Long Distance Relationship Songs: Sad/yearning Edition
January 2, 2019 3:00 PM   Subscribe

I'm looking for songs about long distance relationships, or songs that evoke long distance relationships even if they aren't specifically about them. I know there have been past questions about this, but I'm not looking for songs to put on a mixtape for a partner or upbeat love songs or anything like that. I specifically want songs about the difficulty of distance, songs that yearn, songs that will make me cry.

So far, I have Death Cab's Transatlanticism because it's required, Lights' Muscle Memory, Bendigo Fletcher's Winter Strokes, Wale's 3 Days 3 Hours, Ralph's Lit the Fire, and Snow Patrol's Set the Fire to the Third Bar. I listen to primarily indie pop, folk, hip-hop, and R&B, and I would prefer more modern.
posted by Anne Shirley to Media & Arts (61 answers total) 13 users marked this as a favorite
 
It's not modern, but Dire Straits "So Far Away" is the only song that ever comes up in my head whenever this theme pops up.

And hey, maybe it's aged okay. :)
posted by billjings at 3:02 PM on January 2, 2019 [4 favorites]


Far From Me, Nick Cave

Get Here by Oleta Adams
posted by runincircles at 3:23 PM on January 2, 2019


Winterthru, by Ad Frank & The Fast Easy Women
posted by prize bull octorok at 3:24 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Best answer: Waiting, Alice Boman.
posted by TinyChicken at 3:30 PM on January 2, 2019


Leaving on a jet plane/John Denver
posted by LaBellaStella at 3:44 PM on January 2, 2019 [3 favorites]


I am probably going to be crowned Prince Obvious but here is a nice perhaps unfamiliar version of Leaving on a Jet Plane.

Possibly best listened to rather than watched so you can miss John Denver's awful haircut.
posted by Smearcase at 3:46 PM on January 2, 2019 [2 favorites]


Best answer: I Was Just Thinking, by Teitur.
posted by zoetrope at 3:46 PM on January 2, 2019


Such Great Heights, Postal Service and Rivers and Roads, Head and the Heart.
posted by Empidonax at 3:56 PM on January 2, 2019 [3 favorites]


Answering Machine by the Replacements is my go to for this. "How do you say good night to an answering machine...?" I know it's not modern but it has a gritty indie feel I feel like. And it's SO about long distance relationship yearning.
posted by jessamyn at 3:59 PM on January 2, 2019 [2 favorites]


Best answer: So Far Away by Carole King
posted by unknowncommand at 4:00 PM on January 2, 2019 [4 favorites]


Against All Odds by Phil Collins
posted by Sassyfras at 4:03 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]




Maps by the Yeah Yeah Yeahs. (It's about Karen O's relationship with Angus Andrew from the Liars.)
posted by vunder at 4:08 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]




Susan Across The Ocean by The Silos
posted by maupuia at 4:30 PM on January 2, 2019


Unchained Melody, Righteous Brothers
posted by she's not there at 4:49 PM on January 2, 2019 [3 favorites]


Best answer: Shovels & Rope "Lay Low". Bonus live version.
posted by Ufez Jones at 5:06 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Best answer: Yo La Tengo - Nowhere Near
posted by lolibrarian at 5:08 PM on January 2, 2019


The Lucksmiths (they're good on this): "Guess How Much I Love You"
posted by ryanshepard at 5:09 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Laakso: "Aussie Girl"
posted by ryanshepard at 5:17 PM on January 2, 2019


Duvall - Racine
posted by Polycarp at 5:20 PM on January 2, 2019


Tale of a New York - Phnom Penh LDR courtesy of Dengue Fever: Tiger Phone Card
posted by wats at 5:24 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Correct link for that 2nd Lucksmiths song.
posted by ryanshepard at 5:29 PM on January 2, 2019


If there's room for a timeless oldie: Glen Campbell - Wichita Lineman. Gets me every single time.
posted by Jellybean_Slybun at 5:56 PM on January 2, 2019 [3 favorites]


hahaha I bring you MORE Lucksmiths! The Great Dividing Range.

I agree Wichita Lineman is one for the ages and so does Michael Stipe.
posted by clavicle at 5:59 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Cheese factor: Faithfully by Journey.
posted by wellred at 6:26 PM on January 2, 2019 [2 favorites]


I am not sure if it is about a LDR or a long-distance breakup, but Bruised by Jack's Mannequin fits this, I feel.

Also Home again by Shihad. It's 90s Kiwi rock but it's simple in its message.
posted by BeeJiddy at 6:29 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


More about familial longing than romantic, but Kilkelly, Ireland by Peter Jones destroys me, everytime. It's based on a series of letters found in an attic sent by Jones' great, great grandfather in Ireland to a son who had emigrated in the 1860s.
posted by peppermind at 6:48 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Boston and St. John's by Great Big Sea fits the bill. Also their Summer and Clearest Indication and England.

Also lots of Josh Ritter, including Hold Me In Your Arms, Can't Go To Sleep Without You , Real Long Distance , and Man Burning at Both Ends

Second the recommendation for Such Great Heights by The Postal Service. Also their The District Sleeps Alone Tonight.

Jimmy Buffet Come Monday is great for this too.
posted by notjustthefish at 7:16 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Calling Cards by Neko Case
posted by armoir from antproof case at 7:18 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


This is more long distance broken up, but Jimmy Buffett's Distantly In Love gets me every time.
posted by TwoStride at 7:21 PM on January 2, 2019


Song for a Winter's Night - I like Sarah McLachlan's version.

John Mayer has a couple of these, not necessarily about long-distance, but definitely evoking of such:
Edge of Desire
Split Screen Sadness
posted by yawper at 7:33 PM on January 2, 2019




If there's room for a timeless oldie: Glen Campbell - Wichita Lineman. Gets me every single time.

For max yearning, Linda Bruner's version will tear your fucking heart out.
posted by nebulawindphone at 8:20 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Also unsure if its LDR has cooled, but another classic is I Wish You Could Be Here by the Cyrkle (or actually, Paul Simon).
posted by Rash at 9:06 PM on January 2, 2019


If you want to extend to friendship, there's Michelle Shocked's gorgeous Anchorage. (Alas, she's gone off the deep end lately...)
posted by praemunire at 9:06 PM on January 2, 2019


Oh man, I have a lot of these, actually.

This sounds upbeat but actually could be understood as longing from afar to connect with someone who you miss: Golden Smog, "Cure for This"

I think this one is actually possibly about a breakup, but it also speaks to longing to see someone's future from afar (with perhaps some schadenfreude): Built to Spill, "Car"

This one's in my head a lot. It's actually about calling up a friend and collaborator and talking through one's own misery, but it has a tinge of longing admiration that works for long-distance crushes, friends, or significant others: case/lang/veirs, "Best Kept Secret"

This one is probably about a breakup also, but it's so wistful and about things held in abeyance, so it works quite well with regard to things unspoken, long-distance: The Bottle Rockets, "Things You Didn't Know"

There is something about this song that evokes for me the kind of way that everything in a long-distance relationship can tend to occur alternately packed into someone's single room when you're visiting or imagining what they're thinking from afar, seeing that small room in your mind's eye: K's Choice, "In Your Room"

I feel like this is a classic in the genre of long-distance road love songs: Blue Öyster Cult, "Burnin' for You"

Wistful: Ryan Adams, "How You Get the Girl"

Carol van Dijk tells a disenchanted tale of romance and longing on the road: Bettie Serveert, "Lover I Don't Have to Love"

"I can feel it in my bones, I'm gonna spend another year alone": Liz Phair, "Fuck and Run"

This is most-defs a letter to someone from afar, their folded address in your pocket: The Wallflowers, "The Beautiful Side of Somewhere"

"You got that special kind of sadness; you got that tragic set of charms": Dawes, "Time Spent in Los Angeles"

Um, this is the song for when it all goes wrong and you're alone, thinking of someone far away: Ryan Adams, "Anybody Wanna Take Me Home"

This song will mess you up: The Magnetic Fields, "Papa Was a Rodeo"

"Tonight the headphones will deliver you the words that I can't say... a million miles away": Fall Out Boy, "Homesick at Space Camp"

"Valkyrie, don't go home... It's not right, not right": The New Pornographers, "Valkyrie in the Roller Disco"

"I am waiting for the telephone to tell me I'm alive": Counting Crows, "Daylight Fading"

A wistful recent addition to my own collection: Dar Williams, "Iowa (Traveling III)"

"That echo chorus lied to me with its 'hold on, hold on, hold on, hold on'": Neko Case, "Hold On, Hold On"

A slow burn: "Late at night I'm in my bed and in my head, and the feelings start to creep up...": Veruca Salt, "Empty Bottle"

"Now I send back letters from the wasteland home, where I slow-dance to this romance on my own": The Wallflowers, "Letters from the Wasteland"

"My night drive loneliness comes again and again": Garbage, "Night Drive Loneliness"

It's really all in the title: blink-182, "Home Is Such a Lonely Place"

"I reach out for your hand but I know it isn't there. I pick up my phone and I shiver and I stare": Ryan Adams, "Shiver and Shake"

"I knew I would miss the wake-ups by your side...": Sahara Hotnights, "Your Anyone"

"My love took a ride on a red-eye plane, going home, and we're never gonna feel the same": Kathleen Edwards, "Change the Sheets"

OK that's probably enough for tonight. Be well!
posted by limeonaire at 10:34 PM on January 2, 2019 [2 favorites]


Franz Ferdinand, "Come on Home" and "Eleanor Put Your Boots on"

Queen, "'39"
posted by cadge at 10:39 PM on January 2, 2019


OK OK, one more. I'd meant to add this to the list earlier but forgot for a sec: Catfish and the Bottlemen, "7"
posted by limeonaire at 10:52 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


I'll match with the Rowena Taheny version of Killkelly.

Michele Marsh, Far From the Home I Love, from Fiddler on the Roof.

Ruthie Henshall's version of Come to Me, from Les Miserables.

Lisa Kelly, former member of Celtic Woman, Send Me a Song.

Mary Black, Emmylou Harris and Dolores Keane, Sonny.

Nanci Griffith's version of Boots of Spanish Leather, one of the peerless examples of the Transatlantic Sessions.

I love the Ed Sheeran version of The Parting Glass, but the Choral Scholars of University College, Dublin, also do a marvelous rendition.

And let's end with a few melodies from my favorite singer, Niamh Parsons:
Flower of Finae
The West Coast of Clare
The Water Is Wide
Bonny Woodhall
posted by TrishaU at 11:20 PM on January 2, 2019


ELO, "Telephone Line"
posted by cadge at 11:22 PM on January 2, 2019 [1 favorite]


Hey There Delilah by Plain White T's
posted by photoelectric at 1:37 AM on January 3, 2019 [1 favorite]


Runnin Thru My Dreams by Sunny Levine spoke to me to whole lot during a recent LDR.
posted by bluedaisy at 2:45 AM on January 3, 2019


Find Me by Sigma ft. Birdy (video features Millie Bobby Brown from Stranger Things).
posted by wheek wheek wheek at 2:51 AM on January 3, 2019


Best answer: I Will Marry You - Mean Lady. Simple and lovely lovely.

When you're far across the ocean
Far away far way far away
I will call your name.
When it's far enough to matter
It's a shame, it's a shame, it's a shame
I will call your name.
posted by humuhumu at 3:39 AM on January 3, 2019


Travis: Writing to Reach You.
posted by rongorongo at 4:56 AM on January 3, 2019


Oh good lord I have a huge playlist of this type of song (and I have similar musical taste to you) but it's at home and I am at work. I will come back later and share: it's got a lot of The Lucksmiths and Ryan Adams on it.

For now? Joanna Newsom's entire album Have One On Me makes me cry.

Especially In California and Does Not Suffice.
posted by elsietheeel at 7:45 AM on January 3, 2019


And distance and longing are quintessentially Celtic ballads and country melodies. Let's add some of the latter....

Mary Chapin Carpenter, 10,000 Miles, from Fly Away Home.

Patsy Cline, You Belong To Me.

Dixie Chicks, Travelin' Soldier.

Elle King, Ain't No Sunshine.

Rhiannon Giddens, Wayfaring Stranger.

Nanci Griffith, If These Walls Could Speak and during the Transatlantic Sessions, Who Knows Where The Time Goes.

Patty Loveless, You'll Never Leave Harlan Alive and Nothin' But the Wheel.

And from my favorite country singer, a few ballads from Emmylou Harris:
Gulf Coast Highway, with Willie Nelson
Better Off Without You
Boulder To Birmingham
If I Could Be There
My Antonia, with Dave Matthews
posted by TrishaU at 7:59 AM on January 3, 2019 [2 favorites]


Czars, Song to the Siren John Grant's voice and the lyrics (Jeff Buckley) are so lovely.
posted by effluvia at 8:33 AM on January 3, 2019


More about familial longing than romantic, but Kilkelly, Ireland yt by Peter Jones destroys me, everytime. It's based on a series of letters found in an attic sent by Jones' great, great grandfather in Ireland to a son who had emigrated in the 1860s.

"Danny Boy" is obviously the canonical Irish song of familial separation - Eva Cassidy's reading of it never fails to put a lump in my throat.
posted by ryanshepard at 8:48 AM on January 3, 2019


Ann Beretta - Long Distance
posted by namewithoutwords at 10:47 AM on January 3, 2019


I tried to find newer stuff but apparently I've slacked off for the last 10 years!

Colin Blunstone - Though You Are Far Away
America - Sister Golden Hair
Jim Croce - I'll Have To Say I Love You In A Song
The Shocking Blue - Send Me A Postcard
Jenny Toomey - Baby Would It Matter
The Replacements - Answering Machine
posted by rhizome at 11:28 AM on January 3, 2019 [1 favorite]


Where I'll Find You - Joan Shelley
Magnetized - Laura Veirs
Float - Erin McKeown
Pamphleteer - the Weakerthans
This is a Fire Door Never Leave Open - the Weakerthans
So Long - Jenny Owen Youngs
Song for the Fireflies - Josh Ritter
Letter from Omaha - Josh Ritter
posted by fairlynearlyready at 11:42 AM on January 3, 2019


I'm kind of amazed no one has posted this one yet given the season.

The Pretenders - 2000 Miles
posted by wps98 at 1:58 PM on January 3, 2019


Zero 7 - Destiny
posted by brianrobot at 8:36 PM on January 3, 2019


There is a Julie Doiron album called Goodnight Nobody that evokes this feeling. Specifically, you should check out the songs Last Night, Tonight is No Night, and Some Blues.
posted by to recite so charmingly at 9:12 PM on January 3, 2019


Air, How does it Make you Feel?

Carole King, So Far Away
posted by Dressed to Kill at 5:09 AM on January 4, 2019


I don’t think I saw either of these above (apologies for not linking, on phone): Otis Redding, “These Arms of Mine,” and Bob Dylan, “You’re Gonna Make Me Lonesome When You Go.” Not contemporary but the Otis Redding especially will for your desire, I think!
posted by stillmoving at 4:27 PM on January 4, 2019


I can't find my damn playlist at the moment, but I have another Joanna Newsom song (which seems oddly relevant since her husband Andy Samberg just called out the state assassination of the Black Panthers in the 70s at the Golden Globes) that immediately made me burst into tears.

On A Good Day - Joanna Newsom

The song is less than two minutes long, but it manages to rip your heart out and bury it in a sepulchre several times over. It's less about LDRs and more about the end of a relationship due to separate roads to travel, but it's weep-worthy all the same.

Hey hey hey the end is near
On a good day you can see the end from here
But I won't turn back now though the way is clear
I will stay for the remainder

I saw a life and I called it mine
I saw it drawn so sweet and fine
And I had begun to fill in all the lines
Right down to what we'd name her
. . .
So, across the years and miles and through
On a good day you can feel my love for you
Will you leave me be so that we can stay true
To the path that you have chosen?

posted by elsietheeel at 9:42 PM on January 6, 2019


The Waifs, London Still
posted by andraste at 3:11 PM on January 8, 2019


The National --- "About Today"
posted by Ostara at 12:04 PM on February 6, 2019


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