Questionnaires to answer and show others?

July 29, 2016 5:00 PM

My girlfriend and I have been exchanging answers to the "36 questions to make you fall in love." We typically do one before bed, and they often start interesting conversations We're going to try Proust's Questionnaire next. What other questions can we answer for each other?
posted by d. z. wang to Education (7 answers total)

Gregory Stock's books are the classics for this. One of them is geared towards Love and Sex, and the first one was just The Book of Questions. Be warned that some of the questions in the first book are pretty dark.
posted by Ostara at 5:19 PM on July 29, 2016 [1 favorite]

The book If has questions you can pose to each other.
posted by starlybri at 5:30 PM on July 29, 2016

Mojo Upgrade is an interactive sex questionnaire for couples to help them discover the fantasies that they might both enjoy together.
posted by blue t-shirt at 6:14 PM on July 29, 2016 [3 favorites]

You might find some value in Before You Say I Do by Todd Outcalt (important - not the book of the same title by H. Norman Wright, unless you're a conservative Christian). It's more aimed at couples further down the relationship line than you, but it's inexpensive and might spark some interesting conversations about life goals and styles.

If you want something you can do with friends to spark conversations, you might check out The Ungame.
posted by Candleman at 6:56 PM on July 29, 2016 [1 favorite]

Hm... Given your examples I'm thinking you're looking for something a bit lighter than some of the above suggestions? Try Our Q&A a Day: a three year journal for two people.
posted by jrobin276 at 3:04 AM on July 30, 2016

Response by poster: Not sure if that was a question, but serious questionnaires are great too. "Before You Say I Do" is not premature.
posted by d. z. wang at 3:40 AM on July 30, 2016 [1 favorite]

Googling around I found this article on WaPo with a list of questions focusing on how relationships might end, conflict resolution, etc. Reproduced below:

1) When ending a relationship, do you tend to blame the other person, yourself, or other factors internal and external?
2) In interpersonal conflict, what is the best possible outcome?
3) In arguments, who do you believe should have “the last say”?
4) When someone you love strongly disagrees with you (or vice versa), what is your greatest fear for the outcome?
5) Describe the worst fight you’ve ever had. Did it resolve?
6) Describe the worst recurring fight you’ve ever had. Why do you think it is recurring?
7) If your significant other asks for something you can’t or don’t want to give, how do you respond?
8) Describe your worst “heartbreak.” How long did it take to move on?
9) What is the worst thing you have done in response to heartbreak? The best thing?
10) Have you tried to “stay friends” with any of your exes? Did it work? Do you regret it?
posted by coolname at 8:57 AM on August 3, 2016