Help me hear Angels
January 14, 2011 6:51 PM   Subscribe

Beautiful, uplifting, Christian hymn or music for a memorial service?

My wife is on home hospice. She wants a couple of songs to be sung by a female duet at her memorial. She wants them to be uplifting so that friends and family feel good. She sang in the choir growing up in Minneapolis but can't remember the names of any hymns she enjoyed. I don't know anything about church music, so we need help. Amazing Grace and Rock of Ages are the only two we are considering.

Please suggest church music that is beautiful, melodic, uplifting, and makes you feel good. If you have a link to it you get mega bonus points. We want to feel God and hear Angels.
posted by snowjoe to Religion & Philosophy (43 answers total) 4 users marked this as a favorite
 
My condolences. Come Thou Fount is my favorite:
Jesus sought me when a stranger,
Wandering from the fold of God;
He, to rescue me from danger,
Interposed His precious blood;
How His kindness yet pursues me
Mortal tongue can never tell,
Clothed in flesh, till death shall loose me
I cannot proclaim it well.

posted by melissam at 6:57 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


I grew up in the Episcopal church and I love good church music.
It may not be appropriate (depends really on your wife) but Lift Every Voice and Sing always moves me.
Also uplifting is Joyful Joyful We Adore Thee ( music is from Beethoven's 9th iirc).
Perhaps my favorite is Allelulia, Sing to Jesus
Peace to you and yours during this difficult time.
posted by pointystick at 6:59 PM on January 14, 2011


"It is Well with my Soul." Last verse being:

And Lord, haste the day when my faith shall be sight,
The clouds be rolled back as a scroll;
The trump shall resound, and the Lord shall descend,
Even so, it is well with my soul.


For me, that verse has always been a "whoa!" moment.

Lyrics with auto-play background music (sorry) here: http://www.biblestudycharts.com/A_Daily_Hymn.html

I will keep you and your wife in my prayers.
posted by ladygypsy at 6:59 PM on January 14, 2011 [4 favorites]


I am so sorry to hear about your wife.

This one is uplifting.

Amen by Sean Keith

What a day it’s gonna be
When my Savior comes for me
I wonder what mysteries I’ll see
When I step into glory

On that day I will rejoice
Hearing heaven lift one voice
Singing salvation belongs to God on the throne
And to the Lamb be the praise and the glory alone
Amen!
We’ll sing it again
Amen!
We’ll sing it again
Salvation belongs to God on the throne
And to the Lamb be the praise and the glory alone
posted by Ostara at 7:04 PM on January 14, 2011


Best answer: In my family there have always been these two:

Abide with me

Be still my soul
posted by bukvich at 7:07 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


When was she in Mpls? Hometown composer Michael Joncas' "On Eagles Wings" is perfect.
posted by GaelFC at 7:12 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


We sang How Great Thou Art at my Mom's funeral and it is a beautiful, powerful and thrilling song. We are/were Catholic by way of Methodist.

Here are samples from Elvis' 1967 "How Great Thou Art" gospel album - you can hear it in the Southern Gospel style, and it's really beautiful.

Here are the chord charts.

I'll be thinking of you and your wife. Safe journey home.
posted by toodleydoodley at 7:14 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


Also although you did not ask, you might find comfort in my family's funeral prayer. It is Psalm 23.
posted by bukvich at 7:15 PM on January 14, 2011


Whisper Hope is nice but maybe not so much as a duet.
posted by bonobothegreat at 7:18 PM on January 14, 2011


My thoughts are with you.

At my dad's funeral we had For All the Saints, which I found really comforting.
posted by Sidhedevil at 7:24 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


"Whispering Hope" actually is a great duet.
posted by Sidhedevil at 7:26 PM on January 14, 2011


I don't know much about this sort of music, but below is one we used to sing at school, and I find it uplifting:
Shine Jesus Shine (this is a fairly straight version - on YouTube, you'll find quieter ones to piano, and upbeat stadium versions).

Lord the Light of Your Love is shining,
In the midst of the darkness shining,
Jesus light of the world shine upon us,
Set us free by the truth You now bring us,
Shine on me. Shine on me.

Shine Jesus shine
Fill this land with the Father's glory
Blaze, Spirit blaze,
Set our hearts on fire
Flow, river flow
Flood the nations with grace and mercy
Send forth Your word
Lord and let there be light.

Lord I come to Your awesome presence,
From the shadows into Your radiance,
By the blood I may enter Your brightness,
Search me, try me, consume all my darkness,
Shine on me. Shine on me.

As we gaze on Your kindly brightness.
So our faces display Your likeness.
Ever changing from glory to glory,
Mirrored here may our lives tell Your story.
Shine on me. Shine on me.
posted by AnnaRat at 7:29 PM on January 14, 2011


We had Abide With Me at my mother's funeral, and it's a wonderful duet.
posted by Sidhedevil at 7:29 PM on January 14, 2011


Also When You Walk On by Eliza Gilkyson.
posted by melissam at 7:31 PM on January 14, 2011


Precious Lord Take My Hand Jim Reeves, choral

Precious Lord, take my hand
Lead me on, let me stand
I am tired, I am weak, I am worn
Through the storm, through the night
Lead me on to the light
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home

When my way grows drear,
precious Lord linger near
When my life is almost gone
Hear my cry, hear my call
Hold my hand lest I fall
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home

When the darkness appears,
and the night draws near
And the day is past and gone
At the river I stand
Guide my feet, hold my hand
Take my hand precious Lord, lead me home


It's in most church hymnals, and many choirs will have arrangements in their libraries.
posted by jlkr at 7:41 PM on January 14, 2011




Or my favorite is Be Thou My Vision
posted by interplanetjanet at 7:54 PM on January 14, 2011 [2 favorites]


When the Saints Go Marching In
posted by maloon at 8:08 PM on January 14, 2011


She wants them to be uplifting so that friends and family feel good.

China (a.k.a. "Why do we mourn departing friends?") is an old Isaac Watts hymn with this sort of message.
Why do we mourn departing friends,
Or shake at death’s alarms?
’Tis but the voice that Jesus sends
To call them to His arms.

Why should we tremble to convey
Their bodies to the tomb?
There the dear flesh of Jesus lay,
And vanished all the gloom.

Thence He arose, ascending high,
And showed our feet the way;
Up to the Lord our flesh shall fly,
At the great rising day.
posted by nebulawindphone at 8:15 PM on January 14, 2011


My favorite song is There's a Stirring. I think it sounds much better acapella (which is why I didn't link to one of the professionals from a CD), but in the video they took it just a little faster than I'm used to. The song is about Jesus calling people home after death.
posted by Deflagro at 8:15 PM on January 14, 2011


I'll Fly Away makes a good duet.
posted by fairfax at 8:33 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


Angel Band is what I want played at my memorial.
posted by xedrik at 9:20 PM on January 14, 2011 [4 favorites]


Best answer: I'll Fly Away, yeah, sounds like just what you're looking for. There are a lot more versions out there than the "O Brother Where Are Thou" one--it's an old song and comes in bluegrass and gospel versions.

Swing Low, Sweet Chariot
There are several good arrangements out there for a soprano and an alto (though not having any luck finding the one I'm thinking of, sorry).

Lord of the Dance - Irish arrangement / more sedate arrangment
A teacher I was close to chose this for her own funeral service--it'd depend on your wife, but for this person, it was just perfect. Six years later I still find the song comforting.
posted by hippugeek at 9:33 PM on January 14, 2011 [2 favorites]


A bit modern, but what about Pass It On? It's about how the spark from one person's love can spread to all those they know, and to all those they know. Very beautiful. It's in some newer hymnals.

Then there's always He Walks With Me (In The Garden) or Amazing Grace.
posted by salvia at 9:51 PM on January 14, 2011


I like the cut of nebulawindphone's jib. For one thing, Sacred Harp sung from the gut can be otherworldly and transporting, and for another, the same singers will probably be willing to do a couple other tunes. There are several settings in the Sacred Harp of this text, also by Isaac Watts; my local sing favors the tune Jordan, though I also have a fondness for Greensborough.

I'm sure you can find something else to your taste in the Sacred Harp, too, whether Poland (text) or Parting Hand (text). You needn't sing alllll the verses of either one, by the way. Or, if your singers lean toward the Cooper book (long story short, there are two parallel Sacred Harp publication traditions), try Angel Band (use your browser's Find function to search for 463, which is its page number):
My latest sun is sinking fast,
My race is nearly run;
My strongest trials now are past,
My triumph is begun.

Chorus:
O come, angel band,
Come and around me stand;
O bear me away on your snowy wings
To my immortal home -- to my immortal home.

I know I'm near the holy ranks
Of friends and kindred dear;
I brush the dew on Jordan's bank,
The crossing must be near.

Chorus

I've almost gained my heav'nly home;
My spirit loudly sings;
The holy ones, behold they come!
I hear the noise of wings.

Chorus
Lived I closer to California, I'd come and sing for you myself.
posted by eritain at 10:00 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


I would like to add another vote for "Abide With Me." It was played at my grandmother's funeral and I found it beautiful and comforting. This version by the BBC National Orchestra of Wales is the nicest arrangement I have heard.

"Will Your Anchor Hold (We Have an Anchor)" is uplifting and appropriate, especially the last two verses:

It will firmly hold in the Floods of Death
When the waters cold chill our latest breath,
On the rising tide it can never fail,
While our hopes abide within the Veil.

Chorus:
We have an anchor that keeps the soul
Steadfast and sure while the billows roll,
Fastened to the Rock which cannot move,
Grounded firm and deep in the Savior's love.

When our eyes behold through the gath'ring night
The city of gold, our harbour bright,
We shall anchor fast by the heav'nly shore,
With the storms all past forevermore.


Peace to you and your wife.
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 10:01 PM on January 14, 2011


Here is the link I meant to add for Will Your Anchor Hold.
posted by hurdy gurdy girl at 10:09 PM on January 14, 2011


I'm not sure if it's as uplifting as it is sweet/comforting, but we recently used I Was There to Hear Your Borning Cry at my grandmother's memorial service.
posted by wending my way at 10:11 PM on January 14, 2011


When I arranged the music for my mom's memorial service (she was 51), I chose a song that I knew meant a lot to both she and I. I knew that she loved the Irish gaelic version of Be Thou My Vision as performed by Marie Brennan. The only version I could find online is a partial streaming version out of Russia, but it's absolutely worth listening to: Be Thou My Vision. You can find a full version of the entire song's lyrics in english here. My heart goes out to both of you in your time of need. even listening to the song now has brought me to tears.
posted by Bohemia Mountain at 10:12 PM on January 14, 2011


Goin' Home adds spiritual lyrics to Dvorak's Symphony No. 9, and was performed beautifully at my uncle's service.
posted by Cool Papa Bell at 10:27 PM on January 14, 2011


My friend and his wife did a duet of I'll Fly Away (as mentioned above) at his father's funeral. It was very lovely.
posted by AnnaRat at 10:39 PM on January 14, 2011


Just a Closer Walk With Thee might work with I'll Fly Away.

Just a closer walk with Thee,
Grant it, Jesus, is my plea,
Daily walking close to Thee,
Let it be, dear Lord, let it be.

I am weak, but Thou art strong;
Jesus, keep me from all wrong;
I’ll be satisfied as long
As I walk, let me walk close to Thee.

Through this world of toil and snares,
If I falter, Lord, who cares?
Who with me my burden shares?
None but Thee, dear Lord, none but Thee.

When my feeble life is o’er,
Time for me will be no more;
Guide me gently, safely o’er
To Thy kingdom shore, to Thy shore.

Also Bridge over troubled water is a beautiful song once you get past S+G. This is a version by Johnny Cash.

Peace to both of you and your families.
posted by carter at 11:59 PM on January 14, 2011 [1 favorite]


Nthing I'll Fly Away. It should be depressing but it never feels that way to me.

My best thoughts to you and your family.
posted by nicebookrack at 1:06 AM on January 15, 2011




Come to the Water. Lyrics, but please ignore the audio links on that page—it's done there in a faster tempo than I've ever heard it at a church setting, and I don't care for it done that way.
posted by DevilsAdvocate at 5:33 AM on January 15, 2011


I love My Shepherd Will Supply My Need, especially the end of the last verse:
There would I find a settled rest,
While others go and come;
No more a stranger, nor a guest,
But like a child at home.
posted by mskyle at 6:07 AM on January 15, 2011


I sing in a Presbyterian church choir. When the family doesn't have a preference about choral music, pieces we commonly sing include:

My Shepherd Will Supply My Need (mentioned above and my favorite)
On Jordan's Stormy Banks (another Sacred Harp piece)
I Love the Lord (African-American Spiritual)
I love the Lord,
who heard my cry,
and pitied every groan.
Long as I live and troubles rise
I hasten to God's throne.

I love the Lord,
who heard my cry,
and chased my grief away.
Oh let my heart no more despair,
while I have breath to pray.
At one very memorable funeral, the family requested Lord of the Dance (the favorite hymn of the deceased's young son) and it was amazing.
posted by hydropsyche at 7:26 AM on January 15, 2011


From Ms. Vegetable:

First, I am so sorry to hear this. I grew up Catholic, but other songs resonated with me:
- Let there be Peace on Earth, which we sung at my Grandma's funeral
- City of God
- On Eagle's Wings
- The Storm is Passing Over

Most music by Kirk Franklin, but that may be too upbeat.

I wish you comfort during this time.
posted by a robot made out of meat at 9:11 AM on January 15, 2011


Not sure it's what you're looking for but my favorite feel-good hymn is Canticle of the Sun by Marty Haugen. Your wife might enjoy it even if it's not used at the memorial service. Note that this choir should be singing at least 1.5 times faster.

Chorus:
The heavens are telling the glory of God
And all creation is shouting for joy
Come dance in the forest, come play in the field
And sing, sing of the glory of the Lord!


Last verse:
Praise for our death that makes our life real
The knowledge of loss that helps us to feel
The gift of yourself, your presence revealed
To lead us home


I'm also reminded of my childhood choir director, who not only planned his own memorial, but wrote people out and reassigned their parts if they didn't visit him in the hospital. She might get a laugh out of that.
posted by Flannery Culp at 11:31 AM on January 15, 2011


My Life Flows on in Endless Song is one of my absolute favorites. The line "No storm can shake my inmost calm" gets me every time. My condolences to you and your wife and I hope that her memorial is everything that you and she want it to be.
posted by Polyhymnia at 11:47 AM on January 15, 2011


I want Bob Franke's "Alleluia, The Great Storm is Over" (here sung by John McCutcheon) at my memorial service, for all the original reasons - it's beautiful, melodic, uplifting, and makes you feel good.
posted by eaglehound at 11:54 AM on January 15, 2011 [1 favorite]


Kind of an unorthodox choice, but I've always found "A Life Uncommon" by Jewel to be incredibly moving...Might be nice to pair with something more traditional:

Don't worry mother it'll be all right
And don't worry sister say your prayers and sleep tight
It'll be fine lover of mine
It'll be just fine
Lend your voices only to sounds of freedom
No longer lend your strength to that which you wish to be free from
Fill your lives with love and bravery
And you shall lead a life uncommon
I've heard your anguish I've heard your hearts cry out
We are tired we are weary but we aren't worn out
Set down your chains, until only faith remains
Set down your chains
And lend your voices only to sounds of freedom
No longer lend your strength to that
Which you wish to be free from
Fill your lives with love and bravery
And we shall lead a life uncommon
There are plenty of people who pray for peace
But if praying were enough it would have come to be
Let your words enslave no one and the heavens will hush themselves
To hear our voices ring out clear
With sounds of freedom
Sounds of freedom
Come on you unbelievers, move out of the way
There is a new army coming and we are armed with faith
To live, we must give
To live
And lend our voices only to sounds of freedom
No longer lend our strength to that we wish to be free from
Fill your lives with love and bravery
And we shall lead...
Lend our voices only to sounds of freedom
No longer lend our strength to that which we wish to be free from
Fill your lives with love and bravery
And we shall lead a life uncommon
posted by missjenny at 2:48 PM on January 15, 2011 [1 favorite]


Seconding Come Thou Fount, Be Thou My Vision, and For All the Saints (the last was one of the hymns at my grandfather's funeral, and it still gives me chills - in a good way- hearing it today). I was raised Episcopalian, for what it's worth. I am no longer a churchgoer, but these three songs remain especially dear to me.
posted by naoko at 10:50 PM on January 15, 2011


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