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The Scarlet Letter

Recently at work I was given serious feedback that others are finding me abrasive. I'm a woman, and aware of the history of application of this word unfairly, but I think there may be some truth in it in my case. I've read this and other articles about how to handle abrasive people who report to you, but I would like to hear suggestions from people who have also been in the position of receiving this label, and how you worked to overcome it, and whether your efforts have been successful. Recommended strategies appreciated. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 26, 2015 - 7 answers

What, Me Worry?

I tend to obsessively brood about things -- usually frustrations or conflicts at work -- and I want to know how to leave that alone so I am not stressed out all the time thinking through situations I can do nothing to solve. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 18, 2015 - 13 answers

How do I avoid burnout in my new position at a non-profit

I am a detail oriented, personable woman in my late twenties that really likes what I do. I work for a small non-profit that is highly respected in the mid-size town that I live in. Before I had this job I worked in DC on Capitol Hill for several years in a demanding job. Last fall I was promoted to Associate Director. We also got a new Executive Director at that time (he's the one that promoted me). He is a good guy, and I enjoy the environment that I work in. That said... in the past two weeks I have started to feel a little burnout. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 8, 2015 - 14 answers

Dress Code & Travel Tips for Business Trip to Apple

I will be taking a business trip to Apple very soon and neither my wardrobe nor my travel skills are ready. Are you familiar with Apple's dress code and/or Cupertino travel tips? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 7, 2015 - 16 answers

Double checking math for the gaslit

A math problem followed by an issue with the boss. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Feb 6, 2015 - 4 answers

Is it unfair to tell my colleague I'm in love with her?

I'm in love with my female colleague. We went on a date in 2014 and left it as friends. Now I'm thinking of finding a new job - should I tell her why or is this unfairly burdening someone else with my problem? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 23, 2015 - 53 answers

I don't know if I am reading signs or reading into signs

I have a female friend at work who I would very much like to be into me and am not sure if due to that I am reading into things - I probably am. For example, "what does that sudden hug mean?" or "Is this a dinner date or just dinner?" [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 15, 2015 - 26 answers

How best to manage this work problem

For several years Small Company has been undergoing large turnover in employees, to the point that there are now a number of critical vacancies. I am a Widget Controller at SC. Because of the vacancies, I was told to also become a Cog Controller. They're not similar jobs even though they have a similar title and the career path is different. I am not paid extra for the additional role (I haven't asked). There is no overtime. Is a position change like this normal? Is it possible to escalate to HR as this isn't the job I was hired to do? I don't like being a Cog Controller.
posted by anonymous on Jan 9, 2015 - 11 answers

Relating to a colleague who has come out as Transgender to me

A woman at work came out to me earlier this week as Transgender (she is, I am fairly certain, a woman who was assigned male at birth). I'm not sure I handled it well and based on the generally sensible, kind, and intelligent way that Trans* issues are discussed on Metafilter (especially when compared to other places on the web) I am hoping for some advice. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 23 answers

What we have here is...

I have a yearly performance review coming up. I need help addressing worsening communication issues. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 3, 2015 - 24 answers

OMFG did you effing seriously just say that.

One of my coworkers said something that feels BEYOND inappropriate, and I don't know what to do about it. Difficulty level: racism. In the office. With lots of Southern cultural baggage. Also, WTF. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jan 1, 2015 - 42 answers

Confrontational Work + Low self-esteem, Body Image Issues = ???!

How do I navigate an environment where I'm expected to challenge power and authority constantly, while struggling with my own deeply-rooted issues with body image, self esteem, depression and anxiety? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Dec 8, 2014 - 11 answers

Group paper and questions about plagiarism...

I just submitted a group paper. Hours before I ran it through a plagiarism checker, turns out two (!) of the group members had directly copy and pasted sentences from accademic articles into our paper. In total, no more than five sentences were plagiarized These sentences were cited but not quoted directly. I informed all group members who seemed unconcerned...Is this a big deal? Is it worth reporting? (Fwiw, I edited their work before submitting a final copy)
posted by anonymous on Dec 6, 2014 - 12 answers

Is my boss out of line or am I?

My job has an externship program that frequently hires externs once their externship is complete and they have completed their degree. I have been mentoring an excellent externship who have out performed any other extern I have mentored. She is fantastic and I want her for our team but my department supervisor refuses to offer her an job. Complication inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 19, 2014 - 16 answers

FMLA in Massachusetts?

I am an employee in Boston, MA who is strongly considering taking a medical leave of absence. Please help me to understand my rights. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Nov 2, 2014 - 7 answers

How does FMLA work after a patient's death?

It seems like FMLA leave doesn't account for bereavement time. What, then, do I do, after the person I'm caring for (my father) dies- just pack up and immediately fly cross country and go back to work? What about dealing with his estate? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 27, 2014 - 16 answers

How to give employees unwelcome news

Half of my team makes widgets and half of my team makes sprockets. Next week, I need to tell my widget-making employees that we are cutting back on widget production and ramping up sprocket production -- they will start making sprockets 25-50% of the time. How do I make this unwelcome (but needed) change in job responsibilities suck less for my team? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 25, 2014 - 7 answers

Can a software company in California insist employees limit drinking?

Can a software company in California insist that employees participate in a system that limits drinking after hours? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 21, 2014 - 13 answers

How do I stop asking for help?

I have my first post doc job and am feeling out of my depth most of the time. I also don't have much supervision and can easily panic with problems that I don't know how to solve. I keep reaching out to my former PhD advisor that has given clear signs that he doesn't want to help anymore. Help me stop. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 9, 2014 - 21 answers

Taking The Counteroffer Still Bad Form?

I told them I was underpaid. They didn't believe me. I got another job and resigned. Now I hear they're putting together a counter offer. What to do. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Oct 4, 2014 - 30 answers

How to not let negative coworker get me down?

I work in the same department as a very good friend of mine, we'll call him Tom. Tom hates his job and is very vocal about it all the time. I don't know how to deal with this. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 27, 2014 - 33 answers

What are the pros and cons of supervising others at work?

What are the pros and cons of supervising others at work? I have never supervised others in my entire working career. Given my story beneath the fold, should I consider doing so? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 26, 2014 - 13 answers

Them old consulting blues

Solutions to work problems that are not, strictly speaking, happening in a "workplace" framework? Weird details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 24, 2014 - 4 answers

Ways for an American to work in the UK?

Let's say I, a California software engineer and journalist, wanted to find an employer who would sponsor me to work in London. I've read a little about the work visa situation and various recent restrictions closing various avenues. Assuming the odds are probably pretty bad against succeeding, how might one try for this anyway? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 23, 2014 - 7 answers

Income or Skills for Disabled Student?

In March, I had a stroke the week before Winter Quarter finals and it resulted in right hemi weakness. I have made lots of good progress in recovery and continue going to physical therapy, but after a summer of my savings being eaten by medical bills, I am trying to figure out ways to make some money. My circumstances make that difficult. Details within. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 17, 2014 - 10 answers

How to discuss possibly sexist behavior

Is there a way to have an open conversation with someone about behavior that may be discriminatory toward women (but could be explained in other ways too) without accusing them or putting them on the defensive? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2014 - 16 answers

But I wrote it!

Help me take my work with me after I leave my job. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 10, 2014 - 38 answers

Interviews are done. Now what?

When is it appropriate to follow-up with a hiring manager after interviews (and reference checks) have been completed? I did ask for a timeline during the interview and I was told that they would be in touch "soon". The posting stated that they wanted someone to start in early October, when the position becomes vacant. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 3, 2014 - 7 answers

How to move from startup to real job?

A while back I asked a question about becoming better at a new job. I'm now hitting my quota for anonymous Qs so give me your best advice on how to plan to transition from this fabulous new job that has only one problem--no reliable pay check. Snowflakes inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Sep 1, 2014 - 16 answers

Is it worth leaving one job for another for the same pay?

I'm employed now but have been job-searching for a few months. I've finally found a company that I'd like to work for. The disappointing part is, the final offer they've made is for a lower salary than I'd wanted; after crunching the numbers, I would be earning the same as what I earn at my current job, with no title change. Is it a good idea to move to a new employer for equivalent pay, if the only discernable difference between the two is that the new job seems more interesting? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 29, 2014 - 15 answers

How to work under an insecure boss?

I'm struggling with a social / political issue at work. I have been in my current job for about a year. I am a little overqualified for the position, but I really like most aspects of it and it's a small enough field that other similar jobs are hard to come by, so I'd vastly prefer it if the solution doesn't involve quitting. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 19, 2014 - 10 answers

Apologetic about success?

What I do in terms of career/projects/desire are all one and the same. And I'm lucky enough to be paid to do what I love, and I continue to do it. It just so happens that lately, within the past year or so, I've been especially "successful". But much of my friends/acquaintances are not really in a similar position, which makes me feel guilty/weird about sharing what's going on in my life. I feel apologetic about my so-called "success", which leads me to under-share about myself. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 18, 2014 - 8 answers

make $ and retire early, or take federal job with more security?

Imagine you have the choice of taking (1) a very lucrative but highly demanding and stressful job in your current city, and (2) a federal job that requires a move and that pays only 25% of the lucrative job. Job 1 comes with an initial 2-year contract. While there's a possibility of getting sacked after two years, I imagine they'd renew the contract for at least two years, and if I'm performing well, I could keep going after that. If I got sacked, I could probably find another similar but probably less lucrative job, but it would take time and be quite stressful. Federal job is presumably more stable. Which would you take? Possibly relevant details: early 40's, married, no kids (and no plans of having any), very substantial savings to date, home-owner (with mortgage), currently living in big city. Interested in hearing your life experiences vis-a-vis working life and retirement. Are there benefits to trying to maximize income early and getting out of the game, vs a more slow and steady approach that provides more security? I'm clueless about retirement and recognize that a financial planner could help, but for now I'm more interested in hearing other's experiences.
posted by anonymous on Aug 11, 2014 - 19 answers

Was I rude on accident for not introducing my boyfriend to my boss?

I'm a teacher who didn't introduce my boyfriend to my supervisor at an informal gathering and I'm wondering if I should apologize to to him [the supervisor]? Was this rude or perhaps OK for the circumstance? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 8, 2014 - 14 answers

Calling in...intermittently

I have been working for an agency for 8 years in an upper-management position. My new-ish supervisor hates me and is creating a negative/hostile work environment. My doctor thinks I qualify for intermittent FMLA due to workplace related stress. What are people's experiences with using intermittent FMLA? Is it only going to make things worse? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 5, 2014 - 7 answers

How can I admit that I have a high income without sounding like an ass?

I am a professional poker player and I have averaged $670 per hour over the past 11 years of poker. When people ask me what I do for a living, and I tell them that I am a professional poker player, they often are incredulous and say "you make enough to live off that?" How can I openly and honestly convey the truth is I have made millions and I make over $600 an hour? snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Aug 2, 2014 - 70 answers

How can I become an effective Sales Director asap?

I just became the Marketing & Sales Director of a startup even though I've never done sales in my life. The company has exactly one salesperson on the other side of the country and he is trying to sell a pricy (4K) piece of B2B hardware. Before this he worked at a phone service company. The company only just starting producing enough units to sell. The entire staff is counting on the two of us to magically sell machines and I don't know what to do. We're being asked for sales projections, etc. and I have no idea where to even start. Snowflake details follow. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 31, 2014 - 3 answers

Is this a confidentiality breach?

I work in corrections. On facebook, on my page, I posted something that might have been a breach of confidentiality. Snowflake details inside. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 30, 2014 - 18 answers

Can you tell me how to get, how to get to Mexico?

I want to move to make a permanent move to Mexico. How do I make this happen? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 25, 2014 - 18 answers

Math Careers

Non-obvious careers for someone with a B.S. in Applied Mathematics? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 22, 2014 - 21 answers

Asking for direction at work

I'm in an awkward position at work. Help? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2014 - 4 answers

Using my personal computer for work

I have been using my personal computer to do my job. How much should they "reimburse" me every month? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 21, 2014 - 17 answers

How to leave work for job interviews?

I was just placed on a civil service test list, and canvassing letters and interview offers are coming in - which is good. Not so good is that I'm working full time and I'm having trouble figuring out how to get out of work for an hour here and an hour there to go on these interviews without raising any of my bosses' suspicions. Any tried and true ways to be out of work for an hour or so, more than once a week? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 19, 2014 - 35 answers

Help me get out of a work-only rut and be sociable again?

In the last year or so, my life has basically become work and errands, and my social life is barely there. As a result, I find myself becoming unable to be sociable around people. All I seem to do is be able to discuss my job. How can I get out of this rut? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 18, 2014 - 7 answers

Handling Professional Jealousy

I like my job, but have a friend who always seems to end up in my ideal employment situation. How can I get over being jealous and learn to be happy with what I do have? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 17, 2014 - 6 answers

New job, new office, new culture

I need help figuring out what is okay to do at my new job. I just started a new job and I'm confused on what I'm supposed to be doing regarding my lunch breaks. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 15, 2014 - 23 answers

Accomodations for heavy lifting -- interview question

I have an interview next week. One requirement is to be able to life 40 pound files, but I have a lifting restriction. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2014 - 12 answers

I got an offer for a dream job. Help me decide if I should take it.

This was me. Following the advice from that question I both renewed my contract with current company and actively started looking elsewhere. I've just received an enthusiastic offer from another company, but I want to be mindful about my next step. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 9, 2014 - 18 answers

The "how" and the "who first"

While my concerns about divorcing my spouse are numerous, there are two in particular that I could really use some advice on. [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jul 3, 2014 - 20 answers

How do I cope with an ex-boss's plagiarism?

I write product descriptions for a small online retailler. One of our directors left, joined a competitor, and promptly used all my product descriptions on this new site. I'm fuming, but my boss says to let it slide because we're "playing the long game". How do I cope? [more inside]
posted by anonymous on Jun 21, 2014 - 13 answers

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