NSFW: Changes in the bedroom after change in birth control method.
April 24, 2010 3:57 PM Subscribe
NSFW: Changes in the bedroom after change in birth control method.
The Mrs. and I recently changed from using condoms to the Nuvaring as our method of birth control. Using condoms, I never had any problems with having and orgasm either on the top or the bottom. Now that we are just using the Nuvaring, I can only seem to orgasm when she is on top. Plus, I seem to last a lot longer without using a condom...shouldn't that be the other way around?
Could this be because of the Nuvaring/not using a condom? Nothing else has changed in our relationship/sex life.
The Mrs. and I recently changed from using condoms to the Nuvaring as our method of birth control. Using condoms, I never had any problems with having and orgasm either on the top or the bottom. Now that we are just using the Nuvaring, I can only seem to orgasm when she is on top. Plus, I seem to last a lot longer without using a condom...shouldn't that be the other way around?
Could this be because of the Nuvaring/not using a condom? Nothing else has changed in our relationship/sex life.
Not only are the physical sensations different with and without a condom, but you also have the psychological difference of no longer being the one who is in charge of the birth control situation. The combination of different feelings above and below can produce all kinds of sex changes -- coming too fast, coming too slow, can't get it up, and so on. It's totally normal, and you fix it either with time (by getting used to the changes) or by doing something different (trying different methods of birth control, lube, or positions, say).
posted by Forktine at 4:31 PM on April 24, 2010
posted by Forktine at 4:31 PM on April 24, 2010
Just as a test, try with the condom on again and see what happens.
posted by CathyG at 4:45 PM on April 24, 2010 [1 favorite]
posted by CathyG at 4:45 PM on April 24, 2010 [1 favorite]
Were you using lubricant inside the condom? If so, the 'natural' wetness may not be what you like, or may just be different. Maybe try a little additional lubricant in other positions if you're not already.
Keep in mind that hormonal birth control like the ring can cause substantial reductions in female lubrication, too.
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 7:14 AM on April 25, 2010
Keep in mind that hormonal birth control like the ring can cause substantial reductions in female lubrication, too.
posted by PhoBWanKenobi at 7:14 AM on April 25, 2010
-I'm thinking that after a while when you get used to boinking w/out the condom, things will sort themselves out. New sensations and all.
-re: lube - Team LexiMonkey is very much in favor of silicone lubes. A little goes a long way, it's flavorless, and allows the female-partner to not have to worry about maintaining a level of lubrication. Big fan of Swiss Navy (ARRGH, flash-nav sucks and breaks the web!)
-Plus, I seem to last a lot longer without using a condom...shouldn't that be the other way around?
I'm gonna go with "Your number came up in the Cock-Lottery". Congrats. Unless there's some reason you want to be getting this over with sooner. ;-)
-Any time I come across mentions of women hormonal BC, I throw in a mention to the fact that they may be linked to depression and other mental health issues and that there are few researchers looking into it at all.
Hormonal BC killed Lexica's libido and made her suicidally depressed, and lots of other women have had similar reactions. And she found neither the mental health NOR the gyno professionals particularly informed on the issue or even aware of what little research is going on re: links between hormonal BC and serious depression. But once she switched to an IUD, things got much better. Just FYI.
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey at 10:19 AM on April 25, 2010 [2 favorites]
-re: lube - Team LexiMonkey is very much in favor of silicone lubes. A little goes a long way, it's flavorless, and allows the female-partner to not have to worry about maintaining a level of lubrication. Big fan of Swiss Navy (ARRGH, flash-nav sucks and breaks the web!)
-Plus, I seem to last a lot longer without using a condom...shouldn't that be the other way around?
I'm gonna go with "Your number came up in the Cock-Lottery". Congrats. Unless there's some reason you want to be getting this over with sooner. ;-)
-Any time I come across mentions of women hormonal BC, I throw in a mention to the fact that they may be linked to depression and other mental health issues and that there are few researchers looking into it at all.
Hormonal BC killed Lexica's libido and made her suicidally depressed, and lots of other women have had similar reactions. And she found neither the mental health NOR the gyno professionals particularly informed on the issue or even aware of what little research is going on re: links between hormonal BC and serious depression. But once she switched to an IUD, things got much better. Just FYI.
posted by Pirate-Bartender-Zombie-Monkey at 10:19 AM on April 25, 2010 [2 favorites]
Is there any reason you can't use condoms anyway? I mean, if sex is better that way, then why not?
posted by ysabet at 11:32 PM on April 25, 2010
posted by ysabet at 11:32 PM on April 25, 2010
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You've become used to a particular type of stimulation, and the change is different.
Were you using lubricant inside the condom? If so, the 'natural' wetness may not be what you like, or may just be different. Maybe try a little additional lubricant in other positions if you're not already.
If you want to orgasm in other positions, you'll need to deny yourself the one position that 'works' for right now so you can 're-train' yourself to be more sensitive. If you can't reach climax, don't sweat it. Just forget about it, focus on your wife's needs. Your junk will come around soon enough.
There are some people who claim to have allergic reactions to their partner's Nuvaring, so that could be an issue. If you suspect that to be the case, you'll probably want to confirm it with a doctor and try a different form of birth control
posted by device55 at 4:15 PM on April 24, 2010