I love scenes in books in which people go shopping or make clothes, with loving descriptions of the clothes themselves. Bring 'em on!
My apartment comes with deep, built in shelves that run the length of the wall. I've been using them for books, but that's only in the first row and in the lower shelves so that they stay visible and accessible. I haven't quite figured out how to utilize all this extra space in a useful fashion. Difficulty: my apartment is a veritable dust magnet so whatever I put there would need regular dusting. Any ideas, clever people of MeFi?
What are some resources (books, essays, experiences, practices to try, whatever) to ameliorate a scarcity mindset? [more inside]
I am fortunate to be in a position to upgrade some of my furniture pieces this year. [more inside]
I have found some great yoga channels, but I’d really like to find some equally great 30-minute cardio sessions on YouTube. Special requirement: needs to be doable in a 4 x 6 space surrounded by furniture. [more inside]
I reported my manager for an ethics violation. Not-my-employment-lawyer, not-legal-advice especially welcome! [more inside]
I have to take an Abstract reasoning exam. The organization offers a practice test but no answers on the practice test. [more inside]
I've heard a lot of people complain that the traditional algorithmic interview process doesn't reflect what software engineering is actually like. But I actually love solving interview problems. Is there a field of programming that DOES resemble the very cerebral, abstract, puzzle-y nature of an algo interview, and how do I break into it? As usual, there are snowflakes below. [more inside]
I want to get a plugin hybrid but the closest I can get a car to my house is 70'. Do I need to give up on 220V charging and just get a very heavy extension cord and use the Level 1 handle that comes with the car (which would mean letting it sit out in the weather--and put a plastic bag over it)? Other solutions? Thanks!
I'm building a Wordpress site for a local company and it will feature a PDF price list which will be updated every quarter or so. What's the best way of allowing them to upload the new file through the dashboard without sending it to me and still have the link on the Home Page work? Additional complication is I would like to directly link to the PDF so it is viewable in the browser, not have the file automatically download. [more inside]
I am an intermediate piano player and I’d like a VERY basic book to walk me through how to learn to improvise. I mean basic. I know nothing and need baby steps.
Who is this man in the Big Mac commercial NBC is running every 15 minutes during the olympics?
I just finished A Really Good Day, Ayelet Waldman's rather astonishing microdosing memoir. Although it's been a couple decades since my last hallucinogen-fueled adventure, my interest has been rekindled, and then some. I'm ready to take another trip... only this time, instead of hanging out at Hot Topic for hours, grooving on the blacklit Hendrix posters and watching the cashier's face melt, I want to find a therapist willing to help me maximize the benefits of the experience. Is this even possible? [more inside]
A constellation of life events have me feeling increasingly, grindingly depressed. My old therapist retired, so I'm looking for someone new to help get me through this rough patch, and beyond. Do you have any personal recommendations for great female therapists? Or strategies for finding one? [more inside]
Are there drugs you can take for social anxiety and still be able to socialize "normally"? [more inside]
I have medication that needs to be kept at room temperature (under 25 C). It cannot be stored in the fridge. Complication: My air conditioning is broken, it's summer, and my apartment is very hot. [more inside]
My dog got into a scuffle with a former neighbor's dog 3 years ago and I've kept my dog away from other dogs since that time. New neighbor moved in 2 weeks ago, has been letting his dog run around off leash, and has made it pretty clear he has no intention to leash his dog. What do I do? [more inside]
Can you tell me if this shoe is good for a week in Germany? I'm concerned about slipping and comfort. [more inside]
I bought a chess set cheap on eBay. It was advertised as agate and jade, and mouldy. It's certainly mouldy, but I'm pretty certain it's not agate and probably not jade. Can anyone take an informed guess at what type of stone these are made of, and how to clean mould off them? [more inside]
I’ll be traveling to the Jasper area in late June with a 6 and a 2 yo. Can anyone recommend some really good hikes that would be doable for us? [more inside]
I often find myself with long stretches of time on my hands to fill - I'm looking to spend less of it on social media and, after 35 years of near-compulsive reading, have temporarily burned out on that as a stopgap. What are some solo analog / card / pencil+paper based games or other, related activities that you find soothing, focusing, compelling, or amusing?
I described my ideal workday inside; what jobs does it sound like? To summarize: independent, relaxed but focused work that requires some thought/creativity, doesn't require much interaction, and has part-time hours with a stable ~$25k salary. Basically I'm trying to figure out specific jobs I'd enjoy, so I can minimize bumbling around in positions that are poor fits since I'll be basically entering the workforce at the age of 31 or so. [more inside]
We want to do glamping/yurt camping with some amenities in the Pacific NorthWest. We'd absolutely like to be able to swim. Please suggest locations. [more inside]
I’m on the market for a new job. Unfortunately, I’m not really too sure what my exact job title is. eCommerce experts will likely have the best insight on this. Job details can be found below. [more inside]
I have such a vague memory of a tv episode - I think it was something like Star Trek TNG or of that timeframe (1990's). The group visits a place where all of the citizens have their ideal career path chosen for them, calculated since birth. [more inside]
I've been listening to a lot of cool interesting alternative US radio stations on Alexa via TuneIn (WFMU, KXLU etc.) Having been introduced to the amazing Fip, I'm interested in exploring indie/alternative/ecletic non-English language DJ-ed music stations outside the US (all music genres welcomed). Any suggestions for great ones to try?
A currently-running car commercial leads to a previously-unknown Twitter meme. [more inside]
Yup, another cat naming question. We adopted a new little cutie today and I could use some naming brainstorming. [more inside]
YANMMD etc. I’m suffering from a pretty severe and frustratingly long lasting case of Post Partum Depression. I am currently taking 200mg of Lamictal. It definitely helps but things are still pretty tough on the homefront. I’m thinking about asking my psychiatrist about adding Wellbutrin. Would love to hear from others who take those two medications in combination. [more inside]
I'd really like to start some family traditions in my own family, and I'm thinking I need to be more proactive than just saying they will come naturally. I'd love to steal some of yours. What were your favorite traditions you did as a family when you were a kid? [more inside]
I know you are not my lawyer. The condo is in Chevy Chase, Maryland. I am unemployed, and I really need to get my security deposit back to put done on a new place, also, I need to give the deposits back to my two subtenants. Who can I contact in Chevy Chase, Maryland, Montgomery County, for legal assistance? Details below. [more inside]
I'm doing some genealogy, and I just got a copy of my grandparents' marriage register (1931, New York state). It's signed by a pastor and witnessed by the pastor's wife. [more inside]
Hi, I'm applying for a grade 6 data scientist role in the civil service in the UK. It is my first application for a civil service role, there are a lot of hoops to jump through when it comes to the application. Does anyone have experience or any good resources for writing good examples for the competencies (this is specific to the UK civil service)? [more inside]
What are good examples of physical spaces/places that influence people to be active and fit? What are some factors that cause these spaces to inspire wellness, activity, self esteem, good mental health, etc?
As I understand things, once butter has been melted it's no longer suitable for recipes that call for creaming butter with sugar—even after the butter has cooled and resolidified—due to chemical changes that occur in the process of melting. Have I discovered an exception to an otherwise sound rule or is this just a myth with no basis in science? [more inside]
Tax break and benefits to employees [more inside]
What are the best good quality mid-length (10-30 minutes) videos on YouTube? Alternatively, what are your favourite sources or lists for these? [more inside]
I'm a female graduate student co-TAing a class with a younger, male graduate student. He refuses to work as a team and makes course and grading decisions unilaterally. I feel like I'm being treated as a secretary. Are there any strategies you recommend for fixing the situation? [more inside]
My girlfriend told me recently she wants to open up our relationship. I'm new to this, so I've been going through a lot of grief and excitement and general stress about it. We're five years in, and I love her and trust her completely, and I'm mostly into it, so far, but I'm worried about one practical consideration: How does one meet a new person these days, for either casual fun times or a real romantic relationship, when the situation is poly? What about meeting a couple? Does Craigslist still work, or is it a wasteland? Are there better options? Are there ways to navigate this on mainstream dating services like Tinder or OKCupid? [more inside]
I've seen my current therapist for about five years, for depression and ADHD. I've had periodic depressive spells, but one hit quite hard late last year and hasn't really abated. I'm pretty dissatisfied with therapy, but it's hard for me to tease out whether my dissatisfaction has to with my depression or my therapy. [more inside]
Help this socially anxious introvert brainstorm some little goals for increasing sociability! [more inside]
I need to produce—for eventual printing on 8.5" X 11" sheets—a graphic with four concentric rings of 24 circles each (the circles can be touching or have a small space between them). Is there a very easy way for me to make this, either via a website or with my ancient Adobe CS2 Suite? it's just for my own personal use, so no design budget to pay a pro to do it. TIA for all pointers/suggestions!
I've apparently inadvertently gone through menopause. What next? [more inside]
White collar, middle-aged career guidance resources? [more inside]
I'm looking for a good, solid tax preparer. I have someone, but I'm not crazy about her. She does a good job, and maybe that's all I need an accountant to do, but I find her slightly unpleasant to deal with. And she's pricey. I freelance, so I'd appreciate someone who has freelance clients, but it's not essential. I'm in NYC, but they don't have to be, I guess.
I went to Ireland once 20 years ago - stayed with a friend and didn't have a car. Am alternating excited/nervous about being on my own for a week (Canadian friend joins for second half). Suggestions for helping me make the most of my time are welcome. (I fear I may already have too ambitious an itinerary). [more inside]
I work in a field totally unrelated to psychology, but I do have a BS in psych. I've been growing increasingly dissatisfied with my field and have been wondering if I should pursue a career in psych instead. [more inside]
I love my new Instant Pot, but no matter what I do to my pot roast, it tastes the same. Delicious roast and tasty gravy, but seasonings and veggies make no difference at all. [more inside]
I am working on a marketing plan to promote an upcoming book. One market in the mix is magazines to whom I'd submit freelance articles as excerpts about subjects in the book. I've read submission guidelines that say freelancers should suggest a story idea to an editor and wait for a response. [more inside]
My car is totaled and I don't want to buy or lease another one until my divorce is finalized. What's the most affordable way to rent one for one to three months? [more inside]
I have a wedding to attend of a relative I am not close to at all. There is a significant gap between the ceremony and the reception and I am not staying nearby. I would like to skip the ceremony but don't really know how big of a faux pas it is. [more inside]
I am working on setting up boundaries more effectively in therapy, as I am a child sexual abuse/emotional/physical/addict abuse survivor. I have trouble setting up boundaries effectively and am looking for some go-to scripting. Snowflakes within! [more inside]
This great thrift shop score could be my new best friend. It's very soft--label says "100% wool," maybe mohair, could be alpaca. It's got a slightly open weave. It sheds like a Persian cat. I'm a complete illiterate in the ways of laundry, much less wool care. Any way I can decrease this tendency? Wash it? Shave it? Some magic liquid?
I like to draw with the Zebra F-301 ballpoint pen, but it's slow, painstaking work to cover large black areas with a pen. I've tried using india ink but it's far less reflective. Is there an ink I could use with a brush that has similar reflective properties to ballpoint pen ink?
Can anyone ID the shoes on the floor in the 3rd pic on this website? Not the ones being crafted, the commercial ones. Thanks.
ISO: Current events, history, and social justice podcasts appropriate for listening to with a five-year-old. [more inside]
The other day I looked myself up on one of those personal information search sites on the web. They had a religious affiliation for me that was out of left field, I've never been this religion, none of my family is this religion, I've never even been a guest at a religious service at this religion's place of worship. Where did they ever get information like that?
We bought a house a couple years ago that has a really nice, fenced-in yard that used to be a really pretty flower garden. But that was some time ago. Now it's overgrown, shady or partially shady in most parts, and generally a big mess of unrealized potential. I've taken a couple stabs over the last couple years at dealing with it, but I really don't know what I'm doing. I'm looking at resources or advice suitable for beginners (like, Gardening 101 -- I don't even know how to clean a yard) that will tell me (like I'm 5, as they say) how I can take the back yard and turn it into something nice. (Details inside.) [more inside]
Swedish speakers and eaters, when you see the word ananaspudding, what do you think of? We are trying to recreate the picnic in the book Pippi Longstocking and we're not quite sure what type of pudding this is. [more inside]
I would like to know what pollen/other allergen that blows up my hay fever when I visit Poland in April-June. [more inside]