Gender reveal cake
February 1, 2018 8:33 AM   Subscribe

I'm coming out as nonbinary trans at work in three weeks, and am planning on getting a tongue-in-cheek gender reveal cake to celebrate getting through the day. I want the cake to say something that expresses "My gender is: who cares", but funnier and friendlier than that. My boo and my nearest and dearest friends are going to be eating this with me. Funnier-than-me minds of MeFi, what should it say?
posted by avocet to Human Relations (32 answers total) 11 users marked this as a favorite
idk but it should definitely be funfetti
posted by phunniemee at 8:34 AM on February 1, 2018 [41 favorites]

posted by anya32 at 8:38 AM on February 1, 2018 [2 favorites]

Your pronouns? Maybe as a cake topper, like one of these?
posted by AFABulous at 8:44 AM on February 1, 2018 [2 favorites]

Seconding the funfetti, as I thought exactly the same thing. It is many-colored, but is also just a decorative element to the whole of the cake itself. Plus it's sprinkles and sprinkles = fun.
posted by EmpressCallipygos at 8:48 AM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

Oooh, good clarification - this will not be news to anyone I will be eating cake with, merely celebrating getting through the reveal earlier in the day.
posted by avocet at 8:49 AM on February 1, 2018 [3 favorites]

"My gender is awesome"?
posted by nebulawindphone at 8:50 AM on February 1, 2018 [14 favorites]

My gender is ¯\_(ツ)_/¯ and my pronouns are _______
posted by AFABulous at 8:50 AM on February 1, 2018 [12 favorites]

It's a me
posted by bleep at 8:52 AM on February 1, 2018 [72 favorites]

What I thought of was the Bill Nye "Now You Know" graphic but you said your friends already know. So maybe "Now They Know"?
posted by Emmy Rae at 8:54 AM on February 1, 2018

i just friggin love this idea. gender reveal cakes are usually pink or blue, the "reveal" being when it gets cut right? (which it's all so silly / messed up, but i digress). what if you like, had "my gender is delicious!!!" and then filled the cake like this with a whole buncha your fave rainbowy candies? this is literally such a sweet way to celebrate, i hope it all goes well!
posted by crawfo at 8:54 AM on February 1, 2018 [26 favorites]

Here are all the ideas various MeFites have come up with.
posted by solotoro at 8:57 AM on February 1, 2018 [8 favorites]

It's a bit pronoun-focused (and might not match yours) but in a recent similar situation I made much use of these charming giant ants.
No terror like them known by man or beast before!
A horror horde of crawl-and-crush giants!
Could be printed onto an icing sheet.

Bonus idea: chop your two favourite cakes in half, stick the mismatched halves together, write both/neither/something else/nah/wevs/pffft/hurrah across the top in writing icing.

Hope it all goes swimmingly!
posted by Socksmith at 9:16 AM on February 1, 2018 [3 favorites]

Do you and your friends like Star Wars?

"Only the cis deal in absolutes"

Obviously with a cute yoda image to go with it. This was the title of a trans thread I saw on a forum ages ago.
posted by Erberus at 9:19 AM on February 1, 2018 [30 favorites]

Congrats, how exciting! And what a fun idea!

This seems like as good an excuse for rainbow cake as any. (I am very biased towards brightly colored things, fwiw.) The Cake Boss dude sells a box mix that is "tie-dye" so a little less straight-up rainbow. The "pinata" cake would be really fun and celebratory too.

Good luck!
posted by emkelley at 9:22 AM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

Oh! I had an idea about this a while ago after binge watching too much food tv. Gender is an intangible social construct, right, so to express that you'd need something intangible... but also edible. And so my idea is: a cotton candy surprise dessert.

Make a funfetti rainbow sprinkle cupcake or cookie or brownie/blondie, decorate with sugar question marks or smiley faces or your pronouns or hearts and stars or whatever you like. Plate on top of some yummy fruit, but make sure to keep any moist cut surfaces covered by the baked good. Then entirely envelop the whole shebang in clouds of bright pink and blue cotton candy. Provide pots of relatively unsweet sauce, maybe chocolate but something like a vanilla cream or a lemon syrup would be delicious, feel free to booze it up. And then everybody pours the sauce over the cloud of pointlessly gendery cotton candy to reveal your nonbinary cake and fruit, and the cotton candy magically melts into the sauce to sweeten it!
posted by Mizu at 9:27 AM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

IT’S A HUMAN!!!!! Purple lettering, purple balloons. Or orange or whatever you like.
posted by bunderful at 9:29 AM on February 1, 2018 [3 favorites]

To both surprise and delight your friends as you revel in relief, what about a cake that looks fairly standard, embellished with iced words and/or objects as you see fit, but when cut reveals a checkerboard pattern using whatever two colors resonate for you. They're pretty easy to make and don't require special equipment. Here's some randomly chosen instructions. Congrats!
posted by carmicha at 9:47 AM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

I'm not a huge fan of super-fussy interior colors (trying to get perfect polka dots or shapes or 6 different colored layers, or whatever) but I did try this technique for rainbow swirl cake, and it was easy and impressive.
posted by aimedwander at 9:57 AM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

For some reason yellow vanilla is really coming to mind. Subverting expectations!
posted by St. Peepsburg at 10:10 AM on February 1, 2018

Only the cis deal in absolutes

Oh this got me bad. Bust out laughing in my office.

"it's a person" was going to be mine
posted by French Fry at 10:18 AM on February 1, 2018 [4 favorites]

I would suggest purple insides (because it's both pink and blue) but Funfetti is better!

If you do the thing where you cut the cake and candies fall out, bear in mind you can get custom-printed M&Ms.
posted by blnkfrnk at 10:47 AM on February 1, 2018

"It's a ... person!"
posted by rabbitrabbit at 10:51 AM on February 1, 2018

Camo or tie-dye cake, in yellow, green, purple, orange, or any of your favorite colors, not necessarily pink & blue. Your pronouns in the same colors. Pinterest has lots of results for non-binary trans images, you might find inspiration.
posted by theora55 at 11:37 AM on February 1, 2018

What if it was a “piñata cake” but then when you cut into it, it’s a doll/figurine with your face on it?

Too weird?

No, not weird enough
posted by raccoon409 at 11:38 AM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

Are you doing it on Mardi Gras? How about a King/Queen cake?
posted by roger ackroyd at 11:50 AM on February 1, 2018

If you decorate with a bunch of question marks (and you're a geek) then you could say "It's a Time Lord!"

Okay too gendered, although I say technically not really...or it's a Time Person!

Sorry, too nerdy. Funfetti for reals though.
posted by elsietheeel at 12:29 PM on February 1, 2018

How about white frosting sprinkled with funfetti that when cut into reveals a three-layer cake with layers of lavender, white, and green?

For text, I lean towards “my gender identity is nah” but your experience may differ.
posted by Lexica at 1:43 PM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

Thank you so much for all the suggestions so far! Coincidentally, my entry into the Star Wars universe was concurrent with the beginning of my coming-out process, so I've marked that as best so far...
posted by avocet at 1:44 PM on February 1, 2018 [2 favorites]

I'd do a funfetti cake with Bleep's "It's a me" suggestion on the top in icing, but have a little mardi-gras king cake baby baked in EACH SLICE, so that you can say, "it's a human!" when the babies are revealed.
posted by shortyJBot at 3:45 PM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

Ube cake if you're near a Filipino bakery.
posted by brujita at 5:17 PM on February 1, 2018 [1 favorite]

I would frost a giant pile of naan.
posted by advicepig at 5:29 PM on February 1, 2018

Maybe have a reference to the Greendale Human Beings mascot?
posted by jenfullmoon at 11:15 PM on February 1, 2018

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