What book is the "Come As You Are" for men?

August 25, 2019 7:18 AM

Are there any books that help demystify sex for men the way Come As You Are demystifies it for women?

I read She Comes First but it's juvenile, full of toxic masculinity, and about what men can do to women instead of being specifically about men.

posted by anonymous to Human Relations (3 answers total)

The book The Guide To Getting It On isn't geared specifically towards men (it has chapters about different bodies and different sorts of sex) but it might be useful. You can get old editions pretty cheaply.
posted by needs more cowbell at 8:28 AM on August 25, 2019 [2 favorites]

Emily Nagoski (author of Come As You Are) says in her FAQs that she's not aware of any such book. She suggests that much of CAYA applies to both women as well as men.

There's a book out there called The New Male Sexuality with a 1999 revision. I haven't read it, but there are several positive reviews on Goodreads.

More human sexuality books on Goodreads.
posted by bunderful at 8:44 AM on August 25, 2019 [2 favorites]

I'm a man, I read Come As You Are, and I found it to be relevant to me and helpful. A few sections are about female genitalia, but most of it is about thought processes, emotional responses, and other psychological things that are not strictly gendered.

It's not clear if you are asking because you have read it or because of what you've read about it, so I offer this in case it's the latter.
posted by whatnotever at 10:34 PM on August 25, 2019 [3 favorites]