Websites about love and self-worth/knowledge/respect/etc
February 21, 2015 3:56 PM   Subscribe

I really like this website and I was wondering if you can recommend similar ones.

Hi guys!

As much as I love reading your answers to all the interesting questions people often ask about love, relationships and self-esteem, I would love to know more websites along the lines of Baggage Reclaim, because it has been really helpful to actually see some of the mistakes I make regarding those areas and my goal is to try and improve myself, I guess. Your answers here are also extremely useful and have helped me a great deal too, but I would love to get a massive amount of stuff to read that is consistent, and not depend on people asking a specific question here every once in a while.

So it's not mandatory that the website be exactly about GUYS GUYS GUYS (like BR can sometimes be) but mostly about learning how to be (kind to) yourself when you are in a relationship (or not, for that matter), if that makes any sense. Anything dealing with couples, self-awareness, boundaries, self-esteem, etc will do the trick, specially if the articles are clear and actually "teach" you something instead of being too personal/dear-diary kind of thing.

posted by divina_y_humilde to Human Relations (5 answers total) 23 users marked this as a favorite
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posted by zeptoweasel at 5:02 PM on February 21, 2015

Hello divina_y_humilde :) When I was in my 20s I enjoyed reading Baggage Reclaim and it helped me make sense of many questions in my mind. At that time, I was only familiar with sites and forums like The Knot, The Nest and Dear Sugar so I felt I was getting a new perspective (perhaps these sites will be interesting to you). I know this sounds like a shameless plug and I know you are already aware of this, but Google brought me many times to Metafilter when I had relationship woes, and I learned a lot by observing the responses to various relationship questions. So regarding specific websites this very one helped me the best. I also learned a lot from the "Savage Love"advice column by Dan Savage (this does have problematic aspects to it however)... You can find this online at and you can check out the archive of questions. The questions people submitted helped me understand things about human nature and heterosexual sexuality.

To be honest, I don't think many people these days give advice away for free like you will get on the sites you already are aware of.

If you are interested in other media, the book Why Men Love Bitches: From Doormat to Dreamgirl by Sherry Argov is the closest thing I can suggest to Baggage Reclaim. I know it is also problematic in many ways but if you are having issues similar to the ladies that post questions on that site (and I was once like that) the book can be helpful by giving you strategies and solutions for dealing with "hot and cold" men. Her advice, (if you have concerns similar to the women on Baggage Reclaim) will help you feel more confident and set boundaries.

I am not sure why you found Baggage Reclaim helpful, or what circumstances brought you there, but if you are looking for spiritual empowerment in the context of the kind of relationships discussed on the site, I would recommend books or talks by Joyce Meyer, such as her book Beauty for Ashes or possibly Battlefield of the Mind - though keep in mind she is a Protestant Bible Teacher and not suitable for all. The latter is a general book about silencing negative thoughts / scripts in your head and destructive thought patterns, which applies to anyone even outside the context of relationships. The former specifically addresses women and I believe you can find snippets of it presented live on youtube. I am not of her faith yet I find her work enormously helpful.
posted by partly squamous and partly rugose at 5:18 PM on February 21, 2015 [1 favorite]

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posted by belladonna at 6:47 PM on February 21, 2015

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posted by kuma440 at 6:36 AM on February 22, 2015

Cheryl Strayed's Dear Sugar column sounds like it might be up your alley. The thing I keep taking away from most of her posts is that we should all be a little kinder to ourselves. Enjoy!
posted by schooley at 4:33 PM on March 18, 2015

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