What does a non-leather guy wear to a fetish ball?
October 16, 2013 5:25 PM Subscribe
Need some ideas for a simple costume I (male) can wear to a Fetish Ball this Halloween that isn't so BDSMish.
Basically looking for the male version of this question from 2009, http://ask.metafilter.com/135749/BDSM-costume-ideas-please. I'm a larger male, 6ft, 220lbs, fairly muscular but wouldn't feel comfortable in something skintight or shirtless.
I have longer (for a man), shoulder length dark hair and have a pretty full on beard going right now but I'm fine shaving it.
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Basically looking for the male version of this question from 2009, http://ask.metafilter.com/135749/BDSM-costume-ideas-please. I'm a larger male, 6ft, 220lbs, fairly muscular but wouldn't feel comfortable in something skintight or shirtless.
I have longer (for a man), shoulder length dark hair and have a pretty full on beard going right now but I'm fine shaving it.
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Black military cargo pants/jacket have handy pockets for toys. Leather gloves are a nice accessory ;)
posted by rpbtm at 5:53 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by rpbtm at 5:53 PM on October 16, 2013
schoolgirl outfit! (dont shave :D )
Get an invisible dog and have 'her' do tricks. No, not those tricks.
posted by Jacen at 5:53 PM on October 16, 2013
Get an invisible dog and have 'her' do tricks. No, not those tricks.
posted by Jacen at 5:53 PM on October 16, 2013
One word: KISS.
posted by Madamina at 5:54 PM on October 16, 2013 [1 favorite]
posted by Madamina at 5:54 PM on October 16, 2013 [1 favorite]
Hot cop.
posted by roger ackroyd at 6:02 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by roger ackroyd at 6:02 PM on October 16, 2013
It's pretty common to see guys in authority-figure-type uniforms or outfits reminiscent of that, usually in black or dark colors. Add a leather wrist cuff or two. Boots are a must.
posted by erst at 6:05 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by erst at 6:05 PM on October 16, 2013
Leotard and tights.
posted by unknowncommand at 6:23 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by unknowncommand at 6:23 PM on October 16, 2013
Plague doctor mask.
posted by lovecrafty at 8:28 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by lovecrafty at 8:28 PM on October 16, 2013
He-Man? Conan? Or some similar cosplay.
posted by snuffleupagus at 8:32 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by snuffleupagus at 8:32 PM on October 16, 2013
Can you clarify: Are you looking for a racy halloween costume, or are you looking for a sexy outfit to wear to a fetish ball that happens to be on halloween?
posted by latkes at 8:54 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by latkes at 8:54 PM on October 16, 2013
My goto costume? Mayhem from the insurance commercials. Cheap suit, a bandage or two and some plausible but horrific catch phrases? you got a costume dude.
posted by bartonlong at 8:56 PM on October 16, 2013
posted by bartonlong at 8:56 PM on October 16, 2013
A kink party on halloween is as phony as a toupee. So don't worry about being all Tom of Finland.
Considering your build and hair you could do a lumberjack look, but sleaze it up. Cut the arms off a plaid shirt. Open your shirt to give a nice view of your chest. It is a costume, but it isn't high holy kink. So it should work.
posted by munchingzombie at 9:08 PM on October 16, 2013
Considering your build and hair you could do a lumberjack look, but sleaze it up. Cut the arms off a plaid shirt. Open your shirt to give a nice view of your chest. It is a costume, but it isn't high holy kink. So it should work.
posted by munchingzombie at 9:08 PM on October 16, 2013
A gorgeous, slim-fit tux, perfectly shined shoes, your hair tucked behind your ears, a plain black mask, and high quality, soft leather gloves. And a riding crop for good measure.
Essentially, a fetish version of Matthew Crawley.
posted by ulfberht at 9:59 PM on October 16, 2013
Essentially, a fetish version of Matthew Crawley.
posted by ulfberht at 9:59 PM on October 16, 2013
A fine idea, but a tux that fits that well and looks that good is going to exceed a typical single-event costume budget. (I don't usually see rentals this nice, and even those get pricey.) Not to mention the gloves and crop. And a cheap or ill-fitting tux kind of ruins it and starts to feel more like a Mage LARP at GenCon than a fetish ball.
But if you already have such a tux, this is a suitable and very convenient approach.
posted by snuffleupagus at 6:32 AM on October 17, 2013
But if you already have such a tux, this is a suitable and very convenient approach.
posted by snuffleupagus at 6:32 AM on October 17, 2013
Furry costome of choice - or just go with ears and a tail. Might send off the wrong idea, but it is very much a subculture of lots of things, sexual fetishes included.
On an even more light-hearted note, dress up as a fox and go 'yiff yiff' on people. Might turn out to be amusing or extremely awkward.
posted by 9080 at 7:51 AM on October 17, 2013 [1 favorite]
On an even more light-hearted note, dress up as a fox and go 'yiff yiff' on people. Might turn out to be amusing or extremely awkward.
posted by 9080 at 7:51 AM on October 17, 2013 [1 favorite]
My old coworker Ernest Greene used to go to kink balls dressed pretty much like you see him there.
There's a tradition, especially for British kinksters, of the well-dressed Master in a black suit. It's pretty easy to pull off.
posted by klangklangston at 12:31 PM on October 17, 2013
There's a tradition, especially for British kinksters, of the well-dressed Master in a black suit. It's pretty easy to pull off.
posted by klangklangston at 12:31 PM on October 17, 2013
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Also vampires are pretty fetish-y? Or maybe they're just more goth. Get a cape, some fake teeth, and white makeup. No need to be skin tight or shirtless. Talking might be difficult though. Also, go more for "Interview with a Vampire" than "Twilight."
Or maybe a circus training? Put on some kickin' boots and carry around a whip. Or basically any other profession where you can carry around whips, handcuffs, etc.
posted by ethidda at 5:44 PM on October 16, 2013