Sex à la carte
August 4, 2011 9:58 AM   Subscribe

Help me compile a near-definitive list of sexual fantasies, fetishes, behaviours, etc. I'm looking to expand my sexual horizons by creating a list of sensual activities to serve as a "menu" of sorts. I want to be able to peruse the list to see what piques my interest. Can you offer items from your own personal list? Or, perhaps you can point me to a book or website that features lists upon lists of things to try? Everything from the usual (blindfolding, handcuffing) to the obscure (blumpy-ing???) is cool.
posted by oceanview to Human Relations (12 answers total) 32 users marked this as a favorite

You need The Encyclopedia of Unusual Sex Practices.
posted by Kitty Stardust at 10:01 AM on August 4, 2011

posted by Admiral Haddock at 10:01 AM on August 4, 2011 [1 favorite]

I would search for yes/no/maybe lists for a good starter list.

Basically, they're lists that you and your partner can complete separately and then look for overlap to find things that you are both interested in.

Here's an example of one. (NSFW, obvs.)
posted by jaksemas at 10:02 AM on August 4, 2011 [2 favorites]

Perhaps this chart may be of some assistance.
posted by matlock expressway at 10:03 AM on August 4, 2011

I also really really love this book.
posted by jaksemas at 10:04 AM on August 4, 2011

FetLife (NSFW) has what you're looking for.
posted by radioaction at 10:05 AM on August 4, 2011 [2 favorites]

Sexmap is graphically interesting and interactive.
posted by NoraCharles at 10:18 AM on August 4, 2011 [2 favorites]

Seconding FetLife. Check their list of fetishes. It's constantly expanding.
posted by Dragonness at 10:22 AM on August 4, 2011 [1 favorite]

To get really weird, though, I recommend Urban Dictionary. But, uh, use common sense about safety on anything they say :D
posted by Jacen at 10:45 AM on August 4, 2011

If you have a partner, you can go through Mojo Upgrade and maybe get some new ideas together.
posted by bink at 11:11 AM on August 4, 2011 [5 favorites]

If you really want to take the time to discover the outer edges of the human sexual experience, "Psychopathia Sexualis" by Dr. Richard von Krafft-Ebing is your all-in-one shop.
posted by Bunny Ultramod at 11:31 AM on August 4, 2011

Nancy Friday's books would be an excellent resource.
posted by whimsicalnymph at 1:53 PM on August 4, 2011

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