Penis scars?
November 26, 2009 2:40 PM Subscribe
I am masturbating so many times every day (6 or more times to orgasm mainly with my left hand reading erotica - yeah, I can read and work at the same time yo) that I have established a mound of scar over the top of my foreskin. How long should I abstain for it to fall off and what are some ways I should abstain while I am waiting. It's not an STD, I have been to a doc in the meantime. Frodo!
what are some ways I should abstain while I am waiting
Yeah, like Justinian says, you abstain by not jerking off. Jerking off with your other hand, or by using a cantaloupe with a hole in it, or by slamming it in the cellar door or whatever, is not abstaining.
Abstaining means that you will have a possibly uncomfortable period where your body is used to almost hourly release (geez, to be young again...) and not getting that is going to take some adjustment.
I'd recommend sublimation -- exercise, cold showers, all the old cliches. You need something else filling your time and energy. Sitting around and reading erotica is going to do the opposite, by stoking the flames of desire.
I've found that callus (on hands, feet, penis, anywhere) takes at least a few weeks for your body to slough off. It's your body's natural reaction to excessive friction, and it'll take a cycle of the skin replenishing itself for it to go away.
For the future (and I'm sure your doctor said something about this), maybe go a bit easier on the jerking off. Less pressure, less often, use lube, and not so much direct friction. Vary your grip and technique. (The best solution of all is to find a willing partner and have lots of sex in less ouchy ways, but depending on how young you are, and how interested in a relationship you are, that might be a down-the-road kind of solution.)
posted by Forktine at 3:31 PM on November 26, 2009
Yeah, like Justinian says, you abstain by not jerking off. Jerking off with your other hand, or by using a cantaloupe with a hole in it, or by slamming it in the cellar door or whatever, is not abstaining.
Abstaining means that you will have a possibly uncomfortable period where your body is used to almost hourly release (geez, to be young again...) and not getting that is going to take some adjustment.
I'd recommend sublimation -- exercise, cold showers, all the old cliches. You need something else filling your time and energy. Sitting around and reading erotica is going to do the opposite, by stoking the flames of desire.
I've found that callus (on hands, feet, penis, anywhere) takes at least a few weeks for your body to slough off. It's your body's natural reaction to excessive friction, and it'll take a cycle of the skin replenishing itself for it to go away.
For the future (and I'm sure your doctor said something about this), maybe go a bit easier on the jerking off. Less pressure, less often, use lube, and not so much direct friction. Vary your grip and technique. (The best solution of all is to find a willing partner and have lots of sex in less ouchy ways, but depending on how young you are, and how interested in a relationship you are, that might be a down-the-road kind of solution.)
posted by Forktine at 3:31 PM on November 26, 2009
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posted by cortex (staff) at 5:10 PM on November 26, 2009
posted by cortex (staff) at 5:10 PM on November 26, 2009
I've been in similar straits and I can tell you that there's no need to abstain, imo; just work around the problem until the problem heals. Don't touch your foreskin. Get some good lube and just work the head.
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 6:00 PM on November 26, 2009
posted by Cat Pie Hurts at 6:00 PM on November 26, 2009
Sex with another person is much more satisfying. Perhaps you should find someone who will take over the task and do a better job than Hanna and her five lovely daughters.
posted by Goofyy at 4:20 AM on November 27, 2009
posted by Goofyy at 4:20 AM on November 27, 2009
If you want to get rid of the callus on your foreskin, yeah, either cutting way back on the frequency or abstaining entirely for a bit is going to be the move.
And use a lot of good lube every time you masturbate to avoid this issue in future. Friction without lubrication = callus.
How to abstain? Do something else you find interesting instead of reading erotica and masturbating.
posted by Sidhedevil at 11:47 AM on November 27, 2009
And use a lot of good lube every time you masturbate to avoid this issue in future. Friction without lubrication = callus.
How to abstain? Do something else you find interesting instead of reading erotica and masturbating.
posted by Sidhedevil at 11:47 AM on November 27, 2009
Forktine: I've found that callus (on hands, feet, penis, anywhere) takes at least a few weeks for your body to slough off. It's your body's natural reaction to excessive friction, and it'll take a cycle of the skin replenishing itself for it to go away.
Yes, it usually takes a few weeks on most parts of the body; but the genitals are in general much faster healing, since they have so many blood vessels. Often calloused tissue in these areas can disappear within a matter of two or three days.
By the way, anonymous: Sidhedevil's right. You should learn your lesson and lubricate well from here on out; you can masturbate 6+ times a day without this happening so long as you use lubricant. And, as a suggestion, if you need lubricant but don't want to go out, or don't want to have to buy something potentially embarrassing, you might be interested to know that good olive oil works very well and is 100% sanitary. You'll find that lubricated masturbation is a hell of a lot more enjoyable.
posted by koeselitz at 1:55 PM on November 27, 2009
Yes, it usually takes a few weeks on most parts of the body; but the genitals are in general much faster healing, since they have so many blood vessels. Often calloused tissue in these areas can disappear within a matter of two or three days.
By the way, anonymous: Sidhedevil's right. You should learn your lesson and lubricate well from here on out; you can masturbate 6+ times a day without this happening so long as you use lubricant. And, as a suggestion, if you need lubricant but don't want to go out, or don't want to have to buy something potentially embarrassing, you might be interested to know that good olive oil works very well and is 100% sanitary. You'll find that lubricated masturbation is a hell of a lot more enjoyable.
posted by koeselitz at 1:55 PM on November 27, 2009
I don't meant to make fun, but I thought this might make you laugh a bit.
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