Synonyms for "hanging out"
January 11, 2019 3:12 PM   Subscribe

For whatever reason I deplore saying I am going to "hang out" with someone. What can this phrase be replaced with, when referring to the plans you have with friends? "Date" has such strong romantic connotations it doesn't work for me.
posted by long haired child to Writing & Language (31 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
Maybe it's too vague for you? Try being more specific(?):

I'm meeting Amy for coffee.

I'm heading over to Amy's house for a few hours.

Amy and I are going to the coast for a day.
posted by hydra77 at 3:17 PM on January 11 [2 favorites]

Meet up
Go out
posted by alchemist at 3:18 PM on January 11 [5 favorites]

I completely feel this. I usually use “get together,” since it doesn’t have the same “coolest kid in the fifth grade” vibe.
posted by chesty_a_arthur at 3:18 PM on January 11 [11 favorites]

Meet up would be my go to.
posted by Admiral Haddock at 3:18 PM on January 11 [1 favorite]

We have plans. We're going to do whatever. We're chilling. We're having facetime.

Also an option: just stating what the plans are. "I'm going over to Bob's to watch TV." "Hannah and I are getting together to have lunch and look at our phones."
posted by palomar at 3:19 PM on January 11

Amy and I are doing a thing tonight.

Keep it vague!
posted by sacrifix at 3:19 PM on January 11

Spend time with?
posted by Fig at 3:19 PM on January 11 [8 favorites]

connect with?
posted by ubiquity at 3:22 PM on January 11

Catching up!
posted by estlin at 3:23 PM on January 11 [4 favorites]




posted by Kirth Gerson at 3:26 PM on January 11 [5 favorites]

See. Spend time with.
posted by epj at 3:46 PM on January 11 [2 favorites]

Kicking back with. Kickin' it with.
posted by strelitzia at 3:55 PM on January 11 [1 favorite]

Associate with
posted by SaltySalticid at 3:58 PM on January 11

I sometimes ask people if they would like to gather.
posted by ChuraChura at 4:02 PM on January 11 [4 favorites]

Where I live in the southern US people say "visiting with" and the meaning, to my ears, is somewhat vague. Run into a friend at the supermarket and spend a few minutes chatting, that's "visiting with". Have intense long conversations in any environment, that is "visiting with".

I like it.
posted by mareli at 4:07 PM on January 11 [12 favorites]

In Toronto it's "link up".
posted by Pomo at 4:07 PM on January 11 [2 favorites]

"Visiting" is the first thing I thought of.
posted by Gilgamesh's Chauffeur at 4:19 PM on January 11

I get drinks with friends a lot, so sometimes I say that. Though this works best when you're, you know, getting drinks with someone.
posted by bluedaisy at 4:20 PM on January 11

“Visiting with” is part of my active vocabulary.
posted by adamrice at 4:31 PM on January 11 [3 favorites]

I have plans with Amy.
posted by vignettist at 4:36 PM on January 11

I have used "friend date" for this. It's unambiguously non-romantic.
posted by transient at 4:40 PM on January 11 [1 favorite]

You could reintroduce "foregathering".
posted by clew at 5:55 PM on January 11 [1 favorite]

Visit is great because you can modify and inflect it:
I had a nice long visit with those wonderful folks down at the DMV
I had a nice long visit with Amy and we finally caught up
I only have time for a quick visit but I’d love for you to stop by the studio
Yeah, I’ve been visiting with Amy a fair amount recently. It’s going well.
posted by a halcyon day at 7:05 PM on January 11

I also use “meeting up” for this.
posted by ejs at 7:47 PM on January 11

“[Friend] and I are gonna do a thing.”

“Hey [Friend], wanna get together and do a thing Saturday night?”
posted by Secret Sparrow at 9:04 PM on January 11 [1 favorite]

Where I grew up, the vernacular was "to stop by". As in, "I'm going to go out, stop by the Jones' place". Which could be for five minutes or five hours.

To my ear, this sounds somewhat mysterious without a heavy Yankee accent, though. YMMV.
posted by Kadin2048 at 11:40 PM on January 11

Catching up, as in, tonight, I’m catching up with Liam Hensworth and Brad Pitt. (Ha!)
posted by Jubey at 1:22 AM on January 12

I also dislike the "hang out" term. My solution has been to be more deliberate about what I say. If I'm just telling someone else about my plans, I'll say what we're doing in vague terms (on Tuesday I'm getting coffee with Jen; or I have plans with Greg on Saturday afternoon).

If I'm making plans with someone in particular, I try to use terms like "spending time" or "sharing time." (For example: "Hey Kelly, would you like to spend some time together this week? [Insert specific proposal here.]) It's part of a simultaneous effort on my part to try to be a little more vulnerable with friends by actually telling them explicitly that I like them and want to spend time with them, so that particular wording may feel too intimate or cuddly for your purposes, but it's what works for me.
posted by Urban Winter at 10:48 AM on January 12

I'm 26. I say "chill" "go meet up" and "check in and spend some time" if it's a little more serious, like after they had a rough time.
posted by yueliang at 11:19 AM on January 12

"Socialize with"?
posted by ezrainch at 9:23 AM on January 13

I also dislike saying "hang out." I use visit , get together with, meet up with, or do/have a thing with. Or, similar to transient's suggestion of "friend date," I just call scheduled plans with one other person "a date" completely irrespective of gender/orientation/partnered status.
posted by desuetude at 7:40 AM on January 14

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