October 2014 Archives

October 31

How to invest in AI?

Any recommendations for (public or private) companies heavily engaged in artificial intelligence products and research? [more inside]
posted by yoyo_nyc at 11:26 PM PST - 5 comments

Finding alternate phrases

What resources or tools are there for finding alternative phrases? As an example, when talking about art, someone might talk about "breaking conventions", "disrupting conventions" or "challenging conventions". However, if you go to a thesaurus and look up "breaking", you have to go through a very long list of words to find these alternatives which is quite time consuming. What tools are there which, when given a short phrase, can find alternatives? I imagine that this should be possible with either machine learning or some kind of wiki.
posted by casebash at 11:24 PM PST - 7 comments

Grieving a mentor

A mentor of mine passed away pretty suddenly a few weeks ago. I attended her funeral, cried, wrote out some of my thoughts, and think about her from time to time while listening to music that reminds me of her. This isn't affecting my daily function, but it has been on the back burner for a while. Now what? [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 10:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find a bag big enough for all my tricks?

I'm having no luck trying to find a bag with a large bottom. Can you suggest a bag for me? [more inside]
posted by sadtomato at 9:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Power Pop Me!

Please recommend to me some awesome newish power pop artists/songs! [more inside]
posted by ronofthedead at 9:24 PM PST - 22 comments

I wasn't vaccinated. Now what?

Which vaccines are most important (and effective) for me to get as an adult, to fulfill the moral imperative of contributing to the herd immunity that I benefit from? [more inside]
posted by femmegrrr at 8:11 PM PST - 25 comments

Help me make my musical tastes more pedestrian!

I'm looking for a certain flavor of music—I guess the kids call it indie pop?—with the (often female) vocalist front and center, largely electronic production, relatively sophisticated and grown-up lyrics, and a tendency to borrow freely from dance music (while steadfastly resisting the temptation to go full-on OONSTA OONSTA). [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 6:29 PM PST - 40 comments

What does this graffiti mean, if anything?

Three pieces of graffiti popped up in our neighborhood last night, on three different garages. I'm wondering if they have any sort of meaning, or if they are local gibberish. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 4:45 PM PST - 14 comments

Programming language for CAD

I'd like to find a programming language that compiles to line drawings. [more inside]
posted by Leon at 3:41 PM PST - 13 comments


How do I connect RCA cables to a new LED flat screen TV that has only HDMI, RGB, and USB ports? [more inside]
posted by Flood at 3:37 PM PST - 8 comments

Soup recipes to use with a stick blender

I recently bought a stick blender and made an amazing butternut squash soup, so now I want to make more blended soups. But apparently I'm kind of picky and disagreeable and don't really know what I want, so googling for recipes has left me cold. It's made a bit worse in that I hate cooking (although I'm more than competent at it), so it takes something good to capture my motivation and get me in the kitchen. But I do love warm creamy soup and I have to eat something, so: what are your prize winning, most amazing, tasty pureed soup recipes to make this winter. [more inside]
posted by shelleycat at 3:01 PM PST - 35 comments

Best practices for freezing food?

Please give me your tips and tricks for insuring any fresh foods you are freezing (meat, bread, etc) remain in the best condition and taste the best when thawed. [more inside]
posted by SweetTeaAndABiscuit at 2:37 PM PST - 17 comments

How Can I Find A Girlfriend In College, Really?

I’m not entirely sure where to post this on the Internet, because it seems that there are a million different opinions out there. It’s like asking, what’s the best diet to lose weight, when everyone will tell you his or her favorite diet. Regardless, I need some help. I need some guidance, a model to follow. I need to know how to get laid and/or a girlfriend. Preferably, a girlfriend. [more inside]
posted by ggp88 at 2:05 PM PST - 113 comments

Not my email.

Recently got a new iPhone 6 from Sprint. Today I went to the Find My iPhone app for the first time and someone else's email address is in the email field although it is not logged in. Why is that? No one has had access to my phone. The email address in question is timberlakejs@gmail.com if it matters. Maybe I'm dumb and this is standard, but I couldn't find any answers on Google.
posted by MaryDellamorte at 1:59 PM PST - 21 comments

I think I want a child, but don't want to ruin their life

I think I'm ready to begin trying but I'm extremely scared of ruining the child's life or even regretting having one. How do I move forward? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:26 PM PST - 23 comments

Suggestions for daily humor site geared towards dementia people?

My brother and his wife both have dementia and are currently living in a memory care home and need notes from home. [more inside]
posted by Tullyogallaghan at 1:08 PM PST - 11 comments

DC restaurants where grumpy middle aged men can eat meat and drink

I'm part of a group of middle-aged male librarians that get together periodically to talk shop, eat meat, and drink in DC. We're out of touch on the current restaurant explosion, have some specific requirements, and need your help, hivemind. [more inside]
posted by ryanshepard at 1:06 PM PST - 14 comments

Do warring cats become friendly after boarding?

I've heard that boarding cats away from home for a time will encourage them to become friendly toward each other when they return. Looking for whether that's true/common, how long to board and other particulars. [more inside]
posted by snoops at 12:58 PM PST - 2 comments

Quick and dirty insulation

My mom is in the Boston area, has an uninsulated exterior wall that is under a roof and needs to put something up. Can she just nail up the insulation or should this be handled differently. [more inside]
posted by Hactar at 12:51 PM PST - 2 comments

Breaking a lease in New Albany, Ohio- Help needed for my mom

My mom needs to break her lease in New Albany. They just bought a new house. I know about tenants right in Chicago, but not in Ohio. Can any one help me with advice. Is there a residential landlord and tenant ordinance? Is there a tenant's union? thanks
posted by TRUELOTUS at 12:24 PM PST - 14 comments

People who liked Rstudio also liked [this Python IDE]

ISO Python IDE. Edit code on one side of the screen. Run code on other. That's it. [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 12:23 PM PST - 14 comments

FPS games for weak constitutions

I'm looking for recommendations for fun, entertaining, beautiful and immersive FPS games for the PC. Age is mostly immaterial, as long as they're graphically rich, but the one big caveat is that I really don't like horror or bloody violence. [more inside]
posted by srednivashtar at 11:48 AM PST - 17 comments

Can you help me find a pdf of a printable Chewbacca mask?

Starwars.com used to have free printable star wars masks. Of course I waited last minute to pull a costume together under the assumption that I would print a Chewbacca mask like I have done in the past. Is there a way to retrieve this pdf?
posted by Nickin at 11:44 AM PST - 3 comments

Can you find the lecture about doxxing and vigilantes?

Circa 2010 I saw a video of a talk on dangers of twitter and hacktivism. The man giving this presentation gave an example of a tweet that angered hacktivists. One of them doxxed the twitter user and found out his/her address. A flash mob of angry people showed up at the doorstep. But the wrong address had been used. Then someone died (the homeowner? someone in the crowd? I can't recall.) [more inside]
posted by Monochrome at 11:09 AM PST - 2 comments

Why does my local library never have the books it says it has?

I have a well-funded local public library. Whenever I go to look for books, the ones that are supposed to be there (according to the online catalog) are not on the shelf. This goes for about half of the books I look for. What gives? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 9:54 AM PST - 32 comments

Best way to transfer photos from iOS to a PC?

I'm trying to help my parents transfer their photos from their iPhones & iPads to their PC, which runs Windows 8. I want the photos to be transferred and then deleted from their devices (each device has a few thousand photos, so manual deletion is not a realistic option). If this is your setup, what's the best solution you have found? [more inside]
posted by acidic at 9:41 AM PST - 9 comments

Subsumed State?

Around the time of the Occupy protests, I read an article that described a concept like "Subsumed State" or "Shadow State" or something. I thought it was by Mike Konczal, but I can't find it his archives and I'm pretty sure he was referring to someone else's ideas about this. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:39 AM PST - 3 comments

I can talk about polyphenols all day, but names escape me.

I'm a fledging dietitian ready to spread my wings. Please help me think of names for a future nutrition counseling practice and blog! [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:34 AM PST - 14 comments

Anyone have a non-backwashing water softener?

I have conflicting contractor opinions about whether I need to dig a dry well or get a new water softener. Can people who know a lot about water softeners or have recently purchased one help? [more inside]
posted by treehorn+bunny at 9:27 AM PST - 5 comments

What's on your home maintenance calendar?

I have a Google Calendar set up for different home maintenance tasks that benefit from being scheduled out (i.e., things that aren't necessarily visible, like "mow the lawn"). It's been just a few months since I moved in to my house and I haven't filled out the list as much as I'd like. What's on your home maintenance calendars that I might not be thinking about? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 9:10 AM PST - 25 comments

What are the French neighbours saying?

Can anyone help me with a spot of French translation? I'm subletting in Paris and I suspect my neighbours are not keen on the idea. [more inside]
posted by teststrip at 9:10 AM PST - 16 comments

Should I try metronomic chemotherapy for my cat?

You are not my vet. However, I have seen a regular vet and a veterinary oncologist and now have some difficult choices to make and I would be very grateful for first hand accounts from people who have tried metronomic chemotherapy with their pet (especially cats) or other people's pets (if you're a vet or if you're close to someone who has gone through this sort of thing before). I am seeking advice and real-life experiences to supplement any advice regular vets or oncologists may give me. [more inside]
posted by apis mellifera at 9:09 AM PST - 16 comments

Is it too late to change careers, nationalities, everything?

I have a masters degree in a relatively obscure field, an even more specialized professional history, a BA in French, no relationship, and lots of consumer and student debt. What is the likelihood that a youngish 30ish woman in that situation could pick up and move to another country? [more inside]
posted by magdalemon at 9:01 AM PST - 23 comments

Bag Me Please oh wise MeFites! For I cannot bag alone!

So I need a new everyday purse and I think i'm sooo special that none of the already answered questions will do. I've spent hours and days searching and am turning to you for help. I am looking for a small bag with a short shoulder strap that is structured enough to bring to a nice dinner but not too fancy to be dropped on the floor. obnoxious branding need not apply. More details inside! [more inside]
posted by sarahnicolesays at 8:51 AM PST - 7 comments

NYC Dinner for two, tonight near Metropolitan Opera

Two people have tickets for Die Zauberflöte at 7:30 tonight and have no plans for dinner. These two people want to eat a meal before the opera and did not make reservations. Where can they go? [more inside]
posted by tulip-socks at 8:44 AM PST - 5 comments

Buying a low-end Macbook?

I'm looking at buying a low-end Macbook for web browsing and MS Office (primarily Powerpoint). Basically, it's coming down to a 2009 or 2010 Macbook, as I'd prefer to run Yosemite, but I want to keep my budget below $500. I have used a friend's 2009 Macbook fairly regularly and I'm happy with its general performance, but I have a few specific questions. [more inside]
posted by Rock Steady at 8:35 AM PST - 13 comments

Has my phone been hacked? What next?

My (never rooted) Samsung Galaxy S4 has been exhibiting some strange behavior. How can I tell if I have a virus or if there's a more innocuous explanation? [more inside]
posted by lesli212 at 8:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Washington State Adoptee Original Birth Certificate

Washington state recently enacted a law that allows adoptees to request and receive a copy of their original birth certificate. I was adopted from Washington state, I know my birth name and my birth mother's name but I was still surprised by a couple things that were not on the copy I received. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:04 AM PST - 11 comments

Roadtrip to see the Day of the Dead in Baja?

This Halloween weekend, I would like to surprise my wife with a daytrip to Mexico to see a traditional Día de Muertos observance (we live in San Diego county). I would like your help, MetaFilter. What are some good places, within a couple hours drive, for us to do so, and is there a specific time that would be best? Is this even an appropriate thing to visit as (visibly non-mexican) tourists? Help me plan this.
posted by anonymous at 8:04 AM PST - 5 comments

Recommend an obscure podcast

I'm looking for some good podcasts to fill up my podcast app, but I'm not interested in the popular ones that are routinely recommended. I'm looking for hidden gems -- well-crafted, entertaining podcasts that are homemade, not affiliated with any company or organization, purely individual labors of love. They can be on any topic, so long as they're truly obscure podcasts that you can't imagine more than a hundred people subscribing to. Thanks for any suggestions!
posted by El Sabor Asiatico at 7:52 AM PST - 16 comments

What percentage of trans individuals are gay/queer?

I am interested in learning to what extent individuals who identify as transexual also identify as queer or homosexual. Have there been any good studies of this? I googled but could not find much - please link me to any studies/findings about the issue.
posted by Another Fine Product From The Nonsense Factory at 7:44 AM PST - 8 comments

iPad water damage

After my water bottle spilled in my bag two days ago, my iPad was functioning normally, but had water spots on the screen. So I spared you folks and asked Google what to do. It's been sitting in a bag of rice for almost 24 hours. Now, the screen turns on (via both the power and home buttons) but doesn't respond to touch. And there's rice lodged in the headphone jack. I don't have any warranty or insurance on it. What do I do now?!
posted by i_am_a_fiesta at 7:06 AM PST - 11 comments

Making the permeable impermeable

I'm going to ditch our many-times-washed-and-bleached,-now-crusty shower curtain liner. I no longer want to use a liner. Here's our outer shower curtain. What can I do to make it, if not waterproof, less likely to allow water to seep through? Share your tricks, trick'r treaters.
posted by BostonTerrier at 6:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Page turner recommendations for iOS/iPad

I use GoodReader for reading sheet music on an iPad (3). What wireless page turners work well with iOS (particularly with GoodReader)? I am not so much looking for Google search results that I can find on my own — but if you have experience with a page turner device and how well it works with "standard" or "common" reader apps, I'd like to hear about your positive or negative experiences!
posted by a lungful of dragon at 6:46 AM PST - 3 comments

Calling all Frontier Psychiatrists

Hey, hip mefi-ites, what, according to you, constitutes the cutting edge of music today? [more inside]
posted by mysticreferee at 6:43 AM PST - 14 comments

Books for Serial fans

What are some books that superfans of the podcast Serial (the first season) will thoroughly enjoy?
posted by wordsmith at 6:37 AM PST - 10 comments

How do I become better at giving people gifts?

I feel great gift givers are not always the ones who devote the most time or money to this art - so what are their secrets? I'm happy to consider wisdom derived from science, literature or anecdote. Likewise I am interested in advice centred on observation, triage, shopping, timing, wrapping and so on. What makes a ninja gift giver?
posted by rongorongo at 4:43 AM PST - 27 comments

Do all nurseries charge you for going on holiday?

We have recently discovered that we have to book our son into nursery at least once a week or we lose our place. If this standard? [more inside]
posted by Cannon Fodder at 3:06 AM PST - 13 comments

How much success have you had with electrolysis?

With the post 30 oestrogen slump :( I noticed I was beginning to get self conscious re: small patches (2) of increased hair growth on my face. My inner feminist barfed at going for electrolysis but I thought if I could just get it permanently sorted that would be that. [more inside]
posted by tanktop at 2:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Is it okay to walk my dog in the cemetery?

That's it really. I live near a large, park-like cemetery and I'm wondering about the etiquette of walking my dog there. It's a modern, suburban cemetery which is quite, um, active. If I were to take my dog there, he would be leashed at all times and if I saw a funeral actually occurring I would keep far away. Would if be upsetting if a person was at the cemetery to visit the grave of a loved one and they saw me casually walking the dog as if it were any other place?
posted by Sarah Lund's Jumper at 1:37 AM PST - 30 comments

October 30

How do make peace with my career anxieties so I can update my C.V.?

I am going to defend my Ph.D. in a few months. That means I really need to be applying for jobs. But I haven't touched my C.V. in months--years, probably--because every time I think about it I get overwhelmed by waves of anxiety and despair and impostor syndrome. How do I get past that and update the damn thing so I can start sending it out? [more inside]
posted by cortisol at 11:44 PM PST - 11 comments

hurting from co-worker's joke

How would you have handled this from a co-worker? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin at 10:11 PM PST - 45 comments

About to negotiate my first business contract. Help me get it right.

I have been offered a possible role to manage a section of a start up company. I have expertise in the area I would be managing, but I have never negotiated a contract or anything like it in business and I have no idea how it goes. I don't want to work for free, but I don't want to be inappropriately stingy with my contribution, prior to having a formal contract. [more inside]
posted by Pablito at 9:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Contact lenses in California

Is a lens fitting a requirement in California? If so, how much does one typically cost? [more inside]
posted by null14 at 8:53 PM PST - 15 comments

Can I use whey to replace soured milk for fried chicken?

Can I use whey to replace soured milk for fried chicken? [more inside]
posted by pompomtom at 8:30 PM PST - 8 comments

Out-of-series movies?

The Rock is a Bond movie. Galaxy Quest is a Star Trek movie. What other movies 'fit' into series, but not on purpose?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 8:00 PM PST - 32 comments

I fumbled the phone!

Crap! I dropped the tablet to my (fairly) new Asus Padfone X face down on the tile in the kitchen. Where do I find the parts to replace the pieces? [more inside]
posted by BlueHorse at 7:52 PM PST - 2 comments

Are there guides on ending a protest? (for the protesters)

I was talking about the HK protests recently, and it seems like, much like Occupy/other movements, that there's not much expectation or plan for an endgame, at least in public discussion. [more inside]
posted by Make Way for Ducklings! at 7:51 PM PST - 1 comment

Seeking resources re: decades-long student loan despair.

I currently pay one full week's pay each month, $600, toward my current student loan balance of $97,000+. Though I usually just pay it and try to move on, I know it will follow me to my death and if I can't be rid of it I hope some of you can provide some kind of advice or coping strategies. I have read through a fair number of related questions. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:15 PM PST - 20 comments

Brainwashing recovery resources

I'm looking for some resources for my experiences. The best term I've come up with is brainwashing. My therapists do not know of any, but had experience with working with it to an extent. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Who played the "It's a Fact" girl?

Who's the actress that played the "It's a Fact" girl on the Kids In the Hall TV show?
posted by 2or3whiskeysodas at 6:43 PM PST - 9 comments

How to clean out the "Other" storage in my iPhone 5S?

My iPhone 5S has a ton of stuff in "Other" storage (iTunes screenshot); I don't even have disk space to do the latest iOS update. I see this is a common problem, surely some of you have a solution? [more inside]
posted by ThePinkSuperhero at 6:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I reach out to people I have let down?

Over the last two years, I abandoned many of my commitments due to not being able to cope with anxiety and depression. Now that I'm receiving treatment and my symptoms have almost entirely disappeared, I feel the need to reach out to some people I may have let down. What is the best way to reach out to them and apologize for letting them down, and for practically disappearing for months or years? Or should I even bother? [more inside]
posted by joebakes at 5:50 PM PST - 13 comments

Please recommend a tax accountant in Adelaide, Australia.

Can you recommend a good accountant in Adelaide? In particular, one who may have experience with foreign income and owning a small business. [more inside]
posted by twirlypen at 5:49 PM PST - 1 comment

How can I explain why street harassment is wrong?

My friend does not understand what is wrong with street harassment and I am looking for some resources to direct him towards that may help enlighten him. [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale at 4:59 PM PST - 39 comments

7-10 days in Patagonia -- how to plan?

I'd like to take a trip to Torres del Paine (Patagonia) to hike the W. And/or see other scenic sites nearby. I want to save money by booking my own accommodation and not having a guide. Suggestions wanted. [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 4:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Non-shrinking structural resin?

I have a problem fixing a toilet seat, I hope someone here could help. [more inside]
posted by Marky at 4:09 PM PST - 6 comments

Should I put my kids on Medicaid?

Under my current health insurance, I am being forced to switch to a more expensive ACA compliant health insurance plan ... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:59 PM PST - 10 comments

Midlife Crisis or Divorce?

I am in the middle of a bad case of midlife crisis which has nearly killed my marriage. I know I am not well, but I also know that I was an unhappy husband for quite a while. How can I tell the two apart? how can you make a rational decision about your life when you know you aren't rational? I am hoping some here have been in this mess before... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:59 PM PST - 29 comments

Catfilter: No, kitty, the couch is not a litterbox!!!

My cat is acting really strangely and using both her actual litterbox and our sofa to use the bathroom. Why is she doing this and how can we fix it??? [more inside]
posted by incountrysleep at 3:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Freely Accessible Etymology Database? Or tools to help create one?

I have an idea for a project that would require the ability to search a dictionary of words and find the year of it's known introduction (as close as possible). I am aware of etymology-online (love that site), but since, as far as I'm aware, it's just a site, and the compilers don't have a publicly accessible database, I was wondering if anybody knows of any site that actually WOULD have a freely available database (either query via an API through the web, or downloadable to self-host)? [more inside]
posted by symbioid at 2:26 PM PST - 6 comments

The science of happy long term relationships

What's current research say about what factors go into making a happy long-term relationship? In particular, I recently heard of some studies suggesting that couples who spend oodles of time together and are basically each other's best friends may be less likely to be happy than couples with separate hobbies, friends, etc. However, I can't seem to actually *find* any of those studies...anyone know of these?
posted by sirion at 2:17 PM PST - 5 comments

Where should I publish my fixed layout ebook?

I have a fixed layout ebook with lots of photos and words. I have it in epub 3.0 (and pdf) and I'm looking for a place to "publish it" - something like a bandcamp for ebooks. [more inside]
posted by saul wright at 2:15 PM PST - 5 comments

Is this calendar NSFW?

Is a playful calendar from Pin-ups For Pitbulls inappropriate for my office? [more inside]
posted by feste at 1:50 PM PST - 23 comments

Should I pay off my car early so I don't need full coverage insurance?

Wondering if you could help with a risk-benefit analysis of lowering the amount of insurance on my car. I still owe money on it, but I could potentially pay it off and then save money on my insurance. BUT is the insurance good to have anyway? [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 1:40 PM PST - 22 comments

Surgical pearls

I'm interviewing for surgery residency programs, which means dress code = business formal. Help me look like the excellent, meticulous, professional scalpel-wielder I will someday become. Difficulty level: former grad student, female edition. [more inside]
posted by nemutdero at 1:34 PM PST - 15 comments

Mom-Friendly Podcasts

I've gotten my 64 year old mother hooked on Serial, and now she's requesting more podcasts. The ones I listen to are silly comedy things that I don't think are quite her cup of tea. [more inside]
posted by something something at 1:25 PM PST - 26 comments

Are there any salacious history books of 1970's gameshows?

So I met a guy who used to work on a few of the celeb shows of the 1970's - the Bert Convy, Jamie Farr, Young Betty White years. He was telling some stories that were equal parts shocking and hilarious. I was wondering: IS there some sort of oral history of the shows and all their craziness at the time BESIDES Confessions of Dangerous Mind? I'd love to read about it.
posted by rileyray3000 at 12:47 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I "sexify" my bug costume?

How do I make my cockroach costume "sexy" in a really obnoxious way. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 10:37 AM PST - 45 comments

How can I get Google to fix identical addresses?

My home address has the exact same address as a location in my same zip code. Google's default result for the search is the other address. Can I get this fixed? How? [more inside]
posted by stupidsexyFlanders at 10:12 AM PST - 8 comments

Continuing education requirements for PTA in Virginia

A family member is a physical therapist assistant in Virginia. They just completed a one or two-year massage therapy course at a local college (I forget the details). They want to know if the course meets their continuing education requirements. [more inside]
posted by jsturgill at 10:08 AM PST - 0 comments

Real Estate Ethics - client saw apt w/ another broker first

I got a call from a client today who saw an apt with another broker. This broker has the same listing as me but is in another office (the owner of the property is using both of our offices - neither of us have exclusivity agreements). [more inside]
posted by soooo at 9:47 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me decipher this Alibaba merchant's message?

I've paid for a large wholesale order that comes with several types of items. The order is shipping from China. Merchant wants to swap out one of the items bearing a licensed character image for an item without that image because "will be the customs check". What exactly is he saying? [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 9:27 AM PST - 11 comments

was I harsh, or upfront?

MeFi can't read dude's minds, but maybe it can tell me if I made the right call with this early stage dating dilemma so I can stop obsessing over it. Bottom line: I want to know if I'm coming across as abrupt and harsh when I only want to be clear and direct. [more inside]
posted by maggiepolitt at 9:05 AM PST - 36 comments

What online game was this?

Haven't been able to find it on google due to terminology ignorance, and have relentlessly searched the JayisGames archive with no result. Turn-based browser combat game with a clicky mechanism I do not know the name of, somewhat generic supernatural theme, detective-like protagonist. [more inside]
posted by automatic cabinet at 8:49 AM PST - 4 comments

Men's dress shirts: variable fit, all the freaking packaging, guilt

I find that different brands of men's dress shirts of the same size very significantly in how they fit, but you can't try them on. [more inside]
posted by frankly mister at 8:47 AM PST - 27 comments

What is the best online person-finding website?

I am looking for contact information for a specific person, and since all of my leads have been exhausted, I'm thinking about using one of those sites like Spokeo to reach them. Is there any good information out there on which of these is the best and/or anecdotal information about which of them is best? [more inside]
posted by Alex Goldman at 8:15 AM PST - 7 comments

birth certificate nonsense

My passport expired, and thus I am having a time getting the correct i-9 documentation for my new job. I am told I need originals of all documents. How do original birth certificates work? [more inside]
posted by millipede at 7:41 AM PST - 26 comments

How to help her get back on her feet.

She would dump the two-timing jerk, but then she'd be out on the street. Help. [more inside]
posted by chocolatepeanutbuttercup at 7:26 AM PST - 19 comments

Good maps of this Sunday's NYC Marathon?

The organizers of this Sunday's NYC Marathon have a pretty shitty map; is there a better one available? I'm hoping for something overlaid on Google Maps or some such equivalent. Bonus question: how do I gauge what time the elite runners would be running by a given spot?
posted by dfriedman at 6:42 AM PST - 5 comments

What is so distinctive about Polynesian harmony singing?

The harmony singing of Pacific Islanders is very distinctive. It has a brightness to it, almost an artificial loudness. Why? [more inside]
posted by hawthorne at 6:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Halloween costume for a female with very short blonde hair

I am a female with short dark blonde hair. It suddenly occurs to me that I need a Halloween costume, but I hate wearing wigs and I'm not going to color my hair. What can I dress up as that makes use of this hairstyle? We've already got Claire Underwood, Switch from The Matrix, Twiggy, and Patricia from the movie Breathless on the list--so we don't need those. [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 6:27 AM PST - 23 comments

Catch Me Up on Agents of S.H.I.E.L.D.

I bailed on Agents about halfway through series one. I'm now hearing that S2 is much improved and would like to start watching again whilst wasting as little time on any remaining terrible episodes as possible. Please help; possible spoileriffic details after the cut. [more inside]
posted by ominous_paws at 6:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Reason to feel insecure or am I just being borderline insane?!

Argh, so here goes, my first MetFilter question. I'd love some perspective here on whether I have a reason to be as worried as I am or whether, in fact, I'm overreacting - and any tips of ways to cope and not act out self-destructively would be very good. [more inside]
posted by starstarstar at 6:00 AM PST - 31 comments

Help me keep my boyfriend's head on his neck, please!

Poor boyfriend just started grad school and has already strained his neck. Help me help him, please? [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 5:54 AM PST - 10 comments

massive percussion / trumpet song.

So a few years back i heard a song and just now went back to my jazzy list on youtube only to find most of the videos deleted.. the tune was as far as I remember very upbeat, featured lots of blow instruments and percussion. and I believe it also was in a commercial at the time, and from what i've been able to research it isnt on any ok-go tune availible on spotify.
posted by xcasex at 5:08 AM PST - 5 comments

New Year's Eve in Sydney, 2014 Edition

So I'm doing my Working Holiday in Australia and I purposely started in Sydney so I could experience the big New Year's celebration here. I did NYC's ball drop in Times Square 3 years ago, and New Year's Eve is the biggest holiday of them all for me. I need the 101 on what NYE in Sydney is like, and what I should do. [more inside]
posted by signondiego at 3:46 AM PST - 13 comments

Suggestions for fans of In the Cut by Susanna Moore

I'm a huge fan of Susanna Moore's 1995 thriller, In the Cut, and have been looking for books that remind me of it in some way. [more inside]
posted by BibiRose at 3:23 AM PST - 1 comment

NewLaptopFilter: Which laptop should I buy?

As my current laptop is (literally) falling to bits, I'm in the market for a new one. Very choice. So indecision. Please help me sift through the crazy amount of options out there and choose something awesome. [more inside]
posted by xchmp at 2:53 AM PST - 12 comments

how do I deal with being utterly humiliated?

I totally humiliated myself in a professional capacity, in front of lots of people. Please give me some strategies to deal and not drown in self-loathing. [more inside]
posted by starcrust at 2:52 AM PST - 40 comments

Kathmandu in December

My wife and I are going to Nepal for the first half of December. A Nepalese friend of mine will be there so I can have a little bit of guidance, but I suspect he will be busy. We're experienced travelers, but this one is outside my bailiwick. I know that December is a few months from the peak HimEx, et al. foreigner crush, and not the most touristy time to be there. I'm looking for suggestions on what to do, see, eat, buy, say, or anything else useful AskMe might know.
posted by lkc at 2:15 AM PST - 4 comments

October 29

"Don't judge me" catchphrase

My teenage niece is using a phrase frequently and I wonder about its origin. She appends "Don't judge me" after she finds a shirt she likes when we go thrift-store shopping or after expressing an seemingly innocuous opinion such as a preference for fries over rings. She says it so often she elides the consonants, so I figure it's a verbal tic amongst her circle of friends. Where did the catchphrase come from? [more inside]
posted by goofyfoot at 9:59 PM PST - 21 comments

World Series radio time shifted? New to baseball

I live in the land of Giants, and I'm baseball curious. Is it possible to download world series audio that plays like it happened? AM radio with colorful announcers like when I was a kid would be ideal. [more inside]
posted by gofargogo at 8:52 PM PST - 7 comments

Noumea travel suggestions?

I'm planning a long weekend in Noumea, New Caledonia the first week of December. Are there any attractions and/or shopping that previous visitors can recommend? Thanks!
posted by orrnyereg at 7:35 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me find the perfect desk

I'm looking for a computer desk for my room, but it needs to fit into a fairly small space width-wise (and make it down a spiral staircase to get into the room in the first place). Where can I find a computer desk that is less than 3' wide, and also has a drawer and maybe some vertical shelf space, and is cheap? Doesn't need to be particularly sturdy or high-quality, and I like a simple, modern design although I prefer wood over metal. I'm in Washington DC if that's relevant.
posted by capricorn at 7:22 PM PST - 15 comments

How to contact someone from Mars One without sounding like a spammer

I am a researcher at a university and I have an exciting idea for a research project that the Mars One project offers a unique opportunity to carry out, without requiring the mission to carry any extra equipment and that could run during the training stage, on earth, so it isn't a good fit for their "university challenge" competition. Rather I would like to contact someone from the team to discuss it. They say on the website they welcome contact from universities and scientists, but there is no information about how to contact them. [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 6:27 PM PST - 9 comments

Academics: Tell me your stories of cooperation

I am writing a script in which one of the characters is a prof (religious studies/history). I need background. Tell me your stories of cooperation/quid pro quo, between students, professors, departments, admins, schools.
posted by falsedmitri at 5:59 PM PST - 15 comments

Should I hire a tax lawyer, or contact the accountant, over bad return?

My accountant screwed up my 2012 tax return, to the tune of a six-figure tax bill. You are not my lawyer, or my accountant, but hopefully you can help me figure out which I should contact: a tax lawyer or the accountant? [more inside]
posted by arco at 5:45 PM PST - 10 comments

I need a game!

What are some good, cheap puzzle-based PC games that require strategy but not so much that I can't play it while drunk? [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 5:33 PM PST - 8 comments

How to apply for my DREAM job, without sounding too much like a fanboy.

I am about to send off my application for a job posting for what is my DREAM position. It is a 3-month paid internship with a major medical humanitarian aid organization. This is an office-based administrative position in a major Canadian city, and seems to have a lot of overlap in tasks with some of their other permanent positions, as well as their field-based positions. In terms of skills, experience, and interests, I feel as though I am a strong candidate for the position. [more inside]
posted by hasna at 5:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Marriage counseling by Skype?

Can anyone recommend a marriage counselor who will work on Skype? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:26 PM PST - 1 comment

Recommendation for international stock broker?

HI, I'm looking for recommendations of a brokerage house that will allow me to buy international stocks directly in the local market, specifically, there're some HK stocks that I'm currently interested in. [more inside]
posted by wcmf at 5:13 PM PST - 3 comments

How do i make a clock/weather widget using UCCW app for Android phones?

I'm trying to make a clock/weather widget for my android phone using UCCW. I have my own picture i want to use, but i'm not very familiar using UCCW as of yet to make my own widgets. How do i import my own picture and add in weather, days of the week, and an analog clock that actually works?
posted by earthquakeglue at 5:09 PM PST - 2 comments

Kid friendly music videos with great dancing.

I'm looking for music videos that feature amazing dancing in any style. Must be kid friendly/G rated, fun and engaging. [more inside]
posted by Lay Off The Books at 5:00 PM PST - 24 comments

Casual or polyamorous domination and submission

So, I'm having coffee with a polyamorous women who is potentially interested in submitting to me. Help me guess what she might mean, ahead of time, so I can be more fluent when we talk. (Trigger warning: graphic consensual violence.) [more inside]
posted by zeek321 at 4:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Used car has been in an accident: buy or walk away?

As per previous questions, I continue to be in the market for a used vehicle.. passed on the last two vehicles. Here's another problematic case. Mechanic found accident damage. What to do? [more inside]
posted by Gray Skies at 4:43 PM PST - 19 comments

Media without dark themes for 8-year-old?

I'm looking for books, TV shows, and movies that avoid dark or scary themes (especially the subject of death), but would still be interesting for a bright 8-year-old. Specific recommendations and wider resources are all welcome. [more inside]
posted by Eolienne at 3:35 PM PST - 43 comments

Overlapping Network Ports On ps4 and xbox one?

I recently bought an xbox one. I play fifa online on my ps4 and want to maximize potential performance on that. I setup ip passthrough/default server so that all traffic is allowed on the x1 and network section shows open nat. I'm trying to figure out what I should do about the ps4? Will manually port forwarding the ports here http://help.ea.com/en/article/what-online-ports-should-i-open-for-fifa-15/ cause any problems?
posted by mamamia88 at 3:31 PM PST - 5 comments

What are the current non-offensive terms for these activities?

My kids have asked me how to say a few things in English, but I realize the only terms I know were the racist terms used back when I was a kid. What are the current, non-offensive terms for these activities? [more inside]
posted by Bugbread at 3:23 PM PST - 43 comments

Newly minted e-Learning professional, now what?

I'm a project manager and I'm completing my e-Learning Design and Development certificate. A lot of my projects have included a training component and I want to expand my skills in that area. I'm reaching out to see if any Mefi e-Learning professionals have any advice for a newbie or experiences, good or bad, they'd like share. [more inside]
posted by shoesietart at 2:20 PM PST - 3 comments

Military Tactics in Afghanistan/Iraq

Several years ago, in the vicinity of 2004-2006, I spoke with a former classmate of mine who was just returning from a deployment in Afghanistan or Iraq. He described a technique his unit would employ on foot patrols to disable (he said blow up) cars or trucks. [more inside]
posted by stinkfoot at 1:55 PM PST - 8 comments

I don't really want to be this aware of my own blood.

I sometimes like to use earplugs, but I always end up just listening to my blood loudly pulsing around in my head. This is not ideal. Does anyone have recommendations for earplugs that actually make things quiet, instead of just replacing ambient noise with the noise of my heartbeat? [more inside]
posted by Anticipation Of A New Lover's Arrival, The at 1:53 PM PST - 13 comments

How to cook without condensation?

Condensation pours down walls if I try and cook stews, risottos or even boil pasta in my small kitchen even with the (tiny) window and/or extractor fan on maximum. Can't get cooker hood vented to outside. How can I adapt my cooking to keep condensation to a minimum?
posted by janecr at 1:53 PM PST - 11 comments

A Bay Area DIY writer's retreat on the cheap?

Help me discover a place in the greater Bay Area I can go for a few days to focus on a writing project. [more inside]
posted by toomuchkatherine at 12:11 PM PST - 6 comments

What do you make when life gives you big onions?

I have a bunch of big onions. I want to make something you can't make with small onions. Does such a recipe exist? [more inside]
posted by Dr Dracator at 11:58 AM PST - 21 comments

Sinus Pressure Relief

I had sinus surgery this week and still have splints in my nose. The weather changed today and now the pressure in my face is too much to bear. Please help! [more inside]
posted by rue72 at 11:51 AM PST - 13 comments

What's more fun than the words 'bone graft'?

Tell me about the awesomeness of pre-dental implant bone graft procedures. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 11:45 AM PST - 22 comments

Private plane

I'm arranging a weekend away next year for about 30 people. It's a big treat for us all, so looking into how much to charter a plane. We'd be flying London to Berlin. Any ideas?
posted by lloyder at 11:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Reading a CSV file in R, problems with escaped quotes?

I'm beginner-level with R, trying to work with a CSV file. I've noticed some rows are being interpreted incorrectly, and would like some help figuring out a way around that. I think the problem is escaped quotes not being parsed how I would like. [more inside]
posted by RobotHero at 11:19 AM PST - 9 comments

Traffic Information and my Calendar

Trying to find a good way to automate an alert letting me know I need to leave for work to arrive on time (based on curent traffic conditions) and Google Now is failing me. [more inside]
posted by szg8 at 11:13 AM PST - 6 comments

What's the French Laundry of Paris?

So Mr. Kitty and I are doing a vacation in Paris and want to set up some amazing reservations to look forward to. We will have one big blow, out once in a decade, kind of dinner. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by Suffocating Kitty at 10:42 AM PST - 21 comments

Recording setup for 2 people in an office

We want to capture eight hours at a time of conversation in an office, for editing later. There are two people at separate desks. What equipment is needed, within the sweet spot between "sounds good enough" and "affordable"? The end result should be 2 separate audio files, editable in Audacity. Paint me a picture of the setup you'd use for this.
posted by sandettie light vessel automatic at 10:36 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me merge 2 PowerPoint presentations please!

I am at a loss for this. I am trying to merge two PowerPoint slides for ease of transition at a conference. Speaker A is using Speaker A's work template that has their work logo burned on each slide, but Speaker B is from a different institution. Is it even possible to merge the two sets of slides without having Speaker A's institution on Speaker B's slides?
posted by lil' ears at 10:33 AM PST - 2 comments

Help Save This Internship (I am the Supervisor)

I've been lucky with great interns in past years, but this semester's intern is a dud. How can I turn this situation around with only 7 weeks left? Much more beneath the cut. [more inside]
posted by GorgeousPorridge at 10:19 AM PST - 42 comments

How do I deal with this morass of feelings re: holidays, travel, family

I am the only one that moved away from my extended family. I'm dealing with some built up anger/stress about always being responsible for going "home" to see my family. How did you stop feeling guilty, obligated, or responsible for visiting? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 10:09 AM PST - 36 comments

LA DWP refuses to refund security deposit.

A young person moved to Los Angeles two years ago. Said tenant moved out in July of this year. Despite many phone calls and emails, the tenant has never gotten a refund of the security deposit from the LA DWP, and it is now four months later. How do we resolve this issue? [more inside]
posted by clarkstonian at 10:02 AM PST - 8 comments

Cars with Takata airbags but not yet subject to recall??

Takata has recalled cars in states that it deems "high humidity," because of the deadly airbag problem. But as often noted, most of the deaths involved were in non-listed states. My state, Tennessee, is just outside the designated area, and my car (old Honda Accord) is one of the troublemakers. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle at 9:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Pants for kid that look like pants and feel like sweatpants/leggings?

My comfort-loving preschooler (boy) only likes to wear sweatpants and leggings. I am of the opinion that sweatpants should never be worn in public, and most leggings are probably not warm enough for winter. Can you help me find comfy, warm pants that also look good? [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 9:18 AM PST - 34 comments

Best health insurance plan for shuttling green card holder?

If someone is a 65+ recent green card holder with only 3 years work experience in the US and who hasn't lived continuously in the US for 5 years (but has visited every year for several months for a decade), they don't qualify for free or even paid Medicare. What is the best health insurance plan for them if they spend 5-7 months in the US, and the rest in their home country in Asia? Are they best off with an Obamacare plan, or some kind of special immigrant health insurance, or what? Thanks.
posted by shivohum at 9:00 AM PST - 2 comments

Captain's Log - Office Edition

Looking for your ideas and apps for a professional journal-keeping system. More inside! [more inside]
posted by falldownpaul at 8:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Best way to print ~10000 photos?

What's the most cost-effective way to print about 10000 [unique] photos? I'm enjoying going through my grandparent's photo albums, and while I'm not concerned about backups (I am extremely good about backups), I am very concerned about discoverability; I think my grandchildren someday are much more likely to find and go through a stack of physical photo albums than they are a CD in a drawer. [more inside]
posted by dmd at 8:41 AM PST - 11 comments

She has no mouth, and she must scream

Recent news items about Hello Kitty have reminded me of a song I last heard more than a decade ago and which I cannot find today. Someone, help me locate this musical "treasure"! [more inside]
posted by hanov3r at 8:39 AM PST - 2 comments

Tall, cool computer desk for small space

HomeOffice FurnitureFilter. Tall, interesting, well-constructed non-generic computer desk with shelving and storage. We like this - does anyone know anything like it - i.e with similar functionality - for a max cost of $1200? [more inside]
posted by lalochezia at 8:30 AM PST - 2 comments

How to create a high res photo collage for publication?

I need a jpeg file to be imported onto a website which will be printed from there. [more inside]
posted by maxg94 at 8:29 AM PST - 7 comments

Unscented supermarket cat litter (plus bonus points for cat name)

The good news is that we are getting a cat, but it will be this weekend! He's a young male tiger cat stray. The current caretakers say he likes unscented cat litter (will not go in the box if litter is scented). Does anyone have any recommendations for a decent supermarket litter that is clumping and unscented. I don't have time to get fancy or specialty litter with the timetable involved. [more inside]
posted by gudrun at 8:12 AM PST - 38 comments

Can you recommend a sewing pattern similar to this vintage one?

I absolutely love everything about this suit pattern. Could you help me find a modern day equivalent? [more inside]
posted by the webmistress at 8:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Is there such a thing as anonymous online counseling?

I find myself unable to be fully candid speaking in person with therapists and wonder if I might do better corresponding with a therapist online by e-mail or chat or something. Does this exist? Would you recommend it? Is there a better idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:57 AM PST - 13 comments

Insulating a double bricked house

Is it a bad idea to fill the air gap in between double brick walls? Our 100 year old house is in need of some insulation so we had a couple of companies give us a quote. One company recommended spraying Air Krete (a kind of foam insulation) in the gap between our double brick walls. The other company said this was a horrible idea and could damage our house! They said to rip out the plaster & lathe and install interior insulation. [more inside]
posted by krunk at 7:43 AM PST - 14 comments

How do you arrange long layovers?

Planning a trip to middle-of-nowhere Sweden, and am flying through Stockholm. I'd like to organize a day or two layover in the city before heading to nowheresville. How do you do this? Does it have to involve phone calls, or is it possible to organize online? Would you expect it to be more or less expensive that a regular itinerary?
posted by colin_l at 7:41 AM PST - 9 comments

The boringest boots with the chunkiest heel?

I love these boots. I don't love the $395 price tag. Can you help me find something extremely similar? [more inside]
posted by functionequalsform at 7:37 AM PST - 10 comments

Letting the Gini out of the lamp...

Somewhere in the murky corridors of the internet I once read an article about how certain societal problems (HIV rates, road death rates, homicide rates) are higher in countries with greater income inequality (a higher Gini coefficient) than in countries that are poor but with more equally distributed wealth. Where can I read more about this? Well-written, accessible-for-a-layman book recommendations particularly gratefully received. (I'm currently reading Alain de Botton's 'Status Anxiety'.)
posted by matthew.alexander at 6:51 AM PST - 5 comments

Used Records in New York City

Finally, after 10 years I'm visiting new York City again. I guess the city have changed a lot. I'm there for about 10 days, and I'm really into used records. Can MeFi recommend good shops for used (or not) records? Perhaps other shops for turntable lovers? Thanks.
posted by lipsum at 6:32 AM PST - 11 comments

A People's History of Great Britain, Canada and Australia

I'm a huge fan of Howard Zinn's book "A People's history of the United States" and I'm looking for close equivalents for Britain, Australia and Canada.
posted by asharchist at 5:58 AM PST - 15 comments

Please tell me I can still eat this.

I made some vegetarian sloppy Joes for dinner. They were SO. GOOD. Then I left them out on the for 8 hours….Help. [more inside]
posted by lettuce dance at 5:21 AM PST - 17 comments

Workflow for iPad video editing

I work with high school students who all have iPads. Because the ipad is so handy, and because iMovie is so easy to use, I want the students to edit their video projects on the ipad. Currently they use adobe premiere on desktop computers. I am not having any success finding simple solutions to this. [more inside]
posted by yet.another.boston.question at 5:08 AM PST - 3 comments

October 28

FInding a good adviser for life insurance / long term care issues

My spouse is about 50 yo and encountering some health issues (autoimmune and others). We're about 13 years through a 20-year life insurance term, after which the renewal premiums would skyrocket even for good health. We also have about 3 years of long term care benefits through her workplace. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Something besides Prozac for PMS?

I have a mild depression for a week out of the month. It doesn't feel like much but I don't get anything done. Now that I'm self-employed, I can't afford to have a useless week plus a week digging myself out of the hole of unfinished work and unreturned phone calls from that useless week. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:50 PM PST - 19 comments

Need help with Emotional Regulation

I'm flailing and feeling like I've backslid on a lot of personal progress. I don't know what's going on, and I'd like some advice for getting myself back on track. I've attempted to keep this concise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:15 PM PST - 8 comments

Relationship question: My girl friend's feeling toward her ex

I and my girl friend have been dating for eight months. I think everything is good between us so far except for few occasions where we had a disagreement in the past (my two previous questions are about those occasions). We did not have any problem recently. I introduced her to my mom, and she introduced me to hers. The major problem I have with myself is that she said she cared about her ex. [more inside]
posted by mbn1455 at 10:14 PM PST - 32 comments

Is this a therapy deal breaker or something I can salvage?

What do you do when a problem you've been trying to work through with other people in life suddenly becomes a problem with your therapist, too? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 10:14 PM PST - 37 comments

Why Don't I Write in My Journal Anymore?

I started keeping a journal when I was in 4th grade. Now that I'm in my 40s, I've lost motivation to write in it. [more inside]
posted by Leontine at 9:54 PM PST - 16 comments

My house was burgled an hour ago

The thieves were interrupted and didn't get much. Jewellery, watches and the worlds crappiest HP laptop. I'm in the process of changing all my passwords, but use Chrome which I keep synced and want to remove the stolen computer from my account. Any easy way to do this? I've done a cursory search to no avail. The irony is it was a really terrible computer, you almost need to be touching the router to get the wifi to work. Suckers, enjoy that piece of junk, I'll keep using this new Macbook Air you left behind.
posted by Keith Talent at 9:40 PM PST - 3 comments

Alternatives to Tamora Pierce?

My 9 year old girl is obsessed with Tamora Pierce books. What are some other books she might like equally as well? [more inside]
posted by leahwrenn at 9:34 PM PST - 32 comments

Who will decide the charges in the Texas Gay Bashing?

McCleish Christmas Benham was arrested at the DFW Airport by Airport police after attacking a gay man in the airport. News reports are saying he is not being charged with a hate crime. Can someone tell me definitively who would make the decision about what he is charged with?
posted by hworth at 9:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Give me your MCU fanfic recs!

I am excited about the new announced expansions to the Marvel Cinematic Universe. Please shower me with your best fanfic recommendations for the MCU's Avengers and Guardians of the Galaxy! [more inside]
posted by nicebookrack at 8:50 PM PST - 20 comments

How to exercise: the bad ankle edition

I am currently waiting for ankle ligament reconstruction surgery, but still want to keep as active as possible in the meantime. My two main ways of exercising - riding my horse and playing soccer weekly - are now out of the question, what else can I do to maintain some level of activity that doesn't involve using my injured ankle too much? [more inside]
posted by sunshine arakhan at 8:30 PM PST - 15 comments

Help me find cute, affordable plus-size clothes

Between a recent fire at my apartment and a mix-up with the cleaning crew, all of my clothes are now gone except a few things I picked up at Target with a giftcard from a friend. Another friend was amazingly generous enough to send me $200 to help rebuild my wardrobe, and I am trying to figure out the most satisfying way to do so. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:13 PM PST - 26 comments

Shanghai and Seoul in December

This December I'm going to Shanghai and possibly Seoul. I'd love your tips for museums, restaurants, hotels, and more! [more inside]
posted by smorgasbord at 7:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Kitchen and garden: Refried beans, the musical fruit...

...the more you eat them at awesome Mexican restaurants, the more you want to duplicate their magic at home. How, please? [more inside]
posted by MonkeyToes at 6:21 PM PST - 10 comments

Making contact prints from sleeved 35mm negatives

I have several hundred pages (sleeves) of 35mm color negatives. A few years ago I started a project to scan-in all the negatives. But because of my own disorganization, the project has turned into a big mess. [more inside]
posted by akk2014 at 6:14 PM PST - 10 comments

Can you recommend a career counsellor in Toronto?

Does anyone have a good career counsellor in Toronto that can look over my resumé and come up with a good job hunting strategy? [more inside]
posted by jmmpangaea at 6:07 PM PST - 3 comments

Tales from the database!

I'm looking for the spooookiest videos on YouTube. Or Vimeo. What are the scariest videos you've watched online?
posted by codacorolla at 6:02 PM PST - 5 comments

I want to do all the art! But I don't know how to...

I'm a junior in college about to leave school and transfer to a nursing school. What's the best way I can currently get trained in art (a comprehensive education) before I go to nursing school? Or during. I'm willing to do either a full or part time program. I'd really prefer not to take a bunch of random classes somewhere. New York City (tri-state) area and East Coast suggestions are greatly appreciated! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 5:51 PM PST - 7 comments

Have Student Debt, Will Transfer

I applied to transfer out of George Washington University for the Spring 2015 semester, and I've no idea where to go from here. [more inside]
posted by ourt at 5:47 PM PST - 7 comments

Train from NYC to Quebec City/Montreal--would like tips and ideas

Hi, my SO and I are taking the train from NYC to Quebec City and/or Montreal between Christmas and New Year's. I have never been to Montreal or QC or taken such a long train ride, and I would welcome general tips and suggestions about the trip. We will not be renting a car, but we are savvy transit-users and walkers. More questions inside: [more inside]
posted by one more robot at 5:46 PM PST - 13 comments

Name that Quebecois pop song

In August of this year, I heard a French (presumably Quebecois) song in a karaoke bar in Montreal and for some reason it's been bugging me that I can't remember at all what it was. Can someone help me identify it based on the following sketchy and probably mis-remembered details? [more inside]
posted by mhum at 4:49 PM PST - 2 comments

Chicago Mefites: 15 Year Old Chicken Mystery

Please help me remember the name of this Chicago counter-service restaurant based on my sketchy details! The last time I ate there was 15 years ago... The menu was focused around organic rotisserie chicken, and I remember it being so much more flavorful and fresh than Boston Market. [more inside]
posted by Gable Oak at 4:48 PM PST - 5 comments

Why did my cold oolong tea turn black when I added ginger-vinegar syrup?

My partner made Oolong tea two days ago, cooled it and put it in the fridge to drink as iced tea. Today we poured a cup, and then added a splash of homemade ginger-vinegar syrup and the liquid (the tea was a light clear brown, the syrup a darker clear brown) immediately turned into an opaque dark greeny black. Why? [more inside]
posted by stray at 4:13 PM PST - 30 comments

Should my kitchen sink be generating heat when it's turned off?

This morning when I went to use the kitchen sink, the floor around the sink was warm to the touch. I opened the cabinet under the sink and the air inside it was hot, and the bottles of household cleaners I store beneath the sink had condensation bubbles on the insides. The surrounding cabinets are warm too. This is is not normal. Before I email my landlord, is there any non-negative reason this could be happening? [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 3:55 PM PST - 18 comments

Why do I regret turning down this job opportunity?

Four months ago I was laid off from a company where I had worked for almost 15 years. I received a severance equivalent to 30 weeks of pay. About half of that was paid to me in bi-weekly paychecks while I could still technically be called an employee of the company. The other half will be paid in a heavily taxed lump sum check in the next week or so. more inside... [more inside]
posted by getyourlife at 3:49 PM PST - 7 comments

Recommend Mrs Peteyjlawson a phototherapy lamp, anybody?

Hi folks, in a previous AskMeFi the idea of phototherapy for my wife's psoriasis was a popular one. So, can anybody recommend a phototherapy lamp? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by peteyjlawson at 3:41 PM PST - 2 comments

Credit impacts of renting a second apartment in another state

How do I apply for an apartment as a student when I need my husband's income to be considered? [more inside]
posted by MeFiElf at 2:55 PM PST - 4 comments

Looking for an online traffic counter I can query with curl

I am searching for a live traffic flow counter which is on the net and reachable by http, or some webpage that displays hourly or cumulative vehicle statistics. [more inside]
posted by thewalrus at 2:22 PM PST - 4 comments

How crazy will this book signing be?

I'm thinking about going to this John Cleese book signing at a midtown NYC Barnes & Noble. Is this going to be Black-Friday crazy, or merely annoying? [more inside]
posted by PlusDistance at 2:20 PM PST - 6 comments

Merits of getting a second master's degree?

I'm interested in hearing about experiences with getting a second master's degree to pursue a subject that interests you in more depth/narrow in on your specific interests . . . [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 1:47 PM PST - 10 comments

How do you convert a Nielsen rating into the number of viewers?

According to Wiki, "A single national ratings point represents one percent of the total number, or 1,156,000 households." But that doesn't jibe with the numbers coming from the World Series: "Kansas City's 3-2 win in Game 3 received a 7.2 rating and 12.1 million viewers, according to fast national ratings from Nielsen Media Research announced by Fox on Saturday." What I'm really trying to figure out is how many viewers make up a 0.86 rating?
posted by wensink at 1:33 PM PST - 3 comments

Corporate team building? SIGN ME UP!!!!

Have you ever been on a corporate team-building event you really liked? To which you would have gone even if you weren't paid? I need to organize an event for 18 guys at my company, and I hate corporate stuff and don't want it to suck. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Pacrand at 1:24 PM PST - 40 comments

Decision framework for a tough career decision

I've been freelancing for the last year, but expecting a job offer in the next few days. I am genuinely torn abut whether I want to accept. I go back and forth daily. Yesterday I was pretty strongly leaning towards taking it. Today the idea depresses me. I'd appreciate your recommendations on tools to help me make this decisions. Snowflakes follow... [more inside]
posted by dry white toast at 1:13 PM PST - 6 comments

Tattoo filter

I want to get a tattoo! I know almost nothing about tattoos. I need some help picking out a design based on some very specific parameters. [more inside]
posted by deathpanels at 12:36 PM PST - 19 comments

Name! That! Podcast!

My podcast network is piloting a pop culture panel show. Chat about culture high and low, fun and funny and well-informed. It needs a name. What have you got? Pithy and understandable on first glance really helps. If we use yours, we will credit you and send you a box of maximumfun.org stuff from our prize closet :).
posted by YoungAmerican at 12:22 PM PST - 50 comments

Wedding gift for children in new blended family?

My son is creating a new little family and grandma wants to give a small, sentimental gift to the children to help them remember and celebrate the day. [more inside]
posted by raisingsand at 11:55 AM PST - 19 comments

Cross Country Move: New Job or New Lifestyle?

I am moving across the country. Do I keep my current job and commute by plane or do I leave that job and find new work there? (... many details within...) [more inside]
posted by milqman at 11:28 AM PST - 26 comments

Job interviews, timing, etiquette, and not shooting myself in the foot

One company wants to hire me now. Another might, or might not, but they move slowly. I'm more interested in the latter but am definitely interested in both. How do I navigate this without pissing people off, burning bridges, or ending up with zilch? [more inside]
posted by StockingMarionette at 10:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Artificial Ingredients: Really all that harmful?

Does the average American's diet have large enough amounts of artificial ingredients to actually cause harm? I know a glass of Red 40 every day would obviously do some damage, but are the amounts we actually consume significant? Or are they merely trace amounts? Is most of this kind of thing fear-mongering?
posted by early one morning at 10:29 AM PST - 22 comments

Quick jokes for postcards?

One of my friends who lives on the other coast is going through some serious medical stuff. I've been sending him cheesy postcards with stupid stuff written on them, just to let him know I'm thinking of him and to maybe give him a laugh. I'm out of ideas though. Give me your best jokes/puns/groaners that I can fit on a postcard! They can be off-color if they're sufficiently funny. Any topic welcome.
posted by misanthropicsarah at 10:25 AM PST - 28 comments

Help me find some non-bloody scary movies

This year my partner and I are planning a scary movie all nighter on Halloween, after the trick or treaters are gone. I would like to get about 4-5 scary movies that are not gory ( no Chainsaw Massacre), no zombies and no first-person documentary style horror movies. Anything else is a go, but would prefer movies made in the last decade rather than vintage stuff. Help me scare the pants off my man! Mwahahah!
posted by Karotz at 10:05 AM PST - 35 comments


I recently adopted a cat. He is infested with fleas. I asked the vet for suggestions and need to confirm if this combination of treatments is safe. [more inside]
posted by Librarypt at 9:56 AM PST - 28 comments

Stepmom? Dad's wife? Her?

How do you refer to your widowed parent's new spouse, when you are talking to someone who does not know them? [more inside]
posted by Lucinda at 9:31 AM PST - 55 comments

Preparing for hernia repair

I'm having a hernia repaired next week, and I'm having trouble finding much reliable information on what to expect online. What was your/your friend/your lover's hernia repair like? [more inside]
posted by sabotagerabbit at 8:48 AM PST - 14 comments

Experience with big Digital Asset Management systems?

What experiences have you had with big (a.k.a. "enterprise") digital asset management systems? Good or bad, I want to know it all. [more inside]
posted by wenestvedt at 7:46 AM PST - 7 comments

Houses that are open for all the world to see

I never was fond of houses with picture windows, or too many windows at all, but then I fell in love with this home... [more inside]
posted by Cybria at 7:37 AM PST - 26 comments

Business meeting at Logan (Boston)

I am trying to find a place for four people to meet for a business meeting/interview at Logan airport. [more inside]
posted by Blackcow167 at 7:29 AM PST - 10 comments

Everyone likes cat urine questions

My three cats are urinating all over my basement and the smell is terrible. How do I deal with the smell and correct this behavior? [more inside]
posted by i. shishkin at 7:08 AM PST - 18 comments

Oops, I did it again :(

How can I forgive myself for exercising such poor judgment? [more inside]
posted by Chrysalis at 5:40 AM PST - 25 comments

Discourage clients who don't get a flu shot to protect my elderly Mother

My 87 year old Mother likes to help in my office. She is healthy, but frail. Should I mention to clients that I don't want them coming in to see me when they are sick and that I would prefer they have a flu shot? Is there some sort of proper business etiquette for this? Thanks. I'm in casual California, if that helps.
posted by mrhappy at 5:28 AM PST - 33 comments

How can we keep curtain rods installed without wooden studs?

We live in a rented apartment which has big windows, big transparent sliding doors, and no coverings. To reduce light in our bedroom, we have installed some simple curtain rods. The building has a steel frame so there are no wooden studs for us to drill into. So for each curtain rod, we installed three simple brackets directly into the drywall. Unfortunately, the brackets have come out of the wall several times. How can we fix this? [more inside]
posted by grouse at 4:43 AM PST - 19 comments

Fitbit flex overcounting steps?

Does anyone else's fitbit show what appears to be a wildly inflated number of steps per day? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:26 AM PST - 18 comments

What are the best, high-quality sites about Android?

What are the best news/opinions about Android in terms of quality of writing and analysis? I'm after sites that post relatively infrequently, but tend to produce high quality stuff when they do post: the Android equivalent of sites like MacStories, Daring Fireball, and Six Colors. (I know far more about iOS than I do Android, but should really know about both.)
posted by Richard Holden at 3:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Winning the lottery

Is there any country, besides the US, which has a lottery for a permanent resident visa? I'm coming up short, but wondering if there are any countries that I'm missing. Thanks.
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 3:06 AM PST - 1 comment

October 27

Why do I have to get semi-naked to see a doctor?

So I finally got health insurance in the US and made a 'new patient' appointment for a physical. After talking the nurse through my (very limited) medical history, I was asked to undress and put on a medical gown. I then met my new doctor, talked about my medical history again, asked for a referral to a chiropractor (I have scoliosis and associated back pain, and wanted to re-establish treatment). She took my blood pressure, did the stethoscope thing on my back, and did a bit of abdomen pressing. The rest was talking. So why did I need to undress and wear a medical gown? [more inside]
posted by finding.perdita at 11:29 PM PST - 40 comments

If I had a photograph or two: Fair use of product photos on review sites

I've had an idea for a product review site and am trying to discern whether product photographs can be legally reproduced on the website, from where fair-use photographs should be obtained and how, if at all, they should be attributed. [more inside]
posted by Halo in reverse at 11:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Recommend to me British movies from the 60s and 70s about blokes & lads

For whatever reason, I find the 60s and 70s British gent as the epitome of Cool. [more inside]
posted by Senor Cardgage at 10:57 PM PST - 25 comments

How to go about getting a college degree part-time as a hobby

Could an adult will a full time career, but a few hours a week to dedicate to the purpose, pursue getting an undergraduate degree from a university just for the fun of it? And if so how? [more inside]
posted by Long Way To Go at 10:20 PM PST - 23 comments

What to do about my references and lack of response to possible employer

I had a job interview last week on Wednesday, October 22, 2014 and it went well. I was told that I would hear from them, even if I didn't get the job, to at least thank me for applying. So I find out on Friday , October 24, 2014 that the supervisor from this job called two of my references, but neither of them answered the phone. I was told by both of my references that they are "very busy" and would try to call back later. [more inside]
posted by little_miss_m at 10:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Low cost or free options for therapy and depression treatment in NYC

I'm starting to accept that I desperately need to see a therapist, but I am unemployed (recently moved here to NYC) and have no health insurance. Are there any clinics or hospitals that offer low cost therapy services?
posted by anonymous at 9:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Is dog health insurance worth it?

My fiance and I recently adopted a 10-year-old maltipoo from the shelter, and we're wondering if we should get health insurance for her. [more inside]
posted by madonna of the unloved at 9:06 PM PST - 18 comments

Free video conversion software and video editing software?

Is there such a thing as an excellent but free video conversion software and a video editing software? [more inside]
posted by magnoliasouth at 9:06 PM PST - 9 comments

Nest/ecobee - do they actually work on SS systems w/o common wires?

We have a single stage HVAC system without a common wire. Reviews online suggest that the nest can be pretty unreliable with our kind of system. Anyone with experience who could provide their perspective? I also like the ecobee, but it appears to not work without a common wire. If neither is workable, is there a good alternative for a SS HVAC without a common wire, or should I wait for the technology to further mature? Thanks!
posted by arnicae at 8:26 PM PST - 6 comments

Like it - how to put a ring on it?

(soon-to-be) Mrs. B.F.G. and are I planning on getting married. Yay! We'd like to buy a non-diamond engagement ring somewhere in the Chicago area and are looking for recommendations, as well as ring-buying tips generally. [more inside]
posted by The Notorious B.F.G. at 8:06 PM PST - 14 comments

I like a guy who has a girlfriend. What should I do?

I have a crush on a guy that I met in grad school several months ago. He's very nice, smart, and fairly handsome. He appeared a little awkward at first but once I got to know him, he's actually one of the few guys that I can have a long and meaningful conversation with. Although our conversations are mostly school-related, he seems to remember a lot of details from our convo, such as where I used to work a few years ago, what my goals are, etc. He recently joined the same student organization and volunteered at the same research lab with me. I'm very inexperienced in dating so I'm not sure if he's interested in me or not. However, my gut tells me that he might be interested because he often asks me to attend certain meetings or events together, he also occasionally calls me to ask questions (which he could simply ask through text or in person). I recently found out that he has a girlfriend and they both live together so I'm assuming his relationship is pretty serious. Therefore I'm trying to keep my distance from him and not cross the line. But the more I see him/talk to him, the more I like him and I'm not sure what to do. Please advise. Thank you!
posted by missybitsy at 7:36 PM PST - 24 comments

Seeking online courses to increase leadership skills

I'm leaving my job in two weeks, and have been asked to train several coworkers before I leave. They are asking how best to promote within the organization, and while I have some good tips, I'd love to find a good online course (free or not) to refer them to. I'm looking for courses on leadership, professional development, completed staff work, and the like. I've looked at Coursera but can't find much. Where else should I look?
posted by onecircleaday at 6:34 PM PST - 1 comment

Is this a motivation issue or what?

I think I'm dealing with some motivational paralysis, but it's a little complicated. Any ideas MeFi? [more inside]
posted by myitkyina at 5:12 PM PST - 14 comments

She took his amplifer

So my daughter came home from college for a visit, and when she left, she took her Les Paul and the cute little Line 6 amplifier I'd been using for my synthesizer rig. So now I'm using this incident as an excuse to upgrade myself with a pair of powered monitors (and perhaps a subwoofer, too). [more inside]
posted by doctor tough love at 4:38 PM PST - 12 comments

Recommend a movie similar to this one?

I'm searching for a movie similar to John Hughes' 1987 classic, Planes, Trains & Automobiles. Something with a warm message and the same kind of comedy. Preferably something with Steve Martin or John Candy, but not necessarily. Recommendations?
posted by omar.a at 3:36 PM PST - 37 comments

I need help naming a blog

Metafilter has named cats and dogs, and roller derby babes. This should be easy. On the book of faces I talk a lot about my life with Agent K, my 11 yo with autism. I'd like to move it over to it's own blog and talk about our life, link to interesting articles and products, post pictures, etc. He's always been Agent K and he calls me Muh-ver, Mommy, or Heyshea. I keep a Pintrest board titled Agent K's Awesome board. Any thoughts?
posted by FunkyHelix at 3:14 PM PST - 13 comments

What causes vibrating filaments in Edison bulbs?

A bar I visited the other day had old-school Edison bulbs hanging from the ceiling, and I noticed that in several of them, the filament was vibrating. And by vibrating I mean vibrating big time — swinging back and forth a full inch or so inside the bulb multiple times a second. The bartender didn't seem to know what caused it, but seemed to think it wasn't uncommon. Any idea? [more inside]
posted by BlackLeotardFront at 2:51 PM PST - 6 comments

Identify story/movie/TV show based on "Most scientific!" vague quote?

My daughter has a vague memory of a story in which some aliens basically worship science, so whenever they are evaluating something positively they say things like "Most scientific!" or "Very scientific!" It rings no bells for me, other than sounding vaguely Star Trek-ish. However, she has no particular visual memory of it, leading her to theorize that maybe it's a story. Does this jog anyone's memory?
posted by jasper411 at 2:30 PM PST - 10 comments

Adding a new Kitty into the mix - help!

I know there are many cat lovers here, and I am seeking some advice. About two years ago, I adopted two adult female cats (Mona and Lola) from a foster home. Recently, I adopted another kitten (Morty) when his human parents split up. We introduced them slowly, first keeping Morty behind a door away from Mona and Lola, then gradually giving him access to different rooms of the house. The issue is that Morty loves to 'play' often by chasing and pouncing on Lola. I feel very protective of Lola and worry and that she feels unsafe. More details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by seesom at 2:09 PM PST - 5 comments

What kind of tree is this?

Please help me identify this tree. This is what it looks like. This tree smells amazing almost every time I pass it – like some sort of amazing candy. It smells strongest in early Fall or after rain. [more inside]
posted by TangoCharlie at 1:59 PM PST - 5 comments

Vaguely remembered visual MLB game previews

I remember seeing some visual previews of MLB games (or maybe playoff series) somewhere about 4-5 years ago. The previews had offensive and defensive stats (probably advanced stats) for each team, graphed in opposition to each other. I have vague memories of what it looked like, described inside. Could you help me find them? [more inside]
posted by griseus at 1:43 PM PST - 2 comments

Who should I talk to about long-ago debt and my credit score?

Who should I talk to about long-ago debt and my credit score? Is that the sort of thing a new credit union will do, or would that just hurt my interactions with them? [more inside]
posted by brisquette at 1:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Reuters photographic copyright woes

My spouse is trying to submit their D.Phil thesis to an online research archive. Archive wants all content to not be in breach of copyright. Thesis has a photograph in it which requires copyright permission but we're stumped on how to get it. What now? [more inside]
posted by monster truck weekend at 1:33 PM PST - 12 comments

My boring bland bean soup!

I made white bean soup in the crockpot and it's okay... but how do I make it AWESOME?! [more inside]
posted by rubster at 1:14 PM PST - 36 comments

Looking for: good short films to stimulate discussion in adult ESL class

I teach English in Spain and would like to incorporate some conversation stimulating short films in my adult classes. [more inside]
posted by maca at 12:58 PM PST - 11 comments

Migrating my iphone syncing from PC to Mac. Outlook/itunes questions!

I've been syncing my iphone via itunes on my windows laptop for years. I've also used the same itunes install to hold my media library (mounted via a NAS on the wifi router.) I use Outlook to manage contacts. Just got a mac mini to use as a media server. I want to sync through that now. I'm not sure if going through icloud is the right choice. Is it? [more inside]
posted by damiano99 at 12:40 PM PST - 0 comments

Please help me find this online game

I played an online indie game a couple of years ago. The game consisted of 3 panels: beginning, middle and end. There were 3 characters, a knight, a hero and (I think) a villain. You could manipulate the positions of the characters in the first and second panels to change the outcome in the third panel. I've been looking for it again for months - does anyone have an idea of what the game could be?
posted by Laura_J at 12:00 PM PST - 2 comments

Can anyone help with lyrics on these Congolese songs?

Long shot here. I'd love to perform these songs but have no idea on the words. [more inside]
posted by argybarg at 11:52 AM PST - 1 comment

Legitimate Credit and Debt Counseling

Family member is in debt and needs help getting out of debt. I've researched both Appraisen and Clearpoint but both seem to be run by a corporation. I don't know if that's a good thing or not. Some credit counseling firms have charged big fees and gotten some people in worse trouble and even deeper in debt. I don't want her to get locked into something worse. Do these really help? Are they legit?
posted by CollectiveMind at 11:44 AM PST - 18 comments

Sorry, the dog ate it...

As kind of a part-two to this question, I have been asked to pass on my dissertation to the Manager of the Centre who helped me find my interviewees. Problem is, it’s absolute rubbish and I’m too embarrassed to let him read it. How do I decline? [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 10:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Please help me stop talking like a female chauvinist sow.

Please talk at me about the kind of terminology, phrasing, best practices and thought processes that help you not stick both feet in your mouth online (or IRL) when you are speaking to someone and are unsure of their gender, sexual orientation, relationship status, etc. [more inside]
posted by Michele in California at 10:46 AM PST - 24 comments

Silver Lake Secrets (and Echo Park and Los Feliz)

Hello LA Mefites! I'm headed back to LA for Halloween weekend and am looking for some neighborhood-specific knowledge as we are staying in Silver Lake and want to keep driving to a (relative) minimum. Cheap eats and artistic and offbeat offerings are especially welcome. We are also free on Saturday night (November 1) if you know of any good goings-on. [more inside]
posted by foxy_hedgehog at 10:18 AM PST - 10 comments

Best VOIP to replace home phone landline?

It seems like I am the last person on earth to give up my expensive residential landline. I did sign up with Vonage but quickly cancelled when I realized I was being lied to and getting conflicting answers about fees/billing (then I read the horrible reviews about their customer service). I do not like talking on my cell phone and always grab for the landline when at home if I need to make an outgoing call. I want good quality (no delays, echoes, etc.), competitive price, good customer service and reliability (yes, I want it all!). [more inside]
posted by Lylo at 10:18 AM PST - 16 comments

What’s a good article on gender equality in Scandinavia?

I’m teaching a thematic unit entitled “Human Rights and International Women’s Lives” in a first-year college English course. To complete the reading list, I’m in search of a well-written article or essay on gender equality in a place where women’s rights are comparatively advanced—probably the Scandinavian countries. Anything on social policy, actual women’s lives, or the intersection of the two would be great. Recommendations? [more inside]
posted by Janey Complainy at 9:54 AM PST - 3 comments

Breaking bad...habits with good ones?

They say you should kick a bad habit to the curb by replacing it with a good one. Well, what should that be? Let's say it should be something you can do at a desk to replace a bad Internet-related compulsion. It should preferably be something straightforward but productive that (eventually) makes you feel like you've accomplished something of value, not just a useless "tic" (so, something more meaningful than pen-spinning or card shuffling, but not something overly complex that will be given up on). Any suggestions?
posted by Seeking Direction at 9:43 AM PST - 15 comments

Fall food in Kyoto with baby in tow

We're visiting family in Japan next month and will have a week in Kyoto. We've got historical/cultural/tourist sites figured out, but would like recommendations for food. [more inside]
posted by SirNovember at 9:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Making the most out of WhiskeyFest

Hey! After years of amateur scotch/bourbon/rye drinking, I decided to take the plunge and bought a ticket to this year's WhiskeyFest. The challenge - there are over 400 bottles to sample (I know, poor me). But with a limited amount of time (and sobriety), what should I make a bee-line for? [more inside]
posted by ericbop at 9:19 AM PST - 10 comments

Where to buy cufflinks and shirt studs online for my awesome new tuxedo?

Where to buy cufflinks and shirt studs online for my awesome new tuxedo? [more inside]
posted by saladin at 8:53 AM PST - 9 comments

Space-saving furniture and storage for office/bedroom/studio & more?

What are the latest and greatest for minimalist, efficient use of space for small, multipurpose rooms? [more inside]
posted by HopStopDon'tShop at 8:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Looking for advice to break into my career.

I am really hoping for some advice to help get me my first entry level job in a lab. Preferably relating to my forensic science/chemistry degree. [more inside]
posted by Blue Minutiae at 8:27 AM PST - 11 comments

Do you know a website or magazine that sells "new" vintage clothes?

Hi, I'm looking for a magazine or website that sells clothes that are new but have an old fashioned look. [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 8:17 AM PST - 21 comments

The Repercussions of Vengeance Peeing.

Our awesome 20lb puggle is giving us a new challenge. After a bunch of life-upheaval, Apple has taken to sneaking out in the middle of the night and peeing on the carpet in the guest room. So.... Carpet Cleaner? [more inside]
posted by Blisterlips at 7:53 AM PST - 17 comments

Received Chinese-language version of phone ordered on Amazon

I recently ordered the Huawei P6 mobile phone on Amazon (UK). I received it this morning, and it is clearly the Chinese version of the phone with a UK adapter included in the packaging. Will this be a big problem? Can I return it and get a refund easily? [more inside]
posted by cincinnatus c at 7:46 AM PST - 2 comments

Zone 5 Artichoke Gardeners, Please Hope Me

I've been growing artichokes here in Michigan off and on for close to two decades. I've never successfully wintered over any of the plants and am wondering if there are any Zone 5 Mefites with a thumb greener than mine that can help with my overwintering strategies. [more inside]
posted by bricksNmortar at 7:37 AM PST - 2 comments

Cross training for a half marathon while avoiding injuries?

I signed up for my first half marathon in mid January! I'm nervous and excited, but also injury prone. Had a really bad ankle sprain and broken toe within the past year (separate occasions), and don't want to injure myself again. How can I enjoy cross-training, training for the half, all while avoiding injuring myself over the next few months? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 7:26 AM PST - 10 comments

Cost efficiency: Programmable thermostat vs constant temperature

I've read so much conflicting information and opinions regarding this, I have no idea what to believe. Logic tells me that keeping the temperature high when we're home and awake, then dropping it when we're asleep or gone is the most efficient use of energy. But others have told me that the amount of work a furnace needs to go to bring a house (1450 sq ft for us) up a significant number of degrees daily is less efficient than simply maintaining a constant temperature. That doesn't make sense to me, but I've heard it from people whose opinion I respect. Help! [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 6:44 AM PST - 22 comments

Alternative to Simplyfile for Outlook on Mac

I'm helping my dad with his transition to Mac from PC, and there's one big piece of the puzzle missing. He's planning on using Outlook on the Mac (since he's used it for years on a PC), but would love a filing system like Simplyfile. While there seem to be a lot of filing systems for Apple Mail, I can't seem to find a good one for the latest version of Outlook for Mac. Any advice, hive mind? [more inside]
posted by evadery at 6:43 AM PST - 5 comments

Help Satisfy Grandma's Curiosity About Front Yard Tombstones in NC

What's up with private homes having small graveyards in the front yard and right up on a major road in northeastern North Carolina? [more inside]
posted by letahl at 6:20 AM PST - 20 comments

Backpacking near Denver or Boulder in November

Any suggestions on places near Denver or Boulder for a two-night backpacking trip in early November? [more inside]
posted by McBearclaw at 6:16 AM PST - 1 comment

How does FMLA work after a patient's death?

It seems like FMLA leave doesn't account for bereavement time. What, then, do I do, after the person I'm caring for (my father) dies- just pack up and immediately fly cross country and go back to work? What about dealing with his estate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:13 AM PST - 16 comments

Boardwalk Empire Finale?

I have a question about one scene in the series finale of Boardwalk Empire. Question and spoilers inside. [more inside]
posted by Silvertree at 6:07 AM PST - 5 comments

Living with friend who owes me rent

I live in a two bedroom flat which is owned by myself and my brother. She gets a discount half price, which goes to my brother. She owes several months rent, and now I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by akita at 3:57 AM PST - 38 comments

Effective substitute for Valium?

Long shot but here goes. I have an anxiety disorder and use valium as an occasional circuit breaker, essentially to have the odd night off when other coping mechanisms stop working. It works very well and is part of an agreed upon management plan with my GP and a psychiatrist, both of whom are happy with my level of use of the drug. Recent research is making me concerned about the long term effects of occasional use of the drug, however, and I would like to potentially find an alternative. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:32 AM PST - 18 comments

October 26

How do you COMPLETELY disconnect a car's factory-installed panic alarm?

I need to know how to completely disconnect a factory-installed panic alarm on a 2002 Hyundai Sonata to keep it from drawing power on the battery. [more inside]
posted by LillyBird at 11:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Just hired, soon fired?

Will taking time off just after starting a job lead to termination? Does it look really bad, or set me on the wrong foot with a new employer? Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 9:39 PM PST - 16 comments

Can I browse files on my remote NAS using a VPN (and what is a VPN)?

If I am at home, I would like to be able to easily work with files locally that are on the remote NAS at work. I have never used a VPN before and I run my own biz, so I am not certain if I am even thinking about this correctly. [more inside]
posted by This_Will_Be_Good at 8:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Tip Etiquette, for those being tipped.

About 8 months ago I asked a question about becoming a bartender on the fly, and the answers I received were fantastic, and really helped me become comfortable mixing drinks faster than I would have. But I have a few questions about something I didn't realize I would need help with: Tipping, or receiving tips. [more inside]
posted by ratherbethedevil at 8:56 PM PST - 25 comments

Help me reset my brain from depression

School and life have gotten tough in the past few weeks, I have become depressed and I want to prevent it from getting worse [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 8:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Is it dumb to buy a first home without a real estate agent?

I am considering buying my first home, and the potential seller has floated the idea of a private sale to the mutual friend who told me about the house. Is this a totally terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by looli at 7:45 PM PST - 21 comments

iTunes library: properly managing compilations

I need help in figuring out how to manage the compilation CDs in my iTunes library so that each song appears under its proper Artist listing but the entire CD line-up appears under its proper Album listing. I can't seem to get my library to do both at the same time. [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 6:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Do professional "military ethicists" exist?

Does the military have institutionalized roles in its bureaucracy for ethicists analogous to the role of 'bioethicists' in the life sciences? [more inside]
posted by eagle-bear at 6:21 PM PST - 19 comments

DNA Word Problem

Family legend has it that our ancestors were Separdic Jews who fled Spain for Italy during the inquisition. My great-grandparents definitely came to Ellis Island from Italy, but they are as far back as we can trace. I am interested in seeing if this is true. I need help figuring out who should get tested and what test they should take. Family tree details inside. [more inside]
posted by 1066 at 6:09 PM PST - 7 comments

What's this weird fruiting vine?

Help me identify this plant! [more inside]
posted by Joseph Gurl at 6:05 PM PST - 4 comments

How can I learn how to make a movie?

I want to make a fullish-length movie (a video). Fiction. I'm writing the script. I know, everyone wants to do this, but... [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 5:49 PM PST - 14 comments

Best boardgames for future gamers

My boys like boardgames, and as a gamer I'm going to keep encouraging this. What are your recommendations for beginner moving to intermediate complexity games, with an emphasis on fun, communications and replayability? [more inside]
posted by wilful at 5:34 PM PST - 33 comments

What do insurers do with two incidents of negligence?

Let's assume that you caused one fire due to negligence in your home, and then less than five years later you caused another fire due to negligence at the business you own? How would your insurance companies treat/investigate this? Let's also assume this is the second time around for the liability company.
posted by zagyzebra at 4:57 PM PST - 8 comments

How can a small-time employee get a promising start in the stock market?

For a small-time, late twenties employee working two jobs trying to make ends meet (and who knows next to nothing about the world of stocks and investing), how can he get involved in it without getting hurt? [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 4:55 PM PST - 19 comments

I'm Irish/Canadian. I'd like that for my common law partner too.

This is one of one things I've been meaning to get around to for years. I'm a Canadian with an Irish passport (acquired through my Grandparents) that expired 20 years ago. I'd like to renew it and if possible, confer Irish citizenship on my common law partner. [more inside]
posted by bonobothegreat at 4:32 PM PST - 9 comments

What is a good, quiet bedroom fan?

White noise is fine, and soothing, perhaps even desirable, but clunking, groaning and rattling is not. Bedroom is ~12x 10 feet, bed in the middle, fan would probably be on the closest side. Budget up to a few hundred. Thanks!
posted by Jacen at 4:26 PM PST - 11 comments

Cover up those (chicken) breasts

What are some good sauces to bake chicken breasts in? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 4:09 PM PST - 20 comments

Advice for moving on from the past?

Currently, looking for additional resources to help overcome negative experiences in my past. Yes, I'm in therapy and medical care already. [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 3:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Travelling to the U.S. from Canada: Health Insurance

My Canadian relatives often travel to the U.S. to see me, and they have become increasingly concerned about their health insurance coverage, to the point where they are considering not making any future visits. They do buy Blue Cross, but they say that it won't cover pre-existing conditions. Is this true? What happens if one of them falls ill while they are here with something pre-existing? Any Canadians with personal experience getting sick while out of the country?
posted by nanook at 3:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Life expectancy through history, but not skewed by infant mortality?

I want to know how long people usually lived in different historical periods, but all the charts I can find are heavily skewed by infant mortality rates. (See e.g.). Can anyone point me toward a similar break-down that removes infant mortality from the calculations?
posted by SpiralT at 1:53 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I balance my desire to 'pay it forward' with common sense?

Fundamentally, how does a person learn to say 'no' kindly, even when they have more than the asker? How can I be firm, without being cruel, to those who are less advantaged? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:44 PM PST - 34 comments

Should I report a rape that happened four years ago?

I was raped by S, a new friend and coworker, four years ago. The circumstances of S and I working at the same large company led me to keep it hush among some of our mutual friends and not seek legal recourse. Most of the time what happened doesn't bother me, but sometimes it resurfaces when I think about how I handled it, how he never learned anything from what happened, and that I never found any closure personally. Maybe reporting it will help put this to rest? Complication: entrepreneurship and being the face of a company after filing such a report. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:44 PM PST - 17 comments

De-Un-Pimp My Apartment!

What can I do to turn a modest, sparse apartment into a living space that's delightful, useful, impressive, and comfortable? Assume I am starting very nearly from scratch. Extra points for cheapness, easy installations, things which I can move with me, and tips that will make my life easier and happier rather than just flashier. [more inside]
posted by rorgy at 12:57 PM PST - 14 comments

archival storage and protection for laserjet/inkjet/xerox material?

Looking for acid-free non-plastic translucent or transparent sleeves or envelopes to fit folded printed paper PDF event tickets of various sizes and similar containers for digest-size and legal-digest (7 x 8.5 in ) xerox zines. Any leads? Details follow. [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 12:56 PM PST - 5 comments

I love you so we're done

How do I maintain the resolve to cut off a great but unhealthy friendship? [more inside]
posted by R a c h e l at 12:38 PM PST - 15 comments

Origins of "Humans of New York" style of photography

It occurred to me recently that HONY may have been influenced by Bill Owens' Suburbia project in the '70s, which had a similar approach of photographing strangers and getting a quote from them to accompany the picture. Are there other examples of this technique in art photography? [more inside]
posted by neat graffitist at 11:50 AM PST - 2 comments

Out of focus

I have been shooting with a DSLR for five years and apparently I still don't get focus, nor can I find anyone IRL to explain it to me. Halp? [more inside]
posted by Sheydem-tants at 9:59 AM PST - 16 comments

Finding a competent web app developer for one job

I have a piece of web software in mind which I would like to have created - it's your standard PHP/MySQL webapp, really, but there are probably nifty new technologies which could be used instead of the aforementioned combo. [more inside]
posted by dance at 8:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Looking for documentation for Albinon ADG zoom lens

I'm looking for documentation for a Albinar ADG MC 80-200mm f/4.5-5.6 Auto Zoom Macro Lens with a Pentax K mount. User guide, specs, marketing material, or anything else would be great.
posted by bobjaben at 8:29 AM PST - 2 comments

Like AskMefi but in Spanish?

I am trying to improve my Spanish, especially the reading comprehension bit, looking for good quality discussion forums I could add to my daily reading list. [more inside]
posted by coffee_monster at 8:22 AM PST - 3 comments

How to proceed when things are bad?

My girlfriend and I (female) have been together nearly 6 years. Things were really solid the first 4 years or so, but for the last two years we've really been struggling. There are a lot of frustrations on both sides, but things really came to a head about 6 weeks ago. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:53 AM PST - 44 comments

Is this web scraping?

So I'm doing a project where I want to do some analysis on a whole bunch of text from newspapers and magazines. [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 7:17 AM PST - 10 comments

Epilepsy in the blogosphere

I am trying to find blogs about epilepsy that are frequently updated and who have a twitter account I can hopefully follow. Majority of the one's I found have sporadic updates and don't really delve into patient/caretaker experience in depth (advocacy groups have community forums but they are all over the place). It can be for childhood or adult epilepsy diagnosis. Any suggestion would be greatly appreciated!
posted by anonymous at 7:15 AM PST - 1 comment

Adoptee DNA test for African American roots?

Which of the several commercial DNA ancestry tests would be the best for a 44 year old man trying to find his African American relatives and ancestry. The man is adopted, his biological mother is white. He's met her but she remembers few details about his African American biological father, not enough to make him findable. He is hoping that a DNA test might help him to find out more about his father and his father's family.
posted by mareli at 6:35 AM PST - 8 comments

There's a book for that! Multiple varieties of English version

I need a book on the different varieties of English, their spellings, grammar and punctuation and some info on vocabulary differences, too. But I'm having trouble finding one. [more inside]
posted by LyzzyBee at 6:14 AM PST - 6 comments

Help for relieving motion sickness on the trolley/light rail?

My partner becomes motion sick shortly after getting on the trolley. She feels very nauseated within a couple of minutes. The trolley tends to accelerate and decelerate rapidly at each stop, and when the trolley is underground the ride can be fairly bumpy. Is there anything she can do to prevent or treat this, ideally without having to take medication? [more inside]
posted by brackish.line at 5:31 AM PST - 21 comments

Ice cold food & drinks and its effect on metabolism. If any.

Just wondering: Thinking about increasing waist-lines and the late 20th century penchant for iced drinks. If a load of ice cold liquid hits your stomach and lowers your core body temperature, presumably your metabolism has to compensate in some way. Is there any evidence of any long term impact to metabolism?
posted by marvin at 3:23 AM PST - 7 comments

October 25

Great Acoustic Covers

Any favourite Acoustic covers? Especially stuff that is wedding friendly?
posted by thelloydshow at 8:31 PM PST - 49 comments

My Dad's gmail got hacked...

I think my Dad's gmail account got hacked while he was in Cambodia at the start of the month. We have no idea how. What should we do beyond changing the password and alerting the banks and credit card companies? [more inside]
posted by zresearch at 7:49 PM PST - 7 comments

What type of retirement service am I looking for?

I have too many retirement accounts at too many institutions (7 going on 9). I dislike managing them all and would like to hire someone. I don't need help planning or making decisions. I need an administrator to buy my already chosen funds as money is deposited and to give me consolidated reports once per year. Does anyone know is this type of service exists? [more inside]
posted by jackquack at 7:27 PM PST - 16 comments

Songs that contain a full stop? A momentary pause of any sound-making?

I'm looking for songs (linkable to full versions such as by YouTube) to listen to that contain what I call a full stop, whereas the production of sound halts completely for a moment before resuming. Metal, Rock, Country, Klezmer, K-pop, Mariachi, or whatever you prefer.. Examples within. [more inside]
posted by Quarter Pincher at 6:20 PM PST - 94 comments

How to Calc Capital Gains on Home Sale /down payment was partially gift?

I have some help coming my way towards down payment. Let's say... for simplicity sake ...that I am receiving $100k as gift towards down. I know the gift amount won't count as "cost" when calculating capital gain at time of sale in the future. But if I receive the "gift" in chunks of $14k from various individuals under the annual gift exclusion clause, could any of those chunked amounts be included in my cost to reduce my capital gain? Thanks. I hope this is a simple yes/no question. [more inside]
posted by phreckles at 5:13 PM PST - 10 comments

A Curious Question About Wiring

I discovered this week that the closet light in my new home is wired in a questionable way, and I need to know if this is a problem. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 3:57 PM PST - 8 comments

$trategies to get people to pay up?

My boss has given me the task of collecting an outstanding invoice. I have no experience doing something like this, and it is not part of my normal job description. If I'm successful, there's a cash bonus in it for me... Tips and tricks please! Thanks.
posted by tippy at 3:39 PM PST - 21 comments

How to give employees unwelcome news

Half of my team makes widgets and half of my team makes sprockets. Next week, I need to tell my widget-making employees that we are cutting back on widget production and ramping up sprocket production -- they will start making sprockets 25-50% of the time. How do I make this unwelcome (but needed) change in job responsibilities suck less for my team? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Fraught discussion of my sexual history with current partner

I'm a mid-20s dude in a solid, fulfilling relationship with a woman in her early 20s, who we'll call G. G and I see eye-to-eye on pretty much everything important, but one sticking point has come up with regards to my sexual history that's bothering us both quite a bit. [Details are probably NSFW] [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:29 PM PST - 69 comments

Where the hell are my keys?

I lost my keys somewhere in a very narrow geographic area yesterday, and I have no clue what could have happened. Can the hivemind think of anyplace in my path I might not have looked, or have any idea what might have happened? Steps retraced below the fold. [more inside]
posted by ActionPopulated at 2:40 PM PST - 22 comments

Was this an abusive relationship?

I dated a guy for a couple years. There were a lot of problems. For my own self-knowledge, I'd like to know whether it was just incompatibility, or whether he was being abusive. [more inside]
posted by vienna at 2:08 PM PST - 27 comments

Will a faulty air bag sensor prevent dealer replacement of air bag?

My car has an air bag that is subject to the big air bag recall. Will a faulty passenger side air bag sensor cause my dealer not to replace my (presumably) faulty driver's side air bag? [more inside]
posted by Rob Rockets at 1:50 PM PST - 1 comment

What's Arabic for 'Kick Me?'

I have a T-shirt with text in some kind of Arabic language, and I have no idea what it says (or even what language it says it in!) There's also a small triangular logo with an antelope and the word 'Zama'. Does anyone know A) what language it is, B) what it says and C) what the context is? [more inside]
posted by Green Winnebago at 1:35 PM PST - 3 comments

I need to learn to think like a criminal in seven days flat, Help!

I am going to pull off a massive bank heist I am doing NanoWrimo and have 3 criminal gangs, one of whom has someone chasing two guys who are low level criminals. The trouble is, I have no idea how people who have fallen into a life of crime, and particularly successful crime, think and act or would act in this situation. If anyone has any advice or sources of information please send it my way. [more inside]
posted by marienbad at 1:23 PM PST - 10 comments

How to achieve Calvin's hair with much longer hair

For Halloween this year, my 11 year old son is being Calvin of Calvin and Hobbes. We've sorted out his costume, but I am having a hard time figuring out what to do with his hair. My son's hair, (seen here) is much longer than Calvin's. How can we style his hair, which he has no desire to cut, into a style that still evokes Calvin?
posted by Nimmie Amee at 1:11 PM PST - 10 comments

Does this service exist?

I made my Christmas gift list early, and I'm looking for a way to watch for sales on this specific list of items between now and early December without having to check every sale flyer for every possible store every week. Does this exist as a web service or an app? [more inside]
posted by donajo at 1:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Does Anyone Practice Social Psychology - in Portland, Oregon?

I have two questions: 1) Has social psychology given rise to clinicians, that is, therapists whose practices use the theories and principles that come out of social psychology? 2) If so, are there any in Portland, Oregon? [more inside]
posted by ADave at 12:35 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me find a story I vaguely remember -- Halloween edition

It was a scary story, maybe a folk-tale, that was part of a collection geared towards children. A child's mother is replaced by some kind of cat-like doppelganger, and the child knows because of the replacement mother's mouth (full of tiny sharp teeth) and her constant craving for fish. I believe the story was set somewhere in Asia...either China or Japan. Sound familiar?
posted by pretentious illiterate at 11:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Best Platform / Ideas on Crowdsourcing for Exam Questions?

I have been tasked with coming up with a recommendation for a process to crowdsource questions for exams published by my company. These exams measure knowledge of various products and are specific to job role. For example, there will be one to three exams for Product X that correspond to the job roles of layman, mid-level user, and advanced user. [more inside]
posted by DuckGirl at 10:32 AM PST - 1 comment

What is Dish Network HDTV like?

We are ready to upgrade from our ancient TiVo to a DVR that is compatible with Dish Network and supports an HD signal (yes, we are behind the times). Before we pull the trigger, we want to know what to expect. I mean, yes, we expect it to change channels and record things, but...do you like it? Does the UI work well? Anything we should know about going in?
posted by That's Numberwang! at 9:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Renting an apartment while on Tenant Blacklist in NYC

Hi Everyone, I searched and could not find a question about this already posted so here goes. I am looking for an apartment for the first time in 6 years and I have found myself on the tenant 'blacklist'. I had NO IDEA. [more inside]
posted by FridaG at 9:13 AM PST - 7 comments

How to make my tiny resume shine

I'm applying for a position that's similar to one I held six years ago. There are two problems I have making a resume for the job. The first is that while I've had a similar position for two years, it's my only experience in the field. The second is that all my other recent work experience is in retail (as I left my full time job to become a stay at home parent). How can I best handle this on the resume and cover letter?
posted by drezdn at 9:12 AM PST - 6 comments

Dog health issues

Our male German Shepherd dog cries from time to time, as though in pain. Trying to figure out what the reason could be. [more inside]
posted by jellyjam at 8:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Can I be notified when someone dies?

Is there some service where I can set up an alert that will tell me if a death notice is posted for a certain name? Assume I know the cities/newspapers in which such a notice would likely be posted. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:33 AM PST - 9 comments

How to remove the cartridge from a Glacier Bay two-handle bathroom sink?

I have a leaky Glacier Bay two-handle bathroom sink. I am attempting to replace the cartridge(s) but I am stuck, and also have a question. More to follow... [more inside]
posted by Ike_Arumba at 7:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me pick a laptop!

my beloved macbook pro has died and the emergency replacement i bought (an hp) is the devil's own computer. i need a new laptop that will function in a few specific ways... [more inside]
posted by megan_magnolia at 7:44 AM PST - 11 comments

First Date Strategizing

In the array of approaches out there regarding the choice of an optimal first date activity, the majority of thoughts on the subject seem to fall generally into two opposing schools of thought. I am very curious to get the AskMeFi community's thoughts on the topic as there seems to be a pretty smart bunch here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:12 AM PST - 24 comments

Marketable Skills - quickly!

I'm a woman in my early 40s with no real marketable skills that make me stand out in job hunting. I currently have a job in Montreal, but I'm originally from Toronto and for various reasons, I'm planning on moving back. I'd like to learn some skill(s) in the next 6 months or so (planning on moving July 1) that will hopefully make a significant increase in the likelihood that I can find a job quickly once there. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:11 AM PST - 8 comments

help me pants - thunder thigh edition

Hey folks I'm a reasonably fit male, 5'10" with a 32-34" waist and enormous thighs. Finding good pants is always problematic - typically they get around my trunks and are completely loose around my waist. I've had the best luck with Lucky brand jeans, but there must be more pant options out there. I try to dress casual chic - any tips, tricks or brand recommendations would be appreciated.
posted by askmehow at 7:08 AM PST - 13 comments

Mom: Destroying Friendships Since 2014

My son has social delays that make making friends hard. He was finally on his way to making a real friend, and I (his mother) ruined it by inadvertently alienating the other child's mother. I can't fix it. How do I live with it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:59 AM PST - 17 comments

How to boil down again to one shop?

Can you still do a week's food shopping in one go? If you have moved to going to the grocery store more than once a week to buy things to cook that day or the next few days, what do you typically run out of, or is it more of an impulse buy? If you were able to have appliances or storage to help you keep food fresh or remember to use what you bought, what would you consider getting? Assume a typical English diet: meat, potatoes, greens, bread, tea, coffee, milk etc. [more inside]
posted by parmanparman at 6:22 AM PST - 14 comments

device for remotely turning on roof cables for ice dams

I have roof cables installed on my roof to help with our awful ice dams. Problem is, it is very expensive just to leave them running all the time when I am at work. But if I turn them off and a snowstorm starts while I am at work, then the ice dams form before I get home. Can anyone suggest some kind of a remote activation device. Ideally something that would let me turn on the cables from my phone or from the web. The system is already installed on the roof, so all I need is some kind of system to turn it on and off. Please do not suggest modifications to the roof - we have been through every type of soffit, sheathing, roofing solution over a period of 20 years - these ice dams are just an insoluble problem and the only way to control them is with the cables. So I am only looking for replies that can suggest ways to turn the cables on and off remotely. Thanks!
posted by cmp4Meta at 6:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Where in the world is best to visit in December/January?

Can you suggest places where there's no extended shutdown over New Year, and places that appear to best advantage in December/January? [more inside]
posted by Cheese Monster at 5:28 AM PST - 21 comments

Masonry project problem -- is the proposed solution ok?

Adding granite toppers on our exterior stairway made the step heights hazardously uneven. Is the plan for addressing it ok? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 4:56 AM PST - 10 comments

October 24

Places to live alone on low income

I'm bored (and miserable) where I'm currently living and interested in moving on again, but don't want to fall into the same trap of barely surviving from one paycheck to the next, if even that. Looking for personal recommendations on where a single person might afford to live alone at minimum wage without subsisting on ramen and hot dogs. Is it even possible? [more inside]
posted by myShanon at 11:32 PM PST - 39 comments

Best edition of The Wind in the Willows?

I want to buy a nice copy of The Wind in the Willows as a gift. I went to AbeBooks, and there's about a million editions, and most of them don't have extensive pictures of the guts. [more inside]
posted by erikgrande at 10:09 PM PST - 11 comments

Do I just resign myself to being a Prozac junkie?

So, I'm too lazy to link to them, but many of my previous questions have waxed poetic on my experiences with depression, its effects on my cognition and motivation, as well as my trials with a number of treatment modalities- some pharmaceutical, some alternative, some psychological. After years of back-and-forth experiments with nearly everything in the book, I come to the same conclusion time and again: Fluoxetine is the only thing that works.- slowly, under only the best conditions, and for a very short time before I need to up my dose. ( We're talking weeks). What's going on here? [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 9:51 PM PST - 18 comments

Confronting an alcoholic

Would I be overstepping my bounds in confronting someone I'm not well-acquainted with about going to rehab? [more inside]
posted by jenh526 at 8:02 PM PST - 28 comments

New Dell Windows 7 / 8.1 Pro has no product key label

My new Dell desktop with Windows 7 / 8.1 Pro arrived with no product key label on the box or anywhere else. I've bought several 7 / 8 PCs (not Dell) for work and this is a first. Before I descend into Dell Hell, could someone shed some light on this? [more inside]
posted by wallabear at 7:29 PM PST - 4 comments

How best to protect a child when my ex brings him into our arguments?

How should I buffer a child from the stress of divorced parents' arguments when my ex-wife is extremely open with him about adult stresses and about what she wants? [more inside]
posted by kroshka at 6:19 PM PST - 26 comments

What is this storage space built into my foundation and what is it for?

The concrete foundation in our 1909 bungalow-ish house has some kind of a storage container built into it. What could this have been used for? [more inside]
posted by sportbucket at 5:25 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me decide how to put a DVD online.

So I have this DVD with accompanying copyright information, descriptive notes and disclaimers and I'd like to put it online so others can access it. The last time I did such a thing, I ripped it and converted to FLV and used JW Player. I could do that again but I wonder if that's what people at the end of 2014 would do. Are we in a post-flash world? Could I do something similar in a different format? (Even though I have some experience with this, please "explain like I'm 5.") [more inside]
posted by Obscure Reference at 4:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Can you explain how feelings work?

I guess I'm 39 going on 9 but I need you to explain feelings please, and what I might be able to to about them. Can I stop/manage/fast-track the negative ones somehow? Illustrative example inside but I'd really like to hear broad principles please [more inside]
posted by Gomoryhu at 2:56 PM PST - 23 comments

HELP! HAL is in my IBM!!

I just picked up an IBM electric typewriter from a salvage shop. However, as you can see HERE, there's something a little bit strange going on. Any electricians out there who can give me some insight? Thanks!
posted by crazylegs at 2:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Slumber party advice

My daughter is having a slumber party for her birthday. I'm used to (and comfortable with) normal birthday parties: planning lots of fun activities, yummy things to eat and keeping order with bouncing children for a few hours, but I'm worried about having a half dozen 7 & 8 year olds sleeping here. Those of you have done it -- what's your advice? Anything that would help this go well? [more inside]
posted by Margalo Epps at 2:42 PM PST - 18 comments

I'm 50 miles short of Gold on United's MileagePlus, when will I be gold?

More specifically: I have a four hour layover in Istanbul tomorrow (after a 15 hour flight) and would like to get free lounge access (which I would get with gold status). Will I be gold during the trip, or will I only be gold after the trip?
posted by Spurious at 2:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Stop OS X From Prompting about opening applications for the first time!

Timely Help Needed Updated to Yosemite and now all my calendar workflows require me to click OK to allow them to be run for the first time. [more inside]
posted by terrapin at 2:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Administrative roles in oil/gas and offshore

What administrative roles are there at oil/gas plants or offshore rigs, in addition to HR and office clerks? [more inside]
posted by glass.hourousha at 1:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Moving balances in a mutual fund

When transferring balances from one mutual fund to another in my 401k, what the is the most advantageous format to use for the transfer (percent, shares, or dollars) and why? [more inside]
posted by OrangeDisk at 1:55 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I find a job recruiter to adopt me?

I'm looking for a new job - how might I get a recruiter to adopt me? [more inside]
posted by jander03 at 1:48 PM PST - 13 comments

Identify these movie deaths

The directors of the horror film The ABCs Of Death 2 were asked for their favorite movie deaths and a compilation of them was made (NSFW). I can't find a list of the films where the clips are from online and I'm trying to find out the ones I don't know [more inside]
posted by fearfulsymmetry at 1:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Evil Circus Roustabout Costume Help

We are going to a Halloween party where the theme is "sinister circus." My husband wants to go as a wicked roustabout. He's all set with a belt full of rope and carabiners, old-fashioned, tattered clothes and oil smudges on his face. He even made up a batch of blue rock candy (which if you're a Breaking Bad fan you'll get.) Problem is... [more inside]
posted by Fenriss at 1:26 PM PST - 12 comments

Keepin' Up with the Future

My role at my job is changing and I need to stay more abreast of the latest trends in IT, specifically: enterprise platforms (CRMs, CSMs, Human Resources, General Ledger, and lots more!), mobile strategy, cloud-first strategy, DaaS, and I'm sure things I don't even know about yet. I'm looking for good blogs/online resources that I can stay on top of to help me with this. Note: I do not have a CS background, but am OK reading things that require additional digging to understand. [more inside]
posted by CMcG at 1:11 PM PST - 4 comments

Give me the best short bursts of horror/VHS/halloween nostalgia you got.

I'm putting together a Halloween marathon party this weekend, with a few horror movies (about evenly split between good and cheesy selections), and lots of video interludes in between that speak to a sense of pre-2000 horror/VHS/halloween nostalgia. I need your help on the interludes. I'm finding it hard to pick the exact vibe I'm looking for, but for examples: [more inside]
posted by Ash3000 at 12:56 PM PST - 9 comments

More recruiters = more problems

A third-party recruiter wants me to commit to a job before negotiating salary with the company. How do I handle this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:25 PM PST - 36 comments

How can folks protect themselves in this new hacky, doxxy world?

What are some steps people can take, or some resources they can read up on to shore up their own security and protect their identity in the event that they were to become a target of hacking and online harassment? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:23 PM PST - 6 comments

Planning a staff retreat- how to make it worthwhile yet fun

I am planning a staff retreat that is about 8 hours long- 9-4ish. How do I make the most of this, while also having fun aspects with no "trust falls" or cheesy aspects? We'll be in the home of one of our board members (she'll be gone) with lots of snacks and/or board games or whatever you all suggest. I hope we'll have some structure in the beginning of the day, then maybe games and getting to know you stuff. Thoughts? [more inside]
posted by rabu at 11:35 AM PST - 12 comments

Affordable indoor water parks (or other fun outings) in the Northeast

My 13-year-old stepdaughter has gotten to the point where all she wants for holiday gifts is gift cards, which doesn't provide a lot of excitement when unwrapping gifts. My partner and I want to surprise her with a fun yet affordable overnight trip no more than about a 4 hour drive outside of NYC. She's always wanted to go to a water park with us, and Great Wolf Lodge is way out of our price range. Any suggestions for alternatives? [more inside]
posted by Neely O'Hara at 11:09 AM PST - 14 comments

DIY "Aged/Distressed" Comic Cover on MDF

I want to make my own comics that look distressed and mounted on MDF like these. [more inside]
posted by chicaboom at 10:40 AM PST - 8 comments

Team building Smeam Building

We're having our semi-annual meeting at my office and me and another co-worker have been assigned the task of coming up with two activities for the 40ish people in attendance that will take 10-15 minutes long each. Help me come up with some interesting, fun, not cliche activities for our group. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 10:33 AM PST - 12 comments

Why is my cat eating the tissues?

My cat eats tissues. She will sit at the tissue box and pull them out and eat them... [more inside]
posted by goml at 10:12 AM PST - 14 comments

Fish-themed alternate URL for amazon.com

I vaguely recall there being a domain name involving the word "fish" (or something similar and ridiculous) that would redirect to amazon.com. Was this a dream? I can't find any information about it anywhere. [more inside]
posted by caaaaaam at 9:52 AM PST - 7 comments

How does an adjunct instructor respond to this phone call

I'm freaking out, so would like advice to stop the freakout along with anything else. My boss told me that there had been "issues of classroom management" with regards to my teaching. What those issues are, I don't know. Neither does she. But I'm getting more job responsibilities because of it. [more inside]
posted by IwishIwasFordMaddoxFord at 9:50 AM PST - 15 comments

Walter White and Frank Underwood must be livid.

I'm thinking there must be many real people out there with the same names as fictional TV characters. They had these names before the TV show ever came into being, but because of the huge popularity of these shows, their lives must be changed. [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 9:27 AM PST - 43 comments

Running-filter: Any success with Maffetone / low heart-rate training?

I'm an experienced runner who is intrigued by the "Maffetone method", or doing the bulk of training at a very low heart rate to improve aerobic endurance. Has anyone here tried it? If so, what were your results? Would you recommend it?
posted by barnoley at 8:58 AM PST - 7 comments

Seeking help for "help-seeking"/"help seeking"/"helpseeking"

Is the term "help seeking" one word or two? If it is two words, should it be hyphenated when it's not serving as a compound adjective? [more inside]
posted by quiet coyote at 8:31 AM PST - 13 comments

One weird trick that the gutter cleaners don't want you to know

I don't mind cleaning my gutters (at least the ones I can reach), but I feel like there has to be a better way. Gutter enthusiasts, share your wisdom! [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:23 AM PST - 20 comments

New-fangled Scanner Technology

I'm looking for a document scanner setup with some fairly specific requirements... [more inside]
posted by grateful at 8:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Not interested in icicles in my hair after swimming!

Hey swimmers. I'm loving lap swimming. And with colder weather coming, I'm wondering how to stay warm from pool to home (due to wet hair). [more inside]
posted by foxhat10 at 8:10 AM PST - 24 comments

Minimalist, modern gauged earrings?

I'm looking for places to buy gauged earrings, with a few specific requirements. [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 8:09 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me find a mulitivitamin that I am not allergic to

So far, the only multivitamin that I have not had a bad reaction to has been Apex Performance Multivitamin, which I last used 5 years ago. It appears to have been discontinued. [more inside]
posted by myselfasme at 8:03 AM PST - 11 comments

Cardio Equipment: New or Used?

We're considering getting a piece of cardio equipment for the home, probably an elliptical. Are there any serious pitfalls to buying it used? The price difference seems pretty enormous, which always makes me suspicious. [more inside]
posted by griphus at 8:01 AM PST - 8 comments

Macintosh Power Users -- how do you afford to keep up?

I was recently given a heavy Mac G5 Tower by my uncle. It has Mac OS 10.4 "TIGER" on it... [more inside]
posted by shipbreaker at 7:11 AM PST - 22 comments

Leave fulltime job to take part-time job--of course, less money

Would you leave a full-time job that is stifling, depressing and not a good fit for you to take the part-time job of your dreams? Full-time job pays $55K and part-time job pays $40K. Am I crazy to even think about doing this?
posted by sandra194 at 7:03 AM PST - 33 comments

Has anybody seen this photograph? Complication: boobs.

Three or four years ago I saw a photograph in an actual newspaper of a group of wetnurses and babies in an Italian orphanage. There were some rows of buxom young women in uniform, each one seated with a breast out feeding a baby. The young women all wore a kind of nurses cap and oddly, every single one of them had dark curly hair. There was an odd juxtaposition in the picture between the uniformity of the group - and they were pretty smart - and the intimacy of the action. The date must have been 1940's or 30's. Now I've tried googling this picture and while the searches have taken me to some unexpectedly alarming places, I've not found it. The closest I've got, in feeling and structure, is number 3 of 4 here; but this isn't it. So, consulting the diverse and extensive knowledges accumulated here, does anyone know the photograph and where I might see it again? [more inside]
posted by glasseyes at 3:51 AM PST - 14 comments

Food safety question: Mussels with green, mealy innards?

I have a tub of cooked and marinated Mussel meat I bought today and I have just found that most of the animals are partly filled with a dark green mealy paste-like substance that looks like mud. Is this just roe? Or is it filth? [more inside]
posted by evil_esto at 3:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Illegal to take photos in Belgian cabs?

Belgian natives and residents: Last Sunday I had to take a cab from Brussels Midi to where I was staying. During the course of the ride the driver proceeded to : text, talk on his phone, smoke and blast shitty French rap. [more inside]
posted by brujita at 2:19 AM PST - 12 comments

Can you identify this noise?

I live in a small, 10-unit apartment and have an ongoing issue with noise. There is a constant humming sound around 375 hz that is particularly loud in our apartment and on our floor. [more inside]
posted by knilstad at 12:47 AM PST - 4 comments

October 23

A Long Time Ago, In A Relationship Far, Far Away

When should I tell new partners about past abuse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:02 PM PST - 11 comments

How to deal with a roommate who doesn't lock the door leading outside?

I live in a shared house (not a college dorm) with 8 others. I am the only woman in the house. One of my roommates refuses to lock the door going outside despite my respectful, reasonable requests to keep the house secure and locked, and he has acted rudely towards me. I emailed the landlord but haven't heard back yet. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:01 PM PST - 30 comments

Protect my pants

I want something to protect my pants from bike grease. Holding the pant tight with a conventional pant-holding-device is not sufficient, I still get chain grease all over my right calf. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 9:24 PM PST - 18 comments

What talisman/coin/medal is attached to this "Evil Eye" bracelet?

My (Greek Orthodox) aunt gave my mom this bracelet to give to me. It is one of those anti-"Evil Eye" bracelets. Attached to each end of the bracelet is this coin-like thing. I am having a hard time deciphering what is pictured on the coin and what it symbolizes. Any knowledgeable folks know more than Google about this? [more inside]
posted by Angel de Lune at 8:35 PM PST - 7 comments

naming ebola patients

Why/how are US patients who have contracted ebola virus disease identified by name to the newsmedia? [more inside]
posted by threeants at 8:00 PM PST - 9 comments

In Canada, is it legal to lie about recording a conversation?

In Canada, if someone asks you if you are recording a conversation, can you lie and continue to record it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:02 PM PST - 6 comments

Generational impact of incest and intermarriage between cousins

My mother is convinced she is the product of an incentious relationship by her mother and her grandfather. Genetic testing proved inconclusice due to the poor quality of the samples available from her grandfather (my greatgrandfather) and her mother (my grandmother) as both were deceased by the time the testing was done. My parents are first cousins (my maternal and my paternal grandmothers are sisters). I have a child by my SO (not a relative). I constantly worry for his long-term health. This whole issue was extremly worrying to me during pregnancy, but I expected my worries to decrease once he is older, and especially as he continues to develop fine physically and mentally, developing right on target. He will soon turn 6 and I worry more than ever, every little quirk gives me sleepless nights. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:02 PM PST - 25 comments

# = ♀ ?

How and when did referring to a woman as a "number" become a euphemism?
posted by Heatwole at 6:14 PM PST - 21 comments

Asking for a friend...Got fired, need health insurance, now what?

I just got fired. I was miserable and stressed and planned to have a talk with the CEO on Monday. Instead, he fired me today. I'm in California. What rights, if any, do I have? [more inside]
posted by Ruthless Bunny at 5:52 PM PST - 13 comments

Need help brainstorming/planning transitions to a postacademic career

Yep, sorry, another "I quit my humanities PhD and I have no idea how the real world works" thread. Except I haven't actually quit yet; this is more like advance research. It's seeming increasingly likely that I may have to leave ABD for the sake of my mental health, so I'm looking for input on how to manage the early stages of a transition to a career (ideally arts-related) where I'll have little relevant background. This post is also an early step in my effort to encourage more constructive coping behaviors after fairly serious depression. [more inside]
posted by urufu at 5:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Searching for Children's book about a yellow goggle sporting bird

In my twitter feed this afternoon, I happened upon a heartbreaking tweet about a new dad who has stage 4 lung cancer and only weeks to live is desperate to find a book that he remembers from his childhood to leave to his infant daughter. All he can recall is that it is about a yellow bird that wears goggles and wants to fly, but all attempts fail. [more inside]
posted by kaybdc at 5:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Stopping in a manual transmission

6-speed manual transmission, standard clutch--not "paddle" or "semi-automatic" or "clutchless." Two ways to stop: [more inside]
posted by BadgerDoctor at 4:52 PM PST - 78 comments

"It's alive! My creature LIVES!"--Gene Wilder, Young Frankenstein

I've begun my first culture of sourdough starter and hope to keep her/him going for a long time. We need to bond. Help me with a name...
posted by TigerMoth at 4:35 PM PST - 33 comments

Mysterious Italian (maybe) parade, 1966

Can anyone tell me what's going on in this photo?
posted by ryanshepard at 3:40 PM PST - 22 comments

How to handle a double refund

I made a major appliance purchase at a major brick-and-mortar retailer via the web earlier this month. When the items were delivered they didn't fit and had to be returned. The items came in a set and, checking my credit card, it appears that, while they initialy charged my for the set, when they refunded me they refunded both for the individual items and the set. Obviously I have to give them their money back (if not legally, then ethically: it's a couple thousand dollars), but I'm concerned about the right way to go about this to avoid getting double charged the other way and to minimize my own hassle. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:14 PM PST - 11 comments

'Negative' information search / disprove info?

In what way could I reliably find out whether a person still lives at a given address, while specifically NOT hearing anything about where he moved to, and NOT indicating to him that I'm seeking this info or that anyone's seeking it on my behalf? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:13 PM PST - 11 comments

The roof is leaking, and the property manager couldn't care less. Help?

We rent a second-floor apartment in a two-story house. There is apparently a leak in the roof, and when there's a lot of rain (like right now, it's been pouring since last night!) water drips through our living room ceiling. It's not a HUGE leak, but it's right in the middle of the room, and the water is coming in right next to a light fixture. The property manager has been notified twice -- once a few months ago, and once today. He is ignoring us. Many many more details after the cut... [more inside]
posted by sarcasticah at 2:56 PM PST - 30 comments

Etsy or indie designers for tasteful, hypoallergenic dangly earrings?

I need sparkly, dangly statement earrings with posts made of sterling silver, gold-plated silver, or gold. Where can I find them for <$100/pair? [more inside]
posted by dynamiiiite at 2:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Help me manage my growing sensitivity to fragrance

I've gotten increasingly sensitive to fragrance over the past couple of years, and it's starting to cause me real problems. Whenever I smell Febreze or anything with a very strong fragrance, my throat closes up, I can "taste" the smell, I sneeze and my nose runs, my eyes water, and I get a migraine that can incapacitate me for hours. I need to be able to function while travelling for my work: please help me figure out how to handle this. [more inside]
posted by Susan PG at 2:31 PM PST - 16 comments

Changes are hard.

I will enter a master's program in Fall 2015 in the humanities. I want to use the next year to become as prepared as possible. [more inside]
posted by kingfishers catch fire at 2:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Abusive parents still blame me

My parents were abusive and awful. I recently tried to get back in touch out of a misplaced hope for connection. They blame me (!?) for making them look bad, among other things, and want me to apologize. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by 3491again at 2:20 PM PST - 23 comments

Help us find a bar in NYC for a casual post-wedding soiree!

My husband-to-be and I plan to have a small civil wedding with immediate family in California (where we live), and would like to throw a casual party with drinks and dancing at a bar in Manhattan or Brooklyn so we can celebrate with our friends. [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser at 2:17 PM PST - 3 comments

gossip-averse liberal political news sources: all killer, no filler?

Hoping to find at least one ostensibly liberal news website that has not yet collapsed into a pit of Buzzfeed-ification or gossip column nonsense masquerading as current events. I don't want to read about the latest offensive off-the-cuff remark made by some random state representative or Joe the Plumber or Sarah Palin or any other totally irrelevant GOP-friendly media personality. I only want to read in-depth stories about U.S. politics with a liberal bent: candidates, issue positions, polls, all that fun stuff. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 2:11 PM PST - 15 comments

How demons regard Halloween in Buffy

I feel sure that one of you has got this. I know in the Buffyverse that demons generally avoid Halloween. But where is this concept is explained? Do you have a cite for it? I checked the Buffy wiki but there's no citation.
posted by dontjumplarry at 1:53 PM PST - 6 comments

Best things to bring to chemo appointment?

I'll be accompanying my mother-in-law to her first chemo appointment tomorrow. What can I bring her to make the experience as comfortable as possible for her? [more inside]
posted by geeky at 1:43 PM PST - 15 comments

What can I do with small children in Seattle early Saturday morning?

I need to entertain two small children (under 5) for several hours this Saturday starting at 8 AM. Of course, it's been raining all week, and it's likely to be raining then, and even if it's not raining, all the playgrounds will be wet with dew. All our usual haunts don't open until 10 AM. What can I do that's indoors between 8 and 10? Seattle area - I am willing to drive a bit.
posted by bq at 1:34 PM PST - 10 comments

Simple first aid reference

I'm looking for a simple first aid print reference for my retired parents, but there are a few preferences: (1) Pictures! (2) Simple English (for ESL) (3) Large print (I suppose lots of good visuals could substitute...) (4) Should cover both choking and CPR (Got into argument with mom that "drink water!" isn't a legit response to someone choking. She won't listen to me, so a "professional" reference is needed.) TIA
posted by Ky at 1:09 PM PST - 3 comments

What % of your reading do you need to remember at post-grad level?

I'm interested in doing a Chinese Studies MA but I don't know how much of my reading I need to remember. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by Musashi Daryl at 12:52 PM PST - 7 comments

"What about a golfing ghost?"

My nephews and I seek your assistance in kicking butt in a pumpkin carving contest. Pumpkin shaped snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by jaksemas at 12:46 PM PST - 11 comments

Raw, Gritty, Live R&B Performances

Recently I've been all about Sam Cooke's Live at the Harlem Square Club, Etta James Rocks the House, and James Brown Live at the Apollo. Can you recommend other live soul or R&B recordings that have the same kind of raw energy?
posted by Rinku at 12:09 PM PST - 17 comments

Rather, uh, enthusiastic workplace (snowflake)

I need to survive here, since transferring out hasn't worked (yet). [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 11:41 AM PST - 23 comments

1970s San Francisco geography/research

Please help me with some basic research for my planned NaNoWriMo novel for November! It will be set in and around late 1970s San Francisco. I have one specific question regarding surrounding geography, and a request for general ideas/inspiration inside! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 10:59 AM PST - 15 comments

Managing aggression between a dog and a cat?

I think my pets have sibling rivalry. [more inside]
posted by ohsnapdragon at 10:54 AM PST - 9 comments

The most LA problem I've ever had

Are my expectations with regard to my photographer unreasonable? [more inside]
posted by Aubergine at 10:34 AM PST - 19 comments

How do you organize your digital recipes?

What system do you use to organize your digital recipes from various sources? I often come across recipes from Twitter friends, Buzzfeed (20 ways to use mustard!), YouTube, Tumblr, Metafilter, etc and then I can't find them again. I know I could use a bookmarking system like Pinboard, or something more complex like Evernote, but I wondered what other people do.
posted by desjardins at 10:30 AM PST - 45 comments

How to become a more polite driver (or person)?

How can I become a more polite driver on the road? I try my best and usually succeed at the basics--using turn signals, not cutting people off--but I still run into situations on a regular basis where 5 seconds later, I think, "Man, I was kind of a jerk there." How can I learn to be aware of these situations before the fact? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 10:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Help, Book-Sleuths of AskMe!

Trying to track down a Halloween-y children's (?) book of puzzles and such. Details within. [more inside]
posted by xenization at 9:54 AM PST - 0 comments

What are some good goals to set in the beginning of a relationship?

I've been dating this girl for a little over a week now and we're pretty heavily into each other. We're in the puppy-love phase that most relationships start out with. It's very sweet and I'm enjoying it. I'm fairly sure I want to stay with this person longer-term. What are some things I can do in the first few weeks of our relationship to help make that happen? What do you try to get out of the first few weeks of a relationship that you're interested in maintaining? [more inside]
posted by Fister Roboto at 9:37 AM PST - 22 comments

The inventor of red-and-white tape

Is it true that the inventor of red-and-white barricade tape patented his invention and made a fortune off it? (My Google-fu is weak today...) [more inside]
posted by progosk at 9:33 AM PST - 5 comments

Being your own boss

You work for yourself. How did you get there? What is it like? [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 9:22 AM PST - 17 comments

Sites similar to Bookforum's "Omnivore" blog?

Are there any blogs/websites that are similar to Bookforum's Omnivore (formerly Political Theory Daily Review)? [more inside]
posted by Triumphant Muzak at 9:18 AM PST - 1 comment

Sealed ecosystems

Are there any desktop sealed ecosystems, like an ecosphere that are not so terrible for it's inhabitants? Is there a source for Bottle gardens? I'm looking for a desktop ecosystem that requires near zero maintenance.
posted by aeighty at 9:12 AM PST - 3 comments

Sitting is bad, but I must sit! Ideas for short office exercise breaks?

I'm stuck in an desk chair in an office, and I'm looking for mini routines for 5 minute exercise breaks. [more inside]
posted by mercredi at 8:43 AM PST - 9 comments

What to Expect When You're Expecting to See Conan

I have tickets to a taping of Conan tonight. What should I expect? How early should I arrive to not be shut out? How long does a taping last? How funny is Jimmy Pardo? [more inside]
posted by moviehawk at 8:42 AM PST - 12 comments

Google Calendar and Outlook - making BFFs out of frenemies...

Our team is virtual and uses Google Calendar to see free/busy time between co-workers. One of our VPs loathes Google Calendar and instead uses Outlook (2010 on her laptop/2013 on her desktop). How can I get her Google Calendar to show up with two-way sync in Outlook so she doesn't have to use Chrome-native Google Calendar but we can still see her meetings? Complication below... [more inside]
posted by ovenmitt at 8:08 AM PST - 8 comments

Suggestions for Trick or Treat Trip from Philly to Boston

I have two kids (5 & 8) who are very excited about Halloween, but we are going to need to spend the evening of the 31st driving fro Philadelphia to Boston. I would like to stop at a couple of places on the way for them to do some Trick-or-Treating (yes, they will be in costume in the car - sorceress and cobra). So, I would love suggestions for some neighborhoods/streets that would be good places to trick or treat. Ideally in CT off of the Hutchinson River Parkway, Merritt Parkway, or I-84; or else off of the MassPike. [more inside]
posted by blahblahblah at 7:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Shine, little glow stick, lead us away from allergenic treats!

I'm passing out glow sticks and glowy spiders in lieu of candy for Halloween. A Facebook friend posted a link to the Teal Pumpkin Project about kids with food allergies and Halloween treats. So, yay, my treats are allergy-safe! But my house is definitely NOT a pristine allergy-free zone. Will this be an issue? I don't want to inadvertently poison some poor trick-or-treater. [more inside]
posted by Rosie M. Banks at 7:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Great Librivox books?

What are some great librivox audiobooks? &amp who are some great Librivox readers? (This exact question has been asked twice before, but since the last time was in 2011 I think it's not too gauche to ask for an update.) Thanks!
posted by Going To Maine at 7:51 AM PST - 7 comments

Gifting games

Board game lovers! Friends birthday is coming up (super super soon), so please recommend me a board game similar to Betrayal at House on the Hill (which is one of his favorite things ever). [more inside]
posted by FirstMateKate at 7:45 AM PST - 13 comments

Make my mornings less painful.

I'm not a morning person at all, I never have been, and I doubt I ever will be. Unfortunately, society refuses to acknowledge this, and even forces me to do things before midday. Because of this, I'd love to hear what you do that makes getting up into a somewhat pleasurable experience, rather than keep experiencing the Promethean torture I go through every morning. [more inside]
posted by Ned G at 7:22 AM PST - 63 comments

Spy fiction

I want your book recommendations. I have just finished watching the first season of The Americans, a TV series about two Russian spies who live as an American couple with two children during the Cold War, and was surprised that I loved it a lot. I want more of that, but I don't usually love this kind of tv series. So I thought, instead of looking for other tv shows like this, I could try to find some books that I like. [more inside]
posted by blub at 7:11 AM PST - 19 comments

What can my daughter do to relieve her itchy scalp?

My 10 year old has developed and itchy scalp. Her scalp looks normal, there's no rash, no flaking, just a constant itch that has gotten so bad that it's now disrupting her sleep. [more inside]
posted by tangyraspberry at 7:00 AM PST - 21 comments

Looking for French Podcasts (Non-radio)

Hello, I'm looking for some good French podcasts that aren't simply radio broadcasts, but are more conversational/comedy/interview in style. I'm thinking of podcasts like: Judge John Hodgeman, WTF, Filmspotting, Comedy Bang Bang, Savage Lovecast, Lexicon Valley, My Brother my brother and me. Does such a thing even exist in France? I'd appreciate some help if you know of anything!
posted by gotarist at 6:33 AM PST - 5 comments

Sopisticated high end asian cuisine central london

I need a high end sophisticated asian dining experiance in Central London / zone 1.
posted by adamvasco at 4:22 AM PST - 11 comments

How can I become an entrepreneur in high tech science?

I am a recent college graduate who's been interested in combining interests in science and engineering with business. I would love to get into something entrepreneurial, but am not sure how. [more inside]
posted by cestlavie at 1:21 AM PST - 6 comments

Fun coding projects for (re)learning programming?

I'm looking for interesting coding-project suggestions, preferably, but not necessarily, for execution in Python, ObjectiveC, or Unity. [more inside]
posted by vaguelyweird at 12:52 AM PST - 13 comments

October 22

Help me dress powerfully and elegantly. I look quite young.

I am in my mid-thirties, but people often think I'm about 22. I could probably pass for 17 in the right outfit. Young face. On top of that, I am slightly built and female. Not short, but delicate. People call me honey and baby and ask me where I go to college. I want to look like a badass who can win venture capital funding. I want to look as powerful and effective as I really am. [more inside]
posted by Pablito at 9:41 PM PST - 50 comments

frequent topical antibiotics: triple antibiotic? iodine? chlorhexidine?

What are the odds that applying triple antibiotic ointment every month is going to breed antibiotic-resistant bacteria on my skin? I also have access to iodine and chlorhexidine. Would it help to use one of those instead? Or maybe rotate between them? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 9:32 PM PST - 15 comments

Photoshop Elements incompatiblility?

Photoshop Elements 8 will not import RAW files from my (new) camera, a Nikon D7100. The error message states that they are the wrong type of file. The same file type is imported without trouble from the unit it replaces (Nikon D40). What is causing this?
posted by Kronos_to_Earth at 8:29 PM PST - 8 comments

Little black book

I'm having some photos professionally taken and I would like to get them printed in a small, ideally pocket Moleskine-sized book. Where can I make that happen? [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 8:25 PM PST - 4 comments

I think I'll stay here for awhile.

I was traveling through Central Europe last month and stayed in some pretty cool hostels. The staff were really cool and hung out with you, and were more like friends than your typical hostel staff. One thing I noticed is that most of them just landed there. Some have been there 3 months with the intention to stay another 6, some have been there a year. They just happened to visit for a few days and then started working at the hostel. My question: how is this done? I have a hard time believing they could get a work visa for this sort of thing, or does that exist? Or do people that do this just come on your typical 90-day tourist entry and illegally stay longer and just deal with the consequences when they leave?
posted by signondiego at 8:09 PM PST - 13 comments

How can I give my transplanted hair a softer appearance?

What products can I use to make transplanted hair look softer, flatter and less shiny? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:52 PM PST - 6 comments

Source for cultural argument styles shown in graphical form?

Within the last 6 months I saw on the web an explanation of different countries/cultures styles of argument/discussion. It included simple graphical representation of the styles. They were line drawings with a horizontal (landscape) layout. [more inside]
posted by Homer42 at 7:40 PM PST - 3 comments

I'm cooking! (With a catch.)

Hi! I'm hosting a dinner party. One of the attendees is a professional chef. MeFi, what do I feed my guests? [more inside]
posted by schooley at 7:38 PM PST - 26 comments

Recommend me a new video game for PS3

I'm not at all a gamer, and have only really played a small number of video games in the past. But I'm craving something new to try, and am looking for recommendations. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 7:19 PM PST - 27 comments

How and what voice recognition software can a child use in school?

What , if any, voice recognition software would be suitable for a child who has issues writing? How do you make it work for in-class assignments? How well does IOS Dragon work? [more inside]
posted by Measured Out my Life in Coffeespoons at 6:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Deadbeat suddenly wants to parent

My ex has suddenly decided he wants to parent again. He got a bit screwed when it came to holidays and summer because based on his behavior during our marriage and the divorce he wouldn't be bothered. Anyways he says he has a lawyer and is going to send me papers to sign to lower his monthly child support payment and adjust holiday visits because he is making less money than when we got divorced. This is likely true he had the best job he has ever had aside from the military when we were getting divorced. [more inside]
posted by Noyra at 6:47 PM PST - 20 comments

Meet Me at...

Help me find a good LA spot for a birthday shindig! [more inside]
posted by sprezzy at 6:14 PM PST - 7 comments

I am not to be trusted with small electronic devices

Tomorrow I get my new iphone 6. What is the most indestructible case I can buy? [more inside]
posted by zara at 6:08 PM PST - 17 comments

Weird bugbites at night. What next?

Brushed off weird bugbites once over the summer, just woke up with them again, worried about bedbugs and trying to figure out what to do about it, if anything. [more inside]
posted by jameaterblues at 6:08 PM PST - 10 comments

After updating Debian, thunderbird wont download my mail

I just updated from Debian Lenny to Wheezy (via Squeeze), now I can't download my emails in thunderbird [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 5:15 PM PST - 3 comments

Famous/beautiful stairs or steps in London, Madrid or Seville?

I'm looking for suggestions for some lovely steps/stairs. April 3rd next year will be the 25th anniversary of the day my husband and I first met on the TownHall Steps here in Sydney and I want to go to some other steps to mark the occasion. [more inside]
posted by stellathon at 5:05 PM PST - 12 comments

Winning meatball recipe wanted!

Hi there. Each year at the mikedelic family holiday party we have a food throwdown. We"ve done lasagna, mac & cheese, chocolate desserts and others in previous years. This year we are doing meatballs. Please help me out with your winning meatball recipes. It doesn't have to be Italian style meatballs, maybe a Asian style with a nice dipping sauce. Thanks!
posted by mikedelic at 4:12 PM PST - 26 comments

Should my friend ask for compensation for an amateur photo shoot?

A friend of mine was recently contacted by one of her friends, a bit of a cheapskate, to take some family photos. She is kind of upset that this is all happening without any offer of recompense. I have been encouraging her to ask for some, but she's not really sure she should ask, and she doesn't know how to ask (or what to ask--if not money, something else?). [more inside]
posted by circular at 3:52 PM PST - 19 comments

Is this friendship doomed?

Was it unfair of me to reveal my feelings? [more inside]
posted by MeaninglessMisfortune at 3:44 PM PST - 33 comments

Is my client an inadvertent spammer?

Can an employer give out an employee's personal email address to a benefit provider? [more inside]
posted by madamjujujive at 3:23 PM PST - 5 comments

Crowdfunding Deadline For Airfare I Might Not Use?

In November, other people will make a decision which will determine whether they want to appear at an event. Then, I need to use a crowdfunding site to raise the money from their fans. I'm looking at a site that shows cheap rates, which I know will rise. The crowdfunding deadline will be two months after I start the campaign. Assuming this all works out, when should the 2-month crowdfunding begin? [more inside]
posted by matt_arnold at 2:55 PM PST - 3 comments

How long does it take to get an "all clear" after a vasectomy?

My wife and I are a bit flummoxed. Can you help us figure out if I'm an outlier or if the procedure was unsuccessful? [more inside]
posted by werkzeuger at 1:34 PM PST - 13 comments

Home inspector didn't test furnace & now it needs replacement. What to?

I bought a house in August this year (2.5 months ago). Just tried turning on the heat for the first time and it does not work! I had a repair company out and was told it was in terrible shape (and super old). They would even have to special order the parts. [more inside]
posted by Snackpants at 1:20 PM PST - 17 comments

What old-timey music should I listen to?

I'm a fledgling clawhammer banjo player running into a bit of a problem: finding new music to play. Can you suggest "old-timey" folk musicians? [more inside]
posted by 235w103 at 1:16 PM PST - 20 comments

Can my kids share a room and get any sleep?

We are about to move to a new home where my kids (ages: 4 years and 19 months) will share a room for the first time. How can I finesse this so we all get some sleep? Difficulty level: the older one is a Wild Thing. [more inside]
posted by JubileeRubaloo at 12:49 PM PST - 19 comments

American-made horror movies

Asking for a friend who is looking for recommendations of any/all American-made horror movies in the last decade that:
  • are not a franchise
  • are not a remake
  • are not a sequel
  • not torture porn
  • not SAW
Cabin in the Woods, The Sacrament, House of the Devil were all good suggestions meeting the criteria. What else has the hivemind got?
posted by ish__ at 12:18 PM PST - 54 comments

Skincare tips: Runner w/ calluses, dry lips, early fear of wrinkles, etc

Please help a 28 year old woman overcome her sundry skin terrors: I'm a runner who is tired of having ugly feet (callused skin, short and warped toenails). I also suffer from prescription medication-induced dry mouth that Biotene toothpaste/mouth spray only marginally help. The dry mouth contributes to my chronically chapped lips. My hormonal birth control causes vaginal dryness and I want to solve this potentially by changing HBCs instead of treating the systems with Premarin. Plus, I'm trying to take more action than ever to protect my facial skin and other skin from premature aging. [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 12:00 PM PST - 14 comments

How do you find the strength to walk away?

How do yo determine if the problem is you, or the other person, and if it is time to just give up and surrender? I am here to seek help in a relationship I feel may be emotionally abusive, but am questioning my sanity and if it was really me- how do you tell? It's easy to point the finger at someone else and push off blame, but I'm starting to blame myself. [more inside]
posted by DMVgirl at 12:00 PM PST - 50 comments

Looking for bar or restaurant in St Marks on Thursday night.

I'm trying to plan a small get together near work in SoHo (I work near Mercer & Houston) but don't know the area too, too well. St. Marks, just a walk away, seems like the best bet as far finding good choices but anywhere in or around the neighborhood works. [more inside]
posted by dr handsome at 11:21 AM PST - 4 comments

Preventing my mother's abusive husband from holding my newborn daughter

How do I tactfully prevent my mother's abusive husband (but not my mother) from holding my newborn daughter when they visit me on Friday? [more inside]
posted by corn_bread at 11:04 AM PST - 44 comments

Looking for an accessible online text of The Conference of the Birds

I'm looking for a copy of the original Persian text of Farid ud-Din Attar's The Conference of the Birds. [more inside]
posted by Yesterday's camel at 10:57 AM PST - 3 comments

Tour de Northern California

We are (likely) headed to northern California for March 7-14. What should we do, and how should we divide our time? [more inside]
posted by charmedimsure at 10:57 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me find this poem by e. e. cummings. I think.

Years ago I encountered an e. e. cummings poem, a parody of The Fall of the House of Usher. At least, I think it was by e. e. cummings; it certainly had his 'words jumping around the page' style to it. Anyhow, the poem wasn't much more than a page, and had phrases such as, "The twister turned out to be sister," and, "the house came down like a ton of brick." [more inside]
posted by garisimo at 10:33 AM PST - 3 comments

Job-hunting for the first time in a while. Upgrade my employment, how?

Despite my people skills and ample experience with booze, I had to leave the food and beverage industry. I'm going to school part-time for civil engineering this spring. What positions and roles should I be looking at, especially if I want to increase my payrate? How can I best define and "sell" my skills on my resume and in person? How do I find places that will have a position for me? [more inside]
posted by TreeDodger at 10:20 AM PST - 4 comments

Time for an Executive E-mail Carpet Bomb for my Mazda service contract?

Local Dealership closed, low mileage, feeling screwed. [more inside]
posted by k8oglyph at 9:47 AM PST - 11 comments

Help me decide whether to inherit an online store?

I have an opportunity to take over an established online baby/kid's product store with a very nice website. For free. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 9:45 AM PST - 21 comments

Liquid ink on my white carpet....help!

My monster dogs just chewed a pack of neon blue liquid ink pens on my very light carpet. There are several dark ink blobs and other smeared patches. I'm afraid to touch it to even start cleaning it up. What can anybody recommend. Bonus points for how to clean a white (now spotted blue) bull terrier!
posted by Coffee Bean at 9:15 AM PST - 14 comments

Who are your favorite Asian or Asian American yuppies in Film and TV?

I've been tasked with writing an essay about Asian and Asian American yuppies in film/TV for an anthology about film and class/labor. Can anyone recommend films to watch (or articles to read)? [more inside]
posted by johnasdf at 9:06 AM PST - 34 comments

where to escape the Texas heat with a toddler and infant?

the chirren, wife, and I want to escape the Texas summer heat next year and are trying to think about places we could go. Next summer we'll have a 3.5 yr old, and an 8 month old, and dread another summer (July & August) sweltering in the sun (100/38 daytime highs). I'm tasked with to find the intersection of all our wants/needs [more inside]
posted by youchirren at 9:03 AM PST - 11 comments

What's the tip of a neuron called?

Please don't tell me I made this up; it's one of my favorite factoids. I remember hearing a radio piece, back in maybe 2011, about the effect that stress has on the tips of neurons. [more inside]
posted by mmiddle at 8:56 AM PST - 13 comments

Advice re daughter trying to use threat to not eat breakfast as leverage

Over the last couple weeks, my 6-year-old daughter has threatened on several occasions not to eat breakfast. She isn't saying that she's not hungry. Rather, she tries to get us to change some parental decision by saying she won't eat breakfast unless we give in and let her watch her show (or whatever it is.) I don't want her thinking that restricting her food intake is a way to get ahead. Can you provide some advice? [more inside]
posted by Area Man at 8:31 AM PST - 38 comments

Optional but useful vaccinations?

I live in the UK. I've had all the normal vaccinations everyone gets as a kid, etc. I know there are all sorts of interesting vaccinations I can get if I'm travelling. What I'm wondering is - are there any useful "optional" vaccinations that are beneficial for the average UK dweller who isn't going on holiday, that the govt doesn't pay for and push?
posted by curious_yellow at 8:24 AM PST - 10 comments

Have you had a ganglion impar nerve block for pelvic/rectal pain?

Did it help you? For how long? What was the procedure like and any recovery? Did you have unwanted side effects? What original condition was it ordered to treat? [more inside]
posted by fiercecupcake at 8:08 AM PST - 0 comments

Sudden acne outbreak

I've managed to reach my mid-30s with no acne and suddenly it's AcneTown all over my face. Can you help me clear it up? [more inside]
posted by Laura Macbeth at 7:51 AM PST - 28 comments

For DIY'ers... how to repair torn plastic water line to fridge?

We just bought a new fridge w/ice maker. The installation guys weren't able to install the ice maker line, since the line was torn (our last fridge didn't have an ice maker, but there was one behind the fridge.) The spare one they brought was too short, so they suggested I repair the one already in place. I tried, and failed. Help! Details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 7:44 AM PST - 14 comments

Philly-area Rehab Centers

My friend's son (8yo) was in a serious accident last weekend and sustained injury to the right side of his brain stem, resulting in extremely limited mobility on his left side. He's in the trauma unit at CHOP, but they will be moving him to an inpatient rehab facility in the next few days and the parents are looking for a comparison of two possible facilities. [more inside]
posted by jshort at 6:38 AM PST - 4 comments

How to stop being polite and start getting real

I consider myself an exceedingly polite and considerate person, but often this makes me seem overly formal and has the (unintended?) effect of keeping people at arms' length. How can I reduce this behavior and act more casual and normal with people? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:08 AM PST - 16 comments

When to step in for a dog

I'm pretty sure my boyfriend's dog has an ear infection. How to proceed? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:07 AM PST - 24 comments

What if it doesn't help?

This is a sensitive question about childhood sexual abuse and whether to tell or not tell my husband, 25 year after the core of the incidents. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:43 AM PST - 22 comments

Productivity coaching via phone?

I've hit a slump. I am in a very high performing profession in an executive role, but my productivity has plummeted. I'm looking to find a phone coaching resource to keep me on my game. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:42 AM PST - 6 comments

Simple and practical steps to regain a sense of wonder and possibility

I was reflecting last week on how I felt last time I fell in love. Aside from a motherload of the strong feelings for the other person, I remember a strong sense of wonder and possibility. I'd like to feel this way again - but without the need to fall in love with someone. [more inside]
posted by Gwendoline Mary at 2:26 AM PST - 16 comments

October 21

How can I develop emotional resilience, in a teaching context?

As a graduate teacher assigned to a difficult class, I felt like the students were personally attacking me. The general advice given to me was "Don't let it get to you" or even "Don't let it show if it does". How do you do that? More info inside. [more inside]
posted by tworedshoes at 11:44 PM PST - 13 comments

what shall i do with the ex i work with in the same office 3 feet away?

my ex and i have been working together for 3 or 4 years, and we dated for 1.5 year. he broke up with me a year ago. the post break up year is full of drama. i couldn't let go. the chemistry we had was awesome, and before we dated we used to be the best friends at work. sex is mind blowing good too. at the spot when we broke up we were pretty seriously. neither of us could actually move on given the fact we still see each other everyday. the reason why neither of us has left the company yet is because both of us got some tremendous opportunity or reward for our hard working in the past years for this company. i can't give it up for this break up. so i stuck to it for a year. [more inside]
posted by Freyaaaa at 11:32 PM PST - 24 comments

Full-blown panic mode

Lost job. Without a net. I am SO screwed... [more inside]
posted by Soap D. Spencer at 10:56 PM PST - 34 comments

Deep inhalation causing me to feel weak (& the breaths are 'shuddering')

Wondering if anyone can help me identify the cause of this sudden change to my breathing? I don't think it's serious, and it seems to be subsiding somewhat, but I'm very curious about this phenomenon right now. Googling didn't help. Personal details inside. [more inside]
posted by onehundredand80 at 10:01 PM PST - 4 comments

Toaster oven or panini press?

Our toaster oven is about to die, and we're considering replacing it with a panini press. We use the toaster oven for: toast, bagels, sausages, baking microwaved potatoes, mostly for single people meals when we don't want to heat up the big oven. We grill in the oven or a cast-iron grill pan but the press looks like it'd be better. We're concerned about ease of cleaning (we don't clean our toaster except to replace the foil lining when it gets gah) and whether it can make regular toast and baked potatoes. Small kitchen so we don't want to get both. Advice?
posted by viggorlijah at 8:48 PM PST - 19 comments

Grandpa's Old Spice and grandson's Ax Body Spray

I distinctly remember Drakkar Noir as being the cologne of choice in my high school years, and suspected that it was a kind of rite of passage to manhood. I don't think that many of my male classmates actually had to shave often enough to justify the purchase of other fragranced items, but they definitely sprayed Cool Water and Drakkar Noir when going to dances or on dates. Is this something that young guys still do and why did everyone in my age group (mid-30s) stop wearing cologne? Is there a U curve to men's fragrance usage over time? Are guys in their late teens and retirees over 70 years of age the most likely fragrance wearers or is that just a sampling error in my universe? What are the social norms for using cologne? How have those norms changed over the last 50 years?
posted by spamandkimchi at 8:48 PM PST - 31 comments

Southwest US in February -- where to go?

We (my wife and I, that is) are tossing around the idea of a trip somewhere to the Southwest in February, when I get a week off from teaching and we'll need a week off from winter. Ideally with a mix of the outdoorsy and time spent in nice scenic towns with good (vegetarian-friendly) food, on a non-lavish budget. Never been anywhere in that part of the world. Where should we go and what should we see? [more inside]
posted by irrelephant at 8:16 PM PST - 20 comments

Start walkin'.

I'm a guy in Los Angeles. I need some sexy, funky, S&M/leather-friendly, ankle-height black boots for rocking out on go-go platforms, cruising around at Burning Man, and generally pairing up with scandalous outfits at club nights. My budget could be up to $350 for the right pair. In-store only, because I'd really like to try them on. Where shall I go?
posted by mykescipark at 8:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Ruud furnace clicks

We have a Ruud Achiever 90 Plus with variable speed motor. It works great heating up the house, but when it's trying to maintain the temperature (say it's set for 65 and it's currently 65), it constantly clicks. The sound is very annoying. Does anyone know what would cause this? [more inside]
posted by joebakes at 7:38 PM PST - 5 comments

Data Base Administrators: Please lend a hand to a new assistant DBA

Quick question about using MS ACCESS. Can you direct me to an online tutorial that quickly illustrates how to create or edit/manipulate and an existing report from excel data? I do have an existing report that can probably be modified, but I've never used access before. [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 7:03 PM PST - 4 comments

High processor usage for Chrome under OS X Yosemite.

How can I stop Chrome from killing my battery? [more inside]
posted by modernnomad at 6:37 PM PST - 10 comments

"What has Luis Suarez done now?!"

I want to be Vampire Luis Suarez for Halloween. I have the soccer kit, I have the fangs, I have the soccer ball. I just need some good fake blood to put around my mouth - blood that won't stain a polyester soccer shirt. [more inside]
posted by spinifex23 at 6:22 PM PST - 9 comments

Can I eat it, eggy edition?

I'm a dummy and left 2 dozen raw eggs in the carton overnight in my car; I forgot to bring them in after grocery shopping. They've been unrefrigerated for about 24 hours, and my car's been in various garages the whole time, probably 15-20 C. The carton says to keep refrigerated, but do they really mean it? [more inside]
posted by cgg at 6:21 PM PST - 33 comments

Naming my new kittens after Game of Thrones characters-No Spoilers!

Hi, after the sudden and unexpected death of our beloved pet cat on Sunday, we've decided to adopt two kittens. We are finalists for the adoption and will meet them on Saturday. The kitten we are basing the adoption around is a white male shorthair. We are working on finding him a littermate or bonded kitten to come home with him. I want to name him Jon Snow after the Game of Thrones character because he is one of my favorite characters (also...winter is coming, people!). [more inside]
posted by Goldfinch at 5:58 PM PST - 12 comments

But which John?

I'm currently using Facebook group chats in some of my community organizational work. The "seen by" function is really helpful for more timely items, but the problem is that it only shows first names - but we often have multiple people in the group with the same first name. Is there a way to tell which John or Jane has seen the message? Googlefu is failing me.
posted by Conspire at 5:56 PM PST - 2 comments

Do I want a unicorn? To-do lists (Oct-2014).

Looking for a cross-platform to-do list/outliner with the option to work offline/save locally on desktop (Mac) and Android, and to export to Google Calendar and Excel (or Word) for Mac 2011. I hate Evernote. More within! [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 5:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Car engine smoking on engine surface after repair--normal?

I had some work done on my car today. It's a 1994 Nissan Altima. I had a belt and pulley replaced, the engine gasket replaced, and the plugs and wires replaced. The oil was changed as well. Oil had leaked through the gasket and gotten on the engine, which they cleaned off. I drove 10 miles with no problems. [more inside]
posted by Slinga at 5:07 PM PST - 4 comments

Name that snake.

What kind of snake is this? My son captured a video of it today on the way home from school. Rattlesnake? King snake? Poisonous or not? It's moving its tail like a rattler but it otherwise doesn't look like any i've seen. Video here. This was in southern Utah. (And yes, he's been warned about approaching snakes in future...)
posted by mmoncur at 4:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Lodging options in the Florida Keys, late December?

We have tickets to fly to Fort Lauderdale in late December and are planning on driving south and spending the week in the Florida Keys. Looking for lodging recommendations, preferably with kitchen facilities. [more inside]
posted by mcstayinskool at 2:47 PM PST - 4 comments

Stop hurting your sister!

11 month old "Grabby" touches 3,5 year old "Argh"'s toys, Argh reacts by pushing or dragging Grabby away. Inevitably, Grabby ends up hurt. Mom yells, banishes Argh to room. Everyone feels bad. Cycle repeats. Oviously, Mom is Doing It Wrong. What now? [more inside]
posted by Omnomnom at 2:05 PM PST - 35 comments

What does skin biopsy reveal in lab tests?

Hi MeFi, I've asked about skin issues before sometime last year and I still haven't found what it could be. My dermatologist said that I have become immune/resistant to topical treatments (benzyl perox, clindamycin, clindamycin, erythromycin) and that he needed to take a sample and conduct a skin biopsy. On a first whim, he said I likely have 'Folliculitis' but he's not sure since my skin didn't respond to topical treatments. So today he did a skin sample and I'm just curious to what exactly do lab-results show when it comes to skin biopsy. Do they look for certain bacteria or do they get an overall result of what has been in my body as far as food, drugs, liquids go? All I really use 'recreationally' is marijuana through a vaporizer to treat my neck pain but this dermatologist is sorta ultra-conservative and a friend of the family so I'd hate have to explain stupid things to him should they even come up during the test results. TL;dr - Do Skin Biopsy lab results show drug use or just skin bacteria? Thanks everyone!
posted by bostonhill at 1:58 PM PST - 6 comments

Disneyland Filter: Disney-themed iPhone game app to play in queues?

Having read every previous wonderful Ask about Disneyland in Anaheim, CA, I've discovered that some of the game apps that folks here recommended a few years ago are now nowhere to be found on iTunes or the App Store, etc. Please help me find a cool, Disneyland-themed app to play on my iPhone with my 7-year-old DS while we wait in the lines during our upcoming trip to Disneyland. [more inside]
posted by hush at 1:23 PM PST - 5 comments

The best web toys

I'm looking for the best browser-based toys and/or games that encourage exploration or play without necessarily having a goal or purpose. [more inside]
posted by overeducated_alligator at 1:17 PM PST - 8 comments

How to fairly divide time between child and new husband?

I recently got married, having been a single parent beforehand for a long time. My daughter is used to a lot more of my time than she gets now. But my new husband has also never raised a child before and is also used to getting more time from partners than he gets now. How can I fairly resolve this? I feel like I'm being torn down the middle. [more inside]
posted by sockeroonie at 1:16 PM PST - 40 comments

Apportioning ownership to creative ideas polished through collaboration

For very low budget, collaborative efforts, where the script is an outline and you are told to act like yourself, where there is no pay and no craft services and you are doing it because you enjoy being together, how is ownership usually apportioned? [more inside]
posted by GregorWill at 1:01 PM PST - 8 comments

Job Search Blues

I've been looking for a "real job" (as they say) in my field since May and, honestly, I've had no luck so far. I've had a handful of interviews, but nothing beyond that. Now that it's October and just over five months since I've finished my program I am feeling supremely depressed about this job search. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 12:55 PM PST - 11 comments

What's the best place to buy a heritage turkey in Los Angeles?

Planning ahead for Thanksgiving dinner in a new city. On Long Island my parents used to go to a local turkey farm where you could choose your bird and they'd slaughter it fresh for you. I'd love something similar in the Los Angeles area; failing that, I'm looking for the best place where I can reserve a fresh, heritage bird -- happy to pay extra for it.
posted by tweebiscuit at 12:50 PM PST - 6 comments

DIY: Old ceiling light, no ground -- what's the worst that can happen?

I replaced a ceiling light in a 1950's-wired apartment. There are insulated black and neutral wires, but no ground connection (fixture has ground wire but just connected it to mounting bar). If wired backwards, what happens when I flip the switch? When I touch the fixture while power and/or switch are on? [more inside]
posted by ArgyleGargoyle at 12:13 PM PST - 10 comments

Matching a sport coat with pants

How do you match a sport coat worn with a dress shirt (without a tie) to pants (not jeans)? [more inside]
posted by roaring beast at 12:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Lunch Rotation Apps

I have a rotation of about 15 places to eat for lunch. I'd like an app that does the following: Ranks the APPs in any order, length of time (I can create the order). Whenever I eat at one of the places, I check it off and it goes back to the bottom. This exist? I have an iPhone
posted by sandmanwv at 11:56 AM PST - 5 comments

What are the risks/rewards to moving to a new town and "starting over"?

Married couple with small child considering moving several hours away from "home". Pros/Cons/Things to consider? [more inside]
posted by Sara_NOT_Sarah at 11:46 AM PST - 23 comments

Help me identify this bar/citrus knife!

I'm trying to track down a specific bar or citrus knife that has an unusual, square shape. [more inside]
posted by gumtree at 11:39 AM PST - 3 comments

ADHD meds making me sleepy--but only sometimes.

Vyvanse makes me debilitatingly sleepy, but only occasionally. Has this happened to you? Is there another medication option I should try? [more inside]
posted by cosmic osmo at 11:33 AM PST - 5 comments

Inexpensive sources of freeze dried meat vegetables?

I am making pouches of "just add hot water" meals, and find most freeze dried food to be very expensive-- a serving of spinach could easily cost 4-5 dollars, if I buy a big bag! Where can I find some cheaper alternatives? [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 11:21 AM PST - 9 comments

Wawanesa or Mercury car insurance

Has anyone in California used Wawanesa or Mercury car insurance? They're offering significantly lower rates than the big guys but are they sketchy? [more inside]
posted by lewedswiver at 11:07 AM PST - 8 comments

Aftermath of a fire

A fire broke out in my apartment early Sunday morning. Thankfully, my cat and I both escaped (we both were treated for smoke inhalation) and I had a neighbor call 911. Now I have a ton of things to do as I try to move forward, and I'm hoping some of you know of helpful resources and ideas. ( The Red Cross is taking care of my immediate needs.) More info below. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 10:30 AM PST - 10 comments

Who leases a car for 15 years?

Back in June I bought a "special interest" car, MY '85. The story from the seller was that it was originally his neighbor's car since new, and when the neighbor passed away, the car was sold to his brother, then to him. Autocheck and Carfax, though, report the car as a leased vehicle as late as 1999. Who leases a car for 15 years? Or, once a lease, it always gets reported as a lease? Original titling state is Ohio. [more inside]
posted by hwyengr at 10:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Coffee, Tea, or...

As a life-long heavy coffee drinker rivaling the Gilmore girls, about two months ago I switched to tea. I still start each day with a delicious strong cup of coffee, then switch to tea for the rest of the day. But a weird thing happened: I don't feel energized after the coffee, and it's not until my first cup of tea (whether green or black) that I feel awake. Is it the different ways caffeine act in coffee as opposed to tea? Is it psychological? What could explain this? [more inside]
posted by redwaterman at 10:28 AM PST - 14 comments

How dead is my computer?

My PC, a Lenovo roughly 3 years old, froze this morning while I was navigating a web page. [more inside]
posted by jon1270 at 10:18 AM PST - 17 comments

Another "Help me find this story"

The core of the story is that a (possibly Indian) guy falls asleep (or is knocked out {during a robbery?}) (possibly near a river) and lives the whole lifetime of a separate existence in a dream. He wakes up (or comes to) at the end (and tries to integrate the experience). [more inside]
posted by achrise at 10:12 AM PST - 15 comments

Am i in the right here, or is what she did okay?

Me and my friend had been planning to go back to a convention since it ended in March. She invited someone else to stay with us in our room, i feel uncomfortable staying with someone i've never met, and i told her all this and even linked her to the hotels website. The rooms aren't cheap enough for him so she's telling me he's going to have to stay with us. Is this right? I don't know what else to do, i've already bought my tickets and my cosplay outfit. [more inside]
posted by earthquakeglue at 10:06 AM PST - 63 comments

"Commercials" on NPR

I am looking for data on how many minutes there are of programming in a typical hour of public radio. [more inside]
posted by insectosaurus at 9:47 AM PST - 6 comments

How can I stop eating free chocolate?

My workplace has free chocolate available 80% of the time (samples coming in from various parties that coworkers leave out for the department/floor to eat) and it will get even worse when the holiday season starts. How can I resist this temptation? [more inside]
posted by rebooter at 9:37 AM PST - 45 comments

Salt of the city

At what brick-and-mortar shop in New York (downtown) or Brooklyn can I shop for high-end gourmet salts? [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 9:23 AM PST - 13 comments

Making an offer on a fixer-upper co-op apartment (NYC filter)

My husband and I are considering bidding on a fixer-upper co-op apartment in New York City, and are uncertain about how much to bid. More inside! [more inside]
posted by merejane at 9:10 AM PST - 5 comments

How to get around in Central Asia without knowing the languages?

I'm thinking of taking a solo trip to one or more of Uzbekistan, Kyrgyzstan, and Kazakhstan. What's the language situation like in central Asia? How dumb an idea is this if I don't speak any Uzbek, Kazakh, or Russian (but do stick to the larger and more touristy cities and methods of transportation)? [more inside]
posted by xbonesgt at 8:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Adventurous travel with an infant in January?

We now have a baby, and are bemoaning the fact that we didn't do much adventurous travel before she was born. But now we realize we still can! So where should we go? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 8:45 AM PST - 18 comments

Can a software company in California insist employees limit drinking?

Can a software company in California insist that employees participate in a system that limits drinking after hours? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:43 AM PST - 13 comments

Are job fairs worth my time?

Should I attend my graduate school's job fair? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 7:42 AM PST - 14 comments

1.Membership list 2.??? 3.Non-profit!

I've taken over a position as a general administrator of an artist workshop with 400+ members, and set myself the task of automating what is still a manual or paper organisation. Looking for advice on membership software and good practices - getting a bit lost among all the CRM options and features. [more inside]
posted by monocultured at 7:29 AM PST - 4 comments

Video games about universities and academic life

I'm looking for example of digital or video games - either online, free, commercial, or bought from a shop, on a PC, mac or games console - which simulate the experience of being a student, academic, lecturer or professor from an academic, social, or economic perspective. For example, the Sims 3 University Life expansion pack gives a (relatively shallow) social perspective on academic life as a student. Are there any others, especially ones with more depth or accuracy?
posted by Wordshore at 7:17 AM PST - 10 comments

career help: Art, Graphic Design, Marketing?? ?

Hello all!! I'm losing sleep over this.. 24 year old almost 25. My current situation is that I am teaching English abroad. I have a degree from a prominent university in an unrelated field (BA). I love art, especially illustration, and I also enjoy graphic design. But I can't decide between marketing and graphic design. [more inside]
posted by fueras at 7:03 AM PST - 5 comments

Replacement for iPhoto (on iOS) Oil Painting and Watercolor filters?

The iPhoto app on iOS had two excellent photo filters that I liked a lot in certain situations: Watercolor and Oil Painting. I've seen nothing else as good as either of them in any other app (I am aware of the Waterlogue app, which also provides some interesting effects). Unfortunately, as of iOS 8.0, Apple no longer supports iPhoto for iOS. [more inside]
posted by Prawn at 6:43 AM PST - 4 comments

How did you feel at home in a new place?

Bonus if you've done this in a foreign country, and/or you work from home. [more inside]
posted by EtTuHealy at 6:40 AM PST - 21 comments

How does a song go from Demo to Recording?

Are there any documentaries/podcasts, etc. that track the evolution of a song from demo to recording? I want to see what role a good producer plays, and what the engineer and mixer actually do. Rock on!
posted by smelvis at 6:23 AM PST - 5 comments


I need to know about the most badass tupperware-type stuff. Right now we have a mixed "collection" of mason jars, to-go containers, Talenti gelato jars, and the occasional thing that's actually meant for the job, but who knows where the hell the lid for it is. [more inside]
posted by spikeleemajortomdickandharryconnickjrmints at 6:22 AM PST - 40 comments

Surviving the editorial process

If you are a writer (nonfiction or fiction), a designer, or a programmer, how do you survive the editorial process with your self-esteem intact? [more inside]
posted by bad grammar at 6:21 AM PST - 15 comments

How to go from almost-black to grey hair?

When your hair is very, very grey, but you've been coloring it very dark brown for years, how do you transition to your natural (gray) color for good? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:08 AM PST - 17 comments

What Are These Adhesive Bookmarks Made Of?

What is the exact material of these bookmarks? It's a type of extremely thin transparent plastic like sheeting tape - I need to know the name. Thanks.
posted by watercarrier at 2:35 AM PST - 8 comments

I think I need more help than a profile critique...

I've been a member of OKCupid for seven years, met most of my friends and both of my partners (polyamorous) there. I've had a very healthy and fruitful relationship with the site in the past. But lately, I've been spending an absurd proportion of my time there, and getting very few results. I don't think the problem is my profile, I think it's this new fixation with getting messages... [more inside]
posted by dee lee at 2:18 AM PST - 10 comments

October 20

Help me get over my online obsession

Of all the men I meet on OK Cupid, I choose to like one 11,000 km away. How do I get over him? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:05 PM PST - 17 comments

I need help figuring out reps and sets with a TRX-style workout

I recently decided to start getting some exercise with some TRX-style workout equipment, but I'm not sure how often I should be doing it. I found this video and try to hit most of the upper body sequences at least 3x a week. My problem is that I don't think I'm doing it enough to make much of a difference. [more inside]
posted by bjork24 at 8:31 PM PST - 5 comments

Doctor said toddler has allergic rash, but should I get a 2nd opinion?

My 18 month old son developed a rash 3 days ago. Photos here. We are currently on holiday on Koh Chang, an island off of Thailand. I took him to the local hospital and the doctor told me that it looks like an allergy, possibly to something in the sand, and to just leave it alone and not put anything on it. However, I'm still worried. [more inside]
posted by Ariadne at 8:28 PM PST - 26 comments

Do I meet my catfish?

I am in Buenos Aires on holiday visiting a relative for two weeks, and this place is so full of emotion. [more inside]
posted by cupkate at 8:22 PM PST - 14 comments

Poor cell service -- newer handset likely to have any impact?

My well-worn Verizon iPhone 4 often doesn't ring for incoming calls when I'm inside my apartment. Is upgrading to a new phone likely to fix it, or do I need to change carriers? [more inside]
posted by Alterscape at 8:15 PM PST - 10 comments

I need to turn a phrase into a fabulous, resplendent holiday party

I just became the person to put together a 125 person holiday party (I have the caterer, location and liquor confirmed as of today) for our top-level donors. How do I execute on the phrase "looking forward towards the future" which is the somewhat vague theme that I was given from my boss to make the decorations, theme, etc, come together in one beautiful swoop? We're hiring a designer to do decorations but I am supposed to come up with what I want first to give this person direction. Our budget is reasonable but not extravagant. [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 7:33 PM PST - 8 comments

So much space, so many possibilities...

Help me figure out a wonderful, fun thing to do with our unfinished attic space. Difficulty level: renters with grad student incomes. [more inside]
posted by Bluestocking_Puppet at 7:26 PM PST - 5 comments

One of these days I'm gonna get costumizized

I'd really like to pull off a Travis Bickle costume for Halloween, but I'd really really like to do it without having to shave my head. Help me find the perfect mohawk wig/prosthetic/something! [more inside]
posted by Venadium at 6:44 PM PST - 2 comments

How to line up threads on a microscope slide

How to line up threads on a microscope slide [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 6:30 PM PST - 9 comments

More music like this Hal Hartley trailer, please.

I really like the music on this Ned Rifle teaser, for the upcoming Hal Hartley film. What else would I like? [more inside]
posted by dhartung at 6:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Determining the limit on how much to "help" family

How does one determine how much to help family (primarily financially) and where to draw the line? What about the ensuing guilt? [more inside]
posted by tz at 5:49 PM PST - 21 comments

Does a consultant need insurance?

A friend has been offered a good position by a company that contracts with large corporations for technical and business services. He’ll work as a consultant and be paid on a 1099. The employment agreement includes a clause in which he certifies that he carries “adequate insurance, including workers compensation, general liability, and errors-and-omissions insurance.” What do these mean in this context? What’s “adequate” for an individual consultant?
posted by LonnieK at 4:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Words are hard.

What does this cup say?
posted by Marinara at 4:31 PM PST - 3 comments

Nice quiet places to eat in Montreal

My girlfriend and I have an anniversary coming up and are looking for a nice, new to us, quiet place to have dinner. [more inside]
posted by Mister_Sleight_of_Hand at 4:29 PM PST - 10 comments

How do we stay in touch without Gchat?

My best friend and I communicate primarily on gchat and now it's getting blocked by one of our work places. Can't download any programs. Is there a hidden solution here? [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 4:28 PM PST - 30 comments

Some people say "I need a beer", I say, "I need rice"?

I've noticed that lately eating a small plate of plain, cooked brown Jasmine rice has a wonderful calming effect on me. If I've had a stressful day, just thinking about cooking up some rice in my rice cooker makes me feel happy. I love the smell of fragrant rice cooking. And when I eat it, I feel absolutely amazing. [more inside]
posted by starpoint at 3:10 PM PST - 15 comments

Tracking Parental Mobile

Is keeping a copy of a Parent's iTunes password ok - so we can track them via iDevice without their knowledge in an emergency. Fill bit icky about it - but special snowflake details inside [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:09 PM PST - 14 comments

Emotive books for a toddler

I'm looking for book recommendations for books filled with emotions, but not about emotions, for our toddler. [more inside]
posted by lab.beetle at 3:04 PM PST - 19 comments

How to get a job writing for a TV show

what's the trajectory of someone who wants to eventually write for a comedy/drama or even a kid's show? Is there an entry-level equivalent for that kind of thing? What skills are necessary besides screenwriting experience?
posted by ennuisperminute at 2:48 PM PST - 10 comments

What use is a broken HDTV?

I have a non-functioning HDTV with no visible damage. Is there any way to wring any remaining value out of it? [more inside]
posted by incomple at 2:31 PM PST - 5 comments

What makes the optimal wall charger for the Motorola Moto G (2nd Gen.)?

I have recently obtained a Moto G (2nd Gen.) and it comes without a wall charger, while Motorola’s support gleefully mentions (archive.today) it ‘is best to use the Motorola charger that came with your phone.’ What output does a USB power adapter need to give to charge the phone quickest and cleanest? [more inside]
posted by Martijn at 2:00 PM PST - 8 comments

Naming a business (design studio)

Since the team is growing and business is going well, I'm more and more inclined towards founding a design studio (print, video, interactive). Having come up with names for a potential business many years ago, they seem silly and immature now. I don't want to choose a name and regret it down the line. [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 1:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Live in the US, moving to Canada next year - should I buy an iPhone?

I live in the US but will be returning to Canada in just under a year and I want a new iPhone. Is this a good idea? I've never owned a smartphone and so I have no idea how any of this works. [more inside]
posted by fso at 1:11 PM PST - 6 comments

Microwave Oven: More Power Scotty?

In a microwave oven of whatever wattage, is cooking something at 100% power for 30 seconds the same as cooking it at 50% power for a minute? [more inside]
posted by 724A at 12:58 PM PST - 11 comments

Help Me Helpdesk Redux

Last week I AskMe'd, thinking software was our problem with becoming a productive tech-support company. Apparently most all of the software acts the same, so the problem seems to be in the management side: how does the physical process of using help-ticket software, and helping people, from the IT Helpdesk end work, and what resources can help teach us to do it right? [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 12:32 PM PST - 10 comments

Does advertising work anymore?

I, and likely most of you reading, consider myself jaded towards advertising. But I've been wondering, have marketers effectively come up with ways to influence people like me who routinely ignore ads? [more inside]
posted by oceanview at 12:01 PM PST - 43 comments

can you suggest a hardy climber?

I'm looking for something like ivy or wisteria than can survive in harsh heat and sunlight.
posted by Opengreen at 12:01 PM PST - 11 comments

recover me!

I accidentally just deleted all the texts between me and one of my contacts. I desperately want them back! Unfortunately, I have not backed up my phone lately. Please tell me how I can get those texts back! I have an iPhone 5 running 8.0.2 on AT&T.
posted by violetk at 11:52 AM PST - 4 comments

Music to read by.

So Awesome Mix Vol. 1 turns out to be a perfect album to drown out the sound of rain while I'm reading before bed. What other commercial mixes or soundtracks are similar (not too bouncy and without large changes in volume) and might also serve in this capacity. [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 11:09 AM PST - 4 comments

How do you measure a software engineer's productivity?

I’ve been told that my productivity at work needs to improve, and that I should think up three ways in which my manager can measure my productivity and its improvement. Difficulty level: software engineer. Wall of snowflakes inside (longer than expected, sorry folks!) [more inside]
posted by six sided sock at 10:54 AM PST - 32 comments

Productivity Ninjafilter: how do you keep track of articles to read?

How do you handle and keep track of articles to read later? [more inside]
posted by zooropa at 10:51 AM PST - 10 comments

Sliding door caster replacement?

I have some very old (40 years?) sliding doors which run on casters (?) one of which broke and I'm trying to figure out how to replace it. [more inside]
posted by gwint at 10:43 AM PST - 3 comments

Dissertation panic - how can I get through the last two days?

My MA dissertation in due in two days. I have loads to do, I'm totally lost, and if it wasn't for the tons of time and money already invested in it I'd be at the point of giving up. How do I keep my focus for the final stretch and not have a nervous breakdown? If you have experience of surviving Dissertation Hell please let me know how you coped. [more inside]
posted by billiebee at 10:39 AM PST - 23 comments

Seeking simple WMV to MP4 file transcoder

Please help me find a simple high quality WMV to MP4 file transcoder that will run on my Mac. [more inside]
posted by alms at 10:36 AM PST - 10 comments

Memoirs by Archaeologists

Do you know of any compelling, well-written memoirs by archaeologists, anthropologists, or paleo-anthropologists discussing field work, preferably during the twentieth century? The more detail about day-to-day work in the field and departmental intrigues, the better! [more inside]
posted by Sonny Jim at 10:28 AM PST - 17 comments

Alaska For a Minute

What should I do with a few days in Alaska (based in Anchorage)? [more inside]
posted by Bunglegirl at 10:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Updating GoPro software on a mac

I'm trying to update my GoPro Hero 3+ black, after losing the wifi password for the app. Snag: I only have the camera, the SD card adapter is on a truck. Other snag: Finder is not allowing me permission to add/change anything on the camera. [more inside]
posted by nevercalm at 10:05 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me take my albuterol!

The thought of taking medications that make one feel nervous/anxious makes me anxious because it's a focus of my anxiety problems. I'm therefore nervous about taking my albuterol inhaler (I have bronchitis, it sucks, so I should really take the inhaler). Can you give me information about what to expect in terms of restlessness, anxiety, nervousness, etc.? Duration, symptoms, etc.? I'd ask my doctor but she was totally uninterested in my special snowflake needs (university clinic, she's not my permanent doctor).
posted by c'mon sea legs at 9:59 AM PST - 29 comments

Where to see a doctor to prescribe EDS medication?

As a partial follow-up to this question, I would like to talk to someone about prescription treatment but do not have a primary doctor and I'm not sure who's best to see or how to go about making an appointment. [more inside]
posted by JJ987E at 9:54 AM PST - 3 comments

Squeaky car parts: what do you do about them, and when?

I love my car. My car is in decent shape for being almost 5 years old and for just hitting the 100,000 mile mark, has never been in a wreck, oil is changed mostly on time. It's a good car. And I have a solo road trip coming up in a few days. Do I really need to get these repairs done now, or can they wait? [more inside]
posted by elken at 9:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Where to get this Rob Ford poster?

So this poster has re-appeared in time for the upcoming Toronto Mayoral election. Anyone know who did it or if it's possible to buy a print?
posted by GuyZero at 9:50 AM PST - 1 comment

Road trip in Washington/Pacific Northwest around New Year's Eve

The Mr and I would like to take a 3-5 day road trip out of Seattle this December/January, including going somewhere that it would be fun to celebrate New Year's Eve. We are not interested in skiing or winter sports. We are interested in food, wine, and cultural events. [more inside]
posted by matildaben at 9:42 AM PST - 6 comments

Any suggestions for a woman who wants to stop carrying a bag?

I really enjoy the freedom of movement that comes from not carrying a bag and was wondering if you had any suggestions for a) women's clothes/unisex clothes/appealing men's jackets or other clothes with deep pockets b) some other alternative? [more inside]
posted by Geameade at 9:09 AM PST - 39 comments

Shoppin' for eyeglasses

I'm an adult who needs to buy glasses for the first time. Are there good websites for buying frames online? Not sure how to shop for glasses. ... Here's another question. One of my ears has a horrible cancerous deformity benign lump behind it that occasionally makes my sunglasses sit crooked. Is it feasible to get frames that just clamp onto the bridge of my nose? Bad idea? Can you point me to some frames that are different from the standard ear hook variety?
posted by dgaicun at 8:52 AM PST - 19 comments

The Moon, Dust, a Tool, and the Temptation of Kilroy

Did any of the astronauts that walked on the Moon ever write anything on the surface? I don't mean plaques or official markers, but simply a word, name, phrase, or doodle (ex. "Kilroy was here") by using the tools at hand onto the lunar surface? [more inside]
posted by chambers at 8:28 AM PST - 3 comments

That's no moon! Or maybe.

Saw a framed photo thing yesterday, very curious as to what I'm looking at. Shitty pic of the whole thing here, closeups inside. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 7:48 AM PST - 7 comments

Is my iPhone possessed?

I typically carry my iPhone in my pants pocket and not infrequently take it out to find that it has successfully bypassed the four digit lock code needed to wake it up, activated an app, and successfully given itself several meaningless - but potentially consequential - commands. I can think of at least two reasons why this should not be possible, but it happens on average a couple times a week. What the hell is going on? [more inside]
posted by Naberius at 7:31 AM PST - 16 comments

Looking for Kitchen Organizer

My friend wanted to purchase a particular Anthropologie kitchen organizer that has since sold out and I am hoping to locate something similar either online or in NYC. [more inside]
posted by lulz at 7:18 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me get sober in a secular, woman-friendly way

I am in my early thirties, and I am finally facing the fact that I have a substantial drinking problem. Like a lot of people, I drink to mute my feelings--I have been through an awful lot of trauma, so even as I work on things there is still more hurt to feel. I am trying to formulate a recovery plan that works within my own idiosyncrasies and values, but I am not sure what is out there. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:55 AM PST - 24 comments

Appropriateness of becoming friends with your therapist (after therapy)

Is it (ever) (at all) appropriate to stay in touch with a therapist -- as friends -- after therapy itself ends? [more inside]
posted by thetarium at 6:43 AM PST - 11 comments

Online bridge

I'm trying to find a way that I can play bridge with specific people online (preferably for free). While visiting my hometown I started playing bridge regularly with some of my family members. Now I have moved away and we would like to continue over the internet. In my googling I've found sites that have online bridge with real players, but I haven't found anything specifically saying that you can choose those players yourself. Does anyone have any experience with this?
posted by strangeguitars at 6:40 AM PST - 3 comments

I ask out of shear politeness

I have a few questions about hair salon etiquette... [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 6:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Help me spend someone else's money!

I have the opportunity to request materials related to my discipline for my community college library. What should a language teacher ask for? [more inside]
posted by chainsofreedom at 6:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me find good working music!

I work a typical 9-5 job. Sometimes my job is routine, sometimes it is project management, sometimes it is complex thought. I am getting tired of listening to the same couple of albums at work, so I am extremely interesting in finding some new music that I could work to. [more inside]
posted by bbqturtle at 6:09 AM PST - 11 comments

Finding a woman's bathrobe is harder than you'd think

Can you help me find a bathrobe that suggests that I remain a feminine and attractive creature yet still fulfills my strong need for snuggly comfy clothes? I want a bathrobe that I LOVE. [more inside]
posted by A Terrible Llama at 3:18 AM PST - 24 comments

Addicted to Pure Heroine

I like Lorde's debut album, Pure Heroine, a lot. Is there an explanation beyond personal preference, from a musical perspective that explains why I find the entire album so compelling? Admittedly, the songs do sound sort of alike, but is there an actual, concrete, musical reason why I find this album so catchy? (I never got very far into theory.) Bonus: Do you know any similar songs or albums?
posted by Enchanting Grasshopper at 3:06 AM PST - 5 comments

What's the name of this song?

I feel as though I've heard this song in many places, but its lack of lyrics have made it difficult to search for. I've most recently encountered it in an episode of Louis Theroux's Weird Weekends. I suspect that it might be by Esquivel like the show's opening theme, but I haven't been able to find it based on that alone. This has been driving me crazy!
posted by mazarov at 12:58 AM PST - 2 comments

Hantavirus protocol and gardens

When we picked up the small, wooden compost bin in our community garden plot, a group of mice ran out from underneath it. Then my spouse flipped the bin face down, probably kicking up some dust. I am concerned about hantavirus exposure when the bin was upended, and also about how to clean up the site. [more inside]
posted by feets at 12:47 AM PST - 9 comments

Using American electronics in Japan

Hi, I am moving to Japan soon and I can't seem to find a definitive answer on whether or not my various electronics will work in Japan. I was hoping to move my tv, speakers, consoles, and AVR but most of them are rated at 110-120V and Tokyo is rated at 100V. I have read articles saying it is fine and other saying the opposite. Can anyone point me to some credible source to help answer this question? Are there other things I need to look into besides voltage? My understanding of electricity is abysmal.
posted by Pterofractal at 12:40 AM PST - 10 comments

October 19

What to read over my mapo tofu dinner

What are your favorite pieces of Chinese-food writing out there? (That is, English-language works about Chinese food) [more inside]
posted by andrewesque at 9:47 PM PST - 15 comments

Lead paint used in Dixie dressers?

Does anyone have knowledge of the type of paint used on the Dixie dresser seen here? Or with other Dixie dressers of the same period (seems like roughly 60's-70's)? I bought that same model dresser on Craigslist and decided to strip the paint on the drawers, not realizing how old the dresser was until some googling tonight. And now I have major fears. [more inside]
posted by otolith at 9:42 PM PST - 8 comments

Can I get a bacterial infection.. on Mars?

Can I get a bacterial infection if I got myself an unfortunate wound on Mars? [more inside]
posted by bitterkitten at 9:09 PM PST - 9 comments

Sister-in-law trying to compete for title of Best Daughter-in-Law

My husband's sister-in-law (my brother-in-law's wife) is constantly trying to be the favorite daughter-in-law. If you have experienced similar competition, what did you do to reduce the level of competition or how did you cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:07 PM PST - 42 comments

Nothing good ever comes from a visit to a phone store...

Ordered cell phone online. Picked up cell phone in person. Salesman claims order was cancelled and happily placed a new order on the spot. Am I being paranoid by smelling a rat? Details inside... [more inside]
posted by brownrd at 8:37 PM PST - 4 comments

Just take my money!

Mefites in Japan: What's the way out of this payment... difficulty? [more inside]
posted by ctmf at 8:28 PM PST - 12 comments

Is reusing disposable silverware normal?

I wash and reuse plastic silverware when I bring my lunch in and need a fork. I usually bring something that requires a fork 1-2 a month and I'll use the same fork for a few months, so maybe 2-6 times, before I inevitably lose it. I wash it once I get home and then stick it in a drawer. My boyfriend thinks I'm a weirdo. Is this at all normal? [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 8:10 PM PST - 52 comments

Pop Songs about Winter

What are your favorite popular songs about winter that do NOT mention holidays? [more inside]
posted by rossination at 7:58 PM PST - 37 comments

Help me safely disassemble a rocking chair

Furniture makers, DIYers, other knowledgeable hive mind folks: Is it possible to safely disassemble and then reassemble this rocking chair to make it easier to ship or pack? It's like this, only without the college degree. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Bella Donna at 7:46 PM PST - 5 comments

What is the unit of measurement for movement while performing a task?

I can't remember the unit of measure given in a, potentially older or not very well known, engineering textbook that focused on wise design (proper kitchen counter height/depth, doorway width decisions, funtional lighting, etc) choices. Picking up your coffee cup would be 3 %UNITNAMEHERE%. You reach for the mug, grasp the mug, and lift the mug. Three thingymabobs. What is that word? Or... am I crazy? [more inside]
posted by RolandOfEld at 7:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Unripe grapefruit as lime substitute? (Because: grapefruit vivipary!)

I picked a delicious looking grapefruit from a neighbors over-burdened and neglected tree--only to find out that it had undergone vivipary--the seeds had somehow germinated and started growing inside the plant. [more inside]
posted by brenton at 7:19 PM PST - 2 comments

Help me win the Flea War (not just the battle)!

I returned from a three-day trip out of town yesterday to find both cats infested with fleas. This is our third round with fleas since late July/early August. I made a trip to Petco and applied Advantage to both cats. My question is, what else can I do to make sure the fleas don't come back this time? A few key details inside. [more inside]
posted by stennieville at 6:27 PM PST - 12 comments

How to recommend SRI fund to company 401k provider?

I know about nothing about investments, but would like my 401k to be with a socially responsible investment (SRI) fund. I have an opportunity to recommend one or more funds to the 401k provider for the company I work at. I'm wondering about the best way to do it. [more inside]
posted by ErikH2000 at 6:18 PM PST - 6 comments

How to promote my software to investors

I created a software library that should be useful to developers , even relative beginners, writing software for a variety of fields, but mainly for Engineering (Mechanical,Architecture). Big data and business intelligence might be other fields where my software could be used. I'm in the closed beta stage right now, my software might take a while to catch on, and I need some cash. [more inside]
posted by spacefire at 5:41 PM PST - 4 comments

Keypad deadbolt for small business exterior door?

I need a keypad deadbolt for a nonprofit's exterior door. [more inside]
posted by fieldtrip at 5:07 PM PST - 4 comments

iPad profanity engraving: my silliest MF question thus far

I'd like to get my iPad engraved with: When this baby hits 88 mph / You're gonna see some serious shit. Apple rejected shit and sh*t, but accepts sh.t sh;t and sht. In your opinion, do any of those read as intentional substitutes rather than typos?
posted by jenmakes at 4:49 PM PST - 20 comments

Brief water leak through ceiling track lighting-- what now?

Clueless new homeowners here. After a shower and a use of the toilet upstairs, water started dripping through a screw on the track lighting in the kitchen. It started maybe 10 minutes afterwards and lasted maybe 10 minutes, maybe a cup or so of water total, then stopped. What happened? What do we do now? Call a plumber, presumably, but how urgent? An electrician too? Is there danger because of the light fixture? [more inside]
posted by EmilyClimbs at 4:27 PM PST - 7 comments

2 live dogs at the end of 2 weeks

I've offered to dog sit for a friend and the first meeting didn't quite go to plan. Please help me make this work, even if it's only for this one time. [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 4:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Am I long forgotten?

During my last year in university (a few years ago), I always chatted (online) with a girl who went to the same department as me, and after many months, she told me that she had feelings for me. [more inside]
posted by cyrusw8 at 4:21 PM PST - 24 comments

What's the best way to proceed re: building a website for local charity?

I volunteer for a small charity that's going through some big changes, and so will (supposedly) need a website that's more customisable (?) than the cloned CMS template that we're currently using. [more inside]
posted by lethologues at 4:04 PM PST - 5 comments

friend is late to plans 95% of the time

How to handle issues regarding a friend who is typically late to nearly all our plans? [more inside]
posted by bananaskin at 3:57 PM PST - 46 comments

Moving suburban dogs to a rural property

We've just bought a 10 acre rural property (Tasmania, Australia), and will be moving there in the next month with our two dogs. Yay for them! Except these two dogs have only ever lived in well-fenced suburban backyards and are mostly walked on leads - what are some tips for training them to stay close and not run away, once they're out on the farm? [more inside]
posted by Jimbob at 3:55 PM PST - 7 comments

Feed me

I am poor and sad. What can I make for dinner? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 3:32 PM PST - 61 comments

What are the prospects for international work for a Special Ed teacher

I want to work in education. I want to work with English language learners with learning disabilities. I want to find a job in Taiwan upon graduating college. Eventually I want to work in Scandinavia. I don't particularly want to work in the American education system. What is the market like for American certified teachers who want to work with these types of students in Taiwan? [more inside]
posted by charlieharp at 2:40 PM PST - 3 comments

Recommend a novel or series of novels for fans of The Good Wife!

I am searching for novels that provide some of the same pleasures of CBS's acclaimed legal drama "The Good Wife," but in textual form! See inside for specifics about what makes this particular plate of procedural beans so special. [more inside]
posted by zeusianfog at 2:19 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I do this job interview?

Should I do this job interview, even though it could actually hurt my chances of getting the job I want? [more inside]
posted by miyabo at 2:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Never really phoned there but I'd sure like to go.

Are there inexpensive options for using my Verizon iPhone in Mexico? [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 2:01 PM PST - 5 comments

Winter is Coming: Thyme for Some Sage Advice

I have seven days to use my herb garden harvest before prepping the plants for winter. Ideas needed! [more inside]
posted by melissasaurus at 1:39 PM PST - 20 comments

What are these colored dice?

I recently came across a set of five six-sided dice with colored squares and triangles on each side. What are they? [more inside]
posted by moonroof at 1:37 PM PST - 7 comments

Recommendations for books on the history of science?

My question is two-fold, really. First, please recommend to me all of your favorite titles on the history of science, math, technology, and medicine. Secondly, how do you go about searching for good books in these topics? My favorite booksellers don't have a "history of science" search tag, unfortunately. Some of my past favorites and extended explanation below the fold. [more inside]
posted by backwards compatible at 1:37 PM PST - 30 comments

Help Me Find My Lost Cat

We lost our indoor cat at around 1am this morning from our back yard in our quiet suburban neighborhood. It's getting cold outside, and we are worried about her. What can we do to find her? More details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Slap Factory at 12:06 PM PST - 25 comments

Looking for fun Halloween comics, like Chick tracts, but not religious.

Despite not being a religious person, I've always enjoyed finding and reading Jack Chick tracts, and I always enjoyed getting them at Halloween as a kid. Are there any small, Chick-like comics appropriate for kids that aren't religious, perhaps on spooky historical topics or that are just fun adventures, that I could give away along with candy for Halloween this year?
posted by I EAT TAPAS at 11:47 AM PST - 3 comments

Help resolve a hygiene debate.

Should you wash your hands after touching genitals (your own and/or a partner's)? Assume the partners in question are monogamous and STD's are not a concern. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:47 AM PST - 35 comments

Where to host geotagged images for easy Twitter integration?

I snap a lot of images when I'm out walking, and I'd like somewhere to host them that will allow me to post them to a Twitter feed quickly and easily. [more inside]
posted by Solomon at 11:40 AM PST - 4 comments

Night cream for persnickety skin?

My skin, which until recently has been under the delusion that it's still 16, has just realized that it's almost 40 and has decided to get a jump on its midlife crisis. Please help me find a moisturizer that won't break me out. [more inside]
posted by elizeh at 11:28 AM PST - 15 comments

How can I divide a capsule of medicine in half?

I want to take half of my 60-mg capsule now and half tomorrow (long story which is not relevant. Please don't ask about doctor's advice etc. - this question is purely technical). [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:22 AM PST - 9 comments

Frequent blood draws

How to get through an extended period of frequent blood draws? [more inside]
posted by travelwithcats at 11:21 AM PST - 13 comments

Bear couture?

What are your favorite stores/blogs/forums/Instagram accounts focused on fashion for plus-sized *men*? [more inside]
posted by animalrainbow at 11:13 AM PST - 3 comments

How to keep hair clippers working smoothly throughout a haircut.

I've had the same problem with every pair of hair clippers I have ever owned: When I start running them through my hair (especially in the back), they work fine. Then, at some point, they hit a patch of hair that makes the motor modulate so that it sounds higher-pitched and faster. When the clippers are in this state, they don't cut properly until the motor ramps back down again to their normal speed. What's going on here and how can I stop my clippers from doing this? [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 11:06 AM PST - 12 comments

Problems with iPhone 5 during calls

When I'm on a call with my iPhone 5 (iOS 7), I can't use any apps anymore. The display flashes on and off, I can't use speakerphone or end a call, and the screen sometimes locks. (Restarting has done nothing.) Also, when I hold the home button and talk, Siri doesn't work anymore. It just keeps suggesting things I could ask. Google searching is suggesting a proximity sensor issue?
posted by trillian at 10:45 AM PST - 4 comments

Help moving from OSX to the cloud -

Looking for suggestions or help moving a OSX disk image (.dmg) to the cloud ideally to a virtual machine, a less complicated project is moving a 8 gig Microsoft Office 2011 (mac) .olm file to the cloud and access via outlook.com, gmail.com or similar. [more inside]
posted by specialk420 at 9:12 AM PST - 4 comments

online communities about home remodeling - Silicon Valley edition?

Hi folks, I'm contemplating some home remodeling work, and was wondering if any MeFites in the CA south bay area might have experience with this. Specifically I was hoping to find local online communities I can participate in for a few months to gather information and ideas, since I know very little about this whole subject and really need to learn the local resources, prices, experiences etc. Anyone know of any online forums like this or how I could go about finding one? Thanks!
posted by fingersandtoes at 9:02 AM PST - 1 comment

Found a Micro SD card...how to access?

So my wife found a micro-SD card while on her morning walk. We'd like to see what's on it. [more inside]
posted by Thistledown at 8:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Cross or 'X'-shaped cat kibble?

A few years ago all the kibbles started mysteriously switching to the small round pellet shape. This is less than ideal since some cats will wolf down the kibble, completely unchewed, and then throw it up. This is essentially an industrywide phenomenon due to a study showing cats will eat 40% more of the pellet shape. What manufacturers have kept a cross or other larger shape that must be chewed? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 7:30 AM PST - 15 comments

Choosing kitties

Can a young energetic kitty and an older mellow kitty make a good pair? [more inside]
posted by Librarypt at 7:04 AM PST - 24 comments

is this a valve?

Is this a valve of some kind? If so, how do I close it? [more inside]
posted by Koko at 6:32 AM PST - 7 comments

Gift for a Stranger

I don't know the guest of honor. Should I buy a gift for a 50th birthday party? [more inside]
posted by Fairchild at 6:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Minecraft, Java, & Forge Troubles (Mac OS X)

Young Cocoa (9yo) has asked me to install the More Nature mod for Minecraft and I have run into a loop of Kafkaesquian loopiness. [more inside]
posted by cocoagirl at 5:54 AM PST - 4 comments

Apartment and bug filter. Stay or leave?

My, very expensive, new apartment has something management calls box bugs and small, centipede-like black bugs. I don't know the name of this second type, they might be the young? Management has promised to call Terminex but they are adamant this isn't roaches and that as it gets colder, they'll disappear. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:05 AM PST - 17 comments

That does appear to be a Ham Sandwich, lets indict it.

If you were to be on a grand jury, hearing non-violent felonies, what questions should be asked of the witnesses? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:04 AM PST - 9 comments

Free "petition"-type web software?

I would like to create a web page where people can sign a sort of petition. It needs to be on my own web host, so third-party websites are not an option. [more inside]
posted by Philosopher Dirtbike at 12:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Do you know Edward Jones?

I am in the process of hiring on with Edward Jones and I'd like to hear from you. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:32 AM PST - 13 comments

Pre-internet examples of journalism based on leaked letters

In my neck of the woods, stories based on leaked emails are currently a thing. I would like to know about big news stories based on illicitly copied correspondence, whether letters, telegrams, memos, or other media, that predate the internet (other than the Pentagon papers, which I already know about). The older the better.
posted by i_am_joe's_spleen at 12:10 AM PST - 10 comments

October 18

Hardware and Software PM tool?

Another PM looking for my snowflake scheduling tool. Challenge: hardware and software. [more inside]
posted by gillianr at 11:44 PM PST - 2 comments

How can I buy this ticket I found on ITA Matrix Software?

I found a ticket on ITA Matrix Software from Guangzhou China to Columbus Ohio. I can't seem to find the ticket on any website though, or maybe I'll have to buy the ticket through two different websites since it's two different airlines? I checked expedia, and hipmunk. Details of flights inside. [more inside]
posted by crawltopslow at 9:32 PM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a kick-ass northern NJ home inspector.

So has anyone in northern NJ (Essex/Passaic/Bergen counties or thereabouts) recently used a super-detailed, easy to work with home inspection company they'd recommend? Any and all info welcome. Thanks, hive!
posted by mintcake! at 7:56 PM PST - 3 comments

Help: Opportunity for major physical change

On November 6 I will have my left knee replaced. Six weeks later, if all is going well, the right one will follow. My brain is spinning with possibilities for my future: lose weight! be healthier! drop some medications! shop for clothes in regular stores! go hiking with my husband! But wait! There's more! [more inside]
posted by harrietthespy at 7:19 PM PST - 8 comments

Neighbor's dog is a bark machine. What do?

Our new neighbors Boxer pup has been chained to a tree all day and he sounds like he's having a crisis, not to mention greatly exciting our Beagle pup and keeping the entire house awake. Hive mind, what's the best course of action here? [more inside]
posted by youandiandaflame at 6:38 PM PST - 23 comments

2006 Mac Pro - what should I do with it?

I have a 2006 Mac Pro 1.1 (specs below the fold) which I understand can't be upgraded to current OS versions without a CPU replacement. I'm not sure if I can replace the CPU, or if that would even be sufficient to upgrade to a current Mac OS. How hard would it be to change the CPU, and what is my best option if I can't / won't change it? [more inside]
posted by Joe in Australia at 4:41 PM PST - 18 comments

Peasants and the Eucharist

Did English peasants in the Late Middle Ages--say, 14th c.--take Communion? If so, how often? How about the other sacraments?
posted by jwhite1979 at 4:30 PM PST - 16 comments

Will my laptop cord burn down my house?

Dog chewed laptop AC adapter so that wires are exposed. Can I fix it with duct tape? [more inside]
posted by btkuhn at 4:02 PM PST - 15 comments

Hindsight is 20/20

Please help me deal with the aftermath of a disastrous remodeling job. [more inside]
posted by bendy at 3:41 PM PST - 10 comments

Taipei layover, what to do and how to do it?

I'll be in Taipei on a twenty hour layover coming up and would like to leave the airport and explore. [more inside]
posted by pwally at 3:28 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I shop for dental services (NYC)?

How do I determine whether the costs on my dental predetermination form are reasonable and/or shop around for a better deal? [more inside]
posted by yonglin at 1:36 PM PST - 4 comments

Dad was using Outlook 2013 w/provider email. Now has new computer. Help!

I'm pretty decent with computers, but this has me baffled. I tried using Outlook.com's "alias" feature, but that doesn't seem to be working. Help! [more inside]
posted by Alaska Jack at 12:52 PM PST - 5 comments

Seeking a Very Specific Version of the Song "Over the Rainbow"

Hi there. I'm looking for a very specific version of the song "Over the Rainbow." Details inside. [more inside]
posted by jack.brodey at 12:39 PM PST - 13 comments

Dog diet with a 3-day-cycle?

Is anybody familiar with a dog diet that employs a 3-day cycle, with one day being a fast day, one day being oatmeal with olive oil and flaxseed (or something like that), and one day with raw meaty bones? [more inside]
posted by slappy_pinchbottom at 11:17 AM PST - 11 comments

How do I update CC info for multiple online accts after a data breach?

I am looking for the best way to coordinate credit card or other payment information for multiple online accounts... [more inside]
posted by docpops at 10:50 AM PST - 5 comments

Is it possible to become just friends after a one night stand?

Do you think two mature adults can transition into friends after a night of passion/have you ever done it? [more inside]
posted by Kat_Dubs at 10:15 AM PST - 21 comments

How can I pay the right fare from Pearson Airport with the least hassle?

I regularly get a taxi at Toronto Pearson Airport to my home in Toronto. There's a flat fare of $47, but if I just get into a cab, about one-third of the time the driver will try to charge me $55 (the rate for the center of downtown) or a meter fare (usually closer to $60). What's the best way to avoid this? [more inside]
posted by grouse at 9:28 AM PST - 17 comments

Longish term car rentals when you are unsure of the length of time

I need to use a car to get around Phoenix for anywhere from 2 to 6+ weeks, and I won't know how long I need it until I'm done using it. What kind of service do I use or what do I do? [more inside]
posted by rachaelfaith at 8:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Best cargo cult symbolic equation editor?

You're an armchair scientist and you like reading scientific papers. A lot of the fun ones include a lot of equations. You'd like to be able to recreate those equations in a virtual blackboard. You'd select terms and be able to replace them with a library of previous equations you've made. The blackboard would enforce whatever symbolic manipulation rules are required to maintain consistency (because you sure won't be able to). If you replace a term with a number or a data input, it does the calculations necessary to display properly. What is it? [more inside]
posted by bigbigdog at 7:08 AM PST - 9 comments

How to tackle ACL reconstruction so I can go back to Judo and BJJ?

Whoot, 1st question on MetaFilter. I tore an ACL, and I'm looking at reconstruction so I can go back to my two favorite things, Judo and Brazilian jiu-jitsu. My question: Any professionals with insight? Any protips or questions I should ask? Any thing I should be cautious or wary about? (More detail under the fold if that's helpful.) [more inside]
posted by aaxelrod at 6:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Alternative comic shops in Denver?

We will be traveling to Denver later this month and would really like to check out some alternative comic shops, if there are any! A Google search turns up general comic shops, but results on alt comic, zine-y shops are few. Any tips on some cool places would be great! Thinking along the lines of Oily comics, etc.
posted by goodetyme at 6:02 AM PST - 5 comments

Name that short story (you'll see why I don't just Google the plot)

Can anyone help me identify a literary short story I read 20-25 years ago? Description is possibly triggering/NSFW. [more inside]
posted by Perodicticus potto at 4:29 AM PST - 3 comments

English news sources for non-predominantly English countries?

Something that often frustrates me reading the newspaper or stories on the internet is that a majority of the "current serious issues" things are going to come from Western English-speaking countries. Can you recommend websites that provide English news about fairly non-English countries? (From my Australian perspective these include anywhere in Africa, Russia, India, Eastern Europe, so on.)
posted by solarion at 2:43 AM PST - 25 comments

URLs in printed footnotes: how to access?

Is there an easy way to include links to URLs from a printed book. [more inside]
posted by bwonder2 at 2:10 AM PST - 8 comments

Ow ow ow my throat. Will a GP do anything? (UK)

In London for a couple weeks. New & painful sore throat. Does anyone routinely test for bacterial strep here? [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 2:06 AM PST - 9 comments

Email Group/List that multiple platforms can use

We have a family email that goes out every week to people across many email platforms. Every time someone changes their address, someone new is added (or removed :/), the onus is on each person in the group to make those updates to their own personal list. Obviously, this rarely happens with 100% accuracy, so someone always slips through the cracks. Is there a way to have a group that can be administered to centrally in one single location, but utilized by people across multiple email platforms? [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 1:55 AM PST - 10 comments

October 17

Arts/Humanities salaries at MIT?

This is a long shot, but I am up for a position as an assistant professor at MIT (in an arts/humanities department), and I'm wondering if the salaries are similar to the other assistant professor salaries at MIT (average is 120K) or if they are paid much less, as at many other universities. Thanks!
posted by anonymous at 10:52 PM PST - 6 comments

Lynch and Herzog—in book form

Looking for Lynchian and Herzogian books and authors. [more inside]
posted by GlassHeart at 10:01 PM PST - 18 comments

How can I digitally archive physical photographs?

I want to convert boxes of of photographs into digital files, good or excellent quality digital captures. I've accumulated 10 file boxes of photo albums, loose photos, scrap books, art and other family history kind of stuff. What are some systematic and effective ways to archive into digital images? [more inside]
posted by diode at 9:29 PM PST - 6 comments


How much more footage does a director tend to shoot for a 60 minute show than for a 45-minute show (i.e., 60 minutes with commercials?)
posted by michaelh at 8:47 PM PST - 9 comments

Why do men appear to be far more likely to be married than women?

This question isn't about my life situation - I'm just genuinely curious. Why does it seem as if there are almost no never-married straight men past the age of about 35 - but a good number of never-married straight women? Am I misperceiving things? I have of course heard of exceptions to this, but startlingly few. I would just like to clear up my perception and, if I'm onto something, better understand why this phenomenon exists.
posted by Tess at 8:18 PM PST - 37 comments

Public health issues and friendship issues re: childhood immunizations

How do I navigate finding and sharing information about unvaccinated populations at my local school when I am friends with at least some of these people? [more inside]
posted by tk at 8:16 PM PST - 25 comments

Steroids will be the death of me....and my weekend

Hi, I'm a 20 year old college student (female). I'm at home on bed rest this weekend because I had a bad reaction to steroids (prednisone) for an allergic reaction. (kind of ironic right?) I'm feeling lethargic, dizzy and nauseous. Basically I'm miserable and wish I was in the hospital. What should I do so I can recover quickly to start going back to school Monday... and not be bored out of my mind? Should I literally stay in bed? I don't mind but it loses it's novelty after a while. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 7:54 PM PST - 5 comments

Polyandry - tell me everything

I'm writing a dystopian sci fi novel and it's coming along sparkingly. Yay. One of the plot lines involves a shortage of women, and the development of new family units utilising polyandry. I'm looking for resources - primarily non-fiction - of both positive and negative experiences of polyandry. [more inside]
posted by b33j at 7:05 PM PST - 10 comments

Searching for a specific QI episode

What's the episode of QI where they award retroactive points for being wrong in the past? They're having a discussion about how scientific knowledge advances so rapidly that up to 30?40?% of the facts in series 1 have been disproven, then give Alan Davies something like 850 points for it.
posted by tehloki at 6:34 PM PST - 2 comments

How to not get screwed in a divorce?

I would like to get married soon but there's one thing I'm worried about: my SO has been unemployed for the large part of a year, and I'm not certain he'd have a job when we would want to get married. I live in a equitable distribution state. I'm worried I could get really screwed over if we divorce and am looking for anecdotes/advice (not legal) on how to handle this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:26 PM PST - 31 comments

Parents Night Out!!! What should we do?

The moons have aligned and we (three couples, early 30s) have managed to secure 3 babysitters are are all going out for diner and ????? What should we do? [more inside]
posted by saradarlin at 5:13 PM PST - 16 comments

Another Real Estate Question: Buy & Rent a Condo From Afar?

If I wanted to buy a house or condo in a distant state as an investment, and I had an opportunity to buy a place outright, with tenants and leases already in place, should I? How about outright but sans tenants? More info within. [more inside]
posted by toomuchkatherine at 3:27 PM PST - 15 comments

Hire me even though I ran out so fast you saw a blur?

I had a great second interview for a position that I believe I will excel in. I did the best I could and answered as truthfully as possible. I believe things were going well and both managers seemed receptive, yet had their poker faces on. My mistake was when I got up to leave, I grabbed my purse and forgot to shake their hands and walked out. Is it a big deal? [more inside]
posted by lunastellasol at 2:24 PM PST - 18 comments

How much sugar/sweetness do oak barrels add to whiskey?

The other night a friend of mine argued that aging in oak adds a minimal amount of sugar to whiskey: oak's main addition to the end product is flavour, with the majority of the sugar in whiskey being a product of the fermented mash. Is this true? Does the oak have a significant role in the sugariness and/or sweetness of the end product?
posted by wrabbit at 1:54 PM PST - 11 comments

Boyfriend has been honest about his past – should I end it?

I’ve been with my boyfriend 6 months and our relationship is great. He’s a good guy, we treat each other well and communicate well, and we both see a future with each other in it. We’re both late 20s. However, I’m concerned about his self control issues, and the fact he has confessed some things to me about his past / his personality that raise red flags. [more inside]
posted by pennywise_1 at 1:44 PM PST - 70 comments

Paging Oliver Sacks. This was awful.

My partner had a significant mental health event in the past that nobody (neurologists or psych people) have been able to explain. It's never reappeared and there was no history beforehand, but it's a significant source of worry for both of us. Blizzard within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:00 PM PST - 34 comments

Maximize my mid-life opportunity: Open-ended, few restrictions.

I find myself in my early 40's with two careers under my belt and an itch to do something entirely different. I have no kids or spouse and no debt. What in the world shall I do? It's an embarrassment of riches and I am paralyzed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:58 PM PST - 15 comments

Surely someone can relate!

Where are the best online support groups for spouses of people with alzheimer's disease? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:56 PM PST - 3 comments

My eye! My eye!

I had an eye exam by an optometrist at a boutique (non-chain) eye glass shop. This store is known for it's unique selection, and I selected an Oakley frame - with lenses ground by Oakley, and an everyday pair with the lenses ground by their usual lab. Unfortunately, my vision is a little bluury in my left eye with both pairs of glasses, and I feel nauseated when I wear them. I've only been able to wear either pair for a max of 20 minutes before I have to remove them due to the nausea and unsettled feeling. [more inside]
posted by raising_arizona at 12:53 PM PST - 8 comments

How to get a print of Max Ernt's "Murdering Airplane"

The title says it all. My Google-fu has failed. How can I get a print of Max Ernt's "Murdering Airplane"?
posted by thatwhichfalls at 12:48 PM PST - 3 comments

Dutch website recommendations for reading practice?

I'm learning Dutch and as my language skills get better I'm looking for websites to visit to get more engaging reading practice than my textbook can offer. (And something more interesting than strict news sites.) [more inside]
posted by antinomia at 11:59 AM PST - 11 comments

Perfect gift for a brand new Human who fought through a rough patch?

My very best bestie in the whole wide world just had a baby girl. Hooray! The first week of her little life was Very, Very Scary, but the stubborn little nugget fought her way through and is now home and safe and ready to get on with Life and Growing and Becoming a Someone. I've already made a donation in her name to the amazing children's hospital that saved her life, but I'd like to send a physical gift for the little monkey, too. What should I get? [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 11:56 AM PST - 21 comments

Non-legal legal advice aka "should I pursue this..."

None of this is legal advice. Got it. I'm trying to determine whether legal advice is even worth pursuing. Our house was damaged by a water leakage incident which the homeowner's insurance agreed to fully cover to the tune of about 60K. We were not living in the house at the time, which was actually up for sale. More excitement below the fold! [more inside]
posted by thebordella at 11:07 AM PST - 6 comments

text that reads to different words depending on direction

What is it called when a word (or short phrase) is written in such a way that when reading it one way it says one thing, but then when you flip it upside down it reads something else (or even maybe the same thing)? The "reads different upside" is based upon how it is written (ie. how the letters are formed, creative scripting and connecting of letters, etc), not the letters (ie. the letter "O" reads the same upside down as right side up). I would love to have a ton of examples of this type of thing. [more inside]
posted by PuppetMcSockerson at 10:24 AM PST - 17 comments

This movie was more of house burner than a bodice ripper

Help me identify a vaguely remembered TV movie from the late 1980s. [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 10:19 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking hopelessly for a certain kind of slim-fit chinos for the office

So I'm having serious trouble finding what I thought was a totally common style of pants. What I want are men's slim fit chinos that A) do not "sit below the waist"/are not "low-rise," so you can actually tuck a dress shirt into them properly, AND B) don't have the permanent creases on the legs. I'm NOT talking about pleats: I'm talking about the permanent creases that run the entire front and back lengths of the leg, which give the pants kind of a pointy look to them (it's dressier). I've found pants that satisfy A but not B, and pants that satisfy B but not A. Thanks everyone. [more inside]
posted by frankly mister at 9:56 AM PST - 16 comments

I just got a new video card hooray! It's too big for my current case boo

I just got a new video card, the Gigabyte R9 270X. At 297mm it's too big for my current case! I would love suggestions on the best case to upgrade to. [more inside]
posted by Carillon at 9:06 AM PST - 12 comments

Looking for a photo map app

We're leaving on a 2 week road trip and we'd like to take photos and have them placed onto a map by location to share with people so they can see where we are. I've found that Instagram's photo map is almost what we want, but not quite, so looking for similar apps. [more inside]
posted by disaster77 at 8:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Coding assignment as interview: how much is too much?

Experience-based opinions from fellow techies especially appreciated! [more inside]
posted by rada at 8:30 AM PST - 16 comments

Why can't my cat eat? (Also: can you get my cat to eat?)

My cat is having trouble eating. We've taken her to the vet, and everything seems fine. But she's losing weight, and we're getting very anxious and frustrated and scared and confused. Any idea what's going on? [more inside]
posted by meese at 8:19 AM PST - 31 comments

In-person shopping, SF Bay area, for aging dog harness

Suggestions for in-person dog harness shopping in the Bay Area? [more inside]
posted by ClaudiaCenter at 8:19 AM PST - 4 comments

a health insurance gap. a cobra loophole.

I am going to have a health insurance gap between October 31 and December 23rd. That is a time period less than 60 days, and I hear there is a COBRA loophole, and I would like advice about it. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 8:15 AM PST - 15 comments

getting a youth athlete "In The Zone"

How do you best motivate and encourage a youth athlete? How do you help focus a youth Athlete to get "in the zone" for an important try-out? [more inside]
posted by Flood at 7:58 AM PST - 6 comments

Husband laid off after 8 years. What now?

My husband was just laid off. He'll have about six months of severance ahead of him. He's 32 years old and has been in the same job for 8 years. Given his qualifications, what do you recommend we look for in terms of new jobs? Kansas City area but interested in moving, if that helps. [more inside]
posted by agress at 7:43 AM PST - 12 comments

Help me find this short story

It is from the point of view of a man who comes home from war after such a long time that he was believed dead. After an awkward welcome, he finds out that his wife has been sleeping with his neighbor, a young man who was like a son to him before he left to fight. He eventually kills the young man and his wife and dies from a gunshot wound after being chased by the sheriff on a mountain or mesa. What is this short story?
posted by domo at 7:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me get my first office-friendly haircut, please?

I am in need of a low-maintenance, yet chich mid-length haircut. Any ideas are greatly appreciated. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 6:57 AM PST - 18 comments

Built new desktop last night. PC won't post at all

Built my first desktop last night completely on my own. A friend has helped in the past but this was my first solo experience. It was much easier than I anticipated. However that's where the easy part ended :L [more inside]
posted by PetiePal at 6:43 AM PST - 20 comments

I'd arrest you if you were five feet closer!

I made it through law school without taking crim pro, I only crammed what I needed of crim pro for the bar exam, and my practice has nothing to do with criminal law. So, esteemed colleagues at the bar, can you tell me how jurisdictional lines affect police procedure at the state/local level? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:23 AM PST - 7 comments

Where can I find an up-to-date comparison of XboxOne and PS4?

With the latest major patches for the XboxOne and PS4 recently released, where can I find an up-to-date side-by-side comparison of the 2 consoles? [more inside]
posted by jozxyqk at 6:07 AM PST - 5 comments

Is certification "really" extra?? Used car price negotiations..

Found a car I like that is listed, as a certified vehicle, with a certain price on the dealer website. We negotiated a price to my liking, I had a mechanic check it out and right before I was going to sign, the sales manager said they would *add* a certification fee. I walked out. Should I reconsider? [more inside]
posted by Gray Skies at 5:20 AM PST - 21 comments

Does a local pharmacy keep stock of all drugs, all the time?

If I get a prescription from a doctor and take it to a pharmacy, they seem to be able to fulfill it there and then. How? Do they keep a stock of all drugs on hand? Seems unlikely but I have yet to visit one and they didn't have the stock. How does it work?
posted by MarvinJ at 4:59 AM PST - 28 comments

Books That Reuse Text From Other Books

What books reuse all or part of the text of another book? I'm looking for works like Pride & Prejudice & Zombies, or A Humument, or F***ing Frankenstein, where large chunks of text are transformed but are still recognizable from the original. I am not looking for books like Wicked or The Wind Done Gone, where the story or characters are used but text is entirely original. [more inside]
posted by yankeefog at 4:18 AM PST - 18 comments

Can you teach me everything you know about Roman goddesses?

In the American version of his autobiography, Klaus Mann uses the metaphor of Jupiter and Minerva to talk about his maternal grandparents. In the German version, he changes this to Jupiter and Juno. It seems that Jupiter and Juno are married (but are also siblings. ick), while Minerva is basically Jupiter's daughter, so Juno is a more appropriate goddess to name in the metaphor. Am I missing something? [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 12:39 AM PST - 19 comments

October 16

Foundation replacement or repair: do it or sell & move on?

This is a 'tap the judgment power of the hivemind' question. About a year ago I bought an old house (1920s) in a 'gentrifying' neighborhood in Saskatoon. On July 1st I discovered that the basement rug and drywall were soaked: I had the basement finish ripped out down to the studs and discovered several large cracks in the foundation. I need to repair this if I want to stay, but I can't decide if it's worth it, or if I should just move. Based on what's within, what do you think? [more inside]
posted by jrochest at 10:26 PM PST - 14 comments

How to get rid of a table in Oakland

How do you get rid of furniture in Oakland? [more inside]
posted by jaybeans at 10:01 PM PST - 21 comments

New relationship and starting Lexapro

Effects on libido, dosage, other factors [more inside]
posted by mermily at 8:07 PM PST - 12 comments

Should I apply for this job?

About a month ago I applied for a job, but was then told that the company had been put under a hiring freeze. They recently posted another interesting looking job opening; do I bother to apply? [more inside]
posted by Rora at 7:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Good replacement for a Nexus 4

My wife's Nexus 4 has died (due to an accident) and we are looking for a replacement. The Nexus 5 would be the obvious choice but is out of stock in the Play store (and given that the Nexus 6 has been announced may not be coming back). What should she get? [more inside]
posted by any portmanteau in a storm at 7:34 PM PST - 17 comments

Help us get the cat pee smell out of our basement!

We just moved into a brand new house that we love, but one of our cats peed in the basement and its making the entire house smell awful! [more inside]
posted by to sir with millipedes at 7:17 PM PST - 21 comments

Need help with EMT lingo.

Hi--I'm writing a short story in which the main character is an EMT. I would like the scene to be realistic, but I'm not an EMT. I'm specifically interested in how EMTs talk to each other on the scene of an accident. [more inside]
posted by sm00 at 7:00 PM PST - 12 comments

Invited back to interview for a different position...?

I recently had a job interview at a perfect-for-my-current-circumstances employer. I thought the interview was okay but I could've done better. Didn't hear a peep for two weeks. I received an email this Tuesday asking if I could come in this Wednesday, Thursday, or Friday to interview for a different and higher-paying position. I'm looking for some advice on how to handle interview #2 tomorrow. Confusion & mitigating circumstances inside! [more inside]
posted by cardinality at 6:38 PM PST - 12 comments

give me your chlorine-free underwater music systems, yearning to be free

Schmanciest hotel pool in London? [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 6:32 PM PST - 2 comments

What's new in Chicago?

I lived in Chicago for years and generally come back pretty often, but somehow it's been over a year since my last visit. What new/newish restaurants, bars, and attractions — new within the last, say, 18 months — should be at the top of my to-do list on my upcoming trip? [more inside]
posted by Charity Garfein at 6:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Career change help needed

[Posting for a friend] I am trying to make a career change from finance to tech. Lots of special snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by jenbo1 at 6:22 PM PST - 3 comments

I could'a been a real contender, mid-80's song, Vancouver, BC

Earworm driving me nuts for years. Vancouver, BC, mid 80's, there was a song on the radio with the lyric 'I could'a been a real contender'. Might have been local Vancouver or Canadian group.
posted by lois1950 at 5:00 PM PST - 15 comments


There are a ton of printed circuit board assembly companies in Asia. How do I choose one? [more inside]
posted by Dansaman at 4:44 PM PST - 5 comments

Help with Windows Live Movie Maker

I have 3 questions about it! [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 4:30 PM PST - 1 comment

Name that tune, some obscure jazz with chanting?

I heard this song twice on college radio in the early 1990's, and I haven't heard it since. It sounds like mid-tempo jazz, but with an experimental twist... [more inside]
posted by ovvl at 4:28 PM PST - 4 comments

Trust me!

I want to make a revocable trust... [more inside]
posted by pef at 4:25 PM PST - 6 comments

Questions about bleeding my oil furnace

After my last oil delivery, my furnace won't run. I tried hitting the reset button on the furnace twice. Both times it ran for ~45 seconds before shutting off. What now? [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 3:52 PM PST - 8 comments

A Dad's Dilemma... A Car for a 16 Year Old: Balancing Price and Safety

So, my sweet little girl is about to turn 16 and we've started doing a little car shopping - for a Subaru. My mechanic (a SubaruGuru who I trust implicitly) made me aware of a hyper-meticulously maintained 1996 Subaru Legacy wagon with only 88K miles and in mint condition. Drove it, and it's true, it's an excellent car for it's age. Price is very affordable for us too, at a time when we don't need a lot of extra expense. I'm ready to go... but... [more inside]
posted by ecorrocio at 3:47 PM PST - 27 comments

Ambition: to have or not to have?

Too much ambition and you end up being disappointed for not achieving your goals. Too little, you're unattractive. How to strike a balance? [more inside]
posted by knz at 3:33 PM PST - 35 comments

Fun games, apps, ideas to keep my relationship with my dad vibrant.

Me and my dad don't really like to talk on the phone much or communicate extensively via email. I'm about to give him an iPhone and I was wondering if you can suggest a way to use the phone to keep in touch in a fun and fresh way. [more inside]
posted by Captain Chesapeake at 3:19 PM PST - 9 comments

Best options for tarting up horrid 80s wall unit?

I am going to need a bookcase in a room I am redecorating. Downstairs is a HORRIBLE 80s chipboard wall unit thing with dark, not at all convincing fakey veneer. Complication: I'm redecorating the room to a Hannibal theme. [more inside]
posted by tel3path at 3:13 PM PST - 4 comments

What do you do when you're burnt to a crisp?

I have major "failure to launch" syndrome and it's affecting my life big time. I have been in this situation for some time now and I can't see any way out. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:04 PM PST - 24 comments

Help my son feel comfortable with lifeguarding

My son (16yo) completed a one week lifeguarding course but did not do the assessment. He's excellent in the water, but really uncomfortable doing the speaking to casualties side of it, especially the role play that has to be done as part of the assessment. Do you have any tips for him to either help him feel comfortable enough to do the assessment, or any other words of advice? We're in the UK and he'll also be reading your answers. Thanks for any help!
posted by mgrrl at 2:55 PM PST - 8 comments

What can I expect from an online competency assessment?

The next step in my application for a position with the city government is to take an online competency assessment. I've never seen one of these before - can anyone give me some insight? [more inside]
posted by majesty_snowbird at 2:48 PM PST - 3 comments

What is it volunteer political calling (working a phone bank) like?

A political organization wants volunteers to make get-out-the-vote calls to supporters in swing states. This seems like a good thing to do for some reasons (support a cause, get more phone confidence, try something new) and a possibly bad thing for others (possibly annoy a lot of people). Can you describe what this work is like (or point me to others' descriptions) and give feedback on the pros/cons of spending a few hours calling strangers to read a script and suggest that they vote?
posted by sninctown at 2:32 PM PST - 17 comments

How can I achieve the most comfortable bed for the lowest price? (<$250)

How can I achieve the most comfortable (hopefully portable) bed for the lowest price? (Under $250) [more inside]
posted by lhude sing cuccu at 2:01 PM PST - 21 comments

What should I see during Open House Chicago?

It's Open House Chicago this weekend. Last year I focused on my area, Lakeview & Lincoln Park, and saw the churches, war memorial and some classic apartment buildings. What cool buildings should I go see this time around? My preference is for ones that are only available for the Open House. [more inside]
posted by srboisvert at 1:56 PM PST - 7 comments

Many devices, one output?

I need help designing an audio solution for our house. [more inside]
posted by pdb at 1:48 PM PST - 11 comments

Math, sweet sweet math

I have a set of data: D(t). 5000 samples. Scatter-graphing makes some patterns clear (D-mean increases with t, for instance). D and t are always positive. I want to characterize these, statistically. [more inside]
posted by IAmBroom at 1:03 PM PST - 11 comments

House has ADT security/monitoring - alternatives?

Moved recently. The house ADT system already installed. Don't like ADT - what are my options? [more inside]
posted by filmgeek at 12:46 PM PST - 6 comments

From crap laptop to serviceable terminal desktop

I recently upgraded my main use laptop, replacing an HP Pavillion G4 that had a dead battery. The HP had lost much functionality as a laptop because it couldn't run for more than 10 minutes without being plugged in. I want to use the HP as a secondary workstation for Google Docs, reading .PDFs, and browsing the web. I have two main questions about this: what's a good OS to reformat onto the system to make this happen, and is the dead battery going to get in the way of it being a serviceable low profile desktop? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 12:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Any interesting things to note driving Charleston, SC to Richmond, VA?

Work trip early next week driving from Charleston, SC, to Richmond, VA. Are there any points of interest or tips about I-95 that I should be aware of? Also interested in fun things to do in Richmond.
posted by toastchee at 12:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Make an Android tablet elder-friendly for my grandma

Family members have gotten an Android tablet for my 97-year-old grandmother. Please suggest some ways to make the tablet as friendly and easy to use as possible for someone who has computer experience, but who can be pessimistic about learning new things and can get frustrated with people trying to teach her. We're particularly interested in tablet settings and also methods for instructing her in its use, but also open to hearing about tutorials or apps that might make her experience smoother. I'm overseas, so I'll be passing along ideas to my dad. [more inside]
posted by theory at 12:14 PM PST - 5 comments

What could be causing these strange flickering pixels in some images?

Recently, I noticed some pixels flickering on one of my monitors. At first I assumed it was a problem with the monitor until I noticed the flickering pixels scrolled when the image scrolled (i.e., it's always the same pixel in the image regardless where the image is on the screen). So then I thought it was an animated image, but if I drag the window over to the other monitor, the flickering goes away. [more inside]
posted by justkevin at 11:56 AM PST - 9 comments

Bug out

Circumstances that be, our apartment has bed bugs. They appeared under our mattress and the landlord is bringing in exterminators. Though we are moving out and had given notice for the end of the month, I'm worried the landlord will try to ride us out and fumigate after we leave. So, if the landlord holds out on fumigation until after we leave... I've come to terms with trashing every piece of furniture, mattress, ikea thing, couch, and anything that can't be put into the dryer high for an hour. But what about my electronics? Should I just write-off everything, bag 'em, and put into a storage unit for a year? [more inside]
posted by wcfields at 11:43 AM PST - 9 comments

Is there any way to get iTunes Wifi Syncing to actually work reliably?

iTunes WiFi Syncing seems to have worked around 3% of the time I've tried to use it. Any way to increase that percentage a bit? [more inside]
posted by sdis at 11:16 AM PST - 2 comments

Give me quiet! Bluetooth Noise isolating headphones/headset needed

Do you own headphones with these qualities? Tell me the specs! Please help me find wireless noise isolating headphones in the $50-$150 range. I will only pay near the upper end if there's a sufficient warranty and they isolate EXTREMELY well! I want these for using at home to study and relax. Extremely snowflakey details inside: [more inside]
posted by bibliophilia at 11:11 AM PST - 9 comments

Sunlight alarm clock, or remote controllable LEDs? Adult & Kid editions

I want a sunlight alarm clock for me and one for my four-year-old. We've all been having trouble getting up in the dark and it's been negatively affecting our morning routine. So I could buy a couple. On the other hand, those remote controllable LED bulbs intrigue me. Maybe that would be more fun? Please share your experiences with either/or, and help me decide. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 11:04 AM PST - 5 comments

Mavericks broke my second monitor

I recently upgraded my iMac to OSX 10.9.5. Since the upgrade, my second monitor (ViewSonic VG2230wm attached through a DVI-Firewaire adapter) flashes to a black screen intermittently. I am unusually dependent on that second monitor and this problem seems perfectly designed to drive me insane. Please help me preserve what is left of my sanity. [more inside]
posted by googly at 10:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Seattle in 48 hours!

I'll be in Seattle for 48 hours (Sunday afternoon through Tuesday afternoon) for a brief leg of a solo trip. Help me structure my time there for maximum wandery enjoyable urban exploration, with perhaps a little bit of hiking thrown in? [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 9:52 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for an old clinical drug trial

I'm trying to find information on a clinical trial that I participated in, around 1990-1991, at the University of Wisconsin - Madison. Is there a resource that would help me with this? I tried ClinicalTrials.gov but it doesn't appear to have records going back that far. Thanks for any help!
posted by El Sabor Asiatico at 9:45 AM PST - 3 comments

When shrimp attack ...me

I was making jambalaya about two weeks ago, and while shelling shrimp I poked myself with a carapace. The wound is not getting better. YANAD/YANMD [more inside]
posted by digitalprimate at 9:40 AM PST - 13 comments

New apartment seems mold-prone

I moved during the summer and have noticed that my new place seems to attract mold at a higher rate than other places I've lived. I'm wondering if these things should be a cause for concern, or if these are just normal things given the specific situations. [more inside]
posted by offrecord at 9:15 AM PST - 13 comments

Any tips/methods for breaking out of negative thought spirals?

I have some pretty serious anxiety issues and depression. These have been tremendously exacerbated by some rather overwhelming recent events. I'm seeing professionals for help, but I am getting stuck, for many hours a day, on these thought loops where I imagine in vivid detail the worst case scenario for whatever is bothering me. If I don't have anything to latch onto at the moment, I just feel constant general physical anxiousness. Are there any methods that have worked for you to break out of a similar cycle/pattern? Not looking for medical advice, but for anecdotal advice. [more inside]
posted by polywomp at 9:07 AM PST - 21 comments

Help me understand the societal implications of fusion power

Putting aside the question of whether or not we will actually have fusion power soon, does anyone have any science fiction or essays to help me understand the implications of fusion power? [more inside]
posted by jragon at 8:18 AM PST - 30 comments

Can you help me align this HTML with CSS?

the jsfiddle What I want is the p text to wrap around the dog, and the two side bars to appear on the right side starting from the top. Is this possible? Inside is a plaintext example of what I want. I'd like to make it as responsive as possible. [more inside]
posted by czytm at 8:02 AM PST - 3 comments

How to advocate for a bright kid in a state with no gifted funding

My son is going to kindergarten next year in Boston Public Schools. He is very bright and I am concerned that he will be bored. How can I advocate for him given the restrictions I am under? [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 7:43 AM PST - 29 comments

Children's book about the geese at magazine beach, Cambridge MA

This is a looooooong shot. But apparently there was a children's book in the 70s about children feeding the white geese at Magazine Beach in Cambridge, MA. Don't know the author or title. Ring any bells?
posted by Calicatt at 7:36 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find more songs for this playlist!

I'm trying to build a playlist of head-nodding, chill music for 3AM drives. Help me fill this out some more! [more inside]
posted by isauteikisa at 7:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Is Never Good for You?

I recently moved to Copenhagen, while Mr. Nat is in Phoenix. Help us find software so we can more easily schedule skype calls. Must be multi-platform (Mac, Iphone, Android tablet, Windows, and Linux are all involved) and sync easily. [more inside]
posted by nat at 7:08 AM PST - 7 comments

How to plan for a Trans*-friendly public school

Are there resources available to help me help my city build a trans*-friendly high school? (bathrooms, locker rooms, etc) [more inside]
posted by jillithd at 6:50 AM PST - 11 comments

Purple filter on company logo for Spirit Day

For Spirit Day, I'm trying to give my company's logo a purple filter (we're a small non-profit). I keep coming up with a million photoshop tutorials. For your purposes, our logo is on a royal blue background with white and green in the middle. Can someone talk me through how to give this all a purple glow so I can rep our company well? I have Photoshop. TIA.
posted by rabu at 6:45 AM PST - 6 comments

Have you used retin-a for fine lines around your eyes? Did it work?

Hello. Female, 33, I've been using retin-a for years but never in the eye area. I would like to start using a very light .025 cream around that area but I'm really not sure yet, I've heard that it makes the area look crepey but that it then really improves. Have any of you beauties taken that plunge? What happened? How did it work for you?
posted by misspony at 5:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Quirky ideas for a works dinner out.

I work in a team of six and we’re looking for something fun to do in December, in tandem with an evening meal out. Budget is under $100 per person. In past years, we’ve done a cooking evening and then eaten the results, and we’ve had a dinner in the dark and tried to guess what we’re eating – all great fun. If you’ve done a dinner with a twist, I’d love to hear about it – I may be able to find something similar here in lil’ ol’ Luxembourg...
posted by guy72277 at 5:28 AM PST - 9 comments

Cloud based options for a small business currently using Lotus Approach?

How can I help a small academy get its Lotus Approach database into the cloud along with all of their other data? [more inside]
posted by jpziller at 5:22 AM PST - 2 comments

Rich Stories, Simple Games

Crusader Kings II is a lot of fun, but I don't care about the statistics or tactics in the game as much as the random events and the way the game handles fallout from them. Is there anything with a similar story-generating vibe where the interaction is simpler? [more inside]
posted by 23 at 12:21 AM PST - 15 comments

Have writers ever changed television series based on fan discussions?

Have writers ever changed television series based on fan discussions or feedback? I have a memory that this happened with Lost, but I can't find the specific article. I may even have read it in a book. Any other suggestions? Links to articles/interviews would be helpful.
posted by feelinglistless at 12:18 AM PST - 25 comments

October 15

Can a Legislature administer itself?

Since the Doctrine of Ultra Vires depends on administrative law which is derived from a Legislature, can a legislature administer itself? If a Constitution Convention is ever triggered under Article V, would the Doctrine of Ultra Vires apply and prevent the convention from introducing drastic new changes to the Constitution rather than addressing a specific proposed amendment?
posted by CollectiveMind at 11:38 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I tell people from an interview that I moved back to their city?

Okay, this is complicated but I will try to make it as simple as possible. Interviewed for a permanent position last week that I really want in a city I have been coming and going from. The day I interviewed, I got offered a temp position in the same city that let me move there for the next couple of months. I accepted the temp position but am wondering what to tell the people at the place with the permanent position. [more inside]
posted by thesnowyslaps at 8:07 PM PST - 8 comments

What is going on with this penis?

The latest entry on the tumblr Critiquing Your Dick Pics With Love shows a man competing in a small penis competition. He has some plastic-ish material around his penis. What is this? Is there some meaning or functionality behind it?

In case my question didn't make it clear, the link goes to a picture of a penis and thus is possibly NSFW
posted by posyblue at 7:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Frye boots sizing dilemma

Thanks to the magic of Zappos I am currently in possession of two pairs of Frye Belted Harness 12R boots, sizes US 9.5 and 10 (mens). Please help me decide which size to keep. [more inside]
posted by sparklemotion at 7:28 PM PST - 17 comments

Unofficial Star Trek Cassette-audio Album With Warp-Sound Tracks? Warp 8

I'm looking for the title of a audio-cassette album I owned sometime in the 1990s, which had the themes of various Star Trek movies and, particularly, tracks of sound effects of the ships warping that I believe were unique to the tape (as opposed to having been taken from the films). [more inside]
posted by Quarter Pincher at 6:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me get my almond fix

I am a huge fan of that really intense almond taste you get in certain desserts. I like eating raw and roasted almonds, in granola, sliced in cookies - but that's not the almond taste I'm talking about. I mean that strong, sharp, sweet almond taste like you get from eating Good Humor toasted almond bars and marzipan and amaretti cookies. Ben and Jerry's Mission to Marzipan was basically my favorite dessert of all time. Does that specific flavor come just from almond extract? And what are your best dessert recipes that really highlight that awesome extreme almond flavor?
posted by Neely O'Hara at 6:02 PM PST - 26 comments

Best Format for Mobile Emergency Phone List

I'd like to distribute an emergency phone list with numbers that are clickable on a smartphone. [more inside]
posted by beyond_pink at 4:44 PM PST - 6 comments

Double zero, let it ride

I'm wondering whether a randomized computation (Monte Carlo, etc.) has ever gotten a string of very unlucky random numbers, computed an erroneous result, and caused a real-world problem. [more inside]
posted by vogon_poet at 4:30 PM PST - 15 comments

I am freaking out majorly over a new relationship. Help!!!

I just started dating this new guy about 5 weeks ago, and we just became exclusive. I am now freaking out about everything and need to get a handle. I don't know what's going on here. Help? [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 4:30 PM PST - 10 comments

Help with a Norwegian Hospital Bill

An American friend became ill while in Norway last year while on vacation, and had to spend a day in hospital. The hospital now wants >$5,000, despite the bill supposedly being paid by insurance in January (the American insurance company is supposed to have covered it all except for a nominal copayment). They keep on sending him letters from Norway. What should he do? [more inside]
posted by troytroy at 4:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Charles Dickens's early popularity in the United States?

Wondering, for an article I'm researching about a real-life Dickens fan in Maine, 1839, in what form he might have gotten his hands on early Charles Dickens stories. Would local northeastern newspapers have bought serialization rights to his stuff, then reprinted it themselves? Or would copies of Bentley's Miscellany have been shipped Stateside?
posted by johngoren at 3:48 PM PST - 7 comments

I hope that someone gets my [digital] message in a bottle.

I was on vacation this summer and found a bottle washed up with a message inside. We've finally deciphered the message and now have an email address to contact! What would be a quirky, cute way to respond? [more inside]
posted by kpetrich at 3:32 PM PST - 13 comments

And what do YOU think?

Looking for best practices for getting a second opinion/shopping around for specialty clinics. [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 3:30 PM PST - 5 comments

The Greatest Horror Movie Music Hits?

I'm looking for songs that aren't objectively scary or spooky, but due to their use in horror/slasher/whatever movies/TV, they're now associated with scary times. "Goodbye Horses" in Silence Of The Lambs would be the ideal with "Red Right Hand" in Scream just squeeking in.
posted by The Whelk at 3:18 PM PST - 29 comments

What is the appropriate file format for e-book covers on Kindle

In a nutshell, I'm trying to figure out how to make my Kindle book cover the proper file size at the lowest resolution and appropriate pixel size, and I'm coming up with a lot of conflicting and confusing suggestions. Anybody who has personally done this with successful file formatting results, please help. [more inside]
posted by LillyBird at 3:16 PM PST - 13 comments

Morbidfilter: What Jazz greats should I see live...before they die?

So I was lucky enough to see Ray Charles before he died at the Hollywood Bowl. And Sarah Vaughn at the Blue Note in the 80's. And Ella at Radio City around the same time. But I never got to see Sinatra. Or Sammy. Or Nina Simone. Largely because I couldn't afford it. So now it occurs to me I can. And Southwest tickets aren't that expensive if I want to go anywhere in the US. So who should I see among the greats - who are still out there playing - before it's too late?
posted by rileyray3000 at 2:59 PM PST - 32 comments

How can I clean up Danny?

My mum sent me what was my favourite toy as a toddler. He's a kind of glo-worm type toy, made from glow in the dark hard but flexible E plastic on the face, butnover the past thirty years this has somehow developed black patches - PIC here. Can I clean these off without causing further damage? My mum tried washing him in the machine, but to no avail.
posted by mippy at 2:18 PM PST - 8 comments

Designing Gig Posters

I'm interested in offering my illustration services up for bands' gig posters, and hopefully get to a place where I could get some repeat work in that milieu. It'd be great to make some money from it, but I don't expect it to be overly lucrative. Still, it'd be gratifying to me if I could do work for some of my favourite indie bands. The trouble is that I don't know who handles the production of posters, be it the band, their label or the clubs they play in. Does anyone have any insight into the process by which gig posters are created? I've done freelance illustration in the past, but there seem to be specific rules to this niche. [more inside]
posted by picea at 2:06 PM PST - 9 comments

Can money issues really end a relationship?

I know this may sound like a "duh" answer but when you're living it, it's not so easy and that's why I've come to the good ole internet for help from strangers. My SO is wonderful & we're very in love but this money problem keeps coming up and I could use some advice... [more inside]
posted by kmr at 2:06 PM PST - 59 comments

Where can I get an affordable, stylish curly haircut in NJ/NY?

Hey Internet. I want to get my long, thick, curly hair cut for less than $100, preferably closer to $50, in NYC, Brooklyn, or NJ (northern/central). Help? [more inside]
posted by topoisomerase at 1:52 PM PST - 8 comments

What is this song from the 90s or 2000s?

Ok guys i really need your help. I heard this SRV song for the first time ever this morning (I know I know how sad poor music deprived Jenni) and I feel certain I recognize the guitar section in the beginning as being copied in a very popular song in the 1990s or early 2000s. [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace at 12:39 PM PST - 8 comments

Dammit, UK, because of you, we want a wet room.

Aside from size/space, what are the main interior differences/features between a British home and a North American one? [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 12:18 PM PST - 102 comments

To lease or buy my next car?

I've looked all over the internet for a lease/buy calculator that fits my situation, but they all seem to compare leasing versus a car loan. I am wondering whether to lease or buy a new car with cash. Is there ever a valid argument for leasing over a cash purchase if you can afford to pay for the car outright? [more inside]
posted by cecic at 11:56 AM PST - 14 comments

What are your go-to songs for making sweet love to?

Say you're getting hot and heavy with that special person in your life, and say you'd like to play some music while you're Doing the Deed. What's spinning on your record player? The sexier and more lust-inducing your suggestions are, the better. Thanks!
posted by Fister Roboto at 11:49 AM PST - 44 comments

going dutch, 21st-century-tech style

Is it reasonable for me to ask my roommate to split this month's Internet excess usage fee? [more inside]
posted by quadrant seasons at 11:47 AM PST - 12 comments

Horsehair Jewelry

I am interested in making horsehair jewelry. First and foremost, I'd like to make a bracelet for my daughter for Christmas. If all goes well (i.e. it doesn't look like a 2 year old made it), it'd be kinda neat to expand and maybe sell some horsehair jewelry too. But, I don't know where to begin. [more inside]
posted by Sassyfras at 11:34 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I support my sister taking care of Mom?

I need some help being practical and supportive of my sister when her decision fills me with such great sadness. My youngest sister is now 18 and possibly graduating high school before the end of her senior year, which makes me very proud. She told me last night that she's wanting to become our mother's full time caregiver. This upsets me. [more inside]
posted by MuChao at 10:33 AM PST - 18 comments

Psychodynamic group therapy -- a good investment?

My therapist suggests I would benefit from psychodyamic group therapy. I am intrigued, but also reluctant. Is group therapy worth it? [more inside]
posted by megancita at 10:26 AM PST - 9 comments

Company in turmoil; how to talk myself down off the panic ledge?

My company is undergoing the first steps into being sold. How do I stop panicking long enough to figure out my next steps? [more inside]
posted by droplet at 9:40 AM PST - 7 comments

Recruiter encouraged me to lie, now I'm concerned about security clearan

So a while back I was going to enlist in the National Guard, and when I was going through the enlistment process, the recruiter told me to lie about my drug use because it would cause problems for me down the road. His exact words were, "if there's no record of it, they have no way of finding out." So I lied and said I have never used drugs. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:31 AM PST - 37 comments

Cocktail arcade-type games for iOS designed for 2 player tabletop?

I am looking for games for iOS that are played 2-player at the same time, with the phone flat on a table, one person on each side playing against each other. I don't know what to call this so it's hard to search for more (I think of them like 80's arcade cocktail machines). So far the only ones I've found are OLO (a hybrid of shuffleboard and air hockey), TEN (same company, it's like mega tic-tac-toe) and some checkers/chess games. Are there others? What is this style of game design called?
posted by mathowie at 9:30 AM PST - 16 comments

ESL resources for non-native ASL Speaker

I'm working with a woman who is in an interesting situation. She is deaf and was born and raised in Somalia. She learned ASL when she moved to the US a few years ago. She is now trying to learn to read and write English to improve her communication skills. Are there any good English learning resources for individuals who use ASL as their primary language?
posted by chara at 9:19 AM PST - 2 comments

Texas Hill Country like a local

I am surprising my spouse with a trip to the Hill Country. Difficulty: I know nothing about the Hill Country. And the Hill Country is, like, bigger than my home state. Texans of MeFi, can you help me out? [more inside]
posted by minervous at 9:03 AM PST - 10 comments

Count/noncount nouns based on size?

So, I was designing rules with some EFL students in class the other day about how to differentiate between countable and uncountable nouns. We agreed that things which are too small to reasonably count are uncountable based on sand and the idea that liquids are uncountable (under the assumption that an individual 'piece' of a liquid would be a molecule and as such very, very small). Then one of the students broke the rule by asking why individual circuits are countable even though they are extremely small. So, is there an explanation for this? Does my rule just suck? [more inside]
posted by Literaryhero at 8:14 AM PST - 25 comments

Osteoporosis, elevated calcium in urine, is a 2nd opinion in order?

I have on-going osteoporosis and a recent test showed I also have elevated calcium in my urine. My doctor didn't inform me about the calcium result or make any recommendations for further testing or treatment. Should I find a new doctor based on this, and if so, what specialty? [more inside]
posted by miaou at 7:56 AM PST - 12 comments

Hello STL!

What's fun in St. Louis? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 7:45 AM PST - 39 comments

I-90 East road trip, where do we stop for pie ? Diner reco needed

You are driving from Buffalo to Boston on the I-90. It’s past 9pm. You need a good diner (coffee, pie, grease) to stop at that isn’t too far off the highway or too close to Boston, to break up the drive. Where do you stop?
posted by walkinginsunshine at 7:37 AM PST - 13 comments

How do I make this awesome plastic cauldron safe for serving drinks?

I got a sweet plastic cauldron for a pre-Halloween party we're having and I'd like to serve punch out of it, but it's not watertight and I don't know that the plastic is safe for serving drinks. What's the best/easiest/cheapest/surest way to make this cauldron a punch bowl? [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 7:22 AM PST - 15 comments

Budget range - 4 month cycle trip through Europe

One thing that my wife and I would like to do soon is a longer bike trip. We have ideas about taking four months [may through august] to cycle across [mostly] western Europe. Can we afford to do this? [more inside]
posted by Acari at 7:09 AM PST - 15 comments

What were they inhaling?

What were those high schoolers inhaling on my bus in the late 70's? [more inside]
posted by dukes909 at 5:52 AM PST - 5 comments

... I'm probably overthinking this.

I am a single woman, all of whose straight male friends are taken. I find that this is the only kind of opposite-sex friendship I can cultivate, but when the guys in question are single, it's different story. I find it difficult to get to know or be friends with guys when they're single and I'm single. Thought I'd ask the Hivemind for your ideas. [more inside]
posted by sockandawe at 5:01 AM PST - 16 comments

What can I make with Sharon fruit pulp?

What can I do with the pulp from four Sharon fruit (a.k.a. kaki or persimmon)? I just bought them but they were already so soft that when I went to cut the tops off, they turned into goop. They taste fine, though. Does anyone have a good, simple dessert recipe to use them in?
posted by daisyk at 4:52 AM PST - 12 comments

What is making my cat pee in weird places, howl, and try to get outside?

My indoor cat of 7 years has, in just the last couple of months, stopped using his litter-box to poe, walks around the house for hours howling, and tries to get outside every chance he gets. This is completely new behavior in that for 7 years he's been a great, well mannered cat. But now he's driving me insane. [more inside]
posted by snwod at 3:30 AM PST - 22 comments

3 Years... Feeling Conflicted About The Future

I'm going to try VERY hard to keep this brief, but it will end up being stupid-long. Bear with me. Basically, I've been dating a guy for three years who I love very, very much, and has alternatively felt like the perfect match for me and like someone I may not be able to stand for 20 years. I go through periods of being very happy with him, but also periods of being very sad. [more inside]
posted by noteasyisit at 2:57 AM PST - 42 comments

I have to move to Austria with cats

I need to move to Austria to take care of my Mum. I am planning on going June/July next year. I have 3 cats which I do not want to live without. Is there a specific agency I go through to get them over there? It is a permanent move. Also, can anyone suggest a good, not terribly expensive, overseas moving service? Any answers will be greatly appreciated.
posted by kaoschild at 2:39 AM PST - 2 comments

How big should a kennel for a sausage dog be?

I'm going to build a kennel for a sausage dog that isn't yet born. I don't have access to a sausage dog to measure one. Can you give me rough dimensions for a kennel for a puppy sausage dog who will one day grow into a full size sausage dog?
posted by UltraFleece at 2:03 AM PST - 3 comments

October 14

Bad news all around

So an evangelical, proselytizing group called The Good News Club has set up shop at my son's public elementary school and is commandeering a classroom to, and I quote, "sing songs, learn a bible lesson & memory verse, play bible lesson review games & have fun!" I am livid and want them gone, but it's clear that it's more complicated than that. Do you have any experience with this group? What is a realistic positive outcome and how can I help achieve it?
posted by rouftop at 11:55 PM PST - 33 comments

Navigating Feelings For A Taken Friend

How does one proceed when they inadvertently develop feelings for a new friend -- who is already in a relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:18 PM PST - 11 comments

How do I explain my most recent job dismissal on job application?

I live in the US. I am applying for a city job and the application asks if I've ever been involuntarily dismissed; if I answer yes, I am required to explain. Unfortunately, I have to answer yes (there is no way around it), and I don't know how much to reveal or how to word this explanation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Am I liable for things police find rental cars?

Let's say I was driving a rental car and getting pulled over. Let's say the police found something that wasn't supposed to be there. Rental cars are being driven by lots of people. Would I be held liable? Is it my responsibility to i.e. search below rear seats to make sure nothing was left? [more inside]
posted by krautland at 10:33 PM PST - 16 comments

LSAT Offering me a letter explaining test center problems?

So there were some problems at the testing center for my Law School Admission Test. They are offering me a letter for my application that would explain this with my score. Can this look bad for me? [more inside]
posted by Deflagro at 10:01 PM PST - 12 comments

What is this type of sleeve called?

What is the opposite of a raglan sleeve? [more inside]
posted by brittanyq at 9:44 PM PST - 4 comments

Do I go for it?

Currently employed in retail working my way through college. [more inside]
posted by Urban_Painter at 9:27 PM PST - 4 comments

Sudden Bad Breath/Sour Taste in Mouth

About a year ago, I suddenly developed a sour taste in my mouth. What is the most likely cause? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:05 PM PST - 6 comments

Financial planner in the Bay Area & knotty tax problem I'm afraid of!

I'm looking for a fee-based financial planner in the Bay Area to help me figure out one simple problem, and one knottier one. I have about $10k in CDs, and I'd like to invest it in a slightly smarter, similarly low-risk way (probably index funds) that I can add to slowly and in (relatively) small increments. I'd probably also like to start a 401k. Unrelatedly, as a child I was gifted $3k in shares of a single bluechip stock that I've never touched, and it's accrued value gradually but steadily over several decades. Recently, talking to a wiser friend, she pointed out that I've never paid taxes on it! I'm not sure how to deal with that, but probably can't avoid it much longer! How money works is confounding to me; I come from a working class background and am good at saving, but not saving wisely. Anyway, I'm primarily looking for financial planner suggestions, but if you've dealt with related stock/tax issues please share your experience and advice! Throwaway: infernalsockpuppeteer@gmail.com if you'd prefer.
posted by anonymous at 8:05 PM PST - 11 comments

Name that tune.

Please help me identify this song I heard once and can't get out of my head. (Better description and lame partial recreation within.) [more inside]
posted by Help, I can't stop talking! at 7:51 PM PST - 9 comments

How accurate are the Kentucky accents on the show "Justified"?

I've become obsessed with the TV show "Justified" and I'm curious to know whether the accents the actors use on the show are at all representative of how a person from the Harlan, KY area actually speaks. Thanks
posted by dfriedman at 7:28 PM PST - 3 comments

How to Stop Never Ending Summon to Constantly Cancelled Trial?

How to Stop Never Ending Summon to Constantly Cancelled Trial? [more inside]
posted by Carius at 7:18 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me learn the Korg Gadget iOS app

I recently downloaded the Korg Gadget app for my iPad and I'm intrigued by the possibilities. Although I've played the drums for many years I've never used any music production software. I'm somewhat overwhelmed and not quite sure how to go about learning how to create and combine tracks and "scenes" to create songs. [more inside]
posted by rbf1138 at 7:12 PM PST - 1 comment

Rugged Apple-style earbuds

The volume button on my iPhone earbuds just stopped working. Arg. I'd like to replace them with something more rugged. [more inside]
posted by cnanderson at 6:10 PM PST - 8 comments

Creepy 1920/30s Era Music

For a Halloween party, I'm setting up a haunted speakeasy, where the devil is emcee. I'm looking for vintage sounding records that may fit. Creepy, eerie tones are preferred. I'm looking for suggestions that run the gamut between piano only tracks, haunting vocals, maybe some orchestral and even big band sounds, and possibly some organ music. These don't have to be authentically from the era, but should sound like they would fit.
posted by Unsomnambulist at 6:10 PM PST - 39 comments

Non-mushy/cliche wedding quotes?

I'm making a photo book for my sister-in-law and want to add some quotes about futures together, marriage, happiness, etc without being overly cliche or rom-com. Throw your best ones at me! [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 6:06 PM PST - 9 comments

What are the weirdest alcoholic spirits you know of?

I'd like to give someone a bottle of strange/rare/gross booze (it will be appreciated, I promise!). Do you have any suggestions? I'm NOT looking for unusual versions of standard spirits, like rare vintages of bourbon or gross-flavored vodkas, but rather liquors or liqueurs that are themselves weird or unusual. The recipient is very well-versed in booze, so things like genever and Fernet are not quite weird enough. I'm in a major US city and willing to go through some effort for this, so don't hold back!
posted by rhiannonstone at 4:53 PM PST - 119 comments

iPhoto library backup

i'm having trouble opening an iPhoto library without restoring my photos. i don't want to overwrite anything in my library, but want to be able to view something in a different library on my external HD. [more inside]
posted by sabh at 4:40 PM PST - 4 comments

Advice for switching to Windows 7

I recently purchased a new desktop PC running a clean install of Windows 7, without any other software installed. What should I know or prepare for before I get started with daily consumer use? [more inside]
posted by kittensofthenight at 4:35 PM PST - 14 comments

When cats fly

We're moving (maybe you remember from my previous 100 questions on this topic) to California from Chicago and taking our cat on the plane with us. This is a new experience for both my hubby and me. I've done a lot of Googling, I've read up on United's pet policy, and read through Flyer Talk, etc. so I think I get the basic concepts but I'm specifically confused about a few things. [more inside]
posted by bleep at 4:28 PM PST - 16 comments

Can't get to public wifi login screen

How can I connect to a public wifi network when the login page stubbornly refuses to appear? [more inside]
posted by rustcellar at 4:27 PM PST - 8 comments

How durable is the birch veneer on IKEA furniture?

I just bought this desk from IKEA . It was a bit of a splurge, upgrading from a busted-up old kitchen table that I have been using for a desk for the last, um, well forever and never needing to worry about coffee spills and the like. Now that I have this new desk, I want to treat it right and make it look good until I am old and worn out. [more inside]
posted by nanook at 3:44 PM PST - 11 comments

I need to photograph flooring samples. DIY light tent?

The company I work for wants to take pictures of flooring samples (artificial surfaces that look almost identical to wood). They want 4-5 boards roughly 4 ft x 8 in laid flat and then photographed. [more inside]
posted by lattiboy at 3:27 PM PST - 3 comments

Auto Generate Word Doc Title from Text Fields?

Hello, I'd like to auto generate word 2010 document titles in a frequently used template. Can I get word to combine two text fields in order to generate the document's name automatically upon saving? For example: {Field 1: name}, {Field 2: number}, upon saving automatically names document name_number.doc. Is this doable? Thanks guys.
posted by prettyboyfloyd at 3:13 PM PST - 1 comment

Is this a HIPAA violation?

I work in a dental office, where staff are also patients. One of my co-workers has become pregnant, not planned and not particularly a joyous occurrence at the moment. She doesn't want to have this generally known as she is acclimating herself to her new future reality. Our boss dentist cannot keep her mouth shut. Is telling patients that her assistant is pregnant, without the express approval of that assistant, a violation of her HIPAA rights? [more inside]
posted by Jazz Hands at 2:33 PM PST - 20 comments

Broke-Ass Godmother Needs To Pony Up

So my cousin asked me to be her new baby girl's godmother. Yay! But that means I need to get a gift. Uh-oh! Is what I got good, or should I throw in something else? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 2:19 PM PST - 21 comments

To Seal or Not to Seal - the butcherblock, that is..

Installing a butcher block counter top on the island in our new kitchen. It comes with a "finish" from the counter top supplier. I'm not sure if I should keep the "finish" option or have it come au naturale and oil it myself. We won't be cutting directly on it and it is not near the sink. Thoughts?
posted by sarajane at 2:12 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me find super-extra-long big-and-tall polo-type shirts!

Help me find super-extra-long big-and-tall polo shirts so that I can meet work's dress code! [more inside]
posted by mrbill at 2:10 PM PST - 14 comments

Are these Philly apartments too good to be true?

Philadelphians: Are AIMCO-owned apartment complexes like The Sterling, Park Towne Place, and the Riverloft reliable places to live? Their location's hard to beat and they offer excellent amenities. They're poorly-reviewed on sites like Yelp and Google, but the things the reviewers complain about often strike me as trivial. How can I figure out if these places offer what I'm looking for? (Bonus points: have any of you lived in any of these locations yourselves?) [more inside]
posted by rorgy at 1:34 PM PST - 8 comments

What is this website about lesser-known cities?

I remember recently reading a website that highlighted smaller/lesser-known American cities and talked about why they were great places to live, as an alternative to trendy cities like Austin, Asheville, etc. The article I remember reading was about a town in Texas that had beautiful architecture, complete with lots of photos. I thought it was called something like "you should live here" or "you should move here", but those aren't turning up any Google hits. Does anyone know what this might have been?
posted by capricorn at 1:20 PM PST - 9 comments

Help expanding my musical horizons?

My music taste is quirky and mutable. Perhaps MeFites can help me find some new indie-ish wholesome-ish tunes. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by hungry hippo at 1:11 PM PST - 18 comments

I sold my house. Yay! Now what?

Yay! I finally sold my house and have the check from the title company in hand. I made money on the sale of the house, but I have a few questions about how to maintain my investment. For tax purposes, does this qualify as "income"? Will I be assessed a Capital Gains Tax? Is a money market the best place to keep the cash from the sale? Please help a money noob... [more inside]
posted by chatelaine at 1:01 PM PST - 15 comments

Post-Thanksgiving Family Entertainment

Last year after Thanksgiving dinner, my little 9 year old niece and I decided to entertain the family with two activities. All in all, a huge hit, everyone laughed til they peed, there was major family bonding going on, and OMG, how do we top that this year? [more inside]
posted by HeyAllie at 12:45 PM PST - 12 comments

Help us choose a Colorado home

We are moving to Colorado, primarily for extended family closeness reasons. Tell us about your favorite Colorado towns and cities! [more inside]
posted by donnagirl at 12:17 PM PST - 11 comments

Sound off!

I'm looking for free audio files online that could be used for practicing EQ and other processing tools. [more inside]
posted by Ms. Toad at 12:02 PM PST - 4 comments

I need to be able to plug something in…and walk around with it

I have something electrical that plugs into the wall outlet that I'd like to carry around with me and I'd like to know what my options are. I am an electrical dummy. [more inside]
posted by Brainy at 11:35 AM PST - 19 comments

Food Blog in a Haystack?

Several (five? more?) years ago, I used to read this guy's daily lunch blog. I just had the urge to look it up again, but I have no idea where to begin finding it! Googling it isn't helping me because there are bazillions of food blogs! Typing "Canadian man food blog ponytail" into the search engine is getting me nowhere fast. [more inside]
posted by orangek8 at 11:19 AM PST - 2 comments

blue and pink and brown and and and

How should I accessorize a solid colored dress without looking like a mismatched bag lady? [more inside]
posted by Sara C. at 11:19 AM PST - 23 comments

Finally had the "marriage" talk with long term boyfriend

Do our expectations of when to get married one day match up? [more inside]
posted by Asian_Hunnie at 11:17 AM PST - 42 comments

Help Me Identify This Pakistani Counterterrorism Expert

I'm looking for the identity of this Pakistani counterterrorism expert. In this [YT] documentary, the Chinese transliteration of his name appears as 古尼‧伊纳亚特‧欧拉‧罕‧尼亚文. Any ideas?
posted by klue at 10:50 AM PST - 4 comments

Early 19th c. immigration practices?

Before Ellis Island there was Castle Garden. Before Castle Garden ...? [more inside]
posted by John Borrowman at 10:39 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a website that offers positive daily affirmations.

I would like to change my homepage to a simple clean site that offers different positive daily quotes or affirmations - geared more to success, positivity and general spirituality. I've searched Google and the ones I have found are either cluttered with ads or are more of a "healing" nature (like the one at Hay House - not exactly what I want.)
posted by cherrybounce at 10:24 AM PST - 5 comments

Sending up the 'Stylish Mefites' beacon

Help me style this dress for an upcoming wedding! I am looking for jewelry/shoe/hair recommendations. [more inside]
posted by troika at 10:14 AM PST - 14 comments

Shoe me!

Help me decide on warmer footwear with a suit, but flat or with a low heel. [more inside]
posted by ellieBOA at 9:40 AM PST - 11 comments

URGENT: AHH! I need to a place to stay? San Fran edition

Came into San Francisco for Dreamforce (massive conference) and taking a few personal days to explore. San Fran hotels are packed with convention attendees.. where can I stay? [more inside]
posted by xicana63 at 9:34 AM PST - 8 comments

The floppening of fashion

I need help finding non-floppy tops to wear to work. As a petite woman with a nice figure, all I can find is tops that are loose and baggy; I'm looking for clothes that are a little more form-fitting. [more inside]
posted by jschu at 9:03 AM PST - 24 comments

Can I send a conker to the USA?

My friend in Utah has never had a conker. I want to send her one. It's a seed, but not a foodstuff. Is that cool with US customs/USPS?
posted by tzb at 8:58 AM PST - 10 comments

Novels set in the South

I’m about to head to Clarksdale, MS on holiday for a few days and am looking for recommendations for novels to read that are set in, and evocative of, a similar geographical area. [more inside]
posted by fatfrank at 8:56 AM PST - 25 comments

Is it true that below 70 LDL, cholesterol deposits recede?

A friend just had a stent put in due to 100% congestion in one blood vessel (50% congestion remains in another). He's on highest Lipitor dose (80mg), which has brought LDL down to 90. Cardiologist wants to keep him on high Lipitor plus sign him up for a trial of Alirocumab (an experimental monoclonal antibody which lowers cholesterol). The goal is an LDL of 70, because doctor says at that point the body starts a reverse process of removing cholesterol, thereby reducing the congestion. I can't find any confirmation of this anywhere. Can anyone help verify or clarify?
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:44 AM PST - 8 comments

imessage - my sister is a former apple owner

My sister had an iphone and now has an Android. I have an iphone and an ipad. I can send her a message from my phone. The message is green. Messages on the ipad are blue and don't go through. Her other apple friends can text her. [more inside]
posted by egk at 8:39 AM PST - 18 comments

I'm looking for a book or movie that will teach me how railroads work

If one reads The Hunt For Red October one comes out of it knowing a lot about how submarines work. Watch Apollo 13 and you learn about mission control and spacecraft. What's the equivalent for the railroads? [more inside]
posted by bondcliff at 7:03 AM PST - 16 comments

Mom, Grandma is playing favorites again!

My husband's brother and his wife have come to us and expressed some concern over the way Grandma is treating the grandkids. We have the same issue and none of us are sure if we should speak up. It's not life changing or anything, just something we are worried could cause animosity in the future. [more inside]
posted by MayNicholas at 7:00 AM PST - 29 comments

Looking for a free time-tracking, invoice-creating, web-based tool.

I do some freelancing work and I'm looking for a free time-tracking online system that lets me print invoices to .pdf twice a month. [more inside]
posted by lea724 at 6:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Do any rules govern how much collection agencies can inflate debt?

I've noticed that when collection agencies buy debt, they often, though not always, significantly inflate the original debt. Do any laws govern how much they can do so? If not, how is it possible to be liable for an amount that someone has essentially made up? [more inside]
posted by corb at 6:06 AM PST - 4 comments

Looking for a new hobby to do at home, MANY restrictions

I'm casting about for a new at-home hobby, but need something that doesn't take up much space at all, doesn't require staring at a glowing screen or tax eyes much, and doesn't aggravate my RSI. [more inside]
posted by taz at 5:51 AM PST - 33 comments

Large secure package / mailbox

I am looking for a large outdoor box to receive packages securely. [more inside]
posted by Mac-Expert at 5:37 AM PST - 5 comments

Can I get a virtual phone number in China?

I want something like a Skype-in number for China. Not Hong Kong. Like Shanghai or Beijing ideally. It would be great if it called me on my laptop (i.e. not just a callforwarding service) I have a friend over there who can't afford to call out. That possible?
posted by vizsla at 3:25 AM PST - 5 comments

October 13

Can I make OS X avoid hunting for my bluetooth mouse & keyboard?

OS X on my MacBook Pro is doing what it's supposed to do: Trying to connect with my Bluetooth mouse and keyboard. I'd like it to not do that when my MacBook isn't connected to my Thunderbolt display. Is there any way to automate this? [more inside]
posted by mph at 10:06 PM PST - 3 comments

My assault casts a long shadow over my medical record...

My history of sexual assault is in my medical record. My electronic medical record. This is driving me nuts and becoming a mental roadblock for me when I seek further healthcare. [more inside]
posted by gemutlichkeit at 9:40 PM PST - 41 comments

Savory quickbreads, apple or pear desserts, apple cider cocktails

I'm having a birthday party for myself Saturday, and I've put off planning far later than I normally do. Help me out, hivemind! Looking for recipes for: 1) A great savory quickbread that doesn't have onions or garlic (or anything related to those, due to allergies of a couple attendees); 2) A dessert made with apples and/or pears that can either be prepared in advance or prepared up to the point of baking in advance, and then just needs to be put in the oven; 3) Tasty cocktails involving apple cider. Thanks!
posted by skycrashesdown at 8:54 PM PST - 16 comments

Overpayment, whose responsibility?

Hey Metafilter, I have a thorny question about who has the responsibility to redress an overpayment situation, I hope you can help! [more inside]
posted by nicolas léonard sadi carnot at 8:53 PM PST - 16 comments

Good bars to watch a Cowboys (vs. Giants) game near JFK airport?

This Sunday, the Cowboys are playing the Giants at 4:25pm. My flight lands at JFK at 3:30pm (fingers crossed). Are there any good/existing sports bars that are pro-Cowboys, if not neutral (e.g., pro-Jets/Steelers/Patriots), and that are within 30-45 minutes driving distance of the airport? If not (or if the flight is delayed), are there any good sports bars in JFK?
posted by unknowncommand at 7:26 PM PST - 3 comments

Can Edward be more than Eddie the sparkling vampire?

My husband and I are expecting our first child, a boy, in December. We're struggling with the name issue (of course). We really want to name him Edward (I love the name and it has a family connection). But there are a couple of issues with nicknames and possible negative associations. [more inside]
posted by McPuppington the Third at 7:18 PM PST - 48 comments

Car's power window won't roll up - bad switch or larger problem?

One of the power windows in my car has stopped rolling up. The windows are controlled by a dual switch in the center console. The driver's side works, and the passenger "down" works, but the passenger "up" switch does not. I tried replacing it with a new switch I ordered online, and was able to get the window 90% up, but then that new switch abruptly stopped working. Is this likely to be a case of a bad part, or is there something wrong with my electrical system? More details below. [more inside]
posted by chrisamiller at 6:50 PM PST - 5 comments

Can you deny owner enterance and housing if he doesn't live there?

My mother died in July. My Uncle, her brother, wants to sell the house they co-owned. I lived with my mother in the house and I am still living there now. He is like a stranger to me. I don't know him very well and he's a slimeball. I am not comfortable with him staying there. As the resident, what are my rights? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:46 PM PST - 19 comments


Can you make me an IPTV ninja? I finally tried loading up some stations on XBMC/Kodi and I am digging it immensely. I'm interested in getting tips on IPTV excellence. Any users here? [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 6:16 PM PST - 2 comments

Are mountain lions freeloaders?

Do mountain lions ever eat the remains of another animal's kill, or do they eat only what they kill themselves?
posted by tzuzie at 5:53 PM PST - 9 comments

Ethics involved in dating people your friend has dated casually?

Short version: what are the ethics involved in dating people your friend has dated casually? [more inside]
posted by thelivingsea at 5:51 PM PST - 17 comments

Linked in to what?

It's time to get a new job (Seattle, Unix w/ scripting). It's been seven years since the last time I changed jobs, and the the last time seemed to have more to do with luck than anything I did. My network, such as it is, is both slim and not here. So - how does one look for a tech job in 2014? [more inside]
posted by wotsac at 5:46 PM PST - 7 comments

Small, affordable, giftable, items common in USA, but not in France

I will be leaving to France in exactly two weeks to visit my large extended family and I would like to bring gifts but can't really afford to spend big bucks. Candy? Food? Easy personalized ways to keep track of everything and say "thank-you" after the trip also appreciated. And of course, a question regarding dollar to euro conversions. [more inside]
posted by lovecricket at 5:17 PM PST - 26 comments

How to stop compulsive behaviour?

I have problems with shopping compulsively. I want to stop so I can work on paying down debt, and the feelings of guilt and deception when it comes to hiding things. But I haven't found a way that sticks. Does anyone have any experience with beating addictions on a day to day basis? Or in talking yourself out of cravings? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:50 PM PST - 23 comments

Dealing with a Machiavellian Boss

How do I deal with a new boss who has turned out to be extremely Machiavellian? [more inside]
posted by LN at 3:18 PM PST - 16 comments

Should I eat it: meal delivery edition

Food delivery company says their pre-made meals are good in the fridge for a week. This seems way too long--much longer than I would ever store homemade food. Should I trust my gut or do the professionals know something about food safety that I don't? [more inside]
posted by insoluble uncertainty at 3:10 PM PST - 16 comments

Famous Korean dancer from the 20s or 30s?

I bought photograph in Seoul that is allegedly of a famous Korean dancer from the 20s or 30s. I'm interested in knowing more about her, so I was wondering if anyone familiar with that time period would have any ideas who she is? [more inside]
posted by noxperpetua at 2:54 PM PST - 2 comments

In arthritis, how is "morning stiffness" experienced?

I have some sort of arthritis that seems to be systemic and inflammatory. I read that if it's "rheumatoid arthritis" then I should probably have "morning stiffness". But no one seems interested in saying what that is. [more inside]
posted by Koray at 2:50 PM PST - 26 comments

Name That Song: Ever Think About...

"Ever think about" call and response between a male and female singer. Ukulele/banjo, chanting, but somehow unidentifiable via Google... [more inside]
posted by greenland at 2:38 PM PST - 8 comments

Please explain tailoring to me

I would like to have a few shirts made, I think? And maybe, eventually a suit? Please explain the basics of a professional tailor. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 2:24 PM PST - 11 comments

après moi, le déluge

I'm in the process of entering a huge and long overdue stage of transition in my life, which is guaranteed to make me miserable for the next 2-3+ years in addition to costing me thousands of dollars. (Whee!) Since I'm lucky enough to have advance notice before the proverbial trigger is pulled, I'm trying to put together tricks and treats to make the months ahead a bit less awful. When you're having a tough time and you know it's going to last for the indefinite future, what can you do to help soften the blows? [more inside]
posted by divined by radio at 2:00 PM PST - 29 comments

Doctors Hate This Quick and Easy Trick for Curing Sleep-Hangovers

Sometimes on the weekend I over-indulge in sleeping/catching up on sleep. Feels great at the time, but the issue is getting 10 or 11 hours of sleep gives me a "sleep-hangover" for the rest of the day and I'm basically out of commission for 24 hours. [more inside]
posted by windbox at 1:45 PM PST - 17 comments

looking for a print/copy shop in Boston that you don't have to babysit

I'm looking for a print/copy shop, preferably downtown Boston, but will travel to nearby areas by T, that can do small batches (12-25) of full-color brochures that need to be folded a particular way. Apparently quite a few print shops don't do small runs, or don't do folding. Our current vendor, who I will politely not name, has left us unsatisfied on a few occasions (color not great, messed up the folding job, requiring us to refold them all). Already tried ProPriint, and their quote was fairly expensive (~1300$ for 25 ) Ideally we'd be looking at half that amount. I'm hoping someone can provide a "I've used VENDORX and they were AWESOME" kind of testimonial.
posted by canine epigram at 1:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Coffee house music in NYC? Late night coffee shops?

I've found great music and open mics in NYC, but exclusively at bars. I miss the coffee house music of my college days, where I could sip a chai instead of a beer in a laid back atmosphere. [more inside]
posted by gregoryg at 1:11 PM PST - 2 comments

Photo management?

I need a photo management system that allows me to tag and search photos, but I'd rather it NOT be web-based. I don't really know what to look for. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 12:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Shoes on or off in the house?

What's the more common practice in the U.S. and elsewhere? What particular locales, religions, ethnic backgrounds, etc. are associated with a preference for shoes off or shoes on inside the house? Are there any good maps showing where one or the other practice is more common across the world or in particular countries? [more inside]
posted by Area Man at 12:32 PM PST - 96 comments

Dentist in Playa del Carmen?

I have a couple (6!) cavities to fill and would like to get it done while I'm on vacation in Mexico for 2 weeks. Any suggestions? All the threads I could find were a few years old, so I figured a new one wouldn't hurt. Thanks!
posted by mrunderhill at 12:11 PM PST - 1 comment

How to refer to mismatched page numbers in a PDF document?

I often need to refer a person to a specific page in a PDF document linked in an email. Sometimes the document contains page numbers on headers or footers that do not match the numbering of the PDF file. For example, the page with “12” displayed in the footer is page 16 of the PDF file, because the file includes four pages of front matter. “Page 1” as labeled in the document is the fifth page of the file, as shown in the document reader’s toolbar. [more inside]
posted by Snerd at 11:38 AM PST - 7 comments

ArcGIS for Dummies

I work for a local, city-wide nonprofit and would like to create a map that displays our client density by zip code. I have never made a map and have only enough knowledge of ArcGIS to know that I don't know what the hell I'm doing. Please point me to resources on how to accomplish this, or alternately, tell me that I'm simply out of my element. [more inside]
posted by a.steele at 11:35 AM PST - 11 comments

Will this address get my letter to where it wants to go in remote Nepal?

Please help me decipher a Nepalese address so that my letter will get to its proper remote destination! [more inside]
posted by letahl at 11:25 AM PST - 4 comments

Why would he think it's OK to walk through my house with his boots on?

A handyman my husband knows came by today to talk to me about what needs done at our new house. We both came in the back door where I proceeded to take my boots off. He stood there watching me but did not take his boots off nor ask me if I thought he should. He followed me into the house with his boots on, walked through the living room and upstairs the bathroom. [more inside]
posted by waving at 11:13 AM PST - 69 comments

Introducing Terry Pratchett to a Japanese reader

I'm exchanging emails with a Japanese woman from Tokyo. We talked about books, and I mentioned Terry Pratchett as one of my favorite authors. She said: "His work looks interesting! Do you have a recommendation?" [more inside]
posted by mortimore at 10:48 AM PST - 3 comments

Primate sex crime?

From lay reading and popular science I understand that male chimpanzees are aggressive and extremely political. My question is, is the killing of adult female by adult male chimpanzees a thing? Is it a hazard of sexual contact for the female? Has it been observed, and if so, are there any explanations? Notes: I understand anthropomorphic concerns are not relevant framing for understanding ape sex. I have no difficulty with any of the terms used here: Primate Ifo Net. I've had a quick look through here: Sexual Coercion in Primates and Humans, and it doesn't answer the question. [more inside]
posted by glasseyes at 10:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Short-Term Workaround for Dying Laptop

Dad's dying of cancer. (This is horrible and I don't want to go into it.) His laptop, a Dell Studio 1555 well out of warranty running Win7, is dying more quickly than dad. What can we do to keep the laptop operational for dad to use while he's got the energy? Details and such below the fold. [more inside]
posted by bluejayway at 10:40 AM PST - 8 comments

I don't want to be a bastard anymore.

How does my genetic father go about legally acknowledging me as his daughter? Right now, legally, my birth certificate has my father listed as 'Undeclared'. You are not my lawyer, but can you point me in the right direction? [more inside]
posted by Phalene at 10:12 AM PST - 2 comments

OCR for charts and graphs

This happens all the time in my work: I see a chart of valuable data, I want the exact numeric values or close approximations but the data is (purposely) unlabeled, or perhaps only key data is labeled. Is there a way to automatically estimate the values? [more inside]
posted by 2bucksplus at 9:51 AM PST - 11 comments

There's a black and red spider in my car--now what?

I just found a black and red spider in my car that ran into the seatbelt hole. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by biscuits at 9:02 AM PST - 23 comments

Update: Still no car stereos with knobs?

So the tape player in my wife's '99 Corolla is dying, meaning we can't listen to Ipods through it. This is bad. We've finally come to the conclusion that we need to replace the stereo entirely with one that has an aux in. The problem is: They're all stupid. Tiny buttons and flashing lights everywhere. A bunch of stupid shit that is actively dangerous to use while driving. Any advice on anything better? [more inside]
posted by stet at 8:45 AM PST - 16 comments

Fiction and Non-Fiction Books About Fishing

I'd like to add to my husband's very small library of books that have to do with fishing. Not limited specifically to just fishing, but more or less general maritime activities, such as crabbing, or boat-building, or mysteries of the deep....that sort of thing. [more inside]
posted by the webmistress at 8:39 AM PST - 29 comments

Replacing a glass panel with a dog door

I have an entry door with a big glass panel like this and I would like to remove the glass panel and replace it with a different panel that is glass at the top, fiberglass in the middle, and has a dog door at the bottom. [more inside]
posted by thewestinggame at 8:38 AM PST - 4 comments

How to limit impact of stress/anger from fights/arguments?

I had a fight with a friend through text the other day. It wasn't a huge fight in the great scheme of things, but I got much angrier than the situation called for. The stress from the fight messed me up for the rest of the day, and severely impacted my productivity level. I need advice on how to not have such a powerful reaction to upsetting events, when the reaction seemingly happens before I even have time to think. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by CottonCandyCapers at 8:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Out of office, all the time

My boss travels 300+ days per year, often to countries in which internet and phone connections are unreliable or nonexistent. Communication is often bursty, sporadic, at odd hours, and tinged with anxiety. How can I better manage expectations and limit stress for both of us? [more inside]
posted by a bird, it's a bird at 8:02 AM PST - 14 comments

Is my sister abusing her husband? How do I help?

My sister is out of control and her behavior is hurting her husband (physically and emotionally) and children (only emotionally). I am not sure how to help anyone in the situation or where to turn for help. Is this none of my business? Do I have a responsibility to step in? [more inside]
posted by RingerChopChop at 7:57 AM PST - 31 comments

Internet still shrugging at this straightforward question

How many municipalities (city, town, township, parish, borough) are there in each state in the U.S.? [more inside]
posted by cake vandal at 7:54 AM PST - 10 comments

Facebook Q&A

Managers at the charity I work for would like me to set up a Q&A session for a small group of people on Facebook. How do I do it? [more inside]
posted by monkey closet at 7:34 AM PST - 4 comments

Help Me Help My Hair

I have very long, very curly hair, which I almost always wear pulled up. I'm tired of it and I need some help with ideas for what to do with it-- hairstyles and haircuts. [more inside]
posted by geegollygosh at 7:33 AM PST - 17 comments

Bring Me Your Finest Spicy Herbs

I'd like to be able to grill or bake chicken (and perhaps fish, but mostly chicken) and make it very spicy (hot) -- not Guinness-World-record spicy or anything, but definitely eye-wateringly/sinus-clearingly so. And I'd like it to taste good. And I'd like to accomplish this using dry herbs/spices/rubs rather than by slathering the meat in a sauce. Is such a thing possible? What would you recommend using?
posted by eugenen at 6:30 AM PST - 17 comments

Does Honda dealer repair warranty reciprocity exist?

Before I go down to my local Honda dealer service shop, I am curious to know if a warranty on repairs made at Dealer X are ever honored at Dealer Y? [more inside]
posted by SpringAquifer at 6:15 AM PST - 5 comments

GPS watch instead of an iPhone for running?

I currently use Runkeeper on my iPhone to log runs and races (mostly 10k’s). Next year I’m doing a half-marathon and marathon. Is it worth getting a GPS watch & heart rate monitor? (Considering the Garmin 220 or 620.) I’m thinking about the convenience/functionality of a watch versus a phone, and the training benefits of a HRM. I’d rather not get another device unless it’s a marked improvement.
posted by Huw at 6:10 AM PST - 19 comments

appalachian trail yellowjacket nest + lost and found

Yellowjackets attacked us on a not-that-remote part of the Appalachian Trail yesterday at 5 PM, and had attacked others earlier. Should I tell someone? Also, if someone picked up my dropped glasses and hat, would they return them to some centralized lost and found? This is Nantahala Forest in NC, ~.5 mile N. of Tellico Gap. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 4:57 AM PST - 4 comments

I want to get rid of my irrational dog racism. How?!

I admit it, I am afraid of many large dogs. Mostly, this includes boxers, rotties and pit bulls, sometimes even great danes if they're loose in yard. What can I do to alleviate this? Dogs can tell that I am afraid, I know. I feel adrenaline shoot through me when I encounter people with these dogs or dogs in a yard. I suspect that my fear is socially conditioned, and I feel bad about being a "dog racist." [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:39 AM PST - 21 comments

Safe to Eat? Cooked Chicken ... One Week Old

I checked archives but found no question similar to this one: Roasted a chicken last Monday. Tore it into shreds, was still warm when we put it away in the fridge. In a plastic container, somewhat airtight. However, have taken it out once and opened the container. But promptly forgot about it until today. Safe to eat?
posted by moiraine at 4:29 AM PST - 24 comments

Overcoming the motivation plateau

I've noticed this routine in so many acts of life, whether it be a new job, relationship, exercise routine, etc. At first there is excitement, new ideas, strong motivation. Then normality sets in and everything just seems to plateau out. Less excitement, boredom, loss of motivation. You keep going through the motions, doing the minimum, or perhaps you just quit. What can/do you do in this situation? How can you get your motivation and enthusiasm back for those less-than-new parts of your life?
posted by aarondesk at 4:20 AM PST - 9 comments

Am I reaching for the unreachable? Career woes....

Approaching nearly 34 in a couple of months, and have been unemployed since end of June, I'm not so sure I can afford to be fussy when it comes to applying for specific roles/industries. I read 'What colour is your parachute', and it was very informative. Identified the skills I love to use and equally use very proficiently, the environments I would like to work within, and the people I would like to work with. The reality of applying for such roles/industries I am not so sure is a logical process to follow. I worry I am being 'too fussy' as a result of reading that job.... [more inside]
posted by emma33UK at 2:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Can kids toys be switched to different languages?

Do electric kids toys come with all languages, and are then switched to a particular language when they leave the factory?
posted by devnull at 1:37 AM PST - 4 comments

October 12

Scheduling workouts into a busy(-ish) day

I hate excercising, so I'll take any excuse not to. But I have to be honest with myself. I'm beyond the age where I can just eat what I want, not work out, and avoid getting over weight. Far beyond. I'm much more out of shape than I should be. My pants don't fit right anymore, and it's getting worse. My last excuse for not working out is that it's hard to fit into my schedule. Please help destroy that excuse by telling me your routine. [more inside]
posted by primethyme at 10:14 PM PST - 44 comments

I feel like I cannot function without Tylenol. How can I stop this?

I have persistent headaches, backaches, depression, and anxiety. I take Tylenol to alleviate both physical and emotional pain, but now it has become so habitual that I can't stop. I'm scared of what I'm doing to my health at this point and need advice on how to stop, and other alternatives I can take to relax enough to be able to function throughout my day. [more inside]
posted by summertimesadness1988 at 9:25 PM PST - 22 comments

Non-homeopathic, safe, effective teething relief?

We're looking for some proven, effective relief for our 4-month-old's gums as her teeth come in. It seems like it's impossible to find something that is both medically legitimate and doesn't contain benzocaine. We're open to herbal remedies if they're supported by more than anecdote, but we are not interested in homeopathy for our child. Any recommendations? [more inside]
posted by The Winsome Parker Lewis at 8:46 PM PST - 28 comments

Fact, fantasy, or fiction: what am I thinking.

I'm a straight female, married for 15 years, two kids. My marriage is not perfect but pretty darn good. After my kids were born, I've started fantasizing about lesbian relationships. Fantasy is great, but shoud I act on it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:08 PM PST - 17 comments

Looking for First Nations art depicting seals

I'm looking to find examples of Canadian First Nations art depicting seals. Ideally paintings, prints or sculptures from B.C. aboriginal artists. [more inside]
posted by arcticseal at 7:38 PM PST - 12 comments

Cool NYC Restaurant to take Out of Town Guests??

Manhattanites and NYC'ers all over the boroughs: please help me find the perfect restaurant to bring my relatives to! [more inside]
posted by Kensational at 7:37 PM PST - 11 comments

Was my friend rude to grab popcorn out of my bag without asking?

I was at the movies with two friends. We arrived early and were chatting in our seats. I like to save my popcorn for when the movie starts. So, I put a napkin over my popcorn. It's been a habit of mine since childhood (my family all does that). [more inside]
posted by starpoint at 7:27 PM PST - 55 comments

Tracking down a movie via music

Twenty five years ago (around then, early 90s), there was on HBO an advertisement promoting HBO. It consisted of a montage of recent popular movies (and maybe some older, durable classics that HBO showed back then) accompanied by a theme that was taken from a movie. The theme was choral in nature, haunting children's voices. Help me remember the movie the theme came from! [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 7:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Safety and legality of installing a DIY chandelier?

I really like this chandelier. Buy-able versions I have found are way out of my budget, but the designer posted instructions for a similar DIY version. I live in a rented apartment in NYC - are there legal/insurance/safety issues I need to be concerned about? [more inside]
posted by Sakura3210 at 6:26 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me not fuck up this job interview.

I have a job interview Tuesday morning for a part-time, college-level language teaching job. I want the job, I'd be good at it, and I have experience teaching this subject. But I have literally zero experience with job interviews. Fellow Mefites, please share your interview wisdom generally, and specifically, help me come up with (a) a list of questions to be ready for and (b) some questions to ask on my part. [more inside]
posted by zeri at 6:06 PM PST - 12 comments

Picking up a Dizi.

I would like to learn to play a dizi, but I have no clue how to buy one or where to start. I'm in Seattle and can buy one locally or online, with a target budget of $50-$100. I'd like one that is easy to play (for someone with small hands and no wind instrument experience) and where the sound is nice by itself. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by ethidda at 5:42 PM PST - 6 comments

How would you interpret this e-mail exchange...

...with a potential paramour met on a dating site? Friend and I are purposely asking the community for first impressions out of context. What do you imagine the exchange (response in particular) means? [more inside]
posted by phreckles at 5:33 PM PST - 41 comments

Are Elance and oDesk worth the effort?

I'm transitioning away from regular work to freelance. Friends have pointed me to Elance and oDesk, but the hourly rates are abysmally low! Has anyone made a success of that business model? I am a writer, so perhaps those skills are paid less than the more technical jobs on those sites?
posted by SallyHitMeOntheHead at 3:14 PM PST - 8 comments

Puzzle me this

I'm organising a competition in which groups of people have to work together to solve a series of puzzles. I'm looking for puzzles along the lines of that hoary old favourite about the Farmer trying to cross the river with a Fox, a Chicken and Bag of Grain or the one involving the Two Guards, one of whom only tells lies and the other who only tells the truth. [more inside]
posted by Brian Lux at 2:20 PM PST - 16 comments

Help me find PacMan level 2 (island!), please.

I my memory, there was the basic PacMan computer game (not in arcades but on the PC at home) which at some point had a second level - same game idea but the design on the screen was a sunny, sandy island in the middle of the ocean, with treasure chests, palm trees, and maybe even pirates. I remember this fondly and (too) often and wish I could find it again. Does anybody know where to purchase this game or perhaps find it online? Details within. [more inside]
posted by mrsh at 2:00 PM PST - 2 comments

Trouble with iOS 8 Mail (iPhone 5S)

While I had no issues on my iPhone 4 with iOS 7 getting my desired functionality, I'm having a heck of a time trying to figure out how to replicate this functionality with my iPhone 5S and iOS 8. The main problem concerns the built-in Mail app. [more inside]
posted by juliebug at 1:38 PM PST - 3 comments

How to remove banana odor from backpack.

I foolishly put a banana in a backpack (JanSport knapsack). The banana was crushed and smeared all over the inside of the large section of the backpack and set for a day. Now I cannot get rid of the rank banana odor. I've washed three times, and sponged heavily with vinegar twice. The material is some sort of synthetic, no leather. Suggestions on how to remove the lingering odor?
posted by Jackson at 1:23 PM PST - 10 comments

Name this song please .. from Wolf on Wall Street

Name this song please .. from Wolf on Wall Street
posted by bright77blue at 1:06 PM PST - 3 comments

Stupid person fucks up kitchen wall. Film at 11.

Hi. I'm stupid. I tore a piece out of my kitchen wall. Please help me put it back. [more inside]
posted by Serene Empress Dork at 1:02 PM PST - 11 comments

Is this mixing board good for a home recording studio?

We have been gifted what I think is a very nice mixing board. I'm wondering if it's a good fit for a home recording studio, or if it's too much. [more inside]
posted by jbickers at 12:42 PM PST - 7 comments

How should I navigate this job situation?

I want to ask my (new*) company for a transfer to a different office. I'm not sure how this will be received, so I feel like I need to have a back up plan. I'm not sure how best to handle the timing on asking versus looking at other options. [more inside]
posted by tryniti at 12:39 PM PST - 5 comments

How do we get on top/stay on top of being clean and organized?

OK...really I want to be somewhat clean and somewhat organized. Can anyone point to a method of organizing and cleaning a household in addition to a methodical way of purging things? My goal is to get to a point of being able to maintain a certain level of organization/cleanliness. It is to the point where I am embarrassed to have anyone over. [more inside]
posted by retrofitted at 12:08 PM PST - 19 comments

More visible veins on hormonal birth control?

I am currently taking Lo Loestrin Fe (low estrogen pill), which I've only been taking for seven days now. I noticed last night that my veins in my wrists are a lot more visible than usual. This morning in the shower, the same was true of the veins in my feet and legs. They are more visible and I can see some of them pretty bright blue. [more inside]
posted by stoneandstar at 12:03 PM PST - 13 comments

The windows in our house are crappy. Complication: high desert climate

We have a nice home, but our house was built in 2007 with a number of "builder-grade" elements, including the windows. When we moved in, a few had issues with some elements of the windows (tracks sliding out, locking mechanisms not working smoothly), and they've only got worse. [more inside]
posted by filthy light thief at 11:43 AM PST - 1 comment

Carrying a poster from France to the US: carry-on or ship?

How do I get a large poster tube from France to the US? Do I try to carry it on, or risk shipping it? [more inside]
posted by Nelson at 11:42 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me find the best tights!

Help me find the best tights! [more inside]
posted by DeltaForce at 9:49 AM PST - 7 comments

In what style of art is the end credits for the Boxtrolls?

We saw The Boxtrolls yesterday, and I was struck by the art that played during the end credits sequence. It looks familiar, but for the life of me I can't find a name for the style or that artist. It's a sketchy sort of line drawing, black lines with color accents, lots of tall houses with ornamentation, and for some reason reminds me vaguely of 60s or 70s animation. Does anyone else know what I'm half-remembering?
posted by korej at 9:35 AM PST - 6 comments

Is this a carpet beetle?

Also, please tell me its not a bed bug. [more inside]
posted by lownote at 9:27 AM PST - 12 comments

Ottawa vs. Gatineau

Please help this Ontarian decide whether to move across the river. [more inside]
posted by betafilter at 9:04 AM PST - 5 comments

iPad/iPhone printing to HP Officejet 100 via Airport...

MobilePrintingFilter - I needed a diminutive printer, and only the HP Officejet 100 fit the bill. I've got it working fine from my Macbook via direct USB, via Bluetooth, and, having USB-connected it to the same Airport Extreme base station that delivers my internet connection, via Bonjour. Now all I'm missing is... printig to it from my iPad. [more inside]
posted by progosk at 7:13 AM PST - 13 comments

Best way for a 40-year old to learn piano at home

I'm trying to find the best way to learn to play the piano well. Classical music is beautiful, but not really interested in playing that on the piano. I'm more interesting in learning to play modern hits. I feel like I need some structure and a clear path to progression. My work schedule is chaotic at best, so I don't want to get a piano teacher. I'm looking for books, videos, software (mac preferred), etc that can really help me improve my skills on my own schedule. [more inside]
posted by n0stress4me at 6:33 AM PST - 9 comments

Expiring Texas Buyer's Tags

I bought a car (from a dealer) in Texas in August. The buyer's tag (which is what the temporary plate is called, I think) expires on Wednesday. I still don't have the license plates. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by hoyland at 6:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Using an Android tv box - how many gb are used

I am considering the purchase of an android tv box but I have no idea how many gb of my 100 gb/month allotment would be used up on my internet service plan (using DSL modem). If for example, I was watching tv up to 3 hours daily would this exceed the 100 gb monthly limit? Second question - is there anyone using the magic box from redrhino entertainment - is it worth the premium price of a regular quad core box?
posted by DonM at 5:36 AM PST - 3 comments

Are excavators ever buried under large buildings to save money?

My brother claims that in large construction projects where excavators dig out underground carparks, the cost of removing the machinery exceeds the costs of replacing it so they are simply buried under all the concrete. Can anyone please point to some kind of evidence? My googling hasn't turned up anything and there's $30 riding on it! Thanks
posted by soymilk at 2:46 AM PST - 15 comments

October 11

Eco-conscious home buyers?

When selling a house with lots of eco features that are rare in the area (large solar array, efficient dual-fuel HVAC, new insulation/sealing, etc.), how could the sellers network / advertise to reach potential buyers who care about these features? (Location is a Philadelphia suburb and price is typical for the suburb, around 300K.)
posted by kalapierson at 11:31 PM PST - 10 comments

Oh God what have I been drinking?

I just looked inside my electric tea kettle for the first time in months and saw three large-ish blobs that look sort of like the kind of bamboo shoots you get in Chinese food. [more inside]
posted by pocketfullofrye at 10:10 PM PST - 24 comments

Help us name our baby!

We're having a baby next week and need help picking between two names. Looking for advice and experience relating to full names vs. nicknames . [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 9:46 PM PST - 39 comments

Whatever gets you out of bed in the morning

I'm looking for phrases to use when you see someone who has a strong passion the appeal of which you just cannot understand--a passion that appears to be one of the things the person lives for, one of the things that gets them out of bed in the morning. (I'm looking for secular passions, not religious ones.) Funny is good but not required. [more inside]
posted by early one morning at 6:48 PM PST - 53 comments

How long should it take me to learn how to drive?

I'm in my mid-20s and recently got my learner's permit, but I've never ever even tried to drive a car before. What are my options for actually learning this? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 6:47 PM PST - 19 comments

Is it possible to find dates if you're a person seeking a person?

I am potentially interested in dating again. I had a breakup of a 1.5 year relationship around this time last year and feel emotionally over it. However, I feel like I will have a bit more challenges in regards to dating than the average person. (I'm mostly asexual, not very feminine, and a non-traditional undergraduate student in a college town). Special snowflakes inside... [more inside]
posted by sevenofspades at 5:59 PM PST - 16 comments

Strapless bras... in 36H?

So after serious effort with measuring and trying on a million bras, I got myself into the right size about 9 months ago -- UK 36H or 36HH, depending on the bra. Relief! However, I have developed rotator cuff tendinitis and an angry trapezius muscle and now, bra straps cause agony. I'm thinking a strapless bra might be the answer, but with my size and a few other challenges, I'm not sure this is going to be possible. Is it? [more inside]
posted by houseofdanie at 5:07 PM PST - 17 comments

Intersex 101?

I am very grateful that every time there's a post concerning trans issues here that the community posts a trans 101 link, and I'm wondering if any of you know of a reliable link that lists valid and non-offensive information about intersex people. Specifically, I would like to be a lot more culturally competent around issues of gender assignment at birth, surgery, helping an intersex child realize their identity, and the like.
posted by roomthreeseventeen at 4:58 PM PST - 6 comments

Unscented antiperspirant/deodorant

Do you have a recommendation for an unscented antiperspirant/deodorant? [more inside]
posted by stowaway at 4:56 PM PST - 35 comments

Tell me what to look for when buying a home with an attic or basement...

We are starting to look at purchasing a home. I'm loving the idea of having a basement or converted attic or attic that could be converted. What should I be looking for to evaluate whether the basement or attic space is good? [more inside]
posted by amanda at 4:54 PM PST - 12 comments

What was that fabric?

So, I went on a business trip and my well-loved Burberry black trench raincoat, which I bought new at a department store 5 or 6 years ago, was stolen. I would really like to replace it. The catch is that I can't figure out just what the fabric was. It was soft to the touch, almost silky, with a lustrous shine (not the high shine of a sateen), and water resistant. It definitely was not the classic Burberry cotton gabardine, which is much rougher to the touch. I failed at figuring this out via Google. Can the hive mind help?
posted by bearwife at 3:36 PM PST - 3 comments

*This* is Ceti Alpha V!!

Please help me ID this bug. 1.5 inches long. Mean looking. [more inside]
posted by popcassady at 3:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there a good, accessible book on advanced football strategy?

I'm looking for a book that will explain all the offensive and defensive positions, as well as the relative merit of the various formations, routes, etc. Not necessarily looking for something directed at coaches. [more inside]
posted by Precision at 2:36 PM PST - 17 comments

Source for Box Office Figures?

My retired husband maintains an entertainment website for a hobby. One page is devoted to posting the latest box office figures including Saturday and Sunday estimates as well as the Monday final results. Unfortunately his source for this info., IMDB and BoxOffice Mojo, were today taken over by Amazon.com and are presently unavailable, he believes permanently. Does anyone know of another, free source he might tap? He tells me that many got their data from these two, including BoxOffice Guru.
posted by R2WeTwo at 2:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Definitive guide(s) and resources for understanding taxes in Canada?

How can one learn about the Canadian tax system (Toronto, Ontario to be specific) in the easiest way possible? Does one need to do a ton of reading to grasp the basic concept behind how they work or are there nice videos and presentations that explain how they work? [more inside]
posted by omar.a at 1:37 PM PST - 3 comments

The Devil I Don't Know is Still a Devil

Another breaking up question, not from a relationship but from brands. Help me decide when to switch from a couple of consumer products, when the alternatives may not be any better than the one I currently use. [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 1:34 PM PST - 25 comments

Always read the fine print

I work part time, my boss asked me to cover a full timer's vacation, telling me I would be working 7:30-4 Monday-Friday. I agreed. Yesterday he surprised me by telling me I was actually supposed to work 7:30am-8:30pm that day. When I said he told me to work 7:30-4 all week he said, "Well it's been posted on the schedule." I didn't think I needed to look at the schedule. I said I wouldn't be able to stay past 4. Was I entirely in the wrong? [more inside]
posted by blackzinfandel at 1:33 PM PST - 14 comments

What's the most official means of finding a DNS whois history?

This is a question about the integrity of DNS records in terms of historical accuracy. A friend of mine is an investigative journalist who's doing a critical reexamination of the Facebook origin story has come across something that doesn't quite make sense and he doesn't have the technical expertise to parse its meaning or lack thereof. [more inside]
posted by Partario at 12:45 PM PST - 4 comments

Do learning disabilities improve but still exist?

A child I know has struggling with output (verbal, written) for quite some time. He has some other issues, too. He has diagnosed LDs. He worked hard over the summer and has improved. The school seems to think that his writing isn't a concern. This conflicts with the opinions of other specialists. How do the parents make sense of it? [more inside]
posted by acoutu at 12:30 PM PST - 19 comments

Help us winterize….

Where can we go in & around nyc to find winter clothes, preferably in one place, for good prices? [more inside]
posted by tulim at 11:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Check register App for iPhone 5s

I'm looking for an iPhone App to track my spending, NOT budgeting. My salary is automatically split via direct deposit, so that most of it goes into a different account used to pay bills with the spouse. What's needed is an App to track the money in my personal account, which is used mostly for fun stuff, with a few minor things like gas or reccurring payments for Netflix, website hosting etc. Specific features are below the cut! [more inside]
posted by sock, the puppet at 11:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Funding a mental health driven life sabbatical

A dear friend of mine has had a super lousy couple of years, suffering assault and an abusive partner, multiple major physical health issues, and some family trauma. Additionally, she is suffering from a major depressive episode, and her formerly good job has become toxic. She has asked me and another friend to help her figure out how to take a life sabbatical to focus on getting out of the toxic job and back on her feet in terms of mental health. I, in turn, turn to your collective wisdom, because, wow, am I out of my area of expertise. [more inside]
posted by spindrifter at 10:44 AM PST - 8 comments

Making the breast of a bad situation

My cherished spouse was recently diagnosed with breast cancer. It's going to be a long haul. At the oncologist's office, I saw a coupon for 3 free acupuncture treatments for breast cancer patients and it got me thinking... [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:02 AM PST - 9 comments

How do I move on?

I'm at a crossroads in my long-term relationship. We've been dating for 2.5 years. He's been trustworthy and I've been extremely happy in this relationship. I'm 30 f, he's 31 m. We live together. Things changed a few weeks back... [more inside]
posted by KB.Boston_implant.By way of NY at 9:07 AM PST - 64 comments

Help me understand my bronchiecstasis diagnosis

I have been sick for a while now, first with pertussis and now a bad case of bronchitis. My doctors have been trying to figure out if an underlying problem is keeping me so sick. In going back over my chest x-rays from a few months ago, my primary care doctor found bronchiecstasis. I had a CT scan yesterday, though I won’t meet with my doctor to discuss the results until Monday. I’ve been reading online about bronchiecstasis, but the articles haven’t helped me to figure out what bronchiecstasis means for my life now. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 9:04 AM PST - 4 comments

Things to do and see in and around Charleston, SC - November 8-11th

My teenage (14) daughter and I are going to a wedding in Charleston. Yay! The wedding is on a Friday, but since school is out for us part of the next week we thought we'd make a vacation of it! So we'll have Saturday through Monday free, leaving on Tuesday. What's good to do with a teenager in and around Charleston, SC? Are there any amusement parks or other cool tourist attractions within say a 3 hour drive of Charleston? Any teen-focuses Charleston-ish recommendations would be appreciated!
posted by vespabelle at 9:04 AM PST - 6 comments

Laptop crashed - what might be wrong?

My MacBook Pro (15-inch, few years old) just crashed. I'm thinking I should pack up and head over to Tekserve now (my AppleCare is still in effect), but can anyone tell me what might have happened and whether it's a bad idea to try to reboot? [more inside]
posted by oh yeah! at 8:49 AM PST - 7 comments

Let's go hybrid shopping! Toyota/Lexus vs. Ford vs. Honda

So, I think I'm ready to give up my slightly banged-up 2005 Civic. The lady and I would like to get a hybrid, since we're mostly doing city driving (with the occasional weekend jaunt). I've been shopping around and trying a few models out, but I would appreciate any personal experience with these cars... [more inside]
posted by greatgefilte at 8:19 AM PST - 27 comments

Plus-sized petite tights or leggings for someone who hates tights

I would like plus-sized petite tights or leggings for wearing with winter/fall dresses or skirts that A) Are opaque B) Stretch up enough that the crotch reaches my crotch so I'm not walking around like a penguin and C) Don't slide down and bunch up elephant style at the ankles. D) Are not delicate/likely to run. Also, I need advice on what to put on my feet when I wear these. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 8:02 AM PST - 29 comments

Help my wife choose a career

Since leaving university a few years ago with a humanities degree (human geography with Spanish), my wife's mostly worked as a temp in an admin position for the same company. Her plan was to do this while deciding what she really wanted to do; two years later, and she's still no closer to making any decisions but as dissatisfied with her current work as ever... [more inside]
posted by jonrob at 7:04 AM PST - 10 comments

How would George Jetson buy a car?

What are currently the most relevant blogs / websites / articles / experts on the future of automotive retail? [more inside]
posted by eau79 at 6:13 AM PST - 1 comment

I Wanna Rock and Roll All Night, and Have My Hearing

Should I go to an upcoming show of one of my favorite musicians? I got Tinnitus from a rock show 2 weeks ago. Most of it has faded away, except for the smallest beep that I can't hear unless it's silent. I really want to see this artist, but I can't put in ear plugs without them falling out, and I was scared after getting tinnitus and don't want to damage my hearing. Help! YANMD, etc. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:29 AM PST - 23 comments

Garnished. Any value in contacting creditor?

1. Is there a silver lining in that I'll be finally paying off the debt at least? Will that help me in the long run? Or is the fact that it's a garnishment super verboten? 2. Is there any value in contacting the creditor? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:28 AM PST - 15 comments

Tooth and Nail

My new phone's Bluetooth insists on automatically turning itself on without any authorization or configuration. Should I be concerned about vulnerability? [more inside]
posted by Christ, what an asshole at 1:30 AM PST - 5 comments

Blog network for posting reviews of startups

I'm considering posting starting a blog where I post reviews of Startups. I would like to try to get at least a few people reading my blog, so perhaps I should join a blog network. A few options of heard of are Tumblr, Wordpress.com and Medium. Does anyone have any recommendations on which site it'd be easiest to build an audience? I'd be willing to try other sites too. I'm not trying to make this commercial or anything - it'd just be nice to get some feedback.
posted by casebash at 1:26 AM PST - 2 comments

October 10

New magazine issue notifications

I'd like a service that notifies me when a new issue of a magazine of choice comes out. Is there such a service that explicitly provides such a service or an existing solution that can be configured to provide such a service? Ideally, this wouldn't mean subscribing to the magazine, just merely a notification that a new issue from the magazine is available.
posted by nathanm at 11:54 PM PST - 3 comments

Vicarious Math Pressure

My eldest child is starting high school. She is in the most advanced math class (a version of geometry) offered by her fairly demanding high school. But my eldest is struggling during the review of algebra -- rate problems, word problems, etc. Concerned because math is cumulative, and I don't want her falling behind. What can I do to help, both with math and with preventing her from becoming discouraged? [more inside]
posted by Slap Factory at 11:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Mission Impossible: Having a relaxing weekend

I had a rough meeting at work this afternoon and now I'm confused, sad, and hurt. Help me focus so I can move forward. [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 9:56 PM PST - 21 comments

Gender transition and grad school applications

I'm a transgender woman in my last year of an undergraduate degree. I'm currently using male pronouns and my given name in most situations, but I'm planning to come out over Christmas break and use female pronouns and a new name in the spring semester, which will be my last before graduation. If I apply to computer science grad schools after I graduate, is my transition likely to cause complications which could hurt my application? [more inside]
posted by unknot at 9:25 PM PST - 9 comments

Private integrity rather than recognition

I'm looking for readings, stories of peoples' lives, anecdotes, your thoughts, or any other sort of material about the value of a "small" life of private integrity over a "larger" life of public recognition and acclaim. I'd love especially to read about people's lives, so pointers to biographical reading material would be appreciated.
posted by miaow at 9:06 PM PST - 10 comments

Tell me your favorite screwtop wine

I love wine, but don't want to drink a whole bottle. Just a glass a night. Everything I've read, and my own experience, backs up the idea that the best way to seal wine is the screwtop and reseals as well as those fancy vacuum sealers. The only thing that seems better for a single glass is wine in a box. But I want more variety than wine in a box allows. [more inside]
posted by bswinburn at 7:46 PM PST - 30 comments

Where should I live for an easy (transit) commute to downtown Seattle?

I'm hoping for a commute that's as painless and short as possible (<30min door to door). Office is near the public library (around 5th Ave and Columbia). I'll be looking for a house with a backyard and a good school district. I know traffic is a bear, and I don't love driving, so if there's any way to do this by public transit or (I wish!) walking, that would be ideal. But if I have to park, I will.
posted by CruiseSavvy at 7:36 PM PST - 10 comments

A Day in the Life of an Immigration Attorney

I need to get a feel for the experiences of an immigration attorney ... [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 6:56 PM PST - 6 comments

How to make the best use of two (only two!) mediation sessions

My spouse has long resisted going to couples’ mediation, despite on-going problems in our marriage. After a particularly bad fight a few days ago, my spouse reluctantly agreed to attend two sessions. I’m responsible for selecting the mediator. What’s the best way to extract the most benefit from just two sessions? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:55 PM PST - 15 comments

How do I deliberately sound phlegmy or "froggy"?

I'm working on a roleplaying character (a Nosferatu for an upcoming Vampire game, if it matters) and I like the idea of his having a permanently phlegmy, "wet" voice. The problem is that my throat's usually fairly dry and whenever I try to pull such a voice I can only get a sentence or two out before I run through whatever moisture's there and it feels like I'm just grinding dry esophagus against itself. Is there any way to keep my throat moist and burbly without having to constantly chug fluids?
posted by Pope Guilty at 6:51 PM PST - 5 comments

A wee history of floor polishing...???

Wooden polishing blocks, for floor polishing. Does anyone know anything about these? How about a picture? [more inside]
posted by lizbunny at 6:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Wife's work doesnt pay overtime.

Wife's work doesn't pay overtime. [more inside]
posted by anonymous_account at 5:54 PM PST - 10 comments

tip of my tongue

Help me find a song I heard at Forever 21... [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 5:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Dropped my iPhone in the water. How best to save it?

Well technically *I* didn't drop my iPhone 5c in the water, my 3 year old son did while playing games on the potty. It was probably in the water for 10 seconds, in an Otterbox Defender case. I took the case off, powered it off (could see water under the screen at this point), and put it in a bag of rice. No warranty, no Applecare; what can I do to maximize the chances of saving the phone?
posted by KathrynT at 4:59 PM PST - 25 comments

What makes a person an alcoholic?

I think my partner drinks too much. My partner thinks I'm overreacting. Who's right? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:26 PM PST - 43 comments

Creative, vegetarian dishes for a newly picky eater?

Hi all, Please help! I am a newly picky eater, meaning I used to love all things rich and spicy, but due to recent medication changes, I absolutely can't stand the thought of so many once-loved foods. Alternatively: starch+veg+bean combos that taste good are also being sought! Thanks in advance! [more inside]
posted by eggs at 4:06 PM PST - 17 comments

Work and job search-related depression

How can I stop feeling depressed about my job and the fact that nothing is coming up while I job search? [more inside]
posted by intheigloo at 4:04 PM PST - 3 comments

Best earphones I can buy right now

What is the best pair of in-ear headphones money can buy? [more inside]
posted by special-k at 3:52 PM PST - 13 comments

Using high-wattage Euro electrical goods in the US

I am moving to California from Europe and have a houseful of electrical items rated for 220V, 50Hz. Lamps with incandescent bulbs and things with wall-warts AFAIK just need plug adaptors (I think?). Kettles, toasters, hairdryers, clock radios etc will probably get ditched. The problem is a few expensive, high-wattage items: fancy steam iron with integrated boiler (2200W) - vacuum cleaner (ditto) - coffee machine (1450W) - laser printer (a mere 660W). Is there any way to use these in the US short of buying 4 enormous step-up transformers? [more inside]
posted by ogorki at 3:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Where was this Magnum Ice Cream commercial filmed?

Where was the Magnum Ice Cream commercial with Rachel Bilson filmed? While some of the cars shown are American, I spy a Toyota Yaris with taillights that look very different from the US-market version, a Jeep with export taillights, and some other SUV that was certainly never sold here.
posted by Seeking Direction at 3:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Ate two moldy muffins, because I'm an idiot. How much danger am I in?

I've gotten hooked on the bran muffins from Vons/Pavillions, and I always start my day with one. Yesterday there was some mold on one, and I just cut it off and ate it. Today I did the same, but then I did a quick Google search and found out there are all sorts of potential horrors from eating moldy bread. Now I don't know how freaked out to be. Complicating factor: I'm recovering from cancer surgery. [more inside]
posted by Ursula Hitler at 2:56 PM PST - 11 comments

Are stock market crashes inevitable before retirment?

I invest in my company's 403b retirement plan. I can use an investment calculator to estimate what things will look like by retirement, assuming a certain rate of return, and the numbers look fine. Does it make sense to assume that some sort of market crash or downturn will significantly affect this estimate before retirement in the next 30 years? [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 2:35 PM PST - 13 comments

So what's the deal with medication?

I have been in therapy for a little while for anxiety/obsessive thoughts. This has gone very well so far, but I still feel awful, and I am wondering whether I should try meds. Snowflakes after the jump. [more inside]
posted by myitkyina at 2:20 PM PST - 17 comments

2+2= ???

A close relative is in a demanding STEM program. Test-taking causes an increase in anxiety, naturally, which in turn seems to put the squeeze on those tubes by which information moves from brain to paper. Strategies for warding off or alleviating this sensation would be appreciated. [more inside]
posted by bullatony at 1:56 PM PST - 9 comments

How do I apologize to my sister?

I feel like I've messed up my relationship with one of my sisters to a really bad point, and it's my fault. [more inside]
posted by glassrose at 1:55 PM PST - 26 comments

Re-learning to enjoy simple, often taken-for-granted pleasures

There have been threads about simple pleasures before, but I'm asking as a person fresh-out of an abusive relationship. I feel like I've been missing a lot of the little things that I used to enjoy and even took for granted, and I'm at a loss. I need be aware of simple pleasures in order to recharge myself while I do all of the emotional/psychically/mentally draining work of recovering from all this. Examples after the jump. [more inside]
posted by mingo_clambake at 1:23 PM PST - 19 comments

Okay, okay. I'm getting therapy. ...How do I do this?

After struggling with a few largely non-crisis issues for the last eight years or so, I've decided to go see a therapist. I've seen a counselor before, and she's lovely, but I feel like I need more cognitive insight now. I found my current counselor by calling the local Pride Center and getting a list of names, then going with the first one who answered their phone. I want to make a more informed decision this time. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Does this pickled roasted pepper recipe seem acidic enough?

Last year I made the best pickled roasted pickled peppers last year but I didn't process it and only kept it in the fridge so I wouldn't have worried as much about the acidity level. This year I want to process them and keep them in the pantry. Does this seem acidic enough? [more inside]
posted by Beti at 12:44 PM PST - 13 comments

Help Me Helpdesk

The company I work for has been in the paper-scanner business (and previously microfilm) for years, but this world is moving away from hardware and into software; we're moving from canned air and screwdrivers and into a 'helpdesk' capacity. What software works best to manage this? [more inside]
posted by AzraelBrown at 12:18 PM PST - 7 comments

Looking for great B&W photographs of women in science and literature

I'm putting together a gallery wall of B&W photographs of women in science and literature, and I'm looking for sources and great photographs with acquirable prints and/or in the public domain. [more inside]
posted by barchan at 11:56 AM PST - 10 comments

Seeking ideas and recipes to use in an after-school cooking club

What things can I cook with children in an after-school club setting? Difficulty: no actual cooking possible. [more inside]
posted by schmoo at 11:55 AM PST - 24 comments

Moving an electrical switch about 3 inches up

So, my apartment complex installed a new exhaust fan in our unit. This is great! it's powerful and will be an excellent addition to the kitchen! However, they inconveniently placed the switch for the fan about 2 inches too low for comfort (pictures inside). When the oven is pushed in the switch gets covered up. Is this the sort of thing I can move myself? Or is this the sort of thing I should pay an electrician for? How much? (And for the sake of argument, let's assume my apartment complex is fine with me doing this.) [more inside]
posted by beep-bop-robot at 11:55 AM PST - 17 comments

Vancouver-themed cycling jersey?

Looking for a Vancouver BC-themed cycling jersey for sale from a local shop. [more inside]
posted by Gorgik at 11:34 AM PST - 3 comments

How do I overcome the grief from my cat's death

What books/activities/other resources will help me get past this horrible sadness. [more inside]
posted by Librarypt at 11:23 AM PST - 39 comments

dentist filter! What can I do?

In addition to a family history of dental troubles (alignment issues; "soft" enamel whatever that means), I did not have access to regular/good dentistry until my mid-20 (my parents' financial strain when I was a kid; nomadic life of constant moving/traveling, etc.) and so now, as a 29-year-old, I have a number of teeth of varying degrees of cavities. They are all filled, but those teeth are not perfect. I now floss and brush at least twice a day, often more, use floride rinse, and I shun sugar in my diet. Still, in the last 3 years I've had two teeth that died and formed abscesses, each requiring a root canal and a crown, and setting me back several thousand dollars... [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 11:22 AM PST - 6 comments

What should I know about buying a used external monitor?

I want to get an external monitor, and found a Dell model I like (U2412M) on Craigslist. Is there anything I need to know, other than that it works when I plug it in? Do current monitors still get burned out pixels? Do they wear out after a certain amount of time? Is there any reason I should pay twice as much for a new monitor?
posted by three_red_balloons at 11:15 AM PST - 5 comments

What (else) is wrong with my car, and can I get 2 more years out of it?

My SO and I are planning on moving to another country in 2 years. We suspect it will be easier to not take any cars with us. We currently have 2 cars, but one seems to be auditioning to join the choir invisible. [more inside]
posted by neutralmojo at 11:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Bathroom light turning off

You are not my electrician but I was wondering if you might experienced this problem. My bathroom has a fluorescent light with a pull switch and a ventilation fan that comes on automatically. I think they run off the same circuit. The light normally comes on fine but after a while- probably about half an hour normally- the light goes off. [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 11:06 AM PST - 10 comments

Identify this cartoon!

Sometime between 1990-1995, I recall watching a TV cartoon about a teenage-ish girl, her brother, and a bunch (maybe 10?) of roughly people-sized talking robots. One of the robots was baseball-themed (carried a baseball bat, etc). The girl wore a yellow-and-black striped bandana that looked like caution tape. This is all I remember about this show. Anyone else recall this cartoon?
posted by markslack at 10:58 AM PST - 2 comments

How can I decrease my student loan burden? (Healthcare edition)

I work in healthcare, and am currently at a great FQHC. The site is eligible for loan forgiveness. Unfortunately, I won't be able to complete the two year minimum to have a large portion of my debt forgiven, as I am moving permanently overseas. I am likewise unable to do any public service loan forgiveness programs in the US. Are there other options that will give me credit for, say, one year worked at a low-income site? What would be the consequences of moving abroad permanently and defaulting on my loans? [more inside]
posted by pocksuppetteer at 10:45 AM PST - 5 comments

Should I get allergy shots?

I have multiple chemical sensitivity allergies, particularly to bleach and fragrances. According to the patch test, I also have less severe allergies to all the usual suspects - dander, pollen, grasses, etc. There are currently no desensitization therapies for chemical allergies like there are for the other stuff. My allergist says I should still do the allergy shot regimen because it will take my system out of constant "high-alert" mode and subsequently reduce the severity of the chemical reactions. I'm skeptical. [more inside]
posted by SpookyFish at 10:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Used pipes + new shower = nasty water. How to fix?

Landlord installed a new shower in my rented home. Did all plumbing himself, used second-hand (salvaged?) copper pipes and metal fittings. Now the shower water is gritty, burns my eyes, and has clogged 2 shower heads with disgusting debris (photo inside). What is causing this? [more inside]
posted by falldownpaul at 9:20 AM PST - 34 comments

Screwed by supervisor -- what to do?

My supervisor's incompetence jeopardized my own work goals. What should I do? [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 8:56 AM PST - 9 comments

the standing desk vs. my health

I recently noticed visible blue veins in my legs. Ahh! Relatedly, I think, I've been working at a standing desk for 7-8 hours a day for the last few months. I love it. But now I'm concerned about some cosmetic and health risks I may be taking on by doing so. Are there ways to mitigate the harm (?) I'm doing? [more inside]
posted by elken at 8:46 AM PST - 9 comments

I should like to find sinister-sounding dance music. Won't you help?

Hello darlings. My, you're all looking proud and healthy today! Delightful. Today, I am looking for song recommendations - in particular, I would like sinister-sounding funk/disco songs. I shall expound on this below the cut. [more inside]
posted by FAMOUS MONSTER at 8:42 AM PST - 34 comments

I have all-clad discount paranoia

Can I trust that the All-Clad pots and pans I bought at TJ Maxx yesterday are the real deal? At the time, I felt like I'd struck gold. Now I'm worried it's the fool's kind. They didn't come with any box, warranty card, or inspection card, and were absurdly cheap compared to everything I can find online--including irregulars. I'm going insane. TJ Maxx wouldn't sell counterfeits, right? [more inside]
posted by scarylarry at 8:30 AM PST - 20 comments

Why are emails to me being opened in Tokyo?

A friend of mine uses the SIDEKICK app (through g-mail ) to let her know when and where her outgoing g-mails get opened. She has told me that in the last few days all her emails to me (I have Yahoo, she has G-mail) show they were opened multiple times in Tokyo Japan. I changed my yahoo password immediately, but she continued to see my emails were being opened in Tokyo even after i changed my password. [more inside]
posted by Lylo at 8:26 AM PST - 10 comments

Help me help my 11 year old brother grow up into an awesome person!

What can I do as his sister to help my brother grow up to an awesome person that's hardworking, successful, happy and responsible (and morally good) person. Also one who's educated and has a good amount of fun, worldly experiences. Right now I'm very afraid of him growing up and being a bad person destined for because because of all of the current situations in his life including the way he's being parented. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 8:09 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me find the best leggings?

I'm shopping for the best. leggings. ever. Help me find them? [more inside]
posted by geeky at 7:53 AM PST - 21 comments

Article on why "relating" to characters in novels is unimportant?

I'm trying to find an article I read a few months ago on how readers shouldn't focus on whether or not they relate to a character. Does anybody have any leads?
posted by mmmbacon at 7:35 AM PST - 8 comments

Bad dog.

I am a newish dog host on DogVacay. I had a bad experience with a dog last night and am wondering what to do about it. [more inside]
posted by prunes at 7:27 AM PST - 15 comments

Tax question - how do I (or do I) pay tax on a distribution from a K-1?

I had an interest in a limited partnership that wound-down and distributed its assets. I received a K-1 with the distribution shown in Box 19. How do I pay tax on this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:00 AM PST - 6 comments

Another "what to do in Boston" question.

Visiting Boston this weekend, and asked my friends to take me to see MIT and Harvard, but they haven't been there either. What is there to see or do that'll mean having a good time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:30 AM PST - 25 comments

Where can I buy a lightbox in NYC or Denver/Boulder?

Are there any stores in NYC where I can buy a lightbox today or in Denver/Boulder where I can buy one this weekend? [more inside]
posted by neematoad at 5:51 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me make this job decision with my BRAIN.

I've just been offered an awesome job! But I feel terrified at the prospect of quitting my current job. How do make myself feel okay about leaving a job that often isn't very good for me? [more inside]
posted by chaiminda at 5:34 AM PST - 15 comments

P18 Urban Cuban secret track lyrics

On the excellent album Urban Cuban by P18, there was a secret track. After about 5 minutes of silence, it was appended to the last track, and wasn't shown on the cover. I now found it on youtube, here it is. But I can't find the words anywhere... I'd be grateful if a Spanish speaker helped me out! Information about the origin and style of this song and similar artists would also be welcome, I'd love to find more like it.
posted by holist at 4:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me decorate a door....

I'm going to be decorating a hotel door soon and I'm TOTALLY cheating by asking for your help.... [more inside]
posted by pearlybob at 1:34 AM PST - 9 comments

October 9

What's there to do in Seattle around New Year's Eve?

A bunch of us Canadians are planning to spend 3 days and two nights in Seattle around New Year's Eve. What's there to do? [more inside]
posted by Hawk V at 11:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Migraines ruining life/career and no one believes me. What now?

I am a mid-30's woman with a very successful career in finance, or at least used I to be successful. I suffer from very frequent migraines and I'm pretty sure I'm about to be fired for all the sick days I have taken this year and also my projects and meetings that have been affected. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:49 PM PST - 43 comments

Hereditary plate of beans: coping strats for overthinking family.

My overthinking things was making me unhappy... so I cut way back on it, and now I'm enjoying life more. Yay! But now I'm way less tolerant of the same behavior in family and loved ones; trying to ignore it leads to awkward, anxiety-producing silences. Boo. Insert your advice here. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:49 PM PST - 6 comments

Everything was fine this morning, until...

This morning my boss sent me an unannounced meeting request and an hour later told me that I needed to watch my attitude. This makes no sense to me, what am I missing? [more inside]
posted by Youremyworld at 10:01 PM PST - 39 comments

Accidental hermit - when should I reply to messages?

I've been chronically ill for a few years where health dictated when I could answer people, and now that I'm mostly back at work, I am baffled by what feels like a shift in asynchronous communication etiquette. It used to be phone/text/email/letter in urgency, but people now expect a same-hour reply for everything, and I wind up with fifty conversations simultaneously. People will have different expectations but I'm looking at what's broadly accepted for 30 year olds online/offline in a modern city. [more inside]
posted by viggorlijah at 9:03 PM PST - 11 comments

Special effect lenses with a corrective prescription?

I've been trying to locate some "white out"-style special effect contact lenses (the kind that make your iris and pupil a milky white, like Storm in the X-Men films when she uses her powers), but I've been having a hard time finding something that fits my prescription. Does anyone know of a reputable store that sells these kinds of SFX lenses with corrective power? [more inside]
posted by millions at 6:49 PM PST - 3 comments

Testing out Portland and Seattle - what neighborhood to stay in.

My wife and I are planning a visit to Portland and Seattle to see if they are cities we would want to move to. What part of town should we stay in? And what parts of town should we visit? [more inside]
posted by kdern at 6:18 PM PST - 17 comments

Spices are the spice of life

I ordered a bunch of exotic spices from Penzeys. Recommend some dishes/recipes so I can play with them! [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 6:12 PM PST - 22 comments

How do I stop asking for help?

I have my first post doc job and am feeling out of my depth most of the time. I also don't have much supervision and can easily panic with problems that I don't know how to solve. I keep reaching out to my former PhD advisor that has given clear signs that he doesn't want to help anymore. Help me stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:57 PM PST - 23 comments

How do I deal with a relationship that'll end when I move away?

Started a relationship with someone and it feels like the closest most intimate relationship I've ever been in, but, I'm financially committed to starting a new job in another country, in a month's time. We've already talked about spending as much time together as possible before the move (and we have a trip somewhere planned our last weekend together) but I don't know what to do after I move away. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:57 PM PST - 8 comments

How do you find rental apartment in Philadelphia? (Coming from NYC)

Philadelphians past and present: What is the normal way for going about finding an apartment in your city? In New York, we would either use Craigslist or pay a broker 10-15% of the yearly rent to find us an apartment (that usually wasn't posted on Craigslist). [more inside]
posted by NYC-BB at 5:48 PM PST - 10 comments

I need pants pockets my hands or keys fit in.

I need help finding pants with pockets large enough to fit my hands (when I'm standing around awkwardly) or a set of keys without them falling out when I'm walking from building to building. Caveat: women's pants that are somewhat professional with straight or tapered legs . [more inside]
posted by kendrak at 4:55 PM PST - 15 comments

Best way to scan and OCR a moderate number of pages

I have ~9,000 pages I'd like scanned and OCRed, spread across 20 books. What will this cost me? [more inside]
posted by dilaudid at 4:50 PM PST - 7 comments

Cheap indoor "searchlights" for a party

We're throwing a hollywood-themed party, and we'd like to have 2-4 plain white spotlights moving across the walls. To my surprise, though, I can't find anything like that for under at least a thousand dollars, even in the DJ lighting world. We don't need anything super bright or controllable, just little oscillating LED lamps. Would rather stay under $50. Please help!
posted by you're a kitty! at 4:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Coding Dojo: worth the money?

So I'm seriously considering doing one of these newfangled coding bootcamps, Coding Dojo in particular. Before I drop a lot of money on it, I want to ask - is it worth the money? [more inside]
posted by hishtafel at 4:16 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me find a job in Southern California

I like my job, but not the location. I'd like to find something similar/related to what I'm doing now in Southern California, but don't really know where I should be looking, and would like some suggestions. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:28 PM PST - 6 comments

NYC EBCBS therapist recommendations?

Friends: do you know the most amazing, effective, compassionate, assertive yet gentle NYC-based therapist who accepts Empire Blue Cross Blue Shield insurance? 'Cuz that's what I'm looking for. I need to work on self-esteem and relationship issues. CBT and non-CBT suggestions desired. I am a 44 year old man. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:28 PM PST - 1 comment

Help me find sexy, fashionable underwear as a xmas gift for my bf!

My boyfriend is a clotheshorse and is a big fan of sexy undies in particular. I have no fashion sense whatsoever, but I would like to spend $25 or less on saucy & fashionable underwear as part of a Christmas gift to him. His favorite colors are Pantone 138, Apricot, and Pantone 1665, Carrot. He is fond of zany patterns & designs that might traditionally be considered "loud." Halp!
posted by zeusianfog at 3:22 PM PST - 12 comments

How do a put together a Social Services costume?

For Halloween this year, I'd like to go as Tilda Swinton's character "Social Services" from the movie Moonrise Kingdom. Can anyone suggest online places to purchase the hat, pantsuit, shoes and a wig? Difficulty: I'm a 6'2" (slim) man. Photos for reference: one two. [more inside]
posted by Cogito at 3:14 PM PST - 3 comments

How to find quality employees without resorting to Craigslist-type sites

How to do I find quality part-time employees for my small business. [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 3:08 PM PST - 13 comments

Best ways to record Skype and phone calls?

What are the best ways to digitally record iPhone calls and Skype calls on a Mac? I do a lot of interviews and I'm always trying out new ways of recording them (legally), but I feel like the magic solution is still out there. Apps, Audacity workarounds, Google voice--what's your preferred method?
posted by gottabefunky at 3:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me help - U.S. healthcare woes

My dear friend is resigning from her job in the near future. She will move to another state in 2-3 months and plans to go without health insurance until she can find a job there. Is this as bad an idea as I think? How can I help? [more inside]
posted by ista at 2:58 PM PST - 15 comments

Looking for fun things to do in Japan

I'll be in Japan for 8 days, starting 10/25. Help me fill those days with awesomeness! [more inside]
posted by evil otto at 2:21 PM PST - 13 comments

Easy-reading history and politics sites

Can you recommend a website that has easy-to-understand recaps of important historical and political issues? I used to think history and politics were boring but after I returned to university and have been exposed to more of it, I've become fascinated to learn more. [more inside]
posted by oceanview at 2:03 PM PST - 3 comments

More Books With the Mystical Properties of 50 Shades of Grey

A few months back my wife read all the books in the 50 Shades of Grey series and, while she did, let's just say the getting was good. What other books could I buy her to stimulate a similar response? [more inside]
posted by Effigy2000 at 1:31 PM PST - 35 comments

Looking for a counselor in PDX - DBT edition

I'm new to the area. A counselor, like a doctor, is a really good person to establish a working relationship with before you need one. Snowflake story inside [more inside]
posted by becomingly at 1:08 PM PST - 3 comments

The Secret Policeman's Other Museum

Berlin Filter: I'm heading to Germany soon, and I was disappointed to learn that the Stasi Museum will be closed while I'm there. What's the next best destination for a tourist curious about the inner workings of the East German secret police?
posted by roger ackroyd at 1:02 PM PST - 7 comments

Historical situations where the seemingly right choice was very wrong

I'm looking for historical/political situations or decisions that made perfect, logical sense at the time but in retrospect seem terribly misguided or worse. These should be situations that when presented very simply, it is clear and easy to say, "Obviously XYZ is the right choice " but where in fact XYZ ends up being an awful choice. Example and further details inside. [more inside]
posted by _DB_ at 12:09 PM PST - 45 comments

Trip to Wales - am I on the right track?

My wife and I are going to Scotland to see friends and family, and since I always wanted to summit Snowdon I thought I would look into a side trip to Wales. Does this itinerary makes sense? Is there not enough or too much time? Do I need to book train tickets in advance? Finally, is the bus trip a big hassle with luggage? Any advice about Snowdon? [more inside]
posted by Pruitt-Igoe at 12:00 PM PST - 20 comments

vegan chilli

Any super easy vegan chilli recipes? I don't cook very often so the easier the better.
posted by pseudodionysus at 11:59 AM PST - 26 comments

Cartographer wanted

I need two or three basic maps for a book. Nothing fancy, just basic black and white, gray for water. I’m no cartographer. Any leads, suggestions, warnings, experiences would be welcome. [more inside]
posted by BWA at 11:43 AM PST - 12 comments

A Simple Grave for Old Men

There's a number of films and books in which an average person finds (i.e., steals) a lot of money, generally in cash, and often next to a dead bad guy. It never goes well for our hero. Two questions: 1) can you think of any additional examples beyond the titles listed inside, and 2) what can we learn from those stories to best ensure we can keep our ill-gotten gains if we find a suitcase full of cash? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 11:27 AM PST - 32 comments

Copying calendar events to non-default calendar.

More of my coworkers and friends are moving (finally!) to using Google Calendar to invite people to events and figure out optimal schedules for everyone. However, when copying events, I'm apparently stuck with my first (default) calendar. How do I change that? [more inside]
posted by andycyca at 10:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Examples of Adoption in Film, TV and Theater

Hey There Everyone, I'm looking for examples in movies, TV, theater, fiction, non-fiction, etc. that show older children being rescued and adopted by people who they are not related to. Thanks so much!
posted by sunnyblues48 at 10:44 AM PST - 37 comments

I like Big Beats and I cannot lie...

I'm constructing a running playlist and looking for some rock music with a quasi-military edge featuring big, heavy drums. Like this or this. Not interested in metal. Can you find me some other examples? [more inside]
posted by Diablevert at 10:42 AM PST - 44 comments

That Guy Wasn't the Wallet Inspector

I'm looking for a wallet with very specific features. I've already made some Etsy inquiries and haven't been able to find what I need. [more inside]
posted by Kitty Stardust at 10:29 AM PST - 5 comments

Proper attire for an opera

Too many years of casual clothing-living has left me with no frame of reference. I'm attending my first opera next month and I'm wondering what the proper attire is. The opera is in Los Angeles and, if it makes any difference, I'm sitting in the nose bleed section.
posted by pibeandres at 10:28 AM PST - 24 comments

Multi-Function Office Machine

My office is trying to upgrade our scanner. The difficulty is that the machine has to also be a fax, and I'm looking for solutions. [more inside]
posted by China Grover at 9:53 AM PST - 8 comments

Makeup for long days

How do I touch up makeup? I've been experimenting with wearing make-up more regularly and I've got some morning routines down, but I need to know how to do a midday touchup for dry skin. [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 9:44 AM PST - 20 comments

Puerto Peñasco/Rocky Point?

Looks like the last question about Puerto Peñasco/Rocky Point, Mexico, is about 10 years old. What's it like these days? Is it still possible to have a chill beach vacation there or has it gone full Spring Break?
posted by elizeh at 9:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Nobody remembers second-place, apparently

Where can I find the previously shortlisted nominees for the Nobel Prize for Literature? [more inside]
posted by kingoftonga86 at 9:06 AM PST - 2 comments

Java needs to make me go OO

After getting laid off due to restructuring (boo!), a contact helped me get a phone interview for a really cool position (yay!). However, it's a Java web developer role, whereas my experience is PHP/perl; I'd have to reach back 15+ years to school for the last time I did object-oriented coding myself, although I've done a lot of C# code reviewing recently. There's going to be coding/design questions, so I'm studying like crazy. Most of the Java stuff I'm finding is either targeted towards experienced C++/C# programmers, OR total beginners ("this is an IDE, drp"). Pointers on best resources for someone who's got a coding background that's just not OO?
posted by laeren at 9:00 AM PST - 9 comments

Help me find my holy grail of travel coffee mugs

Odor sensitive person seeks travel coffee mug that won't accumulate funk. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 8:46 AM PST - 23 comments

New to Sass (Wordpress theme development). Need help with workflow.

New to Sass (Wordpress theme development). What the what? Need help with understanding the workflow. [more inside]
posted by Sreiny at 8:27 AM PST - 6 comments

How do you respond to "You're too expensive?"

Sales Question from a non-Sales Guy: How do you respond to people who say, "You're too expensive?" [more inside]
posted by zooropa at 8:24 AM PST - 22 comments

Thailand, including babies!

This Christmastime, as a side excursion from another trip, my family is going to Bangkok and Hua Hin, for a few days each. "Family" here includes my infant son, who will be about seven months old, as well as my wife and in-laws. Huzzah! I now have two related questions. [more inside]
posted by Sticherbeast at 8:11 AM PST - 4 comments


YANMD. Never had hemorrhoids before, trying to figure out if that's what I'm experiencing now. [more inside]
posted by mean cheez at 7:42 AM PST - 14 comments

Nice way to put GRUB2 onto flash drive with debian installed already on?

I know this would be solvable with search engine and time; humility brings me to the green. I installed a minimal debian system on a flash drive from a debian live cd. Did not install a boot loader. How should I go about putting the boot loader on the drive? Difficulty level: GRUB NOOB. Links, words of wisdom and/or caution appreciated!
posted by bertran at 7:02 AM PST - 7 comments

Community event franchises?

I'm looking for public event franchises that anyone can apply to start up in their own town. I know about Nerd Nite, Ignite, and CreativeMornings. Are there others?
posted by Hobbacocka at 7:02 AM PST - 9 comments

should I continue with CBT?

I recently began seeing a Cognitive Behavioral Therapist for the first time. Sometimes she also refers to what we are doing as "coaching." I have a lot of resistance to her suggestions, and I'm wondering if this resistance is something I should try to work through, or if I should try to stop seeing her. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:31 AM PST - 23 comments

How do I rock my new policy job?

I just landed a really exciting position as a policy analyst/lobbyist for a non-profit which does work I believe in. I want to hit the ground running. What do I need to know? (Difficulty level: I have never worked in policy/lobbying before.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:28 AM PST - 6 comments

Pretty please stop

My husband drinks 6+ beers a night and smokes 2 packs a day. I used to drink quite a bit, but when I took note of how much it drains out bank account, I cut down to 1 or none a night. In the last month he has spent over $500 on drinks and cigarettes. That is money we could be saving. How can I implore him to stop without being a nag? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:27 AM PST - 25 comments

Stop Word 2011 (Mac) hiding the last row's contents in a table

I've just installed Office 2011 on a new MacBook Pro via Office 365. When I create a table in Word and write content in each row, Word hides the content of the last row when viewed on screen. Any ideas how to stop this? [more inside]
posted by dowcrag at 5:34 AM PST - 2 comments

Paris for a 70 year old

I am visiting Paris for 5 days with my mother for her 70th birthday in two weeks time and would like some advice on how to make this trip as stress free as possible for us both, my Mum has full mobility but low energy and large crowds of people, long walks and lots of stairs are not really doable for us on this trip. [more inside]
posted by RandomInconsistencies at 5:33 AM PST - 10 comments

Where to find elbow-sleeve work shirts?

Where can I find slightly fancy, office-appropriate, preferably elbow-sleeve tops? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by woodvine at 5:30 AM PST - 17 comments

Campervan rental in Las Vegas?

Next March My girlfriend and I are planning a road trip from Las Vegas to Salt Lake City by way of some of the national parks between. The plan is to rent a camper in Vegas and drop it off in Salt Lake City at the end. I've looked, and there's dozens of companies who rent campers. Are there any companies that people can recommend in particular? Any to avoid? Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by Silentgoldfish at 4:52 AM PST - 4 comments

An art education for a total newbie?

I have finally found a visual art I can do! Now, I want to learn more about art, but I am not sure where to begin. Help me prepare a reading list of Kindle books and Wikipedia articles please! [more inside]
posted by JoannaC at 4:51 AM PST - 7 comments

Looking for a short story about a woman with a hacked digital tattoo.

Does anyone remember a cyberpunk short story that involved a woman covered in digital tattoos? The tattoos are hacked or a virus is introduced -- by an evil corporation, I think -- and her friends have to rush to save her life. [more inside]
posted by harperpitt at 4:20 AM PST - 11 comments

Need to buy a 30Tb hard drive, what are my options?

My question is should I go with an enormous Linux raid or a dedicated NAS, and which hardware? [more inside]
posted by CautionToTheWind at 1:32 AM PST - 15 comments

Wlan woes

My laptop cannot connect to Wlan anymore. Please help me! [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 12:51 AM PST - 6 comments

October 8

Find past unlock codes for iPhone?

I've forgotten the PIN for my credit card. It was the same as the 'swipe to unlock' code for my iPhone 5 (running iOS 7), three codes ago (ie, I've changed it twice since then). I thought I remembered the PIN, and tried to make this my new unlock code, hoping it would say 'nope, too recent' and I'd say 'a ha, that's it', but no luck (and now I have a new number to remember). Is there a way I can view past unlock codes for my iPhone? [more inside]
posted by obiwanwasabi at 10:26 PM PST - 1 comment

Challenges of measuring progress

What are good ideas how to measure progress towards life goals and future projects? [more inside]
posted by chrono_rabbit at 9:04 PM PST - 11 comments

Northern Ohio pumpkin farm

We will be driving from Chicago to Cleveland along I-90. What is the best pumpkin farm along that route? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 7:53 PM PST - 4 comments

How do I not be a meet cute mouse?

Meet cute happens. (Yes, these actually happen IRL.) The next time I encounter my meet cute, suddenly this successful, smart, outspoken women becomes a mouse. Literally small and fuzzy and hiding in a corner if at all possible. Any concrete strategies for not doing this? HALP! Example and background after the break. [more inside]
posted by susiswimmer at 7:48 PM PST - 21 comments

Name that blog

I am hoping one of the masses can help me remember a photo blog I used to check regularly. I have searched my history and it doesn't go back that far. Details below: [more inside]
posted by virginia_clemm at 7:03 PM PST - 3 comments

Sudden iTunes Woes

iTunes suddenly stops working on a fairly brand-new PC... [more inside]
posted by kuanes at 5:50 PM PST - 6 comments

What do?

I tried to make friends, I thought I did. I room with the one I once considered the closest to me, and now I'm starting to regret it. [more inside]
posted by ourt at 5:43 PM PST - 33 comments

Finding balance between being a doormat and being too unforgiving

How do I find the middle ground between being an over-empathetic doormat and bailing from relationships at the very first sign of trouble? [more inside]
posted by Chkalovskaya at 4:42 PM PST - 16 comments

Name that chicken house!

We've built a lovely new chicken house, and it needs a sign over the door with the name. Best I can come up with is The Chook Palace. What would be a good name for my chicken house/chicken coop? [more inside]
posted by BlueHorse at 4:21 PM PST - 55 comments

Jobs Like Journalism, Minus the Writing

I've been working in either journalism or communications for a few years now and while I like it a lot, I feel like I still haven't quite found the right job. What are some career trajectories for someone who is really good at research, loves talking to people, and has an overwhelming sense of curiosity, but is tired of writing everyday. [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 4:12 PM PST - 14 comments

ALCO Pet carriers. Is there a modern equivalent?

My mom has had three green ALCO brand pet carriers for probably 30-40 years. They look like this and this. We still use them. They are awesome because they open from the biggest side of the box allowing you to easily shove a big, fat, ornery cat in there and close the mesh door. All modern carriers that I've seen have their door at the front, the smallest side of the box, and it's a total pain to get an animal in and out of there. Well, they certainly don't make ALCO carriers any more, and ALCO probably hasn't even existed for decades. Meanwhile, our carriers are in various stages of falling apart. I would like to know if any company makes a similar style, side-loading pet-carrier today, and, if so, where I can find it. [more inside]
posted by KinoAndHermes at 3:47 PM PST - 11 comments

Random Aurora Borealis Spectation Opportunity

What are the chances that on any given night between now and the end of the year I would be able to see the aurora borealis if I make it as far north as Winnipeg? By what percentage can I increase my chances by going further north? [more inside]
posted by Fezboy! at 3:05 PM PST - 13 comments

Almost Single Mom Questions

What should a single mom applying for income based housing try to plan for? [more inside]
posted by Athene at 2:56 PM PST - 18 comments

Jobs for space aliens

I am wondering if there are any particular jobs or career fields out there that are more forgiving of the