Good grief! Please give me some grief (resources).

July 13, 2013 10:50 AM

I did my serious grieving more than two decades ago. So I am not up on the latest books, websites, etc concerning grief, loss, bereavement and making your peace with life's hard knocks. I have done a little googling and searched MeFi and I don't feel I am really getting what I want. I know these get recommended here all the time. Please help me gather them into one place.

1) If you were going to put together a one page resource list on the topic, what are the must have books, websites, etc for helping people cope with these tough feelings?

2) If you have grieved, what books, movies, art work etc helped you achieve catharsis and stop carrying that anger and pain?

3) Bonus points: If you wanted to make a virtual "wailing wall" where people could let it out, any thoughts on how that could be done without turning into a fighty shitstorm with regrets all around?

4) Am I missing something? Please suggest anything you think can help people get closure that isn't covered in the above questions. Personal stories welcome.

Thanks!

posted by Michele in California to Grab Bag (3 answers total)

Best answer: Krishnamurti to Himself: On death This gave me both perspective and comfort when the grief was immediate. Almost a decade later, I still return to it regularly. (By the way, the title of that blog post is a bit misleading - it was his last journal entry, but he died two years after he wrote it.)
posted by 9000condiments at 12:01 PM on July 13, 2013

Best answer: It was more than 2 decades ago for me, but I found a book called The Courage to Grieve helpful back then.
posted by matildaben at 3:46 PM on July 13, 2013

Response by poster: Since a few people bookmarked it, here are a few AskMes I tripped across that seem related to my question about catharsis. I know there are others. Just not at my best today.

I'm broken. Please find me media to fix me
How do you transform your pain through art?
Literature for the sad
Monologues give me the catharsis I need to get going
Re-exposing yourself to something that creeped you out as a kid -- is this s good idea?
posted by Michele in California at 1:44 PM on July 16, 2013