Help me help myself
July 18, 2018 4:58 PM Subscribe
What are some good reading recommendations to help me overcome my abandonment issues?
I've been in a great relationship for 6 months and I've been struggling to overcome abandonment issues. I've been showing obvious signs (always focusing on the negative aspects, trouble letting go of an argument, fear of rejection.. etc) and I want to work on helping myself. Abandonment issues mainly stem from my first relationship. It was emotional, fast and ended out of nowhere soon after. She stopped to talking to me completely and I went through a traumatic experience trying to figure out what happened. I've always struggled with it in my past relationships (it pretty much ended one of them) and I never confronted it until now.
I understand I won't truly overcome it until I see a professional but I'd like to get a head start and wrap my head around what it is I'm dealing with. I don't want to hurt this wonderful relationship I'm in and I feel I'm starting to sabotage myself.
Please, are there any good books that I could pick up that could help me get on the right path.
Thank you.
I've been in a great relationship for 6 months and I've been struggling to overcome abandonment issues. I've been showing obvious signs (always focusing on the negative aspects, trouble letting go of an argument, fear of rejection.. etc) and I want to work on helping myself. Abandonment issues mainly stem from my first relationship. It was emotional, fast and ended out of nowhere soon after. She stopped to talking to me completely and I went through a traumatic experience trying to figure out what happened. I've always struggled with it in my past relationships (it pretty much ended one of them) and I never confronted it until now.
I understand I won't truly overcome it until I see a professional but I'd like to get a head start and wrap my head around what it is I'm dealing with. I don't want to hurt this wonderful relationship I'm in and I feel I'm starting to sabotage myself.
Please, are there any good books that I could pick up that could help me get on the right path.
Thank you.
How to be an adult in relationships by David Richo and Attached: The Science of Adult attachment by Amir Levine are good resources for this!
posted by Nilehorse at 7:02 AM on July 19, 2018
posted by Nilehorse at 7:02 AM on July 19, 2018
This thread is closed to new comments.
posted by forthright at 7:14 PM on July 18, 2018 [1 favorite]