Fiction and memoir about reconstructing childhood
March 19, 2018 12:03 AM   Subscribe

This was me. Help me find fiction to help me move forward.

In the past few months, I've gone to a lot of therapy and begun reconnecting with family from whom I was previously estranged. One particularly helpful thing has been occasionally connecting with other people who were similarly lied to about aspects of their childhood--for example, a cousin who was told their parent never wanted to see them when that parent didn't know they existed. I'd like to read more accounts of people with similar experiences. Can you recommend fiction and memoir along similar lines--where a child was told by a parent or caregiver (either deliberately or because of mental illness) that reality was one thing, when they learn later in life that this sequence of events was false?
posted by anonymous to Media & Arts (3 answers total) 5 users marked this as a favorite
 
I'm sorry to hear that your family life has been upended and rearranged. I remember a similar plot in The Tempest (Shakespeare). And The Glass Castle (Walls) has not one but two parents who might fit your description.
posted by flyingfork at 1:27 AM on March 19, 2018


Why Be Happy When you Could be Normal? - Jeanette Winterson.

All the best - I hope things work out for you.
posted by sedimentary_deer at 2:12 AM on March 19, 2018


On the fiction front, I immediately thought of a few particular books by Martha Grimes. She has written a series of mysteries of novel quality. There was a sequence of them in which her detective confronts his own past. His mother was killed in the London blitz, and he can't be sure which of his memories are true and which are wishful reconstructions. I think you would be looking at these three, in order:

The Blue Last
The Grave Maurice
The Winds of Change

The books are not about Jury's ruminations on his origins. They are mysteries about other things, but the themes of origin and memory are related in a novelistic way.

And where memory is concerned, there is always Proust, if you dare.
posted by SemiSalt at 11:47 AM on March 19, 2018


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