October 2015 Archives
I was dumped at the end of September. He paid rent for October, but moved out on the 15th. I have an arrangement worked out with the landlady to end the lease early and move out in early December. We all forgot that dumper and I paid first & last month's rent when we signed the lease, so technically his last month in the apartment should have been covered. Should I refund his last month's rent? More details inside you need 'em... [more inside]
My boyfriend is being sooper nice to me while in grad school and I want to surprise him with a pre-getaway getaway. [more inside]
We're about to come into a somewhat large sum of money. We've never really had money before, and we're not sure how to manage it. We've got a variety of debt, and a strong desire for a house. What to prioritize? [more inside]
News stories like this one say that Silverberry Mouhon is named after the author AR Silverberry. Fine. But Silverberry Mouhon was born in 1993, and according to the author's bio, AR Silverberry didn't start writing seriously until 1998 (and didn't have any novels published until 2010). So what's the deal? [more inside]
I wish I could remember this young adult fiction book, which must date back to the 1970s. I can only remember a few faint details, and I'm not sure I have them right. [more inside]
I've recently started working in a new office where everybody dresses quite well. Prior to this, I was in full-time student mode, so I never cared about what I wore. I want to start looking more put-together. It shouldn't be this difficult to buy about 5-6 basics to update my office wardrobe, but I am SO. PARALYZED. at the idea of having to spend money on more than 1-2 items at a time. I waste hours and hours looking at clothes online and never buy a single item. This needs to stop. [more inside]
OK, I have done some googling, but no good finds yet -- I need help with last-minute Halloween costume ideas using a short pink wig and my own glasses... I'm average weight and pretty short.
My favorite candy of all time appears to not be made anymore and my heart is full-on broken. Darrell Lea Ginger Licorice used to be available in the US at World Market stores; it's long gone from there and it appears from Darrell Lea's website that they don't make it anymore. I need to either find a stash somewhere or find a good replacement. Help! [more inside]
I realize this is slightly similar to the previous question, except it's about lipstick, and less about setting it than getting it to show up in the first place. My silver lip color is just not doing what's advertised on the tin. [more inside]
I bought a tube of silver cream makeup for my halloween costume weeks ago! I thought I was so prepared, but now I'm realizing when I apply it to my face, it doesn't really seem to dry. I'm not close to any costume stores, unfortunately, but I do have a pretty well stocked drug store nearby, what should I be putting on on top of this to ensure that my face is not wet all night? Or alternatively, have I just not been waiting long enough-- how long should this stuff take to dry?
What is going on in this animation? Is this real?
I have always held a deep love and excitement for the Southern Gothic literary tradition and its sundry themes. But I've long ago exhausted the likes of Flannery O'Connor, William Faulkner, Cormac McCarthy and most of the well known folks in between. I'm looking for more obscure or unexpected works, like Fred Chappell's "Dagon". Books as well as films. Does not have to be "traditional" Southern Gothic (see below fold). The more psychologically unsettling, the better. [more inside]
My husband and I were enjoying the new 'Godspeed, You Black Emperor' album, entitled 'Asunder, Sweet and Other Distress.' We were digging it. Then we got to song #3, "Lamb's Breath"... at some point in the song (hard to say when, and I'm too spooked to listen to it again) the keyboard drops into a long droning sound... [more inside]
I'm a lady. I need a bag to take to my semi-professional job. Please help me find the perfect one! [more inside]
Does anyone know why people are increasingly receiving rights now rather than at other points in history? Like, women's rights, Civil rights, gay rights, trans rights, animal rights, etc.? Jon Haidt talks about how Western liberals (among many others) have a morality loosely based on reducing harm, but how has that developed? Why now? I'm looking for any literature on the topic, ranging from academic to loose conjecture.
My friends son is sick and REALLY wants to go trick or treating. Help me help them find a wheelchair! [more inside]
Who are the most senior, oldest, most experienced yoga teachers in the Twin Cities (Minneapolis/St. Paul) area? [more inside]
After years and years of not getting the pasta right, everyone in my circle of friends and beyond seems to know that you need to finish the pasta in the sauce, including some of the cooking water. It's such a vast improvement. Do you know similar simple "tricks" or methods from other regional cuisines? I remember reading this thread about Japanese and Korean cooking with great interest, but I'm curious about other cooking styles across the World as well. [more inside]
I have a solution of (14%) sandalwood essential oil in jojoba oil. I also have pure jojoba oil. I would would like to end up with a 15 ml solution of 2% sandalwood in jojoba oil. How do I get there?
My elderly dad would like to listen to bird, owl, and nature sounds that are going on outside of his house from inside the house. Is there an outdoor microphone and indoor receiver (amp? speaker? I'm not quite sure what I am looking for here) system that will do this for him easily? [more inside]
Someone in my work environment screwed me over and behaved in a way that was seriously unethical. The person who was actually responsible is not someone I need to see day-to-day (luckily), but the person who benefitted from his actions is someone with whom I have a close working relationship. Assume there is no further productive point in discussing it with anyone, and no fix that can be made. Also assume I prefer not to quit my job right now. How can I best work through the anger on my own so I can behave professionally? And how can I improve my poker face while being around the coworkers in question? [more inside]
I have a coworker that I report to, and they constantly ask, "ARE WE HAVING FUN YET?!" But then they seem to want a literal answer and I have no good response. [more inside]
My nine year old son recently told his teacher that he sometimes hears a voice talking to him. Now what? [more inside]
As my life unfolds, there is in the short term a growing likelihood I may need to seek residential treatment / hospitalization for major depression. I’m finding it very hard to do research, as most easily accessible search engine results appear (to me) to have been gamed or SEO’d, and what few respectable websites I do come across are barebones or tight-lipped. Perhaps this is because of a wider turn from institutionalization or residential treatment. But still I have questions, and I’d be grateful for any insight... [more inside]
I just finished a trial run of my Donald Trump Halloween face makeup (like this) and I'm pretty happy with the results. However, given my personal opinion of the man, I don't want my costume to be some sort of homage, so I'd like to add a funny or ironic twist. Puns are acceptable. [more inside]
What is a water damaged 13 inch 2014 MacBook Pro worth (ballpark) if sold for parts? [more inside]
I vaguely recall a sci-fi short story about an astronaut crawling through air vents and accidentally shooting his own ship. This was in an anthology of sci-fi (and maybe fantasy or horror) short stories published sometime before 2000. [more inside]
About a month ago I shaved my head and found the skin underneath wasn't in great shape, pimply and blotchy. I figured this was just a side effect of never seeing the light of day before, so I didn't worry too much about it. Now it's a month late my head is just as blotchy and pimply as it was the first time. What can I do to get it smooth and beautiful—or at least not embarrassing? [more inside]
If you think you have an eating disorder, but it doesn't have a consistent or typical presentation, where do you go for help? [more inside]
Please help me find an old (older than 15+ years) probably political cartoon about children at their classroom desks praying (possibly before a test); multiple mainstream religions are represented but one student has a mini-bonfire on the desk doing what appeared to me so long ago as a pagan ritual.
Here is picture. It is either walnut or oak, I am not sure. I believe those are water marks on it. The marble top lifts off so it should be pretty easy to restore. I would like to keep the wood look, no painting. What would be simplest way to do this? I have never done anything like this before.
The stress of unemployment and the possibility of not having anymore money to live off of is taking its toll on our health. We seek the support of career coaches and therapists, we apply to jobs, we do the interviews, but almost always another candidate is chosen for the position. How does remain hopeful while in this seemingly endless cycle? [more inside]
When we close either door of our new French Door refrigerator, the opposite door often pops open, and doesn't close completely. The KitchenAid authorized repair guy who came in to look at it said that there's nothing he can do to fix it, because "ALL French Door refrigerators do that". [more inside]
Are there debate clubs for adults? [more inside]
Given the flooding today, which route is safest/fastest to get from the airport to UT Austin? Are 71 and 183 moving in the downtown direction?
Son needs open source, 8-bit music for his youtube page. Creative Commons doesn't really guarantee that their search results in music that you can use, royalty-free. Any suggestions? We don't want to get sued or get a take-down notice!
I know indoor grills are a thing, but I have no idea what to look for, so as usual I need your help. [more inside]
Handyman plastered around water heater ceiling vent--should I have him redo it, and if so, what is the preferred method? [more inside]
I am still on the hunt for the perfect cafe in or around Los Angeles (preferably with a view of the ocean) where my husband and I can go read our books while sipping coffee. Google shows me lots of expensive beachside restaurants, but that is not what I am after. Outside Los Angeles within a 1-2 hour drive is fine, too.
Since my divorce and recent hospitalization, I've been trying to plan every single day to the fullest. Tomorrow I have plans, but Sunday is empty. Help me fill it. See inside: [more inside]
I picked up a hideous hard plastic fanged ghoul mask at a central California valley supermarket for .49¢. It looks like this fellow, only more colorful. I want to "be" this thing for Hallowe'en, but I don't want to spend the night with gross slimy plastic on my face, especially as there are no breathing holes. How can I easily suspend a traditional plastic mask an inch or three in front of my face? It has big eye holes and tiny side holes to hold an elastic head band, but is otherwise a solid sheet of plastic.
Lush recently canceled my favourite shower gel / de facto "perfume", Flying Fox. Help me find a great equivalent! [more inside]
My sister gave me a GPad 7. I like it! [more inside]
Unlike the Mac and mobile platforms, Windows 7 doesn't have a native Twitter app other than Tweetdeck. But it appears that it's no longer available and only a web-based version of Tweetdeck exists. Is that the case? What else is there?
I lost my purse while out shopping and realized that pretty much, my whole life is contained in my purse. If I hadn't found it, I really don't know what I would have/could have done next. I need tips, and tricks for what to do should this happen to me again. If you have ever done the same and have any anecdotes to share, it would be much appreciated. [more inside]
I am traveling to NYC and then to NJ for an important visit, and I would like to bring a big, bright, colorful, and cheerful bouquet. [more inside]
Have you tried bespoke face cream? How did it work for you? [more inside]
Why am I always getting weird phone calls from (people saying they are?) cops, and then make themselves difficult to get ahold of? Is this a scam or something else? I'm curious about the mechanics of why this might be happening. [more inside]
I have a weird (what appears to be) link attempting to get my phone to follow a URL that is a WAP request. What the? [more inside]
Louis CK is sometimes called a comedian's comedian; CPE Bach is a composer's composer. That is, they are supposedly admired by people in the profession more strongly than by people outside the profession. Who are some _____'s _____'s _____s in their fields, i.e. admired by the people admired by the people we lay consumers admire? (So far, I've only found an article calling Garry Shandling a comedian's comedian's comedian but I'm not sure if he really is.)
What are the current best browser extensions for Chrome and Safari for leech blocking / stopping online time wasting? In particular, I want an extension that sets time per hour rather than time per day that can be wasted. [more inside]
I happen to know somebody who is a wonderful writer, a recent honors-in-English graduate of a great college, who writes terrific blog posts about politics as well as many Facebook posts on political issues. He's currently working at his first job -- copyediting for a publisher. How might he get into the field of political speech writing? I assume you pick a candidate you'd like to write for -- but do you approach that candidate directly, or...what?
On two separate occasions I was robbed in Spain, and replaced my NL passport both times. The last time I was at the Netherlands embassy in Madrid they indicated to me that there may be some trouble if I lost it again. My passport is currently missing, and if it doesn't turn up with the Police here in Bulgaria I guess I will have to go through the process of replacing it. Does anyone know what the process is for replacement? What can I expect in terms of 'trouble' from the embassy?
I work for a large university in the Campus Life Services department, and we have a weekly e-newsletter that I would like to make more interactive. Our audience is mainly graduate students who are serious about their studies. At the moment, the e-newsletter we are offering is basically a regurgitation of the online calendar with pictures - I think it could be more. Please share your successful newsletter engagement strategies - thanks!
How do I help a dying friend discourage another friend (unknown to me)from pushing alternative medicine/cures for her incurable cancer on Facebook? [more inside]
I know they've been a thing for a while, but I just found my way "into" podcasts when I discovered You're the Expert this summer. But now I'm all caught up and they only release an episode every two weeks! But I commute EVERY. DAY. This is where you come in: Help me find new podcasts to get hooked on! [more inside]
I'm looking for regular middle schools or high schools in eastern Massachusetts (i.e., the kinds with bricks-and-mortar buildings and classrooms with teachers and students there in person) but that also offer some courses completely digitally. E.g., students might go online to take an AP class or a foreign language not otherwise offered by the school. They might do so from home or from a computer lab at school or similar. [more inside]
I'm interested in stories in which a character returns to his or her hometown or old neighborhood after a long absence. [more inside]
What are the European equivalents of thesweethome.com and thewirecutter.com? [more inside]
My adorable cat jerk, Nerd, has a death wish. A friend just left me banana bread in aluminum foil, and when I got in I found that one of my cats (99% certainly Nerd) had torn through the foil. [more inside]
My friends and I are having a disagreement. One friend says that if he hypothetically accumulated a "vial" full of black widow venom and injected it into himself that he would die instantly. I think that it would be horribly painful and not instant. Can anyone science me a real answer? No people or spiders will be harmed by this question.
I have blepharitis, a condition that makes my eyelids very prone to chalazions (warning: gross). As far as I can tell, this isn't something that can be cured per se, but there are things that can be done to lessen the symptoms. What works for you, fellow blepharitis sufferers? [more inside]
I have a small boombox that I bought brand new. After a while (we're talking Emerson here), it started skipping when playing cds and it skips in the same spots on every cd you put into it (around song #2/3 for most albums). What's the cause of that and can anything be done to fix it? [more inside]
I've been away from my place for about 14 hours and when I got back, I could smell a weak odd smell in my apartment. I figure this is gas since I noticed that both of my stove's top burner pilot lights are out. I've opened some windows and turned on the crappy exhaust fan. Can I relight the pilot lights now or should I wait for a while before relighting?
I asked the guy I've been seeing for a few months not to sleep with other people. He freaked out and refused to answer, but is now messaging me like everything is completely normal. How do I respond? [more inside]
Need a general consensus on this. Is it a bad idea for me to bring a real hatchet to work tomorrow as part of my costume? [more inside]
Are there any English-language translations of sources describing death by sayak (사약; 賜藥) poisoning in Korean history? I'm interested in what the effects of the poison were on the body.
My kids are 11, 13 and nearly 15. I don't know how to play with them. I miss family outings. What kinds of things do you do with your young teens? [more inside]
We have been reading Harry Potter aloud to our third grader and sixth grader, and we need suggestions for possible next series/books to read. [more inside]
A company based in a former colony buys out a company, in the former colonizing country, which was based on exploiting resources in the former colony. Is there a term for this? [more inside]
Difficulty level: boy German shepherd puppy is not supposed to be neutered yet, owner with PTSD, trainer is suddenly using some maybe dubious tactics, and we have been dealing with aggressive off leash dogs. Beloved dog is now barking and lunging against some other dogs and people, especially in territorial environments. [more inside]
Is there a widget which will display the most recent posts from a given category, or am I misremembering this feature? [more inside]
I'm looking for YouTube channels similar to Matthias Wandel, Groutaone, and Jimmy Diresta.... [more inside]
I live in Los Angeles, and am thinking about buying a family cabin. Where should we look? [more inside]
It looks like Overdrive will be my source of audiobooks to keep me sane at work. What tips, tricks, and guidelines do I need to maximize my Overdrive usage, and keep the audio flowing? [more inside]
My cubicle neighbor's water bottle makes the most annoying noise and I don't know what my options are. [more inside]
I enjoy what you might call "putting things in order": cataloging, editing, sorting, organizing, compiling information from disparate sources into a single uniform format, arranging things into sets, etc. What hobbies or pastimes might I enjoy? [more inside]
My former colleague got promoted to become my boss, and isn't happy with me having discussions with my old boss (who new boss reports to). This is despite old boss saying I will always have access to him, as this situation isn't what I signed up for. What do I do? [more inside]
I'm moving from Seattle to Boston sometime in the first half of 2016 and I'm looking for a software engineering position at an organization with strong social purpose. Help me find some places to investigate that are either near Boston or support working remotely. [more inside]
I finally got my hands on a pair of boots from the Dr. Martens Flocked Collection. They are maybe my favorite thing in the whole world. But how can I protect them? [more inside]
I'd like to hang my bike upside down from two hooks in the ceiling. This is in a condo in Miami with 1/2" drywall over metal stud framing. I was able to examine the studs by removing a vent cover and they seem awfully flimsy to me, so I'm wondering what would be the simplest and safest method for doing this. The bike weighs about 22.5 lbs. [more inside]
I work in an elementary school and apparently I need to wear a costume to school tomorrow. I'm not too upset about it, but I have *always* hated dressing up for Halloween. Even when I was a kid I hated it! (I just wanted candy and scary movies!) I have no idea what I can throw together in 24 hours! [more inside]
Wife works (just started) as a therapist 15 hours a week at a multidisciplinary center that provides mental health services. They have an unusual policy about compensation for their contractors. [more inside]
My mom has Parkinson's Disease, is 66, and is recovering from a broken hip. My sister and I are looking at assisted living facilities for when she gets out of rehab and are investing her money with either an elder care attorney or a financial planner. [more inside]
I ordered a textbook on Amazon from a non-Prime seller (none of the Prime sellers had it in stock) and specified "expedited" shipping. The seller provided a USPS tracking number, but the estimated shipping time is longer than I had expected. Is there any way to ensure that this package was shipped via Priority Mail?
Hi Brilliants! Can anyone point me in the direction of a novel, article, documentary, film, tv show, etc. that is about Sexual Assault Nurse Examiners or S.A.N.E. nurses? I am doing research for a written piece. I'm mostly interested in what their lifestyle is like, any challenges they face, etc. Thanks so much for your help!
My mother turned 70 yesterday. I COMPLETELY FORGOT. Hit me with some great book recs for the following specs! [more inside]
I'm approaching my 50th birthday, and I'm thinking of buying myself a gaming console, such as an Xbox One or Sony PlayStation. I'm not a gamer (at all), and I'm looking for some advice. [more inside]
I have a whole bunch of PDFs of articles. I need citations from these articles (Chicago Style). Is there software that will allow me to efficiently generate citations from a batch of PDFs? Thanks!
I received an invoice from a software supplier, for travel expenses for their guys to install an upgrade on a program here in our shop. This invoice includes sales tax (Texas) for those expenses. Is this correct? [more inside]
I'm looking for vegetarian recipes, without beans, which scale well relative to the level of effort. By which I mean: when you make potato salad, you can double it, but you're going to spend 2x the time peeling potatoes. That's bad. Chili (unfortunately, has beans) scales well: you don't need to individually wash every single bean, you just chuck in 2x the number of beans. Any recommendations for recipes? [more inside]
I'm planning to make this croquembouche recipe. It calls for a pastry bag with a 1/2 inch wide tip and a pastry tube with a 1/4 inch wide tip. I need to purchase the supplies for making this and I'd love your help! [more inside]
University Press filter: publication underway of anthology containing essays about several dozen moving image selections (rights obtained). Hard media no problem, press does that. Website no problem, intend to build it with consistent relationships to essays and AV media online. Help! Tell me about great enhanced eBooks with video! [more inside]
Due to its slowness I have installed AMD System Monitor which shows the computer (upgraded to Win 10) has AMD E1-1200 with Radeon HD Graphics with AMD Radion HD 7310 Graphics. (Why is this shown twice?). Please interpret these figures for me. It looks like my 4 GB of RAM is sufficient, but the CPU is overloaded? Any help or advice gratefully received! [more inside]
I currently live in Brighton, UK. I (mostly) love it here, but as a web-based freelancer I should probably live somewhere less ridiculously expensive. Where in the EU would you move to? [more inside]
Looking for at least the track listing of an early 90's "gangsta rap" compilation. Limited details ahoy! [more inside]
So I am currently living in Tokyo and my company will be on Shutdown from the 26th of December through the 5th of January. I can't afford to go back home to the States, but I'd like to go somewhere for part of it. Special snowflakey stuff behind the cut. [more inside]
Aldeburgh to London via public transit, on a Sunday next March: possible? (Google Maps is not listing any option at all on Sundays during the next few weeks, and while Google doesn't have March schedule info yet, I assume March is no better than October.) Hoping this is a glitch or missing info since there are so many options for other days of the week.
i'm an intermediate to solo lifter looking to move to amateur competition. I'll be idle in Boston or NYC (haven't decided yet) on Nov 8 - 10. what workshops or retreats could help me up my game? [more inside]
I have a learning disorder called and as a result my math skills are somewhere around a 4th grade level. I can't turn a 3d into a 2d drawing or vice versa and I really can't count money but for going painfully slow. Since I graduated high school I've been looking for a job that I could do where my cognitive function deficits will cause problems keeping the job. So far, lots of odd jobs and low-end jobs with nothing more solid or long term (or better paying). I've thought about going back to school but almost everything requires some kind of math or chemistry. I like working with my hands but my difficulty with math means that doing things like welding (which I trained for) are out because I can't handle the numbers.
I found a ridiculously cool vest at the thrift for $1.99. Help me turn it into a Halloween costume. [more inside]
We are looking to stay in (or near) Salida, Colorado over Thanksgiving. [more inside]
I'm mentoring an 18 year old. When he was 11 he checked some books out of the library and lost them. [more inside]
Just came home from Costco with 4 lbs of red table grapes that turned out to be so tannic that they're inedible. What should I do with them? [more inside]
I can get the meds from my vet, but I feel like I can probably get them cheaper online (vet price is about $70/6-month supply) and the lady at the vet is unpleasant. [more inside]
I studied political science in college and was able to keep up with new and important studies and papers. Now that I've been out of school for a while I'm looking to get back into reading the actual research being done right now in the realm of politics. What are some good resources (online or otherwise) for me to find out what's going on in the field? Bonus points if it has to do with political communication.
I would like to send some donuts/danishes/or etc to an office in NE Philly (Lawncrest specifically), ideally with a thank you note. I'm having a surprisingly hard time figuring out a good way to do this. [more inside]
I'm after recommendations for an Android app that will prompt me during the day to ask some combination of what I'm doing and what my mood is. [more inside]
With almost no credentials and almost no safety net, I'm desperate to quit my lousy IT job and go back to school to learn how to restore relics and reliquaries. There are a few problems with this which I've had a hard time using Google to solve: [more inside]
Every job I have ever had I become convinced I am getting fired. How can I stop believing this and sabotaging myself at work. [more inside]
I've been trying the low-FODMAP diet for IBS. I've avoided most of the prohibited foods, but I see now that serving size matters a lot, even for the low-FODMAP foods, so it turns out I haven't been so faithful to the diet. Question: Can I test my FODMAP sensitivity by eating a ton of high-FODMAP foods for a few days? Mmm, bread, garlic, onions, mushrooms, apples, and peaches!
I work for a non-profit organization that services about 100 clubs in our region. Every year, each club has to fill out paperwork re-affirming their partnership with us plus each club’s membership and roles. This process is still being done largely by hand. Please help me streamline it. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I need a free Android app that will allow posting and reading to a number of social media sites. Also, some sites I have several accounts, so I need access to all of those. [more inside]
This Halloween animation about a kind witch and two children aired on broadcast television sometime in the early 1980s. Because I was only 6 or 7-years-old, I remember very little. Please, help me this identify this show. [more inside]
I know conspiracy theories aren't limited to the elderly, but a recent visit of my 70-year-old father got me wondering. He's always been a bit Fox-newsy and right wing, but recently he's started to espouse views that (a) make no sense, and (b) are definitely in tin-foil hat territory. Why does this happen to otherwise rational people? He has no history of mental illness and shows no signs of dementia. [more inside]
I think I might have suffered High Altitude Pulmonary Edema during a hike a month ago. Why do I still have scratchy lungs and a "gasping" sound when I inhale? [more inside]
I'm interested in setting up a webcam to livestream the green roof of my workplace. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Our students attend tutoring before and after school, and we need documentation of their attendance. We currently use a paper-based system and would like to move to a system based in Google Forms. [more inside]
I direct a small choir at a predominantly white church and I'm having some trouble determining whether an exclusively white choir singing certain repertoire is cultural appropriation or not. [more inside]
I have a free afternoon in Vancouver and would like to do a little shopping. I'd like to find one area I can go to for some shopping. What I'm looking for: stuff for kids, women's clothes and (maybe) food stuff I can take back to the US. Ideally stuff that is a little different then what I'd find in the US, and not ridiculously expensive. What neighborhood or street should I go to? Any specific store recommendations?
How good are 3d printers under $2,000 these days at making things like Lego/Duplo? Do you have any experience either making pieces or using pieces someone else has made? [more inside]
I'm a fairly seasoned developer but not much of a relational database expert, though I know the fundamentals. I'm looking for resources to get to the next stage. [more inside]
Some time ago, while cooking a boston butt, I noticed that my crock pot was not getting as hot as it should. [more inside]
I want to get tickets to Hamilton for my partner's birthday this December. Apparently it's sold out until next summer. Are the resale tickets okay? If I get tickets in the summer, will it still be the original cast? [more inside]
I currently have insurance through Obamacare. I will be starting a new job next week, on Wednesday November 4. I will be able to enroll in healthcare at my new company from day 1. But, I have a couple of doctors appointments between now and my first day at work, and so now I have a timing conundrum. Help? [more inside]
I'm taking my first sick day in a long time, after my boss told me to go home from a meeting because I had actually lost my voice. I'm not good at knowing when feeling crappy merits taking a sick day and when it merits just sucking it up and hauling yourself in to work, especially if you have meetings planned or are supposed to be teaching a group. How do you decide that the level of sick you're feeling is sick enough to require calling in?
Couples who have been together for more than a year and do not live or work together - how much contact do you have and what does it look like? [more inside]
My mid-20s son opened up to me that he thinks the friends he's hanging out with are a bad influence on him. According to him, pretty much all they do when they see each other is smoke marijuana and play video games. My son has depression and doesn't have many friends in the first place, so feels like he is stuck between losing his closest local friends or becoming more like them. What can I do to advise or help? [more inside]
We've recently started using an online application system at the company I work for and we're trying to set things up fairly so that some hired employees (e.g., in an admin, management, or HR role) can review unsuccessful candidates' and new applicants' files. Are there any protections we should put in place (legally or otherwise) so that new hires or other employees in these privileged roles cannot see the notes on their own applications, the applications and notes of their hiring competition, or applications and notes of fellow new hires? General advice welcome as well, e.g., if there are any potential use cases or other reasons as to why or why not this would be a good idea. We have the ability to fully customise the online application system as we wish. This is in the UK.
I lost the weight I needed to lose. I was not obese, and though I was definitely overweight according to my own small frame (and my doctor) I was just at the top end of the standard BMI "normal" category. So this is not losing 100 pounds. But literally in one day, my entire abdomen dropped into a complete mass of wrinkled hanging flesh. [more inside]
I want to explore a career as a medical writer/editor. I've worked in the healthcare field for 18 years and I feel I have a lot of things going for me, however I don't have the undergraduate degree that most employers list as required. More details below the jump. [more inside]
I find myself too invested in a situation which has turned out to be a No-Strings-Attached relationship . This person apparently has a huge social circle, whereas I am more of a loner. The bottom line is that I sense that she has plenty of options to choose from. I don't. And she has been explicit about this fact. The prospect of seeing her is generally the high point of my week. Her cancelling at the last minute because something else came up tends to be a real bummer. [more inside]
Sometime in the last couple of years I read a great description of the feeling of dozing off in the back of your parents car on a journey at night. I cannot for the life of me remember where I read it. The part which really struck me concerned the description of the feeling being somewhat uncanny, possibly slightly evil. Does anyone know what it might have been? It might have been something by Stephen King.
I’m looking for bags to use as a gym bag, that don’t look overly gym-y or sporty. I like stylish, pretty, feminine things (more along the lines of Anthropologie, J.Crew, Lululemon), but not overly bright girly/pink things (i.e. not Lily Pulitzer or Vera Bradley). Do you have any suggestions? [more inside]
I've never done the commuter flight thing before....realistically, how early do I need to show up to JFK (NYC airport) for a 6:30 AM flight to Boston this Saturday? [more inside]
I have arthritis in my knees and swimming has been recommended to me. First couple of days it was great but now my knees hurt a lot. I've been trying not to frog kick and to keep my legs straight but I may have gotten too excited and frog-kicked a few times. Is there a trick to this? How should I be swimming?
Hi mefites! When you start a new role where part of the brief is that you absolutely must hit the ground running and be extremely autonomous – what are the questions you would ask in your first few days to give yourself an understanding of how that company works? [more inside]
I'm taking my son to the US embassy in London to get his first adult passport. We're driving from Bristol, because train tix are too expensive. I was thinking of parking at the Kings mall in Hammersmith then tubing it. Our appointment at the embassy is at noon. Does anyone local have better suggestions? Feel free to tell me this a a stupid idea and I should rethink because it's half term or whatever. Thank you!
I'm thinking of doing this either next year or the following. Can I get some experiences, thoughts, and feedback? [more inside]
I've just read When You Reach Me by Rebecca Stead. What an amazing book! Thanks to my ever-growing collection of nieces and nephews, I've enjoyed lots of middle grade fiction. It's been a few years years since I've picked up a good MG novel, though. Does anyone have any recent recommendations in a similar category or style? I'm looking for sophisticated middle grade fiction with strong crossover appeal.
The advice "The generally accepted rule is pink for the boys, and blue for the girls" can be found quoted many, many places online (all clearly originating from one ur-source), attributed either to the Ladies Home Journal in 1918 or Earnshaw's Infants Department (invariably identified as "a trade publication"). Which was it? Was it, in fact, either? [more inside]
Asking for friends who have a loved one seeking long-term medical treatment at the Cleveland Clinic. Any leads on reasonably located short-term rentals that won't bankrupt one (the InterContinental is great but that would be ridiculously expensive...)?
So, I've ruined my Kodiak canvas tent. What steps can I take to make it usable for one more trip? [more inside]
Our car was broken into today; my husband's bag containing our unimaginably beloved stuffed monkey Theo was inside. Here he is at our wedding with our frog Nelson. We will be heartbroken forever if we can't replace him. He is a Japanese plush designed by Gomi Taro named Saru Rururu that has been discontinued. Other than Ebay and Amazong where else can I look to hunt him down? [more inside]
I'm supposed to put together a scheduled report in Report Builder and have it formatted in a way that I don't know how to do (grouped roughly by pairs of columns and then by rows. It's kind of hard to explain; mockup within). [more inside]
I have six sealed bottles of coca cola from 20 - 25 years ago. Are they safe to drink? Are there any warning signs I should look out for?
I'm in need of an upgrade on my video tools, but I don't even know if I should be looking at a camcorder or a cheap DSLR. Details below the fold. [more inside]
In the past hour, I have just gotten seven bizarre emails delivered directly to my inbox... [more inside]
A rabbit in my care is having surgery to remove a face tumor tomorrow morning. She'll be going under anesthesia. How should I care for her before and after surgery? The veterinarian told me to fast her starting this afternoon, all the way up to her 7:30 AM surgery appointment. I've read online that fasting rabbits is a bad idea...I'm also worried her hutch-mate will rip her stitches out. What should I do? (YNMVet) [more inside]
My Mom is in remission for breast cancer which was diagnosed late last year. She's been in remission since this spring, and has been doing well. She had blood tests done on Friday for the first time since chemo, and was told by her doctor yesterday that "everything looks good." BUT she just got a letter today from the head oncologist asking for more blood work. It's too late to call the office to ask questions, and she is understandably worried. Has anyone been in this situation before? How did it turn out? [more inside]
I bought a few of these for a motorcycle project. I need to hook it up to a little arduino, but i'm used to breadboards, how does one hook this up? Do I need to solder these little connections? Btw, the project is to make custom signals tail lights for a motorcycle. I bought these hoping they would convert the 12v of the bike to 5v for the arduino.
What is the best baking cook book to teach about different kinds of dough, their use, and principles of baking? [more inside]
My depression and anxiety are getting out of control, and I think medication would help. However, I'm also a massive hypochondriac as part of my anxiety problem, and I'm really worried about the side effects. Is it worth giving meds a shot anyway? [more inside]
I am currently 27 weeks pregnant with my first child. Among my many worries, I am particularly concerned with how my cat is going to handle this new addition to the family. [more inside]
So, my daughter's daycare/pre-school is doing a "safety awareness" week. Yesterday was fire safety, there was a firetruck there, the kids practiced what to do in an emergency. Today it's earthquake safety. Tomorrow, it's "Silent Evacuation / Active Shooter." This is causing me some intense anxiety. I haven't done a whole lot to prepare my four-year-old for the fact that if someone in her community has access to firearms and they feel upset that they might try to murder all the teachers and students. [more inside]
I just reinstalled a fresh copy of XP Home on an old computer and am loading some programs. However, there are a few downloaded installers that are not opening. For example, I've downloaded copies of CC Cleaner and Avira Free version. The installers download fine but when I double click on them or or right click and choose open, nothing happens. I've downloaded other installers, such as TeamViewer, which have opened and installed fine. [more inside]
I have an empty safe deposit box in a different state at an old bank... and I cannot get them to close the account. [more inside]
My parents spend the month of January in Tucson. Can you recommend a Christmas gift idea for a class or experience? Caveats within... [more inside]
I supervise 12 software developers and analysts, but also volunteer a lot for corporate-wide projects. It's extra work with no extra pay, but I get to have an impact on the business and learn new things, and now it's led to a "write your own ticket" offer that I need help in answering. [more inside]
My parents' 50th wedding anniversary is coming up (just over a month) and one of the gifts is going to be a nice bottle of port from the year they got married (1965). Spending "a few hundred" dollars is fine. While this is a symbolic gift, it's also yummy port and is meant to be drunk, so nothing that is "too nice to drink". Dry, red-wine ports are preferred, but I'm flexible.
I'm on the upswing(fingers crossed) after a year-long bout with depression. Finally found the right combination of medication + therapy to help me get to a slightly better place. However, now that I finally have the energy to start improving myself, I'm at a loss of what to do. I'm looking for concrete life changes that I can make now that I have the motivation to better. Anything with scientific data attached is ideal, although anecdata is appreciated as well. [more inside]
I have $1400 to spend on a new computer. I have no idea what I'm looking for. Help? [more inside]
My Dad recently had cataract surgery. In addition to cataracts, my dad has Fuch's corneal dystrophy. He also receives medication for anxiety. Prior to the cataract surgery, the surgeon verbally told my dad that he would receive "twilight anesthesia" during the procedure. We researched online and twilight anesthesia seems to be common protocol for cataract surgery. In fact, it appears to be a "must have" for patients with anxiety. [more inside]
You're talking to a coworker about developing a FAQ. In your conversations, do you say "fack" or do you spell out "eff a queue"?
Right now I have an archaic NAS with Windows Home Server. WHS isn't supported anymore and I'm increasingly terrified that something is going to break and we'll be SOL. My goal for the remains of 2015 is to deal with this. [more inside]
My therapist can't meet with me for the indefinite future, my psychiatrist quit, and I can't get an appointment with a new doctor. I am handling this badly. What should I do? [more inside]
I am in a new job where I can telecommute from anywhere (yay!) and am thinking about buying some property in a rural area in upstate New York where Internet is spotty. But my job requires a lot of video chatting — what can I expect to pay for top-quality Internet in a woodland paradise? Will there be usage fees? Can I actually video chat? [more inside]
With a long-enough sample of written or spoken* English from someone whose first language is not English, can linguists identify what that person's first language is? If so, what are the tell-tale signs for various languages? [more inside]
I invested in a really nice merino cardigan and celebrated by going to a new Japanese noodle restaurant and splattering soup all over it. What's the best course of action after doing something like this? - blot stain with water at restaurant? - hand wash sweater as soon as possible? - dry clean as soon as possible? - don't worry about it? (as once soup dried, it was no longer visible) Thanks, Jon
I want to superglue a toy inside a mug - what glue should I use?? [more inside]
We’re heading into our neverending winter here, and I’d like some ideas for exercise videos or games that I can do with my 10 and 12 year old kids. As corny as it is, I’d love a modern day Sweatin to the Oldies. Does such a thing exist? Funny songs and laughing while we do cardio or strength training? We are not fans of most current Pop music – unless it’s being covered by Weird Al. And my daughter made a face when I suggested Yoga, so new agey is out. Any suggestions for videos or Youtube channels or other that could help us out? (We have a PS4 and XBOne, but not a Wii)
Are there any words for belief/nonbelief in an afterlife? If not, could you help me make some up? [more inside]
I recently completed the videogame Life Is Strange, which I liked very much. The game's conclusion features the song 'Spanish Sahara', by Foals. It's an absolute knockout tune - a sprawling, emotional epic that builds, builds, builds and goes somewhere truly breathtaking without resorting to walls of sound or some kind of 'epic' conclusion. It reminded me of my current favourite song: 'No Reptiles', by Everything Everything, which could be the soundtrack to a montage of a complex life. I'm looking for more songs like these. [more inside]
SXSW is...well, see the Blue. What other conferences have a heavy tech slant and a diversity of programming but are not nearly so bloated? [more inside]
My soundbar only works with Dolby Digital, so I'm trying to figure out how to make a Blu-Ray player work with it. Complicated details inside. [more inside]
Can a writer's literary style or technique be summed up in one phrase? I am trying to compile such a list of descriptions. An example would be: "Ernest Hemingway: Simple, terse, unadorned, and uses few adjectives." George Bernard Shaw: "Energetic, witty, intellectual, aggressive, comedic, and socially critical." The more technical the description, the better.
Someone was moving out of my building shortly after I moved to my current apartment, resulting in my girlfreind and I getting a free queen sized mattress. I left it on its side for about three days while I got my stuff sorted, and since then the side that was in the air has a huge lump. Have I ruined it, or is there a way to fix this? [more inside]
My father, stepmother, aunt, cousin, and sister seem to have a vested interest in seeing me inaccurately. I've come to terms with their scapegoating and black-sheeping of me. It's been validated by numerous therapists as well as my mom, and the dynamic fits most of what I've read online about scapegoating dynamics. To abruptly go No Contact with them would make things much worse for me. I need Low Contact, polite, superficial strategies, please. [more inside]
I share an iPad with my now-sick husband. Can I disinfect in before I take it to work tomorrow? [more inside]
So, there's this guy who embezzled money from insurance companies 20 years ago. He's paid it all back-- [not as part of a plea bargain "deal" in case in matters.. just to "undo" the damage that he caused. He's an older man now... and he mentioned to one of my students that he'd really appreciate a letter from the insurance company saying that they forgive him. The companies no longer exists, but, by a long shot... how would we go about going to successor companies ) and asking (and getting) for forgiveness on his behalf? an official response would mean the world to him. [more inside]
Popular Twitter feeds collect fake followers. What percentage would you think reasonable for bot followers, over which you'd suspect someone of having padded out their followers list? [more inside]
I'm trying to find a place to purchase some special effects contact lenses like the type here. Due to the proximity to Halloween I'd ideally like to purchase them locally in San Francisco. I tried calling Kryolan and asking for leads, but they had none. Neither did my optometrist's office. I'd also happily look at an online retailer that offers expedited shipping.
I’ve been hunting around for a present for my sister’s new-born boy (1 month old). No success, but I’m now really excited about the wind chime suggestions in this question (thanks to the asker and the posters!). I’m thinking of getting him some. Top price cca $100. Questions below the fold. [more inside]
I'm looking for children's books that incorporate the unexpected (food, especially) into their illustrations. [more inside]
Short version: I can't leave my room, but I can type and mouse. How do I make money under these circumstances? Is Mechanical Turk still a thing? Do things like Hits4Dollars or InboxDollars still work? How else do I do this? [more inside]
What are the best recent novels that are set between, say, 1800 and WWII? Particularly if they have a female protagonist.
I remember reading about this book maybe 3-4 years ago that collected the genuinely smart things said by terrible people, with an emphasis on hypocrites. Some examples were a popular preacher on marriage, who was later revealed to be an adulterer, and advice on financial prudence from con-men. [more inside]
Is it polite to invite person A at the last minute to a party (in this case, my darling SO's birthday celebration)? I am feeling somewhat anxious about this occasion already and don't want to offend or exclude anyone. I know this is only a big deal in my own mind, and probably in no-one else's, but it is one of a couple of minor things I am feeling a bit stressed about as the day approaches. [more inside]
A while, I read Putnam's Bowling Alone and Fishman's The Walmart Effect and I enjoyed them. I didn't necessarily agree with everything they said, but I enjoyed them. A lot has changed since they were written. I'd like some recommendations of more recent books that are along the same lines as those -- books about social change written in layman's terms that aren't overtly biased.
I'm thinking about going to Peru, maybe next April/May-ish, for one or two weeks. We'd like to do Machu Picchu, but not sure what else. I tried checking previous asks, but the most recent relevant one was from 2010 and online information seem similarly outdated. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I'd like to find a program that would play some pre-recorded or pre-programmed drum beats in various styles at user-defined tempos to practice playing music with. Something online would be OK but I'd prefer a freestanding Windows OS program. I don't want to have to use a sequencer to create my own beats. I'd just like to be able to pick a style and a tempo and let it go. Basically a more-interesting metronome. [more inside]
I was on one generic Wellbutrin, now I'm on another, and I'm feeling kind of bananas. [more inside]
What gift will blow my two year old's mind? Thank you! [more inside]
Lately I've been having trouble connecting to Starbucks and other public WiFi that uses an "Accept these terms and conditions" pop-up. The pop-up prompt doesn't appear and so I can't use the connection. Can anyone help? [more inside]
Are there any good videos of "floating" grand jetés on YouTube (or other online streaming video sites)? [more inside]
I'm helping some folks who run a medical marijuana delivery service, and would like an easy-to-maintain solution for their menu on a site running Wordpress. [more inside]
So I am an intelligent, funny, kind, 30-year-old fat woman who generally has a healthy and pragmatic attitude about being fat. I felt constantly shitty about not being thin when I was younger, but whatever the wider world thinks, I know being fat doesn't mean I'm not pretty, or that I'm lazy, or whatever. But the negative self-talk, fueled by cultural narratives and negative experiences, rears it ugly head while dating sometimes. I want to get that voice out of my head. [more inside]
My one debit card and one out of four credit cards are continually subject to fraud charges no matter what I do. Why is this and what can I do to prevent it? [more inside]
I've lost two pairs of slippers recently to gross substances. I need recommendations for women's slippers I can wash, that will keep my feet warm, and that won't be ruined if I wear them to take out the trash. [more inside]
Price comparison between Ting and Verizon calculates that we'll save an average of $120 a month on Ting. What am I not seeing? [more inside]
I'm on 20mg day of citalopram/celexa for generalised anxiety. I stupidly forgot to take it over the weekend. Have found it and taken today's dose but can already feel withdrawal anxiety amping up. Is there anything I can do to make this less painful until it gets back into my system? I work from home so suffer from loneliness and lack of distractions, though I have meetings with a nice colleague tomorrow. I also have a legal appointment on Thursday that is making me very anxious.
Looking for recommendations for a home ipad/computer driven karaoke set up! Considering all in one packages (Singtrix) vs. home brew. [more inside]
I have come across books written for an Indian audience that help prepare them to pass the Common Admission Test. I’ve used such books to help me with American exams like the GRE and the SAT. I am looking for a book written with the same level of rigor and lucidity to help me conquer the dreaded LSAT logic games section. [more inside]
Trying to re-find a parody listicle about films shot in Toronto. Help? [more inside]
I recently rescued a 5 year old maltese-yorkie dog (here he is!) with some behavioral issues. I'm already working with a vet, but I'd like to hear other experiences. He's lived with me for about one month. [more inside]
Looking for a basic intro anthropology text that discusses the breadth of social and political structures in 'traditional' societies across the continents - or just across say Africa, or ... Some comments about the mistaken belief of widespread "communal" cultures across Africa has prompted an interest in the breadth of such variances in cultural organisations in 'earlier' or 'traditional' societies. Thus, an introductory text for the layperson would be good, nothing too massive or encyclopaedic.
How did native people understand the Great Lakes? [more inside]
Both Messages and Mail for the Apple Watch have customizable lists of default replies that you can use to insta-reply to incoming messages. Especially for texting, I'm finding that the pre-provided replies beyond "okay" are pretty useless. What are better, handier ideas for a useful quick pre-written text message? [more inside]
I can't seem to find a good comparison from a google search. Has anyone compared the two, or have insight that might assist in my decision? [more inside]
I've come to realize that while I enjoy solving interesting problems in software, I am not really very good at programming and never will be. What are my career options given that realization? [more inside]
I am a leader in a local hobby community and we are trying to deepen our existing policies for dealing with harassment and related issues in our scene. I'm looking for examples of policies and procedures from other communities that we might be able to adapt for our community, rather than starting from scratch. Can you suggest any good examples? [more inside]
I'm building a Tiny Home on wheels (18' by 8' with a 13 foot high ceiling and bedroom loft) and am thinking about the lowest impact ways to do heat, water heating, etc. I'm considering going all-electric, with no propane or gas, and using solar panels to charge a battery bank. Do any of you know much about Infrared Bulbs as heating devices? I'm looking at the Philips ones. [more inside]
How would a Mexican-American, raised in Texas in the 1990s say the sentence, "That is a s**tload of bats!" [more inside]
I am looking for a hotel, cabin, B&B etc. with a spectacular view of a natural landscape somewhere in the continental US around November 13-15 (somewhat flexible). It would have to be within driving distance from a major airport from which I can rent a car. I could fly out of Chicago or Milwaukee. [more inside]
I'm sure there's a name for it in German: when you get off your bike and lean it against something, the front wheel turns and the bike does this little death-spin to the ground. There used to be a great little device called a flickstand that kept this from happening, but they don't make them any more. Any other alternates or quick fixes?
Help me find leggings that fit my thunder thighs without cutting off the blood supply to my butt! [more inside]
My wife loves wind chimes and her birthday is coming I'd like to find something special for the back yard. Does anyone have some wind chimes/bells that are unique or that they really love? [more inside]
I saw Crimson Peak over the weekend, and, separately, I've had the Sleeping Beauty waltz in my head all morning. I'm in a waltzy mood, and want to watch youtube clips of beautiful, cinematic, sweep-you-off-your-feet waltzes from the movies. What are your favorites?
Competitive sister coming for a week. Still have sibling rivalry. Help. [more inside]
I've decided that I need to stop eating red meat, or at least reduce it significantly. Those who have done it -- how do you start? What proteins did you introduce, and how do you make up for iron intake? I'm not interested in supplements, and I have a moderately picky toddler and preschooler to accommodate as well. In addition, I'm currently nursing a newborn, so quick and calorie dense is a big plus.
I'm making my boyfriend a map of the stars for his birthday. I want a quote that ties all these concepts together. [more inside]
My partner (32, male) and I (31, female) have been having the worst year of our lives. We've been together for six years, but the last year has been one horrible thing after another. Our relationship is suffering and it's become difficult for us to spend time together without conflict. My partner has just about given up because he feels like all we do is fight. I think that our relationship is worth saving but I'm not sure what more we can do. How can we right what seems like a sinking ship? [more inside]
We own a lot in a rapidly gentrifying neighborhood. Its value has tripled since we bought it; at this point we could sell it for $100k if we wanted to. We don't want to sell it. We want to build a 500 square foot house on it. We already paid for the permits, saved up the money, and now it's looking like we might fall $10k-$20k short on the total cost to build. Neither of us is employed. Given our extended explanation, how do we make this happen? [more inside]
In the early '90s, in the back of my high school photography textbook, there was a gallery of photos. One was a black&white of two people wearing plaid shirts looking at elephants over a fence in a zoo. The photo was composed so one didn't immediately notice that further down the fence, there were two more people standing with boxes over their heads. Any help identifying this (or even better, finding a print) would be much appreciated.
So I've fallen in love with this song, and am interested in any other songs of the ostensible songwriter Liz Thorsen. But there is zero information about her anywhere I can find. [more inside]
I need suggestions for a tiny, non-ticking alarm clock. [more inside]
There are a couple of movies that I adore and keep thinking back on, and I'm looking for more that might scratch the same itch. [more inside]
Do you recognize (or know for sure) the artist on this paperback of Shirley Jackson's 'Raising Demons'? [more inside]
I think growing bamboo may be the solution to a problem I have. Really invasive bamboo. [more inside]
Please recommend brands of toque, tuque, or watch cap for me. [more inside]
I can't believe I'm using an ask on this but I can't google an answer on it. Is there a 12 inch action figure available for the Rey character in Star Wars? I want to get my daughter Finn and Rey as a pair of 12" dolls and Amazon has plenty of 12" Finns, but I can only find a 3.5" Rey there, and poking around online, I can't find anywhere selling or confirming that there is a 12" action figure for Rey - am I using the wrong name or is it possible that there really isn't a matching 12" figure for her?
What are some recommended home exercise programs, with videos online or DVD, to guide me through workouts on a daily/weekly basis that are very friendly to beginners and exercise n00bs? Personal recommendations are especially welcome! [more inside]
Our water heater has started making some noises, and it's 13-14 years old, so probably time to think about replacing it. Unfortunately, it looks like the brand (American Water Heater Company) may have taken a turn for the worse; all the reviews I find online are exceedingly negative, mostly regarding faulty parts and terrible customer service. This is a basic electric water heater and we'd like to replace it with the same sort, since it works well for us. What are the best companies to buy from?
The ex and I broke up a little over a month ago. We dated 7 months, and were friends/FWB on and off for 5 years before that since we dated for a month in 2010. A week ago he told me he wants nothing to do with me and I'm heartbroken. I haven't done anything but sleep and watch TV for a week. How do I get out of this slump? [more inside]
I like my therapist but feel that she is a bit too critical and it stresses me out. Am I overreacting? [more inside]
How to separate a stacked washer/dryer? I want to lift the dryer off it's base, a washer, and re-install it on a shelf above a new used washer. Need to know, or find someone who knows how the separate the stacked unit wiring. No appliance repair service seems willing, and I'm not sure where to find a help to do it. It will save me a lot of money, not to mention reusing/recycling/repairing a working appliance.
What's a typical salary for a nurse, and how do nursing salaries vary in different fields of medicine? [more inside]
The Portland Police Bureau released a report showing their use of force incidents have fallen. This, after an agreement between the DOJ and the PPB to reduce such incidents. Are there any national statistics that show departments keep down such incidents once they begin such a program? Conversely, are there statistics that show eventually, force incidents (violent take downs and shootings by police) eventually return to pre-reduction levels?
Fiancee is trying to find out if this quote: "One of the greatest gifts adults can give - to their offspring and to their society - is to read to children." is actually by Carl Sagan, so she can use it for a paper. I can't find it anywhere. Is this actually something Sagan said or is the internet being the internet? [more inside]
I always did my own taxes, but for various reasons things look more complicated this year, and I realize I could probably save some money and aggravation by hiring an expert. Looking for someone downtown or west side.
I've recently moved and my great-grandmother's dresser now has some significant new chips and one thing I'd call a gouge. :( The claim form from the movers says you can request a repair--or put down an amount of compensation you want. [more inside]
I would like to collect movie clips of the same actor playing a supporting, deferential role and a leading dominant role. Or of actors playing other dramatically different personalities in different movies. do you have any suggestions where you thought: wow i can't beleive that is the same person as X?
I'm looking for tips, tricks, what-have-you for creating and using an environmentally friendly kitchen. Things like: food that requires less energy to prepare, different methods of preparing food, different cooking instruments, etc. There are a few caveats, though. [more inside]
Is there a word in English (or any other language) for anticipating nostalgia for events that have not yet happened? [more inside]
A friend is hosting a horror movie night this Friday, and even though it's an otherwise Halloween-themed get-together, the invitation specified "Don't wear your slutty angel costume; this is not that kind of party." So my partner and I have decided we need to wear wings and get t-shirts made that say something approximating "slutty angels" in Latin. (Or "wanton" or "lascivious" or whatever is actually translatable.) I'd like it to be at least nominally grammatical. Help?
Please recommend recipes that start with whole dried soybeans and don't produce poor imitations of traditionally meat-based recipes. Because if you can eat meat, it's easier and tastier to make those with meat. What else is there? I'm happy to try food that would be unusual by mainstream American standards. [more inside]
I dearly love the magnolia tree in our backyard. This year, it produced a handful of seeds, which look kinda like red-orange colored peanut M&M's. I really want to do everything I can to raise happy, healthy magnolia trees from these seeds if I can. [more inside]
How can I sell autographed baseballs? [more inside]
Since I’ve started enjoying A(ustralian)BC’s Soundproof podcast I've come to realize that beyond the CBC and BBC, my podcasts are very U.S.-centric. What are some good English-language podcasts from other parts of the globe? While news roundtables like Sinica are good, I'm primarily interested in spoken word or well-produced radio pieces, like Everything Is Stories, This Is Actually Happening, Love + Radio, and Unfictional. Thanks!
I purchased a used car from a neighbor about a month ago. Right after I got it, I had the oil changed at a local place. I went out to check the oil this morning and do other car maintenance stuff and there was just a liiiiittle dot of oil on the bottom at the bottom of the dipstick. Ugh. [more inside]
Of course, the real answer is most books, but I'm looking for something a little more specific... [more inside]
This is a weird question about a fantasy my son has about "cooking" with Halloween candy. For months he's been talking about making "Sweet Stew," a "recipe" he made up in which the Halloween candy is ground up in the food processor and then mixed with peanut butter. Is there any real recipe for something we can make with Halloween candy? [more inside]
We'd like to have a lizard as a pet. We love animals, but we've never done the coldblooded thing before. What would be the best choice for us? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I am looking for ideas on budget-friendly, healthy and easy to make meals for a single person. See inside for details. [more inside]
Last night I made this recipe for a creamy pork shoulder stew (which was delicious). Everything was thoroughly cooked as it was simmering for probably 1.5+ hours. I put the leftovers in a covered (but not sealed) container and forgot to put it in the fridge. I just found it this morning, so it was sitting out for about 12 hours. Can I eat this? I was thinking I could throw everything in a pot and boil it again, or perhaps microwave it.
Wrestling with whether or not to move to Charlotte. I'd appreciate feedback on Charlotte as well as making such a huge decision as moving in general. [more inside]
After deciding to leave my current job that has grown to be a toxic, stressful environment which is exacerbating my mental health issues, I finally have a job offer that I am excited about! But I'm on the fence as to whether or not it's worth making the jump for - if these concerns are legitimate or if it's my anxiety holding me back from a great opportunity. Please help me decide the most appropriate course of action. [more inside]
My mom really likes this image of an elephant balancing on a ball and wants it as a poster for her office. Unfortunately, it seems to be out of print and I can't find it anywhere. She has rejected other similar images--she wants this one. None of the images I've found online are high-res enough to print as a poster. Anyone know where it can be found?
Now that I've gotten a new domain (thanks guys) I want to modernize and streamline my website. I basically want a single page with ' click to expand' photos that looks good on a tablet. Think a nice restaurant website. I have no idea how to do this, my incredibly creaky HTML skills are at least 15 years out of date, and template / design for you sites like Squarespace all want a hosting bundle package. I just want something drop-dead simple that will export an index.htm file at the end. Does this program/service exist? [more inside]
Several years ago I spent time with some German visitors, and after each dinner they passed out airplane bottles of liquer. The tradition, they said, was to drink it down, put the cap on your nose, and hang the bottle from your lip via suction. I've since wondered about this tradition and WHAT exactly was the liquer that they used. Here is a photo if someone could please identify it. Thanks!
Almost a decade ago I read (and believed in) Cockburn's Cooperative Game. What's new since then? [more inside]
Someone gave me "The Player of Games" by Iain M Banks and, having recently read it, I have a couple of questions about the Culture novels. [more inside]
I have a problem with remembering people's names. I've read previous posts on the topic and generally I can smilingly apologise and say, "Hey, I'm sorry but I am terrible with names." But my bigger problem is that I meet people in many contexts that don't overlap and all require various levels of professionalism. I don't mind apologising for forgetting their name, but to then add, "...and how do we know each other?" is veering into rudeness. Suggestions?
Hi, I have bought a little tin of these and I want to make the most of them. They seem delicious. [more inside]
I am looking for a plastic box with a lid whose external dimensions are as close as possible (but strictly no greater than) 22x57x59 cm. Any ideas? I'm in the UK. [more inside]
We are friends with a family that has a daughter the same age as mine. On a recent visit, my daughter told me that the father offered to leave her and her friend (both 10 y.o.) at home alone while he went to pick up his wife. My daughter didn't want to be left alone, so he had them hide between two of the van seats as he drove to pick up his wife to play a "joke" on her. I am not ok with either of these things. [more inside]
Other than disabling Google Drive and software updates, how do I limit downloads to only the stuff I want? [more inside]
What's this thing embedded in the asphalt on the street? [Link] (They are in various places on the street)
I read about this dating coach app as its founders were profiled in Inc. magazine. They had a few tiers of dating coaching and the service had "trees" in the name I'm pretty sure. The focus was coaching not matching. I think it is a long shot but does anyone know? I searched inc magazine
My Halloween costume is this awesome bear hood, which I would like to make more awesome with a little customization. Suggestions welcome. [more inside]
So, we got a van. It's awesome and we love it. In the past almost 30 years, I can remember naming one thing and this one thing named our van Cracker partly because I didn't like the name and so of course he thinks its funny. Please help me choose a name that will change his mind, stand for something better and not be Cracker. [more inside]
I'd like to make them all in one dish, like a soup, but I can't find any recipes which use that many. They've been in the fridge for a few weeks and need to be used up. Creative ideas?
I've recently had a stream of dating-related rejections. It's gotten pretty frustrating and I've now started to see rejection as a given. How do I rebuild my confidence and get back on the horse? [more inside]
My bf is in the process of signing a contract for a home. We will both be living in it, but I was under the impression it would be all his. Now he's asking me for my ss#. [more inside]
Hey all! Looking for an easyish Halloween costume for a cisgender straight couple. Complications? Blond beard for the dude, short hair for the woman, and glasses for both. [more inside]
Itching-burning between scapula, usually at some defined spot but sometimes covering or referring the unwanted sensation over a greater area of the midback. Wiki notalgia paresthetica. I have tried many things with no success. [more inside]
I am interested in buying some copies of the Koran to use in an art history class. Any recommendations of editions with beautiful calligraphy or embellishments would be much appreciated. Facsimiles of older copies of the Koran would also be great, if they are affordable. Thanks in advance for your thoughts!
I'm wanting to improve my rote memory and not sure exactly how or where to start. [more inside]
Should I include a very realistic looking gun as part of my halloween costume when I go to a party that will be primarily for children? [more inside]
Winter is coming! I am looking for pretty, business-casual-ish, long-sleeved shirts to wear under cardigans. Where do I buy these, especially as a 6-foot-tall woman? [more inside]
We have B&B reservations in Eastham, MA, for Thanksgiving - yay! Now where should we get our Thanksgiving dinner (and are we fully informed on all the cool things to do that weekend on the cape)? [more inside]
A tree fell, mostly missing the house, but a 2" branch punched a neat hole in it. There are three smaller or partial breaches for a total of four holes in all. I can cover each of them with my hand. Is this something a reasonably handy person can handle without risking damage? I can easily stand and work on the damaged places. [more inside]
I am currently considering a big move, but I have zero idea how to figure out if this is a good idea, or if I can expect to command the salary that I will need where I want to go. BEAN PLATE WITHIN. [more inside]
I have struggled, periodically, with depression. I was always able to manage it. There have been some situations in my life where I've taken anti-depressants because the depression was a little more debilitating. more inside... [more inside]
Currently healthy cat, past issues, what were they, and should I get a second opinion? [more inside]
My phone storage is almost full and I have ~1800 photos. I'm trying to back them up and am finding icloud so confusing. Please help me using simple words, I am not up to date on technology. [more inside]
Recommendations for female-friendly brothel / massage parlor / sex club in Amsterdam? [more inside]
Hi fabulous mefites familiar with Philly! Work is sending me to your lovely city for a week. I will have some time do do things, and could also use advice about food and tea. I am a special snowflake traveler. [more inside]
I just finished this green tea. It is my most favorite green tea and I would like to order or purchase some more of it. The problem? I don't know where it came from and most of the text on the package is in Japanese, which I cannot read. Can you help me identify/find it? [more inside]
I am baking a dozen banana bread muffins at this very second. If I want to bring some to share to work on Monday (leaving my house about 44 hours from now) what's the best way to keep them as delicious as possible until then -- countertop or freezer? [more inside]
I'm looking for people's personal experiences or recommendations for blogs, articles, or shows about living in homes built prior to 1970 and/or having a new home built. Details inside. [more inside]
Would outdoor laundry and not having the whole house be under central AC be deal breakers for most home buyers? [more inside]
I'm going to be Pearl from Steven Universe for Halloween, and I have all my costume parts accounted for except for her sword. How can I recreate the sword cheaply and quickly? [more inside]
Someone close to me has converted to Sufi Islam, and I'd like to get a better understanding of the Sufi concept of God. Meanwhile, I'm trying to see what I think of God myself. [more inside]
There is a group of people at work that I occasionally hang out with in non-work time. I am not invited to most of that stuff. Few times I have bumped into some of them when they were on their way to bar/pub and got a last minute invite. Should I go anyway? [more inside]
I'd like to be a little more prepared for stuff hitting the rotary oscillator... without falling into a rabbit hole of preparing for the end times. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
I've got recurrent excruciating pain in my arms that feels a lot like muscle fatigue after a good work out (acidosis) but isn't triggered by exercise. Please help me figure out why. [more inside]
I just started a telecommuting job, and will be using my cell phone as my office phone. I would love to find a plug-in handset to use, since I'll be having lots of phone meetings. I've tried a couple options, but both distort the way I sound and won't do for a professional use. Has anyone found something that works? Specifics inside. [more inside]
Once upon a time I was something of a photographic purist, lugging around a couple of pounds, not to mention, several thousands of dollars worth, of camera body/lens wherever I went. Now, with three young kids in tow, however, the need for convenience has trumped image quality, so, I now shoot most everything with my Moto-X phone. That said, I really miss the image quality so was wondering if there's a high quality, compact camera out there that can bridge the gap between a $3K SLR & iPhone yet still be pocketable?
I need to know if mentioning on an interview that I've just started working a new job is advisable or not. Is it frowned upon to be searching for a new job so quickly, or is it seen as being proactive? Are you supposed to stay on a job you don't think is a good fit just because it's only been a month? These are questions I am wrestling with as I prepare for an interview on Monday. If there are any federal employees or HR folks who can advise on this, I would be so appreciative. [more inside]
In summary: I want a recommendation for a good, high-performance motherboard (and a solid case for it), with allowances made for size (my current case could just barely fit a GTX970) and budget (I have a bit of leeway but I don't need to drop a ridiculous amount of cash if I don't need to). Elaboration under the cut: [more inside]
I love listening to old newscasters and radio shows on youtube, and I've noticed that the different decades have very distinct sounds. I'm working on a performance bit that uses 1920s diction, but there's something I'm missing. What are the elements of the popular radio voice that make it distinctive? Clipped syllables? Longer "o" sounds? Help!
OK, so I saw this black metal ring sitting in a urinal at a grocery store. Kind of an odd place for one. I'm curious if this is some sort of sex-related accessory that I'm not familiar with, or if it's just some random chain link that happened to end up in a urinal. It was about an inch in diameter. There's a small break in it. Pics are here.
It became apparent to me yesterday that I am going to want to find another job, and then also yesterday an old friend from high school said he would hire me. Lots more conversation needs to happen with my friend, obviously, but before it does I would love to have your advice on moving from FDA-regulated industry (foods, supplements, skincare) to IT (with very limited IT skills). [more inside]
Can you recommend some good dog-friendly outings (short hikes, dog friendly beaches, destinations, trips, etc) in southern/southwestern Maine? Bonus points for those who can also recommend: a) things to do with the pup this weekend, and/or b) good resources (online, print, or other) to discover more of dog-friendly Maine. [link to adorable dog photo inside] [more inside]
We need your last-minute NYC kid-entertainment advice! My BF and I are having the nephews stay at our place for the weekend. Unfortunately, one of us told the parents that the Saturday-night plans would include The Lion King, which was a bit premature. It seems that tickets are NOT available for any price we want to pay. So it's time for Plan B! But what is Plan B? [more inside]
I have most components for my sriracha costume. I have a dark green mini-safety cone serving as my headpiece. To add to the look, I'd like to try making the tip look like it has wet red sriracha sauce on it. [more inside]
I am trying to connect my secondhand gas dryer and would like your advice on the sanity of this setup (second pic.) [more inside]
I'm a woman in my late 40s, haven't dated in a while, and was just set up with someone. We met for a drink, and it went all right. No electric sparks, but no terrible STOP signs either. He seems like a good guy, and I want to give it a chance, but since I didn't feel a strong attraction or flirty vibe, I'd like to do something for our next date OTHER than simply going out to dinner. What are some good date ideas for people our age, in NYC?
How do I go about making a playable copy of a DVD (not ripping it to my hard drive) with software that's freely available and still supported? [more inside]
I'm currently in a fellowship in my master's program. The fellowship is pretty specific (as it usually is) and in a field I knew nothing about but wanted to learn more of/also thought could help me serve a wider population in my career. Now coming up on graduation, I want to apply to another fellowship that could lead to a full-time job in my dream organization. I'm afraid because the two fellowships aren't related at all, the employers will wonder why I'm applying. [more inside]
If I found two bullet casings in the dryer after drying my clothes in them, does this mean my clothing now has lead in it? [more inside]
What's the best way to transition from a grown out pixie to a bob? Do you have a low maintenance bob? I want an undercut bob that's pink. Get me from here to there! [more inside]
I'm looking for a beer with a name that invokes Dungeons and Dragons. Preferably from the Pacific Northwest, and it needs to be available in a keg distributed to Eastern Washington. [more inside]
Someone who lives in a flea-infested house got a ride in one of our company-owned cars (we found out about the fleas later). A co-worker just sat in the car for a few minutes this morning, and she found a flea on her person a few minutes ago. She does not have pets, so we're pretty sure the flea came from the car. I have to drive the car home. I have cats. What, if anything, should I be doing to deflea the car? Car is a four-door with cloth upholstery.
I'd like to send a bottle of single malt from Germany to a friend in Montana as a gift. Has anyone done this before? What do I need to be aware of, in terms of customs, import tax / duties and federal and/or state alcohol laws? [more inside]
Is there a philosophical term for this concept: If something has occurred in the past, but nobody remembers it, can you say with certainty that it happened? Or is this just a variant on "if a tree falls in a forest, and nobody hears it..." [more inside]
What should I do in the following hazardous scenarios? [more inside]
I've gotten multiple answers to this question, so I'm coming to the good folks here for consensus! Given an 8 character string, where each character can be one of 31 different potential values, how many different unique combinations can you create (with the supporting mathematical explanation and reasoning)? [more inside]
I'd like to contribute. I'm a bit uncomfortable giving to religious groups, though they seem to be the ones doing most of the on-the-ground work so far. What are my options?
It's been about nine years on the green since someone asked about novels of ancient Rome, and I'm hankering for some newer reads. Recommendations solicited! [more inside]
After a year and a half of trying to make it work with an abusive manager, I'm throwing in the towel and actively looking to transfer. The problem? I have a lot of trouble with the "why are you looking to transfer/leave" question that keeps popping up in informationals with hiring managers in other departments [more inside]
Can you recommend some books about marriage that have touched you in some way? Fiction or non fiction. [more inside]
My company is going through new management. We were informed that positions will be cut. We were told by upper management to make sure our resume is set up and we have a Plan B and C. Does anyone know of any documentation/study on the correlation of how many individuals told by upper management to have a Plan B leave the company? I am curious on how many they are expecting to find other opportunities outside of the company. [more inside]
I'm trying to decide if my child should participate in after-school soccer at a school with a high (greater than 60%) percentage of unvaccinated children. [more inside]
Just want to use flatbed scanner to import business cards (about 80 a week) to Mac contacts or directly to a spreadsheet. Mac OS X here. Any advice on new apps or using existing stock Mac software apps or Google Drive to import would be appreciated. No I don't want to use my smartphone for work, plus flatbed scanner should be more efficient. Thanks.
Financial-advice-filter. I am about to pick up a auto loan and I have a few choices re: rates and term length. Before we get in to numbers, I'm trying to determine what term of loan to take on the lower-interest loan to maximize my money, assuming the same amount of money put aside by me. Thanks for reading! [more inside]
A co-worker is moving on to his next opportunity, but we would like to send him off in proper fashion. He is very much into movies and TV, his favorites including Game of Thrones, Sherlock, Mad Max, and Star Wars, and has a good sense of humor. We have all bonded over discussing these shows/movies. How could we incorporate these into his goodbye party? One of us is willing to bake, and I can do something crafty. We would also love to pitch in to buy something, though he already seems to have everything. TIA!
I was in therapy, but then we moved to a developing country a few months ago where therapies are not the done thing. I was physically, emotionally and verbally abusive before therapy. After a lot of work, I am a lot less abusive, but I've found that I still engage in controlling behavior. For the sake of my mental health and my relationship I want to stop completely, but don't know how to without professional help. [more inside]
I'm asking for recommendations for the two plays that would be best for introducing Shakespeare to two teenagers. I am planning to buy a couple of the "Shakespeare Made Easy" books where his original text is on the left side page and the modern/plain English translation is on the right hand side page. I think these books are great for helping to understand and appreciate the language. [more inside]
In a group house situation, does the vacating person pay the "lease change fee", or the person moving in? I'm in the Washington DC area. [more inside]
Hi, So, I am in an Arabic country, doing freelance work for a rather large European company that (I hear this from an inside source) has just filed for insolvency. I need advice on how to proceed. [more inside]
I can remember nearly all the details of this episode apart from what show it was and which characters were involved and it's driving me insane! [more inside]
My google-fu is failing me. I have a set of Bose headphones that I love, but I HATE the fact that they require replacement batteries, which I always forget or lose at just the wrong moment. Help me find a new set of headphones! [more inside]
There's a big beautiful skylight in my house that lets in a ton of light (good!) and also a ton of heat (very bad!) Have you dealt with something like this? [more inside]
Every morning, I have bad dreams, which means I wake up stressed, sweaty, gasping, full of adrenaline before I've even gotten out of bed. How do I change this? [more inside]
My husband engaged in particularly hurtful nonphysical cheating, and I had to catch him at it to find out. Now when we talk about it he seems remorseful, but that remorse doesn't translate to the rest of our life. How can I handle it and what should I do? [more inside]
Do these types/styles of music have a name, and where can I find similar music? [more inside]
I have an awesome pair of socks which are factory seconds. The brand name has been covered up with iron-on tape, but you can see the first and last letters: R.........D. The full name is 6-8 letters long. They are thick knee-high winter socks, and I'd love to get more of them.
What are different cultures' home remedies for sore throats, coughs, and head colds? (Not only foods & drinks, but also things to inhale & otherwise comfort.) [more inside]
I would like my non-Finance colleagues to be more involved in creating and owning their budgets. How do I accomplish this? [more inside]
I recently started on Jolessa birth control and the main side effect seems to be a lot of non-cystic acne on my face. How should I fight it? [more inside]
I am familiar with Chubby Checker doing "The Pony", and of course with Psy doing "Gangnam Style", but are there other equine popular dances out there? Dances in which a performer mimics a horse, a rider, or both?
Please recommend music which would be noticeably worse off without a triangle. I have attended the symphony eight times per year for the past five years, and I've only been thoroughly annoyed by the triangle once*, but I'd like to develop appreciation rather than tolerance and befuddlement. [more inside]
Hi, please help me to compile a list of questions I should ask myself on how to work with everyone in a new workplace. [more inside]
Most questions about work hours and productivity imply that it's normal to be focused on work the entire time you're at the office, with short breaks and maybe a lunch break. I've seen lots of advice suggesting that you may have ADHD or depression if you spend a lot of time, say, surfing the Internet while procrastinating. Is procrastinating really a pathology, and is 90-100% productivity really normal? [more inside]
My Halloween costume is just a regular old undead sort of demon: black eyes, horns, and a very white face. My intent is to have a scary pale, almost paper-white visage, but I want it to look less thick/flat and more 'natural' than standard clown grease paint. I have no makeup application experience whatsoever. Can you help me figure it out? [more inside]
I had to cancel a ticket I bought on Orbitz and I now have $648.04 to spend on a ticket with Korean Air. I'm very open on where I would go. How would I go about searching - and where - to find out how to get the most bang for my buck with this? Google Flights? ITA? And how would i search?
I'm mailing holiday cards out this year to our friends and family, who span many religious denominations and traditions. What are meaningful, non-Bible quotes or verses appropriate for a holiday card, centered around love, contemplation, peace, winter, togetherness and/or gratitude? [more inside]
Please help me find a chair to pair with my antique desk that will both save my arms, neck, and shoulders, and look good. [more inside]
We wonder if a propane detector will work. [more inside]
I've been searching Firefox add-ons specifically and googling in general but I don't see anything out there that will implement this behavior via a keystroke or right-click action: when I position my cursor in line X on a web page, I want a one-click or one-keystroke way to scroll the page down until line X is at the very top of the browser window. [more inside]
My elderly mother apparently has atrial fibrillation and other problems. She recently did a EKG and her doctor said it came back with 500bpm. I looked that up and the interwebs said that's basically impossible, you'd be dead. Anyone have any info? Some of her other recommendations are basically based on this (although there could be some 'elderly moments' at play here. Just trying to get some fact-based medical advice here. Anyone?
I made a batch of soup a couple of days ago and it tastes a bit odd. I'm pretty sure it's because of the food processor. Will I die of plastic if I eat it? [more inside]
I am looking for a messenger bag that is waterproof, can handle rough use, and has as many pockets as can be physically contained inside one bag. Recommendations? [more inside]
Unfortunately my grandmother (85) suffered a stroke which left her left arm and leg paralyzed and required that she be in a nursing home. Although she initially could still walk, she now spends most of her day in bed. I would like to try to get her to sit in a wheelchair. The nursing home, however, is against this for reasons I'm not sure make sense. What can I do? [more inside]
My good friends are expecting their first child (yay!), and they are having a baby shower soon. The twist is that they are very involved in musical theater, and we're going to surprise them with a shower / cabaret. As a groomsman in their wedding and a longtime friend of the expectant father, I volunteered to be one of the performers. But now I need a song. So I'm looking for a Broadway-style song about parenthood that I could sing for them. I'm a tenor, and they don't know the gender of the child. [more inside]
Husband and I expect to get news a week from Friday (possibly sooner but a week from Friday at the latest) that may either be very exciting and happy or sad. Meanwhile, I am destroying my insides with anxiety. Help me not do that. [more inside]
I have been given responsibility for the 3rd Grade Math club at the kid's school. I want to spend a part of the time on a large, long-term construction of some type that requires measuring, building, reinforcement, looking at angles, etc that can shown as the group project at the end of the year. I want it to be kid decided what we do, but was trying to think of ideas of what it could be, and I need help coming up with them! [more inside]
I do a lot of interviews by phone. I want to connect my phone (an iPhone 6) to my digital recorder (the amazing little Sony ICD-UX533) so that I'm recording both sides of the conversation. Sounds easy enough, right? Not so fast. [more inside]
Bumble & Bumble's "curl conscious smoothing conditioner" is amazing. It does great things for my daughter's fine, curly hair. But it's made out of fairy tears and saffron, and costs one bazillion dollars per ounce. [more inside]
I've always been more of a TV person than a movie person. Now I think I'd like to get more serious with my interest, and really delve into the history and theory of television, both in terms of the shows themselves and the industry behind them. Help me get started with this! [more inside]
When relationships end, it’s often said the thing you do is recommit to the things you really care about. I can’t retreat to what I care about. [more inside]
Did the instruments played by jazz musicians have cultural significance? [more inside]
I don't want any get rich quick book, I just want to understand all the different aspects and terminology in the real estate industry from the perspective of someone who is making this their business. [more inside]
I have a research project involving about ~90 subjects in two (self-selected) groups. I have collected a number of variables about these subjects (from public sources), and now I would like to do some statistical tests to say whether these variables are significantly correlated with membership in one group or the other. How do I do this? I have a basic knowledge of R and access to Stata 14. [more inside]
For something I'm writing, I am looking for examples of erasures. I already have literary erasures taken care of (like Mary Ruefle's A Little White Shadow). I am not interested in historical redactions sometimes called erasures ("the erasure of slavery from history books"). I do want examples like the Isabella Stuart Gardener Museum and the blank spaces on the walls where stolen paintings were. Architecture, audio recordings, scientific anything, art, and other fields are welcome.
My stepson (12.75 years old, tall, sensitive, excelling in his 7th-grade computer classes) asked if he could set up a YouTube channel to post gameplay and commentary type stuff. He currently spends most of his screen time watching that sort of thing and playing along (various, mostly iOS games). I'm only vaguely aware of the phenomenon, being An Old, and my initial thought was "I do not want to let this kid be exposed to YouTube commenters." [more inside]
My vegetable soup is bland - can it be resurrected with additional seasoning? [more inside]
Since having a child, my sister seems to have become one-dimensional and our relationship is starting to feel like hard work. Should I just expect this to be reality until my niece leaves for college? How do we maintain connection if so? [more inside]
Looking for apartments is rough on my sister so I want to make it up to her, but I don't know where anything is, plus I don't understand manicure terminology, really. Where's a nice mani/pedi place near a subway (either Columbus Circle or Parsons; or somewhere along the F or E)? She likes shellac and gelish; she'll probably want to become a regular is she likes it. Let's say around $50 or less for mani plus polish unless that's not realistic; advise me. Points for friendly, family-owned business or other charming features.
It seems telemarketers have jumped on what must be the expiration of the last time I signed up for a "Do not call" registry. When I first signed up, it was for a landline, and it was very straightforward. The next time was for mobile phones, and still it was fairly easy and effective. Now when I google this, there are several options. Which should I use? [more inside]
I've seen several Asks about where to sell used books, but not what I want to do: figure out which books to sell/donate vs. keep. Your recommended heuristics, algorithms, or decision trees are solicited. [more inside]
Other than using itunes. It's so complicated. I remember there were a few programs out there where you could just usb the ipad to pc, check what you want and do the transfer seamlessly. [more inside]
My 6th grader has become very enamored by these guys and would like to dip his toes into the youtube gamer world. He has an xbox one (without kinect). What's the cheapest, easiest way for him to simultaneously record his gameplay and his running commentary (picture within a picture - not just audio) as he plays?
There are artists set up in larger parks in NYC--like Central Park--who will draw you if you pay them. They have on display drawings they've done of celebrities. They are all in precisely, eerily, the same style. Why? How? [more inside]
I've finally worn out my beloved Levis 580 bootcut jeans, only to find out that in the last few years they've started making them with that super-thin stretchy fabric that I hesitate to call "denim." I'd already abandoned most plus-size jeans for that reason. Is anyone still making a heavier jean with a little stretch? [more inside]
Ladyclothesfilter: My style has always been pretty eclectic, and now that I'm thirty I'd like to look a little more put together at work and in general when I leave the house. I used to love ModCloth, but lately when I look at their site I feel like I'm looking at something meant for my kid sister. Where do I shop now? [more inside]
I am attending a reception at an embassy, starting at 6 pm. Dress code on the invitation says "business casual". Since my idea of work attire is jeans and a t-shirt (being a freelancer in a relaxed industry), I am in a bit of a bind. Difficult level: I only have got a few hours left. I can run to a Zara or a H&M if needed, but I'd rather not spend money. [more inside]
What are better jobs in Computer Software/IT for someone with ADD? [more inside]
My friend is recovering from surgery that makes it impossible for her to talk for the next few weeks. I'm looking for books I can read aloud to her while she is in recovery. [more inside]
I am borrowing an awesome planetary mixer for the next 24 hours. What can I make with it tonight? [more inside]
I am 35, have a long list of issues with my teeth including overcrowding, overbite, alignment issues, etc. Now that I can "afford" to get braces, I will be getting them next week. But now I am almost terrified. Help if you have or had braces as an adult. Not invisalign. [more inside]
My good paying and stress free job is boring me, I am not sure what else to do but I feel like I need to try something new that will challenge me more. A lot of people are telling me to stick to my comfortable and secure job but I just feel so useless and bored at my job as there's no opportunity for growth and a dead end for me. I am just doing repetitive tasks. Should I quit my job for a lower pay but more stimulating job? [more inside]
Side by side sinks, seen here, and one has a metal bar rusted out. The rusted one is now loose, as a unit (taps, faucet), but still seems to work. No obvious leak, but something caused the rust, right? Where the lines attach to the faucet seem tight. What needs to be done?
Have a long-term long-distance friendship. She has a lot of challenges, including self-confidence issues. I would love to believe I could do something to get her more local friends. Ideally help her find a guy as accomplished as she is. [more inside]
Are there books that explore different schemas or ways to make decisions? [more inside]
I have friends from various parts of my life that I don't want to 'mix'. I don't like that facebook makes it easy for friends of a person to find one another. [more inside]
My wife has her green card. In the future she may consider becoming a US citizen. If anyone happens to know off hand if the immigration laws have changed to allow this? So far everything I have found online is cryptic. I'm not in a rush for an answer and may eventually see an immigration lawyer about it. Curious if anyone ran into this before.
I can't tell if the new conditioner I tried (Kiehl's Superbly Smoothing Argan Conditioner) is awesome or if I think it's awesome just because it removed whatever build-up I had from my previous shampoo/conditioner routine. [more inside]
How familiar with Akhenaten/Amenhotep is the average (high school+ educated) person in North America? [more inside]
Most Halloween costume ideas I've seen suggested for glasses-wearers seem to be either (a) silly/jokey one-note gags ("hipster [character]") or (b) specific, non-scary characters I have no interest in being. What am I not thinking of here? [more inside]
My full question was actually What is the purpose of using a damp cloth on your forehead when you are going to keep feeling nauseous or need to throw up? Why stop yourself ? I get chronic migraines. [more inside]
I have a 9 year old son. He's interested in making his own flying drone. How do we get started? Kits are fine, but I'd like to stick with simpler plans if possible.
My dear friend across the country is going through a difficult time, and I want to materialize on her doorstep a giant pile of components she can swiftly -- and I mean swiftly -- turn into dinner for herself and her eight-year-old. I'm thinking of good ramen-y things, canned fish, and more stuff I can get on Amazon (or similar) for her, and I'd love your suggestions. [more inside]
Couples counsellor has suggested I try to communicate my feelings of being controlled in a less negative way than "You're being controlling." [more inside]
I'm attending my sister-in-law's wedding next month and we finally got confirmation that the ceremony/reception dress code will be "cocktail". I'm a woman who is tired of buying dresses I hate wearing and feeling uncomfortable at these sorts of things, so what can I wear that's appropriate but also me? [more inside]
How can I add structure and focus to my kind of nebulous and self directed job? [more inside]
Yes, the title is strange, I know, but I will explain: I'm looking for podcasts in which the host is either reading people's letters to them, or taking people's calls, giving advice. The host could either be just a layperson or a psychologist/sociologist/etc. Full explanation inside. [more inside]
I has new kitteh! Yay! She's a rescue, about 2 years old, a small spayed female tuxedo beauty in good health, with a shy temperament. I have not had a cat in years. I am sure I am asking a question to which there are many answers and about which MeFites have strong opinions, but here goes: What is the current "state of the art" answer on the best quality and healthiest commercially prepared food for an adult, indoor, younger cat? [more inside]
Hi - I have a staff of about 15 people who have been working valiantly for me lately and I want to give them a little morale booster. Ideally nothing in the form of sweets, and nothing that takes up a bunch of time from the day (like a trip to the movies or something). Any ideas? I can spend up to about $750 total.
This is the second time I have updated to a new iphone in the past four years and again after doing a complete backup and then restore from the backup to the new phone, my paid for ring tones do not transfer over. [more inside]
I got laid off. I'm flat-ass broke and unemployed. Which action items should I tackle first as I try to sort through this? [more inside]
Three days ago, I woke up with a tremendous pain in my shoulder. I had slept on my arm kind of funny and assumed that was the cause of it. I've been sort of babying it ever since, but every day it seems to be getting worse. [more inside]
Please suggest songs where the songwriter/singer/protagonist is talking about his or her own imperfections, but in a somewhat accepting and non-fatalistic way. [more inside]
I wish to adapt. I have this zappy shocky thing, which works with either 9V batteries or a wall adapter. Unfortunately, even with good 9V batteries it does not last very long, and the wall adapter does not charge any rechargable batteries in the unit. I would like to use something like external phone batteries to keep it active for longer periods of time when not near a wall outlet. [more inside]
I love 99 Percent Invisible, Radiolab, Serial & This American Life. What else do I love? [more inside]
I'm looking for Let's Players/Streamers on YouTube who aren't assholes to women. Are there any good recommendations for who I might want to follow? So many times now I've started watching someone's video and then out of nowhere there's a weird misogynistic comment, or someone will seem decent and then I learn they're actually a vocal GG supporter. At this point I want to stop gambling with my time. [more inside]
Looking for a combination keyboard/case for a Kindle Fire HDX 8.9 that allows you to fold it all the way open so that the back of the keyboard lies flat against the back of the Kindle, while protecting the keys so that you can lie it on the table, in your lap, etc. Any recommendations? Thanks in advance.
I was listening to Radiolab, and there is a piano phrase that I think is Chopin at 1:06, but I can't identify it. Does anyone know what it is? (And AMAZING episode by the way). Thanks!
YANMD, but until I can see a doctor, I'm looking for guidance on what questions to ask. Student, mid-20s, male, non-smoker, somewhat overweight (not obese) but relatively healthy otherwise. I don't remember injuring my back or hip recently. Recently, after sitting or standing in place for long periods of time, I develop terrible radiating, bilateral pain in my lower back, right above my buttocks. It feels like I got home from two weeks of skiing! I have to stretch and walk around, and it gets better with exercise. What exercises should I do, and what questions should I ask my doctor? [more inside]
How do I eradicate Hebrew right-to-left text editing from a Word document? [more inside]
I'll be in Princeton, NJ from November 2-6. I'll have a couple nights/afternoons free, and I'm looking for stuff to do. I won't have a car, but I will have Uber. [more inside]
Pessimist seeks reason to save for retirement. [more inside]
I own several houses which I rent out. I frequently get "pre-approved" offers to refinance the ones that have mortgages. How do I know if it's a good idea, and what's the best way to go about it? [more inside]
Vitamin B has really helped to improve my mental state, I don't want to stop taking it but it's breaking me out. Do you have any alternatives? [more inside]
The Wordpress blog that I manage is being attacked from Tor nodes. Is there anything that I can do about it? [more inside]
What are the best free streaming videos (YouTube, vimeo, etc) on basic bicycle maintenance, tune-up, and that ol' tender loving care? [more inside]
Why is Google search always freezing? [more inside]
My old boss seems to hate me, and I just can't get over it --- how do you deal with that? Especially since I know it's more or less my fault. [more inside]
I am gonna host a bicycle race on some pasture that I own. The first edition will only involve 6-12 persons, but if it is fun (it will be), I'd like to expand/make it a regular (monthly or quarterly event). Do I need a waiver form for participants to sign, do you think? Is this kind of form easy to generate/find? This is in Kansas. I have homeowners and farm insurance. YANML.
I've Googled this and talked to people at my work, but I still don't know how to properly describe these two types of domain naming. I have a meeting soon and I want to describe what I am thinking using the correct terminology. [more inside]
No, it's not All Summer in a Day. :) [more inside]
How can I make my p2toHDMI bit work with my computer monitor? [more inside]
I have an Android phone using lollipop. I would ideally like gmail to sync at multiple frequencies -- more often on wifi, less often on data, never overnight. But this isn't an option with the gmail app, which is push (my poor battery) or manual (I forget, then it acts up). What are the best options to have my phone do what it wants? I'm ok paying for an app, changing my mail app, etc.
where in lower Manhattan or possibly Midtown today can my friend find a great store with lots of coloring books and crayons and the like? [more inside]
Any way a 4th metatarsal stress fracture doesn't show up on X-Ray after 8 weeks? I'm seeing my doctor this afternoon but when I rang to check if my results were in, they said the X-Ray was normal and to see the Dr as planned. [more inside]
I met someone fantastic. We really clicked and I was so excited about the future. [more inside]
What are some practical and self care techniques for coping with bipolar rage? [more inside]
What are some ways my sex partner (male) can punish me (female) that are quiet? [more inside]
My son wants to be "The King" from the movie Cars. I can't find any pre-made costumes for this guy. I'm not crafty. How? [more inside]
My wife's old phone (LG CF360) crapped out. Our old digital camera is too slow to properly photograph the kids. I thought I'd kill two birds with one stone by getting her an iPhone 6... but it's not a good fit for her. She appreciates its wonderful camera, but she wants something simpler, so we're going to return her iPhone and get her a... what, exactly? What is the best camera that can also make calls, send texts, and set alarms? [more inside]
My 17 year old son wants to be an animation artist. Awesome! He definitely has the ability (both artistically and digitally as he is fluent in more programming languages than I, a computer scientist, am) but we are now arguing about the school. I'm pushing for Cal Arts. He is resistant because my ex-husband, whom he hates, went there. So, I'm looking for schools that are great at digital art and animation. This is not an easy thing to Google, I keep getting Devry. More below... [more inside]
Has anyone else had trouble with an iPhone running iOS 9 that is giving the "This message has not been downloaded from the server" error on a Cox.net IMAP account, not a POP account? [more inside]
I had foot surgery in 2003 and I remember they made me take off ALL my clothes, including underwear, for the surgery. Why? [more inside]
ProductivityFilter: I basically want a "now playing" ticker for my to-do list on my computer. How can I make this happen? [more inside]
Sooo.... I joined a Meet-Up group. The organizers stepped down a few days later, and I was the only one who offered to take over... Which means I am both a new member and now organizer of a group of 200+ expat families! I am new to MeetUp generally too. What can I do to make this MeetUp group *awesome*? [more inside]
I'm confused. I am in an HMO dental plan and while my teeth are functional I have some issues with teeth with some decay, a missing tooth, coloration and misaligned teeth. I sometimes have irritation from cold or sweets and even tenderness when chewing. I have begun the steps to receive this dental treatment to include necessary tooth repair and cosmetic restoration. [more inside]
Hopefully a not super expensive one, who is trustworthy? Thanks in advance for your help!
What are some good synthwave/outrun/retrowave/whatever compilations that are not Valerie & Friends (because I have that one)? [more inside]
I'm looking for cotton bed sheets that are soft and remain cool throughout the night. With those characteristics in mind, what type (not brand) of cotton sheets should I be seeking? [more inside]
The husband and I would like to go on a trip in before we have our first child. Our ideal would be a relaxing and beachy vacation spot in the tropics (Mexico, Belize, Costa Rica, Puerto Rico?)—big bonus if it's a place we might want to return to in later years with our kid or kids! Specific resort/condo/hotel recommendations appreciated. [more inside]
Recently, I've been frustratingly "friend-zoned" by two guys who seemed to like me, how do I stop conflating platonic love with romantic love? [more inside]
I want to cook things that take a really long time, but I don't know what to make. Help me out with some ideas? [more inside]
I'm going to be teaching two 30 minute sessions for children living in a homeless shelter while their parents attend a mandatory meeting. I've been a camp counselor, taught after-school programs, etc. so I have experience in this arena but I've never taught an improv class for such young kids (4-10). What games would you recommend? What else am I forgetting? [more inside]
I'm looking for a story (short novel, perhaps?) I read online probably 5-10 years ago, about a team that invents network gear so good, it happens to pick up packets from the future. Other plot points inside. [more inside]
What's the best way to go about finding a lawyer to help me write a will? I know I could/should be able to do this on my own, but I'd feel more comfortable having someone else be responsible for dotting all i's and crossing all t's. This is in Minneapolis. [more inside]
I have a studio apartment/converted garage that I rent out. Should I put this up as an AirBnB unit? [more inside]
Hello, I would like to study some computer science, mostly for fun ideally learning how to build DSP applications for music and audio production. That said, I have a fairly persistent Visual Motor learning disability so I haven't done much cs education since the 80's. I have sat in on front end web classes and while I find it interesting and I want to learn it, I get overwhelmed pretty quickly and then discouraged. Is there some CS educational program designed to help folks with learning disabilities? Thanks [more inside]
Please help me navigate all aspects of the dreaded pit of death and money that is wedding dress shopping. Difficulty level: eating disorder history [more inside]
My awesome and amazing sister is throwing me a baby shower for Baby Kitty who is destined to arrive this winter. Help us with themes, food, drinks, decorations, etc etc. [more inside]
Give me some ideas for fun Halloween costumes that splice together 2 popular characters (or attributes). Bonus for ease of creation & movement. [more inside]
I always feel awful having to ask people to translate stuff for me, but sometimes I need information that is in a document that I can't read and doesn't have available translations. I have one or two paragraphs of handwritten Hebrew from circa 1700 that I need to at least know the gist of. [more inside]
Wordpress peoples! I am looking for a responsive thumbnail menu plugin for an artist's website. [more inside]
Any suggestions on what to do outside the secure area of the Charlotte airport? I'd go to the whitewater center nearby, but I think it closes in an hour from now. I'm waiting for a relative to pick me up Relevant: I have a camera and enjoy photography.
Is there a list of all the characters in the Threadless "Mini Pixels" shirt anywhere online? Google searching is not turning up anything, surprisingly. I can recognize a lot of (most?) of them, but definitely not all. You can zoom in on this image of it. I am thinking of giving it as a gift but wanted to satisfy my curiosity first! There must be a list somewhere...
Has there ever been a travel series that focuses on various botanical gardens around the world? I'd like to live vicariously through a presenter as they visit the best temple gardens, indoor jungles, prairie gardens, and so on. Availability on some streaming service or at my local library would be ideal. [more inside]
I'm working in Story Editor view. I have the track changes toolbar up. Track changes in all stories in on (I also tried track changes in this story), but no matter what I do, I either can't see the changes (despite using the eyeball/view changes button) or it's not registering the changes I'm making. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
I want to make some foam superhero masks for my kids, that follow the face pretty closely, but don't have to be super accurate. I don't want to go too complicated, so most special effects tutorials are out, besides they (8 and 4 years old) aren't inclined to sitting still while I tinker. [more inside]
And I want an idea of where to celebrate in Europe. [more inside]
I'm on vacation with my husband and his family on Oahu, and I swear I've eaten more animal protein this week than I usually eat in a month. Where can my husband and I go for a nice, sit-down meal tonight that will hopefully include lots of vegetables? We're staying in Kailua, so preferably somewhere nearby, and I don't want to spend more than about $25 per entree. Thanks!
Help me develop a good plan to stay active! [more inside]
I'm looking for a place that will make me very small batches of custom embroidered patches according to a design I upload — ideally three at a time, though I could purchase a larger batch if they're cheap. I've found a bunch of places online that do this (mainly in huge batches), and etsy custom offers, but is any place particularly good? I don't need graphic design or a template-maker.
I have a worn-out field jacket from Eddie Bauer that I really like, but is seemingly beyond discontinued (can't find anything by searching the style number) I'd like a replacement. Something along these field coats from Alpha Industries based on the M-1965 military jacket. Any other recommendations?
I'd like to dig into how web browsers operate under the hood. What are some good resources? [more inside]
One of my kittens has taken to kicking *alot* of clay litter out of the litter box when she does her business. Why? Can I alter her behavior? [more inside]
It seems like I gained strength and flexibility at the gym while also gaining knee pain, hip pain, tight thigh muscles and incredible morning stiffness. What have I been doing wrong? [more inside]
I think California has a unique and interesting history. I'd like to spend 2017 deep diving into all things California and build my ultimate California Bibliography. Specific request: I'm looking for media (books primarily, but also podcasts, magazine pieces, documentaries, (maybe?) movies) that are less a survey of the whole history of the state and more those that explore a specific time period in a specific place. More popular/easy to read or consume/social history than academic/dry/dissertation types. Edu-tainment? [more inside]
Yesterday evening, my butt area started itching/hurting. This has never happened before. My long-distance partner is coming into town tomorrow. I will not be able to see a doctor--please just trust me on this--for at least a week. Help me prioritize the many internet treatments I've seen for butt itching- what's the quickest way to get this under control so I can enjoy a few days of sexytimes without being distracted by my butt itching? [more inside]
I'm looking into the options for getting a sports club archive online. The archive consists of a couple of thousand documents, photos and newspaper clippings, stretching back a few decades. They are currently held in loose leaf folders, each item pasted onto an A4 page. I have a scanner and could scan them all, but am wondering if there is a better solution, as this would take a lot of time. They won't go through a feeder without damage. [more inside]
My sister just gifted me with 3 lbs of mild cheddar "crumbles" left over from her cheese carving class - what should I do with them, aside from Mac 'n cheese and/or beer cheese soup?
The Internet appears to have swallowed an almost ten-year old commercial from the NYTimes about its (then new) Weekender subscription service, which included the famous "Saturdays, the word alone makes me happy" comment. It was parodied here by the 92Y Tribeca (RIP) and was then revised by the NY Times. I am, however, looking for the original ad that ran in 2006 (according to this Time article). Was even able to locate the abridged version of the commercial, but can't find the original. MeFi's can you help me save this from the internet rabbit hole?
We came across this trek on national geographic. We are very interested in doing something similar (the natgeo trip seems expensive) but have no idea of how to start planning or what to expect. Mefites that have vacationed in Mongolia and gone on these treks, please give me your recommendations! [more inside]
Over the past few months I have been watching Gilmore Girls on Netflix for the first time - I never watched while the series was on TV - and for the most part, I have really enjoyed it. However I recently started Season 6 (out of 7) and have not been super pleased with it so far. Given that a revival seems to be in the cards, should I power through? [more inside]
My husband and I are planning a trip to Europe for early next September. We're estimating about two weeks for the trip, and are targeting three destinations. Prague and Munich appeal to both of us--what would be a good third place to stay/visit? I'm overwhelmed by the options! More details inside. [more inside]
A number of sites on the internet now use FaceBook accounts for signing in in order to have real names and addresses. I have left FB, finding it a waste of time. But I would like to make comments at sites that require FB, so can I open a FB account and not list any friends, ignore request to join up?
Am I qualified to teach piano even though I never went to music school? [more inside]
I'm heading to Asia at the end of this week to spend two weeks (on business travel) in: * Ho Chi Minh City, Vietnam * Taiwan * Zhongshan [more inside]
It got below freezing this weekend, leaving me with an abundance of green tomatoes on the vine. [more inside]
Tell me about your tasty handheld vegan lunches! [more inside]
YANML. I have been asked to teach a couple classes to Homeschooler's, organized by another mom and taught at the local Community Center. I asked the woman organizing if the Recreation Center will cover liability if a kid gets hurt...trips and falls or whatever. [more inside]
I am moving from Boston to Chevy Chase, MD. What is the least expensive way to move via a Pod or other form of moving? I called U-haul and PODS, and both were around $1,600. Is there and alternative? I am moving out of a small studio in Boston. I do not own a car. Is there a way for my items to be picked up from a moving company that might have extra space on their truck, or a sight that takes bids? thanks [more inside]
Hi Folks, For years my family has been staying in Sandwich, MA. One of the highlights of the trip for us is buying great seafood. Recently, our local store there, Joe's, got into some trouble and appears to be closed permanently. I'm wondering is there one out there who suggest another local place to buy fresh fish, clams, oysters? It feels wrong going to Market Basket or some other big grocery store. Thanks!
Wow. Okay. So I have a sweet 3 1/2 month old who is great and I am pregnant again. Obviously it takes time to see if the spark keeps growing- but assuming it will- how exactly do we manage this? Complicating factor is that my pregnancy will be high risk and I will be on limited mobility from week 20. [more inside]
I live in Queens NY and regularly get to dine at all sorts of really tasty, authentic (as much as anything can be, but that's another conversation) ethnic restaurants, especially Chinese food. My girlfriend's family is from China, and while they certainly enjoy these places, they will always insist that the food is better in China... This is something everyone universally agreed with. [more inside]
I've always wanted an easy way to capture a thought while working out. I just tried Samsung's newest SmartWatch for a few days, and it actually worked pretty well for that, but falls short in terms of battery life and overall value (e.g., stopwatch app isn't really usable for running). Would appreciate suggestions for a more affordable solution. [more inside]
An auto parts store in Pennsylvania thinks that someone with my email address and phone number, my home address from three years ago, my name from seven years ago, and someone else's credit card number just ordered a socket wrench set. I've gotten the order canceled, but can you help me figure out what's going on? [more inside]
I'm in a situation where someone would like to give my husband and I a sum of money for us to use and enjoy... as long as we remain married. In the event of a divorce, this person would like the money to revert back to my separate property. Is this possible without a postnuptial agreement? [more inside]
I have been offered a job I want but at a rate of pay that makes me feel, I hate to admit, insulted. The pay is reasonable enough from their side, how can I feel less devalued so I can take and enjoy this job. [more inside]
I've had a meandering career path which has given me a level of expertise in a number of areas. However, I'm currently engaged in work which puts me sort of on the middle rung, working under the direction of a manager. In the past, in these positions, these employers have been very interested in some of the other skillsets I have. It's like, "Aha! I can now get some of this expertise for very cheap!" And in the past I've been willing to offer it. However, I don't want to offer this anymore without renumeration. Can you help me navigate this? [more inside]
I made an enormous pot of beans tonight. Just simple white beans with veggie broth, aromatics, and a beef marrow bone I had lying around, so they are pretty plain but yummy. Unfortunately I didn't think it through and now I am sitting on enough beans to feed me for two weeks. Of course I will freeze some of them but I would love to eat most of them soon. Please share your ideas for what I can do to make my beans varied and interesting. [more inside]
I live in a place where the confederate flag has sprouted recently, probably as a reactionary gesture. Is there a union flag I could wave that would be a historically appropriate response to this kind of passive racism? The 36 star assassination flag of Lincoln seems possible, but I could use other suggestions.
My partner and I are visiting Denver next week! Can you offer recommendations for places we should visit or advice on things we should look out for while we're in town, keeping in mind we are evaluating it as a potential place to live? (Bonus if you have queer culture recommendations!) [more inside]
I want to shift my focus from trying to find a partner to preparing for a life without one. What should I start doing now so that all my years will be happy and healthy? [more inside]
My stompy neighbors remain stompy, but I still have to go to work like a person. How can I become a heavy sleeper? What can I do that I haven't already tried? [more inside]
I was rear-ended on the highway last week while sitting in traffic. Neither myself nor the other driver was injured but there was damage to my car. The other driver and his insurer (State Farm) have accepted full responsibility without question, as I was stopped and he hit me. There was no police report. I haven't had to involve my insurance as I wasn't at fault (per myself, per the other driver and now also per his insurer). [more inside]
Is there a word that both means 'to mitigate' (i.e. reduce the effect of), and its opposite (i.e. to increase the effect of)? [more inside]
I've been going on dates with a guy I met from a dating app. He's in medical school so he has a busy schedule. We've seen each other 3x and we kissed on the last date. During the last date, I asked him what he's looking for and he said he wants someone to go out with and enjoy his time with outside of school. However, he doesn't know if he wants a relationship or not (ie. short term, long term). [more inside]
If I use Apple AirPort to stream iTunes to my television with iTunes TV, does it use up data on my home network plan? [more inside]
I need to move the following to Baltimore within a week or so: one guitar, an amp (about 15" square), an 8' x10' flat rug that rolls or folds easily; two 10-inch studio monitors, a 24"x8" x 2" keyboard, and a large suitcase full of clothing. I don't own a car and don't drive. What's a reliable way of doing this not-so-expensively? Is there something like a "ride board" where I can hire somebody to drive this stuff down for me? Or about how much would it cost to ship all of this FedEx or some other way? I'm in NYC now and could accompany the stuff, or just go down to Baltimore on a bus separately.
I am curious to hear from mefites if you could recommend science based articles about diseases associated with indoor air and household products particularly in relation to make occupational hazard based advocacy against routine use of known toxins around children and forced on workers. [more inside]
My Samsung monitor won't stay on for more than two seconds. Why!? [more inside]
Help me find slices of the particular flavor of cheesy Halloween movie that our kid likes. [more inside]
Please tell me all you can about replacing my home's windows. [more inside]
I just bought a Chromecast Audio device so I can stream podcasts and audio while (mostly) cooking or working on my laptop on the kitchen table. My question is: is there a good cheapish speaker that would work well with this? Stereo would seem to work well, but most stereo speakers I've seen on BestBuy (the only real choice for online shopping in Canada) are unpowered. Most of the selection I've seen here and there are for home entertainment systems, and I just want something basic that is good for streaming radio or music.
Hi, Ok here's my situation. Last year around this time I was diagnosed with bipolar. I lost my job, my apartment, everything. I was living several states away and I had to move home to live with my grandparents. When I arrived back home, I contacted one of my old employers who let me come back on part time as a writer and photographer. I love the job!! It gave me so much of my confidence back. However, it's only part time so the only reason I could afford to work there is bc my grandparents did not charge me for rent or food. I am 30, by the way. [more inside]
We're saving for a wedding and paying down debt and trying not to go crazy in the process. Any advice? [more inside]
I've recently been working on mindfulness/meditation for my anxiety, and have found that repeating mantras from time to time in my head has helped me curb many of my negative thoughts. Although I have some go-to mantras for anxiety/depression, I also have ADD and tend to opt for short-term rewards over long-term goals. I'm thus trying to pull together some mantras for staying on task and delaying gratification. I know you MeFites have vivid imaginations, and would love to hear what (English) mantras you use personally or can come up with for me. [more inside]
Can my ISP detect which file I torrent if I start the P2P download process on VPN then finish normally? [more inside]
We are getting married. I want to protect her against my personal debts- IRS and old student loans. Are these loans transferable to a spouse? Leaving aside for now my financial management issues, is there anything (New York State) that will shield her?
I have some Interesting Brain Chemistry (tm)--some cocktail of ADHD, anxiety, depression, and sensory processing issues, and lately, I have been considering further medication. (Current stats on that: 5mg Adderall Rx, Ativan as needed.) However, I always hated the guess-and-check method in math, and I am finding that I do not like it any better when it comes to my mental health. To that end, I am wondering if anyone can recommend good, detailed resources on how mental health medication works. I know the basics of SSRIs, etc., but why does one work and another not? I know the answer is partly, "Molecules have different shapes! Some shapes fit better!" ...I would like more nuance. Please recommend resources? (And any expert thoughts are also welcome.) [more inside]
My honey is discovering a new interest in weather, clouds, and general meteorology (having moved from a land of year-round sun to the more climatologically exciting upper midwest). What would be a good birthday gift to support and encourage his new hobby?
I have been asked to be the celebrant for a wedding that will be mainly a "humanist" (i.e., nonreligious) structure that also incorporates elements from the Vedic/Hindu tradition. I'm wondering whether anyone here has done quite this thing? [more inside]
In considering whether or not I want to keep shelling out for a Creative Cloud subscription, I have identified the 2 things I use Photoshop for: Batch processing ("Actions") and being able to stitch together screenshots. I was wondering if there are any programs or apps that have these features and are less annoying to acquire than Photoshop. I'm on a Mac. [more inside]
My dad is 72, obese, has a whole host of health issues, and is addicted to food. I'm exhausted by caring about his health more than he does, and worried that we're running out of time. [more inside]
In the world of media (and more specifically filmmaking), wars are commonplace and there are basic Sun-Tzu-like tenets that guide people through it. One example is Jean-Luc Godard's " In order to criticize a movie, you have to make another movie." Any others? [more inside]
Written by a professor or grad student at UT-Austin many years ago, maybe on/around that date. Was once on the web, now long gone. Any help/clues appreciated.
Another question about my sister. She has a large pit bull and brings him everywhere (unless it's inconvenient, in which case she leaves him with a friend or family member). She wants to bring him to our house for Christmas. I don't want him to come. [more inside]
What's the term for the solid team player who isn't a star and isn't the most talented but always reliably gets the job done? Synonyms would be "go-to" (or bastion, stalwart, linchpin, pillar, or bulwark). But the thesauruses I've tried haven't coughed up the word I'm looking for.
I run a WordPress blog, and the archives of a defunct podcast, hosting on Dreamhost. I'm up for renewal in two weeks, and I don't want to keep paying $120 a year for the service... not because I don't like Dreamhost, but because I'm cheap. [more inside]
We are completely lost for ideas. The last 4 years our non-profit group has held our holiday party at a Thai restaurant, at which, 2 employees couldn't eat because, peanuts. Our budget is around $42 per person (give or take). We are 30 employees. We need a private room. We are located in West L.A. Staff is willing to travel as far south as Culver City-ish. [more inside]
I'm pretty sure I'm going to have a black eye for halloween. Any ideas for movie/book/tv characters with black eyes for a costume?
Every time I buy something at Petsmart, the cashier finishes by asking "and do you want to add $1 for homeless pets?" If paying by debit, the last screen offers you options for what amount to donate. Of course I would like to support homeless pets - via my local nonprofit, whenever possible - but is this a good way to do it? [more inside]
So I have officially been unemployed since 9/1. Very long story short but I had a very good career for the last 13 years with steady promos/raises/etc. now I am without a job. I was on severance for about 5 months - have been looking steadily - many interviews but nothing concrete. My dilemma is health coverage. I could go cobra or Obamacare but neither is financially feasible right now. I feel like I would be better off financially to work at a supermarket full time just to get a better deal on benefits. Am I missing something? Since I was on severance until 8/31 i am not eligible for any tax credit for medical since they look at full year income. Most temp jobs do not offer benefits and a lot of the jobs out there I am extremely over qualified for (on paper). I have applied for so many and no call backs. I have had call backs and interviews for higher level jobs but nothing has panned out - not an offer. It kills me how you jump thru hoops for the interview (or multiple) and not even a reply. I guess my bottom line question is do I "dumb down" my resume so I can at least get a job for benefits? Has anyone done that with success? I am also on LinkedIn so would I need to change that also?
The band Hot Chip recently posted a new video that uses archived footage from the 80's. I have tried in vain to find the original source for the "video dating" footage and the "Kids of Tomorrow" footage. I'm hoping someone on here has better luck/skill than me.
I am a paid intern for a small SaaS startup, and in the past month or so, I've been drowning a little at life. I remoted into the office this weekend to play catch-up, and discovered that a coworker, who until recently was also an intern, had publicly 'completed' (badly) the task clearly assigned to me, which I had already spent some time on. Our workflow tool indicates he assigned himself to the ticket. [more inside]
I haven't worn my beloved red cowboy boots in a few years. I'd like to wear them again, but the leather feels kind of dried out, and I'm worried about damaging them if I just put them on and start walking. What should I do to get them ready to wear again?
What is the difference between the farm-raised $18.99/lb salmon at my rural grocery store and the farm-raised $5.99/lb salmon I can get at Stop'n'Shop in the nearest larger town? I live in CT.
I would like to spend the month of February outside North America in a temperate seaside city with an accessible music scene. [more inside]
Hi. I want to know which bits will tell me how well off an organisation is. I want to compare a few universities. I have their annual reports which include their financials for the year but I'm not sure which bits are meaningful for what I want to know. [more inside]
My mother is moving from NYC, where she's lived for 30 years, to my town in the Boston 'burbs. It's a good location in an over 55 community that will give her independent mobility to Boston via public transit, and she'll see us, and our kidlet, regularly. But what else to do to make a good transition? [more inside]
I'm looking for sweets shaped like tentacles/squid/octopuses for a gift but apparently in this day where everything exists on the internet, these don't! Has anyone seen anything that would work? [more inside]
I've been given the opportunity to transition into international policy at my current organisation, something I have been doing for next to my more development-focused job for the past few years. Would it be wise or foolish to put this front and centre? [more inside]
I'm trying to locate a Latin/Spanish song from a few years back with almost nothing to go on. Here's what I remember... [more inside]
In 10 days I'm going to visit a friend in Harare who is a foster mother to seven girls between the ages of 11 and 16. They all live on a farm in the suburbs and watch movies, play cards, sometimes read books in the evening. What are some enriching and inspiring books and movies for teenage girls to read and watch that I can bring for them? [more inside]
I've been affected by a round of layoffs and am looking for work. The search has been going well and there are some prospects. My major source of anxiety right now is that this is happening while I am trying to get pregnant. [more inside]
I have really bad social skills that are holding me back. And I'm tired of it. Need some guidance. [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations of books, particularly novels, written in French. Details inside. [more inside]
I interviewed for a job position at this university health clinic a month ago, and received promising news. [more inside]
Sol Lewitt is famous for his instruction-based art. I'd like to find as many of his instructions as possible. [more inside]
Yesterday I had a rather disturbing encounter with a fellow suffering badly from road rage. Having worked as a commercial driver, I really don't understand what causes this? [more inside]
I've been dating a lovely woman for almost 4 years this fall but, within the past year, have developed an on-again-off-again romantic relationship with a former coworker. I feel the later has developed to a point that it is make-or-break while the former continues along without hiccup. I have a huge number of conflicting feelings... [more inside]
Help me make sense of food? Hey, first post on this site, but I've been reading for years. I don't mean to make this long but just want to cover all the bases so you guys have enough info. and don't need to ask me followup questions: [more inside]
My team is finally in the Postseason!!! Only one downside: They may be playing Game 7 of the American League Championship Series on a night when I'll be in the UK. How and where to watch it? [more inside]
How do I repair this spot on my sofa? It is on the underside of the cushion. but still somewhat visible. Something that will stop the damage and hopefully look ok-ish.
We have a house in Seattle that will need a new roof at some point in the next year. Is it crazy to attempt to have this done this winter? [more inside]
I recently came into some old camera equipment, namely a Mamiya C33 with manuals, lenses, and accessories. It looks pretty awesome, but I'm not really a fan of photography- what should I do with it? What might it be worth? [more inside]
We are probably going to be getting a dog in the next short while. I have seen this question. In terms of an update, or the most current thinking on how to keep a dog happy, manage behaviours brought on / out by being stressed in a shelter, and tips and tricks on bonding, where should we be looking / what should we be reading? [more inside]
I have anxiety/impulsivity/depression for which I am on medication. I recently was looking into anti-anxiety supplements since my meds don't work on my anxiety as well as they do for my depression. I bought a lot of them, some of which I only used for a while then stopped although I am still using many of them. I have gone on these spending binges before, and most of the time it is health related. What can I tell myself in the moment to stop myself from spending my cash? [more inside]
Have you ever decided that your current value system isn't working for you, and you'd like to switch it for another set of moral values? I've noticed I've been doing things that, whilst they aren't uncommon for a woman in her early 20s, aren't making me feel too good in hindsight. Whether that's getting drunk and dirty dancing, or taking a little too sexy photo, or other slightly crazy risky behavior...I don't want to keep having weird emotional hangovers over situations from the nights before. [more inside]
How can I respectfully and professionally decline opportunities to learn more/give more at work? [more inside]
Last month I hit a neighbor's parked car. Since then, I've let the insurance company handle it, but the neighbor has reached out to me several times, and I'm not sure how to respond. Details under the cut. [more inside]
This is what I'm talking about, but MUCH older. It uses a motor to belt drive a 10ft vertical screw, which in turn chain drives another screw on the other side. A ~2600lb car was left on a lift like this , raised to the top for the better part of a year. Can this damage the lift-screw? [more inside]
I'm looking for exceptionally well written books on topics in Jewish history that don't focus on the Holocaust, the modern state of Israel, or are "complete" histories (i.e. "A History of the Jews") [more inside]
Dear All, I have a question regarding my graphic job title. I am applying for jobs but am confused what's best to describe myself in terms of qualification on my resume. I graduated from a fine art program back in college and have been working for 10 years now. During these 10 years, I have been working for several related jobs but in relatively different fields, such as logo design, catalog layout, poster, photography, animation, video...etc., and now I am confused about what I am. My latest job is a one-man team producing graphic works from taking pictures of products to picking up catalogs from printers and eventually have them mailed out. And that was a jr. graphic designer position.... [more inside]
My friend in Mexico is getting married. I want to bring him microbrews. What is the recipe for success? [more inside]
I'd like to take my older mac mini (10.7.5 is the max OS) and use it for some select file sharing with my family. Ideally, I'd like them to be able to see the file list from several hard drives, mark a file as something they'd like to transfer, and have it transfer only during the evening hours. [more inside]
I recently came into possession of a juvenile bearded dragon. I realized, despite precursory research, I don't really know how to care for it. [more inside]
My nearly-7-year old is having a very difficult time losing. Any suggestions? [more inside]
Fancy cars are quiet inside, and comfortable. My 2006 Civic is neither. Help me improve it. Insulate it from road noise, better (higher?) seats... all ideas welcome. Pricing and tutorial links appreciated.
I would like to eat canned sardines and/or anchovies at least 4 times a week, totaling 12oz total, mainly for the omega-3 benefits. Issues: I am not a big fish lover, and I do not eat carby foods. Help? [more inside]
I have a question about eating disorders and dental health. It's probably not something you want to read if you are also struggling with ED or in recovery. [more inside]
I'm thinking about a trip to Cuba. Travel groups seem to cost around $4000 a person including airfare from Florida, nowhere near where I live. This is more than I want to spend. I've been reading for years about illegal travel to Cuba via another country, but it's always scared me off... [more inside]
What's the safest way to deal with tons of old cat poop? [more inside]
How can people help me as a caregiver for my spouse who is in hospice care? [more inside]
My husband was diagnosed with sleep apnea after a sleep study in April. Ever since, we have been on a nightmare ride with a medical supply company called Carecentrix. Billing for the CPAP device and its accessories (mask, tubes, filters) is an obscure and mysterious process. Multiple bills a month, customer service reps that cannot tell us the ultimate cost of the machine -- how do I extricate us from this incredibly frustrating medical supply issue? What is the best course of action after seeing how poorly this company is rated by the BBB and customers? [more inside]
Hi everyone, I'm trying to translate words from English to Arabic while reading a book in the Amazon Kindle app on an Android Tablet. Arabic is listed in the Bing Translate app but doesn't appear as an option when I'm reading a book in Amazon Kindle. I want to be able to click on the word and get a translation, not have to go out of the app and into Bing Translate. Any advice? Thanks!
I can't take this any longer. I am going to start a blog with weekly posts highlighting the poor, misleading graphics in the newspaper I read. To do this I need a scanner for linux and a blog host. [more inside]
I went through a long interview process and it turns out the person who was leading that process knew they were leaving, knew whom I'd be reporting to once they were gone, and actively withheld that from me. I don't think I can stay, I'm not sure what my next steps should be. [more inside]
I'm making a fridge clearing chicken curry tomorrow (generic type, spices, coconut milk, peanut oil and ghee, carrots and onion and peas and whatever ends of greens or stay tomato we have) and I was wondering what I could do to dress it up? Stuff like grinding and roasting whole spices or adding toasted nuts. Things you could do if you wanted an easy fridge-clearing curry recipe but also had some time to refine and fuss over the little touches. [more inside]
As above - if I give a bj to my boyfriend as foreplay and then put a condom on him, will my saliva make it more likely it will slip off? [more inside]
I've gotten out of a ten-year plus job that was essentially (if not in reality) a protected workplace and not too difficult and now am going to tackle (have been hired for) a new, higher-up and better paying one (before the first job I was very sick for quite a while and therefore couldn't work at all so missed out on the opportunity to learn about much about the Big Girl/Big Boy details of life in the workplace). Because of this, I feel like I really don't know what I should be doing (besides the work I mean). What is your very best advice for being/appearing professional on the job? I know about not gossiping and being on time.
We are trying to avoid foreclosure on a house that we love, but has significant issues that we may not be able to afford to fix. Namely, moisture damage/mold. Are there risks in asking the mortgage company to help? [more inside]
I'm in my early 40s, female, weigh more than I should, walk regularly. Every once in a while (walking across the room or on a walk through the neighborhood), I will take a step and get a sharp pain in a joint that makes me gasp. On subsequent steps the joint will feel completely fine. [more inside]
I was chatting with a friend, and we were wondering whether experienced buyers and sellers of real estate sometimes use special numbers when bidding, the way it's done in bridge. Or really, whether there's anything besides bridge that does this.
I've gotten addicted to trail running the last six months, and having completed my first trail race, I've decided it's time to buy myself some new trail runners as a reward. I've been looking at the Brooks Cascadia 10 but note that it is intended for neutral pronation. Any suggestions for trail runners suitable for overpronation? [more inside]
I'm working on creating a Wordpress-based website for a friend who is about to announce his candidacy for an elected office (county-level). [more inside]
Any idea what this old cast iron pan was used for? It has eight shallow oval depressions in it, and I have no idea what would have been made in them. [more inside]
I have been scouring the internet looking for information on O'Keefe and Merritt ranges, specifically manuals for models produced in the late 1950's, but I haven't had much luck. Anyone have any sources that could help me understand my vintage range? [more inside]
I'm working at a meeting in New Orleans next week - arriving Wednesday afternoon and leaving Saturday afternoon. I have breaks during the day and free evenings. Previously, I toured Jackson Square, Bourbon Street, the Superdome, and the Garden District via streetcar. I'll be staying one block from the French Quarter - a twenty minute walk from Cafe Du Monde, which I will take advantage of daily. [more inside]
Can you help me figure out what they're saying in this episode of The Black Tapes podcast? [more inside]
I steam potatoes in the steamer. Did this 14 oz one up, cut open when done, wtf is that in the dead center? Russet. am I THAT hungry?
I've been spending Gothic-teenager amounts of time in old cemeteries lately (in the US). I have many spoopy questions about the old-timey headstones I've seen! [more inside]
It was a children's picture book from the 1970s about a girl's day at the beach. Here's what I remember about it... The author is female, and the illustrations were watercolour. The story is told from the first person perspective, and its simply a girl having fun all by herself at the beach. When it starts to rain, she's already wet so she doesn't mind. Eventually she makes it back to her cottage (or maybe her home), and her mom wraps her up and makes her cocoa. The girl observes that it's a strange thing to have cocoa in August. [more inside]
I remember playing with this game with friends back in the late 90s on a PowerPC Mac. It had cartoony anthropomorphic animal characters (police-cat, stoner-dog, a business-suit hedgehog etc.) and a variety of backgrounds like a movie theater, diner, street-corner etc. [more inside]
Ideas for a relaxing lakeside vacation in California (and surrounding areas)? [more inside]
Was at Planet Fitness and over the last week they kept playing a new pop song that has a refrain that sounds something like "I believe in my self" or "I be leading myself". It's a guy singing, and it's an upbeat pop song definitely issued very recently. Anyone know this one? I'm going insane trying to find it with no luck. I must have misheard the refrain.
I'm looking for clothing stores within driving distance of Dayton, Ohio that are known for their quality. [more inside]
I feel like asking this is almost as bad (or maybe worse) than 'can I eat it' questions but these have been weighing on my mind for a while and I find myself with extra time to read. Do you recognize either of these books? Apologies for the incredibly vague details! [more inside]
Through questionable sources, aka teenagers I work with, I've discovered a fake underage tinder profile that is using my name and photos and the headline, "17, pansexual artist/sculptor". What do I do? This isn't my first copycat but it is my first underage copycat, and working with teenagers this has me extremely frustrated/anxious.
I am interested in reading as widely as possible about the concept of children's rights. What resources would you recommend? [more inside]
I am attending a sweet 16 birthday party tomorrow and would like ideas for a gift card. [more inside]
I've been asked to edit a manuscript using the Chicago Manual of Style. I have only a glancing familiarity with this style from an editing point of view although as a reader/writer of fiction I know this is the standard in that publishing industry. As someone who mainly edits using (in decreasing order of familiarity) AP style, MLA style, and APA style, is it possible to give myself a crash course in Chicago? If so, what are the main differences I should keep an eye out for and potential quirks of the style I might not anticipate? [more inside]
Dearest Hivemind - Does anyone know of examples where the rules of a community or society fall apart after the community becomes less cohesive (i.e., the members of the community come to depend less on each other and interact more infrequently)? I imagine, for example, an instance where you have norms for helping others out in times of need (like sharing food), but then people become less dependent on each other and those norms dissolve. Examples from the academic literature are especially appreciated and they could occur on any scale (e.g., a children's clubhouse, a hunter-gatherer band, an American mid-century town, an organization, contemporary Japan). THANKS!!
What are effective ways of memorizing written material (i.e. studying for an exam) without taking notes by hand? Have you successfully switched from taking handwritten notes and making diagrams to some other method? [more inside]
My 7th grader is fascinated with Japan and Japanese culture and has been asking for a long time if we can go to Japan. I've never traveled overseas and have no idea where to start. [more inside]
I have a four month old breast-fed baby who poops every five or six days. I know that's normal, but she's very uncomfortable and sleeps terribly on the last day or two. I've heard that baby probiotic drops help, but they are so expensive. Before I start spending $30 a month to get my baby to poop I want to know if they're actually effective. So, on a scale of (1) amber teething necklace to (10) baby Tylenol, how well do they work to prevent baby constipation?
What advice can you provide for keeping a little dog warm and healthy during the long cold months of winter in Minnesota? [more inside]
The Son of Jordemort (9 mos old, 6 mos adjusted) is lately very interested in daddy's job, which, as far as he understands it, involves smacking at the screens and keyboards of various devices. I feel like there's got to be at least a few full-screen apps out there that would emit various entertaining sounds and colors in response to his prodding, but I'm having a hard time finding what I'm looking for. Any suggestions? [more inside]
I wore a pair of vegan boots to work yesterday. A few hours later, one was wrecked. How did this happen? Pics and details under the fold. [more inside]
We have no cable and usually don't even know what sports season it is. But my wife is really excited about the Cubs/Mets series for reasons I don't completely understand. She asked me to get the games. Help? [more inside]
I'm looking at commuting to Raleigh for a 6 month contract. I need help keeping busy. [more inside]
My family has decided we're relocating to Austin. We need help finding a trustworthy real estate agent to help us buy a home there, since we currently live in a different part of the country. [more inside]
A former colleague will be on the panel for an upcoming interview. I'm curious if anyone in this forum has had a similar experience or, if not, if anyone has any thoughts on how to approach it. [more inside]
I moved into a great new place yesterday, with a garden. I have hit the Holy Grail of Paris-area apartments. However. Garden has plants from previous tenant. I have cats. Cats will nom the plants. I'm unfamiliar with a few of the plants, and am particularly worried about curious noms of this one. MeFi, can my cats eat these? Or should I remove them? [more inside]
I live in a mid-size apartment (1,313 sq ft). The current layout of the apartment consists of a large square-shaped living/dining area, and doors along one wall leading to the bedrooms. I'm thinking of adding a full height shelf in order to create a corridor leading to the bedrooms, in order to add more separation between the two areas. But this will cut down on the spaciousness and openness of my living area. Is it worth it? Are there any architectural/design concepts that I can look at to help me decide? [more inside]
I am interested in building a collection of illustrated Bibles that are varied in form. What are the most unusual Bibles that you know of? I cannot afford thousand-dollar tomes, so mass-produced ones would be better for me. Anything from reproductions of Medieval manuscripts to very contemporary ones would be interesting to me.
If I want to try to do a fair amount of editing, is it better to record audio tracks or MIDI tracks? [more inside]
Does anybody know if Chromebooks are available for sale in Romania? If so, where? (preferably in Bucharest)
One shower in our two-bath ranch house backs up whenever we use the other shower, and then drains exceedingly slowly. Tell me what kind of thing this is that I don't know how to do. [more inside]
If it is legal, is there any variance from one state to another? [more inside]
I'm male, mid 30s. I've been dating a woman (GF) close to my age for several weeks now. My best friend (BF) is female, early 30s. I have a camping trip coming up with BF (we do this semi-frequently). GF doesn't want me to go because "grown men in relationships don't go camping alone with other women". Is she right? [more inside]
Extended family of a teenage girl from a multicultural family (American and African) seeking laypersons' reading list on navigating psychiatric services in the US. You're not our physician, psychiatrist, or therapist. I'm not the parent. To navigate the US pediatric psychiatric system from a standing start, what do you recommend parents read? [more inside]
I got a fantastic job offer, but it's in Phoenix. I'm not sure I'd like living in Phoenix. Is it worth taking a much (much!) better job if you're not crazy about the locale? [more inside]
So I usually feed the cats dry and wet food. Well I use a cat feeder and I think it works but does not fill up the bowl. It delivers food on the back of the bowl but does not fill up the bowl. Well now my husband and I are gone for the night and I can't help it but sit here and worry that they are starving and not getting enough food. I will be back tommorow but I left today this morning and I didn't expect I will be gone for the night. They just have this feeder that is supposed to throw down food by gravity. Like I say I think it works but they need to get it out from the back with the paw. Will they do that?
My cat is very sick and has gone into hiding. I'm trying to decide if I can give affection without adding to her stress. [more inside]
My ex moved out roughly 2 weeks ago. I'm feeling extremely sad and alone. How do I not jump into another relationship right away? [more inside]
I feel insane for even posting about this, but my (ever-so-slight) anxiety is getting the best of me! Around two months ago, I accepted a job with a great company. It is what they are calling a "W2 contractor" position. So, I'm a W2 employee where they take care of deducting taxes from my paycheck for me, but I don't receive any health benefits, PTO, etc. etc. I'm paid hourly, and my hourly wage is well above the norm, I'm guessing to help offset the lack of benefits. Some weeks I work 40 hours, others I work 15 or so... it depends on the workload available. Essentially, it's kind of like being a part time employee. [more inside]
Let's say I wanted my Mac to be able to display every Unicode character. I mean EVERY character. Not just the useful ones. I want Ancient Greek Musical Notation (U+1D200..U+1D24F). Or Pau Cin Hau (U+11AC0–U+11AFF), a script created by and named after the 19th-century founder of a religion in Northwest Myanmar. Or the undeciphered glyphs engraved on the Phaistos Disc (U+101D0..U+101FF). How can I accomplish my goal while doing the least work sourcing and installing fonts? [more inside]
I'm working on a personal project to teach myself a new programming skill, specifically scraping website data. The project will analyze some data that I can get from a publically available website, and I think others in my industry would be interested in the results. Before I get too far into this, I want to make sure I'm not violating any of he site's terms of service, or find out if this is a generally acceptable practice. [more inside]
On doctor's orders, I need to fairly drastically change my diet and activity level on short notice. I've never had to watch or track what I ate. The specific goal is to maintain a healthy blood pressure and I am highly motivated; I've explained why inside. If you've done this, what tools did you use to plan and track your progress? What changes were most important in reducing your blood pressure? [more inside]
How do I fix it? [more inside]
Considering replacing my stereo receiver from the 90s. Do I even need to do this? [more inside]
This woman was at the Democratic National Convention - Miami, 1972. [Source - the image in question is about a third of the way down the page]
General question - how do you pass your free time while you're home by yourself? Free time is supposed to be fun and relaxing, isn't it? I get so bored after a while of doing anything alone and feel like I'm not good enjoying my own company. [more inside]
I test terribly. I think I know why, but that's not the point of this question: instead of strategies for me to do better during a test, I'm looking for ways to prevent the aftermath of a badly-taken test from ruining the rest of my day/week. [more inside]
Occasionally, I get a glimpse of exactly how (un)important my first world problems are. How can I hold onto that in everyday life? [more inside]
My question relates to my Previous Ask from January. The once-postponed, drama-filled wedding plans of one of my best friends since adolescence are now (allegedly) back on again! Looks like I may need to actively excuse myself from being the MOH this time, that is, IF this wedding actually happens... [more inside]
I've had a 2014 Brodie Argus for about a year. It's a hell of a bike and exactly what I was looking for. But I can't get the disc brakes to stop grinding and squeaking. Help? [more inside]
Title says it: Help us identify ways to reward our 5yo for desired behavior that are easy for the parents to follow through on, have immediate payoff, and won't clutter up the floor too badly. We want mostly small rewards, with a few medium-to-large ones mixed in. [more inside]
As opposed to natura non facit saltus. Is it just natura facit saltus? I want to be emphatic that it does saltate. Google Translate and other translation systems are giving divergent answers.
I need Excel to stop reverting my written date into a serial date. It is not cooperating. [more inside]
I need to replace my doors going out to my deck. [more inside]
I am a healthy (daily exercise, normal weight) 32yo male. Two weeks ago I got a gastrointestinal virus that lasted a few days and then immediately afterwards got a bad cold. I think the cold was so bad because I was weakened from the gastro virus. Now, two weeks later, today is the first day I don't feel sick. However, I feel *really* tired. Normally I sleep five hours a night, but yesterday I slept for 10 hours. Despite that, I feel like I could sleep all day. Is it normal to feel so tired after a bad cold?
I may be coming up on two different opportunities within my company and I'm debating which one to take. I'm looking for advice on what others have done in similar situations and how it worked out for them. [more inside]
I have been a series of unsuccessful relationships where my feelings disappeared over time. I cannot feel love for my long term partner, but also no longer feel love for family members. I have a history of severe depression, which is clearly an issue, but am not currently feeling particularly depressed (by my own standards, if not those of most people). I don't know how to proceed in my current relationship, as I don't know if my feelings are masked, possibly recoverable or just gone forever. I have posted here before about other emotional issues, but I’m keeping this anonymous because the other threads would link this one back to me. The MeFi community was *amazing* last time. This is a much more complex issue, but I would still appreciate your views. Can I learn to love - my partner, myself, anyone? [more inside]
My 2BR 1BA apartment is 50% of my take home pay now. Please help me decide if I should move to an even more expensive place. Wall of informative text inside. My lease is not up until March, so I have some time to think through this. [more inside]
I'm about to make the move from an iPhone to a Nexus 5X running Android. If you've made the iOS to Android switch recently, what was your experience like? What surprised you? What confused you? What did you forget to think about and do that you wish you had?
Visited my Grandpa last night, and he's bored. He has very poor eyesight, nearly deaf, motor skills are deteriorating, short of breath...but he's still sharp as a tack. What can he do as a pastime, rather than sit on the couch all day? [more inside]
For almost a year now, I've been experiencing stomach cramps - and then vomiting - soon after eating. It seems to be tied to eating (slightly) too much, maybe? [more inside]
I grew up in Wisconsin and spent many summers of my youth vacationing in small towns like Minocqua, St. Germain, Egg Harbor, and Bayfield. Where should I vacation in Michigan? [more inside]
Asking for a colleague. A student is struggling to keep up with the standards of ninth grade English because the teachers are asking him to do in-depth textual analysis. His parents want a book that might help him to improve this skill at home. They are also considering other options but have asked me to research this one. I haven't met the student. Information from American education professionals would be most helpful. Thank you!
I'm going on a cub scout camping trip tonight as part of the campfire entertainment I want to recite Sam McGee. [more inside]
The title says it all, with two caveats: 1. Don't want to have to enter in all the passwords to various password protected apps. Number two is below the fold. [more inside]
My wife and I are headed to Chastain Park to see Mark Knopfler next Saturday. Can anyone recommend a restaurant on that side of town? It could be really high end but if it's just cool, that's cool too. We're beer fans and have no food restrictions. Thanks!
My ride for this coming Monday flaked on me. Is there any way for me to get from Hotel IBIS Dreilinden in Kleinmachnow to Tegel/Berlin Airport at 11am that ISN'T an 80euro taxi ride? Thanks!
I've been listening to Albert Ayler's Spiritual Unity. I like it, or substantial parts of it. However, I do not understand why it's an "important" record, as most people seem to agree that it is. I do not know anything technical about music at all, although I listen to a lot of it, and to a lot of "noise" records. Can anyone explain what this album is doing and why it is important? [more inside]
I'm opening up a popup shop in November. The building is not wired for internet and the landlord doesn't want to wire it as such due to the short-term lease. I know about mobile payment systems like Square, but none that I can determine can take Debit in Canada (they're credit card only). This does not work for me. Are there non-Square alternatives that do take debit in Canada? Thanks.
I've been looking at bulk SMS solutions for our organisation and thought I'd check with the hive. I'm using clickatell.com at the moment but it's rather bulky, so have this idea about using a flat fee mobile phone account. Let's hear what you think… [more inside]
HI, We recently had a lovely couple visit us from China, and they left behind these two broaches/pins (could be something as well). Already said thank you, but have absolutely no clue what they are or their function. Google hasn't helped!
I have a practical need/personal desire to have some outdoor plants in containers -- some small, some medium, some large containers--as well as, preferably, some hanging baskets. However: I hate caring for outdoor plants in containers. What plants might a disinterested-but-interested gardener use with these constraints? [more inside]
Is there anything MS Excel does that LibreOffice doesn't that an undergrad econ major is likely to have to do? I am not asking about esthetics. I know one is prettier. Is there a crucial missing capability? Likewise Google Sheets. Anything important missing? Or, something that just works so differently as to be crazy making? [more inside]
My friends and I will be in Iceland for four days in late December. The plan is to start in Reykjavik on our first day and to end at the Blue Lagoon on the last day. Now we're trying to decide what to do with our free time. [more inside]
My good friend is in the hospital across the country. She is my age (mid-20s) and has a ton of potential. Because of school and money I only have one chance to fly out, so I won't be visiting her (she is also heavily sedated anyways). There is an at least 50% chance she will die of this (though that is an older number and it has likely gotten worse since then). I'm looking for quotes, poems, prayers, or stories not for her, but for her friends, to help deal with this uncertainty and stress. [more inside]
A good friend bought me a coloring book for adults ("Secret Garden: An Inky Treasure Hunt") for my birthday, and I'm excited to start using it. Which pencils should I choose? [more inside]
I'm creating an activity for a class of grad students where we each create a photo during a class session and then somehow share/compile them in a feed. Is there some app or website platform in which people could individually send or post the photo from their smartphone or computer, and they would appear on one page? Preferably without requiring them to log in or create an account. [more inside]
Is there a way to count how many times a specific twitter account has tweeted out a hashtag? [more inside]
My partner crashed her bike in Denver last night. She's banged up, but okay. One of her front teeth was broken in the fall. She needs help finding a dentist to repair or replace it. [more inside]
I don't have an oven/stove, but I do have 7 pounds of tomatoes that really need to be used up in the next few days. Help? [more inside]
I'm looking for guided meditations that have sound effects. For example they tell me I'm walking through a field and I can hear footsteps step in the grass. Does this type of meditation have a name so I can google it properly? Does anyone have any recommendations? [more inside]
I work in a small office where everyone's computer is a Windows PC. We need the option to send each other a instant message when it would be easier to do that then to get up and go down the hall to ask a question in person. What would be a good FREE program that would be suitable for us? We do not use Microsoft Outlook, we use GoDaddy for our email server.
My mom has dementia. She's in denial about this dementia, and her denial has created some difficulties. I feel guilty, but acting as her primary caregiver is starting to affect me adversely. [more inside]
I am looking for the best book about ILLUMINATED MANUSCRIPTS. Not a reproduction of an illuminated manuscript but an informative history. [more inside]
Now that Mr. St. Hubbins and I own our own home, a whole-house humidifier (the kind that hook up to your furnace) sounds like the greatest thing since ice cream delivery. But I can't seem to find anything online except slightly spammy sites that shill for particular brands. Anyone have or know anything about them? [more inside]
I suffer from gastroparesis and have done so for some time. The one med that was helpful was taken off the market years ago. One thing I've found that helps is marijuana. I can only try it very occasionally for a variety of reasons (no network, etc.). Washington, D.C., allows medical marijuana to be prescribed for a variety of conditions. The problem is: My gastroenterologist will not consider prescribing it for me. [more inside]
We just got a used 2012 Subaru Impreza hatchback that only came with one key. We'd like another one, but we don't really want to pay a Subaru dealer $250 to make it. We're looking for a "valet key," not necessarily the remote entry key—no schmancy fob necessary. I did a little googling and it looks like you can't simply take your key to the local locksmith. The key blank contains a chip that requires programming to match your vehicle, so it's not a simple fix like I thought. Is there a way to do this that's cheaper than just having the dealer handle it?
Which online brokerage service do I open an account with? Who do I use? Scottrade? E-trade? Someone else? [more inside]
I've been a reasonably satisfied Verizon FiOS customer for a number of years, but they seem to be getting stingier with their discounts for existing customers. I've thought about doing the customer retention game again, but I'm not willing to call their bluff and go to another provider. I've read online that some people have had success canceling and signing up again under their spouses' name. Has anyone done this? If so, do they give full new customer discounts? Do you have to cancel service for some number of days, return equipment, etc?
Do you know of active irc/forum/slack/other channels for those of us who care for a relative at home? A space to vent and chat and just say 'out loud' that which you can't speak out loud.
I would like to buy this superhero T-shirt, depicting the Justice League and with cool stripes on the sleeves. Any leads? [more inside]
Due to some unexpected events at work (layoffs), I am job hunting. I am currently working on a second masters degree, and am wondering if I should list that on my resume, or just the one I have completed. I am not quite half way complete, and am part time. I estimate that finishing it will take me another two years. When would it be appropriate to list it with an expected graduation date? Thanks!
I'm heading to a sf writing workshop in Massachusetts and I was planning on staying with some friends in Boston on Friday night (TOMORROW) on my way there. I was planning on enjoying a day in Boston and hanging out with these friends. Unfortunately, they are sick – pneumonia or something. Uh oh. [more inside]
I want to leave my life half of the month—is this the truth? Or is the truth the first half of the month, when things are basically fine? [more inside]
I've rotated through a ton of shampoo products in the past year, but my skin keeps breaking out. What to do? [more inside]
We're making a jack-o-lantern this year, and would like to find some stencils for designs. Most of what I'm finding online is from homemaking magazines and isn't to my taste. [more inside]
The heat registers in one room of my house do not output very much air. I estimate less than 10% of the flow that comes from any other register in the house. I have easy access to all of the ductwork in my unfinished basement. I would like to open up the duct from the furnace as the first step of troubleshooting this problem. I've never done any ductwork before. Is ductwork straightforward, at least in a take-it-apart and put-it-back together sense? [more inside]
I'm getting divorced. As a non-primary caregiver with joint legal custody, should I ask to stay in the marital house on the weekends, in order to be with the kids? [more inside]
Hi everyone, I have an interview tomorrow with a company for a really interesting job but I'm unsure of what to wear. Details below. [more inside]
Our kiddo is in Pre-K, where he gets frustrated that he can't do fine motor skills (writing, drawing), then he doesn't listen to the teacher. Otherwise, he's a bright, good kid. How can we help him overcome his annoyance at his own limited capabilities? [more inside]
Canadian politics filter: because I have a strange compulsion to waste my time arguing politics with people who believe Harper has been unfairly maligned by the “liberal media”, I’d like to collect a list of ways our current government has been deliberately corrupt: cold hard facts, with citations, from sources as unbiased as possible. [more inside]
Can/should I taper this short course of prednisone? 4 mg/day for 4 days. [more inside]
Where can I find inspiration for planner decoration that is geared towards various alternative/weirdo types - e.g. queers, geeks, artists, activists, certain subcultures? [more inside]
I have a specific question for those of you who have "The Silence of the Lambs" (novel) and/or "The Maltese Falcon" (novel) on an ebook or searchable device. How many times does the word "suddenly" appear? [more inside]
I'm planning a cocktail party in San Francisco for some friends and colleagues and - coming from New York City - it's hard to tell from online searches what would be an appropriate place. Details... [more inside]
Should I throw out my cardboard moving boxes? [more inside]
I switched over to using my Macbook as my primary computer about a month ago, and turned on Time Machine. I'm backing up to an external 4TB Seagate HDD. Time Machine worked fine until a few days ago, when I noticed that the hourly backups weren't firing. Early 2015 13-inch Retina Macbook Pro running 10.10.5. [more inside]
How do I transition from "pink collar" admin jobs to...anything else? Wrinkle: most likely moving to a (much) smaller city some time next year. [more inside]
Years ago I ran across a term for the scars left behind on buildings by previously existing details or even other connected buildings. The line of a former wall, a connected roofline, that sort of thing. As time will do, the years have erased the term from my memory. I'm working on a small documentary project involving those scars, and would love to use the name . . . Any ideas what that term might have been? Thanks!
Should I root my Samsung Galaxy S5? [more inside]
I'm a newly recovering addict, and I just did something stupid- left inpatient rehab 5 days into the program- for a fairly good reason: Patients at this particular institution aren't allowed to READ "non-recovery-related material" during free time. Good news in, I'm going back tomorrow- but not before a trip to the discount bookstore to pick up any and all readable "recovery-related material" I can put my hands on. Problem: This is not a genre with which I am familiar. Help? [more inside]
If you can read Japanese, please let us know what these pants say. thanks!
During the school break, my teenager with moderate social anxiety and related perfectionist anxiety needs to work to earn some side cash/pocket money. Older siblings worked at fast food places, dogsat, did data entry, etc. at the same age, but these aren't working out for him at all. I need ideas for work that can be done from home and aren't total "makework". [more inside]
I found a lined journal in a Michael's sale bin a month and a half ago that has the perfect paper (recycled, I think) for writing with my cheapo but beloved fountain pen (recently purchased purple ink cartridges and everything is wonderful). I've filled it up already, and want another one. Where can I find one please? [more inside]
What are the adaptations in your house that you've made to make your life a little easier (e.g., walk-in shower, service dog)? Is the limited mobility something you think about every day, or does it just become a part of your life after a while? [more inside]
I have a garden bed in Sydney, Australia, that is in part shade, but it's clearly now too hot for the rocket and other lettuces that were in there, as they are all bolting as soon as they mature. What should I replace them with for the summer months? [more inside]
I need to use my iPhone to find out where I drank last weekend. Lost some things I must have set down at a bar. [more inside]
How to get a job after being unemployed for 3 months? [more inside]
How would you express your thanks, in the form of a group gift, to medical professionals in two offices -- which would include cardiac surgeon and his huge staff + a cardiologist and his smaller staff -- when you're barely making it down the stairs at this point and can't shop in person? [more inside]
My old gas boiler is on the fritz and may have to be replaced. Which brands and models of gas boiler furnaces are known for reliability? Which aren't? I've found furnacecompare.com but are there other sources? Any gas boiler repair/HVAC MeFi'ers out there who have some insight into this? Thanks!
Exactly as it says on the tin: the Animal Care & Control (city shelter) or the SPCA -- which offers a better experience for a volunteer, particularly one who wants to work with kitties? [more inside]
Hi, I am working on a story and I have a sentence that says, "Please give them the food packets." Can anyone tell me if that is second person point of view or if it's third person point of view. Thanks in advance.
I want to change my career, but I'm not sure the "go back to grad school" advice I'm getting is sound. The idea of tons of student debt (I'm debt-free now) seems unappealing and I have no idea what to study. [more inside]
I have a couple pairs of stockings with unusual patterns and I always feel dressed up and fancy when I wear them, so I want more! [more inside]
I'm really happy with my Capital One credit card that I've had for about 9 years now. Over the past few years, I've discovered that I also really, really like how easy it is to file a dispute over charges for things, like defective items that merchants won't refund or monthly subscription fees that went through despite having being cancelled. However, I feel like maybe I use this feature more than most people. Could I lose my beloved card if Capital One things I'm too big of a PITA? [more inside]
When I was in grade six (around 1995) we had a teacher that read us a couple of YA books that I think were by the same author. One was about firefighters trying to battle a forest fire. The other one was about being lost in a desert or a sandstorm or something? [more inside]
Since childhood I've had an obsessive need to have heavy objects in my possession. I have been searching for a smooth granite gargoyle with not much luck. It must be granite and polished smooth. I would like it to be on the heavier side, at least 15-20 lbs. [more inside]
What are some good international sites for writing about contemporary art? Especially interested in non-Western sources. I'm including the list I've compiled in the explanation. [more inside]
Asking for a friend: Do you know of a good venue in NYC (preferably Brooklyn!) for a party that will include a screening, two live bands and DJs, aerial silks, a fire performer, and a custom cocktail bar? [more inside]
Mr. Songs_About_Rainbows is interviewing for a job in Des Moines. What will we love about being in a Midwestern paradise? What should we be prepared to not like so much? [more inside]
Thinking of getting first ever tattoo. I have Googled, and I have asked around, but I would like more data points from the permanently-decorated Metafilter crowd. [more inside]
At the age of 32, I've finally become an adult with my own apartment. Now I need an adult-sized audio/visual set up. Is it possible to have Chromecast (or other) plugged into a projector, and somehow getting the audio to go to wireless speakers? Also, when the projector is turned off, I'd like to be able to use those wireless speakers with Spotify. How do I set it all up? [more inside]
I want to give stripping a go to save up some money while I write my dissertation. How do I do this right? [more inside]
Kidney stone removal and having a stent put in, will I be okay to work the next day? [more inside]
I've long noticed a pattern in my industry that women get pushed out (or move out?) of creative roles and into "Mom" roles. The stop being compositors/animators/developers and become production assistants and production coordinators. Pay-wise and career-respect-wise, it's a lot like being the default parent - not much pay, and not much respect. Lately, I've noticed more stereotypically gay men (leaning toward the twink/pup variety) taking on production assistant/coordinator roles. Is this related at all to gender roles and default parenting, or am I noticing trends which do not exist? [more inside]
I am dubious of a colleague’s assertions about statistics. [more inside]
So after taking advantage of some great sales, I am now the proud owner of a bunch of collectible fashion dolls that are lovely and delightful. I'm having a hard time deciding whether or not I want to unbox and display them all since they come with stands, or keep them in their cute boxes just in case. If I were made of money, I'd have two sets and this wouldn't be an issue. As it stands, I'm not. If you're a collector of such things, how did you make this choice?
I'm planning on getting a new tattoo but it's been so long since my last one that I need to find a new artist. Does anyone have a recommendation for someone good in Toronto? [more inside]
I have a dim memory of a cartoon in which, if I remember right, a scientific badger sort of fellow goes on adventures with Wind In The Willows type dudes. Most likely they go into outer space. [more inside]
I've been trying off and on for years to remember (at least) the title of a miscellany intended for young children. [more inside]
I will be moderating a political debate for a local election. I've never done this before. Any advice? I don't have any input into the structure of the debate. The questions will be pre-written (not by me) and there is no audience Q&A. But I'd appreciate tips on things like how to begin and wrap up, how to enforce time limits, and anything else I should be thinking about.
Related to this question: My former supervisor is telling former colleagues that I "owe the company money" - is there any recourse here? [more inside]
I've had this concept in my head that I'm pretty sure I picked up in economics/management studies but I can't recall its name: The division of labor between an executive and her direct support staff is that staff can advise the executive about decisions to make, but ultimately she makes the decision and they then have to carry out that directive or policy (regardless of whether it's justified in their opinion). I had assumed I was thinking of the principal-agent problem, but that's clearly something else. What is this concept called?
Three years ago we sold a house that we had bought thinking it was 1900 sqft but was actually around 1600 sqft. Metafilter provided excellent advice at the time. We're now under contract to buy a new house that we absolutely love and there's a square footage discrepancy between the property tax record and the MLS listing. The MLS listing is about 275 square feet more (2116 sqft vs. 1,841 sqft). Last time the square footage difference was due to a furnished basement. This time it's because of potentially unpermitted additions. How big of a deal is this? [more inside]
Give me your most creative and tastiest salad recipes! [more inside]
The last two pairs of Corcoran jump boots I've bought each lasted about 8 months before they self-destructed. Does anyone make similar boots that won't need to be replaced every year?
I have been asked to come in for a interview for a job that would be a good opportunity for me. My husband's ex-wife, who I have never met, works there. How should I handle this? [more inside]
I have applied for a job which will mean I will be self employed and have some questions about it. Please help this Noob navigate these waters... [more inside]
A few years ago I was in Thailand and bought a bag of popcorn from a vendor. It was sweeter than I expected, and when I asked what was on it I was told it was just honey. It was light, and not at all sticky, even though the weather was insanely hot and humid. How can I recreate this at home? [more inside]
Target "updated" their C9 Champion "Enthusiast" sports bras and now I'm sad. What brand is a good replacement for the old styles? [more inside]
I'm looking for recommendations on books that explain how to properly develop a long-term relationship with a view towards long-term commitment/marriage. Any ideas? [more inside]
Hallo. I just arrived in London today for a conference and I'm very tired. I brought my Moto G (1st gen, I think -- not LTE) from Canada, and bought a pay-as-you-go SIM card from EE. Phone and text work fine, but data speeds are miserable -- 0.15 download/upload. It's only connecting on the EDGE network, and I can't get it to use HSPDA. Am I screwed re: data speed? The people at the EE store weren't very helpful; they variably said the speed would improve in a few hours, or that it wouldn't improve at all because it's a Canadian phone. [more inside]
I want some books about women going on the traditional hero's journey! Ideally, non-fantasy and non-young adult. [more inside]
A guy I started talking to on a dating website texts me continually after I leave work in the evenings, and now wants to talk on the phone before our first date. He's been SUPER nice and he's clearly psyched. But I feel suffocated, and our first date isn't even for another 3 days. [more inside]
What should I have engraved on the compass I'm using to propose to my guy? I'm normally good with words, but my brain is only churning out cheesy (and bland) and I'm stuck in a spiral of overthinking... [more inside]
A former fried of my bf stopped speaking to him over some petty issue (he feels slighted for every small thing). I don't like the guy - he treats his gf and other people like crap (talks over them, has a bad temper, impatient, etc.), so I was happy that my bf will stop associating with him. My bf has also come to conclusion he doesn't need to be friends with this guy, but wanted to superficially smooth things over to avoid the awkwardness that has ensued whenever they hang out in their group of common friends. This guy has rebuffed him 3 times and I know my bf is feeling a lot of anxiety and stress about it. What should I tell him to do? [more inside]
Should I take a job offer at a non-profit with lower salary but other nice benefits? [more inside]
Right now things are going fairly well for me. So why do I feel dissatisfied? This question is probably going to seem really whiny and first world problems. I’m sorry for that. [more inside]
It turns out I enjoy doing cleans, but my gym isn't equipped to let me drop the bar. What to do? [more inside]
I am seeking an in-person, professional (or experienced) and thoroughly entertaining reading that won't make me feel like the reader thinks they're getting one over... [more inside]
Hi everyone. There is a 20 year old German exchange student in my class (I'm pursuing a professional degree). I'm 26. I admire him a great deal and I miss our conversations. He's who I aspire to be as a human being: someone who radiates goodness and spends his time buried in books when he's not training for an upcoming triathlon. We were friends and then because of my stupid feelings, we slept together. [more inside]
I have Kaiser insurance through my mom's employer (I'm 23), but due to the fact that I'm trans and have psychiatric illnesses I'm really unsatisfied with the care that I get through Kaiser. Let's put it this way: I'm totally at my wit's end. More and more I'm thinking it might be a good idea to buy a PPO plan (Blue Shield, et al) through Covered California this enrollment period. Could you help me suss out some of the issues at play here? Snowflake details within. [more inside]
Next Wednesday I'm driving from Montreal to Northampton, Mass., staying overnight, and then driving back the next day. Are there routes/places you can recommend to see some great fall foliage? [more inside]
What public creative person (defined pretty broadly, but hopefully at least somewhat famous) has a really cool office in the NYC area? We're looking for someone with a rich, interesting-looking space, interesting tools and great stories. Examples might be say, magazine writer Gay Talese, who works in his townhouse in Manhattan surrounded by memorabilia from all his past stories, or the honchos at Pixar who have special secret hideaways and whatnot. (Definitely looking for personal workspaces, not big companies with fancy buildings and foosball tables.)
We need to get gifts for the wonderful team of people who are helping us get married. Please advise. [more inside]
An older relative is visiting in November and we are planning to go on a weekend road trip, most likely around Maine, VT, and NH, states she hasn't yet visited. She can't walk a lot but won't have a wheelchair, so even house tours may be tough. Looking for seated or low-mobility sightseeing ideas. [more inside]
Trying to find a hotel within walking distance of the Indiana Convention Center in the last week of the month and they are ALL booked. I know I've left it late, but what are my options? Getting a bit frantic about it. [more inside]
What's the thinnest laptop "backpack" I can get? [more inside]
I have two internet connections at home that I would like to combine for benefits of reliability and speed. [more inside]
Help me find some new movies for family movie night - with an important detail. [more inside]
We have natural gas forced air heating in our old house. I notice that every year when it gets cold and heat comes on we all start sneezing and wake up with sore throats. Is this a consequence of forced air? [more inside]
We have a tub/shower with a spigot-knob (diverter) you pull up to turn the shower on. The knob doesn't usually drop when you turn the water off, but if you tap it down, the residual water/pressure in the shower pipes would drain out the spigot. After replacing our shower head, that is no longer the case. This leads to very slow drips as the water drains out. How can I fix this ? [more inside]
How do I properly quit business operations in one state after moving to another state. Complication: I have outstanding invoices. [more inside]
I need to be able to take naps. I suck at taking naps. Are there any real, practical ways to get better at napping? [more inside]
An in-network doctor works at an out-of-network practice, and chose to bill me as out-of-network so the insurance company paid more--but she also didn't bill me anything. I feel weird. Now what? [more inside]
I've officially had 2 job titles at my workplace of almost 7 years, but much of my day-to-day has been handling special projects and the stuff that no one else knows how to do. I'm having some trouble cramming all my duties underneath those job titles without my resume feeling clunky and bloated. [more inside]
Is it common to include "easter eggs" when staging for open houses? [more inside]
On a shopping trip yesterday I happened to walk into Sephora and try Ultra Repair Lip Therapy balm. It felt great and lasted forever! However, it's $12 for 0.5 oz. Is there a similar lip therapy out there that's a bit cheaper?
Looking for practical advice and anecdotes on actively looking for a creative partner when life does not grant you one "naturally" like best friends who share a hobby etc. More specifically how do writers find other writers or comic book artists. I've gone to a few writers meetups and they were fun and useful, but ultimately not fruitful (yet). I know there are probably a lot of online communities I could join (how should I approach this approach to finding someone?)
My daughter's seventh birthday party is fast approaching and her plan is to have six or seven friends over and make something for their dolls. I'm looking for suggestions as to what that craft should be. [more inside]
I'm looking for upbeat feminist resources--blogs, comics, music, film, Twitter accounts, Tumblrs, etc, that are celebratory, happy, and proud. [more inside]
I appear to be at the top of the salary range for jobs in my field, but I'm only in my 30s. What's next? [more inside]
I fell in love with an expensive, and too small side table. I'd like to create something similar on the cheap but I don't have all my DIY steps down. [more inside]
I'm looking for relatively inexpensive, cute, thank you cards/stationary for a ton of thank yous for baby gifts and not having much luck finding them! [more inside]
I'm looking for quotes and visual symbols for something that is beautiful but temporary. Whether it's about life, love, passion, or something physical, give me all your ideas. Bonus points if it's brief and elegant enough for a tattoo.
I'm giving a church-related dinner in a couple of weeks. Two people on the guest list happen to have neurological problems that make conversation difficult for them. I'm looking for advice on how to make sure they feel included in the conversation and enjoy themselves. [more inside]
I have ants in my kitchen. Anyone have any suggestions on how to discourage them? [more inside]
No, seriously, why am I having zero luck? I ended a long-term relationship in June. I'm still getting over it, but I want to get back on that damn horse. I moved to NYC for grad school in August, and I have had zero (literally, 0) luck with men since the breakup. [more inside]
I play online multiplayer games with all other players' mics muted. Am I in the minority or majority? Am I missing out on some useful strategy conversations or a lot of banal name-calling? [more inside]
We replaced our well-loved Caloric kitchen stove with a new range, and now we need a range hood. We're sort of confused by the choices. Can you help us figure out what brand/model to get given our requirements? Bonus for personal stories, and detail about where to order. [more inside]
I have a brand new Macbook which has been for the most part pretty great. But it's been doing a few odd things lately... [more inside]
Looking for poetry that is warm, thoughtful, deceptively plainspoken, esp. if very rooted in place? Examples: poets like Naomi Shihab Nye, Ellen Bass, Wendell Berry, William Stafford, Hayden Carruth [more inside]
Nine days ago I had a heart attack. A week ago I had two stents placed in my right coronary artery. Today I'm back at work. Whoa ... WTF just happened?? [more inside]
We are staying in Waikiki at the Hilton Hawaiian Village this weekend . Do we need to rent a car? What is awesome on Oahu? What should we do to maximize our 3-day trip? [more inside]
My husband and I are heading up to Lake Tahoe (South Lake to be specific) on Wednesday, coming back on Saturday, and we're looking for stuff to eat and see along the way. [more inside]
My second grade daughter has just been learning about Edvard Munch and "The Scream" - Are there any good kids books that discuss the artist and work? [more inside]
Looking to expand our living space, our small but growing family is considering moving from south Seattle to Shoreline. Advice, tips, or things to be aware of? [more inside]
On the spur of the moment, I swung my car by one of those Free Rock Chip Repair stands in a mall parking lot. Part of the process was taking a phone call from a rep from the Rock Chip company, who had to run my insurance to see if it could be covered. He said that he needed my date of birth and the last 4 digits of my SSN (in addition to my address, phone number, email address, insurance info, etc), or he couldn't check my coverage. I was wary, but gave it to him. Should I have not? [more inside]
I have a Wordpress blog, and I want to get rid of a large number (200+) of old, junky blog posts. They're clogging up my archives and search results, they get virtually no traffic, and they're poorly done and embarrassing. There is no question they need to go. The question is, should I delete and redirect them, or just noindex them? [more inside]
I have recently moved from the warmth of the American Southwest to the frigid climes of New England. Please help me stay warm! [more inside]
The first 15 seconds of Rita Ora's "I Will Never Let You Down" is so frustratingly familiar. Do you know what it's reminding me of? [more inside]
My partner and I are saving for a down payment for our first home. As an obsessive planner I am starting to educate myself on everything I may need to know to make this happen. [more inside]
The alarm on my 2001 Audi A6 Wagon goes off arbitrarily. This may happen more in hot weather. I've played with what appears to be, judging from the icon, the interior alarm button (near the trunk release button, on the driver's door frame on the b post), but this has no effect. [more inside]
Hi all! I'm organizing a weekend for some girl friends in the DC area; we're hoping to make this a weekend excursion to Chesapeake Bay. Would love some ideas! [more inside]
I'm a 28F/30E bra size and I've been searching for YEARS for chemises, teddies, and babydolls that are actually sexy. Details within. [more inside]
When I am talking to my husband, he will mouth the words I am saying. Is this some deeper psychological issue, or just an amusing quirk? [more inside]
In a moment of desperation I put some cast iron stove grates in a dishwasher. They're done washing. What do I do now? I'm kind of terrified that I've ruined them. Please explain to me like I'm five. And scared.
Hello; I have a Moto G cell,and Im very new to cell phones. I enjoy listening to old radio shows(dragnet ect.) I want to listen to them on my cell as my cell is charging-somebody told me I need a docking station for this.Will my cell be charging as my shows play? Thanks :-)
I need an app to help me organize my folders on my phone and help me know which to delete (I'm an app hoarder who is certain they'll all come in handy) . I remember on PC having a program that broke down how often I used each app and how much space it took up. Stuff like that. Mass deleting the apps that aren't necessary and organizing the ones I want to keep are all things I'd like to be able to do - What's the best app for this?
So, we're redoing our kitchen- a 12x12 space in a 1950s colonial. We did it pretty much down-to the studs. Everything's new except for the original wood frame of the house. Assume I don't know much of anything about construction. Could I embed this piece into a wall shared by an adjoining room? The piece is 2'x5' and weighs approximately 200 lbs. [more inside]
After listen to every song titled "Say My Name" on Spotify, I'm out of ideas. Y'all know this one? [more inside]
I recently updated the software on my iPhone 6, and now I can't access my (or any) explicit content. [more inside]
So many survey sites but do all of them make generic, static surveys? Is there a site I can use to make it an animated survey, like a flash game? [more inside]
My niece has anxiety - panic attacks, etc. I feel like I am not up-to-date on anxiety/panic attacks or how to deal with them - can you recommend any resources that I can read or look into? [more inside]
My Mac is (and has been) prompting me to update software. Every time we get past the "Agree" or "disagree" prompt, the window tells me it can't be installed on "Macintosh HD." There is 300-some GB of space. Any ideas what's going on? [more inside]
I want to get really, really in touch with what's happening with local politics: specifically, Seattle and Washington State issues. Do you know resources beyond Crosscut and KUOW for keeping up with the inside baseball? [more inside]
I'm a lifelong insomniac. After years of fighting it with "sleep hygiene" and melatonin and all sorts of other supposed remedies that never worked, I finally went to the doctor and got a Trazodone prescription. I took it every night with excellent, side effect-free results for about six years. I recently had to stop the Trazodone, however, because it interferes with another much more important medication that I absolutely must take every day. My sleep is, predictably, terrible again. It's been two months and I know I have to ask my doctor for something else. [more inside]
Please recommend a good course to learn more about playwrighting and/or more resources to learn how to do so/NYC city based but open to other locations. [more inside]
I have brown rice and wakame noodles. Please tell me the easiest, quickest and most delicious ways to turn them into full meals. Gluten free recipes preferred. Other than that I'm up for anything.
My son starts Kindergarten next year; is it a big deal to do some limited family travel during the school year? [more inside]
I work at a psychiatric hospital, on the child and adolescent service. Our kids don't have a lot of opportunity for exercise, which is really not good, given how effective exercise can be for mood regulation, self-confidence, etc. I'd like to find some good exercise DVDs that they can use when they have unstructured time on the unit. I'd like them to be as positive as possible-- not a lot of "burn that flab away" or "let's sculpt sexy butts." [more inside]
There's a Halloween-themed bouldering/costume competition coming up, and I need MeFi's costume ideas. [more inside]
My partner and I are in transition and are seeking short-term (3-6 months) housing. We have four cats. All of the nearby rental options limit pets to two or three pets per apartment. How big of a deal is not being truthful about the number of cats we have? [more inside]
I'm a male in my late twenties and I consider myself straight. I'm not interested in men or dating a man, and have always had relationships with women. I dated a trans woman for two and a half years. (I'm loathe to specify the 'trans' and to feel like I have to assert that I'm straight but it's relevant to my question.) I'm now not sure about whether to disclose this to my current girlfriend. [more inside]
Over the past few weeks our Samsung LCD TV has developed an odd habit after we turn it on. It will cycle on and off quite a few times before finally displaying a picture and sound (yesterday it took 25 minutes to come on). During the cycling the picture, if it displays, will be full of vertical lines (usually green or blue). There is usually no sound, except sometimes it will make a deafening screech that sends the cat running. [more inside]
I am a licensed holistic health & medical person, serving mostly mothers. I am not a homeopath. There is a closed facebook group of people, which is dedicated mostly to mocking and snarking on alternative/crunchy moms, that has recently taken a turn for the extra nasty. [more inside]
During my upcoming trip to Japan, I will be staying with my boyfriend's parents. Please help me get them a gift that says "thank you for taking the trouble of having me, and I'm the perfect daughter-in-law." [more inside]
I'm a strongly expressed introvert with hardly any natural interest in other people. But I have to live and work with others. Can I learn to be interested in other people? How? [more inside]
I've written an essay about my relationship with my ex. What are your experiences with publishing personal essays about friends or family members? [more inside]
Where do music and piano teachers of beginners get their goodies - the piano key charts, the very basics for teaching music theory and the scaffolding that enable the path toward reading (and understanding) music? [more inside]
I got an old rear projection TV for free — it's a 65" Toshiba 65HX83 HD. How can I calibrate this monstrosity? [more inside]
My husband and I work different schedules and communicate a lot by text message... but he constantly changes topics and doesn't reply to mine?! [more inside]
I'd like to do more volunteer work! What's out there that really needs doing? As a postdoc in the physical sciences, I'm already doing some outreach work, but I am interested in finding someplace where I can do some good while also getting a bit of a mental break from science. Bonus points for specific suggestions within Seattle. [more inside]
I have ducted, evaporative aircon in my house, with vents in the ceiling in every room. I am wondering if will help to install some sort of 'screen' or filter in the inside of the vents to prevent dust and insects being blown inside when we turn the system on? Would prefer a cheap/DIY solution (it's a rental). [more inside]
As I'm winding down and ready to sleep, I get this gnawing back ache up and down my spine. It's like restless leg only in my back. Anyone ever have this? [more inside]
We're finally building a house! As owner-builders, we need to communicate with contractors about the scope of the work for which we are requesting estimates. We know generally what we want, but need the language for communicating with folks in the trade. [more inside]
I've been mixing and matching from random recipes online for mac and cheese, so I can't get the consistency quite right. How do I get a really smooth base? [more inside]
My three year old son has been diagnosed with autism. His psychologist has said on the old scale he would have been classed as "high functioning." I'd love to read a blog or something similar that details how a child with 'high functioning' autism has developed or will develop. Something which is basically a long-term personal story where the kid starts at a similar age to my son and where the kid is now, say, 7 years or older would be perfect. Thanks in advance!
When I was a kid, I got Ranger Rick and Dynamite and Highlights and Cricket and a bunch of other magazines in my name, and it was thrilling for me. Well, Christmas time is rolling around and I have a couple of new kids in my life, a girl age 5 and a boy age 8, and I'd like to get them actual physical magazine subscriptions because that's fun and exciting. What kids magazines actually still exist today as physical get-in-the-mail products? Im looking for a wide range of interests so I can work from a broad pool of possibilities.
My black friend is looking for clothes and pajamas for her size four daughter featuring Princess Tiana, of "The Princess and the Frog." She's specifically looking for these so her daughter can have merchandise from her beloved Disney Princess franchise featuring a character that looks like her. She's scoured the internet but isn't having any luck. My friend is ready to pull out her hair. Any ideas?
Last year, I unexpectedly fell in love with improv comedy. I raced through the classes, joined a team, and started performing shows on tiny stages throughout NYC. It's been a rewarding experience! Except: I'm a 32 year-old introvert, and hanging out with mid-20s performers feels weird AF. [more inside]
Alternatives to Google Analytics - why and what ? [more inside]
Two or so years ago, I read the beginning of a biography of a writer, probably a poet. I know he was a young man in England during World War I who was not able to serve in the war due to a medical condition. But that is all I am certain about -- I have vague memories of a few further details that I could easily be confusing with stories from other people's lives, or even from novels. [more inside]
I adopted Hillary in May. She's a seven or eight year old, ten pound chihuahua-mix. Her former owner died. She was at the shelter for about seven months and was the office dog. She has been to the vet and had bloodwork and x-rays. She has degenerative disc disease and is on Tramadol and Carprofen. Ever since I got her she has had a problem with fear biting. [more inside]
I'm hosting a scary video game night for a group of college students! I have access to a projector, a PC, a PS3, and a Wii U. What spooky games should I feature? (Bonus for appropriate snack suggestions!) [more inside]
A friend's birthday is coming up. He likes to play darts (plays in a league) and he likes to read. I'm wondering if anyone has any suggestions for gifts that might combine both. [more inside]
Where can I buy the same tie President Obama is wearing in this photo (preferably in NYC or online)? [more inside]
How do I stop feeling like my depressive symptoms are just character flaws, and how do I convey this to others? Is it possible that I am actually subconsciously exaggerating? [more inside]
Having attempted several rounds of trying to rid my pantry of mealworms, I find that they are back because apparently they eat chocolate?? What else do I need to throw out/seal up besides flour, rice, quinoa, cookies, etc.? [more inside]
I'd like to completely wipe my late 2010-era Macbook Air and do a fresh reinstall of OS X and all the applications I use. What steps should I take to make sure I retain everything I want? [more inside]
Hi, so my daughter and I live in a tiny apartment on the edge of a cool small town. I agreed to host a birthday sleepover for her and three other 11 year old girls. We're going to walk into town and get fancy pizza and local ice cream, then come back and..... [more inside]
I'm finally working with people that like to celebrate and have fun, including a Halloween costume party w/ prizes! I find myself feeling very competitive, I want to win! Unfortunately, nothing in the Halloween stores fit me. Looking for suggestions on the nerdy side. Contest categories: best dressed & scariest costume [more inside]
(Typing that just hit me like a ton of bricks.) I'll be 29 later this month and I have five days off from work to enjoy some birthday antics. What should I do with myself? [more inside]
I foolishly deleted a Guest User profile and all of her bookmarks in Google Chrome, not realizing that I was the Guest User. How can I recover my bookmarks? I have multiple Time Machine backups. [more inside]
Moved into a bad apartment situation. What can I do? [more inside]
How much do I really weigh? A google doc spreadsheet and a screenshot of Excel's graph. Most weighings are on the scale at the gym after riding in to work. [more inside]
If someone buys something that ends up having sentimental value to someone else and was previously owned by them, are you obligated to give it to that person/s? [more inside]
This sounds like such a first world question. Sorry. I am cringing a bit writing this if it helps. Basically we've been watching "The Great British Bake Off" and have been branching out a bit in our baking and cooking and feeling more adventurous. Simultaneously we lack quite a few 'essential' bits of kitchen equipment recipes frequently call for, and other bits of equipment we do have are ailing and in need of replacing. Basically, this askmefi question concerns what one bit of kit could I buy for my wife's birthday which will answer as many of these needs as possible? [more inside]
Lately (the past few months?), it seems that e-mails from my info@ e-mail address are going straight to the junk/spam folder of current or potential customers. We are a small business and our site/e-mail provider is GoDaddy. About the e-mails themselves....there are usually 1-3 links in the message, and a couple of phone numbers in the signature. No photos or fancy stuff. I use mac mail to send them. Any ideas as to why this keeps happening?
I have an unopened (sealed) can of lump crabmeat that's been refrigerated. It expired about a week ago (best if used by date was a week ago on 10/5). Can I still eat this? Or should I throw it out?
I'm officiating my first wedding next week (Exciting! Scary!) and working on final details. I really would like to include a quote from Jane Jacobs, the couple's hero. “Neighborhood is a word that has come to sound like a Valentine. As a sentimental concept, ‘neighborhood’ is harmful to city planning. Sentimentality plays with sweet intentions in place of good sense.” is what I'm currently playing with, but it's not quite hitting the spot in a way I'd like without over-explaining it. Urban planning and sociology nerds: can you suggest any and all Jane Jacobs quotes that in some way connect with love, community, and growth? I welcome truly any thoughts you have, and feel free to share a bit about how you might use it. THANK YOU!
Hey guys, I have a business in Costa Rica that specializes in tourism and does about $20-$30K of business per month. Does anyone out there know of the best possible option for accepting credit card payments in Costa Rica? Right now we are working through paypal but its certainly not ideal (and neither is requesting cash from our clients). I have already seen and heard of some of these third party entities withholding funds and even denying funds in Costa Rica (and elsewhere). Also, some of the rates on these things look ridiculous. Any help is obviously greatly appreciated!
Why is it that in the morning that a car parked overnight in the garage has no condensation on it but a car parked outside in the driveway is covered with dew? The garage in question is completely open on one end since it's an old horse barn with no doors. I would think the atmosphere in the garage (relative humidity and temp) would be virtually identical to the outside.
In the last 3 months, it's been to 6 auctions. It was reported as a dealer vehicle twice in that time as well. Should I continue looking at it? It's $4500 and I'm thinking of seeing if they'll go down by $500. I've never bought a car this way so I'm open to opinions. [more inside]
I took a day off from my library to offer a workshop at a different library. I was paid by that library, so my employer says I don't get to use paid personal leave. Is this true? [more inside]
I've seen this switch in several hotels in the US, but I can't find it online! Here's the link (sorry if it shows up sideways) [more inside]
I'm a jumble of emotions right now. [TLDR]: The question is, can you be good if you break an unbreakable vow? Is it really a choice between being good and being happy? Is there a way to reconcile the two? [more inside]
A co-worker has taken against me for unknown reasons. She has also influenced another co-worker to turn against me. Co-worker 1 is very aggressively gaslighting and sabotaging me and my work, making a case against me. She already got 1 earlier co-worker fired. I believe I'm next. But I CAN'T lose my job--though the stress is actually making me sick--because my ex-, who provides a lot of the financial support to me and kid, has been unemployed for many months and we're living on the absolute edge of poverty. [more inside]
I'm looking for examples of unexpected (and not widely known) practices of everyday life from bygone eras. I'll give a few examples of the type of information I seek. [more inside]
I started a new job in another country 15 months ago. It seemed to be going great and changed my life for the better. But then last couple of months, things started to go unexpectedly downhill and it snowballed from there. Details inside. [more inside]
How do parents with anxiety protect their children from their own worries and fears? [more inside]
I'm getting tested for mono in the coming week. If I test positive, what are my next steps with my employer? (And am I required to stay home until I get the result?) [more inside]
A few years ago, a friend was staying with me for an extended period of time. Although he has residency over here in the UK, he is still a US citizen and 'temporarily' used my address for bank statements etc. How do I get the IRS to stop sending his letters to my house? [more inside]
Okay, so, details are somewhat sketchy because I'm going back about 32 years, when I would have been roughly 8 or 9. [more inside]
Art is slow and tedious, with little to show for the effort, IMO. What else could someone with my abilities and leanings go into? [more inside]
Hi, We own 2 Paperwhites--mine always works perfectly; my husband's (which, in essence, serves as my second once), malfunctions all the time and causes me great annoyance because of 2 problems. Can you help? [more inside]
My lovely guy and I live apart, he alone (for now) and I with roommates. I go to his apartment to get some alone time and not bother my roommates, but his and mine's definition of clean/bother of dirty are a bit different. I don't want to go over because I get squicked out, but he doesn't clean because I don't come over as often anymore. How to find a compromise? [more inside]
I volunteered to make posters advertising a high school graduation party, planned for May 2016, and I'm already out of ideas. While it will be a "safe & sober party" I don't want to harp on that particular slogan when advertising to the students. [more inside]
I want to buy a good rug for my living room. [more inside]
My 3-year-old has recently raised the bedtime stakes to intolerable, and I'm looking for ideas on how to address it. [more inside]
Long shot, but I'm trying to identify an old TV episode. British, 1988-1990, a one-off episode in some late-night strand, probaby BBC2... [more inside]
We went to Iceland this year loved the natural beauty of the island. I am looking to travel somewhere in the US that will inspire us, too. [more inside]
A favorite doll (Jessie the Yodeling Cowgirl, to be specific) was lost for quite some time, but newly discovered in a box out in our shed. After almost a year of being exposed to a lot of moisture, she is a moldy mess. [more inside]
I need to make a directory of members from a .csv file---what is the easiest method? [more inside]
I bought a billy bookcase from Ikea. I assembled it and all went well. Then I moved it to the location where I wanted to be, and discover that the floor slopes down. :( There's a good 3-4 in gap between the bookshelf and the wall. The leveler tool with the bubble and the 3 segments show the bubble squarely in the top segment. I have no handyman skills. How do I safely correct this?
Five days ago my wife told me she wants to separate permanently. Everything since then has been a blur. I'm interested in hearing from others who have gone through something similar, to know how you made it through. [more inside]
We have a new baby, and would love to get a bottle of liquor to stick in the basement and hopefully remember where it is 21 years from now, in order to drink it with her to celebrate her 21st birthday. I think we want a port, but we have no idea what to look for when purchasing this, and the person at the liquor store was very unhelpful (but we are willing to go to another store if that is the answer). Help us not screw this up! [more inside]
I've recently, in the past few years, become obsessed with basketball. I paid a lot of attention to the last few seasons and I'm already paying attention to the pre-season right now. Every season has these amazing, incredible, jaw dropping moments, ones where me and all my friends or the bar I'm at are all screaming "NO WAY!" at the television. I'm looking for a spectacular display of basketball. A fierce rivalry. Crazy shots, last minute shots, amazing layups, incredible steals, exacting passes. Just... the best basketball game ever. What is it? Who were the characters? What was on the line? I need it.
I'm a competitive athlete, in my mid-60s. I'm getting discouraged because I need cross-training that will keep me mobile and strong. I need recommendations for low-impact aerobic, core, and weight work that will keep me moving, keep me competitive, and reduce injuries. [more inside]
I'm traveling to Vietnam in mid November for two weeks with my partner, and am having trouble nailing down spots to visit/stay. We've settled on visiting Phu Quoc, but would love any/all suggestions. If you've traveled around southern Vietnam, what was a must see/do for you? [more inside]
I plan on making a dining table top similar to this I am considering a few ways to make the table. One is to use a slab or two of some kind of inexpensive wood or melamine and then spreading a thin layer of the concrete mix on top. My reasoning is that it will reduce the weight of the table. [more inside]
I'm traveling to Dallas/ Fort Worth with a friend and a six month old for five days this fall. Any recommendations for interesting or even typical places (more like great man-made lakes rather than great nature trails) to stay in or explore that are located between Dallas and Forth Worth but well outside the city centers? [more inside]
The backstory: my husband twitches and kicks in his sleep, pretty much continuously from dusk until dawn. We've been sleeping on a very firm cotton futon mattress on top of a folding wooden futon frame, and the whole bed shakes with his twitching. My sleep quality suffers. [more inside]
Can I use vodka and whiskey to sterilize stuff? [more inside]
My boyfriend and I are taking a spontaneous trip to NYC. We will be getting in Sunday afternoon and will be staying until early Monday evening. What amazing things should we do, and where should we eat, in this very short amount of time? [more inside]
This November, my fiancé and I will finally be getting married. His family will be flying in from India, for the wedding. While his mother and sister will be leaving shortly after, his father will be spending an additional six weeks with us ... and I'm not sure how I'm going to handle such an extended stay. Talking to my fiance hasn't been very successful; he accused me of not wanting him to spend time with his dad. How do I deal with such a long visit? Help! (Additional important details below.) [more inside]
So the domain for my personal site got scalped? I thought the problem was with billing for Hosting Direct but they said Network Solutions is giving a wrong redirect - I called Network Solutions and some organization? in Japan? Has claimed my domain? I already shot them an e-mail asking for it back but, how did this happen? What recourse do I have? How can I stop it from happening again? And How do I deal with wanting to set all my computers on fire? [more inside]
Where should I watch the Dodgers game in OC tonight? North orange county - mostly familiar with hb fountain valley westminster orange areas but could venture out if uber isn't too bad. Mid 20s kinda awkward anxious introvert prob going to be solo. Ideally dodgers fans there. Quality beer options maybe in an ipa mood today. Vegan but not expecting food. Ideally be watching on my couch with dodgers fan friends but no cable or friends lol. Been browsing yelp but meta people are more my people so your suggestions appreciated :)
I started this job 3 weeks ago and despite quitting and being re-hired, my boss has not really made enough changes to give me faith that he will pay me. I do not believe that I will get paid. [more inside]
Help me find a Feedly-able stream of comics in the style of those featured on Dan Berry's podcast Make It Then Tell Everybody. Most important: exposure to different artists' visual styles. Not important: access to complete comics. [more inside]
Please be recommending to me your favorite (fictional, please) outbreak movies, books, and shows! [more inside]
I've recently become intrigued by the thought of applying the same cloud services that run the likes of twitter and facebook to my measly gaming needs. Think Amazon Web Services, but with GPUs. A company buys and maintains an array of high quality GPUs, then rents them out to anyone looking for some sweet graphical computing power. [more inside]
Friend of mine (and her co-editor) want 20-30 of my photos for their book, but since the grants are still pending, do not know how much they can pay yet. Is this a terrible idea to give them photos? Do I just ask for a minimum either per photo or as a package? I'm a newbie, having lucked into one book cover...so. She's a genuine friend, if it matters.
I'm looking for recommendations for an app that's a workbook for emotional healing. I've used (and liked) The Courage To Heal workbook and would be interested in something like that, but in app form. The specific focus could be anxiety, trauma, abuse, healing from narcissistic relationships, etc etc. For various reasons it needs to be text only (no audio or video). I'm also open to suggestions of other similar workbooks in book form. Thank you!
How do copywriters and designers collaborate on assignments? [more inside]
Is it a waste of time for me to even attempt to read Godel, Escher, Bach when I don't have a very good foundational knowledge of math? [more inside]
I'm going out tonight and bought something to wear which I'm now totally unsure about and I only have a few hours to panic-buy a replacement if it's unsuitable. So fashion mavens of MeFi - should I wear this or, as always, am I All Wrong? [more inside]
I'm trying to find an Android app that can make voice memo's by pressing some physical key on my phone (e.g., volume up or down, or double tapping home key). [more inside]
Help me navigate what for me is a complex situation in a very small company and to get some perspective. I feel like I was treated unfairly, and would like to get some perspective. Snowflakey details inside. [more inside]
What has worked for you, fellow TMJ disorder sufferers? [more inside]
I cheated on my fiancé with a co-worker, what should I do? [more inside]
I have a gmail account and want to potentially send an email to everyone who has ever emailed me (thousands of people). This is a one time thing, not something I anticipate ever doing again. Is there any way to do this? How would you go about doing it?
I need to find music that is similar in sound and spirit to the Justice song "Helix," but specifically, close to the feeling of the Gesaffelstein Vision Remix. Industrial dance music, I'm assuming, but WHAT would have the same vibe? Help me, o Hive Mind?
We just brought home a new kitten, and would like your assistance in coming up with names. Tell me what you got for an orange-ish kitty! [more inside]
This is not a question about the best bras, but merely the best ones under $50, specifically those for a chest that's approximately a 42H. What are your favorites? I am looking for bras with underwire; my non-underwire needs are sufficiently covered by bras from Decent Exposures. If you have found the miracle underwire bra for less than $50 that can be machine washed, I especially want to hear from you. [more inside]
I recently heard that there are new procedures to break up scar tissue that are akin to scoring the surface of a ham, i.e. cross-hatched for max flexibility. I've had an immovable band of scar tissue around my elbow for 15 years that prevents my arm from extending fully, and I'd like to look into this procedure. My google-fu is weak (no, I DON'T need another search result for the Chili Peppers song) -- do you know what it's being called by doctors? Thank you!
What should I order at a Tupperware party? [more inside]
My 13 year old daughter has just started boarding school. When she leaves her phone unattended for even a minute, one of her roommates snatches the phone and uses it to send lurid "sexts" to a boy my daughter likes. My daughter is now facing disciplinery action for these messages. How can she protect her phone? Passcodes she forgets, or tells someone. I've looked at fingerprint ID, facial recognition and other methods but they all come up lacking. What do you guys suggest? She has an iPhone 4s.
My BF [26M] is my first. However, I'm [21F] not his. His first was with a good friend with whom he had a 5 year relationship, and still remains good friends with that ex today. They were both each other's first. Out of all the other ex's my BF's had, he only remains friends with this one. Everywhere I look on the internet or in real life, people say they never forget their first love, that they'll always remain a special part of you. Since I've made this realization, I've felt incredibly low. [more inside]
I am looking for a good drug treatment center for my adult son (23) and am finding to locating a decent one is impossible through the internet. Everything I see turns out to be a thinly disguised ad. He approached me about it and I am hoping to help him out with the research. He has good insurance, and is looking for a young adult inpatient program, preferably not AA modeled (or at least not heavily higher power oriented), and preferably with a dual diagnosis slant (he also has anxiety issues). Anywhere in the US would be fine. His drug of choice is opiates, and he has been drug free for the last couple of weeks. Any help would be appreciated - this is an opportunity we don't want to screw up.
How can I help my adopted cat be less aggressive to our other cats? [more inside]
Looking for recommendations for a great dance spot for a wedding party in Monterey County. [more inside]
Figured this North American who's never been to Australia could take a week to travel before meetings start. What's fun? How far to roam?
I want to get dental implants which my dentist recomended I get last year. I didn't have the money because He said they're about $3000 each toothe and I need 4 teeeth done. I am considering going with my son to Thailand for medical tourism, where the price is about half as much. But I am confused about all the different types of dental implants. Please help me understand all these terms Details inside. [more inside]
Looking for a strategy to decide what book to read next! I have a huge TBR pile. And I am uncharacteristically having a devil of a time deciding what to read next. What can I do to prioritize the pile? [more inside]
I am weighing a job offer that is 50% travel (consulting). As I consider it, I realize that part of the issue that has me hung up is that I have no idea how to think about living expenses as a person who is only home 50% of the time. Help? [more inside]
I have relapsing-remitting multiple sclerosis. I am 35, and I have developed a very specific, very rare type of tremor. [more inside]
I have a family interview project in mind. I've read some great ideas in AskMe, and have read through StoryCorps and Smithsonian resources. For the most part, what I've read pertains to one-time oral history projects. My project is a little different: I'd like to conduct short 1-on-1 interviews with immediate family (about 10 people), and repeat these interviews every few years. I'd love some question suggestions. [more inside]
I own a house that's affectionately known as a teardown but it is in a pretty good location and the land underneath, while small, is zoned for more profitable buildings. It is also located in one of the most strenuous real estate markets in the country. A real estate investor came by and made an offer to buy it for a price that's too low for me to buy elsewhere around me. How can (or should) I negotiate this? [more inside]
Ms Jabo and I are flying up to Seattle WA to visit the Olympic Peninsula for a week. Staying at Port Angeles for 3 days and then 2 by the Pacific at Kalaloch. Any recommendations for hikes, spots to visit or places to eat would be welcome (especially those out of the way or can't miss).
My husband and I have different boundaries when it comes to what we consider to be 'kind of cheating' behaviour and I'm struggling to deal with it. My current plan is based on a tit-for-tat approach, but that seems pretty childish. What is a better way to deal with this without becoming a crazy jealousy monster? [more inside]
I'm arriving at CDG from Seattle around 8 am tomorrow morning and have a subsequent flight out of Orly around 5 pm. I've never been to Paris before. Ordinarily, I'd head into the city with this long of a layover, but I'll be back in Paris later next week and for sappy romantic reasons would like that to be my first time actually in the city. Where should I go for my long layover? Possibly relevant: American, non-francophone, willing to shell out for cabs, and into books/art/music/food/just about everything.
Washable: Will wash and dry at home every 1-2 weeks. Warm: Minneapolis, MN. Winsome: Flexible on specific styles, but aesthetics are important to me. I'm not sure what's trending this winter, but I'm ready to branch out from my puffer coat phase. Women's: Early 30's eclectic, post-hipster 5' 8" slim-ish build lady. Winter Wear: Coat or Parka, casual. (Overcoats need not apply). [more inside]
I want to print an a5 sized booklet on a4 paper. So basically 8 separate pages would fit on one double-sided a4 sheet, and then I would manually cut the a4 sheet in half down the middle. Is there a simple way to create a document in the order I want it read in and have the pages printed in the right order for folding the booklet, eg the first page and the last page would be on the same sheet just on different sides of it? [more inside]
I want to plug my Zoom H4N audio recorder into the external mic jack on my Sanyo Xacti HD-1000 camera but I don't know what connecting cable to buy [more inside]
I know the first and best answer is LAWYER, but I would like all the tips, tricks, advice, resources, and help yall can give to women who know the divorce should happen, but kids and money are issues. Maybe a step by step divorce and post divorce survival guide? [more inside]
I'm going to SLC for a work trip in a couple weeks. It's just a few days, but I'd like to be able to run (jog) while I'm there. But I'm a flatlander. Will the higher elevation adversely affect me? [more inside]
My best friend just found out that his wife is pregnant. He's excited but a little anxious and is looking for book recommendations, though he'd probably be interested in blogs, websites, or other info sources. [more inside]
After several years working for a boss who's also a friend, I've made a move to a new career and and a much more impersonal manager. I'm struggling with what to expect from my new boss and in building a professional relationship with him. What level of engagement/communication from your boss is reasonable to expect and how do you get more engagement if it's not meeting what you need? [more inside]
I've been looking through entirely too many links on youtube in an effort to find the Adele (or maybe Amy Winehouse) video that features her standing at a microphone singing in a mostly empty room. From memory, the room is light blue or light green and other than her, there's a fireplace behind her, maybe a chandelier and a piano. I think the video was almost entirely of her standing there singing. Can any Adele fans please help me find that video?
I'm trying to remember a books series I read when I was a kid. It was a post-apocalyptic sci-fi YA series (at least four or five books I think) aimed at a Christian audience. [more inside]
I just turned 40 and am deeply conflicted about where I am in life. Is this something I should just sit out or do I need to make changes? [more inside]
My spouse, with a YEAR of treatment for cancer, is done with the hard part. We want to have a beach BBQ-ish to celebrate. We need help with the menu. [more inside]
A work trip I'm going on to the Hague finishes at noon on Sunday so I'm thinking of heading over to Amsterdam (where I will fly out of early Monday morning) to spend Sunday afternoon/night. I'm looking for recommendations on where to stay, where to eat and what to do and hoping for the full Amsterdam tourist experience and all it's infamous for, in a single Sunday afternoon/evening. Thanks!
What are the best strategies for being on the lam? [more inside]
So I have a friend who is just as described above: cute if you've just met her but sarcastic and sort of dark once you get to know her. She's been having a tough time and I'd like to get her something that fits her personality. I'm thinking posters or mugs or novelty items. She also likes Snoopy a lot. Any ideas? Thanks!
I have, by happenstance, come into possession of a small statue of a samurai that came with a little wooden sign with some Japanese writing on it. I'm sure one of you can easily translate it for me, and for that I would be grateful.
I'm going to spend a day lecturing, to a large group of visiting Chinese art officials, about the nuts and bolts of the American arts system. Literally, from org charts to budgets to curating to education to publicity to fundraising to opening receptions. Yes, that's a vague, enormous topic that I need to narrow down. I'm comfortable with the material; it's the structure and the audience (I'll have a translator) that I'm concerned about. I'm thinking I'll spend the first half of the presentation discussing non-profits, the second half comparing nonprofits to private arts institutions. [more inside]
I have a video in Japanese of a zookeeper feeding hippos whole watermelons. I'm curious what the zookeeper is saying: Hippo eating watermelon video Thank you very much! :)
Solo traveler looking for your recommendations for off-the-tourist-trail places roughly between Munich and Milan for the last week of December/first week of January. Bonus points for an interesting place to spend New Year's Eve. [more inside]
I work at a theater. Troubling notes taped to outer wall lead to troubling, rage-filled social media presence of the isolated male signatory. Unsure what action, if any, to take in this situation but given recent events, I'm pretty freaked out. Hoping someone smart can help. [more inside]
What are some good specific examples of someone, in a competitive field of any sort, just playing at a higher level than their opponents? I don't mean just training harder, or having slightly better natural skills within the existing paradigm. More of an "I was playing checkers but they were playing chess" moment. [more inside]
I've been doing a great deal of research on the subject of tattoos and body markings and a question I've come across frequently (and found correspondingly very little literature regarding) is the use of tattoos or brands to indicate a punishment, specifically of crimes like piracy or mutiny. Is there any information on this topic? [more inside]
A family member has recently moved to assisted living and has no room for his large collection of CDs. What's the best way to rip all these CDs so he can access them online (and so he doesn't have to continue paying for storage space)? [more inside]
Tell me about the long terms affects of sichuan peppercorns on your tastebuds. [more inside]
Someone got rough with my little free library and the door came off the hinges. I'm not sure how to reattach them, but I bet if I knew what kind of hinges they were, I could find a guide. Here's hinge picture #1 and hinge picture #2.
I need to pick paint for a kitchen/dining room that's about to be renovated. I spent $$$ on sample cans. None were right. Inspired and annoyed, I mixed a couple different ones together and slapped the mix on the wall. This is exactly what I want. But when I go to photograph it (in order to bring to the store to replicate) it doesn't look right in the picture! How can I get a paint to match what's here? I've got an iPhone 5. [more inside]
Do goldfish in a small pond eat mosquito eggs before they turn into wrigglers or do mosquitos know enough to avoid ponds with goldfish? In either case, mosquito larvae never seen in the pond.
So I have two external hard drives that have issues. I spoke with a local computer repair/data recovery company, they are estimating $350-700 for the pair. The data on there isn't actually worth that much to me. Are there any recovery steps I should try on my own? [more inside]
What are some examples of conditions normally considered disabilities that are requirements for specific jobs? [more inside]
Are there lots of reasons that a baby could be crying for many hours every day? [more inside]
I'm supposed to go to an ER. Which one? I'm in Manhattan. [more inside]
I recently got a temp assignment at a company where I've been applying to work. I like what I do, I like my team, and I respect my supervisor. My first week went very well, but a bad migraine -- and my doctor readjusting my medication for same -- has hampered my work performance. Help? [more inside]
What are ways of carrying or sending lunches for people who work away from home similar to the lunch pails of the US, the Bento Boxes of Japan, and the Dabbas of India? The more obscure the better!
I'm looking for the best team-management tool for my recreational a cappella group. Right now we use a mishmash of email, Facebook, Google Calendar, and texting, so tons of important information slips through the cracks and we waste time trying to get everyone on the same page. I'd really like to consolidate all of these to a single, centralized platform. [more inside]
I can't work at work and I don't know why. I can only get work done after the day's over while sitting on my couch. This isn't sustainable. Help! [more inside]
What's your recommended neighborhood watering hole for South Philly (tonight specifically)? A spot that is ok with outsiders(i.e. A solo yuppie like myself) but full of regulars who can saddle up to the bar and strike up convos with bartenders and customers alike. Ideally no fancy cocktail menu and a couple tvs to watch games. South Philly for me meaning Queen Village, Bella Vista, Passayunk Square or adjacent. Hoping to get a feel for the place I'd go if I lived there! Thanks!
Is dating in your 30s more difficult than in your 20s? [more inside]
I recently spotted a lapel pin that just read "129." The man wearing it also had on an anti-Hillary Clinton pin, some I'm guessing it likely involves conservative politics somehow, but Google isn't turning up anything useful at all - anyone know what "129" might be referring to? The guy was a lawyer and a New Yorker, if that helps.
I'm a single woman in my 30s (no kids) who works from home. I'm looking to move from Silicon Valley to Washington, DC and would like advice about where to live and how much I should expect to pay. Additional details inside. [more inside]
I am looking to find some examples extremely detailed websites about arcane topics created by amateurs. Detail inside. [more inside]
My apartment complex switched to single container recycling a few months ago. You just take your recyclables and chuck them into an enormous, trailer sized metal container. A few weeks ago I drove past a garbage truck from the recycling company parked next to the container. On the ground, spread out on tarps, were several children, probably 8-10 years old, sorting stuff from the recycling container into piles. I have several concerns and questions here. [more inside]
I need to get a new car tomorrow. I am looking for something that is cheap, highly reliable, and fuel-efficient. Right now I’m stuck trying to decide between the Honda Fit and the Toyota Corolla, but will also eagerly consider suggestions for cars I haven’t thought of. Any and all anecdata is welcome. [more inside]
Our office has an open-layout plan with no cubicles. Lately I have been noticing other people's conversations are getting picked up on phone calls in the office. Is sound masking the solution to solving this issue? [more inside]
On the weekend my mother gave me her engagement ring to propose to my Girlfriend with. What worries me is that the diamond isn't large enough. [more inside]
Bear with me: can you help me identify a go-to vegetarian meal that would be satisfying to a dinner guest and meet the criteria sketched out below? I know there are many vegetarian meal threads here but I'm really fixated on finding a single utility dish that functions for a vegetarian the way pork tenderloin could for a meat eater. [more inside]
Looking for music and hopefully audio for birthday songs that might have been sung in the states before ~1860, ideally in English. I feel certain that I have seen a list of such songs in the past, but several decades worth of hubbub about the "Happy Birthday to You" copyright and the generic nature of the possible search terms seem to have have rendered Google helpless. Thanks!
Do I get back together with my long time friend and ex and "see how it goes" despite him being at a crossroads in his life and not knowing what he wants or when he'll be emotionally available? [more inside]
My spouse and I own an 27-inch iMac from 2011. Recently, the screen seemed to go briefly haywire and then black. Now, when the computer is turned on, it seems to boot fine, but nothing can be seen on the screen (the flashlight trick did not help). Is there a way to make the computer mirror itself to another monitor at startup so that we can access its contents? [more inside]
I may need to fly across the U.S. (SMF to BDL) at the last minute. I'm looking for deals but so far have turned up nothing below $900 for a round trip flight. Yowza. I'm looking at Kayak which brings up priceline, Expedia, travelocity, eDreams, and OneTravel. Where else should I look?
MSP mefites! What is *the* food item to bring back from the Twin Cities? [more inside]
I just had my newborn son circumcised at a nice modern hospital in a country that doesn't really "do" circumcision (India). After the procedure was over, the doctor asked me if I wanted the foreskin, since (according to him) some people want it to keep it for "religious purposes." Does anyone know what groups keep the removed foreskin and what they do with it? Googling isn't turning up anything, but I might be using the wrong key words.
Ok, so I have a psychology degree, 20yrs early care and education experience, and am currently in grad school studying school psychology. I should have this, right? I do not have this. Little kids - I totally know what to do. Use your words, tell an adult, yada yada..... My smart, introverted 12 year old vs. douchebag 14 year old? Stymied. I came home from work today and he was in a terrible mood - after a few stabs at trying to get him to talk - I chalked it up to homework fussing and let it lay..... 20 minutes before bedtime - he admits to an 8th grader sticking gum in his hair and throwing a deodorant can at his head on the bus ride home. He just started middle school this year and for the most part - 6th graders are isolated from 7th and 8th graders. [more inside]
My co-worker's sibling died. What's the best way to send my condolences? [more inside]
Hi Mefites! We are excited to welcome Pumpkin to our family. We adopted her from the SPCA a week ago. She is a year and a half old and a real love. When people ask me what kind of cat we have, what is the answer? Thank you!
I have been at my 'new' job for about five months and it's about time I call my 2 feet of deskspace home. What are ways to make my desk pretty, classy, tidy, interesting? Desires and restrictions below the fold: [more inside]
I am shipping a container of household effects from the United States to Ireland, where I am a resident. I have been resident in Ireland since 2012 and so I am not eligible for relief from customs duty that is available if your goods are shipped within 12 months of your move to Ireland. [more inside]
My sound stops working when I plug headphones or speakers into the headphone jack. I've tried troubleshooting but it says nothing is wrong. [more inside]
I'm a 34 year old male, I have had moderately risky sex in the past and the last time I got tested for anything was back in 2005. I have a new partner who's concerned and would like me to get a full STD panel. [more inside]
I have been going to a roller rink weekly to get some exercise and renting skates. I'm ready to commit and buy my own skates, but I can't decide between speed style skates and artistic style skates. Advise please? [more inside]
I want to own one pair of high quality black leather boots. Difficulty level: wide calves, utter lack of fashion sense. Halp! [more inside]
I used to love this pasta salad that I bought at Fairway in the middle of the last decade called "Baton Rouge Macaroni Salad." Anyone know where it went or how to replicate it? [more inside]
I'm making Marcella Hazan's carbonara for someone tonight who really dislikes green salads (also seafood, just to be thorough), so while I would normally serve something like an arugula-based salad on the side to balance the richness of the dish, that's out. [more inside]
I recently quit smoking. Yay! For my Cruella De Vil costume for Halloween, I've already got a cigarette holder and I'd like something to put in it that, you know, looks like a cigarette. The thing here is that it absolutely, 100%, no wiggle-room cannot have any nicotine. What are my options here? [more inside]
I'd like to surprise my partner with a trip SOMEWHERE for ~3-5 days from either San Francisco or Washington DC. The annoying part is his birthday is the day after Christmas. [more inside]
How do you deal with lack of physical contact as a single person, especially when it's one of your primary love languages? [more inside]
I need to rent a wheel-chair accessible apartment for 3 people starting Saturday, somewhere near to or very accessible to the Kings College Hospital in Denmark Hill, Camberwell, London. I am in the US and know about airbnb and homeaway, but are there other sites that are either UK specific or focused on serving people making hospital visits? Given I need to make a speedy booking, looking to widen my search options as much as possible.
I'm abroad for a year and the crappy knife I brought along is getting to be a drag. I'd love to by a chef's knife for daily use that would also be a nice souvenir of Barcelona. Is there a good but not extravagant chef's knife made around here? If so, where should I buy it? [more inside]
I have in my future several trips between the U.S. and Singapore, each one about 24 hrs partly from looooong flights and partly from airport layovers. What are your travel tips to being as comfortable as possible on these journeys? Please hope me! [more inside]
I'm looking for beautiful Christmas cards without text on the cover or inside. More details within. [more inside]
I've had an issue throughout my career of helping less senior women in their careers only to have them turn around and try to sabotage me in some fashion. Help me not become paranoid of women. [more inside]
I'm looking for ideas for fancy dress costumes that incorporate a set of ear defender earmuffs, which I need to wear in order to deal with amplified music and crowded environments. The earmuffs look like very large headphones. I'd like gender neutral/masculine costumes if possible, but really all ideas are welcome. [more inside]
I'm about to start a writing project with someone else. I have no idea how this is done: logistically, that can be all worked out, I mean more division of labor. Does one dream up and the other grind it out? What works best for you and your writing partner?
Today, even the most obscure ingredient can often be sourced with the click of a few buttons, but back in the day... I'm looking for examples of recent (+/- last 100 yrs) groups of immigrants coming to the US and how either not having access to their usual ingredients or having access to new ingredients may have impacted their traditional recipes. [more inside]
Do you know of any software or tools to help a team organise software support? I am thinking of something like a task list which pops up with simple tasks that need doing. (i.e. check these logs, reset this thing). [more inside]
Earlier today I caught a show on TV where they showed a factory where "milk" was produced from different grains and nuts. That piqued my interest to try to make some at home. I can google some recipes (in fact I already have), but I'm interested in hearing plant milk recipes that other mefites have tried and enjoyed, and that were easy (ish) to make at home using only equipment normally found in kitchens (or other parts of the home for that matter).
I am renting a furnished/corporate apartment in Manhattan. I need to move out ASAP, so I'd like to find someone to replace me. Other than Craigslist or Airbnb, where can I list this furnished apartment for my landlord? [more inside]
Hi, everyone. So it's only been my third day of a new job and I had to call in sick. I feel absolutely mortified and really worried about what my manager thinks of me now. I would have still gone if it was just the death-like flu symptoms, but I was also vomiting and I knew I wouldn't have been able to make it there, let alone the rest of the day. On top of that, my wallet was stolen at the doctor's office which had the employee security badge to enter the building inside it, so I'm going to have to ask for a replacement for that as well - in my first week! Talk about bad luck... I called in to let my manager know, and she did say that she would rather not have me come in and spread germs in the office and it was best that I stayed home.Still, I'm very worried about the impression I may have given to her about my reliability. I don't want her to think I'm flaky and not fit for the position. My mind is so fuzzy right now, please help me figure out what I can to assure her that this was a one-time thing and she can be confident that she can trust me to be a reliable employee... Thanks in advance, guys.
On Friday, a 5-person panel will interview me for an internal promotion. 2 of the 5 are self-described "grumpy." Tips for winning them over? [more inside]
I was called this morning by one of my dream companies for a position. I had a really great conversation and she told me I did a great job on the phone interview. She asked if I had any questions and I was so freaked and excited I told her no. How bad is this? [more inside]
A few weeks ago my son who was previously an excellent napper and sleeper decided he is no longer interested in napping or sleeping at night. [more inside]
I'm on brain rest (yes that's a thing) with a concussion, and need simple TV shows I can get in the US. [more inside]
In the “Steve Jobs” script by Aaron Sorkin, there is a little exchange between Jobs and Sculley in which the former says that the name “Apple” came from a “list of friendly-sounding words”. Regardless of why Apple is named Apple, do such lists exist? Is there any research on what makes a word sound friendly to people (phonetically, semantically, aurally, visually, ...)?
Food safety: when is it safe to rely on taste/smell, and when do I need to follow specific rules? [more inside]
Since Maximian is asking about Japan just down the page, and since we'll be traveling there with our (older) daughter at that same time, and since my question regards ryokan as well... Thought I'd better ask: How does one stretch out and nap in a ryokan (during the day)? Since the bedding is brought out in the evening, I'm wondering what to do if I want a brief respite or a horizontal read before the bedding is available.
I like to hear the words "I love you" more than my partner likes to say them. What to do? [more inside]
Myself, my wife, and our 3-year-old daughter will be traveling in Japan in late October/early November, and we're interested in spending 2 nights in natural surroundings. The Mt Fuji area, specifically Hakone, is the leading candidate, but many of the ryokans are either booked or don't allow small children. Any advice on specific places to stay or alternative/similar destinations? [more inside]
Lots of questions about where to live in Portland, but I need advice on how to look for housing in Portland. Craigslist, walking, something I don't know exists? Special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
I occasionally get a case of anemia-induced angular cheilitis, and now have a particularly unappealing occurrence. Any experience on helping it to go away faster? Also, any recommendations for good iron supplements that are cheaper than Floradix? [more inside]
Asking for a character. He has maybe twenty dollars until his next paycheck, and he has to stretch this amount over several days. What would said impoverished hipster buy? He is an alcoholic. It's like 2007. [more inside]
My brother's irresponsible habits have always been trying. He's currently going through a depression and a breakup—both caused, in part, by those irresponsible and trying habits. This has turned his already precarious financial situation into a crisis. I want to be there for him—but I also need him to understand that I'm reaching the end of my rope, and that if he keeps refusing to take responsibility for his own poor choices, I can't promise I'll be there when the next crisis comes along. Help me find the balance between being a forgiving and understanding brother, and protecting my own interests. [more inside]
I'm looking for good "Autumn" music. With specifications, of course. [more inside]
Most everything I cook has little or no flavor. It never tastes bad; it just doesn't taste. Like there is only texture. [more inside]
I have an Amazon basics PC keyboard and am having difficulty take screen selections. [more inside]
I'm cat sitting in Chicago for a couple friends of mine who are on vacation. One of the three cats slunk out a gap in a window that I had left open to exhaust some of the kitty litter smell. I don't know anyone else here and I'm concerned about leaving the apartment because I don't want to be gone if the cat comes back. More specifics after the jump. [more inside]
I've invited my trans friend to see my band play a party, but I am having anxiety about helping her be safe. What's should I do to make my party a safer space for her? [more inside]
We would like to rent a place for a week-long family Christmas and are trying to decide on a location. We have three groups of people: two adults in Oakland, California; two adults and four children near Salt Lake City; and one adult in Michigan. The children range in age from two to eleven, and the place has to be driving distance from Salt Lake, as the Salt Lake group can't afford to fly six people. Plus we want to keep costs down as much as possible. Other considerations inside. [more inside]
Help me plan an extended 1980s-90s home-based film festival to last throughout winter 2015-16. [more inside]
They're building a house next door, RIGHT on my property line (as I loosely understand it to be; I don't have charts). Assuming I should double-check the specifics, who can I hire to do this legwork? [more inside]
I've got a newish laptop (1.5 yr old, Samsung, Windows 8) that pretty much exclusively is used these days to stream sports to my tv via hdmi. I'd like a slightly more elegant set-up than I currently have, which has it sitting on a little stool next to the tv. [more inside]
My Tivo frequently loses connection to the network, which creates substantial problems. Since there are a lot of expensive wires and devices that could be the cause of the issue, it's not cost effective to start replacing components until the issue is fixed. Is there a better way to pinpoint the source of a problem on a home network? [more inside]
In a few weeks I'll be driving down I-85 from Petersburg VA to Atlanta GA and would like to fill the trip with occasional stops to see and explore places with historical and/or cultural significance. Can anyone suggest places I should see on my drive? Battlefields? Great barbecue? Birthplace of patriots? Controversial schools? Whatever, I just don't want to miss an opportunity to learn and see as much as possible. Ideally they should be no more than about 10 miles from the interstate.
Looking for recipes to make in my cast iron pan. [more inside]
Help a geeky, introverted West Coast girl find good food and fun stuff to do in NYC. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
My new house will have a dedicated craft room. (squee!) But the floor is currently carpeted, and I intend to work on messy and incendiary crafts. I think I should probably rip up the carpet -- what should I do with the concrete underneath? [more inside]
For fictional purposes, help me understand the structure and workings of a major city police department. Suppose I have a non-profit organization with some offices where we do our work. And one day a group of masked individuals invades our offices with automatic weapons and just shoots the hell out of the place. Who investigates the crime? [more inside]
I've been separated from my wife for two-plus years. We both have lives in different parts of the country and are in serious relationships with other people. There's no way that we could or should be together, but we're both having a hard time accepting the idea of getting a divorce and I'm not sure why. [more inside]
I'm on disability and am on SSI, for auditory processing disorder and bipolar among other things. The boss at my retail store told me he doesn't want me anymore, and said things that i view as harassment, especially since they knew i was disabled when they hired me. My self-esteem is shattered and my depression is back in large part because of these events. I'd like to hear some ideas as to how to proceed with this and what my options are since I feel I was abused. Should I get a lawyer/etc? [more inside]
What's a safe, reliable app/script for creating folders and moving photos into them based on their EXIF creation date in Mac OS X? [more inside]
Have you done this? The scooter in question disassembles into 4 parts. Delta is willing to let us gate-check it but is this a good idea? [more inside]
Is there a place that will let me create posters of my own artwork on their printers if I work there? Anyone have experience with this? [more inside]
Hi everyone. I've had travel anxiety for the last 10 or so years, but it's recently gotten really bad. I've completely dumped my responsibilities for the entire week in favour of just generally being anxious and depressed. [more inside]
Help us name our organization! My colleague and I are building a business (or maybe it’s two businesses) and we need a name or two. We've got a freeschool-inspired school alternative for kids and a coworking space for adults. Will it blend? [more inside]
I don't have a Facebook profile. I'm looking for 101-style resources that I can point people towards instead of fumbling through an explanation repeatedly. [more inside]
I moved to a small town and started dating a guy pretty much right away. He had already been living there for a couple years at that point. Fast-forward three years: I broke up with him. We both still love our small town. Do I have to move? [more inside]
I've now had 3 episodes of a weird skin thing (specifics within) that is painful and perplexing and google-resistant. I have an appointment with a dermatologist, but it isn't for several weeks, and I'm not even sure this is actually one for the dermatologist, rather than a GP or even an OB/Gyn. It starts with hot itchy skin and evolves to a pimple-like rash, and it is exclusive to my jawline and chin. Do you know what it might be, and exactly which doctor I should see about it? I really hate going to doctors, so I’d love to get the right doc the first time with this. [more inside]
Do I have any chance of being a firefighter with my previous drug use or am I simply wasting my time? [more inside]
I need a tuxedo. For a very special occasion, my partner and I are taking an extended European vacation, taking the QM2 to and fro. Of those 14 nights on the ship, 6 are black tie formal. [more inside]
My Google-fu has failed me: the first time I heard the Eels song "Climbing To The Moon," it was over the end credits of a film. What was the film?
Please help me find female representation in the land of traditional boys' toys. [more inside]
I joined ebay yesterday and listed my first item, an iPad mini (never opened) for $225. I chose the "best offer" option. Today I got an offer for $250 along with a kind of confusing message. Is this some sort of scam, or did I get lucky? [more inside]
Just finished the ENTIRE towel laundry. I have an opportunity to fold all the towels the same way in the linen closet(!)...And I'm usually impressed with the way I see it at nicer hotels, gyms, spas, etc. Any tips for folding bath towels for storage and easy dispensation? [more inside]
I have several hours to kill today in Frankfurt (Main), Germany. Where should I go? What should I do? [more inside]
When is it appropriate to set a boundary regarding how much time you spend dealing with your friends’ romantic turmoil? And how do you set healthy boundaries? I’m not referring to things like supporting a friend through a breakup, but, rather, more ongoing situations. More inside. [more inside]
I finally got up the nerve to phone a trans friendly doctor and have a meet and greet appointment next week to see if she'll take me on as a patient and help me on the road to transitioning. I'm at a loss about what to say and how to explain a few things. Help? [more inside]
I run in extremely hot and humid weather and my shoes are squishy. I need to drill holes in them to let the sweat out. Help. [more inside]
Tonight was a rough night in our house. My picky, small three year-old once again ate two bites of dinner and turned his nose up at what I'd made for him. I got upset and berated him. I feel bad about this and want to figure out what to do. [more inside]
It's Fall! Apples are super popular right now! Except for if you're shaped like one...this is a two-part Q, for those who have experience with H&M plus size jeans and maybe also have an ongoing quest for a perfect, tunic length henley shirt. [more inside]
Our organization is introducing the Customer Success Manager role, and after getting the "Industry Standards" certifications (ITIL Expert, CGEIT, TOGAF), our boss has asked us to suggest where to go next. I´m looking for a value realization certification (a la BRM) to help our customers get the most bang for their money and at the same time, help our company to increase its business and specially contract renewals. Can you help me out? (More after the jump). [more inside]
There has been a song on the tip of my mental tongue, as it were, for about three weeks now and I am hoping some genius mefite can recognize it from my fragmentary description. It is Caribbean in flavour and I am 90% sure it was recorded in the sixties. Unfortunately about all I have is part of the chorus. [more inside]
Need a quick getaway from LA after I meet several deadlines next week. I'm planning to visit a friend in Cambria Friday and Saturday but would like to hit the road and see Monterey, Carmel and/or Santa Cruz (or somewhere else you might suggest in the area) on Sunday. [more inside]
I am in a slightly long distance relationship of 6 months. We have history and are very serious for the time-frame. Four days ago, my girlfriend spontaneously agreed to hang out with her ex boyfriend when he called her. The next day she told me, claiming to have "emotionally cheated." During this talk she opened up about many things, including hanging out with her ex one other time a month into our relationship, making out with him then and similar, but not sex. Before this discussion, we were at a significant high point in our relationship. How do I move past feelings of betrayal? Should I? [more inside]
I have some frozen ground-beef patties from Costco which are about a year-and-a-half past their best by date. They were bought frozen, stayed frozen, and haven't had any power outages. From looking around online, it doesn't look like they'll poison me (if I'm wrong though, let me know), but is it a waste of time trying to use them up? If not, what sort of things should I use them for which best minimizes freezer-burn taste?
I just bought a new MacBook Air and I'm going to be giving my MacBook Pro to my dad. He will be a Mac newbie, so I'm going to end up being the "tech support" person. [more inside]
What resources (books, blogs, articles) should I read to learn something about how race/ethnicity operates in the UK? [more inside]
I'm leading a session of a quirky academic discussion group. Each week is based on an eclectic set of readings. I'd like to assign: (1) the first chapter of The Sixth Extinction; (2) the third chapter of Elinor Ostrom's Governing the Commons; and (3) something lighter and more fun -- maybe an apocalyptic sci-fi short story about a tiny community trying to get along. What are good options for #3? [more inside]
I live in a very quaint apartment, but winter is just around the corner and I know it will be a bear to heat. It was hard to keep cool this summer, so I expect heating will be even tougher and there is nothing I hate worse than being cold. What have you found to be the most economical, safe, and comfortable way to heat your abode in the winter months? [more inside]
I'm working on a convention that has up to 7 programs happening at any given time - typically panels with multiple speakers. We have had a request to provide sign language interpreters for at least one guest. Does anyone know what the ADA requirements are in this instance? Do we need to provide interpreters for each room during each program?
Macbook vs coffee. Can it be saved? [more inside]
I want to turn the email newsletters I subscribe to into RSS feeds, so I can receive them in my RSS reader, instead of my inbox. IFTTT doesn't do this. Does anyone know of another way?
I recently bought a Japanese vase with three people on it--two men and one women. Does anyone know who they are? The woman is surrounded by a halo. Any insight would be most appreciated. [more inside]
I've been working through a career change decision and it involves going back to school. Did you change careers in your 30s and go back to school? Did it work out? (More details/specifics, but I'm interested in eventually practicing Clinical Psychology). [more inside]
I’m helping my nonprofit shop for a CRM! Along with all the other useful features of Salesforce (e.g. member/donor management, grant tracking, contact logs), we want to integrate volunteer management, program enrollment and more. Is Salesforce the answer? And some other questions... [more inside]
I'm looking for a fitness tracker (or really any sort of everyday wearable, as opposed to a workout-only wearable) that tracks biostats/vital signs/whatever you want to call it throughout your day and night. My primary interest is in body temperature. Beyond that, I don't really have a specific feature profile I want - I know from researching it temperature is hard to find. Do you know of one? What should I get? More details of what I'm trying to do and what I've already tried are inside as always. [more inside]
We *must* replace our lower kitchen cabinets. The uppers are *ahem, previous owners* stained green. How do I match the unfinished lowers to the uppers? Is it possible with stain or am I forced to do a flat paint/black stain to cover the previous stain? Is there a cheaper route than Home Depot/Lowes? Is Habitat a practical option? I don't see cabinets on CL.
My mother is looking for a new dentist. She's in an assisted living community in Round Rock (on Sunrise Road, near Old Settlers) and I'll be driving her to appointments. Her teeth are in good shape (no dentures, few cavities); she has no dental insurance beyond Medicare and will be paying directly.
There has to be a way that I can track my mileage in Excel. [more inside]
Do I need a desktop or laptop, and which model? My desktop died yesterday, and I'm trying to figure out what to replace it with... [more inside]
I need a legally-enforceable, semi "public" method for my abusive ex to communicate to me evidence of his compliance with his legal responsibilities. We are in dispute over previously shared property but I have insisted on no contact and do not wish to enable my ex to contact me over any issue but the property. I don't want him to have my email address or that of an alias/other account in case he uses that address to send abuse, threats, or any other kind of unnecessary and unwanted correspondence. [more inside]
I live in Toronto and my neighbourhood has above-ground powerlines and lots of trees. We get blackouts every year, usually from something happening at a transformer station, but during the ice storm it was because of trees taking out power lines. If I want to protect my family and house against power outages it seems like my options are either getting an installed generator, a portable generator or some kind of backup battery. How do these compare, and is anything going to change much in the next couple of years? [more inside]
I stayed at a hotel in Washington, DC and there was a minibar in my room. The minibar menu listed overpriced little bottles of liquor and snacks and also a "collateral holder" for $45. But what is it? [more inside]
A friend of mine is starting up a psychiatric billing small business and has asked me about email. I'm afraid I'm a bit out of my depth here. Can anyone recommend a HIPAA-compliant email provider that is not too expensive? [more inside]
I've never really known what I want to be when I grow up, and now that I'm a proper adult in my thirties, I'd like to figure it out. I'm planning on taking a few tests (Meyer Briggs and Strong Interest Inventory), and came across the Johnson O'Conner aptitude test. It looks like a great tool for choosing a college major, but is it worth taking this late in the game? [more inside]
Why does catering appear to run around twice the price of equivalent restaurants? [more inside]
I am teaching an intro class on engineering design. I've decided to offer an optional extra credit assignment so that students that have missed homeworks can make up some of their homework grade with a bit of extra effort. As part of their regular assignments, they've built a widget. I'd like them to test their widget under similar conditions 4-5 times and report data to me. What are some good ways I can make outright cheating on the assignment a bit harder? [more inside]
[OSX Yosemite] My clock keeps resetting to Thursday, December 5, 2013 at 10:57 PM at seemingly random intervals. Any idea what's going on? [more inside]
I realize this is almost a bratty question to ask, but it's giving me a hard time. I am happy. Things are going well. I feel like I'm looking at a pretty sunset and thinking "eh, okay. enough of that. ho hum." How can I maximize my enjoyment (?) of this blessedly uncomplicated time in my life without screwing it up? [more inside]
How long to job search before accepting a job offer? [more inside]
Within the span of a single visit, what are the best methods for figuring out if a new city would be a good fit for you? [more inside]
It's 8am. In 10 hours I would like to pull the "worlds best lasagne" out of my oven. Feeling overwhelmed with recipes and options. Any favorites? secret ingredients? Techniques you can recommend? [more inside]
We will be hiking in the White Mountains starting next week, but want to take a day trip to Portland to see the ocean and do [other things you can suggest]. [more inside]
I love to cross my legs in this style while I'm sitting (all day) at my desk. It seems to be bad for circulation. In fact I've been experiencing leg numbness while walking. Not to mention the crossed legs are bad for the knees. Knowing the harm, I CAN'T STOP sitting that way because it's so comfortable. How do I condition myself to sit well?
I'm 29 and seem to be going through a sort of quarter life crisis. The events of the last few months have caused me to want to change directions, but I need help deciding what that new direction is. [more inside]
What successful strategies have you had for helping a kindergartener/young school age child deal with runaway emotions or prevent tantrums?
We recently got a little baby kitten named Kalagata Olive, and our adult male cat Caliban Party Ghost spent the first week of her arrival just MAD AS HELL about it. He seems... more ripped? He's like 11 pounds-ish now, up from 10-ish before. Could territoriality be making him more testosteroney, and therefore more buff? Is this a thing. (Obligatory visuals: Caliban mad at Olive, Caliban finally getting along with Olive, Thunder Perfect Cat putting up with Olive, Olive in her natural habitat)
My wonderful fiance and I are marrying soon. I ignored portents of wedding drama; we opted to throw a medium-sized wedding with all our extended families, tons of friends, etc. Now I wish we had eloped. Without going into too much explanation, multiple family members have turned our upcoming wedding from an eagerly anticipated fete to one filled with drama, stress, planning, mini-emergencies, and chaos. My fiance and I have both gotten sick. I've been tempted to call it off more than once. Please help. [more inside]
Seeing advice about concrete steps to get a bright kid with some social and motivation symptoms to do better (failing) in school. [more inside]
Almost last minute wedding guest shoe guidance needed, complicated by healing swollen sprained ankle. How can I choose a shoe that will fit my foot by Friday? [more inside]
I got tracked down on facebook by a real creep that scared me a lot in real life... he knew where I was etc. So about a year ago I deactivated my account, and I really haven't missed it. Now I want to delete it permanently, but when I go to put in my password it says incorrect. I have done this about 5 times on different days and... [more inside]
Looking for a family-friendly boardgame which is fun for everyone (ranging from 8-year old niece to 70-year old grandparents). We'll be playing with 7 people (of which 2 kids). Extra difficulty level: must be available in Dutch!
I am a teacher, and I would like to use my iPad to organize my class notes. I'll describe my dream app and hopefully someone can tell me it exists. [more inside]
I need some help in seeking a therapist. Not a recommendation to a specific therapist, but some insight into various approaches. [more inside]
Why does my butt get so sweaty, and is there anything I can do to make it less so? [more inside]
I just found an uninsulated boarded up window in my condo [more inside]
I have a time series of data - number of "detections" per hour, over time. Each of these points also has two attributes associated with it, x and y. I also have a second time series of data which I expect to correlate with that number of detections per hour, but only with detections within certain combinations of those x and y values. I want to find what range of x and y values has the best correlation. [more inside]
It's 2015, and more and more academic articles from pre-Internet times are getting scanned, indexed, and shared. Back in the day, you might have been able to publish essentially the same paper in journals with mainly domestic subscriber lists in two different countries, and nobody ever would have been the wiser. Somebody did this. The intersection of subscribers was probably less than 25 libraries in this case back then. Twenty years later, and a reader noticed. Author is now a big cheese. My gut tells me to treat this just like any other case of major plagiarism--notify the author, allow them to respond, but then likely public retraction as self-plagiarism and notify employer and journal where Author is now editor. [more inside]
I'm looking for more games to play in my weekly English tuition classes. The class is for working-class children in a multilingual country (Malaysia), so they have some proficiency that is age-appropriate, but they're very used to codeswitching, so I'm trying to get them to be more able to express themselves comfortably in one language as needed. Right now they have played Boggle (which is tabletop) but especially enjoyed Heads Up. Anyone has recommendations for similar party games on Android (that is free or cheap) that would help them in English? [more inside]
The building that houses The Menil Collection is one of my all-time favorite buildings that houses art. But "building" isn't the right word. Nor is gallery, nor is exhibition, though it is close to all of these. What is the right word, accurately defines the buildings which house the art in The Louvre, The Art Institute, Museum Fine Arts Houston, San Antonio Museum of Art, etc and etc. [more inside]
I am very fond of Japanese green tea (sencha, not matcha) but I know very little about it, other than "A few times in my life someone has given me this cup of tea that tasted kind of like lawns and seaweed but in a good way and I must have more of this." I'd like to start exploring what's out there and educating my palate a bit, but … inexpensively. If that's even possible. My beverage budget is in "one six-pack of nice craft beer a week" territory. What should I try? [more inside]
Mrs. Demon and I both remember reading, in either a book or a periodical, in the early '80s, an article about an Englishman who found himself with a dog he didn't really want, which dog then had puppies. To keep the puppies in one place, he made a pen by stapling chicken wire to his living room furniture. Does anyone remember anything like this?
Are there therapists or such that deal with adult social problems? [more inside]
Having recently accepted that my ASD will not go away, and looking to engage a little bit more with it, can you recommend any regular fixtures (regular articles, blogs, tumblrs, books possibly) that are written from an autistic perspective? [more inside]
This is sort of a follow up to last question i posted... But it was about androgel and this is about injections.Had a full blood panel from internal medicine doctor as I told him that my libido was low. Well, my testosterone level came back at 277 which he told me was low. I was prescribed 1ml/100mg of testosterone cypionate once every three weeks. Ive tried to do my research and from what ive found is that this is bad and should at least be done every week or at least every two weeks. I spoke with him about it and he said he wanted it keep it that way. Should I start it and see what happens? Im worried about peaks and valleys and my test. lasting that three weeks.
I have a piece of land, I want a gravel driveway. Who do I call to do this? (More snowflakes inside.) [more inside]
I met this guy online about a week ago. We haven't texted much but he suggested we meet up in person this Tuesday. Two days ago, I texted him asking if he's still on and he said he's looking forward to it. Today is Monday evening and no plan has been made as of now. Should I text him and ask what the plan is or should I wait for him to text me to make plans? Thanks for your input.
It looks like I'm starting to develop skin cancers on my face. Ugh. I've always been careful to slip, slap and slop when outside playing sports. But probably not as careful for daily activities. That needs to change. [more inside]
I just started using a new Cloud VPS at A Small Orange. I've been using WebFaction shared hosting for years. I have lots of clients using them for hosting and I understand pretty well what I'm doing over there. But the ASO documentation seems light and I feel like I need to educate myself more about what I'm using there. I feel like I've exhausted the articles in the KB. [more inside]
Germany, Argentina, Vietnam, somewhere else? [more inside]
We are moving to Albuquerque, any mefites with local psychiatrist recommendations? PMs welcomed.
Is there a simple, pretty, clean, non-judgmental term that can describe the state of feeling something strongly that is not correct in a larger context? While I’ve seen terms that capture aspects of this, they have problems: Michael Kimmel’s description of “angry white men” as experiencing “aggreived entitlement” is tied to the decline of privilege. “Misapprehension“ and “misperception” capture the incorrect reading of reality but not the sentiment.
We've been dating for three months. I love him, but he hasn't said it yet, and I don't know if I want to say it first. [more inside]
A local coffee shop makes this amazing coffee drink that they call a Mocha en Fuego. It's a mocha with cinnamon and cayenne that I get iced and it's the most delicious coffee drink ever. Please help me recreate it at home! [more inside]
Inspired in part by this recent question, Mr. DrGail and I want to go to Costa Rica this winter. I know we're behind the curve in planning this trip, so I'm hoping you can help. Our interests and other particulars are inside. [more inside]
I am in Ontario, and I'm currently subletting an apartment because the tenants needed to leave their lease earlier than the term. The tenants expressed to me that I would be able to renew the lease after the term of the sublet, and this is something that I want to do. The management company has not been responsive to either my or the superintendent's queries, and the sublet term will be over relatively soon. The superintendent recommends that I just continue occupying the suite by paying the rent on a month-to-month basis. Can I do this? (Snowflake: I'm Deaf and there are accessibility issues in contacting the management company.) [more inside]
Looking to find out how difficult it would be to create a "puzzle solver" for a game I'm creating. Ultimately to find out how many possible solutions there are for a given puzzle layout. [more inside]
Hello Guys, I started working on 5x5 program. I did 3x5 and other split workouts in the past and did see some results, but I feel like I reached the plateau. I just want to give this a try and see if it works for me in 12 weeeks. As suggested by Mehdi, I plan on adding 5 lbs to each workout except dead lift it is 10 lb as the program needs only 1 set of of 5 reps for dead lifts. What do you guys think about this program in general? [more inside]
We need to replace our washing machine, and I need to get a second opinion. [more inside]
I did my kitchen last year, now the countertops are splitting? [more inside]
Is there any research, discussions or statistics that link burnt out car bulbs to police stops, and then to either police shootings or anything related violent interactions between arrestees and police?
I'm a 60-something male whose regular "uniform" is jeans, T-shirt, and when it gets cooler, a flannel shirt open in the front with the sleeves rolled up. As it gets even cooler, I need to throw a jacket over this. So I'm looking for the right kind of jacket for this combination. Most of my jackets are short so they show the flannel shirt hanging down below. [more inside]
We've got airmiles to burn and a long weekend at the start of December. Probably looking for info on a city in southern USA or some arts festival in the Americas. [more inside]