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Afraid of being fired: how do I keep the fear from crippling me?

I have crippling, perhaps justified fear of being fired. My fear is making my performance suffer, causing me misery and probably making firing more likely. How do I stop thinking like this? [more inside]
posted by Marered on Jan 20, 2014 - 21 answers

I am not your f&%@ing tea lady

I just allocated some work to a colleague who is a member of a team I manage. He responded by saying that I was just like a tea lady. Then he asked if there were any bribes available to get the work done. Stupidly, I laughed it off and told him he was dreaming if he thought our workplace would run to bribes. Of course, five minutes later I realised that HE CALLED ME - HIS MANAGER - A TEA LADY and now I'm seething at my desk. Do I take him aside and tell him it isn't kosher; OR do I just figure that this is an indication that its time to play hard ball (this isn't the first time he's made comments like this).
posted by Alice Russel-Wallace on Jan 19, 2014 - 35 answers

I love working here so much I'm planning on leaving!

Am I an asshole for saying, acting, and making plans as if I will be there forever while working on my strategy to leave in the next month? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 19, 2014 - 23 answers

Help Me Counter a Prank

I have to give a presentation to about 15 new hires tomorrow sometime around 10am. The start time is always variable by about 15 mins. I do this all the time and it is quite a fun presentation. The orientation at my company is super goofy and fun and the person coordinating it is totally down for some fun. So much so that my coworker Kim has pulled HR into a ongoing prank war that Kim and I are in. I have no idea what Kim is going to pull but something is going to go down. She already roped in every single one of them to come find me and make me do ridiculous things as part of the scavenger hunt. I need a way to get all these people involved and turn it into complete laughter, embarrassment, and glee for everyone. [more inside]
posted by jasondigitized on Jan 14, 2014 - 6 answers

Surviving and thriving amidst workplace sociopathy

What are some techniques and strategies for not only coping with, but thriving and getting the upper hand in dealings with the conscience-free? [more inside]
posted by Occam's Aftershave on Jan 4, 2014 - 27 answers

Help me crush this crush!

I'm married, with a kid. I work in the service industry. I have a powerful, consuming crush on my boss, who is also in a serious relationship. I used to be his boss, and we have a very friendly and candid relationship. I really, really need to not feel this way anymore. If I try to back off and go professional, he always asks what is wrong and it sucks me right back in. How do I make it stop?
posted by hopemeplease on Dec 25, 2013 - 23 answers

Looking for a spy camera to deal with harassment from coworker

I work at a very small company, no HR or process of accountability. It's basically myself, the coworker, and the boss. The coworker is someone who's been with the company for over 40 years, and we absolutely need his abilities for the company to function, so there's no chance of his being fired or seriously punished. I've voiced complaints to the boss, threatened to quit, but nothing really changes. However, I have a feeling that my boss either doesn't totally believe me, or thinks that I'm being oversensitive. If I had video evidence of my coworker in the act, I think something effective would be done (for instance, he may decide that I could work from home on most days, which is something we have loosely discussed in the past). [more inside]
posted by Sine_Agraphia on Dec 5, 2013 - 35 answers

How do I get over a platonic workplace crush?

I've had a platonic crush (aka squish) on a male co-worker for the past six months or so. Even though I'm a woman and we're both heterosexual, it is not in the least sexual. If we were men, it would be called a "man crush" or "bromance". (FWIW, I'm happily married, and he's happily engaged, both to people of the opposite sex.) It's not mutual. He sees me as a friend and colleague, while I idolize him, even though I'm aware of some of his flaws, including that his social skills aren't very good, and he occasionally does or says something that inadvertently hurts me (he wouldn't deliberately harm a fly), especially because he underestimates my professional competence. Anyway, I wish I didn't care what he thought of me. Any advice for getting over this crush, besides time and distance?
posted by anonymous on Nov 15, 2013 - 7 answers

Social skills and workplace ch-ch-changes

Very soon, I will be in a position where I will need to help lead a major change in the workplace, and one where many of the people I work with will be unhappy. How do I do this? [more inside]
posted by Ms. Toad on Sep 28, 2013 - 10 answers

Organizational Restructuring for Dummies

I work at a small non-profit academic organization (30 staff). We're currently in a period of "organizational restructuring," spurred by the (coincidentally timed) resignation of several of our key leaders, and I've been asked to be part of the team that helps decide what this new structure should look like. Help. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 20, 2013 - 5 answers

Help me optimize my elevator travel

I work in a building with two elevator banks, six cars per bank. One covers floors 2 - 20. The other covers floors 20 - 38. Both, obviously go to the lobby. My office is on floor 20, so my co-workers and have our choice of which elevator bank to choose from for our trips up and down. [more inside]
posted by hwestiii on Sep 17, 2013 - 32 answers

Relying on the panopticon to find my panopticon

Can you help me find an online newspaper article, potentially from the early 2000s, about a workplace in a rural area that had instituted many of the design concepts of a panopticon? [more inside]
posted by vitabellosi on Sep 12, 2013 - 1 answer

Telling a new boss about a medical condition?

My mom found out that she has cancer. Things are looking okay, but she'll need to travel a few hours away for surgery, followed by a week off work. Over the next couple of months, she'll need daily radiation. The twist is, she started a new job within the past month and a half. How should she share this with her boss (or should she share it at all)? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 22, 2013 - 13 answers

Being professional while socially awkward

My role at work is changing such that I'll need to interact with people face-to-face and over the phone much more than I currently do. The problem: I'm kind of awkward. I don't want to make things go poorly for my employer, so what is my next step? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 7, 2013 - 21 answers

How many mistakes do most people make in a day or week?

I worry that I make an abnormally large amount of mistakes at work. How often is "normal" to make mistakes? [more inside]
posted by tweedle on Jul 16, 2013 - 15 answers

Suggestions on a Workplace Splurge

What are the best purchases to improve your office space? [more inside]
posted by po822000 on Jun 25, 2013 - 19 answers

Help me navigate my relationships with well-meaning former coworkers.

I left a toxic workplace six months ago for a new job. I'm happy with my new gig, but running into former coworkers still puts me in a funk -- and I see them constantly. How do I handle interactions with them if I work in the same field and/or travel in the same social circles? Snowflakery inside. [more inside]
posted by whenbynowandtreebyleaf on Jun 21, 2013 - 10 answers

Crash course in American etiquette

I'm from an immigrant family and I have never really learned American social customs. Reading the comments on recent etiquette questions has made me realize that I lack an understanding of unwritten social rules that most people take for granted. [more inside]
posted by caesura on Jun 14, 2013 - 47 answers

GO TEAM GO! Yay or Nay?

Employers AND Employees--have Team-Building Retreats/Experiences been beneficial in your workplace? [more inside]
posted by bookmammal on Jun 9, 2013 - 41 answers

What can or should managers/supervisors do during a strike?

I work in a managerial/supervisory role in a public agency. My colleagues who are union members will quite likely be going on strike Tuesday. I have never been in this situation before and am not sure what I can/should do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2013 - 10 answers

"Not because you're a woman, but because I'm a gentleman."

Is there a classification of (HR-speak) discrimination when a male employee defers to female coworkers chivalrously (e.g. holding doors open)? Because the activity is solely based on gender, it seems like this would be the case, but it is not addressed as an example in our policies. (Title is Dad-quote from the 70's.)
posted by panmunjom on May 23, 2013 - 31 answers

Workplace mistake: What to do when my coworker throws me under the bus?

My office was submitting a grant and the wrong application was uploaded to the grant agency website. My coworker submitted the final documents - and it is clear to me already that he will find a way to throw me under the bus if he has to, to protect his interests. How do I approach this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2013 - 12 answers

How to work with my boss's idiot son?

My boss has hired her unqualified problem child son to work in my workplace. I have no idea how to deal with him. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 9, 2013 - 32 answers

Temp expectations - management-types, can you give me some insight?

I'm looking for insight about what is reasonable or "normal" expectations for a temp worker in an office situation. [more inside]
posted by Ouisch on May 8, 2013 - 23 answers

Quitting on ethical grounds, for selfish reasons

A coworker told me that our boss is sleeping with another coworker, his subordinate, our peer. This is the latest development in a dysfunctional workplace. I would like to quit on ethical grounds without implicating the friend that told me. Help, please. [more inside]
posted by sabatourist on Apr 30, 2013 - 42 answers

Coworker difficulties

Need advice on a situation at work. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 30, 2013 - 24 answers

Books on career advice for women

Lately I've been exploring books along the lines of "career advice for women," specifically to explore why I've been having trouble making myself heard effectively in my current work environment. I've found a couple of books that made me go "wow, I wish someone had given me this advice when I was 20" and now I'm wondering what else I'm missing. [more inside]
posted by sldownard on Mar 22, 2013 - 8 answers

What do anatomic pathologists wear to work in Omaha and Tampa?

I'm visiting pathology labs for work, and want to be respectful of the workplace attire. I've seen a couple of labs in California, where jeans are practically the dress code in every industry. Traveling to Omaha this week and Tampa next week. What to wear? [more inside]
posted by nadise on Mar 17, 2013 - 8 answers

Give me some examples of rephrasing a question into a statement

I've heard that men don't like questions. I'm a woman and would like to have better relationships with the men in my life. Give me some examples of ways to rephrase questions into statements, directives or imperatives. [more inside]
posted by geekgirl397 on Mar 15, 2013 - 40 answers

How do I deal with inappropriate comments in the office?

What is with my workplace? Need help dealing personally and professionally with a variety of inappropriate behavior from my coworkers and supervisor. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 7, 2013 - 42 answers

Disagreement at work about best photography practices!

When shooting and preparing an image file for print, I've always tried to set things up so that the highlights are bright, the shadows are dark, and everything else is in the middle. At work, I've occasionally been told by my immediate superior that I'm overexposing my images, and that the highlight detail is, in their words, 'blown away'. Checking my files, the highlights in the images in question cut off around 245, sometimes as low as 240! Is there a reason why they'd want the highlights even greyer? [more inside]
posted by rhooke on Feb 28, 2013 - 12 answers

Diplomatic speak for "No, I don't want to be friends with you"?

Glenda thinks because we met up a few times outside work, we can now be besties. Problem is, this time spent together made me realize Glenda is not someone I want to be friends with. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 28, 2013 - 28 answers

The new employee is sketchy, and only I know it.

I just started a new job as a researcher. They hired a few people around the same time as me and we all have start dates around now-ish. I've been there a week. There is a new guy starting in my department in a more senior position than me, but not supervising me, on Monday. I just got his name today and looked him up, and... there are some things about him that a little bit of digging uncovered that are sketchy. (It's definitely him, please give me the benefit of the doubt here.) His job is not likely to be impacted by these revelations about his recent past, but if it were to get out that his history includes these things, it could endanger my company's reputation if a competitor or journalist found out. Nothing he did is illegal. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 1, 2013 - 18 answers

Is there a good way to respond to assumers as opposed to questioners?

In my day to day life, I often have to deal with people who, instead of asking questions, make assumptions aloud at you about what you're going to be doing despite the fact that these assumptions may not be accurate. A lot of the time these techniques are used along with someone pretending to be so hopelessly helpless that they could not possibly take care of their own workplace problems. Basically, it's a technique used by weasels. For example: "I know you're going to be very helpful during this process because..." or "I don't know x from z so it's a good thing you are here to handle that part" They will also make assumptions about what you would and would not do. "I know you wouldn't want x or z to happen because..." These things are usually in no way true. In fact, the weasel in question often knows they're not true, they're just testing boundaries. So my question is generally, how does one push back against these behaviors without being rude, jarring and literal? Especially if you're dealing with a weasel -- they're better at this than you. I tend to shut down in the presence of weaselry, giving them very little the work with, but this doesn't seem like the best solution.
posted by Feel the beat of the rhythm of the night on Feb 1, 2013 - 19 answers

Parting gifts for an awesome work team?

I got a full-time job offer and will be giving my two weeks' notice to my current freelance gig. I want to give the people I've worked with a nice little gift before leaving. It's a big company so I can't take them all out to lunch/happy hour. Any ideas on what would be appropriate and not terribly expensive?
posted by Anima Mundi on Jan 28, 2013 - 6 answers

Dealing with casual bullying/racism at work?

I'd appreciate your advice on dealing with what seems to me racist joking/bantering at work -- particularly when it's directed at me. This is my first white-collar job since moving to North America, and I think this kind of "joking around" is unacceptable but this office's culture seems to tolerate it. [more inside]
posted by papafrita on Jan 27, 2013 - 32 answers

Gift Etiquette for work-friend birthdays

Went to birthday thing at a restaurant/bowling place for a work friend. There were 6 of us here. I consider the people there work-friends, in that I generally don't hang out with them outside of work. I was surprised that 3 of the friends gave gifts to the birthday girl, while the other guy bought her drinks and food. I tried to offer to pay for part of the entertainment cost but was begged off. So I felt like I didn't contribute much to the birthday celebration and possibly commited a faux pas in not getting a gift. I was under the impression that people at work who weren't that close don't give birthday gifts to each other. Did I commit a faux pas? Should I give a belated gift?
posted by Pantalaimon on Jan 9, 2013 - 11 answers

Great first-day things for a new employee?

I'm officially a supervisor. My first-ever subordinate starts tomorrow. What are some of the best things that great bosses have done or said on your first day? Specifics inside. [more inside]
posted by wjm on Jan 7, 2013 - 30 answers

It's not you, it's me working for you

How can you tell when it's you or the job? [more inside]
posted by girih knot on Jan 6, 2013 - 16 answers

Do I need to tell the hiring manager that I'm NOT pregnant?

This fall, when I was unemployed and job hunting, I discovered I was pregnant, kind of like this person: http://ask.metafilter.com/207069/Should-I-reveal-my-pregnancy-in-job-interviews. I did not mention this during interviews, but when I got an offer, I brought it up with the hiring manager as part of my negotiation. I was very pleased that it did not seem like a liability, and he promised I'd be made eligible for their paid maternity leave even though I would have only been there about six months. He also said he'd leave it up to me to tell my boss and team with at least 4 months advance notice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 27, 2012 - 21 answers

Etiquette for 'optional' workplace events that are not really optional?

Starting to feel uncomfortable about work events which are allegedly optional but don't turn out to be. How to approach this with boss? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 21, 2012 - 19 answers

Where alcohol policy meets the 3 martini lunch?

How to enforce a drug free / alcohol free workplace policy when executives drink with clients during the workday? What does your company do? [more inside]
posted by falldownpaul on Dec 10, 2012 - 28 answers

Is stealing a big issue at work, or just sort of, meh?

Theft problem at work creating lack of trust [more inside]
posted by cartoonella on Dec 3, 2012 - 22 answers

How to convey to my boss that I'm not incompetent?

Despite my otherwise agreeable work environment, I have a boss who's increasingly scolding me for following standard procedures and doing my job as normal. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 28, 2012 - 9 answers

Help me prank my PI

When I first started my current job as a graduate researcher at a nominally Catholic university as an American in Belgium, my boss played a quick prank on me where he came into my office, plopped down a copy of the New Testament in Flemish, and told me I needed to study up to pass some kind of religious test. The way he did it, it was pretty funny and I’m looking for ways to prank him back. [more inside]
posted by Blasdelb on Nov 28, 2012 - 7 answers

Do non-exempt employees get paid for the "optional" holiday party?

What are the rules for "optional" but not really optional work-related events for non-exempt employees? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 3, 2012 - 14 answers

Harassed at work?

How to sort out my feelings and figure out next steps after a disturbing incident? [more inside]
posted by altopower on Oct 26, 2012 - 58 answers

Workplace self-help book recommendation?

Has anyone read a good self-help book about dealing with stressful jobs/workplaces? [more inside]
posted by srs airbag on Oct 21, 2012 - 2 answers

ADHD acceptance; nobody's problem but my own?

I've just been diagnosed with ADHD, and have started an initial stimulant-based management plan. I'm in my mid-forties, and work in a very traditional industry and come from a not-very-accepting Old World culture. How open do I need to be with colleagues and friends that I'm doing this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2012 - 11 answers

What's the best way protect myself from online snoopers?

What's the best way to scrub my online presence for protection from a potential-future snoopy boss, etc? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 5, 2012 - 13 answers

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