1039 posts tagged with work by Anonymous.
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Should I donate my services to the school auction?

I work for myself doing a particular service for homeowners that is in high demand right now. I'm considering donating a consultation to my kid's school's auction. What should I think about before I do this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 30, 2016 - 14 answers

How can I moderate exhaustion from career-related emotional labour?

My career requires me to periodically muster up tremendous amounts of emotion, energy, and enthusiasm, and perform huge amounts of emotional labour. It's like a rollercoaster: really fun and exhilarating once it gets rolling, but then it ends and drops me into a pit of fatigue and inertia. I mostly enjoy the highs, but how can I get better at managing the drops? (Lots more inside) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 27, 2016 - 4 answers

Am I overreacting to an office prank?

My boss and one of my direct reports teamed up to play a public practical joke on me. It feels mean instead of funny. Am I overreacting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 24, 2016 - 57 answers

Shake-ups happening at work. Suggestions on how to handle it?

I work as a copywriter at an university in D.C. Lately, things has been piling up at this job with a series of events, and really starting to get to be too much. I'm not exactly sure how to proceed. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 21, 2016 - 19 answers

Need life advice, could have been so much better, now a sad code monkey

I am turning 29 this month. I graduated 3.8 GPA with a undergraduate Business degree in 2010 from a good university but then went through about 4 career changes in the last 6 years. I thought this kind of "soul-searching" would help me explore a lot of different areas and find myself. But in fact, I'm so miserable about the fact that I'm so behind and have not built anything worthwhile in the last 6 years. Today, I'm stuck at a uninspiring coding job out in the suburbs and just am staying with it because it pays the bills but I know I can be so much better. I see my peers who are now graduating with their MBAs + PhDs from Columbia and Cornell and getting married or just doing amazing things with their lives in general and feel terribly behind, have so many regrets, extremely depressed. How can I turn my life around? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 8, 2016 - 14 answers

Best job I’ve ever hated

My job is, by most objective standards, terrific. I work from home (which I like); have flexible hours; overtime is okay’d whenever requested; boss likes me and thinks I’m brilliant. And the pay is more than I’ve ever made in my life (which puts me at just under the low end of middle-class income). Yay. What’s not good: the work I do, which includes an increasing number of tasks I dislike intensely – enough that I’ve thought not only, “I’d rather work with raw sewage than do this,” but “hey, I wonder if that guy I used to know who worked at the sewage plant still works there? Nah, they probably don’t pay this well for untrained labor. (Could I get trained?)” [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 29, 2016 - 31 answers

What are my options here?

My job is a sick system and I feel burnt out, miserable, and trapped. This UK employer sponsors my Tier 2 work visa. If I quit, I will have to return to the US immediately, which I have absolutely no intentions of doing. Current UK visa rules mean it's nearly impossible for me to find a different employer, moreso since the Brexit outcome. I have three more years living here under a work visa until I can apply for citizenship, which is my long-term goal. As crazy as it sounds, I'd like to stay with them, but how do I survive this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 28, 2016 - 7 answers

Career burnout. Now what?

I have serious career burnout. After an exhausting and stressful decade of working at two of the highest profile, most competitive tech companies anywhere, I'm quickly reaching the point where I just can't stand it any longer. I'm stressed all the time, and I'm starting to think it's becoming dangerous for me to have this much stress at this time in my life. Trouble is, I can't seem to decide what to do next. Snowstorm after the jump. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 26, 2016 - 30 answers

How do I give notice from my remote job?

I've decided to accept a job offer and leave a job that I had become dissatisfied with, yay! But now I need to tell my manager and my teammates that I'm leaving and I'm not sure how to do that because I'm a remote worker. Special snowflake details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 20, 2016 - 10 answers

I may be offered a job that I'm unqualified for

A colleague (X) that I have closely volunteered with at a separate non-profit for a couple years recommended me to apply for a job at her workplace from which she is soon departing. This job (technical in nature) is in the same department that X works in and she also sat in on each of the interviews as a part of the interviewing team. I've had a couple interviews so far, and based on my advancement, now believe that I may actually be offered this position, and my long-held impostor syndrome is actually now warranted. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 19, 2016 - 15 answers

Can I leave a good job because I don't have any friends?

I moved to the UK with my family a few years ago for work. I like my job a lot, we have access to good schools, we don't pay rent, and the quality of life is generally good. The problem is that, after 3 years, I have no friends. I've invited people over, invited people out, gone to everything I have been invited to myself, and it just hasn't worked out with... anyone. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 16, 2016 - 13 answers

Successfully promoting great software engineers to leadership roles

I've noticed a pattern at the software company I work for: our best engineers (not just in terms of engineering but also in terms of their social skills, collaboration, coaching and working well with others) are promoted to engineering leadership roles and given direct reports. This reduces the time they spend actually making things by at least 50% due to the time they spend in management. They often don't make great managers (at least at first) and in some cases they eventually ask to return to being an individual contributor. How can we make this work better? What patterns of success have you seen for this in your own workplaces? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 13, 2016 - 20 answers

Explaining how social media works to my boss

I'm looking for some good articles that explain the timelines of social media to my boss. I'm struggling to get him to understand why delaying posting things that are already published online on news websites for days or even weeks doesn't make sense. Ditto delaying posting photos from events for up to two weeks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2016 - 19 answers

Maternity leave for managers

Managers of Metafilter, how did you handle coverage for your maternity leave? If all goes according to plan, I'm going to tell my boss that I'm pregnant next week, and I'd like to have some ideas/suggestions for her when she starts wondering how to handle my leave. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 30, 2016 - 5 answers

When your career has failed to launch

I'm in my early 30s and graduated in 2008. As a result, I feel like I've never had a career and am starting to panic about the future. Can I ever pull it all together? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2016 - 16 answers

Office Culture: Architecture

I work for a very small non-profit headed by a former, recently retired architect. Can you tell me something about the work culture of an architecture firm? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2016 - 8 answers

So confused/indecisive about work and career as a mom

I have worked part time since my son was born six years ago. He is now in 1st grade and gets home around 3 p.m. on the bus. I am thinking that it's time for me to go back to work full time for several reasons, but I am agonizing over my decision and it's driving me crazy. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 9, 2016 - 8 answers

How to resolve a harassment case?

I am in a young-ish lecturer at a UK university, and I'm trying to "broker" a solution to an incident of sexual harassment. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 7, 2016 - 17 answers

Should I critique my boss to their boss?

My boss has been promoted to incompetence. How can I and the others in our (very small) group help our boss be a better leader without risking our own careers? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2016 - 13 answers

How do I work with/around my checked-out supervisor?

My supervisor is retiring in a month and seems to be checked out or perhaps just not worried about maintaining relationships. How do I maintain relationships and do good work in this situation? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 28, 2016 - 4 answers

Can I salvage my college career in my final year?

I'm about to enter my senior year of college as a Computer Science major with pretty much the worst profile possible: a just-above-being-kicked-out GPA, no internships or relevant experience, no extracurriculars, no well-developed skills. Is there any way I can make myself employable in the next 10 months? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 20, 2016 - 15 answers

I'm getting fired and have no idea what to do next

I'm going to be fired for the first time in my life and I'm completely lost. Messy, rambling details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2016 - 12 answers

How can I frame my willingness to leave a job after only a month?

I recently started a job that ranks between okay and good. I have now been contacted about a job that would be OH MY GOD HOLY SHIT WHOAAAA. How can I possibly interview without revealing what a jerk I am for leaving a job after only a month? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 6, 2016 - 14 answers

I've fallen down a well and can't get out

I was a high achiever during high school and college, but after 10 years of working in the real world, I'm stuck in a mediocre career with few options for advancement. How can an achievement-oriented person such as myself find happiness in mediocrity? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2016 - 26 answers

I want to quit my federal job, but am unsure if it's the right choice.

Should I give up my federal government job? Major snow storm inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 3, 2016 - 14 answers

Need some help to extricate myself from a volunteer organisation

I need to find the best way to exit from an organisation run by someone who is creating a lot of toxicity, without letting down my fellow volunteers or putting someone else into an uncomfortable position. (Long story inside.) [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 31, 2016 - 22 answers

How do I live this awful job?

My job is awful — and I mean really awful. I can’t get a full night’s sleep, take care of myself, or have a life any more. I’m suffering mentally and physically, but the exit door isn’t clearly marked. I could use some advice...and also, a new job. Lots of shitty snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2016 - 24 answers

Bored with my job

Too good to leave, too bad to stay: job edition. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2016 - 4 answers

I was poached internally - how to mitigate the fallout?

I was approached by the manager of a different department than the one I work in (same company). She asked me about my interest in a position in her department. I hadn't considered it previously, but after doing more research, I decided that it would be a great move for me, as I'll be making quite a bit more money than I'm making now and it's a fantastic growth opportunity. She asked me to keep the interviews, hiring procedures, etc. quiet with my current managers until the details were finalized. I wasn't super comfortable with this (I'm close with my current team), but did what was requested of me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2016 - 30 answers

Weighing my first job offer after graduate school

I recently completed my master's degree, and have spent the past six weeks looking for a relevant job. This week I received my first offer, but am torn about whether to accept or keep looking. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2016 - 11 answers

Should I tell my boss why I was out?

I have a long history of physical illness. I have a chronic medical condition that causes frequent loss of work, which my boss knows. I've taken several leaves of absence over the past few years due to this. However, my current LOA was due to mental illness. My depression/anxiety has been with me for a long time, but was contained by medication, until it wasn't. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2016 - 12 answers

Should I help a colleague with a job? Even if I find them mildly evil?

This is the prettiest question I've asked and I feel pretty crap asking it. However, I'm a student about to enter the working world for the first time, so I don't know what the rules are around this kind of thing. Help please? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 26, 2016 - 46 answers

Blowback after expressing concerns of co-worker's suicide risk

A friend from work (Rachel) disclosed to one of her close friends (Monica) that someone on her team (Phoebe) had expressed suicidal ideation that was becoming seriously concerning. Monica works at another location, so Rachel talked with Monica in order to get advice on how to report her concern while remaining anonymous, avoiding blowback, and keeping the trust of her team-mate. Instead, Monica immediately reported her concern to the regional manger, Phoebe was immediately suspended and told Rachel reported her. Blowback has ensued. How does my friend deal with this perceived lack of professionalism? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 25, 2016 - 13 answers

How to ask for help finding a job without being a jerk

I have some quasi-friends that I used to work with, and I feel guilty about not keeping in touch with them. Now I need their help finding a job. Can I email them and say "Hey, I have been ignoring you but now I'm your friend because I need a favor from you," except not be a jerk? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 23, 2016 - 18 answers

How to hire ethnically diverse employees?

Small firm looking for salespeople-- how can I get a more diverse group of candidates? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 16, 2016 - 16 answers

Coping strategies to reduce/eliminate negative thoughts about my boss

I need help to stop hating my boss. I don't think that my boss is a bad person. I do think they are a terrible leader and that their actions are directly impeding both my ability to be effective in my role and to advance my career along the path I have been (wildly successfully) on. I also think that they, consciously or subconsciously, are working to sabotage me, or at the least smother me with power-plays and microaggressions to "keep me in my place" and under their control. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 13, 2016 - 11 answers

Yet another "Do I want this job?" question

I've been at my current employer for about three years. I'm thinking of making a career move, so that I focus more on, let's say, tennis policy analysis. I've found a job that looks promising, but I'm having a hard time telling if it's the right next step for me. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 10, 2016 - 10 answers

How to Try to Get Value at Work

For a number of reasons, I don't feel valued at my current workplace. I know what I ultimately need to do, but what do I do about my feeling useless and lack of hopelessness in the meantime? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 3, 2016 - 6 answers

Done with the rat race?

I've been working in a social work profession with the public for ten years. I'm burned out and ready for a change. My spouse is supportive, we have the $$ to go to one income, but I'm hesitating. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on May 2, 2016 - 16 answers

My job is killing my soul but I can't leave

I'm at the point where my job is actively causing me despair. Since I can't quit without getting a new job first, how do I cope every day while I try to find something new? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 30, 2016 - 8 answers

How to request that feedback be passed on to my boss?

The nature of my job is that I don't have a lot of contact with my immediate leader for long periods of time. I've been "on loan" to another area of the company since late last year. In that time, I've received a lot of positive feedback on my work. Sometimes this is given to me in person and other times it's through email. Is there a tactful way that I could suggest that people pass some of this feedback onto my boss, so that it can be considered when I'm being given my performance evaluation? I'm not really sure how to phrase this in a way that isn't awkward?
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2016 - 13 answers

What jobs can I get with my disability and level of education?

How can I make money with a disability? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 27, 2016 - 8 answers

Procrastinated badly and screwed up - damage control?

I screwed up at work...despite all the time in the world, I dragged my feet on some important tasks and I let a lot of people down. What can I do to show that I take that mistake seriously and it won't happen again? Difficulty: remote team. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 23, 2016 - 6 answers

Are these red flags or just quirks, or, Should I quit a new job?

I was recently hired for a part-time (two days/week) position as an assistant at a small employment services company. After two days of training/work, I feel very uncomfortable about the position and the work environment. I'm considering not going back (I would call/email, of course, I'm not planning to just not show up). However, I've had a really rough year, and don't fully trust my perceptions and decisions. I'm trying to separate new-job-discomfort from this-situation-is-genuinely-weird discomfort, and would love some outside perspective. Additional backstory/context and plenty of details within! [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 15, 2016 - 27 answers

Appropriate thank-you gift for a supervisor

My boss just did me a really big favor. I feel the need to give her a thank-you gift, but not sure what's appropriate (or if a gift is appropriate at all). [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 6, 2016 - 23 answers

Diplomatically approaching a salary issue

I need to approach my organization leadership about a raise. Not only have I recently been approached about other opportunities by headhunters and some HR departments, but I also found out that a co-worker with a somewhat similar background is making about 40% more than I am. I want to calmly ask if better compensation is a possibility without going out and getting an offer to be matched. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Apr 1, 2016 - 8 answers

Hiring a direct report when I may be leaving soon?

I may be offered a new job soon. I am also in the final stages of hiring a long-awaited second-in-command at my current job. I did not know I would be able to hire someone when I started the interview process for my potential new job. I have no cause to stick it to my current employer by hiring a new person then scramming shortly thereafter. How do I navigate this? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 24, 2016 - 12 answers

Getting rid of a work crush

I have a crush on my boss, but I love my work and want to stay. What are some strategies I can use to get over this crush? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 16, 2016 - 13 answers

Time off, I'll miss you...

Have you made this move, from a relatively large amount of time off from work to a good deal less? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Mar 2, 2016 - 10 answers

Career Change Filter: From Scholarly Publishing to ?

Publishing is in its death throes, and I REALLY need a new industry to work in. But which? Details inside . . . [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 13, 2016 - 9 answers

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