So, I've been job hunting, and working through headhunters and the like. It seems like a lot of the jobs through the headhunters are contract gigs. I'm really anxious to switch jobs, so I'm willing to accept a contract gig, but what am I actually getting into? I've only ever worked as a permanent employee!
I just achieved a major professional milestone, but it feels nearly totally unacknowledged at work. Formally, they gave a nominal bonus and a lunch (which ended up combined with a lunch for a departing intern...), but in reality, I have the strong sense that my director doesn't see much value in what I do. I don't know if I should just quit and move on, or try and push through. [more inside]
So I (female, early 30's) had a little bit of an adventure last week with my superior (male, early 40's), but now it's become a bit more complicated, and I could use some advice. LONG wall of text inside, apologies! [more inside]
I screwed up at work and I'm having a hard time bouncing back. Complication factor: I'm actually leaving this job in a couple weeks. [more inside]
I may have the opportunity to take over a non-profit in which the old ED was run out of town for essentially burning all bridges very publicly, alienating important political connections, significantly damaging the reputation of the organization, as well as losing about 50% of donors along the way. All in about 5 years. So two questions... [more inside]
Before we met, they had a thing. He's offered her a (admittedly amazing) job, but I'm freaking out because she'll report to him. How do I deal? [more inside]
I have a fair amount of trouble getting work done (at work and at home), especially consistently. I think having a routine would help, but I’m not sure how to create, get into, and stay in a routine. I’ve never managed to do that for more than a week before, even for very small routines. [more inside]
I'm having a hard time aligning with my co-worker. I think we're incompatible. There's also been the feel of a toxic work environment. More under the fold. [more inside]
And you like the person but you're seeing someone [more inside]
Calling all nick-name and users of your non legal name. I've hit a snag. New work email at huge corporation has a legal name policy for email addresses and seeing my legal name all over the place constantly is making me a crazy person. Details below the fold. [more inside]
I am a trans man and I am legally changing my name and gender marker in 2 weeks. I have still not come out at work. I am extremely anxious about this and want to hear other people's experiences. Preferably from the trans person perspective, but also HR or managers of trans people, especially in white collar environments. [more inside]
Our MD accidentally attached some harsh comments meant for an external training company to the the entire organisation. Basically, it breaks down person-by-person, their 'weaknesses' as he sees it. What recourse if any do I have/how do I approach this? More inside. [more inside]
I am 3 years into my career as an actuary. I was recently one of the final two candidates for a promotion at work. I ended up not getting the role and the feedback I received was that it was very close, but the other candidate was stronger for their leadership experience. So, my question is twofold. 1) Are there any books you can recommend that might help me improve my leadership abilities. 2) Given that opportunities to demonstrate my leadership abilities might be somewhat limited by the kinds of work my leader gives me, are there things I can be doing in and out of the workplace to improve my skills?
I would tentatively like to adopt an adult, housebroken dog, but could stand to hear some outside thoughts before taking the plunge. See below for lifestyle details. [more inside]
I have a staff of 25 and I'm looking for a holiday gift that will give everyone a little lift every day they are at the office. In the past, my go-to gift was gift cards, but they seem so impersonal and forgettable. Some ideas that come to mind are: - new Keurigs and stock an assortment of coffees, teas, and ciders - snack cabinet and stock it with snacks and drinks - personalized stationery [more inside]
I would have to break a small teaching contract to take a much more stable and lucrative admin job I interviewed for at the same university. I haven't told my current supervisor that I'm looking for other work, but the application form required me to put them down as a reference. What should I do if HR gives me the heads-up that they are going to call my references? [more inside]
What to do if I don't have a lot of work exp/references during the job search? [more inside]
Have you or someone you've known started changing your attitude/work level, even if you're doing great by just getting by? How'd it go? How did you make steps required to change? [more inside]
[Career-filter] Help a somewhat disillusioned archivist brainstorm a new career. [more inside]
Obviously it will be more expensive, but if I'm not taking the program seriously enough, is it foolish to keep overworking myself? [more inside]
I am about to go on a medical leave from work because of some mental health issues. I feel ashamed and guilty, and I don't know how to tell my manager - email? Meeting (how could I not cry in a meeting)? What specific words and phrases can I use so that he won't know or guess the reason for my leave? What do I say, and how? [more inside]
I'm at a conference and feeling like a failure. I know about power poses, I've started blasting upbeat music in my headphones when I'm going from place to place, and I've started doing little mindfulness/body checks if I'm feeling really alarmed. What else can I be doing to combat my imposter syndrome/crises of confidence, right now?
Over the last few weeks I've start getting recurrent and consistent headaches...at work. And only at work. Nothing has changed and I don't know how to go about fixing this. [more inside]
I have been offered an opportunity at a promising company in Ottawa, Canada. However, I'm a US citizen who has never lived outside of the US. Have any Metafites done this before? Do you regret it? Is this just a Bad Idea (TM)? [more inside]
What should a couple keep in mind about deciding whether to move to a small town and become a single income family? Bonus complications: Resort town, SAHD. [more inside]
What is the best way to approach asking my employer to move from a full-time schedule to part-time? What is reasonable to expect in terms of changes to pay and benefits? [more inside]
I recently had a phone interview for a federal GS-11 paralegal specialist position that went well. They’ve offered to fly me out for an in-person interview at their location. I’ve never worked for the federal government, but have roughly 10 years of experience working in various law firms. If this were a law firm, I'd know what questions to ask, and what the red flags would be. However, when it comes to the federal government, I'm really clueless about everything. If you transitioned from a career in the private sector to the federal government, what do you wish you had asked before you started? [more inside]
It seems like the multi-national that owns my division will be shutting us down next year. Already, people are quitting and not being replaced. My boss is trying to find ways to ensure we all keep our jobs next year. He wants me to think about what I'd like to be doing- should I tell him I'm thinking of quitting? [more inside]
I am terrible at maintaining contact with former supervisors/professors and have the tendency to put it off until it can't be avoided, then I feel like a jerk for only reaching out when I need something. How does one word a professional keep in touch email? [more inside]
How does one search LinkedIn for WFH opportunities; also, how to present yourself as someone only interested in those types of jobs? [more inside]
My very politically conservative boss is outspoken about her political beliefs and frequently spouts off about issues on which my opinion is the opposite (I’m very politically liberal). Her remarks tend to skirt (but not exactly cross) the line of what’s overtly offensive. I don’t want to jeopardize my working relationship with her, but I need some help and advice on how to cope with this situation, especially with the next presidential election coming up (I’m in the USA). [more inside]
I work in a large company with offices around the world, but with head offices in North America. Today, as I was reading a policy update, I came across the usage of the term "act as a quarterback". To me, this idiom seems to be a little biased towards North American workplaces (especially given that my company has a presence outside of North America), and can easily be replaced by "coordinator". But I'm not sure if I should let it go or to ask the copywriter of the release to consider using a different term to eliminate unconscious bias (and in the unlikely event that I do contact the copywriter, what would be the best approach) so I would like to see how everyone on Metafilter thinks. Thank you in advance!
After 10+ years away, I'm considering the possibility of moving back to the Philadelphia area for the right career opportunity. Unfortunately, I don't know much about what the job market for software developers is like there now. Does anyone have any thoughts on what things are like for senior software developers in Philly these days, or any recommendations for reputable tech recruiters in the area? What about some good companies to work for that believe in work/life balance, are paying decent money, and doing interesting things? Details follow after the fold. [more inside]
I have a coworker that I report to, and they constantly ask, "ARE WE HAVING FUN YET?!" But then they seem to want a literal answer and I have no good response. [more inside]
My cubicle neighbor's water bottle makes the most annoying noise and I don't know what my options are. [more inside]
My former colleague got promoted to become my boss, and isn't happy with me having discussions with my old boss (who new boss reports to). This is despite old boss saying I will always have access to him, as this situation isn't what I signed up for. What do I do? [more inside]
Every job I have ever had I become convinced I am getting fired. How can I stop believing this and sabotaging myself at work. [more inside]
I'm taking my first sick day in a long time, after my boss told me to go home from a meeting because I had actually lost my voice. I'm not good at knowing when feeling crappy merits taking a sick day and when it merits just sucking it up and hauling yourself in to work, especially if you have meetings planned or are supposed to be teaching a group. How do you decide that the level of sick you're feeling is sick enough to require calling in?
Most questions about work hours and productivity imply that it's normal to be focused on work the entire time you're at the office, with short breaks and maybe a lunch break. I've seen lots of advice suggesting that you may have ADHD or depression if you spend a lot of time, say, surfing the Internet while procrastinating. Is procrastinating really a pathology, and is 90-100% productivity really normal? [more inside]
What are better jobs in Computer Software/IT for someone with ADD? [more inside]
Hi - I have a staff of about 15 people who have been working valiantly for me lately and I want to give them a little morale booster. Ideally nothing in the form of sweets, and nothing that takes up a bunch of time from the day (like a trip to the movies or something). Any ideas? I can spend up to about $750 total.
My old boss seems to hate me, and I just can't get over it --- how do you deal with that? Especially since I know it's more or less my fault. [more inside]
Hi, Ok here's my situation. Last year around this time I was diagnosed with bipolar. I lost my job, my apartment, everything. I was living several states away and I had to move home to live with my grandparents. When I arrived back home, I contacted one of my old employers who let me come back on part time as a writer and photographer. I love the job!! It gave me so much of my confidence back. However, it's only part time so the only reason I could afford to work there is bc my grandparents did not charge me for rent or food. I am 30, by the way. [more inside]
I am a paid intern for a small SaaS startup, and in the past month or so, I've been drowning a little at life. I remoted into the office this weekend to play catch-up, and discovered that a coworker, who until recently was also an intern, had publicly 'completed' (badly) the task clearly assigned to me, which I had already spent some time on. Our workflow tool indicates he assigned himself to the ticket. [more inside]
I've been affected by a round of layoffs and am looking for work. The search has been going well and there are some prospects. My major source of anxiety right now is that this is happening while I am trying to get pregnant. [more inside]
I interviewed for a job position at this university health clinic a month ago, and received promising news. [more inside]
How can I respectfully and professionally decline opportunities to learn more/give more at work? [more inside]
I went through a long interview process and it turns out the person who was leading that process knew they were leaving, knew whom I'd be reporting to once they were gone, and actively withheld that from me. I don't think I can stay, I'm not sure what my next steps should be. [more inside]
I've gotten out of a ten-year plus job that was essentially (if not in reality) a protected workplace and not too difficult and now am going to tackle (have been hired for) a new, higher-up and better paying one (before the first job I was very sick for quite a while and therefore couldn't work at all so missed out on the opportunity to learn about much about the Big Girl/Big Boy details of life in the workplace). Because of this, I feel like I really don't know what I should be doing (besides the work I mean). What is your very best advice for being/appearing professional on the job? I know about not gossiping and being on time.
I got a fantastic job offer, but it's in Phoenix. I'm not sure I'd like living in Phoenix. Is it worth taking a much (much!) better job if you're not crazy about the locale? [more inside]