January 2018 Archives

January 31

Where should I take my kids tomorrow for a fun day?

I live in Los Angeles (south of the city), and I have the day with my three girls tomorrow (11, 8, 6) while my wife is out of town. I'd like to do something memorable, low pressure, and off the beaten path a bit. [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 9:40 PM PST - 23 comments

YANMD Complicated Feelings about Adderall

My question history is a perhaps-all-too-public narrative of the struggles I've faced, professionally and personally, as someone with a physical disability, a stutter, and a history of depression. Two months ago, I was prescribed Adderall after having wasted 15 years of my life and being at my wits' end. It isn't perfect, but it's given me my life back. More than that, it's changed what I saw as being both the story and trajectory of my life. But I'm scared. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:56 PM PST - 20 comments

The wineglasses made the trip, but our motorcycle did not fare so well.

We just moved our household from Ontario to Alberta and one of our motorcycles was badly damaged by the movers. I know there will be push back from the owner of the company when I ask for compensation for bike repairs, and I'm pretty sure he's going to say how the industry standard for insurance is .60/lb, or something like that. However, because this whole move was super sketchy (No weigh ticket! No receipt for payment!) am I bound by "standards" when I didn't sign anything? Full gruesome details below. [more inside]
posted by unlapsing at 8:47 PM PST - 5 comments

What do I do if I can’t find a job in my chosen field?

I am 28. I went back to school to get my teaching credential and have had an incredibly tough time with teaching so far. What do I do next? [more inside]
posted by ichomp at 7:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me get my kid to go to sleep, please!

My 3.5 year old stalls and stalls bedtime. Asks for one more story, needs water, fix the blankets,etc. I feel like I have tried every technique in the book, from gently 'frontloading' to angrily threatening to take away his favourite blanket for the night. Complicated by the fact that his yelling wakes up baby. [more inside]
posted by leslievictoria at 7:13 PM PST - 34 comments

Beyonce Uncensored

Is Don't Hurt Yourself by Beyonce censored in all version of the album? Or is there an uncensored and a censored version of the album? [more inside]
posted by crapples at 6:35 PM PST - 8 comments

How to deal with this backup situation involving RAID1 HD.

I currently have no full hard drive backup. I obviously need one. I have a RAID1 with a partial back-up. Will this plan work: 1. Remove one HD from raid to preserve the partial backup. 2. Delete all files on the remaining HD and now just copy (using windows explorer) all the files onto that HD for a quick backup. 3. Get backup software. 4. Swap the HDs (take out the one with my file copied backup and put in the other one. 5. Now delete the partial backup and use backup software to create a proper encrypted backup to this HD. 6. Put the second HD back in and count on the RAID to turn it into a mirror of the backup created with software. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 6:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Help me gain core strength

I’m looking for recommendations for exercises to strengthen my core, but without risking significant loads on my back/spine, like squats. (I'm not looking for advice on squats.) Compound movements would be preferred, along with exercises in which I could progressively increase the difficulty with additional weight or time. I work out at a fairly well equipped gym, so there are barbells, dumbells, kettlebells, pulley and plate machines, etc., along with space and mats for working on the floor.
posted by jroybal at 6:10 PM PST - 9 comments

Exposed to adenovirus, any way to prevent illness?

I've just learned that the relative my partner and I spent last weekend with was "getting over" the adenovirus. As far as I can tell from the internet and her emails, she was definitely still in the contagious period. Her adult daughter, who we didn't see, apparently caught it from her, and is in the very acute phase. [more inside]
posted by still_wears_a_hat at 4:42 PM PST - 9 comments

How to learn mechanical engineering skill for better 3D printing design?

Are there resources (online, videos, books) that will give me the basics that I need for hobbyist level? I am thinking that Mechanical Engineering classes from MIT Open Courseware would be overkill, but maybe I'm wrong. I'm not looking to become an engineer, but just build better things from a "maker" perspective. [more inside]
posted by mboszko at 4:34 PM PST - 5 comments

Can I be a typesetter?

I finished a master's degree in Book Design last year, and my favourite aspect of the course was typesetting. Since graduating, I've done some freelance typesetting for the Folio Society, which I really enjoy, but they only give me work every few months. My understanding is that most publishers outsource this kind of work these days, so there are very few typesetter jobs left in the UK. Is it still possible to make a living as a typesetter?
posted by Chenko at 4:18 PM PST - 6 comments

how to tread water while i wait for grad school

I'm not eligible for PhD studentships in the UK because I don't meet the residency requirements yet. I'll be able to meet those requirements in about three and a half years. What should I do with all this time to stay competitive AND to stay patient and mindful with my current situation? [more inside]
posted by quadrant seasons at 3:42 PM PST - 3 comments

MeFi, what's your experience w/ Kitchen Kompact brand kitchen cabinets?

I'd like to get the opinion of my fellow MeFites on Kitchen Kompact brand kitchen cabinets if you've had or currently have them. Are they good quality/poor quality, long-lasting, do you regret or recommend them, et cetera? Thank you!
posted by cokelessrome at 2:39 PM PST - 0 comments

Coping with a bad performance review

I have been in my current role for 5 months and recently had my first performance review. My supervisor was full of things I should improve on and said very little about what she was happy with. Prior to the review I thought I was doing well but now am struggling to keep going in the job. How do I cope with this blow to my work self-confidence? [more inside]
posted by EatMyHat at 1:56 PM PST - 18 comments

Icebreaker-type questions for coworkers

We take turns every week at the office asking a question to learn more about our coworkers (UX designers). It's my turn this week. Can you give me some fun questions to ask?
posted by Dragonness at 1:48 PM PST - 23 comments

How can I get that eucalyptus room fragrance in my home?

I have gone to some upscale furniture stores and love that eucalyptus smell they must use. It is not a medicine-like eucalyptus smell, but more of a (musk?) almost musty scent. [more inside]
posted by nogero at 1:31 PM PST - 16 comments

Mayonnaise, my savior

What are some non greasy foods to dip in mayonnaise? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 1:13 PM PST - 41 comments

Please help identify this (Morricone)? piece played by Igor Levit

Hi, pianist Igor Levit posted this and I gather from the comments that it is from a Morricone score for a Giuseppe Tornatore movie. I am familiar with Cinema Paradiso but don't recognize this. Can anyone help identify the piece or movie?
posted by beisny at 1:08 PM PST - 1 comment

Relationship affirming activities?

For our anniversary a few years ago, my girlfriend and I did the 36 Questions That Lead to Love as a sort of discussion prompt and relationship affirming activity. We both found it really meaningful and heartwarming and we'd like to find something similar to do this year. [more inside]
posted by arcolz at 12:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Can a website be continued by someone else

A government operated website from the USDA, Supertracker, is being discontinued. How easy is it to copy that site and continue it? I realize the domain name would change, but that is not what I'm thinking. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 12:03 PM PST - 9 comments

So . . . millet (vegan edition)

In an effort to try new healthful things, I bought millet. Now I have questions. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 11:35 AM PST - 17 comments

Ceiling noise insulation against footfalls (without lowering ceiling)

Looking to insulate the ceiling of a basement apartnment for sound. I currently have half of it open for a rewiring project. Can't really lower the ceiling appreciably because 1) it's already at a minimum height and 2) I don't want to rip out the other half of the sheetrock, so iso clips, or Green Glue plus another layer of sheetrock won't work. Ideas inside.... [more inside]
posted by msalt at 11:17 AM PST - 8 comments

I want my mind (musically) blown.

NYC Filter- After watching this incredible choir performance of not only the thunderstorm but the following song as well, I would love to see something like this in person. [more inside]
posted by wile e at 11:16 AM PST - 9 comments

Simple DJ Software for Swing Dancing Events

Can anyone recommend a simple DJ software setup? This will be for Swing Dancing events. [more inside]
posted by crios at 11:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Best way to buy multiple iPhones/iPad?

What is the best/most cost effective way to buy 3 Apple products at once? And what model iPhone? [more inside]
posted by widdershins at 10:09 AM PST - 7 comments

Extremely slow MacBook Pro.

I'm troubleshooting an old but previously insanely reliable A1278 MacBook Pro. I'm getting massive CPU load even with a factory default OS restore while offline. [more inside]
posted by loquacious at 9:55 AM PST - 11 comments

How to keep the dopamine flowing when things are not getting done?

Looking for recent books, articles, websites, and suggestions that will tell me how I can naturally stimulate the production of brain chemicals like endorphins, dopamine, serotonin and oxytocin. [more inside]
posted by Xurando at 9:04 AM PST - 20 comments

What did I just do?

Per text instruction from my SO leaving work, I sauteed* random stuff from the fridge: frozen sliced mushrooms, diced onion, diced garlic, chicken bouillon, and then ground turkey... and boy was it good (and the house smells amazing!) I realize I’m not breaking any culinary ground here, but... what did I just make? [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 8:40 AM PST - 23 comments

Where to stay in Singapore?

I'm planning a short trip to Singapore later this year, but unsure which area of the city to stay in. I'm looking for somewhere with a lively downtown vibe and plenty to do in the evenings - bars, live music, theatre, comedy etc. I won't have a car so I'll be walking everywhere. Thanks.
posted by Paul Slade at 8:40 AM PST - 6 comments

YANML, but do our undergrads need clearances BEFORE doing their job?

I work in a research lab that studies infants and toddlers. The children are almost never in a room without their parents, and we almost never provide supervision or "regular and repeated" (?) contact with children. I have done my required background checks, and all of our new undergrads will do them too, but can we avoid any instances where they are "supervising" children while their checks are processing and be in the clear? We are in PA, USA. I'm basing all this off this document. [more inside]
posted by ancient star at 8:33 AM PST - 16 comments

Capitalism As an Emotional Trigger - Book Recommendations?

Need book rec's on the endless pursuit of money compared to other emotional triggers/substitutes like food, sex, self-inflicted pain, drugs, etc. More specifically: any work describing how capitalism as AN IDEA is as addicting/harmful to emotional development as food, drugs, sex addictions, etc. are as tangible objects/experiences. [more inside]
posted by Lipstick Thespian at 8:20 AM PST - 7 comments

Out-complain the complainer

Suppose you think you have a valid complaint to make about a situation, to an individual who is in a position to alleviate the conditions leading to the complaint. Suppose, every time you attempt to address the issue, they immediately launch into a counter complaint of their own. More details after the jump. [more inside]
posted by Nieshka at 7:44 AM PST - 20 comments

Have a terminal M.S. after four years in a PhD program. Now what?

I have been in a PhD program for four years. Last week I was removed from it. I'd been struggling with mental health issues that affected my success in the program, my first PI dropped me last year, and (with department encouragement) my second PI just dropped me. I've taken my terminal master's for lack of other options. How do I put this on a resume? What do I do? [more inside]
posted by socks_for_all at 7:17 AM PST - 47 comments

not anything but the kitchen sink.

My kitchen faucet broke. A plumber installed a new one. Can't decide if it's worth calling him back to fix what he did. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 6:43 AM PST - 10 comments

Android music player with mono

I need an Android music player that has a mono output option. [more inside]
posted by Kirth Gerson at 6:33 AM PST - 7 comments

Luxurious eating with nothing fun added.

I'm a mom of children with severe food allergies, and as they get older and reject more offerings, I'm having a hard time finding ways of keeping myself interested in the process. Can you recommend superlative eating experinces (meals, recipes) that don't include milk, eggs, wheat, or nuts? [more inside]
posted by annathea at 6:29 AM PST - 23 comments

Home Base Vacation Essentials

What are essentials or little luxuries that are great to bring with you on a vacation? [more inside]
posted by neematoad at 5:57 AM PST - 31 comments

What should I replace my 17" MacBook Pro with?

I have a 2011 MacBook Pro (i.e. the latest model before apple stopped manufacturing them). It's logicboard went kaput and the repair place I brought it to says that it would be as expensive as a new laptop to replace and that the replacement would likely also fail. I don't care about expense but I do care about reliability. What should I replace it with or should I fix it? [more inside]
posted by (Over) Thinking at 5:21 AM PST - 14 comments

Rosti me

Whenever I make rosti, or fishcakes, or vegetable fritters etc etc, they go wrong. Fall apart, or burn, or are undercooked in the middle, or just generally suck. What am I doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by threetwentytwo at 5:15 AM PST - 10 comments

Moving forward after abrupt breakup

My long-term relationship recently ended. I'm handling things relatively well, but am still trying to make sense of what happened and how to move forward. I'm also wondering if it sounds like depression played a factor. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 5:02 AM PST - 13 comments

curly hair SOS

I am switching my daily shower from morning to night, to make my morning getting-ready routine a little less time-consuming. I need help figuring out how to make my curly, thick hair look nice all day when I'm not wetting it in the morning anymore. [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 2:50 AM PST - 16 comments

A month with no kitchen - your best microwave survival tips?

I'm slowly doing up my house and this week I ripped out my kitchen cabinets and appliances. I have a whole series of plumbing, electrical works, general building and decorating to do and the likelihood is that I won't get to do any proper (oven and hob) cooking at home until early March. Any tips on surviving and thriving with just a microwave and fridge freezer? I'm fed up already! [more inside]
posted by doornoise at 2:40 AM PST - 23 comments

Does a dishwasher safe rice cooker exist?

I got a rice cooker that claimed to be dishwasher safe. It is apparently not. Is there actually one that is and won't break right away? [more inside]
posted by Crystalinne at 2:25 AM PST - 12 comments

January 30

Did I come on too strong?

I met a person I’d like to be friends with, and we hung out and had a good time, but now I think I did something wrong. [more inside]
posted by Two Stranger at 10:08 PM PST - 16 comments

Do people care about Phi Beta Kappa?

I was invited to PBK last summer, but it’s expensive to join. Is it worth it? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 8:28 PM PST - 27 comments

how much and how long does it cost to replace a door?

The fire department broke into my apartment and I need to replace the door. The landlord is quoting me "over two thousand dollars." Also, it's been two weeks already, and he says it won't be done for another two weeks, during which time I can't lock my apartment at all. Is this reasonable? If not, do I have any recourse? I am in NYC and my lease does not appear to have any relevant language. [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 8:10 PM PST - 16 comments

Do I really need to make an under-insured motorist claim?

An insurance agent says I need to make an under-insured motorist claim after being injured in a wreck, but the offer his company is making me covers my medical expenses, AFAIK. Why is he saying I need to do this? [more inside]
posted by Jennifer S. at 6:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me have a great time in Pittsburgh!

I'm planning a weekend trip to Pittsburgh in the spring (I've never been). What shouldn't I miss? Bonus points for less-touristy, more-off-the-beaten-path stuff. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by escape from the potato planet at 6:19 PM PST - 9 comments

But all I want to do is soak in a hot tub!!

Where should we go for our babymoon that is driving distance from the SF Bay Area? [more inside]
posted by ruhroh at 6:12 PM PST - 10 comments

Tax & Financial Advisor - Northern Virginia

My retired mother and I need some tax and financial planning advice from someone local to northern Virginia. [more inside]
posted by ish__ at 5:06 PM PST - 1 comment

My career just crashed into a wall, and now I need to pick up the pieces

There are plenty of jobs out there that I could do, but I can't move to them. This is proving insanely difficult for a job hunt. I'm starting to panic because I have no idea how to translate my skill-set to another job, let alone something that could be a career. I've never really shifted careers before, and am functionally clueless. I don't know how to identify what skills I have that will translate into another career path. [more inside]
posted by furnace.heart at 4:53 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me dress like it's 1923

I am slated to attend the SF interactive theater piece Speakeasy in March. The show is set in 1923, you are expected to dress in period cocktail attire, and my understanding is people take this pretty seriously. I (male) do not have clothing of the appropriate vintage. The extent of my formal dress is a few normal/modern suits, blazers and dress shoes. [more inside]
posted by eugenen at 4:03 PM PST - 6 comments

I'd put an emoji here but I don't want any spoilers.

Okay, humor me for a moment and close your eyes. Imagine a melon. Like, the platonic ideal of a melon. If you had to render the image of a melon down to its most basic points, if you were playing pictionary, say, what would you draw to communicate "melon" in the most basic sense? Think about that melon. [more inside]
posted by phunniemee at 3:35 PM PST - 94 comments

I think I might be talking about a sippy cup

I just spilled water on my desk at work for the third time in as many weeks. I think it may be time to purchase a spill-proof water bottle, and I'm looking for recommendations. [more inside]
posted by crLLC at 3:03 PM PST - 22 comments

What are the rah-rah characters of mainstream American media?

I'm looking for examples of super-sweet peppy characters in mainstream fiction/movies/TV. Like, Glinda the Good Witch floating in on a bubble, but even cheerier. Super-chipper, "always look on the bright side" types. Overly optimistic. Someone who says "Yay!" unironically. Can you think of some character examples like that?
posted by BlahLaLa at 1:45 PM PST - 51 comments

What does this sign mean?

What does this mean - "It's not denial if the lion eats no grains"? [more inside]
posted by Gorgik at 1:36 PM PST - 12 comments

Bookish women in your 40s--where are you dating these days?

Sort of a follow-up to this question -- where are the cool kids* hanging out for online dating these days? (*Bookish, weird humanities majors of a certain vintage) [more inside]
posted by Capt. Renault at 12:58 PM PST - 13 comments

Massachusetts 2-unit Condo Association feud-in-waiting . . . Help?

My kvetching, particular, downstairs condo neighbor is very averse to change and spends condo association money on projects which we have no interest in spending money . . . she's also quick to become combative and is a bit of a bully. What should my next steps be? [more inside]
posted by eggman at 12:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Out-there learning methods?

Hello! I'm in the middle of studying for a medical board exam. (Step 2, for those interested.) I am already doing the regular stuff--practice questions, flashcards, outlines--but would like suggestions of more bizarre learning techniques that people employ. [more inside]
posted by 8603 at 11:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Extreme caffeine sensitivity vs. Migraines with zero caffeine intake

I'm a caffeine-sensitive person who gets migraines when I have zero caffeine intake. I'm trying to find a balance of beverages that will keep the migraines at bay without leading to dependency, jitters, or insanity. [more inside]
posted by SixteenTons at 11:03 AM PST - 36 comments

Should I send an interview thank you through LinkedIn?

I had an in-person interview with four people yesterday for the perfect job. It seemed to go well. Since I'm going through a staffing company, and I will be the staffing company's employee, the only contact info I have is for my recruiter. But I've found all 4 of the interviewers on LinkedIn. Is it appropriate to send them messages? [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 11:00 AM PST - 16 comments

Scripts and advice for speaking with clients

My standard style tends to be blunt and informational, and I can tell it's just not going to fly with some of my clients. I'm the rare female that dodged being socialized for people pleasing AND I'm currently in a very stereotypically maternal field so I'm getting double the side-eye. [more inside]
posted by Dynex at 10:45 AM PST - 7 comments

toddler birthday party planning

We're having a birthday party for Kid Machine, who is turning two. It'll be from 10 am to 12 pm, and there will be, at most, ten or so kids under the age of five. Please help me figure out WTF WTF WTF, because I have only been to two (2) toddler parties before. [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 9:53 AM PST - 23 comments

Restorative retreat for an overstressed executive?

My husband has a stressful job in the finance industry. Recently the stress and anxiety have taken a toll on him. He's began to take some medication, but it's had minimal effects. I would love to send him to a retreat for a few days where he can just forget about his work obligations and relax. I think he needs a mini-sabbatical to unwind. [more inside]
posted by Ostara at 9:37 AM PST - 11 comments

Recommend me your amazing life coach! (near-ish to Toronto)

Have you had a stellar experience with a Life Coach? Recently? Did it result in real, meaningful change that you consistently tell people was *definitely* worth the money. Please recommend me your person! Willing to travel, so include places within reasonable flying distance from Toronto. Face-to-face only though. [more inside]
posted by OlivesAndTurkishCoffee at 9:15 AM PST - 3 comments

What's the best training to request?

I had a yearly meeting with my manager recently and amongst my requests to her was that I'd like the company to provide some training for me, to broaden my skillset and let me do a wider range of work. She readily agreed and sent me the relevant form for training requests. So now I need to figure out what specific training to request. How do I? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 8:08 AM PST - 9 comments

You Don't Want HER Forwarding Address

I've been getting a sudden influx of junk mail offers addressed to a former roommate - a roommate who moved to Australia, over ten years ago. How can I stop it? [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 7:48 AM PST - 15 comments

Andermatt to Zurich?

I'll be traveling early in the morning from Andermatt to Zurich, by bus and train (via Goschenen, Erstfeld, and Zug). Anything I should know about buses in Switzerland? Can we expect them to be on time? Or speak English? We have a plane to catch and timing might be tight. Any advice appreciated, including emergency alternatives (taxis?) if the plans break down.
posted by molla at 7:44 AM PST - 9 comments

Is reading She Comes First still worth it?

Does She Comes First have useful insights if your partner doesn't want oral? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Is the National University of Medical Sciences (NUMSS) legitimate?

I am affiliated with an organization involved in medical education with a member who claims to have both a DO and a PhD, but looking at their LinkedIn, it appears that both degrees were gained in just 2 years from an online university called the National University of Medical Sciences (NUMSS; see http://www.numss.com/). Is this a legitimate degree? [more inside]
posted by candasartan at 7:04 AM PST - 9 comments

How to research the history of my house

We bought a lovely two-flat in Chicago last year. It was built 100 years ago and converted into a single family home in 2005. How can I find information about the history of my house? Would love to know about past owners, old photos of the street, etc. [more inside]
posted by chimpsonfilm at 6:52 AM PST - 10 comments

I made caramel, now what?

I have and will have more caramel on my hands soon. Any suggestions for how to use it up? Preferably as a pie filling. Thanks yin!
posted by tedious at 6:36 AM PST - 11 comments

Canada Post stalker

A dear friend is receiving anonymous, creepy, but not explicitly threatening mail via Canada Post, from someone who is quite clearly watching their movements in their neighbourhood. These messages range from critiquing my friend's family dynamic (walking behind instead of beside their partner for example) to harshly critiquing articles my friend has written for mainstream publications and websites. The notes are handwritten. A camera won't help, as they're coming through the mail. The police have not been helpful. What would you do? Are there any options here?
posted by lizifer at 6:28 AM PST - 10 comments

Foodie seeks cooking challenges!

I've decided that 2018 is the year of challenging myself cooking wise - making those things that I've always meant to try, hard things, things that aren't hard but most people don't bother with... What should go on my list? [more inside]
posted by Caravantea at 5:31 AM PST - 43 comments

Can I restore this decorative stone bowl?

My wife and I were given a nice stone bowl as a wedding gift about 10 years ago. Over time, it's gotten some discoloration and "tarnishing." I'm not sure what type of stone it is, or how to clean/polish(?)/seal(?) it. How would I go about this? [more inside]
posted by Shepherd at 5:17 AM PST - 7 comments

Suggest me some songs for a male + female + guitar duo!

A work colleague and I have, through being part of the same band, discovered that we really enjoy playing together as an acoustic duo, with just a guitar and our voices. We're looking for new songs to cover. So far we've covered lots of The Civil Wars, which we love, and You + Me… We love a good vocal harmony, so what songs should we tackle next?
posted by gmb at 4:22 AM PST - 30 comments

Antihistamines + sublingual immunotherapy (allergy desensitisation)?

Can I take antihistamines at the same time as undergoing allergy desensitisation via sublingual immunotherapy? [more inside]
posted by daisyk at 1:24 AM PST - 3 comments


I need a property probated. There are no hurdles other than the paperwork and legal filings. Only one other person is involved, and they are cooperative. How much will this cost me? [more inside]
posted by Beholder at 1:09 AM PST - 6 comments

January 29

So You Just Got Your Genome Sequenced...

I downloaded my DNA from ancestry.com as a 17.3MB .txt file.* I want to run the data through other engines and see what I find. What's accurate? What's secure? What's informative or educational? What's free? [more inside]
posted by not_on_display at 9:17 PM PST - 10 comments

Two days in the Scottish Highlands without a car

I've convinced my husband to let us tack on a Scottish sojourn before a family reunion in July. Where in the Highlands should we go? [more inside]
posted by good day merlock at 8:47 PM PST - 19 comments

Is there a ghost in my ice maker?

Why would turning off the water valve to my powder room toilet cause the ice maker in my refrigerator to stop working?! Please help me understand some basic plumbing fact that is escaping me, because the alternative answer is that my refrigerator ice maker is possessed and I don't want that. [more inside]
posted by mccxxiii at 8:19 PM PST - 4 comments

For the storage nerds in the audience...

I’m struggling to find a decently technical deep dive on how storage hardware (hard disks, SSDs, flash) works. Recommend me some books and papers! [more inside]
posted by fencerjimmy at 7:40 PM PST - 10 comments

Recommendations for size 15 winter hiking boots

A friend urgently needs a replacement pair of hiking boots. Strong preference for full leather boots over synthetic/mixed upper. Good quality lug soles, and fully waterproof during long periods of immersion in snow, are both essential. [more inside]
posted by gin and biscuits at 7:02 PM PST - 14 comments

Anchored down in Anchorage

I had a simple desire. I wanted to listen to Michelle Shocked singing Anchored down In Anchorage. But it seems to have been erased from the easily findable Internet. WHY? [more inside]
posted by roolya_boolya at 6:53 PM PST - 14 comments

Returning borrowed item to estranged person

Three years ago, a friend and I were on a similar minimalist/decluttering journey, and she lent me a scanner (which I never was able to make work) to make some of my paper go away. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 6:07 PM PST - 24 comments

Seeking new cellphone for long-term relationship

What smartphone on the market has the best outlook for a long-term commitment? My hand me down iPhone 4 is quickly reaching the end of its battery life and stopped updating years ago, so I'm trying to figure out my next step. [more inside]
posted by Maarika at 5:41 PM PST - 19 comments

New life, new...absence of feeling?

Ever embark on an exciting and empowering new life change that should have you feeling totally psyched and then feel...nothin'? Flakes of snow inside. [more inside]
posted by blackcatcuriouser at 5:04 PM PST - 13 comments

Calling all rose experts!

I moved into a house that came with roses in the backyard and I don't even know the name of them, but they're really tall and scraggly looking and definitely not the bushy variety. I did a hard pruning last winter and probably did it wrong because they're weird looking now. So before doing it again this year, I thought I would try to get some advice about how to properly prune. [more inside]
posted by Forty-eight at 4:52 PM PST - 4 comments

Co-worker thinks I'm dumb and doesn't try to hide it

I'm new as a customer service representative for a company. I've only been working for a couple weeks. Because of my ADHD I have a hard time remembering some of the information. My coworker is usually very polite but sometimes I hear him snickering about the questions I ask. [more inside]
posted by sheepishchiffon at 4:00 PM PST - 20 comments

YNAB -- when should I sign up?

I know metafilter loves YNAB, and I have some mint frustrations, so I want to give it a try. But I also can tell that it's confusing enough that it's worth looking before I leap. First off, when's the best time to sign up? [more inside]
posted by garlic at 3:34 PM PST - 9 comments

When to drop a friend who hasn't actually done anything wrong.

I have a friend, Q, who is very, very important to me. Recently, Q has been ignoring any suggestion that we hang out. Everything else is normal. Should I just drop the friendship? [more inside]
posted by Krop Tor at 3:11 PM PST - 21 comments

How can I make a casserole cook faster?

I goofed and put a casserole that takes 1.5 hours in the oven 1 hour before dinner time. Is there a reliable way to speed it up a little, e.g., throw it in the microwave for 10 minutes to heat the whole thing up before putting it in the oven for an reduced cooking time? [more inside]
posted by Tehhund at 3:04 PM PST - 8 comments

Undercooked beans. Will my (delicious) soup make me sick?

I should have used my InstaPot to cook the beans... lesson learned. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 2:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Remote realtime tools for socializing

I'm looking to put together a toolbox of decent technological solutions for "group hang" activities that are not gaming* and don't require anyone to look at their own face. [more inside]
posted by Lyn Never at 12:54 PM PST - 7 comments

Seedbox for bittorrent with unencrypted HTTP downloads

Can you recommend a reliable seedbox provider (for use with bittorrent) that offers/allows directory viewing and downloading via HTTP without a password? [more inside]
posted by chudmonkey at 12:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Dog sitting/boarding reco's needed - Toronto

I am having difficulty finding suitable dog boarding for our two large-ish mutts. Mutt A tends to play to rowdy, and is best separated from most dogs. Mutt B has some mobility challenges, and needs an environment where there aren’t a lot of stairs or long distances to walk to get outside. They are content to share a large kennel, but separating them is not a problem either. Any kennel recommendations within or just outside of Toronto? Happy to consider having someone come and stay in our home to watch them. We have done this in the past with success, but our sitter has transitioned jobs. Care.com seems complicated? Not sure where else to look online. Where have you had luck online? As info: We tend to take a few long weekend trips, and one week long trip a year. Last minute booking availability to accommodate ie. a funeral in another city or some other unforeseen trip, would be a plus.
posted by walkinginsunshine at 11:52 AM PST - 6 comments

We finally have a plan to move in together, but is it what he wants?

We are 26, have been LDR for 4 months with 4 months to go. My boyfriend doesn't seem as excited about moving in together, but who do I know if it's normal fears or something I should seriously worry about it? [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 11:39 AM PST - 22 comments

My boyfriend is immature but showing signs of improvement, should I stay

I am 25, he is 24. I have asked other questions about him before... [more inside]
posted by anon1129 at 11:26 AM PST - 36 comments

My mom had a stroke, and we both could use some help.

My mom had a stroke recently and is left with some physical limitations. She's currently in a skilled nursing facility, but will have to transition out of there in about 8 weeks. I am the only caretaker, and she and I both are completely overwhelmed. I could use some help figuring out logistics for when she comes home, and wouldn't turn down some advice on how to keep my own sanity through all of this. [more inside]
posted by tryniti at 11:24 AM PST - 13 comments

2 Month Job to Fill an Academic Employment Gap

I am currently in a 2 year post-doc. Due to some contractual weirdness I will be unemployed in July and August. I'm also pretty flexible in terms of being able to move for a job. More details below the jump, but is there anything out there that might fit an academic's skillset? [more inside]
posted by codacorolla at 11:03 AM PST - 8 comments

Tea Me

A/V cables : Monoprice.com :: Tea : ___________ [more inside]
posted by DirtyOldTown at 9:33 AM PST - 33 comments

Extreme Long-Shot Filter: Russian Music Edition

In the mid-1990's there came into my possession an unlabeled cassette. On this cassette was about 90 minutes of a gravelly baritone/bass shout-singing in Russian over an acoustic guitar. No other voices or instruments on the tape. There was absolutely no subtlety to the playing- just very strong quarter-note strumming. The vocals were astonishing- so much rage and feeling. This was a professional recording, good quality. I have no idea where to even start looking for this. Help?
posted by bluejayway at 8:55 AM PST - 10 comments

Is Any One Tax Program Better Than Another?

I've used TurboTax, HRBlock and other online tax programs and I wonder if any one program in particular gives you more of a refund than any other. Is one more thorough?
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 8:50 AM PST - 10 comments

Salvia Amber aka An Shen Ding Zhi?

I can't find much online about whether this is effective or, indeed, safe. Anyone used it? [more inside]
posted by Smearcase at 8:35 AM PST - 10 comments

Adhering two flat pieces of stainless steel

My espresso machine has a little stainless steel basket under the grouphead (i.e., where water comes out) that is covered with a little removable grille. The support for the grille--an inverted L (or, really, gamma) shaped piece of stainless steel--has come away from the side of the basket. The bracket had been spot welded, but due to moisture, the welds rusted away. What's the best way to put these two pieces of stainless back together? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 7:19 AM PST - 20 comments

Renting and regularly walking to this Chicago apt - a dumb idea?

Chicagoans! Now is your time to tell me not to worry so much about crime, that it's grossly exaggerated by paranoid outsiders, and that I should just exercise common sense -- and go ahead and rent this place at LaSalle and North Ave in Old Town. [more inside]
posted by amtho at 6:21 AM PST - 24 comments

How to Handle Horribly Awkward Neighbor Situation?

I recently met my neighbor socially (shared walls, poor insulation) that I've only seen in passing until now. I know way too much about them and they must know way too much about me, how to deal? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:03 AM PST - 20 comments

Are cashmere/alpaca garments worth it?

I have heard that cashmere and alpaca don't have much "memory", so garments made with them will tend to stretch out and lose their shape. So what are the practical implications when deciding whether to buy cashmere/alpaca sweaters/hats? That would make me think cashmere/alpaca shouldn't be used for those sorts of garments, but they often are.
posted by tangerine_poppies at 4:44 AM PST - 23 comments

How to decorate/re-organise my spare room

I’m looking for some advice on how to update my spare room in terms of layout/decoration/storage. As background, my partner and I live in an old Victorian flat in Scotland. We have our main bedroom and the spare room is used for storage and has a platform bed built in (quite common here). I’ve spent this weekend ruthlessly clearing out the spare room to see what I have left to work with - photos are here. Currently it is used for: working from home; writing; occasional art projects; and for people to sleep who are visiting (kids on futons on the floor, adults on the platform bed). Everything needs to be able to be put away fairly easily as we share it and it can quickly look cluttered (i.e. I am writing or working on art projects, my partner then working for a few days). Dimensions of the room are 2.75m by 2.05m (9ft by 6.7ft). The platform is 1.95m off the ground (6.4 ft) and the storage unit under the bed is 40cm deep (15.7 inches). Total height of the room is around 3.3m (10.3 ft). Background and specific questions below. [more inside]
posted by sedimentary_deer at 4:24 AM PST - 7 comments

Should my son repeat Kindergarten?

We are taking our son out of private school to put him in public school. The issue is that my son was born in late September. The cutoff for the private school is Oct 30, but it is Sep 1 for public school. So right now we have the option of either trying to get him into 1st grade at public school, or just have him repeat K. What are some pros and cons for each? [more inside]
posted by w84rav at 12:23 AM PST - 41 comments

January 28

Sense8ory withdrawal

Having binged my way through the first 2 seasons of Sense8, I am now sad. I will probably rewatch before the finale comes out later this year, but in the meantime, what do I do? Details within. [more inside]
posted by Athanassiel at 11:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Is this just stress?

I have a lot of stress in my life right now. I've also noticed that I've been have some weird interactions with food. I think it's just from the stress, but is this anything I need to evaluate further? [more inside]
posted by Nonsteroidal Anti-Inflammatory Drug at 9:40 PM PST - 12 comments

What is a 1953 Korean Cigarette Box Worth?

So my late father left me a Korean cigarette box holder made from wood, inlaid with mother of pearl that says Korea and Koje-Do with a farmer smoking a pipe. [more inside]
posted by watercarrier at 9:23 PM PST - 4 comments

Questions surrounding a to be new therapist

I just left my therapist and am looking for a new one. My college has a counseling center and I have a choice between zeeing two people. One is A, who I've seen in person once cor an evaluation and liked her. I also had a "walk-in" phone session with her. I would see her on a consistent weeekly basis but she's booked full. She gave me the option of seeing her on a walk in basis. I would probably go once a week. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 8:32 PM PST - 4 comments

Seeking books/articles for interracial couple navigating racist in-laws

Asking for a friend. My friend is a woman of color who is married to a white man. Since the beginning of their relationship, her husband's mother (now her mother-in-law) has said racist and mean-spirited things to my friend. My friend just gave birth and the behavior has gotten worse. She's looking for resources to help her and her husband navigate boundaries with the in-laws as they want their child to have some sort of relationship with the grandparents later in life. [more inside]
posted by rogerrogerwhatsyourrvectorvicto at 8:25 PM PST - 10 comments

Really? Nobody invented this yet?

I want a fork that I can set in my (large) salad bowl (basically a large mixing bowl) and have it not slide down into my salad. Like probably, with a hook on the end of the handle that hooks the edge of the bowl. Seems like someone should have invented this by now. [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 6:27 PM PST - 23 comments

Think Positive... Be Positive... uh, how, please?

How do I combat entrenched negative thought loops when it comes to writing a resume and using that resume to hunt for a job? [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 6:03 PM PST - 11 comments

I am experiencing major anxiety towards a simple assignment, help!

I have to complete a rather simple assignment (an evaluation of a research article) for one of my grad school classes, it's due Wednesday. As of this moment I only have the introduction written. I don't know if I'm experiencing imposter-syndrome or where the anxiety is coming from, but I am spinning my wheels trying to complete it. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 5:25 PM PST - 20 comments

Help me get legit Starbucks cups

So I have some mugs that "happened" to come to me from a Starbucks cafe for internal store use, the 20oz and 16oz venti and grande size plain white internal use ones... they are my favourite daily use mugs for everything. I can't ethically source more alas, and Starbucks only sells them up to 14oz pathetic size. I want the same heavyweight ceramic with plain solid construction (not novelty giant mugs or pointless teacup flare), and am willing to pay up to $20 a cup. I have spent HOURS searching for this. Help me, hivemind!
posted by dorothyisunderwood at 3:44 PM PST - 15 comments

Oversleeping and Inertia

For the last 8+ weekends in a row I have slept all day to avoid doing leftover -- but high priority!!!! -- tasks from work. This is not mature behavior and I know better than to shirk my responsibilities by hiding from them. The inertia I feel is paralyzing. What are the tactics you use to force yourself to get stuff done when you have to work on the weekend? [more inside]
posted by Hermione Granger at 2:44 PM PST - 25 comments

Cleaning House: An Uphill Battle in a Wheelchair

As someone with back pain/endurance issues, low energy ( though helped by ADD) and two working but depressed parents with years of emotional baggage themselves, how do I declutter our house, especially when a lot of what needs clearing either isn't mine, is stuff I have no idea what to do with (old documents and meds), or isn't possible for me to do ( ie moving furniture). So much of it needs to go, the rest of it needs to get organized, and most importantly, what's gone needs to not come back. How do I do this with little to no support? Where do I start, and how do I continue? WOT inside, sorry. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 1:09 PM PST - 21 comments

Career Options with Chronic Illness

Seeking help with career change research. Female, 20s, college degree ( BA Communication Studies /Media Production, Drama). Hashimoto's Disease (autoimmune hypothyroidism) with other issues/complications, including digestive issues. Not well-managed, not much success with doctors. I found Ask MetaFilter while researching career ideas for the chronically ill, and wanted to present my situation because I've been researching and trying things for a few years but haven't found a concrete solution yet. Would appreciate input/advice. [more inside]
posted by dancer4life at 1:05 PM PST - 14 comments

Recommend articles, podcasts, TV, and movies about disaster response.

I have been really interested in both fiction and non-fiction narratives where a team of people or a collection of people respond to a disaster. The Radiolab episode on NPR today was about medical triage in disaster situations. I was also fascinated by this article about the response of an ER doctor and his team to the mass shooting in Las Vegas. Can you recommend me more of the same? [more inside]
posted by mai at 12:55 PM PST - 12 comments

Don't know what this behavior is called, or how to safely replicate it.

[ADHD Filter] I find that I am most productive when I am "playing hooky" or have just canceled plans. It can be really difficult for me to focus and find the enthusiasm to get things done, otherwise, even with years of help from ADHD therapy, meds, and life-hacks. Is there a name for this behavior, especially in the context of ADHD? If so, how do I replicate the circumstances without causing collateral damage to others? [more inside]
posted by nightrecordings at 12:02 PM PST - 12 comments

How did Latin American national identities emerge?

Looking for books/your answers/other resources about how different Latin American national identities came to be and how the continent came to be divided into different countries. Why, for example, is North America split into 3 countries and Central and South America are split into many more? What differences are there between Chilean and Argentinian national identity? Those sorts of questions. I am mainly interested in the Spanish-speaking countries, not as interested in Brazil etc. Thank you!
posted by iamsuper at 11:51 AM PST - 8 comments

Printing to a Windows-based printer from Mac High Sierra

I have a trusty Samsung ML-1740. My husband can print just fine from his PC, but I have not been able to figure out how to print from my Mac for several upgrades now. This is the most promising solution, except that it is 3 years old and the Linux Foundation Ghostscript and Foomatic filter only go up to Maverick. I haven't been able to find another solution. I really hate to add to electronic waste by buying a new printer when this one works great otherwise. Thanks in advance!
posted by Original 1928 Flavor at 11:36 AM PST - 9 comments

Rhetorical figure / argumentative strategy: Classical term needed

Any rhetoricians here? How is the following rhetorical figure called: Person A asks a difficult and complicated question and hopes to obtain a well-founded answer. Person B answers in an even more complicated and longish manner, obfuscating the fact that he / she is not able to comply with A’s expectation. Now, "obfuscation" is not the word I’m looking for, nor is "obscuration" or "overcomplication" (what comes closest to the strategy itself). What I need should be classical technical term like "reductio ad absurdum". Shouldn’t such a terminus exist, given the tradition (and the ongoing prevalence) of this figure?
posted by megob at 11:27 AM PST - 7 comments

How to keep cell phone light from waking spouse

I wake up in the middle of the night and am awake for several hours. Often I read on my cell phone. My husband and I already sleep in separate beds on opposite sides of the room, but the light from my phone is still waking him. Assuming that separate bedrooms are not possible, what are possible solutions to this problem? (Please, let's set aside discussions of proper sleep hygiene and find a way for me to stay in bed staring into my biorhythm-disrupting cell phone light.)
posted by HotToddy at 10:35 AM PST - 30 comments

Regulations/laws on management of a union office in Ontario, Canada?

What laws and regulations govern operation of the office of a labour union or professional association in Ontario, Canada? If the group is not incorporated under the Ontario Not-for Profit Corporations Act, are there other laws or regulations governing things like the responsibilities of the president, treasurer, and boards of directors; audit requirements; terms and conditions for staff; record-keeping, etc.? [more inside]
posted by rpfields at 10:24 AM PST - 3 comments

Looking for a document collection box with a date stamp.

I'd like to find a device that will both collect documents (standard 8 1/2X11 pages) and date stamp the documents as it collects them. The device needs to be secure (can only be opened with a key). Does such a thing exist?
posted by ezrainch at 9:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Have you used Hancock Vitality life insurance?

Have you used Hancock Vitality life insurance? [more inside]
posted by aetg at 9:51 AM PST - 1 comment

Why can’t I get over someone who cheated on me?

About 6 months ago, I split up with someone who was cheating on me. I still feel incredibly hurt, and I’m finding it very difficult to move on. How can I get over this? [more inside]
posted by inner_frustration at 9:41 AM PST - 24 comments

Landlord doing construction on house for several weeks

My roommate who owns the home I'm renting from suddenly started fully renovating his bathroom which is right across the hall from me and says it will take an unidentifiable number of weeks. [more inside]
posted by korrasamus at 9:28 AM PST - 16 comments

January 27

Making a Windows 10 bootable thumbdrive using a Mac

Help step me through the process of taking a Win10 iso image I downloaded from Microsoft (via) onto my Macbook (running OS 10.13.2 High Sierra), slapping it onto a thumb drive, and making it work as a bootable disk on a Dell Optiplex 7010 when I select "USB" as the boot option via the BIOS menu. [more inside]
posted by not_on_display at 11:38 PM PST - 7 comments

What is therapy like in different countries?

I think I have a pretty good grasp of US-based counseling/psychotherapy. However, I've been curious lately about how folks in other countries (excluding Europe, USA, and Canada) experience psychotherapy. [more inside]
posted by eggs at 7:16 PM PST - 12 comments

Need to look like Wonder Woman, but not costumey

I'm planning festivities for my love interest's birthday. He is a huge Wonder Woman nerd (all the comics, tv show, movie--everything). I'm trying to put together an outfit that is definitely Wonder Woman-inspired but isn't a costume. It should have sex appeal but still be suitable for a night of nice dinner, watching roller derby, and hanging at a craft cocktail speakeasy. More details await! [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 6:56 PM PST - 21 comments

Can badgers swim across one's moat?

The local badger population has recently become more brazen in their nocturnal wanderings and adventures. This has led to unacceptable conduct, namely unwelcome intrusions into the garden of one's lady friend, causing distress to bushes and other flora. What effective measures can one take to deter such incursions, without causing harm or injury to either badger or human?
posted by Wordshore at 6:52 PM PST - 15 comments

Alexa, Escape the Room hints please

Kids who are way under the target age range for the Escape the Room Amazon Echo skill have fallen in love with the game. Specifically, they are trying to escape the car. I haven't been able to find a walkthrough anywhere online. If you know of one or can outline the solution, that would be great. I just want to help them over the really complicated parts, and don't have hours of free time to puzzle it out myself.
posted by benzenedream at 6:20 PM PST - 2 comments

Please help me navigate hospice/palliative care in NYC

My father is terminally ill. He no longer wishes to live and after I explained and discussed it with him he wishes to receive hospice care. Please give me advice as to how to start bringing this about. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by coolname at 4:56 PM PST - 14 comments

Recommendations for Portland Therapists That Accept Oregon Health Plan?

Asking for a friend with OHP who's having a rough time and needs some help filtering their options for therapy. [more inside]
posted by space_cookie at 4:39 PM PST - 4 comments

Cheap, cosmopolitan city for queer millennial

I'm looking to save money for traveling and I want to move to a fun cheap city! Where can I get a 1BR, stash some cash and still have access to queer life and great amenities without a car? [more inside]
posted by fritillary at 4:05 PM PST - 46 comments

Budget Beats

I would like to learn percussion, but financially I can't afford a drum set right now and my living situations isn't the best for having a full drum set in the house. Looking for resources to learn anyway... [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 3:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me find my way around

My phone is an LG G5 on the ATT network. Google maps can figure out where I want to go when I enter an address, but it won't navigate me there with turn-by-turn directions like it used to. [more inside]
posted by Shohn at 3:25 PM PST - 7 comments

Radical baptism greetings to you

What should I write in this card for a child's baptism? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 3:20 PM PST - 11 comments

How best to donate art?

I was friends with an artist who sent me several original pieces. Now our relationship has cooled. We're not on bad terms, but I think we would be if I made a point of sending their work back. At the same time, we're not on great terms, so I don't want it anymore. How can I quietly find it a good home? [more inside]
posted by thesmallmachine at 1:46 PM PST - 16 comments

Who wouldn't want to go to Italy?

I have a family wedding in Italy coming up (it's there at the whim of the couple getting married, my family has no particular connection to Italy), and am at a loss for what to do aside from going to the wedding. Experienced travelers and people who live in or love visiting Italy, please help me plan a trip I can look forward to! [more inside]
posted by snaw at 1:14 PM PST - 19 comments

Modern geometrics tote/go to work bag - suggestions?

Say you were looking for a modern (even futuristic) geometric bag similar to Issey Miyake's infamous BAO BAO bag, but something a little less expensive (less than $100) and probably more durable for a daily commute. Where would you look? I'm looking for something shoulder bag size - big enough to hold letter sized papers, lunch box etc. but not a messenger bag per se). It would be geometric, modern... think sharp lines, Blade Runner-like feel. I'm open to suggestions about materals (leather? plastic? wool? metal? holograph? Who knows!) Are there particular brands or stores that make such things? Bonus points for folks who also make modern cross-body purses. I like Zara's aethetic, for what it's worth, but am open to suggestions and coming designers. Bring me your futuristic suggestions - I'm all ears!
posted by rmm at 1:06 PM PST - 5 comments

Is a lack of Facebook making me unhappy?

I quit Facebook (and all other social media) about four years ago. I keep in touch with good friends and family over email and phone. Quitting seemed a good decision for the first couple of years. Now I'm not so sure. [more inside]
posted by splitpeasoup at 12:30 PM PST - 20 comments

Indie video on no budget

I recorded a song called “21 Elephants” (about Jumbo the elephant crossing the Brooklyn Bridge). I would like to release a video for it during the Women’s March Madness tournament. The friend I hired to do this had to leave the project on short notice. Help? [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 11:21 AM PST - 2 comments

Phrases to Communicate Empathy Without the Word "Sorry"

What are your favorite phrases to commiserate with someone (in casual conversation) without using the word 'sorry'? [more inside]
posted by carlypennylane at 11:17 AM PST - 36 comments

Can I upgrade my incredibly, incredibly old laptop?

Is it realistic to try and improve performance on my 2009 Acer laptop? What little things can I do to make it better? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 11:12 AM PST - 14 comments

Recommendations for cat-sitter in West Philadelphia

I'm going to be traveling in early March, and am looking for recommendations for someone to feed and play with my cat at my apartment in West Philly. [more inside]
posted by kalimac at 11:03 AM PST - 5 comments

I think I'm gay. Why does attention from gay men feel violent to me?

I don't think, at 28 years of age, that there's much use in denying the fact that the male form makes me feel and think things that don't occur ( at least not with the same intensity) to self-described straight men. I find some women attractive, but the threshold is much lower for men. Why then, does the mere thought of being intimate, emotionally or otherwise, with another man, make my skin crawl? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:13 AM PST - 19 comments

Question about customer vs shareholder value

Why does it seem companies behave as if investors are more important to them than customers? From what I see of stock prices, if investors feel a company is losing customers, stock price falls. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 10:11 AM PST - 7 comments

Know no nose?

When I was younger, I read multiple predictions that humans would evolve to have no noses. No protuberances sticking out, anyway. What was the reasoning behind this prediction? And did it have anything to do with depictions of (presumably more "highly evolved") aliens with holes instead of noses?
posted by clawsoon at 9:49 AM PST - 4 comments

An encrypted postcard?

Is this message written in code, or is it some kind of script?
posted by Morpeth at 9:39 AM PST - 6 comments

Best way to clear apt quickly, or, why didn't I buy Kondo's book sooner?

The movers have come and gone, and I'd like to finish this up fairly quickly. [more inside]
posted by intrepid_simpleton at 9:11 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me understand this romantic mindf***

My lizard brain thinks he's my soul mate [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 7:37 AM PST - 14 comments

How To Get Reimbursed For Healthcare Your Insurance Doesn't Cover

I have spent a ton of money on therapists and doctors and treatments that my insurance doesn't cover. Is there a way to get reimbursed for this? Even partially? I have no out of network benefits. I live in NY state Thank you
posted by kbbbo at 7:01 AM PST - 9 comments

Best strategy for getting groceries home without a car?

I'm unable to drive due to my disability, but my therapist doesn't think that I qualify for a caregiver. How can I get my groceries home? [more inside]
posted by Eevee at 3:51 AM PST - 37 comments

I can't; I'm busy in 2023.

How do you politely decline requests that are too open-ended for a hard "no"? [more inside]
posted by Anita Bath at 1:43 AM PST - 40 comments

How to cope with a very rough rough patch in marriage?

My marriage seems to be crumbling (or at the very least, has hit a doozy of a rough patch), and I am not sure what I should be doing, or how to cope with everything that is happening. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:31 AM PST - 14 comments

January 26

Gaming Haven

Hello, AskMe! I have searched previous questions but did not find this particular one. Tax refund time is rolling around and I am building myself a lovely little entertainment center/gaming heaven, YAY. [more inside]
posted by Zarya at 11:08 PM PST - 7 comments

Show me your creative HSA (and other healthcare) options!

We pay more for health insurance than we do for rent. We plan to start an HSA and are wondering what our best options are. Our collection of part-time jobs won’t allow us to buy in, so we’re shopping around. What have you? [more inside]
posted by AnOrigamiLife at 10:13 PM PST - 6 comments

What painting is this?

It's the one above the fireplace from Mrs. Maisel. Here's a terrible screen shot. [more inside]
posted by jeffamaphone at 8:36 PM PST - 8 comments

What phone do I want? Android, Verizon, not the Galaxy

My Christmas present was a new phone, which I was supposed to pick out before Christmas, and I still haven't gotten around to it! I use Android, on Verizon, and I don't want a tip-top of the line phone, and it MUST be sturdy (or well-warrantied). What do you suggest? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 7:55 PM PST - 15 comments

Am I rude on the phone?

How can I make phone conversations less awkward and uncomfortable? Examples inside. [more inside]
posted by koucha at 7:34 PM PST - 16 comments

How to *thrive* without a family?

So, before Christmas I asked how to "survive" without a family and now I want to figure out how to thrive without a family. I guess this is another one of my never ending saga regarding my alcoholic, mentally ill mother, etc. I'm slowly, slowly starting to distance myself from her and let go of a lot of the worries I have about her future and my place in her life as she ages. I'm ready to just embrace being family-less, but doing that makes me feel soooo fucking frightened. [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 6:46 PM PST - 14 comments

Site to Read Real Code (Like Python)

Website that would show programming code alongside English explainaction on what the code does? [more inside]
posted by alice_curiouse at 6:44 PM PST - 6 comments

GPS stands for Gross Panicky Stress

I suffer from poor night vision and don't feel safe navigating unfamiliar routes on highways in the dark. The slight visual lag in judging how close a speeding headlight is as it approaches makes highway driving at night unsafe if I'm trying to figure out a route, particularly if it calls for city highway crossover driving with multiple exits from various lanes. At night, I can drive highway routes I know very well, or else I want to go on non-highway routes. Problem: Using GPS to navigate. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 6:22 PM PST - 12 comments

Name that Game: Obscure Command Line 4x Edition

I have a soft spot for really geeky, text-based games from the dawn of the Internet, and have been racking my brain trying to find info about one in particular. It was apparently like Master of Orion on steroids, a sci-fi empire-building game which was apparently multiplayer-only and probably can't be played anymore. Googling is failing me, I feel like it had "Solar," or something in the title, but that's about all I have. Needless to say, it isn't Sins of a Solar Empire :) [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 5:56 PM PST - 8 comments

What to do with $$

I'm helping my parents sell their house. They will likely make over $400k on the sale (California, crazy, I know). They are old. Where should we put the money so that it is sufficiently liquid that they can spend it on their needs, but will earn some interest? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 5:43 PM PST - 10 comments

Are they dead yet? (HDDs)

So I have a Sabrent HDD dock. It plugs into a USB port, and you drop hard disks into it to access them. I also have some drives that were in a NAS, that, when I drop them in the dock, whether it's attached to my MacBook or my Win10 desktop, spin up and then... nothing happens. Nothings mounts. I don't get a "do you want to format the disk?" prompt. [more inside]
posted by Wilbefort at 5:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Philosophical texts for helping me not hate people I don't know?

Lately, when I reflect on the state of the world, I am not-infrequently overcome with hatred toward the large number of people in my country whom I perceive to be ruining things with their bad voting decisions. I want to not feel this hatred. Can you recommend specific readings or systems of thought to help me replace this feeling with something else? (Nothing that appeals to religious belief please, as I have none of that.) Thanks!
posted by The Minotaur at 3:53 PM PST - 22 comments

Need a reliable office printer for business checks...

Currently we have been using a Canon MF8050CN for our business check printing. It uses the large toner black and color cartridges. It has become obsolete, we need to replace it with a new printer that meets all these specifications: [more inside]
posted by just asking at 3:26 PM PST - 2 comments

Gov. financial/access support for WA state deaf employee?

A friend has recently begun supervising a Washington State office where one of the (handful of) employees is deaf. The interpretive service they sometimes use costs the office dearly. Is there some kind of program or fund that a Washington State employee/dept. can use to make this kind of access easier/cheaper? [more inside]
posted by cult_url_bias at 3:10 PM PST - 5 comments

How many containers of various sizes fit in a quart-sized bag?

I will be traveling from the U.S. to Europe for ten days in a couple months, and I am thinking about doing it with just a carry-on bag. I think I can manage that (I will have access to a washer and dryer for the second half of the trip), but I am a bit stymied by the TSA's 1-quart bag requirement for liquids and gels. [more inside]
posted by merejane at 3:02 PM PST - 21 comments

MP3 player for runners?

For years I've been using various versions of an iPod Shuffle when I run. My latest one is starting to get flaky, and I think it's time to see what else is out there. Does anyone have any recommendations? See inside for my specific likes/dislikes. [more inside]
posted by Salieri at 2:18 PM PST - 11 comments

What if I really WAS to blame for getting sexually assaulted?

For years I either failed to set any boundaries, or I trained him to consider them porous. [more inside]
posted by MiraK at 1:28 PM PST - 54 comments

Prague mid-February: cold weather clothing and footwear

Will be in Prague and the surrounding region in the middle of February. We are from a famously moderate climate where winter is not so cold and summer not so hot. No hiking or trekking, but we will be out walking in the city and small villages for extended periods day and night. Trying to pack light - so what essentials to take for wet/cold weather?
posted by Hugobaron at 1:20 PM PST - 4 comments

Schwab or Forex? How should I decide?

I'd like to transfer a large sum of money (~$40000) to the US from a UK current account. Is there an advantage to using a forex service such as XE over my bank, Charles Schwab, who is known to have competitive currency exchange rates?
posted by heterosoy at 1:19 PM PST - 5 comments

Integrative oncology, especially the Block Center

I'm wondering if anyone has personal experience of the Block Center for Integrative Cancer Treatment or other integrative oncology centers. [more inside]
posted by FencingGal at 1:03 PM PST - 3 comments

How did this car insurance snafu happen?

A friend recently had a car accident in her leased vehicle; she has had it for just under a year, leased from a prominent local dealership. She called her insurance company to report, and lo and behold- the leased vehicle she's been driving all this time was not on the policy. Her previous car was still listed. How is this possible? [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 12:19 PM PST - 12 comments

Advice on career/job path that fits my needs.

How can an exhausted, sensitive (HSP), traumatized, fast-learning, resilient, determined, but in need of calm, harassment-free, non-demanding, low-stress, no selling, stable job/career make a living in 2018? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:13 AM PST - 9 comments

if you have nothing to hide, you have nothing to fear

Is personal privacy using an Android phone achievable by a mere un-techie mortal? Please point me in the right direction of settings or apps or widgets which will help me not be a schill for Mega Corp. [more inside]
posted by stevedawg at 11:12 AM PST - 12 comments

Simple Mac text editor WITHOUT AUTOSAVES

I want to get back into keeping a personal journal. I will lock down the actual file on an encrypted drive, but I don’t want my text editor to keep an auto saved version on my computer that I don’t know about. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by myaskme at 11:12 AM PST - 4 comments

Is this assault "bad" enough to file a police report? Should I?

Minor assault, major repercussions....? [more inside]
posted by clseace at 11:10 AM PST - 44 comments

Where to wear my little red dress to dinner on the Central Coast?

Hi MeFites...before I moved out to California I bought a fabulous cocktail dress. It’s a dark red velvet and was intended to be my New Year’s Eve dress but unfortunately I got sick and it’s been burning a hole in my closet since. Is there anywhere on california’s Central coast-we love in Nipomo but will travel as far as Santa Barbara to the south or Cambria to the north- that I could wear it to dinner tomorrow without feeling way overdressed? Would especially love an Italian and/or seafood place. Bonus points for a place that’s not tooooo stuffy or pretentious. We live in the hills and manage to stay away from civilization most of the time :)
posted by sparringnarwhal at 10:40 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me figure out this grad school thing... working full time / non-STE

Most advice I'm finding here and elsewhere is for STEM, professional academic track degrees, or grad school as a way to change fields.  I work full time and am looking to use grad school to progress in my current field.  How does this actually work? [more inside]
posted by sepviva at 10:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Healthy (but not too healthy) party snacks?

My family has started to host social events that are interfering with my attempts to eat a more healthy, whole-foods diet. I want to serve snacks, but avoid the chips and cookies habit. On the other hand, I'm not trying to go too far in the veggie-tray direction...just more looking for anything easy to make and fun to eat that's nutritionally more like a meal than a pile of refined carbs. FWIW I'm mostly gluten-free, but can probably work around that. Thanks!
posted by lgyre at 10:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Love in the time of internet images

My question to you all is how you truly feel about your significant others looks and how you navigate objectification of others with your words and actions. [more inside]
posted by cakebatter at 10:09 AM PST - 25 comments

Bra Hack?

So I've found my nearly perfect bra, with one hitch. The underwires poke through the fabric and into my armpit. [more inside]
posted by sarajane at 8:42 AM PST - 14 comments

Recommend Me Games!

Looking for a new game to play on my crappy laptop. Must be available on steam or good old games. I played stardew valley and thimbleweed park, they were ideal - not too demanding on the computer or my brain. I also enjoyed Game Dev Tycoon. I'm open to most genres of game, I just want to unwind with a little undemanding fun. [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 8:31 AM PST - 14 comments

An SF story about NFL teams based on fans' political affiliation.

Many years ago I read a science fiction story ( I think ) about an imagined future where NFL teams were based on political and/or sexual and/or religious affiliation of their players and/or fans. I'm trying to find it, and of course all the search terms I use bring up many useless contemporary references to news. Can you tell me what this story was called? [more inside]
posted by DancingYear at 7:57 AM PST - 7 comments

Help me name a children's program at my library!

I'm hoping to host a series of events for kids involving imaginative play, physical activity, creativity, and general "freedom/wildness" at my library. I need a short evocative name. It's based on a similar program called "A Wild Rumpus" (kind of perfect!). For {reasons}, I can't/don't want to use "Wild Rumpus" for my program name. Can you help me brainstorm? [more inside]
posted by Knicke at 7:42 AM PST - 18 comments

Short-term budgeting tips

How have you succeeded in saving a lot of money for a shorter (3-4 month) period? I'm moving soon and trying to stay focused on this goal -- any help welcome! [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 7:21 AM PST - 18 comments

Eye Hurts When Tired Post-Injury

I'm having odd, intermittent eye pain and am wondering if anyone else has experienced anything similar. [more inside]
posted by too bad you're not me at 7:08 AM PST - 10 comments

Vacation spot "on the way" from Paris to Boston?

We're looking for some vacation planning advice - what would be a good beachy, resorty, family-friendly destination to spend a few days in early August, approximately "on the way" from Paris to Boston? [more inside]
posted by Perplexity at 6:50 AM PST - 9 comments

What is the significance of this German title (saying?)

In Germany, the film Dragnet was released as "Schlappe bullen beißen nicht." What is the meaning of this phrase, which Google Translate turns into "flabby bulls don't bite"? Is there a police-related significance?
posted by johngoren at 3:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Two different photos for a Facebook Page's cover- mobile and desktop

Is there any way to have 2 different pictures for a Facebook Page's cover- one for mobile display, and one for desktop? Page, not personal profile. Thanks!
posted by Mistress at 2:56 AM PST - 1 comment

Tied up in knots/ascots/cravats/puff ties/whatevs...

I am an intermediate sewist and I have been tasked with sewing a men's Victorian-style puff tie. I am loathe to spend money on a pattern if I could actually make my own pattern. Is a puff tie the same item as a cravat? I am seeing some stuff like this but it doesn't look authentic (not to mention it looks like more trouble to sew than it's worth). Any guidance would be most appreciated!
posted by shalom at 12:04 AM PST - 6 comments

January 25

Fire gloves!

A character in The Adventure Zone: Amnesty is a stage magician with gloves that have inbuilt strikers so she can spark fire with her hands. Is this actually possible? Googling just gets me gloves to protect against fire or for sports.
posted by divabat at 9:14 PM PST - 4 comments

Replacing a pair of earrings

I lost one of a pair of earrings. They weren't valuable, but I had them for a long time, and I was very fond of them. They are replicas of a particular Roman coin, shown on the left of this page. Do you know of a way I can look to replace them? [more inside]
posted by Countess Elena at 5:53 PM PST - 4 comments

Songs similar to Tove Lo's Habits (Stay High)

I feel like this shouldn't be that difficult to find as I'm making it out to be... but I am looking for songs that have to do with the idea that some sort of pain or fear is being numbed out. Tove Lo's Habits is perfect. I am looking for songs that are not necessarily stylistically similar, but rather thematically similar.
posted by gemutlichkeit at 5:25 PM PST - 27 comments

Practitioner recs in the San Diego area, please?

Do you have recommendations for a dentist, a dermatologist, and/or a psychologist in the San Diego area? [more inside]
posted by bricoleur at 5:05 PM PST - 2 comments

Is there a pediatrician that WON'T allow unvaccinated patients in SF?

About to become a first time mom, and I'm amazed at having spoken to three pediatrician offices now who said they promote vaccinations but won't turn away families who refuse them. Fabulous, so my kid may get the whooping cough in the waiting room as an infant. Any SF parents know of rational doctors out there who'll turn away this kind of stupidity? I'm in Noe Valley. [more inside]
posted by namesarehard at 4:51 PM PST - 13 comments

I’m not standing up for myself very well (yet)

I’m working on boundaries and assertiveness. I’m not very good at it. (Not yet... I tell myself.) My family, and some close friends, don’t really believe that I’m working on it or getting better at it, leading to worry-anger. How can I get them to leave me alone and believe me when I’m saying I’m trying? Maybe I’m not trying hard enough? Certain situation inside. [more inside]
posted by socky bottoms at 4:18 PM PST - 20 comments

Where to stay in LA?

Me and my SO are going to LA for a few days in February and we are trying to figure out what neighbourhood to stay in. [more inside]
posted by aunt_winnifred at 4:01 PM PST - 17 comments

Cooking oil for medium heat and occasional frying

What cooking oil do you like to use for medium heat cooking and also frying? I know olive oil is standard, but I'm thinking of branching out and am overwhelmed with all the options. What oil do you like to use and why? I am particularly interested in oils that may be healthier than olive.
posted by madonna of the unloved at 3:20 PM PST - 18 comments

Voltage fluctuation giving me the blues.

The lights in my home office have been flickering like strobes in a 1970s disco. I pulled the switch, and now the wires that connected to it are dead, reading 0 on a voltage meter. What's going on? [more inside]
posted by Gordion Knott at 2:48 PM PST - 9 comments

NYC RE/GYN recommendation?

Can anyone recommend either a Reproductive Endocrinologist (probably) or a OBGYN who is an expert at managing PCOS? Further requests within. [more inside]
posted by millipede at 2:34 PM PST - 1 comment

How to include an angular-ui/ui-bootstrap directive within my directive?

Using AngularJS (~1.5), I'd like the outer scope (my directive) to be available to the inner directive. Assume a simple template like <h1>{{ info.title }}</h1><uib-something ngModel="info.data" ></uib> [more inside]
posted by czytm at 2:30 PM PST - 2 comments

Who do I hire to both explain nutrition and meal plan for my family?

My husband and I both have a lot of weight to lose (I'm super pregnant currently but was overweight when I conceived and would like to be down about 100 lbs from where I am now.) My husband in particular does not understand nutrition, portion control, how calories work, how diet vs exercise works, etc. Who do I hire to help us? [more inside]
posted by tatiana wishbone at 1:54 PM PST - 12 comments

Event Planning for Dummies

I have inherited a number of events on my job where I need to be the point-person for all of the planning. I'm not good at this really. I realize that the things that I have a hard time with are working out the calendaring in my head for good advanced planning, organizing all the details that need to be done, and feeling good about all the moving parts the day-of. Is there a specialized piece of software that helps with event planning — or anything that you have come up with personally — to make it a breeze? [more inside]
posted by SpacemanStix at 1:47 PM PST - 8 comments

Is Project Managment software what I need?

I am managing a project that has a couple of requirements. Primarily, I need to be able to log individuals and keep records on them. For example Person X needs to be e-mailed about thing A, Person Z finished task B and needs confirmation, etc. (and this would included being able to have multiple items per person). It would be great if there were some ability to sort by records or keyword. Secondarily, I would like to list and manage steps/elements as I develop new processes, and, additionally, I want to set-up regular repeatable tasks. [more inside]
posted by oddman at 1:25 PM PST - 5 comments

Astoria NYC by tram, foot and ferry

Help me explore Astoria NYC by tram and ferry and foot on a Saturday or Sunday this winter. [more inside]
posted by jointhedance at 12:54 PM PST - 9 comments

What do you eat with Japanese milk bread?

I just made the Japanese milk bread recipe from the America's Test Kitchen bread cookbook. What should I eat with it? I'd love something savory and hearty, but all the suggestions I'm googling pretty much start at end at butter and condensed milk. What would you suggest?
posted by HeroZero at 12:52 PM PST - 12 comments

a couple days in Zurich

I'll have some free time in Zurich this coming week -- my first time in the city and in Switzerland. Where should I go and what should I do? I'm thinking more in the arena of culture, architecture, and the arts rather than partying. (I don't drink.) Thanks!
posted by gerryblog at 11:53 AM PST - 16 comments

So how exactly do I do this recycling thing?

I've been a faithful (possibly obsessive) recycler for a while, but I was distressed to learn lately that my city changed recycling processing companies, and will no longer accept the blue bags, or any bagging of recycling at all. [more inside]
posted by backwards compatible at 11:42 AM PST - 23 comments

Work-Appropriate, Non-Edible Indulgence

My Dear Hive Mind: Next week, the staff in my lab will have two evenings in a row where we will have to stay late for meetings. We all hate evening meetings, so I'd like to do something to make the second one a little easier (I don't have control over the first one). I was planning to order dinner for us, but one of the staffers feels uncomfortable eating in public, and wouldn't eat at a meeting. What are non-food ways of making this meeting more pleasant (aside from keeping it as short as possible)?
posted by MrBobinski at 11:40 AM PST - 35 comments

I can read Latin but I can't read Tech Specs.

I'm in the market for a Tracfone smartphone, to be used as my primary phone (I don't use my phone much and don't want an expensive monthly contract). After an hour of research, I still can't figure out the substantive differences between the various options, whether I would notice any difference in user experience between them, and which would best suit me. Maybe any of them would be fine for me? Help? [more inside]
posted by ClaireBear at 11:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Questions on Baptism

Welcoming a tiny human into the world in a few months. My questions have questions, but now a thoughtful gift from my Aunt has provoked even more. [more inside]
posted by sharp pointy objects at 11:03 AM PST - 31 comments

Cat treat similar to toothpaste

My cat loves toothpaste and mouthwash so much I have to frantically clean the sink after I spit so that she doesn't lick it up. What can I give her as a treat that she will like as much? Just plain mint leaves? [more inside]
posted by Emmy Rae at 10:58 AM PST - 15 comments

How do I human, again?

I’ve always taken robust-ish physical health and fitness for granted, but I’ve really put my body through a beating the last couple of years and I’m feeling it. I need all your strategies and tips for optimum health, conditioning, and self-care when things are hectic. Bonus Q: Maybe baby? [more inside]
posted by peachfuzz at 10:06 AM PST - 6 comments

Is Suet not a major ingredient in US cooking?

Because of a few comments in response to this FPP, some follow-up backchannel conversations, and general web searching (though I'm not an expert in things cuisine online), I'm confused about Suet use in the USA. As described in Wikipedia: "Suet is the raw, hard fat of beef or mutton found around the loins and kidneys." It's used in various traditional British puddings. I can't get a clear handle on US use (or non-use), so my question is: Is Suet a common ingredient in similar dishes in the USA? (examples appreciated).
posted by Wordshore at 9:26 AM PST - 62 comments

Is there a home office printer with stapler available?

Hi! My boss is looking for a home office printer with a stapling & collating feature. He would like it to not be too big as it's a small office, and it would be great if it could print in colour but not necessary. He'd prefer not to spend over $800. Does anything like this exist? Any help would really be appreciated.
posted by katesharks at 8:31 AM PST - 5 comments

Supporting my partner through artificial insemination

Hey, me (transmasculine person) and my wife (cis woman) are about to begin the process of makin' babies via artificial insemination (her). How can I be a supportive partner to her during this physically and emotionally stressful time? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:12 AM PST - 10 comments

Will I see Olympic skiers at competition the next few weekends?

I live in Garmisch-Partenkirchen, Germany. We have an annual ski race (on the World Cup circuit) the next couple of weekends. I'm wondering if we have a shot of seeing Olympic skiers, or if they will be sitting out until the Games begin. [more inside]
posted by dondiego87 at 7:56 AM PST - 1 comment

How is your day?

How much do you tell your boyfriend or girlfriend, or partner about your day? [more inside]
posted by phoiyikas at 7:54 AM PST - 37 comments

Social security application stalled - normal? what's going on?

In November I submitted, for the first time, the online application to activate social security. My 70th birthday is in March. This is for income based social security not disability. With only 6 weeks or so to go, the application is stalled in pending state. Problem? Should I do something? [more inside]
posted by Kevin S at 7:38 AM PST - 6 comments

Is "leaky gut" real?

What it says on the tin -- can "gut leaks" cause illness? Or is this pseudoscience? [more inside]
posted by kingdead at 7:26 AM PST - 15 comments

Young man mixing up my words...seem to be losing vocabulary etc

I'm wondering if I'm going mad. I seem to be losing my vocabulary a little bit, I'm mixing up words when I'm reading aloud to my children at bedtime and I'm sometimes misspeaking at work, for example: "Yes I'll get them invoice charge us for them" or "No, I noticed was that a bit odd". Small things like that. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:05 AM PST - 22 comments

Back pain and a work deadline

I have at best a bulging disc but more likely a herniated one at L4/L5 that's come and gone over the last 3 years but for the last 3 weeks has been brutal - every night I've been laid out flat and writhing trying to find a comfortable position. I also have a work deadline that nobody else can complete, and I have to sit at my computer for the next two days. [more inside]
posted by mireille at 6:39 AM PST - 15 comments

Illegal Streaming Business Model

How do illegal streaming sites make money? I know that the end websites have tons of creepy and malicious ads, but most of them don't host their own content and stream the videos from other areas. I know bandwidth is cheap, but full movie streaming is a ton of bandwidth. What is the catch that I am missing?
posted by Literaryhero at 6:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Short Stay in Pittsburgh

I will be staying in Pittsburgh from this Saturday Morning to Sunday Evening, and I would like to see some nice things. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 12:58 AM PST - 14 comments

January 24

2+2=5 - A Havana tag

I saw the graffiti tag "2+2=5" all over Havana in a recent visit. I understand it's a 1984 reference, but does anyone have any further insight as to why this tag is being used in Havana?
posted by el io at 10:44 PM PST - 2 comments

Established Housing Community in NYC?

I'm moving out of my apartment at the end of April, and I'd like to find established housing communities with particularly artsy or liberal themes. [more inside]
posted by Autumn Willow at 9:56 PM PST - 9 comments

recipe helper

i have a simple dish to make for lunch and would like some advice on how to make it more efficient time-wise. the difficulty is that i will only have one burner. [more inside]
posted by lescour at 8:13 PM PST - 7 comments

Charging multiple phones on the go

I work in homeless outreach, and a constant expressed need inside the camps is a way to charge phones. What’s the best solution for charging 10-15 usb devices? I’ll have a car to run a converter out of. Bonus points if it’s less than $150, extra credit if it charges quickly.
posted by Homeskillet Freshy Fresh at 8:07 PM PST - 8 comments

How to survive saying goodbye

My husband and I agreed that the quality of life for our sweet 14 year old puppy is getting pretty bad and we need to put her to sleep. My rational brain knows this is the right thing. As the date gets closer, I feel like a prisoner in the Tower waiting for the gallows. How do I even do this? [more inside]
posted by Tandem Affinity at 7:08 PM PST - 23 comments

How do I swim through this ocean of receipts?

I need a better system of tracking/storing my shopping receipts. Is there a phone app that I can use? Or some other system that can make me feel somewhat organized? [more inside]
posted by silverstatue at 7:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Explain why I should care about the Clone Wars please.

Star Wars (Prequels/Clone Wars) question inside (below the fold for spoilers). [more inside]
posted by rustcellar at 4:29 PM PST - 7 comments

Is my puppy too mean to my older dog?

Sparky is 4 and Pearl is almost 5 months. We have had her since she was 8 weeks old. She is a VERY happy and confident puppy and loves to play all day with spark. Before Pearl he was very sedentary and now he is much more active and has gained muscle and eats more. Most of their play seems healthy - bouncing around together; sitting side by side with their mouths open and whining at each other while snapping their jaws; sparky "dropping" a toy so pearl can take it away and then stealing it back, etc. The problem is that I worry that pearl is too rough with sparky and he is too submissive to assert himself. [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 3:38 PM PST - 15 comments

Just need a simple home office docking setup

Having some difficulty figuring out which components to buy to allow either me or my husband to dock with dual monitors. Bonus points if it will also allow my macbook pro to dock. [more inside]
posted by peacheater at 3:04 PM PST - 8 comments

Now extended through [date]!

When would you announce that a performance or exhibition is being extended? [more inside]
posted by me3dia at 2:55 PM PST - 8 comments

Treat algae growth on a very tall brick chimney.

My brick fireplace chimney is 35 feet tall from ground level. I get algae growth at the very top. I have a product that will kill the algae but my garden hose will not spray to reach that height. I put the product in a sprayer container and attach it to the hose but the stream will not reach the top of the chimney. I need a portable water pump that will increase the pressure to reach it, but have not found such an item.
posted by JayRwv at 2:35 PM PST - 12 comments

Home office printer for arts and crafts, Linux snowflake edition.

Seeking a home office printer for art projects. Printer needs to be somewhat Linux compatible, and able to print on cardstock and inkjet T-shirt iron on material, and postcards. [more inside]
posted by ethical_caligula at 2:20 PM PST - 2 comments

What is the simplest way for me to grab clips from movies and edit them?

I want to grab clips from movies in multiple formats to use in university lectures (largely by embedding in powerpoint or similar). I am an absolute novice so the less technical language the better. What is the easiest way to do this? [more inside]
posted by biffa at 1:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Are there any general contractor simulation games?

This may be my dumbest question yet. Exactly what it says in the title. Are there any GC simulation games? [more inside]
posted by msali at 1:33 PM PST - 6 comments

(Over)cooking dry beans?

The weather is finally cool enough to make Boston baked beans. I did the quick soak, which says to boil for 2-3 minutes then soak for an hour. I didn't hear the water boil and accidentally boiled them for maybe 15 -20 minutes. Have I ruined the texture of the beans, and do I need to start over? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 1:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Retreat / alternative vacation centres in Europe?

I had a great week learning mindfulness meditation, doing yoga, running in the mountains and sharing with like-minded people at Spain's Cortijo Romero last year year. I've heard good things about La Roane in France too. Where else in Europe can I have similar experiences, especially involving psychology/mind/body practices? [more inside]
posted by Junebug79 at 1:07 PM PST - 1 comment

CBT versus ACT and minimum education qualifications for success

I am 41 and setting up an appt for a therapist for the first time. Issues to focus us: handling aftermath of domestic violence, ADD strategies and coping mechanisms, divorce grief, step-parenting woes, anxiety, resolving problem behaviors such as passive aggressiveness that were established from family of origin trauma, impulse control. Need some guidance on selective between therapy options and minimum qualifications to screen for in practitioners. [more inside]
posted by TestamentToGrace at 1:00 PM PST - 11 comments

My Kindle keeps running away

I often misplace my Kindle, which drives me crazy. Sometimes I lose it in my house, sometimes in my car, or at work, and it's lost for days. I think I need to get one of those Bluetooth tracker thingamabobs, like a Tile, to help me the next time I lose it. The problem is that I like using my Kindle without a cover. [more inside]
posted by zoetrope at 1:00 PM PST - 13 comments

Charity ideas: early education for children of color in the US

I want to give away some money (think hundreds, not hundreds of thousands of dollars a year) to assist early childhood education targeted to black kids. Can you suggest any specific charities that do good, effective work in this area? This is a smaller, narrower version of this question.
posted by Jasper Fnorde at 12:58 PM PST - 7 comments

It's a drinking bowl, not a cat bath

My 9-month-old kitten Dashi has recently discovered that removing the water from the cats' water dish, methodically and with her paws, brings her unbridled joy. This means that by the end of the day there is about 2 inches of dirty foot water left in the bowl. Please help me. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 12:58 PM PST - 26 comments

How can I get my computer to lock me out at a preset time?

I have a tendency to stay up late reading on my computer. I'd like to set my computer to lock me out for a set amount of time (5 min-10 mins) when I'm supposed to be heading to bed. I'm using Windows 10 [more inside]
posted by Higherfasterforwards at 12:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Did getting a car in NYC make you happier?

Long-term resident feeling really suffocated by the city. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 12:33 PM PST - 55 comments

Web scraping from our own database based on a CSV?

At my job we have information in a database but reports aren't available for every field. I'd like to use a list of record ID numbers in a CSV to visit a page and extract a piece of information to go back into the CSV (or in a new CSV but paired with the ID number) so I don't have to look up thousands of records and copy/paste the results. I don't know what platform to use/where to begin. Help is very much appreciated! [more inside]
posted by Mrs. Pterodactyl at 11:34 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for examples of awesome-looking social content.

Looking for links/examples of your favorite consumer-focused companies/brands that have consistently great looking and engaging social channels. [more inside]
posted by jalexei at 11:33 AM PST - 3 comments

boundaries - how do you do it

My resolution for this year is to get better at saying no and to be more in tune with my boundaries and holding them. What has worked for you? What books, exercises, articles, etc. have helped you develop healthy boundaries? [more inside]
posted by allymusiqua at 11:23 AM PST - 16 comments

What are you favorite satisfying activities or habits?

I have a short list of activities that I find very satisfying and oddly pleasing (hard to resist, in fact), such as cleaning out my ears with a q-tip (not so good), scrubbing out a kitchen sink until it’s spotless (great!), or kicking snow chunks off car tires (fine to do on your own car, not so much on others’). Please share yours; I’d love to hear new ideas for oddly satisfying activities (bonus points for tasks that are useful in some way!)
posted by sucre at 11:23 AM PST - 73 comments

Lasik eye surgery - Slightly blurred vision after makeup

Did any of you experience slightly blurred vision after removing makeup one week after Lasik? Is this normal or should I be concerned? [more inside]
posted by U.N.Owen at 11:04 AM PST - 5 comments

Bluetooth wireless buds for calls?

Hello, I'm kind of tired of buying wireless buds like Phaiser or Beats only to find out that while they may produce high sound quality callers can't hear me. Reviews I've found tend to focus on sound quality and little to calls. I don't really want the Locutus of Borg Bluetooth type of wireless device, but if I have to I suppose I will. Mic pickup must be very good. Does such a thing exist?
posted by tcv at 11:00 AM PST - 11 comments

Looking for ideas for Aristotelian tragedy on film

This year as we study Hamlet, my students are reading a passage from Aristotle "On Tragedy" in which he defines tragedy as a work featuring a " character between these two extremes — that of a man who is not eminently good and just, yet whose misfortune is brought about not by vice or depravity, but by some error of judgement or frailty." What are your favorite tragic films that would be appropriate to show to high school students?
posted by orangesky4 at 10:32 AM PST - 13 comments

What is the correct way to clean a metal roof?

My house has a relatively new metal roof, installed by previous owner. We have been told by multiple realtors and home inspectors that pressure washing will damage/cut years off a metal roof. Is this actually true? I am currently in the market for a roof cleaner and all the ones I'm finding are proposing pressure washing. [more inside]
posted by joan_holloway at 10:23 AM PST - 8 comments

I'm seeking knee replacement info

Today we have our first meeting with a surgeon concerning a partial knee replacement. What questions should we ask him? What info do we need as we go into this?
posted by partner at 9:56 AM PST - 8 comments

I seem to be drawn to very controlling, unkind men. How do I stop this?

I have a history of emotionally abusive relationships and I've been working hard to change my patterns. Therapy, self-help, mindfulness and self-care don't seem to be working. What else can I try? [more inside]
posted by Dwardles at 9:39 AM PST - 34 comments

Another excel question

Excel formatting is driving me crazy. [more inside]
posted by triggerfinger at 9:37 AM PST - 16 comments

Roads to avoid if you're scared of heights?

After reading about Highway 550 in Colorado on the blue and knowing there's at least one Hwy in BC (Hwy 12 between Lillooet and Boston Bar) that I will never, ever ever be on again, I want to build a list of highways (or sections of highways) that I, as a person with a significant fear of heights, should never drive. [more inside]
posted by cgg at 9:15 AM PST - 36 comments

Received emails confirming new accounts I didn't set up. Crap?

On Friday, I got an email from a website I never heard of before confirming that I had set up my account. I changed my email password. Today I got another email from a different website I had never heard of confirming my account. Now what? [more inside]
posted by kat518 at 9:03 AM PST - 24 comments

Getting files off Mac Clone, difficulty: no keyboard, mouse, monitor

I have an PowerComputing PowerCenter 150, running some version of Mac OS 8. I don't have a mouse, keyboard, or monitor for the computer. I do have an ethernet cable, but not a crosslink cable. Is there a way to use my current MacBook Air (running the latest OS) to get the files off of the PowerCenter? [more inside]
posted by griseus at 8:23 AM PST - 4 comments

Greater Boston - What can I turn my front yard into?

What can you turn a front yard into that won't be out of place in Boston that isn't lawn. [more inside]
posted by Talez at 7:40 AM PST - 46 comments

Are knee sleeves worth it? And other advice for returning to running.

I'd like to get back into running. I stopped over a year ago due to a knee injury (was eventually diagnosed with a partial meniscus tear). I have been working on strengthening my knee for several months and feel like I'm ready to try running again, and am looking for advice about how to do that as safely as possible. So, are knee sleeves worth it? Any other runners who've successfully recovered from a knee injury? What worked for you? [more inside]
posted by Diablevert at 6:54 AM PST - 9 comments

What’s the best highly filter-able news app for iPhone?

I want to know when it happens that Ursula k. Le Guin died, but not every time Trump tweets something offensive. What news app allows the best way to choose exactly what you care about? [more inside]
posted by Calicatt at 4:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Short story about prehistoric humans using tech to escape a predator

At a con this weekend, one of the authors described a short story she once read, but couldn't remember the author or title, but now I want to read it. Synopsis: two prehistoric humans are attempting to escape a predator. One is injured, but the other is helping their escape, although it slows them down. Death begins to seem certain when they find a stick and know that they have found their salvation; instead of using the stick as a weapon, they use it as a crutch and get away. Name this story, please!
posted by palindromic at 4:41 AM PST - 1 comment

How can I keep my home feeling fresh when I can't air it out?

How can I keep my home feeling/smelling fresh when circumstances do not allow me to open the windows? [more inside]
posted by Ziggy500 at 4:22 AM PST - 16 comments

Will transferring a balance from a credit card get it closed?

I currently have two credit cards with roughly similar balances and one-time windfall that can pay off one of them. Hurray! But I’m worried if my plan to pay off one and balance transfer from the other will backfire into the card company closing a card. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:46 AM PST - 12 comments

January 23

Could cold weather be effecting my lungs?

Hello, I'm currently posting from Canada where the temperature is currently -19c (-3f). On most days where I'm currently residing the temperature drops down to -35c (-31f) or more. [more inside]
posted by Crystied0 at 10:34 PM PST - 15 comments

keeping it off.

Have you ever been a compulsive eater who lost > 10 lbs and kept the weight off for more than a year? [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 10:34 PM PST - 24 comments

What is a good gift/gift basket for someone with a broken wrist?

My mom was in a car accident this afternoon and broke her wrist. What would a helpful gift or gift basket to get her? [more inside]
posted by Thirty7Degrees at 9:33 PM PST - 15 comments

Desperately need help going from emotional eating to healthy eating

I've been overweight since after my first child, I have two now. I'm approximately 40 lb over my ideal weight. I find it extremely hard to stick to any eating plan whatsoever. I have tried calorie counting that was too hard. I tried going vegan that was too hard. I tried going low-carb high-fat that was too hard. [more inside]
posted by livelikegold6 at 9:31 PM PST - 13 comments

What movie is this quote from?

It's a movie from I think the 1980s. The student turns bad and fights the teacher, but the teacher wins and says, "I taught you everything you know. I did not teach you everything I know". I tried google but all I got was some Sherlock Holmes fan-fic and a vague reference to a Star Wars character. Not much to go on, I know, but it's a memorable line so I'm sure somebody knows it.
posted by ambulocetus at 8:57 PM PST - 16 comments

I found a group fiction project through TV Tropes and then I lost it

I am the type of person who starts browsing TV Tropes looking for something and then I get led off on a tangent by clicking a link, and on it goes until an hour later I break away because it's fifteen minutes past my bedtime. Along one such tangent, I read about a very interesting online storytelling endeavor... [more inside]
posted by Fukiyama at 6:54 PM PST - 10 comments

Music Licensing: Who signs first? The Licensor or the Licensee?

I recently arranged and recorded a piece of music that has already been broadcast on television, and am expecting payment in the near future (agreed upon in advance in writing). I was asked by the production company to issue a synchronization and master use license. [more inside]
posted by matticulate at 4:42 PM PST - 2 comments

Feedly Disaster!

Halp! I was organizing my Feedly Feeds and somehow managed to delete all of them. Of course I can't remember what I used to read. Maybe you can help...and maybe find me some new feeds to read? [more inside]
posted by Elly Vortex at 2:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Help me decipher an old annotated map of the UK

A friend has gifted me (a cartophile) his grandfather's 1935 map of London and South-East England. His grandfather has annotated the western half with blue and orange lines and I can't, for the life of me work out what they are - please help! More inside. [more inside]
posted by muthecow at 2:34 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I enjoy a creative writing class?

I’ve recently started a creative writing class and, while I really like the instructor and the other students, I’m finding the actual experience unexpectedly stressful and anxiety-provoking. I’d like some tips or mental scripts for approaching creative writing tasks and critique in a more relaxed and confident way. [more inside]
posted by Aravis76 at 2:25 PM PST - 8 comments

Creation myth or SF story where a child is the creator.

I seem to remember a story where the beginning of the universe or life on earth is caused by a child playing with toys/building blocks of life. [more inside]
posted by Kosmob0t at 2:23 PM PST - 3 comments

June in New Zealand

Any and all advice for a first time visitor to New Zealand! [more inside]
posted by smorgasbord at 2:18 PM PST - 11 comments

Assistance with Australian Shepard having seizures

One of our dogs seems to have seizures during walks specifically. Has anyone else had this happen? [more inside]
posted by o0dano0o at 1:14 PM PST - 12 comments

Help us find the perfect handheld shower.

We don't need a million settings. We don't care about a "massage" in the shower. We just want a shower head that delivers really good pressure for both short and tall users. [more inside]
posted by MsVader at 1:11 PM PST - 15 comments

Earring Symbol/Shape/Design Identification

These are my favorite earrings. I have never seen another pair like them. I live in fear I will lose one, and be forever heartbroken. Help me find a backup pair? [more inside]
posted by ApathyGirl at 1:06 PM PST - 8 comments

How to use multiple gmail accounts to access gdrives without logging out

I have multiple gmail accounts that I keep open in different browser tabs. Whenever I try to access my gdrive files from one tab, I'm told that I have to log out of all of my other gmail accounts in order to do it. This is frustrating. Are there ways around it? [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 1:01 PM PST - 13 comments

How to iPhone in UK for 10 days

Will be traveling for leisure to the UK for 10 days in July. I have an unlocked CDMA iPhone 7 plus that i'd like to use while there for interwebs (browsing, maps, texts, apps, emails, etc.) and maybe calls. What are my options? [more inside]
posted by inviolable at 12:46 PM PST - 6 comments

Where should we honeymoon?

We're getting married in mid-August and hoping to leave for a four- to six-ish-day honeymoon a day or so later. Where should we go? [more inside]
posted by gypsyhymns at 12:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Help us choose a middle name for a girl

I have very specific requirements for a middle name to go with Winnie. This is a challenge. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 12:24 PM PST - 40 comments

Mexican Warbler??

I saw this bird in a park in Campeche, Mexico. I assume it's a warbler but was unable to identify it using the Princeton Warbler Guide. What is it?
posted by Xurando at 12:18 PM PST - 2 comments

One email to rule them all...

So, in a new year effort to streamline, I've been thinking a lot about downsizing my digital world. I finally counted up that I have at least a dozen different email addresses that all forward into either a hotmail account that is old enough to drive or a gmail account. Has anyone successfully consolidated their previous email life? And how did you do it? [more inside]
posted by hessie at 12:09 PM PST - 1 comment

How do I snowbird?

Mr. DrGail and our new-to-us dog are driving from Chicago to a VRBO in Hilton Head for a week to thaw out. Yay! But this is our first time doing this and I'm pretty much lost when it comes to deciding what kitchen and living supplies to take with us and what we can or should purchase there. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 11:48 AM PST - 19 comments

Identify this marble statuette of a woman

Can anyone identify this classical marble statuette of a nude kneeling woman, and help me find info about its maker, history, etc? It's in the collection of the Palacio de las Dueñas, formerly of the Duchess of Alba in Seville Spain, and it may be a status of Venus. I've found two images of it online: Pic of statuette, pic of duchess with statuette in foreground. [more inside]
posted by LobsterMitten at 11:41 AM PST - 6 comments

Can I have a hanging chair or swing?

I would like to install a swing or a hanging chair in my kids' room. Is this a terrible idea and how will I know? [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 11:17 AM PST - 18 comments

Looking for books for a typical 4th grade boy

I am looking for long but fun books for my 4th grade boy. [more inside]
posted by beccaj at 10:52 AM PST - 29 comments

Help me temporarily install tiles in a bathroom

I'm a renter, and I want to display some decorative tiles in my bathroom. However, I'm concerned that any temporary solution will leave gaps and create a hospitable mildew breeding ground behind the tiles. [more inside]
posted by delight at 10:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Formal business wear - maternity edition

I have a work event next week that I would typically wear one of my nice suits to. I'm 29 weeks pregnant and none of my suits fit. Which of the options below is the most professional/appropriate/closest to a suit? [more inside]
posted by john_snow at 10:28 AM PST - 24 comments

To do: make a to-do list.

Last year both my professional and personal situation changed, which leaves me in planning limbo: the old routines and tools on which I depended don't fully suit me anymore, but I have no alternatives ready. How can I get organized again, without going overboard? [more inside]
posted by Desertshore at 9:11 AM PST - 13 comments

looking for workout plan to fix unbalanced hips

After hurting my back, a book on back rehabilitation with a six week program of exercises, got me back on my feet. I need THAT - but for a different problem - for hips that slant to the side (one leg feels longer). Is there one? [more inside]
posted by mirileh at 9:06 AM PST - 13 comments

Recommendations for/against specific Iceland package tours?

Friend and I are interested in going to Iceland for 4-5 days in February or March and considering a package tour to cut out some of the hassle for a shorter stay. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 9:03 AM PST - 10 comments

How to make overset text in PDF placed in InDesign non-searchable

I've placed a number of PDFs in an InDesign document but with tightly constrained text boxes, meaning that much of the text in the PDF is essentially overset. I then export that InDesign as its own PDF. My problem is that text that is overset on the placed PDF pages is still searchable. Is there a setting somewhere in Acrobat or InDesign that would solve this problem?!?< [more inside]
posted by Jamesonian at 8:25 AM PST - 5 comments

Identify this bibliographic style from example please?

I have to submit an article to a small scholarly journal. They demand an unfamiliar (to me) style for listing references. I would strongly prefer to prepare the reference list using BibTex/LaTeX. Can you help me: A) identify the style (hoping/assuming it is semi-standard) and B) Find a style file (.bst) that will implement it? Examples and details follow. [more inside]
posted by SaltySalticid at 8:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Seeking Free/Cheap HR/Volunteer Management Software

I'm involved in managing a volunteer sports organization that has various membership requirements, and I'm seeking some software to make our lives easier to replace the gazillion spreadsheets we're currently using. Budget is in the free to cheap range. (We're not a not-for-profit, but operate on a similar budget.) [more inside]
posted by pixiecrinkle at 8:04 AM PST - 1 comment

Book inventory program or process?

I will soon need to inventory and repackage what has been described as "8000 pounds of books". [more inside]
posted by seasparrow at 8:04 AM PST - 7 comments

New Neighbor

Gift for neighbors with newborn? [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 7:46 AM PST - 34 comments

what happens to my American phone number when I get a European SIM card?

I'm going to live in Denmark for six months. My phone (Samsung Galaxy) is unlocked. Current carrier is Verizon. I've been told that getting a European SIM card and putting it into my phone is a good idea. I am an utter neophyte to world travel, so I have noob questions: [more inside]
posted by Vic Morrow's Personal Vietnam at 7:11 AM PST - 12 comments

Popular nonfiction, written by people of color.

Popular nonfiction, written by people of color: any topic is fine. Book club is looking for "interesting" and "a good read" more than the most comprehensive or most important. One member wants more popular nonfiction (like Coal: A Human History or Stiff) and one wants more books by people of color. What hits both wants? [more inside]
posted by crush at 7:01 AM PST - 30 comments

Is it a bad idea to build a second story apartment for retirees?

We are thinking of building a second floor apartment adjacent to my home for my parents (late 70s) and putting in an elevator to accommodate current and future mobility issues, but we're a little worried that we would come to regret not building on ground level, since we all hope my parents will age in place in this apartment for years to come. Awesome Mefites, would you do this or is it a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by ElizaMain at 7:00 AM PST - 15 comments

Online tool for writing fiction on the go?

I'm looking for a new setup for writing fiction online - I've been using Zoho Docs, but it got rather bloated and slow with long files. Most of all I want something that will load quickly and let me write on various Windows 10 computers and Android devices with the ease of scribbling in a paper notebook. Other items on my wishlist: [more inside]
posted by I claim sanctuary at 6:44 AM PST - 3 comments

What should I wear on my legs while running in the winter rain?

I live in The North of the UK where it's cold and rainy in the winter. And the spring and the fall. Specialist running clothes seem expensive and off-putting. I'm ok for the top layers, but it's the running tights that I find problematic. Just thinking about wearing them makes me feel uncomfortable and over-exposed, and they are typically rather expensive. I've also been told they don't actually protect from rain. My Holy Grail is something that is weather-proof-ish, not humiliating, and affordable, but I can't find anything that ticks all the boxes. [more inside]
posted by Eumachia L F at 5:56 AM PST - 13 comments

To update the OS X or not

I'm going to have to get a new internal SSD for my MacBook Pro, and this is a good a time as any to update. I'm running a very stable build of 10.11.6. [more inside]
posted by tedious at 5:27 AM PST - 18 comments

Employees and Death Threats

We run a small business with only 3 employees plus my husband who work in the office. One of these employees, L, has recently left her long term, live in boyfriend, R. Apparently it has not gone well. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:04 AM PST - 58 comments

Are these actions a violation of employee exempt status?

I am an exempt employee and my employer reduces my pay every chance they get. I need help discerning if this is a 'go see a lawyer' situation or a 'this is normal, chill out' situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:04 AM PST - 5 comments

January 22

Frustrating convo with ex

Help me understand why he was thinking/responding this way? I know you are not mind readers, but maybe you have some insight? Wall of text inside. [more inside]
posted by foxjacket at 10:41 PM PST - 17 comments

In search of mediocre white men

"God, give me the confidence of a mediocre white dude", wrote Sarah Hagi. I have often taken comfort in this statement and am seeking examples of mediocre (not terrible, just mediocre) yet confident white men to remind me that I too deserve to feel confident occasionally. Very specific criteria within. [more inside]
posted by embrangled at 9:29 PM PST - 57 comments

Fun birthday while hosting picky people in NYC

My mom and aunt are coming to visit me in NYC for my birthday in the middle of February. My mom is open to new food and culture events, but my aunt is a little limited. I need a plan so I don’t have a bad day. [more inside]
posted by elvissa at 6:57 PM PST - 4 comments

Korean family staying with me - they don't speak English

I'm hosting an immigrant family for a few days and am trying to give them basic information for using our house even thought we can't communicate with each other. I've done well with friendly faces and hand gestures, but wanted to give some basics in a printed document. I used Google Translate to translate a short welcome paragraph - the caseworker says the parents really like watching tv and of course internet is essential. If you speak Korean, could you take a look and tell me if there is anything Google Translate mangled too badly? Thanks! [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 6:51 PM PST - 13 comments

Feeling snacky at work, ughh

I just started a retail job in a popular Target like chain. Throughout the day, the customers I ring up at the cash register have all kinds of junk food. Which makes me tempted to buy junk food like candy and chips on my break by the power of suggestion. I have ended up doing that several times.There are also people buying "healthy" snacks like protein bars but those aren't as enticing. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 6:19 PM PST - 20 comments

The roof is leaking and the wind is howling

A bad choice in Toronto roofing companies has led to a seriously problematic situation. Help! [more inside]
posted by orange swan at 6:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Calculating significant digits for acreage

How does one calculate the number of significant digits to use for acreage when combining several map layers and one has a very low accuracy? [more inside]
posted by turnbill at 3:59 PM PST - 10 comments

How to help a swirling, damaged mess (difficulty level: sisters)

My older sister has struggled for years - she has pretty serious PTSD from years of abuse, and decades of self-destructive behavior sometimes make her situation seem hopeless. What is the best way to help her get to stability???? (details inside) [more inside]
posted by thelastpolarbear at 3:39 PM PST - 21 comments

Can you use an Instant Pot as a de-froster?

I know you can use frozen meat in an instant pot recipe, and it just takes longer -- like you can throw your frozen beef cubes in for beef stew and it'll still work. But can you take frozen ground beef, defrost it in the instant pot, and then make hamburgers? Or defrost frozen pork chops in there, and then fry them? [more inside]
posted by mrmurbles at 3:20 PM PST - 10 comments

How can my dog honor his fans from the Indian subcontinent?

I run a facebook page for my pet doggy. He recently gained several thousand likes/follows from people who live in India. I'd like to do a fun post to honor his new fans. Don't want to do anything offensive. Is there a cute costume I could put him in or character i could dress him as? Other ideas. I'm crafty. Thanks!
posted by long haired child at 3:09 PM PST - 14 comments

Fun ways to review First Aid with tweens?

I'm looking for engaging activities to go over basic outdoor First Aid with my Girl Scout Cadettes. Not for the badge or to get certified, but in preparation for an outdoor skills challenge. Any ideas for fun ways to do this? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 2:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there anything to do on Hatteras Island in March?

My wife and I are celebrating our 20th wedding anniversary in March, and we are thinking of going to Hatteras Island, North Carolina. We went there about 20 years ago, but I don’t think it was in March. Is there anything to do on Hatteras in March? Are things open? [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 2:15 PM PST - 4 comments

How to stop being scared by moving too fast in a new relationship?

I met a guy through online dating app; being dating 2 weeks since first met; everything goes incredibly great, yet after I get to know the stories of his ex, now I wanna take things slow , but don't know what is alerting me inside...< [more inside]
posted by dadaxiang1204 at 1:54 PM PST - 22 comments

Who should be contacted about bad nursing-home operators?

Asking for a friend: family-run nursing home that had been providing excellent care has been taken over by a company that immediately started laying off people with seniority, cutting staffing, etc. There are still good people working there, but things are deteriorating weekly. Can't complain to the company, because the people running the place won't provide contact information; where would be the most productive place to apply pressure: state rep? US rep? senator? some board/committee/institution that supervises nursing homes? This is in Massachusetts, if that makes a difference.
posted by languagehat at 1:31 PM PST - 15 comments

Do ecards still exist any more?

I used to send someecards for birthdays, but their website doesn't seem to do that any more...? [more inside]
posted by jenfullmoon at 1:19 PM PST - 10 comments

Librarian fail

I need to find the number of black residents of each state, for each year 1997-2014. Sounds easy, but everything I can find is either not broken down by state or is too new. Are you good with demographic data? Then please come in! [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 1:15 PM PST - 2 comments

Workflow using SharePoint 2010 or Python 3.x or ?

I have a big, dumb, needlessly complicated, manual process I would like to automate (insofar as possible) in SharePoint/InfoPath 2010 or possibly Python 3.x. Can you help me think through how to do it? [more inside]
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 12:34 PM PST - 11 comments

Just like that previous "mystery button" AskMeFi, except 100 years newer

I'm moving into a brand new "upgraded" home. What are these mystery doorbell looking buttons in the kitchen and master bath? The last time this question was asked on the green, the home was 100 years old. [more inside]
posted by sideshow at 11:59 AM PST - 12 comments

Should I repair damage on leased vehicle?

My lease is up on February 5 and I just had my inspection. The guy noted a 5" scratch on the bumper and a 10" scratch on one of the wheels. I am not disputing the damage. The excess wear charge would be $220 for the bumper and $75 for the wheel. Should I get other estimates or does that sound reasonable? Pics inside. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 11:29 AM PST - 12 comments

How should I pamper my sore feet?

I'm just waiting for my flight back from a lovely long weekend in NYC. Unfortunately four days of walking in less than perfectly comfy boots have left my feet very sore. What should I be doing over the days to come to help them recover?
posted by sevenyearlurk at 11:24 AM PST - 8 comments

Vacation scope creep - embrace or avoid?

I am in the planning stages of a summer vacation, and am stressing about scope creep. We are flying from the east to the Big Island of Hawaii. Direct flights aren’t an option, and most flights have layovers, generally in California. It got me thinking…and then over thinking. Should we stop in ie. San Francisio on the way there for a couple of days, and maybe L.A. for a couple of ways on the way back? I have not been to either city. Or is that silly, and we should just extend our stay in Hawaii from a week to say 10-12 days ? [more inside]
posted by walkinginsunshine at 11:21 AM PST - 13 comments

NYC Haircut that doesn't cost a leg

Question from Mrs. sandmanwv: I'm looking for a more affordable salon in NYC area that has decent availabilty. I'm caucasian, with medium length brownish hair that's been colored dirty blonde for the past decade. Right now I've been paying around $300 for a cut and color w/tip which is severely limiting the number of haircuts I get in a year. Any ideas? Looking for something in the $150-$180 max. In Brooklyn but can travel to save 3 figures.
posted by sandmanwv at 11:12 AM PST - 6 comments

Looking for general practitioner in nyc

I'm looking for a general practitioner who is willing to prescribe thyroid and psychiatric medications in NYC. Current insurance requires me to meet deductible before seeing specialists, so would prefer to see an internal medicine or family medicine doctor who is willing to do this. My current gp prefers to send me to specialists so I would like an alternative. Feel free to memail me too. Thanks!
posted by perdhapley at 10:54 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me get the most out of my Fire TV

One of the only regrets I have about cutting the cord is that I lost access to a couple beloved programs from my local PBS Create and PBS World channels. There is no equivalent in the Amazon Fire TV store. One of them was Grand Sumo, which I randomly stumbled across on its home network of NHK World, which DOES have a Fire TV app. I am delighted! More hidden gems please! [more inside]
posted by JimBJ9 at 10:25 AM PST - 15 comments

Super cupcake bowl

I've been tasked with making two dozen cupcakes for a Super Bowl party, a dozen for each team. Please help me with ideas for flavors! [more inside]
posted by Everydayville at 9:53 AM PST - 27 comments

Pairs of names, inclusive version

I teach special relativity, and there are many exercises with two observers (twin paradox, simultaneity, etc.) In 'progressive' textbooks, the names at least have some gender parity (Peggy and Ryan), which is better than the older textbooks where both are male. I'd like to use pairs of names that are less WASP-y, especially if they are from traditionally underrepresented groups (e.g. Hispanic). [more inside]
posted by lab.beetle at 8:42 AM PST - 35 comments

Landlord is horrible - but I keep hearing I have no rights

My apartment is old and has numerous problems. I've enjoyed living in older homes in the past, but my landlord is not capable of keeping up with repairs and when he can't - he tries to make it my fault. Also, he sends very inappropriate people (who are incapable) to do the repairs. I've called the police, better business bureau, and tenants rights organization for my area (Madison). All have said I have very limited to no rights. This doesn't seem fair - what would you do? [more inside]
posted by Kalmya at 7:36 AM PST - 21 comments

Meals by Seduction, Rather than Taste

What creative or surprising things should my mother eat? My mother, a life-long gourmet, accomplished cook, and food sensualist who remembers events by meal, lost her sense of taste after being treated with Cipro for an infection a few years ago. Over time, she has lost interest in food. She also has a walker, and can't stand long, so she has dramatically reduced her cooking. Several people are available to shop for her, at Trader Joe's and the like. But the process of eating bores and disappoints her, and she is far too thin. Can you help me entice her? [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 7:33 AM PST - 27 comments

ChicagoLawyerFilter: Recommendation edition

My mother, located in the Chicago area, needs to consult with a lawyer. As I don’t live in the US, I’m looking for recommendations both for what type of lawyer she should speak with, and referrals/where to search for someone qualified. [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 7:14 AM PST - 13 comments

Gift suggestions for somebody who enjoys soldering and radio electronics

I need to buy a gift for someone who enjoys soldering and radio electronics. Price range is $100 to $200. Can you please give me some suggestions?
posted by panama joe at 7:09 AM PST - 10 comments

Travel visa for China, surrender passport?!

I am a US citizen of Taiwanese parentage. I am in the process of getting a visa to visit Shanghai for four days, a side trip from my main trip to Taipei. I do not think it's a good idea to give my US passport to a Consulate office. [more inside]
posted by honey badger at 6:12 AM PST - 24 comments

How to set up a separate Outlook mailbox outside Exchange

Is there any way to set up a non-Exchange Outlook mailbox and be able to use and store personal mail on my work computer? We use Exchange and I'd like to avoid having personal mail on the company server, but still be able to use Outlook.
posted by Gnella at 5:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me use my intermittent downtime

I recently started a new job at an ambulance company. The shifts are variable - some days I’m busy for 12 hours straight, and other days I’ll have a couple hours of downtime. I’m looking for ideas for how to put this time to good use. [more inside]
posted by coppermoss at 4:15 AM PST - 4 comments

Help me manage my farting

I've recently started having a lot of gas. I've tried eliminating various foods and tracking what I eat to see what causes it but it just seems to be a universal consequence of existing for me at the moment. What can I do to lessen my flatulence? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:10 AM PST - 28 comments

Orthopedic (knee) specialist or sports medicine doc in NYC?

I have a knee injury and I'm looking to find a local doctor to take a look at it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:10 AM PST - 3 comments

Harassment, racism, sexism, bullying, working for progressive Texas city

New job, maybe three months in. He is working on this very blue-collar crew, ex prison, ex military. Crude, rude, racist, sexist, tons of passive aggressive behavior. All day long an ongoing litany about gays being garbage who should be killed, all day long ongoing litany about blacks being garbage who should be killed, all day long going on about any woman that they see. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 3:44 AM PST - 14 comments

Figures "beginning/finding success", a little later in life?

Hi, Metafilter. Can anyone think of some figures in creative work, or any great works, who discovered momentum, or notoriety, a little later in life? E.G. - Just a couple, Quentin Tarantino, a box office clerk, in his thirties, before entering a more intense focus, in film. Philip Glass drove a cab, in NYC, until he was forty-two, while composing/conducting. [more inside]
posted by thewolfandewe at 1:59 AM PST - 27 comments

Charismatic = Manipulative?

Is charisma always a bad trait? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 12:55 AM PST - 17 comments

January 21

How do I learn to control my loud voice?

I am an overly loud person and need to get quieter posthaste. How do I do this? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by rednikki at 11:20 PM PST - 13 comments

I'm a future therapist who heard, "Therapists Don't Give Advice"

Should therapists give advice? Why or why not? What exactly is meant by advice? [more inside]
posted by Eevee at 7:42 PM PST - 26 comments

How do I get better so I don't lose the love of my life?

Tonight my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up with me because he was fed up of how much we've been fighting lately and because of how I've been treating him. He changed his mind after I spent the night crying and apologizing and promising to do better, but we're spending the week apart and I'm terrified of losing him despite my best efforts. How can I improve my communication and control my outbursts so that he doesn't leave me and so that we can have a healthier relationship? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:38 PM PST - 31 comments

New baby on the way...Where to live?

My partner and I are expecting are first child but also relocating from out of state. We're having trouble deciding where to move. [more inside]
posted by CosmicSeeker42 at 7:07 PM PST - 17 comments

Minsk, Belarus. Anyone been there? Tell me what I need to know

My wife and I are in our mid 50s and will be moving to Minsk Belarus this summer and remain there for 1.5 years. What should we know, avoid, do, see, learn, etc. We will try to learn Russian, of course. Even though it is economically depressed and a totalitarian state, we'd like to find the gems and see the good in the people and culture, if you can point it out.
posted by luvmywife at 4:34 PM PST - 5 comments

Decaf. Dark Roast. Seattle.

In search of the best decaf, dark roast coffee from Seattle-area roasters. (Excluding Starbucks for the sake of ubiquity.) [more inside]
posted by book 'em dano at 4:24 PM PST - 7 comments

What tools can I use to help plan an ambitious bicycle trip?

I currently have a bicycle in Bucharest, Romania, but I've moved to Milan, Italy. I'm having fantasies of getting the bike to Italy by riding it there this spring. What are some awesome resources that I can use while planning this trip? [more inside]
posted by jpziller at 3:59 PM PST - 10 comments

Mean, Green, What has Hawkeye seen?

I have a question related to Marvel's "Civil War II" comic book event. Spoilers behind the jump. [more inside]
posted by themanwho at 2:42 PM PST - 3 comments

LAN Media Viewer / Streaming Media Player like WDTVLive

I need to find a way to view media on a local file server (seriously missing my WDTVLive now). So far I haven't found anything that works for what I think is a pretty basic set of needs. (no recent questions I can find, more inside) [more inside]
posted by BenevolentActor at 2:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Name nerds wanted! Exploring a new first name.

I'm seeking suggestions for a new first and possibly middle name. [more inside]
posted by loquacious at 2:39 PM PST - 93 comments

Quiz question ideas - sportsnotsports edition

We're devising a quiz round in which the answers all contain the name of a sport, but the questions are not about sports. Help us come up with more! [more inside]
posted by Heloise9 at 2:34 PM PST - 26 comments

tell me about most amazing place you've ever swam!

I want to know about the most amazing places to swim and/or soak. Specifically, that I could someday go visit. (So if it was the lake on your grandpop's land 30 years ago that's gone now, that's not so helpful.) But otherwise, let er rip. Swimming holes? Crazy pools? Underground rivers? Hot springs? I want to hear about it. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:02 PM PST - 73 comments

Recommendations for Production Calendar Software

We are a small volunteer group with enough turn-over that we need something that helps someone walk in and see (for example) that this is Feb 1 and these are the tasks that need to be completed for our newsletter to go out May 1. [more inside]
posted by jojo and the benjamins at 11:38 AM PST - 2 comments

DVD ripping 101/Windows 10 64bit...emphasis on 101

Last question like this on here dates from 2015. Tried the newest version of Handbrake with VLC. No luck. This is about being able to watch DVD's I purchased legally, on iPads/iPhones. Don't mind paying for software, as long as it is legit, reliable, and user friendly, for a relative noob, as am I. Thanks in advance.
posted by subajestad at 11:16 AM PST - 11 comments

Is this a mid-life crisis or something more?

I am a 48 yo female, married for 26 years (my husband is 49). We have 3 children. We’ve had major ups and downs in our marriage. He has had 3 extramarital affairs. None in the last 17 years. We were of the brink of divorce when the last affair happened 2001. He said he needed my help, he loved me, etc. That was a real turning point for us. We went to marital counseling for almost a year. He also went to individual counseling then and as recently as 6 years ago for a tune-up. I have also been to individual counseling. Over time, I was able to truly forgive him. Our marriage has been great for years. Of course we have major blow ups a couple of times a year. The difference is that when we argue now we’re able to discuss the issues and resolve them, for the most part. I call my husband my rock, because he has really shown how devoted he is to me and our kids and our extended families. (More) [more inside]
posted by getyourlife at 11:16 AM PST - 55 comments

Organizational photo storage with tagging and facial recognition?

I work for an organization that has tens of thousands of photos from various events, work functions, etc. The images are spread out in various folders on our network with no consistent structure so finding a particular photo of a person from a particular event is difficult to say the least. I've been tasked with optimizing the storage and search functionality so that we can find what we want when we need it. [more inside]
posted by gfrobe at 11:07 AM PST - 2 comments

Herpes Hypochondria

I've had life long struggles with hypochondria but recently an extreme focus of my anxiety has been around contracting herpes. Despite my bouts of panic stricken googling and webMD searches, I am realizing that I do not have accurate facts about symptoms, signs, transmission, etc. Looking to be educated / pointed towards quality resources so I can have a fruitful conversation with my doctor. Looking as well for any thoughts on how to deal with my anxiety. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:45 AM PST - 18 comments

Buying new glasses stresses me out, how can I make it easier?

Of all things in life, I find the process of buying new glasses to always be super frustrating and I rarely feel satisfied with the end result. I need to buy new glasses, how can I ensure I have a decent experience this time around? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:45 AM PST - 32 comments

Private Health Management Experiences

I’m looking into the companies Private Health Management and PinnacleCare to get help managing a variety of chronic health issues. However, it’s really hard to find reviews of either company online. Has anyone on here used one of these companies or something similar? [more inside]
posted by triscuit at 9:44 AM PST - 2 comments

Sweet or Snow Peas?

Are these snow pea sprouts or sweet pea sprouts? [more inside]
posted by otherwordlyglow at 8:58 AM PST - 3 comments

Too many canned tomatoes

In trying to cut down my food budget, I've realized I have been accumulating way too many cans of tomatoes. I need some tasty recipe ideas that are fun and interesting! [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 6:55 AM PST - 44 comments

How can I get this printer to print in draft mode?

I have a HP OfficeJet 4650 that will not print in draft mode. I've tried every setting possible but all pages are coming out almost wet. [more inside]
posted by james33 at 6:52 AM PST - 3 comments

Call and offbeat response

I'm looking for songs involving audience participation. [more inside]
posted by nicolin at 6:26 AM PST - 12 comments

Water softening vs filtration.

I recently moved into a house with well water. The water quality report during the sale of the house shows no arsenic or coliforms. However, I did know pretty much all of the well water out here has iron and sulfur in it. But I think we have a silt issue as well, and I'm trying to figure out what type of system to add or replace to my current water softener setup. [more inside]
posted by msladygrey at 6:02 AM PST - 8 comments

I'm looking for weird, surreal, artsy podcasts.

When I google "weird podcasts" I get a lot of results for paranormal or "creepy" podcasts, but that's not what I'm looking for. [more inside]
posted by mreleganza at 3:00 AM PST - 26 comments

What's a recipe for personal cooking that is delicious and priced well?

I want to ramp up my personal cooking business. I have lots of ideas to do this but some concrete questions and concerns first. Primarily: happiness of the client, food cost and continued quality. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 2:59 AM PST - 4 comments

On The Trail of The Jelly Bean Trail: Identify this Children's Book

Asking on behalf of my lovely friend: She remembers a book from her childhood- so maybe from early to mid 80s- about a young girl traveling through the wilderness- maybe forest or rolling hills- following a trail of jelly beans. The pictures were all a kind of lifelike painting- she remembers lots of earthy colours.. but most of all the vivid colours of the jelly beans themselves, which she remembers as being bright like jewels. Maybe she was dropping them along the way, Hansel & Gretel style, to find her way back home? [more inside]
posted by Philby at 2:57 AM PST - 4 comments

Airbnb in New York City - bad idea?

We are looking at accommodations options for a NYC trip this June, and I am trying to understand where Airbnb (and the legal situation) fits into it in 2018. Can you offer your experiences or alternative suggestions? [more inside]
posted by carbide at 12:03 AM PST - 17 comments

January 20

Improvised coffee filter

No coffee filters. But I have printer paper, paper towels, socks, dishrags, and possibly other useful items. I'm hoping to have a nice cup of coffee with NO GRIT, and minimal levels of chemicals that will harm me/throw off the taste of the coffee. What's my best option?
posted by pH Indicating Socks at 11:44 PM PST - 19 comments

The Edge of Turbulence

I live near a shallow tidal lagoon. I often notice that part of the surface is turbulent, part is relatively calm, and there is a sharp boundary (as opposed to a smooth gradient) between these two areas. I don't think the boundary occurs in a consistent place from day to day. How can such a boundary form, and how is it sustained over time (i.e., why don't waves from the turbulent area spill across the boundary)?
posted by aws17576 at 11:12 PM PST - 3 comments

Can I eat this apple sauce?

I’m finally asking a Can I Eat It? question! Jar of Trader Joe’s organic apple sauce that I just found unopened in the back of a cupboard. Ingredients: apples, ascorbic acid. Best by December 2016. Yes/no?
posted by skycrashesdown at 7:18 PM PST - 9 comments

a reasonable art marketing budget?

What's a reasonable amount to devote to marketing? Any rules of thumb? [more inside]
posted by egk at 6:54 PM PST - 4 comments

Roku thinks I have headphones plugged in, but I don't

I have no audio on my Roku 3, except through headphones. I had not previously plugged headphones in, but I can now get audio through them, but not through the TV speakers. I turned off power to the Roku and restarted that way. I hit the Reset button and restarted that way. I took the batteries out of the remote, re-paired the remote with the Roku. None of that fixed the problem. Ideas?
posted by lazuli at 6:02 PM PST - 1 comment

How do I protect my family from this chemical smell?

Just moved into a new multi-family dwelling. The two upstairs bathrooms smell awful. I thought it was cigarette smoke, but I'm not really sure. It's making my eyes water and sinuses hurt. What can I do? [more inside]
posted by crunchy potato at 5:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Oldest dog portrait?

I recently saw Gerrit Dou's Dog at Rest at the MFA, to which it's been pledged. (It was charming watching people's faces light up as they noticed the piece walking through the room.) It struck me that it was the oldest (1650) "portrait" of a dog I was aware of. [more inside]
posted by praemunire at 5:36 PM PST - 9 comments

Help us identify this mystery object.

Today on the beach near our house (Chicago, Lake Michigan), my husband found something that resembles a ceramic bottle stopper. What is it and what is it for? And can you estimate its age? [more inside]
posted by mai at 4:51 PM PST - 11 comments

from (thailand to) russia with love

I need to be in Phuket on June 9th, and (Helsinki or) St. Petersburg on June 17th. What could I do/where could I go in between that would be a) awesome and b) cheaper than just flying back home for a week? [more inside]
posted by goodbyewaffles at 4:47 PM PST - 5 comments

Our dog is an awesome, I mean, neurotic dog

Our tiny terrier mutt is a lovely, well behaved dog at home, but anywhere else turns into a nervous wreck. Anyone have a dog like this and manage to turn them into a robust traveling dog with training? [more inside]
posted by Wavelet at 4:45 PM PST - 5 comments

Looking for a power cable

Hi All. I have an old jWin CD player that I am looking for a power cable for. The manual for the player is here, but it doesn't actually say what kind of plug to use. The power plug is a polarized plug that looks common, but I don't know what kind it is. A picture is here. There is a small "1" imprinted into the adapter. None of the connectors shown on Wikipedia look right. Does anyone know what kind of connector this is, and where I can get a cable to connect it to a US wall outlet? Thanks!
posted by coberh at 3:57 PM PST - 18 comments

Can I put a video of me singing a song on instagram or you tube?

I have singing recitals where I sing a song with a piano accompanist and would like to put them on instagram and you tube. I also sing in a show choir and the school band plays behind us, but I am sure the song is copyrighted, but I wanted to show my friends my solo that I had in the show choir. [more inside]
posted by lynnie-the-pooh at 3:04 PM PST - 5 comments

Tinnitus and Sertraline

Recently I started taking Sertraline. I have developed very noticable tinnitus. Will continuing this drug permanently affect my hearing? [more inside]
posted by Crystal Fox at 3:03 PM PST - 6 comments

What goes with this coat?

I'm into this coat, which Amazon describes as a "Men's Velvet Goth Steampunk Victorian Frock Coat," as something I'd like to wear to a costume-ish party. My question is, what might go with it, in terms of shirt, tie, vest (?), pants, shoes, hat, and any other accessories? Thanks for any ideas! (And a bonus if your suggestions are available on Amazon Prime.)
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 2:29 PM PST - 9 comments

How to encourage more personal conversations at parties

I regularly attend and host gatherings where no one gets past small talk, even though all the attendees have known each other well for years, and each of us have more personal and/or interesting conversations when we meet one-on-one. Are there ways to encourage this, as either a host or an attendee? [more inside]
posted by metasarah at 2:05 PM PST - 20 comments

How many new flavors are waiting to be discovered?

Flavor researchers usually try to imitate real, natural foods. But sometimes they synthesise entirely new tastes, like tutti-frutti, bubble gum, Mountain Dew, etc. How many of these novel flavors still remain undiscovered? Is there only a narrow band of tastes not yet described chemically, or a vast galaxy of new, weird, wonderful flavors to explore?
posted by dontjumplarry at 12:19 PM PST - 6 comments

Funny kids’ books with girl protagonists

Our daughter is 6 and has just devoured the [#] Storey Treehouse books. She’s quite lively and silly herself and I’d love to find more funny and surreal books like those, but I’d especially like to find ones with female lead characters. [more inside]
posted by cardinalandcrow at 12:08 PM PST - 14 comments

How to put an apartment up for rent in New York City

Our East Village rental apartment is currently listed with a broker — but after six weeks there’s barely been any activity. (Understandably— Who would want to pay that horrendous broker’s fee?) Our contract with the broker ends in 2 weeks, and we now want to list it ourselves. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 11:02 AM PST - 10 comments

What are these things beneath my cabinet called?

I need help identifying these things beneath my upper kitchen cabinets, as one needs replacing. [more inside]
posted by kingoftonga86 at 10:54 AM PST - 11 comments

Inner cover of printer (Samsung M2070W) will not close

We have just replaced the toner in our Samsung M2070W printer. Now somehow the inner cover (the bit that covers the area where the toner cartridge sits) will no longer close. It can be pushed down partially, but then there is some kind of resistance that prevents it from closing all the way. How can we make it close? [more inside]
posted by jeudi at 10:20 AM PST - 6 comments

Where should I go for good beaches, snuba, and chartered fishing?

I have the final week of February for vacation - where can I go with great relaxing beaches, chartered fishing, and interesting culture? [more inside]
posted by deern the headlice at 10:13 AM PST - 6 comments

How often to empty a vacuum cleaner?

My roommate claims that handheld vacuum cleaners should be emptied before every use because the cleaner dispenses air that includes the suctioned dust. Is this true? [more inside]
posted by thesockpuppet at 10:13 AM PST - 8 comments

Hidden Las Vegas?

What are some off-the-strip things I should see and do in Las Vegas next week? [more inside]
posted by this, of course, alludes to sex at 9:51 AM PST - 18 comments

Support group for families of bipolar individuals

Are there any support groups in the Phoenix, AZ metropolitan area for family and friends of those with bipolar disorder? [more inside]
posted by meese at 9:14 AM PST - 1 comment

High time to stop being a "low talker"

At the ripe old age of 41, I really want to fix an issue I've had forever: I'm a low talker. [more inside]
posted by rtgoodwin at 8:48 AM PST - 21 comments

Are motorcycles easier or harder to handle depending on rider's weight?

I'd like to know if there's a significant difference in how a motorcycle handles depending on the weight of the rider. How would a smaller rider fare versus a larger rider in terms of maneuvering or extreme acceleration? Let's say we're talking about a cruiser, and also that we're talking about the limits of performance. [more inside]
posted by millions at 8:38 AM PST - 17 comments

Best (or only) tool to extract and save twitter threads

Now that people are putting sustained arguments into twitter threads, sometimes I want to save these off. Is there anything that will allow me to click on a long twitter thread and save the whole lot for future reference? [more inside]
posted by alloneword at 8:30 AM PST - 3 comments

Help me find a CTF game?

Please help me find a LAN capable CTF game meeting these criteria? [more inside]
posted by Meatbomb at 7:16 AM PST - 3 comments

What is the legal status of multiple wives in the US and Canada?

As I understand it, a married man in the US can legally "marry" a second wife under religious law only (i.e. going through a religious wedding ceremony but not registering the marriage with the state). But I'm interested in how the law would regard second (and third, and fourth) marriages if those marriages were legally contracted elsewhere. [more inside]
posted by musofire at 7:11 AM PST - 18 comments

Societies where the wealthy would burn their belongings

I seem to have read somewhere about a historical culture (other than silicon valley) where the wealthy would get together at parties and burn their belongings to show how powerful they were. Can you help me find historical examples of this sort of ostentation? [more inside]
posted by craniac at 6:32 AM PST - 12 comments

How can I watch Netflix on Chrome for Android?

I already know the answer will be "you can't do this without the app." I don't want that answer. I don't have an app on windows+chrome and it works fine. I want to know exactly what I need to do to chrome to make it play on android, or, exactly what is missing from chrome+android that precludes it from working. (For e.g. Chrome for Android doesn't support required FeatureX.) [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 6:26 AM PST - 6 comments

Euro-break me!

I have a weekend free at the end of February and an extreme case of solo wanderlust. Can anyone recommend a European destination that would fit my criteria? [more inside]
posted by freya_lamb at 5:07 AM PST - 20 comments

Marketing, passion, origin stories and authenticity

I run a small business and have received advice about our website being too sterile and anonymous. Marketing person emphasised that getting business is about having a corporate story, a hook, personality, but that these must also be authentic. Frankly my real business origin story is about wanting to spend more time with my cat, and I'm uncomfortable about putting too much about my personality online where it can be linked to my name. Are there any solutions to this? [more inside]
posted by paduasoy at 2:22 AM PST - 15 comments

Wanted: Fun, bite-sized English for my English learning quirky niece

I want to get my niece (14) hooked. On learning English. Like her aunt (me). She seems to enjoy it so far but I need more resources. Can you help, Metafilter? [more inside]
posted by M. at 2:10 AM PST - 11 comments

Add a tip to a closed Lyft ride?

Got home from a birthday celebration and the birthday celebree required unexpected debarkation assistance while my phone was out, in hand, and at the pay screen. The end result was that I stiffed our driver on the tip. How can I remit the intended amount?
posted by mwhybark at 12:30 AM PST - 4 comments

January 19

Identity of my ex-husband's doppleganger?

Someone recently found a photo (on Pinterest?) that looks almost exactly like my ex-husband. [more inside]
posted by Jacqueline at 7:47 PM PST - 8 comments

Damage in the Socket

Help me save the day and my friend's first computer build from bent pins in the CPU socket on the motherboard. [more inside]
posted by glonous keming at 6:58 PM PST - 8 comments

How can I get my stored tools and projects back from TechShop?

I had hundreds of dollars of tools and projects stored at TechShop (in California) when they closed down. They have not responded to repeated requests over two+ months for information on when/how I will get them back. What steps can I take? [more inside]
posted by unus sum at 6:14 PM PST - 6 comments

same amount of medication, different size

Is there a chemical reason for why a larger pill, the same amount of medicine as two smaller ones, works faster? [more inside]
posted by colorblock sock at 5:58 PM PST - 7 comments

Help me find the one true fitness tracker

I would love to find a great fitness tracker that's just right for me, but of course, I have complicated requirements, and so I turn to you, the trusty hive mind, for help. Requirements below the fold. [more inside]
posted by Threeve at 4:53 PM PST - 14 comments

Is it weird to message my massage therapist on LinkedIn?

Is it weird to message my massage therapist on LinkedIn to find out where she's working now? [more inside]
posted by Proginoskes at 4:18 PM PST - 13 comments

Whouuu, whouuuu, VOTE?

I‘m taking the girls (2 and 6) to the Oakland Women‘s March tomorrow and need to make signs. Alas: my 6-year-old *really* wants to wear her wolf costume (think, Max in ‚Where the Wild Things Are‘). [more inside]
posted by The Toad at 2:43 PM PST - 22 comments

South Carolina, Georgia, North Carolina itinerary?

Let's say you had to plan 7 nights for two adults flying in and out of Charlotte in late May/early June. What would you recommend as an itinerary? [more inside]
posted by starman at 1:59 PM PST - 12 comments

A Place to study on Friday night in Minneapolis

I have some studying and a short, open book test to take tonight between 6:30 and 9:00. I'd like to have dinner and then study somewhere near downtown but I don't want to hog a four top on a busy night. I have a laptop, two big books and a notebook. Where should I go?
posted by soelo at 1:59 PM PST - 3 comments

DJ recommended tracks

I really like features like The Guardian's "Harangue the DJ" and Slog's "Spun Out" where DJs are asked for a short selection of tracks that they recommend. Unfortunately, these are the only two features of this kind that I know about. What are some more? All genres welcome.
posted by josher71 at 1:24 PM PST - 5 comments

What's the break even amount on a eurrail pass? Snowflake details inside

So I'm in Spain. I plan on getting on a train and going from San Roque or Algecerias and taking it through spain, through france and eventually getting off in Geneva. Then the goal is to take trains to Zurich. And from there down to Rome for a couple of days and eventually to take a train to Naples. So I was looking at the non consecutive four day Eurrail pass. And it's pricey. 5 days within 2 months the total price 427 euros. I THINK it's going to be less to just book individual tickets but I'm not sure. IS it cheaper to do it ala carte?
posted by rileyray3000 at 12:42 PM PST - 15 comments

SFF Readalikes... for My Own Writing

I'm winding up a writing project (hurrah!) and am preparing to query literary agents in the next couple months. I am hoping to develop a list of writers whose work resembles my own - not to name-drop in my query letters, but to help me become aware of literary agents who might be interested in my work and other publishing opportunities. [more inside]
posted by toastedcheese at 12:37 PM PST - 7 comments

Non-dairy Half and Half?

I would really like to be dairy free for multiple reasons. One of my remaining hang ups is figuring out what to put in my coffee instead of half and half. I've tried a lot of options but need more suggestions! [more inside]
posted by Katie8709 at 12:13 PM PST - 38 comments

Family-friendly neighborhoods in Chicago proper

Our family may be relocating from NYC to Chicago (the city, not the suburbs). We are city folk and parents of a toddler, so we'd like to research neighborhoods that have decent public schools, parks and playgrounds, proximity to the trains, diversity, and other fun stuff to do. Are we asking for a pony or a unicorn? [more inside]
posted by Hwaet at 11:34 AM PST - 15 comments

Per aspera ad astra?

My last two therapy sessions have left me reeling and feeling more dejected and despairing than ever. Do I go back? [more inside]
posted by any_name_in_a_storm at 11:32 AM PST - 17 comments

Is eletric radiant heat worth installing for a bathroom floor?

We are remodeling our second floor master bath in northeastern Illinois and are considering including electric heat under the tiled floor. Is it worth the cost? What temperature do you set it for? Is it on all the time? Does it heat the whole room? Do things on the floor get warm or hot? What brands should we consider or avoid?
posted by grahahw at 11:11 AM PST - 18 comments

it's time for some game theory

Do you know of any game-theoretic analyses of the current US Federal budget negotiations, including a potential shutdown?
posted by the man of twists and turns at 10:57 AM PST - 2 comments

Need manly themes and ideas for an industrial real estate broker event.

Hi All, I work in industrial real estate: we basically build and lease warehouses, distribution centers, and the like, but I am on the marketing side. I'm looking for really fun, creative ideas for a broker event we are planning to host this March. The purpose of the event will be to promote a large warehouse / distribution center we have for lease that is currently vacant. Audience-wise, the typical industrial real estate broker is - you guessed it - male, so we typically go with more manly type themes, which can be really fun! [more inside]
posted by LPTeb at 10:45 AM PST - 12 comments

In-ear Bluetooth headphones good for sports: Go!

Seeking Bluetooth in-ear headphones that are durable and have a good form-factor for running/bouncing up and down. Audio quality not as important, I mostly listen to podcasts. [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 10:37 AM PST - 14 comments

Excel: How do I filter records based on criteria across different cells?

Excel experts: How can I filter this range so that I only pull records with red cells (these were originally blank)? This is a pivot table that I converted back into a range. Alternatively, is there a way I can filter my original pivot table so that it only displays records with blank entries? Thanks in advance!
posted by matticulate at 10:11 AM PST - 11 comments

Prius shopping round 2 - the heat is ON!

So, subsequent to my previous question, I ended up leasing a 2015 Prius, and so far it's been great. The lease is almost up, and I'm thinking of buying the car, but have a question. [more inside]
posted by greatgefilte at 10:07 AM PST - 5 comments

How do people do tiny inter-city moves?

I need to move from Portland, OR to the Bay Area. I'm moving from a houseshare to a houseshare, and have only one small bedroom's worth of stuff (it'll fit in a U-Haul cargo van). At the same time, I also have a car to move, and as a nervous driver, I don't relish driving a rental van all the way down there. I'm considering hiring someone to help. This can't be that unusual of a situation -- how do people handle this? [more inside]
posted by thesmallmachine at 10:05 AM PST - 28 comments

Cats and Sleeping

I'm about to adopt a cat (or two). In general, I'm planning to give them the run of the house. I'm a little worried about nighttime though. I know cats are active at night, and I'm a light sleeper. Detailed questions below. [more inside]
posted by diogenes at 9:49 AM PST - 22 comments

Your 6 year olds favorite books

My kindergartner has decided most of the books we own are now 'boring'. He still likes books with pictures on every other page. (It doesn't have to be at his reading level, we have plenty of simple books to practice with. This is for bed time.) Minecraft is currently a big hit (building etc) and he enjoys telling elaborate stories. Taking him to the library is also on the list, but sometimes favorites don't have cool covers.
posted by typecloud at 9:30 AM PST - 19 comments

Did I hork my monitor? Or sheer coincidence?

Would an unseated video card be enough to fry the logic board on my monitor? Or did it happen to go bad at the same time? [more inside]
posted by SquidLips at 9:06 AM PST - 6 comments

How does poor pupil dilation affect recovery from cataract surgery?

Someone I know is getting surgery to remove a cataract in one eye. She tells me that, because her pupil has trouble dilating, the surgery will be more complicated than usual, taking about an hour rather than 5-10 minutes. She has had trouble getting in touch with the doctor to ask questions about details and the name of her condition, so I'm finding it hard to research how unusual this is, whether recovery will be different from recovering from normal cataract removal (e.g., longer), and what to particularly watch out for during recovery. Help? [more inside]
posted by brainwane at 8:29 AM PST - 2 comments

New York Times delivery how does it work?

I live in the Raleigh/Durham area. I am interested in receiving the NY Times Delivery to my address. I am not interested in delivery by mail. Who delivers the NY Times in areas such as Raleigh? Is it private contractors? The same people who deliver the local papers? The reason I ask is I tried to get delivery of the local daily paper and they could rarely get a paper to my door. I don't think it is people stealing the paper and my address is right in the middle of the Triangle so I am not in a rural area. If it's the same people delivering the local paper I don't even want to bother.
posted by Justin Case at 8:01 AM PST - 12 comments

Let us get together, right down here

I'd like to find a way to communicate with groups of friends/workmates/acquaintances about upcoming potential trips/meetings/etc.. Would like to avoid many email forths and backs, and not interested in using facebook or other such. These would be along the lines of "we're thinking about a soup and bread potluck on a Sunday afternoon in Feb. Are you interested? (and maybe "how interested are you?"), and which one would work for you?" Not a Meetup, but similar. Doodle seems most like what we're looking for, but what else have you?
posted by bullatony at 7:33 AM PST - 9 comments

When you say "keep a Jewish home," what does that mean?

I recently said in the context of conversion that it was important to me to "keep a Jewish home" but then when I was pressed for what that meant, I realized that there was not one universal definition even though it seemed very obvious and self-evident in my head. I'm interested in hearing yours. If you "keep a Jewish home," what does that mean to you? [more inside]
posted by juniperesque at 6:40 AM PST - 19 comments

Canine Massage

Following on to my question last week, I want to ask about Canine Massage. I am thinking of getting certified in this as another part of the business. [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 5:22 AM PST - 0 comments

Help onforwarding an internet purchase from the USA to Australia

I know there are onforwarding services that will receive parcels from backwards American companies that only ship to the USA / NAFTA, but would prefer to help out a fellow MeFite first, if that appeals... [more inside]
posted by UbuRoivas at 1:04 AM PST - 9 comments

I'm getting fumble fingers, I don't want them.

I've been dropping more and more stuff lately. Utensils, plastic cups (I don't trust myself with glass) and car keys. I dropped them in a parking lot the other day, and miraculously they didn't fall into the sewer but balanced on the grate. Any thing to be done about this? I'm almost 60, been tested by a neurologist and he found nothing. It's not horrible (yet) but I can see bigger problems in the future.
posted by Marky at 12:21 AM PST - 16 comments

Resources for the clumsy mathematician

I want to be less clumsy with numbers / be more fluid with maths - are there any games / websites / drills that could help with that? [more inside]
posted by Crookshanks_Meow at 12:00 AM PST - 6 comments

January 18

Yet another 'can I eat this' question, starring foreign expiry dates

I have some ladyfingers I bought a few months ago. The package has a 'best before' date I can't decipher: L.FEE07JN7, and, on a separate line, 0715826. I would guess that indicates an expiry date of 7 June 2007, but again I bought these a few months ago. Maybe this isn't actually a best before date (despite being labeled as such)? Or maybe it just follows an Italian convention I'm unfamiliar with? Can I eat this?
posted by perplexion at 9:21 PM PST - 12 comments

FL:Can I get my money back for car that odometer has been tampered with?

In the State of Florida. How can I get as much of my money back as possible after owning the car for 8 months and adding 10,000 miles, then learning that the odometer was rolled back 100,000 miles? [more inside]
posted by momzilla at 9:09 PM PST - 16 comments

No cold water through the kitchen sink

The cold water pressure in the kitchen was low. I checked the shutoff valve to make sure it was open, and now there's no cold water pressure at all. What happened, and what can I do about it? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 8:18 PM PST - 15 comments

Can you help guide us with post-fire cleaning ?

We had a fire and everything is heavily smoke damaged. What can we try to salvage on our own? What can we expect from cleaning companies? Difficulty level: 1-year old baby. [more inside]
posted by cali59 at 8:14 PM PST - 5 comments


Real simple, yet maddeningly complex: I cannot get a Brita or Pur faucet-mounted filter to attach to my kitchen faucet. Our tap water tastes like frog pee. I've tried a bazillion adapters. HALP. More inside. [more inside]
posted by julthumbscrew at 8:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Shoe buying advice

I'm looking for the perfect pair of men's shoes, with a potentially incompatible array of constraints below the fold. [more inside]
posted by jason and the garlic knots at 7:24 PM PST - 13 comments

Off-season honeymoon in Kennybunk, ME

I'm getting married in just a few weeks and we're going to Kennybunk, ME for our honeymoon. I'm not familiar with the area especially off-season, and was wondering if some locals would share secrets in the area, including Portland, ME. We'll be there for three days. Thanks in advance for your awesome and fun suggestions.
posted by Draccy at 6:24 PM PST - 13 comments

"Matt Lieber is a weekend with good weather and no plans."

Some podcasts have odd credits for staff at the end of each episode. MeFi favorite, "Reply All" is the most consistent with this, as at the end of every episode, producer Matt Lieber is [something really pleasant]. I've also heard this on other podcasts--"Snap Judgement" is the example that immediately springs to mind. I get that this is a nice kind of tribute to someone who is instrumental in creating the podcast. What I want to know is, when/how did this start?
posted by Fuego at 6:17 PM PST - 13 comments

Which title is best?

For a short story I'm working on (for my own amusement), I have two potential titles that have equal bearing on the story, but I can't decide between them. So I'd like your opinion. [more inside]
posted by charris5005 at 5:49 PM PST - 10 comments

Broken Plate with Cat Faces

I broke a cute plate with sleeping cat faces, and I need to find a replacement, or my SO will be sad (and very, very mad!) [more inside]
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 5:04 PM PST - 10 comments

Is "non-binary" the correct term to report non-binary gender?

I have to report on a survey. For our gender question, it was open-ended, so we had a variety of answers. For reporting, we need to combine these. The majority responded as some variation of "male" or "female"; some people identified as a non-binary option (e.g. only as "trans" without any other gender indicator). For the sake of privacy (and practicality), I need to combine these into one category. "Non-binary" is the first category name that strikes me (identifying as neither male nor female), but I wanted to check whether this is appropriate. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:12 PM PST - 25 comments

More choral issues, this time about cultural appropriation

Back to questions about my chorus. This time we're performing a work I'm pretty uncomfortable with for reasons I'll state below. Short version: it's about the Underground Railroad and we're pretty much all white. [more inside]
posted by holborne at 2:54 PM PST - 26 comments

Advice on coursework before applying for a masters in Statistics

I have a non-traditional background, but want to apply to statistics programs soon. Would taking Complex Analysis be more beneficial than taking more computer science classes? [more inside]
posted by leach at 1:59 PM PST - 8 comments

Cozy mystery series sought, with requirements

Specifically, books without first-person narrators and featuring fantasy or magical elements. [more inside]
posted by furtive_jackanapes at 1:34 PM PST - 15 comments

What's a good computer program for improving ADHD / working memory?

My ADHD is a constant problem in my life, and I expect that will continue, but I've heard that there is software that can improve working memory and that, in turn, can improve ADHD over a course of five or six weeks. I'd like to try this! Do you have any recommendations for software?
posted by Alex Haist at 1:28 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me figure out my first all inclusive vacation...

My best friend and I want to spend 3-4 days at an all-inclusive resort in March. We are picturing being warm, laying on a beach, drinks with umbrellas and good conversation/reading/doing-nothing. We are not picturing loud club-like environment or cruise-style planned activities. Difficulties: She is coming from Montreal and I'm coming from Boston. We have never done anything like this before. All previous travel done together or separately has involved more...effort/adventure. We want neither. (Please see aforementioned umbrella drinks and lounging.) Advice? Planning tips? Great ideas? Details and questions below. [more inside]
posted by jeszac at 1:27 PM PST - 12 comments


2010 Honda Minivan with 70k totaled when the driver in the oncoming lane lost control on an icy road and we briefly shared a lane. Seeking advice on how to deal with the insurance company so we are fairly compensated? Minnesota Edition. [more inside]
posted by roue at 1:22 PM PST - 7 comments

filling foods that do ok unrefrigerated. for the plane.

What do you like to bring on planes for LONG flights that is non-smelly, tastes good cold/room temp, and is safe to eat after 10-11 hours unrefrigerated? I'm taking the family on a transatlantic flight that doesn't serve food. Need four dinners, four breakfasts, X# of bored snacks. Complication: no ham. [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 12:59 PM PST - 49 comments

Raising Happy Confident Kittens

I recently got the opportunity to foster a Momma and her three kittens. We believe they're about eight weeks old. Poor Mom is in rough shape and she's at the vet getting IV fluids and antibiotics. They're all feral-ish. How do I best get them ready for adoption? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Bistyfrass at 12:48 PM PST - 16 comments

Low-rise pants

I am about to replace some old pairs of pants and I really want something low-rise. Mainly looking for sweatpants and shorts, pajama/lounge pants, and Levis. [more inside]
posted by expialidocious at 12:36 PM PST - 1 comment

I’m a job hopper... but is that really so bad (for me specifically)?

I’m having a bit of a job / life crisis and would love some outside insight beyond just ranting to my husband. I am not good at office jobs and feel like I am broken. I have had two “real” office jobs, and invariably they have ended the same way: about a year in, I get frustrated, wildly bored, and start making moves to leave. Advice from any other creative types who’ve struggled with this same issue would be particularly useful!! [more inside]
posted by good day merlock at 11:59 AM PST - 13 comments

Enormous Download from Dropbox.com

I have a seldom-used 500g dmg file in DropBox that's not mirrored on my drive. I need to grab it for a sec, but don't have room on my hard drive, so I'm downloading to an external drive. But I haven't been able to complete the d/l in Safari or Chrome (for reasons explained below). [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 11:40 AM PST - 21 comments

Plant that smells exactly like ripe apricots

Every so often I’ll be outside and smell apricots when there are no apricots in view. I believe some plant is giving off this smell — not an apricot tree, probably, but something with flowers or pollen that smells exactly like apricots. What might it be? [more inside]
posted by delight at 11:09 AM PST - 9 comments


I used to use Readability to send Longreads to my Kindle. It was absolutely seamless, one click, no effort. I hit "send to Kindle" and the article showed up--in a readable format--on my Kindle. My search-engine searching is not turning up an alternative that has this functionality. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by crush at 11:08 AM PST - 8 comments

Help me stem the tide of off-leash dogs in my town

Please help me brainstorm ways to get people in my town to stop walking their dogs off leash in violation of the leash law. All ideas welcome; even if they seem crazy, they might lead to a more practical solution. My on-leash dogs have been charged by off-leash dogs twice already this week and I've had it. I'm specifically focused on people walking dogs off-leash on the sidewalks in town. Things I've thought of so far after the jump, in increasing order of rage-fueled irrationality. [more inside]
posted by HotToddy at 11:04 AM PST - 30 comments

Prague - good central places to stay?

I have a conference in Prague in late May and I want to take my family along. Where should I be looking for AirBnBs that meet our needs? The conference locations are near the Florenc metro and the second location is immediately next to Náměstí Republiky metro. [more inside]
posted by k8t at 11:02 AM PST - 2 comments

Fragrance-free Shampoo for gray, dyed hair?

I am looking for recommendations for shampoo, for my specific hair. It needs to be fragrance-free and sulfates-free. I have naturally gray hair that I dye brown. More hair details inside.. [more inside]
posted by veerat at 10:56 AM PST - 4 comments

Rehoming a high-energy cat

A couple of days ago I asked what to do about a wild child cat who we just weren't clicking with. I must have jinxed myself by stating in the question that he was not being aggressive towards our older cat, because right after asking the question he started bullying the old guy. It's time to find him a new home where he will be happier, but this will be an uphill climb. Would it be best to simply take him back to the shelter? [more inside]
posted by ThreeSocksToTheWind at 10:54 AM PST - 8 comments

I'd like some Wensleydale cheese, please.

It's pretty simple. I don't live in the UK and I'd like some Wensleydale. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by orangutan at 10:45 AM PST - 17 comments

Angelenos, help me walk the walk

I'll keep this brief. I'm currently visiting Los Angeles and would like to participate in the Women's March here on Saturday. I'm a tourist staying in Venice Beach with a rental car and a bike. What would be the best way to get downtown and back for the march? I've asked around and heard horror stories from last year about the transit options: impossible parking and traffic, trains too crowded to board, overstressed Uber and Lyft systems. Are there shuttles I should know about? Better times for the trains? Any ideas would be welcome! Thanks!
posted by fiery.hogue at 10:40 AM PST - 10 comments

Adjusting to future shift work?

I was just hired for a well-paying p/t time in my regional hospital system. That's great, but it's shift work. How do I stay sane, healthy, and motivated to continue work on my side hustle? And oh, advice for working in the hospital system too, please. [more inside]
posted by Kitteh at 10:22 AM PST - 7 comments

How can I get this Airport Express to do what I want?

I’ve been given an unused Apple AirPort Express. Great! Maybe I can finally network my printer and print wirelessly from it. Given the specifics of my current WiFi configuration, can you help me figure out the best and/or easiest way to do this? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco at 9:46 AM PST - 7 comments

Depression Is Awful. On The Cusp of Trying Meds Again. Help!

I will try to keep this short. I have had lifelong OCD/Anxiety/Depression. I tried meds in the past. I have been in therapy for a decade. I’ve done it all, including ketamine infusions. Docs want me to try meds again. Info inside [more inside]
posted by kbbbo at 9:30 AM PST - 17 comments

Not-quite-splitting Digital Optic Audio

Need advice on optic audio splitters... [more inside]
posted by kuanes at 9:23 AM PST - 8 comments

Southeast Asian literature in translation

I'm going to Thailand and Cambodia this spring. I'd like to read novels and poems about these places, ideally in translation. [more inside]
posted by torridly at 9:22 AM PST - 3 comments

Mexico City during Holy Week?

Is traveling to Mexico City during Holy Week (Semana Santa) a bad idea? [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 9:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Flip phone for my kid

What's the best option for a flip phone for my kid to use mostly for emergencies? Requirements: Cheap so he can lose it, would probably make 1-4 calls/texts a week, no plan, just non-expiring minutes [more inside]
posted by coffee and minarets at 9:00 AM PST - 4 comments

A Robot Uprising! Human Resistance! What Rhymes with Orange?

I recall reading a very short sci-fi story (perhaps in an anthology) about humans on a moon colony? plotting resistance against a robot uprising. The entire story (to my hazy recollection) centers on a meeting of the human resistance debating how they can defeat the powerful robots. What is the name and author of this 50s or 60s era? short story? [more inside]
posted by j03 at 8:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Can I file taxes before I get this form?

I need to file asap because of identity theft. I have my W2, but haven't gotten a tax form from an IRA yet. I didn't take any money out of it, but don't really understand how it works- if there was a "dividends reinvestment" and capital gains reinvestment, do I need to report that somehow? It's a very small account.
posted by pinochiette at 8:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Getting to Santa Monica from LAX

Arriving early afternoon Wednesday, should I get a cab or just take the bus? [more inside]
posted by plasticpalacealice at 8:42 AM PST - 9 comments

Office Supply Item: No Idea What to Name This, And Thus How to Find It

I am looking for a one-unit grid of document holders, but I have no idea what to call this and thus how to search for them. I know they exist. Extra points if you can link me to where they're being sold. [more inside]
posted by WCityMike at 8:20 AM PST - 10 comments

Quietly Job Hunting

I plan to start looking for a new job soon. I haven't even logged into LinkedIn since shortly after being hired at my current job. I'm worried about how my employer will react if/when they see I've updated my LinkedIn profile. [more inside]
posted by MuChao at 8:18 AM PST - 6 comments

Can you help me find sources of information about advertising activity?

My company sells its advertising services to Fortune 1000 companies. We are trying to create a more comprehensive list of sources of information about companies' advertising activity. for example, we learned through an article that an old brand was about to be revived, we pitched them and signed a big deal. What other sources are we missing? Familiar with AdAge, Ad Week, looking for more sources like that. Thanks!
posted by brbmaroon at 7:43 AM PST - 1 comment

Broke vegetarian, in winter, dislikes beans

Hi! I am a vegetarian on a tight budget and I do not like beans (or lentils, or other legumes). I will tolerate dal or refried beans if they are served in a restaurant or something. The only exception is chickpeas or black beans in a cold salad, which I enjoy, but how many salads can you make?! [more inside]
posted by 8603 at 7:42 AM PST - 44 comments

What should I do with my time before I get made redundant?

I'll be losing my job soon, but have a few months to pass before I get there. Aside from all the things I know I should do, what would be a wise way to use this time? What would you do? [more inside]
posted by fishingforthewhale at 7:35 AM PST - 3 comments

Brisket in the Instant Pot

I have a 2.5 beef brisket to cook today. Complications, I have walking pneumonia and I'm just exhausted. I would love to throw it into my Instant Pot and have a nice meal at the end of the day for my family with minimal effort [more inside]
posted by catrae at 7:13 AM PST - 7 comments

Savoury rice porridge recipes

Looking for nutritious grain or rice porridge recipes that I can make in my rice cooker. [more inside]
posted by kinddieserzeit at 6:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Heat pump hot water

I have a heat pump compressor unit (air source) that's meant to be piped into two air output units. Can I use one of the outputs to run a hot water tank? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:50 AM PST - 3 comments

Dimmer controlled light never gets more than 95 volts. Is that bad?

Working on my basement wiring, mostly older Romex. Light in center of living room is controlled by a Lutron dimmer. Even when that switch is on and at full power, it never reads more than 95 volts on an ammeter. Is that just dimmer's being dimmers? Or a signal of a more pressing problem. The dimmer switch literally has no screws for the neutral (white) wires at all. I plan to replace it with a binary switch, but wonder whether the low voltage is a sign of a deeper problem.
posted by msalt at 12:05 AM PST - 21 comments

January 17

Is there a word or phrase for a feeling of expecting self-pity?

Wondering if there's a term or phrase, in any language (c'mon, German) for that feeling of... when you're expecting a letdown, bad thing or disappointment, but you're almost looking forward to the wallowing in self-pity you'll do as a result. [more inside]
posted by The otter lady at 10:20 PM PST - 14 comments

Podcasts to sleep to

I need 20-30 minutes of fairly boring content I can listen to, followed by another half hour of additional content while I’m actually sleeping. [more inside]
posted by OrangeVelour at 8:58 PM PST - 46 comments

Vintage flats

I love every single thing about these shoes, except the heel. Looking for something as similar as possible, but FLAT. [more inside]
posted by i_am_a_fiesta at 7:49 PM PST - 15 comments

Like Darkest Dungeon but for Work

I am looking for a team/employee management tool that is as fun to use as the party/estatement management screens in Darkest Dungeon (or any other well made RPG adventure party type games). Or, more boringly, I'm looking for a CRM but for teams/employees. [more inside]
posted by Doleful Creature at 7:40 PM PST - 6 comments

Mail forwarding/address change issues

Over the summer, my parents had their mail forwarded to me via a temporary address change, but my mail is now being forwarded to their address due to my dad and my similar names. Help? [more inside]
posted by shortyJBot at 6:18 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for ways to watch old-ish Hannity programs

Are there sources online from which I can watch and/or download a number of Hannity episodes? Not recent stuff, but rather shows that are anywhere from say 4 months to 2 years old.
posted by Mechitar at 6:13 PM PST - 2 comments

initramfs prompt

I think my usb operating system is having trouble mounting. Please help me fix it. Note: I don't know what I'm doing, so use small words please. [more inside]
posted by aniola at 5:42 PM PST - 13 comments

DIY Tour Rail Park Philadelphia

Hello, how do I do a DIY tour of the Rail Park in Philadelphia? I've not been in town for the organized tours. Three miles of rough urban hiking and exploration is enticing. Where to start? What to see? Where to get a drink and lunch along the way?
posted by jointhedance at 5:42 PM PST - 6 comments

Need a solution to push an iOS notification once an hour at random time

I'm looking for a app/platform/solution for my iPhone that will do the following -Select from a pre-filled list/database of quotes, Bible verses, and random musings -Send a push notification to my iPhone once an hour, but at a random time during that hour -Repeat, but with a new entry from the list, preferably shuffled and randomized [more inside]
posted by beammeup4 at 4:49 PM PST - 4 comments

Mini-corb needs lunch, badly.

The kidlet needs to eat lunches that at least have a modicum of nutrition. She is not able, because of cafeteria size & time, to sit down to eat, so needs lunches that make little mess and can be eaten standing. Halp. [more inside]
posted by corb at 3:03 PM PST - 54 comments

PG Wodehouse Plot Style

A friend and I were talking about literary critique, you know, like you do. And when we talked about conflict and resolution in writing, I mentioned a plot structure used a lot by PG Wodehouse. They'd never heard of it. Is this a thing? what's it called? [more inside]
posted by Caravantea at 2:32 PM PST - 9 comments

What should I make for my neighbors who've suffered a bereavement?

My neighbors' brother-in-law just died. I'd like to take over some food but am way overthinking this. Help? [more inside]
posted by peacheater at 2:20 PM PST - 12 comments

Why do I see weird shapes when I'm getting sick?

Sometimes when I'm getting sick, one of the first symptoms to manifest is perceiving recurring patterns of weird shapes in motion. Help me understand what's going on. [more inside]
posted by JauntyFedora at 2:13 PM PST - 25 comments

Blue Apron while working full-time: surely this is possible

I'm interested in trying Blue Apron, or some other such service. But I work full-time in an office, and I live in an apartment building without a doorman, where delivery people do not have access to my apartment door if I'm not home. Surely some other person in this situation has made this work - what am I missing? [more inside]
posted by Ragged Richard at 2:11 PM PST - 17 comments

Pros and cons of hiring a doula

Mr. Circle and I are thinking of hiring a doula for our baby's birth in June, but we are on the fence. Please share your experience, either as parents who hired one, professionals who've worked with one, or if you ARE one... we'd love some perspectives. [more inside]
posted by onecircleaday at 1:44 PM PST - 39 comments

Should I bring a gift to my dying aunt's spouse? If so, what?

My aunt is dying. I'm going to visit her and my uncle tomorrow. It occurred to me that it might be polite to bring some sort of host[-ess] gift. My aunt is “pretty much out,” so the gift would really be for my uncle and other family members who are visiting. Is this a good idea? If so, what kind of gift would be appropriate? [more inside]
posted by smammy at 1:41 PM PST - 14 comments

Mom's New Computer, Episode #4938

Mom has a new Windows 10 laptop, which she'll use primarily for email (Gmail), photos, and occasional browsing. She's asked me to transfer over some files and 'set it up' for her. I'm no IT-talkin' guy & find Win 10 fairly straightforward, but I was wondering if you had some program recs (Security, browsers & extensions) for less-savvy user. Bonus points if they're on Ninite & offer painfree updates that won't freak mom out with "Your security is about to expire! Upgrade to Premium NOW!" messages. Also, recs for free non-fussy remote viewing/desktop sharing would be appreciated and save a lot of "Do you see a red button with an X?" phone conversations for my sister and I.
posted by Alvy Ampersand at 1:20 PM PST - 9 comments

How many steps did I walk last year?

I use the built-in Health app on my iphone as a casual pedometer. I am able to see the daily totals and part-day totals, but not a weekly/monthly/annual total. Is there a way to pull this data? Google tells me I can do this with a fitbit or other monitor, but I don't have one of those units. Thanks!
posted by stillmoving at 12:06 PM PST - 8 comments

Is there a bread maker that can be set not to beep?

I am interested in buying a bread baking machine, but all of the ones I've used in the past make really loud, obnoxious, repeated beeps that can't be disabled/muted. Searching some of the top models on Amazon shows people with the same complaint. A Google search has not been effective, other than instructions for modifying a machine with a resistor and soldering iron. Can you help me find a bread machine that allows the beeps to be turned off entirely?
posted by iamisaid at 12:05 PM PST - 4 comments

Help me find the perfect, portable coffee mug

Mrs lasagnaboy has high standards come coffee time, especially for the drinking vessel. Help me find the perfect, portable coffee mug for her! Requirements and snowflakes within. [more inside]
posted by lasagnaboy at 11:07 AM PST - 21 comments

Seeking assistance with purchase of a domain name

I'm looking for someone to contact and negotiate with the current owner of a domain name on my behalf. Not sure a domain broker is the right fit, unless I just haven't stumbled upon the right one. Details below. [more inside]
posted by findabair at 11:07 AM PST - 4 comments

Does it make sense to take out a loan to study abroad?

I studied abroad in South Korea a few years ago and loved it. Now I want to go back next fall but it seems like it will be too much for me to save up for in five months. With airfare, tuition, housing and personal expenses it'll be about $10000. I can probably save up $4000 with my current job. I was thinking about getting a second job but it might be too much as I am a full time student. I will try to find some scholarships to apply to. [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 11:04 AM PST - 13 comments

Oh crud.

Is it safe to use a nonstick pan after you have burned something in it and scrubbed the heck out of it? [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 10:58 AM PST - 11 comments

Where should we go for a long weekend in March in the mid-Atlantic area?

Looking to meet up with some friends for a relaxing long weekend in mid March. Will be traveling with 6 adults and 2 children under 2, and looking for spots within an easy drive from both Philly and DC. Looking for a destination where we could rent a comfortable 4 bedroom house and have options for some shopping/restaurants/outdoor activities. Would consider a beach destination (NJ/DE/MD) if the town has stuff going on in the off-season. Also open to city destinations (we've considered Baltimore or Annapolis) or even a cabin in the Poconos. Any recommendations welcome!
posted by moshimosh at 9:50 AM PST - 8 comments

Navigating guilt of breaking up a good but unfulfilling relationship..

How do I accept myself for making such a decision? [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 9:21 AM PST - 20 comments

Just Me And The Wilderness (And....a Car)

I was planning on an inaugural first-ever solo tent camping trip in Brooklyn this spring, but just learned I'll have access to a car for most of April - so I'm looking for somewhere to car camp instead. Anyone know a good place to try? (particulars inside). [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 8:51 AM PST - 15 comments

Commercial TP Dispensers -- How do they work?

Rather, how do I work them? Can someone give me instructions in how to pull tp off the commercial dispenser when the first roll is used up and the second roll drops down? [more inside]
posted by janey47 at 8:44 AM PST - 6 comments

How do I log notifications on Android?

Is there a way to record/document the title and text of notifications on Android in real time? [more inside]
posted by FakeFreyja at 7:33 AM PST - 4 comments

Making (audio) gains

Why is my recorded audio so quiet, and how do I solve this? [more inside]
posted by backseatpilot at 7:32 AM PST - 12 comments

Research on controlling sexual desire

I'm interested in any works on the topic of controlling sexual desire, especially through chemical (pills) or physical (castration) means rather than social or educational . They can be grounded in research or speculative - even science fiction dealing with interesting reworkings of human sexuality and how they might play out are welcome. I'm curious to learn about the intersection of sex and power again in the broadest terms from any source you found interesting. I'm also curious about any case studies on people who lost their ability to feel sexual pleasure or orgasm (for example brain trauma). Related information on non human animals also welcome.
posted by laptolain at 7:27 AM PST - 10 comments

Car-related puzzle involving dead battery and maybe rats

Can anyone explain the following sequence of events involving my car, a dead battery, power steering, and potentially some rats? The car is a 2013 Honda Fit with low miles (it sits a lot, probably relevant): [more inside]
posted by advil at 7:00 AM PST - 11 comments

UTI? Kidney stone? Poltergeist in the bladder?

I've been experiencing bladder pain for a couple of days. Never had a UTI or kidney stone before so I don't know if the pain is consistent with either of those things or something else (digestive/reproductive?). I'd be interested in hearing from people who've experienced this kind of pain before, and what the cause turned out to be. [more inside]
posted by terretu at 6:31 AM PST - 16 comments

Rewrite and .htpasswd not working together

For years now we've been protecting our documents folder with basic .htpasswd authentication and its been working fine. Recently we archived some files and set a rule in .htaccess to send all requests for non-existing scripts to a script that unarchives the requested file (just a back up in case something got archived that's actually needed!), but that has broken the authentication, it now no longer asks for the auth details and tries to redirect to 401.shtml (which doesn't exist and gets bounced to the archive script) [more inside]
posted by missmagenta at 6:26 AM PST - 2 comments

Right tone for death conversations with curious preschooler

My 3.5 year old is going through an age-appropriate curiosity about death. She has some direct experience with the matter: her grandfather passed away a little over a year ago. It’s not a taboo subject in the house (grandfather or death generally), but I’d like to tread carefully lest I make it into A Big Deal. [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 6:05 AM PST - 6 comments

An Orchestra of ONLY Guitars?

Has anyone ever put only guitars in an orchestra, creating atmospheric or ambient music and then recorded it awesomely? Please no mention of fake guitars/synthetics. Only actual players, with a cool vibe, talent and technique. TIA
posted by watercarrier at 5:54 AM PST - 13 comments

Renting a House: Locked Room, Unknown Owner

My son is planning to rent a house, and he is uncomfortable about two conditions in the rental. [more inside]
posted by mbarryf at 5:33 AM PST - 28 comments

YouTube fitness routines with...

Bare minimum weight-loss related chat please. I expect some, but that's not the reason why I exercise. I tend to prefer longer routines to High-Intensity stuff, and the less equipment the better. Thanks.
posted by threetwentytwo at 4:43 AM PST - 3 comments

Mounting a rug/tapestry for wall hanging in DC?

I have an old rug that my family acquired in Morocco while stationed there in the 1950's. I'm like to display it, but I'm not sure how to hang it. [more inside]
posted by backwards compatible at 3:18 AM PST - 7 comments

Weight loss surgery: Recipe for failure?

You'll know from my question history that my life is pretty much defined by disorder. Long-standing cerebral palsy, depression and anxiety diagnoses, depressed parents, a messy house and no job, as of yet are just some examples of things that need changing. I have no energy to change much of this, and can feel my health deteriorating. I rely on way too many medications and caffeine to function. I almost never walk anymore. I need to lose about 100 lbs, but as someone in a wheelchair whose parents are not supportive, is WLS the right way to go? WOT and snowflakes inside, sorry. [more inside]
posted by marsbar77 at 3:07 AM PST - 28 comments

Putting the Pudding in the Pie

After the glorious butter pie thread the other day I went out and bought raisins and brown sugar, but now my roomies want to make pudding instead. What modification should I make to a pudding recipe (cornstarch/sugar/milk) so that I can stand up to oven baking in a pie crust? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 2:07 AM PST - 11 comments

Toxic environment or work challenge?

What are some key indicators that a work place is toxic vs just merely “challenging”? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:00 AM PST - 11 comments

January 16

Nice quality khakis for women that aren't elasticized

I need khakis/chinos for work. My ideal pants are heavier fabric, not thin super stretchy junk, and come out of the dryer without wrinkles. I'm a petite lady. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by stewiethegreat at 11:42 PM PST - 4 comments

Songs about People who Let "It" Linger

Basically looking for examples of the microgenre of songs where someone plaintively / angrily complains to an uninterested, noncommittal, or unfaithful lover about how they are rudely hanging onto them despite not being nice/interested. Linger by the Cranberries is the obvious example, as is You Keep Me Hanging On by the Supremes.
posted by Rock 'em Sock 'em at 9:34 PM PST - 47 comments

How to shake off grumpiness

I'm grumpy and short-tempered these days. Probable causes are work frustrations and a lack of a social life outside of work. But it may also have to do with some life changes that my mother is facing (unwillingly separating from my father). How do I shake off this feeling, on a day to day basis and for the longterm? [more inside]
posted by watrlily at 8:36 PM PST - 8 comments

Looking for a customer service service

Is there a service that will call customer service numbers for me, deal with all their crap, and let me know the results? Maps through IVR menus only solve a small part (<5%) of my problem. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by tellumo at 7:54 PM PST - 7 comments

'80s movie ending with people walking in and out of a bar at night

I know it sounds really vague, and the details are probably a little bit off, but bear with me. I seem to remember it being a John Hughes movie, but looking at a list of his films, none of them rings a bell. The scene is definitely at night, and the camera is set across the street from a bar with lots of neon lights. It's basically a short time-lapse, but it isn't sped up. I also seem to remember a Ford Mustang parked in front of the bar, which drives away during the shot. Eventually the bar closes, I think the lights turn off, and the scene (and the movie?) ends. Does anyone else remember it?
posted by Seeking Direction at 7:28 PM PST - 2 comments

Single parent: outlook not so good, where do I start?

A series of increasingly difficult events leading to health breakdown with at least 50% chance of mortality. No idea where to start in terms of the children i have full custody of, taking care of belongings etc. Preparing for the worst, legal anything and everything really, please assume I know nothing and have never had to deal with anthing like this before Where can I start?( I'm in Canada. ) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:26 PM PST - 18 comments

Help me upgrade the quality of my life for 100 bucks?

What could I buy with 100 USD that would improve my happiness and quality of life? [more inside]
posted by whitelotus at 7:19 PM PST - 50 comments

Displaying artwork in a bathroom

I have a paper and colored pencil drawing which I'd like to frame and hang in my bathroom. Is there any way to do this without it being destroyed by the humidity?
posted by arnicae at 6:37 PM PST - 4 comments

DIY saltines

I’m looking for a light, crispy saltine cracker recipe that is as close as possible to store-bought. Most cracker recipes seem too fatty/pie-crust-like or too sweet or too much like Wheat Thins, which I don’t want. I want that flour-y, dry, crackly texture. [more inside]
posted by blnkfrnk at 5:58 PM PST - 4 comments

Can someone explain open G tuning in layman's terms?

I'm less interested in musical theory than in practical, this-is-why explanations. Specifically, why does Keith Richards (who's #3 on my top 10 of list of guitarists to take to a desert island), and presumably other guitarists whose tuning preferences I'm unaware of, prefer open G tuning? What's the rationale for it? What does it do to, or what does it change about, the way music sounds? Thanks
posted by BadgerDoctor at 4:20 PM PST - 7 comments

Tell Me Your Favourite Job Perks

The (very) small company I work for is hiring in a competitive tech market, and I'm hoping to mine the hive mind for job perk ideas. [more inside]
posted by dotgirl at 3:16 PM PST - 91 comments

How do I port my 2009 Macbook Pro wholesale to my 2016 Macbook Pro?

I want to move EVERYTHING from my mid-2009 MBP, running Yosemite 10.10, to my new(ish) 2016 MBP running Sierra 10.12.4--soup to nuts. I've looked over previous asks which are similar, but nothing addresses my specifics. I don't even know if what I want to do is possible. Basically, I want to make the 2016 a direct clone of the 2009. [more inside]
posted by tzikeh at 2:36 PM PST - 12 comments

Books for my mom.

Looking for recommendations for fiction books for my mom available in e-book format. She says she's willing to read most things but I know she doesn't much like Sci-Fi (or probably speculative fiction (vampires, zombies, elves) nor bodice rippers. Mysteries and westerns have been well received in the past. [more inside]
posted by Mitheral at 2:12 PM PST - 16 comments

Recommend an Android podcast app that will keep shows together

BeyondPod is pretty good. But I like to manually select which episodes to add to my playlist. BeyondPod has a single playlist, so episodes from a bunch of shows all get added to the bottom of my playlist and I have to manually move the new episodes to put them next to other episodes from the same show. Is there a podcast app out there that will keep episodes from the same podcast together, or allow me to create multiple playlists so I can just create a playlist per show?
posted by Tehhund at 2:10 PM PST - 5 comments

Support when your spouse has a chronic illness?

My wife was diagnosed with an autoimmune disease a little over a year ago. We've found online communities that provide her with fantastic support, but I haven't had any luck finding similar communities geared toward spouses/partners. I'm trying to find a (probably online) group of other well spouses that could provide support and community for me. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by zahava at 1:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Pulled back from a friendship and now he's asking why

I've been doing the slow fade on a friend over a couple of months for reasons I'll explain inside, and now he's wondering what happened. I don't have the emotional energy to get into a long conversation, but maybe I owe him that? I'm fine with a cordial relationship so there doesn't need to be a confrontation, but I don't want anything more than that. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 1:12 PM PST - 17 comments

Helping children grieve loss of pet

Our dog passed yesterday and we are looking for advice on helping our children grieve. Complicating factor - one of our children is on the autism spectrum and has been particularly close to the dog. We expect they will act out extensively given issues regulating emotions. Suggestions or thoughts welcome on how to approach [more inside]
posted by inflatablekiwi at 11:59 AM PST - 13 comments

What's in the box?

This vintage postcard depicts a costumed dancer from the Folies Bergère, c.1900. What is the utility of the small box attached to the front of her bodice? My attempts to Google have not turned up any clues.
posted by merriment at 11:58 AM PST - 8 comments

Everything went off and then it went on again

A momentary power outage -- you know, the ones that last 1 second -- hit my house a couple days ago. Since then, every time my laptop wakes up, it wants to take forever to connect to wireless. It does, after about 45 seconds, but this is annoying the hell out of me. What is this about? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 11:55 AM PST - 7 comments

Need a new career path,

I'm a video editor in search of a new career. I have no idea what that could or should be. [more inside]
posted by yellowbinder at 11:06 AM PST - 3 comments

Is it normal for employers to offer a low-paid one week trial period?

I had an interview for a graphic design job in another city a couple of months ago and they just offered me a paid one week trial period with a day rate of £50. This doesn't come close to covering my travel and accommodation costs. Is this kind of thing normal? [more inside]
posted by Chenko at 11:06 AM PST - 20 comments

Excel Filter: Conditional Formatting Problem

Something is going wonky with my conditional formatting in a simple (I think) Excel sheet. I want cells in column D to turn green if their value is less than the value in the column C. No problem, except when I paste values into column B (column C is a running total working off of info in B), the conditional formatting stops working and turns cells green for awhile after it should stop. [more inside]
posted by LKWorking at 9:54 AM PST - 4 comments

How to handle my reactions to a 18yo niece while she's here on vacation?

My much missed & loved niece turned 18 & came to visit me in the USA. I hadn't seen her for 3 years & looked forward to it immensely. Unfortunately she turned into a teenager in the mean time & I have no idea how to handle it. Now her teenage antics are putting a damper on a long awaited trip to Disneyworld. How do you vacation with a teenager? [more inside]
posted by wwax at 8:52 AM PST - 29 comments

What is a perm and will it work for me?

I am very bad at hair and have no idea what I'm doing. I'd like my normal every day hair to look something like #1 or #6 or #12 in this list I've been told that's alot of wand work but I prefer to sleep in the mornings. Would a perm work for me? [more inside]
posted by LizBoBiz at 8:12 AM PST - 16 comments

Power my old clock

How can I get this old GE clock working with a battery? It obviously used to use a wall plug, but the wire has been cut off. I tried attaching it to a single AA holder, but it didn't work. Images here: https://imgur.com/a/IjZuB. Thanks!
posted by transient at 8:09 AM PST - 27 comments

ISO therapist recommendations in Triangle, NC

New location, same concerns for the kid in this question. [more inside]
posted by Sweetie Darling at 7:55 AM PST - 4 comments

Why did the CPI for medical care in PA / NJ / DE / MD in 2017 stay flat?

In looking at the 2017 annual stats from the Labor dept for medical care CPI, I noticed something rather odd. Unlike every other region in the US, and unlike the total overall CPI trend for the region itself, the medical care CPI for PA / NJ / DE / MD was almost flat in 2017 - 0.4%. This is a strange outlier. [more inside]
posted by lazaruslong at 7:52 AM PST - 4 comments

What should I read/do to prepare for becoming a dog owner?

I’ve wanted a dog for some time now, and I have decided that I’m going to aim to adopt one this summer, after my next round of board exams is done. I’ve never had a dog of my own before. What books should I read in the meantime? I’m planning to adopt an adult dog, not a puppy. Is there someone I can talk to about finding the right kind of dog for me? I’m primarily looking for a dog for companionship.
posted by ocherdraco at 7:46 AM PST - 23 comments

What language is this and what does it say?

It's an old certificate that we found in my girlfriend's grandfather's place. [more inside]
posted by fantasticness at 7:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Was an anchor of roses significant in Canadian Victorian funerals?

I’ve just started reading L. M. Montgomery’s Emily of New Moon for the first time, which is set on Prince Edward Island in about 1890 or so but published in 1923. One detail caught my attention and it seemed significant, but I can’t tell why. Emily’s uncle brought a “great anchor of white roses” to place at the head of her father’s coffin. Was there a significance to it being in the shape of an anchor or was this a lyrical touch by the author? [more inside]
posted by Kattullus at 7:19 AM PST - 18 comments

How to handle friends who troll without flying off the handle?

it seems like the vast majority of my friends enjoy argument-by-trolling and I have a really hard time engaging intellectually without getting actively angry/resentful about flippant responses and/or bad-faith readings. thoughts on how I handle this internally? context inside. [more inside]
posted by Kybard at 6:58 AM PST - 13 comments

Uninterruptable Power Supplies, Interrupted

None of our UPSes are currently preventing electronics from shutting down during blackouts. They are all either brand-new or were known to work properly (nothing would shut down during a short blackout) . Their loads are all under capacity and the batteries are all good. What's happening and how can we fix this? [more inside]
posted by ardgedee at 6:56 AM PST - 8 comments

Should I just stick to textile crafts?

I am planning a pregnancy this year, and I’m also planning several hobby projects that might not be compatible with pregnancy. I’m looking for a sanity check about the level of risk these projects carry, and if I can mitigate that risk with some precautions. [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 6:18 AM PST - 8 comments

Worth it? Housing discrimination complaints w/HUD

I've been discriminated against for rental housing. I found another place and financial harms were < 1k - don't need immediate intervention. BUT, do believe discriminatory practices should be reported. If you've filed a complaint with HUD or know the process, what should I expect? Is it worth it? Medium city in the US - Midwest. Small potatoes landlord, not major rental company.
posted by anonymous at 12:29 AM PST - 3 comments

Let’s play name the author!

Looking for where this idea came from. I can’t remember where. My Google-fu fails me. The idea: If a primitive man (maybe Bushmen?) came across the radio in the desert, and it starts transmitting voices, they would think of it as magic. If they broke down the radio into its component parts to try to figure out how it works, it would not come even close to explaining the radio. May have something to do with reductionism (??). [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:28 AM PST - 5 comments

She likes me, she likes me not

I'd like to stop thinking about whether or not a friend is romantically interested in me. [more inside]
posted by typify at 12:02 AM PST - 10 comments

January 15

What if I don't want to travel the world anymore?

At a juncture in my career where I should probably be looking at spending some more time abroad for the sake of professional advancement. However, the instability from traveling so much for my job in recent years is kind of sucking away most enthusiasm for this concept. Did you face a similar choice and choose to stay put? How did that go? [more inside]
posted by knownfossils at 11:10 PM PST - 4 comments

I don't like my new cat

...and the feeling seems to be mutual. [more inside]
posted by ThreeSocksToTheWind at 9:05 PM PST - 32 comments

we are all enough, hopefully, hypothetically

How can I feel "attractive enough" in a more reliable, stable way, other than the diminishing returns of taking selfies? Complicating factor: internalized transphobia. [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 8:45 PM PST - 9 comments

How to follow Vacationland

I just finished reading Vacationland by John Hodgman and loved it. Looking for humorous memoirs in a similar vein to read next. [more inside]
posted by pilibeen at 8:12 PM PST - 11 comments

Professional Woman of Color Problems, issue #2,859

I very awkwardly admitted to my boss that I don't like one of my co-workers (I didn't say it was because he is a walking jumble of microaggressions). Nothing's come out of it since, but how impolitic was I? [more inside]
posted by facehugger at 8:07 PM PST - 19 comments

Getting Siri in my car

My car doesn’t have a Siri button. I want a Siri button in my car. Are there any Bluetooth, wireless Siri buttons out there I’m not seeing? (I’ve seen this thread.) I used to have a couple (Flic, CodaWheel or something), but they no longer work. Any other ideas for facilitating easy Siri access in my car? Hey Siri doesn’t work reliably, especially when music or podcasts are on. (iPhone X.)
posted by jroybal at 7:32 PM PST - 3 comments

What are your favourite marrow recipes? (The vegetable, not bone)

I went away for a week and came back to find my zucchini plant produced some pretty epic marrows. Last time this happened, I made stuffed marrow, and it lasted us for about three dinners. This time I have twice as much marrow to start with so stuffed marrow could get kind of boring. Any other recipe suggestions? [more inside]
posted by lollusc at 7:07 PM PST - 20 comments

Fitting In Their Suitcase Is Out

One of my dearest friends and his girlfriend are moving across the country in June. I need some coping tips. [more inside]
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 6:57 PM PST - 5 comments

How do I get grandma home from Nigeria when she doesn't want help?

Entire family is worried sick about Grandma. She's been courted the last 6 months by a scammer in Nigeria. Yesterday she left in the middle of the night without telling anyone, got on a plane, and is now in Nigeria. Help us get grandma back safe. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:31 PM PST - 21 comments

Best trimmer for pubic hair? (must be available in the UK)

I'm looking for recommendations about specific models / brands, but also types that work well (e.g. ceramic blades?) I can't seem to find trimmers specifically for pubic hair (for a woman, if it matters). I don't know if I can use head-hair clippers or a beard trimmer. (I don't want to shave using a razor, as this makes me itchy. I want to trim, but the closer the trim the better.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 6:10 PM PST - 11 comments

Looking for a cat therapist in New York City who's like Jackson Galaxy!

We have three cats. Two get along with each other beautifully, but one is a scaredy-cat. [more inside]
posted by DMelanogaster at 5:03 PM PST - 7 comments

Where do people find housing in south Seattle these days?

This question might be primarily for people from the Seattle area. Where do you fine decent housing in south Seattle in today's world? Details within. [more inside]
posted by centrifugal at 4:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Coworker Victim of Domestic Abuse - How to Help?

My coworker is being abused by her domestic partner and I want to offer her some support but I don't know how or if I should. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 3:41 PM PST - 29 comments

Copy/paste utility that appends title and author to text block on paste

Im looking for a Windows or Android tool that when I copy and paste text from something, the title, author, maybe page number or url where applicable, get automatically appended to the block of text Im pasting. IOS IBooks does this but I haven't been able to find the equivalent elsewhere. Note I don't particularly care about stripping out the formatting, and I don't want to lose embedded urls. It would be very useful when collecting research notes. thanks!
posted by rhc at 2:39 PM PST - 8 comments

church etiquette with a baby

I am a new churchgoer with an 8 month-old baby, and I would like some advice on church etiquette when you have a baby. [more inside]
posted by colfax at 2:21 PM PST - 26 comments

workout leggings for thunder thighs

Are there specific brands or styles of workout leggings designed for athletic women who are proportionally smaller in the waist, and larger in thighs? [more inside]
posted by raztaj at 2:05 PM PST - 17 comments

I want a screen that hangs on my wall and shows my phone notifications.

I want to spend less time looking at my phone. I think it would help if my phone behaved more like an old-fashioned wall-mounted phone. To this end, I want a screen that is mounted on my wall and displays incoming phone notifications. [more inside]
posted by mai at 2:00 PM PST - 12 comments

What to cook with a lot of homemade chicken broth?

I have about ten cups of homemade chicken broth and am looking for something a little out of the ordinary to make with it. [more inside]
posted by Ideal Impulse at 1:04 PM PST - 20 comments

Living in an extended stay building as a tenant

I'm about to sign a lease on an apartment in a mixed use building. It offers extended stays for executives, and it has long-term tenants living there. This would be my home. Any reason not to do it? [more inside]
posted by AppleTurnover at 12:44 PM PST - 15 comments

Which science fiction magazines/webzines take sci-fi humor stories?

I've written a few very short sci-fi humor stories, and I want to find out where they could be published.... Any ideas?
posted by storybored at 12:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Opened malicious word attachment

MS Word 365. We got an email with a word document that asked to "enable content" to actually see the contents. We did not actually click the "enable contents" button in the yellow bar, but did click the "enable editing" button. Googlefu says not to click. The contents is obfuscated. Norton is running and did not complain. How freaked out should we be? [more inside]
posted by nostrada at 12:16 PM PST - 4 comments

What options do I have for adjusting travel due to contract work?

I'm interviewing for a contract job. It would require me to be in town during a period when I was planning to travel. What options do I have? Is the employer likely to pay for the cost to change my ticket? [more inside]
posted by ramenopres at 12:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Where can I find these shoes?

I really like the shoes that this model is wearing (somewhat NSFW; completely SFW cropped version showing shoes here). Where can I find these, or something like them (in men's sizes)? [more inside]
posted by Conrad Cornelius o'Donald o'Dell at 12:03 PM PST - 8 comments

Orthodontic Retainers in San Francisco

My retainers are falling apart, and I need to get new ones. It's been stressfully opaque to try to figure out where to go, though, since pricing seems to vary by clinic. Looking for data points from any SF Mefites: what clinic did you use, and how much was it? I'm looking to get top and bottom Hawley retainers.
posted by estlin at 11:43 AM PST - 1 comment

Best use of my random ingredients

I need to make 3-4 days worth of lunches, and I’d like to use up as many random ingredients in my kitchen as possible. Help me out! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 11:43 AM PST - 12 comments

I heart shapta, but how do I make it at home?

My local Himalayan restaurant makes shapta. It is pork-based and all meat (at least, I cannot discern any vegetables). It is savory and delicious and I cannot find a good recipe on the Internet that is also solely pork. Any ideas? I am happy to buy a real cookbook if that’s the best option. Thanks!
posted by kerf at 11:19 AM PST - 2 comments

'Browse my movie theaters' - does this exist?

Is there a site or app that will let me browse all showtimes for all movie theaters within only my own selected list of theaters? I'm looking for a one-stop way to browse all NYC indie theaters that accept Moviepass, while excluding non-indie ones and non-Moviepass-accepting ones. [more inside]
posted by showbiz_liz at 11:08 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I contact a large list of Facebook users I've compiled?

I have a list of several thousand Facebook profiles who identified themselves as attending a specific event. I want to invite them to join a group and like a page. What would be the most efficient way to do this?
posted by Bushmiller at 10:43 AM PST - 3 comments

anyway my laptop is possessed but like by a real lazy demon

My (win 7 pro) laptop has been endlessly hanging on the welcome screen after login. [more inside]
posted by poffin boffin at 10:26 AM PST - 24 comments

Best way to find job opportunities at local small businesses ?

I've worked my entire life at very small businesses and prefer that work environment. How can I identify local small businesses which might be hiring? Are there ways to filter posted jobs by the size of the organization, any job sites which specialize in small businesses, and any ways of identifying local small businesses which might need help but do not have a public job posting up? I'm familiar with Manta.com but it seems kind of clunky as a job hunting tool. Help me, MeFites!
posted by Larry David Syndrome at 10:14 AM PST - 2 comments

Late 20s adult woman suffering from teenage-like crush needs help

This is really awkward and stupid, but I could use some help! [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 9:43 AM PST - 7 comments

Moving on out of here..

Needing advice on finding where I want to end up next and starting a new life elsewhere.. [more inside]
posted by morning_television at 9:31 AM PST - 6 comments

Rock VS Rock N Roll

Friend insists Rock and Rock N Roll are two seperate things, I use the terms interchangeably, settle a bet?
posted by Cosine at 8:45 AM PST - 27 comments

How do I disconnect my sink sprayer hose?

I need to replace the hose for my kitchen faucet sprayer, and for the life of me I can't figure out how to disconnect the current hose beneath the sink. [more inside]
posted by DSime at 8:30 AM PST - 4 comments

Best city for Youtube TV

We want to get Youtube Tv at home and noticed that not all the cities have the same content. Assuming we want to get the most "bang for our buck", where in the US would be the best city to register? [more inside]
posted by CrazyLemonade at 7:53 AM PST - 4 comments

Hearing amplifiers vs. hearing aids - any experiences?

I have moderate hearing loss in my right ear, mostly high frequency. This was discovered when I was a little kid, and I'm 47 now. It has gotten worse over the years and has made social and professional situations difficult. I am currently trying a set of Otofonix amplifiers, both ears and want opinions on these vs. "real" hearing aids. More details inside. [more inside]
posted by jeff-o-matic at 7:39 AM PST - 6 comments

Weird car troubles

I have a 2004 Mazda3 hatchback with just under 50,000 miles on it. Lately, it has been giving me a real headache with starting issues and a check engine light, and so far my mechanic has not been able to fix the problems permanently. I'm gonna list all the problems I've had in the last year or so even though they might not all be related, in the off chance that it gives anyone some ideas. [more inside]
posted by misskaz at 7:00 AM PST - 21 comments

Help Me Get Stoned

I am looking for instructions/advice/personal tips on drilling small holes in small stones (beach and river rocks and pebbles). [more inside]
posted by fourpotatoes at 6:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Writer for hire?

I've recently done a little bit of work writing very light entries for a sort of coffee table reference book. Where does one look for similar one off writing gigs like this? [more inside]
posted by Just this guy, y'know at 4:10 AM PST - 1 comment

No stress chess - preschool edition

Our almost-5-year-old kid really really wants to play chess. Being almost 5, he doesn't remember the rules or the ways the pieces can move, so he keeps accusing us of "cheating" and "not playing fair" and, well, you can imagine the end result. Is there an app for that? [more inside]
posted by gakiko at 1:02 AM PST - 26 comments

How did I do this search?

While scanning files on my machine, I came across a beautiful document which showed hyperlinked entries to a history of my YouTube searches. But I can't remember how I did it. Can you help? [more inside]
posted by lometogo at 12:39 AM PST - 2 comments

January 14

Help Me Hear, But Not See - streaming music edition

I like listening to streaming music services, but when I put it through the FireTV the tv (linked to a sound bar & sub woofer) the image on the tv screen is such a bummer. Is there some way to make the screen go dark or show screensaver images? I realize I can use bluetooth speakers w/ my phone, and I've done this. The problem w/ bluetooth is I can't have music playing softly in the background while listening to a podcast on my phone. [more inside]
posted by jbenben at 7:57 PM PST - 7 comments

I want to edit (not annotate) PDFs on my Mac for less than $180/year

I would like to be able to edit PDF files on my Macintosh. Edit. Like, change the text they have in them. Apple's free Preview.app does a decent job of letting me annotate PDF's (though it's not as good as it used to be). But I don't want to annotate PDFs. I want to actually change the text they contain. Adobe wants $180/year for Acrobat Pro, which just feels insane. Is there a cheaper reliable solution? [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 7:24 PM PST - 17 comments

Cookbook Suggestions Needed

I have a friend who is getting interested in cooking, which is wonderful. The book that has gotten him interested, however, appears to be filled with super not good recipes. Help me find him a better book? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by hilaryjade at 6:56 PM PST - 39 comments

How do I stop eating my boyfriend's snacks

When I lived alone, I dealt with my tendency to mindlessly inhale carb-heavy snack foods by the truckload by just not keeping them in the house, and occasionally buying smaller servings any time I wanted a treat. Now that I live with my boyfriend, I keep eating all of his snacks. I feel bad because on Sunday he'll buy a few snacks that should last him an entire week, and then by Tuesday night I've eaten them all. [more inside]
posted by loquacious crouton at 6:36 PM PST - 39 comments

What to Watch Next? Yarn Store Edition

At our yarn shop, we host a weekly nerd night where we watch a couple of TV episodes and knit or crochet. Star Trek (especially TNG and now Disco) has been a popular favorite, as has Doctor Who and Stranger Things. We did Firefly a couple years ago, and we've done some Miyazaki movies in between. The plan was to get people hooked on the Expanse, but it looks like we may need a plan B. We knew the Expanse was dark and complicated, and if we can't get people into it, we need another option. [more inside]
posted by rikschell at 6:28 PM PST - 41 comments

Got any creative ideas for mounting a bunch of postcards for display?

I bought a set of 24 blue/orange/brown paper postcards at an art fair. All about 5" x 7", geometric, minimalist, and heavy on creative typography. I'm thinking about mounting them in some way so that I can enjoy looking at them, but in a way that doesn't look like I just tacked a bunch of postcards on my wall. Any suggestions? [more inside]
posted by paul_smatatoes at 5:15 PM PST - 9 comments

Going away gift for family member moving to Saudi Arabia?

Our cousin is moving to Saudi Arabia — Riyadh we think — to work for Aramco. She’s a single woman. What’s a good idea for a going away gift?
posted by starkraven at 4:32 PM PST - 3 comments

But do they sell a hot dish?

Casseroles are ubiquitous comfort foods in the Midwest, but they're almost never found at restaurants. What other foods do people cook at home but are rarely seen in a commercial context?
posted by steady-state strawberry at 2:37 PM PST - 124 comments

Can I stay in my current city if I become a therapist?

I wanna become a mental health therapist. I live in Spokane, Washington, which Google says has a population of over 200,000 people. There are only a few local mental health agencies that I know of, but one of them has 600-700 employees (though that may include other people besides therapists). I felt discouraged after reading another question on here where someone said that their partner's agency had around 200 people apply for just one opening. I'd like to stay in my city mainly cuz it's important to me to be able to see my parents. When I finally make friends, it's important to me to maintain those ties, too (though I accept that they might move away, themselves). I haven't gone back to school yet. What are the odds that I'd be able to get a job at a local agency after I graduate, if I go back to school? If they aren't good, is it possible to start my own practice right out of grad school? Do you know how competitive the mental health field is in Spokane?<
posted by Eevee at 2:27 PM PST - 8 comments

I pretty much never drink water. Is this bad?

I almost never drink water because: (i) I am not thirsty very much; and (ii) I don't really like drinking plain old water. Is this bad? [more inside]
posted by Mid at 2:08 PM PST - 16 comments

Recs for a Cat Sitter in Atlanta

I've recently moved into a new neighborhood & my go-to pet sitter friend isn't in range anymore. [more inside]
posted by pointystick at 2:05 PM PST - 8 comments

Social Media isn't me. Should I work at it?

Is it ok to not be into Social Media, especially for work? [more inside]
posted by ljs30 at 12:57 PM PST - 14 comments

Best practices for running/hiking hills with Achilles’ tendon issues?

I would really like to start hiking/running, but I live in a mostly hilly area and have had an achy Achilles’ tendon for the past two years. Looking for protection, better habits, tips, etc. [more inside]
posted by Vaike at 12:13 PM PST - 5 comments

My car got totaled, part 2

Young woman buying a used car by herself for the first time in her life. What should I know? What do I ask? When do I walk? [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 11:21 AM PST - 7 comments

Post-breakup crisis

I recently ended a LDR that some of the people here on MeFi claimed was abusive. As I have travelled to see my boyfriend almost every weekend for the past year, I now find myself alone in the city with no friends or family. How do I deal with the breakup and rebuild my life all alone? (F, 26) [more inside]
posted by U.N.Owen at 11:08 AM PST - 18 comments

Would you eat this?

Waffling over two cans of tuna. [more inside]
posted by fatedblue at 10:35 AM PST - 15 comments

Help me talk to my doctor about my symptoms

I'm having this sensation of vibration coming from the center of my torso which is mild and ignorable at first but then gets stronger over a while until it manifests in things like hand tremors so strong I can't write or type or eat, or also my legs nearly giving way under me when I try to walk. As the trembling gets stronger, a sort of mental fog takes over me making it hard to function. Then over time it fades out until it is just a slight internal tremor or is actually gone for a while. [more inside]
posted by hippybear at 9:45 AM PST - 35 comments

Getting a prescription for antipsychotics with the least side effects?

Asking for a loved one with a diagnosis of schizoaffective disorder. [more inside]
posted by Beethoven's Sith at 9:44 AM PST - 8 comments

What should we do on our August trip to Anchorage & Denali?

We're planning a family trip to Alaska (mostly Anchorage and Denali) in late August. Our party includes my parents (in their early 70s) and a few other folks. No kids. Please recommend places we should see and things we should do! [more inside]
posted by aka burlap at 9:23 AM PST - 10 comments

Defector Author: Russian spy training edition

Inspired by this article... So I read this book written by a Russian defector who had been in the military I’m trying to find again. I read it in the early 2000’s when I had young babies, although I picked it up at a used bookstore. It had been written and printed during the Cold War, because it had raised lettering on the cover. Details below the fold. [more inside]
posted by tilde at 8:19 AM PST - 13 comments

What did my mac just do, and can I undo it?

I opened up my sleeping laptop (old, old 2012 Air) to some notification about setting up dual identification for my iCloud storage. I do not want, have never set up or used and would like to utterly get rid of any iCloud anything on my devices. [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 4:55 AM PST - 6 comments

To sleep, perchance to save space...

For primarily lack-of-space reasons, need a solution that is of the sleeper sofa ilk but will be far and away used as a bed more than a sofa/seating option for anyone. So comfort for sleeping, long-term, is the #1 priority. [more inside]
posted by I_Love_Bananas at 4:38 AM PST - 17 comments

Have a good rest of the day! (picky language filter)

I hear "Have a good rest of the day" (/week/weekend) all the time now and it makes me nuts. "Enjoy the rest of your day" (which has essentially the same meaning) doesn't bother me nearly as much. "Have a good day" also doesn't bother me - it's the combination of "have a good" and the remaining part of the day that rubs me wrong. My questions: (1) Where did "Have a good rest of the [time period]" come from and (2) Why does "Enjoy the rest of your day" seem so much more reasonable to me?
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 4:30 AM PST - 21 comments

Finding a carrier for my cat in or around Cairo.

This was me, and after swearing I’d never do this again, here I am almost 10 years later trying to take a cat from Egypt to Canada. This time I know what I’m doing, but I can’t find the right carrier. [more inside]
posted by scrute at 4:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Do I include a painful relative in an obituary if he ghosted everyone?

When my dad dies, he leaves behind a sibling he did not know for decades even existed, one who appeared and then has ghosted him and the rest of us. My mentioning him in an obituary as a family member will infuriate my sister and he might not care, anyway. But what if he does? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:17 AM PST - 43 comments

career limiting move

should I email the company that sent me an offer letter last june? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:17 AM PST - 5 comments

Your door is always open, but the same person is always in there!

My lab is having problems with favouritism: excessive amounts of supervisor time are being spent on one person, a non-researcher, in my opinion at the expense of research trainees in the lab. This is hurting lab morale, and relations with the supervisor. How can I bring this up with the supervisor in a way that is likely to be productive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:16 AM PST - 7 comments

Rebuilding the human population from 50,000 people.

Is it better for each pair to have many babies, or for each person to have many babies with different partners? [more inside]
posted by monkeyscouch at 3:35 AM PST - 6 comments

please don't say "clamping things"

I found this clamp (I feel the word doesn't do it justice) while cleaning out an old research lab a few months ago. What would you call a clamp like this, and what might it be used for? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 1:37 AM PST - 6 comments

January 13

Help, before I become a shriveled raisin!

How do you stay hydrated? [more inside]
posted by Toddles at 10:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Minimalist baby must-haves

My sister is throwing me a baby shower which is so nice of her. My husband and I really, REALLY don't like to accumulate stuff and we buy very few things new. So what the fuck do I register for? [more inside]
posted by pintapicasso at 9:23 PM PST - 60 comments

Is there a better way to handwash dishes effectively?

We do not have a dishwasher, and doing the dishes takes a ton of time. Someone recently insisted I'm doing it wrong, but I can't see what could make the process faster. Do you have a trick for getting sparkling clean dishes with less effort, or is that a sad fantasy? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 8:43 PM PST - 28 comments

What kind of storage unit should I use in this space in my kitchen?

What kind of shelves or organizer should I put in this space to the left of the fridge in my kitchen? [more inside]
posted by critzer at 8:22 PM PST - 5 comments

Ways to stop clenching my fists while I sleep

Every morning I wake up with my hands clenched into fists, which results in tired and sore hands. How can I train myself to stop doing that? [more inside]
posted by kimberussell at 7:13 PM PST - 10 comments

Hey hey! Ho ho! This crooked map has got to go!

I'm part of a group that's planning a demonstration in support of fair electoral maps for whenever the Gill v. Whitford decision comes down. Give me your best ideas for imagery, slogans to put on signs, and snappy things we can chant in opposition to gerrymandering. We are a strictly non-partisan group, so I'm looking for ideas that don't reference any political party.
posted by juliapangolin at 6:45 PM PST - 6 comments

Book suggestion for dressing well in a business environment?

Can anyone suggest a book that discusses how to dress well in a business environment? [more inside]
posted by Proginoskes at 5:42 PM PST - 9 comments

Non-harmful adrenaline rushes

I feel wound-up physically and I would like to do something invigorating and physically demanding like have a fight, go cross-country skiing or run for miles. However I'm poor, unfit and have a bit of a delicate back so those things are currently out of the question. [more inside]
posted by KateViolet at 5:10 PM PST - 25 comments

I already made kaespaetzle.

I am in need of a fussy recipe that requires lots of time in the kitchen. [more inside]
posted by floweredfish at 4:51 PM PST - 36 comments

Housing co-ownership questions

My dad and I are thinking of purchasing a house together as co-owners. What are we not thinking about that we should be? [more inside]
posted by ficbot at 4:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Newark Airport Parking Recommendations

I'm driving from South Jersey to park at the Newark Airport for about 5 days in a couple weeks. There will be two of us, in addition to a 2 year old. We have luggage and a car seat. [more inside]
posted by MisantropicPainforest at 3:50 PM PST - 5 comments

Family options for Eurostar

Looking for the best way for a family of 6 to get under the English Channel and have a day trip to Paris. [more inside]
posted by Cuspidx at 2:38 PM PST - 6 comments

How do I wait out a re-org?

I won’t go into a long detailed story about what happened at my job. It’s an old story that has happened to so many of us, but I need advice on handling the situation. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:13 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I tell my professor why I dropped his course?

I just dropped a on-line course at my university called History & Contemporary Issues in Photography. Until now, I have enjoyed art history courses and excelled in them. However, by the time I had finished the first week's readings and completed the first assignment, I realized that the course would revolve around Roland Barthes' Camera Lucida. I came to the conclusion that a)I was out of my depth; and b) that Barthes' work is profoundly inaccessible and quite possibly nonsensical, so I exited the class. Should I email the prof and explain why I decided to leave? [more inside]
posted by A. Davey at 1:46 PM PST - 24 comments

Umm, ow?

I stepped on a hard plastic thing and injured the arch of my foot, now hours later my heel hurts so bad I can't put weight on it. How worried should I be? [more inside]
posted by threeturtles at 12:07 PM PST - 9 comments

Is there an automated way to sell computer files for cryptocurrency?

I am about to release an album and would like to sell it in MP3 and WAV formats on on my personal website in exchange for cryptocurrency. Is there a way to automate the process so that customers can download the files as soon as they pay?
posted by Eiwalker at 11:50 AM PST - 9 comments

I met someone wonderful! But...

Met a lady. It's the instant connection everyone goes on about, and that I kind of didn't believe in until it happened. Everything's amazing and easy -- except she's recently out of a bad relationship and isn't done dealing with that. We're trying to figure out how to manage this. [more inside]
posted by schadenfrau at 11:25 AM PST - 21 comments

Keynote comments

Is there a way to view stickies-style comments (not notes) on the presenter display in Keynote? [more inside]
posted by starman at 10:10 AM PST - 0 comments

Where to find notification sounds for my phone?

New phone, new system. I'm searching for the mp3 files for the facebook messenger notifications because I would like to use those for other apps as well. Alternatively, I'd like to find a clean, safe website that has simple Click, Ding, Tap sounds that I can download and use as notifications. My google-fu is returning too many ad websites and "log in / buy" locations, or very low-quality sounds. Please help!
posted by rebent at 10:06 AM PST - 7 comments

Story based Japanese Language Podcasts

I'm essentially looking for the Moth Radio Hour in Japanese for someone re-learning the language. [more inside]
posted by roue at 9:48 AM PST - 1 comment

How to archive old text messages?

I'd like to pull all the text messages I have off an iPhone 5c and save them to a PC, so that the phone has more free data but I don't lose the messages. Is this possible?
posted by lewedswiver at 9:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Moving files from naked hard drive to new Macbook Pro

How do I move my entire hard drive contents to my new MacBook Pro, when the old hard drive is removed from the computer? (the old macbook, a mid 2012 won't turn on, thus hard drive will have to be removed) [more inside]
posted by Kombucha3452 at 8:53 AM PST - 5 comments

What should I make with my new stand mixer?

I was delightfullly gifted an apple green KitchenAid stand mixer over the holidays, which I have long coveted. But now that the glorious object is sitting atop my counter, I’m a bit at a loss of what to make with it, especially on its maiden voyage. So, bakers and chefs of MetaFilter, what are your favorite recipes for both deliciousness factor AND for getting that precise satisfaction that comes from using a good tool to its fullest potential? Complication factor: gluten free and vegan (the latter being more critical than the former) [more inside]
posted by Dorinda at 8:13 AM PST - 20 comments

Video/Audio Language Capture Software now in Beta--Forgot the name

Have you heard of a language-capture software in beta that captures speech from recorded video/audio and works backwards to allow for text-based editing--recently described on a big podcast at the end of last year (D-something)? [more inside]
posted by brynnwood at 8:10 AM PST - 8 comments

How can I stop my life spiraling out of control?

I haven't been happy with my life for the past few years and have struggled with mental illness before. Recently things have started to worsen again and I'm really worried about recent developments. How can I get out of this downward spiral (now), and build better habits in and for the future? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:58 AM PST - 15 comments

Useful websites for a mum who's just had her son come out to her

Could anyone direct me to useful websites with I could send to my mum, to whom I've recently come out to? More details inside. [more inside]
posted by kylethekonqueror at 5:20 AM PST - 8 comments

Looking for 'fuck off fund' style articles for a friend in need

Old story - young kids, unsupportive husband, career progress rocky. Couples therapy has gone nowhere. I'd like to send her good pieces on planning for disaster - on how having a 'fuck off fund' or at least a 'fuck off plan' can make you feel more confident and actually *help* you solve problems rather than being a commitment to leaving. But she's a middle-aged British lady and a lot of the pieces are (no offense intended) to her eyes schmlatzy American selfhelp B$ and/or aimed at much younger women (without kids). Any suggestions for more mature reads on the same topic?
posted by AFII at 1:59 AM PST - 3 comments

January 12

What kind of kippah is this?

My dad got me a kippah in Israel. It's loosely hand-crocheted [photo here]. I've seen modern orthodox and conservative Jews wear ones that are tightly knit, but not one like this. Who would normally wear this style?
posted by cichlid ceilidh at 10:39 PM PST - 15 comments

Sleazy instrumental music for a circus-themed RPG

I'm running a D&D 5e homebrew campaign featuring circus performers solving a mystery in a town rife with crime and corruption. I'd like some music to play in the background that evokes sleaze, slyness, and highly-unusual goings-on. There must be no vocals or very minimal vocals (and preferably not in English if they exist). Any recommendations for that bizarre constellation of requirements? [more inside]
posted by lieber hair at 9:50 PM PST - 25 comments

Any good verbal games for car rides?

Besides "I spy" -- what are some good games for kids that can be played in a car ride? (Not necessarily a long car ride) Bonus for educational games....
posted by mhh5 at 5:06 PM PST - 32 comments

A nice cup of tea all over my 100% wool yarn

I need help from all you experienced knitters and felters. I am making a pair of felted slipper clogs and I just dumped a full cup of steaming hot tea in my knitting bag. [more inside]
posted by BoscosMom at 5:02 PM PST - 5 comments

What happened to Craigslist

The last few times I've used craigslist to try to sell things, the majority of the responses I've gotten were scammers. This last time I posted 5 or 6 items at different prices points and every single response was a scammer. Does anyone use Craigslist anymore? What should Craigslist be doing about this? Is there some longform journalism I can read about what happened? [more inside]
posted by latkes at 4:40 PM PST - 23 comments

Where to get career advice?

I feel like I have deep questions about my career and would benefit from advice or guidance from someone, but I have no idea where to turn. Can anyone point me somewhere? [more inside]
posted by synecdoche at 3:58 PM PST - 3 comments

Released From The Lease That Fleeces Us?

Boston area tenant. Signed lease back in August of 2016 saying I had to give 90 days notice to move out WHEN AND IF i become a month-to-month tenant. Lease expired in August 2017. Forgot about this clause and gave notice that I was leaving a week ago via text message thinking that I would only be obligated to pay February rent (one full rental period which Internet says is all I'm obligated to pay as a month-to-month tenant). Landlord says I have to pay rent until April unless he finds a replacement tenant. Is he right? [more inside]
posted by shushufindi at 2:24 PM PST - 11 comments

Strategies or resources for a reluctant reader?

A dear friend is having some difficulty with her 6-year-old daughter, who is very reluctant to do anything that has to do with reading. She will be getting her daughter's eyes checked, and has inquired with her school about resources for possible dyslexia, but until that all plays out, we are wondering if anyone has any advice or recommendations. [more inside]
posted by sueinnyc at 2:22 PM PST - 30 comments

Cannabis for my cat?

Has anyone ever tried giving CBD (cannabidiol hemp) oil to their cat for seizures before? If so, how did you settle on a reputable seller (online or in person) amongst all of the options, with what would hopefully be the most standardized and safe product? Since it's probably relevant, we're in Washington, DC, and could have it shipped to friends over in Virginia if needed. [more inside]
posted by funfettisquid at 1:43 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for info on "divorce" (unmarried with children) in WA state

I am meeting with a lawyer to discuss separating from my partner with whom I live and have children, and to whom I am not married. I want to go in with some basic info under my belt so I can make the most of the short, expensive appointment and have a better idea of what questions to ask her. [more inside]
posted by clseace at 1:38 PM PST - 15 comments

Results from Exercise

For my New Years resolutions I decided to take up exercise. I have so far gone to the gym 2x per week, cycling 1 km more each time, starting at 11km. I also go for a 5km walk once a week. I’m 35 female 175cm tall and weigh 97.5 kg because I am taking Latuda for schizophrenia (starting out a few years back my meds made me gain 30kg) My question is When will I start to see results if I can keep this exercise regime up, in terms of weight, waistline size, general fitness etc. Am I doing enough in your opinion? Thank you!!
posted by anonymous at 1:24 PM PST - 13 comments

How much would having a show on SiriusXM cost?

Not talking about receiving satellite radio. Steve Bannon was just let go from hosting his program from Brietbart on SiriusXM. It got me thinking that if someone wanted a show, there are a limited number of channels so the cost would have to be high. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 1:20 PM PST - 1 comment

How to Manage Email Deluge for NonProfit Group?

I am newly leading a non-profit activist group. The deluge of emails is killing me. There are no email conventions, no interest in other workflows, and I have to find a way to better manage my approach to email so things don't slip through the cracks. Please hope me. [more inside]
posted by stellaluna at 1:06 PM PST - 6 comments

What is a nice condolence gift for a friend whose mother died?

My friend and I would like to send something nice to a friend whose mother died. (We live in different cities.) What is a nice gift for this sort of situation? [more inside]
posted by kensington314 at 12:28 PM PST - 25 comments

Do I need to go to the doctor?

Is it anxiety, heart burn or something else? i know you're not my doctor, lawyer, therapist, meterologist, psychic, etc. [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 12:26 PM PST - 31 comments

Excellent narrative/documentary nonfiction podcasts for road trip

Leaving on a road trip tomorrow and looking for narrative/documentary nonfiction podcasts (available via iTunes) to pass the time. Favorites, caveats, etc. within! [more inside]
posted by the return of the thin white sock at 12:11 PM PST - 13 comments

Recommend a FREE app to track my spending

I need an app where I can record my spending. [more inside]
posted by Archipelago at 11:56 AM PST - 16 comments

Metal roofing snafu

Is our roofing company taking us for a ride? [more inside]
posted by tentacle at 11:45 AM PST - 20 comments

Balancing academia and life at a transition point

I'm a postdoc, and I was just offered a tenure-track job across the country. However, I've had to move so much that I've struggled to build the in-person social connections (including a fulfilling romantic relationship) that I finally have now. Although I've built up a career that I'm proud of, the cost is that I've felt incredibly lonely for most of it- and I finally don't feel that way. I'm thinking about turning it down to try to make things work here, but it would be less of a guaranteed road. I don't know what to do. [more inside]
posted by deus ex machina at 11:11 AM PST - 38 comments

Tell me about getting my nails done (manicure).

I have terrible habits with my finer nails, mostly involving ripping off the top white part when bored or anxious. Thus I always have short gnarled looking nails. [more inside]
posted by WeekendJen at 11:02 AM PST - 12 comments

Identify This Argentinian Dish

Back in 2006, my husband and I ate a South American restaurant in Paris called Anahi. He had a delicious meal that we have talked about many times, but we don't know what it is called. [more inside]
posted by GoldenEel at 10:53 AM PST - 6 comments

Help me re-find this guide to doing different media interviews

A while ago, a famous internet person wrote a fantastic multi-part guide for how to be a good guest for radio interviews/interviews with newspaper journalists/television interviews, etc. I am having difficulty tracking it down. [more inside]
posted by mostly vowels at 10:43 AM PST - 2 comments

Sexually assaulted by a friend. How to make her understand how I feel?

Is there any point in trying to show this formerly close friend who first violated me sexually, then violated my privacy, why her behaviour is so hurtful and upsetting? And if there is, how do I go about it? [more inside]
posted by myotahapea at 10:10 AM PST - 25 comments

Fostering rescue cats

I am considering volunteering at some point in the future to foster cats for a cat rescue organization in my NYC neighborhood, but am worried about being a "foster fail" (someone who adopts the first foster they take in). [more inside]
posted by merejane at 9:57 AM PST - 9 comments

How to gracefully quit a job you just started - grad student edition

I'm a new grad student and I was fortunately able to just not work during my first semester of classes while I adjusted to being back in school. However, I do need some cheddar so I applied for a part-time job on campus as a writing tutor in a health sciences department. I got the job and I really, really like it after my first week! But, I was also just approached by a professor about a better paying research assistant position... [more inside]
posted by forkisbetter at 9:51 AM PST - 4 comments

Eating Australia: Melbourne and Sydney

Food writer and spouse visiting Melbourne and Sydney over the next three weeks. What, where, and how should we eat? [more inside]
posted by yellowcandy at 9:46 AM PST - 16 comments

Please help me pick an air purifier so I can survive in my new home.

I recently bought a condo, and have been suffering from allergies, most likely due to dust mites, since then. It's getting worse and my quality of life is suffering, as I can't breath, sneeze often and am always tired. I'm looking for an air purifier but there are so many choices and features to choose from that I'm overwhelmed. [more inside]
posted by parkerposey at 9:38 AM PST - 16 comments

What is your favorite black hole book?

If you are interested in slightly better than a layman's knowledge of black holes, what was your favorite book? Some commonly read authors on this subject are Thorn, Hawking, Bartusiak, and Tyson. Who did the better job of explaining there existence and history of discovery? Any others you especially liked? Perhaps you liked a YouTube video? Black hole scholars and enthusiasts please weigh in!
posted by Rad_Boy at 9:37 AM PST - 9 comments

Need Help With Myspace song files

I have an old myspace account that I uploaded my music to. I can't access the account anymore (I don't even remember the email/password combo). I could play the songs a few months ago but before I could download them the songs stopped playing. [more inside]
posted by Annika Cicada at 8:59 AM PST - 6 comments

No, the other kind of Kiwi

I'm going to New Zealand in March! Flights, hotels, and general plans are all booked, and now I want to read something by/about the region that will get me in the mood for this trip. Fiction, non-fiction, contemporary or historical: Kiwis, bring out your best! [more inside]
posted by basalganglia at 8:53 AM PST - 9 comments

looking for bedcovers from weavers, quilters, and craftspeople

I'm in the market for some new bedding and I thought it'd be nice to support craftspeople and small weaving/sewing/quilting businesses (and hopefully get something nice and long-lasting in the process). I'm sure Etsy or Folksy have at least a few good ones, but I'm not well-versed enough to look at a quilt or woven blanket and say "that's quality work right there." Can anyone suggest either shops to look in or people to buy from, online or in the NYC area? A few more details inside. [more inside]
posted by Grimp0teuthis at 8:50 AM PST - 5 comments

How to talk to an oblivious colleague about improving?

How do I talk to someone who I hired (but have no direct authority over) about how things aren’t going well? This is complicated by the fact that this person appears fairly unaware of the fact that things aren’t going well. I want to find a way to help this person without alienating them. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:39 AM PST - 13 comments

Removing styrofoam from my lawn?

Apparently during trash pickup a week or so ago, the trash guys managed to spill a box of styrofoam (or some equivalent) packing stuff all over the road and in several yards. It's been snowy, and the beads have been buried until the melt this week, and now I've got hundreds of marble-sized white things all through my yard. They're squishy and round and definitely not the kind that melt in water. Is there any reasonable way to remove them en masse if they're too small for a rake and too soggy for a vacuum?
posted by specialagentwebb at 7:16 AM PST - 14 comments

I'd like to know your opinion about the difference of two versions.

My question is from Frankenstein. When I read these sentences of chapter three, I felt something was wrong. Especially with two words," favourite " and "imprudence". [more inside]
posted by mizukko at 7:12 AM PST - 11 comments

What field is my fictional grad student in, and what has she lost?

I’m writing a fictional story in which the character has lost everything in a fire. Not only her possessions, but her work, which is irreplaceable – just to really put her through the wringer. [more inside]
posted by swheatie at 6:47 AM PST - 35 comments

Need time-sensitive sump pump help.

My sump pump seems to be broken, (it's constantly running), no plumbers available until Monday and my area faces rapidly melting snow and rain in the next 48 hours. I have a plan but maybe you can poke holes in it or provide an alternative solution? [more inside]
posted by jeremias at 6:04 AM PST - 12 comments

Fear of getting raped is taking over my life

I'm a woman who sometimes travels and hikes alone. I increasingly can't enjoy or do this anymore. [more inside]
posted by unannihilated at 6:03 AM PST - 34 comments

Dog hiking/running service

I'm thinking of start a dog hiking/running service as a side business ... I know dogs. I know hiking. I know running. I do not how to start a little business. What can you tell me about starting this kind of business in particular and a business in general? [more inside]
posted by falsedmitri at 5:27 AM PST - 5 comments

Know any iPad photo apps that can add borders without cropping?

I’m looking for an iPad photo app that can add a simple border (frame) to an image without losing any information (i.e. without cropping), for printing purposes. Snapseed and Photoshop Express both crop the photo when you add a border, and though there are messy workarounds for both, neither fit the bill because I need to standardise the process to always get the same border width. Any ideas? Thanks guys!
posted by scrm at 2:47 AM PST - 1 comment

What are the best stories/novels about virtual reality?

Looking for anything from any time period, although I guess they weren't writing about virtual reality in 1890. I'm looking for stuff that really works in terms of style and idea. [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 1:07 AM PST - 23 comments

What have I injured?

Wrestling with dogs, I slipped off a low bed and jammed my head down into my chest. What’s hurting in my chest Now? [more inside]
posted by LonnieK at 12:16 AM PST - 5 comments

January 11

Disable access to open Minecraft servers without disabling internet?

I want to disable access to open Minecraft servers from the computers my kids use to play. They should still be able to play with each other on LAN as well as on pre-approved Realms (one of which we're paying for), but not join open server free-for-all's. Is there a way to do this? PC/Mac edition.
posted by rouftop at 9:39 PM PST - 6 comments

Hypothetically, how do we handle real arguments over hypotheticals?

The moral of the story is: damn you, Tonya Harding. BF and I can't seem to figure out how to have value-centric conversations. Perspective please. [more inside]
posted by orangesky4 at 9:12 PM PST - 27 comments

Estimated salaries on job search websites

Most job search websites (e.g., Indeed, Simply Hired, Glassdoor) provide estimated salaries for positions that do not state their pay ranges. I found one position at my level in my company and the estimated salary was high (the estimated upper range is outside the internally published range). Without knowing what the hired folks were paid, it's impossible to judge their accuracy but has anyone published an analysis on the estimates?
posted by bluesapphires at 8:14 PM PST - 1 comment

When thank you isn't enough?

How do you deal with a family member who constantly sees interactions with you in financial transactions terms? [more inside]
posted by Gosha_Dog at 6:23 PM PST - 34 comments

What to do in Toronto in February? (w/Mom, Dad, MIL, 12th & 8th graders)

Our family (mom, dad, 8th & 12th grade boys, mother-in-law) will be in Toronto Feb 19-21. We've got museums generally covered, but we're looking for wacky and entertaining stuff to do in town and nearby, plus interesting food. We like humorous theater, used bookstores, record stores, game stores, D&D, comics, sci-fi, big wacky art exhibits, hikes, funky clothes shopping, ethnic foods & lots more random fun stuff. Please suggest anything out of the ordinary or weird or beloved for us to do or eat or experience!
posted by chr1sb0y at 6:12 PM PST - 20 comments

Are there any alternatives for solid cases?

I've been looking into some hard cases for moving and long-term storage. Something that can withstand being kicked around and in dirty/dusty environments and protect the stuff inside. Pelican-style cases are the go-to for this but they are not cheap. I've been looking at army surplus cases like this but I'm wondering if there are any other options that would be as effective but not as expensive.
posted by Socinus at 4:40 PM PST - 4 comments

PregnancyFilter: Have I left it too late to get in shape?

I'm 6 weeks pregnant (omg!) and unfit, particularly my core. All the guidance says not to overdo it with your stomach muscles while they're changing etc. Is it too late to do something about my weak muscles and bad fitness levels? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:35 PM PST - 13 comments

Should I change jobs - Foreign Service edition

I'm a US Federal employee, specifically an engineer working for the State Department as a Foreign Service Specialist, currently posted to the DC area. After eight years, I'm debating whether I should stay or go and could use some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:35 PM PST - 6 comments

Avoiding lead in kitchenware

How do you avoid lead in kitchenware? Also if you have tips for not overthinking stuff like this, please share them. [more inside]
posted by slidell at 3:45 PM PST - 15 comments

Searching for QUIET libraries in the tri-state area

Hi. I was wondering if anyone happens to know of any public libraries in the tri-state area – particularly in North Jersey – where the staff is actually serious about maintaining a quiet environment? [more inside]
posted by DavidfromBA at 2:59 PM PST - 17 comments

Is my iPhone SE already out of juice?

Do I need to replace the battery on an iPhone SE (running iOS 11) that I bought a month and change ago? [more inside]
posted by Tamanna at 2:16 PM PST - 9 comments

Teaching a visually impaired design student

Next semester I will have a visually impaired student in the design studio I teach. Looking for advice / experience on the subject. [more inside]
posted by signal at 2:08 PM PST - 4 comments

D&D/gaming baby gear/presents

One of the guys in our D&D group is expecting a baby with his wife next month and we’d like to get him some presents! [more inside]
posted by skycrashesdown at 1:53 PM PST - 11 comments

bookmarking videos for playback on TV

When browsing RSS feeds, Twitter, or Facebook on my phone or computer, I often find videos I want to watch later on my TV. Right now I usually add the website to safari's 'reading list.' Then when I'm at home and am looking for a video to watch, I'll scroll through this list and fight with the necessary apps to send the video to the TV. I find the browse/playback part of this process fairly frustrating and am looking for suggestions on how to improve the experience. [more inside]
posted by stobor at 1:34 PM PST - 4 comments

Workouts and BPM

I find it very difficult (if not impossible) to go against music when I am doing cardio. How do I find music that makes working out easier? [more inside]
posted by rada at 12:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Attention spans and music vs silence: What's the difference?

Is there a difference in the brains or attention spans of people who prefer to have music in the background versus those that prefer silence? Is there a name for this? [more inside]
posted by stillmoving at 12:41 PM PST - 7 comments

Foreign Language - Gendered articles when noun not specified

If I'm talking in a language with gendered nouns about something that could be referred to with a masculine or feminine noun, does it matter which gender articles I use, and will everyone in the conversation then use the same articles? [more inside]
posted by sillysally at 12:40 PM PST - 7 comments

What on earth do I do with a 0.3 quart Dutch oven?

One of the presents I received this year was a cast iron Dutch oven from Chasseur. It's 0.3 quarts, pre-seasoned, and very small. What can I do with it? [more inside]
posted by ZaphodB at 12:13 PM PST - 22 comments

Cat in neighbour's apartment (UKfilter)

Our lovely cat has managed to sneak out of our apartment. He also seems to have managed to sneak into our neighbour's apartment - we can hear him meowing through the door. But the neighbour hasn't been home for a few hours - what do we do now? We're in the UK. Cat picture and details inside! [more inside]
posted by CompanionCube at 12:10 PM PST - 23 comments

How can I download bbc radio from the iplayer in mp3 format?

I have a long drive this weekend and I'd like to listen to Radio 4's production of Anansi Boys in the car. And maybe Good Omens too. But the iplayer doesn't offer these programmes for download, and my car-listening device is an ipod classic. How can I download the iplayer radio streams as mp3s? [more inside]
posted by Lorc at 12:09 PM PST - 7 comments

Exercises to build openness to vulnerability

I've become increasingly aware of the (many) ways that I resist and avoid letting myself be vulnerable in both my personal and professional life. I think it's getting in the way of getting the most out of my experiences. I'm looking for practices that will help me grow on this front. They could be standalone exercises or a little curriculum that I could turn into a self-growth course, or, really any other suggestions for actionable ways to engage with this area in myself.
posted by spindrifter at 11:05 AM PST - 5 comments

Where to stay on the Oaxaca coast

My partner and I (late 30s/early 40s M-F couple from the U.S., no kids) will be heading to the coast of Oaxaca, Mexico in March and we're looking for a place to stay near or on the beach. We're interested in all suggestions at all price points. Thanks!
posted by DavidNYC at 11:01 AM PST - 4 comments

Yoga Classes with Non-Yoga Music

Are there any yoga apps, online classes or videos (paid is fine) that play good music (pop, rock, hip-hop etc) that is not typical "yoga music"? I found this question but I'm looking for actual classes not just music. I really like the musical element of spin apps like Cyclecast and Peloton so hoping there's something similar for yoga. [more inside]
posted by acidic at 10:26 AM PST - 3 comments

Is Garcinia Cambogia worth it for weight loss?

Do you think that it is worth it to take Garcinia Camboia for weight loss? The scientific literature is difficult to navigate, as I suppose is the case with every dietary supplement. Any advice would be most appreciated.
posted by mortaddams at 9:42 AM PST - 5 comments

Mochi ice cream...can I eat it right away?

I want to make mochi ice cream balls with kids at my library but all the recipes say to freeze it for several hours, then thaw for a few minutes so the dough gets soft again. Can't I just eat it without freezing when the dough is already soft? I only have an hour with these kids, 20 minutes of which will probably be taken up with the making of the mochi balls. Can we just eat them as soon as we make them?
posted by Biblio at 9:25 AM PST - 7 comments

How do we come to terms with not giving our dog a good death?

Our Sophie had been slowing down; our deaf girl had arthritis and ever enlarging tumors on her legs starting to affect her mobility, in addition to other chronic conditions continually expanding our medication collection. She'd been recently diagnosed with cancer, but the vet was actually optimistic about this, saying treatment could improve her quality of life and keep her comfortable. [more inside]
posted by jacy at 8:37 AM PST - 27 comments

How do you deal with a Narcissist?

My Father in Law is a Classic Narcississt and I literally cannot deal with him any more. I need some advice on how best to cope, phrases I can employ, ways to calm myself in his presence because I'm losing the battle. I'm biting my tongue at every family event and I'm not sure how long I can hold my tongue! My wonderful husband was raised by a narcissistic man, has 2 narcissistic brothers and all sorts of issues stemming from growing up in this environment. This question has really, really resonated with me.... my husband struggles with a LOT of the issues mentioned in this question and I hadn't connected the dots back to his narcissistic father until I read it. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:29 AM PST - 32 comments

Shower door to ceiling gap to avoid humidity damage

We are installing a fixed glass panel and a hinged glass door on a tiled shower which will not have a tiled ceiling or an exhaust fan in the shower. There will be an exhaust fan in the room outside the shower. What is the minimum gap between the top of the glass and the ceiling to allow humidity to escape the shower?
posted by grahahw at 7:59 AM PST - 2 comments

Your favorite daily stretches

I've always had very stiff hamstrings, but I've discovered that doing a couple of sets of ten toe touches every day goes a long way towards improving their flexibility. What quick stretches help YOU stay limber? [more inside]
posted by telepanda at 7:37 AM PST - 16 comments

Best Burgers and Burger Joints in UK/Europe?

Where are the favourite and/or most-interesting burgers or burger-selling establishments in the UK and Europe? What makes them loved and/or interesting? [more inside]
posted by chudmonkey at 7:23 AM PST - 18 comments

In search of high-quality winter tights and leggings

You have tights and/or leggings which are warm, comfortable, flattering, and durable. Tell me about them. [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 6:47 AM PST - 19 comments

Big brother big sistering sans frontieres

Without giving a huge backstory, an eight year old kid who lost his parents recently has come into our lives and we have agreed with his grandmother to hang out with him in our house two or three nights a week for the foreseeable future. Now what? [more inside]
posted by athirstforsalt at 6:46 AM PST - 18 comments

Longform tales of daring-do

Back when Outside Online was still good, they used to regularly publish longform articles, real life stories of people in dramatic outdoorsey situations. First ascents, dog-sled racing, cast adrift in the Pacific, etc, etc. I follow longform.com and although they used to publish these types of reports too, I feel that the number here too has diminished in recent times, although that may be confirmation bias. Where do I go to scratch this itch? What websites are publishing these type of articles now? Either general interest, or specialist sports sites are good, provided the writing is of a decent quality.
posted by fatfrank at 5:58 AM PST - 3 comments

How much should I get paid?

The company I work for wants me to absorb another job. I want to make sure I get paid appropriately. What should I expect my raise to be? Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:25 AM PST - 11 comments

If I have to pull the trigger, I'd rather do it now.

Please reassure me about breaking up with my long-term boyfriend. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:25 AM PST - 33 comments

Surprise dinner in the office fridge: nice gesture or too creepy?

I’d like to surprise the woman I’m going out with by leaving food for her at her workplace. I had to do some research to make it work. Do I do it? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 4:25 AM PST - 40 comments

Registrations and account setups required for Anova immersion cooker?

I've read through this question. I'd describe myself as an above average home cook. I'm competent in a lot of techniques and have a fair grasp of several cuisines. I've been curious about sous vide for awhile. The Anova is available in AU and I'm interested in three things. [more inside]
posted by michswiss at 4:16 AM PST - 12 comments

Vizio Smart TV showing signs of burn-in on screen. Time for new TV?

3 year old Vizio 50" smart TV has burn in, mostly on right side of screen. Not always but some times. One game of Freecell showed up, faintly, for a week, as have other windows that'd been left open. Currently the Freecell image is *almost* gone but that's happened before with other things, come and go. [more inside]
posted by dancestoblue at 12:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Office chair + hardwood floor = ?

I'm about to move to a new office space that has beautiful old hardwood floors, and I will need to use some kind of adjustable office chair. My preferred chair has castors, but I'm worried about them damaging the floor. How can I preserve the floor while looking after my back? [more inside]
posted by rubbish bin night at 12:45 AM PST - 12 comments

January 10

Ideas for thoughtful questions before baby

What are some questions that will make for some thoughtful conversation between my husband and me before the birth of our first child? [more inside]
posted by coraline at 11:42 PM PST - 9 comments

I need a good Home IT debug/best practices guide!

Hey all, I have a relatively simple home IT setup- An AC1750 router and a Motorola Surfboard Cable Modem. Nothing fancy, although a lot of devices connect to them - 2 iPads, 2 phones, a PS4, a Nintendo Switch, Roku, Hue, Alexa etc. Things have been hunky dory until the last week or two. I'm suddenly getting frequent service outages where the Roku rapidly connects and disconnects. And while I'd love to blame Spectrum (lol), I've also been having issues streaming from Plex or using the Roku remote. [more inside]
posted by GilloD at 10:45 PM PST - 4 comments

My game is mud.

I am in the market for a new used car. I really like the car I have, but I just accepted a job at a quarry where conditions are often muddy and messy. It pains me when the current car gets as dirty as it gets. What might I try instead? [more inside]
posted by mustachio at 10:05 PM PST - 4 comments

How were Liddy and Hunt caught?

How were G. Gordon Liddy and E. Howard Hunt caught? The 5 plumbers were caught in the DNC's HQ in the Watergate, and one had Hunt's name in his address book (reported by Bob Woodward only 3 days later), but how did they get the evidence to indict Liddy & Hunt? [more inside]
posted by ASCII Costanza head at 9:54 PM PST - 3 comments

How to get from Antigua, Guatemala to Leon, Nicaragua by land

I'm in Antigua and I would like to get to Leon. If I only want to be on the road during the day, and in cheap hostels at night, what route do I need to take to avoid staying in major cities (eg., Guatemala City, San Pedro Sula, Tegucigalpa, etc)? [more inside]
posted by aniola at 8:33 PM PST - 5 comments

General contractor invoicing huge management costs after completion

We just completed a medium-sized remodeling project on our house in Illinois, working with a well-reviewed general contractor, doing a design-build. Weeks after work was completed, we were surprised to get an invoice for over ten thousand dollars worth of project management and architect charges. Is this a normal, expected thing? [more inside]
posted by Hither at 8:10 PM PST - 6 comments

Making sous vide egg bites without the mason jar mess

I love making the ChefSteps recipe for sous vide egg bites in mason jars. But, the jars don’t get clean in the dishwasher and we have to wash them by hand (the egg proteins become hard as a rock after a hot wash). Is there a way to either package them differently to cook them in the water bath in something other than a mason jar, or line/coat the mason jar so they could be removed or less sticky with the mason jar?
posted by jroybal at 7:20 PM PST - 10 comments

How does iOS implementation of ActiveSync sync?

When an iPhone syncs an Office 365 mailbox through ActiveSync, what elements of the mailbox does it issue a separate sync command for? [more inside]
posted by IanMorr at 7:12 PM PST - 0 comments

Does someone have to sit with the camera for time-lapse videos?

I was recently rewatching Breaking Bad, and I saw one of those characteristic long time-lapse videos where a bunch of clouds crosses the sky or day turns to night. It got me wondering how this is done, specifically whether someone has to sit there and guard the camera for hours on end. If so, it sounds like it would be kind of a boring job. Is there another way to do it?
posted by 4ster at 7:12 PM PST - 13 comments

Good Mac Games for my Grandma?

My grandma lives by herself in the midwest, and can easily get bored during the brutal winters (My family is helping her with this in other ways out of scope of this question). She loves playing games on her recent model MacBook Air with a large external display. She plays FunBridge, Plants Vs. Zombies, and Bejeweled for about 20 hours a week, but could use some new games. Any recommendations? Accessibility/technical requirements and a description of her tastes inside. [more inside]
posted by dtschust at 7:11 PM PST - 19 comments

From the woods to the ... ? Need help finding a new career path.

I’ve worked as an outdoor educator for about six years at various organizations. My master's was in environmental studies and I love building one on one relationships with students and guiding them on outdoor adventures. However, the long term prospects in my field aren't great and there are very few thirty somethings who work as field instructors at my organization because of the low pay and difficulty balancing work/life balance. I need help deciding what to do next. [more inside]
posted by ajarbaday at 5:16 PM PST - 6 comments

Who to contact about a hypothetical medical diagnosis for research?

As part of my research, I want to explore a possible cause of death in a historical case, based on notes by the doctor who examined the patient. This is for academic research, so I would like to be able to give proper attribution (and not claim that I magically knew potential diagnoses). Who can I contact about this? [more inside]
posted by shapes that haunt the dusk at 4:43 PM PST - 3 comments

Naming and folder conventions for Google Drive?

If you have naming and/or file conventions for your team’s Google Drive or similar system at work, I’m curious to know what those are (if they’re effective.)
posted by melodykramer at 4:34 PM PST - 3 comments

Should I complain about the newspaper carrier’s obnoxiously loud car?

Every morning around 4 AM, the new newspaper carrier drives down our street delivering to the handful of people who still get the paper. The car is beyond loud. I think it’s missing a muffler maybe. Anyway, whenever he accelerates it’s loud and the sound carries. It wakes me up, it wakes my husband up. I can hear the car drive around the entire subdivision. And it’s so loud that I can go my bathroom, turn on the exhaust fan and still hear it. [more inside]
posted by bodgy at 4:13 PM PST - 29 comments

What to do with these dried morels?

A friend gifted us with a quart-sized baggie filled with dried morels he collected in Iowa. Are they safe to eat, and how should we eat them? [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 4:13 PM PST - 15 comments

Funterprise funOS Funployment

An iOS enterprise development subscription lapsed, and a distribution private key (.p12 file) is missing, and I am trying to figure out the least invasive way to get some apps running again on ipads that are about 100 miles away from me. [more inside]
posted by michaelh at 4:12 PM PST - 2 comments

Recessed lighting help

My house has recessed lighting. I think it's installed incorrectly / missing a piece / got the wrong bulb / something, because it's way too dark and you can see up into the can from below in a way that looks wrong to me. [more inside]
posted by last_fall at 4:10 PM PST - 7 comments

PC to iPad to ears

I have some audio books in mp3 format on my PC (Surface Book running Windows 10) that I would like to transfer to an iPad that is not mine and for which I do not have the apple id. How do I get these audio books onto the iPad so my 95yr old relative can enjoy some literature? [more inside]
posted by Thella at 3:59 PM PST - 5 comments

What CPUs are there which don't suffer from Meltdown ?

If you're buying a laptop today are there CPU's you can get which just don't have the Meltdown problem at all (as opposed to having it 'fixed' by OS level fixes) ? [more inside]
posted by southof40 at 3:43 PM PST - 12 comments

twitch, twitch, twitch... argh!

1.) What is the cause of small muscle tics, particularly around the eyes? 2.) How do I make them stop? [more inside]
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 3:39 PM PST - 22 comments

Peas be with you, and also with you

Magically, I have 6 cans of Le Sueur baby peas. What do I do with them? [more inside]
posted by oflinkey at 3:21 PM PST - 15 comments

Calling all Chenille connoisseurs, cat owners, and knitters!

I would like to knit a chenille throw blanket (really, a flat long seat cover) for my sofa. Help me figure out (a) how to knit, (b) what yarn to use, and (c) and all that other stuff. [more inside]
posted by bluesky78987 at 3:02 PM PST - 12 comments

To friend or not to friend

I recently started hanging out with an old male friend from high school. I am a gayish female. The second time we hung out, he put his arm around my waist (unsolicited) and asked me if I wanted to make out. I feel mad and sad and awkward and I don't know what to do now. [more inside]
posted by anotheraccount at 2:31 PM PST - 28 comments

seriously, shut the f up

I'm having a really hard time living in the world with constant noise. (Specifically: people on their cell phones; people watching stuff on their devices in public with their sound up; music I dislike; and random clicking, snorfling sort of noises that people tend to produce in otherwise quiet places, eg libraries.) What can I keep in my purse that I can use to block sound, really block it? [more inside]
posted by fingersandtoes at 1:46 PM PST - 20 comments

What's good in Puerto Vallarta?

Going to Puerto Vallarta next week. What should I do/see/eat? [more inside]
posted by lunasol at 12:43 PM PST - 13 comments

Sleeping, breathing, not breathing, it's a problem...

You are not my doctor, and this isn't really a medical question, but I seem to be having trouble with my breathing while I'm sleeping, and yes, I've had a sleep study done. More under the fold. [more inside]
posted by patheral at 12:32 PM PST - 11 comments

Tips for a Scotland vacation

What should we visit while in Scotland for 8 days in mid-September. [more inside]
posted by jabo at 12:24 PM PST - 10 comments

it isn't the sock curse

I have a boyfriend. I wish to knit a pair of socks for this boyfriend. Help me find the right pattern! [more inside]
posted by Rush-That-Speaks at 12:23 PM PST - 8 comments

Fancy Me Up

Short version: I have to look good NOW. Limited budget. Upcoming events that I feel woefully unprepared for. These range from very fancy dinner parties, openings, and other events that will include well known and wealthy people in the arts and fashion world. These are obligatory events I will be attending for my spouse’s job and I have to feel confident and look put together. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:12 PM PST - 28 comments

Unstuffing A Stuffy Baby?

Hi! YANMPediatrician, but: Ms. Drapatz and I have a delightful 3 week old tiny girl person. She is generally unfussy and delightful and seems in good health (no problems eating or peeing/pooping, gaining weight, etc.), but at night she has some snuffles which wake her (and us) up and lead to fussing and general sadness. Her snuffles are sometimes dry sounding and sometimes liquidy sounding, but we don't think she has an actual cold. Does anyone have any go to baby magic to help with this? [more inside]
posted by drapatz at 11:59 AM PST - 13 comments

New job for a sharp but battered public schools special educator?

My partner's mother is a 50 something year old woman who for the majority of her professional life has been a special educator in the Delaware public schools. She loves working with the kids but the work environment is horrendous and it's having a tremendously negative impact on her physical and mental health. We are at the brainstorming stage and trying to come up with ways of finding paths to equally rewarding situations that are much healthier in mind, body, and spirit. [more inside]
posted by lips at 11:58 AM PST - 6 comments

What Do I Do With These Old Macs

I've been going through shelves of old computers and I've got some old Macs of various levels of reliability. Is there anything interesting I can do with them? Assume in this case that all practical computer and network needs are taken care of. What's impractical but interesting? [more inside]
posted by fedward at 11:40 AM PST - 18 comments

How to cope with not getting answers?

Not a medical question, just to say up front. I'm asking: how do you cope with having symptoms that limit your mobility and cause pain, when you know for a fact that no one will try to figure it out, so the cause likely won't be found, and you have no idea what to expect for the future? [more inside]
posted by cotton dress sock at 11:24 AM PST - 16 comments

Should these be added to my resume?

A lot of what I think demonstrates my leadership abilities, communication skills, etc., and even some of my 'work experience', is connected to my political activism. [more inside]
posted by 8LeggedFriend at 11:13 AM PST - 5 comments

Resume examples with only one (long-term) professional position?

I am updating my resume and have some questions about proper formatting. I’ve only worked in one position for my entire professional career, I’ve been here for about 10 years. I’m used to the chronological resume format that I used when I needed to highlight various jobs while I was in college, but how would I write one with only one professional position to speak of? Do you have any examples to point to? [more inside]
posted by Think_Long at 11:02 AM PST - 5 comments

Transfering from iPhone to Android

I smashed my iPhone screen. Half of the screen is inoperable, preventing me from accesing the iphone through the PIN screen. I don't want to bring the iPhone in for repairs because doing so costs almost as much as a cheap Android phone (which I bought). [more inside]
posted by Laniger at 10:54 AM PST - 2 comments

Help me apply to grad school

I overcame immense adversity and put myself in a good place. I'm about to apply for grad school in a year (MFT or MSW... then PhD later?), and I am seeking advice on the following questions: (1) how do I address my academic infraction and misconduct in community college and (2) explain my life story in my personal statement without sounding off-putting or making excuses for the latter? [more inside]
posted by squirtle at 10:48 AM PST - 9 comments

Resources for helping children adjust to widower dad dating?

There are a lot of resources about talking to children about a parent dating after divorce, but a friend is having trouble putting her hands on information about 1) talking to children about a parent dating after the other parent dies; 2) parenting and step-parenting under these circumstances. [more inside]
posted by *s at 10:27 AM PST - 3 comments

To read before getting a dog

We are probably getting a dog within the next year. I know nothing of dogs. Please recommend books. [more inside]
posted by kitcat at 10:12 AM PST - 11 comments

Digital to film capture

For a project I'm working on, I need to have a way to get specific images on positive film. What's a good way to do this in 2018? [more inside]
posted by tedious at 9:45 AM PST - 8 comments

Where to get stock "hand-drawn" style illustrations for a website?

Recently, I came across a really impressive website. (URL below). What techniques did the designers use here for their illustrations? [more inside]
posted by jacobean at 9:08 AM PST - 5 comments

Searching for Bookmarked Venues in Yelp

If I want to find a restaurant I previously bookmarked in, say, Akron, the only option seems to be to go to bookmarks view, drag the map to Akron, and blindly hit generically numbered red pins to reveal names until it turns up. If I've bookmarked 40 places, it's an insane task. Is there a better way? [more inside]
posted by Quisp Lover at 8:27 AM PST - 3 comments

Help pimp our kid's karaoke party

How can we create an awesome home basement karaoke setup for a group of 8-year-old girls? We can use Xbox One, YouTube, or maybe iPhone app. Willing to buy microphones for the occasion. [more inside]
posted by picklebird at 7:45 AM PST - 9 comments

Warding off winter weight woes

Winter has come, and I want to eat all. The. Time. Is there anyway to curb my out of control appetite? [more inside]
posted by whistle pig at 7:36 AM PST - 14 comments

What is on the back of the Laocoon, besides gluteus maximus? An arm?

There's a famous sculpture depicting Laocoon at the Vatican Museum. The arm(s) originally displayed with that particular sculpture (the Montorsoli arm) have been removed in favor of one thought to be more original (the Pollak arm). To the best of your knowledge, is the Montorsoli arm in fact stored behind the statue? If not, where is it? And if not, what if anything is stored behind the statute? Links and revealing photo of possible alien invader inside! [more inside]
posted by Clyde Mnestra at 7:16 AM PST - 3 comments

How does babby become well-adjusted adult?

We are having a baby! We are both a little lost on what good parenting looks like. I would appreciate reading materials, websites, and any other reliable resources. I also need specific advice on raising a happy, empowered brown(ish?) girl in this Trumpy world. [more inside]
posted by Tarumba at 7:07 AM PST - 22 comments

No-iron shirts for men, in solid colors.

I love Banana Republic's non-iron shirts, I will never go back to wearing non-non-iron shirts no matter how much formaldehyde they put in wrinkle-free shirts, but Banana Republic seems to hate solid-color shirts so options are very limited. I love Express's solid-color shirts, but last time I checked they don't have any wrinkle-free shirts. Where else should I look to find non-iron shirts in single colors?
posted by Tehhund at 7:04 AM PST - 14 comments

How can I avoid Lyft drivers taking me out of the way?

A few times recently I've noticed that my Lyft rides end up costing a lot more than the predicted price, and it seems due to them taking a long route rather than traffic. Most recently, I took a Lyft early on a Sunday morning, when there was no traffic, from a friend's apartment in Prospect Heights in Brooklyn to JFK. [more inside]
posted by pinochiette at 6:34 AM PST - 14 comments

Help me find the fun in Civilization (the game)

I've tried to play civ repeatedly in the past and I always get to a point after 50 turns or so where I'm not doing anything besides clicking 'end turn' over and over again because everything is waiting in a queue and there are no actions to take. I eventually get tired of not doing anything and give up. [more inside]
posted by mattholomew at 6:00 AM PST - 12 comments

Sedentary child

We've got an absolutely fantastic, but slightly sedentary child. Let's call our wonderful seven year old Sid. Sid is extremely verbal and loves to joke around, play with words, listen to stories etc etc etc - Sid is NOT so keen on going on walks, playing sports, running around and generally being active. [more inside]
posted by dance at 4:36 AM PST - 50 comments

After data breaches, do I need credit monitoring?

My info has been involved in some of the large-scale data breaches you hear about. Afterwards, I've ignored the notices offering free credit monitoring. Is that a mistake? I have one that offers "Alternative Compensation... up to $36" if I already have credit monitoring. Should I get monitoring from one of the others and ask for that payment? [more inside]
posted by daisyace at 4:18 AM PST - 2 comments

Different icons for different image formats (Win7)?

I would like different icons for e.g. JPEG, TIFF, BMP files. I have tried using FileTypesMan which unfortunately can only change image icons as one without distinguishing between them. Has anyone come across a solution?
posted by Kiwi at 3:39 AM PST - 5 comments

Help me find a lost iPad

Partner just lost her iPad in a cab. They have called several cab companies and law enforcement, but without success so far. They are at work, without access to other Apple devices, so I am trying to help from my side, in order to locate their iPad via Find My Phone. Added difficulty: they forgot their Apple ID. More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by lost_lettuce at 3:21 AM PST - 3 comments

Closed/anon fundraising option for single mom faced w/child sex abuse?

Hi folks, I'm trying to help my friend, who is in a really terrible situation with no financial resources to cope with the reality and legal battle around her daughter having been sexually abused. Details kept vague because I have no idea how present on the internet her daughter's abuser is. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:57 AM PST - 2 comments

migraine prevention for dream job interview!

[potential TMI alert!!] I am on the academic job market. I have a campus interview on Feb 1. I, hm, will probably be ovulating, which is to say the chance of getting a hormonal migraine is high. What can I do to help myself? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:56 AM PST - 13 comments

How can I find text in the message of an email (Apple Mail or Outlook)?

I would like to be able to look for a bit of text (e.g., "XXYY") in the subject OR the message of an incoming email, and flag it to myself somehow. I have found ways to apply rules in Apple Mail to the text of the incoming subject, but not the body of the email. I could also implement it in Outlook if it's a possibility there.
posted by stinker at 1:15 AM PST - 4 comments

January 9

How do you soothe yourself in moments of anguish?

I’m in the process of recovering from a brutal sexual assault. Most days are tolerable. Some, like today, leave me reeling, for one reason or another. I know that above all what’s needed is time, but what can I do in the moment to quiet my grieving mind and dull the mental pain a bit? [more inside]
posted by ocherdraco at 9:38 PM PST - 23 comments

Bread Machine decision fatigue

My bread machine finally died. What bread machine should I buy to replace it? Is the $400 Zojirushi worth it? Please enlighten me! [more inside]
posted by Valancy Rachel at 9:29 PM PST - 8 comments

What is glowing green on my tree, in Chicago?

Tree in my backyard, don't know what kind, pretty tall -- definitely too tall for me to get up where the glowing is -- has maybe two dozen spots, spread throughout the canopy, that glow green after dark. They're BRIGHT! There are also a handful of spots on the nearby phone/power lines, fairly evenly spaced. If you go around the south side of the tree, there are also two red glowing spots. I'm in the Chicago suburbs. What in the heck am I seeing? [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 8:54 PM PST - 25 comments

Hiking with a kid...AT edition

My nine year old daughter and I would like to go on a 3 day 2 night hiking adventure in the Roan Highlands area of the Appalachian Trail. Is 5 miles a day a reasonable goal? [more inside]
posted by orangemacky at 7:47 PM PST - 7 comments

Let's talk about grout baby

This January my goal is to deal with some small nagging house jobs to make my home more welcoming and cozy. First up is cleaning the grout in the tub. What is the best way you've found to clean grout around the bathtub? Think vertical surfaces. [more inside]
posted by five_cents at 7:15 PM PST - 10 comments

How do I help my spouse as we bid farewell to a beloved dog?

Our beloved dog has an aggressive and untreatable form of cancer, and will need to be put to sleep in the near future. This is likely to be the most emotionally devastating moment of my spouse's life, as she has never before lost a close friend, family member, or pet. How can I help? [more inside]
posted by whisk(e)y neat at 6:55 PM PST - 20 comments

This must have been asked before, mustn't it?

The use of the term "mustn't" seems really weird if you think about it, yet it is used regularly. How did this term come to be? What does it actually mean in literal terms? [more inside]
posted by deadwax at 6:52 PM PST - 10 comments

Why can't I see embedded social media posts?

A couple of weeks ago, I suddenly couldn't see Tweets embedded anywhere outside of Twitter. I can't see Instagram embeds or Facebook embeds. [more inside]
posted by Miss Cellania at 6:25 PM PST - 6 comments

How many calories is my fiddly Starbucks order?

I have a very fussy drink order and I can't figure out how many calories is in it. Current and former Starbucks barristas, can you help? [more inside]
posted by soren_lorensen at 5:34 PM PST - 6 comments

How to attach an under-desk CPU to a hollow IKEA desk?

I have a new IKEA desk. Due to Reasons, I decided to mount my large tower computer to the underside of the desk. Upon drilling the initial holes to mount the holder, I learned to my chagrin that the desk is hollow. Is there any salvaging this, or must I return the CPU holder and make other arrangements for my computer? [more inside]
posted by ZeroDivides at 5:07 PM PST - 15 comments

What happens when an air handler and heatpump are mismatched?

The heatpump that came with our house failed and the home warranty company replaced it, but I think the heatpump and air handler are mismatched. What could happen? [more inside]
posted by Thorzdad at 5:07 PM PST - 7 comments

Help choose a sewing machine for this construction gal

I'm an absolute beginner sewist. Should I sell my mom's old Viking/Husqvarna Freesia 415 with its digital displays and opt for a sturdy mechanical machine? How do I go about picking a good all-purpose sewing machine that I can both learn on and grow with as my skills improve? [more inside]
posted by cnidaria at 4:52 PM PST - 15 comments

A few questions about "the blockchain"

"The blockchain" is getting bounced around at my work a bit as a solution for a problem we don't actually have. I personally don't understand it and am looking for some assistance. [more inside]
posted by turbid dahlia at 4:39 PM PST - 14 comments

Women's style icons and inspiration for women who wear pants/trousers

I want to revamp my wardrobe, and I'm looking for women's fashion inspiration and icons. However, I'm not into dresses and skirts. What's out there for a woman who prefers pants/trousers? Who's got that style? [more inside]
posted by cadge at 4:28 PM PST - 14 comments

Savory baking

I really like baking savoury things... But there's a limit to the number of biscuits and (herb-y) scones I can make. Do you have any recommendations for any (vegetarian) savoury baked goods that aren't biscuits or scones? (I just started trying bread...)
posted by flibbertigibbet at 4:24 PM PST - 26 comments

Away mode for Wink 2 Hub?

I want to set up an "away mode" for my Wink 2 Hub, so that it will do a number of actions when neither my nor my partner's phones are on our home wifi network (router is an Apple Airport Extreme, if it matters, and one phone is on iOS while the other is Android). Crucially, it needs to run only when *both* phones are offline, not just one or the other. I haven't been able to figure out how to do this using the Wink app or IFTTT. Any ideas?
posted by karbonokapi at 4:04 PM PST - 4 comments

Where should I spend my time off?

I can will be taking 4-6 weeks of vacation at some point this year, tentatively scheduled for spring however I don't know where to go.... [more inside]
posted by Cosine at 3:58 PM PST - 20 comments

anti-blueberry or pro-cranberry conspiracy theories please

This is kind of random, but does anyone know of any pro-cranberry or anti-blueberry conspiracy theories (preferably posted on clearly disreputable web sites or blogs)? Preferably not both together. [more inside]
posted by eviemath at 1:42 PM PST - 15 comments

Difference between albuterol manufacturers, defective inhaler, or other?

I have two albuterol inhalers. They seem to work differently. Please help me figure out what the issue is. [more inside]
posted by mudpuppie at 1:34 PM PST - 11 comments

Moving in a new place, finally, after 6 years.

I'm finally moving to a new place (across town, so still local) after living for 6 years at the same, somewhat toxic place... and I'm scared out of my mind. [more inside]
posted by dubious_dude at 1:05 PM PST - 37 comments

Piano Tutor apps for iPad that support USB/MIDI Keyboards?

I've been meaning to learn keyboard for ages. I have a 49 Key USB MIDI Keyboard, and it works in various music apps and GarageBand if I plug it into my iPad via the Lightning to USB A adapter in the Camera Connection Kit. Are there any piano lesson apps for iPad that also support MIDI keyboards over USB?
posted by SansPoint at 11:08 AM PST - 2 comments

Mis-dated cover letter

Feeling very foolish about this. I emailed a resume and cover letter Friday. I used an old letter as a template and forgot to change the date. Should I email a correction to show that I do at least correct errors?
posted by Mom at 10:55 AM PST - 15 comments

How did this cell phone wrong number happen?

Help me figure out this bizarre puzzle: how did my cell phone with an area code thousands of miles away from where I'm currently visiting receive a wrong number call from the exact area I'm visiting? (Details within.) [more inside]
posted by bluecore at 10:42 AM PST - 12 comments

STEM nonfiction by Black, Latinx, Native authors

Just what it says in the title. I’m looking for good science writing or mathematical books by Black, Latinx, and Native/Indigenous authors. Any topic fine— popular science/math preferred but not required, so if you’ve got some super technical dissertation that’s just the best, hit me!
posted by peppercorn at 10:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Avoiding unnecessary tests at the vet

I strongly suspect my cat has asthma from watching videos and other research. (Not my cat, but same symptoms.) I am taking him to the vet today and it is crucial for me to keep costs low, but of course I still want to do right by my cat. [more inside]
posted by AFABulous at 10:32 AM PST - 26 comments

Help me plan a belated office holiday party

My workplace has a holiday party each January. I've been tasked with planning a holiday party to be held this month. Please help me think of ideas, given certain constraints. [more inside]
posted by cheapskatebay at 10:04 AM PST - 12 comments

Raindrops animation for meditation?

Last night, a friend told me to log on to Pokemon Go (yes, it's still on my phone but I haven't played in a while). Since it's raining where I am in real life, it's raining in the game... and it's beautiful! I just sat and watched it for a while, caught a Wurmple, and felt so much calmer about the world around me. However, when the rain stops here, the rain is going to stop in the game. I could really use an app that has a similar visual quality. Any ideas? [more inside]
posted by queensissy at 10:01 AM PST - 6 comments

How to log and track maintenance for a medium-sized apartment complex

I’m involved with a small organization that wants to upgrade the way it handles and logs maintenance requests for an apartment building it manages. As I understand it, they’re looking for a series of integrated tools (or, ideally, one tool that does all these things): record-keeping for maintenance tasks; a project management system that staff and volunteers can use to assign and keep track of one-off and recurring tasks and subtasks; and a way for members to submit maintenance requests and have them logged. Is Asana the answer to this? Is something else? Hope me! [more inside]
posted by tapir-whorf at 9:49 AM PST - 3 comments

What are the limits on inter-state agreements?

Does Article 1, Section 10 bar a subset of the states from forming a federation intermediate between the states themselves and the U.S. as a whole? Does it rule out, for example, California, Oregon, and Washington organizing a new super-state, electing representatives to that super-state, and agreeing to various rules within the super-state, such as being bound by any super-state legislation? [more inside]
posted by Jonathan Livengood at 9:10 AM PST - 4 comments

Break our hearts now, later or something else?

Dear Mefites, I apologise in advance for the length of this post but if anybody has time to read through and offer some insight I would really appreciate some objective perspective. [more inside]
posted by kudra23 at 8:47 AM PST - 24 comments

Science discussion topics (with experiments?) for a 5 year old?

I've been having discussions with my 5 year old about science and he loves it. What are some basic topics I can discuss with him, with simple 'experiments' to go along with them? [more inside]
posted by evadery at 8:45 AM PST - 26 comments

Tell me about New Orleans and the Bahamas in March

Spending 3 days in New Orleans and 9 days in the Bahamas in the last two weeks of March. Where to stay and what to do? [more inside]
posted by mireille at 8:38 AM PST - 6 comments

First European Trip with Preschooler

My wife and I intend to take our daughter on her first European vacation this year when she will be four. She’s been on a plane, but we haven’t tried time zones. Daughter likes the idea of London to visit Mary Poppins and Portobello Road (Bedknobs and Broomsticks) or Paris to see Madeline and Monsieur Hulot. Mom and dad are thinking the Netherlands because Amsterdam is fun and manageable, with side trips to see Madurodam and some friends in Rotterdam. Can you recommend other European destinations that are entertaining for parents and four year olds alike? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 8:09 AM PST - 10 comments

Board games for girls created by women

A friend of mine is planning to run an afterschool program for girls at a local library and specifically would like suggestions of board games for girls that are for, about, and by women. What have people played and liked that fit that category?
posted by Karmakaze at 8:02 AM PST - 15 comments

Need a replacement for Gothamist

There's a Gothamist-shaped hole in my life. Help! Looking for a similar NYC-oriented site that blends local news, upcoming events, and cultural commentary. Bonus points for a sense of humor and generally anti-establishment, progressive attitude.
posted by panama joe at 7:55 AM PST - 4 comments

It's all been done?

What is an appropriate amount of due diligence when exploring a creative project, i.e. how much is an artist expected to research existing work so that they're not plagiarizing an idea? And how does one keep from getting bogged down in that process? [more inside]
posted by witchen at 7:29 AM PST - 9 comments

How To Mentally Keep Work at Work

I struggle with not mentally taking work home with me. I'm particularly interested in advice from others in "helping professions". [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 5:52 AM PST - 13 comments

How to be a 44 year old white rapper

After many drinks on New Years, my wife and her hater friends bet me $10 that I couldn't make a legitimate rap video. I am taking this bet very seriously. I don't need help creating the song or the video. What I need help with is making it go viral and making me at least $10 dollars. [more inside]
posted by jasondigitized at 5:46 AM PST - 30 comments

Hope me rejig my webhosting requirements like I am five

I'm thinking about rejigging my current hosting situation but I feel like so much has changed since I did this on the regular, that I don't even know where to begin. [more inside]
posted by halcyonday at 2:58 AM PST - 3 comments

How to share good news with friend who also wanted this news?

I have been chosen for a dreamy work position that was not announced or advertised in any way. In fact it is still a secret, although the person who chose me is planning to announce this news in the next few days. I was chosen for purely subjective reasons over one other person who could fill this role, who I think is smarter and more capable than me and probably more deserving. I consider this person to be a good friend and we have gone through a lot together, but I have seen them express resentment towards other people in similar situations where they got a position that this person would've wanted. I know that this person would jump at the chance for this position and I feel guilty that it was handed to me in this way. I need to tell this friend before everyone else finds out, but am struggling with how. Any advice or help with a plan/script would be greatly appreciated. Thank you!
posted by anonymous at 12:45 AM PST - 16 comments

how to sell this domain name?

I own, and have owned for nearly 20 years(!), a .com domain name that's the generic name of a very popular and common manufactured food, similiar to rolledoats.com or tomatosoup.com. I'd like to sell it for as much as possible. How? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 12:45 AM PST - 3 comments

January 8

Good bands bad shows

There are many touring musical artists who put on a great live show, to the point where even non-fans are urged to go see them live if they have the chance - I've heard this said about Springsteen and Daft Punk, for instance. Are there examples of the inverse, i.e. artists who have a fair amount of commercial success and/or well-regarded studio output where the consensus (or at least an obvious minority opinion) is "eh, don't bother" or even "don't do it, it'll ruin their music for you"? [more inside]
posted by btfreek at 11:44 PM PST - 72 comments

Recommendation for LA based therapist

Can anyone suggest a therapist or program in the Los Angeles area specializing in helping gay individuals overcome self worth issues stemming from a religious upbringing and lack of parental acceptance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 10:04 PM PST - 1 comment

Make my DVD/Blu-Ray into a kiosk display – STAT.

Helping a friend on a project, and he's produced a simple BR video/disc image for a museum that they want in a very simple interactive display. He has a Windows 10 PC with a touchscreen display to use. We just want to load the disc image, allow users to interact with the buttons to move between screens/play video, and keep them from doing anything else. We're both Mac guys, and my Google-fu is epically failing me. Plus, we need it, like, ASAFFFP. More below the fold. [more inside]
posted by liquado at 8:37 PM PST - 5 comments

My Brilliant Vacation

I would love personal recommendations about relatively inexpensive but not grungy places to stay (from towns to actual lodgings) in the Amalfi coast this summer. Travelers are a mother/daughter pair (middle aged/teen) who do not want to drive. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 8:13 PM PST - 5 comments

The highs & lows of the Postmates courier side hustle, your experiences?

I have a full-time day job that is extremely flexible and work a lot from home. I also have a mortgage that I am on track to pay off real quick here at the rate I am going. I've been picking up extra work through care.com. I'd like to expand my #sidehustle empire. What are the Hivemind's tips, tricks, personal anecdotes, and, if applicable, what you wish you had known before becoming a Postmates courier. [more inside]
posted by timpanogos at 8:11 PM PST - 2 comments

How can I improve my academic writing style?

I'm just starting my second semester of grad school and I'd like to improve my academic writing. Are there any good style-guides, websites, or other resources I should be checking out? [more inside]
posted by modesty.blaise at 7:00 PM PST - 14 comments

Can you explain this strange Chinese movie technique?

Recently I've watched Jackie Chan's 1985 Police Story and a 2017 Chinese movie called Free and Easy. Both movies employ a strange technique in which several seconds of a scene repeat or loop. This goes on constantly throughout the movie. It's really annoying. Maybe this is a well-know technique, and it's obviously not new, but I don't think I've seen this before. Can someone explain this - and why anyone ever thought it was a good idea?
posted by Jackson at 6:54 PM PST - 7 comments

But it was so cheap and I was vulnerable!

How to get a Windows XP EEE PC working in 2018? [more inside]
posted by taff at 6:42 PM PST - 12 comments

Where are the cool kids journaling these days?

Just what it says on the tin... looking for a no muss no fuss online journaling platform where I can keep the entries completely private. The less identity verification needed, the better. I used to use LiveJournal and even Open Diary, way back in the dark ages. Is LiveJournal still a thing or is there something better now?
posted by madonna of the unloved at 6:34 PM PST - 14 comments

Snow Hooning

There is a Audi commercial currently playing on some advertising screens at YVR. It features a woman driving a red Audi in a snowy mountain/ski village engaging in a rash of anti social behaviour. Can anyone point me to an online source?
posted by Mitheral at 4:48 PM PST - 1 comment

Flat Greece?

My mom is not a very adventurous traveler but will be heading to Greece for a work trip in the spring. What is a side trip she can do from Athens that will give her the flavor of Greece without being too cumbersome of a trip? [more inside]
posted by something_witty at 4:34 PM PST - 6 comments

Apple Pay Cash protections?

I am looking to buy some tickets on Craigslist, and the seller is proposing Apple Pay Cash. Are there any protections? [more inside]
posted by wnissen at 3:46 PM PST - 3 comments

What's it like living in Topeka, Kansas?

Hi, I'm considering a job in Topeka, which I have never visited and know nothing about other than a few google searches. Is it a good place to live for a couple of years for a family of four? [more inside]
posted by skewed at 2:51 PM PST - 11 comments

iPod mini 2nd generation battery replacement

Who still replaces batteries for an iPod mini 2nd generation? I've basically had one since they were first cool and popular, and now I just like having the unitask iPod to keep myself off the cellphone. But now I need to replace the batteries on a couple of them. Does anyone still offer this service for a somewhat reasonable price? I know they're up there in years now.... but I'd like to get a few more years out of them.
posted by answergrape at 2:37 PM PST - 9 comments

Macro Social Work in Philadelphia region, No Luck for the past 6 mo

My friend recently moved over from Baltimore to Philadelphia for personal reasons. In Baltimore she worked at Social Work organization co-coordinating federal grant money to 12 partners providing refugee services around the US. Her job related to training,performance of each partners and organizing conferences for these partners. Now that she has moved to Philadelphia, she has been applying to multiple jobs over the past 6 months. There have been only about 2 interviews and almost no response from the non-profit sector jobs she has applied to. My question is whether this is related to the overall nonprofit sector hurting due to the current political climate or as simple as resume not tailored to ATS systems. [more inside]
posted by radsqd at 2:17 PM PST - 4 comments

Help wanted: failing towel racks!

I have two towel racks in my bathroom that were there when I bought my condo. They are beginning to fall away from the wall. One of them is perilously close to falling into the toilet. Please help! [more inside]
posted by ubiquity at 2:00 PM PST - 14 comments

Online dating, I ask him for coffee, he agrees, then brings up psychosis

I am in a moral quandary about a chap that I've exchanged a couple of messages with on OkCupid. He messaged first, I asked him if he fancied grabbing a coffee but didn't hear back for weeks so wrote him off. He finally replied, citing being "a mess" for the delay, asked me out. I replied, suggesting to meet next week, asked what "a mess" meant. He just came back to say that "a mess" = psychosis. My already low interest levels have plummeted. How can I back out as gently as possible? [more inside]
posted by doornoise at 1:58 PM PST - 40 comments

What do experts think of the future of driverless cars? Any surveys?

I'm looking for information on opinions among "experts" on the future of driverless/self-driving/autonomous cars. Do most experts agree we'll have some version of them soon? Is there a lot of disagreement? [more inside]
posted by ManInSuit at 12:57 PM PST - 8 comments

Should I try to contact my ex-best friend again?

One and a half year ago I tried to reconnect with my childhood ex-best friend. She doesn't have social media so I sent her a letter to her house one and a half year ago, and I didn't get a reply. [more inside]
posted by DaphneG at 12:53 PM PST - 10 comments

Grab list of Amazon Prime video URLs?

Is there a quick way to grab all the Prime video URLs of a media property with the property's associated text title? [more inside]
posted by mwhybark at 12:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Two browsers talking to each other via a webserver on the internet?

Is there a JS/PHP library for a situation where two clients can talk to each other via a web server? [more inside]
posted by ostranenie at 11:57 AM PST - 8 comments

Busking sound system questions

About a year ago I got a cigar box amp for busking. I also recently acquired a Shure 55S mic at a yard sale, and I'd like to use this for busking. Because I'm getting a very low signal with the mic, amp, and an impedence transformer, and I'd like to do something to make the sound a little louder. I'd looked into a preamp--which does boost the signal--but I would need a battery-powered preamp and have only found preamps that require external power. [more inside]
posted by pxe2000 at 11:43 AM PST - 6 comments

Where should we live, 2018 edition with imaginary snowflakes

My partner and I, currently living in the Bay Area, are trying to decide where we want to move to in 1-3 years, to live for the long term. Where should we consider living? [more inside]
posted by serelliya at 11:22 AM PST - 35 comments

Finding a data/tech/information job with my current skill set?

I've been job searching for 6 months (Eugene, OR) with no luck. I've been marketing myself as an admin person with data skills and starting to think I should be doing the opposite. Help? How do I find data jobs with some admin flavor and that don't require super specialized skills? [more inside]
posted by nakedmolerats at 11:09 AM PST - 6 comments

Romantic getaway near the Twin Cities?

Please suggest a nice place within 2 hours of Minneapolis where the Phlegmatic Queen and I could go for a brief weekend getaway. Bonus points for a hot tub, double bonus points if said hot tub is outdoors. [more inside]
posted by the phlegmatic king at 10:50 AM PST - 9 comments

Identify this bird

I visited the Masai Mara National Game Preserve in Kenya last year, and spotted this beautiful bird in a tree. Can you tell me what kind of bird it is?
posted by rdauphin at 10:49 AM PST - 3 comments

Finding Nonprofit Consulting Work in NYC?

I wrote this question about raising rates in NYC based on my communications experience several months ago. Can you give me some advice on finding some City-based consulting? [more inside]
posted by Violet Blue at 10:46 AM PST - 2 comments

Give Me Your Green Soups!

I don't like the sugar in smoothies, but I still want to drink my greens. Give me your favorite soups with lots of leafy greens. Bonus points for lower carb. Double bonus points if I can drink it instead of needing a spoon (purees, cream of x, etc).
posted by leotrotsky at 10:14 AM PST - 21 comments

Crudités and oral allergy syndrome

If you have oral allergy syndrome, what do you like to eat for snacks and salads? [more inside]
posted by The corpse in the library at 10:03 AM PST - 14 comments

Eradicate Bathroom Mildew!

The bathrooms in my townhouse have no windows and poor ventilation. It makes mildew an ongoing problem -- what's the best products, tips, and advice you all have for keeping the problem at bay? [more inside]
posted by PearlRose at 9:53 AM PST - 21 comments

Short sound bar suggestions

My parents have a TV in their room on a relatively narrow table. My brother and I want to get them a sound bar since the TV's speakers are terrible, but we need a small form factor. Does the MetaFilter hive mind have any experience in this area? Something the size of JBL's BOOST TV for instance (but not back ordered until forever)
posted by mkb at 9:07 AM PST - 4 comments

this goddamn month

What are some Whole30-friendly restaurants in NYC that don't require menu-hacking? [more inside]
posted by griphus at 8:54 AM PST - 10 comments

the long way means we forget

What is this poster I saw? [more inside]
posted by quadrilaterals at 8:41 AM PST - 3 comments

Did I screw up telling a sober friend that I use marijuana?

I have a relatively new friend who 20+ years sober and is also a therapist/counselor for others in recovery. In a casual conversation, he asked me whether I had ever smoked pot and I said, "Yes, and I still do." (It's legal where we are.) I didn't want to be dishonest with him, but now I'm worried that I jeopardized our friendship. I'm a recovering alcoholic myself, so I respect his sobriety and wouldn't want to threaten it in any way. Do you think I screwed up?
posted by MetaFilter World Peace at 8:31 AM PST - 20 comments

Partner having mid-life crisis, should we end our 11+ year LTR?

He 'will always love me no matter what happens' but doesn't think he knows what love is, whether he's capable of it, whether we should still be together. Wishes he could set the reset button on his life and start a new iteration. Suddenly has a deep longing for children and family. Developed a crush on a younger hairdresser and felt tortured about it (though it was basically just a fantasy). I love him and think we have a good thing and would like to work it out in therapy. But am I just hanging on to a dead love? Should we end it? [more inside]
posted by faraasha at 7:51 AM PST - 25 comments

"Hello? Hello?" -- Weirdest Telemarketing/Scam

So there's this number that calls me three or four times a week (usually before 9am) and leaves me voicemails saying just "Hello? ... Hello? ... Hello?" My phone flags the number as "Suspected Spam Caller" so I've never picked up, but what the hell is going on? [more inside]
posted by 256 at 6:27 AM PST - 13 comments

Making a To-Done list with technology

I want to make a to-done list with some tech help (e.g. a daily email), because i never remember to update paper journals but am online all the time. IDoneThis costs money & is for teams; i'm just one person. What's a free way to do this? [more inside]
posted by divabat at 5:19 AM PST - 12 comments

Does Netflix Hate Me?

Why does the movie "White Chicks" end up at the top of nearly every Netflix category for me? [more inside]
posted by Literaryhero at 4:25 AM PST - 11 comments

Rats and bad smell in cellar -- Please help (and hope) me

This is also a cat question, so if you know cats but not rats that's OK too. So many details below. [more inside]
posted by caoimhe at 1:24 AM PST - 19 comments

Recently graduated at 26 - feeling directionless and looking for advice

I graduated uni recently at age 26. I did well in school (summa cum laude) and got a seemingly applicable-to-many-things degree in Business Administration. Im trying to leave my current bartending job and dip my toes in the 9-5 lifestyle, away from the usual grind of the service industry, but I don’t know the best route to get started and haven’t gotten very pointed advice from friends or family. I also feel lost on what my passion is in general. Can anyone give this floundering 26 year-old some life advice? [more inside]
posted by dontevengetmestarted at 1:07 AM PST - 12 comments

January 7

Where to Read/Listen to uplifting content every morning.

I wake up at 5 am in the morning, and I am looking for podcasts or websites to read or listen to before i start my daily goals. I want something encouraging and motivating. It should not be too long. Because it would defeat my purpose. Thank you!
posted by Yiba at 9:45 PM PST - 7 comments

Queer friendly shooting ranges near the Twin Cities

Looking for either open public shooting ranges or safe and accepted shooting areas in the country near the Twin Cities in Minnesota that aren't terrible. [more inside]
posted by neonrev at 9:25 PM PST - 2 comments

books by researchers summarizing their work for the popular press?

I really liked Thinking, Fast and Slow and The Dictator's Handbook. I think I might in general enjoy reading books where academics summarize their own work for the popular press. What should I read next?
posted by d. z. wang at 9:02 PM PST - 7 comments

My car got severely damaged in an accident

Now what? Also looking for suggestions on best cars for under 10,000 dollars [more inside]
posted by Amy93 at 7:12 PM PST - 9 comments

Sociability v. privacy

I don't know if introducing myself would be awkward. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 6:52 PM PST - 16 comments

Cutesy use of "her" in place of "she"?

I'm curious about why some people use "her" instead of "she" in a cutesy, probably intentionally-playful manner. I've noticed at least three unrelated people doing this within the past year, in communication with a baby or puppy (but I don't believe it's a new thing). [more inside]
posted by Carouselle at 6:15 PM PST - 20 comments

I'm looking for some fun advice on planning a road trip!

My girlfriend and I were gong to go to Europe this summer, but can't afford the flight. I was thinking of a USA road trip this summer instead. We live in Austin, Texas. We have about $1,000 to $1,500 each. We want to be gone for 2 weeks. Some places we want to go, in no order, are Boulder, Colorado, Yellowstone, and the Grand Canyon. What are some other beautiful areas along this route? [more inside]
posted by ggp88 at 5:27 PM PST - 24 comments

Help me find this hat (or one like it)

I bought the brightly colored knit hat linked below at the Albuqurque Balloon Fiesta in 2013. It's my favorite hat, and I lost it. :-( Can you help me figure out what style it is and where I might get another one like it? I'm not planning a return trip to Albuqurque anytime soon. Here's a photo of the hat.
posted by timnyc at 5:27 PM PST - 6 comments

How to fix a purse lining

The lining of my purse has ripped, and is starting to make the purse non-functional. Every time I try to get anything out of or put anything into the purse, it gets worse, it has rendered the zippered pocket useless, and is generally annoying. Removing the lining entirely doesn't seem feasible; the interior of the purse behind the lining in this particular bag would make a very bad interior. This seems like a common thing that happens to all of my purses, and I can't figure out a good way to fix these flimsy fabrics in a way that will stay fixed. [more inside]
posted by peanut_mcgillicuty at 5:11 PM PST - 5 comments

Updating HOA bylaws for the new millennium

My HOA's bylaws exist as a scan of a typewritten document, and I have the chance to digitize and update it for the 21st century. [more inside]
posted by perihare at 4:08 PM PST - 6 comments

Selling a car, missing title edition

We bought a used car in 2005 when we lived in California. We now live in Seattle and want to sell the car. We can't find our title. What do we need to do to get a copy? [more inside]
posted by rouftop at 3:49 PM PST - 6 comments

Help me identify this J Crew Collection top coat

Please help me identify this J Crew Collection women's top coat. I am trying to find out the style name and/or year of this J Crew Collection top coat and my google image skills are failing me. It's a double-breasted 3/4 length sleeve (bracelet sleeve) women's dress jacket. Any help would be appreciated, thanks.
posted by Ike_Arumba at 3:25 PM PST - 3 comments

Mushroom hood?

I'm trying to identify a coat I saw on the street in Portland. It was gray wool with a large, very tactile herringbone pattern, cut in a loose a-line. The most striking thing about it was the hood lining, which was red felted wool with raised white nubs in it -- like an Amanita muscaria mushroom. [more inside]
posted by thesmallmachine at 2:30 PM PST - 3 comments

Deciding is the most work

I have a really hard time making decisions when there are a lot of options. Please help me hack this persistent mind-spiral. [more inside]
posted by pseudostrabismus at 2:16 PM PST - 14 comments

Should I shell out for the Care.com background check for my side hustle?

I set up a profile last night with Care.com for meal planning, personal cooking, dog walking, etc, for my side hustle and it says that people who do their background check service are "4x more likely" to get profile views and job offers. Of course this is their marketing so I wanted to turn to you all. It costs $59.99 USD. Is the background check worth it?? What is your experience? [more inside]
posted by rabu at 12:41 PM PST - 6 comments

Ball direction and camera angles during NFL broadcasts

Is there any rhyme/reason to the ball direction shown during NFL tv broadcasts, or is it strictly about what cameras are available in a given stadium (and/or which angles an editor chooses to use)? [more inside]
posted by unknowncommand at 12:09 PM PST - 8 comments

Please help me replicate curry meal kits

After a half decade of using jars of curry sauce, I discovered Marion's Kitchen curry meal kits - essentially a spice packet, a marinade, and a sauce pack. Similar to Blue Apron but you buy your own meat/veg. Unfortunately, my local grocer no longer stocks them. I have the bulk spices on hand; is there an easy substitute for the marinades and sauce packs for her different recipes? [more inside]
posted by rebent at 11:37 AM PST - 6 comments

Care package for touring singer

I'm dating a professional singer who's about to go on a long tour, and I'd like to make a small tour care package for her. I already have Thayer's lozenges and a book- other general ideas from touring singers would be really helpful! She mentioned some sort of herbal remedy that singers use for vocal chord health that has, I think, a tiger as part of the brand, so leads on that in particular would be welcomed.
posted by deus ex machina at 11:18 AM PST - 14 comments

Do you stop bringing your kids over when a couple has marriage trouble?

Parents out there, when you know friends are going through rough times in their relationships, do you deliberately leave the kids and/or spouse at home when you visit? If so, can you help me understand why? I'm trying to figure out whether this is actually a thing or just a thing that's entirely in my head. [more inside]
posted by o_O at 9:39 AM PST - 20 comments

Authentic small town between Porto and Lisbon Portugal

Family trip to Portugal this year. Help us find the perfect spot for a one night stop between Porto and Lisbon! [more inside]
posted by quantum at 8:26 AM PST - 10 comments

Indo-Iranian Religion

Are there any texts written by pre-zoroastrian Iranians (or however you want to label the ancient culture of the time? Or if not, what are the best reading materials detailing most specifically the religious landscape of the area where Zoroaster lived before his time? [more inside]
posted by xarnop at 7:33 AM PST - 7 comments

Dressmaking/garment fabric sources/brick & morter, please

I did an ask mefi search, and the responses were out of date and centered around NYC. Sigh. Anyone know of any actual walk in stores that offer a decent amount of clothing fabric? I live in North Central Ohio. [more inside]
posted by LaBellaStella at 6:19 AM PST - 7 comments

Non-memory foam mattress

Mattresses in the U.S. are hard to transport, expensive, and complicated. In Costa Rica, I slept nicely on a block of foam - the yellow stuff that is light, firm but not rigid, and not viscoelastic. Polyurethane? Where can I get a block of this, to use with one of these? What are the potential downsides? I assume there's a reason why other mattress styles are more common.
posted by gray17 at 5:45 AM PST - 18 comments

Would need to exactly happen for a bedbug to transmit a superbacteria?

This is a really gross hypothetical so I'm just going to put a TW BEDBUGS DISEASE here [more inside]
posted by angrycat at 2:15 AM PST - 8 comments

Address bar problems with Firefox on Android phone

What happened to my address bar in Firefox on my Android phone? [more inside]
posted by dazed_one at 12:36 AM PST - 2 comments

January 6

The ladies choice

How do I choose bridesmaids when I have MANY women who are extremely important to me from different stages of my life? [more inside]
posted by raccoon409 at 7:09 PM PST - 26 comments

Fiction about humans and giants?

I'm looking for fiction that explores what a human in a land of giants would be like. Do you know of any fiction that deals with this interaction? The trope of giant stairs that are hard to climb is an example - what are other interesting or thoughtful examples of ways that a human would have to interact with giants that are explored in fiction?
posted by and_ham at 6:56 PM PST - 18 comments

Dating disaster…. I need some advice….

The year 2017 was a very bad year for me in terms of dating. Let me give you some context… I currently live in a country that is not mine. I came here because of a job opportunity that was too good to reject. Things are good here but my dating life is a disaster. I feel that I have chosen the wrong men, that I have rejected the right men… I have been hurt by many men and I have surely hurt some men as well. [more inside]
posted by Fromthesouth at 6:12 PM PST - 23 comments

Boat trip, printable map track edition?

So I just got off of a cruise on a major cruiseline. Found a site that lets me show where it went, based on actual nautical data, but only based on the last 24 hours of data. Is there one that will show me more? [more inside]
posted by tilde at 5:59 PM PST - 3 comments

What weather station do I want?

I want a weather-station of some sort but I have no idea where to start. This question has been asked before back in 2016 and many of the ones listed are no longer available. Given my requirements (inside) what weather station gadget do I need? [more inside]
posted by ninazer0 at 5:13 PM PST - 2 comments

Why do US shoe companies skip women's 10.5?

I'm able with the help of the internet these days to find enough shoes that I'm not going shoeless or anything, but it's come up several times recently and I can't seem to find the answer: Why do companies that even make women's size 11 shoes skip 10.5? [more inside]
posted by Sequence at 5:07 PM PST - 16 comments

How long does our new fridge need to settle for?

Our new fridge arrived today. When we bought it, the salesperson told us to let it sit for 24 hours before plugging it in due to the extreme cold (around -20 celsius) we have been experiencing, to let it get back up to a normal temperature. However, the delivery person told us to let it sit for just 2 hours. We'd like to put some things in the fridge, but we don't want to mess up our new fridge or anything. Is the salesperson's advice excessive, or the delivery person's advice not cautious enough?
posted by synecdoche at 4:48 PM PST - 9 comments

Need help finding a kitchen island/prep table that meets our needs

This is probably the dumbest question I’ve asked on here and super first world problems caveat, but here goes. My husband and I moved into a new apartment and there’s basically zero counter space. However, there’s room for a huge kitchen island/table. We are having trouble finding something big enough that isn’t thousands of dollars (and we tend to hate how those expensive ones look anyway). Add’l details below. Thanks in advance. [more inside]
posted by FireFountain at 3:58 PM PST - 15 comments

How can a mixed race baby have blue eyes?

If a mixed race child has blue eyes in infancy, does that mean both parents must absolutely have the blue eye gene? (One parent is full Asian.) [more inside]
posted by branparsons at 3:35 PM PST - 11 comments

Gift for beloved coworker

For the last 3 years I have worked extremely closely with someone. We basically started our project together, shared a small office, moved offices like 5 times, changed bosses, all the while doing very emotionally intense work together. I am leaving my job and would like to give her a gift. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 3:03 PM PST - 18 comments

Fiction Centered on Roma and Traveller Communities

I recently read Bury Me Standing by Isabel Fonseca and The Invisible Ones by Steph Penny. My interest is piqued and I’m looking for recommendations for more fiction or highly readable non-fiction that focuses on Roma/Sinti/Travellers. I’m looking for books that are a good read, don’t overtly romanticize or stereotype, and are written by someone knowledgeable about or a member of these community. Thanks!
posted by jeszac at 2:08 PM PST - 4 comments

Should I open a new bank account?

I moved recently and am only now discovering that banking is mildly inconvenient with my old bank in my new location. [more inside]
posted by postmillenial at 2:02 PM PST - 14 comments

Should I do an internship if I already have work experience?

Should I do an internship if I already have work experience? [more inside]
posted by Mountain28 at 12:24 PM PST - 10 comments

Moving away from the terms good and bad food during weight loss

I've been trying to lose some unwanted weight that has had bad physical and mental effects on me, with the help of a nutritionist. She tells me that treats are healthy in moderation. For example I can have one small thing a day. My problem is I can't stop thinking about treats and carby stuff as "bad" because they could potentially affect my weight loss progress. Likewise, I see things like veggies as good. That seems like a harmful mindset. Any suggestions on moving away from this good/bad dichotomy? [more inside]
posted by starlybri at 11:29 AM PST - 25 comments

Where can I buy British-style sausages in the US?

My husband is British. We live in the States. He really misses sausages. I would love to be able to buy some for him. Can anyone help? [more inside]
posted by cpatterson at 11:17 AM PST - 22 comments

Venice travelcards - 3 days or 72 hours?

Venice transportation options have me absolutely confused. The ACTV fares page and most tourist sites say the travelcards / time limited tickets are valid for 1, 2 or 3 days. The same ACTV's vaporetto page says 24, 48 or 72 hours. Can anyone who used them confirm which of those is correct? [more inside]
posted by I claim sanctuary at 10:59 AM PST - 6 comments

Best VPN to use overseas?

Traveling in Asia for a bit and would like to access Hulu/Netflix/Amazon video on my MacBook laptop whole I'm there. What VPN would be best for this? Easier configuration is better but I am capable of some command line stuff if necessary.
posted by rednikki at 10:45 AM PST - 9 comments

Connecting MIDI Keyboard to iPad

I am trying to connect an M-Audio KeyStudio MIDI keyboard to a 2017 iPad with the lightening connector. I tried it using the Apple Lightening to USB Camera Adapter, however I got an error message saying that the keyboard was drawing too much power. I am guessing that I need some kind of device that goes between the keyboard and the iPad, like an iRig device, but I am not sure what to get. [more inside]
posted by 4ster at 10:35 AM PST - 9 comments

Baseboard on a tile wall?

We're about to tile a bathroom wall behind the sink and toilet. We just put vinyl tile on the floor with a 1/8 - 3/8 inch gap against the walls. (The walls aren't totally straight, so the gap varies.) Is it best to tile the wall all the way to the floor, then use adhesive to stick baseboard to the wall tile? Or use cove tile at the bottom, then just caulk the gap? The cove tile that matches the wall tile isn't deep enough to cover the gap between the wall and the floor tile when that gap is at its widest. I've looked around DIY sites and Youtube, but opinions vary.
posted by samw at 10:26 AM PST - 6 comments

Something's noisy in the bathroom

Anyone know of any products that are like a fan that could have power run through it but won't actually operate until it's triggered by a remote control or something? Maybe an electrical switch I could put in the ceiling with the fan that could provide a simple on/off switch? Keep in mind, if the fan doesn't go on, the lights (downstream wired) would still need to go on though. [more inside]
posted by zero point zero at 9:26 AM PST - 7 comments

French Neofeminism

Neofeminism, specifically in France? Looking to understand it mostly in the context of how well I might mesh with self-identified neofeminists (in France, with English as our working language). Googling isn't getting me far: wikipedia entry feels oversimplified & ideas elsewhere feel contradictory (it's variously labeled as progressive, third-wave, sex-positive, essentialist, "lipstick feminism," and focused on 'femininity') and most importantly I feel the U.S. understanding may be different than the French one. Directly asking the folks in question is my best bet – I'm seeking insight/context and vocabulary to inform that asking.
posted by kalapierson at 9:05 AM PST - 3 comments

Can I safely shrink a denim sherpa jacket?

Just got this jacket. My true size was too tight in the arms so I sized up, and now it's a little bit too big all over. (Damnit, Levi's sizing.) I've been able to shrink denim jackets in the wash before, but this one is sherpa-lined. Washing instructions say to wash cold and lay flat to dry. Is it possible to safely shrink this without messing it up?
posted by blackcatcuriouser at 8:20 AM PST - 3 comments

Sleep apnea diagnosis $$

Recently diagnosed with sleep apnea but need further testing - can't help but wonder if the hospital is being inefficient - requiring multiple visits - to save $$. [more inside]
posted by bunderful at 8:08 AM PST - 22 comments

Holiday expectations & moving in together - help me calibrate?

I am moving back to my home country after an LDR period because I have chosen my relationship over continuing to work in Spain. But neither of us are very experienced in a relationship growing this serious. How do we do this right?! [more inside]
posted by Willow251 at 6:43 AM PST - 12 comments

French Citizenship application - final interview experiences?

Le Brexit gave me the necessary kick, so after over 10 years living as a Brit in France I'm now in the final stages of my application for French naturalisation "par decrét". [more inside]
posted by protorp at 4:58 AM PST - 5 comments

(commissioning?) How can I acquire the perfect winter hat for cold ears?

I *think* my ideal hat covers my ears, is made of wool, and is lined with pure silk so the wool never touches any part of my face during wear. (I try to avoid artificial fibres.) It's also at least vaguely appropriately stylish (somehow). I don't have the skill (or current flexibility to learn the skill) to make such a thing myself, and haven't seen one in shops. Where could I go to commission such a thing? (I'm in the UK.) [more inside]
posted by tangerine_poppies at 1:39 AM PST - 12 comments

How much notice to give for an academic position?

I am a mid-level academic administrator that just accepted another mid-level position in the same institution. I have a cordial, but not close, relationship with my current supervisor, who is well-regarded and fairly influential. When I provided my resignation, I offered three weeks notice. However, my current supervisor strongly hinted that four weeks would be "more standard" given my position. I can't help but think this was a thinly veiled suggestion that I would leave a better impression if I stayed on board another week. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:05 AM PST - 10 comments

Tenant - Owner Tension in Union City NJ

The owner whom I am renting from has threatened "formal action". After reading the details below, I would like to know what how I should respond to his/her most recent complaint, range of actions s/he can take, and whether or not I need a lawyer to protects my rights as a tenant. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:05 AM PST - 16 comments

Need to change the co-parenting schedule for 7 & 13yo, but to what?

I'm looking for examples and opinions of co-parenting schedules, especially the pros/cons and effects on your kids. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:05 AM PST - 6 comments

Deliberate manipulation, Hanlon's Razor, or a trick of the mind?

I seem to have stumbled upon an anomaly, and I was wondering if this phenomenon is shared by others. [more inside]
posted by Christ, what an asshole at 12:26 AM PST - 9 comments

January 5

Suggestions to deal with Osteoarthritis

I’ve been diagnosed with Osteoarthritis in my left hip. I need help with treatment suggestions including if others have used running to strengthen the hip. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Kerborus at 10:00 PM PST - 6 comments

Tomorrow by the Golden Gate?

I just discovered that although I am currently in Davis, CA, I could very easily spend tomorrow in San Francisco! What shall I do? [more inside]
posted by PussKillian at 7:59 PM PST - 7 comments

Need yoga video (youtube or similar) suggestions!

I enjoy yoga, but I'm DEFINITELY not into shelling out $25/hr so I can sweat and stretch with other people in brightly colored leggings. I'd rather do it alone, in my room, like the fiscally responsible anti-social gnome that I am. I've been doing the same intermediate vinyasa routine from a youtube video for a while now and I'm looking for something on the quicker/more aerobic side. [more inside]
posted by leafmealone at 7:57 PM PST - 14 comments

Should we mix a wedding registry and a charity donation?

My fiancee and I are getting married this coming May. We've been working on our registry and we've come to a disagreement about how to have a registry and also suggest a couple of charities that people can donate to if they don't want to purchase anything that we've registered before. One of us has suggested having a link to one charity each on our wedding website next to links to our registries. The other person thinks that it's strange to do both and that we should choose all donations or all registry. Thoughts?
posted by Fister Roboto at 5:29 PM PST - 18 comments

What is passive voice, and why is it so bad?

For years I have been told that I write with a lot of passive voice, but I have never really understood what this is and why it is so bad. Is this just a bunch of baloney, or is there something really wrong with using the passive voice that I do not appreciate? Assuming that I really should stop using the passive voice, how do I learn to avoid it? What worked for you?
posted by mortaddams at 5:15 PM PST - 36 comments

Lost everything in a fire, Part III

First I thought about this, then I thought about that. We lost everything in the Tubbs Fire in Northern California this past October, and I am in trouble. [more inside]
posted by Gusaroo at 3:18 PM PST - 9 comments

professional conference ditch 'em

Haven't spent a lot of time in the East and trying to muddle through commuter train schedules has got me a bit befuddled. [more inside]
posted by RockyChrysler at 3:15 PM PST - 12 comments

How to respond to a minor stupid aspect of the patriarchy?

Help my spouse and I respond constructively respond to the following situation: My spouse’s significantly younger sister (20) comes over for dinner, and brings along her (similarly aged) new boyfriend, who spouse and I are meeting for the first time. After chit chatting for a couple hours, new boyfriend says “I’m glad you and spouse got to meet me and see I’m the right kind of guy for your sister to be dating. And I want to let you know that I’ll do anything to protect her.” [more inside]
posted by Drosera at 3:03 PM PST - 45 comments

Is there any other geographic region like the Great Lakes region?

Is there any other geographic region like the Great Lakes area of western Michigan and eastern Wisconsin? [more inside]
posted by ragtimepiano at 2:48 PM PST - 10 comments

Should I Be Worried? - Legal advice for small business

I ran into a copyright lawyer a few days ago and was chatting with her, and she gave me some advice for my photography business and in the process caused me a bit of consternation. I'm not sure if I can trust her advice because it seemed suspiciously like the old 'give them something to worry about and then sell them something to fix the problem' tactic, and incidentally, if I follow her advice her company would make around $1,500. Should I act on this advice? [more inside]
posted by quiet_musings at 1:54 PM PST - 18 comments

How to watch cricket online in the U.S.?

Is there a way to stream the India vs South Africa test match online in the U.S.? The sites I'm finding are scaring McAffee and the Sony Ten 1 feed says it's 'not available in your geography'.
posted by pescadero at 12:35 PM PST - 5 comments

Book recommendation

If I liked Haruki Murakami, the Burke series and Science fiction (lately: Ready Player One) - what would you recommend I read next?
posted by lenehan at 12:15 PM PST - 6 comments

Therapy approaches for anxiety?

I'm hoping to find a therapist to help me address anxiety and some other stuff. I've been looking at the Psychology Today directory, and there are a lot of possible therapists who are covered by my insurance, who have a variety of approaches and methods. Can you suggest approaches that might best address my issues or keywords that I could look for to narrow down my list of possibilities? [more inside]
posted by ArbitraryAndCapricious at 12:11 PM PST - 8 comments

washing down coat

I have a Tremaya down coat from North Face, and the Dyryvent exterior is grimy. I'm going to follow the care tag (warm water, do not iron, tumble dry on low, do not dry clean, do not bleach), but any specific techniques or tricks or products I should be using? [more inside]
posted by joyceanmachine at 12:09 PM PST - 12 comments

Are these bedbugs?

Help me bugfilter, you’re my only hope. [more inside]
posted by moonlight on vermont at 11:42 AM PST - 7 comments

That one weird trick to bleed radiators that plumbers hate!

I have a toe-kick (under counter) radiator in my kitchen that was installed wrong--supply and return are reversed. It seems to be air locked, but the bleeder valve is on the flow line, so opening it up just results in water pouring out. I'll get it replumbed eventually, but do you have any ideas how to get the air out (short of using a saddle valve to poke a hole in the actual return)? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 10:54 AM PST - 2 comments

iOS 11 breaks journal app. How to retrieve entries?

I used a journal app called Stenosaur for a few years on iPhone. I had a passcode lock in the app. With the iOS 11 update on iPhone, when I open the app, the passcode screen shows up, but I can no longer enter the passcode, as the keyboard does not appear. How can I get my data out of the app? [more inside]
posted by icosahedron at 10:52 AM PST - 2 comments

We're not fighting honey, we're talking

Due to abuse in his past, my partner perceives any discussion about feelings, needs, or the relationship as an attack on him personally. Help me help him be less defensive and more open about his feelings. [more inside]
posted by puppet du sock at 10:40 AM PST - 37 comments

Firefox says "Your connection is not secure", but should I care?

If I'm not going to enter any information (that I know of) into a web page, is it safe to disregard the warning message? [more inside]
posted by polecat at 10:38 AM PST - 11 comments

Can I use my iPad to text?

Is there a way for me to set up my iPad so that I can fully text (SMS)? I currently use Ting and have a flip-phone. I have an iPad with 3G coverage. I use my iPad the way most people use their phone. The big problem is that people still text my phone and it is a real pain to reply. I would like to set things up so that all text messages would be sent to my iPad. I would even consider buying a new phone. [more inside]
posted by bove at 10:22 AM PST - 15 comments

How not to freak out

I was diagnosed with breast cancer a year ago. I'm finally getting back to feeling somewhat normal. My mammogram is next week. I'm starting to freak out. I have this horrible feeling in the pit of my stomach that this year will be the same as last year. Concrete ideas to help get through the next week would be wonderful. [more inside]
posted by kathrynm at 10:07 AM PST - 14 comments

Used family car recommendations

Looking for recommendations for a used family car. My old 2005 VW Jetta has died. We have a 2007 Toyota Prius and we like it very much and are strongly considering another one, but want to consider our options. Can you suggest other cars in the ballpark we should look at? [more inside]
posted by Reverend John at 10:00 AM PST - 4 comments

Bombogenesis Budget Tickets for Bears

Bruins filter: I'm in Boston for a conference and had tickets for last night's Bruins game as a gift for my (foreign, ice-hockey and Bruins-loving) boyfriend. The game was canceled and being as both of us live very far from Boston, we won't be able to use the tix they'll offer as compensation. We could make Saturday's game but the current ticket price is double our budget. Ticketmaster is no help (surprise!). Are we totally SOL or is there any way we could get to tomorrow's game?
posted by AthenaPolias at 9:57 AM PST - 4 comments

These boots are made for walking

I need to buy some winter boots that are comfortable for walking longish distances and I have no idea what kind to buy. I need help with recommendations. [more inside]
posted by daikon at 9:39 AM PST - 14 comments

Bye bye cupid

Is there an easy way to download an archive of all the conversations within an OKCupid profile prior to deleting it?
posted by pseudostrabismus at 9:39 AM PST - 1 comment

DakBoard Alternatives? Informational displays?

I have a dakboard account with information on it on a TV on the wall of my home office. evolving backgrounds, Time, Weather, Calendar, Forecast and headlines. The only thing I dislike about it is the lack of customization, but I'm tired of looking at the layout. [more inside]
posted by sandra_s at 9:23 AM PST - 2 comments

One mistake = death (or, problematic Outlook Calendaring)

Or, ghosts in the machine? Or, communicating well with my supervisor. I have an old and slowish computer at home. I needed to put up a Calendar invite while on vacation. [more inside]
posted by Rumi'sLeftSock at 8:47 AM PST - 6 comments

A real pain in the Ice.

Mrs. Pjern and I don't agree on some things, but on this one occasion... We have had our current side-by-side Frigidaire refrigerator for 14 years, and in all that time the icemaker has been a royal pain in the ass. We're thinking of switching brands, but we never want to screw around with a broken icemaker ever again. Your experiences with other brands or models would help provide some useful input.
posted by pjern at 8:01 AM PST - 17 comments

How to stop unwanted behavior in oneself - smart-assery edition

All my life I have had a tendency to be a smart-ass in conversations. Even though I know that this can leave a bad / false impression with people who don't know me that well, I have a hard time stopping this behavior once I start to relax. How do you get rid of a lifelong tendency which hurts social relations? Details inside. [more inside]
posted by Fallbala at 7:51 AM PST - 22 comments

Moody, Sexy, Pouting, Murderous, Evil music recommendations

I am looking for Moody, Sexy, Pouting, Murderous, Evil Tango/latin/other music. The seed for this, St Judy and Mother Fist by Marc Almond, a lot of Tom Waits, Nick Cave. I've checked out these previous questions and find the oft recommended Gotan Project to err a little too far on the club lounge easy-listening side, and everything else (except Cave, Almond, Waits) to be slightly too uptempo and not unhinged enough. What I'm looking for is deviant, sultry, sweaty, languorous, seedy, romantic, dramatic, music played in cellars to fantastically dressed dissolutes by fantastically dressed dissolutes... Doesn't have to be tango/latin if it hits the spot. Is that too much to ask?
posted by merocet at 7:23 AM PST - 45 comments

Can you identify or date this wallpaper?

I uncovered this wallpaper while working on my kitchen. The house was built in 1920. The wallpaper is on a plaster wall and was painted over at some point. While the scenes in the illustration could date to the period when the house was built, I think it's more likely that this is kitschy wallpaper from a later date, but who knows? Any wallpaper experts out there? Or are there resources for identifying old wallpaper?
posted by bassomatic at 6:53 AM PST - 15 comments

Help us shop for some new bathroom vanity lights

Help us shop for some new bathroom vanity lights. [more inside]
posted by saladin at 6:25 AM PST - 8 comments

French person looking for options to practice conversational English

I need to practice conversational English and improve my pronunciation. I’m French and deaf, English is not my mother tongue and pronouncing properly can be a challenge (but my French peers understand me pretty well and I have no pronunciation problems in French). In addition, I am not super confident when talking which doesn’t help with clarity. I would like to find someone I can have a (bi) weekly conversation with, who is not afraid to correct me on my pronunciation and syntax. [more inside]
posted by Ifite at 1:34 AM PST - 4 comments

January 4

Name that earworm, Austrian toddler edition

My child has been singing a song for the past weeks, and I recognise it (or have convinced myself that I do) but can't nail down what song it is. The lyrics are "ring, {2 syllable noun}, ringalingaling, ring, {same noun}, ring." [more inside]
posted by frimble at 10:27 PM PST - 6 comments

Best of shopping in Japan

I'll be living in Japan for almost the next three years. I have run across cool things for my kid that I've never seen in the States, but I know there is more that I haven't even thought about. Help me find great things to buy that I'll love forever and just wouldn't even know about in America. [more inside]
posted by stormygrey at 9:18 PM PST - 13 comments

teach a tech-savvy person to use a "smart" telephone

I just got my first "smart" telephone this year, and I'm completely baffled by the permissions. Is there an explanation of Android permissions written for a security and privacy conscious, technologically literate audience? [more inside]
posted by d. z. wang at 8:43 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there a name for this little quirk of speech?

Is there a name for this quirk of speech where some people (US) pronounce words such as "button" and "mitten" as "BUD-in" and "MID-in"? [more inside]
posted by clseace at 8:25 PM PST - 13 comments

Where should I go for my getaway?

I desperately need to get away, if only for a few days. Awful weather and stress at home are killing my mood, so a little vacation is in the cards. I’m limited by my lack of driver’s license, modest budget, and list of desired qualities. Read within for my preferences and see if anyplace strikes you as a good fit. [more inside]
posted by mermaidcafe at 8:22 PM PST - 4 comments

Did I zap my new computer?

I purchased a new computer from Best Buy and it arrived a few days ago. I began windows 10 updates and moving over my files. I had decided it would be a good idea to add a second hard drive for all my photos, so I turned it off and opened the case. I didn't touch anything but I noticed there doesn't seem to be a spare space to attach a second hard drive even though the specs did mention room for upgrades. There is an additional bay but I'm not sure where to connect the cables. However I can figure that part out later. When I closed the case and plugged it in again it wouldn't start up. The fan was running but there was no light and nothing on the monitor. Usually it starts up right away. [more inside]
posted by photoexplorer at 8:08 PM PST - 10 comments

Looking for recipes for homemade dog chews and training treats

I have searched Pinterest and most are dog "cookies" with elaborate ingredients. I'm looking for simple chews and training treats I can make at home with minimal ingredients. If the recipe is a little complicated, I can handle it because I love to cook. I'm just looking for fresh and budget friendly above all. [more inside]
posted by rabu at 7:42 PM PST - 11 comments

Why can't I use a foot peeling mask while breastfeeding?

I have some heinous callouses on my feet and loved using a foot peeling mask in the past, but now I noticed that the product descriptions warn not to use them while nursing. My newborn baby gets 80-90% breastmilk most days. [more inside]
posted by KatNips at 7:39 PM PST - 2 comments

Choosing between job offers

I have recently been offered two jobs (I know, a good problem to have!) and I am really struggling to make a decision between them and would appreciate some advice. Secondly, I would like to be able to accept my decision without tying myself in knots that I made the wrong choice. [more inside]
posted by sizeable beetle at 7:21 PM PST - 15 comments

Can I heat and eat it?

Pre-cooked, unopened, commercially packaged andouille chicken sausage, 2 weeks past sell-by date. Not frozen but kept (presumably) safely refrigerated. I want to slice them up and recook/brown them, but I also don't want to regret it later.
posted by Ink-stained wretch at 6:46 PM PST - 8 comments

Real time board game involving pointing?

Some time ago I read about a real time board game involving pointing oddly shaped pieces at each other. [more inside]
posted by pravit at 6:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Statistics for softies

I want to learn about statistics but have no idea where to start, and am very easily overwhelmed. [more inside]
posted by ghostbikes at 6:07 PM PST - 13 comments

Out Out Damn Spot!

I have a few solar keratosis spots and a few broken capillaries on my (fair-skinned) face, and it is time for them to go. I live in Los Angeles, home of one million doctors and doctor-facsimiles who want to make my face JUST GORGEOUS at any (and all) cost. I am really inexperienced about skin things and don't know where to start here. How do I find the person who can fix these little spots for me? Yelp is scaring me - there are plenty of options but everyone is using jargon and procedure names that make me want to run. Do you have general tips for me, or even specific people to recommend? I don't know if I need an esthetician, a dermatologist or a plastic surgeon (just kidding)(but also, not totally kidding? the lines seem so blurry). Thank you!
posted by andreapandrea at 5:34 PM PST - 5 comments

Deciding on a pediatrician?

What are the most important factors to consider when picking a pediatrician? Soon to be first time mom, and just had two prenatal meetings with pediatricians—no idea now how to pick one. [more inside]
posted by inevitability at 5:15 PM PST - 14 comments

Where in Vancouver should I buy oil for my cutting boards?

Cheaper the better, and I think I want faster drying as opposed to a salad oil.
posted by Alex Voyd at 4:16 PM PST - 13 comments

Can someone translate this Arabic text for me?

Could someone help me translate the Arabic that's written on this mystery object? Thank you!
posted by colorproof at 3:49 PM PST - 5 comments

Tell Me About Self-Publishing

Can you give me advice on publishing the book what I wrote? [more inside]
posted by TheWhiteSkull at 3:38 PM PST - 7 comments

Replace my Galaxy S5 for c. $200?

I love my Samsung Galaxy S5... except for the fact that I'm on my second one that's starting to go wonky after only about a year. Buying a second refurbished S5 seems silly; what's a comparable phone that will replace it within my budget? I have ATT and am happy to purchase through them or Amazon or Best Buy. What's the best deal now that we're in 2018? My very short wishlist inside: [more inside]
posted by TwoStride at 3:24 PM PST - 8 comments

A Spanish version of this YouTube channel on French pronunciation?

Does anybody know of a resource similar to this YouTube channel focusing on advanced French pronunciation, but for Spanish? [more inside]
posted by iamsuper at 3:22 PM PST - 3 comments

Write my protest sign, please!

Hello, pithy writers of AskMe. Please write my protest signs for the January 20th march. (I asked this question last year, but am looking for updated ideas.) [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 2:34 PM PST - 15 comments

Moving to Chicago...State Tax Forms are confusing me. Help?

Chicago residents, I need your help. I start a full time job next week and am not yet an established resident of the state. What forms do I need to complete? [more inside]
posted by Young Kullervo at 2:31 PM PST - 12 comments

How can I make better use of my limited free time?

How can I be more productive with my limited free time when I'm an introvert who always needs serious down-time before going to bed? [more inside]
posted by greta simone at 2:24 PM PST - 28 comments

Help me satisfy my urge to cook for friends

Need ideas for how to host people for dinner or brunch [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 1:59 PM PST - 18 comments

Leaving a toxic living situation

I'm currently living with toxic family members and need to leave. I'm looking for rentals at the moment. When toxic family members find out I'm moving out into a rental, there is going to be a lot of drama and anguish. How do I best get out of this situation and into my new place with the least amount of stress?
posted by anonymous at 12:23 PM PST - 16 comments

How do I learn, well, everything?

When I was a kid, I thought that if I knew everything, I could do anything. So I read the encyclopedia. The whole thing. When I was 6. It's all lost to the sands of time, now, and I want it back. How do I learn everything? [more inside]
posted by The Almighty Mommy Goddess at 12:01 PM PST - 20 comments

eBay personal shopper/concierge - does something like this exist?

Does such thing as an eBay concierge or personal shopper exist - helping you find specific items you're looking for? Or, other interesting things like the now-defunct Apartment Therapy Craigslist Scavenger? [more inside]
posted by arnicae at 11:47 AM PST - 1 comment

Where can I get Allen Edmonds shoes re-soled in the UK?

I have some Allen Edmonds Lombard shoes, bought in the US, that need resoling. They're good shoes and I want them resoled properly (I don't want to just drop them off at Timpson's and hope for the best). But although Allen Edmonds ships to the UK, they don't have any outlets here, and their online repair service is US domestic only. Can anyone recommend UK-based cobblers who'll resole a pair of their shoes to an equally high standard? Ideally in the central belt of Scotland, but I'm open to other recommendations. Thanks!
posted by lapsangsouchong at 11:37 AM PST - 2 comments

Name that job title!

I have a new coworker at my startup job that's wearing 3-4 hats, depending on how you slice it: primarily QA and customer support, with a hefty dose of liveops. This is a Lead/Director level role, he's responsible for planning & strategy for all of the above. He'll also be managing people in the future, just not right this second. We're having a tough time coming up with a job title for him. :( Help?
posted by Snacks at 11:30 AM PST - 10 comments

bomb cyclone DFW

MeFites of the Dallas/Fort Worth area! Suggestions please, for hotel and activities over the next 24 hours. [more inside]
posted by mon-ma-tron at 11:22 AM PST - 6 comments

Sick as a parrot

I'm seeking non-sequitur expressions like "sick as a parrot" (which in Brit usage means very disappointed).
posted by Dragonness at 9:45 AM PST - 33 comments

Simple life, Quaker life?

What are some sources of inspiration for living a simple life (more in the Quaker sense of simplicity?) Writing, movies, blogs, podcasts, etc. that take a more philosophical/spiritual approach, are compatible with (small) city life, and avoid bootstrapping Thoreau-ish rhetoric (which also shows up in Minimalism stuff) are appreciated! [more inside]
posted by elephantsvanish at 9:37 AM PST - 14 comments

Cheap and warm Presidents Day trip

What's the cheapest warm place we could visit from Seattle over Presidents Day weekend (Thurs - Tues)? [more inside]
posted by k8t at 9:28 AM PST - 8 comments

Social media for scientific/academic journals - examples

Do you know of any research journals that have an active, engaging social media presence? [more inside]
posted by jschu at 9:24 AM PST - 6 comments

Talk to me about a Pacific Northwest Road Trip(ish)...

For celebratory reasons, we're planning a trip (two adults) to the Pacific Northwest next year. If I run my vague (very very early planning) notions past you, do you have suggestions? Additions? Things to avoid? Details/special snowflake stuff inside... [more inside]
posted by librarianamy at 8:41 AM PST - 16 comments

Tell me about symptomatic Tarlov cysts

I have been having worsening paralumbar/lower back pain since early spring 2017 and was put on the waiting list for an MRI. The pain now extends partially down my leg and is waking me up at night. I finally had the MRI and it didn't show much, but the report did make note of several Tarlov cysts. Have you had experience with symptomatic Tarlov cysts? [more inside]
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 7:35 AM PST - 8 comments

My friend just got his heart broken. How can I be there for him?

My friend told me today that he had been in a relationship for the past year and a half. In the process, he also came out to me. I held his hand and hugged him and cried with him and listened to what he had been bottling up for some time now. Is there anything more I can do? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 7:14 AM PST - 7 comments

Best cell phone provider LA

Which is the best / cheapest cell phone provider in LA - and the cheapest way to get a good terminal? [more inside]
posted by raiguabe at 6:18 AM PST - 16 comments

Best online photobook maker?

My parents went on a big trip a few years ago, and my dad kept a blog while they were on the road; now he'd like to make the photos into a coffee table book. What are his best options? Help me give him this project as a nice gift! [more inside]
posted by deliriouscool at 6:16 AM PST - 9 comments

I’m missing you like candy

Tedious trudge of a winter walking commute improved by slurping a hard candy. Seeking recommendations for yummy artisanal hard candies with interesting flavor profiles, not just straight sweet. Say, gingery or sour or minty or cinnamony or zingy fruity. [more inside]
posted by sestaaak at 6:04 AM PST - 30 comments

SFF for a 10 year old boy

What Science Fiction or Fantasy books would you recommend for a 10 year old boy? [more inside]
posted by signal at 3:57 AM PST - 52 comments

Arranging a camping safari for Botswana leaving from Johannesburg advice

We want to book a safari to Botswana/Okevango/Chobe from Johannesburg and would like some logistical help. [more inside]
posted by bluesky43 at 3:48 AM PST - 3 comments

Good Android phone tracker with ability to wipe?

Does anyone have any recommendations for a good app that can track your lost Android phone, wipe it, sound a siren, etc? There are a number to choose from in the app store so I was curious to hear about personal experiences. Thanks!
posted by madonna of the unloved at 3:12 AM PST - 7 comments

January 3

Only YOU can prevent smokey houses

Using our fireplace seems to leave our house smoky for days. We’ve eliminate the most obvious culprits. What could we be doing wrong? [more inside]
posted by matildatakesovertheworld at 9:22 PM PST - 23 comments

Crafters of Metafilter, help me save this toy deer?

I know it's ridiculous but there must be some way to revitalise it. Maybe I bedazzle it? Please help me with some ideas I just don't want to throw it out. [more inside]
posted by ibakecake at 8:39 PM PST - 7 comments

Whining about wine

Let’s say I buy a nice ($30+) bottle of wine from a reputable wine store. It turns out to be clearly undrinkable — corked or double-fermented, etc. Is the expectation that I will write that off to the risks of being a wine drinker? Or is that a situation where it would be reasonable for me to go back to the store and ask for a replacement? If so, do I bring the remainder of the wine?
posted by eugenen at 8:27 PM PST - 14 comments

Pants are never too skinny

My son is a slim 6 year old and needs some different varieties of slim cut pants. [more inside]
posted by aetg at 7:26 PM PST - 22 comments

Soviet Espionage Tech

In this comment , Devonian claims that "it seems typical of Soviet high technology that such places [circuit mfg facilities] existed in isolation and were guarded jealously by their sponsors just as much from rivals within the system as from the West". I'm looking for further reading on that subject - how was technology used for espionage procured and developed in the USSR? Would different chains of command have access to different technologies?
posted by stinkfoot at 7:07 PM PST - 3 comments

How do I get new symptoms of other damage included in collision repair?

I got rear-ended exactly 4 weeks ago by a full size silverado while stopped at a red light. I was in a mid-size 4-door sedan, 2.5L automatic, w/about 55k miles. The other driver says he was doing 10mph, though my (and my passenger's) guess was more like 20 or 25. [more inside]
posted by Pig Tail Orchestra at 6:52 PM PST - 12 comments

Name that Book: Kidnapper raised baby she falls in love with bio brother

Please help me find this book my mother read. A homeless man kidnaps a baby for ransom. She's sick. He breaks back into house to steal her medicine. Her parents die during kidnapping. He raises the baby as his own. He becomes wealthy. She grows up thinking she is his daughter then falls in love with her bio brother. The kidnapper takes his own life confessing all in his suicide note. More details inside. Suggestions for identifying the book also welcome. [more inside]
posted by If only I had a penguin... at 6:29 PM PST - 5 comments

Books about sustainable / ecologically responsible eating

I have a friend who is very interested in sustainable eating and responsible farming practices, without resorting to a fully vegan way of life. Are there awesome books I can get them that discuss this approach to growing our food? [more inside]
posted by erratic meatsack at 3:57 PM PST - 9 comments

Seeking extra-small dildo

Question about sex toys for the anatomically nonstandard. Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 2:41 PM PST - 20 comments

Have you had a Libre Pro or other CGM device to measure blood glucose?

Mr. DrGail just got a Libre Pro, which will monitor his blood sugar for the next fourteen days. At the end of that time, his nutritionist will download all the data. At last, he can know definitively how certain foods affect his diabetes! He does not want to blow this opportunity. Any advice? [more inside]
posted by DrGail at 2:23 PM PST - 7 comments

Hair drying at the speed of light

I seek recommendations for the absolute fastest hair dryer in all the land. [more inside]
posted by anderjen at 1:31 PM PST - 23 comments

Dropbox alternative that's actually good at file organization

I'd like to sync a subset of my cloud-stored files to my laptop, back up the entirety of my cloud-stored files to a 1TB external drive, and easily view and organize the directory and file structure of these files, ideally via some kind of tree view. What do I want? [more inside]
posted by deludingmyself at 12:40 PM PST - 8 comments

Breakfast: Healthy, savory, and super, super easy

Give me breakfast ideas! I've been grabbing breakfast bars, but they're not that healthy and I don't really like them because they're all sweet. I want something healthy and savory. And -- this is the most important part -- it has to be DEAD ASS EASY. [more inside]
posted by Eyebrows McGee at 12:33 PM PST - 104 comments

Help Me Not Be A Coward

My friend has changed in really disturbing ways. Details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:48 AM PST - 37 comments

Korean drama prank video

I'm trying to find a humorous video (probably on Youtube) where a person goes up to strangers and improvs scenes like those from a Korean drama without them expecting it (reuniting with a lost child, paying off a loan shark, romantic proposal). It may have been from a Korean or Japanese game show type of video, but I can't recall exactly.
posted by roaring beast at 9:58 AM PST - 2 comments

Books for raising toddlers?

Our precious monster is 18 months old and developing so fast! We had a lot of books on what to do that first year, but less on what to do now. Help me find some. [more inside]
posted by Bulgaroktonos at 9:51 AM PST - 10 comments

What's the best simple website construction and hosting service?

I need to build a website for my small app business. I currently have a splash page which I built in Wix, but I didn't love their tools. It's time to build out the site, and I'd like to go with whatever is currently the best. Is it Squarespace? Wix? Something else? My modest requirements are inside. [more inside]
posted by Winnie the Proust at 9:38 AM PST - 10 comments

Using a Boost mobile iPhone in France

A friend will be travelling in France in the next couple of months and would like to know if they should set their iPhone 5 up for their travels either through their carrier, Boost Mobile or should they find a cheap sim card or something else ... [more inside]
posted by sciencegeek at 9:18 AM PST - 4 comments

Web scraping when JS loads data in-line (Kindle highlights)

I'm working on a tool to scrape my Amazon Kindle highlights from the web. It looks like Amazon uses JS so only 50 highlights are loaded, and I can't figure out how to get an HTML file that has all the highlights present. [more inside]
posted by philosophygeek at 8:52 AM PST - 9 comments

Do I have a bad furnace, bad zoning or both?

We purchased a Lennox furnace (EL296UH090XV36C) in late 2014. We've had nearly 30 service calls for either no heat or problems with one of the three zones maintaining temperatures. The HVAC company claims all of these are unusual, or freak occurrences. Lots more details inside! [more inside]
posted by bodgy at 8:46 AM PST - 6 comments

Should I bust the host of an illegal AirBnB unit, for cash?

Had an awful experience in the middle of a cat-and-mouse situation regarding an illegal AirBnB. Am thinking of blowing the whistle on the host in exchange for a reward. Please advise. [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 8:34 AM PST - 58 comments

Large, papery, low-quality stickers like stop-a-douchebag has?

I want to make stickers similar to those used by Stop Xam. [more inside]
posted by beerbajay at 8:28 AM PST - 4 comments

Help finding easy dress patterns for older kids

I’m trying to find a (downloadable) pattern for a basic dress for my 12-year-old daughter. I want a basic bodice, long sleeves, and a twirly skirt (although more like a half-circle skirt, not a full circle skirt). Seems like it shouldn’t be hard, but I’m having a terrible time finding patterns that don’t top out at girls 10 (or start at women’s 8).
posted by leahwrenn at 7:27 AM PST - 8 comments

How long does it take to set up this car shelter?

I'm thinking about buying a car shelter to use at a flea market. Does this make sense? [more inside]
posted by crazylegs at 6:50 AM PST - 4 comments

I need cheap books, and I mean REALLY cheap

I work in Psych and was tasked to replenish activity items for 7 units. After buying all of these items, it was brought to my attention that all of the units are low on reading materials as well. [more inside]
posted by Fullofcrazy at 6:48 AM PST - 39 comments

Plant a tree donation

I'd like to give a gift to someone in the form of a tree or trees planted in their name but I'm having trouble finding the best charity/service to use. Does anyone have direct experience with this? [more inside]
posted by gwint at 6:44 AM PST - 8 comments

Finding speakers for an historical conference

I'm part of a local history group which holds a yearly conference with around 6 speakers on a particular theme. I've been asked to look for speakers for the 2019 conference, and I'm wondering whether there is a route I'm missing in finding people. Is there any kind of register of researchers' interests? [more inside]
posted by paduasoy at 6:31 AM PST - 8 comments

Are there short-term volunteering opportunities for wildlife programs?

I am interested in short term, say 4-6 weeks, volunteering opportunities with wildlife scientists in locations such as Africa, South America. Are there any such options? [more inside]
posted by theobserver at 3:34 AM PST - 8 comments

What should I with £1,000 that will improve my world?

I've come into some money recently. One of the boardgames I've designed has been published (hooray!). I already have a full time job for normal living costs. So what should I do with this windfall? (more details in explanation) [more inside]
posted by Cogentesque at 2:41 AM PST - 20 comments

Poetry and Music for Elementary Students

Please recommend poetry and/or poetry tied to music that elementary students would enjoy. [more inside]
posted by vignettist at 12:25 AM PST - 8 comments

January 2

Paths from my couch to EVERYWHERE

I loved Couch to 5K, the program designed to take a person from being a sedentary non-runner to being a 5K-runner. I'd like to find other programs which take you from zero to being a solid beginner. These could be in sports (Couch to Yoga/Weights/Swimming) or other fields (Couch to Cooking/Being Well Read/Meditating/Political Activism/Gardening/Woodwork/Birdwatching/Having a Clean House/Whatever), and they could be free or paid. [more inside]
posted by hungrytiger at 11:58 PM PST - 10 comments

Chinese tea ingredient ID?

Today my family received some interesting Chinese teas from guests, and I'd like some help identifying them. [more inside]
posted by Lurch at 10:50 PM PST - 6 comments

What artist painted this urban plein-art-ish painting?

I found this at a bank in Westwood village in southern California. When I asked, the manager said the painting had been commissioned. I can't interpret the signature for the life of me. Can anyone ID the artist? Also, more art-literate mefites, how would you describe the style of the piece?
posted by stewiethegreat at 10:28 PM PST - 6 comments

IRL Skill Trees!

This site has a skill tree for learning cardistry and I remember Khan Academy had one for Math but I can't seem to find that on their site anymore. What other examples of skill trees for real-life skills are out there?
posted by divabat at 9:32 PM PST - 4 comments

She left without a will

My spouse passed away in California and she didn't leave a will. [more inside]
posted by kamikazegopher at 8:58 PM PST - 9 comments

iPhone 5s running 10.3.3. Is there a jailbreak out there for me?

I've had this phone since 2014 and intend to use it until it is dead, but it's not customizable enough. [more inside]
posted by sacchan at 7:44 PM PST - 5 comments

Help me pick a vape kit

I use disposable and rechargeable nicotine vapes: Vuse and Blu. I’m looking for a good permanent rig but am totally overwhelmed. I don’t care what it looks like but extra points if it comes in purple. I prefer a box, for no good reason, and my budget for rig and juice is $75 to start. Any suggestions? I would def do a pen if someone out there swears by it.
posted by lakersfan1222 at 6:41 PM PST - 9 comments

Looking for a decent career for a smart, older refugee

I know a middle aged gentleman who is a recently arrived refugee from the Middle East. He has few relations here nor much social or financial capital and currently works a shitty min-wage job and barely makes ends meet. He is smart and hardworking and wants a better life. He wants to get his GED. Looking for career suggestions for a person in his situation. [more inside]
posted by Pantalaimon at 6:09 PM PST - 16 comments

I want to be a paid science advisor for tv/film.

How to get part time/consulting work as a science advisor in the tv/film industry, or convince a show/film that their writers could benefit from one? [more inside]
posted by porpoise at 6:01 PM PST - 10 comments

Motorcycle Enthusiasts, Riders, Mechanics...I need a little help!

I'm looking for a reliable online parts source/house. Please recommend the ones that work for you. [more inside]
posted by snsranch at 5:57 PM PST - 6 comments

Who originated/popularized the phrase "hot damn, that's my jam"?

I just realized I have no idea why we say "hot damn, that's my jam". All that comes up when I Google is Flo Rida and various novelty products/memes. There's no way the phrase "hot damn, that's my jam" originated in 2008. ...Is there? There can't be. Where is it from? Who did it first?
posted by capricorn at 5:49 PM PST - 8 comments

Any Afrikaans speakers in the house?

I need to transcribe a very brief statement made by Nelson Mandela in this video at 17:32. I have most of the statement figured out, and I know approximately what he is saying (he translates afterwards) but my decades-old Afrikaans isn't good enough to properly transcribe the last few words. Can anybody help?
posted by matthew.alexander at 5:31 PM PST - 4 comments

Find a retail partner for a nerdy idea

I have an idea for a household product with an artsy nerdy design - the kind of thing that you might have seen on ThinkGeek back in their heyday. It might be an even better fit for art and design museum stores. As far as I can tell, ThinkGeek doesn’t accept unsolicited submissions, and they abandoned their IdeaFactory user submission process years ago. Are there any other pop culture nerdy retailers I could approach, or designer/manufacturers who sell to museum stores? Or should I just put it up as a print-on-demand product on society6 or something?
posted by moonmilk at 5:09 PM PST - 6 comments

Where does the word "proc" come from?

In the video game sense. [more inside]
posted by Gymnopedist at 4:31 PM PST - 12 comments

Tell me why the world needs feminism--seeking speeches, articles etc.

I need to write a kick-ass speech along the lines of "why the world needs feminism," and I'm looking for inspiration on a par with Hilary Clinton's famous Women's Rights are Human Rights speech. Please link me with your best sources of hard-hitting analysis, passionate argument, and great quotes. Mainstream English-language material is welcome but I would also like to find non-Western, LGBT and POC views.
posted by rpfields at 4:07 PM PST - 6 comments

Restricting food budget

I am a single person who has been too cavalier in my food spending the past months. What are some ways to cut down without feeling like a broke college student? [more inside]
posted by Aranquis at 3:41 PM PST - 43 comments

Mystery (toxic?) tea

I bought some delicious Chinese corn tea at an Asian market in the U.S. The outer cellophane wrapping of the box had a small label warning that the tea contains... (forgotten thing) -- an ingredient that the state of California has determined to cause birth defects and cancer. [more inside]
posted by velveeta underground at 3:24 PM PST - 13 comments

It ain't a resolution! Experience with intermittent fasting as a runner?

I'm an intermediate runner looking to spend the first half of this year increasing my pace. To help with that goal, I'm interested in trying out intermittent fasting to help drop my body fat percentage without sacrificing energy on a day-to-day basis. Any experiences with this or similar? [more inside]
posted by superfluousm at 2:13 PM PST - 5 comments

Is there an App for that?

In a nutshell - I want to leave trinkets in places and have people who happen to pick them up and keep them easily send me comments or pictures about how they like/use them (if they are so generous to do so). However, I am an old and know almost nothing about social media and only the bare minimum about facebook. Is there a social media platform that will let me do this? Preferably other than facebook, but if that's my only real option, ok. Instagram? Thanks!
posted by WinterSolstice at 1:59 PM PST - 7 comments

How to find car parts for a Suzuki SX4?

Mechanic tells me he can't find two catalytic converter replacements for my car for under $1500. Can I do any hunting myself? [more inside]
posted by amicamentis at 1:41 PM PST - 8 comments

Un-tea staining a white wall

So I managed to get a drip of tea down a white wall, unnoticed for some twelve hours. How do I go about un-tea-staining a wall? I've tried scrubbing with warm water and baking soda but got worried I'd make the wall wet and different so didn't scrube very hard (yet). [more inside]
posted by readinghippo at 1:36 PM PST - 6 comments

When to cash EE savings bonds?

While I was home for the holidays, my parents gave me a bunch of savings bonds that had been bought for me while I was a kid (and that I subsequently forgot existed). Now I have a few thousand dollars in EE savings bonds -- great! Except, when should I sell them? [more inside]
posted by bassooner at 1:27 PM PST - 8 comments

Any idea how old this bottle of W.C. Gundelfinger apricot brandy is?

I picked this up at an estate sale, and I'm curious if anyone knows how old this is. The bottle has a label on the front and a smaller label on the back. The back label appears to mention the "Revenue Act of 1919." Bonus points if you can tell me if this is likely to be drinkable or if it's worth anything.
posted by Slinga at 1:18 PM PST - 10 comments

Upstairs neighbors fish tank - NYC

Upstairs neighbors fish tank - NYC I'm a renter in a building in NYC. My upstairs neighbors fish tank is making my entire apartment hum. They won't put a mat under it or move it. What do I do? [more inside]
posted by edbles at 12:13 PM PST - 10 comments

Does France have a DMV?

If I need a French person to show me their driving record, is it possible to get an official version from the DMV or French equivalent thereof? [more inside]
posted by handful of rain at 11:39 AM PST - 7 comments

Post-holiday and future-holiday blues

For some concrete reasons and some rather more nebulous ones, I am just really super sad that the holidays are over, and having a very hard time getting past it. What are some things I can do to shake off these blahs? How to properly grieve dying/dead traditions (especially when it seems like they were actually quite good ones!) and embrace new limitations? [more inside]
posted by We put our faith in Blast Hardcheese at 11:08 AM PST - 31 comments

where to begin: Brazilian history

I have the standard American liberal arts education. I have come to realize that it is pretty lacking in certain areas. I'd like to read more history, specifically of Brazil. Where do I start? [more inside]
posted by Shohobohaum Za at 10:26 AM PST - 5 comments

How do I visit ancient Rome?

Ever since I listened to the History of Rome podcast, I've wanted to tour the locations in person. Please recommend some ways to do so - more inside. [more inside]
posted by rebent at 9:42 AM PST - 11 comments

Macbook no longer receiving text messages from one contact

As of yesterday afternoon, I can no longer get text messages from one person (call her X) to appear in a thread on my macbook, even though I still get that "one new notification from X" pop-up in the upper right corner of the macbook monitor. I get the notification, then open our text thread in Messages on my laptop, and none of hers are appearing since yesterday. Any suggestions as to what I might try? [more inside]
posted by the webmistress at 9:35 AM PST - 9 comments

Sourcing abrasives in the UK or EU

I'm looking for a manufacturer of abrasives. Everyone I can find in the UK is selling bonded abrasive products - sanding discs, cutting wheels, that kind of thing. I'm trying to find a source for the raw abrasive in powder form, before it gets made into a product. [more inside]
posted by Leon at 9:22 AM PST - 5 comments

Learn surf south Los Angeles

Moving to Los Angeles (next to LAX Airport) in 3 weeks. [more inside]
posted by raiguabe at 9:20 AM PST - 5 comments

conservation volunteer working holiday for a family in UK or Europe?

A couple of times, I've done volunteer conservation work for charities in the UK - joining a group of people who stay in often fairly basic accommodation in a scenic area for a few days or a week or whatever, doing work of some value for the environment there. Is it possible to do such a thing as a family of two adults and two early-teen children? If so, where? [more inside]
posted by rd45 at 9:17 AM PST - 4 comments

Where to live in Arlington/DC area?

Excited to be moving from Michigan for a new job in Arlington and looking for suggestions of places to live that make sense logistically but also maybe meet some of our hopes for neighborhood “feel.” [more inside]
posted by josyphine at 9:05 AM PST - 18 comments

Weight Loss challenge team name?

My co-workers and I are trying to come up with a team name for an upcoming weight loss challenge. Any ideas for funny names would be appreciated. Bonus points if you can work in the word "Sharp".
posted by richmondparker at 8:51 AM PST - 19 comments

Am I not allowed to vote in my local elections?

I live in Town A. (I pay taxes to Town A, Town A is my school district, I have to abide by the property laws of Town A, etc.) My voting district assignment has me vote in Town B. This means that I vote for Town B's local officials, not Town A's. So, I have no local representatives. I'm kinda new to politics/elections/voting/etc., but is this... normal? reasonable? Is there anything I can do about it? How do voting districts get set in the first place (and why was mine set wrong)? [more inside]
posted by ragtag at 7:19 AM PST - 16 comments

What to expect from a weather-delayed flight?

I have a ticket for a JetBlue flight from Boston Logan to Washington Reagan early Thursday afternoon. But the weather forecast is calling for about 8-10” of heavy snow in Boston throughout Thursday. I can afford to cancel this trip if it makes sense, and I’d appreciate input from more experienced flyers about what’s likely to happen in this scenario and how I might minimize any financial losses. [more inside]
posted by brett at 7:16 AM PST - 16 comments

Can I Eat This: Cooked & seasoned spinach, leftovers frozen 1 day

I brought a batch of fresh made Korean Sesame Spinach (containing blanched spinach, sesame oil, garlic, soy sauce, onion, etc.) to a potluck, then the leftovers were frozen solid for about about 36 hours. If I thaw it today will it be edible? [more inside]
posted by cuddles.mcsnuggy at 7:01 AM PST - 5 comments

Do I need Dr. House or some perspective?

I don't know if I have a medical mystery that's worth pursuing or if all these things are unrelated and insignificant. Can you help me figure out how to proceed? If you like medical mysteries, please read! [more inside]
posted by rabbitrabbit at 6:32 AM PST - 15 comments

Ancestry.com DNA kits that we may reluctantly use

My mother gave each of my wife and me Ancestry.com DNA testing kits that we don’t want but may ultimately have to use to humor her. Can you address our privacy and other concerns? [more inside]
posted by Admiral Haddock at 5:50 AM PST - 34 comments

Getting out of wheelchiair when muscles won't improve with workouts

Middle-aged cis male, medium height, wheelchair-bound at the moment. Must use upper-body strength as primary force to push up out of wheelchair to a (walker-aided) standing position for transfer. I can stand by pushing from bolted-down parallel bars 8 in. higher than wheelchair armrests but not directly from wheelchair armrests themselves. [more inside]
posted by zaixfeep at 5:46 AM PST - 17 comments

Turtle honeymoon in February

My husband and I would like to go on a delayed honeymoon in February. Conditions: we must be able to see sea turtles (either dive with them, watch them lay eggs on the beach, or hatch), and it should not be too far from Japan, where we live. [more inside]
posted by LoonyLovegood at 3:10 AM PST - 9 comments

Music festival us in this specific springtime window

Can anyone recommend us a music festival that specialises in roots, folk or anything that might be described as Americana, anywhere in the US between 30 March and 14 April 2018? (The only one we already know about which meets *some* of our interests is the French Quarter Festival, which we did a couple of years ago.)
posted by FavourableChicken at 2:55 AM PST - 6 comments

Chapman Reflexes Releasing Piriformis Pain. What is this Magic?

Having accidentally stumbled across Chapman Reflexes and completely dissolving my decades-long piriformis pain in 15 minutes, I have SO MANY QUESTIONS but basically, what is this magic? What else don't I know? [more inside]
posted by yes I said yes I will Yes at 2:45 AM PST - 16 comments

How do I learn to trust my own judgement and be confident in meetings?

I work in finance for a large university. I'm good at my job, confirmed by feedback from my bosses and others. But I lack confidence in meetings. I always want to check, hedge my bets, and feel unsure. I find it very hard to speak. How can I trust my judgement, and be less scared of being wrong? I am working on this with a therapist. She asked me to think about what WOULD make me trust myself, and I'm coming up blank. [more inside]
posted by NoiselessPenguin at 12:33 AM PST - 13 comments

January 1

Reputable Online English Speaking Therapist?

I need to find a good online English speaking therapist. I am unlikely to find someone with sufficient level of language skill here. There are many sites and links if I use Google, but I have no idea how to choose someone reputable who can help. I'm looking for support with bereavement and loss. Can anyone suggest any sites or therapists they have found valuable or offer advice as to how I can best select a therapist for skype sessions? Thanks. There is some urgency to the matter.
posted by anonymous at 11:51 PM PST - 5 comments

I need help to change my life (again), while not repeating my mistakes.

How do I guard against repeating the same mistakes over and over and over, etc., all the while knowing many of the issues that contributed to my bad decisions remain emotionally unresolved? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 11:51 PM PST - 5 comments

DivorceFilter: child passports

It's unlikely that you're my lawyer. My spouse and I had very recently gotten our small child a passport for a planned international trip when we suddenly separated. We haven't divorced yet but probably will during 2018. We're both women, are still legally married, and she's the birth parent. We're in Washington state, and I haven't done a second parent adoption because it wasn't necessary here and our relationship was stable (please don't lecture me about this; I know). Who has the right to hold the kiddo's passport while we go through this process?
posted by centrifugal at 8:02 PM PST - 17 comments

Mopping robots

Do you have experience with mop robot products? Tell me. [more inside]
posted by latkes at 6:40 PM PST - 12 comments

Am I barking up the right money tree?

How should I divide my credit card and debit card spending in order to best take advantage of interest from my checking account? (Or is this even the game I should be playing?) I’m able to earn 1.58% interest from a checking account if I use my debit card for twelve transactions each calendar month. But, of course, I can keep my money in the bank for longer by using my credit card. What decisions or equations will help me best maximize the interest I earn? [more inside]
posted by Carouselle at 5:51 PM PST - 8 comments

Drippity drops

I am not sure but I think my ceiling was leaking while I was gone over the holiday... however it isn’t dripping now and everything feels dry to the touch. Will I be ok to not get it assessed and just wait to see if anything drips again? [more inside]
posted by buttonedup at 5:43 PM PST - 5 comments

What channel is Bread TV on?

I'd really like to learn more about bread and how to make bread. Looking for both the scientific explanations and the more intuitive approaches. [more inside]
posted by hydra77 at 4:37 PM PST - 6 comments

The Man in the Panama Hat

Help me find a print advertisement I recently saw? [more inside]
posted by NotMyselfRightNow at 4:26 PM PST - 0 comments

I need examples of the Bootstrap Paradox

I'm looking for time travel stories that contain a bootstrap paradox - that is, objects or information that have no origin, because they only exist in a causal loop. [more inside]
posted by Ballad of Peckham Rye at 3:58 PM PST - 43 comments

TV Shows with Great online scripts??

Mom and i have started binge-watching the X-Files lately, a task made easier for me thanks to the excellent scripts, available online. These include not just dialog, but critically for me as a blind fan, descriptions of action and visuals. What others shows are out their with similar support? [more inside]
posted by Alensin at 3:40 PM PST - 7 comments

Fitness(/nutrition) podcasts?

I'm not looking for detailed instructions or routines or sets of exercises or anything along that line, but am more looking for stories/inspiration/psychology/maybe some research about fitness. [more inside]
posted by 2 cats in the yard at 2:53 PM PST - 8 comments

Using Twitter for Employment

I see Twitter hashtags that are targeted to specific groups within companies I might be interested in working for. Is it OK for me to follow those companies so that when I update my Twitter feed about stuff I'm doing, they'll see it? Or does Twitter consider that illegal. [more inside]
posted by CollectiveMind at 2:05 PM PST - 8 comments

The crossroads of Project Roadmaps and Available Resources

I have a lot of personal creative projects going on at a time, each with its own lists of tasks and subtasks. I'm looking for an iOS compatible system that will aggregate the top item from 10-15 separate lists into an actionable "Next Steps" smartlist. [more inside]
posted by itesser at 2:00 PM PST - 8 comments

Help me rebuild my life and friend networks! Bay Area edition

Happy New Year, MeFi! After an absolutely ludicrous year filled to the gills with eye-popping friend drama (including abandonment in the wake of health issues and revelations of serial sexual predation), my friend network in the Bay Area is decimated. I need your help rebuilding my life. [more inside]
posted by zestful at 1:33 PM PST - 12 comments

Freezable recipes featuring fennel bulb, brussels sprouts, or turnips

I love the taste of fennel bulb, brussels sprouts, and turnips (separately, of course, I'm not a monster). Mostly I roast them or have them raw in salads/slaws, but I'd like to be able to cook up a big batch of something and freeze it for later. I assume there must be some amazing soups/stews/mashes out there? Vegetarian or meaty are both fine, as is any level of skill/effort, as long as any of these three ingredients are integral to the dish (i.e., you can still taste them strongly). Thanks in advance!
posted by unknowncommand at 1:21 PM PST - 8 comments

Gas range electric outlet - converter or replace 'er?

We have a gas range with a standard electric plug for the clock, burner ignitors, etc. Right now it's plugged into a wall outlet above the countertop next to the range, but that looks pretty ugly and we'd like to hide the cord better. There's an old outlet (pics here) behind the range next to the gas line, but because the prongs are different, I'm not sure how/if we can use it. Is there a converter I can buy? Or do we need to have an electrician replace it with a standard outlet? Thanks!
posted by brozek at 12:53 PM PST - 12 comments

Stainless steel water bottle that stays in backpack pocket, or hacks?

In less than a month, I have lost two very nice stainless steel water bottles due to the lousy and shallow "bottle holder" pockets of my North Face Surge backpack (which I love otherwise). How do I prevent this from happening again? How does everyone else manage not to lose water bottles? Is there a specific type of bottle, way to secure it? I'd rather not put the bottle in the backpack in case of spills. I don't want to buy another backpack, either, since it's otherwise perfect for my needs.
posted by Seeking Direction at 12:06 PM PST - 16 comments

Hugo (film) with a mouse instead?

Watched Hugo today, fully expecting it to feature a white cartoon mouse, not a real life boy. What on earth am I thinking of? [more inside]
posted by threetwentytwo at 11:58 AM PST - 14 comments

Please try to understand I’m not your doctor

How can I convince my father to stop treating me like his own personal physician? [more inside]
posted by teamnap at 11:37 AM PST - 10 comments

What to put into an employment contract?

My father is retiring from the small business he built and selling his shares to his long-time partner. I've been the office manager for 20+ years. Dad has, as part of his sale contract, is including an employment contract for me, so that I can continue working there until my retirement. I've only worked for small businesses and haven't ever done this before. I have the following covered: Compensation, Vacation, Working Hours, Working remotely, Insurance, Retirement age. Am I missing anything?
posted by sarajane at 11:06 AM PST - 14 comments

What should I do with a tablet?

And no, it's not a tablet of chocolate, because that would be easy! [more inside]
posted by winterportage at 10:25 AM PST - 16 comments

What is the best pet fountain?

In search of the best pet fountain to use for cats. We have one now which works great but can't go in the dishwasher, and has lots of small crevices that are impossible to thoroughly wash and inevitably end up slimy and gross. [more inside]
posted by BlahLaLa at 10:20 AM PST - 26 comments

Should I confront a few people for talking behind my back?

I know that I'm the butt of a running joke between two acquaintances who take pictures of me on Snapchat when I see them and share them with each other. I am assuming that they have other things to say about me. Its the insidious type of mean girl behavior. How do I get them to stop and should I let them know that I know what's going on?
posted by sheepishchiffon at 9:57 AM PST - 16 comments

What is not being able to feel emotional responses called in psychology?

In writing about bereavement, people often describe not caring about anything after someone they love dies, everything else becomes meaningless and pointless. Old people have described this to me after being widowed too. Is there a name for this specific phenomenon eg in psychiatry, psychology, bereavement literature or counselling? [more inside]
posted by maiamaia at 9:50 AM PST - 9 comments

Need Help getting though what is hopefully a temporary life derailment

I need to figure out how to focus on what is important in the face of a health crisis. [more inside]
posted by marimeko at 9:32 AM PST - 18 comments

Where should I move: cheap with ocean edition

After 18 years in the mountains, I think I want to get back to salt water (I grew up on the coast and I miss it.) Is there anywhere in the US within 30 minutes of salt water that I could a) buy a small house for 160K or less AND b) also within a 30 minute radius, find a job of some sort making about 30K a year? Bonus question: do the Great Lakes scratch your maritime itch? If so, they’re in the running. [more inside]
posted by mygothlaundry at 9:23 AM PST - 36 comments

Is it a myth that neutering affects a male cat's head size?

Heard this at a party this weekend but couldn't find any good sources. The claim I heard is that a cat who has not been neutered will grow a larger, more masculine head.
posted by johngoren at 7:47 AM PST - 10 comments

Upgrade my point-and-shoot or move to DSLR?

My Canon SX500 IS point-and-shoot has served me well and is now busted. Do I replace it with another very similar model, or get an entry-level DSLR that I will probably just treat like a point-and-shoot? I just want to keep creating videos and photos, not really interested in spending hours learning to use the equipment. [more inside]
posted by evilmomlady at 6:21 AM PST - 13 comments

Will you put me in her shoes?

My sister/flatmate and I have pretty different temperaments and childhood experiences. I've been worried that she is depressed or has an eating disorder BASED ON WHAT I SEE AND INTERPRET. She assures me that she doesn't. I am trying to establish good boundaries, so please help me understand what it might be like for her so that I don't just worry. [more inside]
posted by atetrachordofthree at 5:58 AM PST - 29 comments

Can someone tell me where the quotation mark key is on new iPads?

I'm trying to help someone ruse an iPad, and I'm remote, and and they can't find the quotation mark key (to improve Google search results). Which of the 3 keyboard layouts is it on? (Brand new iPad, middle size, default keyboard) [more inside]
posted by lockedroomguy at 5:15 AM PST - 2 comments

Happy new year and a dental emergency?

So...I got a temporary crown placed about ten days ago. Now I am having weird problems. Is this an emergency or can it wait until tomorrow? [more inside]
posted by Frowner at 4:50 AM PST - 5 comments

Historical works on food and success of civilizations

I've been reading Brillat-Savarin's Physiology of Taste. I want to read more about food and national culture and national success/decline. [more inside]
posted by iffthen at 4:11 AM PST - 4 comments

How to Divorce....a year from now?

My wife and I decided to separate about 4 months ago. After 2 weeks apart we've learned that we are pregnant. We've decided to stay together during pregnancy and at least the first 6 months after that. how can we make the best of this? Is this a terrible idea? [more inside]
posted by anonymous at 1:42 AM PST - 36 comments