50% off anything? Well I guess I need to spend some money.
January 13, 2011 9:45 AM Subscribe
I got a significant coupon for a well known adult products website. Will you help me choose some products? Most definitely NSFW.
I don't want to list the site, but it's probably the most well known in the arena. I got a 50% off plus free shipping coupon. I talked about it with my fiancee last night, and she's actually surprisingly receptive to some new toys, the ones she has are a little aged.
Some background that's possibly relevant:
She's late 20's, recently had her first child. We're obviously not looking to jump straight into uhm...large or rough stuff. She's sort of squeamish until it's the heat of the moment, and then pretty much anything goes. She gets MOST of her enjoyment from clitoral stimulation, however she's covered in that area---she's got a magic toy that's 0-hero in about 45 seconds.
She has, in the past, tried G-spot toys, but they haven't worked quite as advertised for her. Most specifically, a regular shaped vibrator with a bulb at the end and the wand-type with the egg shaped end. She very much enjoyed both, but neither really tagged the G. It's definitely there, I can find it manually with great success.
She's not into things involving her bottom...unless she's drunk, but we won't talk about that right now.
I'm considering things like The Liberator pillow, possibly something like the "Natural Contours Ultime", and probably a more traditional vibrator. She really prefers really strong vibrations, plug in is fine but batteries are better.
As a sidebar, she is quite an accomplished squirter, which is absolutely fabulous, anything that may benefit that specific skill is definitely ideal.
She won't be on board for anything as complicated looking as a Rabbit, she's still somewhat easily intimidated and is still fighting to conquer "sex is dirty" feelings she has from the way she was brought up. She does not, typically, play solo.
Something I could use while giving oral would be great. She can't take a lot of girth, and she's pretty normal depth. She has in the past greatly enjoyed using two normal-to-small sized toys simultaneously to feel very "full", but she really needed to be very warmed up, and with recent child-birth I think she won't be interested in that for a while.
If you want to answer or have questions but want to stay anonymous, feel free to email me at smashingsuccess@gmail.com
I don't want to list the site, but it's probably the most well known in the arena. I got a 50% off plus free shipping coupon. I talked about it with my fiancee last night, and she's actually surprisingly receptive to some new toys, the ones she has are a little aged.
Some background that's possibly relevant:
She's late 20's, recently had her first child. We're obviously not looking to jump straight into uhm...large or rough stuff. She's sort of squeamish until it's the heat of the moment, and then pretty much anything goes. She gets MOST of her enjoyment from clitoral stimulation, however she's covered in that area---she's got a magic toy that's 0-hero in about 45 seconds.
She has, in the past, tried G-spot toys, but they haven't worked quite as advertised for her. Most specifically, a regular shaped vibrator with a bulb at the end and the wand-type with the egg shaped end. She very much enjoyed both, but neither really tagged the G. It's definitely there, I can find it manually with great success.
She's not into things involving her bottom...unless she's drunk, but we won't talk about that right now.
I'm considering things like The Liberator pillow, possibly something like the "Natural Contours Ultime", and probably a more traditional vibrator. She really prefers really strong vibrations, plug in is fine but batteries are better.
As a sidebar, she is quite an accomplished squirter, which is absolutely fabulous, anything that may benefit that specific skill is definitely ideal.
She won't be on board for anything as complicated looking as a Rabbit, she's still somewhat easily intimidated and is still fighting to conquer "sex is dirty" feelings she has from the way she was brought up. She does not, typically, play solo.
Something I could use while giving oral would be great. She can't take a lot of girth, and she's pretty normal depth. She has in the past greatly enjoyed using two normal-to-small sized toys simultaneously to feel very "full", but she really needed to be very warmed up, and with recent child-birth I think she won't be interested in that for a while.
If you want to answer or have questions but want to stay anonymous, feel free to email me at smashingsuccess@gmail.com
I don't know if your preferred adult vendor carries it, but for you while going down on her? There's always THE PUSSY SNORKEL. :)
(I am not endorsing this product. I have tried one on out of curiosity but have not worn one while engaging in any activity that might require such protective safety gear.)
posted by rmd1023 at 10:29 AM on January 13, 2011
(I am not endorsing this product. I have tried one on out of curiosity but have not worn one while engaging in any activity that might require such protective safety gear.)
posted by rmd1023 at 10:29 AM on January 13, 2011
The We-Vibe was recommended here in an earlier thread.
posted by Dragonness at 10:37 AM on January 13, 2011 [2 favorites]
posted by Dragonness at 10:37 AM on January 13, 2011 [2 favorites]
Please do not give a pussy snorkel to anyone ever. (You already knew that.)
posted by nebulawindphone at 10:37 AM on January 13, 2011 [10 favorites]
posted by nebulawindphone at 10:37 AM on January 13, 2011 [10 favorites]
Is this only for your partner? Don't you deserve toys, too? You don't specify whether you are male or female, but, if you are male you might like a cock ring. I'm also told that the Naughty Boy is pretty badass. And don't forget some good lube and toy condoms for easy cleanup!
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 11:04 AM on January 13, 2011
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 11:04 AM on January 13, 2011
I have a friend who reviews sex toys and gives good advice about this kind of thing. Here's what she has to say:
You basically can't go wrong with the liberator shapes. That said, the ramp/wedge combo is probably the best one to get because they're small enough to store, and really help with a ton of positions.
As far as g-spot toys, if you've been trying things that vibrate that might be why you've had trouble finding her g-spot with it; I don't know why, but it seems that the vibrations make it more difficult for some women. The njoy Pure Wand is like a fucking g-spot magnet, and (I'm told) pretty easy to use on a partner, and the Ophoria Beyond 3 is also a pretty magical thing. If I was only going to get one, I'd get the Pure Wand though.
Regarding vibrators: the Lelo Lily is my absolute best friend, and for me nothing works quite like it does. It's small, can be placed between you two during sex, recharges by being plugged in, and has a nice set of pulse options. However, given that you said that she likes more powerful vibrations, I'd suggest considering the Lelo Siri which is the same general concept only more powerful. I got a chance to look at one in a store a few weeks ago and fell in love: all the benefits of the Lily, but with more power.
Oh, and since she's a squirter, a liberator throe would probably be a nice addition to your life, unless you happen to like changing your sheets and flipping your mattress.
posted by mismatched at 11:32 AM on January 13, 2011 [3 favorites]
You basically can't go wrong with the liberator shapes. That said, the ramp/wedge combo is probably the best one to get because they're small enough to store, and really help with a ton of positions.
As far as g-spot toys, if you've been trying things that vibrate that might be why you've had trouble finding her g-spot with it; I don't know why, but it seems that the vibrations make it more difficult for some women. The njoy Pure Wand is like a fucking g-spot magnet, and (I'm told) pretty easy to use on a partner, and the Ophoria Beyond 3 is also a pretty magical thing. If I was only going to get one, I'd get the Pure Wand though.
Regarding vibrators: the Lelo Lily is my absolute best friend, and for me nothing works quite like it does. It's small, can be placed between you two during sex, recharges by being plugged in, and has a nice set of pulse options. However, given that you said that she likes more powerful vibrations, I'd suggest considering the Lelo Siri which is the same general concept only more powerful. I got a chance to look at one in a store a few weeks ago and fell in love: all the benefits of the Lily, but with more power.
Oh, and since she's a squirter, a liberator throe would probably be a nice addition to your life, unless you happen to like changing your sheets and flipping your mattress.
posted by mismatched at 11:32 AM on January 13, 2011 [3 favorites]
If you have the budget, and if your fiancee is feeling a little uncertain about sex but still wants to explore new toys, it might make more sense to get her a toy designed by women for women. Usually these toys are smaller, softer, cuter and less threatening than more mainstream toys, which are really designed (not engineered) as novelty items.
The Ewok comes to mind. It's got a powerful vibe, but is obviously non-intimidating.
This site has a lot of toys that are more geared for women.
posted by KokuRyu at 11:38 AM on January 13, 2011
The Ewok comes to mind. It's got a powerful vibe, but is obviously non-intimidating.
This site has a lot of toys that are more geared for women.
posted by KokuRyu at 11:38 AM on January 13, 2011
purchased the we-vibe recently, and i love it. the fact that you can use it during sex with your partner is fantastic! it really takes couple toy play to the next level, in my opinion. plus, it's simultaneous gspot and clitoral stimulation, the gspot part being broad enough that it'll really suit anyone. the vibration is no Hitachi, not that anything is, but i was very surprised at how strong it was, and i'm quite insensitive. plus is has different patterns of vibration which is pretty cool.
also, vibrating underwear that she wears and you control by remote is pretty nifty.
posted by assasinatdbeauty at 11:46 AM on January 13, 2011
also, vibrating underwear that she wears and you control by remote is pretty nifty.
posted by assasinatdbeauty at 11:46 AM on January 13, 2011
Okay, so I sell sex toys for a living. Judging by what you write about her, I'd say totally go for a We vibe. It is seriously much smaller than it looks in the pictures; it's designed for couples; it's fantastic for G-spot and great for a fuller feeling without being too monstro. It gives the whole inner portion of the erogenous zone a really good workout without being too invasive. If you're a well endowed lad, perhaps give it a miss, but I've had so much good feedback from this it's just not funny.
The Rock Chick is a frikkin fantastic g-spot toy too. Contemplate some of the Njoy wands mentioned upthread too.
How about you? Prostate toys are great fun, and I've had plenty of good feedback from my married couples suggesting that the menfolk can benefit from toyplay as much as the ladies can. Things like the Naughty Boy.
Finally, have a good look over the reviews at Fleshbot. Their Marital Aid Test Kitchen is quite useful.
posted by Jilder at 11:50 AM on January 13, 2011 [1 favorite]
The Rock Chick is a frikkin fantastic g-spot toy too. Contemplate some of the Njoy wands mentioned upthread too.
How about you? Prostate toys are great fun, and I've had plenty of good feedback from my married couples suggesting that the menfolk can benefit from toyplay as much as the ladies can. Things like the Naughty Boy.
Finally, have a good look over the reviews at Fleshbot. Their Marital Aid Test Kitchen is quite useful.
posted by Jilder at 11:50 AM on January 13, 2011 [1 favorite]
Oh, as always, feel free to Mefi mail me if you like for more info.
posted by Jilder at 11:51 AM on January 13, 2011
posted by Jilder at 11:51 AM on January 13, 2011
I'll be the dissenting opinion on the We Vibe. I love the idea, but I'm not so into vibration in general, and vibrating g-spot stimulation really doesn't work very well for me. Plus the We Vibe is a little too 'long' for me, so the top/external portion extends past my sensitive bits and is really good at stimulating my pubic hair. My partner (male), however, loves it during penetrative sex.
posted by soviet sleepover at 1:32 PM on January 13, 2011
posted by soviet sleepover at 1:32 PM on January 13, 2011
i would suggest anything from the company "fun factory." their toys are well made, the look of them isn't overtly porny, and they have one finger control. i love them. i'm on a work computer so i can't go googling, but they make this vibrator called "patchy paul" (i call him "wormy") that has this nose that is great for clitoral and g-spot stimulation.
posted by nadawi at 3:25 PM on January 13, 2011
posted by nadawi at 3:25 PM on January 13, 2011
The Fascinator (the Liberator Throe) is a godsend for the large-volume squirter! Others have mentioned it already, seconding.
posted by gregglind at 3:31 PM on January 13, 2011 [1 favorite]
posted by gregglind at 3:31 PM on January 13, 2011 [1 favorite]
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