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January 27, 2016 12:56 PM   Subscribe

What are your favorite songs with explicit references to kink, BDSM, or power exchange dynamics?

We know about the Genitorturers, Lords of Acid, and VNV Nation. We've got S&M by Rihanna, Get on Your Knees by Nicki Minaj, Kinky Neighbors by the Wet Spots, Master and Servant by Depeche Mode, Venus in Furs by the Velvet Underground, and Madonna's Erotica. We have Hozier's "Take Me to Church" and Nelly Furtado's "Maneater."

We even have "Bitch, I'm a Bottom" by Pablo Hernandez. What don't we have?

Bonus points for songs not about male dominance/female submission. Extra bonus points for female dominance and queer dynamics. And please let them be on Spotify.
posted by woodvine to Grab Bag (75 answers total) 50 users marked this as a favorite
 




And as long as we are talking about Madonna, don't forget Hanky Panky.

And could you maybe post a link to your playlist when you're done? For science?
posted by sparklemotion at 1:02 PM on January 27, 2016 [7 favorites]


The Velvet Underground's Venus in Furs
yay reading comprehension
posted by phunniemee at 1:03 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Ooo... maybe a stretch, but Soft Cell - Sex Dwarf?
posted by sparklemotion at 1:04 PM on January 27, 2016 [2 favorites]


Joan Jett - Fetish. "Relax, while I pound your ass."
posted by thetortoise at 1:05 PM on January 27, 2016


Golden Streams by The Hidden Cameras is one of my favorite songs.
posted by munchingzombie at 1:06 PM on January 27, 2016 [2 favorites]


The Rolling Stones, "When the Whip Comes Down"
posted by kimota at 1:08 PM on January 27, 2016


Never Say Never - Romeovoid
Tatooed Love Boys - The Pretenders
X Offender - Blondie
posted by brookeb at 1:10 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Billy Idol - Flesh for Fantasy https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dw1oM7LBbxE&list=PL9ED63A4D9B47964C&index=32
posted by heathrowga at 1:11 PM on January 27, 2016


Lagartija Nick by Bauhaus
posted by supermedusa at 1:15 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Adam and the Ants Whip in My Valise
posted by Lou Stuells at 1:25 PM on January 27, 2016


Warm Leatherette - Grace Jones
posted by jbenben at 1:29 PM on January 27, 2016


Titanic Days by Kirsty McColl
posted by dudleian at 1:29 PM on January 27, 2016


that dog Gagged and Tied
posted by janey47 at 1:30 PM on January 27, 2016


Oh-- Adam Ant, "Beat My Guest"
posted by kimota at 1:32 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Queen of Pain by the Cramps
posted by stray thoughts at 1:32 PM on January 27, 2016


This Is Hardcore, by Pulp
posted by Major Matt Mason Dixon at 1:34 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Natalia Kills Mirrors
Fave? um, no
posted by artdrectr at 1:35 PM on January 27, 2016


Melissa Ferrick- Drive
posted by Adridne at 1:35 PM on January 27, 2016


She Wants Revenge -Monologue
"Just give me the safe word and take your hand; And smack me in the mouth , my love"
&
She Wants Revenge - Sister
"She closed her eyes and said quit the talking; You can hurt me do whatever you like"
(That whole album has a similar vibe.)

Britney Spears - I'm A Slave 4 U

Lady GaGa - I Like it Rough

And always fun is Peaches -Fuck the Pain Away

Probably also Foo Fighters - All My Life
posted by Crystalinne at 1:37 PM on January 27, 2016 [2 favorites]


Marc Almond & the Willing Sinners - Mother Fist (and Her Five Daughters)
Fat White Family - Touch the Leather
posted by misteraitch at 1:38 PM on January 27, 2016


Tenacious D - Double Team (foot worship)
posted by DarlingBri at 1:39 PM on January 27, 2016


The Stooges - I Wanna Be Your Dog
posted by Leontine at 1:42 PM on January 27, 2016 [6 favorites]


"Laid", by James. Lack of YouTube links due to cell phone
posted by kellyblah at 1:44 PM on January 27, 2016


The Divinyls - Pleasure & Pain

An oldie but a goody that got teenage me all a flutter though at the time I couldn't quite say why.

Venus in Furs - The Velvet Underground
posted by wwax at 1:45 PM on January 27, 2016


"Mercy Seat," by Ultra Vivid Scene. And it is on Spotify.
posted by ROTFL at 1:46 PM on January 27, 2016


This might be more the video than the lyrics really, but Britney Spears - Work Bitch.

Barenaked Ladies - The King of Bedside Manor. At least one reference to a riding crop and riding bareback.

Electric Six - Bite Me.

Rammstein - Bestrafe Mich (german for punish me).
posted by sparklemotion at 1:49 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Oh Madonnas Human Nature. .. . sort of. It could just be my memories of the video.
posted by wwax at 1:52 PM on January 27, 2016


"She's Your Cocaine" by Tori Amos. Gets the "female dominance and queer dynamics" points.
posted by hollyholly at 1:53 PM on January 27, 2016


Garbage, Queer ? (don't know if the use of the word queer here is... dated?)
posted by runincircles at 2:01 PM on January 27, 2016


Recoil - Breath Control (warning: dark)
posted by aubilenon at 2:07 PM on January 27, 2016


Red Meat –"Baby Beats Me the Best" meets about 2.5 of your 3 bonus points.
posted by Lexica at 2:11 PM on January 27, 2016


Hello Kitten - Hefner
posted by Middlemarch at 2:12 PM on January 27, 2016


Everclear - Misery Whip
posted by cpatterson at 2:14 PM on January 27, 2016


Pink Glove - Pulp
posted by Middlemarch at 2:14 PM on January 27, 2016


Soul Coughing's Down to This
posted by Elly Vortex at 2:27 PM on January 27, 2016




There's Closer by Nine Inch Nails. Bonus: Trent Reznor is dressed as a submissive in a few scenes in the video.
posted by fireandthud at 3:27 PM on January 27, 2016


"Abused" - j. englishman
posted by Nyx at 3:28 PM on January 27, 2016


"The Masochism Tango" by Tom Lehrer!
I ache for the touch of your lips, dear / But much more for the touch of your whips, dear

"Chains (Remix)" by Nick Jonas and Jhene Aiko
Chains and whips, make 'em strip, I am in control / You play the submissive role, then maybe we switch the role
posted by nicebookrack at 3:36 PM on January 27, 2016


Joan Armatrading, "(I Love It When You) Call Me Names".
(lyrics)
posted by ITheCosmos at 3:44 PM on January 27, 2016


"Oh Bondage, Up Yours" - X-Ray Spex
posted by zenzicube at 4:11 PM on January 27, 2016


"Rocket" by Beyoncé
posted by SoftRain at 4:13 PM on January 27, 2016


Rachel Lark - "Shut Up and Hit Me" seems worth checking out
posted by bunderful at 4:14 PM on January 27, 2016


NOFX has has handful (all of which should qualify for bonus points).
Cool and Unusual Punishment
S&M Airlines
My Stepdad's A Cop And My Stepmom's A Domme
Louise (two other songs go with it Liza and Liza and Louise which aren't quite as explicit about it)
posted by Medw at 4:24 PM on January 27, 2016


Some more Adam and the Ants: Red Scab, (You're So) Physical
Gary Numan, Down in the Park
posted by the return of the thin white sock at 4:39 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Janet Jackson - If
Rihanna - Cockiness
posted by kassila at 4:59 PM on January 27, 2016


Cowboy Mouth, All American Man
Virtually anything by Peaches, but especially Hot Rod
Adam and the Ants, Whip in my Valaise
Peaches & Iggy Pop - Kick It
The Kinks, Lola
Joan Jett, I Wanna Be Your Dog
Louis XIV, Pledge Of Allegiance
The Normal, Warm Leatherette[?]
posted by Leon at 5:29 PM on January 27, 2016


"Johnny Feelgood," Liz Phair.
posted by ostro at 6:18 PM on January 27, 2016


"All cut up on you" - Dana Gillespie, "Weren't born a man" album. Produced by Bowie. Around 1975.
I can't find a stream or even the lyrics posted, but I do remember "I'm all cut up on you, you're diggin' it to see me bleed"
posted by rudd135 at 6:26 PM on January 27, 2016


The Mexican hipster classic is "Castigame" (Punish me) by Plastilina Mosh.
posted by migrantology at 6:30 PM on January 27, 2016


There's David Allan Coe's "Whips and Things," but don't say I didn't warn you it's nasty shit and I ain't going to link to it.
posted by spitbull at 6:41 PM on January 27, 2016


Fistful of Love by Anthony and the Johnsons. I experience it as queer.

It's very bittersweet -- a BDSM love song. Which I appreciate.

I feel your fists
And I know it's out of love
And I feel the whip
And I know it's out of love
I feel your burning eyes burning holes
Straight through my heart

It's out of love
It's out of love

I accept and I collect upon my body
The memories of your devotion

posted by internet fraud detective squad, station number 9 at 7:14 PM on January 27, 2016






Maaaybe consider Tool's song Prison Sex? I've heard it played in a leather/kink context, though its message isn't very kink-positive - just my opinion.
posted by S'Tella Fabula at 8:04 PM on January 27, 2016 [1 favorite]


Junkie - Poe

I know how wear the costume
I know how to wear the mask
I even like the feel of having to ask
I like the sound of your whistle
I like the way you wear your grin
I even like the taste of my will caving in
posted by DarthDuckie at 8:43 PM on January 27, 2016


Still more Adam and the Ants: Christian Dior, Deutscher Girls
posted by the return of the thin white sock at 8:51 PM on January 27, 2016


Green Day - Dominated Love Slave
posted by needs more cowbell at 8:51 PM on January 27, 2016


Also maybe Sneaker Pimps - Spin Spin Sugar

I want perfection, I'm real need
I've seen attention see through me
I'm everyone sticks in me
I'm everyone sticks with me

Call on me, spin spin sugar
Crawl on me, spin spin sugar
Stinks on me, spin spin sugar
Twists for me, spin spin sugar

posted by DarthDuckie at 8:59 PM on January 27, 2016


David Baerwald - A Secret Silken World
posted by thelonius at 9:11 PM on January 27, 2016


I think you'll find a couple of songs that meet your criteria on Dead Inside by Golden Palominos
posted by homesickness at 9:22 PM on January 27, 2016


Siouxsie and the Banshee's version of Trust in Me
posted by DarthDuckie at 9:28 PM on January 27, 2016


Eurythmics - Sweet Dreams
posted by congen at 9:29 PM on January 27, 2016


(Kind of tongue in cheek) Devo - Whip It
posted by DarthDuckie at 9:43 PM on January 27, 2016


Save Room - John Legend
This just might hurt a little... Love hearts sometimes when you do it right. Don't be afraid of a little bit of pain, pleasure is on the other side.


(Am I just realizing I'm actually supposed to be saving room in my butt?)
posted by rubster at 12:10 AM on January 28, 2016


Freak Like Me by the Sugarbabes
posted by Dwardles at 2:32 AM on January 28, 2016


For Your Entertainment by Adam Lambert. Lyrics.
posted by katyggls at 2:41 AM on January 28, 2016


It's maybe not explicit in the lyrics, but George Michael's "Father Figure" has a definite aura of dom/sub.

Justin Timberlake, "SexyBack" ("You see these shackles Baby I’m your slave, I’ll let you whip me if I misbehave...")
posted by dnash at 8:55 AM on January 28, 2016 [2 favorites]


King Missile - Margaret's Eyes
Mr. Bungle - Pink Cigarette
posted by drapatz at 9:53 PM on January 28, 2016


FKA twigs - I'm Your Doll

Lady Gaga - Teeth

Maybe the Dresden Dolls' Coin-Operated Boy - female dominance dynamics are there, but I'm not sure if they're explicit enough for your purposes.
posted by EvaDestruction at 9:57 AM on February 1, 2016


I have always read Deftones' Passenger as hot Chino Moreno/Maynard James Keenan kinkyishslashfic.

There's also Stereotypes by Blur which is a terrible song about wife-swapping.
posted by corvine at 10:16 AM on February 1, 2016


Halestorm:
I Get Off is a good one for voyeurism.

Freak Like Me celebrates liking it weird.

I Miss the Misery is...well, I think there are a bunch of ways to take it, but it sure ain't about being a submissive lady.
posted by scaryblackdeath at 10:48 AM on February 1, 2016


Dominatrix - The Dominatrix Sleeps Tonight
Roxy Music - In Every Dream Home a Heartache
posted by hydrophonic at 5:52 PM on February 1, 2016


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