" contemplating hair transplant

    I've been very self-conscious about my "five-head" since I was a little girl, when my own mother relentlessly criticized my appearance (I had no idea it was even a thing before that). Recently saw this article, and began contemplating how far hair transplant procedures have progressed in recent years as a viable solution for women. I'm looking for advice and thoughts from anyone who has been in a similar boat. More after the jump: [more inside]
    posted by petitemom at 11:15 AM PST - 28 comments

    ID this sound

    My wife is opening a new daycare in a building that was a daycare before it went out of business a couple of years ago. It's not open yet and she is there alone cleaning, organizing, etc. This sound (short phone video clip) happens 2 or 3 times a day. She said it seems to be coming from a closet with a lot of pipes in it. Any idea what this is? She isn't sure if she should be calling a plumber, the HVAC guy, or the fire suppression systems guy.
    posted by COD at 11:08 AM PST - 5 comments

    Creating new Facebook pages just to secure the URLs: good or bad idea?

    I'm the digital marketing manager at my multi-location office. Coworker at another location just made a new, high profile Facebook page for their location without checking with my office first. The cat is officially out of the bag. Do I now make placeholder pages for each of the other locations in order to claim the URLs for standardization's sake? Or would the greater web crime here be to create new Facebook pages that might ultimately remain empty? [more inside]
    posted by helloimjennsco at 10:53 AM PST - 9 comments

    Kleenex. Bandaid. Jello.

    Please help me brainstorm cases — in all fields and domains — where a brand name has become highly genericized, as with Kleenex for facial tissue. [more inside]
    posted by dame at 10:44 AM PST - 79 comments

    You kiss your mother with that racist mouth?

    At a family gathering, my brother made a casually racist joke to me about my partner, out of his earshot. How do I nip this in the bud? [more inside]
    posted by Sara C. at 10:40 AM PST - 22 comments

    Why is someone signing me up for loads of job websites?

    Several times over the last month my email has been used to sign up for many accounts on job sites like Monster, CareerBuilder and Dice Advisor. They use variants of my gmail address (e.g. krunk+1.234@gmail.com, krunk+12.34@gmail.com) to sign up about 20 times, and since the sites don't have email verification, I get bombarded by recruiter emails. Why? And what can I do about it? [more inside]
    posted by krunk at 10:37 AM PST - 8 comments

    Appropriate memorial tattoo or cultural appropriation?

    My kitty Ganesh passed away a few months ago and I'd like to memorialize him with a tattoo. As he was named after the Hindu god (as a kitten he was our little "destroyer of obstacles") I always assumed that I'd get a little Ganesh tattoo with maybe some kind of cat reference embedded in it. But I'm a white american atheist lady with no claim on Hindu culture. Could such a tattoo ever be appropriate on me, or is it just cultural appropriation and I should avoid it? [more inside]
    posted by cabingirl at 10:32 AM PST - 11 comments

    New Win10 laptop won’t connect to internet via wifi

    When I click on my wifi network name in the network popup window, it says “can’t connect to this network” or it lets me type in my password and then says “can’t connect to this network”. This is a new Acer Aspire laptop. [more inside]
    posted by TWinbrook8 at 10:26 AM PST - 3 comments

    Portland --> Sherwood Commute?

    I've just been offered a new job which is great on paper, but the commute has me concerned. Does any one have experience with the Portland to Sherwood, OR commute? [more inside]
    posted by Flamingo at 10:24 AM PST - 8 comments

    You were made as well as we could make you.

    So, I wear these shoes daily. They fit all my criterion: slip on, appropriate enough for a casual workplace, very comfortable, decent tread. Except that the tread doesn't last very long. [more inside]
    posted by selfnoise at 10:22 AM PST - 13 comments

    Best recent music videos

    I don't watch many music videos and know I'm missing out on a lot. I want to watch more. I'm not sure where to look first, though, so I'm asking for recommendations. Specifics inside. [more inside]
    posted by Kutsuwamushi at 10:20 AM PST - 9 comments

    Salt Water Short Story - Canadian Edition

    When I was taking CanLit in Grade 10, we read a short story that I really enjoyed and would love to re-read it. It was about a couple (on the prairies?) who needed a well drilled, and a shifty fellow tells them he can drill them a well. After lots of problems, the well finally produces... but only salt water. Can anyone help me find this story?
    posted by Dressed to Kill at 9:10 AM PST - 3 comments

    Comparing Credit card gift cards and pre loaded cards?

    Oh ye of money sense help me! I want to have a card that I can use for online services. I especially like the idea of a card that has a set amount of money that I can use. My primary use would be for Uber or Lyft. [more inside]
    posted by Librarygeek at 8:55 AM PST - 8 comments

    Help my rational mind prevail.

    I (26F) have just started seeing a guy (27M). I like to think of myself as an analytical, rational person, but ever since our first date I have been basically unable to properly eat, sleep, or focus on anything. Help me avoid getting swept up by my elevated dopamine and lowered serotonin levels! [more inside]
    posted by schroedingersgirl at 8:31 AM PST - 11 comments

    What do cats want... in water?

    I realize this isn't the most profound pet-care question, but it drives me crazy. I've got 2 healthy indoor/outdoor cats and I can't figure out how to best serve their water needs. Sometimes they appear to strongly prefer fresh water and so I change it 3 times a day; other times they ignore the fresh and drink from a bowl that's been sitting out for a week. Are cats just weird?
    posted by Jon44 at 8:23 AM PST - 24 comments

    What's your fav productivity app?

    I am looking for an app similar to "Way of Life" for Android. What apps do you use to build habits? Thanks!
    posted by rageagainsttherobots at 7:26 AM PST - 7 comments

    In search of a good web host and domain registrar

    Please recommend a good web host and/or domain registrar. Details inside- [more inside]
    posted by jammy at 7:18 AM PST - 21 comments

    messages from the divine

    Many Christians experience some kind of communication in response to prayer -- ranging from a general sense of guidance or comfort to specific messages to visions, dreams, and prophecies. In Jewish communities of all kinds, how common are similar experiences of communication or guidance, and how are they talked about and interpreted? [more inside]
    posted by vogon_poet at 5:46 AM PST - 12 comments

    Buying a digital piano -brand new Yamaha YDP-143 vs used Yamaha CLP-120?

    Hello piano aficionados! I would love to get some advice regarding buying a piano. Just so you know, I am based out of India, am a complete beginner and have just had two piano lessons so far. My piano teacher has suggested the Yamaha YDP-143, which costs about 82,000 Indian Rupees (or 1233 USD). This is a bit on the higher side for me, given that I am absolutely new to this, have a full time job and am just exploring the opportunity of learning the piano and developing this as a hobby for the long term. [more inside]
    posted by synapse2512 at 5:05 AM PST - 9 comments

    Be more chill?

    I am a very anxious and inflexible traveler w some phobias...help? [more inside]
    posted by bookworm4125 at 12:54 AM PST - 32 comments

    Putting the brakes on a one-sided friendship

    I have an acquaintance from high school who I’ve interacted with in group settings for several years. Recently, she has decided that she wants to hang out with me, one on one, more frequently than I am comfortable with. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 12:17 AM PST - 5 comments

    Electronic payments between accounts at different banks

    Chase says it should work but Wells Fargo says no go. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 12:17 AM PST - 3 comments

    Money Etiquette, with a twist

    I have an entirely inappropriate strong crush even though I'm a married parent, but that's not really what this question is about. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 12:16 AM PST - 19 comments

    October 3

    Floating in relationship limbo

    Do we try to take a break, even though we live together? We get along so well as friends, and spend time together, but he's basically stopped being affectionate and said he's not sure if he loves me romantically anymore? How do we move forward? [more inside]
    posted by LonelyOnes at 10:51 PM PST - 9 comments

    Can you recommend a winter jacket for use in Wisconsin winter?

    I come from California and this year will be the first winter I have to deal with in Wisconsin. I did live in Baltimore a while back, but I expect this winter to be somewhat more severe. I'm looking to purchase a warmer and better fitting jacket for this winter. While I won't be doing intense skiing/hiking outdoors, I will be walking around for 30-45min, mainly to get to work and just check out the snowy weather. More details... [more inside]
    posted by eliluong at 8:40 PM PST - 29 comments

    User old user data on new Windows install?

    So, hard drive trouble, had to reinstall Windows 7. Fortunately, I had my user data on the other drive, (which is Raid 1) so it's safe. Now, how do I convince Windows to use that user data?
    posted by RobotHero at 8:14 PM PST - 7 comments

    Prescription for nursing student: information BID per headphones

    Can you recommend accurate, technical, and entertaining (audio) sources of medical/ physiology/ pathophysiology/ pathology knowledge? [more inside]
    posted by snorkmaiden at 6:34 PM PST - 3 comments

    Spring has sprung: we need a new couch!

    What do I need to know to purchase a good quality couch? [more inside]
    posted by rglass at 5:26 PM PST - 6 comments

    Should I make borscht, borshch, borsht, bortsch, or borsch?

    I'm prepared to make borscht, I have ingredients, tools, desire, and an overabundance of options. Help me pick the best one. [more inside]
    posted by Grandysaur at 5:06 PM PST - 10 comments

    Square or equivalent for Canadians in the US

    How a small Canadian vendor can accept US/International credit cards while traveling abroad? [more inside]
    posted by TheGoodBlood at 4:10 PM PST - 4 comments

    State prosecuting attorney job review

    How does a job review for a state employed prosecuting attorney employee work? [more inside]
    posted by lstanley at 3:05 PM PST - 10 comments

    Help me with vegan meal prep ideas

    My partner and I jointly try to bring lunches from home throughout the week. I used to do this solo with less problems, but the combination of vegan-only and the amount of food required for two people instead of one is bogging us down. Also, many of our go-tos are soups, and it's hot here which discourages that. Halp? [more inside]
    posted by Paper rabies at 3:03 PM PST - 24 comments

    Best/loudest bike horn

    Several days a week I commute by bicycle around East Oakland, a neighborhood with limited bike infrastructure and a lot of unsafe driving, speeding, and using bike lanes as car lanes. I've had a number of near misses lately. I would like to purchase a loud horn. What bike horn have you used and liked? [more inside]
    posted by latkes at 2:57 PM PST - 13 comments

    How to collect on Stopped Payment Cheque

    I work for a doctor's office and we received a cheque for a large amount of money. After agreed-upon services were fulfilled, the person stopped payment on it. Medical insurance is not involved/not used. The person resides several states away. How can I legally collect payment on this?
    posted by Kombucha3452 at 2:04 PM PST - 10 comments

    What's the rationale for making voting information public?

    Your voter registration details (party, name, address) and voting record (how you were registered, where you voted, and the fact that you voted, but not your selections) are public record. What is the rationale for that? Why did anyone think that the safety and privacy drawbacks were worth it? (It doesn't seem like it to me, but maybe there's a good reason?) Is there some record of the deliberations from when this was decided?
    posted by blnkfrnk at 1:43 PM PST - 11 comments

    Liability for car broken into while in garage.

    My car was broken into sometime last evening or night while it was parked in our gated apartment complex garage. Is my apartment company at all liable for this? [more inside]
    posted by Everydayville at 1:35 PM PST - 8 comments

    How can I deal with problematic family while being a good ally?

    As has been noted in many places, including in a recent comment I made on the Blue, this idea of cutting problematic family members loose is weighing heavily on my mind. [more inside]
    posted by witchen at 1:22 PM PST - 48 comments

    Best way to prepare images for commercial printing using Lightroom

    I have been an avid photography hobbyist for about 8 years now. I use Lightroom for processing and management, and I love it. Thus far, I have only displayed my pictures on screens. I'm looking to print some for decorating my home and to assemble a physical portfolio. What's the best Lightroom method for preparing images for print? [more inside]
    posted by bluejayway at 1:19 PM PST - 4 comments

    How should I best support my students?

    I arrived at school this morning only to receive the news that no teacher ever wants to hear. One of my kind, sweet, thoughtful students committed suicide over the weekend. [more inside]
    posted by WaspEnterprises at 1:14 PM PST - 13 comments

    Please help us with some cool elementary school science fair projects!

    I have 2 girls in 5th grade and 1 son in 3rd. We'd like to get an early start on the projects for time management reasons, and would love your suggestions for great science fair projects for them - interests and past projects inside. [more inside]
    posted by widdershins at 1:01 PM PST - 13 comments

    "Was there a murder or wasn't there?" "Yes! Killed good weekend."

    I'm looking for ensemble horror/mystery comedies set in sprawling mansions. Examples within. [more inside]
    posted by usonian at 12:59 PM PST - 17 comments

    How to learn computer programming for the absolute beginner?

    I have no prior experience with computer programming, but would love to how. [more inside]
    posted by RearWindow at 12:49 PM PST - 14 comments

    Simulating 80s wallpaper for my Stranger Things Halloween theme?

    So, I'm attempting a "Stranger Things" Halloween porch decor theme this year, and one aspect of this will be a reproduction (or as close to one as I can get on a budget) of the Byers' living room, specifically the whole couch/wall-o-lights thing. And the one aspect of this that is stumping me a little is how to simulate that extremely period-appropriate brownish(?) wallpaper behind the couch, as seen here. How might I achieve this? [more inside]
    posted by aecorwin at 12:03 PM PST - 12 comments

    My eyes! Tiny font, Dell Latitude laptop edition

    My new work laptop is smaller than any I've ever had. I love how light it is, but hate how small the font is for most applications - particularly Outlook. My Google-Fu is failing me. How do I increase the font size? [more inside]
    posted by walkinginsunshine at 11:58 AM PST - 8 comments

    How to maintain easy rollback options after upgrading to macOS Sierra

    I'd like to try upgrading my Mac from OS X Yosemite to macOS Sierra. But in case I'm not happy with the upgrade, I'd like to be able to roll it back as painlessly as possible. What steps should I take to make sure I can do so if need be? Thanks!
    posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 11:39 AM PST - 9 comments

    Lucid dreaming: how to switch from awareness to control

    I have been able to lucid dream for all of my adult life; however, I get 'stuck' at awareness. I know it's a dream, I can generally redirect stressful or scary situations, but I can never seem to take full control - any suggestions? [more inside]
    posted by AFII at 11:33 AM PST - 7 comments

    Mother and her terrifying driving

    To put it bluntly my mother's driving is terrifying and sometimes dangerous. To put in context she is 70 next year and its getting worse. She speeds, drives too close to other cars, lacks concentration and acts as though she owns the road. How can my sister and I tell her things need to change and she either needs a refresher driving course or to not drive at all? We have tried telling her that her driving is scary. (Snowflakes follow) [more inside]
    posted by Mrs T at 11:18 AM PST - 21 comments

    Breast Binder for 40H/I sizing

    After trying Underworks and GC2B, my partner has not had much success with a binder that actually works with their bust size (40H, but realistically more 40I). What are some other binder resources/retailers we could give a try?
    posted by donquixote at 10:40 AM PST - 2 comments

    Background check taking a long time

    Is there anything that could make a person’s background check consistently take longer than normal to return results to potential employers? This has happened to a friend of mine on more than one occasion. [more inside]
    posted by Serene Empress Dork at 10:40 AM PST - 9 comments

    Nothing Compares to U... and your coat

    Where can I find a coat just like the one Sinead O'Conner wore in the Nothing Compares to U video? Extra Hard Level: Plus size 14/16. [more inside]
    posted by crayon at 9:50 AM PST - 6 comments

    What are good documentaries to watch with my kids?

    I watched Reel Injun with my kids and we loved it. We also liked the new Cosmos. One of us loved the Katy Perry biopic. What are other recent documentaries we might enjoy? [more inside]
    posted by The corpse in the library at 9:46 AM PST - 18 comments

    How far does "IT" extend?

    Make me seem less dumb. Do these fall under the designation of IT? [more inside]
    posted by LonnieK at 9:35 AM PST - 19 comments

    Today in first-world dog problems...

    My sweet old dog is obsessed with sleeping under blankets- it keeps her happy and calm, which in turn is nice for me. However, she loses the blanket when she gets up to change position, and she's so tall that she can't get herself back under without me lifting up a corner for her. Is there some sort of contraption I can make/buy or something I can train her to do that will help her get herself back under a blanket without my intervention? [more inside]
    posted by quiet coyote at 9:27 AM PST - 21 comments

    Nova Scotia/Halifax/Prince Edward Island Visit: WINTER EDITION

    My boyfriend and I are visiting Nova Scotia/Halifax/Prince Edward Island from December 26-December and are looking for winter-specific ideas of things to do and places to see. [more inside]
    posted by knownassociate at 8:47 AM PST - 6 comments

    Help me find this New Yorker short story

    Short story about a male high school teacher who has a crush on his wild student. Help! [more inside]
    posted by toomuchkatherine at 8:44 AM PST - 5 comments

    What was this forum-hosting website?

    I remember a forum website from the early-mid oughts (though its origins may have been earlier), and I'm looking for the name and/or for others who also remember it. It was characterized by a (CSS-based?) skinning system that members of the community were very proficient with. It was largely used for forum-based roleplay, at least the parts I frequented-- the usual Harry Potter and X-Men and fantasy stuff, but there also seemed to be a large contingent of people who liked to roleplay as wolves. [more inside]
    posted by 4th number at 7:58 AM PST - 6 comments

    How do I relax and be myself in a new relationship?

    I mean the type of anxiety when you first spend prolonged time together and you just let things flow. I am constantly running out of things to say and having awkward moments. This has happened with pretty much everyone I ever dated, so I know I am the problem. [more inside]
    posted by sockiety at 6:31 AM PST - 12 comments

    What personality type is this?

    A person very close to me exhibits these personality behaviors listed below. Is there a name for this kind of character; and, how do I learn to navigate this persona? [more inside]
    posted by Jason and Laszlo at 6:01 AM PST - 39 comments

    Seeking short term solutions to second hand smoke from 24hr chain smoker

    My new neighbors are chain smokers who smoke right outside my bedroom windows. The weather in our neighborhood has been especially nice lately, so they're out on their patio more often to smoke multiple cigarettes over an hour. The second hand smoke is really affecting me now. I have a super important interview on Tuesday. What can I do to reduce the earache, cough, and dry eyes caused by the smoke? [more inside]
    posted by Hermione Granger at 4:25 AM PST - 14 comments

    Did I lose my chance to help?

    What can I do to help someone with past substance abuse issues that may be using again? [more inside]
    posted by Zeratul at 3:01 AM PST - 12 comments

    Surviving a family holiday with pregnant SIL after a miscarriage.

    So this was me a month ago, but sadly my story doesn't have a happy ending. I got pregnant but miscarried shortly after. I'll soon-ish be spending a week on a family holiday with my pregnant sister-in-law and honestly don't know how I'll cope. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 12:55 AM PST - 19 comments

    How do I stop being harassed by phone by a male acquaintance?

    Someone with whom I have only a passing acquaintance is harassing me by phone (many more details inside). What is the best way to proceed with de-escalating this situation now? What should I have done differently in this situation? How in the future can I avoid getting in a similar situation? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 12:50 AM PST - 25 comments

    How to save info about photos on a mac

    I'm a graduate student and the research project I am working on requires me to analyze articles and pictures from old newspapers. I took photos of what I needed, and then saved the info about each one (date, author, title, page number, etc) in iPhoto. Sadly, when iPhoto "updated" to the newer version, this data was lost. I am looking for a more reliable way to store this data alongside the photos. Right now I just have it written in notebooks the old fashioned way - there has to be a better option. I want to attach the info directly to the photo so that if I switch computers or applications, it will still be in the file for good. I hope this makes sense, I am not great with technology.
    posted by CancerSucks at 12:07 AM PST - 6 comments

    October 2

    Best time for phone banking on the weekends?

    I'm helping organize a phone banking effort from Hawaii for a ballot initiative in Washington state (3 hours ahead). From my googling, It seems the consensus is to phone bank 2-5pm Hawaii time (5-8 PST), Mon-Thurs. Since that's pretty inconvenient for most people's work schedules, we're considering holding these on the weekends. If we're to phone bank on the weekends, does anyone know if different hours would be more optimal than 5-8 PST? [more inside]
    posted by defmute at 10:46 PM PST - 5 comments

    Help me break up!

    The last year, I've been living with with a difficult man whom I love dearly. He is much older than me and we have a large number of areas of emotional difficulty. I've given it a chance for a year because of my love for him and understanding and respect for what he is given all the trauma he's gone though. But I realise this is more emotionally stressful than I can handle, and besides, it is quite likely I will want children while he doesn't, so it's time to split up. NOW is the time because he's abroad for two months and I have time to process the decision and move out of our home as (or before) he returns. I need break-up advice! [more inside]
    posted by miaow at 10:38 PM PST - 11 comments

    Dealing with minorly obsessive behaviour WRT video games

    How can I encourage my son to develop self-control with regards video games? [more inside]
    posted by wilful at 10:36 PM PST - 17 comments

    Finding the courage to change career path

    Been thinking about changing career path for a while. I tend to analyze (and overanalyze) every major decision before taking any action. Fear of poverty and disappointing others have held me back. What should I know about prospective careers that a job ad wouldn't necessarily tell me? [more inside]
    posted by oink at 9:27 PM PST - 4 comments

    I found a cat, now what

    My neighbor down the hall knocked on my door and told me my cat had gotten out into the stairway. I verified that both mine were inside, so it's a different cat. We live in a 9 unit building and only one person answered their door. It's possible it snuck in behind someone So I am keeping it overnight & taking it to the humane society for chip scanning tomorrow. Is that the right thing to do? [more inside]
    posted by AFABulous at 9:12 PM PST - 24 comments

    I like chalky, foul-tasting horse pills as much as the next person . . .

    i.e., not very much! I've been taking Mucinex DM Maximum Strength (Caugh Supressant / Expectorant) from time to time, and they work, but those pills are heinous pills! Can anybody recommend another brand that's easier to swallow?
    posted by bluesky78987 at 8:41 PM PST - 10 comments

    Short-term overnight parking near Central Square, Cambridge, MA?

    I'm driving to visit some friends in Cambridge, MA next weekend, near Central Square. I'll need somewhere to park my car while I'm there (3 nights). How hard is it to find parking for a few days within, say, a 30-minute walk from Central Square? [more inside]
    posted by mekily at 8:31 PM PST - 8 comments

    How to deal with gun-loving dad as a liberal daughter who hates guns?

    My staunch Republican father is even more right-wing and also suddenly into gun ownership in the midst of Trump madness leading up to the elections. I'm in my 30s, liberal, and always have been. I hate guns and violence. He knows this. I text and call him only rarely, but when I do he now manages to pop a note about the gun he bought, how much fun he had with friends shooting at a range over the weekend, etc... into every conversation. I almost think he does it because he thinks it's "funny" to get under my skin. Guns are more than just politics, though. They scare me. When he first told me he got a gun, I emailed him about my fears and linked him to an article about gun accident statistics. Of course, he had a rebuttal for it all and says he's very safe with it, all of that. So far my tactic has been to stay silent if it's in a text (I just don't reply) or I'll say "OK" and move the conversation along to something else if it's over the phone. But the whole thing is tiresome. How do I get this all to stop? How do I respond to him when he tells me about his shooting range plans? [more inside]
    posted by figgy at 7:35 PM PST - 28 comments

    Romantic luxury vacation for two

    Recommend somewhere warm and beautiful in the Caribbean, adults only, 4-5 star, all inclusive. Prefer something off the beaten path/lesser known. [more inside]
    posted by yawper at 7:19 PM PST - 5 comments

    Can someone help me find this work-related meme/comic?

    Recently I saw a multi-panel meme/comic on the internet that used an image similar to this. If I recall correctly, the color scheme was white and blue, and it was a variation on the whole "work tip: get up, stretch, take a walk, keep going" joke. Can anyone help me find it? I've been searching for it for a long time today, and it's like looking for a needle in a haystack.
    posted by millions at 3:14 PM PST - 9 comments

    Help me feed my scifi habit

    I've been a fan of classic science fiction since I was a little kid - think stuff from the 30s-70s. I haven't had as much luck with 21st century stuff, but I just read Embassytown by China Miéville, and loved it. What other more recent novels might I enjoy? More about my preferences inside. [more inside]
    posted by Cygnet at 2:54 PM PST - 39 comments

    Vancouver over Thanksgiving?

    Thanks to overzealous use of Google Flights, I'm going to Vancouver next week. Which is great, but I'll be there over Thanksgiving. Will there be anything to do or anything open over the holiday? I especially need ideas that are inside in case of bad weather. (My current plans are 1. go to Vancouver Island overnight 2. eat ALL the sushi 3. whale watch 4.walk/bike around aimlessly)
    posted by genmonster at 1:54 PM PST - 16 comments

    Metal Roof vs. Shingle Roof

    My roof has been leaking and now the verdict is in: it's time for a whole new roof on my somewhat hodgepodge mid 60s ranch style house. Should I replace the old shingles with new ones or go full metal? [more inside]
    posted by mygothlaundry at 1:52 PM PST - 22 comments

    Help! Don't want to get burned in buying LED work lighting.

    Looking for recommendations of LED worksite / construction lighting. The halogens are too hot, break when jostled, &c. I'm wary of the cheap LED brands out there. Premature failure due to poor design and driver electronics can make using LEDs a false economy. Willing to convert LED floodlights if you have recommendations for those.
    posted by Glomar response at 12:54 PM PST - 4 comments

    Apollo 12 'secret' EVA?

    I've been rabbit-holing some NASA conspiracy sites and, yeah, they're just as batty as they ever were. But I have been intrigued by one unexpected find - claims that there was an undocumented EVA carried out just after the Apollo 12 LM landed. I'm after non-wingnut input on this. [more inside]
    posted by Devonian at 12:27 PM PST - 10 comments

    Movie filter: tall family who lives in a castle?

    I feel silly burning a question on this, but it's driving me crazy :-) Help me find information about a family I saw in a documentary who live in a castle and are all very tall... [more inside]
    posted by ficbot at 12:03 PM PST - 2 comments

    Music video with whitewater kayaking and a puppet

    I'm looking for a music video and can't remember the artist or title for the life of me. It has a guy paddling whitewater in a kayak camouflaged in branches with a Muppet-like puppet. I think he was playing a banjo and also paddled with it. If memory serves, it was filmed in Nova Scotia and it's about 4-5 years old. My toddler has been asking to see kayaking videos and I think he'd love this one! I remember liking the song, too. Thanks for any help!
    posted by bighappyhairydog at 11:19 AM PST - 4 comments

    Halloween in a Navy Blue Ballgown?

    I have this dress in a dark navy blue (I think they call it Marine, but it's darker in real life than in the photo.) I'd like to use it as the base for a Halloween costume! I'm 5'7ish, size 16, with red hair. Happy to wear a wig, crazy makeup, buy accessories, whatever! Any and all ideas appreciated!
    posted by firei at 10:34 AM PST - 23 comments

    Doctors/Scientists/Researchers Whose Work Involved Their Own Condition?

    I am wondering which doctors, scientists, and researchers out there have done work on conditions they had been diagnosed with or were suffering from. I know Kay Redfield Jamison is a good example for her work with bipolar disorder, and Elyn Saks with her work on schizophrenia is also technically in this category, but can you think of any others? They don't have to be super famous, only famous enough that a Google search might bring up more information on them and their discoveries. Both my examples were from Psychology/Psychiatry, but examples from any medical subfield are welcome. [more inside]
    posted by sevenofspades at 8:38 AM PST - 28 comments

    Help Me Identify The Female Vocalist On This CD

    I have a CD called Here We Come A-Wassailing. It does not show the name of the artist on the CD cover, and when I rip it to iTunes, it shows the name of the artist as Inconnu (which is the French word for unknown). I don't know if this is a hiccup in the labelling or if this is, in fact, the band's name. I've Googled and can't find anything under that name, but who knows. More info from the CD cover after the fold. [more inside]
    posted by purplesludge at 5:48 AM PST - 14 comments

    FLAC / WAV to CD?

    I have a drive full of albums in FLAC and WAV and would like to get some of them onto CD for listening in my ancient car. I'm looking for the sweet spot for doing this with ease and w/out a huge loss of fidelity*. [more inside]
    posted by ryanshepard at 4:49 AM PST - 7 comments

    Get married or move to Crone Island?

    I am engaged to a warm, loving, and strongly supportive man. We have incredible affection for each other, a ton of fun together, good communication, and a relationship that many would envy. We have talked about children and he would be a loving and devoted father. In a hundred different ways, he is a better partner than I could ever have imagined for much of my life. I love him dearly and am grateful to have met him. Now I need to decide if I want to sign up for a life with him or putting my money where my mouth is and moving to Crone Island for good. [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 2:12 AM PST - 78 comments

    How to do casual sex?

    I'm interested in exploring my sexuality with multiple partners. (37, F, straight-ish). However, I'm a sensitive, over-thinking type with a moderate case of vaginismus. How do i find patient and understanding partners? [more inside]
    posted by anonymous at 2:11 AM PST - 11 comments

    Where in the world to backpack, sans Zika?

    My husband and I have long been planning a 10-week trip to Southeast Asia starting later this month. The recent CDC travel advisories discouraging travel to all of the countries on our itinerary due to Zika has thrown a big wrench into that plan and we're trying to figure out whether we need to change our plans. Can you help recommend some alternative locations that we can be just as excited about? Ideal qualities below the fold. [more inside]
    posted by purplevelvet at 12:01 AM PST - 8 comments

    October 1

    Help! How do I keep my bunions from getting worse?

    i'm in my late 20s, and have had bunions my whole life, but just realized that's what they were & not just how my feet are shaped. I work on set (and so on my feet) for 14+ hours a day, often more, pushing heavy carts around and walking up and down hills. My feet hurt always, but especially at the end of the day and especially especially at the end of the week. [more inside]
    posted by thebrokenmuse at 11:48 PM PST - 15 comments

    Help mediating sibling spats?

    My (possibly-autism-spectrum) three-year-old and his 14-month-old brother are at the stage where nearly every interaction breaks down at some point. I’m looking for some tools for how to deal with some of the typical scenarios that arise. [more inside]
    posted by forza at 9:52 PM PST - 24 comments

    Honey, this was written down in the soviet era.

    Identify the quote. [more inside]
    posted by clavdivs at 9:08 PM PST - 2 comments

    Need help organizing my evenings

    Simple activities that I can do in the 45 minutes before bed [more inside]
    posted by puckish at 8:48 PM PST - 12 comments

    VeganBakingFilter: Replacing 3 eggs?

    I'm trying to veganize a family recipe for nian gao, or Chinese-American glutinous rice cake. Ener-G Egg Replacer, which is supposed to "just work," hasn't on my first two attempts. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
    posted by serelliya at 8:07 PM PST - 10 comments

    Masters Programs Like the European Graduate School

    I'm looking for other programs like the European Graduate School that involves giant(s) of continental philosophy offering a moderately expensive Master's degree on continental Europe. [more inside]
    posted by R.F.Simpson at 6:47 PM PST - 2 comments

    Shortest path to resolving anxiety

    I have a problem with anxiety and need to find the path of least resistance to resolve it. I live in NYC and have semi-decent health insurance. [more inside]
    posted by elvissa at 5:59 PM PST - 11 comments

    I'd do anything for glove

    Seeking warmish gloves that extend to the mid-forearm for a long-armed dude. [more inside]
    posted by wintersonata9 at 4:56 PM PST - 7 comments

    Is this cool? Are you a 5 year old boy?

    The coolest 4 year old nephew is turning five in a few weeks. Grandma says he's into Star Wars these days, and goes everywhere with his "life saver." I'm thinking of getting him a collection of action figures like this. Would a five year old think this was cool?
    posted by roomthreeseventeen at 3:52 PM PST - 11 comments


    Is there an OSX utility that will notify me if my battery time remaining suddenly decreases, e.g., going from five hours remaining to three hours remaining by opening a certain website? The fan spinning is a hint, but it isn't reliable. I've googled this but had no success.
    posted by michaelh at 2:35 PM PST - 5 comments

    How do you power through an anxiety attack and improve your mood?

    What do you do when you are having an extremely inopportune anxiety attack and you need to plow through a horrible mood urgently without benefit of medication? Do you have a strategy for a quick turnaround, a hard restart? [more inside]
    posted by My Famous Mistake at 2:20 PM PST - 17 comments

    When and how to tell my school that I'm leaving?

    I am a high school science teacher. Next summer, I am leaving my current school so my family can move back to my childhood home town. I was planning to inform my current school's administration in January-ish, but it's getting harder to avoid telling them without lying, or causing them to waste resources, which I'd rather not do. On Monday, I'm in on a meeting specifically about plans for next year that will probably involve me and require my input. Help! What should I do and when should I do it? [more inside]
    posted by Salvor Hardin at 1:32 PM PST - 15 comments

    Give me a reason why I shouldn't snip this label...

    Found a lovely wool scarf in a charity shop today, complete with a washing instructions label sewn onto one end. Now, I'm thinking that seeing this dangling around in front of me would be annoying, so I should (gently) snip the seam and pull it off, right? Or not? Added bonus questions: how best to do this without ruining the scarf? And do folks generally snip out the labels from other clothes as well? Is this a thing?
    posted by doornoise at 12:48 PM PST - 17 comments

    My laptop keyboard is slowly dying. Help?

    I've been using a laptop for a little over four years now (started Win7, is currently Win10; problems persisted throughout) and it has the strangest issues that have popped up over the years, which each on their own is a cute quirk, but all together is gradually making my computer unusable. Help? [more inside]
    posted by brecc at 12:27 PM PST - 7 comments

    Is there a way to print via WIFI on an Ethernet/Apple AirPrint printer?

    I have an all-in-one printer that only prints via Ethernet or Apple AirPrint; however, the printer will be set at a far spot as Fax machine and I don't have any iOS device. Is there still a way to make it print remotely from PC and via WIFI?
    posted by lanhan at 11:53 AM PST - 7 comments

    Possibly burned out from IT work at 35, what careers to transition to?

    Hello, ask MeFi. I've searched for proper advice on this, but I'm coming up with blanks. I've come to the realization that I'm losing interest in IT support work. Sometimes I feel I have no choice to work IT, but I want to see if I can do another type of work. I'm currently searching for jobs, and most IT jobs that I'm finding are either lower paying temp jobs from staffing agencies or job that take skills or certs that I don't have. [more inside]
    posted by 81818181818181818181 at 10:43 AM PST - 11 comments

    How can I make sure to get a good assessment of a situation?

    I'll be going to Japan for three weeks soon and need to use that time to figure out if I want to live there again after past traumatic (and good!) experiences. Obviously, vacation is very different from daily life. How do I make sure I can make an informed decision? [more inside]
    posted by LoonyLovegood at 9:31 AM PST - 13 comments

    Difficulty level: Eating dumplings

    I eat out in London loads, but every year I struggle to find a place to host a birthday dinner - please rec me somewhere central where I can book a table for 8. Off-menu requests inside. [more inside]
    posted by Gin and Broadband at 9:11 AM PST - 5 comments

    Repair stripped screw holes in my bamboo sunglasses.

    I own a pair of bamboo wood sunglasses. Both of the screws that hold the hinges in place on the rim have come loose from the wood, and the threaded holes on the rim aren't threaded anymore and they screws are not really screwed in anymore, just sort of stuck into them. How can I tighten them up? [more inside]
    posted by signal at 7:20 AM PST - 15 comments

    Which service professionals to call?

    First time home owner. I've figured out the plumber and the electrician, but what do I even enter in the box on Yelp to try to find a) someone to install an indoors screen door, b) install a vapor barrier in my crawlspace, c) figure out why my extension room suddenly started smelling musty, then do something about it? [more inside]
    posted by seyirci at 7:10 AM PST - 11 comments

    Can I? Should I? refinish this table

    I need a coffee table. I like one I found on Craigslist. I think I could refinish it and it would be quite nice. [more inside]
    posted by geegollygosh at 6:14 AM PST - 24 comments

    Returning keys

    I moved out of my apartment on the 30th (the last day of the lease). The movers were late, and by the time they were done, the management company's office was closed. Now it's the weekend. The lease states that keys must be returned to the office. How do I return the keys in a way that will be considered "on time"? [more inside]
    posted by airmail at 12:22 AM PST - 7 comments