If someone blocks you on their iphone can you still leave them VM?
July 13, 2019 12:36 PM   Subscribe

Apparently I've been blocked and I have no idea why.

Would love to just leave a voicemail saying I don't get what's happening and just wishing her the best if she wants to cut our friendship so abruptly without even explaining why... but would she even receive it if I did?
posted by fantasticness to Technology (19 answers total) 1 user marked this as a favorite
 
By the way... I have an android and they have an iphone if that matters.
posted by fantasticness at 12:37 PM on July 13


I don’t know if you can, but if they blocked you it’s a clear sign that they don’t want you to. Why not respect that wish?
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear at 12:39 PM on July 13 [22 favorites]


I know that on android you still get voicemails from blocked numbers, but if someone has gone so far as to block you, it's best to respect their wishes and move on with your life.
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 12:42 PM on July 13 [6 favorites]


I don't get what's happening and just wishing her the best if she wants to cut our friendship so abruptly without even explaining why

Having been through this once in the past, the thing to realize is that the blocking is an expression of her wishes. Leaving the voicemail is strictly for you, and is against those wishes. Seeking to circumvent blocking to leave that voicemail pushes it into the 'wrong' zone.
posted by WCityMike at 12:43 PM on July 13 [7 favorites]


actually no.. This person DOES smile and speak to me in person as if we are friends. She will meet up with me when others tell her I'm going to show up. So they want to be around me and are still in contact with me and doing that southern belle crap where they smile to my face and hug me, but have blocked me. So basically they wish to keep contact but on their terms only while keeping me in the dark.

I purposely didn't mention everything because it's really not part of the question so please don't make assumptions. The only issue here is I would like to know if I can leave a voicemail.
posted by fantasticness at 12:44 PM on July 13 [1 favorite]


Yes, it shows up under Blocked Messages menu on the iPhone VM tab. It does not trigger the notification count, and remains there an unknown length of time until deliberate deletion. My oldest blocked message is from Oct 2018, but that is when I last changed phones.
posted by tilde at 12:46 PM on July 13 [3 favorites]


Do you know for sure it was intentional? I was in a Verizon store the other day and a lady came in because she couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t getting calls from her husband. Turns out she’d accidentally blocked him.
posted by brook horse at 12:49 PM on July 13 [6 favorites]


Would love to just leave a voicemail saying I don't get what's happening

[...]

This person DOES smile and speak to me in person as if we are friends.

If this is the case, why not just ask in person? You’d get it off your chest without expressly disrespecting her wishes.
posted by a box and a stick and a string and a bear at 12:50 PM on July 13 [18 favorites]


"If this is the case, why not just ask in person?"

I'd love to, but this person is actually moving tomorrow so i have a very small window to resolve this with them without it ending up a weird gossip channel amongst our friend circle.

I'm a new yorker. We're pretty direct people so if we have a problem with you or you have one with us, we just say so and we try to resolve it directly with the person if possible. This person is from the south so ... they do the opposite thing of telling everyone except the person they seem to have a problem with.

Since we share a friend circle it absolutely WILL eventually desolve into a weird high school he said/she said thing amongst friends who ask me why we're not in touch anymore when I don't know myself and tell me what they "heard" what's going on when I myself don't know and that such nonsense. I'm hoping to prevent all that by simply telling her directly like an adult and inviting her to do the same with me. If she doesn't contact me back it's fine since at least I tried to prevent the gossip crap, but I'd like a chance to at least try to prevent it.
posted by fantasticness at 1:05 PM on July 13


[Folks, the "don't do it" suggestion has been made; OP can consider that. From here out please stick to "can I/how can I", and it's fine to just skip it if you don't want to help with this. fantasticness, to prevent this turning into a back-and-forth discussion or referendum on your plan, please leave it there and stick to technical followups only.]
posted by LobsterMitten (staff) at 1:09 PM on July 13 [1 favorite]


The simple answer is yes. They're in Blocked Voicemails or something (you have to scroll way down your voicemail list to see it), but yes, you can.
posted by Making You Bored For Science at 1:51 PM on July 13 [1 favorite]


Can't you just call from somebody else's phone?
posted by clarissajoy at 1:51 PM on July 13 [3 favorites]


I highly advise against calling from someone else’s phone. You want to be straightforward, not deceitful in getting around the block.
posted by ejs at 2:44 PM on July 13 [3 favorites]


I have an iPhone and I have blocked people. Those people have left me voicemails. The voicemails ended up in a sub-folder of voicemail that I didn't even realize I had until significantly later. In my case, I deleted said voicemails un-listened, after I realized that they were there.
posted by Alterscape at 2:53 PM on July 13 [5 favorites]


Hi %name, I seem to be blocked from calling you. If that's the case, I'd love to know why, but would absolutely respect your wishes. If you didn't block me, let me know so we can resolve any technical issue.
posted by theora55 at 5:20 PM on July 13


Can't you just call from somebody else's phone?

I highly advise against calling from someone else’s phone.

Long shot but, do payphones still exist in your area? It sounds old-fashioned but it would let you leave the desired voicemail without it being a call from a different person.
posted by Armed Only With Hubris at 4:08 AM on July 14


I've heard it said that something like half of Seinfeld episodes would make no sense in a world in which smartphones existed. But this is a situation that sounds like it could plausibly be a Seinfeld plot.

So, that said, if I were in this situation, I might ask myself:

- What would George do?
- What would Elaine do?
- What would Newman do?

etc...
posted by bunbury at 10:57 AM on July 14


As already mentioned, you can leave a message if your call goes to voicemail, but there is no guarantee that the recipient will ever see it, much less listen to it.
posted by dancing leaves at 5:59 AM on July 18


You don’t have this persons email or have them friended on Facebook?

If emails have gone unanswered and you’ve been defriended or ignored on social, that’s more reason to drop it. Otherwise I’d use an avenue of contact that hasn’t been closed in preference to anything phone related.

And I would limit the inquiry as to whether it was intentional, I think demanding an explanation is iffy.
posted by snuffleupagus at 6:22 PM on July 18


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