Postscript to a relationship? Is it a good idea? Can it be done constructively? Or is it purely self-serving?
March 30, 2011 5:04 PM Subscribe
My relationship has ended and through this process I've realized certain things. I want to share my clarity with my ex. I'm sure there are selfish reasons I have this impulse, but I also am a bit concerned that he may truly not be conscious of, what I consider to be, serious anger issues- which I hesitate to call verbal abuse, although that is most likely accurate. I never named things this way while in our relationship- we would argue around in a maze of clever denials and emotional outbursts- which I never found my way out of. . . So, am I tricking myself by thinking that this is something he needs to be confronted with for his emotional health? Or is there potentially some positive way to convey this harsh reality to someone who, so far, has not been able to acknowledge the severity of their behavior?