At work (USA), I believe myself to be the victim of gender-based bias with regard to attitude, expression and other attributes. I want to ask HR about it. [more inside]
Let's say I travel with my coworkers - let's call them Anne, Bryan, and Casey - to an offsite event near our office. How should I handle the awkward situation that sometimes plays out? Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
If one employee witnesses a second employee bully a third employee, should the witness do anything? If so, what? [more inside]
I really, really like my job - but the one major downside is that a not-insignificant number of my colleagues are incompetent. How to not let these people get to me? [more inside]
I'm scheduled to be on a panel about lack of women in senior roles within my industry. So I'm looking for pointers to articles, short podcasts, studies, puff pieces, reports, and just general interesting point of views on encouraging women into industries (from both women AND women). [more inside]
Someone in my work environment screwed me over and behaved in a way that was seriously unethical. The person who was actually responsible is not someone I need to see day-to-day (luckily), but the person who benefitted from his actions is someone with whom I have a close working relationship. Assume there is no further productive point in discussing it with anyone, and no fix that can be made. Also assume I prefer not to quit my job right now. How can I best work through the anger on my own so I can behave professionally? And how can I improve my poker face while being around the coworkers in question? [more inside]
Coworker wouldn't acknowledge that she said the words "brownie" or "nigger" in the first place. That was a few months ago and the tension making those comments created hasn't gotten better. [more inside]
During unofficial, in-between-meetings office banter, I tend to speak "loosely" and casually, giving estimates instead of precise directives. Everyone does this -- it's normal in many breezy conversational settings. Unfortunately, my boss seems to love correcting people or debating minute points, even when they're just riffing informally. I'll be spitballing hypothetically and he'll take that as a super literal representation. I need tips on how to deal! [more inside]
I am having a lot of emotions at work right now as a result of a change in my responsibilities and my boss. Intellectually I know that absolutely none of it is personal and that there is a lot of potential for me in my company and department. My feelings do not agree and are keeping me up at night, making up doomsday scenarios and generally giving me major anxiety. How do I deal? [more inside]
It's time for me to get hearing aids. It isn't age-related but genetic. I am still relatively young, and I'm concerned about discrimination professionally and socially. Please provide advice and reassurance. [more inside]
I have a 1:1 meeting pending with my CEO, and I'd like to discuss what I feel is the biggest impediment to our success: a single, very senior, very poisonous individual. I don't want this to be mistaken for a personal vendetta (it isn't), and I don't even need the person to be fired. I just want their poisonous behavior to stop. [more inside]
In light of the recent Ask and Meta about sexism at work, I thought I'd bring this dilemma to you guys. My potential boss is flirting heavily with me. I'm not interested in him but I really need the job. [more inside]
I've been doing some work with an executive function coach who has suggested that our process would benefit if she has some contact with key people that I work with. I'd like to think through the risks that that might entail, in order to decide if it's a good idea and worth it on balance. [more inside]
I need help finding some statistics regarding workplace violence and - particularly separating out violence perpetrated by internal employees vs external 3rd parties. [more inside]
IT-manager friend turns 40 later this year. How can we show our appreciation? [more inside]
I have crippling, perhaps justified fear of being fired. My fear is making my performance suffer, causing me misery and probably making firing more likely. How do I stop thinking like this? [more inside]
I just allocated some work to a colleague who is a member of a team I manage. He responded by saying that I was just like a tea lady. Then he asked if there were any bribes available to get the work done. Stupidly, I laughed it off and told him he was dreaming if he thought our workplace would run to bribes. Of course, five minutes later I realised that HE CALLED ME - HIS MANAGER - A TEA LADY and now I'm seething at my desk. Do I take him aside and tell him it isn't kosher; OR do I just figure that this is an indication that its time to play hard ball (this isn't the first time he's made comments like this).
I left a toxic workplace six months ago for a new job. I'm happy with my new gig, but running into former coworkers still puts me in a funk -- and I see them constantly. How do I handle interactions with them if I work in the same field and/or travel in the same social circles? Snowflakery inside. [more inside]
Employers AND Employees--have Team-Building Retreats/Experiences been beneficial in your workplace? [more inside]
I got a full-time job offer and will be giving my two weeks' notice to my current freelance gig. I want to give the people I've worked with a nice little gift before leaving. It's a big company so I can't take them all out to lunch/happy hour. Any ideas on what would be appropriate and not terribly expensive?
How can you tell when it's you or the job? [more inside]
How do you deal with people who make insensitive, hurtful comments about your disability at school / in the workplace?
How do you deal with people who make insensitive, hurtful comments about your disability at school / in the workplace? [more inside]
While faxing at the front desk at my job, a few co-workers were sitting around chatting. An African American co-worker was telling few Hispanic co-workers a story about how her and her friends were overlooked while shopping at Coach, "because the clerk was only paying attention to the (mouths the word "white" while my back was turned) girls. She goes on the explain that they left the store and called to complain that they were ignored because of their race. I was the only white person there (and not part of the conversation) and I would never have been telling a story if the reverse was true, so was this racism in the workplace? I surely felt uncomfortable. What can/should I do?
My sister received a dream job offer but for one thing - the man who will be her direct supervisor was definitely looking at her boobs both times she went into the office for the interviews. [more inside]
My new boss is totally different from my old boss. Help me persuade my colleagues not to hate him. [more inside]
What is the URL of that tumblr with pictures of graphic designers working while their bosses look over their shoulders?
How can I report what I think are unsafe work conditions at a construction site near my house? Who should I be talking to, the developer? OSHA? [more inside]
How do I get a job as a corporate drone? [more inside]
Workplace filter: I feel uncomfortable doing something.. give me a clue as to what to do? Details inside [more inside]
Yesterday I was called into what turned out to be a humiliating tag-team meeting where my supervisor and the department director took turns berating me for my job performance over the past year. Short on specifics and long on phrases like "you don't display ownership of your projects," and "you're always late," etc. All this is odd because just a couple months ago I got an un-scheduled mid-year raise and 'ata-boy from the director. Yes, one of the same who was pounding on me yesterday. [more inside]
Is it okay to bring religion into the workplace? [more inside]
Does such a thing exist that will allow me to keep my shirt tucked in, invisibly? [more inside]
Get off my lawn filter: What's the matter with these kids today? Really. (More after the jump). [more inside]
I'll be jetlagged for the first day (and week) at my new job. Help me deal with this gracefully in my new workplace. [more inside]
What to do about an oblivious young employee abusing a lenient work environment? [more inside]
If I am trapped in a meeting or group with a co-worker who likes to hear himself talk (I mean really pontificate)...how do I go zen on it all? How do I adjust my own frustration? He sometimes has an entourage/fan club which isn't my business but I get really frustrated when stuck with him. He also tends to show up in the same small group parties I have attended. Deep breathing doesn't seem to be helping. I'm thinking about a flask of whiskey.
Should I divulge to my boss my mentor/coworker’s complete lack of work ethic? (academic lab situation) [more inside]
How can I make my horrible work environment less horrible? [more inside]
There is a woman I work with who, up until today, I really liked. She’s in an office in another state, but we clicked well over the phone and she’s otherwise a pretty terrific person, and I pretty much considered her a personal friend outside of the workplace. Today she forwarded to me this epically offensive, crazy racist e-mail, and I’m not sure what to do. Advice and/or resources would be appreciated. [more inside]
Please help me maintain my dignity at work. [more inside]
I love collaboration and teamwork and I need your job and career suggestions. [more inside]
Last month, I finally landed my first "real" job. However, I have no idea how to dress myself -- I need to look "smart," but not overdressed. Give a geek some fashion advice! [more inside]
How can I get my coworkers from compulsively using air freshener, as it gives me a terrible, go-home-early migraine? Asking nicely every day for the last week has been unsuccessful. [more inside]
What is the legality of signing a mandatory company agreement to not associate with non-management employees outside of the workplace?
How do you deal with sexism in your workplace? [more inside]
Can you help me plan a one-day workplace retreat in New York? [more inside]
I need a movie with horribly unethical working environments. [more inside]
My workplace (in the UK) has recently decided that every desk must have a laminated card with "Action To Be Taken In The Event Of A Bomb Threat". This strikes me as somewhat bizarre in that although I work for a communications company there is no infrastructure here to damage (barring remote switch access). Should the fact that these have been posted around the building out of the blue trigger a paranoia alert or is it just the company being a tad silly? Does anyone out there have any experience with this sort of thing?
Moderately Concerned of Yorkshire
Moderately Concerned of Yorkshire
Workplace racism and etiquette advice. MI. [more inside]